From: krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith)
Subject: Re: Attraction -> Acquiantance or vice versa?
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: usa
Date: Fri, 11 Dec 1992 20:31:01 GMT

In article <7872@news.duke.edu> infante@acpub.duke.edu (Andrew  Infante) writes:
>In article <1992Dec9.212121.13220@cbnewsk.cb.att.com> krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith) writes:
>>
>>	3) how many of you, actively and freely, spend significant amounts
>>	   of time with a woman whom you are not attracted to?
>
>I actually spent much time with my past girlfriends' friends, many times
>without my girlfriend.  I also didn't feel that my girlfriend was all that
>attractive when I first met her.  But then, we were all drunk anyway, and
>it was just a typical setup by my best friend.  I had no idea I'd go out
>with this girl for almost a year.

This makes me think back to events leading up to the SO-ness of myself and
a previous SO.  I remember seeing her walk down my street once, some time
before we met. I was not particularly impressed.  I thought that she needed
to gain a few pounds, learn how to wear her hair better, and wear the right
size brassiere. (she used to wear these brassieres that were a good cup-size
-or-so larger than she was, for some odd reason)  She was friends with some
of the women on my street since childhood, and happenned to live right around
the corner.  One day, she happenned to be in front of my house talking to a
couple of my neighbors.  I came outside, and the neighbors introduced us.
We made small-talk. I told her that I was into photography, cycling, and
heavy metal (iron, folx).  She told me that she was studying graphic design,
and was interested in cycing, heavy metal, and learning photography.  We
started spending some time together on that basis. It turned out that she
was a fairly strong cyclist, especially considering that piece-o-shit bike
that she had, and she was not adverse to working up a sweat under some iron.
What I am saying is...... homegirl had my attention :-).  It turned out that
she had designs on me by this point, but I was unaware of same, and as far
as any physical attraction on my part, the jury was still out.  Well one day
she came by in a red-on-red outfit; red jeans that fit like a second-skin,
and an off-the-shoulder halter top with puff sleves.  I was giving her the
"nickel tour" of the apartment, when she bent over to look out at the back
yard.  This was done for my benefit, as she confided at a later date.
Anyway, it worked..... like gangbusters!  When she bent at the hip, you see,
her hips made that perfect upside-down-valentine-heart-shape that is
guaranteed to set any man that _I_ know, weak in the knees.  Well, at least
that was the effect that it had on me!  On the outside, I was the picture
of serenity, but on the inside, I was gasping for breath, and clutching at
my chest/heart.  My calm exterior left her a bit unnerved.  She was _sure_
that I should have been turned on..... why doesn't he make a move on me?...
... is something _wrong_ with me?.... were the thoughts running through
her mind at the time, as she confided later.  Well, that day I decided that
she just had to be the sexiest babe on the planet, and that I just had to
have her.  I made my move, but not that day.  The rest is history.

Keith R

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