From: bhchan@soda.berkeley.edu (Billy H. Chan)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.hongkong
Subject: ILHC: Weekly Love Story 11/16/92
Date: 16 Nov 1992 21:34:29 GMT
Organization: U.C. Berkeley, CS Undergraduate Association
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	Title:_Love_Forever_
					"Though we may be apart,
					you will always be in my heart."
							- Myra Ting
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	The first time I met her was at an interview for enrolling in a
chinese course.  I had no impression of her, that is no good impression,
because I thought she's too "inch"(translate that to Cantonese).  As I
anticipated no further encounter with her, or any of the people I saw that
day for that matter,  I guess my impression on her was just the same.  For
one reason or another, I couldn't even say that I like her one single bit.
	The second time I met her was the first day of class.  I was
pleasantly surprised because I thought for sure that she was going to take
another course.  Well, still no special impressions, but this time
certainly not "inch".  
	Our class was once a week on Tuesday nights, and before I know it,
it was already Christmas exam.  I still didn't know much about her, but
out of all the people in the class (10 of us), I actually got along with
her the best.  She was different, I guess a lot more mature than any girl
I know at her age.  I was attracted to her, but I did not really think
about it at the time;  I still don't really know her.
	We returned from winter holidays after 3 weeks, and life resumed
as normal on Tuesdays.  Somehow, at one time, we really got to know each
other a lot better.  In a matter of weeks, we were talking as if we have
known each other for years.  This time, I can no longer ignore my
attraction to her.  I questioned myself why I like her, and I actually can
logically pick out the reasons why.  With previous relationships, I can
only say "I dunno?".  Speaking from the male perspective, there can be
many reasons for having a girlfriend:  loneliness, convenience, etc.,
(maybe even the "s" word!), but even I have to agree that most YOUNG men
do not have a totally mature attitude when it comes to relationships. 
This one was different:  I simply want to be with her, get to know her,
and nothing else was important.  
	I did not hesitate much in coming to my decision to tell her about
my feelings.  I gave her a dozen tulips and it was clear:  she was shocked
as hell!  Her reaction was actually quite unanticipated, and that night I
even skipped my Tuesday lecture midway.  I thought that it was too early
and I just blew it, I thought...
	The next morning, when I got back to my office, I found a letter
slipped under my door;  I thought I was dead meat.  When I opened the
letter, I read a different story.  Actually, she didn't reject me and
kicked me back to the other side of the Pacific.  Her message:  time.
	For the next few months, we went out, not on a daily or frequent
basis, but she was accepting me more and more.  I really felt that it's
not the number of times I see her that's important, but the attitude each
of us have, so I never complained that I don't see enough of her, or say
that she's too busy.  I've accepted this from Day1.  In fact, I've got to
know her well enough that I can confidently say to myself that I can wait
for her for 10 years, and that going slowly like this was not bothering me
at all.
	Well, the good part of the story ends here.  "yun fun" comes and
goes.  I'll skip the details, but now whenever I see her I don't see the
person I'll wait for 10 years anymore.  She can't totally accept me, and I
can't accept myself being treated like just and acquaintance.  When I
first met her it's exactly like Leon Lai's song "Wish we're not just
friends", and now it's changed to "wish we're not just normal
acquaintances".  
	Her feelings for me have grown cold, and I know that it is
unlikely that we'll have any new sparks.  I still love her, and I am still
waiting for her.  I don't know if I'llwait 10 years for her though.  No matter
who will be by my side in the future, I don't think anyone can take her
place.  She is the most "distinct" person I've ever known.

	Well, here's the story in a nutshell.  I didn't make it sound too
colorful, because it wasn't.  I really wanted it that way, that was what I
wanted and needed.  I guess loving her was by misfortune.

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