Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: sadness
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I am breaking up with my spouse

user: Hi

assistant: Hello, what can i help today?

user: I am going through a bad breakup

assistant: I am sorry to hear that, when did it happen?

user: This month. We've been together off and on for over 17 years

assistant: It must be heart broken for you. Have you talked to each other at all after it happend?

user: Yeah. We still live together but I am working on moving out

assistant: Did you talk to your friends about this? Maybe they can offer some advice as they know you best

user: My best friends support me in this and know what I am going through. It's just really painful

assistant: It is understandable to feel that way. I agree it's best to move out, you won't be able to move on if you still see each other. Have you considered seeing a therapist?

user: I am working on that too after I move out. I've needed to get back into therapy for a while

assistant: I suggest reaching out to your friends and try to distract yourself with activities that you want but haven't been able to do

user: I plan to do that and enjoy more time with my dog.

assistant: Having a dog as companion right now is perfect. If you can, take your dog on a short trip somewhere, preferably in the nature

user: My best friend lives a few hours away so after we get settled, I'm hoping to go see them. It's been a few years Thank you for helping me out and all of your suggestions

assistant: I agree,I think how you look at the situation is important. Yes it's terrible, no one dares to say this is a blessing event. However, you can look at it differently, this is your chance to live for yourself and improve as a person

user: Thank you for that. I really needed that.

assistant: I'm glad I could help

user: Thank you for your time and everything. I hope you are well and you have a great day/night/week!

assistant: you too!
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: Sleep Problems
Situation: I haven't been able to sleep well worried about so many things.

user: Hello

assistant: Hey! How are you?

user: I am hanging in there, how are you doing?

assistant: Im doing good :) How you doing hanging in there?

user: Well, I have been dealing with insomnia, and that is pretty much ruining my day lately.

assistant: Im sorry to hear that. Have you tried to help it or see a doctor?

user: Yes, I have. I tried some natural things at first, but it did not work. Then I went to the doctor, and guess what? He said I am having insomnia due to anxiety.

assistant: Do you feel anxious though? maybe the doctor is right and maybe loosing stress is the answer :)

user: I think so, I am worried about my future with the pandemic, I guess we all are. I am from Brazil and lots of people are dying there. I have lost 2 relatives to COVID in Brazil and also lost 4 friends there

assistant: Yeah the pandemic hit badly there. I am sorry for your loss. Perhaps you just dont want to follow in the same pathway which is why you are stressed

user: exactly. I am also very stressed because I have too much on my plate with school, working full time, kids at home distance learning

assistant: Yh thats seems like quite a lot and I know how you feel because of when I was a student. If i made it through you can too! try your best

user: Thank you. The doctor prescribed an antidepressant that should help with anxiety and a sleeping pill, but I dont want to take it

assistant: If you dont take it you might never feel better. I would advice you to take it and see how you feel after

user: I am worried about getting addicted to it or something. Have you ever tried these type of meds /

assistant: Yeah i have taken antidepressant when I had my son as I always needed to provide, and I can say it did help me get better
Emotion: depression
Problem: job crisis
Situation: lack of job has been a problem

assistant: Hi how are you?

user: hello \

assistant: How can I help?

user: am affected by depression how can you help me

assistant: let's start with a few questions if that's ok. how long have you been feeling depressed?

user: 2 months now

assistant: It's Ok to feel like this and depression affects many people. I think reaching out is the best first step and I'm sure you can improve this issue

user: what am ii supposed to do in this situation

assistant: have you spoken to any friends or family members about how you are feeling?

user: yeah but there not helping about anything

assistant: has anything changed recently in your life that you think might be contributing to this feeling of depression that you are having?

user: yes i lost my job last month

assistant: I'm sorry to hear that. my friend lost his job about 6 months ago and he was also feeling a similar way. I think this is to be expected when you have a sudden change in circumstances however this by no means undermines the seriousness of the issue

user: so i have joined groups i thing i will be better soon

assistant: that's great to hear. it sounds like if you address the issue that has made you depressed in the first place this will go a long way to making you feel better about things.

user: so how did you manage yours

assistant: I haven't had this issue personally but a friend has. It is true that your job also forms an important part of your identity and when your job situation change is it have a big impact on your personal life and mental well-being.

user: did he find the job he seeked and moved on with life without depression

assistant: it took him awhile but once you found new job that he enjoyed the depression went away. there are some support groups out there for depression so if you need to talk to someone about that would likely help too

user: thanks a lot i you have really helped
Emotion: sadness
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: I feel invisible wherever I go. No one seems to notice me or wants to talk to me. I try to make conversation but nothing seems to work. I just get overlooked like I am not even there.

assistant: Hi there, how are you feeling at the moment?

user: Okay for the most I guess.

assistant: Is there anything you'd like to open up about today?

user: I just wanted why people do not see to notice me or want to have a conversation with me. Typos, sorry.

assistant: I am sorry to hear you feel that way - are you talking about anyone specific or just generally?

user: Some of my own family members actually, I get cut off or not heard at all.

assistant: So you feel that you are being treated as though you are invisible in a family setting?

user: I share pics in an email or text and share things in person but no one seems that interested and yes I listen to them.

assistant: That really sucks. Do you have many friends and contacts outside of the family setting?

user: Not really, I never made friends too easily. Not seeing anyone in person because of the pandemic except a few family members.

assistant: Yes the pandemic is making everyone feel a bit raw I think. Are you actually seeing your family in person regularly?

user: I see them about two times a month, I am their ride as they have no car. Mostly it is my sibling, you can never please me, I know he is the one with the issue but just wish he would listen better and not make harsh comments.

assistant: Would you consider calling a family conference and telling them how you feel?

user: Meant please him.

assistant: It's okay I got it :) To be honest I have some experience of being in this position and eventually I had to cut some family members off for my own mental health

user: It would not help, he would never go for that. Sometimes we do have a rare good talk. Just frustrated because I saw him today and he once again made some comments.

assistant: There are counsellors available that you could see one to one that might be able to help you be more assertive?

user: Oh I am quite assertive but with family I do not want to cause any issues.

assistant: I understand. So this is not an overall issue, just a family one?

user: Thanks anyway, you cannot change anyone but yourself. I will survive.

assistant: I wish you all the best. I hope that things will pick up for you in the near future!

user: In the past I was more invisble to others in general but that has improved as I will actually strike up a conversation. Just sometimes I feel unnoticed. Thank you.

assistant: Thank you for talking!

user: You too, take care.
Emotion: anger
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: My boyfriend broke up with me, but we live together and have roommates. Now he is turning the roommates against me.

user: I am sooo pissed at my ex.

assistant: Hai

user: hi

assistant: why? Any problem?

user: well we were together for 3 years. he broke up with me a week ago but we're on the lease for the apartment and share the place with 5 other people. He moved into the room we had open. but now he's turning my roommates against me i think he's pissed because i'm dating my other ex again.

assistant: oh, you settle elsewhere

user: you think i should move?

assistant: yes

user: This place is amazing tho and my dad is the cosigner. the landlord would never let my roomies take over the lease with their credit. i'm thinking of kicking all them out, actually i dont want to. i just want to be friends witgh everyone again. we were all so close

assistant: ok clarify your friendship value

user: I have 2 roommates that actually moved here with me from my previous apartment. The rest r new but they're sweet and we've really bonded we all tripped shrooms together one night and we are like really close now

assistant: ok, tell your friend what you think.

user: it's just sooo uncomfortable to discuss. what if im just being paranoid. i mean part of me feels like they just feel awkward and arent icing me out on purpose

assistant: clarify, what you think

user: i mean no one has specifically said anything to me that was negative, but suddenly i feel like people are avoiding me. we used to hang out in the living room all the time and we would eat these big meals, but yesterday i came home and they were all cooking with my ex. they said they made enough for me but it seemed like such an after thought

assistant: That problem would not be possible if you did not speak

user: you mean if we DID speak?

assistant: Tell them what you think in your mind and they will surely understand.

user: i think i just want to know that we're all still friends, i guess. I want our house to feel like home, again.

assistant: ok, you clarify your reasons for them.

user: ok, yeah you're right. I just need to have a conversation with them. I guess. thank you
Emotion: depression
Problem: Appearance Anxiety
Situation: I think that i am gaining weight and hard as i try I can not keep it off and i am getting vry put down.

user: Hi there.

assistant: Hello. How are you feeling today?

user: I am feeling pretty down about my appearance.

assistant: I get that way too. Is there any particular cause or aspect you are focussed on?

user: It is mainly my weight i just can't seem to loose any and it is making me quite sad.

assistant: Gosh I am very sorry to hear that you are struggling to loose weight and it is making you sad. May I ask what you are doing to attempt to loose the weight? I hear cardio is very good for that.

user: Well i do use my bike. But i really struggle with motivation and i know i snack too much. But i have just been too busy to spend any real time facing the problem, you know?

assistant: I totally understand. I was the same way over worked and under motivated. I found that mixing in low impact weight work outs was really effective as well as each morning setting out healthy snacks that way i don't have to think about getting something it is already there.

user: Oh that is a good idea what do you suggest?

assistant: Honestly my top favorite are chocolate covered almonds and sugar snap peas. have you tried lowering your carb and increasing your protein intake?

user: No i hadn't thought about that don't you have to only drink protein if your work out.

assistant: Typically yes but having a low protein shake, ie one scoop not too, everyday is a great way to supplement your caloric intake with protein. You will find yourself less hungry and have more energy through the day.

user: That actually makes a lot of sense. What about motivation i really need help with that i find when i am less motivated i am deffinitely more depressed.

assistant: Lots of people also struggle with depressive episodes and low motivation. Don't worry you are not alone. It is important to try and think is it depression related low motivation or vice versa.

user: thats true how can you tell. it is really hard for me right now.

assistant: That's ok. Don't worry everything will be ok. Remember little steps forward are better and easier to achieve. even if it seems really bad right now just know it will always get better.

user: Thats true.

assistant: Just by talking to you I can tell you are down, but you also seem a lot more receptive and motivated that i think you realize. I am sure you can make the changes and succeed.

user: Thank you so much. Sometimes it just takes someone believing in you

assistant: Of course everyone needs support now and again and it has been a real pleasure talking to you.

user: Thanks, you too I have a lot to think about. But talking it out really helped. Have a nice day!
Emotion: depression
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: my age (66), uselessness,fear of death

assistant: Hi, how are you today?

user: okay right now

assistant: I'm glad to hear that. Is there anything in particular you wanted to discuss?

user: i am 66, my immediate family is dead, no kids, in touch only with a cousin who is a very troubled person, sometimes her depression spreads to mine, limited friends, COVID makes conditons more sad

assistant: That definitely sounds like a rough situation and I'm sorry to hear about it, though I'm glad you decided to reach out.

user: i unloaded a lot on you but current situations do not feel good

assistant: That's what I'm here for. I want to support you in any way I can, especially given your situation. Did you want to talk just to talk? Or we can discuss a way to work through what you might be dealing with mentally? It also sounds like keeping in touch with your cousin isn't helping in any way, so maybe we can talk about how to handle that? I am entirely at your disposal.

user: she is my age, in a homeless women's, very bad living conditions, she is a mental health client but treatment team seem so to feel that as long as they keep her medicated, their job is done. she has a dx of bipolar and probably has borderline personality. her background is similiar to mine, i cannot abandon her as her other family has done.

assistant: That's definitely difficult and it's easy to see why it wears on you so much. As much as you don't want to abandon her, it's important to remember to take care of yourself too. It's like when you're on a plane and the safety pamphlet tells you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others with theirs. You might not be able to help your cousin as much as you want to if you are suffering too much. Are there any mental health resources you've tried for yourself other than reaching out here?

user: on antidepressant meds, COVID makes it hard to keep in touch with provider, your comparison about the oxygen mask is a good one.

assistant: I see, it certainly doesn't help that it's difficult to keep in touch with your provider. I have a website that contains a list of support groups provided by NAMI. Would you be interested in it? Many of the support groups are offered multiple times a week online, so you wouldn't even have to leave your home.

user: a possible path to look into. thanks

assistant: Of course, here's the link: namimainlinepa.org/online-and-telephone-support-groups/

user: thanks. may be a good time to close on a positive note. like suggestions

assistant: Sounds good. Was there anything else you wanted to discuss?

user: not right now but thanks for your concern
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: i have an exam coming up and i have not studied and its too late to cover the course work

user: hello

assistant: Hi, I am hear to listen today. How are you?

user: i am not well

assistant: I am sorry to hear that and I have felt that way myself. Has something unusual happened that you would like to share?

user: i have an exam coming up annd i dont wanna fail

assistant: I understand and that can be very concerning. Have you been preparing for the test or have you had anyone to study with? I know that can sometimes help with preparedness.

user: i dont have anyone and i live alone. i feel that my scholarship will be taken away if i fail

assistant: I know that can be very difficult and I am proud of you reaching out for help and support! You are making great strides in talking about your feelings! A scholarship would reflect that you are very dedicated to school and that you are deserving of this award. You have a lot to be proud of, having attained a scholarship. I also had one and it can feel like a lot of pressure though.

user: should i go to my school councellor

assistant: Yes, that is a great idea. Have you ever joined a study group? A group of peers can also be helpful.

user: I have been really upset as people from my study group dont respond to my emails

assistant: I am sorry to hear that and know that could make you really sad. Do you have a relationship with a professor at your school? One that you can talk to about your feelings?

user: I dont have a professor i can trust or feel comfortable taking to I also dont have any family i have general anxiety disorder

assistant: Okay, I can understand your feelings. Have you heard of practice tests?

user: i couldnt study because I have chronic pain issues

assistant: I have experienced a little bit of what you are describing and I am so happy that you have reached out regardless of your obstacles. Have you ever tried to write down what you're feeling?

user: i have never tries writing down my feelings

assistant: I think it can help release feelings and help ground people. Do you have family that has experienced what you are feeling or been through college o a scholarship? I would suggest reaching out to family in the case of feeling anxiety.
Emotion: depression
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: covid stress

assistant: Hello, How are you doing today?

user: i'm stressed about my family getting covid my youngest is waiting for test results. we shoul dhear something monday or tuesday

assistant: I am sorry you are going through that and hope the results are negative. This are some tough times. Have you all been following protocol after finding out?

user: yes, he's been isolating. but i'm worried that we all with have to quarantine if he's positive

assistant: That is stressful to think about but would be a necessity. The only thing you all can do if it comes down to it is try to set it up so you all can be as comfortable as possible during the period.

user: That's true. everything just feels so out of control

assistant: When i feel like everything is out of control, i try to focus on small tasks that i can complete with ease. Maybe you can focus on setting up quarantine room, or getting medication and food to last for those weeks just in case. Worst case out of that is that you have some extra food and medicine.

user: i can focus on the things i can control - that's good advice. what have you been doing to stay sane through all of this?

assistant: Well for one my house has never been so spotless ha. I have been exercising more, going for more walks with my dog, having more family nights, just anything really that can take my mind of it.

user: i haven't felt like doing much of anything, my house is wreck. where are you finding motivation

assistant: I did not want to let my fears control me. Believe me the first month or so i did just that. I just wanted to feel better. I started small, cleaning one room at a time. Making a small list to get done. Sooner than later the lists got longer, the place got cleaner.

user: did you find a list online or make it yourself?

assistant: I made one starting with the easiest jobs first.

user: what should i do when i finish cleaning?

assistant: Have you ever wanted to try a new hobby? Knitting, woodworking, anything really?

user: good idea, i am just finding it hard to get away from the constant bad covid news. i feel like i'm always on high alert. it's stressing me out

assistant: I was checking 10 times a day. What really helped me was to actually stop checking. Maybe just try to get some local news but dont let it consume you.

user: cleaning, hobbies, anything else good for distraction? got a good podcast recommendation?

assistant: Ha not at the moment no. I think also trying to include the family in those things as well really helps. I mean if things get heated always good to give everyone space. Well i do love last house on the left, but that is a little dark and i think were trying to steer away from that.

user: thanks for your advice. y'all stay safe
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: My mom got in a serious accident and ever since, I have developed anxiety whenever I cannot be around my parents

assistant: good evening, what's bothering you?

user: I have anxiety, which keeps me awake at night and I can't relax

assistant: lots of people suffer from anxiety.you are not alone.

user: I just want to not having to live with it

assistant: ok. well do you want to expand on what's causing the anxiety?

user: A lot of reasons, but right now because my parents are old. I'm worried whenever they have to drive, especially in the snow

assistant: I'm sure your parents know that if they can't drive they won't because they you are worried about them

user: They still have to go to work. The point here is, that is just the tip of an iceberg. Most of the time, I am worried something bad will happen, even if there is no particular reason

assistant: have you spoken to them about your concern?

user: No I have not, I don't think they can help

assistant: well it's a atart. I suggest you talk to them about it. maybe they will take your concerns seriously

user: Are there anything else that can help?

assistant: well I suggest try exercising always keeps mind occupied

user: I tend to get more anxious at night before bed, what should I do?

assistant: have you seek professional help?

user: No I have not, they can be very expensive

assistant: well they do a good job in helping others maybe it's worth a try

user: I don't know where to start,like who is good and such

assistant: well first speak with your family doctor he can recommend someone for you

user: I will try that, that's a good start

assistant: you can do this and conquer your anxiety anything else I can help with? if not we good