hello and welcome to what's going on i'm jan knight and with me today is kristin and who is the instructor in die after or defend yourself against the aggressor hello kristen and thank you so much for joining us today having so i understand that you have this program that is very unique and that you are offering this in a great many places and i would like you to tell us about it what what a little a little bit of your background and how you happened to get into this and what inspired you sure so i always wanted to help people in the course of my life  fourth worked in media maximum prison and set off my korea there and then i mean to security on the federal level and then i was just most recently with the police and security department boston from there i was heard on the  job and after surgery i learnt that i could never run again can't run can't do your job so after i healed for many many months i thought what am i going to do so i took all my defensive tactics training and about personal space on how to defend themselves if somebody has them as a front choke hold their hugs from behind if somebody is at an a t m machine what to do if somebody comes up and grab you because you're very vulnerable when your back is toward somebody wants to contact you and set up an appointment are you available all of the the boston area guests so i will go anywhere and everywhere there's no place that i won't go so if one place that wants me that's out in western mass oh absolutely go because i'll be doing a disservice to somebody if i don't so they can reach me at the six one seven two nine nine nine as well as send me an email at  focusing specifically sure so half an hour to forty five minutes it's all verbal instruction because you have to be able to get into the people and into your mindset which i focus heavily on which is mental conditioning body with fear and panic before the fight or flight response takes place so i'll go over understanding your body mechanics go into the mental conditioning aspect and then at that point will transition in will go into the physical defen defense because a lot of people don't understand the worst place to be during an attack from an aggressor is on the floor but there are ways to get out of it so that's why this instruction is so very important continued with  somebody grabs you on the street and you don't know what to do i show how to get out of ascribes diversion distraction is another very important technique also space personal space bubbles i call them so it's your personal zone around your whole entire person which you have to understand where nobody in you that you don't know should be coming up to more than eighteen inches that's only a personal space for your family very close friends and  spouse if someone comes into your face at that point that's that's not going to happen so always keep a safe distance of three feet of more so these are the thing the different aspects that they'll learn about and once they learn once they walk out of the door after class they say that's christian that's a great class i love it by the time they get in their car half of the information is gone so i apply a supply syllabus six page syllabus for every participant join my class for later recall pay so they're covered for what class yes and then they get the soul of us correct and the the people that you have this quest for your students this age from and you have some good teaching for them too that covers a number of different areas correct had you mentioned earlier that the different means of communication the different methods of communication you expand upon that a little bit communication can always be told by one of course for a while and then you know that there's the body communication yes so you can always tell when somebody is starting to be verbal or aggressive so their face turns red lips protrude forward they start finger pointing in the best place to notice this is in a public area so especially during the summer you go out to pa verbal communication happening between people at that point you see the body communication between people and so now as we're starting to get into the culture season's best place to notice these aspects is within your own office within the action and reaction diversion is diversion right so action versus reaction ok so my action will always be quicker than your reaction personal way to understand this is you're in your car a term called create distance and make space always keep space between somebody because at that point you'll have more of a riyadh to handle their actions towards you so if it would be a target punch somebody will always look at your chin and at that point they'll try and you know go for you to attack you to punch you if you have more space in between you and this individual to them for them to get  and you also teach blocking trenches and things like that yes so if somebody comes at you with a bat because also another aspect that we have to wonder and think about in today's world is the mental status of many so the psychological aspect comes into play because you don't know who is has remained till issues in a world that look like you and i maybe possibly off their medication be on a train as well as someplace else and the individual looks at you as somebody that they didn't like during their growing up years and they want to come on to you and attack you so first thing you have to understand your personal blocks and personal weapons i teach those and i also teach about your vulnerable areas that all of us have so our personal weapons that we protect ourselves with  afraid of something absolutely or afraid of something but what is fear it's a reaction to a real a perceived threat and without taking control of it it turns into panic panic it's an emotional reaction where if not controlled it turns into a fight of flights so that so that's a body mechanic that you have to understand before you are able to take care of yourself because with fear and panic comes the shallow breathing which is not good in a fight to protect yourself because you have to have enough air in your lungs to fight so fighting or trying to save yourself from an attack or an attack or one minute fight feel like twenty minutes in your exhaust so you have to understand proper breathing and positive self talk so i can and i will in my life not just in dyad are what i teach in my life i i can't it's not an option for me it's  have an attack on you but if you mental conditioning in you set yourself your life better you know another thing that i noticed in some of the notes that i had was that what this day that we live in unfortunately it's very insecure so we have real born in gifted with lungs use them i think especially as females we were brought up to be quiet  and males like in sports they're able to yell in sporting events or whatnot things that they participate in we were all the always the quiet ones but we're given our lungs to use them at that point so you have to understand that keep the child close and there shouldn't be a problem although if there is a situation where somebody is starting to talk to your child be very vocal and your child should be more than eight feet away from you let alone six a child with you at all times and if you see something that's happening that's inappropriate if you see something say something if you're in a store call out for help if you're outside in the world you don't know who is around the corner there could be a people come to your door they say that they're from the electric company the safe water company they're from cable company and you didn't call for them they're going to do about you come out it could be a scam if they don't get an answer with the door they may go to the back door if it is a scam they're paying on the back door in there try to enter without you or anybody else seeing it so that's where they're going on to the rear of your house or your structure so what you don't want to do is ask somebody who sent you called your supervisor let me see your i d and put that id if you have a for you or a door but that i d up to the glass so you can see it also make a phone call make a phone call to the say did you send this person out at that point then you know it's it's a legitimate call but another aspect for females in stores having their bags which now the stylist to carry a bag which is open you can just reach inside again your personal space you are always be aware of who is behind you if you take a small step back a half step back somebody could be on top of you so what i would do normally is just t n sideways turning sideways it's called plating your body in law enforcement world and it's used to make yourself smaller in a difficult situation in this term i used to put my hand on my hip and say oh i'm sorry a little bit too close to me and just my hands on my hip just to make a little bit of additional space keep your bag in front of you a lot of time i go into the supermarket and i see women leave their bag and they're going to check out the eggs where their back is turned to their handbag  shoulder and i don't touch the bag of course say hi excuse me but do you know do you realize how easily it would have been for me to just grab your bag and out through the front door so women always take your bags with you men keeping their  wallet in their back pocket always keep it on the hip because i've talked to several different people also in the media who had their wallet in their jacket on a warm fall day and over over the shoulder where they had said oh the bumped into somebody is somebody bumped into i'm so sorry it was my fault while enter and they're walking away with your wallet annoy your credit cards take a picture of your credit cards yes and save that onto your computer delete the picture from your phone because if your credit cards ever do get stolen at that point you have all the credit card numbers which makes it a lot easier to call the credit card company as soon as possible another different type of scam when your at the gas station filling up shut off your car lock your car because they have those wonderful t v s now that you can watch whereas all your awareness on the t v you know thinking about your car because you're at your car would you feel safe correct correct because somebody could come in and us as women or even men you could leave your wallet on your on your seat as well as your bag somebody comes in opens up your door reaches for your bag and they're gone with a well thank you so much for being here christian that that really helpful thank you for having me and thank all of you for joining us this morning and we'll see you next