Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: disgust
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: My friend questioned our friendship when I did not want to hang out with her during COVID. She blocked my number when I expressed how upset I feel about what she said.

user: Hello

assistant: Hey! How can I help?

user: So I don't know if you can see the topic of my problem like I can see on my screen? If not I'll explain

assistant: Yes please do

user: So I had a long time friend who recently blocked me from everything. The reason was I refused to hang out with her during covid and she questioned our friendship. Something she said was "It's selfish of me to work rather than spend time with a special friend." So I got upset and called her out. And in response she blocked me. And I'm more upset at myself because I wanted to tell her more about how horrible of a human being she is in general. But I cannot because she blocked me on everything.

assistant: Have you explained to her that you NEED to work, and don't be upset with yourself because you did the right thing If your friendship was strong she will surely unblock you Give her time to cool down

user: Yeah I did. And she just got more upset and said I was selfish. Like she's the type who would not back down and she's lost many friends and romanics partners that way So I feel like she's not going to unblock me and get back together. I'm just really upset because I want to call her off, not because I lost a friendship. Because screw her : ) I put up with her too much.

assistant: You are not the one who is selfish here as you have done the right thing, and she will hopefully see that

user: Should I go to her house and personally tell her how I feel?

assistant: If she doesn't then you know she wasn't worth your time in the first place And no because this will make her more angry If she is aware of how you feel, she will come back in due time

user: I guess I'm the type of person who has to tell people how I feel, otherwise I won't find peace. Do you have any other suggestions how I can get passed this?

assistant: But for now, you should find other ways to make peace with yourself, for example, hanging out with other friends and that may take your mind of it and if that isn't an option simply keeping yourself busy may help

user: But I can't really hang out with anyone because of COVID. That's how this whole situation started : )

assistant: Maybe spend more time with work, or keeping yourself occupied with other things And she will come back if she really cared about your relationship in the first place

user: Yeah, work can keep my mind off all this. And that's true. Thank you for listening to my ranting.

assistant: Your welcome, there is always someone out there for you :)

user: Aw thank you! You have a good one.
Emotion: anger
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I recently lost my job and I am worried that i will not able to pay my bills. This situation is making me anger.

user: hello

assistant: Hi, I can't see the upper box that you can see, so what brings you to seek support?

user: can you see it now?

assistant: I'm sorry, I cannot. Sadly, the program is bad. You will have to restate your concerns.

user: I recently lost my job I am very upset about my economic situation

assistant: I'm so sorry. I'm sure that would be very upsetting, and very concerning for your future. That sounds awful!

user: Yes, I am worried that I will not be able to pay my bills, I am looking for a job but because of the pandemic is hard to get one any advice

assistant: Okay, so it sounds like you cannot pay the bills, you are looking for a job, and the economic situation is tough right now due to the pandemic. This is your main concern for the conversation, then? To discuss how to secure another job?

user: yes It is my main concern

assistant: Have you consulted with a job center, a life coach, or any other resource such as online websites? These may be useful.

user: I have looked on websites. They offer with job consultants but there is a lot of volume of calls with the same problem

assistant: I am sure you will be able to get a new job if you have the commitment. Maybe you can tell me a little more about what type of job you are looking for?

user: I am looking for a customer service type of job where I can work from home if is possible

assistant: Okay, that sounds like a great start. Many jobs have moved to being remote, so I can see that as a great alternative. I know there are many covid tracing jobs by phone that pay well. Have you searched for those on any online websites? Would that interest you?

user: Yes I had search I am still waiting for a reply. I really interests me since I have some customer service experience. I hope they call me soon.

assistant: Wow, that is terrific! I know those are in high-demand right now, so I wouldn't be surprised if they did call you back. Your experience will definitely make you more marketable as well.

user: Yes , thanks for your help and advice

assistant: Have you had anyone look at your resume to see if improvements could be made while you wait?

user: Yes I have someone check my resume and update it .

assistant: Okay, that's great. Today, many resumes are not screened by humans, but by computers, analyzing for key words, first.

user: yes, thanks a lot for your time
Emotion: depression
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: My close friend died because of Covid-19 last month, it bothers me a lot and i constantly feel depression.

assistant: Hello How are you today?

user: hi feeling little depressed

assistant: I see you're feeling down today. What has you feeling that way?

user: my close friend's death makes me feel depressed

assistant: I am so sorry to hear that. I've had someone close to be pass away recently and it can feel unbearable. What ways are you trying to cope with losing your friend?

user: yeah it dose yes it does I consequently felt so sad and i can't get out from his thoug hts

assistant: What kind of thoughts are you having?

user: i have the thoughts like he is still existed with me

assistant: You feel like he's still with you. There are experts that suggest the spirit lives on after death.

user: and whenever im trying to sleep, i suddenly wake up in the middle i dont know why i am so scared of these things. but i became super alert all over the night without sleeping

assistant: It sounds like you're afraid of the unknown. That can be be terrifying.

user: yeah, maybe i think that he is sit before me and talk with me sometimes laugh at me

assistant: Do you think he talks with you while you're sleeping?

user: i don't know, but i am so scared at night being alone in the room, where we share it before he died

assistant: Is there anyway possible, maybe you're dreaming?

user: no im not dreaming at all i suddenly feel nervous and sweating sometimes

assistant: Do you feel like you're being haunted? Do you think you're friend wants to harm you?

user: no i don't think he wants to harm me, rather he try to talk with me

assistant: I see. It may be difficult, but have you tried to put you're fear aside and listen to what he needs to tell you? I see you're deeply bothered by your friends death. I know it would be hard, but possibly try to remember your friend wouldn't hurt you and find what your friend wants to convey to you.

user: yeah i will try
Emotion: shame
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I failed my Finals and now I am on academic probation. I am afraid I will be expelled.

user: Hello.

assistant: Hello! How are you doing today?

user: I'm not doing very well unfortunately. I failed my college finals, and now I'm up for Academic Probation.

assistant: I am so sorry to hear that, I'd love to understand more about what you are struggling with?

user: I'm almost near gradution too.

assistant: Oh no! I am so sorry to hear that. Academic probation does seem very scary. When did you learn you failed your finals?

user: I learned yesterday. Because of the pandemic the semester is shorter.

assistant: And how long do you have until graduation?

user: I should be graduating in June.

assistant: I see. Well it's nice that we matched up! I actually work at a college and now a couple good strategies to get off academic probation, and or avoid it! What is it you are studying?

user: You're a great resource then! I am majoring in Psychology with a minor in Biology.

assistant: Oh that is awesome! So when do you find out whether or not you are on probation?

user: Likely in the next week. I registered for my classes for next semester but I think I should drop my minor. \

assistant: Okay gotcha. Well a couple tips I can offer you: If you do end up on probation, most courses offer a probation workshop you can go through. And if you graduate in June, it should finish in time for you! And I was also going to recommend taking fewer units. As much as it sucks, you can't overwhelm yourself with work. You need to be able to have a healthy and happy life that is separate from school in order to preform your best. Dropping your minor may be what is best for not only your grades, but your mental health I also recommend making an educational plan. Although it can seem scary and long to see your goals directly laid out in front of you, it really helps with motivation

user: That's great advice and likely would be my best option. I will definitely do that. I feel better hearing that it's okay to drop my minor. I felt like a failure when I considered it.

assistant: From talking with you so far, I can tell that you are stressed about this. But I want to reassure you that your mental health should always come first. It is the most important thing you can do.

user: Yes I am very stressed. I hate taking online courses and this pandemic is wearing me out. Plus I have a 2 year old son.

assistant: You are definitely not a failure in the slightest! In fact, I would argue that you are the exact opposite of that. Being able to take such difficult courses in a pandemic, and raise a child shows how strong you are!

user: Thank you for saying that. It is tough, but I just want to finally finish my Bachelor's and do something positive.

assistant: And you will succeed in that goal. You have the motivation and the care for it, you just need to focus on managing everything at once! Have you thought about meeting with an academic advisor and laying out a plan?
Emotion: depression
Problem: Appearance Anxiety
Situation: Ive gained some weight after having my kids. I havent been able to lose or go below 150. so nothing fits, or nothing looks good on me anymore. and i feel thats why my boyfriend doesnt compliment me ever or make me feel wanted at all.

user: I don't know what to do anymore. i feel completely lost.

assistant: Can you talk more about your feelings now?

user: Well i just feel ugly all the time. ive changed my eating habits and i just cant seem to lose any weight and i know or i feel as if hes just not physically attracted to me anymore and that breaks my heart

assistant: I can completely understand your feelings. I can feel how stressed out you are about your weight. Did you try doing more exercises and control your diet?

user: ive tried talking to him about it but he doesnt seem to even listen to me at all. i have changed my diet, and take walks with my kids but dont really have a gym membership. and anyone to watch my kids 5 and 3. but for some reason i cant get below 150.

assistant: I have experienced similar situation. I talked to a consultant and he gave me some good advice on diet. Did you talk to a professional?

user: mind u i was 125 and fit for the 10 years we were together before we had kids like a doctor? because my other siblings who are very much in our lives are health freaks and fanatics

assistant: I talked to a nutritionist and it really helped. They are professionals who can look into your diet and give suggestions.

user: but they dont have kids i did get a sensitivity food test that showed me what could possibly be triggering my body

assistant: Can you hire a nanny and free your time?

user: that did help me in what i should eliminate cant really afford a nanny for 2 kids at the moment

assistant: Were you able to eliminate those foods? Some gym provides free day care and you can drop to their day care before you start exercises.

user: not all completely but i have been taking a little bit out at a time. yeah not around here especially because of the pandemic in california things are really expensive here

assistant: Did you consider moving to cheaper locations?

user: not really i have family here which i want my kids to be as close as possible i would have to move to another state. but that would take a lot of consideration on both of our parts i just dont understand why my bf wont take me serious and actually listen to me when im telling him how i feel
Emotion: anger
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: I am upset with my best friend over the results of the election. We generally agree not to discuss politics, but the controversy over Biden's win over Trump has us split. I am angry that she keeps bringing it up.

user: Hello

assistant: Hello dear how are you today

user: Mostly ok, but I am a bit stressed about politics

assistant: well, at the moment a lot of people seem to be stressed out about politics but on the brighter side, everyone is a winner

user: Why do you say that?

assistant: However, talk to me, why are you stressed? I say this based on the number of clients that I have had in the past one week.

user: My best friend called me yesterday and was kind of gloating about Biden's win over Trump. She knows I supported Trump

assistant: ooh wow, she must have really been pushing your nerves to the core right about the Biden win, right?

user: Yes, and I sort of know that ultimately it doesn't matter but I am mad about it. I'm trying to figure out how to let things go and maintain our friendship. Any advice?

assistant: well look, One thing I have always learnt about people who push others to the core is that they always have that competitive spirit in them to always want to win while hurting others feelings what do you think of that

user: She typically is not like this... but I can kind of see that point. Especially considering how upset she was 4 years ago when Trump won

assistant: I get it now. I believe she feels like she has finally gotten what she was yearning for after four years of Trumps administration and now she is elated that her candidate has finally won right?

user: That's probably true I guess I should just let her have her day?

assistant: well, let me ask you something. You've told me that you have been friends with her for a long time meaning that you understand her inside out right?

user: Pretty much... over 25 years actually

assistant: wow that's a long time. How about you letting her know how you really feel about what she is doing to you emotionally. What do you think the outcome might be?

user: I'm not sure... our political difference is a recent thing. However, I will try that and see what happens. We've been through a lot together over the years so it's probably not going to end our friendship. Thanks for your advice. I do feel better about things.

assistant: I'm glad you feel better. but just a parting shot. Sometimes when one let's their friends know what is really bothering them makes the friends trust them more given that they are open with them and could tell them what they feel deep inside. That's what true friendship is about. It works wonders

user: That's true. Again thank you and I hope the rest of your day goes well. Goodbye.
Emotion: depression
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I broke up with my boyfriend and that really depressed me because we have been together for like a long time. I feel very sad and alone. I actually feel like I can't go on with it.

user: Hello

assistant: Hello! How are you today?

user: I am good, just feeling low.

assistant: I'm so sorry to hear that. Why are you feeling low?

user: I just broke up with my boyfriend and the situation is honestly frustrating me.

assistant: Oh, wow that must be so hard. Breaksups are are always really difficult to process.

user: Yeah, it is really draining and I don't know what to do?

assistant: Have you tried talking about the breakup? Sometimes letting it out really helps.

user: Not really, I basically have no one to talk.

assistant: THat is so hard. you can talk to me if you want, what was the cause of the breakup?

user: We had an argument about money. He thinks I have been spending so much and he wanted me to stop his credit card. using**

assistant: Oof that is a tough one. Did you agree?

user: I had to but it was not fair.

assistant: That seems very unfair. You can try talking to him about your feelings ina. calm way.

user: I would try that and see if it can work out. I am afraid it might not. What other option can I use? Hello?

assistant: sory abut that I think you should talk to him logically. Think through all the reasons why you shold be together and how this can be resolved. Like, you won't use his card anymore and you can work on a budget together.

user: Thank you. Okay will do that. I think that it.

assistant: Great, i think it will work out for you!! i have faith. I recently went through something similar nad it helped me.

user: Thank you.

assistant: Anytime. I hope you guys can work it out.

user: Yes, I hope we do.
Emotion: depression
Problem: Procrastination
Situation: I keep putting of my work because I'm afraid i'll fail at it. I just need to process the data, but I don't know why I keep putting it off. I feel angry at myself

assistant: Hi there, how's your day?

user: Pretty ok but quite frustrating How about you?

assistant: What is it you're feeling frustrated about? I am happy to listen.

user: I'm frustrated I didn't start my work. It seems like it is straightforward but for some reason I can't seem to start

assistant: Would you like to tell me what sort of work it is? Perhaps I can help.

user: I need to analyze some data to get some information out of it.

assistant: Ah that does not sound like my sort of thing. Why is it you're having trouble starting, do you think?

user: I am afraid to not be able to get the results i want

assistant: Well, I guess you could say that you won't get any results if you don't try though? :)

user: Very true. But the just getting started part gives me anxiety

assistant: Do you think that the anxiety might have another cause - you might have general problems with anxiety?

user: Hmm, probably. I should probably find ways to help myself. Any tips?

assistant: Well, I have heard of a thing called Mindfulness but I have never tried it myself. It sounds like it might be very effective though

user: I see. Will check it out.

assistant: Or you could perhaps try and get some sort of counselling?

user: While counseling is probably the best idea, that gives me the most anxiety Finding one that I don't have to explain cultural things to is hard

assistant: Yes it can be a vicious circle sometimes. What sort of cultural things do you mean?

user: For example, like pressures of being an oldest child in asian household

assistant: Ah, yes I know that that can be very difficult. And yes, I can understand why you'd want to see someone who would understand that particular situation I hope that I have been able to help and thank you for confiding in me!

user: Thanks for listening! Appreciated your suggestions

assistant: I am hear for a while if you want to talk again :D You have to press quit first as I am not able to do so from my end. here for a while sorry

user: oh, right, haha. thanks I think i'm good though.
Emotion: depression
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: I am depressed because I broke up with my girlfriend

user: Hello I am very sad I am more depressed than ever

assistant: Would you care to elaborate about what you're feeling sad about?

user: I recently broke up with my girlfriend

assistant: I am sorry to hear that, that sounds difficult.

user: its been very hard on me I've spent the last few years wit her

assistant: How have you been coping? That can be really hard, have you been able to talk to anyone about it?

user: i've been trying to talk to family mainly my mom and brother

assistant: Do you find that to be helpful?

user: yes family is always there for me its only hard because I've been with my gf for so long and we've spent so much time during quarantine together

assistant: That's good, it's great to have a good support system. I can imagine that's difficult, that would be a lot of close time together. Have you been able to socialize with friends or colleagues?

user: i try to keep my personal life away from my coworkers i've talked to a few friends i'm actually going out tonight to meet some up for happy hour

assistant: That's understandable about the coworkers. Going out sounds like would be beneficial, just to at least spend some time with people who care about you.

user: yea its going to take my mind off of things

assistant: Have you been able to engage in any other activities that help you cope/take your mid=nd off things?

user: i've gone for long runs and swims well i'm going to go get ready thank you for all your time and advice

assistant: Is there anything else I can help you with?

user: if you were in my shoes, what would you do if you broke up with a serious gf/bf

assistant: I would lean on my friends, family, and others for support such as a therapist (they're good for unbiased talking), I would also focus on hobbies and things that make me feel better. Most importantly be kind to yourself and allow your self to grieve.

user: thats great advice how long should i wait before i move onto the next potential girlfriend?

assistant: That would be up to you, there's no timeline it's when you feel most comforable

user: thats true i am getting old

assistant: There's no timeline on being able to date

user: yea, my brother and sister whom are both younger than me , are already married with kids i feel bad because I'm the oldest one and without a family

assistant: Everyone has their own timeline, some of my friends have married in their late 40s and older

user: yea, thats what my family is telling me to not rush into thigns

assistant: You have to do what's right for you

user: well tahnk you for your time. take care.
Emotion: depression
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I'm in depression because my exam is near and i can't finish my studies

user: Hi

assistant: hello how are you ?

user: I'm in depression because my exam is near and I can't finsh my studies.

assistant: can i ask you ,why you can't finish

user: It is because i'm very behind in my work.

assistant: try to catch up with your studies give more time then you feel better

user: How am I going to catch up on my work?

assistant: i think you need to be confident about your studies then you fell better

user: How can I be confident?

assistant: i think you need to take more online classes those can help you

user: Ok I will try to get in an online class if I can.

assistant: because same think happen with me and i took online classes those help me a lot *thing

user: Ok how much time do you spend on online classes?

assistant: i spend like 3 hours a day on online class

user: Thanks for the idea do you have any more tips?

assistant: i think you need to take help from your family or friend those who know all about your studies

user: Thanks for helping me I might pass the exam after all.

assistant: your welcome , thanks for sharing your problem

user: Your welcome!

assistant: any time

user: Bye!