From: johnwu@netcom.com (John M. Wu)
Subject: Re: HELP: Sucks to be me!!!
Organization: Netcom - Online Communication Services  (408 241-9760 guest) 
Date: Tue, 24 Nov 1992 01:34:55 GMT

In article <4f47rne00iV4E6d9cR@andrew.cmu.edu> David-Hyung Suk Kim <dk3y+@andrew.cmu.edu> writes:
>I'm new to this group and I may need some help.  Here's the story.

Me too.  Hi everyone! :-)

>I go to the church once a week and I met this girl there.  When I first
>talked to her, she seemed very pleasant and honest.  The second time I
>talked to her I called her up and I asked her out  but she told me that

If she gave you her number, that's a good sign.  But more follows.

>she had a paper to write.  But she said maybe next time.  When I was
>about to hang up my phone, she started making conversation.  This
>continued for about a minute and eventually she hung up.(we said bye) 
>My plan was to ask her out again on weekend this time.  Since the only
>time I usually see her is in the church, I was going to ask her out when
>I meet her there.  Unfortunately she didn't show up on that day.  The
>next day I was eating at the cafeteria with my friends and suddenly she
>walks in with another guy and sat down on another table with their
>friends.  But the problem was that as soon as she sat down to face me,
>she got up again and sat down on the chair across from her.(her back on
>me)  I was very curious and surprised why she did such a thing.  Ever

It's probably nothing unless you made eye contact or something like that.

>since this experiment, somehow I got this feeling that she was tring to
>avoid me or something.  The thing is she was the one that approached me
>in the beginning and I had the feeling that she liked me.  But I guess

Girls do this kind of stuff a lot.  I usually don't assume that she "likes"
just by approaching me.  It's really annoying when my emotions get in the
way. 

>my predictions were wrong.  I mean she does hang around with this one
>guy constantly.  But according to some of her friends, he is not her

This is a VERY BAD sign.  I had something similar happen to me and my 
worst nightmare came true.   She did like the guy she hanged with a lot.

>boyfriend.  I really don't know what's going on.  
>I think it's true that relationship develops when you don't try hard. 

Relationships develop when you don't try to force it.  Seems like you're
out of luck here.  Just try to be her friend.  Never know what the future
may hold but if I were you, I would forget about her as a potential SO.  

>Because I think too much of her and I try to force the relationship. 
>Based on my past experience, I get into the relationship easier if I
>don't force it.  
>But I still don't know why she is trying to avoid me.  I would

Unfortunately, that's probably because you made a move on her. 

>appreciate your advice and comments.

I could be wrong and I hope I am for your sake but I kind of doubt it based
upon my experiences.  I think that you should forget about her as a potential
date.  Yeah, easier said than done.   Sorry for being so pessimistic.  

>
>DAve 
>

Good luck Dave!

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