From: msanghvi@cs.ulowell.edu (Mehul Sanghvi)
Subject: Re: IA double standard (was Re: age of "control"?)
Reply-To: msanghvi@cs.ulowell.edu
Organization: UMass-Lowell Comp. Sci. Dept.
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Date: Tue, 6 Oct 1992 02:41:26 GMT

In article <1992Oct1.035759.23977@pasteur.Berkeley.EDU> c150-bt@po.berkeley.edu (Manish Vij) writes:


   >There are a helluva lot IAs out here who treat Indian girls/women like
   >sluts/whores simply beacuse they have been out with non-Indians

   If that's true, and I haven't found that to be true at least among my
   friends here at Berkeley, it's a pity.

Damn right its a pity.

   If you mean that in the strict sense that they're denigrated for going
   out with a non-Indian, it's unjustified.  But if you mean that in the
   sense that they're looked down upon for being physically involved with more
   than one guy, that's an even greater pity, but not one unique to IA's.

I meant it in the strict sense. Whether the woman in question actually had a
physical relationship or not is out of the question, nobody wants to even
pursue that line of thought. If she went out with a non-Indian it
automatically means she is sleeping with the guy. Yes it is totally
unjustified and something not unique to IAs either. But one thing I have
noticed is that the II guys I know accept the fact that an IA woman has/is
going out with an American but they dont treat the woman as a slut/whore, they
treat her like any other woman they know. Of course I am not saying all IIs
are like that. I also know IIs who are on the opposite side of the fence as
well.  

   >   I and many of my IA guy friends don't date II women not because
   >   "we've given up all rights to them by tradition rules" but because
   >   they tend to have an entirely different world-view than we do.
   >
   >Agreed there is quiet a big diffrence between the II perspective and the IA
   >perspective of things. That is something I have learnt the hard way. But that
   >still doesnt mean that I have blown off IA women (no I am not II but I am not
   >IA either...I am somewhere in between). I know quiet a few II women who would
   >make good companions for an IA guy. "Times they are a changin' " back home and
   >you'll be surprised as to how much alike things are starting to be.

   It's funny, but I _have_ started coming across II women (mostly from large
   cities like Bombay) who smoke out, sleep around, and generally do other
   non-traditional things.  Then I have several IA friends who live in single-
   sex dorms with other women, learn Bharat Natyam dance, mind their parents,
   will get arranged marriages, etc.

The II women from big cities I already was familiar with (I have lived in
Bombay) but there are II women from smaller towns who are non-traditional as
well sometimes even more so then their big city counterparts. I too have met
IA women who are on both sides of the fence as well.


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