From: robertg@kochab.cs.umbc.edu (Robert Gottlieb)
Newsgroups: soc.bi
Subject: Re: Dusky Beauty Tells All
Date: 31 Jul 92 01:58:28 GMT
Organization: University of Maryland, Baltimore Campus

In article <1992Jul30.081347.21605@nwnexus.WA.COM> elf@halcyon.com (Elf Sternberg) writes:
>In article <76728@ut-emx.uucp>
>     keisha@ccwf.cc.utexas.edu (Coed of the Damned) writes:
>
>
>>But the desire to make love to a woman, as a woman, never went away.
>
>   Yay!

	Double yay! ;)

>
>><sigh>  Sometimes I feel like I'm the only bisexual woman in the world.

	Nope, I don't believe you are, in fact I've met quite a
	few to prove ya wrong on that. :)

>
>   When you don't know of anyone else, you can feel alone.  But
>remember, you're not... we're here, and we're a little queerer than
>most, not as queer as some...
>
>>Something else that worries me about this whole thing is being identified
>>as some sort of oversexed weirdo who can't keep her clothes on.  I know
>>that I'm not like that.  I believe that if I have these desires, I should
>>act on them, as long as the acts are consensual and the other person 
>>involved (male or female) is as open and understanding as I am willing to
>>be.
>
>>Or am I just deluding myself?
>
>   Welcome to the crux of the matter... _I_ believe that excluding
>people from our lives, notably our SEX lives, because they happen to be
>born with one set of hardware or the other, is just plain damned
>stupid.

	Well personally I"m not attracted to the "other" set of
	hardware :), but I can understand others being attracted,
	and no I don't believe it means that you are some oversexed
	weirdo either.  I encourage going with one's feelings.
	If your feelings happen to be to go for the same sex, go
	for it.  If it's not, then that's fine too.  

>
>   But that's part of living in the here and the now.
>
>   Some people live in the past, and look at history, and percieve the
>overwhelming construction of masculine authority as something
>ineffable and needing of change, and in the meantime getting away from
>men, avoiding masculinity, is the path to that change.  Lesbian
>seperatists want women to get away from men, because men have brought
>us to the state of the world we are in now.
>
>   Some people live in the media, because 2 dimensions are easier than
>three.  Since the majority of the people running the media are men, and
>heterosexual, they feed each other these images of women as oversexed
>animals turning to each other for sexual release when men aren't
>available.

	Yep, I definitely agree with this.  Fortunately, though, I
	am meeting more people, both men and women that are 
	starting to get a clue about life.   
>
>   Neither image is helping you, Keisha.  But, they're there and
>they're influencing the way people look at you.  I'm afraid you'll have
>to deal with them, but we're here to make sure you don't have to do it,
>alone.
	
	Yeah, but fortunately it doesn't have to influence us all.
	I for one support anyones' decision to be bi, gay, or whatever.
	So Keisha, you do have support in many ways on here, just hang
	in there and I'm sure things will start clicking for ya.

>
>>Comments, suggestions, hugs are welcomed.  Please be gentle. :-)
>
>   *Hugs*, then, and gentle ones at that.
>
>         Elf !!!

	*And yet more huge, but gentle, hugs* :)

	Robert
>
>-- 
>Elf Sternberg    __   |     I have looked into the abyss, and the abyss
>elf@halcyon.com  \/   | has looked into me.  Neither liked what we saw.
>elf@polari.online.com |                              - Brother Theodore


Robert Gottlieb
robertg@cs.umbc.edu or gottlieb@umbc4.umbc.edu
"Not gonna do it.. wouldn't be prudent..."
Not umbc's opinion.