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Date:         Sat, 7 Nov 1992 22:34:54 CST
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From:         THERESA BLACKWELL <TBLACKWL@USMCP6.BITNET>
Subject:      Teens in trouble...

Ok, gang... I really liked the post by Maks.
Please allow me to share some testimony here for a second.
Delete this only if you don't have the disk space to handle
it, ...I'll do my best to be brief.
Last year, on October 16th, I met this really awesome guy.
He is a Christian, and single.
We started getting really serious about the relationship we shared,
in more ways than just emotional, Spiritual, and mental...
There was the Physical side, too.
I know that the BOOK is against sex before Marriage, however,
when you love someone as much as I did him, sometimes the feelings
really get hard to seperate from common sense.
I know that the Lord was not pleased with the actions of either of
us, but I am forever thankful that my ex-boyfriend has the guts
to provide some protection in cases like mine.  He knew I had
school to finish, and didn't want either one of us to ACCIDENTALLY
wind up raising a child.
He would have married me if I'd become pregnant, and I'm not sure
I know many guys who'd have done that.
He cared enough to BE CAREFUL when we were in each other's company.
God truly blessed me with someone that I'm finding hard to let go...
It's been a year and 3 weeks since David and I met, and the
14th marks 9 months that we've been apart.
We still talk, as was our agreement to remain friends for time
and eternity.
I just hope and pray God's will is done in each of our lives.
He has forgiven us for our actions, and is helping us cope with
the split.  I've seen David at least 6 times since we split up.
He's still very sweet to me.
I'm just so glad God allows us to learn things from the mistakes
we make.
There are several lessons I learned from the four months spent
with David:
1. "Love isn't Love until it's GIVEN AWAY"... (Smitty)
2. The relationship really opened my eyes to the meaning
   of John 15:13.
   (Anybody hurts him, they gotta get through me to do it....(hehe)
3. It taught me that you CAN be friends after a relationship
   is over...
4. The relationship taught me to pray like I've never done before.
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We spent every holiday except Easter together...Thanksgiving
included.  I was in his neighborhood today, and all I though
t about was the good times....
Thanksgiving and Christmas will be tough on me this year.
I ask your prayers, gang.... please do this.
My Mother, once she found out what happened, hit the roof.
She's forgiven me, but hasn't even attempted to forgive David.
She hates the mention of his name.
She, once seeing my love for this beautiful fella, started buying
wedding accessories for a gown she got on sale.... thinking I'd
marry him.  ( which I would have done had he asked...)
When we called it quits, she told me "I'll never accept the fact
that you and he will be friends for the rest of your lives."
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My Mother is a Christian.
I'm not sure why she's this way about it all.
I'm dealing with things through God's almighty Grace, but....
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This is tough.
When I saw the post, I knew that I had to share with you my
experiences, and the lessons God allowed me to learn.
I ask your prayers from now, until March... all those wondermous
Holiday memories have already started flooding back, and it's
not easy to forget the good times we shared, and how he spoiled
my parents and sisters rotten on Christmas eve!
(He's financially able to do this on occasion for those he cares
about.....)
God Bless you all for reading.
Any suggestions on how to handle my Mom's antics would be appreciated.
I even mention his Parents, and she gets all paranoid.
Seriously.
'G'
(Healing by God's grace, and mercy....)

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