From: kkwwkk@mixcom.com (TA Shaw)
Subject: Re: Honesty, Honestly!
Organization: Milwaukee Internet Xchange BBS, Milwaukee, WI U.S.A.
Date: Wed, 23 Dec 1992 19:47:58 GMT





First off, [Hi Prez]

Second Off, [Now on to the show]

Julie writes:
>Depends on the relationship I guess, but I have learned that it can be
>a wonderful experience to have another person know everything
Yes it sure can, but the point I was trying to make is you don't
HAVE to know everything about your SO.  But as you stated, it depends
on your relationship.  We try so hard to have a cut and dried answer to
all our problems, but in some case there are none.  It is whatever works
for you and your relationships.

>Steven knows everything about me. 
What was your very first date like? No need to asnwer that here, but
does Steve know that?  For example, a very good friend of mine and I
were talking, don't remember about what, and I started laughing.  
[DRY WIT & Sarcasm Mode On]
If you know me, you know unusual that is. ;-)
[DRY WIT & Sarcasm Mode Off]
She asked me what I was laughing about and I told her about the first
"date" I had.  I was supposed to meet this girl at her house at around
9 or 10 in the evening.  I fell asleep and woke up around midnight.  Can
you beleive the relationship lasted only one date???? [laughing]  Anyway
this is not something that would come up as we were just talking in general
but somehow something trigger a memory. [PRESTO] Something was learned and
shared.  But as a matter of course, I do not tell her about dates that I have
had in my life.  In my opinion, it really is not anyone's business but mine
and the lady I dated.

>Steven knows everything about me.  And I him.  
>And it has helped us be closer IMHO.
I cannot argue with this.  

>and most people don't go to the trouble for a number of reasons. 
How does that song go,
"You look in the mirror and turn away,
 much easier to walk away 
 then to face what's deep inside" - Damn Yankees


>If my dreams included moving to England someday, and Steven's included
>becoming an American Astronaunt...it would have been unlikely that we
>should have married. 
Unlikely yes, but not impossible.  What Steve and you are doing is great
because it works for you.  For me and some future SO[or close friend], it 
may be different, it depends on a lot of variables.

What I wanted to point out is this, everyone is an individual and bringing
two individuals together into a relationship may or may not work.  Go with
works for you, and be true to yourself.  If it doesn't work it does not
mean that you are at fault, nor does it mean your SO is at fault it means
that it did not work out for this time.  WHo knows what 5, 10, 15 years down
the road may bring.

>Therefore, in that area, we became a good match.
It sounds likes this is so, and congratulations

>No need for legal action.  I'll accept cash or check....
I was told once....
"Your cash ain't nothin' but trash" - ????(I know, but do you?)
So I guess my checks wouldn't be any good either.

TTFN,

The Brown Dirt Cowboy

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