From: isc30350@nusunix3.nus.sg (LOW SUET CHENG)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: It hurts like hell
Date: 6 Sep 92 14:29:11 GMT
Organization: National University of Singapore

so@cobol.cs.psu.edu (Nicol C So) writes:
: It hurts like hell!

I know how it feels, 'coz I'm there now too. .
: 
: For the last couple of days I've not been able to do any useful working,
: all because of a relationship which has been over for some time.  I talked
: and talked with friends trying to relieve the pain that's hurting me deep
: inside my heart.  My friends keep telling me that it's over, and I should
: just move forward.  "Yes, I know," I said, "but the pain is very real."
: 

That's what I've been told too. But at the moment, my mind's convinced
that I do need to move on with life. It's just my heart that still needs
convincing. And sometimes it just hurts so much that you feel like you
really can't carry on. But as long as I survive that day, I encourage
myself by telling myself if you can get through 1 bad day, you can get
through the rest of the bad days. .r
: Years back, when I read about Maslow's pyramid of human needs, I thought
: "Lucky that although human beings have needs, there are something that could
: satisfy them.  How terrible it would be if a man can crave for something
: that doesn't even exist!"  I stopped thinking about it, because the mere
: possibility of the situation terrifies me.
: 
: Now I know that it is not just a possibility, it actually occurs.  When
: a relationship is broken, people have changed, you know a dream has vanished
: and the good old days are gone.  But when every little thing in life
: reminds you of a past that cease to exist, and when you keep hoping for
: the impossible, life is just plain miserable.
: 
I know what you mean. My relationship progressed to the point whereby my
ex-RP(?) was actually telling me things that we'll do together in
future. Until he went back to his native country for 1 month, he came
back and informed me that it was all over. Imagine having dreams and
having someone whom you've missed very much while he's back in his
native country, come back and sort of tell you,"Hey! Wake up, the dream
is over." My life was completely shattered. But I'm slowly picking up
the pieces. t
: God, if you are listening out there, will you deliever me from this desperate
: situation, will you?

It'w not easy for anyone. It hasn't been easy for me either. In my case,
he had said that we can still be friends. I've tried to do, be his
friend. But that hasn't been too successful either. It's because he's
still not too sure how to treat me yet. Sometimes he's really nice to
me, but sometimes he's really nasty to me. The nasty treatment really
gets me down. So finally I realized it's time that I stop letting him
walk all over me. So I try to tell him when he calls that he's not sure
how to treat me as a friend yet, and that he should only get back to me
when he can really treat me as a friend. But what happens? Before I'm
even through, he hangs up on me.

So now the only thing I really want him to do is to really leave me
alone if he can't treat me as a friend. It's hard enough as it is for me
to pick up the pieces of my life without him hindering me as well. .e
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