From: 01ksdavis@leo.bsuvc.bsu.edu (Rebel without a pause.)
Newsgroups: soc.couples
Subject: Two questions (lengthy background)
Date: 26 Jan 93 06:01:36 GMT
Organization: BSU Journalism Dept.

HELP!

	I know, I know, this isn't the place for instantaneous
information.  BUT, I have a big problem.  So far my girlfriend
has hung up on me.  TWICE.  The first time she called, the 
second time I called back and she then hung up on me after only
saying five words.

	What is the source of all of this discourse between us?

	She is involved in a certain co-ed fraternity on campus.

	I did NOT want her to join, as all of my previous 
experiences with ANY greek organization have been bad ones.  I
myself told her what I thought when she asked me.  I told her I
thought she was too good for them.

	Since she joined, she went to this party (A non-fraternity
party, because of some weird by-laws) nevertheless, put on by 
somebody in the fraternity and lots of people in the fraternity 
were there.  I was NOT.  This was my mistake, I guess.

	Anyhow, to make a long story short, things happened that
evening.  Things that she DOESN'T EVEN REMEMBER.

	She talked with her "brothers" about that night and she
accepted whatever they said as gospel.

	When I got to the hospital emergency room, it struck me 
that no-one else from her fraternity was there.  Guess they were
all drunk.  Somebody had been playing, let's see how ugly we can
make her hair look with her, as there were barretts and rubber
bands in her hair.  

	I talked to the nurse there, and from what I could piece 
together, the police found her passed out in the snow with a very
faint heart beat and called an ambulance.

	Oh yeah, did I mention her BAC was .23 after they had 
started pumping her stomach and replacing her blood with plasma?

	Suffice it to say, I really don't have a high opinion
of her fraternity especially after she had talked with them about
what the hell happened that night while I was there.  They were 
obviously lying through their teeth.

	So, she wants her friend to be in the same fraternity. 
Now she says that her friend told her that I said I didn't want
her to join.  I hardly talk to this person.

	Today at dinner, she was with another one of her "brothers"
named Audrey and were talking to her friend and a friend of hers
about pledging the fratenrity.  I was there too, but that's all 
they talked about.  I could have said the most off the wall thing
and nobody at the table would have noticed.

	So they have their big organizational meeting their tonight.
My girlfriend gets out of the meeting, is mad at me for not going 
with her (even though she would understand that I DIDN'T pledge.
This is after I have already been to one of those meetings and told
her NEVER AGAIN would I go to another meeting with her.

	She gets off this meeting, and then tells me that "surprise"
the fraternity is going as a group to Florida over our Spring break.
You could pretty well imagine what my reaction was.  I didn't yell
at her or anything but she knew I was upset.  Finally, I told her
that the reason why is if for some bizarre reason I couldn't go, I
would be afraid that she would and that something would happen to 
her, and I would not be there for her.  You can already tell that
my opiinion of any of her fraternity "brothers" effectiveness in
any situation like this is extremely low.

	I spent the night there, with her at the hospital.  Nobody
else showed up.  The phone rang maybe two or three times the entire
time I was there.  (Allegedly the fraternity brothers called every
hour on the hour.)

        I thnak you if you've followed this posting for this long.

	Now we come to my point, which is twofold.  

	1.)How do you handle your SO being involved in other things?

	2.)Is there a newsgroup about alcoholism?  NOT alt.support,
	   as this is one she frequents.

P.S.  The trip to Florida costs $99 a person, with two people in each
room.  Food would have to be bought.  She has bills with the hospital,
with the county clerk (we were in court today,) and if she doesn't
pay these bills, she gets to spend two months in the county jail.

	Thanx for any help you can give me.  Blanche, if you are 
reading this, know that I love you and know that I have already
told you how I felt about that night.  Maybe now that you see it in
writing, you know why I am not so excited about your fraternity.

	Kyle
                               
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