From: kkenny@gems.vcu.edu (Karen Kenny aka Mel)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: RHe said/She said and look what happened!
Date: 21 Dec 92 15:28:43 -0400
Organization: Medical College of Virginia

>In article <BzD4MF.I39@fig.citib.com>, glp@fig.citib.com (Greg Parkinson) writes:
> 
> Honey, it'd take worse than this to make me run.  If we can 
> understand how this happened, maybe we'll have learned something - 
> and that's one of the reasons I stick around here.

Several days ago, Mara asked for other lesbians' reactions
to Greg's response to Tracey.  This may be late, but it's here.
Deal.

It seems like those who know Greg, either personally or
through reading soc.motss for a while, took his response
as genuine interest in something exclusively lesbian,
that being "lesbian backrooms" and not "backrooms" in 
general.  I get the sense that Greg has frequented  many
a backroom and was wondering how Tracey's experience or
any lesbian's experience in a backroom "for lesbians" 
differed from the experiences he has had in backrooms
he has frequented.  Not in "equiptment" or specific acts, but
moreso a wondering on etiquette, form and atmosphere.
...those "unspoken" rules that give shape to a backroom or
even a newsgroup.

Am I wrong, Tracey, or are you a relative new-comer
to motss?  I won't even try to speak for Tracey or her
unnamed "lesbians in agreement" and what their motss
history is, but I would venture a guess that they don't
have a feel for Greg yet, and responded as if Greg were
one of the numerous email idiots that get off responding
to posts by wimmin with lewd, inane comments, questions
and propositions.

How do you describe how to separate innuendo from content
and tone, so that old-timers/those who understand the
etiquette of motss are served without having to explicitly
say "to you newbies, when Greg says this it means "<...>"
whereas if you were to say this, you'd get flamed crisp
because your feelings on this subject aren't as well-
known"??  

It's a natural progression of whatever "...ships" email
builds between people that given the same sequence of 
words coming from varied peoples' keyboards, the meanings
would _NOT_ be interpretted similarly in all cases.  If
you read some of Melmud's postings and suspend reality
[this is difficult but try hard, I know you can do it]
long enough to fool yourself as to who the author is,
you might hear something different once or maybe twice.
But he is such bedsore that his words become slanted by
previous opinions he has expressed here in the past.
I saw The Fly recently and wished it would regurg in
Melmaggot's direction ... I even offered to tend to
Geena Davis but it wasn't to be, I s'pose.

I'm sure we all have erupted unfairly in an innocent's
direction.  Tracey apologized.  Greg is a wise man who
has been rather sympathetic to human error in the past,
and has a robust sense of humor[are you still wearing that
Italian horn as a necklace, Greg? 8-)].  The only casualty
here seems to be Steve Dyer.  How'd _that_ happen?  8-)

Karen
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                                         Karen S. Kenny
"Of course, you silly things!"      kkenny@gems.vcu.edu
                                  Medical College of VA                      
                                           Richmond, VA
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