From: clare@nynexst.com (Clare Chu)
Subject: Re: Interesting (suprising?) Fact.
Organization: Nynex Science and Technology
Date: Tue, 13 Oct 92 14:24:58 GMT

In article <70678@hydra.gatech.EDU> gt7131a@prism.gatech.EDU (Paul Joseph Panaro) writes:
>
>In article <Oct.8.13.51.51.1992.1703@soliton.rutgers.edu> zzhang@soliton.rutgers.edu (ZhiZhong Zhang) writes:
>>I am not sure if it is appropriate to post this here, but I'll give it 
>>a try. I am from mainland China and I know a lot of people from mainland
>>China and Taiwan. Naturally mainland Chinese and Taiwanese date americans
>>when they are here. Now the interesting part, usually the girls who can 
>>get chinese dates don't date Americans. Most of the times, only those
>>who cannot date Chinese or Taiwanese date Americans. No offense to anyone
>>here, just my observation. 
>>ZZZ
>
>
>   I was an undergraduate at Rutgers and I have no idea what you are
>talking about.  Most of the Native borns that only dated other Native
>borns did so because they only communicated with other Native born
>Chinese/Taiwanese.  The students that did choose to communicate with
>the entire student body dated a wide range of students.  Of the girls
>from China/Taiwan that "could get chinese dates", how many of them
>communicated with everyone?  If you are just going to stay in your own
>little group then you could have just stayed home and been a video
>student.  There are a lot of interesting people out there.  Maybe you
>should try and meet a few.
>
>						-Paul
>
> kamprath:
>But then the question still stands:  Why are those who decide to date a local
>"less able" to get a date with the people from the country they are from?

  Simple.  Because they prefer to date people from their own country.
  Is that so hard for you superior Americans to understand?
  
>And I still contend that those from country X who are studying in country Y and
>who "make fun" or "look down" upon those from country X that date people from
>country Y are xenophobic, if not racist.

>  Paul:
>Just to ZZZ:
>  If you just want to cause trouble then then go to downtown New
>Brunswick and start yelling racial slurs.  There are enough problems
>out there with out you making up some.
>

  Just curious, why are you guys so upset with ZZZ?  He is stating his
  observation, you state yours.  So your observations don't match.
  Big deal.  Does it really kill you "American" men so much that
  there exist some women (from mainland China, mind you) that don't
  prefer to date you studly "Americans"???  (I don't see any Asian-
  American men complaining that these mainland girls don't want
  to date them).  What's so bad about mainland girls preferring
  to date mainland men?  I see White Americans all the time who
  only date White Americans.  Doesn't bother me the least bit!
  I have countless White American friends who will never date anyone
  outside of their race, I don't go around getting upset and calling
  them racists.  I know men of every race who don't like Asian women
  and would never go out with one, yet they are still my friends
  and I could care less who they choose to date or why. 

  What's so bad about people who stay in their own little group?
  I think everyone stays in their own little group.  Tell me, didn't
  you have your group of friends?  I bet you eat lunch every day with
  your little group of friends.  I see people in their own little
  groups all the time.  It's just that when it's an all White group,
  no one blinks an eye.  But if it's an all Black group, or an
  all-mainland Chinese group, it somehow galls on you "real Americans".
  Yet, Americans also hang around in their own little group.  My mom
  and sister (Asian-Americans) went on a trip to Germany and guess
  what?  All the Americans on the tour all hung around together.
  So what if people date within their little group?  If they eat
  lunch with their little group, why can't they date in their little
  group?  What's it to you?  You can't have all the women in the world
  you know...  They don't all belong to you Americans.