From: hira@cme.nist.gov (Ron Hira)
Newsgroups: alt.culture.us.asian-indian
Subject: White Guys Superior?
Date: 24 Jul 92 19:53:25 GMT
Reply-To: hira@cme.nist.gov
Organization: National Institute of Standards and Technology

A friend of mine, asian american female, heard these comments from whites
who thought that they were superior dating partners. I thought that it might 
be interesting to the rest of y'all, particularly with the thread of dating.
  

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  But... I was there when these comments flew my way.
  "I just love Chinese girls.  All my girlfriends are Chinese." (White male)
  "Why?  Because they're nice and they like white men."  (same White male)
  "Why do you want to go out with your Black boyfriends, this isn't
  the ghetto anymore.  I've got a BMW and am studying for my real
  estate broker's exam."  (White male)
  "Is it true that all Asian girls want White guys?"  (White male)
  "You don't look like you're all Chinese.  Are you mixed?  Because
  usually Chinese girls don't look too good."  (White male, as in
"Thanks a lot dude,
  get lost")
  "I like Asian girls because they're shorter than me."  (White male)
  "I like Asian girls because they're so nice compared to JAPs (not a
slur for Japanese)."
  (White Jewish male)
  "Since you're dating a Puerto Rican, would you consider me?" (white
Spanish male,
  with all the charm of a conquistador.  All I could think of was the Tainos my
  husband's people meeting up with the likes of him.)
  "I've thought about getting an Asian girl, but I get so mad when they
  turn me down."  (White male who claims that he's the only dude stupid
enough to
  go for the "racist" ones who only want other Asians)
  "They're all geeks anyway.  If it wasn't for those racist Asian chicks, they
  wouldn't get any dates."  (White male referring to Asian men and racist Asian
  chicks who prefer Asian men.)
  "I can't believe you blew off Beverly Hills for South Bronx."  (white female,
  from Beverly Hills referring to guy from B.H. and guy from S. Bronx,
my husband)
  "The best thing you can do for your children is to give them a
  white father.  It's true."  (White female, so why was she dating an
Asian man???
  I'm glad he dumped her.)
  "So which one is it, Kansas, or Nebraska?  They're so much nicer in
the MidWest."
  (White male, and so much whiter...)
  "You're lucky, because you can attract them white men.  If I was
  you, I'd go out with a white.  But they don't want us."  (Black female)
  "Well at least you're making progress.  Maybe next time, you'll get a white."
  (Black female, upon hearing that I dumped my Black boyfriend for a
Puerto Rican.
  I wonder what she's up to.  I haven't called her since (1983).)
  "If you don't like white men, how about white women?"  (white woman, the most
  ludicrous I've heard, because I was dating a white man at the time
from Iceland---
  remember, the Siberian husky blue eyes?)
  "I support Chinese people.  I go to their restaurants."  (same
misguided white woman)

  No, not all comments came from white men.  And I don't personally blame any
  of these people for making their misguided comments.  This whole "white men"
  syndrome is pervasive across our society and these people just picked up on
  it. ("lighter, brighter, closer to whiter" is better.)  After all, if
you could
  associate yourself with the head honcho, why would you chose otherwise?
  And in America, the wealth and power are concentrated in the hands of
white men.  
  I have relatives tell my parents to move to a white neighborhood to get the
  kids acquainted to white culture, because the real world is ruled by whites.
  Of course all their daughters married white men, and all their sons are
  unmarried with no girlfriends.  So far in my extended family none of the
  boys are married or have girlfriends.

  These are only the negative comments.  So I'm not saying that ALL people
  think this way, or that ALL people in White/Asian relationships are based on
  the "savior" concept.  In fact I would hazard to say that most people
in committed
  White/Asian relationships are not based on this concept because otherwise the
  relationship would not have lasted.  Give us Asian women some credit.  The
  guys who come up with those lines get the big boot in the backside.
  Just to make it fair.  I have met numerous white men and women who do not
  subscribe to these concepts of white being better.  In fact some are
indignant
  that others would categorize them as thinking so.


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Just food for thought.

Ron
Newsgroups: alt.culture.us.asian-indian