jodi would breeze in with their i'm and i'm here with to put them a car and she's here to talk about embracing your emotional pain now what does that mean exactly embracing your emotional pain to get this message out there and be able to help people to the extent that i can in maybe when this or realizing that there is something that we all have that is called emotional pain and what i mean by embracing is that from something that i probably didn't realize till my late eighty's is that you know when you go through life it's a journey and you hear all these people randomly you know we have our own journey and i probably didn't understand that more and still i was in my late eighty's and faced a lot of obstacles throughout my twenty's and thirty's and realize what that exactly means when we say that way we each have our own journey so my concept i have that i've titles embracing your emotional pain is when we have physical pain it if someone breaks their leg they can have a cost but a lot of the times when there's emotional pain whether it's bullying whether it's you're going through a bad marriage or there's financial loss all on with your keeps you know if you should be put on the table right and that's i think growing up that's what we do and i used to think it was very specific to where i came from being south asian from immigrant parents who came to london and i thought that that was just something that was prominent in the south asian community that you don't discuss things and you keep it inside of you and you know everything's about reputation but as i've grown up so to speak i will say it's across the board that it's it's not specific to my community the way i thought i saw usual and i think one of the most shocking things to me was growing up you invision people who that facing problems whether they're emotional financial whatever you expect them to come from a certain type of household that's just the visual that you're given right now in the media and everywhere and i can tell you i come from a household  which i have very supportive parents extremely loving family in that i'm very close to today and i think that was one of the biggest shocks to my system that way when things happen that you're supposed to come from a certain type of background or a certain type of environment that you face these whether it's a divorce or whether it's financial loss or whether it's health issues and my point is saying embrace your emotional pain is that at least in my journey i have felt that because there is no mechanism to teach people to deal with their emotional pain we grow up sweeping things under the rug and not accepting that we're in pain we go out into the world and we face and we put on this great front i can tell you my own life i went out partying i was hanging out with friends pretending that i had this great life but in essence the pain that i was feeling inside was so deep that i was nobody could see nobody could see and there was no willing that you couldn't i wasn't able to accept that i was going through this pain and as a result of that you don't because we don't embrace the emotional pain that we fail and because people outside can't see it and make it work it makes it worse and it's it's almost like the example i give and this is just an example but when people go through when somebody dies there's a grieving process right and everybody's that everybody's with you because they can physically see a death has taken place when you go through something like a divorce or a loss financially nobody can see that they can hear it they can see that but nobody really knows how to react to it and you almost go you almost go through life feeling that you have to put on a front that you have to pretend everything's ok even prior to getting divorced a lot of  pretend that everything's ok and that you're not going through a pain and you put on this front but what i've lunt through my life at least is that by doing that year after year after year it compounds and every decision that you make in life then is sub consciously tainted with this this feeling of that you are less than your last them because you don't have the married life and the two point two kids and you self and until you really face that pain that you're in whether it's because you've been bullied whether it's because of a divorce whether it's because you suffered financial loss or whether it's because you use  got something else going on in your life that is extremely emotional that you can't come out and express it you carry it with you and you carry it through with you in your life and i'm my point is that if we all learn to accept that it's ok not to be perfect and that it's ok to be depressed it's ok to have issues and that way not less than i think it would make  little better and i think that the people going through things would be more willing to reach out and recognize that it's ok to say that i'm not ok you know i'm in pain i'm hurting i mean it's a lot of suicides rates really high and people are afraid to reach out just say you know when you help i think is a combination of people are afraid to reach out and people don't know how to reach out so the pets and goings through to throw it's different emotions cannot quiet or if you're on antidepressants you don't see it there's a shame attached to that you know it's not it's different and saying hey i broke my arm or i'm really sick people can relate to that and people know how to reach out but in situations like this i don't think people i think it's both sides people don't know how to reach out and people who are going through it don't know where to go or don't understand that which is something that i feel and don't understand that answers truly do lie within us we just have to find the strength to look deep inside and find those answers and when we're willing to embrace that pain accept it and deal with it i think that's the meaning of moving forward in life and i think if that's a message that people that are in pain could get that it's ok that you're not it's ok not to be perfect of course and you not all right and i think we could i would love to get the message out to help people to say it's ok i mean honestly i had the fast time that i ever realized i was depressed it was probably in two thousand and five two thousand  and i remember when somebody said it to me i was like you've got to be in my head not like the doctor for us you know yeah i went to see my doctor because my emotional pain had taken on physical manifestation of my body was  was willing to accept certain things and when somebody had set that in my mind it was like that's impossible i have a loving family i'm in a marriage i've got two children i've got i don't have a lack of money how could i be depressed and i think the image of somebody that is is portrayed as being depressed and the pain that people carry that they're not dealing with that lead to the depression is something that we need to talk about more and something where people really do need to understand that they're not alone it's not just them going through them through it and there is a way out and she watched worked on this for you what made you start want to talk about this i think december two thousand and eleven i became paralyzed through health issues well and i had at that point gone through a very rough time i  had at that point i had gone through my i've gone through my second divorce i had lost a business i was losing my home i had basically been stripped of any financial security that i had any emotional security that i had and i was a single mom with two children and i think at that point metaphorically i was brought to my knees and i knew life wasn't working for me the way that it should be or the way that i thought it should be how does somebody like me with support with family with friends still make these decisions and i think the fust time was when i came out of hospital and i realised in february two thousand and twelve that my life was not meant to be this way and i had to really go down the and see where was i responsible so it's very easy when we go through things to blame to be angry to be resentful why me why am i going through this and why is why is it always me was it than sigh hi i'm hurting these are the issues that i'm having  this is the pain that it's causing and it all compounds till finally the universe took everything away from me and you have to face the truth and the pain and you have to figure a way out that and when at that point it see the sink or swim but i remember being at that point and not really knowing how to deal with this or you do funny enough i went down a very spiritual poss and i went to see a spiritual advisor who you know i think i've joked about this with you who said to me there's such a thing as forgiveness and unconditional love and i really did think it was a crock of shit you're still in pain and you still have to deal with it and at some level you have to figure it and move on and not live in the past and i think when you truly learn to do that is when the healing process starts but it's not something for having the faith i think it's really an important message and for somebody who's been through it and somebody that you know has a professional like yourself that can be inspiring to many many many people and i think you can make a huge difference in the world i really do and i thank you for talking about it being being society of princeton in their edible princeton living eating breathing history don't forget princetonian now is produced directed invision by the great patrick mcdonnell ok let's go to the arts council opening twenty eighteen we talked to the interne director jim levine what's going on john abbott musician who skin and the great chris rollins from w p s t v anyone who's been around the central jersey area for a long time knows about w p s tea and their pop music and we got some free t shirts some excited let's check it out they say artists are the utena i for creativity for the masses well that's true here at the prince in our town so we have a lot of creativity and we're  how did you get involved in organized should i say a rather impressive large event thank you so much i've been at the arts council now for about three and a half years and i started as an intern right out of ryder university so i became a little bit more of a hand in this event every year now for the past two years this is my event that i put on every year when you actually start hard planning for this event and i would say early as may i start to think about what this will look like we try to do something new every year and i always like doing a really exciting community component and this year's the paint by number mural so i started thinking about that a while ago because i like something a little different and fun every year to tell the audience what's in your job that they wouldn't expect as part of your job description sure well as program coordinator it's really just across the board so along with the open house i'm in charge of the evening with bollywood event that's also coming up in september over at the prince and shopping center so all are free community events but i also lend a large support in the gallery as well and just i like being a little have my hand in in every little aspect of the organization which is what i like about it  here in princetonian now with the twenty eighteen open house for the princeton art council and we have a celebrity a long time princeton resident baseball coach everything jim levine jim how do you feel right now taking over the reins temporarily we don't know here at princeton arts council yeah thanks adam and i am serving as the interim director while we look for a permanent executive director it's great the staff here is great the programming is great the community support of this organization is fantastic so i'm really looking forward to digging in helping out the arts council any way i can you give me the big picture what are you looking about in twenty eight hundred in terms of programs events membership sure so i'm  people are aware that membership has certain advantages in the arts council you get the arts card which gives you discounts and various places you get discounts on educational programs that we do here so we really want to see if we can build our membership up to lots of people in the community and you're approachable any time they see you in the street at the arts council they can come talk to you learn what's going on absolutely feel free my door is open just stop by the robeson center and i'm happy to meet anybody or talk with anybody good luck and i'm sure things are going to go even better at the arts council and twenty eight team where with john abbott before we get into what you do now you were working for n p r i was a contributing reporter part music and i teach ukulele and beginning guitar here and my going to my second year what are the pros and frustrations of teaching music well it's like any other discipline it depends partially on the students sometimes they're really charged up about it sometimes they're trying it out just to see how they like it and sometimes they just go crazy most of the students i get to work with here especially at the arts council are very enthusiastic and very passionate about learning music and sometimes too they bring  previous experience either on the same instrument or say at the piano or something like that so it's always it's always great fun someone wants to tinkle the ivory or whatever whatever you want to play check out john abbott at the princeton arts coun council opening today i love being here i'm here for their fall open house today and you know they just want everyone to be aware of what's happening here there it come see what they're all about they're scots they've got so many great things going on here today there's local artists there's local illustrators there's ceramics demonstrations going on there's dancing happening today just the whole community is coming together it's a great event families kids membership a hands on activities and chris ro annual princeton music fest get your dancing shoes going we talked to one of the organizers jamie volker and members of the band the big valley bluegrass also get to see me dance with the jazz aficionados a lot of fun good food musical fest i can sing you want to hear my song i wrote for my daughter the monkey verses donkey dung gave verses monkey anyway if you can probably guess they won't let me sing even though it's a catchy song so we're going to talk to people musicians producers directors and every day folk come join us at the what are we what are we at i mean things happen so fast here this is the palmer square music fest music a secretly we all have this walter mitty fantasy about playing music what do you guys play we play bluegrass music and we're all out of the lehigh valley this is allison for practices and making sure everything's always dialed in and finally tune in you know these guys are professional musicians been around for years happy to enjoy them not too long ago and that chemistry that we have off the stage that gives us the ability to do what we do on the stage excellent well we're going to see what's the name of your band we are big valley bluegrass  jazz band out in new york city they are a tribute to the jazzfest which we've had for twenty six years with just kind of molded a new event today after seeing it alex aside stage we have victoria watts she's an acoustic player out of new york i'm sorry out in new jersey down the jersey shore followed by the shanties an irish band out of philadelphia and then we're going to be back on the side stage with some assembly required there one of our house bands i've played a couple of events here people seem to love them and then our main acts tonight four forty five to six thirty we have the nerds out of the jersey shore i can i can go on and on with the nerds myself when the way you know what you're doing you're going a mile a minute we should let you go but you're doing a great job today you for you know one at one of the additions we have instead of just coming here and hearing music and food you're also getting some of the great retail stores from palmer square so if you were to walk down the main strip you're going to find princeton t shirts you're go find paintings of from princeton you can get your hair done you could get a fairy braid from salon p r there are some really really great stands a lot of fun things that you can purchase you can participate and there's a contest there's balloon art it's just an all out fun day for a family square focused we really just want to showcase what great offerings we have on the square what's your website again palmer square dot com and on i've been school thank you very much now the only shell that serves princeton t v talking about princeton people places and things where the palmer square first annual music fest i'm talking to dave post post here with the band and with the band swing at though like what kind of music employ absolutely you've got to give them what they want right now so you know we've been doing it for twenty years our twentieth anniversary this year we're happy to be here in prince center and taking on the other band going on here and everybody will have a great time today a website or anything do with jazz we are in the business of promoting and preserving and presenting jazz so our mission is to make sure that this uniquely and credible american art form stays around for the ages from the dawn up until the new music up until what's going to come next educate promote you know more people to enjoy just all type of correct yes we have a concert series that's happens ten times a year we hold it on a sunday afternoon at shanghai jazz it's typically the third sunday of every month is that one of the located shanghai jazz in madison new jersey and it's free to our concert to our members it's ten dollars to the general public that ten dollars is applicable to membership if you choose to join that day it's always a wonderful wonderful stable of top notch jazz musicians and we also have a generations of jazz program which is a curriculum based program we take into schools and libraries and then we also have a very long standing relationship for college scholarships with william patterson jersey city university rowan oh my gosh i'm forgetting the other two there's a lot to what you what's your website going your thank you w w w n j j s dot org all kinds of information on that and then every spring we have an amazing student concert of those five scholarship awardees so it's really been very impressive  today i dig the music but now we leave palmer square and go about two miles to the dike farm home of the historical society of princeton with another one of their shall i say outrageous the fun events edible princeton you learn about how people ate past we're going to honey picnic i'll call maybe not anyway forget about the present we can't look towards the future let's get on with the past and i'm very hungry let's go fascinating names even forgot about and also menus how things looked i even like the like the advertisements it's living history it's our deco it's everything what do you like most about your job but what about your job out there that people don't know that you do  i love the fact that in an open archive setting like this we kind of get a chance to really pull materials out and allow people to interact with them without the items being behind glass and it's really great people who are visiting getting to drive the narrative and ask the questions and i think it's great to help people understand that these are items with the past behind and that they have stories to tell come to the updike farm come to the exhibits and the events and the new new peacock and old place but new decorum i heard it's a trendy eatery bar place to meet and greet people in town right now what do you have here right now we have a sampling of our heights he service our website the peacock in dot com has the full history of the varied history i can't wait to have some tea it looks delicious i'm getting hungry and thirsty as i speak my name is stacy roth well today i'm going to be discussing the rise and fall of tea in the eighteenth century because you know he became very popular in the american colonies but because of taxes and other policies by the british government there was a rebellion where tea was dumped and no one wanted to drink it and so i'll be discussing and you know the story behind that and the colonists because they really didn't want to give up their tea went into their gardens and came up with a lot of substitutes to use in their tea pots and place the tea that came from china so we get a historical lesson a background and we get to taste some lovely tea or interesting tea homegrown indigenous environmental sustainable stuff is on the west side of town so in princeton we're on the side and here in town woods and it's the friends of her town which which is f o h w dot org that's our website and so we're we're working to save the also a house that they donated later and that's a really neat house and we're hoping to you know renovated it and have events out there and really nature walks all kinds of good stuff it's like in a way says it's like getting into nature and a sanctuary right in the middle of central new jersey and princeton that's right i was that's an excellent characterization well good luck stephen again you're a living legend i look forward to hearing more from you on everything and anything talking to  walking tours coming up for the fall we have another historical fiction book group that will be in october we have some teacher workshops so many things you can visit princeton history dot org and see the full calendar of events  said there was going to be like fifty thousand people that were that's the number they say i don't even know they're sure what's happening but it's packed packed and the weather was great it was a good time to celebrate town gal and good food things to buy some discounts and of course you see friends you hadn't seen in a long your title i'm the executive director of the historical society of princeton what is your big picture for historical society what are you trying to do on two or three fronts well this this today is a great example of what we're trying to do is we're trying to reach new audiences to maybe people who haven't really seen themselves as the standard historical society audience in the past but really trying to introduce people to the fact that history is all around us and history can be fun and engaging and that it's important that we all have an understanding of that part of our community  and our heritage and trying to reach reach new people in new ways i suppose is the the biggest picture of them all adam berman princetonian now we're building princeton at the printed historical society this is now at a building in princeton the lego vent i'm talking to should i say the genesis the man behind this steven schwartz what are you trying to accomplish here today the main thing that we try to accomplish is when i work with the historical society and they are trying to get their message out to the public i can supplement that in a beautiful way by bringing families together so that they'll start to think about the architectural heritage of their community that's all we're trying to do is get them to look and see and notice things they probably have driven by a hundred times but they never noticed the roofline they never noticed the brick they never noticed the window arrangement or the geometry of the building and all of a sudden as they look at this photograph to try and duplicate it in lego all of a sudden they say oh i never noticed that before it's a great feeling i love seeing that so our mission today is for each family to build a building that we have selected with the total help of the historical society after they finish the model we're going to roll out a thirty two foot map of princeton and put the buildings down on their actual location holistically it makes more sense to everyone visually this is a visual exercise something they would never been able to do on their own but you know all of a sudden you've got fifty buildings and they're all over the place that downtown is and to be a little condensed we had a problem here and the map turned out to be a little smaller than i expected but but they'll get the picture it's a lot of fun and you painted a great picture this historical society great for kids  education and great for awareness of architecture is a family program you can't your kids don't always want to do things with you but this is one thing that they will love doing together as a family and it's obvious take a panorama it's obvious they princetonian now we're at the updike farm now home with the princeton historical society i'm talking to lori and rinehart where do you live in hamilton new jersey oh what led you how did you hear about this event i saw a flyer educational time for the kids or could cause family just harmony and not harmony what's going to happen with you i think it's going to be very educational plus a little bit of him being the boss what's the name of your team no one knows what might happen to our right one thing it's the me industrious hard working and i think you're always very interesting young young men thank you very much who's in charge here or this all started in montclair new jersey so we have now been at the montclair art museum this was our thirteenth year of we were there two weeks ago not only do we sell out the entire fifty slots they had to add another program so we do one hundred families in one day and there's a waiting list for a third so it it's what's nice is every year we repeat it and it's just a great benefit for the historical society but we do in montclair new jersey summit morristown we had westport connecticut we do stony brook new york so what hershey pennsylvania last year the historical societies call us could you develop one for our town this took about six months to develop this whole program today and i work you know with the historical society here so do a web site or how can people reach you a terrific website it's called building blocks workshops dot com building blocks workshop i like that you know all the modalities there they saw the picture they do work together the team it was very hands on they didn't you know take that rendered and make it into a lego and then they're going to get interested in architecture also just to see the finished product they actually made a picture with lego and they remember we're really interest me is that these young kids like for two maybe like ten eleven or twelve they i saw a picture and then they just started building lego's and they made an actual building out of that like when i mark clare right up in boston but it's ingenious it is financial competition it's artistic it's everything it's family centered people would talk about it was excellent promotion tool and actually like you saw the kids you know like a better term that they were area city metro area happening texas louisiana california you name it they all came here just to the kid to person for the reason to go to commute versity which i think is amazing it's like so renowned the town and also this event that people go from you know like a very nice warm summer place like florida or california to come up to kind of a it was a nice day but still kind of cold yeah just to experience this event that's what i thought yeah i don't almost fifty years ago someone had a great idea don't exactly know who about having something called commune averse city connecting town and gown now in twenty eighteen we're back again but a community is on a success over fifty thousand people might be here today and we're going to show you the taste the smells and the great conversation you that's right and used to run a lot across country i remember too i always saw you running but now you are helping i saw an expert excellent documentary you did on park on person t v what's going on mark won but anyway what are we doing now what are you up to now with mark one park well this is the mark on park foundation right and we support the park this is a seventeen acre arboretum in the center of princeton we are blessed with over eight hundred a session trees there  hundred sixty eight different species and so it's a gym it's princeton unknown gym and you're trying to preserve it grow it keep it in shape we are indeed we are and so we've got tom letter a treasure to know i'm here for two things i'm here for the princeton shadetree commission and for the master gardeners and pat probably has me there shadetree and master gardeners and the master gardeners are here to provide information  upcoming insect festival about the plant expo which is coming up next weekend and to give any information people might want to get about what to do with their plants and a shady tree commission is giving out tree we've got five different varieties of trees and these come from funding from the state to help reforest new jersey after the trees we lost in sandy and other storms so we're hoping people come along pick up the tree and plan it in their garden take pictures as it grows and come back next year and the year after to one was and then we have princeton t v is that kind of right i think that's terrific and that's something that i'd really like to see promoted and get more you know awareness of because i think the third one you were probably trying to get out it was mccarter theatre which has earned a tony the library is world class and of course this is the largest gathering in mercer county that's sponsored by the arts council and princeton community television is not people are not as aware of that yet ok but what what does a place the general macro plant how are you going to try to raise awareness and funding well we're going to basically be doing a lot more outreach we're going to be doing lots of programs and events we've got a possible program that would involve like friends of princeton t v and we're also engaged in a program to do some public service announcements and municipal boards and organizations just in hansing the awareness is the first attack angle so after that you think you can get into some what i call win win partnerships with other non profits are even for profit businesses like they get to promote a show  v they also help with financing absolutely absolutely we're already partnered with national film festival and that's going to be coming up in may so make sure you come see that that's always a real blast i was fortunate enough to be able to put a documentary together last year that aired and that was premiered at the national film festival and it's a lot of fun and it's free so make sure you come out to that and we've got a lot more you know cross promotions and partnerships that i think are going to be very productive unfruitful and don't forget to watch princetonian now in person t v the only show for and about princeton thank you very much thank you science and a little bit about what goes on at princeton plasma physics lab interactive that's right people get to play with all of our our science gadgets they can see how magnets work they can see how vacuum pumps plasma physics lab one of the gems of this talent some people still don't realize we have the princeton university art museum excellent paintings ever changing expositions and even more important to me it's free a mazing resource and we're talking to current store manager what do you want people to know when they come to this table beside seeing what you have about the person art museum that we have an amazing perming collection which is free to the public and  there's a lot to see there there's art programs that happen every saturday which are also free for families so i recommend checking out our website to see that we have our and then calendar up there everything's free to the public a lot including a lot of artists l really get more sales does that help is this one whether it helps or doesn't it you know gives people the opportunity of walking by seeing what we're doing and if they like what they see they come back later quickly you know your time's valuable you have surviving you're still here why you as opposed to other family run businesses or any any any other business of any sorts of i mean here well you know my cousin used to own the army navy store you know he always went out this past year both of those stores had you know items that if you went in you could try it on you could look at the end of the box or you could look at the label go online and order and save money here we go out of our way to find products no one else has or prices and no one else has niche attractive storefront and you're still here thank you very much