From: remer@cwis.unomaha.edu (Lynne Remer)
Subject: advice requested
Organization: University of Nebraska at Omaha
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 1993 04:48:00 GMT

     my husband and i just found out that i'm pregnant again.  we weren't
     planning on it being so soon, so we're still getting used to the
     idea and i've got thousands of questions on "how am i gonna handle
     this"  my daughter will be 20 months old when the baby is born, and
     they'll have to share a room after we move the baby out of ours
     (probably at 4 months or so i'm guessing)  Any suggestions from
     anyone with kids spaced this far apart are welcome...how do we
     help rachel to understand, what can we do to make it easier for her,
     what's it like moving a 1.5 yr old into a bed - should we try, if
     so how soon?, or should we plan on using two cribs?, the baby will 
     be in a cradle while she's with us, but that wont' work after a few
     months when he can sit up (he..she..we dont' know yet and won't)  
     what about telling our families...i'd love some neat suggestions on
     that.  we may just be waiting until people start to guess...which 
     could be anywhere from a few weeks to a few months depending on
     weight gain (i'm underweight and supposed to be gaining anyway so 
     that may help)
     
a sortof funny side note....my hubby's sister and her hubby have a baby 6 
months older than rachel.  they got pregnant sooner than planned and are
due 3 months before we are this next time..they're both dr's so at least
we cna't get yelled at for goofing up if THEY cna't figure out what's 
causing it :)  for christmas they gave me indian jewelry thta's supposed to
be some fertility god...but they dont' know i'm pregnant...maybe they're 
just trying to spread the 'misery loves company'     ANyway...when i told
my mom what they got me she just told me 'don't wear it'  great idea mom
but too late i thought.  anyway..so my mom wont' be excited but she doenst'
have room to talk either..they adopted me and got pregnant with my sister
a week or so before they got me..we're 10 months apart.....

     and another question please (i'll be quick about it)  a few days after
     rachels 1st birthday she started eating vorasciously and for the first
     time in her life..waking up in the middle of the night.  I've had to 
     get up with her on occasion with ear infections..but it's been twice
     a night at least for the past week.  she nurses a lot when she gets
     up and screams if i put her down too soon...sometimes she falls
     asleep nursing..and wakes 30 minutes later to do it again.  Does 
     this sound like just waking because she's hungry or might this be
     a sleep habit change that just happens to be occuring during her
     pig out phase?  and does anyone have any suggestions on how to get
     her to go back to sleep more easily if it's not just hunger?  i'm
     assuming she's hungry and feeding her as much as she wants right now
     but since i've never had to deal with it before i wont' know what to
     do if nursing is just an excuse for her.
     
oh..one more questions...any suggestions on nursing two kids at once?  rachel
isn't really even slowing down to wean herself yet at all and i dont' want
to make her stop either.  so once again, personal advice, or books to read
would be welcome.  thanks a bunch! i woulnd't know where else to go for
this kind of stuff!

lynne remer
mom to rachel  12/26/91

remer@cwis.unomaha.edu