From: tuell@sjh.org
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Over 40 and single....Anyone that "OLD"?
Date: 23 Dec 92 17:05:48 GMT
Distribution: usa,na
Organization: St. Joseph Hospital, Cheektowaga, N.Y.

You guys are cracking me up.  Everyone is so hung up on age...especially women
.  I am 36 and granted society forces us into two choices.  You can either go 
with the aging process and whine about how men are attracted to younger women 
or you can get off your butt and exercise.  Louise...I don't know you but I 
can tell you this....if you work at your body you will feel good about 
yourself.  I have a teen-age daughter and a 9 year old son.  I am very 
physically active...I bike, I dive...I rollerblade with my kids.  I keep 
dating guys much younger than me because most of the men my age are too drab.  
They complain about their ailments.....they just bore me.  I am sure that's 
how monay people feel...not must men...  

I too get down about getting old.  But don't just sit back and whine..if you 
are unhappy about it then do something.  Beleive me...if you are young and 
vibrant of heart and take care of your appearance men of all ages will be more 
attracted to you because of your level of maturity and wisdom...but you have 
to lighten up.  Try dating younger men yourself!  I have girlfriends that are 
in their 20's....I like them but you are right Louise...alot of them are 
difficult to talk to because they are still gaga about men.  And you are right
..many of them want a daddy...but not all of them.  It depends on the woman.  
My husband left me for a younger women after 16 years of marriage.  I am glad. 
 I am having much more fun and he is miserable because he hangs out in singles 
bars and lives a completely airhead existance.....he wanted sex with young 
women and than's what he got.....lots of it...he is gorgeous and rich and the 
young women tell me he is "hot".  

If you see men that are into that then let them be.....you aboviously wouldn't 
want them anyway.  If you are having trouble meeting men then I will suggest 
Scuba Diving.  I started it because I always wanted to learn ...but what a 
great way to meet people!  Try some new activities.  Join the "Adventures 
Club".

In article <1992Dec16.222040.27360@cbnewsi.cb.att.com>, gadfly@cbnewsi.cb.att.com (Gadfly) writes:
> In article <1992Dec14.211229.25807@cbnewsk.cb.att.com>,
> krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith) quotes Louise Billi:
>> >Over 40 (just a tad) women have a terrible time of it.
>> >Men in that age group are all looking for the young "Tenderoni"
>> >to make him feel like a kid again.  Can't men realize that 
>> >most younger women see them as either a "Father Figure" or
>> >a "Sugar Daddy"?  Is that what they really want in a mate?
> 
> No, but some find the attention very reassuring--and at a time
> when they are not feeling otherwise reassured.  It's a fetish,
> a neurosis, and one you're probably just as glad not to be bothered
> with.  When they figure out their place in the universe, they'll come
> calling.
> 
>> Wherein is it written that an over-40 woman must set her sights on
>> over-40 men only?  If you keep your eyes open, you just might find
>> that there are younger men about who may find you attractive.
> 
> It all depends, of course, how you define yourself.  Many of us
> whose identity is still colored by the 60s have a hard time
> forming relationships with people who not only don't know where
> they were when Kennedy was shot, they didn't even exist yet.
> I remember a Halloween party my sweetie and I held, and some
> younger folks--and not that much younger, 10 years, maybe--showed
> up dressed as hippies.  It was cute, but I found myself actually
> feeling offended, as if I personally were being lampooned.  And
> I don't even look like a hippie any more.  Well, not too much.
> 
> So I guess Keith's right.  You, and I, and those guys whose
> taste in dates you impugn, are to a certain degree stuck.  The
> only thing I don't understand is how a young whippersnapper like
> Keith could understand this--well, he probably asked his mom or
> something:-)
> 
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