From: redman@selway.umt.edu (Punya J. Pussilanimuss)
Subject: Re: Tall women and shorter men
Organization: University of Montana
Date: Tue, 15 Dec 1992 04:33:39 GMT

In article <1992Dec9.055334.21919@penet.fi> an978@anon.penet.fi writes:
>>In article <7699@news.duke.edu>, infante@acpub.duke.edu (Andrew  Infante)
>>wrote:
>>
>>Let's turn this around a bit and ask why most women don't like to go out with
>>men who are shorter than they are.  So far, Rachel is the only woman on this
>>newsgroup who has said that she is tall, so we may not have much of a
>>population to sample for this question.
>
>Well, I'm 6' tall as well. I also have very broad shoulders and by working
>out at the gym and lifting weights I am quite muscular. Many men find this
>quite intimidating, especially when I tell them that I did 4 years of judo
>as well. I feel that many men have the desire to "protect" a woman and are
>uncomfortable around a woman who doesn't "need" them.
>
>Oh, talking "shorter": a lot shorter than 4" shorter just looks funny I 
>think..  4" is okay, that even works when I wear heels. But half a foot....
>
>Of the men I dated about half were shorter than me. I met people through
>friends or in class, and they knew me as a person before I became more than
>just a friend. So they were not intimidated by my height. I have hardly ever
>been hit on at a bar, but my oriental roommate, being 5'2", got more than
>she could handle. So yes, men seem to be afraid of tall women unless they
>know them from a "non-threatening" context.
>
>But then again, dating tall men has definite advantages: it's easier to put
>my head on their shoulder when dancing, it's easier to walk arm in arm,
>I can borrow their sweaters and feel "petite" when it comes down to my knees.
>I also don't have to feel bad when I park my shoes next to theirs --a size
>11 women's shoe looks tiny next to a size 13 men's :)
>
>I don't mind short men at all --some of my best lovers were shorter than me 

I was going to post something to the effect that,  "You sound like the 
anon.women of my dreams.  Finally someone who can really look into my
eyes.  Finally a feminine being that I can work out with without
worrying about breaking.  I even have size 15's to really dwarf your
size elevens."  But this doesn't seem to be correct with the current
thread. So i decided not to post that.  As to the question about going
out with someone taller.  What _fucking_ difference should it make.
Besides most of the girls that are taller than me come off as snobbish
Basketball or volleyball players.  I happen to have a disposition of
being attracted to shorter girls, but because I know that attraction
on my part does not always lead to great relationships I have been
able to throw open my perceptions to include all heights.  Height is
something that we have no control over.  Why would anyone prejudge
because of it.

	If you guys and gals wanted to look for a biological
explanation, genetically speaking, the average height of kids today is
increasing phenomonally as compared to their parents.  This is partly
due to environment and diet, but mostly do to genetics.  So on some
biological level maybe we want to have kids that fit in with the norm.
With a short female-tall male paring the kids would be closer to the
norm.  Conversely a tall female-short male paring would give the same
genetic results, but on a inbred social level males are trained to be
macho and this creates the bias against being the shorter one in any
relationship for males.  All us guys have to do is be confident enough
not to have to worry about height.  This would work a lot better if we
didn't have friends that tried to cut us down.

Wow!, man what the hell are you talking about?!?!?

Yours,
	Fatally 6'2",
		Punya!
			redman@selway.umt.edu

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