report card that can be a time of a tional upset but here's a boy who doesn't seem concerned in fact he doesn't look as though he could be upset by anything his report card is getting better he's got a b in history but  yes even though he's shown some improvement howard is really upset about that report he isn't even going to take  it quite a few of you still have your report will you please return them tomorrow the following please return your report card as soon as possible dan mccarthy howard howard patterson know howard you've had your report card out for over two weeks please make it a point to have it signed and bring it in i can't i'm not going to take it home it isn't fair grades must have disappointed you quite a bit they so bad howard you can't expect other people to judge your work exactly as you judge it this be is proof that you've been doing better in history why not accept it and work still harder next time with the use of try sometimes we expect great things things can't always work out the way we expect and when we are severely disappointed we become emotionally upset well let me try to give you an example of this pattern of emotional upsets but this happened just the other day in shark bites i'm all a let's call him john was working on a lamb his first one shop project he work long and hard at it and he dreamed of the perfect and beautiful that but it was going to be about dreaming together with realistic planning can be very fruitful  emotional reaction is the important thing but there's such a difference if one saw one reasonable of them to expect the perfect player but i had every right to expect any do you think it was reasonable of to expect mr rogers to judge your work in the same way you did you mean i shouldn't try for an a no that isn't what i mean it's one thing to set high goals for right now what's upset her she's been that way lately ever since the operetta try outs this was the big chance of the year for her she wanted the leading role she was sure she could get it and in your own mind she could see herself as the star of the show but she was expecting too much when she was offered a smaller part she was disappointed expecting too much disappointment emotional upset lasting for days afterwards now look for more there is bill daydreaming that's another sign of emotional upset you remember how it was about the class party you told bill if he wanted to date alice he'd have to ask a month ahead of time but he just waited around until it was pretty late he was so sure she'd wait for him and being a popular girl she already had a date expecting too much disappointment emotional upset well howard do you see the pattern it fits you doesn't it i've been thinking mister but i think i understand sometimes you expect things that can't possibly happen so you sure to be disappointed saddam how it so the thing to do is to figure out what's punishable for reasonable and then you aim high and you try for a last but you don't count on it you do understand our only even then you're going to be disappointed some time insight into your problem well playing but what can i do now how do you handle disappointment when they come see you play basketball don't you  yes mostly from the bench then you have plenty of chances to watch the others in action i think this happens fairly often the fellow with the ball is eager to drive or a goal he expects to get is too quick he bottles him his blow up get met some give up and stop trying to play some become all the more alert eager they have to work at it until they make it that's right and i guess there are those a different time but it's plain which is most effective is that if your emotions are in balance agree with yourself or with others you don't withdraw stifle your emotions you don't go off in a daydream now you channel your emotional energy into a direct attack on your problem i think i well howard what are you going to do about that report you've tried hiding running away from it you've tried blaming the teacher now are you going to attack it directly maybe next time i'll try i'll really try but we won't be too disappointed if i don't quite make it will we if you try hard but more can