From: king@meaddata.com (Mike King)
Subject: Re: Abandoment is not same as Adoption
Organization: Mead Data Central, Dayton OH
Date: Mon, 31 Aug 1992 18:58:35 GMT
Distribution: usa

In article <1992Aug30.233905.23184@rotag.mi.org>, kevin@rotag.mi.org (Kevin Darcy) writes:
|> In article <1992Aug20.131221.12296@meaddata.com> king@meaddata.com (Mike King) writes:
|> >
|> >I'll agree, there is no equality.  What can I say...sometimes life
|> >sucks.  
|> 
|> Gee, isn't it so easy and convenient to say "life sucks" when you're an
|> apologist for the status quo, huh? Can we expect the same Stoic acceptance
|> if and when the paternity child-support statutes are reformed or repealed,
|> Mike, or might you just flip-flop into a wild-eyed reformer?

First of all, I don't see myself as an apologist for the status quo.
I just don't see to many viable solutions for making this situation
any better.  But you seem to have very strong views toward this
situation, so please tell us how'd you make this situation more "equitable".
But before you do, let me take a stab at what your answer would be:

  -- You would change the laws so that whenever a father decides that
  he doesn't wish to be a father any longer he could be released from his
  responsibilites.  This would apply to minor children of any age,
  born or unborn.  That way, even if you got divorced after the child
  was born, you couldn't be forced to pay your child a cent.  To
  hell with them, let the mother worry about it.

Am I right?  maybe not, but I bet I'm pretty close.  What a perfect
world it would be if we could all stick our heads in the sand
everytime we made a "mistake".  I certainly don't want to pay for a
mistake for 18+ years, but it did, and always does, take two to tango.  

|> >But once the child is there it has to be taken care of.
|> 
|> What child? You mean all those hypothetical children that the state is
|> ENCOURAGING women to bring to term into broken homes and poverty? Do you
|> think mere *MONEY* makes up for that kind of misery and suffering, Mike?
|> You must really -despise- children to wish such lives on them.

Kevin, maybe you should go read the subject line again.  This posting
was never about abortion vs adoption.  It was and is about adoption vs
abandonment.  The whole point of my original post was to say that,
after the child is born, having a parent willingly leave(abaondonment)
is not the same as giving it up for adoption.  And I'm not talking
about NCP's who are denied visitation by CP's.  A child put up for
adoption has the chance for a better life, with new parents who can
provide for it.

Like every man alive, I to, would like to have some say in what
happens to my child before it's born.  Would I put it up for adoption,
keep it, abort it, or forget about it.  Unfair or not that decision is
not in my hands.  Would I like it to be?  Yes.  So long...flame away.




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