scott was the youngest he would be described by his half sister and byrd who had been given away by jackie peterson at birth as the special child or the golden boy he could do no wrong and the family treated him like a little prince such treatment gave scott the idea that he was in fact special and should receive special attention and abide by a different set of rules than everyone else naturally over time scott's sense of entitlement warped his view of the world if his own parents did not say no to him he figured while if anyone else saying no to you can't then he goes on to say this type of character defect and this was written by a psychologist i believe in psychology it's just a study of the minds and how how they're affected by actions of families criminals tend to have two extreme family dynamics either they are were terribly abused as children and therefore feel entitled to whatever they can take in later life or they were they were overly and giving them the idea that they deserve whatever they desire see that's the problem it may look cute it home but it ain't going to be cute when they're fifteen sixteen seventeen twenty twenty one and they think the world owes me because my momma said so my daddy said so scott i learned early own that he was entitle not for doing well like this i read it like this this is what i've been preaching go scott learned early on that he was entitled not for doing but for being he thought i'm entitled because i am scott peterson i am entirely because i believe in predestination and i am a new creation  mind according to theory is just karen hornby the sporters mother child is really do you mind as an instrumental as the parents love the child not really for what he or she is but who they want or imagine him or her to be and that's exactly true i really like this writer the child is there to fulfill their dreams and becomes a way to magically transform the parents decided five lives into success they live their lives for the children my father tried to live his through me as a result small children often give up reality to adopt their parental fantasies to be what they think they supposed to be in the womb of these fantasies they feel worthy perfect in entitled such children are unable to realistically assess their true abilities and limitations they can you assess themselves because they've been told something that's not true all their lives neither can they understand the expectations of others and notice he said it's all because of their doing they won't they won't do because they haven't been told to do god's go make us did the expectation of others the value of teamwork they don't know teamwork it's just about me but see that's what sinners are about and perhaps most important they do not have the ability to postpone gratification i want it now give it to me mamma ok here your daddy i want it all right so you need to spank you to tell you for that the family is the first and most important teacher of our identity and source of emotional support it is the place where we learn to feel cared for and loved and it forms the template for all future relationships therefore as the smaller smothered child grows  kids are young the bible says god scourges every son he receives he says he whips these children and we're supposed to spank ours and cause them and say no you can't have everything you w in many ways you human development is very much like that of a tree of a tree cannot grow in one direction it bends and shifts its branches around whatever obstacle is in the way until it finds balance in equilibrium  pathology is a result of disturbed growth it is you want your kids to grow up disturbed just don't teach them what the bible says and don't make them do what they're supposed to do and that's the way they'll grow up as the two is being soci grows and it's bent by the parents is an adaptive attempt to go around obstacles scott peterson was no different from a two year old screaming to get his way of course a screaming two year old is far less lethal than a tantrum being adult and that's what you'll end up with if you don't spank your children and you don't make them behave you don't give everything they won't well this won't hurt them but they can have this will they don't will there's time for him to himself and felt able to tolerate any says after all he was his mother's son jackie peterson was no stranger to problems and controversy she had a difficult lot and had given away a few children of adoption we don't know the impact of jackie's choices on her son's behavior but it would not be much of a stretch to say that scott got the idea from his mother jackie that you get rid of anyone you don't want in your life and that's the truth you know what modi his mother and his father and they let him do what he wanted and the bible says we can do that we are sons of god you are not your own your but with the price i will go into this right now but let me give it up with these look here look here it i like this word child there's two words for a child there's children which is disciplined by by punishment and these are all derivatives of the same word now there's an old testament verse and i get back to where i was but there's  testament verse over here in proverbs twenty two proverbs twenty two i'm just kind of i got so many things to say on children of god we're made sons of god by the will of god not by our will we're predestined to conform to the likeness of jesus but we are preordained to be his sons before the foundation the world nobody can preorder themself as a son now here in proverbs twenty two in verse six train up a child in the way he should go he is old he will not depart from it train up does not mean to take him to a bad this sunday school and teach him don't not be real good be real nice and don't cuss drink smoke and chew that's not what  narrow is the way and this is what god does to us and narrow is the word t h l i b o in the greek and that word means to crowd through a narrow opening as though you're being pressed on all sides and that's what we're being were being pressed on all sides by people when we are in the narrow way and the and the derivative of that is th are the base where d h p s s philip this is the common word every time you fin every time you found the word tribulation in the bible in the new testament every time it is the word the lip says policy and we must through much tribulation into the kingdom of god when he was stoned and left for dead outside a lister they thought he was dead that beat him so bad with those great big boulders he said when but in acts fourteen twenty two and jesus said in john sixteen thirty three in the world you shall have tribulation that's the way he's talking about here and he says now are your kids teach them to live in truth to stand up for the truth read the bible in your home talk to him preach to him give him the truth show him how to stand sean how to stay in an elementary school you can't do that if you're just homeschooling you can't do that you say everybody is trying to keep their kids away from confrontation by home school and i'm and i don't want to keep away from competition b him some christian so called christian school that was teaching church of christ doctrine a babis doctrine that's what they do don't they're he went to one christian school for one semester he said that's all i can handle don't put him into culture shock when they're a kid ok now we've kept you away from the world here you go cause santa we are what you think that's not where they're going to be that's exactly where they're going to be i got said my sister that's what they need to learn the older needs and into panic piano for the church sweet little girl like you never seen in your life and into with eight abortions and david living with a drug dealer and oklahoma city and even loaded his pistols for the shoot out with the cops and she was brought up in a christian school  is she was c and she don't look like it here she looks like the sweetest little christian girl i loved to play the piano for jesus but gave me a drug you know she was a sweet girl she ended up that way because the way my sister raised her so she ended up like that and the other girl my sister would let her pick image mistreat you they're going to mistreat the world they're going to think they deserve something that they don't deserve and god's not going to let us get by without our izzie no sir but do it means to train up and then you hey you think do you think ordained this to be the way it is god then you have to do it a switch is a trainer or a teacher and then you have pedagog pedagog a pe in it is a it's the word you use when it speaks of the schoolmaster means the child leader it can be good or bad the law was a schoolmaster over in grayson's the third chapter below is a schoolmaster leaders to christ a schoolmaster was not the teacher and a screw a schoolmaster was a servant in the house so that took the child by the hand and lead them to the teacher the schoolmaster was the man in the household was the holy spirit that led us to christ to teach us as well as who might show us but a pet of god can also be someone who leads people around like a child putting look here in guys have got i want to read some of both of these look at the only one that understands is the ones that is made to do right and that's the child i'll read an understanding verse and then i'll read it of course about how you're supposed to it's too much of a job they don't take the time to make them do right that's why they don't do right because you won't take the time it takes too much of your time you've got to be very strict and very stern but at the same time you have to temper that with tenderness jim i don't i used to spank my children in anger and i don't believe in that anymore i think they should outlaw having kids to you about sixty i don't have and haven't been but i think they ought out a lot because you don't know what you're doing when they're young do you most of us have raised our children wrong to a point i raised very good as fourteen and i told my sister one day i said i think i'm being too hard on mary and i was a basket case  estate and i'm not making excuses i was a nut case out and real estate i was fighting scratch and scrape didn't want to kill somebody and and and janet said well of course she was too lenient on her it's exactly what we thought all of us think that and when i started being more to nor am i thought if it was my daughter if he was actually in my blood he's my stepson of raising since he's four but he's my son and i'm father in their eyes in that's what you have to learn you have to do let's read a couple of these here a quick look here in proverbs look at proverbs two proverbs to the i'm going to give into i've been wondering how to put these in in this way i'm going to get proverbs two and verse as three down to it my son if that will receive my words and had my commandments with the you keep me in your heart but you do him so that thou and climbed on here until wisdom and apply been hard to understanding but the only way you going to understand is do ya if that christ after knowledge and lift understanding but that's doing for the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver and the gain there have been fine go see wisdom in understated she feminine of days honor thy father and my mother that the days may be long upon the earth and our father is god in the fourth chapter of galatians says our mother is jerusalem she's the mother of us all so this she back up here to verse five he says if you seek her as silver and search for her as for he had treasures then that shalt understand the fear of the lord and find the knowledge of god you'll understand the fear of the lord is the beginning of wisdom and knowledge for the lord giveth wisdom out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding he let them sound wisdom for the righteous he is a butler to them that walk up rightly so let's put it this way then shout that i understand and do righteousness and judgment and equity and yeah every good pat now look it proverbs three eleven three eleven i'm jim brown your bible teacher at grace and truth ministries if you'd like a free tape we'll be glad to send your free tape we will not solicit you and all you have to do is call us at what eight hundred sixty five five four zero nine or you can call us in the nashville area six one five eight two four eight five zero to two people say what do you believe that grace in truth what we believe that christmas is pagan it's the old feast of saturn w believe in predestination now most people don't understand that predestination is about god predestined in us to conform to the image of the likeness of christ so we believe in accountability and responsibility believe god creates evil we believe god created sand and we believe 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