Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: fear
Problem: job crisis
Situation: We had a staff appreciation day, but we all got drunk by the end of the day. So now I am worried my boss will judge me or fire me.

assistant: hello

user: hi

assistant: can you talk about your feelings at this time

user: Currently I am worried to show up to work. We had a staff appreciation Thursday and we all got super drunk in front of our boss, and I am honestly scared he will judge me or fire me.

assistant: that's really hard, have you spoken to any of your coworkers

user: Yes, we are all laughing at the matter, but you can tell our boss is looking at us different. We all showed up to work Friday hungover, and he just made lots of comments and jokes to play the part, but you can tell he is looking at me and everyone different. I do not know how to redeem myself.

assistant: I would recommend speaking with him privately about the issue one on one

user: That sounds a lot easier said than done. I was the one who was the most drunk. But I do now know if he knows how drunk we all got since he left after one of us got hit in the face with a golf club and had to take her to the ER. So what if I say too much and apologize for what he does not know.

assistant: have you tried reaching out a company hotline or maybe an hr department in your company to speak about this issue anonymously this could help with the tension between you and your boss

user: He is the doctor of the office and the 2 office managers were pretty drunk too. It was a hot mess if I have to be honest and being an office full of girls I feel like we went too far. I for one feel embarrassed, and feel like just not saying anything and it will fade away. But I know the next few weeks will be a little hard, for all of us. This one is for the books, and something I have never encountered in my 10 years of working.

assistant: I see how you feel do you think letting it fade is the best option in the long run?

user: I think so. Somethings are sometimes better left unsaid. I just feel like avoiding it, but I do not know if anyone else would do the same. What would you do?

assistant: I would apologize for my behavior to the manager if it was me. Just to seem professional and get in my bosses good grace.

user: You have guts. I think I will work on that and build the guts to talk to my boss if I ever have to. Thank you for that.

assistant: You are doing your best and I think you will make the right decision that works for you

user: You are right. In the end I will do the right thing, even if it takes me some time to get there.

assistant: Is anything else bother you?

user: Just that. I think you helped me with the only issue I currently have.

assistant: I am happy to help!

user: Thank you!
Emotion: fear
Problem: job crisis
Situation: Due to this pandemic, I fear for the safety of my job.

user: Hello, how are we doing today?

assistant: Good, how are you?

user: Not so good unfortunately.

assistant: You can tell me what's bothering you

user: Due to this pandemic, I fear for the safety of my job.

assistant: Totally understand your worries

user: Anxiety is at all time highs due to this.

assistant: Is there a reason for your fear?

user: My firm has already cut 10%. I feel like I might be going next.

assistant: it's important right now to take one step at a time, you should always prepare and find a backup plan in case it happens, but at the same time not worry too much because it won't help

user: I can't stop worrying. If I lose my job, I don't know where to go, what to do.

assistant: You should look around and see if anyone hiring I would say go for part time jobs too in case there is nothing available in your industry

user: With lock downs in my area, small businesses will go under. Which means fewer jobs. I'm really scared.

assistant: You can try gig worker, being on Mturk can bring some decent money if you're diligent

user: Anyone tips for Mturk? I'm new to this.

assistant: I only work after office hours now so I aim for good paying gigs. Back when I had more time, I just did any gigs available

user: Any suggestions for gig work?

assistant: Do any work you can get, it's all about speed and willingness

user: Thanks for the positive vibes, but my future looks dim unfortunately.
Emotion: depression
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: I'm feeling depressed and overwhelmed

user: Hi. I'm feeling depressed and overwhelmed.

assistant: Please tell me more about it, when did it start?

user: It all started earlier this year. I live with my parents because I'm unable to care for myself , due to a disability. Well my dad has dementia, and my mom, who was the primary caregiver, was diagnosed with cancer. She's been in and out of hospital so now its up to me to keep everything afloat., I'm having a really hard time with it. Between work, school, keeping up the house, and caring for my dad, it's a lot to handle.

assistant: That's very exhausting doing that much, I really feel bad for you, you're a strong person to be able to handle so much by yourself

user: Thanks. But I'm really not that strong. It's really exhausting and overwhelming. My depression and anxiety are through the roof, and honestly, I'm not sure how long I can keep this up.

assistant: Someone else would have collapsed already. Do you go outside a lot?

user: I actually am not able to go outside. Its been a few weeks.

assistant: Maybe that's why your depression got worse. We need the sun and fresh air to feel better

user: i try to avoid going out at all. It's hard for me to get around. Even taking the bins out is a struggle. I can't even walk my dog. I just open the door and he goes out , does his business and comes back.

assistant: I understand it's hard for a person like you. However, as I said, from my own experience, staying indoor for a long period does more harm than good You don't have to go far, even just out in your backyard to have some sunlight as the first step is good enough

user: maybe i will try that. little by little I'm really scared of the pandemic. I don't want to get sick.

assistant: Just take one step at a time, I believe you can do it as long as you put your mind in If you don't get close to anyone and wear a mask, you should be fine

user: Yeah, that is what they are saying in the news. It's just that folks out here are idiots and don't want to follow protocols. We are in a red zone where I live

assistant: it's pretty bad here too but as long as you avoid crowded place, you'll be fine

user: Hopefully this is all over soon

assistant: we have 3 vaccines candidates now so there's hope

user: This is true, but I hope they are researching and doing it right and not just trying to come up with a vaccine quick.

assistant: I don't think that's the case,, these companies know how much they'll have to pay if they rush and push out a defective product

user: Thank you so much for your advice and reassurance. I feel better about things now.
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I am failing in my learning because of COVID. It is very stressful.

user: Hello

assistant: Hello there. What is on your mind today?

user: I am stressed because I must learn through classes on ZOOM instead of a regular class.

assistant: What is it about the Zoom classes that you find stressful?

user: I am learned Excel, and the teacher is presenting her excel sheet, but Zoom is on my phone and it is hard to learn on a tiny screen. learning*

assistant: I can relate to that totally. I have had a hard time learning Zoom too. Mostly I have trouble with the audio though. It can be frustrating

user: It is frustrating, and last week, I had a panic attack shortly before class started. My ears were pounding and I could hear nothing the instructor was saying through my earbuds.

assistant: I know that is very difficult. When our anxieties take over it can be hard to think clearly. Have you tried casting the zoom on to a larger screen?

user: Yes. It is also hard to concentrate when my nephews are at home. Most of the monitors and TVs are taken by other household members, but I think I will buy another monitor.

assistant: I think getting yourself a new monitor is a great idea!

user: I have a laptop, but I need it full screened for Excel and Zoom takes up too much space, so that is why I had it on my phone. But I think a second monitor is an excellent idea, thank you.

assistant: In the meantime, take some deep breaths when you feel yourself start to get anxious. It may be helpful to explain the situation to your teacher as well

user: I agree!

assistant: It sounds like you are trying to solve the issue but get overwhelmed like we all do. I think you are doing a great job. All of this new stuff is difficult to learn

user: Thank you so much for your help. I will tell my teacher as well.

assistant: You're welcome! Are there any other things on your mind?

user: Yes, I think it's hard to concentrate when others are at home during covid. Nephews are learning from home as well, but they get breaks and they try to get my attention when I am trying to study.

assistant: Have you tried explaining to them that you are trying to study?

user: Yes, but they are rowdy.

assistant: I can see where that would be frustrating

user: I think I will ask my sister if I can use the laundry room as a little office so that I can close the door.

assistant: Have you tried asking their parents to speak with them ? That is a great idea!

user: Yes, I will try to resolve something with her. Thank you.
Emotion: sadness
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: I lost friend as she does not reach out to me anymore and wonder why.

assistant: Hello

user: hello

assistant: How are you doing today?

user: Good, thanks, you?

assistant: I am well thank you. What would you like to talk about today?

user: Great. I would like to talk about my old friend

assistant: I understand you have been having some issues with your old friend. Is that correct>

user: yes that is correct I don't talk to her lately anymore though I am sad that she does not want to talk to me anymore

assistant: Why do you feel that she does not want to talk you?

user: well I text her and I don't hear back on facebook message as well

assistant: I can understand that it is difficult to feel ignored. Could it be that she is not receiving your messages?

user: Well that is possible But she used to respond and picked up my phone call while she did not answer my text

assistant: It could be that she is not much of a texter. I personally don't answer calls but always reply to texts.

user: I agree. Oh sounds like you're the opposite of her I could still call her hopefully she answer s

assistant: That sounds like a plan. That way you can speak to her, and you can even find out if she has some issues with texting.

user: what if she does not answer my call?

assistant: Do you have mutual friends?

user: yes that's true, hopefully she just picks it up yes, I have not talked to her in ages

assistant: You can do it. Otherwise you may not find out what is going on.

user: Thanks for your encouragement, I can try I can text her on Messenger and probably she will respond It was great to have you as a supporter

assistant: Definitely. If it doesn't go as planned then perhaps you can think about other friends you can talk to.

user: I think you solved my problem, great idea, always there is next

assistant: I am glad I had the opportunity to chat with you. I wish you all the best.

user: Thanks, you too! have a good day
Emotion: sadness
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: My friends talk behind my back and always try to get me in trouble but don't show it.

user: hi

assistant: Hi! Hope you are doing well today. How may I assist you?

user: i am really depressed because of my friends

assistant: It seems you are badly hurt by your friend's action. Correct me if I am wrong.

user: yeah

assistant: So What's bother you a lot ? What happened which leads you to feel like this?

user: i have heard my friends talk behind my back they are really nice in front of me

assistant: That is really bad. It must be hard for you to trust on them.

user: it is i really don't know what to do how can someone you count on do this to you?

assistant: How do you come to know that they are talking behind your back? you should talk to them and ask what is the cause that they can't directly talk to you. If something bothers you you should directly talk to that person. Sometime it gives a clear picture.

user: I accidently listened to there conversation i asked them what was wrong by they pretend as if nothing has happened

assistant: I can imagine how stressed or shocking it would be for you. It is really hard to count on such friends now.

user: should i leave them?

assistant: Once one of my friends lied to me. I wanted to breakup with her. Before that I decided to clear the things that why she did that. Motive behind her lying was not bad. I forgave her and we are still best friends. So you should clarify the things or give them one chance.

user: i was also thinking the same i know they are my true friends

assistant: leaving is really easy but having good friends are hard to find. Think about the time when you made wonderful memories.

user: i just don't want them talking when i am not around. if something's wrong with me. just spill it out
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I made a mistake at work by not calling a placement for a resident and now they are unable to leave in time and my boss is upset.

user: Hi How are you today?

assistant: I'm doing fine today. How are you feeling?

user: I'm feeling a little bit anxious today.

assistant: Can I ask why that is?

user: I really dropped the ball at work today and I'm so worried that I'm going to get let go.

assistant: Would you like to talk more about it? What is making you feel that way?

user: I thought I had everything set up for one of my resident's at a new placement and I called today to confirm and they told me the bed was no longer available. My boss is very intense and I'm scared that when I tell her she will let me go.

assistant: I see. It seems as though you've done your best, but I understand your feelings. Is it possible you can speak with your boss about it and explain?

user: I can try that but my boss is very neurotic and I don't think she will want to hear my explanations.

assistant: I understand that, I also had a boss who acted this way. I can feel how stressed you are about this. Is there anything you think you can do to jump ahead of the situation?

user: I could call the facility and find out when there next opening is and try to see if I can have the client placed on a waitlist so that he can be moved sooner.

assistant: I think that would be a great solution to your problem. I also think you can try some breathing exercises to help you be less anxious.

user: That would actually be helpful. I always forget to do my breathing exercises.

assistant: Is there anything else you ussually do to help you relax?

user: I listen to music or watch a funny show on TV.

assistant: That seems like a great way to relax! I know that's what helps me as well.

user: Thank you. You have been very helpful. I think I'm going to listen to some music while I do some deep breathing exercises.

assistant: I hope that helps, and I hope everything goes great with your boss!

user: Me too! Thanks for the support.

assistant: You can always come back for more support if needed!
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I have to repeat one of my classes over winter break, but I have plans with family. I will lose my scholarship if i dont pass

assistant: Hi, are you having a good day at the moment?

user: Today is okay, i guess. I'm just stressed.

assistant: Is there a general problem that you would like to talk about? I am more than happy to listen.

user: Yes, I found out I didnt pass college algebra and my academic advisor is pressuring me to take the class over this winter break in order to graduate on time. But I have been in new york city all year and my parents just got me tickets to fly home I really miss them

assistant: I am sorry to hear that but try not to panic, just failing one class is not the end of the world. How do you feel about retaking it?

user: I don't mind retaking it, really

assistant: Ah so you feel that this is going to be severely disruptive to your plans for this winter break?

user: yha. also, im worried i might fail again if i get too distracted by my family

assistant: Is it possible for you to get any sort of private tutoring which might help you?

user: i mean, tutoring is just another added time commitment. I really failed the first time because i was depressed and unmotivated. which is why I'm excited to be with my family finally

assistant: Ah .. in that case is it possible to talk to your doctor? They might be able to get a special allowance for you given your personal circumstances

user: yeah. that's another thing. I havent told my therapist or even my parents yet that i failed

assistant: I think that it would be a really good idea if you talked to them about it. They will probably be a lot more understanding than you might think

user: what if they're disappointed

assistant: If they love you, and I am sure that your family do, then they will accept what has happened without criticism

user: how do i even begin to start the conversation

assistant: Well, do you have any siblings that you are close to and that you could tell first?

user: yeah i told my twin sister, actually

assistant: It is good to hear you have a twin. Are you very close?

user: definitely. we go to different schools but we live together in nyc

assistant: Well I think that it might be a very good idea if she could approach the rest of your family and maybe even your therapist on your behalf?

user: yha she's better at breaking bad news than i do... maybe i can ask her. i think i should tell my therapist myself though.

assistant: Well, your therapist is not, in my mind, as important as your family. But I think that both will understand!
Emotion: sadness
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: Stress from a toxic friendship, lack of support and isolation.

assistant: Hello there, how are you doing?

user: I'm okay I guess

assistant: You seem a little down. Is there anything you'd like to talk about?

user: I just don't feel like I'm good enough lately

assistant: So you are experiencing feelings of inadequacy? That is very sad. Can you tell me why you think you feel this way? Has anything changed lately?

user: Yes I feel very inadequate. Recently my best friend and I can't get along. She's always upset at me about things I'm doing

assistant: I am sorry to hear that. I've experienced difficulties with friendships too. Do you think you can talk with her?

user: I've tried taking to her, usually she gets very angry with me and starts yelling. She never listens to what I have to say.

assistant: It sounds a little as though her behaviour is toxic. Does the friendship really mean that much to you?

user: She means so much to me and she's my only friend.

assistant: So you feel that the friendship is worth fighting for, but she is not being responsive?

user: More than that, she's not being supportive of my decisions and that's all I want

assistant: Was there one specific thing that triggered this or had it been coming for a long time?

user: She hates my boyfriend, she wants me to leave him. If i don't she doesn't want to hang around me as much. She said I have to choose him or her.

assistant: Would you consider having some counselling together? Perhaps talk through what is going on? She has no right to issue you with an ultimatum like that.

user: She moved all of her things out of our dorm room we share just because I'm still with my boyfriend. I woukd do counselling but I'm not sure she would

assistant: I really feel as though you are the one putting all the effort in here and she is just making selfish demands on you. Perhaps it is time to try and make some new friends? Join a society or something?

user: I've realized I want to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend and I don't think she'll like that.

assistant: I think you know deep down what is the best thing to do. You don't need selfish people in your life.

user: I'm a little reluctant, I'm very shy and struggle with making new friends, that's why she is do important to me.

assistant: You have your boyfriend though :). He will always be there for you - and not treat you as badly as she has!

user: Yes that's true. What do I say to her?

assistant: I don't think you owe her an explanation after how she has behaved. Leave her to make the next move I hope I have been able to help you a little!

user: The problem is we technically share a room. She does come in occasionally.

assistant: I know that you must feel that this could be a problem but I think you will be able to just ignore her. I am afraid I must leave for my next appointment now.

user: Okay! Thank you for the advice.
Emotion: fear
Problem: job crisis
Situation: My bos just resigned last week and I am worried about what that means for me and my coworker.

user: I am worried that my Director played a game she was not able to play, got caught, and was forced to resign. I am not sure what that means for me. Any help would be appreciated.

assistant: Can you explain to me what exactly kind of game it was?

user: It was a political game where she isolated the president and made him no longer support her. It was quite a misstep on her part.

assistant: ok so your director played a game she was not allowed to play and she got caught playing it and quit her job is that correct?

user: Yes. She got put on a performance improvement plan and responded poorly. She was forcced to resign.

assistant: So you are scared that you might get in trouble?

user: Not in trouble but vulnerable because she hired me. Will her boss see me as part of the problem?

assistant: I am so sorry you are going through this and i know how you are feeling

user: Thanks. It's been weird. I just met with two of the board today to go over where the organization is.

assistant: you should not have anything to worry about as long as you did not play the game then you will be fine and you will not get in trouble or your boss will not see that as a problem.

user: Thanks. I tried to just support her privately and seem neutral publicly. I did like her too. I thought she was good.

assistant: I would just suggest you to have no contact with her right now until all this passes

user: I text her to see how she was doing but haven't text with her since Friday. Any other ideas?

assistant: I would also have a talk with your boss about the situation and let him know how you are feeling

user: I also want her job. Does that seem weird to talk with him about that too?

assistant: Did you see your director playing the game? I would not bring up about you wanting her job just yet give it a couple of days

user: No, her boss did not play the game. He actually pulled out and let others handle it so he didn't seem biased. She overplayed her hand.

assistant: I can see this is a tough being in a situation like this

user: Yeah. I have never been this high in an organization so I just don't know what to do. I am hoping someone outside the organization might have a better view of what I should do.

assistant: As long as you did nothing wrong then i am sure you will be just fine

user: Thanks. Your help is appreciated.

assistant: do not let the situation get the best of you everything will be just fine

user: Thanks.