energy psychology and emotional freedom techniques are not substitutes for medical care always consult with your physician and healthcare provider regarding any health care questions individual results will vary responsibility for your health if you choose to try any of the energy techniques taught on tapping with the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system hello everyone welcome to tapping with joan my name is joan kaylor and today's topic is using emotional freedom techniques for trick until mania and dharma till mania which is also known as hair pulling and skin picking so i want to thank everyone out there in the world who has subscribed to my youtube channel and has my app have my app because you can follow all this on you but today i want to talk to you about how to use tapping to release the cravings and urges urges of the addiction of hair pulling in skin picking all right so pulling and picking our addictions as addictions you feel the craving or impulse or need to pull and pick when you pull in or pick it keeps you from feeling pain it also does own you out so you kind of go into the strands i know about these things ladies and gentleman and mothers and fathers because i pulled my hair out for twenty five years and if you go to my web site joan kaylor dot com you'll read all about it so i have over fifty years of experience on both sides of the fence with helping people say stop pulling and having been ex pull or myself i know about these addictive behaviors they're also called body focused repetitive behaviors so i have a great deal of lifetime experience in what these behaviors are and how to help them and this is for you so you know how to use emotional freedom techniques for pulling in picking allright so as the slides are pulled up on your screen you'll see on slide number three that we start with the basic recipe and the basic recipe is simply tapping on the fleshy part below your little finger and making a statement because what you're doing is you're bringing up the file in your brain in your mind that says i need to pull and pick so as you tap below your little finger you say even though i have this craving even though i have this urge even though i have this addiction even though i have this it whatever the phrase is for you however you would describe it even though i have this urge need whatever that is to pull or to pick i deeply and completely accept myself and you want to tap on the side of your hand on the fleshy part there on the karate chop point that's what it's called it's called the karate chop point because in karate that's the side of the hand that used to break boards and whatever else they do in karate so this is where you tap so this is bringing up that file in your mind that says i want to work on this ok so then we go to the next slide so these are the basic set up phrases for pulling in picking ok now i'm going to get more specific because the beauty of emotional freedom text is that the more specific you are the better it works so as specific as you can get about what pulling and picking mean to you the faster this is going to work for you so another set up phrase would be even though and you're still tapping on the side of your hand even though i need to find the thick curly kinky hair even though i need to farm for the thick juicy root yeah you know i know what i'm talking about now ok even though i don't even know that i'm pulling even though i don't want to stop pulling because i like it even though i don't want to stop pulling because it feels good even though i don't want to stop pulling because it helps me relax so you have to fill in the blank of what this is for you but right now i'm giving you what i think of the most common reasons for pulling in picking and what your fingers like when they go searching or for picking it would be even though my fingers need to get that scab off even though i want smooth skin and that bomb shouldn't be there ok so are you getting the drift here of how this goes however pulling in picking are for you that's what you use as your set up phrase in the basic recipe another one could be even though i'm so discouraged and frustrated because nothing has helped so far ok whatever phrase works for you and then ended with i deeply and completely accept myself ok so as we go to the next slide acceptance does that mean you're accepting the urge to porn pick except instead is it mean you're accepting the problem you're acknowledging the problem you're saying hey i want to work on this you are accepting yourself even though you can't stop pulling and picking this is major when you accept yourself even though you have this problem or this addiction that tells your body ok i'm a good person i am ok even though i have this problem and that allows your body to let go of this addiction frankly this could be used for any addiction but today show is specific to trick until mania and dermott till mania ok so i am working on accepting myself or what i want to explain is if you can't say i deeply and completely accept myself because frankly some people aren't there yet so could you say even though i have this urge to paul i am working on accepting myself i am open to the possibility that some day i might accept myself so what we're doing here is if we can't go through the front door on acceptance we're going through the back door we're going through the basement door we're going anywhere we can to acknowledge except in some yourself either now or in the future now for child i know parents are watching out there ok even though i want to pull my hair i'm really good at soccer i'm reading a good softball i really like myself a lot i'm a really cool dude so these are the phrases the children would say i really like to sing i really like to draw so they don't have to say i deeply and completely accept myself because that's more of an adult language but as long as they say something positive about themselves that they like to do or a favorite hobby i really like playing with my dog anything that's positive because we want to take the negative and we want to balance it out with a positive so that's the way that children can do the set up phrase on the next slide slide number six ok now you've told your brain you're ready to work on this addiction now you're going to rate how much your fingers want to go to your pulling place whether it's your scalp your eyelashes your eyebrows wherever it is on your body that you need to start searching for that perfect hair or start searching for that interesting hair to twist between your fingers to play with whatever bump your fingers are searching for to try and pick off you want to rate them on scab off if i don't have smooth skin how are you going to go crazy ten is absolute when i explain to parents and loved ones of children and adults who struggle with this addiction is this is like trying to stop a sneeze or trying not to scratch a bug bite or trying not to hick up this impulse is so strong for pulling in picking that what we're trying to do is we're trying to lower the strength and intensity of the impulse so that you can be back in control and make another choice so you're going to rate the level of your craving your urge your addiction from zero to ten ten is forget about it i have to pull or pick and zero is i don't need to at this moment because friends all you have is right now this moment that's all you're dealing with you're not dealing with  tomorrow or five minutes from now you're just dealing with this moment the next slide is your reminder phrase and you're going to use whatever that is for you this craving this impulse this urge this addiction whatever that means for you and if you followed me on my you tube channel you know you start here or if you know anything about tapping or emotional freedom the psychosis to the thumb on the index finger this craving middle finger this craving and thing ding ding ding ding inside tip of baby finger is the button for cravings and addictions so this is really important to get this here and then tapping on the side again so when you go through all those buttons now i refer to e m t i'm not trained in i'm movement desensitisation reprocessing but my teacher has taught me that if you go together and then back and forth you're accessing both sides of your brain so as you tap on double sights together and back and forth and then together and then below your eye this way and then back and forth this isn't pure e f t just to let you know this is not taught by gary and tina craig but i just include it if you would like to try the together and the back and forth and then together you don't have to and then under your nose in j so these are the tapping sites so we are going to continue on here and what i'm doing today is i'm actually coming to you in two shows so as time starts to dwindle and that then i want you to come back and see the second show because i have so much information i can't possibly teach you everything and one half hour segment so what we're going to do today in a little bit is i'm going to go to part of my show let's see the nine gamut ok part two well we're not there yet but after you do the tapping then as you look at slide eight you tap on the back of your hand between your little finger and your ring finger ok this is called the gamut spot ok and as you tap there this is also a brain balancing technique because it's very important to help balance the brain when you're going through all this so as you tap in between the of your little finger and your ring finger and we go to the next slide here it is six your brain in letting go of this addiction as you look at the next slide nine  nine things that you do open your eyes close your eyes look down to the right over to the left circle your eyes in one direction circle your eyes in an opposite direction  then happy birthday if you can't think of anything else count to five one two three four five and then home again that is the nine gamut and that is a tremendous resource for letting go of this addiction or any other addiction that you're working on again today show is specific to pooling your picking but you can use this for food you can use this for any type of addiction so what i'm going to do is go to the next slide here and then you're going to repeat the tapping this addiction this craving this craving this need  my need to find that curly kinky hair i want to find that juicy root whatever pulling in picking to you i want smooth skin i need to get that scab off what ever pulling in picking mean to you that's a reminder phrase this craving this need this craving this craving so it's tapping nine gamut tapping think of it as a sandwich when you do that you reassess this is the basic emotional freedom technique tool recipe rather the more specific you are the more you tap the fat and the more specific you are the more you tap as in frequency and consistency the faster this addiction is so this is part one of emotional freedom techniques for pulling and picking but let's take a look here and see what else is going on in part one so the next slide let's see what else drives pulling in picking stress life aka life stress drives pulling in picking when you're driving when you're alone ok maybe when you're at the office at school taking a test studying  or that would be the stressful part ok so it's the end of the day and you're relaxing being alone being alone is instant for pulling in picking any time you're alone especially at the end of your day i know that that is when pulling and picking really bother you so when you're relaxing at the end of the day pulling in picking always happen when you're trying to relax it's just like ok here i am in my own in my bedroom watching t v working on the computer whatever it is in bed trying to fall asleep that's instant so see i told joe i know all the secrets of trick until mania and dermot tell me i'm been there done that ok so these are the other situations and other a motional other take you to another step i want to take you to a higher form or a newer form of emotional freedom techniques these are things that i have been learning through my education as i am working on completing my certification in emotional freedom techniques the goals gold standard and i will tell you more about that later the movie technique is really cool the movie technique as we go to slide thirteen is you go to a quiet place ok you don't want any interruption for say fifteen twenty minutes no cell phones no children ok peace and quiet for fifteen minutes you want to close your eyes now listen to my voice imagine yourself in your favorite pulling place at work home school or the call are this is called a visualization because you're actually seeing yourself you're placing yourself in the movie of your favorite pulling or picking situation ok when you feel in your movie that your hand starts going up to your head to your eyes to your favorite pulling or picking place that is when you start tapping you're going to assess how strong the urge is in your movie on a scale of zero to ten and then begin tapping actually i'm going to go back to the movie technique again so you're going to say even though i have this urge whatever phrasing works for you even though i need to find that thick curly kinky hair even though i want to find a nice juicy wet thick root at the end of that hair even though i need to get that bump off my skin or that scab off my skin and remember this is specific to you so you use your set up phrase even though i have this craving to pull i deeply and completely accept myself and you say that three times and then you do your tapping i'm going fast just for demonstration sting and you do your nine gamut or you know what if you wish stop after you tap underneath your arm stop take a breath this is really important you want to reassess you want to say just with that short version of tapping how much do i still need to pick and pull ok has it gone down maybe i started a nine or a ten has it gone down to a nine or an eight has it dropped at all if it has terrific if it has no problem that's when we so we can eat what i would suggest doing after the first round of tapping is due the nine gamma to the brain balancing the nine things close eyes open eyes look down to the right down to the left circle your eyes and when you circle your eyes think about looking in an analog clock so you're starting at twelve noon and you're going one pm two pm three pm four pm five six seven eight nine ten eleven back to twelve ok then opposite direction will be twelve pm eleven am ten nine eight seven six five four three two one twelve so if you think about circling and watching and going around an analog clock like that it makes it a little easier to do the eye rolls if you're not familiar on how to do that so you want to roll your eyes in one direction and you want to roll your eyes in the other direction then you want to count and because you're going right brain left brain right brain back and forth this helps to balance the brain ok then after you do that take a deep breath and think ok where reassess how much do i want to pull or pick now then go back and finish the tapping thinking about your craving your direction your need to pull and then just do that part before you go to the fingers ok then you reassess if you still want to poor  pick then we're going to do it again but this time it's even though i still use that definitive word still even though i still want to pull and pick i deeply and completely except myself even though i still want to pull or pick i deeply and completely accept myself even though i still want to pull or pick i accept where i am right now and i choose to release this addiction ok even though i still want to find that thick curly kinky hair i accept that i have this craving and i choose to release it and i deeply and completely accept myself or i'm working on accepting myself for young children i really like myself a lot or i really i'm really good at soccer or i really like to draw ok so these are the words that she use for the second set up phrase remember to say even though i still because you're telling your brain there's still some left that i want to get rid of then retest do your brain balancing the nine gamut retail if you don't notice a change in the strength of the urge you need to be more specific about what is driving the pulling or the picking so thinking in your mind what's important to you by this time hopefully the urge to pull or pick would have gone down a couple of levels so you're still an ok then what you do you've done this tapping you've done the nine gamut you've done the tapping again you might have done a second round of tapping go back into your movie this is the testing portion which is so important go back into the movie put yourself in your favorite cooling or picking place the environment and wait and see what your arms do it may take a little longer for your hand to start going up to your head it may take a little longer for your hands to start searching your arms or searching your legs or any other place on your body but if you notice that your hands are starting to go up then ok great how much do i want to pull or pick right now so this process takes one nation of this takes a while but the whole process does not take very long it really does and that's why i ask you to find a place where you can have quiet time for about fifteen or twenty minutes because what you want to do is you want to go through this process and you want to tap and you want to see if this helps you gain control and weaken the addiction in my experience clinically this is help many people weaken the addiction so they can do something else whether they can need to get a fiddle toll whether they can turn over in their bed and fall asleep whether they start feeling so relaxed you want to gain control and this is what this is going to help you do ok so we have pretty well completed part one of  techniques for trick attilla mania and dermot tell mania there's a lot more i have to teach you so i hope you will come back for part two and see what else is on the horizon and i believe  emotional freedom techniques for helping addictions and particularly for our show today pulling in picking so much because you can do this yourself there it's noninvasive you don't need any drugs and it's something that you can do over and over again as you teach your body to do the tapping rather than do the pulling in the picking so i thank you so very much for watching this show i really hope this is helpful for you and i look forward to seeing you again soon for part two of emotional freedom techniques for took until mania and dermot tell mania thank you so much for watching and have a great day peaceful hands everyone