From: ftlao@acad3.alaska.edu (OSSANDER LINDA A)
Subject: Re: Over 40 and single....Anyone that "OLD"?
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Date: Thu, 24 Dec 1992 18:19:00 GMT

In article <1992Dec23.120548.834@sjh.org>, tuell@sjh.org writes...
>You guys are cracking me up.  Everyone is so hung up on age...especially women
>..  I am 36 and granted society forces us into two choices.  You can either go 
>with the aging process and whine about how men are attracted to younger women 
>or you can get off your butt and exercise.  Louise...I don't know you but I 
>can tell you this....if you work at your body you will feel good about 
>yourself.  I have a teen-age daughter and a 9 year old son.  I am very 
>physically active...I bike, I dive...I rollerblade with my kids.  I keep 
>dating guys much younger than me because most of the men my age are too drab.  
>They complain about their ailments.....they just bore me.  I am sure that's 
>how monay people feel...not must men...  
> 
>I too get down about getting old.  But don't just sit back and whine..if you 
>are unhappy about it then do something.  Beleive me...if you are young and 
>vibrant of heart and take care of your appearance men of all ages will be more 
>attracted to you because of your level of maturity and wisdom...but you have 
>to lighten up.  Try dating younger men yourself!  I have girlfriends that are 
>in their 20's....I like them but you are right Louise...alot of them are 
>difficult to talk to because they are still gaga about men.  And you are right
>...many of them want a daddy...but not all of them.  It depends on the woman.  
>My husband left me for a younger women after 16 years of marriage.  I am glad. 
> I am having much more fun and he is miserable because he hangs out in singles 
>bars and lives a completely airhead existance.....he wanted sex with young 
>women and than's what he got.....lots of it...he is gorgeous and rich and the 
>young women tell me he is "hot".  
> 
>If you see men that are into that then let them be.....you aboviously wouldn't 
>want them anyway.  If you are having trouble meeting men then I will suggest 
>Scuba Diving.  I started it because I always wanted to learn ...but what a 
>great way to meet people!  Try some new activities.  Join the "Adventures 
>Club".
> 
>In article <1992Dec16.222040.27360@cbnewsi.cb.att.com>, gadfly@cbnewsi.cb.att.com (Gadfly) writes:
>> In article <1992Dec14.211229.25807@cbnewsk.cb.att.com>,
>> krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith) quotes Louise Billi:
>>> >Over 40 (just a tad) women have a terrible time of it.
>>> >Men in that age group are all looking for the young "Tenderoni"
>>> >to make him feel like a kid again.  Can't men realize that 
>>> >most younger women see them as either a "Father Figure" or
>>> >a "Sugar Daddy"?  Is that what they really want in a mate?
>> 
>> No, but some find the attention very reassuring--and at a time
>> when they are not feeling otherwise reassured.  It's a fetish,
>> a neurosis, and one you're probably just as glad not to be bothered
>> with.  When they figure out their place in the universe, they'll come
>> calling.
>> 
>>> Wherein is it written that an over-40 woman must set her sights on
>>> over-40 men only?  If you keep your eyes open, you just might find
>>> that there are younger men about who may find you attractive.
>> 

Lots of good stuff deleted..

YES!!! I am begginning to think like this..Besides the younger guys give a lot
more attention and seem to be very much more cuddly than some of the "Older"
guys.  I am not saying that I will marry one but if I do sooooo what??  I know
a lot of men my age marry a woman who is 20 years younger than him.  

I feel in this day and age people need to check out all their options.  Not
just people their own age.  I know I am not going to let age matter in my life
anymore. <as long as they are over 18>   ;-)

Merry Christmas everyone!

                           -Linda-

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