From: aarons@yang.earlham.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: LDR Contest! and LDR advice(?)/experience
Date: 6 Nov 92 21:14:16 GMT
Organization: Earlham College, Richmond, Indiana

In article <scott.721024345@ssvs.gsfc.nasa.gov>, scott@ssvs.gsfc.nasa.gov (Tom Scott) writes:
> I'm more a reader than a writer, but here's a quick start for a thread:
> Who's got the longest? (Oops, obsede', that sounds like alt.sex material)
> 
> Some lines I've noticed since finding a.r:
> mvb@po.CWRU.Edu (Michael V. Barreca) says:
>>Great, now I'm depressed. (my girlfriend lives 300 miles away)
> stuarta@syd.dms.csiro.au (Stuart Andrews) says:
>>She live in Melbourne, Australia, and I in Sydney, Australia
>>A separation of some 750 kilimetres. If that isn't a LDR,
>>nothing is :-)
> So who of us has the longest long-distance-romance?  In my case, I'm in D.C.
> while my SO is in Paris.  Oui, that's like 5,000 miles.  (Maybe I'll post a
> bit of my story, esp since the waiting will soon be over).
> Oh yea, if anyone wants to start listing lengths of waits? She left the U.S.
> on January 24th.

I have a long distance relationship with someone who is currently living 
near Leipzig, Germany. I currently live in Richmond, Indiana (I will not 
specify because I think you all should find an atlas and look for these 
places yourself. Hmph. *8-P ). She left the country July 15.
Our relationship has always been long-distance, however, though much 
closer. Normally I live in Haddonfield, New Jersey, and she outside 
Lancaster, Pennsylvania; an 80 mile hike between the two.

> 
> Romantics must love a touch of pain...

Oh, I suppose so. I wouldn't say "love" it, I just think it's something I 
must expect, and therefore, I have coped. I do miss her, though. But I am 
not going to dwell longingly over her absence. And anyway, she will be 
back in the States in a year.

One thing I have to say to future post-ers who discuss problems arising in 
their long-distance relationships (if you've noticed by now, I usually 
shun abbreviations! It's fine if you all use them, however; don't get me wrong)
is this:

	Unless you *both* are married/engaged/truly committed to each 
other, I don't recommend placing limits on the other person. If you aren't 
sure about the other's commitment to you, then you must let the other do 
as the other wishes regarding relationships. I love her, the one from 
Lancaster, very much, but I know that 1) she doesn't love me quite the same 
way as I, 2) she lives too far away to make a strong commitment to me
(girlfriend/boyfriend), 3) I can't expect her or myself to be committed to 
someone far away when she and I are both individuals who need physical contact
(note: this does *not* mean sexual, though we like that kind too!). I like 
to think that I can be both romantic and realistic.
	I know she feels this way, too.

	Thank you, Have Fun,
						Yours sincerely,
						Aaron G. Stock
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