magic that's right i walk in your magic because we all have it right you just got to find it so we'll before we get started you know what you know what we do when the dr joyce show we take it down with three deep breaths are you ready in ha personal experience that we want to share and you guys have a lot of experience indeed together right and so tell me a little bit about how you got started ok so christine i'm out and coach training program and it was we got paired up in one of the very first classes that we had it was on the telephone and we just connected it was just one of those pages there magical thing you know and we just knew we became partners through the program and then we became very good friends and past that we said you know we really need to do something with us because we're both transformational and health coaches who have the same philosophy and we wanted to take it further so you guys with us than to me no mistakes we were even share the same birthday we were born under the w class right then how did we start we start so it's a really great story so about a year ago lauren they came together and said ok well you know what are we going to do what can we do to combine our offerings and really offer something of value so we did it rich we hosted a next day we came back we had our morning coffee and we said ok we have something here this really was something we have to go forward with so you had so you started the business and then you had a retreat  i gave birth to the business actually yes and we said what can we do more so we decided let's have a plot for to offer even a deeper broader scope of offerings around supporting women to unlock their magic so what does it mean to unlock it what does i mean i have my own definition but i want you to tell it love so that what what does unlock mean to you there are so many different answers to that and i think that the thing that that really comes down to when the thing that people understand is unlocking your magic is really becoming your own best friend and that's and that's what happens when you say that right everyone kind of how nice would that be to be able to count on yourself the way that you can count on your best friend and so many women do that for so many other people in their lives but not for ourselves we get to the bottom of our own priority list and we're lucky if we get scraps and it's backwards it's absolutely backwards and we find that when you unlock that magic and when you become your own best friend you actually have so much more to give to the world to give to your families to give to your ten says we have these competing priorities all the time right and as a motivational speaker is a television talk show hosts and i'm going to have a new radio program on coming so i always like to tell people you've got to put yourself first because when you do that it's not it's self care which is definitely a priority but you're able to take care of others better yes because you serve because you cannot serve from and you have to fill yourself first do you  frenzied life and you know i'll have busy lives we have obligations folks who are depending on us and you know all of it and it's all good you know in the mall there but at the same time we'd like to say when you unlock your magic you tap into a source or and you capacity that allows you to move through that with more ease with more trust with more confidence so no matter what is thrown at you no matter how many things you know you need to juggle and allan's you are in control  in control and it's change is what's happening but you know what the i get it and i hope the viewers get it but a lot of times that doesn't come sometimes you don't even in your lifetime you don't even get to reach unlocking your magic because you're so stressed out because you have so you feel like you're out of control right so but those sooner or really are a person understands that concept the better off they'll be going forward in their journey absolutely and the stress believe it or not is a choice is it it is the good bad and the ugly no i mean it can  robbed that's a good way to events but i was not strong as you mentioned i was not i my daughter was that we should have learned all these things yet but it's always a choice and when we trust ourselves and when we can look at the fact that one hundred percent in our lives we're one hundred percent we are here ok we're sitting here so we've gotten through every single thing that has ever been put in front of us we really take that in for a culture beliefs that are sort of you know deeply grooved in our brains through our experiences that families tell us to stay small stay quiet women women get this message that's why it happens that's why people get to that and they need to realize and say this monster i mean this is something that i say often so consciously and consciously and sometimes in the mirror every morning ok so what is worry yeah what is it ok worry is so bad emotion is an emotion that keeps you trying to protect yourself from a future event that hasn't even happened yet so it's almost like a waste of time it is  and your abilities it's the grasping and the manipulation that if you can control what's going to happen then i'll be ok right this is a huge huge paradigm shift if you make your happiness contentment joy dependent on outside events and circumstances oh my laces and things right your have a very hard life right right they need to look at internal right yes it's an inside job yet it's our job and so at the end of the stress and worry and everything are an inside job you have to say what's really going on right now what am i telling myself what is my you know sort of crazy reactive mind you know telling me and keeping me in this fear place right and what can you do right now right when what worrying it's anxiety about things that have not happened were never present right were not present and if you're in regret it means you're in the past and then how not hear them how are is right here and what's actually in front of you so when someone is having you know if your child is having a tantrum for the right forty fifth time don't think about the previous forty four times right because that's what we do that's how we get into that mode and we got to go again and don't project and saying well you know it must be because i was such a bad mom it must be because i didn't do the right thing we get caught up in our self limiting stories but we can't cry over spilt milk like we can't unscramble eggs we can't put the milk that already spilled on the floor back into the glass right now no worries or or or guilt is going to change the past or control the future and the only thing you can do is try to be there for your child right there in that moment what do they need right this second as this tantrum has happened and in order to be there and that's really part of we're talking about in order to be there you have to consciously make a decision to say ok i need to invite some calm and some stillness into my life i need to pay attention almost become the observer you know consciously right out of your mind right you know what's really running here be present be present to or be present and then all the time so women i asked the question why women and i want to ask it again why why not men women and men need this work right no question about that and i'm not going to say i haven't had many clients i have we focus on women because we are women and that has been our experience good our wives and mothers and daughters  people push back to do so what about the men and i say i say wholeheartedly the first thing this is a book for women because we have competing priorities every single day we wear these multiple ha am not dismissing the men i mean i'm an old lovely marriage yes i mean it's gone through ups and downs but i'm happy thirty years right so i feel as though women should take care of themselves and so then that way they can take care honest with you there is a feminine power that's you know intrinsically all about intuition it's your feminine divine it's it's the laws of nature really you know the yawns of the universe and magic is women all of us but it's also in the universe oh yeah right and it's really about getting in sync so and mostly women they try to fix themselves all the time especially in my world with the you know with the dieting i'm a problem to be solved i just got to find the next best thing they want to go away because as we've done is we've become women in a masculine world right we have become career oriented we have made it right we've gotten equality in a lot of what i mean not completely we know but in a lot of ways we've made great strides but we're  becoming masculine my taking on the traits of what's in the business world and what and everything is go go go rush rush rush proof achieve their own masculine energy associated and that's when you lose touch with who you really are which is part of nature which is part of the world which is the cycles and being able to slow down and then be able to tap into that intuition and be present yeah because the opposite of what i say wenzi is common stillness it's you know it's going within right and that is more in terms of a feminine and feminine energy is about ease and flow and trust and collaborate right it's not pushed and we've lost that as a society we've lost it everyone feels that that's what we have to live up to and it's just not true and if we want the ease in the flow back we need to be able to slow down and tap back all right how do we get started how do you start i'm warm just cool but the idea is these are practices and they're lifelong you know and they are transformative ok practicing with a conscious commitment to tap into the power of self awareness the power of self acceptance unconditional self love right so there is a there's many many practices to do this in terms of we learn to quiet that inner critic in our head we learn that when we accept all of ourselves and we always like to say the good the bad and the ugly guy you know yeah that's right right that we come into our power because nobody else then can hold that stuff against you and we're not some busy worrying about trying to be something the world told us to be you know whatever yeah yeah whatever right and we have this framework in there about twenty five or thirty points under each one of those points of light because it expands to each part of our lives so when we coach for example you know someone say well they might share an argument that they've been having  constantly comes over and over and over again or an unwanted habit or a self sabotaging behavior we will say ok well let's think about that let's look at rewrite your story that's point of line number and you have to do that and then like you said the word before pivot and when you pivot that means you're making a change for the better and it's all about you and not about some when else so can we go through these points their eight points of light so a lot the magic within they know it's behind you so it's the number one is discover the magic moment and what do you say to that magic moment is that present moment that we were just talking about with those within it's you hit the pause and you say what needs to happen now am i overreacting am i telling myself a story about what this means or can i just come back into myself and take three breaths and deal with what's happening you shift into that so lots of tools around how to trigger the relaxation response because that is when that part of our brain that we want driving the car isn't working and that's when you get out of reactive mode that's when it's not the knee jerk reaction th the self limiting beliefs through narratives and the stories that are negative inner critic tell us all the time and that we take on so it's trying to push to create a space and start to observe right what is really going on here and also about taking responsibility a lot of people feel that life has happened to them that they get can get into a very victim mentality this happened and i lay me on blaming and my life is so hard because of x y z if only she and he would do this if only he would do that only the job would look like this oh when you take responsibility for the fact that you have made choices that have gotten you where you are right you took the job you had the child you signed the child up for fourteen activities right away they that right you did the right thing you did right and so you have and you still have a choice you can say we're only doing x amount of activity that's right right and there is so you were always in choice and when you can recognize that that's how you do list truly honoring your whole self and slowing down and not thinking again inside that it's a selfish move that's right right because a lot of times when you do something for yourself yes you may say oh well i and that's the having the cup of tea and taking the bath and you nature and being quiet with yourself and really finding attention to your what's going on in your head and what's going on in your body do you include function you're not alone in this that's knowing that you have that energy you have that source and capacity that magic that's within us and also around you and knowing that the universe you know your bad back and it spreads too because people that love you and know you in are really your friends because we could talk about frenemies all day long but we're not going to go there because that's a negative but you will see you shift as you shift a shift to know right away because they have no choice but to shift when you change the dance with dance has to change right number six is own your creativity so what if we were just decide that we are the creators of our life we are the conscious creators of every experience that we are having i'm thinking wow that's pretty powerful look at what you created this exact your radio and it all starts with a thought everything in this room everything that's happened in our life everything on this planet starts with a thought this cup dr joy started with someone had to have a thought to make this come yeah right that's true that's how powerful we are and we forget that we forget that we are creating all the time so what do you want to create so it's eliminating fear too right you don't lose and we like to talk not as much about the fear part but about the trust part we've got to trust we've got to trust that the universe has our back and that no matter what happens it is for our highest good it is for our learning and  growth and you are winner you learn you win or you learn the learning i mean how many people say that at the time it was the worst thing that ever happened to them but when they look back on it they recognize it was actually the best thing that ever happened to them not to show it my and you know i've had so many  right and it launched me into instead of fear worry and contraction it launched me into expansion the instead it helped me get clarity on what i wanted to create where can people get your book on amazon or on my website your delicious dot com yes so this was a launching pad into this and it just keeps getting better right right and she paired into a sixty pound weight loss exactly holistic and her rear end eating a business partner which i have to be honest with you you know so many folks in right and if you can think it you can have it and it is in our power to have whatever we believe that we can have right and believe is the key word right and because of all the limiting beliefs that we have are so many people who say well that's for someone else right like i can't manifest that i can't have that in my life but that's how we limit ourselves the only limitation is us and again that is what we have to you know be gentle because it's kind of like  i conscious creator of my life i get to choose what i you know how i feel even right honestly it's the meaning that we make of things that's perception and that conjure your desires probably ties into when you go to bed you're grateful for all the things that have happened so the gratitude is a lot of it right gratitude is huge and you want to go out you know so many people go to bed worried about their next days to write and they can't fall asleep right when you go to bad you should be thinking of what you want what do i want i want to be sought after famous on the on television right helping as many women as possible that's right those are the things you know i want to be healthy i want to be wealthy i want all of these things that are the positive as opposed to the worry of you know worrying is is really asking for what you don't want yeah and but the universe cannot discern between don't and do you know that you have to put it out there and there again i meant a get it again and i actually feel it was in your whole self that's about helping people get out of their own way yeah and it all starts with a mindset change so whether you want more have better health of better relationships more financial prosperity you have to start here that's right and believe it and internally embrace it and wake up every morning maybe even know it and know it right yeah i think all our beliefs came from us learning something but when you know something right it's have this is in every human being on the face of the earth dr joe you're going to have a new radio show right so back in our day there's still a dial it's not like i'm not digital yet right but i like to read you know a line is two there's many radio station right  we tend to get stuck in one yes but the truth of the matter is there's a whole band you know we can make ourselves open and receptive to so that's what unlocking a magical it's can you understand that there is so much more than you've been led to believe that if you want things to get easier in your life it's a ready done right you ready have everything you need within you to start chasing everything you need to go after what you want a couple questions before we wrap up number one how long does this process take and yeah you'll you'll come back and and you'll be on the radio show make sure i mentioned yes making money that's a good until then unlock your magic because you have the power to do so it's all inside until next time be blessed stay healthy