From: udcrusd@meaddata.com (Sylvia D'Cruz)
Subject: Re: Posts on Divorce and nettiquette
Organization: Mead Data Central, Dayton OH
Date: Wed, 8 Apr 1992 15:25:47 GMT
Distribution:  soc.culture.indian

I posted some stuff on SCI on "divorce", which some felt was irrelevant. I 
thought this group was mainly for indians living in the US, either temporarily
or permanently, but not restricted to them. (There is no means to restrict access :-) ) Anyway, some felt that these things do not happen to Indian marriages.
But, we are here in the U.S for some time, right ? It would not hurt to know
about "divorce". At the work place, at school, we have friends, maybe indians
who are going through it. A few articles on "divorce" should be nothing to fuss
about. Or is is taboo ?

The issue of "nettiquette" has been raised and addressed in many groups. 
I got a bunch of replies in my personal mail, on a subject that was posted to
the net. I did not invite, nor solicit personal mail. Hence, there is no
binding on my part to keep it private. Yes. I have received mail on other
topics, too. When, requested by the sender to keep it private I have. The
default assumption being, post, if the subject was raised there, and if there
is lots of personal mail on it. Maybe, others on the net could share their
views, if need be.

Some suggested withholding the names of the sender. But, I believe in giving
credit where credit is due - for all kinds of mail. When a summary is posted
I have seen names.  Also, I have noticed that some think that they can get
away by sending anything in e-mail, but think twice before posting on the net.

BTW surmises on the poster's character is uncalled for and unwarranted. :-)

Here is some mail that I recieved on the above topics. 

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From: ram@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Ram Devanathan)
Subject: Re: Posts on Divorce
It is considered unethical (sleazy) to post, without the sender's
permission, the mail messages that you get.  Instead of disclosing the
identity of your correspondents, you could have stated, "In response
to my posting on topic xyz, I recieved messages which expressed the
following views etc."
Ram Devanathan

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From: ram@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Ram Devanathan)
Subject: Re: Posts on Divorce
I am sorry I mistook you for a reasonable person.
You are devoid of even a shred of decency.
RD

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From: murgesh@entropy.esd.sgi.com (Murgesh Navar)
Subject: Re: Posts on Divorce

	First off it's not nettiquette to post someones private email on the
net unless you had asked ofcourse. I enjoy many of your news articles. While I
would also disagree with "Indian marriages come with no choices", it may be 
prudent for some people to believe in it for their own security. As long as it
works for some people it's not your or my bussiness to question it. Divorce
has not reach any proportion of concern in Indian Marriages to warrant such
attention and analysis. Lots of stuff in some of the articles you posted
such as "see a lawyer before you get married" are outright irrelevant to most
if not all Indians. 

>It appears you are going through a "why" phase. Maybe you will get over it. 

	Duh ??. 

	Keep posting. Thanks for the relevant ones :-).


						-murgesh
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