From: joe@spdcc.com (Joseph Francis)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: penis size
Date: 5 Jan 93 15:25:27 GMT
Article-I.D.: spdcc.1993Jan5.152527.6888
Organization: S.P. Dyer Computer Consulting, Cambridge MA

I was at a party in London saturday night (in process of distributing
a new Bearhunt) and by way of introduction a somewhat drunk friend
said: "what can you say? Look at him. He's good-looking, got a
fantastic huge blond beard, muscles, and a great big cock". I've never
been shy, but I was immediately nonplussed. How big is it. Is it big,
/big/ or what? The trap is focussing on the expectations of others and
depending upon them. I've always had fun making fun of my eternal
self-promotion because I think, in the vein of people like Marilyn
Monroe, the only appropriate method of responding to unrealistic
expectations is to be unrealistic - you know, I'm not just pleasant
looking, I'm not just well-muscled, but people run off the road
driving by me when I'm semi-undressed. Entire bars become silent if I
walk in wearing lycra shorts with a big fat hardon snaking down the
leg. And so on. Fortunately people are usually judged quickly by
externals. You can control the response to your appearance greater or
lesser degree than you can control whether or not you have a pleasant
personality; if you have an exceptional appearance (big cock, big
breasts (I've had big tits since I was a little boy), etc.) then you
can modulate peoples responses two ways: minimizing, or maximizing to
the point where it is meaningless. It is hard to minimize, and boring
after a point. So, if you have big tits, wear decollete clothing. Big
Cock?  Tightish pants, shorts, brief swimsuits. Acknowledging and
enjoying, a burlesque to a point, will make you happier, and others
less sensitive because you are /over/ sensitive.

As for people who want to have sex solely because you have a big cock,
is that bad? If you played clarinet exceptionally well and someone
wanted to play clarinet duets with you, but outside of your musical
accords you had little to be friends with in common, is this bad?
Clearly not. That is because we give music high status as an aesthetic
pursuit. A talent for playing Clarinet or other musical instrument
could be considered as natural an attribute as a large cock. One
doesn't worry that after a few pages of Pleyel the duet breaks up and
people go home. And playing a duet can be as intimate as sex, take it
from one who knows. Where does that leave us? The thing is bad when
you are taken advantage of because of what is natural, against your
wishes, or contrary to your needs. That is, unfortunately, your
responsibility to guard against (you do that with money, with your
home, with your clothing, etc., and to a greater degree, how you
function in the work-place). In lamenting that you have a naturally
big cock, you are only lamenting that the activities which that give
you a natural advantage for are those which you don't like, or are of
a social status which isn't interesting. Someone with the voice of an
angel who doesn't like singing is in the same position, and will
forever hav people pestering them to grace the world with their gift.
I think it is interesting that you posted on this topic; the trick is
to get past /reaction/ to the 'revelation' (I must admit that the 'e'
bear code is one of the least useful parts since it is so subjective;
I have always thought that such coding systems need to be put together
by someone other than the bearer anyway (ignore the pun)).

If a big cock is a problem in sex (and it certainly can be), there is
a Dutch support group (Dutch men tend to have very big cocks) which
helps to share information on how to make sex a more pleasurable
experience for all involved. I can give you an address to write to.

-- 
US Jojo; damp, slighly soiled, but tasty nonetheless.
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