welcome to daring to dream our guest today is laura turlington and she's bringing wonderful work into the world with her one community programs her work is so inspirational and that's why we wanted to have laurie here today welcome laura thank you so much for joining and it's you it's my pleasure so i'm so excited to have you here and hear more about the work that you're doing with one community programs but before we talk more about that if we could just talk a little bit about your background because you have been an architecture for a number of years and you're still working in architecture that's right yeah so if you could tell us a little bit about your background for sure i am an architect i have my own firm i worked in many architectural firms over the years and i as all although i love the work and i enjoy it when i was actually when i had my children i realized that something wasn't quite right that on my the box i had created for think women struggle with that what were some of the things that you did you know helped create brought my children were my biggest gift because i was working working working with my children came i decided to actually resign from my job at the time and take some time out to to take care of my children but to take care of myself i began to realize if i wasn't taking care of myself that i wouldn't be here and now and that's so important in so many women don't don't do have exactly so i use just started reading i the feel in like there must be something more to this then what we've been up to before and then on my fortieth birthday i went on a trip to mexico with me dummy go over ways he was the author of the four agreement the people have seen or read that book it's been on the bestseller list for years and years and make goals wonderful gift was to take very seemingly complex personal growth and spirituality ideas and make them very very simple and very very practical and so that really appealed to me i never thought of myself as that much of a practical person but i was always interested in integrating my spiritual being with my day to day life because i thought well if if i have my spiritual realm over here and i have my working realm crazy you have no idea where you're going but my heart was telling me so you just knew i just planned i just went and my life's been different ever since oh my gosh that's an exciting it's a wonderful gift and so since then i've been working and on the east coast you know and his folks are on the west coast on the go and my mentor moved here read over verify since we've been working together for six or seven years here on the east coast with another group of people and and now one community to finally get back to that  and i are sharing that in our iteration of dummy goals lineage is to bring awareness to the fact that the world that we create around us the environment are all generated from our beliefs within ourselves so what's happening in the world is not disconnected to how we feel and what we believe about ourselves so personal transformation not only is important because it so dramatically can be back a fact and improve the quality of our day to day life but by extension it's like ripples in a pond it goes out and it creates ripples in the environment in the world in other people among cultures that we can't even imagine and so how do you work with people to help work through programs like life mastery programs which is located in boston and we're located in connecticut and other groups on the west coast and all around the world we have a friend we work with in peru who we create programs with there so our idea is to really be a bridge people that one community is intended to be a platform to create links among other programs and other resources so that the so that there's more available to everyone and there's there's plenty and there are plenty of people who are looking for their own way to be inspired and so we offer journeys and workshops and then more locally seminars and weekend retreats it's all we also offer tele classes which is a really wonderful way for people to get involved from their own home and so what's the process in your talent class are telling classes on our website you can actually which is w w w dot one community programs dot com currently you can find a schedule of upcoming classes and events and journeys sequential and those are sometimes arranged a bit differently but for the most part the tell classes are introductions and then follow up it's so important after a journey or after a workshop to offer some follow up to people because in the beginning we go to a journey we end up in a rarefied place we feel ourselves and then we go home and it's back to back to life and helping folks make that transition have how to integrate the two he's such a key  point so i know myself i've gone to so many workshops and you just feel like all my life has changed and you have this unique experience and understanding and opening and you know as soon as you get on the mass pike or whatever highway you have to get on it's like oh geez i have to deal with real life again exactly so part of our we really understand this having gone through it ourselves that you know no one's exempt from this process of being human being asleep for a while and then waking up that's part of our journey and so we can say from our direct experience we understand exactly how that is so we really love to offer follow up tele classes to any events that we offer and they're generally free just to help people begin to understand how to integrate the work into their daily lives which is again how we've been practicing as you mentioned earlier have an architectural practice and my spiritual work has happened only influenced my architectural practice and that's one area where really well in the way that i we organize ourselves and the way that we offer services to clients my favorite clients for example are clients who are starting their own businesses because that's where they're really putting their dream where i would be on the table and people have dreams that usually are like this and they come to somebody's architectural services they said here's my dream and we're like wait a minute your dream was like this and now this is what feels manageable what people sometimes don't realize is when they s this is my dream but then they say oh well i need a space that supports this much of it they might have unwittingly left out the two or three things that really set their heart on fire and so what we try to do is and this is through my own personal work say dream a biggest dream dream and then and then together make sure that we don't accidentally leave out the two or three things that are really important because so many people start businesses with that big dream when it comes to implementing it it's about th that's what it feels manageable ok so there is they believe somewhere along the line or some way of winnowing down that big dream where the crucial portions of the passion may have unwittingly gotten left  that's one way that this work overlaps into the architectural practice because i love getting with clients saying let's train your biggest dream but of course is the reality of everything else as a reality but make sure let's make sure we don't leave out those one or two readings that really set your heart of fire that's one because when we find out what sets are harmed by air there's no limit to what happened and so exciting so so it must be a challenge for you to manage your full time work in architecture with the work that you're doing with one community programs how do you balance that it's i feel very fortunate i have very supportive partners i have wonderful wonderful people working together and collaborative teams on both sides i don't think you know five years ago i could have i could have done this it takes a fair amount of energy during these were two engines plus i have children and i have a relationship and so but what we don't realize you know growing up and as we're becoming aware we begin to realize more more that many old beliefs and patterns and habits that we have actually trap our personal energy to places that aren't very useful so if we're  you're walking around having the belief that i am not this or i am not that a lot of our personal energy gets caught in that and what we find as we go on our personal growth path is as we begin to free ourselves from those beliefs we actually easier and easier and easier and we all have challenges and that goes without saying but each challenge it gets a little bit simpler to handle because we have more burn energy and earnest pozole to put in the direction of solving  dealing with that challenge just wonderful advice and i think that's that's so encouraging for people to hear that actually when you began to let go and deal with your limiting beliefs you're actually going to have more energy exactly and you're going to be able to take and you mentioned that some of your friends thought you were crazy and it's like what are you doing totally crazy probably had her own tao it's hard not to hear that feedback from people who you know love you and not allow it to dissing candidate so so how did you get beyond that doubt that you may have felt it was kind of being projected onto you well the doubt from my friends was coming and coming from going on the trip when i knew nothing about these folks and so really it was a complete act of faith a complete act of trust and when i returned i think i was a little shell shocked for the first six months i kept going on the website and i'd read about where was i read about where gary graham or madame was another one of my teachers there where he was or where rita rivera was and i'd kind of stay in touch but i took me about six months to kind of integrate a little bit and decide now what was i going to do right and so i actually then followed up by going to a weekend workshop with rita and kerry as a matter of fact about it it took me about six months to kind of adjust and my family and friends at that point didn't have too much to say because i didn't really expose too much of it i because at that point i was still addressing but it has been a challenge because people have perceived a shift in me show and i think in from my point of view it's been me waking up to myself and so the biggest challenge is is those friends and relationships that have come along and evolve as i've evolved and those that have been left behind and that has definitely happened and it does happen there have to you have to accept that exactly zero exactly because there has to be room for transformation in every relationship and what we find in everyone finds this is that when we create relationships from a previous time in our lives we create them from our own beliefs about ourselves and so as our own beliefs about ourselves change the beliefs that other people have made in response to that may not change so you made find friends who are partners who say wait where's the person i am a writer where is the person i'm in they don't want to let go of them please because you know don't continue writing so what it finds do you have for anyone in the who is feeling stuck in their life and they may have their drain but they can't act on it they can't move forward or they're not really sure what their dream is what vice do you have those people a couple of things first is if at all possible find community with something that feels good that doesn't make sense necessarily like the trip to mexico right or but just you everyone has some recollection at some point of their heart being on fire if you can find community whether it's in a book like the bros books of louise hay's books anyone who is out there who is offering some other alternative point of view because we were feeling stuff all that's really happening is we're refusing to take an alternative point of  view so i find when i'm stuck it's because i'm taking show or i'm attached to a direction that i thought something ought to go right and then you just need to make a chip just make sure when i say and actually from that point of view my teachers all said america was nothing but looking at the same situation from a different point of view it's always ask everybody if you can take a breath step back find some other way if you can find it within yourself find it within their resources or communities that are around you to look at something just from a different point of view just step around it just this much and come back and do it because that amount of distance allows us a different perspective in that differ perspective we can maybe come up with another way to approach something that's one of the guys thank you so much very good story with my pleasure i know i people are interested in finding out more about the services you offer three one community programs what would be the best way for them to reach you they can go to our website which as i said direction to go in take the time to find a community find a book find something that can help you make a shift and get you unstuck if you or anyone you know has a story that can inspire others would love to hear from you so please contact me at suzy at suzy spidey dot com or contacts the belmont media center thanks for joining us today and we'll see you next