From: alex@mentor.cc.purdue.edu ( )
Subject: Re: Love is a many splendored thing........
Followup-To: alt.romance
Summary: read it and find out! 
Keywords: romance, love, sappy stuff
Organization: Purdue University Computing Center
Distribution: alt.romance
Date: Mon, 14 Dec 1992 03:18:10 GMT

In article <Bz79JH.F8p@news.cso.uiuc.edu> fippen@ux2.cso.uiuc.edu (J. Fippen) writes:
>Many years ago there was a song written by this name (even though
>there is'nt any such word  in my two dictionaries) and I remember it as a 
>lovely song.  And it's true! There are many facets to love, which is something
>no one can truly define because it is a matter of heart. I think of it as "when
>two hearts meet". But this is only the beginning because there is an urgency
>there which only 2 people in love understand. i remember when I met my gal
>and it got to the point that I couldn't even think about anyone except her. And
>my longing for her got so strong that I almost flunked out of college. So, in a 
>minor way, love can be detrimental to your career. But in a major way, love
>became the central most important part of my life.

Quite true.  It's not often that I respond to posts like this, but in
this case, I'll make one of those rare postings.  Love has those many
facets that Mr. Fippen has spoken of, far more than the human mind can
ever safely comprehend.  That's probably why we leave it all up to our
"hearts".  I also know of what he speaks when he says he couldn't
think straight about anything after meeting his love.  As a LD
romancer, I find it extremely difficult to concentrate on my studies
simply because I am thinking of her so much.  Love does affect my
school work, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.  But
such is a sacrafice I make to love her.  A few people have told me
that I need to discipline myself more, and to these I say this:  Love
is a strength, not a weakness.  It is a strength that can be applied
to many things, including studies if I so desire.  All I have to do is
think of achieving, if only for a congratulatory hug from her.  What
better motivation could there ever be?

>	Now, for such statement I've received a few flames telling me that I 
>don't know what I'm talking about, that they wonder how someone as dumb as 
>I am ever learned how to run a computer, that patriotism is not for the wise
>but for the stupid, etc. I take all these comments in stride because I'll compare 
>my record of achievement to their's any day.

Simply put John, these people are idiots.  One I feel pity for, as
they've never really experienced love except in a very shallow way.
If they are unwillling to listen to the voice of reason and
experience, then they deserve the pain they will recieve from making
mistakes and pursuing false ideals. 

>And I know from experience how
>great love is: gentleness, sweetness, the early urgency, how georgeous is her
>being, the overwhelming desire to have her and hold her dear for life. These 
>feelings were true for me 45 years ago, and they are still there for me today.


>	Love with commitment and caring are central to a better life. To accept
>less is taking a lower road. There is nothing better is life than a good wife. And
>I have tried to fulfill my obligations as a good husband. Love doesn't just 
>happen; it will be  found in quiet places away from crowds, where two hearts
>can come gently together.
>
>			John Fippen    fippen@ux2.cso.uiuc.edu

Bravo, as usual Mr. Fippen.  The world needs more people who think
this way.  Love is not the complicated thing so many people try to
make it.  It is a simple thing, based on simple things.  Kindness,
gentleness, trust, respect, all things which come naturally to us,
but are instead given out in miserly portions to those we deem worthy.

                                          -Alex

Flames accepted, stupidity ignored.

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