for their children to go to school and to gain higher education so as a child i don't think i was that interested but because of the rules in the house you can come home with bare great youth so you kind of forced into doing what was right and so i was a decent student a pretty good student because of fear more than anything i think i think after you get older you know it it's reverence and respect that you have for your parents but they kind of shape you are more you into telling you that you are second to none that they expect you to do well they expect you to to be great and from their perspective and that we could do anything in life there were no limits in our life except our own mind and we always we were in a christian home so we always knew there was on our side  and then as i grew i found that he really is on my side and my faith has really been a major part of my believing that there are how did you keep that going well i went to college shane university and loved it yes had a great time with it but when i was in high school i always said i wanted to be a social worker so i took the test for social work and the test for the school district and i actually prayed and asked god to show me which one to do and i said ok lord whoever hires me first will be out take that as my career well the school districts  letter of acceptance that they wanted to interview me for a position one day and the states and there's the next day and so i went for the believe that education was to be my career and i started  and had thirty years with the public school system retiring as the director of its social studies education k twelve and then after thirty years scott called me to open the first urban men in my high school a major urban area metropolitan area which i kicked and screamed i didn't really want to do that but it ended up being probably one of the best things that ever happened to me did there for sixteen years then i retired i thought i was really retiring and went on my retirement cruise and through our college asked me to do a stint there as their principal high school principal while they did a search i did that and thought i was finished and then i went to a and found that the principal had quit before i got there and they were without a principal and they asked me to serve and i said oh no only came for three days you know and then the spirit led me to go and so  describe how would you define success what is assisting you i think success is achieving that which you really want whatever that may be i believe that if you're doing what you love to do where your gifts  are and you're doing it with your passion and with all you have you'll be successful regardless of the finances actually i think your guests make room for you and the finances follow you but life is too short to do something you hate i see so many people working and having to go to work every day but i can not say that ever felt that way in fifty years i have never ever felt that i didn't want to go to work or didn't want to help somebody or to educate or teach if you sit still for five minutes i'll teach you something but if it's my passion i believe it's my gift also i've learned the gift of administration i never wanted to be a principal the lord put me in a situation where i was a principal and i loved it and so i'm towards them between the two i still teach i taught a conflict management class in texas last year and that's also an area i have a business course smart  you know finding what you love to do from what you just said you could tell that if you are going to find what you love doing with your passion trust me it is difficult for you to retire from how did you find i'm the i had to do it all my life as the oldest daughter but when i as i said i wanted to go into social work and we do something to help people but when i got into education it just gave me life it energized me and i knew i was supporting and helping people and even in administration you have greater influence in the ministry of position than you do even in this as a teacher in the classroom you have direct impact on the child but generally you have much more impact over the whole program when you're in mystery so i love them both i really do i don't know i just it just seemed to have been a gift i was teaching even in church you know sunday school and i'm a learner i'm a reader i love to read i love to learn my daughter frequently teases me because i'll take a class just to tell you another question your doctorate in education you take another class but it's a life long experience i love learning you know and i think the more you learn there's always something to learn and something to know and whatever you learn you can help somebody else with what you know you know so i enjoy that she's just discovered it not i have to suffer people add value to people after educate people so you see one of the because a lot of people do ask me to do it how do you find your purpose in life how do you find your vision see what you just think you love to do with all that distance can feel themselves work are the things we should do or we could do potentially to war i would say cultivate a faith because there be a lot of obstacles in life a lot of naysayers people telling you which you cannot do i love the challenge of showing people when they say i care that i care through the help of god i think good is the enemy i've heard this quote good is the enemy of great when we get complacent or we think we're there or we have achie d i think that's when we begin to decline and push for it but it's just it's just keeping on you know and keeping on and keeping on loving and improving on what  christ and the word to and the power of his word the word tells us that we can do all things through christ is strengthens us it tells us if he is our priority is to seek he first became of god and his this and everything else will be added unto you and i believe those particular scriptures in fact i believe are the scriptures but those to keep me going because there is no obstacle too big for me because i have someone in me  who is greater than any obstacle and who could handle any after the calls and i've faced numerous ass holes in my career but i still love what i was doing and i just went past them you know through the help of god but that's what i would say  inner man is who you really are that's who you really are this is just flesh is going to be left you know in the but your spirit will go on and on i just believe it's it's important to not only  about it on a pretty good health thank think i you know get regular checkups and my lower back is the more issues than anything but am i you know do the exercises that kind of keep that strong but just making sure i don't overeat even though i've looked like i do i try not to overeat and watch what the calories than intake in the sugar and whatnot  i have taken courses on how to eat well and how to count calories and fat intake and sugar intake many years ago but i still keep those as part of my daily reaching a part of my practice on eating well and trying to maintain good health i'll give you one secret i think that i'm someone told me many many years ago he said if you you should always take an oil pill of some kind like castor oil or fish oil because as we lubricate our cars and change our oil in our cars our bodies have to be lubricated also and i think that's been a real secret to the billet my  abilities to remain healthy plus i have good genes i believe but i really think that that was and it's been i'm sure twenty years since i've been taking cod liver oil every day because i do believe that you management program because i really it bothers me that so many of our young people and some adults are being killed because they don't know how to respond in situations there's us saying that five percent of life is what happens to you ninety five percent is how you respond and i see our young men when they're stopped by the police just immediately getting into a negative mode of why use why just stop me and i didn't do anything you know just follow instructions you know take their badge number if you think you've been offended their name and then you have recourse after that but there's a way to protect yourself just by doing what you've been asked to do even if they get nasty doesn't mean you have to be nasty get their name and their badge number every port them they have people who are over them too but i would love to begin a program where our young men particularly our young ladies  and adults and children learn how to respond in a way that is respectful and that will help them live longer you know so many i think have died needlessly because just their response to different situation in school curriculum because i know you're in education is in a thing that we need to integrate more teaching the kids of today because if we lose it when it comes to character morris we are we are lost so are you a consultant in the terms of education designing curriculum for schools educating principals and teachers what do we need to do to tackle the problem i have parents and i only teach what they know in most parents have not been taught how to manage conflicts and so there are so high school field of my high school every child had a course in conflict management we had three fights in ten and they were honored if they came and said you know we want to have a cast that we need to talk about it we also had a media suspension for people who fought with you know we had three fights in ten years but i really think that training people on how to manage catholics particularly from a christian perspective is crucial to our survival if it were my opportunity i would require it in every school beginning in grade one detrimental and can be detrimental my my mother always taught us not to put anything in writing that could be used in court against you yes and so she said if you have something to say to someone tell them to their face that it's your word against theirs but our young people have a tendency to put our everything online and and curse people at our law if and i tell them often you know if something happens to that person people have a record of what you how you threaten them whether you did it if they did they were in that you have made you become a person of interest a suspect in any demise that they might that might happen to them you know so don't put stuff if you want to put anything online make it something nice your words should always be sweet you may have to eat them you know to make sure your word while you really have to yeah you may have to eat your words but don't put anything on social media that if you had to go to court or someone well my personal advice you would be the first make sure your inner man is strong means building up your spiritual life your academic life people say oh there's there are skills out there that folks can have they can be engineers and they can be electricians or laborers or whatever get the best education you can get regardless of what your interests are what you like to do because that way you have options you don't want to limit yourself and not think you have to take the best courses at the highest level just because that's not something going to college is not something you want to do i must say and you have to go but whatever you do or want to do be the best at it be the best street sweeper as dr king would have said be the best that you can be and always look to improve yourself and love other people love whether they return the love you love the many have love in the life you know you know or like a website that people can reach yeah my email address is m o f's one fourth seven at comcast that net and they feel free to just email me and i'll be happy to