Estwld/esconv_llm huggingface dataset:
Emotion: nervousness
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I have a final exam coming up and I am really worried about how I will perform.

user: Hi. I have a big exam coming up and I am very afraid of not doing well.

assistant: Well I can help you study if you'd like?

user: How are you going to help me study? I am not sure if you are familiar with my course material...

assistant: What is your exam about? Plus you have a whole night to study!

user: My exam is about contract law. I have the whole night, but I have studied all day and am exhausted.

assistant: I have an idea, do you have any friends in the same course or know anyone that is familiar with that subject? If so, maybe you can communicate with them and they can break it down in a short version.

user: Wow, that's actually a really good idea. I have a friend who took the course last year but I am worried that if I ask her for help she will think poorly of me.

assistant: Don't worry I know you feel exhausted from studying all day, but she is your friend and friends have each others back especially for school work. You don't have much to lose, go ahead and give it a shot.

user: That is true. I will reach out to her now.

assistant: I'm sure you will do just fine, you can do it!

user: I still have some self-doubt given that I have failed an exam in the past...

assistant: Well studies show that if you continuously think negatively, than that is how your life will be lived. But if you try thinking positively and confident than you will more likely live a better life and do better. Try thinking positively the rest of the night and your brain will feel confident enough to remember and retain important information about your exam.

user: I really appreciate this advice. I am feeling better about the exam and feel like I should envision myself passing and doing well.

assistant: Yes, thats the spirit it works for me!

user: I will give it a try!

assistant: Okay is there anything else I can help you with or should I let you go?

user: No, I should go study now. thank you for your help.

assistant: Of course anytime, have a goodnight!

user: You too! Wait! I have another concern.

assistant: Yes, what is that?

user: Do you have any tips for staying cool under pressure while I am taking my exam?

assistant: Yes I do actually. First make sure you get a good nights sleep so your brain can rest and function at its best. Next get to class a little early so you have time to soak up the energy in the room and you get a sense of your surroundings. Take it easy and do not rush. Just one question at a time, next thing you know its over.

user: That is great advice. I will certainly try and get a good night of rest.

assistant: Great anything else?

user: Nope :)
Emotion: shame
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: Daily, normal activites of life are hard for me to be motivated to do or to complete them at all due to my depression. I feel ashamed that I am not like other people who can complete things like hygiene care without a struggle.

assistant: Hello, what brings you to bring the seeker?

user: I feel upset with myself over my situation. Did you read it?

assistant: I did not see it. What is your situation? I am here to listen.

user: I feel ashamed of my depression symptoms. I feel other people are ashamed of me.

assistant: I feel like dying all the time. It's very common for people to be depressed. Feel ashamed how?

user: I just can't live reguarly life like "healthy" people do and they notice my symptoms. They don't understand how your mind can be your enemy.

assistant: So you are saying that you can't live regularly and people don't understand that your mind isn't working in your favor. Is that right? Can you tell me what you mean by your mind being your enemy?

user: Like I have no interest or motivation to do ANYTHING some days. Hard to even take care of my hygiene. My mind doesn't care to do it even when it's embarrasing for people to notice.

assistant: That sounds very hard. I can understand how judgmental people can be, and of course, why you wouldn't want people to notice you if it was hard for you to take care of yourself. What do you do to cope?

user: stay away from mean people, stop tryiig to explain my symptoms to others who won't get it

assistant: That makes sense why you would want to avoid doing these things, which is a good thing, but is there anything that you try to do that isn't avoidance? Something that approaches something?

user: I go to all my therapy appoints and try to participate. Thanks for your help. Have a good day.

assistant: How do you feel about therapy?

user: I have to go now. Bye

assistant: That is unfortunate, but I understand. We haven't finished, the task, however, but I hope you feel better.

user: I can stay a bit longer. I'm just tired.

assistant: I think we just need 3 more responses each, let's say.

user: Thanks

assistant: Okay, so can you tell me how frequently you sleep?

user: about 3 broken hours a night

assistant: That sounds awful. I'm sorry. Have you tried researching or practicing any sleep hygiene?

user: Yes, I know all the rules. My mind just wont rest
Emotion: depression
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: I just lost my job and I know it won't be easy to find another good one and everyone will think I'm a failure.

user: I'm so depressed, I just got layed off.

assistant: I am sorry to hear that, did you apply for unemployment benefit? That at least can help you financially until you get a new job

user: Yes, it will take weeks and the holidays are just around the corner.

assistant: It sucks it happens so close to the holidays. I understand it's hard to accept but I 'd recommend talking with someone close to you like a friend and family member

user: I know, with all the other crap going on now everyone else has their own problems they don't want to hear mine.

assistant: I'm sure someone will be there for you, they know you need them the most right now If you don't feel comfortable talking to them, you can seek online therapist. There are a lot of free service for mental car.

user: They're busy with other people's problems. I'll deal with it.

assistant: It's not gonna be easy, but at the same time not impossible. Try looking at it a different way. You can use this time to train your skills or do things that you've wanted to but didn't have the time

user: I wanted to travel but that's not a good idea right now.

assistant: You can still travel domestically or just around your city. I like taking a walk in the park or wandering downtown to clear my mind.

user: I live in a small town and were are suppose to self quarantine unless we have to leave the house for work or go to the store.

assistant: that really sucks. Do you have a garden at home? In the mean time, try following youtube or other channels to work out, it helps you distract from current issue and also makes you healthier. A healthy body is needed for a healthy mind

user: I did, everything is gone now. .

assistant: what have you been doing lately?

user: I do like to cook. I'll probable do more of that now.

assistant: that's a great idea, cooking and doing crafts can be helpful for you Instead of complaining with others, you can just invite them to join cooking with you, that way you can have companion.

user: That is a good idea but nobody is suppose to go to other peoples houses.

assistant: you can do video chat while cooking. I do virtual happy hour with my friends right now too

user: I think I may start making my own beer. Two birds one stone.

assistant: haha good idea

user: Thanks for the help have a good evening.

assistant: you too, i hope things get better for yourself
Emotion: shame
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I did not study and did poorly on a test.

assistant: hello, how are you?

user: Hi there Can you help me?

assistant: What help you need? please can you explain

user: I did not study for a test and I very poorly. I feel ashamed!

assistant: please don't feel shame you can do it nothing is hard if we try

user: Exactly. I did not try!

assistant: so please try then you feel better where you feel stuck in studies please can you explain

user: I just don't feel motivated to study

assistant: from today please feel yourself that you know everything about your studies , i think then you fell better

user: ok I will do that. Thank you.

assistant: give more time to your study then you know everything about your studies

user: I will! I need to put some effort in for sure.

assistant: yes you can do it just try

user: Ok I will try. I think the problem is not trying for sure.

assistant: so start from today then tomorrow is better day

user: great advice. thank you!

assistant: your welcome

user: I think that's all. I feel better now. I'll try more.
Emotion: fear
Problem: job crisis
Situation: This time is too hard for me fine a jobs which require me to search and get pay for unemployment.

user: how can i find a jobs in my area. What kind of jobs open right now.

assistant: Have you tried the classified ads? Or check on facebook for a jobs page in your area?

user: No.

assistant: I would suggest starting with one of those options. do you have a resume?

user: I don' t have resume.

assistant: I would suggest you type one up, most employers want an application and a resume.

user: I will need somebody type one for me.

assistant: Perhaps a friend can help you, if not they have programs on the web to help assist with that.

user: Thanks so much.

assistant: Have you been out of work for a while? your welcome.

user: Yes, I did,

assistant: Are you saying you have been out of work for a while?

user: Yes, but I have something to do at home.

assistant: Okay, are you saying your working from home?

user: I have to take care my grandson.

assistant: Then perhaps you should look for part time work.

user: No, I have to stay with him, he can not go to school.

assistant: I am a little confused. Are you looking for employment or not?

user: No, Not this time until school open.
Emotion: depression
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I am severely stressed about my college course and my grades during the pandemic.

user: I am so stressed.

assistant: Hi, what's going on?

user: I have a college course in the evening, but I cannot concentrate while distance learning. I am expected to watch the instructor do excel on a tiny phone screen and follow along.

assistant: Oooff that sounds brutal... especially the excel part! do you have a bigger screen you can use?

user: It is stressful. I am able to pull up zoom on my laptop, but it is almost more cumbersome because I must switch back and forth. I have to also manipulate an excel as well as watch the instructor. My colleagues in the class are annoying, because they do not know how to use mute correctly.

assistant: Do you have access to a second screen or have the ability to stream the class on your tv through chromecast or something?

user: I don't have a second screen, but I do have a large TV. I may be able to hook it up via HDMI.

assistant: The mute thing is horrible. I have no ideas for that. hahah. I'm looking for help with that too! Yeah try the HDMI hook up you can sometimes find cheap attachements on amazon if you don't have the right connections.

user: Sometimes I get really anxious. My ears will be pounding and I feel like I can't hear anything. It is worse when using in ears, because it's like all I can hear is my heartbeat.

assistant: yeah if you stream it on your tv, you won't have to wear headphones... that way you can control the volume better too.

user: That sounds like a great idea. Have you had any weird technological solutions to help you through distance learning?

assistant: I'm not really doing any distance learning right now. Just working from home and coincidentally most of my work uses excel. I have constant virtual meetings where I have to show people things via excel. It's pretty tough but I found if I use multiple monitors it makes things easier.

user: I have considered making impulse buys to help with some things. Do you know about portable second monitor screens for laptops? It seems almost like a thin tablet that you plug in to your laptop. I like the idea.

assistant: my second monitor is not portable. I don't know if that would work for me because I work better in one designated spot. So I have 3 monitors on my desk (2 separate monitors and my laptop screen). however something like That would definitely be something I'd look into if I was in school or taking classes

user: I enjoy portability and minimalism to a fault sometimes. I enjoy being able to work from anywhere. Do you live in an apartment or home?

assistant: I think that's a good call! Do you think you can find a deal somewhere on it?
Emotion: fear
Problem: academic pressure
Situation: I am having worries about an old test I failed in university. It didn't affect my academic future and I passed the class with an A, but it still haunts me.

user: Good evening

assistant: Hi, how's things?

user: Things are ok I am just having issues with the problem above

assistant: I am afraid that I am not able to see that .. can you tell me about it?

user: Yes, so I have always done very well in school and university. I have always had A's or high B's. Last semester in university, I failed one of my exams. I still passed the class with an A, but for some reason, that exam haunts me and gives me bad dreams. I don't know why it happens and it worries me

assistant: I can understand that - when I was sitting my final exams I constantly had nightmares about failing. Nearly thirty years on and I still do!! But - you did really very well and you passed with an A. Do you think maybe you are being a little too hard on yourself?

user: Maybe, I got a 46% on the exam (so an F) but I did all my other assignments and exams almost perfect and got an A overall. I never once failed a test in my life, and have always held myself to a very high academic degree to make my parents proud I come from a poor family, so succeeding in life is very important to m,e me*

assistant: It sounds as though you feel that academic success is the most important thing in your life, would I be right in thinking this?

user: Yes you are correct

assistant: Have you considered talking to anyone about these feelings of perfectionism? A therapist perhaps? There is a good deal of useful help and information out there for people who are struggling.

user: I have not, actually. I don't think my family can afford a therapist, especially with the pandemic raging right now Where do you recommend going?

assistant: Does your school have any counsellors offering help for free? Many do. I believe that there are some charities that will offer a certain number of free therapy sessions too

user: I don't think any are available since my school is online only, also the campus i s completely closed due to Winter Break. Oh? Charities?

assistant: Yes I think so though I am not totally sure. There should be someone at your school, online or not, who can advise you.

user: I have never heard of such people, I am interested

assistant: Really though I think that your problem is self esteem .. you should think better of yourself :) I can tell that you set yourself a very high standard but I also think that you need to be kind to yourself.

user: I think you're right, but I don't know, I'm still scared about having the bad dreams. I often wake up 2-3 times at night because of them.

assistant: I can understand that - this has been happening to me all of my life. Have you tried to take anything to help? I can recommend a hot milky drink before bed and perhaps a hot water bottle. Anyway I hope that I have been able to be of some assistance to you! Have a lovely holiday season.

user: Thank you, I'll try to do just that. Merry Christmas to you
Emotion: anger
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: I have a friend that completely screwed me out of money on a business venture.

assistant: Hi, how are you today?

user: I could be better. How about U?

assistant: I am doing well. Whats bothering you?

user: A friend screwed me out of money and a business venture. I am no longer friends with her. We were really close before this.

assistant: Oh no! I am so sorry that has happened to you. That must feel like such a betrayal. Can you tell me more about it?

user: It does. I've known her for 14 years and we dated. I invested a lot of money in a business she wanted to do. She took the money and ran.

assistant: Dating can definitely complicate things.. Oh my gosh..... that is horrible. Surely there is something you can do to try to get your money back.

user: What do you suggest?

assistant: Did you sign anything? or have proof of what happened?

user: No. Other than the money I transferred to her. Hello?

assistant: What was the business? It depends on your location but I'm sure just on the transaction alone that shows some kind of intent. or text messages saying it was for a specific purpose?

user: A cat cafe. Where you can hang out and work or drink with adoptable cats from the local shelter.

assistant: If you gave her a large amount of money and have any kind of messages about it I would look into trying to get it back.

user: I gave her 80K. No messages. It was all done in person. Do you think I should get a lawyer and call the cops?

assistant: I would seek the advice of a lawyer. I'm sorry this has happened thats horrible.

user: It is. I don't want to go to the police. I think they are all corrupt and raciest.

assistant: I would say 80K is worth speaking to a lawyer about it. I'm sorry you are so conflicted. I would not call the police because you willingly gave it to her. I would hire a lawyer to handle it.

user: That's great advice. I will do that. I have a mutual friend that is a lawyer.

assistant: I would not talk to a mutual friend about this at all....
Emotion: fear
Problem: ongoing depression
Situation: pandemic and family stress

user: hi

assistant: Hey! How are you?

user: trying to stay positive but keep having too many thoughts at once :(

assistant: What are these thoughts? :)

user: Its so stupid. I keep worrying about worrying or having something bad happen. The thoughts just come so fast

assistant: Maybe your mind is just congested with the thoughts of life, and you just need to relax for a little while

user: tried that. its become more of a chronic thing, like sometimes I cant controll the thoughts or like I dont know how to relax. like a chemical thing

assistant: A chemical thing, so maybe you need a counsellor, and then he can assess your problem, and everything will be alright :)

user: I have one and it helps sometimes. I try to meditate

assistant: Yes, meditation is very good at calming down the mind. Does it help you? If it does maybe do it more continuously and more frequently

user: i pretty much have to do it constantly

assistant: Not constantly. because then you won't have anytime to do anything else, but if negative thoughts always come into your head, maybe try doing something you enjoy doing

user: yeah maybe its as simple as that. I know Im the problem cause its very obvious that im the on ein control of the thoughts for the most part

assistant: Yeah, maybe. But always look at the bright side of stuff and maybe the negative thoughts can stop

user: right. I will try and start that more today and commit to it

assistant: yes that's the spirit! And with that mind set good things will always come to you!

user: yes i agree. when i consistently use meditation and positive attitude, any bad things are defintely minimized

assistant: Yes, as long as you keep focused and not divert into any other thoughts :)

user: yes. do you meditate? '

assistant: I do it once a week and it really helps. I used to do it more often when I felt I couldn't do anything right, so always do it according to the situation

user: do you want to keep talking or should we wrap up? i could go either way

assistant: Yes If you want to

user: I might go and have some breakfast It was great chatting :)
Emotion: anger
Problem: problems with friends
Situation: My friend borrowed money from me and she did not return it in the time that we agreed.

user: My friend borrowed money from me but she won't return it now

assistant: I am sorry about that. It is always hard when we trust someone and they let us down. is that waht you are feeling? Disappointment in your friend?

user: Yes,i am very dissapointed because i trusted her completely.

assistant: I understand. I have been through a similar situation. Was it a large amount of money?

user: What did you do to come out of the tricky situation? Yes,it was for me,a total of $10000

assistant: Oh, That is a very large amount of money. I can understand your being upset with them Have you talked to them about the money and returning it?

user: Yes,i am very very upset.What would you do in my position? Yes,she just sounded non-comittal,saying that she will return it when she can

assistant: I see. It is a financially difficult time for us all. I am wondering if your friend might be upset and embarrassed that they can not pay you back immediately? Have you asked her if she could even afford some sort of small payments?

user: Yes,i asked her how we could restructure the payment in her favor because i understand how difficult it is for everyone right now but she did not answer

assistant: Were you speaking on the phone or in person? Is this a financial burden for you? Would you consider this person a good friend? Would you be sad if they were not in your life anymore?

user: We were speaking on phone because i wanted to set up a physical meeting where we could discuss the logistics Yes,it is a financial burden because this is money i was saving for a venture

assistant: That is very difficult. It is hard to judge things on the phone.

user: Yes,this is a really close friend from way back and i would be devastated to lose the friendship It is difficult to judge on the phone yes,which is why i wanted a physical meeting but she snapped at me and said that she will just pay me when she can

assistant: I see. I am very sorry about that! it is very difficult when a friend betrays your trust like that.

user: Yes,very difficult

assistant: It sounds like you are doing what you can. It is very nice of you to have been this patient.

user: How do you suggest i shoulp proceed?

assistant: Is the friendship more important than the money? That is what it came down to for me.

user: And you chose what?

assistant: If you can not get her to meet with you, perhaps it might be time to seek advice from a lawyer? That is providing that you are willing to possibly lose a friend.

user: Thank you very much for the advice