who was born in nineteen thirty and also holds ph d s in mathematics and sociology and is the founder of transcend a network for peace development and environment in one nine hundred fifty nine he founded the peace research institute of onslow where he created the field of peace studies dalton's approach to mediation offers concrete proposals that are intended to give both sides the sense that they are winners where you have a conflict people are fighting  to do it for you because you might not be able to see yourself  can tell you and you know it's going to try to second guess what they want leave it to them to tell will they be honest in my experience yes you might not like dances and you might like to ask point two legitimacy they would say what they want but instance one of them will say i want to basine afghanistan because i think there will be a war with china never like to be well prepared i want to base and we don't have enough well you may want that but they would say that have a base on somebody else's petted to use to impose something you make that on the party to a coming voyage which is a tough one and it sounds to me like you want to s  the race so called business and it's called and this is very important if you think you have a problem with china no but finding out what the problem is and solve it so sorry i don't find that legit but i want democracy and human rights in that country and i think that's legitimate i want to reduce the violence in that country that's all night that's of you do that to be creative you had to introduce something new and that something new which may not exists the choir's that you are not success for the solutions to come because then you can say that three minds me and you use that at the source you play it back to the parties and you say yes reminds me of something that once happened when they did the following how would that be how would that be and the guy would say interesting tell me more about it that's so that's the scientist that was not supposed to have any propose it had the agonizing bits my future and i decided to go for mediation because i had to propose to go for that and then you would that i could forget the about the book because i had destroyed myself i court as in sixty four forty six years i haven't succeeded i'm not the only one as it succeeded they have succeeded in a number of other places i'm working right now in washington afghanistan you often think that's enough and they don't have to have ideas so that the politics well no one on us foreign policy they think they have enough printed money to bribe and enough search i'm sitting with prime minister presidents foreign ministers leaders of opposition  saying it's the craziest thing i've heard in my life or something and i say fascinating to me was crazy but now i'm fairly well informed and if you want to debate with me you know the sense so crossing swords and debating burbery you better be fairly well prepared but group i've done this for sixty years most other people haven't done that for sixty and they're not saying they don't have good arguments i'm just saying that i can i ask a question he says the most stupid thing i ask a second question he says but that's obvious i have a third question he starts shouting perfectly fine suddenly drifts a turning point where he starts askin do why don't they say that you've said it all the time but maybe you haven't heard it and it could be because the way they say it this maybe not the most productive yet still talking they're shouting and the the time it's not the best way of communicating i warned him against it but then you know how you have the switch from exclamation sign to question on the other side because that turning point in the i continue asking questions and we got together and suddenly something starts taking and suddenly what happens is the following the secretary enters the room and said mr president so and so person has been waiting let him wait and i know that i have a i'm not saying that happens but it doesn't when i talk about this in israel in tel aviv jerusalem i opened my talk by saying look you asked me to come here to talk about a possible solution i'm going to give you what i think is the best and in doing then it's i'm going to say a couple of things that are negative and then going to continue to germany and you don't like that and they can on the stand i am not saying you are not takes care of it maybe i should start with what i think is the solution the solution is the middle east community thread with the six neighboring countries five and the five  sophisticated than that for instance there would be some revisions but they also mention something about the survey and it can tomes on the west bank and palestinian crucial you see i don't sit at the table in my office concocting a form the point is to listen to people and then you do the sixth thing between the where they say and i'm longing for that and i hope by the speed that that is a young israeli politician probably a woman in sudan maybe today she's twenty years old maybe you had to wait seven years for living in peace with over the neighbors for being creative being brilliant the way they have been that's  and i say maybe you have to improve your but they're going to u s leaders it's your task to lead the voters and to change the discourse maybe you colectomy dup together and you look at them strongly and