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From: billk@ucscb.UCSC.EDU (Bill Karwin)
Newsgroups: alt.personals
Subject: Re: Need Dating Advice
Date: 22 Nov 1992 03:31:03 GMT
Organization: University of California, Santa Cruz
Distribution: midwest
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Andrew Page had some good advice!  I agree with him.
Here's some comments of my own which I hope will be
as useful.

If she is joining a sorority, perhaps she is looking forward
to an active social life, and doesn't want to get committed
to one person (you), thereby hindering her opportunities
for partying and meeting people.  If you have indicated your
interest in commitment (however subtlely -- women are very
intelligent and pick up on these things :) she may be wary
about getting involved with you.  Of course, this is all
speculation.

When she said she was tired, it is possible that she was
covering up for her unenthusiastic reaction to you.
I don't mean to be mean by suggesting this, but if you are
not as attractive or charming in person as she was hoping,
she may have been uncommunicative (because she was thinking
about how best to let you know she didn't want to see you
again), and then explained it by making up a reason why she
is "tired".

When a woman says she is "really busy", and doesn't propose
a time in the future when she will be available, it usually
means that she doesn't want to see you.

The fact that she ran away when she saw you come into the
library sure makes it seem like she doesn't want to talk to you.
You told her to call if she wants to talk.  If she does, she will.
If she loses your phone number, you should wonder about whether
she is really all that interested or if she is just too flaky.

[disclaimer: I don't mean to make it sound like women do these
things and men don't.  But since we're talking about women,
I refer to them specifically.]

Some tips:  relax.  Don't expect every date to turn out to be
"That Special Someone".  Use dates as learning experiences.
Go out on lots of dates.  Get to know lots of women and practice
holding conversations (preferably on topics you would consider
appropriate on dates; I've known guys who can talk to their
female friends, but it's always about how they can't get a date,
which is not a good topic for a first date).  Pay attention to
your personal appearance.  Tuck in your shirt (all of it).
Button your pants.  Comb your hair.  Consider deoderant.
Shave regularly, or else take care of your facial hair.
Stand up straight.  Don't stare at her breasts.  Look at her eyes.
Don't tense up.  Think about what kind of "look" you are attracted
to, and dress to match.  These sorts of things are simple
affectations, but they DO count.  Why put yourself at a disadvantage?
Decide how you want to appear to the woman, and put some effort
into it.

I don't mean to talk down to you, I'm just listing some of the things
I have had to learn after my "upbringing in a cultural vacuum". :-)
Newsgroups: alt.personals,alt.personals.ads
From: ap.6022@cupid.sai.com
Subject: sam (23) iso sf (s.f. bay area)
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Organization: EZ-Intro Contact Service
Date: Thu, 19 Nov 92 02:28:00 GMT
X-Iso: SM

hi.  i'm new to this and i'd interested to see if it really works.
i'll be brief and to the point: i'm a 23 year-old, chinese-american
who has had a boring 23 years thus far.  i'm a grad student at 
san francisco state u. and plan to go on to a phd program some time in
'94.  i'm really busy with part-time jobs right now and school, but
i still have some free time on weekends.  basically, i just thought
i'd ask some one to go see a movie-- i really want to see both dracula
and the lover...of course, i can see either or both of these movies with
my friends, but i want to try this.  i guess i'd be comfortable if you
were within + or - 5 years of my age (23), but i wouldn't really care if
you are white, aa, hispanic, chinese, whatever...of course, most of my
boring life has been spent among a predominantly chinese american set.
i'll make this no longer, so email me if interested...bye!

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From: sjsobol@wariat.org (Steven J. Sobol)
Subject: Re: To: Tina Smith  Re: Where have all the good men gone???????
Organization: APK Public Access UNIX/Internet, Cleveland, OH, USA
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Date: Tue, 24 Nov 1992 04:13:15 GMT

Steven J Orlin (sorlin@magnus.acs.ohio-state.edu) wrote: 

: you're full of shit!  I'm a good man and I dare all the women who are looking 
: for one to write me?  And I ain't no FAG!
: 
: steve

"So why did you write him, Debbie?"
"He dared me to. I was too afraid not to write."

(sorry, couldn't resist :)

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From: gorf@mentor.cc.purdue.edu (Craig Collister)
Subject: Need Dating Advice
Followup-To: poster
Organization: Purdue University
Distribution: midwest
Date: Mon, 16 Nov 1992 19:51:30 GMT

Here's the story.
I'm a college student who has been brought up in a cultural vacuum.
Therefore, I may not know the answers to the simplest questions, which
of course may also be the ones that have stumped the experts for ages.

Anyway...
I responded to a "voice mail personal". We got to talking, and soon I was
talking to her for over an hour at a time. We seemed to be getting along well.
We finally set up a date to meet. 

The day came, and the first thing I learned was that she had been doing the
sorority rush thing all day, and was very tired, and was in a rather
bad mood.

We met each other, and had dinner. She was not nearly as talkative as usual.
We watched some television, and over time she told me to go home. I said I
would be interested in seeing her again, preferably under happier circumstances.
She said she had a busy week, and granted there are a lot of tests this week.
I told her to call if she just wanted to talk.

I told my friend Monica about this incident and she was optimistic.
I decided to "show" my date to Monica by going and talking to her at work
(in the library). We went to talk to her, but she saw us coming and made
a hasty retreat to the back room. Of course, I was traveling with a woman...
Monica said she's probably nervous and didn't know what to say to me.

Well, Monica remains optimistic about this and wants me to call this person
back. I remain pessimistic and believe she is not interested.
Does any expert sociologist have any advice for me?

I know this is a tired old question but I haven't listened to the answers
until now. Besides, this may get some of your romantic minds in gear...

Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you world!
Newsgroups: alt.personals
From: ejv8r@Virginia.EDU ("Erika June Vines")
Subject: swf seeking humorous swm
Organization: University of Virginia
Date: Tue, 24 Nov 1992 03:18:28 GMT

I am a 20 year old at the University of Virginia.  I am an
English major and am in the education program.  I am interested
in communicating with a single male 20-25.  Will talk about
anything.  Maybe will lead to something else?
Erika
From: mike_steiner@qm.claris.com (Mike Steiner)
Newsgroups: alt.personals
Subject: Re: No women posting ? I tell you why..
Date: 17 Nov 92 19:53:26 GMT
Followup-To: alt.personals

In article <1992Nov16.193956.4319@hplabsz.hpl.hp.com>, howeird@hpl.hp.com
(Howard Stateman) wrote:
> 
> Martina Schollmeyer (martinas@cs.umr.edu) wrote:
> : Dear male alt.personals readers:
> : 
> : About one week ago I posted a response to Hassan's comments
> : about all pretty girls being in artsy stuff, etc.. All I did
> : was reply to his post because I felt offended by it. I did
> : not, and I would like to repeat this, I DID NOT post a personal
> : ad looking for e-mail pen pals or for a date. Now for all of
> : you who sent me e-mail of that kind, think about it for a
> : moment please: if I had wanted that kind of response I would 
> : have posted a personal. 
> 
> The group alt.personals is a place to post personals ads, so if
> you get email :of that kind" in response to a posting here, you're
> only getting what you deserve. 
> 
> Think about it. :-)

I did; that doesn't make sense.  There are many messages here that are not
personal ads.  Her message did not say that she was ISO or otherwise
solicit email "of that kind."

Do you believe that women who dress in a certain way and get raped are only
getting what they deserve?

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|Now that I have a reader that can do .sigs, I can't think of a witty |
|one to put here, so I won't.  All normal disclaimers apply.          |
+---------------------------------------------------------------------+
Newsgroups: alt.personals
From: bacon@mtu.edu (Jeff Bacon)
Subject: Re: WANTED: A REAL GENTLEMAN
Organization: Michigan Technological University
Date: Sun, 22 Nov 1992 08:10:25 GMT

In article <19490@ucdavis.ucdavis.edu> ez018196@hamlet.ucdavis.edu writes:
>bacon@mtu.edu (Jeff Bacon) writes:
>: I'm not.
>: There aren't.
>: We're all just slime now.
>They say acceptance of your problem is the first step toward recovery.
>Good luck, Jeff.

Of course, using the same line of thought, all women are evil bitches too.
So it really doesn't matter, does it? We all end up deserving each other one
way or the other. :)

-bacon, completely non-serious about this whole line of thought if you
haven't guessed by now
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Newsgroups: alt.personals,alt.personals.ads
From: ap.6576@cupid.sai.com
Subject: Couple ISO Couple (was anon3072)
Followup-To: alt.personals
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Reply-To: ap.6576@cupid.sai.com
Organization: EZ-Intro Contact Service
Date: Sun, 22 Nov 92 17:00:38 GMT
X-Iso: BF

This is a repost of an ad posted under the old (GODIVA) system that
is now defunct.  Let it RIP - Sorry Karl, you tried.

Our old alias was anonymus+3072
Those who responded to it (3180 - Felicia and Rob) Please note.
    We tried to get in touch with you but have no idea if mail made it.

Repost follows.

Couple in search of same.

We are a 24 and 26 year old couple in the Chicago - Indianapolis area
looking to meet other couples for companionship, friendship, and, if the
chemistry is right, sex.  We would like to meet you, get to know you, and
build a frienship/relationship that will be intellectually, emotionally,
and sexually satisfying.  We are just beginning to explore the possibilities
of this type of relationship - our experience is limited.
All responses will be answered.

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From: mcollins@db (Marty Collins)
Subject: Re: The real reason women don't post
Organization: Novell, Inc.
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Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 17:49:44 GMT

cpearson@ducvax.auburn.edu (MISTYEYES) writes:
: 
: C'mon guys, give us some great lines of conversation
: to answer back to?? that would help :)
: 
: 
: *lil helper*
: 
: Colleen
: 

But what is interesting to you? 

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From: davis@ucsu.Colorado.EDU (Barbara Davis)
Subject: Re: sorry: Reason no Girls
Organization: University of Colorado, Boulder
Date: Tue, 17 Nov 1992 00:16:07 GMT

CCS105@psuvm.psu.edu writes:

>Barb... I would hope that you would not just get up and leave so others can
>flame you... which sound familiar to a story about rai..

It is my intention to stay around.  I am having my job duties expanded so
may have my net.time curtailed temporarily.  And I will be around and lurking
ready to flame the really inane.

As none of the attempts to flame me have even arrived in my near vicinity, 
that would not be a reason to leave.

Barb

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University of Colorado, Boulder 

                   If I don't ask, you can't say, "Yes!".
From: ted@ECE.Concordia.CA (Tadeusz Obuchowicz)
Newsgroups: alt.personals
Subject: Anonymous Contact Service Dismantled
Keywords: Stephanie, hot wild sexy female
Date: 18 Nov 92 01:15:01 GMT
Distribution: alt.personals


This post is directed to that hot, wild,sexy, female stud Stephanie.
I tried to contact you through the Anonymous Contact Service but
it has been dismantled by the facilities staff at godiva@nectar...
I want to get in touch with you as you seem to be an intriguing
woman. Write me at ted@ECE.Concordia.Ca if you are interested in
carrying on some hot correspondence.


Newsgroups: alt.personals,alt.personals.ads
From: ap.207@cupid.sai.com
Subject: SWM ISO BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IN MIDWEST
Followup-To: alt.personals
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Organization: EZ-Intro Contact Service
Date: Sun, 22 Nov 92 17:11:07 GMT
X-Iso: SF


                           SWM in Madison Wisconsin

       SWM (27) with wine leaves in his hair is looking for a beautiful,
       intelligent woman (preferably a Redhead with full sensuous lips). 
       The ultimate woman to me is the educated one (preferably humanities
       such as art history and literature), who can enjoy watching foreign
       films, seeing house bands, having "pretend" conversations in coffee
       shops so as to upset the PC's, and read poetry in post-coital bliss. 
       Her sense of humour would be both highbrow and low as I can enjoy both
       Shakespearean comedies and Bill and Ted or even their evil twins
       at Wayne's World.  An appreciation of finer things such as Cuban cigars,
       motorcycles and French cognac would make you even more alluring.
       If you can ride even better. If this moves you write to me.




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From: bacon@mtu.edu (Jeff Bacon)
Subject: Re: I    In search of SF in LA area
Organization: Michigan Technological University
Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 16:22:02 GMT

In article <1eqc8gINNbug@gap.caltech.edu> cid@cco.caltech.edu (cid) writes:
>In article <1992Nov22.154157.25909@lemuria.sai.com> ap.293@cupid.sai.com writes:
>>I am a 19 year old sophomore college student looking for a SF in the 
>>LA area to have lots o' fun with.......I am 6'3", 200 pounds, with blue
>>eyes and brown hair.
>
>	You are kidding, right?
>
>	What has world come to ? Southern Californians posting ads on 
>	the nets rather than going to the beaches! 

maybe tired of beach-blanket-bingo?
*shrug*

-bacon, from the wrong coast to truly be saying much of anything
Newsgroups: alt.personals
From: tyger@netcom.com (Kristen Kohlbecker)
Subject: Re: Love defined
Organization:  I said WHAT!?!
Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 08:04:56 GMT

cjp8b@dayhoff.med.Virginia.EDU (Chris Penington) writes:
>tyger@netcom.com (Kristen Kohlbecker) writes:
>>ericf@npic.Corp.Sun.COM writes:
>>>gerg@netcom.com (Greg Andrews) writes:
>>>:freier@mail.physics.utah.edu (rodney james freier) writes:
>>>::gerg@netcom.com (Greg Andrews) writes:
>>>:::dchatham@utkvx2.utk.edu (Chatham, Doug) writes:
>>>::::slqmr@cc.usu.edu writes...
>>>:::::
>>>:::::Love is just an illusion created by the temporary, or permanent, need 
>>>:::::for sex!!                                                        ^^^^
>>>::::It's not a need, just a desire.
>>>:::It's not just a job, it's an ADVENTURE!
>>>::Tastes great, less filling.
>>>:Gotta have it.
>>>Uh huh!
>>It's the Real Thing
>It does a body good!
Buy that man a Miller!

Tyger

PS: HI!!!!! Long time no see, Chris! :)

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Newsgroups: alt.personals
From: ejv8r@Virginia.EDU ("Erika June Vines")
Subject: Re: Goodlooking, intelligent male (really)
Organization: University of Virginia
Date: Tue, 24 Nov 1992 03:12:09 GMT

Hello fellow wahoo.
I too am a third year at the prestigious Jefferson academic
resort.
I am eager to hear from you.  You can write me at
ejv8r@uva.pcmail.virginia.edu
I hope to hear from you soon!
--Erika
Newsgroups: alt.personals,alt.personals.ads
From: ap.6543@cupid.sai.com
Subject: Chubby Bi/G WM Seeks Good Looking guy
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Date: Sun, 22 Nov 92 16:59:09 GMT
X-Iso: BM


That is right. I a chubby bi/gay white male. 20yo who seeks an Adonis
stud.. well that is a fantasy. just agood loking guy. (seriously)

I have found one lover over the net (my first) and I would like to find my
second.

Me: Male 20 y/o, White, 6'2'', 295#, brown-hair, blue eyes, slight-no
hair on most of body except arms and legs.

you: male, 18-30, white, under 260#, any hair color, any eye color,

Dream guy: a hot frat boy. blond/brown hair with blue eyes. the taller the
better.

Will travel for the right man.

-MG

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From: ucw@vax5.cit.cornell.edu
Newsgroups: alt.personals
Subject: Why not?
Date: 23 Nov 92 00:48:54 EST
Distribution: world
Organization: Cornell University

SWM, who drinks too much on occassion, overturning furniture and eating
everything in the refrigerator, wakes up the next day to to swear off alcohol
and become a Zen Buddhist monk, only to find that $5.98 ATM balance won't cover air
air fare to the far east, returns home to turn furniture upright and explain to
housemates why all the food is gone, goes upstairs to room to compose senseles
poetry about his anguish over a pet dog that died 10 years ago only to realize
that he never had a dog...seeks S*F to act as muse, laugh at life's
absurdity in mutual temporary insanity, and do anything else that comes to                          
mind.

Respond via telepathy, astral projection, or e-mail. 
 












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From: ap.6600@cupid.sai.com
Subject: 20_years_old_ubiquitous_SAM_ISO_cute_SWF_for_email_correspondences
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Date: Sun, 22 Nov 92 16:04:53 GMT
X-Iso: SF

	I have been walking on the dewy spring meadow, following the
sweet melody of your harp, looking for you, my dearest nymph. Not
having found you, I am in dispare; I sadly sit down on a moss-covered
rock of a thousand years on the bank of an life-teeming pond, gazing
into the quiet spring water. Haply I see your reflection upon the
emerald body of water; I raise my eyes, and I see you, wearing a
garland of roses on you head, strumming out the most enchanting music
of the Muses under a large old tree; the warm breezes of the spring
lightly brushes across your smiling countenance. You are so bewitching
in the rising sun; you are radiant beauty; you are the incarnation of
nature.  I come near you, lay down my sword and my shiny armor, and
kneel down before you. I kiss your hand, and I pledge my fidelity to
you. I have become your knight; the ice in my heart has melted in this
sacred and romantic spring.

	I sow the seeds in the fertile field in the valley; you herd
the sheep on the green hills. I look upward the hills; I see the warm
spring wind mischievously play with your hair. You look in my
direction; I smile, and I know you do, too. The scents of the tilled
soil, of the lush grass, and of the flowers have never brought me so
much joy.

	The thunder rolls, and the summer rain pours. We take shelter
under the tree of antiquity where we first met. I embrace you, and we
kiss. The summer night is clear; we enjoy the peaceful night on the
top of the hill; we gaze upon the starry sky; we thank Mother Nature
for the wonders she has brought us; we talk about our future, which is
as boundless as the tranquil universe.

	The leaves start to turn brilliantly colorful. I harvest the
field, and you apply your talent and skill on the loom. We rejoice
over the fruit of our labor and out dedication.

	The snow falls. I watch you sleep, snuggling in warmth. Your
expression is sweetly serene and happy. I silently swear to myself:
"From the far, far Orient I have come to you, my dearest nymph of
illustrious beauty; for you, I will dedicate my life, and having had
you, I can withstand the all the chills of the world."

I am a 20-years-old Asian male, undergraduate. I am looking for an
emotionally mature SWF, who is made in the United States, for long
term relationship. I am not a giant; I am 5'5". I am not as concerned
with appearance as I seem. If I am of no interest to you, I won't
worry, for I still have my old time Rock n' Roll.

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From: cress@sportster.ksu.ksu.edu (Garrett C Cress)
Newsgroups: alt.personals
Subject: RE: Election 92
Date: 19 Nov 1992 13:01:19 -0600
Organization: Kansas State University
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In article <92323.173424TAM131@psuvm.psu.edu>, <TAM131@psuvm.psu.edu> writes:
>Gee I guess you people have nothing better to do then try and make really bad
>attempts at flamming me.  Perhaps you all can get a group rate for some
>comedy lessons.
>
>                     Todd

==================================================================================

Or you could get a discount rate on some personality lessons

                                       the gmeister
Newsgroups: alt.personals
From: jcarr4@mach1.wlu.ca (judy carr 9207 U)
Subject: Wanted:  Michael in Boston
X-Newsreader: TIN [version 1.1 PL6]
Organization: Wilfrid Laurier University
Date: Wed, 18 Nov 1992 02:18:36 GMT

....formerly anonymus+1129.....

To paint my toenails!

Why did you suddenly stop writing?  Please, send me some word!
From: coleman@rocky.cs.ucla.edu (Mike Coleman)
Newsgroups: alt.personals
Subject: Re: Supergoofs
Date: 16 Nov 92 03:04:11 GMT
Organization: UCLA, Computer Science Department

I'm under the impression that "Goof" is kind of a term of endearment down
under, maybe kind of equivalent to "Silly" up here.  Can anyone enlighten me?

Mike


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