Love is a lie

Rating: 8/10 (27 April 2009)

This is a story between two men and two women, a story about love and betray, gentle lie and hurting truth, stranger and lover. When Alice is saying "I'm waiting for you to leave me.", or " I don't love you anymore since now" I can't help thinking that this is the real situation of "love", so hard to hold, and so easy to come and go. May be I'm a pessimist abut love. In my opinion, love is a lie, and the promise like "I will love you forever" is the biggest one. Biology divides the experience of love into three stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. Lust exposes people to others while romantic attraction encourages human beings to focus their energy on mating. And both of them involve the release of chemicals and both cannot last for long. So only a few can move forward to attachment. The regular form of love is like situations in the film, we easily fall in love with someone because their attractive appearances or after an interesting dialog. Then we keep dating them until we find someone else more attractive. In relationship between two people, if we are the one who loves more, we will be the one "waiting", waiting for the being betrayed, while the other one will be the one "searching", searching for the next lover and start a new circle. Under such circumstance, it is hard to trust as well as to be trusted, so we need lies to cover and it makes us feel safe. During the process that the chemicals released by the brain become less and less, we begin to lie about love until we finally choose to unveil the hurting truth. We are strangers at the very beginning and then lovers, but finally strangers again. Or even, from the begging to the end, we are totally strangers. I still remember at the end of the movie, Alice's real name is indeed Jane Rachel Jones and that she had lied about her name for the duration of her four-year relationship with Dan. So,lovers? Or we all are strangers, all the time.