From: jbyrd@chpc.utexas.edu (Jan Byrd)
Subject: Re: my husband is mean Update #2
Organization: Center for High Performance Computing, Univ. of Texas System
Date: Thu, 1 Oct 92 20:18:49 GMT

In article <BvFIzv.LGE@watserv1.uwaterloo.ca>, khare@watserv1.uwaterloo.ca (Kathy Hare - DCS) writes:
|> Hi Folks
|>  
|> I promised an update once I had collected my thoughts and talked to my 
|> husband.
|>  
|> Well first of all when I got home from work there were flowers on the table
|> for me. No note but I knew who they were from and why. Later he said he 
|> got them because he thought I could use a pick me up. Which from the 
|> 8 years I've known him means I'm sorry for upsetting you. (see I told 
|> you all he really is a nice guy).
|>  
|> I didn't say anything to him for a couple of days until we were talking and 
|> somhow got to this subject. Well I asked him if he didn't want me to lose 
|> weight? He said yes he did. I asked him if he thought by teasing me that would 
|> make me try harder? He said no it was just teasing. I told him I did not 
|> appreciate it and it really hurt my feelings. 
|>  
|> To make a long and personal story short we worked things out. When I sat 
|> back and thought about it I realized I have been very moody lately. We 
|> found out the reason why too, I'm pregnant! Almost a month. It took 
|> my husband a few days to get used to the idea, me too for that matter.
|> But we are both very happy about it. (we planned to strart trying in Jan)
|> So I guess there goes my hops of losing weight, but I will keep up my 
|> excerise to make it easier after the baby is born. 
|>  
|> So everything is ok now and I have something new to worry about. 
|> Thanks for all the help and support from everyone it's greatly appreciated.
|>  
|> Kathy
 
Glad it worked out so well for you, and congratulations on your pregnancy.
I want to mention, though, that you CAN safely "diet" while you're preg-
nant, it's just  - more than at any other time - it matters HOW you do it. 

I may have mentioned this here before, but I started my last pregnancy
about 45 lbs overweight.  I had just started an informal diet group with
a few friends, we had gone to the local American Diabetes Association
and picked up all the material describing the food exchange plan (of
which Weight Watcher's is a variation).  I started out on 1500 calories
of exchanges per day, but didn't say anything to my physician; I was so
motivated, I didn't want him to tell me not to do it (no flames, please.
I'm an intelligent, reasonably knowledgeable person and was not in grave 
danger of starving myself or my baby).  He didn't say anything to my first 
3-lb weight loss, but when I showed another 3-lb loss the following month 
(I was about 4 months along by this time), he asked me what I was doing.
I told him I was on the ADA (American Diabetes Association/American Diet-
etic Association) program.  He said, and I quote, "That's great.  I wish
all my patients would eat like that while they're pregnant."  The only 
thing he told me to change was to eat 1800 calories per day instead of 1500,
which I did from that point on.

I stuck religiously to the program throughout the pregnancy, and at 9 months
pregnancy weighed 15 lbs less than when I began.  Add that to the 30+ pounds 
I WOULD have gained, and I have a loss of approximately 45 lbs.  I also, for
the first time, had no problems with water retention.  My rings and shoes 
fit throughout, and my face never looked puffy or bloated the way it did 
toward the end of my 3 previous pregnancies.   My blood pressure stayed
rock-steady at 90/58, and I never had any heartburn.

My `little' sugar-pie weighed in at a robust 9 lb/10 oz and is now almost
7 years old, is hardly EVER sick, and is, of course, highly intelligent :-)

Jan