From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (dreas)
Subject: Re: Any Available Jewish Men Out There??
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Tue, 5 Jan 93 02:56:04 GMT

In article X4oswB2w165w@iowegia.uucp, mine@iowegia.uucp (shelley kitsis) writes:
>jis@panix.com (Jack Szwergold) writes:
>
>> 	I think you have definitely hit on something.  Because Jews _ARE_
>> in a minority in the world (let alone the U.S.), there is either a
>> concious or sub-conscious drive to retain the religious line.  Personally,
>> I cannot even imaging having kids that aren't at least culturaly Jewish,
>> but having kids that are totally non-Jewish from having a gentile wife
>> would really give me guilt like you wouldn't know.....
>> 
>> --
>> Jack
>> jis@panix.com
>> 
>
>Jack,
>Now I, can certainly understand where you are coming from..I've got
>to give you credit for coming out and speaking your peace!!
>I'm not a hypocrite, and I have nothing against the Christian 
>faith....I was just looking for someone that might understand my 
>side of this whole thing! I can tell you do! (Thanks!)
>P.S. I'm not orthodox by any means, but I do intend someday on 
>finding and marrying a Jewish man...if not for myself, my future 
>children!
>            Shelley


I am not Jewish. I'm esoterically generic. 

I have grown to understand the "sticking together" of certain groups due
to some recent experiences. Shelley, Jack, et al, I want you to imagine 
the scenario when a member of a tight ethnic group dates someone who's not
a part of the group. They have to sneak around hoping not to run into other
members of an extended family that would likely disown the one who dates 
outside the group. Being caught at the same restaurant table together and 
alone would ensure that there would be hell to pay.

Here's the difficult to resolve problem: The girl is apparently not attracted 
to "her own kind," yet family pressures stop her from having comfortable 
relationships, even behind the scenes. *sniff*

Life would be joyous if all people could accept the fact that humanity is
global, and that all people are a part of this global humanity no matter what
their upbringing or genetic background. Such cultural constraints are archaic
and silly. Yes, at this point in time it is wise to keep everybody happy by
marrying within our respective groups. 

More pioneers will end up "doing the forbidden" and marrying outside their 
groups as time goes on. Members of my extended family have married Greeks, 
Wasps, French, Polish, Arabs, Jews, and Afro Americans. There was a Canadian 
TV Show called Bizarre about ten years ago where they did a skit in which 
each member of the family was from a different ethnic group. They fought 
about everything like people always do within families.

At the end of each skit, The Irish father would say that despite all the obvious
differences, they all were part of a big happy family, and everyone would nod
in agreement.

Being a part of an extreme minority, (How many Austrian/Slovenian/one-eighth
French Catholics do you know?) I would have severe difficulties finding single
women of my kind willing to marry, let alone date me. I am practical, I don't
care about any of this "racial purity" stuff.

These are my personal views on the subject, and I would be the last to force
them upon anyone. I always live and let live, and only wish that the rest of 
the world could do likewise.

dreas            

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