how to say no that's the subject under discussion and there are plenty of times in life when you have to say no fortunately sometimes it's easy saying most of the time simple as that  thanks for asking me but no yes sometimes just plain no is best but sometimes such a direct no would offend people cause you to lose your friends make you seem to disapprove of them and if you just take a subscription for only one year i  lot how can you say no and still keep your friends and that's quite a problem sometimes well let's sit in on a discussion of that problem  some of my friends i think you'll find they have helpful opinions like the present marty and lucy nara and how i i j oh and i'm bill well we're going to discuss saying no and still keeping your friends but you'll see better what we mean if we get right to our example marty i believe you had an ensign that you wanted to go well ok well the fellows and i often stop somewhere for a snack after a game or after practice it's usually just not know a place where you get a good scotch and soda for us they're mighty well well that's the situation what can i say because well i want to get along well with those fellows on the team i don't want him to think i'm a dr couldn't you just started something else maybe how what would i say just whatever you would say if you were ordering don't you think that he should be ready you know i think so without making any fuss yeah i think for my work you know i'll try it next time i don't think it'll work at all not of the boys are at all insistent maybe they'll let it go at that but there are a lot of kids who won't give in so easily let me tell you sure you won't know no thanks really i'd rather have a go commando or be a good boy yes try just this one here take it off on now i see what i mean  distraction is an answer oh i don't mean card trick but you can say no and change the subject bring up the latest gossip or maybe you could be you see how well let's see how that might  that may be a pretty rosy version of what would happen it might work though oh distracting change the subject it takes more than changing the subject to what about the problem of b their their hands you know lucy your promise not to tell me oh but i didn't mention the names but but seriously i've run into problems like this a lot you get home from the date and it's still early enough to stay outside for a while to talk the talk it's a funny thing this boy has probably been good company on the date but just give him half a chance or take the case of the girl to find yourself in this situation is anybody else hungry how about you two can we go some place for something to eat just a minute i'm not sure those are very good examples of that poor guy in the front seat of a car sure was my dad and the other guy it's not easy you know why you have to have a whole bag full of tricks to handle situations and some girl thinks if they have to permit it for dave insurance well each of us has to set his own standards i guess yes but those standards vary with the with a lot of if you really like a boy you want to be close you want to holding hands maybe a good night kiss and so on it's the and so on that are trouble well i think the apartment thing is to know yourself and your standards know when and how you're going to say no but in advance even then think of the ingenuity ahead well i think we've cleared the air a bit and we've outlined some skills and saying no and still keeping your friends i think we ought to list them again in review mostly tried to avoid difficult situations how we distraction change the subject no when you want to feel no death marty and then say no friendly as possible but still no but don't be too preachy but i think there are some good ideas here what do you think about talking this problem over it's worth some effort to learn how to say no and still keep your friends