From: kaygee@hardy.u.washington.edu (Kevin Giansante)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.korean
Subject: Re: My Thought on Wife Beating and more Thoughts...
Date: 10 Jan 1993 01:12:29 GMT
Organization: University of Washington, Seattle
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In article 11665, timothy lee <tlee@silver.ucs.indiana.edu>
digs himself in deeper:

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>  As I said before in my previous article, wife beating 
>in Korean social milieu has a different character than that in
>American society.

But does it hurt?

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>I added that you Westerns should not judge wife beating in Korea
>superficially
>since Korean people tend to look at inner motive than outer
>acts.

I think there are plenty of Koreans who would disagree with that. 

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> in reality, through the unfaithfulness of their marital
>life American males commit more grievous crime than wife
beating.

I'm not arguing for or against marital deception, nor am I
interested in comparing the sins of American and Korean males. 
Those are separate issues that do not interest me at the moment. 
I'd like to focus on violence committed by men against women, and
I say that it is NEVER acceptable, regardless of cultural
context.  You are free to hold your own opinion, but I don't
think you can speak for Koreans in general.

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>Extremely speaking, in my opinion, if domestic violence resolves
>marital problems, it's well better than divorces.

Is that also true when a woman commits violence against a man, or
only when the man wins?


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>I admire Western thoughts and its ideas such as
>individualism and freedom and justice.

Individualism and freedom and justice for women?

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>one has to understand the value of discipline.  Even Western
>society disciplined
>their school children harshly (See Charles Dickens' novels).  

The conditions portrayed in Dickens are not generally accepted as
desirable by rational, humane people.

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>You cannot simply 
>say, "Oh, what terrible Korean schools are!  Teachers beat their
>students! "Some even showed an example of a girl who became
>temporarily paralyzed when she
>was beaten by her teacher.  But to me, teachers should
>discipline their
>children, even using physical force.

Well, yes, I have to admit that a paralyzed student is not going
to get into any trouble.

>But in some ways, Koreans treat women with
>more respect than Americans treat women.  For example, Koreans
>never let their wives work.  Then you might immediately talk
>about career and conclude that what pitiful Korean women are.

Well, I rather think that men who treat their wives that way are
the pitiful ones.  I think they are cowards.

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>In my opinion, Korean women are the happiest women in the world 
>because their husbands support them.

You know, Tim, I'm just going to butt out of this discussion
after this post.  But I'd like to hear what Korean women have to
say about this.

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>Most women work tedious and menial jobs with meager wage as
>their careers.

So do most men.

>Do you see the cartoon which sarcastically 
>pointed out the false assumption of the seemingly glamorous
>single mother career women
>Murphy Brown lifestyle?

Murphy Brown isn't real, Tim.  Dan Quayle had a problem with
that, too.  Maybe it's a Hoosier phenomenon?



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