From: krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith)
Subject: Re: knowing the OS & friends
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: usa
Date: Mon, 14 Dec 1992 15:00:51 GMT

In article <1992Dec14.020644.854@mikejag.wimsey.bc.ca> pally@mikejag.wimsey.bc.ca (Pally Hoffstein) writes:
>In article <1992Dec11.171412.2795@cbnewsk.cb.att.com> krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith) writes:
>>Pally,
>>Either I am attracted to then straight-away, and therefore spend time with
>>them, _or_ I meet them by some happenstance and continue to "cross paths"
>>with them by coincidence, and somewhere in there I decide that they are
>>either sexy as hell or that they piss me off.  If we each decide that the
>>other is "sexy as hell", no problem.  If it is a "unilateral attraction,
>>then, for the person with the attraction, it is pure torture to spend loads
>>of time with the one who does not have the attraction.
>>
>>Keith R
>
>Hold it a second here...
>Women are to you "sexy as hell" or they piss you off? Women you are attracted
>to are torture to be around when they're not interested back?
>You have a serious attitute problem when it comes to women. Here's some news
>for you: Women are people! They have thoughts that are fascinating to hear and
>are wonderful company. Even when they don't meet your sexy as hell standards.
>Women are more than potential dates and recepticles for your seed.
>Stop judging them outright by your "sexy/piss me off" standard and you might
>find that some women who are not sexy right away become so when you get to
>know them better. Get to know them as friends first. I have to know someone to
>a fair degree before I can say I'm really attracted to them (I.E. more than
>just physically attracted). I don't know how you meet women that are right for
>you by your method. My guess is you don't.
>
>I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who I didn't feel was
>also a buddy/friend. Anyone else feel the same way?
>
>Pally
>Vancouver, Canada
>-- 
>Television permits many millions     |   I threw bitter tears at the ocean, 
>of people to share a joke and to     |   But all that came back was the tide.
>still be lonely. - T.S. Eliot        | 		- Sarah McLachlan
>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

To: pally@mikejag.wimsey.bc.ca
Subject: Re: knowing the OS & friends
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Pally, you misread me entirely!
What I was trying to express (which apparrently evaded you) was that,
assuming that I am not perticularly attracted to a given woman at the
outset, is that once I get to know her a bit more (as a result of crossing
paths/spending-time whether by accident or on purpose) then I may eventually
fall for her, that is, if she doesn't piss me off first.  Is there something
foreign about this concept?  Have you never had somebody "grow" on you,
or "get under your skin"?  Have you never noticed qualities in a person,
that you may not have noticed straight-away, such that once you appreciate
them, the bearer thereof, in your eyes, is "sexy as hell"?
If you can say "no" to these questions, then I will have to call you a
"barefaced liar".  Now, in the case of one-sided-attraction, it is my
considered opinion (_not_ subject to change, mind you) that it is time
hor _one_ of the parties to "pull up stakes", for the benefit of his/her
own mental well-being.

Keith R
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