From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (dreas)
Subject: Re: WHAT HAPPENED??????
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Sun, 22 Nov 92 03:25:10 GMT

In article 10547@galileo.cc.rochester.edu, mjln_ltd@uhura.cc.rochester.edu (Mikeey Jean Lin) writes:
>In <1992Nov20.230107.4913@galileo.cc.rochester.edu> jsmt@troi.cc.rochester.edu (Julia Smith) writes:
>
>>In article <1992Nov20.094245.4156@memstvx1.memst.edu> anthrlib@memstvx1.memst.edu writes:
>>>Hello Out There!
>>>
>>>I am in desperate need of advice, help, whatever....  For the last three
>>>monthes I've been falling for one of the nicest guys on the planet (or so I
>>>thought).  He seemed very interested at first---before he knew that I was.  Now
>>>that he knows that I'm interested (I told him) he's bolted!  I'm so confused. 
>>>Never had this problem before.  Any advice? Suggestions? Possible solutions?
>>>etc?  Has this happened to any of you? I don't get an opportunity to read the
>>>news often--so please feel free to email me at:
>>>
>
>>Damn, another victim of the boy-disease.  Boys are not comfortable with
>>closeness, only pursuit.  They love to chase, love the thrill of the challenge,
>>but the MINUTE you show signs of having your attention captured, they
>>are finished - the thrill is over and the next conquest is to be won.
>>It is a killer, and it would do us all a world of good if men like this
>>would show visible signs of the disease.  They are so engaging when they
>>are in pursuit mode, though, that even if they had a big sign blinking
>>in neon on their forehead, we'd probably ignore it, thinking "for me it will
>>be different."  sigh....
>
>	Hmmm... I wouldn't exactly call it "boy-disease". It's just a way of 
>life. 8-( This does happen to both sexes, despite what some people may think.
>The best thing to do is to go on to someone else. (IMHO)
>
>
>>If it helps, remember than he never really was interested in *you* just in 
>>the game you offered.  If you back off and recover your own interests and 
>>amusements, he might regain his former interest in the challenge you present, 
>>but do you really want that?  <if you couldn't tell, I am just recently over 
>>a case of this myself - it is painfully common.>
>
>>'
>>d probably i
>
>	In my opinion, one tends to make members of the opposite sex a bit
>uncomfortable when one suddenly confronts the other person about his/her
>feelings for the other person. (gee, I think I suceeded in confusing myself)
>Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that sometimes we confuse friendliness with
>romantic interests. Most people you have a crush/flame/involvement/thing...etc
>with WON'T always feel the same about you. What do you do? YOU MOVE ON...

Yes, move on. 
	
>	Don't bother to wallow in your own self pity. The easiest thing in 
>the world to do is to get a SO, the hardest thing to do is to find a SO that 
>you can truly care about. Just be patient, but more importantly, be yourself.
>There are 5 billion people on this planet; chances are you will find someone 
>that meets your criteria. If this guy isn't interested, then SO WHAT? I'm
>sure that there are many other guys you know that are BETTER. Hey, who knows?
>He just might be lurking around in your life... you never know...
>I wish you two the best of luck! 8-)

Too true. Just be yourself, stop looking, and get surprised 
when some innocent flirtation loses its innocence. *GRIN*

dreas



Newsgroups: soc.singles