From: HF.GTD@forsythe.stanford.edu (Gabrielle Daniels)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.african.american
Subject: Styling, profiling and pretending-the games before the fall
Date: 19 Nov 1992 19:56:49 -0800
Organization: Stanford University
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kenny@osf.org (Kenneth Crudup) elucidates Re: Styling, profiling
and pretending about the following HF.GTD@forsythe.stanford.edu
(Gabrielle Daniels) donut hole:

>Why waste anybody's time, brother man.
>Time's a wastin for women wanting commitment.

This is somewhat scary...."Time's wasting for c*mm*tm*ent-minded
women" smacks of the "there ain't no good brothers out there", as if
the message is "Black men- get yours now while there's some left".


Look, man.  Women who want commitment hate being f**ked over and
having their time wasted by chumps who just wanna play.  I urge any
woman to drop kick a man who won't and get on with her life with
someone else new who may be just what she wants.  The message is
really, eat my dust, brothers.

Funny thing is, I've got other stable, professional, non-funny-
looking Black friends who are womanless, or are complaining about
the woman they're with, but figure they're gonna do worse than what
they've got if they drop-kick homegirl.


Well, just think about the sisters commiserating with their friends
at the club during Happy Hour about the quality of the brothers they
are presently roped and hog-tied to.

Consider also this is Massachusetts we're talking about- I've been
here for 4.5 years and I am SEVERELY disappointed in the women I
find here, and I'm not as "checklist" as some of my friends who have
to have this, that and the other before they will see out with
someone for more than just tummy-bump partners.  I'm not (really)
complaining about it here because I refuse to be alone, and am
direct about getting what I want, so I manage.


Come on, brother.  Is it always the fault of the sisters?

>Is it me, or has someone been hurt either (a) a lot, or (b)
lately?

>Man, there's gotta be something about me you've gotta flame.

Not true.  (Fifteen seconds after I posted that I wondered if
you'd take it the wrong way.)  It's just that you sound a little
(yeah, and here's that "comparison" thing we talked about) like a
couple of women I know who've started to give up on us, (usually
after choosing style over substance, but I get the idea you don't
tend to make that faux pas), and now every third sentence is "men
don't c*mm*t/men don't love us/men are dogs/men are trying to
play us"...you get the idea.


Look.  Since I'm almost at Jack Benny's stop-the-clock age as a
single black woman, and I do not have that kind of patience and
understanding when I was young and untried and 20--later for that
mess!  Most heterosexual black women of any age are part of the
evergrowing species, feduppa maxima, with subflora paidmadues and
takenomoshit.  Like my girl Terry Mc Millan, after we have gone to
college, gotten the degrees and the jobs, we expect excellence and
we get donkey dung.  Small wonder we growl every few seconds and
barely smile every other month or so.

When all else fails, brothers and sisters should be looking within
themselves if they keep meeting the dogs and the bitches.  Just what
are you doing to attract these people?  Why do you keep meeting
them?  Have you made a decision NEVER to meet the chumps again in
this lifetime?  Check yourselves out.


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                  GABRIELLE THERESA DANIELS
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"Yeah, right, you're not impressing me at all..."--GD
     Malcolm X:  No sell-out, no flim-flam, no skullduggery.
         (from a rap song sampling my man's speeches!)
Boycott Virginia.  Governor Douglas Wilder can't see what the fuss
is about Malcolm.  See clari.news.movies board. The man has
                  bourgeoisniggaitis!
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