welcome to new connection where you can tune in and grow i'm your host vicky thompson you may be familiar with new connection magazine for conscious living which has been enjoyed by readers in the pacific northwest for more than twenty years now are excited to bring their connection to life in your home on new connection we welcome authors practitioners and visionaries to share new ideas for turning of health spirituality and personal growth today i'd like to welcome to new connection leah dunlap who's a certified clinical hypnotherapist and author of the power plant as the owner of divine strategies offers powerplant coaching leo welcome to new connection thank you vicki i'm glad to be here i'm excited today to talk with you about coaching because it's something that we've actually never covered on new connection and you have a specific way that you do it and you call it power playing coaching correct how does that work well the biggest difference between coaching for example and other coaching programs you might have heard about for us from the powerplant coaching is that we really strive to help people to get from confusion to focus and to find a way to bring themselves to action so steps to do that and it's a thirteen week program typically if we do the full program however we do offer individual sessions as well and created the program about seventeen years ago now and i've offered it now really excited because it's now book format so it's accessible to anyone and lots of opportunities for people depending on what their schedules like or what their budgets like we can have anything that will suit their needs so people can use it from basically all over the globe now yeah really great and so when a typical claim comes to you for coaching what type of help are they seeking you know it varies on the client obviously but primarily a lot of the people that i see are people that have an idea that they want to make changes but they're really not sure about what those changes look like there's some kind of perhaps some kind of unsettled either of emotions or situations in their lives that they're really not feeling clear about making changes about but they understand there is something needs to change something needs to shift so for me what i usually see are people that are looking to either do you like a life change as far as your business or personal change in their life a lot of times it's a big one people that are looking at changing to relationships or even cities so  they really feel like there's something they're missing or that they haven't really fulfilled their purpose in life yet and they're they're not quite sure what that is so they come to me and we work together we sit down and we look at some options for them i'm very tool oriented i like to help people find tools to either discover what that issue is or overcome maybe some obstacles which is another reason the powerplant coaching is a little different is that i actually in include with our powerplant coaching hypnotherapy incorporate that into the program so that if somebody does come across something that perhaps is stunning them in the past that we can look at maybe some possible issues for that why they might be self sabotaging themselves and if there is some kind of underlying issue that they need to just so will take a little advantage of having my skills as a therapist or hypnotherapist gives me to look into that a little bit further and make sure that we can get them moving forward in the direction they want to go so hypnotherapy is also something that makes your coaching different know how is coaching different in general in from maybe like psychotherapy or other forms of counseling that's a great question and the the real difference is that typically with it with psychotherapy i like to say the biggest difference is that with a psychotherapist you're typically talking to them or sometimes even at them and there's not a lot of interaction with coaching it is like we're having a conversation together we're discovering together what the issues might be and looking for options and possibilities to change in the biggest difference like i said with a therapy in adding hypnotherapy and also having the ability to actually create action steps for someone that's the biggest difference with my power plan than other coaching programs that are out there so if someone were thinking about doing coaching what are some of the questions that they could ask themselves to know that they were ready to make a change you know there are some very idea of questions that are kind of typical that i see people ask you know if the person is finding themselves constantly asking you know what can i do or i wish i had something else in my life i wish i had a different job i wish i had a different house i wish i had a different husband or spouse of some sort that is something that we can work with because we can actually undercut uncover what it is you really do want to have in your life and we can work from there oftentimes to you know you find people that have a desire to create something more in their life but they're just not really sure what like they just start feeling fulfilled you know maybe their life is great maybe they like their job or they like that or their husband or spouse or you know they really enjoy where they live but something feels like it's missing a lot of time for people that looks maybe sometimes like service like getting out there and doing something that they haven't done before or maybe even adventure that they haven't actually pursued before you know that could be traveling or writing a book or something like that and so we'll look at what some of those things might be bubbling up from within and give them a place to put down what that looks like for them and then also take action to make that happen so it sounds like the coaching process can be very exploratory absolutely yeah it's definitely a great tool for people that are  finding that their interpret inside things that are going on with them but they're really not clear what they want to do so the great part of coaching is i get to help you listen to yourself so i will do a lot of feedback with someone and say here's what i'm hearing a lot of times what i also do is try to ask a question that they're not saying or the thing that they're not owning up to because a lot of times it's the things that they're not talking about that might be missing and so you know we can kind of use that as a puzzle to figure out what they want to go and what they want to do with themselves  example maybe with their current client where you help them step through that process absolutely you know i had a great client and recently who who had a really great challenge she wanted to buy a new car and things pretty simple enough but sadly she had gone through a bankruptcy in the past and was still kind of recovering her credit and didn't have a lot of finances to work with and yet she knew that that was something that she really needed for her business and her life and to move forward and that's definitely what we're always trying to do help you move forward and progress so so when we sat down and talked about that as an option for her she was really leery about even writing down as one of her goals because she just felt it was so inconceivable that she could get a new car so we talked first and i said well before you worry about that let's figure out what it is you really want because if you continue to look for the reasons you can't do it you'll find them but you can also find the reasons that you can do it and more importantly we need to decide what it is you really want so by taking the steps of the program we actually worked out a process for her to actually vision what it was she wanted so we started very simple we started with well do you want to big car a little car what color car you know so each week we kind of uncovered for her and she got to sit with the idea of having a new car until it became really clear what she wanted and then once she really knew what kind of car she wanted what whether she wanted a new car used car all of these things that were giving it more shape and more substance in her life but finally she really got clear about what she wanted as a new car and her final concern was meet with me was that you know i know exactly what i want now but i'm just not sure how i'm going to have this down payment to get this new car and i said well i want you to just continue to focus on the new car so next week we'll meet again and so interesting lee enough a few days or the day before our meeting was supposed to happen she gave me a c she had to reschedule and when i asked her why she said unfortunately i was in a car accident and i was very concerned obviously i said well you're right and she says actually i'm fine however my car is totaled and she started to kind giggle and i kind of giggled as well and i said well isn't that interesting so when we schedule another appointment and we got together again we talked a little bit about civil so how's it going with the car and she said well interestingly enough the amount of money i need for my down payment is exactly what we're going to pay off for the car that's been totalled so she didn't actually have to technically come up with a down payment but by creating a space for it in her life and shoes that she really wanted to have something we were able to give her the steps that she could take on our own behalf and allow the universe really to do the rest that's an amazing story and i think sometimes only open in hope that space for something to come the the possibility and the potential because it sounded like she didn't feel it was possible at all but holding them potential i mean an accident i don't think we'd ever think about it in those terms of wow i'd love to have an accident so i get a down payment but if it fits what she wanted exactly in the time frame she wanted it and that's one of the other things i always caution people on when we work together is be really clear about what you want and give yourself space and time for it because if you give yourself a small space of time you might work make the universe work a little harder than it needs to to get you what you want and sometimes that's the case but we interesting thing liam that she mentioned the day that we got together was that when people w ask her how she was about it she actually said you know i'm actually going and she kind of felt bad about saying that but i said you know it's ok you're at a different place in yourself to understand that this is just something that happened luckily no one was hurt so you know so the great news is no one got hurt and everybody got what they needed and really it can work that way and yet you never know how it's going to happen you know so it's that's the other part too is not to have to  pigeonhole how you get something that you want your life and that's another part of the process i work through with clients too it sounds like when you spoke with the client and you said that how my going to find the money and you said let's just hold it you want something so it's not me even so tight on the how but allow the universe to bring the how to you so that you don't have to to put it in that little hole exactly and that's another kind of mind that is that had something else that she wanted to have in her life and and all she kept coming to me with was i don't want this and i don't want that and i don't want this i said let me just tell you something the universe is a giant supermarket anything and it's out there waiting for you to put in your order so anything you want it will bring to you and all you're saying every day is that you don't want things and how was it going to give you what you do because you haven't given any instruction as to what you really do want and sadly there's a lot of other things besides for example we used an example of an apple i said i don't want to green apple well ok so do you want mackintosh or do you want to you know a juicy you're golden delicious i mean there's so many other varieties of things or ways that things can come to you that if you do pigeonholed them you're not giving yourself th to let that universal power work for you and bring you exactly what you're looking for the film the secret really tapped into the law of attraction so if we were using the example of of your client with the car  if you if you narrow it down too tightly it sounds like it's hard for the universe to fill it would you put it open for the highest and best to occur how would you phrase it oftentimes but the challenge there is to that often people will start to limit that possibility so they'll say oh i don't i don't really care what kind of car but the reality is they do there's something in them and i always say this i believe in universal consciousness i believe that we internally have a knowing of what is a yes for us of what is a know for us and everybody is us and it was different that's why we're all here so we can experience different things so it's absolutely ok and in fact it's enjoyable for life to express differently for different people so it's ok to ask for certain things it's just truly the how of how they've come to you that you don't really need to concern yourself with and the great thing is what we do let go of the how we have so much more energy to enjoy our lives and what we do get from them and be thankful for them that we have a lot more life to live sometimes when you're reading the different books about the law of attraction they talk about that emotional power behind what he once said sounds like if you really look at a car and you say oh i love that color i love that you know style the way it goes emotionally become and empowering your side behind it is definitely and i always look at people when they say i want something we always check to see if it's authentic of them in other words this is something you really want or something tell you that you should do this you should get one of these you should have learned these or you should be this certain way but that it's really for them and in other words it's coming from inside of them and that's what they want to have be your do and then yeah it's definitely important to have a connection and that's how that energy is kind of drawn and it's almost like i use a term it's almost like a magnet you know you're charging up that magnet inside of you that's going to create that force that's going to rip you know pull whatever have a plan that people can step through can you share with that how share with us how it works yeah it's a thirteen week program and that's no accident you know it takes thirteen times to create a habit and my goal is really to help people have a lifelong a process that they can take with them after they leave those ninety days and so that's why we set up for thirteen days there are six steps accountability visualization commitment affirmation gratitude and of course and most importantly action and i think you know that's something that that some of the programs out there don't really speak of even though i think it's still a piece of them but the different programs but that's when i really work to help people move out of being stuck and into action because that's where you're going to start to create a flow of energy rather than just stagnation so it sounds like using our example of the woman who manifests a new car how did she use affirmation in that process to help generate the outcome well i think it's about for her at that particular time that affirmation was that she was allowed to have abundance that it was ok for her to be abundant and oftentimes some of my clients feel as if it's not ok to ask for something or want something for themselves they feel like maybe it's selfish or something like that so when we create an affirmation we really want to look at where they're stuck so i don't have pat affirmations everybody's affirmations are always different because it's really about you and what you need so we look at where you're having kind of that rough spot and then we look at and we turn it into an affirmation and a lot of times you can just do that you can take that challenge of having and literally turn it into an affirmation because there is energy behind it already it's maybe anxious energy or something like that but we can turn it around and talk about it so we can find the affirmation in it and then use that affirmation to change that programming in your own mind and really great through that block definitely yeah so her feeling like oh i can't find the money in it and maybe i don't deserve it so exactly so i do deserve to have a new car share yeah so that's wonderful yeah how would gratitude play into that process as well for the our client with the new car climb with me car well you know the great thing about gratitude is it sets you up at a new vibrational level so our program is daily gratitude we practice gratitude every day and that's a key component of the program and so people are asked to write down ten things every single day that they think before either before they are better in the middle of the day and some people do all day long but it's interesting because it's one of the components that sometimes people don't choose to do because they don't think it's that important and if they're stuck midway i'll check in with them about gratitude and sure enough after a week of doing that they'll see shifts happen in their lives because they're more open they're happier and happy energy is very magnetic it's magnetic because people are drawn to you you have more access and influence in the world around you so you're able to broaden bring to you the things you're looking for and also seems like with gratitude you have to have a level of awareness to recognize the miracles coming absolutely and that's a key factor sometimes i have one client many years ago probably eighteen years ago and one of the first courses that i did and she literally said in the middle of a group class i don't have anything to be involved and so but i love that question actually because i said that to me i was a great me ask you something did you get hit by a bus today and she said well no i said well great write that down i'm thankful i didn't get hit by a bus today and maybe you're thankful for your bed and maybe you're thankful for the sunshine i don't care write it down and that was it a factor a lot of times people say well i think about i'm thankful all the time but the actual action of writing it down seems to really generate a flow of energy that's even stronger so i really encourage people to write down what they're thankful for every day and then the final step in that program is action so it's writing things down and then using our friend who generated a car what sort of action was she taking around it different things and it really depends on how long the goal is but every week we're taking some form of action and i like tom leaps of faith because for example like we mentioned with her she wasn't sure how she was going to ford it so going to an auto dealer when you don't even know if you can make a down payment and looking at cars can be a big leap of faith for her even just going on the internet and looking at cars was a big leap of faith so we started there and then she had to call somebody about insurance and then she also i then went out and just test drive a bunch of different kinds of cars she could get a feel for them and get that connection because she really had no idea and actually that was after that time that she came back and said i know what car i want now so it sounds like having gratitude and acting as if it's already in the world around you because that seems like you're making your potential real is a key point definitely and i think you're opening yourself to potential and i want to always say i want to start off with with the program with anyone it's about opening the possibilities there are so many things that could happen and oftentimes we focus on what we don't want to happen or be all of the reasons things possibly couldn't happen that we don't leave ourselves any room for things that could happen that we never even thought of but we heard one great result of a client who manifest new car what can people expect when they go through this type of coaching you know the biggest thing that people can expect is that they will definitely feel that they're going to be making changes and taking some kind of action so a lot of times of my clients what i notice is that they are always confident and they have more drive and energy than they have before and also focus you know having a plan really does allow you to calm down and relax and kind of enjoy the ride so it's definitely something where mom regardless of what you're looking to do those things will always happen and then it can be as simple as you know connecting with family again i had a client here who  her biggest goal she didn't even want to put it down because she thought it could be a goal which was that she really mr family she hadn't spent a lot of time with them and she'd moved away several years prior and so she really wanted to connect with her sister and her mother and her sister more importantly because they were really close and so you know erica was great she she said why don't i really feel like a goal because it didn't feel like concrete something and i said if it's important to you it's a goal so write downs and work on that and within the timeframe that we had set up arthur ninety days she actually had her sister come out for weekend and visit her and now her sister actually lives here with her so she's thrilled because even though it seemed like something that wasn't concrete like a car or a job or something like that it was an emotional connection that really mattered and was really lacking in her life and i'm a very holistic approach to what i do i have a very holistic approach to idea and i use a holistic calibration chart beginning all over and it talks about all the different aspects of your life your home your family your health your spirituality and so we actually kind of rate where he was our in far as how satisfy you are and then we ask what would be a ten in all these categories so we have some way of knowing engaging where we are along the way y the first is always around success and so that's the first class or the first group that we have i always have a kind of a general success or needed it most is that i'll do for people and midway usually it's kind of about getting grounded in and really knowing that success in other words looking back on all the things they've done in the midway point and really taking ownership and acknowledging their own personal success that gets a little more specific and then finally it's about continuing in branding that success a loss of feel in the steps and in their own lives in their own subconscious mind that it really does become a way of living and not just something they did for ninety days so i know that h therapy and the reason that it's so important and i and i used it so much in my program is because a lot of times on a conscious level we can have a lot of blockages so by reaching into the subconscious level where our programs are really stored where our mental programs are stored we can actually either change a program or the leader program that's not been serving us and so i will look for ways that i can utilize that tool to help people overcome any kind of obstacle so they can actually be something that from their past like when they were six or something like that and they'll bring it up in a group meaning or purpose meaning that that well you know my mother told me i could never sing ok great that's an opportunity for us to go and look at that issue it's very specific and so maybe we'll do it hypnosis session about that and that way we can get rid of it and you can either choose to sing or not but it has everything to do with whether or not your mama told you at six you can do it so that's why i utilize it and it really is very fluid so i know th times and i always use it just because it helps to kind of cement what we're working on and then i'll use it independently with whichever clients isn't to go deeper if somebody is watching today and they love the concepts that are being presented and and the idea of being able to manifest from potential what sort of action plan would you give someone just watching in this moment to try over the next week never the next week i would say if we're talking about the next week the the one the two things that i would suggest one write a list of everything you want have a wants list and it could be in a book or a folder or back of a you know on the low but write everything down that you want and don't hold anything back it have to happen today just continue to write down everything that you've ever wanted everything that you'd like to see have happened have happened in your life and then once you've got that list pick one thing just one little thing on that list and then figure out what you can do in your life this week to just discover what it would be like to have that so for example if someone wanted to learn how to fly an airplane you know go to the go to the palace bookstore for example and you know pick up a book on planes or flying or something like that so you can start to incorporate the idea of being that that person you want to be and what it would feel like and what kinds of things you would discover and find out as you go through the process of learning about how to become a pilot and then lastly i would say actually is an added bonus for this week just every day write down ten things you're happy about and thankful for and that really will help to make a space in your life to look at change and change in a positive way that sounds very powerful because if you were reading about flying and you were seeing a pilot flying and you were looking at the controls you could really see visualize yourself see yourself doing it you know feel the freedom of the air the wind blowing around you absolutely and then also to it's interesting because when people start to look at investigate some of things that they might like there's might be something that they don't like about it or they realize that they're really wanting to do that so the beauty of that is if you please put yourself out there to check it out you have the opportunity to say yes or no it's all up to you that's wonderful well ian thank you so much for joining us today and  you can learn more about coaching at our website at new connection journal dot com join us next time a new connection where you can tune in and grow