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From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Money and the Single World (was: Education and the Single World
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Fri, 20 Nov 92 00:03:14 GMT

In article <1992Nov17.154927.3208@b8.b8.ingr.com> larry@b8.b8.ingr.com (Larry Billings) writes:
>In article <1992Nov15.144424.13521@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu>, tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>> 
>> Bleaurgh; sounds positively dismal--though I suppose it's more-or-less
>> traditional and a good way of increasing the resentment level of all
>> concerned.  Personally, I prefer the approach of having a small joint
>> account funded by both parties for paying expenses like housing, food,
>> utilities, and the like with the remainder of each person's income 
>> being kept separate--that way neither person has to feel guilty about
>
>Question:  How much money do you have to put into three seperate accounts or
>six if you include savings?  Most banks today require $500+ for free checking
>so that ties up 1500 dollars or you pay monthly penalties.  Savings accounts
>often will pay higher percentages for large depositers. Seperateration of funds
>could cost you money.  Save the marriage or save the money, interesting 
>question.

I can't say I'd really worried about it; actually, my bank recently sent
me some sort of ad suggesting that I switch to one of their checking
accounts with no fees and no minimum balance.  Even if there is a minimum
balance required, I can't see that as a particularly important factor--I've
been known to let my checking account balance creep up to $15,000+ before
getting around to transferring the money elsewhere. 

>> without feeling like it's being paid for (at least partially) with the
>> other one's money.  It's nice to have separate savings as well--much
>> less emotional strain when one or the other feels like experimenting with
>> some relatively high-risk investments or starting up another business or
>> three.
>
>There is a fight waiting to happen.

How so?  If each person is responsible for his or her own money, why would
this result in a fight?  (Personally, I figure it's better for one's SO
to accept and support one's decisions whether or not the SO feels they are
necessarilly the best decisions that could have been made.)  Sure, if one
or the other decided to invest by going long porkbellies and then forgetting
to roll over the account when the contract date came around, I could see a
problem or two, but why otherwise?

Trygve 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: gjh@galen.med.Virginia.EDU (Galen J. Hekhuis)
Subject: Re: Are you a Young Transplant? 
Organization: University of Virginia Health Sciences Center
Date: Mon, 16 Nov 1992 14:57:05 GMT

In article <1992Nov15.210121.18247@bnlux1.bnl.gov> schroede@bnlux1.bnl.gov (gary l. schroeder) writes:

}Okay, here's a new topic of conversation for you all:

OK here's a data point.

I did not recently graduate from college.

I did not accept a High Paying Job (I didn't go to college for it either).

My current job is not in the area where I was raised/went to school/etc.

I met my wife fixing her car.  (I was a VW mechanic at the time.)




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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: finding a soulmate
Organization: my opinions only
Date: Tue, 24 Nov 1992 01:04:12 GMT

In article <1992Nov20.160128.13449@panix.com> nancyw@panix.com
(Nancy Weiner) writes:

>   Wondering here how many people can really talk to who they are
>dating..and is that a criteria you use?   for me someone could be
>purple and green for all  
>I care if I can really talk to them.
>   tired of meeting conventional guys who clam up all the time..so, is being
>able to tell anything to your s.o something other people look for?

I couldn't have a serious emotional relationship with someone I
couldn't talk freely with.  (And, since I can be somewhat shy, that's
actually a good test for compatibility.)

Seth		sethb@fid.morgan.com
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: huston@access.digex.com (Herb Huston)
Subject: Re: What is attractive to women?
Organization: Express Access Online Communications, Greenbelt, MD USA
Date: Sat, 21 Nov 1992 20:44:47 GMT

In article <98562@netnews.upenn.edu> crawford@ben.dev.upenn.edu (Lauren L. Crawford) writes:
>In article <By0L67.C6s@access.digex.com> huston@access.digex.com (Herb Huston) writes:
>
>>Au contraire, high-heeled shoes are used to create a supernormal stimulus,
>>just like lipstick, neck rings, brassieres, corsets, bustles, and foot-
                                                                    ^^^^^
>>binding.
  ^^^^^^^
>They also landed me on crutches for the past three months.  I just
>recently burned my last pair of high heels.  They sat on the log in the
>fireplace for a few moments, then -- WHOOSH!  They burst into flame.
>
>It was extremely gratifying.

You should be very, very grateful that you didn't live in imperial China.
The foot-fetishism of Cinderella's prince makes more sense when one learns
that this tale originated in China.  In the original, unsanitized version
the evil step-sisters resort to amputations of toes and heels trying to make
their feet fit into the slipper.

-- Herb Huston
-- huston@access.digex.com
From: jm0i@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu (JOSEPH ALOYSIUS MCVEIGH)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Description of the Fetal Remains from an Abortion
Date: 19 Nov 92 00:23:24 GMT
Organization: Lehigh University

In article <1992Nov18.173151.4801@ncsu.edu>, dsh@eceyv.ncsu.edu ( ) writes:
>
>  "It was easy to shrug off an aborted pregnancy as nothing more than
>   a sack of blood and globs of tissue--as many pro-choice activists
>   did--if one never saw fetal remains, or products of conception (POC),
>   as they were known in medical circles.....

[descriptions deleted - I trust you've read them]

>   Sue Hertz, _Caught in the Crossfire: A Year on Abortion's Front Line_,
>   Prentice Hall Press, 1991, pg. 104.

I guess procrastination has more downside than I thought.
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: larry@b8.b8.ingr.com (Larry Billings)
Subject: What to do, What to do?
Organization: Intergraph
Date: Fri, 20 Nov 1992 13:31:24 GMT

I would like to apoligize to everyone on the net that I have offended, insulted,
demeaned, irritate, or [insert favorite word/words here].
After several times of not thinking a smiley was necessary, or just forgeting 
to add it at the end of a joke, and having several people tell me "Well you
should include a smiley, because voice inflection dosen't translate across
the net.", I decided to make a sig that I could call up, which I would not 
forget.  So I drew up a smiley face and added a couple of my all time favorite
cartoon characters quotes, and used that to insure noone took me seriously.
Unfortunately, many people felt that was insulting or demeaning, and said that
if I wrote well then jokes/satire/sarcasm (friendly or otherwise) should come
across without the smileys.  If I had the time I would take a creative writing
course, but not having the time, I've muddled through as best as possible.
I did not mean to insult anyone's intelligence or upset anyone, it is just my 
lack of writing skills combined with being in a hurry while posting.
How to correct the problem???   I really don't know.


Larry Billings

Oh well, When in doubt LURK!
From: Lu <just@guess>
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Education and the Single World
Date: 18 Nov 1992 00:44:13 GMT
Organization: Australian National Museum
Distribution: world
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X-XXDate: Wed, 18 Nov 92 19:44:22 GMT

In article <1992Nov12.022122.5197@galileo.cc.rochester.edu> Julia Smith,
jsmt@troi.cc.rochester.edu writes:
>Scenerio 1:  You find out the person you are interested in makes
>    *quite* a bit more than you do.  Does it make a difference to you?
>  
>  
>Scenerio 2:  You find out the person you are interested in makes
>    *quite* a bit less than you do.  Does it make a difference to you?
I suppose evrything breaks down to a question of value priorities... For
me it seems to be not too relevant, but the differences should not be
really large, because the "rich" people seem to stick to the power of
money, thus they can easily intend to dominate the relationship. Of
course - we have money to live, but we don't live for money (well, I
don't...). And I don't currently have a relationship, so it's difficult
to judge the scenarios. The girlfriends I had were always about the same
level as myself... But try to have a look into a weekend edition of Neue
Zurcher Zeitung, and look at the personal ads - the rich folks are
looking exclusively for another rich people, they don't want to lower
their "property" standards... I'd rather say there are more important
things than money...
Lu
From: mysti@sierra.sybase.com (Mysti Rubert)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Hints
Date: 13 Nov 92 21:38:30 GMT

In article <1992Nov6.161759.15687@schbbs.mot.com>, Matt Valentine writes:
 
|> I dont really believe that those super-intense feelings that are present  
|> in the first year or so of the relationship are ever as strong again.   
|> Yes, there still can be romance, but the people should start accepting  
|> each other as imperfect. 

Whoa, since when does accepting another human as imperfect kill your
desire for them?  It has been my experience that feelings (physical as
well as emotional) intensify over time as the relationship progresses
and matures.  If a relationship is dead after a year, or stops
growing once you get to know the person better, well....

-- 
========================
Mysti Rubert, Oaktown, California

"It't not the men in my life, but the life in my men."  Mae West
Newsgroups: soc.singles,ba.singles
From: ala@fico.uucp
Subject: Re: The older woman
Keywords: Stef Jones
Reply-To: ala@fico.UUCP (Adryenn Ashley)
Organization: The Fair, Isaac Companies, San Rafael, California
Date: Mon, 23 Nov 92 21:48:02 GMT

In article <1992Nov21.033806.1418@wetware.com> diana@wetware.com (CatWoman ) writes:
>ala@fico.UUCP (Adryenn Ashley) writes:
>] I would have gaged him as well.
>
>Ummm - is that "gagged", or "gauged"?
>and if the latter - is that in inches,
>feet, or centimeters?

Feet, and hours.
From: pm3_norr@csd.uwe.ac.uk (Paul Norris)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: How to explain?
Date: 18 Nov 92 19:52:43 GMT
Organization: University of the West of England, Bristol


 markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark) writes:
} (Mark Israel) writes:
}>   When I cross the Canada-U.S. border, and a U.S. immigration official
}>asks me the purpose of my visit, how can I explain that I'm going to a
}>Boink in a manner that will minimize the number of followup questions?
}
}I'd like to explore the beauty of your great country, and to interact with some
}of its wonderful people.

}Oops, just noticed your net address.  You're going *into* the US??

Yes, that's kind of odd.

My answer's going to be simple:  "I'm on holiday"

Fourteen days and counting....

pm3_norr@csd.brispoly.ac.uk  is:

Paul Norris                                       Top Flat
Administrative Officer                            53, Ashley Hill
Faculty of Humanities                             Montpelier
University of the West of England, Bristol        BRISTOL  BS7 9BE
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From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Are you a Young Transplant?
Date: 18 Nov 92 22:46:59 GMT
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <lgl3e9INNro0@news.bbn.com> dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin) writes:
|Or they have a left-over fear of their last
|math teacher and they're terrified that I might try to integrate 
|something in front of them.

Doesn't this belong in alt.sex.derivatives

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| johnf@auspex.com    | Santa Clara CA |                                   |
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From: tps@jptcs.COM (Tim Sailer)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Money and the Single World (was: Education and the Single World
Date: 16 Nov 92 14:17:36 GMT
Reply-To: tps@jptcs.com
Organization: JPT Computer Solutions, Port Jeff Station, NY
X-Newsreader: TIN [version 1.1 PL6]

trygve lode (tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu) wrote:
: It's nice to have separate savings as well--much
: less emotional strain when one or the other feels like experimenting with
: some relatively high-risk investments or starting up another business or
: three.

Ahhh... but, you see, I WOULDN'T do anything like that without total
support from my spouse! No strain then!

Tim
-- 
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JPT Computer Solutions - SCO Sales/Consulting/Administration and Mangling
Port Jefferson Station, NY
(516) 331-9001
From: eager@eagercon.com (Michael J. Eager)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Do you remember 1970 to 1980?
Date: 19 Nov 92 18:38:45 GMT
Reply-To: eager@eagercon.com
Organization: Eager Consulting

In article 92Nov18222158@hatteras.cs.unc.edu, martinc@hatteras.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin) writes:

>
>How are we supposed to take you seriously when you were born after the
>Beatles broke up?

Say, wasn't that Paul McCartney's first band?

---
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Eager Consulting		(415) 325-8077 
1960 Park Boulevard, Palo Alto, CA 94306-1141
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: How to explain?
Organization: my opinions only
Date: Tue, 24 Nov 1992 01:21:32 GMT

In article <thurlow.722370264@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com
(Robert Thurlow) writes:

>There are three classes of people I _never_ joke with: income tax agents,
>airport security personnel, and people at border crossings.  These people
>are lifeforms that are specially bred to remove all traces of a sense of
>humor.

You just haven't found the right ones, and you have to tell the right
jokes.  (There are only a few accounting jokes, so chances are IRS
agents have heard them all; but if you get a new one, you can tell
it.)  I haven't joked with airport security personnel.

Lest you think that border guards have no senses of humor, consider
the following (true) story:

A southern (US) couple decides to visit Canada.  They drive up to the
border, and ask the Canadian border guard (using very emphasized
pronunciation, as one would do for a foreigner who speaks a different
language) "Do you speak English?".  With a big smile, the guard
replied "How nice of you to learn our language before vising our
country!" 

Seth		sethb@fid.morgan.com
Xref: sparky soc.singles:31350 alt.romance:14354
From: brentaa@ac.dal.ca (brent, eh?)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
Subject: Re: Being Alone?
Date: 19 Nov 92 19:18:06 GMT
Organization: Dalhousie University, Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada

In article <1992Nov16.233526.16402@lmpsbbs.comm.mot.com>, smith@comm.mot.com (Jeff Smith) writes:
> In article <oneil.721868088@cwis>, oneil@cwis.unomaha.edu (Sharon O'Neil) writes:
> 
> |> I honestly believe -- and have been told I'm unusual for this belief -- that 
> |> in a relationship, friendship should come before romance.  Personally, I've
> |> *never* fallen head over heels in love with someone unless I was friends 
> |> first.  Maybe it *is* a little cynical, but I just don't believe in love at
> |> first sight, for myself anyway.
> 
> Take me for instance...on numerous occasions I've gone into a "relationship"
> (in quotes because I'm using it in the generic sense...i.e. not romantic,
> necessarily) thinking "I like this person, I want to make sure we're friends
> and then I'll try to make it something closer, but I still want to be friends
> if it doesn't work" and guess what...let's just say I have a lot of friends!
> For me, at least, if I go into it with the attitude that I want to be friends
> first, then that's usually what I end up with (which is not necessarily a bad
> thing...friendships are a valuable commodity!). Interestingly enough, it's
> worked in the reverse with me as well...in other words, someone I've been
> friends with for some time became interested in something "more"...I was very
> uncomfortable with that. 

Well, I agree with Sharon, although it works both ways...
I like to get to know a person as a friend before considering them as a
romantic possibility...sometimes after getting to know them this way, I find
I just want to be friends, sometimes I look for romance and they just want
to be friends (which is just fine with me, but unfortunately sometimes when I
let the other person know about my feelings, they think that we can no longer
be friends...aarrgghh!!!)
I find that when this works the relationship tends to last a long time...over
two years the times it's happened to me, but most people find it hard to
change from a friendship to a romantic relationship, so you may be passing
up some opportunities...
For me, I never rule out the possibility of a romantic interest in my friends, 
but I don't consider it seriously in most cases....and if I meet someone 
who peaks my interest, I tend to ask them out first and get to know them by
going out with them.
well that's enough rambling for now, I got work to do!
				-Brontosaur the overworked and overcharged
From: fred@walter.UUCP (Fred Walter)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Money and the Single World (was: Education and the Single World
Date: Sun, 15 Nov 92 15:22:57 GMT
Organization: GRW Enterprises

jsmt@troi.cc.rochester.edu (Julia Smith) writes:
>How important is money to you in considering an SO?  Particularly
>if you are considering significant financial differences? 

As Sandra L. said in her article, it is the attitude toward spending
money that is much more important than how much money there is
(provided there is enough for the basic necessities).

That said :

>Scenerio 1:  You find out the person you are interested in makes
>    *quite* a bit more than you do.  Does it make a difference to you?

Not a problem, unless she is making at least several times as much as I am
making, in which case it might be a problem. Find me a rich woman and
I'll get back to you :-)

(I'm somewhat competative, and I don't know how I'd compensate ...)

>Scenerio 2:  You find out the person you are interested in makes
>    *quite* a bit less than you do.  Does it make a difference to you?

Yes it would cause a problem. I don't want a dependent, I want an equal.

Plus, on the practical side, since >= 50% of all marriages end in divorce,
I assume that if we are making approx. equal amounts, then I am less likely
to be taken to the cleaners.

	fred
--
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From: rkf@wildrose.infoserv.com (Ray Fink)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Question: How to increase the male sex drive ?
Date: Sun, 22 Nov 92 17:05:45 -0700
Reply-To: wildrose!rkf@infoserv.com
Organization: Wild Rose Refugee Camp

johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:
>In article <74522@apple.apple.COM> stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
>>tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>|
>|I understand that extensive aerobic exercise in general (not just the 
>|circulation-limiting kind) decreases sex drive.
> 
>Couldn't sex be considered an aerobic exercise?

It could, I suppose...70-80% of max heat^Hrt rate for at least 20 minutes.

-- 
-- Ray

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (Andreas  Tovornik)
Subject: Re: Question: How to increase the male sex
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Tue, 17 Nov 92 22:36:16 GMT

In article 20645@sol.UVic.CA, atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (Andreas  Tovornik) writes:
>In article 29133@lmpsbbs.comm.mot.com, markr@mot.com (Mark) writes:
>>In article <1e93kmINNs8j@skat.usc.edu> tarra@skat.usc.edu (Tom) writes:
>>>In article <thurlow.721724974@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow) writes:
>>>
>>>>
>>>>Hey Tom, hasn't anybody told you yet that we spread that myth that young
>>>>men have better sex drives for the sole reason that we want to keep you
>>>>dumb little shits from offing yourselves before you reach voting age?
>>>>
>>>>Rob T
>>>>--
>>>>Rob Thurlow, thurlow@convex.com
>>>
>>>Wow thanks man, I was really worried for a minute there.  I didn't know if
>>>I was gonna kill myself or hold out and see if maybe they could develop some
>>>sort of pill that could keep my drive from shriveling up and dying like you
>>>older guys.  
>>>
>>>Oh by the way Rob, take it easy I hear it happens to lots of guys.  
>>
>>On a serious note, I have a couple of questions to pose to the net about what
>>can affect a male's sex drive.  Basically, I am about 29 (male), have been
>>SO-less for the last 4 years (by choice), and have recently met an incredible
>>woman (about 31) with, to put it lightly, a very high sex drive.  My sex drive
>>has reduced markedly over the past 4 years, and I would like to do what I can
>>to increase it.  Question, is there any particular diet that is recommended ?
>>Is exercise particularly recommended ?  Anything else ?
>
>I hang around in Peeler Bars and Wank Off frequently...Works for me!
>
>dreasmeister
>
And from my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you!

dreas(again)
From: dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: What to do, What to do?
Date: 20 Nov 1992 19:22:36 GMT
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In article <1992Nov20.133124.1709@b8.b8.ingr.com>, larry@b8.b8.ingr.com (Larry Billings) writes:

> After several times of not thinking a smiley was necessary, or just forgeting 
> to add it at the end of a joke, and having several people tell me "Well you
> should include a smiley, because voice inflection dosen't translate across
> the net.", I decided to make a sig that I could call up, which I would not 
> forget.  So I drew up a smiley face and added a couple of my all time favorite
> cartoon characters quotes, and used that to insure noone took me seriously.
> Unfortunately, many people felt that was insulting or demeaning, and said that
> if I wrote well then jokes/satire/sarcasm (friendly or otherwise) should come
> across without the smileys.  If I had the time I would take a creative writing
> course, but not having the time, I've muddled through as best as possible.
> I did not mean to insult anyone's intelligence or upset anyone, it is just my 
> lack of writing skills combined with being in a hurry while posting.
> How to correct the problem???   I really don't know.


Don't take either group of people quite so seriously.  Don't post when 
you're in a hurry.  Don't use a huge sig.

Take all of your money out of your bank account.  Put the money in an
envelope.  Send the money to me.  Let me run your life.  Got that?  
Always follow my instructions, and no one will get hurt.

Dawn

Joseph Campbell gave me hope and now I have been saved.
"Folk Song" by Bongwater