people welcome to the dr joy show your prescription for total wellness and i'm your host dr joy year we're talking about transformation and breakthrough today not just me of course i have a guest but before we get started you inhale exhale last one inhale exhale how do you feel i know i feel great well let's jump into it transformation breakthrough results and i want to welcome my guest lois kramer per se i had to look at your book to make sure that i got your your middle name and your last name correct in the correct order welcome to the dr joyce thank you dr joyce exciting to be here tell me a little bit about yourself well i have the best life i could even imagine wow i function way people places and things ok and what does that mean so i've learned to my functionally studies which was one of my life transformations that functionally it's all about connecting to who we are who we are in our true nature and by using the five elements in nature there's no judgment so the same way there's no crying in baseball there's no judgment a function way so from sway is going to make someone if they if they harness and embrace those five principles right yes it's going to embrace them or move them toward being authentic absolutely ok so that means all young need to watch this show ok because there's so many  there right right so tell me how you transitioned because i read your book but i don't want to give away the secret this is her book hello but how did you go from the perfect sweater miss fashion guru to this transition to being a function way practitioner well i was obsessed with finding that perfect sweater that the perfect sweater was finally working with design developing the product finding the yarn ok all that stuff making if it was such a process of creativity from beginning to end ok and i loved what i did but i knew there was something more i just knew there was something more  and i didn't even realize the seed i planted when i said to my husband one day you know when i hit fifty i want to do something different i don't know what it is but just because i love to do it i love what i do now but it's ok i'm done i just want to find something something so you were in a can turn state where you wanted to get out of your own head yes oh they're right because let me tell you there was a lot going on in that head yes and i could even go to the movies without sitting down and thinking michael maybe have to get up to make a phone call or i can't watch this and my head was always spinning spinning spinning ok so you had a relaxation problem absolutely ok i only had one speed on on on so you had one hundred all the time all the time ok so how did you transition to be in a function a practitioner now well through some life challenges and experiences i was looking for some healing and i knew there had to be something so i first found or found me a reiki practitioner which was the beginning of my journey and they want to transition into the functionally everything started to change i could see how my life was changing based on my perception about myself my ability to notice what was going on around me and the turning point actually came when i started to kind of daydream i could do this full time would be fabulous teaching working with people who how cool is this  well the universe set i'll show you how cool it is now before we go into thoughts feelings actions just pause for a second i want you to back up and talk about what is function way again what is that one thing and then a little bit about the history so there are so in case the viewers don't know absolutely good question so most people think functionally is where we put ourself here and that's an important part of it but it's so much more functionally a translates to wind water the wind represents the energy that's in our space that we can feel even though we can't see it we know it's there electricity using our phones or the energy we feel walking into a room when it's someone looking at us or could feel it's chilly in here right right and the water represents the physical things in our space which cause our movement and how the cio or energy will flow so wind and water wind and water so we want the energy we can't see to be balanced in a way that fits with the energy we can't see in our physical space fansub or intangible correct ok janja and function way began many years ago form based that's one of our schools of function way people in china would look to how they would cite their homes so they would be safe from the elements have a clear view of what's happening have the crops get the sun and be supported from behind so it all began with sighting the homes and how that created a flow of cheesy prosperity in abundance from what they learned in their life you know that's great energy yes so how does one sit fung sway into their daily life to enhance their life so function is our first stop to connect to our subconscious we're always giving messages to all these parts of us and if we look at the experience we have the first time we come into our home right how things are placed how we move around the space how do we feel that's the magic of functionally by choosing the information we want to create the patterns we choose we can do it through color through objects through positioning ok ok but now now i want to touch on something that you said a few minutes ago about our our thoughts and our feelings and our actions and what happens in the universe so and how we need to be more conscious conscious absolutely ok so talk about that tell me a little bit more about that so we've all heard be careful what you wish for you might get it yes yes and i like to say be mindful and conscious of what you choose to wish for because you will get it we say that one more time be mindful and conscious of your choices what you choose to wish for whether it's allowed or in head correct ok because the universe picks up everything everything because the cosmos well there's there's the higher being right as different cultures worship different higher beings but then there's the cosmos and yet so they will tap into your mind whether you say it or you don't is spoken or not and it's all about that feeling you have with those thoughts the feelings and the experience connected to them so i was having these dreams of leaving my job of my traditional going to work corporate adding a paycheck corporate  thing to working with people who could teach and talk and work in their homes how cool would that be how cool would that be were all of a sudden my job change the president of our group went to another brand and said where's the lois in this group oh no i want her so they created a job and i became a consultant so to speak oh now all of my responsibilities that i was accountable for are shifting ok and there i am on this trip with design team and we had just been in korea we had shanghai i get to the hotel i can't from my passport well i know i had it when i went through customs so i said to the concierge i think i dropped it by customs call them here's my information good things happen to people i'm going out to dinner i'll be back in a little while and i know you're going to find it well that was a challenging evening i did it and i can imagine but i just kept breathing and i said there's no other outcome i will accept because this is refused to have any other outcome be in my essence at the moment yeah i was challenging i can't breathe and people look at me going to i'm not giving into anybody's chaos i'm not giving into any right now it's around us i'm just going to stay with me i can see the information that's out there but i don't have to become it and when i got back to the hotel and the concierge had that big grin on his face and he said good news we found your passport well then the tears went of course and i knew what i had to do well you know that right there that that was a connection i mean it was it was relevant yes that that was a connection between your thoughts and the universe and it happening yes and that time i knew if i could do this i could do anything so there was no doubt in my mind what was the next step resign oh and you did just like that yeah ok in this is before you became the function a practitioner you know i had already been i had already been studying ok arc in full time all right so now let's talk about those five funks way principles one of those so we have five elements right and they each have a direction they are a family member archetype an expression a part of her body a time of day a season and they all connect to everything ok and who we are and it's the world we live in ok so if we look at water water is winter in midnight it's this beautiful time of dreaming and planning and thinking and watery people kind of get lost in their dreams they like to stay up late they don't like to brush they don't want to be fenced in they like to go with the flow while water feeds a tree so they can grow ok and after winter and midnight we have the water is first first ok what's the second one trees trees ok because the trees are early spring and early morning so after winter comes the spring after midnight comes the morning that's early uprising energy it's green it's all about and movement and going it's practical it's go go go go go ok ok it's bright then after the trees and early morning noon and summer after spring come summer  air fire is our passion oh yes siteman it's our curiosity what drives us inspiration illumination ok and fire is red and fun and people just need that inspiration we need our fire when our fires go out well then there's a problem then we fall into what's called we could fall into a depression right yeah i said the d word but it's real it's real so when are fires go out we want to look to the things that will bring it back off right we want to get curious we get curious then we become engaged and fire like fun so find something fun find your best friend find dr joy and go have some fun who got the fire oh yeah oh yeah so the five bar water tree is fire earth earth the ashes from the fire nourish the earth time of pause it's our grounding in stability and comfort ok it's being secure the ground we stand on with about with gratitude to come into it being reflective gratitude is everywhere yeah gratitude is everybody ok good so the gratitude we have someone that has a lot of earth they are of service they are so grateful to help others to stand up for what they believe in to stand up for the underdog to know what's right and really be there that's the foundation of the mountain ok that's unlimited potential so now the ashes from the earth they take they come to the earth the earth minerals create the metal ok and metal is now this contract in energy is that the fifth one it's the fifth one ok we're coming into refinement everything's coming to completion it's coming to a close autumn is that early evening here you seasons we've been there and this season's come in and they're feeling so metal people are meticulous they like to be perfect and when they get too serious what do they need they need some fire nearby or can gently soften the metal so it becomes more flexible that's so when we get too hard on ourselves we have to look for that illumination for that passion to help us enjoy life and then the metal becomes liquid and after autumn becomes winter after evening becomes midnight and we begin again so it's it's a way of thinking yes so one has to do a little bit of a paradigm shift to go from say the unconscious thinking being in a rut all the time that's when they don't have that fire of their passion to move towards the conscious yes to be more get more earthy have th oh element so our thoughts translates our failings our feelings translates our actions and our actions give us those results right absolutely so your top two things on what a person can do to make sure that their actions are will yield positive results top to top to ok so you want to think about something that is in every cell with every bit of your heart that you love passionately that you know is right for you and then do something because if we don't do something nothing will happen we can dream and sit back and kind of float along but we have to engage gauging how it feels get into that experience as it's happening as if it's happening have those dreams in gauge start being available and noticing what shows up so you can then participate what about negative talk well negative talking and you get all this negative talk you want to quit your job you want to resign because you see that you're going to be bigger and better towards that you know towards mankind and you share that with someone in there you get this negative talk you shouldn't do it internal negative thoughts so it's a your internal dialogue way in your head and also extra know how do you so the first thing you want to do is notice that personally because that person is only responding based on their experience and what they know right that would scare the pants off of them to think oh my gosh i could never do that so they could not even imagine how they you could do it right out john i get caught in very experience right ok and then when you have that negative self talk notice when you feel it in your body and you notice where is that coming from if you notice all the things you've ever done that were fabulous where they come from they came from inside here and i was in another thought you just did it so who is standing in your way creating these thoughts so individual so if we've ever had a thought that was connected to a feeling when ever we go back into that thought that experience the body says oh here is those emotions that are connected and they send them up but we can say wait a minute i'm changing that pattern this is not how it has to be and i'm going to lock those i'm going to block that negative so i'm just going to release it i'm going to shift into a different thought as i breathe then very important your three deep breat maria breathing in and releasing out that thought and changing it to the one that suits you that serves you the feeling of that power connect to that third shocker right here and feel that golden sunshine filling you up i got this i can notice everything but dontcha think dolo is that what you're bells because i definitely don't want you to drop those because you're going to ring them later don't you think that the biggest thing that stops most people is the fact that they're they don't feel comfortable in their own skin absolutely so what's the secret the secret is i learned from functional a i'm not a bedroom set kind of girl what does that mean  but i said what was that what do you mean by you're not a bedroom set can a girl i thought when you got married you became an adult you know you bought a bedroom set idea set up a household well you know i was married one thousand years never had a bedroom set couldn't find one i like so i didn't have one i had a bed i had a stool i had a thing in a being in a bank and it worked for you but i felt like it wasn't complete but i thought i had to find the bedroom set and then i study functionally and i understood who i was what my nature was i don't need a bedroom set i went out to bed and a year later i bought two when tables and a year later i bought a dresser and i love it and it was my way every time i get stuck thinking i have to either know how to do it or know what it means or have this perception of what that perfection that is right i get stuff but then i say wait a minute i'm not a bedroom set kind of girl so why just do this so you go with the flow yeah so that's what you say becomes the william own skin go with the flow not pay attention right unless it's something dangerous right yes we have to be safe right so i have a i would have a statement ok on average many folks embrace and embody their authenticity what do you think yes now i think more do than they realize they just don't let it out and why is that fear of the unknown parallel but there are x false evidence appearing real here i was yes it's just a perception it's just a thought if we give the power to that thought but if we start to change our thoughts b embodying what fills us up what fills our power when we want and we don't focus on what we're not we don't focus on what's broken nothing's broken focus on your strengths on your power what you love what's easy than all the other stuff there's no attention to and you just keep rising so we don't change we just evolve to become more of who we really are what is your greatest gift and how did you determine it my greatest gift was realizing it's that simple because when the funny way moment happened that i realized i was in a bedroom set kind of girl i reflected back to everything i've ever done i don't even know how i got there it was just being engaged in what i loved doing and i find if i stay focused on that feeling that's true to my heart everything is possible  focus is key right being comfortable in your own skin yes and that leads into being the driver of your destiny so share practical advice on how one can do that how i get started i would say let's take a tip from function way you going to ring your bell i want to ring on let's ring the bell so we're going to ring the bells ring in the morning that first experience coming into your home whatever that first thing is you mindfully choose what fills you up with joy and peace and love so now we're setting those layers in our subconscious because the mind doesn't know the difference between a memory of what's happening right so set up your fabulous first then you're going to notice you're going to notice what's happening around you and notice that you have that ability to shift your thoughts and feelings from old patterns to new we don't want to push anything damaging night we want to relate to it right and as we breathe we can then release and redirect to something that supports us so now that we're noticing our awareness is key and we just go for it we just go forward and with fire behind us with the fire behind us and the smiles  the laughter ok don't take ourselves too seriously or else we're going to need to get grounded again yes and then we reflect and then we have to there's gratitude there but we need to really pay attention to it on a daily basis because those those things that go wrong or whatever they can be positive things because there are key learnings that are going to help us move forward every experience is important yes it every our on every single one and it's our relationship to that experience that is key it's how we do everything so ninety percent of what happens to us is really about that experience yes don't get lost a distracted by the ten percent of things we can't control right so that cer n is really to open up and embrace and engage in gauge those things to be a participant because if we don't do something nothing's going to happen so that means we shouldn't do well on whatever the experiences embrace it yes if it's not such a positive experience i mean we're human rights or human absolutely a little bad about it but i mean me personally i give myself maybe twenty four hours max to sulk after that it's like ok get over it joy get over it we have on this because or else will get stuck right we have to experience everything and be able to embrace that so we could move on to the next right so with that ability to redirect ok if you think you can't redirect i've got a thirty second vacation for you what's a thirty second vacation so i found by taking two deep breaths and guiding people in thirty seconds whether we're on the beach or or in the rain or just looking out the window at a beautiful flower do it do it do it you want to guide us you have time we have time yeah you have time to do thirty seconds ok thirty second go for it take a thirty second vacation take a deep breath in through the now and out through the mouth and just feel this beautiful sunny day we're on the beach and the waves are moving into the shore and with that next breath just allow your thoughts to transform as you really and come back to your place of peace it's a beautiful  ways that we can manifest things now and what better by looking at pairs of hearts so these beautiful sort of light hearts get us out of our head and into our hearts the cornelian ground us bringing strength and focus and most beautiful goldstone focus and power baby so find a stone that you're attracted to and just go with that and look at that magic that you can do the beautiful day the i'm in between i'm in between the focus on the power i'm in between the the one about in your head but i think of walled off as being in my head because if i didn't then i wouldn't be where i am at rightly ok so i'm going to go with this blue stone and you like to  know i love the sparkle yeah so what do you have there you have the stones and then you also have instructions right instructions of what you're going to do with the stones i have a red envelope and a little gold bag ok gonna write some things down and i've given you instructions how and then you're going to take one put it in one place the other in another and magic will happen ok and then i just leave it there yes and then when you're ready to do it again you'll know you start all over so this i have to breakthrough results tips and tricks and techniques from today's experts for you and your business lois cramer pereira's where can we find that on amazon ok you can also go to my website ok everything lois kramer dot com wonderful wonderful i want to thank you for being a guest on the dr joy show sharing your advice your tips funks way knowledge and how also letting people know that you know what is just not about placing your couch in a certain corner of your ouse but function way is also how you think absolutely so thank you very much my pleasure thanks for having me sure until next time be blessed stay healthy