uplifting power of color and design and also as you all know bringing in other experts in different fields that help support a person as they transition from we to me so it could be divorce loss of a spouse empty nest syndrome relocation retirement whatever it is we all go through transitions in our life getting married again whatever it is we all need help it takes a village ok to quote hillary clinton  have known rand well we're trying to figure out fifteen years now and i'm going to let randy introduce herself as well and tell you where she's located and then we're going to talk about how we met so random tell everybody where you are how to find you and then we'll talk about our story together our journey hello i am in millburn new jersey i've been there over twenty years i grew up in the business my my dad was not because i was from my mom's side and then my brother took it up as a hobby because all his friends and then through him my older brother and i started helping while i was in college and i loved it you know i got out a customer service i love people i love making a difference in people's lives you know just seeing how their eyes light up you know it started out just selling and little by little you realize  sacrifice with the cad cam and and you know having the jeweler to do exactly what i want i want all the way to well i love about you is well first of all i want to just talk about real quick how we met which was so funny i moved into melbourne your urine over and over twenty years we figured out before the cameras started rolling that we know each other fifteen years and i remember now how i met you exactly i was trying to recall but i'd gone to another juror around the corner a town  not very creative you know right here i am an artist a colorful person very sweet guy and anyone had they were doing some construction in front of a store and i could get there was can find parking and like and i park and walk around and there categories what's cool about you is often times after divorce you know you have even if you just have your engagement ring whatever you have left it may be beautiful it may be valuable may not even be beautiful but it wi comes attached to a matter of motion some good some bad some good some bad either way very emotional and you probably don't want it in the form that it's in and so what you what you do so well is that you repurpose people's jury they come in after a divorce and they bring in the engagement ring and you make it into a gorgeous necklace or but you know you know look you'll sit with them and they'll bring what i love about you is you bring a picture on what you're showing you like exactly and that's what's so cool is that most like you know most jewelers can't i mean i've seen people i've been in your store where people have literally pulled something out of the magazine i pull gauri or something you know like grand i want this and you're like oh ok what do you have show me what you have let's see all the stones you take them all out your you or your arrange them in front of the person you have the cat you have the person that does the cad drawings you know it's just such a it's just such a cool way to not just sell off your jewelry you know and you know there's the value of it also if you have children you know what one of the times especially with diamonds you want to keep them in the family yeah and a lot of times they're also passed on said you took something so ugly and you made it so beautiful and that was like is a man isn't that the best thing that i actually asked like when she looked at it she smiled yeah it really made all the difference is dead it did it so it's so so important to be able to that to be able to have someone as townsend as you are to be able to transform something or even be a copycat like sometimes people the bra i want this exactly but you also come up with your own original designs i have one of your not courses that we repurpose remember we hold a part a bunch of my stuff and i came out riley's yes i mean that was really cool and i think people need to know that just because they've transitioned out of something that might have not been pleasant or the really sad and they're left with this piece of jewelry that it can be completely new and fresh and with good memories it doesn't have to are your memories and you know i've had people come in who you know birthday and wanted to make sure that you know each one would have it for the day and she made it all the way through to the last one's eighteenth birthday she did not know that she was gone and actually like that i think of like that month honored to be part of that the person chosen to do that yes i trust it's not just about the fact that you can design in your talented and you could copy something even but you could come up with your own stuff and be so talented to do that but the most important thing as trust yes ok you give someone a diamond you give anyone a diamond to like take apart something that you've had how do you know what you're going to get how do you know they're not going to they're not going to give you something that you didn't give them and they're going to repeat it does happen but i know there's a lot of a lot of people in all businesses and this honest people know what business is unfortunately jewelry is one of the areas that you know it's know the other point is when you're talking about people trusting you not only that they're trusting you with their jewelry but like when they're going through a difficult time with divorce or an illness or the fact that they can trust you that they can share in their feelings and their pain and they're like the bartender like the car you know what kind of in they are newly married and then they come or they're just married and then all of a sudden there's a gift for their daughter's mitzvah or they're now a gift for their daughter in law to be like you have people from all of those different journey that journey from here to here to here i think of wendy our friend when d s yes you know she was just ten her mr riley was a little girl she got married now she has a baby you know you assets with them yeah and you know you feel so privileged to be you know part like the part of the family you know whether they have a happy occasion a sad occasion you know whether there's a loss in the family or you know you're part of that know you know you don't realize what a jeweler is to a family that somebody can call and say you know i need something done you know what they will do anything for you it is germany that you trust and have that relationship know it is very very true i've left things with you over the fifteen years i never thought about it twice never thought about oh my gosh i've left things with you that i forgot i left with you and you're going jodi i think we have hearings here that's really funny but that really doesn't it's a new president with it's all good you know it is all good and it is interesting how the mount of trust is so important like when well for me i journey journey of different times in my life that you would hear and not just me but like you said before it's really important to be able to have a confident and i think that if you're going to trust somebody with a piece of jewelry that's five thousand dollars ten thousand dollars forty thousand dollars you sure as hell can tell them about your life and i think that's what people how people see you all part of that you know there are other jewelers in town we want to mention there's plenty that i'm doing was admire wouldn't tell them anything you know that anything because i don't have that trust we laid unship i also there's a loyalty that comes with as the as the client i feel loyal to you like why we're also what i go i would i wouldn't want to go anywhere else and i would in you know your expertise helped guide me to make the right choice i did not know that and i really do you know that's what it's that's why you go to a professional you go to someone that you know this is what that it makes all the difference in the world and that's why i want to stress that you people up there that you know if you're going through a divorce and you have post of or story and you have valuable stuff that you just want to gag when you look at it or it makes you feel really sad and i'm not just saying i'm really going to be specific i'm just saying find a jury you trust and let them repurpose i'm saying go to random go to be dazzled in millburn new jersey because i have fifteen years you're my friend and you didn't start off my friend you start off as a my friend and you don't just you don't you don't just give trust people with thousands of dollars worth of things if you don't if you don't feel comfortable and then the the beauty the beautiful part of it was i even was you know when i was going through my divorce was a very difficult time and i remember going in with you to you with all of my jewelry that i've got i had and i said i want any of you and it wasn't even worth telling you guys out there wasn't even worth redesigning in the sense that it was just a bunch of little stuff and you know you did for me and i still i have everything you go how about we just scoop it all up figure out what it's worth and pick something out of the case so you only starting fresh belloc what about miley yes i know what the sheriff they  i got eighteen of them and i wear them because i love and i wear them all the time and that was like already the start of an instant memory then i got rid of my mind agent ring with you i trusted you to do that then because you didn't want any part of i didn't want  of purpose it wouldn't be worth that's what i love about you you're like jody for what the stones are now worth because some of them are crap and for what you'd pay to have it repurpose is not worth it why don't i just try to sell it as you know you always try to get price the  why redo something or that's not going to work it's not going to be what your expectations are going to be and then when you're starting totally from scratch ok i have two examples a case so i wore well i always wear this this is an iranian repurposed ok all right everybody listen i love this this is what you can tell them what you did but this beautiful cough that i have with this this diamond the center we're going to do this for me and what happened was harry and i went into randy and i had it was a ring originally this was a beautiful ring but you know what it was one of my one of the birthday presents i got for myself for my birthday when i was here because my i was really designed a birthday gift so i bought it for myself and you know what after the divorce i was well i love the ring but i hated the ring this was your idea and you know very simple it was so simple and i love cuffs randall you know that and you said how about we take the top of the ring off and put it into this cuff i wear all and it's beautiful out of it all might my taste tends to be a little less of winner simpler very very clearly and it's more it's timeless it's elegant you know one of us will never go out of style a little it's nice about working with you and being your friend is that it's unique nobody i haven't seen too many more exciting for me and with you and sharing this with you is that i recently got engaged and of course i had to design my own ring quarter and of course when i decided how to design my own ring aside you had to design it with me and i started sending you the photos and here's the thing about random ok so my fiance who i whom i adore doesn't know random and he said you design your ring but i'm going to go to a bunch of different jewelers this is was such a great story and i go to make it and then i thought you know what let me go to do what he's comfortable yeah but i know i'm like a lot of go he's going to go see that he's not first of all i sketched out what i want it i was sending you pictures you were working on the brain without getting paid not even knowing if you were getting this right to do you still worked on it and we tweak this was a special case well i know i'm not saying come to she doesn't work for free what i'm saying is you you know because you're such a great person you  to look out for me would be to go to her because you won't get the quality of diamonds you won't get the workmanship and she no one will understand my vision because what's going to happen is my vision is going to mend meld with yours and we ended up vining visions we because some of the things i wanted to do here's my ring of god regular go up close and so gorgeous so what is hands up happening he goes to six places with all the sketches that you did with the that what everything's platinum this is they think everything people first of all like their dream and get it half of them didn't get it the pricing was stupid and you and i both know that the quality of this diamond i would never had and he would have paid it is beautiful he would paid more money but he had to come to his own full circle and me saying you know what don't worry about potentially ruin a friendship it's not best part of it is that i got to get to share it with you fifteen years friendship fifteen years of sending people into your your beautiful store knowing that you're you would never rip them off they will always tell them the truth that you give them beautiful quality work you can't make that stuff up you know if i sell it's a relationship that you have with someone in flaunt terms you know i'm not there just for the one time sale or you know doing one piece it's a long term relationship we go through the process is going to be different times where you need different things than where they're yeah you're always there and you're always there to listen and you're always there to hear people's happy news and the sad news and you're such a kind and sympathetic person you're one of the nicest people i i know in my life i that it's fifteen years and has a great friendship and you've been with me through thick and then you know you know it's i've enjoyed the ride you know it's really nice chapter in your life and if you have an unhappy chapter it's about recreating a new happy one that's what i did i went from you know sad to glad and then starting from scratch and something that i know i like that but i do that or you can use it you can use that you can use all of it but it is true it is it is really about moving forward in the same with your space you know your space doesn't have to be sad it can also be glad make it happy can make you happy with who for friend or anything anything anything it's just it's about what feels good for colors really set the mood they do they really set a mood and the placement of things whether you're placing a diamond or are stored in just the right place  the memory you know what it is they absorb worth what you get attached to it right it's the feeling it's the emotion you know it's so true it's so true so everything and i say this with my clients as emotional baggage and when i do someone's house and i bring in stuff i say to them this cheer that you love so much is this from your marital home this is a happy memory or not you may not want to bring in your marital away i brought you her reign it was to start fires in the diamond ring was so ugly but it was her and we made a you put it in the middle of the necklace that we designed that was her stone so it's a silly with your space it's the same thing with your jury it's the same thing with any of your possessions all of our possessions either have a happy positive impact or attachment with them or a negative impact that drags us down and we have to figure out you help figure out how to make people feel happy with their valuables and i help people feel happy in their space same thing same business it is also a pain and you know what way is you can take the same space and change it yes you know yes and you can take the same jewelry and change it that was my old ring so it's not exactly the same principle you know we're so lucky to be part of that change in people's lives making and i'll smile i like like that like that gentleman that came in wayne's was that way who gave you all those big hugs what was his name my god forgot i have here we hadn't seen you in five years and again you and remembering everything you've done i'm blanking its ok plan to get us nash nash came in what does that say about that's why into a jewelry store it's not a jewelry store or do we boutique it's an experience that you give people experience that they come to me to help them through transition whatever it is is an experience that should be pleasant and that's how it should be  is kind of cool i had to do it i'm like oh my god oh my god look at this so anyway thank you everybody jody toeplitz read to me divorce the core warehouse become the home and you can find me we did me dot com w e the number two emmy dot com nine seven three nine eight five four three eight six and if you forgot randy's information you can get her through me as well thank you so much i rethink your mind