From: HF.GTD@forsythe.stanford.edu (Gabrielle Daniels)
Subject: Re: Interracial Dating
Organization: Stanford University, California, USA
Distribution: usa
Date: Mon, 12 Oct 1992 17:31:09 GMT

In article <1992Oct12.141113.10347@cbnewsk.cb.att.com>,
krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith) writes:
>
>What I am reading between the lines in both of these postings is the
>concept that, in an interracial relationship, the "races" of the partners
>is at the crux of the relationship, ie., the idea that a black man would
>date a given white woman because he wants/prefers white women, as opposed
>to the idea that people are people, and a given man and woman could meet
>and see something, each in the other, that they are attracted to, where
>"race" is a non-issue.  Personally, I would have my doubts about a person
>who, by their dating habits, shows a distinct anti-preference for their
>own "racial"/ethnic group, but, outside of that, love is where you find it.
>I also think that anybody thinking about entering into an interracial
>relationship really has their work cut out for them.  I am not talking
>any special problems in dealing with a partner of another "race", but in
>dealing with some other folx who see you together and don't like it.
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As for myself, I've dated white guys, but to tell you the truth,
some are worse than most, and vice versa.  Love is not always where
you find it. I prefer to give brothers a chance these days, but of
course, most of them are still rather white woman or
Asian/Chicana-Latina/or fill in the blank-struck.  I don't blame
the colored sistahs for this situation, seriously.  Any children
from such a union are still black children in my view.
.
For example, if you're a black male, and you've been propagandized,
etc., that a white woman is the epitome of womanhood, you're going
to go for her.  Then again, there is the preference number.  While
rereading "The Color Purple," I saw how Walker defined how Celie
turned towards women because of her molestation by her stepfather.
Notice that Celie didn't go for the next white woman down the road,
she went after a black sister. I think the rather simplistic moral
to finding love is, who is not going to hurt me?  If a black man
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you love is hurting you, do you consider all black men rats, or do
you keep trying to find the right black man for you?  If they are
all that way in your eyes, think again...is it you or the guys?  If
you have other standards that X-out black men, fine. But if you just
don't like black men, perhaps you should examine just what it is...
.
Apparently Jack Johnson, the black champion boxer, thought black
sisters were the worst thing on earth, and said so. He upped and
married two white women.  Richard Wright had the same idea.
.
Robert DeNiro interests me because as one of America's livin' large
white actors, he has married a black woman, Dianne Abbott, adopted
her daughter and had a son by her. She appeared in "The King of
Comedy" with him as a waitress he has this thing for, but she
hasn't worked in the business since and she's an actress as
well.  (Hmmmm...) He's never divorced Abbott, but has a long-term
affair with Toukie Smith, sister of the late fashion designer Willi
Smith (who she modeled for in the beginning).  Recently, Toukie
miscarried DeNiro's child, but in the meantime another famous black
woman model (I can't think of her name now, but Mike Tyson mauled
her, too) has declared publicly her love for the man, while DeNiro
carries a torch for Whitney Houston, who just got married to Bobby
Brown.  This Italian-American dude lives, breathes black sisters,
but apparently it doesn't crimp his style in Hollywoodland.
Whereas, if a brother or a sister marries or hangs white...