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From: winter@sol.surv.utas.edu.au (Derek Winter)
Subject: Re: What is LOVE ?
Organization: CenSIS at University of Tasmania
Date: Tue, 18 Aug 1992 23:29:49 GMT

In article <1992Aug17.234809.15524@ucunix.san.uc.edu>, ankolamb@ucunix.san.uc.edu (Guess Who ?) writes:
> 
> What is LOVE ??
> 

..the most excellent way. ...
			Love is patient, love is kind.
			It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
			It is not rude, it is not self-seeking,
			it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
			Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
			It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
			Love never fails.

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From: erc@unislc.uucp (Ed Carp)
Subject: Re: PMS
X-Newsreader: Tin 1.1 PL5
Organization: Unisys Corporation SLC
Date: Thu, 13 Aug 1992 21:03:20 GMT

Stephen Dennison (afdenis@lims01.lerc.nasa.gov) wrote:

: >>>I was speaking of the painter, not the wanker.
: >>
: >>There's a functional difference between an artist and a wanker ?? :-)
: > 
: >Yeah...you don't get paid for wanking unless your name is John Holmes.
: > 
: 
: Or, at the very least, you don't get paid for it unless you're *built* like 
: John Holmes. :-)

I saw a movie over the weekend with JH in it - I made the comment that if
a woman could handle what he could dish out, then she certainly wouldn't
want *me*!  Looked like three or four women in the movie were doing a
good job of takin' it, too... :(

Then I got told, "A woman can fit a baby in there, too, but that doesn't
mean she would want to do it all the time..." :)

: Oh, I've been told that I have a rather sexy voice on the phone... uh... 
: anybody lurking out there want to back me up on this ? :-) :-)

I don't know about the sexy voice, but he *does* look a bit like Wolfman
Jack.  He certainly has the sense of humor... :)
-- 
Ed Carp, N7EKG     erc@apple.com                801/538-0177
"This is the final task I will ever give you, and it  goes  on  forever.   Act
happy, feel happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love,
and do what you will."           -- Dan Millman, "Way Of The Peaceful Warrior"
From: daw@jhunix.hcf.jhu.edu (Dave Webb)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: LDR's, Religion and other assorted topics.. PLEASE HELP!
Date: 12 Aug 92 16:00:09 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: HAC - Johns Hopkins University, Baltimore

Hello again, I thought I'd let everyone know that my LDR with my girl in \
New York is going GREAT!  We've been talking to each other EVERY day since
we've met.  I believe that this has strengthened our relationship.  We have
become the best of friends.  As I said before, things are going fast and still
are.  We have handled everything about our relationship that we have come 
across.  We have an open and honest relationship and I believe there's nothing
that we can't handle.  Well the one thing that has been the hardest to deal with
is her Parents.  As I said before, her parents are Jewish and border on 
conservative and orthodox.. actually, maybe just a little more than conservativeAnyway, we havn't figured out when to tell her parents about us.  On one hand, Itold her we should wait and see if we still feel the same way about each other
once we spend more time together and on the other hand, we would be able to 
spend more time with each other if her parents knew and don't react as bad as
she believes they will.  It's a very tense situation.  She realized that what
ever choice she made, someone would get hurt.  This is very painful for her and
it kills me that she has to go through with it some day.  In short, she believesthat her parents will disown her if she is seriously involved with a non-Jew.  
Her family is very important to her as is what they think of her.  She also
is in love with me and is torn to make a decision.  I've heard several replies
to this, but I'd love to hear more about what we should do!  PLEASE?  I'm 
trying to be very supportive and would like to know what else I can do to 
alleviate this burden.  I've talked to her about *MY* options and told her
that I'm interested enough in the religion to look into it seriosly and maybe
consider conversion.  I also told her that we can raise our children in the
Jewish faith as well... other than this, I can't think of anything else I 
can do?  ANY advice, suggestions, comments would greatly be appreciated.
One other thing, I'd still like to hear advice on maintaining and strengthening
a Long Distance Romance.  This relationship is VERY important to me.  There's
nothing I wouldn't do to have it develop even further.  I love this girl and
truly believe in my heart that she is the one for me.   I'll be looking 
forward to hearing from you soon!!!!
				
				Thanx in advance!
					Dave
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From: ccolling@nyx.cs.du.edu (Lady Firebird)
Subject: Re: Vacation..all i ever wanted...
X-Disclaimer: Nyx is a public access Unix system run by the University
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	control over nor responsibility for the opinions of users.
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix at U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Fri, 14 Aug 92 02:05:46 GMT

ae498@yfn.ysu.edu (Dawn Bott) writes:
>
>I need some honeymoon destination ideas.....and i know
>i can count on this bunch!  =)

It would help if we knew what you were looking for ina destination....

Lady Firebird


--
Catherine G. Collingwood, aka Lady Firebird       NCSSM '92
catherine@lambada.oit.unc.edu  -or-  ccolling@nyx.cs.du.edu
-----------------------------------------------------------
"Imagination is only intelligence having fun."  --Anon.
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: erc@unislc.uucp (Ed Carp)
Subject: Re: fantasies 
X-Newsreader: Tin 1.1 PL5
Organization: Unisys Corporation SLC
Date: Thu, 20 Aug 1992 17:43:48 GMT

Christine Nelson (nelson@eastrg1.cray.com) wrote:

: what are some of your favourite fantasies?  (ie. unusual places 
: for making love, particular scenarios, etc...)

Reminds me of a scene from "The Newlywed Game" several years ago.  The
question was (to the women) "Where is the most exotic place you've made
love?"  Various and sundry places were mentioned.  When the guys came back in,
this one guy, when asked, paused for a minute, then answered, "Um ... in
the butt, Bob!"

I'll bet he slept alone *that* night!  <evil grin>
-- 
Ed Carp, N7EKG     erc@apple.com                801/538-0177
"This is the final task I will ever give you, and it  goes  on  forever.   Act
happy, feel happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love,
and do what you will."           -- Dan Millman, "Way Of The Peaceful Warrior"
From: zagar@chester.cms.udel.edu (Randy Zagar)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: LJBF II
Date: 21 Aug 92 22:20:53 GMT
Reply-To: zagar@chester.cms.udel.edu
Organization: Marine Studies, University of Delaware

>
> There is more to male-female relationships than just romance.  There is more
> to life than just avoiding personal pain.  There is more to women than just
> external appearances.
>

Oh NOOOooooo!!!

You mean there's more ?!!??!

Arrrgghh, I *hate* it when my paradigms shift like that...

:-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) 

p.s. Graduate School: It's not just a job, it's an indenture...

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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: puter@no1home.nashvil.ingr.com (PuterDude)
Subject: Re: NEED ADVICE: Very good friend has cancer!
Organization: None, today. Thank you.
Date: Thu, 20 Aug 1992 17:30:19 GMT

 credo@fury.toppoint.de (Christian Meier) writes:
>Hi folks!

Hi Christian!

>I have a very good friend and we like each other but are not in love.
>Several weeks ago a doctor removed a lymph node surgically, but they 
>didn't really know, what that exactly was. 
>After long examinations did he tell her today, that it is a malignant
>cancer.
>It was clear that she broke down and I decided to drive to her to give
>her a few words of encouragement and to hold her close to me. 
>
>The problem was that I had only a few acpects to boost her courage. 
>So it would be very kind, if you have some ideas what I could tell her.

Well, she's gonna go thru a lot of phases... disbelief, anger, sorrow...

The best that you can _say_ is that you will be right beside her. Don't
pressure to say things that might sound good. For some people, not
sayin' anythin' is best. Stay beside her, be with her as much as
possible. Let her talk about how she feels when she is ready. She will
go through various changes and moods as she comes to grip with this.
	Also, there are several groups that cater to cancer victims.
There should be some in your own community. There are numerous pamphlets,
leaflets, and other publications that places such as these deliver.

	Also try to remember that life for a cancer victim is not over
till the last breath. Don't count her for dead before her time. My Dad
enjoyed life up till the very last day. 

-- 
Puter	puter@no1home.nashvil.ingr.com	.sig by Generic Labels
(Put irritating title here)		(Put phone # here.)
(Put obnoxious quote here. Please make it as long as possible.)
From: tk@inferno.uoregon.edu (TK McDonald)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Vacation..all i ever wanted...
Date: 20 Aug 92 02:02:34 GMT
Organization: University of Oregon Network Services
X-Newsreader: Tin 1.1 PL4

Most romantic?

In about a week, I'll be at Niagra Falls with my beloved...

I'll let you know how romantic it was :)

TK
From: aland@chaos.cs.brandeis.edu (Alan D.)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: How often do women do it?? (Propose, that is)
Date: 12 Aug 92 20:40:50 GMT
Reply-To: aland@cs.brandeis.edu
Organization: As little as possible

terrylee@wpi.WPI.EDU (The Cookie Goddess) writes:

>Is it just my imagination, or has anyone else noticed that they both
>seem to say that each one would say yes, but neither one wants
>to be the one to ask?

>or am I just confused?  :)

That's probably a good enough summary...  ;)

	-=Alan
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From: pfleming@magnus.acs.ohio-state.edu (Patrick E Fleming)
Subject: How does this happen?
Organization: The Ohio State University
Date: Wed, 12 Aug 1992 20:08:44 GMT

About a month ago, my exgirlfriend called me.  We hadn't spoken to one another 
in several months.  We chatted and got caught up on one another's lives and 
then I thought about what it all meant.  I reallized how much I miss her and 
how much I would like to have her back.  But I didn't want to go back to where 
we were because I was so miserable by the time she finally left me.  (I was 
trying to keep us together.)  Then time passed.  She grew very distant again.  
Although she didn't say it, it was kind of clear to me that she wanted me out 
of her life again.  I wanted to know what was going on, so I decided to try to 
create a situation where we could talk openly and honestly about what was 
happening.  She said no.  I told her that I still care a great deal for her and
that I want for her to be happy.  She said that perhaps that is the problem - I
care to much for her.  I asked if I was supposed to hate her instead.  She 
said, "You should try it - you might like it."

So what in the hell makes people feel so damned undeserving of love?  Why can't
some people allow themselves to feel loved?  Why can't some people indulge 
themselves in the right to be imperfect and still be loved anyhow?

I don't get it.

     - Pat
.
-- 
- Patrick E. Fleming ----------------------------------------------------------
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- The Ohio State University ---------- But baby I'm the next best thing! ------
- pfleming@magnus.acs.ohio-state.edu ------------------------------------------
From: dswt@bnr.co.uk (Stewart Tansley)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: fantasies
Date: 18 Aug 92 13:16:18 GMT
Reply-To: dswt@bnr.co.uk (Stewart Tansley)
Organization: BNR Europe Limited, London Road, Harlow, Essex, GB

In the referenced article nelson@eastrg1.cray.com (Christine Nelson) writes:
>
>what are some of your favourite fantasies?  (ie. unusual places 
>for making love, particular scenarios, etc...)
>
>+===============================================================+
>Christine Nelson           Going out of my mind...   
>nelson@eastrg1                     ...back in 5 minutes.

My favourtite fantasy is...

				...having an RP at all! :-(


;-)ish

PS. Long live 'RP'! RIP SO!

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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: panlilio@acs.ucalgary.ca (Victor P. Panlilio)
Subject: Re: How long does it take *you* to make love ... ?
Summary: Love As A Conscious Choice
Date: Sat, 15 Aug 92 01:16:11 GMT
Distribution: alt.romance
Organization: The University of Calgary, Alberta
Keywords: Taking the plunge, love, choices

In article <92227.155542ICSAA@ASUACAD.BITNET> <ICSAA@ASUACAD.BITNET> writes:
>Ed Carp asks:
>"Hmmm. . . what made you change your mind and date him?"
>
>
>And for the sheer pleasure of sharing a bit of personal romance story -
>I mentioned that we had spoken of my breaking heart - I was dating his best

stuff about Eric fixing Stefani's broken sink deleted

>miseration, Valentine's Day, which I hated, and we had both lost loves
>recently.  HE had other ideas, turned it into a date in mid-dinner.  After
>as I said earlier, three days of seeing each other once per day for a few
>hours, I looked at him, and thought, "He's everything I've ever wanted for
>a mate, and I DON'T love him.  Bummer.  How can I fix this?" So I held my
>nose (figuratively) and jumped him (literally).
>
As in, attacked him frontally, snugglebunny style? One of my
friends in the office where I work told me that when she decides
to do a number like this on her husband, the poor guy just
doesn't know what hit him.... *snicker* 
>
>Although it's not a technique I'd necessarily advocate, we were both right.
>I think I may have talked myself into loving him, and it's stuck.  Sometimes
>I think that may be the firmest basis of love - I was allowed to see inside,
>because the visible outside wasn't "my type."
>
So YOU made the "first" move? But wasn't it his idea to turn your
misery-loves-company Valentine's Day dinner into, ahem, a date?
And if what you saw on the inside was beautiful, then does this
make your decision to "hold your nose" (figuratively) and jump
poor hapless lucky Eric (literally) a conscious choice, then?

BigQuestion for All You Romantic NetFolk: Is Love then a
Conscious Choice we make, rather than something we fall into?

>Anyhow, that should cover this particular love story.  :)
>
>
>Stefani A-L

Enjoyed the story. Thanks for sharing it with us.  :)

Victor
From: dswt@bnr.co.uk (Stewart Tansley)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: How does this happen?
Date: 14 Aug 92 13:35:17 GMT
Reply-To: dswt@bnr.co.uk (Stewart Tansley)
Organization: BNR Europe Limited, London Road, Harlow, Essex, GB

In the referenced article earhart+@CMU.EDU (Rob Earhart) writes:
>
[Really sad story about how relationship ends due to severe insecurity on
the part of the other party]

:-(, this is much worse than being LJBF'ed. :-( 

Yes, people are *weird* -- even "normal" ones... :-/

>  It's been four months, and I still dream of her 'most every night.
>Which I suppose gets into another question: What's the average time,
>after breaking up with someone one truly cares about, before one starts
>having romantic relationships anew? Prior personal experience indicates
>a time period of about a year before feeling comfortable about dating
>again, which seems a bit long...
>
>  -Rob

My heuristic, based on sparse empirical evidence, is that new romantic 
attraction revives following a deep relationship after about year, too. 
However, actually getting *over* the original breakup took me as long as the 
relationship had lasted in the case of my 'biggie' breakup (5 years).

On the other hand, my recent LJBA took a week to get over! :-)

But maybe we're just slow, Rob! Hang on in there... :-) <-- feeble smile
as attempt to offer hope.

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From: credo@fury.toppoint.de (Christian Meier)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: NEED ADVICE: Very good friend has cancer!
Date: Mon, 17 Aug 92 22:55:44 MET
Distribution: world
Organization: ABC (Atomic Banana Computers)

Hi folks!

I have a very good friend and we like each other but are not in love.
Several weeks ago a doctor removed a lymph node surgically, but they 
didn't really know, what that exactly was. 
After long examinations did he tell her today, that it is a malignant
cancer.
It was clear that she broke down and I decided to drive to her to give
her a few words of encouragement and to hold her close to me. 

The problem was that I had only a few acpects to boost her courage. 
So it would be very kind, if you have some ideas what I could tell her.

Thanks a lot.

Ciao
Credo.


--				-=Fury=-
E-Mail: credo@fury.toppoint.de	(Christian Meier)
B E G I E R D E   I S T   E I N E   Z I E R D E !
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: mcdavey@maths.tcd.ie (Matthew Davey)
Subject: Re: Vacation..all i ever wanted...
Organization: Dept. of Maths, Trinity College, Dublin, Ireland.
Date: Fri, 14 Aug 1992 08:49:28 GMT


>|> Dawn Bott writes:

>|> Where is the most romantic place in the world?  
>|> 

lana@magenta.corp.sgi.com (Lana Mountford) writes:
>My two choices:

>1)  Fiji (like Tahiti, but less expensive and friendlier)

>2)  The west coast of Ireland, either County Clare or County Galway

I would have to agree with 2), but name Connemara, Co. Galway specifically.
This holds true if you want Atlantic Ocean, some great beaches, Incredibly
Majestic landscape, with rugged steep green peaks looming over ribbon lakes and 
with whole lot of solitude if you want it.  Only thing is, allow for the fact
that it can be wet ;)

Matt.

Matthew C. Davey        net.lurker      Trinity College, Dublin.
-- 


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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: tvechins@eng.auburn.edu (Toni R. Vechinski)
Subject: LAUGHTER
Organization: Auburn University Engineering
Distribution: usa
Date: Fri, 21 Aug 1992 19:02:59 GMT




Muahahahahahaaaaaaa...........Mueheeheeheeheeheeeeeee.............

        Coming soon.....to a newsgroup near you. 
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From: tyger@netcom.com (Kitty in the Middle)
Subject: Re: PMS
Date: Wed, 19 Aug 92 19:36:05 GMT
Organization:  Boogie Rats on Speed

In article <1992Aug14.121512.1631@csd.brispoly.ac.uk> pm3_norr@csd.brispoly.ac.uk (Paul Norris) writes:
>
>Tyger types:
>}>>Paul, I think you might want to visit a museum once in a while...:)
>
>Stephen:
>}>Uh ... *Paul* ?!??!?!?! Look immediately below...
>
>}So sorry...got you confused with the man from Across the Pond...:)
>
>Had me confused for a little while there...

Confusion makes the world go 'round!

>}(But his accent is nicer than yours...;))
>
>Why thank you ma'am.

No trouble at all, my good man...;)

>Paul

   Tyger

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Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: jpalmer@magnus.acs.ohio-state.edu (John D Palmer)
Subject: Re: What is LOVE ?
Organization: The Ohio State University
Date: Thu, 20 Aug 1992 15:47:36 GMT

In article <1992Aug17.234809.15524@ucunix.san.uc.edu> ankolamb@ucunix.san.uc.edu (Guess Who ?) writes:
>
>Just a question....
>
>What is LOVE ??
>
>-MA

     Love is when the happiness of the other person is more important than
your own. . . almost every expression of love canbe shown to pass this test.

     Ah, but what is romantic love?  There is a difference. . . 

     This is something more. . . because true romantic love is when there is a 
give and take of love. . . and as one tries to make th other happy, the other
is trying to make the first happy, and they are both being happy because they
accept the profferred gifts of happiness. . .  

     It is here where the idea of resonance is first seen, as one happiness
builds another; it is here that the whole becomes more than the sum of the
parts.

                                                        John


-- 
"Love is cool; I mean, like, really cool.  Like, the coolest thing in
the universe, where, like, people open up inside and show the world how
they feel, and they ain't afraid someone's gonna laugh because they, like,
love themselves already!"  --Personality 42, a generic 60's philosopher 
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: erc@unislc.uucp (Ed Carp)
Subject: Re: Love at first sight?
X-Newsreader: Tin 1.1 PL5
Organization: Unisys Corporation SLC
Date: Wed, 12 Aug 1992 19:35:36 GMT

Douglas J. Deutsch (djd7889@tm0006.lerc.nasa.gov) wrote:

: a ride home, and I asked her out that night.  Anyway she's told me (in 
: retrospect, of course) that she wasn't even particularly interested in going
: out with me (or continuing to, for that matter), but that she was just being
: 'nice.'  Anyway, I showed her:  I made her fall in love with me. :)

And, pray tell, how did you do *that*?  Hey, gang, the man must have women
down *cold*.

Jeez, Doug, you oughta write a book - you'd sell billions... :)
-- 
Ed Carp, N7EKG     erc@apple.com                801/538-0177
"This is the final task I will ever give you, and it  goes  on  forever.   Act
happy, feel happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love,
and do what you will."           -- Dan Millman, "Way Of The Peaceful Warrior"
From: daw@jhunix.hcf.jhu.edu (Dave Webb)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: HELP!  Info on florists in the New York Area needed!!!
Date: 17 Aug 92 17:29:01 GMT
Distribution: na
Organization: HAC - Johns Hopkins University, Baltimore

Hello, I was wondering if someone could provide me with the names and
numbers of some decent florists in the New York area (Manhatten).  My
LDR sweetheart has a birthday in early September and I wanted to get her
flowers.. probably roses.   Could someone PLEASE e-mail me with the names
and phone nu
mbers of any decent florist that would deliver?  I've sent her roses from 
here (Baltimore) before and it was sort of expensive.  I was just curious 
about the price difference (if any).   Also, I'd really appreciate any info
on places that do the balloon thing.  Please help me out!  I'd really 
appreciate it!  
			Thanx,
					Dave Webb
Newsgroups: alt.romance