Emotion: anxiety
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: just everyday life

user: hello

assistant: Hello, how are you feeling today?

user: having a rough day.

assistant: I am sorry you are having a rough day. Can you share more about it?

user: i feel like my life is an unscheduled mess. nothing ever happens when its supposed to i plan things and it always falls through and doesnt happen

assistant: It sounds like the chaos and disorganization is really bother you. Is that right?

user: yes

assistant: I can certainly understand. When my children were young and I worked full-time outside of the home, I found it very difficult to keep things in my life organized.

user: my partners schedule changes about 3 times a day. so i never know if what i had planned will happen or not. usually not.

assistant: I can understand why that may frustrate you. Does your partner have any control over their schedule and the changes?

user: i stay home all the time and even our plans for doing things at home fall through. he will promise to do something simple and months later its still not done its supposed to be a set schedule but something always come up and he ends up working anywhere from 10 to 12 hours

assistant: This can be very stressful and lead to a lot of problems in a relationship if not dealt with early.

user: its more of the reasons why he has to work late that bother me

assistant: Have you tried hanging a large calendar and writing down his schedule as well as any plans you made? Then each morning, do a quick 1-minute check on the calendar to ensure you are BOTH on the same page. Can you tell me about the reason?

user: the people he works with either screw up a machine or flake out not even working an 8 hour shift. yet my other half is always the one to stay

assistant: Is he aware of your concerns?

user: i mean i admire his work ethic but why does it always have to fall on him to be the one to stay we have talked about it often

assistant: I feel like I had very similar issues in my first marriage.

user: it makes my anxiety go crazy

assistant: Communication can be very key here. It sounds like he is dedicated to his job, which can be a good thing, but I do understand that you want to be put first sometimes as well.

user: we talk often and i have actually broken down several times and cried. funny thing is im not mad about the situation itself. i just feel robbed sometimes

assistant: I can understand why that would make you feel that way. We enjoy spending time with the people that we love.

user: it would be different if i didnt care or it made me mad. it just make me feel alone

assistant: Why don't you choose even one night each week, and see if he will commit to being home that one night - then plan something special TOGETHER. It could be a game night, cooking dinner together, or just sitting talking.

user: we have tried that and he still got stuck working.

assistant: Also, when he is home, you could both try REALLY connecting during that time. Then maybe when he is at work, you won't feel so alone having made that connection that morning or the night before.

user: we do make the most of our 2 to 3 hours together at night. otherwise i would completely break down

assistant: That is good. Does he understand your feelings or does he tend to dismiss them?

user: he feels the same way about our time

assistant: So it sounds like time together is important to him as well, and the fact that you are both on the same page about that is wonderful.

user: we had a lot of talks about this issue

assistant: Instead of you making the plans, why don't you try giving him suggestions and have him make the plans next time? Perhaps by him making them, he will be more focused on ensuring that he can be there.

user: that sound like a great idea

assistant: And then he will also see how much effort you put in! Please let me know how it work out! I wish you the best of luck! Have a wonderful evening!

user: thank you for your help