The lack of human bonding

Rating: 10/10 (14 January 2014)

I do not know much about the technicalities of film making, but I know a lot about what makes humans become what they are and I am often amazed about the insight writers and film makers display through excellent films like Don Jon. The lack of physical bonding between parents and their children younger than twelve, have tragic consequences for those children as adults. Don Jon exposes an example of such consequences: a deep feeling of isolation and an inability to belong to someone.
It poses the question: What is a home? A place where people eat and watch a game?; or a place where people have sex?; or a place where people can safely be themselves?
Then it also asks: What is a church?
Turning away from the problem of failing families,the film presents answers that are real and achievable. One answer is that trying to get real help from professional therapists will not change one into the person one should be. The real answer lies in friendship, in touch, in trusting the other, in accepting another person completely - shortcomings and all. No therapy, just accepting life and the people close to you.