From: yasu@ll.mit.edu (Alan Yasutovich)
Subject: Re: Itemized accounting of child support
Organization: MIT Lincoln Laboratory
Date: Wed, 23 Dec 92 13:37:35 GMT

In article <1992Dec22.214542.6340@desire.wright.edu> sbishop@desire.wright.edu writes:
>I'm of the opinion that working your way through college builds character
>and gives a better appreciation of an education.  I have several students
>(about nine at present) who work for me who are working their way through
>college.  Great kids, I think they will do well in life.  I really don't
>believe in handing children everything on a silver platter.  My sons 
>all get an allowance that is partially based on their chores.  If they
>dont do the chores, they don't get all their allowance.  They get a
>base amount, after that, everything is subjective.  They also can earn
>extra money for certain difficult chores, building fence, cleaning out
>the barn, etc.


	I agree with this, too.  But when my ex recently took me
	to court for modification last October, all I heard was,
	"college money".  I even asked in passing what "college
	money" had to do with today, when we were in family
	services.  She had the kid quit his paper route, "so
	he could study more".  The kid is not only *NOT* a mental
	giant; he's borderline STUPID!

	And he's never worked an honest day in his life.  When
	I was that age I was working around the yard, house,
	basement, painting, building, fixing, planting a garden,
	etc.  All he does is karate and nintendo.

	Here is a 15 year old kid who, as we watched a movie
	on this topic, asked what an abortion was.


	Also, just before court he told me that his mother asked
	him what he wanted for Christmas.  He honestly told
	her that he didn't need anything.  He's right!  He
	doesn't.  He has a newer wardrobe than I EVER had in
	my life.  Consistantly.


	So this is where much of my/our problem comes from.
	We're not like the "pony people", trying to keep
	our house.  We're not rich either.  But we certainly
	live week to week, and I for one don't need some
	greedy bitch trying to sqeeze my wallet because she's
	got a 15 year old board up her ass.  
	Because that's all it comes to.





>No, the father doesn't have mental problems, at least the Air Force doesn't
>think so.  But Mike's mother is really not working with all her facilties,
>poor woman is not in good shape at all, she just spent about three weeks
>in a local mental hospital.
>The father's problem seems to be that he is a jerk.  That's not just my
>opinion, that was the description I got from the director of the Home
>where Mike lived.  She says the man looks like he spent his entire life
>sucking on a lemon, sour faced and nasty natured.  
>We go to court in January, I had to talk several of the Home councilers
>from showing at the court house and waiting outside for Mike's dad.
>Several of them wanted a swing at him, including a couple of the women!


	My ex also has this "aged" look.  She looks like a witch
	at early 30's.  "Sour puss".  And while it was never spoken,
	I repeatedly saw resigned looks on the face of my lawyer
	and court personnel when dealing with her, including
	a fairly stern speech from the judge in court.

-- 
	Alan Yasutovich
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