From: mvb@po.CWRU.Edu (Michael V. Barreca)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Advice, consensus sought
Date: 4 Sep 1992 14:54:01 GMT
Organization: Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, OH (USA)
Reply-To: mvb@po.CWRU.Edu (Michael V. Barreca)
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In a previous article, 01ksdavis@bsu-ucs.uucp () says:

>
>	It has been a long time since my last posting.
>
>		(Yes, indeed it was back when a popular thread shared by many
>		 in this newsgroup was the "Romantic Songs Discussion list")
>
>	Now I am posting for help.  I always thought I would NEVER NEVER EVER
>post for help (no offense intended) from you people because of the stereotype
>of people who ask for help.  However much I may fit this stereotype is up to
>anyone to decide.
>
>	Herein lies my problem:
>
>		I had a really bad break-up with my last serious girlfriend who
>happened to be two years younger than I.  She dumped me for a brain-dead foot-
>ball player.
>
>	Time passed, and here, two years later, on the same campus, in the same
>chemistry class, is my ex-girlfriend.
>
>	Over the summer I had read in the paper how she got an all-expense paid
>scholarship to another university, but here she is.  We talked a little bit
>(another one of my friends was present, who is of the talkative type).
>
>	During the time of our "talk" she had told me that she had went to my
>old dorm for my phone number (it just happens to be the current dorm I am
>in now.)   Once she obtained this, she said she called but I was never there.
>This checks out as my answering machine went on the fritz that night.
>
>	Also, after our talk she gave me her phone number.  I haven't called her
>yet, but I did sit next to her in class today.
>
>	What should I do?  Part of me wants to run away, as she has hurt me
>(emotionally) really bad before.  Yet, another part of me wants things as they
>were before I am not sure if I got this last part here worded right.

How old were the two of you when you were dating?  If the difference was two
years, and you were both in high school, she was pretty young, and hadn't
really dated much.(I'm assuming)  She might have just dated this jock to see
what it would be like.

I personally think that she might have realized that she really had something
special with you, and would like to at least try to get some of it back.  My
advice is to at least start talking to her, but still be a bit leery.  You
never know what could happen.  If after a while you two are getting along
really well, then you can have a serious discussion about this with her and
find out what her feelings are and if they are the same as yours.

Just don't run away from her.  If there's one thing I've found out, it's that
the more you try to run away from someone at college, the more often you see
them, which just makes things worse.


>	BTW-I didn't do much today during chemistry class. . .  Much note-taking
>or much of anything. . .  

I always had the same problem.  I wonder why?
>
>	Help me.  Please.
>
I did what I could.

>	Basically, I think what I am looking for here is a general consensus. In
>other, more simpler terms-how many of you think I should avoid her and how many
>of you think I should call her up and have some sort of relationship with her?

In case you didn't understand the babble up there, I want you to call her and
>
>	I have already asked some of my friends (actually just the female ones-
>all of the guys I hang out iwht are generally as clueless about women as I am)

That usually is the case, which is kind of a bummer, but oh well.


>
>		Living in confusion,
>
>			Kyle

There's nothing wrong with living in confusion.  I've been doing it for about
three years now, and I'm very happy.  Or was it four years?  I'm not sure.

Mike
Barreca
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