Iv tried for a couple months to make this work. First off, the pillow is too heavy and difficult to move into a comfortable position, especially in the middle of the night after a restroom break. You simply cannot easily and quietly return to bed and reestablish the comfort position. Secondly, the thickness of the pillow between your legs is too much and even after it compresses to its smallest thickness, it is not enough and becomes irritating. Good concept that needs refining. This was a BOGO purchase and now we have two retired pillows