Organization: Arizona State University
Date: Tuesday, 18 Aug 1992 11:18:47 MST
From: <IDSWB@ASUACAD.BITNET>
Newsgroups: rec.arts.tv.soaps
Subject: Re: DOOL: TAN: Multiple Responses
 <1992Aug11.173302.7581@sadtler.com> <fHsvr*C21@cecily.UUCP>

In article <fHsvr*C21@cecily.UUCP>, rose@cecily.UUCP (Rose M. Delckum) says:
>
>> >> Rick sighs introvertedly:
>> >>
>> >> Of course, before one gets married, one is still leading one's own life.
>> >> After one gets married, one is leading a different life.  It does take
>> >> time for the humor cells to adjust.  Maybe soaps ARE real life!
>> >
>> >You think so??  I think the best relationships are loaded with humor.  I
>> >think most women will tell you that a sense of humor is really attractive.
>> >Of course, I could be completely wrong here.
>> >
Nope, I agree.  Without a sense of humor, one cannot laugh off those little
things that are said which are often mistaken for jabs or punches.
>>
>> No, you are never completely wrong.  But the humor which draws couples
>> together gets bogged down in the adjustments of married life.  Only after
>> ...10 years?... does the humor of the whirlwind 3 year courtship begin to
>> return.  In this, the soaps seem to mirror Real Life.  The couples are fun
>> as they court.  (Okay, used to be fun pre 1989.) Then they get married
>> and the problems begin.
>>
Guavita replies:

>     Hmmm....Does this mean that when I get married in November
>I'll lose my sense of humor?  Cory, let's call it off! :-)
>I'm kinda curious about this remark, Rick.  Granted, I'm not
>married yet, but is a wedding really such a traumatic experience?
>We've been together 5 years now, lived together 3 and just bought
>a house...I don't see any significant difference between this and
>maritial bliss.  And we both still have a good sense of humor and
>do silly stuff all the time.  Maybe your wife was just worn out by
>her constant commuting between you and Tim?
>
Guavita, my dear, it's amazing what a little piece of paper hanging on the
wall can do to some relationships.  Your situation seems similar to how mine
was before we got married.  However, instead of buying a house, we moved to
another state.  You will not lose your sense of humor, you will only be
overtaxing it sometimes :-)   Life can really be different after becomming
married.  It all depends on the communication level between you and your new
spouse and whether or not you set down any ground rules.

There are a lot of factors that come into play when a relationship takes any
turns at all.  Being together for 5 years now, I think you know what I'm
talking about.  Don't worry or fret, it will be what you make of it and I'm
sure you'll do a fine job.

I just noticed that you referred your question to Rick......I hope you don't
mind a little input from another......I just figured you wouldn't :-)

I'd wish you good luck but, I'm sure you won't be needing it :-)

Quince

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