welcome to the army b show up close and personal the unit here to take you through this musical dance we call life and to do that you know i bring on talented people in the area in the community to help us make it through and they give us tips to do all the kind of things you want to do today's guest is no stranger to the tri state area he is the velvet voice golden tone baritone gorgeous known as mr lover band he is the host of the quiet storm used to be kissin after dark oh my god i don't want to go into this any longer because he's just wonderful sitting here and we want to get into conversation but he's won all kinds of awards throughout his career he was named as the on here on air host of the year of the year period period all right he is a mentor he is a friend he's a budding author he's a budding writer he is mr than any green blessed yes  i got to twelve or thirteen there was a changing of the of the vocal tones but at that stage of the game i wasn't focused paid any close attention to radio singing as you ok so what did you take away from the small markets that helped you in the logic learning how to become a personality you know there's many different variations when you define d j you know some people just comalies say we're all it's not i'm a radio personality i don't i don't mix i would love to but i don't i don't mix at the moment but what i learned in the early stages was working and enhancing and developing my people skills because i'm an introvert shy guy and i don't fit for like there's thanks to face to face shy guys see you see me only when i'm in the moment like this is in the moment when i'm not in the moment when i have to do and when i when i don't have anything to  everything opposite of that rhymes and yeah very engaged in that but growing up it wasn't like that it was very much shy introvert so what radio did for me was allow me to break that mode and reach out to people talk to them get to know them and get comfortable you know in that in that in that element yeah it was the early stages the radio just as anything is hard it really is hard to get into it really is hard to survive i could tell you some horror stories i want to hear those another time but let me ask you this so you said it's hard when you're out of radio it's also hard to get back into why do you think that is because it's a trendy business but that doesn't succeed in anything great if you're passionate about it if you're a casual about it you get out what you put in and sometimes we put in a lie and we may not get a lot out of it and that and then we have to look at what other kind of works we put into the craft because faith without works is dead that's right so when i fell in this thing called radio i wanted to be in new york because i was born in brooklyn so you have been to your that was far from reality right after  you come to reality face to face moments i said well you know what this is a country our whole country so i started setting out by material to other radio stations and other markets and landed in a working part time at a radio syndication company as a production manager and just basically scheduling time for the studio for people to come in and use to kill me how they step that title on it would make it look like you do a whole lot more yeah just learned you learn you learn you learn and there was a purpose for that that's right because i love doing what you do and it's very odd for me to sit on the opposite side i know you know and i'm asking questions so this is an interesting three well remember the quiet storm we back in whatever day that was and i don't remember the different segments that you do so did you bring that to enhance the show to give it more longevity well your ideas yes others we don't touch base on some areas even if it doesn't pertain to us just to have a general knowledge of what you may think whatever i may think about it because you know as much as we shouldn't judge we are judgement about people here so for whatever reason why we don't  i'm that icebreaker i'm going to put the topics out there i'm going to hope that someone calls up to engage in conversation with me i'm going to hope that it's stimulating i'm going to hope that it's helpful to someone i hope that it brings awareness from someone i hope it engages conversations with you and the person that you're involved with or your perspective or broaden your perspective on whatever subject matter i'm dealing with so i'm hopeful that the confessions of love segment that i do want to show helps and it seems like people  there ever been any time where it's like really really rough really really rough conversation where it's gotten heated for any reason it gets heated when i when i feel that people have been taken advantage of and then the other side of me comes out because it's not scripted so i'm speaking from my heart and from my soul and from my feelings and i hate be honest which i hate when women are getting taken advantage of by hate when minutes are getting taken advantage of in bad situations and and sometimes you need a smack and sometimes you need some i just keep it real and i'm that keep it real do know where i'm just going to tell you or get out of that relationship i don't care what you're doing get out of it because it's toxic it's bring you down if you're thinking about you know suicidal thoughts it's time for you to leave and just don't worry about  school so i will use that as my first but during that college experience when i was just kind of like get my feet my toes they my feet my toes where i had the opportunities then to sit down with the people from the group you know what i'm doing or hopefully they embrace it yeah i want to deviate from what i have coming up next because i want to touch on this when we were watching everything franklin's you know and there was so many things happening now you know when the actual minister did  from a father's love i don't know about a physical father but i do know about heavenly father and i do know that i had the infrastructure of a strong family so you know i come from a strong infrastructure of dynamic strong women that have fortunately without the help and had to do it on their own and they didn't let the the they were in the fight they were weakened by the fact that they were had to do it on now there had to do it and they only just got out there and did i don't think he meant well thought about what he said but i want to hear other men's perspective which is why but that you know i said i can understand i would never do mean the intention of anyone you know because many women can do so many things far beyond what any man can do i said to my mom in her last days was that if i can be a strong man as much as you are a woman and she was an elderly woman at the time i would be a great man and i think you know if any man is really straight with themselves they will give women the props they truly deserve you know women have been warriors and fighters for a very very long time we've just seen a little bit of it in certain things but they you know women you women have stood up to the test of time to so many you know to so many obstacles and you still deal with obstacles i need another show for you to come back go through all this stuff i first got to the radio with that smoking mirror and i'm like what you mean to tell me not to i don't want to give them i know maybe i just can't tell you but anyway tell me really quickly in one word this is not ratified ok what do you think the talent today need ok is there a company that you are using to help other young artists do things i think i saw so yeah you did see something we train that at that time it was called high entertainment i used to manage figures bottoms up quite some time unfortunately sometimes when you start managing people you really managers are like grown up babysitters and that's not to demean any artist that might be looking at us right now but they do require a life because they're very creative people and the purpose of a manages to really structure and grow your your your career right by putting the right team around you by giving you where innocent direction where it could build you beyond the measure or create great opportunity and sometimes you know you get a winner and sometimes you get losers but what kind of i kind of took it a different way i started investing my money in people's careers and after you invest a lot of money in careers and you feel that their mentality is a  has shared with me and otis williams and the temptations and share with me it was like it was school and it was also required you could have a record without everything you had a kid you were required to be you it's extremely important you can do it by yourself how easy is it to find people to be in it very hard because you want people who are dedicated you want people who are focused and can see what people who can not only see the vision but give you creative ideas so you want to read i mean when you sit in the seat you're gifted with a talent but you need people to also be gifted in the area that they specialize in you have a team around you just working with this production or right here and this team right here is specialize in technique in presenting a show of this caliber so you want the right people who has where this you want new ideas and you want to keep it young too because you know what we all get old and when we get older you know when we get older we don't we get very stubborn in ou we think we might know it all and we do know quite a bit like we do right but we also have to be very sensitive and very open to the new minds to creativity that maybe they have a different perspective on how you mean to do things against what dr yeah dr might be you might like you may not but it's almost like if you don't try it you could be missed out of something if you do try it and don't like it or is uncomfortable for you to want to do it again do them work back up to them or do you dance i do i've never seen you dance anywhere cannot be me we are all out on individual cable ok but i would say study those in the in the path that you want to be and so if you're an actor or if you're a writer or if you want to be a radio personality stud