now can't turn back a lot of courage to get on the streets i wonder what will happen from now and wonder what is happened in the last  first year of marriage he we got a good start and i remember coming home from a wonderful honeymoon that was so fortunate for housing problem was taken care of its mother owned a two family house she was a widow and lived upstairs and we were going to live downstairs he had a good job working the same plan as my dad but dad didn't introduce us though we met at the church well we had to unpack both tired to hold pete we're going to be so happy together from the beginning we were learning to live together and to love together learning to adjust different sexual responses but time doesn't stand still and marriage is far more than loving together and enjoying companionship it's making decisions together and we had to learn to plan this partner the first a morning i was so proud of my man going out to earn a living for us pete was so proud of me cooking our first married me then suddenly it was time for pete to go to work he said he didn't want to go but he was a responsible married man now when you marry and have to adjust to many changes and i well we have decided i should but there were satisfactions in being a married pair one thing was our partnership in handling the money conflicts over money can be a real problem married but we decided together to help each salary would be maybe we didn't always agree but we decided together so our joint decisions on this and other problems of home management helped in my adjustment from a working girl and other things besides contributions to my sense of accomplishment and i had a lot to learn about cooking keeping house and sometimes those things can seem money important and don't leave me the wife does appreciate her husband's appreciation and of course that works both ways i tried to learn about peaks job sometimes i shared enthusiasm and there were times when i had to help absorb his frustrations it was all part of the partnership of course our marriage had its ups and downs they all do but i guess we had worked out pretty good adjustments on affections and our sex life decisions in our money matters adjusting to each other adjusting to our marriage sort of showed us how to face these problems but on another potential source of trouble in laws when we first planned to move into that two family house i thought of all those mother in law jokes still they couldn't apply to nice people like does but there were things like i was planning my first bridge lunch party but it wasn't my party afterwards peter said he was glad i had asked that you could have seen from upstairs if something was going on i'd have felt left out how did i feel as if we were living in a huge goldfish bowl i couldn't explain it to pe wasn't all banned pete's mother and i had good times together shopping for instance i could learn a lot from or her experience in getting bargains a little tips on people special lights and decide but one afternoon pete stopped in up stairs to deliver packages mother had asked him to pick up and it turned into a habit to drop into his mothers on his way from work two or three times a week i didn't mind so much supper being late i kept telling myself but somehow it seemed on those nights we always got into an argument sooner or later i tried to tell piece how i failed but it was no use he'd just get sore and make some crack about my family i thought my family was pretty wonderful dad ny we're real pals we talked things over about pete's mother i mean dad could understand some good mom we had some good chats together had teddy afternoons when pete would play it was a joy to see the way mom and dad understood each other centers or pated each other's needs and times without a word being spoken they had really grown together and their marriage why couldn't we will in more ways than one it was a long haul and a cold hard winter meanwhile we were still working out other adjustments together little thing my serving never learning to enjoy it because pete wanted so much big things p three allies ing the wife still likes to go out once in a while remembering the anniversary of our engagement with tickets to a special show he knew i'd been wanting to see married life isn't all hollywood moonbeams and honeysuckle but it can be mighty satisfying at times came spring and my first spring house cleaning and well it was pete's mother but it wasn't that she criticize me early even told me how to do things but somehow whatever i did she did too but in a different way and it seemed to me she always thought her way was better there were so many little situations that probably wouldn't have mattered if we hadn't lived in the same house but i felt so awkward and inferior ma well we've got to talk this thing out you don't know what it's like working in the same plan as your wife's father dead like you piece done so much for you sure with stories of inference like that didn't help me with the other fellows when you appreciated your dad's efforts i wanted i wanted you to appreciate mine could i have been two people in a head when you carried our family troubles here folks and spoke of their house as home and you compared us with your folks i understand come to think of it p i suppose part of me never really did get married how could i really build our marriage with part of me wanted them to approve everything i did gosh what a difference when you see the other fellow's point of view when you recognize that you are not only one with problems we did have to face the other issues it was hard telling pete about his mother we wouldn't think of it is a counterattack he tried to understand not trying to be fair about it i could see that i'd been on the defensive had understood that a widow might sort of meet a man around the house  and we've grown up a lot just a knife that we don't can talk our troubles out this way really growing up growing together sure helps a lot when you can bring things out in the open talk him out together how do wouldn't be running away you really want that new job that's what we want it's a big change to free and new home church new adjustments in living there be other problems ahead the bigger problems will be the two of us working together  i will both miss our folks all of them the grandmothers would have made good babysitters but for pete's job takes his even back to our home town i know w