HDTenEightyP/NetNews huggingface dataset:
From: shore@dinah.tc.cornell.edu (Melinda Shore)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: net queen??
Keywords: brutal passion
Date: 20 Aug 92 02:26:48 GMT
Article-I.D.: tc.1992Aug20.022648.21099
Reply-To: shore@tc.cornell.edu
Organization: Cornell Theory Center

In article <2A92F762.1601@ics.uci.edu>, tittle@ics.uci.edu (Cindy Tittle Moore) writes:
> Either way, though we don't get nearly enough of either the Motss
> Great Dyke OR the Motss Vice Dyke!! (I am, like Mara, turning my head
> carefully away from the double entendres.)  More, more!!

Indeed.  I'm delighted to see Wendy back among us;  I hope
that this means that she's finally emerging (victorious) on
the other side of the academic experience and can now be
counted among the more-or-less living.

I'm wondering what Arnold meant by Great Dyke.  I think he
must be referring to a phenomenon I've seen in every
community I've been in - that of the Head Lesbian.  The
Head Lesbian isn't selected, exactly, but usually emerges
gracefully from the field of candidates.  A good thing, too,
since every once in a while the squabbles that do emerge
can put pecking order fights among horses to shame.  Anyway,
I remember a time when Wendy was indisputably net.motss
Head Lesbian;  let's see if she can get the title back without
grabbing the nearest mare by the withers with her teeth and 
throwing her to the ground. 
-- 
       Melinda Shore - Cornell Theory Center - shore@tc.cornell.edu
From: nelson@reed.edu (Nelson Minar)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: Starbucks (Was: I was gender f*cked, & I liked it)
Date: 13 Aug 92 21:39:48 GMT
Article-I.D.: reed.1992Aug13.213948.7730
Organization: Reed College, Portland, OR

In article <41307@ogicse.ogi.edu> markm@ogicse.ogi.edu (Mark Morrissey) writes:
>Starbucks!  Has anyone verified that Starbucks is giving money to the OCA?

I've never heard this one before. You've got more information than I
do, though. This shouldn't be too hard to determine - isn't there a
public register of who gave money to what PAC?

>I can see a kiss-in at Starbuck's looming on the horizon.

as long as we don't have to drink the coffee.
-- 
                __
nelson@reed.edu \/                   There is absolutely no other possibility
From: aberson@enh.nist.gov
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: RE: first batch of GIFs from the con
Date: 13 Aug 92 15:24:14 GMT
Article-I.D.: enh.13AUG92.11241402
Organization: NIST

In a previous article, lisbon@vpnet.chi.il.us (Gerry Swetsky) wrote:
>In article <thaaang.713427963@cwis> thaaang@cwis.unomaha.edu (John Dorrance) writes:
>>
>>And I *don't* *understand* *ANY* of it!!! Come *on*, guys, can't we
>>*please* just talk about *sex* or something? My brain hurts...
> 
>    Is that all you do - TALK about it?  :-)

Most definitely not! 

:-)>

       Sim Aberson   Ft. Lauderdale, FL   aberson%3328.span@sdsc.edu
"It's always Beach Party Barbie, or Malibu Barbie....  That shit does not
prepare you for the true horror of a real woman's life.  Where is Single,
Abused, Trailer-Park Barbie?"             - Roseanne Arnold
Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: jeffy@syrinx.umd.edu (Jeffrey C. Burka)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Quilt
Date: 20 Aug 92 15:59:53 GMT
Organization: University of Maryland at College Park

In article <1992Aug20.140122.47@panix.com> mara@panix.com (Mara Chibnik) writes:
>In article <19AUG92.19323452@enh.nist.gov> aberson@enh.nist.gov asks,
>after a lot for which I wish I had some adequate response:
> >Has there been any discussion of a soc.motss.quilt?
>
>
>Not that I've seen.  

Whatever happened to Jeff Shaevel and Kevin Vail's electronic quilt, which
I believe they proposed (and set up?) after Randi Pollard's death?

Jeff
-- 
|Jeffrey C. Burka                | "Show what you are / Be strong, be true  |
|                                |  Time for you to / Be who you are."      |
|jeffy@syrinx.umd.edu            |                         --Happy Rhodes   |
Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: anderson@macc.wisc.edu (Jess Anderson)
Subject: Re: Clinton Enthusiasm Deficieny -- at last, a cure!
Organization: Madison Academic Computing Center, UW-Madison
Distribution: usa
Date: Sat, 22 Aug 92 10:36:45 GMT


In article <22620@sybase.sybase.com> black@sybase.com
(Christina Black) writes:

>5 reasons to be for Bill Clinton, not just against George Bush, if
>you're leftist, liberal, progressive, gay, feminist, or a woman:

>[...]

Clinton's worst enemy, after the homophobe anti-woman loony
right christian crusaders, is the left, who will peck away
mercilessly if he's in any instance not their brand of PC.

-- 
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Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: glp@fig.citib.com (Greg Parkinson)
Subject: Re: sweaty sex
Originator: glp@merlin
Organization: Citibank IBISM
Date: Fri, 21 Aug 1992 15:56:46 GMT


In article <1992Aug19.212910.28321@cis.ohio-state.edu>, amz@iguana.cis.ohio-state.edu (Arnold M Zwicky) writes:

|> and i have in fact had sex in saunas in many cities, in at least
|> three countries.  though i usually prefer steam rooms.  all
|> that warm wetness.  in fact, just two saturdays ago,...

When I was first coming out, I *tried* having sex
in a sauna, but I came close to passing out.

Last year I was involved with a man who lived by the
beach in Costa Rica; hot and humid, sweat and cum and 
salt and sweat and cum and salt.  I don't care much 
for acrid stress sweat but the smell of a man with 
free-flowing sex or exercise sweat drives me over 
the edge.

-- 
Greg Parkinson                  Phone: 212-657-7814  Fax: 212-825-8607
Citibank,111 Wall Street        E-Mail: glp@fig.citib.com
New York, New York  10043
The opinions expressed are my own and not those of the big 'ol bank.
Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: thaaang@cwis.unomaha.edu (John Dorrance)
Subject: Taking a break...
Organization: University of Nebraska at Omaha
Date: Tue, 18 Aug 1992 00:48:39 GMT

Mail's been hellish since the con, and I've started a new job (which
means getting used to waking up before 3pm... horrors!), so I'm going
to take a break from motss for about a week so I can catch up. Mail
me anything important I miss (read: Arne posts, pun threads, etc)...

--
John Dorrance    ** Disco Diva y Flamenco Chico **    thaaang@odin.unomaha.edu

		I always thought of you as my brick wall
		   Built like an angel, six feet tall.
From: anderson@macc.wisc.edu (Jess Anderson)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: wearing symbols
Date: 16 Aug 92 19:43:09 GMT
Organization: Madison Academic Computing Center, UW-Madison


In article <1992Aug16.153253.2613@spdcc.com>
rdonahue@spdcc.com (Bob Donahue) writes:

>How are our symbols protected from corporate molestation?

Do they need protection?  I don't think so.  After all, we
can create new ones any time we like.  To treat the rainbow
banner or the pink triangle like a corporate logo is to
acquiesce in the opposition's philosophy.

-- 
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Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: emcmanus@gr.osf.org (Eamonn McManus)
Subject: Re: France (was Re: Gay Republicans)
Organization: Open Software Foundation Research Institute, Grenoble
Date: Wed, 19 Aug 1992 13:54:29 GMT

jfh@netcom.com (Jack Hamilton) replies to Michael Pettersen:
>>All in all, I am glad that in two weeks I will be out of reach of the lies 
>>and the doublethink.  
>No, they'll just be in a different language.  France has Le Pen, remember.

While the Front National has a distressing level of support in France,
it isn't anywhere nearly as powerful as the US Republican Party.
There isn't any danger of an FN president being elected any time soon.
France is a good deal less frightening than the US at the moment.

,
Eamonn, looking forward to meeting Mike soon
Newsgroups: soc.motss,soc.bi
From: idx009@cck.coventry.ac.uk (the Crisco Kid)
Subject: Re: Introduction
Organization: Eris's Restaurant
Date: Fri, 21 Aug 1992 16:22:20 GMT

In article <l959e3INN77i@mizar.usc.edu> adolphso@mizar.usc.edu (adolphson) writes:
>I swear this will be my last posting in this tedious thread.

In that case you can reply to me by email.

>The soc.bi regulars periodically post introductory autobiographical
>essays for the benefit of people who've just started reading the 
>newsgroup?  That, I remind you, is what I thought was ludicrous about 
>the suggestion that began all this.  If people new to soc.motss would 
>like to introduce themselves, or demuffinize themselves, that's great.  
>But what are the people who've been here for some time supposed to do?
>Post their bios monthly?  Quarterly?

Hey now, hold on a minute... the soc.bi regulars?  People like me and
Tim and Ciaran and Olaf and Sara and Ellen and Graham - I guess we're
regular enough - "regularly post introductory autobiographical essays"?
Well, not on the soc.bi that I read and write to we don't.  We do, now
and then, mention in articles something that has happened to us in our
lives, but it's rare - very rare - that anyone posts anything that
could even begin to be considered autobiographical.  And, when they do,
it's as an individual article, and nearly always done as a demuffining
(or, more accurately, Invocation of the Welcome Wagon).  Even so, many
of the regulars started in on soc.bi so early that we didn't have a
Welcome Wagon, and have never posted anything remotely resembling an
autobiography.  Strictly speaking, that last sentence is false: yesterday
I posted a list of some of the things that happened to me during my 'teen
years (we were discussing the '70s) in response to Elf.  But that is a
rare exception.

Actually, I don't think that it's such a ludicrous idea at all, if it
were modified a little.  Posting these things is so wasteful; far
better either to have a central site from which they could be FTPed,
as with the GIFs on spdcc (heck, my life would be less bytes than my
GIF), or mailed on request by the biographee.

In fact, I'll crosspost this to soc.bi and see what people think... I
imagine that it might turn out like an electronic version of "Bisexual
Lives"; and that would be no bad thing at all.

				Kay
-- 
6'2", dark short hair, blue eyes, bisexual and horny as ....
Kay Dekker, Dept of Industrial Design, Coventry University, Coventry UK
37 Old Winnings Road, Keresley Village, Coventry   |B0 f t+ g++ k++! s+ e r p!
Phone: +44 203 838668 (work) +44 203 337865 (home) |Deflowerer-of-innocents
From: joelp@cs.man.ac.uk (Joel Parthemore || Pharos Project)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: Utopia
Date: 18 Aug 92 18:48:23 GMT

Returning to Jess' thoughts on Utopia:

anderson@macc.wisc.edu (Jess Anderson) writes:

>In article <ROBERTL.92Aug15152928@luciano.Stanford.EDU>
>robertl@luciano.Stanford.EDU (Robert Lodenkamper) writes:

>>It's the purging part that is difficult if not impossible.

>The difficulty, I think, with saying it's difficult (still
>more so with saying it's impossible) is that it's
>self-fulfilling prophecy: it *makes* it more difficult.  I'm
>not saying it's easy, but even "purging" misleads, possibly;
>it may do more for us to be thinking in terms of evolving,
>of rediscovering, of *letting*, rather than in terms of
>purging, consciously altering, etc.

``Purging'' misleads, seriously.  We've been trying to purge our dark sides
for a few thousand years, and look at all the suffering we've created!  The
goal must be unification not separation, understanding in the face of
condemnation, love in the face of rejection, for exactly that which seems to
be unlovable! -- embracing with love those parts of ourselves and our society
we have disowned, without understanding, as evil and unworthy.

Utopia is and always will be a relative term -- that certainly is the
understanding I took away from reading (Samuel?) Bellamy (great guy --
Socialist radical; wrote the Pledge of Allegiance) LOOKING BACKWARD.  But
Utopia (``no place'') *is* a real place, and it is achievable -- but again, it
is and only *can* be achievable through conflict and dissension.  Utopia is
paradoxical; but Paradox is real.

We get by so often with individual lives and with social institutions that are
so much less than they could or need to be.  May the self-discovery of each of
us be a sign to the world for change.

Joel,
        to whom the reality of impossible places is especially important
        and who will always strive to be idealist


ten-year-old boy on a playground, after playing on the go-round together:
``I don't know when I'll ever see you again, but I know that sometime in my
life I will''.
Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: bobsarv@microsoft.com (Bob Sarver)
Subject: Re: Redefining masculinity
Date: 17 Aug 92 17:34:49 GMT
Organization: Microsoft Corp.


/dear friends: melinda and arne have said what there is to say
/to this creature 

I have been soundly rebuked.  I should have known better than to
take on any sacred cattle in this group.  Arne and Melinda have
spoken; let all others fall silent.



/(whose excrescences i have saved as "vile.motss").

Theatrical in the extreme.  You missed your calling.



/please do not respond in postings (what you do in e-mail is none
/of my business).  

Actually, what people do on the net is *also* none of your business,
(except that you seem to have appointed yourself Net Queen).
Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: Furr@cup.portal.com (George Dalton Madison)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: Trip to Portland/Seattle
Date: Fri, 14 Aug 92 22:13:33 PDT
Organization: The Portal System (TM)
Distribution: usa
  <63997@cup.portal.com> <1992Aug14.174033.19630@nevada.edu>

Shawn Hicks writes:
>>** HOW **?  Before the .con, I knew precisely *ONE* person
>>in Portland.... who doesn't LIKE the PDX Eagle.
>
>We knew precisely *no one* in Portland.  Anyway, where else would one go?

The Dirty Duck.  The description of it in the .con packet was,
with all respect to whoever wrote it, bullshit.

>Well it was the next day, so he wasn't in any sort of fireman's gear,
>but I think he was refered to as Sparky.  I'm not sure.  He had short
>black hair, and looked like he could cuddle for days.

Well, *all* my Bears could cuddle for days, but I think I've got
the one you're talking about pegged now.  (Of course, this could
have been quickly settled if you'd seen his dick. Of the two dark
furred Bears in question, Sparky is cut and the other one was
not. ;-)

>Never assume that what one person calls a hunk another will (or wont)
>too.  Benny might be just that impressive to me, or someone else.

Well, perhaps... but I think he'd be more likely to evoke a
teddy bear kind of response.....

>I'm sorry that you didn't, in fact, know of the Eagle.  Chris and I
>had expected to see you there.  I should have mentioned it to you.

You misunderstood me.  I knew of the PDX Eagle, and I was in fact
there one night; however, given the prevailing situation I'm
familiar with in LA and SF, it simply wouldn't occur to me to
think of trying to "nail" a bartender while he's on duty.  Nor
of dropping trou' to get a free drink.  Not knowing the "local
custom" I tend to err on the side of caution.

[Gaia knows, those who were at Rooster Rock can vouch that I have
*no* compunctions about displaying myself publicly.  ;-)]
 
() Take away the right to say "fuck" and you take away the
() right to say "fuck the government."
()      -- Lenny Bruce
-----
[> George D. Madison | NBCS: B8f+t+w-e+s+k+a!cv | Just say NO to razors! <]
[> It's a BEAR thing -- you wouldn't understand. <|> furr@cup.portal.com <]
Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: jfh@netcom.com (Jack Hamilton)
Subject: Re: wearing symbols
Date: Mon, 17 Aug 92 05:46:33 GMT
Organization: Netcom - Online Communication Services (408 241-9760 guest)

In article <1992Aug16.153253.2613@spdcc.com> rdonahue@spdcc.com (Bob Donahue) 
writes:
>
>	On the other shoe, though, something just occurred to me:
>what would it take for some homophobic organzation to trademark and/or
>otherwise copyright the pink triangle or the rainbow flag?  Is it
>logistically possible?  Certainly were someone to start using the
>stylized "M" that McDonalds uses they'd be sued, ditto for other 
>corporate logos.  How are our symbols protected from corporate molestation?

What would it take?  They'd have to have the copyright and trademark laws
changed.  Since some of those laws are international treaties, it probably
wouldn't be easy.

It's very unusual for a name in common use, for instance, to become private
property.  The only example I can think of is the use of "Olympics". 

-- 

-----------------------------------------------------------------------
Jack Hamilton   jfh@netcom.com   P. O. Box 281107   SF, CA   94128-1107
Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: coren@osf.org (Robert Coren)
Subject: re: sexual attraction
Organization: Open Software Foundation
Date: Fri, 14 Aug 1992 14:28:03 GMT

In article <1992Aug14.020214.17310@cis.ohio-state.edu>, amz@iguana.cis.ohio-state.edu (Arnold M Zwicky) writes:
>   [1 the prime directive:] people i love nonsexually are attractive to
> me sexually;
> 
>   [2 the reflection rule:] i am turned on by people who are turned on
> to me;

Saying what I meant to say, more or less, but much more clearly.
From: wendyt@cs.washington.edu (Wendy Thrash)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: Is Transvestitism an Abomination (was Re: Is Homosexuality an
Date: 17 Aug 92 21:05:07 GMT
Article-I.D.: beaver.1992Aug17.210507.28225
Organization: Computer Science & Engineering, U. of Washington, Seattle

In article <2a880646@ThreeL.co.uk> jf@threel.co.uk (John Fisher) writes:
>It's certainly true that a surprising number of people in
>the LG communities put transvestism beyond the pail in one
>sense or another. 

They've just had a bucketful, perhaps.
----
-Wendy T., either 1) milking this for all it's worth, or
		  2) mopping up.
From: adolphso@mizar.usc.edu (adolphson)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: Whizzzzzzz ( was Re: Introduction)
Date: 18 Aug 1992 15:53:20 -0700
Organization: University of Southern California, Los Angeles, CA
NNTP-Posting-Host: mizar.usc.edu

In article <18AUG92.18071317@enh.nist.gov> aberson@enh.nist.gov writes:
> In a previous article, adolphso@mizar.usc.edu (adolphson) wrote:
> >... It is too darn hot.
>
> Maybe you could coo with your baby tonight, or possibly pitch some woo with
> your baby tonight...

I much prefer my lovey-dovey to court when the temperature is low.

> >OK, LA's not in the tropics, but we've had a week and a half
> >of 95+ days with hideous, godawful humidity. ...

> Yuck, it sounds *beastly*.  It never gets that hot here.  Have no fear, it
> looks like Thursday may be cooler there for you.  Where are you, though?
> LAX is only 75F at 3pm Pacific time.

I'm about a mile from the LA Civic Center.  I haven't any idea what
it's like outside right now, but it was *awful* a couple of hours
ago.  And it's always cooler at LAX, because LAX is on the beach.

Arne, who's thinking about air conditioning, swimming pools,
mint juleps, ellectric ceiling fans...
From: wolfe@wolves.uucp (G. Wolfe Woodbury)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: Rob Bernardo and Family
Date: 19 Aug 92 04:40:13 GMT
Organization: Red Wolfe @ The Wolves Den
X-Md4-Signature: 1e9c955da979e5b3543249bae4dca673

I have no words to say what I feel in my heart yet.

I have cried, and I still cry, for the voice that isn't there.

Yes, I have lost a brother whom I never knew.

The bitter poetry is not yet brewed to say what I feel.

The sorrow, the pain, the anger, and the love.

Farewell Rob.
-- 
G. Wolfe Woodbury @ The Wolves Den UNIX, Durham NC         [use the maps!]
UUCP: ...dukcds!wolves!wolfe   ...duke!wolves!wolfe    <Standard disclaimers>
Domain: wolfe%wolves@cs.duke.edu    wolfe@cds.duke.edu
    Above all, we celebrate.   Celebrate the Circle Statement of Purpose
From: Furr@cup.portal.com (George Dalton Madison)
Newsgroups: soc.motss
Subject: Re: Role Models (was Gay Homophobia)
Date: Sat, 22 Aug 92 13:56:48 PDT
Organization: The Portal System (TM)

Jason Coughlin writes:
>in one of his characteristic tirades, bob sarver, or i should 
                                       ^^^^^^^^^^

*WHO*???

I haven't seen anyone by that name posting to .motss.....
 
() No, you may not speak freely. This is America. We have a
() high moral hypocrisy to uphold.
()      -- Shannon Thomas Pricket (spricket@umaxc.weeg.uiowa.edu)
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[> George D. Madison | NBCS: B8f+t+w-e+s+k+a!cv | Just say NO to razors! <]
[> It's a BEAR thing -- you wouldn't understand. <|> furr@cup.portal.com <]
Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: anderson@macc.wisc.edu (Jess Anderson)
Subject: Re: Freedom (was Re: Gay Homophobia)
Organization: Madison Academic Computing Center, UW-Madison
Date: Sun, 23 Aug 92 08:08:42 GMT


In article <1992Aug23.031816.17732@microsoft.com>
bobsarv@microsoft.com (Bob Sarver) writes:

>/jake, who really has *nothing* to say to sarver...

>Actually, jake, after reading your post it appears you have
>nothing to say at all .  .  .

Why, you big butch nasssty queeen!  What a *bitchy* thing to
say!  Ssso *wassspissh* of you, Ssargon.  I bet poor little
old Jake feels jusst *Terrible* now.

(Note to clinicians: add projection to the list of personality
 deformations; Butch is now exporting his rage about being a
 disgusting, silly, weak faggot to others, unable to bear it
 in himself.)

-- 
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Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: twpierce@amhux1.amherst.edu (Tim Pierce)
Subject: Re: New queer terminology (was Re: The media, again)
Organization: Amherst College, Amherst MA
Date: Tue, 18 Aug 1992 17:12:03 GMT

In article <ROBERTL.92Aug16221425@luciano.Stanford.EDU> robertl@luciano.Stanford.EDU (Robert Lodenkamper) writes:

>In article <1992Aug16.225820.13089@reed.edu> nelson@reed.edu (Nelson Minar) writes:
>
>   gay is apolitical
>   queer is radical
>
>The drag queens at Stonewall were apolitical?  

I disagree with Nelson's *BROAD* *SWEEPING* *GENERALIZATIONS* here,
but simultaneously I think it's fair to say that gay in '67 != gay in
'92.

>   gay is exclusive to homosexual men
>   queer is inclusive of women and gender/sex minorities
>
>Oh really?  Nice to have that debate settled once and for all.

The fact that the debate exists at all, I think, suggests that "gay"
is reasonably exclusive.

-- 
____ Tim Pierce                / "Bisexual just means you pay for it."
\  / twpierce@amherst.edu      /  
 \/ (BITnet: TWPIERCE@AMHERST) /   -- Rock Hudson
Newsgroups: soc.motss
From: amz@iguana.cis.ohio-state.edu (Arnold M Zwicky)
Subject: Re: Ok, I did it.
Followup-To: soc.motss
Summary: don't panic [in small friendly letters]
Keywords: gay symbols, pride
Organization: not so sure any more
Date: Sun, 23 Aug 1992 01:16:14 GMT

keep at it, patrick.  what you're aiming for is to let go of
your concern about the signal you're sending.  in a while
you won't remember that you're sending one.   (and a pink
triangle is hardly tough in-your-face stuff, right?)

we all send signals through the way we look, dress, behave, talk.
you're just trying to get some of them to be a bit more congruent with
the way you see yourself.  don't panic!  [name of company that
makes so many fine lesbigay t-shirts...]

arnold