yesterday the amendment the gay marriage amendment is got stopped in a committee and kind of a surprise move so perhaps or some discord almost republicans on whether they want this anti gay measure into our constitution or not it is a two sentence thing basically disallows gay marriage and then it also in the second sentence may disallow companies from even in illinois and our benefits are through and i but i think you know i don't understand why the conversation keep going the religious trajectory one is about civil rights and make you know i've heard the argument from indiana university and pretty university and you know i really that that folks are losing quality the best candidates because they're seeking work elsewhere where their families are valued you know if you know i both have two children and we don't have equal rights in this because indiana has absolutely no absolutely nothing to do with religion whatsoever and people keep bringing this argument i think in and and even eating from the real issue which is equal rights for people living in the country and in the state and contributing to this state and their country you know there's a lot here and a lot is going on and quite frankly the country is looking at us  t to bring a point back to local you and nicky were originally brought into the areas attention when you try to do both good like the family discount in fitness point correct right right and you know you guys have been together for a long time and now you have two children correct correct right so i mean how do you i mean how do you feel about this right this is an anti gay thing it's really really is it's going on downstairs i mean outside of all the arguments and everything how do you feel as a as it as a gay woman i mean what's your feeling inside well i mean i think first of all i'll tell you how i feel but the whole idea of like labeling people's gay straight gay gays people calling people gays like we're just human beings so as a person that in a sense married to another woman you know i cannot believe that these arguments are going on as somebody who you know i mean there's never been an issue in our neighborhood and when i talk to my neighbors you know they are startled they have no idea you know like what nicky and i go through because really like we just try to live our lives and you know every once in a while we you know we brought the issue of fitness point up and you know we've got two kids just like every other couple trying to raise a family and and work and build their careers in their thirty's you know we can spend i wish we could spend all of our time on this issue and when i you know when i get a chance i go on the web and i was going on and you know if i can make it we will get down and do what we can but i just cannot believe people are you know that i heard i heard some of that so many religious arguments going on in the house i don't understand how that's even being allowed a separation of church and state and i think people are wasting so much just time and you know i'm commuting right now so this is you know for me it's convenient to be able to call in but i'm picking and choosing when you know when i deal with this issue because we have more pressing issues and the state does as well and i think what's going to end up happening and i've seen that on the internet and i it's happening in other states is going to be a legal nightmare going to mean absolutely no nightmare lawyers are going to make so much money politicians are deviating from the real issues like the caller that just called in about folks on the road and you know someone can die in an instant on the road and people are wasting their time on an issue that is you know really a part of our process the same goes and here we are in the state of indiana trying to write in the president and you know it's making the state of indiana laughable and it's hurting it's hurting the state it's hurting people and it should be completely separate from religion in my opinion how's it  be close together and our kids have you know four cousins five presidents all within a mile so there are reasons why we're here but will it come your question again i mean i just put i mean it's is it i know that when we recently that when this came up with fitness point you know i'm not i'm not recognizing you guys i think you can even on the air here you question is i mean you know i don't know that many people i remember you saying that but i'm not getting any you know prejudice against our lifestyle but you know you were where you're like wow is that how it's going to be around here and you know from person to person like  not it's a non he's so far you know but i think you know i'm trying to think you know we've had situations where i've taken our daughter to to a munster community events and you know there's assumptions immediately i think asking about my husband and and then i think people people don't feel comfortable continuing on with the conversation if it's just me with with one of our kids and i tell them no i don't have a husband i'm married to my partner and she's female they don't know how to continue the conversation they you know even though i feel like i've opened it up to just have a friendly conversation i'm just i you know you've met me and you know where we live really honest authentic lives so that's i think with a challenge when somebody makes an assumption and then i innocently tell them oh no no no no this is you know my my my partner's you know she's at home with our other daughter is a conversation for me says how old is the oldest one now she's turning three in april so when she gets to five or six let's say she's in first of all she has she you know my partner is one of six children and the other five are in heterosexual relationships so they have goals and you know what they understand is just like i would hope any other family that all families families come in all shapes and sizes you have single parent families some parents have two moms some parents have one mom some parents have you know separated families you know so to her this is you know some families are divorced and then there's a boyfriend in the picture or girlfriend in the picture you know that's the way you know we raise our children and because that's the way the world is you know the other day my daughter noticed that that somebody did not have one arm and you know she asked me where's the other arm and i explained to her that people have one arm some people have learned from a lot of one leg there's so much diversity in the world not just in how we lead our lives but who we are as people and it was really cool to hear her later that night when she actually fell and hurt her arm and they're talking about it and you know she said to me well you know somebody some people only have one arm you know so i think it's how you know understand like why people are so set on you know trying to teach people one way because i think it's that children up for you know for this question that you're asking me which really my hope is that in the future is you know sort of gone on and it has become a piece of history just like you know it racial marriage  it's not it is part of our history right now and we are under the spotlight of the national media right now on if we are going to put in what is basically an anti gay amendment ssion last question what do you want to tell legislatures legislators yes oh i would love to tell them i wish they could come to our house and spend some time with us and i you know honestly invite them into our house to see you what our life is like because i think that once they open their eyes and their minds the that we are probably too normal you know realize that they need to focus on issues that are really i think more pressing and you know let society move over to let indiana society move forward the way the rest of the country is and it's going to generate a kinder gentler indiana george yeah i wish somebody would require far the framework of these are these of this i guess discourse or discussion it's a question of loosely speaking it's a question of values not legal rights when the right suspect kicks and that's a legal argument on you know whatever their status is as adult so the question that's raging in everybody's mind is a question of values social values psychological values spiritual values what have you and that's what you know you have all the sisterly thousands of years where you had basically domo oriented you know types of relationships and the new family nucleus didn't leave was talking about earlier and on itself now suddenly after a massive campaign suddenly you know everything's just abandoned and whatever you know we come down on it you have to take that history into account its benefits etc its drawbacks what have you but it's a question of values and what are now we're going to see some pressure probably from a lot of media that are and you know you might see it on the national news i gree it's only man wanted it to be only one man one woman that's the way i was brought up that's what it should be and so what about  amy and nikki would you tell them i think amy and nikki probably had some dates in high school or college or whatever and they get turned off and then they found each other and that's how it ended case closed