hello welcome to a very special segment of truth today with gloria thomas i'm your host and i first want to thank you for inviting me into your home today or tonight whatever time an issue to see this show and i want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the time that you take out of your life to watch the show today it's my prayer and my intention that the show tonight will is specially if you are a lady if you are a woman if you are a little girl i hope that my show makes your life a more comfortable place to be and i specially pray that it will give you the strength and the courage to reach out to a young lady or a young woman or a little girl come in behind you and help make their life a happier life to have in make their life a better place to be back first want to start the show with a moment of prayer prayer changes things and it matters not what we're praying for to some degree i'm uncertain we don't pray for ridiculous things we wouldn't waste our time and god's time like that but prayers faithful honest earnest prayers change things and so i'm praying today for women  i'm praying for all the pain and anguish that many women live in today praying for our courage to be honest about the pain and anguish that we live in and i'm praying that we step out of that pain and that anguish and that we create lives that complement us that encourage us that lift us up and that make us no longer be prey to all the historical lies that have been pursued been spread about women so if you're a lady pray with me if you're a man pray with me because men and women are the only two humans who will be on this planet together so lord jesus i give thanks for this breath this breath confirms that i'm alive this breath confirms that i am well this breath confirms that there are dreams that i am capable of making come true there are people i am able to help there is healing and development in my life that i am able to take responsibility for and for that i say thank you so very much dear god i am praying for all the women in the world young women old women women who aren't even born yet i'm praying that their walk will not be hindered by the historical lies and miseducation that my life was hindered by i pray that their lives we volved in release a truth that it that our lives and their lives will evolve and release a truth that is so beautiful and so caring and so wonderful that women all over the globe will be grateful and honored to be a woman i give i send this prayer through your son jesus i grant that it will not come back void i grant that my prayer has the power to shift life from now throughout eternity because i'm a heart of hearts i believe that that's possible so i send this prayer there your son jesus i declare that the words will not come back void and that when men are beautiful women are special and that women can assume responsibility for the uplift of their lives in the uplift of women coming behind them a man will do so as you see i have a lot of passion in my heart today and a lot of gratitude that i'm a woman i have a lot of gratitude that i'm coming up on a birthday i'm going to be sixty years old soon and i've seen a lot of women leave the earth before they made it to sixty and while i can't predict the future it is my prayer to live a long long healthy life as most of us do but i want to talk a lot today about women who may not be at a place of happiness and joy today i haven't always been at this place i haven't always sat in the seat what with all the gratitude that i have for my life with the love and the passion i have for my life i haven't always been this healthy about my outlooks as a woman and about my place in the world and in fact historically a lot of miseducation and a lot of truths were spread long before i came to the planet long long long long years ago there were a lot of things said about women at large that  demeaned us that injured us that frightened us that were downright dishonest and i'd like to today with the power of the holy spirit with the guidance of the holy spirit with the guidance of all the women who are hurting right now with the support and the prayers of all the women who are hurting right now i want to put on my my armor if you will and i want to step out in fa dismantle some of the lies and the miseducation that we've been fed that has caused us to not feel so good about who we are and what we are and has caused us to live lives that were not as beautiful as they could be because we were restricted by historical lies and misinformation about us as women and that we were frightened by a lot of our environments because they were not conducive to be a beautiful woman so i'm going to first start by reading something that i received this book meditation spur women who do too much from a lady who actually passed away she was a dear friend she was my therapist for many years and she was a sister in recovery and she gave me this book on july the twentieth hundred ninety and she wrote in here gloria as you're being a mother lover student worker except shura this may help you keep things in perspective and then she wrote gloria congratulations on graduating and continuing on in school good luck in sacramento i love you and my prayers are with do you love jerry do you like this title and  jerry was one of the my main supporters on my road through education as i've shared before i was a woman who did not go to college until i was thirty four years old i had been married and had four children had been married twice and  had four children by the time i was a college student and i encourage women to go to college first don't do it the way i did it however if you found yourself married and then divorced and you have young children that you're trying to raise education is a very sound way to be able to create the financial full old that you're going to need to raise your children and especially if you don't get a lot of help from your ex husband or your children's fathers i am not going to talk about none of that on this show that's for another show but by a woman establish herself with some education and receive proper training to have to receive gainful employment she can make a world of difference in her own life because she may not marry again and have a two income household and she's still going to be the mother of children and those children are still going to be looking to her for their needs and so one of the ways that a woman can address her needs and help raise her children or raise her children especially if she doesn't receive help  is through education so i was graduating from san francisco city college in one nine hundred ninety i'd been accepted at sacramental state and just before i moved up to sacramento  jerry geodes gave me this book and the title is meditations for women who do too much which is probably most of us and so september twenty eighth which just today reads enda spen but my family needs me anonymous housewife there is nothing as secure as being needed or is there there is nothing is draining as being needed we have often made ourselves indispensable at work and at home so that we feel so that we would feel secure and wanted deep down it is conceivable inconceivable that people in our lives could love us for who we are even if they might could we afford to take the risk and let their love come to us of course our children need us but often much less than we would unfortunately trying to in fact we confuse the two when i'm trying to make myself indispensable i know that i need to look inside to see what i'm feeling so it didn't as a mother as as first a woman a young woman and then as a mother and i became a mother early in my life as a wife as a worker as a than student as a worker again as a daughter as a a mother as a granddaughter as a grandmother as a nice as a sister as a cousin as a friend i have worn so many hats that i've lost track of all the hats of war and i'm only sixty and while i give a lot i have a lot of gratitude i have a lot of thanksgiving in my heart for all the different hats i've been able to wear at sixty i can look back and see that it's taken quite the toll i first want to go back to as a little girl as a little girl little girl this is me when i was a little girl a little girl a baby first and then a little girl does was this was my this was my first birthday i hope you can see that this is my first birthday as a little girl well first me as a baby this was my first baby picture then i was one years old and this is my baby picture when i was one and then i was two and here's my baby picture  as a little girl i saw many things that i would later learn that that later i would realize injured me as a little girl that broke my heart as a little girl and that frightened me as a little girl i saw things like women in marriages who were not treated kind i saw men who weren't treated kind as well but i saw women who were treated kind who were verbal abuse too were emotionally abused sure financially abused only i didn't know what that was and i didn't understand what that was and that's one call and the the title of the show the truth today because the truth today is i saw all this abuse only i didn't know that that's what it was and u nfortunately i actually internalized that that's how it was supposed to be now certainly all the men i saw weren't verbal abuse of all the men i saw weren't financially abusive all the men i saw were psychologically cruel but some of them more and that kind of injury for a little girl to see can cause her to grow up thinking that that's the way it's supposed to be so then i started school and do you know what they told me in school they told me that women were witches and that they were burned at the stake can you imagine how frightening that was for a little girl to hear now i understand today that the women who were called witches were probably burned at the stake because men were insecure with the leadership abilities that these women add at that time men were insecure with how capable women could be because if you go back to african history there were women and africa who were leading armies who were warriors who were taken their villages out to conquer other villages women were doing that queen moon was a queen and africa who the other villages kept coming in tribes were coming in and raiding or village and killing her her men and women and this woman queen had the wherewithal to have them in and the women dig trenches around her village to redirect the river so that the rever would create a barrier between the land and prevent men from coming to their village to still everything so now african history is the oldest history on earth and if women were that capable in africa at that time then certainly by the time the europeans were still in the united states they were still capable they were still talented they were still gifted and of course a woman is the most beautiful thing on the planet so but i didn't always think like that and i did ollie's know that so women were so  threatening to men that men came up with i'll come alive now i'm just going to focus on a little bit of history i'm not i can't go back through all of history and talk about all the lies that we're told throughout history on women because i don't have enough time in this one show but i just got the bright idea that this is how sharper a woman can be i'm good this show is going to be two parts and i'm going to bring in some more information about how capable women have been for eternity remember now we're the ones that have baby does how beautiful the magnificent is that is that you know every man that's had a child and that's been a part of the liver the livery process bears witness that is the most amazing thing that you can ever experience and just think we're the ones that have the baby so i mean doesn't that make us the most special human being on the planet dump it does to me now all women don't have children does that mean that they're not special course not all women are special and all men are special but my goal today is to shed some light on how damaging the misinformation has been and how tragically injured women can become as a result of the misinformation so women were so capable and were so smart and so intelligent and so loving and so kind and see them and and so compassionate that men historically have come up with either laws outright lies or miseducation that has served to keep us from no one how beautiful and how talented and how gifted and how blessed we are so you know i suffered many many years in my life because i had no idea how beautiful a woman is and i had no idea of how smart a woman is and i had no idea how capable a woman is i didn't know that the most beautiful thing on the planet is to be able to give birth that's there's just not many nothing you can compare to death and yet it's women who do that and so that one fact alone i hope will help us to yield and i hope will help us to outright knock down any lie that we're told that makes us feel like we're less than that we're not capable you know lies like we're too emotional we're too we cry too much like my position is you mean you don't have the emotional maturity to handle my two years that don't make me a baby that might suggest that you might be emotionally immature if you can handle some tears you  supposed to happen in life but you know if you start crying and people get all bent on a shave because like duh how could there be something wrong with tears and so you know i used to pretend that my feelings wouldn't get hurt when somebody said something that was negative or directed a comment that was offensive towards me but their expectation was  that it shouldn't bother me because it really wasn't offensive and it was an intended to be offensive when really it was it was very offensive and i don't want to pull up all those offensive comments today that women you know receiver here but you know we all have heard and many many many many many many offensive things and so and then we were told you know you're person who can express emotion i am a woman who can express her emotions and her thoughts and her feelings and i do not have to be governed by them and that's a very beautiful thing and yet when i look back i can see meaning many times in my life that i was surrounded by men and women who were not comfortable with being who they really were and expressing their selves in a loving kind compassionate and caring way and as i read i saw women who love their children love their grandchildren but could not take care of themselves and their marriages capable of doing something different that's part of the miseducation women there was a time for a woman that all she could do was stay home and have children and run her house and wait for her husband to come home with whatever money she made and she was entrusted to run the house feed the kids take care the bills and make sure he was satisfied with all the areas of his life now that's like the best like a corporation really does like you running your own corporation when you have to do that that's the skill set and that's the talent set that you need to run a corporation your corporation is your family and so i saw many women with that level of responsibility on their hands and on their shoulders and i never well let me backtrack i her very few men say you know my wife is a beautiful capable woman she runs the house she runs the finances i've never gone without a meal i'm never had my pee genie in my life turned off in a matter how long i stay away from home when i come home my key still fits the door that i grew up with women who are capable of doing that women who did that i on the other hand had a different experience i on the other hand did a lot of that felt so happy to do that i would i was excited to do that but unfortunately i found myself getting resentful i found myself being angry because i was i wasn't marriages with went with men who appreciated her new hat appreciate that who knew how to complement that who knew how to show gratitude for that so i like a lot of women went by now you know women and my grandmother great grandmother my mother's era didn't have that option a woman couldn't drive a car my my mother my grandmother my great grandmother my great great grandmother none of them ever learned how to drive a car none of their sisters ever learned how to drive a car and they went to their graves not knowing how to drive  because of the restrictions that were on women at that time a woman couldn't buy a house on her own she couldn't go outside of the house and work unless she was going into somebody else's kitchen to work so opportunities were available for women so when i came along there was much more opportunity available and women made the decision look at the mother go to work every day and i'm going to pay bills every day and i'm going to sacrifice for this family every day and i'm not going to be treated properly well then i'm better off by myself and so we're now entering a era where women are not even opting for marriage because they don't see any benefit to it they don't see the benefit of being in a union with a man and living forever and just kind of go on through whatever comes up they don't see the benefit of it and certainly you know marriage is a cornerstone of civilization marriages what people use women or what they are or what used to settle men to me to give men compassion and love so that they can look learn what love is about but when women make a decision that what they get in return a work that you know men might experience seven children with the women but men are probably easily going to go to their graves now without being married just like women are willing to do because women do not want to be true read it like handmaidens without any kind of appreciation if you have to go to work every day das just go to work to carry yourself why be married and struggle with the with a man who doesn't have the same commitment to life and the quality of life as you do now that's where meaning women are finding themselves in many women are not going along with that old ideal so you know i'm not sure where we're headed it was all that because i can't see the future but i do know that the miseducation and the misinformation that has been spread about women has cause women to not want to put themselves out there like that and so my desire in my prayer is that historically we clean acts up you know we stop having all these men guide policy for women that have no interest and was best for white men that have no interest in wanting a world that works for men and women and that that want to men who don't want to world that make that works best for men and women so if you're a young man today if you're a young boy today make sure that you ask men they you know how to love and respect women so somebody can teach you you may help them grow and if you're a woman do not settle for money sex and a place to live when you want love don't settle for those things because they aren't love you want somebody who can make a commitment somebody who's will and somebody who's capable to bring a level of that you to your marriage that you bring so i'm not a tie  one minit give me a call let me know what you think about the show and remember the truth today is women are beautiful beautiful and we don't for lies and deceit when we really want live say a prayer for somebody especially somebody that doesn't know that you're praying for them and i love you and i will see you next time take care by