This pillow is awesome! At first it felt very high, but your head will sink right in and it's so cozy. It was great for side sleeping, but at first, not so comfy for back sleeping. After a few uses the pillow has flattened a little and it's perfect for back and side sleeping. It did get even flatter after a couple weeks, but I was able to fluff it back up easily. I haven't washed it yet, but really appreciate that it says I can throw the whole thing in the wash.