From: "Lloyd T Jones" <tj@moose.cs.indiana.edu>
Subject: Re: Interracial Dating
Organization: Computer Science, Indiana University
Date: Mon, 12 Oct 1992 09:48:28 -0500

femibyte@athena.mit.edu (Olufemi G Anthony) writes:


>No I don't. In fact I believe that a most of the black male -
>white female relationships today come about largely due to curiousity or some
>psychological factor - black males feel a sense of powerlessness/sense
>of inferiority and feel that getting a white woman will somehow make up
>for that. Most white females go with black men because of the stereotype
>that we black men are somehow more sexually potent. Remember that during
>the days of slavery and Jim Crow, these were the two groups on the
>opposite side of the racial divide that were absolutely forbidden to
>have sexual relations (black women were raped often by the white
>slavemasters). That's where the curiousity part comes in. Personally I
>am against interracial dating for the following reasons. Another reason
>why I think that many black men go out with white women is that they
>feel that white women are somehow "less demanding" than black women,
>which means that white women expect them to be less responsible. As a
>black sister of mine once put it. If a black guy starts messing around
>the white girl will accept it by saying "that's how black men are" while
>black woman will say "He shouldn't behave like that". I believe that
>black men will get fulfilling relationships only with black women. I
>prefer having a black woman who is going to challenge me everyday than
>someone just accepting me as "being that way". I also think that it is
>a great disservice done to black women when black males date white
>women, after the black woman has been at his side throughout all the
>suffering (the black woman kept the family together). Also, it's time
>for us to put our women on a pedestal too.... For a very good
>psychoanalysis of interracial relationships, take a look at the book
>"Black Skins, White Masks" by Franz Fanon.

>Femi.

>All hail to the blak woman...

	This is totally ridiculous, spoken by someone with no experience of the
subject of which he speaks, obviously. And yes, I'm Black and my wife is White.
The only problems we ever have are from closed-minded bigots who see only 
color, not character.  I have found from working in a large university that
shitheads come in ALL colors and nationalities...
	While I will admit that there are sometimes differences of perception
of a given situiation, or what might be called 'cultural differences', they
are minor and probably no more servere than one might find by marrying/dating
someone from another country.  In fact, probably much less so.  It's a matter
of education and accomadation, not confrontation.
	These myths of Black men seeking White women for 'empowerment' is just
that: a myth.  If you are marrying a White woman for that reason, you will very
soon find that it might have the opposite effect.  You have to put up with
ignoramuses from both races who can't seem to get over the fact that maybe,
just maybe, you actually married for LOVE.  I know.  It's an amazing concept.
You really should try it sometime.
	And you really think White women are 'less demanding' of black men?
Obviously, you haven't met MY wife.  I dated across racial lines freely before
marrying nearly ten years ago. I can assure you there was no one more demanding
of me than my wife, Black, White, purple, or whatever.
	As for your other 'informed' myths, get a grip.  Quit reading so much
of what you want to believe anyway, and accept people for who they are. You
might find that all peoples have something to offer, and it has damn little
to do with skin color.	There is only one race: human.