From: william@natimuk.acci.com.au (William Lo)
Subject: Re: Acts of love
Organization: IBM Australia/ACCI 
Date: Mon, 12 Oct 1992 04:31:04 GMT

In article <1992Oct8.124658.5698@gw.wmich.edu> 31he@gw.wmich.edu writes:
>	| Iam interested, can anyone(esp girls) second this theory?
	
	First off, I'm not a girl(hee!)...
>
>As a girl, I think basicly this is true. But in my view, you wouldn't want to
>take the first action: Make him not to like me. As a matter of fact, you will
>never want to be disliked or even loated by someone who liked you very much.
>
>And from my experience, usualy when I found out his feeling toward me already
>goes beyond friendship, I will try to run away gradually, and let him know by
>hints. I would never want to hurt him by careless action unless I felt that he

	You're quite nice...hmhm :-D

>is very strong. The good thing in some guys are that they just know the degree
>how much to push in and when they know it is impossible they accept the fact. I

	Sounds just logical y'know.

>have two very close friends before, they are very nice guys, but I just
>couldn't have that kind of feeling. So I pretend not to know the hints they
>gave to me, and thus they rea;ized my attitude too. They were sad but then they
>try to cherish that special friendship. That gave me a very warm and nice
>feelings and beautiful memories and I will not forget. We are still friends,
>and they still care about me, but they tried to start new life and do find
>girls that belongs to them, and I felt happy and relief.

	Let me say something here. If I had been in a situation where I called 
	this really nice girl my Miss Right(correct?) while she didn't want me,
	I would still want to maintain our friendship, so that I could still 
	have the chance that the girl might change her mind eventually. I suppose 
	the above example is pretty common actually... 
>
>In my view, if you love someone, don't miss the chance, but be truely and know
>what you are doing, be patient and tolerate, never rush and never harsh. Try

	Sometimes, you have to be rather quick instead of taking it tardy. Esp.
	when you think the girl(/guy)-to-be is a very good one - it's often
	that your competitors are well thinkng the same... So, trying to go a 
	bit wild is not always a bad thing I think... So, rush rush rush...
	go go go... don't just stand in the line and wait :-)
 
>your best to care the one but do not just want to get something, if you love
>one, always give and don't think of taking. It it could be yours then be
>patient and cherish, if it does not, then accept...

	Um, if you're so SURE of that, you would better rush...coz life is
	so short...and time just won't wait for people to settle down.
>
>I wish this could help Peter too. Ask yourself, what do you want actually? If
>she doesn't talk to you, why kept bothering her? Try to be a common friend,
>call her once or twice a month, let her know you will always be  there if she
>needs, let her know that you want her to be happy no matter  what it takes...
>And see...

---Cheers,
	Bill
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