Are martyrs sometimes pleasers?
The martyr is similar to the pleaser. The martyr makes sure you know she's sacrificing herself for you, and for everyone else too, everyone but herself. People who fall into this category are loud. The martyr is committed to being unhappy and to being the victim. This person does not accept your help, you will do it wrong anyway, she will have to clean up after you, and so on. In truth, she does not want others to have the burden that is hers.