When I first laid on this mattress I was in love. I thought it was perfect. After about a week the mattress got super super soft. I wish it would've stayed like it was in the beginning because now it's too soft for me. Maybe I should've gotten the firm. It would be nice if you knew how the mattress was going to feel when you laid on it at the store. But this one definitely softens up 'a lot' over time. Now I'm stuck with an expensive mattress and I'm just gonna have to get used to it.