paranormal insights we're going to look at how you can heal the wounded child with it and we have a question from nina who wants to know about children and her future and we're going to take a look with sharon lee and spirit he is a certified hypnotherapist with a specialty in past life regression she also worked with spirit guides and other white light entities as a medical intuitive sense that as an award winning psychic of over twenty five years and he's the author of the international bestseller the quest to row joseph is also the recipient of the visionary award of excellence the idea that we have a child within a us and that that child can be wounded throughout its life time with us i think is very valid and i think that all of us feel at times our inner child usually hopefully through joy and excitement fascination curiosity but when the real really wounded it's often our inner child that takes the first reaction that's right our inner child limits itself and doesn't allow itself to come out and if you'll notice that people that get around kids for a small point of time they will allow that inner child the wounded part to settle down but the beauty the fun the magic of that inner child to come out because they give themselves permission that this is what they need to do and it feels that you know one of the exercises that we did when i was working in sam cruise as a cabin counselor one summer was going to college was we they wanted as a take all the kids in our cabin down to the creek side and what they said basically was we want you to guys to get wet and muddy and dirty and just really let these kids cut loose because they come from very strict upper class families with lots of money and we want them to have a real experience of mud and water and nature ad i got to tell you even though i was facilitating this for the kids i got so much out of that experience it was beautiful as an adult to play as a child that's right you gave yourself permission and you remembered what it was like to have  it's our inner child that feels pain the most and it's that inner child that needs and responds to love the quickest think of your inner child as part of you that remains fascinated interested in life this little person inside your psyche wants to run and play and laugh this little person trusts with their whole heart and sees the world as fresh and exciting author john bradshaw in his bestselling book homecoming reclaiming and healy your inner child says three things are striking about inner child war work the speed with which people change when they do this work the depth of the power and the creativity that results when the from the past are healed who wouldn't want to be healed from their past most of us still carry around winds from being a child when we are a child we are basically powerless to control or influence the world around us because of that we often suppress and hide the pain of certain events because we at that time of development just don't have the tools to process or deal with those life events but as adults we are able to process those events even if they curd a long time ago the first saying you'll want to do is develop an understanding of who your inner child is no childhood is perfect and it's impossible for all of your needs to be met when you have them by understanding the situation of your environment your parents and the time in which you were living as a child you'll be able to understand why you feel the way you do whether this is with a professional or with a trusted friend you also want to start looking at repeated life patterns these are cycles that continue again and again in your life you may notice that you always pick the same type of boyfriend or girlfriend and that even when you try these people in your life always turn out the same these kinds of patterns are often related to an inner wounding from early childhood this one is rather difficult for most people because it is also so necessary you must face your pain in order to heal from a pain you must first face it the pain is there to simply show you what part of yourself has not yet healed to do this try to visualize where you feel the pain in your body what color would you get it does it have a shape by identifying the pain you lessen its impact on your future life because you are an adult now you can become the loving parent to your inner child as a loving parent what would you tell this inner child about what they are feeling and thinking you'll it easier to do from this perspective people often talk to their best friend in a much more loving way than they'll talk to themselves how can you now be best friends to your inner child and l you can show compassion towards yourself would you give yourself the extra rest you need at this time how would you choose to talk to yourself knowing you are healing choose to be compassionate and understanding you know you are not perfect and that you are just learning like the rest of us show yourself true love and understanding give yourself a break and know that this journey is a long term commitment you are going to be with yourself for a long time so why not make it a lot of the journey laugh at your lessons but learn them and you'll find that your inner child will start to turn around and heal you therefore once you g yourself permission you were all and you didn't hold back that did all the kids participate but you had some that held back well we had one child who was from japan and he was raised to be clean all the time very very clean and so when he started to get muddy he's sort of crying and so the other kids were like you know how kids can be they were going to be mean to him for not participating but i told him i said you can't be mean to him and i pulled him into side and i said explain to me why you're crying and he goes we're not supposed to get dirty and i said that's ok would you be happy to watch the rest of us and he goes yes so he sat on a log and watched as and that for him was a growing experience well that helps and good for you for recognizing that and not making him let go of who he authentically is and actually letting him experience it vicariously because if you can't do it directly what and vicariously we watch t v shows so that we can laugh and enjoy other people situations and sometimes i watch a few shows i'm not even going to own up to but i feel so smart after i've watched them run has painful childhood memories some memories are tragic some are hurtful and some are humiliating and were in denial over some of the memories so why do adults find it difficult to let go of painful childhood memories the reason is very basic yet extremely powerful research has shown that memories reside within every cell of our body not just our brains our brain routinely prunes weeks inapt connections of an eventful memories kind of like self cleaning process however emotional memories form very strong snap tickle connections in our brains that's forming new neurological pathways when triggered the mind automatically travels down these pathways these pathways are further strengthened through guilt fear remorse dread and reliving the events over and over again in our mind and although that sounds like a permanent problem it's not there are methods to successfully neutralize the current negative feelings about painful childhood memories the approaches vary but the end goal is the same when a person has negative feelings about an event they're actually giving away their inner g to that previous situation their giving away their inner g more importantly it lowers their vibration once a person reaches a state of indifference or gratitude about an experience then they can move forward without pain as backwards as it sounds it's truly liberating to find gratitude for having that experience stay with me this is a difficult concept to wrap your brain around let's say that a person was bullied as a child perhaps even physically harmed forget the coulda woulda should is because those thoughts perpetuate the pain no one can negate the awfulness of the situation and the real pain that was inflicted what you can do is rotate your focus acknowledge that you lived through it your soul survived as a result you probably chose not only to avoid being a bully ass an adult but you also tend to quickly spot bullying and assist anyone else being bullied as an adult you're much more aware of your own children safety and well being if it's possible to find gratitude for the better person you've become as a result of the pain fully fit then you cross the finish line of healing unfortunately the bigger question is are you truly ready to let go of being a victim virtually everyone thinks that they want to heal and move on but what they really want to do is race the event from their childhood too often those memories especially tragic ones become part of the person's identity once you are absolutely ready to let go of being a victim the healing occurs rapidly and these things are important for our own healing and healing our inner child now i'm going to admit this you know when you're a spiritual person a lot of people don't want to admit they have the dark emotions you know the negative emotions but you know a couple of years ago i had a very personal wounding from someone who i felt with purpose and intent was trying to attack and hurt me had my inner child was and cried and didn't understand how someone could act this way at first you know the parent part of me wanted to get angry and defensive and maybe even punitive but it's healing that child that was honestly heard and treating that inner child as my best friend and talking to it and saying it's going to be all right try to let go of course it hurts let the hurt flow through you was for me actually a very helpful thing to start the healey because if we don't heal that inner child that little child will hang on to stuff for a long time share a very personal journey with you i had a traumatic childhood experience when i was seven years old i was molested by a stranger it was one incident that lasted about fifteen minutes yet i replayed it over and over in my head for at least seventeen years i thought it was my fault because i didn't scream or fight i gave away so much of my energy i was terrified of being alone until i was in high school as an older teen and into my twenty's i was even afraid to go the store by myself even after i was married after my first child was born a certain relative kept insisting on babysitting to allow my husband and i time for ourselves they and their spouse insisted that my daughter should stay the night on my daughter's first birthday i learned that one of those relatives was a child molester that's when i had my moment i suddenly realized how grateful i was to be the person who was molested had i not been molested i would have not been driven to protect my daughter and later my son from that relative i literally saying to god for letting me be the victim instead of my children i absolutely felt blessed i took back my energy raise my vibration and successfully protected my children from molestation the experience of being molested was horrible and i painfully gave way much of my energy for years now i could not be more grateful for having that experience i'm actually a better person for it and when i share my journey with other adult victims of childhood abuse it almost always provides them with their moment i sincerely hope by sharing my personal journey that it will help at least one person to hear you shared something i thought was just absolutely amazing because you really went through this wounding of your inner child but as a child i had your inner child all at the same time and i've known you for years now and you've come through it so beautifully thank you i want it i want to tell your so many people who are watching you right now really wondering how you did it you don't expect children to act or feel like adults as adults we learn to control our anger in order to be effective not only in the workplace but in the world as well we've all wanted to tell off our boss at one time or another but didn't because as adults we know better but the inner child has to be allowed to get angry really seen and understanding the anger of our inner to healing ourselves we should remember that it's ok to be angry as long as we don't encourage any car about in the release of that anger in fact it's downright healthy to let the anger out you may need to scream or shout or maybe even break things you know what time i broke an old set of dishes to releasing or another time i took off my shoe and i beat up a wooden stump you can't stay healthy if you keep anger bottled up inside and your inner child will never heal if anger remains vivid realizing that you were deeply wounded both in this world and spiritually and that those events had a life damaging consequences for you is a start releasing your anger let it flow back into the universe to be transformed into life bringing energy and you will be well on your way to healy your inner child i didn't do it well until my daughter's first birthday and i found out that this relative was a pedophile and that is when i realized i thank god and i switch from a victim ma and protector and that's why i said i literally got on my knees and thank god that it was me otherwise i would not have protected her the way she needed to be protected and from then on i was no longer a victim it doesn't hurt i don't allow myself to go there i look at the blessings and the gratitude i have now and getting on the road to knowing who your inner child is is actually maybe the first step into starting the healing process for yourself and a happier more integrated li now we go on location to see sharon lee and spiritual heal considerations judgments and and attitudes what it does its helps bring you more space it brings you up to present time so that you can make better decisions about life in general you can work on physical spiritual mental and emotional issues and all of the it's really cool and it can transform and change your life so how is it that you you do this with a client how does how does the process work good question there thirty two points on the head that relate to topics such as money control creativity body sexuality healing aging aging is a popular one how long would a fashion like this take normal sessions lasts between forty five minutes and two hours if the energy calls for it but normally we do a session for about an hour i make sure that you get a full session so what else can you tell us about this process this is not something i've worked with before so this will actually be access consciousness has been around for twenty years its founder is gary douglas you can find him on webinars it's actually kind of it's i would say it's a pretty advanced yourself out of limitation as it becomes a very very open and freeing process wonderful now if people wanted to get a hold of you and schedule a session with you how would they do that you can find me at sharon lee s h a r o and l even dr access consciousness dot com and all of my contact information is there but i'll tell you what it is now if you wanted to find me i'm we have a viewer question from nina who wants to know about children and her future i was just wondering if there are children not very happy to be able to look at this question for you i've asked your guides to come in and i've asked my gu to come in i prepare the cards and let's see what they have to say about this question and of course we're looking at are you going to be able to have more children in this life for you in this lifetime the first thing i want to tell you about this is that well you know it looks like this is going to take effort for you so it doesn't feel like easy or it just happens or it's a surprise it feels like it takes effort and work and study and science and all those things that sound a little bit boring when when you might want to be pregnant and have more children honestly i feel like even though you like the idea of having more children that there's also resistance to having more children also at this time you are very connected you're very connected to people you love people you love young people you're very passionate woman all those things are like absolutely great for you however at this time i would have to say that having more children to mean does not seem like a match for you now the doors open in the future i don't see it as a closed door or no children period that's it but at this time i see it more as as you should wait rather than rush ahead and have more children at this time the universe is going to put people around you it's going to put situations around you it's going to put family around you so there's going to be a lot of good feelings a of good connection here for you as you go forward it says be in balance look at your situation in balance i don't be making a hasty decision and here's kind of the odd kicker in my opinion because sometimes we'll ask our guides questions and the answer they give us is sometimes not in alignment with possibly a strict yes or no and this is why i'm saying this in preface is your outcome card is the moon and that says the outcome of this situation is not yet set the answer is in the shadows or not yet revealed so to me because of all the other cards present in your spread this would say to me that you've got to really decide first what it is what you want you know the doors open for you to have more kids if you choose but that your guides are saying from my interpretation that waiting a little bit for you is actually going to be a good thing i would focus more right now if i were you it is about reconnecting passionately passionately to my life and to the people in it and to the children that i actually would already have for you i hope that makes some sense for you if you get a chance take a breath and ask your guides to talk to you directly since the answer seems to be in shadow in the moon but it will be revealed coming up i believe  thank you for asking such a personal question the answer that i'm hearing and seeing from your guy is yes if you choose to be but they don't in there they're showing me that you will have many children around you in your personal and professional life it could be that yours is a home where a lot of children hang out and or it could be that you will work around children you have a nurturing personality and you make sure that children around you are taken care of i'm being shown that adoption and or foster children are also a possibility and one that you've already thought about if you're having difficulties conceiving your guides are saying to let go and trust god stop trying start allowing when you worry about something like conceiving you actually attract more difficulties because your thoughts are like a magnet focus on gratitude for your current life situation that will raise your vibration and a higher vibration attracts what you desire her idea of children makes me smile and when there's any woman asking about children you know maybe it's just genetic but i just respond with such warmth i know and as a psychic what you want to do is you want to give them the answer that they want to hear and we can't we have we have to ask our guides and their guides what is the answer and sometimes we're not given answers sometimes and quite vague another was i wasn't given a strong yes or no with this one it's going to take time it's kind of a maybe and it may be that fit additional children in her life aren't hers well you know i have to say to once again we do these readings different times different cities we don't even talk share or readings together until we get here in the studio right and that is obviously in my reading was i was getting to yeah i wasn't sure i cannot say absolutely this is going to happen because every time i ask because i have ok i've programmed no foot and neither one would go off or they would both go so i wasn't getting a concrete answer and it is funny because we do this on different days hundreds of miles apart and we come to the same conclusion each time which it's also nice for us to have valid is nice relegation so but i have to say that if you are a woman who wants a child and you're having trouble conceiving i've lived that with both of my pregnancies it took over a year with the first number two and a half with the second one but i can tell you really short personal story that when i was married having trouble conceiving we went to a doctor we got put on a schedule and same day my husband got orders to go overseas home yet so so much for our schedule so i'm taking my temperature you know to turn around when i obviously well he was gone for five days by the time i obviously did that for the first month i gave up in fifteen months and i said not definitely not this month i had no negative feelings he was gone and guess what i got pregnant once i let go back to answer your questions and address hypnosis dot com or even know me cindy at sea tracing hypnosis dot com you can find the show in the greater sacramento area on comcast challenge seventeen and into san francisco bay area you can find this program on comcast paranormal insights and be sure to watch our other show them that you can give it or you will find easy to use every day magic that make your life better exclusively on you tube where it only takes a moment to make magic and when you do be sure to click like and subscribe you're saying because your questions and the topics so we can share our paranormal insight and answers from beyond the ordinary