From: dwelch@mpd.tandem.com (Dan Welch)
Newsgroups: soc.men,soc.women
Subject: Re: [Pet Peeves] What irritates you or your partner?
Date: 30 Sep 92 15:38:05 GMT
Followup-To: soc.men
Organization: Tandem Computers (MPD) Austin, TX

In article <1992Sep29.173300.29857@linus.mitre.org> cgates@mitre.org (Curt Gates) writes:
>In article <1992Sep29.145124.19856@gdr.bath.ac.uk> ccsmh@gdr.bath.ac.uk 
>(Mark Harding) writes:
>> I have recenetly moved in with my girlfriend and have started to discover
>> that she, to me at least, seems annoyed at things I think are trivial.
>
>Clue #1:  You moved into *her* place. Comprende? 

Sorry, no comprende.  I am experiencing the same thing, and my fiance hasn't
even moved in yet (although she does today).

We went out and got a totally new apartment, so that one wouldn't feel s/he
was intruding on the other.  We got a new checking account, new furniture,
etc., so that almost everything we now have would be easier to consider "ours"
instead of "mine" and "yours".

And yet -- there are many things she does that make me go "Huh?"  There are
things I do that make her say, "What?!?"  This after 10 months of engagement,
and living together on the weekends.  So, in answer to what I think the
original questions was, here are some of my pet peeves and some of what I
perceive hers to be.

Bathroom:

I want the towels, when wet, to be spread out on the towel rack.  She
usually just hangs hers on a doorknob.

She insists that, after showering, the curtain must be spread out along the
entire length of the rack.  I've never done this, mostly because a shower
curtain runs about $2.17 and if it gets mildewy, I just replace it.

I like gel, she likes paste.

She has about ten times the number of bathroom appliances, lotions, etc. --
literally.  I know this is a common joke, but it is true in our case.
Fortunately, our new apartment has two bathrooms, so we each get our own.

She wants the bathroom to be spotlessly clean and hygenic.  While I agree
in principle, I'm usually not willing to put forth the effort required to
attain that goal.


Kitchen and dining room:

I like wooden cutting boards.  She wants to use a plastic one, since it's
easier to clean.  Cleaning is her responsibilty, and cooking is mine, so I
guess this is a reasonable disagreement.

I don't want a kitchen table.  It's useless to us, as we have small floor
tables we eat at, and takes up a lot of space, not to mention money.  She
wants to have one, I suppose because that's just what you're supposed to
have.

She wants to organize all the spices on a spice rack.  I don't -- there are
a lot of spices I buy in bulk, not bottled, that wouldn't fit in a rack, and
these are the spices I use the most frequently.  I also don't like the idea
of just arranging the spices for show.  Since I do all the cooking, I get my
way on this one.


Bedroom:

I want a bedside table, she doesn't.

I like to sleep with the windows open and a fan on (in the window) to
bring in fresh air.  She wants the windows shut and shuttered as tightly
as possible, to block out light and noise.  Also, she is afraid to sleep
with a fan on -- she thinks that if you do, you might wake up paralyzed.
(Don't ask me!  That's what she says!  It is some sort of superstition
she was exposed to while growing up in Korea, I think.)

She likes huge, walk-in closets, with lots of shelves, etc.  I, personally,
couldn't care less about closets.  It's just a place to hang your shirts.


There are probably more things I could come up with, but that's just what
springs to mind.

Daniel Welch
----
Money is power, greed is the sixth sense;
What's for sale?  I say, "What's the difference?"
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