From: iwilliam@AU.ORACLE.COM (Ian Williams)
Newsgroups: bit.listserv.christia
Subject: Re: Help please with a Marriage question....
Date: 17 Oct 92 19:19:06 GMT
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>Well, here is my question.  According to 1corinthians 7 10-11, should
>she never marry again after this situation?  The reason that I ask
>is that I have become reaquainted with her, we have been dating,
>and I wish to make her my wife.  We are very much in love, and both
>want to marry one another. I was very comfortable about my decision
>to marry her until I came upon this passage tonight. Now I am
>confused. Any advice that could come from a spirit filled believer
>to marry her until I came upon this passage tonight. Now I am
>confused. Any advice that could come from a spirit filled believer
>would be greatly appreciated. I some how can not believe that it is
>God's will for us not to be together because of the the terrible
>experience she endured which was called a "marriage".
>
>Thankyou in advance,
>Jeff

Jeff,
I consider myself a 'spirit filled believer' so here goes..

I believe it is not Gods will for marriage to fail. In a perfect environment,
with  a loving husband and a loving wife who BOTH strive to live according
to Gods ways, the marriage should not be allowed to fail...

The situation you described above involves the man - the head of the home,
the _PRIEST_ of the home deserting the wife. The bible tells the woman to
be in submission to the man AS THE MAN IS IN SUBMISSION TO GOD!. If he is
NOT in submission to GOD, then the womans need to be in submission is
questionable.

Now the marriage is over, it is done and gone. It may not have been Gods
will in that situation, but still it is done.
If this lady was seriously contemplating ANOTHER marriage, then she should
first seek forgivness for the failure of the first one (EVEN THOUGH IT WASNT
HER FAULT - to get right with God). She should seek to enter into a
covennental relation with a BORN AGAIN BELIEVER that will last until
death parts them - divorce should be removed as an option, even though she
has used it before.
She cannot however be made to suffer for the rest of her life because of
a mistake that she made in her past - she can ask for forgivness and move
on in God, and YOU hopefully!.
Any church that is not willing to accept this new marriage, is I believe not
acting in the Grace of God and you should find one that does!..

I believe God will truly BLESS the marriage _IF_ you have a lifetime
comittment in mind..

This is not advocating divorce in anyway, divorce is NOT Gods will in a
marriage - reconcilliation is Gods will, but we have to ask Gods forgivness
and move on with our lives if we have made a mistake in our past!..

I hope that helps..



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