From: bek@po.CWRU.Edu (Brett E. Katz)
Newsgroups: alt.support.diet
Subject: Re: Dedication
Date: 26 Jan 1993 14:24:25 GMT
Organization: Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, OH (USA)
Reply-To: bek@po.CWRU.Edu (Brett E. Katz)
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In a previous article, jamisen@mekong.engin.umich.edu (jamisen laurel hobson) says:


>I have been doing really well since, Jan 1 or there abouts and I am currently
>eating low-fat, High-Carb and fiber diet and working out 6 days a week.
>
>I have a small problem though and that is I have no will power.  I don't
>buy things that aren't good for me so that usually isn't a problem but
>this weekend I made a special dinner ( Chicken Cordon Bleu, and only 4 grams
>of fat in the whole meal) but he wanted chocolate cake.  Well, when he made it I 
>think I ate half of it.  The only good thing is that there wasn't any frosting.
>I am very angry with myself for that.
>
 
 Have you tried explaining how you feel to your fiance'? I have (had?) the
same problem with mine as you seem to have with yours. My fiance doesn't
mind my weight either and kept telling me I don't need to diet. He'd
encourage me to deviate from my Weight Watchers program by saying I worked
out so a "small bite" wouldn't hurt. Etc...It's hard enough to diet without
everyone around you trying to sabatoge your willpower!

 Anyway, last night I was dead tired but forced myself to go work out after
work. I was really proud of myself since exercising was the last thing I
felt like doing. I had planned my dinner out during the day and was super
motivated. Well, I got home to find my fiance' back from a supermarket
shopping spree. He thought he'd be sweet and make dinner for us.
Unfortunately, his idea of dinner included enough cheese for a week on
Weight Watchers, sour cream, oil, etc. I about cried. I felt my willpower
crumbling! I didn't want to hurt his feelings, and I didn't want to deny
him from eating what he wanted to. But I didn't want to eat it either!

 So, (to make a long story even longer) I took a deep breath and talked to
him. I explained that even though he is happy with how I look (bless him!), I
am not and I am trying really hard to lose weight. I explained my diet
program to him and told him how hard it is for me to say no to tempting
food. 

 Well, surprise surprise, he UNDERSTOOD! He was so sweet and supportive. He
said even though he loves me the way I am, he will help me diet if that's
what I want. Then, he even made me a dinner that fit into my Weight
Watchers program! Even though he ate the high-fat dinner he was preparing,
I wasn't nearly as tempted since he didn't offer me any and I had my own
satisfying meal (eggplant!) that fit my program. 

 Now, it won't always be that easy and who knows what will happen if I go
home tonight to find him eating ice cream. But he promised to help me, and
that included trying to keep the most tempting foods out of the house.

 So, try talking to him and explaining your needs. Tell him what foods are
your "dangerous" ones. If he really wants cake, ask him if he can buy one
slice and eat that rather than making a whole one. It's worth trying! Good
luck.

 -- Brett
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