Only a little bit effort before we quit. There are so many future, so many others, and even if there aren't, let's just wait for technology to rescue our loneliness.

Rating: 10/10 (20 February 2014)

The questions start to bother both the protagonist and the audiences:
IS THAT A REAL RELATIONSHIP? If not, then what do you define a "relationship"? They have all the most important factors for a relationship: mutual understanding, caring, quality time, lots of companionship, disagreement, support, and sex. Yes phone sex is sex.
Remember 10 years ago when internet just boomed, whether on-line dating was real relationship or not was a heat debate. And a decade later, who will still question it?
Then a sequence of questions come up - DOSE IT WORK? HOW? FOR HOW LONG? The film gives us an ending, which for me is not very convincing since it can lead to several different directions. If only the end could be more strong and surprised and hit me! And I really don't know the answers. Except a physical body, the OS could offer everything a loving companion can offer you, or even more.
Regarding to physical body, nowadays most people are living in a cyborg whether you admit or not. Lots of our physical parts have been less and less functional. Say, how many words do you write down every day? How many times you Skype your family instead of paying a visit? How many hours you spend on-line talking with your friends or strangers, by talking, I mean typing of course.
So what matters seems to be our feelings. According to Esther Perel, "we are the only ones who have erotic lives, which means that it's sexuality transformed by the human imagination". The fact is, not only sexuality can be transformed by imagination, but also the feeling of love.
In the movie, Theodore found himself in love with the OS Samantha who later admitted is in love with 600ish other people. It displays a very interesting idea that what is love. With no questions Theodore will fall in love with Samantha because she gives him all the support, caring, kindness, etc., ALL THE TIME. No hard time at all, well, nearly none. When he needs her or misses her, she is there and when he needs time or space alone, she leaves without a word of moaning. So all their relationship is mainly about his needs. Not hers. Of course not, because she's just a programme, not a real human. Their problem comes up when she is growing to think more like a human being and becomes needy. The need of self identity and more scary, the need of commitment. WOW! The director/writer Spike Jonze knows women so well that even for an AI woman he gives her desire for commitment.
IS THAT LOVE? Regarding to love, it's even more complicated. Does it have to be monogamy? Isn't it true love if it's polygamy? If it is all happening in a way benefiting one party's need and neglecting the other one's is it still love? The movie tells us, yes, it is definitely love. They are undoubtedly in love. Then the question is, CAN IT LAST?
For me, HER is a sci-fi which scares me. Because not long afterwards, it will become a documentary. Human beings are chicken who are spoilt. We can't make a little sacrifice in pursue of a wonderful relationship. We can make a little bit effort, and then we quit. Why? Because there are so many future, so many others, and even if there aren't, let's just wait for technology to rescue our loneliness.
For some questions I have answers in mind. For example what is real, is that a real relationship? Even the movie tries to prove us in such a delicately way, I know it is not. Because for me real is something not based on rules, either on feelings, but on some rules beyond your feelings. You can't explain but you just know it.
I had a dream when I was a teenager, after watching "The Matrix" and "Spellbinder". I found my dad, who exactly looks like and talks like and acts like my real dad, while richer and very powerful as a leader. But I know he's not my dad, because I KNOW I'm in the parallel world. So in my dream I tried so hard to find a telephone booth to pick up the phone in order to get back to the real world. After waking up, I kept thinking, except my awareness, what's the difference between my real dad and the parallel one?
You answer might be different, and it depends on which pill you will chose: blue or red one.
Meanwhile for other questions, I am lost. Can that kind of love work, and can it last? Does "it lasts" means "it works" or does "it works" itself means "it works"? I am really confusing which causes me in pain.
Here we are living in the world, with only rains, but no winds blowing.