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From: jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton)
Subject: Seesters, I want the seesters.
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: na
Date: Wed, 26 Aug 1992 12:47:28 GMT

In article <1992Aug25.191232.127893@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu> jm0i@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu (JOSEPH ALOYSIUS MCVEIGH) writes:
>>I've read that men's sexual orientations/preferences are in general more
>>rigid than women's. What do you guys say? Do you have a single "type
>>preference" that has existed unchanged since your first sexual experience?
>
>My standards regarding height, hair, eyes, physique, character, personality -
>basically everything - has been in a constant state of flux. The only constant
>has been "easy".

 Might they have any sisters, my good man?
 
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From: wjb@moscom.UUCP (Bill de Beaubien)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Oh, no! Statistics! Run!! :-)
Date: 28 Aug 92 18:57:51 GMT
Organization: Moscom Corp., Pittsford, NY
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Larry Margolis (margoli@watson.ibm.com) wrote:
: In  <1992Aug25.004519.16716@nuchat.sccsi.com>  kevin@nuchat.sccsi.com (Kevin Brown) writes:
: >
: > >It's not the car. It's not the driver. It's the tools.
: >
: > Hmm...wonder if women go for guys with Sears Craftsman tools.  :-)
: 
: No, women like men with Snap-On tools.  :-)

This is probably too easy, but what about Rigid Tools?
-- 
"Bless me, Father; I ate a lizard."
"Was it an abstinence day, and was it artificially prepared?"
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: ksloan@crchh791.BNR.CA (Kerry Sloan)
Subject: Re: Working at a Relationship
Reply-To: ksloan@crchh791.BNR.CA (Kerry Sloan)
Organization: "Bell Northern Research - Richardson, TX"
Date: Thu, 03 Sep 1992 21:10:25 GMT

Hi Liz,

I read your post and thought I would add my $0.02 worth. I will
start by trying to define what "I" feel working at a relationship
is. To me, working at a relationship means (primarily) two things;

1) HONESTY (like you said) is probably the most important aspect.
I always "lay my cards on the table" which is sometimes mistaken
for being pushy or forward. But that is how I am. 

2) COMPROMISE - No matter how compatible a couple are, there will
always be disagreements or controversy. Whether it be which movie 
to go see or what position to try tonight. But the key (also as you
said) is to decide where to draw the line in a compromise. One wants
to give up a little for their SO but giving up too much allows one 
to lose their individuality in the relationship. If one does not
give up any, then the partner is forced to either give up too much
(thus giving up individuality) or fight. Personally, I hate fights
and will do almost anything to avoid one.

What you said about working at a relationship and not feeling good
about yourself is usually a sign of too much/little compromise?
Although, I feel that one must look for these signs in the other
partner as well. If your SO is showing these signs, maybe you are
not trying hard enough to find "the line". Also, from a recent 
experience, sometimes the SO can be trying too hard and letting
their feelings hinder their judgement thus allowing them to 
definitely compromise too much in order to "save the relationship".

For us single parents, Liz, there is also that ever-important third
party to consider too. I try to follow a basic rule-of-thumb concerning
my son...the person I am dating must also "date" my son. I try to 
involve him in as much mutual activity as possible. I try to take him
with me on "dates" as much as possible. This (hopefully) does not make
him feel less important or "in the way". Also, to me, the relationship
the other person has with my son is very important to me. If they do 
not get along very well, then I would probably move on. My son has
first priority in my life now. I think that is part of the reason why
he lives with me now instead of his mother. She immediately initiated
another serious relationship, including her and my son moving in, and
I think that he felt less wanted as she was now sharing her time between
him and her new beau. That would normally be ok, but I think she had
her priorities mixed up a little and tried to hard on the boyfriend
relationship while letting my son kinda tail along.

Anyway, enough personal stuff on the net. Hope you all enjoy! and
remember, this is all IMHO.

Kerry

P.S. Write back soon, Liz!


Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams)
Subject: Re: Diamonds
Organization: Trinity College, Dublin
Date: Thu, 3 Sep 1992 09:15:33 GMT

In <5068@news.duke.edu> diamond@acpub.duke.edu (Elizabeth Abrams) writes:

>In article <1992Sep2.181953.20637@beaver.cs.washington.edu> dbj@cs.washington.edu (Dave Johnson) writes:
>>In article <1992Sep2.073804.19451@zooid.guild.org> ross@zooid.guild.org (Ross Ridge) writes:
>>>I'd say keep the name and find a better song.  Maybe Pink Floyd's
>>>"Shine on you Crazy Diamond", or the Beatle's "Lucy in the Sky with
>>>Diamonds".
>>
>>Or how about David Bowie's "Diamond Dogs", or Joan Baez's 
>>"Diamonds and Rust"?  Whoops, getting a little depressing again.
>>-- 
>>  Dave Johnson

>I like "Diamonds and Rust", and although it is a depressing song, it's
>not anywhere near as depressing as "Diamond Smiles".  Hm.  It's a thought.
>I've never heard "Diamond Dogs", as I'm not really a Bowie fan.  "Lucy
>in the Sky with Diamonds" and "Shine on You Crazy Diamond" are good songs

	Then there is also "Diamonds are forever" (the James Bond movie
soundtrack, can't remember who sang it...was it Shirley Bassey?) or
"Diamonds are a girl's best friend" sung by the incomparable Marilyn
Monroe (my favourite! *GRIN* )

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: watson@hpcvcah.cv.hp.com (Jeffrey Watson)
Subject: Re: men in their thirties who never dated
Organization: Hewlett-Packard Company, Corvallis, Oregon USA
Date: Fri, 28 Aug 1992 22:03:34 GMT

jmd@bear.com (Josh Diamond) writes:
: 
: Spidey!!! here...
: 
: From the way you phrased your message I get the feeling that you are
: using your history as an excuse for not making the things you want to
: happen actually occur.  It's not good or bad -- but just an excuse to
: avoid taking a risk.  You indicate that you are uncomfortable in
: taking the risk of approaching women.  Is it possible that the beliefs
: you have about yourself are keeping you from what you want?  Could
: it be that you have become more comfortable in being alone than are
: going out and chancing rejection?  I think this is probable -- judging
: from my own experience.  Perhaps you should reexamine your beliefs
: about yourself...

One of the biggest fears I have is that I won't know what to say.  What
I usually do is to compliment them on some feature that I found
particularly attractive--their smile or their eyes for instance.  It
usually comes out all wrong, and I turn red and look at the ground a
lot.  Luckily these women found it endearing and cute.  Of course now
that I have found a secret weapon that works for me, I will probably be
overconfident the next time and get turned down cold.  Oh well.

Jeff
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: buick@belay (Patrick D. Buick)
Subject: Re: Powerful forces of nature conspire
Organization: Belay Enterprises Inc. Calgary, Alberta, Canada
Date: Wed, 2 Sep 1992 04:50:11 GMT

In article <ewillims.715001870@unix1.tcd.ie> ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
>In <1992Aug27.104954.26803@uwm.edu> markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark) writes:
>
>
>>It was 60 in February and it doesn't snow much here anymore.
>
>>And that's no joke.
>
>	No snow???  Well, that's another one crossed off my list 
>of places to live!
>
>	What is the point of living somewhere you can't 
>occasionally look out the window and see white flecks of 
>silence blanketing the world?  Or be able to roll around
>in it and laugh with the sheer joy of living?
>Or build snow people and fortresses and have snowball fights?
>Or sled down hills and plough into high drifts at the bottom
>spraying white powder everywhere so you have to blow it
>off your eyelashes?
>
>Or be adventurous and stand outside in a blizzard with the driving
>wind and snow flakes streaming against your face?
>Or cuddle up afterwards by a roaring fire inside, smiling and drinking
>hot chocolate laced with brandy, while the wind howls outside and the
>snow pummels against your window and you watch your dreams in the
>flames of the fire?
> 

If'n it makes you feel any better, it snowed here *last week*.... I
mean, I know the seasons are getting confused (we had 20 Celcius last
winter ++), but this is getting *ridiculous*.  Just a couple of days
before, we had 31 C... 

AAAGGHHH.. it's my last year, I can leave in 8 months.. but where do
I go???
:-)

Patrick
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From: jmd@bear.com (Josh Diamond)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: men in their thirties who never dated
Date: 28 Aug 92 17:20:39 GMT
	<l920vbINN6ic@news.bbn.com> <1992Aug27.075203.17222@dg-rtp.dg.com>
Organization: Bear, Stearns & Co. - FAST
In-reply-to: morton@rtpnet06.rtp.dg.com's message of 27 Aug 92 07:52:03 GMT


Spidey!!! here...

Craig, I saw your post, and realized that you have a lot in common
with the Spidey!!! of three years ago:

craig@kralizec.zeta.org.au (Craig Dewick) writes:
>I'm almost 24 years old, and I keep seeing my friends getting into serious
>relationships with the opposite sex but, possibly because of my upbringing and
>my responses to the way I've seen other people react, I cannot muster up the
>courage to approach women that I find attractive.

You cite your history (upbringing and previous failure?) as a reason
for your lack of confidence.  Why should your history have any bearing
on your success in approaching a woman today?  Remember that your
history is the past -- it only has bearing if you allow it to color
your perception of the present.

From the way you phrased your message I get the feeling that you are
using your history as an excuse for not making the things you want to
happen actually occur.  It's not good or bad -- but just an excuse to
avoid taking a risk.  You indicate that you are uncomfortable in
taking the risk of approaching women.  Is it possible that the beliefs
you have about yourself are keeping you from what you want?  Could
it be that you have become more comfortable in being alone than are
going out and chancing rejection?  I think this is probable -- judging
from my own experience.  Perhaps you should reexamine your beliefs
about yourself...

Your last sentence is interesting -- you say "I CANNOT muster up the
courage to approach women that I find attractive" (capitalization
added for emphasis).  On the contrary -- I believe that you DO NOT
muster up the courage.  The fact is that there is no invisible force
which sucks all the energy out of you body when you think about asking
a woman out on a date.  Only your beliefs about yourself are holding
you back.  When you DECIDE to muster up the courage, you WILL muster
that courage.  When you DECIDE that you are confident in yourself, you
WILL show up as confident, and be more successful.  And when you
DECIDE that you are attractive, and that women might want to go out
with you, they WILL.

				You can...

					Spidey!!!



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From: pjb4288@ultb.isc.rit.edu (Pete - Toonatic - Boulay)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Finding Romantic Partners (on the net)
Date: 23 Aug 92 20:54:40 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: Rochester Institute of Technology
Originator: pjb4288@ultb

I think I'm on the verge of my penpal turning into my lover. We've been talking
and writing letters (realmail) for about 2 months now and a camping trip is
in the works.

Also the only letter I've gotten with perfume on it....*sigh* :)

Pete
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Email should be sent only to PJB4288@ritvax.isc.rit.edu
Disclaimer: You don't like what I'm writing? Oh well.
"Well shut my mouth wide open!"- Tiny Toons HISMV
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow)
Subject: Re: Finding Romantic Partners (long)
Date: Thu, 27 Aug 1992 20:32:32 GMT
Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
X-Disclaimer: This message was written by a user at CONVEX Computer
              Corp. The opinions expressed are those of the user and
              not necessarily those of CONVEX.

In <BRUCE.92Aug26161342@suprenum.supr.scm.liv.ac.uk> bruce@supr.scm.liv.ac.uk (Bruce Stephens) writes:

>>>>>> On 26 Aug 92 09:42:39 GMT, ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) said:

>> (trygve lode) writes:

>>>Trygve   (I'll provide plenty of chocolate sauce.) 
>> 	
>> 	Hmmmm.....maybe I'll come after all!:>

>I'm sure... No, I just can't bring myself to say it.

C'mon Bruce, how are you going to learn to hunt if you can't make an
easy kill like this one?  I mean, the punch line is begging you to
take it and use it.

Skilled posters don't waste great straight lines :-)

Rob T
--
Rob Thurlow, thurlow@convex.com
The sun is gonna shine again / We're gonna make it 'round that bend
I'll walk another mile with you, 'cause you're my friend
The sun is gonna shine again.			- Graham Parker
From: jm0i@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu (JOSEPH ALOYSIUS MCVEIGH)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Name That Diamond!
Date: 4 Sep 92 04:58:47 GMT
Organization: Lehigh University

diamond@acpub.duke.edu (Elizabeth Abrams) writes:

>Now THERE'S an idea.  However, I'm probably just not conceited enough to
>name myself after Michelle Pfeiffer, especially not after the character
>she played in 'The Fabulous Baker Boys'.  My ex would laugh himself into
>a hernia.  (I think the fact that I don't look much like Michelle Pfeiffer
>was one of the biggest problems in the relationship).

Be concieted...look whom I'm named after:

Joseph: 1) A guy whose pregnant fiancee was still a virgin (Save it. I'm
           Catholic, and let me believe it), and was sainted for believing
           that.
        2) The Yankee Clipper, one of the best player ever
        3) Toy Soldier.

Aloysius: The patron saint of youth.


>                               Diamond (Not the big muscular one, but
>                                        not the incredibly sexy one with
>                                        the singing voice.  Somewhere
>                                         in between).

The one with the big muscular singing voice?
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From: jm0i@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu (JOSEPH ALOYSIUS MCVEIGH)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Subtlety (was Re: Exactly what I mean by "unattached"...)
Date: 25 Aug 92 19:01:53 GMT
Organization: Lehigh University

lana@magenta.corp.sgi.com (Lana Mountford) writes:

>I've found that a reasonable, less "threatening" alternative come-on is
>the "tie a knot in the stem of a marischino cherry with your tongue" trick.
>Any time less than 20 seconds usually garners a few raised eyebrows. :-)

So were you the stunt stand-in for Sherilyn Fenn for that scene in "Twin
Peaks"?

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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: walter (Walter Lego)
Subject: Re: Where the best posts come from
Followup-To: soc.singles
Reply-To: nobody
Organization: Twisted Pair Inc.
Date: Mon, 31 Aug 92 14:58:43 GMT

In article <1992Aug31.080547.3513@nwnexus.WA.COM> enigma@halcyon.com (Matt Luders) writes:
>Keith Garrard writes:
>
>> A little note though, the most interesting posts come from "Angelwing".
>
>In my humble opinion, the most interesting posts come from stef@apple.com.
>She's thoughtful, articulate, and witty--a clear, strong signal in a
>cacophony of noise.
>

*SNORT* Emma gets my vote. The rest of the women just strut.

						Walter

What disclaimer?
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Finding Romantic Partners (long)
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Wed, 26 Aug 92 04:39:16 GMT

In article <ewillims.714669157@unix1.tcd.ie> ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
>In <1992Aug23.190419.8875@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>
>>In article <1992Aug22.001528.10517@fid.morgan.com> sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart) writes:
>>>In article <X26uPB1w162w@micor.ocunix.on.ca>
>>>graydon@micor.ocunix.on.ca (Graydon) writes:
>>>
>>>>I've had someone come up to me, smear chocolate sauce on my neck,
>>>>and proceed to lick it off.
>>>
>>>I don't care *why* it happens.  I just want to know *how* to make it
>>>(more likely to) happen.
>
>>I've found it helps a lot not to be wearing a turtleneck. 
>
>	I've found it helps even more not to be wearing anything at all!

Hmmm...I think we need to conduct careful experiments to determine which
technique is the most effective.  How's about you show up at my laboratory
wearing nothing at all and I'll be there without my sweater and we'll see
what happens?

Trygve   (I'll provide plenty of chocolate sauce.) 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Trygve Trolling
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Sun, 23 Aug 92 19:43:04 GMT

In article <1992Aug23.151643.13079@cbnews.cb.att.com> eleanor@cbnews.cb.att.com (eleanor.j.evans) writes:
>In article <1992Aug20.135045.2475@jarvis.csri.toronto.edu> allisson@turing.toronto.edu (H. Allisson Roome) writes:
>>In article <1992Aug19.222351.7041@cbnews.cb.att.com> eleanor@cbnews.cb.att.com 
>>(eleanor.j.evans) writes:
>>
>>>Well, he's got one waiting for him right here--just hasn't been out
>>>to claim it.  _Yet_.  (Trygve, there is an expiration date on these
>>>things, ya' know??)
>>>
>>>Piglet, blatantly Trolling for Trygve.  Again.  Ho-hum.
>>
>>And she knows what he looks like --  she's seen pictures taken by a
>>relatively unbiased person (me) - so it isn't just the net.personna
>>that interests her.
>>
>>Allisson
>
>Oh, gosh <blush>, Allisson, you're just exposing all my little
>secrets here, aren't you??

Well, it's only fair--after all, I've certainly wondered what you'd
look like with your "little secrets" exposed. 

Trygve   (Besides, you have me at a disadvantage--you know what I look
          like but I don't know what you look like.  After all, I'm 
          sure you'd much rather have me at a different disadvantage
          than that one.)
From: neilp@cs.hw.ac.uk (Neil Postlethwaite)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Homesickness!
Date: 30 Aug 92 11:47:55 GMT
Organization: Dept of Computer Science, Heriot-Watt University, Scotland

In article <1992Aug28.200247.32100@watson.ibm.com> motani@vnet.ibm.com (Muiz Motani) writes:
>
>Actually, I don't know why they are called Nanaimo Bars. These goodies are 
>typically West-Coast-Canadian, though. I seem to remember some anecdote about a 
>wife of a former Lieutenant Governor of B.C. coming up with the recipie.
>

Recipe please ????

Neil

P.S. Though on the original thread, I suppose the net can often act as a
     cure for homesickness. People to talk to on subjects of similar interest.
     - another reason to unlurk.
From: thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Homesickness!
Date: 30 Aug 92 00:53:03 GMT
Article-I.D.: convex.thurlow.715135983
Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
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In <SCHOCK.92Aug28170011@fsd.cpsc.UCalgary.ca> schock@cpsc.UCalgary.ca (schock) writes:

Hi Craig, nice to meet you.  Try to keep Getty honest, eh?  :-)

>So, where exactly is "home" for you two?

For me, home was originally a village in rural Saskatchewan with about
350 people (though you sometimes had to count the dogs to get up to
that level).  It is a service hub for the farming industry around that
part of the province, and as such has all of six (6) grain elevators
(pretty hot stuff, I tell ya).  It is about two hours south of The
City, Saskatoon, and maybe ten miles from the Saskatchewan River.

My second home, where my parents are still, is Campbell River, a
logging/pulp mill town on the east Vancouver Island about two hours
north of Nanaimo.  It's a nice town, and we felt like we hit the
big time with an area population of 25000 or so.  The pulp mill
paid for most of my education and my early music habit, and since
I didn't lose or irrepairably damage anything while I was working
there, I was great.

I was also in Vancouver for pretty much all of ten years for school
and my first two jobs, and that place certainly has many "home" ties,
too.  But I miss my friends a lot more than just the city.

Rob T
--
Rob Thurlow, thurlow@convex.com
Across the evening sky, all the birds are leaving
But how can they know it's time for them to go?		- Sandy Denny
From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Where the best posts come from
Date: 1 Sep 92 18:18:48 GMT
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <gwjn7=j@lynx.unm.edu> hays@TECHNET.NM.ORG writes:
>
>Well, *I* think that it's pretty hard to beat that 'Purple hays' guy...
>He's really entertaining.

Anyone that has the balls/gall/chutzpah/ability to suck up to himself 
deserves a perfect 10.0 on the suckup scale.

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| johnf@auspex.com                                                           |
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