From: jcarroll@bach.udel.edu (James Carroll)
Subject: Re: Okay...okay...here is an official demuffin...
Organization: University of Delaware Alumni
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 1993 06:59:25 GMT

In article <1992Dec31.172755.24815@news.cs.brandeis.edu> shogan@binah.cc.brandeis.edu writes:
>HI!
>

Hello there!

>Oooops, I mean Hi.  I realize that I am doing this when some people 
>are away.  Not on purpose, you understand...just coincidence...really.
>I am kinda shy, though...I thought I would peek in and say that I've
>been lurking since June, or thereabouts, oh yeah, this is also the 
>first time I've read the list down to zero postings!

Congratulations, it is a feat I've rarely accomplished.

>(Hi Ciaran...I did it...all bi myself =-).  Thanks for the encouragement!).
>I've enjoyed reading all of you, and even sent mail to some...
>
><GENERALIZATION ON>  This was the first place I found, where there were
>people who were talking about topics in which I had no experience.
>You let me camp out and watch you play and fight and make up.  You let 
>me see you as people who questioned, people who sometimes were and 
>sometimes weren't comfortable with who you are.<GENERALIZATION OFF>
>
>I've needed to know that you were there.  Even if I didn't have the 
>courage to post myself yet, other people asked the questions for me.  
>You gave me the courage to actually acknowledge that: I *might* be bi, 
>I *think* I'm bi, I *am* bi.  You gave me the courage to start coming 
>out to people: friends, aunts, parents, then sibs.  I wrote some 
>private e-mail to people.  I joined a mailing list.  I sent mail to 
>ECBN.  I actually met some other bi people =-0 !  I am starting my
>network.  Thanks!
>

Good Luck!  I hope it works out and lasts for a long time.
As far as motivation, this group gave me the courage to join Queer Campus.
And look what happened: I met Jim and Zoe and told them about the group
(and then they told two friends, and then they told two friends...)  I
also met many other fabulous people and have (occasionally) felt better
about myself than I have in long time.

>It was thanks to you that I got to overhear my (extremely, very,etc.  
>conservative) brother say to my mother that I have better taste in 
>women than in men <giggle>.
>
>Oh, hugs would be welcome...if you are so inclined...
>

Very much inclined...my first muffin of the New Year!

*SQUEEZE* *HUGS* 

And I send a round of hugs to any muffins I missed while I was spending
the holidays with my (getting even more by the day) conservative family. 
I could have used moral support during Christmas dinner when my Uncle
starting talking about CO2 (the amendment, not the gas :-) ), "special
rights", etc.  It was very frustrating and painful to my tongue (I bit it
hard and for a long time).  I finally had to change the subject when he
'joked', "What's next?  Special parking spots?  I can see it now -- those
two symbols joined together in a pink box in spaces next to the
handicapped parking spots -- in front of the store, no less!"  My cousins'
reactions were even less encouraging: when CO2 was explained to them they
empathatically expressed their pleasure that it passed.  It seems Rush is
god to my family.  There went any hopes of coming out to them.  :-(

Well, this was supposed to be a cheery post to welcome new posters, but it
seems to have turned into a (rare) outpouring of my frustration/confusion.
But, hey, if not here, where else can I go?  *hugs* 


>Sue (Banimpire)
>S.M. Hogan   | IHP/Heller School/Rm. G17/Brandeis University
>617/736-3951 | Waltham, MA 02254-9110     [Add Disclaimer Here]
>    /-------------------------------------------------------------\
>  /|\      A simple formula for avoiding confusion is to never    /|\ 
><<<*>>>         let yourself get befuddled by an unclear        <<<*>>>
>  \|/        understanding of what you're mixed up about. |-D     \|/
>    \-------------------------------------------------------------/
>   When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge. --> Tuli Kupferberg

-James

P.S.  Joe and Katrina are coming!  Yay!
      Kay is coming!  Yay!
      Anyone else?  [hint, hint]


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