From: pnwp-217@onion.rain.com
Subject: To all Portland women.
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Date: Tue, 7 Apr 1992 00:31:42 GMT

To Portland area women,

	Hi again everyone. I finally got a few responses to my ad, some of 
them supportive and understanding and some of them not so supportive and
understanding. A couple of letters I got were down right indignant that I
should even be asking for a woman to come and "service" my needs. I am sorry
if that is how my ad comes across. One person who wrote said "what do you
have to offer, the chance for someone to sit around your house and listen to
you whine and take care of your physical needs? Oh boy!" They also wrote 
"What healthy female would respond to an ad like that?" Well, the person who 
wrote that misinterpreted my article, and I was angry that they hadn't taken
the time to read it carefully, then I began to wonder how many people had read
it that way. So I want to straighten a few things out. 

	I didn't ask for responses from healthy, emotionally together,
well centered women who are happy and adjusted to being single. I am looking
for someone who has had the same experience as me, became single very suddenly
and is not enjoying it at all. For someone like that I have a lot to offer.
I am reasonable looking, intelligent, thoughtful, have a keen sense of humor
even if a little twisted. I am articulate, a good host, and a sensitive lover.
I can offer my shoulder to cry on if you need it, and all I ask is a shoulder
in return for the times that I feel like crying. I am not interested in sitting
around "ex-bashing" or starting a hate club. I know that I will have to become
a whole person on my own, and I can't use someone else to fill my own voids.
What I want is a friend who can understand my moodiness and not take it 
personally, and in return I will offer myself as a friend with the same 
understanding. I am not looking for a nurse maid, I am looking for someone to
make an alliance with, to help each other get back on our feet. I offered
quiet evenings at my home for two reasons. Number one is that if there is a
person out there who feels like me, then quiet evenings at home will probably
sound good, I am not ready to brave the outside world yet, perhaps with the
right person we could work up to that together. Number two, I have been left
in such poor financial condition that I had to quit smoking as well as give
up a few other luxuries in order to survive and keep my house. Quiet evenings
at home is all I can afford to offer any one at the moment. I am sure this 
condition will improve with time, but for now it is a fact of life. If this
is a turn-off to you, then you are not the person I seek. I am not looking 
for anyone who requires spending money in order to enjoy each others company.

	Now, with all that said, here is my article again. I hope it will be
well received.

		*********** REPOST ****************

        I am a 27 year old white male who has just lost his wife to the
"I need to find myself" syndrome. We are/were married 10 years, have two
children ages one and a half and four. We currently have joint custody and
I have the children every other week. My wife was my very best friend in 
the whole world, so much so that I have no poker buddies, fishing buddies,
etc, to pal around with and fill the long voids in my life during the weeks 
that my children stay with their mom. I have become something of a homebody
over the years, and never really spent any time being single before, I don't
even know where to start. I am hoping to find a woman who likes quiet evenings
at home, just chatting over coffee or watching a movie together and enjoying
each others company. To be realistic I am an emotional black hole, I have 
nothing left to give in the way of emotional involvement. Perhaps there is 
a woman out there who is having/has had the same experience and is feeling
emotionally crippled and lonely as well. I would like to find you, if you
are out there, and maybe we could take some comfort in each others company.
I also find myself with a lot of unfulfilled physical needs, and while I
have nothing to invest in a relationship, I would surely like to find a 
friend who would enjoy spending an evening or two with me, and perhaps 
staying for breakfast now and then (only on weeks when the kids are at 
their mom's house). Well, I have tried to be honest about what I am looking
for without being crude and uncivilised, I hope that someone will read
this and be interested/curious enough to write. My newsfeed currently does
not carry pnw.personals so please send replies via email to my alias.

                        Thank you
                            S.


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