Emotion: anxiety
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: Friday while out finishing up my last minute shopping for the Thanksgiving holiday I got a call from my best friend’s sister stating she was taken to the hospital. I left the store and rushed to the hospital. When I got there my friend’s family members and my fiance were already there. My best friend sister greeted me and she told me my best friend has AIDS and has not been taking her medicine. I'm her best friend and I can't believe she didn't tell me.  She was fine Thursday when I last saw her. The sister also told me the doctors said she could die at any moment because she has advance Kidney failure. She also told me I need to get tested because her sister told her she and my fiance has been having an affair. I didn't believe her or the whole situation so I confronted my fiance.  I knew he would tell this was all a lie but why was he there and before me?  He didn't deny or confirm anything he kept saying he was Sorry. I'm at a motel and haven't been home or back to the hospital. I d

assistant: Hello! How are you doing today?

user: I don't know.

assistant: Do you mind me asking what it is that caused you to reach out to someone for support?

user: When I first called this number a voice said to state what the problem. Do you have that information?

assistant: I'm not aware of there being a phone number for you to call. This is a task that is supposed to be done via Amazon's Mechanical Turk platform. I believe you're supposed to tell me what the problem is. Then, I will help you through it as best as I can.

user: Give me a minute and I'll restate it okay?

assistant: That sounds good!

user: Friday while out doing last minute Thanksgiving shopping I got a call from my best firend's that my best friend was rushed to the hospital. I hung up and rushed to the hospital. When I got there my fiance and my best friend's family were all there. Hold on let me finish.

assistant: I'm so sorry to hear that. Take your time!

user: The sister told me my friend has advance Kidney Failure and could die at anytime. I just saw my best friend Thursday and she fine. The sister also told me my friend has AIDS and hasn't been taking her medicine. My jaw dropped because this is my best friend. She went on to say I need to get tested because my best friend and fiance has been having an affair. I couldn't believe anything she was saying. I confronted my fiance know he would say it wasn't true. He didn't deny or confirm anything. He kept saying he was so sorry. I've been at moterl since Friday after i ran from the hospital. I don't know if my best friend is dead or where my fiance is. I'm scared and mad. I dont know if my best friend is dead or alive. I don't want to see my fiance because him being at the hospitalbefore me verifies what the sister said. How couldthey do this to me. There was nothing I wouldn't do for either of the two of them and this is how they repay me? I know its wrong but there 's a part of me that wants her and him to die.

assistant: Oh my goodness. I am so incredibly sorry that all of this happened to you. I can tell that you are completely overwhelmed with emotions right now.

user: With all the crap happening in the world this had to land on my head. WHY? WHAT DID I DO?

assistant: I don't believe that you did anything wrong whatsoever. Sometimes, really unfair things happen to really good people. I can't even imagine how hard this must be, but I would try to look at it in a positive way. I know that losing your best friend and your fiancé must be devastating, but at least you now know that your fiancé is someone who you most certainly probably don't want to spend the rest of your life with. I've been cheated on myself, believe it or not, and it was my daughter's father and my best friend. I can't believe how similar our stories are. I'm not even kidding! I refused to get back together with him (we were engaged at one time as well) and because I refused to get back together with him, he got my best friend pregnant and they are now together and recently had a second child. He has completely forgotten that our daughter exists.

user: Were you married to him?

assistant: I think I would start by putting your own health first and getting yourself tested to make sure that you haven't contracted anything from your fiancé. I know this will be incredibly hard, but I wouldn't want to see you getting sick and suffering as a result of his infidelity. No, we were not married. We were together for almost 7 years and engaged at one point, but I broke it off after he cheated on me. He cheated on me several times. It's the worst feeling in the world.

user: I'm scared to get tested. What if it comes back positive? Was the child he had a boy or girl?

assistant: I would be scared, too. However, it's better to act now because to my knowledge, the sooner that you find out and treat it, the better the chances are of you treating it. There are a lot of new medications out there that can be used to treat HIV and AIDS.

user: Have you been tested for AIDS? What do they do when you get tested?

assistant: I know that their first child is a girl. I'm not sure if their second is a girl or a boy. I haven't spoken to him in several years. I found out through a friend about their second child. We haven't spoken at all since I found out about the first one. I have been tested for all STDs because I was cheated on. All of mine came back negative. All they did when I got tested was bloodwork. Have you thought about reaching out to a therapist or counselor who could help you to work through your feelings and everything that you're dealing with?

user: Didn't you say you have a daughter by him? And you haven't talk to him since he cheated? What about your daughter feelings? She has a right to know her father doesn't she?

assistant: I am so incredibly sorry that you have to deal with all of this at all but especially at the start of the holiday season. My heart absolutely breaks for you. Yes, we have a daughter. He spent the first eight years of her life in prison. I gave her the choice as to whether or not she wanted to get to know him. He had plenty of opportunities to speak to her and chose not to call or show up when he was supposed to. The last thing she said about him was, "All he does is lie to me and break promises. I don't want to see him or talk to him anymore."

user: And no I haven't thought or going to therapy. I'm not the one who cheated on anyone and this just happened Friday. I didn't know where to start. So I called here Are you or your daughter in therapy?

assistant: I'm a great mother and I always put my daughter's feelings first. She made the decision not to see or speak to her father. Him and my now ex-best friend are on drugs and don't have custody of their own children. It's in my daughter's best interest that she doesn't know him. Yes, we are both in therapy. It helps immensely. I know that you weren't the one who cheated, but I would still highly recommend talking to someone about what happened. This is going to be very hard to get through. Again, I am incredibly sorry that you are going through all of this. Our chat session will only last for a total of about 30 minutes. This is meant to be a one-time task, unfortunately.

user: I'm not sure if you can help me because I've never did drugs.

assistant: I never did drugs either. My daughter's father did. He still does, and so does my best friend. They lost custody of their kids. I have custody of my daughter. Anyway, I hope that you eventually become more open to talking to a therapist on an ongoing basis. I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving.

user: Oh okay. I hope you and daughter have a nice holiday. My plan for the holdiay was to tell my fiance he's going to be a father and my best that she was going to be a Godmother. Now I don't know. It was nice talking to you. Good luck to you and your daughter.