From: rhlu@ux5.lbl.gov (richard lu)
Subject: Re: Call For New FAQ
Reply-To: rhlu@ux5.lbl.gov (richard lu)
Organization: Lawrence Berkeley Laboratory
Distribution: usa
Date: Mon, 17 Aug 1992 19:38:50 GMT



Clare writes:

>did anyone notice that AA boys wear white pants a lot when
>  they're little   

Yeah, now that ya mention it...I _do_ seem to recall that I proudly sported
a pair of snazzy white pants when I was around 5 or 6.  Had a whole bunch
of ladybugs printed all over them too.  God I loved those pants!  It just
occurred to me that you can only get away with wearing funky clothes when
you're little...try it when you're older and you'll get put away.  :)

>Luckily my parents are clueless as to
>  why they were invited

Ha ha ha!  Bless their hearts!  :D

>>>Scene 3:
>>
>>> 1)  The religious interested AAF will appear very concerned
>>>  about your spiritual life.  She'll invite you to the youth
>>>   group meetings at her church.
>>
>>This was one _weird_ deal.  Being the secular dude that I am, I
>>admit that I was only there b/c of the free sushi.  :P  I ate so
>>much I _could not_ run away.  Met alot of cool people, though.
>
>  This happens to AAFs too.  I was getting invited to Chinese
>    Bible Study by three or four different dudes.  I'd always ask
>      "What are they serving?"  They always had some food, but I
>liked the spaghetti dinners best because they had Parmesan cheese
>and my dad never let me "waste" Parmesan cheese (we were allowed
>3 shakes).  Of course my parents only let me go if my trusty
>Chinese-American friend Julie did the driving.  Sushi???  Where
>did you get sushi?

Only 3 shakes!?  8|  Man, you _know_ it's time to move outta the
house when you're only allowed 3 shakes!  :)  Personally (here comes
my contribution to the Cheese-thread) I "lightly" sprinkle my pizza
with Parmesan until all the toppings are buried underneath.  This
creates quite a stir at the table, but the contented look on my face
is the best response.  Oh, and tell your pop not to worry-  I assure
you that none of it was "wasted."   8)

As for the sushi, the gracious folks of AACF (Asian American Christian
Fellowship) provided the delicious eats.  Although they didn't quite help
me find God, the eating experience came pretty close to Nirvana.  ;)

>  Well I bugged my husband about Mexican food all the time, even though
>  we're on the East Coast.  He knows that the best way to cheer me up
>    is to get me a burrito.  My son's (18-months) is on this burrito
>      kick where he won't eat anything else.  He yells "Bee-oh" in between
> "Moo" (milk) all day long.

Hee hee hee  :D                                                       
When the little one starts growing teeth, you can introduce him to nachos!

>>>Scene 7:
>>>
>>>  1)  The unbalanced AAF will pronounce that her therapist has
>>>    decided that she get out more.  Therefore as part of her
>>>      therapy, you, designated harmless nice AA boy, will help
>>>      her to the road of recovery littered with the relics of
>>>      ye-many white men.
>>>   2)  Run away screaming for the hills.
>>
>>I hear Saskatchuan (sp?) is a haven for those on the lam from such
>>women.  Maybe that's why my bud in Regina is always asking me to visit?  :)
>
>  This reminds me of a distant cousin of mine.  Her favorite line is
>    "Hi I'm Germaine and I work for the CIA.  My therapist says that
>      I should be assertive and straightforward."  I have many Germaine
> the Germ stories to tell...
	
	[story about the Germ not reprinted...it is too scary to show again]


Whew...I think the key word here is "distant," as in distant cousin.  Maybe
she really _does_ work for the CIA...I'd feel _much_ better knowing our
national security was in the caring hands of the Germ.  Uhhhhh uhhhh.

>  Oh yes, that reminds me of the time I was the "light-bulb" for some
>  girl playing tennis with some guy.  All I did was run after the ball.

Ahhh!  I have the feeling I'm not the only one who uses a Montgomery Ward
wooden racket.  Happy happy joy joy!   :)

>But beware guys:  If after the third or fourth date there is still
>  a light-bulb tagging along...  I had this roomate from Taiwan who
>    had a friend who was always tagging along.  Anyway this sort of
> old-fashioned
>      nerdy med student with horn-rim glasses used to ask her out.  She
>was the type who felt that it was better to go on a date with someone
>she didn't like than to stay home alone.  So her friend was always tagging
>along.  They used to laugh and talk about the guy calling him
>"shiao(3) pan(4) chiu(2)" (little fat ball).  But they went to all
>the expensive Chinese restaurants.  They were really into getting those
>free meals.  In fact they asked me to come along to run up the bill.
>I said I didn't feel like it and they thought I was stupid.
>They used to go dancing after the meal and guess who did the dancing
>and who sat on the sidelines?  The two girls danced and "shaio(3)pan(4)chiu(2)
>"
>sat on the sidelines and ordered drinks for them.  One day, I think
>the guy was getting upset with my roomate for bringing her friend along
>all the time.  And it looked like he might call off the dates.  So
>my roommate told me that we were going to (all three of us) fix a
>dinner party for John (the guy).  I thought it was pretty hypocritical,
>but we all went out and bought a lot of food, and then my roommate and
>her friend made a nice dinner.  That seemed to appease John and the
>threesome started going out again.  That was until a white guy came
>along and asked my roommate out.  Suddenly I was left taking all the
>calls and explaining how my roommate was not available anymore.  John
>was very angry and hurt.

>sigh<  This story made me feel pretty boo.  I find I can best avoid this
situation by going dutch.  Sure, there are occasions in which I'd be happy
to treat, but more often than not, I find most people are comfortable w/
the idea of sharing the cost of a date.  It may be just my own experience,
but I find AsAm's go dutch with me without a word to be said.  On the other
hand, girls born (and raised for most of their youth) in Asia kinda expect
the guy to live up to the "man = bread-winner" ideology.  This is OK with
me...but after a few outings, I simply can't afford it anymore (I usually
sense this when I open the wallet and instead of the green stuff, all I pull
out are the ESL (Emergency Student Loan) stubs).  At this point, the girl
has always been understanding...and we start sharing the costs.  I guess
I've been lucky, compared to John.  It still makes me mad, tho, that there are
people who will treat guys like John like a convenience.  And then brag  
about it (re: your former roomie).  >sigh<
But, this is digressing away from scaa, since this isn't really an "asian"
problem, but one that exists everywhere.  Sorry for drifting...

On to the next post!   :)

-rich  d:)

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