Emotion: anger
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I don't feel respected at work. I've put in many years and I think I've done a really good job. I think I've always gone above and beyond what's required of me. But my annual evaluations always come back as just meets expectations. Recently found out my boss is hiring a new person to train to take over his position when he retires. A bit upset that I wasn't considered. Would like to find a new job but the job market in general right now isn't very good.

assistant: Salutations

user: Hi there!

assistant: Are you doing ok with the Virus

user: Doing ok I think. But I think the stress is getting to me. How about you?

assistant: What would like chatting about

user: Any suggestions on how to deal with a boss who you don't feel appreciates you?

assistant: So u have a boss that you feel is against you Does your work involve meeting him or her daily

user: In a way yes. I've worked for this person for several years. Felt I've done a really good job. Gone above and beyond but my evaluations always come back as just meets expectations. Nothing more. Just fond out he's hiring someone new to train to take over his job when he retires.

assistant: You must have your sites set on the position as well. That can be frustrating Can I ask how many others work with you

user: It would have been nice to have been considered. At least been in the conversation. There are 3 others on our team. The other 2 are part timers

assistant: might I ask the gender of your boss

user: male

assistant: same as u right

user: no, I'm female.

assistant: Are there any other females working with you

user: currently, no. the new person he's looking to hire to take over eventually is female.

assistant: I assume you are full time

user: Yes, I'm full time.

assistant: So you seem qualified for the position, have you been able to ask why he overlooked you Being overlooked because of personal reasons should not be a reason to offer the position to an outsider

user: Haven't had the chance to bring it up. The boss tends to have a temper and doesn't like questions to his decisions. Trying to figure out a way to bring it up without making the work situation more difficult.

assistant: It would affect me as well if I was overlooked and the position was offered to an outsider Is he mean towards others or just you

user: Glad to hear I'm not just being petty about it. It's his general nature. His approach is more like a bull in a china shop. His way or no way.

assistant: Are his tempers basically towards you because you are full time There is no reason to be petty. You have a legitimate reasoning to your feelings

user: I think may be because my approach to things are a little more subtle. I tend to get a long with people in different departments more than he does. I'm "not aggressive enough" he's said in the past. But I just think it's a different approach on how to handle matters.

assistant: hate to ask but have the 2 of you been close before

user: nothing more than employer/employee.

assistant: is there an arbitrator you can involve to discuss the matter Sometimes a mediator can help with the situation.

user: I don't think it's come to that point. feel like I do need to personally address it as you mentioned earlier. I think going above his head on it would just make it worse. I just have to find the right way to approach him with my concerns.

assistant: Being in an environment that seems hostile towards you can make it hard.

user: Yeah. Will probably talk to one of my co-workers for more feedback as well.

assistant: have you address it with HR to see what can be accomplished

user: Not yet. But that sounds like a good idea.

assistant: others might also be noticing and approaching the HR with out your knowledge

user: great point. appreciate the feedback.

assistant: If his actions are noticeable to others maybe you need to address it with a mediator

user: great food for thought. I just have to figure out how best to act. thanks.

assistant: Don't let someone bully you at work. That is borderline sexual harassment. Protect your rights Do you have any connections in HR that you can invite to lunch Arrange an outside meeting to discuss your options.

user: Truly appreciate your words of support. This make feel a lot better. I think I have a good enough relationship with the HR office to discuss.

assistant: GOOD. But don't be intimidated .Stand up for your rights

user: Thank you again. Thanks for the chat. Best wishes to you!