From: anon-1608@twwells.com (M's)
Subject: Re: The LIGHTFIXTURE STORY
Date: Sun, 24 Jan 1993 06:56:53 GMT
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Erin Sez:
>THE LIGHTFIXTURE STORY:
>
>I don't remember this happening because I was only 6 months old, but I heard
>it told over and over for years (by my MOTHER) as a ***JOKE***...

Hi Erin I have been reading for a while.  I am anon because ( I agree with Rick
and I am "out" as a survivor... of child abuse with my friends, but 1-- my 
parents will stop paying my tuition if they knew, I think, and 2-- I am 
afraid of the guy who abused me) anyway... (oh, my friend here says, "do you
want to put in sexually (abused you)?  Oh yeah, that is what I meant.)

Okay.  I just had to respond because I have the same experience with my parents
!! It is "THE FALLING OUT OF YOUR CRIB STORY."  I have no memories before age
5,  but, sure enough, I heard it over and over over and over for years, what
a *** JOKE** it was indeed.  I do not know the real version, but basically, 
the "story" is that I fell out of my crib and that explains the scars on my 
nose and under it, above my lip.  There's a fascinating part about the 
story where the "doctor" just didn't think I needed stitches.  Well, I get the
"I don't believe it" feeling pretty intense on this one.  But, the really weird
thing is, I would go along with the story.  I would say, "oh yeah, I wanted to
escape from my crib, so I piled my toys up on the inside to climb out, but when
I got to the edge I was lacking one important skill: balance!  (Ha ha ha!) Why 
did I feel compelled to convince myself of this story?  How COULD  I KNOW...
I really, really don't have any memories before five!! Ugh!  I just don't 
think there ever was a doctor, or an accident... my mother has a clear record
of throwing glassware and my dad used to throw my brother into the walls .... 
so it's just amazing how abuse can be normalized by this culture, or hidden, in
little family *** jokes*** like these.
> 
>For years afterwards my mother would tell her version of the LIGHTFIXTURE STORY
>as a ***JOKE***, "oh, wasn't it silly of Mama to get so upset just because
>howard left the baby hanging from the LIGHTFIXTURE. Of course he knew she would
>hang on."
> 
>Pretty sick story, huh? Especially when you consider that my mother has claimed
>for years that I abused her. (Hey, you know how vicious those little kids can
>be!).

My parents always tell me "they got what they deserved," namely, such terrible
children that caused them to go insane.  (My mom had a nervous breakdown when
I was in fifth grade)  Gosh, writing this makes it sound like a bigger deal
than I always think it is!  Anyway, I just felt very validated by your 
post, and the LIGHTFIXTURE STORY.  Thanks. 

M's 



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