following program is sponsored by seattle open door church yet all open door church he's committed to loving god loving people and loving life our doors are open to whomever you know mass required seattle open door church can take a look and see how we need healing so that we do not repeat the same things we've done in the past so you pray that you'll be with us in our lesson in jesus name amen so our lesson to do is call goodies the healing of past hurts before you even look at the lesson who do you some of us pick up baggage along the way in life how many know that maybe you got a feel from things from the past but then you deal with the past some sometimes do the present the same to deal with the past and then you've got the baggage again and you need healing again so it's an ongoing process most experts agree on three things one everyone has problems that sometimes remain untouched by conversion baptism holy spirit bible study prayer fellowship and church work do you believe that if we listen if we're filled with god's holy spirit of her daughter bible studies epper involved in prayer if we are involved in fellowship admirable and church work should be not be healed but what's the truth can we be doing all those things are still have some areas in our like there were not healed in europe ok number two then in the heart of every christian iran resolve issues and hurts which is surrounded by feelings and hindering the person's present life listen this this is every christian and you have to ask yourself if you really believe every christian what is a say head in and the heart of a sin in the heart what does that mean is it and yet honest necessarily aware of it and it says here's what you may not be aware of on resolve the issues in her so what i say is not what your father says oh wait a second your father told you get your act together and i'm trying to get back together just don't want to get back together so what should you do to get you back to the pit so sometimes people say or do number three the focus of sex the cation sake of acacias being set apart the focus of sanctification is the ministry healing to under resolve issues and paths for master and such a way that they no longer have a negative effect on the present life of the on that god wants to set us apart make us different make us look more like jesus but what if i said tell you that part of that process of being set apart like geez what has to happen i would argue that you have unresolved issues dealt with so how many no we look at the myriad other some say wow i've really grown tremendously and then you get the spotlight of god on the mirror and all of a sudden you see all the imperfections that are still there so  us number two we're all shaken affected by relationships with parents spouses brothers sisters and intimate friends do you believe that do you believe that your parents could have some effect upon how you see life takes place to talk about that later on so our parents or spouse or brothers or sisters enter to intimate friends all can have influence on us not listen up that early letter it many times above individuals reflect  pon characteristics to us i want you to think about this some of you will know that you're not healed yet as we look at this this can bring up memories and if the memories come up and you still say alge you're not totally h in this relationship we talked about with conditional or partial love and acceptance so that the love was conditional if you do this i love you know how many of us actually had somebody a i'll love you but if you get a c i won't know what it is probably told that but what message did you get if you were in that environment that you if you got an a you should get an a plus is a loser that is not average is a loser because that was the vironment that i grew up in now did my dad or my mom tell me if you don't get an a we don't love you never but it was conditional love maybe it was expressed or not expressed number two what about critical harsh or more correction the law anybody experience that where that there was more of your no good then you are good was anybody at all you heard about is what the bad things you oriented i will perform the best i can because if i perform the best i can maybe i'll no longer be in trouble and then some of you know it shows i don't care anymore and i want to be the worst three is because i'm never going to get ma tch up to what you want from me anyways you see how the past can control a seed into the present how many ever had the loved ones in your life that were got a lot unpredictable or not there when you needed them if that was the case you have the dad that was the truck driver that never came home you have the dread those a salesman that never was around whatever it may be maybe your mama's not my thing is my mom was sick all the time some of my mom being sick all the time she wasn't really there but when she was there she just would overwhelm you and you never were good enough for so my mom when she's gone she's sick i'm almost saying as a kid i'm glad that mom's sick because she's not around because then i don't help to perform and that's sad if you think about that so what about an upper deck wind up there what does it tell you probably think god isn't there if somebody group an environment where the people that are in your life it should be their love and you are not their drum predictable it even if they're not there how many have been drunk dad don't even know he was home he was drunk all the time so he wasn't there even though he was home so if you have that how do you think that affects your relationship with christ the the father would have is for many people their faith is very weak wiser faith we because their hard time believe that god is there because the example to show on is the people that should have been there wasn't there and how about angry made to earn love you have to earn love and you have somebody was always upset always angry never happy if you think that affects you down the role and what it him how many  just accept jesus that all disappears anybody talk that or heard that heard that is that kind of impression as much as i teach and this i have to be careful because i still have this concept i have to work through it come i get over it anybody heard that just get over it is no big deal is it easier to say to get over than to get over and out of it do we need to get over it but what we're told is somehow you accept jesus is all fixed i would argue that when jesus does is when we accept christ he reduced the spirit mehmet the innocent or spirit comes alive but he stood up to deal with the flesh and he says the super trade above characteristics we have a hard time receiving love in giving love the web a distorted perception of god's self in others they will need emotional healing do you agree with that and i want you to think about this they have a hard time receiving distorted reflection of that love is going to affect how we love so if you're grew up in a home where you never were hugged are you going to be a hugger when you grow up what about with your child i would argue that if you're if you didn't grow up with hugs there's a good chance it with your child you won't because it's unnatural to you so i made a value i'd never heard my dad said love my mom or dad that i can remember said love you never can remember any kind of a hug you know i mean my dad is going to go away for a couple days and shook my hand in real professional i shook my hand and said i love you son there's only time i ever heard love the problem was i didn't want to real to me even though it's the first thing i ever got the shock of love it didn't seem real to me so i made about when i became a father i would hug my son when it didn't feel like it was it is uncomfortable i remember my son when he was probably eleven twelve years but because a seem a natural how many things that goes on the people shores love we don't receive it because of baggage and line number three of the many mate ways we all remain children of knowledge we don't all remain children my whole dot i'm sixty two i don't actually almost sixty two but i get sixty two i will act like a child i've got a few more weeks and i'll be set free as we this this little child that's in there someplace and this is the word in a child can have the following characteristics what hurts relationships so the wounded hit it shout it will hurt relationships that are around them you think that's true how about number two hurts those who they love the most anybody ever done that the person you love the most you hurt the most that is silly but if you're wounded that's a good chance we can have another three causes reactions  they get spanked but you know what happened they got attention that they never get so you never say anything to me never talk to me but if i get in trouble you talk to me says a little kid trouble so they will talk to me as an want that car guys have their car from the desk of the car for thirty years i want to when he dies your four years old dad dies are you going to get to drive the car you know why would you think god's a different if the center is that you're want you to imagine this in your mind as you listen to this a painful memory is like a mental womb the did originally vent lacerates or mine puncturing ridding slashing to the very roots of self is there painful get i got to get rid of the memory to get ill you don't have to get rid of the memory to be healed here's the problem many try to get men to rid of the memory to be hill how do they do that drugs gambling addiction sixty eighty hours a week what happens when you finally get a day off of a side of that memory you're trying to run from the person you're trying to run from is what you take with you exactly is in the room with you as you can't you can amputate is dead is that we need allow god to bring his healing problems come when you make a habit of picking at the scab we keep the moon ever fresh and infected everybody's had  underlay right somebody's skin their leg or maybe their elbow anybody got a scab how many as little kids went to pick up the scab it was starting to get healed although i never did that well maybe he did but most of us like to do a little bit  exploring now think about it there's a scab you pick up on it and what do you do you're trying to see him to come off right if it comes off easy is really cool but what about when you start to peel off and it starts to bleed what do you do th what should you do leave it a low but what do we do we have this memory and guys actually send us free from whatever's happened but every time we have an express reminds us of the memory instead of dealing with that experience we play that experience it is in the past so say it whatever you talk somebody ignored and you realize that they had nothing to do it's you that had to do with your parents had nothing to do with you so you could heal from that to say you know what people are not is not that people never listen to me is that my parents never listen to me but then you go to a party and you start to talkin everybody walks away you know you have to do if you're hill that's a problem with them not me but if you pick up the scab what happens yap it's always going to be the way i go nobody likes me i'm the problem because you're picking at the aggressive oh i guess it is called aggressive sometimes i could argue and i could have my defenses because our dinner table who got to talk to is the one who shout the loudest pushout a lot of us got to talk i wanted to make sure i got to talk so now when i talk to all people say you're talking too loud if i don't have to i don't have to win a point by talking loud but i have to deal with that to deal with that's my personality that i have to deal with all the time so i have to take that on the healthy pattern and put it to the death of the crofts and sometimes drug users people remind you of the healthy and unhealthy patterns so that we can manage the people who are trying to help us in that crazy cable  film exposed the lord you acknowledge that yeah i'm still dealing with things the wrong way and that father god we would tend to continue to put that old man down in the spirit of god to rise up with them yes i pray father that  learn of this new information that we'll be able to use it to share with others those we know that are struggling that we can get the material to them and then to help them to be able to get free and pray this jesus name amen are you struggling with move beyond the past or you hav temperature give others to forgive yourself or maybe even to forgive gun we'll see an open door church as a series that we're doing called moving beyond the past you'll be videotaping each week the sessions here some of the sessions will be covering what is healing past hurts who needs healing the prodigal son god's forgiveness face to face encounter with god the power of the cross forgiveness and inner healing in or val's of bitterroot judgments closing open doors breaking every curse breaking every deception and be filled with the holy spirit i can promise you that it will not take going through all of the material to be able to move beyond your past but if you keep track with all that we share you will certainly live a victorious overcoming life and i want to let you know that you can live the victorious overcoming life in your deserts can be turned into glorious gardens if you want to learn more go to  website as the d c dot tv forward slash moving beyond that's s o d c dot tv forward slash movie on will have the curriculum there we will have the videotape of each session so you'll be able to follow right along with us even if you're not at our church service yes you can move beyond the past yes you can live a victorious life yes your desert places can turn into is there is hope kimi dot org also legit know if you would like to talk to me person you can always give me a call toll free anytime want a six six one god you have been listening to me very so with pastor richard over through jesus christ we can live a victorious life seattle open door church located in during committed to loving god loving people and loving life seattle open door church once you don't know but regardless of where you've been or what you've done god loves you there doors are open to anyone and everyone their services are sunday mornings at eleven seattle open door church is located at six twenty five south west one hundred forty ninth street in period next to the southwest courthouse