detective and julie maddox who i call the wellness coach yeah i think that's it we've been doing this well now lies and i somehow so they're see you're a co host now so all the more reason why you would have it you know so so if this is your first time tuning in what we really try to do with this show our mission is to make sure that people have the tools to live well today i spent twenty five years working in hospitals and i always believed you shouldn't get so sick to have to learn to live well and so was always my dream to be able to do this so you ladies kind of help me do my dream and you got to go back and look at some of our old shows because we've talked about a lot of different things over oh it's definitely been over a year but the thing we're going to talk about today is stress and we've done couple different shows on stress but i like getting people to look at it a little bit differently every single time and so that's what we're going to do and in order to do this it's kind of like an exercise we're going to kind of brainstorm and then this way it help you guys do the exercise you don't have to think just all in your own heads but the concept is of this a stress cycle and kind of what i mean by that is you start off and you have something that causes stress and then that stress the stress symptom and then that symptom makes whatever was causing you stress even bigger and so what happens is it's like a psych loan it just speeds up it speeds up and gets faster and faster you know  for example for me work was the source i can remember work going to the hospital twelve thirteen fourteen years ago and i love my job but it was still very stressful and so i would end up getting a migraine headache and of course that made it harder to do my job and in the more heart of was due to my job the worse my head hurt and that's where i came up with the cyclons because not just my three o'clock in the afternoon i was going home to go to bed because i just it ha managing personal stress but not my patients i was great managing that stress it was really my coworkers that i wasn't very good at oh and i come to learn that who used to think oh it's my neck giving me the migraines and then when i started treating my neck i realized and learned that while your net gets like that because of that s and so kind of connecting the dots bear i did and that's really what led me to saw it start to interrupt the whole idea is we interrupt the pattern you know so this is i'd start to do it i'd use a tool you know to interrupt it because then it goes sideways what we're trying to do is not get it to where it gets so bad did it really whether it's pain or whatever that is we wanted to go sideways rather than picking up speed so to start i want to get an idea of things that stress me out so we're going to make a master list right here ok so give me something something that  unusual right cept that it was now what about the medicine do i not do i have to repeat a minute so it started cycle own but that was that was really minor compared to everything else with that that was just one isolated stress  listening watching you now i thought you know let it i want to go right i think it's important to have a just take yourself away from the situations the stress because otherwise it's  so here's we're going to we're going to come up with just a brainstorm a lot of stress and i write because i want to have you guys in the in a work she will put up for everybody to also do is completing their own stress cyclons but what i found is that if we can have stuff that we can all look at so we're going to come up with a list of things to stress out and then we're going to come up with a way of healthy things to do so that's going to be what will kind of then you guys can use what we've got fill in like you're next there so how this is in the communication realm not communicating so that adds to poor  planning not other people but i invite it it affects me well poor communication can and can be a stressor for a lot of people whether it's personal life you're in work settings you know and it just it makes it makes a big difference yeah i think i was a little bit guilty of that myself around this trip not really letting people know where i was going to be and the other part was about how he could see it stressed me out but it didn't really was where i stayed in his lovely bed and breakfast humming bird haven which i saw humming birds out the windows the wall there was no cell no internet around and so in one i enjoyed it but it made it hard to communicate to people you know who are used to your communication i can't call them up and say oh i'm ok he thinks i'm also just chronic pain yeah put myself and yes and yes yeah i've been trying to get better with that i was really bad yeah so i'd wait til the night before a workshop i was doing in order to get stuff ready and then i'd be up to like really late and then so so last week actually preparing for tennessee i got things ready two days ahead of time so that it was all done all ready to go so and i would have had my stuff ready for saturday but now there's more people so i got to make more stuff spend so this is interesting i'm going through the list and a lot of the stuff doesn't stress me out so that's a positive yeah might be allergic to pets or fraid of pets and depending on how many i have at the time i mean well and i want to just put this up here because i think i said it was my example but i think we're even working you know i mean so so so one of the shows we did was we did our for plate right and we looked at things to stress to so we looked at what could we avoid and what could we just actually manage and adapt we could do the same with this list and you know certainly if there's ways to avoid it for example the news for me i can't avoid it i don't necessarily need to listen to it but work because what there are certain things that aren't avoidable you know i mean if you have dogs you've got pets and we're just kind of goes for showing so what i want to do is spend a little bit of time i want to change colors now coming up with some very healthy so this innate history i've watched you do this you've gotten over the time we've done to show you of all have definitely used to tools that we've talked about here i mean i could i've just seen a difference in you so so that's what we're going to brainstorm next on is what are some of healthy ways of interrupting the patter not the unhealthy ways you know it but but some healthy ways to do that all right so let's change colors and think about traffic if you were going to a client and you were stuck and it was an ambulance and the road was coming the accident road was closed you couldn't get to the nature preserve you could still find a way to connect to nature right there in your  so if you think about and that's why i changed the word to interrupters because i think that's what we're kind of doing there something you do i know you do this surely what you don't communicate outside yourself but what you it was yeah yeah actually let's just put this because i think you're right that's the that's the piece of it is that it's just doing something physical if i had been able to do that you know then that's that's like having stress balls quite honestly that's that seventy eight to go to nashville because i went out while we know pennsylvania i went out that way because i live one hundred and counting all so i went out several eight and then eighty one and then arca yeah oh it an orange scent or vanilla and i are kind of glomming and soothing and interrupting you know yeah that's i remember i had a horrible boss and horrible work situation and the one thing i figured out was this scent that just there's neural biochemical changes that happen when we or adding an animal you know changes i believe the cortisol the dopamine levels like really physical changes which is why pet therapy is really so important and i think that's all even my feral cat alive because i'm so much love yeah yeah yeah well we should s bit of work but how to use this to make a difference and this is really it helped me change to the migraines you know when i would catch it i would then have a what else can i do and the set became one of that so cause of your stress this is going to be your symptom response to just you guys should stick with me for that one so when you do you need to li to you you know or used to happen to you cuz it's true you guys if you guys have really taken some of the tools we've talked about and put them into practice so so for example me would be the cause is work going to pain because for me i really still have to be very careful you know of my what our stress responses are kind of like our killie's feel like whatever we're the most at risk for is going to be what happens  o oh another one for me would be you know a lifetime of nutrition and things and yeah when i am in my better eating healthy i always feel better no matter what's going on anyway so i have to keep that in mind so he thinking yeah so i there's no like we can try and interrupted up here and it might prevent us from having this behavior especially if this is a behavior if for our responses of behavior we can use other tools to interrupt it up here so that you you know you don't go to the behavior or for me it was work and i wouldn't catch it ahead of time and so what i would do is then try and interrupt there so so give me what i want to in that because it was if i was being stressed out at the moment and i'm at work i can go to the movies but i could treat myself you know to whatever yeah i mean even just taking a few moments to say guess what let me just close off everybody else and we go alone for a while so this makes sense i don't it's just a different way of looking at stress and the pattern is to me managing is not letting it pick up speed on you but just kind of neutralizing it from the start and guess what we just did this excellent on time so thank you again ladies and for your wonderful participation we will have the work sheets for you so