following program is sponsored by the i will open door church yet open door church he's committed to loving god loving people and loving why our doors are open to whomever no matter required seattle open door church you're going to be covering divorce and remarriage this continue on first corinthians chapter seven verse thirty nine to forty this apostle paul speaking wife is better husband as long as he lives but if her husband dies she is free to be married to them she wishes only in the lord yet in my judgment she is happy if she remains as she is and i think that i have to the spirit of god so paul says that if your spouse dies that you can get remarried but he thinks that is private good idea not to get married again and when you get all into what all that means ok there's some reasons for that some people i don't think should ever got married in the first place she's free to be married to him she was his only end lord what is in the lord mean they're a christian so you're able if your spouse dies on you and your christian you start out here brothers at the beginning to talk about christians we're democrats are not i'm not going to do it do you have that right freedom yes is it wise no so he says here that if you do get married your marry who you're to marry a christian well no i don't think you really need to marry a christian because you know my pastor he turned around and not me some other pastor he barry married a woman that wasn't a christian she was a billion a god and everything happened great wonderful us can find that story so you take a story did say god don't know what he's talking about you always can find a good story out of anything god's mercy for god's gracious god's forgiving but we don't look for ways out of the word because we look out of the ways out of the word we're no longer in the word and we're in the flesh so if you get divorced are you supposed to marry a non christian or christian or you what if they what if they are similar question christian t v all the time well maybe they're christian but guess what they sure don't like being fellowshipping with christians so guess what how many people will sacrifice and lower the standard because they want to be christ and then if that doesn't work you marry him and then they'll come to christ you want to be a missionary go to africa don't do that ok go to some ball game and do that ok this keep is seven ten eleven to the married i give this church not i but the lord the wife should not separate for her from her husband but if she does she should remain on married or else be reconciled to her husband and the husband divorced his wife so again it looks like there's a pretty strong emphasis scripture not to get divorced would you agree pretty strong emphasis how much do you think church is emphasized on to get divorced not t they don't even talk about it why don't we talk about it all day one reason is everybody our congregations divorced so we have so many people divorced we don't talk about it because when we step out on a lot of people's to i don't care about you that are already did it wrong you know what i want to help it so others don't do it wrong so it's not the judge who may have done a wrong is to help others to not do wrong  help others that be when they start looking at if they're supposed to marry this person not the start of a standard to look at so hopefully protect them from some things because if you marry somebody who cheated on their spouse there is the odds they will cheat on you does that mean you should never marry somebody this committed adultery i did say that but there's wisdom in the midst of that so the principles we share is to keep you from making mistakes now i got some older ladies here they're in their seventy's and eighty's i just don't think they're going to get married any time soon so this doesn't apply to them mrs irish if you start looking at a guy any is not a christian i'm going to talk to you you tell me a starting date and am i going to talk to you about that but can she teach your grandkid that things that's taught here absolutely can you have a coworker that's going through a situation can you share something with them or we need to give you some other biblical grounds for divorce so you can feel a little better verse twelve to thirteen to rest i say i'm the floor that if any brothers or wife who is a nonbeliever and she consents to live with them he should divorce or if any woman has a husband who is a nonbeliever and she consents to live with her she should not divorce him so if you have an unbelieving spouse should you divorce them no no you should stay with them your fault you married him when they want a christian and you were that was dumb now can god turn that around absolutely can turn around and some you've been married thirty years of uber married to spouses you're a christian they weren't it was dumb all pastor you're so mean can god fix it absolutely he can fix anything in everything but i don't want to hear thirty years of your misery because you married a nonbeliever that was  can god turn that all around absolutely he can turn that around but you're right here god loves marriage so much you love so marriage if you married somebody that was a nonbeliever and you should have god says i love mary so much i want you to still stay with them it might be harder might be tough but what you just stay with them because he loves marriage so much because guess what god married and sometimes i would think he's dumb because he married  somebody is a nonbeliever you're not supposed to divorce them used balls to stay with them and stay with you first fifteen where you get a brief there's a break for you but it's a believing partner separates let it be solo in such cases the brother sister is not a slave god  to peace if you're married to an unbeliever and they divorce you you're free to marry he says you're not in slaved anymore in other words you're not bound to that marriage anymore so if you're married nonbeliever and they leave you they abandon you you have the right to get married again ok so does god even though he says stay married he understands that you can't control what a nonbeliever does so if you have a spouse that doesn't know jesus and they leave you you can be divorced and you can get married again is able to understand that ok and so out of that that god gives some freedom in the midst of all that he says there's room for you to be able to still find a way to be married again now listen if both of you are christians and they have banned in you is not a nonbeliever so are you supposed to get remarried i can explain it all i can only go by what the word says the word says if there nonbeliever and they leave you if a believer leaves you you're not supposed to get remarried according to god if you've done that again that's past that's past but why is that important me in karma your marriage for both believers and we get divorced if every pastor follow this principle what would we know if we got divorced we're never going to be able to get married again guess what to believe years would do if they knew they could never get married again they had work on their marriage to make it work but because there are you off the hook someone tell you something for me if you been married to a christian and you're a christian you get divorced and you come to me to get married again i most likely will not marry you i most likely will not marry you because i don't think it's biblical now you i should not have got divorced really repented of but i confess it was wrong and all that i believe in forgiveness so i would marry you because i do believe in the forgiveness of god but if you get angry with me and say your judgment can demean and how dare you and you don't have any remorse that you got divorced and it was unbelievable i'm not going to marry you go find somebody else is this hard stuff this is hard stuff no other grounds for divorce according to the word new testament some people say the old testament was tough and new testaments all about jesus love and everything else what you there is jesus jesus the jesus we have sometimes a sloppy a got the sloppy greasy jesus jesus has standards when he has standards he always gives us the holy spirit the grace and the power to do it ok now i'm hoping you find the balance i hope you understanding not just what he got but i want to think about some we're going to give you a little bit more  would you do you'd work it out maybe when you were tempted to cheat on your spouse you wouldn't do it because you realize if you cheat on your spouse that every pastor in town is going to say you can cheat on her you got to get divorced you're not going to get married by us i think christians will live their life differently we're taught christians not the world you see i was lost when i got married the first marriage i had i was lost none of this minute thing to me whatsoever i could care less the first week that i was married i cheated on my wife the first week i was married i cheated on my wife i didn't care for a pastor would marry me or not if i ever got married again that i believe in pastors in fact interesting part of i got married by a pastor you have no respect by that man at all because you know what we had a he said you'd have me if i marry you two you have to get counseling i said how is that going to take he says it's going to be short right ten minutes one time he said yes i'm a nonbeliever suppose my wife was a christian found out later i don't know she really was or not found out that later that she supposed to be but the other reason i went to him because she wanted to have a pastor marry isn't it because want to have a ceremony in in a person's house so i went along with it so he started talking about jesus to stop it right there if you start talking about jesus you're not married us do you want your fifty bucks or not now so i said to him he shut up about jesus i guess he won this fifty bucks now did he ask if we were christians not my wife or anything else so if he knew that i was like that and my wife was a christian should he have married us absolutely not stop don't you dare go down that road you just do it you have to legally do to get us married and keep her happy that's who i was you'll see me that way now i'll stand by the word and if i don't have a member in this church next week and never visit or never came that's ok with me because the word gives me principles a live by that is good for me and if i follow my save a lot of mistakes but now there are some other things we need to let you know there's there's hope this get to go to get to the keep going paul in the slides go to the next one next tough cases here we go to of cases we've got to deal with the tough cases so god is not arbitrary does a body understand that god didn't make these rules for no reason there was a reason what about the tough in a culture that has happened since the day of jesus that there's people that are abusive spiritual abuse of throw jesus at you all the time tell you you know if you don't accept jesus and divorce you whatever maybe there's people that are  that's abusive and mostly you have to say was something that's physically a threat to you emotionally mentally if they don't want to change they don't repent i'm not saying you have to stay married to them what i am saying that is that you should probably  separate from them and you put stipulations on them and say if you don't change if you don't get help this is over but if you look at the bible says that you can't be married again so you be punished because you married abusive spouse so here's what i'm going to say those things are in god's hands but this look at the principle some of you should never got married because  warning signs you had an abusive spouse and if you knew that you couldn't get married again in god's eyes you would not have married that abusive spouse but what our society has taught you is you've got some of their bases don't marry that man because he's this and you marry him anyways and then if it don't work out you get divorced you get married again and you know you you marry again the same thing because you haven't learned the principle ok and so if we learn the principles are for our against the word we give it to god and we give it to god there's good news your slate is clean is clean god is going to hold it against you he it's divorce is not the unpardonable sin list of what your divorce is about biblical not biblical remarriage or not so i came in an environment where this wasn't ta and then the pastor started to teach this and then what people did with that they knew people had been divorced  take everything in me to not just put that person out say don't ever come here again because if you we're not to judge each other and i know this that god's a forgiving and merciful god so i've been divorced more the wants every divorce i've had has been a biblical divorce that didn't give me a right to marry my wife jeremy just got a bit of a divorce didn't mean that i should get married again but out of god's mercy out of his grace he's brought us together we've been together for fourteen years we have a great wonderful marriage i love my wife tremendously i wish i would have learned all the stuff in the past i've learned now would have been a different story but i'd thank god that he forgives and i know this i can stand on that were not to say that's what it says and i'm not worried about judging anybody here because i have no right to judge anybody i have a forgiving god i have a merciful god and the question is are you willing to give whatever you may have done wrong not just divorce and remarriage in the your life can you give it to god and not walk with guilt because we walk with guilt in the church you walk with guilt to so i'm going to share something personally with you i was going to share and then of when i walk or guilt for a long time about being divorced i was involved in ministry getting divorced and we have said this because maybe somebody has been divorced in this room and i'm involved in ministry and dealt with guilt and shame so this has been public before my wife will lock me talk understand why and this is on video and there will be on t v some point but i've been married and divorced three times walk with a lot of guilt a lot of guilt did everything to save those marriages again i could tell you the ugly stuff that went on but in and there always would haunt me and involved in ministry and then some people would bring it up so one time i did a sermon and i taught on women and abuse and taught on god doesn't want women to be abused and i stood up i said you know what i've been a verbal abuse or in the past i've been in the motion abuser in the past and i want to stand in front of every woman in this room and i want to stand the gap and say as an abuser i apologize and we had of what took place and afterwards a man said because you've been divorced you should have been able to do that women wash women's feet every understand that unless the spouses and when we're in the foot washing ceremony i've been divorced first seven years seven years a year of completion divorce for seven years and i was in the foot washes ceremony and i felt guilt and shame about my horses they said god will i ever be free from that it's a monkey on my back three women not one not two three women walked up to me and said god told us to wash your feet you know god was saying you're forgiven your slate is clean i wanted to resist that it was a gets the policy for that to happen but god wanted to do something physically to show me no longer well walk with guilt and shame about my past so why can i speak it why it go on t v why can it be everybody can hear because you cannot use my divorce against me because i am forgiven and you can't use it in the else i've done in my life because i've forgiven what about you are you forgiven it's time to settle that so if anybody in here is ever been a divorce anybody's ever had anything i don't care maybe this in your mind you think about something else the whole time i want you to know you give it to jesus and you're forgiven and your slate is clean and you walk in newness of life heavenly father i don't know what people have gone through here i know that divorces has to be some in here be just because it is rampant within our society and there's human beings there's going to be the divorces and remarriages would pray that every person here lord god wherever they did that maybe didn't line up with your word they would just give it to you and say god here it is i surrender it i surrender my past to you i surrender every wicked evil thing i've done everything that i thought was ok if i wasn't ok but i'm surrendering all to you and laurie surrendered all to you and the father god because we surrender to you you can use us when the devil says you can't be used by god because you've done drugs because you've done this because you're involved in this this and that sin when we give it to you god and he surrendered to you our slates are clean and the father god you can use us and i pray for this congregation near these group of people here that every person here would be  knowledge and billing to be used by you that they say god here i am i give it al whatever it is they give away the guilt they give away the shame i give it all to you i just want to be used by you to make a difference in this community and i pray there be some people here lord you do something in their hearts  such a way the father god they could be best for you that no matter what their past has been the devil can't throw it at him because they know they're been forgiven and they can make a difference in this world i pray this in jesus name amen this is best to ridge do you need to know jesus christ your lord and savior jesus said behold i stand at the door and not going to be one hears my voice and opens the door i will come in robust and thirteen's as river calls upon the name of the lord will be r today you want to get more information you can always go to our website to learn how to accept jesus christ as your lord and savior you can go to there is a war there is there is hope t v dot org and we have information on frequently asked questions one seattle open door church once you know that regardless of where you've been or what you've done god loves you their doors are open to anyone and everyone their services are sunday mornings at all up seattle door church is located at six twenty five south west