From: ap.7699@cupid.sai.com
Subject: Self aware SWM ISO self aware SWF
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Date: Fri, 22 Jan 93 01:07:59 GMT
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What am I looking for?
     A self-aware lady (between 25-35 years) with whom to 
share views on life and love, to develop a lasting friendship, 
and, while not essential, to develop a long-term relationship.  

About myself...
     Appearance
          27 years old (in April)
          6' 1", 170 lbs
          light brown hair (no mustache or beard)
          green/brown eyes
          trim and very fit

     History
          no drugs, past, present, or future
          no alcohol problems, past, present, or future
          no diseases, past, present, or future
          well-traveled (Europe) and well educated

     Residence
          East coast, near New York City area

     Personality
     I have developed a balanced and realistic view on life.  I 
am an introspective person, measuring myself and my 
performance in life from what I feel within myself, and not as 
much by what the world tells me.  Balancing against my 
introverted tendency is my sociable side, allowing me to be 
comfortable when chatting with strangers and forming new 
friendships.  I use the inputs of others to point out 
shortcomings in my style of living, but have learned not to 
take all things to heart.  Expression of feelings and emotions 
of all types is critical for me, as it is for anyone.  Balancing 
against my emotional side is a thinking side, looking at the 
facts and attempting to reach a logical solution to a given 
problem.  My intuitive side is perhaps my most well developed 
skill.  It has helped me greatly in my engineering/research 
profession.  And as well, I like to dream, and then work hard to 
make the dream reality through blood, sweat, and tears.  I 
often dream lofty dreams, but temper them against a realistic 
perspective.  I am working hard at making honest, direct and 
clear self-expression my way, while stating these things in a 
non-accusatory, non-manipulative way.  Equally as important I 
am learning to listen and allow people to be this way with me.  
I am learning to give to people when appropriate for both them 
and myself, and as well when to ask for things from others.  

     Beliefs on relationships
     I believe that a friendship is based upon the mutual 
acceptance of another person, regardless of his or her beliefs 
in life.  I believe friends should be willing to listen unselfishly 
to other friends in need, and equally as well have friends to 
whom they can speak when they are needy.  Friends can share 
similar or entirely different interests, as long as people are 
accepted for who they are.  
     I believe that well-defined and well-developed *self* 
awareness from both partners in a long-term romantic 
relationship is the key to the ultimate success of the 
relationship.  With self awareness from both partners, honesty 
with feelings (good and "bad" alike) and needs flows easily 
from each person, and the honest expression of feelings and 
needs is as easily heard by each person.  I believe each person 
in a successful LTR must accept, or has accepted, his or her 
partner as he or she is, with both beauty and flaws equally 
intact.  
     I do not believe that there is a *perfect* woman out there 
for me, but rather a woman who has accepted herself and can 
accept me as I am.  Neither of us will manipulate or guilt trip 
the other, nor will we carry "Pygmalion project" plans on our 
minds.  I steer absolutely clear from those seeking fatherly 
figures, rescuees from life's hardships, "powerless" victims, 
blamers, drug addicts, and rebounds.  

Any and all respondees will be answered.  Please tell me about 
yourself, anything you feel is important, and a little bit on how 
you view life, love, relationships, and most importantly, 
yourself.  

Ask anything you like as well.  

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