she's really good where can people track you down muscles in balance on facebook or on is to cram muscles in balance sheet you gotta go to follow her she gets the greatest pictures and we usually have one more person with us julie but she stays here in spirit so we miss you doing this yes so if this is your first time tuning into well you show kind of the idea of the show is to take the tools that used to teach people in the hospital the past twenty five years and bring them to people so you could avoid being in the hospital i think that makes sense and so this is the second part to something so you didn't see the first part and you're just catching this one the show before this was the second the first part and we are doing a program called world wellness quest for twenty eight and the idea is to have your best health and so what we're going to do today is the second part in our first part we did letting go what are the five most important things you need to let go of in order to have your best health so now we're working on the opposite grabbing hold and so that's where we're going to start just we're going to brainstorm cuz here's here's what i said to you kind of during our our break was that when you're just one person you only have what's in your head right but when you can get lots of people together you get lots of ideas so that's the goal of this because i'm sharing answers that i've kind of collected for years so just go it off for you or me in your head what are some things in twenty eighteen you need to make sure that you still grab hold of well i you know what i came to mind was grab hold of what i'm good at appreciating what i'm good at all from now you just have valid the yourself you know like that and i see that one for me too because i tend to minimize things and it gets in my might be thinking things and not expressing it but i'm impressed like with all the fact that you can get up and talk to people and help people and you know it doesn't make you nervous or write the books and you have they don't realize they have that's a special talent even just to present yeah yeah i think it you know it's kind of like saying yeah carole that but i think of my head too it's that i've done it for twenty five years so it's like i'm just taking what i've done for twenty five years up so so so listen so in other shows we've talked about how all my god the negative and so easily write we can think about the negatives in our lives or the things we got to get rid of the negatives but the positives are no harder and even as i was typing up my list i'm like oh i definitely had more on the negative let me say i gotta make sure of balance it out with the well let's go with not grab hold of not being a perfectionist oh yeah oh yeah so you're going to show you what serves me well cause you know mine was not perfection but no you're right way right way right way is i actually have grabbed hold of and continue house i wanted every last single leaf off my lawn and i would work myself i'd get so fresh i would work my butt off and now i'm happy to say good enough i think about i was just thinking about it the other day when i was doing lease saturday last saturday i was like remember when i used to have to rake get every little single last leave because it had to be done right way will that that just took me because you're talking about leaves and i was thinking about walking out my front door and you've been to my place so the i have a few acres so i was thinking you know that it's one of those things that i might have been feeling like had to like i have to have to write  have to make it look perfect but realizing letting go or that it's all oh oh i went back to letting go no but i think that that something that you have to grab hold of that in itself is yeah that really is perfectionism but i did have to have the lines in him but guess what they had to be done the right way but i think it is is it something for us to for some people to do it might be what they have to have in their life so grabbing hold of means you need it present in your life in order to have your best health is actually being able to let go of what you can't control yeah you know or or another word would be somebody on making sure that i keep doing is healthy food choices and i think that that for a lot of people you know yeah and i've gotten better but there are times when i kind of you know and i think i could take detours less often i'm not having to be perfection but i think it more mindful well i think it's more expensive to eat healthy and if you take this for more time consuming unless you have your own show yeah yeah yeah well time going to wean but also time in the you know what i have to get up that's i was going to say self esteem let's put it there yes i think i think the positive self esteem you know because it doesn't just show up we i mean because all of these things i think in order for things that i need to do for twenty eighteen and i mean i mean work real life we have life we think in life and work is is part of that and i think it is this is going to be my word this is my wor execute meaning that if kind of have a plane or an idea to do something yeah you actually follow through and do it and so for me i've had this dream of helping a lot more people and listen i'm on the five it is my last of my five year plan i gave myself so but i need your company more and more people i am yeah we are but i  and so it's it's how to take and you know what it is because we don't really good shows over the years yeah it's how do you get those to shows that we did in front of more people and the tools because it really comes down to tools this lady yesterday at the workshop i did i was explaining to her she's like what is america's wellness ambassador and i said well i have a michelangelo approach wellness i say you know michelangelo didn't he didn't sculpt david he says that he released david from the stone so he he wasn't responsible for david he just let him out well i think that we all have wellness inside of us and if you don't have the right tools yeah you know and so that that and i think and what i said to her interesting lee it we talk about you and i talk about this is our health care system used to give people the tools there was a time when doctors would sit down with their patients and talk to them about their diet what they needed but now they they don't have the time they aren't right larry so it's a soul you minimal are getting those tools and more and i know that because my dad was a doctor and i watched him as a young girl and i would see and he was way ahead of his time but it was you know nutrition exercise and to see people come in and in you know kind of for him to help educate them and them to make the changes but he probably spent more time with yeah oh yeah but the system doesn't allow people to do that even all right i'm going off on a tangent here but since we're talking about your best health i think this is important even that person who's newly diagnosed let's say with diabetes or pre is this thing called the stages of change so a person may not be in a place where they see that that's a problem for them and our health care system isn't designed saying listen i understand you may not think you need medication so let's you know let's work on this together and unfortunately i think having spent twenty five years in health care the it used to be a process it was a partnership and just a system that doesn't allow health care providers i don't care what level you know is if you are very limited in the time that you can spend with you know this is his home stuff it's not an happen and  make the simple one is follow through you know so and i think that's a good one for some people too because you might say ok i want to join a gym but i don't go that follow through is even if you go three times a week guess what you've done it even if it's for ten minutes go by i think that's what people have to hear more that it doesn't have to be or not happen yeah it doesn't have to be  perception of situations might be tainted to just be more open minded about oh that's good coming back to you know feeling good about myself it's not about me that they didn't get back to me or maybe you know that story is just something i made up my hand my perspective and it's not reality yeah well and and and you know that that sometimes is different in being open minded to me you know but it's also kind of being realistic and like you just said it i sent a letter off to somebody asking if they could confirm whether or not they received information and several weeks it gone by and i was like oh you know she didn't get it you know but then i was like oh maybe she's not there and she when she got back to me but thinking that we're going to get back to me well guess what she's all vacation and she's not checking the e mails on what let me ask you this in the last year or even the last two years what have been things you've been doing more of that you used to not do ok so i use just move like physically because put with the intensity our the purpose for exercise purposes now let's just say when i do you take the time the second half of the day fear i would describe what you just said it is feline feel ok what's around ok yeah if you stay in the moment being mindful in the moment and you're right yeah just not not yeah i know what the outside thing is but what's right here i wasn't doing that for yeah and that's so important i mean people think mindful is there's actually a very good youtube video you go to google hal responding well my word tool for react is release emotion and cause trouble to it when we react that's what it is we are releasing emotion and causing trouble yeah so yeah i think i'm getting better here are getting better but but that one still mine yeah that one still yours and the other thing that you used to do and i think it's still important that you keep doing is it goes along with that is setting limits yeah you know kind of with people not letting people take advantage of you yeah yeah like growing people within that school call point i said excuse me every time i come i'm waiting maybe an hour and that's ok so i just let it you know just set the limits weren't good for you so it's like ridiculous ha that's like i will give you the same you give me and here's my thing about that i will say i have patience you know and  tolerance but i once once they forgot me they completely like completely forgot that i was there so even one hour later and then i could have said something earlier but i think  it forty five minutes and then then the next time i went back so i rescheduled it and it was forty five minutes they were waiting yeah yeah and then she did dr was really apologetic and she says you know i'm sorry i had a new patient and he took  a lot longer had more medical history and i were going to health care reform ok but then i went back a third time and i was waiting half hour and a half hour i sit you know what i have another appointment i'm going to have to reschedule there's some it's a support system grab hold support system that's a tough one for me i because i'm not sure what that looks like yeah so that i don't wish list grab hold of a support system or or sometimes to do it we've got to create one you know if you don't have one and it's creating one i will say this to you i noticed interesting lee used to call me more often up any of those things any of those five things so it's what you need to have your best health in your life and i want to read a few more off of our list and again we'll have this for everybody i have exercise keeping doctor's appointments belief in myself taking action setting goals practicing self care being the sort of taking healthy risks keeping an open mind is pretty good we got quite a few mind setting limits saying no help from others got my good enough on here and asking for help and positive self lacking that lately and i was just crumbling and self esteem always and setting limits i have to keep working on setting limits i'm doing good but i'm still going to put up so what's your number one support i feel very somebody said to me it was on my table yesterday that because people don't want to hear you know the sadness they don't want to be around you you know she was talking about me we're talking about other situation but so then think that you know what if that's not your problem that's the other person's receiving it because that means don't have very good boundaries and just absorb other people stuff you know and to me that's what friends are for is to listen in to just you know and kind of give support and i think sometimes you get support you get guidance and you move in a direction in a different direction and it could be just like you said like you know like not taking it on there people put sad d wire yeah yeah so so 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