From: nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci)
Subject: Re: Commitment--The C-word?
Organization: AT&T
Date: Tue, 25 Aug 1992 20:16:37 GMT

In article <1992Aug25.154006.23144@walter.bellcore.com> Lego writes:
>In article <1992Aug25.151319.13394@cbnewsd.cb.att.com> nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci) writes:
>>Maybe a good deal of women YOU meet get that way - but considering that the
>>only common denominator in each encounter is YOU, could it somehow
>>be possible that their reaction to you is because of some action on
>>YOUR part?  Do you perchance give these women the impression that they
>>just aren't perfect enough?  Just asking.
>
>Given that a common denominator with Nancy and Lana who have similar views
>of independence is their prior bad experience with a relationship, is it
>possible that women that haven't gone through that same experience may still
>wish to compromise more than they should? Is it possible that there is more
>such women than women like Nancy and Lana? Is it even remotely conceivable
>that one has a greater chance of meeting such women than Nancy or Lana? Just
>asking.

Here we go again, as could be predicted:  Point/Counterpoint.

Must we draw pictures?  Yes.  There are women who are willing to make the
self-sacrifice of becoming whatever a man wants them to become (ie, haircolor,
clothing style, interests, etc.) and they do so because they feel that people
will probably like them if they do that.  They were probably raised that way.
In some books that tendancy is referred to as "codependency."  (Hey!  That
rhymes!!)  And certain women get over that yes, because of an experience or
two they learn from and I bet the reason men don't encounter them every day is
because they don't hang out in places just for the sake of being encountered.
They're busy going about life in whatever way they chose to.  With exceptions
of course.

And there are exceptions to THAT, too, and I bet if you think real hard
Walter you'll find them and post about them to refute what anybody 
(especially ME, has anyone else noticed that?  I must remind him of someone
he doesn't like or something) else thinks so you can get your $.02 up
on your screen.  Doesn't it look nice?  But there are exceptions to that
too because sometimes you DO post good valid points, but of course that's
just MY opinion and ... 
>
>I presume you are not speaking for all women.

Bingo.  But there are exceptions to that because sometimes my opinions
ARE shared by ALL women, except for the exceptions but I'll let Walter
tell us what they all are.  He likes that.  With certain exceptions.
>
>>I don't know about you, but I don't have a hard time weeding the happy
>>peaceful content people from the stoic advice-givers in this group.  It's
>>VERY easy.  One group speaks from hypothetic conclusions; the other from life.
>
>Actually most people can do something like that. Unfortunately for many, the
>latter group is the group they agree with. The former are the ones that
>disagree with them. Have you been following the election news lately?

No, I prefer real-life.  With certain exceptions of course.  :-)

-Nance
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