hi my name's carol ricardo and welcome to the well you show i want to introduce you to my co host angel torture along but the pain detective and julie maddox who i call the wellness coach and they have no clue as to what we're doing today i love it sometimes i give them but you know i kind of give a hint sometimes i don't give a hint but case is your first time tuning in the whole goal of the show is really to give people tools to live well today i spent twenty five years working in a hospital and teaching these things and i always thought you should learn these and avoid the hospital so some of the tools we've talked about are definitely tools for avoiding hospital but here's what i want to ask you to think about would you consider yourselves more a positive thinker or more of a negative thinker is it have to be one or the other because it's it's evolving all tell me about it i think here's the thing i learned and i learned it the hard way be careful what you think about you know that our thoughts can have energy kind of in a sense and i remember one time it was november of two thousand and two i know what very well i was pulling out the parking lot at the hospital and didn't want to go to on so i pulled out and i hit it yeah and it was the culmination of a what else was going to go wrong kind of there you know like what next what next and i actually read this great book called excuse me your life is waiting that next weekend and it turned my life around and it really i want to share talk about it you know because i think it's an important thing because our brain really works on two levels so we've talked about this before you know there's the top level conscious but unconscious i also think of it as or is positive and there's negative so it's we're kind of doing both at the same time it kind of like it co exist like a battery you know this is what i would kind of use of the patients was a battery and it has both currents going through it so we have both currents going through us the question is which one do we use more now and so i wanted to i came up with a couple tools because what i really want my patients to understand is that if our mind is kind of stuck in the negative it's very hard to bring positive things into your life because it just kind magnets and i brought one set for you ladies so you could try this out but the idea is well it's dead of me doing it i'll give it to you whatever i do which try and take a negative put a negative in a positive kind of all energy and that is like a tuning fork and if we had tuning forks if i was a c vibration and you had a c and you had a d if i hit my my vibrations going to we're going to kind of connect right because it's the same energy wave and i was like well i tried pitchforks they were too expensive like i bought the cheap ones that didn't work you'd have to buy the really good ones for music so i came up with my own magnet thing i like and what really was great was what you guys did wondering what it ladies had it on the table and so she she had a positive showing and i said you know ok now try and put that negative on top of what she did was she actually did this table and it fell off the table she was like oh my god i have to stop being negative so who easier said than done would you agree oh yes trying to think positive i have i've changed it know you are in your passage of course so what i want to give you all today is what i call positive thinking jumper cables because we think your battery when the batteries kind of run out you have the positive juice you hook up the jumper cables you get a little and you get a charge so you charge it with positive energy so that's what i'm going to give you ladies so one for you and one for you this so here's the thing about step one first off let without even looking at give me some of your best try to be positive thoughts so i'm going to give you one of mine i'm going to have a good day this was this was going to have a good day all right as i drive to work won't have a panic attack have an anxiety attack let me just saying zeid you tap all right because when i used to go for my walks in the morning in the neighborhood yeah and you know how much i love nature i would be walking and thinking all negative thoughts and then i touch myself for brief period time  say stop thinking so you can write that one down because i used to do it over and over again without thinking about negative thoughts ok so here's what i learned about positive thinking and really why it doesn't just work so easily is that it has to be true for every first there's three steps first step is this you have to make a positive affirmation it has to be positive so there's two rules to being positive that means one has to be in the present tense no i won't have well have is to me in the future you know it's talking about the future so it kind of gets out of that one i will still not in the present right and yet commit tell you what you write before i do this i would think that all the things that we'd written here were good kind of positive affirmations you know this if i'm going to have a good day  driving to work trying to be positive i'm going to have a good day and when i learned this i realize oh no wonder did work because it really wasn't quite the intensity of the part of the business of the energy so i will got to get rid of that stop thinking negative thought that was one too i was thinking about to start something means it's not presently going on in the moment but i still like it so we'll leave it there and then things will get better so if you think about it the i am i will i'm going to i you know have to those or the i am or this is simple as that to two words we can start with this is a great day and were a good day this is a good day and honestly that's how i started driving to work and i started driving say this is a great day and that in fact that in stop a good i say this is a great day you know this is a great day so it was right there in the moment we pleaded that feeling was present right in the moment with me and it wasn't in the future it wasn't even a few moments ahead it was with me right then and there is that make then the wall the second law others this is no negatives think about i've said this before i think if you tell a five year old don't touch what do they do they have to touch their cause the brain doesn't take the don't and so win again and this one was particularly important because i really had people saying christian soldier guys i won't have an anxiety attack i won't have or they're going to do something so so won't don't work and in the back here oh and and i guess there's part of me as i was writing this to about your stop negative thinking i was thinking to myself the star is to me almost in a sense like the ne like but we even put the word here negative thinking you know so it kind of has the negative you know a different place in a sense so so here so stop  good it's kind of like how we just twisted a little bit and i mean although i'm really glad you work at yourself with the negative stuff because that was good not to let him keep fueling and go in and the fact you were able to be aware of it was even more important y really years previously i didn't but you know yeah yeah so so you can kind of see how we went from sort of the negative to i am i i am able which means right here in the moment and then staying away from  negative and more on what you want is i think carol in my mind i thought i was processing it by thinking about it like i was i dealing with it yeah but it's just like the hamster wheel i think you know i mean the hardest thing is we think we're processing stuff but the truth is we're just on the hamster wheel you know we need two people to process we can't process things ourselves because we've got a kind of bounce it off of something else and or even add to your head which is why i like writing because you can process it on paper but you're not on the hamster wheel so this i told you mine is this is this really is a good day i am you know is that what tends that in the past is that in the present to me it's saying shall go which means then it's a hit but guess what so so and and we could say things will get better we could say things  are you know not even to get but things are better than like just putting it powerfully in the present and in the past all right now second thing once you've got step one is to you know create a positive thought second thing then is to connect the jumper cables and one of the things about jumper cables is you can't just use one you know and so what i what i had learned was about these positive affirmations is one we talked about one of them right solution three things i want you to do angel give me one of them ok think about positive thoughts ten times a day think yeah so just think it part of me gets it because they were kind of trying to say have a consequence be drummed into my head if i repeated it enough times you know and it was writing so it was in jest but here's here's the thing and i want to draw this so this is this is my brain ok yours or mine so or you would think a piece of but humor is what i came to learn is it when we try to think of positive thought especially to change something is only using this little part of our brain this thinking soul the writing actually cuz it leaves one one third positive two thirds negative still right so and you would be over here you know and you're when you're walking you think and but that still leaves other parts of your brain still connected to the negative so when we write it we actually then and that ten times is that it actually by writing for anchoring it in another part of our brain leaving two to one but there's still that if you've ever left a door open a crack brain and is trying to move over to this positive thought whatever it is and it's only one at a time it's picking picking an affirmation you know and that's something it could be even about yourself well  normally i would have the news which is mostly made up yeah yeah yeah those are huge shifts in his just kind of the ships so so here's the thing i want to share with you also if you turn over your paper so you're i got that on the back side for y because because it really is kind of again this visual of what it is and you want to do more than ten times you know that's ok yes thank you don't you show you which they're looking at so this is what they're all looking at these are just kind of positive affirmations so i'll tell you some of my some of my favorites one of my favorites is i and the other way to put it in the present is today you notice it the first one says today i peace and calm so it's talking about this day it's here my one of my favorite so is i am free from the past mistakes of my life so for somebody who holds onto the  past mistakes that is a really good kind of like cancel out or yeah see any others on here oh a lot of course i went to i'm learning to love myself yeah yeah  start off catching myself saying you know i'm going to be late i'm going to be late i'm going to be late and i catch myself and i'd say i have all the time i me and just kind of reinforcing that and the truth is i like the wine good ones i mean some cassette tapes lady so i was really kind of tossing with which which show we would do today you know i think positive thinking jumper cables feelings express and then you know kind of get rid of a group i tell me they had to pick one you know and then it kind of had to kind of go you know used i wanted to say that i wanted to think you know i want them to write it ten times a day for now here's the thing you know i have to keep the jumper cables on the battery for a little while  charges so so kind of twenty one days is to do this twenty one days and some of the most amazing stories i've had like a few patients that actually took me up on it did it oh my god you know it was the one woman i never forget she said ok i try to care i did twenty one days and guess what i could let go of the past you know i could actually be here with my son and my daughter instead of haunted by the past and i don't know what you guys but the other thing i learned to do is i used to say this for jobs i hope i get this job i get paid to shop and i switched up my thinking a long long time ago i don't know what made me think it but the minute i applied for this one job that i wanted so badly i remembered stead thinking i am the best person who gets what i wanted in fact i have gotten every job that i've applied for and and i feel like that's kind of just having it holding that energy you know really kind of just then again coming back to these little life is the work is in changing the thinking the work is in not letting the negative take over like for you saying because the negative will just repel you can't push it together so the work for us is in taking shifting and focusing on the positive us hope that you've been able to get some really helpful tools today will have this all up on the website and just want to say here's to living well today