From: panlilio@acs.ucalgary.ca (Victor P. Panlilio)
Newsgroups: soc.penpals
Subject: Re: A wittle survey...jus' a wittle wone...
Summary: Looking for the Right One
Keywords: Criteria for the Perfect Mate
Date: 16 Aug 92 04:11:54 GMT
Distribution: soc.penpals
Organization: The University of Calgary, Alberta

In article <1992Aug15.164609.23981@hellgate.utah.edu> tolman%asylum.cs.utah.edu@cs.utah.edu (Kenneth Tolman) writes:
>
>Male, 23, going on 24 in two days.  I look here because the odds of me finding
>a mate are so small that I am trying to increase my odds.  Actually, I have

Hmmm...you should be glad you're quite young. I'm 30, and I'm
still unmarried (but enjoying life just the same, anyway)

>a girlfriend, I am pretty good looking and athletic and very nice.  However,

I'm average looking, I guess, depending on who's looking; some
gals find me cute (and I do mean cute, 'cause I'm only 5'6")

Ken - how's that for honesty? Don't be SOOOO cynical - some
people actually tell the truth because it's a way of life!

>I am looking for a girl who is chaste, with an IQ over 150, pretty, happy,
>and nice (and around 18-26).  I can find ANY set of combination of the above,
>but not all at once.  Therefore, I date girls for a while, then sadly part
>with them once I realize that it would never work out for a marriage.

Me, I'm a fashion, beauty, and portrait photographer in my spare
time, so most of the women I meet are far taller than me (usually
they're 5'9" or taller, the minimum height for female models).
This does not bode well for getting a relationship started with
any of them - besides, I think it's tacky to date your models...
especially if when they wear heels they see the top of your head!

I have a very well-defined set of criteria for a potential mate,
not unlike your own - which makes things ESPECIALLY difficult...

>
>Frankly, I am tired of this social dating bull.  I go to a bar/dance club/
>workout room/grocery store/friends outing and meet some beautiful girl.
>Yeah, I am so excited.  Then I start to date her, and things quickly get
>bad- I want someone who can think of new things, be creative, who is
>interested in life.  No one appears to be, they are just caught up in
>the moment, using me as some sort of social appliance in front of their
>friends.

A lot of the people I meet (not all, just a LOT) seem to behave
as you describe. They're not PlayfulLaughingDancingZenChildren
who are in touch with mystery and the wonder of life.

>Wierd, I don't get this world at all.  However, I know that out there is
>someone who will be truly friendly, and then we can talk forever until
>the dusky days of old age bring on senility, and then we can talk about
>all the things again, for one more go round.  And even if I never find them,
>life is pretty good lots of the time, and I'll get some pets to play
>with.

What is that old saying, full of wistfulness and longing?
"Grow old with me....the best is yet to be."

Good luck in your search and wish me luck in mine!

Cheers,

Victor  :)
Aspiring Zen Catholic Mensch (whazzat?)

"There are only two kinds of games in the world: finite and
infinite games. In finite games, the objective is to win, so
there must be of necessity losers. In infinite games, the
objective of the game is to keep playing, because the game itself
is fun."
				- James P. Carse
				  Finite and Infinite Games