From: mvb@po.CWRU.Edu (Michael V. Barreca)
Subject: Re: romance = sex ?
Reply-To: mvb@po.CWRU.Edu (Michael V. Barreca)
Organization: Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, OH (USA)
Date: Thu, 30 Jul 92 19:29:02 GMT


In a previous article, erc@unislc.uucp (Ed Carp) says:

>jlewis@astro.as.arizona.edu (Jeff Lewis) writes:
>
>: We talked and saw each other almost every day for a couple of
>: weeks...and I only fell more and more in love..
>
>Sounds good so far...
>
>: Thats when things went horribly wrong...I had to start dealing
>: with questions from my friends about my sex life...and I had
>
>So what?  Tell them it's none of their business.  "A man never asks, and
>a gentleman never answers."
>
>: to start dealing with it myself...I maintain that romance does
>: not imply sex...and it seems most people I know think just
>: the opposite...arguments ensued..
>
>Tell 'em to keep their filthy opinions to themselves. :)
>
>: I talked to my new would be girlfriend about how I felt..and now
>: I am wondering if she thinks I don't find her physically attractive.
>: Which is about the furthest thing from the truth as you can get.
>
>Don't let your a**hole buddies ruin your relationship by turning your
>head away from what's *really* important.
>
>: I guess what I am getting at is ... why am I getting all this input
>: from people about how I should WANT to jump into bed this woman and
>: there is probably something fundamentally worng with the relationship
>
>Your "friends" are just plain WRONG.  They're letting their testosterone
>levels do their thinking for them.
>
>: if I don't...and she will give me the 'Lets just be Friends` if I
>: don't make a move toward the bedroom...
>
>Oh, nonsense!  She's probably feeling a bit relieved that you haven't
>had the "international" syndrome (unlike most guys) - "Russian fingers,
>Roman hands" ... :(

Don't forget body English!!  :)

>
>: 
>: AM I missing something  here...is romance that much of a alien concept
>: theses days?
>
>Yes.  Most men are idiots, and it seems the younger they are, the more
>fixated on "the little head" they are.  My best advice is to ignore them.

I agree.  The only thing that matters is that you are in love, or severe
like with this woman.  If you have to answer to them about your relationships
then you are in serious trouble.

I have a friend who is still a virgin, and gets constant ribbing about it from
both male and female friends of his.  He shouldn't have to endure such 
ridicule just because he chooses to not sleep with someone.  I think he is
just waiting for the right woman to come along.

If you are happy and you are celibate, then that's OK.  If you are happy and
you aren't celibate, that's OK, too.  You just have to do what YOU feel is
right, not what someone else thinks is right.

Mike Barreca 


>Ed Carp, N7EKG     erc@apple.com                801/269-8125
>"This is the final task I will ever give you, and it  goes  on  forever.   Act
>happy, feel happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love,
>and do what you will."           -- Dan Millman, "Way Of The Peaceful Warrior"
>
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