From: figmo@borland.com (Lynn Gold)
Subject: catfight time! (was Re: Sanctity of relationships)
Organization: The Burn the Candle at Both Ends Club
Distribution: world,soc
Date: Fri, 17 Apr 1992 03:37:31 GMT

In article <tpzjnjn.shannah@netcom.com> shannah@netcom.com (Teri Miller) writes:
>In article <1992Apr11.003948.11015@borland.com> figmo@borland.com (Lynn Gold) writes:
>>This did a number on what little self-esteem I had.  I WISH he'd at least
>>have had the decency to say "this isn't working for me; I want out."  I had
>>no reason to wish to try to trap him in something that wasn't working for
>
>I find it incredible that you are talking about him having decency, when
>you have just gone and posted something to the net that is really none
>of the audience's business! Based on how I've seen you treat people in 
>the past, it doesn't *surprise* me, but I have to admit that I still 
>find it incredible.

I don't get it.  I'm hurting from being dumped on, and YOU go and dump
on me too.

>This doesn't belong on the net, Lynn.  Yes, I know all too well your
>driving need to show all your dirty laundry to anyone unfortunate  
>enough to have to be in earshot, but couldn't you at least restrict
>yourself to boring folks a few at a time?  You may find this surprising,
>but there are those of us out here who really don't give a damn what
>awful thing has happened in the continuing saga of "Life Shits on Lynn,
>and Lynn Tells All".

If I bore you, put me in your kill file and be done with it.  Please.

>You never know, had you bothered to stop talking for 5 minutes, you
>may well have found out about the end of your relationship in a timely
>manner.  I *do* know that the person in question did at least try to
>tell you.

Since you insist on saying something you don't know anything about to
the net, I'll answer this on the net.  He admitted to ME that he never
made an attempt to communicate this.  His intent, from what he told
me, was to hump this other gal on the side as a "one night stand" and
then come back to me as if nothing had happened.  He hadn't intended
for me to find out, but I managed to figure it out.  This was what HE
told me.

To net.folks -- 

Please, whatever you do in your relationships, COMMUNICATE.  Don't lie
to each other.

>In terms of the self-esteem, you might give some thought to how you
>treat people - I suspect I'm not the only one who has gotten fed up
>after trying for *years* to get along with you.  You get out of life
>what you put into it.

I've had the feeling you've had something against me for a while, but
you've been really weird about it.  You've told me zippo about what I
did that might have pissed you off.  Zippo.

>I will never forget a really sweet net.person defending you to me
>recently, only to hear you (a few days later) talking about the 
>person as though they were some sort of slug or something.  I find
>that incredibly sad.  I would advise you to cherish your friends,
>Lynn, because at the rate you are going, you may not have a lot left
>soon.

Again, I don't even know what you're talking about.  All I can suggest
is maybe something happened between me and said net.person that YOU
didn't KNOW about.

If you wish to make hasty judgements based on one side of a story, go
ahead.  I went on way longer than I should have to prove a point: when
you cheat on your SO, you hurt someone unnecessarily.  Had he played
straight, nobody would've been hurt.  Had you communicated with me
when you had some kind of grievance with something I did, we might
have cleared the air.

--Lynn

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