following program is sponsored by seattle open door church seattle open door church is committed to loving god loving people and loving life our doors are open to whomever no masks required seattle open door church of those loves but that what you want to do is to be able to walk in and receive the love of christ so i pray they have you with this message in jesus name a in so what we're going to be doing is talking about love there's five different words that describe a lot of when you look at the greek in the new testament when it talks about the word love i want to remind you that we're doing a series last week you talked about the whole idea of a jesus revolution and and the move of god to be working in the love of god to be touching people's lives and today we're going to talk about what is love is next week we're going to talk about what love is not there we're going to be talking about the love of christ the love of the father the passion of god for his people and they're going to talk about that we are god's workmanship and that god wants us to be a basters for christ to be able to proclaim the gospel of this christ the love of christ to others so the five words that we're going to be looking at is the words  children is they have their friends at school or their friends in the neighborhood their friends in church and there's this friendship that goes on it's about the people that maybe know each other for years and years and they have this friendship or they care for each other children all happy and having fun and everything they don't know about each other they don't know what's going on and each other's life really they're just having some time that's for together and so that's a fellow slow and then you want to look at storage a store gay is affectionate love this slowly develops from friendship based on similarity i want to drink about that again listen story a is an affectionate love this slowly develops from friendship based on similarity so start again love as a law that starts out with being a friend it starts out as just being a friend knowing somebody what it says is an affection a love the slowly develops from friendship so this is the type of love where you know somebody has a friend maybe you work with them so you consider them a friend they're more than an acquaintance and but you start to get to know them and and then they're after a while just seems like there's something developing in that friendship and what happens is there's such to be an affectionate type of love and and it's based on similarity in the sense that that we have some common purposes and common good now we're talking about here is this is not a deep affectionate law this is not in iraq where there is sexuality going on this isn't a law where there super strong like an adoptee love but this is a a love that develops and i'll give an example of a friend named liz and liz and i were friends for years of people that we were going to get married but we didn't have any kind of an intimacy between the two of us and it was that because we had this this friendship that was a very close friendship that people could see it and it you could say there was an affection in it in a different way than we normally people would think of as an affection that i had to respect and honor for her she had respect and honor for me and we dislike doing things together we have some like some similarities and we're very different people but there are things that we had similarities in and and so that was it would be called a story gay love that's a healthy kind of love that can happen between the opposite sex were never leads to sex and never leads to an unhealthy intimacy and so that's the story gay love and then the other type of love that we want to talk about is the love that we see in the rule to day all over the place and that's eros law and that's a sexual love i want to clarify with you when we think of eros love with sexual love we as christians normally jump up down and tell my goodness that's terrible that's wrong this understand something sex tied to love and love tied to sex is wrong when it's under the guidelines of marriage and that god wants a husband a wife to or create he created man and woman to procreate that he would have wanted that a husband and wife are going to have a pure sexual love and so there's not them on with the sexual love the problem is but it's outside of storage is outside of the type of love that god desires for us to have it becomes sin it becomes wrong because everything that the people do is driven over that sex that and in reality if there's no sex i don't love you if you don't have sex with me do you think that's love if you don't have sex with me then i don't love you that certainly isn't the love it isn't the gop a lover going to be talking about and so that type of that sexual love is all based upon emotions all based upon fillings it's all based upon hormones and has nothing to do truly with love and so when people are practicing sex outside of marriage and say why lovely really love this person no what you're really saying is you really love having sex with this person or you're really saying is maybe you have a a friendship with this person that's wrapped around the sex but if you really love somebody then you'll make a commitment to him and we're going to talk about that that that i got the love is a commitment type of love that god would have us to have and so there's the eros love and so so far we've seen the last love that's the kind of a friendship love and then we see the storage a love that gets to be more than a friendship there there is some some affection there some concern there you you've spent time together and built a relationship and then there's the eros love the sexual love and then the next love that be fine the word is a mania a mania this is an obsessive love this is a that person and they say i just love them so much but it isn't a guinea a a gay type a love of god type a lot of a commitment type a love the commitment is i'm drilling to chase after i'm willing to be assessed and i'll do anything to get with you but it is all self sinners all to fill my flesh up and and it would happens is it becomes destructive it that some people will start out with good love some people start out with a good friendship but then it starts to go bad so obsessed with the wife that to the point that there's a jealousy in that she can't even talk to anybody but the man being suspicious and and he's anxious about what does she do it all she's on her phone who she talkin to and that it is obsessed and it's very destructive it only makes sense that this would be a destructive blob and so if we look at each of the loves we've talked about so far that we see that there's the friendship type of love of just being friends and then there's this it might be a closer friendship an intimate close friendship then there's the air os which is the sexual love and then we have the many a love that kind of that crazy love that is very self centered but god wants us to have is a  again a guy that's god's type of love it's a self sacrificing love you will give of yourself to others the more that you're more concerned about others and you concerned about yourself but hear me out if you don't take care of yourself you can't love others if you're not taken you're not become unhealthy and all how can you love somebody in a healthy and whole manner and so there's a self sacrificing love but it's the law where i have maturity in my own life and so i have something to love you with so it's a self sacrificing love a love that loves the unlovely it's a love that loves the unlovely it's a love based upon commitment and not emotion it's she so many people i love you i love you but there's no commitment whatsoever is based upon emotions  and i love you now but i don't know of the love you tomorrow so i don't want to get married because marriage means commitment and i don't want to make commitment i tell you what this does love each other and will love each other until it doesn't work out but when you say this love each other you know it doesn't work out it's not going to work out sooner or later or it's not going to be a close intimate relationship that god wants us to and the question is if you love somebody and you're really committed to them is a based upon emotions or based upon commitment that me tell you that if you really love somebody there will be emotions involved but if there's no commitment you don't really love them you're not steadfast with them and and we need to look at the bible and how to define a got to love what is god's love how do we define it will be have the love chapter love does not brag and is not arrogant does not act unbecomingly it does not seek its own is not provoked does not take into account a wrong suffer does not rejoice in un righteousness means long suffering if you love somebody and you love them with god's love your long suffering in that patience with them it says it's kind it's not jealous you do know that jealousy becomes a problem when you're really jealous it's all about you it is not about that other person love does not brag it's not arrogant in other words loved up prideful look at me how much i love you is that love it does not seek y does not seek its own is not provoked does not take into account a wrong suffered a guy as a forgiveness in it does not take into account a wrong suffered does not rejoice in on righteousness i don't try to find something wrong with you if i love you but rejoices with the truth that means the truth that means even if you say to me honey i have to tell you that when you do this i don't feel love that i have to face the that's the kind of love the guy would have us to have and when we hear that love we should they think of jesus right off the bat we should be drinking about who jesus is and that represents who christ is and if you want to know what it got be lava's look at jesus and his love for us that's why we're going to  thing is the love of god that if you have faith but know love the verse is saying that's not enough if you have hope but no love that's not enough with the verses say it is we christian we shouldn't willfully says a christian but i would fully sin as a christian and guess what god still loves me because love remains the be love remains let me tell you though there's something else about a love and i got to love according to his commandments while you here that is says that this is love that we walk according to commandments said john one six this is written by john john was what he was known as the use the known as the one love jesus and the one who loved jesus the one who was known as the one that love jesus is he writes and he says and this is love that we walk according to his commandments in other words if we love somebody we're going to obey god if we love god we're going to obey god if we love somebody we're going to be faithful to them and so out of it is do you have an obedient kind of love where you are faithful that person that you love are you faithful to that person love are you faithful to the god of this bible or are you faithful to the god who loves you is says for god so loved the role that he gave his only begotten son how much do you love jesus enough to die on the cross for us how much do you love jesus how much do you love god how much do you love others are you willing to die for them are you willing to give your life for them are you willing to give your all for them this go back it is look again at  first corinthians chapter thirteen this look at the love is patient are you willing to be patient are you willing to be launched a frame for individuals are you willing to quote put up with some things are you willing don't care at all but it at the same time we have to find that balance of how do we be kind to somebody who's not but how do we draw the line need to seek to find how we draw the line when we need to draw the line we're going to see that in  moment here is the love is not jealous don't be jealous because somebody else loves the person that you love let me explain that to you you certainly should be jealous of my i'm married to and if somebody starts to try to take my wife of three from me i'll be jealous if somebody tries to somehow woo hoo or i'll be jealous this is not talking about that type of jealous but what if my wife is talking on the phone and she's talking for half an hour are her best friend and i'm going to be jealous of that according to scripture and say should not be jealous of that be jealous that somebody gets some of my wife's time my wife knows that because i'm a pastor and i work with people with dog types of issues that a top people takes my time away from her and she has to learn to not be jealous of that because she would loves me enough to wants me to walk in my gifts and callings at the same time i need to take into consideration my time with her so there's a balance that's there love does not act coming only love does not embarrass the person that they love love does not shame the person love does not do things to harm the person love as to be a god type of love which is a humble love it is a love that is willing to seek after the the best of others and our own love is not provoked we don't get angry when we're in love and yet the couples that are in love get angry all the time but what the balance is saying is that we should not be provoked at every time something turns around or getting angry with the person that we love if we're getting angry all the time of the person we love at the say what's going on within our own  does not take into account a wrong suffered we don't we don't keep a list this see you for me this time this time this time this time and this time and i haven't hurt you that much so i'm better than you that is not love love does not take into account that is wrong love forgives love let's go praise god that god lets go whole god doesn't hold in account as if we confess our sins he cast of our says dry as far as the east is from the west he doesn't remember our sin if we love somebody we won't remember what they've done to us we will let it go now of course we're human beings we have no way to not remember but what i'm talking about is that to be don't play the tape you see is one thing when somebody is done something that we can't remember somebody's done something we're not going to forget what they've done but do we play the tape over and over again or love does not rejoice in unrighteousness does it rejoice and things that go wrong doesn't say it's ok we love each other drunkenness it says they will not inherit the kingdom of god listen to me if you are in love with somebody you will not walk in on going on right shifts in this love rejoices in the truth in love bears all th believes old things hopes all the things endures all doing is we look at the law of that the bible is talking about the cease up of the gaap a law it's a self sacrificing love and i'm not talking about where you become a carpet you're not supposed to be somebody that people walk all over that's not love that there is a place where you have to draw the line but we're talking about self sacrificing is that you'll be concerned about the welfare of others you can't take care of others if you're not taking care of yourselves so you still take care of yourself but you're concerned about the welfare of others so this look at the gyn the loves that we talked about today the first low that we talked about as if i lost love that's a friendship love as just being friends not real intimate not a lotion not a lot of emotions involved is just being friends and then we have a store again the definition of the story was an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship based on similarity and so stargate go is a friendship love that gets closer and gets more intimate and care more caring for that person but sex is not involved and the emotions are limited in the emotions is not that you motion lee involved deeply involved with the person in a store gay love to be honest as we should have a story a love for just around people we should be that would have people that it's in our life that there are good friends that we can rely upon that we can depend upon there should be some store gay love going on in our life we as christians love but the reality is we're not always going to walk into a god they love to everybody but can we have a a lot enough for our concern for somebody that that we're willing to make some sacrifice for them even if we don't know them even if we don't again have that i got the love but maybe we have a store a gay lover somebody that we turn around and in after a while you know that that homeless person that you couldn't stand to see and and you don't have a got a love for them but you keep see them and keep see them and all of a sudden something starts to well up with then you and you start to have this not in affection that that your emotion involved but you start to add this passion for them and you're not at the dig up a love the sacrifice yet but you can't get them out of your mind you keep seeing them you realize you need to do something to reach out to that person and after a while there's and i got the love comes for the other love we talked about isn't your oldest love it's a sexual love a good sex inside of marriage is nothing wrong with that sex outside of marriage it's wrong but there's the if you're follower of jesus christ you're committed christian that you're not known as the iraq love person i would hope that isn't the case or you know as a person that has friendships you have a of love of a to those around you you have that kind of love where you're just a friendly type of person you know christians we should be really and i meant to say so should to an extent because i'm a really withdrawn nobody ever believes me but i can be very withdrawn and and i have a karmic i both can be that to ourselves and and go has called us to be more of people walking in in friendship with others but then the question for you do you have been a guy you haven't got a lot for the last do you have a lot of copies of for your brothers and sisters in the lord we should be walking in the gaap a lot we should be locking in a love that we love others and then the my last point is remember it's an obedient love that god wants us to have an obedient love towards others so that the question is do you walk in and they sumit ever they may be that there's something within is that just has this god love venice are you willing to suffer for the sake of others are you willing to give up a mill to feed a homeless person are you willing to sell your house and go into the mission field of god calls you to because of your love of those in africa bills in all drug bills and japan those and wherever those in mexico those in new york city rehberg i would call you are you willing to give up your day are you willing to give up what you have to love is patient you long suffering are you willing to give up are you willing to sacrifice are you willing to suffer be patient with i can tell you that god put that love then me because i was not a loving person before i knew christ i did not have any thing close to a type of love but god give me a heart a passion for those who are hurting those are in struggles and troubles and have needs and situations where they can't seem to get out of and they feel hopeless and helpless god give me a lot to reach individuals that are in those spots of their life and my last point would be that a god they love is an obedient love and this is love that we walk according to his commandments that gobby love is that we will be willing to obey god we water god water god's word we will say i'll be faithful to his word that if we really love god will be a fee full to his word will do what god calls us to do when these he calls us to do is love people so be faithful to people as they close we're going to love do you have the kind of love the you have you need to be this close in prayer and the father i pray for each person in this room and those who are watching this on t v i pray father god that they will be willing and open to receive the love of god in their life maybe there's some that have never accepted christ and never received the love of christ in their life i pray that even now they will accept christ into their life even now they'll make a commitment to jesus christ jesus i need your love i hear about that i've got a love i hear about that that love it and i want that love in my life i need that kind of love in my life jesus where you love me when you come into my life jesus i need you to come into my life need you to take control of my life i need be controlled by your love because i am not being controlled by any law i've been controlled by hate the big control by bitterness and resentment i need to have the love of my life and i know the only way can get it is through jesus christ and they found themselves in sexual sin i pray for them lord prayer anybody is watching the show would you prayed that prayer you have been listening to there is so with pastor richard over through jesus christ we can live a victorious life seattle open door church located in period committed to loving god loving people and loving life seattle open door church once you know that regardless of where you've been or what you've done god loves you there doors are open to anyone and everyone their services are sunday mornings at eleven seattle open door church is located at six twenty five south west one hundred forty ninth street in burey and next to the southwest courthouse