to make people like you and you find yourself holding a grudge against them you are standing on the outside looking in you might have something to contribute to the conversation but nobody cares whether you do or not there's a barrier and you don't know how to begin breaking it down you imagine they keep watching the way you look the way you act they think you're different so you head for home what else but still you can't forget that you are alone and out you know maybe school is like your radio this oscillator will do its work well but as you said you still have to fit it in so it can work with all the other five hundred what you're driving at dad but i don't think i ever will fit in here on i'm different from the guys in this town but as far as that goes fail everybody's different that's what makes people interesting maybe you know when we moved here this summer i had quite a time anything frandsen a new office where everybody else knew each other what you do there well i asked aside the point son what works for one doesn't necessarily work for another but i bet the other men didn't look at your oh what about the other fellows what do they do what are they like gosh dad i don't know i never noticed only i know it's not radio's perhaps that's the reason you don't know you don't notice what the others are interested in what i'm trying to find on holiday where allan might try watching listening pick up the most popular boys and girls in school and keep an eye on them trying to figure out why people like them not that you'll ever be just like any of them but you might learn something we pick up the most popular boys and girls in school and keep an eye core they need some of them right here in this class andy macintyre for instance people like him right popularity to there's chained him glory she's popular with boys and girls and jack gilbert what's he got that makes people like him so much great guy i know i lead stool easy just listening for words this sounds like james caan of the same thing she's listening hearing about helen's collection of menus and liking it that makes her kingpin with children maybe there is something in this business of being a good listener but still there must be morning getting along with people than just wearing a sweater and listening yeah i sure would be something to take mary lou to the mix you wonder if you already have a da oscillator coming along by then so i haven't quite got it working yet but you know that other business we were talking about has been following your advice how about it find out anything yet that i think i did it looks like people get along best with other people or oh the people who think about the other guy they make a point of listening to what others have to say and watching for ways to do things for them being polite toward do you suppose it's sort of a case of thinking so much about other people that you don't have much to tell well perhaps that's right maybe the best way to find out is to try it the next chance you get you know that there's a mixture friday night i wasn't going to go but in the drugstore the other day chick said i oughta come good are there fellow well dad there is a girl i'd like to take you mary right but i'm not sure she'd go with me never even talked to or probably fall over myself besides she's popular she's probably got a date but you know well it is pretty late to ask a girl why don't you just go stay you needn't worry about doing anything wrong feel you act all right just do it and say whatever seems most natural well there maybe maybe it will be easier after i've had a chance to talk to her the mixer you know what i kind of think this is going to fit in after all easy still stuck he really need to and offer of help that's welcome any where it's not hard to fit yourself into a conversation a mention of a similar problem in connection with the record player they are interested in that record player they are interested in that shy guy they know he's alive now and strangely enough he's just discovered that they're alive week and bring it over to my house i guess so some of the games coming over thursday night we could have a lot of benefit you will come won't you when one shy guy is on his way not  still have his moments of doubt of hesitation of fear that he might do something wrong but he can face these problems now because he knows that he's not really different and while he's discovered only a few of many ways