Emotion: anger
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: Internet Porn & live webchat dating sites

user: I'm looking for support in regards to a recent break up My boyfriend/fiance seems to be a serial and or chronic masturbator When I looked at his files in his computer it was shocking! Are you there? I am seeking some support in this crazy world? The thing is that his files contained really gross porn and live webcam sites. What should I do? When I confronted him he said it was not him! He lied so horribly! I am heartbroken. I also found out that he has had many different profiles on facebook that are just covert operations. What would you think? Please tell me what advice you would give? His spam folder is full of crap! all of it like Fuck me here and now! Hello there are you there?

assistant: sorry i'm here

user: I have checked his email folders and we have talked about his over the top usage of porn and online dating sites. He has admitted that he is in fact a sex addict! Should I hold on or should I let it go? Just find someone else that I can actually trust?

assistant: First of all, I have a fre questions to ask Does the idea of him being sex addict change how you feel about him?

user: What's the fre question? what is fre? Not necessarily . Just the trust issue really.

assistant: I would say you should cut tie with him. Being into porn is a serious issue but what's more important is he lied to you about that

user: We've known each other for years and have been friends for a very long time.. We dated on and off and things just seem to always go back to this weird off place.

assistant: I think you can also feel it yourself that there's something not right between you and him

user: I appreciate your thoughts. So you don't think I should give him another chance?

assistant: This is a wake up call for you I must say, to get away from him I think you should sit down and tell him to take a break, this doesn't mean completely break up but some time for both of you to think it over

user: I feel like I really can't trust him and find myself looking through his computer and phone questioning things. makes me feel crazy.

assistant: I understand how you feel, it's not easy to get over this feeling

user: Is this a clean site or do people use it for porn chat?

assistant: That's why you need some time for yourself to think whether you can forgive him and try to help him or not

user: I know . That sounds like great advice. Hard to pull off during the pandemic though.

assistant: To be honest, watching porn is normal, however, I feel that if someone is too into it, as in watch it more than 1-2 times a month, it's problematic and won't be easy to fix Do you live with him?

user: Ah. I think it's more of a real issue when it comes to controlling himself or using sites because he was single for so long. He is currently staying with me.

assistant: You can ask him to stop doing that for you, if he really cares, he will try

user: His latest obsession has been 3d printing. I have found weird sites with ' funny'' dildos on them in his feed and stored data. Do you think he might be gay? Like humor I understand but...

assistant: goodness

user: stored data with adult printed groups on fb! dildos with star wars themes. Immature stuff. IDK.?

assistant: That you have to ask him, tell him to have an honest thought, no judgement, be completely honest with each other

user: He laughs when I show him mens underwear. I think maybe that's a sign he's uncomfortable. What do you think?

assistant: Yeah, laughs can definitely be a sign of someone getting nervous Does he have any close male friends?

user: Yep That's what I thought too. He does have a few close male friends. Nothing that looks suspicious though.

assistant: Whether he's gay or not, it's hard to say just from a few things, but what's more important right now is for you two to sit down and talk

user: I wonder if there is a way to find out why he joined all of these weird servers and is trying to learn code. Is it really for 3d printing or is it to make a secret platform to hide his data etc?

assistant: Maybe it's just simple as he tells you, but you have to talk to him.There is no use sitting here and let all those thoughts and questions consume you

user: Have you ever used jatos? or done any surveys for the universities? You're actually pretty good at this!

assistant: What is jatos?

user: It's a link I found while searching but it turns out to be a server that is used for studies.

assistant: oh interesting

user: JATOS

assistant: I just use my experience and try to help

user: just another tool for online studies

assistant: Is there any problems you need help with?

user: I think that You have helped me allot. Thank you!