From: mvb@po.CWRU.Edu (Michael V. Barreca)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: LOVE conquers all
Date: 1 Oct 1992 11:12:54 GMT
Organization: Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, OH (USA)
Reply-To: mvb@po.CWRU.Edu (Michael V. Barreca)
NNTP-Posting-Host: slc12.ins.cwru.edu


In a previous article, ph2a+@andrew.cmu.edu ("Paul S. Hrynko") says:

>
>     This is my first time on alt.romance and I hope that I can
>contribute.  A few years ago, I from a immature, pleasure-seeking boy
>into a caring and loving person.  I needed something higher than sexual
>gratification.  I became extremely deep internally, and set my goals
>beyond the sexual.
>     I had known Jen forever; we experienced junior high together as
>well as high school.  I've admired her as long as I can remember and we
>fell in love at the beach.  We've formed our lives, our memories, our
>love, our lives together for the last two years of high school.  The
>Prom was a dream week- an eternal dream of romance and caring.
>     Now we are separated by 350 miles.  I'm in Pittsburgh and she at
>University of Virginia.  I had my doubts of our relationship the first
>week.  When half of you is gone, you tend to seek to replace the missing
>half.  But after the realization that your separation is merely
>physical, you can live your own life.  The hardest decision I made was
>not in attending UVA.  But my grades are better for it.  As someone once
>wrote me "sometimes the pain is equal to the love when you're 350 miles
>away."  Very true.  Sometimes I sit in my room and cry.  But then I call
>Jen and convey my feelings.  Of course, I owe $100 to AT&T, but the
>feeling of having someone to reach out to is all worth it.  If you know
>that you are meant to be, four years of commitment is worth a lifetime
>of happiness.
>     I believe that the object of life is love and love isn't something
>that our brain creates for sex.  Love transcends life; I believe that
>souls can be united forever.  A lover has the key to the lock of your
>heart, enabling you to experience emotions, feelings, warmth never
>thought possible.
>    Does anyone agree, disagree, etc.  I'd be curious to find out.
>

I couldn't agree more.  Although my girlfriend and I don't live quite as far
apart from each other(me at Case and her at Miami, Ohio), it gets very
aggrivating to not be able to see her often.  There are so many things that
I have seen in Cleveland that I want to show her, so many people I want her
to meet, so many things I want us to do, but we see each other only for a
weekend every few weeks or so, so I don't have the time to really show her
all of things I want to.  It hurts when you need that shoulder to lean on,
that caring pat on the back saying "Everything will be OK.  I still love you,
no matter what happens."  You can't get that feeling the same over the phone.
The only thing that keeps me going is the fact that we only have about two 
years of separation left(depending on if I graduate on time), and we will be
together.  We have already discussed marriage, and I am sorry that we have 
because I am very impatient, and now I can't wait to get out of here to be
with her.  

Anyway, back to what you said.  I agree that your lover can make you feel
and experience things like noone else can.  I know that's the case with us.
I think part of it is because once you determine that this is the one for
you, you let yourself go, so to speak, and you leave yourself open to
everything that's possible, trusting your lover to take care of you.  You 
hope that since you've left yourself open your lover will do the same, making
every little thing you experience together seem so much more grand.


Then again, maybe I'm thinking this way because I've been awake all night.
Oh well......


Mike

-- 
I said I love you, and that's forver
And this I promise from the heart
I couldn't love you, any better
I love you just the way you are...........