welcome it's your future this episode we talk about love it life you love life you hate life let's find out check out this episode reasons why people fail a life number one reason no plan when you don't have a plan you don't have a roadmap to where you're going how can you know what goals you've set whether or not you've been successful or whether you fail if you don't have a plan then you have no parameters for your life so you need a plan plans are very important i remember not having a plan so therefore everything that i did it was just scattered i would go anywhere would be engaging in pretty much any activity and didn't have a measurement point to determine whether or not it aligned with my goals number two reason why people feel the life i learn is that they have no commitment to the plan commitment is the resolve to follow through it's like when you say this is my work i'm a get it done well to be married and i sat before my wife and before a bunch of other people and she was my fiance at the time whatever the case may be when we stood there and we may be as valid to each other it was a commitment to follow through and to sa no matter what i'm going to see this through i'm going to stay married i'm going to be faithful to you that's what it is to be committed to your plans you have goals but you don't stay committed to them you don't have accountability and we all need accountability and the third reason why people f life is that they move too slowly they procrastinate they put off the things that are for today for tomorrow and tomorrow never comes for the procrastinator so those are three major reasons why people felt on life and i think you should evaluate those and figure out are you under one of those categories and are you failing in one of them and do you need help let's figure that out so what we're going to do next is we're going to taking inventory and assess what it is that you have available right at your disposal but  may not have recognize what talents abilities what relationships what skills what resources are at your disposal but you have to recognize them let's check it out and we'll find out how we can utilize them and how you can utilize them for your success yes yes yes out here in downtown seattle looking at the beauty of the city one of the things that always dawns upon me is i see so many people in transit like trying to figure out where they're going their destination they're going on their breaks sometimes lunch breaks dinner breaks coffee break or they're going to a meeting but angry body just seems so busy and the question i wonder when i see everybody so busy doing their thing out here hustling out your grind in is are they off thank you because there is totally a difference between being busy and being affective like you would have like your whole schedule filled up how many of you ever have felt like you know you go to sleep at the end of the day and then you're like what did i really do today well like you were busy but you were busy doing a whole bunch of nothing but i saw a funny post on facebook the other day that was like somebody put this picture up talking about how they were obsessive compulsive anxiety cleaner disorder or something like that and so what the basic premise was is that they start cleaning up one thing and then they see another thing many's to be cleaned up and then they'll go clean that out and then they'll see another thing that in the midst of cleaning that up that needs to go be cleaned up and they will clean that up so at the end of their time frame that they sent to clean it doesn't look like anything's been done because everything's been done partially and there was a lot of business but not effectiveness so that's my question is how do you i feel how do you measure your effectiveness what makes you realize that you had an effect of alcohol and i think that made the magnet that holds it all together is having a vision having a plan and having goals and dreams and aspirations that you've mapped out because that cause you right back into it otherwise i think you can be spinning your wheels and you're in effect  making sure you have the right people around you want the right team and the right people why is that important i'm because there's a lot of things that you do or something you want people to judge you you want to feel comfortable when you do things and you don't have people around in your circle that  you you know i mean it makes you not kind of your goals the way you want to when you have versus when you have people that are on an encouraging they're there for you so what would you if you were to say like after it's all said and done when your life was over what would be one of the major things you would have liked to have achieved get a mansion pulled like i don't even know like closets with a lot of clothes and then when if i did that i wanted to give it away to all everybody doesn't even matter if you're homeless or not does anybody can have it really you know ok what would you define as the good life being out of you with everything but you have not to ask for much and again a lot of people say money brings happiness but to be honest with you it's how much you have values for what you have i think that's what that's what matters to be with family to be some stuff like that so it's not necessarily defined by stuff but by more like the people is what you're saying no not necessarily it's by how much you really educate yourself how much you you know yourself i think that's what really matters the most for example being f family enjoying the time to do you have not for asking much whatever you have appreciate what you have so i wanted to ask you just a couple of questions what would you define as the good life the good life is annoying where you're going and knowing where you came from and avin goal and a set goal dates you right now on paper that's that's a good life and being comfortable so first off let's look at what it is that we have when i mean it take it when tori is that like assess what's available to you that you may not have been utilizing in the first place so so many of us can look at all the things we don't have or in a  weakness or a deficit based culture so you go to school and they tell you you're good at writing but you're not good at math or you're good at math but you're not really good at science so they're kind of always telling you what you need to improve on or they might tell you that you're a good speaker but you're not a good listener so let's take inventory of what it is that you do have let's count what's at your disposal so let's talk take inventory of a couple areas first off let's take a skills him and tor what skills are after disposal that you may not be aware of you might be phenomenal at writing poetry you might be phenomenal in observation like science like when you really flourish when it comes to science you check out what's going on out in the outdoors you assess things you measure you really have the ability to remember things about science and in the scientific realm you think like a scientific thinker that my entry you and other people might be bored out of their minds my son is four and a half years old and he loves understanding wildlife is telling me stuff about wildlife that i don't even know i'm like from the books we read he retains that information from the television shows that he watches he retains the information and he loves that stuff and so that's something that he skilled that he's also skilled at directing and telling us how to play with him and what play and how worst doing scenes that might be you you might be a good writer of stories and you might have a great imagination that's real colorful or you might be a great listener or you might have be ability to do things with your hands will you put things together well you can break them apart you can get real deep behind you might be amazing a computer i'm just throwing examples out there because i don't want you to miss the opportunity to see something that you were really good at and that it always gets better no matter what you do it can only get better and better and for other people they're stuck they look at you and they're like how are you able to do it but for you it comes easily take an inventory of your skills and start to write those things down what is that that is your unique difference that is your your what sets you apart from everybody else think about that next off let us take a knowledge inventory what things do you know so we talked a little bit about it in the skills inventory about actual things that you could do but in the knowledge image or what do you read up on what interests you what do you get irritated that you have to stop in the middle of the day of doing that like your mom's like a it's time for you to do your chores or you have to go work on something and you get pulled away from this thing and you're really into it you have a hunger a ferocious or erases hun a really good appetite for this whether you're watching documentaries whether you're listening to certain types of music whether you are going out to go to plays and you're going out to photo shoots and shows and you're just you have a knowledge about these things and you are really expert to be reckoned with and you may not even consider yourself an expert but other people ask you things like i have a friend who really knows a lot about music and he can really listen to a song and can break it down and he can critique it and he can tell me about the instruments he could tell me about the year it was made he could tell me about the artist and i'm like how do you know this stuff he's like oh i just read up on the covers and i go online and i'm like you just do this on your own like and it's it's just something that i'm interested in i have another friend who's really interested in films and as a result of him being always so interested in films i told him that he should start writing and he started writing and he became a blogger that is really getting a lot of acclaim for his blogging but he had an unusual knowledge about feel and he had an unusual knowledge about what it takes to put the film together who's making the feel how the actors came together what the budget was that was used on it the different story types this was a knowledge based in tori that he had to do of himself to realize that i am unusual least skilled at this so when you take a inventory of your relationships you figure out that there are some relationships that are beneficial to you and some that are harmful to you which relationships are adding value to you they're helping you to stay on your goals they're keeping you focused they're helping you i had people who pull me off track and that were always a distraction but i didn't recognize it and i consider those friends but they weren't really friends they were more distractions they didn't realize it so also i want you to understand what is your perception of yourself how do you figure out how you perceive yourself see some people have a overinflated sense of themselves they think all is going well in their relationships or all might be going well with themself with the gift that they have they don't really have i had a friend who was really a at like doing music but he was really phenomenal when it came to design and when you look at it is design he was blowing people out of the water i had another friend who was who wanted to rap but he can really sing really well and he was not good at rapping at all and so i want you to really look at your ability we talk about american idol and you see people who come on there and that's why we love watching those auditions right is because it would be brutal to watch people who thought that they were really good and they were sincere but they were sincerely wrong so let's take a real on its inventory and figure out what we have and what we don't have what  course it wasn't always that i thought of success and when i heard the word success and achievement i thought about clothes you know i thought about money i thought about houses call r s i thought about being able to take a lot during his vacations all these type of things but realistically i realize that at the end of that in my thought process that wasn't all that i wanted a life because being exposed to having making more money than i ever made in my life it still did not bring me the fulfillment that i thought it would bring me so i'm asking you to evaluate what does success mean to you how do you measure success what about you discovering what it is that you're here to do what about you discovering what your calling is what your passion is what your vocation what your purpose what your destiny is because then you know you sleep well at night when you realize that wait a minute i've made the plans but the plans are based upon what it is that i'm good at and who i'm supposed to be what what contribution can you make to society to change it for me my passion is young people my passion is getting the word out to let you know that you have hope in the future rather than being stressed out and bogged down in feeling as if you can't do what it is that you're supposed to do so we're showing just a little perspective and open up your eyes to see back to the basics when we go back and we looked at what's the plan how are you making the plan are you committed to that plan and are you going to move and act fast on it so evaluate what a success means to me what does it mean that's a good question for you to evaluate for yourself it's an introspective question but it's a very necessary question because otherwise if you're thinking that success means man i want to be able to take as many vacations as i want and then you start taking those vacations you hit that goal than all this and you bottom out and you're depressed and you're like was wrong do you realize there was more than that so i say go for the big picture let's look at the big picture what contribution can you make what lives can you change i don't know what success looks like to you don't let it be defined by marketers and i don't have anything against business because i love clothes i love fashion i love going places and doing things but you have to determine what is success for you and it's your future so let's design u and let's talk about how unique you are a many of us don't realize that we are more been average because we are surrounded by a situation in a society that really makes everyone feel like you're just another face in the car crowd there's even a saying where people talk about one in a million and used to be a popular song way back in the day i guess one in a million later would in a million i can't sing as you can see aaliyah also had a song called one in a million people talk about one in a million shot and one in a million seems like you know ridiculous that are stacked against you but if you think about it in the flipside and you look at the world's population the planet earth has a population of over seven billion and climbing and so you are really one in seven billion that is tremendous that means you stand out you nobody has your thumbprint nobody has your voice for it nobody has your d n a you are an original you're in a masterpiece you are you are a fine work of art but most people don't tell you that because it's easy to just think that you're just another person here taking up space breathing oxygen so let's figure out what it is about your uniqueness that you can use to your advantage so for me i'll talk a little bit about myself i remember having all kinds of jobs as a young man and not knowing why i wasn't doing well in those jobs like when i have a job they just were doing anything for me like i would do on and i would perform but at the same time as i'm performing i didn't get fulfillment out of it i had one job where i had office that was underground and i could see people i was away from people than i was bogged in paperwork and i was always going to do reports in and measure metrics and do meetings and all kinds of data and analysis but my heart was not in it because i was separate away from people that maybe you i'm a people person i knew that for myself and i knew that i had to be driving and engaged in people in conversation and dialogue and breaking it down and really chop it up that's who i am on that guy that loves to get in  h people and so to be separate from people was like geranium me it was the pleading me it was causing for me to feel like i was on a absence or a i was constantly losing energy so for yourself what things bring you alive what things cause for you to really feel like you're flourishing that you lose track of time i knew for myself it was really giving people instruction it was really working with people it was really helping people identify what they do best i love sitting with people and helping them i love coaching people encouraging people i love br people out of their comfort zone and into the next level of their destiny and who they're supposed to be so we talked about earlier in segments about some of my peers who were ok at certain areas they were ok at singing but i mean they were amazing at singing but they were ok at rap and they really wanted to rap and they really were set on rapping and getting out there and making a hardcore beats and being a rapper but they're phenomenal when it came to singing like they were exceptional their their voice was amazing their hearts were touched when they sang but they didn't really like to do it it's almost like they despise it you might have gifts like that where you're despising your gift and you're ok at something else you're like man i'm really good at this people tell me i'm good at that and it may not bring enjoyment of fulfillment i'm not telling you to do something that doesn't bring you into i mean what i'm saying is that where can you get the most return on your investment because if you invest in ability that you have and it allows you to open a door ways for you to do those other things that you might want to do as a hobby then do it so identify your uniqueness i also want to talk about i had a friend like i said who was doing the writing and he was always talking about fail me and he didn't realize that he was tremendous at writing and he got better and better and better and he continues to be exceptionally better when he had an outlet he created an outlet to be able to do that and then now we are able to see him flourish for me i had to create a outlet through training and teaching and instruction i had to create books and resources for people i'm able to go to companies and organizations and spend time with them because i discovered something that was unique about me i'm encouraging or i'm an instructor i love to lead people and to help them be led and find their own unique leadership so i want you to him and tori i want you to take an assessment i want you to realize that you are valuable you are not just a face in the crowd you are not alone you are not old or useless you're not too old or too young rarity determines value and you are that diamond that is hidden in the so let's cultivate you and see you shine where you're supposed to shine that's what this is about let's find out it's your future and let's do inventory and assess what you have to offer to the table you are unique if you are ready to begin developing your future we would like to offer you the it's your future book this book will take you through twenty five principles that will help you gather the right people to make a plan and walked into your destiny to order the book please go to get your future toward dot com we know this book will empower you and inspire you don't wait build your future today don't kill your dreams i'm not here to kill or steal your dreams i'm trying to tell you to learn how to be specific with how you focus your time working you get the most return on the investment of what has been deposited inside of you see for me i i'm a motivator i'm an instructor at the same time i love to do as a hobby i love music i love write and saul's i love getting up in front of crowds and delivering those songs and causing for people to be charged an energized i love that form of music whether it be rap which i love doing and i'm good at or rather well whether it be writing songs i can't sing the songs but i love writing songs for other people that they sing and they really enjoy them at the same time those things do not cause for me to gain economic influence that i need to be able to be a has been and to be a father they are a what i know what is known to me as like a recreation or a leisure activity that at the same time i take the resources that i have for my businesses and i pour them into those things as well so i'm telling you to really just assess what it is that you're good at that you're exceptional at because just being average at something is not where the doorway is open your gift will make room for you and it will bring you before influential people but if you don't realize that and you're sitting there trying to despise your gift and put it to the side and you're chasing a fantasy of something else that you're just basically average at that will make you still stand out excellence demands attention you want to stand out and be excellent so i want to encourage you to day if you need help identifying what it is that you're good at if you need help trying to ask more self interrogation questions like bigger now how can i get in with myself and know what it is i'm good at and what it is i'm average at let me know drop me a line sue me email the email address is right up on the screen hit me up i want to get it in with you i want to help you figure out what you're good at or if you want to figure out  to take this to the next level don't have to take to reach out i don't want you to be in the dark concerning what it is that you have because you're rare you are unique you i have it you have a tremendous amount of gifts talents and abilities and i want to see you