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From: dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Lurkers...
Date: 27 Aug 92 13:45:08 GMT
Reply-To: dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Organization: Bolt Beranek and Newman Inc., Cambridge MA
NNTP-Posting-Host: bbn.com

In article <1992Aug27.122853.3113@infonode.ingr.com> rock@medch.b17a.ingr.com writes:
>In article <kiran.714903998@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu>, kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:

>>(She later said that only three people wrote her about that first
>>post, and those three have become her best correspondents.) 
>
>If this is who I *think* it is, I answered that first post, too.  However, she
>*did* write back, though that time I don't think I answered back (correct me if
>I'm wrong - you know who you are...).  

I don't think I answered you the first time.  The machine I mail from is
kind of brain dead and I can't just reply to external mail, I have to play
around with the header to get it right.  I didn't know how to do that when
I started posting, so I didn't respond to anyone at first.  Then Charlie
wrote me something like three times in one week and I thought I better
write back to this guy before he gives up on me.  I think it was a couple
of weeks later before I started writing to Kiran or Chris and it was a 
while later before I realized that they were the first people to welcome
me here.

And thanks a lot guys.  The baby was real tiny then and I was feeling
completely isolated and freaked out.  The net really helped me a lot.

>And, (I don't know if she
>knows this or not) she also has an open invitation for a caving trip AND dinner
>if she ever makes it to this part of the country.

If I ever get down to visit my grandmother I'll definately swing by.

Dawn
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: buick@belay (Patrick D. Buick)
Subject: Re: Why do the lurkers / so furiously lurk together?
Organization: Belay Enterprises Inc. Calgary, Alberta, Canada
Date: Wed, 2 Sep 1992 19:09:43 GMT

In article <29077@hydra.Helsinki.FI> taina@cs.Helsinki.FI (Juha Taina) writes:
>In <4059@moscom.UUCP> wjb@moscom.UUCP (Bill de Beaubien) writes:
>
>>It is kind of amazing that somewhere in the neighborhood of 1 person in 3000 
>>in the U.S. reads this group.  Heck, that's probably more than watch some TV
>>shows :-)  Does this count towards Warhol's 15 minutes?
>
>It's less than 1/3000.  This is an international newsgroup.  I'm also
>sure that a lot of subscribes don't really read this newsgroup but
>rather browse it sometimes.
>
>Juha
>-- 
>Juha Taina | taina@cs.helsinki.fi | Phone: +358-0-708-4247

Aahh.. [in an indignant kind of way], you just *had* to go and
burst my bubble.... and I thought I'd be famous here.... [sigh...]

Patrick

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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: fredw@mks.com (Fred Walter)
Subject: Re: Las Vegas
Organization: Mortice Kern Systems Inc., Waterloo, Ontario, CANADA
Date: Tue, 1 Sep 1992 21:47:27 GMT

Speaking of Las Vegas, what can someone that doesn't gamble do in that
city ? (In that area ?) I've been asked if I want to go to COMDEX and help
man our booth there, and I have to decide soon if I want to a) go (it'll
be many long hours of booth work and very little time to actually see the
other booths) and b) if I do go, do I want to stay in that area for a while
afterwards ? (Gotta use up some of those vacation days I've been accruing.)

	Thanx,
	fred

P.S. if you do post a response, can you email me the response as well ?
     I've been too busy with work/rearranging my appartment/etc to keep
     up with soc.singles lately.
-- 
Disclaimer: everything I write is my *personal* opinion and does not represent
or reflect the opinion of the company which employs me.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow)
Subject: Re: Homesickness!
Date: Thu, 3 Sep 1992 22:05:31 GMT
Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
X-Disclaimer: This message was written by a user at CONVEX Computer
              Corp. The opinions expressed are those of the user and
              not necessarily those of CONVEX.

In <Btz52L.2Fo@belay> buick@belay (Patrick D. Buick) writes:

>Well, I managed to fluke into a Long John Baldry live concert in
>Blu's in Nanaimo this summer.... went down with some friends just
>thinking I'd take in the ambience, when... voila'.. live band..
>LJB.. wow.. it was a great concert... good Blues/Jazz tunes....

Cool, very cool!  He's pretty damned good; I remember being impressed
when he decided to hunker down on the coast.  He's been musical color
commentator on a few radio shows, and has a great sense of humor and
fun.  And then there's "Don't Try To Lay No Boogie Woogie Music (On
The King Of Rock And Roll", with the great spoken intro.  He also did
one of the best covers of "The Sun Ain't Gonna Shine Anymore" I've yet
heard.

Rob T
--
Rob Thurlow, thurlow@convex.com
Across the evening sky, all the birds are leaving
But how can they know it's time for them to go?		- Sandy Denny
From: aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Commitment--The C-word?
Date: 25 Aug 92 18:15:49 GMT
Organization: Bill 'n' Opus for Prez

In article <9208250110.AA25298@regal.cisco.com> mlb@CISCO.COM (Marcia Bednarcyk) writes:
>In article <89+ncll.aahz@netcom.com>, aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius) writes:
>|> Maybe I'm missing something here.  I've *been* desperate a few times,
>|> but I've never gotten into a relationship with someone who definitely
>|> wasn't worth it.  Mind explaining why you think desperation equates to
>|> willingness to grab *anyone*?
>
>It appears my experience has been different, because I have been in 
>relationships where I look back and wonder where my head was. Such
>experiences have taught me that having no relationship is a lot better
>than having a bad one.

I guess I've just never been in a *bad* relationship.  If nothing else,
I've always learned something about myself.
-- 
                         --- Aahz (the *other* Dan Bernstein)
                             @netcom.com 

Hugs and backrubs -- I break Rule 6

So much Astroglide.  So little time.
From: pw@panix.com (Paul Wallich)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Where the best posts come from
Date: 31 Aug 92 18:58:03 GMT
Organization: Trivializers R Us

In article <1992Aug31.170403.22670@news.acns.nwu.edu> drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>In article <la4it4INNiri@news.bbn.com> dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin) writes:
>>In article <1992Aug31.145843.12719@walter.bellcore.com> nobody writes:
>>>
>>>*SNORT* Emma gets my vote. The rest of the women just strut.
>>
>>Yeah, Walter hon, I know what you mean.  That Max and her broad-band come
>>on posts -- it's just disgusting to any self-respecting east coast type
>>lady.
>>
>My we have a long memory don't we?

Feeling just a little thin-skinned this week, Max?


>Okay next Question: Do women remember slights and small insults and hold them
>against the insultor for longer than men? Are women more easily insulted
>than men? 

So it would seem. This is starting to get fun; I wish I could
sell tickets.

>Is this where I'm supposed to put the smilies?

Straight line alert. Somebody else take this one, I'm on deadline.

paul
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: catcher@netcom.com (Paul W. Francisco)
Subject: Re: Where the best posts come from
Date: Mon, 31 Aug 92 19:58:14 GMT
Organization: Night People

In article <=yhn7z+.aahz@netcom.com> aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius) writes:
>A good suckup needs a lyrical quality to it.

Hmmm... Well, I've always thought that Greg Skinner has written some
great articles, and he does like to sing (there's the lyrics for you).
So does this get me a high score?  Or does the fact that the plumbing 
is wrong eliminate it from contention?

-- 
Paul W. Francisco        	    In the shadow an angel cries...
catcher@netcom.com                      - Front Line Assembly
From: stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Rocker, Tell that to My ProblemOlderWoman
Date: 2 Sep 92 21:46:19 GMT
Organization: Apple Computer Inc., Cupertino, CA

drieux@wetware.com (drieux, just drieux) writes:

>3. Also would You PLEASE esplain to my problem older woman that
>merely as she has not had 'sex' in a week is NO excuse for her
>to Flaunt Herself at me in her Vain Efforts to Force an Orgasm on me.

Oh drieux, have pity on your problem older woman. After all you are a role
model for Shy Naive Young Men everywhere.

Stef    --    aarrrooooo!
stef@apple.com

PS Besides, would you rather have her Flaunt Herself or would you rather
have to throw old shoes at her because she is Howling in the Alley?
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: lkahn@mitre.org (Larry Kahn)
Subject: Re: chemistry / love at first sight : fact or
Organization: The MITRE Corporation
Date: Thu, 3 Sep 1992 19:41:31 GMT

>In article 14407@CERIS.Purdue.EDU, dheisler@CERIS.Purdue.EDU (Dave 
Heisler) writes:
>>     anyone else believe in love at first sight?

>I am not single, but do read SOC.SINGLES sometimes.  This subject caught 
my
>eye.

There's a really good book called A Fine Romance by Judith Sills that talks
about chemistry and love at first sight.  I went with someone for 4 years
that was of the instant chemistry type and the passion never wore off.  
Just kept getting better and better.  Unfortunately, other issues broke it 
up eventually.  I'm currently working on a relationship of the love after 
2 weeks variety and it's great so far.  So yes, these things do happen,
                     Larry

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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci)
Subject: Re: Lurkers...
Organization: AT&T
Date: Thu, 27 Aug 1992 14:01:36 GMT

In article <1992Aug26.211408.5056@news.acns.nwu.edu> drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>In article <1992Aug26.201719.2129@CERIS.Purdue.EDU> dheisler@CERIS.Purdue.EDU (Dave Heisler) writes:
>>> 
[Why lurkers don't post]
>>      you email someone who posts and they never reply.
>>      (yes, assuming it it got there) 
>
>And just why do you expect to get an answer from someone who doesn't know
>you from Adam? Just because someone posts does not mean that you have an
>open invitation to send them unsolicited email.

I have answered a fair share of email I get from people and in doing
so have met some really cool people.  There are those times, though,
when the email conversation starts to go absolutely nowhere and I'll
send a short note saying something like, "Well, it's been nice chatting
with you, see you on the net!" and I'll get a response from them asking
if it's something they said that offended me?

No.  Believe me, if someone said something that offended me I'd let
them know.  It's usually that I've just tired of the conversation and
don't wish to continue it.  If this sounds conceited, consider that some
people want line-by-line responses and they want them THAT DAY, and they
want those responses to be intriguing, or it's "Why so brief?  Something
I said??"  :-)  If you have four or five of these going at once, it just
takes too much time.

-Nance
-- 
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att!ihlpk!colucci            _.>/               | Stay fit for life.
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From: gds@oahu.cs.ucla.edu (Greg Skinner)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Lurkers...
Date: 26 Aug 92 22:08:18 GMT
Reply-To: gds@cs.ucla.edu (Greg Skinner)
Organization: too funky
Originator: gds@oahu.cs.ucla.edu

In article <14306@auspex-gw.auspex.com> johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:
>The thing is we were all once soc.singles.neophytes.

If you were a net.singles regular, chances are you were never a
soc.singles neophyte.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: cocoa@iat.holonet.net (little 'e')
Subject: Where the best posts come fm & TheWomenWhoLoveThem (On Heraldoo!)
Organization: The Chocolate Factory
Distribution: na
Date: Tue, 1 Sep 1992 05:09:57 GMT

In article <1992Aug31.170403.22670@news.acns.nwu.edu> drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>In article <la4it4INNiri@news.bbn.com> dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin) writes:
>>Yeah, Walter hon, I know what you mean.  That Max and her broad-band come
>>on posts -- it's just disgusting to any self-respecting east coast type
>>lady.
>>
>My we have a long memory don't we?

A good joke is easily remembered.

>Okay next Question: Do women remember slights and small insults and hold them
>against the insultor for longer than men? Are women more easily insulted
>than men? 

Well I know how to prove/test that one.  Who is still/more insulted about
me, you or Lego?

>Is this where I'm supposed to put the smilies?

Only if you want to look like the flirtacious female that we know you aren't.

Just me,

little 'e'  

(A flirtacious female with or without smileys, thankyouverymuch.)
(Who is fortunate to have an SO that keeps her from spending too much time
on the net. Yay!) :)




-- 
note: My net access time is *extremely* limited these days.  Friends who
      have my number are welcome to phone instead.  Thanks.

*  *  *    Chocolatier at Arms, and Castle Wetware Liason            *  *  *
From: oldman@coos.dartmouth.edu (Prakash Das)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Kiran Wagle (from Prakash)
Date: 2 Sep 92 02:36:08 GMT
Organization: Dartmouth College, Hanover, NH

Hi all :-)

To those of you who have been wondering why I haven't posted
any followup, the reason is simple: I haven't had any time 
to do so. Meanwhile, I have been reading all those responses.
Many of you failed to see my points, and a few have made comments
like 

(1) he wanted a little attention
(2) he wanted to see his name bandied about
(3) he thought KW was a female, and so....?????
(4) he got pissed and flamed back
........

None of those deserve any answer from me, so I will let them pass.
(Certainly, the most laughable one was (3)-- how does his gender
matter to me????!!!!!). To the one who called me a "jerk", I can
say in return that you must be a moron to call me that, but again
I will let that pass. 

As to why I criticized Kiran's posting, I don't think I have to 
repeat. I said whatever I had to say in my posting before. For 
those who didn't get it, agreed with, found it without reason
and so on, that's fine with me. You can feel whatver you want
to, and I will feel whatever I want to. It so happened that
I didn't like his postings, his preacher's style, and
posting and replying to nearly everything and anything. You can 
see for example that it is very easy for me too to post on
the net my responses to every other response to mine (but I
did not).  

So why post on the net, instead of an email? The answer: I thought
it more appropriate for it to be on the net than thru' email. So
why read them if I don't like them? This is not a good enough
suggestion. It's like saying, if you don't like the candidates,
then don't vote. Not everyone can/is willling to run for office,
this doesn't mean nobody "flames" them. No need to elaborate,
you get the point.

(Someone wanted to know what postings/style I would like to see
Kiran write. Obviously this is not for me to say. I just pointed
out what I *didn't* like in his postings/style......Yet another
said I was hypocritical because I seemed to use the very
style that I was criticizing. Well, I was trying to make that a 
comment in itself!) 

Why was I so riled? After all, it's just some postings, but then
again I do spend time reading them, so.....I think you can get 
what I am trying to say.

(Personally I lurk because as JMF said in a previous post, I
generally don't have the time to post and reply to everything.
But if everybody was like us, then there would be no postings,
so thanks to all those who take the time to do so. Keep
going, folks!)

Now I am ready to take that nice girl to picnic!

-PD
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Commitment--The C-word?
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Mon, 31 Aug 92 22:48:14 GMT

In article <1992Aug26.174100.315@news.acns.nwu.edu> drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>
> As I pointed out before, I think this desire to take charge came
>from a preceived opportunity to make themselves indespensible to me and
>therefore assure their place in my life. This kind of stuff happens more
>often then many men realize I think. Maybe women do it too. How about it
>guys, do your girlfriends ever try to make you feel like you are dependent 
>on them to the extent that it would be difficult to leave them if you
>wanted to? 

This has been very common in my experience--I think to a large extent, it
comes from either (or both) 1) a desire to 'prove' superiority over one's
romantic partner and 2) difficulty accepting that one's romantic partner
could really have feelings based on what one is rather than on what one
does for him or her.

Personally, I think both situations are frustrating--either it feels like
I've got someone trying to compete with me whom I'm not particularly
interested in competing with (I don't particularly care for competition
anyway--for example, I find cooperative pastimes like working on a 
crossword together much more enjoyable than playing a game that pits
us against each other) or I feel a sense of frustration from not being
able to convince her that I care about her as a very special individual
rather than as someone who can fold my shorts.

Trygve 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max)
Subject: Re: Commitment--The C-word?
Organization: Northwestern University, Evanston Illinois.
Date: Wed, 26 Aug 1992 17:41:00 GMT

In article <1992Aug26.162215.16035@cbnewsd.cb.att.com> nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci) writes:
>In article <1696@necis.UUCP> dlyons@necis.UUCP (Dave Lyons) writes:
>>In article <1992Aug24.203448.27761@news.acns.nwu.edu>, drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) wrote:
>>> 
>>> way take over the job of finishing my house for me. Of course they all
>>> thought that since they had a Y chromosome that they just had to know a
>>> better way to do the job than I did, never mind that I designed the house
>>> in the first place. Sheesh
>>I have a house that is in desperate need of finishing out here in the
>>So. NH countryside.  Trust me, even with my Y chromosome, I'd be more than 
>>happy to let you do anything you wanted to it without kibitzing of any kind.
>
>Dave and others who express similar ideas:
>
>Marianna wrote with what I thought was pride about finishing her
>house without any help.  A few weeks ago I wrote about being able to
>change oil and do that kind of stuff, also with pride.

Well pride, humm I suppose I was proud though actually by the time I was
done I guess relief was the strongest emotion I felt. And really the only
reason I mentioned the house project in the first place was to illustrate
the point about male saviors (which I will concede is only one part of the
total male population). And help from friends on the house was much
appreciated whether it was male or female help. The thing I was complaining
about (me - sweet, cute, tolerant, ect ect me complain?), was not help, it
was the attempt by some men to "take over" the job, even to the extent that
some of them attempted to undermine my confidence in my own abilities to do
the job. As I pointed out before, I think this desire to take charge came
from a preceived opportunity to make themselves indespensible to me and
therefore assure their place in my life. This kind of stuff happens more
often then many men realize I think. Maybe women do it too. How about it
guys, do your girlfriends ever try to make you feel like you are dependent 
on them to the extent that it would be difficult to leave them if you
wanted to?
From: neilp@cs.hw.ac.uk (Neil Postlethwaite)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Bananas
Date: 26 Aug 92 19:26:49 GMT
Organization: Dept of Computer Science, Heriot-Watt University, Scotland


Cascaders ................. DIE !!!!!


In article <1992Aug25.165553.21543@bnr.ca> ksloan@crchh791.BNR.CA (Kerry Sloan) writes:
>In article <1992Aug25.161159.17995@news.acns.nwu.edu>,
>drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>|>In article <1992Aug25.160110.9660@u.washington.edu>
>intrigue@milton.u.washington.edu (Angelwing) writes:

[deleted]

>|>>No no no!  The *real* question is how BIG was it?  How long and how thick?
>|>> AND how curved?
>|>>
>|>Her tongue or the banana?
>|>
>|>
>                     
>PLEEEEEEEEEEEASE say her tounge...BTW, who are we talking about, anyway? :-)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Desperation (was Re: Commitment--The C-word?)
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Tue, 1 Sep 92 20:28:35 GMT

In article <5028@news.duke.edu> diamond@acpub.duke.edu (Elizabeth Abrams) writes:
>
>But doesn't *total* self-sufficiency imply no need for another person?  I'm
>pretty self-sufficient, but not *totally* so.  People who are utter and
>absolute islands ususally don't have much time or interest to spare.
>I want someone mostly self-sufficient, but still human enough to need
>the occasional backrub, cuddle, etc.  (I don't want to be someone's mom,
>but I also don't want to be someone's scenery; nice to have around, but
>not particularly important).

Yep, total self-sufficiency does imply no need for another person; someone
who is totally self-sufficient will then spend time with others because
she or he wants to, enjoys their company, and considers time spent with
them to be rewarding enough to be more than worthwhile.  Personally, I
think it's a greater compliment to have someone be with me because I'm 
the one she wants to be with than because she simply needs to be with
another person and I'll do.  Indeed, self-sufficiency doesn't in any way
preclude enjoying backrubs, cuddles, and whatnot (even lots and lots of
whatnot), nor does it get in the way of valuing others.  Dependency, on
the other hand, can easilly get in the way of genuinely valuing others--
being dependent on another for your needs tends to breed insecurity and
resentment which, in the long run, are not conducive to really caring
for others.

Trygve
Newsgroups: soc.singles