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From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Where did you meet your SO?
Date: 13 Jan 93 01:47:19 GMT
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <1993Jan12.190917.28255@netcom.com> tyger@netcom.com (Kristen Kohlbecker) writes:
>liz@vfl.paramax.com (Liz Loquacious) writes:
|>das@emmapeel.ca.boeing.com (Deb Schwartz) writes:
|>>Most of my free time is devoted to ballroom/swing/contra/folkdancing, so I've 
|>>tended to meet most SO's that way:
|>>At a New Year's Eve dance (he was sitting at the next table alone, I thought
|>>he was cute but I was too shy to do anything, so my friend asked him to dance
|>>then invited him to join us).
|>
|>Another vote for the dancing scene.  Things did not turn out so well this
|>New Year's Eve for me though.  Actually I was pleasantly surprised to see
|>a very attractive MOTOS turn up.  He hadn't been to the dance in months.
|>I did a contra with him and found out he'd moved to the Dallas area.  A
|>disappointment but he really dropped my jaw later when we were waltzing.
|>My previous contact with him was, in my mind, fun flirty stuff in the line
|>and not much other conversation.  I asked him what kind of work he did that
|>it sent him to Texas and he says, "I hadn't ever told you what I do?", and
|>he's looking a little odd.  I searched the memory banks and told him no, that
|>I had no idea what he did.  He then managed to stammer out,
|>
|>"I'm working as a missionary",
|>"I work at a mission",
|>"I'm a priest".
|>
|>Yeah, Catholic.  Bummer.
|>
|>Liz Loquacious
|
|Oh good, I'm not the only one this has happened to....of course, given that I
|was attending a Catholic University, the chances were good that this could 
|happen. I was at an APSU (Asian-Pacific Student Union) dance, and this *really*
|attractive guy came over and asked me if I wanted to dance. 
|We danced for a bit, then we retired to the small restaurant next to the dance
|hall, and over a beer or two, I asked him what his major was, and he said he 
|was working on his D.D. degree. Ugh! I was kinda surprised because he wasn't 
|wearing the clerical collar or any of the other trappings that some of his 
|fellow Divinity students affected even though they weren't priests yet. 
|
|*sigh* more good men get lost that way...
 
Actually, you were kind of fortunate.  When he said he was working on his
D.D. degree it meant that he was actually a CS major that spent more time
playing dungeons and dragons than his programming assignments.  Next thing
you know, he would have asked you up to his place to show you his hard disk.
From: cn863@cleveland.Freenet.Edu (Raymond J. Canda Jr.)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Meeting women in clubs
Date: 6 Jan 1993 04:33:29 GMT
Organization: Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, Ohio (USA)
NNTP-Posting-Host: slc10.ins.cwru.edu


    I read earlier in this thread by a poster that I cannot recall at this
time wrote stating that a club or bar isn't the best place to meet someone.
Speaking from personal experiences, I have met many people that I will not
forget for quite some time - if ever. I am one to stereotype people and 
quite a few times I've been wrong, but it all depends on what type of
person you are looking for.

    Take today for example, I was at a toy store to purchase a doll for 
my daughter (she melted the hair on the one she got for xmas w/a hairdrier
yesterday) and lo and behold, what did I see before my eyes, returning
a defective toy was this friday's dinner date.

    Being divorced for over three years now myself, and withot noticing
any wedding ring on her finger (yes ladies some of us do still look for that)
approached her with a line similar to " What is your opinion of that toy,
I was thinking about getting that for my daughter."

    The conversation picked up after that, mostly discussing toys, but 
never-the-less *moving*.

    It ended up with me saying "Well, take care and have a nice day." 
and then thinking on my way out the door ***DAMN*** you should have asked 
her out to dinner friday! And as you can tell I still thinking it now.

    So to sum this up: No matter where you are, how you are dressed,
feel confident in yourself and *talk*. It really doesn't matter what
you say, but how you say it. Say it with personality, confidence, OH
I JUST REMEMBERED!!!, say it with ***EYE CONTACT***.



---------------------------------------------------------
-- 
          With a personality like mine, who needs a .sig???
          cn863@Cleveland.Freenet.Edu (Raymond J. Canda Jr.)
Organization: Queen's University at Kingston
Date: Mon, 4 Jan 1993 15:45:13 EST
From: Graydon <SAUNDRSG@QUCDN.QueensU.CA>
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Re^2: Females have it easy!
 <1992Dec24.070605.25511@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> <oneil.725199192@cwis>
 <1hiaj3INN5n9@uwm.edu> <4362@novavax.UUCP>

In article <4362@novavax.UUCP>, bramson@novavax.UUCP (Jennifer Bramson) says:
>
>markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark) writes:
>
>>In article <oneil.725199192@cwis> oneil@cwis.unomaha.edu (Sharon O'Neil)
>writes:
>>blandness.  Three, women are the only ones I ever hear referring to her as
>>attractive, which just goes to prove that you really have to be a man to know
>>what turns on a man.
>
>Which is????????????????????????
>
>Jennifer Bramson
>Center for Psychological Studies
>Nova University
>bramson@psy.psych.nova.edu

Enthusiasm about the idea of turning him specifically on, from someone
who doesn't violate any of his self image criteria for who he wants to
be turned on by.  (And those can drift in the face of enough enthusism.)

Simple, really.

Graydon
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: How Strong Should a Man be?
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 93 22:44:15 GMT

In article <1iflinINNa09@uwm.edu> markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark) writes:
>Strong enough in body to lift his own weight, strong enough in personality to
>be indominatible, strong enough in intelligence to have an deeply intuitive
>grasp of Einstein's physics, Goedel's logic, and mastery of several human
>languages, strong enough in capitalist spirit to be self employed, and

Sounds easy enough. 

>strong enough in his capacity to love to be able to simultaneously fulfill
>more than one lover's needs (which is pretty damn strong).

Nah--actually, all you need is to be a little more literal in your 
interpretation of "romantic triangle."

Trygve   (Who was leaning towards "strong enough to resist posting to
          this thread" and has therefore just disqualified himself.)
--
I enjoy reading your catalog each month; its illustrations are both tasteful
and titillating, especially those for your full-body mud mask and the ski
equipment especially designed for ring-tailed lemurs, but I do have one
problem with it--it seems that about half the time you print your catalog
upside-down, making it much more difficult to read and appreciate.  I'm
particularly fond of reading your catalog in the bathroom which has resulted
in my receiving three concussions from the inversion boots slipping off the
shower curtain rod, the towel rack, and the shower head.  Would it be possible
for me to persuade you to be more careful about publishing your catalog
right-side-up, for my continued health and sanity?  If need be, I would be
happy to provide you with a note from my doctor explaining the dangers of
upside-down printed material.
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
From: rwarren@vax2.concordia.ca (Rosemary from Montreal)
Subject: Re: Meeting guys
Summary: my 2c (gst/pst optional)  
News-Software: VAX/VMS VNEWS 1.41    
Organization: Concordia University
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 1993 21:28:00 GMT

In article <1993Jan6.182340.25885@jetsun.weitek.COM>, weaver@jetsun.weitek.COM (Michael Gordon Weaver) writes...
>In article <C0ELDC.21p@mach1.wlu.ca> macl6441@mach1.wlu.ca (macleod heather) writes:
>>I've been reading a lot lately here about how men should go about meeting
>>women, but nobody seems to be giving many suggestions on how women can meet
>>men.  I ended a four year relationship a month ago, and I'm ready to meet
>>someone new, but I'm not really comfortable with the bar scene.  There are
>>guys in some of my classes, but I'm pretty shy.  Can someone give me some
>>advice?
based on events of the past 30 days, i would say fire up the Usenet and 
fish around in whatever newsgroup appeals to you until someone sounds 
interesting enough.  heather, your story 
sounds almost exactly like mine, except the guys in my night-school classes 
are all married and are only interested in me if i can tell them the answer 
to #3.  i poured out my soul to the net and the response was amazing!  i 
have met many nice people of both sexes to converse with, plus i have 
bowled over one "nice guy" in particular -- so it seems that the species 
of "nice guys" is not extinct just yet!
>>
>You can't become less shy overnight, but you can get a little better
>every day. The way to do this is to constantly push yourself to be just
>a little more outgoing than you feel like.
i INVENTED shyness, i think.  in a group setting (school, work, trade show, 
etc.) i just curl up in a corner and hide away from everyone.  invariably i 
do not have fun, and i think i would prefer one-on-one encounters if enough 
came my way.  that's why i find it easier to communicate 
via the written word.

i say "work", but i notice here at concordia that people are friendlier and it is 
easier to come out of my shell.  it's just a totally different environment 
from what i'm used to.

"And when the rain begins to fall,
 You're on my rainbow in the sky ..."
	Jermaine Jackson / Pia Zadora, "When The Rain Begins to Fall"

Rosemary Warren         rwarren@topaz.concordia.ca
Montreal's Favorite Jacksonmaniac !!!
(and if you haven't guessed yet, travis stone's main squeeze) 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: jdnicoll@prism.ccs.uwo.ca (James Davis Nicoll)
Subject: Mongrel Ethnic Purity (had stopped  being Any Available Jewish Men Out There??
Organization: University of Western Ontario, London
Date: Tue, 5 Jan 1993 17:40:10 GMT

In article <1993Jan5.025604.10211@sol.UVic.CA> atovorni@engr.UVic.CA writes:
>
>More pioneers will end up "doing the forbidden" and marrying outside their 
>groups as time goes on. Members of my extended family have married Greeks, 
>Wasps, French, Polish, Arabs, Jews, and Afro Americans. 

	TV  reference deleted

	Multi-ethnic families are not, strangely enough, a recent invention,
given the migratory habits of some groups (Which is why my family is spread
from Hawaii to Canada to Kazakhstan).

>Being a part of an extreme minority, (How many Austrian/Slovenian/one-eighth
>French Catholics do you know?) I would have severe difficulties finding single
>women of my kind willing to marry, let alone date me. I am practical, I don't
>care about any of this "racial purity" stuff.

	Hmmm. Perhaps you could institute a tradition of not marrying anyone
whose ethnic group(s) have already been absorbed into your family. This
can, of course,  greatly  complicate  catering  arrangements at family
get-togethers.

	Would each PNG highland community count as a separate ethnicity?

								James Nicoll
From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Any Available Jewish Men Out There??
Date: 7 Jan 93 00:02:53 GMT
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <ewright.726346982@convex.convex.com> ewright@convex.com (Edward V. Wright) writes:
>In <1993Jan06.061209.28200@watson.ibm.com> margoli@watson.ibm.com (Larry Margolis) writes:
|>>Since fitness injuries far outnumber lab accidents, I don't see why
|>>a science club should pay more for liability insurance than a health
|>>club.
|
|>An accident in a health club is not going to demolish a city block...
|
|How many amateur scientists have accidentally demolished city blocks
|in the last 25 years?

I've been paying auto insurance for almost that long and never had an
accident but I still have to pay for the insurance.  If I drive a more
expensive car or one more likely to be stolen the premiums go up.  The
*potential* for loss is greater thus the higher the premium.
From: huston@access.digex.com (Herb Huston)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: The Classiest Pickup Lines
Date: 10 Jan 1993 20:45:50 GMT
Organization: Express Access Online Communications, Greenbelt, MD USA
NNTP-Posting-Host: access.digex.com

In article <27793@sybase.sybase.com> mysti@sierra.sybase.com (Mysti Rubert) writes:
}Am I the only one who thinks that speaking to a stranger for the
}sole purpose of engaging in sex is *inherently* unclassy?

It's probably a vast improvement over dragging the stranger off into the
bushes.  (Did you see my article about orangutans?)  It's probably more
subtle than thrusting one's pelvis forward while displaying an erection.
(Did you see my article about bonobos?)  There really is an advantage to
having one's larynx lying low in the throat that counters the inability to
drink and breathe at the same time.

-- Herb Huston
-- huston@access.digex.com
From: jsp@uts.amdahl.com (James Preston)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Ankle bracelets
Date: 5 Jan 93 00:57:35 GMT
Reply-To: jsp@pls.amdahl.com
Distribution: usa
Organization: Amdahl Corporation, Sunnyvale CA

orc@vpnet.chi.il.us (david parsons) writes:

}In article <281@cnmhnet.UUCP> keithg@cnmhnet.UUCP (keith garrard) writes:
}[On preferred ways to wear ankle bracelets]
}|The proper way for
}|them to be worn is above the ankle, and only with High Heels.

}   This may be a case where ones milage may vary.  I can see the
}point of wearing them above the ankle, but that a comfort issue. 
}As for high heels (which are, 99% of the time, A Bad Thing), well,
}there's something very appealing about a woman returning to bed,
}wearing nothing aside from an ankle or waist chain; in most cases,
}high heels lead to nylons (or the like), which will be put on over
}the chain, and which looks rather, umm, misdressed.

I gotta agree with you that an anklet worn under nylons is very, um,
weird to say the least.  It's not that much trouble to unhook the thing,
and then put it back on over the nylons.  Especially if you have someone
to do that for you (which can be a rather erotic activity of itself; take
it from someone who was with a woman for many years who always wore an
anklet).  Then again, while you're right that this is pretty rare, my 
preference is for high heels and anklet on bare legs, and then this whole 
"problem" is moot.

On the other hand, I don't agree that high heels are at all a bad thing.
(But then, my views on this subject are probably rather well known by now).
A woman returning to bed wearing nothing but an anklet or waist chain is
nice, but if she adds high heels it's very much more erotic to me.

--James Preston

Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
From: ktreole@magnus.acs.ohio-state.edu (Kathleen Treole)
Subject: Re: Where did you meet your SO?
Organization: The Ohio State University
Date: Thu, 7 Jan 1993 16:40:10 GMT

My parents met when it started pouring rain on July 4 at a beach in New Jersey.
 The ended up standing under the same canopy to get out of the rain and had 
dinner with each other that night....26 years later..they are still married. 
See..New Jersey isn't such a terrible place!

:)

k
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: dfuller@portal.hq.videocart.com (Dave Fuller)
Subject: Re: How can people do that?!!
Organization: VideOcart Inc.
X-Newsreader: Tin 1.1 PL3
Distribution: na
Date: Sat, 9 Jan 1993 03:55:13 GMT

helie@bach.udel.edu (Ray Helie) writes:
: I have a quetion for /everybody/:  Why the hell do people /do/ that?!!!
: How can someone be involved in a relationship (certainly not committed)
: and mess around on the side?!  I do /not/ understand that!  Lying to 
: your partner to hide things you are doing is an /ingnorant/ thing to do.
: 

  The same reason people lie about ANYTHING - to protect or provide for
themself. Have you EVER lied about ANYTHING to ANYBODY ?? This isnt a
problem that should be limited to relationships.

  I have a good friend who was dating somebody for 1 year while he was 
engaged. The girlfriend knew of the planned marriage. 3 weeks before the 
wedding he called it off. 15 months later he married the girlfriend. My
question isnt how he did it (or why). I know the answer to those. I think
the real question in these situations is why would you get involved with
someone who you know is into deception. The girl knew he was engaged. Why
does she think he wont do the same to her ? I think people who get together
like this have seriously clouded judgement. It's nice to think that the other
person is doing the cheating FOR YOU, the truth is that they are doing it
because of WHO THEY ARE, you dont figure into the equation much im afraid.

Dave Fuller
dfuller@portal.hq.videocart.com
From: bmeyer@feds12.prime.com (Bob Meyer)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Meeting women in clubs
Date: 8 Jan 93 18:30:19 GMT
Organization: Computervision Corp.


   
   Just so no one thinks that men are the only ones who use the "come on to the
   friend first" ploy ... (fade into flashback from many years ago) I'm hanging out in a
   club having a beer with my friend Al (every one must have at least one friend like Al,
   who is constantly attracting members of the opposite sex whether they want to or not.
   Me, I had many friends like Al).  Al excuses himself to go to the bathroom and a beautiful
   tall blonde woman comes up to me and says, in a deep buttery Kathleen Turner voice:
    " Hi There!"
      I say "Hi"
    She says "Is your friend coming back?"

   Well at least she didn't beat around the bush.  Difference is, guys (like Al) 
   usually don't have the "anyone who would come onto my friend to meet me..." ethic.

   Bob
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
From: macl6441@mach1.wlu.ca (macleod heather)
Subject: Re: Where did you meet your SO? 
Organization: Wilfrid Laurier University
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 1993 21:04:56 GMT

In article <1993Jan6.064348.26971@murdoch.acc.Virginia.EDU> bss2p@kelvin.seas.Virginia.EDU (Brent S. Stone) writes:
>As long as Heather got the ball rolling on the 
>subject of meeting people, where you meet your
>current partner?  Theorizing where to meet
>people is one thing, what works is another.  
>So how about some info for the group?
>
>BS
>
>
>
Yes, absolutely!!  I'm getting hundreds of theories, let's hear some
reallife experiences!!


Heather MacLeod                  If you've seen one shopping centre,
macl6441@mach1.wlu.ca            you've seen a mall.
Wilfrid Laurier University
Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: R9S@ECL.PSU.EDU (Roberto G Sung)
Subject: Re: How Strong Should a Man Be? (#2)
Organization: Penn State Engineering Computer Lab
Distribution: usa
Date: Fri, 08 Jan 93 04:01:35 GMT
X-News-Reader: VMS NEWS 1.24

In <7JAN199314362783@vax2.concordia.ca> rwarren@vax2.concordia.ca writes:

> In article <7JAN199314211478@vax2.concordia.ca>, rwarren@vax2.concordia.ca (Rosemary from Montreal) writes...
> >>-------------------------
> >the above, plus strong enough to scoop me up into his arms. 
> >	(and i might weigh more than he does!)

no problemo. you're welcome, ma'am.
 
> and strong enough to say the 3 most powerful words in the english language, 
> and mean them whole-heartedly.

well, i've always had this strong feeling. wasn't sure. now you hold me up
against the wall, have to try it.
"you"	"love"	"me" ?

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: eleanor@cbnews.cb.att.com (Piglet)
Subject: Re: Trygve's family
Organization: who, me?
Date: Mon, 4 Jan 1993 22:24:41 GMT

In article <1992Dec24.071027.25696@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>In article <1992Dec24.031846.21714@netcom.com> aahz@netcom.com (Mean Green Dancing Machine) writes:
>>In article <1992Dec23.075900.21777@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>>>Trygve   (Speaking of which, if you've got a copy of the 12/28/92 issue
>>>          of "Business Week" handy, turn to page 117-118 where you can 
>>>          see a picture of my father whom they've selected as "Best 
>>>          Commodity Fund Manager.")
>>
>>So, who's Sherry Lode?  Is she one of your seesters?  (page 106, in case
>>you weren't paying attention)
>
>Nope--she's my stepmother and, well, I'm afraid she's taken.  


So, Tryg, whose idea was it to sell the pound short?  Hers?  His?  Or
some party-to-be-named-later??


Piglet, showing off her reading ability.....  (showoff!)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: lundy@bnr.ca (Lancelot)
Subject: Re: update on the mother wanting to kill me
Followup-To: update on the mother wanting to kill me
Keywords: mother kill
Reply-To: lundy@bnr.ca
Organization: Bell-Northern Research Ltd.
Date: Tue, 12 Jan 93 18:09:44 GMT

>     Well here's an update on my situatio concerning my relationship
> with a 19 yearold "girl". I decided to just break it off.(actually
> her mom's choice) Her mom said if I ever tried to get any
> contact with Angela ever again she would make Angela sign a
> restraiing order against me. So naturally (she may be worht a
> fight like that, but I am not up to it) I am moving on. We
> had something good, just too bad she couldn't mature. I am so
> much wiser from this situation, the funny thing is that I still
> love her, but alas it will never be.
> Greg

Give up? Hell, them's fightin words!!!

It's the old lady who told you to get lost not Angela.  If you truly care
about her you will give her the benefit of the doubt, tell her what her 
mother told you.

Sooner or later Angela will have to stand up to her mother to establish her
own identity, or else the old lady will control her the rest of her life.
In reality the fight is not yours but it is Angela's, if you want to stick
by her all you have to do is offer her the support she needs to fight.

Win or lose, your relationship may not last forever, but Angela and you
will be much stronger people for it.

Regards

Lancelot

These opinions are mine, mine, all mine!!!!


Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
From: ssalter@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (-=[SLS]=-)
Subject: Re: Catwoman! Any Comments?  (Re: Where did I meet my SO?)
Organization: OFSA
Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 13:32:19 GMT

diana@wetware.com (CatWoman ) reveals:


>So after we met the first time, I got mail from him
>offerring breakfast at his place (ahem!).  He, of course,
>claims that it was the "chivalrous, gentlemanly, courteous
>thing to do"...


He said WHAT!!!!!?????

Astonished Steven
Newsgroups: soc.singles