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From: dahead00@nx28.mik.uky.edu (Zippy F)
Subject: Re: Nice Guys?
Organization: University Of Kentucky, Dept. of Math Sciences
Date: Fri, 2 Oct 1992 03:48:00 GMT

In article <BvGHHs.88y@undergrad.math.waterloo.edu>  
ttocek@undergrad.math.waterloo.edu (Tomas (too much) Tocek) writes:
> >>>  I know a girl at MIT currently studying for her PhD in Physics
> >>>  Her specilization is quantam mechanics and this girl is on fire!
> >>>  Very beautiful, nice physical features, and a redhead to boot.
> 
> So? Did you talk to her? 
> This is what I used to say all the time: "Look at that chick, she's
> so good looking?"  But you have to learn how to look beyond physical
> attributes to find out what the PERSON is like.
> 
> After all what good is a gorgeous girl with no brain/personality ????

MIT => PhD => Physics => quantam mechanics ====>  no brain
Somehow I don't think so!!!!!!!!   read before you write
Later
PS If she was on fire did you call the fire department...  Spontaneous  
combustion is a dangerous thing... Read so in the National Enquirer...

Weebles wobble but they don't fall down - quote from my childhood
(sorry no sig here just senseless ramblings)
SAVE AMERICA SHOOT A SIG
From: kim@i812.enet.dec.com (Inq.)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Statistics?
Date: 29 Sep 92 20:54:31 GMT
Organization: Digital Equipment Corporation


Does anyone happen to have statistics on divorce rates for people w/
a college education?

How about the # of marriages for people w/ a college education wrt age?

I'm simply curious.
Organization: Freshman, CIT general, Carnegie Mellon, Pittsburgh, PA
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Date: Tue,  6 Oct 1992 15:51:45 -0400 
From: "Paul S. Hrynko" <ph2a+@andrew.cmu.edu>
Subject: Relationships and Sex

I posted this on Alt sex a bit ago, but I think that it's better suited
here.  If there are any responses or suggestions, let me know.

     There should be a time in life when we exit the seventh grade.  The
"she'll think I'm stupid if I talk to her" image no longer applies in
this "grown-up" world of college.  I feel sorry for my friends who go
around in a group of five, seeking female "prey" from the area to fool
around with and with whom to have a good time.
     There is so much more to life than sex.  Love is twenty million
times more important, functioning as the reason for existence.  Don't
"love the one you're with;" love the one you love.  Love conquers all
bounds.  When you love someone deeply and truly, you will be united with
them, two beings functioning as one.  You feel the warmth, the caring,
the devotion of another human being.  A one-night stand doesn't compare.
 Granted, it can be fun.  However, falling alseep with a member of the
opposite sex who you care about can be more powerful than screwing
around with him/her.  Life is emotion.





Paul Hrynko  (Ph2a@andrew.cmu.edu)
Box 4838
5115 Margaret Morrison
Pittsburgh, Pa.  15213-3831

Carnegie Mellon University  412-268-4303

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From: pa_ross@csd.brispoly.ac.uk (Mr Rossy)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Romance and Electrical System Principles
Date: 1 Oct 92 12:32:29 GMT
Organization: The magic roundabout, England

Dear all,

After studying Electronic systems for the past 5 years I have noticed that
principles that relate to the systems often relate to relationships.

IE,

1. Positive Feedback
--------------------

This is were something basically gets out of control,take the rabbit situation.
You start off with two rabbits and the you have 4 and then eight etc etc etc.
The system just carries on until it crashes. A similar incident occured between
my girlfriend and I. I thought she was being hurtful to me sometimes with the
things she said (Like I can't wait to go out tonight and pull myself a decen
guy) and so I would say something else later on to get her back, this would in
turn make her say something more hurtful and so it went on. A classic
example of positive feedback. (In the end I told her I was getting upset with
her comments and she said that she was upset with my comments so we called a
truce and everything went ok!). As a footnote positive feedback is the basis
of sinusoidal generators and these are the basis of radio communication.

2. Quiescent State
------------------

This is were something goes into tick over or a steady state. For instance if
you have a car engine and you leave it running without touching the accelerator
(Or should I say gas for our American friends?) the engine just trundles along
in it's quiescent state. Drawing a quiescent amount of fuel. Similarly in an
amplifier when no signal is applied the transistor is switched half on and
is therefor drawing a small amount of current, or is just ticking over.
I noticed the same thing occuring when my girlfriend and I were away for a 
period of time, ie holidays that sort of thing. We had the odd phone call or
post card but in the main the relationship went into a quiescent state or tick
over.


I'm now quite p*ssed off with all this typing so I'll leave it here,

				see yah,

					 Paul
					=----=
From: diana@com (CatWoman )
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Nice Guys?
Date: 27 Sep 92 15:02:15 GMT
Organization: Castle WetWare MouseCatcher

pi@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Raymond L. Gilbert) writes:

] In article <NEV.92Sep22095334@bonsai6.bnr.co.uk> nev@bnr.co.uk (Neil Vince) writes:
] >1. Will anyone own up to being a Jerk?
] Probably... see the other responses on that one.
] 
] >2. Is every bloke on this net a 'nice guy'?
] No, but I think there are a higher percentage of nice guys who are
] sitting here reading alt.romance instead of making their own romance.
] 
] >3. Do all you nice guys have the same problem?
] I don't know if all NGs have the same problem, other than the fact that
] we all have trouble getting dates.  I personally have worked hard to
] make sure women don't call me "nice"--the end result is that I get
] called "weird" by every woman I meet.  A refreshing change from nice,
] but it doesn't tend to help me get dates any more often.
] 
] >4. How many blokes are there in this group that have 'nice guy'
] >   syndrome
] I do.  That's probably why I'm at my computer responding to this on a
] Sat night instead of out, because I couldn't find a date for this week.

Raymond - I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but
with your last post wherein you said essentially
that "no women were exactly rocket scientists" 
and "you didn't want to go out with women unless`
they were interested in physics to the same degree
you are" (those are paraphrased quotes) just lost
you your NiceGuy<tm> designation.

The NG is ONLY interested in what the woman is 
interested in - no matter what HE wants to do.

Sorry - calling all women under-intelligent just
got you dumped into the Jerk pile.

Diana
From: patrickl@yang.earlham.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Anniversery Gift Suggestions?
Date: 3 Oct 92 06:43:33 GMT
Organization: Earlham College, Richmond, Indiana


	Hi!  My girlfriend and I are about to celebrate our first 
aniversery and I'm searching for ideas for a gift (or gifts.)  I'm 
trying to make our anniversery an extra special one and I'm at a loss for
ideas.  Any suggestions?


Tha Lessard 

patrickl@yang.earlham.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance,soc.couples
From: linda@wendy.net.com (Linda Hill)
Subject: Re: SWF's & SBM's - Does Society Worry Way Too Much???
Keywords: Mixed Dating. Jungle Fever. Love is Colorblind...
Organization: Network Equipment Technologies
Distribution: usa
Date: Fri, 2 Oct 1992 20:17:45 GMT

In article <1992Oct2.163407.22314@metter.fmpmis.metter.com> virgo@metter.fmpmis.metter.com (Paul Virgo) writes:
>
>You have white females going *gaga* over hispanic males...white males
                                                           ~~~~~~~~~~~
>crooning songs of love to blushing black females...asian females reading
 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
>love poetry to smitten black males...and it goes on and on...
>
>BUT...
>
>For some reason, when it comes to the coupling of black males/white females,
>more alarms and klaxons go off than during an attempted break-in at the NSC

>Arlington, VA 22202

Well, this may be true where you're from, but it sure isn't my experience.
I see more WF/BM couples than any of the other mixtures you cite (some of
whom are married), and no one bats an eye here.  In fact, my reading
indicates that it is the BF/WM combo that is unusual, the *theory* being
that a relationship with a WF empowers the BM while a relationship
with a BF diminshes the social status of the WM.

I don't agree with this, but it was put forward as an explanation of
why one sees WF/BM more than BF/WM.
-- 
Linda V. Hill                           Email: linda@net.com
Network Equipment Technologies          Phone: (415) 780-5785
800 Saginaw Drive, 23.2.3               Fax:   (415) 780-5001
Redwood City, CA 94063 
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ae498@yfn.ysu.edu (Dawn Bott)
Subject: I-love-you (was Re: waiting for the other)
Reply-To: ae498@yfn.ysu.edu (Dawn Bott)
Organization: St. Elizabeth Hospital, Youngstown, OH
Date: Sat, 26 Sep 1992 05:21:06 GMT


In a previous article, gcv2010@Msu.oscs.montana.edu () says:

>In article <1992Sep20.4651.14388@dosgate>, "kelly shinmoto" <kelly.shinmoto@canrem.com> writes:
>>L>Date: Thu, 17 Sep 1992 22:11:53 GMT
>>>I heard an interesting quote:
>>>"Whoever says, 'I love you' first loses."
>>>I think it applies, don't you?
>>
>>ML>Loses *what* ?  I've heard someone else comment that by saying 'I love
>>ML>you' you stand to lose a friendship.  You also stand to start a
>>ML>wonderful relationship.  It's a risk step, and the only way you'll ever
>>ML>know is to ask it and see what happens.
>>
>I gambled and I lost.  I'm curious if anyone ever wins.
>
This thread is an excellent example of how futile language can be
when it comes to expressing emotions and trying to bind human
relations.  It also reminds me of an essay I read long ago..and
loved.  It is called "I-love-you" by Dr. Robert Solomon.  Here
is a bit I thought was appropriate.  If you'd like the full essay,
feel free to email me and i'll either send it to you personally
or post it here (depending on the response).

""I-love-you" does not *express* my love.  It need not already
be there.  Perhaps I didn't feel it until I said it, or just
before.  But then in a sense, I didn't *say* anything at all...
"I-love-you" is an action, not a word.  It is not a short sentance.
Of course, it looks like a sentance, made up of words, but 
sentances can be transcribed and transformed..."I-love-you" has
no parts, no words to be rearranged or replaced...It stands
outside of language.  It says nothing.  If it is misunderstood,
it cannot be explained.  If unheard, it has not been uttered.
And when it is heard, it no longer matters that you didn't
mean to say it in the first place, that you just "blurted it
out."  You did it, and it cannot be undone...I could be silent
and just love you.  And perhaps you'd know.  I don't have to
say "I am so angry at you," when I have been yelling at you
for twenty minutes.  I don't say "I'm sad" when I've been
crying. Yet I feel compelled to say "I-love-you" even when it's
obvious that I do....The power of words, or at least of certain
works, sometimes is awesome. "I-love-you" is a magical phrase
that ruins the evening.  Or changes love into something more,
even when it was love before.  It is not an announcement, no
R.S.V.P.  No "if you please".....

"I-love-you":  a warning, an apology, an interupption, a plea
for attention, an objection, an excuse, a justification, a
reminder, a trap, a blessing, a disguise, a vaccuum, a revelation,
a way of saying nothing, a way of summarizing everything, an 
attack, a surrender, an opening, an end.  ""
-- 
"I am not young enough to know everything."  -- James M. Barrie
"I AM young enough to know everything."  -- James M. Hammond
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ksdavis@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (Karleenus Schwartz Davis)
Subject: Re: Topic of discussions in alt.romance
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Tue, 29 Sep 1992 19:47:41 GMT

In article <1992Sep29.172629.26543@ennews.eas.asu.edu> naveena@enuxhb.eas.asu.edu (Naveena Michael) writes:
>just stick to romantic stuff and keep out the rest.

You're barking up the wrong tree, people...the unusual posts we've
been seeing lately were primarily CROSS-posted from alt.sex by 
alt.sex regulars.  These people didn't hear your "please stop" 
messages because they don't read alt.romance.  It's much easier
to followup one of the messages with some REALLY asinine statements,
after removing alt.romance from the header, of course, so that they
all flame you to death in a group you never read.  :-)

-sz
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: American High School & bits......
From: demon@desire.wright.edu (Stupendous Man)
Date: 1 Oct 92 01:20:20 EST
Organization: Demonic Possesions, Inc.
Summary: American High School is training...but no one is sure what for :)

In article <BvC5v3.C69@kingston.ac.uk>, is_b420@kingston.ac.uk (Brendan Rooney) writes:
> 
> To all American readers:
> 
> 	Could someone pleeeeease explain to me about all this stuff in
> high school - y'know the school yearbook - the prom etc....  What does it all 
> mean? Does it mean anything? (No offence to anyone intended)  I see movies
> about some part of American life and it shows people looking in their yearbooks
> to see themselves in years past -- is it a requirement that everyone's face 
> appears there?   

	Usually.  You can avoid it if you really hate having your picture taken
:).

> What exactly is the prom?

	A very formal, year-end dance.  Sometimes limited to upper-classmen. 
(Seniors & Juniors).  Kind of a big party to celebrate leaving high school.  Or
just a big party if you aren't a senior :).

>      If someone could be kind enough to explain to a totally unknowledgeable
> guy (me) about all of it, I'd be chuffed!

	Sounds painful!

Brett                                                      
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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: william@syacus.acus.oz.au (William Mason)
Subject: Re: SO?
Keywords: erm
Organization: ACUS Australian Centre for Unisys Software, Sydney
Date: Wed, 30 Sep 1992 02:03:26 GMT

dewind@acsu.buffalo.edu (Idbil Fubar) writes:
>danny@nessie.mcc.ac.uk (Danny Graham) writes:
>>I understand what you mean by SO, but what does it actually stand for ?
>Significant Other

No, no, no ... it's

    Socialist Oliararchy


In a future past, will there be egrets and koalas,
                                                   William
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Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Read me, please.
From: peregrin@husc13.harvard.edu
Date: 1 Oct 92 10:07:07 EDT
Organization: Harvard Business School

In article <1992Sep30.220805.10004@bsu-ucs.uucp>, 01ksdavis@bsu-ucs.uucp (Rebel without a clue.) writes:
> 
> 	Used to deny having a problem.  Guess now I do.
> 
> 
> 	This is the second night in as many days that I have missed dinner
> because of a woman.
> 
> 	I WASN'T stood up, actually one time was my fault (spent too long talk-
> ing  to her, dining services was closed by the time I left.)
> 
> 	The other time, it wasn't my fault either.  She is really sick.
> 

	????  Maybe you'll lose weight...  Hey, I've missed more than
dinner because of a woman ...

-James
(you've seen the sig!)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: "Raistlin Majere" <p00139@psilink.com>
Subject: Re: Long Distance Romance...Problem
Organization: Tower of High Sorcery - Palanthas
Date: Wed, 30 Sep 1992 02:59:48 GMT
X-Mailer: PSILink (3.2)

>DATE:   28 Sep 92 10:14:09 -0300
>FROM:   01sybok@ac.dal.ca
>
>In article <1992Sep25.203045.879@csi.uottawa.ca>, kiisaka@csi.uottawa.ca (Ken Iisaka (the mad pianist)) writes:
>> I heard this many times:
>> 
>>      If you love someone, let him/her go.
>>      If s/he comes back, s/he is yours.
>>      If s/he doesn't 
>
>Hunt him/her down and kill him/her.
>Hey let's face it, that's romance in the nineties.
>
>Mike, and yes, I'm bitter.

	Hiya, Mike!!! Wow - you sure you don't know my ex? The
	"She-bitch of the Nether-Regions"? Hmmmm. Well, anyway,
	I spent a year in a relationship with a woman who was
	living in your very "self-same" city. 

	I spent quite a lot of time in Halifax (beautiful city,
	but the memories are all painful). So, must be the 
	weather up there, huh? Makes 'em all schizo...? Hmmmmm...

	I agree - hunt 'em down and kill 'em.....or at least make
	'em remburse you all the airfare........>:-|

......and I'm *more* than bitter enough for the both of us....
*****************************************************************************
	"And as to you, Catherine, I have a mind to speak a few words
	 now, while we are at it. I want you to be aware that I *know*
	 you have treated me infernally - infernally! Do you hear? And
	 if you flatter yourself that I don't perceive it, you are a
	 fool; and if you think I can be consoled by sweet words, you 
	 are an idiot; and if you fancy I'll suffer unrevenged, I'll
	 convince you of the contrary, in a very little while. Meantime,
	 thank you for telling me your sister-in-law's secret: I swear
	 I'll make the most of it. And stand you aside!"
					- Heathcliff, "Wuthering Heights"
*****************************************************************************
		Raistlin Majere @ Tower of High Sorcery - Palanthas
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From: tlr@penguins.East.Sun.COM (Tammy Roncadori - Administrator Sun Washington D.C.)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: SWF's & SBM's - Does Society Worry Way
Date: 6 Oct 92 10:54:09 GMT
Reply-To: tlr@penguins.East.Sun.COM
Organization: Sun Microsystems, Inc.
NNTP-Posting-Host: penguins.east.sun.com

Excerpt from keithg@cnmhnet. UUCP:

> A white married to an Asian is of no consequence in the south. 

I have to totally disagree.  I am from the deep south (Southern Georgia) and
those folks are totally offended when a white person marries anyone other
than another white person.  They are still living in the dark ages and progress
doesn't appear to be around the corner.  Don't get me wrong, there are
interacial couples but, their lives are not very easy or comfortable ones.

While I was serving in the Air Force stationed in South Carolina I worked
with a black guy whose wife happened to be white.  They never went to
any functions together (including functions on the base itself) and one day
I asked him why he never went anywhere with his wife  and he
replied that they get to much of a hassle because they had a mixed
marriage.
Newsgroups: alt.romance,alt.personals
From: c9221777@cc.newcastle.edu.au (Brother Redeye)
Subject: Re: Top Ten Statements Made by Women When Getting Out of a Relationship
Followup-To: alt.romance alt.personals
Organization: University of Newcastle, AUSTRALIA
Date: Thu, 1 Oct 1992 06:30:22 GMT

In article <1992Sep22.153757.4287@desire.wright.edu>, demon@desire.wright.edu (Stupendous Man) writes:
> In article <BuxytD.76o@mentor.cc.purdue.edu>, mshar@mentor.cc.purdue.edu (Mike Mshar) writes:
> ...
>> TOP TEN STATEMENTS WOMEN HAVE MADE TO GET OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS

[bottom 6 deleted]

>>
>> 4. It`s not your fault. It`s nothing you did. It`s me.
>> 
> 	I'M SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER GUY YOU IDIOT!!!
> 
>> 3. I just don`t want a boyfriend right now.
>> 
> 	I WANT THIS HUNK!!!!
> 
>> 2. I`m confused.
>> 
> 	AND I'M TRYING TO LET YOU DOWN EASY TO APPEASE MY CONSCIOUS
> 
>> And the number one answer...
>> 
>> 1. I just don`t know what I want right now.
> 
> 	And I'm desperately afraid that I'm missing something even better by
> staying with you!

Ah!  But you forget the line that always follows no matter what "We can still
be just good friends." (translation: I don't want anything to do with you but,
hey, stick around just in case I need something OR Gee I couldn't think of an
original line)

:)

> 
> Brett                                                      
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From: naveena@enuxhb.eas.asu.edu (Naveena Michael)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Romantic Moods
Date: 1 Oct 92 05:23:12 GMT
Organization: Arizona State University

Hi folks
	I recieved mail from atleast three people who all felt the same way as
I did, i.e that we should keep our discussions limited to romantic stuff.
But as one of them pointed out it could just be somebody from alt.sex
posting here too.

	Its not that we have a dearth of topics to discuss.  One excellent
topic I can think of is what is your ideal vision of a romantic situation.

O.K I go first....
	Well amongst OTHER things I can picture taking a looong walk in
moonlight on the beach,  hearing the waves lapping at a distance.....
	There !!!! I just let my imagination run wild. A quiet evening watching
T.V would also feel good I guess.
	There was something along these lines in alt.romance.chat too the last
time I read it.
Now its over to you folks....

Naveena Michael

P.S.  I must add that I have never tried any of the above. My SO is still in
the specification stages..Hopefully that will be over soon and I can get to the
design stages and finally the implementation.....(Does my interest in software
Engineering show...oops).