From: crystal@glia.biostr.washington.edu (Crystal)
Subject: Re: Smart Woman (Was Re: Meeting Special People through Buffett's Music)
Organization: You're kidding?  Organized???                              
Date: Tue, 22 Dec 1992 21:50:20 GMT


William P. Taylor  (wptaylor@ucs.indiana.edu)  wrote:

> 	I think your interpretation is much different than mine.  I
> always thought that Jimmy was making fun of the "airheads" that you
> attack in your post, by saying that one can never find a "smart woman
> in a real short skirt" because they just don't exist.  IN this
> context, jimmy agrees with you.  I see it more as a song of wishful
> thinking rather than a song of societal values.

If it weren't for such wide-spread physical "values" that society and the media
hype at us, then such "wishful thinking" wouldn't occur now, would it?  Note
that the phrase is "Beauty and brains" not "brains and beauty".  The physical
description comes first, before the personality trait.  Primary vs secondary.
Just as it is on TV, ads, etc... Psychologists will agree that generally the
*first* thing one says, is how they *really* feel - no matter what they may
say later to disguise the fact.  I've been heavily into studying dysfunctional
psychology over the last couple of years and it is truly *amazing* how well
this holds up.  I have used this principle in my own self-growth and it has
worked *wonders* as well as being able to see traits in others that they are
unaware that they have (commonly known as "denial", whether active or passive)

And if I ever get this weight off, then, yes, such a female WILL exist (as I
KNOW some exist right now as I type this - and there is no way that I can
compete with them).  I'm not attacking the "airheads".  I'm attacking the
view that the physical aspects of a person are more important than personality,
and that the general view most men have is that fat women can just go rot... 

So, what is the *first* thing YOU notice about a woman?  And if they are ugly,
in any way whatsoever, will you ask them out?  Will you even *bother* to get to know them?  (I couldn't help but notice your .sig)

Mostly a rhetorical question...food for thought.  No answers necessary.

BTW, being fat doesn't bother me.  It's a way of life, it's just me, why deny
it?  I'm quite the cheery person, even when discussing diets, etc.  And I do my
best to take part in active sports, often forgetting that my body doesn't match
my active desires.  It's only the view that society has of the clinically obese 
that I find upsetting.  Not the fat itself.  All I want is to be RESPECTED for
who I am INSIDE, as well as for my skills and talents, regardless of my physical
appearance.  Sympathy is NOT being sought and will NOT be tolerated.

Crystal

"Even the most flawless diamond was once an ugly misshapen stone that someone
took the time to examine beneath its dull exterior."  -- me

> --
> William P. Taylor  (wptaylor@ucs.indiana.edu)  "She's 36...24...36...
> Indiana University, PhD Chemistry       Got a big ol' bag of... CHIPS??"
> "You can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose,   - The Red Devils
> but you can't wipe your friends on the couch."                 (sort of)

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