From: strake@coos.dartmouth.edu (strake)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Married Men and Single Women
Date: 13 Aug 92 15:38:32 GMT
Distribution: usa
Organization: Dartmouth College, Hanover, NH

barry@netcom.com (Kenn Barry) writes:

>In article <1992Aug13.031033.14776@cbnewsd.cb.att.com> jfb200@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (joseph.f.baugher) writes:
>>I have found that men tend to be rather reluctant to talk  with  other
>>men  about their sexual escapades.  The male locker room boasting that
>>we all hear about in feminist tracts seems to me to be largely a myth.
>>[...]
>>Comments?

sure.

>	My personal experience supports this. But there's a lot of
>variability in the culture these days; it may happen without my
>knowing it.

>	Actually, if I understand the myth correctly (whether or
>not it's true), it's that men brag of their sexual _conquests_,
>not that they talk about sexual escapades with their wife or
>long-term sweetie. Am I correct?

I think you are more or less correct.  In my experience on many a sports
team and in the computer lab, and in the work place, and among the frats,
and everyplace else where a group of men often gather together.
Men talk _alot_ about sex, wanting sex, having sex, and getting sex.
However, they _never_ say anything. they just talk.
ex.
*locker room - basketball team*
joe: dude, how was your date last night
bob: ah man it was excellent, we went to dinner, and then went down to the
point and took a walk on the beach. It was awesome.
jeff: This is Katy right?  she any good?
bob: She's good enough for me, and you know what my standards are.
*smile, nudge, wink. lots of cheering about Bob man getting some.*

these are the kinds of conversations I always had in high school and still
hear frequently in college.  The funny thing is, is that bob and katy may
have held hands while walking on the beach, or they may have had a 5-hour
long, multiple orgasmic, goddess honoring love session. You can't tell
from the conversation. I always loved that about talking sex with other guys.

This is in sharp contrast to women who prefer to say things when they talk.
ex.
jill: kim, you've got that smile on your face. something tells me you had a
 good morning.
kim: well, *blushing a little* yeah, Jim is just so wonderful sometimes.
kate: Oh my dear, you must tell. and want every little detail *she says this
 with an evil*
kim smiling: well he walked in this morning and woke me up with breakfast in
bed, he was wearing that green shirt (nods from those who know ) and he looked
so good. well anyway, he was feeding me breakfast and I tried to give him some
and he said he 'wasn't hungry for that' and started running his fingers
across my stomach. ( more nods and ' I know what you mean' and encouragements
to continue)  well I tried to continue eating after that, but the more
i thought about it, and the more wide ranging his massaging fingers got I just
wasn't hungry anymore. when he started doing figure eights across my chest,
which I just love, I couldn't eat any more. Noticing this he 'sorry' and
moved his hands back down to my stomach. 'Can't have you not eating a full
breakfast, when you finish that...'  Well by this time I was really starting
to feel a little warm, and the sunlight coming in the window made him soooo
good looking.  I finished that breakfast fast. By the time I had finished
he had slid down the bed and was massaging my feet. He started suckling the
toes of my right foot, just the right amount of ticklish and stimulating, and

{ well this is going take too long, since there are so many details involved,
  but I think you get the picture. }

anyways, back to my point, its not that men and women don't talk about sex,
it's that they have very different methods of talking about it.
men tend to speak in generalities and with a vagueness that leaves a lot up
to the imagination of the other guys. (who usually have runaway imaginations)
women tend to get very intimate, and speak in detail, and to remember things
that we guys don't even think about during sex.

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