From: rjf@dptg.att.com (51351[efw]-Robert Feddeler(MT4799)T343)
Subject: Re: Meeting women in clubs
Organization: AT&T/NCR, Lincroft, NJ, USA
Distribution: usa
Date: Mon, 4 Jan 1993 22:39:45 GMT

Okay, (deep breath), here we go.  Never imagined myself posting something
like this from within these walls, but somebody around here must have a
sense of humor.  (I hope.)

About a dozen years ago, I regularly worked 12 hour days until about
20:30 every day.  A friend of mine and I did this for almost two
years to get a project done (and RCA paid overtime).  The thing that
kept us going was the knowledge that before 21:00, we would be at the
bar at the Marriot across the street.  The place was chronically
occupied by folks attending class at a nearby training center.  Basically
a hotel full of 20's and 30's folks in from out of town, on expenses, and
looking for something to do.  It was the quintessential "pick-up" place,
complete with hundreds of beds.

After months of having "too much" fun, my buddy and I decided to make
it more interesting by challenging each other to (more or less)
preposterous dares.  This lead to an amazing discovery which, until
now, is known only to a few close friends of mine and, well, many
dozens of women.

What we started out with was a challenge to see who could first engage a
strange woman (no, that's not redundant), in a _serious_ conversation
about anal sex.  We'd select two candidates (usually not together)
and make our respective moves.  It was strictly honor system.  The first one
to display a wink and a smile won.  (Tanqueray builds weak minds 12 ways.)

Anyway, the heretofore closely guarded secret is that _the_best_line_ever_
is "So, how do you feel about anal sex?"  In my experience,
you never get slapped, you almost always get a smile, and you never
once have to think about what to say next.  Partly, I think, it is
the "no place to go but up" phenomenon: from the get-go, nothing is
"inappropriate" to talk about.  Sometimes, you get a very positive
reaction that can lead anywhere you want it to.  The shy responses
are easily handled with with "come on, it's okay, you can tell me"
stuff.  The "I've never tried it" response seems to be best answered
with a "me neither, but I've always wanted to, how 'bout you?."  If
you do get some kind of negative reaction, you can save the situation
by confessing that "that guy over there put me up to it, I'm sorry,
I really didn't mean to offend you" (I'd be a really nice guy if my
buddy wasn't such a jerk?).

Not only is it a great line, but you always win the contest too!

Part of the reason it works so well is that there are at least a
thousand good answers.  Depending upon the personality of the "linee"
(as opposed to the "liner"?), the answer might be funny, flip, or
even serious.  That's an important point.  Lines that are easy to
respond to make the recipient feel good about their first words and
they relax more quickly.  The line is also easier to deliver with a
straight face than some of the lines I've seen going down this thread.

The funny (sad) thing is that it seems so trite now.  In 1980, anal
sex was _not_ something you heard discussed on Eyewitness News at the
dinner hour.  Oh well, I guess that's called progress.

"So, how do you feel about necrophilia?"


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			|  I'm Thor!
			|  You're thore?  I'm tho thore I can hardly pith!
Were these more than just my opinions, they would have cost a bit more.
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