“Weâ€™re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if youâ€™ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect thereâ€™s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isnâ€™t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problemsâ€”the ones that make you truly who you areâ€”that weâ€™re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what youâ€™re looking for. Youâ€™re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: it's got to be the right wrong personâ€”someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, â€œThis is the problem I want to have.â€�I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.”
— Andrew  Boyd,