From: mba2@Rosie.UH.EDU (Puneet_S)
Newsgroups: alt.culture.us.asian-indian
Subject: Re: SEX
Date: 23 Nov 1992 15:31:10 GMT
Organization: University of Houston
Reply-To: mba2@Rosie.UH.EDU
NNTP-Posting-Host: rosie.uh.edu

>Puneet, I'm sorry I took so long to respond to this, but something
>interesting happened.  I found myself *afraid* to answer these
>questions honestly in this newsgroup...despite the fact that I've
>spoken freely on the same subject in other newsgroups.  Despite the
>fact that I will probably never meet any of you, and you will no doubt
>forget my name a few weeks after I stop posting.  Amazing how strong
>an influence cultural pressure and our own conditioned expectations
>can have on our lives.

PS	Thank you for responding, I figured you and a couple of the
	other young ladies would.  What i'm curious about though, is
	that having been raised up in a conservative indian houshold,
	how do you think about this topic?
	Does this topic make you uncomfortable?
	Why can you not discuss it?
	Is it because our culture is stuck in a quagmire?
	And is not open?
	Was our culture more free spirited and open in the past?
	Let's think, who came up with the Kama Sutra?

>>2.	If sex is wrong, is it wrong for guys and gals?
>
>Aha...that old double standard....need you ask my answer?

PS	Yes, I knew what your answer would be....  

>>	If only wrong for one, why not the other? Hypocricy?
>
>Yes.  Blatant and utter hypocrisy.

PS	MA I was really posing this as a thought provoking question	
	to those who read this group but really don't respond.  There
	are people out there who are hypocrites.  I'm tired of listening	
	to justifications of why it's right for one and not the other.
	But if someone out ther can convince me otherwise, i'd love to
	hear from you...
>
>
>>4.	What is Sex?  Is sex the phyical act of fucking or the
>>	act of making love?  Is one right before marraige and
>>	the other not?

>I'm not sure what you mean by 'fucking'.  Just intercourse?  Or
>non-romantic sexual activity?  You're unclear here.
>
PS	FUCKING - is the hoops, i may have to chew my arm off 
	in the morning, but i really need to get my rocks off" or
	"Well, i probably will never see her/him again anyways,
	so why not...it's good for one night" or "it's worth the
	$50 or whatever".  Do you catch my drift... There is no
	sharing, it's just a physical act for "relieving pressure"
	or "getting rid of excess energy"......

>I'm afraid that if you disallow intercourse before marriage, calling
>it 'making love', however much love there may be, doesn't change the
>facts.
>
PS	Making love is done with someone you care about...It's a 
	sharing of emotions.... In the act of making love... I don't	
	think the physical act really matters...it's more the being
	with someone you like or really care about....
	
	So question then becomes, is sex overrated?
 
	Is sex without sharing, worth it?

	What purpose does it serve except "relieving pressure"?
	
	Hence, does it make it wrong? (The relieving pressure kind)
>
>8. Homosexuals? (sex with someone of the same sex)
>
PS	I was really hoping this to be a discussion on Hetro-, but if you must..

>	8a.  Do lesbians bother you more than homosexuals?
>		The other way around?  Why, if so?
>
PS	NO, either way i am bothered..  I have a homosexual friend, who was
	a friend before he realized his "life style" and he is now and will
	be in the future.... I do not hold sexual preferences against anybody
	I just don't condone homosexuality, support it or feel that it is
	"right", "natural", etc...

>9. Bisexuals? (people who sleep with members of both sexes)
>
PS	I don't know...

>10. Polyamory? (simultaneous relationship with more than one person)
>
PS	See no problem with it...as long as all parties remain informed

>11. Sadism? (sexual arousal by means of inflicting pain)

PS	Sorry, No can do....
>
>12. Masochism? (sexual arousal by mean of being hurt)
>
PS	I hate needles, getting hurt.... don't think so...maybe insteresting
	to try once, but don't think so....

> - Amirthi
>
>P.S. - I still can't believe how hard it was to answer those questions
>on this group.

PS	I realize it's a difficult topic to discuss, and I've noticed, as I
	expected, some of the regulars as well as irregulars have not posted
	on this topic.... Conclusion.... It's not a topic that people are
	comfortable with....hence the problems concering this topic in our
	culture are real....there is hypocrisy....
>

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Puneet

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