From: dlittlej@beach.csulb.edu (Darren Littlejohn)
Subject: Re: Please help, someone is following me.
Organization: Cal State Long Beach
Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 19:21:15 GMT



I already wrote to Christine, but if anyone is interested, there is a
very good book called "Obsessive Love" by Susan Forward on this topic.
It saved my life, and probably countless others. 






In article <1992Nov22.005548.21297@doug.cae.wisc.edu> christin@cae.wisc.edu (Christine Haas) writes:
>
>Hi,
>
>I am in need of help here.  Please, mail me any comments
>or suggestions that you can.
>
>This turned out to be pretty long, but if the subject or 
>Re: line seems like something you can help me with, please
>please read on.
>
>
>Re:  Being followed by an obsessed person.
>
>The situation is as follows:
>
>I attend a university.  I met this guy about 2 years ago,
>and at one time we were good *friends*.  But as time went
>on, my life changed and I grew.  I grew apart from him as
>well, but he couldn't seem to let go.  I tried to still
>be friends with him, but I couldn't.  He expected way too
>much of me, demanded too much from me; wouldn't let go.
>(Asides:  he liked me a lot and wanted to be more than friends,
>and I was the first girl he had ever been friends with).
>
>I put up with all of it, wishing he would just go away. 
>It got to a point where he figured out both my work and
>class schedule, made sure he was "in the right place at 
>the right time."  He would put me on guilt trips at his
>every convenience, and if I did not go to class, would get
>mad at me for not being there!  I just wanted him to go
>away and stop following me - he was beginning to scare me.
>
>And then things finally hit the fan.  I went home one
>afternoon and was very tired so I went to my apartment and
>closed the door of the apartment (didn't lock it), and
>then went into my bedroom and closed the door for some
>privacy (in case my roommates came home), crawled into
>bed, and went to sleep.  Well, you know how it is when
>someone is starring at you - you can just feel it... I
>woke up feeling very strange and look towards the door,
>and there he was... standing there just starring at me!
>He came into my house without my permission (which I have
>never allowed anyone to do!  Being female I am worried 
>about intruders - by the way, this is mid-afternoon).
>Not only did he come into my house, he came into my bed- 
>room (luckily, I was dressed).  I am practically blind
>without my glasses, so when I saw the figure in the doorway
>I assumed it was one of my female roommates.  I called out
>her name, but no one answered.  At this point I start 
>getting scared because this figure was silent, but finally
>he spoke and I figured out it was him.  Very upset, and 
>angry, and tired, I told him to leave.
>
>I *thought* he left.  I rolled over to go back to sleep.
>A little while later, I again felt that starring presence
>and as I rolled over I was starring into his eyes 3 inches
>from my face!!  He was knelling next to my bed, just 
>starring at me while I was sleeping!!!  Now I freaked out,
>I screamed at him to get the hell out of my house, to just
>leave and he wouldn't!!  Finally he did, and I got up and 
>locked the door and couldn't sleep anymore, I had so much
>adrenaline flowing through my body it was amazing!!  I was
>soooo angry!
>
>I wrote him a letter via email telling him how entirely 
>wrong his actions were, and how I was sick and tired of 
>his BS and that I never wanted to talk, see, or hear from
>him again.  He tried to talk to me, but I wouldn't talk 
>to him (luckily, i wasn't alone - he found me in the 
>library after searching for my razz - which I tried to
>hide so he wouldn't figure out where I was - this guy
>is determined!!)
>
>He left me alone for a little while.  But now, he follows
>me.  He sees me, and he stares at me in strange ways -
>like if he had a gun he'd shoot me - just that evil look,
>half lust, half hatred.  I can't describe it.  Its driving
>me crazy and I don't know what to do!  I am afraid of him,
>although I don't know if I have reason to be...
>
>Please help.  
>
>Mail me: christin@cae.wisc.edu
>
>Thanks for taking the time to read this.
>
>Chris.
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