From: ap.5602@cupid.sai.com
Subject: Male ISO Australian homosexual FRIEND
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Date: Wed, 07 Oct 92 02:15:40 GMT
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G'day!
	
	I am a 22 year old male and I am planning to continue my studies
in Australia. I am looking for a nice friendship with another man. Who knows
what else can come from that friendship. Let me tell you a story first:


	Five years have gone away since I accepted myself as homosexual.
The problem is that I find myself very different from other homosexuals I have
met. I am getting to the point where I think that I should not be calling 
myself 'homosexual', because I do not find much in common with the rest.
	What I found in many male homosexuals,
	+ many prefer to be called 'gays', which is a kind of subculture, 
	  therefore, they are getting away from society, marginating themselves.
	  I prefer to be part of the society instead of being away from it.
	+ many like to act effeminate when they get together in groups. I
	  thougth that it was a stereotype, because I saw them acting very 
	  'normal' while socializing, but when they go to gay parties, they
	  act effeminate while I keep being myself. It is kind of a double 
	  life for them.
	+ Many open gay people do not make any effort in keeping a friendship
	  with heterosexuals, because they assume that most heterosexuals
	  hate homosexuals and that is not always true. One thing is what 
	  people say, and another thing is what people actually do. Some of
	  my friends tell me that they do not like homosexuals, but they 
	  always do a exception with me, because when my friends say that they 
	  don't like gays, they are talking about the steretypical ones.
	+ While other homosexuals are just interested in fashion, gossip,	
	  wild parties and gay bars, I am not interested in those things.
	+ For all of the above, gay people tell me that I am closseted. Well,
	  I have a different definition. For me "out of the closet" means
	  accepting yourself, not taking care of what people think about you,
	  and mainly BEING YOURSELF without trying to imitate what other 
	  gay people do.

	Please, do not think that this is a generalization about how gay people
are like. I am just saying what I have found in my own personal experiences,
which is for sure very different from anybody else's experiences. That is the
reason I am posting this message. I want to check if there are more peolpe 
who think like I do, anywhere in the world, but I am mainly interested in 
Australia. I am going to go there soon. Do not hesitate in writing me if you are
from other places anyway. 

	This message is especially oriented to those of you who have a difficult
time in accepting your homosexuality, because you realize that there is not much
in common between you and other homosexuals, except the fact that you are 
attracted to other men. Well, here you have someone who went through and 
overcame that stage. You may remain anonymous if you want, because I know how 
difficult is to make the first step.

	More data about myself:	

		physical: brown hair, blue eyes, 173 cm. (5'8"), 68 Kg. (150#)
 		hobbies: electronics, computers, astronomy, music, exercising.

 If you do not think like I do and reply just to make me change my opinion,
forget it!. Do not waste your time in flaming.   

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