From: mtw@cd.amdahl.com (Mark Wong)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.asian.american
Subject: Re: Asian-American Guys Superior?
Date: 14 Aug 92 21:58:06 GMT
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Organization: Amdahl Corporation, Sunnyvale CA


>  The low success rate is for AsAm men (2nd generation +), meaning
>  those that were born in U.S.A.  I have been asked out by Asian
>  men born overseas.  What I'm trying to say is that I've seen
>  a decided bias of AsAm (2nd generation + ) men to favor white
>  women asking them out.
>
As an AsAm man (2nd generation on my dad's side, at least 4th generation on my
mom's side. Hey that makes me 2nd generation +), personally I will date anybody
that I'm attracted to and I find Asian (American or otherwise) women very
attractive.

Though of all the women who have explicitly asked me out (3 to be exact), none
were AsAm. In fact all of the women were white. One sort of used number 8 from
the FAQ. First she said that I looked like her old boyfriend. Then she said
that she thought he was really handsome. Then she asked me out. One of the
others mentioned that you could see through her dress. Was that a hint? :-)

Now of the women who have hinted (strongly or otherwise) that they may like me,
by far most of the women were white followed by Asian women not born in the US
and trailing far behind were Asian American women born in the US. That kind
of supports AsAm (2nd gen. +) men not dating AsAm (2nd gen. +) women very much.
I took it as a hint that one woman liked me when she was measuring my weight
and height for % bodyfat test. I never knew that measuring somebody's height
was a full contact sport.

The last woman who hinted said that was taking up softball because she has
nothing to do on Sunday's and that she would really like somebody to go
mountain
biking with in the hills around the Silicon Valley. This didn't make any
sense
because:
 
   1. She has a very nice and outgoing personality.
   2. Silicon Valley is full of a couple gazillion single male
engineers.
   3. She is absolutely gorgeous.

No I didn't ask her out during the 3 or 4 hours of a swim party. Yes I did ask
her out later. She did say yes. No I can't tell you how it went because we are
going out this Sunday. Yes she is white.

You may ask why if I find Asian women attractive, why have I been dating mostly
white women. I find that the people you make friends with (male or female)
are usually the people that you have mutual interests with. The activities
that I enjoy and the organizations that I've joined (Sierra Club, local bicycle
club, etc.) are mostly white even though the San Francisco Bay Area is only
50% white. If I had joined a Japanese tennis club or Chinese Ski club
like a lot
of my friends did, I would probably only be dating Asian women. All my
friends
that joined those clubs (bunches of AsAM women and 2 white men) are now
either
married or dating Asians met in those clubs. I never joined those 2
clubs 
because I don't enjoy tennis and I feel uncomfortable in a mostly Asian
club
because I grew up in a city where only 2% were Asians at that time so I
didn't
have much interaction with other Asians until high school and especially
college.

To make a long story short, the people that you date will probably be of the
same racial backgrounds as the friends that you actually do things with. For
example even though you work in or go to school in a multi-racial enviroment,
if all the friends you do things with are only Asians, you will probably date
mostly Asians. My interests are varied and I tend to do different things with
different groups of people. I do not do all of my interests with just one set
of friends.

I have made a concious decision that hiking, backpacking, XC skiing,
white water 
rafting, etc. and the organizations that support these activities are
important
to me and so I choose friends that have similar interests. Most of
these
activities are under represented by Asians in this area and blacks and
hispanics
are almost non-existant.

Mark
Newsgroups: soc.culture.asian.american