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From: gewilson@eos.ncsu.edu (Buddha)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: ? Hit rates.
Keywords: Nice guy.  Asking girls out, etc.
Date: 14 Sep 92 09:37:43 GMT
Reply-To: gewilson@eos.ncsu.edu (Greg Wilson)
Organization: North Carolina State University, Project Eos
Originator: gewilson@c00100-100lez.eos.ncsu.edu





	Well,  My hit rate is one.  As in once in my life.  Which works out
to either 60 or 70 percent.  (One is kind of iffy.  I never asked her out,
but I should have.  Kind of a long story.)  The one time a got a yes was a
big mess also.  So big that we never actually went out, but we were 'toge-
ther'.  Another kinda long story.

	As far as me:  I'm a male, heterosexual, 20 yrs. old, in college.





							Greg Wilson
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ins818e@mdw018.cc.monash.edu.au (Pratap Patnaikuni)
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs Discussion list
Organization: Monash University
Date: Thu, 10 Sep 1992 07:11:53 GMT

In article <1992Sep9.150918.29850@cs.rose-hulman.edu> zaidioa@HYDRA.ROSE-HULMAN.EDU writes:

>Well,
>
>my SO and I like "All I have" by Beth Nielson Chapman.

Nielsen, my friend, and yes, it's a lovely song. (-:

>If you're reading this Jennifer.. I love you!!!! :-)

(-:  Best wishes Omar!  

Thought I'd post up the lyrics (thanks Jen!) for the benefit of all:

----------------------
ALL I HAVE - Beth Nielsen Chapman/Eric Kaz


You can say you love me
And I'll believe that's true
Trusting you is easy
'Cause I believe in you

There is nothing I would miss
As long as we're in love like this

Chorus:
All I have is all I need
And it all comes down to you and me
How far away this world becomes
In the harbour of each other's arms

I feel like I've known you forever and ever
Baby that's how close we are
Right here with you is where my life has come together
And where love has filled my heart 

You know I'd go anywhere
As long as I have you to care

CHORUS

Ooh - and with the love you bring
I never want for anything
I found what I've been searching for in you

CHORUS

---------------------

-Pratap

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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: petitc@vccnw07.its.rpi.edu (Christopher Jon Petit)
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs Discussion list
Reply-To: petitc@rpi.edu
Organization: Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, Troy, NY.
Date: Wed, 9 Sep 1992 12:30:26 GMT

  Also, add Breaking Up to the types of romantic songs.  Good song titles for
that are:

  "So Close"   - Hall & Oates
  "It Must Have Been Love" - Roxanne
  "She's Like the Wind"
 
-- 
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scarcity.
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Newsgroups: alt.romance,alt.sex
From: rpatel@eniac.seas.upenn.edu (Rachana D Patel)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Best Friend in a RP ???
Date: 15 Sep 92 02:58:54 GMT
Organization: University of Pennsylvania


Hi guys. I have a philosphical question that has been on my mind 
lately. Is it alright/healthy to consider your RP to be your best friend
too? 

If any of you feel that your RP should not be your best friend then what
distance should your RP stay that is different from your best friend?

Most of the people I have asked have said that your RP should be your best 
freind. However, I have had some comments from some guys that it shouldn't
be?

What do you guys think???

Thanks a lot!!!

:)
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University of Pennsylvania                   Management and Technology Program 

Newsgroups: alt.romance,alt.sex,alt.sex.bondage
From: "Faustus" <p00056@mail.psi.net>
Subject: Re: Fuck You
Organization: Inferno
Date: Tue, 8 Sep 1992 13:42:35 GMT
X-Mailer: PSILink (3.01)

>DATE:   Tue, 8 Sep 1992 05:51:10 GMT
>FROM:   Randolph S. Vance <rsvanc00@mik.uky.edu>
>
>In <715829069.0.p00056@mail.psi.net> "Faustus" <p00056@mail.psi.net> writes:
>
>*a bunch of Conspiracy Pink-Boy ranting and raving*
>*all of which has been automatically appended to /dev/null*

Why is that where you dwell?

>Don't listen to gimps and spincter pink-boys like Faustus.

Gimp? Spincter pink-boys? My my.. are you losing your witless temper?
Maybe the REAL TRUTH is...

	Randolt S. Vainglory is just a cringing dog, yelping at
        his betters.  The reason I am flaming you pathetic "ninny",
	is for not standing like a man and at least attempting to
	think beyond your limited vision. I refuse to suffer
	the results your particular lack of foresight promotes.

	As you read these lines with glazed eyes, sunkened under a
	high frontal ridge.. You are probably wondering how I equate
	you with a down trodden worm. Similar to a worm, experience is
	limited too crawling through mounds of self-product excrement.

	I neither agree or promote the ideas, policies or goals of 
	extremist organization as self-approbated whore's son maintains.
		
	For a matter of fact, I equate our government as equal with
	groups such as the Nazis and KKK, excepting the Nazi didnt
	lie about wanting to enslave people. Our country is on a 
	course with destiny, shall the power of choice be in the
	hands of the individual?
 
	I really feel sorry for you Randolt, you dont even know your
	a witless tool for the oppressor. Yes.. trust your government..
	dont question.. be a Stepford citizen.. good Boy (pat pat pat).

	As to blowing people Ill let you handle that end...

        BTW.. Holmes is over-rated.. If want Ill will discuss him if
	you desire or can..

	Why silence you? Your a better source of amusement..

Later
Dave



Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: michael@gandalf.moria (Michael Haardt)
Subject: Re: SO met through the computer. Anyone else ?
Reply-To: u31b3hs@pool.informatik.rwth-aachen.de (Michael Haardt)
Organization: An old and gray machine, somewhere in Moria.
Date: Tue, 08 Sep 92 17:22:01 +0100

In article <1992Sep7.162520.16265@inesc.pt>, usenet@inesc.pt (USENET News System) writes:
> [I found my net.love]

The longer I use IRC, the more couples I meet who first met in IRC.  In
contradiction to what rumours say, there are many women in IRC.  Not
enough for a 1:1 ratio, but still a lot.  You just don't see them at 
first ;)  

At first I thought that net.love is rare but it seems that it is one of 
a few major reasons why people to use IRC.  I don't wonder about it, 
there are too many singles starting IRC and then meeting someone.  There
is a very interesting psychologic report about social relations and 
interaction in IRC, done by Elizabeth "Ireshi" Reid (sp?).

I met my love in IRC too, and we met in real and spent a wonderful month
together.  Right now we are thinking about how and when to meet next
time :-))))  

Michael "root"
--
#ourhome is: the home of a wonderful tree :-) (tm) Twiggs and root
From: jcr@mbunix.mitre.org (Rogers)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: LJBF Songs Discussion list
Date: 10 Sep 92 22:28:26 GMT
Organization: The MITRE Corporation, Bedford, MA

Best Ever: "Fools In Love" by Joe Jackson. It goes:

"Fools in love
They think they're heroes
'Cause they get to feel more pain
I think fools in love are zeroes
I should know
I should know because
This fool's in love again"

How misery *does* love company.

-- Jeff R.
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: bicker@cbnewsi.cb.att.com (The Resource, Poet-Magician of Quality)
Subject: Re: SO met through the computer. Anyone else ?
Reply-To: Brian.C.Kohn@att.com (The Resource, Poet-Magician of Quality)
Organization: The Internet
Date: Wed, 9 Sep 1992 12:53:09 GMT
Followup-To: alt.romance

In article <1992Sep7.162520.16265@inesc.pt> usenet@inesc.pt (USENET News System) writes:
>		Is there anyone else out there who met his/her SO through the
>	computer ? It would be fun to hear similar cases.

Robbie and I met on an online, multiuser chat system (an STS, the
decendent of the old ddial systems) and started chatting.  After a
while, a mutual friend (who ran the system) was probably tired of
hearing us talk to her about each other so arranged for us to meet.
Our first meeting was blah: it was at a STS party, and neither of us
are into those party scenes.  We chatted about that and made
arrangements to see each other the next weekend alone, which is
usually not a good idea for meeting an e-friend, but worked fine for us
since we prefer dealing with people one-on-one anyway.  We went to
Mystic (I live near Princeton, NJ--She lives near Bridgeport, CT...ugh)
and walked around a bit...had a nice day.  That night we chatted about
the fact that we both wanted to rip each other's clothes off but
restrained ourselves.

(Needless to say we met the next weekend and weren't so restrained.)

-- 
Brian Charles Kohn               using !bicker's account
Poet-Magician of "Quality"       E-MAIL: bicker@hoqax.ATT.COM
    'Hope, not fear, is the most positive advocate of action.' - S.R. Lawhead
                   Stamp Out "SO": "RP" = "Romantic Partner"
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: sjain@shearson.com (Sanjeev Jain)
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs Discussion list
Reply-To: sjain@shearson.com
Organization: Lehman Brothers, Inc.
Date: Thu, 10 Sep 1992 15:53:45 GMT

Here are some,


Just the way you are - Billy Joel
Is this love - Bob Marley
And I love her - Beatles
Best of my love - Eagles
Waiting for a girl like you - Foreigner
Womain in love - Barbara Streisand
Woman - John Lennon
Something - Beatles
You've got a friend - James Taylor
Wonderful tonight - Eric Clapton
Make it with You - Bread
Lady in red - Chris DeBurgh
Unforgettable - Nat King Cole


Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ashley@oasis.gtefsd.com (Bob Ashley)
Subject: Re: Nice Guys?
Reply-To: ashley@oasis.gtefsd.com
Organization: GTE Federal Systems Division
Date: Fri, 11 Sep 1992 23:55:09 GMT

In article 11SEP199215460246@bestsd.sdsu.edu, regan1016@bestsd.sdsu.edu (T. ELIZABETH HARVEY) writes:
>
>Unfortunately, nice guys don't ask me out ... :( *sigh*
>
>---<--<-{@ | "I believe that before all else, I am a reasonable human being,
>Elizabeth  | just as you are -- or, at all events, that I must try and 
>	    | become one." _A Doll's House_, Henrik Ibsen


Hmmm ... three-thousand miles for a date with ...

Can I interest you in dinner, dancing, and a Chargers game this Fall ??


Bob - time to tack up those frequent flyer points   :-)

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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: bron@iastate.edu (bronwyn)
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs Discussion list
Originator: bron@aviator.cc.iastate.edu
Organization: Iowa State University, Ames, IA
Date: Thu, 10 Sep 1992 09:24:28 GMT


'Nuther one - "I know you by heart" from the Beaches soundtrack.

-bron


Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: usenet@inesc.pt (USENET News System)
Subject: SO met through the computer. Anyone else ?
Organization: No, of course not ! 
Distribution: alt
Date: Mon, 7 Sep 1992 16:25:20 GMT


	Well, the story is this:

		I met my actual SO through the computer, in school. We started 
	talking with each other with VAX Phone, and we were going along
	real fine. The problem was that it was becoming almost an obsession, 
	and we spent as much as 7hr/day sitting in the computer rooms.
	We study in different schools, so we still didn't knew each other for
	real. But this was to end. The big day arrived, we went out together, 
	both kinda nervous (if the REAL thing proved dissapointing, it would be
	hard for us to be able to talk again). And, well, it just couldn't've
	been better. 
		We *STILL* went along fine, and well, one thing leads to another.
	Somedays later, we were each other's SO :).

		Is there anyone else out there who met his/her SO through the
	computer ? It would be fun to hear similar cases.

----
 joao Pedro Martins, Lisboa, Portugal - jota@tutor.UUCP
 
 "Carpe Diem, she muttered, and laughed. We seize the day.	
  Well, sometimes, the day seizes back !" (Psychodrome)
From: afdenis@lims02.lerc.nasa.gov (Stephen Dennison)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: LJBF Songs Discussion list
Date: 10 Sep 92 17:51:00 GMT
Organization: Ancient Souls Inc.
News-Software: VAX/VMS VNEWS 1.41

In article <1992Sep9.193544.27409@informix.com>, bradl@informix.com (Brad Levy) writes...
>In article <1992Sep8.205324@cs.bham.ac.uk> eyc@cs.bham.ac.uk (Ed Carter) writes:
>>I just thought I'd de-lurk to wonder about this particular
>>thread for a moment.
>>
>>From what else I've read here, it seems that a useful social
>>function could be served by starting a LJBF Songs Discussion
>>List for people to listen to when utterly miserable. Either
>>to cheer themselves up or, of course, to wallow in self pity.
> 
>Okay - I'll make the first contribution.  A song of hope.  

And *I'll* make the second and third...

"Already Gone", a song to help you *celebrate* your new freedom rather than 
wallow in it. 

Example Lyric:

	Well I heard some people talkin' just the other day.
	And they said you were gonna put me on the shelf.
	Well let me say I got some news for you,
	and you'll soon find out it's true.
	and then you'll have to eat your lunch all by yourself.


and 


"Little Miss Can't Be Wrong" by the Spin Doctors for those of you who want 
to rub her/his nose in your success since they divested themselves of your 
company. :-)

"I hope them cigarettes gonna make you cough"
"I hope you heard this song, and it pissed you off."
"I take that back, I hope you dig it fine."
"and if I had a dollar, I *might* give you 99."

"Little miss, little miss, little miss Can't-Be-Wrong"
"Whatcha gonna do to get yourself in another one of them there Rock'n'roll 
 songs ?"

It can be very healing and *fun* to realize that the loss is *theirs*, not 
yours. :-)

-- Stephen

	"Some people live their dreams, some people close their eyes.
	 Some people's destiny... passes by"

					"I'll Be Over You"   -- Toto
From: misrael@csi.uottawa.ca (Mark Israel)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: PLEASE!  I need your help!  LDR, RELIGION..
Date: 15 Sep 92 04:40:09 GMT
Organization: Dept. of Computer Science, University of Ottawa

In article <1992Sep14.134300.15043@jhunix.hcf.jhu.edu>, daw@jhunix.hcf.jhu.edu (Dave Webb) writes:

> Well here I am.. almost 2 months into a wonderful LDR with a girl from
> New York.  I've been to New York, she's been here (Baltimore) and we 
> just got back from a vacation in Disney World.  Things are going 
> really GREAT!  There's one problem though.  She hasn't told her 
> parents yet.  Reason?  They're Jewish and I'm not.  Her parents are 
> VERY set against her dating anyone who isn't Jewish. 
> ... she's getting pressure from just about everyone but me to tell her
> parents and get it over with.  It's going to be a very hectic life for
> her when this happens and since she is just finishing up school and 
> lives at home..

   If her parents' rules are "Don't date gentiles", then she should 
abide by their rules as long as she lives with them.  She should also
move out as soon as possible!

> Anyway, I've thought that she could go to a rabbi her mother trusts
> and have him smooth things over... does anyone think this would work?

   Nah, he'll probably take her mother's side.  Many rabbis think that
Jews are in danger of extinction through assimilation.

> Is there any alt.religion nets that I could go to? 

   Try soc.culture.jewish.

misrael@csi.uottawa.ca			Mark Israel
Sunbeams brightly play, where Fancy's fair pavilion once is pight.
From: stefan@spc.nl (Stefan Posthuma)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs Discussion list
Date: 7 Sep 92 16:40:48 GMT
Organization: SPC Company BV, The Netherlands


Romantic songs?

How about...

"Butterfly on a wheel" by The Mission, a bit on the melancholic side, but very
nice, my RP/SO adores it.
For something super-sweet try "The Nightingale" from the Twin Peaks soundtrack.
Or if you're a bit depressed, try "Tomorrow's Tears" or "Adoration" by
The Cranes.
More straightforward is "Mad about you" by Sting and if you feel up to it,
try "For her light" by Fields of the Nephilim....

And there are so many more...
-- 
"We convoke the Nephilim and they come  {*}  Stefan Posthuma,  SPC Company
to us, strangers with the eyes of men."  |   stefan@spc.nl
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: petitc@rs6425.ecs.rpi.edu (Christopher Jon Petit)
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs Discussion list
Reply-To: petitc@rpi.edu
Organization: Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, Troy, NY.
Date: Fri, 11 Sep 1992 12:51:51 GMT

(Geez, my third additions :&O ).

Don't forget "Next to You" by Paula Abdul, "It Must Have Been Love" (did I say
this one already?)...

Is anyone out there taking all these down, so we can have an Official Usenet
Guide to Romantic Songs?
-- 
Trust:  A very precious social commodity, due both to high value and terrible
scarcity.
MATWDTM:  Mothers Against Teenagers Who Drink Too Much (failed name for MADD)
From: tedwards@src.umd.edu (Thomas Grant Edwards)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: LJBF songs
Date: 12 Sep 92 08:50:58 GMT
Organization: Systems Research Center, Maryversity of Uniland, College Park

In article <1992Sep10.164240.28744@jetsun.weitek.COM> weaver@jetsun.weitek.COM (Michael Gordon Weaver) writes:
>In article <1992Sep10.001622.20363@msuinfo.cl.msu.edu> 21329KAD@MSU (Kim Dyer) writes:
>>Seems there are a few different varieties of LJBF songs we're running
>>in to.
>>
>>1)  Type 1 is the "I hurt, and I need a good long cry" variety.
>Wendy, The Beach Boys (especially the pathetic organ solo).

"Terrible Lie" - Nine Inch Nails
>>2)  Type 2 is the "you'll be SOOOO-RRY" song.
>Under my Thumb, Rolling Stones.

"Needles and Pins" - The Ramones

>>3)  Type 3 is the "I'm over you now" type of song.  A good
>>    example of this is "Red Rubber Ball" by Cyrcle.  Yeah

>Feeling Stronger Every Day, Chicago.

I remeber sitting with two wonderful female friends helping me deal
with my breakup with my fiance, whilst listening to an a capella
version of Wierd Al Yankovic...I don't know the name of the song,
but one line keeps coming to mind...

"I rather have 10,000 papercuts on my face,
   than to spend one more minute with you!"

>4) Inspirational.
>(Learning to love yourself is) The Greatest Love of All.
>The Rose:

"I touch roses" Book of Love
  "if you think I'm magical
    cause roses bloom with my touch
   that is mathematical
    I think you think too much.."

-Thomas
 resident technoshaman
From: mlb@CISCO.COM (Marcia Bednarcyk)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Love
Date: 5 Sep 92 00:55:52 GMT

In article <1992Sep1.003337.18158@tandon.com>, tdbear@tandon.com (Tom Barrett) writes:
|> Oh, I'm sure it does... often though, my lovers simply don't
|> live up to ALL of my expectations.  They might satisfy my
|> intellectual needs, my social needs, my cuddling needs, my
|> sexual needs, etc., but maybe not ALL of those in one person.
|> The "trick" (or better, luck) is to find all of those
|> satisfaction in one person... right?  (Or is that too much to
|> ask for?)

I do think that's too much to ask for, because people have such complex and
often contradictory needs that I don't think one person is capable of 
providing complete satisfaction. If you do find such a person, you'd better
hope that you meet all of their needs, too....

An SO can be a primary support, but I don't think they can be your only
support. Friends are a necessary part of life, and provide their own unique
and valued support into your life, and vice versa.

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Marcia Bednarcyk                                        ADDRESS: mlb@cisco.com
"Sweaty Snugglebunnies."
"... the meaning of life is to be happy, try not to hurt people, and hope
you fall in love."
From: tlr@penguins.East.Sun.COM (Tammy Roncadori - Administrator Sun Washington D.C.)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Nice Guys?
Date: 11 Sep 92 14:44:34 GMT
Reply-To: tlr@penguins.East.Sun.COM
Organization: Sun Microsystems, Inc.
NNTP-Posting-Host: penguins.east.sun.com


I really don't think that "nice guys" are out in the cold.  Women could
ask the same of men.  Why is it that they only "go after" bubble headed
beach blondes with a figure that just won't quit (and nothing in that
head but a bunch of peroxide)?  I really feel as if it is all in the
perception.  You obviously haven't meet any of the right people for you
hence, the feelings you are experiencing now.  Don't give up, there are
people (of both sexes) who are asking these same questions and doing
something about it.


Tammy
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: huesmann@wam.umd.edu (Joseph Edward Huesmann)
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs Discussion list
Organization: University of Maryland, College Park
Date: Wed, 9 Sep 1992 02:39:10 GMT

In article <1992Sep8.205324@cs.bham.ac.uk> eyc@cs.bham.ac.uk (Ed Carter) writes:
>I just thought I'd de-lurk to wonder about this particular
>thread for a moment.
>
>From what else I've read here, it seems that a useful social
>function could be served by starting a LJBF Songs Discussion
>List for people to listen to when utterly miserable. Either
>to cheer themselves up or, of course, to wallow in self pity.
>
>After all, who needs music when you're in love?        :-)
>
>
>(I only mentioned it 'cos I can only think of miserable songs
>at the moment and I was feeling left out. sniffle.)

How about Metallica, "Master of Puppets" (the whole album, actually)?
Works for me pretty well... The pain on your ears and in your head sort
of takes the place of the pain in your heart (at least temporarily)... :)

Joe

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From: trevino@ccwf.cc.utexas.edu (Melissa Trevino)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs
Date: 13 Sep 92 03:24:37 GMT
Organization: The University of Texas at Austin, Austin TX


	Well, how about anything from Chicago and Air Supply?  These are 
the perfect LJBF songs.  We also call them White Boy Co-Dependency Music.  
:)

melissa

Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: so@fortran.cs.psu.edu (Nicol C So)
Subject: Re: Thanks (was: It hurts like hell)
Organization: Penn State Computer Science
Date: Mon, 7 Sep 1992 19:06:21 GMT

After posting the article "It hurts like hell" a couple of days ago, I
received a number of messages from some empathic readers of the group,
giving me support, encouragement and advice.  To these people I would
like to express my heart-felt appreciation.  I would like to let you
know that I am feeling much better now.  

Thanks again and have a very good day.

-- Nicol
-- 
Do not confuse my name "Nicol" with "Nicole".  The latter is feminine.
From: 01ksdavis@bsu-ucs.uucp
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: LJBF??
Date: 12 Sep 92 16:22:30 GMT


	BTW, what does LJBF mean?  I mean if we all start using acrononyms, we
could get in big trouble from are SOs and put on KP.


		Kyle
Newsgroups: alt.romance