From: HF.GTD@forsythe.stanford.edu (Gabrielle Daniels)
Subject: Rating brothers and white guys
Organization: Stanford University, California, USA
Date: Tue, 13 Oct 1992 22:35:03 GMT

Rating some encounters with brothers and white guys.  Not any of
these cats are 10s and no names, to protect the guilty.


Brother.  Strikingly handsome.  Tall.  Softest fuzzy Afro and beard.
In the parlance:  FINE.  Seventies version cultural nationalist.
First man I was with.  Selfish lover.  Married, with children, I
later found.  Liked dirty movies too much.  Borderline artistic,
owned nebulous production company.  Openly fondled my breasts while
at the job where we both worked; I slapped his hand away.  Of
course, didnt want to go out.  Talked about nothing but sex.
Druggie.  Authoritarian.  10 years older but infantile.  Two and a
half stars.

Brother.  Okay attractive.  My height (5 ft.  8 in.).  Pick-up at a
bar.  No job.  Didnt like my intellect, my pictures on the wall,
where I lived, or my record collection.  Impotent.  Didnt want to
wear a condom.  Wanted to move in and make me over.  I also give no
money to dudes.  Lost him, thankfully, within two weeks.  One star,
for simply being there when I needed him.

Brother.  Okay attractive.  Boy next door.  Just under 6 feet.
Discharged from Army.  Promised me a big night on the town but ended
up at someone elses apartment smoking weed.  Told him to take me
home.  Found later, hed had hepatitis.  Ever since, Ive hated
Karmann Ghias.  Half a star.

Brother.  Okay attractive.  My height.  Decided to date me because
of problems with major lover.  Just a regular guy:  not artistic,
just working stiff.  After a month, went back to the woman.  At
times, I felt I was dangling in the wind.  Four stars for overall
being sensitive, nice if not spacey, and finally fronting.

Brother.  Tall, big shouldered, hunky.  Strong-featured.  Some 20
years older, but well-preserved.  Husband of a woman friend.  Tried
to make hugs more than they should be and tried to sweet talk me.
Vastly uncomfortable feeling.  Let him know that the sister was more
important to me than he was.  No star, for trying to be fly on two
sisters.

White guy.  Son of a Norwegian immigrant.  Tall.  Attractive in a
devilish way.  Spontaneous.  Artistic.  Unpredictable.  Weed smoker
and Lord knows what else.  Good lover.  Sometimes affectionate and
gentle.  Scary.  Other women would abuse him, and then hed be
abusive back...with me.  Called me jigaboo just to piss me me off
and I tore the bedclothes off with him in them.  Proposed once,
while loaded; asked me what our children would look like.  Made
fantastic omelets mornings and dinners.  Fell in love with me at the
last minute when I finally fell out of love with his wierdness.
Obsessed to the point of following me around.  Finally committed
suicide.  Hey, isnt the SISTER supposed to bump herself off in these
movies?  Three stars, for cooking and lovemaking.

White guy.  Hippie-intellectual, attractive.  Basketball player
tall; reminded you of Bill Walton with glasses.  Month older than I
am.  Passive-aggressive.  Inability to commit.  Unable to genuinely
front.  Great, great lover, however.  Would say it was my fault if I
believed what he said (yeah, sure) and then wanted me to stay in his
life when I wanted to leave.  Got dizzy hearing that I was a friend
one day and then a lover another.  Black brother, mutual friend,
said the guy would smoke weed before coming to see me.  Why?  Cut
bait after going positively crazy.  After 14 years apart, still
shakes in his shoes about me.  I never knew I was that terrifying
and after that long, man, I dont want anything like that from you.
Four stars, for the bedroom antics.

White guy.  Fairly attractive, several years older.  Tall.  Lover to
a white woman friend.  Mutually, dangerously, almost instantly
attracted to each other.  Wisely decided to chill the feel because
she was still safer to him, I liked her, and besides, why make your
karma worse:  Im not into taking any ones old man; Im not into that
soap opera shit.  Two stars for simply making a surreptitious move,
no matter how tentative.

Other commentary re interracial marriage/dating later.
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