From: czeigler@uokmax.ecn.uoknor.edu (Coren Zeigler)
Subject: Parents
Organization: Engineering Computer Network, University of Oklahoma, Norman, OK
Distribution: alt.child-supprt
Date: Mon, 6 Apr 1992 09:37:25 GMT

I posted to this group a couple of weeks ago and boy did I ever get a
response. I touched a lot of peoples emotions from my post. I didn't intend
to be callous or uncaring as some people thought. I was just asking a 
question and was not aware that in order to not be flamed I had to tell
all of the details surrounding the question. That was my first post, FYI.

I am a female, aged 19 years old, a student at the University of Oklahoma,
majoring in radio-tv-film. My father is not paying my tuition for school,
nor have I or my mother asked him too. 

Up until last summer I had not seen or heard from my father in 10 (yes ten)
years. For some reason when I was eight years old he decided that he did
not want to have anything to do with me or my younger sister. It may have
been my mother's doing. I don't know. All's I know is that I was without
a father for 10 years and it hurt. I'm the one that got in touch with him
last May. It caused a *LOT* of problems within my family. My parents had
a very bitter divorce. There was no custody batttle over us, however. My
father did not want us. It hurt but Mandy and I got used to it and dealt with
it. 

I agree with Aaron (?) who said that children need their fathers. I missed
out a lot because I didn't have one. I talk to my father about once every
2 weeks now. My sister still refuses to have any contact whatsoever with
him. 

I am not telling people this story for want of sympathy, as I am sure many
of you will think. I am telling this so parents will have the view point
of a child who was put through sheer hell because of selfishness of her
parents. 

My father does not pay child support for me anymore. He cut me off
the minute I hit 18. Whoever commented on that was correct. 

I am trying to build some sort of relationship with my father. It is hard.
I know it will take lots of time, patience and understanding. 

I find it ironic that my mother and I are talking to my father and my 
sister isn't... They have talked on the phone several times and are
actually civil to each other. I have seen my father twice now. I plan
on seeing him many many more times. 

I did not ask for help for my mom out of despite for my dad. I did it
to help my mom, simple as that. I don't imagine he would try to get
out of paying but you never know. My mom is a teacher with one kid
in college, soon to be two next fall. 

I did not mean to offend anybody or start some kind of "war" here... I just
wanted some help for my mom. I am grateful to everyone who gave me advice
it will help, I'm sure! Well - I guess that is it. I have probably left
something out so if this seems a little vague, I'm sorry. - Cory
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