following program is sponsored by seattle open door church yet all open door church is committed to loving god loving people and loving life our doors are open to whomever no mass required seattle open door church heavy father as we continue to look at the principal of the parents of evil in some examples of things that we can do today can appear evil last week we looked at things that somebody who could be accused of a sexual predator would be doing today look at things how individuals can help to prevent sexual harassment coming their way we understand that that doesn't always happen but at least we can follow some principles that makes it less likely that we begin to them a sexual harassment and so we ask that you or you would speak in the principles of your that can fuel or feed sexual harassment sexual abuse the fall becomes more controversial in a society has for years except the sexual revolution is a true in our culture except for the sexual revolution and the sexual revolution pretty much as anything goes right no matter how you live walk male female pretty much in the gulf and so we have the sexual revolution going so women remembered rights right we got women's rights we got women's liberation women women should be able to act of behave any way they want to just like men when it comes to sex isn't that what our society says that's what our society says ok now do women have rights do women need to be liberated from some things i would say absolutely yes that women have not been treated equally in our society even in the last several years that's the case but in the midst of saying women have rights and women's liberation did that mean that women should be liberated so they can send just as much as men and get away with it and that's what our culture is somewhat said some will interpret what we say as suggest that is the fault of the victim for being sexually abused some will interpret we're condoning the behavior of the perpetrator alternately what happens is stead of one to see a person take steps to protect themselves from sexual harassment such abuse there is the message that the potential victim should be able to walk should be able to dress behave any way they want and do any kind of risk taking and nothing should  is that not what some what our society says ok that this should not be held accountable whatsoever for how they live dress act behave his out some of what our society says listen to the media watch the media look at the billboards everything is there they can walk in the parents of evil and in actual evil with no consequences such a mindset only creates an atmosphere for the potential of even more victims and i absolutely believe that if the culture says that a woman can act dress do whatever she wants to do she can come across that she is very interested in sex does because she dresses acts talks like it does that mean she's an arrest and sex doesn't mean she's interest in arrest and sex with you because maybe she is in reston sex but maybe not with you and who gets to decide that you are her or she does so ok so we want to make that clear but in mindset that women can address talk do whatever they want to do and remain  women as men even though mina been sexually harassed but we're talking about women the that mindset that they can do that and shouldn't be any consequences from that will that create an atmosphere for victims what do you think just logically will of victims as christians we're accountable to fall the principles found in scripture we are to obey the bible those who obey the principles found the bible are less likely to be victims is that true none of to control what happens to us but we can control what we do that's up to our side doesn't teach either right or you're just a victim they're just a victim everybody is a victim you can't have you have no control over what you do no matter what you do you're just a victim your victim as anybody a victim who wants to raise your hand says i am a victim and i want to be a victim good i got a church that doesn't pull as in full of victims that's good but our society has a victim mentality too much live they want to live with no consequences and everyone else is the problem my set that men should have to live the higher ground but not women is not what we have in our society that men should live a higher ground than women should men live a higher ground the women trick question they should because the men should be what they should be the example shouldn't they the leader so i think men should live a higher standard than the fact of being example in a leader but does that mean that women don't are off the hook absolutely not if the following is avoided there's much less chance of being a victim of sexual harassment sexual abuse a if you entertain sexual bills in comments if you are a person that potentially has a sexual harasser your hands should you entertain sexual intell in windows and comments so if somebody says well that's a really sexy dress appreciate the sexual comments the person making such comments may assume you're interested in having sex you should make it very clear that you not appreciate such comments and the person doesn't again report them so this give an example you are at the job and you have a boss th make sexual innuendos and comments to you what should you do should you make it clear that that's unacceptable behavior ok and you may give grace he didn't know what he was saying was offensive you  know he was a little dumb and that that realm and he seems to be done with every woman isn't that interesting but say you say he's kind of dumb and that realm and so you forgiving if he does the again and you're in a job a job site what should you do report him why should you report it so he doesn't do it to other people so and to does not potentially other victims not that point you're not a victim of sexual abuse but i would call that sexual harassment because there's no reason to are acceptable but a leader sets the example and a leader will use their authority to get away with some things and if you don't report it then what's going to happen they're going to continue to do it will be being a touchy feely person environments where it's not how many know that if you're being touchy feely in an environment that's not appropriate to give a wrong message and so here's what the concept is is that if you to continuously have a physical contact with somebody when there's no need of th physical contact you're going to give the wrong message i mean some people are more touchy feely how do you know general statement just a general statement generalized stereotype women are more touchy feely does that mean always no of course not but women can be more touchy feely so you look at women even in our culture today and you can talk about the homosexuality all that stuff but in our culture here in america and certainly in other countries is the case are women not touchy feely you so if i am a woman and i'm working with a coworker and he's a male and every time we do something you hold as a man what is he going to start the day she likes me he's not going to drink you're just hold my hand cause you're touchy feely person and he may think that can he have a pure mode of now to put men on the hook i don't want to get in too much room because i'm in love to have get off the hook and get some excuses because she's holding my hand and that means she must like me ok yeah ok she does like you but where is men's mind goal when they think she likes him does get real most the time what's going to happen they're going to misinterpret that and in the midst of it that women and this really bothers me women need to understand men and a a a man turns around a need to mind his own business and a woman puts her arm around him for most men not every man but most men will say that's great can you put around more can you get closer and closer now does every woman feel that way normally no does it mean if a woman says they get close is that mean she's wrong or sinful or no we're not talking about that we're just talking about is that dangerous if you're a woman to get too much contact with the man could anybody agree to that ok let her see this is a this is a bad one sharing personal intimate details about yourself with someone in a manner that is not appropriate in the current setting being too close too soon can that happen we talked about that a couple weeks ago being too close too soon so a woman turns goes to a man and she starts sharing all her details what's going on in you know my husband's out of town and i don't know what i'm doing kind of lonely is that appropriate go home but you gave me your address phone number and everything else that i'm lonely in my home is gone and you wonder why he's doing something ok if you give your name number address phone number and you didn't invite the person to come over to the be in your driveway waiting for you kno ok so again people that are perpetrators are accountable for their actions but do you want to do that they create that now here's the next one d beat alone with the opposite sex for a long time when no need to do so or with the same sex if known to be homo sexual lesbian is their potential unhealthy attraction so if you know if go help a sexual a lesbian i don't care how you do it if you know men like men women like women or big men like women kind of scenario there is if you know where a person is coming from why would you put yourself in an environment that creates the potential of temptation to go on if you do that is a potential something happening absolutely do you think that is a dangerous for a woman to do why you're laughing because we know your hand is over all generalities and all this is about our men more visual ok so i was going to put up a clip i couldn't do because men are too visual and i don't want guys getting all excited but i was going to put a clip up here and it's a picture of a woman whose breasts are absolutely showing and you know what it should be bad to say that because this happens it's everywhere tinman control their eyes should remain be more respectful to men to not dress the picture was going to show all this emotion or bresson it says if you want me to look at your eyes stop showing me everything else i want to look at ok now i know this i've got in deep trouble bring this subject up terrible trouble with somebody because victims of abuse here this wrong at times they're hearing i'm saying if a woman expose your bro breast she should be raped did i say that i didn't say that ok so listen it is like a woman saying i want you to see me as a person not a serial sexual object but dress in such a manner that's very sexual but i want you to see me as a sexual object and this is the problem our culture today the hypocrisy of our culture today our culture today the movie industry especially has made women sexual objects to the absolute extreme and woman's lib and doesn't mind that whatsoever shades of grey the movie shades of grey check it out sometime no don't check it out sometimes but the movie shades of gray emphasize the fact that sex of women is everything goal is not the no big deal there and all of our culture says that and then they say a man you behave th hypocrisy if a woman dressed like a lady of the street it can create the image of a lady of the street why would a woman who has no interest in have a sexual wrestling racial ation ship dressed like she's in arrested now i know this is not popular but here's the truth of the matter letter f if you participate in activities that are normally associated with the potential sexual activity drek and parties raise bar  may be the potential of becoming a big deal with that be accurate ok kid a woman not go to a bar and be raped can a woman go to a drunken not go to a drunken party and still can she go to a regular party and be raped can she go to a business party and potentially be raped yes but what more is more potential that's what we're talking about gee i live in a problem isc us life with the reputation of being barely very sexually active if you ever report reputation see that's a good point if that is who you are you have the freedom right if you want to be sexually active do you have the freedom in america to be sexually active yes but want to be good to not just broadcast that to everybody why would some and she was a christian woman christian woman why would a christian woman live a lifestyle that would cause a christian man to stumble and let me turn around why should a christian man live a lifestyle that would cause a christian woman to stumble because that happens too because you have the christian man you know he's the he's a leader he's in the church you know is that he's the worship leader he's the the system pastor is a youth pastor and then what happens because walked in would agree class to walk into all of a sudden so h is spinning private time alone with someone who is married if you are spending private time with somebody is marriage is a more potential that there is sexual harassment going to go on because if somebody is members ever say men and women it could be other way around but to say that it's women and then there's a man is married if a man is married and he spent a lot of private time with you would you know about that man is there something going on with things why would he want to spend a lot of time he's married with the with a woman by himself work together ok now can you work together it is amazing how you have to do all those  works at night club is that different so your turn around and say hey you know what we need to do some collaboration here we both work at amazon recommit up with the new product and how we're going to market that product at the amazon and make tons of money of it and you know what why don't we go down over to the bars right across the street is very convenient the bars right across the street disco the bar right across the street and this collaborate in itself is there anything wrong is a sin to go to a bar it's not sin to go to a bar is a sin the collaborate is it a sin to collaborate with the opposite sex still not not a sin we haven't sinned yet ok if there is to tell if such their hearts but how many know if i'm a married man going through a troubling marriage with a single beautiful woman i'm collaborating about what we're going to do for amazon in a bar at ten o'clock at night in my wife is out of town how many know that can lead to trouble how you know it gives the wrong message so if you want to protect yourself i would suggest you collaborate someplace else ok last one accepting rice from total strangers ruben just started going crazy on me he can't even believe that somebody  why would you go take a ride with the total stranger what could happen you get kidnapped all but no no no he's a christian man he could be a strange christian right why why is that why is this a critical because when you have innocence absolutely but a guy told me he didn't tell me told somebody else he says yeah i had a bug was my mind ok he's a christian man he loves  with all of his heart he's in his thirty's and he said that he was driving down the street and saw a well woman and she said she needed a ride a girl not a an eighteen year old and she needed a ride and so he gave her a ride is  to give somebody a ride this in a given eighteen year old a ride no but he gave her a ride and then he took where she need to go and she started shared her whole life her life was totally messed up and and she shared all this and any talks about how he's able to minister to her now so some guy what i don't like about that story is somebody that reads that they are all wow listen he was able to minister to her and she shared her life with the men and it boy what a godly man and he was able to minister and somebody is going to read that and what are they going to think i want to do the same thing i should be able to do the same thing there's a difference right there are factors if you live without the parents of evil you're less likely to be an abuser and less likely to be abuse that's the principle don't have the parents of evil ok that's a choice that you make k that's not legalism that gospel will you accept jesus christ as your lord and savior today you want to get more information you can always go to our website to learn how to accept jesus christ as your lord and savior you can go to there is ok or there is there is hope to be done or and we have information on frequently asked questions about christianity we let you know step by step accept jesus christ you lord and savior encourage you to go to there is hope t v or that is there is hope t v dot org also let you know if you would like to talk to me you can always give me a call toll free anytime one a six six one g verity even though richard dover's the director of the very even program what is currently the reach of your open door churches are vision is loving gun loving people loving life now that's the vision for a church to love god to love people love life let me tell you something that if you love god and love people you will love life you know why some people don't love life they don't love god or they don't love people if you love god or you don't love people don't love life let me taste something else when you love life you will love people you will love god it goes both ways and out of it if you have a love and a passion for god and you say god i just love you with all my heart thank you jesus so you've done so much for me laura i just love you lord what can i do for you that's what happens when you have true love love the lord what can i do you love me how can i love you you know god is going to answer loving god leads to loving people let me tell you if you love god or i love you so much what can i do he says i want you to love this person over here i want you to love this person over here i want you to do this for this person here almost all you start loving people start loving god you don't think there's a fire let me tell you if you say i don't have a fire in me why don't i have a fire in the wind i'm not excited about life you're probably not loving god loving people try it just try that if you if you think life is kind of boring to start saying god  love people and let me tell you you will be able to love people the way god has you to love them unless you start loving god so long i my life and i'm a deadbeat human being i'm a deadbeat christian i'm the boss blowing christian there is god change me love people you realize you don't have the ability when you go until you got to god god gave me the ability to love people and heal you know you do history show you how much he loves you and we realize how much he loves you you can't help but give back people so that's you have been listening to there is so with 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