From: monaghn@garnet.berkeley.edu (Mara Monaghan)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Females have it easy!
Date: 17 Dec 1992 21:36:49 GMT
Organization: The hospital for the terminally wierd
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In article <1992Dec17.154039.14407@cbfsb.cb.att.com>, sms@cbnewsf.cb.att.com (steven.m.stein) writes:
> 
>> In article <JoeMan.7.724562272@> JoeMan@ (Joe Tooman) writes:
		> >Not to bitch or anything, but it seems to me that the female does not have
																																																																		^^^^^^^^^^^^^
		> >any problem finding a guy anytime she feels like she wants a relationship.
   ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Well! I *do* have an amazing ability for finding good cafes,
open parking spaces and dark chocolate, but I never
realized that other women can find a guy anytime they
want a relationship! No wonder I haven't had a SO 
(or even a date) in 4 yrs. Ack! I'm handicapped!;)

		> >As a guy, I find that it is very hard to find a female that seems intrested.
																																																																							^^^^^^^^^^
		> >Joe Tooman aa422@cleveland.freenet.edu

Interested in you (as a person) or going out with you?
Some of us female types prefer knowing a guy before
going out "on a date." It might be that your technique 
is  wrong for the "females" you find interesting.

		> I have also found this to be somewhat true, BUT,
		> 
		> although women do seem to be approached on a sometime daily or weekly
		> basis, their problem is weeding through all the offers for a man who
		> meets their standards.

The only weeding I do on a weekly basis is
in my front garden.  I haven't found a guy yet.
Perhaps I should've planted bachelor's buttons :)

		> at least with us guys, we only approach those we already feel interested
		> in knowing.  

I think this topic is being addressed in another
current thread, so I'll skip it.

		> In other words, women may have to deal with 20 men before she is
																																				^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
		> approached by one she's attracted to, whereas we could luck out
		> after the 8th or 9th approach.

First a quibble about your choice of words:
I think of the word "deal" as having a negative
connotation.  (My Webster's dictionary gives this
usage as: "to take action with regard to someone
or something, ex."to deal with an offender").
*I* don't use "deal" when I'm referring
to people because I don't like the image it 
projects.   

Back to the matter at hand:
(I do *hope* you're not serious, but if you are...)

Your generalizations are inaccurate for 
the "average" woman. This is, of course,
my humble opinion and is based on my own
past experience and that of my friends.
(BTW, I *am* including our years as college
students).  None of us would make the cover
of Vogue, but we are attractive, intelligent
women.
  
So if your generalization is wrong 
(re: weekly offers)	why are you having to
approach 8 or 9 women before you "luck out"? 
This ties into my earlier comment about the
technique being inappropriate for the woman
involved.  BTW, what do you mean by "approaching",
"luck out", and "offers"? Just curious.  

 
		>                  Steve Stein  (609) 639-2264
		>     ***************************************************
		>     * Just my opinion, though it could change tomorrow *
		>     ***************************************************      


Mara
(Of course, I *could* be wrong and with one week
left in the year, I *could* be "approached"	by
52 men who want to make me an "offer" and "luck out."
I wonder if having them fill out applications would
be too tacky?....I better buy more egg nog!)
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