six nights a week with a boy or the boyfriend primarily took care of the children due to her work situation i believe that's what the bystanders brief at the core parties after home and watched the children with the corresponding parent she did officer they did during the two days of trial the children told her during every time she made contact with them that they were to have primary parenting time that's the legal phrase that they wanted to live with the father after interviewing witnesses examining the home examining the children in each one of the homes taking initial court saying that it was her mediation that the father received primary parenting one of the reasons why she said and she puts this in the first of four where the children were guarded and cautious with the mother but the children were chatty and relaxed with far it was often report has indicated in her report that the children were treated roughly in discipline situations by the mother and the children confirming this to her impression that it was sort of off limits what happened during in camera time of the investigation by the court to the children however they put this in the record i purposely did not hone in on it during my notes mother wished to have some witnesses examined by the jail and she did that and then at c forty said she files a second report after talking and she specifically says in that that the mother chose to always work the night shift and the other people raising the children in her  he refuses to speak to her that is the bystanders report he will not do anything to help because it's not his job he is more focused on proving that she's a bad mother th of record picture two twenty two my good team the mother told the children that they went to live with the father she would only be able to see them on a police officer the president they would not be able to visit with their half siblings the father did not say it was time for the children or do those things and then referring to the camera presentation the mother said well i think he was just funny whatever that means and so those are the two comments i could come up with what you asked me the birthday party incident was of a birthday and with the mother i have for the twins and her immediate circle of people and the father testified that he chose to do his own birthday party once he had the children and you could do it with his family and that's what he did the father's day thing at church that counsel referred to in the record will say that there was a one off thing that the children do not  i'm not positive but i think it's in one of the g a o reports ok that there was absolutely nothing current that the wave goodbye to in this report was done in this case procedurally i'm getting them on five minutes here it was it was for me children to carbondale to start school there and without her without any court reporter available for whatever reason that day in then the circuit court down the road here we were led with the court telling us that he was going d when i follow a motion to clues that just bystanders report or see a phone call from the judge and said that if i would pay the court reporter he would make his own bystanders report well i don't know what to do about it so i just said ok objected to it he didn't sign the order and then i got a phone call from the court saying if i love pain the poor who're i guess for his typing his thing because there wasn't a court order to receive i sent a check that day