the lady where we bring guests on our show to talk about issues and topics that matter today have a beautiful system all the way from marilyn but we have to do a skype today because she couldn't make it into the studio so i am so so thank you for coming on i just wanted to you know people to hear your story because when i met you about a year and a half ago i just loved your whole spirit it was just so positive and you're beautiful and the fact that we didn't event together earlier this year the crown seeing you a crown girl i just love that whole concept but i just want people to to hear your journey from you know what were you doing before what inspired you to be an entrepreneur or and just tell us all the ups and downs and things like that that you love about being an entrepreneur thank you so much first of all thank you so much for having me on the show and thank you for reaching out to me you know one of the things about being an entrepreneur is really being importance of networking and meeting people in the stablish in relationships so i just want to commend you for reaching out you know because i think a lot of times as entrepreneurs we don't do that enough right just from you just reaching out to me you know we've established a great partnership in like you said a great event which i'm sure that we'll talk about later  but just a little bit about me in terms of my background i am a a social worker that is my background i actually got my bachelor's degree and psychology my master's degree in social work from how would you university here in washington d and you know one of the things is that i think i was just like everybody else and that you know we kind of grow up and we have our vision for our lives then you know we kind of have all these ideas and plans and after i got my masters degree i was a really exciting as now i get to work and write you know i work hard and you know spend all these years in school and so i'm really excited because now i'm going to save the world and i had all these you know optimists think i did you know things that clinic and for all intents and purposes my life was great i was newly married had a great house had this great job particularly right out of grad school and i really felt like i was going to be able to make an impact but i was going to be able to help a lot of people and i was really excited about that because that was my goal and what happened to me up because what happened for a lot of people is that once i got in this job i realize that it's not going to be able to do what i thought that i was going to be running and instead of helping people to heal you know instead of helping people to grow and to change and transform their lot of people to maintain their dysfunction and that was not day i became more and more depressed because i realized that i wasn't really making an impact and i wasn't doing what i knew that i was capable of doing and so i wasn't really helping people and so you know i really there was just sort of whole journey what am i going to do you know i kind of just got to the point where i really became sick and tired of being sick and fire all kinds are going to work every day you know monday morning was like oh my god now you know turn off that alarm clock  became really you know sad and really just depressing and just you know when i was really excited an optimistic now i was you know depressed and sad and miserable and you know not you know i'm not the person that i knew that i could be right so what i did is i went on this woman's retreat and so you know you're talking about i went to his women's retreat and i got back to that soulful self care that i talk about and that was just spending time in nature you know doing yoga meditating reading in just you know spending time with like women like yourself you know just talking in just you know enjoying ourselves and you know what happened was i think sometimes we get so caught up in our lives and when we finally take that moment to breathe right and just enjoy things and i took that moment and i just i literally had like an emotional breakdown because i kind of had that time to just reflect and just be in a moment with myself and assess my life and i was unhappy yeah i was unhappy and i wasn't where i wanted to be and so i had a slow motion a breakdown and i literally found myself on my hands and knees crying out to god just praying like you know i don't know what to do you know i'm not happy i have this is not a life that i'm bijan living and i don't know what to do like help me get rowdy here oh my god i can't imagine i know the feeling girl think overachiever perfectionist like how could you fire me never been fired for anything in my life and so it was definitely a wake up call and so what eagle was getting a little upset you know spirit kind of kicked in and just said ok a book or a why are you upset this is what you asked for and what you need for so now what are you going to do about it and that became my mission what am i going to do and so i realize i have two choices i could go back into the fields and you know try my job you know try it another job and you know try to see what i could do in carve out you know whatever little bit that i could in whatever position that i got right now so i could take that blue pill i did the live coaching i did the counseling i learned you know day absolutely every aspect of the healing arts that i could even think of and really worked on myself and and really looked at what is it that really helps people to heal what is it that people really need what makes a difference in people's lives and that's what i work on and that's what i study then and six months later i opened up able or is healing center and that was a little over twelve years ago and i've never  it's a beautiful space absolutely relaxing at the moment to walk in your li yeah that was really the intention because i had been in a lot of spaces again as a part of my own journey right where it didn't feel good and i said now i'm coming here to you for help and i'm coming here to you to heal this space has to feel all right and you know i can feel uncomfortable and just know that's that's a really powerful and the fact that you took the six month because like i said most people will just go back to the same old ferris wheel of redundancy instead of taking a moment really thinking what is my purpose here you know expression of you're saying that before you were missing something and so here it is you took that six months you empower yourself but you also relieve the self from all that stuff you know that was bothering you so that that's really beautiful so you do yoga and tell us about some of the other things that you're that you're doing as well so so many things and all and one of the things i want to say about that is that one of the things that i tell my clients is that i would never tell you to do anything that i haven't done right and i think that's so important in this in this space of healing because a lot of times you know people get caught up in trying to say the right really a number of different things that i do you know ultimately it's all about helping my client who you know my clients are the dreamers they're the people who do dream big who want to make it impact in the world who really know that they have something to contribute they have a purpose they have a passion sometimes they know what it is sometimes they don't but ultimately they know whatever it is that they want to make it impacts and they're sort of in an impasse of their life where they can't quite figure out where they are they're stuck in some  stagnant they know do they want more out of life but they're not sure what it is and they're not sure how to get it right and i think that's a lot of the problems that most people have is how to get there for some people that they they're not even confident in themselves they're very talented so many talented people that they don't even see their talents and it's just you know if you can find a way to impact someone so so that they can understand how impactful they can be i think that's a plus and i and i know that some of what you're doing and that's what i applaud you for and ultimately that's what it's about you know exactly that is helping that person to tap into who you are you why are you here what is the impact that you can make because we're all different you're not meant to be like everybody else we don't need replicas we don't need clones we need you to be you the good the bad the ugly oh yeah so what is that helping you to embrace that to accept that so that you can live a happy feeling for fruitful life whatever that is for you right now it doesn't mean that you have to be doing anything big it doesn't mean that you're ever going to be in anybody's magazine or anybody t v show but she just might make a difference in the lives of the people that you know your neighbors business for themselves and then really helping them to get a step by step plan of action to reach that right yeah i agree that is a so awesome so just tell us a little bit more in terms of you know what is it that you do in your home at the  a center so you know a lot of what i do is really tapping into that person you know i tell people i'm a life coach an intuitive consulting right and most so what's an intuitive consulting and really that is all about i c u so that i can help you see nice that is that intuitive piece and then being able to really tap into the person that i'm working with and help them see themselves in a way that they may not have seen themselves before and right a lot of times things that are right in front of them their space but they can't see you know it's true you know because you can't see all of you right there is that you just simply don't know about yourself and so ultimately a lot of times working with me is a process of discovery right so that process might be through life coaching that process might be through reiki treatments that might be through you know core cutting treatments whatever it is but it's alternately is a process of helping you to rediscover yourself ok beautiful beautiful so you do a combination of all of those talking to the people doing some of the reiki and you i think you also do yoga correct i don't teach a lot more but i do teach meditation ok so i  at a lot of conferences retreats i talk to meditation yes and so for some people it might be a combination of me as i have some clients that will just come to me just for life coaching i have some that come to me just for the reiki and the energy healing and then i have others that want to combination of everything and so they're really open to you know just whatever it is that i have you know a lot of clients who it's so interesting now working with a lot more millennia old right now and actually a lot of men which is really really cool where you can heal them and empower them that's awesome absolutely and the thing that i recognize it's really about just simply making them feel safe right and adding that self space in and that experience and once they have it then like oh this is really cool like i've never had  and once they have it they don't want to get it i don't think they got a lot of time to cherish it more than the women are right that it's new for the right yeah that's awesome yes so it is it's really cool how things are sort of shaping and changing but i'm noticing that i'm working with so interesting how you know things are changing so for that kind of client we might do a combination right it's just all over oblique and you know what as a creative person that's how i am i am so in tune with so many different things because i'm office you know just out on a friday night whatever and i would get so many compliments on my hand reps from men and from women why i lack everybody so it's not even exclusively like a black woman thing i would compliment me white clan yes and it really transforms the way that you feel about yourself the way you look the way people respond to you and i talk a lot about that in the workshop but it transforms all of that so it is a cool wearing her  ended up happening is that i actually ended up getting a lot more coaching clients and healing clients because when they would see my head wraps and they would buy my head wraps and they would talk about it and we would talk a little and so will you and i was that oh my god i've been looking for li attractive you know so you just pull people and i mean it's like you know wearing a hat when you have on our nice hat you feel like wow so it's the same thing when you did that session at your home all the ladies just were so they were so excited you know and then the point that you also made was when you're wrapping your head look at your eyes look how beautiful it is look at your nose look at your lips and it's true because when you're doing that you know you want to look in your admiring yourself or a lot of people they don't think they're beautiful or they're not really when you communicate i'm really looking at that way you the way you put that together we all were looking and saying wow we really are beautiful you know we all have different shapes our eyes nose and mouth but we all were beautiful and i think that's  s really empowering about that works up if you did so i'm excited for us to start that again i am really excited i mean it's i teach so many different things like i literally you know next month i'll be at two other conferences that i'm talking at and so i do a lot of speaking i have to say that you know really teaching the healing art of head wrapping and all the wonderful experiences and benefits of it is one of my favorite things yes it's a wonderful creative expression and like you said it's sort of marrying what i do as a life coach and this creative expression as well so if it is so much fun yeah it is my say it is and so what was the date of our c wellness aspect so we started where some people can learn how to implement tea to live a healthier life and be happier as well so it's i think it's a great combination and really i mean all the women you know is really gets you know all the other women there they are so you leave you know you kind of walk in to strangers and what you really have and it's amazing but yeah it was a wonderful bonding a vent yeah so tell us what are some of the struggles that you face as an entrepreneur that you can help you know others that they don't have to go through some of those struggles yeah it's so interesting that she said that because one of the other hats that i wear our crowns now where is that i actually have a show about entrepreneurship prompts a boom and it's the entrepreneur was journey from bootstrap to bumi right and one of the things that i wanted to do was speech a successful entrepreneur sharing their story because i think now is the time where everybody wants to be an entrepreneur and they don't understand a lot of the hard work and the struggles that actually go into right and so i started to shell probably about a couple years ago and we were on every tuesday night at nine pm so you can catch us on you tube to google and you know for me you know i one of the things that i would say that i struggle with is that really kind of embracing my own  right they don't know who they can trust the right a lot of within the coaching industry who have been burned you know what i paid all this money for coaching you know i got a bunch of work sheets and i really didn't learn anything you know it's all so many different stories and one of the things as an entrepreneur for me is that i had to embrace and i'm different i'm very i'm unique and even though there are some you know a lot of things that a lot of coaches my say all you know there's a five ways to become a six figure coach or seven ways to become a seven year coach i realize that my journey was defined and i need to embrace that and not feel like i had to do things the same way as everybody rice but astro you have to set this up apart you know because how do you know when to pick you know which coach to pick yes people have certain credentials yes people might be you know they might have all this experience but that doesn't mean that they can still help you so how do you know what are some of the things you think people should look for when they're looking for a cult you know a lot of things why and we don't talk about it yes like you said it is important to have the credentials it is important that the person that you're working with has experience that they obviously they know what they're talking about they're practicing what they preach and that's why that's how my clients and i would never tell you to do anything that i haven't done or would not write so you understand that i have walked this walk that's important but one of the big things that i don't think enough people talk about is that connection right exactly you want to have a connection with arson because let me tell you something i get to know my clients very intimately so you want somebody that you feel comfortable with that you feel safe with that you like that you just some people they're going to give you good results but you don't like them like you iow god i'm supposed to be talking online to say look you want to talk to them right just your personality just all men you don't want to be in the same space with them and they may be very successful and know what they're doing but there's person over here that maybe they're marketing is not as great you know maybe they don't have as many success stories but they are the person for you by your god right now that makes a lot of sense but it is really hard to really differentiate who is you know the right person for you just like anything else whether you select a doctor or or a gym you have to really find something that's a make makes you feel comfortable and feel like you're going to get ahead absolutely yeah absolutely because at the end what you really want are results you want change you want transformation you want results and you know you don't feel like that person is going to help you to get them they're not the person for you right now so what do you have coming up other than our event anything special that you want to talk about quite a few things coming up i actually have a retreat in florida oh not that is gosh i forgot that i think it's the twentieth weekend of the twenty year that's going to be in port lauderdale florida i'm actually going to be teaching a workshop about women healing ok and women healing their relationships with themselves and healing their relationship with their sisters so it's going to be a wonderful sisterhood work and some that retreat is all about women in transition ok so are women in transition in their lives in their relationships in their career in their business so it's more professional women in this for business women in business who are going through some type of transition in their life or their business ok so i'm really excited about that you can get that information that's on my that com i'm also going to be in atlanta at the end of october i'm going to be speaking at the sickle cell conference and i want to talk about that and really not just working with people in sickle cell but professional trying to hold her for them so i do a lot of that so if you know all of these multiple hats i get mary everything that i do and so like you said like i can get bored so what i can't get bored with what i do guy i literally gets access every part of myself you know or and that's beautiful that's beautiful that you're active and it's beautiful that you can put those all all together and they were quite wonderful together you know i feel like me the same thing with me doing t a means to connect people it connects you to nature and it connects the a soul so all of those things are a great way to connect and so i just i love what you do and i'm just glad that you were able to come on today to inspire people and