Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: depression
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I can not seem to find a job no matter how hard I try. My last job was cut short because of all the pandemic restrictions. I'm so depressed.

user: Hello. How are you?

assistant: i am good how can i help you today?

user: I'm feeling so depressed!

assistant: i am so sorry you are feeling depressed I can understand how you are feeling.

user: I can't seem to find a job...I've been trying so hard. I will run out of money, soon...

assistant: i can understand in this time it is hard finding a job during this pandemic

user: Yes....and wearing masks is hard, too....I get claustrophobic a lot. I get through it though.

assistant: Yes wearing a mask can be hard but it is for everyone protection and you are doing the right thing

user: I have a BA but that doesn't seem to help me find a job, much. Seems like all I see are jobs for construction type jobs.

assistant: have you tried looking online for jobs?

user: Yes, it's the main way I search. I've seen gas station and fast food jobs posted most lately.

assistant: don't let this get the best of you just know everything will be ok and you will find a job

user: I hope so. To make matters worse I've messed up my UI paperwork it seems and now that is delayed.

assistant: we are all going through a tough time right now with the coronavirus going around and it will make everyone get depressed but don't let it get to you

user: I am trying, thanks for all your helpful words! I am trying to work in the mall now, as I think holidays are going to cause good business. Hope to get something. Maybe I will get a job where I can get a discount!

assistant: you should go to places and talk to the hiring manager and see if they are hiring

user: I've tried that a few times, but it hasn't worked out that well...it seems like the managers are usually not there. I need a plan/time that I think I'll have more success. So far it's been hard. I'd like to find a job fair, but they are all cancelled from the pandemic.

assistant: yes i can understand they are never there when you go try to talk to them

user: Or maybe they are there but they are hiding?

assistant: but all you can do is try right now

user: I have a feeling most of the places I email just file it in the circular folder.

assistant: things will get better soon for you and you will get a call from a job

user: Thanks for your support...sometimes I feel like I am the little fish in the big pond.
Emotion: depression
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I had my heart set on a Veterinary Technology program at a particular school and I just found out that I won't be able to apply in time. I feel like I have to reassess my future plans.

assistant: Hello! How are you?

user: I'm okay but I've been better.

assistant: I hope you are having a good Christmas Eve! Are you feeling down about something?

user: Thanks! I hope you are too. Yes. I feel like I have to change my plans for my career when I thought I had everything figured out and it feels really depressing.

assistant: I actually understand that feeling a lot. I had to switch careers really recently. Do you like the new path you've chosen for yourself?

user: I actually haven't chosen yet. I feel overwhelmed with options and I'm lacking direction.

assistant: Okay thats completely normal! What are your interests/what do you like to do? Thats a good starting question

user: Maybe another path involving animals. Either that, or something geared more toward counselling for humans, which is actually what I was interested in a long time before I decided on the veterinary route.

assistant: Okay! Well thats a good start I would continue looking in that. Also if you miss working animals, you can always volunteer in a pet store.

user: Okay, I'll give it a shot. That's a great idea.

assistant: Do really like working with pets?

user: I do. I have a dog and I love her very much and want to be prepared if anything were to happen to her.

assistant: Also if you want to go into counseling, I'd recommend trying to get some practical experience to see if you like it. Oh sweet I've always wanted a dog!

user: Yeah, mine is super awesome. She's a Presa Canario and just the sweetest and smartest.

assistant: Well it seems no matter what you can't go wrong. Do you want to talk about anything else?

user: Nope, I think I'm good. Thank you so much and have a lovely day!
Emotion: fear
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I have lost my job as a result of covid. I'm very scared as to how I will provide for my family.

user: hello

assistant: How can I help you?

user: I'm have recently lost my job and I am scared about the future and how I will cope.

assistant: I am so sorry to hear that. I have previously lost a job and I know how distressing it is. Can you tell me about it?

user: I just feel very worried. There are no other jobs around and I don't know how I will provide for my family.

assistant: So you are feeling as though you are letting your family down?

user: Yes.

assistant: I can understand how that feels. Have you tried to talk to them about it?

user: Yes, but there are no real solutions. I don't know what to do.

assistant: Do you feel as though you are going through all of this on your own?

user: Yes, a bit. It's scary not knowing what is going to happen.

assistant: Do you know that there are people out there who can help you? Have you tried contacting some charitable organisations that will provide counselling for free?

user: No I didn't know. That sounds helpful.

assistant: They can be really very helpful. I have reached out to them myself previously

user: Ok, thank you. I will see if I can find some local to me.

assistant: The job market is very uncertain right now but please know that you are not alone!

user: Yes it's very uncertain, and very scary to experience.

assistant: Have you considered retraining?

user: I think I'm too old for that.

assistant: There is no such thing as too old! I have a friend who trained as a teacher at age fifty.

user: Maybe I should explore what options there are.

assistant: There are a lot of options out there. Perhaps you should see a career advisor?

user: Yes, that's a good idea. Thank you.

assistant: Do you have any ideas of things that you'd like to do? Do you have any ideas of things that you'd like to do?

user: I think I will speak to a charity about if they can help. I will think about talking to a career advisor and retraining. Thank you for your help.

assistant: So you feel that you could retrain?

user: Maybe. I will need to give it some thought.

assistant: I know how frightening it can be. But if you strike out there, you never know!

user: Thank you. I guess I have to try.

assistant: Well if you don't try you will never know what might have happened. I wish you all the very best with it.

user: Thanks again.
Emotion: depression
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I dont know what to do with out her.

user: I dont know how to live without my girlfriend. She broke up with me suddenly.

assistant: Ok, can you tell me how long ago this happened.

user: a week ago.

assistant: So your girlfriend broke up with you a week ago and you have no idea how to move forward. Is that correct

user: yes. she was my rock.

assistant: You know I am sure that hurts but like they say that "time heals all wounds"

user: but, i have been with her for 3 years. She is a part of my everyday life. we split household chores. now im overwhelmed

assistant: That is a long time. Event though she was your rock, just know that you will eventually find someone new and this hurt will be no more.

user: But im not sure how to survive in the time being. my life will be a disaster.

assistant: I can feel your pain, i have had similar experience and it took quite a while to move on, but know that this too will pass

user: I dont have the time to do all she did to maintain my house. What am i supposed to do now she is gone.

assistant: There was a time when I had a breakup that left me feeling like it was the end of the world, but i am fine now and so would you. Take some long walks but he sure to socially distance and try meeting new friends online and just talk. That will help

user: But what about my dishes, and bathroom cleaning that she did, and i dont have time to do? My house is already starting to look terrible since she has left.

assistant: think about it, the added exercise will help you from getting lonely with her not being around

user: But i have never done laundry. My mother did it when i lived with her. and i moved out from my mother to live with my girlfriend. How am i gonna do my laundry? I've never done it.

assistant: If you focus too much on the break up, you will have a hard time getting over her so try to do some fun activities that you can enjoy alone so that you are safe. You can search youtube on how to do laundry and other chores, you will be ok

user: Thank you for your advice. It probably isnt that hard. I just am nervous about trying to do it myself for the first time. Its starting to pile up now.

assistant: Don't be nervous, Just take some time to learn the house chores and you'll be fine

user: It'll be new, but i guess i could at least try. But i miss her so much. I dont think i can ever find someone else like her.

assistant: You will find that someone. Hope I was able to make you feel a bit better.

user: You are very positive. I wish i had your positivity.

assistant: Think of the glass half full. You will do well.
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I have to pass my test to pass the course.  I'm am crazy nervous and can't sleep.

assistant: Hi, How are you today?

user: I'm driving myself crazy worrying about school.

assistant: I'm sorry to hear that school is so stressful.

user: I can't sleep at night worrying about my upcoming test.

assistant: That is really hard but I think you can be successful.

user: I just don't know about that. It's so much pressure to succeed. The classes are so expensive and I can't fail.

assistant: It sounds like you are overwhelmed and want to come up with a plan to move forward.

user: Yes, I sure do. Do you have any suggestions?

assistant: When I was in school, we started study groups. They were so helpful and encouraging to each other. Are there any study groups available?

user: With COVID-19, everything is so different. I don't feel like I have study group support.

assistant: I see that COVID-19 really changes the way we do things. Is it possible to do a zoom study group or Facetime with friends?

user: Wow, that sounds like a great idea. That might work.

assistant: Do you have other concerns?

user: I do worry still about the financial consequences of possible failure. If I fail, then I have to retake the class and it is so expensive.

assistant: I can see from chatting with you that this is a major stressor for anyone to undertake.

user: Yes, I'm so concerned about having to pass but also how I will pay my bills if I don't pass and don't have a degree. I will have all this college debt and nothing to show for it.

assistant: I can see where that is a stressor. I had to repeat a class once and pay for the housing, classes, and financial aspects. But, I did pass the next time and was able to make a difference in peoples' lives with my career. Sometimes the stressors and challenges are part of the end goal which is even bigger to humanity.

user: Wow that was very well said. I appreciate that.

assistant: Keep pressing forward and work toward your dreams because you can do it. Just the way you contemplate things so much, I can tell that you really care and will make a difference to the world.

user: Thanks for the help. I feel much better.

assistant: You are very welcome.

user: I think I'm going to go right now and set up a zoom meet with my friends to study. You have given some inspiration to me.

assistant: That sounds like a great plan to start studying with friends.
Emotion: anger
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I broke up with my ex partner and found out they cheated on me

user: Hi

assistant: Hello, how are you today

user: I am okay but started reflecting on the past and started to feel angry

assistant: I see. Sometimes that can happen when you look back on yourself. What is making you angry about the past?

user: I am angry I trusted my ex partner. They cheated on me and tried to hide it for months.

assistant: I can personally relate to that myself. I have went through something similar like that 4 years ago. It can be very frustrating when it happens.

user: What do you do when you are reminded of that situation or think about the person?

assistant: The easiest thing that I did in my situation was obtained a new hobby. I took my anger out on my ex by joining Crossfit and interacted with that community. It helped me take my mind of from my ex.

user: I've seen that Crossfit helps a lot of people. That is a good idea but it is kind of intimidating

assistant: Crossfit may not be for everyone, but do you think a new hobby may help you? Have you taken one in recently?

user: I have recently started painting and it is very relaxing

assistant: Painting is an excellent hobby. I can see that it's relaxing as well as help put your emotions into something physical.

user: Yes. I usually do it while listening to podcasts. It is a great distraction

assistant: It sounds like that you are doing great with your hobby. Have you try to interact with anyone else, such as an art community or your friends on your feedback?

user: I have but not many of my friends have been in the position I was or understand how I feel

assistant: Yea, I can see why that may make you feel alone in that aspect. I thought about that myself, but there are groups that can help you out. Strangers in fact. I went on Reddit to express my frustrations and it can help to just let out your anger.

user: Personally I've heard that Reddit can be really toxic

assistant: It can be, but seeing several posts in their groups, most offer advice or at least sympathy. It is kind of like what we are doing right now to be honest. Again, it is not for everyone, but it does offer a group to talk to during this pandemic lol.

user: I guess I can at least try it. Thanks for all the great advice

assistant: Only if you think it will help. Do you think it will?

user: I think it might be at least comforting knowing people have the same experience.

assistant: No problem. I really hope that I was able to help you at least. I am still available if you want to discuss further. Like I said, I know how it feels because my ex hid from me 2 years that she was seeing someone else, so I can relate with you.

user: This was very helpful, thanks again. You can end the conversation. Bye
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: friend has possible COVID and going to hospital today for tests

user: Hello there

assistant: Hello! How are you doing today?

user: Not too bad. Been experiencing some anxiety though. It is kind of an ongoing issue for me

assistant: Anxiety can be a real challenge. What have you done to face it in the past that works for you?

user: I have tried going to support groups and therapy. I also take medications. Despite this I still feel overwhelmed.

assistant: It sounds like you have tried a lot of different methods, so good for you for taking care of yourself. What is overwhelming you?

user: The situation with COVID is scary. I just found out someone I care about may have the virus. I am a worrier anyways so it is hard not to feel butterflies in my stomach about the issue.

assistant: It is a very scary time we are all living through, so it's very easy to understand your higher anxiety with someone you care about maybe facing it. What can you do to feel better?

user: I can try to keep myself busy and practice self care. It is hard though because I still worry. Sometimes I feel too worried to do the things necessary to stop it all spiraling

assistant: That's a great way to approach it-- since the time has to pass anyway, you can use it to take care of yourself and move your life forward despite the "pause" of the pandemic. Have you thought about trying meditation or focused breathing to calm yourself when you feel spiraling?

user: I have practiced breathing techniques and meditation before and think that is a great suggestion. At the moment I think the only thing that would ultimately really make me feel better is knowing my friend is okay. He already has health issues so it is a worry.

assistant: Absolutely, and it's completely understandable, but it's very hard to wait. I hope that you are able to practice some of the techniques we talked about, and seeking help by talking about it is part of self-care, too. I think you are on the right track to getting through this.

user: Thank you. That is nice of you to say and I appreciate the support. Just knowing someone has faith that I can do it gives me more confidence

assistant: I believe we are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for, and it takes strength and courage to reach out for help. Please take good care of yourself, and I hope your friend stays healthy or gets well very soon.

user: Thanks. I appreciate it.

assistant: Thanks for reaching out, and I hope the rest of your day goes well.

user: Thanks, I hope you have a great day too Thank yo for your helpful input as well
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I am very nervous about my fianl paper.

assistant: Hello, how are you?

user: Hi. I am so nervous about my final paper. It's 50% of my grade.

assistant: I can understand taking a test can be stressful. Have you been studying for it?

user: It's not something to study for but something I've been working on for months.

assistant: What subject matter is it for? What have you done to prepare for it? What level of schooling are you in now?

user: It's community health. It's a paper not a test. And it's a group project. We have been implementing a class in a homeless shelter for months and we are measuring the success on that implementation for the adult male population. And we have been finding research articles to support our project.

assistant: Papers can be very stressful, especially when it is a group project. When I went to graduate school I had to complete 4 full papers on different subjects in 72 hours. Do you feel like you've made progress in finding the necessary information?

user: Yes I understand it's stressful. And yes we've made progress.

assistant: I'm sure that if everyone puts in the effort, you will all be successful with your paper. Is there anything I can do to help?

user: I can't stand working in groups because there is always someone who doesn't pull their own weight and it usually falls on me to make up for it. I just get so stressed out every time I think about it.

assistant: I can tell you're stressed about it and group projects are very hard. Perhaps you can all put a plan together an allocate tasks to make sure that everyone puts in their share of the work? Is that something you've considered?

user: Yes. I've done that. But still have people who don't seem to stick to the plan.

assistant: I've been in this situation. Instead of stressing yourself about it, have you tried speaking to your professor or other group mates about making sure that everyone pulls their weight? Some professors take that into consideration.

user: Yes I have talked to my other group members and most of them are on board. I could go to the professor. That's an idea.

assistant: I found in my experience that professors are very receptive to hear about how others are performing in the group and will weigh that information when grading.

user: Yeah you could be right about that.

assistant: I hope that you find that suggestion helpful. When is your paper due?

user: In a few days.

assistant: Well, the good news is once you submit it, you'll be able to enjoy a holiday break and hopefully de-stress! I am sure that you will do great!

user: Yes that's definitely true. I feel a little better.

assistant: I'm so happy to hear that! Sometimes we just need to talk it out a little !

user: Yes thank you.
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: My friend who's a year ahead of me in school is looking at jobs in an entirely different part of the country that I was looking at grad schools in, but she expects me to follow her there, which had previously been our plan.

assistant: How are you doing today?

user: Hi! I'm good, but I'm struggling with an issue with my girlfriend.

assistant: I'm sorry to hear that, what is the issue that you're having?

user: She's a year ahead of me in college and will be graduating in May. She's looking at jobs in the northwestern region, but I'd planned on looking at graduate schools in the south. However, we've always planned on living together after college, but my career path would be best served in the southern states. I don't know how to bring this up to her.

assistant: Is it crucial that you be in the South versus Northwestern region? Are you willing to lose her in order to move South?

user: It ' oops It's not crucial, necessarily, but the population that I want to work with is more relevant along the southern border. I'm not willing to lose her, so to say, but I would like to find a compromise. I don't know what that would be though, or how to bring it up.

assistant: A compromise would definitely be the best and most fair for both of you. You may just need to sit down and ask some tough questions to determine where she sees things. She may be thinking the same thing you are. Without knowing where you stand on things or where your relationship is going, she may not know how to completely plan the future for herself much less the two of you.

user: Have you ever been in a situation at all similar?

assistant: Somewhat but not identical. My now husband and I attended different colleges and we both agreed on a fairly selfish approach of finding our careers while dating and not letting our relationship dictate what either one of us did. No one wants to be the reason someone holds back or gives up on something they've always wanted.

user: I don't think that's selfish, but knowing your experience is helpful in understanding your advice.

assistant: You don't want her to resent you for telling her you want her to move South, but that goes both ways. She needs to be willing to see your side too and you'll need to make those decisions together.

user: I appreciate your help! I'll try to have a productive conversation with her soon.

assistant: Great, the sooner the better. I have a feeling you'll both be relieved when you do.

user: I agree! I don't know if it's something she's considered, because I've expressed interest in moving to the northwest just for fun, but I've also noted that the schools I'm actually looking at are Arizona and New Mexico. I do think the field she wants to go into could be applicable in almost any state, but I'll be gentle. I don't want to lose her, so if I need to look into a different section of my field, I definitely could.

assistant: I'm sure she's considered it, expressing interest in both of those areas could just be that you're sending mixed messages too. So really, just talking it out is your best bet. Good luck!