From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Can we can the suck-up bit?
Keywords: encourage friendship?
Date: 31 Aug 92 21:22:49 GMT
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <1992Aug31.183938.25374@cbnewsd.cb.att.com> nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci) writes:
|>>enigma@halcyon.com (Matt Luders) writes:
|>>>In my humble opinion, the most interesting posts come from stef@apple.com.
|>aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius) writes:
|>>9.1 on the Suckup Scale.
|In article <kiran.715279393@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu> kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:
|>No, Aahz, this is an easy ten.  You better recalibrate your SuckUpMeter...
|
|I'd like to offer a hearty suggetion that we shitcan this "suck-up" noise.
|What, if someone who happens to be male compliments the posts of someone
|who happens to be female, this is sucking up?
 
I'd like to go back a couple of months and relate a discussion that took place.
Max and Desiree were involved in a "discussion" and someone asked that it 
be taken to email.  I posted a disagreement and said that I found both Max
and Desiree to be intelligent posters and I for one enjoyed their debating
techniques.  We'll, FratBoy took that opportunity to make what I believe to
be is maiden posting, and called me a suckup.  I followed up with exactly the
same statement that you just made that I was making a comment on their posting
prowess and that it wasn't sucking up. Someone posted that my "suckup" only
rated a 7.2 on the suckup scale and thus could pretty much be ignored as a
suckup.  Since then suckup ratings have been used as a joke whenever someone
is complimentary of a woman here.  A joke that I guess some don't find very
funny.  

|I see it as a refreshing change to flame wars.  As long as they don't get
|carried away, like something out of alt.romance, what's wrong with a person
|complimenting another person's thoughts or ideas?  I can see why people would
|be leary now of openly agreeing with or even defending someone's position.
 
As I said a couple of months ago there is nothing wrong with complimenting
someones thoughts or ideas.  Some people find it entertaining however to
take what is actually a compliment and rate it as if it were merely a suckup.
I see nothing wrong with that either and see it as a refreshing change to
flame wars.

|Come ON!  We're not here to drop our hankies, guys.  And those of us
|who smoke can light our own cigars.  :-)

Or change their own oil, or build their own house.  Geez, some people try
to add a little levity to the group and it is turned into a "I can open
my own door" campaign.  

Some men actually like to do nice things for people (even if they happen
to be female) because they get enjoyment from doing nice things for people.
Some men do nice things for women even though they are capable of doing 
it themselves.  
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| John Fereira            "Is that all you ever think about?"                |
| johnf@auspex.com                                                           |
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