From: cr614@cleveland.Freenet.Edu (Monee C. Kidd)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.african.american
Subject: Re: Why we go for non-black women:
Date: 5 Jan 1993 03:15:20 GMT
Organization: Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, Ohio (USA)
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In article <1993Jan1.155419.25716@csus.edu>, chaneysa@nextnet.
csus.edu (Stephen A Chaney) writes:
> 
> 
> I just had the joy of having a black woman lecture me, sister to
> brother, so to speak, about my girlfriend, who is caucasian, 
> just before Christmas. She takes it upon herself, as if she were 
> in JungleFever the movie!, to lecture me about black pride. She 
> went on abouthow wrong it is to do this to black women and that  
> there areplenty of black women who are looking for brothers now.
> 
> I refused to back down about my girlfriend (new girlfriend at that),
> and we ended up in an argument about whether or not I am an Oreo.
> 
> I told her what I am about to tell you. You people who think you're
> going to take out those of us who date interracially, need a lobotomy
> and you need to read up on Fascism. And you need to stay the hell away
> from me and the rest of us.                                                   

I have been away from the system for the holidays. I scanned the
list of articles an picked this one for my first reading 
`pleasure'. What I found was a smack in the face, an attack on 
all black women and there for an attack on me. Mr. Chaney, you
sound extremely bitter, were you hurt by a sister once?

I often find it annoying when people pick apart others notes. I
hope you find my analysis of yours just as annoying. You say..

> I do not prefer black women because:
> 1) They have the disposition of a hornet. I have never seen anything
> more stressful as an angry black woman (but hey, they get it from some
> of the men, too - but not me). 
> 2) They disrespect black men and I see it every day. They are
> unforgiving - one stutter or one blunder and they're all over you,
> making fun of you.
> 3) They come up with this lame-ass excuse about "Well, can't you be
> tough and take it?" rather than laying off of you.
> 4) They have no, absolutely NO tolerance for individual thought.....

Mr. Chaney, when you have met every last single sister on this 
planet, perhaps then you will be qualified to make these rash
over-arching generalizations. It is so sad to see that you have
bought in to the stereotyps that the American media wants us
to believe about black women. Wake up my (so-called) brother,
it's the old divide and conquer technique. We aren't all bitchy-
I know because *I'm not*. I can only speak for myself, you 
should do the same. Your list of the black woman's `problems' 
paint you men out to be gods. If a relationship has problems, 
then there's a problem with both people.

...some random ramble about Anita Hill...
>Black women are the foremost
> and fiercest enemies of black conservatives, and are the worst in the
> world at the art of getting brothers "ostracized." 

So what you're saying here is that black women cannot be 
conservatives??? Did you think before you wrote this?

And some more stuff I'm too upset to even quote. What it all
boils down to is your note is more racsist than any I have 
seen from anyone anywhere. That you would not date a woman
*merely* because her skin is brown smacks of the 1950s. I 
have no problem, mind you with the fact that your girlfriend
is white - IF you are dating her because you like her for her
personality, etc, i.e., what is on the INSIDE. However, I 
don't think that is the case. What a prize she must be, a 
white woman who'll put up with all your shit and not say a
word back to you. Do you make her walk three steps behind you?
Does she whisper and look at the ground when she talks to
you? It sounds like that would be your ideal woman.

When you wake up and realise that people's personalities
are not determined by the color of their skin but by the
kind of life they have lived, then come back and read this
note again. Until then, from all the decent sisters in the
world, screw you. Some one was right - if you can say all
this shit about black women, you must not respect your
mother, and a man who doesn't respect his mother gets no 
respect from me.

...and yes these opinions are all mine....
...no one else would dare....
-- 
       "Whatever happened to Peace?"    -Eric B. & Rakim
     ********    This is our year - GO CAVS!!!    ********
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