morning sabrina oh gosh fun show today this one covers i guess in our eight key areas of living a fulfilling life your home environment but i think it also touches upon family and friends so for first time listeners who don't know anything about life two point zero community quick what it is it's really helping baby boomers and we geared it more so professional women baby boomers but baby boomers in general i would say to live life to point out that at their best at a fulfilling life two point zero and live two zero zero zero two point zero really started a result of my journey of being downsized taking retirement package and wanting to do something totally different wanted to maybe take some of those things that i put on the back shelf because it was never the right time or trying to raise kids in a career and i wanted this to be a life part of my life now where it was really my time and i could do some of the fun things that i wanted to do but also be a continuation of my achievements and that's what it's about having people live so a lot of times we forget it yet because it's kind of like yeah i don't just go crazy and stressed out so in the first part of the show we want to talk a little bit about just thanksgiving in general right and then we're going to just touching a little bit on table scale sca designer part of us coming right we talk about table scapes but yeah we were setting up and we were thinking about this show it wasn't just interior designers we really wanted to pay respect to what thanksgiving is all about  and we the word that we kept throwing out of each other was it was gratitude and i think with so much going on in the world it's hard to sometimes easy actually say to forget that  because we've lost some really dear friends and a loved one a family member my my nephew eric who i love dearly dearly he was like my my second son he's not going to be with yanks giving nor for christmas so that's going to be hard my sister to traditionally she'll do banks giving in to christmas so to have him there not they're not there right and then for christmas because we also have family friends be there i pass this year they're not going to be there so i think for my family we're just going to be thankful for telling their for the memories that we have of the ones that are no more with us the scenes right so really celebrating you know what they brought in to and to to the whole  being grateful that i we're still here and still here now and then a lot of times i find that that life gets so busy so crazy that this is an afterthought yes and we want to challenge you we want to challenge our users or viewers to actually reverse that and make it something that you are conscious about right and take time to be grateful for some something if you really stop and read be thankful for your breath right and if you probably thankful for during the holiday season you'll start to see so many articles and shows about stress with the holidays because of family members who you know you may not see throughout the year but they are there and you know everyone has your issues and so boring right with family but again i say this from the point of view of having someone that i love deeply not being there and you know he we had our challenges with him you know i was like second mom to him as well this is odd and but he's not there and so i treasure you know the ups and downs that we had with him and i would just say to people fine take that day to whatever differences are your have i had put aside it aside and be good as yeah yeah because when that person is not there you know what  ray i think that we should try to focus this year especially when gratitude at what it means and not just to family but friends you and i months launch a night out and i have dinner together something for those friends and well so one of the things we wanted to give people some pointers in that you know remembering to be grateful and if you need to you know if you're you want to keep that in a journal or in your phone write something like that because taking the time to write it yes and taking the time to think it is two different activations in your really taking time once or twice a year to go to see open houses see the holiday hal right how to lunch together you see them together because all the things that the three of us really truly enjoy doing we enjoy each other's really we really enjoy doing that and the other saying one of the traditions that we have in our family is you know before we have the thanksgiving meal we hold hands around a table and  we say a prayer for the meal and we each say what we're grateful for about something small right exactly and i think it's so nice it's interesting to hear especially what the kids yeah because sometimes you don't get that type of your interaction with with kids right and so it's very nice to actually do that so i encourage you maybe to try something new this thanksgiving and you know don't spray it on everybody if somebody doesn't want to say has everything she doesn't write you could write a lot of things except that she needs her family right so we've made something called a memory book and each grandchild each child each great grand had a one page in the book and we wrote something that we associate with her so it could be so thing finding something thank for whatever that memory was and a she absolutely made a book of it she absolutely treasures it right and has so much laughs about it so we don't want to say these things to people when they're dead right so jackie yeah i gave jackie this idea and jack i did it and i hurried on for for have to acknowledge her for the part of bringing people together and we all becoming a family and we even had a sick when they were my sister's little puppy  such a great you know memories to share before the person is dad's right so we encourage you to say what you need to say you know before it's too late and be grateful for the things that you have in result of the newsletter that we put out the life two point zero community newsletter and in the newsletter i found i wanted to do something that was fun because a previous guest we had to chill behar show be coming up but her inspiration of kind of made me think a little bit further so i was kind of going through some magazines and we had done earlier show on or your inspiration from as i said we had done earlier show from on getting my degree shot right for your home decorating your home and then our guests who came in and she was talking about you know fun and  giving bags so as i'm going through magazines i see this centerpiece which was from oprah magazine and it had these glasses these brown glasses and i remember i had found some glasses from what i was a child that used to be in our china closet and my husband said to me we're keeping those for and i said because they mean i'm thinking child right so then we kind of built a whole thanksgiving steak table skate around mike brown glasses so we can go to the next slide these are also writings in some race in pieces because again with the pictures that i started collecting i remember it i have some dishes that are so then i as an collecting and saying things like fruit ok i love these particular two table schemes and i think it's all simple and it's readily available things and just if you know you know have to make this get the color right you know to add some color to add right and some sparkle with the candle candles so from the fruits of the season next slide we incorporate reverberated a fake fruit or we all sort took a napkin and just folded it a different way so think about your napkins as another accessory i write it doesn't always have to be folded on to the side right you know right so try and dress it up because we had white plates there we wanted to bring in a little bit of color and a coordinated with the brown glass right so  of the pictures you'll see the napkin is the glass is sitting on top of the napkin and in the other picture you'll see that we just added it underneath the second you know the salad plate right so play around play around with that correct and on the next slide we have those resources i know it is again it's just taking what is available for this season and they've done a number of  different pictures with that they've done the pumpkins and they've made table scapes of the pumpkins with candles and then they've taken in the center one just taking the succulents and that you can quite frankly go you  flowers and so forth so it was just really looking at taking again the colors of the season the flowers of the season and incorporating it into different table scapes so one you'll see that they have like the brown dishes so that's a little bit more saying things giving but these are all things that are just just here out here out of the season and the dish is you know like we said before a lot of times you have these things because i think i think for the environment that we're coming in now we get caught up in what's going on in the world and so much about what we don't have do have so we do have so much of our families to be thankful for we have our friends to be thankful for we have the ability and i think people should understand that again would like to point always about is taking those talents and skills and passion that you have and using it as a guy that will serve you to be of service to others and i always go back to our poster child she's officially our poster child jean and and change of life you've got to because she truly took a passion she took her corporate skills and she established something in uganda which change of life you got it which is not just educating kids but she brought in microeconomics and she's tell yaz are the women to use your skills and making baskets and platters and all  jewelry so that's now impacting the community because now they're getting money for that right she took her skill as a nurse and her background from her previous job  life to point out that you can continue your achievements right ok and then your cheek minutes serve others yeah you know become a blessing to others become thank you know and  october newsletter which is really the one i kind of show that kind of kicked off this whole thing about thinking about doing a table scapes or i have our challenge random acts of kindness so my  newsletter was courtly act of kindness and i actually gave a link for people to get ideas of doing different things yet doing kind ranks so that's another thing for our audience you know if you go to  is i think for me i have family members i have people i know not just family have the people that i think just being courage mitt and just making a phone call and just saying how are you doing right you know today what's going on giving a kind word to him in encouraging word isn't he and if they're close to me which unfortunately some of them up a cart and just sending that the act of getting something in the mail and it's not even a little it would be a shocker but but sometimes if you know you don't necessarily have the words just fine yeah re right absolutely and the other thing is you know trying to be conscious about your planning especially if you're hosting things moving trying to be conscious of planning it ahead of time now i know that we get caught i know that our schedules are busy but a lot of times if you know just to think about if i'm going away i plan everything in my head first like what i want to take and then that way when it comes to packing i just know exactly what you are out there right so find a way to work for you to actually do your planning ahead of time whenever possible right or not as you know  alex stressful and don't be afraid to ask people to bring something you know a lot of people don't like to do that but it is a coming together and i know it everybody doesn't have to do one person doesn't have to do everything right do your table setting the night the well not even the mike before if you could have a couple days reorganize looks beautiful you can add things to it as you go you know like the week before because i always to you know what i used to do a lot of times we are so busy doing all the preparation right that we don't get a chance to really enjoy the whole event and the company of everybody because we're so busy taking care of everybody we need to take care of oh yeah so you know just find a short cut if you have to short cuts if you have to and don't think it has to be perfect my guard should be you know have a thing for us baby boomers you know we could do everything so that's kind of part of our mentality there has to be just so will perfection and the thought of people coming together and sharing as opposed to the table has to be absolutely perfect that this to in significant brings right you know yes we hold on to so much and a lot of times we live in the rearview mirror yes we're constantly you cannot take back what you cannot take  be the bigger person be the bigger person and let it go there is nothing to gain from holding on to being right yes let it go this just be kind bec