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From: martinc@grover.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Living alone and liki
Date: 25 Jan 93 10:46:03
Organization: UNC Department of Computer Science
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In-reply-to: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG's message of 22 Jan 93 21:29:00 GMT

In article <6170.13.uupcb@uuworld.via.mind.ORG> brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason)  writes:

     > Please tell me you mean sequentially.  Not simultaneously playing.
     >
     > (Mine is loaded with 2 disks of Evita, Melissa Etheridge, Jean-Michel
     > Jarre's Revolutions, and Das Ring Ohne Worte....)
     > --
     > 		Charles R. Martin/(Charlie)/martinc@cs.unc.edu

	  Oh yea, well mine's loaded with 3 Hotters albums, Tommy Shaw (of
   Styx and Damn Yankees fame) and Jethro Tull (Best of the last 20 Years)

Now mine's loaded with Ray Manzarek's _The Golden Scarab_ (reissued on
CD at last!), Kate Bush's _The Whole Story_, Suzanne Ciani's
_Neverland_, Information Society's _Hack_, and the _Lost Boys_ soundtrack.


So there.

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     "Oh God, please help me be civil in tongue, pure in thought, and able
      to resist the temptation to laugh uncontrollably.  Amen." -- Rob T
From: jmd@bear.com (Josh Diamond)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: reactions to a man in a mini-skirt?
Date: 21 Jan 93 22:26:18 GMT
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In-reply-to: jwall@nyx.cs.du.edu's message of 21 Jan 93 19:23:16 GMT


In article <1993Jan21.192316.4229@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> jwall@nyx.cs.du.edu (Jeff Wall) writes:

   In article <1993Jan20.163803.26895@cbfsb.cb.att.com> jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton) writes:
   > 
   >At the Phillyboink Contra hoedown there was a guy, long black stringy
   >hair, wearing a tastefull folk singer mid calf skirt. While I thought
   >to myself what the Hal is going on, nobody else batted an eye.
   >Whatyagonnado?

   He was also wearing bright red finger nail polish.  I did a double take
   cause I thought it was blood.  I was right in the middle of one of those
   convoluted dance manuvers.

Being a Noo Yawker, I didn't even remember this until a few posts ago.

Amazing what becomes commonplace living here...


Spidey!!!


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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: smith@ecs.comm.mot.com (Jeff Smith)
Subject: Re: Meeting women in clubs
Organization: Gagging Sloth Records
Distribution: usa
Date: Thu, 21 Jan 1993 16:17:29 GMT
Keywords: 
                                   

> And when was the last time you gained breeding access to your next-door
> neighbor by eating her young?

A Duke U. tradition, I presume?  That was frowned upon at Purdue.  Damn
conservative midwestern schools!

jds


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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci)
Subject: Re: Steve Martin no longer in vogue? 
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: usa
Date: Fri, 22 Jan 1993 16:37:59 GMT

In article <1993Jan22.142544.16874@bnlux1.bnl.gov> schroede@bnlux1.bnl.gov (gary l. schroeder) writes:
>In article <thurlow.727575998@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow) writes:
>>>	Excuuuuuuuuuse Meeeeee!
>
>>No, I won't.  Besides, people stopped quoting Steve Martin five years ago.
>>Rob T
>Could have been worse, Rob T.  He might have said "eat my shorts, man".
>Give me the quotes from the '70's any ol' day.

Newsflash, Gary.  "Eat my Shorts" *is* from the '70s.
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From: desiree@netcom.com (dmc)
Subject: Re: How Does your Name Sound?
Summary: Tic tac toe
Organization: Open Season
Date: Mon, 25 Jan 1993 04:30:02 GMT

In article <lm6krqINNh1u@exodus.Eng.Sun.COM> smith@wesson.Eng.Sun.COM writes:
>John F sez:

>>Shit. How are you supposed to make fun of a name like Taylor?   I suppose
>>I could say that you'll never have a contest for a pronounciation of *your*
>>last name.
>>
>>neener-neener-neener
>
>WHAT??? 

	What part of that don't you understand?


Desiree

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: llk4k@Virginia.EDU ("Lori Karalow")
Subject: Re: THE MEN SONG
Organization: University of Virginia
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 01:53:02 GMT

Gee, where do you get your creative streak?  Could it be SATAN?
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Trygve's shower
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Mon, 25 Jan 93 01:11:20 GMT

In article <1993Jan24.161945.5251@noose.ecn.purdue.edu> mel@niblick.ecn.purdue.edu (Meloney D Cregor) writes:
>In article <1993Jan24.072518.4694@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>
>>P.S.  Hope you don't have anything against "Mister Bubble." 
>
>OH, Trygve, you really have to stop using these inferior products.  Kermit's
>KraziBerri Bubbles is the only way to go.  LOTS!  of bubbles, nice fruity
>fragrance, leaves ones skin, oh-so-soft.

Well, as soon as the cast is off and I'll be in condition to properly enjoy
a tubfull of hot water, I'll give Kermit's Bubbles a try (after all, with
Kermit's name on it, how could it possibly be anything but great?  If, on
the other hand, it had Gonzo's name on it, I might be a little worried--
but I'd probably enjoy whatever happened when it hit the water anyway). 

Trygve
--
"The worst thing about buying something from a mathematician is having
 to tear off the 100-page proof of purchase."
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Credibility and Trueness
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 93 08:39:02 GMT

In article <ewright.728178797@convex.convex.com> ewright@convex.com (Edward V. Wright) writes:
>
>Psychology denies the existance of free will because its very
>existance is incompatible with the concept.  Once you recognize
>that human beings have free will, you can explain any human
>behavior with one simple explanation: he chose to do it.  All
>the ids, egos, superegos, hobgoblins, and supernatural forces
>that fill psychology books become superfluous.  (And the writers
>of those books lose their source of income.)

Indeed, it's quite true that any particular act can be explained
by "he chose to do it."  This, of course, then leaves open the
far more interesting question "why?"  Psychology, by and large, is
the attempt to answer that question and is quite useful, not just
in understanding other people, but in understanding oneself.  This
doesn't negate free will in any respect, but it's very useful for
everything from creating efficient team-management strategies to
figuring out why you do things to sabotage your own efforts in 
seeking or maintaining a relationship without even necessarilly
being consciously aware of it at the time.  (You'd be surprised at
just how common this is--I know I've had a few traits based on 
early childhood coping mechanisms and internalized messages about
the nature of the world that have impeded me; and, for that matter,
I probably still have a few I haven't found and resolved yet.)

Trygve
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: petel@sequent.com (Pete Lancashire)
Subject: Re: Living alone and liking it
Organization: Sequent Computer Systems, Inc.
Date: Sat, 23 Jan 93 05:09:56 GMT

martinc@grover.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin) writes:

>In article <1993Jan18.221956.25681@sequent.com> petel@sequent.com (Pete Lancashire) writes:

>   Or just getting one of those turntable CD players, and putting
>   Gregorian Chants, Pink Floyd, and Satchmo (sp?)  at the same time.

>Please tell me you mean sequentially.  Not simultaneously playing.

Yup, damn do they make a grinding noise when you stack them
on top of each other :-).

-pete
Pete Lancashire
petel@sequent.com
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: margoli@watson.ibm.com (Larry Margolis)
Subject: Re: Anonymous Postings
Date: Sat, 23 Jan 1993 18:04:18 GMT
News-Software: IBM OS/2 PM RN (NR/2) v0.16f by O. Vishnepolsky and R. Rogers
Reply-To: margoli@watson.IBM.com
Disclaimer: This posting represents the poster's views, not necessarily those of IBM
Organization: The Village Waterbed

In <1993Jan21.133733.18301@news.acns.nwu.edu> drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>
>I tend to give 'personals' posters the benifit of the doubt and believe that
>they do it out of ignorance rather than arrogance. That of course doesn't
>mean that they are exempt from abuse :-).

On the other hand, we've seen anonymous posts saying "I know personal ads
don't belong here, but ..."
--
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From: martinc@grover.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: *How* did you meet your SO (And do they know?)
Date: 21 Jan 93 10:05:16
Organization: UNC Department of Computer Science
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In-reply-to: blowfish@carina.unm.edu's message of 21 Jan 1993 08:28:04 GMT

In article <1jlmqkINNfsm@lynx.unm.edu> blowfish@carina.unm.edu (rON.) writes:

   In article <1993Jan20.192729.4226@netcom.com> aahz@netcom.com (Mean Green Dancing Machine) writes:
   >>All together now:
   >>"We met at nine..." "we met at eight..." "I was on time..." "no, you
   >>were late..." "Ah yes, I remember it well."
   >For the totally clueless out there, this is from _Gigi_.

   And for those under 30, "Gigi" was a broadway musical from long back. :)
   r.

Ah yes, I remember it well.
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     "Oh God, please help me be civil in tongue, pure in thought, and able
      to resist the temptation to laugh uncontrollably.  Amen." -- Rob T
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (dreas)
Subject: Re: Credibility and Trueness
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 93 05:37:55 GMT

In article 728159947@convex.convex.com, ewright@convex.com (Edward V. Wright) writes:
>In <1993Jan27.005956.18358@sol.UVic.CA> atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (dreas) writes:
>
>>    I, too, have had occasions in my life where I have had to fight
>>    a mental illness 
>
>Pick up a book called "The Myth of Mental Illness" by Thomas Sasz, 
>and you may discover what "mad doctoring" is all about.
>
>Hint: Drawing an anology between physical ailments and socially
>disapproved behaviors does not make the analogy appropriate.

I don't have to read ratshit and believe it.
Kindly avoid force-feeding your opinions to others.

Just be true to yourself. May peace and serenity color your life. 

I have no more to say on this topic.

dreas 

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: mel@niblick.ecn.purdue.edu (Meloney D Cregor)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: MWF?
Date: 24 Jan 93 15:50:04 GMT
Article-I.D.: noose.1993Jan24.155004.4976
Organization: Purdue University Engineering Computer Network

In article <thurlow.727855441@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow) writes:

>And you won't get tail until you stop using your mental skills to
>stop sabotaging the outcomes :-)

Now, Rob, I haven't done that in at least a couple days. 'Sides, I have
3 cats and a dog.  I can get tail anytime I want and Bull has such a nice
fluffy one.......
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci)
Subject: Re: SM ISO MAIL
Organization: AT&T
Date: Fri, 22 Jan 1993 19:28:44 GMT

In article <MARTINC.93Jan22120132@grover.cs.unc.edu> martinc@grover.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin) writes:
>
>(2) Did you ever hear why a dog will lie in a driveway licking his own
>    genitals? 

Because he couldn't get you to do it right?   :-)

(I'm sorry.  No, I really am sorry.  I'm SO sorry.  Sorry sorry sorry.)
<snicker>
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From: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Claddagh Rings
Date: 24 Jan 93 17:47:00 GMT
Reply-To: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Distribution: world
Organization: Micro Exchange - Kenwood, CA - 707-833-4032

ME> From: marcus@industry1.ditt.ns.ca (Mark Earhard)
  > Newsgroups: soc.singles
  > Subject: Claddagh Rings
  > Keywords: Rings junk whatever
  > Message-ID: <marcus.2@industry1.ditt.ns.ca>
  > Date: Thu, 21 Jan 1993 14:36:11 GMT
  >
  > Ok, I've seen them around, and someone bought one for me for Christmass,
  > but just *WHAT* does a Claddagh Ring mean?
  >
  > Is there a better Newsgroup to post this?

       There may be but I want more details about these rings... what are
they, what do they look like, etc?  I've never heard of them before!

       Brent Mason
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: jwall@nyx.cs.du.edu (Jeff Wall)
Subject: Re: Stef... A quote for you...
X-Disclaimer: Nyx is a public access Unix system run by the University
	of Denver for the Denver community.  The University has neither
	control over nor responsibility for the opinions of users.
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix at U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Mon, 25 Jan 93 14:58:56 GMT

In article <77354@apple.apple.COM> stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
>diana@wetware.com (CatWoman ) writes:
>
>>stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
>>] A Firecat.
>
>>And *I* am "CatWoman" - 
>>No whips, some spandex - and lots of cats.
>>Diana
>>(not to be confused with "Tyger" - either of
>>us.)kk
>
>Should we add this to the FAQ?

The FAQ???  I didn't know this group was organized enough to have a FAQ. 
Guess I'll keep my eyes open for it ???

Cheers,

Jeff Wall


Newsgroups: soc.singles,soc.penpals,alt.romance,alt.romance.chat
From: rip@sequent.com (Paul T Taylor)
Subject: Re: SM ISO MAIL
Organization: Sequent Computer Systems Inc.
Date: Fri, 22 Jan 93 20:18:56 GMT

In article <C19GCo.DE7@cen.ex.ac.uk> st92rcn@cen.ex.ac.uk writes:
>My name is rachel and I want your body

Sorry, I don't think my Mistress would like that...

My name is rip, I want your pain...
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (Die Fledermaus)
Subject: Re: SM ISO MAIL
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Thu, 21 Jan 93 08:09:25 GMT

In article 9824@ringer.cs.utsa.edu, sgokhale@lonestar.utsa.edu (Shashank S. Gokhale) writes:
>	i am a single asian indian male, 25, who is seeking a lady, preferably
>asian indian,  between the ages of 18-30 for some good, clean fun.  i am in
>San antonio, TX, and am quite lonely as i do not know many people over here.
>  if anyone out there meets these qualifications, please reply.  lets have
>some fun!!  life is too short to be alone.
>
>i would appreciate some email from anyone who is interested.

Ii ahm a weddy, weddy singlindianmale, oyehs, 25, oyehs, oyehs.
Ii ahm to bee sikhing a laddie, oh yehs, weddy weddy tahnk you, yehs.
Yoo must to bee weddy, weddy youngandtenderandjooicy, oweddy, weddy muchso, yehs!

Ii want too take showurswithyou, oyehs, oyehs...
Ii ahm too bee weddy, weddy, weddy loooooooohnlie, oyehs, oyehs, oyehs,
Ii ahm notknoweenganibodee ono, ono, ono...

Die Fledermaus(chacun a son gout)  

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton)
Subject: Re: Flirting How To Guide/Backrubs
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: na
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 18:48:21 GMT

In article <1993Jan27.172040.29993@cbnews.cb.att.com> eleanor@cbnews.cb.att.com (Piglet) writes:
>In article <JMD.93Jan26142520@lion.bear.com> jmd@bear.com (Josh Diamond) writes:
>>
>>Piglet, trying to imagine you with BigHair is almost as difficult as
>>trying to imagine Jim Dutton wearing a tutu!
>
>
>But, but, but.... <splutter>...  Dutton looks _good_ in a tutu!  
>
>
>Piglet, the occasionally fluffy
 
Damn straight.
 
Whatdayaknow brother Walter.

 
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@panix.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: what is attractive ?
Organization: Society for the Promulgation of Cruelty to the Clueless
Distribution: usa
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 1993 01:01:15 GMT

In article <ewright.728074350@convex.convex.com> ewright@convex.com (Edward V. Wright) writes:
>In <1993Jan24.074157.5295@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:

>>Nowadays, it's the well-to-do who have time to exercise and get even tans,
>>and the lean, muscular, tan body is in.
>
>I can't entirely agree with that.  People who dig ditches for a
>living *still* get plenty of exercise and (unless they are smart
>enough to use sunblock) tans.

Ah, but how many ditch-diggers have you met, compared with office
workers?

Seth
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow)
Subject: Re: *** SM ISO SF ***
Date: Sun, 24 Jan 1993 06:02:28 GMT
Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
X-Disclaimer: This message was written by a user at CONVEX Computer
              Corp. The opinions expressed are those of the user and
              not necessarily those of CONVEX.

In <299@cnmhnet.UUCP> keithg@cnmhnet.UUCP (keith garrard) writes:

>Oh c'mon rON, what is so bad about them?  If anything, I think they
>are funny.  To me, it is hilarious seeing how some people try not
>to sound as desperate as they really are.

I think we have enough hilarity here already, e.g., your posts.

>Also, soc.singles really
>isn't a bad place to post them, is it?  It seems to make sense.

No It Does Not, Damnit.  This group is for public discussions about
things related to being single, which, "I'm horny, mail me" is NOT
designed to lead to.  I consider any post made mainly to draw
strangers into private e-mail to be wrong for here and right for
alt.personals.  There's a better place for those posts (both for us
who frequent the group and the posters trying to meet people), and
I think we need to let people know about that.

Rob T
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"Shouldn't I have this, shouldn't I have this, shouldn't I have all of this,
 and, passionate kisses, passionate kisses, passionate kisses, from you?"
- "Passionate Kisses" Lucinda Williams
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.peeves
From: cocoa@netcom.com
Subject: Re: Dangers OF SF Het Women
Organization: Netcom - Online Communication Services (408 241-9760 guest)
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 1993 17:36:22 GMT

In article <1993Jan25.021016.15869@wetware.com> drieux@wetware.com (drieux, just drieux) writes:

[deleted]
>ObPeeves: All those SF HetWomen trying to take 
>advantage of Innocent Young HetBoys who would
>rather be redesigning the Next State of the Art Compiler....

It's true.  Only just a few days ago YoungNaiveInnocentDrieux was doing
computer things when his ProblemOlderWoman said she was on her way to
distract him.  Evil, wicked, wench. :)

Just me,

little 'e'

(Who was feeling slightly jelous since her POM was away that weekend,
thus eliminating her possibility of acting likewise.) 

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From: jmd@bear.com (Josh Diamond)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Flirting How To Guide
Date: 25 Jan 93 22:17:03 GMT
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Distribution: soc
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In-reply-to: julie@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu's message of 24 Jan 93 22:36:19 GMT


In article <JULIE.93Jan24173619@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu> julie@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu (Julie Wright) writes:

   But as for hand-holding vs. backrubs vs. whatever, perhaps everyone needs
   to pick the thing they feel communicates their mood the best, which is
   probably the thing they enjoy the most.  Also, I forgot to say in my
   original post that talking is at least as important as the physical stuff
   at the beginning, in my experience.  Get a few good innuendos flying and
   if she answers with some of her own, you'll both be having a great time.

This matches up with my recent experiences...

I was out on a date last weekend with a pretty new aquantance (she
joined me at a party to which I had been invited) and we ended up
spending pretty much the whole night talking to each other -- a little
dancing, and some conversation with other friends, but mostly just the
two of us talking.

Anyway, somewhere along the line a little innuendo started flowing
back and forth, but the conversation also went a little deeper into
our feelings -- about the things which are important to us.  The way
we were looking at each other became just a bit more intense.  I think
someone once called it the "kiss me, you fool" look.  And that's
exactly what happened.  Rather intensly.

So my feeling was that the effective thing was just being me.
Communicating about what I _really_ feel, about the things which are
important to me.  And listening to what she had to say about the
things which are important to her.  And finding compassion -- a
sharing of feeling -- creating true intimacy.


Spidey!!!


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