From: rmcewen@spcb.bbn.com (Regis McEwen)
Newsgroups: soc.men,soc.women
Subject: Re: Nasty E-mail (was: Hooray!!)
Date: 24 Dec 1992 07:13:52 GMT
Reply-To: rmcewen@bbn.com
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In article <1992Dec17.211955.17576@news.cs.indiana.edu>, "Amy Young Leith" <alyoung@kiwi.ucs.indiana.edu> writes:
>In article <1992Dec10.031718.6599@microsoft.com> jenk@microsoft.com (Jen Kilmer) writes:
>
>>I've gotten some rather interesting mail myself. But, the worst stems 
>>from posts in the comp.msdos.* groups (msdos is a product of the company
>>I work for, I work with it a lot)...anyway, I heard from several...ummm
>>...dissatisfied customers...though "bitch" & "whore" don't make me too
>>interested in replying..."microslut" seemed rather inventive tho...
>

	I don't get alt.feminism but would appreciate it if someone
	would forward it there for completeness:


	The following response is said with "tongue firmly in cheek":



>I have a nice little file with the addresses of those who have sent me
>"wannafucks."  Get a clue, boys (and I use that word for I can't
>believe anyone who would send the type of correspondance I'm talking
>about qualifies to be a man)

	This is true: a "man" would say, "Would you like to go out for
	dinner?"

>                              This kind of stuff doesn't impress most
>women.  A one line message saying, "I bet you're hot in bed," is less
>than intriguing, at least in my opinion.

	Yes, a "man" wouldn't use this this obviously line.  He'd say
	something about you being beautiful/special/intelligent and how
	that and how much you are important to him -- or other "stuff
	that'll impress most women".

>
>>I've also received responses from posts in alt.sex.bondage and feedback
>>on a few stories I've posted to alt.sex.stories. Interestingly enough,
>>the alt.sex.stories feedback is the most consistently positive with no
>>name-calling.  
>
>You get a lot of freshman reading the *.sex.* groups because they see
>that little word.  Most don't even stop to read more than five
>messages on the board before either making a fool of themselves by
>posting looking for "hot babes in my area" or whatever.  

	Yes, but that's because these freshmen aren't as experienced as
	"men" are so they appear foolish to most observers.  After facing
	the inevitable rejections they'll soon learn to start posting
	looking for "friends just to talk to" in their area or whatever.

>
>The correspondance I have received that I deem "good" far, FAR
>outweighs the worthless.  I enjoy talking about sensuality and
>sexuality, I have nothing against honest questions and curiosity.

	This is very good advice that these "boys" should listen to !
	Listen to what this women is saying, "boys".  Stop pretending that
	you are really interested in sex.  Start talking about "sensuality"
	and "sexuality" and make sure that you are genuinely curious and
	honest about the question you ask unlike when you say that you
	are interested in sex...

>                                                                   But
>I don't come to the net to get picked up, or to have net.sex.
>Flirting is fun if done creatively, of course, but you have to know
>more than a person's email address to do that, I think.

	That's right, "boys".  Stop trying to be mind-readers.  Trying
	flirting, "creatively" -- this is what "honesty" is all about !

	Especially when a *married* woman tells you, "I don't come to the net
	to get picked up, or to have net.sex" !  So just stick with the
	"creative" flirting, OK?  And make sure you have more than just a
	"female-looking" address to go on...

	And then, someday, you too, can become "men" !


							-Regis


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