hi everybody jody tobin sweet to me the voice the core and more as you know my post or my show my posts to also help men and women in transition feel comfortable and happy in their space as they've gone literally from to me married to single or they adjust to retirement or we location or even newly married couples trying to blend households like say peacefully without arguing it's really important to have a nourishing comforting home so of course we'll talk about some design tips you'll get to see in the middle of the show one of my videos on design tips but what's equally important is other professionals coming into your life and helping you when you're in any type of transition and my good friend kathy richie is a wellness and prosperity coach and i'm really excited kathy to have you on the show again oh i'm so glad you're here and you know  talk about well first start off with how we met because it's such a cute story and we've known each other for years and the funny thing is how we met which you can share with everyone in a second one normally doesn't know what other people do for a living in the way that we met you don't even know somebody is first name and you can know them for six or seven years so it's kind of cool want to tell everybody how we met through the dance community yes and by the dance community i mean social dance yes social dancing so we were taking dance lessons in the same studio yes we were and that's how i met jodi you know that was probably seven eight years ago yes i think we're going on eight i think we are we are going on eight years that i know you and then you often oftentimes because you are so fabulous you would help the teacher help the rest of us learn whatever dance jon we were learning whether it was the hustle or west coast swing or whatever it was you were you were there to be dance both hands pop and you know follow lead it didn't matter you were that good that you could do that thank you to well first of all the teacher you worked for was very picky and if she chose you to help her that means that's a huge compliment thing so  that's how we met and again transitions right i took up dance because it was right after my divorce and i was going through a hideous time and i had always loved to dance but i had never done it you know i don't want to say formally or officially the dance community welcomed me n yeah and uplifted me during a time of for me to severe depression losing my home of twenty years going to a really nasty divorce and some personal issues with my the health of m my child it was really tough and i really believe and i said this to you last time i think the dance community saved my life and i think it's a mine too actually you know there was a transition time for me too but it was great meeting you that way  because i watched you go from that place to when you dance or just have joy and when you have a joy in your life everything seems to work out eventually and it's really and look at you now i know you don't like it is the fabulous i help other people you that's what it's all about well that's what it is going through what i went through i feel like i can offer advice and help people feel at home in their space after their after they've been booted out or up lifted her up through did and you you have an interesting story because when we say wellness and prosperity coach you have photos here of people you help people lose weight but it's not just you lose weight you're done it's a life you help create a lifestyle for the idea and that's what makes you different and you've done it yourself and i've done it myself like i have i've gone from my house in twenty years to nothing and making a fabulous space you went from having and struggling you told me in the last show struggling with a weight problem struggled to move my entire life and look at you and well now i feel great and i have a sustainable program just saying i'm a lifestyle which is very important that's the key that's the key it has to be sustainable it can't be a fad thing where you do it for six weeks and you're done well there's no quick fix there isn't a quick fix for anything but right what you work for is what you get right and sometimes when you go through the most difficult times that's when you come to where you are the best in your life yeah and that's you know that's with the program to for me so that's why i share with other people it's really it's really amazing tell us a little bit about your program and how it's different from the like another program like jenny craig or or weight watchers why is yours different and why are you different i already know the answers to these things but please share with everyone ok well it says i think that our program is very different in the way that a lot of times people have a difficulty believing they can lose weight because they've been on so many other programs that haven't really worked for them and with our program you start to see and feel results within four days yeah and when you see and feel results that quickly you say this is work yeah like i'm going to keep to keep going you want to see how far you can go with it and you actually get to eat real food and enjoy things that you love and i coach people individually on their individual needs to make sure we tailor the program know but you understand that loss of control where you're like what the frig i'm just going to do it and i do i'm very sensitive to what people are feeling and going through so we can talk about it in a way where they now are not just you know it's not just coming from someone that can you know do what i say and not what i do when you're authentic kathy and that's the difference your welcome your authentic it and air all success and all anything that has to do with helping other people really grow from  because look if i had been through what i've been through divorce and losing my home i how could i help other people if you hadn't had struggled with a weight problem and and food is you know what's hard about food is you know with other it's almost like an a something sometimes it can be an addiction but you need it every day so it's not like you can say well i'm not going to do this drug because i don't need it and i can try with food you have to have it every day so how do you fight or help somebody who maybe has a food addiction or just as obsessed with food maybe it's not as bad but either way whether it's food is in your face it's everywhere you look right well i help people that way by making sure that they eat at intervals door in the day but they never get super hungry right we and our our program actually is very nourishing and satiating right so you always feel satisfied yeah and that's ok as long as you keep being satisfied and keep putting protein in your body all day instead of carbs and other things it really works it does well no it absolutely does work and what kind of cool is you have photos which we're going to you brought photos but we're going to we're going to edit them into the  show people are going to see them actually i don't even know why i said that actions that will be in the in the show but they're really quite amazing what i'm noticing by looking at all the photos that we looked at earlier in the green room is it's not just oh somebody was heavy and then they're now they're not it's the way their face looks it's their body language i mean this woman this woman can't just hold her up she's in the harmony all like i think she's the sexiest thing ever i don't know if you can see it or  not we'll put it on the screen eventually but the way she's standing here ok and you know she looks like a fairly happy person but you know she's got she's got some weight on her and this she looks like she just she's a supermodel in a magazine look at her confidence look at how she has her head cocked back like she likes herself exactly and i think that's what makes your program different is you help people reintroduce themselves to each other this is who i am this is who this is me you know your true me you kind of on uncover like i do with someone space and what are the things you like in your space what makes you happy what colors make you smile what's nourishing what is it about cathy that you like you discovered that by shedding the pounds and eating properly and and nourishing your body so that you felt good not just losing the weight right and that's what i that's why i think we relate so well to each other jodi because you help people feel express themselves in their space and make them feel good about themselves all around them which makes you feel good and i help them feel good about themselves inside yeah and when you find out good on the inside it carries on everything else you do cough self confidence that you have that carries over in everything else in your life in your business in your love relationships in your family relationships are free and people tend to want to be around you want to follow you want to you house it's your food it's your lifestyle it's what you put your body it's it's the attorney that you you may hire like chili and ideally everybody you know it's whatever it is you need in your house you have to you have to surround yourself with good people and what kind of nice about you is that what you do you come in contact with other good people in different fields that you can recommend just like i do you could recommend you could recommend me to this lovely woman or i c recommend my client to you because actually when you start talking with someone and hear they are new in your helping them and they're feeling good and maybe they need they need help with the house or maybe they're selling their house or maybe they need help with the it could be anything a doctor maybe they don't have a good eye doctor you might know that person so you become the go to person not just for the food and the lifestyle change but hey kathy do you know someone who could help me with this or that and that's what i think we all want to be is that go to personal attacks when our special is a right but we want to be able to have an entourage of other professionals that represent our expertise and i just touch my microphone and i know that  making noise sorry i think i know i can just give you the face but i do that once and while i have to tell you to use my hands all right so having said that that is really super important to be able to surround yourself with an entourage of people like up is there a question they could ask that it isn't answered correctly they should hang up and run for their lives and call you that would be a red flag with someone that maybe doesn't care or not know what they're doing honestly i think if somebody tells you that they have a quick fix and you could just do this thing for you know thirty days and you're done your your problem is solved i would say be a little cautious because there's nothing that's a quick fix it's really something that hope people learn over a period of thirty days on how to change their lives right so we i have tips and ideas that they can incorporate and after thirty days time they start to you know repeat this new have it right  so if you change your mind you can change your life right exactly and that's basically you know what i feel is is most important you know i think it's a starting up and telling people that right away this isn't of thirty day quick fix you will start to feel better in four days like you say but in thirty days what we're doing is teaching you have bits and you're going to have to put those into practice for the next three months for to really sink in and then can it's a lifestyle change right and one thing i do want to add jodie is that  you can still enjoy your life and enjoy all the things that you love to have i agree you have to reach your goal and then follow a maintenance plan that i help people have just fit for i'm just curious like can they call you any time would you have a schedule of that as well i have a schedule that we we go by for what we call a coaching call right and then in between they can always reach me by text and then i get back to them as soon as possible yeah but there are questions that come up especially when someone's new on the program yeah sure and i'm there for that yeah i actually take this on you know this is something that i didn't plan to do right when you were in the accounting world where i've been an accountant all my life i now injury you had surgeries on your butt i remember i didn't exercise i wasn't having a band running and i wasn't happy getting dressed and going out and being in public life frankly and when i did this program after about two weeks two and a half weeks i felt great so i went to a dance and that's where a friend of mine stick kathy what are you doing right what are you doing your face is a glowing look happy doing she's i said you know what i guess it's  coach and she said no i want you to help me and that's how it started and you know i stood there for a minute and i thought about it and i said you know what i want to help i want to be the one to help you and that's how it started and then i helped her and others friends and my my family all the shape of their life and it is such a nice story because it's a it's a gift that keeps on giving and you can just pass it along and it isn't temporary get this not a get that expires or goes bad like you know graem refrigerator it's it's longevity it's your life your life and that's the best part and i think the more you help people because this is how i feel the more you help others attain their goals and be healthy that the more heals you because you know quite frankly we all have wounds from whatever our issues were i'm sure you were wounded from struggling with weight and being overweight all those years are so lovely so many levels wounded in relationships wounded in friendships wounded i don't know maybe by family and friends people skills say harsh things without meaning absolutely you know like what's kathy you know what people say awful things like that and i remember in my situation too i would i know some people did mean well but said they would say things to me that were just so hurtful and when you're in a transitional mode like a logically i think extremely vulnerable oh yes and that's why to have someone like you a coach that you can just say with kathleen you know i just texting you and say hey you know my i saw somebody in the grocery store and and they you know they said something negative to me and i just want to go get a brownie you know like i just want that friggin brownie ok and you know you talk i'm down off the  you know it's really really important and i feel like there's a lot of overlap in what we do like taking people and making them feel good for a long for longevity it's not like  it's not a quick this to make your house feel good it's it's a life time it's maybe your biggest investment you should feel good in every single room of you exactly you should i was having each room should perform a service and do a job if you're if your bedroom for instance is in a sanctuary doesn't make you feel safe and it's not doing its job if nobody wants to go in your living room because they feel like they want to run out because it's just not a welcoming it could be something as simple as placing the furniture in the right place and working with the right colors the same as you could be as simple as adjusting that diet where you know that person is going to stick to those particular foods because you know them they happen to love this right we're not going to give the same if someone hates fish are not going to like say well you're going to have to eat fish for the rest of your lab sewing or not so every just like for me every house is individual like a snowflake at every person's wellness program is it too i get text messages and should i buy this or i hate this or i can say you know and i'll answer them as well i'm always accessible and i think that's what people people want that absolutely you want to have somebody that you can talk not they have to wait till monday you know between nine and five no you know and right and that's really frustrating even for me if i need somebody and or i can't get something done or i had a question for one of my for this thing that cropped up and i'm supposed to do or you know i was going all over the place and now it wasn't that at all but still it would have been nice to get up hey an answer a little  think that's what makes us special having said that i have i can't forget i have to get a break for a quick design chat and then we'll be back in a few minutes and we'll continue with mr cathy someone asked me to help them write and often happens when people see one else in their world make a transformation they ask them for help a lot of people are looking for you know an extra five hundred to two thousand dollars a month carrie just or there are some people that are divorced and have always stayed home and supported you know the the household in the children and now they're looking for a new career and i help people do that i teach them to do what i do yeah and you know what the more you teach them to do what you do the more it reinforces what you've already taught them about themselves and insists this wonderful domino effect where you are immersed in health exactly and it's all about you know spreading and sharing a gift and i feel it's a tremendous gift that somebody shared with me and it would be very selfish of me to keep not to share it with someone else and for them not to share it with people they know and that way we can help so many more people who are really struggling and suffering you know in silence it's sad it is sad it really it it's it does a lot of damage people's body image and even it goes the other way too you know nobody ever talks about this but someone being too thin and everyone like oh you're so skinny you know it that that hurts just as much as someone saying you're so fat and so this program you know getting on a on a good program and eating healthily is going to help someone gain weight in a good way not a bad way nobody ever talks about the skinny people you know that it's good that you bring that point up because i just want to say this is not about losing weight to be a perfect  this is about living your best life yeah and being your best self i agree and some people struggle with not having enough weight on them and they don't know how to put on weight in a healthy way or to gain lean muscle and they also help people do that but i help athletes get better performance and fitness professionals get more out of their workouts even just you know just sports enthusiasts in general yeah so it's another day our dance community is and i love  that our dance community is a special community and it really is and it is filled with people and people who don't dance and i try to explain this to them they think what they think you'd like dancing at a club like by yourself this is this is just so you know it's follow the lead it's learning the steps of the dance and being able to dance with anybody at any level knowing that dance correctly yes and so when we say social dance it's not like you're going out to a bar there is no drinking nobody cares dancers true dancers all they want to do is dance improve take turns with other dancers in the community and have that joy that you and i talked about the joy of dance it is a gift for real and that was a gift that you know you helped give me too because quite frankly you know when i was when i first started off and i was dancing and you would be the person i would get when you were helping teach i was always take a breath or sigh of relief when i got you because you always encouraged me and if there was a difficult step that i didn't get you like could ciancio do you know that was a great turn and you know that was so much better than lot like you always i would look forward to even sing with you because i felt i would get i needed the pat on the back because i was my life was in such a at the time and it was so you uplifted me so many times things you you would never know about until i'm telling you now and then spreading in the dance community and meeting other teachers you know like john lindh goings and was john lennon i'm going to go here's a dance tonight i'm going but there are so many teachers that are out there that are so amazing and  they teach you is that the dance community meaning us the followers and the leaders are there's are certain amount of respect totally you know you don't criticize anybody else no matter what level they're on you you dance with everybody you take turns you don't frown i don't care if they have body odor i don't care for this as they sting dance when you dance with them with a smile and that is what they've they teach us well i think it's really important and i'm grateful that i met you and when i did and that environment i believe her body meets people for  i agree with you and i was just grateful that share in that moment where you got some joy in your life where your you weren't getting another arrow my gosh and i think it's important that when people start anything whether it's dance or whether it's a new health program on an exercise program that they're supported in the beginning through the rough time they get past it because people would give up and look at what a great dancer you become now you  awesome i stopped when i first started and if you didn't get that little pat on the back and said i want it up you know i wouldn't mind as i was so sensitive and there would be a void in your life or that there would be there would be a void and i get so much joy from dance that i can't there's not even any words to explain the happiness i have when i step in onto a ballroom and i see all my dance friends and i normally does i swam or it's a dance family you know the funny thing is kathie you could leave your handbag and i've done this for  i've been dancing eight years now i could leave my head back all of us with your wallet sticking out nobody would i have never have anything stolen i just doesn't happen no doesn't have it just does it we don't nobody thinks that way you know and but the best thing is that the whole world goes away when you're doing something that i love disappears disappears so it's a it's a break it's a mental break for your brain to just rest up and then tackle whatever it is whether it's a new program and a new lifestyle with your health your health miss or if it's just getting through a transition maybe you've lost a spouse maybe you're moving whether it is you know whatever it is it is a break for you to get strong and i think it's great i think it's i think it's wonderful you before we first of all i want to give you an opportunity to tell people how to reach you so you should do that now please kathy with a c richie and that's all right c c i and you can find giving to share with people so they can inspire them and believe me it's hard to find those before pictures because a lot of people hide out from the camera they do but they do it's it's really something and like jodi said you'll see a total transformation not just in their bodies but in the way they carry themselves and they they own it you know when they make that transformation they own who they are thank you for being us thank you for having me and really of how you carry here with us happy to have you to all right having said that if sadly i think the show should be an hour i think we should change it up really i mean really seriously what is a thirty minute thing ok guys thank you for joining us joanie toke it sweet to me divorce the core and more as you can see with kathy richie tune in next week and see more and learn more feel more the whole thing anyway we did me signing out see you next week by thank you