gratitude and meditation and breathing you know what we do on a dr joy show we do three deep breaths right to get started are you ready inhale going back to the back to joy thank you i play something i'm glad that you're here again i know jay last time we did the year and you worked out my viewers and i have to tell you it was very good to stretch long list that's for the past twenty years i've been in the fitness field and i've been evolving every year finding my new thing and now i've been more into a lot more into meditation and yoga and just inspiring my students through their breath through gratitude and that's why we're here to talk about that so gratitude mental and spiritual wellness right absolutely know how gratitude defines how would you define well if you looked it up in the dictionary  just being thankful and everybody's definition of gratitude could change i practice gratitude and i live gratitude i try to remind myself every day to be grateful for everything even when you're stuck in traffic even if you're overwhelmed even if your tired from your job or you have a coworker that you can't get along with whatever the case may be just fine gratitude in that difficult situation it really important absolutely how would you define that to me gratitude is just i have a ritual every day i wake up you know some people keep journals i know you do you have beautiful journal or well journals  i do that depending on the day but lately what i've been doing is i wake up every morning when as soon as my eyes open i'm like thank god i have another date i'm up i'm blessed with another beautiful day because every day is a gift that's right every day is a get that's right but a lot of times we get overwhelmed and we forget we define our daddy by our problems or what's not going right right so immediately i remind myself while you are so lucky it's another day you open your eyes i'm like thank you thank god thank you universe you know if you believe in god you could thank god rightly even if you're more spiritual just sending thanks for another beautiful day sets the tone already it does so if you do it i guess one of your recommendations is to have gratitude not only because the people think gratitude ok thanksgiving you know that right now right right if it goes so if we want everything you know it's every day i get back every single day and this is the reason why here i have a gratitude journal that is beautiful this is the the one that i'm working on right now and what i read a full books now i will tell you of course i didn't come up with this oh yeah i didn't write a friend of mine and i w grateful for in room and then i started to talk about it and she says yeah yeah but do you do you recognize your gratitude on a daily basis and she made me pause and that's something for someone to get to make now was right because i know i was running my right she made me think about it and she says this is what i want you to do i want you to count take your birthday count back the number of days to have that birthday so is your birthday was twenty five right now back twenty five days right right and then start to write each day i am grateful for boum write whatever it is it could be one sentence two sentences three sentences whatever it is and i was here to tell you i love that that has changed books have traveled with me you know world traveled wherever and i make sure that i enter their daily growl important so important to get you through a rut exactly even if you write one thing you want something and speaking of russ i want you to share with me what happened oh you as a go and a half years ago well i've always been a grateful person but when a half years ago my son's a hockey player right and like every sunday or whatever you go to your kid's game yeah that's my son's hockey game at the ice house and hackensack and a hockey puck came over the glass and hit me here left the mark who split the head open i was so he's laughing about i will now so so blessed because if it hits you here you die if it hits you here you die anyway the you know looking around to everybody's reaction really scared me because i boyfriend holding my head together i mean everybody's reactions were really scaring me and all i remember them saying is somebody call nine one one and the next thing i know the fire department and they stop the game and i'm being carried out but the whole me why did this have to happen to me or you could say you know what just because great things will come right and i couldn't teach yoga during that time all right lee you know i was out of work for probably for about four weeks but the whole process took about eight weeks to heal layers of stitching i was very lucky again the stitches were inside my hairline so i started meditating i started like really meditating i thought about meditation and m done to me everybody's meditation is very personal very personal my meditation was counting my blood things so every day you know and i had to sleep like this right three fellows underneath underneath and sitting up like you're on an airplane right as you can put your head down to the right weight weeks i was sleeping like that so i had a lot of time to be home and and really get creative more than anything i love doing it's helping inspire people mean a lot of people know i shouldn't say everyone but lot of people know because studies have shown us that your actions they don't come from just your actions themselves they come from your thoughts a little itself yes thoughts your feelings and then your actions so if you ha your thoughts to be positively a daily basis you have to train it you do have you have been training it takes time yes just like with everything yeah you have to train to be a good athlete you have to train to lose weight you have to you have to train your brain as well yes so you have to try to think properly yes and when i made those affirmations i didn't believe any of it but i i knew if i wrote them down just like you write your daily i didn't think that oh i was healthy and graceful and amazing and beautiful but i said if i write these things i know it will come yeah you and relive exactly and every day i would wake up i would go to them in a mirror i don't know if they could get a picture of what i look like when i got hit right  my kids couldn't look at me i couldn't go outside and they were like oh my god you're scaring us because the face becomes the form the eyes appeared to look those up here use your face is swollen it's pretty scary looking close from the black and blue you turn really dark circles though you know it's all insurers your supports of all my god my amazing amazing love of my life jim johnson he was there every step of the way my kids were there even though they would say mom talk from another room don't come in here you're scaring us your friends my friends were there my students were there so i started my company from this because i couldn't teach your guy i was home and i said how could i inspire people what can i do and i started making  bracelets for myself yes and then i started writing a story about so you named so you made i made them because i needed that energy in my life and i said so when i finally did go back to work and i wore them everybody wanted that my students wanted them they were like can i take those can i please take it they thought the energy yeah well yeah and and that's how the whole company started and now i trademarked my company and i'm trying very very day to come up with different ideas how i could help people through my products through my designs through my inspirational quotes whatever it takes to my classes so do you ever feel one gratitude gratitude buddies i know you have a gratitude kit and i would like for you to share with me that yeah elements of the kit but what are your thoughts on gratitude do you mean with the buddies say it's almost like a workout buddy so you're going to work out with someone who are or are you going to make that other person accountable o going to be accountable to that person do you think that it works the same i think it's always good to have a support system i am it's fabulous i thought a lot of my friends are very grateful people right because you just kind of surround y people that are around me yell every time we go out for drinks or for whatever get together for yoga or anything we always talk about how blessed we are and how grateful we are so what is in your gratitude kit my gratitude kid my ritual yes actually take the honors ok first of all i had to smell three hundred different scents i was very picky i needed to pick the most beautiful scent so when you light it it brings this beautiful  said for the day a lot of people wait for the new year or were they wait for their birthday all right my birthday wish just setting an intention you know what even writing it down today i am going to do the laundry i'm going to go food shopping i'm going to do  anything that's your intention for that day if you're a business person i have to get this done i have to call this person back i have to mail this person this you make a list that's your intention for the day right you could make an intention for the week you could make an intention for that but it's so nice to have it on a daily basis because that's your plan exactly that's your plan you said it you could write it absolutely and it looked well you know what happens when you like this magical match what happens you're going to become the goddess of t v to everyone in the universe i love that itself you know that yes but you're a mind the guided of course with the universe yes your mind guided your healing yes yes i was very glad that's powerful for people to know well one thing i learned is if you no matter who you are if you could get rid of doubt you if you could get rid of doubt you automatically connected to this amazing energy  is no matter who you are if you get rid of doubt which is not an easy time but if you do that's bliss you're connected to tremendous peace which brings gratitude because you can have gratitude and peace if you have doubt it's hard when i see the minutes that the moments that you have gratitude and you have peace you have no doubt so get rid of the doubt the minute you feel like we all feel it the doubt in the where we go down are those three adult coming on the show i'm like oh my god i've never done a t v show how am i going to do this but i said you know what i love what i do i want to share it with the world i love what i do so so you like your match yes you set the intention i ha instructions if any where to buy the kit exactly what to do ok on a daily basis you know you could wear comfortable clothing you can have a special place in your home if you want a little chair let's walk through ok so you this is what i do i wake up in the morning i'm like yeah thank you for another beautiful whatever that's right it's like you're just grateful for the den i wash my face i feel the sensation of the water i'm grateful for the water a lot of people don't have running water we have the option of hot cold or warm we have you know i'm grateful for the towel and then i'm grateful putting my robe on it feels good i go downstairs i sit in my comfy couch i actually have the spots on my coffee table which i hear every that box with all my friends and my students who have stopped by to visit me they drop their wishes in here which you should drop my younger self that is how i meditate i have my my candle i have my box with all different wishes in here that people have written of all ages and i have my grandmother's peace my grandmother's pizza and then i made this for me that actually a lot of people have been asking me to make one for the hundred because i feel like if you say hundred thank you's for something that's pretty bracelet off and for each he'd say you know what i'm grateful i'm here right maybe you're sick and your doctor's office but maybe you ran into some person you haven't seen you've been wanting to write say for a long time everything happens for a reason so yes it goes the flow i just go with the flow so i send about one hundred thank you sometimes two sometimes five sometimes for two hours and then i send a blessing to all these wishes i send the blessing to every person who's wearing my bracelet that i made with love i say whatever energy that they need it is you know i hope god gives it to them and uplift them and gives them peace and gives them strength and the bracelets come with a story to remind them all saw yaz so if they were sick to get themselves better to be healthy or whatever it is you know i write a different story for each color right then i have the big grateful rock that you could carry with you you could put it in your office you could keep it on your coffee table you could keep it in your car in your purse just to remind you constantly when you're complaining when you're about the complaint oh yes i'm grateful i'm stuck in traffic at least i have a car i know that you have many be grateful yeah ok i'm a different size the cars that and  i don't know how how you package it but like you said those rock should be placed in different different they could do that carry one with you have a car what do you know it's so great yeah so that's really good and then the matches on it says when you can stay great pull in your most challenging days by counting your blessings your light will always take over the darkness and make a wish each time you light these matches and may your life be filled with more love health peace and beauty breathing yeah oh good i'm only doing so this is what i do i sit on my couch you could do this anytime you feel comfortable you could be doing it on the bus you could be doing it in a chair but one way or the transit anywhere you know what counted as a blessing i have this time to myself to count my blessings zenk lou thank you god thank you universe whatever you want to thank you know whatever your belief system is we're going to utilize the word jive breath again we're at the victory so you could take a deep breath and out hear that sound yes that's the sound we're going to create with the mouth closed in han that i've found of connection so if you could just count your blessings or even if you're writing your journal when you're writing your journal your daily journal like you do you don't have to have beads you could just be writing it down and take a deep breath for each one breath keeps us alive it rejuvenate it calms the nerves it brings peace it empties out doubt and tease it out so the minute you feel sure you could do that and doing it rarely does it really does so if you made that your ritual even if it's for one minute but i take gratitude to a new level sometimes ok not just like thanksgiving so if i'm having a cup of coffee or water or whatever i'm drinking i think about the tremendous love and energy went into making that coffee somebody had to plant the seed and somebody had to water it somebody had to pick pick it you know that they had to have the packages the packaging person had to design the packaging then they had to go to different manufacturing companies then it had to get to the supermarket then the person at the cash register had to check it out  before that the person had to put it on the shelf and then i had counted it and then i had to i bought it i brought it home i have running water i have electricity and now i made this beautiful coffee it tastes amazing even if you have the worst copy coffee in the world you taste that with the energy and the love that's in that cup it's not the same so all in evil so being mindful being mindful right not just about the coffee but i don't know if you have a lawn and somebody is cutting your ground like being grateful or or the recycling people that pick up your recycling like being grateful for everybody that put so much energy into your life that we take for granted right y oh you know she's going through a difficult time she's going to a divorce she goes i have so many bills i don't know how i'm going to do it and i said you know what you do you take your bill and you say thank you so much for this bill because that means you could pay for it if you are not bills that means you i go all thank god i have a bill thank you god thank you i'm so excited i write it i put a smiley face i'm excited yes i could pay that bill the taxes yeah if i have dirty dishes i used to complain about that now i'm like thank you that means i have dishes to wash it means you have food on the dish exactly yeah so the minute i mean we all complain it's just the training process as soon as i feel any doubt as soon as i feel like i'm complaining to myself immediately i go no i'm not going there so my wallet got stolen ten days ago so how do you find gratitude in that right i'm trying to find gratitude in everything i'm like this is perfect because let's see if i could really apply this gratitude think so i thought about it i said you know what i am so so happy it happened to me why because not only might as well happy for a couple of things i know people are thinking i'm crazy i was so happy because i had so many beautiful inspirational sayings inside my wallet for whoever got it  eve you pass something along and you don't even know it you didn't even know you have those things the person in your while it probably didn't know what they were let alone and that could have saved them from jumping you know from from to jump and you never know anything so you know we will there's always going to be situations that we're uncomfortable where right trying to find gratitude is not always easy it's not always is that it it's up half the year if you practice it there's two ways of looking at things just looking at it from a positive aspect if something horrible happens to you that you don't like you or not that was unplanned go with the flow and see where it leads you because when you look back in your life right you're here because of your past that's true and there's gro at everything that happens to you it's preparing you for the next level whatever that lex level is you're evolving in its growth and hopefully you'll be able to pass it along so even got to ask you this question where can people find in franklin lakes and what about your website my website is eve st john dot com ok w w dot yves st john dot com and i always put new stores that are adding on i have about six seven different stores that my products are selling on wonderful and yeah it's been until next time i want you to be grateful whether you write it down where the you strike a match and light a candle and always be grateful for your blessings no matter where you are until next time