Such diametrically opposed opinions on this movie.

Rating: 10/10 (12 April 2006)

If I've learned anything about rating or making comments on this site about this movie, it's that one person will rave from the heart about the affects it had on them, and continues to have on them, even after months since first viewing it. Then, the next person will adamantly and vehemently find many, many faults with it, technically, acting wise, directing wise, so-called agenda wise, etc., referring to it as "crap", a waste of 2 hrs and 15 min.+ $8 to $10.
I have, for good or bad, personalized this movie and everything about it and am hurt and disappointed that there are those who don't, won't, or can't share my enthusiasm and vigor for BBM.
Now, I won't pretend to have any real sharp knowledge about the technical aspects of the production and I realize that everyone usually is not of the same opinion, and I respect that. I just know what I feel in my heart as a result of seeing this movie.
With respect to the "adultery" criticism, I feel that if society had been different, the guys would not have had to marry the women at all, and if anyone was a victim of adultery and victims in general, it was Ennis and Jack. It could be viewed that they were committing adultery with the women, 'cause if truth be told, the guys were together first and would have, in my opinion, definitely been true to each other instead of the other way around.
I've had to live a double life my whole life. Lying and saying one thing while living another. Some would say I've been a coward and maybe they're right. If not wanting to hurt my family and friends or being afraid to tell them because of all of the stigma during my life, then yes, I was a coward. But, I won't stand by now and listen to all of this lambasting of this movie or the characters in it. Just walk a mile or two in the shoes of these men or men like them and then tell me what you think.
This may not have been a very objective commentary, but being an emotional guy, I just had to speak from my heart. Thanks.