Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: fear
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I fear that I will not have a job next year, at the beginning of the year.  My emotions are in survival mode and I do not want to do anything or buy anything from this fear

assistant: Hi, how are you doing today?

user: Hi, I am doing ok, how are you?

assistant: Good thank you. Why only ok? What is bothering you?

user: Well 2020 is bothering me, like everyone else.. earlier this year my job was terminated, then for 3 months I was not bringing in income. Now that COVID is still out there, I fear that my current job will be terminated

assistant: I'm sorry to hear that. 2020 has been tough for many, so you are not alone. I have been through a similar situation in the beginning of the year where I have lost my job. I was fearful but I kept thinking positive thoughts and it helped me get through tough times.

user: True, I have been trying to think of other things I can do, like start a business But I have been working for 20 years, that I feel like I am supposed to work for someone else and not for myself.

assistant: That is a great idea. The government has great support programs for new business owners like you. I think working for yourself is great. You can set your own hours, chart your own path. It would help with your employment situation for sure.

user: I feel that I have not ideas. I feel like i have been thinking about a business idea for myself and family for some time now. I wonder how others decide on what to do Like how to get that motivation in their head to start something really new

assistant: My suggestion would be to think what your local neighborhood needs - maybe it is lacking a cafe or a grocery store?

user: I know, i really want a niche company.. Something that no one has thought of, or is not yet in my community.

assistant: Yes, I can identify with that. Motivation is hard - but think about your future job situation and your family.

user: I would love to do a zero waste company or store, since that is what I am really into. Do you think it is hard to set up a business plan?

assistant: That's a great idea! Green is the new way to go! I believe in you.

user: Oh Thank You!

assistant: I think it will take some hard work but you can do it. There are support for you from local governments. I think you should look into it. How are you feeling now?

user: I think I will! I actually feel motivated to do some research on this. At least is has taken my mind off possibly not having a job

assistant: That's great to hear! My suggestion is to always think positively. You can do this!

user: Thanks for your help. This really helped. I needed to be able to speak/type to someone about this. I believe this app/program is very helpful

assistant: You are welcome. I'm wising you all the luck and success. Have a great day!

user: Thank you! You also. Have a Merry Christmas and safe Holidays
Emotion: sadness
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: I have accepted a new job and my work friends are upset that I am leaving them.

user: Hello

assistant: Hello! How are you doing today?

user: I am a little down today. How are you?

assistant: Not bad for a Monday, but that's often a bummer of a day. What's got you down?

user: My friends, who I also work with, are upset with me because I am leaving for a new position. I am sad that they are upset.

assistant: Ah, that can be awkward. Are you happy about the new position?

user: I am going to miss them, but yes... I am happy about it. Maybe a little nervous.

assistant: So do you think you are feeling down more because of missing your friends or your nervousness about the new job?

user: Honestly I don't know. I think I would feel alot better about it if my coworkers were more supportive.

assistant: That only makes things tougher, doesn't it. So is there a way you could reassure your co-workers that this new position doesn't mean you have left their lives?

user: Maybe

assistant: What kinds of things do you think might help with that? Could you meet for lunch or coffee now and then? Or could you all create a standing "group chat" to touch base regularly?

user: Well we already have a group chat... we could keep communicating through that. And lunch a few times a month would be nice, but they are all night shifters and I am going to be a dayshifter.

assistant: Cool! But I gather that if you already do that, you don't think that would be enough? Or would it? What else might work? Ah, so you think that being on different shifts may be what has you all concerned about losing touch?

user: Yes. We won't even be awake at the same time.

assistant: Is there some overlap between the end of your day shift and the beginning of their night shift? Is there a time you are all awake? Maybe dinner for you, but "breakfast" for them?

user: That is a good idea

assistant: What else might minimize the separation? Do you all have weekends off?

user: I will at my new job but they do not.

assistant: So maybe the "between shifts" type meeting may help? It might be hard to schedule, but I think you can do that. What do you think?

user: Yes, thanks
Emotion: sadness
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: Many of my friends are divorcing and/or moving away and I feel lonely.

assistant: Hi, how are you today?

user: I am okay, thanks.

assistant: Is there anything you’d like to talk about?

user: Yes, lately my friends have been going through divorces and many have moved away.

assistant: Wow, you’ve lost friends. I know how that feels. So you’re missing them?

user: Yes, it's very sad and a difficult situation because my husband is friends with some of the husbands and I am friends with the wives.

assistant: I honestly believe we all go through that. I think it’s especially difficult with divorce.

user: Maybe. I never thought I would to this extent. The pandemic created so much stress for people.

assistant: Friends are so important to me also. Do you thing the covid crisis has caused more divorces?

user: Right. It's tragic to see so many going through divorces and separations at the same time.

assistant: It’s certainly more difficult to make new friends now.

user: Yes, I have 4 sets of friends divorcing and they all separated after March 2020. It is. Nothing is open anymore and so many people are guarded.

assistant: Wow, that’s difficult. You’re married?

user: It is. And 3 of my friends are moving home to be with family who all live out of state and far away. I am married. My husband and I are fine. We've actually grown closer despite all of this.

assistant: I sure miss my friends.

user: Yes, me too.

assistant: That’s wonderful, I am closer to my spouse now also.

user: That's good. It seems this crisis is either a divider or a unifier. There's no in between.

assistant: Have you considered new activities, like hobbies?

user: Yes, I have been going to the gym more. I am training to run a 7 minute mile.

assistant: I learned how to how to bake sourdough bread for instance.

user: I love sourdough bread. I should learn how to do that too. Well thank you for the friendly chat. I appreciate your suggestions and support.

assistant: One other thing, many insurance companies are providing chat via computer with counseling.
Emotion: sadness
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I am sad about finding out my boyfriend broke up with me because he saw where I came from .

assistant: Hi there, how can I help you today?

user: I'm sad because I found out my boyfriend broke up with me once he saw I came from a poor neighborhood.

assistant: That's terrible. How awful he is

user: Yes, I kind of depressed over it though because I thought he loved me.

assistant: I understand how you feel, especially when you're looked down by the one you care the most

user: I wish I had a different home, but I can't change that now. I'm trying to work so hard to do better, but it will take time.

assistant: It is not your fault. It's actually your ex's problem. There is nothing to feel ashamed of

user: Thanks for the encouragement.

assistant: You can actually use this as a motivation to show your ex how much he missed

user: I think he is missing out on a lot, but he isn't going to realize this now.

assistant: yes that's the right attitude. As long as you are determined, I believe you can do anything you want.

user: Do you think someone else will love me for who I am?

assistant: Of course, you will find the right one soon.

user: How can I move forward? Should I try to get him back and get him to realize he is not looking at my heart?

assistant: Use the time you have now to invest in yourself. When you're the best version of yourself, the right person will come to you natually

user: Can I invest my time in anyone from outside my neighborhood?

assistant: No, there is no reason trying to win that guy back, Even if he comes back after you get successful, he's after your status, not you yourself. Of course, however, the best person will come in your life when you're not looking

user: That sounds like good advice.

assistant: As I said, good things will eventually come to you

user: Thanks so much. That is reassuring. I'm starting to feel better.

assistant: If you feel lonely, talk to your friends and share your feelings with them

user: That sounds like it will be helpful.

assistant: I hope you feel better

user: I am feeling so much better. Thanks!

assistant: I'm glad I could be a bit help for you
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I recently made a mistake at work that I could get in trouble for, and I am nervous to approach my manager about my mistake.

assistant: Hello! How may I support you today?

user: Hi there, I am currently going through a kind of job crisis and I'm not sure how to move forward.

assistant: I can totally understand how frustrating a job search can be. I was recently in the job market as well, as my contract was not extended due to budget reasons! Is your line of business affected by Corona virus pandemic?

user: I actually have a job, but I made a mistake and I think I could get in trouble and I'm not sure how to approach my manager about the mistake I made. It is, we have been working from home since March. I actually started my job working from home, something that wasn't expected when I was first hired.

assistant: Ok, apologies for my earlier assumption! May I please know more details about the nature of your problem?

user: Thats ok! We had been given a deadline for end of day this upcoming monday to have a number of projects completed. Some projects take only part of day to complete while others take multiple. I made the mistake of prioritizing the ones that take less time to be sure I was able to get as many done as possible. I in turn, forgot to start the other projects that take a couple of days until friday (yesterday) so now these couple of projects wont be done by the deadline.

assistant: Ok, if I understand correctly, you prioritized some work to be done later, which unfortunately had an earlier deadline, is that correct?

user: Yes essentially. They all had to be done the same day, but I prioritized the work that took less time in order to get more of them completed. So now these ones that take longer (with the same deadline) wont be finished in time. I'm worried about talking to my manager about this. I know the mistake I made, but I'm afraid that won't be enough to make up for my mistake.

assistant: We all make mistakes, don't we? Don't worry too much about it. Just be honest to your manager regarding what transpired. The way you feel bad about it while chatting with me, I am sure you are a great employee that wants to make things right.

user: We do, and its my first mistake in the 8 months I've been working here.

assistant: I am sure it's a honest mistake and let your manager know that you will be better at time management and prioritization moving forward.

user: Oh thank you thats kind of you to say. That is good advice.

assistant: You tell him that this has been a valuable lesson and you have learned a lot from it. And that this mistake would not happen again. If your manager is a leader and not a boss, he would appreciate your honesty and give you chance to rectify. Otherwise, at least, you now know what type of manager you are working for!

user: you are so right!! thank you for putting this all into perspective

assistant: I have been in similar situation a lot. All the best :)

user: Thank you again, have a great evening :)
Emotion: shame
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I realize my career won't pay much and I feel bad for choosing it

user: hello

assistant: hi there! how are you doing?

user: I feel ashamed thinking of my future career

assistant: Can you tell me a little about what you feel ashamed about?

user: whenever we have family gathering, my aunts and uncles would brag about how much their children make. I have higher degree but will only make half of their salary so I feel bad

assistant: So, you feel that your family is judging you for your earning potential?

user: yes, my parents won't say it to me but they never show they're proud either

assistant: I am very sorry for that. They should be proud that you have such a good degree!

user: What's good if it doesn't translate to my earnings. I wonder if I should start over with some better degree, but it's expensive

assistant: I think you are coming at this from the wrong perspective. Life is not all about money you know!

user: I want to think otherwise but it's difficult, especially when capitalism is everything nowadays

assistant: Do you think that you enjoy your current field even though it is not as well paid as it could be? Do you think that you enjoy your current field even though it is not as well paid as it could be?

user: I enjoy it, I did some internship and it was nice

assistant: I think that you should focus on how much you enjoy it. After all you will be working for the next few decades so you do not want to do something that you hate just because it pays well.

user: Is there anyway for me to change my way of thinking? I keep worrying about all the expense that I'll have to spend and what if I can't afford because of how much I earn

assistant: Is it possible for you to talk to your parents about this? It seems to me that they are at the root of your problems

user: I don't really want to talk to them, I'm not very close to them and rarely tell them my problems

assistant: Well, if you are not close to them does their opinion really count for so much?

user: it still affects me nonetheless

assistant: I do understand how hard it can be to shake off your family's preconceptions and expectations even though you are not close to them

user: thank you for understanding

assistant: You are very welcome. Please know that this is a very common problem and a lot of people feel the way that you are feeling now.

user: it's tough when I look around and everyone seems to do better than me

assistant: Do you think that you might benefit from some counselling to help you overcome your self esteem issues?

user: I've thought about thaat but I'm not in a financial situation to afford that

assistant: I can provide you with a list of places that will offer a few counselling sessions for free. I think you need to be able to talk this out with a professional.

user: that would be great

assistant: I think that you need to accept that your parents' opinion should not colour your whole life

user: yeah I should start doing that and not let others affect me Thank you very muchh for talking with me
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: I have anxiety to leave my families,

user: hi

assistant: hi there, is there anything troubling you today? I am happy to talk about anything you might have on your mind.

user: I got a new job in California, and all my families, mother, father, siblings and friends are there in Washington

assistant: Ouch that is a very long way. So you feel that you are going to be distanced from your loved ones and might lose touch with them?

user: i need to take care of my mother and monitor my young ones

assistant: I know how it feels to move to another part of the country. I guess you are nervous about it and unsure if you're doing the right thing

user: yes, I need to take care of them, although the job gets a big cash

assistant: Would you consider relocating with you? they consider, sorry.

user: and how will I cope? I know nobody over there in California NO

assistant: It is a difficult time to be making new friends, with all the social distancing policies in place

user: IT IS ONLY MY WIFE AND CHILDREN THAT WILL FOLLOW ME DEFINITELY

assistant: How often would you be able to visit your parents and siblings?

user: I do do that often

assistant: I think that they will still know that you love and care for them no matter how far away you are

user: but they will definitely need me

assistant: Are there any comparably paid jobs that you could take that do not involve moving?

user: no for now

assistant: I do understand that the job market is really difficult right now. Would your siblings not be able to take care of your parents though?

user: I am not sure of that men

assistant: Do you feel that they are not committed enough to your parents?

user: like, I am seriously worried yes

assistant: It is very difficult to know what to say. It is a big worry and I wonder if you can be happy in your new environment if you can't be sure that what you've left behind is okay Is it possible that you are worrying unnecessarily though?

user: no only worried most about my mother, she will not leave dad

assistant: Have you considered looking into other forms of help that your parents could have when you are not there? There are organisations that could check in on them

user: she feels more happy while seeing me

assistant: I am sure that she'd not want you to sacrifice your happiness and financial security though

user: ok

assistant: It is good that you love your mum so much and are worried about her happiness.

user: let what organization can do that?

assistant: I am not sure to be honest. You could try contacting your local Citizen's Advice Bureau?

user: okay, I will do that right now, I will be happy if I can see such

assistant: I hope that I have been able to be of some help to you You need to press quit now ... I can't do it from this end : )

user: yes thanks a lot
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: Not really succeeding in college

user: Hello.

assistant: Hi, How can I help you?

user: I'm feeling really anxious about my future. I'm not doing as well in college as I want to.

assistant: Is there anything else bothering you or it is only the college?

user: Well, I was a great student in high school, but I've found that I'm really struggling with my college classes. I feel rather underprepared and that maybe I don't really belong here.

assistant: That's good, at least you identified your problem somehow, now is the time to begin solving it What is stopping you to get prepared for the exams?

user: It's just so much harder to concentrate since all my classes are online. Honestly, I feel like my concentration is terrible these days.

assistant: I had the same experience in the past, I was doing fine in high school but soon after I entered the college I saw myself falling

user: How did you deal with it?

assistant: soon I realized that It's not high school anymore, It needs more effort and specially more time to comprehend the lessons You can't just pass the exams by studying a day before the exam

user: Ugh, I have a huge problem with procrastination! It used to work in high school, but I guess I really do need to make changes.

assistant: I know It's hard these days by the pandemic and all online things

user: For some reason, it's a lot harder to ask questions online to my professors.

assistant: Then you find your answer by yourself, You NEED yo change

user: I guess, but I just feel like I really need someone else to explain things to me. I have such a hard time concentrating on my own.

assistant: And remember, your at college, You should start to seek the answers more by yourself and your college mates and be less dependent on professors

user: That's true, I guess I'm still thinking like I'm still in high school and I have a lot of bad habits to break.

assistant: Yes, I had all your problems but I tried to take the control little by little, the problem is still there but now I can manage it better

user: What was your strategy?
Emotion: sadness
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I have always been an honors student but with virtual school, I'm falling so far behind and I'm not sure when school will ever go back to normal.

assistant: Hello! I am here to listen! How are you feeling? Hello! I am here to listen! How are you feeling? *you

user: I'm very stressed. Virtual school is so hard. I've never gotten bad grades before this year.

assistant: So you are having trouble with Virtual school being so hard and it's causing you stress, am I understanding correctly?

user: Yes, that is correct. I need to be in a classroom to really grasp the material, I think.

assistant: I remember being in your position I know it's very hard and I am so sorry that you are stressed.

user: I just want to quit school because I can't seem to do better.

assistant: I know you said you want to quit, but hang in there!

user: I wish I knew how long we would have to be virtual. I don't think I can last another semester teaching myself from home.

assistant: It sounds like you have always done well with school, this virus has made it to where so many people are struggling. Just chatting with you, I can feel how stressed and anxious about it you are!

user: Yes, I was always an honors student so this is a huge change for me. I'm afraid it will reflect on my GPA forever.

assistant: I know that the situation with virtual learning is out of your control when it comes to how long it will last but is there anything you could do to relieve your stress while you are trying to learn things yourself?

user: I tried exercise to see if that would help. It hasn't really helped because the time I spend exercising I just think I could be studying.

assistant: When you start feeling stressed maybe you could try deep breathing for a few minutes to relax again. Or take a quick break and get some fresh air? Is there anything else that you do in any other situation that would normally help you relax?

user: I could try deep breathing. Fresh air is hard because we're in the middle of a snow storm! I like to go to a spa when I'm really stressed.

assistant: Oh wow that would make things complicated! But yes the deep breathing would definitely help, I'm sure!

user: I will try the deep breathing more often.

assistant: Maybe you could reward yourself with a spa trip ever so often, since you enjoy it?

user: That's a good idea. Maybe I could make it a reward for a good grade on a test.

assistant: Yes, please do! I am almost certain that could help you!

user: I think it might too!
Emotion: depression
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I do not know how to move on, nothing makes me happy

user: hello

assistant: hello

user: i need som help, i feel so sad.

assistant: I am sorry to hear that. Is there anything I can do for you? Please tell me what's wrong?

user: I think you can talk to me, maybe I will feel a bit better. I had a breakup with my boyfriend. Feeling depressed, can you give me any advice?

assistant: For sure, I am happy to talk to you. I am sorry for your breakup.

user: Thank you, but I do not feel motivated to do anything. What should i do with my feelings?

assistant: Is there anything you want to do right now that helps maybe. For example, to eat something, to listen good music or take small walk in fresh air etc I can feel you, it must be so hard to you. take your time do not think about a lot when I have bad times, I just want to take a nap. It maybe help you feel better