From: Margo Garcia <margog@magnus.acs.ohio-state.edu>
Subject: re: sexual addiction
Organization: The Ohio State University
Date: Sun, 6 Sep 1992 20:19:10 GMT

I've gotten too many requests for specifics on this person's behaviour to let
them go by.  So, here they, and a few other things are:

1.      self-confessed and professionally diagnosed as sexually addicted with
        antisocial tendencies
2.      has been in individual and group therapy for 6 years
3.      was emotionally abandoned by parents
4.      was emotionally and subtly sexually abused by third party caregiver
        as a child.
5.      has been unable to form strong relationships with women
6.	says for the most part, he doesn't care what's between the ears, or
	in the heart:  cares only about "what's between the legs (his words)"
7.	admits to objectifying, dehumanizing his victims
8.      has been married, but consistently went out on his ex while married
9.      describes his ability to lie and manipulate as a gift
10.      has cruised personals for sex and has gotten it
11.      has seduced his young, female students ... too many to count
        	a.  says it gives him a feeling of power if they are virgins,
		    much like the power he has over his students as their 
		    their professor
12.     when 10 and 11 don't pan out, he has used prostitutes, including
        under-age prostitutes
13.     says he can't keep his mind on his lectures if there is a new, comely
        victim in his class
        a.  if this happens, he begins to formulate his strategy
                1.  the attraction he can't control; the strategy is on a
                    very cognictive level
14.     has had multiple one-night stands in multiple evenings
15.	the rush comes from manipulating and conquering
16.	says he has remorse, but can't control his actions
17.	living with an ex-student of his that is 13 years his junior.
	a.  says he doesn't love her and has asked her to leave
	    	1.   she pushes all his sexual buttons and the discussion
 		     is over
		2.   this "girlfriend" also openly has sexual relationships
                     with other men
18.	displays pathological masturbatory behaviour
19.	searches out people for phone sex
20.	says he's afraid of ruining his career and contracting AIDS or other
	STDs, but not enough to stop
21.	it doesn't enter his mind that he might infect someone
22.	is power freak
23.	lies
24.	is slow to remember his childhood and describes it as bejwelled

I may be wrong, but I think this person is not only hell bent on destroying
himself, but is doing a good job of raging outwardly as well.  It seems to me
that the addiction and antisocial behaviour are symptomatic and that after 6
years of therapy, perhaps the real core issues have not been addressed.. that
of childhood abuse.  I also realize that especially when antisocial behaviour
is implicated, recovery can be extremely slow, if not impossible.  He
describes the group therapy as a meat market. My question is what the hell
happened to the facilitator?

Who I really feel badly for is the young girls.  These are young girls right
out of highschool for the most part.   I am no pollyana:  I'm sure many have 
had some sexual experience.  But these are young girls who more than likely 
lack the life experience, emotional maturity that one needs to be equipped
to handle someone like this.   And if statistics are to be believed, many of
them have been the victims of abuse in their own upbringing.  Too, many young
girls succumb to the the attentions of an adult figure, a figure of authority.
Too, many succumb to the notion that to be a real woman, one must be sexually 
active, sexually open to any and all takers.  Too, many young girls succumb
to the notion of finding an older, wiser man who will take care of them.  And
while many young girls have the physical attributes of adulthood, they are not
hip to many things that only maturity can bring them.  They aren't self-aware
yet.  They haven't come into themselves yet.  And yet, this person preys on 
the weak and the young.   I find this very sad.

Anyway, that's all I know.
Xref: sparky sci.psychology:3783 alt.sexual.abuse.recovery:6161