point zero yes yes absolutely so what is the i two point zero community because i all know we always have people that probably joining our show for the first time so welcome and the one thing we want people to understand it's a life two point zero community is a movement absolutely really is about professional baby boom and women finding your skills using the skills and talents that they enjoy using identifying their passion and using that to serve as a guide to transition them into  downsized in taking a retirement package fully understanding i did not want to retire but had no clue as to what my next step was so i've done some research and done some jobs that i truly enjoy using my talents and skills that i enjoy using and ultimately came upon creating the like to point out community because really friends and family members that are were either retiring or knowing they were going to be downsized would come to me asking me how are you doing what did you do how did you do it so i put it together really and a similar our work book journal people are interested in how they can get started go on our website two zero community dot com and there's can go you a lot of times in some of our workshops we have people who score themselves one to ten a whatever but it really is understanding that it's all of these elements are pieces of the pie they're make your life are filling so we talk about career and career that have to be jobs you could be right business we talk about how well being we talk about finances we also talk about fun and recreation relationships friends family but also significant relationships and relationships that special person your  life we talk about your and hire and yeah we love that in our part of it that you know do it with your home creating that home that like to point home that it's really a reflection of you your family right keeping because when we were trying to figure out what what we were going to cover we we we really actually jacki you came up with this like all honoring on ourselves yeah we started thinking about this yourself and you did the same thing with some folks so you know this isn't a big why study with people that we know kind of get i thought somewhat how people interpreted honoring the source of the first thing was i got a response what do you mean yes i like wait a minute honor myself i never thought of that right and what do you mean so then we you and i we had to say we came up with a definition because we want to people to kind of have the same  concept idea of what we were asking them to we're not ready yet with the sites but what we did was we came up with a definition so you want to have to find that it's so so after asking people i'm not really we thought it's really how do we do something nice for ourselves and how in doing something nice for yourself it's really about self love and myself here i sort of cr are nice to me family and friends a lot of people connected doing something with family and friends as part of armoring themselves one person i don't know or myself nothing interests me and then taking time to be nice for years to yourself with another response exercising eating how being honest with ourselves looking at our shortfalls and trying to do something about them was another response and then another was setting goals that sometimes people's professions or their age group actually change you know was actually how the answer to crush right right right because we talk so yeah yeah so i asked i was talking to somebody in england and she's actually a retired nurse site and she most of her responses had to do with taking care of children and you know things so i was like how do you take care of you like right you had i pulling her back to that question to answer for her right but but at the same token some people feel that it is taking care of them by taking care of somebody else and i think the point we when we got those responses we kind of said no no no but we didn't want people to say your family or taking your families an important part of you want to people to really think about themselves because like two point zero really is about this is your time in life you know you've raised the kids you had the career when are you going to take the time to really take your view and do the things that you want to do of you then you know you have nothing to give to other people it's like the old you know the airline saying put on your own oxygen mask first so that you can take area somebody else so that's kind of what the right thing was so to actually go through we looked at this honoring yourself from two different perspectives so you want to talk about all of the i did i think what was more outward what you could see feel on the morning to honor myself my cup of coffee and my newspaper and i do this because once ten o'clock starts in my house it's chaotic my husband works from home he has this business so the door bell is ringing clients are coming on the right so your so that time between eight and ten is the time that i say to honor myself in the morning to give myself quiet time to enjoy my cup of coffee and to catch up on what's going on in the world which sometimes you don't want to but it's just my time that i step out this is what's going on in the world and it's also a time that i take and i do my my private prayer i do pray every morning for for for guidance for for for thanking and taking care of my families so right now i start my day and then the same token we're going to go back and forth here with these i love my first cup of coffee in the morning as well with no body asking me anything like as i like to have my quiet time alone but i don't read a newspaper in fact i try to learn something right right because you know among avid learner but i also take that time to ask myself i have to book and write question write for myself for that for the day and the first question in the morning is who can i help today and the question at night which is the other people can or is who did i help and how did i  go to the first flight personal growth learning more about the things that i'm truly interested in you know when i worked i had journals and done other than fifty million things that i had to read and do and learn from my job but this was a time that i said what are those things that i kind of love you know more about i use joy and i want to know more about so i took a course and your school and your design because i love interior design i had as when i worked in manhattan i always passed by the school yeah i said you know i want to take a close one day i'm going to take so the first day when i finished taking classes there quote my son who just finished my first class the other son so that's up there i love my wife i love my glass of red wine so i wanted to know more about wines and you know when i go to the store understand you know what with the difference that like the best i guess you would say but it's my chair and it reclines and it's comfortable and i remember when i was working people would say oh we're going to do a vacation in the us and the first i'm going to sit in my chair they are into space but this is my chair this is where i in at night and my glass of wine and here it's just reading things that i'm interested just nice things like in the top of the picture there is a book lord charles is the author i discovered years years ago and he ok creating lasting memories so for for for me it's those vacation times especially with them with my family or with my sister sometimes her and her husband will join us and will i put this up here particularly because this is where my husband i booked turned sixty a few years ago and we did a trip with our kids to europe we did france and spain and in the lower left it's a picture of my husband and kids and we're at  a restaurant and as and as i was sitting there i remember years years ago i saw on a travel station a lady that you know she did a show from as and i said one day i want to go in there and i was sitting there with my husband and kids and i'm like oh my god i'm here i'm looking out at the same things that she showed yeah from that day from that t v show and then i collect little boxes of my boxes are from places that i've gone and it's really just honoring the fact that i love to travel and the memories that the boxes will will will remind me of you know one box we were barsel and another box you know when we were on a ship in europe right o myself with with things that nurture me so much in the summer that's my little outdoor space to have my coffee in the morning and read the paper my favorite perf you i love love love saw fluffy towels and you and and have elegant dinners yes and that's just i guess i just love the look and i think honoring yeah that's really nice that you nurtured the relationship because especially when you've been married for i know several years sharing life's journey with the prison are different from friends friends of friends but sister friends are those friends that you know whatever you're going through in life you can come to them you can talk to them yes yes love the daughter my daughter were like friends from the womb we were pregnant the same time and i think that you and i know what you really mean into a sister friend yeah so that's another thing sharing my journey with my sister friends and then my next li little discussion i believe that everyone of us is here on earth to make a difference and learn from each other right i know what as a child my mom always told me that it doesn't matter what education judge someone on the chapter that you walked in and brought us there that particular space and time that you that you met that may be a really horrible or a runny nice time in their life and then they don't really you know it's not so  who they are absolutely so you don't judge them so i believe that everybody's here to teach you something so you need to know what it is and you need to learn from them so always on or other people are and respect the right  the other one is i choose peace now we've had a lot of this is yes i do i look for so my life journey and my christian faith has taught me to choose peace right over being right because i think a lot of people go through life wanting to have the last word and always be right it's just it's not important right you know on things that are so insignificant now there are significant things i'm not saying just give up or whatever there are things that are significant that that yes that's a person is right but when it becomes an argument right if i just don't know i may say nothing right but it doesn't mean i don't have an opinion right right you know it doesn't mean that you have to it has to be this you know elaborate whatever i know i have virtual coffee mornings with my sister in england you know it's afternoon for her it's morning right right he's having afternoon t stationed with my sister in law in canada right right and it's just you know your texting or something you know you have to make an effort to nurture relations voices of the world so you can hear your own voice you wanted to things that you know i grew up having afternoon tea every since i was a little tired and if it's an anchor for me which i didn't look at it doesn't anger or yes it is because that's like like my mother had afternoon tea ready when we came home from school and she'd sit there and ask us about our day she was a stay at home mom i know about her afternoon part of a nurturing time and it was like an anchor for and i also brought my kids up you know not that they have it now right they know about it but i said same times kind with yourself and i know you and i do this because throughout the so yes i know that's a little big part of honoring lives and some of the other moments that i like to savor in life is i love architecture you know we're both both done in charity so architecture really intrigues me fabrics because i always think about how was it made how we want to go where how was it even desire nature obviously i love my new favorite sound places along with guard oh yeah i absolutely love going there i grateful you know and i think the first one that came to mind when i put this down was there are lots that went through my mind but being grateful just to have a or because if you think about not everybody has a home and sometimes we don't treat our home with the respect and the gratitude that we should and absolutely you know just taking care of your home with the love absolute as as a home with some place that you just have to say i'm home i write every day and so forth so that is a key point yeah and then just being grateful for family friend life itself or freedom of growing and learning right and being happy person there are so many people that are on happy but they it's such a subconscious thing they're not even aware that they're on have so taking time to make peace or whatever you  to live a happy life or you're the only one that can make you happy right because i know people think oh you know when i'm in a relationship or when i write this that or the other then i'll be happy no no no no you w you have to be happy first so and that's part of loving yourself as well the other one is courage yeah you know we had the courage to actually jump on and do the show to show yeah i courage to actually pursue something that i know is a deep calling right and and some days i don't know what that looks like right but i feel like every day a small piece of the puzzle gets sold and it's true you know and in the living life by setting an example right because we have kids and friends and whatever and so however we live our life people it should there be an example to others you know how do we add value to  yourself because we didn't realize that this was going to be such i guess why it opened topic but it was after talking to other people when i call we probably had a long time and i think a lot of people don't stop to think about yeah yeah