joy show your prescription for total wellness so dr joy has this fabulous way of starting her show it's her trademark her signature and i'm going to ask her to do it for us today thank you natasha for having me as  last one in exhale are you coming relaxed i know i am thanks for having me natasha thank you for being here and i love that opening it is so you and i'm going to continue to read your your bio i mean i could spend a long time i had to cut it down ok so dr joy is also the host for the new radio show the joy of living broadcasting on the dial of nine twenty am dr joyce also a motivational speaker and author one of her books is are we functioning under conflicting knowledge every day she's also the author of don't let it get you and empowering health and fitness guide for women she holds a ph d in natural health and holistic nutrition and healing from the university of natural house she was also one of the award winners in two thousand and seventeen as one of the disrupters of the year presented by whole life activation based in the u k she holds the title of mrs central new jersey america two thousand and seventeen and second runner up mrs new jersey america two thousand and seventeen so all welcome wiggle my way out of it yeah ok so i was in corporate america so i have a master's degree in statistics i have a bachelor's degree in applied math and statistics so i did that when i was pretty young college age right so what was i told go to school go to school again and then get a job so i was in corporate america about twenty years and i was eighteen i was at corning glass works in eighteenth tee and then finally i finished up with financial sir mrs job i was a financial services executive with merrill lynch and i will tell you towards the beginning of that piece was great i was there five and a half years but then you the changes occurred and i started to feel undervalued i would say and i didn't like it anymore but you have to be careful what you think not just what you speak or what you think ok because the universe is workin so in june of two thousand and five i was i was let go the universe picked up your money yes ten of us picked it up and i was so excited and i guess that's what i write about and don't let it get you where most people were a little disappointed you know they would be upset if they got laid off i was like yes but i didn't know what i wanted to do my husband that day said go home it was third week of june so summer was just starting he said go home take the summer off and figure out what you want to do now mind you natasha we at the time we had we still do have two sons but they're grown independent but they were in school and we had a lifestyle so for my husband to tell me go home take the summer off i said that was huge so it didn't take me a whole summer to figure out what i wanted to do it took me about two weeks of really sitting down and saying what is it that i want to do how can i make an impact and i for my company quantum quest which means attaining something big ok and i bought women's health club yeah and i wanted to empower women to take care of themselves first you know why because we have competing priorities we wear multiple hats and i'm not disrespecting the men because i'm married thirty one years to a wonderful wonderful guy ok i love him to pieces and i'm in love with him but what i will say is that women we take care of everybody else and we tend to you know put ourselves last you know it's so interesting and you know as a coach i work with a lot of women and it's a very common phenomenon it's kind of ingrained in the culture yeah and maybe there is some biological imperative there wired in our d n a to take care of which is as you say it's not disrespectful to men or whatever we play different roles the only problem is is that we haven't been taught to take care of ourselves and that what we want is important and it needs for us to be empowered and i think mostly traditionally it's take care of everybody else first right and it doesn't have to be that way right now and what happens with that so we have competing priorities right we have those multiple hats were last and what happens we have internal conflict that that stirs up and salute so in my first book don't let it get you it's an empowering health and fitness guide for women but men read it i mean it goes into how it was in corporate then turned an entrepreneur and then wanting to motivate a women to take care of themselves and they don't have to join a fancy gym i mean i did own a health club at the time but there were things that they could do just by reading this book on their own in their own home so i always like people to get a takeaway from i guess yeah so let's say what are three simple things that women can do to empower their health and well being without joining a gym look in the mirror every single morning when you get up look in the mirror and say i am who i am and it's great to be me fabulous ok and that's your training your mind oh yeah and what we repeat on our minds gets embedded in us so i love it number two breathing as you stated before and i mean when we were in the green room you also did your breathing exercises right and as we stated  before that i open up every single show whether it's my t v show my radio show on stage or on leading a group of people of maybe two thousand in an audience we always start with three deep breaths so it's getting your mind clear clear in your mind because we rush a lot yes ok and so it's just taking those three deep breaths when you feel that you are under a lot of pressure so that anytime during the day and the whole thing is about breathing i mean there is a connection between mental state and emotional state in our level of breathing so when we're holding tight that impacts our biology and physiology we were afraid we hold our breath right but most of us aren't breathing in a way that is oxygenating our body isn't and so something as simple as that again simple tools number three third and if you go on my website w w w dot d r x j o y dot com one of the things that pops up is the importance of drinking water yes i was on the dr steve show w p i x channel eleven a while ago and i still love that clip that's why it's still there and i talk about the importance of drinking water most people think that if they only drink eight eight ounce glasses a day that's enough but do you know that that's you know that that's not right right well i'm going to kind of disagree with you here and one i know it's not disagreeing with the facts but i have interviewed any number of people in the world of health and wellbeing and everybody's got a different perspective so if you do research some people say and no doubt water is important but i don't have water is kind of in my mind up for grabs because there are certain again accredited people who say you're you know challenging your kidneys if you drink too much that is true it is let me finish ok so what i wanted to say was is based on your weight right your weight not your friends weight now your sister's weight not your desired weight your current weight and you would take that whatever that number is and divide that by two and that's the number of answers that you should consume when a daily bases now natasha check this out if you are in a place that is very hot you need to increase that if you are daryn exercise you need to increase that i think also ok part of empowering  have them really get aware of their own body absolutely each one of us functions differently so it's really like tuning in right how does this feel does this much water feel better and my feeling like it's too much right again i think it's really important for each of us to individually tune in and the formula is a great as a starting point but you know again you eat something that everybody says is healthy and it makes you feel kind of yeah so it's really check can check in with your body you need to check in with your body and also if you eat watermelon watermelon is ninety eight percent water so if you're eating a whole watermelon which i've done on several occasions that doesn't mean and i'm going to consume half my body weight in ounces yeah right because it's going to watermelon also who knows but listening to your body is key so those are the three things awesome so and i love that three simple thing that's right you know life is not necessarily going to dramatically alter but it significantly alter just those three things again today and pay attention to your breathing i have people set alarms like once every hour check into your body where your shoulders are they up here oh yeah stand up watch your removed the chair and elevate your desk that's a lot of people are doing that yeah i did i stand the entire time when i'm working at home yeah so again if you're an advantage that set an alarm  actually stretch take a few deep breaths yes but keep it keep it moving and you burn calories by standing and you know this whole thing about wellness and fitness and whatever i think what people have to get is that in order to not criticize themselves or you know beat themselves up every time they quote fall off it's a journey it's learning and and hopefully it will be you learning yes ok yes so if the information was in a book we'd be you know will be free good to go so it's really not just what's in a book it's about simple tools it's about empowering yourself it's about having other people support you it's learning bunches of tools and then customizing it for yourself exactly so your prescription for total wellness goes across the seven wellness elements and wellness to me is and this is my own definition atocha is striking our home only is balance across so this seven wellness elements so everyone mostly knows about physical wellness right so they don't let it get you talks about physical and nutrition this one blueprint for success talks about my business in going from corporate america into entrepreneur and then it talks a little bit about the wellness but this one here this are we functioning under conflicted knowledge every day notice it's a stick figure it's very simple the answer is yes that's what it's about the mental and emotional component those two components yes but in order to strike back and he had this acronym that our bodies for our bodies of skull squid self contained complete quantum devices wow that self contained complete quantum devices it is complete and everything including your emotional well being your spiritual wellbeing your physical wellbeing environment is kind and pained you know even your spiritual well being even though this body impact people in a lot of different ways and that's your mission that is my mission so positively impact young people yes yes yes because we know very quickly when we negatively impact on this  you do i'd like to say something about that because one of the biggest things that people struggle with you know conflicting conflicting thoughts conflicting priorities is the issue of self esteem so underneath all of that is this for each and every one of us some issue of self esteem issue of not making it not measuring up whatever and it's kind of just there so it's kind of this whole idea of always again inside of this container noticing what you believe noticing your thoughts you know i heard somebody once say if you let them your thoughts will mug you oh yeah they will yeah and so it's really we keep thinking that our thoughts are something like that are hard core written in stone that they're the truth there's this whole been learned it's all been taught it's all been programmed in us right and then we operate as if it's the truth including our low self esteem right that's why i love your thing in the mirror in the morning i know you're just say that you're changing your body chemistry and so the idea is to keep looking at what i tell something i believe right because we don't see what's out there we see what we already believe right and if it's not good right and it's time to dismantle what we believe including our low self esteem well i would say if you if you're going to ask me the question on how one can increase what self esteem starting with in the morning i am who i am and it's great to be me also refrain from seeking validation from others yes ok because us right and so we perform in order to get that love on an instinctual basis right and so that would a sion is part of our survival so then the question is you know t me it's we will always continue seeking validation from others but it's actually dismantling each one and saying is this survival mode or is this who i really am right i think it's media i think and this is just my thinking that it has it has made people feel worse about themselves ok but that's where they can say for i look at this person's because i've had my clients tell me i look at this person and their life looks so perfect and i feel like you know i feel like garbage and i needed them notice what you believe in that moment you believe their story is you believe that your less  that belief serving you right do you really actually know right think it's teaching people to discern and to think through instead of just getting activated that is true and then also recognize that social media is there for a reason right and that's only a micro cause i'm of someone's life or death view as what they want you to believe and that's what they want you to believe now i don't know about anybody else what i put up is truth right but if you really want to step into dr joyce shoes you're going to have to come and hang out with me for a while to see what my life is like totally i'm going to ask you a question sure many be a little  hard to answer but i've watched some of your i've read some of your stuff and i've watched you and one of the questions you always ask is who are you re i really you i am a person that wants to positively impact the people that i see every day ok but if you want to if you want  down even further than that who am i really i'm an only child born and raised in a two parent household in the bronx and i know people are listening in their life woohoo bronx new york ok i was bullied as a child now i'm talking about some things you know my formative years that also you know come together as your core beliefs right i was told that from some people i wasn't good enough so internally internally i'm going to prove you wrong i was a competitive athlete pretty darn good one of my record still stands on the college level so this is me  but i want to do the best i can i also refrain from comparing myself to others you know why because when you compare yourself to someone else that robs you of your own  happiness that's part of me ok you don't have that much time to go i mean we can do this online with a cup of tea if you want you know but i think it's important for people to understand because you're asking that it doesn't really need to stay there how can you resolve it those are the questions how can you give it up how can you give it up how can you give what up whatever it is that's causing that  self esteem or that incident where somebody bully do and then you made it mean something right then you're still trapped with that feeling and that belief system as opposed to it was one incident that person said something you believe something  shift that belief well it's called pivoting that is true but anything that has happened to me yes it happened to me but then i release it and i tell my story because there's somebody in yeah right now people sometimes are hard to let go right because people sometimes cause the conflict but you knew you were in control so you have to make the decision whether you want to continue to deal with that person and don't trust me that sasha when i was laid off i thought i had so many friends my phone rang three different phones the cell phone  phone and the home phone ok when i sent that email to tell people that i was no longer you know in this position phone still rang but then there were questions i go how you going to make it go how you're going to have you should take your kids out of the school that there aren't ok you just so you know people started to come to me with all of these solutions that was there one solicited i never told you that i was asking for your advice and then after about a week everything stopped and then people just fell off so that cause conflict inside because it was like well in my worthy enough to go and be an entrepreneur to try to make a huge impact in the world more so than sitting in corporate america ok so i had to figure out what was good for me and with that there were a lot of people that fell by the wayside at the time and since certain things have occurred in my life they've tried to come back some i've let in some i have it because i had to figure out was it worth it right so the question that i have for people is your conflict what is your conflict who are you really what is your comp conflict can you get rid of it those three things i like it so we have three minutes left of advice your mission your message you've already shared some of it is there anything else my mission is to positively impact of hers and that's i mean that's pretty broad yes right  i have a hash tag increased significance whenever i am in contact with people you just don't know what a smile will do for someone else i start with that and then the rest flows so my advice would say people definitely wake up in the morning i don't care if your head hair is on top of your head you know you hope you don't have too many bags under your eyes but the bottom line is look in the mirror and say i am who i am and it's great to be me say it three times say it with me in the taj i am who i am and it's great to be me absolutely yeah and that that that will kickstart jumpstart your day in a positive way i believe it and i think you know your vibration changes just with those words that's right and you don't i think the important pieces you don't have to believe it when you saying it you will start to believe something will shift i have a client who she writes down her montra that we created together and for months now she writes it down six times every day and she says it and life has altered capacity to thrive and to flourish and to blossom take it on it's an invitation take it all that's right yeah and don't be afraid to do it yet dr drew where at the end of our time can you believe i can thank you so much thank you for being here thank you for your mission thank you for everything that you do thank you for having m my name is natasha sherman thank you for joining me