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From: kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle)
Subject: Re: Exactly what I mean by "unattached"...
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Tue, 18 Aug 1992 07:59:25 GMT

>kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:
>> Not everyone thinks... that a human being's ideal state is as an island.  

mlb@CISCO.COM (Marcia Bednarcyk) writes:
>Perhaps not the ideal state, but it certainly seems to be a natural state, 
Perhaps not even a natural state.  

>and one in which people spend a lot of time. It seems to me that you have a
>choice: you can either spend all that time wishing you were in your "ideal"
>state and feeling miserable because you are not, or you can be "bloom
>where you are planted" and spend the time being happy.

If your emotions are so easily tractable, perhaps you should explain
your sectret, since so many people seem to have little choice about
what makes them feel happy and unhappy.  ...They just seem to have so
little control over those pesky emotions.

>As for me, life is too short to be unhappy.

This is certainly true.  I hope you're happy.  :-)
-- 
Kiran Wagle                             <kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu>
P.O.Box 2083 Bloomington IN 47402-2083      (812) 336-7478 [8p-1a EST]
From: bart@muppet.bt.co.uk (Tim)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Boink Blues
Date: 14 Aug 92 07:51:26 GMT
Reply-To: bart@muppet.bt.co.uk
Organization: British Telecom

In article 843@csd.brispoly.ac.uk, pm3_norr@csd.brispoly.ac.uk (Paul Norris) writes:
>In article <1992Aug12.114823.2666@muppet.bt.co.uk> bart@muppet.bt.co.uk writes:

>} In particular why not make it 'happening' Ipswich in the heart of
>}Constable country (orientation for all those art lovers :-)
>But it's so flat!  Come over to the west coast - hills here, mountains not far
>(and an awful lot of rain at the moment...)

Gasp, splutter !!!! 
And what , pray tell, is wrong with flat land ???????? :-)

Instead, you offer Bristol, that's in Wales !!!!! :-)

At least its just about constant sunshine over this side

Tim

"Phew, just let me catch my breath"	dream theater
"Where you at now ?"			ministry
"beneath, between and behind"		rush
From: greg@netcom.com (Greg Bullough)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: 'E' Tickets
Date: 21 Aug 92 16:08:02 GMT
Organization: Netcom - Online Communication Services  (408 241-9760 guest)

In article <1992Aug21.133542.10768@lmpsbbs.comm.mot.com> smith@comm.mot.com (Jeff Smith) writes:
>Enough of this nonsense!  Somebody please tell me what an 'E'
>ticket is!

See what I mean?
 
Well, 'way back when, before the various "Flags" parks and the
other one-price amusement parks, Disneyland's general admission
was very low. (Or was it nil?) Anyway, that just got you in the
park. Rides were extra.
 
You didn't pay for the ride *at* the ride, oh no, never. You used
different-colored tickets, which you bought in books by waiting in
YAL (Yet Another Line). The tickets were from "A" to "E" "A" ticket
rides were things like the little putt-putt train and the really
tame kiddie-rides. 
 
The Matterhorn was an "E" ticket.
 
Now, the tickets were sold in books, so that it was, at various
times, impossible to go up and buy "three E tickets." In order to
get "E" tickets, you had to put up with the "A" tickets. In fact,
most people came back from Disneyland with fragments of ticket
books, which they gave away to their friends and neighbors when
they went. If you had teenagers, you had lots of left-over "A"
tickets. If you had toddlers, you might even have a spare "E"
ticket. 

The term "E-ticket" came into popular parlance as a result. Thus,
when considered in terms of the cartoon train vs. the Matterhorn,
the expression "she's an E-ticket" is fairly self-explanatory.

>If I don't know, does that mean I definitely don't have one?
>I'm so confused...
 
Well, if you're male, you usually have to reach a certain age before
you can be considered an "E-ticket." This year, that age may be 
just about old enough to have a primary cultural memory of the
source of the term.
 
Greg
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: Exactly what I mean by "unattached"...
Organization: my opinions only
Date: Tue, 18 Aug 1992 22:39:28 GMT

In article <hk0ms3-@lynx.unm.edu> blowfish@carina.unm.edu (rON.)
writes:

>Personally, I would >love< to have an 'in' like this. Many people (and I
>speak from my personal experiences here), are lacking in the Self-Confidence
>arena for the simple reason that we (I) hate to think that my casual 'Hi'
>is going to be interpeted as "I'm an evil demon from Hell, have 13 Unnamed
>Diseases and want to drool on your breasts". The reaction from a lot of
>women that I've gotten on occassion has been as if I had said that instead
>of just 'Hi'. 

Have you ever tried just that?  You might be surprised at the result.
(Some women do have senses of humor, you know.)

Seth		sethb@fid.morgan.com
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle)
Subject: Re: Exactly what I mean by "unattached"...
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Wed, 19 Aug 1992 12:37:24 GMT

swann@acsu.buffalo.edu (Stephen Swann) writes:

>Funny, though - I had gotten used to thinking of myself as being
>that way.  It was a real shock when some net.friends who met me in 
>person made comments like "I thought you said you were shy?!"
 
*laugh* This is a pleasant surprise, at least it was when it happened
to me way back in high school.  I thought about it and realised that
my friend was right, I wasn't shy.
  
Sometimes a sense of perspective can be a good thing.

Boy I'm starved.  I think I'll have this piece of fairy cake instead.
-- 
Kiran Wagle                             <kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu>
P.O.Box 2083 Bloomington IN 47402-2083      (812) 336-7478 [8p-1a EST]
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: eleanor@cbnews.cb.att.com (eleanor.j.evans)
Subject: Re: Bananas 
Organization: AT&T
Date: Sun, 23 Aug 1992 15:36:23 GMT

In article <rx+nqz.aahz@netcom.com> aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius) writes:
>In article <1992Aug22.060029.19182@jarvis.csri.toronto.edu> allisson@turing.toronto.edu (H. Allisson Roome) writes:
>>In article <1m_nn0#.aahz@netcom.com> aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius) writes:
>>>
>>>Don't worry.  Just deep-throat a banana, and you'll stand out *anywhere*
>>>you go.
>>
>>Hey, I resemble that remark!  Just 'cause I can do neat party tricks doesn't
>>mean that I stand out or get offers of attention; in fact, that particular
>>trick tends to intimidate men (or maybe it's the fact I'm sensible and don't
>>take myself too seriously -- it can't be my looks).
>
>So.  Was it peeled or unpeeled?

Peeled.  And we have pictures...

Piglet
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle)
Subject: Re: Exactly what I mean by "unattached"...
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Wed, 19 Aug 1992 12:34:55 GMT

>mlb@CISCO.COM (Marcia Bednarcyk) writes:
>>Am I the only one who delights in the slow unfolding of a relationship, of 
>>the maybes and possibles that characterize the start of one? If everything
 
aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius) writes:
>I guess I kinda agree with this.  Problem is, while it's fun to see and
>feel the growth of the relationship, and learn about the other person,
>you usually want to know as quickly as possible if you *are* in a
>relationship or not.
 
What he said.

-- 
Kiran Wagle                             <kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu>
P.O.Box 2083 Bloomington IN 47402-2083      (812) 336-7478 [8p-1a EST]
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci)
Subject: Re: Email of the Week
Organization: AT&T
Date: Fri, 14 Aug 1992 19:59:11 GMT

In article <14053@auspex-gw.auspex.com> johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:
>In article <1992Aug13.171156.12203@oracle.us.oracle.com> mfriedma@uucp (Michael Friedman) writes:
>|>
>|>Well, to start with, she did suggest that his brains be blown out.
>
>You ever hear of an arguementative technique called "exaggeration to 
>absurdity"?  He wrote something stupid and to prove how stupid it was she
>responded with a suggested that was "exaggeration to absurdity".  No one
>in their right mind would believe that us blowing his brains out would be
>a reasonable solution to his "problem".

Excuse me.  Can I say something?  Did anyone keep a copy of the
original article that was posted about two guys wondering if there
were any good-looking women in this group?

I was never aware, and am still not convinced, that that article
came from this dal (Dave) character.  If I'm wrong and he DID originate
that article, my interaction with him was without that knowledge.  Even
so, I don't think that would have made a difference.

Michael Friedman, I tried to email this thought directly to you but
it went bouncy-wouncy.

-Nance

-- 
Nance Colucci  *^*^*^*^*^*    o__    *^*^*^*^*  |  Work that body!
att!ihlpk!colucci            _.>/               | Stay fit for life.
                            (_) \(_)
From: sms@cbnewsf.cb.att.com (steven.m.stein)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Business Trip to LONG ISLAND
Keywords: What to do ????
Date: 17 Aug 92 17:45:34 GMT
Distribution: ny
Organization: AT&T

In article <1992Aug17.155454.6154@cbfsb.cb.att.com> jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton) writes:
>In article <1992Aug17.152657.28885@cbnewsd.cb.att.com> nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci) writes:
>>In article <1992Aug17.141757.1953@cbfsb.cb.att.com> sms@cbnewsf.cb.att.com (steven.m.stein) writes:
>>>
>>>Any offers for company would also be appreciated, drink and buffalo
>>>wings on me!!!
>>
>>(He musta got tired of crab legs, see ...)  :-)
>
> Thanks steven, please send my buffalo wings to chicago, chelsea ave.
>Thanks again.


Sorry James, you had your chance last month with Nance and I.

Steve
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Exactly what I mean by "unattached"...
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Fri, 21 Aug 92 18:55:28 GMT

In article <kiran.714387937@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu> kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:
>gds@oahu.cs.ucla.edu (Greg Skinner) writes:
>
>>Well, from what he's written, [trygve] implies that he has enough
>>dates and relationships to keep him happy.  The only complaint he has
>>is that his SOs eventually wind up leaving him after they're "healed"
>
>These don't seem like SOs to me, they seem rather like emotional
>leeches, but i suppose this is a matter of definition.

Nope, they don't seem like emotional leeches to me at all--in fact I 
make a point of keeping emotional leeches at a distance.  While they
may have derived emotional benefits from being with me, I know I
have gotten a great deal from them emotionally.  People do change
and things don't have to be forever to be worthwhile.

(Besides, not all my relationships follow that pattern, just an awful
lot of them.  At the moment I'm seeing two generally emotionally
healthy women which is a bit of a new experience, not because they're
healthy and stable, but because I'm not used to dating two women at
once.  It's fun, but since it's a fairly equal relationship all the
way around, it makes figuring out in what order to sit in movie
theaters a little more interesting.)

Trygve 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: Larry Margolis <margoli@watson.ibm.com>
Subject: Re: Las Vegas
Date: Sat, 22 Aug 1992 16:38:35 GMT
Reply-To: margoli@watson.IBM.com
Disclaimer: This posting represents the poster's views, not necessarily those of IBM
Organization: The Village Waterbed

In  <1992Aug21.213353.1705@news.acns.nwu.edu>  drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>
> Anyone else getting what appears to be an email form letter come-on that
> starts something like, I read one of your posts and thought it was
> interesting....  ?  Just curious.

You mean I'm *not* the only one?  God - I feel so cheap and used.

Larry Margolis, MARGOLI@YKTVMV (Bitnet), margoli@watson.IBM.com (Internet)
From: colombo@bronco.fnal.gov
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: A (new?) twist on LJBF
Date: 14 Aug 92 19:55:25 GMT
Article-I.D.: bronco.1992Aug14.135525.1
Organization: Fermilab Computing Division

In article <1992Aug14.023732.1524756@zeus.calpoly.edu>, jemenake@zeus.calpoly.edu (Joe Emenaker) writes:
> I was trying to convey to my sister the horror that LJBF strikes in the
> hearts of males one day. She felt, as I figure most women do, that it is a
> NICE THING, that they're willing to be, at least, friends. "What's wrong
> with being friends?" she asked. 
> 
> Now, I don't know if I'm speaking for the rest of the males here, but it
> seems to me that the problem arises from the fact that only one party seems
> to have to adjust. For example, Brad wants to be romanticly involved with
> Janet. So, Janet conter-attacks with a LJBF. :-) Now, assuming that she
> DOES want to be friends, she's basically asking that he do his part to make
> the relationship be what SHE wants it to be... regardless of any other
> feelings HE has to contend with. She intends to go right on drawing
> happiness from this "friendship" while Brad will be constantly torn by the
> fact that he's supressing the feelings that make him want more. Brad's the
> only one left with any real burden here, it seems to me. So, to me, the
> problem with LJBF is that it's kind of an unreasonable, if not selfish,
> thing to ask: that the OTHER person alter THEIR desires to conform to
> yours.
> 
> This is nothing really new. The thing my sister brought up reverses the
> roles, though. "What about these 'guys who won't commit' to their
> girlfriends who want marriage?", she pointed out. Damn good point, I think.
> In that case, it's usually the woman who wants to make the relationship
> something more and it's the GUY who is pleased as punch just to leave it as
> it is... expecting the woman just to be done with these silly thoughts of
> marriage.
> 
<much deleted>

I think that there is a world of difference between these two ideas.
The LJBF approach is juxtaposed to dating whereas marriage is for life.
You can always back out of a date/relationship, but divorce is not easy.

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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: hays@TECHNET.NM.ORG
Subject: Re: Las Vegas
Date: Fri, 21 Aug 92 23:54:33 GMT
Organization: New Mexico Technet   Albuquerque, NM
Reply-To: hays@TECHNET.NM.ORG

In article <1992Aug21.213353.1705@news.acns.nwu.edu>, drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>
>Anyone else getting what appears to be an email form letter come-on that
>starts something like, I read one of your posts and thought it was
>interesting....  ?  Just curious.
>
>Max

Dear _MAX_:

I read one of your posts and thought it was interesting.  It was the one
about _EMAIL FORM LETTER COME-ON_.  I thought you made some very good
points (especially what you said about _JUST CURIOUS_) and I wonder if
you'd like to get together and discuss it in person?  I'd really like
to buy you dinner and get to know you, because I can tell by your posts
that we'd be very compatible because you are _INTERESTING_, _ARTICULATE_
and _FEMALE_.  Talk to you soon.



:write | strip_source_article | convert -upcasetolow > net.babe
:send -mail net.babe -subj="Hi there" -address=drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu
:exit
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( Couldn't resist  :-)

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From: dbe2@dcs.exeter.ac.uk (David Bennett)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: cooking newsgroups??
Date: 17 Aug 92 19:26:11 GMT
Organization: Computer Science Dept. - University of Exeter. UK

In article <14054@auspex-gw.auspex.com> johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:
...
>alt.beer
>I've got a t-shirt that I bought at Maggie Mae's in Austin that says
>"Beer.  It's not just for breakfast anymore".  Maggie Mae's is a bar that
>has so many varieties of beer that they have a beer menu.
>
>

Here in the UK, We have one better :-).  The Nobody Inn (in
Doddiscomsleigh - 'scuse spelling - nr Exeter) Which has over 60
different varieties of Whisky.  Including one that costs over 9000
pounds a bottle ( or 400 ish a measure - but you can't buy it that
way!) 

It also sells great food as well.

Dave

He who doesn't like the taste of whisky but just loves the smell.
Sorry.


-- 
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| UUCP   : dbe2@ex-dcs.uucp        | I think I hear people say things. More I |
| Undergrad @ University of EXETER | cannot say." HHGTTG Radio Scripts.       |
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: michele@dgbt.doc.ca (Michele Guillet)
Subject: Re: A (new?) twist on LJBF
Organization: The Communications Research Centre
Date: Sat, 15 Aug 92 01:31:45 GMT

In article <1992Aug14.023732.1524756@zeus.calpoly.edu> jemenake@zeus.calpoly.edu (Joe Emenaker) writes:
>only one left with any real burden here, it seems to me. So, to me, the
>problem with LJBF is that it's kind of an unreasonable, if not selfish,
>thing to ask: that the OTHER person alter THEIR desires to conform to
>yours.

I think that's typical of most human relationships they only exist in
the smallest form of relationship that either party is willing to do.
If A wants a romantic relationship, B is only interested in LJBF,
A can decide that in that case A prefers nothing at all in which
case B had to get less than B wants.
>
>roles, though. "What about these 'guys who won't commit' to their
>girlfriends who want marriage?", she pointed out. Damn good point, I think.
Same thing, you cannot make someone want to be married to you against
their wishes, desires.

>just be mates"... LJBM, as it were. What if he just said no and then just
>dropped the issue, as if it was all your problem... to deal with those
>feelings you had? Kinda shitty, huh? "Well, I can't change how I feel about
>you. I feel the way I feel and I don't feel like marriage", he'd say. 
If marriage was what I wanted, I would probably at some point 
leave the relationship to get what I really wanted.

Relationships aren't static. They changed all the time and get reajusted.

-- 
Michele Guillet 			The Communications Research Centre 
3701 Carling Avenue, Ottawa, Ontario, CANADA, K2H 8S2	tel:613-998-2384
Internet: michele@dgbt.doc.ca
From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: FINNS - Nice description, Juha!
Date: 17 Aug 92 19:34:39 GMT
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <thurlow.714023379@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow) writes:
>In <1992Aug16.160927.4604@access.digex.com> huston@access.digex.com (Herb Huston) writes:
>
>>And then there is Finland's greatest contribution to social life,
>>indeed, to civilization itself, and also the second best sensual
>>experience -- the Sauna.
>
>(sigh) Such memories!  The mystery is why the ski resorts have not
>learned how wonderful they are and adopted them en masse.

There used to be a little shop at the bottom of the hill at Squaw Valley 
with a sign over it "Foot Masseuse".  I'd imagine that they did quite a
business.  
> I have
>never known anything that will work the kinks out of a body better
>than a good sauna.  I know people like hot tubs for apres-ski, but
>the truth is harsh - hot tubs are only good for screwing (ask any
>Californian).

Yes, it's true.  They, however, are also pretty good for Apre-ski.  I was
formerly a soundman for a band and he had a gig in Colorado during the heart
of ski season.  I skied every day for four weeks and everyday sat in the
hot tub as an apre-ski activity.  Maybe it was because this was Colorado but
I was unable to convince a MOTOS that the real purpose of a hot tub was for
screwing.  It might be been that the hot tub was at a Ramada Inn also.

-- 
+============================================================================++
| John Fereira            "Is that all you ever think about?"                |
| johnf@auspex.com                                                           |
+============================================================================++
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: hymowitz@whatever.cs.jhu.edu (Hymie!)
Subject: Re: White Spire Trip Report
Organization: Creative Sensualities dept, Jacquie's House of Underwear
Date: Sat, 15 Aug 1992 13:56:14 GMT

srclark@happy.colorado.edu writes:
>Hi,

>The description of this newsgroup says:
>Newsgroup for single people, their activities, etc.
>
>I think it should read:
>
>Newsgroup for single people to discuss their singleness
>
>or:
>
>Newsgroup for single people who don't do anything but talk about being single

the newsgroup is what it becomes.  such is life in an anarchy.

>
>Well, Homey don't play that. I'm gonna break with the tradition of this
>group and post a recent trip report.

you've left something out - relevance.  you're posting to people
across the world.  i doubt that many of us are interested in stuff like
this.

something of this nature should be posted in a group such as
alt.diary.srclark@happy.colorado.edu
or even better, /dev/null

now, on the other hand, if while on the trip, you and some friends
came upon a startling innovation, such as 'gee - single women who
aren't sexy can be good friends' and you think that the rest of
us would be startled by this statement, then by all means let us know.

also, bear in mind that some of us read at 2400 baud or less.  when i
see an intro as blatanly antagonistic as yours, and then see
>Lines: 117
i generally go right for the 'n' key.

and talking about begin single is interesting.  different poeple have
different viewpoints about things.

followup to alt.trip.white-spire

>Flame on. If you *really* don't like it I'll post another.

go ahead.  my 'k' key is ready and waiting.

--hymie
hymowitz@cs.jhu.edu                                         hymie@jhuvms.bitnet
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From: kevin@nuchat.sccsi.com (Kevin Brown)
Subject: Re: Various ramblings
Organization: I can't see any in the immediate vicinity...
Date: Thu, 20 Aug 1992 19:18:25 GMT

In article <1992Aug19.175750.25412@lmpsbbs.comm.mot.com> smith@mot.com (Jeff Smith) writes:
>kevin@nuchat.sccsi.com (Kevin Brown) writes:
>
>> Now that I've experienced what it's like to have a real engine powering
>> the car [Mustang GT], I'll never go back.  :-)
>
>Real engine?  Neanderthal, over-weight, cast iron pushrod V-8s are *not*
>real engines.  Oh, wait...this thread was about relationships, wasn't it?
>Sorry...   :-)

"16 valves, overhead cams, and turbochargers are no match for a V-8 under
the hood, kid".

:-)

225 hp and 300 ft-lbs is nothing to sneeze at...

(Gezundheit)

>jds


-- 
				Kevin Brown

			    kevin@nuchat.sccsi.com
			    kevin@taronga.taronga.com