From: ap.2797@cupid.sai.com
Subject: SWM 29 ISO SWF 24-31 in SFBay Area - DON'T PASS THIS UP!
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Date: Mon, 12 Oct 92 12:06:29 GMT
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HEY! You're reading my ad! :-)
 
Now that you have found me, you should know more...
 
I am 29, 6'2", 180lbs, & have large brown eyes, 
a moustache, and brown curly hair with a will 
of its own.
 
I am also (in no particular order):
non-smoker, non-drug-user, attractive, fit, engergetic,
intelligent, creative/artistic, musical,
well-educated, somewhat travelled, self-aware,
romantic, spontaneous, caring, funny, intense, thoughtful,
playful, passionate, dedicated, serious, unusual, curious,
strong-willed, emotionally/psychologically stable, sensual,
introspective, communicative, sensitive, confident about my
path through life, unique, obscure, strong enough to stand
on my own, responsible, looking for a long-term relationship
with the right person, not afraid of being hurt.
 
Right now I am staring at the screen, thinking about how
I have just described myself and wondering if this ad
will change my life.  My last relationship (of 2+ years)
ended over 6 months ago and I have had time to do a lot
of thinking.  It ended because we had very different,
fundamental philosophies about what a relationship
should be.  When I think of all the challenges that life
presents, I cannot imagine a relationship surviving the
unexpected unless it is held together by a bond of total
closeness and intimacy that exceeds the strength of the
two people sharing their lives together.  My ex-girlfriend
felt that our relationship was best served by many
different boundaries to ensure personal freedom and
identity.  Despite the hours of talking, we could never
find any middle ground - however, one, quick sentence
doesn't really do it justice since we also discussed many
other aspects of our relationship.  We had a peaceful
separation.  I can look inside and see how much I have
grown because of our relationship, our parting, and our
friendship, but I also know it is over, except for
(hopefully) our friendship.
 
I am not afraid that I will lose my identity in an
intimate relationship with another person and am looking
for someone who is strong/secure enough to maintain their
individuality/identity while simultaneously being able to
handle total closeness.  I think that this kind of two-way
trust and sharing will create a strong, enduring, adaptable
successful, loving relationship.  Without sharing, you
are just two people living in the same house.
 
As far as I can tell, I do not really feel jealousy,
although it may be that I have not been in the situation
that brings it out. I am looking for someone else who
feels this way and is comfortable with my female friends
or other things that may receive my attention, as I am with
her male friends or other interests.  I am completely
faithful/monogamous and expect the person I am involved
with to be the same.  I do not initiate affairs as an
excuse not to face difficult problem-solving and do not
think they are safe.
 
You should be a driven, achieving, introspective woman
who understands, has undergone and is undergoing personal
change.  You should be willing to work on our
relationship and use good communication to resolve any
problems that arise.  I will do the same.
 
You should be very creative/artistic and intelligent.  I
have a diverse educational/occupation background and
thrive on creativity.  I have degrees in Music Performance
and Biology and I work as a Software Engineer.  I
also enjoy sculpting and creative writing,
among other things.
 
I have been a volunteer big brother for quite a while
and love it...but it has also been very taxing in some
respects.  My little brother and I have a great
time together.  You should be a caring and giving person
and one who likes and wants to have children some day,
although not right away.
 
I like to dress comfortably - my wardrobe consists mostly
of jeans, T-Shirts, Oxfords, sneakers, although I do have
nice clothes too.  I used to have to wear tails all the
time - but I'm not sure I miss it. You know what they say:
"you can lead a horse to Mervyn's but you can't make him
buy." :-)  And anyway - who do I have to go shopping with
or dress up for?  You...maybe.  :-0
 
Other things I am looking for:
location: SFBay area, age: 24-30, height: 5'4"+, someone
who is attractive, energetic, romantic, caring, insightful,
passionate and has many other overlapping qualities with
those I describe above, including non-smoker/drug-user.
 
I am really ready to have a long-term relationship - 
I have a lot of love to offer and want to find the
right person.  If you think you might be that person
based on what I have described above, then I can't wait
to hear from you!  Write me!  It might change both our
lives forever.

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