right yeah yeah so like so scared like i remember when we had how we couldn't answer the door and they were scared of the kids coming because we didn't they didn't understand why it's a different culture there's always different fear factors of spin and i other people towns that's a fear factor and they're afraid and that's the difference between making i think i would have my own kids and house i was brought up with that i wouldn't be as fearful and i would be a little bit more understanding and i would be a little bit more open different i completely agree with having those when we were growing up there weren't a lot of families to give new families so you're already kind of set apart because you have a different name and your parents maybe aren't always at school functions and so kind of it makes it's another reason why they're not as social with their students and it does kind of affect you know you socialize in groups just from a young age just not be as flexible or billable community your kid you have to be more quiet but if your girl in you know in school you need to tell me you know you can say look at me the right color look at those i look at bad they're more encouraging than that i never i knew that  parties wanting to go to when your parents telling you you can't that was very frustrating for me but i was very grateful that i grew up in seattle and there were kids like me who are grown up here and whose parents and i was talking with my cousins who were there where they went in and they don't have that kind of ethiopian community so bad that can be very isolating because you know at home it's when culture and everywhere else it's not your own kind of crap going to walk that of that you can cross the bridges as far as the differences and work together but you know looks like it's a culture an app for that as well i felt in high school like my own species like more schools where the communities were worse the difference between people that just came and people i grew up with i gravitated to people grow up with but some of the people i grew up with weren't really good kids so i felt like i was bad growing up because i couldn't find my space and i had to feel what i can feel like i can be accepted in some small shape or form and it's it was it was always tough because i would have to find different outlets for this type of emotions like still feeling isolated even by my own culture and sometimes i still feel back today like it's you know it's the people that think just because i speak english predominantly that means i don't care about my culture and them respect my culture but who have time to pick up a second language i don't anybody i'm just saying and i think it's that that's the difficult part we have to understand a form of like she said if we have a community where we're all accepted and a common goal yeah definitely we're going to come together but out there it's all different and i lived in different states and i've also experienced the same things by i don't i don't see how we never not going to come together we do come together and we have to see that everybody still respects their cultural cardless them what they do or how many people get type of people they hang out with but there still are deep roots that i have to stay in tune with because we have different backgrounds we cannot expect to will be associated with americans understand that we have the same background as them they have different history and if we think we can understand just cause we add to walk and tape that we could really sit down and say no we're not the same we're not the same we're different but it's different in a good way different meaning respecting our own roots in our own culture and bringing that everywhere we go because we're going to be setting the example beginning all the people are