Emotion: sadness
Problem: breakup with partner
Situation: I had been dating my college boyfriend for almost a year and we had begun to fight increasingly over the last few months.  He ended up breaking up with me on our anniversary.

user: Hello.

assistant: I am here. How are you? I feel that I can really help you on this Christmas Night.

user: Not too well. I am feeling pretty down right now.

assistant: How long have you not been feeling not so well?

user: Today was my one-year anniversary with my boyfriend. He broke up with me today. We were at school (our college campus), and we had a huge fight.

assistant: Well, I can tell you that it is hard, but it could be a god send in the long run.

user: Maybe I can think that way in time, but right now I don't know what to do with myself.

assistant: Well, I have been in rough relationships, but there is no need to add additional trauma to the situation.

user: I probably should have seen it coming, we have been fighting a lot lately. That's true, but that doesn't make me feel any better about it right now.

assistant: It's really hard during the Christmas Holidays, but there are ways to decompress.

user: Yes, everything can feel worse this time of year because of the stress of the holidays.

assistant: Have you considered doing meditation to release negative thoughts?

user: I have actually read about that, but I have a hard time focusing when I meditate. I suppose I just need to practice more.

assistant: There are online resources to help you get in a better frame of mind.

user: Like the Calm app?

assistant: There are incense burning kits that can help to relieve stress and trauma. Yes, the Calm app is one.

user: I like incense, but it makes my allergies act up unfortunately. What else can I do besides meditation?

assistant: You said that you are allergic to incenses of all kinds?

user: Most types of incense are too strongly scented and make me sneeze or feel sick. Candles are much better for me.

assistant: There are websites like Decompress dot org that can help with relationships that are in turmoil.

user: I haven't heard of that website before. I'll have to check it out.

assistant: I used to visit sites that help people who need to find ways to decompress after issues and fights have occurred in relationships.

user: Well, I haven't been in a long-term relationship like this before. My past relationships were all in high school, and they only lasted a few weeks or months at a time. I really cared for this one, and we were together for so long.

assistant: I feel obligated to help during Christmas because I had a nasty fight with my partner one year over gifts.

user: You had a fight with your partner? I'm sorry, it's the worst when people fight over what's supposed to be something nice.

assistant: What was the fight over? Food? Money? Sex?

user: I forget what started it, it was something stupid. He didn't like the way I said something and it kind of blew up from there. We were fighting over the smallest things these last few months. It just kind of built up to the point where he said he couldn't take fighting with me anymore and just wanted to end it.

assistant: I would let things decompress for a long while.

user: End the relationship, I mean. You think maybe if we just take some time apart, he might want to talk about it?

assistant: I suggest thinking through ending the relationship if he has a hot temper.

user: He does get upset very easily.

assistant: Yes, just think it through for some time.

user: I do think it is important to take some time and breathe.

assistant: Was the relationship with him pleasant for many months?

user: Yes, for most of our time together it was wonderful. He made me laugh very easily. That's part of why I'm so sad that he ended the relationship.

assistant: You said it has only gotten rough in the last two months?

user: Two or three, yes. And we would fight over the smallest things, it was really stupid.

assistant: You said that he has announced to you he has ended the relationship on Christmas? Today, you mean?

user: Yes, and it was our one year anniversary. We were supposed to order takeout and watch a movie and exchange presents. Instead we fought and broke up.

assistant: In my opinion, I would consider accepting that it is not going to be a healthy relationship whatsoever.

user: I think you are right. Unless we went to some sort of counseling. But it probably is for the best.