this picture is on the ticket update we are going to follow some of these students as they go on a date and see if their manners have anything to do with their fun everyone thinks that is all manners are all right even if they aren't perfect and that being correct only helps the spoilt fun let us compare what these students do and don't do with what we think is right let's compare ourselves with margaret it's always helps with two fellows who are particularly interested in the junior prom semi formal is the best dance of the year and  announced early jerry is the shorter of the two a believes that he who hesitates last and the time to ask for a date is now margret for her product believes that a girl shouldn't make it difficult for a fellow to ask for a date it's fear of not being asked or fear of being refused can ruin our social lives if how do you act natural at ease graciously why are you shy like frank do you blurt out invitations actually helen is glad to receive the invitation and frank is surprised getting dates is not hard if one will act with a bit of courage and show himself to be sincere i week before the prom gerry asks margaret to help frank finding out what helen intends to wear to the day but frank isn't thinking far enough ahead to realize that he will soon be selecting a cors she recalls the one she likes best gardenias spring flowers an orchid once chameleon she and jerry have been dating for a long while she appreciates the good taste you shown in choosing flowers that suited her dress and complex flowers on the rest of shoulder or in the hair is a matter of pre when frank finally asks helen about her preferences she is glad to tell him that she likes all types of course are sure that all flowers except gardeni all the other preparations for their double date are also talked over perhaps they allow the ladies by contrast to be more colorful in their breasts this time may not seem conservative by your standards but it seems to be the mildest of crying oh it's perhaps for the next dance he will buy a quieter pattern something that won't compete with the colors he expects the girl to be wearing in that sense he will be showing consideration for a gesture of friendliness and that is what etiquette really is doing unto others training than men in the etiquette of dress because of its importance to their appearing always to best advantage but girls have their problems just this none of those do and what they think is in good taste may not be naturally everyone thinks that what he or she likes should be considered correct most girls are inclined to regrets even the word of parents is not always accepted mother is called old fashioned but margaret will take helen's word for it it's that she is wearing too many ornaments simplicity is always the safest policy and ornamentation correctness of dress for an occasion includes not only the choice of gown and slippers but the hairdo and the accessories the jewelry and yes the face make the rules are simple logical and easy to remember and they are very important frank doesn't look happy and ears but how much of his fearfulness is actually a lack of confidence in his man whether he admits it to himself or not is i'm sure this is painful and is already interfering with his enjoyment of the da he is wanting to blow the horn for helen instead of going into the house to meet her parents and to escort her out is really not shyness but a sign that is manners are weak he hasn't taken the trouble to learn how to meet people easily helen tries to introduce him first to her mother who has risen to shake hands with the ladies are always introduced first and they may offer to shake hands or not as circumstances on frank forgot that he should present the corsage to hell in the home so that she may put it on the arab she prefers rather than carrying it to the dance shouldn't open the car sized box but allow helen that pleasure since helen does not wish to put the flour on now frank should take care of it and see that it is not damaged but give him credit for assisting helen with her wrap talents parents are glad to have met the boys with whom she is going out and on the boys pride meeting the parents is a minimal courtesy as well as of leisure good manners never interfere with fun they should be happy and habits of correctness are just as easy to learn as bad habits correctness has the real advantage of allowing one always to be it jerry has been here often and is right at home however the ease with which he enters into a conversation is based on his genuine interest in other people and what they are thinking meanwhile frank is laboring to interest helen and what is his not her chief interest sports margret is careful not to keep jerry waiting she doesn't believe that keeping a fellow waiting a long time will allow her a more dramatic entrance and thus increases interest right les she depends on the charm of her personality to hold his attention not upon little is dealing with her true self at all times the phone call is from one of those fellows who wait until the very last minute to try and making a date jerry can laugh at his would be competitor margaret is gracious of course but bring there is no excuse for a last minute request for a date no girl is flattered at the idea that you hadn't already received an invitation besides a lot of the fun in dating is in the anticipation and right now they are well along in their fun but frank and margaret have problems with conversation margaret has tried to talk about the dates for years had with other fellows she met only to be entertaining but such topics irritate rather than interest perhaps sure about introductions he would learn the simple rules in a hurry to introduce a man to a woman to an older woman younger man to an older man the name of the person to whom deference is shown his power is mentioned first the person who is to be introduced waits until the introduction is made and then waits for the other to offer his hand only a few friendly remarks are made after greeting the sponsors the first thing that jerry sees too is that they select the rendezvous so that they will have a definite place during the evening for a meeting after dent's them they begin filling in their dance program when programs are filled out in advance then one or two couples don't attend that are having it strange dances the programs are left with gaps that are hard to fill perhaps a wait until dances can be exchanged friends who are present that in the dances that have been promised can be written  the purpose of the program is not to x clued others but the opposite to plan for exchanging as many dances as possible in that way everyone dances with his friends and makes new friends it is not a mark of affection for a couple to try dancing the entire evening by themselves after a while they tire of their exclusiveness and then each one fears to hurt the other's feelings by wanting to dance with someone else it is customary for a couple to reserve for themselves the first and last thing frank forgets it and has to be straightened out not that they have gotten the date let's hope that their troubles a that the evening work out the way i hope however let us watch to see if their enjoyment depends in part at least on their matter they ask is that they be allowed to talk than to be with their friends and enjoy each other's company as the dance is drawing to a close and it is time to say good night to the sponsors everyone seems to have had a good time except margaret made the mistake of trying to be to entertain frank allowed his fares to make him what people never like to blame themselves so they blame others arlette either needs to do is to learn how to be natural and talk of what is interesting to the other person as well as to him self meanwhile a good deal of the fun is gone out of the evening even though margaret pretends that nothing has happened all is well naturally we all learn through experience but that is usually the long and the hard way being heard so often if we realize that our social lives are filled with problems of etiquette and that these must be studied we must observe our own behavior compare it with what is proper and be certain that our habits are correct jerry's example in suggesting to margaret a dish that she might like is one that frank m as he finally realized since it tells helen in a nice way how much you can afford to spend saves embarrassment all around at last jerry is becoming aware that frank and margaret are not having a good time he doesn't ignore the situation but brings the problem out into the open margaret and frank are forced to admit their own foolishness after all palin and jerry had simply been a tease during the dance and enjoyed themselves they hadn't been any the less interested in their partners there was absolutely no reason for jealous you notice that frank is becoming more alert he orders for helen correctly and maybe we get that he has decided to turn over a new leaf this way is more fun the male has been happy and now that everyone the mistakes that have been discovered won't be repeated and those that haven't yet been discovered will come to light as they pay more attention to their manners but already they have learned some valuable lessons frank particularly he has learned to begin with that he shouldn't let is fears stop him from asking for the date in the first place and that he should ask right away not fret about it he is glad now that he learned a little more about selecting a core sarge and about how he should dress he has still to learn how to be easy during introductions and in making ordinary conversation but you saw that he was quick to pay the bills including a ten percent tip and that he found it pleasant to help out him with a wrap on the way home there are no problems they are happy and knowing that this is just the beginning of happy times  generated not only sees margaret home but opens the door for her and them well they've been going steady for some time now and there are some customs that are very enjoyable but now frank has a new problem should he try on a first date to make certain that he helps helen from the car correctly she waited properly for him to come around the car and he remembers to open the door for now he should not try to kiss her goodnight on a first date but he does ask a four hundred other date helen is quite happy to accept so their first date is a