HDTenEightyP/NetNews huggingface dataset:
From: jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton)
Subject: Re: California Here I Come, Again (San Diego, to be exact)
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: usa
Date: Tue, 25 Aug 1992 19:38:18 GMT

In article <14258@auspex-gw.auspex.com> johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:
>In article <17cpdoINN24b@network.ucsd.edu> mbk@lyapunov.ucsd.edu (Matt Kennel) writes:
>|But most everybody I've seen there had normal beach attire save the
>|regular band of middle aged gay men playing horseshoes.
>
>At last, we find a useful purpose for the "hard-on at the beach".  Must be
>real painful when someone gets a ringer.
>

As they get older there's probably more leaner's.
 
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 Sesquipedalian's 'R' Us. ZX-10. DoD#564. There ain't no more.
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: lkahn@mitre.org (Larry Kahn)
Subject: Re: men in their thirties who never dated
Organization: The MITRE Corporation
Distribution: usa
Date: Fri, 4 Sep 1992 13:58:27 GMT

   What's the big deal?  If the Republicans stay in power (ugh) you might 
get nominated to become a judge on the Supreme Court.

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From: sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: Comments 
Organization: my opinions only
Date: Wed, 26 Aug 1992 23:07:38 GMT

In article <1992Aug26.105710.5585@jarvis.csri.toronto.edu>
allisson@turing.toronto.edu (H. Allisson Roome) writes:
>In article <1992Aug24.221116.25996@fid.morgan.com> sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart) writes:
>>In article <1992Aug22.060029.19182@jarvis.csri.toronto.edu>
>>allisson@turing.toronto.edu (H. Allisson Roome) writes:

>>> (or maybe it's the fact I'm sensible and don't
>>                          ^                ^^^^^
>>>take myself too seriously -- it can't be my looks).
>> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
>>>Allisson
>>
>>That's a feature I find necessary in a friend.  In fact, I knew I'd like you
>>shortly after we met, due to one comment of yours.  (Mind if I post it?)

> Um, sure go ahead post it ... (I don't remember what it was so this could get
>interesting - I was to busy trying to figure out what Charlie meant by
>his allusions [as I struggle to keep my tin-foiled and crazy-glued halo in
>place].)

Are you sure you don't mean his illusions?

Anyway, after I gave you careful directions to the restaurant at 50th
St. and 8th Ave. (in the grid part of Manhattan, where it's almost
impossible to get lost) you managed to writo (what's the handwritten
equivalent of a typo, anyway?) that to 80th St.  When you showed up at
the restaurant a few minutes late, you mentioned your error and
commented that you were feeling very blonde that day.

Seth		sethb@fid.morgan.com
From: dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Desperation (was Re: Commitment--The C-word?)
Date: 4 Sep 92 13:41:14 GMT
Reply-To: dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Organization: Bolt Beranek and Newman Inc., Cambridge MA
NNTP-Posting-Host: bbn.com

In article <ewillims.715600678@unix1.tcd.ie> ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
>In <14423@auspex-gw.auspex.com> johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:
>
>If she does
>shave her legs then nothing happens....if she doesn't then it will.
>She claims it always works for her!

>Anyone else out there experienced the same? (*GRIN*)

I haven't shaved my legs in months and my ProblemYoungerMutant is keeping
me awfully busy.

Dawn
From: markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: chemistry / love at first sight : fact or
Date: 3 Sep 92 19:38:35 GMT
Article-I.D.: uwm.1992Sep3.193835.15276
Organization: Computing Services Division, University of Wisconsin - Milwaukee

In article <ewillims.715536523@unix1.tcd.ie> ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
>>It can happen!
>
>	True, it can happen but it is very rare.  My parents met on a 
>blind date. My mother was to be bridesmaid at her best friend's impending
>wedding and my father was the best  man for the girl's fiance'.  My 
>parents were married before them instead with the roles reversed after only
>15 dates....27 yrs later, they still hold hands....
>However, I think that it is really only an intense attraction that turns
>into love when you work at it very hard...

Dear Ms. Emma,

   I'm currently undergoing quite a similar situation right now, intensely
involved with a special someone who I initially met over the net several months
back.  It was a strange meeting, having something to do with verbal enticement,
but I digress.  Anyway ... we've long ago passed the initial stages of intense
exchange over the net, daily conversational and intellectual intercourse, waves
of passionate strokes  interchange that found their intended target and hit
right square in the bullseye (a tricky thing to do with words, I might add,
though quite effective), then came that fateful first telephone exchange, then
the letters and pictures.  And of course, mutual friendship and even
occasional humorous talk of marriage.

   I believe that by the experience you've accquired, you may have a unique
inaight on the situation.  Perhaps, just maybe, you could lend us some of your
wisdom in recommending the next logical step in this progression toward ever
increasing bonding.

   Maybe you've recently experienced such an intense attraction you may want
to relate to us?
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From: smith@comm.mot.com (Jeff Smith)
Subject: Re: Rejecting (was Re: Desperation (was Re: Commitment--The C-word?))
Organization: Gagging Sloth Records
Date: Tue, 1 Sep 1992 12:44:14 GMT

In article <ewillims.715339720@unix1.tcd.ie>, ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
|> In <1992Aug31.195131.12106@mdd.comm.mot.com> rudoff@mdd.comm.mot.com (Doug Rudoff) writes:
|> 
|> 
|> >I've had difficulty rejecting a woman. Why is rejecting someone so hard?
|> >(This connects with my recent comments in the "Cooling Off" thread.)
|> 
|> 	Doug,I think it's good that you have difficulty in rejecting
|> a woman.  If you didn't, I, personally, wouldn't have any respect for
|> you and I'm sure most people on the net feel the same way.
                               ...
|> 	This is also, of course, why so many people wimp out of
|> doing the rejecting properly...lots of long silences, evading phone-calls,
|> cancelling dates etc...all in the hope that the other person will take 
|> the burden of guilt off them by breaking up first. 

This is a good point. I've always complained that so many women I've known
haven't been honest about their feelings in this regard (and I've heard
plenty of other men make the same statement). "Why don't they just tell me
it's over, and stop playing games" and all that. Well, recently I had the
opportunity to experience the other side of the coin, so to speak...it IS
difficult! You're absolutely right. I found myself doing all those things
that I had accused women of always doing. Anyway, it sort of put things in
perspective. 

jds

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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: probst@selkirk.sfu.ca (Scott Probst)
Subject: Re: Mexican food in Boston?  Blecch!!!!
Organization: Simon Fraser University, Burnaby, B.C., Canada
Date: Fri, 28 Aug 1992 00:16:17 GMT

In article <14335@auspex-gw.auspex.com> johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:
>In article <l9pr67INNfr9@news.bbn.com> dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin) writes:
> 
>|However, I have been hearing more rumors about a Boston boink, so maybe
>|people can come check out either the mexican food or the pickle collection.
>
>Let's see if I got this straight.  If I go to the Boston boink I look for
>pickles.  In Phoenix (or is it Tuscon) it's bananas.   Where is the
>cucumber boink?
>
my guess would be Ottawa...

-- 
Scott Probst: Brain and Behaviour Laboratory, Psychology dept, SFU
              Graduate Issues Officer, Simon Fraser Student Society.
e-mail: probst@fraser.sfu.ca - ph: (604) 291 3354/3181 - fax: (604) 291 5843
              "yes, well, and here we go again..." - Dr H. S. Thompson
From: strickha@NeXTwork.Rose-Hulman.Edu (Heath A. Strickland)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: hi you all!!!
Date: 1 Sep 92 00:01:31 GMT
Organization: Rose-Hulman Institute of Technology


In article <1992Aug31.165448.22495@news.acns.nwu.edu>  
drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
> In article <1992Aug31.164417.4271@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu>  
smaus@nyx.cs.du.edu (Scott Maus) writes:
> >
> 
> > Would love to hear from all you
> >lonely ladies out there!! My interests include movies, reading,  
spending
> >time together with that special person, and meeting and making new
> >friends!!
> 
> Isn't this just too special, *Yawn*
> 
> Hey Trygve, isn't this guy in your neighborhood. Maybe you could take  
pity
> on him and give him something more interesting to talk about.

How's this.   I like hanging over an alligator pit,  tied by a fishing  
line on my big toe,  and feeding the alligators goldfish from my teeth.   
any interested ladies now?


*Muhahahaha with a smile*
Heath
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: liz@prc.unisys.com (Liz Loquacious)
Subject: Working at a Relationship
Followup-To: soc.singles
Organization: Paramax Systems
Date: Thu, 3 Sep 1992 19:36:42 GMT

In article <ewillims.715536523@unix1.tcd.ie>, ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
|> In <1992Sep3.121751.5335@exu.ericsson.se> exujbl@exu.ericsson.se (Jerry Blackerby 214-907-7810) writes:
|> 
|> 
|> 	True, it can happen but it is very rare.  My parents met on a 
|> blind date. My mother was to be bridesmaid at her best friend's impending
|> wedding and my father was the best  man for the girl's fiance'.  My 
|> parents were married before them instead with the roles reversed after only
|> 15 dates....27 yrs later, they still hold hands....
|> However, I think that it is really only an intense attraction that turns
|> into love when you work at it very hard...

This brings up a question of mine.  What does it mean to people when they
talk about working very hard on a relationship?  Where do you draw the line
at what is too hard?  Lately I've started looking at it as the same kind of
"work" that individuals will do for their own growth such as being really
honest with themselves and accepting the reality of the "good" and "bad"
things that are happening and being willing to change or grow from the
experience.  I think issues come up in relationships which require the same
kind of honesty and that it can be a great place for this kind of "work"
and for people to grow as a couple and individuals.  Is this the way most 
people think of the work that's involved?  Saying "very hard" to me brings up
feelings or thoughts of never ending drudgery.  And it probably stirs up
those guilt feelings being a divorce vet, like I didn't work hard enough
but I don't really believe that is true for me.  As far as where to draw the 
line I read something in "A Fine Romance" by Judith Sills which talked about 
working on a relationship but when you're trying but coming out not feeling 
good about yourself that it may be best to move on.  That seemed like sound
advice to me.

Liz Loquacious 

-- 
"It's a sin to try and make things last forever..", Bruce Cockburn.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow)
Subject: Re: Personal Ads
Date: Thu, 27 Aug 1992 20:17:20 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
X-Disclaimer: This message was written by a user at CONVEX Computer
              Corp. The opinions expressed are those of the user and
              not necessarily those of CONVEX.

In <1992Aug25.135356.1805@cbfsb.cb.att.com> yyz@cbnewsf.cb.att.com (donald.w.coons) writes:

>Yeah, its got to be a bitch going thru life without a  sense of humor.

... or any fucking compassion, eh?

Rob T
--
Rob Thurlow, thurlow@convex.com
The sun is gonna shine again / We're gonna make it 'round that bend
I'll walk another mile with you, 'cause you're my friend
The sun is gonna shine again.			- Graham Parker
From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Powerful forces of nature conspire
Date: 2 Sep 92 20:01:13 GMT
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <ewillims.715447165@unix1.tcd.ie> ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
|In <4083@moscom.UUCP> wjb@moscom.UUCP (Bill de Beaubien) writes:
|
|>Emma Williams (ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie) wrote:
|>: 	12 inches,huh?  Wow, that could be a great snowman! :>
|>I thought size wasn't important? :-)  
|
|	Well, try making a decent sized snowman with only a couple 
|of inches of snow on the ground.  It would only be a little 
|snow gnome!  Whereas  a foot of snow would be just enough to make
|a really great snowman!   (What else did you think I meant??)
|	(*GRIN*)
 
Dollie and Holmes, the anatomically correct snowpeople, were the results
of a snow storm which resulted in 9 feet of new snow in three days.  

-- 
+============================================================================++
| John Fereira            "Is that all you ever think about?"                |
| johnf@auspex.com                                                           |
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: pekka@tmt.tele.fi (Pekka Ahonen)
Subject: Re: Powerful forces of nature conspire
Organization: PTT Finland, Telematics
Date: Thu, 3 Sep 1992 11:41:12 GMT

In article <ewillims.715260022@unix1.tcd.ie> ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
>In <thurlow.715104771@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow) writes:
>
>>In <ewillims.715001870@unix1.tcd.ie> ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
>
>>>	What is the point of living somewhere you can't 
>>>occasionally look out the window and see white flecks of 
>>>silence blanketing the world?  Or be able to roll around
>>>in it and laugh with the sheer joy of living?
>
>>(sigh)  Nice ode to winter; it makes me glad to think I'll be back
>>in Edmonton, a place that has a real winter, for Christmas :-)
>

Sigh! There used to be winters like those here in Helsinki also but
hasn't been anymore during nineties, quess it's because of those holes
in the ozon-layer. You know as a kid I got really worried if there
wasn't any snow on Christmas Eve that how could Santa come with his
sleigh, but then my parents comforted me by saying that Santa's sleigh
can also fly. Gosh, I really miss those snowy and cold winters of my
childhood.

>	May I come too, please? :)
>

Me too! No, I think I'll go to Lapland on the Northern Finland,
there's still cold and snow there during winter ...and Santa ...and
Northern Lights ...and JAPANESE TOURISTS!!!  OH NO!!! That's too much
for me to take, think I'll settle to stay at home and wish for the
white winter or at least white christmas.

- Niou Tua

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle)
Subject: Re: Desperation (was Re: Commitment--The C-word?)
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Thu, 3 Sep 1992 06:12:33 GMT

>kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:
>>If you have needs before a relationship starts, you're "desperate."
>>If you don't have needs after it starts, you're "emotionally unavailable."  

dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin) writes:
>You make it sound like a person only has one relationship.  

I don't know how you get that from the above statement.

>Not true.  What about your friends, your parents, your grandparents,

In the vernacular, the word "relationship" in this context has come to
mean "romantic relationship."  

>to get) there are certainly times when these people/beings are BETTER at
>meeting your other types of needs than most sweeties would be.  You
>shouldn't be desperate to have your emotional/hugging needs filled before
>you get a sweetie.  If you can't connect emotionally with any of these
>people, then how do you know you'll be able to connect emotionally with
>a lover?  

I have no problem connecting emotionally with anyone.

>Who will you complain about your sweetie to when you've found her? 

I won't. Only people who date jerks have to complain about them to others.

I'm not sure why my comments inspired these thoughts on your part.

-- 
"Swans have been studied by so many great minds throughout the centuries 
 that we now have quite an accumulation of nonsense about them."
 .....................................Will Cuppy, _HT Attract the Wombat_
-- 
Kiran Wagle     <kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu>     (812) 335-0420
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: rawdon@cabrales.cs.wisc.edu (Michael Rawdon)
Subject: Re: Commitment--The C-word?
Reply-To: rawdon@cabrales.cs.wisc.edu
Organization: University of Wisconsin Computer Sciences Dept., Madison, WI
Date: Tue, 25 Aug 1992 17:20:28 GMT

In <1992Aug25.154006.23144@walter.bellcore.com> walter (Walter Lego) writes:
>In article <1992Aug25.151319.13394@cbnewsd.cb.att.com> nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci) writes:
>>In article <Q4D6TST@netmbx.netmbx.de> rickk@netmbx.netmbx.de (Rick Kuhlbars) writes:
>>>Seems that every woman you meet opens up along the lines of "mold me the way
>>>you like."

>>Maybe a good deal of women YOU meet get that way - but considering that the
>>only common denominator in each encounter is YOU, could it somehow
>>be possible that their reaction to you is because of some action on
>>YOUR part?  Do you perchance give these women the impression that they
>>just aren't perfect enough?  Just asking.

>Given that a common denominator with Nancy and Lana who have similar views
>of independence is their prior bad experience with a relationship, is it
>possible that women that haven't gone through that same experience may still
>wish to compromise more than they should?

It is possible.  Can you provide a rationale for why this would happen in,
say, the cases Rick has encountered and not in, say, the cases that I have
encountered?  (I tend to meet far more women with strong self-identities than
otherwise.)

>					    Is it possible that there is more
>such women than women like Nancy and Lana? Is it even remotely conceivable
>that one has a greater chance of meeting such women than Nancy or Lana? Just
>asking.

It's remotely conceivable.  Without further explanation, I'm not willing to
give it more credence than that.

>>Don't blame all women, Rich.  Blame your choices and start making smarter
>>ones.

>I presume you are not speaking for all women.

I don't believe she said that she was.  Far from it.

-- 
Michael Rawdon			      rawdon@cabrales.cs.wisc.edu
University of Wisconsin Computer Sciences Department, Madison, WI

The beatings will continue until morale improves.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: barry@netcom.com (Kenn Barry)
Subject: Re: Lurkers...
Date: Thu, 27 Aug 92 07:16:11 GMT
Organization: QQQCLC

In article <29056@hydra.Helsinki.FI> taina@cs.Helsinki.FI (Juha Taina) writes:
>In <1992Aug26.211408.5056@news.acns.nwu.edu> drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>>I regularly delete email
>>from people who's name I don't recognize.
>
>The other day you asked a question here and now you say that you don't
>want email replies from strangers.

	She's said it before.

>did I interpret your words wrong?

	Nobody knows. Just ask him.

						Kayembee
From: jordan+@pitt.edu (Kenneth D Jordan)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: ANNOUNCEMENT: Pittsburgh Volleyball
Date: 28 Aug 92 14:53:38 GMT
Distribution: pa
Organization: University of Pittsburgh
Originator: jordan@pmax1.cis.pitt.edu

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				    OPEN VOLLEYBALL

	Location:	Gateway Junior High School (Monroeville).
			Only 15-20 minutes east of Oakland / Pittsburgh.

	Elibigility:	Both individuals and teams are welcome.
			Men, Women, or Coed.
			A great place for teams to scrimmage, or for
			individuals to get some serious court time.

	Day / time:	Thursdays, 7-10 pm.

	Starting date:	September 24, 1992

	Fee:		Only $26 for 12 weeks.  Cheap!
			(6 week registration for $15 also available --
			good for any 6 weeks during the fall session.)
			(There is a one-time-per-year fee of $5 for
			non-Monroeville residents which applies to all
			programs, including the next session.)

	Miscellaneous:	This is to be clean "power" volleyball.  Ability
			levels typically range from B through AA.  There
			are 2 courts, and the gym is fairly nice.  I'd
			describe the atmosphere as "friendly competetive".
			The program resumes with a new session in January.

	Directions:	From Pittsburgh:
			Take the Parkway (376) east to the third Monroeville
			exit, which is Route 48 North.  Turn left at the first
			light (<1/4 mile), and the entrance to GJHS's parking
			lot will be immediately on your left.  The gym is at
			the back of the school, next to the track.

			From various other places:
			Or take the Turnpike (76) to Exit 6 (Pittsburgh).
			Exit onto Business Route 22 West, and make the first
			right onto Route 48 North.  Then proceed as above.

			From elsewhere:
			Contact Nick (see below).

	More details:	Contact Nick Nystrom (nick@theory.chem.pitt.edu)
			or by phone at (412)-372-1817.

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From: thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow)
Subject: Re: Boston Baby Boink!
Date: Sat, 29 Aug 1992 05:20:10 GMT
Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
Keywords: Paaahty, Baaahston, Wicked Pissah!
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              Corp. The opinions expressed are those of the user and
              not necessarily those of CONVEX.

In <kiran.714988742@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu> kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:

>Soc.singles would be an interesting place to get news of the premiere.

Soc.Singles!  It's a new toy every day!  Didn't you read your warranty
card before you sent it in?

Rob T
--
Rob Thurlow, thurlow@convex.com
Across the evening sky, all the birds are leaving
But how can they know it's time for them to go?		- Sandy Denny
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