From: jsw@cray.com (Jon S. Wood)
Subject: Re: Impact of the absent father
Organization: Cray Research, Inc.
Date: 28 Aug 92 13:21:13 CDT

In article <1992Aug27.173448.8904@ttinews.tti.com> reid@metis.tti.com (Reid Kneeland) writes:
>In article <1992Aug25.230720.19685@u.washington.edu> hamton@byron.u.washington.edu (MrEuStress) writes:
>
>>   We need able parents not "remote wallets".
>
>We need both.  If the mother isn't financially independent, and the
>father isn't going to be held responsible for the money to raise the
>children, who is?  The government (translation:  you, me, and every
>other taxpayer)?  No thanks.  If a dad isn't going to be a "real" dad,
>for whatever reason, he still has responsibilities.  I refuse to take
>them over for him because he doesn't want to be a "remote wallet".
 
A "real" dad is someone like me. More than pays for his children's
needs, but also pays for their mothers vacations with fiance #4.
"Real dads" like me VISIT their children, kind of like women who have
visitation with their children, but they're in PRISON for murdering 
their child. The only difference between me and the murderer is
that her living children are DELIVERED to her. "Real dads" make out-
rageous child support payments to support the childrens mortgage 
payment. That way when my children turn 18 the ex will return to
the children THEIR investment in THEIR home. Sure she will.
"Real dads" pay huge amounts to his children's mother so the money
can be spent wisely. Her parental responsibility is assumed, the
fathers is questioned. "Real dads" have to have their child support
payments (32% after state and federal taxes, FICA) garnished from
their paychecks, Real Dads are presumed criminals. "Real dads" 
are only visiters and babysitters. Real dads are awarded reasonable
visitation at divorce. Reasonable visitation states that the "Real
Dad" is allowed to pick up his children at the "Children's house" (NOT)
every other weekend. Real dads are also allowed one visit per week.
"Real Dads" could pay as much as $120,000.00 in child support (my
estimated child support payments until my kids are 18, this figure
does not include inflation, higher income (Get the fucker, he makes
more money. Git 'em, sick em, get the weasle dead beat mother fucker)
and future mandates from Government. "Real dads" can drive a 125 miles
to pick up his children only to be told, "You can't see em, and if
you come over to my sisters house I'll call the cops". "Real dads" 
talk to cops and find out that "there is nothing we can do, Mr Wood.
Talk to an attorney." Real dads don't have money for attorneys. Real
dads buy their children roller blades and used bicycles while his
children tell them what their 'stepdad' bought them a new bike. 
"Real dads" hear their children tell them about new swimming pools 
they might get. Real dads buy them clothes because he doesn't want
to take his children to church wearing worn out t-shirts and 
hand me down tennis shoes. Real dads become upset with court systems
that charge 90 dollar filing fees to question visitation denial but
charge mothers demanding child support increases ZERO. Real
dads question the governments idealistic copout that mandates they
must DESTROY real dads "because it is in the best interest of 
children". Real dads question the sincerity and motives of Hillary Clintons'
involvement in "the Children's Defense Fund". Real dads puke
when they heard Slick Willy's convention speech. Real dads become
so fed up with the system that some of them have become angry
enough to walk into Ft. Worthe Family Court and blow as many people
away as possible. Real dads are not surprised to hear about it
on the radio. Real dads expect this to happen and for the incidence
of such events to increase. Real dads wonder how other real dads
can hold up. Real dads care about their children's future. Unreal
dads think it couldn't happen to them. Real dads miss out on
a lot of their children's life. Real dads pay for baseball gloves
but rarely see it in practice. I've known Real Dads to turn to
drink. I've known real dads who've OFFed themselves. I've known
children to miss Real dads. Real dads pay taxes to support a women's
right to choose. (Maybe it's time we stop). Real dads pay taxes
for schools, AFDC and deadbeat moms. Real dads pay taxes to
support single mothers to go to college and better themselves. Real
dads have been to war to preserve freedom, for their children. 
Real dads dream and hope their children will not have to fight
to preserve their freedom, and their 'syster's choices'. Real
dads do the best they can and often tell others to go fuck themselves.







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