following program is sponsored by seattle open door church yet open door church he's committed to loving god loving people and loving life our doors are open to whomever no mass required seattle open door church be covering divorce and remarriage so romans chapter seven verses one to three paul speaking and he's going to give some command some principles about marriage and remarried i mean divorce and remarriage and what we're going to do is really go through the entire new testament look at every passage that has to do with marriage divorce remarriage why am i doing that any idea why i'm doing that because it's the word of god ok now somebody in this room has been divorced some in this room has probably been remarried somebody has probably done it god's way and somebody has probably done it their way as we go through this the purpose is not to bring condemnation to bring guilt and shame it's to get us to look at what scripture says so that we can learn how to apply these things in our life so here's the truth of the matter the reason a lot of people have problems in their life is christians because they don't follow the word of god they go by their feelings they go by their motions instead of the word of god so as we go through this i ask for you to do something so that goal remember i said it said i surrender everything that you believed in the past that you're taught in the past if it doesn't line up with the word if it lines up with the words stick with it but if adult line up with the word surrender it let it then see what god can do so to make people feel at ease so nobody has or some that don't know don't me don't know my story don't know this church that i've been divorced so anything i say that i read here could apply to me so i'm not point my finger at anybody says every understand that so that nobody will turn around and turn around and feel like i'm point my finger at them if the word points his finger at you who is who is responsible for that you have to work that out with god ok romans chapter seven verses one to three or you do not know brothers from speaking to those who know the law that the law is binding on a person only as long  lives for a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage accordingly she will be called an adulterous if she lives with another man while her husband is alive but if her husband dies she is free from that wall and history may end she if she marries another man she is not an adulterous so this take a look at it it says in verse two where a married woman is bound by law to her husband it more important in our culture today sees it ok so he says if a married woman is married she is bound to her husband if her husband dies she's released now before we do anything else you do know this applies the other way if a man is married to his wife and she dies some people like to take his it was only for wives have to follow that make a divorce or life's any time they want just because  a man no is talking about men or women ok now if she turns around and her husband still alive and she marries somebody else what if she committed adultery but do you understand he's saying even if she gets divorce and marries another man she's committed adultery as long as her husband's alive do you understand that's what that saying now when you hear that someone is going to because we are to go through all of scripture but when you look at that do the least understand of nothing else that god loves marriage how many know when we talk about revival we talk about renewal how many know that god wants to revive marriage is that he wants to renew marriages how many of us know that god loves marriage so much that he would like to see america to live differently when it comes to marriage because the reality is that in our culture today even in the church today is if you just don't like somebody you just drop drop and get somebody else is that is that our culture does that even happen in churches i've see churches where two people are married and then they start cheat each other get divorced in the the couples with the new people they were cheating with inside the same church there's a need to be renewal there's a need of a revival absolutely so this keep on going just take a look so this is the wood where it is because have you been taught before or what you have been read before truth is found in scripture in all not the pinions of man listen is not the word it's man's opinion and a lot of people throw opinions out there but we should go to the word the word gives us the foundation god gives us guidelines a divorce and remarriage and if you follow those guidelines we are more blessed with god than if we don't follow those guidelines do you believe that what about everything else in the word of god gives a principle if we follow what is our life better ok so we're going to look at these guidelines and we're going to look at all of scripture so just hold on tight roma said two to three makes it clear that while purses marry they're not to have an intimate relationship with anyone else is that true ok now some people say well i'm not really cheating on my spouse because and then they give all the excuses but how many know that if a man is doing this to me if a man is doing pornography cheating on his wife did you hear me if he's doing he's cheating on his wife ok why is that important to say because in our culture today people say well you're not really having sex so it doesn't really matter ask your wife if it matters or not and if your wife doesn't think it matters there's something wrong with her but hold on because god gives grounds for divorce god gives reason for divorce and this passage didn't say you could have divorce at all but we go it can we're going to continue to go in so like i put before you get up in arms as look at all scripture ok before you walk out the door please look at all of scripture martin two to five and the first is came up in order to test him to him is jesus is it lawful for man to divorce wife he answered him what did moses command you the first he said moses allowed a man to write a certificate divorce and send her away and jesus said to them because of your heart or so of heart he wrote this commandment him they want to trick him because they want him to say something that might not be popular something that might get some people upset i'm sure and some things that's not popular in the allowed divorce is because of why hardness of heart did jesus say you couldn't get divorced he didn't say that but he says if you get divorced what's probably happening hardness of heart is that true that's true because they've done something maybe you've done bits all mess and everything else and so jesus makes it very clear that is not god's will but that god does allow divorce at times now the question is when does god allow divorce when is a divorce acceptable to god i could give you all the answers but that is my opinion where should we go we should go to the word martin to live in a twelve and he said to them whoever divorces wife and marries another commits adultery against her and if she divorces her husband is another she commits adultery while those are hard words we don't look at any of scripture does not we haven't looked at any other passages if you just take this if you get divorced i'm going to say there's ways that you can get divorced that's biblical but if you get divorced god hates divorce so much and loves a marriage so much you see every things god hates divorce why  he divorce because he loves marriage he says that if you get divorced and marry somebody else you've committed adultery this culture say that our society doesn't say that you get buried and get divorced ten times and doesn't matter no big deal who cares right in the church it can happen the church it can happen you can marry divorce  many times you want no biblical grounds for whatsoever and it just it passes will marry you jesus says you've committed adultery that's tough words is that not tough words does that leave us all hopeless they got divorced every hopeless right now yes please be hopeless if you got divorced i want you to i want you to get really low low low low so we can lift you back up ok listen you had biblical divorces and then you had biblical marriages we're going to see what are billick or not hear me out as we go through this path is it my job to judge you is anybody else's job the job to judge you who's the judge god how we know if you make things right with god we don't judge i mean when you repent god doesn't judge how we know even when you don't pick god is very merciful so that means everybody can get divorced no matter what in god's mercy for him don't matter  it still matters to him but just take a look just can you go with me with this journey this look at matthew five thirty one thirty two you get to find a reason that you can get divorced we're going to start opening up a little and thirty two it was also said whoever divorce his wife let him give her dysart typical of divorce but i say that everyone who divorces wife except on the grounds of sexual immorality makes or commit adultery and over marries a divorced woman commits adultery strong words again but he gives a reason that you can get divorced once when the reason you can get divorced if your spouse cheats on you you have permission to get divorced is that clear that makes it very clear there he says and less this has happened you can't get divorced but this happens you can be divorced and you can get remarried so if your spouse cheated on you you have grounds for divorce you're going to look at some other examples but right now pretend there's no other example so if you got divorced for any other reason besides sexual morality if you get remarried you're committing adultery hear me out follow through before you get mad throw stones i want to get something marriage means a lot to god do you know why it means so much to him because we are the what the bride of christ and he's  bridegroom our marriage is supposed to reflect the relationship that we have with jesus that jesus said as an efficiency five specifically says that our marriage is supposed to be an our relationship was with him and let me tell you something if you are married to jesus and you suddenly become a buddhist you committed adultery against god is that true because if you don't think that guess what you do i'll be a christian i'll be a job a witness i'll be a mormon i'll be a baha'i i'll be moved lamont is be whatever i want to be and god does love me anyway what kind of relationship we have with jesus if that's the way it is the same with us and our spouse is the same way if we just say whatever i'm doing everyone in what i do is get divorced get married again you know what you're showing that you know listen if  somebody has been keeps getting married and divorced in one of the grounds for it you should wonder why you'd want to marry them don't like to be public about this because i'm teaching this i need to be public about us and within a judge of the marriage more than once so anybody else walks out saying i judge you you don't know my story i have no right to judge a single person in this room ok some don't think i've a right to sit here right now and teach because of my story ok so i'm not judging anybody i'm just sharing what the word says ok so obviously if there's if there is been adultery committed in the relationship then you have a right to divorce i would argue if your husband wants to do pornography all the time you have a right for divorce because i think a part but not of his adultery one ought to stay with them forever so you want to share your husband with a bunch of women on a computer really again i say there's probably something wrong with you if you're ok with that the reason i say that is because if we turn around and say it's ok guess what men will do you continue that behavior forever and i would say that you need to divorce them at the you need to say to them if you if you know what if that is more important than you to me you need to find someplace else to live now we've seen here that divorce  it can be happen with adultery so what this says is i've been a christian churches they have been legal list take ok very legal istic so you know of people would do they would hope their spouse would cheat on them so they could divorce them because i can't divorce them unless they cheat on me so i'm going to pray that the you do start cheating on me so i get the local divorce that's what legalism does see liberalism will get you to do things your way instead of god's way you can't wait for your spouse to cheat and use that you can go marry the person that you want to cheat with but you're too christian to cheat with them you see what happens a man gets in and this is the things up in a happens all the time now what if i was to tell you that god's perfect will is if your spouse cheats on you that you should do what would you do if they cheat on  you ask god to be able to forgive them and stay with them oh i don't see that anywhere in the bible but i know i read my bible it says that we're to forgive i read my bible says if i don't forgive i won't be forgiven so i would argue that god's principle of your spouse teach you what should you do forgive them how many know because of hardness a heart that don't happen sometimes why did god allow divorce to happen if there's been such a morality because he knows the heart of people w somebody to cheat on you there's a good chance your heart will be hardened and you're not going to want to love them so he says because your heart is hard you can be divorced how many of us some people that you need to force because we're going to keep on doing it and so out of it there's we have the freedom to divorce if there's been sexual immorality i think the principle is that we should forgive the possible we should be able to forgive them i'm not going to raise your hand if you've done that but there are people who've done that and they have great marriages testimony and you know what i love god because some of us have cheated on god and guess what he stays married to us we backslide we walk away from home and he doesn't the  us and i believe that if you've walked away from god to some point he forgave you and loved him brought you back in your walk with god again you really shouldn't be turned around and forgiving somebody who's done something to you the key is the unit  whole remarried the key is give it to god give it to god just like anything else that we do that is against the word we give it to god and we give it to god there's good divorce i've had has been a biblical divorce just got a bit of a divorce didn't mean that i should get married again but out of god's mercy out of his grace he's brought us together we've been together for fourteen years we have a great wonderful marriage i love my wife tremendously i wish i would learned all the stuff in the past i've learned now would have been a different story but i'd thank god that he forgives and i know this i can stand on that were not to say that's what it says and i'm not worried about judging anybody here because i have no right to judge anybody i have a forgiving go longer well walk with guilt and shame about my past so why can i speak it why can it go on t v why can it be everybody can hear because you cannot use my divorce against me because i am forgiven and you can't use it in the else i've done in my life because i've forgiven what about you are you forgiven it's time to settle that so if anybody in here is ever been a divorce him but he's never had anything i don't care  maybe this in your mind you think about something else the whole time i want you to know you give it to jesus and you're forgiven and your slate is clean and you walk in newness of life heavenly father i don't know what people have gone through here i know that divorces has to be some in here be just because it is rampant within our society and there's human beings there's going to be the divorces and remarriages i would pray that every person here lord god wherever they did that maybe didn't line up with your word they would just give it to you and say god here it is i surrender it i surrender my past to you i surrender every wicked evil thing i've done everything that i thought was ok if i wasn't ok but i'm surrendering all to you and largely surrender it all to you and that father god because we surrender to you you can use us when the devil says you can't be used by god because you've done drugs because you've done this because you're involved in this this and that sin when we give it to you got to be surrendered to you our slates are clean and the father god you can use us and i pray for this congregation near these group of people here that every person here would be with knowledge and billing to be used by you that they say god here i am i give it  whatever it is they give away the guilt they give away the shame i give it all to you i just want to be used by you to make a difference in this community and i pray there be some people here lord you do something in their hearts in such a way that father god they could be vessels of honor for you that no matter what their past has been the devil can't throw it out because they know they're been forgiven and they can make a difference in this world we pray this in jesus name amen amen god bless you nominate have an altar call but i was way past time so i ask of you this whatever god did here will you go whole this is best to ridge you need to know jesus christ your lord and savior jesus said behold i stand at the door knocking to be one hears my voice and opens the door i will come open door churches are vision is loving god loving people loving life now that's the vision for a church to love god to love people love life let me tell you something that if you love god and love people you will love life you know why some people don't love life they don't love god or they don't love people if you love god you don't love people you won't love life let me tell you something else when you love life you will love people you will love god they goes both ways and out of it if you have a love and a passion for god and you say god i just love you with all my heart thank you jesus so you've done so much for me lord i just love you lord what can i do for you that's what happens when you have true love love the lord what can i do you love me how can i love you you know god is going to answer love people that's what he's going to say he's going to say love me because you already love him and you but he know the greatest commandment love the lord thy god with all your heart soul mind and that second greatest commandment is what love others as yourself so loving god leads to loving people let me tell you if you love god or i love you so much what can i do he says i want you to love this person over here i want you to love this person over here i want you to do this for this person over here oh star used to love me people start loving god you don't  there's a fire let me tell you if you say i don't have a fire in me why don't i have a fire in the wind i'm not excited about life you're probably not loving god loving people try it just try that if you think life is kind of boring to start saying god help love people and let me tell you you will be able to love people the way god has you to love them unless you start loving god so long i my life and i'm a deadbeat human being i'm a deadbeat christian i'm the boss blowing christian there is gonna change me ok you know what i'ma start loving people well so you start loving people you'll find out people on loving you start to love people and they backstab you so what do you do with that give up yes you do well still you give up but when you start to love people you have been listening to there is so with pastor richard over through jesus christ we can live a victorious life seattle open door church located in period committed to loving god loving people and loving life seattle open door church once you know that regardless of where you've been or what you've done god loves you there are doors are open to anyone and everyone there services are sunday mornings at eleven seattle open door church is located at six twenty five south west one hundred forty ninth street in perio