From: f_thomas@csd.brispoly.ac.uk (F Thomas)
Newsgroups: alt.romance.chat
Subject: Re: Mr. and Mrs. Salter...
Date: 30 Sep 92 19:05:30 GMT
Organization: Bristol Polytechnic, England

In article <BvEE6L.HvI@usenet.ucs.indiana.edu> ssalter@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (-=[SLS]=-) writes:

>It will happen, Andi. Be patient, be honest with yourself and others,
>love  yourself and someday it will happen. 
>
>I was married for 17 years to a woman I had no real love for. We
>stayed married for the children. It was a mistake and I finally
>realized that. Then, being so desperate for a "healthy" relationship,
>I got enmeshed in an equally sick relationship...it just appeared
>initially to be so different. Then, it was as if I hit rock bottom...I
>questioned myself about my feelings and was truly honest with myself
>for the first time in many years. I discarded fantasy and when I did
>that completely, I found Julie. She is not a fantasy...she is real.
>It took a long time to recover from the last "incident" and I honestly
>have to say it will still take a while longer to heal completely. But,
>I was able finally to accept my own self, as I was, and begin to love
>myself. Then , I was able to return the love that Julie held for me.
>Now, the immensity of the love I feel for Julie will often overwhelm
>me and tears will flood my eyes. This is what I had always wanted...a
>truly honest relationship that involves trust and compromise on both
>sides. There is sacrifice and friendship and love and
>laughter...shared tears and shared laughter. Julie allows me to be me
>and I respect the person inside that is her.
>
>What we have is unconditional love...a phrase that is lightly bandied
>about but is actually quite rare. We love each other for what we are
>and what we will be. I miss being with her every minute I am away.
>But, I don't mind that time away since it is more than made up for
>when we are together again. Does that make sense?
>

Yup, it sure does!

>I could babble on...but I just wanted to let you know, Andi, that it
>can happen. Don't be discouraged, don't fret. If not now, then
>someday. 
>
>love,
>Steve

Amen to that!!! 

Frank
(ps congrats to you and Julie on the the wedding, I would have posted
earlier but I've been snowed under a mountain of paper


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