From: ylee@syl.dl.nec.com (Ying-Da Lee)
Subject: Re: Guess my age and win a valuable prize!
Organization: NEC Systems Lab., C&C Software Technology Center (Dallas, TX)
Date: Wed, 26 Aug 1992 19:33:06 GMT

"swiss" arnold:
>there *are* guys who say they don't want a lover more than a year or
>two older than they are, because he's "likely to die on you".  but,
>dave, you aren't talking about lifetime commitments here, and anyway,
>i can assure everyone from my own harsh experience that lovers can die
>on you at any age.

BBC:
>	This is true.  My lover is older than I, by more than the average
>amount.  Worrying about some date in the future that could be tomorrow
>is pointless.  I love him here and now.  That day will come, eventually,
>but the time until then will be worth every picosecond, and it could
>just as easily be he who outlives me.  I have better things to worry about.

I am in a similar situation.  Ours is a 62-45 pair.  The fact that
Murray is quickly approaching the "senior citizen" status (a term
he strongly detests, by the way) makes the "what if something happens
to him" question a little more glaring.  This was one of the two
questions of great concerns my sister asked when I went back to Taiwan
last December for the first visit in twenty years.

(The other question: "Are you safe in Texas?"  OK so far, though I
am getting pretty tired of being called sodomite by all those nice
Christians with loving family values.)

My answer to her was the same I gave to everyone who asked about
relationships with a substantial age difference:  What else am
I supposed to do?  Go chase a younger man even though that is not
my heart's desire?

To underline arnold's last sentence quoted above, I came back
from that trip to learn that the younger man of a 72-43 couple
died two weeks before.  They had been together for nearly 20
years and I am sure that's not what they had envisioned how
it would have ended.

I have no major grumbles against people preferring younger ones.
I assume they have no more control over their taste (or proclivity
or obsession) than I do mine.  In any case, without people like
them, people like me would have been in big big trouble finding
our dream-mates.  I do wish my kind were not such a minority
though, it makes the task of finding interesting porno a lot
more difficult than configuring Unix email.

On the other hand, I am puzzled by people who have the need to know
your age for their litmus test even after they have been talking
face-to-face with you.  Just goes to prove that people are odd
in so many strange ways.  Me, I am not choosy.  As long as you
look old and decrepit (preferably portly so), I don't care how
many decades you have been around.  (Better be prudent:  here
are the smileys :-) :-) :-)

Oh, and according to Murray, being older has its advantages.  He
was in the grocery store a few days ago when some yahoo proclaimed
"... and you've got all these 7-foot niggers to catch the ball.."
Murray stopped dead in his track, turned to this fine gentleman
and inquired in equally loud voice: "And you eat with that mouth
too?"

He assures me that people just don't attack a Santa Claus look-alike
(a role for which he would need neither fake beard nor paddings).
I hope he is right, though I feel obliged to remind him that we
are no longer in Madison.  (And yes, I am jealous.  It usually
takes me three days to think up a retort of similar cutting
power.  These yahoos generally are not considerate enough to
stay around that long to hear it.)

	Ying-Da Lee

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