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From: psm@cs.brown.edu (Phoebe Martone)
Subject: to introduce myself
Keywords: Hi, I'm Phoebe, and...
Organization: Brown Computer Science Dept.
Date: Tue, 26 Jan 1993 14:08:45 GMT

I'm single. Since this is such a new group, and anything is possible at this
stage, let's get started and create something good.

I am in my 40's, work at Brown University and go to school 3/4 time -- English/
Secondary Education. I lived in California 28 years before coming here and
have 3 children there.

I've noticed that here, as well as elsewhere, it is difficult for people intheir
30's and 40's and 50's (and upwards) to meet others of the opposite sex without
going to a place where people are awkward, defensive and nervous (dance bars).
I love to dance, but these places bring out the strangeness in people. As many
continue to point out, there are few alternatives. It would be good to develop
some alternatives.

I have found Rhode Island to be a friendly place, which surprised me, as I was
warned, coming from the west that it wouldn't be so friendly. It's been wonderful
to me. The weather, as my son would say, "sucks" a lot of the time--but there
are many beautiful places to see here.

I have good friends already and a great place to live, and I love school, but
it's a lot of pressure to go to work and school both.

I'm not sure if I'm being off-the-mark, writing this note, but I don't think so,
as it is such a new group that anything can be possible.

Phoebe

Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: turowski@sophia.smith.edu (Petra Turowski)
Subject: Suitable topics to address (was: Being single...)
Organization: Smith College
Distribution: ne
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 20:15:22 GMT

The sorts of things Paul wants to discuss seem to be entirely 
appropriate to this group.  Otherwise it wouldn't
be much better than the personals column.  But this medium is an 
excellent tool for conversation, discussion, musing, etc.  And we all
have our philosophies on our single state, so we might as well talk
about them, here.

>It's not that I don't want
>any long-term meaningful _relationships_, it's just that I find
>long-term, meaninful _friendships_ much more rewarding. 

In my opinion, they are equally rewarding.  And good "partner" 
relationships are more sparse, in my experience, than good non-sexual 
ones.  Please excuse my awkward adjectives - the diction is a bit tricky 
in this subject area.

Petra
From: sammy@smds.com (Samuel Murphy)
Newsgroups: ne.singles
Subject: Re: to introduce myself
Date: 27 Jan 93 03:34:05 GMT
Reply-To: sammy@ishmael.UUCP (Samuel Murphy)
Distribution: usa
Organization: Software Maintenance & Development Systems, Inc.

In article <1993Jan26.210439.20198@oz.plymouth.edu> patstew@oz.plymouth.edu (Pat Steward) writes:
>In article <1993Jan26.140845.6834@cs.brown.edu> psm@cs.brown.edu (Phoebe Martone) writes:
>>I'm single. Since this is such a new group, and anything is possible at this

>
>So, what could these alternatives be?  I've seen an ad in one of the


Apalacian (sp?) Mountain Club

	This is a group that has many singles that like the outdoors.

Community boating in Boston was a great place to meet people.

There are many swing dance events in the NE that attract many singles.
	These seemed kinda like sock hops for kids in the 30-40ish range
From: nin15b63@merrimack.edu (The Wolf)
Newsgroups: ne.singles
Subject: Making Friends in NE
Date: 26 Jan 93 19:49:45 GMT
Organization: Merrimack College, No. Andover, MA, USA

I've noticed, in travelling to other parts of the country, that people are much
friendlier in public places than they are in New England.  The contrast is
especially noticeable in clubs.  In places like Atlanta or VA, if I go into a
bar by myself, both men and women who notice that I am by myself will strike up
a conversation with me.  In other places, like Dallas, people welcome a
conversation, but aren't as likely to take the initiative with a stranger (at
least, not me).  Here in New England, it seems that people really make me work
for every inch in the getting-to-know-you game.  Have those who travel noticed
this difference?  If you did, in what ways have you brought what you learned in
those other places back to New England?
-- 
-----
 Andrew John Harrington               | nin15b63@merrimack.edu
 Merrimack College, North Andover, MA | I'm too sexy for this network.
From: drg@candidus.ma30.bull.com (Daniel R. Guilderson)
Newsgroups: ne.singles
Subject: Re: to introduce myself
Date: 27 Jan 93 14:44:41 GMT
Organization: Zenith Data Systems / Bull, Billerica MA USA

In article <1993Jan26.140845.6834@cs.brown.edu> psm@cs.brown.edu (Phoebe Martone) writes:

   I've noticed that here, as well as elsewhere, it is difficult for
   people intheir 30's and 40's and 50's (and upwards) to meet others
   of the opposite sex without going to a place where people are
   awkward, defensive and nervous (dance bars).  I love to dance, but
   these places bring out the strangeness in people. As many continue
   to point out, there are few alternatives. It would be good to
   develop some alternatives.

I haven't tried this (I plan to) but I think a good way to meet people
is to take a class.  For example, a dance class.  You get to meet new
people, it isn't quite so awkward and if nothing goes right, you at
least learn a new skill.

I joined the Boston Ski and Sports Club which isn't so awkward
because, again, people are mainly there to participate in activities
and, oh yeah by the way you get to meet people.

There is a book called, "50 Ways to Find a Lover", which will change
the way you look at going to the Video Store.  Everytime you go out,
no matter what you are doing, you have an opportunity to meet people.
Even if you don't meet someone who interests you romantically, they
might know someone that would.
Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: jb@world.std.com (Joel L Breazeale)
Subject: Re: to introduce myself
Organization: The World Public Access UNIX, Brookline, MA
Distribution: usa
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 21:25:59 GMT

In article <1k6m00INNrs1@transfer.stratus.com> cme@ellisun.sw.stratus.com (Carl Ellison) writes:
>In article <1993Jan27.033405.26659@smds.com> sammy@ishmael.UUCP (Samuel Murphy) writes:
>>There are many swing dance events in the NE that attract many singles.
>>	These seemed kinda like sock hops for kids in the 30-40ish range
>
>There are also weekly contra-dance and square-dance events with open
>admission where the rules are that everyone mix it up.
>
I'd be glad to host a visit to a dance with an introduction session beforehand.
Perhaps a dinner too to let people get to know each other.

A Tuesday or a Saturday are the best.

Let me know if you are interested or are an experienced dancer and would like
to help/socialize!

--Joel
Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: salt@shell.portal.com (avram rudy vener)
Subject: Re: Breaking the silence
Organization: Portal Communications Company -- 408/973-9111 (voice) 408/973-8091 (data)
Distribution: ne
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 1993 23:43:37 GMT

In article <AEM.93Jan26130345@tomokato.analog.com> aem@tomokato.analog.com (Andrew E. Marold  "Mr. Adventurous") writes:
>Well, it looks like everyone is waiting for someone else to go first,
>so I guess I'll play the someone else.
>
>I'm a software engineer for an electronics company, and I'm into 
>adventure.  I rock climb, ice climb, race cars, work at race tracks,
>downhill ski, I've jumped out of an airplane once and look forward to
>doing it again.  I would be quite interested in hearing from people
>who are into any of the above.
>
Let's see..I've gone spelunking, yacht and catamaran sailing, white water 
rafting, hang gliding, down-hill and cross country siing, horseback riding.  
A lot of this stuff was through the Bell Labs Adventure Club (guess 
where I work :-) ).

I am actually in NJ, but have an account here on Portal for socializing
purposes (online AD&D games meet on Portal every Monday and Wednesday).
I'll probably be logging in here from both salt@shell.portal.com and 
rudy@cbnewsj.att.com.  I apologize in advance for any confusion this may 
cause.

Oh yes...I promised Phoebe (FEE-bee: Look it up, its in the dictionary :-) )
that I'd post a brief bio of myself.

I'm 38, Single, never married but have no intention of staying in this
state any longer than I have to.   I live in NJ which I admit is not
exactly a NE state...BUT I grew up (partly)  in CT which I beleive IS a 
NE state.  

My home in Red Bank, is about five miles or so from Sandy Hook and a ten 
minute bike ride from the shore at Sea Bright.

Currently I share my house with one cat (Stinky, long haired Himalayan)
and one dog (Tobin, black Labrador retriever).

Cheerio,
Rudy

Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: drg@candidus.ma30.bull.com (Daniel R. Guilderson)
Subject: Re: Suburban Adventure/Activity Clubs
Organization: Zenith Data Systems / Bull, Billerica MA USA
Distribution: ne
Date: 21 Jan 93 14:01:45

In article <C16KBt.rC@world.std.com> jb@world.std.com (Joel L Breazeale) writes:

   I talked to the organizer and it seemed interesting.  One can
   go to up to three events before making a commitment to join of
   $120 paid annually (can be paid in installments over a six month
   period).

   Anyone have experience with this group?

I too contacted SAC a while back.  I eventually decided to join the
Boston Ski and Sports Club because I am more interested in athletic
activities.  I say more, not exclusively, because BSSC has a lot of
activities that are non-athletic too.  I like that.

I thought SAC's $120 dues were a little on the steep side when
compared to BSSC's $55.  Especially considering that BSSC has a lot
more weight to throw around when planning activities.
Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: salt@shell.portal.com (avram rudy vener)
Subject: From the vast and tomblike silence of this group am I to assume...
Organization: Portal Communications Company -- 408/973-9111 (voice) 408/973-8091 (data)
Distribution: usa
Date: Tue, 26 Jan 1993 05:13:22 GMT

....that there ARE no singles in the NE area?  
If true, this would go a long way towards explaining why most of the
posts in alt.personals.ads are from places such as CA or the midwest.


Rudy
From: jmd@bear.com (Josh Diamond)
Newsgroups: ne.singles
Subject: Coverage area
Date: 26 Jan 93 17:58:25 GMT
Organization: Bear, Stearns & Co. - FAST


Hi there from NYC...

A question: just what is the coverage area for this group?
Does it include the New York area?

Spidey!!!
--
You don't hunt ducks with a turnip! 

 /\ \  / /\  Josh Diamond                                          jmd@bear.com
//\\ .. //\\ AKA Spidey!!!                        ...!ctr.columbia.edu!ursa!jmd
//\((  ))/\\
/  < `' >  \                                              Do whatever it takes.
Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: gp@cunixf.cc.columbia.edu (Gerald Pulver)
Subject: Re: Coverage area
Reply-To: gp@cunixf.cc.columbia.edu (Gerald Pulver)
Organization: Columbia University
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 23:06:47 GMT

In article <JMD.93Jan27151659@lion.bear.com> jmd@bear.com (Josh Diamond) writes:
>
>In article <DRG.93Jan27093056@candidus.ma30.bull.com> drg@candidus.ma30.bull.com (Daniel R. Guilderson) writes:
>
>   In article <JMD.93Jan26125825@lion.bear.com> jmd@bear.com (Josh Diamond) writes:
>
>      Hi there from NYC...
>
>      A question: just what is the coverage area for this group?
>      Does it include the New York area?
>
>   Looks like it does.
>
>Yeah, but is anyone besides me reading it here?

Oh, I suspect that there may be a few of us.
							-G
Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: apb@world.std.com (Al Beecy)
Subject: Re: Well, now that wer'e all here...
Organization: The World Public Access UNIX, Brookline, MA
Date: Tue, 26 Jan 1993 22:01:59 GMT

In article <1k46nmINN4lf@slab.mtholyoke.edu> egorman@MtHolyoke.edu (Elizabeth A. Gorman) writes:

>This is a bit of a first for me so...OK: I'm 21, a junior at MHC studying
>geography and women's studies.  I'm into STAR TREK, Monty Python, British
>television, comedy, creative writing, and listening to people talk. 

You ought to consider joining Mensa. It's a great place to meet people.
It's a social organization with one requirement for joining: a high IQ.
From your list of interests (shared by a vast number of Mensans), I'd say
you'd probably fit right in.

-Al Beecy
 Editor, Boston Mensa
From: bickford@jimmy.dfci.harvard.edu (Paul Bickford)
Newsgroups: ne.singles
Subject: Being single...
Date: 27 Jan 93 16:01:47 GMT
Distribution: usa
Organization: Dana-Farber Cancer Institute
NNTP-Posting-Host: jimmy.harvard.edu


  This may be inappropriate for this group, considering its evolving
nature, but I shall press on nevertheless:

  I was wondering if this group was going to discuss issues relating
to being single in N.E. and _liking_ it? I have been single, am still
single, and would prefer to remain single. It's not that I don't want
any long-term meaningful _relationships_, it's just that I find
long-term, meaninful _friendships_ much more rewarding. This attitude
may change, of course, but currently it remains emotionally healthy
for me. [Note: I realize, of course, that statements like this are extremely
vague, but for the sake of brevity I will not elaborate further. I
would be willing to discuss it at length if this group evolves into the right
medium for it.]

  Does anybody else share these sentiments and would like to share? Or should
topics like this be segmented off to another group (although, you have to
admit, a group called "ne.singles" does leave a wide wake behind it).

Paul
From: cme@ellisun.sw.stratus.com (Carl Ellison)
Newsgroups: ne.singles
Subject: Re: to introduce myself
Date: 27 Jan 93 18:58:08 GMT
Distribution: usa
Organization: Stratus Computer, Software Engineering
NNTP-Posting-Host: ellisun.sw.stratus.com

In article <1993Jan27.033405.26659@smds.com> sammy@ishmael.UUCP (Samuel Murphy) writes:
>There are many swing dance events in the NE that attract many singles.
>	These seemed kinda like sock hops for kids in the 30-40ish range

There are also weekly contra-dance and square-dance events with open
admission where the rules are that everyone mix it up.

-- 
-- <<Disclaimer: All opinions expressed are my own, of course.>>
-- Carl Ellison						cme@sw.stratus.com
-- Stratus Computer Inc.	M3-2-BKW		TEL: (508)460-2783
-- 55 Fairbanks Boulevard ; Marlborough MA 01752-1298	FAX: (508)624-7488
Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: salt@shell.portal.com (avram rudy vener)
Subject: Re: to introduce myself
Organization: Portal Communications Company -- 408/973-9111 (voice) 408/973-8091 (data)
Distribution: usa
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 1993 23:55:00 GMT

In article <1993Jan27.033405.26659@smds.com> sammy@ishmael.UUCP (Samuel Murphy) writes:
>In article <1993Jan26.210439.20198@oz.plymouth.edu> patstew@oz.plymouth.edu (Pat Steward) writes:
>>In article <1993Jan26.140845.6834@cs.brown.edu> psm@cs.brown.edu (Phoebe Martone) writes:
>>>I'm single. Since this is such a new group, and anything is possible at this
>
>>
>>So, what could these alternatives be?  I've seen an ad in one of the
>
>
>Apalacian (sp?) Mountain Club
>
>	This is a group that has many singles that like the outdoors.
>
>Community boating in Boston was a great place to meet people.
>
>There are many swing dance events in the NE that attract many singles.
>	These seemed kinda like sock hops for kids in the 30-40ish range

Don't forget Contra Dancing.  Absolutely NOTHING beats Contra dancing 
for meeting singles.   For those not familiar with it, contra dances are
a sort of cross between square dancing and line dance.  Partners are usually
grouped in sets of two (four people) and basically walk or jog (or whatever) 
through a pattern which is controlled (and sometimes designed) by the caller.

The dances ALWAYS start with a 'walk through' of the basic pattern first so
that everyone knows what to do and beginners are encouraaged to come. I have
screwed up more contra dance lines than I care to think about, but everyone
is having so much fun that nobody cares :-)

You can usuall find them sponsored by community colleges, church groups.

The best part is that traditionally you are supposed to change
partners at every dance and women are encouraged (and do) ask 
men to dance a set as often as men as the women.  

Prepare to sweat a lot and get a lot of good exercise and have a 
lot of fun. (Wear comfortable crepe soled shoes.)

May the farce be with you,
Rudy


Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: mgw@world.std.com (maryanne g wolf)
Subject: another introduction
Organization: The World Public Access UNIX, Brookline, MA
Distribution: ne
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 17:34:34 GMT

Since lots of people are introducing themselves, I thought I would too.

I am a SWF, 31, Software Engineer, who likes puns, filk, chocolate,
oldies, phone-calls, reading, relaxed scrabble, and other people's cats.
I live west of Boston.

I haven't found a good place to meet single people.  
I tend to make friends through other friends and the net.

//////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
// Mary-Anne Wolf    ///   "The geographical center of Boston is in Roxbury.// 
//                   ///    Due north of the center we find the South End.  //
//                   ///    This is not to be confused with South Boston    //
//                   ///    which lies directly east from the South End.    //
//                   ///    North of the South End is East Boston and       //
// mgw@world.std.com ///    southwest of East Boston is the North End."     //
//////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: turowski@sophia.smith.edu (Petra Turowski)
Subject: Another distribution question and "the usual"
Summary: Petra Turowski, sf, 29 
Organization: Smith College
Distribution: ne
Date: Wed, 27 Jan 1993 19:29:36 GMT

Am I glad that someone got the ball rolling.  I miss a day reading 
the news, and lo and behold, there are 13 messages in ne.singles.
It's like the watched kettle that never boils.  I was too chicken
to start posting myself and I thought maybe the group wasn't what
it seemed to be.

Obviously, the distribution of ne.singles would not be limited
to NY.  And I know for a fact that one gets it in MA - aren't I
smart?  But is there a way to globally limit distribution to NE 
and NY?  If people neglect to specify the distribution will the
postings go all over the world like in other groups?  That would
be a pity.  Where can I look up abbreviations that are understood 
by usenet (for distribution)?  Will "ne" work?  "ne,ny"?

Anyway, I'd love to meet some people (or "talk" to them) who might
share some of my interests and characteristics.  I just started
an assistant professorship in chemistry at Smith College in
Northampton, MA (in the middle of the state, equidistant from
Boston and Albany, Hartford and Burlington).  I am a 29-yr-old
woman, an avid horse riding enthusiast who also loves to read
novels and mysteries, to travel in Europe, to dance (especially
ballroom dancing), and to converse (and who does not approve of
MENSA - no flame intended, just a statement of fact).

Whereas I would be ecstatic about, say, a Nobel prize or a gold
medal in an Olympic dressage competition, I would be content to
find some friends in the area who might like to go riding or
dancing with me.  And if there were actually an interesting 
MAN among them, that would be quite nice.  (I am 5'7", slender,
and attractive, and I have brown hair and hazel eyes.)  
Meanwhile, I am happy if I can find some people on the net to
"talk" to about anything and everything.

Petra (and Lester, a 3 1/2 yr old gelding) 
Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: martin@world.std.com (Martin J Hannigan)
Subject: Re: Well, now that wer'e all here...
Organization: The World Public Access UNIX, Brookline, MA
Date: Thu, 28 Jan 1993 05:28:14 GMT

In article <1k46nmINN4lf@slab.mtholyoke.edu> egorman@MtHolyoke.edu (Elizabeth A. Gorman) writes:
>
>This is a bit of a first for me so...OK: I'm 21, a junior at MHC studying
>geography and women's studies.  I'm into STAR TREK, Monty Python, British
>television, comedy, creative writing, and listening to people talk. 
>Occasionally, I talk if I can add anything.  I'm 5'11", large build
>(50-44-60), brown hair, dark grey eyes, deep voice, a LIbra...OK, that's
>me. What about the rest of you? 
>

Cool. I like it.

-- 

=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=
Martin Hannigan, N.C.

Newsgroups: ne.singles
From: patstew@oz.plymouth.edu (Pat Steward)
Subject: Re: to introduce myself
Organization: Plymouth State College - Plymouth, NH.
Distribution: usa
Date: Tue, 26 Jan 93 21:04:39 GMT

In article <1993Jan26.140845.6834@cs.brown.edu> psm@cs.brown.edu (Phoebe Martone) writes:
>I'm single. Since this is such a new group, and anything is possible at this
>stage, let's get started and create something good.

Cool, someone came out of the woodwork!

>I've noticed that here, as well as elsewhere, it is difficult for people intheir
>30's and 40's and 50's (and upwards) to meet others of the opposite sex without
>going to a place where people are awkward, defensive and nervous (dance bars).
>I love to dance, but these places bring out the strangeness in people. As many
>continue to point out, there are few alternatives. It would be good to develop
>some alternatives.

Do I ever agree!  I went out with a couple of friends to a bar
recently, and NO THANKS, not for me.

So, what could these alternatives be?  I've seen an ad in one of the
local papers about a "singles" club -- people who get together to
play Trivial Pursuit (remember Trivial Pursuit?), go to shows in
Boston, that sort of thing.  Haven't had the chutzpah to try it,
yet.  Other ideas?
-- 
Patricia Martin Steward                      patstew@oz.plymouth.edu
I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is;
I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express senti-
ments that differentiate me from a doormat.       Rebecca West, 1913
From: picasso@acs.nntp-read.bu.edu (David Ondzes)
Newsgroups: ne.singles
Subject: Re: another introduction
Date: 27 Jan 93 20:17:38 GMT
Distribution: ne
Organization: Boston University Information Technology Boston, MA USA
In-reply-to: mgw@world.std.com's message of 27 Jan 93 17:34:34 GMT

> 
> /////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
> // Mary-Anne Wolf    ///   "The geographical center of Boston is in Roxbury./> //                   ///    Due north of the center we find the South End.  /
> //                   ///    This is not to be confused with South Boston    /
> //                   ///    which lies directly east from the South End.    /
> //                   ///    North of the South End is East Boston and       /
> // mgw@world.std.com ///    southwest of East Boston is the North End."     /
>/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////

Thats a great sig, I never actually thought how screwed up the naming system
was.

David Ondzes
From: schin@acs.bu.edu (neil schier)
Newsgroups: ne.singles
Subject: Yale or Stanford '90 anyone
Date: 28 Jan 93 00:33:12 GMT
Distribution: ne
Organization: Boston University, Boston, MA, USA
Originator: schin@acs.bu.edu

Hello

I am looking for the whereabouts of two friends of mine. One of which graduated
from Stanford, the other from YAle (both in 1990). If you attended either
of these two schools around this time, would you kindly e-mail me?

Regards
NEil Schier




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