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From: rll1@kepler.unh.edu (Robert L Lamothe)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Question about divorced women...
Date: 8 Jan 1993 20:18:39 GMT
Organization: University of New Hampshire  -  Durham, NH
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In article <b=1rcnj@lynx.unm.edu> blowfish@carina.unm.edu (rON.) writes:
>Promise: Not a word about religion :)
>
>OK, I am interested in dating a POW, divorced a few years, 1 kid (the kid
>is not a problem at all).
>My problem is her attitude towards relationships- she is none to keen about
>having 'yet another man tell her what to do, where to go and how to raise my
>son'. 

[description and modus operandi deleted]

>Is this the right sort of approach?
>r.

	Relationships with POWs are tricky, I've been involved with 2 of them,
one had 3 kids and the other has 4 (my current SO).  Old war injuries can
resurface without warning and emotional land mines are easy to trip over.
My current SO is a *very* independant woman, she's spent the last 12 years
raising her children by herself.  As our relationship began I just let her
take control of much of the situation, this doesn't mean I allowed myself
to be abused by her, but we proceeded on a pace that was comfortable for her.
It took a great deal of patience on my part, at times I thought I was running
out, but I continued to be caring and supportive to her and little by little
she has begun to relax and feel good about having me in her life.  Since we've
started I've always treated her like a lady, I've taken her out to nice 
(expensive) dinners, bought her some gifts, and contributed to her household.
She has also taken me to dinner and bought me gifts.  In the beginning it was
important for her to match me dollar for dollar, but as time goes by if she
pays its ok or if I pay its ok, but there is no longer any contest.  As far
as *ego building* stuff goes, be careful.  If its sincere and caring she'll
know it and appreciate it, but if it looks like you are just trying to pump
her up she'll get suspicious and wonder what you want.  Most of all don't 
give her any reason to suspect ultirior motives, POWs are much more suspicious
of this than younger women and much more able to spot it.  If you tell her
something follow through, if you don't think you can follow through then don't
tell her you'll do it.  Be very honest with her and open up good lines of
communication, you'll probably find she couldn't communicate with her ex. and
that led largely to the break up.  Another thing you may wish to consider is
to every now and again back off a little, paritcularly if she asks you too,
Absolutely don't show possesiveness or obsessiveness, these things can tend
to make them freaky.  Being warm caring and supportive will take you farther
than anything else.  Good luck.
							-Bob

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From: rohwerwd@netcom.com (Mr. Tickle Monster)
Subject: Re: Any Available Jewish Men Out There??
Organization: The Tickle Palace - Moonyvale, CA
Date: Thu, 7 Jan 1993 05:20:40 GMT

In article <XH2wwB1w165w@iowegia.uucp> mine@iowegia.uucp (shelley kitsis) writes:
>
>Piglet, in your post prior to andy's you mentioned that you are 
>suffering from a cold, (and as I interpreted it) and thought it 
>was because of this war flaming going on. Someone earlier 
>mentioned it, so I'm not bringing this up for the 1st time, nor am 
>I threatening anyone! The Bible does say that the Jews are the 
>Chosen people. (the other person who happened to bring this up 
>also said, or interpreted it as: "you don't go stepping on toes!"
>Piglet, I hate to say this, but I believe your condition _is_ 
>indeed G-d"s way of letting us (who believe) know, he is watching over all!

     Well, Shelly, I hate to tell you this, but the Bible is a
contradictory and unreliable book of fairy tales.  In other words,
the Bible is a piece of crap.  I feel sorry for those people who
rely on the Bible.  By the way, the preceding was an attack on an idea,
not you.

     You can believe that the cold is one way of God letting people know
that he is watching over people.  I don't.

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From: bhv@areaplg2.corp.mot.com (Bronis Vidugiris)
Subject: Re: Duck and Jive (was Re: Pre-Sex Contract )
Organization: Motorola, CCR&D, CORP, Schaumburg, IL
Date: Mon, 4 Jan 1993 11:45:03 GMT

In article <1993Jan01.033746.2969@Veritas.COM> oleg@veritas.com (Oleg Kiselev) writes:

)That's an "assertion" and the "specific data" supporting it are the articles 
)that challenged your lunacy.

Nah.  Actually, I've seen the same 'assertion' this argument is allegedly
about posted elsewhere on the net.  I'm fairly sure it's true, too.  I
haven't actually seen any *references* for the percentage of unmarried
mothers who do not name the father quoted with verifiable sources, though.

What I can state is that only 19% of never-married mothers with children
(1987 - Statistical Abstracts of the US) were awarded child support payments,
compared to 77% awarded payments for divorced mothers with children, 82% for
married mothers with children.

I really belive that the reason for this large discrepancy between unwed
and married or divorced mothers is the fact that a lot of single unwed
mothers don't name the father, preferring to seek money from the state. 
[Whata surprise].

)My "opinion" is that you are an idiot.  You are not surprized, I hope.

You seem to be a bit confused about the difference between a personal
insult and an opinion.

Anyway, it's been fun - however, being called an idiot and proceeding
to argue about it isn't my idea of a good time.  Unless you can raise
the caliber of your argument a bit or at least flame in a manner that's more
cogent than insult-hurling I will have to bid you adieu.  
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
From: fsquared@eff.org (Fawn Fitter)
Subject: Re: Meeting guys
Originator: fsquared@eff.org
Organization: The Electronic Frontier Foundation
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 1993 02:01:07 GMT

In all honesty, the best way I've found to meet men _for the purpose of 
dating_ (as opposed to "I like guys, and maybe I'll meet someone, but if
I don't, no problem") is to take out a personal ad. You get to pre-screen
'em and everything.
From: sethb@panix.com (Seth Breidbart)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: DWM ISO S/D*F in SF BAy Area
Date: 9 Jan 93 03:58:49 GMT
Organization: Society for the Promulgation of Cruelty to the Clueless

In article <lkrsgmINNdpn@appserv.Eng.Sun.COM> Doug writes:

Yet another stupid personal in the wrong newsgroup.  However, he ends
with: 

>If you are interested in netting and possibly more, please send me some mail.

Fortunately for those of us with perverse senses of humor, there is no
email address in his message.

Seth
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton)
Subject: Re: We owe respect to the living. So don't worry about phantasm.
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: na
Date: Tue, 5 Jan 1993 13:44:51 GMT

In article <phantasm.726168945@vincent1.iastate.edu> phantasm@iastate.edu () writes:
>
>Many were/are; many were/are not...
 
Gosh your sorta profound. Ain't ya.
 
>
>From jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton):
>
>> I would suggest professional help for you shelley but then you need a mind
>> for it to do any good.
>
>This is sure to boost our opinion of you, james...
 
Memo: Be sure to note that cool guy with cool name like shazam thinks a little
less of me. Make sure to get into therapy this week to continue living.
Oh me Oh my.
 
>
>> Speaking of safe little lonesome cocoons had any luck finding Mr jewish Right
>> yet. How about dating a scrawny alien who never bathes? He's guaranteed
>> to whine on command.
>
>As opposed to whining perpetually...
 
Memo: Make sure as soon as graduate from therapy to get cool name like
"walla walla bing bang".
 
>
>May Fortune smile on your quest, Shelley...
>
>phantasm
 
You will meet a short plump stranger, Shazam...

 - Walla walla bing bang.
 
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Subject: Re: Any Available Jewish Men Out There??
From: ewright@convex.com (Edward V. Wright)
Date: Thu, 7 Jan 1993 23:43:45 GMT
 <ewright.726346982@convex.convex.com> <16261@auspex-gw.auspex.com>
Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
X-Disclaimer: This message was written by a user at CONVEX ComputerCorp. The 
 opinions expressed are those of the user andnot necessarily those of CONVEX.

In <16261@auspex-gw.auspex.com> johnf@Auspex.COM (John Fereira) writes:

>I've been paying auto insurance for almost that long and never had an
>accident but I still have to pay for the insurance.  If I drive a more
>expensive car or one more likely to be stolen the premiums go up.  The
>*potential* for loss is greater thus the higher the premium.

I believe your automobile insurance is so high because other
people have had accidents.  Policies covering events that
have not occured in anyone's memory are generally available
at very low rates.  If you want a $1,000,000 policy that
insures you against werewolves, for example, I think Lloyd's
would quote you a good rate.


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From: veen2976@mach1.wlu.ca (veenstra christopher)
Subject: Re: What's the silliest thing hormones made you do?
X-Newsreader: TIN [version 1.1 PL6]
Organization: Wilfrid Laurier University
Date: Sun, 10 Jan 1993 20:18:04 GMT

Robert Thurlow (thurlow@convex.com) wrote:
: My entry?  That's easy; it's the time last summer I walked into a
: brick pillar while I was looking over at a nice-looking woman.  I think
: I cracked a rib that time; I noticed I was about to make contact just
: soon enough to not bash my nose.  Thank God there was nobody around with
: a video camera.
: 
: Rob T
: --
  Well, mine is pretty much the same.  I was walking through the halls of
school when this nice-looking woman walked past the other way.  I turned my
head and watched her walk away from me for a couple seconds at which point I
hit a closed door.  She didn't even notice, and of the women who did, they
were all laughing far too hard to be able to keep up an intelligible
conversation.

Chris
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: ewright@convex.com (Edward V. Wright)
Subject: Re: M: F birth ratio (Was Re: Newspaper "personals")
Date: Fri, 8 Jan 1993 19:08:14 GMT
Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
X-Disclaimer: This message was written by a user at CONVEX Computer
              Corp. The opinions expressed are those of the user and
              not necessarily those of CONVEX.

In <1993Jan8.113845.16121@spider.co.uk> ivan@spider.co.uk (Ivan Reid) writes:

>I thought that there are slightly more women born than men - male births are
>slightly more likely to miscarry. Anyone have any references?

Yes, but there are more males conceived.  At birth, there are still
more males than females, but by a smaller margin.  The margin continues
to decrease, until it disappears and reverses itself.  In adulthood,
there are slightly more women than men.
From: pooh@Apple.COM (Pooh)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: How Strong Should a Man Be? and RESPECT!
Date: 8 Jan 93 13:33:57 GMT
Organization: Internet Refugee Camp

In the referenced article, hays@TECHNET.NM.ORG writes:
>Pooh, what you need is a nice hard, unpadded wooden chair.  Remember those
>desks in gradeschool?  Think RESONANCE.  This might not be the best way to
>improve your belches, however, and as for sweating, you're TOTALLY on your
>own.  Notice how nicely this paragraph is adjusted.

Yes, Larry, that was indeed very nice!  I haven't tried a wooden chair
lately, but you can get some marvelous acoustical effects from sitting
in a bathtub.  Then again, that's cheating, don't you think?  Besides,
I just found a better way: antibiotics that throw all the flora in the
intestines out of whack ... :-/  (This paragraph is both justified AND
ancient ... )

I also knew a guy in school who could say "Join the Pepsi Generation,
feelin' free" in one belch ...

Pooh
	pooh@apple.com
Organization: Queen's University at Kingston
Date: Tue, 5 Jan 1993 16:34:29 EST
From: Graydon <SAUNDRSG@QUCDN.QueensU.CA>
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Any Available Jewish Men Out There??
 <ewright.726177240@convex.convex.com> <1993Jan5.071813.19124@netcom.com>
 <ewright.726259075@convex.convex.com>

Ed, do you *really* expect that _anyone_ is going to believe
that you give a square centimetre of purple, purblind hell about
popular?

I know a guy who has the problem it sounds like you're having;
can't find someone who meets his criteria.  Thing is, while his
criteria are pretty sensible, he's a risk minimizer, and isn't
looking, he's waiting for an appropriate woman to appear in
his environment.  The couple of times this has happened, the
farthest he's willing to go is to indicate (not say outright,
just indicate) that he'd appreciate their expressing some interest.
Guess what? it doesn't work.

You come across like what you're interested in is demonstrating
that the other guy is wrong.  You don't ask people to clarify
their definitions, you don't grant other people's specific points any
creedence, and you don't appear to want to consider any different
opinion as having any validity at all.

Unless you're *very* different in person, it is no wonder you're
short of feminine companionship - you are going to have to either
find someone who thinks you are perfect, or you're going to have to
change, or you're going to have to put up with the lack.

Sheesh.

Graydon
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
saundrsg@               "Praise then Darkness and Creation unfinished"
   qucdn.queensu.ca                   - U. K. LeGuin
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: gopal@nx33.mik.uky.edu (P Gopalakrishnan)
Subject: Pick Up lines and Women
Organization: University Of Kentucky, Dept. of Math Sciences
X-Path: nx33.mik.uky.edu!gopal
Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 16:54:58 GMT
Distribution: soc.singles,soc.women

I am curious to know the female perspective on the so called pick up lines.
If the line is relevant to the situation(like asking to dance in a dance club)
then it is OK. But, something out of the blue like


	"If I could change the alphabets I would put I beside U "

is not only ludicrous but also reflects a lack of gray cells to come up with
something appropriate. How many of you women get "picked up" on such lousy 
lines? Is it the female perspective that, all they want is a guy to approach
them with a pick up line irrespective of it's relevance and truthfullness?
Have the women themselves got pick up lines so that I be aware of it next time
someone broaches a topic from the blue?

Gopal.
From: crawford@ben.dev.upenn.edu (Lauren L. Crawford)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Nerds and fitness (Was Re: Any Available Jewish Men Out There??)
Date: 12 Jan 93 23:34:28 GMT
Organization: University of Pennsylvania

In article <ewright.726873545@convex.convex.com> ewright@convex.com (Edward V. Wright) writes:

Trygve says:
>>Perhaps it is a shortcoming of mine that I feel better and
>>sleep better when I exercise regularly, but that's something I've
>>learned to live with

Ed says:
>I don't believe it's a shortcoming; I believe it's a delusion.

Well, I know that my boyfriend is a great deal, er, *friskier* after a
good swim at the Y.  If that's a delusion, it's at least a consistent one.
And, I might add, most welcome.

Ed says (at least I think it was Ed):
>>] And the fitness movement, whose motto is "exercise is for everybody,"
>>] reinforces this prejudice.  When was the last time you saw a postitive
>>] image of a "nerd" in the movies, television, or other media?

Seems like "Wayne's World" did pretty well.  Oh, you mean nerdy *women*?
Never.  Hollywood thinks they don't deserve to exist.  




-- 
The trick of reason is to get the imagination to seize the actual world --
if only from time to time.     -- Annie Dillard, "An American Childhood"
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Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Need help: ISO SAF...
From: <MMIQC@CUNYVM.BITNET>
Date: Wednesday, 6 Jan 1993 14:59:20 EST
Organization: City University of New York/ University Computer Center

I am on a quest, I am searching for that one special Single Asian
Female.  So far, no luck at all.  I live in New York City.
Anybody out there have any advice?

Thanks in advance...

M
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Timeless beauty (was: Re: ISO Babes)
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Sat, 9 Jan 93 07:25:36 GMT

In article <1993Jan8.045901.12719@panix.com> sethb@panix.com (Seth Breidbart) writes:
>In article <1993Jan7.073125.5105@sol.UVic.CA> atovorni@engr.UVic.CA writes:
>>In article 1icistINNotk@uwm.edu, markh@csd4.csd.uwm.edu (Mark) writes:
>>>In article <1993Jan5.020033.8874@sol.UVic.CA> atovorni@engr.UVic.CA writes:
>>
>>>>There is no international standard for "babes."
>>>
>>>An ISO definition was proposed here 6 months ago.  A millihelen is the amount
>>>of beauty required to launch a single ship, by ISO definition.
>>
>>Sorry, OldTimer. I only learned about computer NewsGroups four months
>>ago.
>
>That particular definition is at least 25 years old (predating the
>net), so you could easily have learned about it elsewhere.
>
>Seth	[and remember, 1E12 microphones is one megaphone]

'Tis true; though I've been doing some studies over here to try to 
come up with ways to measure beauty more precisely using two-by-fours
and bungee cords.  

Trygve   (Denver is a tough place to measure beauty, though--it seems to
          be a lot harder to launch ships out here.)
--
|       10^12 microphones       =   1 megaphone
|       10^12 pins              =   1 terrapin
|      10^-12 picolos           =   1 pico-boulevard
|       10^21 picolos           =   1 gigolo
|          10 rations           =   1 decoration
|          10 millipedes        =   1 centipede
|           1 centipede/second  =   1 velocipede
|       3-1/3 tridents          =   1 decadent
|           5 holocausts        =   1 pentacost
|        10^6 bicycles          =   2 megacycles
|        10^9 micrometers       =   1 kilometer
|                               = 200 pentameters
|          10 monologues        =   5 dialogues
|                               =   1 decalogue
|      2X10^3 millinaries       =   4 seminaries
|                               =   1 binary
|       10^-5 dollars           =   1 Millicent
|           1 milli-Helen       =     the amount of beauty required
|                                     to launch one ship

(I think this may have originally appeared in Datamation--where all
 known computer jokes appeared back in the early 70's.)
Organization: Queen's University at Kingston
Date: Mon, 11 Jan 1993 19:32:27 EST
From: K. Roper <ROPERK@QUCDN.QueensU.CA>
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: FLIRTING AS AN OLYMPIC DEMONSTRATION SPORT
 <93011.191932ROPERK@QUCDN.QueensU.CA>

In article <93011.191932ROPERK@QUCDN.QueensU.CA>, K. Roper
<ROPERK@QUCDN.QueensU.CA> says:
>
>      If I call, will you promise to bring your lance?
>
>
>      *swoon*
>
>
>     Once a knight is *never* enough ....
>

   Oh dear.  I'm getting cliched.  I'm going to have to
      do the chivalrous thing and punish myself.  I'll have
      to let Psycho get in a free shot ... darling, I'm
      going to have to give you a few bytes on the penalize.

   *tch*  I'm sooooo whorrid.


   *wiggle*
From: dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Any Available Jewish Men Out There??
Date: 8 Jan 93 15:36:26 GMT
NNTP-Posting-Host: bbn.com

In article <1993Jan7.233628.793@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu>, tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
> In article <lkop1eINNoko@news.bbn.com> dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin) writes:
> >
> >Personally, I don't think most people with an interest in astrology make
>                                                            ^^^^^^^^^
> >serious attempts to discover new comets 
> 
> No argument there.... 

Ah damn, now I feel silly.  I absolutely CANNOT tell the words "astrology" 
and "astronomy" apart.  I always use the wrong one.  It's the same thing 
with "qualitative" and "quantitative."  I have to say to myself "qualitative 
means quality and that means categorical.  Quantitative means quantity and 
that means number so that means continuous."  But then I still have to
say "right means the hand that I write with" whenever I give directions.

I blame this kind of brain damage on the trauma my parents inflicted on
me by forcing me to be right handed when I was naturally left handed.

Dawn
"What if I had PMS all my life, and told you you looked just like Barney Fife,
What if I twisted it in like a knife, Until it made you cry? Until it made
you lie? Would you still love me?"
"What If..." by Bongwater
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton)
Subject: Re: Mongrel Ethnic Purity (had stopped  be
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: na
Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 13:52:40 GMT

In article <1il0enINNhie@mirror.digex.com> huston@access.digex.com (Herb Huston) writes:
>In article <1993Jan8.034452.9038@sol.UVic.CA> atovorni@engr.UVic.CA writes:
>}In article 1ih99pINN5qc@mirror.digex.com, huston@access.digex.com (Herb Huston) writes:
>}>I'm very slightly inbred.  One of my great-great-grandfathers married the
>}>daughter of one of his first cousins.
>}
>}Incest is best? 
>}Never tried it, but it could be fun. </.)
>
>Marriages of first cousins (and thus of first cousins, once removed) are not
>incestuous, at least here in Maryland.  FL 2-202(b) prohibits "marriages
>within 3 degrees of direct lineal consanguinity or within first degree of
>collateral consanguinity."  It's a misdemeanor punishable by a fine of $1500
>or permananent banishment from the State.  FL 2-202(c) covers certain other
>relationships, e.g., stepparents, and provides a fine of $500 (no banishment).
>
>By the way, Charles Darwin married his first cousin.

 He was also into poetry and went insane.
 
 I'll hafta giv it a Try.g
 
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