From: pclary@polyslo.csc.calpoly.edu (Ellen Clary)
Subject: Re: Looking for fun sex games to play.
Date: Mon, 13 Apr 92 22:30:47 GMT
Organization: Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo, CA - aka Barnum & Bailey

Hi Wayne,

[Some of us would hotly disagree with your sig, but that isn't
 relevant to your request for information.  Also your site has
 reversed your name - it looks like Scott Wayne not Wayne Scott.
 You might want to have them fix it - or some systems will let
 you fix it yourself by changing the NAME environment variable.]

I'm noticing a certain reticence about this topic (i.e.
particular sexual habits between two men).  I do believe I'm
seeing, could it be, shyness???  There's probably some well
justified reasons for this.  There are lurkers (not muffins)
who just read this group just to get their rocks off, and
pleasing them doesn't always set well.  Also keep in mind
that, whether you meant it or not, the question has the ring
of "just what do you people do in bed anyways?"

Since I am a woman, this topic is fairly safe for me, and
there are a couple of things that I haven't seen mentioned
yet that might be worth noting.  (Men (and women) feel free
to correct me if I give out any misinformation.)

Albert mentioned some books.  There is also the
_Joy_of_Gay_Sex_ that has some fun tidbits in it <grin>.

For some tasty tips on oral sex, check out the "Gag Reflex"
thread on soc.motss.  The thread is a couple of months old
so you will have to find an archive (I don't know where to
find it, but it might be in their FAQ.)

You might also consider posting to soc.motss (if you haven't
already done so), although you might get scary mail from the
numerous phobes that religiously (pun intended) read that
group.  Better yet, you might try emailing to some of the
more outspoken members of either newsgroup.

Also, you mentioned that neither of you were particularly
interested in anal sex.  But you don't have to have anal sex
(meaning: penetration) in order to feel pleasure "down
there."  There are a whole host of nerves at the base of
your spine, that just love to have pressure put on them with
whatever body part your partner chooses (some parts are
better than others <grin> - thighs are very nice.)

No one has mentioned bondage and restraints yet.  You don't
have to be into pain to enjoy being tied up.  Not being able
to get away from incredible pleasure is a mind blowing
experience.  However (I should mention this now before
someone yells at me), you should get a lot of info, before trying
any sort of bondage.  Some restraints (such as silk scarves)
can tighten and cut off circulation, which can cause nerve
damage.  Books by Susie Bright (aka Susie Sexpert) and Pat
Califia (both women interestingly enough) cover these
subjects fairly well.  Also, alt.sex.bondage is a good
source, and some folks here in soc.bi post there also.
(Reading this group for a week will tell you who they are
<grin>).

Well I think I've gotten myself into enough trouble.

Ellen
--
 Patricia "Ellen" Clary              |       "Too bad ignorance
 pclary@polyslo.csc.CalPoly.EDU      |         isn't painful."
 pclary@nike.CalPoly.EDU             |                       (Unattributed)