From: GA.SMF@forsythe.stanford.edu (  s s moore-fuller)
Subject: greetings from a muffin
Organization: Stanford University, California, USA
Date: Thu, 10 Sep 1992 00:53:09 GMT



Greetings and Salutations to all!

        I suppose that this is a de-muffining, of sorts, although
that usually implies a long period of just reading (being "baked"),
doesn't it?  Ah well, some of us are half-baked.  So, let me
introduce myself.  I'm 32, married to a man (10 years by legal
definition, 12 years by ours), grew up in Virginia, went to school in
Maryland, then did more schooling in California, and now live in
Michigan (Detroit area).  This computer account is misleading -- I'm
not associated with Stanford anymore, except as an alumna.

        I just recently discovered this board, and it happened in
this wise.  I have been aware for the last several years that I'm
attracted to women along with men.  I fantasize about both genders,
have sexy dreams about both genders (usually, the good old super-ego
stops things), and people watch both genders.  Oops, I see I'm
assuming that there are only two genders; naughty me.  But, having an
agreement to be monogamous (until recently), I didn't call myself
bisexual because "everyone knows" that you can't do that until you've
actually "done" something about it.

        While at Stanford I started reading several boards, including
soc.motss and alt.sex.bondage.  The latter, especially, helped me to
integrate aspects of myself I had hitherto buried.  I considered
myself a "supporter" of gay rights, as opposed to a participant.
"Straight" s/m ers didn't seem to be part of pride events, and seemed
to be a bar-oriented activity (I'm not much of a bar person, unless
we're talking espresso bars).

        At any rate, last weekend I bought a magazine called
"Anything that Moves", whose title alone is worth the price, and read
it cover to cover.  The general message is that no, being bi is not
selling out the gay and lesbian cause, it's not necessarily a
transition phase, one can be monogamous and still identify as
bisexual, and that there's a growing movement of bi people.  I was
sitting in my still somewhat chaotic living room (I've just moved),
and thought, well, if this is big enough to have a magazine, I wonder
if there's something on Usenet?  So I logged on for the first time in
at least 6 months and found soc.bi.  Wow.  Among other things, I've
been reading the accounts of Norwich (spelling?), and the concept of
such a gathering, where everyone is attracted to both genders, is
wonderful.  It doesn't matter that I wasn't there -- what matters is
that such things happen.  I'm starting to identify as bisexual, and
it feels really good.  I feel so naive, because I seem to have missed
the point of 'identifying', even after knowing so many gay and
lesbian friends and coworkers.

        I think I've babbled on long enough.  Now that I've found
you, I think I'll be logging on more often again (at least until this
account goes away).  Anyone out there living in Southeast Michigan?

        love and peace,

        stephanie moore-fuller

P.s.  I'm not very good at UNIX (I was a programmer in a different
environment, and nowadays all I work on is a PC), so if I commit some
dreadful faux pas on this system, let me know gently.

p.p.s.  As I was getting ready to upload this, I was starting to read
part of one of my favorite magazines (Radiance; the magazine for
large women), and came upon three letters to the editor on
bisexuality.  Now that's what I call syncronicity!

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