From: hackbod@xanth.CS.ORST.EDU (Dianne Hackborn)
Newsgroups: alt.transgendered
Subject: Sex and Therapists (was Re: Tough questions.)
Date: 15 Nov 92 23:51:35 GMT
Organization: Buried on the floor somewhere.
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One book that I would highly recommend for a broader view of "What
Is A Transsexual" is:

"The Uninvited Dilemma"  by Kim Elizabeth Stuart
ISBN: 1-55552-013-8
Published by:
Metamporphous Press
P.O. Box 10616
Portland, OR 97210-0616

[Yep, right here in little 'ol Oregon. :)]

I got my copy through IFGE.

One very interesting quote (from page 43):
"Among the male-to-female transsexuals I interviewed, eighty-seven
percent told me they had some form of sexual arousal when they dressed
in female clothing, at least at some point in their lives.  Others
continued to have sexual stimulation until they started taking
estrogenic hormones."

scg@mentor.cc.purdue.edu (Kelly) writes:
>>>Unfortuantely, the psychiatric establishment often makes you do so if
>>>you want do anything about it. :(
>
>>I haven't really encountered that.  I first started seeing a
>>psychologist while I was home this summer, and I told her up front
>>that the main reason I was seeing her was because that's what you
>>need to do to get approval for hormones, etc.  She never made me feel
>>like I had anthing to prove and allowed to me talk freely about all
>>of the doubts and questions I had.  [And don't get the wrong
>>impression about my saying that I was mostly seeing her to get
>>approval -- I had a LOT of doubts and questions. :)]
>
>I'm tempted to take this tack when I go in for counseling (Nov.
>24th)....  at this point I have pretty much accepted the fact that I
>am TS and nearly need to determine now what I am going to do about it.

I don't want to give the impression that this was any "plan" that I
had to make her believe I am TS.  I had decided that telling my
therapist the complete truth was _the_ most important thing, both just
in case there was some Major Thing that I was over-looking and so that
she would actually be able to help me.  It just so happened that what
I told her _was_ the truth. :)  [At least that was my initial reason
for seeing her.  There turned out to be a lot of other good reasons to
see her. :)]

>>Actually, when I first started seeing her I told her I was planning
>>on transitioning during Spring break... then we started talking about
>>doing it at Christmas break.  However, I realized in a little while
>>that it would just be too soon and told her that I would rather wait
>>until spring.  She replied that that was fine, but if I later decided
>>to wait until summer, "we would have to have a _serious_ talk." :)
>
>I want to transition soon (the target I had was May of 1993), but my
>wife is insisting on a gradual process... so it might be a few years
>before I can.

"Gradual" all depends on your perspective. :)  I don't know if I'm
going slow or fast - I'll be transitioning almost exactly one year
after I was first able to tell someone about myself...  which seems kind
of fast.  On the other hand, I spent many many years before that calling
myself a "latent transsexual" [don't ask. :)] and admitting that I'll
probably "have to do something at some point", but being unable to
imagine myself ever actually doing this...  At any rate, I'm just
going at the speed I'm comfortable with.

>>Darn money...  But one day, I promise, I will own a corset. ;)
>
>Ooooh, don't tempt me.  :)

Ahhhh... but you can always fantasize... :)

>>>Oh well.  I just had to reply because I felt such a connection to
>>>Dianne I couldn't let it go by unsaid.  Long lost sister, maybe?
>>>*grin*
>
>>Perhaps, sis. :)  *hug*
>
>You too.  *hugs*  Too bad you're too far away for real ones. :(

Yeah, the Fundamental Problem with the net. :/  *hug*

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