because today is the day and this is the week that we either put in the marriage amendment or we try to take it to a vote or we don't and there is some major horse trading going on down state over the a marriage amendment and what i'm calling the anti gay message that we're trying to send out and i'm looking at a picture here of a couple that i don't know how some of you guys are taking this on the like you do i mean all that happens is my bald spot shows so i mean what do you have some sort of use in buttered toast mixed in there we're not going yeah i'm going to have you know come over and we can i can share some carrots would be a line or what he is speaker decided to change committees at the last second because he knew they were going to have the votes needed to move it forward but it's just the calls that you guys are getting and then also just you know the comments that people leave  on in these papers and the opinion section i just it's like i just it's so interesting that you know i mean any of them together for now almost fourteen years and it's like nobody's ever really asked us or questioned us or cared about our ever really given us any problems in the past but here we go sudden provoke and then possibly going to be voted on by you know my neighbors my friends you know people i live around in this community but you know up until now nobody's cared everybody's just lived their life normally and yet another thing about all this is that you know now there's seventeen states that allow marriage equality you know massachusetts has been doing it for a long time the states that allow it now i don't think anything's changed i don't think anybody's in marrying their dogs nobody's been there and farm animals you know nobody's marrying their brother and sister in the states so i'm just trying to find out why people are so nervous that indiana is going to turn into this crazy crazy situation of the state if any and i are allowed to you know be recognized here as a couple and you know legally and also just in a committed relationship so that's what i would ask people right now you know you know what you and amy both listen to the station i know i talked amy before and you hear some of the folks call in and mean if i can just kind of summarize that and i mean  it's basically i think that there's just a number of people who don't like a man being with a man or woman being with a woman right i mean but people always you know have two people that are opposed as always have to bring it back to the physical aspect or you know well i don't really care what they do as long as you know they say in their house or better but it's not i mean do you really think that like for example and i think about people out there like that i mean i don't i don't think about that that's not what we're talking about here this is more on an issue of as you know you know i have stage four ovarian cancer and i've been fighting it for what five years this is not just an issue of you know you know that's fairly widely publicized that you've been fighting cancer do you want to tell us where you are in that struggle right now by any well so i mean i'm basically you know i was diagnosed back in two thousand and nine not  of people ovarian cancer is a tough one to beat and you know the median survival rate is five years and it will be five years for me in in june so you know i'm hoping to moping i live a long time and i'm hoping i live long enough  days that i actually grew up and i went to college and i you know i moved back here after being away for about ten or eleven years i mean i'm hoping i live long enough to see that you know they clean up and i was going the qualities for everybody all right i think you pretty much sum it up right there you know i do have one called one quote that had solid he said he says this in this article where you guys picture is i have gay friends but we've got to make sure citizens each term and what our rights and what our privileges that's like i mean that kind of like how i was how i thought i was that i could you know go ahead and determine you know who he gets to talk to and who he got a lot and you know what his kids get to learn in school i mean it's it's crazy to say that the constitution person and religion there's there's two different things going on here and people can't seem to separate the two because i'm not asking to get married in the church i'm not asking for you know the catholic church or any other religious institution that opposes same sex marriage whew hew you know so i kind of fall down to me and say oh yes we accept you because nobody's ever asked to have anything to do with going inside of a church and all it is is a quality for people i want the same rights as other people i want to know that my kids know that we're actually does know we're married she even said you know my mom is our marriage we have it on video it's really continue to fight for marriage equality in this state it's really important a lot of people would just say hey why don't you go just move over the border you know move back to chicago move back to las vegas move wherever that's an easy solution and if that's what people think is going to happen they're going to run people out of the city it's not ok we're going to look back in twenty or thirty years hopefully sooner some people are going to be really embarrassed about what they've side in common especially people like punch was not as a lever out because they want to cling to there it is she's got a special way of doing her her jollier here and amy's there and you're watching me on this rather dimly lit studio there's the picture i just held it up there good people