From: anon-1264@twwells.com (KillDoll)
Newsgroups: alt.sexual.abuse.recovery
Subject: Ed Carp, Re: my theory on why some people are irritated at Ed
Date: 12 Nov 92 23:12:26 GMT
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> Subject: my theory about why some people are irritated at Ed

> Is it just my imagination, or are most of the people who are annoyed
> at Ed female?  And most of the people who defend him are male?  I was
> leafing through a book at one of the local bookstores (I wish now that
> I'd bought it), and the premise of this book is that men and women
> have completely different styles of communication in our culture.

> And none of the other guys seem to get it, either.  It's not the
> content of what Ed says, guys, it's the *tone*.  
> 
> What do you all think?  Could this be the problem?

> -- 
> Holly McGrath   <enigma@netcom.com> 

Not for me.  I'm a man and I don't like Ed's posts.  I don't like his tone.
Since he's unfortunately came back I put him in my (news) Kill file, but
to fairly flame him I've gone through all his recent posts.  Argh.

Ed is a painfully reculsive computer-dependent / social-outcast with
few friends and hopes being active in this forum will excuse his
present, sorry lifestyle.

I didn't like what he was saying or his tone or the color of his shoes.

Argh.

Argh.

Oh no.  I'm going to have to succumb to my flaming urges.  Sorry everybody!

**** FLAME FLAME FLAME FLAME FLAME FLAME FLAME ****

Ed: you are not an expert on anything.  STOP PREACHING LIKE ONE!!!

Oh, and stop begging for sympathy.  Give yourself some sympathy.  And some
love.  Practice what you preach.

:->  Cynical smile.  It's true:  "You criticize most in others what you
	most wish to fix in yourself."  Who said that?  It's been constantly
	revalidated since I learned that in High School.

(For the anology impaired: "Practice what you preach" was for Ed's advice to
Theresa, the popular opinion you must love yourself before you can love others.)

Ed: You need to learn not to let people abuse you!!!

Also, in your life's story, your "[...]" comments beg for sympathy,
which would excuse your wimpyness, but salve your drive to improve
yourself, and leave you in the same boat as before your marriages.

DO SOMETHING!!!

In kids, they're smaller and innocent.  They can't fight back.  You're almost
40, half-way through your life.  When are you going to fight back?!  When
are you going to steer your own boat!  Don't look in ASAR for your will.
Provide your own motivation.  Don't need sympathy to keep on going.  Don't
need advice.  Don't need your mommy to hold you or daddy to play with you.
You have to be your own now.  You can't go back.  You need to decide to
help yourself.

Telling people what you think in this forum really won't help anyone.
You need to fix what you think.  Then your people won't abuse you.
Then your life will get better.  THEN you can tell people here how you
did it.  You haven't done anything yet so shut up.  Learn to handle
yourself against real people.

Your life is not in here, Ed.  Go away and find it in the numerous social
activities Apple and the bay area has.

To be fair, I'll delete my Kill file in case you want to post a reply :-(
but don't feel obligated as you know how I feel about your opinions.

*** end of Ed flame ***

I believe all of the things I've said above as true.  I give Ed the
advice as I gave myself when I was in his situation.  But I am doing this
for selfish reasons, in the hopes Ed goes away and leaves us alone with
intelligent discussions.

KillDoll



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