most of your city back there well let me tell you something there are very few things in this world that you could do that would make your family more proud of you than they are today anywhere in the world would jump for joy at ikea their  child walking across the stage at graduation receiving their diploma and achieving such a huge milestone but in our community specifically graduation is more meaningful than that it's not just academic and professional success it shows your parents that it was worth it everything they went through was worth it they endured a civil war they left a country that was everything to them they are now in a country where they don't speak the language they didn't make a lot of money they worked backbreaking low paying jobs just to support us today what you've done yes validate their froebel you have done you showed them that it was true that if they yes you have accomplished a lot but the question now is how do you continue all this have because it is so easy to fall off the path how do you continue to achieving the whole with  been achieving and i don't know what all of that a lot of you but i do have three pieces of advice that i hope will be helpful it's been helpful for me hopefully will be helpful for you and they relate to dominos seat belts and bungee jumping always down at the other side ends up falling down this is a metaphor for life that's exactly what life is everything you're doing today will impact your future i i meant for a lot of kids who are younger than me a lot of them are in their mid twent now and the biggest thing that they tell me their biggest regret is that they didn't understand how age sixteen seventeen eighteen the things that they were doing boom boom boom impact their life twenty five thirty five forty five i read you a text message that i got from one of the students that i mentor and it talks about this point and it's a long text message because she was feeling passionate about it and she says i kind of messed up my future by taking everything for granted and not taking anything seriously i wish i could have done so many things differently as far as i'm getting older i'm starting to realize how serious like this i was remember since i was younger say when i turned twenty six graduated high school be married and have a first child but i'm twenty three now people are always asking me what are the graduate school and said and we end up going to be almost twenty eight when i finish and i can't do anything and so on in my thirty's now i just regress so much i really wish i said everything seriously a long time ago it just makes me sad that my younger self failed me and this is the first time i get a person has told me that so i know some of your young sixteen seventeen eighteen but what i'm doing worth the risk of harm to myself or my family etc so i had one moment when i was new year's eve a few years ago and i was leaving this bar and it was fun and psycho when i got it all i know it's there was some hole that i think there had been involved in the conflict you have to be able to do this risk analysis in your head and it happens all the time duis catch fifteen dollars that don't get in your heart risk failing you know your record don't risk hurting someone or yourself so that's goes away very quickly so if you've ever been decided to do something so you have the physicians or nurses or actors of lawyers doctors you have to just get up and do it how do you have been dead and signs of growing up early in the morning and