If my wife andI are separated, can she use a friend for day care who charges more than the before and after school program charges?
Okay so this is what you need to do.  You need to find alternative programs - both for one to one care and for group care that is highly rated and affordable -  so that you can come to court armed with the ability to show the Judge that this amount for day care in not usual and customary and that it is an unreasonable alternative for your child.  You need to do a little research and leg work.  Contact agencies that place Nanny's or sitters.  This is the only way that you can show the court that this is a sham and really meant to gauge you.  e calm and just mater of fact.  Present the evidence in a clear and concise manner for the court to look at. Good luck.