a very disturbing, depressing, and difficult to watch eye-opener movie; learned a lesson or two from it

Rating: 10/10 (6 July 2020)

This was a very disturbing, depressing, and difficult to watch eye-opener movie from Noah Baumbach. So this was what divorce in real life looks like and FEELS like? I felt HORRIBLE by just watching it; I cannot imagine what it must feel like to be the people going through a divorce. Thank these parents for sparing the kid's feelings and psychological well-being because if they had not they would have traumatized him for life.
After the movie ended and the credits were rolling and "Shouting and Shopping" by Randy Newman was playing, I was just in a daze. It is never claimed in the movie, but this film must definitely be based on real life events, maybe on the director/writer's own divorce.
My own thoughts on the plot: this marriage was never meant to last because each party wanted a different line of work in a different coast of the U.S. from years before they ever even met. One party got their way meaning that the other party gave in. One party was completely selfish and self-centered and focused only on their career goals, and completely failed to see and allow the other party to pursue their career goals. One party was very patient for as long as humanely possible until it was no longer humanely possible to forget their career goals. They should have never fallen in love with each other, but unfortunately they did. Both parties wanted completely different lines of work in completely opposite parts of the U.S. and unfortunately for them they made a third party that tied them together.
At first I sided with one party thinking they had been patient and selfless and felt disgusted by the other party who had been so selfish and self-centered from day one and not only that but completely failed to see the other party's wishes and desires even after such party explicitly spelled it out for them. But then I realized that this marriage was never supposed to work in the first place since both wanted completely different lines of work in completely opposite sides of the country. They should have not married and made a third party.
Moral of this story: do not fall in love with someone that wants to work in something completely different on the other side of the country.
I watched this movie knowing absolutely NOTHING about it. I knew it was a Netflix movie and that it got an Oscar, but that is it. So the whole plot was a complete shock to me.
Conclusion: very difficult film to watch; it surely is based on real life events and it portrayed well how horrible a divorce is. But I learned a valuable lesson or two.
10/10