From: jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton)
Subject: Re: net.hugs?
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: na
Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 21:11:16 GMT

In article <23NOV199215434284@lims02.lerc.nasa.gov> afdenis@lims02.lerc.nasa.gov (Stephen Dennison) writes:
>> 
>>Sigh.  When I got dumped, it hurt a whole lot, and I was really scared because
>>I hadn't dated since I was nineteen.  So I looked around the net looking
>>for friends and I saw a group of people who were very funny and insightful
>>and intelligent and I saw another group of people who whined a lot.  Now,
>>the people who read ARC don't think they're whiney -- they think they're
>>sensitive.  And we who read soc.singles don't think we're insensitive -- 
>>we think we have at least half a brain each.  
>
>Sounds about right since *this* is alt.romance, not ARC as you indicate 
>above and I *don't* see any reference to ARC in the header ...
 
Same thing. ARC == a.r. == condescending hypocrites. 
But your really beautiful and sensitive as all get out. Really.
 
>
>>So you get the kind of support
>>you want and I got the kind of support I wanted.  There are two groups
>>because there are two different types of people.  The problem, if there is  
>>any, comes when someone crossposts.  It doesn't bother me personally
>>because it's fun to see you folks get all hot and bothered about the
>>silliest things.
>> 
>
>Almost as much fun as watching the `lonely brigade' in s.s look for groups 
>they can feel superior to. Note, this is not a slam on your group... only 
>on those who deflect their own needs by making the denigration of another 
>group their `surrogate relationship'. 
 
Note the condescending put down tone == hypo.
Someday I may have use of a crutch like a.r. 
Course someday pigs may fly out my butt.
 
>
 
>>Do you measure the quality of your relationships by how badly they hurt you?
>> 
>
>Often, it's the size of the hole one leaves in your life upon vacating that 
>wakes you up to their importance to you. Valid point and not the *least* 
So you admit to being clueless. Valid schmalid.

>>Why do you think of "dates/SO's" as a source of pain?  What's so romantic 
>>about hurting?
>
>A thing is granted *equal* power to lift you up *or* destroy you when it 
>enters your life. If it doesn't hurt much when it leaves, it didn't *help* 
>much while it was there. No great leap of logic in *that* assertion, is 
 
A psychiatrist may help you but until you see one how about keeping
this utter nonsense where it belongs. By the way when this rebuttal enters
your life how about keeping it to yourself if it lifts or destroys you.
Where do these people dream up this off the wall BS.
 
>there ? You only have *one* door to your heart ... it can't be opened 
>*fully* for pleasure and *partially* for pain. You either open it a crack, 
>thus limiting *both* the cost and the reward, or you *fling* it open and 
>risk all to *perhaps* gain all. 

A little melodramatic don't you think. Stephen you oughtta be in hollywood
babe.
 
>
>Pain is *one* measure of love, albeit love lost. No one said it was the 
>*only* measure. 
 
Its also the measure of a sharp stick in the eye.
 
>-- Stephen
 I love alt.romance. alt.romance loves me.
>

 
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