HDTenEightyP/NetNews huggingface dataset:
From: slayer@gl.pitt.edu (Deborah)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: romantic songs
Date: 29 Sep 92 15:42:13 GMT
Distribution: alt


Some of my own additions, no less obscure than some...

Kansas:  "What's on My Mind",  "Opus Insert", "Away From You"
          "A Glimpse of Home", "Reason to Be"

Rush:    "Different Strings", "Ghost of a Chance"

Eric Johnson:  "Bristol Shore"  "Forty-Mile Town"

Anderson, Brueford, 
Wakeman & Howe     :  "The Meeting"  "Quartet"

Just my two cents worth!

Those are great but how about anything by Anita Baker :) she is terrific.
When my SO hears me playing her cd when he gets home he knows what I want :)



-- 
May look a little young 
So what's wrong ?
You don't have to be old to be wise
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: tedwards@eng.umd.edu (Thomas Grant Edwards)
Subject: Re: How do you know if you are in love?
Organization: University of Maryland, College Park, College of Engineering
Date: Mon, 5 Oct 1992 02:00:37 GMT

In article <BvM7K0.wI@mentor.cc.purdue.edu> darkmoor@mentor.cc.purdue.edu (Darkmoore) writes:

>  How do you know if you are in love?

Of course, anyone's answer is their personal definition...but here is
mine anyway....

Love is feeling _safe_ about bearing your soul to someone.
It is also being happy when that someone bears their soul to you.

If you really, really like someone, but you don't feel safe about them,
your are not in love yet, just infatuated.

And it is not neccessary to be romantically involved with someone you love...
but it helps to be in love with someone you are romantically involved with!

-Thomas
 resident technoshaman
 Blessed be, and rave on!
From: nelson@eastrg1.cray.com (Christine Nelson)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Anniversery Gift Suggestions?
Date: 5 Oct 92 19:40:42 GMT
Organization: Cray Research, Inc.

In article <1992Oct3.014333.19731@yang.earlham.edu>, patrickl@yang.earlham.edu writes:
|> 
|> 	Hi!  My girlfriend and I are about to celebrate our first 
|> aniversery and I'm searching for ideas for a gift (or gifts.)  I'm 
|> trying to make our anniversery an extra special one and I'm at a loss for
|> ideas.  Any suggestions?
|> 
|> 
|> Tha Lessard 

how about a single pearl on a fine gold chain?  tell her that on every
anniversary in the future, you'll add another pearl to the chain, until
she's got a solid rope of pearls.  tell her that the pearls will 
symbolize the tears of joy, and of pain, that you both share.  that these
joys and sorrows only serve to bring the two of you closer together, 
strengthening your relationship.  very romantic.  very simple.  and,
very inexpensive.

take her out to dinner someplace nice that night.  have flowers sent to
the restaurant earlier that day, and request that your server deliver them
to your table (for her) after the two of you have been seated.  then,
once the flowers have arrived, give her the pearl...


christine
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: baarniy@iastate.edu (Scott A Coon)
Subject: Re : Romantic Songs
Followup-To: alt.romance
Summary: my favorite
Organization: Iowa State University, Ames, IA
Date: Tue, 6 Oct 1992 05:33:10 GMT

Most romantic song (IMHO):  Angel, by Aerosmith.
Number two:  Fur Elise, Ludwig von Beethoven (the tune 
itself isn't all that romantic, given, but I would kill
to be able to write something that awesome just for my
SO (if I had one.))

baarniy
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: What do you want from us?
From: dayrton@eagle.wesleyan.edu
Date: 30 Sep 92 08:53:56 EDT
Organization: Wesleyan University

In article <1992Sep29.130312.1@woods.ulowell.edu>, cotera@woods.ulowell.edu writes:

> I think what might help us guys is if you women would tell us what you're
> looking for.

Oh, I agree, but do you suppose that one of the reasons that they don't is that
they've found that when they do tell us what they want we run for the hills?  

				B-)

Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: tedwards@src.umd.edu (Thomas Grant Edwards)
Subject: Re: Romantic Moods
Organization: Systems Research Center, Maryversity of Uniland, College Park
Date: Fri, 2 Oct 1992 07:31:20 GMT

In article <BvGJqE.Fxt@usenet.ucs.indiana.edu> ksdavis@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (Karleenus Schwartz Davis) writes:
>Walking down railroad tracks snaking between the woods and fields near
>a small hick down in the Midwest, toting an old BB gun, balancing on the 
>rails, laughing, and shooting at discarded beer cans until the sun sets.

Driving until the city lights did not wash out the sky, pulling over,
holding each other as we looked up at the stars...

An empty house in the country, and a weekend to waste lustfully and
lovingly...

Driving to the beach for no apparent reason, watching the ghost crabs
scurry about the shore under the moonlight...

Laying down on the grass, curling up with one another, watching an
outdoor production of Romeo and Juliet...

We drive through the crazy night of DC, to find ourselves in a quiet
island park.  At the end of the island, we get out, and walk towards
a small hump, with the colorful beacons of the nearby airport scanning
the sky.  The hump is a scuplture of a giant half buried, his arms
and legs and head coming out of the ground, reaching for the sky.
We laugh, and then embrace...

Dressed in medieval garb, we spend the day selling shoes at the
Faire, sampling the mead and turkey legs during lunch break.
At night, we sneak away into the tent in the woods, and snuggle
close to keep warm...

She snaps on the sensor pack, and wraps the battery belt around her
waist.  I see her hunger as she slowly pulls the helmet over her
head, and pulls the gun from the holster.  She's never looked more
eager, more beautiful to me.  We're both red, and we're ready to
kick some Photon butt!

-Thomas
 resident technoshaman
From: gcv2010@Msu.oscs.montana.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: American High School & bits......
Date: 30 Sep 92 20:41:13 GMT
Reply-To: gcv2010@Msu.oscs.montana.edu
Organization: Montana State University

In article <BvC5v3.C69@kingston.ac.uk>, is_b420@kingston.ac.uk (Brendan Rooney) writes:
>
>To all American readers:
>
>	Could someone pleeeeease explain to me about all this stuff in
>high school - y'know the school yearbook - the prom etc....  What does it all 
>mean? Does it mean anything?

Nope, not a damn thing.  I can't remember anyone I went to high school with,
never went to the prom, lost my yearbook a few years after graduation.

College, now, that's a different story!
From: csudr@warwick.ac.uk (Mark Harrison)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: quarrels:  LDR
Date: 28 Sep 92 20:36:09 GMT
Organization: Computing Services, Warwick University, UK

In article <1992Sep24.133727.13440@midway.uchicago.edu> 
tsh2@midway.uchicago.edu writes:

> It is so hard to communicate with LDR via network (talk session).  You just
> can't get through and express yourself like on phone or in person. 

Have you tried the chat-type session. Like a mud, but dedicated to chatting.
Much more expressive than talk(1) as you can express reactions more, and
there's a focus and a feeling of two people talking rather than the two blocks
of text with talk(1).

> maybe people are just on different wavelengths...

Probably. you just need to red(/blue)-shift yourself. :)

Love+Hugs

Snow

--
  /~\           Never Trust An  !
 /@@-\____---   Elephant In     !  Mark Harrison
 / / /       \  Dark Glasses.   !  	Warwick University
 l/'\  /__\  /\,                !		snow@uk.ac.warwick.cs
 \l lll   lll                   !
__~_"""___"""__________________________________________________________________
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Bits & pieces..
From: Rob_Tan@kcbbs.gen.nz (Rob Tan)
Date: 7 Oct 92 03:45:12 GMT
Organization: Kappa Crucis Unix BBS, Auckland, New Zealand

>Love is blind. I am glad I am not in his shoes. I would think that
>putting some distance between the two of them might be worth some trouble.
>Also, any distraction will probably help him get some perspective.

Well I dunno.. if finals are enough of a distraction for him.. I don;t 

know what will be.. Also if something is found that proves to be a suitabledis
traction form the girl, it could also porve costly with regards to
his studies.. yeah I know.. looks like he has got himself into a no-win
suitation.. but I was hoping maybe something would help..

suitation.. but I was hoping maybe something would help..

>My feeling is it would be a mistake to worry about your service
>at this point. Two years is a long time, and a lot can happen.
f a solid relationship develops between the two of you in the
>two years, then the three years will be annoying but it won't
>hurt the relationship. If little or nothing develops between you,
 you said, it is unimportant what happens to the relationship.
 only problem is if the relationship falls somewhere in between.
t I think that is the sort of risk you have to take if you want
>to have a successful relationship.

3 years is a long time to test a relationship.. gues if it works out 
it'll be stringer for it.. But surely I'll be restricting her somewhat 
with reagrds to other relationships? (NOw did I phrase that correctly?)

>I don't think it is inconsiderate unless you keep it from her that
>you will be going off. It sounds like you think you might ask her to
>spend a lifetime with you -- that would be asking a lot more than
>asking her to spend three years mostly apart.  But in return, you will
>be giving her a lot, too.

Well I'll admit that after a couple of years after my service I'll porbably 
look to marraige if circumstances allow.. 
One hopes with regards to your latter statement.. :-)..

Thanks Mike.. & sorry about the lousy quoting.
From: bruce@StarConn.com (Bruce Michael Roberts)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Congruence Nice guys = chumps
Date: 2 Oct 92 14:31:18 GMT
Organization: Starnet-Public Access UNIX--Los Altos, CA  415-949-3133

I've been reading some of the postings about the proverbial nice guy and
the old LJBF.

So I'm just wondering whether if you decide to be a "nice guy" and be
the shoulder to cry on, you are a chump.  And does the woman who you are
really interested in "set you up" to be one or does it just happen?
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: g92h7147@giraffe.ru.ac.za (MR GR HUTCHISON)
Subject: Bruce M Arnold
Summary: none
Keywords: help
Organization: Rhodes University, Grahamstown, South Africa
Date: Thu, 1 Oct 1992 22:51:53 GMT

Please could someone help me!!

I received mail from Bruce M Arnold regarding a message I posted in alt.
romance a few weeks ago... I should like to reply to Bruce's mail, but he 
has a bitnet address and I have and internet mailer... All I know of his 
address is "arnold@dws021"!!

SO COULD SOMEONE (or Bruce himself) PLEASE MAIL ME AT THE ADDRESS BELOW AND 
TELL ME BRUCE'S _FULL_ BITNET/EMAIL ADDRESS???

Bruce is at the University of Nevada... :)

Thanx... Greg!

======================================================================
Gregory Hutchison           ||  "You are never given a wish without
Rhodes University           ||   also being given the power to make
Grahamstown                 ||   it true.
South Africa                ||     You may have to work for it,
<g92h7147@giraffe.ru.ac.za> ||     however." - Richard Bach
======================================================================
From: lkurtz@vax.clarku.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: re:SWF""s & SBM's- Does Society Worry Way Too Much???
Date: 4 Oct 92 18:34:42 GMT
Organization: Clark University

I am a SWF and I have dated many SBM (but currently am not-not anyone).  I
go to a supposedly liberal school, which in fact is not.  However, I didn't
have any problem whatsoever with people's reactions.  There is not a large
black population here, it's mostly white actually (a flaw in my choosing this
school, because I am more attracted to black men), which would make one believe
peoples' reactions would be more severe.  But they haven't been.  The most I
got was my friends curiousity as to why I prefer black men, but not criticism
at all.  This is only one isolated example, so it may be different in other
areas and I should consider myself lucky.  Though I'd like to believe that even
if I did run into dirty looks etc...my feelings for the man I'm with would
would be stronger than any negative reactions.  Still waiting for the right
SBM though...       Lori
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: c9221777@cc.newcastle.edu.au (Brother Redeye)
Subject: Re: TOO DEEP
Organization: University of Newcastle, AUSTRALIA
Date: Thu, 1 Oct 1992 05:59:30 GMT

In article <1992Sep23.154039.405@dct.ac.uk>, aesba1pje@dct.ac.uk writes:
> Have you ever fallen for someone - thinking that this is all that matters to
> you????
> 
> i.e. You're at University/college and you fall for someone.  Next thing you're
> going out with them.  You then fall too deep and don't care about your course
> anymore.
>
Well...if you are willing to follow in the footsteps of a great man such as
myself, then you could always do what I did .....


....  FAIL!!

Not that it did me much good as we broke up a couple of weeks back anyway. Heh
heh heh.  Isn't life full of comic little twists.
 
-- 
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------
All opinions expressed herein are my own and do not reflect those of the
University of Newcastle ... but then again, as I have to pay to use these
facilities anyway, who really cares?!
------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Send all hate mail to: c9221777@cc.newcastle.edu.au
                   or: c9221777@wombat.newcastle.edu.au
------------------------------------------------------------------------------
From: tedwards@src.umd.edu (Thomas Grant Edwards)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Long Distance Romance... Problem
Date: 30 Sep 92 04:15:58 GMT
Organization: Systems Research Center, Maryversity of Uniland, College Park

In article <1992Sep28.151300.2120@bvc.edu> bushmanangel@bvc.edu writes:
>Did it ever occur to you that what seems selfish in the short run can be 
>very giving in the end?  My SO and I both have very important careers to 
>pursue (at least we think they're important).  We're also enlightened 
>enough to realize that if we do not build our own lives and truly discover 
>our own individuality, we will never be happy subordinating our other 
>interests to each other.  Because we both desire higher learning (college 
>and life experiences) we are both bound to have more to share when we meet 
>again later in life. 

Everyone should read this!!!!

I can't tell you how many couples I know who are engaged in college
who are finding that they have not fully workout their own individuality!!!
Usually, at least one member of the couple works it out, and they
break apart.

I guess, though, it's not like you can't just sit back and not ask
someone to marry you when you feel the need to be bonded to a soulmate.
It just sucks that society often keeps us from having an adult perspective
on life until after one graduates.  It's a lie not to become engaged, yet
it's also a lie to become married.  You just have to break apart violently
(in an emotional sense, hopefully you can still be friends), and risk
not getting back together in the future.

-Thomas
 resident technoshaman
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: alex@mentor.cc.purdue.edu ( )
Subject: Re: Romantic Songs
Summary: my vote
Organization: Purdue University Computing Center
Date: Wed, 30 Sep 1992 23:58:32 GMT

My vote :

"Bird of Passage" The Mission, U.K.
"Enjoy the Silence" Depeche Mode

                        -Alex

Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: darkmoor@mentor.cc.purdue.edu (Darkmoore)
Subject: How do you know if you are in love?
Organization: Purdue Computing Center
Date: Sun, 4 Oct 1992 20:57:35 GMT


  How do you know if you are in love?

  I would really like some thoughts on this matter.



   Darkmoore




Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: calvin@cbnewsi.cb.att.com (scott.a.kaye)
Subject: Re: Romantic songs
Organization: AT&T
Date: Tue, 29 Sep 1992 15:28:08 GMT

	Well, I have been watching this thread go on, so I decided I would add 
my own.

		Hands to Heaven - Breathe
		Angel Eyes - Jeff Healy Band
		At This Moment - Billy Vera and the Beaters
		Do You Remember? - Phil Collins (Makes me think of the past)
		Just the Way You Are - Billy Joel (I wish he would agree to 
						 	sing this again)
		Always - Atlantic Starr
		Crazy For You - Madonna  (About the only Madonna song I like)

				Scott
-- 
    Scott Kaye				  "Were going to need another Timmy."	
    AT&T			    		-Mr. Lizard               
    100 Southgate Pkwy			   I can't speak for myself, so how 
    Morristown, NJ  07960		   could I speak for AT&T?
From: martini@heaven7.in-berlin.de (Martin P. Ibert)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Romantic Birthday Suggestions Needed
Date: 30 Sep 92 13:36:40 GMT
Organization: The Seventh Heaven, Berlin, Germany
X-Reason: This message has been reposted because of configuration errors at heaven7.in-berlin.de.

hampton@ecadsr.enet.dec.com (Jonathan D. Hampton) writes:
> 
> o put together a 'This is your Life' slide show (get pictures of her as
>   a baby and growing up) and present at a party..
> 
ARGH! If someone did that sort of thing to me, I wouldn't appreciate it!!
-- 
___*___  Martin P. Ibert - Westendallee 100 d, D-1000 Berlin 19 - +4930-3056541
=======  E-mail to martini@{heaven7.{in-berlin.de|sub.org}|cloud9.in-berlin.de}
||| |||  ----------------------------------------------------------------------
||| |||  ------ Everybody wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die ------
From: gcv2010@Msu.oscs.montana.edu
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Long Distance Romance... Problem
Date: 30 Sep 92 20:53:46 GMT
Reply-To: gcv2010@Msu.oscs.montana.edu
Organization: Montana State University

In article <1992Sep28.151300.2120@bvc.edu>, bushmanangel@bvc.edu writes:
>In article <2926723602.1.p00139@psilink.com>, p00139@psilink.com (Raistlin Majere) writes:
>>>
>>>In article <g92h7147.29.717189474@giraffe.ru.ac.za>, g92h7147@giraffe.ru.ac.za (MR GR HUTCHISON) writes:
>>>>
>
>> 
>> 	Three words sum up the female species:
>> 		
>> 			Capriciousness, Treachery, Duplicity.
>> 
>
>You haven't met all of us yet.
>
Yes, it gets much, much worse.....  ;)

Cheryl
From: naveena@enuxhb.eas.asu.edu (Naveena Michael)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: How long has it been
Date: 6 Oct 92 16:57:52 GMT
Organization: Arizona State University

As a reply to the question of :

How long has it been since you were kissed by a member of the opposite sex....

How about NEVER.... Am I missing something???? 

Naveena Michael

p.s. Blame it on my cultural background.....
From: mlb@CISCO.COM (Marcia Bednarcyk)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: Nice Guys?
Date: 29 Sep 92 21:37:31 GMT

In article <BurBoK.JCC.1@cs.cmu.edu>, tomault+@cs.cmu.edu (Thomas Galen Ault) writes:
|> Furthermore, others apparantly know themselves so well that they
|> are absolutely certain that they will have no interest in what I do.

Do you really want to go out with, let alone form a relationship with someone
who is so quick to judge?

------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Marcia Bednarcyk                                        ADDRESS: mlb@cisco.com
"Sweaty Snugglebunnies."
"... the meaning of life is to be happy, try not to hurt people, and hope
you fall in love."
From: g92h7147@giraffe.ru.ac.za (MR GR HUTCHISON)
Subject: Re: <None>
Summary: what
Organization: Rhodes University, Grahamstown, South Africa
Date: Sun, 27 Sep 1992 14:45:20 GMT

In article <1992Sep24.154044.442@ab.wvnet.edu> crites@ab.wvnet.edu writes:

>what are you people talking about

Well, believe it or not, ROMANCE!!

======================================================================
Gregory Hutchison           ||  "You are never given a wish without
Rhodes University           ||   also being given the power to make
Grahamstown                 ||   it true.
South Africa                ||     You may have to work for it,
<g92h7147@giraffe.ru.ac.za> ||     however." - Richard Bach
======================================================================
Newsgroups: alt.romance
From: ddose@oregon.uoregon.edu (David C Dose)
Subject: Re: Read This
Organization: University of Oregon
Distribution: alt
Date: Wed, 30 Sep 1992 16:30:13 GMT

In article <NEV.92Sep29163506@bonsai6.bnr.co.uk> nev@bnr.co.uk (Neil Vince) writes:


>       Would the relevant parties please take note that this group
>       is alt.romance and this is were things with a romantic nature
>       are discussed, myself (and others I'm sure) don't really want
>       to read about penis sizes etc in this group, that is what 
>       alt.sex is for, don't go telling me about kill files because
>       really this comes down to these articles being posted in the
>       wrong group.

>       Thanks.

>Neil.
	Realize that the penis size thread is cross-posted to alt.sex and
alt.romance, so you should flambe whoever is cross-posting this stuff.

Just my .02
Dave


<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<*>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
David C. Dose             ddose@oregon.uoregon.edu                "The Doseman"

We're just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, year after year,
Running over the same old ground. What have you found? The same old fears.
Wish you were here.   - Pink Floyd
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>*<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
From: pa_ross@csd.brispoly.ac.uk (Mr Rossy)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: It hurts like Hell... Again
Date: 1 Oct 92 12:42:39 GMT
Organization: Bristol Polytechnic, England

In article <1992Sep29.212402.28833@nntp.hut.fi> jmunkki@vipunen.hut.fi (Juri Munkki) writes:
>In article <Bv2Jou.KBM@usenet.ucs.indiana.edu> ksdavis@silver.ucs.indiana.edu (Karleenus Schwartz Davis) writes:

>A while back, I was quite interested in this girl... She knew I
>was interested and she liked me too. The problem was that another
>guy was also attracted to her and didn't take it too well when
>he noticed that she was getting more and more interested in me...

Fine, I've been in that situation before and I told the girl, that I liked
a bit of competition coz it's so boring when they throw themselves at my
feet (Obviously I said this in a jokey sort of manner and I would never
suggest you say it seriously!)

>This guy started to whine and told the girl that he might quit
>studying and that he couldn't live without her. After a while,
>this [nice] girl gave in and decided that maybe she loves him
>after all.

Sometimes it's what's needed to "Win" you just got to decide if you like
her enough to put yourself on the line like that, I personally would not
have whined her I would have wined her and made her laugh.

>The only pressure that I caused was that I told her that she
>couldn't have the both of us. I was mostly just irritated by
>her indecisiveness.

Yep I think you were right to be p*ssed off by her indecisivness it's a hard
situation to handle, mine came out OK but it is a tad annoying.

>Now that I look at it from a different perspective, I feel that
>the girl probably wasn't mature enough for me anyway.

That's the way to look at it! When I'm out at a night club or party I always
think if a girl says "NO" then there are thousands out there that will say
"YES".

						 Paul
						=----=