Emotion: fear
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: I am fearful about changing a job during COVID but I am not happy at current job

assistant: Hello. How are you tonight?

user: Hi, I am doing ok.

assistant: That's good to hear. Can I encourage you in some way?

user: I am afraid about changing my job during COVID but I am not happy at my current job.

assistant: So you are unhappy at your job and want to do something else? What exactly are your fears? I have found writing out a pro and con list helps me -- On one side I look at the benefits, then I put the cons on the other side. They I weigh them, even if there are more cons, sometimes the PROS are much better.

user: I am a helpdesk associate for a large telecom company. I don't like the hours and the pay here but I am afraid if I can get a job outside in this time.

assistant: I can understand that looking for a job can be stressful and challenging at this time, but one thing is for certain, you will never know if you don't try.

user: I have tried the Pros & Cons method. Pros are better pay and hours, cons are tougher interviews and more rounds Yes, I think I need to give a try but I lack the confidence to put my resume out in the market.

assistant: I like the "Do it afraid!" method. I can still try even if I feel nervous. You really do not need confidence to put your resume out there, you just need to do it afraid. And when I "do it afraid" I realize it was easier than I thought.

user: "Do it afraid"? Do you mean do it even if I am afraid? It sounds a bit too optimistic to me.

assistant: I used to be paralyzed with self confidence, but the truth is, your confidence doesn't come from your job, your confidence comes from being a lovable person. The confidence that you are the person you want to be. It sounds optimistic but it is the truth, when I step out to perform, I'm always nervous. BEING nervous looking for a job, that is NORMAL. To expect to feel like you are super confident is unrealistic. Most people are nervous, but they do it anyway.

user: Ok, I think it makes sense. I may have to give it a try.

assistant: I always felt awkward and nervous looking for a job, I think I went to one interview calm and cool, in 30 years! Hahaha.

user: I am a good team player, I don't have any inter-personal or communication issues. Just that I need to be at a higher pay to reach some financial goals

assistant: You have nothing to lose, really, you have weighed out that there is only good things that can come, but you think you must "feel" a certain way. You don not have to feel confident, you just have to do the work. For example, you don't FEEL like walking your dog, changing a diaper or helping someone, but you DO IT anyway.

user: Cool! I will try to get motivated and start applying. Your words are just what I needed in this gloomy atmosphere.

assistant: Inter personal skills can be learned. I was very shy as a child and I learned how to be more friendly. And I was VERY shy.

user: Ya, I think the key is to keep my current job and start looking elsewhere. Last time I made a grave mistake of quitting my job and then searching! I was very new, and over confident

assistant: I'm very outgoing now. I had to learn a lot of skills to be this way and I like myself more too. Hahah. I'm old though, 59. You have nothing to lose, consider it a learning opportunity. Life is a journey. We all make mistakes in the past. I think you are very intelligent actually because you thought of the pros and cons. You just needed a boost.

user: Thank you sir, I will definitely try it! You have shared Pure words of wisdom

assistant: I'm a lady! I pray to God and read the Bible and get wisdom there. Plus I have been to the school of hard knocks! lol I'm a lady! I pray to God and read the Bible and get wisdom there. Plus I have been to the school of hard knocks! lol

user: Oh my apologies, mam!!

assistant: I look forward to your new job! And celebrate with you. Take deep breaths and forge ahead!!

user: Definitely! Thanks a lot for your mentorship Have a great week ahead :)