who as i mentioned in the show did something that i think most of us are you thinking about and dreaming about when we read an article about how younger couple packs up all of their kids and takes to the road to travel the world for a year most of us don't have the either the full dream or the courage but these guys do and so welcome so glad to have you guys here it's an awesome story so ok so we did our last segment kind of talking about some of the takeaway is and the learning in kind of how this type of trip changes you but bring everybody back one of the things i find fascinating is in my minds from a plan to perspective i think i'm trying to grasp on to anything i could be like oh here's the structure here here's the plan but so here all the places that we're going and here's our itinerary and two months here one month a year and that's not the way it went right yeah i think so tell me tell me the way it went so the first thing i looked at was climate europe is optimal in the summertime you started in june right yes my started a school let out and had it let out on june eighth we drove to new jersey because our youngest julie her birthday is on the ten and she wanted to be with grandma grandpa yeah and on the thirteenth we left for france the reason we chose well i chose france is because i got a great hotel deal ok great so local search engine there was you have or we were in the countries yeah the goal was always to find because we need two rooms right we have a six foot four yes sixteen year old so he's not sleeping with mommy anymore now have three kids yeah i mean you know where can we get the best hotel deal because airfare is something we don't have much control over yet so she like you said is you've got to have to pay for air yeah that shouldn't be a criteria it does additional airfare rate it the price is the price we don't have control over it but the hotel because it's a longer period that's what started where how we figured out where we're going to start right ok and so i knew food how to handle bus or bus is how to get tickets practical right things you know and everything else would come naturally hopefully with the bathroom it's a very important question  that learning language is very hard yeah but she loves languages you know it's another thing i'm very passionate about ok languages you're very good at that you know i struggle i have to work three times as three times harder than everybody else but i'm willing to put in the work because i feel it's very important in fact travelling the world i've realised that the world knows multiple languages and yes we took spanish in high school and i can say   yeah yeah yeah and that's part of it well then from france we as you know we knew we were going to be in cannes for a week and then after that we knew we were going to be in france for a month ok so i had pockets booked everywhere i had paris booked cannes booked but in between i didn't know what was going to happen because i didn't know enough about france so you know you just like a few conversations and when you can survive and everyone so willing to help  our way there we have a family friend who lives in antwerp and i just sent a message to ask you where do you think we should go what should be the next place and he said you know my apartments free for three weeks if you wanted to crash there i said that is so i mean i know i would have be willing to let somebody stay in my apartment for three weeks if i was in there so i thought it was just so sweet and kind and we did we took him up on his offer that is beautiful you know and then we ended up traveling in belgium and then from belgium i don't even remember where we went we stayed on that side i mean it and did you stay until you were like ok feels like it's time to move on yes yes  know it was assimilating actually we were traveling that were no longer vacationing yes so it was learning about the local life learning about what's you know they're like for example did you know french fries come went on yeah and and so we were in vienna it was rainy bad yeah so then we're like really ok it's time to move on so we actually just moved we went to the play was to be in the last three or four three weeks  october and i didn't plan to go to asia until november that's when the weather is nice in asia november to february because we can handle the he month sundar it happening right cetera so i have to be very mindful of weather we throw in our work clothes in this beautiful big washers and it's wonderful and then we pop it in the drive yeah you have it like this big what we spent we did five loads at one time what i would have done in one load ended up being five your laundry kids go hang it outside and try it and they just tripped it over and then julie came and said what are these things for it was the clothes pin and first my first reaction was explode on them yeah what  mean you don't know how can this be and i was still in that old way of thinking i had to step back and say you know what they've never hung up one tree when would they have that opportunity right so it ended up being one of my favorite favorite moments hanging up laundry yeah and showing him how to drape it properly and then how to take it down with how you iron it so in case they're a little bugs that have settled in the underwear at least you need a new wear and it became a family  elizabeth queen of the she always has a sari on with her pearls and she's been one of the greatest influences in my life but i spent many summers that her house in london and we would honor all the clothes while we're watching neighbors our clothes for a good two three weeks sometimes they were so filthy that you just didn't want to put them back on yeah but it was hard to find washers and dryers then but they have these cool things was a bar what but that was just an important yeah i mean there's like  home basically when we saw that yeah laundry was was always an issue but you don't know it's not now everybody knows we spent three months in rome and so if i put the washing in the morning so after you left on just because i want to follow you i got your we were after you left belgium where'd you go we spent seven weeks in london we got an apartment ok that's when you're in london yeah ok and then from london one of my favorite favorite places ye was good for john i thought to be independent he would find basketball courts everywhere he's a big basketball you there tube is is amazing and it is writings easy and i think that's what it is they're very organized just you know even the restaurants if you go in you can order your drink you can or your food and then i'll bring it all but you do that you're waiting for someone to come around and do anything but i think it's also european mindset where they know that the waiter will be there at any time  this is amazing that would never work right right but it was and i have five meetings in a day that all different places yeah this is really cool well this is a good time to actually just touch on that point because they were they i arrive meetings yeah speak your steps or process into it right yeah and then yeah learning perspective right when you're specially with technology when you're trying to bring somebody through you know how to how to do something right it's it's also creating like us work construction probably take you like three or four hours and then with hours of type i would take you under a cup two minutes yeah where because we do all the work for you all the hard stuff right so we have users all around the world and what we would do is once we figured out a country we'd land and then i would email say hey i'm in town love to come by see how you're using iraq and show you the cool stuff that will work right and then we set up the meetings and then go and perfect this is pretty much we've got to move the customers to where we that it was fantastic when we were in malaysia we met you're my first time ever paying customers the whole family yeah we went to dinner with them and for me that was because i still remember the day like it was yesterday  it's really easier because there's we're six hours ahead so when we get back that's when when when the us is actually getting to work so makes things really and everybody knows when daddy's in work mode that means everybody opens up their books or work day and we become a working family yeah that's what you're saying that i really loved when you were talking about just the schedule and how some day is because you're traveling not vacationing but some days yeah getting engrossed in that work is that that would be the whole day and that we would find pleasure in it you know yeah and so the message was to teach the kids that you can work hard and play hard you really can't have it all yes it's in your hands you know how you manage it y you know i mean then you have a different timetable schedule calendar you have you know you have different motivations like you know if it's just so easy to turn on the computer or the t v and then you get lost you waste just a quick second rate or when the kids are talking to us especially my daughter would say mommy facebook is not work you cannot be on a gadget it's all you can or will was we could only be on gadgets if it was work related whether you're learning researching yeah  about the journey that you have back here yeah what even when you look around your restaurant yeah you know i get so many comments oh i'm so envious i can't believe you did but there are stories behind each and every photo of sure you know it's not this beautiful glamorous life i mean there were many one of the most poignant good things that you said he said on our last show was really about learning yourself you know when you know getting to know yourself because i feel like for our says individuals on this planet and certainly for our children getting to know yourself you knowing yourself is the number one happiness yeah and like you said before i think the most valuable thing that the five of us got from it is really appreciating the journey yeah it's not about what country you're in and what hotel you're in a thank you says really about appreciating the journey that's why i like the sixty yeah that's right yeah you know it's like because when you hear somebody successful talk they always talk about their failures they don't talk about you know their or their big accomplishments most people you know that's what they remember and that's what you say oh man i to stay up all night and i did that and is that suffering that got you to that goal and you know that journey even on a return trip we did a long extended return we didn't just leave from heathrow to nowhere which would have been easy eight hours we went saying you know i think it's just a product of where we are in our and our worlds and how we're always like how do i get from here to here and preserve that time yeah but but you're so right i mean you know in teaching your children to be present and to you know take that time to look around and you know part of what's happening you know is you know is here to get here we were going and the first thing when we got back is i told from the the new jersey turnpike it's actually really beautiful i've never appreciated my backyard you know there are days where you look out of the sky and you think what a magnificent sunset we take for granted because it's right here we don't have the time and i think this trip is really helps me yeah to find the beauty it's like you know dorothy there's no place like home the world is magnificent and beautiful in there so much to learn but i mean we always say this this country is really one of the greatest countries there is yeah absolutely answer yeah and we just need to realize that we have so much right here in our backyard so nice to have this journey will be to discover america right and appreciate what we have hate so do every state and i just want to sit in diners and talk to people it's my dream and see and experience and because everybody has such a beautiful story i mean i think one of my favorite parts about traveling with meeting going back to understanding and smile that he was teaching us how to read the sun from a dial or i didn't grasp but the kids did and he was playing some game where it's almost just taking cash cows and rocks and the kids local games and thailand before that after so we did egypt in october and then we decided we went to greece to athens for one week ok it was cold and it was a little bit more aggressive than i wanted or we wanted because we thought we would do the islands and the winds were heavy so we shifted gears and we went to india yeah because we thought we would celebrate the valley ok the festival that's like absolutely in india so india was much longer than we anticipated because family came and we ended up november december january three months in india wow in our hometown ok so for me it was cool because it's her parents house there so we saved a lot of money the they have our fast internet which i love ok and their houses are stick really nice so i and i think you just got really long because i was waiting for my parents to come so they could see the kids yeah so just it was a month or two true long patel yeah and so if people have questions right so someone seeing this made me sick oh my gosh i want to do this but i'm really pretty nervous would you give some advice to people and if so how do they get at with you i would refrain from giving advice because it's so personal it is personal but i can tell you my journey yeah and then i'm happy to share what we learned how i did it what worked what worked for me and you can take it from there so now can someone contact us through you have a lot here will think you guys both so much for telling your story it's super exciting like i said in the back of my mind and thinking about how i can do this thank you for letting us share it yeah and it was awesome thanks so much