From: anonymus+793@godiva.nectar.cs.cmu.edu
Newsgroups: alt.personals.ads
Subject: Re: SWF ISO SWM in/near Rochester, NY
Date: 27 Sep 92 21:43:25 GMT
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    Yet another busy professional recovered (yes, fully, thank you) 
from a long-term relationship and ready to find someone new:

    I am, physically, attractive.  I have been called cute by some, 
pretty by others, "gorgeous" by my mother (thanks, Mom!).  I am 
5'4", 125 pounds.  My hair is (naturally) blond and reaches just 
below my shoulder blades in back.  The front is cut short and wispy 
to frame my face.  (I do not, however, pile my hair on my head, let 
it hang in my eyes, perm it, or in any way attempt to make it look 
"trendy".  I own neither hot rollers nor hair spray.)  My eyes are 
blue, most frequently framed by dark lashes (thanks to mascara, but 
I do allow myself to "go natural" on weekends, when I am either 
alone or with intimate friends/family, and I like that look too).

    I am 30, but thanks to my genetic make-up, I look much younger.  
(During the week of my 30th birthday, a relative of a relative 
thought I was still in high school.  I assumed it was how I looked, 
not how I acted, but who knows!  Either way, it made the hurdle of 
turning 30 easier to cross.)

    I swim to keep in shape, but I am not fanatical about it.  I used 
to be; I tried to do a mile a day, 5+ days a week.  Then I'd get 
busy at work and be out of it for a month, knowing I didn't have 
time for that kind of a work-out schedule.  Now I do about a half-
mile 3 or 4 days a week.  I figure any exercise is better than none 
at all, and now I really swim because I enjoy it.  I like outdoor 
activities too: walking, hiking, and ice skating spring readily to 
mind.  I also like to play softball and volleyball.

    That's all about how I look. (Got the mental picture?  Hmm?  
Okay.)  Now about who I am....

    I took the time within the last year to define my own personal 
values, and this is what I came up with (each is weighted for 
importance-to-me on a scale of 1 to 10).

    Creativity (9).  More than anything else, this defines who I am.  
I am a singer/songwriter/musician/poet/writer/artist/actress/fashion 
designer/software designer... and this only scratches the surface.  
Above all, I create my life.  I experience what I create with great 
wonder and awe.  And I am optimistic enough to believe that I can 
create and experience the best life has to offer, the whole 
enchilada: success, love, home, family, spirituality, everything.  
(Incidentally, I only get paid for the "software designer" part, 
which is fine, because I think that writing software is the most 
satisfying creative venture I've ever undertaken.)

    Companionship (7.5).  I need people.  I love my circle of 
friends: my intimate friends who keep me truly centered; my social 
friends and coworkers who allow me to experience the open, bubbly 
side of my personality (and let me crack bad puns, groaning in all 
the right places); and my family members, who do both.  I don't mind 
(too much) being alone, as long as I can "connect" to a human, at 
least through the telephone, once a day.  I also keep my pets for
their companionship.  They allow me to lose myself in play,
to give and receive love, and to practice both responsibility 
and forgiveness.  For some of the same reasons, I know I will want 
children.  I want family around me in my old age, and I want to 
know the experience of watching a child learn about her world.

    I think an ideal relationship is a balance between both 
creativity and companionship: one in which the individuals are 
allowed to grow, create, and experience life without being stifled 
by a fear of change, but where time spent together is a high enough 
priority to be scheduled into the normal workweek, if necessary.  (I 
picture a couple getting excited about each other's creative ideas, 
both encouraging the other, then experiencing a quiet togetherness 
as they pursue them.  Then they share their successes with mutual 
pride in their own and the other's work.)

    Honesty (6).  I cannot help being completely open and honest; it 
was programmed in to me at far too young an age.  Consequently, I 
assume other people are honest too.  Maybe this is why it's only a 
6.  I assume it's there, so I don't seek it out at all cost.  I am 
ususally rather mystified when I find out someone is lying; I don't 
understand why it is necessary.  This doesn't mean I'll tell you 
what your birthday present is or where it's hidden.  I am not above 
pleasant surprises.  It doesn't mean, either, that I'll always know 
what I'm talking about or that I'll never change my mind.  (Quite 
the contrary!  I do!  All too often!)  It just means I'll be 
completely truthful in revealing my-reality-as-I-know-it at any 
given moment in time.

    Comfort and Convenience (4.5).  I like the comforts of home.  I 
can live in the wilderness for a weekend (after all, I'm a country 
girl at heart), as long as I can come home to carpeting, bubble 
baths, and silk.  When I buy things, I tend to buy quality things: 
for how they feel, or because they are so well engineered they 
provide the utmost in convenience.  I appreciate beauty and order.  
I sometimes get into organizing frenzies, in order to make some 
aspect of my life more convenient.  (All the rest of the time, I 
throw things in heaps.  It's convenient up to a point....but never
beautiful!)

    I am attracted to, above all, intellect.  (If you can calculate 
the local tax percentages on a restaurant bill in your head, for 
example, or talk intelligently about NPR news casts, I'm impressed.)  
Second, I am attracted to physical beauty, which I define as 5'8" or 
taller, brown hair (ranging from light to dark, straight to curly), 
physically fit, with nice facial features.  (I consider it rather
important to be sexually attracted to my SO.  Almost any new 
relationship is exciting at the beginning, but I want to be able to 
look at you in 5 years and still get a rush.  Hmmm....)  Perhaps just as 
important as how you look is how comfortable you are with yourself.  
I find attractive a certain sense of self confidence, an ease in 
social situations, or (within reason) up in front of a crowd giving a
presentation.

    Third, I want someone who shares my dreams and values.  I believe 
this is more likely if you are around my age (27 to 35).  I am open 
to almost all new experiences, so having the same hobbies is not 
critical to me.  (Besides, MY hobbies never stay the same.  If my 
creativity ever leaves me dissatisfied, it is because I tend to get 
interested in something new and leave an old project unfinished.  In 
fact, I think I'm about to start the "hobby" of refurbishing an old 
farm house I'm thinking of buying.  THAT should take up some of my 
spare time!)

    Emotional stability and a good relationship with your parents are 
a wonderful plus.  And if you have delved into "new-age" thought 
enough to recognize that your beliefs about life help create your 
life, or that there could be more to reality than meets our physical 
senses, well, that would be icing on the cake.

    Hope to hear from you!  (By the way, I talk in about as many
parenthetical phrases as I write in.  I should have been a Lisp
programmer!)
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