if you're jim scanlon and you want to inspire a great future you've got two choices either write a book like the musical venture one shot billy or you start someone like paul so why i decided i was going to start out by writing a book to inspire people and i think so if esteem and confidence and really understanding how to become a better person on the planet is really the most important thing that we all face but the character is one shot billy he learns mere guitar and if you notice a smear guitar if it's sideways you really don't see it it's two panes of glass and when he looks at himself in the beginning of the story he sees a hole in his heart and he's not sure how to get rid of it like he doesn't know if it's a hole in a soul a hole in his heart it's just doesn't feel complete and through the process that he learns through the book of giving he realizes that the answers are always in his very own hands  do is look at himself differently and at the end of the story he turns a guitar around in the hole is gone and that's the essence of the story is really perspective i believe in people the planet in perspective i think those are three very important words we need to pay attention to i love that i believe in people little i believe in people now tell me what motivated you to write this book for you to hear little background about you how you grew up your challenges i had a lot of attributes that worked in the culture i was involved with in grew up in and the reason i want to be on your show is because of your i so if you tell me your title out tell you the way i thought it for me tell you  v the level of success in business beyond my comprehension i really did better than i ever imagined and with all that success came stagnation i was now the same person every day doing the same thing and i just didn't feel fulfilled and i said or there's got to be another way and all along i was writing songs i never played out i set my basement and played and played and played and i would write i try to solve my frustrations through lyrics and music and at one point i had come up with an idea and that book was it came from a song it came from a song so it but the stagnation where it resonated with me you know their ward until main but someone like you said initially they are in them so they're not bringing it out how how how did you view how did you get to the point of the confidence that you are so you know you know what you  and about what makes you think i'm confident or you want me that know well it's been a very hard struggle i've always been confident the last words in that song even if you don't agree deep down inside i believe i'm a i believe everyone is confident but to take that confidence out into the world into being judged it's like a salesman some people can't be salesman why because they don't like the rejection they don't like to hear it it hits their brains and they just feel but i think that at the end of the day everybody has the belief system eat down inside it's just how do you get it out it's no different in practice i when i realized i had written the book and i thought i could market it from behind my computer because  i was stagnant i just sat there and didn't think i was a good singer i told myself all these stories i wasn't good enough and i didn't want to be judged less it's difficult you watch t v you see these people with all this talent and that to your measuring yourself against but i realized that my ideas were more important than my voice in my guitar and i finally said to myself i have to get out in front of it so i did two things i went to open mike which is  can anyone can go and play their guitar and that helped me solve my fears and i was deathly nervous every time and then i joined toastmasters international which i would say or you believe has been one of my greatest life's life decisions in trying to become a better person become a better communicator become a better leader and the red bank chair toastmasters chapter has been fantastic for me in fact i just play my guitar for them on tuesday in the hollowing show i wrote a little song and i never could imagine myself doing that before so i have these ideas what's the vehicle the vehicles always yourself why are you confident enough to get out there now but i'm still going to get out there and i'm to make mistakes and i'm going to learn and i put myself in places that i never imagined i would and it's interesting because people know me because i coach you know i do a lot of things they said why would you need confidence you seem so confident unfortunately it cripples us too so the nervousness that i experienced my entire life when i was playing sports and once i got into the game before the game i was always very nervous before i came here today i was very nervous how much nervousness are you going to allow yourself to tell you stories that you can't do it so it's an interesting process that you have to train yourself to say ok i can do it because i'm going to do it and even judged to have somebody point you out to stick you out of the crowd now i also argue that people that aren't afraid to be in front of the crowd may have to think it a little because you have to be conscious of what words you share you can't be immune to the fact that you may look like an idiot not worry i don't care i don't want to because you have to be thoughtful about your words so everything in life has this balance in this line people who really know me they say wow it's amazing the transformation that has happened in the last really seven months what are you how are you helping people solve this problem because trust me d c made a big problem a lot of people do have some want to get like i said like to two ways number one i wrote the book to really go for a younger audience to aspire to this character one champ bailey who finds out through that through giving through giving he learns so much so the put yourself in a position to give so that's the first part of the answer because i toastmasters and i really want to tell you how much that's club is meant to me there's mentoring programs there's new members nothing makes me feel better when a person walk into that room and give their first speech the speech it's so it's such a powerful moment or a young man thirty two had just had a son he went there because he was so afraid to speak he had gone to college he gave a speech he did terrible he walked off he couldn't speak and that turned into avoiding being a best man at a wedding avoiding saying something  service for someone he cared about and it turned into him always avoiding these moments that he knew he should stand up when if some was going said i was i have to conquer this fear he joined toastmasters and i sat next to him before a speech and i just said you can do this don't worry it's just get up there and do it you do it gave a great speech it was about his fear and when he came back i said how to feel proud right because i could do better is not a greater so integrated that's in everybody going oh it just took him to take that step correct and i was so you know i admired him i use the word proud proud makes me feel like i'm looking at what i admire is courage so much and i just there was a young lady to your laser just gave their speeches tuesday their icebreakers and it's amazing to see that process this is interesting you know why i'm so excited about this topic is because i know i understand it challenges when it comes to  really important but i'll go back to two words and i i do motivational speaking for younger audience i go to school and i call it choices in voices ok you have to make the right choice meaning that you have to put yourself in that position so you study you do all the things you prepare for that's no different than you being a professor right you put yourself in a position even if someone answer your question maybe that's your dreaded fear something yes you question you don't know the answer right so sometimes sometimes you do it but that's an program and i look at voices there's two outside voices and it's two inside so there's those outside voices that are always going to be there are going to try to take you down and tear you down it's that crap part the area where the crab that's about to escape it just gets a say on average another one pours into right so there's those people but then there's the inside force and there's the good and bad inside voice because there's voice inside you that agree with them that can tell you bad things about your own self  but then there's that other inside voice stand up like that contender he said no i don't believe because there's good outside voices no matter how many times i tell you that you're a wonderful professor he may not believe it because you have to have your insight voice stand up and that's why i wrote the first song we sang together called the contender in the book the character faces one of those moments where he's not sure you know how how can he do it and he finds summons the pride inside deep down that's been covered by all this insecurity and fear all these bad voices they stories has been telling themselves and he says i'm a contender no fear this time no surrender i won't run and hide it once a contender a contender never gives up correct is usually the underdog correct right so i wrote that story to inspire people and that's why it's posted on my website on the front page you can download it for free so people would just listen to the words and know that there is this because i sing it to myself every now and then when i'm in a position where i'm not feeling unlist some of the bad inside voices are correct so how do you overcome those bad voices in terms of like my question is like how do you keep if motivation itself up has become a billion dollar industry you see it all over the internet you see self help books and it's one that's a widely read you know people really have to practice it and i have to say to myself i have to consciously disconnect from the moment and say stop telling yourself that that store you are good enough you can do this no matter what they present to you you can do this and it's practice because the bad voices creep in a my reinforcement that i'm prepared that i'm trying my best and that i'm a good person i have something to offer so many people i love what you say so many people have so much to offer correct and they don't know how to exist envying you the reason i the real reason i have to give credit to two young men they started a band called gray harvest and i met them and they heard about the book and read the book and one of them says we're going to a hospital for kids and they're also very sick we want you to come and play and i was afraid i was real but i knew because i'm the type of person wow for kids i need to do this but i was afraid and when they didn't they didn't know when they were going to go but when they called me i wasn't i was out of time but when they came back with their stories and they told me they played their songs and how the kids and it gave rattles and i said oh it's so powerful that was the real spark and then they used to come to the open mic night with me as well as my brother hirings always been a good friend and that's how it started again momentum and i joined toastmasters so  that you have to want to nobody can tell anybody until one in the end people do want it they just i would guarantee that most people want ninety nine percent of people want what's the price to get it you have to you have to be willing to take that step you know everybody's a parent you know everybody but most people are parents both people are mentors was people are friends you you have offered advice you make an impact on people's lives every day but there's a better bigger impact through the process of giving and that process of giving is like a cure all for so many people's problems the worst even even the worst problems that you may have there's somebody  and very lucky i am very lucky and it's followed me my whole life i'm fortunate person and my wife is a wonderful person my daughter is one of i couldn't have made a better woman to rus but can i do it it's are hard process i get out of bed and i'm like ok am i supposed to go do this is you know it's really a difficult question to answer other than i'm no different than anybody else i'm not  are people like you know because they're people they're like ok they listen to you does ok i understand he's lucky understand he's doing the well like what i do things that people do all the time that are something that people do to get what they want to somebody may want to solve so while i will answer the question i do want to set my comfort zone i do want to stay alone i don't want to be in my house reading all of them that's my comfort zone i was away i brought but i know that that's not going to accomplish the goal that i chose to i know that so it's not an easy road it's just belief in yourself and picking to go and going in if there's one thing i would tell people surround yourself with positive peace around to pass my one hundred how do you do  here's a gift my dad gave me i miss my dad very much is gone almost ten years he raised us english down option was part of him raising us we would go every day my brother  four children my older sister ellen my older brother harry which is close in age myself and my younger brother steve but harry and i were together when we go to englishtown auction and we'd sell trinkets like in an auction you know like one of the flea market arrangements and it taught us to interact a tortoise to speak we had to look people in the eye we had to speak so we knew that was a structure in a criteria when we're sitting on the plane next to somebody and we want to engage we want to learn because i believe everybody every time you meet somebody new is what i say to my wife it's like landing on an alien planet you know when i first said that my were a few said how could you say that i said not all the aliens exam so many questions how am i supposed to learn because you may answer this really simple question with something i never thought about or so i like to ask questions and stuff from being knows it's just about a thirst for adventure not  don't want to talk to them because if you didn't want to be rejected how would you have always to be for the way i've always approached people trying to give something to try to share something try to entertain imports some knowledge not just talk about me talk about something that would be a common bond it's it's no different than any sales where i was a corporate real estate broker which is basically a salesman and lie suit and tie and i still am in that industry but at the end of the day it's a function of importing something that they care about you find too many people want your comment to you in the just tell you everything about themselves and they never ask a question about you i ask a question why do you and i got off on this fantastic road to our friendship based our culture that needs to come back to me about are no different next to somebody be gracious be understanding that they have issues and problems no different than you so treat them like you want to be treated but graces there's a battle what do i say greed is a battle it's a three way battle between greed grace and have packer's that's that's the world war that's going on in my head it's like it's so much a parker see that we find in the media is so much greed and i want a better world for my daughter that's my board of ation for this and for everybody's kids and to be aware of how we're deciding to live nature is a very important part of our lives we need to be more aware of that and they putting it all together my wife has been incredible partner formatting and doing everything so it's all i had character illustrations all done everything's on the website and it's for young or it's but i try to write it for also in order audience to in the best was so for when people say i read it with my children and then they talk because you can read it and just read it for the story or you can read it and try to have a dialogue around