From: a726226@daffy.mc.ti.com (savithri)
Subject: RE: MEN OF EASTERN ORIGIN
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Date: Tue, 28 Jul 1992 17:29:55 GMT


I have recieved several E mails from people who want
to know the reason for my outburst and bitterness. Since
I do not have the time to respond to each one, I decided
to reply to them in SCI.  

First of all not ONE reader read my posting without jumping
ahead. In my sweeping generalization, I had quoted 98% of the
men are SCUMS (I would say I am being optimistic, considering
the staggering population in those areas!).  As for giving reasons
I am at a loss as to where to start.  The first incident occured when
I was in the fifth grade and a father (in a convent) grabbed me and
tried to kiss me!(Please don't sart religious wars here!).  I was afraid
of relating this to my folks for fear of punishment. 

Several of my girl friends, my sisters and I (in college days) used to 
exchange our horrible experiences on the roads and buses.  The
humiliating things that we were subjected to in terms of being 
made passes at etc.  I used to enjoy the circus as most kids do. 
However, after the one I went to in my seventh grade, I decided that I
would never go to any area where there were such a multitude of human
animals on the loose.  I still bitterly recall the several brushings and
fingerings from the sleezy characters who are in complete charge
because of their sheer number.  

I have travelled alone here and in europe alone on several ocassions and
I have never been humiliated even once.  However, even in my last visit
(1990) to India, I was not spared (next time I will have a stun gun).
If one wants to put down such behaviour
as being the result of illeteracy, then I have news for you.  Recently there
was a posting by a Mr. Natrajan from AT&T who proudly (in all his male
arrogance) claims that they used to taunt girls as a passtime.  Perhaps it
hasn't gotten into their thick-heads that just PERHAPS girls don't care
to be taunted.  It is just like stating that women loved to be raped and
if they don't, too bad they have no choice.  Perhaps if something happened
to their near and dear ones it may sink in ( which I hope does not for the
women's sake).  Some people have said that time will bring about changes.
I must disagree, TIME never solved anything.  Humans create the problem and
only humans can solve the problem.  The first step in solving is in recognizing
that it exists, no matter how painful it may be.

Just as the scums on the road get their cheap thrills (from brushings etc!)
the more learned (?) get it from harassing or subjugating their wives to their
will.  I have spent a considerable portion of my time as a student trying to 
understand why women tolerate such atrocities.  All too often it is purely 
for economic reasons.  As it is the unemployment rate among the educated is
fairly high.  On top of that think about the millions of women who were not
fortunate to recieve any (especially in poorer sections where the parents
do everything in their means to give the best for their male children).  These
women have no hopes for anything other than spending their life on this earth
under the tyranny of their husband and produce off-springs.  It is imbibed
in their blood that the male species is the superior one (having seen it
in their household from day one) and hence they go ahead and perpetrate the same
evil in the society.  Men have no intention or desire to change anything
since the society works to their advantage. 

Coming to the middle and upper classes, if one sees a happy couple who have
respect for each other, then the unhappy ones quip, " oh! he is a jorooh-ka-
gulam" (for those who do not understand the term, it means a hen-pecked
husband).  Just as a side note: for all you people who concluded that I am
a frustrated female who has been dumped or cannot find a good guy, I am sorry
to burst your bubble.  I have been happily (if that is  possible when one sees
the silent and hopeless sufferings of women) for more than 12 years and guess
what, that too to an INDIAN guy.  It pains me to see that men and worse still
the women who are blind to all this evil in those socities.  I am fully aware
that there are numerous problems in this country, but having been a volunteer
for several years in a battered women's program, I know that there is always
help available here for women who want to break away from the abuser and
start a new life.  The welfare system together with counseling and jobs outside
have helped innumerable women. 

If even the less than 1% of the Indians guys and girls (out of the total Indian
population) cannot recognize or are unwilling to open their eyes to the prevailing problems in those socities, then there is NO HOPE! 
(The main problem I see here is that they have not looked beyond their noses to see the true situation.  The less than 10% of women in professional fields cannot represent the true status and then even among those the problems at home are little known to the outside).

I will not go into the horror tales from the women of other middle eastern 
countries or into bride-burning and dowry deaths in our backyards.
Suffice to say that I maintain my original position
that more than 98% of the MEN of EASTERN origin are SCUMS.

p.s.  Recently the postings on Are we that intolerant, Have you noticed that
in all the  cases mentioned, it was the MEN who were acting insufferable?
It is some chemical imbalance on that side of the hemisphere that seems to target the male species.

savithri