hello everybody jody topix read to me divorce to core warehouse becomes a home we to me what is that do we need me explores the psychology of color and design and how it makes you feel in your space it is so important to feel nurtured and comforted in your space and the easiest fastest way to do that is through color design a great cup of coffee and a shoulder to cry on if you do need me you know how to get me but another thing that helps when you're going to transition is to also hear from other expert people that can make you feel good so now that we've done your space it's time to do your face then throw having said that i'm going to introduce my friend ruth rowe back from all about skin and i up to me first person that came up to me this is totally yes if you've ever met her for the first time and that impressed me she gave mirror card and i reached out to her and encouraged her to come in and enjoy a facial my little industry for nineteen years both in the spa as well as a medical industry so you know my my feeling about caring for people is just that you know sit down with people what medical history what are their  needs and listening this morning who are you were really good at that when i went in that day i was going through something very personal and i was a little stressed and i was actually not knowing what to expect you know you do the micro d you have to hide you want all of you to explain all that stuff but i wasn't sure what to expect i thought ok so she's going to you know my face but that's not what i guy i got this warm caring person who asked about my life but not in a in a way that was intrusive right you asked i told us we kind of bonded it was really nice and you said you know what this is going to be a very relaxing experience and your skin is going to feel good and you're going to feel good and i think at one point if do have a magical magical thank you it was wonderful it was great so i'll tell people like let's use my experience like what did you do for me exactly what you do that i fell asleep so after going over the medical history and understanding a little bit about you and your needs you know i did the typical cleansing of the facial and so on and so forth but most importantly the sun was really i think helps with the face it relaxes somebody ask people what they have a what their skin regime is at home and if they're lacking in anything this is where you talk about that particular product to use i cream no i don't know ok so perhaps that would be a good suggestion yeah well what purpose is the other day it makes your products really by not going up yet so that would be and then of course there's the bottomless drawer that everybody has products and they've been there for several years so if you throw them out or you resurrect them  is use them so if they have things at home i encourage them to take them out show it to me text it to me let me know what they're using or you know and then i need to know what their skin routine is a home yes unsupported it's not what was nice is you didn't just treat that one time i'm there for one time and then you're not you know you didn't care you cared very much about what i had and what things i liked which was important they were certain things that i did like and i probably continue to use them and you only go ok we didn't really need that  yeah and i've had that experience and it's really not known but then again and then the second thing that i like which i mentioned before is you really did you made it so that i felt comfortable to talk to you about my personal life it wasn't just about my face it was i was stressed that day and i was having to go through a difficult time and i was able to share that with you and you in you understood it humorous and it was not judge mental and it was kind and those are the things that are different about you using all the natural products is that sometimes people are chatty you know the last thing you want when you're going to relax is someone yes it wasn't you know what there was a question to be asked you answered it you check in on me to see lovely beautiful audience wherever you are what could they do right now what are three good tips do you have three good tips before i put that pressure on you as you know i don't plan anything no i know that i don't so you know it is what it is well i'm the first thing that comes to my mind it always if a person is going to get a facial or get even products to go to a professional yeah you know i can pick up a phone and talk to a person on the phone and look at him for murder and so on but there's no one at the other end who's going to people have them look at your skin yes and you need to find figure out what type of skin type you have and then you then you go from there so that's that's foremost the second is what are you doing at home are you taking care of you know what are you doing at home what are the things you can do at home so it's added and what place in there the skincare regime it needs to be done right and foremost is water now yeah how much water it's interesting you ask because i spoke with a friend of mine who's a nurse and i said you know we have all sorts of formulas with the right one and she says frankly it's just simple as this take your body weight yeah split it in half you know one hundred pound person would drink there you go fifty answers a water day oh that's not terrible  now that we've given people tips what i really want to talk about to you is the importance and you must see this cup going in and out people coming in and out and to talk about this with my next guest robert from someone there but people come in and out for different reasons to see you it isn't just about how your skin looks just like when i do a room it's not about how it looks it's how it makes you feel it's all about how you feel so i know that you get people like me that day that were stressed how much of an impact do you think that makes on someone who's really going through a rough time how much can you do you really think you can help them even though you know you just a good question because when people come in and you meet every walk of life and i think that they're going through some could be health issues some could be family issues and so on so majority of that does affect our skin that medication a faster skin slower so those things are important to me i don't want to get into somebody's life on on on a level that's uncomfortable i just need to know some of the basic things so that we can say ok so with that said i'd like to use this today more like to do that today and if they've never had a facial then i'll discuss what they'll be experiencing right so they're not shocked right or if they've had a facial go you know after the facial ago i've never had anything like this before well that's how i feel no you spent time on my shoulder and i  soft and that really there's the stress most of the time some people carry stress in their face you know facial muscles so then you know you want to be able to just kind of work that out and you really want to encourage them just to relax and kind of forget the moment if you will it must be really nice to see somebody come in stressed and leave feeling better they do do it but i want their skin to look good at home and that's key so if you feel good then please don't wait a year to have a let's get some you know thoughts in mind as to what you can do to kind of recreate this on some basis or regular basis that would be good for them yeah i know that is all that's all really important to have try to have a plan but not to be afraid to go in boutique and you feel like really you're all over me behind me or like waiting for me to buy something and it's new and it's uncomfortable and i just rush out of places like that i don't and i do too i don't lie even when i pressure to buy something unless i needed it and then one preceded the witch hazel terror and all of those things were great you mentioned earlier that at different phases in our lives we just need different things and i know that when i was going through my divorce i wasn't always kind to myself i was so involved in the process and so upset by it all i didn't make time to be nice to myself and this is a really good thing to do that doesn't take up your whole  ll the time i only i can't i don't want to join a gym well you know you've got to do you have to make choices and so that's really important and i noticed that at the time when referring back to that i mean i'm fifty eight years old so my divorce oh gosh so i was in my you know early fifty's my whole face broke out now i have not uncommon i guess and that must have been from the stress that right now how would you trade something like that well again knowing background  it's not happening it's not happening so yeah that is true so the point is to try to get a good night's rest even though you're going through a difficult time do your best it's not going to be perfect trust me been there done that not perfect as long as you make an effort to make yourself feel better how you feel how your skin looks drinking the water in itself you know markable so and treating you it all depends on what again what you're going through and i would take it from that point of view and factors as well but factors of course yeah and i would love to work with the cancer community i have to some degree and bedminster but i have had some additional training so that i can know the pros and cons how's it working for an official would be different for instance i've worked on your neck and shoulders if a person had lymph nodes removed for instance under the arm i can't work in that area ok so just so that i wouldn't harm them for lymphedema perhaps ok could set in and this is something else so it is really interesting and there are certainly most the time more sensitive so than i have to be sure that even natural products that i'm using would be ok for their skin ok so because it really is about what they're going through and i need to to know that history so and there and you know everybody needs to be treated and feel like they're special that day i don't care what you're going through they really really i agree with you and that that's why as i stress going through a rough time in an carving out that little bit of time for yourself whether it's an hour forty five minutes whatever it is it's important if that's if that's even if you can take ten minutes and you know washers can properly after you've taught them how  know they just start off small with time that's what i've learned skills are small give yourself a few moments even if you take a moment to one minute and just say wait a minute i'm i'm spiraling too quickly i'm moving too fast even just walking down the stairs and tripping that's how i know when i'm when i start being when i start to get klutzy very the first thing i say i learned this years ago when i after during my divorce i don't just take a minute wait a minute you know i watch your did this is an amazing book and jodi really is her story is quite amazing kind of picking yourself up by the bootstraps if you will to just get through a difficult time and where people would not say certain things jodi has been expressed in the book so seriously it's a must read not because like you know a matter in this is you know what i'm doing here it's because jodi is a really unique individual  the privilege of going to her home and seeing a very beautiful way to express yourself i think people need to express themselves in different legs so it could be through the mode of decoration  it's facial now because expression and art is all done in a different way it is very true and we are all unique and thank you for that shout out that was very nice you did you did get a book that i did and i did read and i and i again again again do it again let's do it again one more time all about skin thirty one south bend we have a new basking ridge suite two zero two zero number seven three two seven four two  look i left you i let you decide about my face and this whole area here that made me feel really good and my sat was something you know what that's another thing i never nobody ever did my hands when i got a f we have other modes there we can help you with that i really do i think it's great and i'm really glad that you can share those tips so before we and yes we still have some time beautiful let's review if so very important go to an expert such as myself consultations with me or complementary oh that's a good thing to say yeah also sleep thing yes yes the sleep get money and sleep a plenty just take care of your skin at  surrounded by colors that make you smile and everyone just like you said everybody skin is different right once individual everybody likes a different color so i encourage people out there who are listening if you're thinking about changing things up or you're not feeling comfortable in your space or with your face if you're not comfortable with your face see roof drive you're not comfortable with your space see me and if you can't see me go on my website and learn stuff i have lots of things that you can learn so here's my advice pick a color you like and try it it's just paint throw it on the that's really how it makes you feel like a big warm hug of something that's from and that's what i'm going to say it's a simple as that it's just paint we're not going down not not going down going always repainted and always nothing and so having said that