From: mukasa@panix.com (Michael K Mukasa)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.african.american
Subject: Re: Why we go for non-black women:
Date: 4 Jan 93 20:31:18 GMT
Organization: Panix, NYC

In <1993Jan1.155419.25716@csus.edu> chaneysa@nextnet.csus.edu (Stephen A Chaney) writes:



>I just had the joy of having a black woman lecture me, sister to
>brother, so to speak, about my girlfriend, who is caucasian, just
>before Christmas. She takes it upon herself, as if she were in Jungle
>Fever the movie!, to lecture me about black pride. She went on about
>how wrong it is to do this to black women and that there are plenty of
>black women who are looking for brothers now.

>I refused to back down about my girlfriend (new girlfriend at that),
>and we ended up in an argument about whether or not I am an Oreo.
>going to take out those of us who date interracially, need a lobotomy
>and you need to read up on Fascism. And you need to stay the hell away
>from me and the rest of us.


>I do not prefer black women because:
>1) They have the disposition of a hornet. I have never seen anything
>more stressful as an angry black woman (but hey, they get it from some
>of the men, too - but not me). 
>2) They disrespect black men and I see it every day. They are
>unforgiving - one stutter or one blunder and they're all over you,
>making fun of you.
>3) They come up with this lame-ass excuse about "Well, can't you be
>tough and take it?" rather than laying off of you.
>4) They have no, absolutely NO tolerance for individual thought. As a
>person who KNEW Anita Hill was a liar, I saw just how tolerant and
>open-minded they were when I tried to be NICE and non-argumentative,
>and just present the facts on the issue. Black women are the foremost
>and fiercest enemies of black conservatives, and are the worst in the
>world at the art of getting brothers "ostracized." 

>#4: I'll be damned if I'm going to date you if you make fun of my
>    hobbies. I don't make fun of your funny African clothes or
>    hairdos, or your long nails or whatever. I don't expect you to
>    go crazy on me because I'm learning Japanese (which I am). Black
>    women are infamous for being intolerant of those things. Not only


>Well, as one who takes on the big, the bad, and the bold (and the ugly),
>I'm telling you, kiss my ass. You black women are not worth the time


>I want to see
>you strung up the same way we string up those abusive black men. 


>    =====================================================================
>    --Steve Chaney: Founder, Borg Operating Space Systems, Revision 2.5--
>    USENET Warlord / IRC Channel Owner / Accounts WorldWide / Home Login!
>		       (Meaning: More time for this ?)
>                    The B.O.S.S. does not speak for CSUS. 


From the above excerts of your post I see a man with very little
self-esteme left, trying to find people like himself to help bolster it
(the low self-esteeme).
Arseholes are arseholes no matter what sex, race or creed.  The things you
say those women did to you would put them in my arsehole category. 
Since you grew up in a country/culture where everything black was negative
(and still is e.g Rodney King), you have been fighting for esteeme from
the begining.  It seems to me that after taking shit from white society
all your life, taking shit from some women was too much to handle and you
started hating instead.  You sought out and found passivity, and now are
on a crusade against yourself and your people.  There is a need for
positive black role models EVERYWHERE (They seem to die everytime they
show themselves) but your attitude is a dangerous one for people to
follow.  Learn to roll with the punches and let words roll off you like
water on a duck's back.  I do not see how you can expect anyone to
date/marry the women you described, yet there are brothers who have found
their "perfect" sisters to be with.  Maybe you should talk to them and
find out what they went through.  Hate is a problem and if you are not
part of the solution then you are part of the problem.
I am not a psycologist or claim to be one, I gust try and call them as I
see them.  Don't burn your bridges.  Remember it is divide and..........

Kiggundu
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