yeah and we really want to inspire our viewers to start thinking more strategically and specific like for two thousand and eighteen exactly yeah yeah yeah because you know i think throughout the year we get caught up in so many things and the most of those things are not about are with other people family right ever so rarely do we take time to say us we may say one or two hands and try to focus on it but i think for the light two point zero community and what we wanted to do in this show is to make people more aware about taking care of yourself your needs and setting goals  accomplishments for you so we did a couple of shows a see right on honoring yourself and it's not about saying oh forget about everybody else not me enough but understanding that you become a better person to everyone else when you keep filling up ourselves well so just where going to start off by giving people some some ideas of how we'll go through each of the nine pieces of the life we'll to give you more some more ideas on how they can be more specific or just to give you some tips on how you know how you can actually start a new riot and i'll explain the life will a little bit because for us i like to point out community it's about understanding that your life is a comp is includes many different areas read so what we've done is we've taken this life we'll and we'll we'll show that a little bit but to say that's if you're or kind of taken care and being mindful of all of the areas in a life will you have a better chance of just living a more fulfilling the furling lyeth and in the life we all you know you also have the ability to rate each area right you know from one to ten so you know if you're saying my life is great in terms of i don't i'll just say help well you may score nine ten there but in another area you may score two three so right there you score two three and maybe that's the one that you start working on first because it's going to be the sum of all it's going to lead to what we feel more fulfilling life balance balance like a little balance there in terms of you know different aspects of your life right now and sometimes we don't give attention to certain pieces of our li and you know it's it suffers right right with when we don't pay attention to certain releases of life so we will go through each piece and just briefly talk about it and then you know and then you guys can write your own pieces down and just you know it's just stuff like that decides it doesn't have to take you forever write it just it's just something for you to think about we feel that it's very important but helps you to really stay focused like so before we start that i want everybody to stop for a moment and think about this three most important things that you feel you want to accomplish in two thousand and eighteen now you may not have given this much thought obviously but the first three things that come to mind is probably what you have been really hoping to work on so i'll go with you first well we'll take turns ok so i'm going to say for me for two thousand and eight to one of the things i kind of that often on in my head throughout the year is i want to take time i love to read  but for me reading has been either or work whatever or the few times that i've had a chance to read like i have one particular author every time her book comes out i'll read it but it's like a mystery but i want to go beyond that i really want to read about others people in history people to understand how what led them to be so interesting yet you know how did they start from point a but now they're doing whatever reason life could be inspired by the life of other people that i feel have made you know great accomplishments or or just just kind of bound themselves in life and i don't know what their passion their purpose was in life and understand how they got there so that's one of the things that i like to do right for two thousand slating right so one of the things like if anybody else has that same goal one of the things that would be helpful is go to the bookstore or put on your christmas list to say these are the books that i really want to you know give myself don't don't buy ten books or you know you don't ever want to get at least two or three that and say ok this is what i'm going to start off with because you can always read get more like so my first the first thing that came to mind when i was writing this down is to expand my impact on people's lives in a positive  so what i mean by that is by the sayings that i help people to accomplish i want to do it in a bigger way than i am and i'm help more people than right so that that's one of of career with by with the life two point zero community for my generation for our generation i so many women are not thinking beyond them and if they're still  working you know that's great but you're not going to work forever right and we're going to live longer what are you going to what are your talents and skills that you can take for the second part of life and do something maybe it's think when when it's time for us to really officially go into what we call the new and retirement we save in one retirement because we're going to live longer we're not going to sit around and do things that our parents did right when they time to really be serious about rebuilding and i think a lot of people fall into this category of being more mindful of what your expenses are right what what you are purchasing how can you earn more i mean just just finances in general right but so figuring out how that's going to work i think is really import right and and also just writing it down you know just i feel when you write it down it has a greater impact right right like so so that's my second one and what's your third and my third i'm going to put it in the and one of the things is when we do get together and you know we talked a show about a ladies night out but because of their health issues i've talked to them a little bit more than what i would normally would write and i feel that i want to not just see them or talk to them over that every two weeks or three months whatever it is when we have our ladies night out but to get the distance to be more in touch with the pay it was simply just how are you doing and then i wan family because you know my kids are living their own lives right is great but i want to make sure that i have a little bit more time that you know let's go to dinner or plan or that we're more together as a family just for simple things you know like over the weekend we went we got our christmas tree so choose your tradition that my husband will have was doing forever but afterwards you hang of it so i just continue to improve that part of it and so i didn't have that as one of my top three the next one is one of my top three is my health because i feel that you know i had to go to the emergency room this this year and i've had a lot of family health things happen and also sudden death and it's really sort of hit home that really taking care of yourself and from a health perspective is so important because if i want to make a greater impact on people i need to be strong i need to have the energy like to do it right being more mindful of anything regarding health ok yes ok so now that we've got those you have three i have three and some of them overlap a little overlap yeah because some things you've already worked on and you're already feel like you're in a good place like i said your score is already high in that area so you're trying to get some other areas you know like back up and running so so we're going to go through the life we'll and we'll take each one of them and have a brief discussion on how to give you some more ideas health at the bottom of hell right so one of the things i love this app on my phone shows activity was so my goal is to at least start off with to to every day to at least get five thousand steps in my goal is to work up to ten thousand ok but there are times when in the wintertime they just want to run around the house because so and so that's one specific thing so for me in the area of health as you know a few years ago i joined weight watchers and i was really committed and i more yes but i started to creep back up and i have downloaded the weight watchers app right to my phone again i don't go to meetings because it's just i just don't have this but if i do know online and i do my point of really being committed now to go back on and make sure i'm tracking the way i should try to lose because it's about ten pounds i want it but once i lose it to maintain it correctly and that's the tracking you just said that that's so important right because i know a lot of us have this more smartphone and there is something that comes with it it's this little pair with a heart and it has an activity so i don't want to show you not many so it has activity just so i can actually see every day and i can go and see you know how i'm doing so so basically now if you have that as a goal you also need to have a trigger to make sure that you remember to do it ok so so you have to find what is that trigger so for example one of the one of the triggers that helps me and it's not really a trigger it's a connection point ok in my head the way i look at it so if i'm going to heat the kettle to have a cup of coffee which i probably have like three cups of coffee you know people will tell me and yeah i got back to you like two a week later ok so i mean that's something that not every text you have to get again right away but if that is one of your goals and it is somebody you know like have you could have a reminder on your phone which is really cool rock concert right i also want to say under that i know you said to me answer my text but remember i said i have made i want to make a point husband's work schedule is you know certain times of the year we've just said ok we're taking off usually aside from vacation we'll try to do it around our anniversary but i've been trying to make a point now before the season his busy season starts with taxes and everything that we take a weekend or so the beginning of january just to kind of go away and that and for me that would also fall under france because i just want to do a little bit more so i'm like you i do have books that i want to you know i'm every year i do get a a list a book so i already kind of do that and i you know i'm a morning person and i do my my personal growth because there are many areas that i will choose to grow in self development mostly self development that i work with or business to help me go and then fun and recreation is another one that's the other one on a life well and for fun and recreation if it's just you know it's not it's just knowing things you enjoy so fun and recreation could just be a movie you enjoy  those things we should also schedule right i don't i mean after we had lunch everybody said oh we need to do this again rather than just ended a year when writing just thinking like holiday mood so yeah those you do have to schedule but but f recreation could be just just little things you know yeah i love to go and have lunch by myself right right well you know or one of my favorite things is i love to go to longwood gardens you know that right and it's just so peaceful beautiful and they have different things seasonal things happening right throughout the year so it is a little bit of a hike for me but it's something that i enjoy and it's also reflection time or you can invite your friends and have a nice lunch there right you know exactly what you're doing something at the same time i'm catching up with your friends exactly so exact been our physical environment and we always include that as your home your home and grab because right now our home is a where the heart is so for us it's really making sure that your home is a place that is release you some stress yes it's a place that when you  walk in it it's something that you feel comfortable it's you know it yet come in your home your home putting a big all right saying rock i'm home right so for for for that so finally after how many years of me telling you serene i want and i yeah as we're in we do design together we're kind of starting to process of doing we doing some things in my house it could be dad it could be i would even say it could be if you're in a situation that is or an environment that just doesn't bring out the best in you you know yes i do you know aware of it and yeah yeah i to be more clashes how things make you feel you go there's a lot of times where very it's  right right but you don't know why i hate going in this room are whatever right and for me from my physical environment i really need to just clutter i have magazines coming out the was just like you know and and papers this but i couldn't find my gift and i thought i left it in the restaurant i called the restaurant i mean i'm searching for everything and the day that i brought it back at brought it home i had also gone shopping or buy some like just start with your desk something small and wondered of things that one say year and i don't have a specific time that i do it because when you're setting up your day start with small wins and the you know donate something really gifted just you know this is a thing with business books right you finish reading it you got all the stuff it's just going to kind of sit there and maybe you give it to another person that can learn something from it or whatever so we encourage you to do that so next time and the career right so for career could be many things some for some people it's like you know what this is the year i'm going to change jobs yes yes is the year i'm going to start my business this is the year i'm going to plan for what i'm going to do after i job one or whatever so prayer can be business as well right so it's career business right as some people are in business right and you know whatever that goal is for that and then if you're right there when and it could also be what how do i need how do i enhanced a skill yes and so under career it could be going back to school to enhance a talent skill learning new talent and skill and we also say for people who are you know maybe they're looking for their second act they can also be volunteering absolute find an organization that you know you it doesn't always have to be only you know something it's something that you enjoy or something that you completely believe you know like anything like that exactly yeah and then the last one is money finances right and i think the point that you made is which is i've been trying to do that and i think i want to try to be a little boy more committed to it is writing down yes what you spend you know i was so i did do pretty good about trying to figure out my budget yet i stick to the budget though and that's my problem yes right you know i know the budget i know what i should be and i think we all have that  you know we all right know this is the budget right and then low it right right now and then i also want to say again for generation for people who are you know in that baby boomer generation because we had a guest on one of  shows and i know i've certainly faced this when i was downsized at some point in our lives we're going to have a fixed income and  what i say i am not going to have and then i remember wanted to guess that we interviewed on finances and he said the first thing that he talks to people about when he's talking about financial play what do you want to do in retirement yeah so take the time now under money to figure out what i want to do later on in life and can i do i in effect yeah right and if i do that how do i do it and if i have a you know i'm already there that i can do it then you know that's great right but at least look being around where though any of the situations what is your truth about that situation like be brutally honest with yourself it's just yourself you know shared i would anybody how do you feel about i you know what's going to be your first step how can i determine if first step in this you know in this particular area i don't i don't just think about it without acting on right write it  right so how brave and willing are you to do it and how far are you willing to go to follow that dream her that goal right and you know at the end of the day you you should do some sort of review i feel like if you have your top three goals written in in several places right you write them down and you if you could see it right should be as many times as yeah your face yeah you'll remember that i had need to do that i need to do this even if you fall off right track it's easy because you have a reminder write write and use your phone to actually do reminders and there i have a reminder which i call my book and in a day it's at the at the beginning of the day i think around ten o'clock or eight o'clock i forget it it sends me a reminder to say who can i help today and at the end of the day at ten o'clock at night it says who did i help and how did i do it and i've been doing that for over two thousand days very good yet i'm impressed good i'm very impressed if it's just that that reminder that we need to use our phones to to really help our members write mark phones are smart yeah ways and i would say for our guests who you know you don't know where to start the life will is where you start absolute and you start by reading yourself one to ten ten being the highest in each area and then for those three areas maybe that you scored