show i just want to mention that alex and company lost the show that we taped over a month ago and yeah it was it was one of those all too bad so sad things but we are back doing that again and i will give alex a like looking good out there you know where i'm relieving myself of all temptation by not getting my new brace because when it comes down to it i have all the gear i need it doesn't matter i'm not going to shape it a strength back in there  i know having recovered from several heart persones just gotta go the whole distance and if you get it done you'll be glad you did and you'll feel better and be stronger and write better but all those good things are going to talk a little bit today about some things that have put happen in the state most recently i attended the rights and democracy by state meeting that's a new hampshire and vermont both have rights and democracy branches it was a convention to honor  people for their achievements as well as elect some people to different offices and develop a people's platform which is basically the heart of rights and democracy we got to meet some development so t o l d and i want to do something like that here in vermont as well i'm going to propose that to the leadership of rights democracy and near meeting what it would model is what the democratic party is actually doing is to develop a lot of queer or alternative lifestyle candidates to run for office which i brought to to the democratic party one transgender man a good friend of mine and another  nightmare and he champagne oh yeah and what they're doing is going around and doing a story hour for kids they started it in cambridge i thought i went to cambridge with them and watch them there and they're doing it at the what's a library in town fletcher let your library for pleasure free library they're doing the fletcher free library this saturday so i know this will be airing after that but if you did get a chance to  pride she works at pride and is not only a drag queen but she's one of my transgender sisters as well having come out and come out last year and i'm so appreciative of her and her  time you know going after some candidates through rights democracy is an interesting proposition i'm not sure that they're ready for me yet but we're going to take them on i want to model what they did in new hampshire and i want to come up with something really called it diversity development or d d and then i said organizing diversity veltman that which would be odd and so i just said quicker somewhere could be misconstrued queer organizing diversity development so quad i think would would work well and i'm going to propose it here in the next couple weeks other stuff going on in the legislature oh i got to say goodbye to the barber of motor vehicle commissioner i had he was done last friday i was actually the last official meeting that he had in his office and i think him for coming up difficult he went to a meeting of all the commissioners above motor vehicles and all the states and they all noted that this was a trend that they were coming up to and that they would rather embrace it and be ahead of it then have to catch up and i think that's what i think that's what we're doing here is it right learn have we're all a bit ahead of the curve and i'm grateful organs and california have already passed legislation we did this not legislatively we did it administratively and took advantage of the new request for proposal the driver's licenses we're going to require and i d s as well so this probably going to affect me as much as it will some generations to come and i'm grateful to him and his office also met the person who can be interim director of motor vehicles or mr motor vehicles and wanda good luck i hope to get appointed she's she's a person who is well versed in all aspects of that having worked with the commissioner i had for a little while a few years so that was that was one of the bigger pieces of things that  going the last couple months legislatively or during the summer really during the off season coming up we start back in the capitol in january and i can say immediately and i just recently learned that they're also going to go for universal primary care which when you do the math the way that it needs to be done shows that we can have that here in vermont and that we will have have it universally which is exactly what we need and universal primary care too just a little bit different than what people think is free health care because what this does is actually provides your initial  coverage for your visits to your doctor and it is it is more is more in the preventative end of it so it's you know imagine going to the doctor to be to be well and to make sure that you remain well instead of always going in for something catastrophic  to people's health is is having good dental care my dad was a dentist now and then i didn't know kind of an exciting thing but there's a weird thing about having your own father be your dentist because gloves are not as important to them and he was a tall man so he had very large sausage fingers so get those those bare things grab it around in your mouth it's now i would say it's worth the free time to stream it back in the day when it didn't have a choice so it's a whole nother story of being a little kid with somebody with big hands i have got to think that that might be  might be a little difficult what what i remember is i hated that mists i don't like going i still want to go and i have a broken tooth here and i'm just like not looking as opposed to all the other friends ok yeah nobody would like to go to see mortician where they wouldn't know either way probably stop that's true but you never know you just you just never know about those things so a minimum wage universal primary care one of the things that i work on last year that's coming up in this next session will be before i think the senate judiciary is gender neutral bathrooms i don't know what the bill is going to be called but it was h three three three when we voted it through the house and i testified there for that and go back of course and testify with the with the senators on this as well as a lot of strong backing basically what it does is takes a single use bathrooms rather than label them am are out for men or women they'll just say restroom and this will actually double your chances of being able to find an empty one when you go there it does not address  multi use bathrooms that may be down the pike a little ways but the university of vermont is already addressing these as well and i hope to have some commentary from my friends e who started that movement up in the university campus spilled over to our legislator through saline kolber and she was one of the lead sponsors of of that movement and so everything is is connected everything is connected to v m s is a great resource for do i remember having fun that one of the bathrooms down at the vermont public boathouse and they do have showers afternoon delight no this was almost like one o'clock in the morning delayed but it was still it was still open and it was an awful lot of fun from a scene of domestic violence for ten days i did learn interesting things about this when i talk with one of our police chiefs and it actually may come doubt in the don't get me wrong the police do  like having the law or believe that this law would be beneficial to people but there's a logistics problem of where they're going to put the weapons how they're going to storm how they're going to return them to people and i think when they figure that out we'll have this law in place people don't consider what happens after they'd confiscate weapons like that but they have no place literally have no ext tended facilities for storage  security and then of course returning them and all of this is driven by money so once once they figure that part out i think they'll be doing well and it is something that as a community we support as well but  again yeah i mean it's just a little different that the core minimum wage doesn't necessarily apply to people who do work in the service industry because it it is known that it is a tipped position in which people will be getting extra funds hopefully on a more of a commission basis i don't know if bumping it up to fifteen dollars an hour for a regular job would also bump it up on my end that would be kind of nice to find that there's days when you're short and you don't get all the tips that you want and it isn't quite debating this furiously so it may have may have ramifications for the service industry and testifying on behalf that anybody can testify basically are telling your story you're telling the the folks there why it's important to you and when you do that it will evoke processes with these guys that they didn't think of because they're not in the service and she's not affected by minimum wage but yet knowing how it affects you is important that's why i would advocate people to testify for the the gender neutral bathroom bill when it comes up or a minimum wage or anything that you're to be a bartender you need to just do it to don't think someone uses a large bill to pay for a drink and then pulls you back because they have an extra single so they can get the five dollar bill back instead of the singles son there's no incentive to tip my good tip or get here a champion oh how exciting anything going on at the local comedy venue here in town that you're hard up oh man there's not that i'm part of necessarily in particular but they really have such a good system there are so many big names coming through here just being get the comedian community but also but that as well i mean i definitely miss kendall i was going to mention that because kendall was my first guest on this show and we kicked it off and it just had a great deal of fun and our second show roma i know we talked about coming out in that last segment and my coming out to my parents was via a letter actually wrote mom a dead letter and said hey i said this is this is me and gave me some details and said i felt very bad that i didn't want to lose their love and they eventually we got together and by the phone they said that we love you you're you know you're you're our kid yeah totally and despite the fact that i was adopted i think they still didn't send the paperwork back or use the guaranteed refund well i thought it was you know it was my worry it was it was one of my biggest fears or they surprised though i have to say they they were until i started going to you and like when i first got here i thought i was just going through like a little bit of a rebellious stage now i'm doing everything that my sunday school teacher told me not to do you know kids like to not she do not steal do not play women's rugby and it was always so weird to me because he was staring right at me and our cargo shorts every single time he said like why does this what does this guy know that i don't such yeah that's when i came up to my table to my mom first and i called her back on the phone in wisconsin to tell or had a girlfriend for the first time and i was super nervous about it i remember being really anxious you know calling on the phone and when i told her she really didn't hesitate for a single moment she was like all honey hole i mean i got to say i'm not completely surprised  and obviously i'm kidding about that part i never went to church in the woods it's such a relief to know that you're not tainted by religion certainly tainted by me i guess that works  so have you had subsequent dialogues with your mom about what your new lifestyle i mean at this point this happened and four years ago and it's just kind of it's kind of just part of the drill actually one of my one of my older cousins just came out and she's just like a good handful years old and i mean she just came out to the family this past summer and it was really fun and she brought her girlfriend to our floor big family reunion for the first queen does she ever and you know i it's funny because as a transgender woman i find that i come out every day i have to renew what most people show is an annual thing on their calendar as a national coming out day and i have to present as feminine i have to present female i have to i have to show up and look look ok for me to actually yeah i think you're beautiful  now you're embarrassing me but thank you for that i think half of it is attitude because i do have a what the fuck and a tude when i when i go out it's not hard in vermont but i travel a lot and i travel back to syracuse and had an interesting interesting occurrence was uncertain as the the women who live across from my parents are and have been to my dead them dykes across the street and i'm like dead there are people i see in the really nice people and i got to know both of them a lot better over the last week i went down and we sent dead to hunting camp so that means i got to mom sit and so being of doing was making friends of the girl cross the street she is a championship dog groomer in new york state she is one of handful of certified to master groomers and people come to her from all over to get their out to me as transgender and i'm like who have you come up to she says well my girlfriend i said nobody else so she is she's very much still fresh and new at this in your repertoire i mean not necessarily spong i guess like i mostly like i'm kind of caught up in the way that people keep keep receiving me these days because i mean although like it's pretty them and honestly people the world like not fucking really right now i mean i'm kind of like a run of twenty and i am kind of like a going underground hoarder when it comes to sentimental objects you know i love notes postcards just like that and i played a lot of sports growing up you know so the number of stupid battles in bullshit participation ribbons that i'm going to have to pack up a lug around with me wherever i go for the know referring to children as just you know i guess i so see them with the with the coital act i guess you know so in addition to your baggage trophies if you want to be able to leave those to somebody when you know when you're older and say here's what mom did or here's what here's what i did when i was a kid oh yeah fourth place flight be junior golf tournament everyone wants that shit and i used to cairns that i always battle of the books second grade like i don't why do i do what does anyone need oh my god and you got to watch it it's crazy that it's like an intervention show where they go in and they go and it's actually really sad because a lot of these people are dealing with mental illness but  it goes into some of the most extreme hoarding situations you could possibly meet like how a giant house is mansions stuff to the gills the shed you can't even navigate around the house you have to like squeeze in this like tunnel with dislike all textile patterns and we're china and shit that's never going to be used but you know there's a model a sentimental value attached to it so you've got to you've got to look at it both ways i don't i don't mean to joke that was insensitive of me and th genetically predisposed to keeping everything or they're brought up or condition that way because they didn't have anything when they were that i think that that can be it can be catastrophic i do want to get a little bit back on topic i recently the transgender day of remembrance which is a day every year that we we memorialize trans people who died very prematurely they were murdered killed or stoned beaten and it was over three hundred twenty five names that we read and one of the things that my folks and friends and outright pointed out was that they don't bring the kids necessarily to these immoral circumstances memorials because it came for found the effect their their processes and how they grow up and how they they mature with respect to what's going on the community we have a suggestion that was brought in by committee that we've maybe trains the day to not one of remembrance but one of resistance trans unity of resistance and celebration and focus it on how we survive and how we get through a very tough society and we're no the united states is number three with the number of deaths for transgender people we follow brazil and mexico so in this half of the world there's the most most transgender people die and we're talking hundreds and it's really really got to stop it's really got to stop it's  need to do something different now that was that was monday the twentieth i think of november since then we've we've we've debriefed that and we have some game plans for that going on  next year i just want to go over a couple things that are coming up momentum and rainbow umbrella meeting tonight down the water birth or dinner saturday we have the drag queen story hour fletcher we talked about that i'm going to be meeting a lot of friends over the holidays to go out and have dinners and festivities and tomorrow i get to meet with the state police and this is the guy who runs the fair and impartial policing board for the good thing so i wanted to say that that is part of one of the activities that keith and i are doing out right vermont is moving they were over here right over here actually in the north champlain and they're moving across the aisle so to speak they're going from their little tiny scrapped offices over the what was the senior center and so they are they're going to occupy much more space have cooking facilities as well which is nice bigger and broader meeting space and i think they're going to be very happy with their new spot rights and democracy is moving into their old space to have a little bit more formal office on that one to let you know that on the twenty eighth of december we're going to have a community potluck cares remount crossroads down in brattleboro and of course rainbow bella of central vermont all post their activities and fun things to do and basically we're we're all responsible for community building  january january edition of that one i'm also going to be hosting one of the funny girl shows coming up and when you skis there will be some fun stuff on the horizon things just kind of pop up when they come and i'm happy to get in there  however it's it's really fun and i give it one shout out to my friend marcus pizer who was one of the speakers for transgendered every member i'm actually going to enjoy hanukkah with him and his parents at their home this coming sunday for a traditional hanukkah dinner i want to mention to that chuck companion have formed a group called safe harbor for trans teens and they have the only only foster home in vermont and that's actually certified to work with transgender youth it's really cool project so if you get a chance to contribute or see them awesome people we are almost go off the cuff yeah i don't know i mean that i think if we start now i'm just going to start talking about dicks again and that's what i got a lot of got a lot of weird things to say about dick's inside it might be better opportunity to talk to to my community if you like the show please let these guys know i want to keep doing this and alex said i'm good at it but i'm skeptical that i don't have outside crime aeration so for the comedy state