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From: asp@wam.umd.edu (??)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: How to meet girls?
Date: 16 Apr 92 18:14:01 GMT
Organization: University of Maryland at College Park

I'm 18 and this is my first year here at school.  I haven't met many girls and
the I just don't seem to appeal to the ones I have.  I think I seem like a 
decent guy.  I think I care alot and listen well.  What is a good way to meet
girls and get this point across to them.  

Todd
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: dbj@cs.washington.edu (Dave Johnson)
Subject: Re: Peeking through the curtain
Organization: Computer Science & Engineering, U. of Washington, Seattle
Date: Fri, 10 Apr 92 20:57:57 GMT

In article <1847@asuvax.eas.asu.edu> ra@asuvax.eas.asu.edu (Starcap'n Ra) writes:
>barry@netcom.com (Kenn Barry) writes:
>> fredw@mks.com (Fred Walter) writes:
>> >Actually, I never said this, and my examples had a woman being
>> >the other person.
>> 
>> 	What you have said is that you see all affairs as gratuitous sex.
>
>     I'm still waiting for Fred or somebody
>to define gratuitous sex.  Or did I miss that
>posting?  That's entirely possible  -- often
>I do seem to have somewhat of an itchy "n" key.

Okay, you know how when you go to a restaurant and you pay
the bill and you add in 15% for the waiter and that's called
a gratuity?  See, so like that means gratuitous sex is sex
that you give somebody for providing good service.

Or do I have the order wrong again?

-- 
  Dave Johnson

"You're not too smart, are you?  I like that in a man."
    --Kathleen Turner in Body Heat
From: martinc@grover.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Male visual orientationREFRESH
Date: 8 Apr 92 13:57:46 GMT
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	<1992Apr5.152939.14752@cs.yale.edu>
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In-reply-to: loosemore-sandra@CS.YALE.EDU's message of 5 Apr 92 11:29:30 GMT

In article <1992Apr5.152939.14752@cs.yale.edu> loosemore-sandra@CS.YALE.EDU (Sandra Loosemore) writes:

   In article <ftmj1am.barry@netcom.com> barry@netcom.com (Kenn Barry) writes:

      >Come on folks, let's try to exhibit a little more tolerance and
      >understanding.

	      Ooh, the irony.

   Hey guys, what I keep hearing you all saying is that you think any
   woman who *doesn't* enjoy dressing up like a prostitute has some kind
   of problem.  Is *that* really a tolerant attitude?  As I said, what
   consenting adults choose to do is their own business, but if they choose
   not to do it, that's their own business too.  Sheesh.

But Sandra, what we keep hearing you saying is that you aren't hearing
what we're saying.
--
Charles R. Martin/(Charlie)/martinc@cs.unc.edu/(ne crm@cs.duke.edu) 
O/Department of Computer Science/Sitterson Hall/UNC/Chapel Hill, NC 27599
H/3611 University Dr #13M/Durham, NC 27707/(919) 419 1754
The universe is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to
grow sharper.  -- Eden Phillpot, I'm told.  Anyone have a better reference?
Organization: Senior, Civil Engineering, Carnegie Mellon, Pittsburgh, PA
From: shlomo@colditz.Berkeley.EDU (Shlomo Zilberstein)
Subject: ISRAELI TEST PILOT LOOKING FOR A PARTNER FOR A TRIP
Originator: shlomo@colditz.berkeley.edu
Organization: University of California at Berkeley
Distribution: usa
Date: Fri, 10 Apr 1992 16:58:06 GMT


  ISRAELI TEST PILOT LOOKING FOR A PARTNER FOR A CROSS COUNTRY
  TRIP IN HIS JEEP CHEROKEE

  o  Two-week trip starting June 8th.
  o  Leaving LA area and ending in Washington DC.
  o  Mostly interested in national parks:
     Grand Canyon, Zion, Yellowstone, Brice, Rushmore...
     itinerary is flexible.
  o  Looking for adventurous, good natured person, aged 22-35.
  o  Would like to meet person before travel
     (will be in the bay area on the weekend of 4/17)
  o  Please call (805) 258-8225 in the evening (until midnight)
From: groves@noao.edu (Lee Groves )
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: More helpful Hints
Date: 16 Apr 92 15:40:35 GMT
Organization: National Optical Astronomy Observatories, Tucson, AZ, USA

From article <1992Apr15.224732.23420@u.washington.edu>, by intrigue@milton.u.washington.edu (Angelwing):
> In article <1992Apr15.213903.17555@noose.ecn.purdue.edu> lisad@dynamo.ecn.purdue.edu (Lisa Dominique) writes:
>>So this is where you hide!!  *sly smile*   
> 
> Sly?  Smile?  uhhhhh
> 
>>I think the question is, "Now what do you WANT to do"?  :)   
> 
> Send this back to alt.romance.chat&gag?

As opposed to soc.single&bitter&cynical?


Lee



-- 
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@isis.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: The Wall
X-Disclaimer: Nyx is a public access Unix system run by the University
	of Denver for the Denver community.  The University has neither
	control over nor responsibility for the opinions of users.
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix at U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Distribution: usa
Date: Wed, 15 Apr 92 18:40:32 GMT

In article <1992Apr15.012916.21556@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu> kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:
>>charon@diana.cair.du.edu (Chuck Haron) writes:
>>> Doesen't ther come a time when one gets tired of beating his/her
>>>head against  The Wall, and the search just doesn't seem worth it anymore?
>
>mlb@cisco.com (Marcia Bednarcyk) blithely opines:
>>There sure does...and that's when you really start to live, free of this
>>burden of "searching". You start to appreciate the happinesses you already
>>have, and you go out and do things you enjoy, and take joy in them. All the
>>energy that you put into "searching" for someone to make your life complete
>>you can now put into making your life complete yourself.
>
>Naw. What really happens is that you become bitter and resigned. You
>realise how little happiness there is in your life. The things that
>once brought you joy now seem deviod of meaning. You understand how
>important a relationship really is, and how your soul is incomplete
>and cannot be conpleted without another person.

I have to agree with Marcia here--once you realize how much happiness
and joy there is in your life even when you're alone and start looking
at relationships as something you want rather than something you need,
you will probably be better at getting and maintaining them.  After all,
more people are probably going to be interested in dating someone who
is already whole and complete rather than someone who is incomplete and
dependent on others for their emotional well-being.  Would you rather
date someone who wanted to be with you or someone who simply wanted to
be on a date because their life was devoid of meaning whenever they
were alone?

Trygve    (In a world with sunny spring days, bicycles, hot fudge,
           and an uncountable variety of things nobody has even done
           yet, how can one remain bitter and miserable for any
           prolonged period of time?)

Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@isis.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: The "first" "move" (was Re: A R C )
X-Disclaimer: Nyx is a public access Unix system run by the University
	of Denver for the Denver community.  The University has neither
	control over nor responsibility for the opinions of users.
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix at U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Tue, 14 Apr 92 21:33:57 GMT

In article <65421@apple.Apple.COM> stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
>In article <1992Apr13.174732.8836@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@isis.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>>
>>Now all I've got to do is figure out how to get around the Wicca part,
>>since, much as I like intelligent, aggressive women who are relatively
>>unconstrained by convention, the ones I meet keep turning out to be
>>serious, practicing pagans with a serious religious observance scheduled
>>every seven to eight minutes--not that there's anything inherently wrong
>>with pagans, but it doesn't seem to leave much room in their lives for
>>anyone who isn't a pagan.
>>
>So that's why they are aggressive ... they're looking for a sacrificial
>victim? But hey, might be fun, depending on what's being honored...

Could be--now, being a minister myself, I tend to specialize in rites
involving the worship of the earthly incarnations of the goddess
Aphrodite, but being an atheist, this tends to involve a lot of lip
service.

>>Trygve    (What's a atheist to do?)  
>Lie back and think of England?

But I'm tired of thinking of England--how about, just for a little
variety (at least I won't have to change the language), I lie back
and think of 'down under' instead?

>Stef, nonaddictedwiccan

Trygve 
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@isis.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: The "first" "move" (was Re: A R C )
X-Disclaimer: Nyx is a public access Unix system run by the University
	of Denver for the Denver community.  The University has neither
	control over nor responsibility for the opinions of users.
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix at U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Tue, 14 Apr 92 17:36:52 GMT

In article <1992Apr13.223322.2312@mks.com> fredw@mks.com (Fred Walter) writes:
>tlode@isis.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>>Trygve    (What's an atheist to do?)  
>
>Masterbate ?

Sounds like a reasonable suggestion, but I don't want to do that *too* much
because I've heard that excessive masturbation can lead to spelling
difficulties.

Trygve
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Discussion Of Romantic Songs
Date: 17 Apr 92 21:03:40 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: Auspex Systems, Inc.

In article <1992Apr16.130652.23457@cbfsb.cb.att.com> jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton) writes:
|OK, last night MTV. The band called something like "Old Smoky Joe" or
|"Old Country Joe" The song is "Everything about you". Goes something like
|- I hate everything about you, I hate your mother, I hate your father.
|Some people say I have a bad attitude, but you don't see no frown on this
|face. Anybody know the name of this band or heard it? That was a romantic
|song.

It's "Ugly Kid Joe" and the song is "Everything About You".  I have yet to
hear it.  Apparently it is in "Waynes World" and is real popular right now.
The band is from Palo Alto and they were originally called something like
"Suburban White Trash" or something like that.  I haven't heard it because
I don't listen to the radio much and the last time I saw MTV was about ten
years ago.  Almost all the music that I listen to is from recommendations
from friends and the net or I just buy something that "looks interesting"
at the CD store.  Most of these recordings I choose based on what I know
about the people playing on the album, the type of music or instrumentation
used on the album.  My musical selections aren't going to be influence by
what some music marketing types thinks I should listen to.

-- 
+=============================================================================+
| John Fereira                Al Bundy for President          
| johnf@auspex.com         "He's as good as the next guy"                     |
+=============================================================================+
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: walter (Walter Lego)
Subject: Re: Avoiding dating married people
Followup-To: soc.singles
Reply-To: nobody
Organization: Twisted Pair Inc.
Date: Tue, 14 Apr 92 19:31:26 GMT

In article <x_yjk0q.aahz@netcom.com> aahz@netcom.com (Aahzmandius) writes:
>In article <65360@apple.Apple.COM> stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
>>
>>If you screen calls, you should tell people that when you give out
>>your phone number. Not only is it common courtesy, but if you do,
>
>I don't even get that far, usually: I memorize how many rings it takes
>for each person's answering machine to come on line, and hang up on the
>ring before it.....
>
>Unfortunately, there are some sadistic people who keep changing the
>number of rings, so my little trick doesn't work too well.  I tend to
>call them less than other people.

And then there are some sadistic answering machines that ring longer for the
first message since activation and shorter for the subsequent ones. I wouldn't
date such machines.

Paranoid people should note that a shorter ring usually implies that a mesage
is already waiting on that machine, a message possibly left by an SO or
another suitor, or a spouse on vacation or a customer. Enjoy.

						Walter

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Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: userisra@mts.ucs.ualberta.ca (Mark Israel)
Subject: Re: Paying for things on the first date (Help!)/NP personals
Originator: lnds@zeus.biochem.ualberta.ca
Organization: University of Alberta, Edmonton, Canada
Date: Sun, 12 Apr 1992 09:19:10 GMT

In article <s7dhmINNlbs@agate.berkeley.edu>, epg@nature.berkeley.edu writes:
> As I mentioned earlier, I received many responses to my newspaper
> personal.  Though this may sound great, it's really a mixed
> blessing/curse.
>
> I don't want to let a long time pass before I meet the people who
> interested me most (about 15), so I'm trying to go out with 3 or 4 each
> week.
>
> I don't like to let men buy me dinner, drinks, etc. when I don't know
> them.  I think it's unfair to <expect> a man to pay, and I don't want
> anyone to think I "owe" them something because they bought me a drink or
> whatever.  But spending $30-$50 extra each week is going to put me in
> massive debt really soon.  So what should I do?
>
>
> a soon to be <very> poor,
>
> little 'e'

   The first meeting doesn't have to be a dinner date.  (In fact, I think
that's pretty unusual.)  Meet them for coffee or for a walk in the park.

userisra@mts.ucs.ualberta.ca		Mark Israel
Instinctive grammatical moralizer.
From: jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: The Second Move
Date: 16 Apr 92 13:13:51 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: AT&T

In article <1992Apr16.010444.7304@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu> kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle) writes:
>intrigue@milton.u.washington.edu (Angelwing) writes:
>
>>Oh please.  I should be doomed to have only jerks because I am not
>>aggressive in the way YOU think I should be?
>
>Because you are not taking charge of the chioces in your life, you
>should suffer some random selection of men.
>
>>But Kiran, I don't care.  I don't WANT things to change.  
>Fine with me. I'm glad you are satisfied with the way men and women
>are today.
>
>>But *of course*!!!  I only date men I WANT to date.  I choose, see?  I
>No, you only date men you want to date who have already decided they
>want to date you. 
>
>>I make myself available to the types I want and who want me.  Why, in
>And who have chosen you. There might be men in the world who would not
>ask you out, yet whom you might be happy with. But unless you are
>willing to ask them out, you will not date these people.
>
>>heaven's name, would I date men that I didn't choose to date?  
>You might be stuck having to choose from among some class of men
>who would choose you first. These men might not be your first choices
>as partners.
>

Your stretchin it here Kiran,
Perhaps Anglewing has but to bat her eyes and can have any man. Perhaps
you "need" to be more aggressive. If your saying Anglewing has never 
spoken to a man first, I doubt that.
I now return you to your regularly scheduled cat fight.
From: eleanor@ait.com (Eleanor Evans)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Discussion Of Romantic Songs
Date: 13 Apr 92 12:47:58 GMT
Organization: Artificial Intelligence Technologies, Inc.

Angelwing, in passing....
>....imaginary seductions in front of the fireplace [while the parents are
>out of town or at the local Sizzler].

Well, I'm embarrassed to admit it, but the highlight of next week for me
is that his parent are going out of town....  Ah, the problems of 
ProblemYoungerManHood....  I feel so young.....

Piglet
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: blowfish@carina.unm.edu (rON.)
Subject: Trygve's 'Masculinity'
Date: Mon, 06 Apr 92 09:05:33 GMT
Organization: University of New Mexico, Albuquerque

In article <1992Apr5.214349.13105@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@isis.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>That explains it--no wonder I don't understand men.
>Trygve    (Sport?   Euuurgh.) 
See. SEE! Trygve >is< a woman.
Damn, i just >knew< it.
Course, the net.droolers are going to be disappointed.....
';-)
r.
From: FA.TJM@forsythe.stanford.edu (thom mckean)
Subject: Re: date characteristics
Organization: Stanford University, California, USA
Distribution: usa
Date: Thu, 9 Apr 1992 16:20:54 GMT

In article <12375@auspex-gw.auspex.com>,
johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:
>In article <1992Apr8.185139.10309@morrow.stanford.edu>
>FA.TJM@forsythe.stanford.edu (thom mckean) writes:
>
>|Much safer to ask "Would you like to go see Chick Corea Friday
>|night at Slim's?"  If the woman is interested, she'll say yes.
>|If she's not interested, she'll say, no, thanks, I'm busy/gotta
>|pluck my eyebrows/watch the hockey game/train for the Olympics.
>
>Maybe she just doesn't like jazz.  Of course, for some people that
>might be reason enough not to go out with her anyway.   By the way,
>if this really happens I'd be glad to take the Corea tickets off
>your hands...
>
If she doesn't like jazz, esp. Chick, she's got deep-seeded
psychological problems...

Thom
From: stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Discussion Of Romantic Songs
Date: 11 Apr 92 05:23:40 GMT
Article-I.D.: apple.65237
Organization: Apple Computer Inc., Cupertino, CA

Attics of My Life, Grateful Dead
Diamonds and Rust, Joan Baez
Dark Cafe Days, Joni Mitchell

(Well, romance is a little bittersweet sometimes, no?)

--    
                  A more intimate theology, and one more consonant with 
Stef              the nature of...love, pictures a demonic force engaged  
stef@apple.com    in continuous creation and participation. - Iris Murdoch
From: rawdon@cabrales.cs.wisc.edu (Michael Rawdon)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Love: Is it a power thing?
Date: 12 Apr 92 01:42:46 GMT
Reply-To: rawdon@cabrales.cs.wisc.edu
Organization: University of Wisconsin Computer Sciences Dept., Madison, WI

In <1992Apr11.023241.9172@nuscc.nus.sg> polsak@nuscc.nus.sg (Suzaina Abdul Kadir (Ms)) writes:
>Well, I must say that I agree. At least Love can be a
>power thing. I was in one relationship in which I loved
>whole-heartedly, and in the end got trampled and eventually
>dumped.

Well, it's one thing to say that love *is* a power thing, and quite another
to say that it *can be* a power thing.  I would agree with the former, but
disagree with the latter.

I think that nearly any characteristic of a relationship, or friendship, or
whatever, *can be* a power thing.  Someone can always twist it to try to get
someone else to do what they want.

Most relationships probably have a certain amount of power-playing in them,
but I don't think that that is necessarily a good thing for the relationship.
Most people hate being manipulated, and given mankind's prediliction for
vengeance upon those who wrong them, manipulators need to be aware that what
goes around comes around.  If the person they're manipulating realizes that
the love in the relationship is one-sided, what "comes around" could be
pretty devastating.

>	  Then I was in another mini-relationship where I
>learned to control my feelings and be in control over
>the whole thing...in this instance it began to feel good.
>Then again having somesort of power is a good feeling...

Having power is a good feeling; it's also an addictive feeling, and one
must be aware that it can have a backlash, sooner or later.  Being powerLESS
is not a good feeling, either, though.

I guess it's not so much what power exists, but how it's used, that counts.

>But I suppose as with other things, striking a balance
>(i.e. equal 50/50 share of power in the relationship)
>is the best.

Striking compromises can be a good thing, too.

>BUT OH! POWER !!!

If love is a "power thing", does that mean I can buy one from Black & Decker?
:-)

-- 
Michael Rawdon
rawdon@cabrales.cs.wisc.edu
University of Wisconsin Computer Sciences Department, Madison, WI

Can't let go - there's a madness in my soul tonight.
				- Bryan Ferry, "Can't Let Go"
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: beth diane garfinkel <bgarfink@copper.ucs.indiana.edu>
Subject: Under-the-table manners
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Sat, 11 Apr 92 14:11:06 GMT

As a not-very-experienced person who has made a desperate resolve that I
am soon (at least before the end of the year) going to try to have a
(personal) life, I find myself in need of a few pointers.  These are
probably going to seem like extremely silly questions to all of you who
don't make posts on Friday nights (procrastinating from my academic
pursuits, alas), but I find myself woefully ignorant of the rules of
ettiquette involved in playing footsie and related pursuits.

First of all, how does one distinguish between a casual touch that
doesn't mean anything, and one with intent?

Second, if one is in doubt as to WHO it is doing that, is there any
polite or non-obtrusive way to find out?

Thirdly, what is the proper response if one wishes to give
encouragement, or if one wishes to NOT give encouragement?

And lastly, when is it appropriate, or a good idea, to initiate
procedings oneself?]

There are other matters of ettiquette that I am also not conversant
with, but because of some recent incidents, I find this particular one
rather pressing at the moment, so to speak :)

My gratitude to all who wish to post or e-mail me with advice.

							Beth
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: FA.TJM@forsythe.stanford.edu (Thom McKean)
Subject: Re: Sanctity of relationships
Organization: Stanford University, California, USA
Distribution: usa
Date: Thu, 16 Apr 1992 21:59:18 GMT

In article <tpzjnjn.shannah@netcom.com>,
shannah@netcom.com (Teri Miller) writes:
>In article <1992Apr11.003948.11015@borland.com> figmo@borland.com (Lynn Gold) writes:
>>
>> [yamminayamminayamminayammina]
>>
>
> [flame that made my eyes redden and water]
>

YOW, Teri!  YOW!

You eat something Vindaloo for lunch?

I've got no idea about you or Lynn as people, but YOW!

Thanks for livening up my day!

Mwah!  Love you all!

Thom

Are you guys gonna laugh every time I take a drink?  Cause your
gut's really gonna hurt if you are...
     -Holly Cole of the Holly Cole Trio, last night at Bimbo's 365 Club