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From: alex@mentor.cc.purdue.edu ( )
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Explosions of Nature.
Summary: Warning:  You have 5 seconds to get to the minimum safety distance.
Date: 15 Oct 92 18:01:17 GMT
Distribution: alt.romance
Organization: Purdue University Computing Center


*Sigh*  Where to begin.  These days the feelings
of being in the middle of an impending explosion, something perhaps
on the scale of the nuclear blast in "Aliens" is growing more and more
within my mind to the point of my being able to easily conjure
a mental image of it.  Has this happened to anyone else?
Have you found that your violent impulses grow the more
you consider a situation that you're not sure of?

As a bit of background, I've been dating the same girl for
6 months now, and all but one of that has been as a long distance
relationship.  I transferred up to Purdue University to 
be an Electrical Engineer, from Indiana University where I
was a computer science/physics double major.

In this time, we have come to love one another very much, so 
much that not being near her hurts to an extreme.  First, I will
again note that we've only been dating for six months, and sometimes
I don't think feelings so deep should be present yet, but they are.
I came here for career purposes, with the transfer already in the
works before I started to date her.  Now I find that true
happiness may have lain where I was, not where I wanted to be, yet
I feel as if I'm running from the EE degree itself, running from being
on my own.  

The net result of this is a massive surge of violent emotions
which generally manifests itself when no one else is around,
mainly because I don't want to hurt anyone else.  And so 
I get these mental pictures of myself in the most destructive
places possible, the most spectacular explosions.

This happen to anyone else?  Any thoughts?

                                             -alex

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From: emanuel@dxcern.cern.ch (Emanuel Machado)
Subject: Re: When guys lose their tempers
Organization: CERN European Lab for Particle Physics
Date: Tue, 13 Oct 1992 18:43:36 GMT

In <1992Oct12.231200.12188@jetsun.weitek.COM> weaver@jetsun.weitek.COM (Michael Gordon Weaver) writes:

>No amount of verbal abuse should be sufficient to make someone
>so angry that they can't keep themselves from doing something
>as stupid as hitting their girlfriend.

        Hmm.  I'm not sure I agree with the way you put it,  Michael.  You
seem  to  imply  that one can abuse verbally at will any other person, and
claim that this is alright, let the other person abuse back but please  do
it VERBALLY if so s/he wishes.

        Why is verbal abuse better than physical abuse (as in hitting your
SO  -- lemme be more general)?  For me, both are forms of desrespect, both
can be A LOT damaging (sometimes verbal abuse can be MUCH more  damaging),
and neither should be present in a loving relationship.

	Just IMHO...

	Emanuel

-- 
Emanuel T.M. Machado (PPE/CPL)|  "Who Wills, Can     | European Laboratory for
  __                        _ |   Who Tries, Does    | Particle Physics (CERN)
 /_  ____   _   __  , , _  |/ |   Who Loves, Lives"  | -- Internet Address --
/_  / / / /_ < / / /_/ <'_ /_ |    -- Anne McCaffery | emanuel@dxcern.cern.ch
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: bena@yoyo.cc.monash.edu.au (Ben Aveling)
Subject: Re: How to tell if you are in love
Organization: Monash University General Access Unix
X-Newsreader: TIN [version 1.1 PL6]
Date: Sun, 11 Oct 1992 05:26:33 GMT

Frank Mogaddedi (frank@rniwi.rni.sub.org) wrote:
: 
: 	1.	A couple meets, moves together and lives together
: 		for thirteen (yes, 13!) years. They marry. They
: 		get divorced within 3 MONTHS!

Well, perhaps things were going bad anyway.  It happens.  And sometimes
someone says, "Perhaps if we get married things will get better."  Nope.

:-(

	Ben
From: kingsley@hpwrce.mayfield.hp.com (Kingsley Morse)
Date: Wed, 7 Oct 1992 23:47:48 GMT
Subject: Please Help
Organization: HP Western Response Center
Newsgroups: alt.romance

              Please answer these 9 questions and return.

1.) Do you think equal rights for men and women is generally a good idea?
Yes                  [ ]
Sometimes            [ ]
No                   [ ]
Haven't heard enough [ ]
Other                [ ]

2.) Are you pro choice?
Yes                  [ ]
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Haven't heard enough [ ]
Other                [ ]

3.) Are you in favor of adoption?
Yes                  [ ]
Sometimes            [ ]
No                   [ ]
Haven't heard enough [ ]
Other                [ ]

4.) Do you think men should be allowed to legally terminate their parental
rights and responsibilities before fetal viability?
Yes                  [ ]
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No                   [ ]
Haven't heard enough [ ]
Other                [ ]

5.) What sex are you?
Male               [ ]
Female             [ ]

6.) How old are you?
Under 18           [ ]
19 to 65           [ ]
Over 65            [ ]

7.) What religion are you?
Protestant         [ ]
Catholic           [ ]
Jewish             [ ]
Other              [ ]

8.) What political party are you affiliated with?
Democratic         [ ]
Republican         [ ]
Other              [ ]

9.) How many years of education have you completed?
Grade School       [ ]
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More               [ ]
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From: chyde@pecos.ads.com (Clinton Hyde)
Subject: Re: sexual peaks
Organization: Advanced Decision Systems, Mountain View, CA 94043, +1 (415)
	960-7300
Date: Tue, 6 Oct 1992 23:47:00 GMT


Annette and I make love more often now than we did five years ago, and
we are both 34. 

it's what you make it. I am no more/less interested now than I was,
but since she is now at home full-time, she's less burned out by her
work hours.

some of that 'peak' referred to is based on certain aspects of
physical/muscular development. as I undersstand it, the man's sexual
development stops around 18, whereas the woman's continues at least
until around 40. (why is this, do you suppose?)

just because you're older/younger shoudlnt' make much diff.

 -- clint
--

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Advanced Decision Systems/BAH	Internet:  chyde@chesapeake.ads.com
1953 Gallows Rd, Suite 600
Vienna, VA  22182-3934		(703) 902-7130
From: moore7004@iscsvax.uni.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Do I have ANY right?
Date: 14 Oct 92 21:51:45 -0500
Organization: University of Northern Iowa

In article <bacchus.719048980@mcl>, bacchus@mcl.ucsb.edu (bacchus@mcl.ucsb.edu) writes:
> Well, let's keep this quick.  Here's the deal:
> I _just_ broke up with my girlfriend because we are 300+ miles apart. She is
> very lonely, and wants to see other people. I said "go ahead" because I felt
> that it was no right of mine to tell her otherwise, and I told her how I felt,
> and why I said what I did.  Now here is the problem: The first person that she
> gets together with is my BEST FRIEND!  

Well, bacchus@mcl.ucsb.edu, let me tell you a little story.  My best friend was
once dating a woman that I found to be very attractive.  When the two of them
broke up, she and I began seeing each other, and I saw absolutely nothing wrong
with it.  After all, they had already stopped seeing each other, I had nothing
to do with *that* situation, and I was happy.  My best friend expressed nothing
to me about dissatisfaction.  Then, weeks later, the woman gave up on me, and
returned to my best friend.  And I was furious, I felt betrayed and angry and
the whole bit.  Still, the beautiful irony of the situation was enough to force
me to compose myself, and I managed to grin every time I saw the two of them
together.  And I expressed nothing to my best friend about dissatisfaction.  In
the end, they broke up, and he and I are still good friends today, and in our
circle, the woman has earned the unfortunate nickname of "Yo-Yo," but my point
is, true friendships will survive this sort of thing, that's how you know
they're true friendships.  Heck, I even talk to Yo-Yo when I see her, she's
still a great person...
From: coleman@rocky.cs.ucla.edu (Mike Coleman)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Am I in Love?
Date: 16 Oct 92 03:39:49 GMT
Organization: UCLA, Computer Science Department

marcia@netcom.com (Marcia) writes:
|I've been in situations where we both liked each other and tried going out,
|but we just liked each other too much to fall in love.

Ack!!

The obvious (if ungrammatical) question here is

   Just how much can you like someone and still fall in love with them?

:-)

-- 
--Mike Coleman (coleman@cs.ucla.edu), Lord High Executioner of Anhedonia-----
		    Where are you when I need you, Nikki?
From: bhchan@soda.berkeley.edu (Billy H. Chan)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: What's going on??
Date: 16 Oct 92 05:42:32 GMT
Organization: U.C. Berkeley, CS Undergraduate Association
NNTP-Posting-Host: soda.berkeley.edu

In article <1992Oct16.020243.806@jetsun.weitek.COM> weaver@jetsun.weitek.COM (Michael Gordon Weaver) writes:
>In article <1992Oct15.185719.21986@news.acns.nwu.edu> lls@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Lori Smallwood) writes:
>[ She meets a nice guy and 5 days later get invited to go to Hawaii ]
[Mike thinks he's moving too fast, that she should look at his actions to
better gauge how he really is.  And that not going might make him more
interested in her if he's already interested in her]
>Michael.

I agree with Mike.  Except for that last part... I personally don't like
'game's in relationships (so sue me, I'm boring...)  But he does have a
point.  Before you decide, think about how he has acted these past few
days with you.  Does his actions speak truly, or are there any underlying
(shoot, forgot the eloquent word...'scheme' will have to do for now)
(true, most guys have an underlying plan of sorts, but from your point of
view, make sure you don't mind this underlying plan, if he has one...I
tend to be cynical.  Hope I'm not scaring you, but I'd hate to see anything
bad happen to anyone...esp if I'm giving advice)
But, if you feel comfortable with this guy, and you
think well about his personality, then go for it.  If either of these
things are a little shaky, then I have to admit I'd tell you not to go.
It's a strange world, and sometimes, you have to take risks, but in the
end, it's your choice.
I'm glad that Someone-Upstairs is looking after you.  
-- 
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Just Babbling   <bhchan@soda.berkeley.edu>   state of confusion"
Disclaimer 1:   I'm actually a really nice person. (sorta) :) ;)
From: feirtag@i5120b.nrl.navy.mil (Fred Feirtag)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Army Boots?
Date: 8 Oct 92 22:10:57 GMT

In article <1992Oct7.193217.8004@ac.dal.ca>, isar@ac.dal.ca writes:
|> 
|>     What's this rabid feminist bashing around here??? Get a clue, people...
|> 
|>   Being a feminist doesn't mean we think we're superior, or even exactly the
|> same in every biological/sociological aspect.  It means that we want as much
|> recognition for what we are and what we do as men have for what they do and what
|> they are.  We want to have the opportunity to strut our stuff w/out being run
|> over by the sexist jokes or hitting the glass ceiling; we want to truly SHARE
|> the power base.  Fair enuff, eh??
|> 

Well I don't think sexism is about being "fair."  If you're a sexist (or
a raceist, or whateverist) then you're about favoring your sex (or race)
at the expense of the other sex.  It means that if you're of my sex, then
I want you to have the job/promotion/whatever and not give it to someone
of the other sex.

I'll credit you with not being a feminist, based on what you said mostly
being in favor of fairnesss.  Possibly you just made an unfortunate choice
of a word.  Do you believe that sexism is wrong?  How can you not think
that feminism is "the form of sexism which unfairly favors the female?"
If you're a feminist who favors equality, then would you accept that men
who are "masculinists" also favor equality.

But equality is a tricky thing.  I've always associated the line in _King_
Lear_:  "Only we still retain the name and all the additions to a king." with
feminists.  I've met a lot of women who want to achieve all of the traditional
benefits of being a man but not loose the traditional benifits of being a
woman.  They try, unrealisticly, for the best of both worlds and, sadly, seem
to end up with the worst.  Lear failed too.

-- 

                              | "Santa Fe destroyed many of it's historic
Fred Feirtag                  |  buildings by covering them up; Albuquerque
Naval Research Lab, Code 5120 |  just tore them down.  As a result, Albuquerque
Washington, DC  20375         |  is a city with amnesia, a place with a 
feirtag@wave.nrl.navy.mil     |  fascinating past and almost no collective
(202) 404 - 8502              |  memory.  It committed a cultural lobotomy
                              |  on itself."          --V.B. Price
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: kirsten@garfield.cs.mun.ca (Kirsten Starcher)
Subject: Anyone know where to find a stuffed "Opus"?
Organization: CS Dept., Memorial University of Newfoundland
Date: Sun, 11 Oct 1992 01:42:00 GMT

Subject line pretty much says it all.  I just remembered my SO saying a while
ago that he'd really like to have a stuffed Opus the Penguin (ala Bloom 
County).  The It Store used to carry them, but that was a good couple of years
ago, and though I've looked, I've never seen them.

Can anyone tell me someplace from where I could order one, or does someone have
an Opus (in good condition) that would like to travel?  I'd like to get one in
time for our anniversary (Nov.28) or Christmas.  

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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: naveena@enuxhb.eas.asu.edu (Naveena Michael)
Subject: Summer Romance
Organization: Arizona State University
Date: Thu, 8 Oct 1992 03:03:03 GMT

Dawna
	My sincere advice to you would be to break it up with this guy.
If he hasnt written even after your two letters, it seems like he is not
really interested in you... I think you should try to forget about the whole
thing ( which is easier said that than no doubt) and find someone else for 
yourself.  Start seeing other guys. 
	Hope that little bit of advice helps
Take care
Naveena Michael

Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: baptiste@bnr.ca (Michael Baptiste P275)
Subject: Re: Long Distance/HS-College Relatinshps.
Organization: Bell-Northern Research, BNR-RTP 
Date: Mon, 12 Oct 1992 13:23:19 GMT

In article <1992Oct12.051052.25520@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu>, ncole@nyx.cs.du.edu (Noah Cole) writes:
|> I am involved in a relationship with a girl at home in New Hampshire who is in her Junior year of High School.  I started my first year of college here at
|> Macalester in Minnesota this past August.  My phone bill is very large and I
|> am really trying to keep this relationship alive.. I think.  Everything I hear
|> (for the mst part) tells me to let it die because "they never work out: HS
|> vs. College" etc... But even though I do hear this I don't want to and I believe
|> it in my heart that it will not go on forever, I believe even deeper down that
|> It won't dire.. so here I am stuck.,  I don't know what I think.. but I think
|> that I am sure that I really love my girlfriend.  I won't even see her untill
|> Christmas and we don't know what time and distance will have done to our feelings.  Does anyone out there have suggestions for HS/College relationships?
From the sounds of it (Large phone bill, etc) you are trying too hard
If this relationship is right, it will continue even if you aren't
on the phone constantly with her.  Do things that may not cost much
but show you are thinking of her (cards, stuffed animals, random other
things, even letters)  A written letter can say a lot.  Let her know
that you are thinking of her, yet don't smother her.
I wish you luck, from past experience the LD relationships
don't work.  But, I've seen ones that have, so give it a try as long
as you feel it is still working.  Be open with one another
so that if one of you wants out, you don't beat around the bush
for months which will only make it hurt worse.

Mike


Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: weaver@jetsun.weitek.COM (Michael Gordon Weaver)
Subject: Re: What's going on??
Organization: WEITEK Corporation, Sunnyvale CA
Date: Fri, 16 Oct 92 02:02:43 GMT

In article <1992Oct15.185719.21986@news.acns.nwu.edu> lls@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Lori Smallwood) writes:
[ She meets a nice guy and 5 days later get invited to go to Hawaii ]
>My question is, what should I think?  I don't know if we'll end up going,
>but if we didn't, it still blows me away that he even *invited* me to a
>5-day trip to HAWAII.  Has this type of thing ever happened to anyone else
>before?  What do you think he's thinking right now?
>

Nice to hear from you again, Lori. I'm glag to hear that things
are going better for you than last time we heard from you.

To me it sounds like he is moving a little fast, but everyone is
different. I wouldn't worry too much about what he is thinking. It is
too hard to second guess people, and often people don't know
themselves. His actions will give you a better idea of how he really
is.

My only advice is that if you are not comfortable going on this trip,
don't be afraid to not to go. You will miss out on the fun, of course,
but if he is interested in you, and not just in having someone along,
then your being unavailable should make you seem more desirable.

Michael.
From: bhchan@soda.berkeley.edu (Billy H. Chan)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: "What are you thinking, dear?"?
Date: 11 Oct 1992 07:19:18 GMT
Organization: U.C. Berkeley, CS Undergraduate Association
NNTP-Posting-Host: soda.berkeley.edu

In article <1992Oct10.233316.10395@bsu-ucs.uucp> 01ksdavis@bsu-ucs.uucp 
(Rebel without a clue.) writes:
>	I know this was covered earlier, but I missed most of the thread as I
>didn't think it would apply to me.  Fortuantely, things change, and I am in a 
>situation now where I want to know as much about what was covered in this 
>thread that I am talking about.  What is this thread?

Darn, I missed this thread totally....must have been x'ed when I first
subscribed a few weeks ago...Oh well...
>
>
>	Why do you women ask us men what we are thinking?
>
You know, three different female friends usually ask me the same thing, at
different times (since we don't get together as one big group usually, and
since one was from HighSchool (but different College) and the other two I
met in college, and I've been semi-compiling some interesting/witty/"good"
answers....(if you don't care, press 'n' now)

1)	I'm thinking of you, dear.  (the 'dear' could be left out...)
	(This follows the theory that flattery can get you where truth
	would never)
2)	I'm thinking of how much I just spent, dear.
	(This follows the theory that if you speak the truth, with a
	big grin, perhaps you can get the message across subliminally)
3)	I'm thinking of how much fun we're having.
	(Irony sometimes work, but it must be subtle :)
4)	To stay alive.  (Follows the theory, I think therefore I am,
	I don't therefore I ain't)

Usually, my friends ask me the question when I'm unusally silent (as I
tend to babble), so they probably ask because there's nothing much else
to say.  Or, they're just nosy.  One of my friends used to give me a
penny for my thoughts (virtual pennies, though...else I'd be rich)
Anyway, enough bandwidth wasted...my Pnews program wouldn't be happy.
-- 
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Just Babbling   <bhchan@soda.berkeley.edu>   state of confusion"
Disclaimer 1:   I'm actually a really nice person. (sorta) :) ;)
From: keithg@cnmhnet.UUCP (keith garrard)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: SWF's & SBM's - Does Society Worry Way
Date: 8 Oct 92 23:14:10 GMT
Organization: California-Nevada Methodist Homes

In article <1arr8hINNogf@sixgun.East.Sun.COM> tlr@penguins.East.Sun.COM writes:
>Excerpt from keithg@cnmhnet. UUCP:
>> A white married to an Asian is of no consequence in the south. 
>I have to totally disagree.  I am from the deep south (Southern Georgia) and
>those folks are totally offended when a white person marries anyone other
>than another white person.  They are still living in the dark ages and progress

I have to disagree with you here.  An interesting example of people
not really caring about WM/Asian female couples was on a recent
Donahue Show.  The topic was people who only dated outside their race.
It was composed of blacks & whites who dated their opposites.  However,
there was one filipina [Female from the Philippines] who only dated
white males.  She told her reasons, and it didn't phase anyone.  The
audience was hassling the other guests.  In fact, toward the end of 
the show, even Phil Donahue apologized to the Filipina, for ignoring
her.  He again explained to the audience that she only dated white 
males, but the very next questioner went back to the black/white
couples.  I agree with you on one acount though.  That being that
one reason people tend to notice black/white couples so much is that
it's because theyare SO OPPOSITE.  Whereas, whites & asians aren't
so much differentiated, especially if the white person has a relatively
decent suntan.  
--Keith
From: marcia@netcom.com (Marcia)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: What to bring on a first date?
Date: 12 Oct 92 21:43:07 GMT
Organization: The Dolphin Conspiracy, Phase II

In article <92286.001619MBUTCHER@MIAMIU.BITNET> <MBUTCHER@MIAMIU.BITNET> writes:
>I have a question for everyone.  I have been out of the dating scene for about
>six years and now I find myself back in there.  My question is What is the
>best thing to bring on a first date?   Thanks for any and all advice.

A sense of humor. 
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"Sweaty Snugglebunnies."                                     mlb@cisco.com
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From: 01ksdavis@bsu-ucs.uucp (Rebel without a clue.)
Newsgroups: alt.romance,alt.romance.chat,soc.singles
Subject: Re: How long has it been?
Date: 15 Oct 92 00:37:21 GMT
Article-I.D.: bsu-ucs.1992Oct14.193721.10594
Distribution: na

In article <Ier0hPO00VoRBJ_JBU@andrew.cmu.edu>, earhart+@CMU.EDU (Rob Earhart) writes:
> peters@CS.ColoState.EDU (eric peters) writes:
>> So, if all you people have been kissed by an SO of some sort in the last 
>> 6 hours, What are you doing reading the singles group?
> 
>   Looking for romantic ideas for things to do with our RP's. :)
> 
>   -Rob
-- 
    Kissed and hugged affectionately throughout the day.  Can't wait till later
tonight...  But that's more personal and stuff like that.

    Also, I didn't notice it now, but this thread has been crossposted through-
out eternity (not really, just anything that might have to do with the subject.)

    SO, some of us could only being reading alt.romance and following up the 
thread and have it posted somewhere else without reading that newsgroup.  The
only reason why it seems we are reading your newsgroup is because both groups
share this common thread.  

    I have been alternating between here (alt.romance) and there (soc.singles)
because of this situation I have been in for the past two or three weeks.  

    She knows exactly how I feel.  

		.sig deleted because my computer is pouting now.