following program is sponsored by seattle open door church yet all open door church is committed to loving god loving people and loving life our doors are open to whomever no mass required seattle open door church the father we come to you asking you to lead and guide us as we talk about inner values that you would speak to our heart she would show us how large maybe they give a revelation of something that's gone on in our own life that we made a valid bout that we've held on to years not even really aware of it and that lord you would bring us understanding and clarity of those vows we made that are hindering us today and if we can walk in victory that we'd break off any curse any any lie that's been in our life and that we can walk in the victory of force in jesus name and intervallic were talking about when you may be made as a child when you're not even aware that you made the vow that you made a conscious choice an unconscious choice to say i will never are i'd never be apart or whatever it may be and it is been hi for years but it is manifesting in our behavior interactions and so if you look at letter e s as an inner valves were used as childhood for protective purposes those that are valid could be used to build walls of protection that would manifestation c concept is you made a vow that maybe you made a vow that it was a valve that protect you as a kid so if your dad came home and he was an alcoholic and he came home and he beats you every time he came home you would make an inner value i am never going to be around my dad there and so that would be something good because it's protecting you from being maybe beaten by your dad the problem is then anybody that looks like your dad years later what happens you don't want to be around them because they look like your dad and so it was used as a dinamo to protect you but what can happen over a period of time is that it no longer protects you it causes dysfunction in your life and what this is saying is that we will build things in our life so that inner valid doesn't get touched in other words there can be some other behavior that's manifested and the whole purpose is the cover up that inner value because the inner valve doesn't want to be exposed because it was built with the new as a protection mode is it me is it makes sense what i'm saying in the midst of it so sometimes somebody's manifesting or they don't know why they manifest anger why am i so angry why am i so for  fearful why is it that i can't trust anybody well maybe you made it in are valid not to trust anybody so if you made that inner value years and years and years ago to not trust anybody and you start to look out why don't i trust people i would tell you what you have to do you have to get a place to save me a geezer going to get together or going to find out what is behind me not trusting people because i don't know why i don't trust people and then you start thinking about and you can look back where you made a vow maybe made the valid five years old six years old eight years old maybe made a vow at a year and a half and you had no idea that you made a valid a year and a half and so you have to look at that outward behavior because that may explain why there's some stuff going on in your life letter f many times my mom now i made that val subconsciously never got up in the mornings as i want to write down a few valves but he made a decision i will never trust a woman that is like my mother and the woman makes to ever trust a man that is like my father and they get married and they have those vows what happens they married the person that they said they would never be with but they don't know they made that val because it was something done subconsciously so every time the wife acts like the mother that the husband said he never would marry what happens is you don't respond a certain way so ma e my mom was a clean freak in our neighborhood the rumor was you could go to the dover sale seat off the floor and you could because my mom cleaned the house probably five times a day we're gone we're not even hall she'd clean the house before we got home because you're to make sure i was clean when we got home after we had dinner she cleaned the house all the time clean the house so if i made a vow to never marry somebody like my mom we're going to talk later ron you  end up what you reap what you soul so if you say i'll never will what do you do you reap the never will ok so then all of a sudden i'm married to a wife and she's cleaning the house all the time she's clean the house now most husbands would be thankful that while i've got a really clean wife she really keeps dallas playing for me and we could eat off the floor wow what a wonderful woman that she would take the time to do that but if i made a vow i'm not going marry someone like my my mother and some buddies do it my mother does what can happen it can be a conflict just so what happens is you say man why do you always have to clean the house you don't even know why you're saying that and guess what she don't know why you're saying that because she's thinking he should be happy i'm cleaning the house why isn't he happy so then there's this conflict going on and a surface stuff that we're dealing with we don't realize there's root issues dissolve this makes sense now the key is are you ball and off are you mature enough are you a desirous enough to want to change to be healthy to be all that you can look at that and say the issue is not my wife clean the house up all the time the issue is to me because the reality there's nothing wrong with some a clean house doing all the time it could be a problem for anybody briggs saturating how we're describing a but it would be a place that where we turn around and say i need to be looking at why does this bother me and i don't know why is one thing if you know why it's another if you don't know why and unless the husband wife works through those that are values they had what is going to happen they're going to be in conflict all the time and then this is what happens i know what it is the wife's the problem i'm a divorce her you know who you'll marry again if you don't work through the issue another clean freak they'll be twice that much as the clean freak why because you made a vow and god tells us we're not to make yes is b s or knows me knows our validation of the stuff that is i'll never be with soul and soul and so what happens is that couples get in these conflicts and there's this ongoing conflict in they think the issue is their spouse and the issue isn't the spouse it's what's in the heart has anybody experienced this and other issues it can be with them ploy or whatever it may be the next thing you know you have a boss is just like your dad why is it might why is my boss talk so loud i don't like loud talking bo well guess what dad talk loud and he scared you to death whenever he raised his voice you you went into a corner so whenever the boss raises a voice you run into the corner of the warehouse and you're wondering why because of the bell letter t identity is totally wrapped around the inner valve so you have a certain behavior and somebody says you know it did you have a dad that was like this no i didn't have a debt like that what are you talking about you deny because what you don't want to exposure how many know all our personalities are character traits are we don't want to be exposed is that true adam and eve was in the garden they hid themselves they've been n and as soon as sin came in what they wanted to hide themselves they felt shame do you know before adam and eve fell they never felt shame they were walking nude in the garden in front of god all the time there was no shame but one cent comes or shame so when we make sinful choices we make sinful decisions invariably shame comes with that so what do we do we try to hide it so here's some examples of inner values that you may try to hide you cannot trust anyone you make about can't trust anyone and somebody says to you seems like you don't trust people but that's not true you know why you say that's not true you can't have that vow expose because that vow is there to protect you in theory so he says it seems like that whenever you are around women's red hair you act weird i don't know what that's about but i know it's because you had an experience with a woman with red hair and so from this day on you turn around you have a perspective and when somebody they watched their mom made them watch lucilla ball and because she made them every time they come on they added watch lucilla ball for twenty years then watch to see that do you know do you know that people experience abuse even after they grow up so for twenty years she's made a watch of the super bowl lucille ball at eighteen you should stop watching her but you get but you get brainwashed you get convinced that this them that's what happens when there's abuse that goes on so there are people that are abused at twenty twenty five years old still and it started when they were three years old because they've been brainwashed into that so you will take that example who still balls so what do you have to admit when somebody says you know you have this problem with with w red hair there's got to be something with another's not but then when they sit down with you and new sybil calls on that comes on the t v show you start you know generally and you still will deny it in the exaggeration i'm using that's the reality that happens all the time that it starts to be that god wants intervallic revealed why to set you free from that interval so he'll use people places circumstance to expose those things but you refuse to let them be exposed because in your mind in your subconscious it is that that is my protection and you're going to take my picture protection away from me there is a solution is don't watch lucille ball and realize a lady with red hair is not lucilla ball is sounds so simple doesn't it just grow up don't we say that to people at times if you would just grow up what if it was just that easy we would just grow up but we don't even know what it is that we need to grow up in because we've never dealt with that is near bridges exposed and i would tell you who talks about this stuff this stuff isn't normally talked about i would argue one reason that a lot of pastors don't talk about this because then they expose their own inner because if they talk about there may be exposure to themselves they may have to become vulnerable so let her see it is not safe to share most of feelings is not safe to share what you think anybody grew up in a home like that is not safe to share what you think some of your growing up grew up in a home but she starts to share in the desi need to respect your teacher she's trying to open up about something's happening but she's taught she can't say anything so she buries what is happening to her do you know that does go on that happens all the time and so there's this message that that you're supposed to just be quiet i know that some of us are older some us grew up on halmos that watch what they tell us that showed or to be seen and not heard right anybody grew up in that environment that is actually very dysfunctional do you know that it's very dysfunctional that what that is saying that is somehow children have less value than adults what does the bible teach jesus teaches that children have value much more than adults what do you say he said if you abuse a child what should happen in this don't put it around your neck and you've thrown in the ocean that's pretty strong words so how many know if you're taught that you're  taught these messages that you're not to speak you're going to listen that you would develop behavior to deal with that so this is what we did is we lived in a house that here was the living room and here was the hallway and there was a door between living the hallway but there was the furnace vent that went on both sides so when the parents would go into the living room and close the door so the kids couldn't be heard or seen me the put our ear on the fergus so we could hear everything they were saying and you know what most of what they said we could care less or we didn't understand so then we got bored and we just walk away anyways but we sure got there must be something nasty they're talking about that must be something bad they're talking about because we can hear what does that create within a child and then i remember there was one guy he was a truck driver for the the pipeline the alaska pipeline and so he used to drive trucks in my truck from from washington state into the yukon and all that and at that time it was absolute terrible so we had all these interesting stories so whenever he showed up guess what we sat down and we listened good to hear what he had to say there was good stuff was good things to learn it was exciting to learn what the been better if you would have been there been able to interact with them and i remember one time he had slides and he was going to show the slides we got the privilege to actually see the slides i was special because normally want to get to be in that room but we got to see the slides and at that story how many others have had stories like that and then what happens is that you think that you don't have that you you don't have worth and you can't because here's what happens we're not supposed to speak we're only supposed to be seeing that's good when maybe you're two years old three year old four year old what happens when you're an adult at twenty eight years old why you can't stand in front of a crowd i wonder why maybe it's because you're taught your not supposed to speak and you can't stand around to be around people why is that maybe because you're told not to speak are you shy maybe had some to do with that and out of it you made a vow i never want to be yelled out again for being where i'm not supposed to be so if you make that bow on his gun conscious about what's going to happen you're going to be that shy person that just hides wherever there is and so that we have to break through these things without the knowledge of these things don't let someone have have all of you hold back anybody ever had that one you know what don't let somebody have so if you're married you're not going to give your spouse your all you want to hold back a little bit because if you get the ball they can use that against you so how does that work in a relationship or horribly so what i do is my wife i say karma tell you what i'll give you one day's wednesdays and fridays rest the time you can have me how's that going to work but i'm not going to say that would be stupid to stay that not going to say that i'm not going to consciously say that but what's going to be my spirit i'll end up relating to or in that way i'll hold back maybe i become a workaholic because that means you don't get all of me i'll give it all to the company but i'm going to give it all to you but do you sit down and write that down to say i'm going to give the company all i'm not going to give my wife all you don't make that conscious choice is something subconscious that goes on and if so if and i says  honey you give me only monday was days of fridays every house because everything else and she says that to me what will be my normal response but why do i get defensive right i'm not going to knowledge it because it was vow that i made that nobody's going to get all of me and i made that vow and if she says that i can't admit to that because then she knows my vow and then she can use that against me but is it wrong for her to suspect they have all of me there's nothing wrong with it so she says that to me i should be looking at and saying you know what honey you're right only give you money that was in friday's why is that what is meant then mean that i would only give you missed in friday what is going on within me most of us will never do that will turn around and say how dare you question my commitment to you will become defensive instead of looking at what that inner valve was what is that that's gone with then us so we talk about moving beyond the past if you want to move beyond the past you got to move beyond the inner valves again maybe they worked when you were a kid i've said it more than once that some people have mental illness and they have schizophrenia because they learned early on to have an imaginary friend and when you're three years old you have imaginary friend that protects you from jesus if i am forty five years old shouldn't i go to god to cope with the things of life but at will be forty five years old fifty years old eighty years old one hundred years old and a hundred years old ryssdal dealing with things the way we did as a three year old and what happen we had a hundred years of not having the fruitfulness that god had for us how many things to be missed out on how many relationships to be miss out on because of those bells a prejudice racism bigotry we can make a vow f never speak in public you can think taking place we can always judge by what is seen the surface we need to look at the root of the problem so is the problem i can't ever elations ship with women or is that the problem is i made some vals that interfere with my relationship with women that me tell you this is how homosexuality come was about is that for early on in life that you distant seem to connect to your mail you distance seem to connect with with with women very good but it seems like you can connect with men well so you make a vow i'll never be with women if you don't make a vow to be homosexual you make a vow to never be with women but what will be the end result that comes with that so then we want to address the homo sexual issue that's going on that we see on the surface but what was there that was underneath first john two sixteen says for all that is in the role of the lust of the flesh the lust of the eyes in the boastful pride of life is not from the father but is from the world so how many know that there is probably was the lust of the flesh the lust of the eyes or pride that's behind what i do there's some other things going on be asked the question what is behind what the person thinks or does what could be the root behind what is it ask yourself if you're working with somebody else you're trying to help somebody else ask yourself what is it that's going on on an on the underlying surface what is really going on instead of just the surface stuff how many know that you go to counseling and lot of times you go to counseling and one of two things happen they want to go you go get you in the past they have used in the past forever and ever and ever and ever that's one in the past reverend never never other way of counsel lot of times what happens is they're not going to deal with the past whatsoever and they just want to make you happy how can you make you happy is really the counselors go to make you happy should that be if you're paying seventy five dollars an hour for somebody to make you happy let me tell you something you can probably do that for about ten dollars either go to the video games and play video games all day long that's what makes you happy go watch t v all day long that makes you happy the goal of a counselor should not be to make you happy the goal of a counselor should be what set you free because if you're set free what happens if you're happy you're free indeed and there's what there's peace that comes from freedom and so really it should be a focus on how to get you to be able to walk in the freedom that god has for you to get you delivered and so one of the things is you have to be willing to look at the stuff you have to be look at what is going on within me that is deep down in there and i would argue that you shouldn't do by yourself that's dangerous anybody ever do introspection introspection to look at then there's nothing wrong with looking within you should but i know that can be dangerous you can be so caught up looking at yourself that you have a totally wrong perspective what's going on and you get self focused and so the need to be a place that we work with others and say hey i don't know what's going on but can you help me with this situation that's in my life i don't know what the root is i don't care if it's pornography don't care for drugs i don't care if it's over a don't care that maybe for som all of a sudden a light bulb comes on all of us and says you know what i remember i remember that time when i made a specific val that i would not do this or that because of an event that happened i never realized that that's control of my life i pray if there's anybody here that has the situation that they would give the situation the jesus there is a lord i give it all to you though the wounds the scars all happen in the past i give that to you i don't want to continue to live with that in valdis interfering with my relationship with others i pray father that every person here would be willing to grow in christ to be more mature more healthy and to be willing to look at those things that maybe never looked up before so lord as we have something stirred up in our minds in our hearts i pray lord we won't want to bad habits who won't read to the bad behavior to deal with the but we'll give it to you that even now will say god i'm giving this to you i'm not the prodigal son god's forgiveness face to face encounter with god the power of the cross forgiveness and inner healing intervals of bitterroot judgments closing open doors breaking every curse breaking every the section and be filled with the holy spirit want to let you know that you can live the taurus overcoming life in your deserts can eat or in glorious gardens if you want to learn more go to our website session so you'll be able to follow right along with us yes you 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