From: anon.671@pax.tpa.com.au
Newsgroups: alt.personals
Subject: On the virtues of adultery
Date: 12 Jan 1993 15:41:00 +1030
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>From leoncioe@ppc.ubc.ca Mon Jan 11 20:45:13 1993
Date: 11 Jan 93 20:44 -0800
From: Leoncio Estevez-Reyes <leoncioe@ppc.ubc.ca>
To: leoncioe@ee.ubc.ca
Message-Id: <26*leoncioe@ppc.ubc.ca>
Subject: Newtest

Before you read any further, and using someone else's words,
let me tell you that this article is long because I didn't have the time
 to make it short. If you don't feel like spending more than five minutes 
reading a post, please hit the "n" key.

ON THE VIRTUES OF ADULTERY

One of the worst things about becoming an adult is the fact that the 
world stops being a neat and predictable place. Much to my dismay, 
the minute I was on my own, I discovered that the principles that 
my parents had taught me weren't universally accepted nor practiced.
Sometimes it felt as if having them had put me in a different plane from 
some of the people around. It felt as if there were two 
different planes in the world: chaos and order, and obviously, the good guys 
were the ones living in the "order" side, including myself.
I've long realized that the idea of those two planes coexisting is 
mere non-sense. There is only chaos. Any idea of order is just an 
attempt to deal with reality without going insane, at worst, or a 
game played by society to soothe its member's angst, at best.

I've kept some of the principles that my parents valued so much: honesty, 
hard work, compassion. But some others have lost their appeal because they do 
not seem just, or sound, anymore. I've realized that they were mere 
prejudices or perceptions commonly accepted by the society in which 
my parents grew. For good or worse that society is not mine, anymore.

In my parent's view family was a unit that had three main pieces: a working 
father, a caring mother (working for her was optional) and children. Parents
 were not suppose to divorce. They were faithful to each other. The man was 
the head of the household. The children were supposed to love each other.
That was good for the family members and that was good for society. The 
productive members of society were guaranteed food and care, and so were 
the future productive members. To keep the remaining things in order there 
were law enforcement and church. 
So far, so good, as long as you didn't belong to a minority group or 
had any "weird" religious or political ideas. If you did, you were either 
a communist, a pagan, untrustworthy, or a bum.

These days, women have gained some of the respect that they deserve. We still 
have to go a long way towards sex equality but progress is undeniable. 
People don't have to suffer the burden of non functional marriages because 
of fear of being frowned upon by society. The perception of homosexuality is 
slowly changing (rightly so, I must add). The attitude of society 
regarding some issues has changed dramatically when compared with what was 
the mainstream view of thirty years ago.
And yet the idea of what constitutes family and marriage is the same that our 
grandparents had. I think that it is time to rethink some of those "values", 
as in my opinion they are not principles but social commodities used to 
impose the prejudices of a majority afraid of what's "different" from them. 
A majority that don't want to face the fact that the fundamentals of our way 
of living have to change if we want to harmonize the realities of
 society with our emotional needs.
Why do we deny legal status to homosexual couples?
Why is adultery still a crime in some places?
Why is that open marriages are seen as something suited for perverts?
Why can't a man have parental leave? 

Two thirds of all marriages end in divorce. More and more families are headed 
by single parents. Senseless violence is on the rise. Cities are full of 
lonely people.  Intolerance pushes humans against humans. Whoever thinks that 
we are doing right must be living in another planet. And we refuse to 
see that these are not trends that will fade away. Life is rendering our 
values and principles obsolete and we are not looking for alternatives. We 
are clinging to our old ways hoping for the best. After all, we humans are 
always reluctant to deal with the unknown. We have to review the basics as 
they have become obsolete.

Well, after reading so far you must be saying: yes, whatever you say, but what 
the hell does this tirade in alt.personals?
It is very simple: I'm looking for female correspondents, status irrelevant as 
I'm not looking for romance, to discuss topics such as the ones mentioned 
above. Why females? Suffice it to say that I have several reasons and that I 
can elaborate on them if required.

If you're a woman and have reached this point you'll probably be an interesting
 correspondent. Hope to hear from you.






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