energy psychology and emotional freedom techniques are not substitutes for medical care always consult with your physician and healthcare provider regarding any health care questions individual results will vary responsibility for your health if you choose to try any of the energy techniques taught on tapping with the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system hello everyone welcome to tapping with joan my name is joan kaylor and today is part two of emotional freedom techniques for trick a tele mania and dermot tele mania also known as hair pulling and skin picking so thank you for coming back to see part two all right here we go i am going to go to all the way to slide seventeen he because that's where we're going to start today hoops give me just one second to get up here ok now in part one we learned about the basic recipe we learned about the setup phrase we learned about the we learned how to read tap we learned about the movie technique and just to go over the movie technique a little bit more again the movie technique is what you use when you're in a quiet place and you can close your eyes and put yourself visually into the situation that triggers pulling in picking and then as soon as you feel your hands start to go up to your head or the place where you pull or pick then you start to use your tapping recipe you start you assess how much you want to pull or pick then you use your karate chop point to use the set up phrase even though i have this urge to pull or pick i deeply and completely accept myself then you go through your tapping points including the nine gamut you re tap and then see how strong the intensity of the urge to pull or pick is ok what you want to do is you keep doing that until you're so tired that you don't even have any interest whatsoever the testing part is when you go back into your movie after you tap you go back into your movie and visualize the location where you normally pull or pick not the location on your body but the environment where you are when you're pulling in picking the car at home it's cold doing home or in bed wherever it is and then you reassess the intensity of the strength of the urge to pull or pick and as that begins to drop then eventually you will come out of the visualization when you feel that you're back in control and that you no longer have the urge ok so that's what i wanted to further explain about the movie technique it's about testing the movie technique is a great place to test how strong the urge is after each round of tapping ok and then when you open your eyes when the intensity of the urge drops to say when it's gone not just the scale on the scale of zero to ten ten being the most and zero being on at all when you no longer have the urge to pull or pick you're done so you may have to do a couple rounds of tapping to allow the urge to dissipate and flow through your body and be gone but if you really want to try this and see if it works for you i encourage you to hang in there and do it now i want to teach you after the movie technique now this is not a part of emotional freedom techniques the gold standard but i still want to teach you a really cool thing to get down with your tapping and you no longer have the urge to pull or pick ok then what you want to do is touch the middle of your forehead right here ok close your eyes and visualize all your hair back in all your eyelashes and eyebrows back in clear clean clear skin all your picking places healed ok what you're doing is you are some into your mind how you want your hair and body to be how you want your hair and skin to be ok so that after you get done with tapping just touch the middle of your forehead there where your third eye is or your sixth or just you know in between your eyebrows and about an inch up and that is your brain this is what i want my hair eyelash eyebrows and skin to look like you're visualizing your goal your visualizing your end result again this is just a little strategy this doesn't have anything to do with emotional freedom techniques but i find that it's quite helpful if you even want to try that but when you find yourself in an urge in an moment in an episode of touching your forehead and visualizing what is your goal not just i want to stop pulling your picking but how do you want your hair or body or eyelashes or eyebrows to be what is your goal touch the middle of your forehead and your brain will remember your goal so that's really cool stuff whenever i have to remember something i write it down but sometimes i'll touch the middle of my forehead to a very good now we're going to go to the next slide here all right this is a really important point i'm talking a lot about what to do with the urge to pull and pick ok now we're going to go to another reason one of the main reasons for trick and picking is our need to avoid uncomfortable feelings and the urge so it's not just one or the other a lot of times well as i referred to inch the first show part one of this tapping for trick and them until mania there is more than we do this is an addiction pulling in picking your addictions so it's not just about the urge as with any addiction any addiction is about quieting uncomfortable feelings avoiding uncomfortable feelings what are you avoiding ok if you teach yourself here's another idea which is on my app by the way if you teach yourself to feel the urge instead of acting on it you will say some hairs and a picking  if you choose to get into counseling and discover the reasons for anxiety depression anger fear and deal with those reasons and deal with those emotions you will find less of a desire to pull and pick when you stop avoiding uncomfortable feelings that feed the pulling in picking and work through them there is less reason to comfort yourself with pulling and picking as i mentioned in part one this is true for any addiction but because i want to help specifically those of you who struggle with trick attilla mania and dermot till mania i'm addressing the pulling and picking urges and the reasons for pulling and picking i just wanted to discuss with you a little bit about why it's important to stop avoiding uncomfortable feelings because that's exactly what it addiction is all about that's exactly what pulling in picking do they help you avoid uncomfortable feelings it's about feeling the urge and being mindful of it and not acting on it but it's also about what are the feelings that you're avoiding by pulling in picking ok ok so here is my shall we say my little commercial here if you're at all interested i did create the first app for pulling in picking called secrets of pulling and picking which is available everywhere androids apple i phone amazon everywhere but what's really cool about my app and thank you scott patton my programmer what's really cool about my app is it's got a wife i button to it so when you touch the wife i button that says video on it guess what you get to live stream is that not cool or what so all of my shows are located on the video button of my app but you can take this with you everywhere if you choose to download my app ok it's got the secrets my three secrets of pulling  picking it's got the wife i connection it's got a special breathing technique for pulling in picking but i just wanted to let you know that you can take this show anywhere if you choose to download my app right the next slide also created a video for your computer or tablet see i am an electronic geek of the pulling in picking world i love this stuff because i know i mean been on this planet for quite a while but i enjoy electronics too so if you have it in your purse whether it's your own whether it's your tablet whether it's your computer you can take my channel with you anywhere you go but in particular i have a special video for pulling in picking so this is the link that you see on your  screen right now that takes you to my website and takes you to the place where you can have where you can download the video that i have and then there's a i also have a short clip on if you just want to watch a short clip on it before you choose to purchase it you can just go to the second link right there and then we'll take you to a short clip on you tube or i talk a little bit about so i just wanted to give you those two links so that you have them in case you want to browse in case you're interested in the video that i have for you on pulling in picking it's only thirteen minutes long but again i think i created it for you so that she would have something to go to there are a number of wonderful books out there and there are a lot of good programs to stop picking dot com stop pulling dot com my dear friend christina pearson at christina pearson dot com that's r s o n she has a wonderful mind full base program for body focused repetitive behavior so if you go to christina pearson dot com you'll find her program there is thanks to christina there is so much available for these problems so however you want to address pulling in picking the biggest problem for finding help with pulling and picking is to find a trained therapist so because there are so few that really know what pulling in picking are about and i'm blessed to be an expert in that area but now you have all these visual techniques you have all these computer brace programs you have all these internet based programs so whether it's my app whether it's my video whether it's any of these computer based programs there is lots of help available and there are good zillion books about pulling in picking on amazon and at the target tell me learning center so there is a lot of help available i might add that in the twentieth century we used to have support groups support groups where people come to gather they're still important but in the world of mania and dermot tila mania pulling in picking facebook has replaced in person support groups and there are a lot of wonderful there must be oh my goodness at least ten to fifteen sites on facebook now mine is secrets of hair pulling skin picking in id and there are many many other one hundred four facebook pages where you can get help and know that you're not alone so the resources for pulling and picking are tremendous now in two thousand fourteen i'm just thrilled to let you know about them all right now really important these two shows that i've done have been based on using emotional freedom techniques for  ruling important if you go to this link free dot com but specifically this link that you have on your screen right now on slide twenty one this takes you to the gold standard of motional freedom techniques as taught by gary and tina craig gary craig created emotional freedom techniques tina craig is his daughter and she has put together a program to learn  online now this is the site that i'm involved with because i am becoming certified in e f t but also because this is my link directly to e f t so if you use this link and go to the e f t page then you will find out all about tapping the gold standard of tapping anyplace else they might be very helpful but i like to go excuse me i like to go to the horse's mouth i like to go to who created this in the first place i like to go to where this started in the beginning gary created emotional freedom techniques twenty years ago in one nine hundred ninety four and it's a volved and morphed into something truly amazing many many many many many people teach e f t on you tube i'm a student of tina craigs so everything i've learned on e f t i've learned from her except for the thing about touching the middle of your forehead that's a me that's jones thing that's not many of the thing but i encourage you to go to the gold standard for t even if you want to browse other you tube channels that's all fine and wonderful this is where you need to go if you want to learn more about e f t ok right so another organization or one of the main organizations for body focused repetitive behaviors but that website is trick dot org so it has a ton of information about pulling in picking on it ok so i encourage you to join that i encourage you to browse that website if you join it and you will get access to all the wonderful webinars there are on their trick or the trick until mania learning center or t l c they're definitely in the twenty first century we just finished our medical conference out in los angeles so it's a wonderful organization for getting help it's a wonderful organization for resources so i tell you what no one out there that suffers from these disorders whether  teaching in middle school elementary school child whatever your age is no one is alone from this ok and there is a ton of help available even if you can't find at their best to knows  me here are other resources and you can take them to these other resources and say ok this is where there is help if you're actually learning looking rather for a therapist i would encourage you to look for an addictions therapist because they can relate more to what hair pulling in skin picking are all about rather than just going in and talking to somebody about anxiety if you just go in and talk to a counselor about anxiety you going to be wasting your time and any co pay that you might have don't just go in and talk about anxiety and stress you want to find someone if not specific to hair pulling in skin picking someone who is skilled and trained in addictions and they can transfer that over to pulling in picking that's what you're looking for and if you ever want to talk to me i skype ok so i'd be happy to skype with you just go to my website john cale or dot com direct link to the e f t page all you have to do is click on emotional freedom techniques and you'll see me doing this you click on that it goes to the page if you click on picking that takes you to the trick until mania learning site and it takes you to my explanation of what pulling in picking are all about so i have a ton of information on my website as well i hope you found this information helpful in these last two shows it seems if you're new to tapping it might seem a little complicated but i'm telling you if you watch the show for a couple of times if you go to the website honestly it takes two minutes and i would ask you how much time you spend pulling and picking ok you spend more than two minutes i know i know that's what happens so if you can spend a little time to learn these techniques you're going to save yourself some aggravation and some hardship you're going to save hairs you're going to shame save frustration anger on your part just take a little bit of time and learn these techniques and they may be helpful for you ok and use them on a consistent basis don't just try them once and say ok i used it it wasn't that helpful i'm going to try something else i always say use everything for thirty days and watch what happens so follow me on facebook secrets of hair pulling skin picking in anxiety go to my website give me a call send me an e mail engine kaylor hotmail dot com i work every you are on the planet you can reach me let's put it that way so i really hope that you have found this helpful today and at the very least one you know that you're not alone to you know that there's lots of help available three you know how to contact me and you know how to contact the trick to tell me a learning center ok so here are resources so i want to wish you well i want to wish you a peaceful cayennes i have no idea what my next show is going to be about how's that for a plug but i will be coming to you in the fall but it'll be about tapping you can be sure of that because i love of tapping and i love emotional freedom techniques so stay tuned because you never know what i'm going to come up with next so thank you all very