hello my name is anita barraud so and i'd like to welcome you to the place to somewhere this is the place where we love to invest in the growth and development of other people and help them to absorb this is my lovely co host gail tell  here ok so basically what we're doing here is just bringing people together so that they can tell their story so that we can get to story out to the masses one of the things that we like to do is definitely talk to people who are inspiring to others powerful women and men who are fearing and who watch is willing to just do the work that god has called them to do so they do wonderful absolutely great so i so happy to have planting here even though when you watch us and this interaction and probably looks like we've known each other for years i'm really haven't we really just mad maybe about a year ago total so i'm going to read a little bit about her this season about a year and a half ago god made gave me an assignment to the body of christ called liberating tame our this ministry were both out of my own struggles with rejection no self esteem anger and self hatred to mention only a few sentence after being sexually and emotionally abuse my heart was filled with anger insecurity rejection and feelings of worthlessness which lead to depression and overwhelming an unhealthy desire to please everyone around me the same there waiting taymor is inspired by the story of ten more in the bible in second samuel chapter thirteen tame ark was the king was king david's daughter day it was the second king of israel and david had eight wives multiple concubines and he had nineteen sons tomar was his only daughter this story how he exemplifies jesus statement and john ten there thank you very much and need a thank you carol first of all thank you for this absolutely fantastic opportunity to share my story with everyone and to share the story as to how god helped us birth liberating state more you read liberating tim was burst out of my own struggles in my own pain over i was sexually molested as a child from the ages of age of three to six and out of that experience came a lot of  behavior and a lot of idiosyncrasies in and coping mechanism and just a lot of demonic bondage to be honest with you and and god processed me took me through a process that got me to a point of liberation emotional stability and just a point of emotional holiness and he has instructed me to take this experience and impart it into the lives of women all around the world because know how you say it what happens in the family stays in the family so in those communities there are millions hundreds of thousands of women who are emotionally stuck at that point and spiritually they cannot move forward they cannot move forward in relationships having divorces having you know having struggles financially having struggles emotionally committing crimes of all kinds and all sorts and this ministry guy has mandated me to take the process that he has used in my life to bring me to this point where i am i'm not perfect i want to say that right now but i have reached a level of victory in my life that i believe god wants me to report into the lives of these women and that's a liberating  said he started from the age of three of the weight of six years old when we left africa and came to the united states and when we came here i had grown up as a as a child as an adolescent as an adult and i started having issues with sexual promis i started having issues with with anger with bitterness just hatred hating myself and just having a pathological need for it engine and acceptance which led me to to do a lot of things that self sabotage to my own emotional health and put myself in harm's way physically as well as spiritually and emotionally so when i first got acquainted with god i got up the whole immigration process came started when i realized that god loves me in a way that is limitless he loves me in a way that is boundless in a way that is totally unconditional and that i did not mean to measure up to a certain standard for him to accept me because i was so i was so damaged and i was sitting at tension in so many wrong places that i felt like i have to be a certain way in order to be accepted by people so i like to myself i like to people got saved he i started going to the bible and just being hungry and thirsty for what the word of god said that i was to live like because i realized that i was living a life that would stop our life the bible is the tremendous book for the promises full of promises of healing of emotional wholeness of prosperity in every single area of our lives but i realized that i was living the life that was belief my privileges as a christian have so i said there's got to be a way so  i'll have to go out and i said lower if there is if you can use me in to make that turn anything out of what has happened to me you do it i just give myself to him and that's pretty much the process that has taken me that that's the beginning of the process so basically we he took me to the word about when he first asked me i need you to identify your issues i need to confront right i need to confront that pathological need for attention i needed to confront that that point i believe we have to get away take the take of these masks and confront the reality of things what has the trauma or whatever has happened to me cause me to become right and once we face that and once we realize ok this is not god's best for me then not to work with us there now was the beginning i was starting point and so one of the things that i have shared with lee and seen and it's sort of like a fundamental component of our show your place to soar is these ten commandments are these ten values that we have and what idea was i share with her all of those values and have her tell me which is the one value that really resonates with you in regard to liberating tape r and the one that you chose for the faith and belief so as i'm listening to you i can really hear how your faith and your belief is what got you through all of this but can you explain a little bit more because it's going to be some people you began to grow in your face and grow in your belief to kind of got to the point where i was really tired i was really sick of myself because even though i i i was behaving in a certain way in my life i hated the way i was still behind me i hated the relationships that i was breaking all the time i hated not keeping my word i hated behaving the sexually promiscuous way i just hated this life i knew that there was a better life th that intended for me to live so i got to the point where i said i don't want to be like this in him and i remember very specifically being in my bedroom and laying on the floor in the fetal position and asking god i know there's better for me and know you have a better doing here i'm not supposed to be here i'm a child of the game so i should be home with my will with my father with my so on that's the point that i got to the kind of flipped the switch in my mind and that triggered the whole thing for me to to for the rest of your life until you submit to god because that's all he wants to do and then once you submit to god things start changing in your life and then your organization came about liberating t you know and i love how you how you have trusting god accepting myself every rise and you know that's the whole process you know and being able to tell the women in your story gives them the ability to know that there is still hope for their lives to make the change for the better you know but once we just have to surrender ourselves identify the problem and accept god as their savior and he will you know give you what you need to convey to continue the struggle to have a better you know a more fulfilling lifestyle for yourself absolutely you know it says you know when people don't know people see the struggle now and they just think th we're after we have taken them through that process they are still tamers and but they're not trusting god accepting myself and radisson which tells us that we don't want to change anybody's identity we're not changing who they are or god is changing who they are he just wants to give them the right perspective i want to give them the right perspective on who god has made them to be and how this is the guy how they should see others and how they should see themselves and the perfect plan that god has for their lives so that's that's that's what i want to add about that that's also that's really awesome and so i got to know lee and seen it through this organization like we know each other from church and i was going through some struggles myself and s befriended me essentially prayed for me prayed with me and really helped me to get through a somewhat low point in my life and in the process of that friendship developing i got to know a little bit more about who she hears and about this incredible organization and got involved and doing some things went with the organisation so why don't you tell us a little bit about that fantastic event that we had a season where you may not completely understand why but now i see better because anita is such a good great tremendous asset for liberated him she's partnering with us she's she's handling a tremendous website that she liberating tame are under abuse from a woman's angle and he came in he shared a man's angle and it was tremendous move of god and that place where people started crying and people started having  himself wherever he was to show herself you just have to be available and open and let him have his way and i was a tremendous event exactly to say you mentioned your husband yes as we were putting the whole entire program together that was one of the areas that we were kind of had a lot of discussion about because what this looks like from a male perspective given the fact that obviously in a lot of these instances it's a man that is perpetrating  women sounds very intrigued by the idea how does a man see save all of this and talk to a couple of people what's a couple of videos that talk specifically about what the stock's life from about perspective so why don't you share with our audience some of the things that your husband brought to light for us from that male perspective to pursue what my husband pretty much said was he said this type of abuse happens because men see women as  yes that's what he said and it starts with educating men and letting them know that women are to be honored to be respected to be loved as the fabulous daughters of god that they are as a princesses that they are and just teaching men how to treat a woman and how to respect a woman it starts with the boys the raising and teaching them the little girls how to be women right and how to prepare for a man in the right way how not to  only god loves you and that was tremendous that was awesome blessing to the women and and that was powerful that was extremely low and it's interesting how you brought it down to parent parenting yes people need to understand the importance of parenting yet there is roles rights and responsibilities that parents have as not just to make sure they provide a roof over their head and make sure they go to school where i don't developing future adults yes and our goal for them should be for them to be able to kid into their society to be respectful to be just just love as a man of the end just respect everyone and that is taken you know it's been a loss like a lost art we should be encouraging our boys n r o subsidies you know we should be telling our girls you are beautiful ok you are smart and you are intelligent be respectful to yourself  into their whole goal as parents to be a productive to raise their children to be a productive adults absolutely and i want to add something to that where that's why the mandate of liberating tamer is so powerful because if women are broken and damaged and hurt we're raising our children out of that brokenness and we're training them in ways that are really not biblical with giving them an eventual portrait of how they see men because we have been so we have been so bruised so we're teaching our daughters men are all dogs are you know these things that we say jokingly sometimes but children are sponges yes and they taking everything into play if you tell a man cannot be trusted if you tell him oh you know you have to be independent and you don't need a man or whatever we have we have to be comparable to teach our daughters how to be vulnerable in a good way right and how to be confident also without being arrogant without being repellent yes right and still be respectful so so that's where the really them are so it's so powerful because it's probably helping the women to process that pain that hurt in order so they can become whole so they can train a girl their girls and their boys to be really good you know godly examples as well exactly because one of the things that really resonates well me like i've done a lot of study in the book of genesis when it's when god created man and i think that in general one of the things that we miss whether you're male or female but particularly i think men miss it is a fact that when god created adam we were already inside of our so god didn't start from scratch when he created a woman he didn't so there's no significance to the fact that adam was first and that the woman was second because we both were created in a good scripture is says  he created both male and female in one and so he reached into adam and pulled me out and so everything that is a side of me was a regionally inside of a man so with all that division in that c you're fighting yourself you're fighting yourself as an essentially is what it boils down to so that's been a very powerful sort of visual for me when i was raising that my own daughters because i used to tell them you don't shoot a man let a man treat you like an object like but you have to know who you are so that you can communicate to them that you treating me that way is unacceptable to who are absolute as a person because i'm not beneath you chaps i'm complimentary to you and i think when when more people begin to see that and recognize that and understand that and apply that we can start looking at maybe mindsets changing and hearts changing and all that sort of thing absolutely and i love which is just said that you have to know who you are yes and it starts there as part of the mandate of liberating team are we facilitate liberation for the women and we also help them to identify their purpose and to our office so i am a bible teacher so the bible is my soul's resource pretty much and i believe that the bible is the is a tremendous resources very comprehensive and everything that we have every need that we have that has already provision in the bible so we take the bible and we build curricula for four institutions for churches and for christian organizations depending on the demographic of women that is in those organizations so we go to the bible and we take out on based on the issues that these women are facing we built curriculum we provide we offer those curricula to the leaders of these organizations we also do a lot of outreach we partner with organizations that are in the community who are after prostitution there is life after those things and i was so another thing that we want to do is go into prisons we do prison ministry because women who are in prisons are there because of something yes because something happened and you know you cannot be in prison without having life as well i developed a sexually promiscuous behavior as a young adult and that means you into our self sabotaging behaviors where you do things that you don't want to do so a lot of those prostitutes a lot of those women in the sex industry don't want to be there yes but they don't know any other way to live so we want to minister to them we want to tell them that god has a greater plan we want to facilitate education and in order to transition them out of these lifestyles into  you know respectable profession or careers and you know and i and i agree with you totally how they do not know that there's a way out there just so used to being in that lifestyle and yes yes you know existing in the end that's how everything is and i like how you know you not just go into the other communities i mean into the community and help them do the outrage but you're also partnering with organization like minded organizations to accomplish the same goals and that is so important because we can't always do things by ourselves we need to work together to get the job done absolutely and vice versa one can trace of thousand t contact with us on our website and then it'll send me a note and then i'll get back in contact with you so we can so we can connect so that's liberating k mart dot org that works ok excellent so are there any final comments or any of the final words of wisdom that you have for our audience yes first i want to just thank you for this tremendous opportunity to bring the word out about liberating to mark and i'm forever grateful and the last thing that i want to say is there actually small by the so whatever trauma has occurred in your life that has gotten you to the point where a sub sabotaging your involving in some believe you're there destructive and you are in a way in a situation where you are broken you are damaged you are in prison emotionally their website or liberating tame our dog or also being able to see what our upcoming abets are we do fundraisers and we do all kinds of really really fun things so we want to kind of use this show as a way to kind of connect once again and always my dear friend gayle and the braves are so to a close and for our audience i want to thank you for joining us and watching us at the place the store and hope to see you next time th