From: jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton)
Subject: Re: Major problems
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: na
Date: Tue, 18 Aug 1992 13:28:49 GMT

In article <9208180456.AA12124@lab.ultra.nyu.edu> oviedo@LAB.ULTRA.NYU.EDU (Miguel D Oviedo) writes:
>
>I am posting this in a last ditch effort to get some answers
>and maybe a direction to head in.
>
 
 Come in Miguel. Nice to meet you. You may want to peruse my diploma
and read a time magazine then read a good housekeeping then read a newsweek
then pick up a phd while I check on something for a minute.
 
OK, sorry to keep you. My secretary had a question. Now why don't you "lie"
down on the couch. By the way who did you say your insurance company was?
Now what seems to be the problem?
 
>Lets see, where to start..
>
>A brief overview:
>-----------------
>I am a pathalogical liar (approx 30% of the time), 
>fiscally irresponsible, unemployed, obsessed and losing
>the love of my life after 4 years.
>
 
 Miquel it's your dime *SNORK*. Is there a problem?
 
>
>Details:
>--------
>
>I am a 22 year old male, who met this drop dead beautiful
>27 year old woman approx. 4 years ago at a friends party.
 
Yes.
 
>
>We hit things off really well, and soon started dating.
>At the time I was working at a univeristy and she assumed
>I was a professor or something and I was alot older, It
 
Jim the pseudo psychologist sticks his face up to your tube and whispers:
"Anybody else notice something peculiar about the above lines?".
 
>was awhlie before she found out I was 18 and just a programmer.
>(Problem 1)
 
"Hummmmm". Nodding head. "Go on I think we're on to something." 
 
>
>She soon got over the age thing, but the fact that I mislead 
>her into this realtionship, still comes up.
>
 
"So she's holding your dishonesty against you. Thereby increasing your angst."
 
>After I left the university, I got a job with a large company
>on wall street as a programmer, getting a great salary for a 20
>year old. Things were going OK with the realtionship now, but
>the were slightly rocky.
>
>Some problems arouse in the job and I was terminated in an
>ugly fashion, and am still quite unsure about why (but thats
>a story in itself)  This is when things got really bad in the 
>relationship. 
 
"I think we need to discuss the details of your termination Miquel, if
you are to ever heal. The catalyst of this breakup appears to be the
events in relation to your termination(however unjust) and I feel if
we are to get to the root of this festering boil, you will need to
discuss what appears to be shame on your part. It's your dime(guffaw)
but if you ever expect to put this behind you I think your going to have
to try a little honesty. Go on."
 
>
>I have tried to get a job since but and even started working, but
>after about 2 weeks they got a background report back from my
>previous job and I was terminated again. So I have been unemployed
>for about 5 months now. (Problem 2)
 
"Again we can't cure root fungus by trimming the leaves."
 
>
>In the past 2 months the relationship has gotten really BAD. She
>kept saying she wants to date others (which she is currently)
>and wants no contact with me for awhile.  The reason she wants
>a breakup is:
>
 
"Just a moment Miquel do you use the term BAD like She's a BAD whammer Jammer.
or she's so bad she be dishin me?"
 
>		I cannot hold a job.
>		I am obsessive (calling her alot, showing up to meet her)
>		Fiscally irresponsible.
>		Lie quite abit.
 
"Well nobody's perfect."
 
>
>	On the few bright points she does care for me, and she is very 
>close to my family (as she has no real family), and she does enjoy my
>company. (When I am not obsessive)
>
 
"Sort of like an old comfortable shoe, eh?".
 
>
>	The bottom line is I am unemployed, have no money, no friends
> and losing the most important person im my life. She is at the point now
>where she says she wants NO contact with me, physical, verbal, NOTHING,
>NADA, ZIP, NONE!  How do I deal with this.. losing a person who
>used to sleep over my house 2-3 times a week, see each other almost everyday,
>almost get engaged (Yes! I had a ring and all).
>
 
"My, my Miquel you do seem somewhat compulsive. How much was the ring(the one
you have no use for) and do you still have it? It's OK to tell me these
things you see I'm a doctor."
 
>	Also, I should mention that she was also my first real 
>relationship, ie: my first sexual experience. Which adds to the variables.
>
 
Well I want you to keep in mind Miquel, that after your first sexual breakup
it is not uncommon to freak out. You think it will be another 18 years
before you get to dip the noodle( I don't want to get too technical here).
 
>	What I am asking for is some help/suggestions on how to deal 
>with this overall shitty feeling, the kinda feeling where you just 
>want to crawl in a corner a die. 
 
Now I'm going to subscribe a couple of fifth's of cheap tequila. I want
you to find a room with no sharp objects, phones, or car keys. Now drink
the tequila. When you wake up I guarandamnteeya(it's a doctor term somewhat
technicle, but I think you the viewer get the picture)
you wont give a thought to
your ex.
 
>
>	 I can just go on for pages and pages with more variables in
>the relationship, but there is no use taking up bandwith, If anyone
>wants more info drop me a line, or for that fact just drop me a line and
>say "Hi!"
 
Well I'm afraid our hour is up Miquel. At our next session I'd like to discuss
that stockbroker termination thingamabob. Please see my secretary on your
way out to schedule another appointment.
 
Door closes.
 
"Damn liar".

 
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