From: stuarta@syd.dms.CSIRO.AU (Stuart Andrews)
Subject: Re: Does Anyone Get over Being Lonely
Organization: CSIRO Division of Mathematics and Statistics, Australia
Date: Sun, 15 Nov 1992 22:51:47 GMT


> It has been 2 months and 10 days since my girlfriend of 3 and a
> half years has broken up with me.  After begging and pleading and

I found the begging and pleading doesn't work. Methinks tho, you 
have to do it once to learn. And it is hard, you wonder how you will
ever live without her/him.

> even calling her about 4 weeks ago (like a dummy), I was wondering

Like a dummy yes, but you ain't you in this state. You will do that for
a while... but you *will* get over it...

> if you ever get over feeling lonely or missing that special 
> someone to share life with?

YES. I can state conclusively that you will. It mat take a bit longer
2 months and 10 days, but you *will*.

I don't try to forget. You can't stop loving someone you have loved so
much, you will always have a place in your heart for them. Remember
the good times, try not to dwell on them...

I like to listen to soppy songs... Relive memories...

stuff like...

"and number three is never say her name..." Flame Trees, Cold Chisel

"and call you when your man is out of town..."
and
"but many years have passed and with them the right I ever had to 
Feel this way" Comic Conversations, John Farnam...

and kid myself with stuff like...

"I don't wan't to lose you now...
Were gonna get through somehow..." Gloria Estefaan

but the bottom line is...

"there is no-one to blame
 it's just not the same
 and its never gonna be the same again..."

You have to convince yourself...

"You know it's over and you've got to say good-bye"

and 

"pray for the strength just to carry on...
 you've got to let go, of someone you've loved so long..."

Tough, I know (believe me, I *know*)

Still, methinks...

"It's such a shame when lovers become strangers...
 such a shame when you don't love each other anymore..."

(All those last quotes: "It's such a shame", Cher)

but, as the late, great, Ned Kelly said (on an entirely
different subject)...

"Such is life"

OTher important thing is not to lock yourself away feeling sorry
for yourself never meeting people or enjoying life - that *will*
make it take longer.

You will need to do that sometimes, reminisce, cry yourself to
sleep (it works for me) and so on. But you *must* live your life,
hard as it is.

And before you quite know it... someone else *will* pop into your
life (I *can* vouch for that too (Hi Kezzle!)) or, to quote Cher
again...

"When love calls your name
 there is no saying no
 you follow your heart
 wherever it goes..."
                       (When love calls your name, Cher)

Good luck my friend, and take heart. It *does* get better. That
I *promise* you...

stuartb

-- 
  "Two to the power of one hundred thousand to one against.
    That's pretty improbable you know" (Ford Prefect)

"I do not agree with what you say, but I will fight to the death
 for your right to say it" (Voltaire)
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Stuart Andrews (stuarta@syd.dms.csiro.au)
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