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From: sms@cbnewsf.cb.att.com (steven.m.stein)
Subject: Re: Question: How to increase the male sex drive ?
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: usa
Date: Tue, 17 Nov 1992 22:08:38 GMT

In article <1992Nov17.202235.20777@tessi.com> allen@tessi.com (Allen Warren) writes:
>markr@mot.com (Mark) writes:
>

>>woman (about 31) with, to put it lightly, a very high sex drive.  My sex drive
>>has reduced markedly over the past 4 years, and I would like to do what I can
>>to increase it.
>
>
>I'm 33 and still have a high sex drive, although mine seems to be directly
>linked to my exercise regimen. 
>
>Anyway, for me it's exercise and weightlifting that heightens my libido.
>
>al

Personally, I believe the main contributing factor here is "psychological"
(barring any physical disorders).  Self image (improved through exercise,
weight lifting, etc...) improves ones own sex drive.  Which inturn
can influence how others perceive us and how WE feel others perceive us.
Diet, of course is important for us to maintain a healthy physical and
mental state.  Physical and mental attraction toward another can influence
our sex drive.  My sex drive has increased as time moves on. I'm 38.
Why?????  I feel I have a better understanding and appreciation toward
women than I did when I was younger (when I "thought" I knew everything).
On the other hand, sex drive can vary from person to person due to 
physiological differences.  Incompatibility in this area could be a
problem.  

I dated a woman not too long ago.  My drive was stronger (or should I say
more often) than hers.  We discussed it.  I suggested that although she
may not be in the "mood", if she were to compromise at times, I'm sure
her lack of "being in the mood" would change, quickly, and it would
be an enjoyable time for both of us.  I lucked out.  I was right that
time.  (We also agreed, that I would have to back off at times also,
depending on whether she was willing to make the "sacrifice" or not.
It's always a two way street.

					Steve
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (Andreas  Tovornik)
Subject: Re: Question: How to increase the male sex dri
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Tue, 17 Nov 92 22:33:25 GMT

In article 29133@lmpsbbs.comm.mot.com, markr@mot.com (Mark) writes:
>In article <1e93kmINNs8j@skat.usc.edu> tarra@skat.usc.edu (Tom) writes:
>>In article <thurlow.721724974@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow) writes:
>>
>>>
>>>Hey Tom, hasn't anybody told you yet that we spread that myth that young
>>>men have better sex drives for the sole reason that we want to keep you
>>>dumb little shits from offing yourselves before you reach voting age?
>>>
>>>Rob T
>>>--
>>>Rob Thurlow, thurlow@convex.com
>>
>>Wow thanks man, I was really worried for a minute there.  I didn't know if
>>I was gonna kill myself or hold out and see if maybe they could develop some
>>sort of pill that could keep my drive from shriveling up and dying like you
>>older guys.  
>>
>>Oh by the way Rob, take it easy I hear it happens to lots of guys.  
>
>On a serious note, I have a couple of questions to pose to the net about what
>can affect a male's sex drive.  Basically, I am about 29 (male), have been
>SO-less for the last 4 years (by choice), and have recently met an incredible
>woman (about 31) with, to put it lightly, a very high sex drive.  My sex drive
>has reduced markedly over the past 4 years, and I would like to do what I can
>to increase it.  Question, is there any particular diet that is recommended ?
>Is exercise particularly recommended ?  Anything else ?

I hang around in Peeler Bars and Wank Off frequently...Works for me!

dreasmeister
From: dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Money and the Single World (was: Education and the Single World
Date: 16 Nov 92 16:07:48 GMT
Reply-To: dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Organization: Bolt Beranek and Newman Inc., Cambridge MA
NNTP-Posting-Host: bbn.com

In article <Bxqnz2.H8n@usenet.ucs.indiana.edu> kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:
>tps@jptcs.COM (Tim Sailer) writes:
>
>>No. In a long term relationship (read marriage), there should never be a
>>question of 'my' money and 'your' money. It gets thrown into the pot, 
>>each one gets a budgetted amount for them to spend as they want (you
>>HAVE to have some 'mad money'), bills are paid, and the rest gets
>>put into savings. 
>
>How silly.  Contribute to a fund to pay joint expenses, and keep
>separate accounts for separate expenses.

It's been a while since I've agreed with Kiran, so I guess I'll do it 
publicly. :-)

My ex and I always threw our money together, and we always had the same
feelings of resentment and of being used that Tim describes.  Now that
I'm on the brink of having the decision to make again, we're opting for 
seperate bank accounts.  Decision to be re-evaluated in 3-5 years.

Dawn
"Hello death, goodbye Avenue A.  I'm getting tired of waiting, tired of
being afraid.  Joseph Campbell gave me hope and now I have been saved.
So I sing hello death, goodbye Avenue A."  "Folk Song" by Bongwater.
Xref: sparky soc.singles:30732 ba.singles:2181
From: aahz@netcom.com (Mean Green Dancing Machine)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,ba.singles
Subject: Re: YKYBRNTLW.... (Re: Where to meet women?)
Date: 15 Nov 92 16:00:54 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: Don't blame me, I voted for Bill 'n' Opus

In article <BxqE3D.Kus@CAM.ORG> souchay@CAM.ORG (Francois Souchay) writes:
>In article <1992Nov12.041104.8421@wetware.com> diana@wetware.com (CatWoman ) writes:
>>
>>We ProblemOlderWomen can only get the title
>>when we want sex MORE than our ProblemYoungerMen...
>
>Hmmm.... Haven't dated many French Men , have we?  >:->

I don't think you've met a *real* ProblemOlderWoman yet, have you?
-- 
                         --- Aahz (the *other* Dan Bernstein)
                             @netcom.com 

Hugs and backrubs -- I break Rule 6

Trying to be happy is like trying to build a machine for which the only
specification is that it should run noiselessly.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: aahz@netcom.com (Mean Green Dancing Machine)
Subject: Re: What do you Am men think about Am wome
Organization: Don't blame me, I voted for Bill 'n' Opus
Date: Fri, 20 Nov 1992 13:23:44 GMT

In article <1992Nov20.011244.22772@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>In article <74488@apple.apple.COM> stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
>>
>>When one partner has a higher sex drive than the other, both partners need
>>to be willing to compromise, to explore ways of sharing sexual activities 
>>that satisfy the horny partner but don't exhaust the non-horny one, and to 
>>try to keep sex out of any (non-playful) power struggles that may develop 
>>in the course of the relationship.
>
>Now, this makes me wonder one strange question:  in couples where one or
>both partners are complaining about their different levels of sex drive,
>how is the high-drive person initiating sex?  Is he or she saying something
>like "hey, how about it?" and then giving up immediately if the other 
>doesn't respond enthusiastically, or does the high-drive person come up
>behind the low-drive person, kiss that person gently and affectionately
>on the back of the neck (which should be done occasionally whether or not
>one is interested in sex), letting him or her feel the warmth of one's
>breath as one's lips and teeth travel sensuously over the neck, towards
>the earlobes or slowly down the back while ones fingers gently caress and
                                   ^^^^^
>stroke, until their lips meet and the low-drive partner physically drags
>the high-drive partner into the bedroom and starts ripping their clothing
>off?

That's about where the low sex-drive person rolls over and falls asleep.
-- 
                         --- Aahz (the *other* Dan Bernstein)
                             @netcom.com 

Hugs and backrubs -- I break Rule 6

Trying to be happy is like trying to build a machine for which the only
specification is that it should run noiselessly.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: helie@bach.udel.edu (Ray Helie)
Subject: Re: Education and the Single World
Organization: University of Delaware
Date: Mon, 16 Nov 1992 23:31:52 GMT

schock@flip.cpsc.ucalgary.ca writes:

" If the person was, as you said, articulate, well informed, etc then the 
  amount of formal education wouldn't affect my decision to (or not to) date 
  this person.  There's a lot more to life than text-book knowledge "

It is my impression that formal education broadens the mind (usually) 
as do personal attempts at learning.  It's not really the text-book 
knowledge that people are after, but rather the broad-minded personality
that is (usually) present as a result of it ... 8-)  I *could* be wrong.
 
" Having (or not having) a 
  degree says nothing about who you are and what your potentials are.  "

You think so?  I would think that someone who had a degree is more
*likely* to possess a willingness to learn, experience new things,
respond in more intelligent ways to things they know nothing about,
etc.  

All I can say is that people I've gotten to know (friends or
otherwise) who lacked education beyond high school, as *well* as
lacked any personal ambition to learn, had limited vision, an 
unwillingness to try new things, an inability to see different 
viewpoints, etc.  

Now I prefer to be around people who have made
some attempts at stretching themselves mentally (which usually,
though *not* always, comes down to formal education).  Keep in mind,
there are exceptions, but I'm talking about in general.

I'm not stuck on people getting degress, but I am stuck on people
bettering themselves by experiencing new things and ideas, and learning 
about the world around them.  8-)  The world is a better place
when people are willing to listen to each other, rather than closing
themselves off thinking that their way is the only way.  There
is not much to be said about narrow-mindedness, and formal education,
as well as personal efforts at learning new things, usually 
poses as a reliable cure for such a condition.  8-)  (And I'm 
speaking from personal experience here!)

There is *SO MUCH* out there just *waiting* to be experienced and
learned about -- who *wouldn't* want to get out there and live it?!!
Life is *incredible*!

Ray  8-)

************************************************************************
   Ray Helie         8-)                   University Of Delaware
   [helie@bach.udel.edu]                   Newark, DE
************************************************************************
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.sex
From: blowfish@carina.unm.edu (rON.)
Subject: Re: Question: How to increase the male sex drive ?
Date: Fri, 20 Nov 92 11:58:57 GMT
Organization: University of New Mexico, Albuquerque

In article <1992Nov18.223946.14114@ryn.mro4.dec.com> tang@akofin.enet.dec.com (Gabe Tang) writes:
>>My sex drive
>>has reduced markedly over the past 4 years, and I would like to do what I can
>>to increase it
>	....just lie back in the tub and think pleasant thoughts......ahhhh...
>	..chicken-pot pie...chocolate-covered raisins......glazed ham!!!  :-)

Oh, no. I know what >you< want.
You covet my Ice Cream bar.

I've had this Ice Cream bar since I was a child-
Everybody always trying to take it from me.
Why won't they leave me alone!!!

r.

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: larry@b8.b8.ingr.com (Larry Billings)
Subject: Re: Are you a Young Transplant?
Organization: Intergraph
Date: Wed, 18 Nov 1992 18:03:04 GMT

In article <lgipf2INN78a@news.bbn.com>, dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin) writes:
> 
> For the love of god, will you get rid of this miserable sig before I lose
> all faith in humanity and tote a gun up to some McDonalds somewhere and
> blow hell out of some innocent people?  I'm close enough to doing that at
> the best of times, you wouldn't want to be the final straw would you?  

Are we having a bad day Dawn?  This presents an interesting question.  I 
haven't had much of an effect on anyone for so long, maybe this could be the way
back from my total isolationism.  BTW if you do, please take pictures and send
me a copy.

I drew up that sig for the humor impaired, since I often forget to add the
little :) after a joke and so many on the net take everything serious if you
forget that.  I've had the pants flamed off me several times for this, and while
having the pants warmly removed, that is a little warmer than I want.

> 
> 
> (I'm not being a net.cop, you understand.  I'm just threatening you with
> physical violence if I'm not happy.  I do that a lot; it seems to work
> well.)

Gee Dawn, now I'm all misty-eyed, no one has cared enough to beat me in such a 
long time, Please hurt me GOOD!  Hit me, beat me, make me write bad checks.
> 
> Dawn
> 
> Joseph Campbell gave me hope and now I have been saved.
> "Folk Song" by Bongwater

With love,
Larry
From: martinc@hatteras.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: How the cold war was won.
Date: 15 Nov 92 23:52:07 GMT
	<_1PTN3WBL@linac.fnal.gov>
Organization: UNC Department of Computer Science
In-reply-to: matt@severian.chi.il.us's message of 14 Nov 92 20:49:19 GMT

One of those frustrating things about the intelligence business is that
you put great gouts of money into collection, then put great wads of
computer time into analysis, then put hundreds of highly-trained people
into the final drafting of intelligence estimates, which are further
reduced into the National Intelligence Estimate that the President and
NSC sees -- at which point it says whatever the NSC figures their boss
wants to see.

On the other hand, it's also the job of the NSC to look at the intel
data and make decisions about the level of certainty used as a
threshold.  If we're 50 % certain that 50 percent of the missles are
decoys, we may be 95 % certain that at least 5 percent are decoys.  If
the NSC believes 95 % certainty is needed -- not too unreasonable if we
are talking about MAD deterrence -- then the 5 percent number is the one
taken.  If George was making the decision that a higher threshold was
appropriate, he was doing his job.
--
		Charles R. Martin/(Charlie)/martinc@cs.unc.edu
     Dept. of Computer Science/CB #3175 UNC-CH/Chapel Hill, NC 27599-3175
	    3611 University Dr #13M/Durham, NC 27707/(919) 419 1754
     "Oh God, please help me be civil in tongue, pure in thought, and able
      to resist the temptation to laugh uncontrollably.  Amen." -- Rob T
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: jennings@tran.fishkill.ibm.com ()
Subject: Re: Are you a Young Transplant?
Date: Tue, 17 Nov 92 15:17:04 GMT
Reply-To: jennings@tran.fishkill.ibm.com ()
Disclaimer: This posting represents the poster's views, not necessarily those of IBM
Organization: IBM EF

In article <5736@jptcs.COM>, tps@jptcs.COM (Tim Sailer) writes:
> Sandra Loosemore (loosemore-sandra@cs.yale.edu) wrote:
> : I'd say this problem affects the not-so-young transplants as well as
> : the young ones.
> : 
> : I think it depends a lot on where you end up.  After I left grad school
> : I lived in the Boston area for a while, and found there were always things
> : to do where I was meeting other singles -- for example, I signed up for
> : some fun classes at the Boston Center for Adult Education.  But here
> : in New Haven, it's been tougher.  The city itself is pretty dead, and
> : while Yale offers a lot of performing arts stuff that's not really the
> : sort of activity where you can make new frien
> 
> Ah HA! New Haven! You see, you are an 8 dollar ferry ride into Port Jefferson
> to meet all the Fun Single Guys living out on the Island! Right Gary?
> 
> Tim
> 
> -- 
> Tim Sailer
> JPT Computer Solutions - SCO Sales/Consulting/Administration and Mangling
> Port Jefferson Station, NY
> (516) 331-9001

well tim, the island doesn't have a lock on FunSingleGuys[tm]. just ask
anyone from the happening mid hudson valley, where the ratio of
FunSingleGuys to UnapproachableTakenWomen[tm] is about 7:1. and for
these dumpy old run down new england towns, what a great place to move to :-)		

bill the cat........from beautiful main street poughkeepsie :-)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: llp7q@poe.acc.Virginia.EDU (Linda L. Phillips)
Subject: Call for Artwork and Art Papers
Organization: University of Virginia
Date: Fri, 20 Nov 1992 14:28:50 GMT

              CALL FOR ARTWORK AND ART PAPERS
               FOR THE SPRING 1993 ISSUE OF
               IRIS: A JOURNAL ABOUT WOMEN


IRIS features articles, original fiction and poetry, art, book reviews, humor,
news, and personal essays focusing on women's issues.  We write for an intel-
ligent and varied audience of both sexes.  We are a non-profit organization,
staffed by volunteers, and publish twice yearly, in November and April.

If you are interested in contributing to IRIS, please submit two clear copies
of all manuscripts, and use language sensitive to differences in gender,
sexual orientation, and race.  Follow the parenthetical MLA style.  Final
decisions rest with the editorial board.  Send SASE if you wish your work
returned.

Original artwork should be submitted in the form of high quality black and
white prints or halftones.  We welcome work pertaining to women's issues
and women's involvement in the arts, and are particularly interested in
featuring experimental, less conventional work.

Art features may be reviews, interviews, or essays on contemporary or
historical artists working in any media.  Features should be 500-1000 words,
typed and double-spaced, and include black and white prints or halftones of
the work discussed.

                     SUBMIT FIRST DRAFT OR ABSTRACT BY JAN 8 1993

                          ADDRESS ALL CONTRIBUTIONS TO

ART OR ART FEATURES EDITOR,IRIS,BOX 323 HEALTH SCIENCES CENTER, UNIVERSITY
OF VIRGINIA, CHARLOTTESVILLE, VA  22908    (TEL) (804) 924-4500
From: stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Being Alone?
Date: 19 Nov 92 07:56:17 GMT
Organization: Apple Computer Inc., Cupertino, CA

kevin@nuchat.sccsi.com (Kevin Brown) writes:

>oneil@cwis.unomaha.edu (Sharon O'Neil) writes:
>>I honestly believe -- and have been told I'm unusual for this belief -- that 
>>in a relationship, friendship should come before romance.  

>This is rather unusual in my experience.  Most of the women I've talked to
>about this (relationship counselors and the like included) have said that
>they couldn't even consider dating someone who was already a good friend,
>because they would tend to think of such a person as a sibling.  The
>relationship counselors that I've talked to have said that this generally
>applies.  Dating a sibling feels wrong to most people...

I have a 13-year friendship with a fellow and we have been lovers on 
and off during that time. Once a few years ago, after we had made love, he 
said to me, "Sometimes it seems weird that we make love, because you seem 
like a sister to me." He meant that we had a long shared history as friends
and lovers, and we could talk to each other about stuff we couldn't tell
anyone else. I knew what he meant. Nevertheless, it never felt strange to 
me that we should enjoy making love together. Maybe this is because I didn't 
grow up with siblings? I don't see anything strange about the idea of
dating someone who is a good friend.

By the way, Kevin -- congratulations!!!

Stef                 ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
stef@apple.com       It is the time you have wasted for your rose
                     that makes your rose so important.       Saint-Exupery
                     ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
From: tps@jptcs.COM (Tim Sailer)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: What is attractive to women?
Date: 18 Nov 92 21:55:36 GMT
Reply-To: tps@jptcs.com
Organization: JPT Computer Solutions, Port Jeff Station, NY
X-Newsreader: TIN [version 1.1 PL6]

Chris Penington (cjp8b@dayhoff.med.Virginia.EDU) wrote:
: In article <5745@jptcs.COM> tps@jptcs.com writes:
: >Sandra Loosemore (loosemore-sandra@cs.yale.edu) wrote:
: >: a dress, and I wouldn't be caught dead in high heels either.
: >               ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
: >Now THAT'S a shame! :(
: 
: Huh? High heels are the female equivalent of ties on men: pointless,
: uncomfortable adornment, to be worn only when the situation demands it
: (ie when people will get really offended if you don't). Lucky me, the

TIME OUT! I hate wearing ties and suits... BUT I know I look good if
I go out to dinner or a play in the city wearing a double-breasted 
charcoal-grey silk, starched shirt, tie, and nice shoes! I just
don't prefer to wear clothes like that all the time! I like to see
women all dressed up, WITH high heels.... IT'S JUST A PEFERENCE!!!
As far as them being uncomfortable, I guess that depends on the woman
wearing them. I dated a girl who would wear heels as opposed to flats
because she said they were more comfortable!

As far as "I wouldn't be caught dead in high heels", you're right. They
don't bury you with shoes on!

-- 
Tim Sailer
JPT Computer Solutions - SCO Sales/Consulting/Administration and Mangling
Port Jefferson Station, NY
(516) 331-9001
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: Education and the Single World
Organization: my opinions only
Date: Mon, 16 Nov 1992 23:45:37 GMT

In article <1992Nov12.131200.103@cbnews.cb.att.com>
eleanor@cbnews.cb.att.com (eleanor.j.evans) writes:
>
>Allisson asks about education in regard to dating potential....
>
>An [ex, but not relevant to this] boyfriend of mine once said,
>"I'm worried that you're awed by my PhD."  *snort*  I laughed
>in his face--had trouble stopping, actually.  I decided when I
>was eight that I was going to be Dr. Evans (not that I am, yet
>:-).)  Just seemed like that's what you did in my family....

Yes, I remember that discussion at dinner last week.  It took _all_ of
my degrees to start to impress you :-)

Seth		sethb@fid.morgan.com
Organization: Penn State University
Date: Thu, 19 Nov 1992 21:42:23 EST
From: <TWA101@psuvm.psu.edu>
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Top 9 things...

my favorite is "you're the type of guy that my mother wishes that I would date.
"  Makes me wonder if her mother is available.
From: julie@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu (Julie Wright)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Nightline and Presidential Cantidates
Date: 17 Nov 92 00:37:15 GMT
Organization: Fans o' Humpty Dumpty

pdsmith@bbn.com (Peter D. Smith) writes:

>In article <1992Nov14.005107.37442@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu> jm0i@ns1.cc.lehigh.edu (JOSEPH ALOYSIUS MCVEIGH) writes:
>>I'm one of those purists who likes facts. By definition, a recession is a
>>period of 2 or more consecutive quarters of GNP contraction. Note that the
>>definition does not mention level of income, amount of wealth, or ability to
>>spell "discretionary."

>Well, that's glory for you.

>(10 point trivia question: where's the quote from, and why does it apply?)

Maybe Dawn's offspring would know.

---Julie
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