From: krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith)
Subject: Re: Over 40 and single....Anyone that "OLD"?
Organization: AT&T
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Date: Thu, 17 Dec 1992 15:53:16 GMT

In article <1992Dec16.222040.27360@cbnewsi.cb.att.com> gadfly@cbnewsi.cb.att.com (Gadfly) writes:
>In article <1992Dec14.211229.25807@cbnewsk.cb.att.com>,
>krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith) quotes Louise Billi:
>> >Over 40 (just a tad) women have a terrible time of it.
>> >Men in that age group are all looking for the young "Tenderoni"
>> >to make him feel like a kid again.  Can't men realize that 
>> >most younger women see them as either a "Father Figure" or
>> >a "Sugar Daddy"?  Is that what they really want in a mate?
>
>No, but some find the attention very reassuring--and at a time
>when they are not feeling otherwise reassured.  It's a fetish,
>a neurosis, and one you're probably just as glad not to be bothered
>with.  When they figure out their place in the universe, they'll come
>calling.
>
>> Wherein is it written that an over-40 woman must set her sights on
>> over-40 men only?  If you keep your eyes open, you just might find
>> that there are younger men about who may find you attractive.
>
>It all depends, of course, how you define yourself.  Many of us
>whose identity is still colored by the 60s have a hard time
>forming relationships with people who not only don't know where
>they were when Kennedy was shot, they didn't even exist yet.
>I remember a Halloween party my sweetie and I held, and some
>younger folks--and not that much younger, 10 years, maybe--showed
>up dressed as hippies.  It was cute, but I found myself actually
>feeling offended, as if I personally were being lampooned.  And
>I don't even look like a hippie any more.  Well, not too much.
>
>So I guess Keith's right.  You, and I, and those guys whose
>taste in dates you impugn, are to a certain degree stuck.  The
>only thing I don't understand is how a young whippersnapper like
>Keith could understand this--well, he probably asked his mom or
>something:-)
>
Ken,
I _resemble_ that remark!!!
Please be advised that there are lotsa' under-40-men about who grew
up in (or are at least old enough to remember) the 60's.  I, for one
remember being in "assembly" to John Glenn blast off to do his three-
orbits-around the world bit.  I was in second grade when Pres. Kennedy
was shot.  I enjoyed Jimi Hendrix and Janis Joplin while they were still
around to perform for us.  I am old enough to remember gang wars....
you know, the type where folx actually used their _fists_, or an occasional
belt, switchblade, doggie choke-chain, or convenient car antenna as weapons,
rather than automatics.  I remember when "pot" was the recreational drug
of choice, and I remember paraquat.  I also remember when a Nixon 
Administration official expressed callous disregard for the lives and
possible lung damage of anybody who might end up with some weed that
might have been tainted with this chemical defoliant.  I was fifteen-years-old
when the first men landed on the moon..... I was in D.C. visiting relatives.
I remember Kent State and My Lai (sp).  I remenber the "March on Washington".
My grandfather participated. I remember when Rev. King was assassinated.
I remember being dismayed to hear one of my teachers say that "he got what
he deserved" "for causing trouble".  My mother may have a better handle on
the 40's and 50's, but I am a 60's baby m'self.

As far as age and dating, I think that stage-of-life is more important than
actual age.  That is why I steer clear of anybody under 25.  These folx
simply haven't been "tested" yet, by life, by and large.  If a person is
gonna' "hit stride", they usually will have done so by age 30 (or at least,
they are well on their way by then).

Keith R

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