Is it closer or more far away

Rating: Null/10 (26 April 2009)

Having watched so many love movies with a happy ending, I was struck by "Closer". Change is good but maybe the movie is a bit too much for me for while now I am trying to recall its plots and lines, I am still in the same low spirits as when I finished watching the movie two weeks ago. It is the kind of movie that makes you think other than make you cry or laugh. The tag-line of the movie is "If you believe in love at first sight, you never stop looking" with which I can't agree more. In my opinion, love at first sight is ridiculous. In the movie, Alice and Dan fell in love when they first met on the street, Dan and Anna kissed when they first met in Anna's workplace, Larry began to love Anna when they met in the aquarium after he chatted with "Anna (pretended by Dan)" on line. The four strangers then became two couples. But they were not really intimate. They loved not because the other was the right one but because they themselves were lonely so they wanted to be closer to others in order to get companionship and comporting. Thus their love was selfish and limited, resulting in the weak relationship between each couple. That could explain why Dan could fell in love so easily with Anna when he was already with Alice, why Anna kept seeing Dan even when she got married, why Larry cared more about Anna and Dan's sex after Anna confessed to him, why Dan left Anna when he knew how Anna got Dan sign and why Dan was eager to know whether Alice slept with Larry when Alice forgave his betrayal and accepted him again. Among the four, Alice may be the one who understands love most and is most faithful to love. But what confuses me is that why she did not tell Dan her true name though she must have plenty of chances in the four years to tell him. Is it because though she knows how to love, she has never believed in love?
In the movie, the four characters are in a tangle, and meanwhile truth and lies are inter-twisted. Perhaps in nature, we desire truth but we are not able to tell it from lies, for example when Alice told Larry her true name, he did not believe it at all. Still we keep searching and exploring the truth even if it hurts both ourselves and others. Larry was hurt by the truth that Anna did not love him and he made use of the truths that he had sex with Anna and Alice to win Anna back and hurt Dan. Dan finally got truth from Alice but only to make Alice determine to cease loving him and leave him forever. Dan and Alice were more far away. Larry and Anna were not any closer as we can see from the movie that when Larry was in sound asleep, Anna was lying with her big black eyes open. And Dan was not closer to the truth for he had never known even the real name of the girl who was with him for 4 years. We struggle to get closer to others, but it may turn out to be the opposite. We try to get closer to truth, but who knows where truth is? I have been trying to get closer to what the movie wants to tell us , but I don't know whether I am closer or more far away to it.