Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: depression
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: MY life has been completely upheaved by a cheating spouse who abandoned me and our children

assistant: hi

user: Hey You there?

assistant: Hi I stepped out, how are you?

user: I'm okay I guess. How are you?

assistant: Good, I am good. Is there anything I can be of an assistence today?

user: I don't know. I've been dealing with a lot this last month.

assistant: I feel you. You might be just feeling a little tired. Do you feel like you need a rest?

user: Ha I'm a mother of two small children, I'm always tired lol

assistant: Mom of 2 kids! You must be super busy. How are they doing today, playful? calm?

user: I'm always busy im surprised i can sit down to do this lol

assistant: Oh well, it is a small gift then. I hope you can utilize this nice time Never know when you lose your free time, it maybe in a next few minutes?

user: Yes I am thankful for every moment of peace. Idk honestly it always varies on how long my autistic toddler stays occupied XD

assistant: It is so adorable when toddlers are occupied with something, like playing with toys. I might feel worried if my free time lasts long, becuause it is so unusual!

user: Exactly, when it gets quiet it gets suspicious XD Right now my little girl has her woody doll and bo peep doll making them kiss while she watches sherk lol. My 8 years old is engrossed in his cellphone.

assistant: haha, I cannot help smiling when picturing them. Are you seeing them over an indoor surveillance camera ? What does your 8 years one do on his cell phone?

user: No my little ones stay in the room around me. They feel insecure since their father walked out on us. So they tend to stick as close to me as possible lately.

assistant: Ok you are around them really close. Oh well, these days single parent is becoming more popular, don't worry. Some kids have 2 parents and some don't, I hope kids will learn that. But they are so cute, that they are making sure that you will not go away ! It is sad though I heard kids tend to blame themselves for those uncontrollable events. I hope your kids will not.

user: Yea one of the flaws with my marriage. I stayed so they would have both parents. Now they dont. I just hope ill be able to teach them and raise them on my own.
Emotion: anger
Problem: job crisis
Situation: My Board of Directors is going around me to my staff.

user: My board is going around me to my staff and I am frustrated. And angry!

assistant: I'm sorry to hear that. Would you like to tell me more?

user: My supervisor left and she reported to the board. Now we report to them. They said they would just go to us and not them. Now the board is going around us (me and my coworker).

assistant: I could understand how that could make you very angry, I would be too.

user: Have you ever ran into something like that before?

assistant: I have not, it sounds like a very bad situation. Is there anyone you can report this to at the company?

user: Not really. My coworker and I can complain but that can only go so far. I need to detach and do the work but my ego is hurt.

assistant: It sounds like you are working in a toxic work environment with poor leadership. Have you considered possibly seeking another job? Or maybe another company?

user: Not really. This just started happening last week. I'm still trying to get a better idea on how to deal with this.

assistant: I understand. What do you think about having a conversation with the board and let them know the issues you are having? You could have your coworker back you up.

user: I think that is how I am going to respond. I am also hearing this from my staff, which may be part of the problem. I am trying not to let my ego get involved but it is hard.

assistant: It sounds like you take a lot of pride in your job which is very amiable. I think confronting the board is the best way to go about this.

user: I am worried that I will not be received well. Should I be?

assistant: It's very possible, but I think you will be commended amongst your peers. You owe it to yourself not to be walked all over.

user: That's true... I need that at least.

assistant: And who knows maybe the board will appreciate you coming to them, it shows great strength.

user: I hope so my last two days were pretty upsetting. Thanks for your help.

assistant: You're very welcome, was there anything else you wanted to discuss?

user: No, that's all.
Emotion: sadness
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I'm worried about being perfect on my job.

user: I am worried about being perfect on my job. I don't want to lose my job.

assistant: I hear you are trying to be perfect on your job because you are worried about losing your job. How long have you been at your job?

user: I have been working for about 4 months, but I just am not as fast at it as everyone else. I'm trying so hard working late and everything but it's never enough.

assistant: That can be hard when you are working so hard to try to do your best. Can you consult with a supervisor or co-workers to get some help?

user: Maybe I could ask my friend and co-worker for some tips. I'm a little embarrassed to do so, but don't know where to turn. I don't want to get fired.

assistant: Asking for help isn't always a bad thing. I asked for help at my last job and they gave me someone to help out. I was so relieved.

user: That's true maybe it could turn out for the better. But what if they see me as incompetant?

assistant: I can see that you have worry of being seen incompetent but as long as you are doing your best, they have to see the efforts you are making as positive.

user: That's a good way to put it.

assistant: Sometimes deep breaths can help keep you calm when approaching others in an anxiety provoking situation.

user: I will have to try that. That might help.

assistant: Have you thought of doing additional work related trainings? Sometimes they can give suggestions to improve work abilities.

user: That sounds great. Do you think my work would be supportive?

assistant: Work can often pay for trainings or offer suggestions what may improve work strategies.

user: Wow, I hope I can take advantage of that. I will have to check into that. Who should I approach at work?

assistant: You could ask your immediate supervisor or sometimes Human resources for support.

user: I can do that. I think I'll reach out tomorrow to Human Resources for some help.

assistant: That sounds like a good plan to reach out for support. Is there anything else I can help with?

user: No that should be all. I am feeling more confident in strategies to use to help me. Thanks
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: My girl has decided that Brad from accounting is someone that she has secretly wanted for a long time. And now that he is divorced, she is breaking up with me to get with him.

user: I cannot believe my Girl is breaking up with me.... I am very anxious about how to cope with my emotions. Can you IMAGINE?? Breaking up with ME?

assistant: just stay calm

user: I am trying.

assistant: don't think too much, make yourself busy with other things

user: My girl of 5 years decided that "Brad from Accounting" is her guy. :( I need to stop the racing thoughts.... She just told me that she has had feelings for Brad for a long time....

assistant: how old is the guy

user: Now that Brad is divorced, she just jumped to the opportunity. Ridiculous..... Brad? He is 40.

assistant: yes

user: Yeah...... I can't believe it was Brad..... My girlfriend is a real gold digger.... "Big Bucks Brad." What a fool I have been.

assistant: you just need to stop thinking about her make a fresh start again

user: It is hard. I was looking at engagement rings..... She has only worked at the Firm for 3 years....

assistant: i would not consider someone who ditched me

user: Just because I am not a rich guy like Brad....

assistant: I understand your feelings but try to overcome them

user: I guess not buying that engagement ring was the right thing to do. Have you ever been dumped before by a partner?

assistant: yes, once

user: How hard was it for you? How did you cope? I have a lot of anxiety right now.

assistant: I was a student that time so focused on my studies. That's how I overcame that trauma

user: Oh, ok. I am not a student. I work in retail.

assistant: That was a big shock, I was in relationship for 3 years

user: Oh, wow. How did you handle anxiety? I am having some right now.

assistant: i would suggest to play games or try to connect with new people

user: Should I confront Brad at my ex-GF's workplace or start looking online for another partner? You think connecting with other people would work? Like a support group?

assistant: start looking for a new one because if she wanted to stay with you she would have never ditched you for Brad yeah

user: Yeah, it was a long relationship. I should have lived together with her instead of being in different apartments. Well, she constantly told me that she loved me. I never thought it would be Brad.....he is a geeky dude. I met him at my GF's last Christmas party, hosted uptown. Work Christmas Party, too.

assistant: its ok, things happen, if she was actually in love with you, she would not leave you just for being in a different apartment
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I am just starting school & i feel like i not smart enough to graduate

user: i just started school and i dont feel that i am good enough

assistant: Congratulation on starting school! That is a huge accomplishment. Tell me more about how you're feeling.

user: Its been so long since i have attended school. I barley graduated high school I dont feel i am cut out for college

assistant: It sounds like you are a little apprehensive about attending school because you have not done it in awhile. Is this accurate?

user: yes

assistant: I can definitely understand that. I remember feeling a certain way when I pursued another degree. What would make you feel a bit more confident about the idea of school?

user: I dont know to be honest

assistant: It is certainly okay to feel nervous about it. This is a big step and a life-changing experience. You should be proud of taking that first step! What excites you about starting school?

user: Thank you! Im excited for the high paying jobs i can get once i graduate. also i chose a field that will allow me to work from home. I will be able to support my family without having to leave them!

assistant: That sure is exciting! There are many ways to prepare for starting school. For me, becoming more organized helped me in preparation for school. What are some things that come to mind that would help you mentally prepare for this event?

user: breathing techniques come to mind. you have helped me identify that it is simply just anxiety and i can better handle it now. thank you! I feel so much better and more confident!

assistant: Wonderful idea! Meditation and deep breathing have proven to be extremely effective. I'm so glad this has helped! How do you see yourself fitting in the breathing techniques this week?

user: i will do the techniques before each class. That way i have a clear & open mind!

assistant: I love it!

user: Well Its lunch time for my kids, i guess that concludes this conversation! Happy holidays!
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I am worried about failing my college math exams and being kicked out of school.

user: Hi. I am worried about my exams.

assistant: Exams are a stressful time. What seems to be the problem? Exams are a stressful time. What seems to be the problem?

user: I do not feel like I am properly prepared, even though I have studied.

assistant: I can assure you that countless students including myself have gone through the trials of studying for exams and do feel overwhelmed but it passes. Have you studied?

user: I have studied. However, I still feel like I am not prepared. One big problem is that I have no quiet place to study.

assistant: I get it, distractions can be challenging to overcome at times. Have you thought about going to a library, or a book store?

user: I have not. Both of those are great suggestions. I wonder if I should take the time to walk to the library (30 minutes), or just continue to study? Maybe, I know as much as I can know. The anxiety is too much.

assistant: If it helps you study then the library may be worth the time and effort. Sometimes we can stress out over worrying about not having enough time to study. But trust the work you have done and you will know if it is enough.

user: This is very good advice. Have you completed college?

assistant: Yes, and it wasn't easy but with hard work, it is completely doable. And you have the power within yourself.

user: What do you think will happen if I fail this test?

assistant: Sometimes it is not about the amount of studying, but the way you study. I like reading my textbooks and highlighting the important parts and then rewriting them so they become ingrained in me. But let us not jump the gun, you haven't failed anything.

user: Very true. Thanks for reminding me. I think I worry more about the outcome than I need too.

assistant: Don't forget to breathe. Exams are stressful but I would suggest don't cram everything to the last minute. Usually the hour before the exam, I do something else.

user: Very good advice. Any suggestions on what I can do?

assistant: Stay calm, believe in yourself, start your studying early so you are not cramming everything in the last few days.

user: Great Advice. But, in the one hour prior to the exam, do you have any advice on something I can do to calm my nerves?

assistant: Walk outside, away from the students waiting for their tests.

user: Wonderful suggestion Thank you for your help. I think I will go walk now. Best regards.

assistant: Is there anything else I can help you with?

user: No. Thank you.
Emotion: fear
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I made a mistake at work and I feel I might get sacked.

assistant: Hey! How are you?

user: Hello there. I've made a mistake at work today and I have a fear that I will get in serious trouble

assistant: What was the mistake? Was it too serious?

user: One Lorry wasn't collected and around 300 customers will not get their orders on time

assistant: Is that your first time making that mistake? If so i'm sure your manager will tell you to make sure in case for next time

user: Yes is it. But before me nobody made a mistake such as this one in my team.

assistant: Mistakes happen, they are unavoidable, and your manager should know this so since it is your first time he should take it easy Just make sure it doesn't happen again because you need to learn from this mistake :)

user: I fear I will have a serious conversation tomorrow with my manager and I will be told off. I feel so stressed now I can't normally breath

assistant: If you can't breath normally, then I think it is best to start to meditate in order to control your breathing and make you less stressed

user: I've never done anything like this before, would you be able to assist me a little bit?

assistant: Yes, meditation is extremely useful, and I also use it when I feel stressed

user: So how I should do it?

assistant: Maybe play calm classical music and start slowly reminiscing about the days previous, and your future ahead or you could just wacth a youtube tutorial, either one works fine

user: I just don't really like classic music but I can try Yes probably I will look in youtube how to do it thanks. Do you think I will lose my job?

assistant: It is all in the aid of calming yourself down, and your welcome :) and knowing it is your first offense, probably not but always prepare for the worst

user: I am working in the company for 5 years and if I will lose it and don't know what to do next. as now it's hard to find new job

assistant: 5 years is a very long time, so I don't think that you will be given the pink slip I know it would be hard to find a new job, which is why you should always be prepared

user: I hope so, I am very not looking forward to come to work tomorrow :/

assistant: If you believe in yourself, things will work out somehow :)

user: I will try to believe in my self and will check how to relax on youtube.

assistant: Yes, thats the spirit!

user: Thank you so much for our help and that you listened to me.

assistant: Your welcome! There is always someone to talk to

user: Thank you, have a great day
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: I’m feeling anxious about the pandemic and current economic conditions.

user: Hi. How are you?

assistant: I am okay. How are you doing today?

user: I’ve had better days.

assistant: What has happened?

user: I’m having a hard time dealing with this pandemic.

assistant: I know a lot of people who are feeling this way. It is a difficult time

user: I’m trying to make the best of it but having a hard time.

assistant: Why do you think you are struggling?

user: I’m feeling isolated and missing my family and friends.

assistant: It sounds like you are feeling lonely. Is that right?

user: Yes. Video calls are not the same.

assistant: I understand. Video calls can feel a bit less personal sometimes. Do you live alone?

user: Unfortunately I do. Thus it contributes to the loneliness. And I work from home.

assistant: I see. So you aren't even getting that social contact at work really. Do you video chat to your family and friends regularly?

user: I do but I’m getting tired of video chatting. It’s just not the same. It’s tough, especially with the holidays approaching.

assistant: I feel the same way. Having to keep in contact with friends through video has been difficult lately. I try to find something to do while we're chatting, like gaming or a quiz
Emotion: shame
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: In my youthful exuberance for entertainment, I had ditched study plans with my high school friend while we were in college to go play video games with some of my new college friends.  After this event, I lost my high school friends

assistant: Hello!

user: Hi

assistant: How are you doing today? Are there any particular issues you would like to discuss?

user: I think you are able to read about my situation, but if not, I've basically lost my best high school friends while in college. It's pretty rough since I've known these people since I was in elementary school.

assistant: I'm sorry to hear that. Did that make college difficult for you?

user: It did - I had to figure out what was important in life after that but the loss of my high school friends drove me into a mild depression.

assistant: Of course. Do you still experience feelings of sadness when thinking of that time in your life?

user: Occasionally when I think about that time in my life.

assistant: Does that loss still affect your day-to-day life or do you feel like you were able to handle those feelings in a healthy way?

user: I am still feeling the effects of it today. I don't know exactly how to cope properly.

assistant: It sounds like you're still struggling with that loss. That is entirely normal.

user: That's great that it's normal....but I'm not sure how that's helping me.

assistant: It sounds like you're looking for a way to handle these feelings in a healthy way. Am i right in that?

user: I guess so. I'm not sure where to start or even if I need do. to

assistant: That makes sense. Some feelings of sadness around a loss are normal but they can be a problem if they start interfering with functioning. Do you have a support network or someone you can turn to when you feel like this?

user: I have a spouse but they weren't around when this series of unfortunate events occurred.

assistant: Do you feel like you talk to your spouse about these issues?

user: No, it's something I keep inside. I'm a super private person.

assistant: From what I have seen, if people try to keep their emotions inside, it can be more damaging in the long run. This isn't something you have handle all by yourself.

user: Agreed, I guess. Maybe it's time to share more with my spouse. I don't think it's that big an issue. I just don't like talking about it.

assistant: That's completely fair. It can be a difficult thing to talk about. When those feelings do come up, can you think of ways to discuss it with your spouse?

user: I think so. I'm thinking we can do it over dinner one night while it's quiet in the house so we can talk

assistant: I think that's a wonderful idea. From what I've seen, it can be really difficult to talk about, but afterwards it does get easier. You deserve the chance to remember the good memories of your friendship and not carry your difficult feelings by yourself.

user: I guess thats true - thanks for chatting with me about this.
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: My girlfriend has a rare condition that can be very expensive to just keep her healthy. Her grandparents are supporting us and the grandmother's husband is going through dementia and making everyone stressed and could possibly die leaving 3 houses to pay off.

user: Hello.

assistant: Hello, how are you?

user: Not good.

assistant: What's wrong, do you feel like sharing?

user: Well, my girlfriend and her grandmother are extremely depressed. The husband of her grandfather is driving everyone nuts with his yelling. Nothing makes him happy.

assistant: I am so sorry to hear that. Sounds like your girlfriend and her grandmother could use some time away from her grandfather.

user: Kind of hard when he is the one that owns the houses. Doesn't seem right to leave him. He is going through dementia right now. He always supported them. Just sucks now he is causing so much sadness. He sees me like a son but end of the day. I have to do right by my girlfriend. I love her and her family.

assistant: His dementia is causing him to become upset? Your right he does need to be around family and needs love and support, and you are not doing wrong being on your girlfriend side.

user: Yeah. He keeps going to the VA and they keep saying he is losing brain mass. Wish everyone else knew how to deal with him. Doesn't seem like everyone is equipped to deal with this kind of stress. My girlfriend already has enough on her plate with her chronic illness. Mostly the arguing starts when he tells her to eat 'normal' food. Which everyone has to keep reminding can kill her.

assistant: Is there any way you guys could get a nurse that deals with patients that have dementia to help him out?

user: Well, problem is that he is extremely fit and stubborn. That could be a solution. Not in his current state though... He would lose his mind. He is a veteran... so. He could lose it.

assistant: What about getting a nurse, would make him lose his mind? It would be in his best interest to help him and others around him.

user: He thinks everyone is out to get him. He was in Vietnam for years and left him with guns without ammo to protect a post. So with that in mind... who knows. Could work out. But he has tackled medical personnel before. You could imagine the trauma that encourages that crazy mindset. However, I think I got a good idea what to suggest. At least to my girlfriend and her family. You left I guess. Interesting. Okay well good bye Man.. not even a proper good bye.