a woman's point of view

Rating: 10/10 (3 February 2006)

I saw this movie with a girlfriend, because, sadly we both knew neither of our husbands would ever agree to see it. I have had many friends over the years who struggled with accepting who they are and have seen it destroy wonderful human beings. Our culture stigmatizes people in a heartless way with no conscience. Self righteous people insist that sexuality is a choice...but who would choose to be treated the way homosexuals are treated in our society. I had to talk to my son and explain the difference to him because he thought that gay and pedophile were the same thing. Only when we stop judging and hurting others will we have evolved into a truly healthy culture. What two consenting adults do in privacy is really no one else's business. I loved this movie, because it showed the reality of how a person can hate what they are. I expected Ennis to eat a gun at any moment, because he was so tortured. His wife was so hurt, and didn't understand his needs...Everyone in the movie was hurt by our society's refusal to see that this is not a choice, any more than it is my choice to be straight.