From: matownse@zeus.calpoly.edu (Mark Townsend)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP
Date: 12 Jan 93 20:42:20 GMT
Organization: California Polytechnic State University, San Luis Obispo

In article <6338.12.uupcb@madness.network23.com> marie.silveira@madness.network23.com (Marie Silveira)  writes:
>Love can grow out of Friendship.
>
>I started college this year.  I met the man I am now in love with on the
>first day of orientation.  We became good friends.  He was my best
>friend there for the first few months of school.  I was involved in
>another relasionship at the time, but I was having major problems with
>it.  My other friends at college kept telling me:  You and Rob would
>make a great couple", but he was my best friend, and I didn't think of
>him as anything more than that.  Well the relasionship I was involved in
>got worse and worse, until I broke it off.  My friends at college said
>"You and Rob will probably end up together", but I thought nothing of
>it.  My old boyfriend came back begging so we gave it another shot, and
>again it wasn't working.
>     Then I realised my feelings for Rob were growing.  It was very
>strange.  I didn't expect it.  He was my best freind, why was I suddenly
>attracted to him?  Well, I called it quits on the other relasionship,
>but I had no clue how Rob would react when he realised how I felt about
>him.  I flirted with him, subtly at first to see how he would react.  He
>responded.  I was pleasantly surprised to discover that his feelings for
>me were growing also.
>     Our feelings continued to grow, and are getting stronger everyday.
>We've fallen in love, and it feels wonderful.  We get along great
>because we were best friends before we fell in love.  \
>        Love can definetely grow out of friendship, and it'[s the best
>thing that's ever happened to me.  It's definetely the best relasionship
>I've ever had.

Well, Marie. The same sort of thing happened to me.  During orientation at
my school this fall, this girl asked me out near the last day of the
orientation.  It totally suprised me.  So I said yes, and the next day we
went downtown.  We talked about other things.  Then as we are talking she
tells me about this boyfriend that she has who going to UC Irvine.  At the
time I really didn't care either way.  Then this person ends up being kind
of forward.  And we start kissing on our 2nd date. I though, ook.  Well,
now, we have fallen in love with each other.  During the Christmas break we
rang up large phone bills(I live in Oakland, she in Long Beach) . Anyway,
this other boyfriend is still around.  I have no idea her feelings for him
anymore. She used to say that she wanted to marry him.  But I think that she
thought that only because she figured that she would probably never fall in
love with anyone else... until she met me.  So, now, I am not sure what to
do, if anything.  She still is with the other boyfriend to this day. Should
I just ignore it? or should I do something about the situation? I am totally
confused. I have never been in this situation before.  If anyone can help,
please feel free to send me mail!


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Mark Townsend
CalPoly, San Luis Obispo, CA 
matownse@nike.calpoly.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance