From: peter@ptt-iat (Postman Pete)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Looking for advice in a problem
Keywords: advice
Date: 22 Jul 92 16:24:05 GMT
Organization: Groningen The Netherlands



Hello problem-solvers,

The problem is as follows: last thursday I met this great girl. She has something that I can't describe but it's certainly something that keeps me reminding of her. 
That night we went out with a few mutual friends ( I did'nt know her before that evening) .

The mutual friend told me later (when we moved from one place to another) that she liked me, but I had to act by myself. (what that meant I don't know, I obviously didn't act like myself, problably because of the drinks).

And suddenly, during talking to each other, she grabbed my glass from the bar (behind my back) and poured a half glas of "Tonic" into my shirt (with ice-cubes) and sat on her chair again. I didn't react to that one (at that time; was this wrong or not?) but later I tried to do the same thing to her, but she did react (not furious).   

At a given time I felt a little bit tired (I had to go to work in 4 hours) and decided to go home on the (accidently) same time as she did. I spoke her outside the bar and she said something like: " we'll meet again, don't we". I said: "Sure, one day or another". She: " E. (our mutual friend) has my brother phonenumber and he has mine". I:"Ok". And than we went our own way.

The weekend after meeting her, I felt kinda sick. Not that kind of sickness but the feeling you have when you think you've found the perfect one (maybe it is this feeling, I don't know). I did get her phonenumber from E. directly, but I was to insecure to make the call (shyness is one of my features). Finally I thought I'd rather die than not making the call. So I did. All monday I tried to call her and finally she picked up the phone.

(The curious part, seen by me)
Her voice was exactly as I could remember, but she didn't recognise mine. I said to her "Don't you remember last thursday" and she did (and know who I was?). She said she had a great time that night (like myself). I asked her if she had any time to have a drink (or something) later this week, on which she said: "no I am very busy this week". I tried to ask her a few other things, but she said the line wasn't good and I had to say almost everything twice (embarrassing to me).
One of her questions was how I got her phonenumber. I said E. gave it to me. "E> doesn't have my phonenumber"."Yes he does" I said.

Then suddenly she said:" Can you call me back next thursday, I just wanted to get into town....I am all day at home so you can call me anytime". I said ok and put the phone down ( I was still shaking of nerves).

The things that bothers me:
- why did she poured that drink into my shirt and acted like nothing happened (like I did)
- was she faking about the bad phone connection and about being busy all week
- and saying later to call back at another time (is this a way to get rid of somebody?)
- she probably didn't like that I got her phonenumber from E.

What can I say when I call her back?

Please give me something that looks like advice or answers on my questions


Pete (aka Postman Pete)
Email: peter%ptt-iat@sun4nl.nl    


. And when I am in love...my spelling becomes terrified and my grammar hopeless.  So forgive me...

PS: I didn't make a move at her, because she broke up with her boyfriend that morning (after 10 month). Despite what her brother said. He pushed me (almost desperatly) to make a move at her. Saying things like :"My sister is a pretty girl ain't she? Just try to get her", "Go get her, she's free" and "she likes you , go for it".

I don't know I must act to this king of talk (from her brother)


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