From: mjln_ltd@uhura.cc.rochester.edu (Mikeey Jean Lin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: WHAT HAPPENED??????
Date: 21 Nov 92 04:12:44 GMT
Organization: University of Rochester - Rochester, New York

In <1992Nov20.230107.4913@galileo.cc.rochester.edu> jsmt@troi.cc.rochester.edu (Julia Smith) writes:

>In article <1992Nov20.094245.4156@memstvx1.memst.edu> anthrlib@memstvx1.memst.edu writes:
>>Hello Out There!
>>
>>I am in desperate need of advice, help, whatever....  For the last three
>>monthes I've been falling for one of the nicest guys on the planet (or so I
>>thought).  He seemed very interested at first---before he knew that I was.  Now
>>that he knows that I'm interested (I told him) he's bolted!  I'm so confused. 
>>Never had this problem before.  Any advice? Suggestions? Possible solutions?
>>etc?  Has this happened to any of you? I don't get an opportunity to read the
>>news often--so please feel free to email me at:
>>

>Damn, another victim of the boy-disease.  Boys are not comfortable with
>closeness, only pursuit.  They love to chase, love the thrill of the challenge,
>but the MINUTE you show signs of having your attention captured, they
>are finished - the thrill is over and the next conquest is to be won.
>It is a killer, and it would do us all a world of good if men like this
>would show visible signs of the disease.  They are so engaging when they
>are in pursuit mode, though, that even if they had a big sign blinking
>in neon on their forehead, we'd probably ignore it, thinking "for me it will
>be different."  sigh....

	Hmmm... I wouldn't exactly call it "boy-disease". It's just a way of 
life. 8-( This does happen to both sexes, despite what some people may think.
The best thing to do is to go on to someone else. (IMHO)


>If it helps, remember than he never really was interested in *you* just in 
>the game you offered.  If you back off and recover your own interests and 
>amusements, he might regain his former interest in the challenge you present, 
>but do you really want that?  <if you couldn't tell, I am just recently over 
>a case of this myself - it is painfully common.>

>'
>d probably i

	In my opinion, one tends to make members of the opposite sex a bit
uncomfortable when one suddenly confronts the other person about his/her
feelings for the other person. (gee, I think I suceeded in confusing myself)
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that sometimes we confuse friendliness with
romantic interests. Most people you have a crush/flame/involvement/thing...etc
with WON'T always feel the same about you. What do you do? YOU MOVE ON...
	
	Don't bother to wallow in your own self pity. The easiest thing in 
the world to do is to get a SO, the hardest thing to do is to find a SO that 
you can truly care about. Just be patient, but more importantly, be yourself.
There are 5 billion people on this planet; chances are you will find someone 
that meets your criteria. If this guy isn't interested, then SO WHAT? I'm
sure that there are many other guys you know that are BETTER. Hey, who knows?
He just might be lurking around in your life... you never know...
I wish you two the best of luck! 8-)

						    Mikeey
					mjln_ltd@uhura.cc.rochester.edu
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance