The line between these two commands is drawn where one is being asked to comply with one principle in such a way that it will violate the other principle or command. When the meddling of a parent violates the “leaving” because it is treating the parent-child relationship as primary (demanding obedience, dependence, or emotional oneness over the desires of, dependence upon, or oneness with the spouse), it should be respectfully rejected and the spouse’s desires honored. However, when there are genuine needs of an aging parent (either physical or emotional, assuming the emotional “need” does not supersede the “leaving” principle), that need is to be met, even if one’s spouse does not “like” the parent-in-law.
Kung ang panghihimasok ng magulang ay nakakasagabal sa pagiwan dahil itinuturing na pangunahin ang relasyon ng magulang sa anak (at hinihingi ang katatapatan, pagsunod, pag-asa sa magulang na higit sa pakikisama sa asawa) dapat itong tanggihan ng may paggalang at higit na pahalagahan ang kagustuhan ng asawa. Gayunman, kung totoong may malubhang pangangailangan ang matandang magulang (maging ito man ay sa pisikal o emosyonal na hindi naman makakaapekto sa pagsasama ng magasawa), dapat na katagpuin ng anak ang mga pangangailangang ito kahit na hindi gusto ng asawa ang kanyang biyenan.