Like eating a meal at a fancy restaurant: good but I wanted more

Rating: 7/10 (20 December 2015)

I liked the movie, and I'll probably see it again. However, I left wanting to see more.
It's so safe. There isn't anything threatening or challenging about it, which I understand. It's Disney: good, clean, family fun. It is a huge movie, that doesn't really have to have a message. The earlier films didn't. However, I'm not a kid anymore watching Star Wars.
The good guys are good guys. The bad guys are bad guys. No shades of grey.
There isn't any intimacy in the film. The new heroes, Rey and Finn are strictly friends--no hint of attraction. Even Leia and Solo don't kiss. No romance, and of course no suggestion that anyone (human or alien) is having sex--it's all perfectly safe for kids and adults.
There really is only one emotional moment in the film, but I won't mention that. Correction, in the opening minutes of the film, the stormtroopers capture a village, and the result isn't good. So for me there were only two moments in the film, where I felt something other than happiness, or "this is cool", or "that's funny".
In a sense, it's like Star Wars versus The Empire Strikes Back. Star Wars was a good opener, a fantastic opener to the original trilogy, but I was disappointed with Luke. He is the main hero, but he is the most underwritten. His adopted parents are killed--fried, but he doesn't shed tears. He barely shows any emotions. Obi Wan dies--lets himself be killed, but Luke doesn't shed a tear. He screams, and that's it. For crying out loud, you're not a machine. He is one- dimensional the entire movie.
That's what I felt like watching The Force Awakens. Give me a full meal of emotions. I want more than sweets. Show me there is intimacy in that galaxy, on both sides. Most people aren't binary: either good or evil. There can be some grey.
Maybe that's expecting too much. It's a big, safe, and good popcorn movie, and I guess that's all it has to be to make a billion dollars. It isn't a bible, as some Top Critics have said on Rottentomatoes. Still, like eating a delicious but small meal served on a huge plate at a fancy restaurant, can I have a bit more?
By the way, why are all the bad guys bad shots, and the good guys sniper deadly?
And without getting too detailed, the main bad guy, Kylo Ren kicks butt for several minutes with his unique lightsaber, then the girl feels The Force for a moment and just beats him down seconds later? Force Ex Machina? What part of Darth Maul's cheesy death after kicking major butt seemed attractive to Mr. Abrams?