From: anon-1421@twwells.com (Seeker)
Newsgroups: alt.sexual.abuse.recovery
Subject: slaves **SPOILER**
Date: 21 Dec 92 23:53:17 GMT
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A friend who reads alt.sexual.bondage forwarded me excerpts from a 
text on what looks like a study of dominant/submissive behaviors. 
It is about training slaves (sex-slaves and full-time slaves) and
some of the drawbacks of having a slave. 

It really freaked me out because I identified with it and realized 
my parents in many ways raised me to be a "slave" and my ex treated me
as a "slave" (over-simplifying). It also helped me understand 
why I have trouble saying "no" and identifying with "normal" people.

This is wierd stuff and I will certainly understand if no one 
reads any further. If you want to read the whole article or 
know who wrote it, then send me e-mail. 

Please do not flame me. Please read it as information "from the
other side". It helped me understand some things but may not
be helpful to everyone. You may want to save it till after Christmas
and you are on safer ground.

I am not crediting the author because I am pretty sure he did
not intend asar as his audience(!) and I do not want to
generate anger against him.

Here are some excerpts from the excerpt:

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<some "balancing" things deleted 
so the article appears much more warped than it
was initially>.

A total slave has no rights, and no freedoms. Everything demanded
by the slave's master must be done, no hesitation, and no
refusals allowed. No matter how humiliating the experience, total
obedience is expected. This means that the master can order the
slave to clean the floor with his/her tongue, to give a Great
Dane a blow job, to drink piss or eat shit, or to go out in
public dressed in any way, or totally naked, if the master so
chooses. The words "no" and "not" are not part of a slave's
vocabulary.
 
A total slave is only allowed to show the following emotions:
adoration, gratitude, and fear. You must adore your master, and
show your adoration at all times. You must be grateful for
whatever attention your master pays you, be it positive or
negative attention. When you are disciplined, you must be
grateful, no matter how severe or humiliating the punishment. You
must obey your master, who has the right to punish you as
severely as he/she deems fit for any transgression you may make.
The fear of serious punishment is allowed you to ensure that you
obey promptly. The slave will often enjoy pain or punishment in
itself, or as a means of attention. In this case, transgressions
or disobedience may become common behaviors, designed to induce
the attention-bringing punishments.

A total slave does not have the right to make decisions. Your
master will decide what you will do, how you will do it, and when
you will do it. The slave can decide to do things in addition to
what is ordered, to please the master, but this does not mean
that priorities may change from the master's orders.

How does reality fit into this picture? The answer is, not very
well. If the slave never leaves the house, except perhaps to go
shopping, the real world doesn't necessarily become an issue.
However, if the slave were to get a job, even a part time one,
all kinds of dissociative traumas will occur. The least of these
is a total inability to fit in with the other workers. The slave
will have no basis of communication with co-workers because of
the home life experience. There will be no ground for
conversation. The slave will realize how totally isolated from
other people he/she is, and resentment will grow. 
<... stuff deleted ...> The slave may
also become terrified of the choices required in the outside
world, may become victimized by bosses or other people because
of an intrinsic inability to say "no", or may become frustrated
by the stress involved with trying to be "normal" in the
workplace and a slave at home.

<...stuff deleted...>

...  The serving partner will
frequently discover feelings of resentment or hatred creeping
into the relationship if an attitude of total slavery is
persistent. This will surface in the form of obstinance, defiance,
or in severe cases, sudden disappearance. The slave will require
and request or demand rights that are not appropriate to total
slavery, and will try to gain some portion of equality by stealth
if these needs are not met by compromise. Thus, slyness and
treachery appear in the relationship. If these characteristics
become apparent in an "ordinary" relationship, they are not
considered healthy. If they appear in a master/slave relationship
they are far more dangerous, because "normal" outlets are denied
the slave.

<...stuff deleted...> The master must provide
the slave with things that make him respected in a socially
accepted sense, to create and carry the illusion of power over
into the relationship. Without respect or the illusion of power,
the slave will try and gain control of the relationship through
familiarity.

<...stuff deleted...>

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