there anyway what we what we're going to do today is we are going to introduce a fashion show which i happen which happened about six months ago and has been a while but it's great it was great it was a great night and we had beauty queens and fashion models and a group with us and then we had a party a birthday party as i turned fifty but it was a great night and what was so great about that night was i felt was just the overall  and we will be right back and i do want to say a big shout out to now what was it the miss amazing miss miss amazing contest which i think is a national i think as national for women with disabilities and the program started actually about twenty two years ago and we started it in ohio just as a state program and for many years we just did miss wiltshire ohio and the program grew we started having ladies from other states come and they were like hey we want to enter we want to be part of the program and they lived in kentucky and pennsylvania said well you know that would be really strange if you want us what's your ohio and you we work so we kind of wrestled with that idea for a couple of years and then decided we would do a national program so we did one national program and went ok we need to stop and rethink this whole thing  we took a couple years off and really restructured and thought you know having twenty women with disabilities coming from all over the country for ten days accommodations medical needs transportation all of those things that go with  accommodating a group of ladies with disabilities in a strange town that they're not used to and without their medical supports and things like that was a lot more than we had really thought about right off the bat and  o years back and went ok wait a minute we need to rethink this and doubled our capacity for volunteers and supports and and then restarted and we've been going strong ever sent wonderful i think that's great now as i when i was in college that was how i actually helped pay for my college education i participated in the miss america program and was very fortunate to win quite a bit that money i paid for about three years of my college education through the miss america program so i did have a background in pageantry from that those years in college and so when i had the opportunity to participate in my professional career we were developing programs to uniquely talk about individuals with disabilities and their abilities and in one of our brainstorming sessions it came out that i had a background in pageantry and someone that hey why don't we do a pageant for ladies with disabilities and i was like yes we could do that that would be so awesome we don't have a beauty category there is no beauty scoring that's not part of what we're talking about but we do certainly have any anywhere ladies like to buy working very very hard to win and so you know some people don't necessarily go about it the right way so so we've had a few but better than most we also are very proud of the fact that hey these ladies when they call each other pageant sisters and you know that hokey pageant thing but you know we've been to each other's weddings and funerals and family with family things and left and prayed together and shared good things and bad things to do so yes there is that there is a pageant family and people are very supportive of these ladies or are using this program to promote things that are very important to them when you're the their education or their platform and so they're very serious about what they're end of the day that this is what this show was really are absolutely absolutely now you were very lucky and we were all lucky but you were lucky because the upcoming guest the you are good friends of yours and i have zero policy which probably is one of the reasons why and up there pretty and i am currently also a part of a dance organization called born dancing who works ninety hour internship within the community property we work with anyone from kuni to the bronx who enter lol you know shops around the area clothing stores movie theaters stuff like numerous questions about their likes and dislikes their disability comes into play a lot because if they can't be outside we have to kind of negotiate on and they will have them inside indoors you know disability they can't be in cold weather or heart climates and so we have to figure that out first and which cry our best one hundred percent for our best to put them in a place that they actually would enjoy and they actually want to see themselves and in the future that is not always  guaranteed but we try our best for example i had a kid who told me i want to be working for gucci and i said i'm sorry but i don't know if we can get you to show us what we're going to drive us to put you in some sort of retail and it took us a honest i reached out to a friend months prior and i asked and his name  so he is in the dancing world and i obviously want to get involved in some capacity and i contacted him months prior to entering born dancing thought i need and want to do something i want to do dance i want to do something is there any way that you can get me in contact with some new people and he said there's nothing out right now but when i find trigger something else i  will you know put your name in there and ironically i broke up with my boyfriend i was going to really really difficult time and he moved in and said i got you a gig yeah and they like to say why are you s she didn't professionally for a very long time and one day and i remember the story very vividly she told us the story about being on the train station and seeing i think i think some more that's a disability and she wondered where people with disabilities would be and went and decided that maybe they didn't have a place to go and she wanted to give them a place to go and that is where bornemann thing came from it's just the slogan is where are absolutely and this interview is his messages are very very strong i really did appreciate his interview so enjoy i know craziest thing was that the hours because the after hours was more more like an explicit people don't think that disabled people have sex lives and you know there was so amazing to hear some people say oh you guys  but then when it comes to being disabled nobody sees them or to see disabled people someone is playing us is nobody is actually disabled so like so it kind of the face the purpose because you're playing something that you don't know nothing about so like i've really discussed to be honest i was thinking about you know maybe one day i was doing like some type of real world or something you know to reality show definitely you would definitely have because this world is not easy but the we all have the proper tools he has all blessed us with the tools to get by it's all about how we apply ourselves and just  do appreciate his messages and just the overall passion he said he has for life literally and the appreciation for being a father