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Rating: 10/10 (21 October 2006)

In the movie, to me the people who carried Henry's mother's grocery all the way is not out of respect, but fear. In gang movies such as Godfather and Goodfellas, they always messed up the concept of respect and fear. Is that because how the writer wrote the story or the Italian gangsters are too stupid to identify the difference between respect and fear? I hardly believe anybody will really 'respect' gangster. Did anyone envy the life of gangster after they watched the movie? Hopefully somebody can be able to answer my question, and please do not give me dumb answers such as:'That is how the ways are back to the days. People did respect the mobs and that's why they do it. It is difficult to explain such abstract concept. You might know if you become one of their members.'