determination no longer to walk with those bitter root judgments no longer expect people to act and behave the way we would because what happened to us in the past we're going to give victory and then we can have more freedom in our life so we pray that you would work in the midst of our less to roman numeral number three who is responsible for bitterroot judgments you're not going to like the answer who is responsible so look at the letter a now listen what it says our parents or other significant persons or life or anyone else that may have harmed us or to other responsible for their actions is that true or they're responsible for their actions so if our parents did days that are wrong bad of somebody significant a babysitter did something to us when we as a kid who's responsible for their behavior they are are you responsible no ok so they're responsible for their behavior but are they responsible for your bitter root judgments so be we are responsible for our reactions responses to the harm done to us we respect we are specifically responsible for send fall reactions and responses so who is responsible for bitterroot judgments slater see we have to acknowledge that times we have made judgments that were not based upon reality we were not harmed by another person now that's a challenge for you so what if i was to tell you that sometimes we make bitter group judgments against people and the reality is they were in the wrong that was in error did it do nothing wrong can that be can it be that somebody does something that you interpret as and he goes to chop the shit end up first probably all you have to say is jimmy don't touch the wood stall and he won't touch it ok but another time he goes to the  not to do that's how we know that we're born with sin because nobody todd to be to be rebuilt he is but he hears don't do that so that means why why can't i do that so you say jimmy don't do that don't you does jimmy know that it will burn him this is jim he walks up and you say jimmy don't touch the wood stove he goes to touch it and you might go like that if jimmy has a very sensitive spirits everybody is born differently and has different personalities if you base kids you know this if you have more than one kid you know that because one you can relate to a certain way and the other one will read it totally different so jimmy has a really soft spirit in say jimmy don't do that starts crying and guess what he has he has a sense a spirit before he even knows what he's doing what can he do in his little heart start to have lot and a sensitive child when you give them a lucky response just a lot so we could be an heiress parents in the sense of we know that jim is very sensitive and i have to do is give him the look and he doesn't do it and then if i did this then i'm pushing him a little bit but out of it you do that in jimmy grows up saying that you know what my parents were very violent people kate now i make said you're eighteen to prove a point because you know what there are many people out in this all who misinterpreted things in the early years of their life and they carried this grudge and this bitterness that is even based on truth than reality so they tell you a story and here's how they they should know because if you tell some of the first time my dad hit me a hand when i went to touch the stove and people say oh so what's the problem most people will learn that but if you have a bit or would judge me you know what happens you've got to justify your bitter a judgment so if you go they speak to me they handle people say well what's the big deal if you're not careful in your dysfunctional person you didn't get the response you wanted you want to somebody say oh you poor little doing so what do you do you  story because you realize that story isn't a good enough story to get sorrow from people so then you say he had a mean look when he did it you know understand what i'm saying if people do that because when you make a bitter rib judgment everything within you says you've got to defend that because that bitter root judgment expectancy is to protect you from the future damage that can happen so i build this wall that it doesn't matter if it's true or not because this wall that i build is to protect me because i had to learn to protect me in the beginning years of my life is so over sixty years old alan a story that we have exaggerated for sixty years and then you get past a rich that sits down with you and he knows within two minutes that you're exaggerating the story and best a rich says to you can you tell what the real story is and then you get a fin and you never show up again did you get freedom did you move beyond the past no because you have a how we react or respond with people did but it's not our reactions and how we spawn that's bad is when they become sinful responses so if your dad so if your dad turns around and he is an abusive dad and he does something to you and he's doing something harmful to you and you grow up and you say i will never be like my dad there's nothing wrong with saying i'll never be like my dad but if you have a judgment guess what will happen you'll be just like your dad why because it wasn't know i don't want to be an abusive father is in the wrong with that you should say i don't want to be abusive father and you can even said i want to be an abusive father like my dad there's nothing wrong with that but if you made judgment against your dad you will reap the that you soul you will reap because when you made the judgment against dad you said my dad was a not that but a rotten human being he deserves to go to hell and you keep going and going and going and you start to make a judgment in your spirit and then you expect that you know out i'll never marry a man like my dad because i don't want to marry an abuser and you have an expectancy that men are abusers just like your dad you will find out who do you marry somebody like your dad but if you know the concept of multiplication when you sow a seed do you get one seed you get multitudes of seeds so if you sow a seed of judgment with bitterness and you say i'll never marry anybody like my scumbag rotten horrible horrific father and every man is just like that you will not marry a man just like your father you know what you will marry a man worse than your father because there is multiplication and you cannot change the law of god the law of god says when you soul something you reap it the law of god says there is multiplication and you cannot change that no matter how much you want to change it the only way you change it is you break off that curse that you put upon yourself and we'll talk about that in in a moment so that our number for buyable warnings regarding bitter root judgment in expectancy now isn't this interesting if what i am saying is true if what i'm teaching is true there has to be some bible verses the back it up one that makes sense are just me talkin so this look and see letter a hebrews twelve fifteen see to it that no one comes short of the grace of god that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble and by it many are defiled that's a strong warning the warning says what it says make sure that no root of bitterness springs up because it will cause trouble is that true when you have bitterness as a cause trouble this trouble surround people who are bitter people and yet who they think the problem everybody else does is say that else is the problem no of yours if you're so in the bitterness you're the promises it brings is trouble and many will be defiled that strong words notice saying is saying some of the behavior you do with your business you defile others it it spreads so here's what happens and happens and in any kind of a setting but church said is a bit perfect example because you've got a lot of people together somebody who enters into a church they walk in the church or total stranger never been the church before and they have a  bitterness and expectancy in them that's just who they are they walk into their brand new church nobody's done anything to them nobody's harmed him or anything else in that church they don't know single person a stranger they walk in but they got a root of bitterness and they've got a expectancy they walk in and they walk in that service and something didn't go all the way they wanted it to go because you know the role is focused around them and so they go in and the pastor didn't shake their hand or somebody didn't say hi or some we didn't invite him to lodge or whatever it may be this sermon was something and it touched on something that god's that what their life and they know that somebody called the pastor up and told him to preach on their their sin their come vince that some of the neighbor called up the pastor knew there's going to church and said pastor you need to preach on this subject and you know there's people who think that way they have an idea that somehow that's the case so they turn around have that problem so they walk out the door and they grumble ok and then they walk out and we say hollow you hope they never show up again but guess what happens they show up again the next week and they do their little grumble the problem is somebody in sure has a root of bitterness and they're alive but it hasn't manifested yet because as long as there's nobody else around them doing it they can control what they're like but then all of a sudden you get a grumbler that comes in the church you've got to gossip really the church and then what happens after three or four times they do the little day the next the you know the person as another group of bitterness all of a sudden they start thinking you know what i think the pastor's done the same thing to me he's to turn around and talk to what happens there's a church split over one person walking in with their expectancy and i know you say all past you're just being you're just going to the extreme i'm sorry this happens in organizations churches all over the place now our job is when we see that happening is we shouldn't participate in it and we should turn around and it and what we should do because it's kind of hard for the past to tell the person that i was not picking on you in my message they're not going to believe it they're going to being i'm a liar instead of thinking ha the holy spirit trying to deal with me and i finally got into the church where the holy spirit can deal with me because a preacher is being led by the spirit of god he's preaching the word of god so that there will be conviction hollow you i finally found a church that can deal with my sin instead of saying that it's the iran but with you turn around and have the people hear the gossip the joining and they turn around and say well you know why not i've been going here for five years and every week the pastors preach on something else about my life and somebody else says somebody else says it then all of a son and what happens then the person maybe  spirit of god working because i will tell you when there is an anointed message the best anointed message where the spirit of god is working and it is where the pastors preaching the message and everybody in the room is filled in some kind of conviction or challenge or something they walk out the door they said i had an encount with the most high god rather it was conviction of send whether was hope and how can that happen out of one message because one message but there's the holy spirit is leaving need each person and god to take one message and speak to each person whatever they need for the day and  could take that message and you can feel something that god speak until it has nothing to do with the message which is all over but you is in the presence of god in the midst of the preaching the word and you get something just because god says i want to bless you for showing up for church that's why it's good to come to judgment you're going to miss all that this is going to go away is going to bypass you the letter b do you want to be five sixteen on your father and mother as the lord your god has commanded you so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the lead of the lord your god has given you are your mother and father and if you will live long and all go well with you now of course some people die early age we understand all that don't take a lot of them what it's saying but is saying that if you are your mother  father it will be a blessing that will calm now we don't have all the time to talk about this on your mother and father does not mean condone the sinful behavior of your modern mother and father if your mother and father of you to one of them does something that was harmful and damaging that needs to be come from the need to be dealt with that needs to be acknowledged but to honor them is different than doing that so in other words on your mother and father doesn't mean you condone their behavior but it means that you honor them as your parents and honoring isn't to turn around and because you had upon their father the discipline is wrong is the churn around and spend the next fifty years bad mouth your mother and father that is not honoring now do you acknowledge what they've done yes if your father sexually abuse you you may have to go to court you may have to turn around and testify against them and he should be in prison because if he did if he turns around to molest this is child then i think he probably should go to jail for that but does that mean you go post on the internet everywhere my dad was an abuser and he went to jail and serve time do you need to do that why would you need to do that there's only one reason to do that to get back at and if you are a follower are we supposed to get back at it says you honor them and i'll go well with you if you turn around and you're bad mouth your mother and father you're going away on turn around do you think it's going to go well with you who's going to want to be with you and then you have some that wants to marry you and they think if that's how you treat your mom and dad i wonder what you're going to do to my mom and dad if you don't like something they do and their in laws and you think they're outlaws so if you if you do what you do to your father i don't know what you can do to my father that's an outlaw to you you understand what i'm saying in the midst of them so it the principle is there whether you agree with it doesn't matter i don't believe in the bible know that god doesn't care if you believe in the bible or not his laws is law his principles are his principles if he says all your mother and father goes well if you don't it won't go well and that's that's on you and you say well i don't believe that verse is old testament i'm a new testament christian so i don't believe in a fine don't believe in it then don't fall the principle go against the principle and guess what happens you'll find out that the word of god is true he a lot of people are like that letter c romans two one you therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else whatever whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same thing remember last week we talked about the fact that people who take the verse the talks about don't judge unless you be judged and they twist that all up to say there should never be judgment this gives you clarification this is how it talks about the type of because obviously we judge all the time and be stupid to not make judgments and you see somebody that drives down your role and all the time to go in sixty miles an hour when there's kids on the street you should make a judgment that your kid should not be on the street when that guy is driving is it wrong to make that judgment no but if you say you know what he's a terrible human being and god you make those kind of judgments that's the danger and if you're speeding sixty miles an hour and you accuse him that's what romans twelve one says because what is a say you therefore have no excuse you a patch judge or someone else for at whatever point you judge that your god can save yourself because you who pass judgment do the same they mean that's why you don't judge you doing the same things the person you're judging now the reality if you walk in and purity you're walking the whole as the best of your ability you're making right godly choices in the midst of it you have the ability to be able to say that is sinful behavior and you shouldn't do that sinful behavior and as parents we should be able to do that with their kids the problems of the parents most o would be a hard time for the tell the kids not to do something because what they're doing it themselves so the issue is and not to judge issues to live your life in such a way when you make judgment the finger isn't pointing back at you ok the letter d do not judge you will be judged do not condemn and you will not be condemned forgiven you'll be forgiven give it will be given to you good measure pressed down shaken together and running over will be poured into your lap for the measure you use it will be measured to you now isn't this interesting everybody hears this verse they go only get verse thirty eight they don't get verse thirty seven thirty eight says give it all be given unto you good measure pressed down shaken together write an overall be poured into your lap for the measure use of the measure to you if you look at verse thirty eight then that sounds really good give and you'll get more back given you'll get back what you give that so if you don't forgive what comes back to you then you're not forgiven if you judgement comes back to you you're judged the context never was about glass blessings the context is that if you do certain things it's going to come back unto you isn't it interesting how many times you hear it said that way is going to a blessing running over you discuss it run it over now when you have a blessing running over forgiven guess what you have seen running over don't go around judge of people guess what you have blessing all over but how's us normally used as is the other way and guess we guess but here's a if you give a bunch of money you're going to get really blessed now to argue if you're a giver you will be blessed if you have to pure heart because why would you give and you have a pure heart guess what god will do who give you more why because you'll give so some people have the gift of giving and it's amazing people who have the gift of giving never run out of the money to give why because when god gives them what is they did what do they do they give him so he gives them more they give more some of you want to why you don't get more because some of you guess what you get an income and you don't tide you have an income you don't i don't expect god to give you more why would he give you more what if i was to tell you i actually believe this i actually believe that if you tied guy can get you more raises i think you'll get more raises if you tie than if you don't tie well i don't know if that's true or not well as a regional nose to knox's guess what if you never gave you no good to find out right so is the concept here when we go back to the lesson is if you judge judgment is going to come to you if you don't forgive the end is going to come back to you so if we look at this we've seen here who is responsible for a bit of it judgments the people that did things to us are who we are does the bible warn about better a judgment than expectancy absolutely so if we follow the principles of the bible then we can get set free we can move beyond the past how many people are stuck in the past because they're bitter about what's gone on and they're expecting it to happen i just know this is going to happen and so if you know that then what happens you will fulfill that prophecy he did you hear me you will fulfill the promise if you expect if you expect people to be a certain way then you will be attracted to people that are certain way isn't that crazy i want to get married and have a good spouse but you expected every man or every woman is going to be a certain way what's the chance we're going to get a good spouse is not going to happen so do you want to be free when to be free all that so next week we're going to talk about deliverance from beirut judgments and expectancy that you can be free to move beyond the sessions what is healing for us who needs healing the prodigal son god's forgiveness face to face encounter with god the power of the cross forgiveness and inner healing in or val's of bitterroot judgments will have the curriculum there we will have the videotape of each session so you'll be able to follow right along with us yes you can move beyond the past yes you can live a victorious life yes your desert places can turn into glorious gardens for others to 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