From: ajh@Xenon.Stanford.EDU (Alan Hu)
Subject: Re: AAAHHH!  Interracial dating.. again?  Why?
Organization: Computer Science Department, Stanford University.
Distribution: soc
Date: Wed, 7 Oct 1992 21:51:35 GMT

In article <5917@ucsbcsl.ucsb.edu> 6500ursa@ucsbuxa.ucsb.edu (Disco Junkie) writes:
>In article <1992Oct6.005021.9576@CSD-NewsHost.Stanford.EDU> ajh@Xenon.Stanford.EDU (Alan Hu) writes:
>
>>In article <5901@ucsbcsl.ucsb.edu> 6500ursa@ucsbuxa.ucsb.edu (Disco Junkie) writes:
	[Clarification on perceived racial inequity and dating resentment
	 deleted.]
>
>>>  90% of the asian men who complain about asian women dating white men would 
>>>  be silenced should a white woman fall in love with them!
>
>>I beg to differ.  I've had a number of white women fall in love with me.
>>This is not a boast, just reality.  And I don't think I'm particularly
>>amazingly studly or anything.  I'm certainly not silenced.  The issue
>>is NOT racism and jealousy and women-as-property.  The issue is why, in
>>sociological terms, is there such marked non-random interracial mating
>>behavior.
>
>Did other asian men think that you are particularly studly, however, for 
>dating white women?

As far as I know, no one's ever considered me particularly studly.
I've had lots of positive (as well as negative) things said of me,
but I don't recall "studly" ever being one of them.  I do a lot of
sports and even tried lifting for a while, but still haven't been
able to bulk up.

			And in the past, when you were more influenced by
>the media, you did think that white women were superior, right?  (Or am
>I confusing you with another poster?)

Yup, that's me.  Interesting that you put it that way.  I never really
looked at it that way, but you're probably right.  In my mind, I
thought very highly of many Asian-American women I met, but in a room
full of people, if asked which ones I thought good-looking or attractive,
every person I would have picked out would have been white.

					Once I was in a roomful of asian
>men.  They asked me if I had dated white women.  I said yes, and they went,
>"ooohhh", like I was some kinda stud.  I got so angry that I gave them a
>10 minute lecture on ethnic awareness and pride.  (They probably thought
>that I was some out-of-touch leftist kook.  :-)  )

Good for you!

>
>And second, if the issue is such an exercise in sociology, then why does
>it arouse such deep passions in everyone?  (including me, sad to say)  Why 
>is it that in the mainland, this seemed to be THE issue among asian men, 
>whether the east coast, the midwest, or in the west coast?

Biologically programmed mating instinct.  Gotta get those genes into
the next generation, you know.

	[Stuff about racism against blacks, condemnation, and my
	 analysis deleted.]
>mature.  Yet, I wonder how objective other people can be on this.  I feel
>that many of the talk of this subject does have a tone of condemnation to
>it (and sadly, I was guilty of it too.  :-(  ) 
>
>I just wonder if that's all people on this newsgroup can talk about,
>or if this is the only subject that will get people's attention.  I"ve
>written about lots of other topics, and got few responses.  I know this
>interracial dating thing is the best way to get lots of people involved.

Sex sells.

>
>D Junkie

					--Alan Hu