From: trs4742@sigma.tamu.edu (SEBESTA, TIMOTHY RICHARD)
Subject: Re: Interracial Dating
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Date: Tue, 13 Oct 1992 21:49:00 GMT

In article <1992Oct12.160945.6668@panix.com>, lkk@panix.com (Larry Kolodney) writes...
>In <1992Oct11.145256.1@opie.bgsu.edu> bc205cs@opie.bgsu.edu writes:
> 
>>	I am a 22 year old college student who is very much against interracial
>>marriage and dating.  Just the other day my best friend and I were discusing
>>the very topic with four other boys(white).  I explained to them my opposition
You might not want to talk to boys (people under 12) about interrracial dating, 
they probably don't have enough experience or intellect to understand the
complexity of the issue (sarcasm off) If they were also your age (22), you
might ought to refer to them as men or else describe yourself as a 22 year-old
boy also. White does not equal boy.

Tim Sebesta

>>against dating interracial and gave them reasons why.  I said that black women
>>come in all different shapes and colors so why should I date outside of my 
>>race.
> 
>Hell, why even date outside your family??  1/2 :-)  You're making an
>assumption that dating outside your race requires special
>justification, while dating within it is *normal*.
> 
> 
>  I also said that I am not physically stimulated by white females.
> 
>Now THAT's a good reason not to date them.
> 
> 
>  It
>>seems as if everyone agreed with my opinion except for this one guy.  He said
>>that for me not to see every female as one color was typical of a bigot, and he
>>called me a racist.  Being called a racist hurt me very much, but it hurt even 
>>more being that this guy was my BEST FRIEND.  It shock me very much that my 
>>best friend, who is black, was calling me a racist because I won't date outside 
>>my race.  I go to an "all-white" college in Ohio, and I am approached by white
>>females everyday should I start dating outside my race or what?  Do you
>>consider me a racist?  I want to know.
> 
> 
>Your friend suffers from a kind of uniquely American naive
>integrationist understanding of human relations.
> 
>Americans have this need to beleive that all people are basically the
>same, in order to justify their ideology of "all men are created
>equal."
> 
>But its perfectly possible to recognize that people are different,
>and that those differences matter, without abandoning the idea of
>racial justice and equal protection of the law.
> 
>There is no use denying the fact that, generally speaking, the black
>women at your college are very different in certain ways from the
>white women.  They certainly look different, many probably speak with a
>different accent or dialect, probably went to different kinds of
>churches, and have different cultural traditions.  And when choosing a
>woman to date, your job is not to decide whether the characteristics I
>just mentioned are legitimate, or equal or good.  You are simply
>making an asthetic judgment about whether they appeal to you
>personally.  And that judgment is going to be based on a whole
>multitude of things, primarily your psychological and cultural
>conditioning, stuff which forms the very core of your personality.  
> 
>There's no point in denying your own psychological needs for the sake
>of someone's notion of politically correct dating patterns.
> 
>This isn't to say you shouldn't date white women.  You just needn't
>feel obliged to do so.
> 
>-- 
>larry kolodney:(lkk@panix.com) 
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> 
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