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From: grismore@adobe.com (Doug Grismore)
Subject: ba.singles.party (was: Needing help greeting 30!!)
Followup-To: ba.singles
Organization: Adobe Systems
Date: Tue, 29 Dec 1992 22:44:35 GMT

In article <16106@auspex-gw.auspex.com>, johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
wrote:
> 
> In article <1992Dec28.234553.17500@odin.corp.sgi.com> joselyn@clio.asd.sgi.com (Trish Joselyn) writes:
> >
> |Hi, I've been reading this net for a few months and have never needed the
> |support you all obviously have for each other in a crisis.  Is there any
> |chance as a new poster, that I could get some advice getting over this
> |hump?  I'm having a hard time turning 30.  Not *so* much from me, mostly
> |from family, i.e., I'm not married, I'm childless, {it's okay mom!!!} and
> |I'm very independent of men.  Any friendly advice would be most welcome!!!
>  
> If it makes you feel any better I'm going to be 39 in a couple of weeks, 
> which means that a year from now I'll be hitting the *big* 4-0.  I'm not 
> married nor have any children either, and you know what, it doesn't bother me.  Don't let your parents bother you.  You *are* only 30.  You still have lots
> of time to marry and have children if that's what *you* choose to do.  Perhaps
> you need to show as much independence from your parents as you do from men.
> In any case, a 30th birthday sounds like yet another reason for a 
> ba.singles party.
> 

Not a bad idea.  I know Trish personally, so she was already invited, but
what the hell!  My roommate is also turning 30, and we were already having
a party for him at my abode in Sunnyvale on Saturday the 23rd of January. 
Anyone interested in meeting my two 30 friends and tossing back a couple
may e-mail me for directions and more info!  I mean, since I didn't make it
to Fogg's and all.

- Doug

--- grismore@adobe.com --- original thoughts, not my employer's --- 
--- "are we all out of Powdered Toast (TM) again, Stimpy? - Ren --- 
Newsgroups: ba.singles
From: aldridge@netcom.com (Jacquelyn Aldridge)
Subject: Re: Oxymorons, and other important trivia
Organization: Netcom - Online Communication Services  (408 241-9760 guest) 
Date: Sat, 2 Jan 1993 05:10:32 GMT

bob@netcom.com (Bob Becker) writes:

>>
>OK  Here we go already!  I have a proposal.  Since the last few
>controversial subjects have brought a lot of new posters out of
>the lurking woodwork, I think it's time to have the first boink 
>of 1993.  It might be fun to watch everybody show up and slug it 
>out up close and personal.....
>It's time to meet the new people and attach names to faces.

>Let's get back to basics!!!  How about....

>	Chicks 'n Dudes - Boink '93
>>
>I like it.  It's a good sexist title.
>How about January 16th - Saturday night.  I'll call Harry's Hofbrau
>in Mt. View.  They let groups use the back room for free.
>While I do that, let's get the comments rolling.....

	Sounds good to me. --Jackie--

Xref: sparky ba.singles:2784 alt.feminism:6393 soc.singles:34618 soc.men:21655 soc.women:21811
From: j_babylo@oz.plymouth.edu (Jessica L. Babylon)
Newsgroups: ba.singles,alt.feminism,soc.singles,soc.men,soc.women
Subject: Re: Why there might be a need for a (Pre-Sex Contract)
Summary: dimpled?
Date: 22 Dec 92 18:15:00 GMT
Organization: Plymouth State College - Plymouth, NH.

In article <1992Dec18.080919.20145@netcom.com> tyger@netcom.com (Kristen Kohlbecker) writes:

Lots of neat funny stuff from the tyger lady

>
>Demands for her *daughter*, my dimpled behind.

Is it, indeed, dimpled Kris? I, having missed the TygerBoink! party,
never got the chance to find out. Sigh. Ah well such is life. Mebbe
you'd send gifs dearie? Grin

- Scandalous "have you danced with the devil with the dimpled behind?"
the Goddess

>
>And women wonder where these pre-sex contracts come from...
>
>>Robert Sheaffer 
>
>Tyger
>-- 
>      Kristen Kohlbecker    And I would choose to be with you
>      tyger@netcom.com      That's if the choice were mine to make   
>                            But you can make decisions too
>      A Tyger and a Lady    And you can have this heart to break 
Newsgroups: ba.singles
From: marv@netcom.com (Marvin Raab)
Subject: Re: Oxymorons, and other important trivia
Organization: user of Netcom Public Access Unix, SF Bay Area
Distribution: ba
Date: Thu, 31 Dec 1992 05:10:33 GMT

>In <1992Dec31.031338.21615@netcom.com> tyger(Kristen Kohlbecker) writes:
>>Desiree is always hostile...you get used to it after a while...

In <1992Dec31.032108.22106@netcom.com> bob@netcom.com (Bob Becker) writes:
>Oh-oh.


   [he says as he scrambles for the nearest bomb shelter]


               -marvin


   
-- 
Marvin Raab                                  
marv@netcom.com                              Mountain View, CA 94040
apple.com!netcom.com!marv                    415-961-6501 (h)
From: charleen@net.bio.net (Charleen Bunjiovianna)
Newsgroups: ba.singles
Subject: Re: Turning 30!!
Date: 31 Dec 92 01:12:38 GMT
Organization: BIOSCI International Newsgroups for Biology

In article <1992Dec31.005123.20741@odin.corp.sgi.com> joselyn@clio.asd.sgi.com (Trish Joselyn) writes:
>
>What I will probably do is continue to enjoy my life, save when/where I
>can.  Looking for Mr. Right is fun so I won't stop doing that.  Well,
>enough complaining.  I am going to be 30 next week and there's nothing I
>can do about it.  

Sure there is.  It's just that living is so much more attractive an
option.

30's a number, not a sentence.

Charleen
From: jimmy@finch.scac.edu (Jimmy Tubbs)
Newsgroups: ba.singles
Subject: Re: Duck and Jive (was Re: Pre-Sex Contract )
Date: 30 Dec 92 01:55:21 GMT
Reply-To: jimmy@finch.scac.edu (Jimmy Tubbs)
Distribution: ca
Organization: Sacramento College of Arts and Crafts

In article <1992Dec23.035519.17842@Veritas.COM>, Oleg Kiselev writes:
>Don't blame me, I voted Libertarian.

Don't blame you for what?
Newsgroups: ba.singles
From: obrien@netcom.com (No parking EXCEPT FOR BOB)
Subject: Re: Oxymorons, and other important trivia
Organization: Netcom Online Communications Services (408-241-9760 login: guest)
Date: Sun, 3 Jan 1993 00:28:18 GMT

In article <1993Jan2.222152.24119@netcom.com> bob@netcom.com (Bob Becker) writes:
>In article <1993Jan2.211938.16743@oracle.us.oracle.com> akao@.com (Adam Kao) writes:
>>In article <1993Jan01.030106.2525@Veritas.COM> oleg@veritas.com (Oleg Kiselev) writes:
>>
>>> please, get a brain.
>>
>>This from the man who claims voting Libertarian is a blanket excuse?
>
>I think voting for wild, wanton women who drink a lot is a good idea.

Yup.  Got my vote.  In fact, with a little campaigning, they can probably
lock up the entire 'Bob' vote!   Hey, Bobs, let's start a PAC, and use
the funds to campaign for _more_ wild, wanton women!!!


	Bob "huh? I voted for 'the guy with the ears'(tm)" O'Bob
Newsgroups: ba.singles
From: oleg@netcom.com (Oleg Kiselev)
Subject: Re: Oxymorons, and other important trivia
Organization: Netcom - Online Communication Services (408 241-9760 guest)
Date: Sat, 2 Jan 1993 10:59:36 GMT

In article <76040@apple.apple.COM> erc@Apple.COM (Ed Carp) writes:
>Oh, my GOD!!!  Is it *really* Oleg "smouldering dark eyes" Kiselev??  My, my,

Ease off on the compliments, Ed, I am not available.

>I thought you had died or been fired or
>something, after that last little rucus at Locus.  

All I did was post on the NET that IBM's PC/RT was an abortion.  Not enough
reason to fire someone.  But you'd know more about that than I would.

>I wondered who Des had been taking lessons from... :)

Desiree has been on the NET longer than I have.  She needs no coaching.
-- 
Oleg Kiselev at home			...use the header to find the path
Newsgroups: ba.singles
From: bob@netcom.com (Bob Becker)
Subject: Re: Steel Tipped Tampons
Organization: Netcom Online Communications Services (408-241-9760 login: guest)
Date: Tue, 29 Dec 1992 03:09:22 GMT

In article <SCOTTH.92Dec28181704@oniboshi.corp.sgi.com> scotth@oniboshi.corp.sgi.com (Scott Henry) writes:
>
>>>>>> In article <16100@auspex-gw.auspex.com>, johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:
>
>johnf> I agree. Even dyslexics can spell Bob.
>
>obb?

esY?

Newsgroups: ba.singles
From: obrien@netcom.com (Robert O'Brien)
Subject: Oxymorons, and other important trivia
Summary: and he *claims* to be a Bob, too
Organization: Netcom Online Communications Services (408-241-9760 login: guest)
Date: Thu, 24 Dec 1992 07:18:51 GMT

Under the subject: Re: Directions to Fogg's (Was Re: Beer . . . hic!)

bobk@hpscit.sc.hp.com (Bob Kelley) writes:
>New to the net, but I'll be there unless there's an interesting C-Span
                                                     ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
>conference on media coverage of the Kenyan economy or something of 
>equal or lesser worth.
>
>

I can't seem to recall anyone ever using that particular combination of
characters before.  I thought it noteworthy.  Who is this guy?
How many Bobs are there on ba.singles, anyway?  
How many have Irish family names?
Does *anyone* care?
Hey, Becker, you Irish?

Sorry this doesent have much to do with singles activities in the
bay area, but I'm getting bored with the PSC and it's spawn.

	Bob O'Bob, who sometimes uses apostrophes incorrectly, for fun.
--
From: HF.HLA@forsythe.stanford.edu (Lisa A. Haupt)
Newsgroups: ba.singles
Subject: Re: Duck and Jive (was Re: Pre-Sex Contract )
Date: 22 Dec 1992 14:01:27 -0800
Organization: Stanford University
Distribution: ba
NNTP-Posting-Host: morrow.stanford.edu

In article <1992Dec22.063201.14922@netcom.com>,
aahz@netcom.com (Mean Green Dancing Machine) writes:
>In article <1h5h27INN4o3@morrow.stanford.edu> HF.HLA@forsythe.stanford.edu (Lisa A. Haupt) writes:
>>
>>If three people say your an ass, put on a bridle.
>
>Here's one for you, dear Seahag.  Let's see if we can get two more.
>--
>                         --- Aahz (the *other* Dan Bernstein)
>                             @netcom.com
>
>Hugs and backrubs -- I break Rule 6
>
>Virtual anniversary: 10 days and counting


Glad you liked it!

the seahag
From: erc@Apple.COM (Ed Carp)
Newsgroups: ba.singles
Subject: Re: Needing help greeting 30!!
Date: 29 Dec 92 03:36:08 GMT
Organization: Bleeding Edge Technologies - 'Sliding Down The Razor Blade Of Life...'

In article <1992Dec28.234553.17500@odin.corp.sgi.com> joselyn@clio.asd.sgi.com (Trish Joselyn) writes:

>Hi, I've been reading this net for a few months and have never needed the
>support you all obviously have for each other in a crisis.  Is there any
>chance as a new poster, that I could get some advice getting over this
>hump?  I'm having a hard time turning 30.  Not *so* much from me, mostly
>from family, i.e., I'm not married, I'm childless, {it's okay mom!!!} and
>I'm very independent of men.  Any friendly advice would be most welcome!!!

The only thing I noticed when I turned 30 was my metabolism started to slow
down.  Either that, or I need to play more volleyball (yes!)... :)

So what if you're 30 and "don't have a man"?  Take it all with a grain of
salt - mothers are all like that... :)
-- 
Ed Carp, N7EKG                    erc@apple.com                   801/538-0177
"This is the final task I will ever give you, and it  goes  on  forever.   Act
happy, feel happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love,
and do what you will."           -- Dan Millman, "Way Of The Peaceful Warrior"
Newsgroups: ba.singles
From: ala@fico.uucp
Subject: Re: Oxymorons, and other important trivia
Reply-To: ala@fico.UUCP (Adryenn Ashley)
Organization: The Fair, Isaac Companies, San Rafael, California
Date: Wed, 30 Dec 92 19:26:11 GMT

In article <1992Dec30.005948.9972@netcom.com> desiree@netcom.com (Desiree Champagne) writes:
>	Tell you what Ed, next time you see me, if you try to kiss me,
>make sure you're wearing a cup.  See, I don't need to go around kissing
>anything that moves in order to get my thrills...

Score one for Desiree!

Adryenn
From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: ba.singles
Subject: Re: Needing help greeting 30!!
Date: 30 Dec 92 00:22:30 GMT
Distribution: ba
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <72562@cup.portal.com> DeadHead@cup.portal.com (Bruce M Ong) writes:
 
|	Peer pressure, peer pressure, hypnotic TV commercials with these
|beautiful couples in them (would somebody please tell the ad agency that 
|handles the <<Eden Roc Champagne>> account that the 70's are OVER?). ;-)

Thanks.  I thought it was just me that found those commercials so annoying.

-- 
+==========================================================================+
| John Fereira        | Auspex Systems | "Ask me about my vow of silence." |
| johnf@auspex.com    | Santa Clara CA |                                   |
+==========================================================================+
From: desiree@netcom.com (Desiree Champagne)
Subject: Re: Duck and Jive (was Re: Pre-Sex Contract )
Summary: giggle, whorf, snort
Organization: Ray's Vivarium
Distribution: ba
Date: Mon, 21 Dec 1992 20:54:31 GMT



In an attempt to put me in my place, Lisa A. Haupt (Sea Hag) writes:

[portion of my article deleted for sanity]

>Desiree,

	Yesum?

>You are an embarassement to the species...

	Und what species would that be? 

>I am sorry to say that I am in any way
>remotely associated with someone of your caliber.

	Don't worry Seahag, it doesn't rub off. 

>  I feel sorry for you. 

	Well, gee, that's sweet.  But totally unnecessary...

>No wonder you're single!

	Really?  Tell me more about why I may (or may not) be single.
(Hint Seahag:  Don't assume things about people you don't know...)

>  You attack anyone than even tries to have a conversation
>with you.

	Yea, I'm like a pit viper -- as soon as the conversationally-
inclined comes within striking distance, whamo!  Really makes a mess
at parties, let me tell you.

>  Don't you see, you are setting yourself up for these guys to abuse
>you. 

	No, I don't.  Why don't you explain it to me?  Please? 

>I think you should seek psychotherapy.

	Well, I used to date psyhrink -- does that count?

>I hope you have a very Merry Xmas and that your New Year will bring someone
>special to your life.

	Well, I'll take this as a nice thing and say thank you for the
Christmas cheer -- but I already have a few special people in my life,
so that part is unnecessary.

Bisou,

Desiree


N.B.  Get a clue.
From: HF.HLA@forsythe.stanford.edu (Lisa A. Haupt)
Newsgroups: ba.singles
Subject: Re: Duck and Jive (was Re: Pre-Sex Contract )
Date: 21 Dec 1992 14:41:59 -0800
Organization: Stanford University
Distribution: ba
NNTP-Posting-Host: morrow.stanford.edu

In article <1992Dec21.214930.3601@netcom.com>,
barry@netcom.com (Kenn Barry) writes:

>        Desiree's caliber is an M16's - small diameter, high muzzle
>velocity. You are a pea shooter. What association are you talking about,
>unless you're volunteering yourself for target practise?
>
>                                                Kayembee


De lo que veas cree muy poco,
De lo que te cuenten, nada.




the seahag
From: joselyn@clio.asd.sgi.com (Trish Joselyn)
Newsgroups: ba.singles
Subject: Re: Turning 30!!
Date: 31 Dec 92 00:51:23 GMT
Organization: Silicon Graphics, Inc.

Kenn Walker wrote

I'm at the age where I'm supposed to own a home and quit running around the
planet like I lunatic chasing good times (which I thouroughly enjoy
doing).

~~~~~~~~~
My point exactly.  I am now hearing the "When I was your age" tune.  It's
starting to warp.  Unless you are lucker than most, society has put us in
debt.  Madison Avenue or not.  Who hasen't had a collection notice, how
many single friends do you have that comfortably$$ own their own home here
in Silicon Valley.  How many of your friends were married for more than 10
years before divorce?  I can't stand that fact that people of an older
generation expect us to do and be the same people and live the type of
lifestyle that they lived!@!

I'm really angry that I share my thrill of bungee jumping to my family that
all I hear is grief.  It's okay that my brother almost kills himself
everyweek mountain biking.  Didn't they understand in July when I bought my
convertable that is was something for me that I wanted to do.  I'm not in
debt...the damn things paid for.  I think they're upset that I'm having
more fun than they did at my age -- think I'm right!?

Can't Madison Ave or generations of old understand that survival goes to
the fittest.  I am not going to stand idly by why my life passes before me.
I'm also not going to work my tail to the bone in one electronics company
for 20 years like my mother did just to get layed off in my late 40's only
to find that I'm not the hot commidity that I was 20 years prior.  I WILL
NOT!!

What I will probably do is continue to enjoy my life, save when/where I
can.  Looking for Mr. Right is fun so I won't stop doing that.  Well,
enough complaining.  I am going to be 30 next week and there's nothing I
can do about it.  

I want to thank all the people who responded to my plea.  I think I'm going
to take her idea of my Wrong to meet her [any one of my ex-boyfriends would
do it]. Then in the following weeks I will borrow friends children of
varying age and take them to my family when I visit.  I'll let you know how
it goes.
From: obrien@netcom.com (Robert O'Brien)
Newsgroups: ba.singles
Subject: Re: Needing help greeting 30!!
Date: 29 Dec 92 06:12:35 GMT
Organization: Netcom Online Communications Services (408-241-9760 login: guest)

joselyn@clio.asd.sgi.com (Trish Joselyn) writes:
>
>Hi, I've been reading this net for a few months and have never needed the
>support you all obviously have for each other in a crisis.  Is there any
>chance as a new poster, that I could get some advice getting over this
>hump?  I'm having a hard time turning 30.  Not *so* much from me, mostly
>from family, i.e., I'm not married, I'm childless, {it's okay mom!!!} and
>I'm very independent of men.  Any friendly advice would be most welcome!!!

As the saying goes:   Take my advice!  I'm not using it...

Personally, I found age 30 to be considerably easier than age 29, if only
because I was foolish (or maybe stupid) enough to spend a noticible portion
of the year _worrying_ about what would be different once I was THIRTY.

Frankly, I feel younger at 35 than I did at 29.  As for pressure from your
family, I don't know what that's like, but you have to know they wouldn't
*really* want you to have had a marriage and/or child _just_because_ you're
turning thirty, rather than for "right" reasons.  They just haven't thought
it through like that. 

Of course, *ten years* from now, if you're still single, and really set on
having children, you might look into other possibilities, but even though
you hear that occasional really loud 'tick' from your biological clock ;-)
you've probably got little to worry about just yet.

	Bob O'Bob
--
From: sam@hpsad.sad.hp.com (Vicky Hansen)
Date: Tue, 22 Dec 1992 18:12:52 GMT
Subject: Re: Okay, what *is* that view? (was: Re: Pre-Sex Contract)
Organization: HP Signal Analysis Division - Rohnert Park, CA
Newsgroups: ba.singles

In ba.singles, charleen@net.bio.net (Charleen Bunjiovianna) writes:

    I think that interest in sex manifests itself in many different ways,
    and that women have quiet ways of indulging in lust (hey, bun-watching
    is one of *my* favorite activities), and men's ways tend to be more
    vocal or obvious.  And with men, there's the whole if-I'm-not-obsessed-
    with-sex-I'm-not-a-Real-Man worry.  Yes, I have actually known men
    who worried that people would think them less than macho if they didn't
    display an active interest in the opposite sex.

The 'problem' goes the other way too.  "Nympho" is not usually a term used
as a postivie discriptor of a lady.
From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: ba.singles
Subject: Re: Oxymorons, and other important trivia
Date: 30 Dec 92 22:58:21 GMT
Distribution: ba
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <72629@cup.portal.com> DeadHead@cup.portal.com (Bruce M Ong) writes:
|>It said that "everyone goes to PJ's on Wednesdays".  Sounds to me like an 
|>invitation for ba.singles for HumpdayBoink at PJ's.
|
|	Aww. that leaves us SF folks out. Anybody for hanging out
|at the Marina Safeway's produce section on Wednesday nights? ;-)

That article also mentioned a rendezvous round the radishes at the local
supermarket to be a good place so it sounds like you've got that covered.

[description of SF clubs deleted but it gives me an idea]

Nightlife review - I was playing darts last night at Britannia Arms and they
had something just a little bit different going on.  It was sort of a team 
Trivial Pursuit game.  Whoever was sitting at your table or immediate area
was on your team.  You chose a name and were given an answer sheet to fill
out.  Our team was called "Who Darted?"  Eleven fairly difficult questions
were asked and your team would fill out the answer sheet as each question
was asked.  Some of the questions were pretty funny and occasionally someone
would shout out an obviously wrong, but very funny answer.  In any case, the
place was quite busy with no shortage of attractive young single types.  A
good time seemed to be had by all.  Oh, and my dart team won 10-3 in the
dart match.
-- 
+==========================================================================+
| John Fereira        | Auspex Systems | "Ask me about my vow of silence." |
| johnf@auspex.com    | Santa Clara CA |                                   |
+==========================================================================+
Newsgroups: ba.singles,soc.men