From: mba2@Rosie.UH.EDU (Puneet_S)
Subject: Re: Ten Best Reasons to Date Indian (Re:To marry (Indian) or not ?
Reply-To: mba2@Rosie.UH.EDU
Organization: University of Houston
Distribution: na
Date: Tue, 6 Oct 1992 20:09:09 GMT

In article <1992Oct5.222747.29493@cbnewsi.cb.att.com>, alok@cbnewsi.cb.att.com (alok.vijayvargia) writes:
>In article <1992Oct4.233842.26140@midway.uchicago.edu>, moh2@quads.uchicago.edu (Kateri/Mary Anne) writes:
>> 
>> American men may be just as sexist as Indian men....but we have a
>> *lot* more American men to choose from....by more than a factor of
>> 1000 to 1.  The odds of finding a non-sexist guy are just much higher
>> if you're dating Americans.
>> 
>
>Dating is not the 'odds' game. One should go on a date with a person 
>
>1) Because that person 'asked'.

Not good Enough

>2) He is an honest person who wants to share some good times
>3) There is something of value in a friendship with this person -
>there is something to learn, something to give, something to do
>together, 
>4) You see this person as a prospective mate or husband.
>etc.

Please no, i don't need this,  I like number 3, but 4 has to go.  I
want to date people for 3, what if i don't want to get married for a
while.  What if I want to go out with a bunch of people, learn about
them, and not be pressured by my parents or others.  It happens.

>
>> Because there are far fewer of them.  And while you might reasonably
>> expect II women to have more in common with II men, the whole point of
>> the IA classification is that in large part we *are* Americans.  As an
>> American, there is *no* reason to prefer one race over another, so why
>> should we go out of our way to date Indians when there are so few of
>> them compared to other Americans?

I have noticed that even "AMERICAN" prefer to go out with their own.  I
think it has something to do with preservation of culture.  My old boss
said to me one time "That's one of the nice things about your culture.  When
you go into a new town, you can find people that you can relate to."  At
the time I did not appreciate the comment.  I realized later though, that
my boss was refering to his recent move from Virgina.  He did not have a
cultural organization he could go to in the area to meet people of
"similar interest /background /upbringing".

>
>1) Because they are highly educated and have a good potential for earning

You know that is the excuse my parents are using for getting my sister
"married off".  Being who I am, I have to protest.  My cousin is an expample.
She married a M.S. Chemical Engr (high education and potential), who is
not really worth that much as an overall person though.  

>2) Because they are intelligent

I can't say that anymore.  I've met a lot of guys whose faters graduated from
IIT type universities but thir kids arenn't worth a damn.  Our "superior 
inteligence" seems to have been sucked dry by the Old Tube or something. Hey
I don't know. I just call 'em like I see 'em.

>3) Because they are more family oriented, will take care of the kids

Yeah, but have you met the beer-guzzling, top-less bar going, chivas-regal
drinking guys I have.  As as general rule I might aggree with you, but
again it's becoming rarer.

>4) They know good Indian cooking !

Depends on what you call good "food".  I like Pizza. Anyways, I don't aggree.
Very few of my friends (guys IA & II) have any concept of cooking.  We sort
of let mom or McDonalds do the cooking.
 
>5) They are independent and have accomplishments to their credits
>(They made it to America) - you can be proud of them

Again, lately less and less.  Oh yeah, i'm going to now voice an opinon, this
is not towards anyone in particular.  I have
met some older indian engineers who seem to have given in to the "good old
boy americans".  They seem to say "yes" sir to almost everyghing.  And then
I have met some who are very uncompromising and too damn proud to admit
when they are wrong.  Either way, they don't get along well with clients,  A
person ought to be firm but realize when he is wrong and admit to it. 

>6) They are more likely to be 'loyal'
>7) They are less likely to divorce, hence more stable 
>8) They are not 'football' fanatics 

NOT!!!! Definetly do not agree.  I am not one but most all the guys I know
are.  And frankly I don't see anything wrong with it.  In India, i'm sure
there are Cricket or soccer "fanatics".  I know for sure that my father
loved Cricket with a passion and actually my mother loved basketball and
volleyball.  Not surprising because my dad was a bowler and my mother a
center.
>9) They are of Indian origin - same skin, features

Interesting...... I know of certain prejudices that exist in our culture
(i.e. dark and light skin, punjabi vs. gujrati etc...)  Let's try
culutre not skin and features.  I would more readily agree that we are
raised similarly and more likely to have a similar sense of values, moral, etc..
And that we understand what the other person might have gone through growing
up in this culture.

>10) Affirmative Action - give them a chance  :-)
>
>> -- 
>> The autumn leaves are falling like rain.
>> Although my neighbors are all barbarians,
>> And you, you are a thousand miles away,
>> There are always two cups at my table.		 - A T'ang Dynasty poem
>
>Your poetry has me mesmerized. You are very lovely indeed but ...
>
>So long,
>
>Alok
>
Puneet (D-Poon)
VCD 

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