Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: disgust
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: my club is giving me a fuck headache, I cannot do without Arsenal but they are fucking up on a big time

assistant: Hello Hello

user: fuck Arteta , Burley still beat him today, it is seriously distasteful hi

assistant: How can I help you tonight>

user: I cannot even eat let alone of sleeping my club let me down

assistant: So just so I understand, your sports club struggled today so you are frustrated by this.

user: yes, on a big way , very frustrated

assistant: I can tell how frustrated this has made you just from exchanging these few messages.

user: the club has been struggling to win a premier league match since, you need to feel happy when you watch match but is on the other way round

assistant: I completely understand the frustration, I am also a big sports fan and I get very frustrated when my team struggles.

user: why is that coach still using the same pattern since? no technic work on the pitch at all. fuck him , I am down

assistant: Have you thought about talking to other fans of the team to get their feelings on the subject? Sometimes it helps to vent to people who feel the same frustration as you,

user: they are happy that my club is fucking up because I always proud of the club and the coach

assistant: I understand completley.

user: too disgusting

assistant: Do you have any other sports teams you are a fan of?

user: NO, I AM A BONAFIDE GUNNERS FAN

assistant: What other hobbies do you have? Sometimes it helps to distract from a tough loss to engage in other hobbies to take your mind off of it.

user: Listening to music

assistant: I would definitely go listen to some music and get your mind off of things.

user: ok...that's a best idea i think i need to do that right now

assistant: I think that would help!

user: thanks a lot for your time yes bye

assistant: No problem! If you ever need anything else don't hesitate to reach out!

user: ok
Emotion: depression
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I was given reduced hours at work and there might be a chance I could get laid off because I just started and there is lack of work. However, my expenses are the same and income is reducing.

assistant: Hi, how are you feeling?

user: Hey, I'm doing good at the moment. How about yourself?

assistant: Not too bad! It looks like a lovely day out.

user: Haha, I wish I could say the same. New York is depressing, cloudy and cold.

assistant: Well make sure you're bundled up and warm!

user: I got the heater on and a sweater, working from home so it's not too bad.

assistant: Sounds cozy. Glad to hear that you're staying safe indoors!

user: Yeah it's a good benefit, especially with covid going on

assistant: Definitely! How are you dealing with the pandemic? It's been a long year.

user: Not too bad, still have limited work and all remote so wont complain. But the expenses are tough. How about you, hope your well

assistant: I'm not too bad, but cases are also going up here in California. Luckily, my family and I haven't gotten sick.

user: Thanks good to hear, New York was doing well up until the holidays season. Now we might get another lockdown.

assistant: I think that's true for a lot of states since cases seem to be going up everywhere, unfortunately. What are your plans for the holidays?

user: Mostly stay home with the family, try to save money and cut expenses this year. How about you?

assistant: We're planning on camping in the desert. That's a good idea to save money. How do you plan on saving money?

user: No gifts giving and going make a modest size home made family dinner for thanksgiving this year. Usually we go visit family out state. We just want to get out of debt this year and save for next year. Coivd really humbled us. But it's a good thing

assistant: Those are all really good ideas, and it sounds like you know what's really important! It's definitely been a tough year, but it's also good to look ahead and plan for the future.

user: Yes, thanks for the chat. Love the positive vibes!
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: Procrastination
Situation: I keep trying to get started, but my kitchen mess seems so overwhelming.

user: I just can't make myself get started. There are so many dishes.

assistant: Sometimes even every day tasks can seem overwhelming. Do you have an idea of what makes you put off the dishes?

user: I feel like I just don't know where to start.

assistant: How long have you been hesitant to start?

user: I guess it has been a few days now.

assistant: I get it. Sometimes I find dishes so overwhelming that I will let them pile up. Maybe together we can figure out a way to break it into smaller tasks.

user: Ok, I suppose I can try that. But I don't quite know where to start.

assistant: It is so hard to figure out where to start sometimes. Ok, I'll help with a plan. Maybe you can glance at the dishes and pull out the largest one that is dirty. Let's start there.

user: Ok. That makes sense. There is a large pot. I think if I was that, maybe it would get me started.

assistant: yes, starting with the large pot would be a great place to start! Good thinking!

user: Ok, but then what?

assistant: Well, washing the pot will make the overall task look smaller. Then, let's pick a second type of dish to focus on. After you wash the large pot, try to focus on larger bowls, then plates and cups. You could leave the silverware for last.

user: Oh, thank you so much! It helps my anxiety to talk through a plan. Sometimes I get so anxious, it is hard to figure out how to break a large task down to something manageable on my own.

assistant: I am always happy to help. I find it difficult sometimes too. I really think you are figure out how to get through this and help your anxiety.

user: Wow do you think so? Have you every had anxiety like this?

assistant: Yes, I have. I often look at work assignments as larger than they are and can only get started when I break them down. I really think you have done great job figuring out how to tackle the task that is causing you anxiety.

user: I think so too. I hope I can apply this to other things. So, it's easy to figure out with things like dishes because there is a size. How do you do it when it is a task that isn't physical like this. Like work?
Emotion: sadness
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: My boyfriend and I went on separate vacations with our friends, and he cheated on me while he was away.

user: I'm still sad about it. Do you think I should contact him?

assistant: Please tell me more about your story

user: I am living abroad and was really into this guy. We dated for almost a year but both wanted to do our summer vacation with friends. When he got back, he told me he was with another girl. I broke up with him. Now I miss him. I want to call him or text.

assistant: Please don't do that. You made the right decision to break up with him as he doesn't respect you at al

user: It was just one time, but I wonder if he'd do it again. But I thought I'd live in this other country forever and we'd be together. Now I may have to go home.

assistant: I would say this, if he does it once, he will do it again

user: How can I know that for sure?

assistant: Maybe going home isn't too bad after all. You may even meet someone better there From my experience, people who cheat always cheat again

user: I really like it here though, and with Covid, it's hard to think about traveling. Has someone cheated on you?

assistant: Luckily I have never been in that situation but my friends have

user: It never happened to me before. I feel betrayed.

assistant: But trust me, you made the right decision. If anything, it proves you're a strong and independent person

user: Maybe I'll just go home for the holiday season.

assistant: People can only love and respect you when you treat yourself that way That's a great idea! Spend time with your friends and family, who actually care about you and your feelings

user: I wanted to throw something at him, I was so mad. But I just made him leave.

assistant: You are very mature. Anyone in that situation would feel the same.

user: Thank you. It was hard not to let my emotions get the best of me. I don't even know why he told me. But I guess it's good he did.

assistant: He did a good thing at least, being honest with you. However, cheating, even just once, is something I always warn people

user: I don't know if it was good. Maybe he was just being mean. It's nice of you to listen. Thank you for all your advice. i hope I can travel home safely now. And maybe come back in January.

assistant: I know it's useless to tell you to not be sad. Go ahead and let it all out by crying or screaming but please know you didn't do anything wrong I hope I can be help

user: I just hope I don't see him before I go home. Except deep down I wish I could. Thank you very much. You have been kind to listen.

assistant: No problem. and don't see him again, it's tough but it's better that way

user: Have a good rest of the night. Bye bye
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I'm really nervous about my finals coming up. I want to do well!

user: Hello!

assistant: Hi, how are you?

user: I'm stressed out about my finals coming up.

assistant: Let me make sure I understand. Your feeling stressed about your finals.

user: That is correct

assistant: I understand what that is like. What is your biggest fear?

user: I think I'm most scared that I'm going to study a lot but not do well and then not get good grades in my classes.

assistant: Did the teacher provide you with a study guide?

user: Only one of them did. I have a total of 4 finals.

assistant: Okay, are you familiar with their testing style? I am assuming you have had other test in these classes.

user: Yes thankfully I have. In all my classes, I have had tests before. I'm still nervous though.

assistant: I can tell you are stressed, try to relax, are you in a study group?

user: no, I don't really like studying with other people. I do have some friends in the classes though.

assistant: They are all probably feeling the same way. Try not letting fear fail you. Study hard and be confident, you have made it this far, your almost done.

user: Thank you for your kind words! I will take that into consideration.

assistant: also make sure you get enough rest, exercise and eat well balanced meals. That will help you feel less stressed.

user: t Those are very good things I will do. Thank you for your help!

assistant: your gonna do great. your welcome.

user: have a nice day - bye! I think you need to respond once more
Emotion: depression
Problem: Sleep Problems
Situation: sleep problems with over depression have adverse effects cognitive and behavioral functions.

assistant: Hi. How are you?

user: I am good

assistant: Thats great! How are you feeling?

user: Now i am better

assistant: I know that things have been hard during this pandemic for a lot of people.

user: Expect to have lot of mixed feelings.

assistant: Mixed feelings have you been having? It's completely normal and understandable to have them. Sometimes when you are having mixed feelings, you can try writing them down on a piece of paper. This can help you identify how you are feeling.

user: i have very mixed feelings about the whole issues .My mixed feeling stem from the fact that those are not reflected anywhere. I have no minded with writing things.

assistant: I could understand how difficult that must be for you. You could try taking a walk outside and getting some fresh air. Fresh air can always help to clear your mind.

user: please help another way to reduce my depression.

assistant: Does doing art work help you to feel better usually? You can try to immerse yourself in something you really enjoy doing. Sometimes if you smile while doing things, it can help you to feel better.

user: yeah sure i will try to reduce my depression with your wonderful ideas . thank you so much.

assistant: You're so welcome. I really hope you get back to feeling better soon, Stay safe and have a great rest of your week. Come back if you need any support.

user: Thank you your great supporter Nice to meet you.

assistant: Thank you so much. I am genuinely happy to help. It was nice to meet you as well.

user: have a great day bye.
Emotion: depression
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: My husband and I are having a hard time communicating.

user: Hello how are you?

assistant: i am good thank you how are you doing? how may I help you today?

user: I'm ok I'm having a hard time communicating with my husband.

assistant: what seems to be making it hard to communicate with him?

user: Every time we talk about anything we get into an argument it feels like that anyway

assistant: how long has this been going on?

user: We never fight over anything big its always so stupid. Its always someone being rude or their tone wasnt right. But i feel put down and unheard. We have been together 6 years. I want to find some kind of at home work shop or things to do. It sounds stupid but its really becoming a problem and we will divorce after christmas if we cant figure it out.

assistant: i can understand how you are feeling have you tried to talk to him and tell him about how you are feeling about when you two argue

user: yes

assistant: Communication is key in a marriage without that the marriage will start to fail and I do not want to see that happen

user: We always agree and nothing ever changes

assistant: you two need to sit down and have a serious discussion about the way your marriage is going

user: You're right. I'll do that.

assistant: have you two ever considered seeing a marriage counselor? don't feel put down or let it get to you because as long as you trying in a marriage that is what matters and just keep trying

user: We have but I would be super uncomfortable. He says hes for it then changes his mind I think I'll talk to him about it again. Thank you you have been very helpful
Emotion: depression
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I decided to separate from my husband after finding myself incredibly unhappy.

assistant: Hello my name is Christina

user: Hello Christina

assistant: What's your name?

user: Shay, thank you for asking

assistant: Hi Shay. You are welcome. Anything on your mind today? I'm here if you would like to talk about anything.

user: I am feeling depressed. I feel lonely and unimportant to those around me.

assistant: So you are feeling depressed and lonely and you feel unimportant? I am sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. I have felt the same before and I know it can be difficult to change those feelings.

user: yes I just want to get out of this slump. I hate that im sad all the time

assistant: I can understand that. If I may can I ask you if you live with anyone?

user: i live by myself now

assistant: Ok well that should be something that you can take pride in. Do you have contact with your friends and family? I have found that for me calling my mom or chatting with my friends that truly know me makes me feel more connected to others.

user: I talk to my mom often, but i was isolated from most of my friends for years so im trying to meet new ones.

assistant: That's great that you speak to your mom. I know it can be hard to open yourself up and meet new friends but I think you can do it. Are there maybe some people at your job that you would consider making friends with? I think that would be a great place to start because you would already have something in common.

user: I do have friends from my job, but i currently commute 1.5 hours for work which makes it hard. I feel that with time i may be more open to more friends, but right now i just want those that already know my back story for comfort.
Emotion: sadness
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: Well I was going on with this girl but then she broke up with me

user: So it really happened just like that

assistant: What happened?

user: My life just got flipped-turned upside down In West Philadelphia born and raised, on the playground is where I spent most of my days Chilling out maxing relaxing all cool and all shooting some b-ball outside of school when a couple of guys who were up to no good

assistant: It seems like you are feeling a little bit like the Fresh Prince of Bell-Air. Are you having any problems that I can help you with today?

user: First diagnosis was accurate so I can only trust you from here on out You see I was just 14 when my parents built a very strange machine it was designed to view a world unseen

assistant: Sounds good. I am glad that you trust me. What did the strange machine do?

user: When it didn't quite work, my folks just quit so I decided to take a look inside of it there was a great big flash everything just changed MY MOLECULES GOT ALL REARRANGED (phantom phantom)

assistant: I can see that you are taking this opportunity as a joke.

user: What would you rather we discuss? Favorite Katy Perry song has got to be Fireworks

assistant: I am here as your peer-supporter to help you. Is there anything that you have been struggling with recently?

user: Just everyday sluggishness and feeling down but they provide medication for that

assistant: When did this start?

user: last year is when I got diagnosed

assistant: It sounds like you had a life-changing diagnosis last year. How has it affected your life?

user: been getting lit a lot

assistant: I know getting "lit" is an easy way to deal with our problems, but it is not always the healthiest thing to do. It sounds like you are trying to escape something.

user: It's more like constantly feeling like there's a weight on my chest, tired but can't fall asleep, and having a terrible appetite it helps "escape" those feelings but if there's something bigger I am trying to escape I have no clue what it is

assistant: Life can be really hard, but I know you can turn things around! From what I have heard, I think that it could be helpful to try and cut back on the "getting lit"

user: Life has been getting better despite it but doesn't feel like my mood improves for long the day ends I get back home and I'm feeling a shot or a bowl alcohol bad *dab* so we get lit

assistant: Do you have any close friends or family that you can talk to?

user: I talk to my gf about it but doesn't really improve anything probably just need stronger medication

assistant: I think that's great that you have a girlfriend whom you can talk to! Stronger medication can certainly help, I would recommend seeing your doctor asap

user: Yeah probably the best play and we got over 15min bye I will miss u my sweet prince
Emotion: sadness
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: Iam feeling very sadness after breaking up with my girlfriend.

assistant: hi..how are you today..What is it you want to talk about today?

user: Hi..Iam doing good..iam feeling very sad about breaking up with my girlfriend

assistant: Oh I can understand..when did the break up happened..

user: A month ago and still iam not able to come out if sadness.

assistant: Oh Do you want me to suggest some ideas of overcoming sadness in my life..

user: Yes i would love to hear them

assistant: Did you try talking to friends and relatives..this helps a lot..

user: yeah I will try that but Iam very embarrassed to talk about my breakup to my friends..

assistant: Dont worry..I myself went through the same and talking to friends helped me a lot..

user: Yeah i will try to find some friends..do you have any other ways..

assistant: You can try some online forums to people who are facing the same type of issues..

user: Are they beneficial in overcoming to the hardest feelings..

assistant: ofcourse they are very useful..I myself went to long walks and it helped me a lot

user: Is considering counselling a better option?

assistant: Try other strategies first,if you dont find them helpful and if you can afford a counsellor,then you can try going for therapy.

user: I didnt know counselling is very expensive.are there any low cost options?

assistant: Yeah there atre some NGO s that can offer low cost counselling.You can try them.I myself tried those and found them very useful.

user: Oh I was not aware of the options about the low cost counselling.Thank you..

assistant: You are very welcome..I hope you feel better soon..

user: Thank you for the reassurance..I appreciate it..

assistant: Is there any thing else I can help you with?

user: No thank you..you are very helpful..bye
Emotion: sadness
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I thought I was going to marry my girlfriend but then she ended up cheating on me.  It broke my heart.  I don't know if I'll ever be able to trust a girl again.

user: I need help I broke up with my girlfriend and i'm very sad and don't know what to do can you provide any assistance?

assistant: I'm so sorry, the alert sound did not play for me. I'm sorry to hear you broke up with your girlfriend, that is a rough situation to be going through.

user: yes, she cheated on me i was suppose to marry her

assistant: That is really hard. Are you able to take some downtime and recalibrate, take care of yourself? When I've gone through break-ups in the past, it's been useful to really take care of myself and give myself some pampering. Guilty pleasure TV and takeout Chinese food is always a good combination. Tacos, too. Maybe a bottle of wine, but not too much wine, just want to relax, not get sad.

user: Yes, I am going to my mothers house to talk things over. I have to drive 3 hours away

assistant: Oh dear, that's a long time alone with your thoughts. When I need to escape intrusive thoughts and rehashing things, I'll put on a podcast. Or documentary, or something that's calm, straightforward and factual.

user: yes, I know. family is always important during time like these

assistant: That's really good that you have that kind of relationship with your mom though! Moms are awesome for that kind of stuff. They can really make you feel protected and safe. The vulnerability after a break-up is unreal

user: yes, i can always count on her to be there for me my younger brother is always there for me too

assistant: That's awesome. Family support is crucial.

user: i guess i'll go make myself a drink and try to calm some nerves

assistant: Just be easy on yourself and know that in the future, you will find someone new, someone much more suited to you.

user: yea, its hard because ive dated her for over 5 years

assistant: I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish I could have been more helpful.

user: youve been a great help any more advice?

assistant: It's very good that you have a support system though! And that you have people out there waiting for you. I hope you have a safe drive.