From: an5622@anon.penet.fi
Subject:  SF seeks male friends
Organization: Anonymous contact service
X-Anonymously-To: alt.personals.ads
Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 05:04:59 GMT

Hi,
I posted an ad a few weeks ago and received many replies, more than I
could possibly answer in that short time.  I've reproduced the first few
lines of my ad so that you'll be reminded of its content. I'd like to
add a few more specifics to the original so that both you and I won't be
disappointed, and so that you'll have a clearer picture of what I am
looking for.
    First, I'd like to reiterate that I am looking for friendship first.  I rea
lly do believe that this is where all relationships should begin.  That doesn't
 mean that I don't acknowledge that the character of relationships can change,
just that I am want to work on creating the kind of emotional connection
and intimacy that I believe has to exist as the basis for anything that will
be long lasting.  Second, I am mainly looking for people who are more local,
meaning within four hours driving time, not flying time.  This is because
if we do build a friendship through the net, I would eventually like to
meet you sometime, and my current circumstances don't allow me the luxury of ex
tensive travel.  I will, however, answer replies that indicate that you have
done some thinking about life, relationships, etc.  I am really looking for
replies from men who are at least 30; this is because I think experience is
the one of the best teachers in life and I have found that men who are this age
 or older are more likely to have shared similar experiences to the ones that
I have had so far.  I'm not saying that younger men haven't had these experienc
s, only that it seems as if older men have thought more about what these
events mean; they're "older & wiser."
  Friendship at this point in my life is important.  I'm looking for men who in
 some ways can listen and relate in a 'serious' way.  I don't mean serious in a
 romantic sense, either.  I'm at one of those points in life where a rather
important event has led to much reflection about myself, my relationships, and
life.  I hope that you and I can discuss these topics and learn something about
 ourselves in the process.  Although I have many questions and thoughts to
share about life, I do not spend all of my time in such profound thought.  I
enjoy many activities, and often try new things just for the joy of sharing them
   Because I am looking for friendship at the moment (but I always remain open
to other possibilities), I don't think it's that important for me to know what
you look like or for you to know what I look like.  I also don't initially offe
r a physical description of myself because I want to avoid any stereotypical
preconceptions you might have of me based on my appearance.  I will (if you ask
) give you that information, but only after we have "conversed" for a while.
Hope to hear from all interested (& interesting) men who believe we can offe
r something to each other that will be mutually satisfying and enjoyable.

Text of first ad:
I am a single, never been married, recently unattached woman looking for
friendship, companionship, laughter, fun, and conversation. I would like
to converse with men who have experienced the ups and downs that come
with serious or long-term relationships and who are not afraid or
uncomfortable talking about them.  Because I have only recently been on
my own again after a long relationship, I am enjoying living as a single
woman, unfettered by society's and other people's demands and look
forward to creating a life that is fulfilling to me, that meets my needs
and wants as an individual whether or not I am involved in any romantic
relationships.
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