Fear of life and fear of death

Rating: 8/10 (10 May 2020)

When tragedy happens and you can't face it, you can go crazy, or you can choose to go crazy. If you don't choose to go crazy, you will. It's as simple as that.
A lot of times people wonder: how do the criminals, the moral scum, the hypocrites, how do they continue to live in this world in the face of their evil deeds every day? If only I were dead.
It doesn't have to be in some mysterious way. We all do the same thing every single day. When a person does something wrong and there is a conflict between behavior and attitude, it can be very uncomfortable. This is because people have a need for the unity of mind and body. But wrong has become a fact can not change, then can only change the attitude. Psychology is called cognitive dissonance.
The phenomenon of cognitive dissonance, first described by Leon Festinger, has inspired more than 3,000 experiments. To some extent, this mechanism of adjusting our attitude to our behavior is a healthy self-protection mechanism, otherwise we will be regretting the stupid things we do every day, feeling guilty and unable to eat or sleep. Festinger's student Elliot Aronson has written a book called "Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)" to explain why we not only defend our stupid behavior and bad decisions, but find a way out, and even get stronger under the circumstances. In short, just to make myself feel better.
But sometimes the reality is tragic to the point where normal rationalizing mechanisms for mistakes are no longer sufficient to produce any positive results. Like when you come home from work one day and you find your three kids all drowned in a lake and you shoot this woman. Then you recall that your wife was already showing signs of insanity, but you didn't listen, and you didn't act quickly enough to prevent that from happening.
How do you talk yourself out?

There 's no way.

Teddy Daniels is teetering on the brink of collapse. So he chooses to create for himself a new reality, another reality that can explain the madness of reality -- called illusion. He chose to go insane to keep himself from going insane and killing himself.
Maybe it was a cowardly choice.
On a sunny day after a storm, Teddy sat on the steps outside, smoked a cigarette, and said to his doctor, "we can trick them." when he said, "Don't worry partner, they're not gonna catch us, Chuck." when Dr. Sheen shook his head to Dr. Cawley, the audience was convinced that he was back in the world of fantasy.
But at the end of the day, before he turned his head and came to pick up the man who had done the operation, Teddy said, "I wonder, is it better to live like a monster, or die a good man?" Is it better to die a good man, or to live like a wild beast?
In reality, Teddy is the man who killed his wife who drowned his children. After the operation, he will become a man with no memory. Although he will die believing that he is a good man who has never done anything wrong, he is a walking corpse without memory. Is it not a living monster? In other words, to die a good man, he had to live like a monster for the rest of his life.
They say that in the end, Teddy chose die a good man, which shows the brave side of human nature. Not really. Just because There is no "better" way.
It's just another choice without a choice.
When old luo is talking, he once said that "a strong life needs no explanation". And the tragedy of life, because there is no way to explain. Whenever there is a little rut, can make do with rationalizing everything that happens, also can always survive. We still have some resilience.
But self justification always has a bad day. What are you going to live on? Nothing is reliable.
I guess that's what I was trying to say.