with a member of the hagan family who does the monster dot com abuse festival were people who've been in a horror movie show up some in costume who bell kilmer's been there in the past john cusack it's in cherry hill twice a year take me anywhere check out the exciting breezy with your oh this is laura left very sitting in a breeze and behrman i will be taken this segment and i'm very happy to have this special guest here with me today people who love horror movies to come see their favorite or icons that meet them all walks of life and other oh i can't outside of the horror movie john there too but it is june of two thousand and two we were driving home from a convention in pittsburgh and if you've ever seen my father driving don't you don't want him to drive so we're driving like six or seven hours from the pittsburgh area to south jersey philadelphia and it's like me driving home way and just kind of say like a where you know we start having a good conversations and it lead into like hey what if we did our own convention and like who would you get how would you do it  you know when would you do some of the conventions now and what would you do differently so again i mean this went on for a few hours and probably within a couple of weeks it's like you yeah i mean and again it is a substantial financial investment because my dad had to take out like you know we all had i'm still in day jobs and he like cashed out us for one k and like put everything into this so i mean a lot of it was show and even from the second show on we've been able to get like we like robert englund for like a second show and for me growing up what it really like not too many things i was afraid of but like freddy krueger was like you know  like my father you know what always go like this he like the classics with my grandfather and it was kind of their thing and when you know we were brought up it's like hey let's go see some inappropriate movie so you guys are been doing this fourteen years now you know when you guys are you guys are kind of i think over the hump i think you kind of you guys kind of i would say estimate to me and all the people i go all the time you kind of almost had everyone who was everybody that was available there's not too many more and i every time we say that it does get harder because you know we you now try you there's a lot of more competition than there was fourteen years ago so not only is there a lot more competition but internally you know just the way we're kind of wired like every show we just tried to like the best getting like that information or in speaking with his agent i hate to say it was like oh well he's still alive yeah i mean that was kind of a natural reaction but to get to see him at that the q and a that we had with the the thing cast i mean he was like amazing it was like i guy i got to say to the q and a that these conventions is like it's amazing because it you get a chance to speak with these people from these movies that like you don't get an opportunity to do that and i've got to say  had this is what i did here in this is what i did there so it's not only the stars but you know the people behind the scenes as well that make things happen and you you guys as a family i guess they probably answer probably more towards  time and i really have a chance like there's a brief moment in time like sunday mornings usually when i think go around and pay actors pretty and stuff like that that you know i'll the chance to go in like shake hands and you it felt like we were almost on like twenty four hours a day for like three or four days so i taken at they off and then you get what we call a con called because it just just feels like you're dealing with a lot of people in enclosed spaces and there's  hit you guys the family like wow we were bringing all this to go yeah yeah i'm like yeah well i mean so speaking of that my mike literally speaking about making families my my cousin lives around like the northern virginia area and gave me personally like some amazing weekends of my life i grew up was loving the lost boys want anything and like those of you i got to hang out like almost every cast member some point like i never thought growing up like wow wow like you busy schedule but you know i wanted to start off we talked about a lot of things the last time but let's talk a little bit more about your father we touched on last time your father was such an eclectic film maker it was what was it like growing up in the downey household i mean before you thought you'd be a professional actor you know you're in the arts every day so it was a well by the way i don't know that i ever really had that thought that this is what i'm going to do it never occurred to me to do anything else and now a days i think about it in terms in the context of how absolutely competitive it is to go out and land a job anywhere from a background of extraordinary training to just being someone who was on a reality show for a couple days but the way the way i grew up was my mom and dad were actually kind of squares who found themselves being entrenched in this kind of counterculture or underground filmmaking  world and so it was all the people you would expect to have been around greenwich village that time and so it was really natural to me and i took comfort in being around the situation whether it was my father after work playing poker with you know pick a name from somebody who was in that world to him and my mother trying to beat each other with what a funny line would be he was doing this i think it was a television series and the guy who was playing an actor for a british king he was dead he couldn't get the authority of the figure and he just couldn't grasp it and what joe did was he had everybody in the rehearsal room stand up when this guy walked in and who people had a lot of respect for yeah and that's what i kind of heard is that and particularly around the time that his film putney swope came out  and corruption and you know all that stuff literally just brilliant and that's that's what i heard a lot of people saying is like my dad was just brilliant my dad was this and that you know there are breaking wrist wrist taking yeah and then i kind of remember you know back in circa one nine hundred sixty or so it was really hip in the village to have these big t shirts with decals on them and somebody got my dad  a blue t shirt with a superman logo on it and i just remember we lived in this loft and i remember i think i saw him sitting wearing the superman t shirt in this king's throne that we had and century kind of guy you know what i mean i'm more more james dean than james franco you know both great individuals just different centuries you know your father was it was a gentle guy to you even he was working a lot so working a lot of very kind of post modern centry kind of guy you know more more  james dean then and then james franco you know both great individuals different centuries you know and i think of it you know i kind of think  a twenty four year old and a five year old son and now i'm a two year old daughter and i think we always think of in the context at least always you and i know you have kids and it's great and you love them and that's kind of the whole point as that emerging generation was in obviously there's like casualties littering the the seascape of that generation but i  kind of remember a very thoughtful and considerate and affectionate and attentive dad now it's very i choose to remember that because like she unconsciously there's times when you know your dad's in the military or your dad's doing working a nine to five and away on business trips my dad was almost always home and if he was on set i was either there or probably on my way there that's that's a pretty amazing i mean he had that life for d included you in the beginning sure i mean some would say too much but it's all relative well there yeah there are stories about that right the eighty's were a period piece and if you go back further to like the sixty's or seventy's that's like that's kind of our own ancient history and so it might as well be like the renaissance back in the six hundred sixty s you know you just had kind of a different set of priorities a different set of tools and responsibilities for how did that influence your idea of right and wrong or did you have to really learn what's right well if you think about the negotiation generation of the very child centric ninety's were people kids are now off to school or there are dropped out earlier wondering what they're going to do or they're in college and wondering what they're going to do previous to that there was this kind of stoic mindset of there comes a time when you have to boot your kid out of the nest to sean that bob ah and i'm sure that goes back to you know post war stuff and probably turn of the century stuff and i'm sure just goes back and goes back and goes back but and that's why it's kind of you know been this kind of reverie lately and that's why it's kind of been a good time to be catching up and you know just talking in you know we're not trying to sell soap we're just trying to you know talking and and and i just think you got down on the way here i go by the junior high school that used to go to and i was you know used to jog around the track there with with my boom box listening to michael jackson's off the of music and commercialism and and all that stuff and and you know it's it's just amazing to me you know i couldn't really place myself back there for we're am now and i couldn't really imagine this being the end result of were was back then you know it's very serious  you always come across to me you come as a guy who doesn't make excuses for yourself it's sort of like part of a previous generation terms you know like my father you never really made excuses for yourself you don't make excuses for yourself and yet i dichotomy that's part of balance that dichotomy with somebody who went through so many personal things you know things have been aired in the public and you know a fair the public laundry before but still you just you don't you don't make excuses for yourself yeah i don't i don't know why that is i was you know i don't know whatever with little was dealt to me or whatever i dealt to myself you know that was that was i decided that was the car i dropped you know i don't  why you know maybe it was people i've intelligent people i heard complaining about people who live forever blaming others for what clearly value you know and and if you try to resist something you just think more out of it i think everybody has their five things that they're quietly resisting doing and a good day for them is when one of those reese this is come up and directly confront them you know yeah and then more than more than making excuses i think maybe i just realize that  what why should i be spared what anybody else would you know and also in their defense i had exactly played mr johnny in gun earth of true sexy charming guy who you know then you're going to put in this big machine and you know pretend he's going to kick ass and save the world so you know it was there any anxiety yeah yeah but relative you know the mean anxiety i think is being conscious of how much you're avoiding preparation i think so there are certain anxiety that you know someone called do light you know you wake up in the morning and nothing's happening but your head's going and knew you know you think there's something afoot that to me that's just like normal  sweeping your storefront in the morning that's just like normal maintenance but then the anxiety of an upcoming challenge or opportunity or you know when there's like a definitive like your life's going to go one way or the other based on the result of this day you know and in no matter if you're just self soothing by you know preparing a preparing a preparing you know i tend to look at these things in a semi military way like check your quit mint get ready you know lives are saved by tough drill instructors and in the absence of one you have to be around and i guess it's great that you've been under contract you  sherlock i mean none of that's been limiting in fact it's given me a tremendous amount of freedom and now i'm looking for this transition into this production company with the mrs and and also i think you know maybe moving to greener pastures on those lines runs them different things but also i think you know maybe this is something you can agree to as well i mean oftentimes when you're out there doing your job and you know your craft or you know how are normally you want to get about it you're not afforded the the same privileges that other people are you're not really living the real life you know you're traveling because you're doing a gig or you know you're going somewhere because oh yeah you haven't been home for three weeks you know so essentially you know i just feel like i there's just a big part of me that has just such an incomplete education that i'd like to bring a better me to bear for i don't know for whoever i'm at a dinner party with you know and also at the age of like fifty two now it's not with new york times best selling author and relationship expert lauren so happy today to finally have the opportunity to interview her so i would just like laura to tell us a little bit about her f and i'll just let her come out laura please tell us well i was the perfect wife until i actually got married and what i tried to deny has been how to be more ambitious untidy or more me so i dragged him to marriage counseling thinking i'll have the therapist takes him and i can finally be happy because that's how it works and when we got to therapy that's when it seemed the most hopeless a happy marriage and they said they said it didn't even make sense to me a memorable moment sat i try never to criticize my husband matter how much it seems like he deserves it and i said have you got anything else what i call the intimacy skills now that's what emerged from this exercise and i did ask him for a while and him i came home one night and as i walk through the door my husband's face he was happy to see me  days so amazing so how does so how does a wife become a howard well for me i knew for sure that all the problems in my marriage were because of my husband he rushed too much t v and he was he wasn't making enough money and he was kind of a loser parents in general and so i read about trying to improve him never dreaming that i was actually a need to make more money i said you've always been a good provider and then just for fun i say calling him mr moneybags and so it was not long at all after that he started his own  was bringing to harvey and changing it out and that's what i see women all over the world being able to do in their relationships to to really use our power wisely we women have so much power in relationships and at l has no one has ever it's harness the intimacy that we need to feel desired and dorian cherish the way we all want to be everything you're saying is so amazing and you know you know i'm a psychiatrist and we are just not taught any of this when in my training i was taught that my marriage is seriously broken and there been years of anger and resentment sometimes it's better to just get a divorce serious acting or comedy improv so we're going to do a little bit of that tonight and a couple of you are actually in the workshop which is pretty cool and satyrs doing her make her improv debut on television i think a lot of and if i may say i am now  actually but as far as improvisation yes and yes i'm listening to you and i want to build on your idea in improvisation there are just a couple rules one of which is don't deny which means don't who the person's idea build on whether you like or not something's going to happen from somewhere look make eye contact make sure we're listening to one another and don't go for the joke you know if it's comedy improv it'll just be spontaneity is usually funny and possibly give you situations that you will see that or kind of call for being bizarre and saying in funny anyway so it doesn't have to be that they could they have to sit here now that the pressure is on them to be funny that's not what's about it and atoms are pretty funny g had to put on the air conditioning that cost money yes and in my office there is very little money and the heat was on yes but i really there stand ok yes and i really they were fairly good because he was ninety degrees and my husband doodle would actually survive yes and i think that some of them have actually survived to this very day and they come to visit me yes said i think that he is not only your town that he's full of like i do yes and you see what i could do was coming down the street you must turn directly and ninety degrees and walk the other way and whistle you know go away just some walk this  to start with you guys we get the idea it's called one word story one one word sentence we're going to create a sentence one word at a time which means we're just listen sure that's the foundation of improvisation is listening to each other so i'll start yesterday i went to the movies and ate a big pot of popcorn and it was delicious but afterward the intestines w that i worked with one time said it's very important even after labor day oh that's a question i've always wanted who makes up these rules like you cannot wear white pants after labor day why not the republican party made up the fascist regimen that we follow so if you see someone wearing white pants after labor day you can pretty much think that there are liberal or true probably more power to them what if i decide to wear a big floral dress and a big hat that i want to if i want to make a statement what do you want that would look like a more like come up with it let's do a murder mystery and the title of the murder mystery is the clown with the bloody scissors who carried out by out right will that won't take that long and we're going to put our novels out and when i point to you you start the story and then i'll point to someone else and you pick up right from where they take they left off to build the story together and then i'll wrap it up by saying this is how it ends so you know ok the clown with the scissors making its debut here in princeton a lot of casualties but then the women in the quilting guild noticed that when ever they started to take their scissors out to cut their fabric their special expensive fabric scissors they were covered with blood and this was completely unacceptable because those scissors are only for fabric they're very expensive we don't cut anything else except for fabric and these women are getting very grandmother that she big pine knowing this cloud be hungry when you kill people you get hungry rich so she baked these parise she also corrected adam between the difference between quilting and knitting  mean while the police have confiscated all the bloody scissors but they also decided to set a trap so they came to princeton t v and they took all of the cameras out of the studio and they set them up behind balls of yarn and piles of fabric so that if anybody came to steal any more of these expensive scissors they would be able to get a clear videotape and on the other hand there was another member of this club who was very worried about th not knowing that they were it was actually bait to get the clone killed killed this woman and this is i wouldn't and then we find out that the owner of the quilt shop had actually sold herself a clown costume and decided to kill everybody in town who she thought was a better quilter than she was but because she had fallen on her head once she thought that all the welcome to it alls were better quilters which was completely preposterous because they don't even