began going on since seventy three and we're strictly about mercer county tucker we get no funding from big brothers big sisters nationally but we did get stringent reporting requirements guidelines and lovely and that's where i got to understand kids the way i do it was lovely and then i reached a point where i guess i had a midlife crisis and even though these kids were wonderful and i still miss them to this day i wanted to do something for kids with absolutely no and not a lot of support and so i made a big switch and i went to social service  for four years at home from which most people know their organizations call their kids and then i switched to a smaller is a big brothers big sisters which is about individual children witches and credibly mourning because you know most social service agencies that deal with children deal with children right right and that it works i mean they provide services in groups of kids who are looking for work a big brother big sister and a lot of them sure are untrained and not all i mean there's kids and parents and there's kids in lawrenceville you were there all over the place and these are are living in single family homes they are sweet but a lot of them have low self esteem and they are either a lot of them are neglected just because visually broken but the friendship and then the heart of your life goes on for us and we have so many big brothers and sisters say well you know i i had my that you know the reason i'm here is because i just went to the chamber of that celebrated powerful professional and she says i was reading these some of these matches are the kids are going off to school right and so they're done and we have the more in the pipeline but you know as long as there's kids out there who come to us and say i need a friend brian hall we will work kids well you know like i said we are under very strict guidelines and are very professional organizations so the safety of the kids is paramount so certain checks and things like absolutely you know we t b b s mercer dot org and so you get an application you fill out the application and send it to us before we put you through the  living go then we do the background checks we need to talk to your spouse if you have one or your significant other can we need references and there isn't a private interview with one of our case managers to find out why they want to do this if you're committed for a year and what kind of person you are what kind of a child you're looking for him and then we have also interviewed the kids not parents to know why they want to do this what kind of a big between you and the child and the parent and if there is off you go with guidance from it if there isn't we look for somebody nice now do you kind of to you i mean to with three narrowed down and then say to the person will out of these three people you actually just narrow it down to one person we narrowed down to one person and you meet that person but then you don't have  wonderful yes yes yes i think it's because i love i love helping children you know i think they like i said they need that love they need that person one on one which is even better and i can give you so much right they do the same even you know good changes your whole  i'm looking for a venue where i can come and talk about this and to try to get mentors so if any of your audience has another idea of a place where i go great i'm here yes and i will definitely find out you know because i know of you from networking you and lot of the people waiting for help and money but the magic of big brothers and big sisters happens in prime time and so there's nothing really to show you because we're certainly not going to show you a working questions its friends at b b b s mercer darko work and our phone number to talk to me and need it or our wonderful customer service specialist denise is six five six one thousand are wonderful and i thank you and thank you thank you so much i can see your passion you have got it i love it because it works this is just you know this is matter it is it is magical and then you know the big brother big sister what a perfect name and is just like you said something unique can go one on one is even better the one on one escape yeah it is so thank you so months a future well until next time to talk we'll talk