From: duanev@mpd.tandem.com (Duane Voth)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.sex
Subject: Re: How to increase the male sex drive ?
Date: 23 Nov 92 18:42:48 GMT
Followup-To: soc.singles

In article <1247@abb-sc.abb-sc.COM>, ksm@abb-sc.abb-sc.com (Ashley) writes:
|> 
|> 
|> >On a serious note, I have a couple of questions to pose to the net about what
|> >can affect a male's sex drive.  Basically, I am about 29 (male), have been
|> >SO-less for the last 4 years (by choice), and have recently met an incredible
|> >woman (about 31) with, to put it lightly, a very high sex drive.  My sex drive
|> >has reduced markedly over the past 4 years, and I would like to do what I can
|> >to increase it.  Question, is there any particular diet that is recommended ?
|> >Is exercise particularly recommended ?  Anything else ?
|> > 
|> >Thanks,
|> >Mark
|> 
|>	1) Damiana, 2) Rosehips, 3) Chocolate, 4) Genseig, 5) Fo-Ti, 6) Thermagen
|> 
|> 	I usually mix some of these ingredients into a tea and administer.

(reminds me of whats so funny about todays doctors to - all external and no
internal focus!)  YES!  By all means, try out the good (external) stuff
everybody suggests.  Yet, also keep in mind that THE most influential
aphrodisiac (and that which can most inhibit your sex drive) are the ideas
and patterns in your own mind.

Your new squeeze has a "very high sex drive" - is there some doubt you can
keep up?  If so, decide that you can keep up and gently persuade or drive
home (whatever works for you) the idea that you can and will give
her exactly what she wants.

Did the idea that a mans peak is at 19 and that it DROPS there after lodge
itself in some nook of your brain?  It doesn't HAVE to drop after 19, it
CAN remain constant!  Or, peak again at 24, 29, 35, 42, whenever.  Or
even peak higher later!  All the physical and statistical evidence that
"proves" otherwise is based on tests that ELIMINATE the mind as a
significant factor.  As far as I'm concerned, any phisiological test that
trys to exclude the subjects mind AND test across a number of different
subjects is total bull shit.

Next, do you think differently about sex now than you used to?  Is it more
a romantic easy going experience than the hot passionate marathon it used
to be?  What decisions did you make to bring these new ideas about?  Maybe
it's time to decide otherwise again for a while!

Probably the most significant cause I have found for reduced sex DRIVE is
lack of attention to sex.  Have you stopped a) reading sexy magazines,
b) watching movies, c) talking about sex with your friends?  A focus of
attention on something also focuses energy on that something, energy that
will dissipate after a while once your attention moves elsewhere.  Try, day
dreaming about an up-and-cumming evening several times a day before the
evening comes.  Compare this with an evening where you didn't think about
sex all day.

Last of all, one significant factor that affects performance is stress.
Youngsters are more active and vivacious because they don't worry about near
as much as older (more responsible ;) folks - thus they have much less
stress, and much less energy is wasted starting at the time they get up
in the morning!  Of course, stress comes from ideas that we have to keep all
these many things under control.  When did I decide I needed a better job,
more degrees, more money, more this, more that?  Where did all these kids
come from, and how do I feed them...  This too is more mind work.  Time
to decide if we are really in control of our lives, or if we merely exert
some amount of influence.  Then, if the later, can't we simply let go a
bit?  Or even a lot?

Elliminate any stress, focus your attention, and all the energy comes back,
energy to rock 'n roll with the best.

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--- duane voth                                  duanev@mpd.tandem.com
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