Emotion: shame
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: My two friends  are shaming me for not donating more per year to charities. One of them is the President of a local non-profit.

user: My friends are trying to shame me. How ridiculous....

assistant: hi i am sorry to hear that what are they trying to shame you with? what are they trying to shame you with?

user: It is Christmas and my friends say that I do not donate enough to charity. They are putting me on a guilt trip. My one old friend is the President of a local non-profit.

assistant: well, the donation to charity should be what either you can affort or volunteeer, it all depends on your situation

user: I am not making much income with the COVID-19, either.

assistant: it has to come from the heart and if your circumstances do not allow that then they should not talk badly about you

user: Two different (so-called) friends of mine need to get a life.

assistant: shame on them to do that to you well you might not consider them real friends if that is what they do. it is always easier to judge over other people then to validate what anyone self is doing.

user: Yeah, people don't know that just because my two friends go "Way back," does not mean they should be able to to hurt me, emotionally. What should I do about these two (so-called) friends?

assistant: definatly not ...have you tried explaining your situation to them?

user: No, they don't know that I am in financial trouble myself. COVID-19 has wrecked my steady income levels.... Things were great, this time last year.

assistant: well i know thats something most people do not want to disclose can you help the organization with donating your time?

user: I might be able to do that.

assistant: unfortunatly it is right now very comen this situation, so no shame for that,

user: Well, I used to donate a LOT in year's past.

assistant: a lot of times donating time to help organisatiosn is more valuable then money.

user: Great point.

assistant: times and situations change so thats ok.

user: My friends may like to know that I am trading time....instead of donating money.

assistant: i worked for a non profit and the biggest struggle was to find volunteers to help out

user: Yes, you make a good point.

assistant: I feel that is a great donation and if they do not like that tell them money is easy to give time not

user: The proble is that some people just want to shame people without knowing their plight.

assistant: Yeah, true, we need to stay above them then in all actuality we don't know what goes on behind closed doors in their life. sometimes people like that reflect

user: I need to think of others ways to contribute that won't have my friends hating on me. I have pride, too.

assistant: BUt it should be what you want not what your 'freinds want. you should be proud of yourself.

user: Yeah......

assistant: Hopefully next year will bring better things and maybe even a better friend that does not judge into your life.

user: The problem is that I am not sure it my friends are going to believe me; I am a well-to-do individual We can only hope for a better 2021 Not sure how quickly the markets rebound....

assistant: well if they do not believe you as well you might really need to rethink your friendships and the meaning in those so called freind ships. hopefully soon for all of us, but hold on to the thought of being healthy

user: Well, I usually go to their get-togethers. Both of my friends are well-to-do.

assistant: I am hoping you will find the right solution.

user: Well, you have been helpful. Thank you. Good bye.

assistant: thanks I wish you all the luck and health good bye

user: Happy Holidays.