others the whole time you know when you're attending this conference so that will come with some better solutions and now i would like to invite my other speakers maybe you could sit here because would be after this would be we'll have a hundred seventy three as a probation officer in one thousand nine hundred three she was part of the committee that develop policies and procedures for the divisions first domestic violence unit known as the family assault supervision team for the acronym fast in september of one thousand nine hundred five she became the supervisor of the fast unit peggy was also a member of the mayor's domestic violence coordinating committee and the baltimore city domestic violence  review team she provided training to agents throughout the city of maryland was a frequent prison was a frequent presenter at domestic violence conferences and now the daughter t tonya received her master's in social work from the university of maryland in one in ninety five and has since become a recognized professional was more than twenty years of dedicated to services service in the field of domestic and getting violence prevention network against domestic violence and for her groundbreaking work of providing education to more than ten thousand baltimore city and county public and private school students the morning or afternoon or whatever time it is morning ok so we are continuing this conversation about domestic violence for following up on a really wonderful presentation and so today just to be really clear what we're going to be focusing on we have kind of three main objectives we want to briefly review the presentation that we actually did last year because i struggle with this how do we talk about domestic violence or intimate partner violence without really kind of covering some of the basic concepts so we're going to go over some things that we we address last year we're going to talk about the violence against women act which are keynote speaker referenced the reauthorization that just occurred a month ago and this is a significant bill particularly because there are significant protections for immigrant women as well as other populations but today for immigrant women this is much more important that we cover and then we're hoping to talk about the role of community members whether you are a citizen or a family member or friend it is important that we examine how we can be either  helpful or harmful to people who are victims of domestic violence and even to perpetrators of violence so hopefully we'll have some time to cover that as well so i'm actually going to turn this over to my mother i'm just going to warn her and everyone else i will jump in if i think it's necessary ok all right  what is domestic violence domestic violence is a pattern of behavior where one uses threats of actual physical sexual verbal emotional abuse economic abuse to gain on main how and control over one's intimate partner victim domestic violence does not discriminate against lines of race culture nationality gender sexual also have a nother power and control handout that we're going to have at the back of the room that is a immigrant power and control wheel and what's the express purpose of gaining any meaning power and control for that a few times today i only say this to people if you don't remember much of what i said that's absolutely fine but i'm asking you always remember this issue is about power and control people in various forms of abuse to have more power in their partner this is the exact opposite of relationships that are based on equality healthy relationships it is not about it is not about anger the the perpetrator will not go to his boss and beat him up but he will come home to his partner and ex exercise power and control over that partner that's the important part that we're trying to talk about so we have types of abuse degrading remarks you know your ugly your fat your stupid unwanted touching if you don't want to have sex with your partner tonight that's your prerogative if you are forced into it that's rape rape with holding intimacy infidelity prostitution diseases financial controlling the money i worked with a victim about ten years ago who has been changed their bank account and never told her that he has put all the money  his name changed her phone number she didn't know which one day someone said to her trying to call you and your numbers disconnected it been disconnected in his name for two t weeks and she never knew it charging credit wealth they're not not giving him an allowance refusing to let them work harassing them and controlling their resources so then you ask well why don't they just leave this is not that simple as it's been referenced before their economic these days there's fear there's fear of what the perpetrator will do to the children to the pets men have killed dogs and cats in front of the victims show them i can do this to you too can you think of how harle it would be to see your cat or your dog hanging from a tree in your backyard bus through the door and be are tough and strong and you know pack your stuff and just walk out really quickly i met this really incredible young woman years ago at morgan state university she was in right through the oddly she obviously she survived but this is a woman who didn't understand how dangerous it was for her to just leave she thought she could do this and be really bold and strong and i think maybe we need to define i'm so they've you also feel losing your custody of your children and you also fear losing faith so what we want to talk about today is immigrant women's experiences and this is very different because the the victim has is going to go through a lot more than that than a citizen so a perpetrator or a batterer will threaten to inform works under the table will not let her get job training or go to school well threaten to report her to ice to get her deported and these immigrant women need to know that they are resources available so that this does that happen and we will have some resources at the back of the room where you can go and find out what you can do if this is the case there is something piece i don't know if you guys know about that but that's a special visa for immigrant immigrant women who have been victims of crime who can apply for a visa and their partner's husbands they don't have to know anything about it  also threatening to withdraw their position petition to legalize her immigration status holding hiding or destroying important papers passports id cards health cards  destroying her only property from her country of origin lying about her immigration status writing to have family and whatever countries she's from and telling lies about her calling her a prostitute or a mail order bride alleging on the paper that she has a history of prostitution calling her racial names threatening to take the children away from the us threatening to report her children to ice  and then feeling to file papers to legalize her immigration status withdrawing or threatening to withdraw papers for her residency and isolating her from friends family or anyone who speaks her her language not allowing her to speak english in baltimore last year we've had three cases of ethiopian women who have had to seek shelter and to get legal services we were contacted from the house of ruth where turner used to work asking if we could find someone to speak to green your and it was a little bit of a challenge but we managed to and that victim is safe now away from her abuse and is is able has been able to start her life over there is a nother organization that told me that they had to ethiopian women they came to them for services i don't know what happened to them in the ethiopian community it is a secret it is not supposed to be a secret domestic violence is not a secret if you know someone that is going through it you need to ask certain questions you need to talk to them you need to know that you are there for them as a young lady said earlier call at nine one one if you hear something going on you don't have to give your name when you call and i want them close and you have your telephone number but you know you don't have to give your name because you can save someone's life ladies and gentleman domestic violence nice to be out in the open in your community you don't want to talk about it but you need to talk about it it results in death death and no one wants to see that happen no one wants to see the children that have been in a ballot relationship become abusers themselves or victims and of course children the effects on children are just overwhelming martin there has been not a significant amount of research that's been done on immigrant women and domestic violence but there are there's a little so just to kind of back up what my mother was just talking about there was a study that was conducted in two thousand i think it was about one hundred fifty four women who were ethiopian women scuse me oh i'm sorry sorry no no we don't need to move forward because i definitely want to address this two thousand survey seventy five percent of the women who responded to the survey said that they had a partner had never filed for their immigration status and that was a tactic that was used against them in their marriage we do know a study of one hundred fifty seven women sixty five percent of those women said that one of the clear tactics of abuse that they experience was there was always this threat that they would do something to get them deported whether it was do i'll just call them and let them know you need to be deported there was also another study if you could switch one less than twenty percent of battered women who had been a part of another study said that they were unlikely to call the police they did not see the police as a resource and these  were most of these women were those who said they were afraid that their immigration status would be jeopardized that if they called the police at to ask for help that they would identify themselves as someone who didn't have legal status here so you can see that that alone is an issue that will keep many women for from reaching out for help and that's significant which is why it is important for us to talk about if you could move on the violence against women act so this bill was actually introduced in one nine hundred ninety four and signed in to law by president bill clinton and this was principally designed to assist women who are victims of domestic violence stalking and sexual assault and this is a huge bill most domestic violence agencies around the country receive services funding to conduct services for victims and the bill has been amended several times over the  not be fully legal here so again what i'm trying to say is vaal wallow in the violence against women act exists to assist any woman regardless of her legal status here so this is a biggie if you can move on to the next one one more yes so knowledge is that there are particular vulnerabilities that are specific to immigrant women so someone who is in an abusive relationship regardless of their citizenship or their heritage or their ethnicity they will experience some typical forms of abuse but a woman who is an immigrant made experience more complexities and those are particularly related to cultural factors their own kind of cultural beliefs and views about relationships and marriage and children you know i've often met and i'm sure my mother is had the same experience women who have very strong views and values about what family is supposed to be like you if you are a mother your job is to keep the family together to keep your children with their father they're also very practical matters as well where do you live who do you go talk to if you don't have financial security how would you just get up and leave  some of the same things that we talked about a little while ago and that legal influences i think this is something besides the fact that you may not know who to reach out to to get legal assistance and aid the other thing i think is significant is oftentimes when i've talked to women from other countries if they come from a country where i do i say this without getting too controversial they felt like perhaps the police and the government have been particularly supportive of the average citizen reaching out to the police here sometime sounds really scary and dangerous so i just the sly after this kind of going to more of the specifics and let me say this again and we have copies of this power power point and we will make sure that they're out so everyone can have them so if you want to review them a little bit more on your own that's that's good because for rushing ok i think that's it except for the next one i want to see people's faces when you show th  line oh not that one so i came across this picture some months ago and here's the thing is it really funny domestic violence really funny i mean if that was your daughter or your wife or your sister in that picture i bet you could say this came in my e mail in february of two thousand and he laughed out condi went out and i sent a note to the person this sent it to my husband and sent it to me and i got in a lot of trouble for it but i told him he needed to go somewhere and take some training in domestic violence because this was not funny and this was not a happy valentine's day greeting so as you can see  my mother has been taken off a lot of the mailing list because sometimes people send things that they consider jokes we don't think they're that funny sometimes we didn't think this was particularly funny but this is a perfect opportunity for us to talk about when this kind of stuff happens do we minimize it do we see humor and do we think that this is really serious and that and do we need to you know intervene in some way  up a little