high everybody jodie toeplitz here i am the host of way to be divorced decor and so much more today we're going to be talking that's a very interesting things but first let me just give you a brief overview for new viewers weave in me is a place for you can have a home that's nourishing and comforting and all this is done through this instantaneous psychological impact of the proper use of color and placement and accessorising in your space it's very important to have a space that reflects who you are and today i'm going to give you a couple of design tips but i'm also going to talk about or have my fairy special guest talk about self esteem and how  important something like hair extensions which you would think oh it's just you want nice hair it's much deeper than that we're going to talk about men and women especially women in transition and how important it is to have healthy space and to feel really good about yourself so with no further ado i'm going to introduce my good friend elaine who is an educator and a distributor of a hair extensions an italian brand absolutely  i think so i was going to ask you first of all there are three reasons we talked about why people not obvious reasons why people would get hair extensions one year and i'd like you to explain medical issues hypo thyroid or hyperthyroid it doesn't matter it doesn't matter if that's the thyroid it really affects the hair either makes it thinner dull or whenever the hair is dahlan flyaway and has no texture something's wrong something when they go through chemo and they lose their hair they as it's growing back it takes him a growth of a half an inch a month ok so it takes to really get it to the length that you like it could take up leaders yeah so that's where extensions come in i had a client you know her story her son was gay marriage was very important to her that she has beautiful hair and she was to the style and it was long enough it was just a few inches wasn't there yet tell that story with you and i love that story but you know we'll get to say that because we have a good story coming up that's that's really important i know medical issues or can be devastating and yet the first thing you want to do is use feel more like yourself it's and maybe you just haven't been and you just haven't been feeling well and this is just by something as simple as this it's not simple but it is simple it's a simple fix if you don't know what you're doing i don't mean to diminish the how hard it is but i mean it's a simple thing we never think of it we call it plastic surgery without downtime without and it's thirty six surgery because your hair really is a big deal i one time read that for teenagers and you'll probably agree with me because you really know first hand that when your hair is not doesn't look good all year or you have a bad haircut do you know that over a teenager in high school that's as devastating as a divorce for an adult i read that it is so right it is so true like having bad skin i am very bad skin growing up i terrible acne i was devastated i and i know that the hair was really important to remember when that was at the extensions you have to go through a very expensive process is the bleaching the highlighting so this is actually less money because you're just doing a couple of whatever and it doesn't damage the right the child's the second thing we talked about which i thought was really interesting were chemical burns people don't think of that this is a scenario that kind of relates to me but you could talk about what are chemical burns and how devastating it is to have hair one and then you you look in the mirror and it starts breaking off and you're like freaking out right when the you don't realize or for women that want very light blonde color right you know it's great to get blonde hair and most of us really don't have the hair that can take all the nice canada navy and another worse exactly we've come from ike and the bleaching and when it's done over time it really breaks the hair so that's where extensions come in what we do is we just highlight the top of her here right and the rest of it will give you any color she wants and she can have any color she wants and it's a totally the right if she can have like a scandinavian blonde yeah without going through the chemical right so if she she she has or even a really what if you get her i had this happen once a really bad haircut and somebody cuts off hair that you did i swear this half hour yeah i went to somebody i was going for a while i fell asleep in the chair i was know or but let's we won't say i can't say i know everybody i just really do and i know everybody very nice i don't then all the hell the salon is very nice person but i think what happened is she thought she could just take liberty and do something different without asking me and i woke up and i was missing like i like i like my mom i like that it was like it was like ten years ago i was couldn't even i could barely talk to her yes do you know that i pa the bill and i was speechless and she knew something was wrong and i where we come in right and i went but i didn't know you went to the car i cried i was very upset and my hair was like it took years for to get oh yeah yeah so i would that's what's great about it i don't have a  you can just fixed other people's mistakes or you can buy if you're going to like the you said chemotherapy or something like that where there is a chemical burn or somebody decides to cut your hair or while you're sleeping in their chair hopefully that doesn't happen often oh i'm always wide awake now it's not the same person but i'm so paranoid i will never because you know when you get in that chair you're like you want to close your eyes don't do it now don't do it i never did it doesn't like consultation is key right the most important part of their whether it's a hair or a comic this is just like your business yeah you need to know what their needs are what makes them happy what what they don't like  see it's not good yeah no you're right everything you know it's all it's about of changes it's making chairs is taking and you know what's kind of nice about what you do is it's not that risky it's not like other nobody is and it's not as expensive as everyone thinks so that last thing we were talking about the self esteem which has to do yes absolutely with starting a new life divorce i know i know you have stories i know you know where someone has come off of a terrible divorce or you know that it's not terrible  just like plastic surgery so many women go for plastic surgery to change what they're unhappy about right and that's what we do we if they are unhappy about their hair this is what we have  is a great person is a great dad is a great this and great that and she just wants to to you know change her looks or just feel better about herself then that's when she found out that her husband is having an affair with their secretary one of their employees that changed everything that's when she got the long blond hair boy out of a new porsche and no my god like she changed everything she changed everything and she's like still today is my fact i spoke to her yesterday just as you changed my life see that's what i'm talking about you change how i feel  before i just felt boring now i feel good well that's a devastating blow is especially she was already going through a divorce and then to find out there was another tear layer added to that is  change inside that takes time but they want is a case and the that's where they start and maybe that instant step which is just seems very superficial but really isn't it really does dig deep it really has and it seems like great no no it gives you it might give you that little bit of self esteem that's going to take you to the next maybe take you to the family therapist or take you to the first job interview or get you dating again which then like you said that other woman her hair grew back and she didn't need you anymore but connections to how we feel and how we feel really does dictate how we move forward in our lives oh yeah and if it's a temporary fix or it's a long term fix it really doesn't matter whatever it is like therapy and i know that i mean what's the difference between talking to somebody about how you feel and feeling well leaving that office saying my little better leaving your chair feeling a little better you know leaving your space that i just decorated i'm feeling really a little bit better it was all about the rounding right yourself and what i've whether it's life altering and i know at first people don't think of it that way but you know when we sat down and we talked about all the stories that you shared with me before we even started the show when i came to visit you out there it was how do you like your hair i love my hair so what happened son tell you my story so i was going to a wedding my step daughter's wedding and the back of my hair was very damaged and started snapping off and i also think that i was might have been a little bit nervous about was short and i got i swear panicking at first i thought there was something wrong i actually called my doctor and i said my hair is snapping what's going on and he you know he's looking at me like i don't know you're fine you're healthy but i was really upset and it didn't ever occur to me well me least i could i could get that fixed maybe i could you you feel that in where all that was broken and it was like oh my gosh i don't have to wait four years for all that snapped off hair to grow back and it made me feel like a million bucks it just it just really just seems so much better it was and i would have never thought of it if i hadn't talked to your sister something missing in the back you could do something as little as that river if you have god forbid cancer and you want to do a whole head you know i just thought oh it's all your hair or nothing i didn't know you could fix what does we're mad is what i  ok everybody i'm back with my dear friend hala and guess what we decided to do at the last minute we're going to do a demonstration she's going to touch some hair to my hair i'm very excited this should be really cool and fun so you can explain what you're in the front or something i don't know whatever you're doing you're doing your just a little bit of volume and should be fine cool so there's never enough you can't get too many extensions if you can as you have enough hair to attach it to y  really so many women want that tapered sides and they can't get that because they're here right they like the i love my sides i love all that but this is where the extensions come in yeah i know our own hair and sometimes even better than our own hair yeah yeah our hair fades the does it fade yeah that's true like right now just so you guys know i have some roots because i now years shocked that i color my hair but guess what i color my hair i'm going to be sixty in there are we in five months so yes i have gray hair and i go for i do i do i look at you you're so cute you're like are you do and so yes so what's kind of cool is i  all i have to do is touch up the roots and then i don't have to worry about where ever she adds stuff because it's not going to fade so that's kind of a cool thing yeah and just cut it to match oh yeah you got the same one if you do once i got will yeah so now be symmetrical yes we are we have to make you even have to make me even not everything is symmetrical as we know as women i think you ladies you know what i'm talking about right oh yeah so the best way to really address that is to celebrate the fact that we're not perfect nor should we be and these small little fixes like this if it makes you smile go for an exact right these are the things that make a change in our lives with breaking the bank else out without breaking the bank you're right that's a good way to put it and again most importantly like we talked about before as a so we're to have a talk  i'm talking away from the camera but the self esteem it's all about self esteem to make yourself feel a little bit better especially when you're going through a transition absolutely i have to watch the clock i know we're going to be ending soon but this is going to tell me we're done ok cool so we're done with creases all right seat i got two pieces added to my head no two pieces on each side two pieces four pieces four pieces all right cool i don't know i don't know what you're doing i just  and sometimes just a couple pieces can make you i think it did i feel like i think it did make a difference need thank you this is so good i didn't know what we decided do a demonstration i hope you guys enjoyed that so having said that oh this is so much fun we've never done a demonstration of my show before i want to close by saying i'm thanking hala for coming but i also want people to know where to find her hollow look into your camera and tell everybody how they can extensions my phone number is two or one six three eight zero two six two one of your fabulous you're forgetting how fabulous you are you were like you are you you work with breast cancer red hair for the heart association and there are so many things you can do with hair extensions that would make a difference thank you for coming on my show thank you for being my