taste of cherry ( persian : طعم گيلاس ... , ta ’m - e gīlās ... ) is a 1997 film by the iranian filmmaker abbas kiarostami .

it is a minimalist film about a man who drives through a city suburb looking for someone who can carry out the task of burying him after he commits suicide .

it was awarded the palme d'or at the 1997 cannes film festival .

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taste of cherry ( 1997 ) dir : abbas kiarostami country : iran . genre : drama .
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cherry coke and diet cherry coke with more cherry taste — closer to what people remembered from the soda fountain . cherry coke zero came to market in 2005 in response to men ' s attitudes about diet drinks . cherry - flavored coke products are now sold in 36 countries .
taste of cherry is an iranian movie written , produced and directed by abbas kiarostami in 1997 . golden palm at the cannes festival .
previous abbas kiarostami , the palme d’or - winning iranian director of 1997’s taste of cherry , has died in paris at 76 . the death was first reported by iranian news agencies .
winner of the palme d’or at the 1997 cannes film festival , iranian auteur abbas kiarostami’s taste of cherry is an emotionally complex meditation on life and death . middle - aged mr . badii ( homayoun ershadi ) drives through the hilly outskirts of tehran—searching for someone to rescue or bury him . criterion is proud to present the dvd premiere of taste of cherry in a beautiful widescreen transfer .
after paying admissions at this reception , you will set out for cherry picking .
please discard cherry seeds into the paper cup you are given at the reception .
“candito’s canvas in taste of cherry is bold , sexy , smart and unapologetic . the quotidian is anything but ordinary–it is a sensual assault of images that leaves us breathless , heady and drunk on language”
after a brief step off the path of complete love of iranian cinema with taxi , ( an unpopular view , i know ) , i’m right back on the love trail with abbas kiarostami’s a taste of cherry .
cherries are early summer fruits . you can enjoy cherry picking in lake kawaguchi vicinity between late june and early july . won ' t you come to taste our fresh and very sweet cherries ?
we’d love your help . let us know what’s wrong with this preview of look both ways by alison cherry .
first comes the annoying part : pitting the cherries . if you have a cherry pitter , it ' s easier and quicker to do this by hand , but you can also use this trick : remove the stems , and then place the cherry on the opening of a bottle ( the opening must be smaller than the cherry so that the cherry does not fall through ) . using a chopstick , press through the cherry and watch the pit fall into the bottle ! now the cherries can be eaten safely .
while not the same film , taxi and the wonderful iranian gem 20 fingers that i compared it to , and a taste of cherry takes place in a vehicle and it’s story plumed from conversations between passengers and driver . where taxi is obvious , a taste of cherry and 20 fingers are subtle , like poetry , or the scent of jasmine in bloom . where the motives and intentions of taxi are painfully clear , the other two are vague and mysterious , like the rest of iranian cinema i’ve…
i went into taste of cherry with roger ebert ' s heterodox review of the movie in my mind . and luckily , i ' m happy to say that i completely disagree with his take ( as i seem to often do ) .
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an iranian man drives his truck in search of someone who will quietly bury him under a cherry tree after he commits suicide .
“taste of cherry derives its name from the iranian filmmaker abbas kiarostami’s film of the same name about a man who considers suicide but decides to live after tasting mulberries . the title invokes something powerfully present in candito’s poems as glimmers of these pivotal moments of sensation emerge , revealing layers of meaning buried beneath the surface of our daily experience . ”
“the speaker of these poems wanders again and again ‘where the guidebook says danger , ’ and even as the poet finds terror and pain in the lavish wreckage of twisted urges , a formal clarity , fueled by a profound hunger for life , keeps asserting itself in taste of cherry . ”
2 . the ending of taste of cherry is not a reminder that we are watching ' a movie , ' but a reminder that a movie and the making of that movie work in parallel - thusly , a work of art and the creation of that work of art are in parallel . from this film onward , depicting truth becomes paramount to kiarostami…
thirty years ago , cherry coke debuted in bottles and cans , giving retailers and foodservice operators a novel new choice for their customers . since that time , the turn - of - the century soda fountain favorite has held its own in the realm of what one early cherry coke tv commercial called
a timeless taste
— and sales for what was an instant hit are still going strong . cherry - flavored coke products continue to show healthy year - over - year growth . according to a coca - cola brand manager , the cherry cola segment in general is up 4 . 4 % in volume over the last five years .
late iranian filmmaker abbas kiarostami had a career that spanned more than 40 years . some of his most acclaimed films include certified copy ( 2010 ) , close - up ( 1990 ) , and taste of cherry ( 1997 ) , which won the palme d ' or at cannes .
1 . in a book on kiarostami that came out around 2002 - 04 , there ' s an interview with ahmed kiarostami , where the interviewer asks :
why did your father direct taste of cherry ?
ahmed responded :
probably because he wanted to commit suicide .
yes , there is a humanistic feeling underlying the action . yes , an iranian director making a film on the forbidden subject of suicide must have courage . yes , we applaud the stirrings of artistic independence in the strict islamic republic . but is
taste of cherry
a worthwhile viewing experience ? i say it is not .
palme d’or - winning account of an iranian man who drives around in his truck in search of anyone who bury him beneath a cherry tree after he commits suicide beneath it .
kiarostami’s a taste of cherry tackles the concepts of alienation and need to escape by trapping the protagonist mr . badii in a car . the use of the car is a common thread throughout kiarostami’s films , because it forces characters to communicate . they can only talk and drive , their car passing backdrops and vistas that reflect their problematic situation .
cherry coke launched in early 1985 in select u . s . cities and rolled out nationwide that summer . it was
the first major entry into a whole new category : cherry - flavored sodas ,
brian dyson , president of coca - cola usa , told the coca - cola bottler at the time . the release of what one atlanta constitution contributor called
a wonderful memory
came after years of research and development , consumer testing at the 1982 world ' s fair , and thousands of requests from thirsty americans for cherry - flavored coke . just 10 weeks after its debut , the cherry coke brand had a consumer awareness level of 91 % .
taste of cherry might just be kiarostami ' s most iconic film , and for good reason . the bulk of the film is next level cinema , maybe his most consistently intoxicating frame by frame . the last several minutes , whilst true to form , remain my least favourite section of the film , a time when other kiarostamis are usually busy stamping their…
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“ like jerzy kosinski’s steps , these poems blur the lines , like a prism , between sex and gender . they question commonly held assumptions like : “men can’t cry , ” “women are the victims of patriarchal oppression , ” and “heterosexual intercourse is an expression of men’s power over women . ” since candito’s language is especially fraught and concerned with overturning such complex situations , taste of cherry is frequently electrified with a delicate mix of both clarity and complexity . ”
there was great drama at cannes last year when the iranian director abbas kiarostami was allowed , at the last moment , to leave his country and attend the festival premiere of his new film ,
taste of cherry .
he received a standing ovation as he entered the theater , and another at the end of his film ( although this time mixed with boos ) , and the jury eventually made the film co - winner of the palme d ' or .
in kara candito’s prize - winning debut collection a “garish / human theatre” comes to life against richly textured geographic and psychic landscapes . these poems are high - speed meditations on a world where walter benjamin meets the “glitzy chain - link of chanel scarves” and puccini’s tosca meets the din of the times square subway station . ferociously witty and intensely lyrical , taste of cherry speaks to us in a language that is simultaneously private and public , sensual and cerebral .
the sense of being trapped in a rigorous monotony is exemplified by the production design and location vistas . a taste of cherry ’s production design is centered on shades of dirt . mr . badii’s car , both its exterior and interior , are varying shades of brown and beige . the characters clothes , bags , skin and hair all work within the limited color palette . the design pushes upon us a lifeless quality , a never - ending desert of blandness . the constant use of earth colors , of shades of yellow , beige and brown becomes oppressing . dust rises up , obscuring the camera’s point of view . its lens displays lifelessness , a lack of growth and impending death .
originally , the target audience for cherry coke was
adventurous consumers of all ages .
in 1987 , young people ages 8 to 19 accounted for 46 . 3 % of sales volume . marketing efforts in the 1990s were heavily geared toward teenagers , and the brand still represents an opportunity for retailers and foodservice providers to recruit young people . families are also buying more cherry coke products — particularly families in the american heartland . retailers trying to increase basket size should take note that in terms of dollars , shopper baskets are 53 % greater than when cherry cola is not in the basket , according to a coca - cola brand manager .
“candito reminds her readers that whether physical or emotional , real connection is an art form . although the collection is at times uneven ( what book isn’t ? ) , taste of cherry ’s strongest poems introduce candito as something rare : a writer brave enough to confront what’s emotionally terrifying and true . writing from her gut , candito strives “in bright , carnal letters” to prove that even in “last happiness”—“brief , brutal”—there is a degree of happiness still . ”
the tongues of most mammals hold taste receptors—proteins on the cellular surface that bind to an incoming substance , activating the cell ' s internal workings that lead to a signal being sent to the brain . humans enjoy five kinds of taste buds ( possibly six ) : sour , bitter , salty , umami ( or meatiness ) and sweet ( as well as possibly fat ) . the sweet receptor is actually made up of two coupled proteins generated by two separate genes : known as tas1r2 and tas1r3 .
where to begin with abbas kiarostami ' s taste of cherry - maybe i should eat a mulberry ? perhaps go walk outside and stand in the sun ? take in all that nature has to offer ? see all the young children happily playing ? or generally stated : enjoy life in all it ' s simplicities and bare essentials . no matter our place in this world , we all have our problems to sort out .
taste of cherry’s resolution is a startling one ; kiarostami has had to defend its seeming illogic and eeriness in several interviews . he usually does so with another shrug :
i did think this was a really big risk , but it was a risk worth taking . even when i hear people arguing about the ending of the film , i like it because it means the movie hasn’t ended . . . that the film has a life in their minds .
with more than 40 films to his credit , most filmed in iran , kiarostami is best known for his so - called koker trilogy from ’87 to ’94 ( where is the friend’s home ? , life , and nothing more… , and through the olive trees ) , 1990’s close - up , 1999’s the wind will carry us and taste of cherry , the 1997 film that won the palme d’or at that year’s cannes film festival .
njss members welcomed our 2013 cherry blossom princess , hannah rimar , and the other state princesses at the annual cherry blossom congressional reception on april 10 and the taste of the states dinner at fort myer , va on april 11 . at the congressional reception in the cannon house office building , our princess , hannah rimar of califon , nj , was introduced and escorted by lautenberg chief of staff dan katz . hannah is a staff assistant for the senator . also present were officials from nj - based pharmaceutical company otsuka , the top sponsor of the ncss ' s national cherry blossom princess program . these included molly ryan , tami carten and chad ozbecki . also in attendance was njss vice president steve oriol . the next night , at the taste of the states event at fort myer , guests enjoyed food and beverages from every region of the united states . thank you campbell soup company and your pepperidge farm division for donating the gourmet ecce panis rolls , made in east brunswick , nj . they were a big hit ! at our new jersey table , we had a display honoring the garden state as a center of agriculture . we reminded guests that the jersey shore is open for business this summer and that new jersey is a center of us - based manufacturing . in addition to campbell soup and otsuka , thanks also go to daiichi - sankyo , panasonic and prudential for supporting us and ensuring that new jersey could participate in this event and the cherry blossom festival in general .
is it a cake ? is it a pie ? no matter ! it ' s wonderfully sweet and brings the taste of summer directly to your plate . try the recipe using other fruits , depending on what ' s in season . enjoy !
a tip for cannes competition watchers is that while the big names are usually favourites for the palme , the unmissable films often turn out to be the outsiders , the ones that many critics use as an excuse to bunk off and catch up on their sleep . two years ago , that was exactly what happened when the competition jury gave the palme d ' or jointly to imamura ' s the eel and kiarostami ' s a taste of cherry .
people seem to enjoy this movie to the extent that they fill in the long , slow shots with thoughts of their own . i suppose that this is a fitting response to taste of cherry , a languidly paced meditation on the unbridgeable distances between people . i think kiarostami takes boredom as a narrative strategy about as far as it can be taken , however , and although i liked the movie , it ' s an exhausting experience and not one i would recommend to most people .
bagheri talks of how he had felt trapped and depressed but was able to recognize the beauty of life and the fulfillment of living for others . in bagheri’s case , it was his wife , children and the taste of a ripe cherry that brought him back . he was able to appreciate the beauty of life and it gave him a desire to teach that recognition to others . he shows badii a world filled with life . he sings about cherries and the glories of nature , a nature that is foreign to the world badii has been driving through all day . bagheri’s words and the world he introduces begin to affect badii .
john & neville , those are both fascinating readings of the film ; the quote from kiarostami re : the ending is great . ( although : taste of kiarostami ? really ? ) neville , good call on the use of the windows - - i wonder if i would have noticed that if i saw the film again now .
the brand represented the first flavored extension of the company ' s flagship trademark , and reception was strong . according to bottlers in test markets at the time , acceptance of the new product by both consumers and the trade was
phenomenal .
building on that initial energy , the coca - cola company introduced diet cherry coke to the u . s . market in 1986 . by the end of that year , cherry coke was positioned no . 10 among all soft drink products , held a 3 . 5 share of the sugar cola market and a 1 . 7 share of total soft drink market .
kiarostami does what he can to prevent the spectators from getting emotionally involved with mr . badie . but , damn i ' ve tasted the cherry . . . still can ' t get mr . badie ' s forlorn face out of my head : |
everyone who has written about taste of cherry has to find some way to deal with the fact that this is an incredibly slow movie . some people describe it as
languid ,
or
deliberately paced .
everyone uses the word
meditation
at some point . one synopsis reads ,
when kiarostami directs , the doors are opened to metaphysical reflection .
that ' s undeniable . but the doors are opened to metaphysical reflection when staring at a blank wall , too .
many films are bad . only a few declare themselves the work of people deficient in taste , judgment , reason , tact , morality and common sense . was there no one connected with this project who read the screenplay , considered the story , evaluated the proposed film and vomited ?
whether as a result of this dietary choice or the cause of it , all cats—lions , tigers and british longhairs , oh my—lack 247 base pairs of the amino acids that make up the dna of the tas1r2 gene . as a result , it does not code for the proper protein , it does not merit the name gene ( only pseudogene ) , and it does not permit cats to taste sweets .
they don ' t taste sweet the way we do ,
says joe brand , biochemist and associate director at the monell chemical senses center in philadelphia .
they ' re lucky . cats really have bad teeth as it is .
mike perkis , director of corporate marketing for coca - cola bottling co . consolidated in charlotte , north carolina , reported that initial results were three times original projections , adding that
cherry coke now makes up 6 % of our total cola sales ,
according to a report in the coca - cola bottler .
a majority of a taste of cherry takes place in mr . badii’s car , with the camera either focused on the driver or his passenger . the camera is locked ; it does not move . the world outside blurs by . sheets of glass sit between the characters and the exterior creating the impression of two linked but separate worlds . to mr . baddi , there is a danger in the outside world and his car acts as a protective bubble of glass and metal . the occasional shot from the hood of the car shows the protagonist through the windshield , boxed in by the steel frame of his vehicle . at times the sun reflects off the glass , obscuring the occupants from view . the film expresses badii in the moment , blind to others’ points of view and trapped inside his own depression .
any moral to the story is so tacit as to be almost unnoticeable . if there are any ' lessons ' to be learned they are almost immediately subverted . if mr . badii is kiarostami’s alter ego , if the life he finds in film , the sense of hope , the taste of cherry , has been torn from him , buried by the oppressive government , then he too is trapped . each carefully planned frame of the movie resonates the sense of weariness , separation and entrapment that we have all experienced . there is an escape , a world beyond , but we must be willing to change our plans and take the road less traveled .
in this documentary , kiarostami asks a number of students about their school homework . the answers of some children shows the darker side of this method of education .
the sensation of being trapped pervades abbas kiarostami’s a taste of cherry ( 1997 ) . the film tells the story of a mr . badii ( homayon ershadi ) and his quest to commit suicide . without giving any background to his character , the film illustrates badii as a man trapped in a society that is continually closing in around him . the film’s carefully controlled style conveys how an orthodox iranian society can trap its protagonist , director , and audience . claustrophobic imagery of repetition and burial permeates every sequence . the choice of shots , framing , production locations and colors allows the audience to experience badii’s personal entrapment , even if we do not know his reasons for suicide . in acknowledging the burden of this society , kiarostami also offers an inkling of hope , a sense that despite life’s trials there ' s a remarkable sense of beauty in nature and humanity .
it is clear that kiarostami has , in fact , chosen his subjects carefully . taste of cherry is the story of man ,
mr . badii ,
who , in the face of personal and social pressures , is contemplating , indeed planning , an elaborate suicide . the film is his quest for an accomplice . through the arid , dusty hills of tehran , at a strange , allegorical construction site , he searches for a partner in this act of supreme egoism , his own self - destruction . a soldier , turks , afghans , prisoners , a seminary student , a museum employee , all are enlisted . but one by one , those he approaches turn him down . religious scruples , fear , and optimism deny him a confederate .
as a painless alternative to traditional ear piercing , why not hang a pair of fresh cherries from your ear ? no ? well luckily , this sweet fruit tastes as wonderful as it looks . after you buy your next batch of cherries - or pick them from a tree ! - why not try making this classic french dessert : cherry clafoutis .
it has been a struggle , but abbas kiarostami has found a way , even under the eyes of the iranian regime , to say exactly what he wants to say . that many of his films seem like elaborate , essentially wordless , parables is not coincidental . for all their seeming otherness , believes kiarostami , post - revolutionary iranians are walking a universal path . theirs is the same slow , painful trudge across the forbidding mountains and into an ever - receding middle distance that all modern souls have to make . thus , the journey of taste of cherry is less an iranian one than a human one . and by taking it , we may find commonality with a culture whose ways westerners have yet to come to grips with .
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( ta’m e guilass ) a middle - aged man drives his truck in the outskirts of tehran looking for someone to help him out with a very specific and unusual request . iranian auteur abbas kiarostami ‘s minimalist philosophical film engulfs the viewer in it’s atmosphere and raises the most simple , yet complex questions about life , death and the human condition . filmed in a series of long takes , well composed and precisely timed . unexpected and memorable ending . won the palme d’or at the 1997 cannes film festival . despite this , the film was met with a polarized critical opinion . most critics praised taste of cherry greatly , calling it a masterpiece , others , however dismissed it as being boring due to the slow editing and minimalist directorial method . it has since been reevaluated and praised more , considered by many to be one of the greatest films of the decade and of all time .
i agree with kiarostami that there are films that
nail you to the seat and overwhelm you to the point that you forget everything , but you feel cheated later .
i think a lot of stylish , visually interesting , narratively dead films are that way ( oldboy , to name a recent example ) . but i also think that the best films , my favorite films , are the ones that nail you to the seat and overwhelm you , but for a purpose . and even a slowly - paced film ( andrei rublev ) can do that . but taste of cherry is more of a rorschach blot than a movie ; what you get from it depends on what you bring to it , more than any other film i ' ve seen .
this book is set at a prestigious theater camp , allerdale , and takes place over the course of the summer . our main character , brooklyn , is a mediocre actress at best and much prefers writing musical theatre pieces to singing them , but she feels pressured by her family full of broadway royalty to continue their legacy . as a former theater kid ( and current music student ) who has been to countless summer programs like the one portrayed in look both ways , i thought cherry nailed the setting . at programs like allerdale , there ' s almost always a strange duality : the entire cast of a production bonds and becomes almost like family during the process of putting on a show , but there ' s always a slight undercurrent of competition and jealousy there that can boil into drama at any moment . cherry perfectly portrayed this tension , and she captured the different types of people that you meet at arts programs perfectly in this cast of characters .
there ' s no getting around the fact that the movies of abbas kiarostami divide audiences - - in this country , in his native iran , and everywhere else they ' re shown . even in france , where his work has probably been celebrated longer than anywhere else , a couple of his earlier features reportedly flopped , though subsequent ones gained a passionate following - - a pattern that resembles my own mixed reaction when i first encountered his work about five years ago at the toronto film festival . i can no longer recall which film of his i saw first , but one that i now regard as profound and mysterious ,
where is my friend ' s house ?
, initially struck me as bland and pedestrian , a comedy about schoolchildren that seemed to be aiming for the charm of minor truffaut - - cute at best . and it wasn ' t until a few days after i saw
life and nothing more
that the full richness of it began to settle in . lately i ' ve come to realize that what i regard as the most wondrous thing to happen in cinema in many years , kiarostami ' s movies , strikes a few friends and colleagues as boring and empty , even predictable - - enough of them to make me realize that recognition of kiarostami ' s greatness can ' t be taken for granted , even though his
taste of cherry
shared the palme d ' or at cannes last year . and some colleagues who share my reverence for
taste of cherry
part company with me over its startling final sequence - - which they see as a blemish on an otherwise masterful work and i see as the element that makes it a masterpiece .
taste of cherry starts slow , with a man driving around in circles , stopping every now and then to talk to people on the street . after the title card , he gives a lift to a young soldier walking back to his barracks . they talk . badii , the driver , has a job offer . the soldier insists he needs to be back before six o’clock . at the twenty - three minute mark , the film’s story finally shifts into focus : badii is going to kill himself , and he wants the soldier to bury him . this opening feels strangely protracted , and it will take longer still for the film’s themes to cohere . the most fascinating and frustrating elements of abbas kiarostami’s film are its elusiveness .
what ' s become clear over the years is this : people love cherry coke . from its start , the brand grew organically . it found an early following and continues to attract both youthful consumers and those who are old enough to remember fondly the old - fashioned soda fountain favorite for 30 years .
the ballad of narayama
is a japanese film of great beauty and elegant artifice , telling a story of startling cruelty . what a space it opens…
updated director martin scorsese released this statement on the death of abbas kiarostami : “i was deeply shocked and saddened when i heard the news of abbas kiarostami’s death . he was one of those rare artists with a special knowledge of the world , put into words by the great jean renoir : ‘reality is always magic . ’ for me , that statement sums up kiarostami’s extraordinary body of work . some refer to his pictures as ‘minimal’ or ‘minimalist , ’ but it’s actually the opposite : every scene in taste of cherry or where is the friend’s house ? is overflowing with beauty and surprise , patiently and exquisitely captured . i got to know abbas over the last 10 or 15 years . he was a very special human being : quiet , elegant , modest , articulate , and quite observant – i don’t think he missed anything . our paths crossed too seldom , and i was always glad when they did . he was a true gentleman , and , truly , one of our great artists . ”
so glad i found your blog . i was searching for an explanation of the end of this film , taste of cherry , and you gave me a nice one . actually , i had to watch this movie over two nights because it was just too stressful for me . i did not find it boring at all , but was on the edge of my seat and my stomach was tied up in knots . i have done a lot of hitchhiking and come upon curious drivers like him . he gave me the creeps . not knowing what he was all about , he could have been on the prowl for sex with strangers , or trying to kill someone randomly . it was too creepy to watch all in one night . one question , do iranians talk to each other so easily , and at such length ? or is this a peculiarity of our hero ? watching criterion movies is like reading a book published by penguin , you just know it ' s gotta be good .
brand and his colleague xia li first discovered the pseudogene after decades of anecdotal evidencesuch as cats showing no preference between sweetened and regular water , unlike other animals—testifying to their indifference to the sweet stuff . of course , there are also plenty of anecdotal accounts pointing in the other direction : cats that eat ice cream , relish cotton candy , chase marshmallows .
maybe some cats can use their [ tas1r3 receptor ] to taste high concentrations of sugar ,
brand says .
it ' s a very rare thing but we don ' t know yet .
if we ' re to feel sympathy for badhi , wouldn ' t it help to know more about him ? to know , in fact , anything at all about him ? what purpose does it serve to suggest at first he may be a homosexual ? ( not what purpose for the audience - - what purpose for badhi himself ? surely he must be aware his intentions are being misinterpreted . ) and why must we see kiarostami ' s camera crew - - a tiresome distancing strategy to remind us we are seeing a movie ? if there is one thing
taste of cherry
does not need , it is such a reminder : the film is such a lifeless drone that we experience it only as a movie .
yasha - yasha is the young manservant who has been traveling with ranevsky ever since she left for france . he is always complaining about how uncivilized russia is when compared to france , exploits dunyasha ' s love for him for physical pleasure , and openly tells firs that he is so old he should die . most of the characters besides ranevsky regard him as repulsive and obnoxious . he has a strong taste for acrid - smelling cigars .
what kind of queerbaiting bullshit was i just tricked into reading ? i ' ll start with the positives . the writing was okay . i thought alison cherry really captured the feeling of being involved in theatre ; it ' s a bubble where competitiveness and affection exist alongside one another in weird harmony , and everything that happens , big or small , feels magnified or more important then it would otherwise . i enjoyed reading that and i enjoyed brooklyn discovering her passion for songwriting and storytelli
“in kara candito’s remarkable first collection , we feel in the presence of a sure , authoritative voice , an intelligence and sensibility capable of registering the complexities of the sensual life . ”
roger ebert became film critic of the chicago sun - times in 1967 . he is the only film critic with a star on hollywood walk of fame and was named honorary life member of the directors ' guild of america . he won the lifetime achievement award of the screenwriters ' guild , and honorary degrees from the american film institute and the university of colorado at boulder .
sugar and spice and everything nice hold no interest for a cat . our feline friends are only interested in one thing : meat ( except for saving up the energy to catch it by napping , or a round of restorative petting ) this is not just because inside every domestic tabby lurks a killer just waiting to catch a bird or torture a mouse , it is also because cats lack the ability to taste sweetness , unlike every other mammal examined to date .
the french films of marker , goddard and truffault encapsulate a sense of alienation and entrapment with regards to social norms . the works of herzog , fassbinder and von trotta in germany look at a culture that , in the mistreatment of outsiders , is in danger of repeating its terrible past . decades later , the directors of the iranian new wave would examine a post - revolutionary culture where freedoms have been limited for a large portion of the population .
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in tribute to the late , legendary iranian director abbas kiarostami , siff presents the distinctive palme d ' or - winning film taste of cherry on its 20th anniversary . mr . badii , a middle - aged man in tehran , is intent on killing himself and seeks someone to bury him after his demise . in this quest , he drives around the city , meeting with numerous candidates . the first is a shy , young kurdish soldier who refuses to do the job and flees from badii ' s car in alarm . his second recruit is an afghani seminarian , who also declines because he has religious objections to suicide . the third is an azeri taxidermist ; he is willing to help badii because he needs the money to care for a sick child . but as their conversation continues , the azeri begins to try to talk him out of his plans . the film , considered by many to be kiarostami’s masterwork , is narratively simple and emotionally rich—the distillation of a philosophical inquiry into those things that make life worth living , including , for one of the great directors of our time , the cinematic form itself .
getting a major film made in fundamentalist iran requires an appropriately theological attitude : the work has to be parochial enough to satisfy the mullahs who monitor state culture at a dozen different points , yet it must also be a work of widespread and universal meaning if the film is to have international success . abbas kiarostami has negotiated this narrow path with extraordinary success . his taste of cherry ( winner of the palme d’or , cannes film festival , 1997 ) had to survive a tortuous three - level censorship process . first , cast , crew , and script had to pass scrutiny for the film to receive a production permit . then , the finished film had to be screened for the purity of islamic cultural ideals , in order to receive a screening permit . and finally , state authorities had to decide whether the film would receive status as a ‘quality’ film , which would allow it to be advertised on the state - owned television network and get the best playing times at the nation’s most prestigious theaters . throughout the process , the representation of women and of sexual desire is strictly regulated . the 1979 revolution was hard on the iranian film industry in other ways , including the wave of arson that destroyed hundreds of theaters in the name of anti - western purification . thousands of films which had been previously shown in the country were reevaluated by state censors , and only a few hundred survived to be certified for screening again , a deep blow to the nation’s film culture .
the vast majority of the movie is one of the two shots above , or a wide shot of the range rover winding through the hills , as badii and his passengers converse about suicide . kiarostami does have an eye for interestingly framed shots , like this one , of workers converging on badii ' s car to push it out of a ditch :
this might be my favorite alison cherry book yet . ( well , tied with next year ' s the classy crooks club ! ) everything about this story shines , from the vivid setting of summer theater camp allerdale , to the relationship between zoe and brooklyn , to brooklyn herself - - a wonderful , authentic protagonist trying to figure out who she is , who she loves , and how to navigate the changing relationships with her family and friends . hilarious , heartfelt , and beautifully written .
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films and filmmaking are means of escape , of breaking free from the world around us . entrapment , alienation and the role of the outsider are prevalent themes throughout new wave cinema . as filmmakers sought out contemporary means of expression , their cameras focused on individuals attempting to escape societies’ binds .
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“but the way she [ candito ] seduces you most essentially is in the overall sense in these poems of an intelligence exploring the border between civilization and chaos . indeed , candito is the flâneuse in the baudelairean sense of a “stroller of the streets , ” who plays a double role in the detached observation of and the active participation in the life of the city . ”
mrs . lyuba ranevsky - mrs . ranevksy is a middle - aged russian woman , the owner of the estate and the cherry orchard around which the story revolves . she has faced tragedy many times in her life , or rather has tried to escape from it . her first name ,
lyuba ,
means
love
in russian , and she seems to exemplify love with her generosity , kindness and physical beauty , and sexual nature ; she is the only character in the play with a lover . but her feelings of love often cloud her judgment , and she is also unable to control her spending , a sign of her disconnection from her present status as an impoverished aristocrat .
i am a huge fan of this film , and at timed i think people are trying to niche a film into something when it isn ' t anything . the movie barley has any plot , the cinematography is boring , the dialouge is rigid , adn the only lines that really catch any attention were those about the taste of cherry . to me this film is just a master piece of existentialism . the way the film concludes , reminding you that nothing you just saw matters , mr . badii doesn ' t matter , his life doesn ' t matter , and neither does this movie your watching , and that ' s why i refuse to end it . thinking about the movie from that perspective , that the movie is simply doesn ' t matter , much like our lives i think the movie can pick up a life of its own . that ' s what kiarostami does in many of his films , he cares about the final feeling , and tone he sets , rather then the expierence of the film . for example he has this documentary about a massive traffic jam , that he films entirley in tight close ups . in the end you feel unbelivably clostraphobic , like those that were stuck in the traffic jam , even though the movie was a complete bore to watch . so i geuss with kiarostami the real question you need to ask is
at the end , how did i feel ?
i have just seen your blog and you reaaly are doing a great job . i think some more recent spines , especially after 200 , are more interesting but there clearly are many important films that you have already reviewed . taste of cherry is one of my favorite criterions and i don ' t agree with you on most points , but you did get why i ( and a lot of other people ) love this film . this film reminded me so many little precious details that make life much more interesting . and it had the irony that all these things are so little that the only thing we evetually see is a huge meaninglessness . and when a film is trying to tell us how insignificant and little our lives and problems are , it ' s only even more meainigful that not much happens in it . i think the life in a mountain in iran is not much more different than what we see in the film , so for many people , there is nothing woth filming here . but the life is worth filming , not because anything interesting happens , but because it exists . the cinematography of this film is gorgeous in comparison to kiarostami ' s many other films , especially 10 . anyway , i ' m happy to discover your blog and you really have some writing talent .
scientists do know , however , that cats can taste things we cannot , such as adenosine triphosphate ( atp ) , the compound that supplies the energy in every living cell .
there isn ' t a lot hanging around in meat , but it ' s a signal for meat ,
brand says . and plenty of other animals have a different array of receptors , li says , from chickens that also lack the sweet gene to catfish that can detect amino acids in water at nanomolar concentrations .
their receptor is more sensitive than the background concentration ,
brand notes .
the catfish that detects the rotting food first is the one that survives .
producing sentences with full stops and aware of capital letters to start when supported .
kiarostami strikes again with another provocative film , very much in the same vein as his others : drawn out films that involve a very introspective soul - searching of all of the character ' s involved , and in so doing , finding some more meaning to the idea of what life is all about . from the beginning to the end , kiarostami gives us a complex script of characters that we come into contact with , and as we learn about each one , we learn more about the idea of life . what makes the film very interesting for a western viewer is that i find closer to kiarostami ' s iran after each of his films that i watch , and become more informed to it . we learn intimate details about the lives of several iranians . throughout the film i found that , although like many of his films it was quite slow - paced , it contained the extraordinarily rich dialog that is expected of a kiarostami film . his films advance through their rich dialog while using the dusty iranian landscape as their backdrop . i found a lot of the cinematography to be terrific , viewing the city from a distance and looking into the dusty foot - hills on the outskirts of tehran . it is more than poetic to see a man at the end of his rope searching through the dust and faces of tehran ' s poor laborers for answers about life and death . in many ways , the film is a large metaphor for the human state of affairs . the film culminates very well , and we all eventually find our own taste of cherry in the film . i always feel as if kiarostami ' s films are a very philosophical experience , and are quite personal . in this sense , kiarostami ' s films are amongst the best that i have seen . however , they are undoubtedly slower paced than other films , and they require the viewer to detach himself from any western stereotypes that he has about film . this would not be a good film for somebody expecting action or a typical western film , but rather , this would be a film that i would recommend only to those who are in the mood for an insightful , philosophical film that shows an alternative view of life . overall , it was an emotionally powerful film that will stick out in my memory as all kiarostami films do .


one false move is a 1992 american thriller film co-written by billy bob thornton .

the film stars thornton alongside bill paxton and cynda williams and was directed by carl franklin .

the low-budget production was about to be released straight to home video when it was finished , but became popular through word of mouth , convincing the distributor to give the film a theatrical release .

film critic gene siskel voted this film as his favorite of 1992 .

one false move

for most of the way , one false move is taut and sure - footed .
all it takes to bring him down is one bullet . . . one woman or . . . one false move .
really good post . i’ve had the “one false move” mentality all or most of my life .
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clark franklin ' s one false move brings a shotgun to a knife fight , and the results aren ' t pretty .
one false move trailer 1992 director : carl franklin starring : bill paxton , cynda williams , michael beach , jim metzler , billy bob thornton , official content from sony pictures home entertainment los angeles drug dealers , two men and a woman , flee for the girl ' s hometown in arkansas after becoming embroiled in murder . movie , one false move movie , one false move trailer , one false move 1992 , carl franklin , bill paxton , cynda williams , michael beach , jim metzler , billy bob thornton ,
franklin ' s convincing portrait of life on both sides of the color line isn ' t quite like anything i ' ve come across before , making one false move one very assured directorial move . we need more filmmakers like him .
the ending has me in tears ! oh my lord , one false move is a recommendation for all . bill paxton is so good in this , ugh .
the biggest difference between one false move and most other action films is the sting in its violence . there is so little stylization here - - so little gimmickry - - that when someone is shot or knifed , you feel it .
likewise , one must give up rationality if one is to live life as a passionate , highly motivated person would .
july 18 , 1992 , praised the film :
' one false move ' is a thriller with a hair - trigger sense of tension . directed by newcomer carl franklin , its power comes from the stripped - down simplicity of its style and the unblinking savagery of its violence .
it ' s natural to react strongly to unjust criticism , but this is rarely a wise career move .
i am so fed up that one false move from the other party and i run like the dickens . seriously , i hardly blame myself anymore…i chuck up the deuces and bounce as soon as i smell a rotten fish trying play a silly game . chuck up those deuces , ladies , bounce !
and this is where you can learn something else about blame and this whole one false move mentality – blame is about thinking about , in fact often ruminating over what you feel that you could have prevented if you had acted differently , been different , or said something else . it’s clutching at straws .
one false move
is a thriller with a hair - trigger sense of tension . directed by newcomer carl franklin , its power comes from the stripped - down simplicity of its style and the unblinking savagery of its violence . franklin ' s approach to violence isn ' t voluptuous or romantic ; it ' s harsh and unfussy and realistic . without its lethal edge , this story about a drug deal gone sour might seem routine , just another drug movie . but this ruthless element , along with a handful of impressive performances , separates
one false move
from the other films in its genre . it creates its own grim space .
that was the last straw , i told him to move on and don’t look / call / text / write again .
blame is very much about taking other people’s inadequacies and then equating this to you being inadequate as if you’re provoking it . the whole one false move mentality gives you this almighty power born of your ‘worth’ that causes a chain reaction of catastrophic events . then you say “i’m not good enough . this all happened because of me . ” really ?
yet no words of praise can quite reflect the seductive strength of “one false move , ” which begins as a crime story and ends as a human story in which everything that happens depends on the personalities of the characters . it ' s so rare to find a film in which the events are driven by people , not by chases or special effects .
yep , i have the book and it shocked me at how accurate it is about my experience . ( i’ve mentioned my mother on here a few times . ) i still haven’t finished it ; i wasn’t “ready” yet but now i think that i am . this definitely contributes to the “one false move” mentality & does lots of damage , some irreparable .
learner , where you are now i think is ‘normal’ for this stage of nc ; you will move beyond this . take heart .
a superbly understated thriller from director carl franklin , an afi graduate whose previous work was limited to roger corman outings like nowhere to run and full fathom five . one false move opens in suburban los angeles with the brutal murder of several family members and friends as part of a cash and cocaine robbery . the culprits are an interracial trio . . . read more
the one false move mentality is when you have an inclination to make things that aren’t about you about you and you work off this idea that if you hadn’t done this or you hadn’t been that , or you’d said this or that , or you’d just been a ‘worthy’ ‘enough’ person then x wouldn’t have happened – x is the other person’s behaviour or a situation .
one false move is a quintessential neo - noir film . had it been released in the 1940s or 1950s , with some small tweaks , it would have been right at home . in 1992 , it served as a last beacon of a bygone era in film . directed by carl franklin , one false move is a southern - set film about three people - ray malcolm ( billy bob thornton ) , fantasia ( cynda williams ) , and pluto ( michael beach ) - that kill six people and rip off a drug dealer . headed to star city , arkansas after hoping to have sold the drugs in houston , lapd detectives dud cole ( jim metzler ) and john mcfeely ( earl billings ) head to arkansas to wait for them . in arkansas , they are greeted by dale
hurricane
…
the “one false move” mentality is such a heavy burden to carry . i think that it’s natural to feel that way every once in a while , but it’s important to realize the truth sooner rather than later and , like natalie said , “what they should be doing is a mix of being realistic and looking beyond their own perspective as well as where appropriate , taking responsibility for their own actions . ”
typically , the presence of one error means that there are other errors to be uncovered .
thank you atrophy for this . i hope one day soon i will be at this stage .
when boating , use common sense . have one life preserver for each person in the boat .
“one false move” begins in los angeles with a series of brutal murders of people in the drug underworld . three people are involved : two men who have teamed up to steal drugs and money , and the girlfriend of one of them . they ' re played by billy bob thornton as a violent , insecure red - neck type ; cynda williams as his lover , a black woman obviously deeply wounded in the past , and michael beach as the partner , a black man whose wire - rim glasses and impassive reserve conceal a capacity for sudden , cold violence .
carl franklin ' s career has been mostly in acting until now , on stage and in several tv series . he directed some low - budget exploitation films , attended the american film institute and then got “one false move” as his first substantial film project . it is a powerful directing job . he starts with an extraordinary screenplay and then finds the right tones and moods for every scene , realizing it ' s not the plot we care about , it ' s the people .
there ' s no other explanation as to why a film as outstanding as one false move , which was critically acclaimed on its release , has become almost completely forgotten . i mean , it went straight to video here in the uk and only really gained any attention over here due to an extended run of screenings by sky movies , and it was about to get the same treatment in the usa before enthusiastic reviews from the likes of gene siskel persuaded distributors into giving it a…
here is a crime movie that lifts you up and carries you along in an ominously rising tide of tension , building to an emotional payoff of amazing power . on the very short list of great movies about violent criminals , “one false move” deserves a place of honor , beside such different kinds of films as “ in cold blood , ” “ henry : portrait of a serial killer , ” “ badlands , ” “the executioner ' s song” and “ at close range . ” it is a great film - one of the best of the year - and announces the arrival of a gifted director , carl franklin .
when towing a water skier , use common sense . have one person watching the skier at all times .
the claim that whatever has not yet been proved false must be true ( or vice versa ) . essentially the arguer claims that he should win by default if his opponent can ' t make a strong enough case .
blame is like a magic eraser that removes all other parties and absolves them of the blame while you’re at it , taking you out of reality . responsibility and reality not only paints them back into the picture and let’s you own your own stuff without seeing yourself as being intrinsically linked to them , but it lets you move on instead of remaining stuck on the one thing that really wasn’t the one thing .
if one does not understand a debate , it must be
fair
to split the difference , and agree on a compromise between the opinions . ( but one side is very possibly wrong , and in any case one could simply suspend judgment . ) journalists often invoke this fallacy in the name of
balanced
coverage .
paxton re - teamed with his one false move co - star billy bob thornton for director sam raimi’s excellent , underrated adaptation of scott b . smith’s acclaimed thriller novel . though they were playing minnesotans instead of southerners , the actors drew on their common middle - american roots to bring life to the roles of two working - class brothers who stumble onto a dead body – and millions of dollars . paxton’s hank mitchell is the smarter of the two siblings , and the one with the stronger conscience , making this another perfect part for him : a quietly decent man of action whose knitted brow and thoughtful stare reveal every worry and calculation . nm
ellyb – i still catch myself saying “i feel so stupid ! ” when i get sick . like intelligence has anything to do with it ! lol ! i stop the thought and move on .
similarly , in
the mythology of modern dating methods
( john woodmorappe , 1999 ) we find on page 42 that two scientists
cannot agree
about which one of two geological dates is
real
and which one is
spurious
. woodmorappe fails to mention that the two dates differ by less than one percent .
21 . learning to receive false criticism—feedback that has no constructive value—without losing your confidence is a must if you want to do big things in life . the more attention your work receives , the more criticism you’ll have to field .
living in the past and reliving hurts and rejections because you’re hanging yourself on one false move serves you no purpose , not least because you fail to see the wood for the trees . yeah , maybe you could have said / done something different , but that would only affect you and in a relationship that wasn’t working for you anyway , it might have meant you wouldn’t have been it in the first place . people work off their own motivations and agendas and so whatever and whoever they are is based on what they’re already inclined to do .
we can’t control what other people will say to us . but we can control how we internalize it , respond to it , and learn from it , and when we release it and move on .
demke – i hear ya . i get the same crap – say something in the wrong tone…done . say how you feel…done . you are exactly right – you didn’t do something horrible ( like cheat , or lie , etc . ) ! you were just being you trying to protect you . and we cannot continue to be “punished” for being a human being with human emotions and the human capacity to make mistakes . in a relationship no one is perfect and if you can’t say something wrong , apologize for it and be forgiven then it’s not a relationship . i am in the same situation and feel like i am constantly walking on egg shells having to be perfect and basically holding in my every instinct to love the only way i know how out of fear of making “one false move . ” not to mention if i do make a false move and apologize , it comes up in every disagreement . he never moves on from anything and uses it as ammunition the next time . it’s a horrible cycle that hurts like hell . good luck on your nc . i am working on getting there myself .
“by the way , i saw a comment of mine from two years ago from a link , where i wasn’t in a relationship and at that time had no intention of being in a relationship . and now i am in one . the most peaceful one i have been in for about twenty years . and the only one where our values chime . ”
after a couple minutes of verbal sparring , one of my peers actually said , “stop talking . you’re embarrassing yourself . ”
the movie ' s fevered early scenes set the heightened emotional tone . franklin ' s method in these sequences is surreptitious and detached ; the shock of the brutality may sneak up on you , as it does when pluto casually places a pillowcase over each of his victims ' heads and coolly stabs them to death . but this bloody matter - of - factness is the film ' s most startling twist . like
henry : portrait of a serial killer ,
one false move
gets its effects by virtue of an almost surgical clinicism ; it has a reportorial feel , a sense of verite immediacy .
carl franklin made his directorial bow with the story of three la drug dealers who , after committing a rather messy murder , hide out in a rural arkansas town . assuming that the local
rubes
will offer them little interference , the criminals have not reckoned with sheriff
hurricane
dixon ( bill paxton ) . despite the arrogance of the lapd agents sent to arkansas to collar the crooks , it is down - home dixon who puts the final bloody showdown into motion ( the fact that the thieves have been falling out throughout the film doesn ' t hurt things either ) . carl franklin knows where he ' s going in every frenetic frame of one false move , and his movie was one of the most acclaimed independent releases of 1991 .
similarly , all piles of stones are small , since if you add one stone to a small pile of stones it remains small .
or :
after treatment with the drug , one - third of the mice were cured , one - third died , and the third mouse escaped .
does this mean that if we treated a thousand mice , 333 would be cured ? well , no .
if you go from one idea to the next quickly enough , the audience won ' t have time to think . this is connected to
one of the strengths of the film is the way it draws its interpersonal relationships . as the thornton and williams characters veer unhappily between protestations of love and outbursts of accusations , beach sits quietly to one side - on a motel bed , in the back seat of the car - talking in a low , controlled voice . most of what he says makes sense , and is disregarded . meanwhile , in arkansas , the two visiting cops , one black , one white , joke about the aspirations of the local lawman , whom they see as a naive greenhorn .
thank all of you guys for your support . it means a lot . i know many people have made mistakes before , and that we should stop thinking it was all our fault and what false move we could take back . yes , he cheated on her and used me and the next morning told me off and cooked her breakfast . good grief . maybe this needed to happen to make me really change my life . because although i was nc , i didn’t do much else to work on myself . i am really trying to let go of my need to see him face consequences . it is hard though , when i feel as though he is the “winner” who got what he wanted and gets to keep his life as is . i am trying to move on , guys , i really am .
thanks for the advice grace . i am now trying to heal from this & move on . i’m pulling the mental flush handle as nat puts it . i’m not wasting anymore time & on this eum / assclown . i’ve done nc now for over 3 weeks .
what we ' ve seen here are two cases of unfair criticism – one from a colleague , and one from a boss . what do you do now ? how you react to it can have a tremendous impact on your career . emotionally charged , your instincts may not be the best guide to follow .
using what you are trying to disprove . that is , requiring the truth of something for your proof that it is false . for example , using science to show that science is wrong . or , arguing that you do not exist , when your existence is clearly required for you to be making the argument .
it’s a lambasting of the disney princess tradition , and theoretically a fairly incisive one . you shouldn’t marry a man you just met . it’s unquestionably stupid , and poking fun at the fact that disney has been not - so - subtly encouraging that approach for decades is a smart move . i mean , come on : how many disney princesses or leading ladies have fallen in love at first sight with a man they barely know ?
23 . learning to move forward after criticism , even if you don’t feel incredibly confident , ensures that no isolated comment will prevent you from seizing your dreams . think of it as separating the wheat from the chaff ; takes what’s useful , leave the rest , and keep going !
usually , the best way to cope with insults is to show mild amusement , and remain polite . a humorous comeback will probably work better than an angry one .
assuming that because two things happened , the first one caused the second one . ( sequence is not causation . ) for example ,
before women got the vote , there were no nuclear weapons .
or ,
every time my brother bill accompanies me to fenway park , the red sox are sure to lose .
in the interest of weighting this as far towards the perceived disney mould as possible , i have one more table for you . in this one , i’ve put the animal features back in , and i’m now counting out every feature with a love story that ends in a happily ever after . a traditional , heterosexual happily ever after , i should qualify , though it’s not like disney is likely to actually attempt a same - sex love story any time soon . or ever . here’s how that one tallies up :
anyway , here it is . i seriously recommend it for every one of you : will i ever be good enough ? healing the daughers of narcissistic mothers karyl mcbride , phd
. for example , the tv commercial which starts
i ' m not a doctor , but i play one on tv .
just what are we supposed to conclude ?
i think , ok i know , that i was supposed to mature out of this and get a better perspective about responsibility and where i fit into the picture of other people’s behaviour or external factors and situations , but the truth is , to some extent i kept up this line of thinking until i was 28 when it was pointed out to me that it was pretty outrageous for me to still be thinking , albeit unconsciously , that a three year old was responsible for her parents not being together . i had a one false move & it’s all my fault mentality and every day i come across people who insist on taking the blame for other people’s behaviour and entire situations , when what they should be doing is a mix of being realistic and looking beyond their own perspective as well as where appropriate , taking responsibility for their own actions .
step one : go to www . random . org . step two : pick a number . step three : get weird ! * * nobody cares if you don ' t think…
that toxic deputy team leader i’ve mentioned is currently away , but i’m having a hard time with others too . when i rejoined our team after several years abroad , they treated me like a doormat , even if i’m one of the most experienced ( and probably also one of the most knowledgeable ) team members . i don’t brag about that and try not to act “bossy” . when they started treating me like a doormat , i even tried to act like one in order to be a “good girl” , but it felt horrible after a while .
it is also possible to lower the bar , reducing the burden on an argument . for example , a person who takes vitamin c might claim that it prevents colds . when they do get a cold , then they move the goalposts , by saying that the cold would have been much worse if not for the vitamin c .
ray , fantasia and pluto arrive in houston to sell the drugs as planned . fantasia takes a bus to star city . angry that their buyers are reneging on the previously agreed upon price for the cocaine , pluto and ray kill them and flee . they drive to star city to meet up with fantasia and plan their next move .
one quick note before i continue — even though it’s technically a pixar film , i’ll be counting brave from this point on , since merida has been officially inducted into the disney princess lineup .
and this is where i wonder whether i was watching the same movie as everyone else . let’s start with elsa , for once . what is her goal ? does she even have one ?
the problem is that this company is one of the best in my field ( highest reputation – almost mythical ) . furthermore , there aren’t many jobs in my field , and it’s very competitive .
around the year 400 , saint augustine wrote two books , de mendacio [ on lying ] and contra medacium [ against lying ] , on this subject . he argued that the sin isn ' t in what you do ( or don ' t ) say , but in your intent to leave a false impression . he strongly opposed pious fraud . i believe that martin luther also wrote on the subject .
using a word to mean one thing , and then later using it to mean something different . for example , sometimes
free software
costs nothing , and sometimes it is without restrictions . some examples :
i knew several years ago after a break - up , when i was just pissed , that i didn’t want to be angry anymore , and that i had to learn how to take responsibility somehow for my actions because blaming was getting me nowhere . i just didn’t quite know how too . unfortunately , i learned the lesson through a job loss and a break up , where a boss and former ac were all too happy to let me absorb all responsibility and on one false move . ( or so i was lead to believe . ) i spent many hours ruminating / analyzing / bring / counseling and learned the lesson that i so much appreciated in one of natalie’s recent posts of taking my share of responsibility — and allowing others to take their share ( even when they aren’t willing ) . i learned to recognize that ones who are angry , blaming , and failing to take responsibility for their part in relationships , is a red flag and a guarantee they’ll let me “do the dirty work” , a job that i just won’t do any more . and an assignment that i try hard at not giving anyone else . a very painful year but i’m so grateful for this lesson . thanks for this awesome post !
for example ,
no one knows how old the pyramids of egypt are .
( except , of course , for the historians who ' ve read records and letters written by the ancient egyptians themselves . )
your immediate response is the most important one – it has the greatest scope for making things worse or better . here ' s our recommended approach to overcome the natural urge to express your anger or fight back .
if you remain convinced that his criticisms fall wide of the mark , and he persists in making them , try graciously , through one - on - one meetings , to bring him round to your view . failing that , you might request a meeting with someone higher up the ladder . in doing so , though , recognize that you risk undermining your position further . again , make your case as calmly and rationally as possible .
in other words , once one recognizes that thoughts , feelings , and desires function as inseparable reciprocal sets in human life , then no theory of brain that separates them off into compartments will adequately account for the mind , as we know it . of course , we can make sense of
balancing
two different lines of thought constructed by the mind looking at something from two different points of view . this
balancing
is the product of one cognitive - affective construct against another one . it is not a balancing of the cognitive ( conceived as a thing in itself ) with the affective ( conceived as a different thing in itself ) .
a bit of humor mixed in with all this no - nonsense violence and a surprising emotional punch or two make this one worth seeing . but really , it ' s all about billy bob thornton ' s ponytail .
one of the problems we get from growing up in traumatic , invalidating environments is that we feel we are robbed of all our options , our tools . ellyb , you have more options and tools than you know .
maria h , i would like to inquire further about your situation . ( and anyone else please comment as well ) i’ve been seeing my guy for almost 8 months and i’m feeling a sublte shift . after my epiphany relationshit , i spent a year working on me . and was doing very well . then i met the bf . he’s been wonderful . we’ve taken things slow and communicated well . it’s been very healthy . so i’m having trouble putting my finger on what’s changed exactly . i now feel i’m standing in a mine field and “one false move”…… boom . we had a talk a few days ago and it went well but i’m leary of the slow fade . ( i got that move before ) so now i feel weird and uncomfortable . ( cue self - esteem issues ) i don’t want to be insecure , negative , or hypersensitive and reactionary . i know that’s not attractive . nor healthy for me . so now i’m struggling with keeping myself positive when what i really want to do is tell him to speak up or f * ck off . before he can downgrade me and waste more of my time . ( feelin’ you there , skepticrina ) and that sounds ott , even to my own ears considering he’s been great . i reread some br posts yesterday about fear . which did help . but i’m really interested to know if there were red flags you think you might have missed . flags i may be missing now .
ladies , this is venturing into off topic territory . you’ve both made your points – neither of you need to validate the others perspective or defend your own position . i didn’t do medication but it doesn’t mean that it hasn’t been appropriate to some people’s situations nor does it mean that it’s appropriate for every person who has ever experienced trauma . neither of you are ‘wrong’ so move it along .
this post hit home ! ! as so many of nat’s posts do . i needed this one bad ! ! been doing good , but every so often my low self - esteem rears it’s ugly little head ! uggghhhh !
or another scenario : for a year , you work hard toward meeting your professional goals . things are going well , you ' re meeting your targets , and team morale is high . then the hammer drops : at your one - on - one annual review , your boss expresses disappointment in you . despite all indications to the contrary , you ' re suddenly in the hot seat – and your boss is telling you so to your face .
you can heal , you are healing . it sounds like your whole industry is rife with abusive egomaniacs . you don’t have to solve everything all at once , be gentle with you and take it one step at a time .
the arguer hasn ' t bothered to learn anything about the topic . he nevertheless has an opinion , and will be insulted if his opinion is not treated with respect . for example , someone looked at a picture on one of my
you ' re presenting the draft marketing plan for a new product at your team meeting . as you talk , you notice the encouraging gestures of your colleagues and supervisor . but one colleague withholds approval , listening with a steely stare .
ray , fantasia and pluto arrive in houston to sell the drugs as planned . fantasia takes a bus ahead from houston to star city while pluto and ray stay behind to work the deal . the deal goes terribly sour for ray and pluto , who then have to kill three more people and flee the city . the two drive from houston to star city to meet up with fantasia and plan their next move .
turns out he also had a gf already . this was when i was going through a very stressful time , busy with two kids – one of them doing bad at school – and my grandmother who was very sick at the moment .
readers of br who are daughters of narcissistic mothers - i so seriously want to take care of all of you in one big chicked soup - ed love fest . ignored abuses , criticized illnesses , fear , blame , ridicule … . its so awful . i don’t know why i feel your pain so fellingly , one would think it would be worse if you all had narcissistic fathers like i did , but my heart goes out to you especially . maybe that’s my mothering florence nightingale complex…
19 . criticism reinforces the power of personal space . taking ten minutes to process your emotions , perhaps by writing in a journal , will ensure you respond well . and responding well the first time prevents one critical comment from dominating your day .
you’re doing fine . just work on that tendency to shame spiral . its a terrible feeling , and you shouldn’t have to feel that way . it just takes tweaks of esteem and confidence and a sense of humor about one’s self to fix it .
btw , when i’ve started opposing eve , for example by being short - spoken when she was being bitchy instead of getting all defensive and sucking up to her , it hurt terribly . one day after work i was in mortal fear . seriously !
mind you , all this hasn’t stopped his attacks . one day he’s attacking me , the next day he’s attacking others . that’s just how he “ticks” . i doubt he’ll ever change his ways . it’s just doesn’t matter to me all that much anymore .
that made me even more self - conscious . on the one hand , i was angry at my coworker , because in essence she blamed me and not him for his crappy behavior . on the other hand i started second - guessing myself ( again ! ) .
ignoring all of the most reasonable explanations . this makes the desired explanation into the only one . for example :
i left a saucer of milk outside overnight . in the morning , the milk was gone . clearly , my yard was visited by fairies .
one of the significant problems in goleman’s writing is his lack of consistency . he contradicts himself , for example , in the major points he makes about the thinking that occurs in the “emotional mind . ” on one hand he states “the amygdala’s extensive web of neural connections allows it , during an emotional emergency , to capture and drive much of the rest of the brain - including the rational mind ( p . 17 ) . ” this seems to imply that the emotional mind uses the “thinking mind” to achieve its agendas at times .
assuming that two ends of a spectrum are the same , since one can travel along the spectrum in very small steps . the name comes from the idea that being clean - shaven must be the same as having a big beard , since in - between beards exist .
tinkerbell . don’t blame yourself too much . i think you’re more worried about what he thinks of you than anything . worry more about how you recognize that you feel weak… and that it’s around him and take action… do whatever you need to to feel better , stronger… and eventually you will be okay and move on . and him telling you he “changed” and “loves his new gf very much” , he’s a jerk for even saying that to you . yes , people can change… but . what does it matter if he’s still a jerk to you ? guess what ? you’ll change too… for the better , if you grow a serious set… and move on . do not contact him . write in a journal instead when you feel like doing that… go for a walk… go to gym , read a book , call a friend . get into the habit of doing something else , every single time you get the urge… and it will start working for you . hugs 🙂
trying to use one cause to explain something , when in fact it had several causes . for example ,
the accident was caused by the taxi parking in the street .
( but other drivers went around the taxi . only the drunk driver hit the taxi . )
those statistics reflect systemic problems . eyewitness testimony is dangerously persuasive to juries , yet it remains admissible in courts almost without caveat . some interrogation methods are more likely than others to produce false confessions , yet there are no national standards ; fewer than half of states require interrogations to be videotaped , and all of them allow interrogators to lie to suspects . with the exception of dna evidence ( which emerged from biology , not criminology ) , forensic tests are laughably unscientific ; no independent entity exists to establish that such tests are reliable before their results are admissible as evidence .
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assuming that something true in general is true in every possible case . for example ,
all chairs have four legs .
except that rocking chairs don ' t have any legs , and what is a one - legged
shooting stick
if it isn ' t a chair ?
when searching for the ingredients necessary for a highly rational life , it is therefore crucial not to underestimate the role of the affective dimension of mind . to engage in high quality reasoning , one must have not only the cognitive ability to do so , but the drive to do so as well . one must feel the importance of doing so , and thus be driven to acquire command of the art of high quality reasoning . what is more , it is evident that to learn to solve problems effectively , one must have the desire to do so . one must be committed to it . thus the affective dimension , comprised of feelings and volition , is a necessary condition and component of high quality reasoning and problem solving . every
defect
in emotion and drive creates a
defect
in thought and reason . intelligence on this view , then , presupposes and requires command of the affective dimension of mind . in short , the truly intelligent person is not a disembodied intellect functioning in an emotional wasteland , but a deeply committed mindful person , full of passion and high values , engaged in effective reasoning , sound judgment , and wise conduct .
based on this description of brain activity ( and other similar descriptions ) , he concludes
. . . we have two minds , one that thinks and one that feels . . . these two fundamentally different ways of knowing interact to construct our mental life ( p . 8 ) . ” or again : “in a sense we have two brains , two minds — and two different kinds of intelligence : rational and emotional ( p . 28 ) . ” we want to “find the intelligent balance between the two , to harmonize head and heart ( p . 29 ) . ”
three criminals , ray , pluto and fantasia ( ray ' s girlfriend ) , commit six brutal murders over the course of one night in los angeles as they seek a cache of money and cocaine . the trio leave for houston to sell the cocaine to a friend of pluto ' s .
) is to attack a whole class of people . for example ,
evolutionary biology is a sinister tool of the materialistic , atheistic religion of secular humanism .
similarly , one notorious net . kook waved away a whole category of evidence by announcing
all the scientists were drunk .
threats , or even violence . on the net , the usual threat is of a lawsuit . the traditional religious threat is that one will burn in hell . however , history is full of instances where expressing an unpopular idea could you get you beaten up on the spot , or worse .
goleman states that “the beliefs of the rational mind are tentative ; new evidence can disconfirm one belief and replace it with a new one - it reasons by objective evidence . the emotional mind , however , takes its beliefs to be absolutely true , and so discounts any evidence to the contrary ( p . 295 ) . ” furthermore , he states , “actions that spring from the emotional mind carry a particularly strong sense of certainty , a by - product of a streamlined , simplified way of looking at things that can be absolutely bewildering to the rational mind ( p . 291 ) . ”
an example of why absurd conclusions are bad things : bertrand russell , in a lecture on logic , mentioned that in the sense of material implication , a false proposition implies any proposition . a student raised his hand and said
in that case , given that 1 = 0 , prove that you are the pope
. russell immediately replied ,
add 1 to both sides of the equation : then we have 2 = 1 . the set containing just me and the pope has 2 members . but 2 = 1 , so it has only 1 member ; therefore , i am the pope .
i had posted here before about being that person who couldn’t take a hint . i was trying to do anything / everything to convince him to date me . i see how foolish it was . i did date someone else for 3 months but flushed after shady behaviour started coming about . ( the old me wouldn’t have been able to walk away ) . all i can say to other readers is that you must make yourself a priority , go through the emotions , move forward , it does get better and life goes on .
which leads me neatly back to frozen , because frozen ’s setting is not explicity patriarchal . i don’t know that having a queen instead of a king is necessarily normal in the world of frozen , but elsa’s coronation certainly isn’t treated as any kind of aberration . women have enough respect and agency in this world that no one particularly comments on arendelle’s being ruled by a woman . no one speculates about whom she’s going to marry or how many sons she’s going to bear ; for once , in fact , it’s the man ( hans ) who has to marry into royalty to have any real power .
journalists are notoriously bad at reporting risks . for example , in 1995 it was loudly reported that a class of contraceptive pills would double the chance of dangerous blood clots . the news stories mostly did not mention that
doubling
the risk only increased it by one person in 7 , 000 . the
cell phones cause brain cancer
reports are even sillier , with the supposed increase in risk being at most one or two cancers per 100 , 000 people per year . so , if the fearmongers are right , your cellphone has increased your risk from
who cares
to
who cares
.
plenty of disney films , even the princess ones , tell us that family and friendship are just as important as — if not more than — romantic love . frozen is the only one i can think of with so little respect for its audience that it has to beat us over the head with it .
what am i thinking of ? for one , all the human disciplines are constructs of human minds : biology , chemistry , geology , physics , mathematics , history , anthropology , linguistics , etc . anything we can say about the human mind must be consistent with its being able to create such monumental constructs .
the truth is that i never could find a safe , comfortable place to sit in that relationship . he never really offered me one . or he would offer me this little toadstool , say that that was all he could give , and then start taking little chunks out of it . what an emotional cripple .
so sorry you went through this , hitthereset ! i can relate , my husband also started opening up our marriage at one point – only it was very confusing because he only hinted at us dating other people , and tried to make it sound like a joke when i didn´t respond with the enthousiasm he wanted .
wishful thinking is closely related .
my home in florida is one foot above sea level . therefore i am certain that global warming will not make the oceans rise by fifteen feet .
of course , wishful thinking can also be about positive consequences , such as winning the lottery , or eliminating poverty and crime .
i remember back in college , taking a summer acting class , when i actually made the people around me uncomfortable with my defensiveness . this one time , the teacher was giving me feedback after a scene in front of the whole class . she couldn’t get through a single sentence without me offering some type of argument .
i bring this up because i see the same thing going on in disney’s frozen . we all know that women are underrepresented in film . disney / marvel alone has made a killing at the box office with eight — soon to be nine and counting — massively fun , massively successful superhero films , and not one has been led by a woman . a male - driven superhero film can be mediocre and recover with the next installment in the franchise , but the debate over which superheroine should kick off the women - driven slate of films has been going on for years , because the zeitgeist of the industry means that she will only get one shot .
i agree . lots of men want all short - term highs and then want to move on . i know it might sound absolutely strange but one of the men i really respect ( ed ) is someone i had a casual fling with – he openly communicated that thats what he wanted , didnt think it was right that i get involved because i am a ‘girlfriend - girl’ and respected the rules that i wanted when i did decide to get involved . plus , when it was time to call quits , he came home , told me that he didnt want to see me anymore because he doesnt feel right anymore . it was an experience that helped me learn that casual sex was not for me – but i did appreciate the fact that he was honest and did see that he had a duty of care towards me ( he was a massive man whore though , so i not sure why he was this respectful . . )
williams ' fantasia is a classic loser , a tortured soul bound by the past , pathetically unable to escape the present . it ' s a riveting performance , one of many in this emotionally complex thriller . and if the finale , inevitably , is a bloody shoot - out , the underlying message , for once , is decidedly upbeat .
kathryn schulz joined the new yorker as a staff writer in 2015 . in 2016 , she won the pulitzer prize for feature writing and a national magazine award for “ the really big one , ” her story on the seismic risk in the pacific northwest . she is the author of “ being wrong : adventures in the margin of error . ”
little star – i live near and work in central london , i know and have seen many happy couples , but i don’t think that can’t ever be me . it can be you , me or any of us here . one thing i don’t buy is that there aren’t any good men out there . there are plenty we just haven’t met them yet .
but what , exactly , is that cause in “making a murderer” ? as of january 12th , more than four hundred thousand people had signed a petition to president obama demanding that “steven avery should be exonerated at once by pardon . ” that outrage could scarcely have been more misdirected . for one thing , it was addressed to the wrong person : avery was convicted of state crimes , not federal ones , and the president does not have the power to pardon him . for another , it was the wrong demand . “making a murderer” may have presented a compelling case that avery ( and , more convincingly , dassey ) deserved a new trial , but it did not get anywhere close to establishing that either one should be exonerated .