From: mike.mcaulay@spacebbs.com (Mike Mcaulay) 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Psychobabble
Date: 17 Aug 92 03:29:00 GMT
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Reply-To: mike.mcaulay@spacebbs.com (Mike Mcaulay) 

kevin@nuchat.sccsi.com (Kevin Brown) writes:

KB>In article <2984.1787.uupcb#spacebbs.com> mike.mcaulay@spacebbs.com (Mike Mc
KB>y)  writes:
KB>>WARNING!  THIS IS A FLAME!  PRESS 'N' NOW!!!

KB>Great.  Just what we all need.

Hey, at least I gave fair warning!  :-)  However, having read your
more recent post about your learning disabilities, etc., I apologize for
flaming you.  Your strong verbal skills and analytical ability had me
fooled.

KB>>Throw a bucket of ice water in
KB>>your face *NOW!!!!!!*  Turn your fucking word machine off and listen to
KB>>the other centers of intelligence.  Listen to your dick, and your guts,
KB>>and your heart.  Listen to your *humor gland!*

KB>*These* are "centers of intelligence"????

Yes, they are.  But maybe in your case they don't work?  I dunno.  The
point I was trying to make was that for most people falling in love
happens *naturally,* and that over-intellectualizing the process just
clouds the issue.  But if intellection is the only modality available to
you...

KB>>You have two options:  1)  Completely accept your own naivete and lauch
KB>>yourself willy-nilly into a campaign of approaching literally every
KB>>woman you find attractive and simply accepting the rebuffs as learning
KB>>experiences (you'll like this part: look for logical correlations
KB>>between your behavior and the reactions you receive.)

KB>This is probably a good approach.

KB>>Or, 2)  Decide
KB>>that you ARE SPOCK, and run with it.  Post personal adds everywhere you
KB>>can possibly think of (nerdly exercise #2) saying "I am a total Spock,
KB>>looking for a Spockette."

KB>This probably isn't.

Interesting that you should say so.  I think that if you have a
condition that makes it difficult for you to pick up on subtle cues,
your best bet is probably to be very up-front about it.

KB>>My personal feeling is that *truly dedicating* yourself to either of
KB>>these approaches (or, in fact, dedicating yourself to *anything* other
KB>>that sitting-around-thinking-about-it) will bring you the results you
KB>>desire.

KB>In other words, don't just stand there, *do* something!  Agreed.

Yes!

KB>>I'll pass it along:  women are people.  Humans.  JUST LIKE US, only
KB>>different.  You can talk to them, ask them questions, even reveal
KB>>your feelings to them without causing the sky to fall.  Amazing, but
KB>>true.

KB>No shit.  This is why I've had female friends.

Well, so, how about *asking them* all of this stuff?  How about asking
them to give you pointers on improving your appearance, body language,
vocal inflections, etc. etc.  How about asking them to introduce you to
their friends?

KB>>FLAME OFF!!!

KB>Thank you.

Well, again, I apologize.  I thought you were myopically
over-intellectualizing.  My mistake.

M.
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