HDTenEightyP/NetNews huggingface dataset:
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: How Important Is Being IN-LOVE?
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Fri, 16 Oct 92 17:41:06 GMT

In article <92289.003010SAUNDRSG@QUCDN.QueensU.CA> Graydon <SAUNDRSG@QUCDN.QueensU.CA> writes:
>From someone with one oar in the water; immediacy of feeling inversely
>correlates with long term stability contribution.
>
>*very* immediate lustful thoughts don't do much for long term relationships.
>"in love" states (the desire to be important enough to someone that
>meaningfulness for yourself can be derived from it) aren't very long
>term either, although more so than the lustful thoughts.

I don't think that's a universal rule (it may not even be usually the rule);
for me, the more immediate and intense a reaction is, the more persistent
and enduring it is likely to be.  Personally, I'd put the lustful thoughts
as one of the most important aspects of a long-term romantic relationship.

Trygve     (Who has been known to have some stable lustful thoughts; 
            fortunately the horses didn't seem to mind what the two
            of us were doing.)
From: thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Vicky Boink.
Date: 15 Oct 92 20:48:15 GMT
Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
X-Disclaimer: This message was written by a user at CONVEX Computer
              Corp. The opinions expressed are those of the user and
              not necessarily those of CONVEX.

In <1992Oct13.045708.8279@bmerh85.bnr.ca> myhui@bnr.ca (Michael Hui) writes:

>How about all the _very_ nice Chinese restaurants around town? A
>different one each night can keep you busy for a week even if you only
>try all the best ones.

My fave: The Fortune Garden at Broadway and Granville.  Hot-and-sour
soup so think you'll want to use a fork (hmmm, that sounds familiar :-)
Just great stuff.

Other ideas:  the Nitobe Gardens out at UBC, the Grouse Mountain skyride.

Rob T
--
Rob Thurlow, Networking Technical Leader
Convex Computer Corporation, Richardson, TX
(214) 497-4405		thurlow@convex.com
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From: adw3345@ultb.isc.rit.edu (A.D. Williams)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance,alt.romance.chat,talk.bizarre
Subject: Re: How long has it been?
Date: 11 Oct 92 19:38:55 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: Rochester Institute of Technology
Originator: adw3345@ultb

In article <1992Oct8.164220.472@bradley.bradley.edu> dave@bradley.bradley.edu (David Vessell) writes:
>mneeley@nyx.cs.du.edu (Mark Neeley) writes:
>
>>How long has it been since you were kissed by a member of
>>the opposite sex?
>>
>>	Mark (almost a year)
>
>Nine months, five days.
>


 Twenty two years.


                                                 Derrick

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From: bruce@uxb.liv.ac.uk (Bruce Stephens)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: I need advice on girlfriends fantasies.
Date: 12 Oct 92 10:30:40 GMT
Organization: Centre for Mathematical Software Research, Univ. Liverpool, UK

>>>>> On 12 Oct 92, rhoge1@esk.compserv.utas.edu.au ([Robert James Hoge]) said:

> Hi.
> [...] I also have a problem about other girls.  Mainly friends of my girl-
> friend or friends of my friends.  These girls are always trying something
> with me, like trying to get me into bed with them, or trying to get me to
> leave my girlfriend for them.  These girls are quite rich and very beautiful,
> but so is my girlfriend. ... and now MY girlfriend
> has gotten this fantasy in her head to have a threesome or even a foursome
> with one or two of her friends.  This may all sound quite fine, but I am
> getting confused about my girlfriend and where I stand.

To misquote Douglas Adams, this is obviously some strange new usage of
the word "problem" of which I wasn't previously aware.

--
Bruce
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: relationship gone to pot?
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Fri, 16 Oct 92 17:34:37 GMT

In article <73415@apple.Apple.COM> stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
>>Trygve   (Who has determined that there are at least four common sexual
>>          orientations--hetero, homo, bi, and confused.) 
>
>Here are some more: top, bottom, middle, and "I like to watch."

Top and bottom?  I suppose that means that there must also be strange
and charmed as well. 

>Stef          (do you always eat the middle of the oreo first?)

Of course--though getting the ring of leftover oreo cookie consistently
symmetrical took a bit of practice.

Trygve   (Who always prefered truth and beauty anyway.)
From: aahz@netcom.com (Mean Green Dancing Machine)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: this conference
Date: 11 Oct 92 16:26:15 GMT
Organization: Bill 'n' Opus for Prez

In article <226.3407.uupcb@synapse.org> doug.hewko@synapse.org (Doug Hewko)  writes:
>
>I am new to this conference, and can someone please tell me exactly
>what this conference is for?  Over here, it is called a singles
>conference, but I noticed someone posted a singles ad but got told by
>the moderator (???) that the message was in the wrong place....

It is a singles *discussion* group, not a place for personals.  Also,
there's no moderator -- if you post something inappropriate, you get the
pants flamed off you.
-- 
                         --- Aahz (the *other* Dan Bernstein)
                             @netcom.com 

Hugs and backrubs -- I break Rule 6

Who needs Lime Jello [tm]?  We had lasagna.....
From: stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: older women
Date: 14 Oct 92 17:07:48 GMT
Organization: Apple Computer Inc., Cupertino, CA

2893684@QUCDN.QueensU.CA writes:

>OK, here's my situation. I'm a 23 year old student. Over the past year or so
>I've grown very close to a woman who's 39 (turning 40 in 6 weeks). 
[...]
>Do I wait and hope she comes around? Do I
> put matters on the table in a serious discussion and risk harming our
> friendship?  Do I just give up any hope of a serious relationship with her?

It depends on how much you want a relationship with her, rather than what
you have now. If you really want it, then go for the serious discussion. If
you don't, or you don't know, then wait and see what happens.

I guess the biggest problem with a relationship that has a big age
difference is that the parties may be at different stages in life and want
different things. Also, the younger person is likely to change more, and
more rapidly. This is not a problem with a friendship or a short-term
relationship, but it becomes more of a problem if you try to make it into a
long-term relationship.

I've tried it and I personally don't think that relationships with that big
of an age difference are a good idea -- although close friendships with
people who are a lot older or younger are really wonderful. (But I'm sure
some people have different outlooks on the matter.)

--
Stef                 In the force if Yoda's so strong, construct a 
stef@apple.com       sentence with words in the proper order then 
                     why can't he?                         /fortune
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From: wjb@moscom.com (Bill de Beaubien)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance,alt.romance.chat,alt.politics.homosexuality
Subject: Re: Ok, Lets Do it Right the First time
Date: 15 Oct 92 13:27:44 GMT
Reply-To: wjb@moscom.com
Organization: Moscom Corp., Pittsford NY
X-Newsreader: TIN [version 1.3 beta PL7]

drieux, just drieux (drieux@wetware.com) wrote:
: and merely interested in the matter of the 
: utilization of the notion/actualization of
: Oral Germ TransMission between oppsoing
: Gender Delimiting Toteems.

Germ warfare between the sexes, hmm?  We all knew it would come to this
eventually...
-- 
Who needs lime jello?  We had lasagna...
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Bill de Beaubien / wjb@moscom.com 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: earhard@ug.cs.dal.ca (Mark Earhard)
Subject: Re: Qui est le plus MUSHY?
Organization: Math, Stats & CS, Dalhousie University, Halifax, NS, Canada
Date: Wed, 14 Oct 1992 17:09:06 GMT

In article <1992Oct14.084826.27664@sol.UVic.CA> atovorni@engr.UVic.CA writes:
>In article 3880@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu, dkeller@nyx.cs.du.edu (Dave Keller) writes:
>>atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (Andreas  Tovornik) writes:
>>>   A recent experience has compelled me to post this.
>>>[your thoughts on sentimentality deleted]
>>But with time we all learn - and get hard-hearted.  We go from starry-eyed
>>nice-guy to flaming jerk.  Which is better anyway since that is what women
>>want.
>>
>>Quick!  Someone flame me cruelly!  I may not be a total jerk yet - I need
>>help!
>
>Sometimes on rare occasions, I still find it hard to be a jerk.

Focus[tm], you need Focus.  And lots of practice.  Go be a jerk for a solid
hour today, two tomorrow, etc...

Back on topic, I've seen plenty of sentimental guys (My best friend can
make me quite ill *very* easily) and plenty of sentimental women, and
my personal opinion is that I don't agree with the original poster.

What?  You *DIDN'T* want sweeping generalizations?

Marcus.
-- 
__
Mark Earhard -      earhard@ug.cs.dal.ca -       07marcus@ac.dal.ca
Reclaimer:  GIVE ME THAT BACK THIS INSTANT!      BRING THE NOISE!
From: markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Lookin for Karen Bishman
Date: 14 Oct 1992 03:32:43 GMT
Organization: Computing Services Division, University of Wisconsin - Milwaukee
NNTP-Posting-Host: 129.89.7.4

In article <1b4u90INNgjp@uwm.edu> markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark) writes:
>Okay Trygve.  Fess up.  Have you been keeping her in your dungeon too??

In article <1992Oct13.203650.29292@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>Oh, no--I'm not *keeping* her in my dungeon; she's free to leave at any
>time.  (Or, at least, she's free to try to persuade me to unlock the
>door--it's not the same as *keeping* her there at all.) 

From Not the BBC News:
>  "The Security Council yesterday afternoon passed a resolution demanding
>   that Trygve open up his dungeon to international inspection."

>International inspection?  Does that mean they're sending Emma over?

Well, perhaps ... if only she were free to leave at any time. (*GRIN*)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (Andreas  Tovornik)
Subject: Re: How long has it been?
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Fri, 16 Oct 92 00:30:52 GMT

In article Bys@mtholyoke.edu, gmedina@MtHolyoke.edu (Glorimar Medina) writes:
>Well, it has been a month and four days.Since my boyfriend broke up with
>me. It was a LDR, i wish we could have worked through it but guess it
>wasn't meant to be. Can't really complain, we had a very wonderful time
>while the relationship lasted. We have remained friends. At times it is
>really hard to handle missing him so much though. Guess i'm on the
>rebound. And there are not any available men
>                                             in a women's college! Help!
>                               GLORI


Rubber ball, come bouncing back to you....
                                               --Bobby Vee
From: dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: To whoever it was who asked me for advice a week or two ago
Date: 16 Oct 92 20:28:40 GMT
Reply-To: dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Organization: Bolt Beranek and Newman Inc., Cambridge MA
NNTP-Posting-Host: bbn.com

I hate wasting bandwidth by posting things like this, but I think it would
be ruder to not respond, so here it goes.

A week or two ago, someone responded to an old post of mine and asked
me specifically for some advice on what a guy who didn't have much experience
with dating could do to meet women.  I remember he said something about
electric trains being a big hobby of his.  Unfortunately, I've had an
inner ear infection for the past three weeks and have been mostly off the
net.  Actually, I've been working lying flat on the floor of my office so
the room wouldn't spin.  Anyway, to make a long story short, the post has
expired at my site, I don't have a clue who the guy is, and I don't remember
much of what the post said.  If the person who wrote it is reading this,
please send it to me again, or if anyone else has it saved or knows the
gentleman's e-mail address then please pass it on.  I don't want him to
think I'm snubbing him.

Dawn
"Oh, Time!  Of all the dwellers here below 
You only elevate buffoons or fools,
Or him whose anus as an inkstand serves."
The Perfumed Garden of the Shaykh Nefzawl, translated by Sir Richard F. Burton
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: ewillims@unix1.tcd.ie (Emma Williams)
Subject: Re: Lookin for Karen Bishman
Organization: Trinity College, Dublin
Date: Wed, 14 Oct 1992 17:25:28 GMT

In <1bg4crINNt78@uwm.edu> markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark) writes:

>In article <1b4u90INNgjp@uwm.edu> markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark) writes:
>>Okay Trygve.  Fess up.  Have you been keeping her in your dungeon too??

>In article <1992Oct13.203650.29292@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>>Oh, no--I'm not *keeping* her in my dungeon; she's free to leave at any
>>time.  (Or, at least, she's free to try to persuade me to unlock the
>>door--it's not the same as *keeping* her there at all.) 

>From Not the BBC News:
>>  "The Security Council yesterday afternoon passed a resolution demanding
>>   that Trygve open up his dungeon to international inspection."

>>International inspection?  Does that mean they're sending Emma over?

>Well, perhaps ... if only she were free to leave at any time. (*GRIN*)

	(*SIGH!*)  When one is sooo famous, it is soooo hard to be really
free.  The adulation of one's fans is sooo demanding!:)

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (Andreas  Tovornik)
Subject: Re: Wanted Straight Female
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Wed, 14 Oct 92 08:24:56 GMT

In article 28301@usl.edu, cs261159@ucs.usl.edu (Yu Ying-Bin) writes:
>          I am looking a warm and sinceer women. I am 25, from
>   R.O.C and I don't bother which part of country are you from. I
>   am looking for the person not any nationality,color or race. I
>   am a very honest person. Please send email at cs261159@ucs.usl.edu.


Don't you hate it when the penpals gang crossposts?

Andreas.
From: wjb@moscom.com (Bill de Beaubien)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Vicky Boink.
Date: 13 Oct 92 13:48:31 GMT
Reply-To: wjb@moscom.com
Organization: Moscom Corp., Pittsford NY
X-Newsreader: TIN [version 1.3 beta PL7]

John Fereira (johnf@Auspex.COM) wrote:
: I would expect that Buschart Gardens would be an attraction.  How about
: a trip to Nanaimo for some of those famous Nanaimo bars we've heard about?
Which I never did get a recipe for... (hint, hint.)
-- 
Who needs lime jello?  We had lasagna...
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Bill de Beaubien / wjb@moscom.com 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: SeesterSizeWars
Organization: my opinions only
Distribution: na 
Date: Thu, 15 Oct 1992 20:50:19 GMT

In article <1992Oct14.072925.9554@netcom.com> cocoa@netcom.com writes:

>Hey!  I have *four* seesters!  What can I get for them, I wonder.

Let me think about that...

>Just me,

Sounds like a fair trade.

Seth		sethb@fid.morgan.com
From: stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Memories
Date: 14 Oct 92 04:46:08 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: Apple Computer Inc., Cupertino, CA

jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton) writes:

> Philly philly philly boink, a go home. You can't push philly round
>philly won't go. Try tellin everybody but Oh No. Philly philly philly
>boink. A go home. 

Yow, it's Little Philly by The Sweet!

--
Stef                           Who needs lime jello?  We had lasagna...
stef@apple.com                                         
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: gjh@galen.med.Virginia.EDU (Galen J. Hekhuis)
Subject: Re: Last/Mohicans - "Not" based on a book?
Organization: University of Virginia Health Sciences Center
Date: Thu, 8 Oct 1992 14:10:04 GMT

In article <1992Oct7.175221.227700@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu> jm0i@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu (JOSEPH ALOYSIUS MCVEIGH) writes:

}The operative word is "reasonably."  

Wasn't it filmed in North Carolina?  I guess "reasonably" means east of
the Mississippi...

--
       hang gliding mailing list: hang-gliding-request@virginia.edu 
     Galen Hekhuis  UVa Health Sci Ctr (804)982-1646 gjh@virginia.edu
                   We are the Cro-Magnon of the future!
From: falk@peregrine.Sun.COM (Ed Falk)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: wanted straight female
Date: 9 Oct 92 00:07:45 GMT
Organization: Sun Microsystems, Mt. View, Ca.
NNTP-Posting-Host: peregrine

In article <1992Oct7.123700.1@opie.bgsu.edu> tb205cs@opie.bgsu.edu writes:
>hello my name is Mike. All i want is a straight female ...

I prefer the ones with curves myself, but there's no accounting for
taste.  Anyway, yer in the wrong newsgroup.

		-ed falk, sun microsystems
		 sun!falk, falk@sun.com
To be loyal to rags, to shout for rags, to worship rags, to die for rags 
-- that is a loyalty of unreason, it is pure animal (Mark Twain).
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: barry@netcom.com (Kenn Barry)
Subject: Re: More Questions we all wanted to ask
Organization: QQQCLC
Date: Sat, 10 Oct 1992 05:25:28 GMT

In article <1992Oct9.195027.173217@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu> jm0i@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu (JOSEPH ALOYSIUS MCVEIGH) writes:
>If your arms were removed, which would you rather have in their place: two
>bear claws, or a bionic arm and a pocket fisherman?

	How 'bout a roach clip and a dildo?

						Kayembee
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: hoyle@beaufort.sfu.ca (Michelle Hoyle)
Subject: Dating Older MOTOS
Summary: Dating Older People  Good?  Not?
Keywords: Dating, Older, Men, Women, Age, Gaps
Organization: Simon Fraser University, Burnaby, B.C., Canada
Date: Thu, 8 Oct 1992 20:54:33 GMT

Continuing along with my previous line of thought, I think that it 
should be painfully obvious to all of us that it's not actually a
problem of physical age that affects whether or not a relationship
is going to work out, regardless of the age gap between the    
participants.  What does make the difference is the psychological
state of mind - the level of maturity, if you will.  As has been
pointed out, there are people in their 30's and 40's who have the
mind and attitudes of a teenager, and I do not mean this as they are
"young at heart".  At the other end of the spectrum, there are those
in their 20's who have been shaped by their own will and their experiences
and are more mature.

Someone pointed out that the trick is to find some one who is in the
same life stage, or equal to you, and I think that they have a valid
point.  If your significant person and yourself are reasonably
well-matched on life experiences, intellect, and libido, there is no
reason why you cannot make it work out despite any large age gaps.

The reason that I myself am hesitant when the gap reaches 20+ years
is that it's often very hard to find a positive correlation between
all of these items.  What are the chances that a woman 20 years older
than you is going to have the same sex drive or similar life experiences
as yourself at the age of 20?  Not very good, probably.

The case on Oprah where we had the 16 year old girl (and I mean "girl"!)
going to drop out of school and marry a 40+ year old man strikes me as
being incredibly wrong.  There is no way on Heaven or on Earth that she
and he will have similar life experiences.  She's so young that she
has not yet even finished shaping her personality, and dropping out of
school to have it warped by a much more serious, mature person hardly
strikes me as being ideal for personal growth and development in a
positive fashion.

Again, my $0.50 worth.

Michelle -- The Quirky Blonde Sysop (QBS)


Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance,alt.romance.chat,talk.bizarre
From: ssalter@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (-=[SLS]=-)
Subject: Re: How long has it been?
Organization: OFSA
Distribution: na
Date: Thu, 8 Oct 1992 17:55:15 GMT

>>How long has it been since you were kissed by a member of
>>the opposite sex?
>>
>>	Mark (almost a year)
>
>Nine months, five days.
>

Oh, around five hours I suppose. It was one of those kisses meant to
last all day until I got off work...Long and slow and sensuous and
warm. Her lips sliding over mine smoothly and our mouths parting and
tongues slipping out to taste one another...our bodies pressed
together tightly....a slow sweet ending to the kiss and deep look in
each others eyes and a soft smile as I left the house.

why?

Steve
From: taina@cs.Helsinki.FI (Juha Taina)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Qui est le plus MUSHY?
Date: 16 Oct 92 12:24:46 GMT
Organization: University of Helsinki, Finland

In <JULIE.92Oct15160821@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu> julie@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu (Julie Wright) writes:

>I do agree that many women go out with people I think are
>jerks, as do many men.  But it isn't at all clear to me that they go
>out with those people *because* they're jerks.  In most cases, I think
>they try desperately to ignore their partner's obnoxious qualities in
>order to put up with the things they like.  (Or they just may not have
>the same ideas of what a jerk is as I do, in other cases.)  

Sometimes I see people that I think have no taste about clothing.
They would look great if they had even a faintest idea what clothes
fit them.  Every now and then I see people that use absolutely
horrible hair styles or have no idea what makeup is for.  But then
again, these people look happy.  They have their style and at least
they seem to be proud of it.  Who am I to judge them anyway?  They
probably think that I don't have a clue about clothing or hair style.

The same is true to relationships.  I can't point someone and say that
she is dating a jerk.  She might be happy with him and think that I
would be a lot worse choice.  Tastes differ.  I am proud of me, and I
am not going to be an actor in order to attract someone.  If someone
doesn't like me, it's her loss.
-- 
Juha Taina  taina@cs.helsinki.fi  Phone: +358-0-708-4247
From: markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Lookin for Karen Bishman
Date: 9 Oct 1992 21:40:48 GMT
Organization: Computing Services Division, University of Wisconsin - Milwaukee
NNTP-Posting-Host: 129.89.7.4

In article <1992Oct9.202822.2518@newsgate.sps.mot.com> beutel@chdasic.sps.mot.com writes:
>Desparately seeking Karen Bishman. Graduated Florida,
>Gainsville early 80's Computer Science Major. Worked 
>for Lockheed, ARCO, IMS Consulting all in southern 
>California.

Okay Trygve.  Fess up.  Have you been keeping her in your dungeon too??

(Do she have any seesters??)

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  "The Security Council yesterday afternoon passed a resolution demanding
   that Trygve open up his dungeon to international inspection."
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