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From: tjw@vm2.cis.pitt.edu
Newsgroups: alt.brother-jed
Subject: Re: The Sister Has Landed
Date: 8 Apr 92 16:41:59 GMT
Distribution: usa
Organization: University of Pittsburgh


>   "'It's unfortunate these kids are being subjected to this language,'
> said Karen Cholakian, telecommunications freshman, after Smock spoke
> of swallowing come.

I'd like to hear what sister SINdy knows about swallows.  Aren't they birds?

In any case, nobody was being SUBJECTED to anything unless the right reverend
SINster chained them down and MADE them listen!  HALLELUJAH BROTHER! (Sorry,
I get carried away).

Thanks for posting the article!  If anyone has any newspaper clippings of
the Jedster or Sister SINdy, I'd love to see them.

Terry "The Terryster" Wood
Newsgroups: alt.brother-jed
From: spinoza@next03wor.wam.umd.edu (Prince Lev of the Domovoi)
Subject: brother jed back at Umd anytime soon?
Organization: Workstations at Maryland, University of Maryland, College Park
Date: Sat, 11 Apr 1992 02:26:25 GMT



Is brother Jed coming back to Maryland anytime soon?
College PArk has been dull without him.
How I long to hear those magic words:


"FOOOOOOO_RRRRRRRRR_NIIIIIIIII_CAAAAAAAAAAA_TORRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!


PLease tell me Jedster and the Roller Derby Queen'll be here soon!




ciao,

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From: jflint@csws11.ic.sunysb.edu (Jesse Flint)
Newsgroups: uiuc.general,alt.brother-jed
Subject: Re: Nazis routed from the quad, film at 10.
Keywords: fnord
Date: 5 Apr 92 22:49:26 GMT
Expires: Fri, 1 May 1992 04:00:00 GMT
Distribution: usa
Organization: State University of New York at Stony Brook

In article <1992Apr3.054513.24353@ux1.cso.uiuc.edu> ffujita@s.psych.uiuc.edu (Frank Fujita) writes:
>
>dorner@pequod.cso.uiuc.edu (Steve Dorner) writes:
>     In other words, to hell with the misguided, stupid and
>     irresponsible.
>
>zell@ux1.cso.uiuc.edu (Joseph Zell(RotcMan)) writes:
>     The only problem with that is that when Armageddon comes, all
>     those frying will scream at us Christians for not letting them
>     know the truth.  Either way we don't win :)
>
>Steve presents a Darwinian argument, and Joseph responds with
>social responsibility statement and a happy face.
>
>I don't know how to interpret your statement Joseph.  However, I
>would extend my general philosophy "Label everything, prohibit
>nothing" to religion as well.  I would say that if the people to
>whom you are talking to really do not know about Jesus, then tell
>them.  If they have already heard about him from someone else,
>don't harass them.
       ^^^^^^^^^^^
       Unless they _deserve_ it. :-)
>
>Frank Fujita

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From: v123f2ea@ubvmsd.cc.buffalo.edu (Alissa)
Newsgroups: alt.brother-jed
Subject: You guys know about him too?
Date: 8 Apr 92 02:33:00 GMT
Organization: University at Buffalo
News-Software: VAX/VMS VNEWS 1.41

I have to say, it was pretty amusing to run across this bulletin
board.  I didn't realize that Jed was a national pasttime!  I last saw
him when I was a senior at Oberlin College, in Ohio some 5 years ago!
He had just added Mrs. Jed and Jed Jr. to his rothe S.

My fondest memories of Jed-mania were when we'd all gather in the
Bowl and play a game with him to win copies of his new book
(autographed, of course in typical Jed style....
		Turn or burn!
			-Brother Jed Smock)
And of course, there was the song to the tune of the theme of
The Beverly Hillbillies which told the legend of how he was saved in
Burger King!  He came around at least twice a year then, so we had many
parts of his story memorized, and he'd give us sentences to finish, like
how he used to listen to that evil.....


..............RRRROOOCKKK AND RRROOLLLLLLLLL!

Thanks for a trip down memory lane, folks!
Alissa at SUNY Buffalo
From: tjw@vm2.cis.pitt.edu
Newsgroups: alt.brother-jed
Subject: Re: Sighting...
Date: 7 Apr 92 16:35:02 GMT
Distribution: usa
Organization: University of Pittsburgh

In article <1992Apr6.234835.10475@henson.cc.wwu.edu>, n9043860@henson.cc.wwu.edu (Marcos) writes:
> I'm not sure if anyone's reported Everyone's Favorite Preacher's latest
> sighting yet, since I was unsubscribed for a while, BUT Brother Jed just
> paid us a visit here in Bellingham, WA.  A surprising number of people
> agreed with him, according to our school newspaper...Hmm...

What did the paper say?!?!  Enquiring Minds Need to Know!

Terry "Better Jed than Red (Skelton)" Wood
Newsgroups: alt.brother-jed
From: finn@convex.com (Tom Finn)
Subject: Re: brother jed back at Umd anytime soon?
Organization: CONVEX Computer Corporation, Richardson, Tx., USA
Date: Sat, 11 Apr 1992 19:38:10 GMT
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There's been a lot of "Could this have been Jed?" postings lately.  Perhaps
somebody still has the GIF's floating around and could re-post them?

tom
Newsgroups: alt.brother-jed
From: n9043860@henson.cc.wwu.edu (Marcos)
Subject: Sighting...
Organization: Western Washington University
Distribution: usa
Date: Mon, 6 Apr 1992 23:48:35 GMT

I'm not sure if anyone's reported Everyone's Favorite Preacher's latest
sighting yet, since I was unsubscribed for a while, BUT Brother Jed just
paid us a visit here in Bellingham, WA.  A surprising number of people
agreed with him, according to our school newspaper...Hmm...

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Newsgroups: alt.brother-jed
From: beowulf@wam.umd.edu (eighqmes)
Subject: Re: brother jed back at Umd anytime soon?
Organization: Royal Organization for Putting Things On Top of Other Things
Date: Sat, 11 Apr 1992 03:35:48 GMT

In article <1992Apr11.022625.15342@wam.umd.edu> spinoza@next03wor.wam.umd.edu (Prince Lev of the Domovoi) writes:
>
>
>Is brother Jed coming back to Maryland anytime soon?
>College PArk has been dull without him.
>

this is something i've wondered about for a while -- a
guy was here last spring (at Univ of MD) with his wife,
a few kids, a whole bunch of signs, a cross, and a 
pretty vocal attitude. i never did find out what his name
was, and i was curious -- could this have been The Jedster?

also, is there any sort of FAQ file on jed? address, general
description of him and his cohorts (physical, theological, 
psychological, etc) would be appreciated.

looking forward to an Afternoon With Jed...

beowulf@wam.umd.edu
(eighmqes)

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From: jodar@girtab.usc.edu (Nicholas Jodar)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Reading Signs (was Re: The Wall)
Date: 13 Apr 1992 07:51:29 -0700
Organization: University of Southern California, Los Angeles, CA
NNTP-Posting-Host: girtab.usc.edu
Summary: Let's play Tennis...!
Keywords: Signs

In article <1992Apr12.045446.7704@msuinfo.cl.msu.edu> robinsonm@clvax1.cl.msu.edu writes:

>>Doesen't ther come a time when one gets tired of beating his/her head against
>>The Wall, and the search just doesn't seem worth it anymore?

>Yes there does come such a time.  After two years of banging my 
>head against yon wall I have temporarily given up on searching 
>for that "perfect" relationship.  

If that's true, you'll find you have less stress in your
life.... :-)

>My question is twofold:

>   1) Is it possible for someone to be completely ignorant of the 
>fact that you are interested?  

Yes.  Some people (mostly men) are romantically blind.  They
don't know the 'cues' they're given.

>   2) Just what are the signs one should look for?  

It's a lot simpler than you think....

When you see (or meet) somebody you think is interesting, do the
following:

1) Say 'Hi' and smile.
2) If they smile back, they're at least friendship material.  If
   they don't respond, or they don't smile, don't bother.

If they think you're okay, then

3) Greet them in a friendly manner every time you see them.
4) Start playing 'romantic tennis.'

The rules for 'tennis' are simple:  You hit the ball, and if
they're playing, they'll hit it back.

THE SERVE:
Basically, anything you do which displays your preference in
spending time/energy on them instead of something else puts the
ball on their side of the net.

Examples:

-Talking with them
-Noticing things they do/say
-Walking with them to where they're going
-Doing things with them (Eating, riding bus, take a study break,...)
-Dropping hints of interest

ACES:
If you want to be considered in a romantic manner, you have to
show THEM that you're a romantic person.  There are many ways to
do this, putting them in the position of serving next.

Examples:

-Mild Flirting ('If we had music, I'd ask you to dance..!')
-Sharing of Feelings ('Geez, I was SO embarrassed...!')
-Declaring Attachment ('I'm glad you're back!  I missed you...')
-Asking Them Out ('Hey, we're going on a food run!  Wanna come?')
-Being There ('Hard day, huh?  Wanna take a walk under the stars?')

Of course, everybody has their own style.... :-)

>Of course, my problem could just be lack of confidence brought on 
>by innate shyness and two years of LJBF....

Innate shyness is a pain....  So is LJBF, but both can be
overcome if you don't let them stop you.  I'm a walking example.
Incredibly shy, and 15 years of LJBF.  I just got tired of
getting nowhere.  That's when I discovered the joys of Self
Confidence (tm).... :-)

>Random musings from...
>* Robinson (Unemployed holder of a M.S. degree in Comp. Sci.)
>Wipe that disgusted look off yer face!!! 8-)

I think my eyeballs are about to fall out of my head....

-Nick 

'My brain doesn't just look like mush, it IS mush....' >pLOp!< >pLOp!<

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From: willimsa@unix1.tcd.ie (Gavin Williams)
Newsgroups: alt.romance,soc.couples,soc.singles
Subject: Re: lying to oneself (was Re: Sanctity of relationships)
Date: 12 Apr 92 22:33:13 GMT
Distribution: world,soc
Organization: Trinity College, Dublin

In <1992Apr12.155119.6327@mks.com> fredw@mks.com (Fred Walter) writes:

>robd@cray.com (Robert Derrick) writes:

>	people and their bodies and their often incorrect body images

>Have you never run into women (or men) who think they are fat when
>they (by medical standards) are not fat ? Women with anex(damn, I forget
						      ^^^^^^^^^^^
It's called 'anorexia'


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From: v130qrub@ubvmsb.cc.buffalo.edu (TRICIA(ERNIE))
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: I need some ideas!
Date: 14 Apr 92 14:21:00 GMT
Article-I.D.: acsu.1992Apr14.132200.22931
Organization: University at Buffalo
News-Software: VAX/VMS VNEWS 1.41

Hello everyone!
    I have a question for you and I hope someone out there has some good 
ideas.
    I met a guy here on the NET about 2 weeks ago. He is a really nice guy,
and we seem to have a lot in common. The only problem with it is that he
lives a good distance away. I am in Buffalo, NY and he is in Charlottesville,
VA. 
    Well anyways, I want him to know that I am thinking about him up here.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
Thanks
Tricia
v130qrub@ubvmsb.cc.buffalo.edu 
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: tlode@isis.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Sanctity of relationships
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Distribution: usa
Date: Fri, 10 Apr 92 17:07:07 GMT

>In article <1992Apr9.153217.14011@cbnewse.cb.att.com> 
             hjanssen@cbnewse.cb.att.com (hank janssen) writes:

>So  you  also  don't  have  any  problem  if  i  would  take away your
>girlfriend/wife or whatever. You would not think anything off it.

The problem I have with this is that it sounds as if a man's girlfriend/
wife/etc., is his property rather than another human being.  I'd rather
that the woman I happened to be involved with was staying with me
because I was the one she had freely chosen to be with, rather than
because I'd managed to "protect" her from all other options.

It's interesting that the tendency to "protect" (aka isolate) one's
partner from others seems to be an almost universal trait of abusive
relationships.

Trygve
From: dan@mvaxcs1.cse.nau.edu (Dan McMichael)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Ed and Teresa  (Carp ????)
Date: 15 Apr 92 05:04:58 GMT
Originator: dan@mvaxcs1.cse.nau.edu

From article <1992Apr11.093743.10544@willamette.edu>, by ppinkard@willamette.edu (Patrice Pinkard):
> I think we should let Ed & Teresa work it out between the two of them.  What
> do you think?  It doesn't REALLY involve anyone other than E & T. 

I'd say all of this belongs in E-mail.

-dan
From: tjg01@thdhub.UUCP (Terry Gardner)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Fantasies
Date: 17 Apr 92 17:43:35 GMT
Organization: Glassworks

An odd one for fantasies...

In article <1992Apr2.231056.17842@msuinfo.cl.msu.edu> 21329KAD@MSU (Kim Dyer) writes:
>I would like to ask some of the other folks on the net ... particularly
>other females ... about your fantasies.  (Lets not get kinky here.)
>Not specifics, just general comments.
>
>Am *I* the only person who does NOT seem to have sexual fantasies
>about famous people of the opposite sex?  If I DO imagine seeing
>the sun come up with celebrity X, it is because we've been up all
>night talking foreign policy theories or something.

I have both. I have fantasised about meeting famous or significant
people from the past and present that were not sexually oriented.
Specifically, fantasies like hearing Liszt or Mozart play.

>
>Now ... I'm pretty sure that males buying Playboy are NOT thinking
>about "gee, I would love to discuss astrophysics with this person".

I just buy it for the articles... :-)

>Fantasies are perfectly healthy and normal ... I'm not knocking them.
>Am *I* the only person out here who comes up with things like Jaques
>Ives Cousteau when asked who they would like to be trapped in an
>elevator for two hours with?




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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: chu@hanauma.jpl.nasa.gov (Eugene Chu)
Subject: Re: Who cut the Cheese? the 70's file
Organization: SAR Systems Development & Processing, JPL
Date: Thu, 16 Apr 1992 06:48:31 GMT

In article <ddose.32@oregon.uoregon.edu> ddose@oregon.uoregon.edu (David C Dose) writes:
>What about these shows:
>
>"The Dukes of Hazzard"  I really liked Catherine Bach.
>
>"Room 222"  What was her name.. Karen Valentine?
>
>And that detective show with the parrot.
>
>"Hawaii 5-O"
>
>"Streets of San Francisco"
>
>"Nightstalker"
>
>"Barretta"
>
>"Mission Impossible"
>
>"Wild Kingdom"
>
>"Newhart"
>
>"Eight is Enough"
>
>"Columbo"
>
>"Nancy Drew"
>
>"Hart to Hart"
>
>"McCloud"
>
>David C. Dose             ddose@oregon.uoregon.edu                "The Doseman"

WKRP in Cincinatti:

	Wife:	"That's strange, Harold's never had seconds of...
		 MY coffee!"

	Harold:	"That's because YOUR coffee...STINKS!"

	Les:	"No parachute yet..."

	Fever:	"When the whole world is out to get you,
		 being paranoid is just a natural state of mind."

That had to be my absolutely favorite show from the 70's.  Still is.

eyc
From: afdenis@lims01.lerc.nasa.gov (Stephen Dennison)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Ed and Teresa  (Carp ????)
Date: 16 Apr 92 17:46:00 GMT
Article-I.D.: lims01.16APR199212463800
Organization: Ancient Souls Inc.
News-Software: VAX/VMS VNEWS 1.41

In article <16APR199210412762@lims02.lerc.nasa.gov>, aatresa@lims02.lerc.nasa.gov (Teresa Kline) writes...
>In article <3gzj2ln.tyger@netcom.com>, tyger@netcom.com (Kristen Kohlbecker) writes...
> 
>>Cutesy or not, the aforementioned byplay is IMHO better suited to ARC than 
>>here. I have to admit to a certain bewilderment, though. I have an SO, and 
>>he even reads this newsgroup, but we save the lovey-dovey stuff for email 
>>and quiet times alone. 

.. *my* style too, but `Different Strokes' and all that.

> 
>You're making some wild assumptions here.  #1 Ed is *not* my SO.  I've not 
>met him...I don't even have a picture of him yet (WHERE IS IT, ED???)  

She *does* have a blurry fax, but if it's *accurate*, Ed is an Ink Blot 
test. :-)


>So, there is no comparison to your situation, I don't think.
> 
>>I'm not sure that I'd *want* everyone sharing the experience as my 
>>relationship with my SO gets more serious. 

I'm not sure *I* have seen any `seriousness' between T and E yet, despite 
*MY* best efforts ! :-(

>>Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

Boy, I wish *I* had said this. :-)

> 
>There *are* aspects of our friendship that are carried on in e-mail.  But 
>if you can't flirt on alt.romance, what's the point?  Really,  I want to 
>know.  

Bad news, Teresa... brace yourself ...


*THERE* *IS* *NO* *POINT*?!?!?!?!?! :-) :-)

>So far, in the few months that I've been reading, there has been 
>very little "romance" here.  A lot of cheating, stealing, and lying, 

.. sounds like alt.politicians ...

>but is that really what romance is?  

..in *most* cases, yup ! :-(

>I must have misunderstood.

You're not alone, Teresa.

> 
>> 
>>Terry 
  ^^^^^

Oooooh... you're gonna hear about this ! *This* is kinda like calling *me* 
`Steve'... only she's *blond* so the repercussions are greater but harder 
to understand. :-)


>That's all right, I'm about to be a curmudgeon, too.  My name is Teresa.  

See ! Didn't I tell you ! :-)

>Please don't shorten it.  

I made that request of God... didn't work for *me* either ! :-)

>I don't mean to flame anyone in the above, either.  But, since we're 
>keeping it fairly light on the net, and we're not hurting anyone, unless 
>someone has some *real* objections that we can relate to, I think we'll 
>keep having some fun.

Works for me...

> 
>Isn't that what romance is all about?  

Not for *me* yet, but hope springs eternal... :-)

>If it's too much like work, why bother?

Well, if it *pays* good ... :-)

-- Stephen 

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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ppinkard@willamette.edu (Patrice Pinkard)
Subject: Re: Ed and Teresa  (Carp ????)
Keywords: Let's mind our own business
Organization: Willamette University, Salem, OR
Date: Sat, 11 Apr 1992 09:37:43 GMT

I think we should let Ed & Teresa work it out between the two of them.  What
do you think?  It doesn't REALLY involve anyone other than E & T. 



Xref: sparky alt.romance:6770 soc.singles:10700 soc.couples:1963
From: michele@sail.tymnet.com (Michele Fabrega)
Newsgroups: alt.romance,soc.singles,soc.couples
Subject: Re: Sanctity of relationships
Date: 8 Apr 92 18:41:11 GMT
Followup-To: alt.romance
Organization: British Telecom North America

In article <1992Apr8.162859.17414@ultra.com>, stcroix@ultra.com (Bill St. Croix) writes:
|> In article <1992Apr7.174958.28007@cbfsb.cb.att.com> sms@cbnewsf.cb.att.com (steven.m.stein) writes:
|> >...
|> ...
|> Personally, I wouldn't want someone to persue my SO.  If she left me for

I wouldn't encourage it, but I would only want to be in a relationship w/ someone
who WANTED to stay w/ me, regardless of who was pursuing him.  There are ALWAYS
going to be temptations.

|> someone else, I'd be hurt much more than if she just said things weren't
|> working out and that she wanted to take time off from dating.  It's not
|> easy to be told that 'you aren't as good as this other person', but it does

I don't look at it this way.  Sure, it would hurt, but the statement 'you aren't
as good as this other person' is simply an opinion.  Everyone has his/her own
criteria; there is no such objective thing as being better or worse than another
person.

|> and could happen.  Lastly, I don't know if she would have left me on her
|> own.  But I'd rather her be able to decide on her onw that it was me that
|> she didn't like (or that we weren't 'compatible' or whatever) than to have
|> someone else helping her with the decision and having alterior motives.

So you think your SO has no mind of his/her own?  ...that s/he is that easily
coerced into doing something that s/he doesn't REALLY want to do (something
that s/he wouldn't normally do on his/her own)?  Yikes!  I would NOT want to
be involved w/ someone who made decisions based on other people's help.
Yes, most people do not make decisions in a vacuum, but any decision a person
makes is his/her own, not the sum of the inputs from others.

If my relationship were such that my SO could be "wooed" by someone else, I would
be glad that it ended then.  I'd rather find out sooner than later.

|> What about the choice of the other person that is involved with the
|> person you are wooing??  I guess their feelings don't matter.  Seems mighty

BUT, this person HAS NO CHOICE IN THE MATTER.  It is their SO's decision to stay
or to go.

|> selfish and inhuman, to me.

But why should I deny myself a potential lifelong partner just to spare someone
else's feelings?  It seems too selfless and unfair to ME!

Just my opinions, obviously.