From: abs0@coos.dartmouth.edu (Kelvin Leung)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.hongkong
Subject: Re: OPEN JUDGEMENT OF A "COLOR WOLF" (CLARIFICATION)
Date: 5 Oct 92 21:54:28 GMT
Organization: Dartmouth College, Hanover, NH

leoso@cs.arizona.edu (Leo WaiChung So) writes:

>In article <1992Oct5.051217.8705@uxmail.ust.hk> 
>bi_kin@uxmail.ust.hk (HoiFung JACK @>-`) writes:
>>
>>I guess i need to clarify that this "color wolf" may have sth. wrong
>>in his brain, he has a book recording all the girls' details, tel. no.,
>>major,...etc.  Meanwhile, he entered the girls' dormitory without permission,
>>his eyes are strange and awful, some girls said they feared in meeting his
>>eyes..etc....one night, a girl screamed loudly when seeing him in her room
>>suddenly.

>  Collecting information about girls has nothing wrong. But ...

>>Once, he asked a stranger (student) in the lift that if he could kiss her!

>  This is rather awful. I think he really need some psy therapy. BTW,
>  I bet he must have read a lot of "ham sub" Jap comics. 

>>Many many misbehaviors...There are still many examples.....
>>Maybe we need to send him to moral education centre or hospital.

>  I think it is better to suspend him from school for a while to 
>  receive some treatment. Also, it would be a better way for him
>  to hide away from the spot light.
>>
>>We students already judged him openly one night in the dormitory, all the
>>students come out and watched!!! but i feel it doesn't mend matters.
>>It rather hurts his self-respect, he admitted that he is wrong, "ham sub" and
>>can't control himself, etc..in front of all the students.  It seems unfair 
>>to him????   Maybe there will be adverse effect!

>  If he admitted that he's wrong, then give him a chance! If he still
>  do the same thing, then ... 

I am not sure whether suspending the person would alleviate his problem.
I wonder, is he a self-confident person?  does he have any friends at
all? (I imagine he doesn't have many female friends).  Depending on
what type of person he is, it might be benefitual to him (and perhaps the
campus) if he were to stay in school.  

If people in hkust dare to take a risk, I would recommend them to be with
this guy.  I suggest people (male and female included) to take an 
active role in accepting him.  Invite him to parties, hikings, picnics, 
and all kinds of social functions.  Allow him to get closer to female.  
Not just one or two, but many of them.  Let him understand that as long
as he controls himself, he will be accepted (and treated) just like any
regular person.  Through social functions, show him the "proper" ways of
dealing with people, female in particular.     

My suggestion might sounds a little silly.  Allow me to 
explain.  Most people (as I imagine) need friends--the same holds
true even for "social deviants" such as this guy.  People would do more
harm to him than good, if they were to set him apart from society and let
him know he is getting special therapy.  Of course, it would be appropriate
to let him understand he has a problem.  Nevertheless, it would be better
to let him know that he isn't alone, and his "illness" isn't incurable.

In a nut shell, if he is a reasonable person who just happens to be
struggling with sexual frustrations, treat him with love and respect.  

And of course, he should still seek professional help.  

My opinions only, please take it as a grain of salt.   Feel free to
comment.

Yours Sincerely,
Kelvin (who hardly knows anything, but is willing to help).

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