From: Julie Malone <jmalone@silver.ucs.indiana.edu>
Subject: Re: Romance Is In The Eye Of The Beholder
Organization: Queen of the Universe, Inc.
Date: Fri, 17 Apr 1992 12:51:02 -0500

kkwwkk@mixcom.com (TA Shaw)
>
>Julie.....The Hopeless Romantic pens:
>>I agree, men like that are a rarity.  We should be thankful...I am.

My ex gave me flowers exactly 4 times in 15 years.  I thought that was
the norm...

I have learned differently.

>I tend to think not.  I don't think it's really restricted to either
>sex.  There have been situations where I have done something sweet,
>(ok so it's my opinion that it was sweet), where the recipient said
>"You shouldn't have...."  well this reminds me of what a lady I worked
>with about nine years ago.  We affectionately called her Mom.

I myself have made that comment - I think it comes from being embarrassed
and not knowing what to say.
>
>I gave some roses to my SO, (Boy I hate that term Significant Other, it
>implies that I have an Insignificant Other...but i digress), and 
>

Sometimes the term can help define the relationship.  I feel funny saying
"boyfriend" at 33 years of age.


>"Just accept the gift.  If you tell someone enough times, "You 
>shouldn't have...", soon enough they won't."

This is true.
>
>So in my opinion, there is plenty of romance from both women and
>men, but it has many different faces to it.  There is the romance

Of course.  Everyone is different.


>that you envision and there is the romance that you partner
>envisions.  Sometimes these match, but other times it can be drastically
>different.

My ex told me he is one of the most romantic men in the world.  I'm sure
he believed that - I beg to differ.


>There is giving roses for a special occasion, anniversaries, V-Day, or
>B-Days, but there is also giving cactus or african violet because you
>just wanted to.  

Those wild flowers were some of the most beautiful little things I've
ever received....it was because of the love they were given with.


>to the real thing, not just using the hearing appendages), then you'll know
>what your partner considers romantic and be able to appropriately use.

Never hurts to ask what they other person thinks is romantic.  File it 
away and then surprise them someday.

>
>In my opinion, the best romantic situations are those that are unplanned
>and come from the soul of the giver.  They may at first seem odd, but what 
>they are doing is sharing a bit of themselves with you, and what could be
>more precious than some insight into the one you love....

Absolutely, BDC.  I couldn't agree with you more.  Shower your loved  one
with the love that shows your heart.  They will love you even more....

>
>BDC

Hi bud.
>
>P.S. Yeah, yeah, yeah....Unlurk|Lurk
>
Nice to see you again here....

>P.S.S. Damn I'm long winded for a lurker......

Yes, but what you have to say is important....

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