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From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: What do you Am men think about Am wome
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Fri, 20 Nov 92 01:12:44 GMT

In article <74488@apple.apple.COM> stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
>
>When one partner has a higher sex drive than the other, both partners need
>to be willing to compromise, to explore ways of sharing sexual activities 
>that satisfy the horny partner but don't exhaust the non-horny one, and to 
>try to keep sex out of any (non-playful) power struggles that may develop 
>in the course of the relationship.

Hmmmmm...if I'm reading this correctly, this makes me think of the problem
of sex-drive differences quite differently from how I was a moment ago.
Perhaps I've led a sheltered life, but I've never had a partner who couldn't
be gotten "in the mood" with a little gentle persuasion, and I've never had
a partner who couldn't get me "in the mood" with a few carefully selected
words and actions--I'd just figured that "different levels of sex drive"
meant that one person tended to initiate things more often than the other
and that the problem with this was when the partner doing most of the 
initiating would really enjoy it more if the other partner would initiate
sexual activity more often.  (In my case, I've had moments when I've been
horribly sick with a high fever and, at least initially, no apparent sex
drive to speak of--and with not too much effort ("I'm sorry you're sick--
but that's OK, I hope you won't mind if I do a few things that I'd enjoy")
my partners have always been able to get my full cooperation.)

Now, this makes me wonder one strange question:  in couples where one or
both partners are complaining about their different levels of sex drive,
how is the high-drive person initiating sex?  Is he or she saying something
like "hey, how about it?" and then giving up immediately if the other 
doesn't respond enthusiastically, or does the high-drive person come up
behind the low-drive person, kiss that person gently and affectionately
on the back of the neck (which should be done occasionally whether or not
one is interested in sex), letting him or her feel the warmth of one's
breath as one's lips and teeth travel sensuously over the neck, towards
the earlobes or slowly down the back while ones fingers gently caress and
stroke, until their lips meet and the low-drive partner physically drags
the high-drive partner into the bedroom and starts ripping their clothing
off?

Trygve    (Though for the latter way of asking to work best, it should be
           done by someone who enjoys doing it regardless of whether the
           eventual answer turns out to be 'yes' or 'no.')
From: martinc@hatteras.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Top 9 things...
Date: 23 Nov 92 15:23:59 GMT
	<1992Nov23.083427.748@netcom.com>
Organization: UNC Department of Computer Science
In-reply-to: rohwerwd@netcom.com's message of 23 Nov 92 08:34:27 GMT

In article <1992Nov23.083427.748@netcom.com> rohwerwd@netcom.com (W. David Rohwer) writes:

	[quoted from someone else]
   >Top 9 things a man doesn't want to hear from a woman he's interested in...
   >Compiled from several different sources, my thanks to each and every one of
   >them.
   >
   >9. Sorry, I only like to date guys who like to beat the sh*t out of me and
   >     treat me like dirt.

I can no longer resist.  Isn't the obvious answer "okay, I can do that"?
--
		Charles R. Martin/(Charlie)/martinc@cs.unc.edu
     Dept. of Computer Science/CB #3175 UNC-CH/Chapel Hill, NC 27599-3175
	    3611 University Dr #13M/Durham, NC 27707/(919) 419 1754
     "Oh God, please help me be civil in tongue, pure in thought, and able
      to resist the temptation to laugh uncontrollably.  Amen." -- Rob T
From: martinc@hatteras.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Are you a Young Transplant?
Date: 18 Nov 92 17:39:35 GMT
	<1992Nov17.205924.11582@b8.b8.ingr.com> <lgipf2INN78a@news.bbn.com>
Organization: UNC Department of Computer Science
In-reply-to: dhardin@bbn.com's message of 17 Nov 92 21:36:34 GMT

In article <lgipf2INN78a@news.bbn.com> dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin) writes:
   For the love of god, will you get rid of this miserable sig before I lose
   all faith in humanity and tote a gun up to some McDonalds somewhere and
   blow hell out of some innocent people?  I'm close enough to doing that at
   the best of times, you wouldn't want to be the final straw would you?  

Yeah, what she said.

   (I'm not being a net.cop, you understand.  I'm just threatening you with
   physical violence if I'm not happy.  I do that a lot; it seems to work
   well.)

I still can't figure out why it is that Dawn, who is a small cute
brunette with a nice smile, gets results this way, while *I* -- looking 
rather like Bluto, with a black belt, a decent knife thrower and an
expert shot with a pistol -- get *laughs* when I threaten violence.
--
		Charles R. Martin/(Charlie)/martinc@cs.unc.edu
     Dept. of Computer Science/CB #3175 UNC-CH/Chapel Hill, NC 27599-3175
	    3611 University Dr #13M/Durham, NC 27707/(919) 419 1754
     "Oh God, please help me be civil in tongue, pure in thought, and able
      to resist the temptation to laugh uncontrollably.  Amen." -- Rob T
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: probst@selkirk.sfu.ca (Scott Probst)
Subject: Re: How to explain?
Organization: Simon Fraser University, Burnaby, B.C., Canada
Date: Tue, 24 Nov 1992 01:19:16 GMT

In article <1992Nov23.234310.17791@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>In article <thurlow.722370264@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow) writes:
>>
>>There are three classes of people I _never_ joke with: income tax agents,
>>airport security personnel, and people at border crossings.  These people
>>are lifeforms that are specially bred to remove all traces of a sense of
>>humor.
>
>I don't know about the people at border crossings, but I've had fun with
...

but! you can have such fun with them if you know you're legal. like at
the border crossing, if you make it obvious you have all the time in the
world and don't give a stuff for their silliness, you can see their blood
pressure go up as you watch... although i would only recommend this for the 
very jaded as a form of entertainment, it is worth it, sometimes.


Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: rohwerwd@netcom.com (W. David Rohwer)
Subject: Talking About Politics  (Was: Re: Where to meet women?)
Organization: Netcom - San Jose, CA
Date: Sun, 22 Nov 1992 01:20:31 GMT

In article <BxnnyJ.CnA@access.digex.com> huston@access.digex.com (Herb Huston) writes:
>In article <JULIE.92Nov8222440@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu> julie@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu (Julie Wright) writes:
>>
>>                 Arguing politics is great fun.
>
>No, it's not!
>
>>---Julie (27 and not bitter yet :) )

     Sure, arguing and talking about politics is fun!!

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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: What to do, What to do?
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Sat, 21 Nov 92 11:56:21 GMT

In article <1992Nov20.133124.1709@b8.b8.ingr.com> larry@b8.b8.ingr.com (Larry Billings) writes:
>I would like to apoligize to everyone on the net that I have offended, insulted,
>demeaned, irritate, or [insert favorite word/words here].
>After several times of not thinking a smiley was necessary, or just forgeting 
>to add it at the end of a joke, and having several people tell me "Well you
>should include a smiley, because voice inflection dosen't translate across
>the net.", I decided to make a sig that I could call up, which I would not 
>forget.  So I drew up a smiley face and added a couple of my all time favorite
>cartoon characters quotes, and used that to insure noone took me seriously.
>Unfortunately, many people felt that was insulting or demeaning, and said that
>if I wrote well then jokes/satire/sarcasm (friendly or otherwise) should come
>across without the smileys.  If I had the time I would take a creative writing
>course, but not having the time, I've muddled through as best as possible.
>I did not mean to insult anyone's intelligence or upset anyone, it is just my 
>lack of writing skills combined with being in a hurry while posting.
>How to correct the problem???   I really don't know.

'Tis easy--stop worrying about it.  The simple fact is that there are many
different sorts of people out there--some prefer their humor to stand on its
own and find that large, flashing signs saying "this is humor" detract from
their enjoyment.  Others don't understand the concept of humor without
a clear label that something is supposed to be funny--such people get angry
and frustrated when confronted with humor or sarcasm posted without a 
smiley or a joke told on TV without an accompanying laugh-track.  Still
others find even smileys and laugh-tracks to be insufficient and can only
cope by watching _Mystery Science Theater 3000_....

Trygve   (Personally, I figure the thing to do is to use smileys only
          when you can't think of a way to phrase a humorous observation
          such that a well-meaning, intelligent reader would be sure to
          recognise it as humor without the smiley.)
From: oneil@cwis.unomaha.edu (Sharon O'Neil)
Subject: Re: Being Alone?
Organization: University of Nebraska at Omaha
Date: Sun, 15 Nov 1992 22:54:48 GMT

tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:

>In article <1992Nov14.105811.1400@jarvis.csri.toronto.edu> allisson@turing.toronto.edu (H. Allisson Roome) writes:
>>
>>Why, if that's when she's ready.  Maybe at that point she'll be older
>>and wiser and truely ready for a complete relationship - one that has
>>more to do with friendship, acceptance, and reality than the fiction
>>called romance which is not how things are but how we want them to be.

>Gosh, that sounds even more cynical than I am--is this allowed on 
>soc.singles?  Personally, I wouldn't call romance a fiction at all--
>indeed, romance is, in large part, a way of expressing acceptance and
>caring and no more fictional than any other avenue of communication.

I honestly believe -- and have been told I'm unusual for this belief -- that 
in a relationship, friendship should come before romance.  Personally, I've
*never* fallen head over heels in love with someone unless I was friends 
first.  Maybe it *is* a little cynical, but I just don't believe in love at
first sight, for myself anyway.

I grow into love.  I don't fall in love.

Of course, *your* mileage may vary.  I am not saying that people can't
fall in love at first sight.  It's just that I don't.  

It *is* frustrating for the men I date.  The last two relationships I had
were fairly serious and I know that both of the guys were in love with me 
before I was in love with them.  

Maybe it's because I look for a friend first, lover second.  

>Trygve   (Not that I'm knocking friendship, acceptance, and reality,
>          mind you--I'm rather fond of them.) 

People are different.  Life is weird that way.

Sharon 
oneil@cwis.unomaha.edu
From: diamond@acpub.duke.edu (Elizabeth Abrams)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: What is attractive to women?
Date: 23 Nov 92 20:10:31 GMT
Organization: Duke University; Durham, N.C.

In article <lh25e4INN5u4@news.bbn.com> kgorman@bbn.com (Karen Gorman) writes:
>
>Or how about; "Hi, I'm Elizabeth Abrams.  Please call me Elizabeth."
>Direct and clear.  This way you can save all your "hostilities" for someone
>who truely derserves them.

I feel that someone who mangles names without prior permission *does*
truly deserve hostility.  (Not violence, understand, just hostility.)
I think saying, "Hi, my name's Elizabeth Abrams" IS pretty direct
and clear.  I've just told you what my name is, so why are you going
to assume that it's really something else?

>But you're forgetting, you are the one with the preference.  IMO, stating
>the rules in the beginning is the best and fairest way to proceed.

I really don't think that a preference for being called by one's 
name is all that unusual.  I suspect you have a preference for being
called "Karen", rather than "Lisa", "Jane", "Susan" or (for that matter)
"Robert".  Why might you expect someone to call you Karen, rather than
any of these other names?  Well, for one, because that's probably what
you told them your name was when you introduced yourself!  "Liz" is
no more my name than "Robert" is yours.

			 --Elizabeth Sullivan Maureen Abrams,
			   thank you VERY much.

diamond@acpub.duke.edu |   The soul may choose its own society and shut
Elizabeth S. Abrams    |   the door, but the body gets thrown into bed
		       |   with the damnedest people.  --Peter Beagle
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle)
Subject: Re: PRES DEBATE
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Mon, 16 Nov 1992 09:13:04 GMT

julie@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu (Julie Wright) writes:
>kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Me) writes:

>>Does that mean when someone suitable IS around to pamper you, 
>>you don't need maple syrup anymore?

>Is this a trick question?
Would you like it to be?

>Any true soul mate of mine would like maple syrup anyway.  
>So it graduates from a need to a shared passion.  

Ah, so people who just like to sip it idly by the fireplace on cold
winter nights as a prelude to shared passion don't qualify.

>>You have strange friends.
>They're the best kind!  
Oh, that's why you hang around this group.

>* loris, n.     Any of several small, nocturnal, arboreal primates of the *

I wonder if lorises like maple syrup?

-- 
"The psychology of the Orang-utan has been thoroughly described by
 scientists from their observations of the Sea-urchin.  Other facts
 have been gathered from the natives of Borneo and Sumatra who may have
 been talking about something else at the time."
 ...................Will Cuppy, _How to Tell Your Friends from the Apes_

-- 

Kiran Wagle                           <kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu>
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: jmwojtal@vela.acs.oakland.edu (Wojo)
Subject: These religious social activities
Organization: Oakland University, Rochester MI.
Date: Tue, 17 Nov 1992 02:21:01 GMT

It seems that my Mom found out about a Catholic mass party for all singles and
young adults.  I never been to one of these type of get togethers so I'm 
writing to you about advice.  What age would mostly show up?  I'm 24, and I'm
not interested in someone in her forties.  

Please mail or post if you have any advice.

Thanks


-- 
************************************************************************
Jeff Wojtalewicz (Wojo)  jmwojtal@vela.acs.oakland.edu
Oakland University		      Start Hacking
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From: dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Are you a Young Brain Transplant?
Date: 18 Nov 92 22:27:59 GMT
Reply-To: dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Distribution: na
Organization: Bolt Beranek and Newman Inc., Cambridge MA
NNTP-Posting-Host: bbn.com

In article <1992Nov18.220541.27513@cbfsb.cb.att.com> jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton) writes:
>In article <BxxFB1.1nI@rice.edu> mmzn@rice.edu (Mark Mazina) writes:
>>
>>    /
>>    |  obnoxious d(obnoxious)  =?   dawn  +  C
>>    /
> 
>2.1

I thought it was at least a 7.  Or am I just being easy because it had
my name in it?

Dawn

Joseph Campbell gave me hope and now I have been saved.
"Folk Song" by Bongwater
From: tps@jptcs.COM (Tim Sailer)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Who is Reading?
Date: 16 Nov 92 07:25:35 GMT
Reply-To: tps@jptcs.com
Organization: JPT Computer Solutions, Port Jeff Station, NY
X-Newsreader: TIN [version 1.1 PL6]


Just curious.. is anyone from Maine reading this group? Is there snow yet?
We left Abbott this morning (Sunday) and they said flurries... we drove
through a lot in Conn....

-- 
Tim Sailer
JPT Computer Solutions - SCO Sales/Consulting/Administration and Mangling
Port Jefferson Station, NY
(516) 331-9001
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: loosemore-sandra@cs.yale.edu (Sandra Loosemore)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Animals, animals, animals ?
Date: 18 Nov 1992 13:24:38 -0500
Organization: staff hacker @ Yale Haskell project
Distribution: na
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NNTP-Posting-Host: functor.systemsz.cs.yale.edu
In-reply-to: jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com's message of Wed, 18 Nov 1992 18:04:59 GMT

jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton) writes:

   >It takes a lot of hard work to train your monkey and sometimes when
   >you're alone, it's fun to spank it.

   I like to flog my dolphin.

Well, I like to rub my pussy.  Both of them, in fact -- and they're
especially grateful when I scratch under their chins.  (Purr!)

-Sandra (owned by Slinky and Nerfball the cats)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: dks@sr.com (Dave K. Sprow)
Subject: Re: How to increase the male sex drive ?
Reply-To: dks@srhqla.UUCP (Dave K. Sprow)
Organization: Silent Radio, Los Angeles
Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 21:28:07 GMT

Well, being an "older" male, I find my sex drive has a lot to do with
who my partner is.  I was in a relationship last year and *she* was
a bit concerned because she thought she had an abnormally high sex
drive.  Over-sexed was the term she used.  

Well, our chemistry together was such that it, uh, was not a problem.
After one 4-day weekend, she wasn't concerned about it anymore :-)

Seriously, I think sex drive has to do with a lot of things. Stress
levels, how good the quality of the relationship is, physical fitness,
nutrition, etc. And there are a number of both herbal and homeopathic
"sex aids".  I tried one once, I liked it ;-)

David S.
From: mjln_ltd@uhura.cc.rochester.edu (Mikeey Jean Lin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: finding a soulmate
Date: 21 Nov 92 04:22:33 GMT
Organization: University of Rochester - Rochester, New York

In <1992Nov20.160128.13449@panix.com> nancyw@panix.com (Nancy Weiner) writes:

>I am new here..second day or so ..so please forgive the format. Not sure I'm
>doing this right. 
>   Wondering here how many people can really talk to who they are dating..and 
>is that a criteria you use?   for me someone could be purple and green for all
>I care if I can really talk to them.
>   tired of meeting conventional guys who clam up all the time..so, is being
>able to tell anything to your s.o something other people look for?

	Hmmm... to put it as simply as possible.

Talking = Communicating = Understanding = Relationship = misc... (He he he)


	Communcating is the most important quality, but not the only quality
I look for. (eg LSBH - Long Straight Black Hair) Then there are many other
features that people look for. (your preferences may vary) Luckily, I've been 
able to get both of my main criterias for my SO. (and many more) 8-) It's
definitely important, for without communication, there is nothing of true
value in a relationship. (IMHO of course)

						    Mikeey
					mjln_ltd@uhura.cc.rochester.edu
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: What is attractive to women?
Organization: my opinions only
Date: Tue, 24 Nov 1992 00:39:25 GMT

In article <lh25e4INN5u4@news.bbn.com> kgorman@bbn.com (Karen Gorman) writes:
>In article <7297@news.duke.edu>, diamond@acpub.duke.edu (Elizabeth Abrams) writes:
>|> In article <lh1stdINN3gt@news.bbn.com> kgorman@bbn.com (Karen Gorman) writes:

>|> Not as such... but since I've just *introduced* myself as Elizabeth,
>|> it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to deduce that I want to be
>|> *called* Elizabeth.  If I wanted to be called Liz, I'd say, "Hi, I'm
>|> Liz Abrams."  Or "Hi, I'm Elizabeth Abrams.  Please call me Liz."
>
>Or how about; "Hi, I'm Elizabeth Abrams.  Please call me Elizabeth."
>Direct and clear.  This way you can save all your "hostilities" for someone
>who truely derserves them.
>
>|> If someone is "just trying to be friendly", why not ask me if I
>|> like to have my name shortened, and what I like to have it shortened
>|> to?
>
>But you're forgetting, you are the one with the preference.  IMO, stating
>the rules in the beginning is the best and fairest way to proceed.

There's a difference between being friendly and being overly familiar.
Using a diminutive of someone else's name without permission is
insulting (haven't we just had that thread?).  Using someone's first
name is friendly (in the US; it's considered overly familiar in Europe
unless you know the person very well).

>|> I'm a lot more impressed by friendliness when it shows some
>|> consideration.  Calling me "Liz" without asking sounds like phony
>|> familiarity... anyone unfamiliar enough with me to call me "Liz"
>|> isn't familiar enough with me to shorten my name in the first place.
>
>Make sure they understand this right from the introduction.

Anyone unfamiliar enough with her to call her "Liz" isn't familiar
enough to use her first name at all.  Beth, (I can call her that, she
signed email to me that way) have you tried correcting anyone who
called you Liz that your name is "Ms. Abrams"?  (I wonder how long
they'd take to catch on.)

Seth		sethb@fid.morgan.com
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: Question: How to increase the male sex drive ?
Organization: my opinions only
Date: Fri, 20 Nov 1992 18:32:32 GMT

In article <74522@apple.apple.COM> stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:

>I understand that extensive aerobic exercise in general (not just the 
>circulation-limiting kind) decreases sex drive.

Speak for yourself.

Unless you define "extensive" to be >> 2 hours on a Stairmaster (pulse
exceeding 100% of what the stupid formula says should be my maximum),
I find it increases my sex drive.

Seth (but then, so does everything else--I think it's the Hawthorne
effect)		sethb@fid.morgan.com
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: cjp8b@dayhoff.med.Virginia.EDU (Chris Penington)
Subject: Re: What to do, What to do?
Organization: University of Virginia
Date: Tue, 24 Nov 1992 01:08:24 GMT

In article <lgqensINNi1s@news.bbn.com> dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin) writes:
>
>Take all of your money out of your bank account.  Put the money in an
>envelope.  Send the money to me.  Let me run your life.  Got that?  
>Always follow my instructions, and no one will get hurt.
>
>Dawn
>

Dear Dawn,

I tried taking your advice, truly I did. I went to the bank, took all
of my money out of my account and put it all in a little packet. I put
the packet in the little slot in the front of this computer andthen I
tried to mail it to you. I tried and tried and tried. I have made
fifteen attempts to send this packet to you and it still sits in that
little slot mocking me. What do I do now? I really have to get this 75
cents to you somehow. Please help.

Yours,

	Clueless

-- 
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From: atienzam@newton.hartwick.edu
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: A thought
Date: 12 Nov 92 21:58:51 -0500
Organization: HARTWICK COLLEGE

	Sex is like playing bridge, if you don't have a good
partner, you better have a good hand....;)