From: chris@unicorn.resun.com (Chris Von Hendy)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: Dusky Beauty Tells All
Date: 30 Jul 92 19:30:37 GMT
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In article <76728@ut-emx.uucp> (soc.bi), keisha@ccwf.cc.utexas.edu (Coed of the Damned) writes:
> Hello, Keisha here, demuffining.
> 
> I'm leaving this place and going to another one soon.  Another place 
> where I believe I can be open to suggestions and experimentation. 

Sounds good.  Do you want to give us a clue as to where to look for you? :-)
> 
> I read this over and it sounds very open and honest, and I am amazed that
> I could get up the courage to post these experiences to a newsgroup full
> of strangers.  But I think that milling about with people who can attest
> to the normalcy of this lifestyle will make me a little more courageous
> when I finally make the plunge, so to speak. 

We're not straangers, its just that a few of us are a bit strange. :-) 
As for your lifestyle being normal, if your happy with it that is what
really counts. Your opinions certainly sound normal by my definitions.
> 
> <sigh>  Sometimes I feel like I'm the only bisexual woman in the world.
> Well, at least the only one that I know of.  I know plenty of gay men and
> lesbians, and oodles of straights, but I cannot think of one human being
> that I know or have been introduced to who can talk to me about what I'm
> feeling and have some real life experience.  In a way, it makes me feel
> very alone here.

You are not alone, there are many of us out there.  We are just rather
hard to spot, people keep making assumptions about us based on who we
happen to be with at the time.  If we (women) are with a man, then we
are straight; if we are with a woman, then we must be lesbians.  I
guess to prove that we are bi we need to have one of each sex draped on
each arm.  Hm, come to think of it that does not sound like too bad an
idea. ;-) 
> 
> Some people may say that my being bisexual stems from confusion or lack
> of "strong, traditional family values." I really don't think that my 
> being (or at least believing) that I am bisexual makes me confused or
> misguided (although a favorite quote of mine from someone's .sig is 
> "As far as being bisexual is concerned, I'm not CONFUSED, I'm GREEDY!")

YES.  Being bisexual does not mean you are confused.  I do tend to
object to those people who insist that I am greedy, however.
> 
> I've also been reading about how lesbians sometimes disparage the lifestyles
> of bisexual women.  

Some will and some won't.  I've encountered both.  I've also have some
lesbians tell me that I was really just denying my homosexual feelings
when I was involved with a man.
> 
> Something else that worries me about this whole thing is being identified
> as some sort of oversexed weirdo who can't keep her clothes on. 

I look forward to the day when people delete the consept of oversexed
from their vocabularies.  Oversexed is a relative term, it ususaly
means anyone getting more sex then me.  I've laughed at people who tell
me I'm oversexed as a bisexual, I've lived with the same man for eight
years and never yet had sex with anyone but him.  I'm still bisexual.
> 
> Or am I just deluding myself?

No, your not.  Only you can decide what you are like.  Don't let anyone
else make that decision for you.
> 
> Comments, suggestions, hugs are welcomed.  Please be gentle. :-)

Hug, hug and hug again.  Gentle nibble on the ear, escualating into
eager licks down the back of your neck and on towards other locals. :-)

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