From: rsr@soda.berkeley.edu (Roy S. Rapoport)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: Why can't I have two shoulders?
Date: 13 Oct 1992 20:53:22 GMT
Organization: U.C. Berkeley, CS Undergraduate Association
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Keywords: bizarre, upset, hobbits

In article <heard.718701402@franklin> heard@franklin.cc.utas.edu.au (George Heard (Laurie 8)) writes:
->G'day marvelous people...
->
->
->   Being comfortable with one's sexuality is something I have found extremely
->important. I've been aware and comfortable of my bisexuality for a few years
->now, and I try to be a good shoulder and ear for friends, particularly when
->their problems spring from accepting what they truly feel...

Thanks, George ... I personally don't think I've utilized _too_ much of your
time (well, there _was_ that one time with you and Nick discussing my
problems being a man, but that's different), but when I was coming to grips
with being bi, there was someone who did the same for me ... and that was
_HIGHLY_ useful ... He did a really wonderful thing, and so are you.

->   Last night we decided to meet and get something to eat. Just as we were
->teeing up out meeting, a friend appeared on irc, almost in tears over a very
->real personal problem. He wanted to talk it over with me, but I made plans
->to meet this person at the bar on compus and go to my place for something to
->eat.

Ack ... I know the experience ... Sometimes, however, life sucks.  We're all
multi-tasking on one level or another, and that means that some processes
tend to sometimes get a lower priority than the one you'd like to give them.

->   The meeting was not a complete success. My confused friend found it hard
->to talk to a real person about what we had discussed on irc, I did all the
->talking, we walked back to my flat and he was just itching to leave. I went
->through the letters I'd received and some phone messages, he flicked through
->my record collection. He asked if he could leave, he felt too weird, I said
->he could do as he pleased, I was always here for him to talk to. He left...

*sigh* I know how these things go ... I've so far met some people who I had
gotten to know over the net in RL, and experiences were varied ... I mean,
in the case of the first one, we went over to his place, and, well, I live
with him now ... so that went OK :) ... With the second one, things just
utterly did not click, and we both felt sort of uncomfortable during lunch,
and I don't talk with him much these days ; The third one was Mike, and
*grin* things were just as I had hoped (Mike's more fun to talk with in
person than on the net, which is something I didn't think possible) ; the
fourth was this _incredible_ person who I had dinner with who just
completely fascinated me (in other words, this was a _good_ experience) ;
the fifth, today, was OK.

In other words, George, sometimes things click.  Sometimes they don't.
You've also got to realize that if you're suspecting you may not be
straight, and a non-straight man invites you over to his place, there is a
possibility you'll get somewhat uncomfortable ... not because there's any
reason to be, but just because ... 

->   I left a good friend in need to try and help someone who probably didn't
->deserve my caring ears and shoulder. 
George, he needed your help ... he didn't utilize it, but he needed it.
Whether or not he deserved it is something you have to determine for yourself.

->really know why I'm wasting bandwith sometimes. I just wish that I had two
->shoulders...

Yeah ... me too ...

-- 
Roy S. Rapoport          rsr@soda.berkeley.edu            bdsm@ocf.berkeley.edu
#include <stdio.h>
float kinsey(){int c=random()%601;return (c/100.0);}
main(){srandom(time(0));printf("And now I'm %.2f\n",kinsey());}
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