From: "Raistlin Majere" <p00139@psilink.com>
Subject: Re: When guys lose their tempers
Organization: Tower of High Sorcery - Palanthas
Date: Tue, 13 Oct 1992 02:49:07 GMT
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>DATE:   Mon, 12 Oct 1992 07:37:46 GMT
>FROM:   LOW SUET CHENG <isc30350@nusunix1.nus.sg>
>
>I would like to get some views on this topic from the dear people here
>in net.land.
>
	Sure....
	
>I have know of guys who when they lose their tempers, hit their
>girlfriends. After that they are remorseful about it, but they tell
>their girlfriends that it's because they (the girlfriend) make them so
>angry that they can't control themselves. Is this really true or is it
>just an excuse?
>
	Man, this one got my blood boiling. For all my misogynistic bent,
	I have never laid violent hands upon a female - and never would.
	There isn't any excuse any guy can make for beating up his 
	girlfriend. It doesn't matter *what* she did, or how badly he
	would like to smack her (believe me, I understand what turns Mr.
	Hand into Mr. Fist...) - there is nothing that justifies striking
	a woman (or any person really, for that matter). Self defense is 
	one thing (i.e., she's charging at you with a butcher knife...) but 
	I don't believe it's very often that you get a situation like that.

	It's a craven and cowardly act, and he ought to have his balls
	ripped off in a mix-master. It's especially enraging to listen
	to a guy try and make excuses for it - "Yeah, I beat her within'
	an inch of her life - but she banged up my new car...". Bullshit.
	The vast majority of the female populace is physically less powerful
	than the vast majority of the male populace, and any guy who feels
	he has to overcome his own feelings of insecurity and lack of 
	manhood, by beating someone probably half his size, and physically
	less powerful, is an animal - not fit for the company of civilized
	people.

	If you are a civilized human being, you can control yourself.
	Anyone who claims they can't, should be in a cage having 
	popcorn and marshmallows thrown at him by those of us who can.......

>Then there are those also who when things go wrong, they'll blame them
>on the girlfriends and say that the girlfriends have distracted them
>from doing their best. Is this valid?
>
	No.

>Has anyone here ever encounter this kind of situation personally or seen
>friends who are in this kind of situation? Comments would be very much
>welcomed.
>

	WARNING: <CONTRADICTION OF PREVIOUS STATEMENT APPROACHING...>

	Yes. I witnessed a guy beating his girlfriend very nearly
	to death. He was a friend. I say "was" a friend, because I very 
	nearly beat him within an inch of *his* life. Yes, it was very 
	easy to justify my own act of violence in the defense of a woman 
	who was in no way physically capable of defending herself in 
	the situation, from this person.

	It's O.K. though, he was up and walking in four months.
	
	So toss me some popcorn and pass the marshmallows.......

>Esther
>
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