HDTenEightyP/NetNews huggingface dataset:
From: coleman@rocky.cs.ucla.edu (Mike Coleman)
Subject: Re: Female Size as opposed to Male size
Organization: UCLA, Computer Science Department
Date: Mon, 28 Sep 92 23:47:27 GMT

nelson@eastrg1.cray.com (Christine Nelson) writes:
|"most women don't like having their cervices pranged."
|what, pray tell, does that mean?

Well, to me at least, it means "bonked, dented, bashed".
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                                 He's square.
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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: "Christopher E. Hagen" <cehagen@nectarine.ucs.indiana.edu>
Subject: Re: Advice-Summer romance
Organization: Computer Science, Indiana University
Date: Sun, 4 Oct 1992 21:28:33 -0500

   I was involved with a summer romance myself. We spent every spare moment
we could find with each other this summer... She was down for the summer 
from a college about 100 miles to the north... We fell in love from the start
and have hated every moment since the end of the summer.

  About 2 weeks ago she decided that she couldn't handle the distance and just
wanted to see me for a while-- to have "fun". I can handle having fun if there
are no commitments and knowledge of this beforehand. Yet I knew I couldn't 
handle going into this mode right after we broke up. It hurts so much but
I had to break things off clean (or mostly clean) so that I could keep
myself from banging against a brick wall.

  -chris
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From: bhchan@soda.berkeley.edu (Billy H. Chan)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: How to tell if you are in love
Date: 5 Oct 1992 20:13:53 GMT
Organization: U.C. Berkeley, CS Undergraduate Association
NNTP-Posting-Host: soda.berkeley.edu
Keywords: Infatuation

In article <1992Oct5.174734.6397@ennews.eas.asu.edu> 
naveena@enuxhb.eas.asu.edu (Naveena Michael) writes:
>But more so as to how to distinguish between infatuation and love.... When you
>are infatuated with a person you FEEL that you are in love with that person,
>right?
What is the difference between infatuation and love?  It seems like for 
infatuation, you think about that person alot, but not really as a person,
but as a "girl-friend" (almost like an object).  When you're infatuated, you
don't see (or pretend not to see) the bad sides of the person.  
However, when you're in love, you see the whole person (as a whole).  You
don't just like this person for the good sides, but also for the badsides.
That, I guess, is true love, when you love the person for who they are,
not for what they are or what they could be.  (my $.02....I'm still 
struggling at the edge myself)

>	And somebody suggested that we wait and find out...well for how long
>does one wait??.  What is a SURE sign that you are in love with the person
>and not just infatuated with them.

Hurrying things is definitely not good, but don't go idle for too long, else
someone might just approach this person you're interested in and win her
(In my case) heart.  But, don't hurry things, else she'd get uneasy with your
relationship (which is about the level of friendship, if you're asking this,
right?)  She might just get scared away.   Yet another tough fine line to
balance...I can't be any clearer than that (else I wouldn't be posting but
out somewhere on a date, right?...anyway, my $.02....so the subtotal's up
to $.04 :)

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Organization: Freshman, CIT general, Carnegie Mellon, Pittsburgh, PA
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Date: Sun,  4 Oct 1992 16:42:08 -0400 
From: "Paul S. Hrynko" <ph2a+@andrew.cmu.edu>
Subject: Re: Advice-Summer romance

Dear summer romantic,

     Summer for many is a time of relaxation, a time to forget school, a
time for fun.  Partying and "letting loose" is essential.  Also in this
time is summer romance.  Often imitated but never duplicated, it is a
period when two people can let loose and not think about ANYTHING! 
However, as summers end so do summer romances.  You can establish a
relationship out of one, even have a "let loose" period with a SO of
many months.  But after summer, romance in an academic setting seems
more based on realistic expectations.  Especially if you both are going
to different colleges, it would be extremely difficult to START a
relationship from a summer romance.  It's hard enough for most people to
keep relationships that they already have.  Once your heart is broken
you will feel that your life is over- until the second you meet someone
else.  There are many fish in Earth's waters.  Even if he's the one for
you, you must separate yourself from him emotionally and wait to see if
something develops.  Two letters is more than enough.  I hope this
helps.  If you have any questions, I'm here.

                                   Paul





Paul Hrynko  (Ph2a@andrew.cmu.edu)
Box 4838
5115 Margaret Morrison
Pittsburgh, Pa.  15213-3831

Carnegie Mellon University  412-268-4303

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From: pa_ross@csd.brispoly.ac.uk (Mr Rossy)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Nice Guys?
Date: 3 Oct 92 12:35:05 GMT
Organization: Bristol Polytechnic, England


>> so good looking?"  But you have to learn how to look beyond physical
>> attributes to find out what the PERSON is like.

Couldn't agree more, the amount of women who I thought were real killers 
until I dated them is untrue. Finding a girlfriend is easy, finding one that
you like is the real trick.

					 Paul
					=----=
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: panlilio@acs.ucalgary.ca (Victor P. Panlilio)
Subject: Re: opposite of misogyny?
Summary: Delighting in Women
Date: Mon, 05 Oct 92 00:23:08 GMT
Expires: Tue, 20 Oct 1992 04:00:00 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: The University of Calgary, Alberta
Keywords: liking women
Followup-To: alt.romance

In article <sbuckley.718241715@sfu.ca> sbuckley@fraser.sfu.ca (Stephen Buckley) writes:
>  most nice guys know misogyny is wrong and we tend to respect women
>most if not all the time.  but what's getting me down is that not only
>is it o.k., but it's also fashionable for women to hate men and for
		 ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Well, I dunno about this, and yes, I've actually heard some
vitriol along these lines, but in my experience women and men
seem to get along just fine -- of course, the circles in which I
happen to make these observations are fairly mainstream; your
mileage may vary. I like being a man, and I enjoy the company of
women most of the time (I actually *like* women, you know!), and
I can't understand why some men and women seem to hate one
another so fiercely -- I must be incredibly naive and sheltered
to have such a benign view of the "war" between men and women.

Maybe not.

>many men to join in this man-hating binge.  the double standard hit me
>a few weeks ago and it really saddens me.

Ayayay. People who hate cannot bring peace to the world. Peace
will only come from those who are themselves peaceful. There is
already too much hatred and misery in the world. Let us not add
to it. Practice random kindness and senseless acts of beauty!

Just my $0.02....

Victor
From: 01sybok@ac.dal.ca
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Long Distance Romance...Problem
Date: 28 Sep 92 10:14:09 -0300
Organization: Dalhousie University, Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada

In article <1992Sep25.203045.879@csi.uottawa.ca>, kiisaka@csi.uottawa.ca (Ken Iisaka (the mad pianist)) writes:
> I heard this many times:
> 
>      If you love someone, let him/her go.
>      If s/he comes back, s/he is yours.
>      If s/he doesn't 

Hunt him/her down and kill him/her.
Hey let's face it, that's romance in the nineties.

Mike, and yes, I'm bitter.
From: carsonk@vms.csd.mu.edu (NAUGHTY ANGEL)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs, again!
Date: 2 Oct 1992 16:29:25 GMT
Organization: Marquette University - Computer Services
Distribution: alt
Reply-To: carsonk@vms.csd.mu.edu
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In article <1992Oct1.011611.18491@pellns.alleg.edu>, kennede@carr62.alleg.edu (Erin Kennedy) writes:
>Never really having a relationship before, I have often dreamed of having  
>one with certain songs in mind.  I have read the other postings and whole  
>heartliy agreed, but how about:
>	Same Auld's Lang's synd??--Dan Fogelberg
>	Take a look at me now--Phil Collins
>	You are so beatuiful--Joe Cocker
>	Separate Ways--Phil Collins and some one else
>	Sometimes when we touch--Dan Hill
>	Friends and Lovers--Gloria Loring
>	
>Just some more to ponder.  Anyone else have suggestions?
>------
>kennede@alleg.edu        "We are the music makers and 
>erin beth kennedy         we are the dreamrs of dreams."--Willy Wonka
>Box 2071
>Allegheny College
>Meadville Pa 16335

How about some non traditional ones?
for instance:   Nothing Else Matters - Metallica
                Sweet Child O' Mine - GN'R
                I Believe - Joe Satriani
                What You Give - Tesla
                Love Song - Tesla
                
just to name a few, I could go on for pages....

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
Kelly Carson            !So close, no matter how far
(414)344-9406           !couldn't be much more from the heart
carsonk@vms.csd.mu.edu  !never trusting who we are
                        !and nothing else matters  -Metallica
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Read me, please.
From: steiner@jupiter.cse.utoledo.edu (jason "Think!" steiner)
Date: 1 Oct 92 20:41:51 EST

01ksdavis@bsu-ucs.uucp (Rebel without a clue.) writes:
> 
> This is the second night in as many days that I have missed dinner
> because of a woman.
> 
> I WASN'T stood up, actually one time was my fault (spent too long 
> talking to her, dining services was closed by the time I left.)
> 
> The other time, it wasn't my fault either. She is really sick.

one word: Denny's!

either that or keep some rice, curry & a microwave around.

jason "glad he can kinda cook" steiner

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From: 01ksdavis@bsu-ucs.uucp (Rebel without a clue.)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Read me, please.
Date: 1 Oct 92 03:08:05 GMT


	Used to deny having a problem.  Guess now I do.


	This is the second night in as many days that I have missed dinner
because of a woman.

	I WASN'T stood up, actually one time was my fault (spent too long talk-
ing  to her, dining services was closed by the time I left.)

	The other time, it wasn't my fault either.  She is really sick.

	Comments?
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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: dks@sr.com (Dave K. Sprow)
Subject: Re: American High School & bits......
Reply-To: dks@srhqla.UUCP (Dave K. Sprow)
Organization: Silent Radio, Los Angeles
Date: Wed, 30 Sep 1992 22:15:56 GMT

In article <BvC5v3.C69@kingston.ac.uk> is_b420@kingston.ac.uk (Brendan Rooney) writes:
>
>To all American readers:
>
>	Could someone pleeeeease explain to me about all this stuff in
>high school - y'know the school yearbook - the prom etc....  What does it all 
>mean? Does it mean anything? (No offence to anyone intended)  I see movies
>about some part of American life and it shows people looking in their yearbooks
>to see themselves in years past -- is it a requirement that everyone's face 
>appears there?   What exactly is the prom?
>
>
>     If someone could be kind enough to explain to a totally unknowledgeable
>guy (me) about all of it, I'd be chuffed!
>
>
>	Brendan Rooney.
>	is_b420@king.ac.uk
>
>-------------------------------------------------
>Kingston University,
>Kingston-Upon-Thames,
>Surrey, ENGLAND (UK etc...)
>-------------------------------------------------

It's just another little piece of Americana, you know, cultural ditties that
arise for no particular good reason.  A prom is a dance.  Formal.  Kind of
like a right-of-passage into god-knows-what. Who you're seen with is of
paramount importance.  It's fairly ridiculous.  The more money you can spend
(to impress others) determines you're general status among your peers.  If
you're a guy, it (the money) also pretty much determines the level of "babe"
you can take. :-)

Yearbooks?  Another cultural idiom that is a nice money maker. I don't know
is it's an actual requirement everywhere, but it (the picture of everyone)
is certainly *expected*.  

You know, this stuff is American and probably isn't worth taking the time
to understand.  Unless it confuses the plot of the movie, of course. :-)

David S.

 

















Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: Krystal
Subject: Re: sexual peaks
Organization: From Canada
Date: Fri, 2 Oct 1992 19:35:11 GMT

In article <Bv9s9K.Lup@news.cso.uiuc.edu> jsg9939@uxa.cso.uiuc.edu (J. Sreedhar
) writes:
>I posted this question in alt.sex, and got no
>response.
>
>I have heard that whereas men have only one
>sexual peak (in their late teens), women have
>two - one in their early twenties, and another 
>in their late thirties/early forties...
>
>I'm in my mid thirties and I find my sexual peak hit
at 33 and still GOING!! whereas in my 20's I could 
care less about sex.
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: zaidioa@HYDRA.ROSE-HULMAN.EDU (Omar A. Zaidi)
Subject: Re: Long Distance Romance... Problem
Reply-To: zaidioa@HYDRA.ROSE-HULMAN.EDU
Organization: Rose-Hulman Institute of Technology
Date: Tue, 29 Sep 1992 23:34:11 GMT

>|> * Do you think we will survive apart? 

>It depends...on you, your SO, and your committment to making it work. Not 
>to seeing if it will work out, but to deciding together that it *will* work,
>and then doing what is necessary to make it so. The more I see, the more I
>realize that relationships that work do so because both people want them to 
>and are going to make them.
>
>|> * What comes first... carrer? Or love?
>
>That's something you have to decide. But don't write off finding a way to
>juggle the two.
>

>Hey, is anyone seeing this?

Yup, 

	I'm seeing this. I'll send a copy to Jennifer (my RP) and she can see
it too. 

	As far as a Long Distance Relationship goes.. Well, it can be really
hard at times, but we always talk to one another everynight for at least an
hour (UNIX talk) or more if we can afford the lack of sleep. We also trek out
to see one another when possible. We've been together almost 6 months now and
the trick is communication. Also, we make time for one another. 

	We decided we WANTED to make this work and so far it has.. beyond her
wildest dreams and mine too. I've had people ask me "When's the wedding?" Well.
not yet, but in about another three years prolly (after we both graduate that is
:-) ) We both want to go onto graduate school together. :-) boy will that be
fun.

	Too often, I've seen relationships fall apart in the Long Distance mode
because the two people don't communicate or make time for one another. As much
as possible, you have to share your life with your RP or it just doesn't work.

Cheers to all

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Terre Haute Indiana 47803-3999  |       but an infinitesmal part of that
________________________________|	existence. 
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Fear of failure will be the	|	
downfall of mankind             |       I am and forever shall be Jennifer
                                |       Joy William's angel, man, poet,
-original thought 		|	saxophonist, confidant, philosopher
 September 29,1992		|	and someday her husband :-) *heheheh*
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Telephone number:

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e-mail addresses in order of preference:

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Organization: Senior, English, Carnegie Mellon, Pittsburgh, PA
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Date: Mon,  5 Oct 1992 14:03:49 -0400 
From: "Pamela J. Bernhardt" <pb2i+@andrew.cmu.edu>
Subject: Re: Anniversery Gift Suggestions?

Hi,
For our first Anniversary, my boyfriend gave me a tshirt.  This was no
ordinary T-Shirt.  He had placed the first picture of the two of us
(taken the year before) on the front of the shirt.  On the back,
airbrushed were the words I had said when I agreed to go out with him.
"Say you'll share with me one love, one lifetime,
Lead me, save me from my solitude, 
Say you want me with you, here beside you.
Anywhere you go let me go too."

I loved it.

Good luck and happy Anniversary

Pam

DavenPam  10/29/89
From: cf017@cleveland.Freenet.Edu (Christopher P Readence)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: How do you tell a girl your feelings?
Date: 6 Oct 1992 23:06:35 GMT
Organization: Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, Ohio (USA)
NNTP-Posting-Host: hela.ins.cwru.edu



I've known her for almost 5 years now.  I think she liked me when
we first met, but I wasn't interested because she was 16 and
I was 20.  Aside from the age issue, she was and is my closest
friend -- we think think almost totally alike.

In the past year, I've noticed her acting more and more like "more
than a friend".  I told her I wanted to be friends, and that's all,
but I've noticed that my feelings for her have been leaning
towards romantic love and not, as I've told her, platonic love.

We're really good friends, and I know she'll still be a friend if
I tell her my feelings, but I'm not sure if I'd be able to if she
tells me "LJBF".  What should I do, just come out and say it, that
I'm crazy about her now, or should I first do a little probing to
see if she's still interested?

Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ae498@yfn.ysu.edu (Dawn Bott)
Subject: Re: Nice Guys?
Reply-To: ae498@yfn.ysu.edu (Dawn Bott)
Organization: St. Elizabeth Hospital, Youngstown, OH
Date: Sat, 26 Sep 1992 05:31:36 GMT


In a previous article, IQTI400@INDYCMS.IUPUI.EDU (macphil) says:

>In article <0096110D.D629A960@Msu.oscs.montana.edu>
>gcv2010@Msu.oscs.montana.edu writes:
> 
>>If you really like him and he says no, go ahead--be devastated.  But you'll be
>>surprised, I've never been turned down!  I tend to ask men that I think will
>>say 'yes', however, since rejection kinda hurts.
> 
>Most of your advice would be helpful to shy guys as well...
> 
>?:  If you've "never been turned down" then how do you know "rejection
>kinda hurts" ???
>
much the same way I guess that you know that to soak yourself with
kerosene and lighting a match will *probably* cause a little bit of
damage...you don't have to do it know it *hurts*!
-- 
"I am not young enough to know everything."  -- James M. Barrie
"I AM young enough to know everything."  -- James M. Hammond
From: sdy@bcstec.boeing.com (Ugly Bag of Mostly Water)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: How do you know if you are in love?
Date: 5 Oct 92 16:40:54 GMT
Organization: Ringworld
In-reply-to: darkmoor@mentor.cc.purdue.edu's message of 4 Oct 92 20:57:35 GMT

>>>>> On 4 Oct 92 20:57:35 GMT, darkmoor@mentor.cc.purdue.edu (Darkmoore) said:

	Darkmoore>   How do you know if you are in love?
Strangely I find that it's easier to tell when I'm not. 

	Darkmoore>   I would really like some thoughts on this matter.
Not that this helps you any but I always end up being willing to live (almost)
totally for the other -- probably not a real healthy thing, but I'm getting
better about it =)

steve.
--
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sdy@bcstec.boeing.com         >>>   that's because I'm always right! =b     <<<

               You couldn't pay me enough, but go ahead and try
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: bcr@cernapo.cern.ch (Bill Riemers)
Subject: Re: American High School & bits (long)
Organization: CERN, European Research Center for High Energy Physics
	<1992Oct2.155712.5711@bnr.co.uk> <BvICvn.M1F@usenet.ucs.indiana.edu>
Date: Sat, 3 Oct 1992 17:00:53 GMT

In article <BvICvn.M1F@usenet.ucs.indiana.edu> ksdavis@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (Karleenus Schwartz Davis) writes:

>Well, maybe we ought to put a "Key to Unfamiliar Terms" list at the
>bottom of our postings?  Seeing as how the English used in America,
>Canada, England, Australia (where else do people speak English??)
>is so full of local idioms...or at least confusion!  ;-)

A bit complicated isn't.  Especially since your answers were so specific
that they only apply completely to Indiana...  For example, I had plenty
of friends in South Dakota that got thier drivers licence at 11.  Hell,
now that I think about it, I know someone in Kentland, IN that is 14
and has been driving for two years.  (Appearently, he has to wait until
16 befor his licence is valid for highway driving...)  As far as I know,
only about 60% of U.S. high schools start at 9th grade, most of the others
start at 10th... (So, they still have Freshmen, but no sophomore's.)  Also,
there are some high schools that start at 8th grade...

                               Bill
From: uwanless@mcl.ucsb.edu (Selective)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: First Date ?
Keywords: first
Date: 5 Oct 92 22:18:34 GMT

For me, an ideal first date would not be boring movie and dinner either. There
are several things I might want to do...a baseball game would be nice, or
miniature golf, visit the arcade, go bowling, swimming, nature walk, museum...
the possibilities are simply endless!
--
************Paul Wanless "vangy"******************

"GO SYNTHESIZE A COMPOUND"
From: lfm54477@uxa.cso.uiuc.edu (Libor F. Michalek)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: First Date ?
Keywords: first
Date: 4 Oct 92 07:35:12 GMT
Organization: University of Illinois at Urbana

O.K. I'm sick of doing the same thing on a first date(movie diner).
I think alot of guys would like to know from the ladies out there
what they like to do on a first date. I know it depends on what guy
your with but I need specifics. I live in a typical college town 
UIUC (University of Illinois Champaign Urbana) and theres always
plenty to do (like go out drinking) but I'm looking for something
new something different. 
Thanks in advance.

Libor ( )
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