when reality seems too difficult for us to face we retreat behind dispenses mechanism there was a girl who always explained that she really didn't want something after she found out she couldn't get she was to her defense mechanism was rationalization remember the boy who failed to make the team it was because the coach didn't like him so he said for him the fault was always someplace else adult to the wrong time a stupid teacher his defense mechanism is a special type of rationalization that we call projection remember the girl who could only disagree she could only shake her head her defense mechanism was negativism all of us are guilty of defensive mechanisms to some degree at some time knowing their dangers we have a better chance to guard against them when these poor defenses slip and they always do and we're face to face with hard reality we have other means of getting away remember the boy who couldn't dance but who always brought a pipe to the party he was trying to escape from a sense of his own inadequacy the next morning he'd have a hangover and he still couldn't dance she was a daydream she could dream that she was the most beautiful time and time again she could return to it getting more beautiful with each  but every time she woke up she was face to face with her own pain he identified himself with a welterweight champion every fight the champ won he won every punch the he took and he could take it his escape mechanism was identification with somebody else she thought that it was the tender the thing wasn't there it might go away if you pretended something hadn't happened maybe except if you had the truth away maybe it would turn out to be a lie her escape mechanism was suppression he saw an illness as a way out  back way through but away when it was time to bring in the wood his legs pained him when the snow failed something went wrong with his arm and he loved the attention he got his escape mechanism was the army calls it goldbricking too many of us refuse to face reality too many of us try to escape escape our duties and identities our faces in our families but all these things remain the realities remain when ever we leave our dreams and return to the real world michael squires is such a person pin wheeling through life defenses held high darting away from reality so the escape hatches of his emotional being actually every normal person wants to stand well all eyes and the eyes of others why does not then he'll seek ways to achieve that standing for tact mechanisms off of the wrong route finding out what the trouble is what  soon to defense in this case mechanisms is the first step on the road back to reality and the satisfaction is in rewards that can be found only in the real world i remember promising you a few minutes at the end of this midnight ok let's get to the committees as i'm chairman of the entertainment program i'll assign you to various committees but if you're not satisfied you can overrule me is that ok all right let's start with a decoration committee sandra i'm not much going on decorations anymore there are probably a lot of other things i could do much better it's ok mike forget it now we want to the side where we want to be formal or cust mike is hiding his sense of inadequacy in negativism he was afraid of failing on the decoration job so he refused and now he's taking great pleasure from being coaxed to change his viewpoint he's getting at home at night mike slips into another phase of his defense mechanism that of rationalization for some reason he claims to be totally uninterested in the dems he isn't even sure that he wants to go all those guys rushing around buttoned up to their chins in blue se just having harry around the house is all the girls mike can stomach or so he claims girls are stupid and silly he would be perfectly happy so he said that he never saw another girl as long as he lived his sister had her own ideas on the subject our great mike is finding out that no real defense against the hard realities of life can be found insecurity a lack of confidence a feeling of inferiority why why there are all kinds of reasons for such things and there could be all kinds of results from them mike had many of his own reasons and he had his own results in some cases my kid taken little experience little things and buried them deep within himself carefully suppressed and kept from the healing light of day me the trouble is a bit nervous may never get over my never found out that the conversation was about a dog the answer was so simple but he always kept the question buttoned up inside something on your mind best place to get things on your binders all may not be good english but it makes good sense i guess i have an amazing good sense