From: ronaldd@cbnewse.cb.att.com (ronald.h.davis)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.african.american
Subject: Re: Rating brothers and white guys
Date: 15 Oct 92 19:36:26 GMT
Article-I.D.: cbnewse.1992Oct15.193626.21427
Distribution: usa
Organization: AT&T

In article <1992Oct15.162735.26613@Princeton.EDU> bvaughan@lotka.Princeton.EDU (Barbara Vaughan) writes:
> 
>What's wrong with you? Do you think the woman should have stuck with the
>first guy she happened to meet?  It sounded to me like he was no great
>prize and that she's still looking for the right man.  I thought
>Gabrielle's post was excellent - it brought the topic off this dogmatic
>and theoretical level to show the way interracial dating actually happens
>in a person's life and what the results are.  You owe Gabrielle a big
>apology.  You sound like one of those guys who divides women into two
>categories: saints and whores.
>
what's wrong with me???  i can *read*, and *think* stupid; problems you
obiously don't have to concern yourself with.

did i say that she should have stayed with the first guy given her opinion
of him? no.  but when i look at the list i see a reasonably consistent
pattern of philanderers, drug users, and mental cases.  the fact that
she (apparently) finds herself attracted to such types on a fairly regular
basis tells me a lot about her.  keep in mind that i don't know *anything*
about the guys of which she speaks; i only know of them from her viewpoint
which is heavily filtered by the inner workings of her mind, therefore,
to draw any inferences of how "good" these guys were loads heavily into
the assumption that gabrielle is a "good" person who is being repeatedly
"victimized" by men who aren't.  yeah, sure, i'm ready to hear another
shaggy dog story... 

i gotta say, anyone who can't find the "right" man has got a problem within
themselves.  because the whole thing about a "right man" is totally bogus,
there's no such thing.  you can get along with practically anyone if the
parties involved are determined to make it work.  the problem is finding
the joint determination to do so.  but as it takes "two to tango" it's
impossible to really assess why gabrielle is (ostensibly) running this
unbroken string of losers (based on *her* opinion), or do i wish to spend
my time thinking about it, but i can't help but wonder why she seems to
keep running across guys that have these characteristics that she says
she doesn't like.  is it that she has an inability to learn from past
experience?  i just don't know...

>It sounds to me like you've got a big problem if that post turned you on. 
>There was nothing salacious about it.  Maybe you should get out more.
>
i don't know about you, but i was pulling my pud like a mad dog.  oh, that's
right, you don't have one...so sorry. :-(

>Given the way you feel about women, I hope you're not dating any, whatever
>their race.  
>
based on my comments about gabrielle's posting, i'm not sure where you're
getting ideas for this global view of women that you think i hold but
whatever i'm doing, i'll tell you one thing; you won't see me writing an
expose about it in this [or any other] newsgroup.

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