Left me so very upset

Rating: 8/10 (25 November 2012)

I've seen this film a couple of times, over the past 5 years. I've always loved it - despite causing weepiness, I have always got a lot out of the storyline; that someone could love a person enough to plan the future, after their demise, eventually setting that person 'free' to love again, is mind- blowing. If i could replicate this, i.e. ever have this opportunity when my time comes, I'd be so happy (do it for my son, and if i ever got married again, my husband)
For some reason, watching it again last night (it just came on Film4) I could not reconcile with the misery that i felt, at the end. when the widow (played brilliantly) suddenly announced that 'He's no longer with me'. I wept and wept  still a bit weepy today when I recall it! My parents have been 'with me' since they died; my dad 17 years ago, my mum 4 years ago. I will admit to having that feeling on the 10th year following my dad's death - but mum was still alive, so i was able to 'let go'. Oh, I'm probably just being silly and female-hormone emotional today, but SOOOOO sad! I guess he HAD to leave her, so she could move on. But I can't help but wonder . where do they go  ? Boohoo :( !