HDTenEightyP/NetNews huggingface dataset:
From: weaver@jetsun.weitek.COM (Michael Gordon Weaver)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Meeting women in clubs
Date: 4 Jan 93 18:25:44 GMT
Organization: WEITEK Corporation, Sunnyvale CA

In article <0ioswB1w165w@momad.li.ny.us> frackas@Momad.LI.NY.US (George Frackas) writes:
>
>What does one say to a girl in a club, when one wants to meet her?
>I can never think of a single word to say to them.  Sometimes I might 
>make a futile attempt to start a conversation by asking for a light, or 
>for the time, or some stupid crap like that, but after I get the 
>light/time or whatever, it's back to "Duh, I don't know what to say" and 
>I never meet anyone.
>
It doesn't really matter what you say. The important things are that
you say something, and the attitude that you convey. What you really 
want to communicate is an interest in the other person. If you have a good
attitude (I am a pleasant person, I am interested in you, I am making a
sincere effort to be pleasant, get along, and understand you), generally
they are not going to remember that all you talked about was the weather.

Usually, you should start out talking about 'safe' topics, such as the
immediate situation. For instance, you could compliment the girl on
something she is wearing, and ask her where she got it. Once you 
have started talking, you can move on to more interesting topics. 
Try to let the other person do most of the talking. Ask questions 
about her to encourage her to talk about herself. People love to talk
about themselves, and encouraging them to do so show your interest in 
them. Feel free to talk about yourself, but keep it to short comments
that show you understand what she is saying.


>Also, how does one approach a girl he's interested in, when she is 
>hanging around her friends?
>
This is tough for just about anyone. You might try to make eye contact
and hope she has the sense to move away from her friends. Or you could
be brave: walk up, say 'Hi, I'm George. Would you like to dance?".


Good Luck,
Michael.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: mhull@lindblat.cc.monash.edu.au (Mr Mj Hull)
Subject: Re: Mega-stud seeks large woman.... REPOST
Organization: Monash University
X-Newsreader: TIN [version 1.1 PL6]
Date: Fri, 8 Jan 1993 01:08:30 GMT


Sorry about the original posting, but it was a lame joke by some of my 
!@#$wit friends (who are about to be killed).


Mat.

Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
From: rwarren@vax2.concordia.ca (Rosemary from Montreal)
Subject: skiing (was Re: Meeting guys)
Summary:  where to go skiing
News-Software: VAX/VMS VNEWS 1.41    
Keywords:  ski
Organization: Concordia University
Distribution: na
Date: Fri, 8 Jan 1993 14:28:00 GMT

In article <1993Jan8.013640.19112@borland.com>, eomiya@borland.com (Elliot Omiya) writes...
>macl6441@mach1.wlu.ca (macleod heather) writes:
> 
>>I've been reading a lot lately here about how men should go about meeting
>>women, but nobody seems to be giving many suggestions on how women can meet
>>men.  I ended a four year relationship a month ago, and I'm ready to meet
>>someone new, but I'm not really comfortable with the bar scene.  There are
>>guys in some of my classes, but I'm pretty shy.  Can someone give me some
>>advice?
>>Thanks!!
> 
>Hmm, Waterloo, Ontario, sounds cold there.  Got any ski resorts?
gee i thought they all trooped over to the distinct society and gave the 
laurentians / lanaudiere regions the business -- when they're not in banff, 
alberta or whistler, b.c.

"Well, I'd like to be with you,
 And you know it's Friday too ..."
	Janet Jackson, "Escapade"

Rosemary Warren		rwarren@vax2.concordia.ca
Montreal's Favorite Jacksonmaniac !!!
(whose idea of "winter sports" involves staying indoors -- keep it clean, 
folks!)
Xref: sparky soc.singles:35611 alt.romance:15772
From: rll1@kepler.unh.edu (Robert L Lamothe)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
Subject: Re: Meeting guys
Date: 6 Jan 1993 16:31:35 GMT
Organization: University of New Hampshire  -  Durham, NH
NNTP-Posting-Host: kepler.unh.edu

In article <C0ELDC.21p@mach1.wlu.ca> macl6441@mach1.wlu.ca (macleod heather) writes:
>I've been reading a lot lately here about how men should go about meeting
>women, but nobody seems to be giving many suggestions on how women can meet
>men.  I ended a four year relationship a month ago, and I'm ready to meet
>someone new, but I'm not really comfortable with the bar scene.  There are
>guys in some of my classes, but I'm pretty shy.  Can someone give me some
>advice?
>Thanks!!
>
>Heather MacLeod 

	You can always do what my girlfriend did, hire a tutor. (That's how
she got me :)
							-Bob
-- 
---
 Robert L. Lamothe                           University of New Hampshire  
 rll@unh.edu                                 Interoperablity lab room 220  
                                                                             
 Just because you're not paranoid, doesn't mean they're not out to get you.  
---
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (dreas)
Subject: Re: Meeting guys
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Sat, 9 Jan 93 01:14:49 GMT

In article InK@mach1.wlu.ca, macl6441@mach1.wlu.ca (macleod heather) writes:
>In article <1993Jan7.080853.6159@sol.UVic.CA> atovorni@engr.UVic.CA writes:
>>In article 21p@mach1.wlu.ca, macl6441@mach1.wlu.ca (macleod heather) writes:
>>
>>>I've been reading a lot lately here about how men should go about meeting
>>>women, but nobody seems to be giving many suggestions on how women can meet
>>>men.  I ended a four year relationship a month ago, and I'm ready to meet
>>>someone new, but I'm not really comfortable with the bar scene.  There are
>>>guys in some of my classes, but I'm pretty shy.  Can someone give me some
>>>advice?
>>
>>Girl, You just won the prize!
>>
>>No doubt you have posted to soc.singles instead of soc.penpals....
>>In other words, there is hope for you yet. 
>>
>>The prize?
>>
>>At least 60,000 single men (possibly more) have the opportunity to read
>>the little thing you posted. By now, your mailbox is overflowing and your
>>system admins will be after you to clean it out because it wastes GigaBytes
>>of precious disc space.
>>I'm spending HOURS here clearing it out myself!!  It's great fun!!
>
>>Not only that, but as a bonus YOU, yes YOU, have the exclusive choice of
>>which men to flirt with using email. You can be a WildTease by doing this!
>>
>>If they are crass a***o*es like EddieBaby, then you can just not answer them.
>>Ain't that a thrill? All those TestosteroneDrippingMachoStudlyManlyRealMen
>>who move furniture, drink cheap whiskey, never wash, and look through telescopes
>>into innocent ISObabes' dormrooms want YOU because YOU posted here! </.Q
>>                                                                        \
>>                                   ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
>>
>>I have a big, black limo just waiting to pick YOU up at the Victoria BC
>>Airport. Temptress, just tell me when you're arriving and we'll do HighTea at 
>>the Empress Hotel, Wot.
>>
>>dreasmeister                                                          
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>How big is your limo, tempter?!?

Big enough to do the job, and small enough 
to fit into any garage or barn, Temptress.

It doesn't even need a chauffeur, only occasional guidance.

dreas



Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
From: bss2p@kelvin.seas.Virginia.EDU (Brent S. Stone)
Subject: Where did you meet your SO? 
Organization: University of Virginia
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 1993 06:43:48 GMT

As long as Heather got the ball rolling on the 
subject of meeting people, where you meet your
current partner?  Theorizing where to meet
people is one thing, what works is another.  
So how about some info for the group?

BS



Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
From: chrisc@debra.dgbt.doc.ca (Chris Camfield)
Subject: Re: Meeting guys
Organization: Communications Research Centre, Ottawa, Canada
Distribution: usa
Date: Fri, 8 Jan 1993 02:35:48 GMT

In article <1993Jan8.013640.19112@borland.com> eomiya@borland.com (Elliot Omiya) writes:
>macl6441@mach1.wlu.ca (macleod heather) writes:
>
>>I've been reading a lot lately here about how men should go about meeting
>>women, but nobody seems to be giving many suggestions on how women can meet
>>men.  I ended a four year relationship a month ago, and I'm ready to meet
>>someone new, but I'm not really comfortable with the bar scene.  There are
>>guys in some of my classes, but I'm pretty shy.  Can someone give me some
>>advice?
>>Thanks!!
>
>Hmm, Waterloo, Ontario, sounds cold there.  Got any ski resorts?  Doesn't
>matter if you know how, learn well enough so that you can get on the chair
>lift and try to pair up with cute guys.  In the U.S. (don't know about Canada)
>the average male skier is college-educated, well-off and single, nice odds
>if you can get them.  

Hm, compounding stereotypes?

It always tickles me when people assume that Canada is all mountains
or tundra. *chuckle*

Just for the record, some guys are as shy as you Heather... I can't
say to people I just see in class, be they male or female.

"If I wasn't shy..." (TMBG)

-- 
Chris Camfield (chrisc@debra.dgbt.doc.ca)
 "So piece by piece we lay foundations
  Of the stuff we use for language
  It is awkward, it is dirty, but it's all we've got to work with" (JB)
From: nance@cbnewsd.cb.att.com (nancy.l.colucci)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Meeting women in clubs
Date: 5 Jan 93 17:51:37 GMT
Distribution: usa
Organization: AT&T

In article <1993Jan4.153855.15544@cbnewsk.cb.att.com> krw@cbnewsk.cb.att.com (keith.r.smith) writes:
>In article <0ioswB1w165w@momad.li.ny.us> frackas@Momad.LI.NY.US (George Frackas) writes:
>>
>>Also, how does one approach a girl he's interested in, when she is 
>>hanging around her friends?
>
>The words should come easily, provided that you get "positive feedback"
>from her. I also think you have a better chance of success if she is _not_
>hanging around her friends when you approach her.  Friends sometimes have
>this nasty habit of interrupting you or distracting her, when you are trying
>to make her acquaintance.

Or consider this.  Is there a possibility that maybe she's not out tonight
to "meet someone", but is out with some friends maybe celebrating a
birthday or promotion or reunion with some college friends and is having
the time of her life?  Why bother her?

Some years ago I went to a club with some female friends to have a few
drinks, relax, a plan a trip we were all taking together.  We had to 
decide who would drive what car, who'd pay for what, what to bring, etc.
Our conversation got quite animated and we laughed a lot but had a lot of
things to decide on, and then very unexpectedly a few men pulled up chairs
by us and introduced themselves.  Like, "here we are, and I know you girls
were here waiting for us, isn't that why you're in a bar?"

We just looked at each other for a few seconds and then one of us said
to them "Weelllll, we have some things to talk about and we'd appreciate
if you'd find somewhere else to sit."  The guys got most annoyed, called us
dumb bitches and slammed their chairs around and left.  I don't think we were
out of line; I think they were.

If you see a woman who is mostly paying attention to people she's with,
assume that she isn't there to meet loose cock.  If she's looking around
at other people, maybe watching people dance with a wistful look on her
face, or you just see her eyes wandering around then you might approach
her and ask if you could join her (if she keeps looking at the door chances
are she's waiting for someone, leave her alone please).

Here's a good opening line:  "Hi!  May I join you for awhile?"

Again.  You have to look for the right people in the right places.  It's
not wise to find the hottest babe in the place and zero in.  Look for people
who are looking back.
-- 
-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+
Nance Colucci                                      att!ihlpl!colucci
"It'll be better than before.  Yesterday's gone.  Yesterday's gone!"
-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+-+*+
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
From: martin@cs.curtin.edu.au (Martin Dougiamas)
Subject: Re: Where did you meet your SO? 
Organization: Curtin University of Technology
Date: Fri, 8 Jan 1993 10:13:18 GMT

hudel@waterloo.hp.com (Chris Hudel) writes:
>Anyways, the [*] is the key point.  I say if you're the slightest bit
>interested, go for it!  Just ask the person.  Ask a total stranger! 

I wholeheartedly agree.

> What have you got to loose!?  A few things can happen:
>1) Rejection.
>2) She/he says yes.  You get married, blah blah blah.
>3) He/she says yes.  You've got a new good friend.
>4) He/she says yes.  It doesn't work but at least you met someone new
>   and had a nice meal/movie/whatever with somebody.

Only trouble is that a number two is extremely rare.  Personally, I get:
1)  20%
2)   5%
3)  60%
4)  15%

If you're looking for 2) then it can get you down after a while,
and you can get a bit cynical and stop trying... which is the rut
a lot of people get into, I think.. at least for a while. 

To take those 19/20 non-events on the chin and not fall over you 
have to get a bit hardened towards things... which is not the way
I want to feel about love, but is a condition I can feel myself 
slowly growing into.  :(

However, on the bright side, I know when I do find that special
woman I will no doubt forget all these worries!  :)

Cheers,
Martin
--
Your eyes are weary from staring at the screen.  Your eyelids feel very heavy.
You feel sleepy. Notice how restful it is to watch the cursor blink. Close your
eyes. The opinions stated above are yours. You cannot imagine why you ever felt
otherwise.  When you awake you will follow up this post and enthusiastically
agree with it.  Then you will send all your money to martin@cs.curtin.edu.au.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: How Strong Should a Man Be? and RESPECT!
Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
Date: Sat, 9 Jan 93 07:13:26 GMT

In article <hvzr27j@lynx.unm.edu> hays@TECHNET.NM.ORG writes:
>In article <76170@apple.apple.COM>, pooh@Apple.COM (Pooh) writes:
>>>K. Roper <ROPERK@QUCDN.QueensU.CA> writes:
>>>>
>>>>  Strong enough to admit that yes, women sweat, fart and belch.
>>
>>Not only does my SO admit it, but he critiques each emission
>>as being too wimpy.  I'm trying to work on it. ;-)
>
>Pooh, what you need is a nice hard, unpadded wooden chair.  Remember those
>desks in gradeschool?  Think RESONANCE.  This might not be the best way to
>improve your belches, however, and as for sweating, you're TOTALLY on your
>own.  Notice how nicely this paragraph is adjusted.

Great; I'll volunteer to help Pooh with the sweating part and now we just
have to get her a belching coach.

Trygve   (Please, however, remember that we need concentration--no
          belching or flatulence while I'm working with Pooh's 
          sweaty parts.)
--
"What do you get when you drop a piano down a mineshaft?
 A flat minor."
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.sex,talk.bizarre
From: pyotr@halcyon.com (Peter D. Hampe)
Subject: Re: Dangerous Ideas Afoot
Organization: Northwest Nexus Inc. (206) 455-3505
Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 16:11:02 GMT

drieux@wetware.com (drieux, just drieux) writes:

>dwb@cs.nott.ac.uk (David William Braithwaite) writes:
>] In article <1993Jan10.013644.11551@wetware.com> drieux@wetware.com (drieux, just drieux) writes:
>] >bhv@areaplg2.corp.mot.com (Bronis Vidugiris) writes:
>] >] In article <1993Jan5.230440.507@wetware.com> drieux@wetware.com (drieux, just drieux) writes:
>] >] 
>] >] )Modern Day Problems:
>] >] )
>] >] )"lets get linear, I want to get linear, linear"
>] >] )				Olivia Newton Algegra
>] >] 
>] >] Let's get metaphysical
>] >] 
>] >] - Olivia Newton Philosopher
>] >] 
>] >
>] >Lets Get Tactical
>] >
>] >	- Olivia Newton PanzerGruppen
>] 
>] Lets get FUNKY
>] 
>] 	- Olivia Newton Jamesbrown

>I Just Hate People who Mix their Time Scales!


>"Lets Get Self Referential, Self Referential..."

>	Olivia Newton Hofstader


>ciao
>drieux

>-- 
>MajorModernDayProblems: 

>"Let's Get Digital, Digital"
>	Olivia Newton TheHideousMachOSFKonspirakii

lets get Fiscal, Fiscal
        Olivia Newton Debit and Credit
-- 
Pyotr aka Peter D. Hampe : eka pyotr@halcyon.com
Next Month's Panel: Us and Them - Eliminating Them.
America: how Dan Quayle spells 'amerika'.
EOF
-- 
Pyotr aka Peter D. Hampe : eka pyotr@halcyon.com
Next Month's Panel: Us and Them - Eliminating Them.
America: how Dan Quayle spells 'amerika'.
EOF
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.sex
From: drieux@wetware.com (drieux, just drieux)
Subject: NEVER EVER TRY THIS
Organization: Castle WetWare Philosopher and Sniper
Date: Mon, 11 Jan 1993 11:46:32 GMT

thomas@datamark.co.nz (Thomas Beagle) writes:
] 
] (To merge threads) 
] 


This is a MORALLY OFFENSIVE NOTION!!!!!

Please Do NOT do this Ever AGAIN!

If there is anything I can not Stand its Sicko's
like this who want threads to engage in Merging in
Public Before Innocent women and Children!!!!!

You are Clearly a Sick and Morally Degenerate 
Piece of PsychoPerversion!!!!!

Your Type Makes Me want to PUke!

ciao
drieux

ooops: you said thread, i thought you meant hetro's,
sorry about that.....




-- 
MajorModernDayProblems: 
Just because you are a homicidal maniac
doesn't mean you don't have a sense of humor.
		- Barry Sadler
From: julie@cucbs.chem.columbia.edu (Julie Wright)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: LJBF: The Saga Continues...
Date: 12 Jan 93 01:03:37 GMT
Organization: The Cultural Elite

zagar@chester.cms.udel.edu (Randy [Java Man] Zagar) writes:

[quoting someone]

>Well, any time I hear a guy say that she's 'just a friend' it usually
>means that he's writhing in agony from afar while she treats him as if
>he's a homosexual...

This is going off on a complete tangent, but it reminded me of another
translation, courtesy of a rather cynical female friend of mine.  One
of our male friends was going out with a woman who had struck us as being
rather, uh, one-dimensional.  I told her that he'd assured me there was
"more to her than meets the eye".  "Huh," she snorted, "that just means
she gives a good blow job."

When I quoted her back to the guy in question, he laughed hysterically
and refused to comment.

---Julie
-- 
| "Come here, I want to show you something," he murmured...  "This is     |
| our baby; I had it yesterday," he said.  "My," I said hoarsely, "you're |
| full of surprises," and fell forward into his arms, arms, arms.         |
|             --- from "Sylvia", by Nicole Hollander                      |
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: drieux@wetware.com (drieux, just drieux)
Subject: Re: TheRampantSpreadOfACurableDisease 
Organization: Castle WetWare Philosopher and Sniper
Date: Mon, 11 Jan 1993 11:51:47 GMT

atovorni@engr.UVic.CA writes:

] In article 11405@wetware.com, drieux@wetware.com (drieux, just drieux) writes:
] 
] >Right Now, there are all sorts of Problems at Castle Wetware
] >now that my HouseMates have fallen victims of HeteroSexuality.
] 
] The plague is indeed spreading.
] 
] >No More happy free time sitting around redisgning the file
] >layout, fun with symbolic links, and NFS crossmountings,
] > or considering neat, untried, esoteric networking
] >solutions and configurations.... 
] 
] Looks like they don't want to play with you anymore.
] This StateOfAffairs is the end of an AgeOfInnocence.
] 
] >why, the Silly Victims of HeteroSexuality are squandering
] >their Valuable free time engaging in Flagrant HeteroSexuality!!!!!
] 
] A pox on them! These are VictimsOfTheRampantPlague!
] Such wastes of time are CLEARLY the work of some
] KommunistKonspiratorialGodlessFactions of AmazonForces
] beamed down to CastleWetware by PresidentZank!
] 
] >ps: I would be at liberty to go into depth with this
] >discussion, but my ProblemOlderWoman wants to drag me
] >off the net, and take advantage of my innocence and youth....
] 
] Yet another victim sinks into TheIkkyYukkyMire!!!!!
] 
] dreas
] 
] 
] 


why do I get the feeling I just followed up my
own post and can not remember doing it?

ciao
drieux


-- 
MajorModernDayProblems: 
Just because you are a homicidal maniac
doesn't mean you don't have a sense of humor.
		- Barry Sadler
Xref: sparky soc.singles:35479 alt.romance:15733
From: donj@pyramid.COM (Don Johnson)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
Subject: Re: Where did you meet your SO?
Date: 6 Jan 93 17:52:12 GMT
Distribution: usa
Organization: Pyramid Technology Corporation, Mountain View, California

In article <1993Jan6.064348.26971@murdoch.acc.Virginia.EDU>, bss2p@kelvin.seas.Virginia.EDU (Brent S. Stone) writes:
|> As long as Heather got the ball rolling on the 
|> subject of meeting people, where you meet your
|> current partner?  Theorizing where to meet
|> people is one thing, what works is another.  
|> So how about some info for the group?
|> 
|> BS

We meet in a university gym class (Karate). Pretty high man:woman ratio, about
20:1 if I remember correctly. Of course I had an advantage since I was the
assistant instructor and the instructor was married. But then I had spent
three years going to two or three classes a week to earn that advantage.

The following year I became the instructor and my SO became assistant instructor.
Then we both graduated and moved on to other things. Our 16th wedding
anniversary is comming up in May'93.

	Don Johnson
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA (dreas)
Subject: Re: Seeking female companion
Reply-To: atovorni@engr.UVic.CA
Organization: University of Victoria, Victoria, BC, Canada
Date: Fri, 8 Jan 93 03:38:01 GMT

In article 17002@news.acns.nwu.edu, drmax@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Marianna Max) writes:
>In article <1993Jan7.045754.27978@fuug.fi> an4928@anon.penet.fi writes:
>>
>>  Hello !
>>
>>         I would like to meet single female around Boston Area in the age
>>    group of 25-30. 
>>
>>
>>        Myself , a s/w engineer 28. 
>>
>>    Please respond, if interested in more info....
>>
>>   With best wishes.
>>-------------------------------------------------------------------------
>>To find out more about the anon service, send mail to help@anon.penet.fi.
>>Due to the double-blind system, any replies to this message will be anonymized,
>>and an anonymous id will be allocated automatically. You have been warned.
>
>
>Isn't this the second or third one of these anonymous posting service
>messages to reach s.s.? Is there some way we can reach whoever is running
>this thing and let them know that this is not the appropriate groupt to
>post this stuff too?

Personally, I like these ads. 
They are the ultimate flame-bait. </.Q
                                      \
            ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

dreas




Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: blowfish@carina.unm.edu (rON.)
Subject: Re: criteria
Date: Tue, 05 Jan 93 08:03:29 GMT
Organization: University of New Mexico, Albuquerque

In article <1993Jan4.231609.27751@noose.ecn.purdue.edu> mel@niblick.ecn.purdue.edu (Meloney D Cregor) writes:
>Hmmm.  I still have a problem with this 'fault' idea.  This implies there is
>something 'wrong' and blame must be placed.  Why?  Can't one just kvetch
>for the sake of kvetching without there being an implied necessity for
>change?

If you're complaining about something, unless your complaining for no 
reason at all (which to me is just as annoying, if not more so), then
there is >something< that is wrong, que no?
r.
Newsgroups: soc.singles
From: sethb@panix.com (Seth Breidbart)
Subject: Re: Hw strng shld an avalbl jwsh man be?
Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 00:52:44 GMT
Organization: Society for the Promulgation of Cruelty to the Clueless

In article <93010.233235H97SI@CUNYVM.BITNET> <H97SI@CUNYVM.BITNET> writes:
>hello  does this topic make sense?

If it does, you can get a job working in UNIX.

Now go to your interview and leave us alone.

Seth



Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance