From: elf@halcyon.com (Elf Sternberg)
Subject: Re: What it is all about..
Originator: elf@halcyon.com
Reply-To: elf@halcyon.com (Elf Sternberg)
Organization: Pendor, UnLtd.
Date: Fri, 21 Aug 1992 12:21:53 GMT

In article <bazyar.714369316@teal>
     bazyar@teal.csn.org (Jawaid Bazyar) writes:

>bestr1070@bestsd.sdsu.edu (Alena) writes:
>
>>Bisexuality, for me, is an active choice and a philophosy.  A choice because 
>>of my philophosy and a philophosy for the following reason:
>
>>If it is to be said that a white person who will not date a black person is
>>"prejudice", then does it not follow that a person who will not think of you
>>in a sexual manner is also being prejudice.  The only reason that the male/
>>female combo is nessary is for procreation and with technology the way it is   >
>>today (or if you can just pick up a horny person off the street) then the 
>>procreations problem is solved.....

   Ah, but don't force that philosophy on other people; I have too many
straight and gay friends who would find living up to your philosophy
destructive.  A philosophy usually doesn't sit well with everybody;
there's always someone for whom it's counter-productive.

   For your information, btw, I tend to disagree that a white person
who will not date a black person is automaticallly "prejudiced."  There
may well be extenuating circumstances, fetish responses, and a general
lack of interest, after all.  I once had a friend of mine who dated a
black man break up after a while with the following line:  "We were the
same size, which was *perfect!*  But our colors are so different we
could never share wardrobe."

   There's usually a good reason for why an individual is attracted to
another individual.  I, for instance, go for older men, long hair, deep
voices.  Are you going to call me 'ageist', 'hairist', and 'voicist?'

>  It may be said that not dating a white who refuses to date a black is
>prejudiced, but are there not also blacks who are equally predudiced about
>interracial relationships?

   That's not the point.  _I_ think the phrase "I could never date her,
she's black" is a sure sign of stupidity, but I think "You shouldn't
date her, she's black" is a sign of dangerous prejudice.  I don't care
*which* race it comes from.

>  I think you're missing the point.  Who is going to provide the egg for
>two gay males who want to have children?  Who will be host mother?  Who
>will give the child a motherly influence?

   Who cares?  There will always be women (or are you denying the
existance of lesbians?  Melinda!  Turn off that damned cloaking
device!) just as there will always be men.  And I disagree that
children *need* a motherly influence; certainly there are thousands of
well-adjusted adults who had no motherly or no fatherly influence as
children, and there are thousands (nay, millions) of maladjusted kids
who had good parenting.  Life is a crapshoot, Jawaid, and no amount of
saying so is going to change that fact.  All we can do is educated the
next generation in the hopes that they will provide better care for
their children than our previous one did.

         Elf !!!
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