HDTenEightyP/NetNews huggingface dataset:
From: rb012b@uhura.cc.rochester.edu (Rod Bugarin-registered Democrat)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: question about the triangle
Date: 24 Jan 93 20:30:55 GMT
Organization: University of Rochester - Rochester, New York

In <1993Jan24.130204.10122@iscsvax.uni.edu> weaverli0469@iscsvax.uni.edu writes:

>Just a quick question : What does the triangle stand for? I see them every so
>often at the bottom of people's notes...
>        

>     Like this one:
>        _____
>        \   /   
>         \ /
>    
>Shawn

From my understanding, it was used during Nazi Germany to identify gays or
jews.  I'm not sure.  Basically, it is for a symbol for queer life, either
queer-friendly or just queers.  Hope that helps!!!!

Rod- registered Democrat.  Viva Socks Clinton!!!
rb012b@uhura.cc.rochester.edu
From: pdc@dcs.ed.ac.uk (Paul Crowley)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: "Dykes to Watch Out For"'s Bi-positive this week
Date: 25 Jan 93 11:29:30 GMT
Reply-To: pdc@dcs.ed.ac.uk (Paul Crowley)
Organization: Edinburgh University

Quoting solovay@netcom.com (Andrew Solovay) in article <1993Jan23.004352.6023@netcom.com>:
>In article <C19Mwv.Jpo@athena.cs.uga.edu> wells@athena.cs.uga.edu (Scott Wells) writes:
>>For all of those who are familiar with Alison Bechdel's comic strip
>>"Dykes to Watch Out For" then this week's strip, entitled "The
>>Sighting" is a bonus: bi-positive representation in a lesbian-feminist
>>medium. If there is interest, e-mail me, and I'll type in the text of
>>the strip with descriptions of the panels.
>
>Yeah, well I'll be impressed when Bechdel has a sympathetic portrayal
>of a Republican lesbian. (Or, better yet, a Republican bisexual.)

Yeah, well if she does I'll throw up.
  __                                  _____
\/ o\ Paul Crowley   pdc@dcs.ed.ac.uk \\ //
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Newsgroups: soc.bi,alt.sex.motss
From: kudla@acm.rpi.edu (Robert Kudla)
Subject: Re: What the Hell am I?
Date: Sun, 24 Jan 1993 04:17:23 GMT

In <1993Jan23.070602.21972@fuug.fi> an7591@anon.penet.fi (Orlando) writes:

>Hi all... This is my first post, and I want to know if my feelings are at all
>common.

I'd say so...

>I have had exclusively hetero relationships throughout my life, all of which
>I have found quite satisfying.  Yet I've found myself, on occasion, drawn
>to other men in a very specific sexual way.  I want to be dominated.
>I have no hesitation sucking a cock or being fucked, but the thought of
>kissing a man, or having any emotional ties to one whatsoever positively
>repulses me.  I've thought about this awhile, and don't think it's a latent
>homophobic barrier that just needs to come down.  I really am attracted
>completely to a woman's body and soul, but I can sooner engage in the most
>"perverse" sexual acts with a man than hold his hand.

>Am I a bastard?  Are there any who feel the same way?  I know I'm certainly
>not bi in the sense that any bi community would like me to be.  Is there
>any place I can find acceptance?  All comments greatfully accepted...

An erstwhile bottom of mine is exactly the same way, though perhaps a
little more limited in what he'll do with a man, but is happily out as
bi and from what I can tell, pretty well accepted as such.  It's no
big deal.... you're into different people for different things.  I
can't rule out bisexuality for myself simply because I've never done
anything with a female; the proper situation simply hasn't arisen, and
I don't know what that situation would be.  You've discovered the
situation in which you're comfortable with your own sex, and I promise
you, there's certainly a place for it.  Ask the dozen or so married
men I've been with (or said bisexual bottom).

Really, just be yourself and *don't* be ashamed of who you are.  Some
people will frown upon getting into a supposedly monogamous
relationship with a woman and then cheating on her (it's just not fair
to her), and doing so will seriously limit what you are able to do in
terms of sexual gratification.  But there's no reason to try for an
open situation.  Go for it... the only thing holding you back is fear
of being different, and once you realize you don't have any choice in
the matter, you're ready to party.

Rob
Newsgroups: soc.bi
From: MJW19@phx.cam.ac.uk (Michael Williams)
Subject: Re: Lovely film, I cried
Reply-To: MJW19@phx.cam.ac.uk
Organization: The National Society for the Inversion of Cudddly Tigers
Date: Tue, 26 Jan 1993 17:36:18 GMT

In article <1993Jan26.001323.28763@ringer.cs.utsa.edu> dwells@lonestar.utsa.edu (Darren . Wells) writes:
>In article <C1991q.FGr@fulcrum.co.uk>
> karlg@fulcrum.co.uk (Karl Greenow) writes:
>>
>>Seeing as how you're in the States, Piglet, I suppose the following
>>sequence of words will mean nothing to you :-
>>
>>Rowan Atkinson. Barclaycard. Snake bite.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
>
>I may be in the states, but thanks to the wonders of Cable TV (on
>someone else's TV, of course) I recognize the name Rowan Atkinson.
>I think he is quite funny.  :)

Quite? Quite? QUITE!

Humph.

What exactly did you see on cable then? NTNoN? Blackadder? Mr. Bean?

Any way there's hope for American Television yet...

Mike.

(PS its called the BBC)
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From: rsr@soda.berkeley.edu (Roy S. Rapoport)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: soc.bi Frequently Answered Questions (FAQ)
Date: 27 Jan 1993 08:34:40 GMT
Organization: U.C. Berkeley, CS Undergraduate Association
NNTP-Posting-Host: soda.berkeley.edu

In article <1993Jan27.072136.5508@rat.csc.calpoly.edu> pclary@mushroom.csc.calpoly.edu (Ellen Clary) writes:
->the first part of that statement.  My guess is that attitudes about
->sex (be in threesomes or whathaveyou) have more to do with self-esteem 
->and personal comfort levels than orientation.  If you know of large
->scale surveys that say otherwise please post them - I'd be happy to
->see them.

Pardon me, Ellen, but I have some questions/misgivings about this statement.


How do you think that self-esteem and personal comfort levels make a
difference in ones attitude about sex? Are you saying that more self-assured
people will tend to be easier WRT sex (easier here not used in a negative
way, of course), or that they will be more choosy?

Certainly, if it's the former, while I have no large-scale surveys that say
otherwise (BTW, since you made the assertion, I would think that the duty is
yours to find surveys that support it), I know several people (including me)
who would seem to not fit that mold.

-roy
-- 
Roy S. Rapoport     internet: rsr@soda.berkeley.edu      bitnet: rsrsoda@ucbocf
anonymous mail: wi.5836@n7kbt.rain.com        androphile, gynophile, kerryphile
"What I used to think is me / is just a faded memory." -NIN
"No mayonnaise in Ireland"
From: rsr@soda.berkeley.edu (Roy S. Rapoport)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: Clueless hetboys and bi's
Date: 27 Jan 1993 07:15:21 GMT
Organization: U.C. Berkeley, CS Undergraduate Association
NNTP-Posting-Host: soda.berkeley.edu

In article <1993Jan26.105729.27786@adobe.com> cjackson@adobe.com (Curtis Jackson) writes:

->Gee, the "type of lifestyle". Sounds so ominous, like she's going to
->shave her head and worship Velveeta or something. What if she told you

Pardon me, you say that like there _is_ anything wrong with shaving one's
head and worshipping Velveeta ... :)

->to both men and women. What I can't understand is people who think that
->being bi is strange.

Well, I don't think it's strange.  I just think it's queer :)

->If your bi friend is on this newsgroup, what you just said makes sense.
->If not, then you have no basis for believing that all bi people are as
->nice as those on this particular newsgroup; anymore than all gay or
->het people are nice. There are good and bad folks of all different
->lifestyle choices. I'd like to believe that bi people are a bit more
->accepting and easy-going than most, but then I'm prejudiced; I'm quite
->ecstaticly married to one!

Bingo.  Amen.  Agreed and so on ...

-roy

-- 
Roy S. Rapoport     internet: rsr@soda.berkeley.edu      bitnet: rsrsoda@ucbocf
anonymous mail: wi.5836@n7kbt.rain.com        androphile, gynophile, kerryphile
"What I used to think is me / is just a faded memory." -NIN
"No mayonnaise in Ireland"
Newsgroups: soc.bi
From: eleanor@cbnews.cb.att.com (Piglet)
Subject: Re: Bisexuality and androgyny
Organization: the house on the corner
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 17:04:37 GMT

In article <30871@castle.ed.ac.uk> moragw@castle.ed.ac.uk (Alloy Serving Woman) writes:
>Personally I avoid shrill squeaky women like the plague, in just the
>same way as I avoid men who are little more than a vaguely sentient
>extension of their penis.

Oh, dear.  What about small women of squeaky voice (and a fondness for
horizontally striped shirts)?


Piglet, noted for taking anything out of context--you name it, I'll
        take it--though that's somewhat silly, given that if you're
        naming it as requested, it is in the context of being taken
        out of context.......augh!


>... treated like I was a fragile goth fit only for male consumption...

Erm, moth, perhaps?  <confused Piglet wanders away, pondering goths
in velvet>
Newsgroups: soc.bi
From: mpg@doe.carleton.ca (Mike Gagnon)
Subject: Re: howdy
Organization: Dept. of Electronics, Carleton University
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 1993 15:17:19 GMT

In <C1JnFz.8JC@news.udel.edu> forsh@ravel.udel.edu (Tara Louise Forshey) writes:

>Howdy all, I just wanted to say hello and let you all know that I think
>you folks are some of the sweetest people I've read.  Also, I thought this
>would be a wonderful opportunity to demuffin myself, so here I am.  You
...
>-tara

What's up at the University of Delaware? One person leaves as another joins!
Oh well, Good Luck Steve, and welcome Tara!

Warm friendly embraces to all !! :)

--
  |   Mike Gagnon.                                         |
-(+)-     "It's best no to be too moral, you cheat       -(+)-
  |   yourself out of too much life. Aim above morality."  |
              From the movie Harold and Maude.
Newsgroups: soc.bi
From: acb@cast0.ast.cam.ac.uk (Amanda Baker)
Subject: Re: Gay soda! I'm so excited!
Organization: Institute of Astronomy, Cambridge
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 10:36:01 GMT

>In article <1jmvquINNp94@morrow.stanford.edu> alpha@w6yx.Stanford.EDU (Alpha Schram) writes:
>>AND you MUST pour the milk BEFORE the tea, or you are REALLY a heathen!
>>(and if you, like me, don't take milk with your tea, you must be some sort
>>of savage) 

Its not a matter of being a heathen - its a matter of ruining the tea!
If you put the milk in first, it acts as a buffer; but if you put it in
afterwards, it causes the tea to 'precipitate'. In other words, milk in
afterwards spoils the tea.

Of course, the *really* thoughtful host asks her guests 'will you want
white tea' and leaves the tea of the 'noes' black!

ttfn

Amanda Baker
-- 
Amanda Baker
Institute of Astronomy, Madingley Road, Cambridge, CB3 0HA UK
Tel: (0223) 337548 x 37505  E-mail: acb@mail.ast.cam.ac.uk
Fax: (0223) 337523            or    acb@ast-star.cam.ac.uk
From: landman@hal.COM (Howard Landman)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: stupid sex question
Date: 27 Jan 93 02:43:17 GMT
Article-I.D.: bang.1k4ss5INNqu
Organization: HaL Computer Systems, Inc.
NNTP-Posting-Host: bang.hal.com

In article <1993Jan24.184623.21778@midway.uchicago.edu> h431@midway.uchicago.edu writes:
>Do people with long fingernails abstain from such sexual practices?
>Do they wear latex gloves?  Do they have partners who are looking for 
>consentual cuts?

I usually have short-trimmed fingernails on my left hand, and slightly longer
on my right, the better to pick guitar strings with.  But it can be a problem
when typing, or practicing Aikido, or making love.  I just try to be careful.

My partner is NOT looking to be cut.  Nor I to cut her.  But I have extremely
strong fingernails.  I can drive screws with my thumbnails.  My toenails are
TWICE that thick and strong.  Just part of my phenotype, like being tall:
sometimes an advantage, sometimes not.  Has to be dealt with either way.

	Howard A. Landman
	landman@hal.com
From: orc@sybase.com (Orc)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: This is a post.
Keywords: Whatever.
Date: 25 Jan 93 22:07:41 GMT
Reply-To: ss19@midway.uchicago.edu
Organization: Department of Ambiguity

In article <1993Jan25.181453.22284@cbnews.cb.att.com> eleanor@cbnews.cb.att.com (Piglet) writes:
>
>How does a North NJ soc.bi party sound?  Anyone?  Anyone?

   When?

                 ____
   david parsons \bi/ blatant e-slut
                  \/
Newsgroups: soc.bi
From:  orc@sybase.com (Orc)
Subject: Re: First Post! (was FAQ)
Reply-To: ss19@midway.uchicago.edu
Organization: Department of Ambiguity
Date: Thu, 21 Jan 1993 02:51:54 GMT

In article <1993Jan20.233421.26272@ctp.com> sthor@ctp.com (Sarah Thornburg) writes:
>YESYESYESYESYES!  Hey, I'll beg if I have to, to get some of you UDel people
>up this way.  It seems like every other part of the globe is getting into
>the fun but us.....  And I think Boston *could* be alot of fun.....

And boston still has a few trolley lines running.  No more Edaville
nearby, but there are other compensations for the area.  I've heard
good things about the surrounding area, too.  Lowell has been
recommended once or twice, for instance.

                ____
  david parsons \bi/ Who will be in Providence in about 2 weeks time.
                 \/
From: alpha@w6yx.Stanford.EDU (Alpha Schram)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: gratuitous mumbling
Date: 24 Jan 1993 01:48:56 GMT
Organization: Stanford University Amateur Radio Club, California USA
NNTP-Posting-Host: w6yx.stanford.edu

In article <memo.889361@cix.compulink.co.uk> iwatters@cix.compulink.co.uk writes:
>James:
>>Aside:  I think that most people look better with glasses.
>
>Me too.  I can't see them otherwise! <g>
>
I used to think that I looked better without glasses, because I was fuzzier 
that way.



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Newsgroups: soc.bi
From: jonesek@ucunix.san.uc.edu (Erik Reid Jones)
Subject: Re: I'm in hell... or at least Purgatory...
Followup-To: soc.bi
Organization: University of Cincinnati
Date: Fri, 22 Jan 1993 14:02:43 GMT

In article <1993Jan21.223339.25875@udel.edu> litterst@pecan.cns.udel.edu (Stephen Litterst) writes:
>In article <C17sq8.IAF@ucunix.san.uc.edu> jonesek@ucunix.san.uc.edu (Erik Reid Jones) writes:
>	<bit about Cincinnati deleted.>
>Bum-mer.  Well, you've at least got a loving and friendly group on the net.
>		*HUG*HUG*HUG*HUG*HUG*HUG*HUG*HUG*HUG*HGU*

Thanks.  It's the only thing which has stayed constant between
Amherst and here, but for my wife...

>>I miss the Pioneer Valley so much.  Yet I 
>>am stuck here getting a degree until at least June of 1994.
>>I mean, the arts out here are quite nice (I'm attending
>>the Cincinnati Conservatory of Music) but the political
>
>CCM?  Good school.  What's your emphasis?  I'm impressed... getting into
>any conservatory is impresssive.
>
Thanks.  Choral Conducting, I'm getting my Master's degree.

>>Cincinnati experiences (or this area), or any other
>>experiences with having to live in a very conservative
>>area for a great deal of time?  Just like to hear how
>>other people deal with it.  Thanks!
>
>Well, I grew up with Washington, DC in my backyard.  It was difficult to tell
>what was conservative and what was liberal.  Of course, my dad was one of the
>more conservative people I've ever seen.  Hates me with long hair, because he
>claims no one will hire me.  I'm a theater major!!  Who'd hire him in this 
>business with that attitude?  Sigh... *HUGS* and much support to you, Eric.
>
>				Steve L.

Thanks, I'm beginning to feel as though I need it.  Theatre?
Great!  So many wonderful, artsy people around here.  I'd be
curious to know just how many of the people on soc.bi are in
some area of the fine arts and applied arts...  Thanks for the
support, and while I'm not a frequent poster (yet) I certainly
read with avid interest to keep up with the culture... God
knows it's practically non-existent here (in the open)...

Erik Jones
 

Newsgroups: soc.bi
From: kyraan@bach.udel.edu (Stephen Ch Litterst)
Subject: Re: This is a post.
Keywords: Whatever.
Organization: University of Delaware
Date: Mon, 25 Jan 1993 23:38:28 GMT

In article <1993Jan25.181453.22284@cbnews.cb.att.com> eleanor@cbnews.cb.att.com (Piglet) writes:
>In article <+aj382@rpi.edu> safarj@rs6323.ecs.rpi.edu (Jonah Emanuel Safar) writes:
>
>How does a North NJ soc.bi party sound?  Anyone?  Anyone?
>
>
>Piglet, Haledon resident...

I'll drink to that.... Oh, North Jersey.  That's like... far from Delaware
isn't it?  Well, we'll see what can be managed.

					Steve L., Newark, DE resident



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| Stephen C. Litterst           |  meaningless, and the Universe has no  |
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Newsgroups: soc.bi
From: litterst@pecan.cns.udel.edu (Stephen Litterst)
Subject: Re: gratuitous mumbling
Organization: University of Delaware, Newark
Date: Fri, 22 Jan 1993 05:10:44 GMT

In article <ZEN.93Jan21165600@death.corp.sun.com> zen@death.corp.sun.com (d) writes:
>
>In article <1993Jan21.234135.10076@ringer.cs.utsa.edu> dwells@lonestar.utsa.edu (Darren . Wells) writes:
>>  In article <C171L7.HJ4@news.udel.edu>
>>   jcarroll@bach.udel.edu (James Carroll) writes:
>>  Hopefully that someone is in the general vicinity of Delaware, since
>>  that seems to be where the largest concentration of soc.bi'ers is.
>>  (in the US, that is *wink to the UK*)
>
>  Sorry... california wins the US race by a mile... just too many people
>out here, ya know.  Don't know what they do in the UK... must be that
>queer soda or something.
>
> -- d

Yeah, but we have a higher soc.bi density.  We are all in the same place
(scenic Newark, DE) whereas you guys are spread out over California.  Haha
We're denser than you are.  :)  (A dense blonde, imagine that  ;))

						Steve L.

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| kyraan@bach.udel.edu          |       More man than you'll ever be...   |
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Newsgroups: soc.bi,soc.motss,pnw.motss
From: Albert-Lunde@nwu.edu (Albert Lunde)
Subject: Re: Survey: Four screens!!
Followup-To: soc.bi
Originator: lunde@casbah.acns.nwu.edu
Reply-To: Albert-Lunde@nwu.edu (Albert Lunde)
Organization: Ministry of Silly Walks
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 05:34:36 GMT

In article <1993Jan26.115040.26605@vpnet.chi.il.us> lisbon@vpnet.chi.il.us (Gerry Swetsky) writes:
>In article <1993Jan25.190415.5526@microsoft.com> ellene@microsoft.com (Ellen Mitsue Eades) writes:
>>
>>Marcus is a member in good standing of Microsoft's GLEAM (Gay Lesbian & 
>>Bisexual Employees at Microsoft).  He is also a former member of the board 
>>of directors of GLEAM.  I don't know what he plans to do with the survey, 
>>but he's not a 'phobe, Henry, so don't knee-jerk so easily.  "Who the hell 
>>are you?" is a pretty hostile response to an information request, even in 
>>our currently besieged Northwest.
>
>    Henry was having a rough day, Ellen.  I however, was disturbed because
>    the way the survey was worded, if you weren't Catholic or Protestant
>    and weren't originally from the USA, Canada or Mexico, Marcus didn't 
>    want to hear from you.

I also didn't respond because of the lack of identifying information
as to what the information would be used for or who was asking.

(Who -- not a regular poster to soc.bi -- was all I could tell.)

I see "surveys" every month or two in several news groups I read
which vary from reasonably civil to totally clueless. A bit of
explaination is a good way to establish one's intentions in
the minds of the reader.



-- 
 Albert Lunde         | Interfaith  |     *Y*Y*      "A branch on the
 Albert-Lunde@nwu.edu |  Bisexual   |      *Y*        tree of life"
                      |  Feminist   |.......|.........................
From: mlloyd@ocf.berkeley.edu (M. Lloyd)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: Ethics...
Date: 27 Jan 93 21:16:26 GMT
Organization: U.C. Berkeley Open Computing Facility
NNTP-Posting-Host: sandstorm.berkeley.edu

arodgers@dcs.qmw.ac.uk (Angus H Rodgers) writes:
>mlloyd@ocf.berkeley.edu (M. Lloyd) writes:
[Everyone remember the question?  Good.]
>>OK, I'm sorry - I'm not being terribly understanding, but the quoted
>>note leaves some important context out.  I'm a hard-core Ethical
>>Relativist, so there's no way I'll judge the absolute statement above.
>
>Oh goody, material for an infinitely long thread, with absolutely zero 
>bi-relevance (unless Cvadrgez will give a little more context -- hmm?).
>
>I'm a hard-core Ethical Absolutist, so ...

... so I suggest you answer the question.  What's the ethical absolute
in this case?  Seems to me that only relativism can absolve (whoops) you
of a duty to state, categorically, whether the action described is
ethical.  A response of "But we need more context!" will *not* suffice
:-)

>[Slaps Mike around face with white glove; stands glowering, arms akimbo;
>spoils it all by asking anxiously if he looks macho enough.]

Oooh - I hope those were kid gloves.  In which case, put them back on,
and I'll show you some *interesting* things to do with them.  (Anyone
ever tried wearing surgical gloves underneath kid?  Just wondering ...)

hugs
Mike, off to post something with more bi-relevant potential
-- 
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      Retro-hippy, music nut, bi and      |  Raised in laughter to the skies"
          backrubber of devotion          |                 - Bruce Cockburn
               --The end of confusion is the beginning of death--
From: cvadrgih@vmsb.is.csupomona.edu
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: A philosophical question...spawn
Date: 24 Jan 93 03:01:16 GMT
Organization: California State Polytechnic University, Pomona
Nntp-Posting-User: cvadrgih

In article <C1957u.G2z@world.std.com>, smoir@world.std.com (Scott A Moir) writes:
>>In article <1993Jan19.020819.1@vmsb.is.csupomona.edu>
>>cvadrgih@vmsb.is.csupomona.edu writes:
>>
>>#  Which is worse?
>>#  
>>#       For a guy to dump his boyfriend for a girl, or
>>#       For a guy to dump his boyfriend for another guy.
> 
> Neither. both are partners, and by definition should have equal status.
> 
> Scott
> 
You are right, a lover is a lover, but, does it hurt more to be left for a
member of the opposite sex, or for a member of the same sex?  As a special
consideration, if you think that your boyfriend is gay (assuming, of course
that you are a guy), and you've spent the last 4 months (i.e. the entire length
of your relationship trying to convince him of such), does it hurt more if he
leaves you for another guy, or for a girl?