Just in time!

Rating: 10/10 (1 February 2006)

I saw this movie just in time to avoid the same kind of pain that Jack Twist experienced by falling in love with an unavailable man. In fact, I saw the movie only 1 day before I was to fly to Texas to live with a bi married guy who was being divorced by his wife. We had met a year earlier in truck driving school and had become fast friends. He called me and told me that he was being divorced and thus began a 2-month conversation. We talked for hours almost every day on the phone for months and become emotionally attached (or at least I had). Some of our conversations were very sexual and he acted as though I could be his lover. We had decided that I would move in as his "roommate." This was a red flag for me and he had told no one about me coming. Another red flag. He was very closeted with his family and friends. My gut instinct kept telling me that this was not right but I ignored it until I saw this movie. The night before I was to fly to Texas, I called him to confirm that he was going to pick me up at the airport and he was like a different person. He told me (just like in the movie) that his life was centered around his two little girls and he was going to start them in church. The implication was that there would be no room for a relationship with me. He would not pick me up at the airport and was cold and distant. He was abandoning me just when I needed him and really flaked out. Just like Ennis Del Mar. Well, after seeing how Jack Twist wasted all those years waiting around for a relationship with Ennis, I learned from his mistake and dropped this man like a hot potato and am glad I did, even though it was painful.
Brokeback Mountain showed me that I have to be careful who I fall in love with. Jack kept holding on to the idea that someday they would be a couple. But, Ennis told him from the start that it would never happen. He should have believed him and not wasted all those years waiting around for Ennis. I never want to fall in love with a guy who is not emotionally and publicly available. People like Ennis are really pathetic.