From: bacon@mtu.edu (Jeff Bacon)
Subject: Re: REASON no Girls
Organization: Michigan Technological University
Date: Fri, 20 Nov 1992 18:47:29 GMT

In article <lynx.2a6u@terapin.com> lynx@terapin.com (Debbie Caraway) writes:
>>we're sorry we're boring. :)
>Yeah, so am I.  Actually, that's not quite true.  There are many nice people,
>but very few ads I'd be inclined to answer.  Besides the fact that I'm a picky
>person, in terms of interests, there are automatic hit "return" turn off lines.
> Of course I can only speak for my unique self, but I don't know if that topic
>has been addressed here.  It might be enlightening to ask women here what five
>five things they avoid.  Granted, some things may be trivial or individual
>preferences, but it might shed some light on how things are perceived.  I'm not
>even talking about ads of a sexual nature, cuz I won't even bother to read
>those.  For example, I'm a social smoker.  If people are intolerant of a cigie
>with coffee, or in crertain venues, I would feel restricted.  I personally
>don't like sports, so if that is what is mentioned as an important interest, I
>skip the ad.  No offense to anyone, but I'll skip an ad if the person is under
>5'8" or over 200lb.  I wont answer an ad that's completely indiscriminant and
>states any race etc.  That's like saying, as long as you're female.  On the
>other hand, if a person specifies a specific age range or location and I don't
>fit that, I'll skip the ad.  On perhaps a more positive note for women

just means you're picky. nothing wrong with that. or perhaps simply more
serious and less desperate.

but then again perhaps you're missing something that way too, because 
one simple ad can't possibly tell the whole story about a person. Besides,
people who are different from us give us flavor.

>considering posting ads, I'd say do it but be real specific and figure out a
>ay of keeping track of people.  When I posted an ad several months ago, and I
>thought I was specific, I was deluged with about 300 replies a day for two
>weeks.  I only received one rude reply in the bunch and that says quite a bit.
>On the subject of distances, I think it's intersting that the few people from
>that ad that I'm still in contact with, are either out of CA, or not in the
>U.S.  I don't mean any of this as a flame; it's my opinion.  Maybe tis will
>open up some discussion or some people might gleen something from this.

It's entirely possible that the people who are farther away are more
interesting perhaps simply cause they're more interested in looking for
people to write to and communicate with rather than the rest of the stuff.

Or, since they're farther away (with correspondingly less chance of
anything coming of it), the mere fact that they wrote indicates a higher
level of interest in you than someone nearby who is just naturally gonna
throw out a response cause you're in range and you might be easy meat.
(so to speak.)

maybe.

>>>(Maybe I should stay away from cold pizza with my coffee,....nah).
>>yes you should. get a microwave and heat the pizza first. much better
>>for you. :)
>..but I like cold pizza even though I hear it's not just a breakfast food
>anymore ;)  Geeze, next you'll want me to get a color TV and turn the silly
>thing on or worse yet watch it.  Sheesh.

I eat cold pizza when it's there and it's early in the morning and I've
been up all night and there's nothing else around to eat. Normally, however,
there isn't any pizza left laying around to get cold. :)

heck, I barely watch mine. it'd help if I could find something I wanted
to watch...(besides CNN headline so I can get my news factoids for the week)

-bacon, pontificating