energy psychology and emotional freedom techniques are not substitutes for medical care always consult with your physician and healthcare provider regarding any health care question individual results will vary hello everyone welcome to tapping with jen my name's joan kaylor and i'm producing the shows on how to teach everybody what emotional freedom techniques is all about first of all i want to wish everybody in peter's township and around the country and around the world happy holidays i'm so fortunate and grateful to be able to talk to you and also because my shows are uploaded on my you tube channel and lo and behold m channel is seen around the world so i don't know happy holidays in all languages but i just want to wish everybody happy holidays locally and around the world ok so today we're going to talk about how to use of emotional freedom techniques for upsetting memories or embarrassing situations the beauty of emotional freedom techniques is that you don't have to talk about what's bothering you an order for it to work that's one of the many wonderful points about e f t and tapping if there is a trauma if someone has experienced a trauma  let's say abuse a veteran has been through has post traumatic stress disorder someone has an embarrassing situation in their lives something that is too disturbing to actually talk about or when they do try and talk about it they can't and they might cry they might tear up they might feel really really bad and they're not able to talk about it tapping or e f t you don't have to talk about it that's one of the beautiful miracles about emotional freedom techniques so if it is too disturbing to talk about it all you have to do is think about it and tapping still works again you want to make sure that you go to see a licensed health care professional and in these cases of emotional traumas you want to make sure that you see a licensed mental health their best who is qualified in energy techniques lo and behold that might even be me because i am certified in energy psychology and i'm earning my certification in tapping so you really want to make sure that somebody knows what they're doing when they take you through tapping but i just want to review how we do this and then i'm really fortunate to have a student who has volunteered to go on camera which we will meet her later but just to review what we're going to do we're going to rate the situations on a scale of zero to ten ten being the most in the row being not at all then we're going to go ahead and take that rating and after we rate it we're going to tap on the side of the hand the karate chop point and say a reminder phrase of even though i have this upset in memory or even though i had this abusive issue or if they can't even bring themselves to say that all they're going to do is tap and think about it and then say i accept myself or if they can i deeply and completely except myself even though i have this upsetting memory even though i have this embarrassing moment even though i have this problem even though i have this situation whatever it might be for them starting out with a problem and then ending with i deeply and completely accept or i'm a really good soccer player or i'm a really good student or i really enjoy listening to music whatever the positive statement might be for them ok and then we're going to start at the top of the head and tap there and say this problem or this embarrassing moment for they don't even have to say anything if it's too upsetting to talk they don't have to say anything and then the beginning of the eyebrow and then the end of the eyebrow and then under the eye and then under the nose and then the chin and then  but i'll put my glasses back on now and then either lifting an arm and tapping under the arm at the side of the body about four inches down from the armpit or taking your finger side of the middle finger the baby finger and then we stop and take a breath and see what it feels like remembering the graphic that was put up the cause of all negative emotions is a disturbance in the body's energy system so we're removing the disturbance in the body's energy system by tapping on the end points of the energy meridians if you've missed the first two shows i'm going to encourage you to go to youtube and see my first two shows on tapping with gen where i give a very thorough in depth explanation of what emotional freedom techniques is all about and that takes you through the chart and the reason that we do all this tapping just to let you know i want to mention a couple of books that are available about tapping called the biology of belief with bruce lipton dr bruce lipton who's a p h d biologist and molecules of emotion by dr candace pert these two pioneers in the tapping world wrote books on how brain chemistry the n transmitters are changed by percussions or tapping on the endpoints of the meridians so before you throw the baby out with the bathwater so to speak and you're thinking this is really weird it's only weird if you've never been introduced to it before but it's interesting because i have on my website under energies therapies remember that one hundred years ago nobody thought that we were going to be able to fly from the east coast to the west coast in five and a half hours nobody thought that there would be an ever be a vaccine for curing polio nobody thought that there would never be an antibiotic for bacterial infection let alone and i phones so if you all are willing to consider the possibilities that tapping can be useful for you in conjunction with counseling and whatever other methods your healthcare provider may recommend whether it be medication whether it be vitamins whether it be nutrition whatever it is if you are willing to consider the possibility that this might be helpful it could be  i'm just trying to think ok so we mention the books and if you want to know current research you can go to energy psych dot org and there is a tab for current research on all these methods so this is what i wanted to talk to you about today just to give you a little bit of an introduction and then we're going to meet a student and we're going to take her through some tapping either an upsetting situation or an embarrassing situation whatever she chooses and she's not going to let us know what it is because this is about respecting privacy if a therapist has a client who has post traumatic stress disorder there is no way that they're going to have the emotional call them to be able to talk about the trauma of either a an abusive situation or a war trauma there's no way they're going to be able to talk about that so this is where tapping is so invaluable because it can help reduce first to reduce the stress level and the emotional intensity of the trauma and then eventually to take the trauma way to collapse the trauma so we've got that it's just it's a beautiful system so we're going to take a short commercial break and i'm going to invite the student to come to the table here and we're going to see what situation you would like to work on ok so come back because this is going to be interesting ok thank  you my boyfriend one minute he's supportive the next minute everything is my fault he says a couple of beers get him in a good mood his idea of a couple of beers usually turns out to be a lot more than just one or two and that's when i start to worry understand my feelings better i didn't want to go because i didn't want to get into another argument with my boyfriend but i'm glad i went i'm starting to understand that i didn't cause his anger i didn't cause his drinking it's a great relief to hear a new perspective from my problem welcome back everyone and taylor has agreed to join us thank you taylor for coming on camera i really appreciate it now i've never met taylor before today so she has told me before we came back she has told me that she has an embarrassing situation and taylor you mentioned that on a scale of zero to ten it feels like about a four to you ok zero being on at all and ten being the most ok so what we're going to do can we use the words embarrassing situation with that be ok for you so we're going to use that as our set up statement ok all right so i want you to tap the karate chop point of either hand and go even though i have this embarrassing situation  i have this embarrassing situation i deeply and completely except myself i deeply and completely accept myself great again is it a current situation or is it in the past ok even  had this embarrassing situation i had this embarrassing situation i deeply and completely accept myself completely except we're going to say this three times even though i had this embarrassing situation even i had this embarrassing to to ation i deeply and completely accept myself completely except cain now using the terms embarrassing situation you know what that means for you ok that brings up the memory but we don't know what the memory is for taylor but she knows what it is and we don't have to know taylor tap the top of your head and say this embarrassing situation situation now the beginning of your eyebrow the edges of your color so here's your color both here are the points and then you want to go right under right there and kept there i was embarrassed now your baby finger i was embarrassed that i stopped tapping for just a moment the brass and i just want you to close your eyes and think of the situation  now tell us tell us on a scale of zero to ten is it still a four has it changed it changed what did it change to more or less what how would you rate it now  like a two ok so it went down two points so we're going to do this again and we're going to call this even though i have even though i still don't see even though it's a two that's the word i'll go with even though those are the words are used for taylor so tap the side of your hand and say even though it's a two even it i deeply incompletely accept myself completely except even though what's it to even admit to i deeply and completely accept taylor closure eyes and keep tapping open your eyes now don't move your head just your eyes look down to the right good over to the left good now can you roll your eyes around in your there ok watch my finger over here down here perfect over here good now we're opposite direction so over here down here over here just take a breath and taking everybody through the long way of this just because i want to learn the technique but as you become more skilled at it then you won't need to go through the long that it came to a close your eyes and remember the situations and tell me what intensity the embarrassment feels like right now on that zero to ten scale like the one like a one so we went from a four to a two to  one and this is true story because you don't have to say anything just because we're on camera i think ok ok so even though it's a one even though i deeply and completely accept myself i deeply completely except myself it's remainder of this embarrassing situation the remainder of this situation all the rest of their all the rest of it all the rest every last little bit every thing  breath what does it feel like now when you think of the embarrassing situation what does it feel like it doesn't it doesn't feel embarrassing anymore so it went from a four to a two to a one two of the spot tween a zero and one so you can remember the situation but you're not embarrassed by it anymore thank you so much for volunteering so notice how we don't know anything about the situation that taylor experienced and embarrassed are always used was all we know is that it was an embarrassment to her and then it was a level four that's all we know and now she no longer has the embarrassment this is the beauty of emotional freedom techniques so what i want to say to you all everybody who is watching and listening don't suffer in silence call me my graphic has been up several times i know email me joan kale and hotmail dot com go to my website joan kaylor dot com my phone number is up there call me don't suffer in silence you don't have to i wan taylor so much for joining me today on camera it's been such a pleasure getting to know you i want to thank everybody out there for watching the show today because i love teaching tapping so if you need anything give me a buzz and i wish you all the warmest the safest and the happiest of holidays and for those of us in north america for those of us in the snowbelt please drive slowly and carefully ok it's not eighty degrees in july anymore it's cold out there and those roads are icy in those of us in the winter belt so please be safe this holiday season thank you so much for joining me remember in addition to e mail you can always to go to my facebook page tapping with joan you can tweet me at has h tag tapping with joan so i'd love to get some questions from you all out there but thank you very very much for joining taylor annika that way and i wish you happy holidays take care