From: pjd@hpespjd.fc.hp.com (Paul Dorweiler)
Subject: Re: Distress Call
Date: Wed, 9 Sep 1992 18:27:12 GMT
Organization: Hewlett-Packard Company, Fort Collins, CO
Keywords: Suddenly, the moon blows up.

Ender emotes:
|>
|> Hmmmmm...  I'd like to pose a question... a serious one [*GASP* Ender being
|> serious?!].  I often, and I mean OFTEN, here phrases much like Tony's, 
|> "a memory that is now dead and buried" or some such.  Or "it's the past,
|> forget it."  But can you REALLY forget something?  I don't mean where you
|> put your car keys, but something that has a major impact on your life.  I
|> responded by e-mail to Hwy's original post and told him about part of my
|> life I won't recount here (due to space), but I was dumped in a rather
|> ugly fashion by a girl (she was certainly not a woman or a lady) who's
|> method of delivering this notice was to notify me that she had used me for
|> six weeks to get her ex to propose to her, which he did at the prom *I*
|> took her to.  I was crushed...  for a year I distrusted all women, but you
|> know something...  I *STILL* think about her and part of me still loves her...
|> oh, not the girl who dumped me...  my image of her, the way she was when she
|> had me fooled...  Forget her?  Fat chance... never happen... I learned a lot
|> from the experience, even if it hurt.  To forget it would be like unlearning.
|> 
|> {some deleted}
|> 
|> I thinkk I can truthfully say that I am STILL in love with everyone I have
|> ever loved, regardless of the outcome... it may be different now, but it's
|> still there...  So my question is, can any of you say that you have ever
|> complete forgotten or stopped caring about someone you once loved?  That
|> you NEVER think of them (and I mean think of them in a positive manner,
|> "the good ole days" and stuff)?  Besides...  time tends to polish up
|> ragged memories and you begin to see things a little differently...

I, for one, can also truthfully say that in a small way I am still in love with
my gfriend from high school, and very few days pass that I do not think
about her in some way.  This has led to many people telling me that I live
far too much of my life in the past, but I don't view it as that way.  She
had a profound affect on my life during its most turbulent time, and a good
portion of who I am now (and struggle to be) is due to her love and support
during those times.  It seems impossible for me to just totally forget her.

And I can relate to still being attracted to an "image" of someone, as happened
recently to me.  And, like Ender, I learned a LOT from that time, although it
hurt me quite deeply and the wounds are still very much there.  I shant forget
that experience the rest of my life.

|> -Ender
|> <titles in limbo>
|> "They say that people live and learn, some people only live and live" - Marillion

-- 
Dohram
Official Hobbes of the RFA, Dennis Mukai gallery owner
  (and eternal bachelor...)

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