go yeah who got the days are known to be the happiest people in the world that is because who go is a cornerstone of their way of life who have translates as a sense of comfort togetherness and well being like  people are out there going what are you talking about what the heck is who never heard of it i've never heard of it until you said let's do a show on right and i said why on earth is that and how did you hear about it i was talking with my my daughter she told me she she read this really interesting book on who i was like i don't know what that is so she showed me a little video which kind of explains a little bit showing that it's not that it's like a lifestyle and a way of life and i thought it was very interesting so i bought a book on who and the little book danish secrets to happy living interesting and it's written by the c e o of the happiness research institute from copenhagen now there are studies that say they are the happiest people on earth right yes sounds nice right yes are you going to move to copenhagen and i time soon now i'm stuck here so the happiness institute i didn't know much about it i looked it up because you talked about it right and they said that they actually started the institute because they were doing studies to kind of track world happiness and that they were doing research on happiness across the world it's in denmark and it's very interesting they don't try to tell people how to become happier but they're there to promote happiness and they provide data but the research that they do who go and words in other countries the danes call it google the us cold calls it homeliness the dutch tend to use the word gets a leg in a lot of ways for example drinking coffee air because a lid cafe means a warm interior flickering candles and a sleeping cat fireplace or at least some by the candles canada they call it holy this which implies a feeling of community warmth and togetherness it also implies the feeling that implies the feeling of home germany there w key used to cover the state of warmth friendliness and belongings like them a sphere in the beer garden would be great if we all had that here yes and if we all lived in a beer garden in that we would be really great if you very happy for sure i'd live in a wind garden if i had to live in if you're growing i'm sure you can just yeah now the pillows and plants and and it's the whole sense of making your surroundings comfortable yeah like you want to just warm and cozy warm cozy comfortable we want to lay down your one fighting yank it's the lighting they talk about the lighting a lot saying that candle light is some of the best light to keep the mood happy and comfortable and because bright fluorescent lighting like we're sitting under right now yeah it's harsh and not good for who got right now it says who get loosely translated is a sense of comfort togetherness and well being right so it's like kind of encompasses everything so you're supposed to feel good about yourself feel good about the place you're ran and the people you're with right and actually the danes use the most candles like per capita now is that you know if that's what they prefer like unscented candles yeah so interesting so now that you've read this yeah and learned about it have you tried to adopt who go in your life in my household yeah i have a lot of co pillows around and i also like my blankets my husband would tell you i have a million blankets because i like the the cozy feeling to snuggle on there and you know it's nice and like sit like say like i have a bay window in my house to sit in the bay window wrapped up in a a blanket with a hot cup of coffee or hot cocoa and read a book yeah that's the best and yeah and lighting too i mean i don't like really bright lights no i don't either so i think that's a good a good way to start obviously right so the lights we talked about the lighting ok and then they talk about together but that ok in europe sixty percent of the people socialize with family and friends a minimum of once a week in denmark the average is seventy percent in the us i'm sure it's not that it's much less because we are so work driven so they see their families and friends pretty much every day exactly right to where we have to everybody hopes cooks to me or bring something so if if i was going to have a little soiree we do for dinner have some friends over everybody would bring a dish everybody starts to cook able to explain your comfort zone to include other people we're all social creatures and the more we are involved in relationships the happier you are and that's true i mean it's true for the most part especially when you have happy healthy relationships like we're supposed to have yeah you know when you have a good family and you have a good group of friends it makes you feel better make it feel better to see them talk to them joke with them even when you're not feeling good they kind of like pick up but when you have unhealthy relationships but a lot of people do yeah bad relationships a family or either just in bad relationships with a partner or whatever it's better for your environment it's better your life so  guess the denmark don't do that they kick the toxic people to the curb right exactly like bob i know who got here exactly they surround themselves with good friends and apparently like if you're an american movie to  mark it's hard for you to get because they're like very close knit with their relationships it's hard if you to make friends because it's hard for them to accept a new person into their circle because it makes it on balance yeah well it is what i would feel lonely then we can go to denmark to be happy because they won't talk to us right all that defeats that purpose will have to start our own little you go back to the us where you're very unhappy proud and very busy and miserable exactly  it's a really good concept and it's amazing that it's kind of just ingrained in the way that they grow up and it's just their culture it was that you know i mean that's that's tremendous have you ever met anybody who's from copenhagen or john mark and life know me and they're i'm just curious if they're really truly like that or if you know what i mean but it's you know it's their way of life they they basically embrace me and social and the social experience of family and friends and just keeping a positive environment around is not just a can yeah i wonder if if they ever move out of denmark and come to america it changes how they are they get to be miserable just like a skier and i'm thinking yeah that must be awful coming from disneyland to america yeah the happiest place on earth yeah well maybe they don't leave i wouldn't leave if i live that way either if i was truly that happy and like at work at home and everywhere else why would you want to change anything right now do they practice that concept  at work to like is it in their professional lives yes because like thank if it's somebody is birthday everybody takes you know shares in somebody make a cake you know somebody will bring you know bring everything and they make a big celebration out of it and nobody gets left out nobody gets left out it's a trick you know nobody gets left out of the chains you're very funny about a side joke the these comfortable environments i looked up some things they do they like a lot of stews they do and they like a lot of comfort food when you know that quality you know they love cinnamon raul's yeah pastries that's where i k and say you know i'll start my own revolution over there salmon cabbage rolls cabbage rolls just kind of almost exactly like the polish and the slovak people me like stuff off cabbage yeah they also make a stuffed donut cold they're like powdered donut holes and they're called two of them making them yeah see them make they have all they they make the dough and then they deep fry an individual e and then they put powdered sugar or there's a recipe too weak but peanut butter and chocolate and the inside yeah i know they love their chocolate they do log in berry joe jelly is the one there that's good swedish coffee cake that sounds good roasted cauliflower soup i might have to pass on cauliflower so roasted pork baked potatoes with cheese potato dumplings they me that sounds good and rosettes those little white cookies that are like a flower and they press and make um yeah and mulled wine they like to serve it warm with spices some of their big staples yeah i mean and how you know and stews like you said they're very are you comfort food be up like reminds you of like grandma's cooking but you would think they'd be like five hundred pounds right but they're not but they're not they're beautiful and skinny and perfect skin but they but they all exercise a lot more than we do because they have a lot more time they go on hiking and skiing and bike writing right and they don't do a lot of t v watching right or movies or things like that it's like it's being outside and interacting with people but all phones and technology they probably don't even go there  probably you know like like kids here sit in front of the t v and play their video games they don't do that there i would think because that keeps them disengaged right so that's another reason why we get so you know an a to each other right what about close close when it when it comes to close them are casual is key they live in a casual tone a casual atmosphere and a casual dress code to be stylish you can wear a sweater over a t shirt and a blazer over the sweater they this fashion is minimalistic and the scarf is a must and the bigger the better i need and everybody was a scarf and the skin the key to surviving all the weather changes in denmark is layers because it can be cold it could be a nice thing to go outside yeah good to know and they were a lot of black you said yeah my kind of people and they hack me too i was reading here too while you were talking about that they said how everything is in moderation and i believe you should indulge and cake and potato dumplings and wine it's that's what i'll call it but not be gluttonous you know and you should do things like having a dinner with friends but nothing fancy right should be simple and should be in moderation right and you know that's kind of the key i guess to the thing right yeah i can just see them coming to my house at thanksgiving it would really put the middest shock the others not hoga going on over there no but car thanksgiving is very social and we have a lot of people and we have a lot of laughter and good at people bring stuff and yeah you know you have a lot of people practicing that outside the home that's what they were talking about like in schools and where they work and you know they they do practice it everywhere they said they had just ingrained in their behavior exactly and so they're conscious of including everybody and keeping things simple both at the offices and at schools and universities and things like that they said it's the same thing that if they stay at the universities or the colleges that people tend to make their dorm rooms the same way yeah comfortable cozy that they're very inclusive of being nice to people that are in their environments so you know bodies and working with them that they include them and they try to make sure that it's a peaceful environment because like some offices we have here where this one doesn't talk to this one or the one hates this one or that exactly invites people on that side of the room to parties or out to drinks but ninety seven right it makes it mary tom know in denmark you can go to somebody's house and say they live upon the second floor like when you come in in the door and the bottom of the lady they'll be like a little table with some books on it and of course a candle lit but they can you might be looking at the books and say this is really nice but it but it's ok if you take the book we did and then bring it back on another time so you just borrow things take it help yourself and think about yeah that's cool but you know you go upstairs and there's going to be you know very comfy and you know cozy a lot of a lot of families who have their homes have little reading nook where they can curl up with pillows a blanket and their book and i caught chocolate or a cup of coffee or tea so they do a lot of reading yeah less t v more being here so their minds are working much better right there than most americans exactly most americans don't even read anymore exactly ask a kid in school what was the last book you read something they were forced to for a book report or something not said anything for pleasure probably yeah it's terrible now what we hear when you read the  of it or something you got out of it that you want to share with everybody i think what that i really enjoyed the most was trying to incorporate some of the who gay things into my house with like i have like more candles and i have like my my blankets and i like my donuts and chocolate so now you just you have any life or get a name for your addiction exactly but but it's you know it's trying to you know make make it like a little safe haven you know comfortable where you can sit on the couch and curl up with a book and yeah you said your daughter told you about this yes that was kenny yes so she read the book learned all about it told you and then you decided to embrace it if we see if she was tight tell me about you like an amazon or somewhere like that if people wanted to buy it and read it yeah but in the summer people now that now that we're heading towards summer time now we can have  a summer so you want to make use of the sun the warmth of the sun and each of the build on togetherness and food who would do what they tell you to do is to spend a day at an orchard so you pick some apples and with friends and when you get home and some jellies jams then preserves because you do that all together so make a good day out of it go and pick blueberries or strawberries or holes and come home and me pies or you halle's or have a barbecue for family and friends people love standing by the barbecue fire i don't  plants to chat with the people that or are working on in their gardens to now do you have a garden and home did you ever i use when i grew up we always had a huge garden  i have now i have some pepper plants and tomato plants on my deck he did simple yeah but do they do the squirrels and the deer and other things come and eat it or bother it no because my deck is high up and posts i have it's like he can't get into it because i have like my dog pan around is behind the deck you know off the back of my house right so it doesn't leave any space but a lot of people that you know have regular gardens i know they have problems with animals eating yeah a lot of it so there's all kinds of things they do with wires and yeah and barbed wire and fencing and have a picnic with your friends on the beach that's a very who good thing to do or you can take a bike and bike around your town you know they right a lot of bikes there more than cars yeah so that's probably also how they work off all the cake and dumplings and yeah it's good yeah very good bike riding is good but there is probably much safer here a lot of towns and r share it's about being grateful to having gratitude and savoring the simple pleasures in life and if you have the pursuit of every day happy so instead of really big things thinking when i go to hawaii someday i'll be happy right when i you know finally graduate college or i get married or you know these big big milestones if every day you can say you know you could be happy have a nice meal and socialize with your friends and family right i'm happy that i woke up feeling that you can be finding pleasure in small things like that i'm happy that you and i are still able to come here and do the show or a lot of if you have you know something you have if you don't like your job but you have a job you know to be happy for that exactly you know try to spend it find something that you can be positive for and that will help bring you to a of yeah yeah so get the book it's a great concept yeah there's a there's a lot online about it too as well besides the book those articles and there's several books there's lots of books and lots a you tube videos yeah and you can start by you know changing your environment at home trying to find these recipes you know or even just you know start out by  candles have a some new pillows on your couch and on your furniture outside invite some people over yeah have some fun yeah and then try try a new recipe together yes and you