I love this mattress! I have slept better than I have in a long time. I tried out many in person and found this particular one to be the most comfortable. It is firm, (extra firm) and does not seem to sink when cuddling with my spouse. At least not yet. I am hoping it lasts many years. This is definitely not a soft mattress but is very supportive. If needing a softer feeling it would be possible to add a thin topper, but so far I have not needed that. Get deep sheets for this.