the president of this club barbara is suggesting it hurts land served with her on the entertainment committee and the sponsor is willing that they should go ahead the first social event of their season as a mother daughter t barbara knows the girls are fearful because they have never attended a t v before actually there is nothing to be afraid of but an thinks it could not be as much fun as any kind of game bored variable however barbara knows that in spite of what they say or how they act they are not eager to give a team because they aren't sure of how they should dress or how they should behave bobber isn't finding much enthusiasm but at least the girls are agreeing to divide up the work of preparing for the tea after all women have been serving tea to their friends for a long long time and there is no reason why the girls shouldn't learn how the team is only a formal way of entertaining and showing respect to others etiquette itself is simply the way one polite person shows consideration for another june's share of preparing for the team is the making out of invitations but he is running into problems and would welcome a little help viber is sympathetic because he has gone through the experience and knows the questions that are troubling but to write themselves they won't learn if someone else does the work for them coreen covers up her not knowing about invitations by pretending that she thinks ts are dahlan beneath her and doesn't know either so she acts as if the writing of invitations were useless formality something that should be done much more simply of course some invitations are made simply and directly but should the invitation to a formal t be made by phone barbara is saying no definitely no and should know that the formality of the invitation varies with the formality of the occasion if this were a small team or just a few close friends then a phone call might be all right but what they are planning is a more formal occasion one for the mothers of the club members so barbara explained that the invitation is like a memorandum it is sent two weeks in advance to allow the guest time to plan on attending the invitation needs to give only the name the date the hour and the place but it may give the purpose as well it may be thought of as telling like a newspaper story of the who what why when and where the form shown in the etiquette books do not have to be followed strictly they can be varied to meet different needs viber is willing to make out an invitation form for their use but she doesn't says that they all help in the writing the teacher's club requests the pleasure of your company on friday the sixth of october from four until six in stanley hall and now there is another matter that barbara is concerned with what about the handwriting itself would anyone be flattered to receive an invitation as messy as this and can write clearly and evenly and she should so that her handwriting can be ready easily have written invitation is meant to be a friendly and personal message that handwriting shouldn't be childish or think that or badly spaced it should be neat and well mannered the writing doesn't have to be perfect or an imitation of an engraved card but as a matter of courtesy the person who receives it should be able to read it easily but one of the r s v p in the corner would please reply be better are involved and stuff only because they don't know about them she insists that if they don't learn the etiquette of attending they can never enjoy them and if they never go to tea as they will be missing a very enjoyable way of meeting friends and making new ones the etiquette is easy to learn if they will just pay a little attention to it for instance the replies to their invitations do they know how a reply should be made correctly mrs samuel august brown accepts with pleasure the kind invitation of the teen timers club on friday the sixth of october in stanley hall grey sixty seven says eleven again the who want to wear when the invitation again it is simple and sensible and not nearly as stiff as it first seems coleen thinks that there is one part of the team the trio will enjoy the formal dress however to win an m think she is overdoing it and definitely so does barbara the t v is formal yes and it requires formal dress yes but formal dress must be in good taste in the first place calling will be acting as a hostess not against she will not be wearing a coat let alone a fur coat she will not be carrying a bag calling agas the tree ought to be allowed to wear whatever she thinks is guest and if you were going to an extremely formal tea she would still be fought overdressed good taste in dress depends more on line and color than on richness ornamentation moreover in acting as a hostess quite simply no gloves and certainly not the long white gloves which are intended for formal evening wear jewelry should not be overdone hats are w only by the guests there is nothing at all wrong in coleen's wanting to dress formally but she must learn what is in good taste but it changes the subject to ask  entertainment for the team going confesses that she hasn't even thought of it should be something that everyone of the team young and old alike in and calling has suggested dramatic readings she of course would do the acting something like the sample she is offering but barbara and june same to believe that koreans acting might not be as entertaining as he thinks and interrupts to feel her idea of what would be a simple way of dressing for the team but nonetheless simple and colorful but as the others agree it lacks dignity coreen care of the idea of formal dress to one explain and is going to the other  is trying to explain that etiquette chilling the correct dress for each occasion doesn't require a larger expensive wardrobe good taste doesn't require a great deal of money only sensible and good taste requires that each person choose clothes which will set off his personality to best advantage that's only sensible to anne's wanting to wear her tailored suit is wrong for her as a hostess although it would be all right for a guest moreover the lines of a tailored suit are wrong for her figure and make her look heavier since the girls are so uncertain of what is correct and in good taste bob or suggests that they try putting on a style show as the entertainment for the t v it would interest everyone old and young or would they prefer musical films book review is certainly another question arises should the type of entertainment have been mentioned on the invitation barbara has to admit she doesn't know actually her invitation was placed where the cup should be or the spoons and plates how the lemon or cream and sugar are offered they the details that they make all the difference between being graceful and being  and when she hears her friends she hopes she can make them show her what is right carina and june are intrigued and they're sympathetic with them because these same problems have been bothering them as discovering that there are a lot of small questions that need to be answered she is beginning to worry about the mistakes that you might make at the t she wants vibrant to show her first how the poor should serve correctly and after when she wants to be shown how a guest should act she would like to know even though she won't pour or be a as for the pouring that is simple everything is placed where it can be reached easily than one pours in a way that is efficient but also develops graceful habits as to how a guest should act that is simple to barbara knows the questions that are in the minds of the others so she will show them the answer i guess may go directly to the tea table herself to be served our she may wait for someone to serve or if she is wearing a veil she will put it out of her way her bag will then be placed under or over her arm and she will remove her gloves she will help herself to a napkin plate spoon and whatever she wishes to eat the pour it will ask her preference as to lemon or cream and sugar of course other drinks than team may be served coffee for instance or punch  will take her choice she will continue to chat then eat or drink and when she is finished she will praise her plate out of the way it is all very simple and really quite enjoyable when one learns how damn comes the team itself all is going smoothly the guests are being received and vibra hopes the girls will find the day to be fun and is meeting in the guest of honor someone like yourself that's right she should so father have been no difficulties in the making and receiving of introductions and barbara hopes her girls will go well even though she didn't grill them they should know the fundamentals of waiting to be introduced of introducing a younger person to an older one now shaking hands only when the person to whom you are introduced offers a hand joan is doing very well but and is inclined to be athletic in her handshake coreen to  however improvements in the girl's manners will depend on their seeing the need for improvement and they will see the name when they realize that etiquette is primarily the means by which one shows his respect and consideration for another party is essentially a way of showing friendliness it is the friendliness respect and consideration that count that are really enjoyable the tea party could be larger or smaller more formal or less the same as could be elaborate or very simple and still the most important thing would be the real sociability behind it and for instance has no difficulty in getting along with her school friends she knows what they consider friendliness and so she knows how to act toward them and perhaps she will be at ease with any group of people raise are the things that have to be learned the stylist for example is very much like corinne but she has learnt not to be affected on for such manners offend those who don't understand them but she understands coreen and her theatrical handshake and simply pulls it down to the proper level brain is happy to find herself  understood and is particularly careful to introduce the stylist to the pores in the most gracious way she knows korean feels especially friendly toward the stylist and finds it a genuine pleasure to serve are also all korean as aware that the stylist is demonstrating as barbara has shown them how one can deal with a bag and remove her achieve might never have made the stylist acquaintance if it were not for the tea for her this is a strong argument in favor of teas the stylist is one with whom she would like to make friends for call rain the team is already beyond their value as food they are a symbol of hospitality they are a mark and adjust your friendliness and they are served in a manner that is intended to show respect for a guests dignity and good bre the silver teapots could just as well be china the food much simpler and still the importance and the value of a tea party would be there kareen is finding itself and if we may judge from the way that an when about eager to serve our guests it would seem that cheeto is enjoying the party in a way she didn't anticipate but she is trying to serve the guests with the same speed and energy she would put into a basketball game a little too fast there's one shouldn't take accidents too seriously except to say that they don't happen again the guest of honor by congratulating her ironically on playing a fast game and making a good shot that the sponsor explains that th show is intended only as a beginning style is not the same thing as fashion which changes style as the use of definite principles of design it doesn't require expensive clothes but it does require good taste smaller in black if the hips are large attention is focused on the shoulders or bust the thickness or thinness of fabrics can seem to add or take off weight colors and color combinations or you like lines and accessories for effect it is what they are the principles like these that the smart woman learns to dress in a way that since her personality as a stylist begins to analyze the first series of