From: rose@cecily.UUCP (Rose M. Delckum)
Newsgroups: rec.arts.tv.soaps
Subject: DOOL: TAN: Weeks From Hell
Date: Mon, 28 Sep 1992 19:38:13 GMT
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     Hey all.... I've been noticing that lots of us have been going through
a very frustrating and stressful period lately.  Cindy, I meant to e-mail you, 
who knows, I may do it tomorrow if work's slow, but things have been
*crazy* here!)  And poor Bannie, smashing her head against the wall.  And
Sue, who seems to be stuck in the job from Hell.  And yours truly who's
screwed up dates so far on a test and a paper (luckily on the paper the prof
took well to my grovelling...I swear I thought it wasn't due till Wednesday...
Boy am I an idiot!)  But anyhow, what with the wedding and all, I, like 
everyone else around here, have been getting totally frazzled (and yes, I
have a point, and yes, I am getting to it!).  so, I decided to check out
Soc.Couples for advice on wedding stuff.  Well, there's a guy over there, Steve, 
who'd been asking for advice on how to handle a long-distance relationship
with his fiance, Karla (I may be slightly confused, since I missed the
original post).  Anyhow, several people gave him advice.  This morning he
logged on and told everyone he really appreciated all the help and advice, 
but it was no longer necessary.  She died on Friday.  Apparently she had
problems breathing and was hospitalized on Wednesday.  They found several
blood clots in her lungs, and I guess removed or did something to get
rid of/dissolve them.  He talked to het Thursday and she sounded fine, happy.
Apparently they missed a clot that somehow moved and killed her on Friday
morning.

So, I guess my point is this.  Maybe Cindy's boss is a major league
jackass.  Maybe Bannie's going crazy.  Maybe Sue's job sucks big time.  
Maybe I'm going crazy trying to juggle too many things at once and
dropping them right and left.  But when it comes right down to it, in
the big picture, it's really not important.  Cindy, you have Steve.  Liz, 
you have Joe.  Sue, you're married, right?  And I have Cory.  And what I
think is the best of all, we all have each other.  This is what I love
the most about the net.  Maybe we've never all met.  Maybe we have no
idea what we look like.  But we all know if we reach out, someone will
be there.  And that's what counts.  A woman I never met who was involved
with a guy I never met died, and I cried over it.  And he reached out
for help and got it.  The only other time something like this made me
feel this way was when Gretchen died last year (?).  I never met her, 
had no idea how old she was, what she looked like, what she did, but
I knew her and felt that loss.  So, it seems to me that as long as
we've all got each other and our loved ones, well, as they say, we
shouldn't sweat the small stuff.

Getting off my soapbox now to write the second paper of the night on
misogynism and anti-mach attitudes in Chaucer's "The Nun's Priest's Tale"

Rose



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