happy and comfortable in their space and create a and restore a sense of permanency after they've literally gone from we to me married to single through the uplifting power of color design and a whole lot of laughter and also  like to introduce my friend kathy ritchie who is a business and wellness coach and it's really important that we not just take care of our space but we take care of our bodies and we move forward through a transition such as divorce so having said all of that which is a big mouthful i'm now going to introduce my friend kathy ritchie business and wellness coach hi kathy geraghty how are you know i'm doing great thank you so much for having me today it's my pleasure so excited to be here now i'm glad that you're here and i thought we might start off when i could do with every show or just say we could talk about how we met briefly how this all happened and about transition but how did we i know me i remember you i would never forget how i met so few years back now when you were going through a transition in your life you came to learn how to dance i did and i used to be sort of an assistant doctor there in studio yes and i remember you coming in for your lessons and we danced together and we talked and we became fast friends i'd say we did and it was it was a really difficult time in my life was probably the worst time in my life and finding something that was i felt to be a passion was amazing for me and coming into this whole dance community of welcoming people who quite you know quite honestly actually were talking about it with john lindo before most of the dance community quite a few of them are divorced and single and it is a place to congregate even though you're not really thinking of it that way express yourself and just make friends you went through a difficult transition too so mine was horrific and dance saved my life how did how did you find the answer i know you went through a tough time well it's quite interesting because when i originally found that it was the same for the same reason you know i was divorced with two small babies and dancing was something i always wanted to learn how to do in my life and i found dance and it  actually revitalized my life it gave me a new friends it gave me something social to do it made me feel good about myself and there's absolutely no way you can smile when your dance elves up the truth and you can especially especially all of the dances that we've had it really was a rough time but it did make everything wonderful and happy and it was great connecting with you because you made me feel happy you know just like you said you sort of started at first you know you were there and it transformed your life and then i met you and all these people are dance community and then i started to feel like i had another place in the world right and that's hugely important after transition you on the other hand you had a whole different profession when i first met you you were a c p a account account and which you say you know we never really talked about if you loved it or not but you that's what you did and i knew right and the reason that you're on the show other really mainly is because you went through another transition i did you want to talk about that of course i went well i'm really excited about my transition and i have to say passion i'm very passionate about it but i really do appreciate that we got to meet and i appreciate being a part of your went through another trans trends in my life and i always grew up with a serious weight problem as a child you probably didn't know that when you met me because i did and i read it i read it in your biography but i had no idea yeah i was in constantly in the quiet struggle to maintain that and i studied nutrition about twenty five years ago and i got healthy so when you met me i was already you know pretty good shape you know i was  but about five or six years ago that started to fall apart with you know going through menopause was and i had losses i have right now that is heroin even breast the whole n the yeah yeah and then putting on pounds where you don't know where they come from and i was really struggling so i already ate healthy i couldn't take off a pound and so what did you do while i ran into a friend who always had a problem and she looked fantastic and i asked her what she did and she told me that she was on a nutritional cleansing program and she lost thirty pounds and she felt great and she looked great and i said you you have to help me yeah you have to help me so she she introduced me to it and the skeptical as i was by day four i already started to feel better yeah i slept through the night woke up raring to go in the morning and my clothes i was already more comfortable in my clothes so  that's how i got started with it well that see so that's so interesting so you you started to feel good about yourself you're going through now a second transition i know you lost your parents some yarning that must have been difficult and now your transition you transitioned successfully into a different career you went from an accountant to helping other people with not only wellness i want to stress this but also business you're also a business coach and let's not diminish that at all because that's chose though to say you know there's all kinds of coaches but why those two things did you decide no pun intended but mary together so it really happened organically yeah it happened organically and i'm a believer that sometimes things come into our lives for a reason sometimes things get taken out of our lives what we expect to be our path changes whether we wanted to or not so when i started going through my i went today it's because now i was feeling better again i was feeling able to dance i had been not really feeling well not feeling like i wanted to be out there with people and dancing and a friend that dance said to me kathy what are you doing like you look great you're dancing in your you know you're glowing like what are you doing and i said well you know it must be this program i'm on here i really feel great and she asked me for help and so she was technically your first know what i want to help you yeah i want to help you it's making you feel good to help somebody else that's always the best way to heal don't you think it made yes it is absolutely is absent more you give the better you feel and that i can say will cross the board and then did she ask you for business help as well did that all of a sudden you're not giving her direction on what to do with maybe a career or how to move forward with something that just not initially in the chalet she wanted to lose some weight and she wanted to feel better in her own skin and  as the as that started to happen and she saw what i was doing and how i was helping other people she actually did start to help other people too and i coaster through that so it it does have an amazing rewarding ways that completely overlap in a good way and that was that's one of the things that i love here and i love i love to know that people can help other people feel good about themselves and then from that point it starts to it starts to grow all of a sudden maybe we talked about earlier maybe it's somebody who's was a stay at home mom and now wants to transition back into the work world and they're not feeling good about how they either feel or look or both and then we don't want to think about a job now because they're not feeling so great or see other way maybe they want to start a new job or they want to go in a different direction and as they become happy in that new space as you direct them all the sudden then they feel like wow you know what maybe i want to take care of how i'm feeling physically as well so if you want it if you want to give like say what would be three things for people who are listening now if you could i hate to put you on the spot but i am going to do it anyway ok i'm  you can answer these questions three tips whether they called you or they didn't call you but maybe three things that struck you to take hold of your life and not be afraid and transition into either health and well health and business but because they're connected but what were the three tips you could get give people that were watching well the first thing i think the first thing i would say is that you definitely do not have to stay where you are even if you're unhappy in your job or with especially if you're unhappy with how you're feeling and i think if you take care of your inside first your outside starts to sharia and when you do that anything becomes possible but you know you have to have a little belief in yourself and the desire to change if you have a desire to change what i found is we have the tools to help you do that right so i wouldn't hold back you have one life yeah you deserve to live your best life that's very true it is and it's inspiring to to just keep that monster that you really can change things up i mean we both went through a big trance us engine you can do you can just turn it all the way around so your first tip would be don't be afraid just get out there don't be afraid to one life one like relate that first step to change would be to number two maybe tip that has to do with wellness now while at the tip with wellness as i discovered really that and then again it goes about it i'd only goes back to my own experience so i've discovered that when when you cleanse your body and you get rid of the toxins in your body your body starts to behave the way it was designed to hiv and you get your youth back you get you get revitalized and you look at things the way you did when you were younger and you have more passion for things so if it keeps you on that road to change so you would say th detoxifying detoxifying for sure if people are not sure what that is or they're a little skeptical or they don't know where to turn i'm going to just say right now for you guys listening cathy just give them your phone number and your facebook page or whatever just so they could reach if they decide it you know you wouldn't if someone called you and said hey i don't even know where to start i mean you know if i want you you wouldn't care you would talk to them anyway absolutely hear that so what do we continue with our tips money you give everybody your name and how they can reach you absolutely so my name is kathy ritchie c a t h y r i c c i and you can find me on facebook under that name my phone number is two zero one two four seven t eight six six and you can also follow me on facebook and on instagram and then linked in and i get free fifteen minute phone consultations and i'd be happy to talk to you about how we might have a solution to help you you know change and to live your best life because you can do it you can do we have the tools and you can admit that's good thank you so detoxification i've done it before so i can vouch every once in a while like maybe every six months or so i i'm feeling sluggish and i realize that i don't know why why am i feeling i don't know so while i believe in that as well i believe in also drinking  don't water i opened a lot of water that's a great tip that's a great tip if you do nothing else if you do nothing else that's a wonderful tip what's what would you say maybe one more tip that would be number three for people listening and something they could do right away what's something they could do right now besides drink a lot of water what would be another thing well obviously exercising is always good but a lot of people don't have the energy to exercise because they don't so and we're not talking about skinny either because skinny is not necessarily the answer it's not necessarily healthy being healthy is that yeah exactly unhealthy is the answer that glee so i would say that not everyone is overweight but everyone is toxic yeah and i think that people just don't realize how great they could feel and till they get you know until they try something different you know so much different if if so the for the third our livers in the kidneys we have with our bodies filters so we really you really should try to eat cleaner and then small meals five times a day small meals i always want to people think if they skip a meal they're doing themselves a favor but they're really not they're really you know depriving themselves and keeping their metabolism from moving that's true also when you think you're starving yourself and then right body i was stay away from carbs in the morning because once you put  body in the morning you want them and crave them all day so that would be my tips five small meals not processed foods and you know and drink a lot of water like you said yeah well saying all right there there's there's things for you guys listening out there that you could do right away if you never even call cathy but you really should you can at least start with that and i bet if you did you would feel better and want to do more i feel this i feel the same way about somebody space i mean you've seen my space i've seen your face an awful thank you and might my few tips that i want to talk about you can always jump in if you want to add anything to this but you know you talk about detoxify your body i like to detoxify house a space it's hugely important when you're going from a transition like divorce or anything else loss of a spouse relocation empty nest syndrome retirement anything that's a transition or even getting married again in blending two households that's really that could be a problem if two people are head butting about i like plaid and i like you know modern asian from being healthy from the inside out so i just thought of that now but he way they did they got married and they had and they hired me so they wouldn't be with me because they were fighting and it was crazy because that he liked one thing and she liked another and it was almost impossible but getting back to detox the cation of your space too much clutter clutters your mind i always say a cluttered space is a cluttered mind i have a tip for that i find that there are a lot of people that can't let go of things right now and i must you must see that with diet absolutely i have to have i can't lie i can last i can have my coffee without whatever fill in the blind eye and i find that with with spaces like i need three expresses makers i must have three i can't just have or or it's you know we talked about in the in the green room with joe you know divorcing the coffee table what happens with people especially after turns asian in your is specially if you're downsizing people just bring everything they don't know what to take they don't know what things will fit and that's just the math part of it you being an accountant at one time in your life understands if something doesn't fit just won't go in his bunker but what's more important than not fitting is the emotional attachment or what that possession brings into your space so in other words is it weighing you down or is it uplifting so is that coffee table a reminder of your marriage did you get that on your honeymoon and now you bring it into your new space and you wonder why you hate sitting in your living room you need to divorce the coffee it's got divorce so you got to do stuff like that but then there are things that are sentimental and you had mentioned i hope i'm not bringing up a sore subject but you have lost your parents yes but i bet you in your house you might have things in your home that make you feel happy and remain  in mind you have them right all that great memories right those are the things that are uplifting even if it's something as simple i tell my clients as a recipe if it's grandma's cookies if it's your mom sideboard if it's your dad's old lawn mower that doesn't work but you like it in the garage because it makes you smile these are the things that are extremely important to have in your home the things that are uplifting versus the things that drag you down like i said so my my one of my tips for de toxify in your place would be when people say you know i have to have to suppress all makers i say to them here's so there are phyllis trusts and you tell me if this works somewhere in your coaching program where people but what i say to them ok you're all stressed about having just want to suppress all make or take those two and put it in a plastic bag and just tied up with all the things that i'm telling you should get rid of in your house or you go through and see what you don't need  try and don't throw them out i'm saying don't do them right what i'm either given to a friend or put them in your garage and this is my test if you can keep all that stuff like old clothes or shoes you can't part with i can't part with shoes i have one hundred and i are i got a lover i might even be i might need help i need help i want to talk to you about my shoes but you put it's just wrap them up and don't look at them for give me three weeks if you can't remember what's in those bags you need to dump it you gotta go you gotta go baby you just got it you gotta let me tell you now let's go letting go letting go letting go of bad habits bringing being open to new habits let go of the two espresso makers and you know the six pairs of shoes that you haven't worn or that shirt that you like or whatever that you think you like but you haven't worn it so why you know people get nervous i'm like i can't i can't like oh i can't throw it out yet so don't throw it out yet so my feeling is just pack it up make it invisible and if you're still longing for that espresso make fairness maybe maybe maybe separate them maybe divorce the espresso maker and put one in your office and one in your house right b give one away it went away and make somebody else a really sad island ion feel happy and hyper with a lot of  friend of mine told me once that if you have something like that like take a picture of it and something as simple as a little bigger picture of it so you always have that picture but if you don't use it for extended period of time like you said that's great advice but i will have this i think that a lot of the objects and the things we have in our lives are triggers yes there are triggers to emotions yep and you really want to surround yourself with the good triggers the absolutely triggers absolutely want to really put away the things that create those bad triggers and we have like you said we have all of those triggers we do we absolutely do so if you can clear the triggers from your space that don't maybe make you want to grab maybe you should be on dairy so maybe you do something that takes that trigger away sacco and maybe is the a special maker because you put the cream in the i don't know but they're all right there a whatever it is it's good it is that's a good point get rid of the triggers those triggers are the same for your space you want to feel nourished and comfortable in your space you want to feel happy you want to feel i don't use this room but i use that were no you don't want that you want to i sometimes look at people say i have a go of my in my dad room i don't know why you have this great place i just moved and i'll say can i ask you is the bedroom set when did you get that oh that was when we were married i go to so you made babies on that mattress and you're wondering why you can't get a day that could be a problem those things bonfire bonfire works well for mad it doesn't matter cathy will get you to me and i'll get you to kathy absolutely though when you're when your body feels better and then you want to go out for that new job or you want to start dating again or you want to bring someone into your into your home again and trust again it's about it's about trusting but you do have to trust yourself first you have to trust yourself enough to to you said earlier which is hugely important you want to make the change you can't force someone to cleanse or to go on that job interview practice for i can't force someone to divorce their coffee table or anything else i can but people that come to me and i would imagine people that come to you are saying already i want to help my i don't i just don't know how so it's really about just like when i went to dance i wanted to dance i fell in love with john linder who's going to come on next i'm so excited i fell in love with him a colorado cafe but and i just wanted it so badly and i just went for help and so i went i went and i would go to my group lessons and i actually couldn't even afford him at the time because i couldn't i was this divorce just devastated me but i could afford the damn group lessons at colorado cafe and i went our son i started to take that first it yes and instead of you two you made a big you made a big a leap of faith and that there's a lot to be said for that and that i think is why you can't coach people because nobody wants to call a coach that's not been through a transition and sat right like who cares if i was become experience you have to be able to connect with people and know the emotional place that they're in yes and sometimes you know just being that inspiration to motivate them that if i could do it you can do it that's what i want to see they want to see if somebody else did it and has been through a rough time whatever it is it doesn't even matter somebody else did it and they're there to they've already paved the way they already know the road i know the road you know the road we were like the pied piper of you know mental emotional physical business health right like right you want to you want to say to people take a look look you know look here i'm running through a come on i'm just saying come follow me i'm going to be ok i'm with you and you're with you're coming with you are there are there you are so there i have to tell you jodi i did truly truly believe in what you do well thank you and i think it really does work together i don't know it's like the chicken or the a which comes first there is no we don't know if you feel good inside you you look better and you present yourself better on the outside and if you live in a better surrounding and you have a beautiful space that inspires you you feel good on the inside it's so true it's so true it's just a constant one is feeding off of the other it's amazing how things can happen and that's why i'm just telling everybody out there just start with baby steps where you yes absolutely you got you don't know this but at the end of my show i did mention that i have a shoe problem maybe i dedicate a shoe to my guests and how i feel it represents them somehow so i'm go yeah summer i close the same way i say your space needs to be comfortable reflecting your personal style and fitting you well like your favorite pair of kick ass shoes miss kathy yes these are definitely a kick ass shoe and on a great interview and you can have a beautiful home based on the shoes i thought along thank you everybody