From: bz687@cleveland.Freenet.Edu (E. Andi Woods)
Newsgroups: alt.romance.chat
Subject: Re: A story from an anonymous friend...
Date: 30 Sep 92 13:36:49 GMT
Reply-To: bz687@cleveland.Freenet.Edu (E. Andi Woods)
Organization: Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, OH (USA)
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In a previous article, ender@uunet.uu.net (Pete Walsh) says:

>
>Hey there gang!  Here's a story written by a "lurker" who wishes to remain
>anonymous, at least for the time being.  This individual requests your
>thoughts and considerations on this piece.  If you post your responses
>the authour will read them, or you can email them to me and I will
>pass them along...
>
>****All to familiar story deleted with no small amount of regret...****
>
>Author's note: so what should happen next?
>

I wish i knew... 'course in my situation we are in the same state... but
it feels impossible... and taking things one day at a time is the most
frustrating thing on earth... grrrrrr... i should know better than to think
about this when i am not going to be able to talk to him for a couple of
days... 

what to do... i have been agonizing over just that question for a couple of
months now... it takes a very special person to make a relationship work
long distance... i have had several that haven't, and i wonder with each
day if this one will... the thing is that for all that both of us have
talked about ending it to avoid causing the other pain, the thought of
bringing it to a close is more painful than the distance, and not getting
to see each other... so you do what you can... you endure the only way you
know how... and you begin to count the months, weeks, days til you can see
the person you love... because that is when you know that you really love
them... when you decide that everything is worth waiting til the decisions
can be made...

what have i thought about doing... i have thought about quitting school and
moving... I graduate in june... that would be the biggest mistake of my
life... I have thought about getting a bus ticket and just going up there
to visit him... it would be nice, but he works hard, and that sort of
surprise just doesn't help things much... i have seriously thought about
persuing other relationships, at least until some decision can be made
about this one... the problem with that is that i dont' want another
relationship... 

So i send him letters to let him know i am thinking about him... we chat on
IRC whenever we can... we have spent hours on the phone... and Saturday...
baring major disasters... he will be coming down here to celebrate my
birthday with me... he says we have to have a serious talk... he won't say
what he wants to talk about... only that it is something he wants to say in
person... and i get to be a nervous wreck for the next 3 days... 

*hugs* to all...

Andi
Official Gypsy of the RFA
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