is our sixth sense it is our built in inner guidance system designed to keep us safe and help us navigate this life journey so are you ready to awaken your inner psychic my guest is tracey farquhar professional psychic medium she's here to help us explore the nature of intuition psychic abilities and mediumship and offer simple tools that everyone can use take a deep breath and stay where you are because positive energy starts right now hey i have tracy farquhar with me welcome to positive energy thank you so happy to be here i'm glad to have you so you are practicing psychic you do it full time it's your profession i love it and you offer carol and mediumship readings and a reading for those who don't know reading is where you sit basically one on one with someone and you tune into them you tune into their energy so let's talk a little bit more about what you do and in a way that people can relate it to themselves as well of course so we know that you know the term psychic and psychics are very common in mainstream yet there are people who might not really understand what that means so in your words what are psychic abilities and does everyone have them  yeah well my definition of psychic is a little bit different from the mainstream definition i believe a psychic is just someone who can raise their vibration to a point where they can connect with the energy of another person and so a psychic is someone who connects with the energy of a person and a medium is someone who connects with the energy of spirit so it's just a matter of raising a vibration as we know everything is made of energy and to varying levels of vibrational energy and so the psychic is able to tune into the life path of a person to give them some guidance nice so that means that that that information exists like in our around us in our field as energy is that how the mechanics work that's how i believe it works  so you make a distinction between intuition and psychic abilities i do and not everyone does but i feel that intuition is a little bit less do deliberate and so we can have intuition which is just kind of a non deliberate way of tuning in to energy we can have intuition about people places things that are going on where with my definition of psychic is more a little bit more deliberate so it is a deliberate tuning in a deliberate raising of the vibration with a specific purpose which is normally to give some guidance to the person that you're reading so it's kind of like formalizing that natural gift yeah so it's like intuition is always on it never really turns off right but you're taking your intuition and channeling it into a particular method to give someone information they're asking for that's right yes ok all right that's good to get that distinction so what do you think is the biggest misconception about psychics i know there is a lot of old misconceptions maybe they have gone away at this point the idea of sort of the gypsy with the kerchief on her head in front of a crystal ball behind in a dark room with lots of you know  i guess music there and everything or psychics are people who can read your mind yes you probably get a lot of that at parties if you tell other people or can you read my mind don't read my mind or those who can kind of foresee or predict the future but right what do you think about the misconceptions that you want to debunk yeah i would say that a lot of people still think that psychics are fortune tellers that our sole purpose is to predict the future rather than just tuning into someone's energy there is a certain amount of precut mission which is seeing the possibilities of the future as they exist as possibilities but not necessarily as stone clad  realities we're always create being our future and so to me a psychic is assisting in supporting us in in creating our own futures not necessarily telling us what's going to happen which takes away our power to create our future so the way that i perceive the role of a psychic is to support and guide someone and sometimes that doesn't involve showing people possibilities for the future but not necessarily predicting them as something that is inevitable i'm glad you made that distinction because a lot of people hopefully that clears things up for people that the future is not written in stone there is not a preexisting future that you're locked into there is not fate in that way but we do create our reality and that goes along with those those laws of energy right so so you have a little bit of a counseling role guiding role support role that you play when you who are reading yet it's not just here you go facts you're on your way right now so you know given that intuition is our inner guidance system that we're all hardwired with why is it important to develop your intuition and what happens if when you don't you might have an example in your own life when you haven't followed your intuition versus when you do what shows up well intuition as he said it's hard wired in a separate that something that we come into this life with it's another one of our senses just like the five senses it's just that as we grow up are our culture kind of influences what we believe about our intuition and so we tend to trust the five senses over that energetic sense we tend to not t senses can't so if we follow our intuition it's connecting us with our heart center it's connecting us with our higher self our spirit being which is also connected to spirit and source energy and it's in that energy where we are most connected with our real true authentic self and when we're disconnected from that we're more easily led we're more easily thrown off course we're not connecting with our dreams and desires in our heart centered sense of self we're more likely to find ourselves in places where that don't make us happy that are not really where we want to be as far as the as an example i just  recently was driving actually was driving in this direction just about an hour from my home and i was on the highway and i got that what i call an intuitive hit which is kind of like an internal voice that i hear that said stay away from the trucks and i heard it loud and clear it wasn't with my ear but i heard it internally and so i was staying away from the trucks and i wound up behind a truck went up slowing down because i was still getting that message to leave enough room to be behind this truck and within a minute or so the tread came off the tire of the truck and came home adding toward my car but since i had backed off it hit the road instead of me so this is where we can really be assisted and guided i don't know where that came from the could have been my higher self a guide a deceased loved one doesn't really matter what matters is that i listen to it and reach you and you listen  because of who you are right and what you try to live by example and it's a great dramatic example that almost make would make a good you know t v segments but i think it happened to you perhaps so you could share with other such a dramatic you know example of you listening to your and wish and it's not always like that every day though it's new plans it's just the little things that are trying our intuition is trying to help move us along you know in a direction that flows and help keep us safe as well if you set an intention for something that's that's like setting the course of the g p s and the directions come in those little subtle clues and cues and synchronicities that come in your life and when you're connected with the intuition you're going to pay attention to those things when you're disconnected from it and you're all up in your head and you tend to miss them and then it becomes a little bit more of a struggle yeah and would you say sometimes those little things get louder or they get more obvious or they sort of always both not really what really happens is that our ego is the loud voice our intuitive voice is usually the quiet voice but when you get used to the difference you know where to tune in that's really the higher guidance rather than the fearful ego voice that is trying to protect you from something that really isn't even real so you can tell by what it says to you in the way it feels that's right yeah as well a qualitative difference to it and i understand exactly what you mean by that so how does one learn to trust i guess or learn to get beyond one's limitations around recognizing and developing ones into wishing even maybe to the point of being psychic and offering psychic tools for others like yourself well since the intuitive voice is so quiet we need to develop a practice of going within and that can be meditation but that meditation doesn't have to be any prescribed format so some people are intimidated by the idea of meditation because they think it means an hour sitting in the corner chanting and if that's what works for you that's fine but some people it's you know five minute walk outside in nature some people just putting on headphones with some quiet music some people just sitting quietly for just a few minutes but whatever form that takes for you it's really important that you add that into your daily routine as just a way to kind of pour your energy in because all day long we're constantly distracted him putting our energy out and so we don't hear the subtle voice we only hear the loud voices which is usually the intellectual logical ego voice so developing that kind of practice and then really just playing some little games with your intuition make it fun you know when the phone rings don't look at it you know take take a few seconds let it ring a few times and see if you can tune in to who it is instead of immediately looking at the see who it is you know you can play little games like that try a little telepathy with somebody ask them to look at a picture and send it to you and see if you pick up anything it should be fun it should be light hearted and it's a way to again it raises the vibration and sometimes you be really amazed at what you can do yeah once you start to learn about it and the theories behind it and then just practice with it it's going to grow i guess it's kind of like going to the gym and first your muscles are a little weak and then they get stronger and stronger and stronger and so it really is like a muscle that you have to pay attention to and kind of work with absolutely so sort of you know certainly related to that another way that intuition plays a role in that psychics work is through mediumship so we hear a lot about mediumship nowadays it feels like lots of folks are doing mediumship they're writing books they're doing live gallery events some are even on television  so what is mediumship though in your in your words and how do you what's your personal process for doing it well when i teach psychic development i teach it in different layers of vibrational awareness so intuition is one layer psychic abilities are a little bit higher vibration and then the mediumship is a little bit higher so again it's tuning into energy and the energy of spirit is at a little bit of a higher vibration than the energy of a person because they're in the non visible non physical realm and so to me it's every medium is psychic that doesn't mean that they practice psychic readings but not every psychic practices mediumship so it is again very similar in that you're tuning into energy but it does require a little bit more of a of a concentrated effort to raise that frequency there was a lot of allowing involved and so again tuning in word  needs to feel natural which again in our everyday world it usually doesn't so really tuning in really listening there are different ways that you can get messages from spirit  image that you can get in your mind which i liken to a dream image clear sentience is a feeling and clear audience it's hearing not necessarily with the ear but with the third ear which is kind of like how you hear in a dream so you need to really be able to focus inward and pick up those clues and those very subtle images and sounds again very much like dream images and i find that when i do mediumship i and psychic in fact i have my eyes closed all the time because i'm focused so much in word and i don't want to be distracted by anything i'm seeing so it's just really cultivating an ability to tune in and trust what you're getting and it the only way to do that is to practice yeah yeah practice to have a regular proactive practice as well as maybe practicing it with someone who can guide you maybe in a groove setting right or one on one right so those are those are really great tools and i'm glad that you talk about exactly what i mean six sort of raise your frequency you know for us we can just sort of kind of do it but for others they need they need some more grounded in some tips and tools in that way yeah actually one of the the most powerful ways to do that is with your breath so the breath really does change your vibration it changes the level of frequency that you're connecting with and so setting the intention to connect with spirit sometimes automatically gives you this kind of deeper breathe breathing just kind of comes to you which kind of alters your consciousness just a bit but you have you found that most people can do it most people can only start practicing those to tips and tools and get better and better everybody certainly again not everybody is born the media but you learned to some degree even though it's natural what i feel is what we have to learn is to remove the blocks to it yeah because it is a natural part of us to connect on an energetic level but because we spend a lifetime of cultural conditioning which does not have the belief system that this is real you know surrounding us all the time in our homes in the media in our daily lives most people don't accept any of this so we build up the walls to it children often demonstrate natural abilities but then they kind of unlearn it because they start to catch on that people don't really believe them or nobody else really talks about this so to me it's more helping people to remove the blocks to it than it is teaching them how to do it when i teach psychic development i have a lot of different ways that they can practice so we try psych usually is the first thing i have them try which is hold an object tuning into the energy of an object in order to pick up the energy of the owner of the object the reason i think that works so well for the majority of people is that there's no cues from the five senses that can be telling them anything there's nothing that they can pick up from looking at the object or smelling it or feeling it they're just really tuning in just naturally to the vibration of it and so people who think they have no ability whatsoever will sometimes be really amazed at what they can pick up and then their confidence goes up so every time somebody gets something that's significant the confidence goes up and then they're listening a little bit more so that's a great exercise that using your classes and people can try to home right grab your grab a partner or maybe is a better word some you don't know very well perhaps even usually yeah but that's a little more difficult to find a stranger on the street right here right so when i do the classes it's it's worked really well because of a class of people that don't know each other and pair them up and then when i do an higher level psychic development class which i call psychic savant's which people who really want to become readers  i will start up a facebook page where people can come on and request readings from them so that's a way for them to practice doing phone readings or email readings or however they feel comfortable with people that they don't know because again when you're reading somebody that you know you tend to doubt it because you think well i'm just picking this up because i know them and it's a little bit easier to build your confidence of somebody you don't know anything about yeah yeah i'm sure you see that a lot of beginners just releasing the doubt that sometimes the biggest leap that they can take in all of this and it's true in life yeah it written regard for learning anything new as well or actually when it comes to trusting these more subtle abilities that we have so you've been doing mediumship for a while now and doing galleries reading people in groups that's what a gallery event is what's your experience of our loved ones who are on the other side as they say but they're really right here right what messages  hear most frequently from them is there a common message a common theme that comes through or several yeah there are a few yeah mostly though they just want to say hello they just want to say i'm here i haven't gone anywhere i'm still with you i still visit you i still see you i see what you're doing i'm proud of you i'm so happy for you they want to celebrate with us of the joys of our lives they want to let us know that they're watching our children grow and sometimes they want to let us know that they've let go of some of the things that plague them in this life so the things that worry them or maybe illnesses things that they suffered in this life are no longer with them when they leave the physical body they leave those things behind and so if there's unresolved conflict or arguments they're not holding on to that anymore and so often the people in the audiences at these events think that spirit is either going to tell them some of really profound life changing advice and usually a spirit doesn't have a whole lot of advice they know that and if they do it's it's pretty mundane they'll say you know the got a leak in the basement you have to take care of and you know you really should get that ankle checked out because there's something going on you know but you know they usually just want to let us know how well we're doing sometimes they want to talk about their own lives so that we can learn from what they feel they could have changed in their lives so they don't often have a sense of regret about anything because again it's a human thing that we kind of you know hang on to those things as in the physical but they will say you know i worked really hard my whole life and i didn't have a lot of fun and so you know to use that as an example for you you know because life it's really short and i didn't realize that until until i transitioned and i kind of look back on that life and very different perspective do they say that they do review their whole life that that is because i've always believed that yeah i was a bit of a life review part absolutely and they see it from a totally as you said totally different perspective not judgmental perspective higher perspective right but i learned they're released from any of the conflicts or struggles that they had in the life and so they're having this perspective almost as though they're watching someone else's life and so again is not it's not judge mental it's not a full of regret or wishing that they had done things differently it's just the knowledge meant oh yeah well maybe i could have done something a little bit differently but i learned from it and hopefully i can if i can impart that message to those of you who are still here you can learn from it as well yeah it's interesting that our loved ones were still here we want to comfort them as if something on the other side could harm them and it's really their position quite the opposite they just want to bring us they want to teach us tell tell us that they love us and provide comfort you know want us to live a happier life while we are still here absolutely so sometimes people feel like they need to apologize for something or they're worried that they did something wrong and you know spirit usually it's ok no big deal going on doesn't affect me anymore you know it's fine right yeah you know i'm perfect and you know it's you guys that need to start working on some of the stuff write yeah so i can only imagine and i actually have been witness to many people having these kinds of experiences i mean it should galleries and they cry and you're right there's a release it is a healing experience i'm sure you see that time after time after hearing from the loved ones they're ok then saying i love you you're ok you know there is such catharsis and closure very often with that yeah you know i said it's not a spirit gallery until somebody cross official yeah we're to shed right there's always a box of tissues out somewhere because in the beginning that used to bother me a little i thought gosh i can't make people cry all the time i can't do this but then i started to realize that it was a part of the process actually and that healing and and  we need to release that it's part of the grieving process and i think there is there's a lot of healing that can be done through through the connection with spirit and understanding that they're not really gone so you do what you do in oakland new jersey where you have a centered you want to say just a couple of things about your center and what happens there so my center is called the spirit like center in oakland new jersey so we have some classes there i have other people coming in teaching sometimes  do galleries there i meet people want to own one there are but i also do readings on the phone and via the internet in various ways and i do some of the galleries and other people's homes and other venues too so you know it's a small center but it's a big enough where i can host groups they're very nice so i hope people will check it out yes and reach out to you because you really are a wonderful reader i think you will have really given some great feedback on that so you're going to stick around because we're going to do another show to talk about your new book with mike dooley so i hope people will join us for that as well so again thank you so much for being and thank you for the work that you do in the world thank you it's been a blessing to be here thank you so much  we're wrapping up another enlightening show remember to follow your intuition it will never steer you wrong because it truly is the language of your soul and they reach out to me for intuitive healing sessions right here in princeton new jersey special thanks to monday morning flowers for the beautiful floral arrangement and thank you so much for watching join me next time on positive