Better late than never

Rating: 10/10 (27 April 2006)

I can not get this movie out of my mind. I have, in a way, had a similar life experience, picking up at the time the movie ends. There are many things that I can relate to in this film. In 1983 I met my partner. I was dating women prior to that point, even in one very serious hetro relationship, we almost got married. I was following the same pattern as the guys in BBM. Being an only child in a relatively small town living with my parents, you followed the "rules". Well I did until my first meeting with my partner. Lot's of drama happened over the years, but the good thing is that we are still together, 23 years later and just as happy (a bit older and fatter) as our first meeting. My dad did not speak to me for a few years when he discovered my lifestyle. And even years later when I would go on vacation with my parents my dad would wait out in the car and refuse to enter OUR home or speak to my partner. It was not until my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer 3 years ago that he came around and accepted my partner. And it was my partner that drove my dad in the car for 3 hours to our home to comfort him during his last few days. I will never know what was said during that car ride, except that my partner said my dad was a "good man". After seeing the movie on DVD, and watching it 4 times from Netflix, I felt the very very rare urge to purchase the film. Every time I watch I see something new. But one of the best things to come out of this for me is.....I look at my partner and smile, and realize how lucky we are to have each other, and now more than ever I cherish these moments. I just wish Jack and Ennis could have done the same. I sincerely hope that others.....gay or str8 discover and enjoy the good times with someone special.