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From: larry@b8.b8.ingr.com (Larry Billings)
Subject: Re: Money and the Single World (was: Education and the Single World
Organization: Intergraph
Date: Tue, 17 Nov 1992 15:49:27 GMT

In article <1992Nov15.144424.13521@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu>, tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
> 
> Bleaurgh; sounds positively dismal--though I suppose it's more-or-less
> traditional and a good way of increasing the resentment level of all
> concerned.  Personally, I prefer the approach of having a small joint
> account funded by both parties for paying expenses like housing, food,
> utilities, and the like with the remainder of each person's income 
> being kept separate--that way neither person has to feel guilty about

Question:  How much money do you have to put into three seperate accounts or
six if you include savings?  Most banks today require $500+ for free checking
so that ties up 1500 dollars or you pay monthly penalties.  Savings accounts
often will pay higher percentages for large depositers. Seperateration of funds
could cost you money.  Save the marriage or save the money, interesting 
question.

> his or her personal spending decisions, neither one has to get 
> approval from the other, and one can freely give gifts to one's partner

I think that will still cause problems, I knew a couple who did that, and when
they first told me about it I thought it was a good idea.  They did have 
problems with "he/she is not putting his/her fair share into the general fund.

> without feeling like it's being paid for (at least partially) with the
> other one's money.  It's nice to have separate savings as well--much
> less emotional strain when one or the other feels like experimenting with
> some relatively high-risk investments or starting up another business or
> three.

There is a fight waiting to happen.

> 
> As a side benefit, though we all hate to consider such options beforehand,
> such an arrangement combined with a prenuptual agreement makes splitting
> up much more trouble-free and less emotionally painful.

This is something to think about, but I'm not sure I would have the b***s to
suggest it.  I would like to have an agreement that I keep the house/buy her
interest/whatever because of all the work I've put into rebuilding it.

> 
> Trygve   (Who would definitely need an arrangement like this if he were
>           to get involved with anyone in the habit of dealing in the
>           pink sheets.) 



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From: dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Are you a Young Transplant?
Date: 19 Nov 92 17:24:08 GMT
Reply-To: dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Organization: Bolt Beranek and Newman Inc., Cambridge MA
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In article <1992Nov18.180304.19272@b8.b8.ingr.com> larry@b8.b8.ingr.com (Larry Billings) writes:
>
>I drew up that sig for the humor impaired, since I often forget to add the
>little :) after a joke and so many on the net take everything serious if you
>forget that.  I've had the pants flamed off me several times for this, and while
>having the pants warmly removed, that is a little warmer than I want.

If I may be so bold as to suggest something, perhaps you could try just the
"That's a joke, son" line by itself.  More tasteful, restrained, and subtle.
Like me.

Dawn


Joseph Campbell gave me hope and now I have been saved.
"Folk Song" by Bongwater
From: dhardin@bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Are you a Young Transplant?
Date: 18 Nov 1992 18:39:05 GMT
Organization: Bolt Beranek and Newman Inc., Cambridge MA
Reply-To: dhardin@spcink.bbn.com (Dawn Hardin)
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In article <MARTINC.92Nov18123935@hatteras.cs.unc.edu> martinc@hatteras.cs.unc.edu (Charles R. Martin) writes:
>
>I still can't figure out why it is that Dawn, who is a small cute
>brunette with a nice smile, gets results this way, while *I* -- looking 
>rather like Bluto, with a black belt, a decent knife thrower and an
>expert shot with a pistol -- get *laughs* when I threaten violence.

I think people figure that I must be armed or I wouldn't dare to be
as obnoxious as I am.  Or they have a left-over fear of their last
math teacher and they're terrified that I might try to integrate 
something in front of them.

Dawn

Joseph Campbell gave me hope and now I have been saved.
"Folk Song" by Bongwater
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From: ron@turing.toronto.edu (Ron Wessels)
Subject: Re: Violence vs. nonviolence
Organization: CSRI, University of Toronto
Date: 16 Nov 92 17:13:29 GMT

In article <25746@sybase.sybase.com> mysti@sybase.com (Mysti) writes:
>There are extreme circumstances, such as ... a crazed fundamentalist
>holed up in a church with his family, where some sort of forceful action
>is the only solution.

I agree with you.  Forceful action is definitely called for here.
Immediately, before more people get brainwas.. er .. "converted"!

-- 
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Xref: sparky soc.singles:31487 alt.sex:37152
From: rstevew@deeptht.armory.com (Richard Steven Walz)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.sex
Subject: Re: How to increase the male sex drive ?
Date: 22 Nov 92 00:50:28 GMT
Organization: The Armory

In article <1247@abb-sc.abb-sc.COM> ksm@abb-sc.abb-sc.com (Ashley) writes:
>
>
>>On a serious note, I have a couple of questions to pose to the net about what
>>can affect a male's sex drive.  Basically, I am about 29 (male), have been
>>SO-less for the last 4 years (by choice), and have recently met an incredible
>>woman (about 31) with, to put it lightly, a very high sex drive.  My sex drive
>>has reduced markedly over the past 4 years, and I would like to do what I can
>>to increase it.  Question, is there any particular diet that is recommended ?
>>Is exercise particularly recommended ?  Anything else ?
>> 
>>Thanks,
>>Mark
>
>	Ashley the Witch here. Might post this to alt.pagan, you'd get a lot of 
>replies about herbal aphrodisiacs there. My reccomendations? Hmm. Depends on 
>your metabolism. Excuse me, GREATLY depends on your metabolism. Here's a few I 
>know of that have worked in my experiences:
>
>		1) Damiana
>		2) Rosehips
>		3) Chocolate
>		4) Genseig
>		5) Fo-Ti
>		6) Thermagen
>
>			I usually mix some of these ingredients into a tea and 
>administer. Get a good book on herbalism first before trying, too much of a 
>good thing is NOT a good thing and can be dangerous! Jeannie Rose's book "Herbs 
>and Things" is a good start. Above all avoid Spanish Fly. It is not safe and is 
>not an aphrodisiac. It produces sensitivity and tingling in the genitals, and 
>extremedies, if it does not KILL YOU. 
>
>	Read first, then experiment. Good luck.
>
>
>			- Ashley

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I would like to throw in my $0.02 as well, having been without nearly
that long at one point. Ask your partner to bear with you and simply
work at becoming more used to each other, and the practice of sex will
restore you capability for it in no time. I have had that happen. It
restore you capability in no time. It is as though the equipment
simply needs to rediscover its important muscles, both for assuming
positions for sex and doing that work and the inner equipment needs
that usage again to become proficient at the use of its reflexes. It
continues to get better from there. Practice, practice, practice.
- Steve
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From: kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu (Kiran Wagle)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: PRES DEBATE
Date: 17 Nov 92 09:18:23 GMT
Article-I.D.: usenet.BxusIo.HAt
Organization: Indiana University

sethb@fid.morgan.com (Seth Breidbart) writes:

>I seem to recall reading about the production of maple syrup requiring
>boiling maple sap for a long time.  This takes mucho heat (energy).
>Anybody want to bet against the price curve of maple syrup tracking
>the price curve for general energy sources?

The only maple 'sugaring' operation I'm familiar with uses wood as the
source of heat.  Junk wood, collected on the farm.
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Kiran Wagle                           <kiran@bronze.ucs.indiana.edu>
From: souchay@CAM.ORG (Francois Souchay)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Suggestions needed....
Date: 21 Nov 92 00:17:35 GMT
Organization: Communications Accessibles Montreal, Quebec Canada

In article <1992Nov18.080425.19672@rdg.dec.com> veburst@contra.enet.dec.com (KSV) writes:
>
>I'd like your opinions, folks... this is a difficult situation for me and 
>I'm somewhat at a loss about where to go from here.
>
>I'll start off by giving a bit of background....
>
>I'm 30 years old.  I was married for 8 years and have an almost 10-year old 
>daughter.  I was mistreated emotionally and physically in my marriage and 
>it unfortunately has left me with a fair amount of emotional scars and 
>distrust in general.

Well, I can appreciate what you're saying. I endured a living togehter
relationship with someone who had an explosive temper. Let us just
say I hd to duck some flying fists once in a while. Having to deal
with an abusive partner really can trash your sense of trust. s

After you walk away from one of these difficult relationships, it's
real easy to fall *hard*  for someone who will treat you with
gentleness. The wounds haven't really healed yet, and here is a
person saying you're actually worth something. It doesn't really
matter if he/she is unavailable emotionally or physically, they are
comforting you and therefore must be reciprocating your feelings.
At this point, any little sign of affection is seized upon as a hint
that the situation might change in your favor. Unfortunately, such
miracles rarely happen. *sigh*  

>I've had a couple of friends tell me to just forget about him and move 
>on or that we've known each other this long and if anything was going to 
>happen (more than friendship) between us, it would have already happened...
>
>How do you stop loving someone you see almost every day and who hasn't done 
>anything wrong?????  I don't want to stop loving him...

Unrequited love can be devastating. The only reliable cure is distance.
The hardest and paradoxically the most effective way to get ovr the pain
is to avoid seeing him and concentrate on your own psyche for a long time.
Curing yourself must come before even trying to cure others.  
>
>Suggestions?  Opinions?  Should I take a long walk off a short pier?  

May I mention that you may want to talk to your local women's group?
They are experienced at dealing with the aftermath of abusive 
relationships, and they will probably offer much better advice in person
than we could hope to do through a skinny wire.

Good luck,
Francois.  
Xref: sparky soc.singles:30789 alt.pagan:12887 talk.religion.misc:21162
From: rohwerwd@netcom.com (W. David Rohwer)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.pagan,talk.religion.misc
Subject: Tolerance of Others  (Was:Re: raising child)
Date: 16 Nov 92 06:16:31 GMT
Organization: Netcom - San Jose, CA

In article <ewright.721346941@convex.convex.com> ewright@convex.com (Edward V. Wright) writes:
>In <2AF80F2A.22348@news.service.uci.edu> cortese@skid.ps.uci.edu (Janis Maria Cortese) writes:
>
>>Out of ALL of the people in school I am close to, I
>>and ONE OTHER PERSON are the only people to grow up in normal families.
>>Everyone else?  Two alcoholic parents, one religious fundie, 
>
>Ordinarily, anecdotal evidence doesn't prove very much, but in
>this case you have shown that someone from a "normal family" 
>can grow up to be a religous bigot.
>

     Are you saying the religious people are not bigots by chance?  If
you are, then you are wrong.  Just look at the Christians and their
non-tolerance of homosexuals, non-Christian actions and other religions.
I do not see any problem with mocking a belief system and the people with
that belief system that does not tolerate other's actions or belief systems.
Therefore, I do not see any problem with mocking Christians or Christianity.

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From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: How to explain?
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Mon, 23 Nov 92 23:43:10 GMT

In article <thurlow.722370264@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow) writes:
>
>There are three classes of people I _never_ joke with: income tax agents,
>airport security personnel, and people at border crossings.  These people
>are lifeforms that are specially bred to remove all traces of a sense of
>humor.

I don't know about the people at border crossings, but I've had fun with
both income tax agents and airport security personnel--I was one 
spontaneously serenaded by the staff of an IRS office (it was so cute,
even if they were a bit off-key), and I had a delightful experience once
with an airport security person in Detroit who mistook me for some
famous football player (though I do regret that I never found out just
who he thought I was).

Trygve 
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From: dswt@bnr.co.uk (Stewart Tansley)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
Subject: Re: Being Alone?
Date: 19 Nov 1992 19:52:02 GMT
Organization: BNR Europe Ltd, London Road, Harlow, England.
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In article <1992Nov18.204626.195@news.Hawaii.Edu> deb@spectra.eng.hawaii.edu (David Barrett) writes:
>In article <1992Nov17.075553.5389@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode) writes:
>>In article <oneil.721868088@cwis> oneil@cwis.unomaha.edu (Sharon O'Neil) writes:
>>>
>>> [Friendship before romance rubbish]
>>
>> [Much more likely opposite viewpoint]
>
> [Contradictory view expressed, including:]
>won't find a majority of luck like that.  Over 90% of people today come from
                                           ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
!!!!
>dysfunctional upbringing and are drowning in bad relationships or stayin away 
>from the good ones because of following unfortuneately learned habits or advice.If you think that you can't be friends with a lover or a friend cannot be your
>lover, then that's what you will get (probably a short romance).  The average
                                                                   ^^^^^^^^^^^
!!!!
>lenght of time for a relationship today is 3 months because that's about how 
>long it takes for us to drop our acts or method-of-operation and be ourselves.
>Your friends know your true selves and they will make the longest lovers and
>potential soul mate.  The ones who will be most dear, will be the ones near 
>the most.


Apart from the dodgy statistics, this post is what we in the trade like to 
call "bollocks".

Nothing personal. ;-) Sorry, maybe I'm just in a bad mood (again).

I'll go and read alt.fan.warlord to cheer me up...

:-)

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From: smith@comm.mot.com (Jeff Smith)
Subject: Re: What is attractive to women?
Organization: Gagging Sloth Records
Date: Fri, 20 Nov 1992 20:30:48 GMT

In article <98436@netnews.upenn.edu>, crawford@ben.dev.upenn.edu (Lauren L. Crawford) writes:
|> 
|> For what it's worth, I've seen adorable men in ties and suits, and
|> adorable men in sweatshirts and jeans.  I haven't seen an adorable man in
|> a Cure T-shirt yet, though.

What?! You mean you don't find my bro' Robert adorable?! And I always thought
the lipstick would help...

jds

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From: jim@apsicc.aps.edu (frost...)
Subject: Re: raising children
Date: Mon, 16 Nov 92 21:48:00 GMT
Organization: Albuquerque Public Schools - Career Enrichment Center
News-Software: VAX/VMS VNEWS 1.41    

In article <1992Nov16.062327.3208@netcom.com>, rohwerwd@netcom.com (W. David Rohwer) writes...
>In article <1dv474INNn3@manuel.anu.edu.au> Lubosh <Lubosh.Hanuska@anu.edu.au> writes:
>>In article <BxK3E2.Gv1@access.digex.com> Corun MacAnndra,
>>corun@access.digex.com writes:
>>>I'd be interested to see an experiment conducted, where two groups of
>>>children, both male and female, are raised in households, one of all
>>>men, and one of all women. A fair mix would include gays as well as
>>>straights on the parent side, in order to give the children as well
>>>rounded a set of experiences as possible.
>>
>>Okay, but I think little kids are too precious gifts of God to be used
>>for experiments.
>>Lubosh
> 
>     You have to prove there is a God before you can say that little
>kids or anything for that matter is a precious gift from God.
	
	I disagree with this statement. You don't have to prove that
	there is a God to say that children are a rare gift indeed.
	To take and corrupt a fresh childs mind is, or should be a crime.
	If doubt be taken just talk to people who have been trying un-
	successfully to have children of their own.

> 
>     Good luck.
> 
> 
>GIGO = Gospel In Garbage Out
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From: sms@cbnewsf.cb.att.com (steven.m.stein)
Subject: Re: Mitsy goes hollywood.
Organization: AT&T
Distribution: na
Date: Mon, 16 Nov 1992 16:24:28 GMT

In article <1992Nov14.001149.2424@netcom.com> tyger@netcom.com (Kristen Kohlbecker) writes:
>jjd1@cbnewsg.cb.att.com (james.j.dutton) writes:
>>
>
>[lines and *lines* of unstoppable 2nd grade flamage]
>
>Slow day at AT&T, eh, James?
>
>Tyger
>
>-- 
>      Kristen Kohlbecker    And I would choose to be with you



It's not a slow day for me.  		Steve
From: taina@cs.Helsinki.FI (Juha Taina)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Being Alone
Date: 16 Nov 92 12:58:52 GMT
Organization: University of Helsinki, Finland

In <1992Nov13.174335.890@walter.bellcore.com> petros@thumper.bellcore.com (Petros Mouchtaris) writes:

>Kirsten Parker writes:
>>I was ungraciously dumped
>>by my boyfriend of three years about four months ago.  And I can tell
>>you I plan on being "independent" for at least year before I'm ready
>>to set myself up for rejection again.
>>I'd also like to say that it was great to read in 
>>some previous posts that some guys out there actually do like 
>>intelligent women.

>How can you say that you plan to stay independent for at least
>a year. What happens if you meet the "perfect" person in the
>mean time. You ask him/her to wait? This doesn't sound very
>"intelligent" to me.

Personally I think that planning to stay indipendent and actually
doing it are two different things.  I don't know about Kirsten, but
once my ex dumped me I decided that I will stop searching and stay
indipendent.  It doesn't mean that I would refuse a relationship if
one had arrived, it just wasn't in my plans.

>Men love "intelligent" women, the problem is that there are too
>many bimbos out there.

I'd say that there are as many dumb men as there are dumb women, and
the definition of intelligence/dumbness varies from person to person.

>I wonder if women like "intelligent" men. 

Don't worry, they like all kinds of men.  There is someone for
everyone -- the only problem is to find him/her. :)

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From: drieux@wetware.com (drieux, just drieux)
Subject: Is Stef Behind the Times?
Organization: Castle WetWare Philosopher and Sniper
Date: Sun, 22 Nov 1992 22:44:48 GMT

stef@Apple.COM (Stef Jones) writes:
] 
] Now, now. There has to be *one* Soc.Singles.Cute.Couple, and
] W and M  appear to have vacated the premises a while ago.


I know that its hard to keep abreast of these things,
but its been a little WHILE NOW since 
William and Mary were the HOT ROMANTIC COUPLE
on the tip of everyone's tongues....


ciao
drieux

ps: we'll skip past Edward's little triste with an
American Hussy for reasons of Decency....


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