Self preservation

Rating: 8/10 (19 February 2019)

This movie threw me, left me speechless, i couldnt even cry.
Its interesting what happens in cold war. It shows how two people fall in love and even though they undeniably want to be together, they fight for something else as well. For keeping their own sense of self. He cant stay in poland, he has to go to paris in order to develop himself as an artist. She at the same time, cant just follow him in this, "who will i be?". Fear of losing own sense of self, identity, value, meaning. She eventually goes to paris and cant handle the feeling of loss, she was a big fish in a small pond back home, now she struggles finding value for herself. Finally they both end up sacrificing their integrity, their own identity in order to be together, which is what finally kills them. The struggle of 'Cant live with or without you'.
But why didnt they just move on, fall in love with someone else and have nice memories of a great love?
When its about the love of your life i guess love is stronger than anything else, even at times of war.