Sadly most people don't understand this movie

Rating: 10/10 (18 March 2015)

Tastes of movies obviously differ if the movie Fifty Shades of Grey received so many bad reviews. I guess people really did expect to see some hardcore porn (absolute control and screaming pain) judging by the reviews saying that the sex was too little and too tame. I never read the books , I only went to see the movie. So I guess if the book was as explicit and pornographic as people say, it is understandable that people that are into those kind of books are disappointed by the movie, which is everything BUT pornography! It is quite a serious movie with deep meaning. If you expect a violent S&M porn and instead get a serious-themed movie about the psychology of humans and what attracts us to one another. Our weaknesses and strengths in relationships and how vulnerable we are when we are in love- coupled with the deep effects trauma can have on the way we act and feel, I can see how you can be disappointed. I, on the other hand, was so happy that the wonderful director made such a great movie out of that book and thankfully saw way beyond the S&M. I can honestly say that it is the best movie I have seen in a long time. Maybe even since Pretty Woman and Titanic. What do I like about the movie? First the basics: photography, light, music, set, location are all great and create an amazing atmosphere through the picture. The way the sex scenes are depicted is a work of art; classy, erotic and romantic (all which a porn is NOT!) The plot: very deep too especially if you are able to look beyond the S&M (which sadly many people don't want to do). Just imagine you are a normal middle class girl and then the most famous, richest good looking guy in town takes interest in you. Then as you think you have found your dream come true, you start falling in love with him wishing for candle light dinners, long walks, romance etc., you find out your guy is into S&M and refuses to be romantic. It's hard for you to just say no to the relationship because you are attracted to that guy, he is so damn good looking, rich and most of all honest from the beginning which makes you feel safe. On top, you don't know S&M which makes you curious and you think: maybe he is right? And then you have the sub-plot of a traumatized boy. You can wonder: how do you become such a distant, pain- loving human incapable of romance and closeness? And can such a person truly fall in love? He has probably never known true love so he sticks to what he knows: pain and dominance. Can she "heal" him from that? Should she "heal" him from that? And this is not to suggest that all people who prefer S&M are psychologically sick but Christian surely is. Wow. Deep topic. Amazing topic. The characters: I think "the distance between the characters" that everyone keeps seeing is necessary to support the plot and I am sure it was wanted this way and did not happen because the actors had their real lovers on their minds (seriously?). Christian is that way for a reason, he has never learnt to be close and romantichow can he then show that side and yet be dominant? And yet there are moments when Ana gets that a little bit out of him and those rare moments are the special ones I think. Those are the fifty shades I suppose which I can imagine are a lot clearer in a long book than in a short movie. But a traumatized person doesn't just change 180degrees because he meets a girl he likes. Especially in such a short time. Plus there must be distance between them. There is the S&M between them. I think this "stiffness" and "lifelessness" is what suits this movie 100% and it is what makes it mysterious and great. It makes you think and wonder and this IS chemistry. But of course, if you expected porn, then you shall be disappointed. It is just amazing and sad that professional reviewers don't want to or are not able to see the greatness of this picture. The psychology in every frame of every shot. In picture, sound and acting. Everything so thought through. In my opinion, Oscar to Sam Taylor- Wood!
PS. Shame she won't be doing the sequel just because so many people want to see trashy, cheap, porn.