From: 002111m@ace.acadiau.ca (SCOTT BORDEN MACDONALD)
Newsgroups: alt.romance.chat
Subject: Re: In love more than once-Is it possible?
Date: 6 Nov 92 20:48:35 GMT
Organization: Acadia University

In article <17871@autodesk.COM> jamesr@Autodesk.COM (James Rowell) writes:
>From: jamesr@Autodesk.COM (James Rowell)
>Subject: In love more than once-Is it possible?
>Date: 4 Nov 92 23:02:44 GMT
>I've stumbled upon this news group in moment of boredom, and
>although it's tremendously sticky sweet and fuzzy warm, I admit I
>like it!  I've just sampled some of the postings (no way can I
>read through all of them now) and I'll have to agree that it does
>seem to be the friendliest group on the net.  Not only that but
>I've read some really optimistic and positive views of love and
>romance and how great relationships can be, and it reminded me of
>how right you are.  I've forgotten.
>
>I consider myself lucky that once in my life I was IN LOVE big
>time with a woman named Laura.  It's a long story but it was the
>kind of thing novels and poems are written about.  I remember
>once holding Laura in my arms and staring prolongedly into her
>eyes to burn her image and that feeling into my mind.  It's burnt
>in.  The relationship had a tragic ending (no she didn't die
>thank god, but we did split, ugly stuff, very painful).  To fill
>you in, I've had one girl-friend since her, wasn't in love and
>we've long since broken up.  I'm just not sure that I'll ever
>really feel for another woman the innocent-powerful-kind-of-
>shape-your-ideas-about-life-love I felt for Laura.  Maybe I've
>convinced myself of this, maybe it's true.
>
>Right now, I'll have to say that being single is perfect for me.
>Perhaps this last girl-friend of mine was so demanding that I'm
>very hesitant to get involved with someone else and loose the
>(come-on admit it) fabulous freedom of being single.  I'm not
>talking about freedom to screw around but just of not having to
>account to anyone.
>
>Which brings me to my question to provoke a little discussion.
>Have any of you REALLY been in love, and had it turn out disas-
>trous only to find yourself deeply in love again?  How about peo-
>ple like me?  That is, You've been in love and it hasn't happened
>again (and you doubt it will).
>
>It's been so many years that I've felt this way that my whole
>view of what I want out if life has changed alot from what I felt
>before the "in-love" experience.  I don't see myself ever getting
>married, no kids, but traveling, working and just taking life
>easy, no real responsibilities.  Don't get me wrong I'm very hap-
>py, it's just that your postings reminded me of some of those
>powerful feelings I once had, and I felt like talking about it.
>
>Cheers, James.

James, I'm sorry to say but yes I have experienced the same syndrom, the IN-
LOVE-ONCE but PROBABLY-NOT-AGAIN syndrom.

It sucks, and it hurts, althuogh mine was slightly more recent than yours. I 
am at the stage now that it would seem bloddy unlikely that it is possible, 
but the only thing I have to go on is the hope that I will, without hope you 
don't really have much, so that's why I cling to it pretty strongly.
I'm not gonna sit here and run through the whole sob stroy, but, I'll say 
that your definitely noit alone. 

Later.
Scott.