From: rlk@cmptrc.lonestar.org (R-L-K)
Newsgroups: alt.personals
Subject: Re: Straight, gay, whatever....
Date: 12 Oct 92 00:17:54 GMT
Organization: cmptrc.lonestar.org

In article <1992Oct09.194438.2938@mixcom.com> yywwyy@mixcom.com (Steven Pearson) writes:
>In article <Bvrv8u.9D5@mentor.cc.purdue.edu> darkmoor@mentor.cc.purdue.edu (Darkmoore) writes:

>	this is a question that has often bothered me:  why are gay
>	individuals so adamant about it having a genetic basis?

Not all of us are.  (Myself, for one).  However, given the fact that most
fags I know (myself included) knew absolutely at an extremely young age
that homodick is the tastiest, I am inclined to be open to the genetic
argument.  However, this MAY just indicate that I developed an eroticism
around men over a LONG period of time.  Whatever the reason, men are
absolutely and without question the best sex partners, for a huge number of
reasons physical and psychological and technical, and therefore I couldn't
care less WHY I enjoy it, I'm just glad that I didn't buy in to my peers'
ideas on the subject and instead just went with what felt natural to me.

>	half the time, i get this impression that the gay community, which 
>	declares itself to be fiercely independent, wants to appologize to 
>	those of us who are straight.  so sorry, but an appology is not 
>	required.  if you're gay, you're gay.  same with being straight.  
>	or anything in between.  
Amen!  For queers to be such bitches, they sure apologize for their 
orientation alot! :)

>	point:  the choice is subtle.  of the cross section of homosexuals 
>	i have dealt with in the past, i've noted several trends:  either
>	the same sex parent missing (or for all practical purposes
>	just not available), or cold.  the other parent seems to often
>	be smothering and doting.  i've noted one exception to this: the 
>	woman had a manipulative mother and a very cold father.  
How TIRED!  I have a perfectly normal family.  (In fact, a better family
than I could have ever designed myself).  It's certainly unreasonable
to say that 'either the same sex...' (above) is a trend in homo-producing 
families.  As far as I can tell, examples of dysfunctional families produce 
equal numbers of breeder vs. queer children.

>	i've seen it come about in a miriad of ways:  childhood experience
>	(hiding in the camper one day with the boy up the hill and playing
>	doctor); bad break-ups with opposite gender signifigant others 
>	("i'll show him/her!"); disillusionment over opposite sex relation-	
>	ships (these seem to be the people looking for one night stands - 
>	the disappointment seems to be largely sexual, and a variety of
>	partners seems to keep them interested); and just good old fashioned
>	sexual experimentation (a good portion of bisexuals start out like
>	this - out of curiosity).  
Please provide a SINGLE instance of someone >becoming gay< because of
ANY of these things. (Particularly the first two ridiculous ones).
Being queer is not chosen on the spur of the moment!  Someone fucking
motss is NOT queer!  Queer is something else entirely.

>	besides, most of the non-rednecks i know think of it this way:  the
>	more gay guys out there, the better the male : female dating ratio
>	is.  heh.
And most of the rednecks I know look at it another way: a place to get
a decent no-strings no-teeth discreet deep-throat blowjob! :)

Finally - please don't think that ANY of my comments are intended to discredit
or flame you!  I SUPPORT your openmindedness, but merely wished to add my
own comments.

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