good morning good morning we're here at the beach street senior center in belmont past sunny day this is i pod cast positively peachtree that's some oral histories of some of these people to me any senior center there's a wealth of stories floating around that's right just kind of each about you know they look at us like we're aliens sometimes well you know we look like we focused in on the technicalities you know the mikes the cameras and stuff like that and we didn't really put together an agenda as you know for the topics for today so we're kind of just feeling around mentioned that i wanted to get into the subject of loneliness because such a huge topic for seniors she got all excited i mean that would be incredible yeah for out for a lot of people once they know the time and the pie cast is scheduled to be shown a certain time you know not right now been future they want this has to be a lot of people that will want to listen to that oh i said people looking at it strangely it's ok you know people sitting with heads phones on you know it's like what's going on yeah but that's such a huge topic you know loneliness me well you know it's funny loneliness for seniors everyone talks about it they worry about seniors they shot in or even if they're in a center or somewhere and they live the people who are like very lonely when they're older there are a lot of them were actually i think lonely when they were younger yeah i don't think everyone automatically gets lonely because they're over sixty five but i think it's also like your personality type like i speak for myself my own i kind of characterize myself as a hermit on the hill you know i kind of have my stuff to study and race and that and you know contemplate things and but i come down to the village every now and then and sit around and talk and then a saturation point happens and i don't go back up so i  find for me and you could be lonely for yourself you know i mean we're we think of being lonely is your you know you want to be with other people you're you know one that's a social thing but when you don't have that you still have yourself so you have to kind of us consider yourself as company and be comfortable with your own company that's the that's kind of the way i am configured inside exact it's i feel exactly the same way i've met i keep meeting because i'm new at this center but i keep me people and it's not like i sit and gossip with you know fifty people but you learn a little bit more of a number of people that you're you know talking to and some people for instance it's likes seven women for every man there right as you get older the men are dying quicker than but the point is there are a number of women there who were never married so they never lived with her husband and that effects how they are when they were younger and how they are when they're older and it doesn't mean they were some of them might have been self sustaining and a friend interested in a lot of things so they were lonely because they themselves and i find you know i've been married for stand there with people but also been away from people i'm very happy with myself even when i was a teenager i was always happy with myself self self contained even though i was social some people say all that my he's really funny no other whatever and other times i sort of want the world to end dept at my door where i live and i want wyatt you know something i'm the same way my parents my dad was very gregarious he was always happy to talk to other people and nice sort of other people out to have a conversation my mother was very quiet and inward so i have those two elements in me and  i'm perfectly happy with both of them as i said i kind of you know i'm the hermit on the hill and the guy you know in the village green yeah the village green so i just go back and forth when the moment hits me to make the switch people and he was in sales on the road so him i didn't add so he had to have a personality to come out that express itself and which he did successfully but he never was married and really never wanted to get married one time he thought and yeah i'm very much like that i had one time that i thought i was a guy got cold feet you know and i may be poor circulation i don't know or something else but anyway yeah but i mean gotten older i've explained it when they were younger and they say i said he it's nothing doesn't like you something doesn't care when he's interacts with them that's just flesh and blood i mean he's bringing the lead he was in leather business leather presents steak come on we're going out to a middle eastern restaurant we're doing this you know so he's very yeah and then when he leaves then they might he won't telephone them or hear from them or yeah they won't you know for months let's say it's good you're explaining his the way he the way he is in the world because otherwise and then if you do they can they can adjust the day and they understand even though my so my daughter goes well i only have five and then erm other has one sister who lives in california so for her who lives in new england is just there's no people around yeah you know it's and things are chang my mom's oldest brother and to him and his family around the block was my mom's younger brother as i was all very very very local very local and my cousins on my dad from my dad's side of the family were only like twenty miles away and the two towns over his is a new york no no new haven in new haven connecticut area so i you know that kind of like extended family i experience that right but i was kind of you know as i said you know i enjoyed the company but sometimes when the company was there i was kind of inward i don't know if it's it's just funny so you know when you know you're right i think that that whole thing of loneliness and then and especially when people get older i think that's an issue and i think i'd be interested to know i mean about because we're in the senior center really i said you know a big issue for seniors is well you know assuming that's right you know especially as we get older but then i was saying to which i was thinking about it by myself last night in my apartment and saying i think some of the seniors who people from the outside see all they're all lonely you know some of them i think a been lonely some people me all their life all their life right and some people the matter what age they are are have a different kind of personality and they don't feel lonely because seeing gauge a lot of people and they involved in activities and they do stuff like that so sure seniors get lonely but you know richard has a certain perspective in england yeah and people would say to me yeah you don't sound like you're from boston and you sound like it and i said well i am but i said not everyone from boston as the accent you're talking about yeah in other words that was an accent of the inner city in certain neighborhoods and you know your shins and other people around boston do not speak like that well let me ask both of your question is the beverage that the dentist you know as a little kid fifty six years old whatever stuff it was very different oh my god it was like a torture chamber they had these drills that had these like right pulleys and stuff and when they took what they turned it out it was like you know you never know why would they stop if they want to if they're not in to express themselves because i mean if we if for short on guests you know we they have to i would have to put someone in the somebody in that might come in like whoa wait different thing i think in terms of in other words we when they record them in a studio a big studio they do it in half hour segments because the mechanical thing in in a dunkin donuts in harvard square and there were four people talking a long story short i started to clue in by what they were saying that this guy with his back to me was famous because or talk about elections senators in th no telephone a good way the town criers we had talked about one person tells one person in so what we have going on at the beach street this coming month yes lots of things lots of things because it's valentine's day sure so lots of things to celebrate meant in the year yeah whether you have a partner or not and i'm we have lots of love here at the beach street sound so we're having a valentine's day party where using a company i found them in brookline they're going to be something that'll be special and then we're also going to have a valentine's day card making workshop so lots of things to celebrate valentine's day it's also lunar new year as you guys know your the pigs are going to have a minor new year they're going to do kung fu they're going to do traditional dances special we have lots of movies that we're doing we're also doing an intergenerational event with the moment after school enrichment collaborative the generally middle school so it's going to be kind of like a grandparent's grandchildren so we want people to bring their grandparents we want people to bring their grandchildren we're going to have a game day it'll be fine you know relax informal exactly yeah who doesn't love playing games and awfully sorry all that fun stuff so we're having  natch what else are we doing we've got supper clubs to look forward to we're going to a place in alston called our fathers we're going to grass fields which is really special people love grass fields but we are having it's really important i should remark that there you get on that we are because we are working our celebrity the other thing i should do is a plug speaking of love and speed dating so we're partnering with it is bedford said barry well we started off talking about loneliness and people oh yeah yeah that's interesting because the woman who was running it had said it's not just you know you don't have to find your perfect match it's fine but the good thing that comes out of it is companionship and friendship there was a group of four or five women she said that formed and developed a friendship after you know maybe the dates were a bust but they became friends which is perfect and you know at this peers like it happens to the best of a so i think it's been a good morning i think sun and you know for for two guys who are doing it the st pod cast and had totally no one gender we were lucky we get we had a lot of yes well speech you know we feel itself free speech brings jokes and other speech and subjects and yeah you know i know some people at some point will get serious about something but thank god it wasn't today right now nice day to be serious be serious that night you know yeah exactly so we can call it a day and have a good week thank you so much for tuning in to positively beach str