From: fafat@usc.edu (Vijay Fafat)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.indian,soc.culture.tamil,soc.culture.indian.telugu
Subject: Sneaky posts from women's net
Date: 9 Jan 1993 00:04:59 -0800
Organization: University of Southern California, Los Angeles, CA
Distribution: world
NNTP-Posting-Host: aludra.usc.edu
Keywords: sleazeballs, sleazebuckets,poker,BIG JOB, Dating.




Here's a sneaky view at what's going on on the women's net. A mole
leaked the juicy stuff :). Have kept the censorship to a minimum but some
of the comments were much too notty notty to be included ;-) I have
retained only the Indian women's comments:


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>|:Recently, a *friend* of mine (yup you guessed it *gals* American SWM) 
>|:asked me "why are Indian women beautiful but the men so ugly ?".
>|:
>|:How do you think I should reply to this ? ;-> I will tell you later what
>|:I told him :->

   Well, to tell you the truth, a chinese colleague asked me the same 
question the other day. Loyalty shining in one eye and honesty shining 
out in the other, I replied " huh, well, you haven't seen *all* indian 
guys, have you?".
(What a nightmare if she should know that my university had a better
sample of desi guys than many other universities!) I think India is one
place where you find in most cases, the wife is better looking than 
hubby dearest. Don't ask me why, but its so in my case, thats for sure 
;-).

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>(What a nightmare if she should know that my university had a better
>sample of desi guys than many other universities!) 


Then you really are lucky.  When I was studying in India (So long ago)
my friend and I used to console ourselves thinking all the good looking
guys are in the US {there is a dearth of good lookers in India that incl
Amitabh Bachchan, I mean except for his height and voice what is great
about him ? }. 
Lo and behold, America has a terrible collection as well :-(

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| I think India is one
| place where you find in most cases, the wife is better looking than 
| hubby dearest. Don't ask me why, but its so in my case, thats for sure 8-).


X what you say is absolutely true. But, if you read all the matrimonial
ads. that is precisely what you find "Wanted beautiful, slim, fair, 
convent educated and young (read as virgin), with strong Indian values
(read will bring dowry and not open her mouth except to eat)..."
There were a couple of posts on SCT about how the grooms mom and sisters
are the ones who demand dowry, blah, blah .........
Frankly, the guys don't realise that it is their lives and I thought
they would *atleast* know the meaning of the word 'man'. 
I am glad my husband is a man.

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%Dearest gals,
%
%The slimey sleazeballs of the sci are constan
%tly posting articles about Indian women who prefer white men. I was 
%wondering what does the Indian mule (err read as male) lack apart from
% manners, class, height, looks, etc. ?

This is with reference to x's post:

I have found through personal experience that desi males seriously lack 
in sophistication (NOT sophistry... this last seems to abound in plenty,
just read sci, if you gals don't believe me). I would'nt be unkind and 
say
that they are really crude but they do come close. Take for example, asking
a woman out on a date: I have heard various things including openers like
"do you like perfume?". I don't know if its the sophistication that is
seriously lacking or just plain simple imagination. Arghhh... am recalling
a painful experience of actually going out on a date with a desi male.
After many "not today"s, we really finally got to the point of making it
to some mexican hangout only for mr. desicuus idioticuus to rush to the 
restroom (which he found horribly difficult to find) and return half-an-hour
later looking, well, marginally better (there was actually less oil in his
face). Will any american dude do this, do you think? Apart from asking
you out in most gracious ways, they tend to display much knowledge of
things outside of HIS school/work and don't leave you on the lurch without
much advance notice. I have, as a principle, taken to accepting dates with
non-desis only, and my social life certainly seems much the better for it.

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Y writes :

|:a woman out on a date: I have heard various things including openers 
|:like "do you like perfume?". I don't know if its the sophistication 
|:that is seriously lacking or just plain simple imagination. 
|:Arghhh... 

Y, you can't be serious. My favourite line has always been the one,
"hi, want a coke ? " coke can be replaced with pizza, burgers, ice-cream
or frozen yogurt. The other one being, "you are looking very good today.
err. hmmm... er are you free tonight ?" :-]

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Hi,

This is my first post. My name is _ and I am doing my _______ at ___.

This post was prompted by sheer curiousity. Anyone still reading SCI ?

I can't believe the level it has sunk to. When will all these pitiful 
Indian men grow up ? They have the audacity to castigate the Indian 
women for prefering non-desi guys. Someone called the "Sleazebuckets" 
(Am I right ? ), and to think I disagreed with her :-{

My mom used to say, "X don't be choosy, men are babies, they never 
graduate from kindergarten", I never believed her. :-(

Its so wierd to sit in front of the computer and watch your hopes come 
tumbling like a pack of cards. 

Talk about the disillusionment of the century :-( at age 20.

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This is follow-up to X's post : 

Sorry guys but please forgive me, I couldn't resist this.
|:
|:Its so wierd to sit in front of the computer and watch your hopes come 
|:tumbling like a pack of cards. 
|:
		 ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Now, you can do something more interesting. Game of cards anyone ? :-)
Poker is my favorite :-J.


And it was "slimy sleazeballs", not sleazebuckets. Though the latter has
immense potential :-)

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Hahaha. Made my morning cuppa. Actually X, try to think of the positive 
aspects of it: we really get to see the actual level of intelligence of
our very own dear desi guys when this very sacred occurrence of male
bonding takes place. And heck, I really do admire the enthusiasm and
verve and not to forget, extreme confidence, displayed while doing 
the *BIG JOB* (pun alert!)

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	I was just rolling with laughter at all the original mails. Gosh,
	they sure do gossip like mad :):)

	FFT