and welcome to another episode of the life two point zero show the show where we well first let me say hello as well the show really is show that hopefully we help women to figure out their next their second half and life by identifying their passions or talents or gives that they enjoy using so that can pretty much serve as a guide to what they want to do in a second half of life their purpose it's really like to point out community really as a result of my journey my journey after being downsized and you know making a decision that you know i wanted the second half of my life to be one where i was doing something i was passionate about and having a purpose so initially it started out with i say like baby boomer women we're focusing on but we've you know we've expanded that because we've had so many women you know younger than us come to us and say you know we're at a point in our lives we're starting to ask th questions you know what is my purpose with you know is this all life and what life is all about so the like to point out show we're happy to say it's growing we're expanding our our community our family so we invite our audience to become part of our lives  what ok there's possibilities you know the other i had the other i absolutely yeah and that's really nice about what what happens as a result of doing the show so we're excited with you know in our next second full year of doing this yeah it's just going to and we hope to inspire anybody that's that i having these sort of challenges i never live to see how it blossom i well sometimes we have to be in dirt yeah as a seed planted to really blossom as a beautiful because this is the first time you and i have met but we we've been emailing it for the family personally we've known each other and you know similar backgrounds i mean i can't remember how many people murdered as part of their background but you people a little bit of a background of of maybe your corporate life and then some of the you know some of the struggles after and then how how it came out to be this beautiful life that you have now ok well i  about a six year timeframe right i had been laid off three times and it was during this very the very last time that i actually interviewed atmar and a good friend of mine actually i i told her i said you know what you have to have faith you know i just am yeah we are going to get through but yes and we did we really did and i'm so thankful for my friend that helped me because it was getting close to me maybe even losing my house right right right and so i started with mark and i was a single mom for fifteen years and i worked thirty six years full time and for anyone who's ever been a single mom out there you right yeah right right right and i always wanted to change that i've always felt that i would like to have my own business and i was entrepreneurial but you know when you're in that situation you write those dreams of finding good our family come know tell us some of the tell us some of what you were going through in your mind like how how were some of those feelings when like how did you feel in that situation are you feeling more face or more hopelessness like how does that piece how do you pull yourself and have that strong faith that this is not going to be here forever i have a very strong and i think that is a lot of what holding through and i have a positive outlook and can write and i really felt that there was something else forming ok there was something else for me and so many times i think that we become somebody we don't want to be because because that i think is something that you and i had in common because what you said was actually what i felt when i got you know i was laid off and i was the murder of twenty seven years and then you know to pick up a phone at you r allotted time and then be told you don't have a job and you've been with this company for twenty seven years or you have a choice of you know going back in the field you know at a different level or taking a package and i remember clearly think to myself at that point that  a couple of things mark is quit is that was that was not what the fight me those years there were not my best years i truly in my heart believe there was more out there for me that there was more i could accomplish so when i made that decision to not take the package so that you know take another position but the taken the package totally clueless and you are my right had no clue what i would head bill you know you because you're you get downsize your bills and say ok you you know you don't have to pay me but i just in my heart you know that there was something else and something more and i did that stepped out the same way you stepped out on faith and i said you know what i'm always going to be take care of so i've got to take this yeah i'm so i'm i i'm so into what you're saying so yeah it is like knowing that there is always something better and having that strong faith is so key so key especially i'm sure there's a lot there were lots of low points like how did you sustain that strong belief and i read a lot of inspirational things all the time and i make sure that i surround myself with people who were very encouraging right right yeah acting and of course my family always surprises me and everything love what you're doing then you get more than that right yeah right i mean and i think it's so true in every single aspect of life and yet only and and but anyway i did nice about this because i always believe your purpose is is there to serve others your kids your kids must be amazing people now who watch and watched you but at the same time they've learned from your journey they've learned that when adversity happens when something comes that you did not expect to whatever you survive you can survive and you've also taught them the tools to survive because i know you w so it's a great lesson that we pass on i think to people we love our family members and others but you let them know that you know there is there's more to life you can survive yasin absolutely so i know you went through some  really interesting questions that you asked yourself like who am i you know why am i put in this situation so what were some of those answers that came back to you well you know what i think that anytime we really look at that as we say ok well i know the roles like why mother i was a nurse and i cook mentor right right right right that's right off but what was really interesting for me when you're busy when you're working full time when you're a single mom you really are focusing on your kids homework you are yet taking them to sports events you have financial and household responsibilities so you really don't have the time to say to yourself what is it that i'd really like so it was really difficult for me it was really hard to figure out who exactly what it is that that i wanted to do it would want to do you know yeah so you think about and you start to do different things ok you dabble into i got into volunteering at church and then i was doing some bible study classes and also some painting class ok aerobics all sorts of things ok and that was when i was approached by my husband's business associate and he's the one who introduced me to what i'm doing right now but to you are it's is sometimes not we've said this is like two point zero the second half of life that it's time to kind of reach back on all those things that you put on the show because it wasn't right you know the kids the career whatever you know larger like for two weeks back and bring them back give and want to experience and to share so the fact that we take that time to say ok yeah let's now just pull it off the shelf and start acting on what's important to was risky you know so when so now that you've gone through the process to actually i know you discover yourself what were one or two of the dreams that you discovered that you had from a long time ago that you're actually living now oh boy i'm doing so many things  pause then you slow down and now you have the conscious awareness of enjoying those life moment yes absolutely and my husband and i can take a vacation when we want we can you know go because we know that for many years you were single and i'm sure that for many of those years you're kind of saying well this is it for me there's no one else that's going to come into my life when you were fortunate because you did have someone come into your life about a wonderful husband my god oh yes so anyway i was in a relationship in the time and it wasn't a very good yvonne and sometimes we as women we do that to yes you know and you say to yourself it's me it's my fault right lane yourself and but anyway so my good friend her friends met me a couple of times at a party and they connected me truly is a great guy and he i'm telling you he is so supportive of every single thing that i do right and that i'm so grateful for right and really and you know and all real i know someone else i look at her life now and when you were sharing your story with us it's very similar look at your life now and i say you know i think that when you're going through that you can see that it is the other side you can see that i there is something there's a life for me past this i'm my life can be different so when i look at you when i look at her and i see that it's kind of like thing there it's not your time for have someone this journey anymore a lot and just to have that after fifteen years of you know you being everything to everybody i just love that and it's reminds me so much of another friend same thing and i said you guys about what kind of life you want i remember i used to visualize and sitting in front of a fireplace with a man and just relaxing yeah right now there it is it happened yeah i've been yeah yeah just have to believe writing right and visualizing what it is that you want and if it's someone that you want to be in a relationship with it will have it will happen it will happen happen yeah right so what would you say from those challenges to now what was that biggest life lesson and how did that lesson how was that lesson sort of materializing today you know so what was that big lesson that you learned about yourself was there a big lesson you learned about you know well that i guess would it be that you had strength you had courage even you know now that you see that you got through that challenge and you believed in yourself yeah you said yourself that knowledge and self development rather good to go down that hole of that's right you know what you can make a decision right they can enjoy right when something happens to you yeah and something maybe not as easy to deal with and you have a choice right and i think what it is is that i chose to stay and believe that you can get i am going to get using because you can choose to think to yourself oh why did this happen to me and you know everyone else is you know going out has you know has a family and this and that and reflection and then that we say where you are now as you reflect back really has a lot to do with the choices that you've made in life and i think when you have made the choice that i'm going to survive that there is something better from the way that you set yourself up that that's where you are as to where you want now and look back at how you did survive all the things that you did but if you make the choice that you know i can overcome this is this is and i see that all of the negatives that have been in your life well what were you saying were they enjoy says that you were making or the things she was saying true so that you know yeah it played out but to say i'm going to survive i love the that you made that choice and when you make a decision i think you drop all obstacles at that point and so you do whatever it takes to get where you want to be so as long as you make that decision and say you know want i'm going to make about what you do now i know you have a business and i know you do something so you're excited about it so give us a little bit of a you know how that kind of happened and whatever well i i guess when i quit merch job and i definitely wanted to continue working i wasn't ready for retirement and i wanted to do something meaningful right and so what i'm doing now is something actually one of my husband's so see if we're going t found that they set you up for success and that you are able to do it from your home and it's digital you can do it in five to ten hours a week ok but really what i have found it's more than just the business it's a vehicle for change ok i mean it is just a stepping stone ok to something else ok so i love it i'm working with people now that really inspire love right i love coaching mentor eemian and helping other people yeah and so you know i really do enjoy it yeah and i think you're you know to coaching and mentoring you so much stronger and effective when you've lived some of that past yeah yeah absolutely yeah yeah so it's one thing to say it but when you've walked back journey and you're coming from the heart from experience yeah yeah you can relate and maybe say one or two things on your faith and belief that kind of would give them a little inspiration to go you know to keep going i think that i may have said it before but we are not defined by our circumstances we are we have to believe that there is something else and not there for us and keep that hope and that faith going around and believe in it and i mean that to me and make the choice to make the choice to to believe but make the choice to just say you know what i can do that right right right right because you can't right but then you know as we get older i think we really tend to think we are not as good there was yesterday there we go there we go and yeah i'm not sure you are so wrong right so wrong i think in many respects you're probably even at the apt to be even better because look at