lot there between fourteen and sixteen years old social life is a dominant interest every school class has several groups or  a climber then there's the middle case susie sometimes she belongs to the clique and has lots of friends she doesn't enjoy quite the same popularity as iran perhaps because she is close rivals with her elder sister be hearing about that party for weeks oh you have to admit her anything does have a mix of the things they run in i'll be glad to get out of the school where one bunch runs everything apart are you talking about don't tell me you haven't heard susie somers is giving a party saturday night a social set of our club i thought you'd be asked mary who used to know says you real well and you live in the same string never anything we used to get together when we were in junior high but i haven't seen much lately which will probably ask you danny's mother i was wondering whether i could have some of the gang over some night for the wild mary and a bunch of teenagers with one of those noisy record players in there want something to eat really marian is all i can do to keep the house clean and the family bed without a party for teenagers who a lot of the kids of parties and their parents don't mind so the summers of having a party to saturday night and she said she asked me but if i don't have them over here once in awhile don't think it's funny and they will ask me to go party merry and it takes a big heart and a lot of money to hold a party for a lot of teenagers i wouldn't have to be very many no i'm afraid not marry and his too much work and worry and money that wouldn't be any trouble for you mother i could make sandwich and decide to cost money to feed all those young people you don't seem to mind when they are brings home all his friends you feed them and you don't mind the work day boys are a lot easier to cope with than girls some of those girls in your class come from real fancy homes and you can bet they'd notice everything here and go right home and tell their families why i'm not having those girls in here unless i can do things properly certainly one hundred ten with just a few cents which is hard enough to break and go to a lot of trouble mother you don't understand the kids don't expect their mother to go to a lot of trouble they just want cokes and stuff like that a lot maybe marion's got something the those kids don't want you to fuss they like in formality married your own men you have no idea the work that goes into the simplest part you better watch out now i'm ready to serve din your mother i have to watch my weight not the way you girls carry on about your weight when you have any energy at all here i don't want you getting sickly and fan tonight that's it she said with no travel for the summer standard and they've got a big house and i'm going on mom yeah you haven't seen much of susie lately have you i used to think you two were great pals i know i seem to have gotten out of touch with the gang somehow actually i was kind of surprised when suzy mentioned her party to me but i guess she still feels her friend i hope to goodness is the summers remembers to call it does seem that marion's left out of the gang more and more lately maybe they're doing some good to have a little party nothing elaborate so he's about six or so i know we haven't much space but a few kids around for an evening couldn't be much trouble now why are getting so big that it all those that know about marion social life it's just a child and she's nearly sixteen she's almost a young woman she i don't know how to talk to ease when she's with people i think it helped her out give us some background if she could ever friends here we seem to get along all right without entertaining everybody in town why to start having all of mary and then then and that's another thing why don't we have some of our friends over once in a while seems to me the only time we ever entertain is the family party at christmas or when one of the lovely young lady frankly i'd like to see our little girl looking more like that don't get me wrong marion's a wonderful kid but she seems awfully quiet lately i think she studies too much i can remember kids like that back in school seems to me they were always the ones who didn't seem quite to fit in with the others i just want marion to grow up so that she can make friends that's all i suppose what you mean is it out like like me no no little and that isn't what i mean at all i know you and i understand  i like you just the way you are that when you know you are shy some people don't appreciate you and they get to know you life would be easier for marion if she could make friends faster i suppose you're right now welcome to tell you the truth i'm scared to have mary and friends over here those girls are so poised and well dressed i can remember girls like that when i went to school have had now it's different with boys you give them a glass of milk and a piece of pie and it's all the same to them evelyn i know how you feel mallory and the most successful people aren't always the most popular kid remember tom davis back in the days of school he was always on the fringe of things the way you say marian the but he's the most popular and successful man in our class no yes i remember but somewhere along the line to learn to get along with other people he wouldn't be the community leader is today i think all of us want to get along with other people that's why i think marion to be better off if she were in the guy i know right now maybe i could have engendered a party for but i need your help i think i will have some more coffee well now we have to worry about is whether is susie summers are going to call or not sound kind of sorry for today she doesn't smarten up she's going to grow up to be just like her parents at marion's mother or father never seem to get asked any of the parties given by the grown ups around here i think it's mean that we should take it all out on used to be good friends in junior high i feel as if i ought to ask her after all she just lives down the street you better make sure you haven't got too many on the list already mostly only a room to fourteen  that motherf we can have a few more than fourteen no party that marion wants to go to so desperately is not important in itself but it is important as a symbol marian was rejected today and the experience could influence her personality and development if she felt accepted and therefore assured like rod hunter the whole pattern of her life would be different if she didn't care about social life like peter macgibbon she wouldn't judge her own words by an invitation to a party if you had an attractive personality like ben and her family's help she could be a successful social climber maybe even get into the clique the degree of social acceptance that each teenager experiences leaves its mark on his personality pattern lack of social acceptance can leave emotional scars and that's why for mary today's rejection is important time and experience will be on her side she can do much herself but is it not a job for parents to what can they do