From: skwatkin@nyx.cs.du.edu (Steven Watkins)
Subject: Just my $0.02
Organization: University of Denver, Dept. of Math & Comp. Sci.
Date: Wed, 16 Dec 92 17:15:32 GMT

This an explaination of the ending of my last relationship; if you don't
want to read it or listen--skip it.  (press 'n' now!)

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  Well, I just wanted a place to have my say so here goes.
  I fell in love over the summer to a wonderful young woman named Lori.
I had to leave the area and come back to school (4 hrs away) and I tried 
to have an objective viewpoint on our relationship.  I had only been seeing 
Lori for about a month and I tried to prepare myself for the future.  I 
have seen and felt feelings fade over distance and I only hoped for this to
be different.  On oct 11 she broke up with me because she didn't feel good
about the relationship anymore, but could not tell me why.  She called later
that night and said she'd made a mistake and that she still loved me and wanted
to be a part of my life.  She said I could trust in her love.  
I called her on the 17th and she broke up with me for good.
She said that she was upset in the relationship but could not
tell me why.  She told me to be patient and wait and I would get my answer.
She still loved me, but she didn't know if it was more than a friend.  I 
put my life on hold and waited for her.  It hurt. 
  I recieved a letter yesterday that said that there was no chance of us ever
being any more than friends and that I had misunderstood her when she broke up
with me--she thought that was plain.  She also told me that she would not be
coming over after her finals.  I have this policy about LDRs; after they are 
over I need to see the person and talk to them and a phone call will not do.  
Lori told me over the summer that if she broke up with me she would come
see me and do it to my face.  I told her that I would meet her half way
if she would call me.  My last relationship ended with a phone call
and I made my prior very angry when I came to see her.  She did not like
me coming.
  I have been trying to get a hold of Lori for the past two weeks
but when I called all I recieved was an answering machine (my calls were not
always answered) and I have written her quite a few letters and have recieved 
few replies.  Now I find out that I have been bugging her and that she is
being stressed by me calling and writing her. 
  She was going to come over on Oct the 17th, but cancelled; I offered to go
there, but she had plans.  She told me the next time she would have time
to see me was Christmas and now she has cancelled that.  I am leaving 
tomorrow to go see her and get this talked out.  I cannot tell you how 
good it felt to get the letter saying we would never be more ...---
I had my life back; I didn't need to wait anymore.  Being told that I was
not a part of her life anymore was painful as hell, but it was a relief
being told I could let go.  I feel guilty for that because I still love her.
  I wish I had seen face to face when she broke up with me--maybe there would
have been no misunderstanding.  I tried to see her.

  Am I wrong for asking for a face to face meeting so I can see her tell me 
how she feels?  
  Am I being unjustly annoying?
  Do all long distance relationships end like this? 
  Will she hate me?

Thanks to all who listened.  I appreciate it.
Steven

Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
               -- H. L. Mencken
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