From: tuell@sjh.org
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: A small question.
Date: 24 Dec 92 01:32:56 GMT
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Organization: St. Joseph Hospital, Cheektowaga, N.Y.


I have an example for you.  My x-husband and I (married 15 years) broke up 2 
Years ago....This summer we made a deal.....we would go for one month we would 
try it again...see how it was....give it one last shot (we were both having 
trouble letting go).  After two years of being apart we had both followed our 
own personal interest and actually grown into two separate people.  Even 
though we still loved each other there was no way in hell it was going to work
.  With other people we could be ourselves....we could express ourselves as 
the people we had grown to be during those two years apart...but together it 
was the same old shit..the same old arguments the same old jealousy's..we 
tried to be different...we tried to treat each other with the respect we 
treated others but it was practically impossible to avoid that same old rut we 
had built over the years.......from what I have seen with myself and others if 
two people don't work the first time they won't work the time.  All through 
our lives things may change but in our hearts and our souls we stay the same.  
You always come back to who you are and who you are never changes.  If two 
people aren't right now....that wont change later.  Of course that's just an 
opinion......


In article <1992Dec22.144140.17386@cbnewsd.cb.att.com>, nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci) writes:
> In article <78702@hydra.gatech.EDU> gt7760a@prism.gatech.EDU (Tri Q. Luong) writes:
>>	I just have a small question.  If a couple break up before and
>>	get back together again.  What are the chances that they will break
>>	up again?  Anybody or know anyone experienced this before? 
> 
> It depends on what they are breaking up about.  I know of two cases:
> 
> The first couple were engaged for about a year and every time they had
> a fight, the woman would yank the ring off and throw it at the guy.  Once
> he had to stop the car and look for it because she threw it out of a
> passenger window!  Every month or so they'd have a spell where they
> weren't talking, mad about this or that, and then get back together.  They
> didn't set an actual "date" until the woman discovered she was pregnant.
> Nine years after their daughter was born, they had a very ugly hateful
> divorce.
> 
> The second couple were seeing each other for about two years and she
> wanted to get married and he didn't.  He wanted so "see the world" from
> the "dating" perspective but also wanted the woman to stay in his life
> until he was done with his roving.  Well nothing doing, said she.  They
> went through a very painful breakup after he started seeing someone else
> but little by little kinda slid back into each other's lives.  When they
> got back to seeing each other every day, she said "Well?  We make a
> commitment or it's goodbye" and it was just about totally over when the
> guy realized that NOBODY could take her place (now he knew, see, because
> he had gone out with a coupla others) and they lived happily to present.
> 
> The second one was the "if you love someone, set them free" bullshit
> in action.  The first one was spoiled brat woman with codependent
> weasil.  Or something.
> -- 
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> Nance Colucci                                      att!ihlpl!colucci
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