From: karinc@ssd.intel.com (Karin Coffee)
Subject: AMC: Brian and Dixie
Followup-To:  AMC: Stealing Brian
Organization: Supercomputer Systems Division (SSD), Intel
Date: Wed, 16 Dec 1992 05:56:47 GMT

In article <1992Dec15.144356.3335@porthos.cc.bellcore.com> debbiek@navaho.cc.bellcore.com (kennedy,deborah) writes:
>In article <Bz9tJK.BpE@usenet.ucs.indiana.edu>, slaury@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (Susan Laury) writes:
>> 
>> If anyone is a slime in all of this it is Brian (gee -- can anyone
>> tell, I really can't stand him?). Friday's show when he followed
>> Dix to the door in her robe was just another example of his 
>> insensitivity. He is always doing his best to demonstrate to
>> anyone who might be willing to pay attention that he now has
>> a sex life. What other conclusion would anyone draw by finding
>> him with her in the entry way in the middle of the night in
>> a robe?
>> Sus.
>
>If there is anyone as stupid as Dixie in Real Live they
>are too stupid to live!  First, call up the young stud
>the minute your irate x-husband takes kid for a visit.
>completely ignoring the fact Bri-Guy is the reason for
>his irate-ness and custody battle.  Second, sleep 
>in the living room where the sleazy detective last took
>a sleezy picture of the two of you.  Third, answer the
>door with him in the middle of the night dressed in robes
>and rumpled couch/bed in background. 
>
Okay, I've held my tongue long enough, but I can't stand it any more.
Dixie has a right to do whatever she wants with whomever she wants.  What
she does on her own time is her business....at least it should be.

As some of you know, I share custody of my son with his father.  This has
caused a major amount of compartmentalization in my life.  I have 
"my life"(TM), I have my work, I have my mom times, and I have this ongoing
relationship (difficult though it may be) with my son's father.  I schedule 
my life around the times that I am scheduled to care for my son.  I schedule
my afterhours work around the times that I have him.  The majority of the
time, my son takes precedence over my life.  The time that is mine is
highly treasured.  It is a needed break from full-time single parenting.

Dixie has the right to go out, have wild sex in her own living room, spend
a quiet night at home alone, do whatever she damn well pleases when her
son is not with her and is not her primary responsibility.

Yes, Dixie called Brian when she was highly distressed.  Brian has been 
the most supportive person to Dixie through this whole mess.  I don't think
either Brian or Dixie realizes that it is Adam's jealousy of Brian that has
caused it.  Hayley is the only one that seems to have figured
this one out.  Do you always make the "best" decision in times of great
distress, or do you reach out to the person that is the best for you at
that time?

Yes, Dixie and Brian answered the door in their bathrobes in the middle of
the night.  Do you normally get dressed to answer the door?  For safety's 
sake, do you open your door in the middle of the night when you are alone?
I agree that Dixie needs to be more meticulous about closing her drapes
and locking her doors, but how often do people barge into your house without
knocking?  The two times Dix and Bri have answered the door in less than
complete attire have been situations when I would have done basically the
same thing.  They were expecting room service at the Valley Inn.  I don't
put complete outfits on when I'm expecting room service.

I don't see Brian flaunting his sex life.  The two people who keep bringing
it up are the two people that are most bothered by it -- Terrence and Hayley.
The conclusion that I draw when Brian follows Dixie to the door in the
middle of the night is that he cares for her and for her safety.  I don't
expect people to be dressed in the middle of the night.

I know that we're talking about a soap here, but the attitudes that I have
seen during this discussion reflect on my life.  I'll get off my soapbox
in a moment.  My life is mine.  Single parenthood is difficult at best.
Moments when I am not responsible for my son are carefully planned and
anticipated.  I love the time that I have with my son, but not having to
be responsible for feeding, dressing, getting to school on time, and all
without help is a needed break.

Dixie is a wonderful mother.  She does everything for Junior (except give
him a better name).  Even at her worst last summer, she always made sure
that he was well taken care of before she flipped out.  It would have been 
far worse if she had lost it in front of Junior.  I don't think that Dixie
has always made the best decisions and choices that she could have, but 
have you?

>Is she really intelligent enough to take care of herself
>or Junior?

Okay, I'm done.  I feel better now.


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