From: bbooth@x400gate.bnr.ca (Brad Booth)
Newsgroups: alt.personals.ads
Subject: Re: FUCK ALL YOU MARRIED DORKS!
Date: 26 Jan 93 20:45:49 GMT
Reply-To: bbooth@x400gate.bnr.ca (Brad Booth)
Followup-To: alt.polyamory
Organization: BNR, Ottawa, ON, Canada
Originator: bbooth@bcrks6



Well, here I go again... FLAME ON!!!

strickha@NeXTwork.Rose-Hulman.Edu (Heath A. Strickland) writes:
> It seems that all of these men writing and telling us all how good an open  
> relationship is are worse than the guy who posted in the first place.

I don't think anyone has been "raving" about an open relationship... they
just hate to see others close their minds to the fact that it exists.

> Since I have posted what marriage should be I have received various flames  
> talking about my christian beliefs.  Well,  since 12th grade I have been  
> an athiest and my morals aren't so high. 

You may be athiest, but the society you live in Christian influenced.
Take a look at your founding "fathers" and the laws of your country.

> But I do remember dating this  
> girl...practically living with her.  I loved her so much that I wanted to  
> marry her.  Only problem is,  I just could not promise her I could stay  
> loyal. 

The old Christian influence kicking in again.

> Some of my open minded friends told me to tell her I would marry  
> her if we could have an open relationship.  Only problem is I just  
> couldn't ask her to marry me and then in the same breath tell her "but I  
> am still gonna go on dating others." 

Why not?  At least you would have been honest.

> In effect telling her there will be  
> no difference between before and after. 

Why should there be a big difference?  Everyone seems to think that once
you get married that things should change... WHY??

> Why do you think marriage is marriage? 

Obviously for different reasons than you think.  We got married because 
we love and care for each other, and wish to grow old together.  But that
doesn't mean that we have to forsake the rest of the human race just
because we're in love.  Or maybe you feel that love is finite?

> But to all of you open minded boys out there (who probably  
> aren't married and have open relationships to begin with), 

WRONG... we've been married for 3 years, together for 6, and had a open
marriage for 2.

> good luck with  
> your phony gold rings and glass diamonds and may a better man (which  
> wouldn't be hard to find) win your open minded wife(if she is truly open  
> minded like you tell all your late night sexual partners).

You sound like you think that the male of the relationship is the only
one who has lovers and that this is all male induced... grow up!  My
wife and I agreed on having an open marriage... she was the first to
have another lover.

You seem to have this distorted image of what an open marriage is.
Most open marriages that I've witnessed have been a relationship
in which both partners are open-minded, honest, loving, caring,
equal, etc.  This may seem like a pretty picture... but it's not
for everyone, because there is a lot of other pressures.  We
feel it's worth it, that's why we live it.

Follow-ups to alt.polyamory... where this should exist.



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