From: lisad@dynamo.ecn.purdue.edu (Lisa Dominique)
Subject: Re: Frustrations of the Helpless Romantics...
Organization: Purdue University Engineering Computer Network
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 1993 14:27:42 GMT

In article <1993Jan25.160848.1919@pony.Ingres.COM> jlane@Ingres.COM (Judi Lane) writes:
>In article <0096703F.D5D428A0@Msu.oscs.montana.edu> gdn5220@Msu.oscs.montana.edu writes:
>>The other thing that puzzles me, is all of the girls that I do know
>>occationally come and talk to me and tell me that there arn't any guys out
>>there that want a serious relationship.  All they want is sex.  WHAT ABOUT
>>ME!!!!! 
>
>	Ah, the eternal question.  Do you have any idea how many men
>	and women both are asking themselves this very same question?
>	ARCers... you know of what I type, yes??

Yes, Yes, Yes, definitely.

>	All I can state is what others have told me countless times
>	when I raise my voice to the clouds and shout the same laments:
>
>		Never wash white and red underwear together.
>		(no, no, that's not right...)

Are you sure?  My white underwear turned pink the other day
when I tried that.


>	Hey, it's tough and I'll be the first one to tell you so.
>	I'm going to be 36 (gasp!) years old in two months, I'm still
>	in school and have one divorce that's pushing seven years.
>	I get caught up thinking that I'm never going to find anyone
>	again, especially when so many of my friends and my sister are
>	in *terrific* relationships of their own!  And I pout and cry
>	and stomp my feet and shout at them, "It's not fair!  YOU have
>	someone to love!  What about me?"  And they all say the same
>	thing in response:  "I found this person when I stopped thinking
>	about being alone and stopped looking for love and accepted my
>	life as a single happy adult."  And guess what?  As much as that
>	tidbit of information sucks canal water... it's right on the money!
>	Once I started focusing on my schoolwork, on my job, on just
>	being with my friends and enjoying their company, instead of just
>	being with them out of default because I had no "special someone"
>	to share my free time with... that's when guys started coming out
>	of the woodwork to want to do things with me!!  And now I don't
>	have enough free time to spend with them!  (Which is a bummer,
>	since one of these wonderful fellas is beginning to become just
>	a little bit more special than the others.)  When I "let go"
>	of "wanting to be with someone" and just accepted my singleness...
>	that's when things started to happen the way I wanted them to.
>	And take it from my friends... the process of "letting go" for
>	Judi was a very painful one.  I hadn't a clue of what that meant
>	for the longest time... but I didn't give up hope, and stayed as
>	open to change as I possibly could.  Now I know just what my friends
>	were trying to tell me about accepting singleness and letting go...
>	and I know 100% now, for sure, no doubts... that someday in the 
>	near future, I will be with my "special someone" again.  No shit.  8^)


Great post, Judi!!   This is so true.  Seems like when you 
quit "trying to find someone" that's when things begin to
happen.  Thanks for sharing this, Judi.

            ** Bewitching Huggs **


Lis, The Official Good Romantic Witch
and Honoured Former President
of the Romantic Fire Association

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