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From: pw@panix.com (Paul Wallich)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Hark tis it the wind.
Date: 27 Aug 92 23:54:22 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: Trivializers R Us

In article <1992Aug27.152445.9256@walter.cray.com> cfg@cray.com (Cindy Glass) writes:

>"Cindy's Cat House" and "Jim's House of Campers" (both on one interstate
>exit) - now, there is a tourist trap, if I've ever heard of one! :)  Of 
>course, there will have to be signs and gimmicks at *LEAST* 3 states/provinces
>away!!  (ie. "Wall Drug", "Ruby Falls", "House on The Rock", "Corn Palace",
>"House of Mud".  Every state has one - what's yours?!?!?)
>
>Unfortunately James, I don't want to be near *ANY* interstate - nor do 
>I want a tourist trap.

Don't mean to butt in here, but Cindy, why don't you want a tourist
trap? Do you have any idea how many more tourists there would be,
overrunning everything, if it weren't for tourist traps?

Of course, if you were under the impression that James was talking
about one of those Hav-A-Hart kinds, I can see you point.

If you come to the East Village, it's particularly important
to watch out for the leg-hold traplines, as the locals don't
check them all that frequently (albeit many's the squatter
would go hungry if it weren't for fricasseed eurotrash...)

paul      don't live there
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From: greg@netcom.com (Greg Bullough)
Subject: Re: The Chocolate Urgies (was: Re: Finding Romantic Partners (long))
Date: Thu, 27 Aug 92 02:03:06 GMT
Organization: Netcom - Online Communication Services  (408 241-9760 guest) 

In article <1992Aug26.172906.25719@uwm.edu> markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark) writes:
>In article <ewillims.714843551@unix1.tcd.ie> ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
>>	Weird as it sounds, chocolate sauce on meat is an original use
>>for chocolate. The Aztecs used to use it as a sauce and regarded it as
>> delicacy. That's what I call chocoholism.....my kind of people! (*GRIN*)
>
>There must be something hormonal about women and chocolate.

It's always nice to have that to fall back on....  :-)
 
Greg
From: mlb@CISCO.COM (Marcia Bednarcyk)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Desperation (was Re: Commitment--The C-word?)
Date: 31 Aug 92 23:19:21 GMT

In article <4981@news.duke.edu>, diamond@acpub.duke.edu (Elizabeth Abrams) writes:
|> doing exactly what's described above; interpreting interest as 'desperation'
|> and pursuing
|> only people weren't acting interested.  This, as you might guess, is not 
|> terribly effective,
|> and yet, as irrational as it  seems, I'm doing it myself and I've observed 
|> many of my friends doing
|> this too.

I've had this happen to me, too. The root of it seemed to be "This person
likes *me*, and I *know* I'm a horrible person. Therefore, there is something
wrong with them for liking me, so I don't want to be with them."

Sure, it looks silly when it's written down like that, but I know a lot of
people who don't like themselves, and can't understand how anyone else could
like them, either. So those who do like them are considered "desperate".

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you fall in love."
From: dbj@cs.washington.edu (Dave Johnson)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Can you accept criticism ?
Date: 4 Sep 92 16:07:00 GMT
Article-I.D.: beaver.1992Sep4.160700.21659
Organization: Computer Science & Engineering, U. of Washington, Seattle

In article <1992Sep4.083724.26703@zooid.guild.org> Ross Ridge <ross@zooid.guild.org> writes:
>ross@zooid.guild.org (Ross Ridge) writes:
>
>fredw@mks.com (Fred Walter) writes:
>
>>This reminds me of something else - who can take criticism (constructive
>>criticism that is) without getting upset ?
>
>No one I've noticed.
>
>>An even better question, how does one give constructive criticism
>>without it coming across as a personal attack ?
>
>I don't worry about how it comes across, I just try be honest. 
>
>							Ross Ridge
>
>btw, you shouldn't put a space before a question mark (?) at the
>end of a sentence.

I believe that what Ross meant to say here was: Excuse me, Fred,
but I believe you accidentally put a space before the question
mark at the end of your sentence.  I know you wouldn't have done
that on purpose, since that would be incorrect grammar, and I'm
really sorry to have to point it out, but I felt you might want
to correct it, since it was obviously an accident.

Or perhaps: Geez, Fred, only complete and utter morons are stupid
enough to put spaces before their question marks.
-- 
  Dave Johnson

"You're not too smart, are you?  I like that in a man."
    --Kathleen Turner in Body Heat
From: lana@magenta.corp.sgi.com (Lana Mountford)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Desperation (was Re: Commitment--The C-word?)
Date: 1 Sep 92 20:32:38 GMT
Organization: Silicon Graphics, Inc.

In article <1992Sep1.175115.20378@news.acns.nwu.edu>, drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
|> I guess I differentiate between needing and wanting. I can want my lover's
|> attention like mad, but still not need it. Just because something is not
|> needed does not make it unimportant. 

I tend to feel the same way.  "Need" implies (to me, anyway) a *lack* of
something.  I'd rather feel that I'm spending time with someone (and he
with me) because we *want* to be together, and that we add something to
each others lives.

|> I don't need a mate to feel like my
|> life is worthwhile but the mate in my life is very important to me. I like
|> to reduce my needs to a minimum, gives me that much more time to enjoy the
|> things that I want.

I'd go a step further here.  I reduce my needs by fulfilling them in such a 
way that I don't worry too much about most things. That allows me the energy 
to truly enjoy the added benefits that not worrying offers, the opportunity 
to "enjoy the things I want."  We may be saying the same thing, but I tend 
to think of it a bit differently.  :-)

|> I am leery of men who "need" to have a girlfriend, any girlfriend and value
|> men who want to be with me. So is this some artificial distinction or does
|> this make sense to anyone else.

Makes perfect sense to me, but what did you expect?  :-)  What you described,
"men who 'need' to have a girlfriend, any girlfriend," is desperation at its
finest(worst?).  Desperation just isn't that attractive to me (what was that
line from "Broadcast News"?  "Wouldn't it be wonderful if insecurity and
desperation were attractive?" or something like that.  My answer: no, I don't
think so.) 

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From: rock@medch.b17a.ingr.com (Chris Hudson)
Subject: Re: Bill Ralston
Reply-To: rock@medch.b17a.ingr.com
Organization: Intergraph Corporation, Huntsville, AL.
Date: Wed, 26 Aug 1992 21:39:36 GMT

In article <1992Aug26.113033.7289@jarvis.csri.toronto.edu>, allisson@turing.toronto.edu (H. Allisson Roome) writes:

|> Angelwing - Oh, the bannana was about a good 7-8 inches long, gentle
|> curve, and inch - inch and a half in diameter.  It was older too - so I had
|> to be careful not to have it fall apart on me too soon.

You didn't have to say that!  Now my imagination is going to run amok!

Chris
From: buick@belay (Patrick D. Buick)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Las Vegas
Date: 29 Aug 92 23:44:45 GMT
Organization: Belay Enterprises Inc. Calgary, Alberta, Canada

In article <kiran.714741611@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu> kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:
>cfg@cray.com (Cindy Glass) writes:
>>I don't consider Tahoe "the woods".  I consider Northern Michigan, Northern
>>Wisconsin, Northern Minnesota,  Northern Georgia, somewhere into the reaches 
>>of Ontario or Manitoba - "the woods".  Where people only 'usually' go in the 
>
>How bout northern Washington, Montana, somewhere with mountains?
>
>>summer - camp, hike, fish, maybe water ski, sometimes to kick back - watch a 
>>sunset over a lake  - listen to the night sounds.
>
>>Cindy (*sigh* dreaming again!)
>
>You do that quite well...
>-- 
>Kiran Wagle     <kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu>     (812) 335-0420

Geez, you guys are welcome to visit my "cabin" in desolate,
foothills-based Calgary... !!  :-)

I s'pose if you head on up toward Banff in the mountains and the
park, it is quite romantic.  I like backpacking up a trail so that
it is only the two of you and striking camp early so that you can
sit on a ridge and watch the sunset.... wander back to camp, have
a nice hot mug of cocoa... and see what happens naturally...

[Faraway look... ponder... sigh.. deep sigh..]

Patrick
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From: kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle)
Subject: Re: 'E' Tickets
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Sun, 23 Aug 1992 21:48:33 GMT

aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius) writes:

>Urban legend has it that Space Mountain used to have a slightly
>different track layout, minus those stupid lights (so it was even
>darker), and was therefore a *lot* scarier.

Which Space Mountain?  I've neard that the older of the two (FL?) is
considerably more exciting that the newer one.

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P.O.Box 2083 Bloomington IN 47402-2083                  (812) 335-0420
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark)
Subject: Love Immediately Upon the First Encounter
Organization: Computing Services Division, University of Wisconsin - Milwaukee
Date: Thu, 3 Sep 1992 12:01:39 GMT

In <1992Sep2.182348.14407@CERIS.Purdue.EDU> dheisler@CERIS.Purdue.EDU (Dave Heisler) writes:
>     I think there is a definite "chemistry" or "click"
>     between two special people that can be sensed, sort of
>     a confident, easy going type of feeling. (when your one
>     of them)

In article <ewillims.715512049@unix1.tcd.ie> ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams) writes:
>	It can also be sensed by their friends too, often before 
>they are aware of it themselves.

Hmm.  Have your friends been giving you hints recently? :)

>	Ah! Now that's a different question!  Chemistry at first 
>sight is not always *love* at first sight...
>An intense attraction to someone else that is overwhelming initially
>can often burn out when you realise you don't have anything to talk
>about when the passion dies!

More often, the passion just keeps getting more and more intense.  You pass
through phases, and each one redefines the bond and resurrects passion anew.
Good stories, good fantasies, good writing, and even visual stimuli can also
revive the passion.

What's really nice too is when you have a foundation of a large range of
common interests (oh like, say, historical linguistics or other such
intellectual fare) -- things to talk about in bed after making love, and a
large range of common values.

I'm sure you must have some recent experience that reaffirms the belief in
both love at first sight and chemistry at first sight.  Some gorgeous hunk
who immediately caught your eye the first time you encountered him and with
whom you found yourself devoting ever increasing time with engaging in
conversational, intellectual and passionate intercourse, perhaps?
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle)
Subject: Re: Bananas
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Wed, 26 Aug 1992 11:50:32 GMT

pw@panix.com (Paul Wallich) writes:
>Of course, on rethinking the situation, I've realized that such
>a kind, gentle, tolerant person as Max would never be jealous.
>Nevermind.

You forgot "sweet"... and "cute" too.

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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: CENG51@maccvm.corp.mot.com (Craig Witkowski)
Subject: Re: 78 Bananas (Re: Chinese single woman seeks caucasian single men)
Organization: Motorola
Date: 25 Aug 1992 13:29:44 CDT

------------------------- Original Article -------------------------
In article <1m_nn0#.aahz@netcom.com> aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius) writes:
>
>Don't worry.  Just deep-throat a banana, and you'll stand out *anywhere*
>you go.

Hey, I resemble that remark!  Just 'cause I can do neat party tricks doesn't
mean that I stand out or get offers of attention; in fact, that particular
trick tends to intimidate men (or maybe it's the fact I'm sensible and don't
take myself too seriously -- it can't be my looks).

Allisson

>                         --- Aahz (the *other* Dan Bernstein)
>"I 'got a life'.  Now what?"

Share it with others?


What can you do with a fruit *cock*tail?

allisson@turing.toronto.edu (new address)       H. Allisson Roome
"Teach only love, and learn that love is yours and you are love."(A.C.I.M/p.92)

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From: ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams)
Subject: Re: Powerful forces of nature conspire
Organization: Trinity College, Dublin
Date: Wed, 2 Sep 1992 15:19:25 GMT

In <4083@moscom.UUCP> wjb@moscom.UUCP (Bill de Beaubien) writes:

>Emma Williams (ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie) wrote:
>: 	12 inches,huh?  Wow, that could be a great snowman! :>
>I thought size wasn't important? :-)  

	Well, try making a decent sized snowman with only a couple 
of inches of snow on the ground.  It would only be a little 
snow gnome!  Whereas  a foot of snow would be just enough to make
a really great snowman!   (What else did you think I meant??)
	(*GRIN*)
From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Las Vegas
Date: 28 Aug 92 01:22:03 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <71743@apple.Apple.COM> stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
|Stef                 Cum deliramus,
|stef@apple.com       ea numina significamus             --"Profuit ignaris"
                      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

I don't know what this means but it sure sounds like see explain in explicit
detail.

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From: catcher@netcom.com (Paul W. Francisco)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Cooling things off... Finale
Date: 26 Aug 92 19:23:15 GMT
Organization: The Vampyre's Lair

Once again, posted anonymously.  

==========
Well, since there have been no recent responses to my question/
request for advice, I just wanted to thank everyone for your help
and tell you how I'm planning to handle the situation.

I was away on vacation for three weeks and just came back yesterday.
So far I haven't bumped into Seth, but I will be seeing him tomorrow
at a department social event, almost certainly.  He sent me some
Email in the past few weeks, and I did not reply.  There will be no
for him to be alone with me, so I am not really worried about having
a confrontation or a deep conversation.  My strategy will be to try
to have as little contact as possible with him, and only bring up
the fact that I feel uncomfortable around him if he starts asking
me why I have become so distant.  Perhaps the fact that I have not
answered his E-mail has helped him to realize that I do not want
to have close contact with him.  I only want to be blunt if I have
to be (due to the emotional fragilty I mentioned before).

I'm also planning to speak with a counselor here at my school to
get yet another perspective.

I tend to be a very direct person, but bluntness would be a big
mistake in this situation, I think.  I will still be looking for
any replies if anyone has one at this late date :-)  Thanks
again!

-Sarah (NOT)

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Paul W. Francisco        	    fills the emptiness inside...
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From: intrigue@milton.u.washington.edu (Angelwing)
Subject: Re: Kiran Wagle
Organization: University of Washington, Seattle
Date: Mon, 31 Aug 1992 15:53:38 GMT

In article <kiran.715076280@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu> kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:
>wjb@moscom.UUCP (Bill de Beaubien) writes:
>
>>I do wonder why Prakash attacked Kiran's posting
>>style publicly rather than via e-mail, though.
>
>Yes, this puzzles me too.  I can't imagine why anyone would waste
>their time getting all riled up about postings to the net when they
>could be finding some sweet woman to take on a picnic.

Could it be that he just craved a bit of attention, guys?  Has anyone
noticed that there hasn't been a proverbial peep out of him since he
attacked Kiran?  I noticed that on Friday.  Seems he just wanted his name
bandied about - didn't care if it was positive or not.  I guess sometimes
attention is like publicity ..... to paraphrase, it doesn't matter what
you say about me, just spell my name right.

But for the record, *I* think Prakash is a jerk.

Angelwing - Don't you?

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From: cfg@cray.com (Cindy Glass)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: polite American young men (was Re: Various ramblings...)
Date: 27 Aug 92 05:03:23 GMT
Article-I.D.: walter.1992Aug27.000324.25779
Organization: Cray Research, Inc.

Fred Walter (fredw@mks.com) writes:
>dy@depsych.Gwinnett.COM (Dr. Yes) writes:
>>the normal middle class overinhibition which is typical of highly socialized
>>and polite American young men
>
>"normal ... typical .... polite American young men"
>
>Is the normal middle class young American male really highly socialized
>and polite ?
>
>	fred

I think this needs a to be a little more specific.

Define :

 Normal - Just how 'normal' are those who define 'normal'?

 Middle class - Is this a value/moral issue or monetary?

 Young - A state of mind, or an age?

 Socialized - For any one of my 5 brothers - this meant not belching 
              during a conversation!
  
 Polite -  See 'Socialized'!!


Cindy
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From: Bathsheba.Grossman@bbs.oit.unc.edu (Bathsheba Grossman)
Subject: What knockers!  Crreak.
Keywords: Doors
Organization: Extended Bulletin Board Service
Date: Fri, 4 Sep 1992 05:25:47 GMT

Here's my 2c on the door question - it's time we heard from what is 
usually referred to as the rabid-feminist perspective.

As with anything else, you can open doors nicely or smarmily.  Don't
do it if you're going to stop and stand and look while I go through.  
As often as not, a guy will open the door, put his back against it, and
look me in the eye, smirking and waiting for me to brush my tits over
them, knowing that I have to go through the damn door. I have about a
half-acre of personal body-space, and if I want you near me I'll let you
know.  So it makes me want to drop everything I'm carrying and spend
about five minutes picking it up, so he'll have time to realize what an
obnoxious move that is.  I try not to complain, because guys are all
oversensitive about this one thing, but it totally bothers me.

Just flip the door back and let me catch it, like you'd do for anyone who
was a person instead of a woman.  And apply the principle broadly.

-Sheba
"Something makes me fumble
For a key, to a door, that's wide open"		-The Police
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From: lana@magenta.corp.sgi.com (Lana Mountford)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Commitment--The C-word?
Date: 25 Aug 92 19:59:33 GMT
Organization: Silicon Graphics, Inc.

In article <1992Aug24.214418.1945@walter.bellcore.com>, walter (Walter Lego) writes: 
|> If they grew up in the East coast, you must forgive them for they may have been
|> exposed for too long to the "prim and proper" ladies in abundance out here.
|> 
|> 						Walter

Hmmmm ... interesting.  I'm originally from the midwest (KCMO, to be
precise), and I lived in the southeast (SC) and east (Washington, D.C.).
Maybe it is a regional thing?  I've thought for some time that maybe it's
an "age" or "experience" thing -- but I dunno.  Are east coast guys more
likely to try to "rescue" than west coast guys? <thinking ... lessee,
*he* was from Ohio, and was a rescuer; *he* was from Phoenix, and was a
rescuer; he was from CA, was much younger and *wasn't* a rescuer; he was
from Wisconsin, much younger, not a rescuer ...> In my experience, it
seems to be more age-related, rather than geographically-related.

Cheers!
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From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Various ramblings...
Date: 4 Sep 92 00:52:05 GMT
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <1992Sep3.202301.20946@mks.com> fredw@mks.com (Fred Walter) writes:
|dy@depsych.Gwinnett.COM (Dr. Yes) writes:
|>fredw@mks.com (Fred Walter) writes:
|>> Visible intelligence may be socially acceptable *if* you don't rub the
|>> other guys nose in it. Many of the guys I know that are noticably above
|>> average intelligence tend to do that (sort of like "I'm better than you
|>> because I'm smarter").
|
|>> Sometimes they don't even have to do anything to rub the other guys nose
|>> in it, they can let the other guys insecurities do it for them.
|>
|>But that _was_ my point, that the intelligent person didn't need
|>to actually _do_ anything, just obviously _being_ intelligent was
|                                                               ^^^
|>enough to affront some people.
|
|Not 'was'. 'is'.
|
|At least amongst some of the people I associate with. (Relatives, and
|other people with with low/no self-esteem and bad self-images).
|
|>intelligence has greater survival value and becomes for that
|>reason a sexual attractiveness plus.
|
|Intelligence (in my observation) is a noticable "sexual attractiveness plus"
|only to people who themselves are intelligent.
 
Given your observation, how many people do you think are going to claim that
intelligence is not a "sexual attractiveness plus"?

|>The friends you describe as having an old-fashioned resentment for someone
|>whom they suspect may be more intelligent than they are are probably working
|>in fields where there is a relative labor shortage so minimal skills
|>are still comfortably rewarded.
|
|Or they are unemployed.

What does being employeed have to do with being intelligent or for resenting
someone that they may suspect was more intelligent.  Have you ever been 
unemployeed?  I have.  It's no fun.  Being unemployed has nothing to do
with intelligence nor job skills.  Being unemployed does, however contribute
to a persons self-esteem.   It makes it difficult to taken women like Diamond
out to dinner when you haven't had a paycheck in nine months.

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| johnf@auspex.com                                                           |
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