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From: jholtgra@afit.af.mil (Jeremy C. Holtgrave)
Subject: Re: fantasies 
Organization: Air Force Institute of Technology
Date: Sat, 29 Aug 1992 20:33:16 GMT

In article <1992Aug17.141626.25092@walter.cray.com> nelson@eastrg1.cray.com (Christine Nelson) writes:
>okay...
>
>what are some of your favourite fantasies?  (ie. unusual places 
>for making love, particular scenarios, etc...)
>
>c
>because everyone is always looking for 
>new ideas

While in Colorado last March I first heard the phrase, "Gondola sex".
Sounded interesting to me!
From: mmb@po.CWRU.Edu (Melina M. Barreca)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: It hurts like hell
Date: 4 Sep 92 19:28:50 GMT
Reply-To: mmb@po.CWRU.Edu (Melina M. Barreca)
Organization: Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, OH (USA)
NNTP-Posting-Host: slc12.ins.cwru.edu


In a previous article, so@cobol.cs.psu.edu (Nicol C So) says:

>It hurts like hell!
>
>For the last couple of days I've not been able to do any useful working,
>all because of a relationship which has been over for some time.  I talked
>and talked with friends trying to relieve the pain that's hurting me deep
>inside my heart.  My friends keep telling me that it's over, and I should
>just move forward.  "Yes, I know," I said, "but the pain is very real."
>
>Years back, when I read about Maslow's pyramid of human needs, I thought
>"Lucky that although human beings have needs, there are something that could
>satisfy them.  How terrible it would be if a man can crave for something
>that doesn't even exist!"  I stopped thinking about it, because the mere
>possibility of the situation terrifies me.
>
>Now I know that it is not just a possibility, it actually occurs.  When
>a relationship is broken, people have changed, you know a dream has vanished
>and the good old days are gone.  But when every little thing in life
>reminds you of a past that cease to exist, and when you keep hoping for
>the impossible, life is just plain miserable.
>
>God, if you are listening out there, will you deliever me from this desperate
>situation, will you?
>

Part of me wants to tell you to cheer up, but the other part is feeling
pretty much the same as you.

I recently had to make a major decision about a relationship that has
been a major part of my life for the past two years.  It's sad when
anything ends(except pain).  Now I'm going through even more Hell
because of the decision I've made.  Not only have I lost what was once
a beautiful thing(and although there are times that I am quite bitter
about it, there are things I'll never be able to forget and don't want to),
I have also lost an entire group of friends to boot.  I was just subjected
today to a "subtle hit" from the parties involved, and my feelings were
mixed.  Part of me wanted to cry because I knew that that part of my life
has painfully closed, yet part of me wished that there would be an ounce
of dignity that I could receive considering all that I had gone through.

It does hurt like Hell.  
There are times when I know better.  I know all about the psychological
ramifications and such, but I'm only human and I break.  It takes a lot
to break me and for the past few months, I felt myself breaking apart.

I know that I have to pick up the pieces now.  I have to reassemble them
into what I want to be, and with the help of God and my friends, maybe
the glue will stick a little longer.  :)


-- 
You say my eyes are crazy eyes
Sometimes they are and so are you
And if you wonder, what I would do, I would do anything if I could
You know I would...
Newsgroups: alt.romance,alt.romance.chat
From: chrisc@debra.dgbt.doc.ca (Chris Camfield)
Subject: Cats (was Re: The Shadowette....)
Organization: Communications Research Centre, Ottawa, Canada
Date: Wed, 2 Sep 1992 18:14:52 GMT

In article <1992Aug31.190118.23258@odin.corp.sgi.com> lana@magenta.corp.sgi.com (Lana Mountford) writes:
>In article <1992Aug27.203242.1@sscl.uwo.ca>, carl@sscl.uwo.ca (Carl Kaufmann) writes:
>|> The Shadowette has challenged me to prove that cats are indeed more romantic
>|> than dogs.  To that end I would appreciate any help you and our fellow 
>|> net.felines could muster.  TIA
>|> 
>
>Why, what could possibly be more romantic than a soft purr in your lap? 
>What is more romantic than the feel of *soft* fur against your cheek, or
>the sight of a sleek animal stretching languidly in a pool of sunlight?
>What about a soft nuzzle under the chin, with a corresponding "chirp" to
>let you know that you are indeed appreciated?  What more proof is needed?
>:-)

Doesn't it depend on the cat?  My cat is a wonderful, beautiful animal
who also an absolute beast!  The only time he'll rub up against your
legs is when he wants you to feed him.  (And if that doesn't work, he
nips, claws, and eventually bites...)  You can barely hear him purr,
when he does!  (Have to check under the chin to see!)

Apparently as a kitten all the other cats slept on top of him (he was
at the bottom of the pile).  Any cat psychoanalysts out there? *smirk*

Hm, I finally seem to have come out of the closet as an alt.romance
reader.  Not a very exciting post, but maybe I'll reveal some deep
dark secrets another day *grin*

-- 
"Would you mind it if I had it all?  I'll take it when it comes" (CH)
  __  __     __      __
 /   /_/ /  /_/ /\  /_/ /|/  aka Chris Camfield (chrisc@debra.dgbt.doc.ca)
/_/ / / /_ / / /_/ / / / /   Play Akropolis! Telnet to 143.229.1.27 6666
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ccla@marlin.jcu.edu.au (Lee Askew)
Subject: Birthday Present
Organization: James Cook University
Date: Sun, 23 Aug 92 23:00:36 GMT

Hi,
Do any of you alt.romancers have any good ideas for a very romantic
birthday present.

I will be taking my SO out to her favourite resturant, but i'm stuck for
a remantic present.

Any ideas would be muchly appreciated.

Thanks Lee.
From: 01ksdavis@bsu-ucs.uucp
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Advice, consensus sought
Date: 4 Sep 92 04:49:57 GMT


	It has been a long time since my last posting.

		(Yes, indeed it was back when a popular thread shared by many
		 in this newsgroup was the "Romantic Songs Discussion list")

	Now I am posting for help.  I always thought I would NEVER NEVER EVER
post for help (no offense intended) from you people because of the stereotype
of people who ask for help.  However much I may fit this stereotype is up to
anyone to decide.

	Herein lies my problem:

		I had a really bad break-up with my last serious girlfriend who
happened to be two years younger than I.  She dumped me for a brain-dead foot-
ball player.

	Time passed, and here, two years later, on the same campus, in the same
chemistry class, is my ex-girlfriend.

	Over the summer I had read in the paper how she got an all-expense paid
scholarship to another university, but here she is.  We talked a little bit
(another one of my friends was present, who is of the talkative type).

	During the time of our "talk" she had told me that she had went to my
old dorm for my phone number (it just happens to be the current dorm I am
in now.)   Once she obtained this, she said she called but I was never there.
This checks out as my answering machine went on the fritz that night.

	Also, after our talk she gave me her phone number.  I haven't called her
yet, but I did sit next to her in class today.

	What should I do?  Part of me wants to run away, as she has hurt me
(emotionally) really bad before.  Yet, another part of me wants things as they
were before I am not sure if I got this last part here worded right.

	BTW-I didn't do much today during chemistry class. . .  Much note-taking
or much of anything. . .  


	Help me.  Please.

	Basically, I think what I am looking for here is a general consensus. In
other, more simpler terms-how many of you think I should avoid her and how many
of you think I should call her up and have some sort of relationship with her?


	IF you do respond, please don't ask me if I still love her.  I don't
really know...  Love is a powerful word, and she was the last person I was truly
in love with, but ...

	I have already asked some of my friends (actually just the female ones-
all of the guys I hang out iwht are generally as clueless about women as I am)
 and so far, I haven't gotten a response.  Actually, I did get a response from 
one, and basically since she omitted everything about this same topic, I think
she wants me to make this decision for myself.

	I should.  Normally I don't have any problem making decisions, but this
is quite different.  This is not normal.

	Please help me.



		Living in confusion,

			Kyle
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: cfar@lambda.msfc.nasa.gov (Carol Farquhar)
Subject: Re: LJBF again
Organization: NASA/MSFC
Date: Tue, 1 Sep 1992 18:19:25 GMT

afdenis@lims02.lerc.nasa.gov (Stephen Dennison) writes:


>	"Some people live their dreams, some people close their eyes.
>	 Some people's destiny... passes by"

>					"I'll Be Over You"   -- Toto

What happened to your imagination?  Can't you think of your own
lyrics?    :-)

Carol

-- 
Carol Farquhar-New Technolgy,Inc    = "The degree of a peoples civilization is
Huntsville, AL                      =  reflected in its attitude towards 
cfar@lambda.msfc.nasa.gov           =  animals."
Opinionated ravings are all mine!   
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: john@engr.latech.edu (John Orr)
Subject: LDR
Organization: Louisiana Tech University
Date: Thu, 27 Aug 1992 22:23:48 GMT

I can sympathize with those who have been posting letters about the woes of 
long distance love.  Let me tell you about it:

  Rebekah and I met in October of '90 when I was running lights for a 
Christian rock singer named Greg Volz.  She was at that time the Director of 
Student Activities at Louisiana College, a Baptist college in Pineville, 
LA.  I live in Ruston, LA, about 100 miles away.  We saw each other at least 
once a week, usually twice, and talked virtually every night for a couple of 
hours.  I knew the night I met her, she was the woman I would marry one day.

  That was almost two years ago, and lots of things have happened, including 
an engagement that we broke off.  We're still dating, I still love her and I 
know that she loves me. But now she lives in Hattiesburg, MS, about 240 
miles away from me.  We still talk on the phone every night, but our visits 
are down to once a week if we're lucky.  I still know that one day I will 
marry her, but until then... ah, it's a _long_ way from here to there.

   One thing that this LDR has taught me is that there is something very 
precious in time spent together.  We are always more aware of how little 
time we will have together now than we were when we lived in the same city. 
Love is precious and should be attended to as such.  It is not something 
that should be left to those unwilling to pay its price.

  Gosh, I sure do miss Rebekah.  I wonder if she's home from work yet??


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From: jmwise@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Ms. Johanna Wise)
Subject: Re: Vacation..all i ever wanted...
Cc: jmwise
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Sun, 23 Aug 1992 22:00:06 GMT

Most romantic place?

I have always thought Greece, but 
I am going to London in about 12 weeks and
that may change my opinion :-) .

j.



-- 
Johanna M. Wise                         VMS: jmwise@gold.ucs.indiana.edu
Music is a life-long love affair.      NeXT: jmwise@cherokee.ucs.indiana.edu
                                       Unix: jmwise@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu
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From: bbohac@nyx.cs.du.edu (bbohac)
Subject: Re: Love is EVERYTHING!!!
X-Disclaimer: Nyx is a public access Unix system run by the University
	of Denver for the Denver community.  The University has neither
	control over nor responsibility for the opinions of users.
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix at U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Fri, 28 Aug 92 23:33:47 GMT

In article <3465@ra.nrl.navy.mil> feirtag@i5120b.nrl.navy.mil (Fred Feirtag) writes:
>In article <Btn7t9.M9q@news.cso.uiuc.edu>, fippen@ux2.cso.uiuc.edu (John W. Fippen - Invoice) writes:
>|>                                                  Men generally exploit women in 
>|> the short term simply because women let them!
>|>  
>
>Uh huh.  And night time is when the sun shines, and day time is when it's
>all dark and you can't see anything.  Right.  I'm tired of paying for
>slaves I've never owned and mistresses I've never had.  That statement
>is insulting.  SPEAK FOR YOURSELF.
>
>-- 
>
>Fred Feirtag                     | "He did a good job cleaning up the place,
>Gizmonic Research Lab, Code 5120 |  But his bosses didn't like him,
>Washington, DC  20375            |  So they shot him into space."
>feirtag@wave.nrl.navy.mil        |
>(202) 404 - 8502                 |     (intro to Mystery Science Theatre 3000)



I think he meant in general, and I know he meant not to insult anyone,
specifically or generally.

btb (call me cipher)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: jmwise@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Ms. Johanna Wise)
Subject: Re: Wedding ceremony music suggestions?
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Sun, 23 Aug 1992 22:25:17 GMT

In article <1992Aug17.034950.8388@news.ysu.edu> ae498@yfn.ysu.edu (Dawn Bott) writes:
>
>In a previous article, ac220@cleveland.Freenet.Edu (Rich Szabo) says:
>
>>Anyone have some suggestions for good wedding ceremony music?
>>Thanks!
>>Rich Szabo
>> 
>
>I don't know how old you are..but either way, if you can avoid it
>steer clear of old 70s and 80s love ballads..You said you are getting
>married in the Catholic Church, so depending on how progressive the
>church is you might not be able to play them anyway *whew* =)
>
>If you can, a string quartet hired from a Uni's music department
>would be wonderful.  I saw this at a wedding i was at recently
>and it was absolutely fabulous.
>
hey call me!!!!!
I'm a cellist, and  here at the IU school of music are thousands of
people who would LOVE to make a few pennies doing this!!!!!
I am in bloomington, IN. tel 812-857-7964. rates negotiable.

and this is the YOO HOO to anyone who needs music for a wedding!!!!
J!

>Good Luck! =)
>
>Dawn
>
>-- 
>"To you, Baldrick, the renaissance was just something that
> happened to other people, wasn't it?"
>                       
>                            -- Black Adder --


-- 
Johanna M. Wise                         VMS: jmwise@gold.ucs.indiana.edu
Music is a life-long love affair.      NeXT: jmwise@cherokee.ucs.indiana.edu
                                       Unix: jmwise@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Life in hell...
From: dayrton@eagle.wesleyan.edu
Date: 3 Sep 92 14:06:26 EDT
Organization: Wesleyan University

In article <chil.715511125@sfu.ca>, chil@fraser.sfu.ca (Keith Lim) writes:


> "Adults lie because they've built entire lives on sham and illusion,
>  which they try to maintain by kidding themselves and everyone around them."
 
Ohhh!! So _that's_ why my life is often so miserable!   I suppose that it also
explains why I chose to be a film major....    $-)


Newsgroups: alt.romance,alt.romance.chat
From: rip@sequent.com (Paul T Taylor)
Subject: Re: Part Two of "Dryads' Dailiness"
Keywords: Nymphette, Nympho
Organization: Sequent Computer Systems Inc.
Date: Wed, 2 Sep 92 07:11:43 GMT

In article <BtvqIF.Gz5@bunyip.cc.uq.oz.au> coates@newton.physics.uq.oz.au (Tony Coates) writes:
>In article <1992Sep1.002635.11945@pony.Ingres.COM>, jlane@Ingres.COM (Judi Lane) writes:
>|>     Thanks, Paul! *alittlehug'cuzI'mstillalittleshyforbein'new* 8^)
>|>     I'm glad to see that not every guy here on ARC has his brain
>|>     wasting away in the dank recesses of cerebral gutters!!  (Read
>|>     into this what will, o guilty parties... we all know what those
>|>     plain brown paper packages on _your_ doorsteps are... and they
>|>     ain't from Avon!!)
>|>
>|>     Oh, yeah... the above-mentioned lashing of the guilty does NOT
>|>     include you, my sweet TiggerVictor.  *hug hug* 8^)
>|>
>|>
>|>     Judi
>|>     The Official Dryad of the RFA
>|>     (justwhenIfinishmy.sigIprobablywon'twantitanymorenuts)
>
>Judi, Judi, Judi!  Am I to be accused of possessing dank recesses?  Gee,
>how was I to know forsee that 'Nymph' would turn into 'Nympho', in the
>hands of other (not mentioning any names ...).  As for brown paper

No need.  I gladly take the blame for that!  I mean it takes a
warped, twisted, sick mind to think up stuff like that... the world
needs more warped, twisted, sick minds.

>packages, I think that *such* magazines are offensive to women, at least
>the ones that I think you were referring to!

You mean those smut mags? Or Vanity Fair, and Cosmo?  Or even Better
Homes, which assumes that men have no interest in how the house looks
or what to serve for dinner.  Don't you think mags like that are
degrating to men?


rip
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: A Piece of Advice
From: dayrton@eagle.wesleyan.edu
Date: 3 Sep 92 14:04:36 EDT
Organization: Wesleyan University

In article <chil.715511125@sfu.ca>, chil@fraser.sfu.ca (Keith Lim) writes:
> cadesjar@undergrad.math.waterloo.edu (Curtis Desjardins) writes:
> 
>>Granted, those three words can change the outlook two people can have on
>>their relationship, and yes, SOMETIMES people are not emotionally ready
>>for that kind of change, but more often than not the relationship grows
>>into something special, whether that be as best friends or as lovers.
>                                             ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Out of curiosity, I'd like to know whether you feel the two ("best friends"
> and "lovers") are mutually exclusive. Is it not possible for a person to
> be both?

I for one have had lovers that were also dear friends, dear friends that were
not my lover, and lovers that weren't my friend at all.



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From: bbohac@nyx.cs.du.edu (bbohac)
Subject: Re: re: looking for help (LOVE)
X-Disclaimer: Nyx is a public access Unix system run by the University
	of Denver for the Denver community.  The University has neither
	control over nor responsibility for the opinions of users.
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix at U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Thu, 3 Sep 92 04:02:07 GMT

In article <1992Sep2.164153.1@sscvx1.ssc.gov> dcormell@sscvx1.ssc.gov writes:
>I looked and looked for someone to love me {just as I am w/o changing},
>and much to my surprise, when I just gave up looking and got involved
>in MY life, (:) bowling Wednesay nights I enjoyed, Church Sunday Mornings,
>and a happy hour once a month with friends from work.....(drum roll plez)
>I found the most wonderful man in the world, and now we've been married for
>3 (yes THREE) years.  Don't look, do things you like and they will find YOU!
>
>hugs to all in alt.romance
>debbie
>
>



What she doesn't mention is how long we will have to wait once we
stop "over-looking" or "trying-too-hard" or however it is phrazed.
I say, if you just give up and accept your lot you will suffer much
less agony.  Oh you may not get as much joy as others, but who is
to say you would have found someone anyway?

btb (call me cipher)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: chil@fraser.sfu.ca (Keith Lim)
Subject: Re: A Piece of Advice
Keywords: and a warning
Organization: Simon Fraser University, Burnaby, B.C., Canada
Date: Thu, 3 Sep 1992 09:05:25 GMT

cadesjar@undergrad.math.waterloo.edu (Curtis Desjardins) writes:

>Granted, those three words can change the outlook two people can have on
>their relationship, and yes, SOMETIMES people are not emotionally ready
>for that kind of change, but more often than not the relationship grows
>into something special, whether that be as best friends or as lovers.
                                            ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Out of curiosity, I'd like to know whether you feel the two ("best friends"
and "lovers") are mutually exclusive. Is it not possible for a person to
be both?

-- 
Keith_Lim@sfu.ca   Simon Fraser University, Burnaby B.C., V5A 1S6, Canada
Forum (Cog Sci); Senate; CDSU; ASC. ...but all opinions are my own only.

"Adults lie because they've built entire lives on sham and illusion,
 which they try to maintain by kidding themselves and everyone around them."
                                             --Matt Groening, "Life in Hell"
Newsgroups: alt.romance,alt.romance.chat
From: jlane@Ingres.COM (Judi Lane)
Subject: Re: Part Two of "Dryads' Dailiness"
Keywords: Nymphette, Nympho
Reply-To: jlane@Ingres.COM (Judi Lane)
Organization: Ask Computer Systems Inc., Ingres Division, Alameda CA 94501
Date: 2 Sep 92 20:44:07 GMT

In article <Btyovn.578@mentor.cc.purdue.edu> epperson@pop.stat.purdue.edu (Mary Epperson) writes:
>In article <1992Sep2.000223.28028@sequent.com> rip@sequent.com (Paul T Taylor) writes:
>>>>>Um ... er ... well, yes, we sort of did hijack you title a bit, didn't
>>>>>we (he says, trying to get 'rip' to take at least half of the blame).
>>>>
>>>>Hey!  Don't drag my pristine reputation into this!  You can take all
>>>>this yourself!      ^^^^^^^^
>>>
>>>       "Pristine"?  Maybe for a toxic waste dump.  8^)
>>
>>Hey!  Don't believe anything Mary tells you!  Mine is the strength of
>>10 because my heart of pure!
>>rip(the pure, pure what we don't know...)
>
>Hey!!!  Ripster...leave me outta this...strength of 10, yes, how else
>would you pick up the Blademan and throw him in Lake Gaston?  *grin*
>
>Pure?  You'll have to see for yourself, Judi!!

   (The OD is now frantically faxing questions to Dr. Ruth on the
   best methods for dealing with men like rip. 8^)  "Gee, it sure
   is warm over here!!"  She reaches for her cherry coke, but spills
   it *all over* the fax machine, thereby causing a company-wide
   short circuit in the


>Mary
>*running for cover*
>
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From: enigma@halcyon.com (Matt Luders)
Subject: Cats and dogs (was Re: The Shadowette....)
Organization: The 23:00 News and Mail Service
Date: Sat, 29 Aug 1992 18:48:58 GMT

"The gingham dog went 'bow-wow-wow!'
 And the calico cat replied 'Mee-ow!'
 The air was littered, an hour or so,
 With bits of gingham and calico."

  -- Eugene Field, The Duel


Omnia vincit Amor
Matt :-)
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