Emotion: depression
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: Its not even a break up, my girlfriend wants space after 5 years, she wants to rent a room on her own without me, and it feels over.

assistant: Hi! How are you today?

user: Could be better, the info i put for my scenario, just happened this morning.

assistant: Something unexpected happened today?

user: No actually, in fact today seemed to be starting better than any day this week. I support whatever she wants but right after Christmas is hard

assistant: Holidays can add pressure to our "normal" situations. Did you find that your normal coping mechanisms were not as helpful today?

user: Yeah, December has been hard on everyone. I know things will get better but its hard finding positivity when I feel so negative.

assistant: Sounds like your support is not appreciated.

user: Usually coping is either eating a ton of food or smoking marijuana, but with the holiday money is tight. I am listening to emo pop music from the 2000's now to help.

assistant: Music definitely helps! I have a list of songs that I like to sing to. I can't really sing, like, at all. But I love to do it. And it makes me forget about whatever is going on.

user: Honestly, in the past I have been a lot lower than I am now. I really just hope I am able to stay strong for as long as i can right now Honestly i do the same thing a lot. Songs with a lot of emotion that i can belt out

assistant: You are certainly self-aware. Better off than most people!

user: i will have to find somewhere i can properly exercise my awful vocals lol

assistant: Ah! I like pop songs from the 60's :-) Ha! The car is always good!

user: honestly its because i have been hospitalized due to my mental state. i try to be as self aware as possible now. i just hate the feeling of being blindsided.

assistant: Have you tried The Smiths? Band from the 80's. They are my go to for when I am feeling low.

user: i will give the throwbacks a try today. I do get down with a few of the older bands thats for sure

assistant: To be blindsided is a violation of trust. Have you spoken to her about it at all, or is that not your jam? It's ok. A lot of people are non-confrontational. Society tells us we should be able to express our boundaries. Not everyone is comfortable with that and that is ok.

user: we literally just talked about it an hour ago. she says she doesnt know what she wants and she doesnt know how long but she doesnt want to be away from me right now. which i feel just isnt fair. i feel like no one can just pick and choose when they want someone around.

assistant: But that puts more responsibility on you for your feelings. Sounds like you have coping skills for that.

user: i know. with COVID this is so much harder. i may just take a long walk and try to focus on myself, because it seems like our future is in flux and it seems like it could go either way.

assistant: You're right. That is not fair. You are feeling conflict and abandoned/not-abandoned. Could you make the decision?

user: i feel like what i may do, is just sleep on the couch for now and give her as much space as possible, at least for now i think

assistant: Only you are responsible for you. I was with someone who, although we had great fun together, he couldn't be with me as much as I wanted him to. And it made me feel bad. Because it brought up feelings from when I was growing up and neglected. It took a long time, and it ...wasn't a clean break. I just got tired of feeling bad, and the relationship just waned. Take the time you need, but you can take control, if you want to.

user: Right, it just feels crappy right now. literally yesterday her mom was telling me how happy she is that i take such good care of her daughter. I will have to just prioritize myself and hope it all works out. after 5 years its just hard

assistant: You said it, prioritize yourself. The rest will fall into place. It always does.

user: thank you. i really appreciate it. i will do the best i can i promise.