Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: lots of problems happening in my life so many family issues

assistant: Hello, How are you doing today?

user: hi not bad about you

assistant: Thats good to hear, whats on your mind?

user: feeling depressed

assistant: Im sorry to hear that, would you like to go into why you are feeling that way?

user: here family issue going so depressed

assistant: Thats unfortunate. Whats going on with your family?

user: my dad not understand me

assistant: Have you tried to have a real sit down with him and explain how he is making you feel?

user: i love my dad so much but now a days my dad feel depressed so always angry with everyone. so i am not disturb

assistant: Thats a tough cycle. I was in that with my mother. Unfortunately if they do not want to get the help, it wont really go anywhere no matter how hard you try. I would suggest that they try and talk to a professional though. Thats about all you can do. As for yourself, i would focus on you for now, i would try to do something you enjoy. Get your spirits back up.

user: i think he is mentally disturb so sometimes i manage and move on other time i feel not well.

assistant: Well reaching out and speaking about it, like you are doing right now, really does help. It can be really difficult to live with someone who has issues like that.

user: yes i am mentally disturb now a days

assistant: Then i would suggest to talk to a professional as well. It really does help to lay it all out on the table and try to put the pieces back together.

user: okay thanks for ur suggest

assistant: Not a problem at all. Have you tried maybe going for a walk alone, clearing your mind, seeing where you are at?

user: meditate myself

assistant: That is very good, i usually dont ask that at first as hiking can be a form of meditation. You seem like you know the tools you can use to help yourself. Now you have to use them, right?

user: i go to professional meditate class

assistant: Thats great, do you feel like you are more centered, and feeling better, after a class?

user: yes its one think i feel relax

assistant: Great, how often do you go?
Emotion: anger
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: my boyfriend of three years has been cheating on me.

user: Hi, I was wondering if I could talk to you about a problem.

assistant: Hi there! My name is Rob, how are you today?

user: I am doing okay,

assistant: Of course! What is the problem?

user: My boyfriend has been cheating on me, He constantly denies it and I want to believe him, but my family also knows and thinks I need to end things.

assistant: So to make sure I understand, have you caught your partner cheating?

user: I haven't actually caught him myself.

assistant: Has someone told you they suspect he is cheating?

user: Yes, My best friend and my sister have told me.

assistant: It is a horrible feeling when that seed has been planted in your head.

user: Exactly and he denies it. I just don't know what to do or who to believe.

assistant: I know you mentioned you want to believe him when he denies it, I guess the important question is what is making you have that shadow of doubt? Has he been unfaithful in the past?

user: I know he cheated in the past on a previous girlfriend, but not on me.

assistant: And know I am not saying I don't believe you, I think your feelings are valid, and I just want to get the full picture

user: at least no that I am aware of.

assistant: Ok. So there has been a past history of this.

user: yes

assistant: And what are your friends and family saying to you? Are their accusations valid?

user: I can see their point. They think he is using me for my car and money. He is constantly between jobs.

assistant: I know for me, sometimes friends and family will say things like this is they personally do not like the partner themselves without taking your feelings into consideration

user: I don think they dislike him, I think they fell he is using me and I am blind to it.

assistant: Ok I see. And for yourself, do you see a future with him? Because in the end it matters how you feel. Do you feel taken advantage of?

user: I do financially feel taken advantage of.

assistant: So possible cheating aside - there is definitely some others issues that needs solving. Have you calmly confronted him saying that he is affecting your personal financial goals?

user: Yes, and he always promises to do better. I know deep down it should end. Thanks for listening
Emotion: fear
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I am worried about losing my job due to COVID

user: Hello

assistant: Hello, how are you doing?

user: I am hanging in there as well as I can be

assistant: What's been going on?

user: I am worried about losing my job. The company I work for has had layoffs and is talking about it again in a few months. This makes me really nervous

assistant: It seems like that fear of losing your job has been taking a toll on you.

user: It has indeed. I chose an industry that was fairly stable and a company that hadn't done layoffs in a long time but COVID changed all of that.

assistant: Yeah, COVID is an unprecedented time where anything can happen. It must be frustrating knowing the safe path was taken but even then jobs might be taken away for something out of your control.

user: Yes! Exactly and I cannot stand that. I love my routine and predicability.

assistant: I can relate to that. It's always nice when everything falls into place. The prospect of a sudden change stresses me out and I imagine you've been feeling the same way as well. What's your fear if you lose your job?

user: Very much so. If I lose my job I can't pay my bills and keep a roof over my head. In a good economy it took me over 300 applications, 50 interviews, and over 6 months to find a job.

assistant: I think even if you lose your job, you would still be able to obtain resources through unemployment or even a stay at home temporary job from an employment agency while you look for another one or for your company to return to normal.

user: I would hope so

assistant: I can definitely relate. I've submitted around that many applications if not more before I found my current job. But working as a temp at other companies has helped me provide for myself in the meantime. :) You have every right to feel the way you do though. It's a scary time but know that things will be okay.

user: Right. It's just not something I want to go through again. I just got this job 18 months ago. That job hunting dread and feeling hasn't gone away.

assistant: I understand. It definitely is an agonizing process but you've gone through it before and have 18 months of experience under your belt from your current job which looks good on any resume. Despite the pandemic, I think this will help make things a lot easier for you.

user: For the record, you are doing a really really good job. I really appreciate your time and kind words. Thank you for empathizing and relating. I appreciate your assistance. I feel a lot better about this now :)

assistant: You are very welcome. (: It's my pleasure to help in any way I can.
Emotion: sadness
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I let the best lady in the world get away from me.

assistant: Hello, what would you like to talk about?

user: How empty my life is.

assistant: Why do you feel like your life is empty?

user: The love of my life is no longer in my life.

assistant: I'm really sorry to hear that.

user: Yes, she left me for her supervisor at work.

assistant: Was this a recent event?

user: Yes, five days ago.

assistant: Wow, that's really a hard thing to deal with isn't it?

user: It sure is. She told me this guy was sexually harassing her at work, then I find out she is leaving me for this guy.

assistant: Hmm, it sounds like she isn't being completely honest with you. I've been left before too. It was one of the most painful experiences of my life.

user: I think she liked all of the attention he was giving her, and then she got turned on by it. It is sick. I can't believe anyone would ever leave you, you seem like such a nice person.

assistant: Maybe she did like the attention, but that is her own issue. It really doesn't have anything to do with you. Sometimes low self worth makes a person seek that kind of exterior validation from someone else.

user: I should have followed and stalked her like this guy did, it seems to turn her on, she said she likes being watched. I told her to see a therapist and she told me to leave our apartmnent.

assistant: That doesn't sound healthy to you, does it?

user: Yes, I think she has low self esteem, but she let me do things with her, we would experiment sexually together, it was wild. But now I think she is not healthy and has mental issues.

assistant: so, do you think that was the only way she could connect with you, through sex?

user: I think so, she also liked to peg me. It was very intense, I have never submitted like that to anyone.

assistant: Is this your first serious relationship?

user: Yes, I guess I don't have good luck with women. Maybe I need to go back to call girls, they are easier to deal with.

assistant: It sounds like you enjoyed the sex a lot, but you also want an emotional connection to a woman.

user: Yes totally. Some of the prostitutes are very sweet, but they don't want anything too long term. Just a weekend at most. Well thank you, you have been very helpful, I feel better now.
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I feel like I won't ever get a proper job and move out of my parents' home.

user: Hello Hello?

assistant: Hello, How are you?

user: I am okay

assistant: That is wonderful to hear. How is life going?

user: It's alright. A little stressful with my job crisis.

assistant: Oh I know how hard it can be to be stressed out. What is going on with your job?

user: Well, I've been looking for a proper job for some time now and I just can't find one. I work online every day and it is not something that is stable.

assistant: Oh yeah, not being able to find a job can be pretty stressful. Have you checked online, on job websites?

user: Yes. I have submitted hundreds of applications and I don't even receive an email on most of them.

assistant: Oh yes, that happens most of the time when applying for jobs. It's okay, you will definitely find one. Have you tried asking friends/ family? Maybe places that friends and family work at, have job openings.

user: I've asked a few, but most of the people I know work retail jobs. I make more money than that working online. I just want a normal adult job, you know? I went to college, so it shouldn't be that hard.

assistant: Of course! Everyone deserves to have a job that they worked hard for. What kind of jobs are you interested in?

user: I like museum jobs or jobs that work with animals, but all of those require years of experience that I can't get because no one will hire me

assistant: Oh okay, well while looking for job try not to put yourself in position where you take deep breaths and let your mind at piece. Patience is everything. Sometime in life we all have our patience tested, but that is OK because at the end the results are better than anything. I mean try to put yourself in that position.

user: That is true. Maybe it just isn't the right time. Maybe I need to learn something before I find a job that I need to do

assistant: Of course! Everything comes at a perfect time, and we have to learn to be patient, and while waiting we can indulge in other activities that we like. While doing your online job maybe you can work in activities that build experience for a job you want to do next time.

user: I volunteer once a week with animals

assistant: That is a great idea! You are working hard and that hard work is going to pay off! Just try to relax and be patient, which can help with your stress.

user: Thank you! I appreciate your comments. I will try to relax and know that things will eventually work out

assistant: Of course! I love to help

user: Goodbye!
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I am struggling with my law school exam prep. I'm not sure if I can make it through law school

user: Hello Hello?

assistant: Hello, how are you?

user: Anxious. I'm not sure I can get through this semester

assistant: What caused your anxiety? Is it because you don't understand your class?

user: No I understand the course work, its just a high pressure environment. Everyone is ranked, so its competitive. it feels like everyone is secrectly angling to take each other down so they can get the good jobs

assistant: I can understand how you feel being such competitive environment. However, the most important is your well being. I think as long as you do your utmost best, there is no need to stress over rankings

user: The money investment is just so high. I don't want to get out of my 3L year and get a job making barely enough for the loan interest payment

assistant: I think salary and growth takes more than just academic result. Take one step at a time, take care of your own health and this exam first

user: I've always been hard on myself

assistant: That's good and bad at the same time, you will always be motivated, however, if you push too much you will burn out yourself Have you reviewed all the materials needed for the exam?

user: I know I can do it its just hard yeah, i think i got it

assistant: okay, then you are good for the most part. Now just some mental preparation and you will nail it

user: I hope so

assistant: I believe a little worry is good for an exam, however, too much of anything is never good. Practice what you will do in the exam room so you can save as much time as possible

user: It'll be okay. I have a backup plan for after graduation anyways, its just not wanting to have to resort to that It's also intense doing this during COVID. We haven't gotten the normal learning environment for a young attorney in training. We just get a zoom link

assistant: I understand your frustration, I had a discussion a few days ago about this. Online learning is ok but it can't provide you the same benefits and experience as in person

user: It oddly makes it more competitive too because you don't get the chance to build a relationship with classmates the way we normally would

assistant: are you close with anyone? You can ask around and see if they want to form a study group
Emotion: sadness
Problem: Issues with Children
Situation: My daughter was very sick.  It kept my wife and I up at night because she wasn't sleeping well.

user: It keeps us up at night because we know she isn't sleeping. Worse part is there is nothing we can do to help her.

assistant: Hi! It seems someone in the family is having sleeping issues. Correct me if I am wrong

user: My daughter is really sick and its causing her to have trouble sleeping. Not sure what to do.

assistant: Sorry to here about it. It must be hard for you to see her in trouble. May I ask What happen to her.

user: It is. She's miserable, and it's causing us to not sleep as well. It's nothing serious, common cold, but she has asthma so whenever she gets sick, it causes labored breathing.

assistant: I can feel how stressed you are right now but she will recover fast.

user: I know she will, I always lack sleep whenever she's not feeling well. I wish I could be sick for her.

assistant: When my kid have cold, I nebulize her and later it make her sleep well

user: We do the same for her, and it helps for a couple hours but then she's up again.

assistant: Some people says giving green tea helps in cold.

user: Really, I'll have to try that. Thank you!

assistant: Taking steamed shower helps in cold as well. You can try that too. I will pray for her speedy recovery.

user: Thank you so much. You have been very helpful. I feel much better after talking with you. I hope you have a good rest of the day.

assistant: Mt best wishes are there with you. Be positive she will sleep well and recover soon.
Emotion: disgust
Problem: Appearance Anxiety
Situation: I hate looking at myself in the mirror, every time I do I feel like the ugliest person in the whole world. I feel like nobody will ever love me.

assistant: Hello there, how are you feeling today?

user: I am feeling a bit sad and down

assistant: I am sorry to hear that. Do you want to tell me about it?

user: I hate the way I look. Everytime I look in the mirror I cry

assistant: I see. Can you be more specific? A lot of people are insecure about their looks you know.

user: When I look in the mirror, I think Im the ugliest person in the world sometimes

assistant: How old are you if you don't mind my asking? This is a common thing among young people.

user: I am 32

assistant: I see. Well can you tell me what specific part of your appearance do you hate? Maybe it could be altered?

user: I hate everything when I see my reflection. I just feel fat and ugly

assistant: Well, I have been overweight and I know it sucks. Perhaps you could join a weight loss group?

user: I have been working out and eating better. Even though I am losing weight, I still feel horrible

assistant: Well you should be proud of the progress! Maybe buy yourself some new clothes?

user: That is a good idea, maybe that will help

assistant: Or have a new haircut or something :)

user: I like that idea too, I will give it a try

assistant: Is it just your weight that bothers you about your appearance?

user: No, I just dont like looking at myself in the mirror. I just feel ugly and gross

assistant: I have a feeling that other people do not feel that way about you :)

user: That is kind of you to say, thank you You have helped me quite a bit today, I appreciate it

assistant: I think a lot of people do see themselves in a much worse light as others see them :) It's a human thing.

user: Very true, thank you for the perspective

assistant: So, what sort of clothes do you think you are going to buy? :)

user: Possibly a new dress or two

assistant: Sounds like a great idea. I bought a fantastic maxi dress recently. Very flattering for those of us carrying an extra pound or two

user: I love flowy dresses for that reason do you do anything else when you are feeling bad about yourself?

assistant: I like a nice facemask and a bubble bath, do you?

user: I like doing my makeup and getting dressed up, even if I have nowhere to go

assistant: That is a good thing to do .. great for the self esteem. Maybe buy some new jewellery too?

user: I like the idea of pampering myself. That is something I don't do too often and I need to do it more. Perhaps I will feel better then

assistant: You need to indulge yourself from time to time :) Get yourself a nice bottle of wine too. Though maybe not chocolate :D

user: Haha, yes, perhaps not those :)

assistant: Anyway I hope you are feeling a little better now ! Thank you for talking!

user: Thank you, you too!
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: Just failed a huge test in my class and may not graduate this semester

assistant: Good Evening

user: Hello

assistant: How are you?

user: I'm pretty stressed out actually

assistant: I'm sorry to hear that. It's rough to get stressed Would you like to tell me what's going on?

user: Sure. I just failed a huge test in my college class, and I'm worried it will fail me the entire class, and then I won't be able to get my associates

assistant: Oh no! I can totally understand why you're stressing over that! Absolutely valid reason for anxiety. May I ask how much of the whole grade was the test's percentage?

user: Yeah it's really weighing down on me. It's the only thing I can think about. The test was worth 75%

assistant: What was you're score?

user: I got a 62% on the test.

assistant: That isn't TECHNICALLY a failed grade by the standards of most professors. Albeit a low grade, it's a D. Anything below 59% would qualify as failed.

user: Yeah, but taking into account my scores on homework, I don't think it's enought to pass the class

assistant: Have you done fairly well in other classes? How have your grades been prior to this test in that class?

user: Honestly it's just kind of all over the place. I am surviving in other classes, but with all this online stuff with the pandemic I barely learn anything. I'm basically faking it til I make it. Which I hate. But I can't learn in these conditions.

assistant: I hate that you feel that way about yourself, but I can also relate to having a rough time learning via online classes. I'm the same way. However, that does not disable you from being able to learn. It impedes your quality of learning, no doubt. But it isn't something that YOU can help. By having an attitude of being unable to learn, you automatically lower your expectations for the success you would potentially have otherwise...

user: Yeah that's true, I just think it's not my learning style so it's a lot harder for me. I thought about waiting until things are normal enough to physically be able to go back to class before I try and finish my bachelors, but who knows when that will be

assistant: OMGoodness no kidding. This whole pandemic has the world in a tizzy!

user: Yeahhh Honestly just talking to someone and letting it out was kinda nice made me feel ebtter

assistant: If I were you I would not wait! It may not be the best option for your learning style, and it will certainly prove a greater challenge. However, taking on that challenge will bring on SWEETER rewards when you succeed! Adopt a "Can-Do" state of mind and grab the bull by the horns! You're so very welcome!
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I have lost my job because of COVID19

assistant: Hello

user: Hello there

assistant: How may i help you today?

user: I'm really panicking. I just lost my job and I don't know how I'm going to pay my rent.

assistant: Don't panic everything is going to be okay i understand how you are feeling Did you lose your job because of the pandemic?

user: I worked at a restaurant and they have to close due to the pandemic.

assistant: I can understand that it is a tough time for everyone right now that lost their job have you started looking for another job?

user: I don't know how to make ends meet now. I haven't looked yet. I'm not sure where to start.

assistant: have you tried to sign up for unemployment?

user: That's a good idea, I guess I could start there. I am so worried, I can't get a hold of my emotions

assistant: Yes you should do that until you can find another job

user: Okay, I'll apply on line today. How can I deal with my stress?

assistant: don't worry yourself to much it is going to be okay it is really a tough time that everyone is going through right now

user: That makes me feel a little better. It's tough times out there.

assistant: yes i can understand how you feeling

user: Thanks, it helps to know I'm not alone. I will also try to improve my resume.

assistant: you are most definitely not alone yes try to improve your resume to that will be a good idea

user: So, to recap- today, I'll apply for unemployment. Then, I'll use the extra time to polish up my resume.

assistant: the only thing you can really do right now is to just sign up unemployment and start looking for another job i am sure you will find another job soon

user: Okay, I like the idea of taking little steps.

assistant: yes do that and stay positive

user: Do you have any suggestions to stay positive?

assistant: since you not working right now do some hobbies you love doing to keep your mind off of whats going on

user: Ah ok. I like to knit so I could make a new scarf.

assistant: thats a good idea you should do that I am really sure you will get a job soon as long as you stay looking and putting in applications

user: I can try but I have to save every penny can't afford yarn right now. I will look at job postings today.

assistant: perfect. remain positive and do not let the stress take control of you. you got this

user: Okay thank you for the advice