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From: walkerr@yaya.WPI.EDU (Robert A Walker)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Romantic Birthday Suggestions Needed
Date: 30 Sep 1992 02:44:07 GMT
Organization: Worcester Polytechnic Institute
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>>	So I would be extremely grateful if you Gods and Godesses of Romance
>>would share with me the wisdom of your experience.

Well I'm about as romantic as a piece of dental floss, but for graduation
i got my most beloved girlfriend a gift certificate for a full body
massage, not one of those cheesey massage parlors, but a massage
therapist who does an outstanding job and works out of her house.  
she loved it.
>
>If you have the money (last time I checked in the neighborhood of $100)
>how about a hot air balloon ride?  If you are in a place that has leaves
>changing now it can be especially beautiful from the air.  You traditionally
>get a bottle of champagne (cheap sparkling wine, most likely) upon landing.
>Two of you up there in the dawn (or early evening, but dawn is a better
>shot) with the pilot ... truly something she will always remember.

That woudl truly  be great, but I'm broke.  Oh well.
Organization: University of Illinois at Chicago
Date: Monday, 28 Sep 1992 19:06:15 CDT
From: <U27317@uicvm.uic.edu>
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Hey Dede

HI, where ya been?  I dont smell that bad.  Wots a matta, cat got your tongue?T
Alk to me please, I like mail.



                              Mel
From: mcsbc3ktp@dct.ac.uk
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Correspondence please
Date: 29 Sep 92 14:48:59 GMT
Organization: Dundee Institute of Technology

Any 'nice' girls out there interested in some light hearted correspondence

if so Email me direct at

mcsbc3ktp@uk.ac.dct

Kirk
From: kennede@carr62.alleg.edu (Erin Kennedy)
Subject: Romantic Songs, again!
Keywords: romanit songs mushy
Organization: Allegheny College
Distribution: alt
Date: Thu, 1 Oct 1992 01:16:11 GMT

Never really having a relationship before, I have often dreamed of having  
one with certain songs in mind.  I have read the other postings and whole  
heartliy agreed, but how about:
	Same Auld's Lang's synd??--Dan Fogelberg
	Take a look at me now--Phil Collins
	You are so beatuiful--Joe Cocker
	Separate Ways--Phil Collins and some one else
	Sometimes when we touch--Dan Hill
	Friends and Lovers--Gloria Loring
	
Just some more to ponder.  Anyone else have suggestions?
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From: slayer@gl.pitt.edu (Deborah)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Romantic Birthday Suggestions Needed
Date: 29 Sep 92 20:56:47 GMT


	My girlfriend's birthday is coming up, and I want to make it one
she'll never forget; I'm not looking for a smile and a tear, I want to 
melt her heart.  She's very romantic, and while I'm not without my romantic
side, I could use the aid of experts.

	So I would be extremely grateful if you Gods and Godesses of Romance
would share with me the wisdom of your experience.  

Well let's see....

o Send her a card for each year (i.e. if she will be 25, send 25 cards)
  (same idea could be used with flowers, stuffed animals, ballons, etc.)

o On her birthday, send a 'Thank You' card to her mother

o put together a 'This is your Life' slide show (get picures of her as
  a baby and growing up) and present at a party..

Or how about something like this.. Make all of her favorite foods and when
she comes home wait on her just like they do at her favorite restaurant.
Or send her some flowers.


-- 
May look a little young 
So what's wrong ?
You don't have to be old to be wise
From: isar@ac.dal.ca
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs
Date: 1 Oct 92 20:41:26 -0300
Organization: Dalhousie University, Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada

In article <BvF19L.AA8@mentor.cc.purdue.edu>, alex@mentor.cc.purdue.edu ( ) writes:
> My vote :
> 
> "Bird of Passage" The Mission, U.K.
> "Enjoy the Silence" Depeche Mode
> 
>                         -Alex
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>         My vote:       "The Ballad"  Testament


  I.
From: dewind@acsu.buffalo.edu (Idbil Fubar)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: SO?
Keywords: erm
Date: 29 Sep 92 13:41:12 GMT
Organization: UB

danny@nessie.mcc.ac.uk (Danny Graham) writes:

>I understand what you mean by SO, but what does it actually stand for ?

Significant Other

Idbil Fubar
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: tyger@netcom.com (Kitty in the Middle)
Subject: Re: Need help with rape...
Date: Tue, 29 Sep 92 01:02:05 GMT
Organization:  Something close to nothing, but different than the day before

news@ptt-iat ( Pete) writes:
> tyger@netcom.com (Kitty in the Middle) writes:
>>
>> [stuff deleted]
>>
>The moment you realised this, is a great moment. But what about child abuse. 

It is a tragedy...

>A (girl-)friend of mine was taken into hospital 'cause she had this enormous
>mental break-down. From her best (girl-)friend I heard she was abused by her
>uncle when she was a child. I didn't know that. She acted strange on some 
>occasions (specially in relations, which were short and very emotional).
>
>My question is : How to respond to her, with this new knowledge. Should I 
>ignore these facts or what...

I'm not sure what to tell you. My first impulse was to tell you to go on the
assumption that your girlfriend's friend did not tell her that she had told
you of her molestation, and just give her lots of TLC when she gets out of the
hospital, but then I thought some more. It is more likely that the friend did
tell her that she had told you about the molestation, I think, so of paramount
importance is the fact that you show her that you care and love her no matter
what because either way, she is most likely going to be feeling very vulnerable
for a while. Ask her is she would like to talk to you, and you could possibly
even offer to go to a counselor with her, if she is apprehensive about that 
sort of a move. Mostly, she needs to know that you don't think that she's some 
kind of freak, and that you will support her. Good luck my man...I don't envy
you...iromancers, please, if you think I've overlooked something, feel free to
elaborate...

>Postman Pete

   Tyger
-- 
      Kristen Kohlbecker    And I would choose to be with you
      tyger@netcom.com      That's if the choice were mine to make   
                            But you can make decisions too
      A Tyger and a Lady    And you can have this heart to break 
 
                       
        
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ollis@redbck.stl.dec.com (Stephen Ollis)
Subject: Balance
Reply-To: ollis@redbck.stl.dec.com (Stephen Ollis)
Organization: Digital Equipment Corporation
Date: Mon, 5 Oct 1992 00:55:39 GMT


Ok all you net.romancers... I have a question for y'all..

How do you balance the obvious opposites that you and your SO have?
For example, I like to stay home and watch a video with my SO, she however
loves to go out and party.. 
Think of the Paula Abdul song `1 step forward, 2 steps back' and you'll get 
the idea...

						Stevo...

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Newsgroups: alt.romance,alt.sex
Subject: Flirting (was Re: Nice Guys?)
From: "Andrea B. Gansley-Ortiz" <ag1v+@andrew.cmu.edu>
Date: Tue,  6 Oct 1992 12:27:17 -0400 
Organization: Engineering Design Research Center, Carnegie Mellon, Pittsburgh, PA

Excerpts from netnews.alt.sex: 6-Oct-92 Re: Nice Guys? by Stewart
Tansley@bnr.co.u 
> >Since when does "flirting" make a girl a "slut"?
>  
> It makes a woman seem like a (mild) slut to me -- especially if I happen to
> like/love her at the time.

Question. If your wife is flirting with you, are you going to see her as
a mild slut? You're the only one she flirts with. You'd still see her as
a mild slut? I'm not sure I understand why you think this way. (I don't
know whether you have a wife or not. If not, then it's hypothetical.)

> Some of us just don't like (sometimes) women who flirt, that's all. We may 
> be Bad People, 

I don't think you're 'Bad People'. I'd like to know what brought you to
this conclusion. 

> I especially dislike the occasional woman who flirts with me when I 
> fancy them like crazy & they are just playing games. Bad news city.

Isn't playing games different from flirting? I always thought so. Is there
the possibility that some of the women who've flirted with you in the 
past didn't know that you fancied them so much?

I am often oblivious to flirting, others and my own. It wasn't until 
people pointed out the 'actions' that they perceived as flirting that
I was able to evaluate what flirting was and tone it down on my part.
Are you sure the women who were flirting with you all knew what they
were doing? I know this sounds kind of dumb, but some people really do
not know what actions of theirs are perceived as flirting.

ag
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: yu@physun.physics.mcmaster.ca (Fan Yu)
Subject: Re: Romantic songs
Organization: Dept. of Physics & Astronomy, McMaster University
Date: Sun, 27 Sep 1992 18:34:31 GMT

In article <1992Sep22.121211.24568@walter.cray.com> nelson@eastrg1.cray.com (Christine Nelson) writes:
>
>
>"Come Rain or Come Shine" Ray Charles
>"I'll Always Love You" Taylor Dayne
>"All I Ask (of You)" Phantom of the Opera Soundtrack
>"Wonderful Tonight" Eric Clapton
>"Just The Way You Are" Billy Joel 

The last one agreed.

Mine:	"I only have eyes for you" Art Garfunkel
	"When a man loves a woman" Art Garfunkel(not Michael Bolton's version)
	"So in love" Art Garfunkel
	in fact, all his love songs
	"For the longest time" The Nylons
	and other songs by them that I can't recall


	Frank
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: petitc@nuge106.its.rpi.edu (Christopher Jon Petit)
Subject: Re: opposite of misogyny?
Reply-To: petitc@rpi.edu
Organization: Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, Troy, NY.
Date: Mon, 5 Oct 1992 00:14:50 GMT

In article <sbuckley.718241715@sfu.ca>, sbuckley@fraser.sfu.ca (Stephen Buckley) writes:
|>   most nice guys know misogyny is wrong and we tend to respect women
|> most if not all the time.  but what's getting me down is that not only
|> is it o.k., but it's also fashionable for women to hate men and for
|> many men to join in this man-hating binge.  the double standard hit me
|> a few weeks ago and it really saddens me.

  Well, if we REALLY wish to even the scales....






























  I think that all women are selfish, cruel, manipulative b***es who exploit
men for all they can get out of 'em, then throw 'em away like yesterday's
trash.  The only things that a woman finds interesting about a man is the size 
of his wallet, and how good he looks.

  There.  Now don't you feel better? :&)

(This post smiley-captioned for the humor-impaired :&) )

-- 
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scarcity.
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From: steiner@jupiter.cse.utoledo.edu (jason "Think!" steiner)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: American High School & bits......
Date: 30 Sep 92 18:03:29 GMT

is_b420@kingston.ac.uk (Brendan Rooney) writes:
> 
> What exactly is the prom?

highly overrated? :^)

jason

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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ksdavis@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (Karleenus Schwartz Davis)
Subject: Re: How to tell if you are in love
Organization: Indiana University
Date: Wed, 7 Oct 1992 03:24:07 GMT

jsteiner@anwsun.phya.utoledo.edu (jason 'Think!' steiner) writes:

>you're in love when you think you are. it's a mental state, see?

Righto. . .there's no such thing as 'thinking' that you're in love.
If you think you are, you are.  But later, when you're not in love
with this person anymore and you fall in love with someone else,
it'll feel different, and you'll wonder if you were wrong about
the first person.  You weren't.  It was love then, but you're done
with it now, and you'll likely not settle for the same kind of love
again.  You'll look for something 'better'.  Your standards have
changed.  That's good; it's the whole point of this insane "dating"
crap they make us go through.  You're not taking applications, you're
revising your wish list.  Anyway, love is love, love is a dynamic
beast, love is never the same twice.  You can't define something that
is always changing and that isn't the same for any two peoplon earth.
(Even matched pairs are experiencing a different version of love!)

-sz
Cool thing is, every time you're in love, it's the ultimate love so far!

(Teensy flame barrier:  I don't mean that every *relationship* will be
better than the last, only that every time you're in LOVE it will be. . .)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: "Faustus" <p00056@psilink.com>
Subject: Re: How do you know if you are in love?
Organization: Inferno@Eight.Bolgia.Malebolge
Date: Sun, 4 Oct 1992 22:59:24 GMT
X-Mailer: PSILink (3.2)

>DATE:   Sun, 4 Oct 1992 20:57:35 GMT
>FROM:   Darkmoore <darkmoor@mentor.cc.purdue.edu>
>
>  How do you know if you are in love?
>
>  I would really like some thoughts on this matter.
>
>   Darkmoore


	When you are always happy, the sun shines and your in pain if without
the other. Its as if life just kicked in the afterburners and life passes
by, that is until reality steps in..

Faustus
	No water! What kinda joint is this?

Newsgroups: alt.romance,alt.sex
From: dahead00@nx28.mik.uky.edu (Zippy F)
Subject: Re: Top Ten Statements Made by Women When Getting Out of a 
    Relationship
Organization: University Of Kentucky, Dept. of Math Sciences
Date: Tue, 29 Sep 1992 05:09:16 GMT

In article <BuxytD.76o@mentor.cc.purdue.edu>, mshar@mentor.cc.purdue.edu  
(Mike Mshar) writes:
...
> TOP TEN STATEMENTS WOMEN HAVE MADE TO GET OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS
	And the translations from the Woman->Man dictionary!
 
> 10. After two years, I just don`t have any feelings for you anymore.
	I'm bored, you must be the reason.

> 9. Laying in your arms on your lap for two hours really didn`t mean
>    anything. I was tired, and I didn`t know what I was doing.
	Now that I think about it, my friends mean more to me than you do.

> 8. I`m really not seeing anyone else right now. I don`t want to see 
>    anyone else. I just don`t want to see anyone right now.
	There's this total fox and...

> 7. I want to see other people.
	he's agreed to go out on a date...

> 6. I still love/care about you.
	we're now on a second date...

> 5. My life is really screwed up right now.
	we've started having sex...

> 4. It`s not your fault. It`s nothing you did. It`s me.
	I'M SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER GUY YOU IDIOT!!!

> 3. I just don`t want a boyfriend right now.
	I WANT THIS HUNK!!!!

> 2. I`m confused.
	AND I'M TRYING TO LET YOU DOWN EASY TO APPEASE MY CONSCIOUS

> And the number one answer...
> 
> 1. I just don`t know what I want right now.
	And I'm desperately afraid that I'm missing something even better  
	by staying with you!

Should be tattoed on every Nice Guy's (TM) ass or at least it should be  
pasted on the bathroom mirror



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From: bushmanangel@bvc.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: SO?
Date: 30 Sep 92 17:06:47 CDT
Organization: Buena Vista College, Storm Lake, IA

In article <1992Sep28.152223.29011@nessie.mcc.ac.uk>, danny@nessie.mcc.ac.uk (Danny Graham) writes:
> I understand what you mean by SO, but what does it actually stand for ?
> 
> Danny


Significant Other
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: dahead00@nx28.mik.uky.edu (Zippy F)
Subject: Re: Romantic songs
Organization: University Of Kentucky, Dept. of Math Sciences
Date: Tue, 29 Sep 1992 06:06:01 GMT

My vote 

	Embracable You    Artist Unknown
	99% of Edith Piaf's Music (1 in particular / can't remember title)
	Most of the recordings by Satchmo (Louis Armstrong)
	The Rose      Bette Midler
	Works by Clanidad (haunting stuff) +Canadians help me out on this 
	Patsy Cline (for that long drive at dusk)
	Can't Remember Title but done somewhere between big band era and  
		Frank Sinatra (always reminds me of waltzing with a lover  
		under the full moon on a starry, starry night) They used  
		it in some popular Ad campaign in the last few years for  
		cologne or parfume......
	most of Nat King Coles songs
	Herbie Mann from the Push Push album
	I hold your hand in mine dear    Tom Leher (for Dr. Demento types)
	If you have a killer sound system look into some Gregorian Chants  
	as background music.....
	Can't remember who did it but saw it on BET Video Soul Countdown  
	last year (some young black male with great pipes..)

I used to have piles of romantic music but gave it up a few years ago when  
I realized women don't want romance they want agression....	

been in hiding ever since

Later

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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: dahead00@nx28.mik.uky.edu (Zippy F)
Subject: Re: Hunt them down and kill them (ALSO Advice on Long Distance 
    Romance)
Organization: University Of Kentucky, Dept. of Math Sciences
Date: Thu, 1 Oct 1992 07:30:31 GMT

In article <1992Sep30.161443.18154@newshub.sdsu.edu> glen@pandora.sdsu.edu  
(Glen) writes:
> "Raistlin Majere" (p00139@psilink.com) wrote:

(funny but true stuff deleted)

> I just wanted to throw my voice in with the crowd on this one.  I went,
> after having met someone over THIS VERY NEWSGROUP, all the way across

(touching an all to familiar tale deleted)

> : 	"And as to you, Catherine, I have a mind to speak a few words
> : 	 now, while we are at it. I want you to be aware that I *know*
> : 	 you have treated me infernally - infernally! Do you hear? And
> : 	 if you flatter yourself that I don't perceive it, you are a
> : 	 fool; and if you think I can be consoled by sweet words, you 
> : 	 are an idiot; and if you fancy I'll suffer unrevenged, I'll
> : 	 convince you of the contrary, in a very little while.

I'll have to go back and reread this book, can't remember missing this

> My advice to you all, who are contemplating and LDR, is this:  Remember  
that,
> as a famous songwrite wrote,
> 
> 		And maybe you were thinking
> 		  that you thought you knew me well,
> 		But no one ever knows the heart
> 		  of anyone else...

Tis sad that we never really know someone until their evil side shows
One SO took 7 years and another took 2 yrs of my life

> for the other.  Ours just took a bit longer to die.The worst part was,
> at the end, despite what she said, I still was willing to work on it.  

Chalk it up to the blindness of LOVE... I'll give you an AMEN brother

> Bitterness?   Try emptiness.   Try having it inflicted on you.
> Try not to inflict it on anyone else.

Short sentence...Strong words ... Worthy of repeating so I will

	TRY NOT TO INFLICT IT ON ANYONE ELSE!!
	TRY NOT TO INFLICT IT ON ANYONE ELSE!!
	TRY NOT TO INFLICT IT ON ANYONE ELSE!!
	TRY NOT TO INFLICT IT ON ANYONE ELSE!!
	TRY NOT TO INFLICT IT ON ANYONE ELSE!!
	TRY NOT TO INFLICT IT ON ANYONE ELSE!!
	TRY NOT TO INFLICT IT ON ANYONE ELSE!!
	TRY NOT TO INFLICT IT ON ANYONE ELSE!!

Always good to see real emotion and wisdom instead of the usual blather
Keep up the good work......







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From: keithg@cnmhnet.UUCP (keith garrard)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Topic of discussions in alt.romance
Keywords: regarding sizes
Date: 30 Sep 92 20:52:48 GMT
Organization: California-Nevada Methodist Homes

In article <1992Sep29.172629.26543@ennews.eas.asu.edu> naveena@enuxhb.eas.asu.edu (Naveena Michael) writes:
>	I totally agree with Neil when he says that there are other groups
>to discuss male and female sizes on, like as in alt.sex. Maybe we should
>just stick to romantic stuff and keep out the rest.

Ok, you may have a point, but there is another reason why we should
allow such blunt discussions.  Some organizations aren't able to 
put it past higher ups that they want to subscribe to a news group
called alt.sex.   However, they can get by subscribing to a news
group called alt.romance.  Anyway, male & female sizes are related
to romance.  Some of my biggest thrills in life have been romancing
a vaginal cavity.
--Keith
From: usenet@inesc.pt (USENET News System)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Please dont Post (la la la)
Date: 29 Sep 92 17:19:07 GMT
Distribution: alt
Organization: INESC - Inst. Eng. Sistemas e Computadores, LISBOA, PORTUGAL


	Seen that lately there have been so many requests for 
girls to post messages to guys, I just wanna say that I don't
want to be included in such foolishnesses (or whatever).
----
 joao Pedro Martins, Lisboa, Portugal - jota@tutor.inesc.pt
 
 "Carpe Diem, she muttered, and laughed. We seize the day.	
  Well, sometimes, the day seizes back !" (--FORGOT--)
From: alan.neal@madness.network23.com (Alan Neal) 
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: NICE GUYS
Date: 25 Sep 92 21:29:00 GMT
Distribution: world
Organization: Terminal Madness BBS - Newport, RI - 401-848-9069
Reply-To: alan.neal@madness.network23.com (Alan Neal) 

Ive read a lot about definitions and comparisons,but I believe what it
comes down to is We (the single male) often time's find it difficult to
live up to what has become the sterio type hunk Im not a bad looking guy
well built a gentleman when need be even when it hurts and still you run
across women who feel they can look down at you because of thier great
beauty or they feel thier shit don't stink No wonder a great amount of
men no longer care wether or not they're nice or not. I've found in the
past that when the chemicals meet and match there isn't anything you
won't do for you're partner,and if you're heart is in it and the
feeling's are returned you slowly let down you're guard and low and
behold a nice guy or gal appears you just have to want it bad enough for
you're mate. In regards to Europians Ilived over seas for five years on
the hole I'd say they're no diffrent than us. Of course I can only speak
for the male gender, but I would say this about 90% of the women(girls)I
came across liked American men more than their own (It could be the
novelty) You know apiece of strange.But I also found them more willing
to be intimate than most American girls (less game playing more hot
buisness) None the less I would'nt trade the home bodies here for
anything in the world (well mabey an Oriental woman but that's just a
dream of mine) I can only say Ladies that man will never admit it but
you hold the world by the balls and if we want it we've got to play the
game no matter where we are Know wonder we're JERK'S
  
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