From: shagan@gandalf.rutgers.edu (Susan R. Hagan)
Newsgroups: alt.support.diet
Subject: Re: temptations
Date: 27 Jan 93 14:16:40 GMT
Organization: Rutgers Univ., New Brunswick, N.J.

hilp@hfglobe.intel.com (Robin Rosenbaum) writes:

>In article <1jphirINNf21@usenet.INS.CWRU.Edu> (Brett E. Katz)
>writes:

>> So, how do I win out over the chocolate? I can't throw them
>>away because that wouldn't be fair to my fiance (he can 
>>eat them),

>He doesn't need them either.  Does he.  I'm picking on this idea
>because until recently I thought the same way--"I'll keep my
>own diet healthy but provide my son and husband the things they
>like."  When I started giving them only the same kind of goodies
>I eat, one source of stress went away.  The amazing thing was, I
>hadn't realized how much stress I was putting on myself trying to
>provide a dual-standard diet.

I definately agree with this one.  Your fiance can take care of himself.
Let him take the chocolate to work with him and eat it there.  I think
you should be selfish when it comes to your weight loss goals.  I think
you should make that your priority and not sacrifice your health so that
someone else can be indulgent.

>>plus I'd feel guilty throwing away perfectly
>>good candy that would make a nice addition to a future dinner
>>party....I know eating one would lead to eating them all...

Another attitude that you need to learn is that food is not "valuable"
or "sacred".  Food is your servant.  It is there for you to use and if
you can't use it, then there is no reason to keep it around.

You should also get used to the idea that there is no such thing as
"perfectly good candy".  Candy isn't good for anyone.  Those who can
afford the indulgence, will do so, but you don't need to be involved,
and you don't have to save your candy for them if it puts your goals
in danger.

If you can't get that candy out of the house today, by giving it away,
then throw it out.  You are the one who is important.  Not a future
dinner party.  I know it may seem wasteful, but it is even more wasteful
for you to go through all the hard work of taking weight off just to 
add stress to your life by having that candy around.

>Maybe they would make a nice addition to someone else's future
>dinner party.  Do you have a potluck coming up this week?  Or a
>visit?  People in my experience always appreciate a guesting gift
>from anyone coming to spend a day, evening, weekend, etc.  (Just
>don't give it to anyone on a diet!  Heh! :-)

Yes.  Thats a good idea.  But if you can't give it away soon, throw it
in the trash can and get it out of the house.

>Then again, if your only choice is between eating them or throwing
>them away...which would *really* make you feel guiltier? :-)  IMHO
>buying another box of candy, should the need actually arise, is
>easier than making up for a binge...and the damage to the budget
>is less important than the damage to the body.  Like choosing a
>$3.00 tossed salad over a $2.00 greasy hamburger.

Good point.  Again, put yourself and your own needs first.  Your
fiance can eat the way you do, only with larger portions.  He can
have his junk food at lunchtime or in his office - away from you.
Ask him - I bet he won't mind that at all.  :)

Good luck and keep in touch.

Sue

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Susan R. Hagan (shagan@gandalf.rutgers.edu) 
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