Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: anger
Problem: job crisis
Situation: my boss cut my pay to save his bonus this year

user: hey!

assistant: Hey what's going on?

user: I'm mad! like mad mad!

assistant: what are you mad about?

user: My work is driving me nuts.

assistant: what's going on at work that's so frustrating?

user: I just found out my boss cut my pay and my bonus to secure his own bonus

assistant: wow, that's super frustrating! I would be pretty upset too How did you find out?

user: I overheard a private phone call with his wife. He said that despite the tough year the company is having, he's expecting to get a large bonus because he cut costs so drastically. I also heard him discuss it with the director of sales. They were strategizing how to shift the costs around to cover the tracks. I heard the words "good thing we have the power, if others knew we were getting our full bonuses they'd walk out"

assistant: wow... did anyone else hear?

user: no

assistant: I would be furious too. It puts you in a very strange spot. If you say something, you look bad, and if you don't you feel bad.

user: yeah, tell me about it. I'm pretty bummed. I'm slowly planning my exit strategy. I can't work there anymore.

assistant: I absolutely understand. You know. the end of the year is coming up and it's probably not the best time to leave a job without having anything lined up.

user: Yeah, I've been applying around a bit.

assistant: that's good! I think budgets are going to be tight in many industries and you need to make sure you are okay financially and have insurance and unfortuantely both of those are tied to employers.

user: I know... This pandemic is frustrating. I wish I could just walk out but realistically It'd be pretty irresponsible to quit during a global pandemic and not have insurance.

assistant: That's a good point. I suggest continuing to look and see what you can find. There will be people hiring.

user: yeah thanks. I'm still so mad but maybe I can redirect my energy into finding an new job

assistant: I think that's a good call, you should definitely get out of there though, but make sure you have good enough coverage.
Emotion: anger
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: My friends will not even call me half the time even though I am always calling them and trying to get together.

assistant: How can I help you?

user: My friends won't even call me half the time even though I am always reaching out to them and trying to get together. \

assistant: It sounds like you are trying to reach out to friends and they don't reciprocate as much as you'd like?

user: Not only that, they don't seem to ever call me. I am the one doing all the efforts.

assistant: That can be hard when friends don't reach out despite all your efforts. Have you discussed this concern with them?

user: I haven't really tried to bring it up, but maybe I should.

assistant: Sometimes friends don't realize that they aren't fulfilling their end of the relationship and just need to become more aware.

user: That makes sense.

assistant: Do you think you might want to have a conversation with your friends and see if they feel the same way?

user: Yes, that seems to be a good idea.

assistant: I've had friends in the past who didn't call and I found out later that they were having personal struggles and it wasn't anything against me.

user: I see your point. Maybe I should be asking if my friend needs anything instead of expecting so much from them. I will have to talk to them to find out what is going on.

assistant: I can see it being hard not knowing for sure.

user: You make a good point.

assistant: Sometimes people also grow and change so relationships evolve as well. Is there something you would hope to gain from the friendship that you think could change?

user: I just would like to get some answers if I am the one to blame. I feel guilty sometimes that I should have done something differently.

assistant: I can see that being a challenge feeling guilty about whether you did something to affect the relationship. But, you sound like you are really trying to make things work and maintain the friendship.

user: I'm really trying but maybe again just having a hard conversation may help to improve things.

assistant: I had one of those hard conversations in college with a roommate who later revealed that she was in counseling and overwhelmed and struggling. She apologized for the strain in the relationship. I was so glad we talked about things because we went on to be better friends and not hold resentment toward one another.

user: I see what you mean. That looks like it helps to talk through things.

assistant: Is there anything else I can help you with?

user: No thanks. I am feeling more confident in handling the situation. Thanks!

assistant: You are welcome.
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: My company is going through a restructure and i am worried about my job

user: Hi there i am worried about my job as my company is restructuring atm

assistant: I'm sorry to hear that. How are you feeling about that?

user: really worried and anxious like i dont want to get up in the morning

assistant: I hear you feel worried and sad. It must be hard

user: everyone is fighting and trying to get the good jobs

assistant: That sounds very stressful. What is something you can do to get through your work day?

user: i guess i just want reassurance that i will have a job still after christmas i am worried as i have a family and money is tight

assistant: I understand, I have faced similar circumstances. What can you do to prepare for a change one way or another?

user: i guess i could look for another job

assistant: Could you look at jobs you think you would like even more?

user: or maybe learn a new skill i really like my current job tho i like the people who i work for and work with

assistant: Perhaps it is a chance to gain new experiences or find an even better company!

user: i guess so but there are not may other companies where i lkive live

assistant: Sometimes for me I have to change how I look at the situation.

user: such as?

assistant: When I think something is all bad, I have to look for the positive. I look at it as maybe you will find a great company that values it's employee's but you won't know unless you try.

user: i cant see much positive as i like the job and the company and dont want to leave
Emotion: disgust
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: It is not well to do better information for gather with my friends and they irritated me.

assistant: Hi, can i help today? Please, tell me about yourself?

user: hi i'm nereida

assistant: Hi, do have any issues that you would like to share with me today?

user: i am in disputed mod with my friends

assistant: I am sorry to hear that. So, you and your friends are not seeing eye to eye? Do you mind telling me what the issue is that yo are not agreeing on?

user: I explained my personal problems but they are not giving proper response

assistant: That can be difficult and I can relate to that too. When friends do not respond the way that we feel that they should it can be really hard. Do you have any family that you are close with?

user: They need more money from me, but i couldn't give that much amount

assistant: I understand the issue of money can cause a lot of problems in a relationship. I had a best friend borrow money once and it lead to her never paying it back and we stopped being friends. Do you plan on trying to talk to your friends soon? Maybe I can give you some advice on how to approach them.

user: I want to speak with them because they are in good nature

assistant: Maybe you could chose a place to meet that is neutral, somewhere at a park or at a cafe. You can ask them to reflect on the good memories in your friendship and then express how you value them as people and friends. Does that sound like something you can try?

user: Yes, i want to do some moderate friendship with them

assistant: That is a good idea too. Having boundaries is the healthiest part of a relationship so that neither party gets taken advantage of. Setting up lines not to cross is a great idea.

user: I want to do some help to them but i don't do expect more from them

assistant: I understand that friends can disappoint us sometimes and friendships can take a lot of effort. I would recommend starting a journal. A daily journal can help you express your feelings on paper and it can help you from getting to frustrated and keeping your feelings inside.

user: Yes, some disappointments show us about real face of friends, so it was an experience to me.

assistant: I am proud of you today because you reached out and have tried to find help outside of yourself. You are growing and trying to do your best.

user: Sure, it is my new way of relationship to me with others

assistant: Yes, you're growing and trying to do your best and wanting to expand your boundaries and make them clear. You have taken the right approach and are on the best track to having a successful relationship in the future. Great Job! Thank you for sharing your story with me today.

user: Great, thank you friend
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: job crisis
Situation: I had been terminated from a job that was in my field. I had to move back in with my parents.

assistant: Hello how are you?

user: I fine now. The event happened 6 1/2 years ago.

assistant: Do you want to tell me more about it?

user: I had the job for 14 months and I drank a lot before bed which was usually about 1 am. The job was second shift. The drinking affected my REM sleep and I was often tired the next day.

assistant: I can understand that... Did you lose your job because of this?

user: I had a sleep study done soon after and was diagnosed with Sleep Apnea which was the main reason I would fall asleep at work.

assistant: Ouch, that's no good... I understand medical issues can cause all kinds of problems in our lives.

user: I have been using a CPAP for 6 years and have dramatically reduced my drinking. It is amazing how refreshed I am all day now compared with any day during that time even the days I didn't drink because there were overall health effects that stayed with me.

assistant: I understand.. has the quality of your life improved?

user: Yes I'm more enthusiastic about my life and family relations are better and I have built trust back up.

assistant: It's the small things that add up to a big picture.. How is your Christmas going?

user: Fairly well; we talked to my brother who lives 1200 miles away and didn't come up due to COVID-19. I am making plans with a few friends to se an award-winning light display. We unwrapped gifts last night (me and my parents)

assistant: Well that is cool, I'm sure that will help take your mind off of some stuff. I am a runner. I like to run when I get stressed out.

user: I am working close to fulltime now and my social life is more rewarding.

assistant: I understand having Substance Abuse issues. I was in a family with the some issues. It is tough on everybody I'm sure.

user: I go to a Chirtian 12-step.

assistant: I am very familiar with it. Do you have a large support group?

user: The folks there remember me by name even though about 60 perons go regularly. Thanks for chTTING. iT HELP TO BE IN TOUCH EVEN BY THE INTERNET WITHOUT SEEING A FACE.

assistant: No problem, I understand how hard things are some times. How else can I help today?

user: No nothing in particular. Thank you.
Emotion: depression
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: General depression made worse by the severity of the pandemic.

user: Hey there How are you?

assistant: I AM FINE HOW IS YOUR SIDE ?

user: I am ok, I'm having a hard time dealing with the pandemic though.

assistant: Please how may i be of help

user: I am having a hard time being motivated to do anything.

assistant: okay

user: Do you have any suggestions that might help me feel better?

assistant: I could see how bad you feel because of that

user: What do you like to do for yourself when you feel bad?

assistant: It happens anyway, but not all the time when did it start and what do you think that can cause that

user: It started with the pandemic. I think it is because we have to stay home to be safe but other people don't listen and more people are dying because of it

assistant: I am like that sometime, I switch to what I love doing most it good to be safe, pandemic has caused my hoodlums

user: What do you love doing most?

assistant: do you have anything?, that you love doing most

user: I like to read

assistant: I love playing soccer game, anytime I am not motivated to work or do anything in office or home, I pick my phone play soccer game. I will laugh, enjoy myself, within 5 minutes , I do gain my morale

user: I like that suggestion, thank you

assistant: that is good, reading is a good hobby

user: I should try soccer, that sounds like fun

assistant: It seems you like reading novel

user: I do. I like many books

assistant: very fun, within some minutes , you will be alive back and motivated that is good, you can have soft copies on your phone, open it anytime your are bored

user: That is a good idea too, I will use my phone to read too
Emotion: anxiety
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I'm so worried about breaking up with my boyfriend that I'm shaking.

user: I'm so worried about breaking up with my boyfriend that I find myself shaking at night.

assistant: I'm sorry you are going through that. Why do you think you are worried?

user: I just miss the physical comfort and support.

assistant: I have also struggled with that in the past. It can be difficult!

user: Yes, I feel so lonely

assistant: Can you think of things that don't make you feel lonely? We can work on focusing on those instead.

user: Yes, I guess I could try to turn things around to a positive focus on what I do have.

assistant: That's a great idea. I think you will be headed in the right direction doing that.

user: How do I stop the shaking at night? Do you have suggestions?

assistant: I would work on making sure you are in a positive mindset before you go to bed and try to focus on the things you can control.

user: Maybe I could think of things in my life like my new nephew to cheer me up! He is so cute and makes me smile.

assistant: That is a wonderful idea. You are on the right track with that. You should try to think about him before bed and see if it help tonight!

user: I wish I were home and not in college though but I guess I am growing up and will learn from this to make me stronger.

assistant: I also struggled with that when I was in college. Being away from home is hard but you have to remember that you can do hard things!

user: I need to remember that college is only temporary and I will have their support in the future again in person. It's just so hard.

assistant: That is very true. It is only temporary, you will be reunited with your family soon. But also, you have their support, it just might look a little different at this time.

user: Thanks for the positive words. I think I'll be sleeping better at night thinking of these words of encouragement.

assistant: It sounds like you are on the right path to success and not having as much trouble sleeping.

user: Thank you for helping me feel somewhat better.

assistant: I'm glad you are feeling somewhat better. Please let me know if I can be of any other assistance. I'm glad you are feeling somewhat better. Please let me know if I can be of any other assistance.
Emotion: anger
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I broke up with a partner and I’m verbally upset and emotionally upset as well

assistant: hi what's bothering you today?

user: I’m upset

assistant: everyone can be upset can you tell me more?

user: I lost my job and I can’t find my dream job.

assistant: I understand loosing a job can be tough. but it's not the end of the road. you can take it as door closing and opening a new one

user: That’s true. How can I find my dream job? I broke up with my partner because of it.

assistant: have you tried looking to build your resume. i.e trying new jobs to get your dream job? I'm sorry to hear that you also broke up with your g.f.. but I'm here to help you get through it

user: I’ve tried a new job but it didn’t work. Should I do jobs that are similar to my dream job?

assistant: yes, it's better to star small and built your experience. the more experience you'll have the better chances you'll land your dream job

user: Thank you, what’s the best way to build experience?

assistant: compare what your dream job what's and try to get similar experience. if they want customer service then maybe land a job similar in that field.

user: Okay, how would I get a job if I don’t have experience I. That field?

assistant: well to start. apply. prepare for your interview. make a good resume and cover letter. the goal is to get experience any where you can go from their

user: I understand, work can be hard to find with the pandemic. I was laid off because of it.

assistant: yes it's tough maybe try going to school.

user: I thought about that too but but, right now I don’t have that much money to go to school. Also idk what is my niche.

assistant: govt have loans to help you go back to school

user: Can you get a gov loan if you are outside of the country? Like Mexico for example?
Emotion: disgust
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: My friend's are Trump supporters. It hurts because it does not follow my values and morals.

assistant: Hello, how are you doing today?

user: I am OK but I have been struggling since my friend's are Trump supporters and that goes against my Morals.

assistant: I understand how your friend's supporting Trump is against your morals. Have you talked to them about it?

user: Yes. They refuse to change.

assistant: I've been in a similar situation and have dealt with friend's that support values that I don't.

user: How did you deal with it?

assistant: The friends that you can still have a dialogue with are worth talking to. I suggest friends that don't understand how you feel you stop talking to since they hurt you.

user: Yeah I have cut out some friends already. Maybe I should try talking to the more reasonable ones.

assistant: It can be really hard to do , talking to them but I believe in you, you can do it!

user: Thank you for the support. It will help me.

assistant: Do you think you will be able to do this soon? Lets set a time frame for this goal.

user: Maybe. Paul is usually hard to get a hold of so it might take a couple of weeks.

assistant: I understand it can be tough to get a hold of friends.

user: Yeah, Paul is aloof like that. But realistically maybe in the next few weeks I can have a good conversation with him.

assistant: I would suggest meeting somewhere that you both enjoy. Maybe grab a burger and beer if that is your type of thing.

user: That's a great idea. It could make things less tense.

assistant: I've done something similar myself. A friend and I used to go to this one restaurant and I used that a meeting place for tough conversations.

user: Paul really likes IPA's so a brewery would probably be a good spot.

assistant: That does sound like a good idea.

user: Thank you for the help today. I think I have a good plan on how to handle this now with Paul.

assistant: You're welcome. Hope you have a wonderful day.

user: You too.

assistant: Just remember I think you can do it. Have confidence in yourself.

user: Thank you again.
Emotion: sadness
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I feel that I will fail a class this semester and I just took my last exam last week.

assistant: hi how are you?

user: I'm doing well right now

assistant: that's great you're doing well 'right now' but what happened prior that you weren't all right?

user: I just took my last exam and I feel that I will fail and have to retake it

assistant: Oh I'm sorry. I'm sure you did fine. We all feel that way after exams!

user: true!

assistant: have you felt this way with prior exams? if so, did you really fail or did you do okay?

user: No, this was the first time I really did not study for this exam Because I had 5 class this semester

assistant: wow 5 classes is a lot! So you didn't have time to study? Did you go to class and do the work throughout the semester?

user: Yea it was a lot of classes. I tried to attend the lectures, but I was falling behind

assistant: I wonder if you can contact the professor and go over your exam with him/her to set your anxiety at ease?

user: Unfortunately I cannot since he does not teach during the winter semester

assistant: how do you get your exam grade and test papers back?

user: I took it last week, he will not release until the end of this week. I will await my remediation papers

assistant: have you spoken to people in the class with you?

user: Yea we had a big cheating group since it wasn't on examsoft but we all struggled hard

assistant: maybe he'll curve the grade then if a lot of people didn't do well

user: Nah it's a professional class. No curves since our class size is only 25 people

assistant: oh wow. hopefully you can re-take it then if you really didn't do well. I bet if you go through your notes and your book and compare to test questions you did better than you thought!

user: Yea do you want to finish and quit this hit?

assistant: if you're good you can quit (I can't!)

user: Great talking with you. See you later :)

assistant: you, too! good luck :)

user: Damn, they want us to chat for 15 minutes. How are you? You stressed out?

assistant: oh wow! I didn't know - 3 more minutes. We can do it! I'm glad I don't have to study and take exams. After the exams are the worst! Not too badly right now. But every day is a new day :)

user: I'm majoring in biology. It is very tough I'll tell you that This semester I took 19 credits. That was a mistake

assistant: that's insane! I did Chem and Bio ONE semester at the same time - with 8 hours of labs a week - I quickly changed majors. I respect what you're doing!

user: Thanks! What are you majoring in now?

assistant: I am way past that stage - my son is starting college in the fall I am a day trader - business is a lot easier :)

user: Wow, good luck to your son! I daytrade a bit myself too

assistant: nice! it's really fun. I have a few 'gigs' I work on but that is my favorite. And thank you about my son. I don't miss school - he's already ready to graduate!

user: Hey, we defintely passed 15 minutes. It was great talking to a fellow MTurker.