Emotion: sadness
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: Well I guess it's not really a break up,  my boyfriend got killed in a car accident coming up on 3 years ago in January.

assistant: hello there, how are you?

user: I am ok. Kinda having a rough day today.

assistant: I am sorry to hear that. Do you want to talk about it?

user: Sure. It's coming up on 3 years next month that I lost my boyfriend in a car accident. Its just really rough this time of year.

assistant: Oh I am so sorry to hear that. I cannot imagine how hard that must have been for you.

user: Extremely hard. I remember that morning like it was yesterday. He got killed within an hour after leaving the house on his way to work.

assistant: He was killed so soon after you last saw him?

user: Very soon. And the worst thing is I was upset with him that morning. He had an addiction to xanax. I was not ok with it. He had went and got some that morning and he would always give them to me so I could give them to him so he didn't take them all. I was so upset that he went and got them. He was packing up his truck with things to take to the new shop that day. He was a tattoo artist and just started a new job. I didn't even get out of bed to help him and he knew I was upset with him.

assistant: Have you considered any sort of bereavement counselling? Addiction in a partner is a very hard thing to have to deal with. It is not your fault!

user: I had decided that I was gonna wait to hear from him that day instead of texting or calling him. I wanted him to realize how upset his addiction made me. Instead the phone call I got was that he had been killed.

assistant: Do you feel any sort of guilt about it? You should not, of course, but do you wonder if things would have been different if you had talked to him first?

user: I haven't done any counseling. I know I should and it would probably help me. I don't know why I have not.

assistant: I have previously had counselling and found it very useful but there is a long waiting list for a free counsellor

user: I don't feel guilt about it. Now at least. I was pretty hard on myself at first. But I know that he knows why I was upset that morning. It was something we dealt with a lot.

assistant: Are you still in touch with his family and friends?

user: I went and talked to a therapist once right after and never went back. And I don't know why. He was amazing to talk too. But I just never went back.

assistant: I think you should do things in your own time but I would recommend doing it again one day.

user: I don't have any contact with his family. I actually had to block them on all social media. They are extremely religous. Which there is nothing wrong with that. But he didn't have the best relationship with any of them. They couldn't accept him for who he was. His biological father didn't have anything to do with him. His mom was remarried and had two more kids and they didn't treat my boyfriend very good growing up. He ended up living with his grandparents. He finally had acceptance in my family. He actually talked to my mom more than I did lol.

assistant: Sounds like a very complicated set up. It is sad when family members become partially estranged from one another.

user: His family has been pretty horrible to me and my girls. And I know it's because they have guilt for the way things were with their relationship. They didn't even invite me and my girls to the burial of his ashes.

assistant: That is extremely offensive and I think you would have had the right to contest that.

user: It's very sad. Not what I wanted at all. But they were really horrible to me and my girls. I know he would not be happy that they have treated us so poorly.

assistant: I hope that you are able to come to terms with things in the near future. Please try and focus on your girls and not worry so much!

user: His sisters went and cleaned out and took everything he had from the shop the day after the funeral. Which really hurt. The stuff he had there meant alot to me.

assistant: I think you should talk to someone about this. Maybe a lawyer? There must be something people can do to help.

user: I hope I can too. I just take everything day by day. I start a new job this week and hopefully things will start looking up. The last 3 years have been rough to say the least.

assistant: I have to wrap this up now but I wish you all the very best for the future. Please try and reach out to people for help!

user: We weren't married. And of course he didn't have a will. He was only 32. So according to his family I have no legal rights. Thank you for chatting with me.

assistant: You are very welcome!

user: Have a good night.