From: gordons@coopsol.com (Gordon Storga)
Newsgroups: talk.abortion
Subject: Re: A Request for Assistance
Date: 9 Apr 92 00:01:10 GMT
Organization: Stay Awake Software

<1992Apr6.192746.29463@noao.edu> forgach@noao.edu (Suzanne Forgach) said:
>From article by GC.TLR@forsythe.stanford.edu (TerreMoto):
...
>> I have an unusual situation, as far as I can determine.  My SO, of whom
>> I am very fond, is a Right-to-Lifer. I have been a life long Pro-Choice
>> advocate (I am male-she is  not-info included to save bandwidth for those
>> who might have assumed otherwise).
>> 
>> We have agreed to disagree, and I am willing to accept her opinions as valid,
>> because of her life experience, but I also hold mine with similar inflex-
>> ibility.

...

>I saw Kevin William Ryan's good advice that you and your SO simply agree
>to disagree, but I would also take it a step farther, and recommend that
>you not make _any_ permanent, long term, commitments or lifelong decisions
>with your SO any time soon.   Give it _lots_and_lots_ of time.   I think
>it is possible that time will uncover other fundamental irreconcilable
>differences between you, and that eventually you will break up anyway. 

I agreee with the "lots and lots of time" advice of Suzanne.  The
differences on this issue may become more pronounced as the relationship
advances.  Besides, many pro-lifers have very strict opinions regarding
birth control and religion as well.  You'd be well advised to investigate
these issues also, especially if you are also having a physical
relationship.

>I speak from the experience of being extremely pro-life,

We can vouch for that. ;-)

>                                                         and having dated
>an extremely pro-abortion (and get this for bizarreness) adopted guy, for
>two years.  

Alright, don't be looking at me that way.  I did not date Suzanne, she is
not an ex-girlfriend of mine.  Suzanne, please be careful how you use
'pro-abortion'.

>            As it turned out there were other very basic differences between
>us, that turned out not only to be personality differences, but I think
>character differences as well. 

In the words of the Joker, "I like him already."

>                               I gave the relationship a good long time to
>iron itself out, and did not make any snap decisions, but in the long run,
>we did break up.  I think the biggest difference that was uncovered between
>us, other than the pro- vs anti- abortion business, was that he hated people
>and I did not and would not.  He just couldn't stand that, but that was too
>bad.  I just couldn't live my life that way.

He "hated people"??  I don't understand how it took two years to discover
this.  I would think it would be pretty opbvious from the start.

>Anyway, give yourself and your SO _plenty_ of time to discover any
>difference of such a basic nature between you, before you make anything
>permanent.

I agree. (We'll have to ask Stormwind if it's getting a might chilly
there.)


Gordon
Pro-abortion, Pro-person, Pro-women's-rights and ex-boyfriend of Susan,
Muriel, Cathi, and Nora, and married to the sweetest woman in the world,
and darn proud of it.
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