From: monaghn@garnet.berkeley.edu (Mara Monaghan)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Females have it easy!
Date: 18 Dec 1992 03:31:30 GMT
Organization: The hospital for the terminally short
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I'm sorry for my first version being such a mess.
I was trying a new (to me) news (mac based) program
and it looked fine when I read it using that program,
but it came out as gobblty gook on the net. Mea Culpa
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In article <1992Dec17.154039.14407@cbfsb.cb.att.com>,
> sms@cbnewsf.cb.att.com (steven.m.stein) writes:

  > >In article <JoeMan.7.724562272@> JoeMan@ (Joe Tooman) writes:
  > >Not to bitch or anything, but it seems to me that the
  > >female does not have any problem finding a guy anytime
  > >she feels like she wants a relationship.

Well! I do have the amazing ability to find good cafes,
open parking spaces, and dark chocolate, but I never 
realized that other women can find a guy anytime they
want a relationship! No wonder I haven't had a SO 
(or even a date) in 4 yrs. Ack! I'm handicapped!


  > >As a guy, I find that it is very hard to find
  > >a female that seems intrested.
  > >Joe Tooman aa422@cleveland.freenet.edu 

Interested in you (as a person) or in going out with
you.  Some of us female types prefer knowing a guy 
before going out on a "date."  It might be your 
technique is wrong for the females you find interesting.


> 
> I have also found this to be somewhat true, BUT,
> 
> although women do seem to be approached on a
> sometime daily or weekly basis, their problem
> is weeding through all the offers for a man who
> meets their standards.
>

The only weeding I do on a weekly basis is
in my front yard.  I haven't found a guy yet.
Perhaps I should've planted bachelor buttons :-)
 
> atleast with us guys, we only approach those we
> already feel interested in knowing.  
>
I think this topic is already being addressed in
another thread, so I'll skip it 

>
> In other words, women may have to deal with 20 men
> before she is approached by one she's attracted to,
> whereas we could luck out after the 8th or 9th approach.
> 

First a quibble about your choice of words:
I think of "deal" as having a negative connotation.
(My Webster's dictionary defines this usage as:
"to take action with regard to someone or something,
ex. to deal with an offender").
*I* don't use "deal" when I referring to people
because I don't like the cold image it projects.

Back to the matter at hand:
(I do hope you're not serious, but if you are...)

Your generalizations are inaccurate for
the "average woman.  This is, of course,
my humble opinion and is based on my own 
past experience and that of my friends.
(BTW I am including our years as college
students).  None of us would make the 
cover of Vogue, but we are attractive,
intelligent women.

So if your generalization is wrong
(re: weekly offers) and the women you
"approach" are not overwhelmed with other
offers, why are you having to approach 8
or 9 women before you "luck out" ?
(BTW, what do you mean by "approaching",
"luck out", and "offers"? Just curious)
I think this ties into my earlier comment
about the technique being inappropriate for
the women involved.  Are you trying get to
know them or just pick 'em up?

>               Steve Stein  (609) 639-2264
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>  *  Just my opinion, though it could change tomorrow   *
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Mara   (Of course I *could* be wrong about the "offer"
a week thing and with one week left in the year,I
*could* be "approached" by 52 men who want to make
me an "offer" and "luck out." I wonder if having them
fill out applications would be too tacky?
Ooh, I better buy more egg nog and cups!





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