From: leoso@cs.arizona.edu (Leo WaiChung So)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.hongkong
Subject: Re: OPEN JUDGEMENT OF A "COLOR WOLF" (CLARIFICATION)
Date: 5 Oct 92 23:47:25 GMT
Organization: U of Arizona CS Dept, Tucson


  Just discussions.

In article <1992Oct5.215428.2979@dartvax.dartmouth.edu> 
abs0@coos.dartmouth.edu (Kelvin Leung) writes:
>
>If people in hkust dare to take a risk, I would recommend them to be with
>this guy.  I suggest people (male and female included) to take an 
>active role in accepting him.  Invite him to parties, hikings, picnics, 
>and all kinds of social functions.  Allow him to get closer to female.  
>Not just one or two, but many of them.  Let him understand that as long
>as he controls himself, he will be accepted (and treated) just like any
>regular person.  Through social functions, show him the "proper" ways of
>dealing with people, female in particular.     

  Your way would be the most ideal way to handle this event. I 
  think it is also the way people are trying to help mentally 
  disordered people using the "Intermediate Dormitory" in HK. 
  But I remember there was some sort of protests from people 
  living around the dormitories when the location of dormitories 
  are announced.

  I doubt, in HK, how willing they would be to care those people.
  You are right in saying "dare to take a risk."

  Back to his case, I bet right now in UST he is surely the focus
  of discussions among people. And his face is now exposed. So I
  guess people would now look at him with color glasses while
  interacting with him. (Remember the scream from the UST girl when
  she found him in her room?) This hostility would not help him 
  but ruin him more. 
  
  So hiding away for a while will be more feasible in the context 
  of UST. Let the case dies down gradually and let him be a new 
  guy after that. But how long? In what degree? I have no idea as 
  his personality and serverity of the event is not clear.
>
>My suggestion might sounds a little silly.  Allow me to 
>explain.  Most people (as I imagine) need friends--the same holds
>true even for "social deviants" such as this guy.  People would do more
>harm to him than good, if they were to set him apart from society and let
>him know he is getting special therapy.  Of course, it would be appropriate
>to let him understand he has a problem.  Nevertheless, it would be better
>to let him know that he isn't alone, and his "illness" isn't incurable.

  Again, it depends on whether there are guys in UST willing to help.
>
>In a nut shell, if he is a reasonable person who just happens to be
>struggling with sexual frustrations, treat him with love and respect.  

  Wish USTer can help him thru using your way.
>
>And of course, he should still seek professional help.  
>
>My opinions only, please take it as a grain of salt.   Feel free to
>comment.

  Comments welcomed. But don't turn our schk into Serbia. :)

  Cheers,
  leo.
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