certified project management sessional above all in each of these roles his essence is that of storyteller writer and dynamic speaker what led to your thinking about pattern in two thousand and five i was asked to speak at a coaching conference and i want to speak about the power of story so i put out a sly on and asked the audience a question one picture on the slide was of me as a little baby very cute i might say and then i put up a slide of myself as an adult and i asked them that science with tell us there was not a single atom in my body right now that was in my body ten years ago and so the adams have all recycled several times turned over several  since i was that little baby what makes that baby and my current self both me why do i have a sense of me why do others have a sense of me and i tied it  story by saying that we share the same life story that's what makes us both me the patter of our lives the way things have gone the subjective experiences all of those things what i've been taught by my culture by my family by my religion by everyone around me has formed a need that  this shared patterns and since then it's still a a a tap if that has zero that has really fascinated me so i've done a lot of research so that led me to wonder what are these patterns all about and and these patterns is everybody a pattern a pattern of their  you talk a lot about the things that shape you there are geneticists right now that's saying it's all dictated by our genes so much even the genes of our grandparents have a big impact on us and that environment is only a piece of it we are prone to error when ever we think that fear is a single cause of anything the other  other big premise of where i am right now is that the universe is inextricably connected and we are finding that to be the case on a physical level on an emotional level on any level you can imagine everything is connected so i would find it very hard to believe and i don't think the evidence is there that it's so ely genetic they they will talk about the twin studies and how alike twins are even when they were separated and raised in different families but what they don't talk about is how different the twins still are so i think that's looking at half the picture and then at the other hand we must also remember that the genetic code is a pattern as well in a pattern that we interact with all the time well you do write in these wonderful metaphor isn't all of your writing you talk about lumps and bumps and how smooth everything really is and it's our mind interpretating because people may have heard of the cosmic microwave background radiation which pervades the entire universe anywhere you point at zero zero zero zero radio telescope especially you'll find the cosmic microwave  it is what's called isomorphic in other words the same to one part in one hundred thousand if and this was extent at the very beginning of the big bang and if you measure its temperatures still today thirteen point seven billion years later the temperature anywhere you pointed at the sky is the same to one part in one hundred thousand but due effects one part not hundred thousand makes a difference so there are these little lumps that form apparently at random to us through quantum of that and then gravitational thought and take form little lumps  we would call protons or electrons or whatever and then gravity takes over and clumps lumps into shapes and patterns but the shapes  patterns aren't intrinsic to nature we see patterns the human brain is a pattern seeking machine the best example i can give is the belief in the constellations the actually the perception of the constellations we think we're looking at a two dimensional surface and so we make patterns  individual stars that could be hundreds or even thousands of light years from each other they don't know they're associated we associate them in our brains so let me just say this with a for the real layman on this you're saying that for example the astrological signs that we see in the sky that go back before we knew the earth was round here never that there was such a thing as the solar system but these pattern pattern seeking machines and that's because rimini seeking machines and patterns give us the ability to create meaning out of how we view the patterns which is tied to the third s and i would say that we are control seeking machines once there are patterns we put meanings on them and then we feel we have some control on and all of that is really really good for living life the way that we live it but we can't waste it or the universe let's take a look at the biggest pattern of all that fascinates us all that is the pattern of life and death it seems to me that we are if it is a perception of the mind we are into belief system that there is this thing called the life's journey and then death maybe it's just a pattern i would come down on that side that it's a pattern  and that's to where we started about the universe being so smooth chris the universe is very inhospitable to patterns  universe likes things and any pattern that arises will have to fade away eventually it is destined to fade away the can configuration that leads us to think there's a pattern changes and it goes back into a lot of ways to the smoothness of it which means we're pattern that forms other people as brains see the pattern of us we see the pattern of our own life those two don't always lined up on which is why people can have also questions of us and one day it will  illusion is that the pattern will never fade away i call it the dual delusions there are two delusions which interact with each other one is that we are has persistence through time and that will always exist yes we know at a certain level we will be very few very very few who live as if they really know they're going to die and we the second delusion is that we are somehow separate from the universe and we have we are a unique and  t pattern that's not connected to the larger the universe they've actually i've i was amazed to find this they've actually located a place in the brain that we all of a sudden feel totally at one with the universe we lose all sense of ourselves as to separate the so in order to create this sense of ourselves as a separate  have to believe in our self and something that has persistence and will last for ever and because we don't know where we're growing one step patter dissolves and that might be a question that makes no sense if our we are us is that the question of where does it go way and when we no longer are that pattern is probably needs a higher level of consciousness to even tell what those the question mean there is something called the did not see secret this is a pattern that just an actual hadn't it's not just a matter of perception corrects no it's not it's simply the fact that it means something it is it is a it's a product of min it does exist in nature it's also very much tied to k s there are three which is that all patterns will eventually have unpredictable that we don't like looking at that aspect of it because we like having control we like certain we like being able to so this pattern seeps showing up and my question is does it keep showing up or do we keep noticing that it's there but by itself what would it do if there wasn't the human mind there to noticed we give it me and that's where i would break from people who say ok it is you know god signature on the universe i think god signature  universe is the human mind in its ability to form the patterns and to recognize that but it doesn't we would have to have it long discussion about what is it me for something to be well i but i think this is going to show up i'm going to encourage people who watch this to certainly put in their responses to this i think there will be more questions for you coming out of this let's talk about you are your metaphor the first half of life and the second half of life we've become a very fine every society and i think four hundred thousand years humanity has been searching for certainty and we've become the apex of that we believe things as absolutely true or absolutely untrue and we believe if things happened once there are always going to happen if things didn't happen once they will never have we become very very binary in our thinking and so we don't see those shades of gray we don't necessarily see how things change over time we we think that if something is appropriate to be done or to be a certain way it's always a crow be it to be that way so we believe we've become a society that believes all right lauren the right way to do ffs things learned the right way to be and be that way for ever societies traditionally and we spoke about mythologies before that that and this were built to support and promote  that things change over time in an appropriate way to be at one point of your life is not necessarily an appropriate way to be at another point in your life so i  the first movement of life and you know i won't say have because then we're going to get into an argument about where have you not what like a symphony has different movements and one can be longer than the other or shorter than the other there are movements of our life a symphony by the way it's also a patter so it's a it's a really good you know an of what goes on in our lives in that first movement we're in what i call the in face we show up in the universe and our first the pattern that is us shows up in the universe and our first task is to create a me as far as we can tell and i don't know if that part of their brain isn't developed in that but as far as we can tell these are born not seeing any separation between themselves and any thing else and so we over time in creating an equal and by the way the word ego has gotten a bad rap it's not a bad thing it's a useful thing for a certain part of our lives and it's appropriately during that first movement of our life what we're trying to figure out what is it that we are doing here and how do we relate to everything else so we reach a point in our lives were we are need to prepare for the certain knowledge that the pattern that is our minds will this is in this year which means we have t be cultural so for we're doing that it's interesting if you look at both dante in the west and the  approach to the faces of life in the east there is a line of almost exactly and it's about the different businesses that were about that and we have lost that cultural support for saying ah things have changed circumstances have changed we have to change our approach so we do one of two things either  hopefully one of three things let me change that either we careen mindlessly through the rest of the car was still trying to be as we were in the and then try to recreate exactly the life they had while they were working so that's not helpful the air for that final exhale  we need to do then one can exhale but doing it with mindlessly just withdraw totally from the process and kind of call that the waiting room of death these are people who are just waiting for that final moment now thankfully i haven't met as much of those as a member of the first half because i think that's even sadder in a way because we're we're not tying up loose ends we are not moving our resources where they need to be from you know it's become if you don't mind me injecting a little the canucks it's be current very fashionable to talk about how but won't percent of time go all the resources in this country and we're all and that is true but the one real problem from my perspective vector people young adults and even middle aged people and this is a systems level is that the baby boom generation has extremely those resources so i think there's a problem with the waiting room of death as well what i recommend and what i've tried to practice is a much of the experiences of our laws are locked up in our mind at the level of consciousness which they were experience so the traumatic event happened to me when i was eight years old unless i do the work i'm always going to experience them then in terms of an eight year old can understand but if i take the wisdom and experience in communication  like that will want to know what happened to you ready what happened to me when i was features of is i have problems making friends the other aspect of this is there are at i was raised in north georgia jewish community and fair point i believe there was an absolute truth in the rabbis had that absolute truth and were communicating it may well i met we moved neighborhoods so now i was a person who didn't have a whole lot of friends skills and  these things and still remember her reaction you don't understand why these things happen for these eight years of my life you've been telling me you understand everything and know everything and all i have to do is follow what you tell me to do and i'll be leaving a good life and how do you tell me you don't know why these things  away from under my feet and there was no certainty of anything now for a lot of my life i've seen that history matter what i understand it now as tremendously three as sending me on the row here helping me see that it's up to me to make sense of this life and i can't outsource it anybody else and you're you are understanding that this was a