very talented and gifted and and all kinds of things like that so she's going to talk a little bit about some of the programs a season of all of them but before we get into that i'm going to just read her bio we have barbara  brown harvey the founder of the caregivers and same your advocacy advocacy program she conducts workshops conferences presentations and trainings on various subjects such as senior citizens dealing with depression associated with senior advocacy she has a caregiver support group which is on facebook as well as a caregiver hotline and she is also the host of the care for caregivers cafe internet radio shows so welcome barbara we're two thousand and thirteen and my mother got sick january two thousand and fourteen and so you know she called to be and i was the one that was they are doing a deal with this and so i took on that  primary sole caregiver and here i am out two years later still taking care of her yeah that's actually pretty challenging i've had some experiences in my family watching my grandmother for example taking care of her daughter ye and you know somebody who needs all around full time care and you know and all of that it can be very challenging so can you tell our audience a little bit about it because i'm sure there are people out there who are finding themselves in a situation where they have to care for  whether their mother or even like a sick child or something like that is so the patient advocacy and all of that is a very important thing what i'm trying to do is to get children families to start thinking about caring for the money resources and things like that you know and that's so important to talk about it or it becomes an issue because later on when it becomes an issue then the stress comes along yes there when when the stress is involved you know a lot of times it's depending on that one person and it's hard to get others to the hard times a page example that you would have a previous conversation before when you said oh what's just one person just go and pick up the medication year and it is very any day physically and also mentally because you know sometimes it's disheartening to see your loved one s so much pain or whatever kilmister going through this the whole binder that you talked about is that something that you teach people do you say yes coach people that you do some consulting or something yes and that's also part of my my training so ok the dental and a lot of times to you to help out  learn more about how do you put that kind of pull together and just another question about that and then we can move on what happens in a situation so i think my question really is are there other family members that you have  course hanging out you know on the floor things like that make sure there's a mad in the stuff like that you know because if you care and make the home safe or you can minimize falls and one thing about  pire to write the book because usually that responsibility falls on one person and and it's a small fact that it does why we don't know the only thing i can think of is that the world has been doing it that way for so long to this bill for right now but it really isn't right and you know the family the neighbors i mean friends or whomever everybody should try to put together you know to work together because it's when it comes to our community and our elderly you know even a small thing is going to the store testimonial to the store just rattle that a little bit more for that year and the small things make a big difference because i know when i thirty but i did do a grab but you know potatoes other people but my my goal is to be able to make that a twenty four hour oh no i so you know somebody can call i said you know mom just fell or caregivers hotline is a five six five one six five six zero one and that's monday through friday twelve thirty to two thirty ok x zero x l and there's not a lot of staff right now and it really is just me but if you call and you can get me the message shall call you back ok very good burger and so that's really good information for our audience one of the things that we do as you know when we have people come on the show and we have our core values and what i do is i ask people kind of tell me like which of those core values resonate with you i'm not going to go through the whole list but we have things like vision and purpose and life coaching and personal develop man's community and family etc et the force to the contract so i was able to cancel all but one and that was one that wasn't very were good my plastic in january so that was a great transformation for me because i had to put my plan on the back that my religious convictions they they want redesign but they will go to another another level yes because even though you love your parents and you want to be there for them if you're working alone and you're in your day that it has to lead to the same reason you know but then you look at god where you know his the spiritual aspect of it and that being a way of finding some peace and comfort what else do you do to relieve the stress oh ok well you know what i do   and people know that i'm doing this to long but even the disappointment and the pain of not receiving help and they do build a metaphor and i'm not really understanding why and you know so you know so when i have a down time before i let my mom do a lot of wondering and things like that i just do something you know and you know what it's funny how you say that because when i run into people who are killed caring for an elderly person or paired one of the things i tell miss you have to take care of yourself first oh exactly you know you have to make sure there you get your alone time it doesn't have to be out of the house it avoided if you take care of yourself but then how can you be there for your loved ones so we have to think about that too and this for air what are the things that i do to relieve stress i crochet oh good here i crochet i just started drawing i mean coloring down or something like that i generally will do some writing so we're almost out of time but i want to when i want to do is say i want to say that a caregiver is hotline again ok but i also want you to  there was some other information that you had given and i want to make sure that our audience has that so the caregiver hotline is eight five six five one six five six zero one and that's monday through friday twelve thirty to two thirty and that's well thirty pm to two thirty am no twelve thirty pm to two thirty pm oh god it is so it's like two and i have yet to have hours or so so i want to make sure that our audience has that information again a fact six five one