following program is sponsored by seattle open door church yet all open door church is committed to loving god loving people and loving life our doors are open to whomever no mass required seattle open door church lord god that as we look at moving beyond the past consider bitterroot judgments and xpect and sees and how to get free from them and how we can change our life and that we can be transformed and not be bound up by the past i pray that there be someone here in this room or someone watching on video that whatever struggle they're going through they can get set free as they hear this material in jesus name amen so to give you an idea to give a kind of a a summary of a bit or a judgment in expectancy are for those haven't been here before if you look at your lesson what are bitter root judgments bitter a judgment says that is that we do as a child more and norm is a child you can do as an adult but norm is a child we make certain judgments we make certain values we have certain expectancies so the concept to kind of summarize that would be you grew up in a family where you had an abusive mom or dad and they did certain things and you grow up and you say i will never be like mom or dad anything wrong with that nothing wrong with that if your mom and dad is abusive you don't want to be like mom or dad but i'll never be like mom or dad because they're rotten terrible himym beings they're the scumbags of the earth and you start having a bunch of judgments that's for the better route judgment comes in but it doesn't even just stop there that might just be an inner valve where the judgment comes in is when you throw the expectancy and that's that anybody that looks like my dad has to be like my dad think about how unfair that is to other people so then you marry your woman and you marry your husband and he starts having some behavior like your dad maybe has some behavior like your dad did your dad do everything wrong no he didn't do everything wrong so yes some behavior like your dad and then you'd aren't even aware of the fact you have this bitterroot judgement expectancy so what happens he starts doing things like your dad and it starts triggering some of that bitterness you've had for years that you didn't even know was there and the next you know what happens is you start saying you know he's just like my dad and i know just any time he's go start abusing me and so you start interacting with your husband in that way what can happen what you expect will come true because you will reap what you've sown and so that's the danger when it comes to bitter expectancies and it gives you kind of idea with the our next one is who is responsible for a bit of a judgement is the person that abused you responsible for your bitterroot judgement or are you responsible we are we're not responsible for what people do to us responsible how we relate to react to it people do to us you understand that i am never responsible i don't care if you were two years old or you're twenty years old or if you're fifty years old if somebody abuses you're not responsible for the buz now could you put yourself in bad situations especially the older you get so a child at three years old is certainly not responsible for what so ever for what they what happened to him a woman she's fifty years old she's wearing a mini skirt she's wearing a low top blouse she's walking in the alley where there are drug addicts and gangsters at two o'clock in the morning is there a chance that she would get raped yes but is she sometimes we get if you were in that spot that would have happened to you so it's all your fault so you pay the consequence do you know that evilness to say that kind of stuff because what you just said is the person that did the news the crew person that did the crime they're not really guilty not responsible so in some states if a woman is dronke and a man rapes her is not rape because because she was drunk what does she expect do you really want to live in that kind of an environment where debts the kind of the philosophy so when you're drunk you're not responsible for what people do to you so that means it's ok what they do to you if you're drunk as absolutely wrong and yet there are many who in our society believe that is there a cons if you're drunk and you're in a wrong environment if you're going to a party where everybody's getting drunk and assume everybody's going to have sex at the party is that a good part to go to if you don't want sex you know so there's wisdom there but if you go does that mean that you should become a victim absolutely not ok and so who is responsible for a bit of judgments it's us is not the party that did the harm we're responsible for the judgments we make with the expectancies we make the next thing is this biblical what i'm talking about because guess what if one time what is a biblical towed away anything i teach if it doesn't have a biblical principle to you must add to it away so those are biblical warnings against that we covered this last week he was twelve fifteen says well up in u if a says don't let betterness well up in you what does that mean bitterness can well up in you was also mean you have a choice of business wells up in you in do it on to me it says on your mother and father is says that you will have a long life and things will go well for you i talked last week about on your mother and father does that mean day you support with your mom or dad did that was not right but you honored them as your parents doesn't mean you honor what they do the bible says that you will be blessed if you honor your parents so out of that it does that mean that what they did is ok does that mean it's right but god will give you favor if you  here's what i would tell you i didn't talk about this last week but should say this why would there be honoring honoring you if you honored them why would they be blessings for you it's because if you don't have bitterness you're a blessed person because i know the bitterness and resentments and unforgiveness to a normal message your life up so you get blessed by not having those things and that's why there can be a blessing and then romans talks about judgment we talked about that last week luke six thirty seven three it talks about not judging we talked all about that last week i won't go into all that but we talk about a lot of people like to quote don't be judge less you want to be judged it doesn't say don't judge me judge all the time i judge if i should make a right turn or not when that person is pulling into the left lane i make all kinds of judgments throughout the day i make a judgment if you are probably around at my house at four o'clock in the morning with a backpack with some tools in it and you're looking at my car i'm making a judgment you're probably trying to break into my car can i be wrong now i could be wrong you may not be doing that maybe you're just getting off of work and your tools at two o'clock in the morning ok some might be wrong in my judgment here's the thing but when i make the judgment and it says don't make judgement unless you want to be judged judge me i make judgement you're walking around with tools at four o'clock in the morning they can judge me you might want to break in my car and i'm going to be prepared if you do it so that means judgment come back to me that it come back to me i'm not going to be walking around with tools in my backpack at four o'clock in the morning because that's what it's made and don't if you're going to judge somebody don't be walking in yourself don't be doing stuff that i'm going to judge people how they live but then i'm livin for the devil that's what it's really talking about so we covered that so now this talk about deliverance the most important part number five us is delivered from root judgment expectancy must recognize that there are better routes in our life and have affected us and others around us so one of the days if we want to get free we need to recognize that there are better root judgments in our life and that they do affect us and those around us so you have to first acknowledge you have that as an issue in your life i have some bitter root judgments be aware of that look six forty three says for there is no good tree which produces bad fruit no on the other hand sour apple ok is so out of it is that if you have to want to get deliverance the first you gotta say is you know what i dissed have made just a valve that i never want to repeat and my dad has done i did termite dad is a rotten human i am what i am powerless over my addiction and my life has become unmanageable deaths a great thing to understand and sadly a lot of alcoholics addicts understand that gamblers all those of the nonnes groups but a lot of christians don't acknowledge that there are in our life matthew seventeen i mean meth you seven seventeen and twenty sis so every good tree bears good fruit but the bad trees breyer's bad fruit a good tree cannot produce bad fruit produce good fruit this stop right there can a batch produce good fruit so if you have bitterness that is saying you will not produce good fruit in your life but it says it's is a good she cannot produce bad listen to this a good tree cannot produce bad fruit nor a bad tree produce good fruit verse nineteen every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire burns twenty so then you know them by their fruits now isn't it interesting how many i've heard that phrase so you will know them by their fruits ok did you know the real context the real context is verse nineteen every tree that does not bear fruit is cut down and throw in the fire that is going to happen in the end for some but what that's really talking about is just do badness comes your way all the time and you'll know their fruit because if a person every time i turn around something bad happens in my life should you maybe look at something which you look at your heart the way you think if bad is surrounding you it sounds to me like something's been cut down sounds to me there's some fire in your life but what happens but nothing in my life is going good is the walls me story i got the victim badge high i'm rich i'm a victim everybody abuse me now anybody but somebody like that ok if i wear that badge and i have this bitter judgments against people live god whatever it may be whatever i go is they're not going to be bad the fuck out of me is got out of magically happen and instead of blaming the twit twenty boxes that fired you maybe you should look at yourself why you're getting fired twenty times maybe you made a value can't trust anybody in authority because you were sexually abused by a police officer does that make sense don't make sense you'd be used by a police officer would you not have a problem with authority figures and so you can make about i can trust in thirty figure but the problem is because you have that expectancy than any authority figure life you disrespect them and you wonder why they don't relate to  many talk about this how many teach this instead we have courts that say you're a victim where we stand is we have a system that says you can turn around when a police officer says stop what do you do you run so he warns you don't ron and then you turn around and you point a gun adding any shoot you and you're in the prison i'm a victim of police brutality were you no no you got shot you're lucky that you get to talk about you're not dead because i hate to tell you the cops don't say i'm going to shoot you to wound you they don't shoot to kill they shoot to stop the problem so they should to stop the problem sometimes you die and so out of this whole mindset there has to be a place really as if there is not fruit in my life in a seems like everything's going bad to maybe i have an inner bell judgment may have bitterness resentments expectancies i need to get free from so if you want to get free at the knowledge you need to be free be we have to choose to repent of all that word repentance what a terrible word prepare and is a terrible word we pin it that's the best thing that happens all these protests repent because if the holy spirit brings conviction freed repent guess what he must have a solution for you he must have a hansard for you and so we have to choose  and they ought to be taken to the cross if you would take it to the go ahead go to the altar take of the cross that's great but you take to the cross through prayer alternately and you take a gun in prayer and you say god you know what i have this bitterness i don't trust men i don't trust women you know i don't like red hair that i wouldn't allow that to determine what i do in the future and what if we really prayed those things it really gave them to god well you can if you don't even know about it because nobody talks about it i'm a tell you a church they don't talk about this stuff you know what they tell you except jesus snap your fingers except jesus would just say i'm everything's great and wonderful sometimes that happens love doesn't happen when you're very young before you can figure it all out but when you're eighteen years old you're twenty five years old you're sixty years old you accept jesus you've had a lot of stuff in life that gets in the way of that relationship with you in christ and so you didn't have a letter c to get set free a person must speak forgiveness at the age of the judgment praying out loud his or her forgiveness for mom or dad for judging resenting hating praying forgive me for part of those attitudes in my present relationships what is this talking about is that when you ask for forgiveness as they get very specific i don't know how many is anybody gone through the process of forgiveness before we're some ways walk you through forgiving someone that's really wounded you as anybody who walked through that process is a powerful processes and then and let you walk you through it so at a place that that some people tell you write a letter to mom and dad and say mom and dad i forgive you whether or not alive write it anyways because it does something in the spirit man inside there's nothing magical listen to me you write a letter mom and dad they're dead they don't see you writing the letter they don't see you writing the letter is not for them you know that forgiveness is not for the person that wounded you forgiveness is for yourself to be free so to get very specific and and really you know even journal and i know that you journal who had to journal and to write and be able to write down and say you know and today lord i realize it just came to me i've been judging every boss i work for is if the first boss that abused me lord i need to forgive those people and start writing down every boss and say lord i don't i'm never going to be able to see them but lord i help me to forgive them and if you can't see them here's what i suggest you go back to that boss and say to him you know what i have to tell you i was a terrible employee and the reason i was because i seen you is that dad was always controlling me i just as you forgive me for being a bad employee what would happen if people really did that boss would have a heart attack first he'd be shocked that you would do that but what would happen all of a sudden there were start to be this environment where very body started doing that don't want to be all this resentment and hate and bitterness next one is d have others pray over you have others pray over you i don't know if i believe in that well i'll give you a bible verse john twenty to twenty three to john twenty twenty three if you forsee give the sins of any their sins have been  forgiven them if you retain the sins of any they have been retained now we're not catholics right now here catholic but if you are if you're if you're listening to us you're a catholic the video is we don't believe that you go to a go to god himself but is there a concept of going to somebody for confession and asking them to help you walk through it why because that's the is just what i said they can walk you through it they can help you process it and this is if you are forgiven this is what it means is that if paul comes to me says you know i really need to have forgiveness for my brother because you're getting there right you're almost there you're almost there he's almost to the edge of forgiving his brother completely i'll tell forgiveness something just to be good twenty times before it takes forgive twenty times until it finally takes but out of i say paul you know what this this pray about that right now and as we pray and i say paul i want you to know that as you have forgiven your father jesus has forgiven you because a says if we don't forgive or not forgiven can i say that that's what the bible says so can i walk him through that forgiveness eyes and can i say to him paul i want you to imagine that jesus in the room right now and as i say to you forgiven that jesus forgiven you can there be power in that yeah because you know a lot of people the problem is they don't forgive themselves so there's a lot of power in them so you have others pray for you  is the prayer of death all gory the prayer of death don't judge me that you want to be judged so now you're judging why i said that you don't want to die a prayer of death the prayer of death is to pray that the bitterest judges expect to see as will die pray that they'll die they'll go away they have no power over you anymore and here's the reality you can forgive dad you can forgive mom you can  you can forgive this person that person but if you don't pray for that bitter root judgment just to die and get rid of it what can happen it will rise up again it will start to rise up again because anybody deal with weeds you've got to get to the root  problem wasn't your dad to prove problem is you how you judge your dad because dad is gone dad is not in the picture anymore you're still living with you and that would in your hearts you pray for it to die now listen luke nine twenty three to twenty five and he was saying to them all if anyone wishes to come after me he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me for whoever wishes to save his life will lose it whoever loses life for my jasmine took up the cross he died so if we take up the cross which should happen we should die why i don't want to die we're talking about the all man die we're talking about the always a living die you're talking about all those ways you just chose to live that you know what i want ever trust certain people that has to die i have certain races race that i have racism or prejudices a i have a stereotype about people i've always said this are still types did it in everybody before you answer this for the new people because i tricked everybody ask a question then you answer and i tell you gave the wrong answer so so i ask you a question are still how could they carry on so are there just as takes this does this take once i have a stereotype that i make the stovetop i make is that white people caucasians don't take care of the elderly like all the other races is there truth in that so that's the stereotype i've made right is it always true but is there truth in it if there is no truth in it you wouldn't agree with it and i like what you just put in gianni in america because if you go to italy they take care of their elderly the whole point is is there is some truth in stereotypes but if i take those stereotypes to relate to every person that way then that is sin so what i need to do that stereotype i have of a certain race a certain group of people whatever it may be what i have to do to let that die at the stake die i don't care if the stereotype as truth doesn't mean applies there buddy if you want to get free you don't have any want to move beyond the past you have to die you have to let that stuff in you die glaciers five twenty four now those who belong to christ have been crucified with this passions and desires if you died with christ listen those who belong to christ have crucify the flesh with his passions and desires we should die with jesus and all of our passions desires that are not of god we should let die and the last thing prayers of resurrection  every nobody's going in my heart nobody getting close to me if i let people in who will i be but argued be a follower of jesus christ but out of it f this is prayers of resurrection pray to become a new creation all areas of your is five seventeen therefore if anyone is a crises a new creature the old things passed away we hold new days of calm that actually is all days are passing away and new things are coming is ongoing when you accept christ as everything go away when you accept christ it be nice but is there still the old man you have to deal with the times do you son except christ in your brand new person and you do everything right no but what is happening the old has died a new is coming there's resurrection coming so instead of having bitterroot expectancy guess what happens i can start loving the very people that looked like my mom my dad to look like the abuser so how do we get freight number one thing as allow the holy spirit to work in you show you the areas that you're wrong and repent of them and ask god to change you this close in prayer are you struggling with moving beyond the past are you having a hard time to forgive others to forgive yourself or maybe even to forgive god will see an open door church as a series that we're doing called moving beyond the past you'll be videotaping each week the sessions here some of the sessions will be covering what is healing past hurts who needs healing the prodigal son god's forgiveness face to face encounter with god the power of the cross forgiveness and inner healing intervallic bitterroot judgments closing open doors breaking every curse breaking every d section be filled with the holy spirit yes you can move beyond the past yes you can live a victorious life yes your desert places can turn into glorious gardens for others to be say matthew one to pieces repents you him believe the gospel will you accept jesus christ as your lord and savior today you want to get more information you can always go to our website to learn how to accept jesus christ as your lord and savior you can go to there is hope guide or those there is hope t v dot org and we have information on frequently asked questions about christianity we let you know step by step and accept jesus christ your lord and savior encourage you to go to there is hope t v or that christ we can live a victorious life seattle open door church located in during committed to loving god loving people and loving life she had an open door church once you don't know but regardless of where you've been or what you've done god loves you there doors are open to anyone and 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