e attitude who cares but it's always been sick he just can't be expected to do well especially if he isn't given a decent chance what can you do fever keep her quiet and make a rest then bring it to the office in the week for a full checkup oh she won't want to do that doctor he's not doing well in our work life to chance or the promotion last week or he wouldn't want to stay home to rest she lost a promotion yes if it went to another girl oh how did she take it and what was her answer to what hour he was disappointed of course he hadn't been feeling very well and he couldn't do our result in illness a healthy guy like me could get sick from an attitude like say like the fellows not making the team yes that's what i mean mark their attitudes about many things that could cause illnesses why if you could see some of the patients that come into my office a couple of weeks ago i remember well let's call him john john has headaches very bad headaches and there's no primary physical cause for them that i can find he just worries a lot and has headaches or are they as well call her mary although mary is seldom very vieux she has in the gesture no food allergies no fevers but mary is afraid i'm not sure yet of what all let's take the case to call him joe joe's case is complicated one for a specialist but i probably have of my patients he suffers from worry or attitude problems well how can that attitude make you sick how does that w who will get the promotion well alice will of course she has counted on it she's determined to get it but one of she failed how can she explain her failure when people think alice was worried about failing and being worried she was tense and made mistakes but each mistake made her still more tense necessarily but she did do a best toward getting it you see if alice realize earlier what was happening she could take a much healthier attitude she could see this particular opening as well as mark says as one chance to play on the team profile then she could find out just what her chances were and for that matter whether this was a promotion she really wanted whether she wanted to make this team she could start by getting the facts with the facts of her situation she could make her plans in relation to those facts if you knew that she was doing a particular job well she could plan for a chance to do even better things then she could carry out her plan with a broader perspective perspective sure you know see the problem in relation to your life that's all that promotion was and the only thing she wanted in this world and very likely not the most important thing for so why worry about it in advance or feel a complete failure afterward if people would just remember the three steps to a healthy attitude one get the facts about what's worrying you to make your plan in relation to those facts and three carry out your plan that way you gain a perspective that will make your attitude why get the fact make your plan and carry out the plan what are the facts maybe i've been worried and trying too hard what i have to do is go talk with the coach group easy find out just what i can do to make the first team and go on those trips with the fact i can make my plans figure out a practice i need most work on improving what's wrong with the style of worrying about it then carry out my plan to practice better handling people on trying you know there's a sense of achievement that comes from making money making it right that's probably just as important as making the first team and i'll have more fun too yes i didn't have a chance to tell you coach didn't put me on the first team i'm not going to middleton the game next week i'm sorry i know you wanted to very much all that far right now maybe with a little more practice or make the team but i can see now what's more important in the game i have a better a better perspective