From: femibyte@athena.mit.edu (Olufemi G Anthony)
Subject: Re: Interracial Dating
Organization: Massachusetts Institute of Technology
Date: Mon, 12 Oct 1992 01:41:45 GMT

In article <1992Oct11.145256.1@opie.bgsu.edu> bc205cs@opie.bgsu.edu writes:
>	I am a 22 year old college student who is very much against interracial
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>marriage and dating.  Just the other day my best friend and I were discusing
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>the very topic with four other boys(white).  I explained to them my opposition
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>against dating interracial and gave them reasons why.  I said that black women
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>come in all different shapes and colors so why should I date outside of my 
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>race.  I also said that I am not physically stimulated by white females.  It
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>seems as if everyone agreed with my opinion except for this one guy.  He said
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>that for me not to see every female as one color was typical of a bigot, and he
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>called me a racist.  Being called a racist hurt me very much, but it hurt even 
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>more being that this guy was my BEST FRIEND.  It shock me very much that my 
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>best friend, who is black, was calling me a racist because I won't date outside 
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>my race.  I go to an "all-white" college in Ohio, and I am approached by white
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>females everyday should I start dating outside my race or what?  Do you
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>consider me a racist?  I want to know.
>
>                           Chris Hill
>                           BGSU
>

No I don't. In fact I believe that a most of the black male -
white female relationships today come about largely due to curiousity or some
psychological factor - black males feel a sense of powerlessness/sense
of inferiority and feel that getting a white woman will somehow make up
for that. Most white females go with black men because of the stereotype
that we black men are somehow more sexually potent. Remember that during
the days of slavery and Jim Crow, these were the two groups on the
opposite side of the racial divide that were absolutely forbidden to
have sexual relations (black women were raped often by the white
slavemasters). That's where the curiousity part comes in. Personally I
am against interracial dating for the following reasons. Another reason
why I think that many black men go out with white women is that they
feel that white women are somehow "less demanding" than black women,
which means that white women expect them to be less responsible. As a
black sister of mine once put it. If a black guy starts messing around
the white girl will accept it by saying "that's how black men are" while
black woman will say "He shouldn't behave like that". I believe that
black men will get fulfilling relationships only with black women. I
prefer having a black woman who is going to challenge me everyday than
someone just accepting me as "being that way". I also think that it is
a great disservice done to black women when black males date white
women, after the black woman has been at his side throughout all the
suffering (the black woman kept the family together). Also, it's time
for us to put our women on a pedestal too.... For a very good
psychoanalysis of interracial relationships, take a look at the book
"Black Skins, White Masks" by Franz Fanon.

Femi.

All hail to the blak woman...


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