Non-yoke

Rating: 8/10 (1 May 2020)

It is not a tragic movie, but it makes people tearful; it is not a friendship movie, but it makes people yearn for true friendship; it is not a psychology documentary, but it makes us think about the general psychological predicament of contemporary people. .
The movie, like its name, can salvage the softest part of the human heart, just like Professor Rambo told Will over and over again, it tells us: a lot of things, not your fault.
People who are intelligent and sensitive in their hearts are good at creation and accumulation at the same time. In Will's heart, too much bitterness accumulated, first abandoned by his parents, and then sent to foster care four times, three of which were severely abused. The broken childhood shaped the sensitivity in his character. He used the harshest words to ridicule the world, but he did not want to open his heart to the person he loved.
As Gu Chengshi wrote, "In order to avoid the end, you avoid all the beginning." In order to prevent others from touching the scars deep in his heart, he refused the treatment of the psychologist. This separation between the subconscious and others from the very beginning makes him not believe that his girlfriend, Scella, really loves herself.
Accepting your own imperfections can reap the inner lightness; embracing the incomplete past can open a brand new future. It is often impossible to predict in advance who we meet in life, but who we establish contact with depends on ourselves.
No one can be flawless, Jia Pingwa said: "The genius has its strengths and weaknesses, and his weaknesses are extremely short. The peacock also exposes his butt when it is most beautiful." But who we choose to let us enter our world is to allow others to come in through their own cracks and defects. The mind should not be a shackle, but a key to open each other.
But Will is lucky. Beside him, there is a mentor called Shane, who told Will: "It is those small flaws that make you meet the right person." Everyone has some small flaws, which people call "imperfect." "But Shane said, '" It is them who choose to let us enter our world. "
Therefore, perhaps none of us need to be disturbed by the intimate relationship being established. You are not perfect, but some people are willing to accept your imperfections unconditionally, and you are perfect for each other.