From: christin@cae.wisc.edu (Christine Haas)
Subject: Please help, someone is following me.
Organization: U of Wisconsin-Madison College of Engineering
Date: 22 Nov 92 00:55:48 CST


Hi,

I am in need of help here.  Please, mail me any comments
or suggestions that you can.

This turned out to be pretty long, but if the subject or 
Re: line seems like something you can help me with, please
please read on.


Re:  Being followed by an obsessed person.

The situation is as follows:

I attend a university.  I met this guy about 2 years ago,
and at one time we were good *friends*.  But as time went
on, my life changed and I grew.  I grew apart from him as
well, but he couldn't seem to let go.  I tried to still
be friends with him, but I couldn't.  He expected way too
much of me, demanded too much from me; wouldn't let go.
(Asides:  he liked me a lot and wanted to be more than friends,
and I was the first girl he had ever been friends with).

I put up with all of it, wishing he would just go away. 
It got to a point where he figured out both my work and
class schedule, made sure he was "in the right place at 
the right time."  He would put me on guilt trips at his
every convenience, and if I did not go to class, would get
mad at me for not being there!  I just wanted him to go
away and stop following me - he was beginning to scare me.

And then things finally hit the fan.  I went home one
afternoon and was very tired so I went to my apartment and
closed the door of the apartment (didn't lock it), and
then went into my bedroom and closed the door for some
privacy (in case my roommates came home), crawled into
bed, and went to sleep.  Well, you know how it is when
someone is starring at you - you can just feel it... I
woke up feeling very strange and look towards the door,
and there he was... standing there just starring at me!
He came into my house without my permission (which I have
never allowed anyone to do!  Being female I am worried 
about intruders - by the way, this is mid-afternoon).
Not only did he come into my house, he came into my bed- 
room (luckily, I was dressed).  I am practically blind
without my glasses, so when I saw the figure in the doorway
I assumed it was one of my female roommates.  I called out
her name, but no one answered.  At this point I start 
getting scared because this figure was silent, but finally
he spoke and I figured out it was him.  Very upset, and 
angry, and tired, I told him to leave.

I *thought* he left.  I rolled over to go back to sleep.
A little while later, I again felt that starring presence
and as I rolled over I was starring into his eyes 3 inches
from my face!!  He was knelling next to my bed, just 
starring at me while I was sleeping!!!  Now I freaked out,
I screamed at him to get the hell out of my house, to just
leave and he wouldn't!!  Finally he did, and I got up and 
locked the door and couldn't sleep anymore, I had so much
adrenaline flowing through my body it was amazing!!  I was
soooo angry!

I wrote him a letter via email telling him how entirely 
wrong his actions were, and how I was sick and tired of 
his BS and that I never wanted to talk, see, or hear from
him again.  He tried to talk to me, but I wouldn't talk 
to him (luckily, i wasn't alone - he found me in the 
library after searching for my razz - which I tried to
hide so he wouldn't figure out where I was - this guy
is determined!!)

He left me alone for a little while.  But now, he follows
me.  He sees me, and he stares at me in strange ways -
like if he had a gun he'd shoot me - just that evil look,
half lust, half hatred.  I can't describe it.  Its driving
me crazy and I don't know what to do!  I am afraid of him,
although I don't know if I have reason to be...

Please help.  

Mail me: christin@cae.wisc.edu

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

Chris.
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