horribly girl here takes advantage of the programming that we do and integrates it in different ways rachel just really has resonated in what who we are a girl's name who really has she has just taken this to a whole different level for example be strong have self confidence in mind the strength to soaring even in hard times be smart have a knowledge about the world around you and and be bold stand up for yourself and don't be afraid to dream big what i love about rachel of she says you know girls didn't teach me to be strong smart and bold she says it just brought those qualities out in me oz who always had the power to go home we have the power inside of us to become anything we desire and can imagine when you're going to run saying i guess you could get sort of that like life   confidence and her ability to just really clearly articulating communicate a message and not to be in kemah dated in front about eight hundred people who are at our audience i mean who are at our lunch and i started  year after my mom died i didn't know how she died time but it was deliciously tough i had lost the woman in my life that was supposed to be there to guide me to my struggles and give advice when i needed it but instead she became the cause of the struggles a piece of me was missing the thing about her getting it out there we knew about it she was able to tell her friends or anybody that had that conversation but it was still not a secret but it's still not everybody knew you know it wasn't like she went on with the sign so that the celebration luncheon for girls inc when that had and she's spoken from eight hundred people and told her story i know it was difficult for i know she cried but so many people came up and you know they they praised her for good talk and everything else but there are a couple of people came up and praised her for being able to talk about that in fourth grade i learned about the cause of my mother's death wish to side it was a very simple thing to hear and still to this day very hard to overcome but if i ever need someone to talk to an issue until about five years ago when she looked at me and said you haven't told me the truth about what happened i'm a mother and i want to know how she died because i never told her i just told her she died she was sick and died well i never tried to lie to her and say it was this disease or that disease i just said she was sick and when you're ten years old or almost ten years old you know what kind of sick you have a cold i think the interesting part for me was to observe the reaction of everybody in that room not only you know i'm a mother and a grandmother so to hear rachel story about the law for my then learning you were crying there in tears i mean she got a standing ovation which is pretty amazing considering you're sitting in that room one of the things that she carried away from that she got that sort of follow  up speaking thing at ignite tampa bay because of her speaking at the celebration luncheon so i saw rachel speak at the girls inc luncheon so i was at the girls inc luncheon and it was really moving to hear her story and i was really surprised to see a fourteen year amazing and she knows it and then she got this other speaking thing in third night and she went and did that and i had a perfectly memorized you know didn't have to read for no turning and it was like ok i was different but i was better hi i'm rachel mellon i was the two thousand and fourteen girl of the year think of sarasota county i grew up there it's like a second home for me it shaped and molded me into the girl i am today i look back at my time at girls inc and it makes me smile when i found out that i got to do what i was really really excited then on erin because they would be fit like that in four and so i worked on that for a little bit and then like going out there and doing it was just she did in amazing job so i mean it was really great and like people reached out afterwards to ask us  to get in touch with her is there a way that we can do that so i said well i can't give you her information i'll put you in touch with her father you know and you could talk to him but it was one of the better presentations of the night and that was actually not just my opinion but the opinion of people like bill carlson who runs tucker he's pitching them talking about some things and to have them go let's talk about really really stood out sometimes we say situations that may seem so filled to despair that we feel we may never be happy again but i want you to remember something every bump in the road or mountain all reach a peak eventually any struggle you face will eventually start to get easier it helps to just take a pause from the pain and look at everything you see around you she changed her speech but the most important thing in that speech is she got out a message of hope but in the speech telling people you know maybe you could be the light coming out of the darkness to help someone you know which you know that's synonymous with with what goes on with suicide people and survivors is that why was there somebody there reaching out to them and so she's already put the message out there raising awareness and making people understand that it is ok to talk about it you know people say you know you can't lie and it's difficult i can tell you what you have to talk about this source you got to make this person talk about it because they've got that going on but were dogs were drawn into ourselves and were closed or were  league on certain things and kids just aren't that way you know we make our kids embarrassed and shy and and withdrawn because the things we do were the situations we forced them to be and but and i don't think that's the case with rachel i think rachel gets it that it's ok to not be embarrassed it's ok to be out there she's not in anybody's face about any of us but she's open and honest and i think that's the kind of stuff we need if more kids talk about the stuff that goes on then something maybe some of us would be like and it's not so bad they're talking about it and their friends are hiding from them and not inviting them to dinner parties or what have you because that's the things we worry about i'm going to have a normal life if i tell somebody i thought about this once i don't think kids do that i think kids get it so i think that just the rest of the audience was going wow her message her story is about bad things happen bad things happen when you're young but you can come back from that you need a much higher and powerful way and so that for me i don't care how old you are that rachel story the thing i think is really amazing about her is she is so  genuine and she's so humble i think she's truly generally appreciative for everything she has and what to me was one of the most moving things about what she said not just about girls and but thanking her dad for making  decision to take her and get her involved in that organization after losing her mom and you know i think it says a lot for her maturity to be able to kind of recognize that and understand the impact that made in her life and so to me she's very mature for a girl her age as far as that and she's got her head on really straight i mean talking to her you know what she wants to do with her life and you know being focused on you know getting a great education and really wanting to kind of pay it forward for what she's had the opportunity to you know things makes me from time to time don't get me wrong she's not perfect but she's really a good kid and really hard to look at her and think that anything in her life was ever difficult you know because she doesn't have that outlook she just doesn't and that makes a really difficult for me to have that outlook no matter what's going on you know why i could have a bad  their work or you know a bad day going snowbirds he said just driving someplace or whatever but when you look at all those and you look at all the stuff that you've been through like i can i mean i mean upset more than a few seconds or bummed out about this for more than a few seconds why and she's living a life and doing all these amazing things and caring so much about other people this how can my story impact and benefit someone else's life