From: kaldis@romulus.rutgers.edu (Theodore A. Kaldis)
Newsgroups: talk.politics.misc,talk.abortion,alt.flame
Subject: Re: Mr. Kaldis's "misogyny"
Date: 31 Aug 92 02:57:09 GMT
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Organization: Rutgers Univ., New Brunswick, N.J.

Every so often, the charge is put forth that I am, somehow, a
"misogynist".  Such a charge is completely baseless, nevertheless,
some see fit to advance it in an attempt to refute the timeless ideas
and traditions upon which civilized western societies are based --
never mind the fact that these ideas are irrefutable.  Shift the
focus, then.  They suppose that if they can discredit the one who is
standing up for and defending these ideas, they can somehow discredit
the ideas themselves.  This is, essentially, nothing more than the old
ad hominem argument.

But I would like, at this point, to comment on an example of true
misogyny that is all too prevalent (and too overlooked) within our
society -- one that is, moreover, applauded by those who would like to
portray me as a misogynist.  I am talking, of course, about the
aberrant practice of homosexuality.

What has brought this to mind is a recent posting by Clayton Cramer
where he pointed out that the drag queens who march in so-called "gay
pride" parades are basically an insulting parody of femininity.  Now I
don't mean to suggest here that male homosexuality in all of its
facets is an expression of misogyny, but it does indeed represent a
profound failure on the part of some "men" to properly relate to
women, particularly in the most intimate ways.  The homosexual is
essentially a person who, for some reason, cannot come to terms with
his own sexuality, and has turn to an aberrant behavior in an attempt
to repudiate it.  Integral to such behavior, to either a greater or
lesser extent, is misogyny.

I would to quote here a passage from George Gilders _Men_and_Marriage_
(Pelican Publishing Co., Gretna, LA, 1986):

     Intercourse remorselessly sets the bounds of androgyny: to have a
     female, a male must to some extent feel himself a man.  A man who
     does not feel like a man may seek to have a man.  Men who feel
     abased may enjoy the idea of a specific enactment and affirmation
     of their abasement.  Men incapable of deep sexuality may be
     relieved ... to pursue sexual activity without the burden of
     initiative or personality or human ties.

What kind of man does the homosexual consider to be his ideal fantasy
partner partner?  Many homosexuals have said that their ideal would be
the epitome of masculinity -- a man who most exemplifies every
masculine trait: the football player, the construction worker -- a man
is most unquestionably and in every way a man's man (no pun intended,
but I'll take credit for it anyway).  Why is this, and what does it
mean?

Before we answer this, we have to ask, will such a man be on the
"giving" end, or on the "receiving" end?  Well, it doesn't matter.  It
is to such men that homosexuals (in an earlier life) had found
themselves losing out to (whether such a loss was actually acted out
or was only perceived).  The fantasy of such a man on the giving end
represents the enactment of the homosexual's perceived abasement at
the hands of the one who brought it about so long ago, while having
him on the receiving end, represents a symbolic final victory over the
one who has caused him to this torturous life of torment.
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The views expressed herein are my   ||  Theodore A. Kaldis
my own only.  Do you seriously      ||  kaldis@remus.rutgers.edu
believe that a major university as  ||  {...}!rutgers!remus.rutgers.edu!kaldis
this would hold such views???       ||
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