Emotion: anxiety
Problem: job crisis
Situation: trying to find a job with good hours

assistant: Hi, how can I help you today?

user: I am having problems because I need money and the only jobs I can find are outside of the hours I need to work and I'm having anxiety

assistant: Oh, that is anxiety-provoking... How long have you b een searching?

user: Yes, I called a staffing agency and they matched me with a job but I will still be coming home late So I am trying to put in applications elsewhere as wlel Well*

assistant: It's great that you are putting out applications elsewhere as well! What makes you anxious about coming home late?

user: I am walking

assistant: Oh I understand Have you thought about other ways to get back home besides walking?

user: Yes, trying to find a ride but the bus also stops going Maybe I could call an Uber home

assistant: If that would help you ease your anxiety, I think it would be a good solution to consider!

user: I think the stress outside of the job is also contributing

assistant: What makes you anxious about walking home late?

user: Like I am having relationship issues, in a long distance relationship and I jsut came home and have been missing him and I am torn between the two states Also just safety issues

assistant: Oh I understand about the safety issues, I too cannot stand walking alone at night

user: What do you do for safety?

assistant: How long have you been in this long-distance relationship?

user: Two months but we've known each other way longer than that

assistant: I try to avoid walking and either ask someone to come and get me, or take an Uber or the bus or my own car!

user: I think the Uber is a good idea. I don't have many friends who would be up at midnight for the ride or be open to it.

assistant: That's good to consider! I think that if money is an issue right now, it will become easier as you get your paychecks and will feel less guilty about Ubering home For your relationship, you've known this person for a long time before you got together?

user: I don't feel too guilty about the Uber, mostly worried about affording it to be honest Yeah we went to middle school together

assistant: I'm sorry, that's what I meant, affording it (language issues my bad)

user: Oh it's okay my bad!

assistant: Ok so you've known him for a long time, you two feel comfortable with communicating your feelings and worries together?

user: Yes

assistant: Ok that's great! Do you want to tell me more about the issues you are experiencing with him so we can understand a bit more the root of the stress?

user: Well mostly he'shaving problems affording rent too and I can't help him much and it sucks that I can't help him ata ll

assistant: Ah, i get it. So what I'm understanding from this is that you feel helpless in this situation and that's what's making you anxious?

user: Yes

assistant: Can you tell me a little more about how this feeling of helplessness is affecting you personally?

user: It makes me feel sad and lost. I'm afraid he's going to lose his apartment

assistant: Does it bring back memories of another time where you felt helpless or is this the first time you're feelling this way?

user: No it doesn't

assistant: Ok, so from what I understand is that this is the first time you've felt this and you are lost because you don't know how to act and react to this

user: Yes I helped him financially a lot but I'm at my end too now

assistant: Were you the one that offered to help in the first place?

user: Yes

assistant: Well, I think it is very considerate of you to help him financially, but do you feel that this has put an enormous amount of strain and pressure on yourself as well?

user: No, not really I mean if I had more I would give him everything I could that wouldn't leave me financially behind

assistant: Oh okay, so you wouldn't say that you're looking for a job to continue helping him financially?

user: No I wouldn't. I want it to help support me.

assistant: Ok that's good to hear!

user: Yeah, I just want to be able to have my own stuff again. I've been relying on doing surveys online.

assistant: From what I'm understanding, you're not only feeling anxious and pressure in your own personal life but you're heart is also wherever he is right now and living whatever stress and pressure he is living as well, and that is putting yourself in a very anxiety-provoking position

user: Yes

assistant: I understand that, especially given the current pandemic situation, it isn't easy at all

user: Also being far away from him sucks

assistant: Are you guys FaceTiming or communicating at all other than by texts?

user: You are being very helpful by the way thank you We aren't FaceTiming. I just left his apartment this weekend though and have been upset about it.

assistant: I'm trying my best, thank you for the input! Upset about leaving the apartment? Or was there something else that happened that weekend?

user: Just leaving him

assistant: Have you guys thought about scheduling date nights through FaceTime?

user: I think he would but he hasn't been feeling really good about his appearance lately I asked and that's what he told me

assistant: I understand that completely, I can relate a lot

user: Same

assistant: If it makes any difference, my partner and I have been doing date nights where we would dress up, put make up on and do our hair and everything as if we were going to the restaurant, and even if it is through Facetime or whenever we see each other in real life, it helps not only with our own self-esteem but also our relationship

user: That is very cute

assistant: Maybe you could open the discussion with your boyfriend, tell him that you have a date planned over Facetime and you want him to order his favorite dinner, take a shower, do his hair and dress up real nice

user: I don't know if he would be open to that but I could try He isn't really the romantic type

assistant: You have been friends for a long time before getting together, you guys are comfortable with each other, right?

user: Yes

assistant: Okay well you do know him more than I do haha, so what would be his ideal date night?

user: Probably just being at home

assistant: Hm okay, well I'm sure that if you do propose and organize something for him, even if it is not his favorite thing to do, if he sees that it would make you happy, he will at least consider it don't you think?

user: Yeah probably Things are hard right now though

assistant: In other ways than financially ?

user: The financial things make things emotionally hard I am one of the only people he has in his corner right now

assistant: Oh I'm sorry to hear that... it must be difficult for you to be in this position, I understand the stress and pressure Is the pandemic the reason he is having also financial difficulties at the moment?

user: Yes sort of He was let go cause of covid

assistant: I'm sorry to hear that Has he also been in the search for another job?

user: Yes he's trying unemployment

assistant: I'm confused he isn't trying to find a job?

user: Unemployment helps you find jobs and pays you while you do it here

assistant: Oh okay I didn't know that thanks!