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From: martinc@grover.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Second Date
Date: 24 Jan 93 19:11:02
Organization: UNC Department of Computer Science
NNTP-Posting-Host: grover.cs.unc.edu
In-reply-to: an3371@anon.penet.fi's message of Sun, 24 Jan 1993 20:42:13 GMT

In article <1993Jan24.205359.323@fuug.fi> an3371@anon.penet.fi writes:

   How long after a first date do you usually wait before going
   for a second date?  A week, a few days?  Guess it depends on
   the situation, too.

See, this is a perfectly reasonable soc.singles post even if posted
anonymously. 

God alone knows what was inflammatory enough to make the poster want to
*post* it anonymously, but it's perfectly appropriate to the group.
--
		Charles R. Martin/(Charlie)/martinc@cs.unc.edu
     Dept. of Computer Science/CB #3175 UNC-CH/Chapel Hill, NC 27599-3175
	    3611 University Dr #13M/Durham, NC 27707/(919) 419 1754
     "Oh God, please help me be civil in tongue, pure in thought, and able
      to resist the temptation to laugh uncontrollably.  Amen." -- Rob T
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: fulton@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (Ben Fulton)
Subject: Re: (LONG) Re: Living alone and liking it
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 14:54:47 GMT

In <77582@apple.apple.COM> pooh@Apple.COM (Wendy Nather, who is really Pooh, 
but I didn't realize that 'til the end of the article) writes:

>a woman gets into a relationship, she starts thinking about "us"
>and jumps into nurture mode, whereas men still think about
>themselves except that they're not as lonely as they used to be.

>It would be nice to find a man who would take it upon himself
>to keep the fridge stocked with MY favorite foods, keep
>medical supplies on hand, nurture personal relationships with
>my friends and family, remind me of my appointments, and worry
>when I was running out of clean underwear!*  It seems to me that
>men do indeed get more out of a relationship than women do.

On the other hand, it would be nice to find a woman who thinks more
about herself, not jumping into nurture mode and not expecting me
to find her favorite foods, remind her of her appointments and so
forth.

ben - spoiled child seeks spoiled child


-- 
ben
fulton@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (Bloomington, IN)
"Verbing weirds language" - Calvin
From: nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: How Does your Name Sound?
Date: 26 Jan 93 14:57:48 GMT
Article-I.D.: cbnewsd.1993Jan26.145748.21678
Organization: AT&T

In article <1993Jan26.040340.28921@Virginia.EDU> llk4k@Virginia.EDU ("Lori Karalow") writes:
>Okay, my turn, see if you can pronounce my last name......
>                     Lori Karalow

car-a-love?

-Nance
"Colucci is NOT pronounced like those Czech pastries with the cheese filling."
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: marcia@netcom.com (Marcia)
Subject: Re: (LONG) Re: Living alone and liking it
Organization: The Dolphin Conspiracy, Phase II
Date: Mon, 25 Jan 1993 21:51:59 GMT

In article <1993Jan25.165842.4673@client21.comlab.ox.ac.uk> sharon@comlab.ox.ac.uk (Sharon Curtis) writes:
>(1) The formerly tidy room is now a disaster area
>(2) More washing up for me (yes, me) to do

*sigh* Yes. 

>In each of them, I've always felt that
>compared to being single, when I put no effort into a relationship
>and get no rewards from the relationship, being in a relationship
>I always seem to be getting less out of the relationship that
>I put into it. 

I think that's probably one of the best benefits of staying single. You know
you're going to get out of it what you put into it. It's another reason I
firmly believe that a bad relationship is worse than none at all.

>Maybe some other woman out there has solved this problem.
>When you are in a relationship, how do you make sure you are
>getting a reasonable amount out of the relationship?

Through communication of my wants. And my expectations. And a good dollop of
acting like I have a right to get something out of this relationship in 
addition to putting all that effort in. And trying to remember that I'm an
equal partner in this relationship, so I deserve equal benefits as my partner
(note: not better, not worse). And being willing to call it quits if we can't 
work something out together.

>Long live friends!!

Friends are VASTLY underrated. Especially by those who are dedicated to the
quest of finding an SO.
-- 
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Marcia Bednarcyk                                  ADDRESSES: marcia@netcom.com
"Sweaty Snugglebunnies."                                     mlb@cisco.com
From: markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Interesting situation -- help!
Date: 28 Jan 1993 19:52:02 GMT
Organization: Computing Services Division, University of Wisconsin - Milwaukee
NNTP-Posting-Host: 129.89.7.4

In article <1993Jan19.023941.11642@fuug.fi> an6615@anon.penet.fi writes:
> 	I hope to go down with Tom soon to Kentucky to visit Lisa and Mary, but
> I am very confused as to the next step.  What bothers me most is how she
> really didn't show any interest in me when we first met, but instead showed
> it towards Allan.  That is what I think bothers me most.  

Well, she probably thought you were a nerd or dweeb, and went for the stud,
only to find out that contrary to all expectations he wasn't as good as he
looked.  It's rare, but it happens.  So she fell back to you as second choice.

> 	My dilemma is the following, how do I broach the subject of the
> [small] age difference, (or even if I should), and how do I find out how she
> feels about starting a relationship?   I really like Lisa, and miss her a
> great deal, but I am confused, about how to follow up on it.

Well well, 6 years is definitely a major generational gap here.  There's just
too much difference, I mean with you barely being out of high school (23) and
her practically being middle aged (29) and over the hill!  Forget it.  It's
hopeless.  Everyone will accuse you of having an Oedipus complex, or call you
a gold-digging gigolo.  And when she gets wrinkles and osteoperosis, you'll
just end up dumping the hag for a blond 17 year old first year college coed.
From: sethb@panix.com (Seth Breidbart)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Honesty, Your word, and Trust -- a crisis?
Date: 27 Jan 93 00:26:21 GMT
Organization: Society for the Promulgation of Cruelty to the Clueless

In article <MARTINC.93Jan25233544@grover.cs.unc.edu> martinc@grover.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin) writes:

>The part that seemed reminiscient of someone in particular is the part
>where they (1) over-literalized (2) transformed your statement into a
>crisp black-and-white statement (3) realized that wasn't precisely what
>you meant, and (4) proceeded to announce that you *lied* to them.

I'll often do (1), (2), and (3) (but not seriously, just because I
sometimes get into silly moods).  (4) I won't do, because honesty is
important to me, and I won't accuse someone of lack of it lightly.

Seth
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle)
Subject: Re: Credibility...
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Tue, 26 Jan 1993 10:27:11 GMT

mel@niblick.ecn.purdue.edu (Meloney D Cregor) adds emphasis:
>marcia@netcom.com (Marcia) writes:

>>I think part of the problem is that there are certain people who somehow
>>dom't comprehend that there are people who have higher priorities than 
>>having an SO. It's all a matter of what you want right now.
>                                     ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

>Exactly.  The nice thing about setting your own priorities is, YOU know
>where the re-set button is.....

But... if the right person comes along when a relationship isn't high
on one's list of priorities, one might miss them entirely.

-- 
"There is a well defined impression in the Uinited States that punning
 practically amounts to paronomasia; or, at any rate, that punning can
 easily lead to paronomasia.   If this is untrue, why doesn't somebody 
 deny it?"...................................footnote by Will Cuppy in 
        _Garden Bumps and Other Country Rubbish_ by Sellar and Yeatman
-- 

Kiran Wagle                           <kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu>
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Trygve's shower
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Fri, 22 Jan 93 20:02:21 GMT

In article <1993Jan21.114038.12699@lloyd.Camex.COM> amy@lloyd.Camex.COM (Amy Lindsay) writes:
>In article <1993Jan19.230958.11680@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>>In article <1993Jan19.125658.24731@lloyd.Camex.COM> amy@lloyd.Camex.COM (Amy Lindsay) writes:
>>>
>>>And while he was posting this, one of our Fictional Minions stole
>>>into his home and appropriated a PersonalArtifact so that our
>>>Live Psychics may track his every move.
>>
>>Oh, goody--I much prefer being tracked by live psychics than dead ones;
>>are my every moves at least being entertaining enough to hold their
>>interest? 
>
>Work on it.  The Live Psychics incredibly difficult to entertain.  In fact,
>they've been after me to send the Minions to Charlie, since they think he'd
>be a little more lively.  (Can I call him that, being fictional, and all?
>I wouldn't want him to think I was imposing upon his good nature.)

Well, at least he'll probably be a little more mobile.  Of course it
depends on the tastes of your minions--Charlie has a dissertation while
I have a dungeon, so you just need to decide which they prefer. 

>Anyway, having Fictional Minions is a terrible responsibility.  Maybe I
>could rent them out or something...

I can see some definite advertising potential:  "Our patented Fictional
Willing Minions (MWFs) will do anything you desire--and best of all, if
you have them fetch you hot fudge sundaes, the sundae's will be fictional
too and, therefore, 100% calorie-free!" 

>>>Be good, Trygve, or the next time we'll take the soldering iron.
>>
>>Ha!  You can't frighten me with a threat like that--I've got...oh, let's
>>see now...somewhere on the order of eight soldering irons.  (I've been
>
>Make a note of that, O Minions, Trygve can only have 7 of us over there
>unless we bring our own soldering irons...
>
>BTW, I have no problem with losing the soldering iron (I've only got one)
>but those glass cutters...

Funny, I find that whenever I lose any of my glass cutters, it manages to
wander back to the way bottom of my green toolbox all by itself.  I don't
quite know how this works--sometimes I find glass cutters in there that I
don't even recognise.  (Alas, just the cheap kind so far--not the type 
with the oil reservoir and the swivel tip.) 

>>>Are you so sure?  If you actually WANT us to stay around maybe
>>>you'd better offer us a bit more incentive than Doritos.
>>
>>Oh, I imagine I could come up with a more effective incentive--here,
>>come closer and I'll see if I can explain it to you....
>
>Now, now.  I didn't JUST fall off the turnip truck yesterday, you know...
>
>...It was the day before that.

Gosh, that must have hurt.  Well, fortunately for you, I happen to be a
doctor, so if you'll just come close enough for me to examine you and
make sure you're OK....

Trygve   (You can trust me--I'm a doctor.)
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From: blowfish@carina.unm.edu (rON.)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Midwestern SWM ISO Upbeat SWF
Date: 28 Jan 1993 08:11:18 GMT
Organization: University of New Mexico, Albuquerque
NNTP-Posting-Host: carina.unm.edu

In article <phantasm.728083954@vincent1.iastate.edu> phantasm@iastate.edu () writes:
>I do not suggest that someone must have done something for themselves to
>have knowledge about it... While you may have been dropped on your head as
>a child while I was not does not imply that you know more about it than I
>do...
>I do not suggest what you claim, and therefore do not claim it as an argument
>at all...

Phantasm, your attempts at lame doubletalk and 'cutsie' rhetoric are really
starting to get annoying.
Make a point or move on.
r.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: schroede@bnlux1.bnl.gov (gary l. schroeder)
Subject: Re: Interracial Relationships
Organization: Brookhaven National Laboratory, Upton, NY 11973
Date: Fri, 22 Jan 1993 14:16:20 GMT

In article <1993Jan20.202749.5827@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>In article <297@cnmhnet.UUCP> keithg@cnmhnet.UUCP (keith garrard) writes:
>>
>>I know you're probably referring to black-white relationships
>>when you refer to interracial relationships. 
>[...]
>>On a recent "Donahue", the topic was interracial relationships,
>>and all couples were black-white, with the exception being a 
>>Filipina girl.  But who were all the questions directed to?
>>The black-white couples.  Donahue even apologized to the 
>>Filipina, cause she wasn't even addressed by the audience.
>>In other words, it was as thought
>>she wasn't considered to be an "interracial".  Anyway, just
>>my .02 cents worth.

>Sounds like a good sign to me--maybe one of these days, if we're lucky,
>people won't even think of black-white as interracial....

When this subject comes up, many people tend to emphasize the fact that
skin color shouldn't be any sort of barrier to a relationship; that
_race_ shouldn't be a barrier.  I think that the real underlying
difficulties in interracial relationships isn't the fact that they're
inter_racial_, so much as they're inter_cultural_.  The compatability of
the values and ideals of one cultural with another will tend to dominate
the success or failure of the relationship.  

I suspect that the Donahue audience had less to say to the Fillipina
woman because the issue of interracial relationships in her situation
didn't cause the same kind of deep-seated emotional charge that
black-white relationships bring to the surface.  There's such an
extensive history of volatile relations between blacks and whites in
this country that many still find such interracial relationships tense
at best. 
-- 
--------------
Gary Schroeder  		
schroede@bnlux1.bnl.gov        
Brookhaven National Laboratory
From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Flirting How To Guide
Date: 22 Jan 93 17:58:59 GMT
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <1jlj25INNcda@SALMON.ZOO2.CS.YALE.EDU> yan-dicky@cs.yale.edu (Dicky Yan) writes:
>In article <9301192219.AA00828@jed.cs.nyu.edu> deragon@jed.cs.nyu.edu (Seeker) writes:
|>	Anyway, one of the ladies asked my friend what they were for, and he
|>promptly showed her, by standing behind her, rubbing this ball up and down
|>her back.  Needless to say she loved it, and didnt want him to stop.
|>
|>	Well, to make a long story short, they exchanged numbers, and now
|>they are dating... and seem somewhat happy... :-)
|>
|>	So there you have it... buy a pair of these goosebumps, and walk into a
|>bar.... hey.. it worked for him!
|>
|>
|>-----
|>John Deragon		   deragon@cs.nyu.edu | deragon@jethro.cs.nyu.edu
|>-----
|
|Good idea, but remember, don't show it to the bartender or let him get his
|hands on the   "Goosebumps". 

Duh, Why? 

-- 
-john
From: bmeyer@feds12.prime.com (Bob Meyer)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Second Date
Date: 26 Jan 93 17:39:15 GMT
Organization: Computervision Corp.

In article <1993Jan24.205359.323@fuug.fi>, an3371@anon.penet.fi writes:
|> How long after a first date do you usually wait before going
|> for a second date?  A week, a few days?  Guess it depends on
|> the situation, too.

 Also, If you sleep together on the first date,
 does the next day count as the second date,
 or just the first date, day two?
From: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Honesty, Your word/Trust
Date: 24 Jan 93 19:27:00 GMT
Reply-To: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Distribution: world
Organization: Micro Exchange - Kenwood, CA - 707-833-4032

DF. From: dfuller@portal.hq.videocart.com (Dave Fuller)
  . Newsgroups: soc.singles
  . Subject: Re: Honesty, Your word, and Trust -- a crisis?
  . Message-ID: <C19ryE.39C@portal.hq.videocart.com>
  . Date: Fri, 22 Jan 1993 19:11:01 GMT
  .
  . jmd@bear.com (Josh Diamond) writes:
  . :
  . : [ Hey, why don't we always be honest ]
  . :

       Honesty is a strange thing nowa days.  I seems that most of us can
be honest when it comes to "facts", but to be honest about your feelings
allows others to attack the "real" you.

       Inside we all want to be loved and cared for, but when we open
ourselfs to attack this means that we may experience some pain.  But it
is this pain which allows us to grow and mature into better human beings.

       Pain sucks.  I know, I trusted my ex, and she basicly bent me
over, grabed the biggest thing she could find and (without the aid of
some mineral oil) shoved it up my virgin ass (figuratively).

       Now I know the truth, I feel better, she feels better, and now we
even talk openly about our feelings.  When we start to hit a nerve in
each other we simply say, "I really don't feel comfortable talking about
this subject right now."  And go on to the next subject.  Respect feels
good!

       Brent Mason
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From: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Acronuyms
Date: 25 Jan 93 20:32:00 GMT
Reply-To: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Distribution: world
Organization: Micro Exchange - Kenwood, CA - 707-833-4032

       A questions from the new(cummer)...  And just answer the damn
questions... I need no more heat today.

       I've been trying to figure out what the following acronyms stand
       for... please assist my feeble brain!

       PYM:

       SO:

       Maybe someone could post a hint sheet monthly or something like
       that.

Thanks,

Brent Mason
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: marv@netcom.com (Marvin Raab)
Subject: Marvin who?
Organization: user of Netcom Public Access Unix, SF Bay Area
Distribution: usa
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 1993 18:11:08 GMT


So, rumor has it some of you have been asking about me. 

I'm fine. I've been living in California (Silicon Valley) for almost
four years, now. Except for three straight weeks of rain, I love it here
and have a nice social circle--far larger than I had in DC. I meet
lots of new people all the time.

I was employed for a while by a major computer magazine publishing
company but had lots of problems with their upper management and I
quit. Since November, I've been consulting to small compnaies--providing
internal tech support for their LAN's and PC's. I kinda enjoy
consulting and am debating with myself as to whether to continue or
look for the near-perfect fulltime position.

As John Fereira posted, I still attend the local net.parties but really 
haven't organized anything in over a year. The last USECON I organized was 
Halloween of 1990. I may do some more local parties but I don't think I'll
do national parties for a long time.

Although I was in a relationship for four months last year, my
intensity did cause us to break up but we're still friends.
I've pretty much accepted that "it'll never happen" and have resigned
myself to being happy with computers, Star Trek, and other partnerless
activities. I no longer discuss the feelings with anyone except my
closest friends.

I don't read soc.singles anymore. After 7 years, it sorta gets 
redundantly repetitious with the only addition being an overwhelming
number of people and articles. I saw some of the articles with my name
because a friend emailed them to me.

Feel free to email if you're interested in anything specific...


             -marvin

-- 
Marvin Raab                                  
marv@netcom.com                              Mountain View, CA 94040
apple.com!netcom.com!marv                    415-961-6501 (h)
From: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Flirting How To Guide
Date: 24 Jan 93 00:21:00 GMT
Reply-To: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Distribution: world
Organization: Micro Exchange - Kenwood, CA - 707-833-4032

JF> From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
  >
  > In article <1jj89rINNaok@lynx.unm.edu> blowfish@carina.unm.edu (rON.) writes
  > >In article <9301192219.AA00828@jed.cs.nyu.edu> deragon@jed.cs.nyu.edu (Seek
  > |>	So there you have it... buy a pair of these goosebumps, and walk into a
  > |>bar.... hey.. it worked for him!
  > |
  > |Dunno, would 'Hey baby, let me roll my big bumpy orange balls over your bac
  > |work as a pick-up line?
  >
  > How about "My balls are orange and have lots of little bumps on them.
  > Want to see them?"

       I'll have to rate this one:  9.5+, Now if I could just stop
laughing and type [thank god for backspace]!

       Brent Mason
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: misrael@csi.uottawa.ca (Mark Israel)
Subject: Re: Single, what does it mean to YOU?!
Organization: Dept. of Computer Science, University of Ottawa
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 93 22:55:11 GMT

In article <77753@apple.apple.COM>, pooh@Apple.COM (Pooh) writes:

> I would define "single" as "available for dating".  This
> covers every situation nicely, from Ed "Yes, But..." Wright
> to people in open marriages.  After all, isn't that the point
> of wanting to know whether someone is single?

   No, I might want to know if she's "available for marriage",
for example.

misrael@csi.uottawa.ca			Mark Israel
Sunbeams brightly play, where Fancy's fair pavilion once is pight.
From: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: doesn't it piss you o
Date: 19 Jan 93 17:13:00 GMT
Reply-To: brent.mason@uuworld.via.mind.ORG (Brent Mason) 
Distribution: world
Organization: Micro Exchange - Kenwood, CA - 707-833-4032

JW> From: julie@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu (Julie Wright)
  > Newsgroups: soc.singles
  > Subject: Re: doesn't it piss you off when.....
  > Message-ID: <JULIE.93Jan15130323@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu>
  > Date: Fri, 15 Jan 1993 18:03:23 GMT
  >
  > (Seriously, I don't think anyone's EVER bought me a drink, so it's
  > a moot point how _I'd_ behave.  I look like a Nice Girl.  It's a
  > terrible liability at times.)
  > --

  Well don't hold your breath to long...

       I live in the NAPA Valley, lotsa wine here!!!

       What Kind do you like?  If I can find it, I'll send you a bottle.

  Brent Mason

  Internet doesn't do freight shipping do they?

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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@panix.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: A hug for illiterate flamers
Organization: Society for the Promulgation of Cruelty to the Clueless
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 1993 01:24:05 GMT

In article <1993Jan27.024412.5375@leland.Stanford.EDU> rna@leland.Stanford.EDU (Robert Ashcroft) writes:
>In article <1993Jan26.205422.5312@jarvis.csri.toronto.edu> allisson@turing.toronto.edu (H. Allisson Roome) writes:

>> We POWs can be a viscious lot.
>
>You mean a viscous lot?  Sort of thick and gooey?  How so?

It's the melted chocolate.

Seth
Newsgroups: soc.singles