From: kkv@inel.gov (Jamie J Ferguson)
Subject: Re: choose him or your cats??????
Organization: Idaho National Engineering Laboratory, Idaho Falls, Idaho
Distribution: usa
Date: Tue, 12 Jan 93 19:48:32 GMT

In article <C0ponM.CHB@cs.uiuc.edu> noe@cs.uiuc.edu (Roger Noe) writes:
>In article <1993Jan11.023601.5939@math.ucla.edu> ramirez@julia.math.ucla.edu (Alice Ramirez) writes:
>>There are plenty of other men out there.  Can you REALLY be happy with
>>someone so anal-retentive, so over-controlling?  Are you cats demanding
>>that you choose between them or him?  If he is making this demand, he 
>>obviously cares more for his own comfort than your happiness....
>...
>>Right now he wants you go give up your cats.  As time goes by, what else is
>>he going to demand you give up or lose him?  Ditch the bastard, you can do
>>better.
>
>I agree, and would recommend to all women in similar positions to dump
>the boyfriend rather than the cat(s).  Men like this are really just
>hulking, smelly, noisy, stupid dog-people.  Men who are more cat-like
>(and who like cats) are better groomed, quieter, smarter, more
>affectionate, and cuter.  You can keep them inside all the time so you
>know they don't have other girlfriends, something you can't do with
>dog-boys.  Instead of slobbering all over your ear they'll purr
>sweetly and tell you how important you are to them.  And after
>cuddling next to you all night, sharing body heat, they'll wake you up
>at 4:30 a.m. saying, "I want breakfast!  Now!"
>

This reminds me of the time my husband (then my boyfriend) started
to take an interest in my vegetarianism and he wrote in to the
vegetarian group.  He was curious about vegetarianism (not being
one himself) and he managed to start an argument (not hard in
that group) about the differences between plants and animals.  I
made the original post outlining the discussion he and I had been
having, and I got email from people telling me to dump my boyfriend
because he was scum for not feeling the same way about eating
animals.  I was very surprised at the hostility total strangers
felt towards someone they had never met, and a few people told
me I shouldn't marry him because he was a terrible person.  Well,
I did marry him and although he will probably never be a vegetarian
like I am he has made an effort (he even likes tofu burgers!).
Maybe this woman's boyfriend can change with time, but I don't think
she should dump him right now.  It doesn't sound like he hates
cats, just that he doesn't see why people like us love them so
much.  A good friend of mine used to be like that until he got
his first cat, and now he's planning on getting lots more when
he moves into his new house.  So there IS hope, it just may take
time and effort. 


Jamie

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     canines:  Kenzie -- 1 yr old black Lab X
               Meggin -- 8 month old Australian Shepherd X
               Harry  -- 4 month old Border Collie X

     felines:  Kieri  -- 5 1/2 yr old lilac point Siamese
               Zak    -- 5 1/2 yr old blue point Siamese
               Duke   -- 1 yr old seal point Siamese
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