hi everybody jody toeplitz we too may divorce decor i am here today to tell you that the uplifting psychological impact of color is the first thing you should do in your space when you're feeling blue in fact a quick tip before we start our show the color blue actually is calming and soothing so keep in mind if you're thinking about changing color in your space i have said that you know what my show's all about we is all about making you feel comfortable in your space it's about how your space makes you feel more than how it makes it more than how it looks and speaking of looks i have a very special guest with me once again  from salon de or robert for birds i did not mess up your name and i know you and i know you but how often do you say a person's a friend's last name you don't say it that often ever and your name come on it's a little computes robert i'm say eight one one two three three fantastic and you know i'll ask you again for that so people can find you coming back on my show i'm so excited to have you again right there i know the first time you came on we should tell our audience i didn't even know this you were sick i was sack and and i didn't know you know you know we had i had a guest bail out once they have never invited them back again might i say  and good friend of ours mutual friend said oh i know somebody who'd be great you poor thing you had like two hours notice tell us tell us about that little journey over here being on t v that was actually kind of interesting i think it well you get dressed really fast and do a spot on jodi show and i was like oh that new and i have to say you know i have lost a lot of weight since that ye it with a girlfriend that's right that's right cover the guy and that's what we did we had a great time we talked about so many different things about how people feel when they're going through a transition and why i like having you come back again and it's because you brought this point up being the manager of the salon salon tear in heels for you see things from a very different perspective you were not the person doing the hair christina by the way did my color what do you guys think y know your the person seeing someone come in either upset about maybe a divorce or excited about a wedding or you see the book coming in one way and talk about how they leave like what happens they get there transformed and how important is that it's very important i get it from beginning to end because i get it on the phone and sometimes being on the phone is like a confessional because what do you say that they just tell me what's on their mind and why they need to get it time you know and that's the negative part there you hear the positive things too then i get to see them and i really have an idea of what's wrong what needs to get done right and   like from my case we should we could talk about my little story quickly but i had not been a clientele of salon darr because i already had somebody for years and years and you know women are in men or with their salon you're there you're not switching anyway i had an incident where you know i'm not going to say what is but they didn't do the right thing then in take care of me a bit of client almost ten years and kind of messed up with something and i called up and i said look my hair doesn't look so good and i never got a call back and i was very upset and i called again and then i found out that the to get my message they just chose not to coming back and what was so sweet about your salon because that we already have the connection is that i happened to run into you and melanie and i'm telling you the story because i'm never i don't want to ever go back there in the two of you say what to me we said maybe it was an oversight give them a second chance because our th saw said your aves with them and unfortunately that was a bad move good move for us good move for us so i did what you said and i and they still didn't do the right thing so now i'm at  dayer with my new hair color but that's the whole point that's what i like about this line because now i can really speak before i had just met you and we had such a great connection but now i got to be there meet the girl and see how you first of good or bad or whatever your transition is you know if your hair doesn't look good i know it sounds superficial now but it's not everybody that's out there knows it's not because it really is a bit has a big impact on how you present yourself and how you're feeling internally exactly so we you and i were talking earlier and i and we thought we were talk about you know both ends of it going from we to me say you go into divorce and how people come in so upset some of the reasons they come in obviously to get to get a new whatever haircut or color or everything both condition or correct i mean and they could be a variety of reasons as far as like divorce what's the most extreme you saw you see and it could be divorce or anything else but what was i know you can't say who but what was probably the most touching thing you felt like when that person came in and left him it's such a difference i think over the years i've been doing this for ten years i think over the years a client had lost her daughter  to get her hair done and she said later neal she definitely left upset but later on she said what difference because i knew my daughter wouldn't have wanted me to feel like that have been your story debtor's it doesn't matter i mean yes it matters a lot nobody can say this is not important i have this to do but this is important yeah because it really does come from the inside out and even though you're affecting the outside you're going to feel better when you just just a little bit as something just anything especially when you're feeling so distraught or so depressed or so sad right on nice to be able to do that i would if that's a really great story that's a nice one a nice one a sad one but a nice one it will be good right now yeah because you did something good a really good thing and that's really important that's one of the things that i you really are i want to stress that you're the first voice slash face right that people see and you see it all so they come in they come out and they also come in for a really happy occasion adopting a new wives kids where the father or the mother is not involved you know again two stories i would have never thought of you see that's what's so interesting about taking care of yourself and doing things even if the smiles little thing whether it's coloring your hair cutting your hair it is it i'm going to the salon it's not it's not a snooty thing is it it's not at all now it's about maintenance it's about maintaining feeling good about especially nice story about a wedding or which would have been nice i'm sure you see a lot of wedding we do i mean that's normally their wonderful adopting kids never would have crossed my mind is there anything else i'm not aware put on the spot i know then yeah we it's common yeah but that that's like one of my favorites because not only are they coming in who we are overjoyed we just add to it yeah you know and they just leave that much better and they kind of with the salon you know we are happy we love what we do but they just the energy they bring in is incredible this is a big day it is a big day and it's really important and you want to be able to know you can trust somebody and what's nice about you when the first time i met you when you first came on the show and again normally i don't have guests on that i don't know but i had someone we want say it again and who didn't show up never invited back and you poor thing were thrown into the mix by neutral you know a mutual friend and all and it worked out and then we ended up look at us now you're back and now i'm in your so i'm in your salon and it does have it does have that it's just that nice friendly comfortable vibe and what i also liked personally experiencing i wasn't sure you know how to get my hair colored ok that's a big deal my old h write that is you guys never met me before and i was nervous on like like you were nervous coming on the show and like oh god right what if it doesn't come out the color i want you know what we don't know where experimenting and that's what happened which was a good thing everything there is no reason for there is no reason for it and then to admit that they they got the message but they didn't bother to call back but then i was sitting there thinking oh shoot it's a little dark it does look pretty but i feel like it's not me and i was comfortable enough to say it why exam cuz you made me feel comfortable and you mentioned it before i even got there said you know just so you know if it's not quite right you knew we could just say it and we'll just keep working and then when i got there christina was so sweet she said look just let me know and that's what we did we're all sitting there going wow it looks way better than it did but it's a little dark corner you know she said to me and you know because you were sitting there she's like give it a few days see how you feel and if you're if it's still not making you feel good come back and i did and we need it more our burn in red and all of that stuff and i didn't feel weird about it right and you shouldn't because you're paying us we're not paying you so you should get exactly what you're paying for exactly it should be in the needs of and it isn't just about the hair though or the color you know how you made me feel exactly i mean we've cried with people we've la people with their guard down and i think they need it it's like a really safe place and they need to talk to somebody without their family around right it's even though it's not it is if you mentioned  kind of like a priest and good doing confessional right but then you're also like well like i and i felt this there especially with you because you're so friendly and so welcoming but you're like you know you're like a bartender and where people just you know they sit at the bar and they tell the part you're like they are tender you know if you know you start telling people what's going on what happened what's good what's bad all of you hear it all definitely and even the other people in the salon hear it all and they're all supportive and they're all like they'll chime in and they will chime i've got what i like all of a sudden from an other chair i warm in or our stylus just jumps right in i forgot i don't remember when i came back the second time to make it a little less stark in everything it was th love we love everybody and she chimed it and you know my god i love the lord that her and everybody had something nice to say and it was it's just that it's just that i knew that i was going to have down time i knew that i didn't have to worry about my phone going off like i could just shut it off or not take it and i was i don't want to answer the phone it really is more than just getting your hair done it is and what i love about our salon was your running how was that party and it's important because they're like oh you remember that that was eight weeks ago so yeah it's ago yeah and it's a very personal lives because it's a small space magazines you guys asked me if i wanted lunch right like you are so yeah i mean thing is you know places right around our house absolutely yeah it was really nice it was just a very different feel for me and i really appreciate it especially because when i called you i was distressed my i was i was right i have a show my hair needed to get done my color was awful and i couldn't get back to my place and it's amazing how it impacted me i felt i'm telling you until i could get to your place i didn't feel like myself you know like i don't know and it makes that difference that's why going to a place like yours and having that intimacy when you have that down time and knowing that people are really interested in carolyn even afterwards like when i was don't and i notice what's so cool about finding a space like a place like yours is that people have they were hanging out i'm sitting there next hair looks really nice and everybody was pleasant and i wasn't what i was used to and i thought that was a really nice thing and i am i like to stress that that's one cog on the wheel right so we have my guest before you know ruth talking about taking care of your skin that's important taking care of your hair that's important but it's the place in which you go that makes it the place you choose to go back to absolute right absolute that's the difference here i mean i could go anywhere and i chose to chose to come back i had a salon when years ago when i  when my son was really young it was a really fancy place very very expensive and you said earlier what was the line you said about being expensive friends of his are always good exactly so that was a particular incident that i had and it was it was also that kind of get you in get you out right come on let's go beautiful salon in maplewood new jersey beautiful but i never felt and i went there for years like an idiot i don't know why i kept going back to be not felt i never felt comfortable but i go back it was easy they did a good job i never always got i never got the same person too many times in a row but i felt there was a connection they didn't really know who i was and you know when you learn as you get older you find out what the choices you make right right you want to have that come for some personalized service they're not interested in you they're interested i i'm like nobody was again shoving it down my throat to bite nobody i mean you should have this your hair looks like this because we didn't know nobody said that to me and again i appreciated that i didn't feel that kind of pressure you know so it's important they support pick the right place the right people they can still perform the same function crap but it's the right it's really about the people and as i always say what i do for people is i make their space or if somebody calls and says you made me feel really good yeah that is i love the song was also the best phone calls ever yeah they really are or you could be on a t v show and say thank you for my hair color that is the ultimate phone call you that is you can't top that yeah i'm saying on television and maybe one time you guys will come back i will have melanie with you which would be very interesting that would be very odd when she says she's always so busy we haven't been able to get her but luckily because of that i got to meet you and now you and i are friends and now i'm in your salon and that's important it's really important and i love that i know what i'm about to give it's not about stealing somebody from another salon you know you try to get me to stay right and it just worked out that way do you think people when they're looking to change over to you should be interview a salon i mean and if they if you think they should how do you do that oh my i think they should i think they should come in for a consultation you know ask questions not get anything done just sit and have a consultation exactly yeah that's important i would look up reviews  good idea i never thought of that i just you know when i have a problem with a place in the over the many years i would just oh yeah that's a good place i'm going to never thought a lot smarter to display i have an out if i don't like it i'm not sitting in the chair and it's too late you know that's the smart yeah that's a good any other tips when you're ok so we have a look at reviews and i think your most important tip is coming in coming in and just getting a consultation and not doing anything slow it down i also think what happens with us as we have a very good price for our children it's five dollars plus their kids up until they're ten and it's fifteen between the ages of ten and fifteen after that they become adults and pay the adult part i look at that but that's good idea i feel like a lot of parents come in with their children and we see a lot of twin yeah and they almost qualify us by how we treat treat their children that's a great another great tale up look at you c v you really you really blew me away with the the two stories and the tips because everything i thought you were going to say which would have been fine right is not what you said so i appreciate that it really is you really are a hare tender can play hard to see like i'm learning because i've done it now i've only been here salon twice a while going to always come back and i'm learning the more i'm learning the better it is and the more i can tell everybody out there so keep in mind everybody that is going through a happy transition and not so happy transition put yourself first for that few put it i don't want to say few minutes maybe it's an hour maybe it's an hour and a half put yourself first give yourself a lot yourself a time if you don't have to bring your cell phone and don't if you have to put it on silent so god forbid there's an emergency you can see you know ok there you go but try and try to carve out that mission time just like exercising absolute or just like taking time to eat a meal and not shoving it while you're you know not really sitting down and then you don't remember what you ate all of these things are cards in this healthy wheel that make the quality of your life better right and that was why i wanted to have you want to get into to just say thank you for welcoming me into your salon and i'm glad that it all worked out for me to look at that meet me too i am i'm really glad about that as well so it all worked out so what i'm going to say one more time robert tell everybody how to find salon day or where in the phone number and all of that we are unfair in hells from new jersey we are behind old man rafferty's on route to six south to eighty four and you can reach is a nine zero eight two eight one one two three three i am always there but you can talk to any of the girls or make an appointment want to say to everybody remember your house is not how it looks it is about how it makes you feel going back to my first tip think about color pick a color that makes you smile and just slapped on your walls and see what happens if you thinking to put a color in your hair don't slap it on your hair yourself code go visit robert at salon dare have a consultation and have the professionals do that one  changing your hair color is not as easy as changing it to walk ok so you can have fun with your walls take a chance there but not with your hair doesn't mean that you don't