and god bless us with the new grandkids which one of them is two and a half years on the other one is all close to six months and i was thinking about how to talk about with that young man when i was so the young parents more likely which to have kids how to raise their children how to be able to speak the word of god over the their family over their children and today i choose the best person i ever have in our family it's  and to be part of this ministry seeing the result of getting souls for the kingdom of god because this is this is all about you know it is not only to have a family but also to reach the people which they need for helping for the  god and how you feel for two children already you have the second one came in the way and was two years apart right to your smart about the beginning you you know like every mom you know the first time have a child you know you know how to to act and how to operate around the kid and also how to pray for him yeah it's always a learning as the kids get older you learn newer things you learn more you you are able to start to put into practice what you learned before you had chileans and now it's a totally different level because you have two little ones especially the two and a half year old looks at your every move and copies everything you do and so you have to be a role model and not only in just telling your child to do something but you have to do it as well so it's not like you don't tell your child just be like the word of god tells you you have to practice what the word says so that your child copies you in a good way so it's definitely important to incorporate that as a parent even as a young parent if you know when when you have certain revelations from the word you can pass it on to your children very easily and you see the transformation that starts to happen in your family just from putting things into practice like praying for your children on a daily basis and laying hands on them and starting those great habits those great routines that i know that they will look back on and they will appreciate in life and it will it will it will ultimately it will help them that's what they heard a doctor the right path and when they are older they will not leave it actually we didn't discuss this before the show but you actually by mistake you said the word and you don't want to see the word to your kids or or to your husband i don't know what happens when i told him to wait until i got his sister ready because you're going to the park and he says i hate waiting and i looked at him and i said what do you say he said i hate to wait mommy and then i realize at that moment that he must have heard that from one of us because he doesn't he's not in school yet he's not around other children doesn't go to preschool and the cartoons or the the what he is allowed to watch is we monitor it well we have to really be careful what we say because even a word like that it's a it's a strong word and you don't want your two and a half year old to start saying i hate anything period except for maybe i hate sin but he's not old enough to know what that is  o yeah they definitely they pick it up so fast you have to be so careful and you know things in passing that you say that you don't even realize you say maybe i said one day you know i hate this food or i you know i hate this show and he picked up on that and from there so saying bad words those can afford the child before he give you give birth to a better point in the pregnancy your child starts to develop a hearing so they they recognize so when they're born they recognize the mother's voice in the father's voice or whoever they're around you know maybe the mother's not around but they recognize voices so it's even important when they're in the womb absolutely absolutely it is and even more so when their little ears he everything and it doesn't just start at two and a half or three starts you know if he can started to pick things up when he was a year old you know in the car what kind of music you listen to what programs you're playing in your home on a daily basis so it's it's you don't you see you stop thinking about yourself and you start thinking about what are my investing in this child what what have i given this child life today or have i given him something else because it's either one or the other it's it's not you know they're there it is black and white are you speaking the word of god constantly or are you kirstine are is your child hearing these terrible words coming out of your mouth but when they start saying that you tell them oh don't say that don't don't repeat after me it's not how it works they venture they will become you know that's a saying like mother like daughter and like mother like son so very important and many times when you you know you know if something is off limits it takes a while for them to learn that is not ok but the way that that we handle it in our family and i know so many other families do is we we have to calmly tell them because the the the path of you because you are son says because you will because i'll get our yes so we tell him don't jump on the couch don't jump on the bed you're going to get our ease and he you know but to to call your child to begin to speak negative over your child or to say you're a bad boy why did you do that you know that your children will start to develop those kind of habits when they hear that constantly they will be however you speak over them is what they will turn out to be that's why when i was reading from the first the first verse from private chapter eighteen verse twenty one it's mean what do you speak over your child that's way maybe somebody is watching this program and they have little kids and they get frustrated and this time when they don't know what you do because you know they do bad things which is normal you know breaking stuff in the house you come from work and you don't want to see this you know drawing the milk around the room or you know taking the bottle and going like this and the damn thing and you know that thing in the carpet and all this thing speaking words like what you say yes and that's why i you wish to know that things i mean when i was my kids were small and we learned that in the way later and i realize how important is to speak words over our children and i learned on the one that was like six seven eight years old and little by little i started to develop a vocabulary over themselves over me over my myself you know because many people they get upset of them some for saying you know  his life which he will believe what you say so he will believe if you say you are he's a good kid always will remember that word he will remember that word even if you do bad things said no i shall not and spirit life and spirit the words of jesus when we speak the word of a living god over our children we actually speak life over them including our simple words that saying things thinking about what is the concern oh say the consequent consequences later on of these words right and that's where you know i'm so glad you explain those things to the husband come from work you know in his tired and you know the kid doesn't understand that his style and he does that you know does two things you know do play with him what do you say to this to him what do you say to the kids in that home you  just say your limaye long i'm so tired i don't want to see you it's easy to do that especially when you or you or your spouse have worked long hours and you come home and you know you take a shower and you just want to unwind or you have dinner and you just kind of want to set there by with children it's very important to not only and i just i heard this the other day when i was driving on the radio there was  a lady from i believe she was from a ministry and she was speaking how when a child is young and they are asking for your attention and they are asking you question or answering you or trying to get your attention in some way or another when you don't make eye contact with your child they begin to they begin to develop characteristics of well i'm not that important there is direction that rejection exactly and they they begin to see that pattern happening especially if you know you're trying to make dinner or do or you're doing other things or trying to pay bills or or what not and they start to develop that that that low self esteem which you don't think at such a young age world is it means anything because they're not in school yet they don't socialize they don't have but that that eventually will grow inside of them as they get older so it's very important that when your child does come up to you or does say mommy mommy mommy and fear in the middle of something even if you're on the phone even when you're talking to someone is at your house or or face to face and later on you can teach them pay you know don't interrupt mommy when she's talking but when they're young you want to stop what you're doing then look at them and look at the in their eyes and say yes you know go ahead say it again because mommy didn't hear you and that's something that emanuel and i are working on right now and it's it's become something that we've seen easy kill when when he's starving for attention and we're talking or we're making dinner he'll be all of a sudden go because no one has heard him say is say mommy mommy mommy daddy daddy daddy so here all of a sudden go i want to say something and we really don't we don't want to get to that point you know we want to be able you have to invest in that child even if it's an hour even if it's t for minutes forty five minutes reading a book if it's not too late watching a couple programs with him that are are helpful for him that we are helping him grow  doing a puzzle with him they with our son he craves that time with his dad because his dad does work longer hours and when he gets that time all the sudden you'll see him and he'll just look at his dad he causes he calls daddy he says dad you he said it since he was a baby he'll go dead you i love you and he'll do you know he'll do a heart shape with this hand and that that those kind of interactions that his mind remembers and those those are the those are the moments that for him mean the world and even to us it's a very simple thing or or if he wants to help me in the kitchen he brings a store like he does at mom oman papa's house and he wants to help and i the feeling that a child gets when they're told no you're not old enough you're not big enough to get out of the kitchen you know you you're messing everything up all of a sudden you see the child retract get sad get upset and as with easy kill if we tell him no no you can't do that he all of a sudden goes like this gives a really sad face and he goes and he hides in a corner somewhere and that's his way of telling us i i felt unworthy at that moment i felt like like i was not worth your time and that's not something that we should ever ever experienced though yet into your children because they they are looking for that interaction from us all the time even in times that we're not even when i'm driving and he wants to tell me i just saw horsey to just keep driving and ignoring him tells him oh i'm not that important anymore and imagine what that so that so this is a two and a half when they're in high school and they experience rejection which we all will in life he will remember that at home his parents didn't do that to him and he will remember you know what i am a child of god i am blessed i am highly favored these are the things that he has learned throughout the years these are the things that have been prayed over him so he won't he will never look at his and himself and feel sorry for himself and say well yeah that's what my parents did all my life i should be used to it by now and sadly there are a lot of parents that that are are not taking this this time like you said between birth to five or six years old when they are the most impressionable they are the most vulnerable at this moment that you their learn how to have self confidence more how to be rejected and they'll take that with them those are very important the words for people to know that next week with the book about without so how to pray with our how important is to train your children and their i'd wait you know there are people right now which they call themselves christian and many times they say words to their kids like they wish to not say it later and they when a man was talking bad about another about another man he said take a pillow with feathers and put it all over town dogs feathers take those feathers and put it on them because the wind took them and implement push them away blew them away that's the same thing when we say words we cannot take a back but we have somebody which is a media which is jesus christ between us and the father and he can ask forgiveness we can ask the lord to forgive us and our so to cleans us from all our and i just this and even to explain to our children if they are growing up like five six seven maybe ten years or maybe twelve years old and they feel rejected all their life and many times you know you didn't have time as a parent to talk to him to give him what he needed in that time maybe you don't have the opportunity to turn around that time it's impossible to turn around but you can talk to your children right now and say you know what i i don't mistake nobody is that everybody would like to receive our monthly newsletter please call us at our toll free number eight eight six two two five seven eight eight or new mail us at john montoro at yahoo dot com you will be up to date on our