we're here to do though today our topic for the day is how to stop stress from sabotaging your weight loss because as we're going into the new years lots of people have lots of weight loss goals and so the one thing i've found is  stress can get in the way of that and what i want to do is i want to ask you ladies a question i want you to be honest have you ever taken one of these and used it as one of the oh dealing with stress kind of like we grab it quick fixes yeah and so food actually becomes a quick fix but i also want to ask you all a question think back to when you were a little kid what is your first memory when it comes to food drop chicken soup or whatever so even if it took you two hours oh you just didn't know yeah so did you did you did you ever have i wonder if you guys had had this because here's the memory of thinking of did you ever have something kind of bad happen or something good happened where you celebrated your food was a reward were food was rewarded but food was always part of the reward home cooking a lot of comfort food i'm not you think about things that we're you know liberate around food but i'm also things it would be like already are well carol you got your tonsils out all right let's get you some ice cream and enjoy i guess i want to put that out there because i think that's how we kind of accessible for people and so you just kind of go got to go to the wells website but i want to start with that there are two steps to success when it comes to dealing with this and let's see if i can get a good mark of the work here so there is basically two steps to success is your i want you to share with us what you have down number one number one identify the  shores so what this really means is if we got two kinds of hunger here we have stress over and we have oh i should before we go any further i want to ask you ladies when you get stressed out what do you know is are you a sole person raise your hands when you want to or are you a sweet person raise your hands that changes or if you're both because here's the thing when we're under stress our body because of the cortisol and because of the neurotransmitters that goes on in our brain when we get stressed out we do get hungry so i'm not saying that we're going to stop that from happening but what i want to do is help people get smarter about that and so that's really where this two steps to success comes in all right so i we've got two kinds of hunger that we can deal with we got stress hunger and then we have real hunger which is otherwise known as physical and you ladies without giving you the secret sauce are you able to tell the difference between these two for yourselves i do sometimes it can be masked you know and then i'm hunger and that's when i'm not really doing the more surfing yeah yeah yeah yeah so so so here in this is what we're going to talk about a little bit we're going to actually there is a simple way to figure out the difference between the two  and that's what i want to share with you ladies and that's what we're going to put out there to the world because this is this is got to be step number two because i mean step number one julie could you give me step number two  here's what i mean by take care one you've got to figure out is it physical hunger real hunger or is it stress over but then the next step is to take action and here's the thing if it's kind of real hunger right we have to feed it something's healthy so here becomes the really important part no but you will but i always in my bag right now guess what i have do that yeah yeah yeah but you're educating you carry on ones with you yeah and the cameras when i really think of it this way you gotta have fuel around in order to feed it something healthy because god knows if you've ever gone to the grocery store how you eat or by god you know or it's a last minute you're just so hungry it's i all right let me just let me just pull in there you know and get that which is then kind of defeating the purpose of going to be unhealthy and then here's the other thing is it's stress what i want here to actually do is to because normally that means there's no other motions connected to it whether i'm mad i'm frustrated maybe i'm hurt you know stress can have an emotional piece a response to it your trick is is to feel it right and then the next thing is to release and here's what i mean by that in you you know we've done i mean we've done all kinds of shows we've done you know ways of dealing with anger we've done ways of you know kind of dealing with difficult people or different tools to even the the shows we've done on stress and there's a couple ways to release it i could have a conversation with you until i could call you up and say oh carol i just enjoy i'm just so frustrated because you're you know or even texting now because i found it even texting right when we said is it really says that yeah or the other thing we've talked about with and sometimes you may not even know what the feeling is here's the trick though if we know they did stress what i really want people to do is do one or two things either tack somebody call somebody or write it down and just say carol told me to start doing this because what's going to happen is we're going up going to cover up because here's the thing that happens with food when we get stressed or we're feeling particular things we can kind of cover it up but the feelings never go anywhere until they just start building building building building until well i know we already know about some of your you are employed or were or group of them meaning it doesn't come out on the person the only person it ends up hurting his and just for people in case i've never seen or the show the way that the implosions happen is it it's what it causes inside of us so for me migraines for you run down for you the arthritis but the pain and even for me i have to be careful because it could even be the depression because i am a person living with a mental health condition and so it can be the depression so carol under that stress could you put boredom or loneliness too low  that's a feel it ok that is definitely a great point i mean i've been using other feelings but yes boredom could be loneliness it could be it could be boredom it could be loneliness it could just be even to me it's not a feeling but it's kind of a place of being is even disconnected you know or kind of feeling more not of loneliness but even alone is the feeling that i think oh yeah yeah  is so so it is kind of this part kind of makes sense with you all because it really it's a simple there's two steps first we got to figure out what is it is it really real physical hong were or is it more related know so i was just thinking about years ago when i just did business coaching that and i do you know what i know now but you could say this was years and years ago people wouldn't get to their goal because they know they're doing the physical thing with me but they never address the stress that that they were eating because of stress or because of hoarding whatever that the physical activity wasn't enough because they were trying to trying they were still eating because of their stress yeah i think of it as they were burning the gas in a tank with you but then they just kept putting more gas in right or whatever they burned their way to know what it back with their stress yes yeah and to me this is why i thought this was such a porton show for us to do because it really sabotages so many people that they don't even realize it and i think sometimes people know that it's stress but they don't know what else to do with it only you know yeah you know and  think the other thing that happens sometimes is just we is our our main coping mechanism on that no you know carol i realize the last few days with the with the temperatures and with this the blizzard that i think we always have to have stressors spare stress tools too because even for some people angel you you are you doing the physical part for you back going today and i don't know about you julie but for me one of my stressed tools my primary tool was my exercise but then what would happen is i would get a migraine and then i could exercise because i had a migraine and then what would happen is a migraine would get worse because i could exercise and and back in a day when i wasn't very good dealing with stress it ended up coming back to bite me because i really exercise was my main tool but if i good exercise and i had no other tools at the time to so we kind of did it as actually one of the shows we did was real but it's also physical because it's really my spelling ok all right so here's what i thought we could do i thought we could just kind of turned a you started bursting into your ok and with the first one i got written on the top of your most ok it comes out suddenly yeah oh yeah because i just gave julie an example that happened on the right over here and because the first where i read that i'm like wow i don't know if it comes on suddenly that i was  you like getting hungry like for me it's around ten o'clock in the morning maybe nine thirty i eat my breakfast at seven and i start to in my stomach you know i kind of get that feeling it's a gradual sort of ok whereas yes when it's stressed it's all of a sudden like oh hungry there and so these are the keys that we kind of are going to pay attention to i like to think of it is this i hear is like the speedometer you know that you can look at this and  could tell you kind of which one it's going to be now i have to i have to say this all that we're talking about right now it's all over the internet i don't know if you've seen it before you know physical homegirl versus a motional honker it comes out of the university of texas that many many many years ago did studies and it's their counseling department and so what i did was just try to make it simple what's out there you know the people so if you've heard it before maybe you have all right so kind of all went on to the next one for you and distrust i felt above the neck yes so i mean kind of the goal is is it we might have to even go through this think this is what we're working on is a checklist and we're coming up with just things that i want you war to kind of use and go check check ok check over here check over here and we could have it on both sides of the question is which side has more checks even yeah makes sense so we got bolo so we have above and below and don't feel like i put things in red yet that's th it's really kind of like if you think of nothing else think of sudden gradual above their boat load and that because i really want you you know you're at work you're in the middle of a work day and all of a sudden you know you find yourself hungry i want you to be able to think about well wait a minute what did we talk about all right so we got another one so it must be a certain food yeah yeah i would say that can make better choices and as long as i didn't wait too long and it doesn't matter but when it's stress it wants to be hit car from any car and for you it's interesting carbs because that's kind of when it gets back to when i certain foods that i and the other one can wait yeah so let's say and and and and let's say you know maybe i am having kind of a craving for pancakes but the instant means i want to right now but if it's something i say oh maybe i'll cook him for dinner tonight in any again it comes back to what he said about the carbs you know it is possible for us to just want some carbohydrates in it and be hungry yeah i can eat my apple and it kind of might help me or my own home and so my proteins because i'm more protein to help but if it can wait any kind it tends to put it more over that right maybe to really say like if you're really not conscious sometimes we may not know till afterwards like why did i do that like that that feeling of i didn't need that sort of thing that it's a time to look back on it and say guess what probably i was probably stressed about this or stressed about that because i think so many people kind of do this you just are on autopilot so sometimes it's afterwards it's after the fact and isc feeling of guilt shows up like that i really need to do that which is why i say we can eat a jelly donut if if it's what we want to choose to fit or feed or real hunger is it healthy no but here's the difference i can eat it and not have guilt afterwards because i ate it does that make sense does it just making the choice as opposed to the stress and the emotions making the choice for us that just leads to more stress  neck you know as opposed to bull odin there are real hunger for it yeah that real hunger feeling it has to be a certain food or any food even research has shown that if it's physically hungry even if i drink a glass of water it's going to fill up my stomach and it's going to call me that hunger for a little bit and then the other thing is we got instant verses can wait you know so you may have a desire for something we haven't had in a long time but the question is or am i get in my car and drive into the friend which i'm glad it close near my house because now you know they're further away if it was there there were probably times  go and then lastly is what do we got afterwards and maybe it's the leftovers afterwards help folks there you know all right so here's what i want to tell you about the chocolates on a test a great book called mindless eating is by a name guy by the name of brian wansink he said guy that was on oprah that was the researcher food researcher that said if you eat off a bigger plate you will eat more food and and actually when i do my live workshops i love to have like these little things and they're the same size but it's like a little slice of pizza that i put on a little plate and then i just put it on a big plate and it's the same size of pizza but it looks y the bigger project or your brain is saying oh are more right but this book my list eating what one of the research is a did was they had chocolate on the desk right open they had it  we see it was on the desk it was in a drawer or it was across the room in a drawer and what they found out secretaries didn't even know they were part of it really but they measured the chocolates before and after and what they found out was that the more close and the more visible the more chocolates and dadi in a drawer you don't see it so you're not likely to eat it and then what happens is further away you catch yourself before you get there yeah yeah celebrate and on a positive on that like drinking more water pretended to be up put it on your desk so so ladies that's it we're at the