I am gay and found this movie to be just disturbing

Rating: 1/10 (28 January 2018)

Everyone loved this movie except perhaps me. Anyone who has fallen for an older guy while young and impressionable, not only to be dumped, but having the dump rubbed in during a holiday will NOT like this movie and in fact may experience some PTSD from it.
Whether this is pedophilia depends on the ages under consideration, but the implication was there. Whether 17 years old meets the definition depends on the location, but there is no doubt that the 17 year old character was in turmoil and unsure of his sexuality. This affair, even when endorsed by Eilio's father, didn't make it less troubling to Eilio.
The FIRST clue comes when Oliver makes the statement after a long involved kiss "We haven't done anything we are ashamed of.".... YET.
Oliver "works" Eilio clearly throughout the movie and finally entices him into sex. Naturally there is a lot of emotion involved in it, but Eilio is hooked. You can understand that this is not going to turn out well.
The last straw comes during Hannukkah, when Eilio seems to have resolved this and appears to be happy. Oliver calls primarily to announce to Eilio that he is getting married, completely destroying Eilio's joy. He is left sobbing. Can anyone predict that Eilio will have a wonderful life, or maybe exactly the opposite.
Who is to blame? Oliver with the first "rub" of Eilio's shoulder. He should have known better as an adult, but wanted to reel this one in. Armie Hammer should have been ashamed of this role. As I said, there are clues that all of this is absolutely the wrong thing to do, but the audience will overlook these clues and view the movie as a wonderful coming of age movie. It is not.