From: vil@genrad.com (Vaiioc Isana Lei)
Subject: Re: MADLY IN LOVE WITH HER!!!!
Organization: GenRad, Inc.
Date: Thu, 15 Oct 1992 22:29:24 GMT

In article <9227512.12709@mulga.cs.mu.OZ.AU> william@natimuk.acci.com.au (William Lo) writes:
>In article <BvEHCH.828@nic.umass.edu> s6883289@titan.ucc.umass.edu (Absolutely Chinese) writes:
>>hear my story:
>>   i met this girl from my class last fall. she's from nearby school 10 miles
>>away, so my only hope of seeing her was about class time. i liked her and made
>>acquantaince with her. the next semester (last spring), i purposely took the 
>>same class with her, hoping to see her more often. then on valentine's day,
>>i told her that i loved her and since then, she never talked to me again.

   (stuff deleted)

>>i called her but as soon as she picked up the phone, she wanted to hang up. 
>>i don't know why i am such a turn off to her. i am not very ugly, not very
>>stupid, not very rude, but my love of her was very sincere, is very sincere 
>>and will be very sincere. is it because she is extremely smart? extremely
>>beautiful? extreamely classy? i can't help but wonder what will happen to us
>>this semester, me in particular.
>>
   (stuff deleted)

>>- Peter, forever in love with that malaysian chinese girl
>
>	I'm sorry to read you sad story. But listen to me, Peter, perk your
>	head up and forget her - I know that's in no way gonna be easy but
>	I feel that such an ice-cold woman shouldn't be worth anything, much
>	less your sincere love...  
>
>---Now you forgot to remember to forget,
>	Bill

Bill,

	I just wonder how do you arrived at the conclusion that this girl is
'such an ice-cold woman shouldn't be worth anything, much less your sincere
love...'. Is it because she refused someone else's love or because she hanged
up on him? 

	I don't think refusing anyone's love is a crime. 

	As for the hanging up on 'him', I agree that that is not very nice.
However, I would like to ask 'him', Peter if you are reading, the following
question:
1. Are you a friend of her already? I mean, did you and her call each other
   before (as friends)?
   I think if you and her are friends already then it would hurt (you) if 
   all of a sudden she does not want to be friends with you anymore just
   because you told her that you like her.

2. Did she hang up on you (Peter) even for the first call after you told her
   you love her? If not, what did you say to her in those calls? Did you
   keep expressing your love to her?
   What I mean is, if she is really not interested in going out with you, and
   you keeping pushing that you love her and would like to go out with her.
   And it is plain obvious that it is not possible to be 'just friend' with
   you. Something like 'I don't want to be his girlfriend and he wants me to
   be his girlfriend or nothing else'.
   What do you, Peter, (and other guys like Bill) expect her to do?

Here are a couple questions for you guys out there.
	If you are interested in a girl (i.e. you want to go out with her or
even want her to be your girlfriend), but she's not interested.

1.  What would you expect her to do? I mean, what can we girls/women do so
    that we don't get labeled as 'insensitive', 'ice-cold', 'doesn't worth
    anyone's love', ..., and so that you guys don't feel so hurt or so bad.

2.  What can we do if we want to maintain friendship with you after refusing
    your love? Believe me, some of us really don't want to break established
    friendship especially if this surprise comes from an old friend.

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