From: bhchan@soda.berkeley.edu (Billy H. Chan)
Newsgroups: soc.culture.hongkong
Subject: ILHC: Love Clinic (WLS RESPONSE) 11/16/92
Date: 17 Nov 1992 09:47:57 GMT
Organization: U.C. Berkeley, CS Undergraduate Association
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In response to the Weekly Love Story 11/16/92, here's what the Doctors
have to say:
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 _Unmature_Love_
	from Dr.FeelingSoGood

"You're too serious about her when you said you'll wait for her 10 yrs. 
Poor boy, do you know how many better girls you can find within entire 
10 yrs.?!  I'm not trying to degrade your lover, but just want to teach
you that sometimes you may find nothing to talk to your girl if you're
too serious about both of your future. If you don't 've any confidence
at all to hold her heart, then you should give up; but if you do, maybe
you should try to change yourself.....Be more humorous! Dating her in a
very speical way may help!"

_Waiting_Ten_Years_
	From Dr.Mike (emeritus)

	I am supposed to be a retired Dr., and I am having my final exams
right now, so I am actually very busy, but I still love to save all lonely
hearts.

	I feel very sorry about your story.  However, do you really sure  
about your actual intention to her ?  What makes you to 'love' her so much ?
Your loneliness ?  Waiting a person for 10 years is not a easy task.  You 
cannot wait for someone who doesn't really love you such a long time.  Love is
not depended on one side.  As your current situation, it is very clear that
she doesn't want to go on with you, that why she starts to ignore and keeps
a distance with you.  Please be a clever boy, change your intention to someone
or something else.  I always say that there are a whole forest in front of 
you, so it is not necessary to stuck on one tree.


_Love_Is_Forever_
	from Dr.Chilly-B

	I have to agree with Dr.Feelingsogood on this one.  You _are_
being too serious about all this.  You're still young and 10 years are
a lot.  Just think about it, if you are 19 (well, I am, so I'll use my
own age as reference) and in college, will you still be so much in love
with this person who has left you when you are 29?   Remember when you
were 9, 10 years ago?  Look how much has changed. 
	However, if you _are_ that serious about her, then I think you
have two choices.  
	1) Keep trying.  Though it might be hard, though she may not 
seem interested, keep trying.  Here's a parable Jesus told to his 
disciples (though, granted He used it in a slightly different context)
John finds out that a friend will be visiting him, and realizes that he
has nothing to offer his friend (in terms of food), so John goes to his
neighbor's house to ask if he could borrow some bread.  Now, it being
around midnight, John's neighbor had long went to bed (they slept early
back then).  John knocks on the door.
	"Go away, I'm in bed, my kids are in bed, call me tomorrow."
	John knocks louder, "my friend is visiting and I have no food
to put before him." 
	The neighbor answers again, "Go away, I'm in bed, the door's 
locked, call me tomorrow."
	However, John doesn't go away, he knocks louder.
	"GO AWAY!  You're going to wake up the kids."
	John doesn't stop, he knocks even louder, banging on the door.
The neighbor yanks open the door, empties his larder, and yells "HERE!
Take everything! Just leave me alone!"
	See, be persistant (but, I'm not saying "be a jerk/annoying SOB")
and either she'll see that you _are_ serious (or see that you _are_ a
dumb jerk/annoying SOB) and reconsider her feelings for you (or take the
next plane outahere).
	Or, 2) FORGET HER!
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*  Dr. Lemon			<scheng@unixg.ubc.ca>		  *
*  Dr. Sleeping Beauty 		<shsieh@esk.compserv.utas.edu.au> *
*  Dr. FeelingSoGood		<stu_wclau@vax1.acs.jmu.edu>	  *
*  Dr. Dewberry			<wlee@unixg.ubc.ca>		  *
*  Dr. Chibi	 (emeritus)	<u1040448@arch.unsw.edu.au>	  *
*  Dr. Mike	 (emeritus)	<mkwan@esk.compserv.utas.edu.au>  *
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