Teaching you really unhealthy ideas about "love" since 2003

Rating: 4/10 (12 January 2019)

I get that it's trying to show the messiness of love, how relationships are complicated, etc. And yet... at the same time it serves the opposite view on love, expressing it as an incredibly superficial thing.
According to this film, actual love involves:
..a man finding a woman really hot, and never having a real conversation with her once. Her role in the love affair is simply to be looked at and act grateful when he tells her she's pretty. That's it.
This describes most of the love plots. 2 in particular involve NO conversations between them, and in both cases the man is rewarded for professing his "love" to the woman he doesn't actually know at all and has never really talked to, and the woman is really flattered in both cases - even though one of the men behaved in a very stalkerish manner, ruined her wedding photos and betrayed her husband who is supposedly his best friend, and in the other case 2 characters are "in love" even though they don't speak the same language and their "relationship" mostly involves him staring at her body.
The only female characters actually given the semblance of any personality are the ones that end up with sad endings/rejections. The message seems to be that women need to shut up and be pretty to be lovable/objects of lust.
Also there are lots of stupid jokes relating to women's weight that aren't funny.
I will never understand why so many women love a movie so full of sexism that portrays women so poorly.