From: jlane@Ingres.COM (Judi Lane)
Subject: Spiritual SWF iso spiritual SM
Followup-To: alt.personals,alt.personals.ads
Reply-To: ap.4338@cupid.sai.com
Organization: EZ-Intro Contact Service	
Date: 3 Sep 92 19:03:04 GMT



	Even though I'm running the risk of overloading my emailbox, given
the stories I've heard regarding women who post and the quantity of replies
they typically receive, I've decided to place the type of ad I've always
wanted to, but never had the courage to place... until now.
	(Most folks start off with vitals, and that seems like a good
beginning.)  I'm 35, about 5'1", roughly 115 lbs. I have lt. brown hair just
above my shoulders, and sparkling blue-grey eyes.  I work for a computer
software firm in the Bay Area during the day, and attend a grad program at
San Francisco State University, part-time evenings.  
	I got married in my early twenties and divorced at 29, though my ex
and I are still good friends.  Our goals and life journeys started taking
different paths, and we both loved each other enough to set ourselves free 
to find what each of us was wanting and needing.  I have no children, nor
do I wish to reproduce children of my own, and do not hold raising a family
as a prerequisite for having a commited relationship.
	Many individuals today, both men and women, say that finding one's
"soulmate, partner, significant other," etc, etc, is the most frustrating
and challenging obstacle they face.  Not advancing in their professions,
not obtaining higher education, but finding happiness and contentment in
their social/romantic lives.  And I am no exception.  But I find my search
for "the love of my life" especially frustrating, given the time and energy
I spend in completing my Master's and working full-time on top of that.  
It's difficult enough to meet interesting men, let alone have friendships
when I don't have the time to spend and get to know them well, but I take
comfort in knowing that this won't last forever.
	My beliefs may seem strange, "new age-ish," hippie-like or just
plain weird, but they're mine and they give me strength and happiness and a
sense of who I am, a purpose for being here.  As I stated earlier, I do
not wish to bring more children into the world, and believe that there are
*plenty* of wonderful kids, from all ethnic and social backgrounds, who
are wanting and needing parents to care for them.
	I consider myself a spiritual person, not religious, and find a
sense of belonging and agreement with the teachings of Matthew Fox and
other creation spiritualists, as well as deep ecologists such as Bill
Devall and Arne Naess.  I recycle as much as possible, eat mostly vegetarian,
don't smoke or do drugs, and drink wine and beer in moderation.
	I enjoy working out a few times a week, and revitalize my energy
with outdoor activities, such as hiking, backpacking and cross-country
skiing, and I've just started learning how to sail, which I now love.
I find solitude in the mountains, on or near water, in remote/sheltered
redwood forests, or even simply in the quiet of my room.  I need and enjoy
"alone time," and would want my partner to respect those times I need the
solitude of being by myself, giving me the freedom to do so, and not
take it as an indication that I do not wish to be with him.  And I, too,
would respect my partner's wishes to do the same, and would encourage him
to partake in those times of self-renewal in private sacred space.
	I would like to share my life with someone special, who can be a
close intimate friend and co-creator in our life journeys.  A man who can
be passionate about his work and feel energized from it, but not let it
dominate his time to the point of totally excluding his alone time or time
shared with friends and family.  Someone who views life as a journey to
nurture and share, to enjoy and relish and experience, where learning is
ongoing and doesn't end with graduation from academia.
	If any of this speaks to you as well, please reply, sharing some
things about yourself and what's important in your life, what makes you
happy.  And even though I live in San Francisco at this time, don't be
concerned about your present location, for who knows what tomorrow brings.


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