Good movie, great BDSM.

Rating: 8/10 (16 February 2015)

After reading some of the comments made here, I have rarely felt a stronger need to review a movie. In fact, this 32 year old male just made an IMDb account and no, I'm not going to bash it. In fact, I am going to recommend it to anyone interested in BDSM.
So who am I to tell you this? Well, I've been practicing BDSM since I was 18. Given my current age, that's some 14 years of experience. Being quite active in the kink scene, my girlfriend and many of our friends are into BDSM/bondage/kink as well. As the 50 shades hype has been an active topic of discussion in the kink scene, we were of course very interested in seeing it. And to be honest.. we were kind of counting on it to be a disaster of a movie :-P But.... it wasn't! Not at all! And we weren't the only ones who liked it. Many of our kinkster friends seemed to like it very much! Sure, they are fictional characters and it's just a movie, but most of it is not unrealistic at all. The toys, whips, techniques and atmosphere... Wow! The makers seemed to have done their research! Trust us, a BDSM session can be (and often is) very close to what you'll see in the movie.
So no flaws at all on the BDSM part? Yes, some.
Personally, I thought the contract he wants her to sign was a bit much. Someone with even a little experience would never be so pushy on that part. That doesn't mean that such a contract in itself is unrealistic. It's just more of a consensual thing... like getting married I suppose. You wouldn't propose to someone after knowing them for a few weeks, as that rarely ends well ;-) Referring to the last few minutes of the movie: We personally would always avoid practicing BDSM while being stressed out, emotional or unhappy in some way. Honesty, that's just asking for trouble. If Mr Grey was as experienced as we are led to believe, he would have sat down and talked to her about his feelings, rather than risking her being turned off and disgusted after a serious beating.
But that's basically all we could find. What remained (at least for us) is a fairly good and for the most part realistic movie with some verrrry sexy BDSM scenes! So if you're interested in what this movie is about, just go to a theater and watch it! Sure, it's certainly possible that most or all of the kinky scenes in this movie will turn you off. In that case, BDSM might not be for you. Of course, that's totally okay too! Just remember that bashing this movie just because you think BDSM is some form of abuse is very offensive to the people who truly enjoy it.
However (and this is the good part!) if even some of it does spark your interest, both me and my girlfriend are happy to inform you that it's perfectly possible to have a 100% equal, happy and lasting relationship and still practice the type of BDSM you'll see in 50 shades of Grey :-) Have fun exploring!