Emotion: anger
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: My friends suck at being friends. They use me, ignore me, and i'm only a benefit for them.

user: Hey

assistant: How ae you feeling today? Is there anything you need to talk about?

user: I feel drained, honestly. I'd love to talk about my current dilemma in my friend circle.

assistant: Can you share the dilemma you are having?

user: Basically. This has happened for as long as I can remember, even back when I was a little kid. Any friend i've ever had has just used me for SOME gain. Whether that be boredom, money, or an emotional support pillow. I'm so sick of it. They'll literally ignore me for months and randomly text me for money. If i respond theyll read my messages then ignore me until they need money again. Or, they'll use me to throw alllll their problems onto me and never do the same for me. In some way shape or form- every person I become friends with uses me and throws me away when theyre done. Sometimes I feel like it must be me. Maybe i',m annoying? This happens so often the common denominator is ME. But i'm friendly, im assertive, im out spoken, im kind. I don't LET people walk all over me but it seems like that;s all I attract.

assistant: So you feel under valued in your relationships because people tend to take advantage of you.

user: Pretty much. it just happens every single time. It's kind of discouraging and just makes me an angry person

assistant: It sounds like this is really bothering you. It is good that you are talking about it though. Have you tried telling them how they make you feel?

user: Some of them. The others I never even get a chance because they just ignore my existence anytime I try and reach out to talk. I've just been waiting for them to pour their problems onto me or have the nerve to ask for money. Then i'll tell them. I already know they won't respond but atleast ill say my peace

assistant: After you tell them how you feel do you still give them money or listen to what's going on and try to help them.

user: No. Whenever I do get to say my peace, i'll just cut contact completely. Lately i've been holding it in and just barely responding if at all. I've told one of them that i have no money and she hasn't contacted me since. But if she tries again i'll say something about the issue. I don't like feeling used. Who even has the nerve to blatantly use somebody like that? It's irritating

assistant: It's good that you let them know how you feel. By doing that, you are taking the first step in now allowing them to take advantage of you

user: Agreed. I just hope that one day I can meet people and form actual friendships with them

assistant: It's really hard to stand up for yourself but it sounds like you are off to a good start. Have you taken any steps in trying to form new more meaningful relationships

user: I thought I did. My husband and I made a couple friends. Theyre a couple and so are we so we go on double dates but they seem more drawn to him. Me and the other girl got very close and then boom she randomly decided she only wants to talk to me when shes mad or bored

assistant: So feel that this new couple might value the friendship with your husband more then you

user: yeah it seems that way. Most people like him more than me and it's weird because he sucks at socializing and doesn't even like them that much It just doens't make sense but that's just the way the ca rds were dealt

assistant: I used to have a hard time forming a meaningful relationship but then I realized it's because I had nothing in common with the people I was trying to form them with. Once I discovered something I was really drawn to I met people that way like volunteering in my community. Have you tried finding people you have more in common with.