From: Jason.Wong@p0.f118.n244.z1.fidonet.org (Jason Wong)
Newsgroups: k12.chat.senior
Subject: Re: Love 'n Divorce nDeath?
Date: Tue, 25 Aug 92 12:39:01 PST
Organization: FidoNet node 1:244/118.0 - Renzo's Roost, Hamilton ON

Hi Rah, 
-=> Quoting Sarah Ferrel to Jason Wong on 08-24-92  01:14 <=-

 SF> Love does take rime! That love at a first sight hting is juat a myth!
 SF> People say that but I guess if you find someone that appealing then
 SF> you will make the effort to get to know them or learn to love them? ya
 SF> think? What is especially hard is when your infatuation is ending and
 SF> you dont know which directon to go! Splitsville or love? It can be a
 SF> hard decision! (you will have to excuse the typing! It is 1am)
That's why I think that it's kinda 'dangerous' to date someone without
really knowing them. I don't think it's good to date someone based on an
infatuation...like you said, what happens when the infatuation wears out?!
I think you can use infatuation properly by getting courage to talk to the
person, but NOT asking for a date. You talk to the person in a group setting
and observe his/her behaviour and so on.....but I think this is kinda hard
to do objectively especially when you're "in love". Well, at least keep it
in mind, right?

 JW> No. My parents are not divorced, but my father is deceased. How did
 SF> For a minute there I thought you were lucky having your parents
 SF> together and then about oyur father I'm sorry to haer that he is
 SF> deceased, Did you know him well? you dont have to talk about it if
 SF> oyu dont want too!
I knew my father really well. We got along great. Actually, I got along with 
my dad much better than my mom. My dad and I understood each other and in
many things, we didn't have to say much. Like when I make him upset, and I 
know that I'm wrong, I never really said sorry, but my actions projected my
regrets so my dad knew that I was sorry. My dad was a really nice guy, he
earned lots of respect from his coworkers and his bosses too. He never had
much formal education but I thought that he was very wise...just from his
lifelong experiences. Well, that's what I say to a lot of people younger than
me....that is to listen to older people (especially grandparents :] ), they
have a lot of wisdom (most of them) and we can learn from all that experience.
Even though sometimes they may seem way out of base, but they've had the 
same general experiences. I guess I'm telling you that too. :] 
 
 SF> I dont mind talking about it anymore but I was a wreck when it
 SF> happened! It was about 7 years ago (I'm 15) so I was pretty young! I
 SF> kept blaming myself for all the times I made my mother mad at my
 SF> father for not letting me do things! and things of that sort, I kinda
 SF> drew myself into a shell and didnt want to believe reality. After
 SF> awhile I learned that what was done was done and that I had
 SF> absoulutely no power over  it so I had no choice but too make the best
 SF> out of it! And I have gained 3 sisters a brother-in-law and a nephew
 SF> out of it. Sometimes I wonder what would have happened if they hadnt
 SF> split but it doesnt bother me anymore because they are bothe better
 SF> off with the spouses they have now.
I'm glad you feel better now and things are going well! I hope you're not 
continuing to blame yourself 'cause I don't think it is ever the children's
fault. I'm glad that you noticed that they are better off with their new
spouses.

 SF> I agree with you! That was what happened with some of my
 SF> relataionmships! I didnt really know the guy! I guess thats why my
 SF> voyfriend and I work so well! It's really funny because we were
 SF> friends and we used to come to each otherw ith problems in our
 SF> lovelife and after our seperate relationships ended we kinda felt the
 SF> same way about things and eachother! Yesterday was our 6 month
 SF> anniversairy. Sometimes I wonder if I shouldnt be with some one this
 SF> long while I am in highschool but then I think of how well things are
 SF> and i say NAH! 
Well...Happy Anniversary!!! I'm glad things are going so well with you and 
your boyfriend. I think it's okay to be with someone that long while you're
in highschool....but just take it slow (you know what I mean?).. you both
still have a lot of life ahead of you. Don't let peer pressure get to you.
And most importantly, if you ever have arguments and difficulties with him,
bring your problems to each other and don't go to a 3rd person. I have two 
friends whom have been dating for about 7 yrs...since grade 11. Well, I use
to talk to the girl a lot and she said that their relationship is going well
'cause whenever they have problems, they keep it to themselves and maybe 
include their parents but no one else. Otherwise, misunderstandings can 
happen. Again....my 2 cents worth. :]

 SF> You like the uniform? I dont have to wear one but sometime si wonder
 SF> if that would be easier!? You odnt have to fit in because everyonre is
 SF> wearing the smae thing! but NO! I go to a public highschool
 SF> sometimews ithink i have it good and then other times well.......
Actually, I don't mind the uniform. I think dressing up like that will make
me feel more professional and give me a better attitude towards the work. It's
just that I'll have to make sure that I get comfortable clothing and shoes!
Yeah, I know what you mean about fitting in with the crowd. It is pretty hard
being a teenager, I think especially for girls.

TTYL

Jason




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