From: jpark@rwja.umdnj.edu (John Park)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.asian.american
Subject: Thai women, a repost from soc.culture.thai
Summary: a repost
Keywords: asian american, thai
Date: 23 Dec 92 21:30:24 GMT
Distribution: usa
Organization: Robert Wood Johnson Medical School, Piscataway NJ


  
 
I found this post in soc.culture.thai
I am reposting it here for your reading pleasure.
If you have a problem with the content of the repost, go to [G,
soc.culture.thai], and read the discussion there while it lasts.
Don't flame me if you disagree with the article, I'm just
reposting it here.
 
 
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17 Dec 92 04:53 Tim Stilwell: Why American Men like Thai Women 
Sawasdee Khrup Tuk Kon
 
    Here I go again!  Selecting another *controversial* topic. 
:-) Several friends have asked me about this subject so I am
posting. If you read this article and you are offended, please
let me know. It is my hope to share ideas and customs and views
between Thais and Americans.  Sometimes well-known beliefs are
really stereo-types or prejudices.  Discussing these beliefs can
be difficult but at least we can understand why people think or
act the way they do.  :-)
        WHY DO AMERICAN MEN LIKE THAI (or other Asian) WOMEN? As
far as I know, there are several reasons which can be classified
as physical or cultural. Before I begin to describe these
reasons, I think it would help to say something about common
American beliefs.  Some of these beliefs  *can* be labeled
prejudices for very good reasons.  However, it doesn't change the
fact that this is how a large majority of American men think. 
Sometimes, a reasonable discussion will help a prejudice person
clarify his/her thinking, but usually the prejudice is a behavior
that needs time to change.  NOTE: like Thailand, the 
university-educated Americans will probably (no guarantees) think
think differently.  Also like Thailand, the university-educated
Americans are a small minority of the population.  :-( 
 
Physical -------- American men view women as trophies to be shown
off to other men. ie. "See this very pretty woman?  She is with
me, not you!  Do you wish she was with you?  Are you envious?"
Because of this, American men want their women to look beautiful
all the time.  This is why American women will wear clothes that
show revealing parts of their bodies.  It also explains why 
American women wear so much make-up.  This is also why American
women are always dieting.   Only a small minority of American men
like Thai (or other Asian)  women.  Most men do not like the
2-dimensional faces.  That reminds me, a Taiwanese girl onced
asked me why I like Asian girls?  I asked her to stand next to a
wall, then I gently pressed her face against the wall, looked at
her sideways and said, "Look!  No daylight!"  :-) 
(I was just teasing and she laughed.) 
I like Thai girls for a different reason.  They can carry 1 Baht 
coins in their ears (3b in each) so I do *not* have to reach into
my  pockets for busfare when the buses are crowded.  :-)  (just
teasing). 
Anyway, if an American man meets a Thai girl, he will like her
for these reasons.
 
  1. Asian women look prettier longer than American women.
     Their faces do not wrinkle as quickly.  This is why the 
     average American (man or woman) cannot tell how old an Asian
     girl really is.  They usually guess too low.  It is also why
     the average Thai cannot tell how old an American man or 
     woman really is.  They usually guess too high!   :-)    
     American men expect the face of the girl they marry to be 
     pretty. ie. "I have to wake up and look at that face for the
     rest of my life and say I love you!  Her face must be 
     pretty." 
  2. Asian women stay skinny longer than American women.
     They do not gain weight as quickly.  Since the average Thai 
     girl is much less interested in sports or exercize than the 
     average American girl, this is probably due to diet.  Thais 
     do not like to eat *heavy* foods.  If you live in Thailand, 
     eating light foods is sensible because you will sweat so 
     much.  In America, it does not make any sense, especially in
     the winter season.    American men expect their women to 
     stay skinny like the girls that model clothes. ie. "Honey!  
     If you *don't* want me to look at that girl, then lose some 
     more weight so that YOU look like HER!" 
  3. Asian women can wear high-fashion clothes. American women 
     cannot wear the clothes designed to emphasize a slender 
     body.  At best, they look like a marshmallow squeezed 
     between two Ritz crackers! :-)  High-fashion clothes are 
     real attention getters because they emphasize small and hint
     about  what the body really looks like by fitting loosely or
     showing a small amount of skin in unexpected places.  
     American men like this look because it makes the woman look 
     helpless and in need    of protection.  :-)  It also 
     stimulates thoughts that the woman    will be very good in 
     bed.  While there isn't any scientific evidence available to
     prove this theory, it is a common belief. American men 
     expect their women to look desireable to all men at all 
     times.  Any group of American men will look only at the    
     one pretty woman in a group of women.  All other women will 
     be ignored.
CULTURAL -------- Any American man who has visited any Asian
country immediately notices the different views regarding guests
and family.  In general, they like what they see and in true
American style, they adopt these new views.  If an American man
visits the home of a Thai girl, he will like her for these
reasons.
1. Thai women are very very courteous to guests.
     American women cannot compete in this area.  They are not   
     trained to think this way.  At best, they will offer the   
     guest a seat on the couch and show him/her the TV guide.   
     They will *not* offer food or sit nearby and talk.  Probably 
     they will not even offer a drink!  In some places, if the   
     guest drops in near mealtime, he/she will be asked to return 
     later.  No free invitation to dinner, especially if the     
     family is going to a restaurant.  Most American men that 
     like Thai girls dream about a girl serving snacks and beer 
     to him and his friends during a    Sunday morning football 
     game! ie. "She's very beautiful AND she takes care of me!    
     Do you wish that you were me?  Are you envious?" 
2. Thai women value the family more than the individual. American
     women are trained to think opposite.  Thai women are more 
     likely to view staying home to care for the children as a
     sensible responsibility rather than as a sacrifice of a 
     career.  Thai women are also less likely to divorce over a 
     minor issue such as temporary loss of job or loss    of 
     self-respect.  They have more patience.  American men    
     also believe that Thai women are more likely to help out    
     their family members, especially their parents, when they 
     are in trouble even if it means inviting them to live    
     together.  This creates an assurance that she will take    
     care of him when he is old. 
3. Thai women respect age and knowledge.
     American women are not taught to appreciate these values.   
     American women also prefer the man to be older than the    
     woman, but it is the Thai girl who will respect her husband  
     because of his age and education.  This results in fewer    
     arguments over minor issues.  It also allows an American    
     man to marry a Thai girl several years younger than himself. 
     Many American men, particularly business executives, want    
     a young wife (about 23 years) when they are 50+ years old.   
     Some men even divorce their wives and marry a new young    
     wife!
     ie. "Look!  I'm old and so are you, BUT look at my wife!     
     Now look at yours.  Do you wish you were me?" Will Thai men 
     and women please tell me what they think about American 
     views of Thai women?  It would help me understand Thais 
     better if I know that I am unconsciously insulting Thais. 
 
Khawp Khun Khrup 
tim-- 
 
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(Sarcastic cynicism)
And who says dogs are a man's best friend?  It seems that dogs
are facing stiff competition from asian-cu girls.  They make
better pets than dogs, for all the above reasons. >;^<
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"...Yes, master." - I Love Jeannie Show.
 
 
-John <:^^-(