I will update this.  But I wanted to share, packages are heavy I drag them in place to open, labeled "weathered pine" open all 3 boxes and it's exactly the "grey" as pictured on website, very nice BUT NOT WHAT I ORDERED.  So I don't blame Wayfair, it was clearly mispackaged.  10 minutes with nice Tyler at customer service on phone, clear language easy to understand, but he couldn't tell me when I would get replacement over the phone, so I don't know.   
 IN the pic on left I put a shiny copper penny for color contrast and the plain pine packaging too, so you can gauge the color (and not have a "The Dress" expereince) Yes weathered pine will have a grayish/white wash but I looked at pics of bed online and it's clearly the pure "gray."  
Will update as this gets solved!

Pros: Looks sturdy, have to wait and see
Cons: Wrong color sent