+ **\--Story title--**
+ **\--The story goes here--**
+
+
+
+
+And save this file as **template.htm** in your library folder.
+ **Notes on these two files**
+ _page.css_
+The background colour, shown as _ffffaa_ is a buttery yellow. Another colour can be chosen changing all instances of these six-character strings. A range of optional colours is to be found on the web (see below)
+ _template.htm_
+The parts of this file shown in bold are the items to be changed!
+ **A note on copying**
+Move the mouse pointer to one end of the text you wish to copy. Press and hold the left mouse button until the pointer has been moved to the other end of the text. Release the mouse button. Press and hold down the 'control' key first and then press the 'C' key.
+Move the mouse pointer to the spot where you want to copy the text. If there is text to be replaced, press and hold the left mouse button. Then move the pointer to the end of the text to be replaced. If no text is to be replaced, just position the mouse pointer and click the left mouse button.
+Now, press and hold the 'control' key first and then press the 'V' key.
+ **And now for the process**
+Having read a story that you feel you want to save, go back to the first page. Click on 'File' in the menu bar and then 'Save as'. Accept the name in the save-as window. Where there are more pages, shown as Part 1, 2, 3 etc. at the bottom of the page, Literotica use the same 'save-name' as part 1. Here I click on the name and add space-b, space-c, after the name, and so on. Sometimes each Chapter comes in separate parts. Do the same on each part. As long as each saved file has its own name!
+Now open your text editor and open the template.htm. Also open the first page of the story to be processed by double-clicking on the page icon.
+The next step is to save the template file using the name of the story. By doing it now, you avoid saving your story as the template file later after you have made all the alterations! This would involve renaming your story to its proper name and re-typing the template file, which defeats the object of the method.
+However, If it happens, do not worry. I have done it myself more than once!
+All the following alterations are made by clicking on the start or finish of the of the text that you want to copy. Now, without letting go of your mouse button, move the cursor to the other end of the to-be-copied text and release the mouse button. Press Ctrl+C. Move the mouse to the text editor to where the text is to be pasted. If there is text to be replaced, select it as you did before (but not pressing Ctrl-C). Now press Ctrl-V.
+There are five minor changes to be made in your text editor before copying the story itself. Copy the name of the story and paste it in the two places calling for it in the text editor. You only have to Ctrl-C the name once and Ctrl-V it twice. The story class and title is found after the word 'index'. Copy the Author's name. Finally, to find the 'Author number' click on the author's name to go to their submissions page. The 'Author number' is given in the address field. I.E. it is in the URL! Alternatively go to the menu-bar; click on 'View' and then 'Source'. This brings up the file in Windows Notepad. Find the Author number and paste it in your text editor. The object of this step is to provide a link to the Author's Submissions page.
+Click back to the story page and now you can start copying the story. Click just on the first letter of the text of the story and drag the mouse pointer to the bottom of the text without letting go of the mouse button. The page may scroll a little slowly for your taste. You can speed it up by moving the mouse pointer left and right below the window. A warning here! If possible, when you look for the end of the text, move the mouse pointer slowly. If there is a space immediately following the text, try not to include this space if you can. It makes the later stages a little easier. Release the mouse button and press Ctrl-C. Go to your text editor and paste the text with Ctrl-V. Press the 'enter' key twice. This maintains the empty line between the paragraphs.
+Repeat for all the pages of the story. You should now have the whole story in your text editor with a single blank line between paragraphs. Almost at the end of the file in your text editor find a line which reads [Literotica.com]
+index: **\--class of story and its title--**
+ **\--Story title--**
by **\---Author's name---** ©
+ **\--The story goes here--**
++
. Select this using Ctrl-C. Now scroll up to the start of the story. This is where the dull repetitive part of the process starts! Put your cursor on the blank line after the first paragraph of the story. Press the Ctrl key-'V' once and 'down-arrow' twice (in Note Tab). Repeat until you reach the end of the story! The first press of the 'down-arrow' takes the cursor to the start of the next paragraph and the second press takes the cursor to the blank line at the end of that paragraph. One possible error, which will stop going to sleep while filling the inter-paragraph lines, is that sometimes you will find more than one blank line between paragraphs. Watch out for these and correct as you go along. +In Windows NotePad, the process is slightly different. Instead of pressing control-down arrow twice for each paragraph, you have to press down arrow on its own for each line of the paragraph in your text editor. +If you have separate chapters in the story, it helps if put at the start of the chapter heading line and at the end. +If you have something like +* * * * * +as a break or to indicate the passage of time, put
at the start of the line and
at the end of the line. It will now look like: +* * * * * +WARNING!!--In this submission, I have had to centre these asterisks by another method! +Save the file and you are done. +However, you can take it one-step further. Unfortunately typos misspellings and dare I say it mistakes creep in. Even editors can miss them sometimes. What I do is to open the story file in my text editor window in the left half of the screen and the story in my browser in the right half of the screen. I read the story in the browser window. If a correction is wanted, it can be done in the text editor. Save the file and go back to your browser. Click on the refresh button (the one with two arrows) and the story updates will appear. +Respect the copyright of the author by not distributing the consolidated file. Keep it for your own enjoyment. Perhaps you would like to make an index page for your collection of tales. Here is one way of making your own index: +Type the following file and add it to your library folder as **index.htm** : + + +
+Index
+
+
+\----------- End Cut Here ----------
+2: Prepare your story for submission by placing at the beginning of Italics and at the end of Italics. (Also add whatever other other HTML coding you plan to include.) If your story has no special HTML formatting needs, you can skip this step.
+NOTE: If you are using HTML code in your story, the story should NOT include left carets or right carets that aren't part of HTML commands. Use the HTML commands ""<"" and "">"" in their place.
+3: Copy both the text file created in step one and your story file to create working copies you don't mind messing up irrevocably.
+4: Open your story file and do two global find and replace operations
+a: Find all paragraph marks and replace them with ""
"" +b: Find all manual line breaks and replace with ""
"" +Note: Do not include the quotation marks. +5: Select the body of your story (without the title and byline, but including any copyright notice or author's comments) and copy it to your clipboard. +6: Open the copy of the text file created in step one. +7: Select the three asterisks near the middle of the text, (They're on line ten,) and paste the body of your story in their place. +8: SAVE the combined text AS a text file named 'TEST.HTM' (or whatever you want to name the HTML file.) NOTE: The file name must end in '.HTM' or '.HTML' +9: Close the combined file. +10: Open TEST.HTM with your browser and examine it for formatting errors. +Repeat steps Two through Ten as required to remove any formatting problems. +(One potential formatting problem that this process can't expose, is a block of Italics that overlaps the webpage break inserted by Literotica's scripts. It occurs somewhere around 3000 to 4000 words or the middle of page eleven the way I have my fonts and margins configured.) +Some potential problems: +Smart Quotes that don't display properly. Characters with Accent, Umlaut or Tilde. Single character versions of ellipses and long dashes Foreign characters like Pound and Yen signs, and the German Essen. Fractions and Exponents or superscript and subscript characters. ""White Space"" (multiple spaces or tab characters.) +Most of these problems can be corrected by adding the HTML codes for the characters that don't display properly. Listing all of the possible codes you may need is beyond the scope of this article, however lists are readily available online or in books on HTML.HTML for Dummies has a fairly complete list. +One final Caveat before I send you off to play: This process will insure that your story properly formats with YOUR browser. There is no guarantee that it will not have problems with other browsers or even the same browser on another system. It will give you a bit more confidence that you haven't missed an HTML command or 'special' character somewhere." +839,Then vs Than,Angel Love,How To,2006-04-15,2006-04-15,2022-01-04 08:40:39,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/then-vs-than,"Learning the English language, one word at a time.","['Writing', 'Writing Advice']",4.58,"As a volunteer editor in the Literotica Editor's Program, one of my biggest pet peeves is the consistent misuse of the word then for the word than by many writers. There is a BIG difference my friends! Does anyone else's skin crawl when they see a sentence like this . . . His cock was bigger then most . . . or even this . . . We can talk it over than decide what to do? . . . shudders. +We have to educate ourselves as authors on the correct usage of words if we want to be appreciated by our audience (the readers). When a reader picks a story to sit back and well you know what to . . . smiles, he/she doe s not want to have to stumble over incorrect usage of a word. It is agitating and sometimes can and does mean the difference between a 4 and a 5 vote . . . yes one word can do it! As we are all too aware, if you don't use proper English grammar, spelling, punctuation and word usage . . . you will lose that reader and he/she may never come back again. +I have searched high and low throughout the Writer's Resources and surprisingly could not find one article that even mentions the problem. After researching the two words I have come up with my own How To on the subject. So here goes . . . my How To on the use of then vs than . . . +Merriam-Webster, which by the way is my favorite online Dictionary source, is the subject of this portion of the article. +It says that the function of then as an adverb is this: +1 : at that time 2 a : soon after that: next in order of time . . . He walked to the door, then turned. b: following next after in order of position, narration, or enumeration: being next in a series . . . First came the clown, then came the elephants. c. in addition: Besides . . . Then there is the interest to be paid. 3 a (1) : in that case . . . Take it, then, if you want it so much. (2) : used after but to qualify or offset a preceding statement . . . She lost the race, but then she never really expected to win. b : according to that: as may be inferred . . . Your mind is made up, then? c : as it appears: by the way of summing up . . . The cause of the accident, then, is established. d : as a necessary consequence . . . If the angles equal, then the complements are equal. - and then some: with much more in addition . . . It would require all his strength and then some. +The function of then as a noun is this: +\--that time . . . Since then, he's been more cautious. +The function of then as an adjective is this: +\--existing or acting at or belonging to the time mentioned . . . The then secretary of state was . . . +Now for Merriam-Webster's take on the word than . . . +The function of than as a conjunction is this: +1 a : used as a function word to indicate the second member or the member taken as the point of departure in a comparison expressive of inequality; used with comparative adjectives and comparative adverbs . . . She is older than I am. It is easier said than done. b : used as a function word to indicate difference of kind, manner, or identity; used especially with some adjectives and adverbs that express diversity . . . I'd rather be anywhere else than at home right now. 2 : rather than -- usually used only after prefer, preferable, and preferably . . . I would prefer to be tall rather than being too short. 3 : other than . . . Other than the usual day to day activities, we like to take a walk in the park before dark. +The function of than as a preposition is this: +\--in comparison with . . . You are older than me. +And just so I'm not accused of playing favorites I will site from a few more online sources . . . +WordNet shows the correct usage of the word then: +The then president took over the problem; We will arrive before then; We were friends from then on; Then he left; Go left first, then right; First came lightening and then thunder; We watched the late movie and then went to bed; If he didn't take it then who did?; The case, then is closed; You've made up your mind then?; Prices were lower back then; They you'll be rich; I was younger then; Keep it then if you want to. +The American Heritage Dictionary of Idioms sites these instances where than is used correctly: +Actions speak louder than words; His bark is worse than his bite; Better safe than sorry; Better late than never; Don't bite off more than you can chew; Blood is thicker than water; Your eyes are bigger than your stomach; He's more fun than a barrel of monkeys; More often than not; It was more than she bargained for; It was more than one could shake a stick at; There are more ways than one to skin a cat; No sooner said than done; Quicker than you can say Jack Robinson; None other than. +Ok, enough of that . . . I don't want to overload you with information. I think you have the point by now. So the next time I get a story to edit from you . . . you know who you are . . . there won't be any mistakes using the words then and than. It's really quite simple . . . if you are talking about time then use then and if you are talking about a comparison then use than. +I have one Author, God bless His soul that always makes this mistake. I have edited over 10 stories for Him now and yes each time He misuses then for than. Don't get me wrong, He is an awesome writer, but so stubborn. I keep telling Him that if I were the Domme and He the submissive, I would have to put Him over my knees and spank Him for His naughtiness . . . lol . . . Hey that might be why He keeps making the mistakes . . . Wicked evil Man that He is. +I know it is hard to teach an old dog new tricks, but if the dog wants its treat it must learn the trick. So if you want the votes to be high and the feedback to be positive then use proper English PLEASE . . . smiles. +Good luck to all of my fellow authors and editors. May God bless you every one and keep you happily writing and editing for a long time." +840,They've Got Kids?!?,KarennaC,How To,2009-01-29,2009-01-29,2022-01-04 08:40:40,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/theyve-got-kids,How to date a single parent,"['Dating', 'Relationship', 'Single Parent']",4.44,"So you've met Ms. or Mr. Right, or at least Ms. or Mr. Right-now. Gorgeous, sexy, smart, everything you want in a date or partner. You can hardly wait to get them out on a date, or better yet to get them into your bed. +Just one problem. They've got kids. +This is intended mainly for those who don't have children of their own and are dating single parents. If both partners have kids, it becomes even more complicated and more coordination may be necessary. However, I personally haven't been in that situation, so I'm offering advice from the point of view of a single mom whose partner has no children. +Dating a single parent isn't easy. It can be hard enough for people to coordinate seeing each other around other commitments like work, friends, family, and so on. When dating a single parent, add to those commitments sick children, school concerts or conferences, and the obvious need to find someone to watch the kids before leaving the house, depending on how old the kids are. When dating moves into the bedroom for two people without children, often either partner's home is available. When dating a single parent, their house may be off-limits, especially if kids are there with a sitter. Even when the kids are in bed asleep, your date may not be comfortable with any ""activity""; what if the kids wake up? +For some single parents, the beginning stages of dating may be the easiest. I know that was true for me. I'd come out of a messy marriage, through a divorce, and I wasn't about to trust anyone in a relationship, especially if that meant introducing them to my kids. So finding a sitter or persuading my ex or his parents to take the kids overnight so I could go out for dinner or to a bar with a guy was pretty easy. And most of the guys I dated that way gave up after one or two dates, when they figured out that I wasn't going to dump my kids on their father or grandparents every single weekend. +If things move beyond that initial stage, it becomes more complicated. Can your object of desire see you as often as you'd both like? Probably not, unless they have family members who are willing to help out or a good sitter. Speaking of sitters, raising kids costs money, and some sitters earn more an hour than I do. If this person is important enough to you that you want to spend time with them, offer to pay, or at least chip in, for the sitter, if your own income and expenses allow. At least offer to help find a sitter if they don't already have a regular one. They may turn you down, but even if they do they'll likely appreciate the gesture. +When dating moves to relationship, people sometimes want to spend time together other than out on dates. Sitting on the couch watching a movie together, experimenting in the kitchen to make a new dessert... and, oh yeah, sex. If you're dating a single parent, these times may have to be at your place, or they may have to send their kids elsewhere when you go to their place. Some parents aren't comfortable with new partners meeting their kids, so other arrangements have to be made. And if a child gets sick or the sitter or family member bails, plans with you may have to be canceled. +When should you meet her kids? There are plenty of articles and advice on this. Some recommend a set amount of time; some say ""when a commitment is made between you"". Personally, I say it depends. +When I started dating, I didn't plan on my kids meeting anyone. I wasn't planning on anything necessarily long-term, so to me it made no sense for my kids to meet a man who wasn't going to be an ongoing part of our lives. Then, about six months after my separation, the man I was seeing told me, ""Once your divorce is final, I want you to be with me, and I want to help you raise those kids of yours."" Intended, and taken, as a proposal. So I gradually introduced my children to him, first letting them speak to each other on speakerphone, then having him come to our home for a brief introduction before their father picked them up for the weekend, and finally going with him to a barbecue at his boss's house. +That's when things went south. He told me the day after the barbecue that he felt I'd spent too much time with my kids. Hello? I'm their mother, and I'd been told that if they went to the barbecue I had to keep an eye on them. Regardless of how I felt about this man, my children were more important. And I didn't like the idea of dating someone who would complain about how much attention I paid to my kids. So I ended it. +If you're dating a single parent, it's important to remember that ""parent"" is an important part of their description. Their kids have to come first, almost always, and sometimes that means a date or partner comes in a distant second or even third. (Hey, we parents have to fit ourselves in there somewhere!) If you feel like you're being ignored in favor of the kids and it's causing a real problem, talk to your date/partner about it calmly: ""I've noticed that lately you've been preferring to take the kids to the park instead of finding a sitter so we can go out to lunch. Is there a problem between us?"" as opposed to, ""You spend too much time with your kids. Don't you give a crap about me?"" +So back to the ""when to introduce"" question. The guy I mentioned met my kids only after he'd sort-of proposed. And it didn't go well, and my kids were left feeling a bit lost, especially since they'd also met his 20-year-old daughter and had hit it off with her. So I resolved not to introduce my kids to anyone else. +A few months later, I broke that resolution. I was dating a trucker who happened to be in town unexpectedly and wanted to take me out to dinner. When I told him I couldn't go on such short notice because of my kids, he invited them along. That was the one and only time they met him, neither particularly liked him, and I ended up regretting the whole evening. +So although I kept seeing that guy for a few more months, I was careful not to bring the kids into it again. And when he and I decided to stop seeing each other, I again resolved not to let the guys I dated meet my kids, or in a couple of cases even find out that I had kids. +Then I met my current partner. We met at the home of a mutual friend, and there was instant attraction. Two days later, he asked if he could come see me. I told him my kids were home; I wanted to see him, but wanted to stick to my resolution. But ultimately he showed up anyway. I introduced him to my kids, told them he was there to watch a movie and would probably go home afterward (even though he lived two hours away), and sent them to bed. He didn't go home; the next morning when the kids got up, he was sleeping on the couch. They didn't seem to mind. I did. +A few days later, he called and said he'd been talking to his sister, a single mom who was dating a single dad, and she'd recommended that we not bring him around the kids for at least a few months, because otherwise it might confuse them. He and I agreed that we would wait a while before he saw the kids again. But it didn't work out that way. Our relationship moved at warp speed, and because of the distance we live from each other there were times that he was only able to see me during the week, when he had days off. When my kids were home. So they got to know him and he got to know them sooner than I would have liked, but it was clear that with him, it was the right thing to do. Now, nearly eight months after we met, we're planning to move in together, and my kids consider him their ""half-dad"", as my older one puts it. +So in terms of when you should meet your Mr. or Ms. Right's children, I think there are too many factors to give one answer. But whenever you meet them, the decision should be based in small part on your own comfort with the idea, and in large part on their comfort and their knowledge of their children. +Dating a single parent isn't easy. But if you respect that they have children, honor their boundaries, and allow for the unexpected, it isn't as complicated as it seems." +841,Those Little Blue Pills,traveller1945,How To,2022-01-02,2022-01-02,2022-01-04 08:40:41,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/those-little-blue-pills,Two work colleagues discuss those little blue pills.,[''],4.29,"""Peter says you're the man to talk to about Viagra"". +That's a conversation stopper, and sure enough, several ears perked up at the mention of the V word. It was the final evening of a three-day training course relating to revised legislation on pension and investment sales. It was aimed at senior management so we were a mature crowd, some of those gathered in the room had been in the trade for over thirty years. +Jane and Kelly, two good female colleagues of mine, had pushed their way in to the group I was chatting with and mischievously announced to all and sundry that I was the man. +It was after 10pm and the drinks had been flowing all evening. Fifteen or sixteen people remained in the public bar of a Kent country hotel, most of them were known to me and a half dozen of them were close friends. Several lightweights had already retired to bed to be fresh for tomorrow morning's closing session, but the usual suspects remained. +I could see Peter (who is usually one of my very good friends) smirking at me from another cluster gathered nearer to the bar. ""What a bastard! he's supposed to be my mate, I'll bet he didn't tell you the full story. Do I look like a V..... customer? I'm a lusty, testosterone-fuelled, stag of a man."" +""He reckons you're an addict"" said Jane, ""can't perform without them"". At which point Peter intervened to say that Jane was embellishing and that he had merely mentioned that I had some knowledge of the subject. +By now a crowd had closed in, eager to learn more. ""Do tell"" said another woman called Sue who managed the floor above me, ""I'm intrigued"". +""Come on, don't be shy"" said another manager as the pack drew closer. +""Ok"" said I, ""But only because I need to stop this load of bollocks spreading round the country. The true version, the boring version, is that Kate's father had prostate cancer about twelve years ago and they successfully operated on him and fortunately he's still alive and kicking today. But that's an operation that can play havoc with you. There's a lot of clockwork to fuck up down there and if they nick something you can end up dribbling in your pants or with a permanently limp noodle. Unfortunately for him, he got both"". +""The upshot of all of that was that the surgeon recommended V..... and now he has a permanent prescription for the generic equivalent. The NHS won't pay V..... prices. He's 75 now and they give him more than he needs. So about two years ago he offered me some, and naturally I turned him down, said I didn't need them, but later that evening he slipped me two and winked and said I should give them a try. So I did."" +""Could you tell the difference?"" said another woman called Helen. She was another good friend, in fact she was an inner circle friend who I'd known for years. We'd shared an office for six years and I'd worked on many cases with her and even met her husband. We knew things about each other that our respective partners didn't know and I had sought her advice on numerous personal issues. +We also had a deeper, more unfortunate history in that I'd had sex with her at a similar training course in London two years ago. Naturally we skated around any awkward discussion of that episode since then but it had been a memorable occasion. +Yeah, I could"" I replied,"" they gave me a pumping headache and turned my face bright red. I didn't tell Kate and she never commented afterwards so they couldn't have been all that special."" +""Come on"" said Ryan Connolly, ""they must have done something, people pay a fortune for them."" +""Well yeah, I'm sure they do what it says on the tin, but If you haven't got a problem down there then what can they really do? They don't make your old man any bigger, they don't keep you going all night, they're just for problem cases and I'm not there yet, I'm only 47. You wouldn't take an aspirin if you didn't have a headache would you?"" +Another guy intervened to say that he couldn't imagine his father-in law being so liberal but I said that's how Kate's parents were. By way of contrast, my own parents had regarded sex as a subject never to be raised in front of the children. +I managed to field a few more intimate questions and wicked comments without revealing too much and then ducked over to the bar to buy a round of drinks even though it wasn't my turn yet. ""Bastard"" I repeated to Peter who protested his innocence. +""A few of those ladies had a gleam in their eye"" he commented, ""there's nothing like sex talk to get them fired up, they won't sleep easy tonight."" +Over the next hour or so the crowd thinned out until there were only six of us, then only four or us. At 1.15 Peter announced that he'd had enough and we simultaneously agreed to retire for the evening. I was on my feet heading for the lift when I felt a slight pull on my shirt and looked back to see Helen making a variety of clumsy gestures meaning that I should hang back. +""I need to speak to you, go to the gents in reception then come back here"". The words came out in a rush and I stared at her for a few seconds but she looked so anxious that I just agreed ""Ok"" and did as she asked. +She was waiting for me when I exited the gents. ""I want to speak to you about what you were talking about earlier, were you being straight about it?"" +""You mean the V.....? What do you want to know?"" +""You were very dismissive, did they really not do anything for you?"" +""Forget all that, they're a game-changer. I'm a frigging convert, what do you want to know?"" +""I knew it"" she said ""I've known you long enough to know when you're only telling half the story. I need some advice.... It's about Andy. That's all, I promise."" +The door to the public bar was already closed and a grateful barman was clearing up within. There were only two small tables in the reception area, a couple were attempting a jigsaw at one table and a teenage girl was texting rapidly at the other. +""Come on, there must be resident's lounge around here, or can we....should we go upstairs? Don't misunderstand me, this is important. I have to know"" +""My room or yours?"" I realised that I was more than prepared to take advantage of a vulnerable woman. +""Yours"" she said"" I've got Hilary on one side of me and James Gradwell on the other side"". +""I don't know who I've got, I'm in 306, let me go there first, you come up in two or three minutes, I won't close the door properly. Make sure no one sees you."" +As soon as I reached my room I leapt into the bathroom. Was there a chance that I might be fucking Helen again? I wasn't sure but I quickly washed my cock, squirted deodorant under my arms and put a tiny amount of after-shave on. Nothing too obvious, then I waited. +The door opened only as much as was necessary and Helen slid in. ""Please don't get any ideas, I just want you to explain a few things. I need to ask you a few questions? I'm so confused and feeling so down at the moment I need to know if there's anything I can do."" +""Sex?"" +""Yes"" +""You're not getting enough?"" I smiled as I said it. +""Don't joke, I'm not getting any. I want you to tell me about V....., I need to know if it'll help Andy"" +She told me her tale, more awkwardly than I retell it here, but the quick version is that her husband Andy was 57, seven years older than her. His erections had been slowly failing for years but he wouldn't discuss it. It had started a few years ago when his penis would wither inside her and he'd lie on his back and somehow make her feel that she was to blame. She could go down on him for ten minutes or more but he couldn't stay hard. +Now he was staying up late at night making excuses about wanting to watch a late film. If she reached across to him during the night to fondle his balls he would turn his back on her and say he was tired. She would reach for him in the early morning, he still had firm erections even in his sleep, but within minutes there was nothing there and he would quickly get out of bed to shower. +She'd tried walking around in the underwear he used to like, tried to get in the shower with him and she'd done other stuff that she didn't want to talk about, but he wouldn't co-operate with anything and now she felt that they were drifting apart. She loved him but she couldn't go on like this. +I recalled our one night together, she had been surprisingly active and very vocal. We were drunk but she was the one who had initiated it. I remembered how physical she had been when she was on top of me, thrusting hard and squeezing her tits and playing with her clit. Maybe the fact that she wasn't being properly fucked way back then accounted for her behaviour that night +She had orgasmed in my face and had almost pulled my hair out by the roots. Her language and her squeals had surprised me, I'd had noisy partners before but I suspect that they were mainly faking it, I was convinced that Helen's reactions had been genuine as she rolled around the bed mauling herself. +She asked if I'd ever had any similar problems. My first inclination was to say not but then I admitted to having a few failures of my own. Kate & I had had a great sex life for over twenty years, we still did, but in recent years it wasn't a 100% success all the time. Nowhere near as bad as Andy but I could sometimes feel my erection fading so I would thrust like crazy and shoot my load within the first few minutes. I could also kick-start it again by rolling out of the saddle, lying back for a few minutes and thinking about something else/anything else and that usually helped me start again. +Fortunately Kate was very understanding, she worked for the NHS in a non- clinical role, but her job exposed her to lots of experts and lots of knowledgeable discussions. She would feel my dick deflate inside her but she didn't make a fuss about it. She'd say ""were you thinking of something else then?"" or she'd just lie still on top of me and kiss me until I went stiff again. +""You do know that a lot of it is in the mind?"" Helen nodded, she'd read up on the subject. +""The first thing a doctor will ask him is whether he gets erections when he's asleep, if he does then the machinery is ok, it's just a confidence thing, mind over matter. It's a bit like a self-fulfilling prophecy, the second I start thinking about whether I'm going to cum is the second that I start to lose it. What about when he's drunk? It's much easier to relax then and not think about it."" +""I know all that"" she said petulantly ""nothing is working, I just need to know if V..... will help him and where you get it from and what you do with it."" I can't stand this much longer, it's killing both of us."" +""What about work, is he stressed out?"" I knew he was a TV aerial erector working for himself, so I didn't think that was likely. +""No, it's a good business, he earns as much as me"" +""I think you need to get him to talk about it, get him to accept there's a problem but tell him it's no big deal. He can't have missed the erectile dysfunction adverts on TV, every single man will go through this at some stage, it's just that we blokes don't like to admit it."" Then the two of you will have to agree the solution. Let me tell you, he only needs to take one of those little babies and he'll feel like a teenager again. +""So what should I do, buy a bottle of them and leave them on his bedside table or should I just drop one in his cocoa before he goes to bed, how do I get the ball rolling? +""I can't answer that because I don't know him like you do. Why don't you tell him that your best friend at work is going through the same problems but they've done something about it. Tell him she's given you one tablet to see if it works. Tell him that half the women in your office have husbands who use them. Persuade him to take it then maybe you could watch Forty Shades of Grey together or try on a few new bikinis, saunter round the bedroom in them and ask him which one he likes best."" +""He'd probably run a mile if I did that....and it's fifty shades not forty, you're thinking of Forty Shades of Green"" +""He won't be able to run, he'll have a massive stonker hiding in his trousers"" +""Surely it'll just make him feel worse, it's like accusing him of not being man enough"" +""Rubbish, do you feel inferior when you put your contact lenses in? Does a woman with silicone breasts feel better or worse than she did before. What about dental implants, face lifts and the rest, you're just improving on what nature first gave you. Let me tell you this, when Andy's dick is bright purple and he's been on top of you for twenty minutes the last thing he'll be feeling is unmanly"" +""What did you do? Did you tell Kate before you took that first one?"" +""No, I didn't tell Kate because I didn't expect it to work as well as it did. I wasn't having any real problem so I was just curious and it was a freebie."" +""And then what?"" +Right, I'll tell you but it's going to be a bit graphic so don't be offended. I won't be using the official terminology here, you won't be getting a science lecture. More like a dirty phone call"" +""Number one, it worked like you won't believe. It was like turning the clock back twenty five years when you could stay hard for ages, shoot your load and be hard again an hour later. The first tablet that I got from Kate's dad I used when we went to Ireland for my cousin's wedding. The hotel gave us the room as soon as we checked in and we went to bed so that we'd be bright & breezy when we met the crowd later that day."" +""We didn't go to sleep straight away, When Kate came out of the bathroom wearing a flimsy black satin getup and stockings I realised that we were going to have an early session so I dug one of the tablets out of my shaving bag and put it under the pillow."" +""You're supposed to take these tablets up to an hour before but, like I said, I didn't always have a problem so I took it just as Kate went down on me. It was a hundred milligram tablet which was far too much."" +""So what do you mean -- far too much"" +""I wasn't kidding about the headache and the bright red face and the heart racing, I should have only taken half a tablet. I'll tell you something else, I was lying about it not making your dick bigger. It might not make it longer.... but girthwise, it felt like it was trying to burst out of its skin, it was almost painful. It was so rigid you wouldn't believe it, just like wood, that's what they say in the porno's isn't it? I've got wood"". +""I think you've got wood now"" said Helen and it was true, all this sex talk had woken up my cock and it was trapped in the leg of my jeans trying to unravel itself. +I squirmed around and made myself more comfortable and Helen laughed and said not to hide it, ""don't forget I've seen it before....I've felt it before, you can take those jeans off if you want and remind me what one looks like"". +I didn't respond but she leaned towards me and ran her fingers up the zip of my trousers and felt the hardness beneath the fabric. I tried to laugh it off and said that I was here in a clinical role and that I shouldn't get involved with my patient. But I knew without any doubt that I was going to fuck Helen tonight and I relished that thought. +""I love it when you talk dirty Dr Bailey, tell me about the hotel then, tell me what difference it made when you and Kate had sex using that tablet."" +""Do you want to hear the full gory detail? In very basic terms"" +""I want to hear about every move, every orgasm, every scream."" She took my hand and laid it on her groin, she was wearing khaki jeans and I dragged one finger along the seam that overlaid her slit. +""I think that you might have to sort me out tonight"", She stroked my cock with the flat of her palm and said ""you'll never get to sleep with this"". +I placed my hand on top of hers, it took a mighty effort on my part not to reach out and climb on top of her. ""Here goes then, you asked for it. We're always trying to vary things but there's always been a basic blueprint. That's if you forget about the occasions when we're just having a quickie, you know, when the whole job is finished in five minutes."" +""First of all, it was a warm day, we're on top of the sheets, both undressed apart from the fact that Kate is only wearing stay up stockings. She goes down on me, sucking and pulling on me until I'm almost about to shoot my load, I stop her for a few minutes and then she goes down on me again for a few more minutes until I stop her again. We mess around for another few minutes and then she goes down on me again. When I couldn't take anymore I went down on her, tongue, fingers, whatever, until she came. She's got her hands around the back of my head so I can hardly draw breath and she's bucking like a wild thing."" +""All of a sudden I can feel this pill kicking in. My cock felt so bloated that it didn't even feel like it was mine and that's at the very moment that Kate wants me to fuck her quite hard and fast before her orgasm disappears. She's on her knees holding on to the headboard, I'm behind her and all I can hear is slap, slap, slap, slap as I'm ploughing into her, and it's the best feeling I've had in years. It felt like I was so far inside her that I was going to come out the other side. She's talking filthy, I'm pulling her head back by her hair and the bed is screeching like crazy. Then after a few mad minutes, long after her orgasm has faded, she calms down, and then we slowed things down, changed positions, you know."" +""Oh my god"" Helen was squirming on the bed. ""This is reminding me of Richmond, that was so wild"" +I pretended that it was a distant drunken memory. ""Was that how it was in Richmond? We were quite drunk, I remember that you seemed to be in charge that night and you made a lot of noise. I bet the folks next door thought you were being murdered"" +""Oh god, what a night, you still owe me for a new pair of knickers, can you remember ripping my posh ones to shreds? I came twice, so did you. I probably haven't come since... if you don't count the DIY ones"" +""What a waste"" I said. You should have rung me, I can do house visits"". +""I might do if these pills don't work."" +""Look, you've sidetracked me now, where was I? Anyway, after she's cum we usually try to mix things up a bit, Kate goes on top or on her tummy or on her side. We stop and start, talk, laugh, watch porn, change positions, anything really. +""So that's exactly what we did in Wicklow, I kept stopping and starting and turning her over because I was trying to show her that I could last for ever. Eventually she'd had enough - there's a limit isn't there? so she grabbed my arse with both hands and pulled me right into her and I busted into her until I came"" +""That's how it's been for a while now. I used to take them just to enhance things but the problem with that is that they can be quite addictive. I don't want quickies any more. We're like teenagers again. A few months ago we did just about everything possible and then we stopped for a while and I decided to shave Kate's fanny using lube and my razor - that was because we were going to Spain for ten days. After she'd washed it all clean she sat on the edge of the bed and leaned back and put her legs up in the air while I stood up and drilled her and then I came on her belly which I never ever do. Those pills make me feel as if I can do anything. Yesterday we finished a session by going into the bathroom, she held on to the sink and watched me in the mirror whilst I did her from behind."" +""I know that it probably sounds like we have some kind of porn mag life but we really don't and things don't always go to plan. Before I started using these man pills if I felt that my dick was going soft I would speed up and get it done before it went fully slack. That meant we were finished in just a few minutes which is pretty crap for both of us and so that's where the little pills have started to become very handy. But there are still occasions when we just spoon together, or sometimes Kate doesn't want sex so she'll tug me off until I shoot my load and then we fall asleep. Another one of her bad habits is that she gets carried away when she's on top and she makes me cum too early. It's not as important now though, I just wait a while and do her all over again. +""I can only tell you what they do for me because it sounds as if I'm nowhere near as bad as Andy is. They might only give him an average hard-on. I honestly don't need them all the time but if we're having a full session, say a Saturday or Sunday morning or on holiday or if we're away for a weekend in a nice hotel I'll take half a tablet just when we're starting off."" +""Does Kate know that you take them now?"" +""Oh yeah, we don't have many secrets. I don't make any announcements about whether or not I've had one and she doesn't ask any questions. She's getting good sex so why would she look a gift horse in the mouth. That would be like me upsetting the apple cart by asking how much she paid for a dress or for make-up or for lacy undies. I'm just happy that she makes an effort and looks good so I leave it at that"" +Anyway I buy them on the internet and we share all our bank accounts so I can't hide anything. She asked me when she was checking the statements. I just said yeah, those are those man pills we talked about"". +""Can she tell the difference?"" +I think so. Providing I don't spoil things by shooting my load too early I can stay erect for a whole lot longer. Don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean that I can spend all that time shagging, these things don't give you any extra energy or make you a great lover. It just means that I can take my time and not go soft. Kate can go on top, then on her knees, then on her stomach and all the time we can be talking and messing around. +""Does it just work once or can you go again?"" +""That can vary, once I've nodded off I'm like a dead man until morning but if we have sex during the day, let's say you're on holiday and you've just come back from the pool in the afternoon, then we often go at it again. I love seconds...it's so much better the second time."" +""Seconds"" she lingered over the word, ""Is that what we had? seconds"" She rubbed her groin with the flat of her palm. ""Lucky Kate, I've lost count of the times I've relived that night"" +I'll tell you what the big giveaway for Kate is though, after I've cum I can still carry on shagging for another couple of minute before I go soft. Also, an hour or so later if I'm walking round the bedroom or if I'm in the shower my dick looks like it belongs to someone else. Even though my hard-on has gone down it's still fat and meaty instead of looking like a dried up slug. +Helen reached for my cock once more, ""bigger than this?"" +""Maybe you'll find out very soon if you carry on like that"" +""Does it not make it a bit awkward"" said Helen, ""do you not lose the spontaneity. There's a sexy mood developing, clothes start coming off and then the woman finds that she's got to come back in thirty minutes."" +""No, you're wrong there, have you never heard of foreplay? Andy has a pill waiting by the side of the bed, you let him go down on you and by the time you've come in his face he'll have a cock like a baby's arm"". +""So you say, but are they very expensive"" +""Well, first of all nobody buys V....., that's like buying Panadol for a quid when you can buy paracetamol for twenty pence. I paid eighty quid for forty eight Sildenafil including free postage, I buy the biggest size and cut them in half so that's ninety six nights of great sex. I don't always use one so that lot has lasted me a good while and there's still some left. That's less than a pound for a good ride, nearly as cheap as a Durex but a lot more fun."" +""I thought the internet was where you end up buying fake stuff that doesn't work."" +""The big chemist chains all sell them on the internet but they're expensive. You might get fleeced if you try and cut corners so you're better to go somewhere in the middle. There are plenty of smaller legitimate sellers and it'll be obvious when you've got the right product. It's not like buying wrinkle cream, you'll know you've bought the good stuff when Andy's been bouncing on top of you for twenty minutes and then when he wakes you up an hour later for round two you'll soon be a believer."" +""What about your own doctor? Do these people inform your doctor? Andy wouldn't ever want anything in his records."" +""Nah, just an online survey from the retailer to cover his arse. I think they might ask if you've discussed it with your doctor. How you answer that question is up to you."" +I gave her the name of the site I'd used and then I went into the bathroom and came back with two pills still in their foil bubbles. I was not surprised to find Helen had taken her blouse off to reveal two full moons in a lacy cream bra. +""I've got one here for you to give Andy, probably best if he takes a full one, you don't want to be disappointed........but this one's for me"" and I crunched mine into bits and swallowed hard. ""They work quicker if you crunch them"". +I began to unbutton my shirt. ""Why don't you take that bra off and see if I recognise anything"" +Helen reached behind and unsnapped her bra in a split second and let her two heavy breasts hang free, ""look familiar?"" she taunted. +Then she slowly reached for my zip and we collapsed clumsily on to the bed. Let the fun begin." +842,Thoughts on Going Down,XlornX,How To,2021-01-12,2021-01-12,2022-01-04 08:40:42,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/thoughts-on-going-down,A submissive's suggestion for performing oral on a female.,"['Cunnilingus', 'Direction', 'How-To', 'Oral', 'Oral Pleasure', 'Oral Sex']",4.02,"The art of going down on a woman must first begin with the desire to do so and have it done; start with some suggestive language earlier in the day to set the mood. Unexpected caresses, without getting too intense, can also lead to a more pleasurable experience. Both parties should be clean and comfortable before consummation. Any limits or agreements should be clearly expressed before the first article of clothing is removed. *For the self-control captain and /or to focus fully on pleasing, consider staying clothed for this portion of the evening's events. Tactile variety can bring another dimension to the act and self-control is very sexy. +Cleanliness is key to a pleasurable experience. Take a little time for cuticle care or opt for nitrile or latex gloves to ensure a smooth playtime. Consider oral health care and ladies - make sure you are fresh, clean and coifed to your partner's preferences. +Even something as natural as cunnilingus requires agreement on both sides as to what machinations are and are not acceptable. Will toys be involved? Restraints? Always play safe, sane and consensually and have a safe word and signal in place. +Depending on your preferences you may want your pleaser to jump right in or you may want to wake your body up before that initial carnal contact. I'm going to share from the perspective of a slow burn Señorita and hopefully cover a few bases while I'm at it. +Working women through waves of pleasure can be stimulating on so many levels. Our subject likes that whole body tingle and blood rushing to all the right places before her lover tastes the sweetness they've induced. Think kisses on the neck and over the shoulders with whispers and bites in between. Wake up the skin by following the path of contact, be it a bare hand, feather, or leather if you prefer! Wartenberg Pin Wheels and Violet wands also work well here. Vary between strong and gentle pressure with fingertips over the ribs and belly. Take care if your lady is ticklish. +Enjoy the sensations ladies, so often we are taken out of the experience by an over active and critical mind. This moment is all about you, your lover wants you to enjoy every minute of it, so put your to-do list and worries away. Concentrate on where these sensations are coming from and how close they are to softer, more sensitive flesh. +Hooray for Boobies! Like the elusive unicorn, there are women who can get off on nipple stimulation alone while a stiff breeze puts others off so it is important to know your partner's limits before diving between these mountaintops. +She's Got Legs - And after the intro I hope you know they are silky smooth and ready for attention. The back of the knee is one of those gathering places for good vibes to shiver up and down from, so play around with this area, grabbing the calves and light fingernails up and down the thigh can help you find the rhythm she's rolling with, don't get sucked into one area of focus when going down, there's a whole body of flesh begging to be caressed. And if she's close but you want to prolong the experience, you can stimulate her skin without pushing her over the edge. +Slow, purposeful strokes - Banter abounds about the elusive erogenous zone of the clitoris and I find the easiest way to get this little button out to play is to take slow, broad strokes while paying particularly close attention to the engorgement of this mighty ball of nerves. She can be shy and temperamental, but the right pressure, texture and attention can take meek pleasure experience and turn it into toe curling ecstasy. Love the labia. It's true, the clitoris actually reaches her magic down the length of those luscious lips; so don't ignore the doorway to wonderment here. +Second Verse, Same as the First: But with a bit of a twist, no pun intended. The sister hot spot of the clitoris is notorious for it's positioning as well. But G-spot stimulation needs little more than those slow strokes and a come hither curl, massaging this melt inducing internal point can be done in time with the attentions of either tongue or fingertips elsewhere on the body. +A word on preference: Some ladies want to feel like they're already filled with that hot meat injection, so two or three fingers probing deep inside feels nice... but some women want to experience the pressure build, insides throbbing and the tease of a g-spot tickle. Circling that open space with just a bit of pressure can be a maddening delight. +Finally, unless you're going into the game knowing this is an edging exercise, in the immortal words of Mortal Kombat, ""Finish her!"" +Some women get incredibly sensitive when they orgasm and need a break from direct stimulation, some want to be pushed to climbing the walls. Sometimes there is a sweet compromise where you slow and soften your pace and as a bonus, the jolts and sounds this can elicit will make your day." +843,Three Way Stimulation,magic_tantra,How To,2005-01-31,2005-01-31,2022-01-04 08:40:44,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/three-way-stimulation,This is a hot way to peform oral sex on your lady.,"['Clitoral Area', 'Dildo Sliding', 'Finger Ass', 'Finger Good', 'Head Crotch', 'Lay Head', 'Make Lick', 'Middle Finger', 'Soapy Finger', 'Sucking Biting']",4.04,"I suggest that if you are in love with someone and wish to share intimate oral stimulation that you shower with your lover before any love making session. Starting off with a shower will make you both relaxed, knowing that both of you have squeaky clean bodies. Take turns soaping and fondling each others bodies. Use your whole body as a wash rag, make it really soapy and rub up and down each others torsos. Sliding your crotch up and down a nice shapely ass turns both men and woman on. Men avoid any penetration in the shower because the purpose of this lesson is to clean, relax, and tease your partner and yourself so that you both will voraciously attack each other sex with your succulent mouths. +Learn how to wash your ladies pussy in a way that pleases her. Woman do not like a soapy pussy so be careful. I wash my lover's pussy with the stream of the shower on her crotch and use my tongue in all the nooks and crannies of her flowery folds to get her sexually interested in more oral activities later in bed. Avoid licking the clitoral area because you do not want her to come in the shower and get turned off for more oral play. Afterwards you both need to go to bed immediately for more fireworks. +Make sure that her anus is clean by inserting a soapy finger. (A good loving man always has one of his middle finger nails cut short so when he stimulates his loves ass she will not feel a sharp nail.) As you showering with your lover clean her anus gently with a soapy finger and she will love you for it. If you really want to give her a treat use one finger on her clit, and with your finger in her ass, screw your soapy digit in and out of her ass and give her a quick taste of pleasure just short of orgasm as a real tease. Make sure you clean your finger good afterwards in the shower and remember to use that same finger for anal play only. Never put a finger that you slide into your lover's ass into her vagina without thoroughly washing it first to avoid any bacteria getting into her vagina. +Ladies do not be afraid to grab your loves cock and balls and soap them hard. As you masturbate him look him in the eyes and let him know who is boss. Get him nice and ready, just before he comes squeeze the base of his dick, grab his balls pulling them away from his body to discontinue his pre-orgasmic climax, giving him a good case of blue balls. This is your payback time to tease. Soaping a man's cock brings him to submission faster than anything else. +For those ladies who are a bit more open and willing to please your man, a good prostate massage in the shower will get his motor running. Wash his anus good first and goose him with a well clipped middle finger. Otherwise, save your well manicured nails and use a rubber glove. Stick your finger in his ass a few inches and press under his balls with the flat of your finger finding his prostate gland, sometimes called the male G-spot. It is the size of a walnut and loves stimulation. As you rub and press you finger on his button continue squeezing and jacking his shaft and watch the clear liquid from his gland begin to drool from his pee hole. Make him beg for more and then stop with a promise of more when you hit the sheets. +Now if you want to give all that you can give for your lover during cunnlinigus, try this! This is an exercise in an artful and stimulating 69. I suggest lots of foreplay, kissing, massage, whatever makes both of you comfortable for intimate oral sex. Once you are comfortable with your lover and are ready for oral sex; get ready to fly. This loving act is for the woman's total stimulation and pleasure. +The male lies on his back. It is up to his partner if she wishes him naked, clothed, or wearing only a jock strap to hide his cock. From a female perspective it would be a challenge to dress your man in a jock so he is not allowed any stimulation during this erotic act so he can concentrate on giving the woman all the pleasure. But if your bi polar and want to suck his cock at the same time that is fun as well. +Straddle your partner and present your pussy to his mouth. Leave your pussy up in the air for a minute so he can view your female sexual anatomy and worship it. Tell him to say something about your sex that will turn you on as a challenge to get him thinking about pussy even more. Never begin sucking his cock till your nice and ready to after he has licked and nurtured your pussy with his tongue. The guy should get you nice and wet first licking all over your labia and using his saliva to lubricate your vagina. Give him your favorite dildo or G-spot stimulator and have him insert it into your vagina. Make him lick it good coating it with saliva so it will slip in easier. A good stud should know how to suck your toys for you and get them wet. Next he sticks his middle finger in his mouth for lubrication and delicately sticks it in your asshole. Make sure his nail is clipped short so your delicate anus is not scratched. Lay you head in his crotch and enjoy as he licks your clitoral area screws you with the dildo and stimulates your anus with his finger. +If you have a good sensual relationship you can use his cock as a signal device by sucking and biting it when you need more stimulation. Sucking if you like what he is doing and biting if he is going to harsh with you. If you are into giving even more enthusiastic stimulation try sucking his balls and biting the chord as you pull his balls with your mouth away from his body. +I found it is better to leave the middle finger in your partner's anus up to the second knuckle and only move it slowly around and around. I like the feeling I get against my partners thin tissue as I feel the dildo sliding inside her vagina. I can sense pain or pleasure with my finger as her anus squeezes my finger or relaxes as she is pleasured. Use most of your effort on the dildo sliding in and out of the vagina so you can pleasure your partner better. If you like slip the dildo from her pussy and lick off the juices for an inner taste of her juices. Your mouth will become one with her vaginal tastes. +With your G-spot being stimulated, along with your clitoral area, as well as your asshole you should be on your way to orgasm city with fireworks and lights. Lay back and notice the choices and differences of feeling your partner is lovingly producing in your genitals. Stop sucking his cock lay your head in his crotch and let the vibrations transcend through your body and let go like never before. Surprise your man and roar like a hungry lioness after her prey. Tell him you want Moarrrrrrrr. +Once he makes you wild if you like reward him with a suck from a lioness biting and scraping your teeth on his male cock that need taming. Suck his fluids from his cock into your mouth and like a lioness share your spoils with your male treating him to a taste of his own medicine. Stick your come coated tongue down his throat and make him lick it all off. Watch him lick his lips swallowing in prideful gulps." +844,Three Ways Not to Have an Affair,wife2hotblk,How To,2009-01-22,2009-01-22,2022-01-04 08:40:45,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/three-ways-not-to-have-an-affair,Simple ideas for those battling infidelity.,"['Faithful', 'Marital Infidelity', 'Marriage Advice', 'Relationship Advice', 'Self-Help']",4.17,"Like millions of couples, my marriage struggles with the issue of sex. As is often the case when one person has a significantly higher sex drive than the other, we have argued more than once about what should be the most pleasurable benefit of marriage. Many others in similar positions explore options such as open relationships or extra-marital affairs. For us though after failed relationships in the past and having been the other person in more than one marriage, we both meant the 'forsaking all others.' That is not to condemn those, who have chosen other paths. It is simply recognition that this article may not be relevant to your situation. +My situation may seem unique: a woman begging and pleading with her husband for more sex. I believe though that as the sexual revolution has freed women to express their needs, many will discover that they have desires stronger and more frequent than their partners. Despite having a long and honest discussion about sexual appetite before we married, I have come to realise that few men can admit that their women have appetites beyond theirs. More culturally norm of course is the man, who remains desirous of sexual fulfilment several times a week or even a day. Overtime, his partner may become less tolerant of what she may have at first found faltering. As I said, I have been the other woman in such a marriage, more than once. It is the experience as the 'other' woman that formed my belief that if someone is getting their needs, physical and emotional, met at home then he or she will not stray. +But what happens if you are in a situation where those needs, either physical, emotional or both are not being met? What if you are still deeply in love with your partner and do not want to engage in extra-marital affairs or open relationships? This article is born out of my personal struggle with just such issues. It is about three key things I have found that have allowed me to remain faithful to my husband and minimised long term damage to the love and commitment we share for one another. I share this in the hope that others will find it useful. It is by no means exhaustive. If you have found other things, which have helped you in similar situations, I would very much appreciate you sending those through email or feedback. Because as I think anyone in this situation will appreciate, this is a continual struggle much the same as alcoholics or drug-addicts in a seven-step programme. I hope to learn as much or more from you than the simple options I offer here. +1) Talk about it. Do not ignore the issue or feel as if you must keep the problem to yourself. In as neutral language as possible, let your lover know that you are having difficulty. Keep the discussion focused on 'I' words; I would like more sex. As opposed to more accusatory, 'You never make love to me anymore.' The other thing to remember is that the issue may not be solved with a single discussion. You may need to with loving persistence bring the subject up over and over again. Perhaps I should have even phrased this as 'talk about it, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, etc.' That is hard, because you do not want to seem as if you are nagging your partner. On the other hand, if you cannot discuss what is bothering you, sexually or not, then your situation is compounded. A couple of things I have found that make it easier to distinguish between nagging/begging and constructive discussion is to bring the subject up not in the heat of passion, but in a calm manner and perhaps even neutral location. It is sometimes easier to open the topic over a nice dinner out, than over coffee the morning after your advances were once again rejected. There should be a clear distinction between talking about it and fighting about it. Not that fighting does not have its place. Sometimes arguing is the only way to communicate how strongly you feel about something; it is also a good excuse to have great make-up sex. Yet, most of the progress towards resolution to your unique situation is likely to come not from heated arguments, but from thoughtful, considerate communication with your lover. No matter what, never stop talking. I have actually warned my husband, 'the day I quit talking about this is the day you need to really worry.' +2) Remember the good stuff. For all of us, there are unique qualities of our partners that first attracted us to them or things we have discovered along our shared path in life that make us love and respect that person. Unfortunately during difficult times, we tend to focus not on those positives, but the negatives. If we make a conscious decision to remember those positives, our struggles take a new and bigger perspective. For me, I have found numerous reasons that I want to remain faithful to my husband. Chief among those reasons is that I still find him terribly sexy. I tell him it is his fault that he has ruined me for other men. I can honestly say if I were to look for another partner, he would just about need to be hubby's identical twin. Of course, there are other reasons as well; some silly, such as my telling him that I could not divorce him because I might lose his mother. Others though are deeply moving. For me after an acrimonious divorce that has harmed my older children and an almost idyllic separation from my former partner that even then has been difficult for our son, our daughter is a large portion of this equation. It is not simply that we share a child though. It is the type of father that my husband is which seals this deal. For instance, my husband, who is a slightly shorter version of Michael Clarke Duncan from the Green Mile, came home last night from work and despite being exhausted lovingly allowed our three year-old daughter to adorn his gargantuan form with her bracelets, necklaces and even her Disney Little Princesses flashing crown. It is a moment I shall remember for all time. Tell me, what other man could ever compete with that? +3) Find other outlets. It may seem trite to suggest, but finding other things to distract you can in the short term at least help to temper the situation. It may seem ironic, but I returned to an earlier love of writing erotica. I found that I could take these pictures, fantasies and thoughts and by transferring them into words and stories on a screen I could relieve the sexual tensions. I could escape my reality and for a brief time become someone else. I could live out my fantasies yet remain chaste and faithful to the man I love. This obviously is not a solution for everyone. There are other options; a hobby, the gym, or friends. A profitable although potentially consuming and ultimately counter-productive option is to throw yourself into your work. Recognise though that these outlets whatever they may be are not a solution in themselves. They are merely an option in context of the other two; an opportunity to distract ourselves from the situation. +The obvious question of course is: what makes you the expert? The honest answer is that I am not. I am simply a human being, who like you may be struggling with this issue. I actually debated whether or not I had any right to write this article; given that there are days and sometimes even weeks when I wonder whether or not I will be successful in this endeavour long term. In the end, it came down to the simple fact that whether or not I successfully apply these three principles over the next twenty or more years, I still believe in them. As I said though, I do not hold myself up as an expert and definitely welcome suggestions and dialogue with others, who share this struggle." +845,Three Ways to Avoid Heartache,bewindsor,How To,2006-06-06,2006-06-06,2022-01-04 08:40:45,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/three-ways-to-avoid-heartache,How to find out early if your partner is a good match.,"['Dating', 'Falling In Love', 'First Date', 'Love Advice', 'Relationships', 'Self-Help']",4.29,"> ""Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in > the same direction."" > \- St. Antoine of Exupery +How many times has this happened to you? You fall ""in love"" with the man or woman of your dreams. You feel an instant connection; one you have never felt before with any other person. You find yourself thinking of them during the first waking moments of each day and again just before you drift off to sleep at night. The thought of his smile or her perfume fills your chest with pure and simple exhilaration. They have their faults most certainly, but their faults are minute compared to the plethora of good qualities they possess. Your love for them consumes you. ""This"" you say to yourself, ""is truly the one!"" +As time passes, your flame while still capable of intense passion for them, finds a more comfortable lower level of intensity. You are still intensely in love with them, but the passing of time has allowed you regain the majority of your senses. +As the relationship intensifies, you begin to discuss your desires, interest, and motivation for the future. How do you both feel about having and raising children? How do you both view the importance of money and material things? Where do you want to be in your life and career 10 or even 20 years from now? As the answers reveal themselves one by one, you suddenly begin to realize the vast chasm that exists between the two of you. +Obviously, this is a crucial point in the relationship where many difficult questions must be asked and answered. Please take note of that last sentence. Asking the questions is not the solution to this obstacle. It is the asking and the answering that absolutely must be done when confronted with such a situation. +Can the two of you reconcile your different perspectives on the future in a way that is fair and considerate to each other? Or, are the differences simply too far apart for you both to find a sense of happiness and fulfillment in your lives together? Remember the quote at the beginning, only by ""looking together in the same direction"" will your love last. +It has been my experience that delaying these questions will place you many months (or even YEARS!) deep into a relationship that is destined to bring you nothing but drama and heartache when the moment of truth arrives. +Here are 3 quick suggestions for getting to the heart of the matter as early as possible: +1\. Begin Probing Immediately +No matter how you meet that special some one, it is never too early to subtly gain information about their future plans. DON'T GO PSYCHO!!! A barrage of questions about kids and money will make you look like a freak. Practice subtlety. Ask a probing question then back off. You don't want this to resemble a homicide investigation. A well placed question here and there on the phone, on dates, and anywhere else you spend time with him or her will quickly add up to a rough outline of your possible differences. The first phone call (if lengthy), first date, first e-mail can all help you discover these truths if you play it cool. +2\. Listen +You have to listen actively to your perspective lover. The old saying goes, ""You have two ears and one mouth for a reason"". Listen twice as much as you speak. When you listen, truly listen. Do not distract yourself thinking about your next question or over analyzing something that was said. If something was unclear or struck you in strange way, ask him or her to explain further. Actively listen for verbal clues about past relationships, jobs, and activities. Don't read into anything. Just listen and ask them to explain further if something is unclear. You don't want to eliminate a potentially great person from your life because of a misunderstanding. Be patient. If you didn't get a straight answer, there will be opportunities to probe that area again some time later. +3\. Be True to Yourself +If your intuition is telling you that you will not be able to overcome something he or she has said, be honest with yourself and consider it. The rush of emotion when we find some one interesting can often let ourselves feel that ""It's not that big of a deal"". WRONG!!! While your heart is going pitter- patter in the beginning it is ""not that big of a deal"", but you know as well as I do that somewhere down the road it will be a MAJOR deal! Save yourself the drama and the heartache. If you realize that something is not going to work in the beginning, you must address it. Putting it off for later is only going to hurt you and them. Remember: don't call it quits over a misunderstanding. Have them clarify, clarify, clarify. If you are completely convinced you understand them and the difference is too much to handle, then you know what you must do. +These questions are crucial. Many people have and will ignore this issue while foolishly mumbling the old saying, ""opposites attract"". Don't be fooled! Applying that adage to this situation is relationship homicide. +You must be in-tune with your partner on matters concerning your future together. Understanding where you are now and where you will be in the future as a couple is imperative to a successful and enjoyable relationship." +846,Threesome Guide for Couples,roomfor1more,How To,2010-12-06,2011-05-05,2022-01-04 08:40:47,8,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/threesome-guide-for-couples-pt-01,1. One perspective on bringing up the idea of a threesome. 2. Boundaries & Communication. 3. Selection of the third person - a generic perspective. 4. Broad overview of planning a safe threesome for couples. 5. Short introduction on how to understand threesome risk. 6. A possible low pressure option when meeting the 3rd person. 7. Final installment expectations for threesome and after. 8. Improving communincation basic terminology for a threesome.,"['Communication', 'Relationship', 'Self-Help', 'Sex Advice', 'Sex How-To', 'Single Female', 'Threesome']",3.99,"**Introduction** +Many of have seen porno movies of threesomes. Some of us have used them as a catalyst to start the conversation with our significant other, others have used them as a bridge to start a threesome, and others wonder how to make it happen in reality. Others of us may find pornos a bit too humorous to watch with the bad acting and bad scripts, instead the idea of having a threesome has come about from ""pillow talk"" during foreplay. Whatever the source for considering the idea, this series will be a guide on having a threesome and it will cover most aspects that a couple will encounter including some misperceptions. It will cover the main points such as terminology, fantasy versus reality, communication, boundaries, choosing the third, friend versus stranger, safety, two male versus two female threesome, variations of threesomes, and when a threesome is right for a couple. Finally it should be noted that is information is an opinion that may or may not work for couples. + **Scope** +The perspective that I will be using will be that of a committed couple exploring the idea of having a threesome. While my writings may at times seem not to advocate the idea, I tend to present a balanced approach, in order for anyone considering the idea to appreciate what the decision may entail. The type of threesome that I will exploring is the general threesome that does not involve an open relationship. My reason for choosing the perspective is that I do feel for a couple that is in a committed relationship they have the most to loose if threesome goes wrong and I feel that there is allot of misinformation out there. As a writer I do accept that some couples can discuss the idea once and have a perfectly enjoyable threesome. However I do feel such a situation is fraught with risks and may pose potential problems later for the couple. Therefore my perspective is one that I hope With that said the information presented hopefully will help couples, along with helping single males to understand the process for couples, helping single females, and hopefully help some more experienced couples too. + **Chapter 1 -- The Beginning** +This chapter will look at the first step, which is considering the idea and how to approach the subject with your significant other. This chapter will be divided into two parts. First part will discuss introspection, the process of examining the idea and the second part will examine how to bring up the idea. + **Introspection** +It goes without saying that having a threesome or even discussing a threesome will forever change a relationship. Reaching the decision to have a threesome must be a decision that each person makes freely without undue influence and both must be in agreement to what will happen in the threesome. The process needed to reach the decision of having a threesome is a journey that begins with the first step of introspection. Before even having the first discussion it is important to broadly understand what are asking your partner to undertake and what you will, potentially, be exposing yourself. By proposing a threesome to your significant other you are in essence asking them to consider either having sex with someone else while you watch or having them watch while you have sex with someone. In the event you are asking your significant other to have sex with someone else it is important that you begin to understand that nothing can fully prepare yourself for watching your partner having sex with someone else. For many couples, the suggestion borders on the idea of acceptable cheating and can bring about a plethora of emotional responses. Therefore, it is important to do some introspection before even starting the conversation. +Probably the best starting point is beginning to understand that there is a difference between fantasy of having a threesome, like in a porno movie, and the stark realities of having a threesome because there is a vast difference. In a fantasy you can be the producer, director, writer, actor / actress, cameraperson, and stage crew. This means you have complete artistic control of the scene and complete control of the outcome. Whereas, in reality you are one person is a three person arrangement that has, no control over the other two and the only control you have is how you choose to react to events that are occurring. Once you can grasp that how you see the threesome happening in your mind's eye is not going to the how it happens then you are reads to begin to run through what a threesome might look like and how it might turn out. +Trying to figure out what type of threesome that might work for you as a couple and what it might entail takes some work. Reality is there are two strands that need to be considered. One strand is trying to do some research. This is not always easy because the subject is relatively taboo and not much is written about it. The literature out there tends to toss a wide blanket over the subject that includes swinging, group sex, and open relationships. Moreover this means you will need to read allot and disseminate the information that is applicable to your situation. Second strand it running through in your mind's eye an examination of the subject from 360° perspective. Areas you probably would want to consider are potential boundaries, risks, your partner's reaction to the idea, who do you want to invite, type of person to be invited, issues, concerns, safety (personal and sexual), structure of the threesome, and where to find them. In addition you need to consider areas like what if... happens and if it did happen how would it be addressed? Essentially you are running through different scenarios and coming up with contingency plans for them. After you have done some initial research, given the idea some consideration, and still feel it is an idea worth pursing then the next step is starting the initial discussion. + **First Discussion** +As a couple you may have watched porno movies with threesomes or role played the idea with great results in the bedroom. You may have included a few people that you know as a way to enhance the experience or the idea has something that is never discussed. Regardless of what role the fantasy of having a threesome may play the one thing that is still missing is a discussion outside of the bedroom regarding this idea. This section will examine this aspect. +Introducing the idea is never easy and it is unpredictable. Allot of where future discussions go depends to some extent on this discussion and your knowledge of your partner's reaction to discussions that can become involved. Many people who consider bringing up the idea believe seek a magical formula that can convince their partner to have a threesome but the reality is the only way to reach the point of having a threesome is through communicating with each other. Furthermore, even if the first discussion is successful it still means there is more discussing that needs to occur and it is therefore important to see this as a journey, not a sprint to have a threesome. The only way to have this discussion is by being direct and forthright. Using euphemisms, being passive, speaking indirectly, speaking about the idea during the ""heat of passion"" in the bedroom or bringing up the subject by using sock puppets acting out the proposed idea can only lead to misunderstandings later. It is only by speaking honestly, respecting each other's feelings, speaking about the subject outside of the bedroom, and listening to what each other says will lead to this issue getting some direction. At this point I could go through some suggestions on how to bring up the idea but my feeling is that it would distract form the discussion and I feel there a numerous ways an individual could lead into the discussion and much of it depends on your knowledge of your partner. +This now leads to the question how do you bring up the subject? Bringing up the subject does not mean you have to be brutally direct about it nor does it mean you need blurt out the subject while spending time together. Instead it means being prepared, using what you have learned during your introspection, and using what you know about your partner to time the discussion. This means there is a bit of timing in the subject and it should happen when the two of you can discuss the subject rationally. Moreover it means that you have work through how you will bring it up and you have worked out, to some extent, the type of reaction you expect from your partner. +Your planning and your partner's reaction will dictate your next step. Should your partner not be receptive, at this stage to the idea, then I would recommend taking time to build up the relationship so that they feel secure and then reproach the subject in no earlier than 12 months time. It maybe your partner is not receptive to idea or it may mean they need time to process the information. Giving time to process the information and being willing to answer any questions that they may bring up will help to move the process forward. In addition because of the unpredictable nature of having the discussion it means being restrained, patient, not rushing it and understanding may help more than trying to be confrontation about it. However if your partner seems receptive to the idea your first reaction should not be finding threesome and swinger's sites to join. Instead it means talking about it some more and it may mean that as couple you may have to come back to it at a later time when you do not have distractions. Once the two of you reach agreement about discussing the idea further then you are ready for the next step which is the next chapter. + +" +847,Threesome Planning Made Simple,roomfor1more,How To,2011-02-24,2011-02-24,2022-01-04 08:40:52,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/threesome-planning-made-simple,Planning a threesome for couples beginning their journey.,"['Communication', 'Essential', 'Group Sex', 'Sex Advice', 'Sex Guide', 'Threesome', 'Threesome How To']",3.94,"**Introduction:** +What do you think of when you hear the words, planning a threesome? It can invoke an image of an erotic experience being deprived of its essential character and being reduced to its most simple elements. Also, it may conjure up images of a couple staying up late at night going over every minutia of their planned threesome and throwing up their hands because they have been too overwhelmed. For others it may invoke a feeling that planning is a waste of time because it detracts from the excitement of having a threesome. Whatever image it conjures for you, planning a threesome should not be seen as a negative event. Instead it should be seen as an activity that is shared together that can help ensure that the relationship survive the threesome and to mitigate the risk that a threesome can bring to the relationship. + _Defining Planning & Overview of this opinion piece_ +In order to prevent confusion regarding what is mean by planning a threesome, in this article planning a threesome it means examining the idea of having a threesome from various angles in order to reach an agreement, understanding what is going to happen, finding a way to work through any unresolved issues and to cover any issue that may get overlooked. Essentially, planning a threesome is the process brings together any concern, highlights any expectation and outputs a plan to ensure that each person's interest is addressed. Therefore, while there is no one way to examine the issue of planning threesome, this article will provide an opinion of a way addressing it by examining a few of the core elements this author feels that needs to be included. Nonetheless this article is not meant to be an exhaustive treatise on the subject and is only meant to provide a rudimentary template for couples to adapt to their situation. +Finally I am well aware that not everyone believes that a couple should have sex with someone outside of their relationship and that is a viewpoint that is respected by me. Nonetheless, this author feels whatever an adult couple with the ability to consent decides to do in their home is their decision. My feeling it is better to provide an opinion on an aspect of a threesome than for a couple to enter a threesome without much guidance thereby undertaking unnecessary risk to their relationship. Therefore, this article targets couples who are considering the idea but need to understand how to approach it. Last point, this article will attempt to look at having a threesome from various points in order to suggest to couples how to approach planning a threesome and since no two threesomes are the same it is impossible to write a piece on how to plan a threesome. This means for a couple reading this piece, this piece provides a suggest template for them and then from there they can modify it to fit their needs. + **The Basics & Assumptions** +By now the initial discussion has happened and there is, at some level, an agreement to explore how a potential threesome might operate. At this stage in this journey, there may be a flurry of emotion ranging from panic due to not knowing what to expect to excitement of seeing your partner having sex with someone else or excitement arising from being able to have sex with someone else. Nonetheless, tempering excitement occurs because the uncertainty that a threesome brings and the beginning realization that if the threesome turns bad then the relationship may end. Such a realization produces mixed feelings and uncertainty, in which taking some time to plan could possibly resolve. +Before getting into the heart of this article, it is important to explain some of the basics regarding planning a threesome. It is not meant to bore you. Instead it is meant to provide a common understanding before talking about planning a threesome and briefly discuss some of the underlying principles that exist. To begin with, before embarking on this activity the couple needs to make their decision based on the right reasons and this will be discussed more in a few moments. Planning a threesome in a very broad sense is an agreement that dictates how the threesome will operate, how the third person will be selected, and how potential issues will be addressed. It draws on each other's limitations, each other's expectations, each other's concerns, each other's desires and fuses them into a plan. Essentially, it provides a framework that the couple can use and it can provide a sense of security since it defines the limits. Second, the plan is something that is adaptable, meaning the plan is flexible so that it can change as more information becomes available. Third, the plan cannot be vague and it needs to have some detail to it. Level of detail needs to be at a level that there is no confusion about what has been agreed. Without having some detail to the plan the risk increases that a misunderstanding will occur. Fourth, it needs to cover the essential aspects of the threesome, the aspects of having a threesome that would create problems if it was not clarified. Finally any plan must have participants that freely choose to participate without coercion, pressure, or manipulation. It also means that the couple has taken time to consider the risks, included in their plan ways to address the risks, and are nonetheless willing to take them. +360 ° Overview of Planning a Threesome + 1. Fantasy versus Reality and knowing the difference +Planning a threesome in many ways is like being a child in a toy store, there are so many options and decisions to make that it can be overwhelming. At the start of the threesome journey many possibilities can be envisioned with many possible routes and like a child in a toy store there are so many choices to be made it can be overwhelming. The overwhelming choices can sometimes lead to setting unrealistic expectations and wanting to do as much as possible in one session. By planning it helps to bring out what is realistically attainable and knowing what is most likely not attainable in their threesome. Learning this comes in part from communicating but it also comes from learning as much as they can about having a threesome. This topic is fairly simple to state but it can be very broad covering many issues. Below are four examples of how this topic can influence planning a threesome. + **Example:** One example I can think of is the desire to perform DP on the female half of the couple. From a logistical standpoint DP can be very difficult to do and for males it can call into question their sexuality. For a couple just starting out not knowing their limits doing DP might not be the best choice and it may be something that requires a level of trust that needs to be built with the third person in order to allow it to happen. + **Example #2:** A couple may have a porn movie image of a threesome whereby it happens naturally and it is a completely erotic experience whereby guys have permanent erection that can hold off hours before they cum and women get instantly aroused when they see more than one erect ""cock"". However when they have it the find issues like awkwardness, not being able to move from having a conversation to actually having the threesome, premature ejaculation, performance anxiety, jealousy, and feeling bad after the threesome happens occurs. In this situation the fantasy of having a threesome can be very different than the reality of having a threesome. It is therefore important that anyone having a threesome comes to term with the fact that the fantasy of having a threesome can be very different than actually having a threesome. + **Example #3: Reasons for having a threesome -- Is it the right reason?** +While writing this piece where to place was a big struggle for me and ultimately I decided to place here. My reason for placing it here with a title is because this topic falls under the definition of fantasy versus reality. In this sense the fantasy of having a threesome is rooted in the magical thinking that having a threesome is a panacea for all problems in a relationship while ignoring the problems that it can create for a relationship. Furthermore it challenges those planning a threesome to think about the reason for wanting to have a threesome before embarking on the journey to plan the threesome and while planning their threesome each individual should ask them what the reason for wanting to have a threesome is? If the reason is to prevent cheating, add spice to the relationship, feeling pressure to have one, to fix a troubled relationship, wanting to have one because it is a quick way to get ""laid, it looks fun in the movies, or being coerced into having one then this author feels the reason to have a threesome may be wrong due to the reason for wanting to have a threesome is based more in fantasy thinking than the realties of having a threesome. + **Example #4: Boundaries are not needed and told my partner they can do anything they want in the threesome because I want them to be able to experience a threesome without restrictions:** +In this author's opinion this belief is reminiscent of humanistic ideas like unconditional love. Granted in most cases a parent's love is unconditional. Nonetheless what happens if the child announces they are gay or is arrested for selling drugs because they are a part of a gang. For some parents there is a limit, even temporary, to their unconditional love. Likewise when it comes to planning a threesome there needs to be some discussion, especially if you are starting out. To say there are no boundaries says, in this author's opinion, that having a threesome takes priority quite magical thinking for someone starting out and it demonstrates the lack of understanding of what is involved in a threesome. It ignores that everyone has a limit and this author feels it demonstrates that there is a lack of communication that exists with the couple. + 1. **What will a threesome mean for the relationship?** +For a couple wanting to have a threesome, maintaining the relationship after the threesome happen and minimizing the negative impact of the threesome is a goal for any threesome that involves some form of committed relationship. This means asking the above question will help a couple begin to identify areas that they need to examine and it is a question that needs to be asked regularly, as they plan their threesome. By asking this question on a regular basis and asking it as it relates to each part of their plan it can to help identify those areas that may cause problems if not addressed in more detail. Plus by asking this question it will help ensure that both continue wanting to have a threesome and that both are willing to undertake the risk, thereby helping to ensure that this is a mutual decision. + 1. **Boundaries** +Talking about boundaries for some can be depressing because it means this discussion will slow down the rapid pace to have a threesome and it acknowledges that a threesome can adversely impact a relationship. Starting point for the discussion of boundaries lies in the recognition that having a threesome is a mutual decision in which all share an equal responsibility for it happening. This means that each person is responsible for their decisions, they are responsible for what happens to them, and they are responsible for their feelings. Furthermore the issue of boundaries has been addressed in my previous writings and this section will expand on the issue of boundaries by examining specific parts that may define boundaries for a couple. It is important to remember that boundaries act as a safety net by defining the limits of the threesome, address concerns in order to allow a threesome to happen, and even though there may be some implied boundaries like no means no boundaries for the most part boundaries are unique to couple. Also it is important to remember that agreeing to boundaries is only ½ of the process the other half involves stating your boundaries to the third person. In a two male threesome the invited male can share their expectations / boundaries but with the couple having a plethora choices for potential male invites, if he gets to be too pushy then the couple can easily choose someone else. Unfortunately when it comes to a two woman situation the couple needs to be open about negotiating their boundaries if they want to make it happen and if they do not then they may find that they have a long search. This does not mean that a couple should give up a ""must have"" boundary for a two female threesome but instead it means they need to understand the less they are willing to negotiate on boundaries then the longer it may take them. + 1. **Activities in a threesome** +Determining what activities can occur in a threesome sounds a lot like planning a trip to a distant country. Like planning a trip to a foreign country, the tempering of the excitement occurs when discussing what can occur in a threesome after realizing there are competing demands such as personal comfort limits and time. This means in order for threesome to work individuals needs to be in tune with their limits, be able to discuss them openly, and being willing to listen to other people's limits. In addition, it means there is no magical formula on splitting attention between two other people, what needs to occur, or what does not occur in a threesome. +With that said, the best advice for couples that are just beginning exploring threesomes is to keep it simple and not to push their limits. After having a few threesomes a couple will get beyond the thrill of having one and begin to understand where their limits currently exist. If they push their limits too much the individual may find that they are left feeling bad about the experience or may burnout too quickly. For couples who are want to progress slowly or not 100% sure that having a full threesome is for them then they may want to consider a ""soft-swing"" situation where the invited person participates but no intercourse happens between the couple and the invited third person. + 1. **Selecting a third person** +This has been covered to some extent in a previous article and the same information will not be repeated here. Nonetheless, it is important that the couple begins discussing the type of person that they want to invite and understand, a bit, of the reasoning for it. Talking about the type of person to invite and agreeing to the broad characteristics that the person needs will serve as a template from which the couple will make their decision and it will serve as a boundary from which they will not exceed. Without including the discussion of what type of person to invite it leaves open the possibility that the wrong person may be selected and by talking about the type of person to invite it reduces the chance that the wrong decisions regarding selection will be made. + 1. **Safe word or Signals** +Safe word means a word that they couple recognises but the selected third person does not recognise. Unlike the term safe word when used in a BDSM context to mean a word that cannot be confused with the scene that brings the action to a stop without question or retribution due to a level discomfort. In this situation, a safe word is a word where the couple knows the meaning and the meaning is meant to be a signal. Likewise, instead of using a word to signal something the couple could opt to use a gesture or a behavior to serve the same purpose. The signal could be approval, disapproval, or anything else the couple feels as though they need to communicate to each other. Problem here is if too many words are being used, complex signals, or too many signs then it can create confusion. Therefore it is best to have a very limited number of words or signals. + 1. **To accommodate, not to accommodate, or travel?** +The idea of accommodating someone or travelling to have a threesome can invoke different feelings. It can seem natural for some as an extension of being social in order to have a threesome and for others it can invoke a strong reaction of saying 'no.' Furthermore, for couples that live in rural areas or are struggling to find a third person to invite this maybe the only solution, other than waiting longer to find someone. Accommodating takes on different meaning for different people and each couple has their own feeling on this subject. In this article, accommodating means having the invited individual spend the night with the couple at their request at either their home or staying in the same hotel room. Whereas travelling refers to travelling a significant distance, greater than 50 miles in order to meet. +The starting point for consideration this author feels is examining the distance travelled to meet, the time expected for the threesome to end, and time demands on all participants immediately after the threesome. Consider such issues include does one of them have to work shortly after the threesome. Will there be guests or children coming to visit? What time the threesome might end or did end? +Another point to consider is what space is available and where they would stay. A logical conclusion would be that they would stay in the bed with the couple. However, the couple may want time afterward to connect, reinforce the idea that they are a couple or that they want to keep an emotional distance from the invited third person. In such a case then having them stay in the bed afterwards is not a good idea. This brings up the idea of having them stay in another bedroom, hotel room, or if sharing a hotel room then having them sleep in a separate bed. Final point would be other ancillary issues like how long would they stay, how would it be signalled that it was time for them to leave, and what items would be available for them to use. +Finally, at least from this author's perspective accommodating should not occur especially if the invited third person lives either in the same town or within a short-distance, such as 50 miles. Regarding travelling, travelling needs to be done by the invited person unless the distance is great or they do not drive. In a situation where there is a large distance between the couple and the third person then finding somewhere about halfway that is agreeable to both should occur. Additionally this author feels that accommodating is something that should not necessarily be done by couples just starting out because it can pose some issues for them, such as developing feelings for the invited third person. + **7) Risks** +In a previous article this author addressed the topic of risk and will not restate it. Instead this section will briefly discuss how risk and boundaries relate. It goes without saying that having a threesome, regardless of how well it is planned out or how stable a couple's relationship is, will undertake some type of risk. This risk can be pregnancy, risk to safety, risk of STD / STI, or risk to their relationship to name a few. Since each couple and each threesome is different it is impossible to develop a universal set of risks for a threesome and how to address them. Instead each couple needs to communicate what they feel are the risks, how they can be address and how they can be either eliminated or significantly reduced. From those discussions the couple can have a plan on how to deal with risks that come up and how to address risk as they happen. This type of communication will underpin and shape how the boundaries develop. Without taking time to discuss risk and understand the type of risks that will be faced leaves, this author feels, the couple vulnerable due to a large area this is missing from the discussion. + **8) Writing down the plan or remember it?** +Granted the idea of writing down the plan for a threesome, outstanding issues, and points that need to be followed up reads as though the last few pieces of enjoying a threesome is being sucked out. However writing it down helps to avoid confusion, ensures that outstanding points gets addressed and everyone can remember what has been discussed. At least from this author's perspective writing down the plan and making notes about what has been discussed will help to ensure that everyone is ""on the same page"" regarding the threesome. + **9) Debriefing** +Debriefing is simply talking through the experience in order to work through any issues, to address any concerns, review the plan, make any changes, and decide the next step for the couple. Essentially debriefing is the final step in which the couple try to resolve any issues that may have come up, decide what worked, and decide what their next step will be. It is important, this author feels, that debriefing happens right after the threesome ends and as a part of the plan the couple needs to consider how close to the ending of the threesome this will occur. + **10) Environment** +The environment of where a threesome happens is something that can easily get overlooked and where the threesome occurs can have a big impact on its enjoyment. Without having an area where you can have it without being distracted, without being interrupted, and being a place where you feel secure, it will mean that the threesome is not as enjoyable as you expected. For a couple with children it means that any threesome should not happen in the home when they are there. Beyond the potential safety issue and potential awkwardness it may create for you should your child begin to ask questions, the other issue is that children can become a distraction especially if they are desiring your attention while the third person is present for the threesome. +Along with the logistical concerns other facts such as lighting, color, comfort, and the mood that the room sets all can play a factor. This means taking time to consider issues like temperature and how the room makes you feel. Another consideration is where it will be happening. This means taking into consideration what is being planned, the size of the area, the size of the bed(s), and any other features that may need to be considered. The area has to be large enough to allow three people to change, interact, clean-up, and have a bit of personal space. Also it means the area has to be large enough so that everyone is not fumbling over the others. + **11) Miscellaneous Topics** +If you have made it this far, we are almost done with this subject but there are a few loose ends that need to be tied together. One loose end is the question, how long do you need to plan? Each couple is different with different needs, different concerns, and varying levels of familiarity with each other. Planning can be fairly quick if there is broad agreement and the only thing that is needed is clarifying a few points. However if each person has a different idea about how the threesome will look then it may take some time before a common understanding that leads to agreement will occur. +Second loose end is how often does this plan need to be reviewed? Again it depends on the couple and the level of detail. At a minimum there should be three points. One point is before discussing the plan, whereby each individual states their preference. Then work out the plan keep track of what has been agreed and before the threesome happens taking the plan out to go through it in order to see if it is workable based on what has been discussed. Third point would be after having a threesome then reviewing to see what worked and what needs to be improved. +Third loose end regards the level of detail that is needed. Detail helps to minimize any misunderstanding and cuts down on possible confusion. However it is possible to get too fixated on the details where the plan becomes unmanageable and difficult to understand. Therefore there has to be a balance between detail and simplicity. +Fourth before looking for a third person does the plan need to be completed? Answer is 'no' but a framework should be in place. At a minimum some boundaries and the type of person to choose should be agreed before any searching happens. Plus as things become more certain then the plan can be modified to reflect any changes. +Fifth is there anytime when the plan should not be changed? This author feels the closer you get meeting the third person for a threesome the plan should not be changed unless it relates to safety or a risk that could have a negative impact. Reason for stating this is because emotions, not logic, may begin to influence decisions and the wrong decision may be made. However if there is a safety issue or a risk was indentified that could cause problems if it did happen then that should not stop the change from being made. If it does not relate to risk or safety then in most cases it should be left until debriefing to discuss. +Conclusion & Putting Plan into Action +Planning for a threesome means examining the planned threesome from all possible angles to determine its strengths, it weaknesses, and how to address the needs of those involved. By having, a plan that can be easily adapted to any change will help make a threesome successful. In addition, it means having a plan that is easy to understand will minimize any possible confusion about the plan for the threesome. This means a workable plan will provide a framework for the threesome and help everyone understand the expectations. Nonetheless it will not eliminate all risk of having a threesome nor will it guarantee that there will not be any problems. However it will go a long way to help to protect the relationship and help minimize any problems that may happen. Without a plan that will guide the couple on their journey it will leave them in the dark about each other's needs and concerns thereby increasing the chance for misunderstanding. Therefore, a plan can be said is a way for the couple to ensure their needs are met and minimize the chance that it will be misunderstood." +848,Tips for Amateur Writers,sobstory,How To,2011-10-09,2011-10-09,2022-01-04 08:40:52,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-for-amateur-writers,"Some of the most common, yet overlooked, errors.","['Characterization', 'Editor', 'Plot', 'Style', 'Vocabulary']",4.42,"Little-Known Yet Somehow Obvious Tips For Writers +I my experience as both an editor and a writer, I have come across some very common, but little-known, stylistic errors. +One thing that most people don't seem to understand is how to transform everyday, hum-drum, blah writing into something enjoyable. +Most often, the major problems with a story's readability are style related. Grammar is easy to fix, just buy a grammar book. +Style, on the other hand, is not so obvious. The good news is, you don't need to be Shakespeare to write an entertaining piece of smut, just a fairly intelligent human being with Internet access. +So, I have compiled a list of diagnoses and cures that I **most commonly** prescribe to amateur writers. Please note, this is not a complete grammar and style guide. I recommend getting an actual book for that. +Problem 1: Clunky writing +So many people do not know this! One of the most important things to do, especially while editing, is to use as few words as possible. +I know that on a site like Literotica, where there is a minimum word count, you might be hesitant to actually delete as much as you can, but you must. +The rule of thumb is, look at every single sentence, and ask yourself, ""Is it necessary?"" If it is not needed for plot, characterization, setting, theme, or symbolism, into the trashcan it goes. +But wait! Don't _actually_ throw that into the trashcan! I'm talking about your ""writer's trashcan."" A ""writer's trashcan"" is a Word document I like to keep where I can save all of my favorite non-necessary phrases, sentences, paragraphs, and more! +If there is a sentence that is so completely, universe-shatteringly beautiful, but bulks up your precious writing, put it in here. Maybe you can use it later, in another story. +Now, obviously this tip isn't universal. Writers such as Joseph Conrad are _so_ descriptive that by the time you finish the book, you can barely remember anything about the real world! +However, if you are that good, this is not the article for you. In fact, most of the following rules are like that. Feel free to throw them out the window if you know you can do better without them. +Problem 2: Vocabulary/Description +Vocabulary and description is tricky. There needs to be a balance. Some writing has so little description that it is impossible to visualize what is going on. This type of writing tends to be very clinical and detached. +USE YOUR SENSES! +In erotic writing, your readers will want to feel as if they can see, touch, taste, hear, and smell what is going on. +Here is an example from a (so far) unpublished story of mine: +""His brawny hands cupped her plump rear, marveling at how it could be soft and round yet muscled at the same time. +Her eyes, pitch-black and lined with a fringe of featherlike lashes, fluttered shut as a moan of ecstasy escaped her lips. The color rose on her high cheekbones, the coffee-and-cream skin reddening. +Pulling her closer, he leaned in to gently kiss her the hollow of her neck. His hands roamed up her strong back to nestle into the dip of her waist. She could feel his excitement hard against her groin, right at the place where thigh met hip."" +Now compare it to this: +""He took her rear end in his hands, examining its feel and texture. +Her eyes closed as she vocalized her sexual arousal. Her tan skin blushed. +Pulling her closer, he kissed her neck. His hands moved up and down her back. She could feel his erection against her thigh."" +Essentially, these two passages tell the same story, the characters going through the same motions. However, isn't the first one better? Yeah, I thought so. In addition, a good amount of description is a great way to up your word count. +Huh, you might ask. Didn't you _just_ tell me not to stick words in willy- nilly to up word count? +The answer is yes! Description is _not_ expendable! One of the main purposes of erotica is to arouse your reader and description such as this fits the bill perfectly. It adds to your story stylistically, so it stays. Just don't use so much description that it overwhelms your reader. +On to vocabulary, a surprisingly simpler topic. +The one rule of thumb about vocabulary is to not use any word that you got solely from a thesaurus. The thesaurus is a wonderful tool if you use it right. I mostly like to use it to jog my memory. Generally, I only use synonyms I am familiar with. I will, say, look up ""sheer."" My results are: +diaphanous +see through +gossamer +filmy +thin +What to do, what to do? If you don't know ""diaphanous,"" as most won't, don't use it. If you use a word that you don't know the subtleties and nuances of, you risk embarrassing yourself. The English language is so subtle, even close synonyms can have slightly different meanings. +""Thin"" and ""see through,"" while perfectly acceptable, are a little boring, don't you think? +Personally, I would use ""gossamer"" first, then ""filmy,"" then move onto ""thin"" and ""see through,"" if you still need them. +Another important vocabulary tip! Try not to use the same word over and over! This is why we use the thesaurus. +Problem 3: Unconvincing Characters +Okay. I am not going to go into a whole big spiel on character development here. Honestly, I could do a whole article on that, and my head hurts. So, I recommend taking advantage of the many online ""character templates."" +A ""character template,"" or ""character questionnaire,"" is basically a form providing all of the back-story on a character. It will tell you the way he looks, his family history, his secret fears, dreams, and desires. Look for a form with a lot of questions. +Now, a good form won't simply write your characters for you, but it is a step in the right direction. It can help you figure out what motivates your characters to do what they do. +Importantly, you don't need to fit every piece of information in your story. That would fall under the ""bulky writing"" category. Use as much as you need in the body of the story and use the rest to get to know your characters better. As their creator, you should know them as well as your best friend. +Here is a great character template I use. The questions are culled from many different sources: + _Full Name:_ +Nick Name(s): +Gender: +Age: +Birthday/Year: +Marital Status/Sexual Preference: +Spouse: +Hair: +Eyes: +Origin: +Language(s): +Height: +Weight/Body Structure/Physical Faults: +Physical/Mental Health: +Race: +Clothing: +Parents/Guardians: +Siblings: +Friends/Allies: +Enemies: +Beliefs/Religion: +Career/Past Careers: +Dreams/Life Goals: +Speech Patterns/Frequently Used Phrases: +Hobbies: +Likes: +Loves: +Dislikes: +Loathes: +Fears: +Strengths: +Weakness: +Good Qualities: +Bad Habits: +Turn Ons: +Turn Offs: +Natural Talents: +Temperament: +Background: +Both Happiest and Saddest Moments: +What is this character's major goal? +Why is this goal so important to this character? +Are there any events in the character's past that affect the significance of this goal? +Describe your characters life till now, motivations, family situation, pet peeves--anything that comes to you: +What is the one thing in the world your character would do anything to avoid? Why? What has he already done to avoid this? What do you see him doing in the future to avoid it? +What is the one thing in the world your character would do anything in the world to have? Why? What has he already done to try to obtain it? What does he hope to try in the future? +If your character has a job, is he or she good at it? Does he or she like it? +What are your character's bad habits? +If you asked about his or her greatest dream, what would your character tell you? +What's a secret dream that he or she wouldn't tell you about? +What kind of person does your character wish he or she could be? What is stopping him or her? +What is your character afraid of? What keeps him or her up at night? +What does your character think is his or her worst quality? +What do other people think your character's worst quality is? +What is a talent your character thinks he or she has but is very wrong about? +What did his or her childhood home look like? +Who was his or her first love? +What's the most terrible thing that ever happened to him/her? +What was his/her dream growing up? Did he/she achieve this dream? If so, in what ways was it not what the character expected? If your character never achieved the dream, why not? +In what situation would your character become violent? +In what situation would your character act heroic? +Gah! This is a little overwhelming, right? +Relax. You don't need to use all of it. Just answer what you want. +Problem 4: Confusing Plot/Plot Holes +Have you ever read a mystery book and realized, wait, if the detective had to surrender his gun at the security gate, then how is it possible that the murderer got onto the plane with the bomb? +Or, and I have seen this in poorly written pieces, suddenly, the loverboy in a piece of smut goes from having passionate sex with his wife Brenda to having steamy hotness with his wife Lori. +Just PAY ATTENTION! +To wrap up: + _Thanks for reading. As I said before, this is not a complete guide to style and grammar, but merely a short compilation of some of the most common yet overlooked errors amateur writers commit._" +849,Tips for Better Writing,Johnboy9,How To,2010-12-31,2010-12-31,2022-01-04 08:40:53,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-for-better-writing,Some notes on helping others improve their writing skills.,"['Author', 'Blow Job', 'Crossdress', 'Throat', 'Transvestite', 'Writing']",3.68,"I'm not sure one would really consider this a how-to article, but from the categories offered, it seems the closest one that matches the intent of this effort. I have not written this to deprecate or put down any author's writings, but to offer small suggestions that might help improve future writings. I mean no offense and if any is taken, I apologize in advance. +********************* +I) Regarding cock sucking and deep-throating a large cock: +I have read with misgivings when authors write about that moment when a man or woman sucks down a larger than normal-sized cock, one that can reach the greater depths of a person's throat, how the cock passes through the person's mouth. +They usually write at that point that it has touched the back of their throat. Now, I don't mean to be nit-picking here, but my problem with this is one of visualization, or perhaps conceptualization. What I mean to say is, at this point, hasn't the cock really only reached the back of the mouth and now just begun to enter the front of the throat? +It seems to me that it doesn't really reach the back of the person's throat until the cock has been completely swallowed and fully deep-throated, don't you think? I mean, the back of the throat, I would think, would be where the stomach begins or esophagus ends, no? +Take for example, this sentence: +""His cock slid precariously between my teeth until the head of his rod was just at the back of my throat."" +My aforementioned thoughts on the matter would then cause this sentence to read as follows: +""His cock slid precariously between my teeth until the head of his rod hit the tonsils at the back of my mouth, and I knew he was about to force its massive girth down my throat."" +I'm not sure if this is better, or more descriptive, but it does seem to me to more accurately state the step-by-step description of just how a cock travels as a person takes it from lips to esophagus. +A picture in my head, so to speak, looks like this: The cock, traveling from lips to pallet to pharynx to throat and finally to gullet, or rather, esophagus, that is, the back of the throat. +If you agree or disagree, I would love feedback regarding this concept. +************************** +II) Regarding grammatically incorrect statements: +I keep seeing lines like these in stories I read, and again, please don't take offense, it is not just here in Literotica, but everywhere in today's English grammar. +Hell, I even saw one like it in a Bible verse. It was a modern translation, so it was most likely the translator who was at fault. Therefore, no one is perfect. The lines go like this: +My wife is an innocent exhibitionist from long back that enjoys going braless to tease and fluster... +She talked to some of the men that had seen her virtually naked in the pool today, as well as the ones that spied on her having sex last night. +""He's just a dirty old man that likes young tits just like yours. "" +""Why Mom, you look beautiful, there is no other woman that could compare with you"" +Each line seems okay and probably reads fine to most people, but it is just that each line uses the word ""that"" to refer to the subject of the sentence. +All of us know that my wife is not a ""that"", but rather, a ""who"", as are the men ""who"" had seen her virtually naked. And the dirty old man is really a person ""who"" likes young tits. +Finally, there can be no other woman ""who"", rather than ""that"", can compare with Mom. It is a simple matter of remembering just who or what you are talking about in your sentences. +If it is a person, then it is ""who"". A thing, then it is ""that"". +************************** +III) Regarding incorrectly used words: +I have seen the following words used consistently enough that I thought I should comment. They are not words I necessarily consider misspelled, but rather misused. +I would rather not get into misspelled words here because that would be entirely too nitpicking, and everyone has issues with that problem, including me. +The words I am about to list here are words I've seen used on this site simply because authors have mixed up the spelling of one word for another. I thought I would try to help out some. starring vs. staring: +starring- when an actor plays a part, he is starring in that role. staring -- when a person glares at another without stopping, he is staring at him/her. +shuttered vs. shuddered +shuttered -- he locked the doors and shuttered the windows in preparation for the upcoming storm. shuddered -- he shuddered at the thought of being alone in the creepy, old house. +surreal vs. unreal - +My reasons for including these two words is purely subjective. I have seen and heard the word ""surreal"" used here on this site and in movies and on television so often in recent years, that I am about to go out of my mind. +For some reason, surreal has become the catch-phrase of the 21st century, so much so that I wish it would just go away! There is nothing special about the word, and it holds no particularly novel meaning. +I have just been seeing it pop up in so many stories and movies lately. I was sort of hoping I could ask people if they might start using the old-fashioned word ""unreal"" again, and maybe start a trend back to originality. +There are other words as well. Words like imaginary, fanciful, fantastic, illusory, delusory, deceptive, phantasmal, phantasmagorical, imagined, all in the mind, and incorporeal, to name a few. +For example, the sentence: +""Lisa had never been in such a surreal situation."" could be rewritten as ""Lisa could never have imagined herself to have been caught up in such a fantastic situation. The whole thing boggles the mind."" +Yes, it would take some effort on our parts to be more creative than to just jot down any thought that comes to mind and then not do a creative rewrite, and yes, I also know this is only a sex site, but hey, nothing says that we can't try to attain some sort of literary heights here, eh? +I'm just saying, if you happen to find yourself writing a story here and you feel yourself using a line including that word, see if you maybe can't find some more creative way to express your intent. Anyway, again, just a thought. +************************** +IV) Panties and Garter Belts +And finally, for those of you writing scenes where you find yourself dressing up fine ladies, or in my case, transvestites, in nylons, garter belts and panties, the panties go on last. +Throughout history, this has always been the case because dire emergencies seem always to arise which require the swift removal of the panties . +Because of this, the panties need to be able to be removed first, without having to worry about undoing the bothersome stays and clips of the garter straps. +Such emergencies include times when the wearer, in cases of urinary distress, needs to find it easy to quickly lower the briefs in order to relieve herself once finally in the restroom, after having waited 7-10 hours to finally find a privy. +And then, during any seduction scene, the guy or girl molesting our lady or drag queen really doesn't want to feel he or she need rip off every single item of clothing just to get to her nether hole for that quick janitor closet fuck during school hours. +All he or she need do is lift the dress and slip the panties down (or move them to the side) and slide either a cock, finger or dildo in. +Being able to remove the panties from a properly dressed lady or transvestite wearing garters and stockings and keeping them as a trophy, leaving her completely naked beneath her dress, is quite a humiliating and yet exciting experience for most transvestites, and another thrilling literary treat for the rest of us +********************** +That is all, for the moment. I hope I have helped some and not offended too many others as I meant no umbrage. +I have been experiencing a bit of a writers block with my stories. I have come up with some outlines and some material to use to help guide me in the direction I want to take the stories, but I am still having difficulty writing them out. +Putting out this how-to article hopefully will not only assist others but will also help get me a step closer to writing more on my stories." +850,Tips for the New Streetwalker,Martika_Duponte,How To,2015-10-06,2015-10-06,2022-01-04 08:40:54,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-for-the-new-streetwalker,A must-read for all would-be whores & streetwalkers.,"['Anal', 'Cum', 'Fishnet', 'Fucking', 'Hooker', 'Leather', 'Oral', 'Prostitute', 'Smoking Fetish', 'Streetwalker']",4.12,"Hi, allow me to introduce myself. My name's Martika. I'm 30 and I'm a 3rd generation prostitute and I've been so for the last 16 years. I've always worked the streets, never even bothering to think about any other form of prostitution. Streetwalking is the one for me! +So I know my shit, right? Right! +So let's get on with it! +Attitude ; attitude is everything! You walk it how you talk it. You have to act confidently or otherwise you'll get swallowed up by all the fuckers out there that'll just take you for a ride! You don't need that shit! You are out on the streets to sell pussy, bitch, nothing else. Act accretive and you'll have less problems. +Some slags do try to create a new character for themselves. Changing their name, or at least telling the punters your new identity helps to put some distance between the 'real' you and the 'role' that you are playing. Many girls have special clothes, makeup and perfume that their 'streetwalker' self uses but they'll never touch in real life. I get this. I have many friends that do this. It helps them, psychologically, accept what they're doing. Sometimes some of us bitches get asked to do degrading things or the punters will say something 'nasty' whilst they're fucking us. So, having this other 'persona' can help matters. However, some girls drift into drink and drugs to cope... +And that's another thing! Drink and drugs does go with the lifestyle. I, myself, and a drug user and a reformed alcoholic. It's very easy to get sucked into this kinda shit. Takes the edge of things that happen on the street or, indeed, get you psyched up to sell pussy in the first place! What I'd recommend is to not get so pissed or high that you can't function; you're running a business afterall. Make sure you know what's happening to yourself and what you're doing. Stay alert! +I really don't want to see some bitch getting fuckin' high and ending up dead in a ditch or alleyway... +End of sermon! +Appearance; very important too! No bitch is gonna get picked up who just looks like she's gone to the shops! I always say that it's best to look like you're just heading to a nightclub. Basically skirts short, tops tight! I generally wear some kind of tight leather miniskirt. Tight and short enough to look sexy but not too tight that you can't pull it up when a punter wants to fuck you. Spend some time on your makeup and jewellery too. Look sexy, not 'special needs' ok? +Sex; well, this goes without saying really! Some people are ok with sex. Some people 'think' they'll be ok with multiple sex. BUT...what about having sex with big penises? Small penises? Smelly penises? Punters with body odour? Some punters just never clean under the foreskin and, as such, I tend to clean them up with a wipe before I EVER think of putting it in MY mouth! The cunt can take a lot of humping but to take on 10+ punters a night can make you quite sore... +Streetwalker slags like us will end up fucking in cars, up against walls, on the floor - and you just know that the punter would NEVER put his coat on the floor for you to lay on - or in phone boxes! So, plenty of fresh air and you might get cold. Who cares? The punters don't. They just want you legs spread and ready for them! As such, try to keep yourself warm and bring some form of lube. Theyt don't care that you're dry in your vagina...they just want it in you! After many years I am used to it but for a newbie slag it can be painful. Note to self; use lube!! +Oh, and whilst we're on the subject; oral sex. Do NOT ever NEVER spit it out! Bitches swallow every last drop! A man is getting head from you and sure wants you to swallow what is, you could argue, his DNA...so suck the fucker dry! And the punter will love you for it! +All punters don't taste the same, incidentally. It depends really on what their diet is!! Lots of dairy and it's taste fishy! +Anal sex; a lot of punters love this. If you've never tried it before then make sure you're well lubed up and just try to breathe as he pushes his cock in your arse. It'll hurt but usually punters don't spend long before they cum. +Reputation; fuck, girl! Rep is everything! Word gets around about some bitch that is a useless fuck or that they don't take care in their appearance. Word also gets around about which slag doesn't use rubbers too! So...be careful! You want this as a career? Well, it won't take long before word on the streets has you as a bad lay. Do your best; fuck each punter well, treat them well and - I always do this, having learned it from both my mother and grandmother - thank them for fucking you. As my mum always says 'Treat them as a Prince and they'll ALWAYS come back for more..' +...and that's the point; you have to advertise and get work for yourself every time you're out there. +Relationships; I always tell any newbie bitch to smoke. Any bitch that works for me has to smoke. Why? Well, quite a few reasons actually. Men are attracted to 'nasty' girls and nasty girls smoke, right? Right! Also, cigarettes and offering them to fellow whores on the street is pretty much the international way of making friends and forming relationships. Friends will watch your back and you can have a laugh with. Work has to be fun, right? Also, some nights are fuckin' slow! It might be quite a while before getting picked up. I have times when I have literally minutes between finishing with a punter and getting back to my spot, again and again and again, and then times when around a fuckin' hour passes! You have a cigarette or two and it'll pass the time away...give you something to do with your hands! +Another way of staying on the right side of the other girls is not undercut them on prices, ok? Find out what they're charging for the sexual services and stick to it. +That covers a few of the basics. If there's enough interest then i'll post up some more advice. +Take care out there... +Martika xx" +851,Tips on Wife Sharing,Hanksville,How To,2021-10-30,2021-10-30,2022-01-04 08:40:55,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-on-wife-sharing,Why some men want their wives to have sex with other men.,"['Open Marriage', 'Voyeurism', 'Why Share Your Wife', 'Wife Sharing']",4.53,"**A Lady Recently Asked Why Some Husbands Want Their Wives to Have Sex with Other Men ...** +A lady posted a question on an open sex website asking if somebody could explain to her why her husband has expressed his fantasy to her about watching her having sex with other men? She also wanted to know why this would turn him on, if he was secretly gay and if she should make his fantasy real. +I am one of ""those guys"" and thought I'd write an explanation from my personal perspective. +I quickly typed a short response, but by the time I proofread my message and was ready to send it off to her, the post had disappeared so I couldn't send what I had written. I don't know if the morality police had removed her post, or if she had received a bunch of dick photos by misguided guys thinking that a photo of their junk would cause her to select them as 'the guy' she should have sex with thereby causing her to remove her own posting. I suspect the latter. +The inability to respond to her led me to thinking, maybe other ladies also might question why some men enjoy this scenario as it is often expressed in Literotica's 'Loving Wives"" category. I figured that that they might benefit from at least one man's perspective on the question. I have fantasized about this and experienced the reality with my first wife and numerous girlfriends in between marriages for over forty years. In short, it is just simply hot! +I am not offering any psychological advice as I am not qualified to provide such advice. But I do have quite a bit of experience with sexually sharing my partners that was very enjoyable for many years. As long as two (or more) people enjoy something privately and nobody is getting hurt and no laws are being broken, then there is simply no moral judgement to be made in my opinion. +Something as personally important as enjoying my girlfriends or my wife fucking other guys did not occur in a vacuum for me. What follows is the germination of the seed for me to enjoy my ladies having sex with other men. The following isn't a 'story' for Literotica's Loving Wives category. Instead, it is told as background for why I like what I like as a man that enjoys sharing his ladies. + ** _My History ... Coming to Grips with Sharing my First Wife ... it was a tough road ..._** +As a younger man back in the late 1960's and early 1970's I was probably a bit more 'normal' in that I had jealous feeling when guys came on to my girlfriends. In 1968, I entered the Army. While I was away, my girlfriend gave in to every soldier's nightmare ... she met 'Jody' and slept with him. I didn't find out about it until after I left active duty and returned home in 1970. I moved in with my girlfriend as soon as I got home and thought all was well. Was I ever in for a surprise! +My revelations as to her activities while I was away began with late night phone calls from nobody on the line when I answered the phone because it was on my side of the bed. It was always a hang-up when I answered. When she actually answered she would quickly say ""I can't talk now"" and she would hang up. These calls were mostly coming in after midnight. Then, one night I answered but didn't say anything ... 'he' started talking in very slurred language ... obviously stoned ... it was the 70's after all. But he was coherent enough to say ""I need you to come over right now to fuck me ... I need it now"". I immediately hung up and woke my girlfriend. I told her what had happened, and she brushed it off. She was living in a duplex and she told me that the girl next door had an old boyfriend that really wanted to hook up with her, but she just kept telling him no. ""Hmmm"" I thought? +About a week later, she was getting ready for a bath and she had left the bathroom door slightly open. I saw through the open crack that she was climbing into the tub with her t-shirt still on. This was really odd, so I stepped into the bathroom as she sat down into the tub, I lifted her shirt and saw several hickeys on her tits. She tried to tell me she had gotten bruised carrying boxes at work. ""Bullshit"" I said and left. I went away for a couple of hours. When I returned, she was gone and had left a note that she had gone to the laundromat to do our laundry. Gone to do laundry after midnight I thought? Was this more bullshit I wondered? +I was fuming! Then, the phone rang. I picked it up and again didn't say anything ... the guy on the other end of the line said ""THANKS for coming over Bev, I really needed you to fuck me tonight ... It was great"". I hung up and was beside myself with jealousy. I decided I'd go find her. I knew the laundromat that she went to and sure enough her car was there. I walked in and started yelling everything I could think of ... calling her every foul name imaginable. Fortunately, we were alone because had anybody heard me, I'm sure that they would have called the police. I was in a rage. I was very young and full of immature testosterone. We parted with me telling her (actually yelling) I never wanted to see or talk to her again. +I had a friend that had promised to look after her while I was away, in the Army and I went to see him the next day. He told me that he knew that she had been screwing the guy, but I was as much to blame as she was since I had often been a complete asshole when I called her while I was in the Army. I was not a happy soldier doing the things I had to do, and I made the mistake of taking it out on her in my calls. I realized that he was correct. I had been a total asshole. +My friend brokered a meeting between the three of us several weeks later. She and I spilled our guts about my asshole issues and her needing to get back at me by fucking this guy. She told me that she was just a booty call fuck for him. She didn't care when he called, she would just pick up and go fuck him and then come home as if nothing had happened. She said she didn't like him, that she just needed to divert my hostilities when I called and that she would stop seeing him at this point. She said that I should date other girls to see if it made me feel any better. I did and it didn't. It took me about a month of dating others to realize that I wanted her back. +We did get back together after that month. When we had sex, I sometimes thought of her ... having sex with another nondescript guy. It turned me on but after the sex, I was really felt disappointed in myself and a bit guilty at my feelings. Why was I turned on? I tried not to think about her getting fucked during our sex, but it didn't work. When I masturbated, this pretty much occupied my mind. +As time went on, I finally became more and more comfortable with myself fantasizing about her having sex with other men while we were having sex, while I was masturbating and when I was just daydreaming. I conjured up all types of scenarios and types of guys. Interestingly, I almost never fantasized about me having sex with other women. Although, I did have that fantasy about her. +One evening, we were at a restaurant, I went to the restroom. In the stall, there were several inscribed messages by guys saying things like ""I want to watch my wife sucking your cock ... call me at XXX-YYYY). That also stuck in my mind. The food and entertainment were both good and we returned often. I made at least one trip to the bathroom every time we went to 'read the wall'. There were always new inscriptions. Then one night, I screwed up the courage to leave my own inscription ... ""I want to watch guys fuck my girlfriend"" but I didn't have the courage to leave my phone number, so I asked them to leave theirs. I thought of this that night as we had sex, and this was the strongest fantasy sex I had ever experienced! I was mentally hooked. Unfortunately, I couldn't tell my girlfriend. But I did go back to the stall a week or so later ... there were three phone numbers and first names. I jotted them down not knowing what I was going to do. +One day while I was alone, I again screwed up my courage and picked up the phone. I dialed the first number. A lady answered. I hung up. I called the 2nd number. A guy answered and I asked for the name by the phone number. It was him ... I told him I had left the message and wanted to talk to him to see if we were compatible. He was nice and polite, but he sounded like he was about 80. I was 22 at the time and my girlfriend was 21. This wasn't going to work, and I told him so but I had a raging hard on and jacked off as we spoke. I think he knew what I was doing. Several days later, I called the 3rd number. It was disconnected. I tried the 1st number several more times, but the lady always picked up. I finally ceased calling. +By now, I had a whole repertoire of sex scenarios for my girlfriend with other guys. But I still couldn't tell her though. In the mid-1970's we finally got married. I use finally because she was chomping at the bit to tie the knot. All was fine until the late 1970's. I was having issues at work and I was taking it out on her. Again, my fault. Her response was to have an affair with a guy at her work. This time, I wasn't livid. I asked her about it. She wasn't talking no matter how much I asked. But my imagination was still very much in gear and I thought about her fucking him every time we had sex. I kept asking and she kept silent. I'm sure I was pissing her off by my constant asking about the affair. I knew about the affair because her best friend told me about it. +Finally, we decided that we needed marriage counseling. I didn't have a clue what to expect or how to behave. One afternoon during a one-on-one discussion with the therapist she told me that she suspects I was holding something back. I lied and told her ""nope"". But I knew it was a lie and so did she. In our next one-on-one session, I apologized for lying. She said it was okay and asked what I was lying about? +I told her about my fantasies. I pretty much relayed what I have written above. +At that point, she said ""relax ... it is much more common than you suspect"". She told me that she hears this from married guys all the time. The question is, do I want it for real or do I want to keep it a fantasy. +I told her I didn't know. +She also asked if I have ever spoken to my wife about it? +I told her no. +Then she asked if I would be comfortable talking about my desires with her present? +I told her I didn't know about ""being comfortable"" but I was willing to try. I had to wait for two weeks for our next couples' appointment. This gave me time to think about what to say and how to say it. +I was sweating bullets as we sat in the lobby. +My wife noticed and asked why? +I told her because the therapist wanted me to speak openly about some of my feelings and that it frightened me. +She told me she loved me and she hoped I could do what the therapist wanted. +When we were called in, the therapists asked if we had done our homework (we each had little assignments to do between every session). Some of the assignments were joint and some were individual. +She asked my wife first ... I don't recall what it was that she was supposed to do, and I am sure I didn't hear a word she said. +Then, it was my turn ... I was still scared shitless ... +The therapist started to talk when it was my turn probably to introduce the revelation ... but I interrupted blurting out ... ""Bev, I love you and I want to watch other guys fuck you!"" +Silence ... more silence ... then my wife started crying breaking the silence. +""Why"" she asked in a very low voice? ""Are you gay"" she asked? +""NO!"" I answered. +I told her that I didn't know 'why' and all that I did know was it turned me on to think about it. I told her that it was a huge turn-on in my mind. I admitted that I had been thinking these things since learning about the guy she was fucking while I was in the Army and that I couldn't stop thinking about her having sex with other men since her most recent affair. +Our therapist explained to my wife as she had me earlier that in her experience and research, she found that it was pretty common for husbands to imagine their wives having sex with other men and to get sexual gratification from this train of thought. She said that most couples deal with it in the realm of fantasy as in either role playing or telling stories. She suggested this as our next assignment. Try either stories or role playing. +""Role playing"" asked my wife? ""How so""? +""Maybe go dancing and pretend to be strangers and do the 'pick-up' thing"" she suggested. +We agreed to try that. We did and it led to a very enjoyable experience for the evening of dancing and superb sex when we got home. During the sex we continued the role playing as if it were a one-night stand type of encounter. We each picked personas, but we didn't tell each other who we were pretending to be until the role play started. It was a great experience. +After several months of successful role playing, we started telling stories at the end of the evening. When we got home, I switched roles back to myself and asked her ""how she enjoyed her night out with her girlfriends"" which was the story for that night. She then told me the story of the guy she met and danced with and what they did in the back of the bar and again some time later what she did with the guy in the parking lot. It was our start into the world of fantasy sex that would eventually become reality. +The morphing into reality came several years later. We had switched from rock dancing to country and western dancing. I traveled to Sacramento quite often and would meet her at home after flying back on the nights she went dancing where she would tell me a story about what she did. I figured that she was making the stories up but I secretly was hoping that they were real. +One night, I caught an early flight home and thought that I'd surprise her by going to the dance club. Wearing a suit and tie, I was a bit uncomfortable showing up 'out of uniform' as it were and told myself that I'd just pop in, say hi and then head home. +As I was walking toward the front door of the club fishing for my wallet for the cover charge, I saw my wife heading out of the front door with a very young guy in tow. By this time, my wife and I were in our early forties and the guy looked much younger than thirty. My stomach was lodged in my throat! I felt I couldn't breathe and was hyperventilating. What to do? I just stopped in my tracks. +My wife didn't see me, and she led the guy around to the parking lot side of the dance club. I stayed in the front portion of the parking lot but walked to a position where I could see them. They were embracing, kissing passionately and I could see he had both of his hands on her ass. The embrace had knocked her cowgirl hat off and it was on the ground. As they continued to kiss, he lifted her short skirt and was rubbing her ass hard. It was then that I noticed that I had a raging hard-on! This guy was feeling my wife up in the parking lot with people walking by and I was turned on! +A couple of girls walked by them and one of them said ""get a room Bev"". +Then, I heard my wife say ""Good Idea"" breaking away from the kiss and then they all started laughing. +One of the girls asked ""what is your husband going to think""? +She told her ""don't worry ... I'm going to tell him all about it!"" +I was ready to cum! +Bev then took the guy back in tow and led him to her car. I had to relocate for a better view as her car was in the back of the lot that was poorly lit. She had a convertible Miata. He opened the driver's door for her and then went around to get in the passenger side. They started kissing again. He unbuttoned her blouse, she leaned forward so he could undo her bra and then his head dropped out of sight. +I couldn't see, but I instinctively knew that this guy was sucking my wife's tits while I watched. Wearing a suit, my hard-on was ripping to get out. I started massaging myself through my pants. Next, his head came up and they kissed again and he then it looked like he was whispering something in her ear. I assumed he was telling her to start the car so they could go to the motel down the street. +Bev did start her car and I ran to my truck. I followed her out of the parking lot. Instead of turning into the motel down the street, she turned onto the freeway. I followed her. She drove a few miles and exited at the local State College. I followed her into the campus where she pulled into the parking lot near the dorms. I parked behind her and to the right of her a car hoping to remain out of sight. +With the top down, I had a clear view of them both. They kissed for a few minutes and then, Bev's head disappeared into his lap. This was an early Miata without headrests, and he put his arms up on the back of the car and leaned his head back. I had repositioned myself for the third time for a better and slightly closer view. I could see her head going up and down ... my wife was actually sucking this young guy's cock. My heart was pounding like I had just run five miles and I came in my suit without touching myself. I came more than I ever had. My stomach was still in my throat but I absolutely loved what I was watching ... my wife was sucking this young guy off in the parking lot. I was going to jackoff to this scenario for years. The truth is ... I still jackoff to this almost thirty years later. Watching my wife suck this guy off is forever ingrained in my mind and I still love it! I finally had what I had wanted for decades. +Finally, Bev opened her door and spit ... she was spitting his cum into the parking lot. I started my car and slowly drove out of the parking lot hoping they wouldn't notice my truck. I drove home massaging my cock inside my sopping wet suit all the way. It was about midnight when I arrived home. Bev came in about an hour and a half later. +When she came into the bedroom, I could see that she was very disheveled. Her hair was askew, her makeup was a mess, her blouse only partially buttoned and her boots and pantyhose were in her hand. +""How was dancing ...?"" +She cut me off in midsentence. She simply said ... ""I have a story for you ... _and this one is not make believe_."" +Her story, her disheveled hair, her physical condition and the look she had in her eyes hooked me. I was enthralled with what she told me in every detail. She hadn't cleaned up. She had the scent of cum on her breath, her hair was matted with sticky cum, her tits had dried cum on them along with several hickeys and her pussy was swimming in his cum. We made love numerous times that night adding to his cum. This started ten years of an open marriage that was the most sexually charged ten years of my life. I loved sharing Bev with the guys that she chose to be with. +What Bev didn't want was me watching her having sex with other men (I had told her I had seen her sucking the guy off ... he was 22 according to her). She said she wanted to go out on occasion, have a fling and then come home to tell me about it. Unfortunately, she eventually began to experiment sexually with her girlfriends and finally decided that this was the lifestyle she wanted. So, we eventually divorced about ten years later. + **Sharing my girlfriends ...** +Following our divorce, I was unmarried for about ten years and had several girlfriends that were open to ""sharing"". With them, we agreed that I would always be there to watch and sometimes join in and be with her after the other guy left. There were adult oriented websites by this time where the 'rules' were set by the description in one's profile. Being adult websites, you could be pretty explicit about what one was looking for. +I finally remarried about fourteen years ago. I shared my desired proclivities with my new wife before we were married, but she didn't want to have anything to do with such things. So now, I am stuck with my fantasies and memories of which there are a lot. +Now that you know a bit about how and why I came to desire my ladies to have sex with other men, its time to discuss a bit about the philosophy. Your husband's reasons are likely to be vastly different from my reasons. Perhaps you can ask him to tell you 'why"" he wants this? Maybe he can express himself and maybe he can't. + ** _The Sharing Philosophy ... and Some Suggestions for Jumping In ..._** + _First, a disclaimer_. There is one part of this philosophy that I simply don't know anything about or understand because it just isn't my thing. That is the shamed cuckhold husband. It is a control and submissive lifestyle. Therefore, what I say can't apply to this desire. I don't think that there is anything 'wrong' with cuckoldry ... it is just that I don't know anything about it so I can't discuss it. +While I can't discuss cuckoldry, I can discuss ' _sharing_ ' one's wife or girlfriend from my perspective because that is what I enjoy. Sharing is very enjoyable and sensual from my perspective! +So, ladies, if you are considering this because your husband or boyfriend is expressing his desire for sharing you with other men you need to talk to him. Never do anything that you are not completely comfortable with. My current wife doesn't like it. She doesn't even want to tell fantasy type stories. So, we ignore it. I still like it so I am relegated to thinking about it. Yes, I think about her with other men, but I don't discuss it with her. I must respect her choice. While this is somewhat problematic for a truly successful marriage, it is what it is. +When you are talking with your mate, I suggest that you try to get him to open up and share his 'why' reasoning. He might not be able to do this, and he might simply be refusing to tell you even though he is telling you that he doesn't know. Ask him if he reads Literotica.com's Loving Wives stories? Perhaps you can read some of the stories together and discuss them. +What do I think the typical husband wants? Deep down, many guys like to know that other men find their wives/girlfriends are still sexually desirable especially as we age a bit. The very jealous types are the exception to this. Many guys want to see their wives with especially well-endowed men. This is also one of my things. Some want interracial. I also enjoyed this. Some men want their women to get gangbanged. I absolutely love this and took several girlfriends that liked being gangbanged to specialty sex clubs for this. Some older men want to watch their wives with much younger guys. Always stick with legal age guys. Some men want the guys to call the wife nasty names. This may be a problem for you, and it may not. You decide. You should not be demeaned if it isn't your thing. A guy saying ""suck my cock you dirty little slut"" may get your husband off but it just might not get you going. In the end you must feel good about yourself. If being demeaned makes you happy, then, by all means go for it. Otherwise, don't allow it. I'm not sure why, but many guys seem to like saying these things during sex. I just don't get it. Some men just want to control their wives. If this is the case and you allow him to control you out of fear than this really isn't for you. If you just like being told what to do, that is your business. +With what he wants fully vetted between the two of you, YOU should pick the guys you want to play with. They need to be your type not your husband's type. If he has a particular type of guy he wants to see you with, he will tell you and if you spot one that turns you on, all the better. +It is a fair question for you to ask if your husband has any gay or bi tendencies/desires. You need to know this going in. I am open to bi sex on occasion and I enjoyed cum eating. I like the 'just been fucked look (JBF)', feel and taste. I have also participated in three ways with my girlfriends ... there is always inevitable touching that can't be avoided under the circumstances and I enjoyed the situations. I have also had girlfriends that wanted me to suck their lover's cocks. I did this both because they wanted it and I found that I enjoyed it. It certainly isn't for everybody. +Sharing your wife/girlfriend is a bit taboo ... things that are taboo to any extent can be titillating. Try reading some of the stories on Literotica.com under the Loving Wives category to see if they create any sexual arousal in your mind. These stories can certainly spark one's imagination for sharing. Ignore the anonymous trolls in the comments sections. They almost never have anything constructive to say. +A big part of enjoying sex is mental stimulation. Talking often with your partner helps to keep the mental stimulation for the both of you at its peak performance. +I mentioned the fact that the first time I witnessed my first wife having sex with another guy that my stomach was in my throat, I was hyperventilating, I didn't know what to think all the while sporting a raging hard on. While I haven't watched a lady partner having a sexual encounter with a guy for over fourteen years since my current marriage, I nonetheless still had those very same feelings up to the last time I watched. These jitters never go away. They are always a part of the sexual enjoyment. I'm glad that they never go away. I also can feel this way when I imagine my current wife getting fucked. +Keep it special. Don't do it every weekend. A few times a year keeps it special. If you find yourself doing it a few times a month it is going to get boring. Don't let it get boring. I've known couples that go to sex clubs every weekend and end up sitting there playing cards because the sex going on around them just isn't enticing anymore. +Know the risks because there are risks. You might meet somebody that you fall in love with. Your husband might turn out to be jealous if you are enjoying yourself and jealousy can be very dangerous. Agree to talk often about what you are doing. If there comes a time you aren't enjoying yourself, tell him you want to quit. Have a quit clause before you start. I've known some couples that actually have a written contract as a reminder to what the 'play rules' are. +Unless you and your man like collecting bugs, consider safe sex. When I started down this road, sex was safe and cars were dangerous. Now, it's the other way around. +Always listen to your sixth sense. If your brain is saying ' _don't'_ do something in a particular situation, then don't. There will be future opportunities. Never go ahead just because you said yes, a little earlier. No has to mean no and you need to use it if something just doesn't feel right. We have our sixth sense in our DNA for a reason. Always reserve the right to change your mind. +Never get too drunk. You just can't make wise decisions when you are too tipsy. +Having your husband there limits the possibility of date rape drugs. It can't eliminate it, but it certainly does inhibit the chances. +There are also social risks for your health and welfare. Be very careful in selecting who to play with. I was very lucky, as I never had a bad experience. There are simply bad people around that want to teach you a lesson for violating their morals ... they could care less about your morals. These people can hurt you. Read some of the comments by the trolls in the Literotica Loving Wives category. There are some very sick people out there. +Consider what if your friends/family find out (and you didn't tell them). You might be in for a few "" _um -- er -- ah_ "" embarrassing moments. +While my first wife was lucky with sex in parking lots (she seemed to like this as she did it often), understand that the police can and will bust couples for having sex in public places. Being inside your car is considered a public place in the eyes of the law. +In talking with your man, ask what he wants to see you doing? Does he want this just as a verbal fantasy or does he want to make it real? Does he want to join in or just watch? Will he want to take photos/videos? Are you comfortable with your husband watching you have sex? My first wife didn't allow this. My girlfriends in between marriages loved it. Some insisted that I take photos (thank goodness for digital photos). +How will you select play partners? My first wife found her guys at country dancing clubs. Our rules limited her encounters with guys to three times. It seemed to work for the guys but not her girlfriends since they fell in love. There are some dedicated adult friend type websites that worked with my girlfriends between my marriages. I had one girlfriend that was like my first wife in that she liked to meet guys at dance clubs, but I was always there and she told them what we were looking for. Some were so eager that they paid for all the drinks and the motel. Most of the time I paid for both and enjoyed paying the bill. +My suggestion would be to start by considering attending sex parties at well- established adult sex clubs. Believe it or not, all sex clubs understand some new people aren't sure if they want to participate. There is never any pressure to join in. A polite ""no thanks"" ends the question. There are many types of clubs to choose from and most are not expensive. Some give discounts if you bring a dish to share for dinner. Every club that I have attended was very cordial, safe and there are rules such as no touching without asking, no photos and violation of any of the rules gets the offender ejected on the spot. Some clubs have themes such as gangbangs, costumes to wear, BDSM, whether they allow single men or only couples, large ladies, etc. Their websites explain all of this. Do some research on the internet. +If there are any ladies curious as to whether this is something they should be entertaining since their husband/boyfriend has expressed his sharing desires, I hope that my experience helps. I completely enjoyed myself and I very much enjoyed sharing my ladies with other men. I do still wish my current wife wanted to be shared. But, 'No does mean No'." +852,"""Tips on Writing Dialog,"" Said Smokey!",Smokey125,How To,2018-02-10,2018-02-10,2022-01-04 08:24:29,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-on-writing-dialog-said-smokey,"""Here's some insight on scribing how your characters speak.""","['"" Said Smokey!', '""Tips On Writing Dialog', 'Dialogue Guide', 'Dialogues', 'Guide', 'How To', 'How To Write Dialogues', 'Tips', 'Writing Dialogue', 'Writing Guide']",,"**_Good Day! I Began Writing This Essay—_** + ** _Tuesday, January 30th, 2018, 6:31 p.m._** + ** _""Well, it means being able to find and arrange just the most effective words to communicate your feelings and explain things.""_** —Dr. Deborah Morelli (""Lying Young"" part 1) +Top of the morning to you! Or, bottom of the evening to you! Or, whenever you happen to be reading. Of the lot of you Readers who are so beloved and treasured to me (yes, buttering you up early; get used to it), one particular individual and fellow author asked me about penning realistic dialogue. A few days before—shameless Smokey plug number one—""Rerouted"" had come out, an especially dialogue-heavy story. It was a piece in which the ability to write strong (and erotic) dialogue especially shines. When you're writing fiction, two disparate animals on your ark are the narrative as a whole, and all of the witty little words framed inside those quotation marks and inverted commas. This essay is to share things I've learned about writing dialogue along my way. I'm by no means any more an ""expert"" than the next yarnwright; I'm merely divulging some of my personal input. +Fundamentally, fiction—literary or otherwise, erotic or otherwise—is a form of entertainment. And while nonfiction can do the same, its entertainment factor is more intransitive. Writing nonfiction is the relation of events that have occurred in real life. And as such, it includes also the citing of speech from real people. Scribing dialogue is not an ingredient in nonfiction, but substituted by quoting the words of others, and crediting them bibliographically. This isn't to say that writing fiction is more challenging than nonfiction, but it involves one unique feat: making your characters come alive through the conversations they conduct. +Tense does not play a part in effective dialogue, but person can. Standard 3rd-person bears the most distant relationship between dialogue and narrative. 3rd-person narrative is conventionally most flowery and ""formal."" 2nd-person reflects interaction; you're addressing an unseen entity, and dialogue will tend to be less prevalent. At the same time, 2nd-person narrative will come across a trifle looser, more personable. In this setting, you'll want your wordage to be ""accessible,"" to both your 2nd-person subject and your Readers (and yes, I always capitalize Readers. You all have Names; you deserve the common courtesy of the power of the Shift key that is used for good and not evil). While 2nd-person connects to a created character, its narrative, in a way, _is_ dialogue. Then of course we've got 1st-person, an essential monologue doubling as narrative around your characters' lines. Whether your 1st-person protagonist is similar to you as the author or not, you'll clearly want her or him to be relatable. In any person, if your Readers don't know what you're talking about, or find the character incredible based on her/his speech, they're going to have a hard time relating. Thus, their enjoyment of the story likely diminishes. They may tire of it, and/or abandon without finishing. This want we not. +Sometimes—shameless plugs two, three, four and five—depending on the nature, a story requires little dialogue. My 1st-person piece ""The Voxe: A Girl And Her Music"" comes to mind. Others—""Rerouted,"" ""Friends And Live-Ins,"" or even ""Lying Young"" or ""Imperfect Strangers""—rely substantially on conversation, to both familiarize Readers with your characters, and to move things along at a steady, entertaining pace. You've got your storyline, arc and so forth mapped out. A character has risen from the depths of imagination, springing to life on the page. You're ready to cull the courageous first words from your character's trembling fledgling lips. So how to proceed that daunting first time you hold Shift and strike the quotation mark key? +***** + ** _""... how do I know that, Bonnie? ... you told me you wanted to be an actress. Have you just been playing some kinda...character with me?? ... what do I even know about you?""_** —Laura McCollum (""Imperfect Strangers"") + **Know your characters.** Every writer has his or her own process. It may help you to write a biography of each character you whip up, major or minor. Or make a list of said characters' traits. Not to share, but to keep and refer to for your own use. One story with a few characters will be simple to keep track of. The further your literary journey takes you, the more characters will blur. After enough new and different characters bloom from the same mind, inevitably, personalities will overlap. Keeping character distinctions in mind will help you shape the unique ways they speak. If you've characters who think, act and live similarly, they'll therefore speak similarly. The most astute and diligent of Readers will take note. Whether the Reader takes this as a positive or negative is an individual poll. Nonetheless, exploring distinction in characters will help you break new ground and cover more territory. You're creating figures that will, to varying degrees, reflect the colorful particles of society. Not just one hue or shade. +Every character, once developed, will have his or her own identity. How far each will go through development is up to you as the author and creator. It's important to develop them to the idiosyncratic level of at least an adult, since all of our major characters involved in a sexual act must be 18 years old. Now that you've got a character ready to grace the page (or screen), ask and answer some identifying questions. For example—perhaps including, but certainly not limited to—how does your character think? How does s/he live, dress, eat, look at the world? Does s/he have any outstanding physical or mental traits? Is s/he introverted or extroverted? How far has s/he come out of her/his social shell? What sort of lifestyle does s/he embrace? What are her/his beliefs? To what philosophies does s/he subscribe? Does s/he swear? How highly is s/he educated? And for purposes of our erotic craft: does s/he have a fetish? What turns her/him on? What kinks does s/he enjoy? How passionately does s/he masturbate or make love? Once your character's developed, you may dig up other applicable queries. +Knowing the type of person a character is will play a part in dictating how she or he speaks. Every human being is different. It goes without saying and ironically also bears repeating: every, human being, is different. And yet, you'll want them to talk, like, normal, people. Yes, that's subjective as hell. So much so that typing the words ""talk like normal people"" pained me just a bit. But once again, an accessible, relatable character will help further a story. It is advisable to write a character particularly flowery or sophisticated language—i.e., speech with a lot of ""big""/advanced words—if congruent with that character's persona. Or when deliberately _in_ congruent, as in the case of satire. _Or_ , when a stretch of realism is desired, for entertainment or comic purposes. Here's an example, from my humorous effort ""Give Me A Little Credit Here,"" with a joke pay-off delivered by the companion character. + _""... I wanna go to slee-e-e-eep!""_ + _Valerie came back with the teacups a matter-of-fact moment later._ + _""You're just going through a state of temporal somnolence due to your circadian rhythm, combined with your somewhat lethargic physiology, which would naturally result in a microsleep condition in your cerebral cortex. Not to mention your pathological adversity to delayed gratification."" ... Donna stared at her._ + _""Great; now I'm tired,_ and _I have a headache.""_ +While Valerie O'Hanlon—the character belonging to this little monologue—is a reasonably intelligent young woman, she is not quite the sort of scientific genius to whip up such a beatless diagnosis of logic on the spot, as she does here. This is the magic of fiction. The temporary suspension of disbelief to accommodate exaggeration. (And, as a side note, the ability to recognize the imbalanced ratio of syllables to words, as in the previous sentence. (Even though that sentence was technically a fragment.) Unless you wish to induce Donna's aforementioned headache, 22 is far too many syllables for eight words.) We're all entitled to a fancy flight of fancy now and then. I find these fun, and yes, to an extent, a way of showing off. I believe showing off is okay, provided condescension is not involved, but fun is. Where you'll encounter a bit more of this prolific prose is via characters who are overly flamboyant (and/or pompous). Think...Frasier Crane, for example. Or...Sheldon Cooper, more recently. +***** + ** _""Well, I notice you punctuated those statements with periods, not exclamation points, so it can't hurt quite_** **that** **_much.""_** —Sandra Burton (""How To Tickle A Girl Insane"") + **Don't worry about punctuation.** I like punctuation. I do. I'm especially fond of em dashes—particularly...and ellipses. I'll readily admit it: I...shamelessly... _abuse_...the ellipsis. Read...my...stuff. No, really...do it. You'll find more ellipses than you can count. Most of them are in my characters' dialogue. 'Tis my friendly advice to be unafraid to abuse the ellipses. They can take it; they're tough little dots. That's why they band together. +But on the whole, friends, don't sweat punctuation in your dialogue. Punctuation is (usually) more a device for cosmetically touching up and decorating your narrative; making it...""pretty."" With the exception of those three little strung-together dots, I use my punctuation in dialogue just the same as in the narrative. The reason I use so many ellipses in speech is rather a personal one. I...often...need a little time to put just the right words together that I want, and in the proper order as well. So as a logical extension, a lot of my characters possess that trait. Also, this is the erotica community. We're writing about sex here. And often also romance, love and relationships. We take our time having real-life conversations in these areas. Some of us get emotional, downright weepy. And take a _lot_ of meaningful pauses between words. It's a logical distinction to me to write these lines as they would be said in a real-life setting, by real people, in real situations. +Ellipses represent those pauses we take when we need those spare seconds to come up with our next words. It's the same reason I keep all the ""uh""s, ""erm""s, ""eh""s, ""um""s. And the reason when in dialogue, I write ""gonna,"" ""wanna"" and ""gotta,"" instead of ""going to,"" ""want to,"" ""got to."" The appropriate syntax is reserved for the narrative. In dialogue, we want to connect. Excuse me; we _wanna_ connect. Real people. Real speech. Real Americans, I should amend. I'm American, as are most of my characters. That's our casual, somewhat even crude speech. Because for all intent and purpose, as far as your Readers want to be concerned, that's what these characters are. They're _them_. The man on the street, the girl next door. Your favorite schoolteacher, the kindly shopkeeper, even the creepy wicked old neighbor way down the end of the block. Once again, relatability. Accessibility. Which brings me to my next tip... +***** + ** _""What you did was way wronger—or, oh,_** **oh** ** _, ex_** **cuse** **_me, Sergeant Grammar—way_** **more** **_wrong.""_** —Dale Sunderland (""Who's Teaching Whom?"") + **Grammar is not something from the metric system.** Remember when I mentioned the pompous blowhard-ish sitcom character Frasier Crane above? Well, the actor who played him is called (Kelsey) Grammer, with an 'e.' Not to be confused with the facet of the English language that infuriates its speakers more intensely than any other. While proper grammar is important on the narrative side of things, for the dialogue, let's return to our ""keep it real"" philosophy. Slip yourself into the Reader's proverbial shoes, and bear in mind that: most non-writers play fast and loose with the rules of grammar in their casual speech. And even as authors, do let's be honest. Decent grammar's important, but the butchering thereof won't singlehandedly destabilize the entire structure of Homo sapien communication. Typical casual-speak is congruent with efficient conversation on sex, love, romance, and the like. When laboring to assert one's feelings in these areas, only the most pedantic will take care to ensure perfect grammar. And we can't really fault them for it; they're pedants, after all. It's what they do. +Being a proponent of grand grammar, I adhere to its rules in my narrative. I too understand, however, how few share this penchant. Which is why my dialogue grammar is looser. A character of mine is far more likely to say ""me and my friends"" (rather than ""my friends and I""), for instance. And truthfully, I think that's fine. See previous paragraph. This goes back to knowing your characters and determining which are sticklers and which aren't. Upon thorough analysis of who your character is and how s/he operates, puzzle pieces like this will start naturally falling into place. One of the goals is to mirror the patterns and quirks of common everyday yackety-yak. Here's another tactic I use only in dialogue, to make it read more real. What with our habit of running words together in sentences, I'll semi-often contract _any_ words. Not just pronouns or helping verbs. Here's an example of that, most recently, from ""Rerouted,"" involving the plural noun ""dreams"" and a conjugation of ""to be""— + _""Y'know, they tell us when we're young that we can do anything, be whatever we want, our dreams're real, sky's the limit, blah blah. Then you grow up and find out for yourself the hard way.""_ +A fitting example, as that quote also has a contraction of ""you know"" at the beginning. By this token, one could say I harshly abuse the apostrophe as well. That's fair. But as speakers of the English language, this _is_ how we say things. We can't even help it; it's the way we're brought up, listening to—and thus learning—common, casual speech. I feel it important to note, however, this is a technique I use because it makes the flow more genuine for me. If your technique is to spare the apostrophes and type the contractions out, great. Readers, for the most part, won't be perturbed on this issue one way or the other. +And another thing, folks: this ain't no classroom! Remember what Burger King said a few decades ago: sometimes you've gotta break the rules. In the narrative _or_ the dialogue. _Unless_ you have a character who's an English teacher, like in my above-quoted story ""Who's Teaching Whom?""...go ahead and end your sentences with prepositions. Throw a few ""ain't""s in there. Do whatever you like to make it feel realer for _you_. To make it easier to read, for both you and your audience. And more fun! Some Readers like to read stories out loud, to themselves or someone else. Some even like to affect the different characters with contrasting voices. I read my stories out loud, pre- submission, as a proofreading measure. This makes it easier to find notes and changes as I go along. It also helps me more easily recognize whether a sentence flows well, or runs on too long. Which leads to... +***** + ** _""... you've already served a pretty impressive sentence in_** **my** **_little prison here. And somehow, I have a feeling you won't be doing anything like that again.""_** —Miss Farrah (""Beyond Hell And Back III"") + **Don't bite off more than you can chew!** Don't get me wrong, either; you should feel a little freer to run with sentence structure in your dialogue. After all, it breaks up the more rigid etiquette of the narrative. Returning to an earlier point, if it serves the effort of humor, character or plot, by all means, kick in a long-ass run-on sentence now and then! Do everyone including yourself a favor, though, and add well-placed pacing punctuation. Obviously, you're an author; you know what you're doing with your periods/full stops. (And if you don't, step away from this essay immediately, obtain a time travel machine and return to elementary school.) Otherwise, for heaven's sake, toss a few commas in there—if for no other reason, to spare the Reader the chore of going back over the sentence to analyze how it should be read. If applicable, drop in a nice colon or semi-colon. Let the Reader know where s/he will want to take a little caesura. And if one form of punctuation is being overused, mix it up a little. Parentheses (brackets) and dashes are often interchangeable. Commas can happily mingle with ellipses. I'm not personally a fan of the asterisk in a body of text, but if they gel with you, use them for emphasis. I also don't care for ampersands replacing ""and"" in standard text, but again, that's just me! +Another thing I'll find myself doing often in dialogue is highlighting emphasis, with _italics_. That is of course a formatting choice. Italics work best for me. I reserve **bold** face for my segment headings. Or if some other special circumstances is being applied to the story. And I don't really underline anything. You might use italics, bold or underline for your emphasis—whatever your preference—even a combination thereof, if your character is _really_ adamant in what s/he's saying. Formatting can be useful also to break up the homogenous appearance of a sentence, and let the Reader know something emphatic is coming up. Of course, the same can be accomplished with exclamation points or interrobangs (question marks clustered with exclamation points). Especially in dialogue, my general rule with e.p.s and q.m.s is that two is the limit. That stringing together more than two e.p.s or q.m.s to conclude a sentence is overkill. And vis-à-vis incredulous questions, my interrobang is always?!, never!?.!? does not make sense to me. +Question marks of course have their place, but I feel you can never have too many exclamation points. I'm not saying you _need_ them, I'm saying you should feel free to use as many as you want. Hey, characters in your stories can get excited! Don't squelch their enthusiasm!! Don't end absolutely _everything_ with an exclamation point, but I say be as otherwise liberal as you like. Hell's bells, friends, it's not like they're in short supply. You'll not want the Reader to feel s/he's being screamed at, and for that reason you may not want to get too trigger happy on that Caps key. I prefer the italics to caps anyway, and most folks associate all-caps with being shouted at. Hey, if that's what you're going for, have at it. Especially in your dialogue. That's why I say use as many exclamation points as you want. It'll help your characters get their emotions out, and if your Readers see themselves in these characters, this in turn can help the Reader get similar feelings off his/her chest. So be emotive! Be passionate! Be expressive! And, speaking of which... +***** + ** _""I am not apologetic about my expressions.""_** —Rachel Greentree* (""Happy Endings IV"" *Yes, Rachel is another character from the ""Hell And Back"" series, but she pops up in one scene of ""Happy Endings"" installment four as well. One of my infamous character crossovers.) + **Toy around and be playful with some common expressions.** This is a device that can really breathe a bit of fresh, fun life into a story. And it works far better in dialogue than in narrative. This is probably the most colorful piece of advice I can offer, and will add a dash of uniqueness to your characters. There are lots of common, everyday figures of speech we've heard all our lives, and putting a clever twist or tweak on them can nicely spice up a spoken sentence. Just how much you can stretch expressions like rubber before they sever is a judgment call you'll have to make as an author. And this is a tip that very much demands examples to fully illustrate. So I've dug some up from some more of my stories. Observe and enjoy. + _""Our proverbial geese are cooked.""_ —Delilah Gainey, ""Redefining Punishment...Again"" + _""Penny for your thoughts."" ""... a Penny saved is a Penny earned.""_ —Penny James and Cesse Helmsley, ""Lost And Found"" + _""... I think my kid stepped on a crack. But I just mean metaphorically. I don't have any children. Or goats.""_ —Vikki Bowman, ""Through Thick And Thin"" + _""All right, lucky shot; I'll give you that one. Gloves're comin' off now, Grandma."" ""Oh, I believe it's more than just the gloves in_ your _case, kiddo. And watch whom you're calling Grandma.""_ —Noelle Beckman and Sylvia Quibley, ""The Art Of The Squeal"" + _""I think every generation sees us—and not just us,_ all _LGBTQs—a little more enlightened. We may never have complete 100% vindication, but I like the way things are going. It may be dark in the closet, but it's just getting brighter and brighter when you come out.""_ —Dora Cunningham, ""Friends And Live-Ins"" (part two) + _""... not exactly a royal flush. Although I kinda think of it not so much what's on the cards themselves; 's more like the cards that're already on the table make it hard to play mine. Y'know, how stuff affects me and how I handle it.""_ —Andi Jackson, ""Eleven"" + _""... You know what, I should be straight with you. Even though I'm gay. To be completely honest, I'm a compulsive liar.""_ —Dori Young, ""Lying Young"" part 1 + _""... you can come and go, do what you need to do, and when I get off work we can hang out. And we can do anything you or I want, hon. Whatever floats our fancy and tickles our boat.""_ —Lilly Amshire, ""Housekeeping!"" part 2 + _""... my Mom and Dad set up this job interview for me with this guy Chris MacIntosh. 11:30 Saturday morning. Right on the nose. And they were_ really _counting on me to not blow it. Th-the interview, I mean, not my nose.""_ —Jenni Wolbert, ""The C.F.N.F. Club."" + _""Blind [lesbian] dating: dangerous. Shortsighted dating? Possibly okay.""_ —Dawn Kerringer, ""Rerouted"" +***** + ** _""... one thing you should always totally do is be yourself. If you're, like, bogus and phony, they can smell that a mile away. And they really like it if you're mondo expressive ... Oh, and one thing you_** **never** **_wanna do is, like, go totally cliché ... Wicked awesome to meet'cha, E.""_** —Tabby Weeks, (""Erica Versus The House"") + **Spectacular vernacular.** The quote opening this segment is from a story set in the '80s. If you were around back then, you may have guessed that already. There is another semi-period piece I wrote a number of years ago, partially set in the same decade. And I'm sure they won't be the last. I still _love_ the '80s, all the elements of pop culture comprised therein. I also wrote a more recent one set in the '90s, focusing more on the '90s ""slanguage""...ugh, now _there_ 's an ugly portmanteau for ya. I grew up in the '80s and '90s, but the only thing I really enjoyed about the latter decade was making fun of it. Well, that, and the fact that the world was doing well economically. +Since very early on, each story I've written has had a very specific year, date and time setting. Most of them have been set in the present relative to when the story was written. Then there are the few mentioned above, the period pieces. I think that helps lend perspective. Imagination supplies the rest, of course, but I believe if you have a concrete fix on when your events are taking place, you can gain a bit more realism by taking yourself to that date or era. +That could just be me. I'm not suggesting you start adding time-and-date headings to your story segments like I (...then again, I'm not suggesting you _don't_ either), I'm simply explaining this part of my process. When you write dialogue, it's helpful to have these sorts of walls, if you will, to throw stuff against and see if it sticks. If it's pertinent or adds to the storyline, your characters can be discussing the weather, or approaching holidays. They can be gabbing in the morning about what they're going to do today, or summarizing their day in the evening. They can bring up their birthdays and how long it is till the next one. +On the broader spectrum of time, going back to this section's first paragraph, you've got the proposal of eons to consider. Your story doesn't have to have a set year or era, of course. But if it does, be true and respectful to it. Track down some TV or literature from the period and examine the original dialogue therein, back when this year or decade you're focusing on was actually happening. Or listen to time-appropriate stand-up comedians and any then-topical subjects they joked about. (Humor, after all, is of course funny because it's true. It's a cliché, but an accurate one.) You can use slang from your chosen epoch—especially if you feature young characters—and make some time-relevant pop culture references. That too helps take Readers back and feel a bit nostalgic. Sometimes it's nice to go revisit those simpler times in our lives. If laboring to really get the Reader to that specific point in time, you can lay it on a _little_ thick (be careful). As with all decisions writing a story, exercise your best judgment. +But don't go overboard with it, and let the references distract from the actual story. It's a line I've ridden and crossed a few times. It's true, the time references are fun, fun _ny_ , and a bit of a guilty pleasure. But it's possible, and not too difficult, to get carried away with them. This whole point is basically to urge you to do your research, and be period-accurate with the way your characters will speak. Whether your story's set in 2018 or 1978, it's wise and advisable—if not to have your finger firmly fixed on the pulse of the given time's vernacular, then at least in the adjoining vein. And on a similar note... +***** + ** _""Oh yes, yes, indeed. Me best mate Nigel, from grammar school. We'll probably sort out something to do together, but I'm sure he'd love to meet you as well. He's a great happy chappy; super-friendly. So, tell you what: why don't you let me give you me number, you can put it in your mobile, go take your shower, and then you can ring me ...""_** —Sophie Trimble (""A Night At Millicent's"") + **Respect the space, too, not just the time.** That quote—again, as if you couldn't tell—is from a British girl. It's an example of the more drawn-out degree to which non-Americans distinguish their speech. I'm American, so all points like this are going to be centered from that perspective. ""Millicent's"" is about as ""British"" a story as an American writes. It takes place in America, but half of the dialogue and even a good deal of the narrative is Anglo-flavo(u)red. I've always been quite the Anglophile to begin with. And this protagonist, Sophie, loves being British, and loves hearing Americans tell her they like her accent. So she lays it on semi-thick with the accent and the Brit-speak. +This section isn't about British people—in particular—but about global geography, and the peoples and cultures contained in it. This pretty much parrots what the last one did: if you're going to showcase character nationality and reflect it in the dialogue, again, be accurate. Do your research. This naturally goes whether your figure is from another hemisphere, another continent, another adjacent country, or just another United State. So you've got a character foreign to your native or set land. First of all, as aforementioned, be respectful and true. Then, be natural and real in playing out your story elements. +All of my stories are set—at least in part—in a fictional Minnesotan city called Juniper. (Not to be confused with Garrison Keillor's legendary ""fictional"" Minnesota town Lake Wobegon.) It's in southeast Minnesota, part- way between Minneapolis, Rochester, and the Wisconsin/Iowa state lines. As a result, most of my main characters are natural born and raised Minnesotans/Juniperites. Then a number are from other areas of the U.S., having moved or visited to Juniper. Sometimes their dialogue reflects this, if the subject comes up. (See ""Eleven,"" for instance. Some of ""Eleven"" is a bit of a love letter to MN.) +One thing accessible and likable to me about Minnesota is its German and Scandinavian settlement. I don't know a ton about Germany or its populace. But on the Nordic side, I actually do know a lot about Sweden, specifically, its natives and language. There have been some major Swedish characters sprinkled through a few of my works. Which is fun, because it presents the novelty of dialogue in another language. Especially one that is so obscure in the States. English is of course America's primary language, and Spanish is a very close second. Then French and German, and so on. If you speak another language and want to incorporate bi- or trilingual dialogue, I say it can be a good idea. It can give the story a unique taste, and the character a bit of exoticism. Don't, however, allow yourself to ""show off"" too much, or lord this over the Reader. Unless part of the plot specifically focuses on a character's language or heritage, keep it to a controlled level. If both or all characters speak the same language—and that language is separate from the narrative's—you might consider including a translation in parentheses. Not unlike the way television and movies slip in subtitles. And one other thing... +***** + ** _""Just one more time, thanks so much for today, Lilly. It was_** **just** **_what I needed. I had so much fun.""_** —Colleen Flowers (""Housekeeping!"" part 2) + **Have fun.** Bottom line: it's the story itself that's most vital. Whether in dialogue or narrative. If you're writing along and catch yourself being distracted by an event or characteristic not integral to the plot, hit the brakes and throw it in reverse. Penning dialogue can and should be enjoyable, and a good helping of it can really help a Reader get to know your characters. And for heaven's sake, give it a semi-unique spin. Let yourself outside that box! This is a bit of a fine line. You don't want nothing but huge words that will make the Reader's head spin. But you also don't want mere dull phrases that get thrown and bandied about by ordinary folk all the time. You're a writer. The English language—or whatever language you're primarily writing in—is your home. Your Readers want to be entertained. That's why they come to these sites, or go to the bookstore. They don't want to be lectured, they don't want to be patronized or talked down to, and they certainly don't want to be bored. +Here's a good, easy way to have fun. Our shared medium in this community is erotica. Now, this is pretty basic 101 stuff, but it's good advice for a reason. It works. _Indulge_ yourself. Get your personal kinks out there, in living color! You may feel alone in your fetish or liking for...anything, really. To be bracingly honest, it's human to feel that way. To go off on a slight tangent, we've been shamed as a species for a long time for our fascination on sex. Well, guess the hell what. There's a lot of stuff out there to be intrigued by, and believe it or not, there're more other individuals that share your interests or kinks than you think. Trust me on that one. +So feel that sense of freedom. Get your characters _into_ it! Let them talk to each other while doing the deed—whichever deed they're enjoying. Let them laugh, let them cry, let them scream to the heavens how great it feels. It's good for them, and good for you. Your fetish may not be the most ""common"" one out there (what is?), it may even make you feel like a creep. Channel those feelings into energy and words on the page/screen. Reach out, muster the courage to put it out there. And whether visible feedback comes or not, people are reading. They may be skimming, they may have stumbled onto the page by accident, but who knows? Take a step back and realize that your work has claimed the attention of someone else for a moment. And how it may have affected them. There's nothing wrong or shameful in creating a character just like you, and building an entire story around them, flaws and all. In fact, it can be therapeutic. Your true feelings will come out in your execution. If you had fun writing it, the audience'll have fun reading it. +And _try_ not to be discouraged by low numbers or negative comments. Or by _no_ comments. Believe me, NO ONE knows how challenging this can be more than I do. But while lots of Readers are loyal enough to keep coming back to visit and spend a little time with you, they also have busy lives. And this is tough to hear (read), I know, but your stories aren't the only ones they're checking out. Don't get piffed off because they liked another story and not yours. Swallow the pride, suppress the ego. Pride and egos are dumb anyway. Be humble and modest, and that way people won't keep trying to knock you off your pedestal that you built yourself. Takes a lot of energy to keep getting back up there, doesn't it? Maybe take a break from writing and read that other story they liked. You might even like it too, or take something from it. Or, you might _not_ like it. And that's okay. This was a hard lesson for me to learn, but we can't go into this just looking for the reviews. They're nice when they come along, and stories are going to represent valleys and peaks. Some are going to be better than others. Some are going to perform better than others. Just the way it is. +You can always come back to your Word document, or your pad and pen(cil). And for you non-Microsofters...I'm sorry, I don't know what you use. Point is...if you want to write, just do it. Sometimes it takes awhile for inspiration to strike. If it doesn't come naturally, or you're feeling lousy because your last story didn't do well, maybe just let a little time pass. Sometimes it's just what the proverbial doc ordered. These stories and characters are extensions of ourselves. And it does feel validating when people like them. So my final piece of advice is...and this might seem crazy, but hear (read) me out: just _assume_ the Readers like them. At least a little. Clearly, not everyone's going to _love_ what you put out there. You can't assume that. But even something small in the story—a character quirk, a bit of body language, a cute, clever turn of phrase... _some_ body's going to enjoy _some_ thing. Take comfort in it. Know and be confident you're putting out something you believe in, that means something to you. And even if no feedback rolls in, imagine the Reader just sitting by her/himself awhile, finishing your story with a smile. Maybe a giggle, maybe an ""awww""...maybe even a tear. You may not be aware of it, but someone's life _might_ just be made a little brighter, or more inspired, because you placed a fictitious character on their screen and in their life...who figuratively and literally spoke to them in just the right way." +853,Tips to Save Money,JagFarlane,How To,2013-02-21,2013-02-21,2022-01-04 08:40:57,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-to-save-money,A couple of ideas to start saving money.,"['Cooking', 'Money']",4.28,"Yup, another article written on how to save you money, but it's such an important topic that it's worth at least another look at. I realize a lot of folks are just now looking at how to save themselves some money but really I think we should just work the ideas into our everyday lives. What I'm going to discuss here is what should be a fairly simple way to put aside some money and can, if you wish it to, have the ability to help make your life a bit healthier. That way, of course, is by cooking your own meals. The other way to cut down on the bills, for those already accustomed to cooking, is to learn to use everything. +I think it kind of scares me, not at the number of people who go out to eat all the time, but the number of especially younger generation that can't cook to save their lives. Cooking used to be considered a basic skill and yet for some reason or another the amount of people that do cook seems to have gone down. A significant part of the reason that it seems to be a declining trend is the amount of time that people have available to them. We are all very busy and I am no different in that aspect, I assure you, but if saving money is your goal you'll need to learn to make the time for it. +How much money can one save by cooking? Well in a bit of an over the top, but very real demonstration this past Valentine's Day my significant other and I had a surf and turf dinner which we cooked ourselves. The menu included porterhouse steaks, lobster tails, baked potatoes, and grilled summer squash. The total sum we paid for this was under twenty-five dollars and a comparable meal at the local chain steakhouse would have easily run us sixty-eight dollars plus drinks, tax, and tip. Huge difference but remember the restaurant has to pay rent, utilities, taxes, salaries, and still make a profit so that's part of what you're paying for. +One more advantage of cooking our own meal was being able to avoid the dinner rush at the restaurants. Even on non-holidays restaurants can get slammed during the dinner hours making for long waits and of course you always run the risk of getting bad service. +But I've digressed too much, at any rate learning to cook is the first step in saving a lot of money, even just every day cooking can save quite a bit of money. Ever tried to make spaghetti? Seriously it's as easy as putting noodles into a pot of boiling water for a few minutes and heating up a jar of sauce and significantly cheaper than going out to an Italian restaurant. Stews are just mixes of vegetables, some spices, and some sort of cut up meat. Throw it in a crock pot on low for eight or so hours and there is dinner. Do yourself a favor and just look up some easy, basic recipes give them a try and enjoy. +For those already familiar with cooking there are two things I'd suggest trying, cooking with more basic ingredients and using everything that you paid for. It's a bit scary when one thinks about how many useable items we throw out because we're not sure what to do with it. Also, a lot of prepared foods tend to cost quite a bit more than buying and using more basic ingredients and with a little extra time we can save quite a bit of money. +Using basic ingredients is a first step, learning to make our own pancake mix and breads for example. It really doesn't take much longer than pulling out the bag to make pancake batter and in the case of bread, machines can make the process much smoother and quicker. You'll also find that by making your own mixes and such that you're cutting out a lot of unnecessary ingredients that manufacturers put in for appearance and long term preservation. +The bigger issue I think is in learning to use everything, the biggest example is in the use of bones. Most people I know will throw out things like the bones from a ham or a chicken. The ham is a little easier to work with so I'll go over that one but the basics can be used on any other sort of bone, it may just take more work. +The ham bone and often the chunk of fattier meat around it tend to be thrown out after people serve the preferred cuts off the ham. Why this is, well I suppose people just don't think about what they could do with it. Instead of throwing out the bone, throw it into a large pot with water and bring it to a boil. Allow the bone and water to simmer for a few hours until you've made a nice, ham broth. Take the bone out, return in a little bit of small pieces of ham, a bag of rehydrated split peas, some cut up carrots and potatoes, and you have a split pea soup. Not a difficult task by far and it makes use of a part that most people throw out. +Really, saving money is something I think just about everyone is interested in and honestly there are so many ways to do it that it would take a series of books to go over it. I hope though, that you take away a few ideas or at least have become interested enough to start looking around at things in a different light as to what they could be used for. Cooking just happens to be one of the largest things that many people can take up changes in to save them money. Thanks for reading and good luck in the kitchen!" +854,To Slay a Vampire,Sean Renaud,How To,2009-03-15,2009-03-15,2022-01-04 08:40:57,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/to-slay-a-vampire,A basic survival guide for other kind of undead.,"['Survive', 'Vampires']",4.25,"I should start by telling you that I don't actually think you're a dummy. Vampire slaying can be a very daunting task your first time out and it requires a lot of skills that most people build up over a life time. If you're reading this book you obviously don't have the time to learn these skills gradually. Perhaps your brother was turned into a vampire and you need to kill the head vampire before it becomes permanent. Maybe you've been bitten yourself. Whatever the reason is that you're getting ready to embark upon this quest you shouldn't go unprepared. +We'll start with the basics because that's what's most important. Getting through the second encounter. I say the second encounter because since you've lived long enough to read this you've already survived your first encounter. Congratulations. Ninety nine point nine (repeating of course) percent of people fail what you've accomplished. You have survived a vampire. So go pour yourself a drink, you're going to need it. +We should start by identifying the precise species of vampire you've encountered. Yes there are several different species of vampire and knowing exactly what you're up against makes a lot of difference as to what equipment you should carry. Right now I would recommend hanging cloves of garlic from all the windows and doors of your house as well as pouring salt along those entrances. If you have a welcome mat or anything welcoming people into your home displayed outside bring them inside right now. These are only precautions they do not protect you against all species of vampire but you're better off with these things in place. I'll start by describing the most common species. If you encounter and survive a new species please notify me so I can adjust this list. Lives depend on it. +Vampirus Buffus: One of the more common species since the late nineties is Vampirus Buffus. This is good because they are one of the weaker species of vampire. They have no special powers of shape shifting or hypnosis. They aren't especially strong either. They can be killed by decapitation, fire, sunlight or a stake through the heart. Upon death they turn to dust. Crosses work against this species burning them like touching a hot iron. You should take into account that it's just a hot iron you're waving around if the vampire wants you bad enough he'll bat it away or even let you burn him so he can kill you. There are also a few twisted ones who get off on pain. Holy water has a similar effect. There is a single known subspecies of this breed known as a Turokon. They are much stronger and their hearts are encased in bone making it difficult to pierce. +Vampirus Bladicus: This is another common species. It is similar to the Vampirus Buffus in that decapitation or UV rays are fatal to this breed. Like Vampirus Buffus they have no shape shifting or hypnosis. Wooden stakes just piss them off so don't waist your time. Silver bullets will kill them and is the preferred method of destruction. There is a formula that I am no privy to that will make their heads exploded. I personally don't recommend searching for this because honestly silver bullets will suffice. This species is very fast, able to dodge bullets even at close range if they are aware of your attack. There is also a known subspecies of Vampirus Bladicus with a barbed tongue. The subspecies is only vulnerable to UV radiation. +Vampirus Stokus: While increasingly uncommon in number this is your most basic vampire. They can be killed in all of the ways mentioned previous to this entry. In addition they can not cross directly over water. They can change into mist, bats and wolves seemingly at will and must sleep during the day unlike the previous species which must avoid sunlight but can otherwise remain active during the day. +Vampirus Hellinius: You're screwed. No pure human has ever survived combat with one of these monsters so if you've seen one and lived it's for a reason. +There are several other species of vampire that are only known in certain regions. Eventually texts will be written to identify such beasts as the Kami No Oni, the Japanesse vampire that must count anything placed in front of it before moving on which is fortunate in a land where rice is a staple part of the diet. Just throw dinner on the floor and escape. I will also explain now to defeat a Lenku Gar, the African vampire. It's not a true vampire, it eats skin rather than drink blood. Very gross. +Now I'll explain to you the weaknesses of various vampires so you can be better able to protect yourself. This is just going to be a quick list of weapons and protective to keep on yourself at all times. +Crosses are only effective about fifty percent of the time but since you can pick on up on a necklace at your nearest store for a few bucks I recommend it. It is important that the cross be visible in order to have it' effect. +Holy Water is again only effective fifty percent of the time. If your cross works there is a good chance that Holy Water will as well. If you find yourself in this position I recommend asking your local priest to bless as much water as you can. Trust me on this Holy Water Balloons are far more effective than Holy Hand Grenades. Particularly because there is no counting involved. +Wooden Stakes are a staple and often times slay the vampire outright. However if the body does not turn to dust I recommend decapitation AND cremation. There is a reason for this. Some species like Stokus aren't slain by a stake to the heart. Instead it pins them to the earth. If someone removes it the vampire can attack you and he'll be upset. If you decapitate him and that doesn't kill him and someone removes the stake he might throw his head at you. In my experience a flying head with teeth is an unpleasant thing to have thrown at you. Cremation may not happen fast enough. If the stake burns before the vampire does you have a flaming vampire coming after you. A friend of mine had third degree burns over half his body because he failed to take this precaution and had to wrestle a flaming vampire. Fortunately he had another stake on him and was able to defeat his attacker. +Silver doesn't work very often but when it does it solves all of your problems. Since it's also useful against werewolves, which occasionally are found in the employ or more recently at war with vampires I recommend having some around. Silver bullets are best but expensive. Silver arrowheads and a crossbow is cheaper because you can retrieve and reuse your ammunition. If you're trained with a sword lining it with silver is also a viable plan. +Fire and sunlight work on all known species of vampire which is good. If you've got a flame thrower you're pretty much set. For the rest of us orange juice concentrate mixed with gasoline makes for a good substitute for napalm. UV flashlights are also available and make a fine deterrent and even weapon in some cases. You should have a flashlight in your anti-zombie kit and in your earthquake kit as well I recommend you spring the extra for UV just encase this situation should occur. +You're human though and that means you're probably on the defense here. Your first line of defense is your home. The Buffus and Stokus species are unable to enter a home uninvited. However if they are invited they can enter anytime after that. So never invite strangers into your home at night. This only applies to a residence a store is a public place and thus all are invited by the nature of the place. Some hunters and slayer have suggested that a welcome mat at your front door counts as an invitation which is why I recommend removing these during an encounter, and in general not having them. Get something with a bunny rabbit or God Bless but nothing that could count as an invitation. +You're second line of defense is daylight. All vampires are weak during the day and this is when you should attack if you must and when you should escape if you can. There isn't much to tell you about sunlight. It has been noted that if you live above the Artic Circle where the sun can set for weeks at a time you're fucked. It can also be noted that if you live in a place like Seattle where it always rains. . .honestly you were going to kill yourself sooner or later anyway. I recommend you feed yourself to the vampire to keep it out of my neighborhood. +Salt, garlic and other cooking items are usually worthless but in some cases a vampire may be unable to cross a line of salt. Since you can make a line of salt beneath your carpet there is no reason not to be covered in this aspect but it probably won't work. Garlic is the same way, often useless but you can try it if you like. However if you must use food in your defense I recommend eggplant. Why eggplant? Because it's disgusting and I hope that any self respecting vampire would refuse to eat anybody who eats eggplant. +That about covers your offense and defense. You can identify a vampire species through its powers and weaknesses which will allow you to kill it when the time comes. So all that's left is how do you locate the vampire to kill? There are three popular methods none of which I recommend but I will tell you them anyway. The first is to use yourself as bait. If you're a woman go wear your best ""come bite me"" outfit. It's the same one that makes human males want to bite you, if you need assistance choosing please send me pictures, remember your life may depend on this. I will respond. Then you wait to be attacked and slay the vampire. This only works in movies for girls with super powers. The rest of us cannot safely employ this method. +The second method involves letting the vampire feed and then following it back to its lair then attacking some time during the day. The advantage to this plan is that you can attack during the day which makes the vampire easier to deal with. The real flaw in this plan is vampires are fast so you might not be able to keep up, they are also very intelligent and may have know you are tracking them. If they are not sleeping during the day you may just have delivered them a midday snack. Just like you appreciate it when the pizza man shows up I the middle of the night with a free pizza vampires appreciate people who show up midday without proper planning. +The third and least common method is also he newest. It involves tracking the beast based on locating its hunting ground and working out the most likely location for it's lair. Just like those UCLA professors found Osama Bin Ladin using human migration patterns the same thing works on vampires. This method is safe, but I don't recommend it because it's imprecise and leads to people getting sloppy. Basically it narrows it down to a specific neighborhood but it then you have to go door to door. People get mad when you douse them with water for no good reason. Worse you get bored after the first three houses. +My favorite method is to let the word out that you know about the vampire and call him out. He'll come to you, and you can set your home up as a giant vampire trap. You'll have home court advantage, you'll have weapons stashed for your immediate use and best of all traps. Walk through the wrong door? BAM bucket of Holy Water falls on your head. Take that Dracula! Turn on the light so you can see? UV rays for growing my weed! How do you like me now Count? +Remember that as long as the vampire still has a body there is still a chance that it will return. So if whatever method you chose to employ didn't destroy the body utterly you must. As mentioned earlier always decapitate and cremate the corpse. If you're feeling especially thorough you can mix the ashes with salt and Holy Water and then bury the remains on hallowed ground. +If you have a specific question not answered here please leave a comment or write me directly. The information I can give you may be what saves your life. Happy hunting." +855,To Survive Dinotopia,Sean Renaud,How To,2013-10-13,2013-10-13,2022-01-04 08:40:58,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/to-survive-dinotopia,If Dinos comeback are you prepared?,['Dinosaurs'],2.67,"We've been down this road before and before the end we'll be down this road again. I've told you how best to survive zombies, werewolves, vampires, kaiju and robots. For a lot of these things I cannot emphasis the basics heavily enough. Which is why even if it sounds a bit like a broken record or a nineteen eighties rapper, take your pick, I have to remind you to cover the essentials first because you won't have time to gather the essentials once you're balls or ovaries deep in a world altering disaster. So make sure you have the following. +•A knife: I personally recommend two, the first being a Kabar, the knife of choice of the military and for good reason. The second being a Swiss Army knife. You never know when you might need something random. +•First Aid Kit: This is the end of the world we're talking about. You or someone close to you is going to need first aid kit. It might be for the pain killers, it might be for the disinfectant, it might be for the butterfly bandages. I would also highly recommend you take a basic first aid class. +•Extra clothing: I can't predict the future and neither can you. Whether your shirt was shredded by rampages zombies, a turn of weather made it too cold for that skimpy two piece you wear when you think nobody is watching or you find a naked girl sleeping in the woods. Regardless you can't go wrong with extra clothing. I would also suggest more clothing than less. A lot of you are thinking a big bulky jacket'll do ya and it might. But you're better off with layers that can be added and removed as the circumstances change than an all or nothing approach. Trust me you'll regret it. +•Raingear: Again unless you can predict the future, control the weather or both you're better prepared than not. Now here is a place where I personally take a few short cuts. I'm a fan of a can of scotch guard and the next time you have a pair of pants your about to throw out make em waterproof. Same with a sweater or long sleeve shirt. Alternatively you can always rip a a couple of holes in a trash bag and call it a day. Sure you'll look like a dork but this is the end of the world not Sunday Chuch! Also you might find other uses for trash bags down the line. +•Water: I recommend no less than two gallons. How you store it is up to you. I tend to use jugs but I've seen very compelling arguments that water bags are better because once they are empty you can roll them up to save space. +•Flashlight: I think I'll simply ask you a question dear reader. Can you see in the dark? That's what I thought. Now before I move on I'm going to briefly mention something. If you've spent your entire life in the city you don't actually know what darkness is. While there is no substitution for the real thing the closest you're likely to get in your home is to wait until the dead of night and turn off everything electric in the house. Everything. That's darkness. Don't expect that the stars and the moon will provide the kind of light they do on television. It's better than nothing of course but you could very easily walk right off a cliff in the dark. Which would render the other items on this list moot. +•Trail Mix: Okay I don't like trail mix and really it's a short term plan anyway. Basically it boils down to your body metabolizing candies faster than nuts and grains so a mix of the two should give you immediate energy and lasting energy. Still since I'm talking about surviving an apocalypse not hiking the Grand Canyon. (As I write this quite possibly the last people to ever hike the Grand Canyon have been expelled. Thanks Obama!) +•Sun protection: Again this is kinda short term thinking. It won't last forever but it can be vital in those first days. I recommend having enough clothing and a wide brimmed hat though so you can simply cover your flesh. Whatever you may think about the Middle Easterners you should be able to accept that they know a thing or two about surviving a desert and if it works for people in Iraq it'll serve you just fine. +•Map and compass: This last one is one that I'm extremely hesitant to suggest but I'm told by my colleagues that I would be remiss in not mentioning it and ultimately got argued down. (See I let you guys win sometimes!) Personally I think that unless I dump you out in the middle of the wilderness a map and compass is a lot less useful than a street map and you don't need a compass to use a street map. By contrast if you are dropped in the middle of nowhere and you don't know how to properly use a map and compass you're probably more likely to hurt yourself than anything else. +Okay that's our standard bit of information that I really hate to repeat but it's been a while and my co-conspirators keep telling me that I have way way too much fun with these and I completely forget that repetition is the key to memory. So yeah go read that list again. Good. I hope you're taking notes they'll be a quiz at the end! +Anyway I've yet to tell you how to survive an onslaught of the most dangerous creatures ever walk the face the earth. These were creatures who's bones inspired the legends of dragons. Who to this day inspires the modern day mythmakers known as movie magicians to put out some of their most inspired works. We're talking of beasts so enormous in scope that it's difficult to fathom them as human beings. We're talking of course about the mighty thunder lizards. Dinosaurs. +Now we have to start with a little bit of the science involved here mostly so I confuse you too much but also so you can earn that neat little golden star when you school someone. So the first thing you should know is that dinosaurs come from a period of geological history known as Cenozoic Era. The Cenozic Era was made up of three separate and distinct portions called Sentences. The first, known as the Cambrian saw fish, insects and early amphibians. The second, known as the Jurassic was the time of the dinosaurs which was followed by the Mesozoic era which is famous for the Mammoths and Sabretoothed tigers. We'll be focused of course on the Jurassic. +Next lets briefly cover the fact that there are some things that are not dinosaurs that are commonly referred to as dinosaurs. Dinosaurs exclusively walk. If it doesn't walk it's not a dinosaur. The flying ones are pterosaurs and they have no living relatives today. The swimming ones are plesiosaurs and they gave way to modern day crocodiles. As far as anybody can tell pterosaurs probably ate fish so yeah. They probably won't screw with you if you don't screw with them. I might avoid swimming too just in case. Plesiosaurs probably hunted the same way crocodiles do. So if you're near the water and you think that log has been eyin you the wrong way. I'd probably just take a few big steps back and if it starts casually floating away all of a sudden considered yourself saved. That's all I have to say about those two types for today. +Okay, now when it comes to survival first you need to learn to identify what you're up against. If you have to make a snap judgment about what kind of enormous lizard you're stuck with you can probably make a good guess just by counting how many legs it walks on. If it walks on two legs like a chicken or a turkey assume it wants to eat your spleen. I don't care if it's cute and covered in ruffley feathers or hideous and covered in scales. Two feet equals murder machine and remember these were killers that survived sixty five million years, that's longer than all of your evolutionary ancestors combined! They were the very best at what they did and what they did wasn't pretty. If they've got four legs there is good news. They eat plants. With the exception of Dimetrodon and. . .look if you see something with a huge sail on it's back I just run while the running is good. The bad news I'll get into a little later. Those are your basic right there. Two legs eat meat, four legs eat plants. +Before we start breaking them down though we might as well talk about your general rules that will keep you safe against virtually any dino. These are ground rules but if you know better don't follow them because they are only true ninety percent of the time. The other ten they are almost immediately fatal. So lets cover them real quick. +Dinosaur's vision is based on movement: It's more accurate to say nearly all vertebrate vision is based on motion. Even yours. Think about how many things you don't notice until they start moving even when someone is pointing right at it. Of course that means holding still great is your reasonably concealed. If you choose to stand in the middle of an abandoned freeway hoping the dinosaur won't see you all I'll say is I hope he's just finished eating a goat and a lawyer and thus is more curious about you than hungry cus otherwise you're so boned. +Dinosaur's hate fire. That is true and it might work against some of the smaller ones but many of the larger ones will react the way modern elephants and rhinos do. Stomp it out. Just be aware of what you're getting into before lighting a fire. Also remember that if you're in enemy territory never face your own fire. It kills your night vision. +Dinosaur's are stupid. Well they are stupid the same way squirrels, roaches and dolphins are. Which is to mean smart enough to completely blow through anything you set up thinking they are stupid. +Dinosaur's can't swim. I know this kinda contradicts what I said earlier which is the only reason I'm mentioning it here. First when your trying to avoid getting eaten do you really care if it's a dinosaur or a plesiosaur? I dropped that knowledge on you to expand your mind! Not save your life. Second most dinosaurs had large powerful tails and could likely swim reasonably well. The only thing here is don't think you're safe because you're on a boat, island, opposite riverbank. +I think that covers it all. +First we're going to cover the meat eaters, for obvious reasons. On the off chance that you're reading this while in the middle of a Jurassic Resurrection you want to get to the important part first. So lets talk sizes. The small chicken sized ones are known as compys. I could bore you with the facts or just fill you in on the details. They probably can't hurt you, not any more than a modern day chicken can or will. There are some rumors they might be poisonous though. That's just stuff you learn if you learned all your science from children's cartoons though. The next size up roughly dog sized is the velociraptor (go look it up. Crichton was smart but he either mixed up to species made a mistake or simply realized six foot raptors were more intimidating than dog sized ones. It's possible it's a combination of all three of these things.) They were pack hunters. Of course there is no way of knowing how sophisticated their hunting strategies may have been. We do know they had feathers like birds and could probably glide instead of fly like their ancestors would be able to do. So I'd keep an eye on trees encase they like to hunt in a fashion similar to the modern drop bear of Australia. Finally the two larger than that, the Allosaurus at roughly ten feet at the shoulder and the Tyrannosaurus at just under fifteen. The allosaurs were truly nature's perfect killing machines. Jaws that snap and jaws that trap, claws that rend until the end. If this is the creature your facing the good news is you'll go quick. The bad news your best plan was to have avoided a close encounter. The T-Rex on the other hand has those itty bitty little arms. It couldn't even jerk itself off or scratch it's own chin. Nearly every dinosaur science person thinks that they were probably sluggish scavengers who's primary skill was an outstanding sense of smell comparable to a modern day blood hound. +Okay that covers that for now on to the plant eaters. +The plant eaters are basically broke down into three major types. Long Necks, Three Horns and Spike tails. The Long Necks are fairly famous, long neck, long tail, you couldn't possibly mistake them in the wild. The good news is there little evidence they would intentionally try to harm a human being. However much like elephants are terrified of mice they might panic at the sight of a human. As long as you make absolutely certain that it's seen you and knows you've seen it you should fine but maintain eye contact. The second are the Three Horns. Much like modern day water buffalo these were the pricks of the ancient world and will run you down and squash you into paste for fun. Fortunately like modern bulls they have poor reflexes. All you have to do is dodge until they get their horns stuck in a tree or they knock themselves silly on a wall. Of course if you're out in the open your only hope is to leap onto it's back and ride it until it accepts you as it's master and allows you to ride it. After that it will never again try to harm you. If you screw up though you'll get gored by several ton rhino. Not a good look. The final known plant dinosaur are the spike tails and very little is known about these mysterious creatures. What is known is that if your tail is covered in spikes, you've got a brain the size of a walnut and an extra brain in your butt that you might be a formidable foe. My personal experience with the majestic beasts is that you should simply give it a wide berth. +Okay. We're at the end and since you've listened to me for years I'm going to tell you two things. First you can never be over prepared when it comes to your back up system. There is some Doomsday Castle show floating around that shows you how a bunch of whiny bitches gear up but they are reasonably prepared. Regardless how to build your stronghold is based on your personal resources. Can't build a moat without lots of water and all. +P.S.: Covering yourself in T-Rex Piss won't help. You want the top predator not the King of the Whores. +OOC: There are absolutely no inaccuracies in this document. If you have found one you must have heard crazy things. " +856,Tokyo Transculture Pt. 01,sunsecrets,How To,2020-08-25,2020-08-25,2022-01-04 08:40:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tokyo-transculture-pt-01,A Summer adventurer is in Tokyo for the LGBTQ shrines.,"['Foursome', 'Gay Male', 'Group', 'Group Sex', 'Interracial', 'Panties', 'Training']",4.0,"During a summer Japan grad course in Tokyo, I had a small (and expensive) student room in the attic of an old house that had the oddest compartments. Also in the attic were a girl, a pretty girl, from Germany, and a Japanese boy from San Francisco -- each with a small room opening onto our shared kitchen/sitting room and giving onto a washroom and a small balcony. The view of the local park and Kanayama Shrine was wonderful but I couldn't escape the sensational views of my pretty fellow lodger. She knew my feelings -- probably better than I did, and she wasn't shy. And the Japanese lodger seemed very nice too. +In sharing the washroom, there was not much modesty: the glass to the shower was frosted but the girl only wrapped a towel around herself when she came out and that had quite a number of shortcomings in terms of what was wrap-able and she was casual in how it was all done up. I wasn't shy either and the boys made a point of wandering around in the heat either nude or nearly nude and she was casual about that too. Toshi was quiet but very warm towards me. +Supposedly we were there to study Japanese religious customs in the Kanayama fertility cult but Suzi Q -- she told me that was her name -- had smiled and said she was doing that the easy way although what that meant wasn't clear and I felt very keen to find out how to do things easily. Then after a week or so, Suzi came back from shopping carrying some packages and was followed by a very special-looking lady. She was Chinese, old --maybe 35 or so, but she had a great figure and not much of it was hidden by her light yellow silk dress. Suzi nodded meaningfully and said this was Jade. She was really graceful with poise and confidence that I rarely see in ladies: I guessed she knew more about men than anyone else in town and she was going to be charming about it. +I wasn't wearing much, just shorts, but the lady was so reassuring and friendly I felt I didn't have to hide or apologize. Suzi said her friend had come over a few years ago to bring knowledge of her Guanyin customs and didn't speak English too well and might want some help so she could help non-Japanese visitors better. As Suzi spoke, the lady bent over slightly to move a cushion on our kitchen bench and then turned and sat delicately, her short hemline easing up her thigh and suggesting she also would be casual about wrapping shortcomings. She looked at me appraisingly and I smiled back. She gestured kindly and I joined her on the little bench. Suzi made us some green tea and then disappeared into her room with the packages. +Jade took my hand and looked at my palm very carefully, gently stroking my middle finger: ""Thick,"" she said, ""and long,"" with a suggestive smile. Then she made a motion for me to flex my bicep muscle and then grinned as she squeezed it: 'You are very strong,' she murmured, with what must have been a Chinese-German accent. That made me feel quite strong indeed. I wondered what compliment I could offer back, when Suzi, transformed, reappeared dressed up as an college girl but in a light dress similar to Jade and when the two of them stood together, Jade was also transformed with a new mood into a very respectable lady. +As they left, they handed me a little parcel as a gift and then floated down the stairs. They were away for a few days. The parcel contained three pairs of panties for boys -- black, white, and pink. I didn't know what to do with them so just put them on my bureau. I heard Toshi come out of his room and open the fridge door so I went out to sit with him. He was smaller than me and a year or two younger but probably a lot more sophisticated. Judging by the clothes he wore, he was quite a liberated boy, besides being slim and handsome. He looked pleased to see me and he looked great in his semi-transparent black nylon shortie house-jacket: I couldn't tell right away if he wore anything underneath it. I grinned and said I liked his coat and he gave a little swish to show it off. Caught up in the moment, I said Suzi and her friend had given me something that might go well with his coat and his eyebrows went up inquiringly. Emboldened, I went back to my room and picked up the panties. They felt very sexy and they had a special stretchy front to support my balls. I decided to be bold and I took down my shorts and slid on the white panties: my cock thickened and began to rise but I went out anyway. Toshi looked very pleased to see me and brightened a lot when I held out the black panties for him. He took them gracefully and opened his little coat. He wasn't wearing anything underneath and his penis was on the way to erection, sticking straight out. He waggled it at me as he slipped on the panties and adjusted them to fit around his balls and put his cock upright in the stretchy material. +""Just right for Inari Okami,"" he grinned. ""You know the fertility rites at Kanayama?"" +""I can guess about the rites from the huge penis statue outside. How does that affect us?"" +""The ladies have gone to get the right costumes -- for us too. We will go to Asakusabashi and join the LGBTQ celebrations. The boys dress up as girls and so on. It is a very ancient custom. We will drink amazaki -- the sperm liquid. Have you tasted sperm before? You can buy it to help you get used to the taste. Maybe Jade only drinks amazaki or real sperm -- several times a day - but I think she must have meals in the shrine as well. She is the temple expert on helping foreign newcomers."" +I knew I had a lot to learn but now I felt more confident that I would find the courage explore amazing new dimensions in my life. +GO ON TO PART 2" +857,A Tongue Lashing: An Essay,rrickgauer,How To,2006-05-16,2006-05-16,2022-01-04 08:25:27,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/a-tongue-lashing-an-essay,A how-to on cunnilingus.,"['Female Oral Sex', 'How To Eat Pussy', 'Oral Sex Advice', 'Sex Advice']",4.47,"**A Tongue Lashing: An Essay On The Game Of Oral Stimulation** +""Seriously, this was the best oral sex I have ever had performed on me and as you know I have been licked by the best. I just wish he'd stop calling me."" \- Jenna Jameson +""I was blind folded in a kind Pepsi Challenge for pussy lickers and I actually picked him over some of the best lesbian pussy lickers on the planet earth."" \-- anonymous lesbian +""I never thought a tongue could replace a good stiff cock, but goddamn his tongue is worth a thousand cocks."" \- - paid advertisement +""I always knew he'd amount to something like this just by the way he used to lick a popsicle."" \- - author's mother +""With so many young girlfriends I had to turn to the master for help. I just didn't understand why he had to show me 'personally' on each and every girl."" \- - Hugh Hefner +""You must have ze passion for ze oral sex,"" Dr. Will Lickinzer of the Tung Sex Institute of Ames, Iowa said. ""It is ze key to performance. If you don't love ze pussy, the pussy won't love you back."" +I have to agree with the good Doc about having a passion for performing oral sex on a woman. Like anything in life when you perform with a passion you perform to your utmost. Think how you feel when a woman performs oral sex on you and you know she's really into it. There's nothing quite like it. So why wouldn't a woman want to feel the same way? You could make the argument that men are always ready and into it, but that doesn't mean they are prepared. +So how do you get prepared? Study and practice. Bone up on your reading about oral sex. You can find an infinite amount on the internet. Watch porn films where women perform on other women. Who would know better and what better way to learn? And it's a turn on. +Then you have to practice and experiment. What other subject can top cunnilingus for preparation and practice. I can't think of any. +Just think of it as a baseball game. There's no clock running and if you have to go into extra innings it only means you'll have more chances to hit a home run. It's the bottom of the ninth, the score is tied, there are two outs, the bases are loaded and your up to bat...swing for the fences. + **First base: Don't rush** +Starting out can be the most important part of the game. Relaxation is the key here. Getting a woman to relax before performing oral sex on her can make all the difference. Offer a back massage or a foot massage or rub her shoulders. Make this act as sensual as possible. And I don't mean substituting your penis for your hands. If you are really into your woman you'll already know what I mean. Hell, rubbing her fucking calves is a turn on, baby. If you understand that then you are on your way. If not...WORK ON IT This is your gateway to more sex. +On your path to relaxation let's just say you choose a foot massage to get your woman in the mood. I've found the best position is to let your woman sit in a nice, plush chair behind you while sit on the floor in front of her. This way she can drape her legs over your shoulders, you have easy access to both of her feet and she can watch, say, a movie with Johnny Depp in it. As much as you hate watching the little fag if it gets her in the mood...fuck it, watch too. +I use baby oil because it's so much cheaper than some of those massage oils, but if money is of no consequence, then knock yourself out with scented oils. +I start with one foot at a time, draping it over the appropriate shoulder. Cup one hand, fill it with a modest amount of oil, rub both hands together and then lather the foot so your fingers slid easily over the skin and between the toes. The easier your hand and fingers slid the easier it is on your lower arms. Rub the oil into all parts of the foot; in between the toes, the Achilles tendon, the ball of the foot, the heel, in between the ankle bones and into the arch (the most sensitive and erogenous part of the foot). Alternate between both feet for at least twenty minutes or more. Remember, this is not a race. Take your time and don't rush. The more you're into it, the more she'll be into it. + **Second Base: Don't Forget The Breasts** +Once the massaging part of your seduction is over towel her feet dry of oil. Once that is done you turn around and, surprise, you are already between her legs. Now don't get ahead of yourself here. We're still in seduction mode. Move slowly up her torso, kissing her body like she's the hottest woman on earth. And by God, at that point, if she isn't then you need a lobotomy. While you're kissing your way up her body take time to pause and look her over. Look at her like your ten years old and it's Christmas morning and you just opened a present you wanted but never, in a million years, thought you would get. She could be dressed in an old tee, pajama bottoms and white socks, but to you it's Victoria's Secret. +Move close to her face and kiss her with a controlled passion. Kiss her to let her know you are so turned on you can barely control yourself; but this is about her so you are in control because the only thing that matters is pleasing her. Kiss her and in your mind pretend it is her pussy. Give her a taste of what is about to come. +Move back and look her body over once again, moving you hands over her. Not groping, but caressing, working your way down to her breasts. Move her top up over her breasts, feel them, caress them, run your tongue over them paying particular attention to the nipples. Lick around the areola, over the nipple, along the underside of the breast. Lightly rake your teeth over the nipple if she likes that. Cup them in your hands (if she likes them handled a bit more roughly please accommodate), roll the nipples between your fingers, suck it into your mouth and flick the nipple with your tongue. Alternate back and forth. Never underestimate the erogenous nature of the breast and nipple. +Now kiss you way down to the top of her pajama bottoms, maybe taking the material in your teeth and pulling them down. Reach around to the sides and slowly remove them. Take time to stare at her panties; stare at them because you know what's underneath. Cup your hand over the pelvic bone and press against the heat of her warm pussy. Slid your hand down to feel her lips under the material; feel the slight dampness. Move your face closer and run your tongue over the same area. Push your face into her vulva, all the while sliding your fingers under the sides of her panties and slowly inching them down until they are around her knees. Move back, looking at her and slid her panties of the rest of the way. + **Third Base: That Beautiful Pussy** +Now that her beautiful pussy is exposed just take a good long look at it; savor it because in a matter of seconds you will be up close and personal with God's greatest creation. +Remember that no two pussies are alike. They all have their own beauty about them. It's your job to find what's beautiful about the pussy staring you in the face. Maybe it has long lips or tight lips or a hooded clit or an exposed clit. Whatever it is...let her know. +The inside of a woman's thighs are two things: soft and very sensitive. They are a great starting and ending point. There is plenty of area to start getting her in the mood. Lick all around the thighs and every once in awhile skim or breath heavily over the vulva. There is absolutely no rush to get to the clit. Trust me, it will wait. Always keep in mind the sooner you jump in the sooner it will end. If your like me you love satisfying your woman orally and I'm never in a hurry to get it over with. I, literally, could spends hours down there. +After you have paid ample attention to the area in and around her pussy - and remember if your woman is one who doesn't mind her anal area attended to, and you're up for it, give that some well deserved attention - and you're finally ready to lick that pussy just remember variety is the spice of cunnilingus. Don't think of her pussy as just her clit as the main source of orgasm. Sure, that may be the way she comes, but there's so many other things you can do to lead up to that point. You have ten fingers, or eight fingers and two thumbs, so put them to good use. Use them to insert, spread, rub, flick, caress and stroke. Rub your face over her. Some women like clean shaven men, some may like a day old growth of beard. Performing good oral sex on a woman is so much more than just using your tongue. +But let's face it, the tongue is your main weapon. So let's move on to some techniques. Try opening your mouth like you're saying ""Oh"" and then place over the clit. From here you can move your tongue back and forth, up and down. Pretend you're giving her pussy a French kiss. Pretend it's her mouth and her clit is her tongue. Move your tongue over her clit in long strokes. Move back and position your mouth at a different angle, or a different location. Move your mouth over the vaginal opening and push your tongue in as far as you can. Move your mouth down to her perineum and tongue the area between the ass and her lips. The best advice I ever heard about licking a pussy came from a woman - some porn queen I think - she said, ""Lick that pussy like you're licking an ice cream cone."" If you can remember that simple fact you'll do alright. Nice long strokes of your tongue up and down the length. And remember an ice cream cone eventually starts to melt so you have to lick it sideways and quicker strokes and sometimes you have to put your lips over the top and suck it in. +Some women like more friction on the clit and some like less. Some like your tongue stuck inside and some don't. Some like their lips sucked into your mouth, some don't. It's your job to know what works and what doesn't. Nothing is a bigger turn on than hearing a woman moan when you've done something right. Of course don't stick with that for too long. Experiment, she ain't gonna mind. +Eventually get your fingers involved for the finale. Get enough salvia in and around the vulva so when you finally decide to slid a finger in, it will slid in easily. No wasted motion. If your fingers are long enough search for the infamous G-spot. If you find it you'll be a God among men. And women. If your woman likes a finger in her anus then slid one in there too. But if your woman doesn't like a finger or two inside her, then just continue on with your tongue. + **Home Run: Home Run** +By this time you should be able to determine if your woman is ready to climax or not. Of course heavy breathing and moaning, grabbing the sides of your head and thrusting hips would also be key indicators. I think this is the most crucial time. Crucial because it can either make or break the intensity of the orgasm. There is no substitute for repetition here. If you've performed on one woman many times you will already know what works best. If not, as long as you've put in the time prior, the first time can be fantastic in its own way. +So you sense it is time for your woman to come. Some women like the tempo increased, some might just like a light flicking of the tongue over her clit, or maybe she likes your tongue pressed flat against the entire clitoral area, moving your tongue back and forth, moving your fingers in and out until she comes. I love this part other than I know it's coming to an end. +Some women may get sensitive just like men do after they come. Some women are ready for more. If your woman is multi-orgasmic then you may just be getting started. Some women - since you're in a perfect position - like to have you enter them right after the orgasm because it will intensify the aftereffects and could lead to another orgasm from the inside. You should be so lucky. +After the dust has settled let your woman know that was fantastic. No words are needed. Go back to licking and kissing her thighs, grateful for the privilege to be that close to the holiest of holies; grateful she has let you please her in such an intimate way; grateful you're such a team player." +858,Top 10 List for Cockteasing Touches,Sappholovers,How To,2009-04-29,2009-04-29,2022-01-04 08:41:00,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/top-10-list-for-cockteasing-touches,Ways to have him in the palm of your hand.,['Sex Advice'],4.15,"10\. The Handshake, Warm Greeting of an Erect Cock +When a woman greets an erect cock with something of a soft handshake...light, warm, friendly, seductive grip....that lets you know she's delighted to see you--erect--and is ready to lead you (or pull you) into bed with her (see photo). +9\. The Caress and Cupping of the Balls +Upon giving the warm handshake, I love it when a woman cups and lightly caresses or squeezes my balls in the palm of her hand. This is such a beautiful act of intimacy...and encouragement. This light touch of a man's balls conveys such a feeling of admiration for our balls in both a physical and metaphysical sense. Yes, the woman has you in the palm of her hand-- literally--and there's a feel of vulnerability to the male in it (thus the negative valence phrase: a woman has you ""by the balls""). But then there's such a positive valence--such an inflation to a man's sense of his own manliness, making him feel cockstrong--when that touch is done lovingly, with encouragement, with a sense that a woman wants to feel the full power of those balls. +8\. Testing the Tensile Strength, or Warming up to Dive +If you have ever watched Olympic divers preparing for a dive off the lower diving board, you know how to give this next amazing touch to the cock. A steel hard, pumping iron erect cock feels so good. It's such a defiance of gravity. You can feel the testosterone running through it. And I love it when a woman wants to test--and admire--the strength of my cock when it's first revealed what she has done to me. Yes, I love playfulness in the bedroom, so I love it when a woman approaches my cock as her plaything: part slinky, part playdough or silly putty, part erector set. What's best is if she bounces the cock up and down some, checking out its strength, its rebounding capacity, flattering herself as she does this. +7\. The Aesthetic Appreciation of a Man's Sculpture: The light grip of the cock between thumb and middle finger +Once the cock has been warmly greeted and the balls encouraged and the cock bounced around a bit, it's time for the aesthetic appreciation of a man's sculpture. I love it when a woman grasps the middle of my cock, where it's thickest, between a thumb and a middle finger, and just holds the cock in place and admires it with an artist's eye--as if it is the most marvelous sculpture, or the best still life painting of a piece of fruit--she has ever seen in her life. And if a woman grasps me lightly at first...with a very soft touch....I'm Pavlov's dog anticipating beautiful, erotic sex. Yes, there's a time and place for spontaneous combustion sex: a woman taking the cock hard right from the beginning and almost pulling it into her on her first stroke of it. But a woman who touches me softly and admiringly at first gives me the sense that the sex will last for hours....it will be a symphony, not a 3 minute rock and roll song +6\. Skiing the mogul, feeling the tickle, the little up and down, or why San Francisco is sexy +When we were kids, we loved driving from Madison to Chatham, New Jersey as on the way there was what we called the tickle: a little rise up and down in the road when, if driven the right way, gave us the tickle in the stomach. It was a little roller coaster ride. Consider also how much fun it is to ski a little mogul, or to go up and over a little hill. A change in height—going up and down—is sexy, erotic. I think that is in part what makes San Francisco such a beautiful, sexy city (and a city on the plains, in the flatlands more boring) There's are a lot of changes in elevation in San Francisco. The most sensitive part of the cock is the ridge at the base of its head, the corona of the cock. A woman going back and forth over it with her touch drives us crazy. This can be done at various speeds. In the terms for tempo of Italian music (see below), I like calando at first: slower and softer. (Women and men should study the Italian terms for tempo in music, as it provides a richly articulated vocabulary for pacing in erotic play.) I have a natural cock (i.e.,, uncircumcised), so I love it when a woman gently grasps my foreskin between thumb and middle finger and slowly takes her fingers back and forth over the ridge, as if she is skiing a mogul in slow motion. +5\. Circling the Cock Accelarando, or Piu Mosso: More Movement and Faster +I don't need to explain this one. It's the next pace or step after a woman has played softly taking her touches back and forth over the ridge of the cock. The woman circles the cock with her thumb and index finger, as if giving the cock head the A-OK sign, and keeping it firm in her grasp, she picks up the pace and tightens the grasp, locking the cock in her fingers, and then taking it for a more vigorous ride up and down, first just short strokes over the ridge, then longer strokes up and down the full length of the cock. This then can and should morph into the firmer grasp and pumping of the whole cock, the full monty up and down. +4\. From Chile to Los Angeles and Beyond or Further North: The Long Stroke +Consider the base of the cock the lowest part of South America, the southern end of Chile, or near Patagonia and the Straits of Magellan. Then consider the very tip of the cock somewhere above Seattle, in Juneau, Alaska. The part of greatest sensitivity—the corona and frenulum--would then be somewhere between Tijuana/San Diego and San Franciso, or where Los Angeles is located, about 3/4's of the way up the cock from Santiago, Chile. The stroke that delights me so much is the long stroke...a finger tip that goes from Chile to Los Angeles, along the underside length of the cock, from bottom to top, repeated time and again. This stroke is beautiful to feel after the cock has been jazzed up by the touching and stroking of #'s 5 and 6. The erotic depends on delay, anticipation, longing...and here is the time and the way to prolong the erotic play, letting a jazzed up cock on the verge of coming subside after the stroking of 5 & 6, and then the long, slow stroke that just expresses joy and delight in the length of the cock. The stroking of the cock this way can begin to build up the hum, taking the man back to the verge of coming. Better yet, it can start the cock just twitching uncontrollably, reacting in ways the man has no conscious control over. I love it when a woman knows how to make a cock dance this way, the music taking over so the cock is just dancing and vibrating on its own. +3\. The Prelude to the Coup de Grace: The Exploration Down Under, the Taking of the Ridge through +Subterfuge +When a cock is on the verge of coming, when it has been hummed up and taken with rubata strokes, or with every tempo listed below, another blissful way to drive a man crazy is to focus again on the ridge, the corona, but this time taking it with subterfuge: a fingertip just lightly exploring, discovering the underside of this ridge, circling the globe, sailing around underneath the ridge, over and over. +2\. Playing the Frenulum as a Violin +The little string of skin on the underside of the cock—the frenulum—is by far the most sensitive part on my cock. Alas, men who are not natural, who are cut or circumcised, do not have this fold of skin in the same way as a natural cock, and what a loss, what a diminishment, what an argument against circumcision. But when my cock has become the most sensitive, when my whole body feels taut, stretched between the poles of myself, lusting to come, needing to spurt and splurge and release, then I absolutely love it when this string is played beautifully by a diva violinist: the woman just lightly stroking in one direction, repeatedly, this little string, this fold, until it feels like the cock could explode into orgasm with the touch of a feather against this spot, or just touched by a hot breath, or the sound waves of a whisper. +1\. The Coup de Grace after the Coup de Grace: Massaging the Cock with its own Cum +To take the man over the top, with the most blissful touches of all, combine the strokes and touches: I love it particularly when there's a combination of #9 and #5 and #9 and #2. But then there is the coup de grace after the coup de grace: when a woman massages a man's cock, particularly the head, with his own cum. The first time I had this done to me came the first time I was in bed with a woman with whom I had a 5 month correspondence before meeting her. She was the second woman I had sex with after going the least 8 years of a 21 year marriage almost sexless. The four month long correspondence gave us a chance to be rather explicit about the ways we loved to be taken. +We finally met in the Flamingo Hotel in Las Vegas for a three nights and four days together. Within an hour of meeting, we on our hotel bed, with us beginning to enact everything we had fantasized about for ages. It seems we gave each other a thousand kisses, then a hundred more, than another thousand before our clothes started to come off. She asked me to strip for her, which I did, and then she slowly stripped for me. She then departed from any script we had imagined. She asked me to play with myself, and as I did so, she began playing with herself as well. I brought myself to the verge, kept myself there for a time, and then she asked me to let her see me come up close and personal. She curled up close, and then as I started coming, she took hold of men and began collecting all my cum juices in her hands. When I had finished coming, she began massaging my cock in its juices, not letting up but squeezing me more forcefully. The cock at this point is so sensitive that this action is excruciating, like tickling but better. My instinct was to pull away but she followed after me, keeping me in her grasp, rendering me ridiculous, like silly putty in her hands, at her mercy. It extended the intensity of the orgasm, adding a new feel I had never felt before, a missile shot off and then retro-rockets fired. Then, later that evening, bless her heart, she taught me how to make her squirt. +* Italian terms for tempo in music, to be applied to +Accelerando — speeding up +Allargando — growing broader; decreasing tempo, usually near the end of a piece +Calando - going slower (and usually also softer) +Meno mosso — less movement or slower +Mosso — movement, more lively, or quicker, much like più mosso, but not as extreme +Più mosso — more movement or faster +Precipitando - hurrying, going faster/forward +Rallentando — gradual slowing down +Ritardando — immediate slowing down +Ritenuto — slightly slower; temporarily holding back. +Rubato — free adjustment of tempo for expressive purposes +Stretto — rushing ahead; temporarily speeding up +Stringendo — pressing on faster" +859,Toys 4 Us: Women Only!,sexygodess06,How To,2006-06-01,2006-06-01,2022-01-04 08:41:01,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/toys-4-us-women-only,Adult toys can help women find complete pleasure.,"['Advice For Women', 'Anal Masturbation', 'Female Masturbation', 'Self- Help', 'Sex Advice', 'Sex Toys']",4.07,"Most women (statistics say 80%) do not have orgasms during penetration. So, why don't they? What is the secret? Men love sex whenever and wherever they can have it, but, what is the incentive for a woman for a lot of women if not to have a really great orgasm. We're lucky, and with the right tools and timing, can have many more orgasms than a man, although ours as impacting I think. Here are a couple of my favorite tricks for treats! +Now, you young women may have it better figured out. From what I understand, dads are even taking their girls to the toy store for their birthday parties (not sure if that is quite ethical but in any case maybe educational). +I remember my friends in college taking human sexuality. I was too embarrassed to take a course like that. I wasn't having intercourse yet being a good Catholic and all. I was waiting for love and marriage to go all the way. +Well, of course that only lasted to my 21st birthday. Yet, no orgasm during sex, but I think a couple of clitoral orgasms after that during the relationship. So, what is sex all about, I wondered? +The hornier I felt, I began to explore my body. Then I began buying toys. Wow, they worked. Well, I won't admit my age but it took many more years to find the really great toys which men introduced me to. The one thing I did figure out with the regular 6-inch dildoe type of toy was that I could give myself a penetrating orgasm, many orgasms and/or hit the g-spot. I never could quite understand why most men couldn't very often find the g-spot or give me the same kind of orgasm. Even with my live-in boyfriend for nine years, I just got bored with sex and felt it was more of a duty to get through the week. +Well, after one break-up, I started dating on the Internet. Dated quite a bit actually and was a bit disappointed that during a sexually prowess time in my life that men still hadn't progressed a whole lot in the orgasm department, except for a few. +I started dating on the Internet about 5-6 years ago after I met a friend in Australia who would fly to the mid-west to meet guys. She did it every year or not and referred to her beaus as her 'invisible friends.' I needed to get out, so I gave it a try. I hadn't dated as much since my twenties and was having a lot of fun. +The first guy I met up with asked me to dinner and suggested a hotel over the phone. Still at a trusting point in my life, I felt I could really get on with this guy. So, when he said his son had an accident with his car, and asked me to meet him at a hotel, I decided I would although a little reluctant for this clandestine meeting. He mentioned he has a present for me but wouldn't tell me what it was. +When I arrived at the hotel, he wanted me to meet him at his hotel room. I asked him to meet me in the lobby instead, in case I needed to make a quick run! However, I was pleasantly surprised and very pleased! He was very handsome with salt and pepper hair and a nice physique. It had been about two years since I had broken up with my boyfriend and I was very, very horny. +We started making love immediately after we entered his room. The lovemaking was fantastic! I won't go into details because if you're reading this story, you already know how. After we made love the first time, he brought out his present he had for me. His friend had taken him to the toy shop to get one like he used on his girlfriend. It's called a 'cyber flicker' or power mini- massager which is a toy somewhat like a bullet but made of a material that feels like a natural cock. What I love about it is the little flicker tail on the end that titillates and teases the clitoris. It can be found at some toy stores but definitely online. +His friend said he had given his girlfriend 19 orgasms with this little toy. I had never had THAT many orgasms, many ten or so with my toys but I was game. My partner was a bit competitive and liked chance, so he was determined to beat his friends 19 orgasms. Well, to make a long story short, he stopped counting after I had over 20 orgasms. +This little toy was great for multiple orgasms, too, which I had never had. After an exhausting evening of sex and orgasms, the next morning my friend was determined to give me multiple orgasms and since I have given them to myself. He used the cyber flicker, with his finger in my butt, and kept giving me orgasms one after the other. I kept asking him to stop and he said ""sweetheart"" just be still. It was difficult to have one orgasm after the next being so sensitive after just one, so you can imagine how I was feeling. But, then after about six or seven continuous orgasms, I had a multiple orgasm. It was sensational. +So, back to the butt business - I had tried anal sex once and it was like trying to fit a baseball into a pinhole. Ouch! So, I wasn't ever particularly interested in trying it again. But, a finger up the butt felt pretty good and very sensual. Call me old-fashioned or slow, but so are the guys I guess of my generation I guess. I always thought anal sex was a non-heterosexual act. Actually still never have had anal sex but now I want to try and this is how I'm getting ready. +I started dating this one fellow recently and sex has been fantastic. The first time we had sex, he aroused me sensually with a finger up my butt. It had been awhile since I had fooled around and figured this was the man to experiment with. Sex was fantastic but I was still getting used to him the first couple of times so my body wasn't ultimately relaxed. +Our second date, knowing I like toys for titling; he brought over his own bag of tricks. We had been seducing each other online and loving every minute of it when we couldn't be together. WOW! A man with a set of his own toys ... a little erotic and a little bewildering! First, we tried the g-spot toy. It didn't do much for me. Then we tried my little cyber flicker. We had fun with that. Then he showed me his butt plug and explained to me that sensation in the anus excites the nerves in a different area that ignites orgasms. +After having sex three times, we tried it doggy style. Unbeknownst to me, after first fingering my butt hole nicely, he inserted this butt plug. I was so excited and horny. Then he inserted his cock in my vagina and he would stop and then start again, while holding an erection and fucking me amazingly. Then he said to me, try your little toy. I didn't know if I could reach, but I did and immediately had a great orgasm. I was so wet and weak as he kept fucking me. He kept sliding the butt plug in and out. I could barely stand the excitement. I started spasming and I guess squeezing his cock. I had the first orgasm with a man's cock fucking me and it was the best orgasm I've ever had. +I pleaded with him to pull out because I couldn't stand it anymore. I don't know if I had an anal orgasm, a vaginal orgasm or maybe both. I collapsed on the bed for a long time as he finished his self off. Then he said ""relax"" as he came with control down my butt with his hot cum some seeping in. I was on fire again! +He collapsed on the bed and we were finished off literally. +""Oh, my God,"" I told him later. That was the best orgasm I've ever had. Next time, he said, I'll try the real thing! +I can't wait! Sex has never been so good. It gets better and better. Remember when we were kids and couldn't ever picture our parents having sex. Well, for the lucky ones, toys enhance the experience to no end. There are so many great toys out there. Have fun and explore. I've shared with you my favorites. +And, for those of you in sexless marriages, if your gal hasn't learned about her own body by experimenting with toys, buy her a few! +Toy 4 Us rock! ... the world!" +860,Training Bi Males,MistressDelia,How To,2013-05-09,2013-05-09,2022-01-04 08:41:02,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/training-bi-males,A primer from a Lifestyle Mistress on training new slaves.,"['Bi Men', 'Creampie', 'Cuckold', 'Cum', 'Denial', 'Discipline', 'Eating', 'Milking', 'Mistress', 'Slave']",4.59,"I have written some of my thoughts on training my own bi slave husband in the past and thought that perhaps a primer on bringing new bi slaves into the fold would be helpful. I have been the Domme to my bi submissive slave husband for 15 years. We have been married for 20 years, are in our early 50's, and it was obviously a journey to get where we are and a very good one at that. Our love is stronger today than it has ever been, his level of responding to my Dominant nature and his submissive yearnings are the best they have ever been, we walk the same path as a D/s couple, and we both feel that FemDom relationships are beautiful in their natural ability to provoke the best in sexual and romantic caring and love. I have a current stable of 5 other bi submissives besides my husband that we frequently play with and our sexual activity level as a couple with just one another is perhaps a dozen to 15 times a month (includes milking sessions) with perhaps 2 to 4 play sessions with other slaves added as schedule permits. +I will not spend countless pages describing the inception, growth, morphing, or otherwise providing a history of our D/s relationship. Since the beginning I understood that my slave needed a deeper and more profound sexual experience than I could provide for him within the confines of a conventional relationship. I then knew that I also needed more. It was actually the internet which provoked his and then my own interest in FemDom. I used the history files on our computer to understand his leanings, his desires, and his proclivity to submit to women and know that he also had bisexual desires and previous experiences before we were married. Suffice it to say that I quietly exploited that knowledge to begin and then maintain our amazing D/s experience. +The subject of this is obviously bringing new bi slaves into the picture and having them become comfortable with each other, much like pets that we own. In order to understand how I accomplish this with my slave then it must be understood where he is in training within our life and relationship. My focus has always been one of having complete control in the bedroom and then our being more or less equals to the rest of the world. I allow him little or no choices beyond the guidelines we had originally set up some years ago and we have largely lived to those over the many years of playing inside the D/s world. The wonderful thing has always been that I know and understand his triggers, his fetishes, his limits, and his needs. They are not more important than my own and never will be however, knowledge is power and I have faithfully utilized what I know my slaves' needs and desires are to complement my own strong needs. +To the nitty gritty then. My Dominance over my husband is based on generally applied fetishes for almost all bi submissive males. In his case it has been a steady diet of restraint use, discipline, strap on use, feminization, orgasm denial, milking, humiliation, cuckolding, and cum eating. No one area is more important than another per se but the integration of other bi submissive males into our play has to take into account what we already like and are comfortable with and with that the requirement that the bi sub male also has most or all of these leanings and I can use these comfortably in any play scenario. We have found that younger men and ""bi curious"" men are not so agreeable play partners but that is obviously a person to person variation. Ultimately, when we invite bi sub males to our play (from a variety of internet sites) then they have already been well researched to determine their suitability. We have rarely been wrong. +My use of the various fetishes is more or less based on my sexual appetite and his needs at the time. I use restraints in about 25% of our sessions and enjoy the reinforcement that it provides in that he is a slave first and foremost. I can employ any number of other disciplinary activities (spanking, crop, face slapping, hair pulling) while he is restrained but since he has been in submission for so long and is so obedient I have found that we use this less as he is completely compliant without restraints. I find it to be more good theater at this point and like to use it when we are with a trusted bi male play friend on occasion to frustrate him. +Discipline is something I also rarely have to employ beyond what is required due to his completely submissive and compliant nature after many years of training. I almost always spank or otherwise crop him during a session but it is more to enhance my own sexual excitement rather than to actually make him comply with an order or direction. His needs being a consideration, he may ask me while outside the bedroom for some enhanced discipline and if he needs that then I consider his request and administer it if the situation is right. I again do employ discipline more while in the company of other bi slaves so that their training example initially is the excellent one provided by my very well trained husband. +My use of a strap on device on him varies. Some months he will bottom for me on a handful of occasions and some months maybe once. I used to let him make excuses to not be fucked by me but that is a rare exception in these past years. Most times I will let him know in advance so he can prepare and sometimes I don't quite care if he is prepared. I am more focused on him being able to take me in various positions at this point in our life and also do demand that he train his pussy for larger sized dildos (and cocks) for the future. His bisexual bottom experiences have increased over the past three years and he has now submitted his pussy for fucking four of my other submissive playmates on a number of occasions. They all vary in cock size and the largest is 7 inches and coincidentally the same size as my largest strap on cock that I use on him. I many times have him get into bed with me naked at night and we both read while he has a butt plug or dildo in for a predetermined amount of time. He is ALWAYS naked in our bedroom and if we don't have family home then naked around the house. This has been an important step in my being able to push him into somewhat constant sub space even if he does not know it himself. I cannot stress how important it is to get slaves used to being naked in the presence of the Mistress (or others as needed) and when we play with other slaves, all are naked immediately and many times I stay clothed until I am ready to change or be naked with the submissive(s). I have done sessions where I never took my clothes off. Again, he is always the model of what I expect from other bi slaves we choose to play with and he consistently illustrates good bottoming when we are with other playmates. +His feminization is important to me as he wants to be feminized so badly on occasion that I purposely limit that aspect. That being said, I do enjoy buying him panties and stockings for our play sessions and I am inclined to see how far I can take him in this arena. I usually hold his feminization for play with our more experienced bi subs. This may end up being the final frontier of how nasty our play can be as we get older and remains to be seen but I have had him sleep with me all night in panties and stockings and it has led him to be very attentive, very erect several times during the night, and led me to be very sexually satisfied by morning. +Orgasm denial is needed in any male slave, bi or not. I employ this technique once or twice a month and occasionally in play with other subs. It has a wonderful effect on his adoration and compliance for his Mistress but long term chastity is not one of my desires for what we do. I have considered chastity because I know he has an interest in it but feel that it is limited to his masturbatory fantasies rather than any real time play because of the time we would miss interacting sexually. In any case, intermittent orgasm denial for a slave is an absolute necessity even if the frequency is only a few times a year. The slave needs to understand that their orgasm is controlled by the Mistress and that includes any permission to masturbate and/or even ejaculate without Mistress being present. +Milking is an important tool for a Mistress for various reasons. The pace of life is such that not even the most dedicated D/s couple can interact as much as they would like to. Children, careers, social events and chores are all time consumers. When we have challenges that involve time I will typically have him lick my ass as I masturbate with a dildo. I enjoy the quick orgasm I get, it keeps him in sub space, and I can generally branch out into denial of his orgasm (although rarely) or milking as a finale before we can each get some sleep. I enjoy milking him for several reasons. It is very enjoyable for me to edge him over and over again. I enjoy training him while I milk him through humiliating talk and verbal encouragement. I can train him on being compliant while unrestrained. Lastly, I can enjoy the cum eating on his part as a result of my milking him. His eating cum after he ejaculates is a very important part of my dominance over him and his cum eating is integral to his submissive nature including interaction with other bi slaves we play with. More to follow on this. +Humiliation forms the boundaries for much of any session we start together as just a couple interacting or role play opportunities that we have with other bi slaves we have chosen. Many bi subs express a desire for humiliation but cannot tolerate it in the reality of a scene or play experience. Trust is a major issue in that regard and my slave has trust in me that has no bounds and I trust him to be able to actually tell me if something is not quite right. Humiliation can be verbal and I use many of the trigger words that I know he enjoys during any playtime we have. I liberally use the words cock sucker, pussy, sissy, bitch, ass licker, cum eater, and others as the occasion dictates. We sometimes do cuckold play and I call him either cuck slut or cum cleaner or boy on those occasions along with the others as previously mentioned. Humiliation can be non verbal also when I sometimes go to great pains to either disregard or ignore him while I enjoy myself either alone or with another bi slave. Humiliation may also take the form of displaying him to others or serving others in person or via web cam. I consider humiliation to be fun as a Mistress because it allows me to be super creative and try to push the buttons of my slave depending on his needs or state of arousal. +Cuckolding. Many that read this or even those that have played with or seen us play as a couple would consider our relationship to be one that is cuckold in nature. It is not that they are wrong, it is simply a stretch to label us or define us by cuckolding behaviors when we as a FemDom couple are so much more. My husband is not a slave such that I ever go out and have sex or relationships with anyone that is not him EXCEPT in front of him. We both agree on partners and they are always bi male slaves with the exception of a few couples we have played with. He has been ""the Bull"" on some occasions also so that should illuminate the situation such that it is obvious that we are not a stereotypical cuckold couple. I would say that we play cuckold scenarios a few times a year at most, we enjoy them immensely, but they do not describe who we are. From a Mistress standpoint, cuckolding is hugely effective in having my husband understand how much other men really enjoy my body and by the same token how much I can love and enjoy different cocks in front of my slave. It is a fun role play experience, I use the premise during verbal humiliation, milking, strap on, and other scenarios and suffice it to say that I will almost always use cuckolding as a tool to both control my slave and to train others. I have actually trained cuckolds and enjoy it but other than that it is just another fun role play exercise for forwarding our larger FemDom relationship. +Cum eating, that is my husband eating his own cum was what got us to be a FemDom couple. His computer was filled with such images of creampies, he always loved eating my pussy for hours after he fucked me, and his previous bi experiences had him enjoying the simple act between two bi men. I started making him eat cum and he expounded on all of his nasty desires and I just took it from there. Making him and forcing him to eat his own load is the responsibility of myself as his Mistress. Some nights he is eager but many nights he is not and he needs guidance and direction. If I allow him to fuck me then I almost always straddle his face so he can clean me or pull him by the hair to perform the work as I lay on my back and direct his hungry mouth. If I let him masturbate over me then I usually have him shoot it on my stomach or ass so he can clean me and I humiliate him during the entire time and sometimes also coo and encourage him like a pet. I have had him shoot his cum into cups, saucers, plates, my underwear, on my feet, on food, on other men's erect or flaccid penises etc. The imagination is your only boundary with this activity. Since he is always the gold standard as a bi slave with other slaves present it is a normal and accepted activity for him to clean other slaves after they have ejaculated during a session. He cleans up any messy loads willingly and most often off of my body but it varies. I have only one current slave that I will permit to cum in me so his access to actual creampie cleanups is limited to those play sessions. Ultimately, clean up of himself as well as others is a normal standard for play and he is a wonderful role model for training other slaves. +After having covered the typical activities that my slave and I enjoy, it is my goal to provide a simple outline or guide for training and integrating new bi males into the fold. I have 5 slaves currently and they range in time spent with us from one that is 6 months in and doing fairly well with being trained and one that has been playing with us as a couple for over 10 years! All of them are in their 40's and 50's, all had measurable bi experiences and were comfortable with bi play, and all were either practicing or strongly desiring submissive play in their real lives. In the absence of a case study or something like that, these are the types of men we chose to play with and my slaves job is to constantly be seeking qualified bi males that seek to serve a Mistress. +After deciding to meet for play, choose a neutral location such as a hotel until you feel completely comfortable. This limits the amount of noise you might make and pushes all to play somewhat discreetly during the session but it also is useful for training them on self control. Remember the first rule. Your slave should be naked and answer the door and the candidate slave should be naked within seconds of entering and that should be impressed upon them before the session. I am always clothed in Domme attire at the beginning of a session with a new slave but have been in less casual attire on occasion with longer time play partners. +Both slaves should be placed in a position for inspection and for me that typically means both slaves flat on their stomachs on the bed where I place blindfolds on for an initial foray into limited sensory deprivation. Why their stomachs, you might ask? This position leaves them vulnerable. It allows me access to their bottoms for light spanking or cropping. I generally pull their cocks and balls back under them and through their legs to expose them to me for inspection, fondling, edging, or light CBT if the mood is there for me. This is when I get a real sense of what equipment the new bi slave has and what I might be using later in the session for my own pleasure. I also may use the head of a dildo or an anal device to very lightly probe (no penetration) their pussy area. This part of any play might last from 15 minutes to a half hour depending on my mood at the time. There is a palpable sense of excitement on both males during this time and you may find them semi erect to nearly bursting and fully erect. Some of this is because of the light touching and verbal encouragement from me and there is also the knowledge that when they are not being touched themselves, that I am actively working on the slave that laying inches from them. Never underestimate the capacity for a bi male submissive to be thinking about the nearly erect cock that is so close but yet so far. I hardly ever let my body except my hands touch their bodies during this time. +Since my slave has done this exercise of familiarization on many occasions, he generally understands the activity and its nuances. The next step is to arrange the slaves on their sides, facing each other, skin touching, hands behind their backs (restraints are typically a no no for a first session), with my owned slave's mouth at the new slaves chest level. I will administer slightly harder spankings and croppings now to increase the amount pain versus pleasure and to ensure that their body contact is maintained. Proximity exercises like this increase sexual tension and I have seen more than a few tremble like a leaf during it and I maintain their sighing and moaning etc at a minimum level for obvious training reasons. I also use my crop and hand to administer discipline as needed for either one of them writhing to push or rub their cocks on one another. I will give a good hard smack sometimes at this point to ensure their compliance. +When I feel it is time I will instruct my owned slave to lick and suck the nipples of the new slave. This and subsequent oral events that I prescribe for getting them to ""like"" each other are wonderful for training BUT I have had more than a handful of new slaves ejaculate prematurely during this period. I will typically end the session at this point and reassure them. It does not mean that they will or should be dismissed as a potential slave for my fold and it means I need to be more creative and aware for future meetings and explain that to them. I hope that part helps. At this point it should be obvious that I will use the sensory deprivation, the discipline, the skin contact, and arousal to walk the two slaves through orally pleasing each other in various ways left open to only the imagination of the Mistress. My slave is an oral expert due to my training and I sometimes curtail his work on the new slave and let the new slave explore my slave orally a bit longer. This dynamic seems to work best but each slave experience is different even with the same slaves on a different day. Mistress should be the ultimate judge. +Once the two slaves are smitten with each other I will generally remove the masks and have my slave assume various positions on the bed and use him in a manner that is consistent with acts that I will expect the prospective slave to engage in for the future. Strap on play, forced oral, queening, discipline, verbal humiliation etc are all at the Mistress discretion and it is important to constantly communicate with each slave so that expectations are clear. I usually find that this is a lovely time to go ""good cop"" with the new slave and let him start touching me and orally exploring his Mistress. Control his access to your body by being firm and direct, ensure that he continues to be ""forced"" to explore the other slave being used by Mistress also, and start to plant the seed that he may be close to an actual sexual interaction with Mistress. +I cannot tell any one Mistress what is right for any play AFTER you have gotten the two new slaves to this point. My experience has been that it is best for me and my slave to work into the activity where he works as a ""fluffer"" of sorts after having been fucked and used by me and that he will assume his usual role of sexual slave and servant to me. The wonderful part for me personally is that I am so worked up by this point myself that I actually typically require a good fucking and the new slave as well as myself benefit from my needs. I may have my slave get our new slave really erect and then ritualistically rub his head against my wet pussy until I allow him to enter. I may place the new slave in a chair and sit atop him. It is at best freestyle and sometimes the best laid (pun intended) plans go out the window. It is vital that the new slave understand that his role for future play may very well be that of my wonderful owned slave and that he needs to pay attention even while fucking my pussy. My slave will either be kissing my mouth, my or the other slaves nipples, or be directed to lavish attention on my ass, the new slaves balls, or any place I direct where we are joined during the period we are fucking. My slave could also be banished to a corner of the room to watch me and told to either masturbate OR not masturbate at all depending on the scenario and my mood. In any event, the culmination of all the activity leading to the two slaves getting to know each other is almost always the satisfaction of my sexual needs, my slaves needs as I see them for that day, and a huge orgasm for the new slave with the resulting sticky ending. +The last part of this is the end result of my sexual interaction with the new slave is satisfied Mistress, a flaccid cock on the new slave after ejaculating (typically on me), and a needy owned slave dying to do something, anything. To keep things ""even"" and my new slave in his place, I like to gesture for my slave to come over for clean up duties and then put my newly satisfied slave to the test. While my slave obediently cleans the new slaves cock and then moves on to the puddles of semen on my stomach, chest, and usually pussy, I will forcefully direct the new slave to worked on my slaves cock while he cleans me. This is a valid barometer for that slaves willingness to serve as he is now satiated sexually, typically not erect (but not always, and is keenly aware that my slave has a scrotum full of cum that he really wants to shoot. I am very verbal with both of them at this point and my slave is so well trained he can almost cum on my command most times. Having him cum on me is not out of the norm but sometimes I will add a twist and him cum on a plate or depending on what we know the new slaves proclivity for bi play and cum eating I will even have my slave erupt in the new slaves mouth for a spectacular ending. I find that cumming on me is best for a first session because it reinforces the two slaves working as a team to keep me clean and demonstrate their high levels of submission to their Mistress. I do not do much more during the period after the session than reinforce the lessons learned, reassure both of the good job they have done, and lay down expectations (toys, clothes, behavior etc) for future meetings. If time permits it is generally acceptable to continue play if the slaves are physically able to perform again but for a first session it is advisable to let sleeping dogs lie and let the new slave reflect on his experience and not gain too much access to me sexually. +I hope this helped at least foster an idea of what initial interaction with new slaves can look like. The basic premise is to leverage the session off of what you have trained your slave to be to you as his Mistress, project those fetishes and behaviors onto the new slave, and start his training in a manner that lends itself toward the ultimate goal of satisfying the Mistress. Unlike pro Domme's, you will never hear a sexually imaginative lifestyle Mistress complain that she has ""too many cocks"". Gathering real bi submissives for bolstering a slave stable is a good practice because not everyone auditioned will work out for various reasons, some will go on their merry way due to their own life changes, and keeping it fresh with new people enhances scenes and playtimes immensely. Never settle though. Websites like Alt.com, CollarMe.com, and AFF are valid hunting grounds but cluttered with straight men posing as bisexuals. Our best luck has been with bisexualplayground.com and 3 of my 5 current slaves are men we met from there. Not an endorsement at all and as I stated, be very discriminating and discerning with choosing slaves and you will all be happier (and safer!) for the work done with ensuring their compatibility with you and your owned slave. Good luck." +861,Training Games,Joseki Ko,How To,2004-06-17,2004-06-17,2022-01-04 08:41:03,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/training-games,Slave training for fun and profit.,"['Drive Edge', 'Fun Begins', 'Slave', 'Slave Cum', 'Trigger Word']",4.02,"One of the things I've talked about most with other masters, is training and games. Some seem to believe training to be a serious business and others aren't really sure how to go about it. My personal approach is to use games. I've always figured that if I'm not having a good time I should be doing something else. This philosophy has taken over my life, I work this way, play this way and treat my slave this way. +My favorite game is the penny game. This can be used for training a slave to stay in any position. I will list my favorite position here. It's a modified Nadu. +You need to find a linoleum or tile floor. This doesn't work on carpet. Your slave kneels before you knees spread, hands behind the back fingertips and thumbs touching. Between the finger tips and thumb tips you place pennies. Now the fun begins. Start tickling or playing with your slave. I enjoy both at different times. For now lets go with sexual stimulation. This helps teach your slave to remain in position when excited. As your slave gets more and excited they will lose concentration. When this happens one or more of the pennies will drop. You'll both be surprised at how loud this is. +Now first and foremost stop stimulating your slave. Let them stew in their own juices. Now the type of punishment is your choice. Not all punishments are effective with every slave. Some like pain and will enjoy the spanking, some love being exposed and cornered etc. Pick the type of punishment you wish to inflict and inflict it. +Practice does not make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect. So as soon as your slave is done with the punishment repeat the game. You may play this as often as you like. I've always found it to be a fun game and my slave loves the attention. +Teaching your slave to cum on command is also a highlight not to be missed. You can accomplish this by installing what is called a trigger word or trigger. Important safety tip. If you do this right it is possible that your slave will never again be able to cum without permission. So make sure that this is what you want to accomplish. Some Gorean Masters want their slaves to come as much and as often as possible. If this is you, don't train your slave to use a trigger. +Tie your slave on the bed face down and spread eagle. Lay a rattan cane across her arms or whatever you intend to discipline her with. Tell her to cum when you say the word NOW, or whatever word you choose. Tell your slave that if they don't cum when you say now they will receive twenty stripes with that cane. If they come before I say the word NOW they will also be given twenty stripes with the cane. Make sure they understand this. +When you are ready start running your hands over her. I prefer to use my hands because I can stimulate more than just her tit's and clit. I know us guy's have one basic spot. Blow us and we cum. On a woman her entire body can be an erotic zone. So run your hands up and down the full length of her. Take note where she moans and return to that spot. Now the fun begins try to drive her to the very edge of cumming. When you think she can't take any more stop and go drink a soda eat something just take a break and let her calm down. Then go back and repeat the process, again drive her to the edge but don't let her cum. Have another soda and start over. This time drive her to the same point. You should be good at finding it by now. Line your fingers up on her clit and yell your trigger word as your fingers enter her. Make sure she cums. +Ok now this process should be repeated every day and will probably take up to a month or more to set. Remember the experts say it takes 30 days to make a behavior habit and just three days to break it. So expect to be at this awhile. When your done you will be able to say your trigger word and she will cum on the spot. (Highly entertaining at parties) +I love using the trigger word in front of some of our vanilla friends. The looks I get from her as she cums quietly so they don't know are very enjoyable. Don't over use the trigger but do enjoy it." +862,Trouble Deepthroating?,Goldeniangel,How To,2005-02-13,2005-02-13,2022-01-04 08:41:04,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/trouble-deepthroating,Anyone can deepthroat - here's how.,"['Deep Throat', 'Favorite Things', 'Gag', 'Gag Reflex', 'Good Head', 'Make Gag', 'Relaxed Throat', 'Throat']",4.57,"Deep throating is something that is often mentioned in erotic stories, and often seen in pornos and on the internet, but most girls (and guys) find it rather difficult to do. Part of it is a sensitive gag reflex, part of it is the fear (and the reality) of not being able to breath with a dick shoved down your throat. However, it is possible, and although I'm not a guy (Not since I last checked anyway) I've been informed by my very male fiancé that it's one of his favorite things during sex (admittedly, on a rather long list of ""favorite"" things). +The first thing you can do is practice, not necessarily with a banana (although I know that some people do use that successfully, I don't really think it's actually necessary), you can practice just with your finger or a toothbrush. Just every time you brush your teeth, at the very end brush your tongue as far back as you can get it, until your gag reflex starts screaming at you. The constant pushing on it will actually make your gag reflex less sensitive, and allow you to get objects further and further back into your throat. A good reason to use your finger is that most guys are not as long or as hard as a toothbrush is, and with your finger you can get a good general idea of where the most sensitive spots in your throat are. Knowing the ""danger"" zones in your own mouth is a HUGE bonus when it comes to attempting to swallow a dick. +Anther pointer is to do just that, swallow while sucking, making the swallowing movement with your throat and tongue. Your gag reflex tends to relax when you swallow, allowing you to move the tip of the dick past it, for some reason the gag reflex doesn't seem to have a problem with a dick laying under it, just poking into it. However, eventually you will need to pull off and repeat this procedure so that you can breathe. Breathing is important, if you aren't getting enough air you're actually more likely to gag or actually throw-up, also if you're trying to swallow the dick and gasping for breath at the same time because you haven't gotten enough air, chances are you're going to swallow air, which is again, going to upset your stomach and make you gag or throw up. One which isn't very pleasant for you and one which isn't very pleasant for you or your partner. +Work up to. Start by slowly sliding down as far as you can, and then pull back as soon as you start to feel nauseous/sick. Do it again. And again, try to push yourself a little farther each time (without actually making yourself sick.) TAKE AS MUCH TIME AS YOU NEED IN BETWEEN. Don't go down while you're still feeling nauseous, take a few moments, relax, and then go again. Working up to it allows you to build confidence in your abilities to go farther and farther. Half of this is a mind thing, if you think you can do it, you're a lot more likely to be able to. If you think it's impossible, well, try the next paragraph and then pay close attention to the last one. +Try different positions. The first time I managed to deep throat my boyfriend we were in a 69 position; it that position the throat is curved almost exactly like a vagina and the point of the penis doesn't impact the gag reflex as much. One way to do this is to be on the bottom of the 69 and let your partner lower himself (somewhat quickly although carefully) into your mouth. Make sure your relaxed when he does this, if your throat is tense and closed up then it's not going to work. +Most importantly, MAKE SURE YOU TRUST YOUR PARTNER. Having the person attached to the dick be positioned on top in this kind of situation can be dangerous to the person on the bottom, because the person on top goes 'Oh god, this is wonderful... I want to stay like this forever' and forgets that you're running out of air because they're blocking your throat. If this does happen to you, a short sharp slap on the ass usually gets their attention the fastest. Another position to try is on your back on a bed with your head hanging off and your partner standing in front of your face and thrusting forward, this gives you a little bit more control since you can use your hands on their hips to guide their movements. Again though, you still must have a relaxed throat, these positions are much easier to deep throat in than the convention ""on your knees"" in front of the guy pose, but a closed throat will kill everything. +If your gag reflex is just too sensitive or your man just too big (or at an inconvenient length where he can't help but poke your gag reflex every time), Cheat. There is this absolutely wonderful gel on the market called ""Good Head"". There are also other gels and ""helpers"", and most of them probably work but I haven't actually tried them. ""Good Head"" I can vouch for. I got it at a Slumber Party that I attended, one of my friends and I spent about 45 minutes shoving half our hands down our throats every time we checked to see if it was still working. All it requires is a very small dollop, just enough to cover the tip of your index finger, put on your tongue and then swallow. +That's it, and immediately your gag reflex WILL BE GONE for quite a period of time. Because I tend to get impatient with my natural abilities, I have a rather large bottle of Cinnamon flavored Good Head that I keep with me when I feel like treating my guy to something special, rather than making him wait while I work up to swallowing the whole nine yards. The best part about it is that it doesn't have an aftertaste and it tastes fairly good (at least the Cinnamon does, I haven't tried other flavors). Actually, that's not the best thing, the best thing is that it's fairly inexpensive AND is sold in the Literotica Adult Toy Store, which is available on the main page of this site. Just go there and look up ""Lubes and Lotions"", go down to ""Oral Sex"" and it's there. And no I'm not getting paid for this gratuitous plug, it's that I love that store and Good Head really is THAT good. +Good luck to all, and happy heading!" +863,Turn Your Husband into a Cuckold,skiing_js,How To,2019-02-20,2019-02-20,2022-01-04 08:41:05,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/turn-your-husband-into-a-cuckold,How to turn your husband into a cuckold.,"['Cuckold', 'How To', 'Husband', 'Wife']",3.96,"I am a bull and I've slept with a fair amount of married women in just about every variety possible. Some cheating, some in open marriage, some with cuckold marriages. A while into it I realized how common it was for husbands to secretly fantasize about their wives cheating on them. So I would collude with those husbands where I would seduce their wife, get her to cheat and give the husband all the details of that. +This story is the opposite of that. I met a wife that was in a ""normal"" monogamous marriage and she wanted to openly cuckold her husband. This was new to me but I devised a plan to make that happen. This is based on a true story and I was ""dylan"" in this story. The dialog and the exact process is partially fictional, but the end result was the same: Julie had slowly turned her husband into a cuckold. +Julie had hinted around having sex with other men to her husband before but had been shot down. She had an overwhelming urge to have sex outside her marriage that never left her head but also didn't want to cheat. She wanted to convert her traditional monogamous marriage into a cuckolding one. +That is when she met Dylan. Julie was honest with Dylan from the start that she was married, wanted to have sex with other men, but wanted her husband to be ok with it. Lucky for her Dylan was into this kind of kink and a very sexual creative person. So Dylan devised a plan to make it happen. Mostly skeptical Dylan had a history of women flaking out after they aren't horny and never going through with something. So he didn't think she would see the plan all the way through and even if she did skeptical her husband wouldn't put his foot down and say no chance. At that point Julie had said it was a deal breaker for her and she wouldn't move forward. +Julie comes home one day and you tells her husband, ""so I was at the grocery store today and the fire department was there. Do you know they shop for groceries everyday because they work 24 hr shifts? They shop for groceries for lunch and dinner at 10 am everyday. It's pretty crazy. I probably talked to them for a half hour until their radio started beeping and they had to run off. They are very nice bunch of guys."" +She is very excited about it and husband accuses her of flirting but she says ""no"" but also blushes about it. Then without saying much more she leads him into the bedroom and fucks him. This was the first step in getting him to associate her seeing the firefighters with sex with him. +She waits about a week for him to think about the event before she moves to step two. This time he comes home making steak dinner. Kind of odd because they just had steak a week ago but he loves steak so didn't ask questions. She then tells him, ""So a really exciting thing happened to me at the store today. The keys got stuck in my ignition and I couldn't start my car!"" +Husband responds, ""hmm ok that doesn't sound that exciting did you just call triple A?"" +Julie responds, ""no you remember those firefighters I was talking to last time? Well they just so happened to be there at the same time and I went in and asked Dylan if he could help me. The others kept shopping but he came out to my car and was able to remove the key and show me the trick to it. He also knows a lot about VWs and offered to fix it so it doesn't happen again."" +Husband replies, ""well that's weird, why don't you just call a mechanic?"" +Julie, ""why would I do that when he offered to fix it for free?"" Then the discussion is dropped and she just doesn't bring it up again. +She waits three days. Husband comes home for dinner, once again excited she is making steak and this time she is really dressed up. So husband ask her why she is dressed up. +Julie, ""i'm this old thing? No I'm just going to get the car fixed after dinner."" +Husband asks, ""wait is there a shop open this late?"" Then in the middle of the sentence remembered the firefighter guy had offered to fix her car. +Julie rushes out the door and says, ""oh I'll be back in a bit."" +Husband is a little bit annoyed when she gets home blushing and very late and wants some answers. She responds, ""oh relax honey it just took longer to fix the car than he thoughts and chatted with them for a while."" With no more explanation. But as soon as she is done talking she pulls him into the bedroom and fucks him senseless. No foreplay whatsoever just like she had been thinking about it the last 3 hours and went immediately to that. Usually tough to make her cum this time she had an orgasm almost as soon as he slide his cock into her already soaking wet pussy. Then again came 3 more times. +She waits another week for all that to sink in. The next time it's saturday morning. Husband sees her getting ready at 9 am like you are going for a night out in vegas. Makeup, dress up, do your hair. He asks, ""honey why you are dressing up like that."" +She denies she is dressing too much and a little annoyed he is questioning her wanting to look nice ""i'm not, I just need to go the grocery story real quick."" +By that time husband has figured out, ""wait are you going there dressed up for the firefighters? +She replies, ""NO! Of course not, I'm married to you. Dylan could have any girl he wants, I'm sure he isn't interest in a married housewife."" Which doesn't reassure husband in any way. +Afterwards she comes home very disappointed. She went to the store dressed up and they weren't there. They most have got a call because she had spent an extra long time getting her groceries and waiting for them to show. Husband asks if the fire department was there and she just say, ""no."" Husband gets no sex afterwards. +Later that day he is out working and she starts making cookies. It's not something she does often so he thought it was a little unusual. He comes in and asks her why she is making cookies. He grabs for a cookies and she swats his hand away. This is a cuckold power struggle metaphor. +Julie replies to him, ""no this is for Dylan and his crew. You can lick the beaters though."" +Husband is annoyed but also also can't say much because he didn't make the cookies. Julie puts the last batch in the oven and lifts up her apron and her skirt underneath, pulls her panties off the side to give him access to fuck her in the kitchen. The last time they had sex was over a week ago when she told her first stories about talking to the firefighters. Husband notices her pussy is already wet but he doesn't care he gives it to her, she moans a little, doesn't cum and he cums pretty quickly. +She briefly cleans up, doesn't put her panties on, grabs the cookies out of the oven along with the others then heads out the door. She gives her husband a quick peck and says, ""thanks hon."" She walks out the door with the cookies not leaving a single one for her husband and is once again gone for 3 hours. +When she finally gets home he asks her where she has been. She doesn't say anything. They just go into the bedroom and she jumps on top of him. It's not often she ever initiate sex or has it twice in a day but this time he is getting both. She riding him and makes it pretty obvious her eyes are closed and she is thinking about something else or someone else. Husband wonders but he isn't about to ask questions. She is moving her hips like she never has before and more into it than ever before. She clenches her pussy around his cock and milks his cum out like she had started working pretty insistently on kagal exercises. It was an odd feeling for her husband like not only she was practicing kagal, she was practicing sex on him! But that is an impossible to ask question so he lets it go. +Immediately after some great sex they are still catching their breath. Julie turns to husband and says, ""so I brought the cookies to the guys. I was talking to dylan in the parking lot and he tried to kiss me?"" +Still catching his breath husband doesn't really know how to respond and finally asks her, ""well what did you do?"" +She says, ""well I didn't know what to do, I didn't kiss him back though."" +Husband, ""wait so he tried to kiss you or did kiss you?"" +Julie, ""well he did but I didn't say he could and I didn't kiss him back"" +Husband still confused at what to think after his wife just gave him and incredible fucking he's still catching his breath from: ""well... I don't think I want you going down there anymore."" +Julie gives a very long pause, ""ok."" +A month goes by. Julie hasn't had sex with her husband since then. It has been enough times husband has realized she only has sex with him when Dylan gets her horny but there's nothing he can do about it. He brought it up once and she just denied it. That night husband comes home from work and she immediately greets him at the door and went right to her knees to put his dick in her mouth and just takes him all in like a wild woman. She hasn't been interested in sex lately, hasn't given him a blowjob since they got married, She has never met him at the door for an immediately blowjob. It was also quite a bit different than before like she had been practicing. It had been a month so husband had a lot built up and it didn't long and he shot a load of hit cum down her throat, she swallows every drop of it which was also entirely new. +She gets up, cleans up and doesn't say anything and waits for her husband to ask what that was all about. +Julie replies, ""well I met Dylan for coffee today."" +Husband, ""you mean that firefighter guy, I thought we agreed you weren't going to see him anymore?"" +Julie responds, ""I know but things ended weird when I last saw him and I didn't want him to feel weird so I asked if he wanted to meet for coffee. He apologized and said he felt guilty about it and respected that I am married."" +Husband, ""well that's good I suppose."" +Julie, ""ya, I don't think he meant it though because he kissed me again."" +Husband responds: ""oh my god! Again! what did you do this time... Wait is that why you gave me a blowjob right when I walked in, did kissing him make you horny? Did you kiss him back?"" +Julie, ""no, me kissing him didn't make me horny but I could feel his huge dick pressed up against me and that made me horny."" +Husband, ""wait you kissed him?"" +Julie, ""Honey we can either sit here and fight about this, or we can go for round two!"" +Julie gets up grabs her husbands hand and tries to lead him to the bedroom. Still not sure what do or say he just goes to the bedroom with her. She rips off his clothes climbs on top of him and starts grinding him like she never has before. Husband did not expect this but this was the wildest his wife has ever been. It didn't take long of her grinding and her pussy gripping his quickly recovered hard cock. She starts to cum and he does too. Right when he starts she moans, ""Oh god Dylan give it to me, fuck me Dylan, fuck me!"" Then she lets out the loudest scream she ever has with him. Almost the point the husband is worried not only the neighbors will hear her scream they might hear her scream Dylans name. but that is the last thing on his mind. The only thing he is worried about is his wife's pussy gripping his cock and pulling all the cum out of it as it shoots deep inside of her. +They lay there catching their breath for a while and husband tried to figure out how to approach this. Finally husband musters up the words to ask her, ""so what's going on? Are you cheating on me with Dylan?"" +Julie, ""honey no! I love you, you are my husband. This is just my imagination."" +Husband, ""well I don't want you to see Dylan again."" +Julie doesn't respond turn the other way and goes to sleep. +Another week goes by. Husband comes home to his wife making steak. The last several months every single time they had sex was when she had a run in with Dylan. Husband was well aware of this fact but to his knowledge they had had sex, only a kiss. He also started to notice a pattern that every time they had sex she made steak. Just like a Pavlov dog, husband got home to steak and got horny right away. She was also dressed hot looking like she was ready to go. +Finally at dinner this is where husband needed to say something, ""honey why is it every time we have sex it's after you saw Dylan? Are you cheating me?"" +Julie, ""No! You are my husband, I love you... But I am going to suck dylans dick!."" +Husband, ""wait what? When?"" +Julie, ""right now, I'm supposed to go over to his place."" +Husband, ""what? Wait honey can we talk about this? You are just going to cheat on me?"" +Julie, ""no I'm NOT going to cheat on you and I have never cheated on you. Like I said, I'm only going to suck his dick that is not cheating! Don't be such a prude. I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings but he's got a huge dick and I've gotta put it in my mouth."" +Husband, ""I don't even know what to say right now."" +Julie, ""you don't need to say anything, I'll be home before midnight. Love ya! bye."" +Julie walks out the door leaving her husband sitting there finishing his steak dinner with blue balls, fully expecting sex but instead got this. Julie was smart though. As a safety factor she didn't actually go to Dylan house. In case her husband flipped on her and was waiting for divorce papers she was going to feel out his reaction and have an out playing it off like it was a joke. So instead of going to suck Dylans dick she went over to her girlfriends house. She had several texts with her and took several pics of them together. This was just a backup plan though she only planned to show him if he freaked out to the idea of sucking Dylans dick. She could just say, ""Oh no I was just wanted to see how you reacted. I hung out with Alexis."" +But she never had to use this Alibi. She got home and husband was still up. That is where the discussion really happen. Husband was left at home to jerk off and these new thoughts of his wife being a slut, he couldn't help but get turned on by them. So he asks her, ""how was it?"" +Julie lied, ""oh my god his dick was amazing!"" +Husband, ""so did you fuck him?"" +Julie, ""no I didn't, I was saving my pussy for you, you want it right now?!"" +Once again husband is left confused but not about the turn down sex so he agrees and they once again have some incredible sex. Afterwards the long discussion starts on how he feels, ""on one hand I feel terrible, my own wife is cheating on me."" On the other hand the sex with you has been the best ever and I don't know what to do about that."" +Julie reassures him, ""honey I love you, you are my husband. This thing with Dylan is purely sexual."" +Husband, ""I thought you didn't have sex with Dylan?"" +Julie, ""I haven't yet, but tomorrow night I'm going to fuck him."" +Julie had called his bluff. She hadn't actually done anything sexual with him yet but this was the moment of truth. Depending on what her husband did this was either going to happen or not. All this work put into this plan came down to what he was about to say. After a long pause he finally says, ""will you at least use a condom?"" +Julie gets a huge smile on her face she got exactly what she wanted and says, ""of course!"" +They both rolled over and both slept very little that night. Julie had excitement, husband had cuckold angst. To reaffirm his decision she rolled over to him and had some middle of the night sex as well. Morning came and husband went off to work. A few concerned texts from the husband that day but the date was still on. +She went out with Dylan that night and did fuck him. She didn't actually use a condom like she promised her husband, one little white, creamy gooey lie. Dylan absolutely blew her mind and all the hard work of making her husband into a cuckold had finally paid off. Dylan fucked her twice that night and she came more times than she could even count. More than she had with her husband in the last six months and it was worth it! +Of course there was much more discussion that followed. The husband started being turned on by the idea. Eventually instead of a reward of sex husband started getting off to be denied sex and hearing all the stories of his wife fucking Dylan. She eventually confessed Dylan had never used a condom and husband loved that. She would send her husband pics and a video of Dylan fucking her in every room in the house while husband was at work. Husband even eventually was trained to eat out dylans cream pies when she would get home from her date with him. Julie had successfully converted her monogamous married into a full on open cuckold marriage and everybody was happy." +864,Ultimate Truth Or Dare,TooCleverByHalf,How To,2014-01-02,2014-01-02,2022-01-04 08:41:07,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/ultimate-truth-or-dare,The party game guaranteed to please.,"['Game', 'Party Game', 'Seven Minutes In Heaven', 'Spin The Bottle', 'Stripping', 'Truth Or Dare']",3.37,"**Ultimate Truth Or Dare** + _As demonstrated in ""The Warmest Winter, Day 09""_ + **What You Will Need:** + * A bottle from an alcoholic beverage (your choice). You may even have more than one, depending on how much you would like people to drink. + * Index cards (at least 9) + * Shot glasses, at least one per person. Preferably one for every shot in the game. + * A timer, preferably digital. + * Paper and pencil, to keep track of certain rules. + * One set of gaming dice (one die each with twenty sides, twelve sides, ten sides, eight sides, six sides, and four sides, called a d20, d12, d10, d8, d6, and d4). + * Players (of course). +As with any drinking/sex/party game, every person should be open to doing whatever comes up, with anyone else present, especially given the random nature of the game. If this is not the case, agree on rules adjustments prior to the game. +One player will sort of act for the game in a role similar to that of a Dungeon Master in a D&D game. They set the timer, write down necessary notes, announce new rules, and adjudicate as needed. It is most useful for this person to go first in a round, to demonstrate how the rules work each round, for those not yet familiar (or are quite familiar but also drunk). +Some preparation is required. As host, calculate how drunk you want everyone to be and work backwards. X amount of alcohol per person, times Z number of people, given that booze Q that I want to serve is Y proof, there will be... K number of shots. +Example: A 200-mL bottle of Eiswein is to be split among four players. It's a fairly hefty proof, and the host wants the players to be tipsy and uninhibited, but not drunk and reckless. So, half-shots. This makes for thirteen shots, with a little extra. +All booze that does not split evenly among the players is combined into one container (this may be quite a bit larger than a shot for a big group), and is called the Big Shot. More on that later. +Write the rules for each round down on an index card, and stack them in order. These are great for referring back to as needed. You can also shuffle them without looking, for an even more chaotic game. What follows is the recommended order. + **Round 1:** +Truth Or Dare, straight up. +If someone does not know the rules, they probably shouldn't be playing this ultimate version. But just in case, let's go over them. On your turn, you ask another player of your choice ""Truth or Dare?"" If they say ""Truth,"" you ask them a question and they HAVE to be honest. If they say ""Dare,"" you dare them to do something and they HAVE to do it. + **Round 2:** +Add Spin The Bottle. +You now spin to see who you ask ""Truth Or Dare"" to. You also spin for the objects of dares, when appropriate. If a spin result is impossible, spin again. + **Round 3:** +Add the Dare Die. +The first Dare Die is the d20. On your turn, you roll the DD. If it's a 1, the object must Dare. It decreases to d12, d10, d8, d6, then d4 each round. It stays on d4 the remainder of the game. + **Round 4:** +Add the shots. +At the beginning of your turn, you must drink a shot. If this gets you too drunk, blame the host. The last shot is called the Big Shot, and the last person wearing clothing must drink it. + **Round 5:** +Subtract Clothing. +From this point forward, all clothing removed may not be put back on. Contact lenses, jewelry, and the like may be excluded at the group's discretion. + **Round 6:** +Time's Up. +The next timed Dare is one minute long, adding a minute for every Timed Dare afterwards. + **Round 7:** +Add Seven Minutes In Heaven. +From this point forward, every time you Spin To Ask and the result is yourself, that's seven minutes. Keep adding three minutes for every subsequent spin in the same direction, as needed until the bottle points to someone else. The number of minutes is how long the spinner and the other person have in Heaven. This counts as a completed Dare, but not a Timed Dare. + **Round 8:** +Subtract Clothing +From this point forward, anyone who is clothed must remove one item of their own clothing at the beginning of their turn. If the player is naked, the article may be removed from anyone. Contact lenses, jewelry, and the like may be excluded at the group's discretion. + **Round 9 & Up:** +No new rules. +If you make it this far, you're not doing the previous ones right, so you must need more practice." +865,The Unabridged Catalog of Kisses,RenaeNicks,How To,2007-07-03,2007-07-03,2022-01-04 08:40:35,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/the-unabridged-catalog-of-kisses,A catalog of memories that is somewhat instructive.,"['Couples', 'Kissing']",4.61,"_""Soul meets soul on lovers' lips.""_ +(Percy Bysshe Shelley) +Some people like to kiss. Some people think kissing is one of those things you do on the way to other activities. I happen to be someone who feels that kissing can be more intimate than any other type of sexual contact. +Part of my personal fascination with the activity stems from the many years I spent ""saving"" my virginity. Prolonged episodes of kissing became a substitute for intercourse in many of my relationships. By this, I mean that ""sex"" as an expression of affection was replaced by kissing. Although this did not result in orgasms for either party (except once for him), it did serve the function of conveying sexual attraction and shared affection. +Of course not all kisses are romantic or passionate. The word ""kiss"" is used for the very different touch of a mother's lips on her infant's forehead, and the open-mouthed deep tonguing between two breathless lovers. So, to clarify, the ""kisses"" discussed here are related to the second type, rather than the first. +What constitutes good technique is obviously a matter of personal preference. Certainly some like kisses harder or softer, dryer or wetter, etc. Most of us like different things in differing situations. +My personal feeling is that adaptability is a key element. A kiss is shared, and as such is a thing created by two different minds. Great kisses happen when the two people find common ground. Many have implied that a great kiss is a moment of chronologic stillness. ""Time stood still."" Indeed, the feeling that you are both very clearly in the present is often quite exciting. In my experience, men who concentrate on their kisses and consciously think about the action leave the best impressions. Confidence (but not arrogance) combines with assertiveness (but not aggressiveness) to convey strong emotions most effectively. +I actually still remember the name of every man that has ever touched his lips to mine. Although there were not very many, I kept the names in a journal throughout my teen years, with occasional notes and comments about them. Over the years, I discovered that I was sort of mentally rating each one. The categories that I mentally considered were the following: +1\. Romance Was it romantic if the occasion warranted romance? +2\. Technical merit According to my own preferences, meaning good lip contact, slight suction, and the right amount of tongue at the proper moment. +3\. Lust-invoking Did it leave me wanting more? +4\. Creative/artistic Did he do anything *different*? +The following list was compiled from both journal entries and memories. (Consistent with the above ""definition"" of the kisses discussed here, no one appears below unless the lip contact lasted for at least a few seconds.) +\----- +Josh +I was 13 when I got my first kiss. Josh and I were outside with my best friend and her then-boyfriend, Jason (who was a good friend of Josh's). They left to go inside, but Josh grabbed my arm and suggested that we ""look at the stars"" for another minute. I stayed, hoping he was planning to kiss me. +When he turned and stared into my eyes, my heart was about to pound out of my chest. I was hardly even disappointed when the kiss was too wet and far too aggressive. Although he had later opportunities to improve my impression of his technique, he never did kiss very much better than that first night in the moonlight next to my best friend's swimming pool. +Josh's specialty -- the ""no warm up"" french kiss, normally suitable only in long-term relationships and definitely not appropriate for a first kiss. +Luke +I kissed Luke at a party one night, and immediately knew that I had experienced the worst kiss I would ever know. Yuck! WAY too wet, too much tongue, no creativity whatsoever. Gross. For his sake, I hope he eventually improved! +Luke's specialty -- the ""dead fish"" kiss, which I've been trying to forget ever since. +Jason +This is the same Jason that my friend was dating when I kissed Josh. Jason was gorgeous, so I was willing to overlook the fact that he probably didn't really like me as much as I liked him. I was easily lured with the line, ""can I see your bedroom?"". +His kiss and touch were a little like him -- very self-centered. Technically OK, but it's hard for me to judge because we only kissed for a few minutes on that one occasion. +Jason's specialty -- the ""kiss and run"" technique, which really has little more to recommend it than Luke's ""dead fish"" kiss. +Erik +Erik deserves some discussion, since he held the title of ""best kisser"" for quite some time before he was dethroned by another. Our first kiss was also at a party. I brought him with me as a friend. A while after we arrived, another guy whom I had been interested in but ""rejected"" by arrived at the party. I asked Erik to please pretend that we were romantically involved. As a favor to me, he began to dance with me and hold my hand. +This lead to more serious ""pretending"" and eventually some very real kissing. My head was spinning that night from the sensual pleasures, and I can still almost feel the movements of his mouth against mine. Erik kissed great. He and I also kissed on many other occasions, and he still remains one of the best in my mind for both technical and creative reasons. +Erik's specialty -- the ""tongue tease"", also known as ""slipping him/her the tongue"", which can be extremely exciting when done properly. +Ben +My first kiss with Ben was both romantic and exciting. We had a short weekend kissing ""fling"" that was sweet and intense. It included some great passionate embraces in an elevator on the way to the 10th floor of the building we were working in. +I ran into Ben several years later at a drugstore where he was then working part time. I was checking out with a box of condoms (his checkout line -- oops!). It was rather embarrassing for both of us, and the small talk was strained. I suppose he assumed at that point that I was not a virgin any longer... +Ben's specialty -- the ""elevator kiss"", which is an urgent and rushed passionate embrace, usually in a place where you could get caught at any moment. +Christian +I adored Christian, but even the strong emotional ties I had for him did not make up for his sloppy technique. Christian bluntly told me he was a lousy kisser, and he was right. +Christian was the one man I actively tried to reform, even giving verbal requests on occasion. He took the advice in a good-natured manner, but never really did conform to my own personal tastes. +Christian's specialty -- the ""steamroller maneuver"", which involved rolling around on the bed excessively, and playfully squishing the other person while kissing in various ways. +Tom +Pure unadulterated perfection, every single time. We kissed everywhere and every way, and it was bliss. Tom and I would literally kiss for hours at a time when we were first dating and I was still preserving my virginity. +During that cold fall, we used to make out in the Jacuzzi under clear starry skies. I can still feel the almost painful juncture between the icy air and the hot bubbly water. He would cup his hands and fill them with water, then pour the water on my shoulders to keep them warm. He told me the other day that he still thinks of those days and secretly longs for that kind of raw expression of emotions. From my perspective, his kisses were technically flawless, extremely creative, and often very playful. +Tom's specialty -- ""perfect timing"", which defies explanation if you have not already experienced it. +Troy +Troy and I only kissed me a few times, but we shared some memorable moments. Troy's technique was better than average, and he was also rather creative. +One grossly in-your-face macho man maneuver of his has somehow become immortalized in my memory. I cannot explain why this struck me, but it did. He wanted me to tilt my head back, so he twisted his fingers in my hair and actually pulled on it. He seemed quite impassioned at that precise moment, and I was moved by the ""rawness"" of the gesture. Although this style is not normally my preference, the memory still arouses me. +Troy's specialty -- ""the hair trick"" and related maneuvers, to position one's partner precisely for ideal angles and superb mouth access. +John +John was sweet, but his technique was a little immature. John's strength was the intensity and concentration he displayed. Technically not too bad, but he was a creative zero. I imagine that he probably improved with age and experience. +John's specialty -- ""the mirror trick"", which is the fun (or irritating) practice of imitating your partner's movements. +Mark +Mark and I were in love. We were together for over two years. He was the first man I had sex with. We shared some wonderful times. However, I really didn't like the way he kissed. Mostly, I just ignored this fact because (as I said) I loved him. +Mark's specialty -- ""the unmemorable kiss"", which, unfortunately, is self- explanatory. +Ingmar +Ingmar was Mark's best friend. After Mark and I broke up, Ingmar and I spent a lot of time together, just as friends. Late one evening, we crossed the line from friends to something more. We were sitting together on the couch, watching country music videos. Our hands slowly inched together, and he began softly caressing my fingers. +We shared a slow, close dance, and one lovely string of good night kisses that lasted for several minutes. He told me it had been at least a year since he had last kissed anyone, but his skills didn't seem to be suffering from lack of recent use. It was gentle, loving, and surprisingly arousing. Those few kisses had quite an impact on me, as I have dreamed about kissing him several times since then. +Ingmar's specialty -- ""good manners"", where you verbally request the kiss before actually performing it. +Brian +Brian was experienced, and it showed. He had soft lips, a daring tongue, and his mannerisms were delightfully sexy. Brian was skillful and creative, in kissing and other related activities. +Brian's specialty -- the ""lip suck"", which involves taking your partner's lower lip between your own two lips, and sucking on it while running your tongue back and forth across it. +Matt +Matt was too eager. He used too much pressure and did not leave enough air space. My lips felt bruised every time I could get them away from him. He was fun to be with, though -- always cheerful and optimistic. +Matt's specialty -- ""the crushing kiss"", which can be nice on occasion in the correct context, but is not recommended as a regular activity. +Derrick +Who can be objective about the current object of one's affection? Derrick was the first man to ever kiss me in a public place. In fact, our first kiss (during our first evening date) was across a small table in a very crowded room at a local comedy club. +He later confided that he had actually wanted to kiss me after our first lunch together. That really would have surprised me because we said our good-byes that afternoon in front of the library where we both worked, and many people we worked with would have seen us. Occasionally being kissed in public is a special treat because it proves that the person you are with wants others to know that he or she cares about you. It is a possessive gesture, and sometimes we all want to be possessed. +Derrick's specialty -- ""she's mine"", as described above. +\----- +Now I think perhaps you can kiss as I prefer. Come closer and I'll show you exactly how it's done. Look me in the eyes and silently tell me that you want me. Concentrate on the moment and make your message and intentions clear to me. +Move towards me slowly and give me an opportunity to shy away. If I do, remember that I may want you to try again later. Otherwise, you'll know by the look in my eyes and the encouraging way I am leaning towards you. +Where are your hands? Place your fingertips on my cheeks. Run your thumb across my lips softly. As I part my lips oh-so-slightly, take the opportunity to wet your fingertip on the tip of my tongue. Trail the moisture along my top and bottom lips. Feel my shallow breath move softly across your hand. +Now move your hands upward with splayed fingers, your parted fingers on either side of my head and your thumbs under my chin, lifting it slightly. Tilt my head very slightly to the right. See me wet my lips in anticipation. +Move your head towards mine. I will watch you come to me until the moment your lips make light contact with mine, when my eyes drift softly shut. +Brush your lips across mine briefly, then pause for my response. Pay close attention. If I want more, you can feel my body shift towards you almost imperceptibly. Lean towards me again, and this time hold your lips against mine for a second or two. +Now, show me that you want a deeper kiss. Part your lips slightly first and close them against mine a little wetly. I should hear that sexy ""smack"" as it ends. Remember that I want you to end each kiss with this particular movement. Repeat this several times so that your desire for more is clearly conveyed. +Use your hands to tilt my head the other direction. Dip your head towards mine again and this time begin by very quickly flicking your tongue across the juncture of my still closed lips. This is your request, like a knock at the door. Will I answer? +This time I do. I part my lips very slightly and meet yours in a similar state. Your tongue travels carefully to run across the soft inner edge of my upper lip. Position your head so that our mouths are tilted at almost a 90 degree angle. Be sure your lips maintain good contact with mine and apply a tiny bit of suction. +Move your tongue further into my warm, wet mouth and touch the tip of my own tongue with it. My tongue will then follow yours as you run it along the bottom edge of my top teeth and the top edge of my bottom teeth. Stretch your tongue further into my mouth, meeting mine and swirling around it in a playful dance. Now, withdraw your tongue and begin a new kiss so that I can have my turn. +I want to explore the inside of your mouth from a different angle, so I leave your lips long enough to tilt my head to the right again. You eagerly cooperate with the repositioning. +The next kiss is more aggressive. I want you to know that you have aroused me as I run my tongue intimately along the space between your upper teeth and your upper lip. Our tongues meet again and do battle once more. End the kiss now when you know I still want more. +As you pull away, I open my eyes and my desire for another kiss is clear. You want to tease me a little, so you begin kissing the hollow of my throat and the side of my neck, and eventually work your way towards my ear. You place my right earlobe between your teeth briefly, then take the earlobe into your mouth and suck on it for a moment. You can actually see the goose bumps rise on my skin. +Whisper in my ear softly that I taste great, then begin kissing below my ear and down my neck again. I will close my eyes and tilt my head backwards, exposing my entire neck to you in the universal gesture of surrender. +Kiss me again, please. You do it so well..." +866,Uncut: A Guide to the Uncircumcised,AnotherWannabe,How To,2012-11-14,2012-11-14,2022-01-04 08:41:08,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/uncut-a-guide-to-the-uncircumcised,"For the uncircumcised, those who love them, and the curious.","['Being Uncircumcised', 'Blowjob Advice', 'Circumcision', 'Hygiene', ""Men'S Health"", 'Sex Advice']",4.33,"**Things they don't teach you about being uncircumcised** +If you stopped me on the street and asked me to draw a penis, I'd probably draw a stalk attached to a pair of hairy balls with a big, glossy helmet at the end. I'd draw this even as my own penis looks nothing like this: I'm part of small but growing number of men who are ""uncut"", that is, uncircumcised. We think of penises in this way not only because that's what the majority of cocks look like, but because that's how penises are constantly represented, from porn to medical textbooks! These images cause some uncut men have anxiety about their ""abnormal"" penises, even choosing to be circumcised later in life. But the ironic truth is that it is we, the uncut, that have ""normal"" penises and those glossy purple-headed dicks the ""abnormal"" ones! +Let's most past the politics of involuntary genital mutilation (barbaric and inhumane) for the moment and realize that cut penises work differently from uncut penises. If you have an uncut penis, you may not have been taught proper hygiene. You might not also know how to have sex, and find it uncomfortable or unpleasurable, or that you're cumming way too fast. But this document isn't just for the uncircumcised. If you are the parent of an uncircumcised child, you might consider giving some of this advice to them (if only related to the hygiene). If your partner is uncircumcised, maybe you want to know a little more about their penis. This is also written for you. +No one taught me this stuff, I can't claim any of this as scientific. It is purely based on my experience, and I offer it to you so you don't go through the same learning curve as I did. If my advice seems basic, then it is basic advice I had to learn on my own. I will be quite graphic and explicit at times about very intimate things to me, so I ask that you respect that. + **Hygiene** +I've had plenty of women describe uncircumcised penises as ""dirty"" or ""gross"" to me, probably not realizing that I'm uncut. It made me feel like I was the Hunchback of Notre Dame, penis edition. But there's nothing inherently ""dirty"" about a foreskin. Like any other part of the body, if it doesn't get cleaned regularly, it's going to get filthy. And if your penis is filthy, every woman (and man) has the right to walk straight out of your bedroom. So pay heed! + _Peeling Back_ +First, you must learn to ""peel back"", that is, how to pull back the foreskin to expose the head of the penis. I think a lot men and boys might not do this because, if you aren't used to peeling back, it can be painful and your head is very sensitive. If you don't do it in a long time, it can seem impossible, the foreskin is so tight around the head that you feel like it just won't fit. As a kid, when I didn't practice proper hygiene, I'd have this problem. But it is crucially important that your foreskin is pliable enough to peel back. +If you do find yourself so tight and sensitive that you don't think you can do it, then simply ease your way into it. Push the limits of your discomfort but don't try to force it. Eventually, you'll be able to do it. +Once you can peel back, however, DO peel back at least once a day, best while in the shower. I don't think it comes naturally to peel back for some people, so it's a habit you have to nurture. Ideally, there should be little to no discomfort when peeled back fully. If you have persistent discomfort, then either you don't do it enough or you have a more serious medical problem and should consult a doctor. + _Washing_ +If you have foreskin, you're at risk of nasty, smelly (cue the organ pipe music) SMEGMA!! Some call it ""dick cheese"". I call it ""totally disgusting"". If you have it, don't expect your partner to put your cock in their mouth. But after reading this you've really got no excuses because it's very easy to prevent. +Now, the reason some of you might not clean under your foreskin is because your head is too sensitive. If you are very sensitive, shower water hitting your Johnson directly can be pretty uncomfortable. In that case, you need to gradually reduce the head's sensitivity. Try splashing it with water instead, or climb into the bath and let it soak. Eventually, you should be able to whip it out in the shower without worrying. +At the very least, you need to rinse off under the foreskin, splashing it with water. I also use soap by squeezing some soapy water directly onto it (wow, this is very personal), then rinse off again. Applying soap directly to the head would be too uncomfortable. I don't know if there are special products for the job but I don't use them. +I'd also consider drying it off before tucking it back in. I wouldn't use a towel, but shaking it off should do the trick. I've never tried this before, but using a hair dryer could also work. I don't have a hair dryer, so I can't test out my theory. +Failure to wash like this on a regular basis will make your dick disgusting, and you shouldn't expect your partner to even touch it, let alone allow you to put it into one of their orifices. + **Sex** +When I began having sex, I always felt like I needed to disclose my uncircumcised nature before exposing myself, as if to give my partner the opportunity to flee. I'd say something like, with my thumbs in my underwear, ""I just want you to know: I'm uncircumcised,"" and wait for their faces to contort with disgust. +I pretty much don't do that now. For almost every woman I've been with (not many), I've been their first uncut guy, and if they've already gone that far they're willing to go further. Other women, I've heard, have had bad experiences with uncut guys: they cum too fast, their penises were ugly or, worst of all, they had smegma. Luckily, there's something you can do about the first and the third, and I haven't received any complaints yet (and I've got an anonymous suggestion box by my bedpost!). +I'm splitting this section into two. The first section will be dealing with sex _as_ a circumcised man. The second will deal with sex _with_ a circumcised man. While I assume a male-female sexual relationship, I suppose this advice could be generalized to homosexual relationships. Not lesbian ones, obviously. That would be an odd lesbian relationship. + _Sex as a Uncircumcised Man_ +My first few sessions of sex were strange and awkward. It was because, basically, I didn't how to have sex with a foreskin. Before then, most of what I knew about sex was from porn. It turns out that things are much more complicated than sticking it into your lady, pump, repeat. +You might find sex painful. You might cum way to fast. You might find it a total chore! All three have happened to me, and it was because I didn't realize the golden rule. The rule for real estate developers is _location, location, location._ For uncircumcised men, it's _foreskin, foreskin, foreskin._ But don't blame me, I had no one to teach me! +First, and this is important, wash your cock. I've heard that some women prefer the taste of an unwashed cock, but this might be one of those things that are only encountered in porn. I can't say I like the taste of unwashed pussy. In any case, that's between you and your lady, but it's always the safer option to rinse off. If I think I'm going to get lucky, I do it before I go out. If I find that I'm at a lady's home, I try to excuse myself and use the sink. Sometimes, if the mood demands no opportunity to prepare, I'll not do it, and I can get away with it because I wash up every day. +Now we move onto penetration, and this is where peeling back is so important. If you can't peel back at all, sex isn't going to feel good. It's going to be painful, and you probably aren't going to cum either because you can't thrust like you should. As you penetrate, the foreskin is pulled slightly back, so if there's any tightness you will immediately feel it. It will almost feel like there's a brick wall inside her pussy, and you can imagine fucking a brick wall is pretty painful. +Let's say you're quite pliable. You might be running into one of two problems: the experience is too intense and you cum within minutes, or sex is a total chore and you can't cum at all. Some of this may be a lack of experience, but, as an uncircumcised man, know that you have a built-in orgasm switch that cut men just don't have, and you may not know how to use it. Use your switch correctly, it's almost like a cheat code for controlling orgasms. We call it the foreskin. +You see, while the head of your cock is very sensitive, it is actually the friction between the foreskin and your knob which provokes sexual sensation and eventually orgasm. You control that friction, you control your orgasm. Try masturbating while peeled back. It's very hard (orgasming, I mean, not the cock). Now try it hood down. Much easier. +I've never had sex without a condom, so I can't talk about the efficacy of this strategy when bareback (I imagine it would hurt). But generally, if I don't want to cum, I keep my head peeled back, and the condom will help it stay in place. Sure, there's not much sensation for me, but my ladyfriend is having a good time, and I can basically go on for a while without porn-star endurance or tantric sex magic. I've never tested the limits of this, but I'd say I'd sooner stop from physical exhaustion than from an orgasm. +When I'm ready to cum, the hood goes down, and it's an entirely different story. I have no idea what it's like for cut men, but a woman's intimacy does something for me nothing else could possibly do. There is no greater pleasure than to thrust deeply into a woman as she thrusts herself upon you, it is moment of extraordinary, blinding ecstasy even before the orgasm. And when you finally do, the sensation of pumping into her soil... it feels like love. Raw, undiluted love. If an artist could capture an emotion into a sensation, that would be it. +Women give you a very special gift: an invitation into themselves. It's why I always try to respect a woman's love, even if it is just one night, and not degrade them by calling them names when they aren't around, or to insult them by treating their gift casually. +I'm on a dry spell as I write this. I miss sex. +That aside, I have no idea if what I've written above is the experience of other uncut men. It is, however, my experience, and that's all I have to work on. + _Sex with an Uncircumcised Man_ +Why should you consider having sex with uncircumcised men? Why abandon Mr. Giant Purple Cockhead for Sir Wrinkly Top? The primary reason is that I'm uncircumcised, and I'd like to get laid more. That aside, uncut men have, I think, a different set of sensations from cut guys. They experience sex more intensely. Also, they have their natural orgasm control mechanism intact, whereas I think cut guys don't have the same capability. +By the way, don't actually stop having sex with cut guys. I don't want to get accused of being a cockblock. +Now, I've never been with another guy, and haven't been planning on it, so logically I don't have any experience screwing other uncircumcised men. My experience is of being screwed as someone who is uncircumcised, so naturally what works for me might work on other guys. +Some of you might think – oh yes, the cock head, that's even more sensitive on an uncut guy, I'll go ahead and throttle that for the evening. NO. PLEASE DON'T. IT HURTS. If you touch the area under the foreskin without some preparation, you are more likely to get a yelp than a groan. And just because it's more sensitive doesn't mean a pleasurable sensation: you don't poke 3rd degree burns, you don't just poke a guy's knob! +You see, I vaguely remember some scientist telling me that there are many nerve endings in the foreskin, and the foreskin is really the place that generates sexual pleasure for uncut guys. Specifically, the motion of the foreskin as it glides over the head. It is very difficult to make a guy orgasm from just polishing his naked helmet. +That doesn't mean you should never touch it. Just know what you are doing. Make sure it is very lubricated, oil or lube works but precum works as well, just anything that acts as a barrier between the head and raw touch. Then, gently explore it. Look at how your man feels. If you feel confident try rubbing it or licking it. Just remember that it is very tender. +Armed with this knowledge, you should know how to get him off and when to tease him. A greater variety of things will likely make him orgasm. You can jack him in the traditional way, or your can lightly massage the knob through the foreskin. Either will likely get him off. +I've heard that cut men don't really get off by mouth alone, that one must use their hands in addition to lips. For me, the suction will work, and I imagine much is the same with other uncut guys. I could never convince my lady friend to suck me of to fruition (but damn, I wanted her to), so I can't know for sure. +If you're with a new guy, before venturing to areas underneath the foreskin with your mouth, you should have a brief check to see if it is clean. I don't want you to get a mouthful of disgusting stuff, that makes uncut men look bad. If all is clear, you can try to put your tongue directly onto the head, and it could be exciting or uncomfortable depending on how you do it. As always, do it lightly at first, gauge the reaction of your guy, then be more bold. +Because of the foreskin use of teeth (very lightly, of course) is permissible. Just don't, you know, bite down. +That's how you treat a guy. While every guy like a blowjob, for me, blowjobs are _awesome_. I don't know if it's because I'm uncircumcised or not, but it's a very special treat to get from a lady. My lady friend would always kiss me after the fact, which felt nice and intimate. I only wish I was more experienced at returning the favor. + **In Closing** +I said that I'd set politics aside, but I stipulated ""for now"", and this is the time to come back to it. If you oppose the involuntary female genital mutilation, it would be hypocritical of you to support involuntary male genital mutilation. Foreskin is an extremely important part of the penis, it is where the majority of sexual sensation is generated. It is my personal belief that this is also the part of the penis that give men the ability to control orgasm. The ability of circumcised men to experience pleasure in sex is crippled compared to those who still have their penises largely intact. And if you don't think this is a big deal, remember this: every argument for male circumcision (it's more hygenic, it reduces the risk of cancer, it promotes moral behavior, it's what God wants, men don't miss it once it's gone) were used to defend _female circumcision._ And, of course, many men accept that they're circumcised, and that's perfectly fine. But take this analogy: we have a diet problem in the United States (where I live) do we scrape off the taste buds of babies to solve it? After all, they can't miss what they've never had. +Alright. So. If you're an uncircumcised guy, you might have learned something from this. Or not. If you're embarrassed because you didn't know this stuff, don't be, people can only work with the information that they have. Smart people throughout history have believed in what we now know is crazy stupid stuff : the geocentric universe, young Earth theory, supply-side economics. The only genuine stupidity is to shut yourself off to learning anything. +Some of you may be like, ""Damn Wannabe, I knew this shit, but why didn't you mention XYZ?"" If so, know that this is purely my own experience, so please message me or leave a comment with your experiences and knowledge and maybe I can update this at a later date. I'd be glad to read what you have to say, though I can't promise I'll respond. +If you are a parent and have opted to leave your son's penis intact, I commend you. There is a chance that he'll blame you later for _not_ having his schlong mutilated, and even if he decides to be circumcised later in life you made the right decision by giving him that choice. But that decision is only a part of it, now you need to educate your child on how to take care of themselves. No one is born with innate knowledge of how to do these sorts of things. +I don't want to be too hard on those parents who had chosen to circumcise their child. It is, after all, the ""default"" thing to do, and it's likely it was just something that you didn't think about. It doesn't make you a bad parent and you shouldn't feel bad, but you should consider opting out of circumcision next time, especially if you don't have a religious objection to it. +If you are a circumcised guy and are feeling a little left out, believe me, it works both ways. There have been times in my life where I've been ashamed of my uncircumcised penis and have felt anger towards my parents for not having it cut. Now I'm older and more confident, and I think my parents made the right decision. +Finally, if you are a person oriented towards men – a lady, a man, or anything in between – I hope my advice has been helpful and this improves your relationship. There's nothing inherently weird or unnatural about being uncut... in fact, it is the more natural way to be. So when you're with a new guy who pulls out a couple centimeters more wang than usual, don't retreat, give him a go! He might be me! +P.S. I have no anonymous suggestion box by my bed. That's a joke, so don't look for one." +867,Understand Breasts & Bra Sizes,elfin_odalisque,How To,2006-05-24,2006-05-24,2022-01-04 08:41:09,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understand-breasts-and-bra-sizes,"Tiny tits, huge hooters - never 36D.","['Bras', 'Breasts', 'Describing', 'Measuring', 'Understand Breasts & Bra Sizes']",4.63,"_Until I dropped anchor here, I knew about the male penchant for sports stats but was not fully aware quite how obsessed males were about sexual statistics. ""Pee-Wee Logan's career RBI was to die for but his nickname was more than justified by the two-incher he sported openly in the locker room."" Just for information, do you measure it soft or hard and is it above or below? No, don't tell me, I really don't want to know!_ + _For a long while now, finding female mammary glands dismissed in stories as a quantifiable fact has really irritated me. I find it as much of a turnoff as mention of a 'Hershey highway' or a 'poop chute', and if you start talking about a ZZ Top, I'll giggle and think the boobies have a long beard and are strumming a guitar._ + _So, in the best spirit of 'show, don't tell', I have tried to explain how breasts can be measured for bras and why they are so fundamental to sexuality in the hope that writers will see why even 'small plums', 'medium peaches' and 'large melons' give infinitely more description to the reader, male or female, than 36DD._ + _I apologize in advance if you think there is any misinformation – the subject is a minefield of myth and legend and I've tried to tiptoe as carefully as possible, even though I've had to abridge some information and I may have compromised accuracy in so doing. I just hope this piece is of some interest to women and a cautionary tale for any writer who wants to quote breast measurement or bra sizes._ + _FW – I raise my glass to you, many thanks._ +\----------------------------- + **Fairy Wonderbra says Supersize my 40AA jugs!** +Fairy Wonderbra, FW for short, is a girlfriend who beta tests my stories to stop the worst drivel from being posted. She was sitting in my kitchen proof reading my latest erotic gem on the laptop when she suddenly screamed apoplectically. +""She's having her breasts measured! I thought we were starting a campaign to have all use of bra size measurements banned on the grounds of boredom and cruelty to women, sorta like bestiality and under pensionable-age sex."" +I patiently tried to explain it was just my very unsubtle plot device to get the girl's naked breasts to be fondled by a strange woman in public whilst her boyfriend watched, but this wasn't enough for FW. A woman who spiked my story about how Rock Hudson did some bareback riding with a frog – the frog did turn into a handsome prince – is not to be trifled with. +Even though absolutely no numbers or measurements were quoted in the story – which FW is straining every sinew to keep unposted - my penance is to launch this plea to never, never quote bra sizes in literotica stories unless the plot absolutely demands it. I mean, you would never write, 'His hands slid down from her twenty-four inch waist to rest on her thirty-six inch hips,' would you? Not if you expect a good score from the readers, surely? + _Anyway, here goes!_ +""I'm Elle and let me introduce myself. I'm a 38DD sophomore at Literotica Nymphomaniac Community College."" Yes, yes, truly, some people do start stories pretty much like that. I'm not sure how most of them end though. +Why is it, in stories, men are always human beings and women just bra sizes? I can assure you, probably from about eighth grade on, almost all girls are unhappy about their breasts; too big, too small, wrong shape, too saggy, even just 'funny looking'. From the first moment our chests start budding we are crossing our arms tightly in front of us to hide the evidence, and then by twelfth grade we are now embarrassed that ours are smaller than all of our friends, so begin stuffing handkerchiefs or socks in our bra cups. Please, oh great deity, may I never sink to the chicken fillets! +And so it goes on; even when we start to like the bubbies as we learn how they can get us a lift home or a larger pay rise, the last thing we want to do is broadcast statistics. In fact, we are seldom sure exactly what size we are. It's good, though, I admit, when you guys check labels in the naughties drawer just before birthdays and Valentine's; we can always exchange them if they don't fit. +Anyway, in his superb guide on 'How To' write erotic stories, 'The 10 Commandments', The Earl says, ""Never use measurements unless you have a very good reason. [. . . ] They restrict the reader's imagination. Plus, when was the last time you found a man who could tell women's bra sizes from outside their clothing?"" +I would go a whole lot further. If a naked woman handed a man a tape measure, pencil and paper and asked him to check her bra size he probably couldn't get it anywhere close to right. Mind you, it's odds on neither would the woman! +So, just promise me this guys – and I think it is guys, really; I'm pretty sure I haven't yet seen a female writer on the site using bra measurements as descriptions of breasts – take this little examination (no stirrups or speculums) and promise me never to put a bra size in your stories unless you get all the answers right first time. On your honor now, no peeking! +A) The vital statistics of a woman with a bra size quoted as 38C are 38-xx-xx? +B) The number 38 in 38C equates to inches? +C) Cup size C is bigger than size B and cup size DD is smaller than size E? +E) Cup size is related to the bust measurement or breast size? +F) A woman's breasts are symmetrical? +Well, that was easy wasn't it? Now swap papers with the person sitting on your lap and we'll look at them together and see what crops up. All those who wrote 'it depends' as the answer to every question clearly has no need to carry on here in Breasts101. Full marks and you can advance to the graduate program and start on your thesis explaining the exact anatomical differences between 36D breasts and 38C breasts; with diagrams, please. Now nipple-long please, the rest of us have work to do. +For the remainder, please refrain from ever using bra size as a breast description unless you add a disclaimer explaining exactly how the measurement was obtained and verified, with written confirmation from the heroine that her bra fits properly and a note citing manufacturer and model of bra. +You see, breast measurement is one of those Catch-22 thingies. Lingerie retailers and bra manufacturers claim that more than seventy percent of all women wear the wrong size bra, but many more than seventy percent of all women claim that lingerie retailers and bra manufacturers have no idea how to measure women's busts. Let me explain. +FW said she'd been mooching along for a while now with bras that are generally 34C or 36B. That's right guys, different sizes but the same tits! How can you write that in your story? It can be a personal choice, but usually depends on the manufacturer; you see there seems to be no industry standard for cup size. One company's B is another's C. How can you cope? Sloggi sports bras seem bigger than Elle McPherson Intimate Secrets. Cup sizes of the same manufacturer even change between model and size. A 36B is usually slightly bigger cupped than a 34B but have you checked between the under wired and the soft cupped ranges? What about padded or half-bra? +In any case, bras have two – usually three – sets of hooks. If I hook up my 58GGG's (joke) on the first setting, have I got the same rack as a girl who strains to 'get things together' on notch three? And when the damn thing has been washed a few times it stretches, so you have to do it up more tightly – so you're getting smaller? Seriously, any attempt at quantification is pretty meaningless and is no substitute for good description. +Most women tend to stick with the same brand or brands and use trial and error when they change. You try on zillions and buy the one that seems most comfortable. Not exactly rocket science, but I pity the poor husband in the Victoria's Secret store at Christmas; unless he's taken some plaster casts, of course! Just looking in the unmentionables drawer for labels may not be enough. +And there's another point for you guys who are hooked on numbers. Think of shoe sizes for example. Despite thinking you are a 7, you go to the shop and try them on and find you need an 8 because the style you like are cut narrowly. So what shoe size are you? Good job too, otherwise how would all those young male shop assistants get to go home on the bus in stained pants because women always go shoe shopping in a short skirt and with no panties? +A bra is a skillfully engineered torture device where, for any individual woman, there are a range of sizes that fit. So when your fairy princess is 'clearly braless under her spaghetti strap crop top' then what exactly are these 38D cantaloupes she's waving in our faces? Are they, perhaps, 36DD when she's wearing a cantilevered bra with underwiring from Wal-Mart or, do you really mean 'full, voluptuous breasts stretching her spandex top as if on a mission to escape their cotton-lined Alcatraz'? Why not explain? It is much better for our imagination. +So FW and I decided to run an experiment from scratch as research. First, we got on the Web to find out the proper way to measure breasts and were absolutely amazed to find there is no one accepted standard. We found more than half a dozen methods from reliable sources, which gave wildly different results. True, the major retailers seem to have a roughly similar approach, but the answers we got from their instructions were sometimes hilarious. +We started with Victoria's Secret, but Sears, Figleaves, Maidenform, Agent Provocateur and most of the other big names were pretty similar. You take your top off and put on a well-fitting, soft bra. Catch-22 again; if you've already got a well-fitting bra, why are you doing this measuring lark? Doh! +First, you measure round the ribcage, right under the breasts then, for some inexplicable reason, add 5 to arrive at 'band size'. Well, to be brutally honest, you can add anything from three to six, depending on the store's guidelines. Also, some sites added different amounts as you get bigger – that is bigger chested, not bigger breasted; others added less. FW came out at 34 inches and, when you add 5, that makes 39, but bras only come in even sizes (why?) so that rounds to 40. Forty what, you may ask? Not inches certainly, not dollars or even Polish zlotys; it just is 40 nothings, or somethings; it is just called 'band size'. Perhaps it is to make us air-headed girlies feel good, or bigger, or something. +One thing guys – the number is absolutely not the circumference round the biggest part of the breasts. Furthermore, band size cannot physically change; I mean the ribcage stays the same. If you ever read of a starlet having 'augmentation' surgery to go from a 34B to a 38D – they are lying to you. There is no way she has had her ribcage enlarged. Or rather, they are conning you. In actresses' or glamour models' 'resumes' you often see vital statistics quoted with a cup size added, so you get something like 38C-26-38. This probably overstates her band size by around two but pleases the punters: just guessing, but she probably wears a 36C bra – if she ever wears a bra. +Step two is easy. Measure the bust over the biggest part – nipples guys! – keeping the measure parallel to the ground. Here lies another catch, because the tape is away from the chest from boob to boob. If your breasts are widely spaced apart, you are going to get the same bust circumference as a woman with slightly fuller, but more narrowly slung, lulus. Explain that in a story. +""Come on FW, that makes you 40 inches, not bad eh?"" +It said on the screen that you must deduct band size from bust measurement then look the result up in a table to get cup size. OK, that seems straightforward. We take 40 from, err, 40 and get, err, zero. Even AA goes up to half an inch! I can personally vouch for the fact that it has been quite a while now that FW hasn't been able to squeeze into teenage training bras. +""FW, don't quite know how to tell you this, but, officially, you are bra size 40AA and flat-chested. The bad news is Vicky's Secret doesn't sell anything in your size, but the good news is you don't need a bra."" +Cupping her burgeoning peaches, if not melons, in her palms, FW gave me a quizzical look. The meaning was crystal clear. A 40-band bra would only have the remotest chance of stopping traveling south when it reached her hips; and then only if it hit at an angle. We knew there had to be something wrong, perhaps we had misunderstood the websites so, it was time to go shopping. +In the malls, the sales staff were insistent, sometimes downright aggressive; this was the way to assess bra size. Desperate pleadings to look at the evidence poking out in front of their eyes, that FW was not flat chested or 'big boned' – whatever that means – fell on stony ground. According to the most popular _corsetieres_ my modestly endowed companion was officially a '38A' or a '40AA' but I defy any passing lit writer, male or female, to have guessed that from seeing her naked jugs. +We were told condescendingly that not all women comply with the norms, that perhaps she should try trial and error, and thereby implying that my friend was some kind of anatomical freak. I think the real reason is that a lot of sales assistants are not well trained and, in reality, correct bra size has very little to do with tape measures. +Back at home, we made another run-through of the sites. Another way of measuring band size we found was to run the tape above the breasts and under the armpits. +This is not suggested by many of the online shops, but generally by the wonderful medical sites offering really detailed advice for women after lumpectomies or mastectomies. With FW, this approach at least gave a band 36, that is, 34 inches and add 2. Doing the standard cup size bit, she then came out as 36D borderline E – a bit over the top but a lot closer than 40AA. The medical/ women's health sites seem much more on the ball than the shops, anyway. Perhaps it is because they care more. +However, to our utter amazement, the best measurement approximation to the bras she actually buys came from a site for transvestites and cross-dressers. Perhaps these guys have had to work harder to master the art. At least they have more options than we do to hone their body shape; unless you're into surgery, that is. +The advice they gave that seemed best overall was to measure above AND below the breasts. If the difference was less than two inches, take the ribcage measurement as band size. Otherwise, try the armpit measurement and add 2. This seemed ideal. We had now got two measurements for FW that gave a band size of 34 or 36 – just what she wears. +The other incredible revelation from this site was that cup size doesn't matter very much to breast circumference. Guys wrote that going up four cup sizes with inserts only increased the circumference measurement by about one to two inches. The advantage of being able to vary breast size at will probably helps, but the findings are pretty clear. The predominant determinant of numeric size is always going to be the skeletal, ribcage criterion and not the 'these breasts could cushion the fall of a dove's egg from 30,000 feet' mentality. +Put in simple terms, there is very little difference, probably less than 2 inches, in breast circumference between a Dolly Parton look-alike and the emaciated, four cups smaller form of Orphan Annie – provided their ribcages are the same size. Furthermore, they will both have the same band size. Don't snort; this is as much a surprise to me. Guys, please understand that women's breasts vary far more in area and mass than they do in projection from the chest wall. Your 46DD only effectively describes the build and body shape of your heroine – it tells us nothing really useful about the look of her bazookas from outside her clothes! +In fact, without telling us the height of your protag we are like a blind person in a dark room in a fog. A five-foot tall girl with 34C bra size would appear a heck of a sight more 'voluptuous' looking than a six-foot tall girl with the same boobs. Trust me, I know! +A plastic surgeon friend of mine told me that all he could ever really do for a girl who 'wanted to be bigger' was add volume. That's why they call it 'breast augmentation'. He said that, on a rough rule of thumb, an extra 150cc (about 5 fluid oz.) added a cup size but, it did not make the tits stick out much more! Sure they're firmer – something about quarts in pint pots if you stretch the skin – but it is mass, not projection. With a boob job, the tits spread out and fill the skin; they don't stick out much further. Certainly, sticking a saline bag or two between your pectoralis (chest wall) muscles will not change the ribcage size at all. +There are games you can play, though. When I want to flaunt a bit of cleavage, for a party or something more intimate, I drop a band size. This pushes my tits together and upwards, so voluptuous 32Ds, in their strapless casing tonight, will, like Cinderella, revert to a prosaic 34C tomorrow. +That is another thing. Shoulder straps are not really essential. They are just there to act as stabilizers for the cups. They should never be support for the breasts. The band is the main support and the rest of the bra cups the boobs to be supported by the band. The current fashion for spaghetti tops with bra straps showing has a lot to do with wearing underwear as outerwear – a bit like showing thong-T's above the back of low-rise jeans. +But, to come back to the SAT test at the beginning, I've already explained that the number has nothing at all to do with breast size. All I really understand about a 38D bra size is that the woman has a ribcage between 32 and 38 inches and nothing much about her boob size except she is probably full- breasted. You, on the other hand, may well be imagining that her bust measurement is 38 inches and teats stick out like Jane Fonda in Barbarella. +Similarly, cup size is as far from a science as most politicians are from reality. Just to completely confuse things, a C cup for a 30 band bra is almost certainly no bigger than a B cup for a 38 band bra. So guys, the petite 30C looks like what exactly? What you have in your head is probably totally different from what I see in my mind's eye. It goes further. Beyond size D, no-one can even agree on names. One company's DD is another's E – and not the same size, to boot. I have just read a story where the author said, ""I would have put her as a DD maybe even an E."" Did he really mean, 'I would have put her as a Playtex, maybe even a Maidenform'? +Oh, I forgot another small point. Most women don't have the same sized breasts. Apparently, according to the AMA, 90 percent of American women have a right breast slightly smaller than their left. No idea why that is, but I haven't seen that feature in the anatomical details I've read, something like, ""her left love puppy was a 36C but the right was only a B."" Perhaps we really do have Amazon genetic history! I always hoped so. +Yet another teeny complication; you are posting here to a global readership but do you know that there are dozens of different ways in the world to enumerate women's bosoms. Just a stray thought that struck me, didn't Abraham have a bosom? Was he a 30F or a 48A? +Also, most of the world is now metric. How is 48F supposed to mean anything to an Australian, even a Sheila? If some New Zealand writer talked about these drool-making 16D's would you have the slightest idea what he meant? A '36' US or UK measurement is going to be 95 in France, 80 in the rest of Europe, 3 in Italy and 14 in Australia. Also, even between the US and the UK, cup sizes usually vary by half an inch. A 36A in the US is likely to be a 36B in the UK. Help the world enjoy your story – abandon the measurements. +This begins to come back to my penance. If anyone quotes a breast size of 40AA I will immediately think of FW, which is probably not what you intend, and probably not what most other readers will imagine. Are the breasts round or pointy? Are they sticky-uppy or dangly-downy? Are the areolas puffy and the nipples large? That can make a good cup size of difference. And, I assure you, that matters to a female reader and is usually deep in the male fantasy, as far as my limited experience goes. +So, having explained why bra size is a pretty useless way of describing bosoms, what positive advice have I got to offer? How should you talk about tits? +Breasts are rich and full, heaving, pendulous, wide, narrow and hung high or low on the chest, just the size to cup nicely in his palm, soft and springy like two stress balls – I could go on. I'll buy fruit comparisons; ripe plums, sweet apples, firm peaches, grapefruit – at a pinch, even melons (just spare us kumquat). Now you know they don't stick out much further than other girlies, start thinking about other ways how to make me jealous, excited. How about using descriptions like jutting, buxom, compressed or erupting cleavage, pert globes, porcelain half moons, spheres or orbs? Colors and textures are good; dusky pink, olive, coffee, nut brown. These are not necessarily favorites of mine but just examples I can remember reading. +Why can't we all use some of the descriptive talent that makes a good story: 'Her pinched, slender waist accentuated the voluptuous swell of her generous hips'? Bottoms can be bubbles, apple-shaped, heart-shaped or even split peach perfection. Why can't breasts get the same loving, descriptive treatment? +""As she lay back on the bed, the long, coral pink nipples and generous areolas stood proud of the expansive, firm flesh that cradled them. He had never found a woman with breasts so sensitive."" +Whatever the gender of the writer, I read your stories as a woman. I really go for the bits where he 'takes her soft mounds in his warm palms and slowly rolls the balls of his thumbs over her achingly hard nipples'. Just please, don't quantify them then put them on the shelf marked S, M or XXL to get treated like inventory. You don't understand, it puts off women readers and it's not erotic – even to a lot of men as I have been told. +One summer vacation during college, I worked on a major construction site as a 'girl Friday' – that means 'gofer' – and I thought I heard the whole thesaurus of words that could describe female mammaries. In the unbridled sexism and lust – that I quite liked – no-one ever quoted bra sizes. The one expression I will always remember is, 'get an eyeful of those great mazoomas'. What exactly are 'mazoomas'? Who cares? For the men who used the term it was a mix of lust, admiration and, in a strange way, a touch of respect. For me, in context, it was far more descriptive, visual and erotic than anything that has a number attached to it. +We all know there are quite a sizeable number of synonyms for both male and female genitalia. It is just that much of the vocabulary is along the Tab A/ Slot B lines, even if he sticks his 'love lollipop' into her 'steaming channel of desire'. +Yet, in researching this piece, we found upwards of three hundred general slang words for the female protuberances. My particular favorite was 'Cupid's kettledrums', but there is surely a place in the world for such gems as 'love- pillows', 'FiFi's Funballs', 'lung-nuts' and, even 'two raisins on a bread board'? But it goes further. Unlike any other body part, we are obsessed, both male and female, in giving bazoomikas new, and personal, names. +Recently, Scarlett Johansson announced that she loved her breasts – 'My Girls', as she called them. No, no, her girls, not my girls! Anyway, whilst her 'My Girls' would look drop-dead gorgeous in a Wicked Weasel bikini, my 'My Girls' would be more like two half-deflated, patchy-albino party balloons defying the laws of physics. That's why I call mine 'Laurel and Hardy': one's bigger than the other and, when out in public, they make people laugh. A girlfriend of mine talks about her 'Garfunkels' – because they are so high pitched. +That, really, is the nub of the matter. From quite different perspectives, both men and women are fixated by what jiggles up and down on female chests. The orbs are pretty damn redundant, most of the time just ornamental like baubles on a Christmas tree, and only being practically useful for a short while after you have babies, but they seem to define femininity, womanhood, for us all – male or female. Losing a limb or an eye is an awful, frightful prospect, but it pales in comparison beside the fear and trauma to women of losing a breast. +Somehow, deep in our psyche, breasts define our gender – our belief in ourselves as women as we face the bathroom mirror. Perhaps that's why I get so riled when a lady's 'dessert trolley' gets summarily dismissed as a letter or clothes size. +I was going to conclude by suggesting that you should always write about breasts – full, perky, firm, areolas the size of silver dollars, moving up and down on her chest as if inviting Stud to slide his cock between the pert hillocks – then FW brought me down to earth. +She said the word 'breasts' sometimes had a very negative ring for her; something a bit medical relating to lactation, mammograms and stuff. Breasts live a Jekyll and Hyde existence – sliced up on Thanksgiving with the gravy and potatoes; then morph to become the most secretly romantic thing – 'he gasped as the moonlight played on her alabaster breasts, the full swells almost translucent as they rose and fell in the silvery glow'. On reflection, I think she's right. Those 'double whammies' are like the sea, ever changing, colors segueing from the crystal azure blue of sun drenched tropical bays to the wind-whipped, gray aquamarine savagery of the wildest oceans. +When Ms Jackson's wardrobe malfunctioned, it was fascinating to study the vocabulary of the warring sides, split between the 'boob flashing' and 'exposing her breast' camps. I'll leave you to remember who was for and who against. +You start getting boobs – scary – at puberty. By college they have become fun and jolly and they help to get guys to check you out so, you decide to keep them until, forty years and umpteen kids later, you can tuck the deflated flesh sacs into the waistband of your jeans. Then you've really got breasts or, even worse, bosoms. Generally, boobs are a bit giggly girly. I've got tits when I feel a bit feisty, or when you get on them, and jugs and hooters make me want to holler and be a country girl. Didn't Daisy Duke have jugs? +In fact, watching the TV news, I've decided that Condi has certainly got breasts – my other half thinks she might even still have boobs – whilst Hillary has more likely got a chest and Barbara B has surely got a bosom. I can't explain exactly why I think it and there's certainly no similar distinction for a man's dangly bits as he gets older. +So, spare not the midnight oil you male authors. Armed with this information, let your creative juices ferment. Since the dawn of time, the bodacious tatas have been a primary erotic focus between the sexes. More than child bearing hips, big booties and the phallic imagery of trains going into tunnels or tall factory chimneys collapsing in a heap, a pair of ripe Winnebago's, nipply doo- dahs, chumbawumbas or shoulder boulders have been used by wicked women to lure poor, simple men to their doom since time immemorial. +There is so much expressive language out there to use for a nice cuddly pair of snuggle puppies; there is absolutely no excuse for resorting to the lazy shorthand of bra sizes that no-one fully understands. Anyway, it just makes me think you are quoting the size of the handles you can grab hold of when stoking the furnace. +So, in the words of the wise, the thong is over but the mammaries linger on." +868,Understanding Human Sexuality,edcrane,How To,2005-03-31,2005-03-31,2022-01-04 08:41:10,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-human-sexuality,The evolutionary mechanics of sexuality.,"['Evolution', 'Men', 'Sexuality', 'Why', 'Women']",4.27,"A quick look in this ""how to"" section will reveal a veritable cornucopia of guides about why men and women do various things, or the precise mechanics of foreplay, or even how to ""get laid"" if you're a geeky guy. These can all be useful, but there's a tremendous amount of subjectivity involved in these discourses. The purpose of this rather brief essay is to disseminate a more scientific understanding of both male and female sexuality in terms of evolutionary biology. +Before we delve into men and women, we must first understand the rather simple mechanism of natural selection. The genetic imperative is a simple one: replication. In a world of limited size/resources, which is commonly referred to as a ""Malthusian world,"" those able to produce the best/most/best equipped progeny, survive and are ""selected"" by overwhelming the less advantaged. As Richard Dawkins eloquently demonstrated in _The Selfish Gene_ , complex organisms are akin to highly developed vehicles for Genes, and specifically serve their single imperative. Humans are unique in their capacity to cooperate with non-kin members of the same species, however we are still essentially the same sorts of vehicles as other organisms. +The only other prerequisite for approaching human sexual behavior in terms of biology, is understanding the separation of proximal and ultimate causation. Proximal causes can be understood as emotional drives or feelings. Ultimate causation is the logic underlying these urges. The latter is what we will examine here. +Now, onto the topic at hand: human sexuality. +Men: +Males are simple creatures (in terms of sexuality). Facial hair appears to be one of the most prominent sexually selected physical attributes particular to men. The human penis and testes are both relatively large (in relation to our body mass) compared to other primates. +The size of the human penis is directly correlated to the size of the human vagina, which is necessarily large to accommodate birthing a child who has gestated for 9 months and has a fucking big skull. The shape of the human penis creates a squeegee-like effect with repeated thrusting (this, in conjunction with examples to follow, has been understood to function as a means of removing competing sperm from other males that may reside in a woman's vagina and within the cervical cavity, which indicates early humans were likely adapted to promiscuous mating). +The large testes of the human male (relative to the rather small testes of our close relative the gorilla) are capable of producing hundreds of millions of sperm. Empirical studies (see _Sperm Wars_ ) have demonstrated that men unconsciously control the amount of sperm they ejaculate based on the probability of the presence of other competing sperm in the female, as well as based on the amount of time that has past since they last copulated with the given female, maxing out on average at about 600 million sperm. +Another point of interest supporting the promiscuous mating hypothesis, is known as the ""Coolidge effect."" It turns out that the human male (along with a myriad of other mammals adapted to promiscuous mating) is capable of performing sexually multiple times in a row, without the assistance of Viagra, under certain circumstances. The first circumstance occurs when a male is presented with the opportunity to fertilize multiple different women. The second occurs when another male is present, and the second male releases sperm into the female in question after the first. In this case, as long as the first male is conscious of this activity, he will be able to once again perform sexually, and inject additional sperm into the female. +Women: +Females are a tad more complex than males, in a sexual sense. The most prominent sexually selected attribute women exhibit appears to be breasts (while other primates have breasts, most of them tend to physically morph into features indistinguishable from their male counterparts when not in the stage of nursing children). As a result of the long gestation and weaning period of human offspring, females are far more selective when it comes to sex. +They also exhibit an interesting attribute that is seen in some (but not all) of the other great apes. This attribute is called occult ovulation. It basically means that the human female is highly skilled at hiding (not only from males, but her own conscious mind) the exact times at which her body will be capable of fertilization. This attribute helps the female obscure paternity from males, and in conjunction with other factors, allows her to more actively select paternity for her offspring from sexual partners. +Another fascinating, though not entirely explainable phenomenon is called cervical tenting. Cervical tenting occurs when a woman achieves orgasm. At that point, the cervical opening assumes a shape that looks a bit like an elephant trunk, and functions as a straw, and with each contraction it angles down into the vagina and sucks up either vaginal fluid (which is acidic and, once incorporated into the cervical mucus, will reduce the likelihood of fertilization) or, if it present, sperm (increasing the chances of fertilization). +Ultimate motivations: +Men, who in promiscuous situations have only nominal assurance of paternity, and have little invested in child bearing, have a tendency to mate with as many females as possible (in order to assure maximum replication of their genes). Monogamous situations, which seem to occur as humans achieve longer lifespans, change this formula a bit, as paternity is more clearly assured, and the male has more to gain by investing resources into his progeny. In such situations the male becomes more heavily invested in child rearing, and less inclined to engage in promiscuous behavior (though one would expect vestigial urges to remain). +Females are assured of genetic relatedness to their offspring, regardless of the sexual conventions of her culture. As previously mentioned, long periods of gestation combined with protracted periods of nursing make the female highly invested in selecting the proper male to father her offspring. Highly promiscuous societies like the Canela appear to obscure paternity in an effort to build social cohesion and discourage infanticidal urges and the like. In monogamous societies, the female still has motivation to ""cheat."" This urge is demonstrated in many other animals including certain birds previously assumed to be monagmous, that frequently ""cheat,"" when possible, to procure superior sperm for fertilization. The logic behind this motivation is rooted in the female's guaranteed genetic relatedness. In either monogamous or promiscuous situations, the female's optimal strategy is to attempt to find the best possible sperm donor, in conjunction with the best possible provider (not necessarily the same individuals) to support her family. +Conclusions: +Putting moral judgments aside, it is important to realize the causation of our various urges. Ultimate ""happiness"", inasmuch as happiness is defined as satiating all of one's desires, is rarely achieved. In both promiscuous and monogamous societies various natural urges are suppressed. In the former type of society, jealousy is ""evil"" and is punished as such. In the latter type, promiscuity is ""evil"" and likewise punished. Obviously there are individuals able to transcend cultural limitations in either case, but these are exceptions to the rule. What is important to understand here is that these proximal urges are rooted in a single, logical genetic imperative. This seems rather simple, but it has dramatic implications when it comes to morality." +869,Understanding Love,PolySwingerWife,How To,2021-06-20,2021-06-20,2022-01-04 08:41:11,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-love-1,"What it is, how it works, and how to do it.","['Cheating', 'Forgiveness', 'How To Love', 'Jealousy', 'Love', 'Possessiveness', 'Romantic Love', 'Unconditional Love', 'What Love Is']",4.43,"What spurred this post was a comment from an anonymous user that was posted to one of my recent entries entitled, ""Are There Downsides To Cuckolding?"" +The gist of the post was that what kills many cuckold marriages is the same thing that kills other, monogamous, marriages. You'll read in the comment below what I said, and the response that followed. +""You understand sex very well, but know ZERO about love!! +""This is going to be bad news for you: ""true love is unconditional"" you said? Not even by an inch. It is possible to be unconditional if it is returned back as unconditional as given. Chances of that happening makes LOTTO win looking like a walk in the park. Because of that, LOVE is VERY CONDITIONAL and POSSESIVE!!"" +The commenter stated that, essentially, they could love unconditionally if the other person loved him/her unconditionally as well. The problem with that kind of thinking is that unconditional love that has conditions isn't unconditional love, it's transactional. +Unconditional love is a selfless act. You're not in it for yourself. +When you put conditions on your love, you turn love into something that has to be earned. When a person feels that they have to earn another person's love, there is no feeling of security. There is always that fear that something they may do or not do may cause the other person to stop loving them. The problem here is that love and fear can not coexist. +In her book Life Lessons, Two Experts on Death and Dying Teach Us About the Mysteries of Life and Living, co-written with David Kessler, Elisabeth Kübler- Ross discusses some big ideas concerning love and fear. Love and fear are the two primary emotions in humans. Kübler-Ross argues that all other emotions exist under these two primary emotions: either an emotion comes from a place of fear or a place of love. These core emotions underlie every other emotion we have. +When we're afraid of something, we're more likely to tear it down or throw it away. Coming from a place of love, however, encourages us to create, build, and/or add. +When the commenter above stated, ""LOVE is VERY CONDITIONAL and POSSESIVE!!"", he was talking about transactional love as well as contractual love. +We get with another person and we feel that we have some type of ownership of that person. In a typical monogamous marriage, the couple has a contract that has ownership stipulations and a term length. +Often people cling to the ""forsaking all others"" part, yet they often forget about the ""Until death do you part"" part. +Jealousy stems from fear. And, as I have noted, love and fear cannot coexist. So, especially if you are married, there should be no fear if there is love. +What strikes me as odd is that too often people choose fear over love. The reasoning behind this is self-worth sustainment. +A person who can only love conditionally/transactionally/contractually is usually a person that was raised by or around people who had exceptionally high standards and expectations. Because of this, the person that can only love conditionally is a perfectionist. They've worked hard at proving that they are worthy of love. And, sadly, this is the only type of love that they know and understand. +Because these people believe that love is something you have to earn, they are often possessive, as our commenter stated. +Jealousy stems from fear and possessiveness stems from neediness. And neither are helpful or attractive. +One might feel that a little jealousy is a good thing. It means that you are important to another person if they are afraid of losing you, but if they need you instead of wanting you, that is a different matter. +Jealousy also stems from comparison. What does this other person have that you don't? What more could they offer that you can't? In this instance, we are brought back to fear and self-worth. +The driving force behind jealousy and possessiveness is insecurity. +The jealous and possessive person is always on guard. They tend to make their partner a suspect. They expect this person to wrong them, and then they are surprised and overwhelmed when it happens. +It is those who have low self-esteem that are most often jealous and/or possessive. And that makes sense. If you do not see yourself as worthy of another person's love, you want to control as much of the relationship as you can. This will lessen the possibility that what you believe you lack will come to the forefront. +Love without possession means wanting your partner to be happy even if you aren't the one making them happy. A relationship can't be a person's only source of joy. You need more layers and nuances in your life. +A person that is jealous and/or possessive relies on the other person for their self-worth. And a person that is jealous and/or possessive is more interested in control than love. +When you want to control another person, you are telling them that you don't want them to be themselves, you want them to be who you want them to be. And you want them to act the way you want them to. This is a trait of ownership, not love. +We should always aim to grow each other's worlds rather than restrict them. +In a possessive relationship, there is a severe lack of trust. +Children that grow up with an ambivalent/anxious attachment style grow up to be adults who are self-critical and insecure. They seek approval and reassurance from others, yet this never relieves their self-doubt. In their relationships, deep-seated feelings that they are going to be rejected make them worried and not trusting. And this leads to jealousy and possessiveness. +Let me ask you, do you see these as signs of love: An inability to trust, feeling insecure in romantic partnerships, the need to control others? +Most of our insecurities are formed in childhood and throughout the school years. And those who carry these insecurities into adulthood are often those who are jealous and/or possessive in their personal and/or romantic relationships. +Now that we know what love isn't, maybe we should find out what love is and what it entails. +First off, what are the types of love? +Eros - is a primal and powerful fire that burns out quickly. It needs its flame to be fanned through one of the deeper forms of love below as it is centered around the selfish aspects of love, that is, personal infatuation and physical pleasure. +The second type of love is philia or friendship. The ancient Greeks valued philia far above eros because it was considered a love between equals. As Aristotle put it, philia is a ""dispassionate virtuous love"" that is free from the intensity of sexual attraction. It often involves the feelings of loyalty among friends, camaraderie among teammates, and the sense of sacrifice for your pack. +Storge is a natural form of affection that often flows between parents and their children, and children for their parents. +Although ludus has a bit of the erotic eros in it, it is much more than that. The Greeks thought of ludus as a playful form of love, for example, the affection between young lovers. Playfulness in love is an essential ingredient that is often lost in long-term relationships. +Mania love is a type of love that leads a partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It occurs when there is an imbalance between eros and ludus. +To those who experience mania, love itself is a means of rescuing themselves; a reinforcement of their value as the sufferer of poor self-esteem. This person wants to love and be loved to find a sense of self-value. Because of this, they can become possessive and jealous lovers. +If the other partner fails to reciprocate with the same kind of mania love, many issues prevail. This is why mania can often lead to issues such as codependency. +Unlike the other types of love, pragma is the result of effort on both sides. It's the love between people who've learned to make compromises and have demonstrated patience and tolerance to make the relationship work. +philautia is self-love in its healthiest form. It shares the Buddhist philosophy of ""self-compassion"" which is the deep understanding that only once you have the strength to love yourself and feel comfortable in your skin, will you be able to provide love to others. As Aristotle put it, ""All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man's feelings for himself."" +The highest and most radical type of love according to the Greeks is agape or selfless, unconditional love. Agape is the love that is felt for that which we intuitively know as the divine truth: the love that accepts forgives, and believes for our greater good. +Agape love is unconditional love, bigger than ourselves, boundless compassion, and infinite empathy. It is what the Buddhists describe as ""mettā"" or ""universal loving-kindness."" It is the purest form of love that is free from desires and expectations and loves regardless of the flaws and shortcomings of others. +Dedication in the face of adversity is unconditional love. +I stated in my essay that, ""true love is unconditional."" And I still believe that. +Unconditional love is all about selflessness, acceptance, and forgiveness. You don't consider the benefits or keep the score of the favors. It does not associate with outward appearances. You support your partner and are there for them at all times. The love doesn't go away even when circumstances are difficult. It is a path that leads to an ultimate union of two different individuals. +When you can love without reservations, accept faults without judgment, care about the happiness of the other person and do everything to help that person feel good without expecting anything in return, then you have practiced selfless, unconditional love. +The above paragraph is in sharp contrast to my commenter's statement, ""It is possible to be unconditional if it is returned back as unconditional as given."" +. . . +Love, like many things, is something everyone wants and seeks out, but few truly understand. We all have our understandings of what love is, and often what we believe we learned throughout our childhood. Too often, children carry this same understanding into adulthood. They are then adults with the understanding of a child. +When we realize that the source of all love does not possess anything because it is those things, and the concept of possession simply does not resonate anymore, fear no longer colors our interactions, and boundary lines begin to disappear. +As adults, we need to mature and our loving style needs to mature as well. +Maturity in a relationship is the ability to stick to a certain situation until it is finished. For example, when a person we know seems to constantly change his relationship partners, friends, or job, we tend to label them as immature because they cannot commit to something or someone that is still in progress or maybe because they want these things and situations to be easy- going and once they encountered obstacles along the way, they immediately quit and jump to another person or situation. +Maturity is knowing that you can't have everything your way and the ability to face obstacles, frustrations, discomforts, and defeats without complaints. It's the ability to love unconditionally and to adjust to certain circumstances, and people when necessary. +. . . +I've learned the most about unconditional love from my husband, the man who understands me the most and loves me like no other man ever has. +I would like to say that I, too, love unconditionally, as my husband loves me, but I, too, found myself to be jealous and insecure in the past. +Jealousy and insecurity are not uncommon, but they are signs of immaturity and fear. +What has allowed my husband to love me unconditionally is his ability to love himself, completely, as he is. This allows him to love me, unconditionally as I am. +My husband once said to me, ""Loving someone unconditionally is not accepting someone as they are and not wanting them to grow. It's understanding that growth occurs when you allow someone to make mistakes and to learn from them."" +My husband taught me a long time ago that love is a choice we make every day of our lives. And his choice, every day, is to love me unconditionally. +My husband has also told me that I have helped him to grow, too. +Ray, my husband, has associated love growth with muscle growth. To Ray, love is our relationship muscle. Not unlike muscles, our love and relationships grow the same way that muscle hypertrophy increases muscle mass in the body. +Muscle hypertrophy occurs when the fibers of the muscles sustain damage or injury. The body repairs damaged fibers by fusing them, which increases the mass and size of the muscles. The same applies to romantic relationships. +Anyone can love someone when everything is going well and as planned, but it is much harder for some people to love when there are adversity, challenges, and unexpected situations. +People build muscle at different rates depending on their age, sex, and genetics, and love, like muscle development, significantly increases if it is: +consistent, challenging, and long-term. +Much like muscle loss, the strength of love can decline, as well. But that doesn't mean that once it begins to slip away that it is gone forever. Like muscle mass, love takes work, dedication, and a plan, but it is never too late to rebuild muscle and maintain it. +. . . +How can you love someone that has cheated on you? The first thing you have to do is realize what love is. +It was explained to me best that love begins with charity and gentleness. When you love someone, you do so with benevolence for what is failed, disgraced, broken, angry, and foul in other people and ourselves. +Love isn't about admiration of strength. It is sympathy directed at what is lost and in pieces, and at what we might hate, resent and fear. +It's not hard to love perfection. +It is important to realize that we will all require the charity of others at some time in our lives. We will need others to be able to look past our failings and be able to see our deeply hidden value. +We must be imaginative in our loving of others where there may be rage, bitterness, or transgressions. We must be able to picture the pain and loss that the other person has experienced. +To love with imagination is to be able to see the better reasons why others behave as they do. +Too often people become love's social justice warriors. The thing is that in their fighting for what they feel is right, they forget to be kind. What gets lost most often is a person's ability to show mercy, humility, and grace. +You must realize that there is more to being right and just. You also have to be kind and merciful. +Someone being ""wrong"" doesn't give us the right to stop showing the greatest degree of kindness. +Forgiveness is one of the greatest things you can do for someone you love. We learn to forgive when we are no longer self-righteous. +Love is best when it is given generously. Love is the one thing that you have more of the more you give it away. +Patience is a big part of loving. It allows others to grow at their pace. It gives others time to mature, to go wrong, and wander in another direction. Patience allows another person to grow into their better self. +If you have been cheated on and you are charitable and gentle in spirit, sympathetic and imaginative, kind, merciful, and gracious, forgiving and patient, no matter what happens in your relationship, you'll have two choices: You can quit and give up on love and your partner, or you can begin a new relationship - with your partner. +. . . +Once you know what is involved in love and loving, you can chart your course. You can go from relationship to relationship, or you can build and maintain an existing relationship. +Not one of us is without flaws. And, yes, we all have expectations. But if we can't bend, we will break. +My advice to everyone, myself included, is to not just understand love but to practice love in such a way that it becomes who you are." +870,Understanding Proper English,The Wanderer,How To,2006-10-16,2006-10-16,2022-01-04 08:41:12,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-proper-english,Seventh revision: English as The Wanderer writes it.,"['British English', 'British Slang', 'English English', 'Ensligh Slang']",4.44,"Understand Proper English Like What I talk +Seventh revision. Includes some suggestions and requests by readers from all over the place. +More demented ravings by The Wanderer _(with some help from readers and friends)._ +A note and disclaimer by The Wanderer. +The original synopsis for this document, it plainly said ""English as The Wanderer writes it"" if you don't like that, ""Bollocks!"" I've been kicking around this country for over sixty years now. If a reader hasn't come across the words being used in the same context, there ain't much that I can do about it. This originally was a list of words and phrases that I've come into contact with over the years and their use as I understand them. If you don't like my list, then write your own bleeding one. On the other hand there are many words and phrases I've haven't heard and I'm happy to add them if you'd like to send them to me +This is not and does not claim to be a complete list of English colloquial words and phrases. It is just a list of them that I have commonly come across or might use in my stories and that I'm have been made aware that some folks might not be familiar with and have difficulty understanding. Plus there are some words and information that I've added purely for interest value. +If you find you have trouble understanding something in one of my tales, you could well find the answer here. If you don't, please feel free to drop me a line and I will try to explain it to you, then I can add it to this list. +However, I must point out there are many variations in the use and meaning of the words in different parts of the UK. I'll ask my fellow countrymen to help me here, if they spot any, what they consider inconsistencies in the list; please let me know what the word commonly means where you live and then I can add that to the list. +To make life easy, please mark all emails on this subject ""Do What?"" Colloquial words in the UK, can take on different meanings depending on the context, your location and/or whose company they are used in. I've already mentioned about different meanings in different parts of the UK. Please don't blame me if you use the wrong word in the wrong way or part of the country and find yourself in a compromising situation. +As an example, I'll take the word ""Prat"" or ""Pratt"". (Both spellings are in common use.) +""Prat"" is a word you wouldn't normally use when the vicar comes to tea. But it can be used in mixed company where it should normally be taken to mean ""A foolish person"". +However when used amongst the boys, maybe in anger down at the pub or in the workplace, it can also mean the backside or buttocks. +To try to explain further, if a friend does something silly or stupid, you can call him a Prat - often phrased ""You silly Prat!"" (Preferably with a smile on your face). You are in effect calling him a fool, and he'll generally laugh with you. +However if you call somebody a Prat in an argument or because you don't like them. Then you are, in effect, calling them an arsehole. Any resultant punch- up is your own responsibility, not mine! +A word about rhyming slang. This is attributed to having been created by Cockney's in East London. But the same idea can often be found in use all over the country. +In Cockney rhyming slang, usually only the one part _(normally the first, but not always)_ of the rhyme is used. This is a useful way to tell whether someone is ""putting it on"", and it is not his/her usual form of speech. i.e. if someone was referring to a new suit they might say ""How'd you like the whistle?"" They should definitely not say, ""Do you like my new Whistle and Flute? +I have included some of the rhyming slang that some members of my family - who were not Cockneys by the way - used in their normal speech whilst I was growing up. Most of these will, on occasions, still be heard and understood in nearly all of Southeast England. I'm not too sure about the rest of the UK; but to my knowledge, I have normally been understood. +Just a little note about grammar! I often get comments on some of the grammar in my tales of woe. Well, I'll just say that normally my stories are told in the first person and I try to write as people think and talk. In your thoughts and when you speak, you don't think and talk in proper grammatical English. Well, I don't and I'm afraid I've never come across anyone who actually does. I'm not trying to write bloody English textbooks here! +And one further point. English English and American English are not spelt the same. Actually if it comes down to brass tacks we use a slightly different alphabet. We have Z pronounced zed, whereas over the pond, I'm pretty sure they have a Z pronounced zee! It might not sound like much but it does make a difference. +There are quite a few, sometimes subtle and sometimes not so subtle differences between British and American spelling that show-up with regularity. Especially for me, because both of the editors who have kindly accepted the unenviable task of reading through my stories to try to make some sense of them, come from the other side of the pond. Actually I think they are both closet masochists, but don't let on that I told you. +English dictionaries differentiate between colloquial English, slang and coarse slang. Quite a lot of what can be found bellow can be considered as belonging to the later definition. +DC The Wanderer +Abbreviations - Police officer ranks. PC - Police Constable, DC - Detective Constable, DS - Detective Sergeant, DI - Detective Inspector, DCI - Detective Chief Inspector. There are more but you get the general idea. Also in the past, I think that many of them could be prefixed by a ""W"", to denote a female police officer, political correctness and women's lib have made the distinction obsolete. + **A lady of the night --** A Prostitute **A Monkey --** £500 **A Pony --** £25 **A runner --** (he did a runner) -- Run away from a situation or responsibilities. **A4 --** Standard European paper size as used in most offices. **AC/DC --** Bisexual. **Across the pond --** the other side of the Atlantic **Affray --** A breach of the peace by fighting or rioting in public. Catchall offence, can be used by the British police to arrest anybody whose actions could be construed to instil fear in the general public. **Antipodes --** Australia and New Zealand **Any Bottle --** Any good **Artic (articulated lorry) --** A lorry consisting of two or more sections connected by a flexible joint. (In North America a semi-trailer). **Are you still with us? --** Are you understanding what (1) we are saying? (2) is going on. **At her majesty's pleasure --** In prison **Ay-Up --** Used when attracting someone's attention. **Back door** (on the road) -- Someone travelling behind you, that you are reporting road conditions to or the presence of the police approaching from the rear. Usually by CB radio. **Ball and chain --** The wife **Bedlam --** A scene of uproar and confusion; a madhouse; an asylum. (From the Victorian mental ""Hospital of St Mary of Bethlehem"" in Lambeth London. Now the Imperial War Museum.) [Out of interest my family routes are in Lambeth] **Boat race (The Boat Race) --** Traditional yearly race between Oxford and Cambridge university rowing eight's held over a course on the river Thames in London. Considered to be the toughest race of its kind. **Before you can say Jack Robinson. --** Something happening extremely quickly **Between you, me and the gatepost. --** Keep this to yourself. **Blimey --** Expressing surprise or alarm. **Blew-out --** Something that was planned and then cancelled **Bloomin --** I haven't got the foggiest idea, I can never recall anyone ever using the word, except characters pretending to be English in the movies. I can only assume they thought it up to replace the blasphemies in common use. **Boffin --** scientist or technician, originally a person engaged in scientific (esp. military) research. Now is commonly understood to mane any scientist or technician **Bollocks --** Testicles, also a term of frustration or insult. Hey, just heard that Wilma Flintstone used the word in one of the Flintstones cartoons, apparently there was a little bit of strife over it. **Bonnet** (in reference to automobiles) -- Engine cover (in North America, the hood) **Bottle/d out --** Chicken/ed out. **Boot** (in reference to automobiles) -- luggage compartment (in North America, the trunk) **Bottoms up! --** Cheers **Brass tacks --** actual details; real business (get down to brass tacks). **Brief (1) (My Brief) --** Solicitor or barrister representing the person talking. Attorney or lawyer in U.S. **Brief (2) --** Legal document allowing the holder to undertake his profession i.e. a truck or bus drivers licence. **Bristols** (Bristol City's) -- Breasts; tits (rhyming slang) **Bristol fashion --** All ship shape and Bristol fashion is/was a nautical term meaning ""All ready to put to sea"". Nowadays it is taken to mean everything is prepared and ready, as it should be. **BT --** British Telecom the main landline telephone service supplier in the UK. Well they supply and maintain the exchanges lines etc. **Bullshit --** I believe what you just said is untrue. (You know, what politicians talk.) **Bullshitter --** Someone who talks bullshit (tells lies) to make themselves appear what they are not. (Bloody hell politicians again!) **Bungalow --** Single storeyed (note spelling) house **Chinese box** (in reference to automobiles, trucks etc.) -- Awkward or unusual gearbox gate. (Layout of gears on selector.) **Clean ticket/brief/licence --** Driver licence without any penalty points. See points. **Cobblers --** nonsense. Don't talk cobblers. **Cockney --** A native of East London, born within sound of Bow Bells. It can be considered an extreme insult to call other Londoners Cockneys, both to them and to true Cockneys. If you don't know a person's origin, don't use the name. **Colonial cousin --** In theory any person who is a citizen of one of GB's current or former colonies. In practice, it mostly appears to be reserved to refer to citizens of the USA. Canadians for example are often referred to as Colonial Brothers/Sisters. Or (but less common) our brothers and sisters from across the pond. **Cor --** Expressing surprise, excitement, etc. (useable in polite company) **Cor Blimey --** Expressing surprise, excitement, etc. (useable in a little less polite company) **Could I have that in writing? --** Someone has made a compliment or said something flattering about the speaker. **Daisy's (Daisy roots) --** Boots (rhyming slang) **Didicoi --** A gypsy or itinerant tinker. **Derv --** Diesel fuel (from Diesel Engine Road Vehicle) **Ding-dong --** 1\. An intense argument or fight. 2. A riotous party. **Dodgy --** Illegal, awkward, unreliable, tricky. **Doolally --** Loose one's cool, get excited or angry very vocally **Do what? --** I don't understand what (1) you are talking about (2) you want me to do. **Don't get out of your pram --** Don't lose your temper or get annoyed **Drekly --** Cornish word, derived from directly with the meaning of immediately. But tempered by the laid-back attitude of the Cornish people. When someone says they will do something Drekly, it will be done with their sense of urgency, not yours! **Duff --** worthless, counterfeit, useless, broken. **Duffed-up --** Beaten-up. **Duffer --** an inefficient, useless, or stupid person. Quite often an old person, ""old duffer"". A bit like me really! **Eff / Effing --** A slightly less offensive replacement for Fuck and Fucking. **Emmett --** Non-local person, (West Country) normally applies to holidaymakers. **Falling down water --** Alcoholic drink, normally beer, ale or lager **Fanny --** Generally the buttocks. Caution: in many parts of the UK, it's used to refer to the female genitalia. **Feel one's ears burning. --** Believe someone is talking about you behind your back. **Flat --** A set of rooms, usually on one floor, used as a residence. **For all I know. --** I have no knowledge on the subject. This statement is normally followed by an unlikely explanation of what has just happened. **For what its worth. --** The speaker is not sure whether their opinion is important to you, but they are going to give it to you anyway. **Frog --** French person **Front --** Impudence; insolently disrespectful; impertinent. He/she's got some front! **Front door** (on the road) -- Someone travelling ahead of you reporting back to you on road conditions etc. or the presence of the police. Usually by CB radio. **Fuddy-duddy --** old-fashioned or quaintly fussy person. **Fuzz** the police or can refer to the hair around the genitals. Hence the expression ""grabbed by the fuzz can mean being arrested, Or something much more painful **Get back into your pram --** You've lost your temper. Get your emotions under control. **Get cracking! --** Move quickly **Git --** A silly or contemptible person. **Gift of the gab --** the facility of speaking eloquently or profusely. Normally someone with the gift of the gab will talk you out of your money, or almost any woman into bed. **Glove box** (in reference to automobiles) -- Locker built into a cars dashboard usually with a cover flap on it. **Go faster stripes --** The assortment of bolt on goodies that are fitted to standard production cars to make them look like they are something they aren't, like rally or up-rated cars. See Poser. **Go juice --** Petrol or diesel fuel **Go on, I'll buy it! --** I don't know the answer - I might believe what you are telling me. **Goolies --** The testicles **Goose --** Grope, poke or pinch someone's bottom. Normally unwelcome. **Governor (Guv or Guv-na) --** The Licensee of a Public House or Bar. In work, the boss **Grog --** Alcoholic spirit watered down. Originally the rum ration that was issued to the Royal Navy seamen. **Guinea --** Sum of money equal to 21 old British shillings (now £1.05) was often used in auctions and by the legal profession. Yes, it was a con to make the headline price look less, 20gns = £21. **Gulper --** Gulp of a RN sailors rum ration given to another sailor in return for a favour. **Hard-shoulder** (on the road) -- carriageway along side a motorway for use in emergency's only. **HMG --** Her Majesty's Government **Head case --** see Nutter **Heath Robinson --** Absurdly ingenious and impracticable in design or construction. That quite often, but not always, works! **Hello, hello, hello! --** An expression supposedly used by English policemen. That 'sort' disappeared donkeys' years ago. **Here we go again. --** A repeat of a usually unpleasant experience is about to start. **Hoi polloi --** in use ""the hoi polloi"" (note, no caps) 1. the masses; the common people. 2. the majority. **Hood** (in reference to automobiles) -- Folding canvas roof on a convertible or sports car. **Hooray Henry --** (note, capital letters are used) a rich ineffectual young man, esp. one who is fashionable, extroverted, and conventional. Although it's handy if you went to the right public school, and mummy or daddy has a few bob in the bank (its not actually necessary for them to pay their bills), or at least one of them has some spurious claim to a title of some kind. The most important prerequisites to becoming a Hooray Henry appear to be. A. speaking with a plum in your mouth (or at least trying too). B. Looking down on anyone who actually does a job of work with there hands for a living. C. And - most importantly - ensuring that everyone in whatever establishment you are in at the time, knows that they/he have arrived. The normally method of achieving this is by speaking - not shouting - as loudly as humanly possible. **How come…? --** Why was that? **Hump (1) --** Have sexual intercourse with. **Hump (2) --** A fit of depression or vexation. The 'h' is often dropped in pronunciation i.e. ""He's got the ump!"" **I didn't get/come off the boat yesterday! --** You're not fooling me, I'm not that dumb. **I wasn't born yesterday. --** That's bullshit, don't take me for a fool! **I've got a bone to pick with you! --** There's something I'm not happy about, and I believe you are responsible. **Jack Robinson --** Before you can say ""Jack Robinson"" is a way of expressing immediacy; something will be done straight away. There is one suggested origin involving the habit of an eccentric gentleman who was renowned for his constant change of mind. He often abandoned a social call and you had to be quick to catch Jack Robinson. This is the origin given in 1811. (ref: http://www.phrases.org.uk). **Jam Sandwich --** Police car. Derives from police cars had an orange stripe around them; English police cars tend to have yellow and blue reflective panels nowadays. **JCB --** A type of mechanical excavator with a shovel at the front and a digging arm at the rear. Named after J. C. Bamford, the original makers. Although made by other manufacturers as well, JCB appears to have become the generic name. **Jungle juice --** Alcoholic beverage, normally a spirit or cocktail **Karzi --** Lavatory, if being specific, the pan. **Keep schtum --** Keep your mouth shut and tell no one **Keep your shirt on! --** Don't lose your temper or get annoyed **Keep your hair on! --** Don't lose your temper or get annoyed **Kosher --** Legal. Everything is as it should be. **kibosh (also kybosh) --** ""put the kibosh on"" put an end to; finally dispose of. (also can mean ""nonsense"", but I've never come across it being used that way). **Knackered --** Sometimes pronounced ""k-nackered"", extremely tired after working hard or a strenuous physical workout. ""He's knackered himself."" **Knackers --** The testicles. **Knickers --** Ladies panties. **Lady Muck --** Woman with delusions of grandeur. **Laid-back --** Relaxed, unbothered, easygoing. **Lash-up --** A makeshift or improvised structure or arrangement. **Lay/laid --** Have/had sexual intercourse. **Left hooker** (in reference to automobiles) -- Left hand drive vehicle. **Leg it --** Run for it **Leg-less --** inebriated, pissed as a newt. **Let the cat out of the bag. --** Divulge a secret **Like Fuck --** I'm not going to accept that. **Lively --** Run for it **Loo --** Toilet **Look lively --** Be alert and/or move quickly **Look Sharp! --** Be alert and/or move quickly **Lord Muck --** Man with delusions of grandeur **Make it snappy! --** Hurry up **Make yourself scarce --** Vacate the immediate area as soon and as quickly as possible **Maisonette --** A part of a house, block of flats, etc., forming separate living accommodations, usually having a separate entrance accessible from outside the building on ground level. If they have a communal entrance they are usually (but not always) termed as flats. **Moniker --** Name **MT --** empty. Normally written on the outside of closed containers. **Mum's the word! --** This is a secrete tell no one **My better half. --** My spouse **Nature calls. --** I need to go to the lavatory. **Navvy --** A labourer employed in building or excavating roads, canals, etc. Generally Irish nowadays, and it is/was often used as a generic term for Irish building workers who were famed for getting the job done. **Nice one --** (or more often **""Nice one Son!""** ) a congratulation for a job well done. Comes from a football supporter's chant. + **Nick --** The act of stealing something. **Nick (2) --** The act of arrest by a police officer. **Nick (3) --** Refers to the condition of something i.e. in good nick. **Nick (4) --** Police station or prison **Nick (5)** Australian slang -- Move quickly or furtively **Nitty-gritty --** The realities or practical details of a matter. **Not Kosher --** Illegal or something isn't as it should be **Nutcase --** A crazy or foolish person. Could be considered dangerous. **Nutter --** A crazy person. Generally considered dangerous. **Old Duffer --** Old man. **On a loosing wicket. --** In an augment that can't be won. A no-win situation. **On the game** (She's on the game!) -- A female working as a prostitute **On top of the world --** Extremely happy and feeling good **Over the pond --** The other side of the Atlantic ocean (Northern Hemisphere) **Pax --** A call for a truce. **Pax (2) --** Short hand used in the travel industry to describe a number of people on a tour, aircraft etc. i.e. 40 Pax or sometimes written Pax 40 = means there are forty people in the group. **Palaver --** a prolonged or tiresome affair or business **Pear Shaped --** Something has not gone as planned, normally disastrously wrong. **Piece on the side --** Mistress or second girlfriend. **Pie-eyed --** inebriated **Pigs might fly. --** What has just been said is untrue or is highly unlikely to be true. **Pissed as a newt --** inebriated, Leg-less **Play the game --** Act in a fair manner and/or play within the rules of the game. **Pocket** (in reference to automobiles) -- Compartment built into a car's door for the purpose of storing junk. Normally the wrong shape or size to fit anything of use into. But the reviewers in car magazines will go into raptures over them. **Points** (in reference to automobiles and driving) -- Points are collected on driving licences for driving violations. Once you collect too many you are suspended from driving. **Poseur or Poser --** Person who has an inflated opinion of himself and/or his looks and thinks that everybody is admiring him (when actually they are usually laughing at him). Normally he drives a flash car and seems to think that the size of his penis is somehow related to the noise the cars exhaust makes. Girls who date posers have a very disappointing sex life. **Prat --** A foolish person or buttocks / arse. When used to describe someone not liked, he's being called an arsehole. **Prang --** Accident. Originally a RAF term for damaging or crashing an aircraft. Now sometimes used to refer to minor road traffic accidents **Puts out (She puts out) --** She will have sexual intercourse. **Putting it on --** Pretending to be something you are not. **Quicker than greased lightning --** something happening extremely quickly **Rag --** Normally ""Rag Week"", excuse for college and university students to get up to all kinds of nefarious mischief, under the guise of collecting for charity. Not quite as high profile as they used to be in my day. **Right hooker** (in reference to automobiles) -- Right hand drive vehicle. **Rise and shine! --** Get out of bed quickly and look fresh! **Rocking Horse Shit --** An extremely rare commodity. Difficult, if not impossible to obtain! **Roger or rogering --** Have/having sexual intercourse with. **Rozer --** Police officer **Run for it! --** Vacate the immediate area as soon and as quickly as possible **Sally Ann --** Salvation Army **SAS --** UK armed forces, Special Air Service. **SBS --** UK armed forces, Special Boat Squadron, marine equivalent of the Special Air Service. **Scarper --** Run away as quickly as you can. **Scarpered --** Has run away or escaped **Scrubber --** A sexually promiscuous woman. **Sectioned --** Cause a person to be compulsorily committed to a psychiatric hospital in accordance with a section of the mental health act. **Shag / Shagged --** sexual intercourse, had sexual intercourse. **Shagged out --** Extremely tired, after working hard or a strenuous physical workout. Alright yes, see the entry above as well! **She who must be obeyed --** The wife **Shift your arse --** Get a move on or move to a different seat. **Silly cow --** stupid woman. Insult that can sometimes be used in jest. **Sippers --** Sip of a RN sailors Rum ration given to another sailor in return for a favour. **Slapper --** Woman of loose morals **Smeg / Smegging --** I believe a word invented by the writers of the TV series Red Dwarf. Intended - I believe - to replace the words fuck and fucking (or any similar blasphemies) that the character would most likely have used in real life. They now appear to have entered the popular vernacular. Any Scouser's who know different, I'd be glad to here from you? **Snog / Snogging --** kiss / kissing. Long unbroken kiss. **Spiv --** A man often characterised by flashy dress, who makes a living by illicit or unscrupulous dealings. Rarely used nowadays **Sprog --** a child; a baby **Squire --** For addressing another man. Shows respect but not subservience. Most often used by Taxi Cab and commercial vehicle drivers **Strides --** Trousers **Strife --** Trouble of any kind **Stroppy --** bad-tempered; awkward to deal with. **Suspension --** Woman's large breasts, as in ""Look at the suspension on that!"" **Sweeper --** Someone who has the job of following behind a group to make sure no one gets lost and/or that no evidence of the groups passing is noticeable. (From sweeping up.) **Tacho (tachograph) --** Device fitted to all heavy goods vehicles and coaches, that records time it is in motion and its speed. To prevent the driver from exceeding his statutory permitted driving hours or the speed limit. **Taking the Mickey --** Making fun of someone **Tail end Charley --** Someone at the rear of the group of people or a convoy of vehicles. **Tail gate/ing --** Driving too close to the vehicle in front. **Terraced house --** any one of a row of houses joined by party walls. **That's a turn-up for the book! --** An unexpected occurrence. Something so rare a note should be made of it. **That's rich! --** That's ridiculous! **The Bill --** The Police **The Job --** The name police officers use to refer to their profession. **The Nick --** A police station, a prison, **The penny dropped --** The meaning of what is being said or is happening has finally been understood **The salt of the earth. --** An expression used to describe people who are reliable, but who don't necessarily appear to be. **The Scrubs --** Wormwood Scrubs Prison in West London. **The Smoke --** Refers to a large urban conurbation. Commonly Birmingham, London or Manchester by people in the surrounding areas. But I believe it is also used to refer to other large towns or cities. **The world and his wife. --** Anybody and everybody. **The Zoo --** (to a Londoner) the Zoological Gardens in Regents Park London, which claims to be the first true zoo in the world. However the sign outside says London Zoo nowadays. **Throw a Wobbly --** Have a fit of nerves or temper. **Titfer (tit for tat) --** Hat (rhyming slang) **Tits up --** A plan has gone wrong. I believe its origin come from sheep who die when they get stuck on their back when they are trying to roll. **Ton --** A ton; the ton. 100 miles per hour. **Tosspot --** Insult - Generally used to describe an incompetent idiot. **Tosser --** See tosspot **Totter --** someone collects sells usable items from refuse and around the streets as an occupation. **Totty --** Good looking females who could be looking for male company, (That night club was is always full of totty). It's not a normally considered a derogatory term. Just a general description. **Two a penny. --** Very cheap and common **Up for it --** prepared to try something, (anything!). **U.S. --** useless; no longer serviceable. **Village Bike --** woman or girl who ""puts out"" to anyone. **V.O.R.** (in reference to road vehicles) Vehicle Of Road, un-roadworthy. **Wag --** A person who can be humorous or likes to play practical jokes. **Wakey wakey --** Wake up and get with it. **Wanker --** Insult - Man who masturbates all the time. Generally used to describe someone who is incompetent at their job or what they are trying to do. **Were you born in a barn/field? --** You've left the door open. Close it! **What the fuck? --** Expression of surprise normally querying what is happening. **Where's it too. --** Where do/can I find it. (Cornish) **Whistle** (Whistle and flute) -- Gentleman's two or three piece Suit (Rhyming Slang) **Wide-boy** \-- originally a man skilled in dishonest practices or a spiv. But nowadays often refers to anyone who's got ""the gift of the gab"" and really can't (or shouldn't) be trusted. Most car salesmen and company wolves included. **Wobbly --** Illegal; unreliable. **Wonders will never cease! --** (1) Something has happened that you never thought would. (2) Someone has done something that you never expected him or her to do. **Words fail me --** You stupid idiot, I just don't know how to describe my feelings about what you have done **Working Girl --** A prostitute **Yonks --** a long time (haven't seen them for yonks). **Zonked out --** see Knackered +If it ain't listed, drop me a line and I'll try to add it. +Further notes: +Another point that can confuse some folks is how we English number the floors in buildings. Which some folk have found little difficult to understand at first sight or if you haven't visited the country (or some other country where the same system is used). Its getting confusing for us as well now, because there seems to have been a change in the way things are done in the last twenty years or so. But to specify the difference, the floors are often called ""levels"" in these newer buildings. +Right back to the old way of doing things. The floor at ground level has by tradition been called the ground floor. The next floor up is called the first floor and so on. Consequently a first floor flat or office is to be found on the second storey of the building. Lift (elevator) panels are often numbered G, 1, 2 etc. (Although if they are labelled L1, L2, L3 etc. Level 1 is the ground or street level floor, if you're lucky). +\-------------------------- +I noted the other day that someone didn't understand one of the common acronyms that are in use in the UK. I'm working on adding some of those to this list the future. There are many that I've heard over the years but can't bring them to mind at the present time, I'd be please if the readers can send any they know of to me. +\-------------------------- +I've also came across a free site that some folks might prove helpful, http://www.phrases.org.uk + This document is under permanent revision. +The Wanderer" +871,Understanding Your Man,zeke81,How To,2009-04-26,2009-04-26,2022-01-04 08:41:14,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-your-man-1,An instructional guide for women to better understand men.,['Gender Roles'],3.75,"Ladies, I'm going to let you into the male world so that you can understand your man and why he seems like such an insensitive prick most of the time. +To start off in your understanding of men you need to realize and accept that men and women evolved differently. While women were evolving as gatherers and child rearers men evolved as hunters and physical creatures. +Please don't take that as a sexist statement ladies. Most of you are already aware of that and if you look at the fossil record and history that's how the two genders evolved. +The two primary natural roles for the two genders are still present today. +Women still have the urge to gather (shopping) and nurture (kids, idiot husbands, sad or lonely friends, etc) +Men still have the urge to hunt and be physical (hunting, fighting, war, sports, etc) +That's just the way it is. Thousands upon thousands of years of these primal instincts don't just disappear overnight. +When it comes to interactions between men and women there is something that women need to understand. +Men are insensitive. Yes I said it. We are insensitive emotionally because for thousands of years it would have been viewed as a sign of weakness by the more dominant males and it would lead to the sensitive males being killed or driven out of the early tribes where humans started living together. That still exists today. It doesn't necessarily mean death today, but it can still lead other men to excluding sensitive men from certain activities. It is a survival technique. Men are much more sensitive than they were thousands of years ago so just be happy that we're as sensitive as we are and take solace in knowing that your great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great granddaughters have an outside chance of having men that are sensitive and on the same emotional level that they are. +I'd now like to address some areas that will probably upset some of you. +It is very important for women to look good and smell good for their man or to a man that they are interested in. +Now a lot of women are probably yelling ""bullshit"" or ""that's not fair"" or something like that, but you need to listen and understand. There is a reason for it ladies...trust me. +Men are hunters. For thousands of years men had to stalk and kill their prey. To that end men developed as very visual and scent sensitive creatures. We had the eyes of an eagle and the nose of a bloodhound. Those traits are still present today even though the need to stalk and kill prey has passed. +Men have been bred for thousands of years to notice things visually and to notice scents. If the hunter isn't drawn to his prey visually or by smell he won't pursue it and he'll go hunting for something else. +Do you understand now why it is important to look and smell good for your man? +If you look appealing the hunter will take notice. If you smell good the hunter will take notice. +I'm not saying that you have to dress in super sexy clothes all the time or that you have to wear gallons and gallons of perfume all the time, but a certain level isn't too much to ask is it? After all your hunter chose you over all others...but the hunter is naturally nomadic...he has to be given a reason to stay and prey that is constantly attracting him visually and through scent will keep him in one place. +Many women HATE wearing lingerie, but you need to understand that you aren't wearing it for yourself. You're wearing it to catch the attention of your hunter. You're wearing it to stand out from the pack so that the hunter will pursue you above any other. The colors and the different textures of lingerie get the hunter's blood boiling and get him ready to go in for the kill...or in most cases with women...go in for some carnal pleasures. +When it comes to normal clothes I understand that comfort is an issue for everyone, but from time to time throw on the short low cut dress or the short shorts and the tight top. Catching the hunter's attention is very simple and the hunter does notice when his prey looks good. +Another topic to consider when discussing your appearance ladies is makeup. You don't have to wear it all the time, but putting some on when the hunter doesn't expect it doesn't go unnoticed. We've been bred for thousands of years to see red as a sign of health and fertility. So red lipstick, red nail polish, a red tint to some blush and you will look healthy and appealing to the hunter. +Now let's talk about scent. Everything comes scented these days. Shampoo, conditioner, lotion, deodorant, perfume...EVERYTHING. Most of you probably know this, but it is important to coordinate the scent that you have. If you have lavender body lotion don't use vanilla shampoo or whatever. Find your products in the same scent so that you put off one uniform scent instead of several blended scents. Blending scents cancels them out and the hunter loses interest. You might not think that your deodorant has a strong enough smell to be noticed through the smell of your shampoo, but we are hunters...we can detect tiny variations in scent. Ladies if you wear perfume make sure that it compliments the other scented products that you're using. Additionally...gauge the reaction of the hunter to your perfume. If he says he likes it keep wearing it. If you see any sign that he doesn't like it try to find one that he does. Even if everyone else hates it the important thing is that YOUR HUNTER likes it. +If the hunter has good looking good smelling prey he will stick around...he might even show you more often that he appreciates you. +Men are simple creatures ladies. You evolved to gather, nurture, and want emotional closeness. Men were evolved to use the senses of sight and smell to track down what they want. +If you look good and smell good your hunter will find you desirable. If you ever feel that your hunter's eyes are wandering throw on something sexy, slap on some red lipstick, make yourself smell great...and see what happens. If you do it right your hunter will club you over the head and drag you back to his cave...or maybe he'll drag you to your bedroom and ravage you the way that only your hunter can. +I hope this has helped you ladies to better understand your hunter. +Basically...we're stupid...treat us like we're stupid by attracting us with pretty colors and things that smell good. +Oh...I understand that this comes off as a little one sided ladies. +No I don't think there should be a double standard where women should look good and smell good for their man when the man can look bad and smell bad. Keeping your appearance and scent in a state that's desirable to your mate should be the goal for all people. +The truth is though ladies that when it comes to what women want we have very little understanding. We operate on a much simpler level than you do. +If men were a legal document they would have the subject headings and then one sentence that sums up the point of that subject. Women on the other hand would have the subject heading and then detailed descriptions of what the subject heading pertains to and all of the little nuances and special cases that pertain to the subject heading. +We have the basics...you have the details. +On behalf of all men I'm asking that you dumb things down for us ladies. +Instead of taking 45 minutes giving us every little detail about how you want us to dress just smack us in the back of the head to get our attention and say ""you need to start wearing nicer clothes"". That kind of thing might not work with other women, it may take the 45 minutes with them, but 6 short simple words are all that it takes with a man. We might not do anything about it, but at least we'll understand what you want. +Every man in a relationship with a woman has gone to his friends and something like ""We...or should I say SHE talked for an hour and a half yesterday and I have no idea what the hell we were talking about."" +Simple inputs ladies...that's all we ask. +I welcome a female response to this. +Just remember...I'm a simple minded hunter...so use simple direct language or I'll have no idea what the hell you're saying." +872,Understanding Your Man,ChaseQ,How To,2006-12-11,2006-12-11,2022-01-04 08:41:13,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-your-man,You don't have to look like a super model.,['Beautiful'],3.88,"The prevailing sentiment among women in today's world seems to be that men are clods only interested in where they are going to get their next piece of ass, their next beer or the next 'mommy' to clean up after them. +For the woman who truly wants to understand the man in their life or possibly for the female writer who would like to get out the stereotype writing of male characters and write on common male characteristics, here you go. +The first thing that comes to mind is that women think men are shallow. I am talking about appearance here. What woman hates to see the stick figured models on television or in store window posters as you walk through the mall simply because you know that your man will probably take notice? He's looking at that poster and not at you and it makes you angry and even hurts. +To begin with, your man is not trying to hurt you. Men like beautiful things, it's the way they're wired and that cannot be changed any more than a woman's natural tendancy to notice it. Women can berate and belittle their man for looking but all you will succeed at is pushing him away. +Women usually associate the don't have's to the do have's when comparing the woman their man is looking at to themselves. Thing's such as she had bigger/smaller boobs, she is thinner, her lips are fuller her hair is longer/shorter, her legs are longer/thinner, her butt is tighter, fuller, slimmer, her teeth are whiter... this list can go on because this is how women react in this situation. Ladies, take a breath. Do you want to know what the true difference is? +Put all of that other stuff out of your mind first. This is the big secret. She's fresh. She looks healthy. Before that shoot, before modeling, before walking out of her place these women took a lot of time getting ready and it shows. These women go through a cleaning ritual that shows through all of the makeup. They then apply their makeup for their look. Some heavy and trashy, some modest and elegant and so on. It's the look that works for them. +Put some time into yourself. Don't try to look like one of the many countless beauties that your man sees. Reinvent yourself. Find hair and makeup that accentuates your individual design. Buy new clothes that are appropriate for your age and the look you want. I know, it is easier said than done, but do some research, talk to the ladies at the cosmetics counter, talk to the sales people on the floor. You will be surprised how much you can learn here. +The one thing that is common to Pamela Anderson, Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Christy Brinkley, Jennifer Lopez or pornstar Sophie Sweet, they all look smooth and clean, they look healthy and guess what? Guys like to look at them. +Have you ever seen these women nude or in tight clothes? Yes! They don't have cookie cutter bodies. Jennifer Lopez has small breasts and a huge butt as well as a small nose and thin hair. Does it matter? Hell no. Sophie Sweet has a killer butt, but... her breasts are tiny...doesn't matter either. Pam has huge breasts and a plastic surgery nightmare on her face, Britney has baby fat that pudges at her lower body, Lindsay has little more than a skeleton figure and Christie Brinkley is what?...Fifty years old? +Ladies, pluck a guy off of the street and ask him...'Hey average guy would you kick any of these women out of bed?' You know the answer to that. 'Hell Nooooo!' Fact is ladies, you are no different than these women are. We all have 'flaws'. It's all in the presentation and your guy can be as attracted to you as him and other guys are to these women. +Spend some time on yourself ladies. You don't have to be rich to do it. I guarantee you that your guy will be more than happy to have you spending money on yourself. Get a facial (full cleaning and makeup), get a massage and aroma therapy, get your hair done by a stylist and get yourself some new clothes. Not something J Lo is trying to sell you. Something that works for you. Look for pictures of women that have a similar build and shape that you like and use it. +It sounds stupid but when you do all of this, have one goal in mind...To feel as clean and fresh as that model or actress looks. +Your guy will be looking at you with new eyes, no matter what you think you look like. No one has anything on you. You've got to remember that not every guy wants or desires the aforementioned women. The media just tells you so because they want your money. You look the way you're supposed to look and that's perfection. +If you know that you would look great thin and fit then start by correcting the quick things like the way you present what you have now... and then hit the gym. If you truly want it you'll find a way to do it. Whatever path you take to get the look you want, your guy is going to be looking at these women and thinking 'She ain't got nothing mine doesn't have.' ... and you'll know it. +You'll be one of the women the guys at the mall are checking out... and your guy will notice that. +:)" +873,US English,lindiana,How To,2005-08-24,2005-12-25,2022-01-04 08:41:16,2,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/us-english-101-parts-of-a-sentence,1. Grammar made simple. 2. Grammar made simple: the third lesson.,"['Grammar', 'Writing']",3.81,"English 101 is brought to you by Lindiana, who holds her Bachelor of Science Degree in Secondary Education/English. +* +You can use two terms, _subject_ and _predicate_ , to describe most sentences. However, there are other names and functions of important sentence elements at your disposal. We will review those elements. +Subject and Predicate +A sentence consists of two basic parts: the _subject_ and the _predicate_. The subject of the sentence is that part of the sentence about which something is being said. The predicate of the sentence is that part of the sentence that says something about the subject. +These two parts of the sentence may consist of a single word or multiple words. The whole subject is then referred to as the _complete subject_ ; the whole predicate, the _complete predicate_. +The _simple subject_ of a sentence is the principal word or group of words in the subject. An example: A large body of students (the subject here is _a large body of students_ ; the simple subject; _students_ ) +The principal word or group of words in the predicate is called the _simple predicate_ , or the _verb_. An example: the writers planned a seminar (the predicate is _planned a seminar_ ; simple predicate, or verb: _planned_ ) +A _compound subject_ consists of two or more subjects that are joined by a conjunction and have the same verb. The usual connecting words are _and_ and _or_. +An example: The novelists and poets gathered in the conference room. (the compound subject: _the novelists and poets_ ) +A _compound verb_ consists of two or more verbs that are joined by a conjunction and have the same subject: An example: Annabelle picked up her books and left for school. ( _compound verb_ : _picked up...left_ ) +To find the subject of a sentence, first find the verb (simple predicate) or as we sometimes call it the action word. Then ask yourself the question ""Who or what?"" An example: The bell rang loudly through the school. First find the action... _rang_. Then ask yourself who or what rang. The answer is the _bell_. In addition to this simple formula for finding the subject, please keep in mind the following facts: +1.) In sentences expressing a command or request, the subject is always _you_ , even though the word _you_ may not appear. +2.) The subject of a sentence is never in a prepositional phrase. +(example: Neither of the children rode their bikes. The verb is _rode_. Who rode? _Neither_. Children is not the subject, it is part of the phrase _of the children_.) +3.) To find the subject in a question, turn the question into a statement form. +4.) _There_ and _here_ are not usually the subjects of a verb. +Complements +Some sentences express a complete thought by means of a subject and verb only. Most sentences, however, have in the predicate one or more words that complete the meaning of the subject and verb. These completing words are called complements. +Complements that receive or are affected by the action of the verb are called _objects._ There are two kinds of objects: the _direct object_ and the _indirect object_. The _direct object_ of the verb receives the action of the verb and shows the result of the action. It answers the question ""What?"" or ""Whom"" after an action verb. Except when it ends in _–self_ , the object of a verb never refers to the same person or thing as the subject. The _indirect object_ of the verb precedes the direct object and usually tells to whom or for whom the action of the verb is done. If the word _to_ or _for_ is used, the noun or pronoun following it is part of a prepositional phrase; it is not an indirect object. Like subjects, objects of verbs are never part of a prepositional phrase. +To complete their meaning, some action verbs require an additional complement following their objects. This additional complement is called an _objective complement_ because it refers to the object; it may be a noun or an adjective. +Complements that refer to or describe the subject are called _subject complements_. There are two kinds of _subject complements:_ the _predicate nominative_ and the _predicate adjective._ Subject complements follow linking verbs only. +The common linking verbs are all forms of the verb _be_ as well as the following: _become, seem, grow, appear, look, feel, smell, taste, remain, sound, stay._ +A _predicate nominative_ is a noun or pronoun complement that refers back to the same person or thing that is being referred to in the subject of the verb. It follows a linking verb. (Example: Washington DC is our capitol. Capitol refers to the subject Washington DC). +A _predicate adjective_ is an adjective complement that modifies or changes the subject of the verb. It also follows a linking verb. (Example: This article is dull. The predicate adjective _dull_ modifies the subject _article_.) In the normal order of an English sentence, complements follow the verb but there are always exceptions. +Summary +1.) Every sentence has two basic parts: the _subject_ and the _predicate._ +2.) Within the subject there is a _simple subject,_ commonly called the _subject_. +Within the predicate there is a _simple predicate_ , commonly called the _verb._ +3.) The pattern of some sentences consists of a subject and verb only. +4.) Modifiers may be added to the subject and verb without changing the basic pattern of the sentence. +5.) Certain additions to the predicate create new sentence patterns. These additions are called _complements_. +6.) _Complements_ complete the meaning begun by the subject and verb. +7.) Different kinds of _complements_ produce different sentence patterns. +8.) There are seven common sentence patterns: +a.) _subject, verb_ +(Example: Poets write.) +b.) _subject, verb, direct object_ +(Example: Poets write poems.) +c.) _subject, verb, indirect object, direct object_ +(Example: Poets write the audience poems.) +d.) _subject, verb, direct object, objective complement (adjective)_ +(Example: Poets write poems of joy.) +e.) _subject, verb, direct object, objective complement (noun)_ +(Example: They named her Mistress. +f.) _subject, verb, predicate nominative_ +(Example: She is Mistress.) +g.) _subject, verb, predicate adjective_ +(Example: She seems strict.) +* + _Reference: Warriner's English Grammar and Composition, Complete Course_ + +" +874,Use of a Grammar Checker,Timothy_Dickey,How To,2007-08-21,2007-08-21,2022-01-04 08:41:18,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/use-of-a-grammar-checker,Why a writer should consider using a grammar checker.,"['Grammar', 'Grammar Checker', 'Writing']",3.03,"**Why Every Writer Should Consider Using a Grammar Checker Before a Story Submission** +That is a question that I pondered on during the writing of my first story before this second submission. +Why should I? Do I really need it? +Other writers have friends, family, and editors to look over their manuscripts before submission. Will they need to use a Grammar Checker or not? +From reading many stories on here, it would not hurt for someone to make use of a Grammar Checker program. +A grammar program would go through and pick up the easy mistakes that a Spelling Checker missed. This type of program would make your work so much easier to read. +If you ask why I am bringing up this subject, the point is that not every Grammar Checker is the same. A Grammar Checker is a whole different animal than a Spell Checker. +When I suggest to other authors to think about using one who might be reading this document, does it mean their writing is bad? +No, a Grammar Checker will just make a writer's work easier and their stories stronger in style. +Does a Grammar Checker replace someone's Editor for proof reading your submissions before publishing? +No, a Grammar Checker helps your Editor find the big mistakes that a person might miss. A program like this will weed through all the common minor mistakes that Authors should have already caught from a proof read. A Grammar Checker also helps your Editor save time in getting back the manuscript to the Author for re-writing by finding what remains. You still have to proof read your work for your satisfaction. +What is the difference between a Spell Checker and a Grammar Checker? +A Spell Checker looks at the spelling of a word by comparing it to words found in a stored file on your computer. If the program cannot find the word in the file, the program list the closest words to it. The program then ask the author to select from the following word choices. The word might still be correct, but not listed as correct in the program file. There might be a file called a User Dictionary File that allows for the addition of new words by the user for future use. That is why a Dictionary is still handy to have for questionable words and later added to the computer spell Checker if possible. +A Grammar Checker reviews the structure of each sentence overall. The program looks at all parts of speech. The program tries to find if the sentence structures found are in a correct sentence location. +If a Grammar Checker is excellent, it looks at each sentence to figure out if a word is in proper used. +The following words listed are an example. +Hole, Whole. Right, Write. It's, Its. To, Too, Two. +Each of these words sound the same but defined and used differently. There are many more words found that are like this. Each of the words listed is a small selection to get the point across to you the reader. +This is a short example of what a good Grammar Checker would look for while looking over sentence structure and usage. +Are all Grammar Checkers the same? +No, all Grammar Checkers are different! I need to say why and to use my first story as an example of what a good Grammar Checker can do. +I found an Editor, who is also an author on here, and sent my editor a first draft copy. The editor sent it back telling me that it was not in the best condition for publishing. My Editor wanted a complete re-work of the story. The information sent was not enough to start and to solve all the problems in the story. I sent it back a month later by internet e-mail after using Microsoft Word Grammar Checker. This program did not find a mistake in my story from all my later corrections. I would later that day send it off by e-mail to my Editor. The Editor again said there were too many mistakes found to finish reading when sending it back. The Editor also mentioned that I needed to find another person to finish editing future submissions of my first story. The Editor had time constraints in buying a new house, moving and work. My Editor replied with an e-mail suggesting that I use a different Grammar Checker. This was after I wrote of what I had used before in my work. The Editor mentioned that Microsoft's Word was not the best used in finding common sentence mistakes. +I reloaded my story from the second submission into a Grammar program on my computer from 1990 called, ""Key -Grammar Checker."" I also borrowed another program to load up for use from a good friend. This other program was from 1992 and named, ""Right Writer - Version 5.0."" I wanted to find out if the number of errors found would be different in the two programs so a comparison could occur by me. I wanted to run it through Microsoft's Grammar Checker one more time afterward. I wanted to find out if any more listed errors were new for another comparison. My program found 540 grammar mistakes and the borrowed program found 593 grammar errors. Microsoft again did not find any new grammar boners after all the corrections. +I can comprehend why an Editor might pull some hair out when working with someone green to writing. It took me three weeks of my free time so I could correct all the errors that the borrowed program had found. I then had another two friends proof-read my story for another two more weeks before final submission before publishing. +If your wondering, I used the largest number of errors found from the borrowed program to correct by. I wanted a better story if possible. By correcting more of the errors found, would be better in my thinking than not correcting enough for my first time submission. +Are there other Grammar Programs that are better than what I used? +There very well could be, but I am using a 286 computer, running DOS 6.22 and Windows 3.0. My computer makes it impracticable to load one of the modern Grammar Checker programs. There is not enough extended board memory to run a modern program. I also do not have a large enough hard drive memory for storage of a modern program. Please do not laugh but my cell phone has more hard drive memory than this computer that I am using to write this submission. Only until I purchase a more modern machine will I have that chance to look for a better grammar checker computer program. For the time being, I can only decide with the limited choices in programs. I would love to find a newer grammar program and load it on one of the computers at my University. A Grammar Checker or any other user program loaded by a user on a University personal computer unit is illegal. I do not want load a user program at school so I can write a better than average story on this web site. +I have heard of students loading music programs on the school computers and later getting caught. This is the only reason I am promoting caution in saying not to do it if your thinking along that logic. If you do not own the computer your working at, do not load a program I am suggesting onto it. +You will get caught! +Not only is it more than likely prohibited for you, but you might load up a computer virus. Your action might cost you income for loading this type of computer program. The school or business might fine you for the time to remove it from their machine! +Now, you have an idea of what I went through and of the trials and hardships for my first story! If you are a beginning author and yet to submit a story, use a Grammar Checker with a Spell Checker program and help yourself out. If you are an established author with many stories to your credit, make your life easier. This type of program will give you extra time to make your fans happier. It will give you the capacity to produce even more stories faster by using a Grammar Checker with your Spell Checker. Your stories will be stronger in style and easier to read. +Your editor will thank you if you find and use a Grammar and Spell Checker programs. +I hope that this little article helped you in some way." +875,Using Literotica,Goldeniangel,How To,2006-02-21,2006-02-21,2022-01-04 08:41:19,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/using-literotica,A guide of the categories for potentially lost readers.,[''],4.68,"This fabulous website known as Literotica.com offers a plethora of reading material in many different categories. Therefore, despite attempts to make the site easy to use by putting the stories into specific categories, there always seem to be some readers who manage to get lost and find themselves reading a story that they REALLY don't like. Often they decide that because the subject matter of the story is something they oppose or don't like for themselves, they will then leave trashy comments and vote low on the story. Although this is a small percentage of the people using the site, I feel that they need to be acknowledged as well. +I want to help these poor lost souls, and so I'm going to describe most of the categories on the site and what you might expect to find in the stories there. +But first, one major point which many of said readers seem to miss, all stories on this site are fictional. They are designed to be fictional. Fictional means that authors are stretching reality, bending it as such, and often put characters into extreme circumstances. Although many of us attempt to create circumstances that COULD be real, of course they will not always correspond to everyone's life. It is the reader's job to make that stretch of imagination that these circumstances could happen. It's like a movie or a play or a book... you don't just have characters living every day life. SOMETHING HAPPENS to them, some kind of incident that thrusts them into a more exciting story than what happens to an everyday person. The same holds true for erotic stories... otherwise they wouldn't be interesting. +However, if that stretch of imagination is just too much for you, the more realistic categories should be to your liking - such as Erotic Couplings or Romance. Erotic Couplings means one on one, male and female sex. The characters are usually placed in realistic settings and circumstances, except that they really want to get it on. Stories in the romance section are often even more realistic, creating viable relationships between characters that sweetly swing towards consummation. +Also often realistic are Gay Male and the Lesbian Love stories. However, if you are not interested in homosexual stories, and they do not turn you on, I suggest you stay away from them. Reading them and then leaving comments such as ""This is sick, you are immoral"" does absolutely nothing to the author except make them wonder what idiot would read a story that they find so disgusting. And then they continue to write. Therefore, if you have no interest in homosexual sex or it does not turn you on, stay away from all stories that are labeled ""Gay Male"" or ""Lesbian Love"". +""Toys and Masturbation"" has many different tangents... some cross over into fantasy or science fiction, others stay firmly grounded in reality. However, they all have to do with masturbation or playing with toys. The majority of the stories do not involve two people, unless the two people are involved in mutual masturbation or using toys on each other. +Transexuals/Cross-dressers, Interracial Love and Loving Wives categories are all categories that hold reality for some of the population, but not for everyone. A Transexual is a person who has surgically changed their gender, either partially or all the way. A Cross-dresser is someone who has not surgically changed their gender, but only dresses as the opposite gender. If that does not sound appealing to you, stay away from those stories. Interracial Love and Loving Wives sometimes mix, many Loving Wives stories involve men who want to watch other men fuck their wives - a good number of the stories involve white men wanting to watch black men fuck their white wives. Not all of them of course, some Loving Wives stories center around wives who are just plain cheating without their husbands consent. However, if you find wives sleeping with other men - with or without their husband's consent - wrong in some way, DON'T READ THESE STORIES. You will not find a single one that you like, I promise. And no one cares if you don't like them, they just wonder - again - what idiot read an entire story that they found objectionable. The same holds true for Interracial Love. ALL of the Interracial Loves stories are stories of people of different skin color/race/ethnicity involving themselves in sexual relations. If you find this objectionable, READ A DIFFERENT CATEGORY. There are NO stories in the ""Interracial Love"" category that involves two people of the same race. I would go read a story in Erotic Couplings or Romance instead, although not all of those are Non-Interracial, you will find a greater majority than you would in the Interracial Love Category. +Stories found in the Sci-Fi/Fantasy Category or the Non-Human category are DEFINITELY not real. You will not find situations that any person living right now could realistically be in. Again, author's often try to make them possibly realistic, but only if the reader uses their imagination. +Erotic Horror and Non-Consent almost always involve violence and abuse. Erotic Horror often involves blood, pain, and occasionally death. Non-Consent means that one of the characters does not want what is happening to them, although often writers create a story-line where eventually the girl enjoys it. I will tell you something though, Literotica usually does not accept stories where the unwilling participant is completely abused and hates it. Those stories are considered too rough for the site, therefore if the writer is going to abuse its unwilling character, we pretty much HAVE to make them enjoy it. That is why most really rough Non-Consent stories mean that the abused character is going to love it. If you think that it is sick and wrong to rape women, or that stories portraying it are awful, stick to another category. Just about every other category is going to be consensual sex. +Anal stories are about anal sex. While some readers have noted that they think it is unrealistic to portray anal sex as enjoyable, please remember that is YOUR reality. Not everyone's. I have several essays in fact, about anal sex as well as ""How-To"" on enjoying anal sex. If you do not enjoy anal sex and you want to read a realistic story, read one in another category. Enjoying anal sex is real for some of us, but obviously not for all... but reading the story and commenting that women don't enjoy anal sex isn't true. YOU do not enjoy anal sex. And don't assume that all anal sex stories are written by men... I have to say, I'm rather tired of getting comments on my Gay Male and Anal Sex stories about how I'm another stupid man who thinks that anal sex is great and that women love it. Because actually, I'm a rather average woman who thinks that anal sex CAN be great. And I write Gay Male stories because they're a challenge for me, and so far a lot of people have enjoyed them. +Fetish and BDSM stories are often rough and rowdy. Fetish includes spanking, golden showers, enemas, fantasies, etc. It's a broad category that covers everything the rest of the categories don't. Please, read the story descriptions carefully so that you will know whether or not it's something you might be interested in. BDSM stories mean bondage, domination, submission, punishment... again, these stories are only realistic for a percentage of the population, but I assure you that for some people these stories are the total truth. They are not meant to uphold man's power over women or woman's power over men, they just describe the specific relationship between two characters. +Obviously, I haven't touched on all the categories. But I'm hoping that I've touched on most of the ones that get the worst comments by readers who are obviously in the wrong category from what they will enjoy. +Remember, we all have a right to write, just as you have a right to your opinion. But this is a website meant for pleasure and enjoyment, no one should try to shut down someone else's fantasy just because it isn't theirs. There are so many categories and stories, why should anyone need to insult someone's writing just because they're reading the wrong story? Find the ones that are to your liking and stick with them." +876,Using Soap as Punishment,susangreenway,How To,2018-08-16,2018-08-16,2022-01-04 08:41:20,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/using-soap-as-punishment,How to use soaping as an effective adjunct punishment.,"['Anus', 'Defecation', 'Figging', 'Labia', 'Mouth', 'Naughty Words', 'Penis', 'Scrotum', 'Soap Stick']",4.16,"Soap has long held a special place among the punishments imposed by mothers to punish misbehaving offspring of all ages. It also proves to be an excellent option for governesses who are responsible for disciplining charges of all ages. Here we are only considering its use with those who are 18 years or older. But as with many traditional nursery punishments, it becomes highly embarrassing when a disciplinarian—parent or governess—resorts to its use with adults who have been naughty. +There are two main types of soap punishment. One is insertion of a soap bar into the mouth, with the recipient required to retain the soap in his or her mouth for a specified or indefinite time. The second is insertion, usually of thin sticks of soap, of the soap anally. +Soap is most commonly employed as a punishment for use of unacceptable language, especially the two most heinous four-letter words. ""You need your mouth washed out"" is a frequently-uttered statement that precedes the punisher's imposing the punishment, usually in the mouth. +It is most effective if the disciplinarian first rubs the soap using hot water to work up a warm lather. Leaving as much of the lather on the soap bar as possible, the bar can then be inserted in the open mouth of the offender. It should be moved around within the mouth and then the bar should be left projecting from the mouth, with the offender being required to hold it in place with his or her teeth. +While the soap bar may be removed after a certain time, being required to hold the bar with the teeth while being spanked, for example, is a good ancillary punishment. Normally, the offender is warned that there will be severe consequences—possibly added punishment such as caning—if the soap bar is allowed to drop from the mouth. +When the soap bar is removed, the offender should not be allowed to rinse for a further period of time. This means that the lather will remain in the mouth and the punishment in effect will continue since the harsh taste of the soap will remain until a mouth-rinsing is permitted. +Soap punishment is highly embarrassing because it is associated with juvenile discipline. The second form—anal insertion—is especially shameful because it exposes the private parts to view of anyone who has been permitted to observe the punishment. The offender may be bent over or on a chair and ordered to hold his or her bottom cheeks open. +This position will focus attention on the male or female genitalia as well as the anus itself, which few enjoy having others see. Insertion should be done slowly, both to prolong the exposure and to make it easier to get the soap stick into the rectum. Care needs to be taken not to jab it in as there is a danger of piercing the rectal walls. If a thin stick of soap has been cut from the bar, it can be inserted much as a rectal thermometer. +By inserting slowly, the anal ring will be lubricated by the soap and it will be easier to get the entire stick inside. Leaving it sticking out will cause more embarrassment but also may lead to the offender's excreting or expelling the soap stick before it is time for it to be removed. +This makes the use of a soap stick inserted anally different from figging, which involves inserting a carved stick of ginger anally. The ginger must be carved to remove the rough skin and also to prepare the ginger so that the warmth of the rectum will stimulate the release of juices from the ginger that will sting internally. The soap stick, if prepared by floating it in a small bowl of warm water, will be warm enough to sting the inner walls without further preparation. +The ginger stick is also inserted with a significant length—at least two inches—left protruding from the anus. This is done to allow easy extraction of the ginger. The soap stick may be removed by use of fingers or instructing the offender to excrete the soap stick by simulating the effort to excrete a bowel movement. +Psychologically, use of soap serves to embarrass the offender by focusing attention on his or her use of a naughty word or words. The punishment is almost always accompanied by scolding along the lines of ""I must wash your naughty mouth out with soap to stop you from using such bad words"" and anal insertion naturally relates to the dirtiest part of the body. +Mouth soaping is both uncomfortable and creates a very unpleasant taste in the mouth of the offender. Anal insertion of soap results in a stinging sensation inside the anus which should have a salutary effect on encouraging avoidance of bad language. A frequent side effect of anal soaping is stimulation of the bowel, resulting in an imminent need to pass a bowel movement. +The mother or governess may respond to pleas for toilet access by summarily telling the offender that he or she will have to wait and ""hold it in"" and to emphasize denial of immediate toilet access, it is useful and very discouraging to the offender to order him or her to pull up his or her undershorts or panties. +Should the offender be unable to exercise control over his or her bowels, it will be even more embarrassing if he or she defecates into the shorts or panties. Extra punishment may be in order for this failure, of course, and many disciplinarians would opt for spanking the miscreant over the bulging shorts or panties. +Alternatively, the offender may be required to remove underclothing so that any failure to hold it in will result in everyone watching the punishment seeing the bowel movement emerge from the anus and fall to the floor. +Because of the juvenile associations with soap used as a punishment, it is especially shame-inducing when some sort of role reversal is involved. A parent may have uttered one of the bad words and the son or daughter will use this as the pretext for soaping the offender's mouth or, less frequently, imposing anal insertion. +Disciplinarians who make use of soaping as an ancillary punishment may opt to have the soap on display which the soap sticks have been cut and are placed in warm water. Seeing the soap and realizing that it will be readily available should the offender curse or use a naughty word will increase the tension which will normally pervade the punishment scene. +Often mouth soaping is specified as the punishment for a first offense of cursing or bad language. The disciplinarian should be prepared at the time the forbidden words are uttered to order the offender to accompany the punisher to the nearby bathroom or kitchen where the soap bar may be run under hot water so that a lather can be worked up. Often observers are surprised and impressed when the disciplinarian and offender return with the soap bar sticking out of the offender's mouth. +Preparation of several soap sticks and having them available in a bowl of water will allow them to be utilized for second and subsequent offenses. The offender should be warned that this will be the punishment if he or she curses or uses a bad word after the first time. Fear of the stinging that will result from anal insertion of the soap is likely to cause prolonged pleading and apologizing immediately after the offender says the naughty word. +It will be important for the disciplinarian to deny such appeals as the punishment will only be effective if the offender learns that it will be imposed immediately after any offense of this kind. In addition to the two well-known four-letter words, use of slang words associated with the male or female genitalia other than the anatomically correct terms of penis and vagina (or vulva or scrotum, far less commonly spoken) should be treated in the same manner as would be uttering the four-letter words. +Although use of soaping as punishment will result in very unpleasant taste in the mouth that will linger for some time after removal of the soap bar and even after rinsing is allowed, and stinging inside the anus will also persist after removal of a soap stick, there appear to be no lasting bad effects of use of soap in these ways. +Some disciplinarians opt for another alternative to use of soap for punishment—an ointment such as oil of wintergreen or Ben-Gay or even toothpaste may be lightly rubbed on the female labia or the male penis or scrotum, or on or in the anus of either sex. This administration will also cause a stinging sensation comparable to the use of soap in this manner. To ensure continued impact of the administration, the offender may be required to pull up his undershorts or her panties. +The proficient governess or disciplinarian will recognize that the use of soap is quite effective, is without lasting effects, and serves to intensify punishment such as castigation with hand, strap, paddle, or cane. Usually the person being punished will react to being told they will be soaped in either way by pleading for remission and promising good behavior. He or she may argue that this child's punishment is inappropriate for an adult. The punisher should respond that when the offender behaves like a naughty child, this kind of punishment is entirely proper." +877,Using Toilet Restriction to Punish,lesliejones,How To,2011-12-18,2011-12-18,2022-01-04 08:41:21,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/using-toilet-restriction-to-punish,A guide to a humiliating disciplinary tool.,"['Defecation', 'Diapers', 'Embarrassment', 'Feminization', 'Humiliation', 'Menstrual', 'Panties', 'Potty', 'Toilet', 'Urination']",4.28,"_[This guide discusses bodily functions in a tasteful manner but those offended by them should read no further.]_ +For Jen and Megs, who do understand +Many dominants do not employ toilet restriction as a disciplinary tool but those who do recognize its effectiveness in changing behavior of submissives for the better. In some circles it may even be derided as a ""ladies' punishment"" because it does not involve any kind of hitting or striking as corporal punishment does. +Nevertheless, in view of the extreme embarrassment and outright humiliation that restriction of toilet use may produce, it is a useful punishment mechanism that belongs in every dominant's repertoire. Other objections to its use may involve either squeamishness or outright dislike of anything involving products of bodily functions. While these feelings are understandable, I hope this article shows those considering use of toilet restriction that their own involvement with and certainly contact with the objectionable substances, viz., feces, urine, and menstrual fluid, may be minimized or avoided altogether. +Required: Willing Submissive. First, it must be understood that toilet restriction is a punishment only suitable for submissives who will obey orders. It is much more effective when a sub knows and accepts that he or she must not even enter the bathroom, although they are not physically restrained, than where the bathroom must be locked or the sub placed under restraint. Enforcing this punishment for subs who will either resist or seek to circumvent its impact will prove frustrating for the dominant; if the sub is likely to engage in any of these avoidance behaviors, further training in submission is clearly advisable before engaging in use of toilet restriction. +Levels of restriction. Second, there are different levels of restriction. The most lenient is merely setting specific times when toilet use will be permitted or specifying a set number of times per day that the submissive may use the toilet. This punitive level may be increased by limiting the number of times such use is permitted to a very few times each day, such as once in the morning, once at midday and once in the evening. Setting specific times, such as 7, 12, and 8 increases the intensity as well, because the submissive may not need to use the toilet at those times but now will realize that he or she has lost the chance to do so for several more hours. +Restrict not prohibit. When the number of times toilet use is allowed is drastically limited, for example, to twice or less per day, the dominant should appreciate that this level is close to ensuring that the submissive will fail to control his or her functions. There is a psychological impact of failing to conform to a severe regimen such as being limited to using the toilet to twice a day or to two specific times, such as 8 in the morning and 8 at night (as before, the latter is more severe). I suggest that this level of punishment has a greater psychological impact that merely telling the submissive that they have lost all privileges of using the toilet. This last level of course guarantees failure and thus may result in the submissive's feeling less trepidation than if he or she fails to retain the bodily function products until the permitted use or time. +Uncertainty. Another refinement is not to specify how many times a day or at what times toilet use will be allowed but to require the submissive to request permission each time he or she needs to use the toilet. This adds a desirable degree of uncertainty to the situation and the submissive will only be thinking of how long he or she will be made to wait and if they will be able to hold off having an accident. Experienced dominants will likely respond to initial requests with rather offhanded denials, such as ""This isn't a convenient time"" or ""I think you need to wait until you really need to use the toilet."" +Observation. Still another refinement is to require the dominant to accompany the submissive to the bathroom and for the dominant then to observe the submissive's use of the toilet. This embarrasses most submissives and may even make it difficult for them to use the toilet; women, in particular, may be very ashamed and find it difficult to let their urine stream to begin. With regard to male submissives, women dominants especially often require males to use the seated position to urinate, as this implies that they are being subjected to a degree of feminization; this also has another less-frequently observed effect in that men have more difficulty emptying their bladders when urinating in the seated position so may find they need to use the toilet again sooner. Both sexes are likely to be highly embarrassed by the dominant's observing defecation. Submissives have told me that this act is regarded as more intimate and private than even intercourse. +Clothing adjustment. Yet another refinement—one can see that this punishment has many variations and versions—involves requiring the wearing of special clothing that will affect use of the toilet. Male submissive may be made to wear tight panties or other constricting feminine garments, or pantyhose, that will require more time to pull down or remove prior to using the toilet. Similarly, women forced to wear slacks rather than skirts may take longer to unzip or unbutton them than they do to lift their skirts and pull their panties down quickly. Taking longer to adjust clothing before using the toilet is also when the submissive is likely to encounter a kind of ""urge incontinence"" in that the mental processes connected with urination or defecation begin to go into high gear faster than the submissive is capable of freeing himself or herself from the tight or different clothing. This may result in the submissive's releasing urine before he or she has actually lowered panties or undershorts, for example. +Intimate inspections. As a further punishment or humiliation, some dominants, primarily women, will require the submissive to wear a pantiliner in the crotch of the panties or undershorts. The liner is likely to display any urine or feces released by the submissive prior to receiving permission to use the toilet or while adjusting clothing to do so. It will also show wet stains produced by excitement of the female or male genitalia. +Dominants may intensify the punishment by requiring the submissive at any time to lower pants or lift skirts and then to lower panties or undershorts so that the dominant may inspect the liner to see if it has been soiled. Detection of stains or any soiling may be followed to inspection of the vulva, penis, or anus. Such inspection is obviously easier and more embarrassing for women since insertion of fingers, gloved or ungloved, may be the operative method. But men are also likely to be embarrassed when they develop erections when female dominants are inspecting their private parts. +Retention. Two other variations of this punishment feature forced retention, as when an enema is administered and the submissive is made to retain it, whether plugged or not, and when anal insertion of a suppository such as a glycerin one speeds the need for defecation. It would seem that use of enemas is a different punishment topic but denial of permission to use the toilet after insertion of the anal suppository appears to be a variation on toilet restriction. +Diapers. The dominant must also decide whether to administer this punishment while having the submissive wear normal clothing, the kinds of restrictive and feminine garments mentioned earlier, or actual diapers and plastic pants. Requiring the wearing of diapers does signal to the submissive that failure is quite likely and may even diminish the fear of an accident although the sheer embarrassment of being put into diapers is highly embarrassing. Some dominants, again usually mistresses, institute a graduated system of underclothing, where a submissive may be reduced to diapers, and gradually promoted based on good behavior to wearing little girl panties, then very brief panties, full-sized panties, and, if male, male underwear. +Changing. Mistresses who employ diaper discipline usually do not shrink from using the changing table and its accoutrements when necessary. This does involve closer contact with the bodily products than some might wish, so they are cautioned that for submissives, being changed is horribly humiliating but the process will likely mean the dominant must deal with the contents of the diaper. +Spanking after accidents. Post-accident punishment is also an alternative for dominants. Mistresses especially sometimes enjoy taking the submissive who has filled his or her panties over the dominant's lap where a spanking right over the shameful bulge may press it down and increase the humiliation felt by the submissive's having already failed to retain his or her bodily products. +Public display—use of the corner. In a similar fashion, exhibiting the submissive who has had an accident by forcing him or her to stand in the corner, optimally with filled and bulging panties on display, adds more embarrassment. Visiting dominants are likely to make cutting comments while observing the submissive such as ""Well, it looks like this young lady needs more toilet training."" +Making men both wear panties and then display them bulging with their bodily products surely is likely to curb the poor attitudes of the most arrogant male who is being subjected to this punishment. It should be added that submissives should not be left wearing soiled and filled underclothing for lengthy periods so as to avoid irritation and infection. This is an important health-related caution and should be scrupulously followed. Thus post-accident punishment must be promptly administered or display made in short order. +Sometimes being forced to wear diapers or especially humiliating panties may even subject submissives to embarrassment when gathered with other submissives at a party or other get-together. A dominant may ask all those wearing diapers to so identify themselves—often causing their faces to redden. Those men wearing panties may also be singled out for attention. With women, deprivation of wearing panties at all usually results in similar humiliation when they are called out in a group and made to expose their pantiless privates. +Potty use. Another related feature of toilet restriction may involve requiring the submissive to squat on a child's plastic or wooden potty to do their business. Dominants usually have the potty visible in the living room so that all are on notice that one or more submissives may be required to use the potty n front of everyone. Men are humbled by yet another situation in which they are required to sit down like a woman to urinate and both sexes, when performing either function, are likely to expose their frontal genitalia to all present. Usually the submissive is required to remove the potty for emptying and cleaning after use, mostly because the dominant and certainly guests will not find the continuing smell after use to be pleasant. +Providing toilet service to dominants is another related punishment but the motivations and considerations are sufficiently different to suggest that it is more appropriate for a separate discussion. +The menstrual taboo. Restricting menstruating women's use of feminine hygiene products, however, is yet another kind of toilet restriction. Male dominants engaging in this punishment may find that female dominants resent male intrusion into this quintessentially feminine activity, but women submissives often recognize the high degree of humiliation they feel when a male dominant restricts their use of pads or tampons. They have spent their whole life, after all, keeping their menstrual period secret from men. Breaking this taboo can be itself a highly powerful disciplinary tactic. +Women dominants are likely to employ this punishment more particularly. They may require the female submissive to use a less absorbent tampon than she normally wears or allow her only a small pantiliner when her flow normally requires her to wear a large thick maxipad. Again, having the male or female dominant observe the menstruating submissive in the act of changing her tampon or pad is itself a major humiliation. Even the announcement by the dominant to other dominants or submissives that a female submissive is having her period is a punishment in terms of embarrassment. +Interruption of functions. Somewhat related to this is a practice used in my experience largely by dommes, which is literal restriction of urination or defecation by ordering the male or female submissive to start or stop the process. Dominant women I know may delight in allowing a submissive to start urinating and then just when, especially a woman, has managed to start the stream, suddenly say or shout ""Stop."" This is very frustrating and often difficult for the submissive to obey. +Obviously, sanctions for failure to stop urinating immediately are part of this punishment. I have been told that one of the homoerotic practices in Army basic training is telling soldiers being trained that when they hear the call for a formation while they are on the toilet and in the process of defecating, that they must ""cut it off"" (viz., the bowel movement) and pull up their uniform trousers to hurry to the lineup. +Final comments. As noted earlier, one aspect of toilet restriction is an inevitable need for someone to clean the mess up, but obviously this is the responsibility and the added shame of the submissive. On the whole, many of the features and refinements of toilet restriction as a punishment involve a broad swath of humiliating techniques, and include aspects of feminization and infantilization. +The sheer surprise and consequent embarrassment that occurs when a dominant interferes with a submissive's use of the toilet for normal bodily functions can clearly be utilized by the skillful dominant to produce improved behavior. Few submissives will not pay more attention to complying with rules set by their dominants when threatened with toilet restriction and its many variations and refinements. +Insightful dominants may wish to consider using toilet restriction because punishments such as spanking, caning, flogging, strapping, and the like all involve physical castigation and can only be employed so often. While it is humiliating to be taken across a dominant's lap for a spanking, just the fear that a dominant may follow through on a threat to impose toilet restriction at any level may well exceed the impact of the other punishments. +I would certainly rank the impact of a dominant's saying ""Your use of the toilet is going to be restricted"" with ""You have behaved badly and are going to be caned."" Both inspire fear, albeit of different kinds, but the former also carries with it the prospect of certain embarrassment and humiliation." +878,Using Your Own Method,Keixbra,How To,2006-10-28,2006-10-28,2022-01-04 08:41:21,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/using-your-own-method,Have you tried it all & none of it worked? Look here.,"['Good Sex', 'Relationship Advice', 'Sex Advice', 'Sex How-To', 'Sexual Advce']",3.96,"Alright, first off I would like to tell everyone that will say bad things to me or even try to threaten me (though I'm sure we can all respect other peoples opinions on life and won't get TOO mad) that I am not the most intelligent person on this planet, I am not the most emotional, but I have been known to give fairly good advice. +I know many people have searched though this ""How to"" column and have seen things that helped them with sexual positions, hypnosis... But if you truly want to try something that will always work, you have to try your own way. I was reading things on ""How to give Ultimate Head"" or ""How to make a Woman Scream in the Middle of Passion"" but when I read it, they made me laugh slightly. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm glad that these people had the courage to get up and talk about how THEY got THEIR girlfriend/boyfriend to have the best orgasm of their life, but I don't enjoy the fact that these people are trying to push it on US to do it. (Not all, and sorry if you are one of the few that don't) +When I was studying Hypnosis, and when I finally accomplished it, they were nothing alike. My way was very calming, like normal, but it didn't involve the focus of anything like a red dot, a watch, or anything of that kind. When I have phone sex with my friends it yields overpowering results, but it is MY way of doing it and nobody else's. +When I touch my girlfriends arm I am light and gentle at times, but rough at others. She is mostly into Rough but she enjoys gentle the most because she has never had a boyfriend that was gentle. When I held her and whispered in her ear sweet things, she smiled and laughed at my jokes because it was something that she hadn't had before. So hearing things on this site about ""How to make your woman feel appreciated"" does not work at all if your wife/girlfriend is constantly being treated gentle, and gets even more gentle... I've never met a woman would wants ONLY gentle. +Or, ""How to fuck like a horse."" True, a woman can often have her brains fucked out and enjoy every second of it, and be treated worse every time (using needles and blades for BDSM purposes) but I once had a girlfriend that loved to be choked during sex, loved cutting and scrapping herself with her nails. Then one day, I fucked her slowly, gently rocking my hips and she said that it was the most sensual moment of her life and she passed out after the sex (even though it was so slow she wasn't use to it and it was overwhelming.) +So, these ""How to"" folders truly aren't that helpful to a lot of people because they are trying to increase what their lady is already used to. +In truth, this is in the ""How to"" section because of my How To. +If you truly want to have the most sensual and sexual experience of your life, don't base what you do off of just ONE thing. If your girlfriend/wife loves it wild and hard then try going slow or Vice-Versa. +But in truth, don't take anyone's advice. Allow yourself to do what YOU think is right, not what everyone says is right. +When I say this I really am not trying to say that everybody is a perfect lover when they first start. In truth I am still a virgin and I have only had phone sex with a couple of good friends and a few girlfriends. I truly don't know if I am going to be a GREAT lover, but according to what my friends have said I will be. The way I was able to make these girls have orgasms is because I am a perverted person and I read up on positions and other types of things that I could possibly have these girls do. +I have sacrificed my own sexual need in order to make these girls so happy but I don't mind. I have a feeling I am just one of the few men that don't gain pleasure from masturbation. But instead I give girls advice and edge them on to do things that they wouldn't normally do. I have one friend in particular that has had sex with quite a few men and they have all left her sore, but she says that her strongest orgasm had come from when me and her had had phone sex a long time ago. +I am saying that instead of trying to take something and use it because it is convenient you should instead take something and look at it and look at your lover and try to find a way to use it and whatever you lover might like and make the best way to have your lover scream. So these ""How to"" files can help you, but they shouldn't give specific directions on what you should do. +For instance, if your girlfriend or wife enjoys to be tied up and you read something that makes you smirk in an evil way so you decide to try it, but when you do she doesn't like it as much. Try to implement whatever you wanted to do with her being tied up. Such as the feel of coldness against ones nipples. Of course if you feel cold you are going to shiver and try to warm yourself up but if she is tied up she will not have that opportunity and instead will have to deal with it while you bite and nibble on her neck, maybe afterwards applying some sort of heat source against her nipple, or vice- versa. +As I have said quite a few times. Don't take other peoples exact advice. Watch your lovers reaction to things and try to slowly nudge them in with YOUR OWN method." +879,Vagina Fingering Techniques,FriskyVirgin,How To,2007-05-19,2007-05-19,2022-01-04 08:41:23,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/vagina-fingering-techniques,Techniques for vaginal fingering & other clit stimulation.,"['Female Masturbation', 'Fingering How-To', 'Masturbation How-To', 'Sex Advice']",3.96,"When performing the following, make sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing more uncomfortable (and painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across a woman's clitoris or pushed inside. In most cases, proper foreplay stimulating a woman's erogenous zones will usually avoid the problem of dryness. Nevertheless, it never hurts to keep a ""tube of lube"" sitting nearby. +Most women masturbate by rubbing a finger or two over their clitoris, sometimes ""through"" the skin of their inner or outer lips, in a circular or back-and-forth motion. +Labial Massage +Place a well lubricated hand over her labia, fingers pointing towards her anus. Pull up toward the navel and alternate hands. Explore the inner and outer lips with your fingers. Pull gently on one lip and then the other. Rub the outer lips gently between your forefinger and thumb, then the inner lips. +A-One and A-Two and a-Three +Try inserting your first two fingers into her vagina, then arch your thumb back 'hitch-hiker' style and thrust in until your thumb rests against her clitoris. Now wriggle, twist, thrust, and vibrate your hand to drive her wild. +Close But No Cigar +If your partner has a particular spot that they like to have licked or caressed, try doing so very close to but not quite on that spot. This trick will make them take longer to reach their orgasm, but they will likely have a much stronger, more powerful orgasm when they finally do. +Push Here to Start +Gently insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she's ready, insert a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus (Don't insert it). Press against her anus while you move your fingers inside her vagina. +Tap Dancing +Place the palm of your hand on her mons (the mound where her pubic hair is), and rest your fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her thigh. Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your hand in a tiny circular motion. Your palm should not slide too much over her skin during this process. Rather, her skin should move underneath it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until you have given her ten taps. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds. Then repeat the whole routine over and over. +Cervix Clock +A woman's cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of her vagina. The cervix feels like a little dome of tissue, and may also have a small cleft in the middle, like your chin. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding the cervix. Some women may enjoy this and want you to do it more often; others won't. +From the Outside +Lay your free hand over the lower part of your partner's abdomen. Experiment by applying different kinds of pressure with the top hand while fingers from your other hand are inside her vagina. +Imitations +An excellent way to learn more about pleasing your partner is to rest your fingers over hers while she is masturbating herself. Then do the reverse, with her fingers acting as guides for your own. +Off the Edge +Another form of genital massage can be done by holding a lubricated vaginal lip between your thumb and forefinger. While squeezing just a little, pull your fingers straight away from the woman's body. Your fingers will end up in the air an inch or two above her body. If she likes this, repeat it often. +Tracing +After applying lubrication, it might be nice to begin with one of the large outer lips. Place the lip between your thumb and forefinger, clasping it at the base where it attaches to the main part of the woman's body. Then run your fingers (or fingertip) from the lower to upper part of the lip, as though you were tracing one side of a parenthesis. Repeat this as long as your partner's feedback is positive. +Four Directions +With two fingers press firmly up/side/down/side in her vagina, eight times each side. +Gentle Touch and Tickle +Tickle the clitoris extremely lightly. +Healing Thrust +Some women might need and want good, hard, deep, vigorous thrusting penetration. Be sure to keep her relaxed - don't let her get tensed. +Pinch and Pull +Gently pinch and pull on the clitoris. +Rock Around the Clit +With your forefinger make tiny circles, stopping at every 'hour'. +Temple Gate Tease +With one finger, tickle her vaginal opening as lightly as possible. +Tour de France +Orbit your forefinger around between her inner and outer labia from perineum to above her clitoris. +Triple Digit Pet +Use your three longest fingers, with your middle finger gliding along the outside of her vaginal opening and your other two fingers running along the area where her thigh meets her labia. +Twist and Shout +Using one or more fingers, massage in and out while twisting at the wrist." +880,Vaginal Fisting,Hand,How To,2001-11-03,2001-11-03,2022-01-04 08:41:24,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/vaginal-fisting,How to give the woman in your life the thrill of her life.,"['Fisting', 'Good Idea', 'Hand', 'Hand Begin', 'Hand Inside', 'Move Hand', 'Words Encouragement']",4.32,"_Editor's Note: The opinions and/or information in the how-to section are not those of Literotica.com, and anything you do with this information, you do at your own risk. Thank you for reading, and enjoy!_ +There are many people who have never heard of fisting, or have no idea what is really involved. There are two types of fisting, vaginal and anal, this article is focused on vaginal fisting. First off, I would like to bust the biggest myth about fisting. It is NOT true that your partner must be ""well used"", or ""worn out"" in order to insert your fist. +The human vagina is incredibly resilient, and muscle tone allows women to give birth, but also to tighten down enough to grasp a finger. A word of caution, the skin of the vaginal lips, as well as the interior skin is very sensitive, and prone to small tears, unless caution (and patience) is used, infection can occur with these tears. Things will go smoothly if both partners are patient, and some simple precautions are observed. First, it is important for the fister to thoroughly wash his or her hands. It is also helpful if the fistee is shaved, or at least trimmed of pubic hair. The fister must also make sure that the fingernails are trimmed, and have no ragged edges. +Another important factor is lubrication. I recommend a water soluble lubricant like KY jelly, or the generic equivalent. Astroglide may work for you, but for my taste it is not as kind to the skin while it is being stretched. How much lube do you use? Well, when you think you have enough, use more. I have at times, used half a tube. It can get messy, so use plenty of towels. Messy sex can be the best kind anyway, so use the lube liberally. The application of the lube can be integrated into the foreplay. I sometimes find that giving my girlfriend one or more orgasms before fisting really helps things along. Of course, before you can get your hand in there, you've got to get your fingers in there first. After the third finger, you begin to get to that ""stretch zone"". +Ladies, at this point, the stretching can feel like a slight burning, or stinging sensation, but plenty of lube eases that. During the insertion of finger number four, you have to pay close attention to your partners reactions, she will let you know when something is uncomfortable. If that happens, don't get discouraged, your first time may take a while, and patience is the key. Remember, this is an extremely intimate act and can be amazing when done between two people who care about each other, and rushing things can result in more than physical injury, it can damage the relationship. Once you have reached the stage where you have four well lubricated fingers inside, you may want to take a break and let her adjust to that new feeling of fullness. During the entire process, words of encouragement can do wonders to help her relax. After all, if she is not enjoying herself, what's the point? +Once she is comfortable with four fingers, you may press on till your palm is inside. Another pause to let her adjust, and keep up the words of encouragement! Remember, even if your partner has had children, she is not used to something that big going IN. Once she has adjusted to your palm, begin to move your hand, SLOWLY AND GENTLY to help stretch the skin for what comes next. I have found that the vagina tends to have more room to give at the bottom, near the perineum. +Now comes the real challenge! Tuck your thumb into the palm of your hand, and begin to SLOWLY, but firmly push. As you progress, begin to fold your fingers into the shape of a fist. When you reach the widest part of your hand, near your knuckles, you will find that things are getting somewhat tight. This is the point where she may REALLY tense up, and the risk of tearing the skin increases dramatically. It may be the point where she decides not to go through with it after all, or it may be time for a rest break. Remember, even though you are the one working to get your hand inside, she is having to work just as hard to relax and adjust, so she will be just as tired, if not more so than you. +Again, PATIENCE! If you are ready to proceed at this point, keep in mind that she still needs those encouraging words, now more than ever. After you have passed the widest point, you may be tempted by enthusiasm to just slam it home. BAD IDEA! Just allow your hand to slide naturally into place. Her vagina will tend to lock down on your wrist and sometimes actually draw your hand the rest of the way in. Once you have reached the wrist, it is time for another pause. She will sometimes have a extreme reaction. Some women may actually have an orgasm at this point, others just may be paralyzed in a state of awe that you got that huge hand of yours in there to begin with. Again, PATIENCE! Be sure that you are still well lubed, hand and wrist. KY type lube will gunk up when exposed to air for long periods, so make sure that a fresh layer is applied every now and then. +Ladies, once your partners' hand is all the way inside you, you'll find that you have the urge to urinate, so it is usually a good idea to empty your bladder before you start, unless you are both really into watersports. And do not worry about telling your partner when enough is enough, give them directions, how to move their hand, how fast, how slow, how much, etc. Guys, no matter how much she likes your sense of humor, crude remarks or jokes are definitely NOT a good idea. Remember, the vagina is more muscle than anything else, and one good squeeze could injure your hand. A little movement can go a long way, there is no need for you to get carried away at first and just start ramming your arm in and out. +If you are patient and take the time to let her build up, (usually after several orgasms) she may lose control and tell you just to fuck the shit out of her with your hand. Guys, you HAVE to LISTEN to your woman, you may be getting a charge out of this, but this is ultimately for HER pleasure! Another big no-no is the sudden removal of your hand. It wasn't easy to get in there, and therefore should be removed with care, again, pay attention to her reactions, know when to slow down, or take a break. And talk to her, let her know you're there. In summary, if done with care, consideration, and yes, PATIENCE, fisting can be a wonderful sexual outlet for you both. Please remember that this activity may not be for everyone, this is one of those things that can really turn ugly, if the issue is forced. +Good Luck and Happy Fisting, Ya'll +I would like to thank my ""research assistant"" (wink wink,nudge nudge) Jasmine1969" +881,Valentine's Day English Lady's Way,English Lady,How To,2004-02-04,2004-02-04,2022-01-04 08:41:24,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/valentines-day-english-ladys-way,Valentine's Day gift ideas for your sweetie.,"['Enhance Experience', 'Erotic Story', 'Give Lover', 'Love Letter', 'Make Leave', 'Small Fortune', 'Spell Checker', 'Word Spell', 'Wrapping Paper', 'Write Love']",4.12,"Are you completely sick of forking out a small fortune every Valentines Day buying over priced flowers, cards and chocolates? I know it drives me crazy how a day which has been designed for lovers has become so expensive and commercialised! +Do you want to give your lover something special and personal this year or something sweet and sexy? Yes we all want to pamper our lovers on Valentines Day. +""But it's all so expensive!"" I hear you exclaim! +Never fear VickyVickster is here and she is the mistress of sexy romance on a budget! I am now going to give you some ideas for cost effective, personal gifts that I guarantee your lover will adore! Take your pick from the list below ranging from the sweet and sincere to the saucy and sexy or just be inspired to do or make something a bit different this year! +Personalised is best when it comes to Valentines gifts. +Send an Ecard! +Ecard's are a wonderful and many faceted thing. I love Ecards and send tonnes of them to my friends online all the time. Basically they are a greeting card that you send through your email. You find all kinds from the simplest plain pictures to all singing all dancing java cards and animation cards. Ecard sites are easy to find and many of them are free! To find a suitable site just type the words ""Free Ecards"" into a search engine and bobs your uncle! Add to this search the word ""Valentine"" and you will be led to many pages of sloppy, lovey, funny, sweet and sexy cards. All you have to do is choose the one you love the best and fill out your details and send it off to your lover's email. As Simple as that. +Many Ecard site's have an option to choose when the Ecard is sent so if you're searching around now and find the perfect card see if they have a feature to allow you to send it actually on 14th February itself. That way you can write out your card and send it there and then meaning there's no last minute panic to find, write and send an Ecard on Valentine's Day itself. Lets face it there's so many better things to be doing and your dearly beloved is not going to be impressed with you sitting on the net and swearing at the computer for hours on the sexiest day of the year! +And I guarantee you'll find the card your looking for on one of those three sites or your money back! (waits for people to realise they're free) +Record a Special CD or tape. +This is a classic! Everyone loves music and every couple has at least a handful of songs that remind them of each other. Copy these from your existing CD's or tapes onto a new one, maybe adding a little voice message if you can manage that and voila! A thoughtful and meaningful collection of music that cost you the price of a blank cassette or CD. Much better than some commercial collection that you have to shell out a small fortune for right? +To make this even more special decorate the cover. It doesn't have to be a masterpiece, just a few different colours to write your lovers name and you've added that little extra touch that shows how much time and care you've put into pleasing them. +Please note! Make sure the songs you record will be enjoyed by your lover! If their taste is different to yours make sure you cater for that. Don't add something you know they will hate as this could possibly ruin the whole collection! If you really want to add a song that you're not 100% sure would normally be your lover's cup of tea well the put it right near the end so they can skip it easier, especially if you're recording a cassette tape. +Write a love letter. +For this you might need to purchase some nice looking writing paper or a blank card but if you shop around you can buy good looking paper/greeting cards very reasonably! My top tip is to check in markets as they often have the best prices and a large selection. Don't wander into a large chain store type shop unless you can afford to pay that bit more as you will just get frustrated when you look through all the lovely cards and you realise you can't afford them. +When choosing a pen to write your love letter with make sure it is full of ink and isn't going to run out on you at any moment! Writing in colour is always sweet but bear in mind that poison pen letters are often written in red and it can be seen as quite an angry and harsh colour. Make sure it is comfortable for you to write with and don't try using a cartridge pen if you're used to a ballpoint. It might sound romantic in theory but a letter covered in ink blots is not that sexy. Try scribbling on a spare piece of paper to check your pen is OK then you're ready to write! +When you sit down to write your letter be in a relaxed state of mind. It might help to have a photo of your lover or some other memento to look at for inspiration. Don't force it just write how you feel. It doesn't need to be Shakespearian in its grandness; the whole idea of a love letter is that it comes from the heart. If all you want to write is ""I love you with all my heart"" then that's all you need to write. If you are more inclined to go on for a few pages then do so. Write as much or as little as feels right. +Content wise try to keep to your own words. If you quote someone else, give them credit for it. It is not going to impress your dearly beloved if they find the heartfelt letter they received was actually composed by some dead guy to his wife several centuries before! Again I stress the most important point; a love letter is from the heart. Be sincere and true to your feelings and give your lover something they can keep to remind them of you. +Ladies, if you fancy adding a little squirt of perfume to your letter then feel free but please spray the letter from arms length as you do not want to knock your lover out with potent perfume fumes as he opens his letter! +Create a picture frame. +There are several ways you can interpret this. You can either make a collage of pictures and images to put in a shop bought frame for your lover, creating a personal love collage for them or you can take one picture you really like of you and your lover together and create a frame to put round it. Really I guess it's a case of what you can afford to do! +A frame is pretty simple to put together, 2 pieces of cardboard around an inch bigger than your picture, cover them both in wrapping paper, securing the paper with lots of glue. +Then cut out a hole in one piece of card just slightly smaller than your picture. Please make sure you can see the photo properly and that it is fairly well centred. I leave it to you as to how precise you want to be! +Stick your photo in place(the easiest way to do this is to stick your photo to the back piece, check it is in the right position several times before you secure it though!) then stick the frame together and there you have it! Simply attach a piece of sting or wire to the top of your picture in a hoop so it can be hung on the wall and it's done. +Some artistic inclination is needed for this option; if it sounds too complex to you then I suggest you opt for a less arty option to show your love this year! +Make a scrap book! +All you need is an exercise book OR several pieces of paper hole punched and strung together. Once you have your book decorate the front and back cover in anyway you like! Collage images form newspapers and magazines over it, use stickers or wrapping paper or just draw. This is your present to your lover; you decide what you want to do with it. +The contents can be whatever you want too. Photos, love letters, famous (and relevant) love quotes, pictures you've drawn, a page of graffiti all based around the ""I luv u"" variety you used to cover your books in at school, poetry... the list goes on. +I made one for my husband when we were first together. In mine I added a few pages of love quotes form various Terry Pratchett books because we are both big Discworld fans, I put in a few quotes from songs that reminded me off him and some pictures, a graffiti page and I wrote an introduction page. It took me a long time but I was well pleased with it when I finished and my husband still has it now. +Fill your book with what you know your lover will love and you just can't go wrong! +WARNING! +This option can be time consuming, especially if you decide to do a lot of drawing and writing yourself. Make sure you start it a while before you need to present it as a gift, you don't want to have to rush it to be able to present it in time do you? +Ok hold onto your hats folks now we're getting into the sexy adult suggestions...give your lover something sextra special this year! +Vouchers +No, I'm not talking gift vouchers for your local department store I am talking sexy love vouchers. Hundreds of Ecard sites have these online, you can even find them to print out online too or you can simply type or write your own. +All it has to be is a slip of paper which gives details of a treat your lover can claim from you. They can range from the cute and practical to the seriously sexy and can be redeemed whenever your partner feels like it. +Voucher suggestions: +*An hour long all over body massage. +*Butterfly kisses to be placed wherever your lover wants them! +*A meal cooked by you and the washing up done by you too. +*A night of passion! +*Acting out a kinky fantasy of their choosing. +You can be as saucy as you like and you can give as many different vouchers as you like! A cute little extra to slip inside the valentine card you send to your love. +Sexy Lotto. +This idea is a step up from the last. It involves the same kind of vouchers but this time you write lots of them, suitable for both you and your partner to carry out. You place some of these vouchers in a hat or a pot or a bowl (fold them up especially if they're going in a see through container) and then take it in turns to draw out a piece of paper then carry out that action on/to or for your lover! +Similar suggestions as before apply but you can get a bit more explicit this time! +*perform oral sex on partner for 10 minutes. +*Give your partner 10 spanks to the bare bottom. +*kiss your partner for 5 minutes anywhere but on the lips. +*Do a slow sexy strip to the music of your choice. +*Tell your lover a fantasy of yours in explicit detail. +See I told you! This suggestion can be as sexual as you like. Add things you and your partner will feel comfortable doing, you do not want to embarrass them after all, you want to get them horny baby yeah! (Oops dropped into Austin Power Mode there!) +Make sure you have some time to yourself for this. You don't want children/flatmates walking in on you whilst playing this game! Also you want to feel totally relaxed and comfortable; worrying about keeping the noise down in case mother hears will not enhance the experience! +Sexy Photos! +This will work best if your love is at work on Valentines Day or somewhere other than in the house with you. Take some sexy photographs of yourself with a digital camera. They can be as graphic as you like. Please remember though if you're sending them to your partner whilst he/she is at work that he/she could get into trouble for looking at very explicit photos in the workplace! All they need to do is titillate. A picture of you in some seriously sexy lingerie (hey I'm talking to you too boys!) or just a picture of your lips or a shot of your cleavage or your ""bulge"" inside your jeans. Get creative and take a shot you know will get your lover erm, ""interested"". +Then send your picture via email to your loved one. This is fairly easy to do! If you have outlook express when you create a new mail you will see two little arrows at the top right of your message. Click this and you'll see ""attach"" in the drop down menu again click this and you will be able to select your picture from your hard-drive. Once you have done this click ""attach"" and voila! Your sexy pic is attached to the Email. +If you have a web based account like hotmail, when you create a new message you should see an ""attach"" link somewhere above the email message itself. Click this and it will show a long box with a button saying ""browse"" next to it. Click ""Browse"" to find your picture on your hard-drive then click ""attach"" or ""ok"" and this attachment will then be added onto your email. +If you're not sure about this try sending an attachment to yourself first to check it works! +Now you have your picture ready to send you need to think of a suitable titillating subject line and message text. +A simple ""Happy Valentines Day"" will suffice, I am sure the picture will then speak for itself BUT be as creative as you like! Or if you really want to mess with their minds just send a typical chatty email and have your sexy picture attached, cheeky and fun and who knows? You might get spanked for it later! +Write him/her an erotic story. +This is another time consuming option. Even the shortest of sexual fantasy stories is going to take you a few hours to write and edit. Make sure you leave yourself plenty of time for completion before Valentines Day! +You do not need to be the best at fiction writing for this option. You can write a full on erotic story with created characters and scenes if you like but what is probably going to be more touching is writing out a personal fantasy involving yourself and your partner. +You can simply write it as if you're telling them what you will do to them later. +""When you get in from work you see me disappearing up the stairs in nothing but my black lacy French knickers....."" +Or as if you're telling a fantasy that really happened. +""I let my hand crack down upon your bottom and saw the cheek begin to pinken."" +Or you could write it as if you are the narrator telling a story. +""Tommy and Susie we're in love. They met in the park to feed the ducks but ended up naked in the bushes together."" +The best advice I can give you though is just write. Take your inspiration and run with it. Write and write and write till you stop. THEN you can go back and edit your work. I definitely recommend typing your story as apposed to writing it. Writing is very time consuming especially with the editing process added in. Typing onto a computer however makes this process much easier. +Top tips for typing out your story! +*If you have Word use it! The spell check facility is fantastic. If not use word pad and find an online spell checker to check it with. (http://www.spellcheck.net/ is a good one and it's free!) +*SAVE SAVE SAVE! Save your work after every paragraph or so just in case your computer crashes or gets switched off. It could happen and you don't want your whole story disappearing in one go! +*Write your story then leave it. The longer the better really. Editing is much easier to do when you come to your story fresh as you are more likely to pick up on mistakes. +*Don't rely on your spell checker to pick up everything! If you have made a typo that just happens to be a real word then the spell checker won't pick up on it! So check through your work yourself. +When your story is complete it is often helpful to read it out loud to check it reads well! Once it is done email it to your lover or print it out. I am sure they will be more than pleased with their own personalised sexy story. I have written several for my husband and I can verify he was very impressed! +Give your lover a massage. +This has got to be one of the nicest things anyone can receive. A full body massage. You do not necessarily need an expensive massage oil to do this there are several cheaper options that work just as well. Baby oil or baby moisturising lotion works well as it stays wet for a long time whilst you rub it into your lover's skin. +If you don't have a baby or baby products get yourself some cheap moisturising body cream. In this case the cheaper the better! Expensive products absorb into the skin quickly, you don't want this as you'll be forever applying more cream. Cheaper ones tend to be oilier and stay on top of the skin longer. Check the smell though before purchasing as you don't want to be massaging with a lotion you don't like the smell of! I would say go for something with cocoa butter in it as these smell like vanilla mostly and this is a pleasant and mild scent. +To enhance the experience massage in a candle lit room, especially if your lover is a bit self conscious about his or her body. The bedroom is a good place to carry out a massage as the bed is comfy to lie on. Make sure your partner is comfortable before you begin your massage! If you are using oil you may want to lie down towels over your bed clothes but that is up to you. +Mood making music playing softly in the background will help; make sure you choose something sexy if you're expecting things to get raunchy after the massage! Playing something soft and relaxing my end up in your lover falling asleep. +My husband has a problem when he massages me; he gets distracted by my bottom. Oh yes it is nice for my bottom to receive some attention but if I am promised a massage I'd like the rest of me massaged please too! To stop this distraction you can drape a towel over the distracting area whilst you work on your lover's neck, shoulders and back. Then start off from the feet and up the legs and you will end up at the distracting bit when both of you are warmed up enough to well, be distracted! +Lover Buffet! +This is an idea which will take some preparation and time but I assure you will be well worth it! +You will be the plate for your lover to eat his/her buffet from. All you need to do is be naked, reclining on the sofa or the bed with plates of food lying around you. I suggest you use an old sheet or some old towel to lie on so that the food does not stain whatever it is you are lying on. +A typical sweet buffet could consist of: +Strawberries, bananas, chocolate bars (to insert inside places as well as lie on top of your flesh) peaches, whipped cream, ice cream, jam, yoghurt (to smother all over your body) honey, syrup, chocolate sauce, raspberry sauce (to dribble all over), sprinkles, chocolate chips, dried fruit (to sprinkle over to give a change in texture to the food all over you) and whatever else you can think of that your lover would like to lick off your body! +If your lover hasn't got such a sweet tooth you could try a more savoury approach: +Soft cheese, peanut butter, pate (to spread on your body!) sausages, whole cucumber (insertion!),tomato ketchup, Mayonnaise (in squeezy bottles for drizzling all over) and nuts, croutons and bacon bits for that added crunch! +Whatever you chose do not put a lot out, you do not want to make your lover feel sick! Cater to his or her tastes, if you think they would prefer just one thing or say a simple variety of fruit (maybe your partner is on a diet!) then just put those out. The experience should be enjoyable for both parties so if you don't think you'd enjoy having a cucumber inserted anywhere don't put it in your food selection! +Showering/ bathing afterwards will be an integral part of this experience too I think! +Oh a special note for fella's...pineapple rings... need I say more? +This would work best if your lover can let themselves in and find you all ready and raring to go. Do not plan to do this when you know the postman might arrive or your mother might pop over! If you place yourself up in the bedroom make sure you leave a note instructing your lover to where you are. Nothing would be worse than lying in wait for your partner and for them not to come searching for you but to settle down in front of the television instead! +I really hope this list has inspired you to do something special for your loved one this year. I would love to hear of any experiences people have using my ideas so send me a comment or put a note in my guestbook! Also if you think up a different idea inspired by this list let me know, I want idea's to surprise my husband with this year!" +882,Valuing Books,oggbashan,How To,2015-02-21,2015-02-21,2022-01-04 08:41:25,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/valuing-books,Does your book have a value?,"['Edition', 'First Edition', 'Incunabla', 'Old Book', 'Printing']",4.62,"**Oggbashan's Advice: Is this book valuable?** +This was written for charity shops selling books in the UK but can have some application elsewhere. +A secondhand book has NO value unless somebody wants to buy it. +1\. Books that have NO value +Readers' Digest Condensed Books and Mills and Boon paperbacks can soon swamp the largest shop. There are buyers for pristine Mills and Boon at but they can take up space better used for other books. +A book may be a pristine first edition signed by the author but if the book is unreadable or just plain bad no one will want it even at 10p. +Obsolete reference books are the worst. Last year's law books however impressive looking do not have a market except as furniture. A ready reckoner for pre-decimal currency is just waste paper. +Text books lose value as soon as they are superseded and don't regain any value until they are old enough to be quaint. +Battered children's books are useless. +Out-of-date factual children's books, unless old enough to be of historic interest, should be rejected. +2\. Books that have a standard value +Clean paperbacks and modern dust-wrappered hardbacks can be priced at a basic rate of currently 50p each or three for £1. +3\. Books that might be worth more +Some books are obviously valuable, for example large detailed Art books about a specific artist, profusely illustrated and academic. Even so, the condition is important. If the book has lost its dustwrapper, or is stained or internally damaged, it will have lost some of its value. The most expensive books can still be valuable even when damaged. +3.1 Valuable paperbacks. +There are very few valuable paperbacks. The early Ian Fleming's James Bond books, such as Casino Royale, are very expensive in hardback, so the paperback firsts are valuable. That is partly because of the artwork on the cover but mainly because the James Bond franchise still produces films. While Bond films continue to be made, Bond books will be valuable. A good condition paperback first of Casino Royale should sell for £25 to £50. +Early Penguin paperbacks, the ones with three equal size bands, have a value IF they are first edition Penguins and it are in good or sound condition. Depending on their rarity/desirability early Penguin Firsts in good condition could be £3-£5 each. However Penguin has produced modern replicas of their first books and they have no real value. +Collectors' paperbacks are spin-offs from films or TV series e.g. Dr Who. They have value, not as books, but as collectable items that fit the theme. Some rare ones can have considerable value BUT fashions change quickly. What was collectable a couple of years ago can be valueless now e.g. Teenage Ninja Turtles. +Science Fiction paperbacks by popular authors, particularly US printings, can be valuable. +1950s/60s paperbacks such as Pan, Panther, can have a value because of the cover artwork. Again the condition is important. Value can be £2-£25. +Earlier paperbacks, Hodder and Stoughton Yellowbacks, Victorian ""shockers"", garishly covered novels etc. do have a value as curiosities. In excellent condition could be £30. Sound condition? £10. +The only paperbacks that have a significant value are the 19th Century partworks that were the genuine First Editions of Dickens' novels. A complete set of the loose parts of one of Dickens' novels could be worth hundreds of pounds -- but beware -- The University of Kent at Canterbury produced a reprint of the six parts of Edwin Drood in the 1970s. That reprint is worth £8-£10. +3.2 Old Books +Any book older than 1800 has a greater value than a standard book. +Any book older than 1700 should have a value of at least £25. +Any book older than 1600 should have a value of at least £100. +Any book older than 1500, or even a single page of such a book, is classed as an ""Incunabule"", plural ""Incunabula"" and should be on an international register of such books/pages. Any found should have been recorded with details of the previous owner(s) and the source because unknown incunabula need to have a provenance. +19th Century books, that is ones printed between 1800 and 1899 can be valuable but many from the later part of the century are just reprints of earlier works. For example Defoe's Robinson Crusoe in a late 19th Century edition could be valuable if it was originally an expensive book perhaps with many illustrations or worthless if a cheap reprint that is difficult to read. +4\. Dating books. +The date of a book is usually shown on the title page or on the back of the title page. In very old books or many Reader's Digest Books it is shown on the back page. +Some dates are shown in Roman numerals. +M = 1000; D = 500; C= 100; L= 50; XL = 40; LXXXX = 90 +X = 10; IX = 9; VIII = 8; VII = 7; VI = 6; V = 5; IV = 4 +III = 3 ; II = 2 ; I = 1 +But 9 may be shown as VIIII ; 40 as XXXX ; 90 as XC. +Some examples: +MDCCCLVIII = 1858 +MMV = 2005 +MDCCCXCXLV = 1895 +Accurately dating a book can be difficult and can require knowledge. +A book may state ""First published 1897"" but could be a 1950s reprint. +A book may state ""First edition thus 1950"" but could just be a cheap edition of a much earlier book. +A book may state ""First published in the UK 1960"" but the original first edition was published in the US in 1955. +5\. First Editions +Some books never have more than a first edition and may never be valuable because the author is incompetent or unreadable. +Some first editions are produced in such quantities that they are no more valuable than another edition e.g. second and subsequent Harry Potter books. +A few first editions by otherwise collectable authors can have little value e.g Lawrence Durell's TUNC and Ernest Hemingway's second book. Both books were unlike their other books and were, and are, unpopular. +Some first editions by authors you have heard of aren't as valuable as you might think. Rudyard Kipling is one. He is sometimes in favour, sometimes out of favour. A Kipling first edition printed in the UK is probably worth no more than £8 to £10. Many first editions are worth less than the modern paperback reprint. Buying books as an investment requires very careful judgement. +Modern publishers, and some older publishers, have made the task of finding out whether a book is a first edition very complicated. +Modern Firsts +For example: Many books say ""First published 1987"" but underneath, or on the back of the title page is a list of numbers like these: +135798642 or 123456789 or even 31 33 35 37 39 38 36 34 32 30 or 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 +As the book is reprinted a number will be dropped from the sequence so a book with the numbers +57986 is actually the FIFTH edition or FIFTH printing. +With 3456789 is the THIRD edition or THIRD printing. +The books with numbers in the 30s are from the THIRTIETH edition. +Older Firsts +Anything that says 10th thousand; 30th thousand -- is NOT a first edition. +Even apparently identical books can be true first editions, or later states of the first edition. One of Charles Dickens' Christmas Stories ""The Haunted Man"" has four states of the First edition. They can be told apart by the address of the publishers, which changed, and by a misprint on one page of the REAL first. The value of each is different. +The usual order of priority of book states is: +Any edition dedicated by the author to someone related to the book's origin e.g. Ian Fleming's Thunderball dedicated to the Golf Professional at Royal St George's golf course thanking him for help with the golf scenes. That is valuable even in battered condition. +\- 1st Edition in dustwrapper signed by author +\- 1st Edition in dustwrapper +\- 1st Edition without dustwrapper +\- 1st Illustrated Edition +\- Any edition signed by author +\- Other publishers edition after 1st in dustwrapper +\- Paperback +\- Any edition without dustwrapper. +\- Book Club Edition in dustwrapper +\- Book Club edition without dustwrapper +BUT condition is important - a battered 1st may be unsaleable while a clean Book Club Edition could be acceptable. +6\. Book Buyers +6.1 Most people who buy books buy them to read. +Seems a statement of the obvious? It is true for most of the people who will come into a book shop. If they are not buying books to read themselves they might be buying for a friend or relation to read. Probably 90% of those coming into a bookshop are buying books to be read. +6.2 People who buy First Editions don't always read them +A First Edition has value because it is a First Edition and its value depends on its condition. An ideal First Edition has a perfect dustwrapper around a perfect book and has never been read. Reading a First Edition would devalue it by opening the pages and loosening the spine. A First Edition is an object to be appreciated, NOT a book to be read. If the First Edition owner wants to read that book, they would probably already own a later edition or a cheap paperback reprint. +6.3 People buy books as status symbols +Coffee table books and expensive Art Books are often bought to display, not to read. They are items of furniture to give the impression that the owner is cultured and up-market. +Old leather-bound books can be bought as decoration, to furnish a room. There is a picture of the Duke of Windsor in his Paris apartment after the Abdication, posed against a wall of books. The photograph is so clear that the book titles can be read. The books are obviously arranged by size, not subject, and have expensive bindings but are titles such as ""The Transactions of the Society of Accountants 1927-8"" next to four volumes of the Bible in French and bound copies of The National Geographic. The size and bindings match but there is no other logic to the arrangement of books. +The same thing can often been seen when people are interviewed on television. Behind them is a wall of books to show how erudite they are. Some of those interviewed are in front of their own collection so the books are sorted by class and type. Others just have a random selection of books just for their looks as wall decoration. +7\. Book Condition +There are several ways of describing a book's condition. They don't matter unless you are selling over the internet. A buyer walking into your shop can be expected to judge the book's condition themselves. +However if there are faults in the book that might not be visible to someone picking the book up it is a good idea to write (with a 2B pencil) some comment such as ""Page 23 torn""; ""scribbling on page 42"" or at worst ""As Is"" which means with all its faults. +Here is a list of normal conventions for book condition. The book is described first then, after a /, the dustwrapper if present. +Mint/Mint -- As delivered by the publisher and not handled. This state is very unusual +Fine/Fine -- As it would appear when new on the new bookseller's shelf +Very Good/Very Good -- shows slight signs of being opened and read +Good/Good -- Most secondhand booksellers won't stock anything worse than this unless the book is rare. The book and dustwrapper show signs of wear and the book has obviously been read many times. +Fair/Fair or Reading Copy -- A sound edition of the book, complete without loss or major damage. +Hospital Copy -- a book only suitable for rebinding or to combine with another copy to make one sound complete copy for example by using the plates. However some hospital copies can be MORE valuable than a better copy if the plates are worth framing. There is a book about Walmer and Deal that has 14 pictures/plates in it. As a complete book it is worth about £100. If it is a hospital copy that no one would mind pulling apart, 12 of the 14 plates can be sold at £30 to £40 each unmounted! +The older the book, the more latitude is allowed on the condition description. Any book more than 50 years old that looks nearly new could be valuable because few books survive like that. +8\. What you should look out for +8.1 Hardbacks with good dustwrappers +Any hardback before 1975 that has a good dustwrapper needs a second look. Any before 1960 should be put aside to check with your local expert or on-line. Any 1st edition with dustwrapper before 1975 probably has a value. +8.2 Expensive books +Any book that was obviously expensive when new should be examined. The quality of the binding, printing and/or illustration might make it valuable. +8.3 The ""different"" book clubs +Crime Club was often the first edition for detective novelists such as Agatha Christie. Her early Crime Club novels can be VERY valuable. +Folio Society: The average Folio Society book in good condition ,particularly in its slipcase, is worth at least £8. Some early ones are worth far more. IF you ever see their printed book collection which comes in a case containing loose sheets from old books you have made a reasonable win on the lottery at £500 plus. +8.4 Specialist Transport/Maritime Books +A picture book about steam trains in general isn't worth much. The more obscure the railway subject, the more valuable the book tends to be so ""Private Owner Wagons on the Barry Railway in the 1920s"" could be worth checking. Maritime/Shipping are similar. The history of the Royal Navy isn't valuable unless early. A book about Battle-class destroyers could be. Edward Heath's Sailing isn't valuable. It is said that an unsigned copy is rarer than one signed by him. +8.5 Art Books +Art books work like transport. Scholarly illustrated books on a single artist, particularly if produced for a major retrospective of the artist's work, can be from 10 to 100 pounds. Coffee table books with smallish pictures are just normal stock. Catalogues for Sales of a single artist's work can be valuable -- or not -- it depends on the illustrations and the competence of the text. +8.6 Older books +Any book printed (not originally published but printed) before 1900 deserves a second look. A cheap reprint of a classic in poor condition might be worth less than a modern paperback but any book that is typical of its age, or a product of its age, could have value. +Anything printed before 1850 is likely to have a value simply because of its age, apart from the author's name or title. +8.7 Foreign language +It can be very difficult to value a book printed in a foreign language particularly if you can't understand a word of it. Remember that some languages such as Japanese, Chinese, Hebrew and Arabic start at the back, not what we think is the front. There might be a few English words on the title page. +9\. Anyone can find the valuable books. There is no rule that says the valuable books will be in the antique book shop. +10\. Where to seek advice +Look at www.abebooks.co.uk or www.abebooks.com or ask me by PM. My advice is free to Literotica members. +April 2009 revised for Literotica February 2015" +883,Vanilla into Butterscotch Ripple,NightSpirit,How To,2006-06-02,2006-06-02,2022-01-04 08:41:28,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/vanilla-into-butterscotch-ripple,Guide to help introduce stubborn people to new pleasures.,"['Anal Sex', 'Bdsm Advice', 'Mind Control', 'Self-Help', 'Sex Advice']",4.45,"We've all seen it. The person who just _screams_ vanilla. +You talk about Sex, they say, ""I've done that."" +You talk about anal sex, and they say, ""That's an exit hole only. If anyone puts anything in there I'll cut it off."" +You ask why, and they just say: "" _Because_."" +""Gays and Lesbians should be shot, Bisexuals are worse because they can't even pick a side."" +""Water sports are water-polo, swimming, or waterskiing. Anything else isn't healthy."" +If you even think about being with someone else other than your spouse you are a ""male chauvinistic pig"" or a ""slut"". If you are actually with someone else, then you ""obviously don't really love your partner"". +Questions about any variation of sex other than their ideal scenario of a man and woman copulating in the missionary position only receives you scorn, and you become treated like some lesser deviant creature. +These are the thought patterns and stereotypes of a closed minded individual. +It may happen that you fall in love with someone like this. +They say that Love is blind, but it can also be deaf and dumb, and a little bit sick in the head too. +So you get bored, of the ""same old, same old"" routine in the bedroom. +You've read various things on Lit, and you know that there is a bigger world out there, and you're curious... but the love of your life isn't. +So what do you do? Dump them and move on? +Not if you really love them. It may not be possible, or at least not yet. +This is what I propose: +Don't try to change them. It never works anyways. +It really is true that people can only change if they want to. +But you _can_ open their eyes to other possibilities, and then let them choose for themselves. + **Step #1: Lose the mental conditioning.** +People are taught from a very early age, about what is right and wrong. +How to behave and what the rules are. +This is done quite simply because you are too young to be able to reason for yourself. Your experience is too limited. +This is a good thing. +It helps prevent children from burning their faces off on a hot stove top burner. Because, ""Wow, it looks really bright when you get close to it ... OWWWWW!!!!!"" immediately followed by a trip to the hospital, and years of plastic surgery is never a good thing. +However, there comes a time when people become adults, and they have to think for themselves. +""When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: But when I became a man, I put away childish things."" +Step one is to help your loved ones realize that they get to decide what _they_ want to do. +This can be really tricky, and means that you have to know your partner really well. +If the person is rational, a philosophical debate can do wonders. +If they aren't you're going to have to prove them wrong about at least one of their hard and fast beliefs. This can introduce doubt, and will hopefully force a person to re-inspect some of their other beliefs. +Be very careful here though. Move slowly and cautiously. +It's not nice to rip away someone's view of reality, and not be there to hold their hand while they try and figure out what they are supposed to believe in again. +Causing someone to question their beliefs will be an incredibly personal thing, and if you don't know your partner well enough there's no point in doing it. It'd be much better to have your partner help you ""Question your own beliefs"". Self discovery can be contagious if shared. + **Step #2: Analyze your partner carefully.** +Take a good hard look at fetishes, and see what it is about them that gets the person off. (Lit has BILLIONS of examples) +Then take a look at your partner for similar qualities. +Are they hard on themselves and seek to punish themselves? +(Masochists in their most basic form) +In times of stress are they comforted by cuddling? +(Bondage anyone?) +Are they whores for praise? +(Exhibitionism?) +Are they a giving, nurturing person? or are they demanding? +(Dominance / Submissive roles -often the opposite of what is most commonly demanded of them on a daily basis) +Once you can see the beginnings in your partner, you will have some idea as to what new experiences will best net some results. +And the **Better** your partner gets off on the first attempts, the better any subsequent new things will be received. + **Step #3: Once you think you know what you're going after, become an expert on it.** +It's true that you can only learn so much from reading, and eventually you have to try it ""hands on"", but you can avoid most of the major pitfalls through some preparation, and you can find out about safe and unsafe behavior first. +PLAYING SAFE IS MOST IMPORTANT. +If someone gets hurt playtime is over, and they'll almost certainly never want to even attempt to do it again. + **Step #4: Start Small and Innocent.** +Rome wasn't built in a day, nor was a kink-filled relationship. +So start small, and start innocent, then work your way up to your goal. +Case #1 +The goal: ""I want to spank my G/F, and to have her enjoy it, as much as I enjoy spanking her"". +Set the stage, and prepare. +Make sure that your partner is in a receptive mood to try something new. The day they have been yelled at all day at work, and have nearly lost their job is not the time for this. +However, after having a good evening out, maybe a drink to loosen them up, and when good times have been had by all is ideal. Sexual tension is definitely going to make things easier. + _Ensure that your lover is turned on_. +Next, make sure that you ""work it into the moment"". Sudden things out of context, will instantly snap a person out of whatever fun they may have been having, and put them on guard. +So, jokingly (and flirtingly) point out some little thing that they have done wrong. Maybe they forgot to pick something trivial up from the store. Maybe they knocked something over. It really doesn't matter so long as your lover knows that it was trivial, and that you're not really serious. +Now is your big chance to ""punish them"". Go lightly, even if they are enjoying it. +Especially go lightly if they _are_ enjoying it, to be more of a tease. +Mix it up with something else at the same time that you know turns them on; maybe some fondling or the likes. +Push the boundaries when your partner is distracted. The key to this step is to teach your lover that they can feel good while doing it, that it is fun, and also that you're playing. +Again, take baby steps. If you rush this stage you can cause emotional scarring, and may forever lose one of the ways that you had learned to satisfy your partner. + _ALWAYS_ make sure that the new fetish you're introducing is but a ""little side thing"" you're doing, and not the main thing your partner's focusing on. That can come later, if they decide that they enjoy it, but now is definitely not the time. +Try to give your partner a way out. +This is more then just a safety word. Give your partner a way to hide their emotion, or any shame that they may feel at the pleasure they're receiving. They may feel that what is happening is wrong on some mental level, even though their pleasure may be intense, and feel really bad about sharing their reactions to this new found pleasure until they get their attitudes straightened out again. +Give your partner the chance to be shy about their reactions. Also if possible, help them to feel less self conscious. +Blindfolds can be wonderful, so long as you use them in the early beginning steps. Often if someone doesn't see what's happening and they're already caught up in something very stimulating, they may not be able to recognize the new source of stimulation. +Showering in the dark with your partner can also be a wonderful example of this. You can ""help"" them get clean, in much more intimate ways then they might otherwise allow. Once your partner is comfortable with this, and the lights are still out, you can always check to see if they're clean. +Once you have your partner open to one ""deviant behavior"" the rest becomes easy. Start showing them how some other people can enjoy ""deviant behavior"" too. +One of my favorite methods is to show the person soft-core fetish stories; those which just barely dabble in the desired fetish, but where the person thoroughly enjoys themselves without any guilt or remorse. It helps to reinforce to your partner that this sort of behavior can be ok. +You just add it to the mix very slowly as you go. +Want to try anal sex? Try playing with your partner's ass while you are +""doing more then your part"" in a 69 position. Again start small, and ensure that there are positive reactions from your administrations. +Play on the outside of her anus gently. Stroke it. +MAKE SURE SHE GETS OFF. +Don't stick a finger up her ass thinking she won't notice. +She will; and given where her mouth is, you'd likely find out as SOON AS SHE DID! + **Step #5: Know when to stop.** +You can teach an old dog new tricks. +But you can't teach it _all_ the tricks. +Your partner may become open to learning some new things. +They may be completely against learning some others. +Often there may be trauma of some sort behind these ones that they get stuck on. +Delve into that in a gentle way if you wish, but it may be difficult. +Counseling may help as well, or not as the case may be. +The trick is to not push the issue too far, or it WILL cost you the relationship. And if you're not ready for that, then it's best to not poke that sleeping dog any harder, but maybe dangle the piece of string over the resting cat next to it. +Move on and try another fetish carefully. +There's plenty more to choose from. +Remember, this will be a growing and learning experience for both you and your partner(s) and will take a lot of work and effort. It may take you 6 months before your partner comes to understand that they are getting pleasure from the most miniscule ""deviant"" play and that it's ok. +This is still tremendous progress. +Remember you're fighting against a lifetime of conditioning, and that won't happen over night, but can happen over time. +Keep your stick on the ice, play safe, and never toy with people." +884,Very Well Done: A Guide to Offering Constructive Criticism,Cinner,How To,2012-12-22,2012-12-22,2022-01-04 08:41:29,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/very-well-done-a-guide-to-offering- constructive-criticism,How to give good literary critique.,"['Constructive Criticism', 'Criticism', 'Feedback', 'Jamaica', 'Literary Critique', 'Non-Erotic', 'Self-Development']",4.91,"The Toastmasters have a way of offering constructive criticism that I endorse fully. They call it their sandwich approach, and in it, they let their developing speech-maker know about something that (s)he did well, then they speak about the areas needing improvement, and then they close their remarks with another word of praise about an area of strength upon which the budding speech-maker can build as (s)he moves onward to new heights. Not surprisingly, this method of helping colleagues to improve is highly effective, and so I want to recommend to everyone that we all try to adopt this means of communicating with each other; not just when we leave ""constructive"" feedback about the stories that we read here on Literotica, but also in life generally since I think that there are benefits to be derived from this way of operating. +Can you imagine something as radical as this in your communication with your spouse or significant other; with your boss or your peer or your assistant; with your child? Wouldn't you enjoy it if your clients did this with you? Can't you imagine how your service providers would feel if you tried to be polite to them, even if you were making a return, or a lodging a protest about some disappointment in your dealings with them? This is not the stuff of fantasy, but it would be fantastic, wouldn't it? +So, you might ask, what if there is really nothing to praise in the piece that I have just read? How do I find something positive to say about that? What do I do if something really needs to be said about the shoddy way in which the piece has been slapped together, without any attempt at editing or developing characterisation or plot, without any regard for grammar or spelling? Are you suggesting that I be a hypocrite and say something nice? Saying nothing is not an option for me, Cinner... +Alright, I grant you that sometimes, you may feel that the work is truly poorly presented, and you cannot do as I do, and just move on to the next story or essay. You might do what I have done where I see some potential though; and you might send a private feedback message to the author with your comments; beginning with the good that is there, even if that is only a line about their bravery in putting their work into the public domain for general scrutiny. That is something positive. There are many more persons here, talented people who visit Literotica daily, but who are afraid to allow their voices to be heard, than there are people who have taken the risk of airing their deepest thoughts and darkest secret yearnings in their stories and poems; and so even if this is the only positive thing that you can find to say about their work, then you might want to start, and perhaps, if necessary, end with that as well. +Of course, after telling the person what (s)he has done well, one does need to deliver the bad news, but even here there might be some ground rules that would help the person. The first thing that I would recommend is that you be specific about what you want to see from the person to whom you are directing your remarks. I know that for me, the person who told me that I shifted point of view in my stories did more for me than the one who told me that my stories were rubbish. The man who praised the standard of my editing of my own work has caused me to re-read my stories just that one extra time before sending them off, since I don't want to disappoint him in the future. To be sure, I still get it wrong sometimes, but, again, because of this generous-minded person I have become a better writer. +The second thing that I would recommend is that you try to give a little of yourself in your comments. Again, the person who told me that my poem Birthday was ""gripping and disturbing but profound"" conveyed much in these few words, as did the person who told me that the ""cheating and blackmail was a real turn off. please (sic) keep the garbage out of the incest area"" for Soren and his Sisters. In truth, because of that second, more negative comment, I have tried to be more sensitive and respectful of the feelings of others in my writing, not only for incest stories that I write myself, but also for those that I have been asked to read and critique, and for all of the other areas of human sexuality to which I do not subscribe personally, and so do not have an intimate understanding of the emotions attached to these situations. As harsh as that was to hear, I have learned from it, and hopefully, if this person bothers to read my third ""incest and taboo"" entry in this year's Survivor Contest (s)he will be more satisfied. +Finally, it has been a suspicion of mine for some time, that some of the anonymous comments that I read are really from fellow authors here on Lit who feel that they don't want to say something to me lest I, or the other author to whom they have directed their remarks, take them in the wrong way. I can't speak for everyone, but one thing that I can say is that usually the more profound the comment, the more that I would like to get further clarification, or to discuss the technique change being recommended, with the commentator. Leaving no return Lit ID name or e-mail address on a comment in my contact box or leaving a vague, anonymous comment is frustrating if I really need just five minutes more of your time. So, I'd like to urge those of you who really are not members of Literotica to consider becoming members so that we can all have more access to each other's ideas. You have access to mine; I've written them down for you, but I need more access to you since there may be times when I need to know what you meant when you said whatever it is that you did. Certainly, for me it would be helpful, and so even if you don't do it for anyone else, if you're not sure how they will react, please let me understand what you want of me. Let me decide if I can lift my game to wherever it is that you want me to be. I'm not promising that I will be able to do so, but at least you will have given me a chance to become one of the greatest Jamaican writers of all times. ;) +In closing, I would like to remind us all that it takes little effort to sweeten the bitterest medicine with a spoon of sugar; and the effort is worth it since you are likely to be given a better reception if your aim in offering your comments is to help the person involved to do a better job next time. Of course, if your agenda is something else, like crushing that person's spirit, then you could probably continue doing what you're doing now; but don't be surprised if you continue to be ignored." +885,Viagra Falls,Badlands1,How To,2020-10-10,2020-10-10,2022-01-04 08:41:30,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/viagra-falls,Sex: the ultimate aphrodisiac.,"['Hugh Mungus', 'Humor', 'Satire', 'Swing Club', 'Swinger', 'Swingers']",1.77,"Fuck Viagra! You don't need it. Nobody does. You'd be better off taking a placebo, garnering some confidence, and heading into a sexual skirmish. +We're talkin' a drug here with numerous side effects, and only one benefit. With or without Vegas odds, that's a terrible return. Still, this shit must be sellin', since the corporation that produces it has the cash to run television commercials that play on credulous minds. +Viagra is more easy to figure out than a two piece puzzle. +Watch, or read, an advertisement for this little blue implement from Hell. Make note of which demographic is targeted. Males obviously, but which males in particular? +Married men. Specifically, betrothed, middle-aged men. One might conclude this equates to erectile dysfunction for this age group, but that's what the makers of Viagra want you to think. It means money in their pockets, when some 50 year old can't get it up once, fears he has a problem, and runs to Dr. Kevorkian for pharmaceutical salvation. +Look at this logically, though. Due to fucked-up societal pressure, most men 40, 50, and 60 are either married, or have been. Consequently, they're having sex with the same partner over, and over, and over. Hence, tedium. Hence, boredom. +I love certain books, but I can only read 'em so many times, before the anticipation is all but stripped from their plots. +It's the same with marriage. Hump one woman hundreds, thousands, or tens of thousands of times, and you're gonna lose interest. This is simple rationale most people don't stop to consider, when binding themselves by law, in a monogamous commitment. +Makers of Viagra, and analogous drugs, are aware married, middle-aged men — resultant of protracted periods of matrimony — will become bored. As such, these snake oil salesmen play on the weaknesses of this demographic, informing them they have an actual affliction. +Married? Been so for a while? Having a hard time obtaining an erection? +Go out, and have an affair. You'll be carvin' granite with your salacious sword, in the company of your supplemental sex slave. It's simple logic, but the last thing the fuckheads at Big Pharma want you to figure out. If men realized they didn't need this useless crap, Viagra wouldn't be in business. +I've watched countless guys pop the little-blue-pill-that-couldn't, only to still have difficulty getting it up. As a result, these bastards dive deeper into despair, over a dilemma that doesn't exist. +Consider this, as well. One of the side effects that accompanies consumption of Viagra is the potential for heart attacks. Ask yourself this question: ""Are you willing to risk having a coronary, in order to obtain a hard-on?"" If you replied, ""Yes,"" your problems are mental, not physical. +Society is headed down a path in which the majority of males will be dead — via heart failure — but their penises will be rock solid. +Dump Viagra. You don't need it. In addition, you'll seriously lessen your chance of having a coronary. +What follows are tips to assist in your quest for tumescence. +A) This isn't America's Got Talent, and you're not onstage. Trash terms like ""sexual performance."" You're forced to take tests, and constantly adhere to standards that cause undue torment. Fuck that! +These unnecessary evils suck the fun right out of existence. Don't allow them to permeate your last bastion of a good time: group sex. Be thrilled you're grabbin' bare tit! You've already won. Most folks are watching porn, while you're living it! +B) Partake of a myriad of women. By regularly rotating your inventory, it remains fresh and delicious. Doesn't that chocolate pie look scrumptious? It is, but now that you've tasted it, realize there's a bad-ass butterscotch pastry in the oven, and an amazing apple strudel cooling on the rack. Try 'em all! +C) Last time I had sex, I was alone and frightened. +Don't exhaust your ammo during solo sessions. Some of the best coitus I've experienced was when nobody was around. Even so, I can't remember one solitary showdown I've engaged in, but still recall the worst sex I've had with a woman in attendance. +Fingering your flute is pleasurable, but don't do it constantly. You'll end up with nothing left for adventures in the swinging arena. +D) This being said, there's no way you'll stop boppin' the bishop. Nobody does. Clergy do it — probably incessantly. Unless it's collecting pictures of Fred Savage's asshole, why stop doing something you enjoy? Should you find yourself whittling the wiener, use that experience as a training tool. +If you must whack it, do so for a long time. I never get in touch with myself, unless I plan on being there at least two hours. You can apply your own specifications, but this discipline not only enhances your orgasms, it also teaches your body it's fine to hump for extended interludes. +Hence, you'll be able to hook-up with more women. Don't be shocked, when you're bestowed the colloquialism ""Energizer Bunny,"" amongst repeat customers. +E) When fluffing Mr. Peepers, try not shooting your load. This insane society indoctrinates us to believe that — as a male — you're obligated to fire off your cannon, in order to be sexually satisfied. +Rather, stroke for hours, and simply store up that resultant energy. I do it all the time, and can literally go about my day, on 120 minutes of sleep. +Blue balls is an erroneous term, obviously conjured up by some dude attempting to coerce some chick into getting him off. +F) Da More I Drink, Demeanor I Get. Upon entrance to a libidinous location, some guys make it their life's goal to become Bud Light's best customer. The moniker ""Super Sexual Soldier"" isn't often found alongside the term alcohol abuse. Save the cocktailing for after the sex, so you don't find yourself as useless as voting. +— authored by Hugh Mungus" +886,Video Story,LitTV,How To,2016-12-31,2017-03-24,2022-01-04 08:41:31,25,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/video-story-lexis-first-lesbian- strapon,"1. Lexi shares memories of her first lesbian strapon experience. 2. Beautiful MILF wife Julia Ann shares her first swinger club experience. 3. Lotus meets a sexy Latina - then her hot Latino boyfriend. 4. Tinder hookup leads to first FFM threesome - and humor. 5. Stranded girl is rescued by passing mechanic, who she happily rewards. 6. Alexis tells how her first time went from great to mayhem. 7. Bisexual crush leads Asian dancer to Vegas with gal pal - & her hot Black boyfriend. 8. Blonde coed Jessa's flirting leads to her first blowjob. 9. Sophisticated sexy black woman tells about her first FFM sex. 10. She meets a musician, who shows her new kinks. 11. Violet Monroe tells about her first time with a girl. 12. She tells you about her first experience with rough sex. 13. A hot tub and her friend's cousin leads to mayhem. 14. Her FFM longings are finally fulfilled - and how! 15. Weekend of rock turns wild with strippers, ""party favors"", and more. 16. Husband wins board game bet, so wife Mary is now all his. 17. An argument, a party, and a friend's new truck. What could go wrong? 18. She shares the story of how a club meeting led to surprises. 19. Christmas shopping with a lesbian friend lead couple to fun. 20. Hear her tale of what it's like to film a porn scene for the first time. 21. Felicity Feline tells about attending her very first sex party. 22. Video Story: tattooed young brunette shows how she gives a deep blowjob. 23. Lexi Luna describes her first time in porn - with an enormously hung man. 24. She tells about what happens when her boyfriend & her have sex at school. 25. Cunnilingus advice from a beautiful bisexual.","['Blowjob How-To', 'Brunette', 'Deepthroat', 'Deepthroat Blowjob', 'Dildo', 'Oral Sex How-To', 'Sex Advice', 'Tattoo', 'Tattoos', 'Video']",3.82,"Literotica is happy to introduce LitTV - a place where community members can share sexy stories in video format. Please share your opinions and suggestions for the future of LitTV. +Want to share your sexy video story, erotic vlog, or hot how-to? It's easy and fun! [Click here](https://www.literotica.com/s/submit-a-video-story-to-littv) to get started. +\--- +In this video, busty Lexi tells how she and her hot girlfriend took their friendship to the next sexy level, playing with a strapon. +Enjoy Lexi's video story, and please let us know what you think in the comments! +[My First Lesbian Strapon by Lexi Luna](https://www.littv.com/videos/507/my- first-lesbian-strapon/) + +" +887,Virtual Lapdance,LesLumens,How To,2008-05-04,2008-05-04,2022-01-04 08:41:42,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/virtual-lapdance,Surviving and thriving in nudie chat.,"['Chat', 'Cyber Sex', 'Instructional']",4.48,"Welcome to Nudie Chat 101. Pull up a seat and take notes, because there _will_ be a test later, and it won't be me administering it. The virtual bouncers, the models, and the other chatters in the room are the ones who will stamp you with a pass or fail, and they're a tough crowd to please. +I'm going to assume that you have an interest in watching beautiful women (or gorgeous guys, as most of this applies for the opposite side of the coin as well) doing their best to drive you out of your mind with lust from across miles of internet wiring. I'm also hoping that I don't make an ass out of _U_ and _Me_ by assuming that you're looking for more than visual stimulation. If all you wanted was virtual nakedness or sex, you could get that from any pic or video site. +There are more business models for nudie chat than there are sexual positions, but I'm going to stick with the most common in this course — free teaser chats with more behind the curtain if you _pay to play_. There are variations on this theme as well, but the basics here should allow you to easily adjust. +Who the hell am I to be instructing you? I'm someone who's been there, from a lot of different angles. I started out as a chatter, hanging out in the room just like anyone else. After a while, I was tapped by the site management for a position as an admin — a virtual bouncer to remove problem chatters. That gave me the opportunity to talk to the models 'offstage' where they could relax, and the management of the chat site. I talked to one of those models a lot more than the others, and we ended up moving in together. I know first hand what those models are saying about you once they turn the cam off. +It doesn't necessarily make me an expert, but I do have insight from almost every perspective, so I believe I have something to offer. I'm the old man rocking on the porch. I may be a bit crotchety at times, but if you can get past my tales of walking ten miles through the snow to get to chat, there's some hard-won wisdom in the stories I have to tell you whippersnappers. + **(I.) Recon** +There are two things you'll want to do when you first step into the nudie chat world, and you can fortunately do them both at the same time. Just as there are umpteen business models for chats, there are just as many types of models. Your first quest is to find a model that you want to hang around with. +My first lesson is to keep your fingers away from the keyboard during this reconnaissance mission. Pay attention to who the models are talking to. Naturally, they'll be talking to known paying customers and people they think might become such, but that's not all. You'll learn who the regulars in the room are, and these are people you don't want to cross verbal swords with. If you take a stab at a regular, you'll find a dozen blades in your back before you can say, ""Oops!"" This is the quickest way to find your name blackballed across the site. +You should also pay attention to who these regulars and the model are shunning or telling to go away. Odds are that you'll discover why in short order, and those behaviors are the things you want to avoid. +I'm sure you'll find hotties within a couple of minutes of logging on to chat. Concentrating on eye candy is going to leave you bored and moving on in short order, though. Imagine a mad scientist crossing a telemarketer with a Barbie Doll and you have a perfect picture of these girls. Don't waste time in these rooms, because there are much greener pastures. Find a girl that's actually engaging in _conversation_ with the room. +You'll find every type of personality under the sun posing in front of the camera for your viewing pleasure. The key is finding one that has more going for her than a nice rack and a smoking caboose. The chatters in the room are a good indicator of whether you're going to click with the model or not. If you take a liking to someone else chatting in the room, then odds are that you share some interests with that person, as well as the model. +Once you've found a room or three where the conversation stimulates your brain and the model stimulates other, more interesting places, it's time to take off the camouflage and start chatting. + **(II.) My Name Is:** +Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die. +Sorry, couldn't resist. +You need a chat handle if you want anyone to notice you. Trying to respond to guest432 is a pain for everyone, and they're liable to ignore you rather than bother. +You need to come up with something that you'll be happy with for a long time to come, so give this decision some careful consideration. Naturally, you'll want to avoid any version of your real name that could possibly lead anyone to the real you. Beyond that, you want something that stands out and is original. It's helpful to come up with a name that can be shortened, because chat moves fast, and everyone wants to use the minimum amount of keystrokes necessary to get a message out. +If you don't want every chatter in the room and the model to snicker behind your back — or to you face — here are some things to avoid: 10in4U, HugeJohnson, MobyDick, TungMaster, BigDick, etc. I'm sure you get the picture. Touting your lovemaking skills or the size of Mr. Happy in your chat handle isn't going to impress anyone. Everyone knows that the internet adds inches and cup sizes to every measurement, and they're just as likely to call you _Inchworm_ if you choose _MonsterDong_ as your chat handle. +You also want to make sure that you don't encroach on a regular chatter's name. If someone named Darken is chatting on your chosen site regularly, avoid anything that begins with _Dark_. This goes back to the nickname for your nickname. When there are two Darks in the room, everyone gets confused. Just like _Highlander_ , there can be only one, and you're liable to spark a verbal battle to the death by filching someone else's handle. +First impressions are as important in chat as in real life, and your chat handle is one of your first impressions in nudie chat. Think long and hard before you put on that name tag and walk in the room. + **(III.) You're In My House** +In free chat, the model is the one in control of the room. She's there to drum up business for her private shows, and thus to entertain the room, but what she says goes. The model is working under several sets of rules, from the federal level on down to personal likes and dislikes. If you get into a battle of wills with the model, you _will_ lose. +Don't get wrapped up in conversations with other chatters and leave the model out of it. Everything going on in the room should be about her, in one way or another. Your job in free chat is to keep her awake and smiling. Your reward is the same. +Don't start chatting up some other woman in the room and having cyber-sex with her. First off, it's probably a guy. +(Pause for cringing) +Second, that's extremely rude to the model. It's her house, so don't be sneaking off into the corner to shag somebody else at the party. + **(IV.) Buyers Never Beg, And Beggars Never Buy** +One of the first things you'll probably see in chat is someone typing something like, ""shw me ur tits bb!"" +Don't do this. +Imagine you've just won the lottery and that you're trapped in a small room with every deadbeat relative, friend, or neighbor you waved at once in passing. That's how the model feels when dealing with a room full of people acting like this. +Let the model work the room at her own pace. If she's not showing off, she's probably not going to be around long. If you're patient and join in the chat, you'll probably see whatever you're tempted to beg for soon enough. The more people there are in the room screaming for T&A, the less likely she is to want to give those peeks. +The only time you should make a request is when the model is asking for requests. One single beg can offset hours of pleasant chatting in a model's mind. +Keep in mind that she has to save something for the private shows. If she's fully naked and close-up finger-banging in free chat, why would anyone bother to purchase private minutes? + **(V.) No Polishing The Sword In Free Chat** +Spanking the monkey, wrestling with cyclops — whatever you want to call it — is a no-no in free chat. No matter what other motivations the model has to be on cam, the money is certainly a factor. Most models aren't making any money unless they get a private show, so rubbing one out in free chat is more or less shoplifting — not to mention rude. +If you must, don't announce it to the chat. The rest of the room certainly doesn't want that image in their head, and the model isn't likely to be overjoyed about it, at best. + **(VI.) Tell Her About It** +It should go without saying, but compliment the model. What sort of compliments she likes may vary, but every model wants to know that you think they're beautiful/hot/sexy. There's a reason you're staring at that video and tingling in critical locations, so let her know. You don't want to go overboard with it, but you don't want to go without mentioning it either. +Some models will swoon when you wax poetic, while others are just as happy with, ""You have awesome tits!"" It's up to you to find out what makes her purr, and then stroke her. (Not _IT_ — see number five) + **(VII.) Charge!** +No, this has nothing to do with your credit card. If some rude person comes into chat and gets on the model's nerves, it's time for you to take to horse, grab your lance, and ride into battle. Don't wait for the rest of the room to suit up, get on that steed and skewer the miscreant as soon as possible. +Sometimes the villain may not realize that they're annoying the model. In this case, politely pointing it out may be enough to do the trick. Don't use a broadsword when a smack on the knuckles with a ruler will suffice. Unfortunately, this is the exception, rather than the rule. +When someone is purposely insulting the model or doggedly begging in an extremely rude manner, your job is to redirect their attention to you. Once they've forgotten about the model to hurl badly spelled insults at you, you've already won the battle. If you can't think of anything better, just tell them to go away. It's better to be creative and funny, if you have it in you. +""Did your mother feed you a steady diet of lead paint chips as a child?"" +""Help control the drooling moron population. Have your (Rude Person's Name) spayed or neutered."" +This is your opportunity to channel all those frustrations with idiots you encounter in the real world into something positive. Not only do you get to verbally smack around some stain on the underpants of society, but a beautiful half-naked woman just might swoon for you in the process. +As with everything else, gauge your response by what the model is comfortable with. She might end up laughing so hard that she has to run off cam to tinkle when you're verbally cutting someone to ribbons. Others would prefer you not go so far. Some may even want to rely on silent justice in the form of kicking the user from chat. +They all want to know that you think enough of them to feel annoyed by someone when they are. + **(VIII.) Rescue Rangers** +If you happen to have some spare cash lying around, the ultimate way to rescue a model from a hostile chatter or a hostile room is to take her private. Keep in mind that private minutes are expensive, and you can't let your chivalry get in the way of paying your bills. +Taking a model into a private show, even for as little as five minutes or less, has multiple advantages. First, whatever miscreants were in the room will almost all find somewhere else to go immediately. Second, the model is getting a paid break from the zoo that is free chat. Finally, the model is there to serve you in a private show. If you've been itching for a close-up or something special, now is the time to ask for it. +If you're only going to do a short _rescue show_ , let her know that from the beginning. Not only will she appreciate the break, but she also won't be surprised or disappointed by the short private show. + **(IX.) A Little Private Time** +If you decide to take the model into a private show, here are a few pointers to get the most out of those expensive minutes. +First and foremost, never let any variation of these words pass your lips. ""Show me (whatever) and I'll get a show."" Even if you're serious, no model is going to believe you. They hear that more times a day than you can count, and 99.9% of the people saying it are lying through their teeth. +You should be paying attention while you're chatting, and you'll learn a lot about what the model can/can't or will/won't do in a private show. People are constantly asking questions of that nature, and you can compile a list in your head within a short period of time. Every chat site has its own rules. Individual studios within those sites will have other rules. The model may have personal things she doesn't like to do. Laws and ordinances put other restrictions on what a model can do, even in a private connection. +If you have a special request and nobody else has asked the question, you should before you go private. Don't go crazy with this, because that will get on the model's nerves. Too many people sound as if they are interviewing the model for an unauthorized biography. +You can count on her being completely naked in a private show. You can count on close-ups, masturbation, etc. You may need to ask if you want to see anal, pantyhose, baby oil, or something of that nature. Make sure that they have what you want, and that they're willing. +Don't ask for outfit changes before the show starts. People do this all the time, and most don't ever go private. The model ends up changing out of what _she_ wanted to wear, and then the show never materializes. Unless you have a history of coming through with the private show, just don't request it. +Tell the model that you're about to take her private. She may take it with a grain of salt the first time, because she hears that all day, but if she's about to go on break or something, that gives her the opportunity to tell you. +Once you're in the show, be polite. Ask — don't demand. If your kink is power- play, then let her know that as soon as the show starts. If you just storm into a private show saying, ""Get those panties off and bend over, bitch,"" then she's not likely to react well. If you tell her in advance that you like that, she's probably going to play along. +The human body only bends in so many directions, so be reasonable with your requests. She's not Gumby, so using a vibrator in her pussy and ass in doggy- style position while licking her nipples where you can see it at the same time just isn't possible. The model also isn't a mind reader, so you may have to explain what it is you want to see if she doesn't get it right from the beginning. +Master one-handed typing, if necessary. If the site has some way for her to hear your voice, that's far better. You'll warm her up and get a better show by complimenting her and telling her how much you're enjoying the show than by giving a series of commands. If you turn the model on with your words, you'll get far more from the experience than if she's having to summon up motivation on her own. If she shares a kink with you, take advantage of it. +If you can, give her a few minutes to relax before your private minutes run out. Hopefully, she's languid from coming hard, and she'll appreciate the time to regain her composure. Give her a chance to get dressed again, or have a drink. Even a minute or so will earn you brownie points in both free chat and any follow-up shows. Just like in the real world, you should think of your cyber-partner before, during, and after the fun time. +Come back into free chat and talk about how good the show was once it's over. It's free advertising for the model. + **(X.) In Conclusion** +You don't have to be a big spender to be a welcome addition to the chat room. You don't ever have to spend a single thin dime. If you can crack a joke to make the model smile, or chase off annoying beggars, then you're contributing to the bottom line of the model and the site. A model that's not having a good time and smiling isn't going to attract private shows. Those long hours of posing half-naked on your bed can quickly grow boring without something interesting going on in chat. +You'll get the most out of your nudie chat time if you're part comedian, part Casanova, and part Knight in Shining Armor. Once you're into the model's inner circle, you all should feed off each other to have a good time. There's something special about a sexy half-dressed woman laughing at your jokes that you just can't get anywhere else. I've made lifelong friends in chat, the kind of people who will give you the shirt off their back when times get rough. +Be warned, it can be addicting. You do still need to show up at work, eat, shower, and all those other little things in the real world too. +Walk into chat with only one expectation — having a good time and seeing a sexy model on screen. If you're realistic, then your time in nudie chat can fill in those gaps of boredom that everyone experiences when the guys are trapped at home with Honey-Do lists and there's nothing on the tube. +Here endeth the lesson. Turn to page 69 in your hymnals and head for chat." +888,Visiting a Gloryhole,BuckyDuckman,How To,2014-07-29,2014-07-29,2022-01-04 08:41:43,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/visiting-a-gloryhole,Firsthand experience on what to expect visiting a gloryhole.,"['Blowjob', 'Firsthand Experience', 'Gloryhole', 'Guide', 'Sex Store', 'Video Preview Booth']",4.39,"Gloryholes. Are they real? How do I find one? What's it like to visit one? Is there an etiquette to follow? Are they safe? + **Are they real?** Yes! I've visited several of them. How many? I didn't keep count. Ten? Fifteen? I don't know. I've visited them from Philly to St. Louis to Florida and lots of places in between. Deploy the power of the internet to search around for one near you. There are several sites that will help. Or, look for sex shops that advertise ""Video Preview Booths"" and check for yourself. +Let's get the controversial part out of the way: **Are they safe?** Gloryholes are as safe (and unsafe) as any one-night-stand or most other anonymous hook- ups. Look, we all know the safest sex is either abstinence, masturbation or limiting yourself to one, well-tested, completely faithful partner. Setting that aside, oral sex among healthy adults is (relatively) very safe. It's even safer if you don't have any open cuts or sores in your mouth. Even safer if you take a look at the big dick you're about to put into your mouth and inspect it for sores or cuts. Safer still if you consider the typical clientele of most gloryholes: married, middled-aged white guys. Still, sex is never without risk and if you're a hypochondriac, have too much OCD or just a worry wart - then stay the fuck away, okay? +What about the dangers of sticking your dick into a hole in the wall? Dude (and you're definitely mostly a dude if you have a dick), if the other guy didn't want your dick, he wouldn't have ASKED for it, you know? We're not talking about sticking your dick inside a random hole out in the world. We're talking about sticking your dick inside the adjoining walls of two booths showing sex movies. + **Where do you find the booths?** The ones I've visited are about the same. Booths are typically found inside sex shops that sell X-rated DVDs and adult toys. Look for sex shops that advertise ""Video Preview Booths"" or ""Peep Shows."" Many require a purchase of tokens before you visit the booth area. There will be a sign. A few have an admission fee for heading in the booth area and you're expected to have a pocket of singles for the video machines. The clerk behind the counter ain't gonna judge you. Mumble that you want some tokens, hand them some money and you're on your way! Not all sex shops with preview booths have gloryholes! Some only have a few gloryholes tucked at one end or other of the row of booths. Do your research, it's why Google exists! + **What's it like in the booth area?** With few exceptions, most of the booth areas I've encountered are dark hallways with very poor lighting. There are usually several guys milling around in the booth area (more about that in a minute). I have visited a few where the booth area is as well lit as the store, but that's definitely the exception. + **What's with the guys hanging out in the hallway?** Who knows?! I don't ever get why some places seem to have lots of guys hanging out in the hallway. Some of these same places will have ""No loitering"" signs posted and STILL have guys hanging out in the hallway. Maybe they're waiting for a chick to visit a booth. Maybe they're hoping Prince Charming will visit. In general, though, most are waiting to see who goes into a booth with a gloryhole. Hey, if you have a chance to check out the person sucking your dick, wouldn't you take it? Maybe they're waiting for a black guy to go into a booth or a white guy or a pirate. +There's another way to visit the booth area that doesn't involve gloryholes. It's waiting for someone to invite you into their booth. You make a bit of eye contact with one of the guys, enter the booth near them, leave your door ajar and hope they follow you. If they don't, they aren't interested. If they do, well, start sucking! + **What are the booths like?** Most of them are small, very small. Think about it, it's a retail space and the more booths they can fit into a small space, the better the owner's chances at making some money! So, how small? I've been inside some that were no more than three or four feet wide and nearly as deep. Meaning, you have enough room to step inside the booth, turn around and close the door. Some have a bench built into the wall. Some will include a chair. Sometimes the chair inside looks like something the thrift store would reject. I've seen some with wastebaskets and towels available, too. Depending on the place, the booths might be exceptionally clean or really nasty and dirty. Peek inside a few booths. Take a look! If you don't like what you see, head somewhere else. +Otherwise, the booths will have a TV, typically behind a piece of glass or Plexiglass and a machine for your dollars or tokens. The doors typically have a lock and, unless you want unexpected company, lock your door. Above the door will be a light that signifies if the person inside is spending money or not. Maybe the light changes from green to red or just lights up. Remember, the owner of your local sex shop is there to make money. FEED THE MACHINE! Some places require their help to check for occupied booths where no one is spending money. + **How big are the gloryholes?** Usually, there's nothing more between the booths than a piece of plywood. I've seen gloryholes big enough for someone to climb through them (though only once in a real dive of a place). I've seen some that feature a door or panel, where you can decide if you want the gloryhole open or closed. Some holes are crude, as if other people spent hours digging away at the wall with their pen knife. Some have been professionally cut between the booths. I've seen them vary in size from about as big around as a fist to being the size of a dinner plate. A few have been too low for me (I'm rather tall). I've read complaints about some places where guys thought the holes were too tall for short guys. + **Okay, inside, the door is locked, a movie is playing, now what?** If you're a guy hoping to suck some dick, whip it out! I know, that seems counterintuitive. If you're there to suck dick, why do you need to pull out YOUR dick? Simple answer. The guy getting into the booth next to you will probably take a peek to see what you're doing. If they see you with your dick out, then they know you mean business. +Mostly, you get inside your booth, pay your money, find a channel you like (most booths have a channel selector) and wait for someone to get into the booth next to you. Remember those guys standing in the hallway? Most of them saw you go into a booth. If they're interested, they'll get into the booth next to you. If they're not interested, then fuck'em. Wait until someone else shows up. Maybe you'll spend twenty minutes sitting in there; ready, willing and able. Maybe you'll do nothing more than close the door and you'll have a buddy next door. + **How do I let the other guy know I want to suck his dick?** Stick a couple fingers into the hole and wiggling them around. Sometimes, a guy might try shoving his tongue through a hole, but seriously, just a couple fingers will do. If the other guy is interested, he'll get the point. + **What if I want to do more?** Dude, that's on you. I go to suck and be sucked. If you want it up the ass, then I hope you brought condoms and lube. + **He wants to suck me, too!** Maybe. Some guys do, some guys don't. Up to you, champ. Some guys enjoy getting half a blowjob and leaving. Don't ask me why. I've been told (multiple times) that I'm very accomplished sucking dick, but maybe my style doesn't please everyone, I don't know. + **I'm a chick, can I visit one?** Hell yes! Have I seen it? Yes, but not very often. However, it DOES happen. Expect the most of the guys to be shocked seeing a woman in the hallway. They'll be curious and I'm willing to bet, very nice to you, too. + **Who goes to gloryholes?** Mostly, middled aged guys and mostly white guys (though that can vary depending on where you are). + **When is the best time to go?** I've found that lunch time is a great time to go. Mid-afternoons can be good. Right after work is alright, too. Think about it, most of the guys are married and sneaking away for a bit of a thrill that no one is ever going to know about. Most of the day Saturday can be good, too. + **Anything else?** Yes, buck up and go! Check one out. See what's happening. Maybe you'll just look around and not do anything and that's okay. Maybe you'll find a new hobby and that's okay, too. Mostly, though, use your common sense and have fun!" +889,Want To Get Laid On Your Travels?,Munachi,How To,2006-06-02,2006-06-02,2022-01-04 08:41:44,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/want-to-get-laid-on-your-travels,A few tips for adventurous vacations.,"['Beach', 'Dorm', 'Exotic', 'Exotic Location', 'Exotic People', 'Hostel', 'Hotel', 'International', 'Travel']",4.4,"If you frequent popular travel message boards on the internet, you will notice questions like: ""Which country in South America has the most beautiful women?"" ""What do you think of Italian men?"" or ""How can I best meet local girls in Poland?"" From this fact, one could assume that for quite a few people the prospect of sex in a foreign country is part of their motivation to travel. +It might be the hope, that finding someone, is somehow easier far away from home, the prospect of sex in particularly romantic locations, the idea of exotic beauties that are waiting just for you... or just the idea of combining two things a lot of people enjoy: sex and travel. +Be careful! The rules for social interaction are different in different places, and you should be aware of how to behave in order not to offend anyone. And, on the other hand, just because you are far away from home, things don't magically happen without any effort. If at home, you have trouble getting to know guys or girls, it might be even more difficult abroad. I have met people who seemed to be travelling for the sole reason of getting laid – and they all ended up disappointed. Travel for the travel experience, and view anything else as a bonus. +The following are a few tips on how to help things along a bit, and what to keep in mind if you have sexual encounters on your travels. They are, of course, from my limited experience and from what other people have told me; thus, they are by no means complete, and I take no responsibilities if they should not work out for you. Also, since I am a student, my travel experiences have taken place in budget traveller and backpacking surroundings, so my text is directed mainly to other backpackers. +There are different people you could have sex with abroad. The first one would be: + **Option 1: Your Travel Partner** +This of course works best, if your travel partner is your significant other, or at least someone you already have sex with on a regular basis. If not your significant other, please keep in mind that you will most likely still keep travelling with them for a while. A night of passion between ""just friends"" can lead to some very awkward feelings afterwards. Now imagine this awkwardness with someone you still plan to share hotel rooms with for the next three days or five weeks or seven months. +A few weeks of backpacking together even without sex has destroyed quite a few friendships – in the case of me and a the girl who used to be one of my best friends, three days in Vienna with her mother were enough. Sometimes you don't know how annoying someone is, until you are in a place where you can't escape them. And on the other hand sex even without the background of having to sit next to each other on a ten hour bus ride right after can be quite destructive for a friendship at times. So, imagine a combination of these two aspects. +If, on the other hand, your travel partner is your partner also at home, chances are good that you will really get laid on your travels – I don't think I need to advice you on any special seducing techniques because it is quite likely, that you know your partner better than I do. +But where to have sex with your partner? +You probably can see it in front of your inner eye: A beautiful beach, the sound of the waves, the sun setting behind palm trees, no one there except for you and your lover, you can taste the salt from your swim in the ocean still on each other's lips as you melt into a kiss that makes you one with nature... +My one and only try of having sex at a beach was very different to this: The beach was quite near to the center of Barcelona and everything but lonely, despite it being the middle of the night. We had a few drinks, a swim (please don't copy this, swimming when you are drunk can be quite dangerous, even more so at night when you can't be seen), and then got comfortable on the sand. Or in the sand. Or the sand on us. And in us. In the end, the sand stuck everywhere, and we gave up, as people walked by about ten meters from us. If I ever try this again, I will not only look for a beach that is truely lonely, but I will also at least bring a blanket. +Should your travel destination lie in the mountains at an altitude of more than 3000 meters, please remember the Bolivian saying _camine lentito, come poquito... y duerme solito_ (walk slowly, eat little... and sleep by yourself). Physically exhausting activities on your first days at high altitude can lead to altitude sickness, and that can be the case for long sex sessions too. Altitude sickness is no fun. Fortunately, the body usually adapts quickly, and after two or three days you can do all the hiking and have all the sex you want. +If you can't even wait until arrival at your destination, you could try to become a member of the Mile High Club during the journey (that is, if you travel by airplane). The most common place, I am told, would be the airplane's toilet. I can't imagine them to be too comfortable or have a very erotic atmosphere. Also, the people queuing outside might not be very happy with your blocking of the hygienic facilities, but I heard there is a certain thrill to doing it in the air. +Otherwise, the more conventional option is in your hotel, pension or hostel. A lot of hostels have a few double rooms, otherwise a cheap hotel might be a good idea: people who have sex in dorms generally aren't popular with fellow travelers. Apart from that, I enjoy sex a lot more if I can be as loud as I want. Then again, some people _are_ as loud as I want to – in one hostel I once stayed at, another guest told me how she couldn't close an eye the past night, because an Italian couple in the dorm next to hers (not her own!) had such a loud and long sex session. Just think of how loud it must have been for the people in the same dorm! Interestingly, I had had sex with my boyfriend in our dorm the very same night, but the friend we were travelling with slept through it (or never complained to us, but he isn't the type not to say anything.) If you really can't afford more than two dorm beds (though in a lot of places double rooms in a run down hotel catering to locals are cheaper than hostels, whose guests are mainly foreigners), waiting until everyone left the rooms to do some sightseeing might be the nice thing to do. +One thing that might be good to know about, is your destination's attitude to public displays of affection. They might be less accepted than at home, and it is a good idea to not offend the locals by openly kissing and feeling each other up in the middle of the street. After all, travelling is also about cultural experience, not about imposing your own customs everywhere. Sex in public places gets you into trouble almost everywhere in the world when you get caught – and the definition of where sex or offensive behavior starts might vary. +In a few places, unmarried couples might have difficulties getting a room together, but in most of the world it should not be a problem. + **Advantages:** +If you absolutely must have sex on your travels to call it a successful vacation, then travelling with your partner might be the safest bet. If you have sex on a regular basis at home, why wouldn't you do so abroad as well? And travelling together could spice up your sex life. It could be a new motivation for those that are starting to lose interest, a time to focus on each other, and a way to escape the everyday stress of your lives. +Also, travelling in Two can turn out cheaper per person than travelling by yourself: You can get double rooms instead of singles, and the taxi or private guide you would pay full price for even when you are alone usually doesn't get more expensive when there are two of you. + **Disadvantages** +While this option means you will have sex in new locations, your sex partner will still be the same one as always. Which might not be what you meant by new experiences... Especially if you don't have a partner, travelling with one might not be possible. +Travelling together, especially when you are still a new couple and don't yet even live together, can be a strain on the relationship – I mentioned the difficulties of travelling with friends above, and the same can apply to couples that aren't used to seeing so much of each other yet. +On a backpacking journey you are very close to each other, very often and for a long time. You share rooms, sit next to each other on busses, go sightseeing together, etc. You just might realize that the person you believed to love so very much, has some very annoying habits. Chose well whom you travel with. This is also true for travelling with people you aren't sexually involved with – but in that case at least, you could decide to split ways and meet again at the end of the journey. If a couple does this, it might feel like a defeat that is difficult to cope with later on, and could be the end of your relationship. + **Option 2: Other Travelers** +As I said above, I am referring mainly to backpackers and budget travelers, thus I will speak about people who go to hostels or cheap hotels. For those that prefer more expensive accommodation, things might be different; I wouldn't know though, as I can't afford expensive hotels. +Of course you probably won't meet someone every night and in every hostel. And chances vary also according to where you are. I would suggest hostels rather than cheap hotels, and preferably dorm rooms, especially mixed dorms. You might not even have to venture very far to meet nice people then. Should you want the privacy of a single room (which admittedly has a lot of advantages if you succeed in meeting someone to have sex with) I would suggest a hostel or hotel with a good common area. +Smaller hostels seem best to me, not only for the sake of meeting guys/girls. One of my favorite hostels was a tiny place somewhere in Australia, not more than 20 people were staying there, and after about a day I knew everyone by name. Another one, in Seville in Spain, was not much bigger, and while it had no real dorms (four beds was the maximum) it had a beautiful, typically Andalusian patio full of plants and armchairs. Every day after sightseeing I would sit there for a while to relax and chat with the other guests as they returned from their own trips into the city centre. In the evening, we would sit there for a while, one of us playing guitar, and then part into little groups in which we went into various pubs and flamenco bars. Or one in Southern Chile that had a living room with an open fire place around which we would all gather to warm up from the hiking we had done during the day... you get the idea. You should have a chance to meet people. +This isn't to say no one ever made friends or had a one night stand or met the love of their life in a big, anonymous hostel. It's just a bit more difficult. Of course the hostel isn't the only place to meet fellow travelers. Cities that are popular with backpackers often have bars that cater mainly to foreign guests, and maybe you meet the right person on a guided tour or while you are sightseeing by yourself, or even while you are hiking. +The good thing about meeting people on your travels is that it is easier to start a conversation than it might be in a bar back home. There is always something to talk about: ""How long have you been here?"" ""Where are you going to next?"" ""Did you like this or that place, is it worth going there?"" and before you know it you are in the middle of a conversation. A few questions about the life back home can help you find out, if the person of your interest has a boyfriend/girlfriend back home. +The hostels, bars, tours on offer in different places aren't always ideal though. Obviously, in a popular travel destination there will be more travelers, more hostels, and more parties. In regions that only see a handful of tourists at a time hostels might be a scarcity. The thing about party places and tourist hot spots is, though, that everyone goes there. They often aren't exactly adventurous. If sex and parties are the main purpose of your travels they are great, but else they could get old quite quickly. For me variety works best. After a few weeks far away from everyone and everything I enjoy the party places. After a few days there, though, I want to flee them again. +Mostly, things work like they would at home – that also means keeping in mind that abroad a no is still a no, and that you should be sensitive about reading signs. Not every single traveler is just waiting for you to chat him/her up, but according to my experience, people are less shy and somewhat more open to no-strings sex while travelling. This might be due to the relaxed atmosphere in a hostel, the fact that most people want to have fun on their vacation, or maybe the knowledge of that you will all travel on into different directions the next day, and thus all actions seem to be without consequence. +In fact, though, there are consequences that exist abroad as well. So please be safe. If you are a girl, you probably don't want a baby from someone of whom you don't know much more than their first name and the fact that they are on a round the world tour. And if you are a guy, you don't want to have to wonder for the rest of your life whenever you see a child looking strangely like you. +Once I had an argument that lasted about 20 minutes with an Australian in a hotel room in Madrid, because I insisted on a condom, while he ""promised to have no STDs."" I should have left right away. Just because someone is a backpacker like you, doesn't mean they are safe from having STDs. It is likely that you are not the only person they have had sex with on their travels, and if they don't want to use a condom with you, it is very likely they have had sex without a condom with other strangers they met on their travels before. If you want to have sex while traveling, or see even the slightest possibility you might, then a pack of condoms belongs to your basic travel survival kit. Don't expect the other one to have them, unless you want to spend hours late at night in a strange town looking for an open pharmacy or a vending machine. If you buy them in the country, I would suggest to try to buy a well known brand – condoms are the wrong things to save money on. I could tell you several stories about the trouble I had with cheap no brand condoms from vending machines in Prague. Of course for the condoms in your backpack the usual precautions ascribe: Don't have them near any sharp objects, and if you travel in extreme climates avoid exposing them to heat or cold. + **Advantages** +Some of the advantages of getting it on with other travelers (versus locals, which I will talk about next) are obvious: In most cases you will have a language in common (usually English) and you will be from a somewhat similar cultural background, which helps in avoiding misunderstandings or very different ideas about morals. +Also, you both know you will take trains, busses or airplanes into different directions soon, and thus you know not to expect something beyond the moment. If you have been traveling for a while already, you probably have even gotten over exchanging email addresses with everyone you meet along the way. That helps not only avoiding complications with one person ending up to want more, but also in some cases makes the shock milder whenever the alcohol wears off and you realize who you are lying in bed next to. And you don't need to worry to run into them again each time you enter your local bar. Though I wouldn't be too sure, if they travel a similar route to yours they just might have the dorm bed next to yours in the next town. +On the other hand, I know people who have found the love of their life this way, and adapted their travel route in order to be able to spend more time together. + **Disadvantages** +As said above, I know people who have found the love of their life this way. However, this love of their life often did not live in the same country as them. And often did not have the same travel plans as them either. So after a few days they had to say good bye. And either that was it, or what followed was a long distance relationship – which in some cases lead to one of them finally moving to the other's country, but in other cases did not work out. +One of the most difficult problems is where to have sex. If both of you travel by themselves, you are very likely to both be staying in dorms – and I have already written about the difficulties of having sex in dorms. You could book a private room, but a lot of backpackers I met are chronically low on money. So, in the end, you might have to resort to the dorm or other places in the hostel after all. The hostels own policy to people having sex in their dorms can vary, btw. In a hostel I stayed at in Spain, they had separate dorms for men and women, and when they found me late at night in the boys' dorm (Where I wasn't doing anything but talking to one of the guys), I was told I had to leave the hostel the next day. In a hostel in Bucharest, on the other hand, I found signs on the walls, saying that they find it quite okay and normal if people have sex during their stay, but they ask them to please keep the noise down. Interestingly, I had sex in the first hostel – in the women's shower with the water running, which we hoped would keep the male night guard out – but not in the second one. +Also, of course, a fellow traveler might not be as exotic to you as the locals, if it's exoticness you are after. And you aren't that exotic to them, either. + **Locals** +To some, this might be the most interesting thing about sex abroad: The idea of people exotically beautiful men or women, who are all you miss at home, and who are waiting just for you to come visit their country. +Reality can be different, though. There you are, abroad, but somehow the only locals you get to talk to are your tourist guides and the guy at the hostel reception. Or you do meet more locals, but no one seems to speak English (I have met people that seemed honestly surprised at the fact that not everyone in the world does.) +Now, the easiest way to meet locals that are willing to have sex with you, would probably be professionals. That, however, might not what you are after – after all it takes the whole aspect of having conquered a foreign girl/guy out of it, and you could have saved the money for the flight and invested it back home. Also, I am somewhat torn on that issue: On one hand I am not by principle, against prostitution, on the other hand I see problems, when it comes to poor countries, especially countries with a reputation for sex tourism. Often the prostitutes are very young, and not voluntary in the situation they are in. Even if they are old enough the question remains whether they are working in that area only because they didn't have any other chance (and in that case I would prefer to do things that help the local economy and give more people the chance to do different kinds of work). If you anyway want to go to prostitutes on your travels, I can't advice you a lot because you very likely have more experience with them than me. +If you plan to hit on locals, it is a good idea to know a lot about the country's culture. In some places openly flirting with local women can be seen as very offensive and could get you in trouble. Or a woman, who indicates sexual interest in local men, could be seen as something she doesn't want to be called. And it isn't the local's job to adapt to the tourist's culture – it's the other way around. So please, know where you are and behave accordingly. +Misunderstandings can't always be avoided in a place, whose language you don't speak. I met a guy in a hostel in Bangkok, who told me that a few nights ago he had found a nice bar, full of beautiful Thai girls and visited mainly by foreign men. He had a fun evening there, though nothing further than a kiss with a girl happened. The next day he returned, this time with a friend. He ended up talking to one of the girls, who after a while stood close enough to him for him to feel something that made him realize she wasn't really a she. A bit surprised, he asked her, whether she was a ""lady boy"", as he put it. ""Of course,"" was the answer. ""We are all lady boys here. This is what this bar is about. Didn't you know?"" He hadn't known, and now turned around to his friend to tell him – but he saw him in a very deep kiss with another Thai beauty, and decided to just not tell him... +In some towns a lot of locals seem to hang out at popular tourist bars. When I lived in Prague there were some Czech girls that could always be found at the places most English-speaking ex-pats and tourists went to. The locals that visit mainly tourist bars are usually quite interested in meeting foreigners, so it is easy to get to know them. Their motives vary. Some are interested in getting to know people from a different country, since they might not have the opportunity to travel themselves, they might want to learn about different cultures this way. Or they might have been abroad and now want to keep in touch with the culture of the country they have been to by specifically seeking out people from there. Maybe they also want to practice their English. +In some cases it might be specifically about sex. In countries where they are seen as ""exotic"" due to their looks, some women might complain that it becomes annoying to be hit on constantly. Of course not everything we might interpret as a come-on in our country really is the same in another country. A friend of mine complained about how sleazy the men in Romania were. I was confused: While I had been whistled after and hit on there a few times, not always by someone I was interested in myself, I hadn't noticed anything that I would see as annoying. It is possible that she met different men than I did; or maybe I don't seem as interesting as her – though I don't want to think so. On my next travels to Romania I gave some attention to the issue, and realized that I did get a lot of compliments that could be seen as flirty, especially from older men – but I had just put it down to being a different behaviour due to a different culture. In Germany, where I am from, people tend to be quite distant, and it can be rude to say certain things to someone you barely know – these same things elsewhere can be part of normal social interaction. It works both ways of course, so once again, you should know at least some things about local customs when abroad in order to not appear too forward or too reserved. +Still, I must admit there are places, where the constant whistles a woman travelling by herself can get, start to be annoying. For such cases, a few phrases in the local language might help to get rid of unwanted attention, though sometimes it is preferable to not say anything, but rather just ignore them. Of course, the usual precautions apply not only for women, and not only for those that look like obvious foreigners: Don't be too trusting of people you just met, and don't walk around alone at night in lonely or dodgy areas. +Unfortunately, sometimes the motives of locals hanging out in the typical tourist bars might not be what you want, though: In Peru these people are often referred to as ""Bridgeros"" from the English word ""bridge"" – they are trying to build themselves a bridge into your wallet or into your country. This doesn't mean you should be suspicious of everyone. You should just be aware of this fact and have an eye on your belongings (and on your drink!) when with people you don't know well – this is true in fact also for when you are with fellow travelers. +In general, I find the topic of ""Bridgeros"" to be quite a mine field. There are people, who will pretend to be in love, in order to get married abroad. Is that bad? A friend of my family brought home a girl from his travels, he was happy to finally have found love, and half a year later she was gone: with a different guy she met here. However, this happens all the time, also when someone didn't follow someone else to their country. Often there are true feelings, though the passport you carry might help them. In such a case, is it bad? And of course, far from everybody dreams to move to your country. Suspecting these motives whenever a vacation flirt becomes more serious would do a lot of people injustice. If, however, a vacation flirt is all you are after, it is good to make it clear. +Typical tourist hang-outs aren't the only places to meet locals, though. Just be aware that the more you move out of the zone where there are more foreigners than inhabitants of the country you are in, the more you are on their ground and should behave according to their rules. That can be part of the cultural experience. Some of the greatest events of my travels where when local friends took me along to parties – I had a chance to see the local culture from up close, and on some occasions met a lot of people who had never spoken to a foreigner before, and thus had genuine interest in speaking to me. + **Advantages** +Having a one night stand, a holiday flirt, or a long term relationship with someone from a different culture can be an interesting experience that could help you see your own culture in a different light as well. It is, somehow, something special, at least to me. I must admit I am a bit of a rare case in that I have been with more people that were _not_ from my country than with those that were – though I met not all of them while travelling. Somehow, there is a special kick to having sex with someone ""exotic"" (though one should be careful with that term, maybe, after all exotic is a very vague concept). +You, in turn, can also be ""exotic"" to the people you meet on your travels – and that could make them more interested in you. At home you might look like everyone else (of course everyone looks different, but you know what I mean), but just what makes you so normal at home could be seen as different and sexy abroad. Of course this doesn't mean going abroad will make everyone drool over you, but being a foreigner can give you some extra points, though this varies a lot depending on the country you are in and on whom you talk to. +If you are at your travel destination for a longer time, chances are the girl or guy you met there will be there during that time too – unlike another tourist, who might leave a lot earlier than you to go home or travel on. + **Disadvantages** +Even so, there will come a time when you have to say good bye. If all you wanted was a one night stand, this will be no problem. If, however, your adventure became something deeper, this might be very painful. Having stayed in various countries for extended amounts of time, I had to go through this process more than once, and more than once I was tempted to let everything be and just stay. I never did, though instead I cried the whole flight and then some more on the lonely evenings in Germany, where it always seems to be cold and rainy anyway... +The danger of misunderstandings due to different cultural background is of course higher. And maybe you don't even speak the same language. So maybe you are very sure you made it clear you don't want more than a fling – but has the other one really understood? The rules around dating and sex-etiquette can vary even within the same country depending on your circle of friends, or from city to countryside, or from more to less conservative background. That's even truer when it comes to other countries. + **Conclusions** +Combining sex and travel is fun. You are on vacation, you want to have a great time, so why not. However, don't set your mind onto that you must have sex on your vacation. Don't plan your travels around it – if it doesn't work out you might be quite disappointed. Instead, just have fun. +Now, you might ask, but where are the most beautiful women? And where are the best looking men? +You can probably already guess my answer – nowhere and everywhere. I am not a big fan of this question, because it is bound to stir feelings of national pride (yes, quite a few countries pride themselves with having the ""most beautiful women""), jealousy, and rejection... +In the end, beauty is a matter of taste, and if you are into blondes you might prefer Swedish women or men to those from Brazil, but someone else might be of a completely different opinion. And in the end each of them might find the most beautiful person in the world in the country they least expected them in." +890,Want to PM That Litster Lady?,RedHairedandFriendly,How To,2012-02-04,2012-02-04,2022-01-04 08:41:46,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/want-to-pm-that-litster-lady,Suggestions on how to get a more positive response from a PM.,"['Cyber', 'Cybering', 'Dating', 'Forums', 'Messaging', 'Private', 'Texting']",4.52,"Please read the following disclaimer: +This is only my opinion. +This is not a 100% sure thing and I cannot, nor do I guarantee success. +This is not going to cover every type of woman. +This is meant to be helpful, but it may not help at all. +This is advice that could work for both genders. +Once you are able to accept this, feel free to continue reading. If you can't and you think you're about to read the magic carpet book of how to fuck a Lady Litster, you are so wrong. +I've posted on the bulletin boards of Lit., since around May 2005, a month after joining the site. The bulletin boards, for those that aren't familiar with them, are similar to a mega-store or even a mega mall. You walk in and you are bombarded with various sites and tantalizing treats that make your heart race and your breath catch. +The beginning of this How To can be seen as a course for newbies; if you already know how to navigate the forums, you don't need the first few paragraphs and you can feel superior while reading them. +First, let's point something out. If you are not a registered member, you don't need this How To, because it will only work if you have an account with the site. It's free, so hop to it! The second thing, a PM is a Private Message between you and whomever you are communicating with. +The bulletin boards, upon first entry may blow your mind, so before posting take a minute to peruse the forums. There are several tabs at the top of the screen. If you aren't already there, click the ""HOME"" tab and you'll see a list entitled ""Main Literotica Forums"". Under that you'll find several forum titles, choose one that interests you and click on it. +For this submission, we'll click on ""Literotica Personals"". This link will slide you into one of the more popular places that women frequent. There are three sub-forums: The Playground, GLBT Personals, and the BDSM Personals. There will also be a list of thread titles available in the Literotica Personals forum. +Since, I am more familiar and comfortable in the forum titled ""The Playground,"" we'll be using that one for this little read. After clicking the sub-forum of said title, you'll be shown a new heading: Threads in Forum: The Playground. +This is where you can usually find me, if you're looking for me. But this isn't about me. It's about you and helping YOU become more comfortable about PMing women you don't know. +Pick a title that draws your interest and slip into it. Today I've chosen: Word Association for the Dirty Mind. I click it and see that the rules (found in the first post) explain that the poster is to read the last post and reply with the first dirty/naughty word that they can think of in response to the last one given. It sounds simple enough, so I post. +Eventually the post is answered, and I post again, over and over the game is played. In time, though I decide to go to another thread that has a catchy title. When I have done this enough times, someone may find themselves drawn to my posts, and they decide to send me a Private Message. +You would think that my heart would do a somersault and I would be excited and nervous about receiving a message from someone I don't know. Is it a friend? An admirer? Another author? Who is it? The mystery however is short lived, since the PM message you get telling you about the PM has the sender's name on it. +Let's pretend I don't know the Lister and the name is unfamiliar to me. +Do I get excited? Aroused? Curious? +No. +I cringe. +I cringe because I receive many messages from various women and men on Lit.'s bulletin boards who are seeking only an opportunity to get into my cyber panties. These messages often come from individuals who have not posted on the boards, and show no desire to. They are also poorly constructed and often lack depth. +Some of the worst are the ones that make my eyes hurt from the strain of trying to read what exactly they are trying to say. Other messages come with links, or images of the senders' genitalia. I, like many posters on Lit., find these types of messages to be the most rude and crass of all messages. So before you hit that send button, make sure that you know the person you're sending it to wants to see those types of things. If you don't, you're likely going to leave empty-handed. +You should take the time to either post in a particular thread with the person you're interested in or you should lurk on the threads and find something they post that honestly draws your interest. Lurking on the thread is when you just sit at your computer and read various posts; you rarely if ever make a contribution to the forum at all. Lurking is not a smart way to get a PM answered. +With that said, you need to avoid post stalking -- another form of harassing a Litster. Post stalking involves posting after the particular lady of interest in every thread, all the time. It makes the Litster uncomfortable and you need to avoid following them. +When you PM someone, form complete and coherent sentences that make the woman feel she's more valuable to you than just a cyber fuck. You have to imagine Lit., as a high class bar and go in knowing that there is a woman in there that will take notice of you, if you show her respect. Don't assume because she's on an adult web site, that encourages writing and amateur pictures, that she's looking for a cyber lover. +Also, I don't care if you are PMing from your phone. I don't care if you don't have a full size, slide out keypad on your cell -- DO NOT send women a PM with text talk as your come on line! ""R U Hot 4 Me?"" Really, is that sexy? I don't think so. +If you know how to read this, you probably know how to form a complete sentence and/or thought. If not, you're going to do really poorly in the PMing Red and her friends department. +You've got the lady's interest by sharing with her what drew you to her. She's responded and has done so in a manner that doesn't read: ""Oh thank-you. Now fuck me, baby."" Instead she's simply thanked you for your kind words. +The simple thank-you response is a hard line to walk. Did she respond in a way that closes the conversation? Or did she respond in a way that leads you to send her another PM? +You don't know! That is the mystery of the PM game! +With trepidation you send her a message saying she's welcomed, and that you had also seen she had posted on xxx thread and you found her comment interesting. She may message you back, sharing why she wrote what she did, she may not. If you don't hear from her -- LEAVE HER ALONE! This is the virtual scene where the woman grabs her drink off the bar and walks away. You've not been invited to follow her, so don't. +This also means that you do not go back to the thread she was in and begin to bad mouth her or harass her, just because she didn't show you the interest you thought you were entitled to. Accept that she doesn't want to engage in friendly banter or sexual innuendo. Just be her friend on the board, and nothing else. A cyber fuck is a dime a dozen, a friend is a rare find. +If you're lucky, you refresh your page and she's answered you back! Your pulse is racing and your palms begin to sweat. The interest just may be mutual. So once again you must craft your words wisely. +Share with her something about yourself, don't lie. I know it's tempting, this is the internet and there is a sense of security that comes with it. You shouldn't lie in a high class bar, so why lie at Lit.? +The PM is sent and answered again! You're on cloud nine! +Take a moment to step away from the bar and look at the lady. Don't quickly PM her back and give her a list of your sexual fantasies or demand that she be subservient to your Dominate nature. Don't tell her to call you Daddy and DO NOT assign her a pet name without her permission! I advise you against sharing that you want her to spank you and make you call her Mistress. Rein the boys in and act like an adult, not like a virgin in a sex shop. +After conversing with the lady and discovering that you both have a lot in common, you may find yourself jealous over her posting with other men. You need to accept that this is going to happen. A woman loves attention and flirting online is a way to get it 24/7 and yes, some women are 24 hour flirts. It's who they are, and honestly what probably attracted you to her in the first place. So before you start thinking you've marked your territory with your PM pal, you need to find out if you are her only PM buddy. +Don't be surprised if she says no. There are no rules in PMing one person and one person only. +That is called exclusivity and that is something that must be discussed and agreed upon by both Litsters. If you don't clarify that is what you're looking for, then you have no rights what-so-ever in expecting her to give it to you. +So don't pound your chest and proclaim to all that she's your woman unless she gives you permission to do so. Another good thing to keep in mind is that she may ask the same of you. She may want you to be her one-and-only. Being a cyberslut can be a turn off to both genders. +Some of you may be thinking this is a lot of bullshit. The women of Literotica are only here for fast fucks and quick cums. They don't have substance, style or class. They just want to get off, as quickly as a man does. You'd be wrong. Most all the ladies that post on the boards are there for one reason and one reason only -- to talk to people. +The women you'll meet on the forums come from all walks of life, and all different backgrounds. Some are married, dating, or single. Others are looking for love, while others are just looking to pass the time. They are all educated women whether their education comes from the highest colleges in the land, or the school of hard knocks. Don't underestimate the intelligence level of these ladies. +A quick list of what was covered above and few things I may have not put into detail, but is good advice: + 1. Post or lurk and learn about the woman you're interested in (note I said woman -- not women) -- including reviewing her profile. + 2. Do not send out a mass PM to dozens of Lit. ladies (make the one feel special). + 3. Write in complete sentences, even if it means taking the time to form them on your phone. + 4. If she doesn't answer, do not bother her again. If she does, tread carefully. + 5. Engage in a friendly conversation and don't try to play inside her cyber panties without her ok. + 6. If things become intimate and you want exclusivity, you both must agree to it. + 7. Do not underestimate the intelligence of a Lady Litster. +For further help in how NOT to pick up women on Lit., please visit this thread: Your Best or Worst PM/IM Opening Lines... +Good luck! +~ Red +_Thanks to BradBigBrain for helping me with editing, suggestions on content, and formatting.Also, a big thank-you to the Ladies of Literotica, who read through my initial idea and offered insight from their own experiences with random PMs._" +891,We Finally Did IT!!,Johnsexlife,How To,2011-07-03,2011-07-03,2022-01-04 08:41:47,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/we-finally-did-it,First Swing and More.,"['Oral Sex', 'Pussy Eating', 'Swinging', 'Tripple Penetration']",3.73,"My wife of 7 years and I do a lot of fantasying during and before sex and we both get really turned on by Literotica stories especially if she thinks they are real. +A typical lovemaking session starts off with her reading Literotica stories to me while she strokes my erection with KY jelly. As she gets into the story she slips a vibrator into her pussy and as the story gets hotter she will climax several times. As the story ends she sucks my penis while inserting the vibrator into her pussy. She says if she lies on her stomach while sucking me the vibrator moves in and out of her until she has a mega orgasm which makes me immediately fill her mouth with tons of cum. +I have had a sheltered sex life but Chrissie has had a wild sex life since she was very young. I have convinced to tell me about all of the encounters she has had including 3 rapes, foursomes, threesomes, etc with well over 100 different men over the years. Needless to say I become very excited and tell her how I would love to see her getting screwed by several men. She keeps saying maybe someday but we both chicken out. +Chrissie often tells me the things she has done sexually are child's play compared to what her best friend Pam has done. When I ask her she says she can't get into the details but hints Pam and her husband Ryan may do a little discreet swinging. +The thought of us swinging with them really turns me on and knowing them I would bet that is all it would be sex for sex sake with no emotional repercussions after. +Finally after thinking about this for years I worked out a plan to make it happen and knew one is started rolling Chrissie would soon get into it with a passion. +One day I finally got the nerve to bring the subject up with Pam. I knew she had some unfulfilled sexual feeling about Chrissie and she might agree. +When I told Pam about the plan she seemed a little hesitant but soon got excited about the idea. +Because Chrissie was once into drugs and alcohol many, many years ago and often could not recall all the details of her younger sexual exploits because she was high we figured getting her high would do the trick. +The plan went well as we arrived at Pam's for the evening and she took out so strong pot. Chrissie wanted me to try it as I had never done it before. I said I would if she joined me, Pam, Ryan and Ryan's brother. Well we smoke up a storm and Chrissie was obviously high but maybe not high enough. Ryan's brother had some coke with him and Chrissie snorted a few lines. Wow she was flying. +She was seated on the couch between Ryan and his brother and in no time at all the three of them were kissing and groping each other as Pam and I watched. +Soon Ryan's hand was up Chrissie's shirt and he was massaging her clit as Ryan's brother had his hand in her blouse rubbing her large breasts. After about 15 minutes Chrissie had lost her panties, blouse and bra and was stroking Ryan's and his brothers' dicks as they rubbed her breasts and figure fucked her to her first orgasm of the evening. +Not to be left out I too had Pam naked and was sucking her cunt as she blew me in the classic 69 position. I quickly came in her mouth and she then went to eat Chrissie's cunt as Chrissie had Brian's cock in her mouth and his brother's cock in her hand. +I could never make Chrissie come orally and she said no man had ever made her come but Pam had her coming over and over again gently licking her clit while slowly fucking her with a realistic dildo that was at least 9 inches long. Meanwhile Brian offered his cock to Chrissie and she gladly started sucking & stoking it. You see sucking cock is her favorite thing to do and she secretly always wanted to suck Brian off. Chrissie was soon massaging Brian's ball and shaft until he just exploded into her mouth. Chrissie loved it and sucked him for another 5 minutes to get it all. As soon as Brian pulled out of her mouth his brother replaced him and he too soon pulled out and came all over her beautiful breasts. Within seconds Brian and Pam were liking the cum from Chrissie's breast as Brian's brother finger fucked her to another orgasm. +God I never had been so hard in my life. I quickly buried my cock into Pam and fucked her until we both came. Meanwhile Chrissie was being fucked by Brian from behind as she blew his brother for a second time. Chrissie was loving it and kept telling Brian to fuck her deeper and faster. You could see Chrissie's cunt juice pouring down her thighs. Like the grand finale at the Fourth of July fireworks display all five of us seemed to orgasm at the same time. +The party was not over yet as the four of us would take Chrissie on at the same time. Ryan's brother had Chrissie lower herself on his erection as Brian slid his cock into Chrissie ass. I got down between Chrissie and Ryan's brother to lick both her cunt and Ryan's brother's balls as Pam straddled Chrissie face to let her eat my come out of Pam's cunt. +We stayed the night and she sex was nonstop. +At breakfast the next morning Pam & Brian told us they were regular swingers belonging to a group of 12 professional couples whom are tested for STDS weekly and would like us to join them as regulars that evening. I got an immediate erection hoping that Chrissie would agree even though the pot and coke had worn off. She glanced over at my erection smiled and said absolutely YES. +That night the four of us drove to a large home on a nearby lake to meet the group. As advertised they were all professionals and pillars of the community. +Mary the hostess explained the rules to us and we agreed. She said they had a tradition that the female member of the new couple would have sex with all of the men there as the others cheered on but this was strictly voluntary and not mandatory. +Chrissies eyes light up as she quickly glanced at the twelve men ranging in age from late 20's to late 50's whom were all sporting obvious erections. She quickly disrobed and said "" What are you waiting for take me"" I almost came in my pants. +The group led Chrissie to ""the playroom"" which was covered my 8 king-size mattresses. The host a famous local attorney was the first to enter Chrissies pussy and slowly entered her with the largest cock I had ever seen at least 12 inches as a local surgeon entered her mouth. Chrissie was really into it and she soon not only had a cock in her mouth & cunt but also her ass and one in each hand. In less than 45 minutes she had fucked, sucked or jerked off all 12 men. Cum was oozing from her ass, mouth & cunt. Her breasts, face and stomach were drenched in sticky cum. +As the men finished with Chrissie the women now all naked joined Chrissie on the mattress licking every drop of cum off her entire body. As they kissed her, licked her cunt, breast, face and stomach. Chrissie then had a shattering orgasm which lasted all of ten minutes. +Needless to say we are now regular club members." +892,Weapons of Mass Seduction,herecomestherain,How To,2003-11-19,2003-11-19,2022-01-04 08:41:48,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/weapons-of-mass-seduction,Wear something sexy and encourage your lover to undress you.,"['Beautiful Desirable', 'Dress Makes', 'Erotic Tension', 'Love', 'Lover Feel', 'Sexy Lingerie', 'Taking Time', 'Undressed Slowly']",4.58,"""The prettiest dresses are worn to be taken off"" Jean Cocteau +There's no doubt about it. Playfulness and a sense of adventure in the bedroom are very attractive traits. Dressing up in sexy lingerie and bedroom wear is an opportunity for a woman to be playful, to feel very beautiful, to explore the power of desire and of being desired. It's a chance to play dress ups, to become the boudoir mistress, the siren or the virginal bride. +Wearing something glamorous and sexy everyday boosts your self esteem and helps you to get in the mood for a hot evening ahead. It doesn't need to be big budget. In the right hands a garment as simple and innocent as a white slip can be transformed into a weapon of mass seduction. Think Elizabeth Taylor in her sizzling performance as Maggie in the 1958 film Cat On A Hot Tin Roof. +Go out to dinner or to the movies wearing gorgeous stockings, no panties, and you'll be reminded of your near nakedness every time you sit down…This secret knowledge is a powerful aphrodisiac. It's great for building anticipation, awareness of your body, driving your lover wild and just plain turning yourself on. +Experiment with the kinds of fabrics you wear. In talking with women friends, I'm surprised how specific and varied preferences and tastes are when it comes to sexy bedroom wear. Some folks love soft, slippery, shiny satin. Lots of men love the wispy see through effect of sheer fabrics. Anything in tight, clingy fabric does it for others, and a combination of all of the above seems pretty popular too. +Sexy garments are not only a treat for the viewer. Wearing sensuous fabrics is a real pleasure for the wearer. Soft plush velvet feels so beautiful and lace with its tantalising glimpses of what lies below can make a woman feel and look just gorgeous. Slinky micro fibre garments tease the bare skin, like being caressed by soft hands. Silk has a luxurious skin like quality and the wonderful ability to capture a woman's special scent like no other cloth. +The gorgeous thing about sexy lingerie and bedroom wear is that you don’t need to be model thin to look sensational. You do need to enjoy what you're wearing and feel comfortable. Nothing surpasses the sexiness of a self confident woman who is literally comfortable in her own skin. Feeling beautiful, desirable and sexy in your own head actually makes you beautiful, desirable and sexy. +If you are on the curvy side like me there is a great opportunity to play it up. One of my favourite outfits is a very simple A- line lacy short chemise style slip that works like a dream every time! Check out some of the websites of lingerie suppliers who cater for larger sizes. These women look amazing, all rounded and curvy, making the most of their great assets. Cleavage can be hard to resist! Maybe you love your legs, your shoulders or breasts, find ways to show off, emphasise and enjoy your best bits. +Taking the time to dress up makes your lover feel great because you've made an effort especially for them. Gentlemen remember to compliment your lover when she's gone to the effort to dress up. Be specific about what you love about her. Compliment her, not just the clothing. ""You look so hot in that…"" +A quick word on practicalities. I absolutely love gorgeous stay up stockings. Girls if you can, buy the ones at about 20 denier as they'll withstand a little rough and tumble, last longer and look and feel just as fabulous as the super sheer 10 denier that won't survive the touch of one calloused hand. Gentlemen we love the big strong hands but they can be lethal on fine hosiery, please keep your nails trimmed. +And finally to the fun bit…the undressing part… +Dr Jack Morin in his wonderful book, The Erotic Mind says ""Clothing acts as a concealment, cloaking the treasures underneath…Passions sometimes demand that clothes be unceremoniously ripped out of the way. For many people, however, the transition from fully clothed to completely naked (or semi naked) is much more exciting when it is slow and deliberate."" Listen up ladies and gentlemen because Dr Jack knows what he's talking about. +Many people, especially women like to be undressed slowly. Very, very slowly. It is both very erotic and tantalizing. It also sort of suggests that you are valued and worth taking time over. Savour and enjoy each moment. +Slowness and restraint can be incredibly erotic. One of the sexiest and most memorable film scenes I've ever seen is in Jane Campion's 1993 film, The Piano. Campion builds scenes where the erotic tension is excruciating. Who can forget the spellbinding moment when Harvey Keitel puts just his one of his fingers on the leg flesh showing through the small hole in Holly Hunter's thick black stocking? Or when he kisses her neck above the very modest collar of her dress as she plays the piano for him? +In other movies in historical settings, heavily dressed woman are sent into a swoon when their amorous admirers peel back a glove to kiss the soft silky skin on the inside of their wrist, very intimate and deliberate. In glove wearing times a simple ""naked"" handshake was a risqué thrill. Remember that sometimes little, subtle gestures can be very moving and erotic. +Just to restate important information for lovers of women…most women love to be slowly undressed or partially undressed, slowly being the key here. The key points; + ***** Great seduction is about building anticipation and erotic tension. + ***** Women enjoy being kissed through fabric, flesh being revealed by degrees, kissed as it is revealed. + ***** Touch over fabric then under, kiss and touch along the lines of where clothing meets flesh instead of diving right in. + ***** Don't be in a hurry to take it all off, leave something on for that delicious semi dressed, more naked than naked feeling… + ***** Lift a hem line slowly to reveal a smooth thigh just waiting to be stroked. + ***** Play with shoulder straps, is there anything more gorgeous than having a lover shift a shoulder strap to one side just to place a little kiss on the flesh under? +The next time you're with your lady love, spend a little more time in this highly sensitive but sometimes neglected area. + ***** Kiss along the tops of a shoulder, along collar bones, around the nape of the neck. + ***** Gently nip at that spot where shoulder meets neck, this is heavenly seduction at its best. + ***** Slowly peel away a sleeve to reveal a smooth rounded shoulder, lavish some love here. +This is a very beautiful and erotic way to make your lover feel cherished and desired. Trust me you will be repaid, your efforts will be rewarded! +As the seduction proceeds…""Soon she won't object to fingers that stray under her skirt-hem and linger at her lightly knotted waistband; when her eyes are dreamy and her breathing's harsh send the servants away"" Mallyana Vatsyayana (2nd century) The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana; 2nd century) +Don't let the world tell you that's its just men who are the ""visual"" sex, one of the sexiest sights in our bedroom is the view I get kneeling up facing my lover, looking down to see his hand disappearing between my knees, under my slip... there is something very forbidden and downright naughty about having a hand up your dress. It makes me feel very womanly, wanton and desirable. I love it! +Taking license with one of my favourite quotes…remember that ""women take longer to undress because they need to slow down for the curves."" Slow down and have fun negotiating those dangerous curves! + _Please leave feedback, I'd love to hear about your experiences and what you think of this article._" +893,The Weekend,AnnHara,How To,2015-10-25,2015-10-25,2022-01-04 08:40:36,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/the-weekend-35,Ann enjoys a wild weekend of solo sex.,"['Creative', 'Masturbation', 'Vibrators']",3.74,"Ann smiled coyly and responded with a warm, ""Wonderful thanks. And how was your weekend?"" when her coworkers asked how her weekend was. She yearned to share the details but knew that would blow the minds of her staid coworkers. They would never be able to imagine what a literally wonderful ""fucking"" weekend it had been. Ann had taken the entire weekend and spent it on herself. From the moment, she got home Friday until she left for work on Monday, She focused on solely on herself and her pleasure. +First thing Ann did was pull all the curtains and strip off her clothes. She had made a sexual to do list that she perused for the most tempting options. She turned on the play list that she had made with songs specifically for masturbation. Then, she got down to business. +Her list had activities for every room. Ann chose to start in the bedroom. She had read earlier about bondage and masturbation. The thought intrigued her. She had fantasized about being bound and at the mercy of a lover, but had never tried it. Carefully, she bound one leg to right bedpost and the other to the left bedpost making sure the knots were tight. She felt exposed, but in a good way. Forced into a spread eagle position, she began to have fun. She started with her fingers paying special attention to her clitoris, rubbing it to and fro. She began to feel the blood rush to her organs. Quickly, She switched to the massager She had purchased earlier in the day. Starting with the low setting, Ann moved the massager slowly up and down and across her vulva. She began to grow increasingly warm and her pelvis began to tighten. She switched the massager to high and held it directly over her clitoris. Bam! It hit. She felt her thighs try to tighten against the massager, but they were held open. Her body began to jerk. Her ankles hurt as she tried to close in to no avail. She felt herself shaking as she came. Ann moaned in intense pleasure. This was going to be a very, very good weekend. +Next, Ann moved to the living room, where she began to engage in more traditional pursuits. Laying a towel out to protect the couch. She laid down and began to play with her massager. First, She turned it on low and moved it slowly up and down over her clitoris. Carefully paced she paced herself. When she could feel the tension rising, she turned off the massager for a minute. She laid their exposed and shaking gently. She wanted it so bad, but she held off knowing the pleasure would be stronger the more she waited. Her hands kept moving down and she would hold them back. Finally, when she could stand it no longer, she turned the massager back on. She increased the speed to high. She continued to move it slowly up and down, up and down her clit, until she could barely stand it. Again, she turned it off and waited. When the moment was unbearable, she turned it on and held it directly over her clit applying pressure as she did, until she began to shake all over. Her whole body and mind where fused into one mighty convulsion. Then it was over, she lay there spent and content. +After a quiet interlude, Ann was at it again. This time she am on the rocking chair. Ann had set up a mirror before the rocking chair, so she could watch the show. It was like your own free porn. She had to laugh at some of the faces she made. The rocking of the chair and the rhythm of the massager complemented each other beautifully. She took breaks and fingered herself to make the experience last longer. Watching her fingers glide over her womanhood was weird at first, but then she really got into it. It was beautiful to watch and the look of bliss on her face. Much better than chocolate. +Saturday was a day of exploration. The guest bedroom is where she keep her art supplies, so she decided to get creative in there. Once, again Ann stripped. She grabbed a paintbrush and chose a bright yellow paint and brown. She proceeded to paint her large and pendulous breasts. The brush tickled as she gently began to paint. While painting the brown around her nipples, she began to swell in other regions. Still she focused on her art. The result was two enormous beautiful sunflowers. Then she laid back ignoring the mess she was making. Laying among the paint, she took the largest paint brush she could find and began to explore her womanhood. The brush tickled at first and then felt luscious as she swirled it around. Sufficiently aroused, she turned the brush around and thrust it into her vagina. It was too little, so she grabbed a handful of brushes and stuck them all in. That was better. The different brushes hitting in different places at the same time, again and again, felt stunning. The paint on her back was cool to the touch, but the liquid dripping down her legs was hot. She was a beautiful, hot, mess. Nothing to do, but to clean up +The bathroom had always been one of her favorite places. There is nothing like a long hot shower to relax you after a hard day. Already naked, she stepped in and unscrewed the shower head. The stream of warm water gushed out. Quickly, she repositioned the spray up toward her vulva. The warm, wet sensation made her weak in the knees. Ann leaned back against the shower wall. With one hand, she held the shower hose. With the other hand, she gently pulled back her labia and directed the water directly at her clitoris. In no time, she began to tingle and quiver. In the heat of the moment, Ann cried out, ""Oh my goodness!"" over and over. The wave subsided but she kept the water shooting toward her clit. Ann waited and then it happened again. She came again. Just as strong as the first time. She shook all over and screamed in ecstasy. Thank heavens the neighbors were not home. Finally, she leaned back against the shower wall exhausted, yet proud. What a truly glorious experience! +This is by no means the sum of her weekend, but it gives you a taste. Even as she writes this, she felt the blood rushing downward. An early lunch may be in order. She is on the menu." +894,Welcome Back to Hell,Noira,How To,2012-01-17,2012-01-17,2022-01-04 08:41:50,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/welcome-back-to-hell,How to write draft two of a novel.,"['Editing', 'Novel', 'Story', 'Writing']",4.83,"_Writing the second draft of your novel._ +Finally finished? Blissful freedom? That's not a light at the end of a tunnel, that's an oncoming train. +If you have just finished writing your novel, set it down, take a step away, and lock that sucker in a cupboard. Seal it up with chains. Light it on fire. Destroy it. You thought you had to tear your soul out the last round? Welcome to round two, where your novel comes back from the dead with a vengeance and stomps upon the heart analogy gifted to you by a wonderful wizard (who, might I note, will not edit your novel for you. He isn't that wonderful). + **Step one: A novel is like a fine wine. (It might also make you whine.)** +Give your novel a bit of time to sit and stew. Like a good wine, like a good soup, like a good _many_ things, a novel needs a little bit of time. It'll let the characters mingle like the oh so magnificent flavors of a good chowder and the fermentation process will do one other thing: it'll let you forget. You need a little bit of time to forget how much it hurt to tear your heart into pieces and mash it onto the page. You need a bit of time to forget how much you hate that scene. Right now, you're emotionally attached to your novel and you need to cut the strings and drown your sorrows in a pot of tea. +Come back when you're sober. Didn't know you could get drunk on tea? Try writing a novel. You can get drunk on anything as long as the words are flowing. +The time you need to take depends on just how involved you were with the novel. Trust me when I say you need the time to forget that you hate this scene and this character, or the red pen will come on too strong. Trust me when I say you need time to forget how much you loved this character and this scene. +The second draft is cruel. There is no exact length of time. A week, a month, a half a year. Come back when you can read your novel with fresh eyes, and be excited to read a sentence you'd entirely forgotten. + **1.5:** +Don't take too long to pick up your novel again, though. While it's exciting to read it as though it were someone else's story, you need to keep a little bit of the enthusiastic attitude from completing a work of art as well. Editing is a tough job. I would not personally wait more than a year, for fear of new and exciting sirens calling from the swamp. +Who wants to do the chore of editing when you have a new universe to unfold? + **Step Two: Meet your new best friend.** +No matter how you wrote your novel in round one, you're about to be acquainted to someone you might not like very much: Mr. Outline. Our friendly neighborhood synopsis will help you control your story in draft two. Where draft one might have been a wild explosion of character diarrhea onto a page, creating an outline is going to help you tame that stomach bug into something a little more controllable. +So write out a play by play outline of your first draft if you didn't write one to begin with and take a look at the cards. Novels follow a few standard patterns and that cohesive plot foundation is going to be what you're building draft two on: the beginning, the middle, the climax, and the end. +You might have fifty-seven subplots, but you need to be able to find a controlled thread through the story, which follows the protagonist. This is what you're going to build draft two on: this is the foundation of your novel. +Chop your novel up into little tiny scene sized pieces and then remove all of the unnecessary bits until you're left with just the plot sized piece. The plot sized piece should finish this statement: ""my main character wants this, but..."" +Understand there is a difference between a plot and a premise. Imagine that there is a doorway. Yes, it can be a fancy Victorian archway covered in vines. Or perhaps just an ordinary screen door. Maybe it's hooked up to a vast digital system, and maybe the door was handed down from generations past. But it's still just a door. The premise is the door. The plot is what slams the door shut in the main character's face, and how they get it open again. Your premise might very well be ""nanobots are causing men to become infertile"" but that's not a plot until your main character discovers that he's the only one left on the planet with fertile sperm and must single-handedly save the human race, but in the process destroy his marriage with his very traditional, monogamous wife. +The plot is what happens. If you can't bring your novel down to a sentence about what happens, maybe you need to rethink the action in the novel. What does your main character want, and what's keeping that character from getting it? +Step two might seem fiddly, but it'll save you a lot of pain if you discover the fault in your foundation before you try redecorating. + **Step three: The size of a salable novel.** +The average novel ranges between 70,000 to 100,000 words. Unless you're writing grand epic fantasy, you'll have a hard time selling a novel with more words and a hard time selling a novel with less words (the market for novellas isn't all that great). If you're not aiming for traditional publishing, don't panic and write whatever you will. But if you are, now is the time to consider the length of your novel. As a firm believer in ""it takes as many words as it takes to tell the story"", I cringe to give this advice. Yet, as a firm believer in ""tell the story that needs to be told, not all of the bullshit around it"", I know it needs to be said. +In step two, I told you to become aware of the foundation of your novel. You know what the story you're telling is made out of. Now you're going to look at the walls. With your puzzle piece structure in hand, cut away the unnecessary pieces. +Everything in your novel should relate to the most basic, most rudimentary version of a plot it claims to have. Every scene must have a purpose. And nothing needs to be shown more than once. The subplot about his mother-in-law? Does it show character development? Keep it. But do you need to tell us about his strained relationship with his mother-in-law five times when the story is about how he blasts into space from Winnipeg? +Make the painful choices here. If it doesn't boost the plot, let it go. +If your story is too simple, you may need to take the opposite approach. Try adding a subplot. Add a new character. The amazing thing is how it's so much easier to add than take away. If you're finding it difficult, just be confident in your short story or novella—they have their places. +Make a new outline from your foundation. +And don't skimp. Make it a detailed outline. You're crafting your improved novel from this, you can't write from the seat of your pants this time. + **Step four: Extrapolate.** +Well? You already figured out how to write a novel. Do it again, but better, and with more dynamics and other buzzwords. Fall in love and break your heart over and over again. This time's the chore, where you follow your brand new, careful outline, trying to make the best out of your concrete foundation. +You've already got your scissors, your cleaver, your robe and wizard hat. Use them. +You'll make it out just fine, and enthusiastically sign the final two words so long as you have the gumption to do it. +You're d— +Oh yeah. I forgot to tell you earlier: _you have to break something to fix it._ + **Step five: Fuck, not again.** +Your second draft won't be perfect. In fact, your second draft probably fucked everything up and you find yourself looking at a misshapen child nothing like the beauty you remember giving birth to. Don't let the hate take over, though—your first draft sucked. And now you get to do it all over again. Examine the novel. Examine the structure. Find out where it went wrong, curse yourself and your computer and your novel into a thousand different damnations. You have all the time in the world, but this time, don't let your novel stew. Write it again. +And again. And again. +There's no secret, only patience and a lot of coffee, tea, and rum. +Run it through the refiner's fire again. Only then, once you're satisfied, can you sit back and hand your novel to an editor... +What, you thought this was over? +Have a drink, it's on me." +895,What a Girl Wants,babydoll4you,How To,2011-09-09,2011-09-09,2022-01-04 08:41:50,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-a-girl-wants-4,It is THE question to ask when you decide to enter the frenzy.,"['Dating', 'Dating Advice', 'Romance', 'Sex Advice']",3.9,"For many of us that phrase is more than just a movie title or a song lyric. It is THE question to ask when you decide to enter the frenzied world of dating. URNA is not your average dating and social site either. It is the best for finding special girls like me. With so many options and ways to meet people your interested in, finding the woman of you dreams can be a whole lot easier for you. Whatever kind of woman your interested in can be found here. In order to get her you need to know how so I'm going to try very hard to be your personal matchmaker. +Why you decided to explore dating is different for each of us. How you date and who you date is also quite unique. Each of us looks for different things in a partner weather it's just a one nite escapade or a life long commitment. In sales they call it market research so that is the theme you need to think about. If you live in Alaska it would be really hard to show up there with a truckload of ice and sell it for top dollar. It can be done and there are people that can do it but it's a really tough sell. +Dating is a lot like sales, you have to know your market. You have to compete with a lot of other people to close the deal. You also have to know how and when to close the deal. Think about it. we have all bought a car. We had an idea of what we could afford. We knew what color we wanted, and we knew what make and model would be the best for our lifestyle. +If your completely broke and on the run from the landlord, a Bentley is probably not in your budget. So why go in there and haggle with the dealer all day and then walk away at the last minute angry and frustrated because he wont give you the keys. He checked you out while you talked and did his market research he discovered that you are not in his target market. Dating is the very same way. If you cant afford to get in the country club and dress like the jet set crowd you probably are note going to find a date there. So why struggle with it and argue with them, just accept that for TODAY or RIGHT NOW you don't fit in. Go home and get busy and come back later when you are READY. Believe me timing is everything when it comes to closing the deal. +So, what is it that you need to know to date those special girls that have more than most? You have to know your market, you need to know what the girls like and what they don't. Honey this is not a suggestion it is a fact. If you have no idea what the object of you affection likes or dislikes you will never get her to go out on a date with you. +The only way to discover that and more is to ask questions, don't be afraid to do it either. Even if it's a silly question like how long her hair is. Trust me she will tell you that and more, so take a lot of notes. We love to talk about our hair and everything that goes with it. Women love to talk, so if you can get us to talk just sit there and nod your head while you write down all the clues we give you. +When you buy a car, do you just walk in point and say that one? Of course not. Well nobody else does either. So ask her what she is interested in and why. Trust me on this fella's, We will tell you. The beauty of it is you don't need to say much you just need to pay attention. A woman will tell you everything you need to know to get in her knickers. All you have to do is listen to her and know when to close the deal. Be patient though some of are like Alaska, in fact most of us are. So patience is key when you are trying to date us. Just because we say no today coes not mean we will say no tomorrow. +There are some very important things you need to know about us. We are like every other woman you see on the street. There is NO DIFFENCE. We love to be seduced, romanced and seen as beautiful. Many guys think that because we used to be like them that we will be easier or more open to crude behavior. This is utterly and completely wrong. We are females now and the things that work on a genetic woman will work on us too. In addition the things that don't work on genetic women wont work on us either. +the following is a simple and easy to follow guide for you fella's that want to date the girls of your dreams. Keep in mind that each girl is different and some of these tips will work and some wont. If they don't produce instant results just relax, don't get flustered or mad. Just try something else. Nothing says desperate like harassment and badgering. If she says no just deal with it an walk away she may change her mind and say yes later. +First and foremost, be polite and sincere : +If you open with ""hey baby, sexy, hot stuff"", you are not going to get very far. We know it's a come on. Most of us get turned off the moment we hear it. It shows your not really interested in us but in an adventure or just a fling. The vast majority of us really want to have a steady boyfriend or even a husband. Moves like that exclude you almost immediately unless you already know us really well. The best move is to be interested in us. Ask us how our day is, or if we are having a good day and then WAIT for us to answer. Patience is the key. Slow and steady will win every time over fast and frenzied. We know what your ultimately after and pressuring us will not get you there faster. If you play your cards right we will give you that and so much more. +Second, be engaged in the conversation : +If you really want to talk to the girl then talk to her. Don't just stand there looking around the place. have something to say. She may not agree with it but, it will defiantly keep her interest in YOU going. Always be respectful though even if you disagree with her. Don't decide to dump her just because she is in favor of something you don't like or disagree with. Pay attention and follow along. If you are distracted then say so, don't be afraid to walk away and talk later. She will think more highly of you if you are honest with her than if you try to deceive her. +Third, be honest with her : +Nobody likes a liar and she wont either. We get lied to a lot so for us it's a HUGE deal if you lie. If your a bank teller fine. Don't tell her some story about how you are the bank president because she WILL figure it out. Once that happens it's over for you. If you are uncomfortable with the truth or not being upfront with us how can we be sure your going to show up for that first date. We need to feel safe and secure so if we cant trust you then why would we want to put our safety in your hands. We talk to each other constantly so the last thing you want is to get on our blacklist as somebody who is dishonest. +Fourth, don't be a cheapskate : +I understand that we all have bills and expenses but don't low ball the date. We are not looking for somebody to take care of us, but we do want somebody who can take care of themselves. You don't need to be Donald Trump but you should be able to afford a cover charge and a few drinks. So many guys blow this one. We spend an incredible amount of money to look as good as we do. So why would you expect us to give it up for free. Genetic women don't and we wont either. as the old saying goes ""you have to pay to play"". Never ever ask us for money! That will blow any chance you ever had of being with us. Permanently! +Fifth, dress the part : +A pair of sneakers and jeans is fine for working on your car. For a date it's not. Dress well, put on a nice shirt and a pair of slacks. Think about how well we dress and ask yourself do we want to be seen on the arm of dilitant? Our apearance is one of the most important things to us. So you need to know it's going to be someting we look at closely. If your too lazy to iron your shirt we are not going to want to be seen with you. I can't stress this enough fella's you need to clean up a little. We spend hours making sure we look as feminine and womanly as possible. You have to do that also if you want to succeed with us. +Sixth, have a good profile : +This one is so incredibaly important. If you want us to be interested, you need to give us something to look at. I cant tell you the number of times I visit a guys profile before I agree to go out with him. Trust me on this guys we will look at your page here constantly. You have a fantasy about us and we have a fantasy about you too. Give us someting to read and to look at. Put up a few pictures so we can see what kind of life we will have with you. Tell us what your looking for so we can figure out how to dress for you. Tell us what you like and we will get interested in it for you. A well written profile on URNA is the biggest selling tool you have don't waste it. No matter what kind of relationship you want with us. If you don't tell us what you really want then how can we decide if your the guy we want. We definately are not going to want it with you if are to scared to show your face. If you are to afraid to be seen here then we know you won't ever show up for our date. Think of it like your business card, why would we call you if it's blank? If you don't have one your chances are going to be SEVERELY diminished when it comes to getting a date with us. Most of us will not even consider talking to you without one that's how important this is. +So now you know what to do fella's. Six simple and easy to follow steps for getting that dream girl from here to your apartment. Take the time and invest it in these simple rules and you will have more girls flocking to you than you ever thought possible. So here we have it, just be polite, sincere, and engaged in the conversation by showing interest in us. Tell us the truth and don't try to lie to us because we will find out about it. Spend a few dollars on trying to get to know us, the cost of being a member of URNA is exceptionally low and will pay off in spades. +Dress well because every girl likes a good looking guy on her arm. We want to be with you so show us that you want to be with us. Write a good profile and have a decent photo for us to look at so we can envision our life with you. If you put forth the effort to be with us we will not only see it but appreciate it. Treat us with respect and dignity and we will be yours in a heartbeat. Don't be shy or afraid guys we want you more than we let on. Always remember we are women so treat us that way and it will pay off more than you can imagine. +* + _With love,_ +Michelle Hart +If you have a suggestion for a topic you would like to see addressed feel free to write me through my profile. Also, feel free to Post and Comments below. If you would like to know more about me or are just curious don't be shy, reply." +896,What Every Man Wants,almost,How To,2003-02-17,2003-02-17,2022-01-04 08:41:51,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-every-man-wants,A story of what every man wishes you knew,"['Make', 'Make Dinner', 'Make Feel', 'Man', 'Men', 'Men Aren', 'Men Dream', 'Women Men']",4.4,"There are articles in abundance on what women want and need. There was even a movie recently, with Mel Gibson, about our secret feminine thoughts and desires, men spend hours trying to figure us out and what we need, but do we try to figure them out? You don’t see many about what men need and want, and they can be as mysterious to us, as we are to them. All women think they need to do is, rope ‘em, hog tie ‘em and throw ‘em in the barn…well men ain’t cattle girls, they know how to open that barn door even if we get them in there. +Usually all you read is bitter accounts by angry cold women, about why men aren’t worth much, and how to avoid the ones who may not be easy to catch, complete with titles and types and assessments of why you don’t want one like THAT… Well, ladies, I catch them…and if you want a good one, well, you better start figuring out what he wants or you aren’t going to get him, let alone keep him. My men are trying to figure out how to keep me, not escape me. +Every woman knows men are into chemistry, although what it is, is a bit unclear. What it is is sex appeal, it is, they want to appeal to us sexually, and for us to appeal to them sexually, is really all that is, it’s not looks or weight, or height or make up, it’s how we look at them and how we make them feel, if we make them feel like males, deep inside, they’re attracted to us. They’ll admit to that readily enough, but to get inside the mind of a man, to learn what it is that makes him choose to stay and commit? That’s the secret ladies, they have to want to commit to us. Most of us can all do enough to get them to stay for breakfast at any time. It’s keeping hold of them that’s tough. And to us, we want that commitment and they know it, but many of us want it because their paycheck comes with it. They want their money’s worth, and that is fair, girls, it is. They aren’t about to tell us this though, because they know we can be determined and devious. The line the bride sings walking down the aisle, of “Phew, I”ll never have to do THAT again!” Is a little too often true. They want truth and beauty, not to be a victim of some woman with a need for income. They believe in love more than we do at times. +Men hit about 35 and begin to wake up to a silent urging to procreate and nest, they reassess their life in the wild, and begin to consider settling down, they get as broody as any woman does. Or if they have procreated and nested, they begin to feel the urge to stretch their wings and fly, to seek out more, and feel the wonder again. Men aren’t one dimensional, is part of that, they need both, passion and comfort, home and freedom and sensuality, they’re really somewhat simple, they’ll give us everything if they can just be a star in their own lives. That’s really all it takes. That and they want an interesting life. Give them that, and they’ll line up to commit to who ever gives it to them. +You’ll hear wives lament and whine that he’s cheating on her, but what you don’t hear is why he is, and it’s not just some younger body, it’s… she’s interesting and the wife isn’t. The wife has become dull and boring, and to her, all life is about is vacuuming the house now, and she yells at him and whines at him, just like she does after he flies the coop! and he’s tired of sleeping with the maid whose got attitude, who’d want to sleep with a bad tempered tyrant! +Half of that is she berates him, it’s never enough, take out the garbage, fix the car, when are you going to mow the yard, she becomes this chore monger, another boss, so he has two jobs, not a home and a career. And she only lives to do chores, herself, he earns, he works, he takes second place in his own life, he is the gadget man, the vacuum cleaner with a mind, the guy who keeps life orderly for us, and not much else. The kids matter more, and Little League does, hey, girls, if they did that to US, we’d leave, in a second! And do. We’d never put up with working all day and handing over our check only to come home and get yelled at? And she wonders why he left?! Someone was nicer to him is why, and she wasn’t…You can’t keep cows in the barn if you leave the door open, ladies! Get a clue wifey, you weren’t what he needed, you were too busy making cupcakes to notice him, you said no fourteen times a week? And you didn’t keep your buns firm or your underwear sexy. You bored him into leaving and you berated him for not liking you that way. And you follow it up with insulting him after the fact that he’s shallow, and he has the problems! So were the cupcakes for the bake sale really THAT important? Cause you sure act like they are! +Men want fantasy, they want entertainment, they want the princess we are, they want the fairy sprite, the little girl in us who dreams, they want eternal youth from our INSIDES, but they also want the slut lurking within us all, they want excitement and to fly, and then land safely, they want to be our wings, our angels of destiny and if we deny them that part of us, if we refuse to go with them or let them take us on their flights of fancy, they lose, but so do we, all we are is housekeepers then, neither queen or whore, and not their partner in life either, we become grounded as the world moves on without us. We just exist to make dinner, when we could be going on exotic trips and living a life of dreams. We choose to be dull and boring, and then whine they don’t. +Classic sex symbols, from Mae West to Madonna, from Liz Taylor to Brittney Spears, are women men dream of, women of passion and fire, women who are playful and adventurous and have a natural sexuality. Men, dream of a nymphomaniac in their lives, or at least one who can be one at times? They want to be cherished, and adored and worshipped, and they should be! They want to be teased and pleased and played with. They want a playmate, a friend and a confidant. They want a woman who makes them proud, who their friends go WOW, where’d you find THAT one, you must be a stud huh? To keep HER! It’s a man thing, it’s pride, its competitiveness, it’s what makes them happy…its what makes them manly, ladies, if you want him to be more of a man, be more of a woman! +They want a princess to provide for, they want a woman who sparkles at them when they do things for her, and sighs and coos. They want her to be pleased, and surprised by their efforts to win her and appease her. They want to chase her and feel her give in to them. Ladies the guys want romance, not pink lace, real romance, the kind with feeling, the kind that has candlelight and soft music, and sighs, they want the longing glances and the deep involvement. And we sort of end up handing them Chef Boyardee and saying What’s your problem? Well, gosh, dinner from a can, might be some of it, the Dog eats dinner from a can, and we pet the darned dog at least? Or I pet mine, but maybe my dog lives better than your man does too? Consider that. That’s sort of sad isn’t it, for him. +They want her to be glamorous at times, slinky and sexy. They want her to be natural at times, and able to get ready in less than an hour, they want her in baseball caps and jeans, as they sit and fantasize about how hot she was last night, and watch her looking like a tomboy now. They want her to like their bodies, and revel in them, as males, to act like a greedy sexual creature who can’t get enough, at times, as well as listen to their thoughts, and try to make their dreams come true. +They want her to be all the women in the world at once, pure and innocent, devilish and dangerous, squirmy and high spirited, needy and soft, nurturing and comforting, and sexually awake and aware of sensual pleasures. They want the mother in us, the sister, and the slut, they want us to be as multi- dimensional as they are. They want the lady in the living room, the whore in the bedroom, and always have. Be that, and able to carry on a conversation about something other than yourself and your interests, and they will all eat from your hand, with pleasure. +And if we give them that, they really don’t care if we make dinner, or vacuum, they’ll do it, they’ll hire a maid, or they’ll take us out to dinner! Trust me on this, ladies, I don’t do housework! I do keep my passport handy just in case. It takes so long to go back for it, is why, we may miss the flight! I go places, I do things, I get taken out, and away, and I love that I do, they carry my bags, they open doors, and they buy me things to please me! And they call later! I love men, and it shows, and they love me right back! +They don’t want to hear, oooh, yuck, and no way, and you’re kidding, I’m not doing that! They want her to blush and go really? You want me to do that, for real, and try it…they want us to tell them that things feel good, and why, and how to touch us. They want to please us so we do go out of our minds with pleasure. They want to know what we think, but not about the sale at the grocery store, to them it doesn’t matter! It doesn’t! Who cares if lettuce is twenty cents less, like change matters? Now if you could do something sexual with that lettuce they’d want to know about that. They want to be pleased, surprised, seduced, coveted, treated with awe, and worshipped, that’s all! They want to be on a pedestal, just like they put us on one! And for that, they will give us everything they have, can find, can earn and look for more if it pleases us. We become their goddess, but only if we make them our gods… +I’m sexual, very…I like sex, I like a lot of it’s aspects, I enjoy exploring it, and adventuring in it. And there are men, who don’t like it as much as I do, that prefer quieter realms and softer ones, there are compatitble types, there are. But they still crave the sex, the affection and the bonding, and they have to have it ladies, it isn’t about they physically need, it’s how they express themselves to us, if we would only learn to listen! It’s their language, it’s primal, it’s instinctive and it holds them totally in its’ thrall, when we deny them that, they have to go looking, it’s male. They cannot survive without it, and neither can I. +I like a lot of different flavors in life, from the spicy to the sweet, to the hot and ice cold, salt and vinergar to sublimely mild. I like tastes, I like feelings, I like emotional intercourse, which by definition is communication. When we bond together in physical unity we can’t hide from each other, we allow each other inside us, and to me, life without that is pretty boring. +Changing our approach is so easy, it really is. When we join that exercise class at the gym, instead of whining about the effort and expecting to be praised, all we have to do is strip down and show them our behinds daily and say, “What do you think, is it getting smaller, is it getting tighter?” And they love it, and smile, and go hmmm, some, come over here, let me check closer. Then it becomes, for him, we work out, and then they’re more than happy to share it…they’ll check our progress with glee…and insist we take more classes, if they get to be part of it like THAT? +If we make dinner, add candles, dress for him, cook in just an apron for heavens sake? Want him to take out the trash more? Stand there naked. Wear a thong…and say, Like this? Well, as soon as I take out the trash? If I’m still in this mood…the trash is gone, girls, never to be mentioned again…if he forgets? Wear that same outfit…he will learn fast…see thong, take out garbage, get some, it’s like electricity to men. They’ll move so fast and while they’re out there, they’ll put your car away and close the garage door, they do not want more interruptions! As in phew, got her mind on me finally…I got to keep remembering that trash, or yikes she’s gonna find someone who will! Men learn so much quicker than we do. It is just about motivation, use that, there is no You forgot the trash again, oh no, he won’t forget…every day for six years, he’ll remember the naked woman saying I’m gonna take out the trash now…like his own private pin up girl. +And kids? Oh right those anti-romance creatures, uh, feed them early, put them to bed, they’ve had you all day? Daddy’s turn. Get a sitter, trade with a neighbor down the street, you keep mine tonight, I”ll keep yours tomorrow night…just give that man, some of what he needs, he’ll be happy! He had the kids, he loves them, just once in a while, he wants to play with the grownups too. And it doesn’t hurt the kids to be told, Mommy and Daddy are going to play together tonight, it’s our turn. You guys are going to bed early so we can. Give you Dad kiss now, night night. +And if I hear one more woman tell me she’s tired, in this day of electric appliances and television, here’s my answer…you will be more tired if you work all day and come home and then take care of the kids and have no one to help. Take a nap, plan it, don’t wear your self out dusting once in awhile, schedule your man like he matters! Quit whining, once women made the soap, spun the cloth, plowed fields, baked bread, ground flour, knit the socks, and still had the energy to kiss him hello and wrap her arms around him when he walked in, so what is your excuse? The dishwasher door was so heavy to close you’re tired now? He worked all day, he’s tired too! And all he wants is a cuddle and a squeeze and a big smile to see him and to cop a feel, like that’s hard to give him? Uh, give it to him ladies, or know, someone else will. +Men need several things, acceptance of their masculinity, pride in their existence, self esteem, love, affection, sensual pleasures, credit for their contributions, titillation and warm welcome, and to be important in their own lives and for that, they will give you everything they can gather to honor you and please you, they’ll lay anything at your feet, if you just treat them with respect and admiration. +It’s our call girls, it is…and it’s ok with me, if you don’t want to wake up to it! Cause your husband takes me to Mexico while you’re busy at the PTA meeting, and I like going on trips to exotic destinations…and being treated like I’m important and wined and dined and catered to. You can do the PTA if you want? It’s ok with me! +Doubt me? Ask any man." +897,What I Wish I Knew,Bebop3,How To,2020-05-24,2020-05-24,2022-01-04 08:41:52,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-i-wish-i-knew,Thoughts for new writers.,"['Author Advice', 'New Writers']",4.84,"_It feels odd writing a preface for an article this short, but what the hell. Anyway, these are some things that I wish that I had known when I started out. The existence of this ""how-to"" should in no way lead anyone to infer that I think that I am a top tier Literotica writer. I don't. What I do believe is that I'm better now than I was when I started._ + **Advice For New Writers** + **Deal With It** +You're going to receive critical comments. Some will be valuable and without malice. Learn from them. Some will be baffling. Use these to remind yourself that the readership of Literotica is both wide and deep. You're going to run into people who aren't the best at expressing themselves. Some will be pure bile. It's inevitable. Go into the experience with that knowledge. +I'm sure that over the years I've posted comments that covered all three of those categories. I've tried to be helpful. I've certainly failed to get my point across. There have been times when I've been a dick. +Develop a thick skin. You're going to need it. + **How Long?** +A Literotica page is roughly 3500 words. If you are trying to figure out how long your story is going to be, that's a good rule of thumb. Dialogue heavy stories will have fewer words per page. +How long should your story be? There is no set length. Some people will swear by a three page optimal and a four-page allowable. On the other hand, many stories in the Hall of Fame exceed that dramatically. +What about posting chapters separately? One page chapters will frustrate readers. Don't do it. Also, you may want to consider having the entirety of your story written before posting any chapters. + **Getting Help** +In my opinion, beta-readers and basic grammar editors are of equal importance. If you happen to luck into an editor who can also offer feedback on characterization, story architecture, and plotting, you've struck gold. +Anyone can be a beta-reader. If you respect their opinions, see if they would be willing. Keep in mind that friends and family will often be overly positive. Critique Corner (Google it) is an excellent resource for finding beta-readers. You may want to ask people who Favorited your first story to beta-read your next. They also have a forum for beta-readers on GoodReads. The people that reach out to you through the Literotica email system and insightful commenters may be your best resource. +Finding an editor is difficult. Finding an excellent editor is exponentially more difficult. I can't self-edit. I'm atrocious and abysmally lacking in the editing skillset. Because of that, I'm tremendously grateful to the people that have been kind enough to edit my writing. +Use the editor's forum on the Literotica Bulletin Board. It's not going to be easy to get someone to respond to you. Be persistent. Ask for recommendations from writers on Lit that you admire. If worse comes to worst, you can pay someone to edit your work. Fiverr has reasonable rates. +If you do decide to go the self-edit route, consider using a free automated service like Grammarly (Google it) or the Spelling and Grammar function of Word. They are both far from perfect, but it might help as a last resort. + **Pulling in Readers** +There are a few things to consider here. The first is the genre you are writing in and where you are placing your story. I'm not kink-shaming, but if you are writing cuck or humiliation stories, put them in Fetish, not Loving Wives. The readership in one will be welcoming, the readership in the other will be hostile. [Editor's Note: stories of swinging and partner sharing DO belong in Loving Wives, as that is the purpose of the category per the category description.] +Establish a conflict and dialogue as early as possible. Conflict hooks the reader and dialogue helps with immediacy. Don't time hop. No one is interested in going from a guy cheating on his wife in paragraph A to the subsequent ten paragraphs being about his childhood, teenage years, college, first years on the job, and his wedding day. +If it's not necessary for the plot, excise it. +Answer emails. Update your bio information. Both actions will help you develop a dedicated readership. + **Getting Better** +To reiterate what I said earlier, learn from your critiques. Even if they are couched in negativity, some comments offer sound advice. +Try to learn from the authors you admire. What do they do that you enjoy? +Work on dialogue. It should 'sound' the same as a conversation you might overhear at Starbucks. Read it aloud to yourself. + **Formatting** +If you are using multiple Point of View characters, find a way to display when perspectives shift. Five asterisks might do the trick (*****). Putting the name of the new POV character in bold at the start of that section might work. Find your own style, just make sure that the reader knows who is telling the story at all times. +This section is going to be tricky. I literally can't use a symbol that I'm referring to as it is reserved in Lit's system for HTML. So, when I try to discuss HTML tagging, I can't use the actual symbol that is needed. I'll describe it instead. +You remember when you were a kid and the teacher told you about the greater than and lesser than symbol? How the hungry alligator always at the most and all of that stuff? Well, the symbol looks like a V turned on its side to the right. On a PC keyboard, it's often above the comma. We're going to call that (Greater Than). If it's turned to its left, we'll call that (Lesser Than). When I use either reference, just imagine the actual symbol. +Literotica allows HTML tagging. That means that you can use _italics_ , **boldface** or other effects. You have to start and end the text that you want to be modified with an HTML tag. The starting is easy. You use this Greater Than and then inside you put I for italics or B for bold or CENTER if you want the text centered and then you follow that with Lesser Than. At the end of the area of text you want to modify, you do almost the exact same thing, but you put a backslash before the letter. For example: /i or /b or /center. +Lame example: (Greater Than)b(Lesser Than)Here is the text I want to be in bold.(Greater Than)/b(Lesser Than) +There should be no spaces. It should be (Greater Than) followed directly by the letter, followed directly by the (Lesser Than). I can't demonstrate that for you as the Lit system will think I'm trying to modify the text and you will see the effect, not my example, but that's how I italicized and bolded the words in this article. +I'll try to give a better example in the comments as I don't believe there's an issue with HTML there. +If there's any confusion, shoot me an email. + **What to Use** +Use whatever writing program you're most comfortable with. I prefer Word and Google Docs. There are programs specifically designed for writing fiction (google Scrivener). If you have the money to invest, go for it. Google Docs is free and it also allows for easy collaboration with editors and beta-readers. + **Best Resource** +Other writers. Ask questions. When I started out, I asked a ton of questions and not one author was rude or dismissive. Use the Literotica email system and if you have a question, reach out. +Keep in mind that some authors aren't active, others choose not to answer emails and some may be extremely busy. In general, though, the people who have successfully done what you want to do are the best people to ask questions of. + **Why Are You Writing?** +Know what your goal is going in and try to balance your goals and your expectations. If you have a compulsion to write and just want to get your work out there, cool. There's no need for further reflection. If you want to use Literotica to get better as a writer, try to challenge yourself. Write something out of your comfort zone. Like writing action-packedaction packed Westerns? Write a romance. Are your POV characters well-educatedwell educated women? Write a story where the POV character is a down on his luck ex-boxer. Do you tend to be loquacious? Write a 750 word story. +Most importantly, enjoy the process. None of this is mandatory. If writing and posting is causing you angst, modify your expectations or stop posting on Lit. Life is too short to put yourself through needless hassle. +Here are some thoughts by one of my favorite authors, MsCherylTerra. ""The advice I'd add if it were me, and it's not so don't feel obligated to add this, would be ""know why you're writing."" Are you writing for yourself? Are you writing for enjoyment? Are you writing to be the very best like no one ever was? Figure out why you're doing it so you can remind yourself of it when you hit a block, get a critical comment, or something you write doesn't take off the way you think it should."" +Readers have expectations and those expectations are often reasonable. It's fairly easy to figure out what those expectations are. Look at what scores well and what doesn't. Try to match category and story. If you choose not to, expect pushback and negative results. The time and attention of a reader is a resource. Don't squander it. +Good luck! As a reader, I sincerely hope that you find success. It's always great to find a new talented writer. As an author, please reach out if I can offer any help. +***** + _With thanks to the friends that were kind enough to offer feedback and editing._" +898,What is Haiku?,jthserra,How To,2020-12-26,2020-12-26,2022-01-04 08:41:53,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-is-haiku-1,A brief discussion about haiku.,"['Haiku', 'Poet', 'Poetry', 'Writing Guide', 'Writing Poetry']",4.33,"What is Haiku? +That is an excellent question. Haiku is a highly misunderstood art form. Misinformation abounds, so much that it is hard to decipher just exactly what a haiku is. My dictionary, Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary, defines haiku as an unrhymed Japanese verse form of three lines containing 5,7,5 syllables respectively; also: a poem in this form. Okay, with this information I am going to give you instructions on how to get a better understanding of haiku: +Step 1.) Get out your own personal English Language dictionary and open it to the page on haiku. +Step 2.) Firmly grasp the edge of the page and look at it. +Step 3.) Before you can read the definition of haiku in your dictionary tear out the page. +Step 4.) At this point, you might want to read over the other definitions on the page you just tore out and jot down any you think might be worth keeping. +Step 5.) Burn that page and flush the ashes down the toilet. +Step 6.) Completely forget the definition I gave you in the second paragraph above. Yes, completely. +Assuming you haven't set off any smoke alarms, or set your house on fire, hopefully you are ready to learn a bit about haiku. Now that we have befouled the dictionary, we need a new definition for haiku. I offer what I think is the best definition I have seen: +""A haiku is a short poem recording the essence of a moment keenly perceived in which Nature is linked to human nature."" +Cor van den Heuvel, The Haiku Anthology W.W. Norton & Company, New York, London +Okay... for the time being, forget about syllables, lines, and Japanese Geishas, well not the geishas. I will discuss form in subsequent articles. In my opinion, the form of haiku is secondary to the concepts outlined in the above definition. My opinion is supported by a number of highly recognized haiku experts; however this viewpoint is also opposed by a number of highly recognized experts. +When reading or writing haiku, I think you need to consider several key words in the quote above. Like haiku, a lot is said in those few words. The key words I would like you to consider are: +recording moment perceived Nature +Think about these words in the context of the quote. I would like to discuss each one. +Recording -- Basically, in haiku you should observe and record an event or image, nothing more, nothing less. Well, yes there is something more... you should observe, recognize a unique aspect of what you observe and record. What this means is that when you write of the image or event you should not embellish or interpret. In your haiku, you should present what you saw, allowing the reader to interpret your words. +summer day the sun shines like an orange lollypop +Unfortunately, in this haiku, I have done the interpreting. I tell the reader what to think: that the sun shines like an orange lollypop. +summer day sunlight on my orange lollypop +While it still needs some work, in this second haiku, I don't tell the reader what to think, I merely present the image to him/her. Now the fact that the lollypop is orange may help project the image, but I am not forcing this upon the reader. +As a poet who also writes haiku, this was one of the most difficult things to adapt to. I had to suppress my desire to paint a grandiose picture with flowing metaphor, insightful similes, and other poetic devices. I basically had to swallow some ego and merely present the image or event. It is tough to do, but ah... when you do it well, you realize you never needed those devices to begin with. The simple and plain language allows the reader to experience the event or image and explore it in their own mind. +The old pond -- a frog jumps in, the sound of water +Basho +There you go. This poem merely describes some frog jumping into the pond and you hear the splash. There is no metaphor, no simile, the frog jumps in the water. But if you read it, you are freed to see the pond... not just any pond, an old pond. Perhaps there are some old trees around, with mist rising off the water. You walk past and see movement and hear a splash. A frog, yes a frog has leaped into this old pond. Now you see the ripples, perhaps see the frog swim off. Are there more frogs? If not, why was this one alone and why here? The few words can spin you off as far as you want to go. +That haiku, by Matsuo Basho is probably the most famous and widely quoted haiku ever written. Basho lived from 1644 to 1694. He is basically considered the father of haiku. While some had been written before him, he ""...gave them a power and seriousness they had rarely had before.""* +The crane's legs have gotten shorter in the spring rain. +Ponder the possibilities in this poem also by Basho. Again, he has just reported the event, but in reading these few words, you are transported there. +Moment -- The haiku is by definition a short poem. As I mention above, your job as haikuist is to record an image or event. Another word for image or event is moment. The haiku artist searches out the haiku moment, which is merely something he/she sees that is interesting, surprising or beautiful. But it is not the evening sunset where the sky fades from bright red, to a shadowy magenta. The haiku moment is the instant a bird makes a silhouette against the sky, or the instant a specific ray of sunlight touches a cloud and it explodes in color, or the moment the sun disappears. +In Basho's poem about the crane above, the moment is when he notices that the water around the crane has gotten deeper (making its legs appear shorter). Again, it is not the 20 minutes of downpour that made the water rise, but just the moment he connects the rising water to the image of the crane. It is your job as haiku artist to capture this moment. +Perceived -- The means you use to find the proper haiku moment to write about is your perception. You have the wonderful capability and the overbearing responsibility to filter out the ordinary in your life to find the few moments that are really special. You perceive the beauty of a dragonfly hovering above a pond, then momentarily touching the surface of the water, sending out ripples. You perceive the image as something special and you record it. +on the pond the ripples have wings dragonfly +You perceived the essence of the moment and wrote the haiku. Well actually I did all that, but you can do it too. It is not difficult once you know the general goals in haiku. +I also cheated a bit; I slipped in another important word from the definition, essence. The true beauty of haiku is how it can touch upon the beauty of a moment in such a minimal way. You take your record of the moment and take away all but the bare essence of this moment. The haiku above creates the same image as my long sentence in the paragraph above it, yet the haiku presents you the essence of the moment allowing you to see the rest. It is truly wonderful viewing nature through haiku. +Nature -- You will notice the fourth keyword is capitalized in the description. We are talking about nature around us... Mother Nature, if you will. Historically, haiku has been written about Nature or man's interaction with Nature. Although this is changing some in modern times, the vast majority of haiku features nature. One distinguishing factor in comparing haiku to a similar form of Japanese Poetry, the senryu is that haiku deals with Nature with a capital N, while the senryu typically deals with the foibles of human nature. +Now that we have at least some basic feel for what haiku is, and what we as haiku artists are supposed to do, we can look at a few of the other things we need to think about with haiku. Look for future articles regarding the form and function of haiku. In the meantime, I leave you with one of my favorite haiku. Nick Virgilio wrote this haiku as an elegy for his brother who died in Vietnam. +lily: out of the water... out of itself +* from The Essential Haiku, Versions of Basho, Buson, & Issa, The Ecco Press, Hopewell, NJ, edited by Robert Haas" +899,What is Senryu?,jthserra,How To,2021-01-14,2021-01-14,2022-01-04 08:41:54,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-is-senryu-1,the differences between haiku and senryu.,"['Haiku', 'Poetry Essay', 'Poetry How-To', 'Senryu']",4.83,"Ah, another good question. Reading some recently posted poems and the comments to those poems and considering several past discussions I have had on the subject, I found there is a good deal of confusion about the differences between haiku and senryu. My earlier article titled _What is Haiku_ discussed haiku in some detail. In this article, I will provide some explanation of senryu. +Much like I did for my haiku article, I pulled out my ""Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary"" and looked up the definition of senryu, but I found nothing there. Unlike haiku, where Mr. Webster misled us with a poor definition, he is silent on senryu. That's a good sign, at least I won't have to fight Mr. Webster on this one and you won't have to set any small fires in your house as you burn the pages with the misleading definitions. +_from my book not another page a small fire_ +I remember an email conversation from some time ago when someone asked me: ""What is the ""exact"" difference between haiku and senryu? I had to think a while on this, because while I had read and written both haiku and senryu, I had not spent much time considering the precise difference between the two. My most succinct answer to the question took two emails and quotes from three highly qualified sources. The quotes offered three very different definitions. +In 1970, the Haiku Society of America's Definitions Committee quoted in The Haiku Handbook by William J. Higgenson, defined senryu as: _""Loosely, a poem similar to haiku which does not meet the criteria for haiku.""_ Ouch! Higgenson, who chose to include the above definition in his book, went on to say: _""Although I was a member of that committee, I do not like suggesting that a senryu is a failed haiku.""_ Higgenson realized that, while some senryu result from failed haiku, often the poet will set out to write a senryu. He explains: _""...a senryu relies on a point of wit instead of provocation by contrast, as does the haiku.""_ +_While the guests order the table cloth hides his hands -- counting his money_ (Clement Hoyt - from ""The Haiku Handbook"") +In his book, Higgenson offered a description for senryu that was very different from the Haiku Society of America's: _""A humorous or satiric poem dealing with human affairs, usually written in the same form as haiku.""_ While this definition more closely matches my understanding of senryu, I think Cor Van den Heuvel in his The haiku Anthology provided the best definition of senryu. He described the difference between haiku and senryu as: _""Senryu is the same as haiku except, instead of dealing with Nature, it is specifically about human nature and human relationships and is often humorous.""_ +_Library closing -- the sleeping wino wakes up holding a shut book_ (Sydell Rosenberg - from ""The Haiku Handbook"") +As I mentioned above, I lean more to van den Heuvel's definition, basically calling a poem about or involving human nature a senryu, while calling a poem about or involving nature a haiku. With respect to the senryu's structure, I basically follow the same precepts as I do in haiku. You may want to refer to my article titled: _More on Haiku: Not Seventeen_. +I have seen people question whether haiku was too short a form to express eroticism. While a short form will limit the extent of the image you can present, I think that if you concentrate upon a specific erotic moment, it can be compressed into something less than 17 syllables. Once it has been compressed, the real question will become: ""Is it haiku or senryu?"" The nice thing about senryu is that you can emphasize some wonderful aspects of human nature: +_naked her gown on the floor_ +While some may argue that this poem is not hot enough, or explicit enough to be considered erotica, I find the image very erotic. The poem, based upon van den Heuvel's definition, should be considered a senryu, in my opinion an _erotic_ senryu. There are some examples of erotic haiku, where nature is portrayed in an erotic fashion: + _beyond the dark where I disrobe an iris in bloom_ (Katsura Nobuko -- from Far Beyond the Field) +Let's keep reading and writing haiku and senryu. +- + **Bibliography** +1\. Higginson, William J., The Haiku Handbook Kodansha International Ltd., Tokyo, Japan 1985. +2\. Ueda, Makoto ed., Far Beyond the Field Haiku by Japanese Women Columbia University Press, New York 2003. +3\. Ueda, Makoto ed., Modern Japanese Tanka Columbia University Press, New York 1996 +4\. van den Heuvel, Cor, The haiku Anthology Expanded Edition W.W. Norton & Company, New York, New York 1999." +900,What is Zappai?,jthserra,How To,2021-01-21,2021-01-21,2022-01-04 08:41:55,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-is-zappai-1,"What do we call these, now, unidentified poems?","['Poetry Discussion', 'Poetry How-To', 'Zappai']",4.75,"With the popularity of the internet as a place to publish, read and discuss poetry and given the attraction of short, concise, but meaningful poetry, there has been a tsunami of short, haiku-like poems appearing nearly everywhere you look. Unfortunately, in this mass of poetry, there resides an enormous amount of misconception regarding haiku and other similar Japanese forms: _""Among both poets and the general public, there is a broad mass of people whose only understanding of haiku is that it has seventeen syllables and that anything that is put in the seventeen syllable, three-line form they remember from elementary school is automatically haiku.""_ (1) +For the longest time, I was one of those poets, ignorantly writing what I called haiku. Because I was able to seemingly say a lot in just a few syllables, I soon gained the title of ""that haiku expert"" from friends and acquaintances. That was a title I humbly embraced as I wrote short little pseudo-haiku, hundreds of them. It was not until I began to submit my work to some of the respected haiku publications and websites that I shockingly discovered that my haiku, were not very good. In fact, some intimated that what I submitted perhaps were not haiku at all. At that point I realized there was a lot more to haiku. +For the next several years, as I studied, wrote and discussed haiku, I began developing a number of articles about the art. The articles began as lengthy emails, which I later compiled and more recently developed into some of the articles I have posted here at Literotica. For a better understanding of Zappai, we will need to consider the questions I asked in two of my articles: 1.) What is Haiku? and 2.) What is Senryu? In both those articles I outlined a, hopefully, simple and basic set of tenants to define English language haiku and senryu. These tenants help identify a number of short, usually three line poems as either haiku or senryu. The tenants also identify a much larger number of short, usually three line poems that don't seem to fit those definitions. What do we call these, now, unidentified poems? Some might still argue they are haiku, others would brand them pseudo-haiku, and others may simply ignore them. +Rather than ignore the poems, or simply brand them as failed haiku, perhaps we should consider finding an appropriate identification for them. A possible solution has been offered by Lee Gurga, now editor of Modern Haiku, one of the premier English language haiku publications in circulation. He indicates that: _""In Japanese poetry, zappai includes all types of seventeen syllable poems that do not have the proper formal or technical characteristics of haiku...""_. (1) +Gurga explains: _"" If we look at all of what is presented today as ""haiku,"" a large number of so-called haiku are, like zappai, imaginative or imaginary, wit-based poems that are written or shared for the entertainment of the reader and writer. Unlike haiku, these poems often have no relation to nature. Unlike senryu, these poems make no attempt to distinguish between the imaginative and the imaginary. This includes things like spam haiku, sci-fi haiku and their ilk.""_ (1) +Much like senryu, where William J. Higgensen cautioned _""...I do not like suggesting that a senryu is a failed haiku...""_ (2 -- pg.232) because often poets started out trying to write senryu, some poets set out to write zappai. To characterize all zappai as failed haiku or senryu would be unfair to those poets. Japanese zappai is part of their poetry aesthetic. Gurga does add: _""While zappai were recognized as a form of poetic entertainment, they were not recognized as being as high an art as either haiku or senryu.""_ (1) +Understanding that all short, three line poems using 17 (or less -- see my article titled ""Not Seventeen: More on Haiku"") syllables are not haiku, or even senryu; we can now identify the poems that do not meet haiku's or senryu's basic tenants. To follow the Japanese form, we can call these English language zappai. +In considering many of the short poetry submitted here at Literotica, from the small samplings I have taken as a poetry reviewer on the poetry discussion board, the majority of the haiku that I have seen, based upon the definition above and in my other articles, would be classified as zappai. The remainder of the submitted haiku, would then either fall into the haiku or senryu category. As examples of each I offer the following: +haiku: _**Bass**_ +picking bugs +off the moon +Nicholas A. Virgilio (2) +senryu: **_While the guests order,_** +the table cloth hides his hands -- +counting his money. +Clement Hoyt (2) +zappai: **_Cook it in the can_** +SPAM, block of cheese, brown sugar +I can't get it out +\--Phil and Amy Timberlake (3) +Bibliography: +1.)Gurga, Lee ""Toward an Aesthetic for English Language Haiku Modern Haiku Vol. XXXI, No. 3 (Fall, 2000). +2.)Higginson, William J., The Haiku Handbook Kodansha International Ltd., Tokyo, Japan 1985. +3.)""The Spam-ku Archive"" at Spamhaiku.com." +901,What It's All About,J.J.,How To,2000-12-11,2000-12-11,2022-01-04 08:41:56,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-its-all-about,He talks about sex and gives examples.,"['Bit Horny', 'Bob Back', 'Dan Good', 'Dance Love', 'Gena', 'Kiss Fondle', 'Lovers Dance', 'Phyl', 'Sexual Act', 'Show Signs']",4.19,"Every man, woman, child and anyone else over the of eight has heard the word ""sex"" and wondered about it. Children hear it described as something awesome and wonderful from their parents, the media, their friends, and a host of other places. Advertisements on billboards show virile men and exotic women hawking a product or idea. So, ""What is it really?"" +In it's highest and simplest form it might be described as follows. ""A harmonious coupling of a healthy man and a healthy woman in spirit, mind, and body."" It has been described by some as as the ultimate human endeavour. In it's highest form, it should provide pleasure more intense than than any other human sensation, equally to the man and to the woman. +As adults, with at least some experience in the matter of sex, one must wonder why we aren't all going around with a smile on our face - all the time. The answer is simple. We have simply not experienced sex in it's ultimate form; rather, in a lesser form, without appropriate portions of emotion [spirit], intellect [mind], and physical [biological] input into the activity. The fact is we are, none of us, perfect lovers. . .we have our hangups, we're not socially unblemished. We are not perfetly attuned to our lover. That does not mean that we who have risen to a 9.9 on a scale of 10 can not improve. . . . +The sexual act without emotion, is devoid of any feelings other than sensation and can only be classed as recreational sex. Of course, if one is willing to settle for 2/3ds of the equation it can still be fun - but can never be enjoyed to it's ultimate extent. +The sex act without intellectual stimulation leaves only the coupling of the body, i.e., sexual congress and is more simply called prostitution. It can never be more than a higher form of external masturbation. Of course, some are willing to settle for the sensation that it provides. It should be noted that a professional prostitute knows that they must try to induce some intellectual stimuli into their act if they are to be successful. +So; then, we have a man and a woman, who are bonded socially, either by marriage or other commitment, who might wonder, ""Is this all there is?"" Most of us probably have. Men!, ""Remember when you rushed your partner into premature coitus with a severe case of 'hot pants'?"" In so doing you deprived your partner of the their ultimate pleasure. In so doing, you also deprived yourself. ""Remember when you. . . . .?"" +Women! ""Remember when you wanted to punish your man by not participating fully in the sexual act that you entered into willingly?"" You deprived yourself; thence, your partner. ""Remember when you ...?"" +So, there we have addressed the harmonious aspect of the relationship in the act. Neither the man or the woman can do much about their health but, let's face it, sexual intercourse and the events leading up to it involves strenuous physical activity coupled with a keen mind and unfettered spirit. In addition, obesity, poor hygiene, and feelings encumbered by mental aberrations will probably be distasteful to a partner. +Now, ""How do we we prepare for our sexual liaison?"" Well, the obvious first thing is to make our body as presentable as possible, good hygiene and grooming as well as bathing are a must. Then, we must prepare our minds... think about all the matters relative to the act before you commit to it! If their are unresolved intellectual matters, resolve them before committing further. Preparing the spirit is much harder. . . .Are we really in contact with our spiritual side? Do your emotions, [including but not limited to lust] impel you towards further commitment? Once one has started down the path towards sexual intercourse the intellectual and spiritual matters will be distorted by lust. Latent and unresolved intellectual and spiritual values will manifest itself as guilt and detract from the ultimate enjoyment. +Part II - ---------------------------------------------------------- +So, ""How does it all work?"" Let's take Jack and Jill, two hypothetical people, married, couple of kids, financial worries and encumbered with busy, full lives. They are healthy and deeply committed to each other. It's Friday and Jill has had an easy day with the children at school and the household chores completed earlier in the week. +By mid afternoon, she begins to think about Jack and fanticise about his body. She begins to feel a bit cosy and her groin and nipples are a bit sensitive. . . .an all together pleasant feeling. She considers masturbation briefly but rejects the idea, preferring to save herself for the evening with her husband. +Then, she plans, simple meal on time, kids prepared for bed early, and the master bedroom decorated with flowers and a nice scent. She showers, prepares herself for the evening she anticipates and dresses in her sexiest dress. Her lust is now more evident and she revels in anticipation. In quiet moments she succumbs to the lusty feelings. +At 6:30 p.m. Jack arrives home, a half hour late, dinner has been on hold for half an hour and Jack has had an emotionally draining day. The kids, who have been waiting for dinner have become unruly and Jill's evening is starting poorly. She serves the dinner and minds the kids as +Jack eats in silence. After dinner, Jill does the dishes and cleans the kitchen; then, gets the kids tucked in. Jack has gone to be, sunbathed, and exhausted. By 9:00 p.m. Jill undresses, dons a heavy night gown, and goes to bed beside her husband who is sleeping soundly. +In bed, Jill smells the stale body odor of her husband as she lies, frustrated, in bed. In an hour or so sleep comes. . . . +At 5:30 a.m. Jack arises at his usual hour and jogs his usual two miles before returning to shower and shave. At 7:20 he puts the kids on the school bus and returns to check on Jill who sleeps peacefully in their bed. After making coffee and breakfast of scones and Irish Creme Jack removes his clothing and returns to bed where he cuddles up to spoon with his wife. As he lies next to Jill's warm figure he clears his mind of his business problems and lusts after his wife. The lust comes easy for him as he smells the sweet scent of her body powders and shampoo. +Half an hour later, Jill stirs and wakes to find it well past her usual time for arising. ""The Kids!"" she says. ""All taken care of,"" he says. ""Breakfast in bed,"" she notes and suddenly relaxes into the arms of her lover. +As the two lovers lay in their bed they do not immediately institute the sex act; rather, they begin to align themselves to each other. He looks into her eyes and she returns the look. They talk about controversial matters of the day and discount them, one by one. Now, attuned in mind and spirit, Jill goes to her morning shower and returns a few minutes later, totally nude. Jack admires her body with his lustful gaze. She turns and does a pirouette to show her nicely shaped features. +In bed their bodies meet, him on his right side, her on her left, her breasts and thighs pressed against his. They kiss. The foreplay continues with greater urgency as they seek to attune themselves to each other. The caresses, the fondling, the sucking, the feeling all directed towards a perfect alignment of their bodies, minds and souls for the action they are about to undertake. Each new caress provides the partner with a new latent pleasure. Each suckle, or laving adds to their partners store of latent pleasure. After a particularly ardent kissing, licking and fingering of Jill's pussy Jack feels her breathing deepen and her body tensing. . . .it is time. +As Jack raises himself over Jill on the bed he moves upwards, between her thighs and positions himself for the uniting of his cock and her pussy. A single, slow shove and Jacks tool slides home to the hilt. Her well lubricated channel accepts his tool with a loving tenderness and the lovers become one. They dance the ancient dance of coitus and revel in the pleasure it brings. Soon, as if by some hidden signal, they roll and Jill is on top, her vagina still full of Jacks penis and the action continues. Now it is Jill who leads in the dance of love...Jack responds with vigour. +Another move and Jill is seated in Jacks lap, facing him and their sex still joined. . . .they fondle and caress and take their time. The pleasure builds. Then, after a few minutes pause, Jack is pistoning into his lover from the missionary position and Jill's feet are drumming a beat on his back. The action intensifies as the lovers move towards a culmination. +When Jill begins to tense for an orgasm he prepares himself and drives into her harder. . . . As the spasms of Jill's orgasm flood through her body, Jack must also climax. . .a hundred locomotives could not hold back the raging flood of semen into Jill's belly. They cling to each other as each new spasm races through their bodies . . . .and then it's over. +Slowly the lovers return to the world around them. They kiss and fondle and assure each other of their love. Jack would have to hurry if he was to be back at his office by 1:00 p.m. +That afternoon, Jill sat making her shopping list and waiting for the kids to arrive home from school. As she sat she felt the tenderness on her pubes from the morning's event and smiled. . . .Her breasts were also sensitized. . . .the feelings of the morning lingered. ""fresh fucked female"", she thought. . . . .and revelled in it! +That might have been a solid nine on a one to ten scale. +\------------------------------####---------------------------- +Dick and Jane did not fair so well. Both had been through bitter divorces and had been emotionally drained and crippled by their failures. Their confidence had been shattered and their self-esteem was non-existent. Both were successful in their sales careers and they held similar positions with competing companies. +Perhaps it was ironic that they should meet as adversaries as they attempted to sell their product. Using all the sales techniques at their disposal against each other, it was probably doubly ironic that they became friends of a sort. Being emotionally unable to support one another, they based their relationship on a need for what the other had to offer. They shared an apartment. They shared a bed. They respected each other. They took their meals together. They helped each other to the limit of their ability. Bonding was minimal. +At 7:25 p.m., Dick came home to find Jane asleep in a chair. She looked exhausted. Dinner was still not a consideration. ""Damn!"" he thought. It was supposed to be her turn tonight. Then, after re-consideration, he finds that he's a bit horny so he changes his tact. ""Hey Babe? Let's order in Chinese tonight,"" he says. She does not respond to his question and he orders anyway for a nine o'clock delivery. +At 9:00 p.m. the food arrives and they are awakened from their sleep to rise from their chairs and go to the door where they pay for the food and trudge to the table to eat their meal. As they eat they become more awake. . . .Jane finds herself feeling a bit horny and the couple make overtures towards each other. . . .a look, a lascivious smile, a suggestion! Each works at enticing he other. +Twenty minutes later they undress and climb in bed. They move together and touch each other as they kiss and fondle. They are both experienced and know what turns on their partner and they both proceed through the motions. As Dick puts his lips to Jane's breast he tastes the slight taste of stale sweat. He continues his ministrations and moves down Jane's belly until he gets the distinct odour of poor feminine hygiene. Here he stops and retreats back to concentrate on the breasts. Jane, on the other hand, gets better perceptions of Dick. . . .she quickly responds and here lust builds steadily. Then, she senses that Dick has hesitated and seems untuned to their act. +They slowly come together as their minds resolve the immediate problems with their encounter. When Dick's tool enters Jane's lubricated pussy they are as prepared as they probably can be. Both are incapable of deep emotion and both are more interested in themselves than in their partner. After the point of insertion, the act becomes more familiar. The experienced lovers dance the ancient ritual of love with skill and they take certain pleasure from each other. +The culmination is slow in coming; yet, most enjoyable. Jane exaggerates her reaction to the feelings to impress Dick. Dick stays for the afterglow to please Jane. Then, it's over. +Let's give it a 6.5 on the 1 to 10 scale. +\---------------------------- ####--------------------------------- +Gena was the Chief Operating officer of a large corporation before she was thirty five. She had earned the position with hard work and diligence and the company she took over had moved from near bankruptcy to a financial success. She had been interviewed by several national magazines and was at the top of her career field. +Privately her social life, or lack of it, was in a shambles. She had no close friends, having lost contact with those she'd made as kids long ago. Her sexual encounters had been limited to a couple of high school trysts in the back seat of a family sedan and a fellow in college who had sweet-talked her into it a few times before they parted. Now, she had only masturbation which provided little relief for her sexual tensions. +At one of the more intense times of need, when masturbation simply didn't help, Gena decided it was time for some professional help. She searched the yellow pages and found a listing for, ""Discreet Escort Services, men and women for your pleasure."" She checked her schedule and found that the following Tuesday night was clear. Wednesday morning had only a minimal work schedule. She picked up the telephone and dialled the number. . . . +At 6:00 p.m. on Tuesday, a tall, dark, formally dressed, handsome man appeared at Gena's door. ""He'll do nicely,"" she thought as she opened the door. +Dinner was scheduled for 6:45 at 'Amadaeus', the chic place to go in the city. Gena would be seen there, in the company of a handsome man and the fact duly reported in social circles. Should someone recognize the man she was with, it was unlikely they'd talk much about it. Dinner was pleasant and the conversation was easy. +Dan provided a service, the best service in the city, for the highest price in the city. Dan was good at what he did. . . He was a professional too! Tonight he was especially pleased to note that the woman he was with was to be with was beautiful! His business acumen told him that he would. +Gena, on the other hand, was nervous. She felt tense and somewhat frightened by what she was doing. Then it happened. . . .! Tess, from her marketing department, came by their table and it was evident that she knew Dan rather well. ""Damn, she knows!,"" she thought. Later, as they danced, Dan seemed to know a good many of the people around them even though he pretended to have eyes only for her. ""Let's get out of here,"" she said. +As they drove about the city, Gena began to relax. Dan tried to mend the damage that had been done by their chance meeting with Tess. Tess wouldn't talk. He was sure of that. Dan knew Tess well and he had services a number of clients at Tess's request. Right now though, it was his responsibility to save the evening and his reputation. They talked on an intellectual level about a mirad of things. Gradually, Gena was prepared for the evening ahead. As they departed the care Gena was relaxed and even enjoying the evening. . . .until they passed the doorman at her apartment. ""He'll know I'm having a man in my room,"" she thought and she was tense again. +In her apartment, Dan was solicitous but it was to little avail. He had experienced failure before but it was usually with women who had emotional hangups or mental problems and Gena didn't show any signs of either. He tried to be pleasant and played to her ego. +Had Gena been of lesser intellect she might have been won but she quickly saw through Dan's ploys. ""What the hell,"" she thought, ""I hired him to fuck me and that's what he's here for."" ""Let's fuck,"" she said. +Dan was again on safe ground. He was an expert at fucking. . . . and that's what she wants! He slowly undressed the woman beside him as she lay on the bed. She could have been dead as far as he could tell. He undressed himself before her and she showed no interest. Kissing her was like putting his lips to a cold fish. Perhaps. . . . .As he climbed between her thighs and applied his lips to her labes did he get a reaction. . . . only a slight one but it encouraged Dan to continue his ministrations. He had eaten and fingered many pussies before but this one got his best effort as he continued to encourage the woman beneath him. Then, he felt hands on his head directing him upwards. ""I want it now,"" she said. +As Dan donned his condom and climbed over his clients body he hoped that he could still save his reputation. After all he was surely one of the best cocksmen in the city. As he entered her Gena resisted due to poor lubrication and felt the pain as they became accustomed to each other. The action was slow to start; then, then brisk. +Gena lay as if she were dead, under her lover's body. Then, somewhere deep in her bowels she felt a spark of lust. It was just an instant but Gena recognized it at once. She waited until she felt the spark again and then again. The man on top of her was beginning to inspire her lusty nature. She let herself go as she began to respond to Dan's ministrations. It felt good! Then it felt real good!! +Then, it was over. Dan had withheld his ejaculation as long as he could before spilling his wad into the condom. +Frustrated with the whole affair, Gena ordered, ""Get out!"" ""Just take your clothed and go. This was a mistake."" After Dan was gone, history, a ""to-be- forgotten"" event. Gena wept. . . . . +Let's rate this at about 1.2 on a scale of 1 to 10. +\----------------------------####---------------------------------- +Bob is working on a project 5,000 miles from home. He works 65 hours a week at a demanding job and has little time for a life. He is there, a hemisphere from home, to forget a woman in whom he had invested his very soul only to find that she didn't feel the same way. He is lonely. . . .so lonely that it's affecting his sleep, his mind and his forgetting the woman he came to forget. +Phyllis is a woman who was born into poverty, had worked hard to improve her lot, failed and lost hope. When the project came to her village, she saw men with money, men with power, men who would never know poverty! It was then that she decided to sell herself. +Some months later, Bob went to the local bar. He had reasoned that a whore could appease his loneliness and his sexual appetites at the same time. Besides, he had heard that the women in the bar were beautiful. As he entered the establishment he saw that the rumours he had heard were true - the women were indeed beautiful! +He approached the bar, ordered beer and addressed Phyllis, ""Hi! I'm bob,"" he said. ""You may call me Phyl,"" she said and the bargaining began. They had soon agreed on a price, a place and what was expected of the encounter. +As they left he bar Bob began to feel the long forgotten sensation of lust. It felt good. He felt the beginnings of an erection and enjoyed the pleasure it evoked. As they walked, Phyl tried to engage Bob in conversation that would result in some bonding. ""After all,"" she reasoned, ""If she could please this man he might return often."" They talked of personal things and things that would draw out Bob's feelings. She tried to develop the conversation along intellectual lines as well. Bob, was certainly ready for any form bonding, especially female bonding. He was soon captivated by the woman who he had hired to please him. . . +At Bob's room, they entered in silence as Phyl waited for Bob to set the mood. When he didn't act immediately she took control and set Bob in a chair at the table. She moved slowly and sensuously to a seat across from him. They continued to talk as Bob's appetites became more urgent. +When Phyl moved from her chair and went to the bathroom, Bob arose and stood wondering what was about to transpire. Soon Phyl returned with her former clothing gone and dressed in a black teddy. Bob was ""fucking hot"" in an instant. Phyl came forward into his waiting arms and pressed her body against him waiting for hm to yield. When she had his shirt buttons open she lifted his shirt and undershirt over his head and dropped his trousers with a single downward movement. As Bob yielded he lifted the teddy over Phyl's head and they stood bared before each other. +Phyl quickly went to the bathroom and returned with a warm, wet towel with which she washed his genital area; then, gently pushed Bob back on to the bed. Slowly, for effect, she climbed between his legs and placed her mouth over the erect cock before her. She did to his tool what he had never even imagined before. She deep-throated him, she massaged his massive tool with her lips. she sucked his balls. Two minutes later Bob spilled his first load of semen . . .it was sensational! +But the evening was far from over. The couple bathed together and played as they washed each other's genitalia. For the first time in months Bob felt that a great burden had been lifted and he forgot the woman back home. As Phyl played with Bob's flaccid tool in the warm bath water, it soon began to show signs of stiffening; then, it was again ready for action. +Immediately, they left the bath, dried and Phyl gently directed Bob back to the bed, whence he came. She lingered in the bathroom only long enough to apply lubrication to her vagina and to take a condom from her store before joining Bob on the bed. There she tore open the covering on the condom and placed it on Bob's hard manmeat. They talked some giddy nonsense as Phyl climbed over Bob's torso and positioned herself over his erect cock. +The insertion was slow as they adjusted to the connection; then, a steady mechanical rhythm as Phyl worked to please Bob. As the rhythm of the dance of love continued, a bond formed between the lovers and there was pleasure. Bob's ejaculation was slower in coming this time and it brought a pleasant sensation as he exploded his second load of the evening into the condom. +Phyl knew that good sex included the afterglow and she stayed with her man as he slowly withdrew from his high point. Her job was manifold; she must support and encourage his ego; she must satisfy his sexual appetite; she must sell herself! She is doing it well. Phyl is, indeed, a good whore. +The rest of the night included another sexual encounter and hours of subtle flattery, intimacy, and bonding. +As good sex goes, Phyl had bought the best she could from Bob. We'd give that one about a 4.2 on the 1 to 10 scale." +902,What Men Want Ch. 03,almost,How To,2003-04-23,2003-04-23,2022-01-04 08:41:58,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-men-want-ch-03,Why cheaters cheat.,"['Cheater', 'Cheaters Cheat', 'Credit Cards', 'Frying Pan', 'Fuck People', 'Learn Love', 'Love Affection', 'People Fuck', 'Thing Person']",4.14,"**What Men Want Chapt 3-Why someone cheats, another chapter in the Almost series.** + _Foreword: I titled this, They vs He or She because the causes of cheating are somewhat bipartisan. They don’t vary by gender, so, if she’s doing it to you, or he is, it’s for somewhat the same reason, and although those reasons can vary, some are listed below, or the one’s I’ve figured out are, reasons are specific to the person, or the situation, and I’m sure some don’t fit these offerings. I have never cheated on anyone, I have been cheated on by many, and I understand it more than I once did, is all this is. Again, keep those cards and letters coming folks, you fuel my idea banks. And, this is dedicated to Kelly, a lovely young thing who took my place, for a time and gave what I couldn’t give. Thank you my dear._ +Cheaters. It’s a nasty word, it bespeaks of betrayal of trust, of sneakery and thievery, of dishonesty in the core of a being, they not only steal from others, they do it secretly and through being devious and deceptive, they worm their ways into the hearts of a lover only to then twist like a knife to hurt them thoughtlessly for superficial selfishness. It tells of a naughty thing bad people do, it’s a label that says evil, that says unworthy, even unethical and unkind. But WHY do they do it? +You’ll read theories by angry spouses that explain it’s because they’re cheating, low life, lying, no good, lousy, stinking, shallow and flawed, and insecure, and mean, and totally unsuitable to be allowed in the human race spouse is just a dog, a slug, a slime and an ingrate. They’ll tell you of the damage it did to their own trust (oh poor babies!) what a surprise it was to them and how these horrible thoughtless destroyers of beauty and good are in fact cads, and witches and evil beyond measure. It’ll talk about their upbringing, their parents, their friends and their work, and slyly suggest none of it was even THEIR fault or had anything to do with them. It paints them like victims, and what it doesn’t tell you is the truth. Or, I guess my question is, if it is the truth, then why’d you marry them to begin with? Did you expect them to change from being shallow, flawed, insecure, inadequate and mean and totally unsuitable, or did they fool you totally with nary a hint or a suggestion? If you did marry them knowing they had many problems and flaws, did you not realize the risk that they in fact might not be perfect or conform to your standards of excellence? Cause I’d think it might be smart to know someone a bit before marrying them, but what do I know…and of course, my goal isn’t just to get their paycheck and not have to work…so? Different strokes I guess…but the free lunch doesn’t happen often in life, so you get what you deserve at times. If you set forth choosing to be blind without seeing, don’t complain about the view. +Rule number one, cheaters cheat to get something they aren’t getting. Period. End report. Now what it is may vary, and indeed they may have some flaws, but no happy person goes looking for trouble just to see if it exists. This is almost a constant, except in the case of a psychopath, who then cheats just for the joy of so doing. For one, it’s a lot of work to cheat. You have to find someone else who wants to cheat with you, and even single men can tell you that’s not always easy! A lot of the girls out there won’t have a man who cheats, and actually are wise enough to ask if they’re married, and will not play with men who they even SUSPECT are! And for another, a person who is getting all they need, really doesn’t bother looking for something they don’t. No motive, no action! +People cheat to find fulfillment, and what that fulfillment is, varies by what it is they don’t have or don’t want to give up. They do it often as a form of compromise. A way to stay within that marriage or relationship, to raise those children, to honor their commitments and have the life they have invested in, and still have “me” time, and things they so desperately need, and don’t get elsewhere. It’s an oasis of me, in a sea of them, to many. It’s like going bowling, it’s like going fishing, it’s a hobby, a distraction and even a relief from the daily grind. To many it has very little emotional attachment, it is just physical, one dimensional and a solution to cope with a life they can’t seem to get everything from. It is often egocentric, in a world they are allowed no ego in. And sometimes it’s addictive as well, because it is naughty and it is totally egocentric. And there’s a high to that. It becomes a conquest and a getting over on someone that in time, can in fact flaw the individual who may have started for different reasons altogether. +No I don’t agree with it, nor is it a healthy way to live one’s life, but to solve it, you have to identify why they do it! And they aren’t all wrong! They aren’t! I will defend some of them. It is a case of situational ethics, of solutions to problems and compromise. So if you don’t want them to cheat, I”d suggest you consider not putting them in that situation, or if you don’t care if they do, well then quit WHINING! +Example: The man who marries the woman who just doesn’t want sex with him. He works, he pays the bills, he mows the lawn, he provides for her. He gives her a roof over her head, he may raise her children, he escorts her places, he takes her on vacation, he builds her a secure future and keeps her from a life of hardship. He buys her gifts, brings her champagne, he plans romantic escapes, he pleases her anyway he can, he takes her to dinner and the movies. All he wants is love and affection and warmth and intimacy in return. +OR…the woman whose man ignores her, comes home, never talks, never listens, goes to his shop, won’t interact, won’t do things with her, often won’t have sex with her, and often acts more like a vegetable with legs than a man or a lover, and all she wants is his love, affection and warmth and intimacy. +So when she or he refuses to give him or her that, says she/he doesn’t like it, or it’s not convenient, who’s doing the cheating???? And after months and years of this, he swallows hard and accepts that she isn’t going to give him that one little thing he so desperately needs, he sometimes decides, he loves her so much or the life they’ve built, that he’ll just solve it all but getting a little on the side. Or she will, cause it does happen the other way around too! +And I again ask you, whose the cheater in that. The man who earned, did, worked for, provided and got nothing in return, not even the consideration to want to meet him part way, or…the man who after providing all these things, and thinking of everything he possibly could to get this housekeeper gone mad to put out a little and like being with him intimately, he decides he won’t bother her for THAT any more and just get it somewhere else? +Is there anger in it? Of course there is! Lol…poor GUY! He had this vision of happily ever after when he walked down that aisle, with visions of sugar plums dancing in his head, he worked and he slaved, and he gave and he gave, and now he’s off begging some woman to please be his friend, because the one at home, has a headache, oh yet again. And according to the stories, HE’s the BAD GUY in it all for liking and needing sex, love and affection and intimacy! OH RIGHT! +There are different libido levels, and unfortunately sometimes they do end up in a relationship, but the bottom line is there are also lazy, thoughtless, inconsiderate uncaring, unfeeling, self involved people in marriages, and THEIR SPOUSES often CHEAT! And they then go boo hoo hoo! Because they couldn’t manipulate the last sense of spirit and passion out of that spouse. +There are also sexual preferences and inadequacies, which often get the press for these problems. The she left me cause my dick wasn’t big enough thing, or she left me for a woman, or he left me for a younger woman. Well? A dick that never wants them is about worthless regardless of it’s size, if they are indeed a latent homosexual, well somewhere in there, you were either deceived badly or refused to see, and if he left you for someone younger, it’s probably because she looks at him like a god, and idolizes him and actually takes care of her body, and goes places with him and laughs, so? It isn’t just an age thing or a size thing, it’s about not being what they need or caring enough to figure out what they need. If you have decided to turn into an old woman and he’s bored half to death, you’re right, he may decide he wants some one more alive and fun, and while he’s shopping maybe firm and luscious might as well go into it too, besides, if she’s younger, by the time she turns old and grey like you are now, well, he’ll be ready for one a bit slower by then…right fellas? +Hey, folks, you’re the ones boring them out the door, don’t mind me if I at least explain to you what you’re doing! They want fun, so do I! There’s nothing wrong with being alive, and you really don’t have to sit down to wait for your funeral, I promise, no one will hold it without you being there! You can’t be late to your own funeral, so go play! It’s ok! It’ll wait til you’re ready! +Is cheating right? Well compared to allowing someone to destroy your soul, it may be, but in actuality I don’t think so, I think it’s a case of two wrongs don’t make a right. Although they will defend it, as being better for the kids…I dunno! Some will even say “it’s not the money” OH PULLLEASE, it is SO! Lol! They don’t want to give up the big screen! It’s all of it…the house, the frying pan, the 401k, the kids, the dog, all of it…ok…maybe they’d give up the frying pan willingly. +I was a child in that, I’m not so sure it’s a good thing! +I also know a man who cheated for years, and his wife had learned to just look the other way, She knew, she didn’t admit she did, he hid it somewhat discreetly and they managed. But he said he wouldn’t leave her, because she would get half of everything, which? I guess, it’s what you value, your chance at happiness or half a double wide trailer, it’s all relative to what’s important to you I guess. +I know another couple, he’s in a position of power, he loves his power, and this is his second marriage. He brings his current mistress of the moment to social functions at his house, with his wife as hostess, and she swears he would NEVER cheat on her, and you’re standing there at this cocktail party with him being smug, the latest mistress (they’re a constant stream, young, over educated, stupid, sigh, whatever!) glaring at the wife, and the wife myopically serving pu-pus trying to convince everyone she hasn’t a clue! It’s all in what you like I guess…sigh…and EVERYone knows, he makes sure they do! And does he have a big one? They don’t come that big, in my book, folks…I don’t want any of him. And it is all about money, he has, they want, he trades. All it is. She won’t leave him! So she pretends she doesn’t know! She likes his credit cards! They’re BIG credit cards! +How do kids do in that? Well for one, they learn that love is nonsexual. They see this platonic relationship of some sort, perhaps with hidden issues, and they come to view that as normal. They don’t see the intimacy and affections between their parents that teach them it’s ok to develop those and respect their values. Often they are either totally ignored by the parents who are so busy focusing on their own needs ever so selfishly, or they are so totally inundated with parental affection with no healthy outlet they are all but smothered by it. So, yeah, it’s great for the kids, if you want to raise kids as screwed up as you are. And the sins of the parents shall manifest duofold in the kids…you reap what you sow. And I wish them luck at judgment day as they explain they didn’t realize. +And no, I am not softening this with kind words, it’s real! So, if it bothers someone to read this, perhaps they should open their eyes to what all of it does to their own families, wives, husbands, children and all, as they espouse they’re doing the right thing for everyone. And no I don’t just mean the person who is driven to seek comfort outside the boundaries of that relationship, I also mean the one who drives that person to that as a solution. It’s bad stuff, folks! It is not what love is supposed to do to people. So the cheater may in fact be the cheatee in many cases too. +There are other reasons cheaters cheat. There are. There is a group of people who cheat to keep a sense of themselves they refuse to give to a relationship. Fidelity is a gift we give, and some people can not bear to give it, they fear the loss of themselves in so doing, or that they’ll not have their own safety around them, so they cheat. They keep part of themselves intact and separate from a relationship. And the first group, who started cheating for reason can evolve into this group, but this group can evolve on their own too…and it is a form of addiction I think. Where the high becomes the conquest and they seek it as a form of satisfaction outside of sexual bliss. +These folks, like a former politician who made the news for months and months with some little tramp who kept the dress ever so handily, often will explain it isn’t SEX. Or it isn’t lovemaking more accurately, because to them it isn’t. It is often contained to them being recipients of pleasures, or they are somewhat non participatory during these escapades and therefore they rationalize that this isn’t the same thing as what they do with that person they care for, this is just an outlet they need. And those people are usually habitual cheaters, and they will often tell you they are long before you ever catch them. People do tell on themselves, if you listen. And Grand Jury’s listen and have microphones and TV cameras too…but it’s symptomatic of a much widely spread disease in society. One built on lack of acceptance of sex and it’s power and it’s rightful place in our lives as a joy we are given. +I am going to share a very good story someone told me the other day. The government doesn’t want people to fuck. Because people who fuck think, and if you don’t let people fuck, they won’t think, because if they do think, they’ll think about fucking, so the solution is, it’s patriotic and American to fuck. Support our country, fuck tonight! +And if you don’t want your spouse to seek it elsewhere, then I suggest you give it up, boys and girls! And do it very damned well. It doesn’t have to get boring, it’s a creative element in and of itself. It has lots of ways to stay fresh and exciting. If you’re on this website, you’re probably very aware of some of those. +And if that spouse is cheating, it may take YOU time to earn THEIR trust and belief in YOU Again should you wish to keep your relationship intact. Many cheaters do eventually leave that relationship, often because they can’t live a dual life, and one day they choose. But of course, the spouse who didn’t cheat always claims she threw them out…yeah RIGHT! +Not til they were already half packed and headed out the door anyway. Begging to please please, just meet them half way…and they answered by yelling get out. So yeah, they threw them out, I suppose, if you want to look at it that way, but of course, first they tortured them for a few years. OH right, they skip that part, don’t they! Silly me! +I don’t agree with cheating, but I understand it. And if you force a person to do it, you’re no less guilty than they are, in fact, you’re probably more guilty. Sex is important, and so is affection, understanding, intimacy and trust. They trusted you to care about them and you didn’t, so don’t yell at them if they then learned to not care about you, or tried to anyway, and took that one element somewhere else, because you didn’t like it anyway. +And for all you cheaters out there, sigh…what you do to that third person in that isn’t fair. It isn’t. You make him or her, pay the dues your lazy thoughtless spouse won’t pay, and then in return you expect to give nothing to get that. It’s a nasty mess for people, and for those contemplating cheating with someone, or fall into that trap, I suggest you get clear of that whirlpool if you can. Cheaters don’t love, they only use. They already gave at the office is why. +For the third persons in it, hey, make him take you someplace nice, cause you aren’t getting much else out of it! Although yes, sometimes they do learn to love too. It does happen. But it’s often a mess before it does. Good luck to you. +And to those potential cheaters contemplating or considering, you may want to look at other options too. It is not a simple thing you consider. For anyone. And you become like the one who does it to you." +903,What We Like,KnPinTN,How To,2004-06-24,2004-06-24,2022-01-04 08:41:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-we-like,He describes his pussy-eating technique.,"['Rear Wall', 'Start Make', 'Tongue Tip', 'Wall Vagina']",4.51,"P likes it when I kiss and nibble her neck and shoulders. I'm not sure but when I do it very slowly she seems to enjoy it more. P has very pretty, delicate inner labia as the pics on line show. I like to suck one or both in between my lips and move my head around just enough to stretch them slightly. This usually elicits little mewls of pleasure from her and starts to light that fuse I talk about in our profile. I like to tease her in the beginning with very light licks and sucks of the inner thighs, pudenda (pubic mound) and labia. Once she escalates to a preorgasmic stage I like to slide one finger inside her vagina and lightly caress her G-spot and surrounding area. She also responds well to massaging of the rear wall of her vagina. I'll alternate between those two areas (about 20 or 30 seconds +each) while tickling her clit with my tongue. She's usually thrusting her hips skyward by now trying to increase the pressure of the caresses. She may say she doesn't like it but I try to delay her first climax until she can't stand it any more, holding her just below her orgasmic threshold. When you +think she's ready take a second finger and insert- it with the first. Just inside the front wall of her vagina there's an arch of bone or cartilage right in front of her G-spot. I use the ends of these two fingers to squeeze the tissue between that bone and my fingers. This almost always puts her over the top and into orgasmic bliss. And hold on...it's a real roller coaster ride from now on! Alternate tongue strokes on her clit up and down to side to side. Sucking it in between your lips and flicking it with your tonguetip rapidly. Once she seems to be coming down from her cum, move your fingers to the rear wall of her vagina and she'll start all over again. To make her squirt pull your fingers out, quit licking and rapidly move your +four fingertips up and down over her entire labial area. It should be very wet and slippery and when you start stroking she usually bears down and squirts all over your hand and fingers. First and foremost K loves pussy, preferably shaved like the day you were born. It's so much more sensuous when my tongue can glide over the mons veneris giving goose bumps to the woman as I start to make love to her. The heady aroma of her vaginal folds start to waft upwards to my nostrils creating the most wonderful aphrodisiac in the world. I can feel my cock harden as her labia start to flower open to my view. The first dewdrops of excitement appear on the petals of her rose. I dip my tongue tip delicately into her blossom and get my first taste of her ambrosia. The nectar of the Gods never tasted this good! I tap dance my tongue down her cuntal furrow and push just inside her vaginal opening. Her walls contract around my lingual member in appreciation for the exquisite stimulation to come. Her clitoris peeks out from under its protective hood hoping to attract some of the attention. And who am I to refuse, right? With my two thumbs I peel open her swollen outer labia even wider. The picture in front of my eyes is better than any Rembrandt or Monet. An intricate arrangement of pinks and reds designed to tantalize my senses of sight, smell, taste and feel. +I bend close to this work of art and breath in her wonderful perfume. I push my nose against her clit and dip my tongue into her sweet honeypot. I feel her hips and thighs spasm as the sensations become almost too much to bear. I push deeper into her coralline cavern and run my tongue tip all around the moistening walls, brushing my nose back and forth over her erect nub. Suddenly I hear a gasp escape her throat and I know it's time!!! I move my mouth up and suck her entire clitoral area between my lips, thrusting and parrying my tongue directly against her most sensitive part. I like using the underside of my tongue on her clit because it's so much smoother and slipperier. It causes cold chills to run up and down her spine as her orgasm overloads her brain with pleasure. +Unintelligible sounds emanate from her throat as she slips into a consciousness known only by the few who have experienced the ultimate sexual bliss. My tongue tip flicks back and forth over her spasming spike. Her lower pelvic muscles seize up and contract violently. Finally I get my reward as a thin stream of girly cum shoots into my mouth. I hear her grunting out her ultimate release just before her body collapses on the bed, totally spent. Her eyelids flutter as she floats in a world of post-orgasmic bliss. More juices seep out from between her labia as the muscles start to relax. I hungrily lap them up, savoring the delicious delicacy. +Slowly her brain returns to this world. She manages a weak smile that I recognize as a well earned ""thank you"". You're very welcome, I kind of enjoyed it myself too you know!!" +904,What Women Want From Men,almost,How To,2003-02-26,2003-04-29,2022-01-04 08:42:00,3,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-women-want-from-men,1. The other side of the story from a woman about female needs. 2. How to take the chill out your bed. 3. Awakening dormant female sexuality.,"['Feminine Side', 'Girl Thing', 'Good Girls', 'Good Thing', 'Guys Talk', 'Love Sexual', 'Men', 'Radio Station', 'Rest Pretty', 'Time Men']",4.34,"Having seen the recent (and EVERY) Mel Gibson movie, about what a woman wants, I’m no closer to knowing what women really want than he was and I am one. I, however, will admit, that what I want varies some, and I wouldn’t mind sharing it if I could figure it out. And I think perhaps the reason we’re so hard to understand is we even hide knowing what we want from ourselves. We call that changing our minds, it’s just semantics though, for I forget or, I’m not sure I know, or what I want today may, in fact, be different tomorrow. I think its sort of one of those, if NO one knows the secret, it can’t get out things, so we don’t even tell ourselves. You know it’s kind of a good thing we’re cute at times, isn’t it? +Searching through the twisted halls of the Inner Sanctums of Feminine Logic, even when one speaks the language, isn’t easy. We want LOTS of things, and we keep losing the dang list! We want to be blonde, no brunette, no maybe a redhead or wait can you just put some highlights in for me? We want to be smarter, no dumber, well, maybe only sort of smart. We want to be taller, or shorter, or maybe, more medium and we ALL want our butts to look smaller, except the one woman who reads this and says, I don’t! Not me, my butt is fine the way it is, she’s wrong! So okay then, the rest of us want our butts to look smaller and you just don’t care what yours looks like! +And I think the key to it is, as long as we can get out of any conversation with anyone, by saying, you’re wrong, we’re almost happy. And that seems to be a pretty consistent trait with women, we like to be right. We can be argumentative, we can be deliberately confusing, but we do confusing almost by confusing ourselves, and then try to explain it from the standpoint of reason, like we’re serious, and sometimes we are the only ones we really convince we are serious, let alone making sense. That also confuses us into believing we aren’t confused, and further confuses whom ever we are out to confuse, did I make that clear enough? It’s a case of. insert part ‘a’ into slot ‘b’, only remark it slot ‘a’ so there are now two slot ‘a’s and then put part ‘c’ into any slot it will fit in and call a plumber. Got it? Every husband and male in a relationship just agreed, didn’t ya guys? It’s not you ‘got it’, it’s you won’t even try to go there, and we sort of know that…see you guys are kind of predictable that way. That would be score… home team two, visitors zip. And we don’t need mirrors to do it either, we come by it naturally. +And the reason they don’t let women play football is, we’d get out there and change the rules, we would! It’s a dumb game anyway, so it needs remodeling, so maybe a pale lavender for the other guys pants, and a sprig of lily of the valley for the brunettes and? See? It’s sort of instinct with us females to change things. And without us, you men would all live in bachelor hell. Consider that. For every good thing there is a counter part in an alternate universe. And sour cream may even go “good” when it’s left out all night in some of them. +Ah, and the world then had this sexual revolution and now we don’t have to cook as often, and then they have women’s rights so we get paid more, and then there’s chivalry although slowly it is becoming out of style, so we still get our seats on the bus from some of you, life should be good for us ladies about now, but I think the truth is we’re at least as confused by all of this stuff as men are. And I’m not sure we’re always happy with how the world is. And in that may be a key to what makes us tick I think… +Once upon a time, men did battle, they slew dragons, they wore shining armor and rode great white horses. They dashed, and we called them dashing, and women swooned and you guys caught us before we tumbled to the ground, if there was a puddle in life’s sidewalk a man threw his coat over it, which still makes no sense to me, now my feet get wet, his coat is dripping and we’re supposed to find that helpful and courteous? Sounds like some dry cleaning company put that idea together if you ask me! But you were our heroes, you solved the world’s problems, you provided comfort and gentility, you took us dancing, you fought for our honor and our hand, and you took care of us, and all we had to do was wear dresses and look cute. Or so the stories say? +There were bad guys and good guys, and they wore the appropriate colored hats, so we could tell who was who, the music played to signal danger or dastardly deeds about to unfold, we had little princess phones that lit up and we all dreamed of some guy showing up with a glass slipper and it only fit us. And away we all flew in the arms of a dark stranger with deep mysterious eyes and a smile that promised delights we had never considered. We twirled in our dreams, we pranced, we wore silk and satin and lace. We were Joan of Arc at times, yielding the sword of the righteous, we were Jackie O foxhunting in a her pill box hat, we were Tinkerbell flitting to and fro to warn Peter of danger, and we had a fairy godmother to rescue us from a cruel life of drudgery and we ended up comparing Maytag and Frigidaire and trying to budget enough for pizza on Fridays.. I seriously suspect I’m not the only one wondering what the hell went wrong. I keep waiting for the old broad with the magic wand to show up to clean house for me, sigh. +So when it comes down to what we want, well we’d like life to be simple again I think, or more glamorous, or less exhausting or more exciting, we wish some of the fairy tales were true, we want illusions sometimes and delusions of grandeur, even if they only last until the kids wake up, and I almost doubt I’ll get a lot of argument on that, other than that one girl who still is cranky about the comment about her butt size, we women also bear grudges you see, we’re like elephants, we don’t forget! +We want flowers in the spring, and maybe on special occasions, we want thoughtfulness, which is maybe the biggest key to it all, we want to know we’re in your thoughts, and whether its flowers or candy or just a cute note, that’s what we’re after, constant reassurance you love us, and we’re you’re little princess, even if we aren’t so little or anyone else’s. +We like to think you think about us, and we think about you? It’s a girl thing to think about you boys, and it amazes us you men don’t seem to ever think about us like we do, because you guys don’t talk, probably cause I used up more than my share of words, but? The point is we do…we just gush out our feelings, we say, we whine, we carry on, we vent, we wheedle, we rage and we storm, and sometimes we just chat for fun too! that you think about us enough to see through all the mystique and confusion, we want to be your puzzles. We want you to solve us, put us together. We want to be understood, is part of it, and that may to some extent be, because we can’t figure ourselves out either! So we’re hoping you can, cause you did put that silly “requires some assembly” thing together, and I think, most of us require some assembly. Or if we don’t, we will! We like it when you assemble us, but? Careful now, don’t tell us we need to be different then we are or we’ll assume you don’t love us. We’re fragile, we’re tough, we’re evilly wonderful for moments and sometimes we’re just boring as hell. +We like attention, we like to be the focus of yours, and to us, it equivalates carrying, we want to be cared for, and not just tangibly. We want to come home to candles and wine, we want to have our backs rubbed at times and asked how our day was, and maybe even listened to intently! Not this mumbled, unhuh, or that frozen deer caught in the headlights look you men get when you’re sure any answer will invoke a fight. The reaction to does my butt look big in these pants, and the correct answer IS! Honey, you’re butt, no matter how it changes over the years makes me just grin, you know I love your butt, and I will always love your butt, and yes I like how you look in those pants…or if the pants look terrible, say, and yes, those pants aren’t your most flattering…I like the GREEN ones better, that’s all it takes…women are like guns? If you aim us we’re fine, but don’t just pull the trigger and don’t look where we’re pointed or we could hurt some one, and it may end up being YOU! +There are studies, and I’ve read a few, and I’ll probably misquote them some in this,but in one, I read that women use some 20,000 more words daily on average then men do, which just boggled me as I started to count the words I used, going I don’t use 20,000 words a day do I? Let alone 20,000 MORE words, good heavens! And most of the men who know me are hiding the laughter behind their hands, thinking oh she uses more than her share, oh boy does she! And in that same article it said, men’s thumbs were twenty times as strong as a woman’s from generations of pulling triggers and bows and arrows and things, and that I’ll buy into, and now I know why you get the jars open, when I can’t, it’s heredity! And ya know, I think it wasn’t just triggers you strengthened those thumbs on guys… +Now in all that somewhere are some statements about evolution and our less civilized backgrounds that sociologists could probably explain at length in great detail. The hunter and the gatherer thing, being part of that, where men evolved as a hunting creature, who had to forget and move on if he missed the mastodon, or it was not an option to call for pizza, so he must move forward, he couldn’t dwell on things or seek solace for a bad day, and he couldn’t be chatting or the mastodon’s would here him sneaking up on them and if he didn’t get meat? the woman was gonna leave him for a guy who could hunt, and women had to stay by the cave and protect the young, and remember where that patch of blackberries was each year so they could go gather them, and worried about predators attacking, and what time Martha Stewart came on, and whether to do the cave in a faux wash of mint greens to match the moss or to leave it sort of natural and just accent it, so the learning skills and thinking processes evolved differently for each gender is I think what happened. +And then civilization added it’s madness to it all with clothes and morality and rules and neighbors, and then churches got in on it with the thou shalts and thou shalt not’s…and about them they came up with this good girls do, and nice girls don’t, or do I have that backwards, and so every little princess out there isn’t really sure what it’s about. And without meaning to sound sacri-religious, even Mary didn’t have sex? +So in all that is how we came about, the modern day woman, we need to be androgenous at work, we need to think like men, we need to grow the bacon, catch it, butcher it, cure it, slice it, and cook it, and about then any one who expects it served too, is gonna get hurt! +We need to be mothers and self reliant, smart and less concerned with being female, we get bombarded with marketing showing us as intelligent and capable, and I think what we are losing touch with is OUR feminine side. It’s not men who need to get in touch with theirs, it’s women who need to refind theirs. Things like pleasures and relaxing and enjoyment of sensuality and feminity don’t fit well with being super Mom and upper management execs. +So what we want from men, hasn’t really changed that much, we just almost forget what we want, and in that, maybe what we need is to be reminded we are women, and ladies, and lovers and friends and sexual creatures. +Once upon a time, men so feared women’s sexuality, and that it would lead to promiscuity and disloyalty that they, you guys, took it away from women. You did, you taught us not to want it, that it was bad to want it, and that only THOSE kind of women did want it, and it’s message comes through early and consistently. Ladies sit like this, ladies don’t swear, ladies do this…and blondes have more fun! +So we want masculine men, period, we all do, we love your maleness, it appeals to our femaleness on a primal level. But with that, we have to have the time and the inclination to shift from our daily living as mothers and car pool drivers and business people, and for that we need romance or gentleness. We need to be understood, that actually we do love being sexual, we just can’t remember that at times. So we need to be reminded gently. +We need to be believed in, we desperately need to be loved, and held and stroked and petted. Just like men do. We need to be included in your lives, as something important. We need to matter more than going fishing on Saturdays or to the gym or even to work. We need to be able to talk to you, to tell you things without being afraid you’ll be hurt or won’t listen too. Things like our fantasies and our hopes and dreams, even our feelings. +It’s not that hard to do even, dedicate a song to us on a radio station, agree to listen to the same radio station together at certain times of the day. Bring a flower home for no specific reason, even pick one and bring it in, small things touch us, things that say I think about you, or even I had this spontaneous thought of you, and you matter. Send a post card on a business trip from the airport, that says If something should ever happen to me, I want you to know how much I love you. Things like that, are what we want and need. +Do the dishes once, and say, Let me, your tired. Arrange to send the kids away one evening and surprise me with a dinner out, or a dinner in, or just pizza and you! Take time to reach our feminine side, and make us want to reach out to you, is about all it takes. +Sexual technique is great it is, and women do take more to warm up then men do. Men externalize sex and internalize feelings, and women internalize sex and externalize feelings, so when you guys don’t talk and don’t say and don’t argue, we take it to be indifference and lack of caring. Because to us, we’d say something! +But in seventh grade, I looked up, intercourse in the dictionary, in that curious stage of what is this stuff, ooh, and was terribly disappointed to learn the definition was a conversation, well, in someways, that is about all one really needs to know about sex. It is communication, physical, emotional, intellectual, primal and basic, communication between people who so love and so care for each other that they need to unite as one. And if you keep that in mind, the rest is pretty easy. Without communication, physical, verbal, or written, we are separate entities. And it has to start somewhere, before it can reach all. +Most women’s fantasies do revolve around being ravished and taken, swept off their feet, made to be sexually uninhibited, and they are away to get past those societal bonds we’ve all had placed on us, and they feel very very wrong to have. But they’re real. They are. And they are a way to deal with things like inhibitions. But to get to those, we have to trust you really do want to know, it’s not going to be misunderstood, or lead to places we really don’t want to go, and that you actually love us for being sexual. That good girl thing again. We have been taught, good girls get, and bad girls oooh, get left behind. +We’ve learned about each other on TV, and movies, and through marketing hype? Through articles written by people who don’t know and don’t even like, the other sex, and through negativity. We’ve learned sexuality is overrated and unnecessary and can be evil, that men are bad, men need to be tamed and civilized, men are too primnal, they’re tough and mean, and you men aren’t! And we women aren’t all witches either…and I guess what we all need is a little private time, to explore each other, be attentive, listen with our hearts and eyes, and hear with our souls. Take the time to enjoy our trip together, and each other, and the differences, and when an orgasm is the only goal, well, we miss a lot of the joy of the trip, and we often don’t get where we want to go that way. +What we want is to be part of you and your lives. We want appreciation shown and verbalized, we want regular reminders that you care, and we want to know that to you, sex is about showing feelings, and the rest should pretty much fall into place. Or it did at my house. +Hope this helps! + +" +905,What Women Want,oldr_betr,How To,2012-12-11,2012-12-11,2022-01-04 08:41:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-women-want-2,Essay on how to please your partner.,"['Advice On Women', 'Pleasing You Partner', 'Relationship Advice', 'Sex Advice']",4.06,"In my experience, the kind of guy who writes an essay entitled ""What Women Want"" has been to bed with lots of women -- maybe a hundred or more. I haven't. I've petted and played with a few in high school and college, but I've actually fucked exactly three; the number between 2 and 4, and I was married to two of those. +How presumptuous of me to write this essay when I have so little experience. It's not necessarily my experience I base this on, but the experience of the women I've known. My ex-wife screwed around on me. (Hence, the term ""ex-wife"") Before I acknowledged this and did something about it, she began to tell me what a great lover I was. She told me I had a gorgeous dick, but she was a nurse and got to see some dicks. She had an orgasm every time we screwed and sometimes two. I appreciated the complements, but since we were both virgins when we met, I wondered how she was able to make the comparison. +I mentioned she was a nurse so she felt the need to fuck a couple of doctors (at least two, maybe more) and I was better than they were -- not much surprise there. I find most doctors to be personality and socially challenged. I'm big on loyalty, so when she betrayed me, I split. In the process, I took up with a woman who had some real experience. I was number 25 or 26 or 27(she couldn't remember) and she was 10 years younger. She had fucked her two husbands, a guy in a wife swap, a guy she went to the Caribbean with and knew for a total of a week, a guy she worked with who slept on her couch and smoked pot every night, a guy she worked with who was married, a telephone repairman who was married and whose wife left him because of the affair, her brother-in- law, her ex husband after he remarried, and several others. This girl liked to fuck and didn't spend many nights alone. As with the ex, she told me time and again, that I was the best. You are likely thinking, ""so?"" Of course she told you that, she told everyone that. Maybe she did tell all the guys, but she told her girlfriends, several of whom were also into recreational sex. This lead to some problems because a couple of them made moves on me and it got pretty tense at times. +Finally, I married wife number 2 and for her I was number 7 in terms of actually fucking and number 9 in terms of blowjobs. She's still with me and tells me I have the best looking dick she has ever seen and that I am the best lover she has ever had, by far. Since we are both in our 60's and have been married for over 20 years, I tend to believe she's telling me the truth. +Therefore, what do women want? Well, women like to fuck. It's in their DNA. How will humans procreate the race if men and women don't fuck each other? It's simple science. Accepting that women like to fuck, it's important to make the experience one they enjoy because, and here is a key point, the more they enjoy the experience, the better you will enjoy it. If you want to get a really good piece of pussy -- make sure she has a good time. +Let me explain a little further. Women like to fuck; they do not like to be fucked with. Treat them with respect and affection and it will be returned. One way to let them know how important they are is to show them your hard-on. When I'm ready to screw, I let my wife know I'm erect. I may just put her hand the front of my jeans so she can feel it, or walk around in my bikini underwear with my dick straining to get out, or just walk up on her naked and say, ""Look what you're doing to me."" She (and most women) get hot when they know they have to power to get your blood from your brain to your dick. +Keep your dick looking nice. I shave mine -- the shaft, my balls, and an area of pubic hair around my dick. When she gives you a blowjob, she wants your dick her mouth -- not a bunch of hair. +Find out what she wants out of sex. It may be different every time. Sometimes women just want to cuddle. You can fuck them and you can cum, but they just want to be held. If that's the case, go along with it. Don't insist they have an orgasm. +Maybe, on a different occasion, she wants it a little rough. Possibly she wants to be spanked and fucked hard. No matter how tired you are, oblige. +There are a number of toys out there that do a great job of bringing a woman to an orgasm. For example, the popular ""rabbit"" has a short dick that rotates in her pussy while a vibrator stimulates her clit at a range of speeds. She will explode with this thing. If that's what she wants, do it. The machine will enhance her experience and she will be so turned on, you will have your brains fucked out. +If she wants you to eat her pussy or pinch her nipples or suck her toes -- do it. You'll enjoy it and she will make sure you have a good time. I've covered her pussy with chocolate syrup and eaten it; I've put a plastic sheet on the bed and greased us both down with warm baby oil and we slid all over each other as we fucked. +If she's into games or a little light bondage, go with it. Don't be impatient. Let her get hot they way she wants to. If she wants you to watch her masturbate, watch. I've blind folded her and tied her hands to the bed. Then I nibble on her tits, kiss her stomach and lick her pussy while I also give her drinks of champagne. Then I stick my dick in the champagne and she licks it off -- still blindfolded and bound. When we finally fucked, she had an orgasm that shook the house. +Many women I have not fucked but have talked with about sex like to show off. I believe (and I could be wrong) that a large percentage of women are at least closet exhibitionists. If yours likes to show off, don't get jealous -- get hard. It can be a real turn on to have other people notice the one you're going to take home and fuck. If that's what she wants, let her have her fun. Maybe she wants to do it outdoors with a chance of getting caught. And what if you are caught? Big deal. Most people will love it and go home and fuck like bunnies themselves. +Let her pick the porn. If she wants to watch or read a little something to get going, let her decide. What guys like may not be what she likes. Remember your goal -- to get her so hot and so wet all she can think about is fucking you so let her decide how she gets there. +Lot's of women like to give blowjobs. They like the oral gratification and the idea that they control when you cum. If your partner swallows your cum and then wants to kiss you -- do it. She just took your dick in her mouth and then let you cum all over her mouth, tongue, and throat -- and you won't kiss her? It's just cum. If it doesn't hurt her, it won't hurt you and she will remember you were willing to kiss her with your cum in her mouth -- it is some kind of a turn on. +To reiterate, women like to fuck but don't like to be fucked with. Treat her with respect and affection, let her have what she wants in bed and you will have pussy for life." +906,When It's Over,bewindsor,How To,2006-06-15,2006-06-15,2022-01-04 08:42:04,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/when-its-over,The 5 Stages of Grieving the Loss of a Relationship.,"['Being Dumped', 'Break Up', 'End Of Relationship', 'Grieving']",4.66,"**When It's Over: The 5 Stages of Grieving the Loss of a Relationship** +Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, the time comes when we realize that the relationship is over. Sometimes this is a mutual decision and others the choice of only one. Rest assured though, if you have been in this relationship for any length of time, both people are experiencing a form of loss to varying degrees. Typically, we view this time as an ending. The chapter has concluded and now it is time to turn the page. +Turning the page on a particularly deep relationship, especially if you were not ready for it to end, is often hard. We, the one left behind, ask ourselves many questions laden with self-doubt. Our ego has taken quite a hit and now we are left with a swirl of questions, and often, few immediate answers. Friends or family will tell us the old, worn-out saying, ""There are plenty of fish in the sea"", but at this point in our lives we don't want ""other fish"". We want ""the fish"" that we may well have believed was the ""big catch"" we had been fishing for and finally caught. Though our friends mean well, they are pushing us to move too quickly past what can be a time of healing and self-discovery. +Modern psychology tells us the second most intense life stress (after death) is divorce or loss of a love relationship. The feelings of excruciating pain, loss, and depression are real emotions not to be ignored, buried, or minimized. We must allow our emotions to run their course if we are ever going to regain our ability to get on with our lives. +Though you may not realize it, you are grieving and that grief is perfectly healthy and normal. +Everyone deals with grief differently. Some people cry. Some people bond with their anger and scream until their throat is sore. Some of us crawl into bed and try to sleep the pain away. Some withdraw from social settings and others over eat. What we are all clearly in search of is to experience some form of comfort during a time when it seems like nothing will ever makes us feel safe and secure again. A great love has left us and we don't expect to get over it; ever. +David Kessler and Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in their book, On Death and Dying, provided the modern psychological world with a widely accepted model of the five stages of grief. Below is my personal adaptation of these stages as it pertains to the loss of a relationship: +1\. Denial +The body's natural defense system works to protect us from threatening situations during the initial stages. You may find yourself operating on ""cruise control"". You are going through the normal, everyday activities of your life, but you are only vaguely aware of what is happening. You are, in all actuality, only ""going through the motions"". It is common to expect him or her to call or show up at any time and this whole situation will be explained as a simple misunderstanding. +2\. Anger +This is the beginning of the heartache. You will allow your anger to rage. You might rehash details of the relationship over and over again questioning everything that was said or done. You might beat yourself up over ever allowing yourself to get involved with ""any one like that"" in the first place. +3\. Bargaining +It is common in this stage to rehash the past, but not in the way you did before. Now you are reliving the good times and often with rose-colored glasses. You remember the good times and you begin to view the bad times as not that bad after all. Here you may find yourself plotting ways to get your lover back, but often by sacrificing your needs. You might think, ""If I could just get him to take me back, I will never be jealous about his affairs again."" +4\. Depression +Your anger and scheming has finally subsided and now you have hit bottom. This is, with out a doubt, the most painful stage. Here you will question if you can ever be happy again. The finality of the situation has set in to your mind. It is over and now you know it. Often, this stage is where the feelings of loss and hopelessness are strongest. +5\. Acceptance +Time can heal all wounds, but time alone will not be enough. During this stage, we come to grips with the raging tide of emotions. We have ended the internal struggle and have completed the healing process of grief. +If you have recently ended an intensely emotional relationship, you should see yourself within one of these five stages right now. It is important to remember that the emotions you are feeling are natural. You are emotionally healing. Embrace this time and allow yourself to move steadily through each stage. +You should be aware that continuing to struggle with your grief may cause you to remain within one stage for an extended period of time and even cause you to fall back into an earlier stage. As is always the case with human beings, everyone is different. You may progress quickly or you may linger in each stage far longer than you would like. Whatever the case, it is important not to put a time limit on yourself. Your mind and body will know when it is time to move on and forcing yourself to move on before they are ready can lead to further complications. +Facing the end of a love relationship is difficult to say the least. But, it is my sincere hope that you will find comfort in knowing that the overwhelming range of emotions you are experiencing are completely normal, healthy and most importantly temporary. +And so the chapter has finished. It's ok to pause and collect your thoughts. It is not the end of the book. Ahead of you lie many more pages of joy, fulfillment, and adventure. When you are ready, you will turn the page and whole new chapter will begin." +907,When You Share Your Wife,Tabbisfull,How To,2015-07-06,2015-07-06,2022-01-04 08:42:05,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/when-you-share-your-wife,What you should know about your wife with others.,"['Cum In My Wife', 'Fuck My Wife', 'Hot Wife', 'Shared Wife', 'Slut Wife', 'Swinging', 'Wife Cheats', 'Wife Fucks', 'Wife Sharing']",4.3,"In continuation of our series about How to Share your Wife, we would like to share a few more experiences that lad us to this erotic lifestyle. My wife has decided to share her personal thoughts as well. In our prior ""How To"" I shared a few of the games we played that eventually resulted in my wife sleeping with a friend. I'm going to get right in to a few more. +Be prepared: +Once you let it be known that you are turned on about sharing your wife, the men will tell you some things some things you may not have thought about. They feel the liberty to say anything they wish about your wife. It may shock at first a little, but it should become a turn on quickly. That is if you are truly in to them having sex with your wife. +My friend has become bold and frank about what he likes and wants with my wife. He has asked me to shave her pussy smooth for him. He has also sent her home shaved once when she had let a little grow. Rick also likes talking about his meaty dick and Tabi's tight little pussy. He has asked out right if he could come over to fuck Tabi. It's a turn on when he calls and sends texts about his plans with my wife. +Tabi is submissive with Rick. That's part of what she likes about being shared. He can make her be naughty in ways that I could never. He made her let a guy in a coffee house see her panties by pulling her dress up high on her lap. Another time he made her pull her panties down in front of another friend. He pushes the limits sometimes. He tells me what he would like to make her do. Rick gets off on showing her off even though she is my wife. He once told me that he was going to make her let another friend fuck her in front of him. She said she isn't going to do that, but I think she has already done something similar. I know when he made her pull her panties down in front of our friend he also made her let him touch her. Rick got off on that. Rick watched a little then took her to the patio and fucked her where the guy could see my wife being fucked. That was kind of a quickie. After Rick finished in her, he brought her right back in to hang out with him and his friend. +Rick is the one who tells me most of these things. Tabi usually doesn't volunteer much unless I ask. She answers with more detail when she is in the mood. They are short answers when she isn't horny. For example, Rick has texted me saying that he just was with Tabi I get home and ask, ""Hey Baby, How was your day?"" When he has worn her out and she had good orgasms, she says something like, ""Oh, it was pretty good."" And she tries to leave it at that. On the other hand, I have asked the same question and her answer is, ""Well, Rick had your little wife today."" Or ""Well, your friend had me today."" When she talks like this, I know she is in a naughty mood. She has recently discovered the husband after thing. She will get with me while she is still messy. She is very talky when she does this. +If you are serious about your wife dating your friends and or other men, be prepared. Most wives will enjoy this promiscuity even if you have to lead her there. My wife had no idea. She was even afraid at first. Once she allowed herself in the position to be romanced and seduced, she gave in to her desires. I had to provide assistance by setting up times for it to be convenient for her to cheat if she wanted. +Although my wife is now open about her cheating, she still prefers the cheating alone style over me being there. I wasn't prepared this first time I saw my wife getting it. I was somewhat shocked, but not completely. My friend had told me what he did with her, but it was a few months before I actually saw my wife getting laid. What I saw didn't fit the description of what I had been told. The first time it happened in our house with me here, I looked in from outside the room. She was aware I was there and was kind of tame. It truly appeared as if she was more or less allowing my fried to do it to her. I actually wondered if she was in to it at all, or was she just doing it. Later I was able to watch without her being aware. She was completely different than what I had seen the first time. Without her knowing I was there, she was all in to it even asking for it. Even begging. +I figured it out. She didn't mind me knowing that she was sleeping with my friend, but she was shy about me knowing how much she loved it and what she really enjoyed doing. The next time I saw her being fucked, I arranged again so that she didn't know I was watching. This was a completely different experience. It was much more intense than I had anticipated. It was crazy erotic and gut wrenching at the same time. I now understand why she prefers the privacy. +If you want to watch your wife, especially without her knowing, be prepared. I had to watch my wife as the passion began. I watched her initiate passionate kissing. She was actually the one starting the play. I watched my wife as she undid his pants while she was kissing him. I saw her giggly as she asked him, ""How do you want me today?"" It was terribly obvious that she was in the mood and wanted to be fucked. It's awakening to see your wife wanting it so much. +Some things she said drove a nail in my stomach until my dick took over the thinking. I had to hear her say things like, ""Take my clothes off!"" Some of the things I will never forget: +""Please lick me; then take my shoes off."" +""What do you want to do to me?"" +""Please put it in me."" +""Hold my feet open."" +And eventually, ""Do what you want to do to me; I want it; I want to be your toy."" +My wife generally does not curse, but she even let out a few, ""FUCK ME!"" +Her verbal and her actions painted a different picture. I learned that cheating was her opportunity to have completely uninhibited raw animalistic sex. I had to watch him enter her from behind with her screaming from extasy. He laid her face down across our bed with her legs together. He then straddled her and entered her pussy from behind. She curled her toes as she kicked her little feet while he pounded in to her. I listened to her beg and encourage him as it appeared that he was punishing her with sex. It even sounded like a little crying laced in with the screaming and begging as he drove his manhood into my wife. I had never seen her like this and had no idea she had this in her. +When she felt that he was about to come, she begged, ""Don't come out; Don't pull it out of me. Come inside me. I want it in me. Come in me please. I want to keep it in me."" +Of course he did. He came inside my wife's little pussy like she was his to come in. When he finished inseminating my wife didn't pull out instantly. After catching her breath, she hopped up to the side of the bed and took him in her mouth. She has never done anything remotely close like this with me. I could see cum on his dick, and she was licking it and swallowing it. +She kissed him down there and told him that he didn't have to leave yet. She clearly wanted more, because she hadn't come yet. She still had a begging tone. I saw cum drip when she pulled up her panties. She pulled over a shirt, but that was all she wore for him as she admitted to wanting more after a short rest. They talked about when they could get together again and about him spending the night with her. She added, ""You can take me away overnight if you want."" +Soon the talk had reached them both, and he was back in her. She was clearly determined to come this time. She touched herself as he fucked her. Then she got on top of him and did most of the fucking. She lap rode him several minutes. Then she when she was about to cum, she leaned forward on him. She went for a kiss, but she was so out of control of her body that she dripped slobber in his face. Her little body started twitching as it sounded like she was starving for breath. Her toes curled and her feet kicked as she had her orgasm on his dick. He was releasing his sperm in her as she finished her convulsing. They kissed when she caught her breath. +They talked a little. Shortly they were getting dressed. Again, I saw cum drip in to her panties as she pulled them up. She got dressed all except for her shoes, and he dressed to leave. +She looked so hot with her I just got fucked look. I let him get out the door, before I came in. She was a little nervous probably because it was obvious that she had just been fucked. I didn't bring it up as I let her rest maybe fifteen or twenty minutes. That was truly hot. She didn't know that I had watched, but knew that I knew she had just been laid. She didn't resist when I started loving on her. She pulled her panties to the side when she got on me to ride my face. Some cum had dripped in her panties, and some was on her just fucked messy pussy. She wanted her pussy eaten. Cum came out of her as I licked her clit and tongued her pussy. I could smell the sex she had enjoyed with my friend. I tried not to swallow any cum, but some of it got past my tongue. I then pinned her down face down like he had her and fucked her hard as I could. It was like punishment sex and makeup sex all in one. I made her tell me naughty things like how she wanted me to let others fuck her. I reached under her and touched her as I pounded to let her cum. She didn't put on quite the show that I witnessed with her and Rick, but I could feel her pussy contract and flood even more. I came in her when she started making squeaky noises. +We talked about her and Rick a little that afternoon, but she couldn't take any more fucking that day. She had dresses again without cleaning up. I took my wife and her just fucked little body out for pizza. It seemed like everyone was looking at her, because she had that I just got fucked look." +908,Where the Bunny Hops,MSTarot,How To,2013-03-21,2013-03-21,2022-01-04 08:42:05,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/where-the-bunny-hops,How to get story ideas mating like rabbits.,"['Plot Bunnies', 'Story Ideas']",4.73,"Stories? Writing them is what we are here for. To practice the trade and art of putting pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard. Drawing from out of our back brains ideas that other will find worth the time it takes to read. +But where do they come from? What's a good source? +Well life of course. Don't try to draw them from a vacuum. Pull them instead from the dark corners of you mind. The place where you hid that jelly sandwich when you were a kid. +Some people will say 'well that's easy to say'. +Okay. I'll give an example. In 1975 my mother was dating a guy and broke up with him when she met someone she liked better. A man that became my stepfather till I was 12. +The man she broke up with took exception to this, got some of his friends together, and decided to run my mom's new boyfriend off the road and beat him up. The problem was that the night they tried this on my Mom's car wasn't running right. Something with the brakes if I remember. +So my Mom and me were in his car and he was in hers. The old boyfriend ran my Mom and me off the road into a ditch. I still remember getting thrown into the dashboard when he rammed the back of the car I was in with his car! It was before the days of baby seat. I was only four years old at the time. +My step dad, to be, skidded to a stop jumped out the car and ran back to check on us. That's when Mom's old boy friend jumped him. +My mom grabbed me up, ran to her car, and drove back home like mad. She ran inside told my grand father what was happening and off he and my two uncles went then to stop the fight. +The story that came back to me was that my grandfather stepped out his truck and unloaded a 357 into the trunk of their car! +So what does this have to do with stories? I've just given you one of the main scenes from my story ""It's complicated part 2"" I need a confrontation between the main character and her old boy friend and it was right there in my memories just perfect for the story. +Then you have the man that she married and latter divorced when I was 12. He has a younger sister that I fell in love with but never did anything about. Well what if I had? That what I wrote about in the first part of that story series. +Two little moments of my own past and boom, Two of my very highest scored stories. +So your own memories are a good source. +What's another? +Look inside yourself and find the things that you are passionate about. They make for great plot bunnies if you feed them enough carrots and lettuce. +I feel very strongly about the homeless, I love the sound of a cello and I think chubby women are sexy as hell. That almost the whole plot for the story ""Heart strings."" That and a coffee commercial was the inspiration. +I love the tall sailing ships of the past and the modern ones as well. The women of the south pacific have an exotic dark beauty and innocence to them that I find sexy. The story I wrote called 'Aurora.' is nothing more or less than those two things put into a story with a very simple main character. +Okay well let's say you have lived under a rock for your whole life, don't have a lot of memories, and don't feel passionate about anything. I won't believe it for a moment but lets just suppose you that person. +Talk to others around you. I promise someone's done something that worth writing a story about that you know. You might, given that we write erotica, not tell them the character is them...maybe you might not want then to read it at all. +A guy I work with got thrown out his house by his girl friend. Yea I wrote that right. His girlfriend threw him out his own house! He ended up sleeping by a 55 gallon drum with a fire burning in it that night to keep warm. The people in the neighborhood gather there to play dominoes and cards, drink and swap bullshit stories all night long so he was safe enough. +Now I haven't made a story from that yet but I can hear it screaming Write me! +Also it may be a bit of a strange conversation but talk to someone of the older generations about their sex life when they were your age, or younger. They can give you an earful that will fill pages of Lit story space. Theirs was the sexual revolution generation, the pre-hippie days of leather coats and making out in the back of cars. The, I'm home from the war with something soap and water wont wash off what do I do now type stories. +The best things you can write about are also the worst things. Don't go looking for sunshine and flowers. How about a story set in the Jewish ghetto of Warsaw Poland in the time of the German occupation. Maybe brother/sister incest story? Wow talk about a powerful story you could write there. Beats the hell out of trapped in a snowed in cabin with your sister. Yet it's almost the same story. Family not there, scared, dangerous outside, needing comfort. +Same story different setting, much more powerful read. +We have a tendency to repeat as writers what got us acclaim before. There is nothing wrong with that. Even the big named writers do the same kind of thing. They write what sells. Well we're not getting paid here but we write what gets us votes. +You can't be fired! +Try something new. Maybe not every story you write has to be off the wall different from what you do as your norms but give it a try. Find a topic that you know noting about. Do a bit of research; dig up a moment from your own past or someone elses. Add a bit of passion about what ever gets your heart pumping. Throw all this together with a hot sex scene, or two or four and who knows. You might just have a story that's interesting to the person that doesn't have their dick in their hand when they're reading. +If your favorite category is incest and you write mother son stories mostly...well it's not that much of a stretch to write a mature story. If you can do a mature with some feeling in it above the waistline that's a romance. Maybe instead of son/ mom try mother/ daughter. Then older woman, younger woman mature. Then your drop a few years and your writing lesbian lovers. +Now was that such a stretch? Sure your not wring about a cross-dressing gay black guy getting used without his consent while his wife watches and it's being filmed by a famous movie star but it's a start. +Lord if that wouldn't be a story there. Lol. +You're a self-employed writer and not making a dime here with your stories. You're giving them away for free. That's fine. Some of the best writer didn't get rich. You just have to remember something. There is no Complaints Department except to yourself +I can't find my Muse? +Did you leave it in your other pants? +I've got writer's block! +Try prune juice. Maybe the time on the toilet thinking will help you get some ideas. If nothing else the lessening of pressure on your brain might help! +Get angry! Get mad as hell about something. Write about it. The Westwood Baptist church pisses me off! I want to write a non-consent style celebrity story where Fred Phelps gets gang banged by a gay motorcycle club while protesting a military funeral. +Find what gets you hot under the collar and write about it. You will never have a better source of story fodder than that. Yea you may make some people not like you but are you being paid to be liked? Hell you're not even being paid! +Well if your not being paid why are you doing it? To write better? To entertain? To please your fans? To have fun? +Well of course it's all of those and many more. So right now the only person that can tell you what to write is you, (and an Anon that doesn't like what your doing anyway) Change it up. Push your comfort zone to the edge then jump. What's the worst you can have happen? You have a story in your list that has a bad score? You never know it could turn out to be your biggest hit! +And don't just look for stories ideas in what you like. +In you normal day to day life your, lets say, a Lesbian. The idea of writing a story with a guy girl scene turns your stomach a bit. Okay. +How about a Loving Wives story where the wife is cheating on her husband with another woman? You would see the flames from that one in space! +Gay man writing a straight story? Do it from the girl's point of view. You have an inside track on what it's like to give a man oral sex. I have to wrap my head around a lamp post to try to figure that one out and you know what it's like from your own sex life. You know what attracts you to a man, a woman probably feel very similar feelings. Use that knowledge to make you stories better. You also know probably more about anal sex than most straight writers can imagine. +There will always be those story ideas that someone wont like. There will be the ones that get you commented out of one category and into another. Well okay, that's fine. You're not running for election. They can't stop you from writing a single word let alone a hundred stories. Have a good time. Piss someone off if that's your thrill. +Hone your skills as a writer. Keep an idea's book in your pocket with a little pencil stub. Jot down the ideas when they come. Anything at all. See a TV commercial use that. A bill board on the side of the road.(don't do it while driving) A plot from a bit of someone elses conversation that made you think, what if. +Still no ideas? Okay well lets look into the past. +History is a million stories that you can take bit and pieces from to your hearts content. Hell maybe not even a bad source for a celebrities story. A little bit of fact some of the greatest painters used prostitutes as models for nude paintings. I can smell more than oil paints there. +The only, if you want to call it that, obstacle to that type of story is the amount of research you have to do to make it accurate. +Or do you? Take the idea and make it modern. A struggling painter hires a hooker for the night to model for him. He's a virgin who's never seen a woman naked. She offers to help relieve some of his nervous tension. Why not he's already paid her. +You can find some good ideas even by looking through the story log here on Lit. Just taking an idea from a writer isn't plagiarism. Hell a famous writer once said there are no new stories just retelling of old ones. Need an idea for cross-dressing? Read you about ten or twenty of the stories on here. A strange way of spending an afternoon admittedly but you couldn't help but find your story idea in there somewhere. +Finally the closest source for ideas you would find would be the sites own Story Ideas forum. There are people on there begging someone to write this or that type of story. +Using the same idea again and again may give you more of a following. They will know that they can read just the type of story they like in everyone of your works. You will have a large group singing your praises. But will you be improving your ability as a write? A little maybe. But not to the extent that you could be. +So chase that white rabbit down the rabbit hole. See just how far down it goes. You could very well find yourself with the best story you every wrote." +909,Whipping Your Characters Into Shape,Noira,How To,2011-01-29,2011-01-29,2022-01-04 08:42:06,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/whipping-your-characters-into-shape,Those darn characters insist on having minds of their own!,"['Characters', 'Misery', 'Motivation', 'Satire', 'Writing']",4.64,"In the wonderful world of novel creation there happen to be a number of pieces required to make the novel come together. As well as a healthy dose of plot, setting, and premise, the entire story almost always hinges upon the actions of the characters. Unfortunately for many budding authors, characters are not always the most cooperative beings in existence, as we all very well know. We're not mad, it's just those characters being the stubborn little bitches that they are! But for your sake, here is an article on how to get your characters and keep them in line. +Step one: Write a story! Sure, you might have characters wandering around in your head, but what good is keeping them in line if you don't have any reason to be controlling them and their urges. If they're just lounging around in the depths of your mind and drinking beer while you're doing absolutely nothing, there's no point in getting them to cooperate. They're just extensions of your imagination, as much as you may sometimes feel otherwise. Once you've gotten started on the story, that's where the real trouble begins, anyway. There's this thing called a plot and often times, the cast doesn't want to cooperate with the devious wiles of a world gone mad... at least, not the way you want them to. +So get writing. Whether or not you're an outliner, you're going to find that you require at least some notion of the direction of the plot, or your story will epically crash and burn. Generally once you're a few chapters in and the story's hinging on a critical moment, then you're going to find the problems begin. Joe doesn't want to fuck Cindy, because he's decided he's gay and damned if he's going anywhere near that women. And also, he crossdresses. And his father is trying to fuck Cindy as well, but since his father traveled forward in time he is younger and hotter than Joe. +Cindy isn't interested, and she's decided to take up a career in knitting, never mind that it's never going to support her and her illegitimate daughter. And that daughter of hers? She's a whore... who's trying to... take over... the universe? What? Really? And Deva was supposed to be evil! +Now that your story is in a nice, neat tangle, nowhere near the outline you'd initially created... now you need to get them back on track. +Step two: Find out the weaknesses of your characters. What makes them tick? Addictions? Love? Family? If you didn't start your story knowing these things, get busy. Make a list of all of the myriad of things you can use to get into their minds in revenge. If they're going to kick around in your head while trying to do things you really don't want them doing, you need blackmail, and that requires a decent amount of knowledge of the character you're trying to control. +Find out what their motives are, who they love, and what they want most in life. Find out who they hate, find out who their nemesis is, find out whether their grandmother is dying of cancer. +Then destroy them. +Step three: Pile up a soul-crushing load of misery upon your character. If they're not going to cooperate with the plot, the least you can do is make their lives absolute and utter hell. Kill their loved ones. Have the mafia show up and take their children hostage. Inflict them with erectile dysfunction and an uncontrollable aura of sexiness when they are absolutely unable to do a damn thing about it. Drop them naked in the snow on a cliff and inform them that they're not getting their smokes unless they hook up with Cindy and they do it now. +Disregard the voice in your head suggesting that at this point you may possibly be unhealthily obsessed with your characters. It's not your fault they came to life in your mind. It's your job as the writer to keep them constrained. You are the master and they're your bitches. +Make their lives absolute misery. +Step four: Once you've managed to successfully make your character's lives miserable, offer them a chance to get out of the soul-crushing pile of horrible, soul-crushing misery... if only they cooperate with you. +If this works, congratulations! Your story is now on track. +Chances are by this point, though, your characters absolutely hate you. That's okay. You have tons of creativity left. Simply shove them off of a cliff and make new ones. No one will notice if you find and replace Joe with Bob. No one but their loved ones. +Step five: But you like your characters and you don't want to destroy them. Well, whoop-de-doo. Fine, then. It's up to you to gain a love of character torment. If they're not going to cooperate but you can't make yourself end the torrid affair with figments just too real for their own damn good, the only option is to make their lives hell, and get off on it. +If you can't get back to the original story, the character torment is likely to be interesting in its own right. +Step six: Alternatively, you can simply write an outline before you start and, when your characters start coming to life on their own, you can ignore them and just keep writing. This is the best way to keep a story on the initial train track, but it does prevent interesting evolution as your characters bring themselves to life and introduce you to their history, present, and future. +A little bit of indulgence in un-outlined writing may introduce new lines to your story you never imagined, and your imagination itself will carry you past writer's block... at the cost of a few mentally traumatized characters and the ever-present wonder: am I really still sane?" +910,White Wives with Black Men,PolySwingerWife,How To,2021-05-25,2021-05-25,2022-01-04 08:42:07,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/white-wives-with-black-men,"Why, How, and What To Do.","['Husband', 'Interracial', 'Men', 'White Wives', 'Wife']",3.49,"Do many white husbands want their wives to have sex with black men? The answer to that questions is often an overwhelming Yes. Not all couples get into interracial, but many do. I personally do not care if the men I have sex with are black or white, Mexican or any other race. Many cuckold husbands prefer their wives to only have sex with black men. My husband has that preference as well, but he also likes seeing me have sex with well-hung white men. +My husband says that the reason he likes to see me have sex with black men is that he grew up in a predominantly black area and grew up watching black men having sex with white women. A cuckold husband that we know told me the reason he prefers his wife to have sex with black men is that black men are usually bigger cocked and can last longer than many white men. +Every husband is going to have his own reason for wanting his wife to have sex with black men. In our case, we have found that more often black men do not mind having sex with a white woman in groups. Because I enjoy being gang banged, this works for us. +Many husbands want their wives to have sex for their own sexual pleasure, but the opposite is true. Many men love their wives so much that they want their wives to have the best sex possible. Many cuckold husbands see black men as being superior, sexually, because more often than not black men are in better physical condition and often have very large cocks. Not all black men are extremely well endowed, but from my experience, I have found that many are. +If you are like most women, you see a very large cock as scary. And with good reason. That is not to say that there aren't women out there who prefer larger cocks. Many women do. That is something that is going to be as unique as you are. And the longer you are a HotWife, the more you will want larger cocked men. Many cuckold men see a larger cock as being able to sexually please a woman more. And sometimes that is true, as long as the man who owns this larger cock knows how to use it. +I have had sex with innumerable black men. Some of them have left me sore for days afterward. Because many black men do have amazing stamina, their size, if you are not used to it, can leave you sore, but it is a good soreness because it pleased your husband to see you have sex with a man who had such a big cock. +The good thing about being a Hotwife is that your husband is going to want you to have sex with others, often, and you are going to meet men who are very well sized. I can tell you that the more often you have sex with larger cocked men, the more your body will become accustomed to the larger size. This can take some time, though. +I am not saying that all white men want their wives to have sex with black men, but a good number of them do. Interracial porn is one of the most popular porn types on the Internet. Few men want to watch porn where the women are having sex with small cocked men. Porn stars have large cocks because men like to see women have sex with men who have large cocks. +Some men want their wives to experience the best sex possible. They want the other men to please their wives in ways that they never can. Look at it this way, if your husband is 5"" long and 3"" around when he is erect, a man who is 9"" long and 7"" around is going to go places in you that your husband never will. And your husband wants you and the men you have sex with to experience that. +Many men want to see their wife's vagina stretched as far as it will stretch and filled as full as it can be. I admit that feeling filled is a good feeling, but it does take time to be able to accommodate a much larger cock. You have to be worked up and well lubricated. +A lot of men get too excited and want to get right to the action as soon as they have their cock out of their pants. That is why having lubrication is important. Many times you will want a man to work you up and really get you in the mood, but that is not always going to happen. You need to understand men. They have a chance to get laid and they want to get to it as soon as they can. You may not always have the opportunity to get naturally lubed up. So, always have lube on hand, just in case." +911,Who Wants To Be A Slave?,panthers babe,How To,2004-10-15,2004-10-15,2022-01-04 08:42:08,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/who-wants-to-be-a-slave,What a sub NEEDS to be.,"['Bitch Dog', 'Kitten Slut', 'Make Sense', 'Master Asked', 'Master Slave', 'Master Tells', 'Power Influence', 'Safe Word', 'Slave Master', 'Stop Point']",3.98,"As with all this sluts submissions while she checked the box acknowledging that story belonged to her she readily accepts the fact that she owns nothing and the story, her mind, and her body are owned by Master Panther. +Recently this slut has seen a lot of articles that appear to her and her Master to inappropriately be classified as a Master/slave relationship. This has caused this slave personal sadness when she has been requested to help someone become something she is not. While this slut has never been happier than this cunt is in her current relationship, this slut realizes this lifestyle is not very everyone. +The chances of being hurt or hurting someone else are lessened tremendously if both members of the pair are on the same page. Also it is much easier on a third party being brought into the mix when H/she knows where the people are coming from. Because this slut knows she is a true slave when Master Panther brought in Sir P to help with the training we all were aware of our positions and the relationship has worked out. When Kitten's ""Master"" asked Panther's slut to help train his ""slave"" neither of them were actually at that point in their relationship and therefore both Kitten and this slut were hurt by the misunderstandings that ensued. In order to help keep this from happening to others, Master has asked that this slut share the letter she wrote to kitten asking her to clarify where she was. Maybe this letter can help others decide if they or their partners are role players, subs, or slaves. Knowledge is the most important tool towards acceptance. +Dearest Kitten, Please do not take what this slut is going to say as an insult. It is not meant that way at all. This cunt is speaking totally as both an educator and a slave. this slut feels that you are at a point where you need to make some very important and difficult decisions. Up to this point you have played at being submissive or in you words you have had scenes. This is fine and good and many couples decide they do not want to go any farther than that. +If that works for them this slut says go for it. No one, Master, slave Dom, sub should feel forced into a situation where they are not comfortable. You and your Dom need to make that decision yourselves with no interference. If you decide to stop at this point this slut doesn't know how this cunt can be of help to you, because she doesn't understand the concept of playing at submission it comes so naturally to me but this slut is willing to help in any way she can . This is the point your relationship is at now and if that's as far as you both want to go that is fine but if you want to go further, no want is not the right word, most of us did not WANT to become subs we needed to be in spite of ourselves. If you need to be a sub then you must obey and follow the rules the two of you have decided on. Is this part time or full time? Is anything off limits? what is the safe word? The important difference in a sub and a slave is that a sub does participate in deciding the direction her submission will take. At this point you start to learn that unless an order is in direct violation of one of the rules or you use your safe word immediately you must submit. the only way you can now say I can't is if you use your safe word. +The majority of people who are into D/s relationships stop at this point but there are a few of us who go one step farther and enter a Master/slave relationship this cunt looked up the definition of slavery in the dictionary and it read A person who is held in bondage to another; one who is wholly subject to the will of another; one who is held as a chattel; one who has no freedom of action, but whose person and services are wholly under the control of another. +I went a step further and looked up bondage and chattel, they read +Definition of bondage . A state of subjection to a force, power, or influence +Definition of chattel 1. Any tangible movable property (furniture or domestic animals or a car, etc.); +If you put that all together you get a very clear idea of what you are committing yourself to when you accept your collar +A person who is held in . A state of subjection by force, power, or influence to another, wholly subject to the will of another; one who is held as a tangible movable property (furniture or domestic animals or a car, etc.); one who has no freedom of action, but whose person and services are wholly under the control of another +This slut thinks this is a very clear definition of what exactly you are getting yourself into. Lets look at it from the point of view of a piece of chattel, say a domestic animal or more simply a bitch dog. Would it make any sense for a dog to say I can't come when you call me? of course not a dog can or can not do only what her Master tells her. Likewise a slave can do or not do only what her Master tells her. As for the use of a safe word would it make any sense for a dog to be told if you scratch your nose you will not have to do as I command? of course not the Master knows better than the dog what is good for it. It also makes no sense for a slave to use a safe word the Master knows better then the cunt what is better for her. +Is this whore saying you will lose all your spirit? Absolutely not! When a Master comes home after a day at work the dog is eager to see him and excited about being able to please him and you will be the same. Should you hide your feelings from your Master? No he needs to know exactly what you are feeling so he can better train and use you. Sometimes Master will do something like take the dog for a walk simply because Master needs exercise and it has nothing to do with the dog. Likewise sometimes Master will take and use you just to serve his needs. Many times however Master is trying to do what is right for his bitches. If his bitch dog needs discipline and Master tosses her out in the back yard for punishment only to find she likes being outside what has he accomplished accept for rewarding negative behavior. If he feels the dog deserves a reward and gives her a piece of cheese only to find out she doesn't like cheese has she really been rewarded. +With his human bitch if she is not totally honest with her feelings Master will not know what to use for punishment and what to use for rewards and training will be much more difficult. In both cases the canine bitch and the human one, when she is well trained Master and her can live together happily. This is what it means to me to be a slave. +* * * * * + _Please for your sake, your Master's sake and the sake of any other Masters, Doms, subs, or slaves you come in contact with figure out where you want to be in this pecking order,_ +Write me back with your feelings about what I've written immediately after you've read it AND ALSO after you have talked to your Dom I am very interested in what both of you have to say about this +Panther's slave" +912,Why I Won't Read Your Story,Sailor_Witch,How To,2016-08-05,2016-08-05,2022-01-04 08:42:09,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/why-i-wont-read-your-story,How to get me to not read your story. A letter to authors.,"['Advice', 'Author', 'Better Writing', 'Guide', 'How Not To', 'How To']",,"Dear Literotica authors, +Thank you for writing and sharing your hard work. I think too few people realize what it takes to develop a story and bring it to a point that it is ready for the reading audience. I have read many, many fine stories here on Literotica and I am amazed that there are so many talented people out there who are willing to share their hard work with us for free. +I am writing to tell you how to get me to not read your story. I hope you'll read my words in the spirit that they are offered. That is the spirit of helpfulness. It is not my intention to be critical or unkind. +(Now, after writing this, I have looked back over this letter and found its tone to be somewhat negative sounding. Please believe me when I say that that was not my intention.) +I am not a writer and I do not carry a degree in English journalism or any other such credential that might increase the credibility of what I am going to say. I am simply going to give you my perspective as a reader. If you don't agree with my words, please simply ignore them. Better yet, do what I would do and just stop reading this. That having been said, I hope you will read this and that you find at least some part of it helpful. +I'd like to discuss the categorization of your story, the title and description, the length of the story and the believability of what you write. As I compose this I will add other thoughts as they occur to me. Some of the numbers I will use in talking to you are purposely exaggerated in order to better illustrate the point +Categorization. As a reader, when I go looking for a story to read I first select the category. If your story is a hot story of group sex, I may not find it if it's in the incest category due to having a brother-sister scene during the drunken college party. I realize that some stories span several categories and that probably presents the author a dilemma regarding which category to select when submitting the story. Perhaps Literotica will consider a special category for these stories that ""bleed"" across several categories. +The length of your story. This is a hard one. Each reader has their own taste and each author has their own style. Some like the short stroker stories while others prefer the slower buildup of a long story. Then there is the middle ground where it isn't really a stroker, but it isn't really long either. I like to think that most stories fit this model. Maybe that is because those are the type of stories that I like. (3-7 pages is optimal for my taste) Personally, I never look at the novels and novellas category. I don't want to read a 700 page story even if it has plenty of hot sex interspersed throughout it. On the opposite side of that coin are the one page stories. They usually leave me feeling cheated and left hanging. It's almost like when your DVD movie has an error in the middle and won't continue playing. Now I'm not saying that your story (either short or long) doesn't have merit. If I don't read them, I'm sure that others will. +Speaking of length, (and this is a pet peeve of mine) many authors break their stories into parts and submit them as separate stories. I have no problem with this. I would like to remind you though to think of it like a series of movies. (Sequels and prequels) Nobody is interested in watching the movie ""Rocky 71, the great, great grandson of Rocky has a fight in the schoolyard."" Likewise, if you are writing chapter 54 of your story, give it a rest already! +Television series are another good example. You know the ones I'm talking about. I'm thinking of the shows like ""House of Cards"" where each episode builds on the previous ones. These show series' usually do fairly well for the first two seasons and marginally well the third season. By the fourth season, the script writers are stretching a bit and the whole story/series suffers. It's the same with your chapter stories on Literotica. Let one story end and then start a new one. Don't try to milk twenty chapters out of a five chapter story. That just gets too far from the origins of the story and frankly, it's boring. +If you really feel a need to write that many chapters, please put them in the novels and novellas category. When I look at the list of stories and see a chapter number greater than six, it's pretty unlikely that I'll give it a first glance and nearly impossible that I'm going to give it a second. Remember the movies thing? How anxious would you be to go see the sixth movie in a series? I'm betting it would have to be an exceptionally well written, acted and directed movie along with the five that came before it. Few movies measure up to that standard. Does your story? Yes, I'll admit that I have read some seriously long sets of chapter stories, but that is the exception rather than the rule. +Now let me talk a bit about the title and description of your story. I see on the site that Literotica staff may sometimes change the title of your submission. I have no idea how often this actually happens. But for the purpose of this letter, let's assume that you have the control. Your title is the first hook. If I see an interesting title, I look closer to see if I want to read the story. I would remind you that a title starting with certain words causes them to be one of many in the list that all start the same. +For example, a story title that starts with ""A' or ""The"" or ""One"" will be one of several dozen on the page listing stories that one can read. I'm sure that you can find other words that would be good to avoid having as the first word of your title as well. When I get to these sections in the list, (three pages of titles starting with the word ""The"") I just skip right over them. Surely I must miss some good stories that way, but it is what I do and I suspect that I'm not alone in doing that. +Your description (or sub-title if you prefer) is the real hook though. This is what usually sways my decision to read or not to read a given story. Think hard about what you write for the description. As a special note for authors of multi-chapter stories, if your description is the exact same for each and every chapter of the story, it's likely that I'll skip the series entirely. +Believability. If you are going to make your characters be endowed with gigantic proportions and equipment, please let us know in the introduction. Of course that isn't necessary in categories such as sci-fi and non human, but for less abstract categories, please at least try to make it somewhat believable. Your story about the guy who has sex with his 80 year old granny may be packed with hot action, but if you introduce granny as having 54HH tits and the grandson as having a 36 inch cock, I'm going to stop reading right there. I am not asking you to not give your characters enticing and exciting equipment, just exercise a bit of good common sense, please. +In addition, please try to make your story line somewhat believable too. (Except in certain categories, of course) If the premise of your story is that an 18 year old guy falls off his bicycle and gets rewarded by getting to screw the First Lady of the United States in front of the President and both houses of congress with national TV coverage as well...Well, I certainly hope you write that as a dream sequence. If not, I won't be reading your story. +PLEASE, don't bore me to death on the first page of your story. If you do, I'll quit reading it. Introducing your characters is a necessary thing for any story. Please though, do not write eight paragraphs describing each character unless it is ABSOLUTELY critical to your story. A short paragraph on each will suffice. If there are more that three or four characters, you should introduce the additional ones at the point where they first enter the story. +How many times have you heard someone say that they tried to read a book but couldn't get past the first chapter or two? Get the story moving so that you get and keep your readers interested. The reader's imagination will fill in most of the blanks anyway. +I like it when the author places a short to medium length note at the top of the story introducing the story. It makes me feel that I have a certain connection with the author as silly as that may sound. I am more likely to read through and accept some of the things that I have talked about if the author has done this. For example, you can be a bit wordy in introducing your characters and I'll likely keep reading. +Thank you for taking time to read this and consider my opinion. That is what these things are, after all. They are simply my opinion. Nonetheless, I hope that you found something helpful and received it in the pleasant helping spirit that it was offered. +Above all, thank you for writing. I hope you enjoy the writing as much as I enjoy the reading!" +913,Why Men Cheat,SteelAndSilk,How To,2011-04-26,2011-04-26,2022-01-04 08:42:10,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/why-men-cheat,This particular article is from the perspective of a man.,['Cheating Men'],4.53,"This particular article is from the perspective of a man. Unless otherwise specified, when I refer to men, I mean men who have a wife or girlfriend. This article also refers to the MAJORITY of men. There are, of course, exceptions. If there is a woman who would like to write a companion article, I would gladly welcome that. To make myself perfectly clear, I am not condoning cheating. Make no bones about it, it is wrong. Whether you come from a moral perspective or not, you know it's wrong. The most hardcore atheist gets pissed when he finds his wife or girlfriend in bed with another man, so we all know it's wrong. +That being said, there are actual, real reasons why a man cheats, and it might not be because he's a narcissistic douchebag. Granted, there are those men who go out and fuck a lot of women while being in a relationship because they feel they deserve it, but I believe you'd find the percentages shockingly low. Contrarily, you might find a man that would never cheat no matter how much he is hurting. He may be seen as more noble, but he lives in misery. +Now, many women have been cheated on, and most of them feel that there is no reasonable cause for a man to cheat, that cheating is the paramount of wrong, and the blame for cheating is solely on the man. Now, is the man to blame for the action of going and having sex with another woman? Without doubt. But, I believe you would rarely find a case of a man just going out and picking up a woman to fuck. Affairs start long before actual sex takes place. +It starts in the home, in the bed, and in the heart. Let's get something out of the way right now, shall we? A man needs sex, period. Women need sex too, naturally, but men are more wired to want and in fact need it. It is not an ""extra"" to relationships, it is a burning, aching need. To him, being denied sex is being disrespected in the deepest sense, in fact, the only thing worse would be catching his wife in his own bed with another man. Get that straight. +Suppose a man is not getting his needs met at home. His wife is not necessarily being cruel or mean spirited about it, nor is she seeing someone else but all the same, it's not happening. Now, he goes to the office. Maybe the secretary or a co-worker is an attractive young woman. She looks up to him, respects him, and admires him, initially strictly from a professional viewpoint. He goes to work, maybe after a few weeks or a month of a dry spell, maybe longer. The young lady asks him how he is doing, how the family is. Sure, initially he lies like most people do. ""Everthing is fine, doing great."" But how long can that last? Something will eventually betray him, a look, the tone of his voice, something. She will pick up on it. She, being a caring friend, puts her hand on his hand, or shoulder. Maybe even gives him a hug or a friendly kiss on the cheek. It will be ok, she comforts him, things will get better. But it doesn't. She sees this. Her compassion turns to a caring affection. She asks him out to a drink, or coffee, or lunch. This might happen a few times. Or not, but either way, the affair is well under way. It is only a matter of time before his armor cracks and he pours out his heart to her. Filled with sympathy, and a lack of understanding on how a wife could treat her husband this way, she tenderly kisses him. At this point, passion takes over, they find a room in a hotel, and the affair is in full swing. +Take note here. Where did the affair start? Did he walk into the office, look the woman up and down, and say, ""Sure, my married life is great, but fuck it all, strip down and let's go at it."" No, not even close. It started at home, where his needs were not being met. A man isn't going to have an affair because he wants to find a woman who will suck his cock when his own wife won't, not if she's meeting his needs. It doesn't even have as much to do with a release. Jacking off would take care of that. Find me a halfway normal guy who wants to jack off instead of having sex. You won't. Taking care of your man's needs is exactly that: taking care of him. Your respect for him by taking care of him will keep him from straying. Again, this may not be a hard and fast, but you will find this to be a typical rule. +As a final note to the ladies, please understand something. Your man needs you physically as you need him emotionally. It is not a lesser or different need. It is exactly the same as you needing him to talk to you or tell you he loves you. Would you like him to go several days without speaking to you? You would be incredibly hurt and likely furious. What if he's not in the mood, or doesn't feel like it, or has a headache? You would never accept that. Maybe for a day, but no more, if that even. Again, I reiterate this because it is so important to understand, what emotional needs are to you, physical needs are to him. +Hopefully, this was of some use to someone. I sincerely hope this might help someone before the affair is underway. Take care of each other needs, and you will live a happy life." +914,Why Not Wax?,pierced_gurl,How To,2005-02-04,2005-02-04,2022-01-04 08:42:10,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/why-not-wax,"A ""not-as-painful-as-it-sounds"" alternative to shaving.","['Bare Pussy', 'Bikini Wax', 'Hair', 'Made Mistake', 'Pussy Lips', 'Stray Hairs', 'Strip Hair', 'Wax', 'Women Hair']",4.49,"For those ladies (and guys) who have tried shaving some or all of the hair from their hot spots and were less than satisfied with the results, I may just have the answer! For many of us, there is nothing more erotic than the look and feel of a soft, bare pussy...and some girls enjoy when their men are completely hair-free as well. Personally, I like a man to have some hair down there, but not an unruly mass of tangles...trim it up, guys! As for me, I love the way my pussy looks when it is completely bare, but I have had absolutely disastrous experiences with shaving. I tried all of the tips for shaving...using brand new razors, soaking in the tub, using thick creme conditioner, etc. No matter what I did, I still ended up with painfully swollen follicles/pores, itchy red bumps, and downright uncomfortable pain for days. No thank you! Then I decided to try what most salons call a ""full-off"" bikini wax (not to be confused with a ""Brazilian,"" which I will discuss briefly later on). Yes, I know, most of you are cringing at the mere thought of some stranger applying hot wax to your most sensitive spots and then yanking all of your hair out at the roots...but I promise, it's not that bad! And trust me, you will be SO GLAD when you see the results. +First of all, being self-conscious is an obstacle you will just have to get over, because it's pretty damn hard to do it yourself. And I wouldn't let anyone other than a professional do it, either...no matter how confident your partner may be, you just can't risk it. A trained professional can get the whole job done in about 15-20 minutes, and the results will look much nicer (and you won't feel the urge to punch them in the face when they are done, which cannot necessarily be said for a partner who botches your at-home wax job!). +A couple of distinctions should be made between the types of waxes that you can have done. First, a run-of-the-mill bikini wax leaves some hair behind, the most common being the ""landing strip"" (a strip of hair about an inch long, starting at your natural hair line and extending down toward your pussy lips). Some professionals can even shape the hair that is left into shapes or patterns (triangles, hearts, downward-pointing arrows, etc.) +A ""Brazilian"" bikini wax is when all of the hair comes off...and I do mean ALL. Once the front is bare, you flip over and the crack of your ass is waxed too. Most women don't have much hair in that area anyway, but they feel more comfortable knowing there aren't any strays. Personally, I don't want the wax going anywhere near my ass...and if my guy doesn't like that, then maybe he should leave his hipocracy at the door and go with me to have HIS ass waxed! +What I have my waxer do is considered a ""full-off"" bikini wax. That means all of the hair is waxed from the pubic area and the lips, all the way down to where the lips end. No flipping over for the backside with this one. +So, once you decide what type of wax you want and you find a reputable salon to do the job, be sure that your hair is no longer than about a quarter of an inch. If it is longer, you'll want to trim it a little so that it does not get tangled when the wax is applied. And be condsiderate of your waxer...make sure you shower a couple of hours before you go. But don't use any lotion in the area, or the wax won't adhere properly. You may also want to take a couple of Tylenol or other pain reliever about an hour beforehand. This will help dull the sensation when the hair is pulled from the roots. Another very important point for the ladies: DO NOT make a waxing appointment just before or during your period. You are much more sensitive at that time, and it hurts like HELL. (Trust me, I made that mistake only once!) +Wear comfortable clothes to your appointment; nothing that will chafe the area afterwards. I normally wear a skirt or loose shorts and no panties...this way my skin is not irritated by any clothing rubbing in the area when I am done. When you arrive, you might want to use the restroom quickly, to make sure you are nice and refreshed. When you meet your waxer, don't feel weird about it. Your pussy is not the first, nor the last, that she will see in her lifetime. If you feel uncomfortable or have any questions, don't hold back. You need to let her know this is your first time, and she can help you ease into it. +Once you have stripped from the waist down, your waxer will most likely have you lay on your back with one leg straight and one bent with your knee resting on the table. She will then apply the wax with a wooden applicator. The wax should be comfortably warm, NOT hot. If it feels too hot to you, speak up! I have a pretty high threshold for pain in that area (just look at my username and guess where my piercing is...), and I once made the mistake of not saying anything when the wax was warmer than usual. I received three very nasty burns on my pussy lips...NOT a good time. +After the wax is applied, a cloth strip is placed on top and pressure is applied for a couple of seconds to adhere the strip to the wax. Here's where most people tense up and get ready for the pain...which is the worst thing you could do. Yes, she is going to yank the strip and all of the hair is going to come out at the roots, but if you tense up, it is going to hurt much worse than it will if you relax. I recommend concentrating on taking slow, deep, controlled breaths so that you are not thinking about when the strip is going to be ripped off. Do NOT hold your breath! I'll be honest...it does hurt a bit, but not nearly as much as I thought it would the first time. It's like when you pull a band-aid off your arm...very quick and over with. On a scale of 1-10, I would put it at a 4 or 5. Your waxer will continue this process until all of the hair is removed on one side (or as much as you ask for) and then she'll have you switch legs so she can do the other side. She will then use tweezers to pluck out any stray hairs that the wax may have missed. +When you are all done, the waxer may apply talcum powder, lotion, or some other ointment to soothe and calm the skin. I have also had my waxer use a product called ""Tend Skin,"" which helps keep the hair follicles clear so that you do not get ingrown hairs. Beware, this stuff BURNS and it hurts worse than the waxing does. However, it works wonders in keeping away red bumps and ingrown hairs, so I think it's worth it. You can buy the stuff and apply it every day for about a week to keep the follicles clear for the hair that is going to start coming back in. +One thing you might want to consider also: don't plan on having sex or playing in that area at all for the rest of the day. It's just too sensitive, and you can actually cause red bumps and irritation if you mess with it too much. Just relax, you and your partner will have plenty of time to enjoy your bare little pussy! +Now, here's the best part about getting waxed. It's amazingly soft and smooth, and it stays that way for two or three weeks...even longer if you use a hair- inhibiting lotion like Jergens! Keep in mind, though, that your hair grows at all different rates, so you may see some stubble coming in after a few days. These are hairs that were below the surface when you got waxed, and you can just use tweezers to pluck them out. Your hair will eventually all get on the same schedule, and you won't have that issue. +Another bonus: with continued waxing, your hair starts growing in much softer and thinner, making each waxing less painful. In addition, fewer hairs will grow back in, and that's always a plus. My waxer has told me stories of women whose hair has stopped growing back altogether, and they only come in every few MONTHS to have touch-ups done. The theory is that your hair follicles will eventually get ""tired"" of having the hair ripped out all the time, and they will simply stop producing more hair. Whatever you do, DO NOT shave in between waxings! Your hair will go back to that thick, coarse texture and it will hurt every time you get waxed. +So, that's about it. The result is a sexy-as-hell look that you and your partner will love. You'll both love to touch, stroke, and maybe even lightly slap it until you're ready for some more steamy action. Not only that, but who wouldn't want to go down for hours on a pussy with no stray hairs getting in the way. In terms of cleanliness and taste, you just can't beat it. YUMMY." +915,Why This Fantasy Chat Turned Me On,Tigger_Lilly,How To,2018-08-15,2018-08-15,2022-01-04 08:42:11,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/why-this-fantasy-chat-turned-me-on,Do you have trouble getting women to play with you in chat?,"['Cougar', 'Cub', 'Erotic Chat', 'Fantasy Date', 'Seduction', 'Sext Success', 'Turn On', 'Vanilla']",4.3,"Finding a great match for a sex chat on a website like Literotica.com is fun. +Older girls are more shy +There are countless people looking for sexy chat to choose from. The problem is that older girls are more shy when it comes to talking to a younger guy on line and younger guys can't tell how turned on the girl is. +If an older is turned on by younger guys in real time, she is probably very curious about cyber sex and fantasy flings but afraid at the same time. If a guy comes on too strong. Delete. You are gone. +If you want more sex online, you need to disarm the girl, no matter how old she is. Treating a fantasy sex chat like a real first date is super fun, will surprise the hell out of the girl and will make you stand out from the crowd. +Here is a real live first date that I loved. Gio went on to become a Turn On Master and is actively pursuing his own turn on partners in fantasy and real time. +Ladies, please add a comment. Is this hot or not? Guys, what do you think? +Gio: OMG +Gio: i re-read your Cub and Cougar post like 5 times yesterday +Trembling with Anticipation +Angel: Thank you! (Blush) +Gio: But I have to admit when I read what you wrote, i went straight to the shower and had a steamy date with my Irish Spring. +Gio: my god wow +Angel: wow...i didn't realize it was THAT hot! +Angel: Excellent! +Gio: so intimate +Angel: lol +Gio: it was that hot +Angel: nothing a writer likes better than knowing her words have impact +Angel: ty +Gio: umm yes you could say that +Gio: it was like replaying that scene with you, being inside your inner monolog +Angel: the imagination is a wonderful place +Gio: here...put your hand on my heart...feel it +Angel: i sure wish i was in miami today... +Angel: c-c-c-old and rainy here today +Gio: its so nice here today...78, sunny +Gio: boat day! +Angel: jealous +Never too busy for Angel +Gio: if you were here Id play hooky +Gio: go bikini shopping first +Angel: hard to think about a bikini +Angel: im freezing +Angel: lol +Gio: not if you were here it wouldnt be angel... +Angel: maybe cutoffs and a tank +Gio: ok Ill take that +Gio: i might drool on you though +Angel: where would you take me? +Gio: hmmmm +Gio: well, id get early and get the boat ready +Gio: as soon as you landed, we would head back to my place, freshen up, and out on the water +Gio: first stop, the art center at south beach +Gio: lots of shops, sightseeing, food, drinks +Gio: just relax and enjoy +Angel: sounds heavenly +Angel: what would you be wearing? +Gio: just board shorts and a smile +Gio: when they are wet they leave little to the imagination. (Special Turn On Tip: Notice that this barely naughty comment is the first one in this exchange. It is part of what makes Gio a master erotic penpal.) +Gio: (even though I can't stop from fantasizing that I invite you back to my room, i say...) +Gio: after shopping we would head to the pier for more boating and shopping, our hotel is right on the water +Gio: we will stop at a little known beach bar...very private (Special Turn On Tip: See how subtle and detailed he is being? This isn't hard, really. Close your eyes and imagine a favorite bar of yours. Either an idea or images will come into your mind. If not, cut and paste this chat for yourself. Girls LOVE this stuff!!) +Angel: sigh +Lip biting, check! +Angel: i like how you think (Special Turn On Tip: Aha!! Eureka!! This is the kind of sign you are looking for. Every woman has her own ""Melt Zone."" Once she responds like this, don't rush. Let her enjoy it. The first stage of Melty is intoxicating and once you have gotten intimate online or in person, the Melt Zone shifts and is never the same. Milk that puppy for all it's worth.) +Gio: i have gone naked on my boat at this spot...very peaceful and secluded +Gio: we dont have to of course... +Gio: id get you a drink, set up your cushions +Angel: thanks...i appreciate getting to know you in your environment +Gio: pointing out on the map where we are +Gio: local fishing spots +Gio: where on the horizon the sun sets +Angel: youll find me a bit hesitant +Angel: intrigued +Angel: yet unsure +Gio: no pressure...neutral topics +Gio: you catch me steal glimpses of your body, which is fucking amazing, by the way. You look better than women half your age. +Gio: asking about your hopes and what like in life +Angel: i feel flattered but it is still a bit hard to believe that a young guy like you would really be attracted +Gio: i sense your reluctance...i lean in, clink your wine glass...and whisper ""you are safe, just be you, you can trust in me."" (Special Turn On Tip: This is so hot, I have to pause in honor of the power of a well-written word. This is erotic collaborative storytelling at it's stellar best. Inhale 2, 3, 4, Exhale 2, 3, 4). +Things are warming up nicely. +Angel: Thanks for that. (Bites lip) +Gio: looking you in the eyes smiling... +Angel: how long have you had your boat? +Gio: this one just over 2 years +Angel: i bet it is a wonderful love nest +Angel: when did you get your first boat? +Gio: i havent used it as such...yet +Gio: when I was 18, a little skiff +Angel: what? then i am honored +Angel: aw +Angel: wow +Angel: remind me, are you a florida native? +Gio: no originally from Toronto. +Angel: Oh wow, a canuck! +Gio: yes +Angel: you must love it down there... +Gio: laying a towel out next to you on the bow +Gio: applying lotion to my chest and arms +Gio: i hope you are feeling more at ease +Angel: ive never done anything like this before...jetting off to meet a stranger +Angel: i feel brave and terrified at the same time +Gio: reaching over taking your hand in mine, im glad you did +I can't seem to focus on work. +Angel: have you ever travelled to meet a lover in real time? (Special Turn On Tip: This is a good sign. She is thinking of meeting you and it is critical that you kill that in the bud. Reality ruins fantasy every time. Tell your story but focus on building turn on for fantasy not on making plane reservations. This is very important later, trust me!) +Angel: smile +Gio: once +Angel: where did you go? +Gio: san antonio +Angel: was it a cyber connection first? +Gio: yes +Angel: wow +Angel: how did it work out? +Gio: it was amazing +Angel: tell me more +Angel: please +Angel: i love a good story! +Gio: we met on literotica.com +Angel: uh huh +Gio: I was early twenties she was divorced in her 40s, her name was Ashleigh +Gio: we had phonesex a few times a month +Gio: after a year we both hinted at meeting +Angel: wow +Angel: im so curious +Gio: we would meet in a neutral spot, no expectations +Angel: was the chemistry as strong in person? +Gio: yes very much and the passion was very much alive +Delicious! +Angel: wow +Angel: how long was your visit? +Gio: two nights 3 days +Gio: it was amazing unscripted fun +Angel: what happened after the visit? must have been amazing +Gio: we still had phonesex for about a year +Angel: were you friends too or just sex buddies +Gio: it was really all about sex +Gio: we clicked +Angel: that is what i have with my current guy and it work for both of us +Gio: mmmmm just pure physical release +Angel: though i would sure see him more if I could... +Angel: if he were available +Gio: no judging and since we had so much phone/cyber I knew what she liked (Special Turn On Tip: Notice how he is telling a very PG rated version of his fling. Very smart not to go with the sexual details. At this point he wants to intrigue her and turn her on but not scare her off. The fact that she is still chatting here is an excellent sign. Don't rush her, whatever you do.) +Gio: is he married? +Angel: no, he works out of the country a lot and has an erratic schedule, i never know when we are meeting up. don't get me wrong, when we get together it is hot, hot and hot...i kind of love that we don't see each other too often, truth be told. +Gio: noting the change of subject (Special Turn On Tip: Great natural skill here, notice how gently he turned her attention back to the fantasy. If you are with a multi-tasking, perfectionist, you have your work cut out for you. She needs you badly but will steer you away from pleasure all the time. It is a game! Gio is a master!) +Angel: haha +Angel: i have a thin roof and all of a sudden it was pelting down +Angel: lol +Gio: making love in a rain storm, windows open... (Super Hotness Award - great line!) +Angel: did you wish you could get together in person again? +Gio: no it was a long time ago +Gio: good for solo time but i have no desire to be with her again +Angel: did it end well? +Gio: do I wish to get together again with someone like you...yes +Gio: oh yes it was fine she got a bf...real life first +Angel: good for her +Angel: do you date older in real life? +Gio: it was just timing +Gio: yes +Gio: yes I do +Gio: is it easy to meet eligible olders? +Gio: some just want arm candy +No Strings Attached? +Angel: i bet you are delicious arm candy +Angel: lol +Gio: some are truly in it just for good sex +Gio: blush thank you +Gio: look im as horny and as sexual as the next guy but I like some conversation too +Angel: what has happened for me is that the men i have met that started in cyber are not attractive in person...not about their appearance per say, it is just that in person, there is no spark. +Angel: just no chemistry +Gio: its a risk of meeting in person as you so aptly point out, the reality can implode the fantasy. +Gio: thats why i like this date/boat fantasy no pressure just talking...at first, getting to know each other. +Angel: its a crazy dilemma cuz lots of men are attracted to me but you are so rare. i couldn't be having more fun. i really enjoy your company. i wish i could meet someone like you in my town +Gio: i would go out with you in a heartbeat. you are sophisticated +Gio: self confident +Angel: i need to figure out where the handsome 40 somethings hang out in my city +Angel: lol +Gio: would you sleep with a married guy - there are lots of those lol +Angel: haha +Angel: nope +Angel: not with another girl's man +Angel: i have plenty of them that hit on me too +Angel: lol +Angel: and teenagers...god love them +Gio: lol +Gio: how would i know if you felt a spark with me? +Angel: good question i think the biggest challenge in cyber is figuring out how aroused your woman is feeling at any given moment +Gio: yes 100%, there are no physical signs +Angel: without knowing where she is on the arousal scale +Gio: i have no idea if you are aroused right now +Angel: so me right now? +Gio: yes... +Angel: on a scale of 1 to 10, i am at a solid 2ish +Angel: i so enjoy the pleasure of your company +Angel: and feel warmness toward you +Angel: i am always cautious at first +Gio: only a 2? and ish on top of it? :-( how do i get you to an 8? +Make your fantasy date smokin' hot. +Angel: haha, a 2 at this point is doing very well! i think you are doing purrrrfect! +Gio: love how you say purrfect +Angel: i really appreciate how discreet and respectful you are. you can't imagine what a girl sees out there!! +Gio: *making notes (Special Turn On Tip: Do I have to say anything? Gio is a master for a reason, notice when your new chat friend says something about her turn on or what turns her off!) +Angel: i think this is the biggest misstep for cyber fun. guys always think a girl is way more turned on than she really is. +Angel: a guy can never go wrong treating any meeting like a first date-lots of flirting and innocent innuendo at first. warm her up +Angel: i do write exactly what i love...savvy men take notes (Special Turn On Tip: How savvy are you?) +Angel: lol +Gio: i have been +Gio: would you say you are dominant or submissive? +Angel: great question +Angel: i would say i am fiercely independent having gone through a couple of tough situations in my life +Angel: and i am the only one that has my back +Gio: changes your brain chemistry +Angel: fuck, gio, that's hot! +Angel: there is nothing like being led by a man who knows how to create sexual tension and keep it taut +Yes. +Angel: being led in sex is intoxicating to me +Gio: you mentioned that in your post +Angel: so i don't define myself as dominant or submissive at this point. some of the writer's have dominatrix themes and i will say that i find them more of a turn on than i would have thought. i am just careful and value patience in my partners. +Gio: i like you for who you are +Angel: up until now, it has been nearly impossible for me to say what is on my mind when it comes to pleasure, but now, with fantasy, i finally have a voice. +Angel: it used to be easier to be quiet and put up with less than ideal situations +Gio: you are so beautiful +Angel: aw +Gio: you really are +Angel: hey...i do have to get to work. A few projects to work on +Gio: not fair, i have a great bottle of bubbly and pineapple juice for your mimosa. +Angel: oh no, don't tempt me +Gio: understand +Angel: ill write a new fantasy soon +Angel: i do enjoy getting to know you and appreciate your patience +Gio: of course +Angel: before i go, can i put some sunscreen on your back? +Gio: oh please do i dont want to get burned +Angel: (sitting behind him and wrapping her legs around his waist she opened the bottle of sun tan lotion. Rubbing her hands together first to warm up the lotion, she began at his neck and swept her hands expertly along the muscles in his shoulders.) +Gio: (feeling her strong hands on my shoulders.) +Gio: (her legs against my body) +Angel: (the feeling of his skin under her fingers made her heart speed up.) ""i love touching a beautiful man."" She murmured to herself +Angel: sigh +Angel: ok...i have to go to work...lol +Gio: dont stop angel +Angel: i must but i love telling stories with you (bites lip) +Angel: but at least you know i am in the game +Angel: lol +Gio: at least lol +Angel: i like you +Angel: enjoy the day! +Gio: angel? +Angel: yes? +Gio: i can't wait to ravish you one day... +There you have it. One fantasy date in the can for Angel and Gio. I am eager to hear how hot you feel this is. My research shows that if a man can capture a girl's interest and then find the smallest possible dose of turn on to keep her turned on between chats, that is the key to getting a lot more sext success. +PS One last key, the women you meet online who are over 50 want to feel desirable like Marilyn Monroe, not like Jenna Jameson. (Special Turn On Tip: Go back and read that sentence again, and then, please leave a comment. Hot or Not?" +916,"""Wife with Another Woman"" Phone Sex",HawkerDeHavilland,How To,2013-03-04,2013-03-04,2022-01-04 08:24:30,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/wife-with-another-woman-phone-sex,Second in a series of script advice for the wayward phone-sex girl.,"['Bi-Curious Wife', 'Infidelity', 'Lesbian Encounter', 'Wife', 'Wife And Another Woman', ""Wife'S Best Friend""]",4.61,"_Again, the ever-widening challenge for the phone sex girl!_ +Housewives, mothers, single girls and working women part-time become that sweet voice on the other end of the phone. +If only they knew just how many callers have fantasies about their own wives. Submission, Seductions, Cheating scenarios, Interracial episodes...there are thousands of possibilities, but often that sexy voice on the other end of the line isn't quite sure what to say +I've always thought a phone sex girl should have a script. So here is another favorite...... +A working girl's script for ""Wife with another woman"" +(I'm liking this!! So if you have any other ""special"" scenarios you'd like to read please leave them in a comment) +Our cast of characters: +John : a husband obsessed +Kim (Kimberly): the ever faithful and beautiful wife +Elizabeth (Beth): Her close friend +Heather: (our inimitable phone sex girl) a friend of Elizabeth (Beth) +(You, good reader, must cut and paste your best replacement names for I am sure that the objects of your desire are names you would like to see here). Let us begin, then: +* +John: +""I would like to speak with a lady about my wife being with another woman."" +Hello John, my name is Heather. +You don't know me but I think I know your wife, Kim. +That's her name isn't it? +Kim? +I want to tell you I am soooooooo jealous. +Oh! +You don't know why I'm saying that do you? +You and Kim have been married for a while, right? +You both have lots of friends I'm sure. +And I'm sure Kim has a lot of girlfriends: all us girls do. +But John, of all her friends is there one who is especially important to her? +This friend of hers what is her name? +Elizabeth Garner? Her name is "" Beth ""? +You don't know me but I know Beth really well and I know Beth and your wife are friends. +There is something special about Beth and your wife you are wondering about isn't there? +You have secret thoughts about the two of them together, don't you? +You don't want to but you can't help it. +They're both so attractive. +Two women together excites you anyway, doesn't it? +Two good looking girls like Kim and Beth in some imaginary relationship is a secret little fantasy of yours? +What makes it so exciting is that Kim is your dear, sweet beautiful wife! +Beth has a man of her own. +She might be married. +She might be living with a man. +She might be dating. +But she is straight, isn't she John? +Yet Beth spends so much time with your wife, doesn't she? +You think about that. +You think about it all the time don't you John? +It's probably nothing at all! +You worry you are looking into it all wrong! +But I can tell you John, if you are thinking about this so much, +Something is really going on. +Guys can never see it. +These Ideas pop into your thoughts and you wonder where they came from. +It's called intuition, dear man. +They've known each other awhile but not too long. +Maybe they met at work or at the gym. +They seem to have a lot to talk about. +they go shopping together or exercise together or have drinks after work or ""go out with the girls"" together. +I bet your wife always on the phone with her, too. +Those calls are almost every day and always on weekends. +They are always ""catching up"". +I bet when you see Beth she is really nice and friendly to you too, isn't she? +That's all part of it. +Has your wife ever been with another woman that you know of? +Women are naturally curious about each other more than you realize. +Your wife and Beth probably have this emotional attachment right now. +Ever problem is shared between them. +Every time something good happens they share it. +When Kim becomes upset who is the first person she runs too? +Who listens to her, who comforts her and who makes her laugh. +It's probably Beth. +Your wife's friend is really attractive too, isn't she? +There will come a time when your wife seems distracted. +Maybe she picks a fight with you. +She goes out. +It happens. +She sees Beth. +They have too much wine all laughing and having a great time together. +It starts with an accidental kiss. +A friendly kiss shared between two women. +It probably happened while they saying goodbye for the night, John. +I can tell you for a fact: that kiss was something they both liked. +They have both been thinking about it. +It may be weeks later. +Kim and Beth will need to get together and have a heart to heart conversation. +They'll share their feelings : being emotional and intimate. +But John, the only thing that will be on their minds is that last kiss shared by accident. +She is so pretty isn't she? Your wife, I mean. +Your wife doesn't want you involved, John. +In her mind it is no big problem: an odd occurrence two friends can straighten out between them. +She doesn't need to discuss it with you. +But one night you will see Kim make plans to get together with Beth. +And something is just not right about it. +She'll act like its nothing but you notice she's dressed as if she were going out on a date. +Your darling wife will be so stunning and so beautiful John. +Her hair, her makeup, the blouse, shoes and skirt she wears will be so attractive and then she's gone out the door. +If you would have been in her bedroom earlier you could have watched how carefully she went through her underwear drawer to find what would look nicest on her. +Saw how carefully she chose her earrings and necklaces. +Then in front of her mirror applying her makeup, the lip gloss she wore. +If you could have seen her eyes were bright with excitement. +Did you smell the fragrance she was wearing as she left? +You know she's going to see Beth. +But your wife told a little white lie about where they are going and what they would be doing. +You sense it but what other choice do you have, John? +That leaves you alone to think and do anything you want, doesn't it? +John, I'm sure you can think of things you can do. +You're nervous, upset but most of all you are very very excited aren't you? +John? +John: that cock of yours +that hungry excited cock: +is waiting for everything I'm going to tell you, isn't it? +She looked so lovely and sexy. +You will hear from her tonight again, but it won't be what you expect! +She never stays out alone overnight, but in a few hours she calls. +Kim tells you she's had too much to drink. +She's OK, but John, she doesn't want to risk driving home. +She had better stay at her friends place for the night. +No you don't need to come pick her up. +Everything is fine and she will be home first thing in the morning. +I know only too well what is going to happen. +And I am going to describe that for you. +Standing there opening a bottle of wine. +Beth may have a man of her own. +She may even be married. +But no one is there this night but the two of them. +And she wants your wife. +She wants your wife completely. +And there is nothing Kim can do to resist. +You've had thoughts like these since your first introduction to Beth, haven't you? +And John: I can guarantee your wife has been having fantasies about Beth since the first moment they met. +You just never knew. +Right now your wife doesn't care about anything. +Not you, not her marriage, not her friends, not her family: all of it is forgotten. +Just to be with this woman. +An intense desire rules your wife's heart. +Here in Beth's kitchen just doing something as simple as pouring a glass of wine. +Suddenly they are in an embrace: kissing! +For so long they've been thinking about that accidental goodbye kiss. +They will suddenly repeat it. +John you have no idea what passion develops when women discover it. +There is so much more to a kiss between two women. +Kim pressing her lips, so very soft and full, so sensual +Kissing those of her closest female friend. +They respond to each other so well, John! +The experience, the softness of a woman, the scent of each other's skin, their hair long and smooth at their faces. +The gentleness of Beth's touch on your wife.. +And your wife can't help herself. +She wants to be pulled closer. +She longs for Beth's embrace. +Before she had left those few hours ago, do you remember how carefully Kim had applied her lip gloss? +Now here? For the sole purpose of placing it all over the lips of another woman! +They are so beautiful in each other's arms. +Their mouths open, John. +Kim's tongue feels Beth's all over it. +It doesn't end. +Even fully clothed, hips pressed firmly together arouses desire. +Hands find each other's and intertwine. +These kisses become deep and long. +Each one is new and expressive. +Nipples become hard under bra's too, John. +There is no denying their breasts have met. +Even beneath blouse and bra, both of them feel the stimulation. +Your wife is breathless. +Beth breaks off an opened mouth kiss to apply her lips to your wife's throat and the nape of her neck. +Both of them feel so alive! +Kim admits to her she's been able to think of nothing else but this moment for weeks. +The words Beth whispers into your wife's ear are for her alone: things she has never heard before in her life. +Beth will tell her things that will make your wife's knees weak. +She will say things that make your wife wet, John. +Kim lets Beth take her hand and lead her into the bedroom: Beth's bedroom. +It is just the two of them. +And they have all night. +At the bedside their mouths find one another's. +And now its your wife's turn to have her tongue all over Beth's. +She wants this so bad, John. +Hips, waist, the small of their backs, their arms encircling in feminine embrace +Can you picture their hands on each other? +They are beautiful together and very aroused. +Their shoes come off and lay at their feet. +Kim is so excited she can barely stand. +They sit on the bed, side by side hips together knees touching turned towards one another . +There is no end to their kissing. +You had no idea how involved women become when kissing like this, did you? +Their mouths are all over each other's. +Soft sensual intimate and unending and Beth takes advantage of Kim's distraction. +She is opening your wife's blouse button by button. +God, she's slipping that blouse off your wife's shoulders. +Look how pretty that sheer bra is. Look how low cut it is. +You've never seen Kim in that bra before have you John? +Your wife has a beautiful body. +You don't tell her that enough . +But believe me Kim has been for months. +She's telling her now with words whispered adoringly. +She's telling your wife these things between every kiss +She is freely touching your wife however she pleases. +Hands are on her waist, the flair of her hips running her hands over her everywhere. +Kim is not resisting +Those hands on her hips? +They are travelling downwards. +Gently over her smooth thighs then down even further +They are so long and sexy, aren't they? +Those legs of your wife's. +It's her best friend enjoying them now. +She's running her hands over the full silky length of your wife's legs. +God those pantyhose are so sheer. +Your wife's not wearing panties. +But Kim has done something else you knew nothing about. +Her skirt rides up her thighs as Beth's hands find their warmth. +Those pantyhose are so sheer you can see she has shaved John. +See the barest pussy behind the panty panel between her legs. +She has never shaved her pussy before has she, John? +When could she have done that? +How did you ever not know that she sat on the edge of the tub with cream and a razor and carefully shaved the complete mound of her womanhood and then kept it hidden from you? +How delicate and feminine. Beth will discover it bare this way and know it was done for her. +How delicious that pretty pussy looks. +Then John: Kim's breasts. +Your wife's beautiful breasts are barely supported by the thinnest sheer bra. +Beth's hands are on those beautiful tits, John. +With kisses applied down her throat, her collarbones her chest and then onto the slopes of your wife's soft breasts Beth has captured all of her. +That blouse is open to the waist. +Her breasts are in another's hands. +Her closest female friend is fondling them. +Beth whispers to her and feels Kim relax. +She reaches behind Kim's back to find the catch. +John, your wife is so cute. +Kim is so so lovely. Her breasts are full gorgeous things. +Beth knows it too. +From above Beth allows her undone hair to feather across the work she is doing. +Softly, it drifts to and fro across hands breasts and nipples so Kim can experience its softness. +Beth finds herself presented with breast tip only inches from her lips. +Hands filled with breasts she squeezes. +They rise. +Nipple touches her lips. +Without hesitating Beth is placing kisses to stiffened cone. +It caresses her lips. +Your wife is poised in anticipation. +Then Beth applies the full extent of her desire on Kim's wanting breasts. +She presses her lips to areola to begin tonguing its bumpy slope. +Beth parts her lips and takes the nipple and tongues its thickness wetly. +She has both nipples stiffened and shimmering with her spit. +You can hear your wife groan. +The cone of her nipple and areola is slipping squirming between tongue and the roof of Beth's mouth completely erect. +She sucks laving it with her saliva. +She draws at the breasts softness walking her lips to the cone of areola. +Then opening wide, Beth collects as much breast as she can take in and begins sucking. +Before this is over the dust of Beth's makeup will have transferred itself all over your wife's breasts. +. +Kim's hands are filled with Beth's long soft hair. +She closes her eyes. +It feels so very good for her, John. +This is not like anything else she's ever experienced. +She loves it. +Their relationship has deepened even more, John. +John often you've wanted to play with your wife's tits this way. +Sometimes it happened but +But mostly she had resisted by saying things like 'John not now' or ' John I'm not really in the mood' +Look at her John. +Look at the subjugation she embraces with another woman! +She is thrilling to this special oral manipulation. +Her tits seem to swell larger and firmer by the minute. +Then +Just like that : +Beth breaks away. +She stands up in front of Kim there seated on the bed. +She slowly begins to remove her necklaces, bangles, earrings, top and skirt +Teasing Kim's eyes to watch her body. +Soon Beth is down to her bra and panties +She steps in front of your wife. +Would Kim please reach up and unfasten her bra? +Kim is doing it slowly and carefully. +The bra falls away revealing Beth's magnificent breasts. +You've thought a lot about those pretty titties your wife's friend owns, haven't you? +They are so full and here they are finally exposed for all to see. +But John, this exposure was for your precious wife's eyes alone. +Beth asks her for her touch. +And your wife is tentative and unsure at first. +God, soon she has her hands on them! +and Beth is bending to her making them accessible in any way she chooses. +She's holding them with more authority now John. +Your wife's vision is completely filled with woman flesh. +She's cupping them. +Squeezing them. +Bringing her thumb and forefingers out to draw across areola and finish with stiffened nipple. +They are +Inches away from your wife's lips. +They are beautiful, firm and perfect. +Her friend can't wait any longer and whispers to a seated Kim to take them. +Kiss them. Lick them. +Beth says please please +Quickly your wife's lips are all over those beautiful tits. +She's kissing them. +Oh my God. +Her nipple is in your wife's mouth. +Its being drawn in. Those soft lips taking in more and more breast. +She's sucking each one fully. +One after the other, licking. +Sucking them, John! +Beth is cradling your wife's face tenderly. +She breaks free. +Beth steps out of her panties. +Your wife's skirt is off. +And quickly those sheer pantyhose are peeled off to lay in a heap on the floor with all the other now useless style of two sophisticated women. +Beth is guiding, positioning Kim back on the bed against her pillows. +Against the headboard. +Look at your wife's pussy now John. +I've never seen anything so delicate and lovely. +Its standing out all swollen and waiting. +Beth has her hands on Kim's thighs urging them open for her. +She's kissing her mouth again. +Oh dear, can these two women kiss! +Those thighs are being teased open. +John. +Her hand. +Her fingers are touching your own sweet wife's barest pussy. +All newly shaved and never more naked than it is now. +All this open mouthed kissing and Beth is moving ever closer beside her on the bed. +She's pressing herself beside Kim. +That hand down her tight belly across her torso. +And now it's between Kim's legs. +All for the sole purpose of caressing your wife's willing cunt. +Rubbing it John. +Playing with it. +Kissing her while she's doing it. +Touching it better than Kim could do for herself. +your wife's legs are wide open! +Kim is holding on to Beth the best she can. +She is kissing back searching for tongue. +She's letting those fingers caress her bare pussy lips, John, and they are just falling open for Beth's long manicured fingers. +God, see how she's lifting her hips? +Raising them to allow Beth's touch better access to herself. +Your wife is so fucking horny she's attempting to fuck at them so they'll do more than tease her swollen clit. +She's waiting for them to be inside her. +Look how desperately she's hanging on to Kim's neck. +Holding on. Kissing like mad. Feeling fingers along the slit of her pussy. +Long nailed fingers separating her labia.tracing +and pressing into the folds of her wet cunt. +Oh God look. +Beth's fingers have found her hole. +She's holding still in anticipation.. +Oh fuck, those fingers are working themselves into Kim's vagina. +Her offered babyhole drenched with lubricant. +Look how fucking wet your wife is, John. +Pussy juice is dripping drenching Beth's fingers and still there's more. +Beth wants her now. +She's working herself up towards the headboard. +Soon her breasts are in your wife's face. +Suck them Kim. +Go ahead. +Bury your face in them. +Suck them while she finger fucks your hot horny cunt. +That's it baby. +Lie back. Let those fingers work you over. +Grind your clit into the heel of her hand. +That's it baby. +That a girl. +Make yourself shove deep onto those long silky fingers. +Bind them all tight and wet with your hungry little pussy hole. +Now press your face into Beth's titties. +Your wife looks so fucking good doing that. +Look she is holding Beth's tits in both hands. +She's is in love with them. +Licking all the breast flesh she can handle, +taking as much as she can take. +Sucking on them like a baby. +Beth is working that pussy now. +Rapidly those fingers are going in and out making Kim moan +Look how Kim's hips move to be fucked this way. +She's fucking on them as they enter and withdraw. +She wants to come now. +She doesn't want to wait. +Beth knows that. +Beth delays. +She carefully places her hand on your wife's neck, +and stills her. +Calms her +Even though Kim is frantic to come: +Beth slowly slides her fingers from your wife's pussy hole. +They are soaked with lubricant. +It's dripping from your wife's sopping cunt and down the crack of her ass +And has drenched Beth's fingers all the way to her wrist. +She's crushing her mouth to your wife's again. +God can these women kiss. +I've never seen anything like it. +Oh my god Beth is putting those fingers she just withdrew from Kim's pulsing cunt +and slipping it within their kiss. +They are BOTH tasting your wife's juices. +both at once. +Kim is flat on her back. +Her hair is all over the place. +Her breasts are compressed with their own weight. +Her nipples point to the ceiling. +Beth moves above her and between her legs. +Face to face +Breast to breast. +Hips that separate her legs until +She's pressing her pussy against your wife's +God there is Beth's beautiful ass. +Its pushing those hips. +Watch as she grinds her cunt between your helpless wife's legs. +See how Kim is holding her now? +Her hands on Beth's arms, then her sides, to her back. +Then stretching long fingered hands down Beth's spine +she reaches that beautiful ass. +She holds both Beth's ass cheeks while she grinds her pussy. +Squeezes it and urges it on. +The only thing out of place are the rings adorning your wife's left hand. +Those urging hands gripping and grasping this woman's ass. +Dear John, I know. +Those rings of devotion and faithfulness. +Those symbols of love at the altar. +They are meaningless now. +You don't care either, do you? +You want to see your wife fucked by this woman. +More than anything in your life. +You shall have your wish. +What your wife and Beth will do needs to be acted on: responded to. +Your cock has been throbbing with anticipation. +Well it should. +Take that cock, unnecessary in the new experiences of your wife and her frend, and allow it the thrill it craves. +Hold it as you listen to these last words. +Give it up to this sweet lesbian experience. +Your sweet darling wife, her beautiful friend, +Their secret love, their unbridled passion and the eventual orgasm shared between women only fulfilled femininity can know. +Let it spill its load of seed across your straining belly. +It is what a woman's heart demands +Beth is sliding down. +She stops to suck on your wife's breasts one more time +Before she goes down for good. +Look at your wife's eyes. +They are wild with desire. +She knows what is about to happen to herself. +Then Beth's lips are on that bare pussy shaved just for this moment. +You can see Beth's tongue. +In the folds of your wife's labia licking all the way up and down. +Those lips are falling open for her. +That tongue is all over your wife's clit. +Its become a hard stiff bead of pleasure. +Beth is circling it with her tongue now. +See how Beth's arms go underneath her thighs? +Arms reaching up. +Hands on your wife's breasts. +To hold them and tease the nipples. +Kim is crazy to come. +Never has anyone treated her hungry cunt like this. +Her hips are beginning to rock into the licking, teasing, loving tongue. +Her hands become tangled in Beth's hair. +She's riding her now. +Your wife wants to come so bad, John. +It won't be long. +Beth knows it. +She's pulling back an arm so she can get her hand and enter your wife's beutuful swollen cunt with her fingers. +She is sucking her clit at the same time. +The hand above is kneading Kim's breast . +Her beautiful body is completely in Beth's embrace. +Those fingers are entering her now. +Watch how they slip in and out of your wife's aching pussy hole. +She's drenched. +Her clit is being sucked and tongued unmercifully. +Loved in a way only a woman knows. +You can hear your wife start to groan. +She has a rhythm of little fucks going intently on Beth's face. +And Beth, bless her heart, is sucking, tonguing and fucking wth her fingers to make it all happen for her. +John. +She's coming. +She's coming John. +Listen to the sounds she is making. +Oh God is she ever having a good orgasm.! +An orgasm for another woman in a way only women know how to give. +Your wife has wanted this for a long time and now +She is coming so hard for Beth +So delightfully in a way a man can't possibly understand. +Beth knows it and takes her through it. +All driven by the desire she's had for your wife since they first met. +It lasts . and the pleasure is heaven. +See how wonderfully it subsides? +Watch how Beth holds her as those clutches from Kim's vagina begin to fade. +And just know +With complete certainty +that pleasure is seeping through Kim's body from head to toe. +John, I know, like every woman knows: +It is pleasure like your wife has never experienced before. +There will be many other times and other places your wife and Beth will have sexual encounters now that they've had each other for the first time. +And something else which must be saved for another time: +All lovemaking between two women ends in a 69. +Always. +To have the hungry press of wetly aroused pussy against your lips and feel the same between your own legs means utter satisfaction. +The next time Beth will rise and turn. +She will straddle your wife's face. +Your wife will participate in a feminine encounter that can only be shared between two women. +She will do anything for Beth now, John. +Anything. +Beth , in this call, has been frustrated.. +But expect your wife to endure such a rage of private feminine passion from this woman as to control your wife's every thought thereafter. +John, Breach this subject with your wife lightly and at your own risk. The ways of a woman's heart are forever a mystery, but if these thoughts of her possess you, then you must ask. And if you ask, do not be surprised at the confession she may surprise you with. +Where there is smoke: there is fire." +917,Will You Lie To Get Laid?,bgmisfun,How To,2014-09-07,2014-09-07,2022-01-04 08:42:12,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/will-you-lie-to-get-laid,"Lie, Lying, Lay, Laid - a dirty grammar lesson.","['Laid', 'Lain', 'Lay', 'Laying', 'Liar', 'Lie', 'Lied', 'Lying']",4.45,"Will you lie to get laid? A quick grammar lesson on LIE, LAY and LAID. +I have come across far too many good stories where the authors made mistakes with these similar sounding words. Here is my entry into the Summer Lovin Contest 2014, the first purpose of which is to give the readers an idea how these words should be used properly. The second purpose is to poke some erotic fun with the summer theme. It is boring and dry to give a grammar lecture; a more effective approach is to give examples of the correct usage of different forms of LIE and LAY in the context of a dirty story. Here it goes - +///////////////////////////////////////// +On warm sunny summer days, young Brittney likes to lie in her back porch and sunbathe in her bikini. She is lying there now, face down on a fully extended lawn chair, with her stringy top removed, sun tan lotion glistening on her bare back. The bottom piece of her swimming suit -- made up of fabric that is no larger than the size of her palm - does little to conceal her round and sexy ass. The ass crack is inviting. Back home from college for her summer vacation, Brittney is enjoying her time away from studying and the crazy dorm life. +She lay there yesterday too, while her middle-aged neighbor Tom peeped through the gap between the slats of the wooden fence that separates their backyards. He couldn't control the arousal in his shorts. Standing in his own backyard, by the fence, with one eye looking through the inch-wide hole, he rubbed his hard-on and imagined how it would feel to hump her from behind, to guide his cock down her ass cleavage, to explore her tight vaginal opening, also to penetrate her anally. +Brittney knew Tom was watching. From the corner of her eye, she saw movement behind the bushes, which partially cover the opening in the fence. She smiled to herself mischievously. +She is somewhat an exhibitionist and takes pride in being the object of her neighbor's adoration. Today, she is again enjoying the soothing rays on her semi naked body. She has lain there for half an hour already. She turns over, with her heavy boobs facing the sky. They jiggle from side to side when she moves. She looks down, and proudly admires her own tits. Careful to protect herself from sunburn, she is applying a generous amount of sun tan lotion on her silky smooth skin. Having a private back porch affords her the opportunity to get a full body tan. +One of her kinky diversions is masturbating naked, under the sun. She squeezes the lotion bottle and squirts the milky white liquid into her left palm. She tilts her hand sideways, letting the lotion roll from one side to another. This looks so erotic to her, for no reason. Then she lays down the bottle to the right of her lawn chair. Yesterday, she absentmindedly laid the bottle on her left, and she had a hard time finding it. How silly she was. +Cupping her right hand, she lets some of the lotion drips from her left palm into it. Then she brings both hands to the spot just above her tummy, right under her breasts. She starts caressing the base of her roundness, fingers coming close to her areola, making small circles with her fingertips. +Looking down, seeing the thick white liquid lying messily on her tits, she is turned on. The sight naturally reminds her of how her boyfriend shoots his load on her breasts. Bobby loves to tit fuck her, to lay his thick shaft between her massive boobs. +She crosses her legs, squeezing her thighs together. Yet, there is an emptiness that the squeezing cannot satisfy. The heat from the sun has warmed her up in more ways than one. She needs something, a tool, an instrument of some kind. Should she go inside to her bedroom to retrieve her vibrator? No, she doesn't want to be distracted by getting up. +Brittney has very strange rituals about masturbation. She always likes to start with some inanimate objects, like a toy, or something that innocently lies around the house. After a few minutes, she will use her hands to continue with the rubbing and touching of her own private area. Maybe around the pussy lips, maybe right on top of her clitoris, maybe deep inside her vagina. Electricity seems to be able to travel from her finger tips to her genitals, or is it the other way round? +Today, she is too lazy to get up. What can she use? +Ah! The sun tan lotion bottle, which she has laid on the tiled surface of the ground. The round bottom corners of the bottle will do the trick. +Tom, on the other side of the fence, is doing yard work, or at least he is pretending to. He enjoys taking care of his plants and the flower bed. He remembers the nice view he had yesterday -- of his sexy neighbor Brittney. He is eager to find out if she is there again today. Yesterday did she know he was watching? Was she putting on a show for him? +He has laid two inches of mulch around the rose bushes. Rose buds --- anal openings. Damn. Why do erotica writers always use that analogy? Now he is horny looking at the pink roses. +Walking up to the fence, he quietly lays down the garden shears by his feet, bends his knees and positions his head to look through the hole in the fence. The opening in the rotten wood fence, resulting from natural weather decay, is about three feet off the ground. The inch-wide peephole is usually hidden behind the bushes on his side. So he has to squeeze himself behind the vegetation to access the hole. +The plants in his neighbor's yard do little to block the excellent view of Brittney in the lawn chair for him yesterday. And he has a clear view of the lovely girl again today. She is lying there with her feet pointing towards him, her scantily covered pussy facing his direction. He imagines if she takes off the lower piece of her bikini, he will have a clear view of her pussy. Her chair is only about 20 feet away from the fence. He swears he can smell the coconut scent of the sun tan lotion. +She grabs the lotion bottle, which she has laid on the ground, and places it between her legs. In slow, circular motions, she is using it as a toy to please herself. Tom is elated. He cannot believe his good fortune. His beautiful young neighbor is masturbating and he is going to witness it. She sits up. Still with the bottle in one hand, she touches her nipples with the other, and her lips part slightly, as if she is moaning. With her sunglasses on, it is hard for Tom to tell whether Brittney is looking in his direction. Suddenly she stands up, and starts walking towards him, towards the peephole in the fence. +He is startled. Straightening himself, he stands behind the fence, next to the peephole, heart pounding. Has she seen him? Why is she walking over in this direction? +In a matter of seconds, shockingly, a finger pokes through the opening. Tom has been to many adult book stores before and he has participated in the glory hole experience as well. Why is Brittney doing this? Is she inviting him to stick his dick through that hole? Yes, ""stick his dick"" there. He likes the rhyme. +Mesmerized, driven solely by lust, he turns to the hole, unbelts his shorts and drops everything to his heels. The hole is too high for him -- he stands only five feet tall and the hole is about three feet above ground. +He gently steps on the brick edgings that he laid down last year, to give himself additional height to reach that peephole. Still not enough. Looking around, he moves some of the extra bricks that are lying around and stacks them to form a platform for him to stand on. Though the bricks form a wobbly and unsteady foothold, he doesn't care. His foot-long penis is throbbing and bobbling. Many a times he has wished to the All Mighty that he would sacrifice a few inches of his manhood to compensate for his height. Maybe six inches -- will he be happy to stand 5'6"" and have a 6"" dick? Or give up three inches? Be 5'3"" and have a 9"" dick? +The blood has travelled to his groin area. He doesn't have enough blood in his brain to do mental math. He stands on the stacked bricks, guides his salami shape thingy through the hole. Instantly he feels a soothing, licking, wet sensation along the underside of his shaft. Oh god, she must be licking his cock. Brittney the college co-ed is licking his cock. Then her tongue touches his mushroom shape crown, and then back to the underside, and she licks the upper side of his cock as well. This girl is wild. This is his wildest dream come true. No, he never imagines this to be possible. Her feathery licking motions are amazing. +""Tom! What the hell are you doing?"" shouts Mary, his wife, who comes out of the kitchen into the backyard, meat cleaver in hand, apron around her waist. +""No, nothing. I am ... ur ... just that ..."" Tom is out of ideas to make excuses. He has to come up with something fast. ""I thought, I thought Brittney's plants can use some natural ammonia so I am just peeing into her bushes."" +Damn it. ""Peeing into her bushes?"" Wrong choice of words. +""You are a habitual liar! Last year you lied about the affair with Jenna. Now you are lying about peeping and peeing into Brittney's backyard. You always lie. I will never trust a single word you say anymore. You have lied to me all these years we are married!"" she howls and breaks down in tears. +""No, for real. I am just helping her fertilize her plants naturally."" The more he lies, the more confused he is. As if it is possible, he feels that his penis is growing, both in girth and in length. And it is stuck inside the hole. He cannot withdraw it! +""Oh, Tom. Don't you have the basic decency to pull your dick back and pull up your pants while I talk to you?"" Mary is crying, wielding the cleaver above her head. +""Can you put the beaver, no, the cleaver down? You are scaring me."" +Tom feels that with his wife yelling at him, sharp knife in hand, he should be losing his erection. But no, he is going strong. And Brittney is still licking. +""You are such a disgrace, Tom! Terrible."" Mary cannot control his sobs. +And then he ejaculates. He shoots his load into Brittney's backyard through the glory hole. Oh, he cums. (Erotica writers will debate whether it is cum or come, but that is another matter.) +He still cannot withdraw his manhood from the hole. Normally he will be proud of his staying power after finishing but not today. He desperately wants to pull up his shorts to hide his dick. But Brittney seems to be continuing with her licking after he has finished. +Mary walks up to him, pointing the cleaver at his dick. ""Get back in here. Or I am going to chop it off."" +Finally after almost a minute, his dick has returned to its 12-inch pre-erect state. It is narrow enough to pull through the opening. He stands away from the glory hole, bends down to pull up his boxers and shorts, only to find the semi-flaccid penis covered in green paint. +Brittney must have been playing games on him. She hasn't licked him. She has used a brush, maybe a paint brush, to coat his penis green. +As a punishment, Mary ties Tom down on a bed of garden stones, face up, with his arms and legs stretched out, as if he were stranded on the Island of Lilliput. He lies there for he forgets how long, embarrassed, ashamed and angry. After many slow and unsuccessful attempts, he is able to move his hand to the garden shears that he has dropped earlier. They are lying inches away from him. He is glad that Mary has left them laying there. They are his life line now. +Finally, he gets a hold of them. With much twisting and flipping of his left wrist, he is able to cut the rope to free himself. +Standing up, infuriated, fuming, he walks over to the glory hole and nails a piece of two by four over it. He swears that he is never going to look over to Brittney's yard again. Definitely not this year. +////////// +Now to recap the grammar points -- +Lie (as a verb, meaning to rest in a horizontal position): +Tom lies there next to his wife. They are lying there in their bed. They lay there last night. Now they have lain there for several hours. +****** +Lay (as a verb, meaning someone puts something down on the ground): +Brittney lays a towel on the grass. +By letting her neighbor peek at her yesterday, Brittney is laying the foundation to play the paint job on him today. +Tom made a big mistake. He laid an egg. +Brittney has laid her buttocks on the edge of the pool. +Lie (as a verb, meaning to not tell the truth): +Tom lies about the reason for him to poke his penis through the hole. +He is lying as he is shooting his load. +He lied last year about other affairs. +He has always lied about illicit sex. Who hasn't? +///////// +There is another expression, the origin of which is more obscure -- GET LAID. There is good reason to believe that this usage is related to the second set of examples mentioned above. +Hope you enjoy this grammar lesson and dirty tale. Votes and comments are welcome. -- BGMISFUN +******" +918,Winning Survivor - With One Story,Iamcanadian28,How To,2008-07-10,2008-07-10,2022-01-04 08:42:14,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/winning-survivor-with-one-story,"A guide to winning survivor, with a twist.",[''],4.0,"The Literotica Survivor challenge is a grueling year-long competition pitting writers against each other to see who can garner the most points by writing a lot of stories. This article is designed to show my fellow writers how to reduce the stress and effort it takes to win the challenge. +There is nothing in the survivor rules that state you have to write about multiple subjects. One of the biggest challenges for survivor contestants is developing the multitude of plots required to write hundreds of stories. You can fix this by writing a series of stories with a single plotline, instead of many separate stories. Okay you can stop laughing now, I'm serious. +Here are some simple suggestions that can help you win survivor using the single story concept: +1\. Keep each story short- The minimum submission guideline for the contest and the site in general is 750 words. I know you are thinking what kind of a story can you develop in just that many words. That might be a problem if you were only writing one such story. With this concept, you will be writing hundreds of chapters. Therefore, you can develop the plot gradually over the course of those many chapters. +Besides, 750 words is not that short. There is an article written by Oggbashan about creating 50 word stories. If you can write an effective story in 50 words, just imagine the creative freedom you get from 750 words. The secret is to keep the story as close to the minimum number of words as possible without going under. +2\. Write at least one chapter in every category- There are critical bonuses for filling every category that add 60 points to your total if you fill them all. This is a necessary part of accumulating that winning score. There are 31 story categories that cover a wide range of topics. Getting chapters to flow into each other will be the biggest challenge. It's highly unlikely you will be able to flow a first time story into a BDSM or anal category. +Some of the categories are going to require some creativity, but you can't expect me to do all the work for you. The categories that might be the hardest to incorporate are How-to, Reviews & Essays, Humor & Satire and Celebrities. You can cover some of these categories by writing about the process of writing a complex series of stories. Not to mention the contest has immunities available that can help rid you of a few pesky categories. +The only exception to the 750 word rule is the Novels category. It requires a minimum story length of 7500 words. With those word limits in mind, it will take a minimum of 30,000 words to create an entry in each category. Instead of getting credit for a few short stories, all those words can gain you 156 points, a very good start on your way to victory. +3\. Keep your characters limited- With fewer characters to worry about, you spend less time developing them. My ideal plan is to have only four total characters. This may seem ridiculous as you wonder how you could possibly write hundreds of stories with only four characters. This allows you to make your characters more fluid in the way they develop. They will have to be due to the requirement to fill all the categories. Your characters will have to take on multiple roles and experience a wide variety of activities. +4\. Keep the setting basic- Having only a short amount of words to work with, you do not have time to write extensively about the stories setting. Writing as many of the chapters in the same setting can help alleviate this problem. It may not be overly interesting for the reader, but we are really going for quantity not quality. Being the sole survivor is not about making friends or getting people to read what you write, it's about getting as many points as possible. There are several contests through the year that reward good writing. Survivor is not the place for this. +5\. Writing Poetry- Having one story with only a few characters should also help you fulfill your poetry requirements. There are four poetry categories to complete. With four characters, you could choose to write one about each character. There are no minimum lengths required for poetry entries so keep them short. +If you follow these four simple suggestions, you can be on your way to survivor glory and bringing home the cold hard cash. After using the same four characters, in the same settings and writing short burst entries you may be very tired of your characters and take great joy in killing them off at the end. If you have a lot of free time and a good imagination, this How-To can make you a survivor." +919,A Woman's Guide to Getting Married,Bakeboss,How To,2009-03-19,2009-03-19,2022-01-04 08:25:30,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/a-womans-guide-to-getting-married,A lesson in getting your man to commit.,['Marriage'],3.84,"Let me start with saying I do not believe that all women should get married or that all women want to marry, this is meant to be a guide for those females that have a desire to have a husband. With that said let me also point out that I am not a female so the only perspective I have is from the man's point of view. +I started dating my future wife more as a fluke than by design. I had tickets to a show and at the last minute my date canceled out, in fact it was so last minute I couldn't find anyone who was free to go with me. I had just started a new job and I hardly new anyone there. During a coffee break, I happened to sit next to a girl I had spoken to before but I couldn't even remember her name. She turned out to be a lot of fun and we talked and laughed so much our ten minute break turned into a half hour, when she noticed the time she jumped up worried about getting into trouble for being late so on impulse I blurted out a invite to a last second show explaining about my date canceling. As she ran back to work, she shouted an OK over her shoulder. I immediately starting having second thoughts about my rash decision and began to worry about the consequences of dating someone at work. +I really enjoyed our first date, although I think she was rather nervous she didn't object to coming to my place for drinks after the show. We ended up spending the night together more from falling asleep after making love than from making love all night. In the morning I took her home and that is when I found out she lived with her parents, of course that meant they hated me right from the first date. We started dating pretty steady after that, going out after work two or three times after work, at first we weren't exclusive as I was still dating some other girls I knew but I just found I had more fun with her and we evolved into a relationship. +The only snag being I lived in Hollywood while my work was in West LA and my girl lived in Santa Monica. Commuting became a real problem; if we stayed in West LA after work, we ended up in bars and then maybe parked on some quite street. If we went back to my place, we usually ended up falling asleep after making love and then a long drive back and forth to take her home. Finally, I had enough and looked to rent on the West side. Within a month of living in my new apartment, my girl was living with me much to her mother's dismay. +I was not happy about her moving in yet it was so gradual that she was in before I noticed. I had recently divorced and was not looking for any kind of commitment and now here I was living with a girl. I say I wasn't happy yet I have to admit I enjoyed having a girl around who helped with the cooking and cleaning and then of course there was the sex, which was great. +It looked to me that our relationship was headed for problems as we each had a different opinion of what we wanted. My girl was committed to love and a long lasting relationship, I was committed to lust, and as much sex as I could get. My girl decided to not to pressure me into anything and instead made a plan to fuck my brains out until I surrendered. We fucked night and day not even leaving the apartment some weekends barely stopping long enough to eat. I would be tired and so sore that I would swear I'd never fuck again, and then she would start to tease me, pulling up her dress to show off her panties having me watch her rub her pussy while telling me how wet she was getting. All of a sudden, I would feel my cock start to grow and before you know it, we would be at it again. +After about five months of this she told me she was pregnant, I told her, I wanted to do the right thing and that we should get married even going so far as to buy a ring. She called me at work to tell me she started her period so she either wasn't pregnant or maybe had a miscarriage, much to both of our relief. I felt like I had dodged a bullet and it made me wonder if this relationship was something I wanted to commit to for the rest of my life. +Like the heel that most men are, I bolted. I left her a note saying something like; I didn't want to do this anymore and moved out. I went to stay with a friend back in Hollywood, he was glad to see me and told me he already had a wild weekend planned and we would have a ball. This is what I needed, some wild sex with girls whose names I didn't know, I planned to go crazy and just let it all hang out. There was just this little snag, I kept thinking about my girlfriend, or should I say my ex girlfriend. What a louse I was, too chicken shit to face her and I was worried about how she was feeling. I tried to party her out of my mind, the whole weekend was nothing but sex, booze and drugs and yet it didn't help, I couldn't keep the thought of her sitting home crying out of my head. Finally, I called her Sunday night, just to apologize, maybe if I was lucky I would just get the answer machine. She answered on the first ring, her sad voice broke my heart, and the only thing she asked was, are you coming back. I knew right then, there was nothing I wanted more and I moved back that night. +To her it was as if I had never left yet to me all I felt was guilt. How could I do that to her, how could I leave without talking face to face and even more how could I leave the day she had maybe miscarried? All she would say about the whole incident was that it was over and I was back. I already knew she loved me but that was when I knew I loved her and wanted to be with her forever. We went to Vegas on her twenty-first birthday and while we were there I said let's get married. She turned me down at first, saying she knew I didn't want marriage but in the end she accepted. We might have started out shaky but we have been married for almost thirty-nine years now and I love her as much now as I did then. +So then my advice for the women out there who want to get their men to commit to their relationship, is don't cajole, don't demand, just fuck their brains out and in the end they will beg you to be their partner for life." +920,Woman's Guide to Male Panty Fetish,ProfessorPanty,How To,2008-10-01,2008-10-01,2022-01-04 08:42:15,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/womans-guide-to-male-panty-fetish,Required reading for all females.,"['Lingerie', 'Masturbation', 'Panties', 'Panty']",4.59,"My friend Randy and I have 50 years of combined first hand experience with the ever popular fetish for panties. Randy and I have had numerous discussions about women's underwear and the thread that connect this simple, yet complicated, garment to male sexual arousal. We came to the undeniable understanding that most women don't realize the power they possess simply by virtue of their panties. Let me explain..... +Those women that think there's nothing special about their underwear are either naïve, or deeply mis-informed. Our society has taken definite steps to elevate the female panty to a level where no other piece of clothing has ever been, and the proof of that fact is right in front of us every day. Whether you refer to it as underwear, foundation, lingerie, under pants or panties, you can't walk into a mall without seeing one of those specialty stores with numerous pairs of sexy panties on the mannequins in the store windows. Department stores have lingerie displays that are eye-appealing and spacious, all touting panties of different types, colors and fabrics – literally hundreds of pairs all out in the open for everyone to see and touch. While, on the other hand, male underwear is usually on one rack in the men's section, probably hidden against the wall. +In magazines, you can see eye-popping ads of women in their panties. On TV, we are treated to the yearly V.S. lingerie show, and on the internet – a woman in her panties is considered tame and even acceptable. You can go to any beach or swimming pool and you'll notice that swimsuits are emulating lingerie very closely. +So even though underwear, in the strict sense of the word, is meant to be worn under our outer clothes (ie, covered by our outer clothes), the reality of the situation is that women's underwear is most definitely meant to be seen..... and enjoyed. If that wasn't the case, then why aren't women's panties thick, plain, white cotton like men's briefs? If panties weren't meant to be seen, then why are they colorful, soft and sexy, with intricate designs and fabrics? What would be the reason for sheer and transparent panties if no one was ever going to see them? And what would be the use for crotch-less panties? +My point is this: women's panties have transgressed the boundaries of simply being underwear. They are a statement of sensuality, femininity and sexuality, and they are clearly meant to be seen and enjoyed by both women and men. Once one can accept the fact that panties are more than just underwear, then we can get into the real meat of the subject at hand – the male panty fetish. +Now, ladies – you can't blame us men for being attracted to your panties. The truth here is two fold. First, we (men) have been trained to accept the fact that your underwear is special. Second, if you didn't want us to be interested in your panties, you would be wearing those ""Sensible"" cotton things your mom bought you years ago and we (men) would hardly ever see them. The fact that you have a drawer full of soft, silky and sexy delicates is proof that you bought them for just one reason – to get us to look at them and to turn us on. +I could spend days defending an argument supporting the thesis that panties went from being undergarments no one ever saw to sexual apparel, but for the sake of discussion, let's just accept the fact that women's panties are intended to excite. So, that being said, the question really becomes: ""How will women use the sensual power of their panties in their relationship with men?"" +There's one thing I want to throw out there – even before we get into this any deeper, and it's directed to those women whose boyfriends, lovers, husbands, or significant others have already hinted, or maybe even told you, they have an interest in your panties. And that is – don't ignore it. I promise you that when a man has told you they have an interest in your panties, they thought about it considerably before they told you. They agonized over it, considered your reaction and even weighed the chances of you being totally disgusted with their panty interest, but they took the chance you would understand and be willing to at least discuss and consider it. +No man ever approaches a woman to tell her that he would like to have access to her panties without considering the consequences. I'm sure when first approached you might think it's gross, unsanitary, kinky or even perverted. If you feel that way because you don't think you smell fresh, sensual or sexy down there, perhaps you should reconsider. While I don't think the majority of men have an interest in skid mark panties, your natural scent, secretions and juices are the very essence that turns us on. Believe me, we wouldn't ask if we weren't serious about it. So, ladies – if your man has approached you with a request regarding your panties, I urge you to be open minded about it. You'll be glad you did when you see the happiness in his eyes and experience the attention he will give you. +Now, for those women whose man hasn't verbally indicated an interest in your panties, take note of the following points to see if he has a potential panty fetish and how to make it easy for him to broach the subject with you, or how you can easily bring it up to him. +1)""How can I tell if my man has an interest in panties?"" There are many indications that a man might have a panty fetish. Here are some classic signs you can look for: +\- Do you see him looking in the display windows when you walk by the lingerie store? +-Is he agreeable or excited to go lingerie shopping with you? +-Has your man ever used the word ""panty"" or ""panties"" in regular, daily conversation more than you have? +-Does he make mention of the fact that he's had a peek up your skirt and seen your panties? Maybe someone else's skirt? +-Does your man ask you to keep your panties on when you go to bed, or when you have sexual relations? +-Does he watch you dress or undress? +-Does your man like to kiss, sniff, lick or eat you with your panties on? +-Have you ever seen him examine your panties after you've washed and dried them (either discretely or overtly)? +-Have you ever found your panties to be missing (either clean or worn), but then they suddenly reappear later? +-Have you ever felt that the laundry hamper seems to have been rummaged through? +-Have you noticed that your lingerie drawer isn't exactly how you left it? +-Have you ever discovered that your man has unexpectedly washed a load of your delicates? +-Has your man ever taken pictures of you in your panties? +-Have you ever caught him red-handed with your panties? +-Have any of your friends or relatives ever told you they lost a pair of panties while they were at your house/apt? +-Have any of your friends or relatives ever told you they lost a pair of panties after an instance where your man was at their house/apt? +-And of course..... has your man ever said anything that would lead you to believe he's got an interest in your panties? +2)""What kind of behaviors could I expect to see if my man does have a panty fetish?"" Some behaviors could be subtle, and some could be obvious. Some behaviors could be completely secret, especially if he thinks you would chastise him for them. Here's some fairly common panty fetish behaviors: +-Fondling, stroking or handling panties +-Masturbating with, or stroking off into panties +-Sniffing, licking or sucking panties +-Stealing, borrowing or collecting panties from you, friends or relatives +-Collecting pictures of females in panties +-Shopping for panties +-Peeking up skirts +-And of course - wearing panties (Don't be shocked at this. It's not that uncommon and there are well documented, historical accounts of men wearing female undergarments as far back as the eighteenth century. As a side note here, you might be interested to search the internet for ""Pinaforing"" and ""Petticoating""). +3)""What can I do proactively to broach the subject of panties with my man?"" There are many things you can do to create a safe and open environment to bring up or encourage a discussion of your man's potential interest in panties. Here's a few ideas: +-Leave a stack of your clean panties out for a day or so – as if you've simply forgotten to put them away after you washed and dried them – and see if he notices or comments about them. +-Ask your man if he wants to go lingerie shopping with you. Then, while you're shopping, ask his opinion to find out which colors, styles and fabrics he likes. Involve him and see how interested he is. Offer to model them for him. +-Leave a select pair of your worn panties on the floor in your bedroom, or a place where you know he'll find them. Pay special attention to see if they are disturbed, moved, or if they disappear. +-Ask your man to pick out which panties he wants you to wear, then praise his choice and let him see you in them. +-Ask your man to help you clean out your lingerie drawer. Then, ask him to show you which ones are his favorites – and then ask him why. +-Ask your man which type of panties he likes to see you wear – bikini, briefs, hipsters, boyshorts, full cut, thongs, etc. Then, show him you honor his preferences by wearing what he likes. +-Find a reason to walk around in front of him for an extended amount of time with nothing but your panties on below your waist. +-Surprise him by letting him see you touch yourself with just your panties on. +-Outright ask him if panties turn him on. If he replies with anything other than an immediate ""No"" you can ask clarifying questions to gently open the subject with him. +-Playfully, ask your man to wear a pair of your panties. Say it's just for fun and it will be a secret just between the two of you. See how fast or slow he either agrees or disagrees. If he agrees, praise him for his courage. +Okay, let's say after reading, considering and trying some of the ideas and suggestions above you find out your man might have some level of a panty fetish. What do you do then? Well, that's when you have to use your feminine intuition and wisdom. Let's face it, if your man does have a panty fetish – or even an above average interest in panties – you would be smart to at least understand it, learn how to allow it and how to use it in your relationship. +Understanding your man's sexual desires and needs is a key factor in keeping him interested and your relationship sexually healthy. Believe me, if you are sympathetic and understanding about his panty interest, he'll love you for it and he'll pay you back ten-fold for your kindness. +I feel obligated to tell you a brief personal story now – not because I think it's something you have to know, but, because I hope you can gleam something from the story that will give you some insight. Here goes: +I'm on my second marriage. My first marriage failed miserably. Not only did our relationship as friends fail, but our relationship as sexual partners failed, too. In fact, our sexual relationship failed almost from the very beginning, primarily (I think) because I've had a life long interest in panties. I made the mistake of telling her about it on our honeymoon. Unfortunately, she thought it was terrible, horrible and unforgivable that I wanted to covet her panties. It meant so much to me and I was courageous in telling her, but she ripped my heart out when she told me she would never allow such a perversion and if she would have known about it before our wedding – she would have never married me. +Yeah, okay – my bad. I should have told her before I proposed, or, at least before we were married. But, I didn't. We were eventually divorced and it was a messy, vindictive affair that drained me emotionally. +A few years later, I met a woman and we started dating. After a month or two, we started being intimate and I gathered up the courage to tell her about my panty fetish. She completely understood and was excited that I shared it with her. In fact, it became a foundation of our sex life and the openness it created allowed both of us to confidently discuss our desires and fantasies with each other. Now, years later, I have complete access to her panties any time I want it, and she even includes panties in our sex play without me having to ask. +I always go lingerie shopping with her, even though I hate going shopping. All she has to do to get me to go with her is tell me she might pick up a few pairs of panties – and I'm ready to spend all day with her. On top of that, she's allowed my panty fetish to flourish so that I'm free to wear them when I desire to, and she'll even take the initiative to dress me in them from time to time. +The point of my story is that her acceptance of my panty fetish has allowed our love to grow and set the tone of our sexual relationship to be accepting and considerate of each other's needs. Would I have kept dating her if I'd learned she couldn't accept my panty fetish? Not on your life. +Ladies, please don't slam the door shut on your man if he's got a panty fetish. You're only going to push him away and force him into behaviors behind your back. That's not going to do anything constructive for your relationship or your marriage, and it's only going to create an intimacy gap between you and your man. +I'm going to leave you with one last thought..... my wife told me once she was proud I had a fetish for her panties. She felt her femininity was confirmed and ratified, and she got off on the fact that I was so attracted to HER panties. ""Most of all,"" she said, ""I know this is something you desperately want, and I'm happy I can be the one to give you as much of it as you want."" +Comments, suggestions, thoughts and questions are welcome." +921,Women's Guide To No-Strings,Softly,How To,2000-10-10,2000-10-10,2022-01-04 08:42:16,3,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/womens-guide-to-no-strings-ch-1,1. Seduce and enjoy married men. 2. She gives the specifics. 3. A How-To for the ladies only.,"['Fifteen Minutes', 'Food Drinks', 'Group Men', 'Legs Open']",4.20,"It was quite by accident that I discovered how a woman can have exciting sexual encounters with men, of her choice, and be able to go home that night without any worry of entanglements. +My husband and I went to a private party given by the friend of a friend. There were twenty-three couples there. A vodka punch was server that was very effective in getting everyone tipsy. My husband, well gunned, was chatting with a group of other men in the den. I made myself useful by serving food and drinks. My wine bottle was half consumed, so I was tipsy too. Seeing an attractive man away from his wife, I asked him to dance. I like to watch a man's reaction when he discovers that I have C cup breasts, so I pressed them to his chest and my leg against his. During one dip, my pelvic area pressed against his leg. He held me tightly while rubbing my back. The song ended. He stayed right there and we talked. He was pleasantly drunk, and I could tell that he wanted to be with me. +At the end of a second dance, I excused myself to got to a bathroom. He followed me into the bathroom, locked the door, and backed me up to the sink. In one move, he reached under my dress, lowered my pantyhose and begin to press his mouth to my clitoris. Bemused by this, I reached for his head. As I shifted my weight the pressure of the sink edge behind me made my legs open so that he could get his tongue into me. Oh, but it felt good! Mind you, we are in a bathroom. He lowered me to the floor, dropped his pants and slid his penis into me. Because of the punch, it took him ten minutes to cum. I had two orgasms. We cleaned up and left to return to the dance area. He walked right up to his wife and danced with her like nothing had happened. +I found my husband with the same group of men. From the slurring of his words, I figured he was planted there for the night. I went to look around the home. It was a three level. The master bed room was huge. The host entered it while I was there. He was six foot five and two hundred thirty pounds. Good looking. ""Love this room,"" I said. He replied that he especially liked the mirrors that made up one wall. ""So you can observe yourself in action,"" I blurted out. ""Yes,"" He kissed me and lay me onto the bed. He too removed my pantyhose with one sweep. +I could not believe this. I was naked from the waist down, since my dress was above my waist. I was in a strange bed with my legs open about to receive the service of a handsome man who I did not know the mane of, and I knew that he did not know me. +I was forty years old, at the time, weight one hundred, thirty-nine pounds, and stood five foot, four. He removed his pants giving me a look at his privates. Nice! About seven thick inches. I was wet, as he could tell when he put his hand there. He mounted me. No hurry: just steady long thrusts. The drinks kept him from cuming for fifteen minutes. Add two more orgasms to my total for the night. I closed my eyes, and just enjoyed the action for all it was worth. +We cleaned up and returned to the party area. No one noticed us. Both men resumed their rolls in the scheme of thing, which did not include being with me. My husband and I left an hour later with the good wishes of the hostess, who thanked me for helping serve the food and drinks. +I thought a lot about what had happened and why it went so well. I wanted more of this sex with good looking men, without any follow up on their part to sully my reputation. +I joined the welcome wagon clubs in the near by cities. I also joined two country clubs as non playing member, which is cheap. I make myself very useful to any woman having a party either at home or at the clubs. My husband works the evening shift, three months on and three months off, so I have a lot of time to go places on my own. It is over two years since the ""discovery"" party. To date, I have had sex with ninety-six (96) men at parties. Not one has tried to call me at home. I am getting very good at going around the building that the party is in, when I get there, to find places that a couple can be alone, and undisturbed for fifteen minutes. Its a game. I am the hunter. And, yes, the sex is very very exciting. +Love Y'all, I'm Softly, UB2... + +" +922,Word Choice,evelyn_carroll,How To,2004-10-20,2004-10-20,2022-01-04 08:42:19,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/word-choice-1,A response to wyo_girl's article.,"['Choice Words', 'Darling Master', 'Make Scream', 'Master Spoke', 'Rain Check', 'Spoke Quietly', 'Suck Monster', 'Sweet Thing', 'Time Rain', 'Word Choice']",3.95,"Wyo_girl has written a fine and very useful article on the choice of words in erotic description. It was so good that I felt moved to reply and add a few thoughts. Also, she misses a couple of important points and I wanted to suggest a few more ""thesaurus"" entries from my own repertoire – for the use and convenience of the young, as Oscar Wilde might have put it. +***** +The points on word choice are +1\. The choice of words (""cock"" versus ""hardness"", say) needs to reflect the normal speech patterns, motivation and mood of the character who is speaking or whose viewpoint currently dominates the narrative. +Examples +A dominatrix talking down a slave will refer to the slave's cunt, not her sex or pussy, and certainly not her genitalia. +The same slave will think of her ""sex"" until she submits, when it becomes her ""cunt"", thus showing the progress of her mentation from paragraph to paragraph. +A chauvinistic guy with a limited imagination might say ""love tunnel"" or ""honeypot"" but I can't imagine a woman or an educated or sensitive man ever using such dreadful clichés. +A character with even a mild sense of humour may refer to the lingam as his ""pork sword"" or use a phrase such as ""pointing Peter at the prickpleaser"" (note the use of alliteration. Alliteration, incidentally, is not the same thing as writing: fuck me, fuck me, fuck me!) +A young, innocent girl might use ""spear"" and ""sword"" or even ""thing""; words from her everyday vocabulary that are similes or euphemisms for the fearful tumescence she is gazing upon for the first time. She would not use a word like ""hardness"". +Women will usually only use ""cunt"" once they are in a very intimate relationship with the person they are talking to or if they wish to shock the listener/reader or emphasize their own readiness to face their sexuality head on. +Men tend to know a lot of word for the penis. Women more often stick to one or two, such as prick and dick. +Use of latinate anatomical terms (penis, labia minori) suggests that the speaker/viewpoint owner is educated/cultured. +2\. It is important to vary the words to avoid a sense of repetition. This applies equally to words that do not concern anatomy or coitus. Fowler, in ""Modern English Usage"", calls this ""elegant variation"". +Example +Rather than ‘She was too scared not to suck the monster at her lips; she was dog tired too,' (two too's) try something like ‘Fear prevented her from not sucking the monster at her lips; she was dog tired too,' or ‘She was too scared not to suck the monster at her lips; she was dog tired as well'. +On the other hand, sometimes you want to set a mood with repetition. E.g. ""She came and came and came; and then, just when she thought she had no coming left in her, she came again – gloriously."" +Finally, I rather dislike the use of words that appear nowhere other than in, for want of a better word, porn. This sentence is from one of wyo_girl's stories but she's by no means the only offender. +""Make me cum. Suck me til [sic] I cum, please... aahhhhh, fuck me,"" she begged. +I hate ""cum"" used like this, common as it is on this site and although it is in the dictionary these days. IMHO, that spelling should be reserved for expressions like ""their guestroom-cum-dungeon"". There is nothing wrong with shooting a long jet of COME over her tits. Otherwise, how can you write this: +‘Did he COME, Inspector?' ‘Yes, he CAME all over her breasts'? +""Came"", past tense of ""to come""; get it? If you go for the ""cum"" option then I think the past participle should be ""cummed"". You really wanna write ""he cummed all over her breasts""? +***** +Curiously, although there are several books on punctuation, there is no book available that deals specifically with punctuation for writers of fiction. In experimental fiction there are no rules, but some publishers have standards (which they usually don't publish). Here are some rules I've had to learn the hard way. +1\. Comma before named addressee +‘Make me scream, Kylie.' – An order or request addressed to Kylie asking her to give pleasure (or pain) to the speaker. +‘Make me scream Kylie.' – An order or request addressed to somebody asking them to force the speaker to shout out Kylie's name. +Lots of people get this wrong, the most common examples being ‘Yes Sir', Yes Mistress', etc. +2\. Capitalize proper names and titles +Bad:- +‘Yes, sir.' ‘Yes, darling.' Yes, my Darling.' The Master spoke quietly. ‘No, master.' +Good:- +‘Yes, Sir.' ‘Yes, Darling.' Yes, my darling.' The master spoke quietly. ‘No, Master.' +There will be some borderline cases, where you must use judgment; e.g. should it be ‘Of course, Sweet Thing,' or ‘Of course, sweet thing'. It depends on whether she's just being a sweet thing or whether he's giving her the nickname Sweet Thing. +3.Comma after introductory phrase/clause +""So, you're going to help me?"" is sometimes (usually) better than ""So you're going to help me?"". It provides a nice pause; the speaker can almost be SEEN cocking her head or smiling between phrases. But don't overdo it. Here's a sentence where I would leave it as it is. ‘This time I'll take a rain check.' Whereas a purist (such as an editor at The Newyorker!) would want ‘This time, I'll take a rain check'. It all depends on the speech rhythm you are trying to convey. +Grammar checkers are good at picking up on this kind of thing. But it must be YOU that decides. +4\. Hyphenate adjectives not nouns +Good:- +Her still-wet sex. His oh-so-obsequious manner. Those cunt-wrenchingly beautiful breasts of hers. Her badly applied makeup. His modest jock strap (jockstrap is OK too). Her tight tee shirt and miniscule G string. (Teeshirt is OK. G-string is usual but not really kosher. It will probably survive because the correct form makes it sound like she's playing a miniature violin.) +Bad:- +Her still wet sex. (Unless you mean it isn't moving; a wet, stationary target for his thrust!) Her badly-applied make-up. His modest jock-strap. Her tight tee-shirt and miniscule G-string. +5\. Mandatory punctuation before closing quote +‘Did he?' she asked. +‘Wow!' breathed the boy. +Those two make sense of course but what about this? +‘I'm finished' he said. +The speaker's sentence ended with a full stop but the convention is to use a comma, because your sentence hasn't yet finished; like this +‘I'm finished,' he said. +The comma here performs no function. It's crazy, but the convention has been fixed at least since Samuel Richardson used it in ""Pamela"". +On the other hand, the logically and grammatically correct +He said: ‘I am not the ""man"" you are looking for'. +is usually written without the colon as +He said ‘I am not the ""man"" you are looking for'. +BTW, in American the final full stop can't be where I've placed it (correctly in English). US style rules would render the above as +He said ""I am not the ‘man' you are looking for."" +For me, I still use the colon, but sparingly. It is also correct to use a comma (viz. e.g. Richardson again) +***** +Finally, a couple of additions to wyo_girl's mini thesaurus (just for fun). +Breasts, areolae and nipples +Baby feeders, boobs, cleavage curtains, knockers, secondary sex(ual) organs, squeezables, tits, two little boys fighting in a sack. Fried eggs, moon craters. +Adjectives: bud-like, burgeoning, incipient, touch-tempting, Partonesque (my own coinage), pendulous, pneumatic, scrawny, hag-like. +The backside +Arse/ass, behind, bum/butt, buttocks, derrière, fanny (US), fundament, globes, gluteus maximus, hindquarters, nates, posterior, rear, rear end, rump, seat. Anus, rectum, rosebud, the cacky chute, where the sun never shines. +My favourite adjective here is ""calipygous"" (= fair buttocked). One is less likely to get one's face slapped if overheard, compared to ‘Nice arse!' +The (primary) female organs +Centre of _____, fanny (GB), girls' bits, honeypot, sex, Lady Jane, Lulu, that thing you're sitting on, yoni. Labia (majori/minori), (sex) lips, those other lips, vulva. Clit(oris). Vagina. Cervix. Womb. +The male organs/genitalia +Family jewels, the future of Britain (America, Canada, the world – as appropriate). Ballbag (that's what Rabelais calls it!), bollocks, scrotum, sperm factories, the wrinkled old family retainer. Dong, erection, John Thomas, knob, lingam, member, phallus, priapus, prick, old codger, old man, one-eyed trouser snake, shrew tamer, shaft, spear, stiffy, todger, tumescence. Glans, head, helmet, tip. +Sperm(atozoa), orgasm +Come/cum, gift, jism, load, mess, semen, spunk, white stuff. Apotheosis, climax, peak of pleasure, le petit mort, completion. +I'm sure there are lots more; but I hope these start you thinking and inventing. Get writing!" +923,Word Choice,wyo_girl,How To,2004-03-20,2004-03-20,2022-01-04 08:42:18,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/word-choice,Suggestions for writing a successful erotic story.,"['Active Verbs', 'Body Parts', 'Descriptive Words', 'Erotic Story', 'Hot Adjectives', 'Name List', 'Reader', 'Word Choice']",4.39,"You've heard the old saying ""You only get one chance to make a first impression."" Let's face it - your story represents you. Do you want the impression you give to be one of an incredibly sexy individual who knows what to say and when to say it or could your word choice be giving the impression that you spend too much time in the gynecologist's office? +Words fuel our imaginations. They can be strung together to create pictures in our minds of activities, exotic places, foreign locales, or for those of us on Literotica, erotic situations. That is why word choice is so important. Some words just sound sexier than others. When I was a kid, using the word ""peter"" to refer to the male penis was the norm. Now it conjures up images of pimply- faced kids giggling over their first glimpse of a risqué magazine. For that reason, I tend to avoid using it in my stories. +There are many elements that make an erotic story hot. In addition to choosing sexy sounding terms for genitalia, the use of good descriptions is important. You can't expect your reader to understand how excited the characters are unless you tell him how they feel. The words need to bring a picture to life in the reader's mind. Continuing those descriptions is also important. You may be describing the same action in two different paragraphs but if you use different words to tell the story, the reader sees it differently. More importantly, what turns one reader on won't necessarily turn on every reader. By using different words to describe the same action you get two chances to grab the reader. Take these lines for example: + **""The head was an angry reddish color and she could feel the vein underneath swelling. The hole at the tip seemed to expand and a huge gush of milky, white cum shot out and landed on her hip and lower stomach.""** +I used two different words for the head of the penis in these two sentences. I chose words I liked when I wrote those lines. If a reader doesn't like the word head, the next sentence uses tip. My hope is that the reader who doesn't like my use of the word head will continue to read and get to the word tip and like it better. Hooking a reader by making the story enjoyable is the point after all. +Word choice is also important for the moment you are trying to create. Words like penis and vagina are a bit too clinical for me but others might like them just fine. Some words sound softer than others, more romantic. Those who've read a few bodice-ripping romances know they never use words like cock but prefer ""his maleness"" or ""member"" or ""hardness."" We all know what they mean but these terms are more romantic than just flinging the word ""cock"" in their faces. When I was a teen-ager, those words thrilled me and cock seemed dirty. Now, cock seems a lot sexier but those bodice-rippers fly off the shelves so there must be someone reading them! +Choosing your words carefully is only half the battle though. Making sure you absolutely know the meaning of the word you choose before you use it is also important. I read a story not long ago that made me laugh and that wasn't the reaction the author was going for when he described his hero's flaccid, steely shaft. The entire story appeared to be written with the idea of using a different adjective every time he described the body parts of his characters. He had even used the word maw for vagina. Maybe that word excited him but it left me thinking of a hole the size of the Grand Canyon and wondering how on earth sex with that could be any good! While the story had lots of action, the author obviously didn't know that flaccid and steely are opposites. +When I started writing, I looked at stories I enjoyed reading and made a list of the words those writers used to name body parts. I also made a list of the descriptive words they used to describe the actions of their characters. I continue to add adjectives and adverbs as I run across ""keepers."" The words in my lists are not necessarily interchangeable as they contain positive and negative terms as well as adjectives and adverbs. Some words can be both. For example in the breast category, milky could refer to the color of the breasts or it could refer to their condition after milk was expressed from the nipples. I've included my lists in this article in the hopes others might find them as useful as I have. +Good editing is the subject of a number of ""how to"" articles and it is important. I certainly don't want to give anyone the impression that it isn't but all the editing in the world won't save a story that uses the word cock over and over again if that word offends the reader. We all look for some variety in other areas of our lives so why not give your readers a little variety with your word choice? You might be surprised by the response! + **BREAST DESCRIPTIONS** +billowy, blossoming, budding, busty, buxom, caressing, creamy, curved, emergent, enormous, firm, hanging, heaving, heavy, hefty, large, luscious, massive, milky, nippled, pinched, pliant, plump, quaking, quivering, ripe, smooth, stacked, suckle, swaying, taut, tender, tiny, turgid, velvety, wobbling + **BUTT DESCRIPTIONS** +arched, curved, cute, glowing, gorged, hippy, hot, impaled, luscious, narrow, plump, raped, ravaged, rimmed, ripe, satiny, shuddering, soft, stretched, swinging, taut, tender, tight, tilted + **PENIS DESCRIPTIONS** +battering, big, blunt, bulging, bursting, circumsized, colossal, cut, deflating, dwindling, enormous, erect, fat, flaccid, foreskinned, giant, gargantuan, gigantic, hammering, hard, heavy, hefty, huge, immense, limp, loaded, long, mammoth, pile driving, potent, pulsating, pulsing, pummeling, pumping, punishing, raping, rigid, rock hard, sinewy, smooth, soft, spongy, steely, strapping, swollen, thick, throbbing, uncircumsized, uncut, weighty, wet, wide, veined, velvety, virile + **VAGINA DESCRIPTIONS** +aching, blazing, bushy, clenching, clinching, delicate, dewy, drenched, dripping, eager, engorged, fertile, hairless, hairy, hirsute, huge, insatiable, juicy, little, loose, luscious, moist, pink, pouty, puffy, satiny, silken, silky, slick, slippery, soaked, sodden, spasming, squeezing, snapping, steamy, sucking, throbbing, tight, tingling, tiny, velvety, wet, yawning + **ORGASM DESCRIPTIONS** +boiling, creamed, copious, deep, draining, escalating, exploding, flooding, gushing, heated, intense, jerking, juicy, mounting, raging, receding, rippling, rising, roaring, searing, shooting, spasming, spewing, spraying, spurting, sweltering, torrid, uncontrollable, violent, wet + **SEX DESCRIPTIONS** +batter, bore, corkscrew, drill, drive, fucking, grind, jam, maul, nail, penetrate, pile-drive, piston, plunge, pound, probe, prod, pump, ram, rape, shove, sixty-nine, slam-fuck, skewer, spasm, spear, spoon, spread-eagle, stab, stick, stretch, stroke, stuff, throb, throw down, thrust" +924,Words of the Week,velvetpie,How To,2004-06-04,2005-03-02,2022-01-04 08:42:20,16,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/words-of-the-week-01,"1. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 5/31-6/6. 2. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 6/7-6/13. 3. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 6/14-6/20. 4. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 6/21-6/27. 5. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 6/28-7/4. 6. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 7/5-7/11. 7. Weekly vocabulary words for writers: 7/12-7/18. 8. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 7/19-7/25. 9. Weekly vocabulary for writers 10. 2004 Final. 11. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Jan. 24, 2005. 12. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Jan. 31, 2005. 13. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Feb. 7, 2005. 14. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Feb. 14, 2005. 15. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Feb. 21, 2005. 16. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Feb. 28, 2005.","['Adjective', 'Adjective Pronounced', 'Meaning', 'Noun', 'Noun Pronounced', 'Pronounced', 'Verb Pronounced']",3.86,"_Whenever I read, I keep a pencil handy and I underline words that I don’t know and dog ear the page so that I can go back and look them up in the dictionary. I have always been interested in etymology and even took Latin for three years. I hope that these words can help all of us in our writings. Be sure to check out your dictionary for additional usages of the words and spellings associated with changing the word from adjective to adverb to noun … etc._ + **ABLUTION** _noun_ +Pronounced: ab-LOO-shun +Meaning: The washing of one’s body or part of it as a religious rite. +Example: A common example of **ablution** in Judaism is washing the hands before a meal that includes bread. +* * * * * + **CLANDESTINE** _adjective_ +Pronounced: clan-DES-tin +Meaning: Marked by, held in, or conducted with secrecy or concealment. +Example: Mike and Sally made **clandestine** plans for their mother’s surprise birthday party. +* * * * * + **INDOCTRINATE** _verb_ +Pronounced: in-DOC-trin-ate +Meaning: To give instructions especially in fundamentals or rudiments. +Example: Special classes were designed to **indoctrinate** new employees. +* * * * * + **MALEDICTION** _noun_ +Pronounced: mal-a-DIC-shun +Meaning: Curse. +Example: The villain’s last words were a **malediction** on the entire royal family. +* * * * * + **OLFACTORY** _adjective_ +Pronounced: ole-FAC-tory +Meaning: Of, relating to, or connected with the sense of smell. +Example: Humans have relatively weak **olfactory** abilities compared to many other animals. +* * * * * + **PAUCITY** _noun_ +Pronounced: PAW-city +Meaning: A small number or fewness. +Example: The choir suffered from a **paucity** of male voices. +* * * * * + **BEVY** _noun_ +Pronounced: BEV-ee +Meaning: An unusually large group or collection. +Example: A **bevy** of reporters crowded around the gold medal winner. +* * * * * + **REGURGITATE** _verb_ +Pronounced: re-GUR-gi-tate +Meaning: To throw up, cast out or pour out again. +Example: Brenda watched the redbird **regurgitate** food to feed his nestlings. +* * * * * + **SOMNAMBULANT** _adjective_ +Pronounced: som-NAM-bue-lent +Meaning: Walking or addicted to walking while asleep. +Example: Sheila could remember nothing of her **somnambulant** activities when she was told of them the next morning. +* * * * * + **ZEPHYR** _noun_ +Pronounced: ZEF-fur +Meaning: A soft warm breeze from the West. +Example: The gentle **zephyr** was not sufficient to keep Renee’s kite airborne. +* * * * * + **DETERRENT** _noun_ +Pronounced: de-TUR-rent +Meaning: Something that discourages or prevents from acting by fear or consideration of unpleasant consequences. +Example: The police hoped that Ted’s severe jail sentence would serve as a **deterrent** to criminal activity by the other gang members. +* * * * * + **JETTISON** _verb_ +Pronounced: JET-tih-sohn +Meaning: Drop (as auxiliary equipment, bombs, cargo or fuel) from an airplane in flight (as for lightening the load or providing greater safety). +Example: The airplane’s malfunctioning engine prompted the crew to **jettison** all unnecessary cargo. +* * * * * + **VINCULUM** _noun_ +Pronounced: VINK-u-lum +Meaning: A unifying bond. +Example: Their mutual love of dolls is the **vinculum** between Delia and Christine, who are otherwise very different. +* * * * * + **HERMITAGE** _noun_ +Pronounced: HER-mi-tidge +Meaning: A secluded residence or private retreat. +Example: Dave’s father has always dreamed of living in the city during the week and escaping to some country **hermitage** on the weekends. +* * * * * + **TURMOIL** _noun_ +Pronounced: TURR-moyl +Meaning: An utterly confused, extremely agitated or tumultuous state or condition. +Example: Jacob experienced unrelenting **turmoil** after his parents informed him that the family might move. +* * * * * + **EGREGIOUS** adjective +Pronounced: uh-GREE-jus +Meaning: Flagrant or glaringly evident. +Example: As a medical researcher, Laura knew that many reports of medical breakthroughs on television contained **egregious** errors. +* * * * * + **QUISLING** _noun_ +Pronounced: KWIS-ling +Meaning: A traitorous national who aids the invader of his country and often serves as chief agent or puppet governor. +Example: Many French citizens thought that Marshal Petain, head of the Vichy regime during World War II, was little better than a **quisling**. +* * * * * + **LAMPOON** _noun_ +Pronounced: lam-POON +Meaning: A light mocking satire. +Example: The new movie is a **lampoon** of the horror films that are made especially for teenagers. +* * * * * + **FIEFDOM** _noun_ +Pronounced: FEEF-dum +Meaning: An area over which one exercises control. +Example: The manager’s **fiefdom** consisted of two departments and the company newsletter. +* * * * * + **UNREQUITED** _adjective_ +Pronounced: un-ree-KWITE-ted +Meaning: Not returned in kind. +Example: Several passages in the novel were devoted to Harriet’s **unrequited** love for Mr. Ethan. +* * * * * + **GREGARIOUS** _adjective_ Meaning: Marked by an instinctive or temperamental preference for a social rather than a solitary existence. +Example: Because of their **gregarious** nature, dogs make good house pets. +* * * * * + **YEOMANRY** _noun_ +Pronounced: YO-men-ree +Meaning: The whole body of small farmers who cultivate their own land; specifically, the body of small landed proprietors of the middle class. +Example: Among the legal privileges of the **yeomanry** was the right to serve as a juror. +* * * * * + **KUDOS** _noun_ +Pronounced: KUU-doze +Meaning: Praises given for achievement. +Example: Daphne received many **kudos** from the drama coach after her performance in the school play. + +" +925,Working with Her G-Spot & His Prostate,LaceySheets,How To,2001-03-26,2001-03-26,2022-01-04 08:42:45,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/working-with-her-g-spot-and-his- prostate,Orgasm simultaneously for a love earthquake!,"['Find G-Spot', 'Front Wall', 'Orgasm Feel', 'Penis Rub', 'Working With Her G-Spot & His Prostate']",4.26,"**Spend A Passionate Evening Finding Each Other's G-Spots** +The G-spot may not be a surprise to some women who have already discovered the ultimate orgasm using this quarter-sized button of spongy tissue of the front vaginal wall. These women may have gone looking for it themselves or perhaps discovered it accidentally during intercourse. If you don't experiment with positions, you may never find it, or, if you do, the penis may glide right over it. So now you need to find it, either solo or duo. + **Solo -- Hers** +A squatting position is best if you don't have your guy's longer fingers for help. From the outside, place your non-dominant hand on the top of your pubic hairline in the middle. With the other hand, insert your lubricated index and middle fingers deep inside the vagina, as far up as you can. Feel for differences in the front wall; when you find it, it will feel spongy and be about the size of a quarter. As you continue to massage the area, it will swell and become harder, just as a penis does. You may have to try different pressures and strokes to obtain an orgasm, or you can buy a special vibrator with a G-spot finder curve on the end of it. When you finally do achieve an orgasm this way, it will feel quite different from a clitoral orgasm; you will feel waves of intense pleasure and aftershocks that you cannot get with a clitoral 'tickle' orgasm. Note: when you first find the G-spot you may have an over whelming feeling of needing to urinate. This will pass. However, you may find that you have 'ejaculated' a thin, white milky substance. Or not. The fluid does not lessen nor intensify the feelings. + **Duo -- Hers** +Of course it is a lot more fun to experiment with your partner. Those longer fingers really do come in handy. The positions for intercourse to use so that his penis can find the G-spot and you can both climax in an earth-shattering cloud are: woman on top, sitting, facing away from the male. The angle of the penis will rub against the front wall of the vagina. You can also be seated and face him if you lean back but push your pelvis forward. Doggy style will work and so will his lying on your back and penetrating deeply because all of these positions cause the penis to rub that special place. Later, after you've practiced a number of times, you will be able to have both kinds of orgasms and you'll see why it is definitely worth all the time you need to find and 'work' with it. Now, on to him. + **His Prostate** +Okay, so he really doesn't have a 'G-spot' per se, not like the spot Dr. Grafenberg named in women. But his prostate, properly stimulated, will give him the same kind of orgasmic pleasure your G gives you. The area right behind the scrotum and up to the anus is the perineum. You know the place, that hairless area. If you stimulate by pushing gently (until you find the right amount of pressure and motions) on the outside, this will squeeze the prostate and give him an orgasm he's never had before. It's the same as rubbing your G-spot on the outside to cause pressure on the inside. You can start by stroking it gently and build up as he's closer to orgasm. In an interview with men whose girlfriends had turned them on this way, all agreed it was the best sex they ever had. Also suggested was having the woman gently suck and lick the testicles while gently stroking the perineum. +So, light some candles, bathe each other or yourself and relax. Your favourite music or nature sounds,satin sheets, 300-count Egyptian cotton sheets, fluffy pillows...whatever soothes and carries you off to happiness and pure pleasure! +Experiment, experience and appreciate each other's bodies. And happy hunting!" +926,Worship His Cock,AnaLeePleasured,How To,2008-01-08,2008-01-08,2022-01-04 08:42:46,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/worship-his-cock,Why she loves to suck cock - and how she does it.,"['Blowjob Advice', 'Cock Sucking', 'Cum', 'Oral Sex', 'Oral Sex Advice', 'Sex Advice']",4.56,"I have always found it odd that there are women out there who do not enjoy giving a man a blow-job...especially if it is the man they love...or are in love with. Personally I just cannot imagine anything nicer than the experience of sucking a beautiful hard...or soft cock and knowing that my efforts are being enjoyed. I believe it is an honor and a privilege to be allowed to pleasure a man in this way. I have always wanted to explain why I love it so much and how I feel when I do it and what the experience gives me. That is what I will attempt to do now. I hope that someone out there enjoys reading about how wonderful cock sucking is from one woman's perspective....and hopefully somehow...a few of those women out there who see it as a ""chore"" can be converted into developing a new attitude to pleasuring their man. +My first time that I went down on a man was after a late...or rather, early night of partying hard on the dance floor of a local nightclub when I was just eighteen. He was thirty-seven and we had been getting hot and close all night and into the morning. Others on the dance floor were telling us to ""get a room""...and we finally listened to them. So off we went to his place for the rest of the 'night'. +We both had a shower and went to bed but sleep was the last thing on our minds. So we kissed and I finally got close enough to see what I had been brushing up against all night. His cock was long and hard and I ached to touch it. I didn't ask, just reached out and felt it...running my hand up and down the shaft.... Soon I was masturbating him with both hands and getting more and more excited by his groans of pleasure. I don't know why, but I just sort of took control of the situation because he was enjoying himself so much and seemed happy by what I was doing. So I kissed a trail down his strong lean stomach till my mouth found it's target. +He was so surprised when my mouth engulfed his cock. He couldn't seem to believe that I had just gone straight down on him without a word of encouragement from him. He seemed almost alarmed that I had wanted to suck his cock. For me it was the most natural thing in the world. I had never done it before and I had never even seen porn at that stage in my life. I just knew I wanted to taste...to use all the senses that I possessed. But then, that is just how I am...I believe in getting the most out of a beautiful experience...making meaningful memories that last long after the act. That is what I am all about. +So that was my first experience of sucking a cock and when I think about it now...what I loved most of all about it...was the way he enjoyed what I did. He encouraged me every step of the way with moans and groans...saying ""YES"" when I sucked his balls or gently stroked them with my hands while sucking his cock. Then afterwards, he had looked at me in amazement and awe...admitting that he had never been so masterfully handled before and wondering where I had learned to do it so well.... +He also told me that no woman had seemed to really enjoy sucking his cock before and that it usually seemed as if a woman did it as a ""favor"" or saw it as a ""chore"".....needing to be asked to do it. He said he couldn't believe I had done it voluntarily. What he said had made me wonder why anyone faced with such a lovely cock would need to be asked to suck it...I just couldn't understand it. From that first experience I learned so much about men and what they like and I also learned about myself and what I like too. +For me there is no greater compliment than having a man's erect cock pointing straight at me...I see it like a child sees candy...it just begs to be tasted and sucked. It is my reward for being a good girl...I get to have the lollipop. When we are young our parents teach us that there is more joy in giving...than receiving and as we grow older, many of us stop thinking that way and start to want more and more and give less and less. That is such a shame because life should be more about giving and enjoying the shared pleasures that creates. +It is not a nice feeling when we give someone a present and then realize that it is not actually something that they need or want. But most women quickly recognize that sucking their man's cock is one of the greatest presents you can give him....and sadly, many women use this as a blackmailing tool...manipulating their men into giving them something or doing something for them or forgiving them after a fight. This really makes me angry and my heart goes out to those men who are being used in such ways. +What do I love about sucking a juicy cock? Well, this is something that cannot be said in a sentence or two...I need to write a whole fucking story about it! For me it is an honor, as mentioned before. Here is a man...a beautiful man with a nice juicy cock all ready to be used by you. Just the thought that someone WANTS me to pleasure him...that is the first thing that excites me beyond belief! Without that WANT....I might as well be sitting back watching television. +I love the visual aspect of a cock disappearing into a willing mouth...and sometimes I envy the man because he gets to look down at his cock moving in and out between loving lips of a wanting woman. So, because I cannot see it from where I am...up close to all the action...I imagine how it must look to the man I am sucking...seeing it from his point of view. That turns me on BIGTIME!! I love when a man tells his woman to ""look up"" at him while she sucks him...and I imagine that sight from his perspective. +Eye contact is so important for me during sex. Eyes are windows to the soul...so to look into them means to see more than just a cock...or a man...or a woman...but instead to see right through to what makes them who they are. That is something I find incredibly attractive when I am in love. I want to see inside the man, which allows me access to even his deepest, darkest secrets and desires. When I look up into a man's eyes as I suck his cock, my heart beats even faster and harder, making me hornier and wetter. To see a man's eyes reflecting the emotions he is feeling...the amazing sight he is seeing...the sensations he is experiencing...THAT stays with me and affects my every thought of him from that moment on. +I also love seeing a cock all shiny and wet with my saliva from sucking him and spitting on him. It is a turn-on for both my man and me when my mouth pulls back from sucking and there is a long rope of drool connecting my mouth with his cock. It is all part of getting 'down and dirty' during an intense sexual experience. The visual aspect itself is fantastic...but that is expanded even more when you add the mental stimulation. The fact that a woman will play for hours with a man's cock and drool all over it and enjoy seeing all that wetness and get turned on by it...that is what pleases a man and when he is pleased...that in turn pleases me too. +I have often made reference to my sense of smell when engaging in close contact with another. How a man smells all over and especially when you get close to his cock, can mean the difference between a woman feeling like she is in heaven...or in bed with the toilet brush. That may sound cruel but I can understand why some women are turned off by a man who is not clean or healthy. An unhealthy man who does not eat the right foods or drink plenty of water can smell less than nice and this affects the mood and the taste of his cock and also the taste and smell of his cum. +I love the clean, fresh smell of a healthy man who takes great pride in his body. This also makes me want to worship his body as I would like mine worshiped. I even love the smell of a healthy man's sweat. This kind of sweat is even a turn-on for me after he has been exercising and while he works out with me. +My mouth waters when I kiss the head of a man's cock. I feel the anticipation of what he will taste like and slowly I let my tongue lick over his head and gently into the eye...marveling at the fact that this is the source of so much...most importantly, the giver of human life. Right there at the tip of his manhood is the place where such important bodily fluids are excreted. My knees go weak when I think about this place I am licking...allowing myself to love all that this sacred tool is used for. +I love using my tongue to trace a line of saliva around the rim of his mushroom head and allow it to pop in and out of my mouth. This gets me really worked up as it is very sexual. I love to look up right then and see him close his eyes in pleasure at the friction that is created with this movement. I love to hear the sounds of his rapid breathing and the deep rumbling timbre of his lustful groans. I love the excited thrusting motions as he tilts his hips to meet my hungry mouth. Allowing the rhythm to take a hold of me and escalate...is something so exciting... +Hands are so important during all forms of sex as they are what 'speaks' when there are no words. My favorite is kissing him while working my saliva covered hands up and down his slick shaft, being sure to stimulate the sensitive parts around the rim of his head. I enjoy pulling my head back a little so I can just look into his eyes while masturbating him and telling him how much I love him and what I am doing to him. There is so much you can do with your hands during a blow-job...an endless list of techniques which stimulate him in different ways...like rotating two hands around him or stroking his balls at the same time...or just using two fingers, thumb and second finger in the shape of an O...just rapidly over his head.... +I love the sense of power that I have when I hold my man's cock in my mouth or hands. At that moment and for the next hour or two...I am in control of what happens...and I am responsible for him having the most sensational, meaningful experience possible. I want it to be mind-blowing for him and not over and done with in an instant. I want to take him to the edge as many times as possible, stopping every time he is about to cum. I want him to experience orgasms of the mind and body...sometimes cuming only a little bit (if he is capable of that...not all men can do it) and then at the end, allowing him to shoot hot ribbons of cum as far as he can...or all over me. +The first time I tried to swallow a man's cum I was only eighteen years old and I did not like the taste. It was like horrible warm soup to me and I had to spit it out, almost vomiting in the process. For some women it is like that every time and they never get used to the taste and smell. But for me, the greater my love for the man, the greater my fascination with his cum. Now I love to smell it and lick the little droplets of pre-cum off the tip of his cock. I love the feeling of accepting his 'offering' to me like a reward for my efforts when he finally cums. +I have learned that a man is very proud of his cock and what cums out of it. For him to see a woman enjoying his cock and his cum, makes him feel emotions that are almost too hard to put into words. When I saw my fist porno I watched in horror as the man came all over the woman's face and tits as well as into her mouth. I couldn't believe she was actually enjoying that! Now I beg for cum. I love the fact that it is such a turn-on for a man to see his cum all over a woman as she smiles and licks it off. Once again, I put the shoe on the other foot and see it from his point of view. How AMAZING must it be to look down on a woman on her knees as long ribbons of cum spurt out of your cock and land all over her lovely face? +There are so many things you can do when you have a man's cock in your mouth. When I first watched porn, I would skip over the part where the woman was sucking him because I had no real concept of what went on during that time...the cameral didn't go into her mouth. But now I know how much actually goes on in there. You can tell from the sounds a man is making what is happening to his cock. I like to flick the tip of my tongue over the eye of a man's cock and especially work up a rhythm around the sensitive dent where the rim meets on the underside of his cock....all the while still sucking him and moving his cock in and out of my mouth. This can only be felt by my man and me but not seen by anyone watching. +Another discovery which was so exciting for me was the concept of 'deep throating'. I never realized that it was possible to take a man's cock down deep into my throat. I thought that when it slid into my mouth and stopped...that was it...that was as far as it could go. When I found out that a cock can actually move past that stopping point and slide down my throat I was so amazed. It is hard work, especially with a thick cock but the look on his face...pure joy...and the sounds of raw ecstasy in his voice as he realizes what you are doing for him...that is worth any discomfort. I have enjoyed this form of giving and have made it a point to 'practice' as often as I can so I get used to relaxing my throat to ward off my 'gagging reflex'. This is where I like to use my various different sized dildos. +There are still two more senses I have not gone into in any great depth. Those are the sounds and the feel or more importantly, the feelings. I find the sounds that sucking on a cock makes, exciting and dirty in an animal-like way. The squelching sounds of hands covered in saliva, rubbing over a dripping cock....fucking awesome! It all adds to the experience in a positive way...heightening sexual pleasure for both the man and the woman. +I always say to men that if they want to know how the head of a cock feels in your mouth...then take a boiled egg and peel it. Pop it into your mouth and lick it...and that is what it feels like. It is so smooth and velvety and delicate...so sweet and succulent. I love textures...materials that are smooth or ribbed...silky or course. The feel of a man's hairy strong arm against my smooth bald pussy...this all adds to the excitement and sensation so that feeling of touching his cock and balls to me is like an 'all you can eat buffet' is to a starving man. +I know that I have only touched the surface of what can be done...and what can be felt when going down on a man or 'giving head'...but I am not a very technical type of person so I can only try to describe how it feels to me. My greatest fantasy is to have a naked man on my bed and to have the next few hours or days or weeks to just do everything I have always dreamed of doing to and for him. For me it all begins and ends with the mind. First you must have the thought and then you put it into action. But at the end you must be able to reflect on what you did and communicate with your partner. This way you learn from each experience and find ways of improving each time. +There is an endless world of different sexual experiences to be had so there are no excuses for doing the same thing, the same way...every time. +So women who just suck their man's cock for a few minutes as foreplay should re-examine what they are giving. You don't cook the same dish, the same way, every day...so why not shake things up a bit? I believe that women who have a sexy male in their life...should worship his cock." +927,Write a Successful Romance,starrkers,How To,2008-05-06,2008-05-06,2022-01-04 08:42:48,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/write-a-successful-romance,Tongue-in-cheek tips to the toplists.,"['Satire', 'Writing How-To']",4.47,"So, you want to be a successful Literotica Romance writer? +Writing for Literotica is not very different for writing any other style of Romance. There are a couple of differences, though. +For one, you can write in instalments, building the tension by making your readers wait for the next chapter, instead of just turning the page. +Also, you can get more raunchy in the description of sex scenes than you would normally see in, say, a Harlequin novel. You don't _have_ to go for explicit, in-depth sex scenes though. That is the joy of the Romance category -- just about any level of sexual description goes, from a kiss and cuddle and a shutting of a bedroom door right through to full-frontal, wild, hot and wet sex. +But we're getting a little ahead of ourselves. Before we can have sex, we need people. In Romance, it's best that you have two main characters -- one male and one female -- to fall in love. There will also be a cast of lesser characters: friends and family of the main characters. And there needs to be a villain or two. +The female lead character must be feisty. She will know exactly what she wants, and she doesn't want a man. She's been burned in the past by a louse and has decided she doesn't need the heartache ever again. Or she's too busy with her studies or career to bother with all the foolery of love. She is, of course, ravishingly beautiful, but doesn't know it. +The male lead will also be dashingly good looking. He probably does know it. He will know immediately upon meeting the female lead that he wants to marry her. He will be outrageously rich (this may or may not be common knowledge). +She will not like him at The First Meeting. In fact she may well despise his cocksure attitude. But she will fall in love with him almost immediately, denying that she has. +Here's where the friends and/or family come in. Her friends will either be all for her hooking up with this wonderful chap, or they will be seriously warning her against him because of his known womanising. +He will be using his friends/family to help him get to know her better. +At this point we have The Revelation. She will realise she has fallen desperately in love with him. He will be ecstatic that he has won her over. +If you are so inclined, this is a good spot to put the First Sex Scene, to consummate their love. Violins play and weddings are planned. They are all set for the Happy Ever After. +And now you need to drop in the Evil Plot Twist. +Just as everything seems peachy between our two lovebirds, she has to see him in a compromising position with another woman, preferably a former girlfriend. He is totally innocent of any wrong doing. The evil ex-girlfriend has schemed her way to this action, so she can get him back. +Our heroine will leave in a flood of self recrimination and tears. How could she have been so foolish as to believe he loved her? Oh woe -- you know the drill. She leaves the fabulously expensive gift he has just given her in a prominent place for him to find when he comes looking for her when she doesn't turn up when expected. +She will cut off all contact with him, refusing to speak to him, the cad. She will be righteous and heartbroken. +He will be bemused and heartbroken, unable to understand why she has shut him out totally. He will move heaven and earth to get her back. +Now we need the Convenient Plot Device. This can be any number of disasters -- a car accident; getting lost outdoors in bad weather; an evil ex-boyfriend who threatens bodily harm. I'm sure you can think of others. It doesn't really matter what it is. What does matter is that one of our couple is effectively incapacitated. +If it is the heroine, it gives the hero a chance to explain what _really_ happened when she saw him with the evil ex. +If the hero is taken out, temporarily of course, it gives the heroine a chance to realise that she really does love him and she's being a fool (because, of course someone else -- the hero's family/friend -- has told her the truth but she refused to believe it). +Now we can have the Glorious Reunion, fanfares, angels singing (and here's the chance for a Second Sex Scene, if you so desire) and they can fade off into the blissful sunset, together forever. +The really good thing about Literotica is you can add extra little twists in here and there, leading up to the Big Romantic Events and have these turn up just at the end of each chapter, so that the reader is positively chomping at the bit to get to the next chapter and find out what happens. +Oh, and a quick word of warning -- try to at least make the time scale believable. +We don't want our feisty heroine falling head over heels, getting engaged, discovering the man of her dreams is a louse, bravely soldiering on with broken heart only to have major catastrophe and finally realise he is the man of her dreams and marrying him on the spot all in the space of a two week holiday. Even the most starry eyed of readers may find that a touch hard to swallow. +But, I hear you say, I've only given you the plot for one successful Literotica Romance. +No, I haven't. I've given you the plot outline for nearly every chaptered Literotica Romance (and most of Harlequin's as well) and the odd Novel. It is up to you to provide the fluffy detail that sets each one apart. +The other really good thing about Literotica is you can always write a sequel about how the happy ever after goes sour and he takes a mistress and she takes on the mailman, and put it in Loving Wives... +Or not." +928,Write Incest like a Mother Fucker,lovecraft68,How To,2014-12-19,2014-12-19,2022-01-04 08:42:48,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/write-incest-like-a-mother-fucker,How to rock Lit's most popular category the LC way.,"['Essay', 'How To', 'Incest', 'Incest Manual', 'Taboo Erotica', 'Writing Incest']",4.76,"_Author's Note; Welcome to my 100th submission to Literotica and my first in the How To category. Fair warning, this piece does not conform to the format of a 'true' how to, but is more like me conversing with you, the reader. Unconventional for this category, but I've always done things the way I want to, rather than the way I'm 'supposed to'. So this essay is simply some thoughts, observations and pointers to help write a successful story in the incest genre. One more note, this essay is dedicated to a fellow author and Author's hangout member. I don't have to name them, they know who they are. Enjoy, Lovecraft68_ +***** +Incest; a category that despite its controversial subject matter and legions of dedicated trolls is still far and away the most popular category on Literotica. If you are motivated by votes, comments, and moving up the favorite author list, Incest is the category that will ensure a huge response. If done properly. +What do I mean by properly? Because of its 'squicky' nature and association with jokes about rural south trailer parks there are many who denigrate the category saying the readership and authors are unintelligent and...trash. +It should be noted that many of these same people enjoy rape stories and tales of mythical creatures having sex with humans. A strange code of ethics some people have. Take a deep breath and say it with me. ""Your kink is okay, my kink is okay, her kink..."" +That stereotype is also unfounded. The reason many incest reader's comments seem semi literate to the eternally snarky is incest is a worldwide fetish and many readers are English as a second language. +Yet these individuals make the effort to reach out and comment to the best of their ability. So truth be told it's easy to see the ignorance lies on the other side, not 'our side' +Many of the readers I have corresponded with are well educated and professional and because of that there is an even bigger thrill from something they are not ""supposed"" to read which is why so many readers are anonymous in incest. Dirty little secrets are more fun when they're secret. +But due to that 'lowbrow' reputation many authors seem to think that simply replacing ""Gina's tits"" with ""Mommy's tits"" has now created a quality incest story. After all, just give the people their 'family fucking' and you have yourself a hit, right? Wrong. +Make no mistake, even a mediocre incest tale will get more attention than stories in many other categories, but there is a far cry from the two hundred or so votes and a dozen comments a stroke incest tale can receive- to go along with a score in the high three's to low 4 range- and a story that can go well over a thousand votes with dozens of comments and a much higher score. +Literotica is a free site. We authors are paid in votes, comments, favs and feedback, don't you want to get the biggest paycheck possible? Well if you do, then the trick is to realize incest is more than sis blowing you instead of Gina doing it. In my time here I have garnered a large following of readers and have enjoyed many successful stories in the incest genre. +But that's now. Like everyone else I started from scratch here with no fan base and writing what I hoped were stories people would like. As I have continued to write and experiment I have learned many do's and do not's of Incest. +A lot of the insight I have gained has come from corresponding with the readers and paying attention to what they say. So the first pointer I'd like to give is one that extends to every category; listen to your readers. +Not the trolls who tell you you're sick (because they are mad they just jacked off to your story) or to the ""Oh, my God, you're just the best ever"" because that is equally bogus and not useful at all. Trust me, you only wrote the best story ever until the next story they read. But in between there is good constructive feedback we can learn from. +Having said that; I have stated many times my stories are my babies and done my way. I hope for people to enjoy, but if they don't...it is not the end of my world. I care about sharing my vision and at times it is a popular one at times its not, but it's always mine. I mention this because there is a difference between hitting some sweet spots and selling out. +One of the great things about lit is you can either write to appeal to the masses or create your own style and they will find you. The latter is the case for me as I have written the same type of story from day one and as time has passed more and more readers have been drawn to it. +To date I have obtained a nice balance of writing what I want, but appealing to a large readership and so can you. +The tips I am about to give appeal, like everything else, to a certain faction of incest, not the entire genre. That faction, if not the biggest, is the most active when it comes to rewarding you, the author. +Why? Because you made the effort to tell a 'real' story and create characters they grow attached to and become passionate about. So passionate they are compelled to comment. +A well developed tale inspires people to think and tell you what they think. But a stroke story? Those are one handed reads and as soon as the reader Jacks or Jills off, they are done. Sometimes they get off before the end and will click off without voting. +So the things I am going to touch on are based on getting the reader to react to more than the sex and want to tell you about it. These little tricks and devices have given me great results and if you follow them you will have a much better chance of getting what we strive for here the; vaunted Red H and a full 'recent activity' page. +Before I go further-and since I am 'talking to the readers'- I am going to take a moment to answer the three questions I have been asked most in my four years of writing taboo tales here. Okay, they are questions two through four. Question number one still remains ""When are you going to fuck off and die, you sick prick?"" +The answer to that is only the good die young, so please, mister anonymous, don't get your hopes up. This writer of sinfully salacious sexy sister seductions and marvelous mommies mounting mischievous mama's...boys. (Yeah, I know, I ran out of M words. What do you want for free?) isn't going anywhere. +First question: Do I write my stories from experience? +No. I know the sexy response is to wax nostalgic on all the adventures I shared with my mom, but in reality, unless 'what the hell is the matter with you?' was mom speak for ""Hey baby, hop on."" There was no interest on her part. For me? I do admit to wanting to touch my mother inappropriately, but realized matricide is a crime. +I was however, many years ago, involved in what could best be described as a 'pseudo incestuous' relationship and hence my love of taboo erotica. +Second question and most frequently asked, okay sometimes asked. Alright, one reader who later admitted they were drunk and requested to have their e-mail retracted asked ""Why do you enjoy writing incest stories?"" +The answer to that question is the challenge. +Literotica has many categories, but if you remove Sci-fi/fantasy, Nonhuman and Erotic Horror-categories that by nature suspend reality- all other categories are fetishes and situations that can happen. +But incest? Incest, as we all know, is in reality, a disturbing situation and I believe both the authors here as well as the readers are aware of that and it's not what we are looking for. What are we looking for? We want incest Literotica style; Eighteen plus, fun, consensual sexy and romantic pairings between family members. +Now, how to justify it? First let me point out there are two types of stories here in any category. Stroke, which are stories designed to be one handed reads and others that make an effort to have some substance with their stroke. +There is an audience for both here, but stroke has it easy. When reading for masturbation, do you really care why mom decided to give her son a blow job, or why a formerly prudish sister bends over and begs her brother to fuck her? Nope, just go for the ride. +Now a story that is meant to be more than that? It's not an easy task to take such an implausible scenario and make the reader say, ""I could see that happening."" For me, that's the fun of writing these stories; to take something not only farfetched, but about the only thing our society still frowns upon, and have it seem real. +In every erotic story there is a moment where reality does take a back seat to porn absurdity, but it doesn't have to start that way and if an author can lay the ground work of believable characters in a unique situation that absurdity can blend in with the story itself and become rational. So I find writing these stories a difficult, yet rewarding, writing exercise. +The last question is one I have been asked by both experienced authors as well as newcomers is why do I feel my incest stories do well and how could they get theirs to be well received. Those e-mails are what inspired me to write this piece. +There's more than one answer to that question, one of which being to simply keep at it. The more stories you have the larger your readership becomes and the more positive votes you get. But you still have to gain those readers and the key is to write a certain way and be consistent with it to find more readers who share your vision of the genre. +I have built a reputation for writing long, detailed stories that focus on far more than just fucking, but the things that lead to that crossing of the line between siblings or parents and their adult offspring. On that note, it's time to get to the real point of this essay and that's the keys to writing a successful incest story on literotica. +I am going to preface the rest of this by repeating that on lit there is an audience for everything and there is no flat out right and wrong style of story to write. But what I have seen from both my own stories and others in the category leads me to believe that when trying to achieve the best possible score and get that recent activity page lit up like a Christmas tree, there are things that work far better than others. +Let's go back for moment to my comment about the misconception that incest readers are less intelligent or discerning than those of other categories. Unlike most genre's, authors do not write incest through experience, but more from fantasy. Yes, there are those that will go on and on about what they did with their family growing up and perhaps they did, but for the most part incest is a fantasy rather than 'deed' kink. +Because of that it adds to the challenge to write a convincing story as there is not a lot to base it on. If you've had group sex, you can write it, bi- sexual, BDSM...all things people can write from real events, but incest...not so much. The risk in those categories is obvious; if you've never done it and can't ""fake it"" you get caught with your pants down. +So there are authors here who feel they can easily put it past the 'less than' incest crowd and make a token effort and expect accolades for it. Sorry, but, no. Like any other genre the incest readership knows what it wants. +Taking a simple everyday porn premise and sticking in the buzz words of mom, sis, or daddy is not enough to create a truly memorable incest tale. Like all categories the incest readers know when the author is sincere or being disingenuous and simply posting copy paste efforts; throwing as much 'family' wordage in as possible because they are looking for some quick strike attention and votes. +What do I mean by that? Quite simply put those stories have no heart and believe it or not what drives a successful incest story is emotion. A son just fucking his mother is okay for some, but what the readers really crave is a four letter word. No not fuck, not even lust, but...love. +Despite the bad reputation the category has and its inherently disturbing nature, the incest crowd is a soft fun loving bunch. They are romantics at heart; it's just a strange kind of romance. But that doesn't mean a story where little sister says ""I love you"" after her four brothers gang bang her, achieves that, again...you need to mean it and make them feel you mean it. +So let's walk through the steps to accomplishing your incestuous masterpiece and then we will address the all important detail of ""Incest romance"" Now the following can apply to any incest 'pairing', but as it progresses my examples are going to lean more towards mother son as it's the biggest sub category within incest, but again it's all plug and play with any story, you want to write. +First, your title. This will sound like a no brainer, but sometimes obvious things are what we miss. Whatever the 'pairing' is, make use of it in your title and your tag line. Mother/son stories should have mom in the title. +Mother works, mommy works, but I feel Mom is the best term to use, but that's subjective, the use of it should not be. The readers are browsing a list of stories and you need to tell them, ""Hey, here is what you want."" +I learned this right off the bat. My first mother/son story here was called ""Weekends with Laura"" the score on it is fairly good, but the votes and comments way below the norm. Why? Because who the hell is Laura? Why is Laura in incest? The reader would assume if it's in the category that she would have to be a mom or sis, but why make them think and chance them wandering away? +Now fortunately for me, it was not a total loss as my tag line read ""Kevin loves older women, especially his mother"" so if they got past the title they saw what I was writing about. So putting your buzz word in a title is big if you want to get your story clicked on. +As for your tag line; like any other story, a description, but also the ""other half"" of your taboo coupling. I missed that in my example ""Kevin"" who is good old Kev? The son...but again, call it out! People don't search by names they search by ""mom, son, dad"" +Also important in the tag line is a nice hook, a tease, a little flair. +Title ""Mom will do anything."" Tag line ""Desperate mother agrees to a porn shoot...with her son!"" read that out loud with the pause and in a shocked tone, ""With her son!"" Yes, cheesy, but this is the thrill they are looking for, so don't roll your eyes, just go for it. +Another thing to keep in mind is if your story is not straight up mother/son and you are going to introduce another kink, make sure your title and tag calls it out. +The reason is twofold. You want to draw people who also like that kink and may give your story a look because of it, but more importantly if that kink turns someone off you would rather them be forewarned and not read it than give you a bomb. +Title ""Mom is bound to Please"" Tag line ""Anna's bondage fantasies are fulfilled, by her son."" Note that bondage is called out in title and description and ""By her son"", again the shocking taboo disclaimer. +Titles can be ""stroky"" or ""serious"" and I don' think either will affect a reader clicking. However there is a fine line. ""Mom loves to Suck"" is pretty ""porno"" but in a fun way and it could still be a ""story"" now ""Gangbanging my mother's ass"" is going cause people who enjoy the aforementioned ""Love"" to give an eye roll and wander off. +Now that we have our catchy and to the point title and tag, let's get to some of the things incest readers enjoy or do not enjoy. +The number one no-no in incest is non consent. No added element to an incest story will get you flamed as much as non consent will. Why? My personal theory is we all know real life incest is molestation, abuse and rape because it's generally done to under age children and by older relatives. Incest readers know that and they are defensive of the category because that's what the ""real world"" associates their kink with. +So when it shows up here, they get upset. Incest readers want their family encounters to be a consensual, fluffy, clean dirty fun; a good time had by all and of course...romantic. Happily Ever After rules in incest as much as romance. +Rough sex is something that's frowned upon, even consensually. This was taught to me by how small the readership was for my Siblings with Benefits series which featured rough sex and hardcore BDSM. +The series did well score wise, but while stories like ""Oh, sis fuck me"" were getting 300 votes, SWB was getting 75. This was driven home by a comment that to this day makes me laugh ""Good sir that is no way for a loving brother to treat his beautiful big sister!"" +Now that comment is funny, but informative. Look at his wording ""loving brother, beautiful sister"" that's what the readership wants! +They want happy sweet couplings, they can be raunchy and dirty, mom/sis can act and talk like porn stars, but there has to be that emotion behind it to give them the best of both worlds and it also adds that ""consent"" and safe feeling that these stories are not the abuse of true incest. +Depressing storylines are also not as well received (see author LaRascasse for well written but depressing examples) All of my mother son stories range from the high 4.6's into the 4.8's except for one which lingers around 4.5. +That story ""Mama's Boy"" was lower voted because the storyline features an abusive alcoholic who mistreats his wife and son. So although I stress write what you wish, be aware these stories will not see top numbers. +The next 'dislikes' I am going to give are subjective, because again, there is something for everyone. So these ideas are not ones that will necessarily get you flamed, but are only for a certain faction and the point of this is taking the sweet spots over the some like it some don't. +Family orgy incest. Not everyone is into this and it takes the already implausible and throws it into absurdity. Having the entire family hopping on comes across as pure stroke. Although an entire family can love each other they are not going to 'fall in love' with each other. +So the romance ticket is out the door with your plausibility, the taboo is gone because if the whole family is doing it, who cares? And that means there is no conflict and no threat of being caught and punished. Will some love it, of course, but a lot of readers will pass it by. +Involving others: Another 'faction' aspect. The people who are into the type of story I am discussing are protective of the taboo love affair going on between the family members. +This is a lot stronger instinct in brother/sister. They don't want sis having any cock but their brothers and the other way around. It ruins the fantasy 'loving relationship' come on people, we all know it's wrong to cheat on your sister! +It is worth noting that in mom/son many are fine with dad still being in the mix with mom to add an element of sneaking around and conflict and guilt that mom is sleeping with both(note, not talking about the strokers; they want both doing her at once, I know cause...well I wrote one. +Hangs head in shame) But seeing dad is dad and he was there first its okay...now have mom have a boyfriend she is tagging when not with her son...prepare to be bombed. +When it comes to daddy/daughter the rule of thumb is stories where the daughter is the aggressor are better received than the father seducing the daughter. The reasoning for this is a dubious double standard. +Mom seducing son? Just fine, just a hot cougar who happens to be related to her cub. But dad after the daughter comes with some rape connotations even if the author is writing full consent. It may not get you trolled, but it will score a bit lower than daughter being hot for daddy. +Now for the ""Do's"" First and foremost dialogue. What are we reading for in this category? It's not to hear, ""Oh, Susan, please..."" its ""Oh, mom, please..."" make use of your buzz words in your dialogue and your narrative. +Work the incest angle, use mom, sis, daddy, little brother, big brother and use them as often as you can, but do not beat them like a dead horse. If you have three mom's in a sentence odds are you're abusing the angle. +I know this sounds contradictory to my point of 'you can't just paste in the word sis and have a good story' but if you write the rest of your story in the manner we are discussing it will be fine, because there will be much more involved than just those words. +What will be involved to add heat to just another cookie cutter story of hey, look sis is sucking her brother's dick? The answer is the second most important key ingredient to a popular incest story; conflict. +Incest is a taboo, it is a line we are told we should never cross. When two members of a family commit incest, they are tasting the forbidden fruit. That angle is one never focused on in many stories. If siblings are fucking one thousand words into a story you're doing it wrong because we are not talking stroke here. +The crossing of that line should not be jumped into; the reader should be led into it through the eyes of the character. Let's use the example of a son desiring his mother. How did he come about desiring her? What event led him from seeing his mom as the woman who raised him to a sexual woman he now lusts after? +That event could be the finding of some racy pictures or videos of his mother, somehow seeing her perform a sexual act, her becoming drunk and perhaps saying or doing some slightly inappropriate things, something just off color enough to get the son thinking in ways he shouldn't. +A popular device in these stories is dad out of the picture and the son becoming the man of the house. Mom is lonely, sad, the son thinks she should be happy, somewhere the wires cross and he decides he should be the man to take care of his mom in every way, after all, who could love a woman more than her son? +Now that last line? That is a score. That is the type of thought, or dialogue from a son that grabs the reader, that makes them nod and say, ""Oh, yes!"" +Flip it around? Who better to take care of a young man than his loving mother? What other woman could be so good to him? +Once you have decided upon the event that gets the ball rolling we are now ready for some realism in the form of guilt. When you write about Tommy watching mom bending over and he's checking out her ass, don't just leave it at him thinking ""nice ass"" or getting a hard on. Put some turmoil in there, this is his mom! Tommy should be thinking, ""Nice ass? What's wrong with me, this is my mother!"" +There should be some resistance to the attraction, a hesitation and concern over his feelings. Have him jerk off to his mother then lay there ashamed of himself for seeing his mother in such a dirty way. +Have him make an effort to stop seeing her that way. He tries, but he can't! When Tommy sees mom, he's like a dieter looking at a double cheeseburger. You know it's not right, know you can't have it, but oh, how you want to taste it! +This builds the heat; each conflicted thought whets the reader's appetite for what's to come. They know he is going to get mom because this is incest, but they don't need to know when or how. So tease them along and have them hot and horny long before the main event occurs. +Now we're ready for Tommy to take a bite of that cheeseburger...but wait! There's more! We can't have Tommy just say, ""Mom, I want you and ""Oh, Tommy I've been waiting!"" we have to do some more teasing in the form of some...conversation. +It's confession time. Whether mom catches Tommy with some mother son porn, checking her out, talking in his sleep, copping a feel... get them to be looking eye to eye and Tommy owning up to his feelings. Have him admit it-and again, conflict- he is embarrassed and ashamed of his feelings, so some blushing, stuttering, a good old, ""Mom, I'm so sorry"" +Mom says, ""What the hell is wrong with you?"" Oh, wait, sorry, that was my mom again. +So mom...from here it's your call. Has mom known all along and has been waiting for him to make the first move? Is she appalled at first? If she is that's when Tommy starts laying it on thick, ""Mom, you're so beautiful and I love you and...and I know I shouldn't be thinking like this, but I want to see you happy and I know I can make you happy in every way."" +As an aside the above would make a good hallmark card for Mother's day...just saying. +So now mom...okay, look, at some point in even the most well done realistic tale we need to admit we are writing erotica and some good old fashioned Bum chika wa wa seventies porn music kicks in and we delve into porn absurdity because of course mom is going to give in. +She could give in because she's wanted it, she can try the ""I'll let him start and when he sees it wrong he'll quit and realize...oh, I like this or anything you want. But again, build it, let them talk it out, let them experience Tommy's emotions. +He's scared at first, ashamed, then hopeful. Mom hasn't kicked him in the balls or dialed 911 and threatened to take him to a shrink, she's listening, she's...talking, she's...does she want it to? +Of course she does or there wouldn't be a story so there should be no suspense, but there is because you have done such a masterful job the reader is hanging on every word and squirming the entire time because they know they are so close to our hero breaking the ice with mommy dearest. +Now when we start, we start slow...kissing. Kissing is so important here. Whether , it's Tommy and mommy or daddy and his little girl, that first kiss, a lover's kiss to a family member needs to be focused on. +Tentative at first, nervous, this isn't right, but...oh, her lips and that tongue, a soft whimper and the slow awkward kiss that you work into a deep passionate filled make out session. Take your time with this; it gets the reader ready to blow before you've even gotten anyone naked. +Touching. During this kiss the hands need to wander, through their hair, down their backs, maybe a grope...but again slowly. We want a slow burn before we turn it into an all out wildfire. Keep playing the nerves, trembling fingers, pounding hearts, conflicting emotions, ""I can't, we can't, oh, the hell we can't!"" +The reader is getting ready to pop, but you're not letting them just yet, but this is a good tease because they, like your characters, are so close! Why? Because you my friend, have got them worked into a frenzy of anticipation. +Undressing...No ripping off of clothing, slow and sensual. During your deep kiss and slow touching, that touching leads to pants being unsnapped, hands slid into them, skirts being lifted, blouses unbuttoned. +Now when mom steps back and starts stripping, or Tommy removes her bra (pop quiz, how does he do it? If you answered with trembling fingers you were correct, if you answered he couldn't get it undone because guys suck at that, you answered honestly!) +But when mom's breasts are exposed, this is a big moment so make use of it. Tommy is seeing his mother's breasts for first time and you need to describe his amazement and his lust. +All the above this is where your buzzwords come back into play as well as reminding the reader that all this is a big no-no! When mom takes her bra off, let Tommy be ""transfixed by the sight of my mother's breasts"" ""A feeling of the surreal came over me, was my mother really here in front of me, on her knees and ready to give her son a blow job?"" +Most of all, and it is worth repeating, let Tommy be overwhelmed at how sexy his mother really is, the reader will be doing it right along with him because you have turned that reader into Tommy. For the duration of the story this is what he has desired, struggled over, and is finally about to receive...his mother! +When the sexual acts have begun-and I am not going to give a blow by blow -yup, meant to say that-of those acts. We all know how to write sex scenes so the only thing I will stress is keeping that dream like feeling to the scene, the ""I can't believe this is happening"" sense of wonder. +As for 'who rides who at the end of the race' In sibling stories I feel it works just as well either way to have one sibling be the more experienced lover, or the less nervous more enthusiastic one. +For father/daughter pairings, as discussed the little princess should initiate, but once she does dad taking over or daughter remaining the surprising little sex kitten can go either way, because of the nature of that pairing. +For mother son, which is what I have focused on in my story example, the mom should be in control. Why is that? Because what this becomes in a sense is a milf acting as a cougar with her cub. Mom is an older sexually experienced woman, who many times in these tales is alone and pent up. A son is not going to overwhelm his mother sexually, nor would he try. +Remember this little realistic detail mixed with our fantasy porn: He is her son. As much as he has lusted for her, this is mom and he is conditioned to obey-and most importantly-respect mom. +For me, it works best that mom takes the lead and her son happily defers to the fact she is not just mom, but a more experienced lover. Also in our romantic angle, what does he want? To make mom happy, so he is simply pleased to please her. +A parent would be inclined to guide their child. Mom knows he is nervous and wants him to enjoy and be pleased with and by her and will know that better time-for the first time-will come from her experience as a lover as well as the tenderness of a mother (another Hallmark moment in the works there) +Now when I say control I am not speaking of anything dominant and submissive, but simply along the lines of, ""Okay, baby, now you just sit back and let your mother enjoy her son's beautiful cock"" +This is where you can either have mom be a somewhat sweet lover and a nice slow sensual encounter or now that she is in a no turning back situation turn into a candidate for the milf hunter web site. For me, I go with mom getting down and dirty. +We have teased the reader long enough and it's time to turn this thing up to eleven. Dirty talk combined with your buzzwords are a powerful combination, ""How's mommy look sucking your cock?"" ""Oh, look at you, licking your mother's pussy."" Remember, mom is now in the heat of the moment and has needed a good hard fucking for a long time. +Even if mom has been portrayed as prudish or sweet, she has succumbed to the biggest taboo there is, lusting for her son, so turning 'slutty' is not far stretch compared to that fact, in a sense she is caught up in a dirty act that brings out that bad girl side, simply put, mom is sex drunk (is that real term...I don't know, but I have been there and the hangover can be even better) if you still struggle with that, refer to ""Ba chika wa wa"" and know we are giving the reader what they want. +Why? Oh I will tell you...because even the people who eat up the romance want the dirty fucking. Best of both worlds, a hot as hell fuck with the most loving woman a son could find! +Not to mention that slow burn you have put them through now being taken into a hardcore scene causes one hell of a release for the reader, makes it worth the wait. +As they move around the world (use a lot of positions, Tommy should see his mother from every angle) continue with the taboo wording, ""I inhaled and moaned softly at the forbidden scent of my mother's pussy."" +Or ""Mom spread her legs and I licked my lips at the sight of mom's...pussy, I was staring at my mother's pussy!"" Lust, disbelief and a reminder 'this shit ain't right!' +Like dialogue, these thoughts and feelings should be exploited as much as you feel you can get away with it while not getting redundant. Another plot device that has worked well for me is tossing in some humor. Not just some of the bad one liners I use during the story in dialogue, but something during the sex, that's funny, but family oriented. +""Hmm, this looks good,"" Mom paused, her lips parted, her breath hot on my straining cock. ""This all for me?"" she flicked her tongue lightly over my purple head and I whimpered, +""Please, don't tease, mom, please!"" +""Please? Wow, someone raised you right!"" +Or +Mom looked down at the cum dripping down my cock and sighed, ""Even now, I still have to clean up after you"" +One more. +Her tongue sliding along the length of my cock, mom gathered her hair and handed it to me to keep it out of her face. ""You can hold it, but don't pull on it. I am your mother after all"" +Little things like that add a fun dimension to the encounter because end of the day sex should be about fun and it shows how comfortable our new incestuous couple is. Mom is not just having sex with her son, but it's playful! +I am going to briefly mention the end to the scene, the ""money shot"". Now mom can continue her porn star audition and take a load to the face, her tits, all over her back. Or it could be inside, but you don't want to do that yet and we will soon get to why. +Now that mom and son have consummated their forbidden desire and established they are most likely going to hell, but are going to enjoy the ride. Seriously, because it's time for a little...""Oh, my God did we really just do that! No real regret, but a moment of holy shit! +But from holy shit it's time to mix in that all important main ingredient for our oedipal (or other coupling) cocktail; Love, baby, nothing but love for ya! +Tommy was not only lusting after mom, but also wanting to love her and during the build up and sex we did not include just fucking and sucking, but kissing and touching and that, ""She felt so good in his arms"" description. +Tommy now knows what it's like to have her as a woman sexually, but now the smoke has cleared and our shocked, but satisfied, couple is going to go to sleep, but not before they profess their love and desire to build that love, to not let this be a onetime thing, but to enjoy each other and take care of each other in every way! Pardon me while I wipe my eyes. +So the end? Not if you're smart my taboo Jedi, because...well mom and son, bro/sis dad/daughter have not made love yet! The ultimate conclusion to our HEA fantasy is a nice sweet lovemaking scene-better to leave this one fairly short compared to a long detailed fuck scene. Nice and easy and romantic, does the trick here. +Tommy awakes and his initial thought is, 'was that a dream?' Hell no, because his face smells like mom's pussy and...Mom is right there in his/her bed with him! This is where you focus on just how good mom feels in that oft mentioned ""every way"" +Let him focus on his mother lying in his embrace, her face on his chest, breasts pressed against his side, her long soft leg draped over his. His hand is on her back, and he can feel her slow deep breaths, her hair is in his face and she looks so peaceful, so satisfied, Tommy pulled her closer to him and feels a wave of emotion come over him as he holds his mother as a lover, not a son... +Okay, hold on, have to adjust something...okay, the fonts are changed. What did you perverts think I was doing? +But that example is what the readership craves, they eat it up. Mom and son, Brother and sister, daddy and his little girl, not just in lust, but falling into a taboo love, breaking the rules of God and man and loving the one person in the world they are told they shouldn't love in that way. +Stories that end with our sinful couple covered in sweat, still breathing hard from their passion, professing their love and how even though it was wrong nothing has ever felt so right. +Back to the star of our show, Tommy is getting a little misty, but something else is waking up too, because he starts thinking of mom's moist pussy pressing into his leg and those hard nipples against him. Mom stirs and looks up at him. They share a long deep kiss and Mom's hand strays between his legs. Tommy's ready (because no one in porn ever has to pee or can't get it up) +From here, I enjoy mom rolling over on top of him, but moving slowly and sensually not riding like a cowboy like she did previously. Her arms slip beneath his and they kiss as she remains on top. +Tommy rolls them over and they make slow sweet love. But not so sweet that we are not using ""Mom sighed contentedly as she wrapped her legs around me, pulling me deeper into her taboo embrace"" +This is where Tommy, who is feeling his mother's heart as much as her body, continues to make love to his mother until he comes deep inside of her. This is why the 'dirty scene' ends in a nice cumshot somewhere, because we saved the best for last. +Yes facials are fun and dirty, but the ultimate thrill, the best way to finish a story is with Son/brother/Dad filling his partner with his cum(I will die before I use essence... you know who you are...:)) And do make sure that mom/sis/daughter moan and whimper at how good it feels to have that forbidden fluid filling them. +End with them still wrapped in each other's embrace and promising the reader this is how they will remain and...you have yourself the makings of successful incest story. +I hope you found this essay informative and if you want some proof as to the success of these stories look at the works of Alwayswwantedtoo, TX Tall tales and although he is not prolific, no author has ever penned better sibling romance than Paco Fear and his iconic stories Words on Skin, Stolen kisses and Macallan Promises. +A look at my own page here will also show you the style I have developed in this category has gained proven results. More so, although this essay focused on incest all the points I made-except the buzzwords-can be used in any genre. +My stories in other categories are mostly written along the same lines of conflict, emotion and a nice slow burn before the characters reach the climactic encounter we ultimately read erotica for. +Many readers across the board enjoy a good story and 'real' characters and if you give them that, they will reward you where it counts; votes, comments and most importantly selecting you as a ""favorite author"". +I want to take a moment to thank the readership of Litertoica. When I came here four years ago I was unsure if people would enjoy my style. +Even during the dark and somewhat infamous Siblings with Benefits series, people seemed drawn to my different concepts and visions and once I finished SWB and began experimenting in other categories and getting deeper into the incest genre, more and more people e-mailed me, encouraging my work and asking for more. +That encouragement has kept me writing and recently helped see me through some dark times in life. Last month I reached 4000 favorites, a number I would have never thought possible back in May 2010 when I released ""Almost Perfect"" (which was far from perfect). +So to close this out I want to say thank you to my longtime readers and new fans alike, as well as the authors who encouraged and advised me. Your support has kept me writing. So thank you my friends; your past and continued support is deeply appreciated. ***** + _Author's note: The holidays are quickly approaching so just a quick note to wish everyone a happy and safe holiday season. I am planning big things for 2015 and hope you will continue to follow my work. Lovecraft68_" +929,Write Your Head Around This,PanzerFeck,How To,2017-05-05,2017-05-07,2022-01-04 08:42:50,3,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/write-your-head-around-this,1. The power of the senses. 2. Colour and creativity. 3. Creativity through hearing.,"['Author Advice', 'Creative Writing', 'Guide', 'How To', 'Writing Advice', 'Writing Exercise', 'Writing Guide']",4.21,"PART 1: AROMATHERAPY +FOREWORD +This is a brief but informative and hopefully enlightening article on using your senses to help with your creativity. I highly recommend that if you're open-minded and looking to make your storytelling feel a little more adventurous and expressive, you try this and see where it takes you. +1 +THE SENSES +There is an uncommon neurological phenomenon called Synaesthesia, where to trigger the senses, emotions, or certain cognitive functions (memory or problem solving), causes an automatic triggering of other senses or cognitive functions. +Imagine a crazy world where the sound of somebody's name, or a word, left a specific taste in your mouth. Imagine that numbers caused you to hallucinate colours, or that memories triggered smells. What if music caused you to see auras around people? +The phenomenon that is synaesthesia comes in so many forms that some experts in the field believe that we all experience a level of it. Misophonia - the disorder that causes sounds to cause feelings of stress, agitation, fear, and anger - is becoming more prominent with the rise in depressive and anxiety disorders. This disorder, although not yet classed as a form of Synaesthesia, is still suspected of being so. +But although we each experience instances similar to these examples, by the power of association and familiarity we react voluntarily. Sometimes we have difficulty controlling our voluntary reactions, and unless the colour red is going to turn you into a raging bull, I don't think we need to worry about becoming incontrollable beasts because of the sensory input that we're bombarded with on a daily basis. +It's a highly fascinating subject to get involved in, and it was the basis behind a series of creative exercises that I designed over the past half a year, to help people to unlock memory and creative potential, but also to seek a different way of thinking. I probably should have expected that it would also lead to new styles of writing for some of those who took part; myself included. +The human senses are a wonderful thing, aren't they? Where would we be without the ability to see dog shit before we can smell it underfoot? +Okay I'll look for a more pleasant approach... +The human senses are a wonderful thing, aren't they? They really allow us to enjoy the simpler things in life, like the smell of fresh air and burnt ozone after a thunderstorm, or fresh cut grass on a sunny day. The way smell rises with heat, and you wake up to the smell of bacon suspended in the still air of your bedroom on a Saturday morning; it sort of rouses you with a hunger for the day itself. +The sound of birds chirping, music playing, fire crackling, water running along a peaceful stream, it makes this savage world beautiful. Just one sense alone can turn a life of shit into a divine work of art. +And of course we have our eyesight, with which we can see colours, textures, light and illusions. We have the power of touch, and I don't think I need to tell you the things that touch can do to us - not here of all places. And let's not forget both the immense pleasure and disgust that taste can cause. +Without our senses, I doubt we'd be here. They're as preservational as they are pleasurable. But it's easy to take them for granted, especially in the modern day metropolis where all of our senses are constantly bombarded with experiences that vary in distinction and quality. More often than not, we're now experiencing quantity over quality. +We often switch off to avoid confusion, with so much info bouncing around (and little of it useful at all) - an undeniable contributing factor for the continual rise of social anxiety - and we go from living in a perpetual echo chamber of sensory input, into a state of self-imposed sensory deprivation. +The result: our sentinel intelligence becomes mute. Other senses may even suffer for the lack of their observational partners. Still, we don't try harder to compensate for the senses we dull, because we don't want to be bombarded by so many experiences at once. +If only we could concentrate on one sense at a time. You'll be surprised how everything comes alive, what the arousal of a single sense can do for the human mind. And this is the basis for my exercise. +So when, dear reader, was it last that you consciously exercised your individual senses? +2 +SMELL THERAPY +Aromatherapy traditionally involves the use of aromatic plant extracts and essential oils for healing practices and cosmetic improvements. It isn't restricted to flowers and oils. Incense is a commonly enjoyed form of aromatherapy the world over, and not just to hide the stink of weed in teenagers' bedrooms. And beyond aromatherapy, everybody has a favourite smell and a reason behind it! +Of course maybe the very use of the word Aromatherapy for this exercise is not totally definitive. The only use of aromas here is to trigger memory, emotion, and imagination. If the use of a certain aroma triggers the need to arouse another sense, then I would suggest you go with it, so long as it doesn't run the risk of arrest and imprisonment... +Don't know why I felt the need to add that, but there you go. Just in case, I suppose. +The object of the following writing exercise, if you choose to give it a go, is to try to associate as much as you can with a single aroma. If you have a friend or a significant other who would like to join you in this exercise, that'd be even better. When people feel the need to explain in depth what they associate with a smell and maybe why, it ups the ante for more provocative thought. +It could be that any one thing you choose for its aroma evokes thoughts of something that seems completely unrelated, but isn't that where your creativity finds greater challenge? +3 +AN EXAMPLE +The last time I partook in this writing exercise I had at my side a cotton wool pad laced with pine oil. A particularly pungent scent, pine oil at first bears the scent of the tree it's derived from, but when your sense of smell becomes accustomed to it, and all the while roused by it, you begin to smell undertones of other things. +I found myself associating also with the strong odour of dirt, heat and sweat, making me think of saw mills and soldiers climbing mountains in the heat of late springtime. I smelled decay which made me think of abandonment and nature's savage and deadly cycle. +In the end I wrote a poem about the end of wartime, when violence and industry recedes and nature consumes all once again. It was pretty dramatic but with an air of acceptance and peace. It not only related to what I could smell and the feelings that sense evoked, but also the shapes and textures of the human machine versus immortal nature's silent and stealthy explosions of life where there seemed none left. +Even if I wasn't anywhere specifically in memory, the aid of that one sense alone carried me. I wrote with little trouble, but with a great hunger for adventure. +4 +EXERCISE +Take yourself a pen and a piece of paper so that you can write down whatever springs to mind. Maybe it'll be a small list of single words, or maybe a list of descriptions. It doesn't matter how you do it. The first part is essentially just morse code! +I highly recommend getting yourself a bottle of aromatic oil. There are so many to choose from and they're relatively inexpensive for what they are. But of course you don't have to, because anything with a strong smell that you can have to hand, you can use. +Maybe you have some spices in the kitchen that you could sniff at all day long and never get tired of. I feel the same way about cinnamon. Tea and coffee also have a special place in my heart, as does petrol for some strange reason. +Orange peel, dried lavender, leather, fresh cut wood chips, a clean ironed item of clothing - the ball is in your court as to what you choose to smell for this exercise. Take it to your table and study its smell. Close your eyes and let come what will come. What does your sense of smell evoke? Write it down... +How does it make you feel? What does it make you want to do? Where does it take you? Does it evoke a person you once knew, or a character? +It could be that you come up with a multitude of things, triggering more than just memories, or feelings, but a whole world up there in your head that you hadn't considered. Or maybe there's a seemingly simple memory that brings its own emotional baggage. +Keep sniffing whatever it is that you're sniffing. But please don't get too high. You need to be sharp for this, and I think you'll find that as your senses and your sensibilities come alive with the experience, so will you. +Next you're going to take fifteen minutes to half an hour to write whatever comes. You should find it easy to just go with the flow and to let whatever is being written write itself. These things do take over. They just need a little help along the way. +If you stall, take another dose and keep at it. No matter if you don't finish by the end of your writing session, pay attention to what you have written and see what's different about it to what you might normally have done. +This compulsive approach to creative writing is a great little exercise, plenty of fun, and lets your inner creator put the perfectionist ego on the back shelf for a while. I certainly benefited from that, as I'm very conscious of what I write for the sake of entertainment, to the point where I often spend too long, in vain, trying to cater for some projected audience that doesn't necessarily exist; or if it does, one that judges more than the audience that I have acquired so far. +Good luck, have fun, and don't try too hard. Follow your intuition and your instincts, or in this case, simply follow your nose and see where it leads you! +5 +CONCLUSION +What does the sense of smell have to do with creativity, do you suppose? I'd like to hear your thoughts after you've tried this exercise. Personally, as a man for whom environment and atmosphere are important, my sense of smell stands for many things. +I'm grounded by my sense of smell. It has emotional weight as well as the ability to be tantalised and aroused. When I smell something bad, I show not only distaste but sometimes even wonder if I smell danger or uncleanliness. Smell provides identity to people and places. +As far as fantasy goes, any fictional world you create is not just a moving picture with sound. It has dimensions and one of those dimensions is smell, which allows your readers to relate and to bring the story to life via their own personal connotations. +And as you may well have discovered here, you can write a whole story based on a single sense, without it having anything to do with the context; in fact without having done anything other than providing an open door into your own mind. +I know, we forget so easily what's up there sometimes! + +" +930,Writing a lot: Helpful Strategies,Ormond1799,How To,2020-10-24,2020-10-24,2022-01-04 08:42:52,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-a-lot-helpful-strategies,Here you'll find various useful tips for writing a lot.,"['Authors', 'Editing', 'Revision', 'Writing', 'Writing Help', 'Writing Tips']",4.69,"Introduction +Authors frequently confront the challenge of generating written material. The challenge of generating hundreds or thousands of words represents one of the most exasperating aspects of the entire writing process. Writers of all levels, no matter if they're novices or experienced writers, must find ways to work through the difficulties of writing. In the essay that follows, I offer advice on writing a lot. The advice readers find below falls into in one of two categories. The first category represents small changes in approach that may aid writers in generating written content. The second category represents larger changes, often reflecting an alteration in how we think, write, and approach the writing process. These strategies, whether big or small, may require a change in the philosophy of your writing work. The advice below reflects my many years of personal and professional writing, teaching writing, and thinking about the scholarship of writing pedagogy. Hopefully, readers will find useful advice below. However, remember that writing represents a complex manifestation of the writer's approach, experience, and thinking; there can be no one-size fits all guide. In short, feel free to adapt or ignore any of the ideas below. +Ignore the myth of the author as artistic figure +Many writers, especially new writers, often find themselves embracing the idea that they can only write during moments of spontaneous inspiration. The focus on spontaneous inspiration largely derives from our modern understanding of the writer as a creative figure. The inspiration phenomenon derives largely from Romanticism, a literary movement where many writers fashioned themselves as sensitive creatives inspired by the world around them. The poets Wordsworth and Coleridge can write something like ""poetry is the spontaneous overflow of emotion,"" but at the end of the day, both of them needed to eat. Writing, whether done for a living or a hobby, is labor. +Writing is thinking +Writing and thinking are inseparable. When we write, whether at a keyboard or on a notepad, we're demanding our brains engage in parsing ideas and drawing on words in an attempt to put nascent ideas on paper. We can't isolate writing from thinking, and that is why the process of writing can be a difficult one. Again, writing (and the associated thinking) represents work. Sure, it isn't like doing landscape work or spending eight hours in a hot kitchen; writing is a different kind of work, but it is still taxing, and in the process we ask a lot of ourselves. If you're experiencing writer's block, then consider that maybe you're asking too much of yourself. Sometimes the brain just can't do words; in no way is writer's block a creative failing. Go do something else for a while. Maybe consider coming back to your writing the next day. +Writing is a process +If we allow ourselves to understand that writing exists as a process consisting of distinct concrete steps, then we can remove pressures inhibiting our writing. We all want to write a lot. However, many writers face difficulties getting words on the page. Writing struggles often lack any connection to a writer's skill or creativity. Are you some one that must create a perfect sentence? Maybe go back and edit a sentence repeatedly before moving on to the next sentence? Perhaps you can't stop yourself from hitting delete repeatedly. We can minimize many of these issues by embracing the idea of writing as a process. +What goes into writing as a process? Generally, the writing process includes three distinct areas. First, is pre-writing. Think of pre-writing as anything coming before the actual process of sitting down to write. Writers in the pre- writing stage might think about their ideas, approaches, or establishing new concepts. Pre-writing might include drafting an outline, a storyboard, a story map, or creating character dossiers. Pre-writing can occur anywhere or any time. Talking yourself through an idea while lathering your hair in the shower? That's pre-writing. Anything that you do to establish ideas or prepare yourself to write falls under pre-writing, including any reading or additional research that you might do ahead of writing. +The actual act of writing represents the second stage of the writing process. I'll say more about writing later. Revision marks the last part of the writing process. Writers in the revision stage focus on considering their text as a whole, making significant changes focusing on what are called higher order concerns. High order concerns consist of the larger aspects of our writing: organization, story structure, plot development, character development, and so on. Think of higher order concerns as the kind of changes that would make significant alterations to a piece of writing. Lower order concerns consists of everything else, generally all those things we associate with editing: word choice, grammar, fixing typos, and other small details. These details are lower order because they largely don't matter when revising and making major changes. A disorganized mess of writing is still a disorganized mess of writing, even if the grammar is perfect. +What is the takeaway here? If we recognize our writing as consisting of a process, then we free ourselves to throw words down on the page. It doesn't matter if they're good words or strings of bad sentences. It doesn't matter if things are far from perfect. We're throwing things down on the page because we know that we can come back to this writing and make meaningful changes to our work. Writing as a process might be a difficult sell for those of us married to the idea of creativity and the creation of some seemingly divinely-inspired piece of writing. Again, remember to kill off the idea of the writer as infallible artist figure. Don't get trapped in a myth. Even Jack Kerouac revised On the Road for publication; a reader only needs to compare the scroll version of the novel versus the published version. +Actually writing a lot +Below you'll find various tips and approaches to help you write a lot. Some of the advice represents small things you can do, while others represent, perhaps, significant changes to how you might approach the act of writing. +Productive writers don't always write a lot, but they write consistently +Writing consistently is the hallmark of a productive writer. By writing consistently, maybe every day or every other day, we get into a habit as writers. When we write consistently we move our word count along, regardless of the number of words written. Writing consistently not only develops pages of writing, it may help in alleviating writer's block, tamp down our writing dread, or address many of our other writing hang-ups. One useful aspect of writing consistently is that doing so removes feelings of ""what the hell am I doing here?"" that might come along with long absences from our writing sessions. +Set aside time to write and use a timer +Giving yourself dedicate writing time during the day can help you generate pages. The time you set aside doesn't have to be hours and hours of writing time. Committing ourselves to many hours of writing represents a one-way ticket to burnout. Plus, setting unreachable goals turns writing into an even larger chore. We want to remove anxiety from our writing process, not make it worse. Making time to write also helps remove much of the pressure that comes from the act of writing, too. Consider setting a timer for 15 to 20 minutes. Commit yourself to writing actively during those 15 to 20 minutes. Stick to this time frame- whether the words flow easily or you find that your writing is like pulling glitter from molasses- stick to the timer. If you find yourself in a writing groove, then consider adding another 15 minutes of writing. By using this timed approach we're looking to consistently fill our writing time, but not overdo it. Remember: writing is work. The act of writing taxes our body and mind. Take a break. Do something else. Work in a few of these 15-20 minute writing sessions each day, if you want. Remember, though, one session is enough to reach our goal of writing consistently and generating a lot of words. +I'm a fan of the 15 to 20 minute timeframe because it is a practical, realistic, and manageable goal. Many of us can consistently find 15 to 20 minutes each day. It is a luxury when writers find themselves with one-hour writing blocks, let alone blocks of two or three hours. We're more likely to encounter serval gaps of 15 to 20 minutes in our day, as opposed to larger time frames. And that is okay. We're aiming to maximize our time and write consistently, not prove that we are writing machines. +Keep writing +Aim to keep writing during the time you dedicate to your writing. A significant body of research and scholarship suggests a strong connection between the physical act of writing and the mental process of writing. Get words down on the page; it doesn't matter if they're good or bad. Just get the words on paper. If you're at a keyboard, then keep your fingers moving. Consider moving into free-writing if you get stuck; throw whatever your brain produces on to the page. If you're writing by hand and get stuck, then try drawing loops across the page. Keep that physical act of moving your fingers and hands going, even though you might not generate any actual words on the page. Consider switching to writing with pen and paper if you're someone that usual writes on a keyboard. The pen and paper approach is useful if you're also prone to smashing the backspace key. +Let go of bad writing advice +We all have aspects of our writing we find frustrating. These frustrations often find their root in something someone told us about our writing. Many of these writing struggles are also tied to bad prescriptive guides and rules about writing. Most of these rules exist because someone thought their ideas were right and worth writing down. +Have you been told you're wordy? Have too many run on sentences? Poor grammar? Repetitive word use? Many of us likely experienced such criticisms during our writing lives. Ignore those hang-ups, especially as you write. +Here are two major reasons why you should ignore these criticisms as you write. First, in most cases, these hang-ups about our writing are often just wrong. Ignore these concerns and focus on writing. Second, many of these hang- ups are rooted in lower order concerns. Remember, lower order concerns are the small aspects of our writing, like grammar. You likely noticed that many of these common hang-ups listed above fall in the realm of fixes that occur while editing. Offering small-scale editing advice is easy; it's often the kind of writing advice that people that aren't quality writers offer. Are you haunted by the teacher that would fail a paper for missing three commas? That's just a trash approach disconnected from good teaching, let alone good writing practice. Try to tune out these writing hang-ups and just write. Remember the last key part of the writing process: Revision. If these problems exist in your writing, then revision is the time to address them, especially if reader feedback suggests addressing such issues. +Read +We can fuel our writing by reading. Productive writers are prodigious readers. Aim to read widely. Read things you enjoy. Let words and ideas wash over you. Enjoy the process of reading. Through reading we fuel our own imagination. Through reading we accumulate new words and ways of thinking about the language we use. Writing occupies an important part of our world; writing isn't something rarefied and disconnected from other creative works we consume. Writing is part of a larger conversation with our world. Revel in the creativity of others to help with your own writing. +Closing thoughts +Helpful advice is great. However, helpful advice often speaks to unreal expectations and circumstances. Things happen and life gets in the way for all of us. We often ignore a lot of the advice we receive. I ignored much of my own advice in writing down many of the tips you just read. In my defense, I'd argue that I've spent a lot of time in the pre-writing process. I've also shared this advice countless times with students and experienced writers, whether in lecture, written comments, or in-person discussions. +Advice tends to fail when we use it as a one size fits all approach. Or implementing advice fails when we try to follow all of the advice, especially when it comes to writing. Writing is tricky because it is the subject of so many pieces of advice, so many supposed rules regarding good writing, and so on. Pick and choose from the writing advice I provided. The same goes for other sources of writing advice. Don't think you need to do it all. Also, keep in mind the aspects of your writing process that you know work for you. +What works for your own writing process, in the end, matters the most to your success." +931,Writing Erotica for Fun & Profit,BrettJ,How To,2015-01-06,2015-01-06,2022-01-04 08:42:53,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-erotica-for-fun-and-profit,I explain my ongoing process for writing & selling erotica.,"['Advice', 'Essay', 'Humor', 'Instruction', 'Writing Erotica For Fun & Profit']",4.7,"To begin my little essay, let me say that you will be much more successful and contented as an author if you concentrate more on the former than on the latter. +Good day. My name is BrettJ, as you can see from the header. If any of you are new to my work, I am a prolific writer of erotica. On this site alone, I have accomplished the authorship of nearly 500 pieces. Elsewhere, under a different name, there are nearly 200 more. To date, I have written and sold nearly 1600 pieces of erotica fiction. I would say that does qualify me to give advice to fledgling erotic authors or even those whose ""batteries"" might need recharging. Sadly, it does indeed happen to the best of us. +I hope that his essay can offer advice, a bit of humor and some insight. I'm going to try and be thoughtful and offer some perspective on what it is like to be an author of erotic fiction and how to keep going at it after years of work. +An acquaintance of mine is a very successful author. His name is Mark Evanier and if that name is familiar to some of you, there is good reason. Mark has worked on such TV series as _Roseanne_ and was Story Editor / Producer on both _Garfield and Friends_ and the current _Garfield Show_. He has written books on such luminaries as Jack Kirby and voice actress June Foray and contributed several articles to magazines on animation and comics. He has been a prolific author for over 40 years. +Mark and I share one viewpoint -- writers must _write_. Don't make writing for pay a goal and not write a word until you are paid to do so -- write. Write as much as you can as often as you can. Have fun with the process, share your work and write, write, write until your words flow freely. +I think sites like LITEROTICA are a great thing, although some may disagree. I was ""discovered"" here after a few months of writing. I am now going to contradict some of my own advice as well as some of Mark's. +DO NOT let yourself be conned by publishers offering to get you work if you send them ""samples"". Don't work for free. Send A sample, sure -- or even just a few pages of something you consider a worthy example of your work. That is a reasonable request. If you are worth publishing, someone will want to pay you. That is the bottom line, except in my case. You may feel free to laugh, but the company for which I've worked this past 8 years asked to ""borrow"" some of my writing with the promise of future employment if they liked what they saw. In those days, I never would have believed I would ever be a professional author, I thought it was a pipe dream. They were offering free magazines in exchange for stories, I thought I'd end up with some free reading material. I said sure and thought nothing more of it. +Except that I lucked out. My company turned out to be wholly legit, even if the woman I originally dealt with was not. I sent them some material and heard nothing. Six months later, I got an E-Mail from the company asking why I had not sent them any new material. I responded that I had not been paid for the new material I had sent. Not Dime One. Within minutes, I had another E-Mail with an apology attached. They told me in no uncertain terms that they had no intention of cheating me and were apologetic and were going to make immediate restitution. I was to invoice them and a check would be sent out that day. I didn't have a full accounting to the original material I had sent, but did manage to cobble something together. I think it was for 15 stories, if memory serves. I got another mail and was told the check had been sent that day. To their credit, it arrived the following week. I later learned that there were some shenanigans going on behind the scenes and I was dealing with a new person as opposed to the initial contact. The second person left after another year passed and I now deal with either my ""liaison"" or the publisher himself. +Moving on we come to more business. In the early days, I was a freelance author, as most of you will likely be in the beginning or for the duration of your careers. Nothing wrong with that, but there are a few pitfalls. In my freelance career, I learned a hard lesson. Don't count on the cash until it is in your hands. My company had a ""pay upon publication"" policy at that time. At one point, they had about 50 of my stories and I had not seen a penny. I was very nearly broke and needed the money. Luckily, I hit a streak where they needed material and not only did I get paid, they needed more ASAP. +Be willing to walk away if the money isn't good. Erotic novels don't necessarily pay well. I earn more writing short stories than I would for two full novels per month. It isn't a high-paying field, rather, it is based on volume. If you are prolific like myself, you can earn a nice secondary income. You have to decide what makes you comfortable. +One good thing began to happen and that was, I established a reputation. I delivered the material as asked, to the themes they wanted and I delivered _on time_. Until two years ago, due to family circumstances and a serious, unexpected illness, I had _never missed a deadline_. That led them to offering me a contract. I was their first contracted employee. +Here is another business point -- you do need to know when to stand up for yourself and be willing to walk away. They were stalling on signing the contract, so I gave them an ultimatum -- sign before two more weeks were up or there would be no further material from me. I had nothing to lose -- they did. What they were asking from me was 300 new pieces a year -- nearly a million words. +Yes, you read that right -- but I believed I could do it. In fact, I knew that I could. I was prolific and to this day, I have more stories in my head than I have time to write. +So they signed -- and then, they made a mistake I urge all of you to avoid. They _did not read_ the very contract they had signed. I you wonder how that could happen, it was because they had never had a contracted employee before, remember? They had nothing to go on, so I, with the aid of a (very cute ~ sigh) friend wrote the contract myself. It spelled out what they got and what I got and I was beyond fair. When an issue arose six months in, I could stand my ground. ""It's not in the contract,"" was my simple answer. In fact, it was not. I didn't have to do as they asked, which was an unreasonable demand at the time. We have amended the contract a few times since then, once with a demand they held firm, once on a term I refused to budge on -- direct deposit pay. +I cannot stress this enough -- understand the terms of your payment and employment. In plain English -- what am I giving you and what are you giving me? +Other important things to remember -- keep a copy of everything you write and make sure you can prove it's yours. I use many pseudonyms because I write a lot of material. Everything on LIT and elsewhere holds my copyright. My publishers once found someone on the Internet ripping us off, as did LIT. We put a stop to it (it turned out not to be the website, but someone claiming he had my permission to use my material -- he did not). +Other tips now, including this one -- a lesson I had to learn the hard way -- twice, in fact. _Know your limitations_. If a company is offering you a thousand dollars for 40 stories a month, that might sound great -- but if you can only write 20, be realistic. Don't overdo. Your reputation will suffer if you can't deliver. A few years ago, my company and I came into dispute over my quota. They wanted a change which would have cost me a fair chunk of money. I wasn't thrilled. My liaison stood her ground and I had some years with the company, so I did something I didn't want to do -- I went over her head. With the assistance of an outside mediator and my publisher himself, we reached an agreement that ended up netting me $10 more a month for 3 less stories -- ten thousand words, in fact. It ended up making life easier until life kicked me in the unmentionables two years back. +Here is where my reputation and honesty saved my ass, for those of you still with me. They knew I'd deliver. Even last year, when it became apparent something was wrong, they trusted me. I was not fired for being so behind, I was ""suspended"". I intend to deliver everything I was paid for and work towards rebuilding my career. Wish me luck, all right? +Now comes the fun and intriguing part. I said it before, but it truly bears restating. Writers need to _write_. Erotica is as valid a genre as anything else and I believe I write erotica, not merely ""porn"". I don't try to crank it out, I do try to put thought into each and every piece. I've earned myself a nice following on LIT and at one point, was in their Top 100 most-read authors. I try to have fun when I am writing and I do think it shows in the work. +My first story was just a one-off and it took me a few days to write. A little science-fiction erotic piece (entitled ""Programmed For Love"" if anyone wants to search for it). It was based on a story I'd read years earlier and I did my own take on it. To my surprise, it earned me my first ""H"" (for Hot) on LITEROTICA. I have several hundred now. I believe that's because I try to have fun and think of the readers while writing each piece, while not letting them limit me. I don't ever pander to them, although I do to myself. I try to be funny, erotic and romantic or raunchy, depending on the style of the story. +In the early days, I was just thrilled to be writing again. I'd had a few medical issues that took away my creativity. 100% gone. When I got it back, it was with a zeal I had not enjoyed since my 20's. I loved writing erotica and I dearly loved getting fan mail (I still do) especially from women who liked my work. I've got several female fans who tell me one of the reasons they like my work is my dialog and I never write weak women characters. +Dialog is essential to good erotica, in my opinion. Don't write just a string of epithets and ""fuck me"" wordage. Have your characters talk like real people. Hear the conversations in your head. Be witty and funny. Use slang when appropriate but do NOT use Smartphone short forms unless pertinent to the story. +Lord, oh dear Lord of all that is kinky, please use some kind of spell check and watch your grammar. Your ""grammer"" is your mother's mom. Learn the difference between ""you're"" and ""your"". Add to that list ""two / to / too"" and ""they're / there / their"". There are several others that creep in. Learn when to end a paragraph. Check for run-on sentences. +I generally avoid the stories that read like a Phone Sex scenario and so do most publishers. By those, I mean as in ""You entered the room wearing your shortest skirt and high heels. I had chosen to wear my navy blazer and gray slacks."" Give your characters names (first and laugh) and back stories. If you know who they are as people, it will come across to the readers. I've even found myself revisiting characters because I thought of new ideas for them. It has happened several times. I have also thought of an idea for a supporting character that might only have appeared in a paragraph or two. Ideas come from everywhere. +So, when those ideas DO arrive -- write them down. Or, if you're at the computer as I am now, create an ""idea file"" and write as much into that as comes to you at that moment. I have several stories in inventory that I will get around to. I know from experience that if I don't put them somewhere, they will sometimes fade. At times, even the title will jog my memory. Other times, I need more. I have had an ""idea"" spew out of me that turned into 3 or 4 pages of material before I stopped typing. I fleshed it out later and those stories are often my best because I took the time to jot it all down while it was still fresh and naughty in my fevered imagination. +There is no easy answer to the question ""where do you get all of your ideas?"" because there is no hard answer. It just -- is. The answer is -- everywhere. On the bus, in conversations, from another story, from reading _Playboy_ to the silliest of things. One fan challenged me to write a story about pinball. Look for it. Another wanted me to write a story involving Peanut Butter. Wrote that one too. + _Don't forget to have fun._ Good erotica is, in my opinion, fun erotica. Whether it's romantic, raunchy or perverted, it should be fun for the author and for the reader. +I don't believe you have to have more than the germ of an idea to start writing. I've even started a story with just a title or the name of the female lead. I look upon it as a journey, I've started out and I know where the end is when I get there. At other times, I have the beginning and ending in mind. The sex is the middle, like the filling in an Oreo. +Other ideas from me, once again -- fun. Believe it or not, nice Catholic girls and boys can write erotica. It isn't usually real, so go a little hog wild. I entered the LITEROTICA Survivor Contest last year to expand my horizons. I wrote in a few categories I hadn't before. I won one of the prizes. I entered again this year, much for the same reason. This very essay is part of that. I regret that LIT is ending them as of this year because I do believe the challenge made me a better author. Writers, challenge yourself. If you can write hardcore porn, write something with romance. If you tend to be a bit on the flowery side, go for the nasty stuff. Think like a gentleman or lady in the day to day world, be a bit of a whore on the printed page. +As I said, I get inspiration from a lot of places and one of those is photos. Almost all of my characters have a real-life visual counterpart. In my ""Heather and Bryan"" series, there are two real-life Heathers I use as templates, both from _Playboy_. So I know how their bodies look in certain positions, the color of their eyes, all of it. I even hear some of their voices based on videos. I don't advise using their real names, although real first names are usually okay. In a few situations, I got permission from actual women (Linn Thomas, Erin Fox and adult film actress Angela Sommers) to use them as characters in my story. All of those ladies approved. +Set the scene. What does the room look like? How is each character dressed and in the case of the women, made up? High heels, bare feet or slippers? Shaved, trimmed or _au naturel?_ You might not think it matters to the readers -- but it does. +Now that you have some of the basics down, get writing. If you have a talent for writing, it shouldn't be like pulling teeth. That does happen, even to someone like me. With my illness, I had the ideas, the process was just excruciating for a time. A friend offered me good advice. He had no idea how much I'd written and when I told him, he was astonished. "" _That_ much?"" He gasped when I answered. When I told him how much per month, his eyes went wild. ""No wonder you're tired,"" he admonished me. ""Stop beating yourself up, you need a break."" He was right. It is okay to take a break, although sometimes, you can't afford to. In my case, my health won out over commerce. +You're writing now -- having fun? Good, is it a short story or a novella or a full-on novel? Sometimes it can start out as one and move into the second and eventually, the third. Or a series of stories. Some publishers don't want series, so know who buys what in advance if you can. +I can say that the current erotic fiction market is in a state of flux. Novels sell, but usually by established writers like Opal Carew. Short story markets are still fairly good, although the E-Book / Kindle market is opening up. Even Amazon offers self-publishing, well worth exploring. Of course, you don't have to choose one over the other, you can market yourself as many ways as you would like, providing you remember the time factor. +I also suggest writing to your comfort level. Don't write something that you know would make you very uncomfortable. I don't like rape / non-consent material or anything degrading. I know I could write Gay erotica, but it isn't my genre. I write good lesbian fiction and a few other odd categories that some might find off-putting. I have fun, remember it is all a fantasy and that bills must get paid. Commerce does matter. Again, I stress -- do NOT let a publisher con you into writing for ""free"". Yes, get your work out there -- LIT and other sites can do that for you, or you can create your own site. Sometimes, a fledgling company will offer to publish a story of yours in an anthology, with a copy of the book as your recompense unless the sales go over a certain number. I've done that once, as I thought it fair enough for a novice writer. The book was fun, although badly edited. Spelling, grammatical and layout errors were abundant. It wasn't too difficult to see why the book didn't sell huge numbers. +Here's one thought as I wrap up -- decide for yourself if you want to tell friends and family what you do. It was about 4 years before I told my family and they weren't thrilled. They still aren't, although now that they see what I earned, it's a bit more acceptable. Most of my friends know. Some still don't. The stigma remains. I'm proud of my accomplishments and the volume of work I have achieved. Still, I don't want everyone knowing I'm a ""pornographer"". I certainly am not Larry Flynt. +Write. If you have computer skills, you've got another tool to use in furthering your career. Before you find a publisher, have something to show them. Have a few somethings because lots of publishers (mine included) publish several genres. +The work is out there if you pursue it, it's fun and it's challenging. +If anyone wishes to ask me further questions, I'm usually on my thread in the Forums or PM me. I'm willing to help out anyone. +In summation, I stick by this -- write because it's something you love to do. +BrettJ +December 31, 2014" +932,Writing FETISH Fiction,MorganHawke,How To,2009-07-22,2009-07-22,2022-01-04 08:42:56,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-fetish-fiction,Fetish fiction ISN'T Kink fiction.,"['Erotic Writing', 'Fetish', 'Tutorial', 'Writing Advice', 'Writing How-To']",4.49,"\-----Original Message----- "" _Could you do a guide on how to make a decent PWP revolving around Fetishes with things like 'Add detail,' and 'Don't make it choppy_?' -- Furry Fan +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ + **What makes Fetish fiction unique from any other kind of Erotic fiction?** +What makes ANY genre of fiction unique from any other? The DETAILS or more specifically, _what_ is being detailed. +~ In a Romance, the Drama is detailed. +~ In a Mystery, the Puzzle, or rather the clues to the puzzle are detailed. +~ In a Sci-Fi, the underlying Theory or Technology is detailed. +~ In Erotica, the Sex is detailed. +~ In Pulp Fiction, the Adventure is detailed. +~ In Fetish Fiction, the featured FETISH is detailed. +Okay, that seems rather simple -- until you realize that not only does the key element to each genre need to be detailed, it needs to turn the PLOT too! That key element must not only be there and detailed, it must be what makes your story HAPPEN. +Why? +To forward any story's plot you need Dramatic Tension. If all the dramatic tension in your Fetish story comes from somewhere OTHER than the Fetish scenes, then the Fetish scenes aren't necessary to tell the story. If the Fetish scenes aren't necessary to tell the story then you're NOT writing FETISH fiction, you're writing whatever _else_ is turning your plot. +In fact, if the Fetish scenes aren't necessary to tell the story then they ** _don't belong_** in the story. ANYTHING that isn't necessary to tell the story doesn't belong in the story! + _Memorize this_ : ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ **If it CAN be pulled out -** **It SHOULD be pulled out.** +It's the basic law of fiction in _any_ genre. +Azimov codified it for Science Fiction: +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "" _If you can remove the Science from the Science Fiction and still have a viable story in another genre - you did it WRONG!_ "" (He did not consider space operas to be science fiction. He considered them high-tech Westerns.) +Edo Von Belkom said it in his book "" _Writing Erotica_ "": +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "" _If you can remove the Sex from the Erotica and still have a viable story in another genre - you did it WRONG_!"" +For Fetish Fiction this means: +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ **""If you can remove the FETISH from the Fetish Fiction and still have a viable story in another genre - you did it WRONG!""** +In ANY genre of fiction, that genre's main element MUST drive the plot to BE that genre. +~ In Romance - The Relationship drives the plot. +~ In Mystery - Unanswered Questions drive the plot. +~ In Science Fiction - Scientific Ideas and/or Technology drives the plot. +~ In Fantasy - Magic drives the plot. +~ In Historical Fiction - Historical Figures or Events drive the plot. +~ In Paranormals - Paranormal Creatures or situations drive the plot. +~ In Erotica - Sex drives the plot. +~ In Fetish Fiction -- The FETISH drives the plot. +So, how do you make your Fetish drive the plot? +HOLD IT right there! +\-- Before we go any further, make sure you know WHAT you're writing! Are you writing Fetish fiction or Kink fiction? + **Fetish ISN'T Kink.** +A Kink is something that makes sex exciting, also known as Slap & Tickle. No matter how many whips and chains are used, no matter how much blood is spilled carving your name into someone's ass, Kink is a form of sexual Play, pure and simple. +A Fetish ISN'T Play. It's a very personal, very individual, and a very private APPETITE. Fetishes, whether they're a specific object, a specific person or type of person, a costume, or a ritualistic behavior are something the Fetishist NEEDS like food, water, or air to breathe -- to get off. Additionally, that ' _getting off'_ ISN'T always Sexual. In fact, according to several Fetishists that I know personally, fulfillment grants a euphoria they swear is _better_ than orgasm. +What makes it so good? +When a Fetishist has access to what gratifies their need, they can reach fulfillment **_without orgasm_** because their need is _more_ than merelysexual. Often it's a deep rooted _emotional_ need and that need is what's being gratified, not merely their body. +A sexual sadist with a **_Fetish_** for screams that plays Slap & Tickle with a lover isn't doing it because they want to fuck their lover. They're playing Slap & Tickle to feed their _true hunger_. Once they get the screams they're after, they may not even want sex at all because they HAD their gratification already -- the screams. +A sexual sadist with a **_Kink_** for screams DOES want to fuck the screamer, preferably WHILE they're screaming. +Someone with a **_Fetish_** for women's feet, or boots, or uniforms, or bondage gear _doesn't_ need to have sex with those in such garb. Observing the wearer, touching the objects, smelling the material, hearing the sounds associated with them, and sometimes even tasting them is more than enough to completely satisfy a Fetishist. • _THIS is why detail is so vitally important in Fetish Fiction_. +On the other hand, someone with a **_Kink_** for women's feet, or boots, or uniforms, or leather bondage gear DOES want to fuck those in such garb. + **Just to make things even more complicated,** **It is not unusual for a Fetish to trigger a Kink.** +Case in point, the urge to Dominate can trigger the urge to Strike or the urge to Rape, which in turn could trigger a sexual kink. However, the point of either reaction is still Domination. In the case of a Fetish, the overwhelming need to make contact with the object of their Fetish or get a certain response from someone to fulfill their Fetish could also trigger a Domination response, which could also trigger a sexual Kink. However, the point of their reaction isn't Domination -- it's fulfillment of their Fetish. If this happens often enough: **_Fetish > Domination Response > Kink_**, eventually the Fetish alone will be enough to trigger the Kink. +In short: +~ A Kink is when you use a feather to cum. +~ A Fetish is when Touching the feather will make you cum. +Whether you are writing Fetish, or Kink, make sure you Label your story properly! This way, the readers seeking your particular kind of story can find you and appreciate what you've written! +Okay, back to the lecture... +\-- So, how do you make your Fetish (or Kink) drive the plot? + **Making the Fetish MATTER!** ** _Show something. Prove something. Make something Happen._** + ** _Show something:_** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ What can a Fetish show? It should at the very least reveal something about the base personality of the character that is focused on it: tender, sweet, attention to detail, aggressive, controlling, power-hungry, humorous, serious… + ** _Prove something:_** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Fetish scenes can prove domination, or submission, but rarely does a scene like that involve a true Fetish. Fetishes are about HUNGERS and such needs make excellent metaphors! What does your character's Need say about life, or love, or hate, or anger, or devotion? + ** _Make something Happen:_** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ This one is the easiest of all. How can you're character's drive to fulfill their Fetish get them into deep trouble -- or out of it? + **WRITING Fetishes** ** _DETAIL ~ DETAIL ~ DETAIL_** +The rest of your story can be a bare bones sketch if you like, but the Fetish MUST be executed in exquisite loving **_detail_**. Your story is there to feed a NEED, so ALL the senses must come into play: Sight, Scent, Sound, Sensation, and Flavor. +Your story can be so simple that the characters don't even have names. However, where the Fetish comes into play, every thought, feeling, and sensation that focuses on that Fetish MUST be written in loving detail. +What it looks like, what it sounds like, what it smells like, what it feels like, what it tastes like... What does it do? How does it affect your characters? How does it make them feel physically, emotionally, and possibly spiritually? Do they like the Fetish? Hate it? Wish it would go away? Try to fight it? Revel in it? Try to convert others into liking it too? +All-righty then, here's the hardest part of writing Fetish Fiction: + **How do you plan to END your Fetish story?** +Where will this Fetish take your main character? What will become of them because of this Fetish? Will it make their lives better -- or worse? Will they find a safe outlet to satisfy their Fetish, or make a terrible error in judgment that destroys them? Do you want a happy ending, or a tragic one? + ** _REALITY CHECK! ~_ There is NO CURE for a Fetish.** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ +A Fetish isn't something that goes away. A Fetish is NOT an addiction -- though a Kink can be! Fetishes are rooted deep in the psyche and while a shrink might be able to find the cause, there is No Cure. The only treatment is to find a safe outlet that feeds the need. The only other options are becoming a Victim or a Predator. +Make sure you understand this BEFORE you write your ending. Those of us that have Fetishes really appreciate it when someone actually tells the Truth. + ** _In Conclusion:_** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ +Whether you're writing serious Fetish Fiction or merely Kink Fiction, the key to writing either one is Detail and Focus. However, what makes it satisfying is how you conclude your tale. +Enjoy! +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ + ** _DISCLAIMER:_** _As with all advice, take what you can use and throw out the rest. As a multi-published author, I have been taught some fairly rigid rules on what is publishable and what is not. If my rather straight-laced (and occasionally snotty,) advice does not suit your creative style, by all means, IGNORE IT._ +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ + ** _Morgan Hawke_**" +933,Writing Horror,al_Ussa,How To,2009-12-31,2009-12-31,2022-01-04 08:42:56,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-horror,A brief guide to writing scary stories.,"['Horror', 'Monsters', 'Writing']",4.7,"An undead fiend slumbers in her ancient tomb, waiting for a foolish mortal to awaken her so she can return to haunt the living once more. On a dark, stormy night, a mad scientist is playing God, trying to create new life out of a blasphemous mixture of alchemy and science. And somewhere in the void of deep space, an alien horror that should not exist waits and watches with a thousand eyes. +These are the standard tropes of the horror genre. +Not that many people on this site actually know it, but I originally started out writing short horror stories. Some of them have seen print, others were published online in digital format, and still others linger on my computer, waiting to be re-written in some form or another. And while I may try my hand at other styles of writing, I always find myself returning to my beloved horror stories when the inspiration moves me. +But what is horror? How can you write truly scary works? I'm not going to lie to you. Just reading this brief essay probably won't make you into a horror writer, so don't get any delusions that you are the next Stephen King or Clive Barker. Instead, what I hope to do is inspire you to write your own ideas - what comes from within. That is far more terrifying than any ghost, ghoul or long-legged beastie that I could imagine. So if you would like to write horror, then please, read onward. +First, let's start out by defining what horror is in the first place. It's a genre of literature aimed at scaring, frightening and entertaining an audience. It's a very broad category, including everything from urban legends and ghost stories you used to tell around Halloween, all the way up to the classics of Gothic horror like Bram Stoker's 'Dracula' and Mary Shelley's 'Frankenstein.' Horror goes well beyond storytelling and literature, though. It also includes countless movies about serial killers, vampires, and other monsters. +As any good, self-proclaimed nerd could tell you, horror is closely related to science fiction and fantasy. In fact, the genres can (and do) overlap to a certain extent. 'Frankenstein,' for instance, was a science fiction story by the very definition of the word! Mary Shelley had Victor Frankenstein using a mixture of alchemy and pseudo-science to resurrect the dead. In a similar vein, the film 'Alien' takes place in space and involves an extraterrestrial life form. Lovecraft used similar ideas in his writings. +One can also find plenty of examples of 'dark fantasy' and 'Gothic fantasy' in literature, film, television, comics and gaming. The Dungeons & Dragons setting of Ravenloft would be a good example of this, being replete with vampires, necromancers, witches and the like. +A bit further afield, horror is also related to suspense and mystery. Although nobody would say that police procedurals like 'Law & Order' or 'CSI' are ""horror"" in any sense of the word, there are plenty of examples of horror that do rely on serial killers. 'Silence of the Lambs' springs to mind immediately. Not all monsters are literal. Serial killers like John Wayne Gacy, David Berkowitz, Ed Gein and Jeffrey Dahmer were far worse than any fictional vampire or werewolf. +But none of that really tells us what horror is, does it? Horror can have monsters, yes, but nobody in their right mind would say Count Chocula or 'Casper the Friendly Ghost' count as ""horror."" Nor does horror need a monster to be scary, as we've established that human killers can be perfectly within genre. The same applies to wild animals (like, say, being hunted down by a grizzly bear), natural situations (being lost in uncaring wilderness), or just strange phenomena with no intellect or being driving them whatsoever (a man walking out into a field and just disappearing). And yes, all of those examples have been done in one way or another. +So what is horror? True horror is fear... Fear of the unknown, fear of death, fear of being harmed, fear of being alone, etc. That is what horror boils down to. Horror fascinates us and moves us because it provides a safe outlet for our most primal fears. +And that is the secret to writing great horror. +First, start with what scares _you_. It doesn't matter if you're afraid of clowns, spiders, water, the number thirteen, darkness or something more exotic. Ask yourself what you are afraid and then think about it for a while. Don't over analyze things, just think about why you feel that way and try and capture it in such a fashion that other people can relate to. Even if we can't understand your fear, at least we will be entertained by it. +I know, that sounds rather paradoxical, but it's a good first step. Scare yourself, then try to scare other people. Exaggerate and distort that fear. Make it into something that is _just_ close enough to reality that it can spook us. +Now, while you ponder over what I've written, allow me to expand upon some further points of interest. + **Here Be Dragons** +In olden days, when knowledge of geography beyond the major population centers was sketchy at best, mapmakers would mark the unknown corners of the world with the ominous phrase 'Here be Dragons.' Even before that, primitive tribes huddled around their campfires at night, trying to stave off the depredations of nocturnal carnivores. And even today, mothers tell their children not to wander too far when they play. +The unknown is scary, and that fear extends to our very perceptions of geography. Keep this in mind when you write. If your protagonist is dropped off in a hostile and unfamiliar territory, everything becomes much scarier for him. For example, for many of us city-dwellers, rural settings like those in 'Deliverance,' 'Wrong Turn' and 'The Hills Have Eyes' embody our fears about breaking down on the interstate, miles from any trace of civilization. +Play up on those fears. Exaggerate the dangers of the terrain and make it scary, whether we are talking about swamps filled with quicksand and tropical diseases, unforgiving Arctic wastes, or even the most crime-ridden parts of inner city ghettoes. If you can make it scary, then write about it. And it's even better if you've been to those areas and know something about them. + **Traditional Monsters** +Despite what I wrote earlier, monsters are still a big part of horror. Everyone knows Dracula, Frankenstein, the Creature from the Black Lagoon, Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde, the Phantom of the Opera, King Kong, and so forth. These are undeniable icons of horror, and have been used and re-used in countless adaptations. There are countless movies and books written about vampires, zombies, werewolves, ghosts, sea monsters, and other mainstays of horror. +The trick with using these monsters, though, is to make them unique and original. Everyone knows what a vampire is. It's an undead being who drinks blood, can turn into a bat, and is repulsed by garlic. Right? And werewolves are vulnerable to silver, and zombies need to eat brains, and so forth. The thing is, the lore is so vast that authors can pick and choose which elements to use when writing these more familiar creatures. Everyone has seen Gothed out vampires bedecked in Victorian finery. But vampires in cowboy boots and western wear, or urban vampires with gangsta style are a little more unique. +This extends beyond the superficial. The vampires, werewolves, zombies and so forth that appear in popular culture bear little resemblance to their origins in folklore. In some stories vampires can come out during the day. In others they loose all their powers in sunlight, but are otherwise just fine. And, of course, in many stories they die in sunlight. With that in mind, you can easily change around 'traditional' monsters and make them interesting and different. + **Non-Traditional Monsters** +Then there's the rest of the world beyond Europe and North America. Other cultures have their own folklore and mythology that is just as rich and can provide aspiring authors with new sources of inspiration. Arabian lore has flesh-eating _ghuls_ and malicious _jinn_. The Filipinos have the _aswang,_ which preys on children and pregnant women. In Mexico there are stories of witches called _civatateo_. The Algonquin Indians spoke of the cannibalistic _windigo_ , and Russians have tales of _rusalka_ that pull men to their deaths in the river. +Any or all of these creatures can serve as an excellent source of ideas for writers, especially if you were raised with those stories in your background. But, we need not go half-way across the world in search of horror, because there are plenty of homegrown ideas right here. Urban legends are a form of folklore that has saturated into popular culture. Think about it... the serial killer with the hooked hand, gang members killing people who flash their brights as an initiation, albino alligators living in the sewer. All of these familiar cautionary tales can be used by creative writers. +Once again, these stories should be updated, changed or re-invented to better suit the modern world. Even if a western audience has no awareness of Japanese _gaki_ , Inuit _tupilaq_ , or Balinese _leyak_ , just a few small changes can make it into an entirely different creature. After all, you are (hopefully) interested in crafting your own tales instead of just repeating someone else's. + **What Was That Thing** +Not all monsters fall into these convenient (albeit admittedly artificial) categories. Some truly bizarre creatures are one-of-a-kind horrors that have no mythology behind them. Think of the Stay Puff Marshmallow Man from 'Ghostbusters' or the giant monster from 'Cloverfield.' That sort of unique, one-shot monster is the sort of thing really creative writers can come up with on a good night. While all of your creations should be unique, creating an entirely new (and fictitious) creature is an especially challenging exercise. +Still, the basic concept is the same. Come up with a creature, write in the details and run with it. What does your monster do? Does it tear people apart at night? Does it take control of their bodies and make them do things against their will? Something else entirely? The only real trick is that you don't have any folklore, mythology or previous stories to inspire you. But then, that's part of what makes it so fun in the fir + **Consistency** +When telling a story, the most basic rule is to always be consistent. This is even more true when you are writing fiction. You don't need to spell out what sort of things are going on in your story, but you (as the writer) should have a clear idea of what is happening when you write it. You don't need to tell it to your audience, and in fact, it's far scary if you keep us in the dark. But leaving some mysterious element that serves no other purpose than to get our attention is just annoying. You need to be consistent in your horror. +This applies to all other aspects of writing as well. Keep a consistently dark and ominous mood when you are writing horror. Surprise endings can be fun if they are executed properly, but far too often it just annoys your readers. If I am reading a story about a zombie apocalypse, I don't want some sort of deus ex machina at the end that involves an alien invasion. You can mix monsters, elements, and genres, but do so in a way that doesn't break the mood. Otherwise things just get kind of silly, and you don't want that. + **Scream Queens and Token Victims** +Another subject that I feel I should touch upon, however briefly, is character development. One thing that sets apart horror from other genres is the potential for relatively high casualty rates. In fact, its so common that the phenomena has become something of a trope or in-joke, with many movies using stereotypical 'stock characters' who are slowly picked off, one by one, until only the main protagonists are left. Examples of this are so numerous that it barely merits any mention. +Like any stereotypes, there is some grain of truth in this, but it's also a very dangerous trap to fall into. Especially for writers, who have to ply the fertile depths of the imagination instead of relying upon bloody visuals like film-makers do. If you want a death to be meaningful - to shock and disturb your audience - then you have to either make it really gory, or make the character someone interesting enough that the audience cares about them. Or, better yet, both. +On the other hand, you also have your stereotypical stock characters... Big breasted scream queens, brooding Goths, grizzled survivors of the zombie apocalypse, token minorities, nerds without 'street smarts,' dumb jocks or frat boys, and so forth. These are characters who are practically made to be thrown away, aside from the stereotypical grizzled monster hunter/survivor/loner type. They usually wind up going out in a blaze of glory, taking the monster with them in the process. +Just to surprise your audience, I say switch things around a little. Write standard 'stock character' types with interesting backgrounds to set them apart. A frat boy who enjoys chess and can quote ancient Greek poetry, or a big breasted scientist, or a token minority character from a comfortable suburban background. Those are different enough that your audience might actually care about those characters. In fact, they very well could become protagonists in their own right, and the (supposed) 'hero' becomes monster fodder. + **Do Your Homework** +Let's face it, there have been a lot of horror writers before you. Do yourself a favor and read some of their works. Steven King, Clive Barker, H.P. Lovecraft, Edgar Allen Poe, Ambrose Bierce, Robert Bloch, Chuck Palahniuk, Anne Rice, Poppy Z. Brite, Bram Stoker, and a dozen others. All of them wrote things which you should be reading, and enjoying. Don't try to copy their style. After all, you want to find your own voice. Instead, try and figure out what about their writing moves and inspires you. Appreciate their work for what it is and you will be good. +Don't limit yourself to books either. Even as much as I may decry the decline in literary interests here, I am not going to act like some sort of elitist snob either. There are plenty of comics, movies, video games, television shows and other media that convey horror just as well as any writer. In fact, many of them are adaptations of books or stories written by the authors above. Universal and Hammer influenced how entire generations saw classic movie monsters, not to mention the way that Japanese films have re-interpreted monsters. And then there are great shows like 'Twilight Zone,' 'Outer Limits,' 'One Step Beyond,' and 'The X-Files.' +Do yourself a favor and reacquaint yourselves with classic slashers like Jason, Freddie Krueger, Michael Myers, Norman Bates, Pinhead and (for the more recent generation) Jigsaw. They won't hurt you... much. + **The Unknown IS Scary** +One final thing to bear in mind, which I've repeated many times throughout here, is that the unknown is scary. Use that to your advantage. Simply saying that a vampire kills someone, or that a man is really a killer. But keeping your audience guessing is much more fun, both for you and the reader. In fact, a really creative author can be so ambiguous as to have nothing really happen in his story, while still making the reader question it. So by all means, keep us in the dark. Use descriptions to set the mood, but not to reveal what is really happening, right up until the end. +After all has been said and done, you should be able to use these simple pieces of advice to inspire your own horror writing. Hopefully you've learned something about the fine art of scaring people. I look forward to seeing your stories, so please let me know if you found this (all too brief) essay helpful. +Mwahahaha." +934,Writing in Love,Frogsoup,How To,2009-01-06,2009-01-06,2022-01-04 08:42:58,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-in-love,Keeping love real for the reader.,"['Love', 'Reader', 'Writing', 'Writing How-To']",4.63,"Love is silly. +This is not to say that love is laughable, or funny; it's neither. Love is not trivial. It is sublime, life-altering. Love changes. +But love, especially new love, makes us act silly, makes us think differently. We do things out of character for us, we say things we normally wouldn't say and almost immediately the changes begin. The playboy doesn't go out anymore, he only wants one person. The strong woman is weak for her love and cannot stand against it, doesn't want to. When they are apart, each feels the void of the other's absence, and when they are together, they are completed. +Those of us lucky enough to be in love, or that have ever been in love, know the changes it brings to us. When writing about love between characters, the contrast between who they are and who they were can be explored in detail, and can resonate with the reader in a way that mere sex cannot. Sex as a whole is enhanced by love and if a character should have sex with someone else the contrast should be felt. It feels empty, meaningless. It's a form of masturbation. +But get with your lover...the one you truly love...and the sparks fly. Sex transcends physicality and moves into the realm of the spiritual, a connection with another, a synergy. It's become 'making love' and has the power to shift the world. +Real people are usually surprised and may be shocked by the contrast. When writing of a character falling in love, the reader may want to see that difference and remember it. A good way to do this is the way a reader would do it: compare the two experiences and explore them. +Suppose Jack parties a lot with his buddies, goes to bars, picks up a bunch of superficial 'chicks' that he takes home and 'bangs out'. These liaisons mean nothing to Jack. He gains the respect of his friends with his ability to get the women he finds attractive into bed, and demonstrates his power over them by his ability to forget they ever exist. In his way, Jack is a happy man. +And then he meets Jill and falls in love, and his world is changed. He doesn't go out with his friends anymore. They call him 'pussy-whipped' and he doesn't care; his life has become Jill, being with Jill, and after making love to Jill he realizes that he's been a fool. He recognizes that all the women he's loved and left may have hurt like he hurts when Jill leaves him for Bill. He regrets; he will never see his life and his world the same way again. +Or suppose Jill is a successful businesswoman, on her way up; she has no time for sex, or love. She avoids situations that may complicate her life and focuses on her career. She has the occasional lover as a distraction, but afterward he goes home and she goes to bed and the sun will dawn on the same day tomorrow. +And then she meets her new client Jack and she feels a click with him, a connection she has never felt before. He distracts her. She thinks of him all the time. Her work falls off. She feels most alive when he is near her and when he is gone she feels his absence, she hears the ticking of the clock and feels her own mortality. She realizes her life is empty and broken. And when Jack and Jill finally make love...she is whole. +By exploring the changes within our characters, we can demonstrate the vast power this emotion has over us to make us different than we were--maybe better, maybe not, but not the same. Love transcends everything. Racial and social boundaries are meaningless; mores become laughable. Love permeates life and lives beyond death. It transcends education, station, and gender. It makes people run gladly from safety into chaos. The characters we create will stop at nothing to be with the people they love. They will tear through everybody in their way, breach any wall. We who have been in love know this feeling and recognize it, those who have never been may be confused by how different one becomes and catch a glimpse of what they've missed thus far. +Interactions between characters are not always about love. It could be about sex, desire, fantasy, lifestyle, etc. But love--real love--is an all-consuming flame and a new person is born from the ashes. +Older love is different, a flame between two people that warms them and makes finding someone else out of the question. That's not who they are anymore. They may have affairs, but they cannot see living apart from the one they have been with. Jill might like to be caned before sex, and Jack just won't. Jack might secretly want sex with men and Jill just won't do for that. But they know they are in love and cannot live without their partner. +Unless they fall in love with their lover. +They may share the experience with their spouse or significant other, seeking threesomes or exhibition; but love cleaves them together. This type of experience might lead to insecurity on the part of one or the other, for what if the person they adore likes the third person more? Then one character will see it as an invasion of something that is sacred to them. +Exploring the differences in who characters were and who they are now is the surest yardstick for the depth of their love. Some will agree to stop wearing corduroy pants because their partner can't stand the swishing sound when they walk. Some might throw their whole life away and travel halfway across the globe to be with someone they have never seen. The depth, the differences are dependent on the love, the character, and of course the author's view of who that character is and what they need. +In the end, love is the most powerful emotion we can feel, and so it should transform a character, make them see the world differently, think differently and act differently. And stories are about the story, and if the story is about love, it should be realistic and demonstrate the power of this killing and saving emotion in order to make the reader more fully aware of a character's depth of feeling. +If you've never been in love, there's plenty here to give you an idea of its strength. If you have been or you are, draw on your own experience--what was it like for you, and how deeply did you feel it? And would your characters, if they should somehow become real, act on the emotion as portrayed, in the way they are portrayed as acting? Would you act on a one-dimensional emotion?" +935,Writing Porn From The Heart,Histarter,How To,2006-06-13,2006-06-13,2022-01-04 08:42:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-porn-from-the-heart,Confessions about writing.,"['Author', 'Writer', 'Writing', 'Writing Advice']",4.17,"I have noticed the 'idealistic trend' of making women a passive aggressive, instead of recognizing them for their ""power that radiates from within them"" that truly appears to be the most frequent reason for them opening up to a male in need. We have too much bias for a horny lady permitting an aroused male the right to give them a good fucking, instead of - yielding to the maiden's equal member status for seeking sexual relief! Then to scorn sexual participants with morality codes of a sick society's attitude regarding unrealistic limitations on an adult's sexual needs, is stupidity to me! Mother kissing daughter while her (adult) son is emptying himself into his (adult) sister's cunt is acceptable to me – as long as they are all comfortable and contented afterward. In fact mama and daughter can switch places, as long as brother is still capable! +Porn doesn't have to be ""nasty"", and can instead be an explicit method to illustrate the affection between humans, regardless of orientation. Close friends enjoying an orgy, or a dedicated couple inviting another into their bed is truly normality, and is something that frequently occurs – but the secret is kept, and it used as life's enhancement rather than a stored tool to control someone. This is reality rather than idealistic bullshit that is popularly spread! +Now I am not saying that my view is the only view, but instead I am hoping to solicit more excitement for me by reading about fearless but affectionate fucking, from the innovative writers out there - without any weak couplings. I truly enjoy where the intensity of the rut is mutual, normal, and beautiful! Sex is a loving sleeping pill at night, with couples excitingly neutering each other to comfortably enjoy their bodies recharge, after the day's distentions. Solving curiosities, reducing barriers, and raising ego's confidence levels through successful seduction - along with sexual relief are the more natural reasons to copulate. Hero worship, career fucking, marrying just for sex or for status, is all classified as competitive sex, and I would prefer not to embellish this forte', unless I want to put a novel twist into it – like the nasty lady that marries the wealthy actor, while enjoying an ongoing sexual relationship with his gardener, only to realize she really loves her husband, and then applies her practiced skills accordingly (for both)! +Yes, there is a place for getting nasty, and that is interesting reading also; however, the school teacher or professor that shares genitals with students for the purpose of exposing them to life's normality (while getting off themselves) should not be censored more than daddy fucking daughter. Double penetration is almost a comedy of a woman 'forcing' two guys to enjoy her, and is quite theatrical, though overkill as a stunt, instead of the delicious serial intimacy, like a party girl 'sniper' taking each 'target', one at a time into secluded intimacy for a chain of thrills. This is just my point of view! +I write with honesty, and try to identify normal human lust without any judgment, meaning I will enter into contract openly, without prejudice. I love my wife, and we are mated for life – even though she is free to go at any time. If she were totally free from societies bondage, and had boyfriends that would fuck her occasionally, I would proud and happy for her enjoying personal freedom. I would also feel affection for the males that gave the one I love so much pleasure. And if the day ever comes when she can present me with a cream pie, she will find me lustfully adding a bit more cream into the mixture, while making emotional love to her at the same time. When I portray this attitude in my writing, many think of me as a wimp instead of a realist. To me nature dictates over the transgressions of mankind who creates illogical rules, which frequently abridge normality creating unrealistic legal structure that is totally unneeded. +Incest obviously is a tool for evolution, since it was performed for ages prior civilization without any thought of protection. Unfortunately modern society, with a zero tolerance attitude, tends to eliminate affection from sexual activities while coldly promoting contracts (shallow marriages i.e. mistress and or gigolo of the week, rent a wife, rent a slave, etc.). ""We only did it (fucking) because we were both aroused,"" and any thought of enjoying the activity while intensely comforting a loved one seems to be on the back burner, just showing up occasionally from the writers that make their donations from the general public. This attitude is promoted by frustration that always seems to amplify jealousy – something the aging process tends to subdue. +The physical act of intercourse is something boys and girls do because they have the tools, and the programming that make it an absolutely necessity, biologically. Cumming into a pussy carries the tranquilizers a girl needs, and the shear pleasure and relief the male experiences after discharge into an eager receptacle is also lowering his testosterone; totally demonstrating the normal comforting and necessity of this beautiful act of sharing life's gifts. Porn stars have it right with proper attitudes toward the sex act itself as simple demonstrations of human lust, and they display it accordingly without complications (even though they are somewhat financially motivated). The multitude of 18 to 25 year old freelance hookers that our economy supports, tend to enjoy plying the art of seduction, the excitement of the rut, disobedience and defiance more than the financial rewards – while believing they are just having fun while getting paid for it. +Exaggerating is something I try my best to avoid. The majority of us are just average, but still have normal lust and needs. I try to target them, rather than idealistic models of beauty. I would rather hump a torrid plump affectionate partner, than a shallow cold but permissive beauty. Normal cunts expand with relaxation, so a loose hot pussy to me is demonstrating my partners comfort and trust with me. Also, the most sensitive contact areas for boy girl intercourse is the opening entranceway of the pussy, and the base of a cock - meaning excitement for the girl would occur with the male's restraint to concentrate on rapid short thrusting, ideally with a short plump cock, mixed with lots of aural stimulation to keep her juices flowing. When the magic moment occurs, it is most pleasurable with the cock fully embedded, tip seeking cervix and squirting to add hot male fluids into the feminine goo, while her pussy muscles spasm and choke cock base. G spot? That is a source of extreme pleasure for winning a maiden over, and convincing her that you're the man she has to fuck, much like playing and licking the clitoris. I treat it as another appetizer (""fooling around"") for the more serious and passionate rut. +Anal sex for me is unnatural, even though I am not a homophobe. I love menage a trios and believe I am actually making love to my male partner through the medium of the woman that is enjoying the both of us. In fact I met my first wife this way (loving my best friend more then her at the time). He wanted to share his girlfriend with me as an act of camaraderie. [He never did marry, while enjoying my wife, her girlfriends, and his other girlfriends – All of which he shared with me] Although I can write about anal, I just cannot get passionate to the point I feel competitive. My first wife enjoyed it so I was there for her and only one other girl who experienced me that way, in all of 50 years. I am quite happy to go to the grave with my ass a virgin!! +I do enjoy thinking about the passion and excitement of kissing my wife, while cumming into her girlfriends cunt, then slipping off her panting body to have my wife now straddle me and look into my eyes endearingly while she is steering my slippery cock into her pussy, that is twitching to re-energize me while we make love - without any jealousy or modesty. This is true love when one is seeking contentment for their partner, unconditionally! +I would have loved to gratify my daughters and cousins needs, if they would have come to me as an adult; however, I was a bit sanctimonious at that time, and would have been very guilty of breaking societies extremely tight taboos - where I felt adultery was a game for adults, but incest a crime against humanity. Boy, was I a dumb asshole back then! In my middle years is where my sexuality awakened. I had fun with my neighbors wife (3 nights a week for 5 months), then an Israeli Sargent (that was a wonderful feminine aggressor – no bondage just intense seduction). I was making out with my first wife in a dark corner at a party when her girlfriend caught us; she quickly removed her panties, laid down on the couch and invited me into a torrid fuck, to my wife's glee. After going all the way, she got up and wiped our juices off her pussy with her panties stating she didn't want to drip, checked my cock and said ""your wife is right about your staying power, now finish what I interrupted,"" she then took off for the ladies room to freshen up. My wife then gave me the hottest fuck of our marriage (and it was then open season on her girlfriends as a team). This to me is natural and normal, and is the cornerstone for all my later adventures, and for the fiction that I write; hopefully with demonstrative compassion because I wish my lovers to be contented, proud, and happy rather then guilty or embarrassed. +My hope with this writing is to help authors stimulate their audience to unconditionally accept their roles in life without concern of any extra embellishments, that are unnecessary to enjoy life's greatest gift – FUCKING! Trivia concern on bust size for example is truly unnecessary, since the sexiest thing about partners is their personality, desire, intelligence, sincerity and ability to enjoy - and keep secrets. Basically bust size should truly not be a handicap as long as the nipples are sensitive and responsive, and the titties themselves just don't interfere with the action, that is so much more important! I just don't keep a mental trophy of my conquests by the size of their mammary. Cleavage is a turn-on, however my goal is to have her bent double, with her ankles close to my ears, while I am cumming deeply into her churning cunt, while she is moaning happily into my mouth as we tongue wrestle. Having her panties dangle from an ankle I find very sexy when I am removing her legs from my shoulders, forcing me to kiss and lick her pussy again to encourage a more naked intimacy. +My last comment is about my outlook on the result of lots of fucking, and why adults should be prepared for the consequences. I wish I was more mature in my earlier lifetime, so as to realize that babies should not be a barrier or a problem, but a happy result when a good basic family unit is ready for their existence. Don't want babies? Use protection, but with the responsibility that if an accident happens you do the best you can to raise the tyke without punishing oneself or the baby. I know if I were young again and after establishing a good home, that I would enjoy sex parties with my wife, and if it ended up with her getting knocked up, the child is ours regardless of ethnic origin. We would raise it with family love while making sure it would have additional siblings to enjoy sharing life's experiences with. This to me is the definition of love, and what life is about! +Enjoy writing what you feel without being forced into dishonesty, or be pressured by competitive exaggerations. Don't attenuate mental orgasms by fear of exposing your sexual self." +936,Writing Quality Sex Scenes,TheEarl,How To,2003-09-05,2003-09-05,2022-01-04 08:42:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-quality-sex-scenes,Guide for those who struggle with fucking.,"['Character', 'Dick Pussy', 'Good Reason', 'Hand Breast', 'Hand Ran', 'Light Day', 'Sex Scene', 'Sex Scenes', 'Vagina Penis', 'Writing']",4.66,"Almost every author at some point has trouble writing sex scenes. Sex is such a transcendent experience that it almost defies words. So how are you supposed to write about it then? Fear not, for I have scoured the forums to bring you the wisdom of the ages! +And by that I mean I read what Weird Harold said on the subject. + **Do you really want to do this?** +The biggest thing wrong with a lot of the stories on Lit is that there doesn't seem to be a reason for the character to be having sex. A brother walks in on his sister undressing and suddenly they're both fucking like rabbits. We don't get why, we don't get what either of them are thinking, they're just straight in there. +A lot of people complain about difficulties getting characters to fall into bed. They write the background easily, but their characters don't seem to want to play and in fact resist getting together. Think about _why_ your characters are supposed to be shagging. Do they love each other, is she drunk, are they the last two people alive and it's a way to pass the time? If your characters don't have a good enough reason, then they may resist the sex scene and you'll end up with stilted or non-existent writing. + **Oh my God! No! Not the egg beaters!** +Never be afraid to be different. You may think that the inside of your mind is not fit to see the light of day, but trust me, there is much worse out here on the internet. Everyone has their own sick little fantasy and a lot of the readers on Lit are probably waiting for someone to write their own personal one. Never be afraid to write exactly what you're thinking about – there's probably someone out there who'll worship you for writing the story that he/she's been waiting for. I'm still waiting for someone to write the one with the credit-cards, the instant drying superglue and the small Panamanian dwarf named Tuscaloosa… +But I digress. + **And here we are at the Sex World Championships. The British team is looking very good this year, don't you think Bob?** +One of the more frequent mistakes that can be seen in Lit stories is the play- by-play. AFAIK, this is a Yank football term, but it fits quite well here. This is where the writer tells us exactly what the characters are doing, like he's a sports commentator giving radio coverage of the sex. + _He ran his hands over the upper hemisphere of her breast and used his fingers to tease her nipple. Then he kissed her neck, his lips slowly sliding down towards her chest, licking and sucking his way down her body. She groaned and put her hands on his back. He moved his other hand onto her hips, his fingers sliding inside her knickers._ +Well it's a good start for the young lad from Britain, don't you agree Bob? For those of you just coming in from work, we've just seen a beautiful bit of play to get her bra off and now, I think he's going to try and get his lips on her nipple. He's moving down her breast, beautiful mouth work there and he's found the nipple! What a good effort from Smith! Oh and you can see the crowd's excitement at that. +Play-by-plays can be identified by lots of sentences starting with he did this, she did that. Beware of this and try to spice up your work by telling us something apart from what their hands are doing. + **Mmm, that feels sooo good.** +The most important thing to describe is how things feel. The biggest organ in the human body is the skin and talking to your reader about how his touch sent sparks of electricity racing up your nerves as a warm flush radiated through your skin is always going to get a good reaction. People don't want to hear what your character is doing, they want to hear what it feels like. +Eg. Which would you rather read? + _He ran his hand over her breast, squeezing it gently_ or _She shuddered as his hand ran over her breast. Waves of excitement flooded through her body as he squeezed gently. She bit her lip and moaned in ecstasy._ + **What are you thinking about?** +Make sure you tell the reader what your characters are thinking. Sometimes that's half the fun. It is a bit of a difficult skill to get inside the heads of your characters, but well worth the effort of learning. People react better to realistic characters and the best way of making your characters real is by telling us what they're thinking. Another bonus is if you can make the sex seem dirty and forbidden to your characters, then it adds to the thrill of the reader. + **Where did that third hand come from?** +If you're struggling with a sex scene, then it may be because you have too many hands wandering around the place. Right, so his hand is on her breast, while her hand is on his dick and his other hand is squeezing her arse while simultaneously rubbing her clit. It can be very hard to keep up with what all of your characters are doing and you may end up putting your characters into an anatomically impossible situation or writing a play-by-play to ensure that everyone knows where the hands are. +A helpful hint for getting out of this predicament is to get rid of one of the sets of hands until you get in the mood. It's easier to work with if only one of your characters is actually doing anything. Start off by having him eat her out, or by her giving him a blowjob and you'll find it a hell of a lot easier. You don't have to worry about where the hands are going until you're nicely warmed up. Other variants include having her masturbate for him or using the perennial favourite sex-toy: handcuffs. + **Whose breast am I holding?** +Avoid lesbian threesomes. I'm not being discriminatory here, but you will thank me for this bit of advice. If you write in third person (he, she, it) then a lesbian threesome will result in a large number of 'she's, 'her's and name repetitions. +Regard: [i]""Tessa ran her hand over Bethany's breast, stroking her nipple. Jenna watched, as Tessa's hand ran over her body. She could feel herself getting wetter as she watched the two girls caress. +""You two look so hot,"" she said.[/i] +I struggled to make even that small paragraph comprehensible and I still ended up with 3 her's and 3 she's. Not to be tried at home. + **Hey, where did your bra go?** +Never forget to undress your characters. This sounds like a stupid thing to have to remind you of, but it is very useful. Some writers just strip their characters down in one sentence, something like 'They ripped off each other's clothes,' but I find it so much more fun to undress them slowly. Think about how much fun you get from undressing someone. Now put that into your writing. +This is also a superb opportunity to add in a little description. Mention things like: _'Her lacy white bra was a sharp contrast to the dusky skin of her breasts. Harry marvelled at how such a small piece of clothing could make her look so sexy. 'I wonder what she'd look like without the bra,' he wondered. Time to find out.'_ + **The attack of the killer adverbs.** +Slowly. Gently. Softly. Roughly. Adverbs are the tool of the devil. They look pretty to start off with, decorating your sentences so nicely, clarifying exactly what you mean. But then, they start taking over until every sentence has your character doing things softly and gently and slowly. Be very careful with adverbs or they'll eat you alive. + **Get on a roll.** +Don't stop in the middle of a sex scene. This may sound like a bit of an impossible request for those who type one-handed, but if you can last until the end of the scene, then it'll flow a lot better… I think I'll rephrase that. Whenever you stop in the middle of a sex scene, then you'll probably come back to it in a completely different mood to when you left. This is where sudden tone jumps and stilted writing come in. + **I shoved my turgid gearstick of joy into her throbbing tunnel of love.** +Try not to be creative with euphemisms. This kind of sentence will elicit nothing more than a snigger from a reader and you'll cringe when you re-read it in the cold hard light of day, when your hard-on/wet patch has disappeared. Stick to the main words for dick and pussy. +Which brings us on to: + **Choose your words carefully. They could be your last.** +Think about the pace of your sex scene. Are you writing a hard and fast rape scene? Or a slow and sensuous seduction. Choosing the right words can make a scene flow just that little bit better. There are so many synonyms for dick and pussy that it can be difficult to choose which ones to use. Choose two or three which you think fit the pace and characters of your scene and then stick to them. If you're writing about an innocent virgin who's decided to experiment for the first time, then she'd use the words vagina, penis and breasts. If you're writing about a sadistic rapist, then he'd probably use the words cunt, dick and rack. Tailor your vocabulary to your characters. +Whatever you do, don't switch without a very good reason. If you start off with vagina and penis, don't switch to cunt and cock halfway through. It's disconcerting. Having said that, switching can create a good effect if used well. I recently wrote a story about a very undersexed woman who ate an aphrodisiac ice-cream, growing gradually hornier and hornier throughout the story as she lost her inhibitions. She started off the story with vagina and then moved onto pussy. +And lastly: + **Be individual.** +To paraphrase an infamous Author's Hangout saying: it's all just Tab A into Slot B in the end. Make yours different. Add something that'll make your story stand out in the crowd. Don't just have 'they meet, they shag, they fall asleep in each other's arms.' Make it that they meet and he's a criminal and she's a bounty hunter (Sorry, just been reading Janet Evanovitch). She slaps the cuffs on him and tells him she's taking him in, unless… +I've written stories about the consequences of sex with a Satyr, with an insane witch, with a girl who's been given into slavery by her husband and about masturbation with a complete stranger on an airplane. It's all just Tab A into Slot B. The skill is all in the disguise. +I hope this helps. If you want to scream abuse/thank me/propose, then as always I can be reached at the address in my profile. Don't forget to vote and don't forget to go and read all the rest of my stories :D. If you liked this one, then try having a look at The 10 Commandments (in my profile). +Happy writing. +The Earl" +937,Writing Real Sex,Selena_Kitt,How To,2010-10-29,2010-10-29,2022-01-04 08:43:01,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-real-sex,"The answer to ""How Do You Write Such HOT Sex Scenes?""","['Author Advice', 'Erotica How-To', 'Sex Scenes', 'Writer', 'Writing', 'Writing Advice']",4.68,"""How do you write such hot sex scenes?"" +This is the erotic writer's equivalent to the question, ""Where do you get your ideas?"" +My response? ""Hell if I know!"" +I'm an intuitive writer. I sit down and I write. I'm not entirely sure how I do what I do, and when someone asks me to try to break it down, I'm often at a loss. For me, it's like telling someone how to breathe. You just...do it. +But if I'm forced to try to explain how it is I get from point A to point B (I'm having scary ninth grade ""show your work"" math flashbacks now) I can do it. Eventually. So this is how I do it. It may not be how you do it, or how anyone else should do it. It's just how I do it, and maybe that will help you, or someone else, get there too. +\--------------------------- +THEY'RE ALIVE! Your characters are alive and they are not the sum of their parts. They aren't measurements or hair color or penis size. I've done sex scenes without mentioning any of the above. Don't ask, ""What would my character do in this situation?"" Let them act. Let them decide. Let them speak. Let them feel. Especially let them feel. +GET TURNED ON If you're bored writing a sex scene, your readers will be bored. If you're turned on, your reader will be turned on. The emotion you are feeling will be conveyed on paper. It's a natural law of the writer universe. (This applies to any scene, not just sex ones, by the way. If it moves you to tears, it will move the reader as well). +DON'T STOP If you're turned on during a sex scene, really getting into it, your fingers flying over the keyboard, unless the house is on fire or we're under nuclear attack, DON'T STOP. Never, ever stop in the middle of a sex scene. (This rule also applies well to actual sex). You will lose your momentum, and it won't be the same when you come back to it. Your mood will have shifted, and the reader will feel it. +LUST Human beings want. Our entire culture and economy is based on desire. We lust after the things we want. We dream about them. We fantasize about them. We want. And we want. And we want some more. Our bodies and our brains are hardwired for desire. We don't just eat once and then we're done. We don't just have one orgasm and then it's all over. We continue to crave what we want. Our emotions rule us, especially when it comes to sex. They're naturally going to rule your sex scene, too. We don't insert tab A into slot B because we're following a blueprint manual. There's a reason behind our physical responses, and that reason is always, always tied to emotion. Remember that. Use it. +Desire is what makes the sex hot. Make your readers wait for it. Foreplay begins with seduction, not with sex acts. It begins with eye contact. Flirting. Innuendo. It progresses, but slowly. Tease your readers. Tease yourself. Draw it out. Make it a long, slow burn. The best orgasms are the ones we wait a long time for. It's no different when writing sex than it is doing it, really. +DON'T BE AFRAID Don't be afraid of the sex. Don't be afraid of the fluids, the flesh, the human expression of our bodies. It is what it is. Some writers will tell you not to ever speak of bodily fluids. They're above all that messy stuff. Thankfully, erotica and erotic romance have come a long way, baby. We can use the words cock and pussy now, and I would encourage you to do so. I wouldn't suggest using the medical terms, however (i.e. penis and vagina) or euphemisms like ""member"" or ""sheath."" Cock and Pussy are good. Think of them like peas and carrots. They go together. A few (and I mean a FEW) other words can work for a little variety. Prick or dick for example. Or cunt. No, don't be afraid of the words we use during sex. It's okay to talk dirty. ""Please,"" or ""Now,"" or ""Suck me,"" or ""Lick me,"" or ""Harder. There. More."" These are words we've all spoken (I hope!) They naturally arouse. That's a good thing. I'm not afraid of cum -- I'm not even afraid of spelling it ""wrong."" You shouldn't be either. +THE GRAND FINALE Once you reach the point of no return, you've built up to the sex, you've teased your readers (and your poor characters) enough, now it's time to give them what they want. This is not the time to skimp. You can't gloss over the orgasm. (Or orgasmS). We all (hopefully!) know what an orgasm feels like. Description doesn't have to be technical here. There are spasms and contractions, there is throbbing and trembling, gasps, moans—the combinations are endless. You can and should include those, but don't be afraid to move into the realm of metaphor. Sex can be like flying. It can be like falling. It can be like dying. This is the culmination of everything, the point you've been waiting for, working toward. Let your imagination go as wild as you would during an actual orgasm. Let yourself free. +DEFYING THE LAWS OF PHYSICS AND OTHER MISHAPS On a practical note -- your characters shouldn't defy the laws of physics. Women cannot take twelve inches of hot man meat down their throats. An average vagina is only four inches deep. 44DD breasts cannot defy gravity. And if you're using any of the above descriptions in your sex scenes, you need a basic writing course, not a primer on sex scenes. Also, don't let your character's clothes go missing. She can't be wearing pantyhose one second and be taking it from behind the next. The clothes have to come off and be accounted for somehow. Trust me, your readers will notice if they aren't. +\--------------------------- +So that's it. It's not rocket science (or ninth grade math). That's how I get from point A to point B—from a blank page to hot, sweaty sex scenes. Really, it's no different from any other type of writing. I don't write sex scenes any differently than I do scary ones or sad ones or violent ones. It comes from a place within me that is beyond me, beyond all of us, and I think as writers, we all know when we have tapped into that place. It feels a little like flying. Like falling. Like sex. Trust yourself. Breathe. And write. If your characters are alive, if you live and feel the sex scenes in the story yourself, I promise you that they will also come to life for your readers." +938,Writing Realistic Female Dominance,stlgoddessfreya,How To,2015-01-20,2015-01-20,2022-01-04 08:43:02,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-realistic-female-dominance,The Three R's to give your femdom scene the detail it needs.,"['Bdsm', 'Cfnm', 'Domestic Discipline', 'Female Dominance', 'Femdom', 'Lifestyle', 'Male Submission', 'Relationship']",4.78,"**Scene 1** +I couldn't believe I was doing it, even as I followed the tall blonde in the black PVC catsuit to the door with ""Private"" written over the door in tilting red script. I just went to the sex club to watch, at least that was my plan, but as soon as I saw her demonstrating the proper way to flog a man in a kneeling position, I knew I would be on my knees for her by the end of the night. I couldn't see anything inside the private room after she disappeared into the shadows. +""Close the door behind you, then turn around and press you palms and forehead to the wood,"" she commanded from the dark. I didn't hesitate to obey. Her catsuit creaked as she stepped up close behind me and ran her hands over the backs of my arms and shoulders to measure my compliance. She pushed even closer, using her chest and hip to pin me hard against the door. Her breath tickled my ear. +""Spread your legs. I want to inspect what you're offering. See if it's worth my time."" I moved my feet apart, the fabric of my pants stretching tightly across my erection. She reached between my legs from behind me with one hand and cupped her palm roughly against my balls before squeezing my stiff cock through my pants. I groaned. Without a word, she unbuckled my belt, unzipped my pants, then pumped my burning cock in her fist. I was too turned on to resist her squeezing, stroking fingers and soon I was shuddering against her while thick spurts of my cum painted the door. She stepped away from me and pushed me to my knees. My eyes had adjusted well enough to the darkness of the room to look back over my shoulder to see her sit down in a chair. She crossed one glossy leg over the other and watched me. +""Lick that mess up so we can get started. At least now you won't come first thing."" +I stared at my come, sliding slowly down the door. Was I really going to do this? I didn't even know her name. + **Scene 2** +Everything was in place for my anniversary surprise. My parents picked the kids up from school and were under strict orders not to call until Sunday night unless someone lost a limb. Takeout from the restaurant where we went on our first date fifteen years ago waited on plates in the oven. Champagne was chilling in the refrigerator. All I needed now was my husband. +""I'm home,"" he called, as he came in the door. I sat on the couch in the living room and listened to him stomp slush off his boots before leaving them in the mudroom. ""Gina?"" +""In here,"" I replied, smiling. He still had no idea. +""Where are the kids?"" +""With my folks for the weekend. I have you all to myself."" I set my face into an expression of imperious serenity as he popped out of the hallway. He stopped dead when he saw me in my white silk robe, the golden threads of the embroidered pattern catching the afternoon light. My curly black hair was pinned on my head with golden combs, a few ringlets framing my face. My makeup was light, except for my shocking red lips. He was so surprised to see me in my special clothes somewhere other than the bedroom that his mouth was literally hanging open. ""Your awe is noted,"" I purred, fixing him with a heavy-lidded gaze, ""but your supplication is lacking."" +He was on his hands and knees at once, crawling across the floor to me. He kept his eyes on my feet. +""Please forgive me, my Goddess. Please forgive your worthless servant. I was so taken with your beauty that I forgot to pay proper respect."" +""Is forgetfulness an excuse for disrespect?"" +""No, my Light, it is not."" His voice squeaked a little coming out. He was ashamed and apprehensive. +""With no excuse, the just thing for me to do would be to punish you, would it not?"" +""You are always just, my Goddess. I deserve punishment. But I beg you to have mercy on me. Please, allow me to show you my love and devotion. If you will allow me to touch and kiss your feet, I promise I will show the proper respect this time."" +I stroked his cheek with my bare toes. ""I will allow it. Go retrieve your footbath basin from the bathroom. Change into the clothes I have laid out for you on the bed."" +He sighed and rubbed his cheek against the top of my foot, still careful to avert his eyes. ""Yes, my Goddess. Thank you for your sweet mercy to this poor supplicant."" +**** +These two very different scenes represent just two possible facets of the hundreds of scenarios that fall under the blanket definition of female domination. Femdom scenes are far more common as fantasy than reality. In a 2014 survey that's forthcoming in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 53.3% of the men surveyed had fantasies of being dominated sexually. In a 2009 survey published in The Journal of Sex Research using a similar sample size and makeup of participants, women rated fantasy scenarios of female sexual dominance much lower than fantasies of female sexual submission and further indicated that they were far less willing than the male participants to want to make their fantasies a reality. With such a wide gap between the number of men who fantasize about femdom and the number of women who are willing to be sexually dominant, it's a fantasy many have but few realize. +Writing for Literotica is one way to explore that fantasy and bring it to others. Why aim to write realistically when fantasy is the ultimate goal? Your audience falls into one of two categories: people who haven't had an experience like the one you're describing in your story or those who have. For those who have, details of your story that are too fantastic read the same way as stories that refer to 38D breasts being bigger that 32D breasts - it marks you as someone who probably doesn't have any experience with the real thing. The majority of your readers are going to be in the first group. Some readers love the outsized fantasy; they want every Domme to be a six-foot redhead with impossible proportions wearing shoes with heels higher than a human foot can arch. The majority, though, fantasize about having a real-life experience that's likely to be out of reach. Writing more realistic erotica makes it easier for them to identify with your characters. For authors concerned with painting a realistic picture of femdom encounter, it can be difficult to know where to start. +Realistic, resonant female domination writing is far more than accurately describing the feel of a flogger or the sheen of a pair of boots. The action, regardless of what it is, can always be broken down into the Three Rs that must be considered and addressed: Relationship, Ritual, and Release. + **Relationship** +The Relationship between the people in a femdom scene isn't just a question of whether they're strangers or established play partners, although that makes a difference for how comfortable they are with indicating consent non-verbally. There are also issues of actual power imbalances as the background for a scene, and exploring them makes the story not only more interesting but more realistic. +In Scene 1 above, the two characters are strangers who met in the sexually- charged atmosphere of a club. While it can be tempting to have a character so overwhelmed with desire that he throws caution to the wind, it's not realistic - a reader won't connect to a character who does something so far outside what he himself would do in the same scenario. The male character submits without actually voicing doubts to the Domme, but that doesn't mean he's not experiencing them. He's excited, but also hesitant. Showing his uncertainty about totally submitting shows how strong his desire is rather than taking away from it. +The fact that the two in Scene 1 don't know each other also means their play starts out with low-stakes testing of consent and boundaries. She goes into the room, but he has to follow her to continue. She tells him what to do, but he shows he accepts her dominance by doing it. It ends with her most extreme request, but she's not holding his hair and pushing his face into the door, she's giving him the choice to continue. It's not because she doesn't think she can do it. If anything, she's got greater power making him do it by calm request from across the room instead of using physical force. Because they have never played together before, she uses the most extreme instruction to test how sure he is before they move into the flogging he saw her give someone else earlier. +In Scene 2, the two characters are long married and obviously have played domination games with each other before. There's still an interesting element of novelty, though, since it's clear they have previously confined that kind of play to the bedroom and the husband is not expecting his wife to initiate the scene when she does. Because they trust each other and know their limits, they can realistically move directly into their scene as a surprise. There's no need for negotiation or either of them having trepidation about what they're doing, because the existing relationship makes it believable. +In Scene 1, there's not only a physical power imbalance but a social one, too. She's tall and strong enough to pin him against the door; he's already seen her flog another man. He's also a visitor to the sex club, there for the first time. She obviously has more experience than he does with the club and with femdom in general. These are small details, but they make the imbalance between them clear without either of them saying anything about it. +Other types of natural power imbalances that fit this model: boss and employee; strict governess/teacher and student; superior officer and subordinate; policewoman and prisoner/suspect; mother and son; nurse and patient; queen/lady and servant. +Don't just stop with natural power imbalances, though. Interesting stories can also come from inverting what would normally be a power imbalance in favor of the sub outside of the femdom scene. Inversions: employee who catches the boss doing something he shouldn't or discovers his submissive sexual tendencies; a student who masters her teacher; a suspect in for questioning who uses her dominance to bend a policeman to her will; a daughter who runs the roost over her doting father; a chambermaid who makes the randy lord her sex slave. +In Scene 2, there's no apparent power imbalance in the relationship itself at all. If anything, seeing the amount of preparation the Domme has put into making sure they will both have a pleasant anniversary highlights the lengths she goes to satisfy him as well as herself. This isn't the only way to write a long-term femdom relationship. What about the family where stay-at-home-dad is wearing a chastity device and panties under his jeans and polo? The boss who always lets his employees go early on Friday afternoons because he's got a standing date with the cleaning lady and her strap-on? Maybe the couple that switches off who's dominant based on which of their apartments they are staying in that night? Femdom fits into all kinds of existing relationships, with any kind of external power dynamic imaginable, so long as the details are consistent. +Another question of relationship is whether or not the people involved are being themselves (or a close version) or whether they're playing roles. In Scene 1, the narrator and Domme seem to be themselves; In Scene 2, the couple is playing the roles of Goddess and supplicant. Clear roleplay offers another opportunity to explore the difference between who your characters are outside the bedroom and who they are inside the scene. As in Scene 2, it doesn't take extensive backstory to set up the difference between the two. +The thing to remember for realistic femdom writing is that your characters are people before, during, and after the scene. They have relationships, fears, comfort levels, and reactions. The more you explore them, the more they become relatable characters instead of just bodies going through a shadow play. + **Ritual** +The core of femdom erotica is the ritual itself. ""Ritual"" doesn't mean doing exactly the same every time/ Even if it was your heart's exact desire, it would get old after a while. Instead, ritual means the kind of dominance, how roles are established, how it begins and ends. The ritual is what sets a femdom scene apart from the rest of your characters' lives. This is what your readers, whether they love pure fantasy or like their erotica grounded in reality, are seeking and the details make all the difference. +Setting \- Where your characters are in space and time is important to establish before you think about other details. Are they in public or in private? Are they in a place where sex play is unacceptable and they could be caught? Are they both taking a risk? Is the place familiar and comfortable? +Time is also important. A governess giving the young adult lord a birching is based in reality if your story is set in the Victorian Era, but it's a woman playing a role at any later time. When the Domme in your story calls a man her slave, is she being literal? History, alternative history, and science fiction can be great outlets for settings where inherent power dynamics are different from modern times. +In Scene 1, the setting is sexually-charged from the beginning and sets up a power imbalance: she is comfortable there and finds it familiar, he's there for the first time. Though the scene starts with them playing in a private room, there's a public space just on the other side that could be used if she wanted a crowd. In Scene 2, the play is confirmed to be very private in a time and place where the Domme has had time to prepare for a specific ritual. It seems unlikely that the couple will leave the house all weekend +. +Wardrobe \- What your characters are wearing (or not wearing) goes a long way to establishing dominance and submission. Scene 1 has a Domme in very common clothing in erotica. But how many PVC catsuits and five-inch heels have you seen in real life? How many have your readers seen? Does it seem like comfortable clothing a woman in charge would choose, or something she'd only wear for a male fantasy? +It's not that fetish wear and lingerie aren't appropriate or sexy for Dommes to wear. A woman owning, even flaunting her sexuality is a kind of power in itself, and nothing establishes that a scene is sexual and signifies that a role is being assumed or that a ritual is starting faster than describing the Domme wearing clothes she would never wear in regular life. Power is important, though, and for a realistic Domme, her sex appeal comes from her authority, not the other way around. The clothing details that make stories unrealistic and less relatable to me as a reader are the ones that indicate a woman has less power, not more. The domineering boss in the corner office doesn't show a lot of cleavage or wear a miniskirt to work unless her sexuality is how she got where she is. Who has more authority, a woman wearing a latex ""naughty nurse"" outfit or a woman in a crisp cotton nurse's uniform snapping on a latex glove? +In Scene 1, the Domme's outfit makes sense for where she is and what she's doing. It sends the right message because she's in a place reserved for the kind of sex she wants to have. In that setting, her clothes mark her as belonging, his street clothes mark him as an outsider. It also serves as a kind of armor, which emphasizes her physical dominance. Her skin only touches his in the ways she chooses, while his skin is available to her. In Scene 2, the Domme wears an opulent, comfortable robe and has bare feet, which fits not only her Goddess role but the type of rituals that they're going to engage in, foot and body worship. Both women are wearing costumes that show their dominance, but both would be out of place wearing the other's outfit. +What about the subs? What clothing enhances their role in the ritual? After reading Scene 1, do you have any doubt he's going to be taking off some or all of his clothes after he accepts her challenge? In Scene 2, even though the clothes she's laid out on the bed for him are not described yet, do you think he's going to come out wearing more or less than he went into the bedroom wearing? For male subs, nudity is the visual shorthand for submission. It's so powerful that there's a whole genre of stories based around just that aspect: clothed female(s), naked male. Other than nudity or partial nudity, feminizing clothing is the biggest category of ritual clothing. Anything from a pair of panties to a full sissymaid outfit with petticoats, stockings, and high heels show clear male submissive roles. +Clothing for the sub, just like clothing for the Domme, has to fit the ritual. An elaborate outfit or a collar in Scene 1 doesn't make any sense for the setting, the amount of time the Domme has had to plan, or the relationship between the two. In Scene 2, though, an elaborate outfit makes sense for all the reasons it doesn't make sense in the first scene. The husband could come out of the bedroom wearing a simple loincloth or a complex leather harness, sandals, and collar. +Avoid just listing the clothing people are wearing. In Scene 1, the sight and sound of the Domme's clothing add to the sensory description of the scene. As that story progressed, there would be more descriptions of how the PVC felt against the sub's mouth and tongue, how it tasted, what it looked and like when he was in different positions. +Script \- How much do your characters speak to each other and how do they talk when they do? The script is where roleplay comes in more than any other part of the ritual: the script is what makes a modern Domme with a cane in her hand a nun punishing a pupil, the lady of the house disciplining her servant, or an amazon delivering the stinging punishment he so richly deserves. +In Scene 1, the sub doesn't speak at all. Part of the way the Domme takes control of the scene is by knowing what to say, because the sub doesn't know what he's doing or what comes next. The two of them have not moved into any roles that we see in the scene other than sexually adventurous versions of themselves. +In Scene 2, the script is the biggest part of the ritual. The two characters speak in a completely different, way when they're in the scene versus their casual conversation when he first comes into the house. Their roles are established immediately through the language that they use: she's a Goddess and he's a supplicant, trying to worship her. She uses the script, not physical force, to dominate him. Her questions demand his response, but the way she asks them doesn't leave anything open to his interpretation or input. It's clear from the formal way of speaking and the vocabulary that includes multiple ways of referring to each other that they have developed these roles and rituals over time. +One of the most important things to parse when making a realistic femdom script is what the characters call each other. ""Mistress"" would work well for either Scene 1 or Scene 2, but doesn't work for a medical, caretaking, or education scene. ""Miss"" works for a strict teacher or strong-arming nurse, but not for the goddess in Scene 2 or the dominatrix in Scene 1 (unless she made him use it ironically). Don't be afraid to get creative or use the same terms from languages other than English. ""Domina"" is perfect for a Roman slave scene or a goddess; ""Madame"" works for a woman with a penchant for tall boots and short whips; ""Signora"" is ideal for a demanding inspector of domestic servitude. All of them just mean ""lady"" in Latin, French, and Italian, respectively, but their connotation brings different, richer meanings. +Humiliation \- Not every femdom scene requires humiliation, and too much humiliation turns some readers off. The thing to remember about the level of humiliation involved is that it's purely contextual; there is no inherently humiliating act. +In Scene 1, for example, the sub licking his own cum off the door is humiliating but only because he hesitates. If he had dropped to his knees and lapped it up without being told and showed no conflict or shame, it would carry a totally different emotional weight than it does in the actual scene. Similarly, if the Domme was crouched over him with her fist bunched up around a handful of his hair and he was begging to do anything but lick his gross spunk off the nasty sex club door, the exact same act is extremely humiliating. +In Scene 2, the sub crawling on his hands and knees then rubbing his face against the Domme's foot is sweet, even romantic. Their script doesn't emphasize that position or act as one of humiliation, but as natural. Now, imagine the exact same thing happening in Scene 1 at the Domme's command. Not nearly so sweet, is it? +What about more extreme examples, like pegging or enemas? Aren't those inherently humiliating? It's certainly easier to make those acts express humiliation, so not much else needs to be included in the script to get that point across. What if the act is hot but its humiliation aspect is not, or doesn't fit the relationship? Have your characters talk about and react to the act like it isn't humiliating or shameful and you rob it of other connotations. A Domme putting on her strap-on and emphasizing in her script that fucking the sub with it is a coveted reward for his obedience, or even having her use the strap-on in a face-to-face position, takes the humiliation out of the act. An enema for a grateful sub as part of a bathing ritual, treated as a purification of the body instead of a test of endurance isn't humiliating. If an act fits your story but usually carries an air of humiliation that doesn't fit, don't give up on it. +Acts \- The most important part, right? Maybe not. The complete act of a femdom scene might be the sub masturbating while the Domme instructs him in what to do on the phone. What makes that a true ritual instead of just phone sex is everything else around it. Any sex act can be made into a hot, realistic femdom scene if the details are right, no bondage or whips necessary. +Some sex acts are going to take more work than others to come off as showing female authority. Think about the effect of feminine clothing on a male sub to show his status - the same thing doesn't happen when a female sub wears masculine clothes. If anything, a woman wearing traditionally masculine clothes, it marks her as having more authority. The same thing is true for sex acts that have a presumption of penetrating/masculine/dominant and penetrated/feminine/submissive that can be overcome by the right script. Dommes giving subs oral sex, rimming them, or letting a sub penetrate them vaginally can all be acts of dominance. +I had a discussion with a friend recently about whether or not receiving anal sex could be an act of dominance. This is the script I wrote, a variation on Scene 2, to show him how it might work: +""Initiate, are you worthy of tasting me?"" +""No, my Goddess."" +""But I allow you to provide me oral servitude?"" +""Yes, my Goddess."" +""Why is that?"" +""Your mercy, my Goddess."" +""My mercy and my pleasure. Do you long to please me, Initiate?"" +""More than anything, my Goddess."" +""Good. It pleases me now to have a cock inside me. Initiate, are you worthy of putting your cock inside me?"" +""No, my Goddess."" +""That is correct. But you are mine to do with as I please."" +""Always, my Goddess."" +""It pleases me to use you in this way."" +""Thank you, my Goddess."" +""But you are in no way worthy of putting your cock inside my most holy place. That is meant for my own fingers and blessed instruments."" +""How can I please you then, Goddess?"" +""Lay down. I will use you to fill me in other ways."" +There, the foundation is laid for the Domme to have what she wants on her terms, for her pleasure. Maintain it with the position, something that gives her control over depth and speed of thrusts, and even taking it in the ass can emphasize her authority. +Worried about writing realistic femdom scenes because you've never personally experienced rope bondage, flogging, chastity devices, or any of the other things that are ""supposed to be"" in femdom? Don't worry about it. Write about the acts that turn you on or turn on the readers you want to reach. Writing about acts you have experienced first-hand will always give you a deeper well of realistic details to draw, and those are the real power behind getting your reader to relate to the scene. + **Release** +If the Relationship is the beginning and the Ritual is the middle, Release is the end of a realistic femdom scene. Only pure fantasy involves the Domme getting everything and the sub getting nothing, since no one would consent to a completely one-sided sexual experience. Release is where the sub is rewarded in the way the sub values, but it's always the Domme's decision to end the scene in a controlled way. +Release is not always orgasm and orgasm is not always Release. In Scene 1, the Domme brings the sub to orgasm as a preliminary matter. What he really wants may be an orgasm, but it won't be until he experiences a much greater intensity of submission and sensation. She might not let him come for the rest of the night then order him not to come until he sees her at the club the next week. The story doesn't have to follow him until the next week for the scene to be complete, so long as her controlling his orgasm and continuing their relationship is what he wants. If not, he has no reason to listen to her and her authority is broken because she's not doing what she's supposed to do in fulfilling his desires as well as her own. +In Scene 2, the sub may come many times over the course of the weekend, just once at the end, or not at all, depending on what he finds most pleasurable. It makes a big difference if what she has laid out for him on the bed includes a chastity device. What's clear from her prior preparation, though is that they are going to share a meal and champagne at some point that night, so there's going to be a controlled end to the scene and return to their normal roles. +You bring your reader through the same arc as your characters: building excitement, fulfilling excitement, and allowing excitement to have a satisfying end before returning to the baseline state. A clear release is particularly important for femdom scenes where the characters are roleplaying, so they can return to their usual personalities and relationship. Even in stories about couples who live a femdom lifestyle 24/7, they have to stop to fold the laundry and attend parent-teacher conferences. Pay attention to Relationship, Ritual, and Release and you'll give your readers a more realistic, satisfying way of living their fantasies." +939,Writing Sci-Fi,al_Ussa,How To,2010-07-31,2010-07-31,2022-01-04 08:43:03,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-sci-fi,A brief guide for aspiring authors.,"['Alien Sex', 'Cyberpunk', 'Faq', 'How To', 'Sci-Fi', 'Science Fiction', 'Space Opera', 'Time Travel']",4.29,"Sci-fi... science fiction. The very word conjures to mind spaceships, intergalactic civilization, laserbeams and robots. Or, maybe it just conjues up images of slightly overweight nerds in glasses who are obsessed with TV shows and live in their parents basement. Which is unfortunate, even if there is some grain of truth in it. +I'll admit it. I'm a little nerdy at times. I got good grades in school, I read science fiction novels, played D&D, and watched Star Trek. I still have a Star Trek t-shirt in my closet. Hell, I even wear glasses. +But you know what? I'm proud to be a nerd. And if you are reading this little 'how-to' guide that I've put together, then you probably are too. Go on. Admit it. There's no shame in that. We nerds have got plenty to be proud of. We practically invented the internet! We put out thousands of novels, comics, movies, TV shows and (let's admit it) fan fictions every year! We even have a whole channel dedicated to us! So be proud; you're in good company. +And now that we've got that out of the way, let's get onto the real meat: actually writing science fiction. +As the name might suggest, in the most basic form, science fiction is a particular genre of fiction which deals with science. Just how accurate said 'science' is varies from story to story. Certain tropes and even styles have come to focus on particular issues like time travel, alien life, parallel universes and the like, but really none of these things are necessary. A great many science fiction stories are set in the future, or at least the near future, but even this is not required. +Really, the first thing you need to do is find some spark or inspiration. This is no different from any other story, of course, but a science fiction story should always be centered around some scientific development or breakthrough. This need not even be the central theme of the story. In a world where cybernetic implants or extraterrestrial visitation are commonplace, one can still explore all the complexities of daily human life and passion. The only real difference is that now you have some fantastic element to use as a plot device. +And even then, this need not be too outlandish. Perhaps you envision a post- apocalyptic world where radiation-scarred mutants dominate society, or life amongst settlers on a recently terrformed Mars. But, maybe you want to do something a little more low key. A story exploring the ramifications of current events such as cloning, genetic engineering or antimatter need not take place in a world dramatically different from our own. +The best advice I can give for inspiration is to look at current scientific developments. For example, Michael Crichton's 'Jurassic Park' deals with cloning and modern interpretations of dinosaurs, and it was an absolutely brilliant book (and a good movie too). If you look through newspapers, as well as magazines like National Geographic, Scientific American, Smithsonian and the like, you can find any number of news items and articles to take inspiration from. A trip to your local library might uncover a few gems, and the internet is a gold mine. When it comes to science, most of the important things come from journals as books tend to be outdated or disproven pretty quickly. Fortunately most of these journals are online these days. +But you need to be burdened down by accuracy. Yes, if you are going to be writing about the subject it couldn't hurt to get some basic understanding of astronomy, chemistry, geology, biology, mathematics and the like. But you shouldn't feel like you need an advanced degree in quantum physics either. That's why we are talking about science FICTION here guys, not peer-reviewed scientific journals. Having your terminology and basic facts makes a story more believable but you will presumably be playing with some our basic assumptions. +Case in point, Mary Shelley's 'Frankenstein,' which is a classic and has been adapted (and spoofed) in film, television and popular culture. You probably know the basic plot: Dr. Victor Frankenstein sews together a patchwork man out of cadavers and brings him to life. What you may not know is that Mary Shelley wasn't quite sure about how she could explain it through 'science'. Rather than being daunted by this, she simply glossed over the process, describing it as a perverse blend of 'science' and 'alchemy'. And it didn't take anything away from the story. +Be somewhat consistent with the 'science' in your fictional universe and at least have a grasp of the basic terminology and you will be fine. If you are going to post it on the internet, be aware that many self-styled critics and 'experts' will probably point out every little mistake that you made. You have a couple choices on how to react to this, but my best advice is to develop thick skin. Don't let their comments get to you. Besides, as I said before, you aren't dealing with actual 'science'. You are writing fiction and shouldn't be afraid to toy with the basic laws of the universe. +Far, far more important is developing an interesting story with three dimensional characters, each with their own personality, voice and (dare I say it) character. The 'science' elements of your story should never overshadow the fact that you are writing a story about people... or mutants, aliens, robots, cosmic entities from a parallel dimension, etc. Its far better to use the fantastic 'science' elements as a plot device to move the story forward, to add to the dilemmas the characters face, and to create situations which they must react to. +Does your story take place in space? Then how have the characters adapted their daily routines to zero gravity? Or is your story set in a post- apocalyptic world? If so, maybe you should plan out the events that led to this apocalypse, even if your readers won't be aware of this. It helps to add depth to the fictional universe, and to keep it fairly consistent. Don't be afraid of paradoxes either. It's completely acceptable to limit characters by saying that certain actions would have disastrous consequences, up to and including destroying reality itself. +Perhaps you remember the 'Back to the Future' franchise? That would actually be a prime example of this. When Marty McFly went back in time to 1955, he accidentally tampered with the past, which almost caused him to cease existing. This is a more contemporary take on an old mainstay of science fiction. Ray Bradbury wrote a similar story in 'A Sound of Thunder,' which detailed a group of big game hunters going back in time to hunt dinosaurs. Despite precautions meant to ensure that they wouldn't change the past, one of the hunters accidentally steps on a butterfly, ultimately changing the future. +So let your imagination run wild. As long as you have a good idea, you're great. But before you get started, I'd like to introduce a few of the more well known 'sub-genres' of science fiction. Some of them may be familiar – like old friends from the sci-fi section of your book store or the video rental shop – while others may be new to you. Hopefully it will provide you with some new ideas that you might not have otherwise considered. + **Hard Sci-Fi** +""Hard"" sci-fi refers to a sub-genre based around the physical sciences, such as physics, chemistry, astronomy, geology, mathematics and the like. It is based very much on the actual science, and as such requires a little more research and dedication than other genres of science fiction. Still, it is fiction and can (and does) have the fantastic elements common to other sci-fi stories. The key difference is that it tends to be much more grounded in reality, so no laserbeams, psychic powers or intergalactic battles. The best examples of this would be Arthur C. Clarke's 'A Fall of Moondust,' Kim Stanley Robinson's Mars Trilogy and the short story 'The Cold Equations' by Tom Goodwin. + **Space Opera** +If hard sci-fi can be understated and grounded in reality, then space opera would be the complete opposite. Such stories are generally set in the distant future, when intergalactic travel is not only achieved, but has become common place. Such stories often involve numerous world or galaxy spanning civilizations, alien races and larger-than-life characters. Often set in space, the plots to these stories can be long, complicated and span worlds or even galaxies. Think of popular TV shows like Star Trek, Firefly and Babylon 5, as well as E. E. ""Doc"" Smith's Lensman series and Frank Herbert's Dune. + **Science Fantasy** +Perhaps related to space opera, science fantasy is a particular sub-genre which involves more fantasy and less science. Such a setting might be characterized by advanced technology, space travel and alien races, but has decidedly un-scientific elements like 'magic' as a heavy plot device. Like space opera, such stories tend to be over-the-top with epic characters and world shaking events. But they tend to draw as much from Joseph Campbell and world mythology as from hard science. In case you haven't guessed, the best example would be the Star Wars, but literary examples also exist, like Edgar Rice Burrough's John Carter adventures and Anne McCaffrey's Dragonriders of Pern series. + **Cyberpunk** +Grounded more towards the hard science end of the spectrum, cyberpunk is an old and very popular type of science fiction based around dystopian futures in which robots and/or cybernetic technology has become common place. Obviously the abuse of technology and the human body is a major theme in this sub-genre, and it is very much characterized by a certain gritty, depressing mood reflecting the social disparity of the setting. William Gibson's Sprawl trilogy, Max Headroom, Blade Runner, animes like Akira and Ghost-in-the -Shell, and the RPGs Cyberpunk and Shadowrun are prime examples. Indeed, cyberpunk has spawned its own subculture, and if you plan to write it, you would do well to research their particular aesthetic. + **Time Travel/Alternative Histories** +Almost two separate fields, both relate to the question of what would happen if you changed this or that. Time travel involves taking a person from one time period (past, present or future) and putting them in another. Often, it involves some sort of machine but I've seen a few creative alternatives. Our time-traveler then has to face various problems (possibly monsters like the Morlocks) and find their way home without changing the timeline. Examples of this would include Ray Bradbury's 'A Sound of Thunder,' H.G. Well's 'The Time Machine,' Michael Crichton's 'Timeline' and (to a degree) Doctor Who. +Alternative histories are similar to this in many ways, except that they extrapolate outward from changing one (or more) important historic event. What if the South won the American Civil War and ceded from the Union? What if Alexander didn't die and finished his conquest upon returning from the East? What if the Soviet Union was still around? We'd live in a vastly different world, and while it may not involve robots or aliens, it's still sci-fi. Philip K. Dick's 'The Man in the High Castle' explores one such world in which the Axis powers won the Second World War. + **Pulp** +Again, 'pulp' is a pretty broad term which almost demands its own genre. There are consistent tropes and themes that reoccur in pulp adventures, and many common stock characters. But until, let's treat it as a kind of science fiction. Modern pulp stories try and capture the feel of adventure and detective stories popular in the early twentieth century. Serialized in magazines and dime novels, these lurid, two-fisted adventures tend to focus on heroes who are larger than life and often involve elements of the fantastic. Psychic powers, exotic locations, martial arts, pseudo-science and dangerous dames are all common elements. If you are familiar with Doc Savage, The Shadow, Flash Gordon or pretty much anything published in 'Weird Tales' then you know what I am talking about. As with certain other sub-genres, you really need to capture a certain aesthetic in order to do these stories justice. + **Superheroes** +The natural legacy of the earlier pulp adventures, superheroes such as those found in the pages of Marvel and DC comics have become a mainstay of modern pop culture. While you can still find the stereotypical muscle-bound men in spandex and capes, the classical superhero has been forever changed by Alan Moore's gritty 'Watchmen.' Now you've got a darker, more cynical take on the genre which you can explore as well. If you are going to write a superhero, it's pretty much the same as other forms of sci-fi, but the story will be shaped by the hero and his superpowers (or lack thereof; Batman, one of the most familiar superheroes, has no innate powers and yet still manages to be interesting, fighting crimes with high-tech devices). + **Steampunk** +As the name implies, steampunk is a flavor of sci-fi based around clockwork and steam technology, usually set in a Victorian or pseudo-Victorian setting. Sometimes they involve alterative histories, but this is not always the case. While the level of technological development is important in these stories, the aesthetics and 19th century dress and etiquette matter just as much. Examples of this can be found in the works of Jules Verne and H.G. Wells, Alan Moore's 'League of Extraordinary Gentlemen,' the Deadlands RPG and the excellent (if short-lived) 'Adventures of Brisco County Jr.' TV series. Again, if you want to write steampunk, it is essential to research the subculture first. + **Alien Conspiracies/Cover-Ups** +Since the X-Files came out, there has been a boom of sci-fi stories involving alien contact and the government cover-up. This is obviously connected with the popularity of such stories, starting with the alleged abduction of Betty and Barny Hill in 1961. Such stories take place in the present-era, and have a sinister tone with a shadowy military-industrial complex covering up the existence of aliens. Or perhaps even working in collaboration with them! If you intend to write on this, I would suggest reading up on alleged alien abductions, men-in-black, cattle mutilations and other elements of the UFO hunting subculture. The most obvious example of this in popular culture comes from the X-Files, as mentioned above, but there is no shortage. + **Experimental** +Perhaps the most difficult sub-genre to define, or write for that matter, experimental sci-fi has as much to do with the style of writing as the story itself. It often involves toying with some of the assumptions common to speculative fiction, and attempts to push the boundaries even further. I would suggest that you get a couple of stories under your belt before you try writing this sort of story, but whatever you feel most comfortable with is good. Examples would include writing a story from the point-of-view of a non- human entity or shifting time within the story itself. Difficult concepts to get your head around but still fun to think about. Just make sure that your audience can follow you. + **But What About Monsters?** +Horror and sci-fi are close; almost like siblings or lovers. It shouldn't be surprising, then, that it can be hard to separate the two. One thing I've often told people is that 'horror' involves monsters, be they real, physical monsters (Dracula, the wolfman, Freddy Kreuger, Pinhead) or figurative ""monsters"" that display all the worst traits of humanity (serial killers like Michael Meyers, Jigsaw or Norman Bates). The truth is that it's never so simple. +Science fiction frequently involves the question of alien races, or at least intelligent species other than humanity. Now, usually there is a pretty clear cut line. Nobody is going to claim that Vulcans, Ewoks or even Daleks are 'horror'. On the other hand, something like the movie 'Alien' has very clear elements of both horror and science fiction. Which one is it? Is it both? I would be inclined to say yes. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with crossing genres if you feel like it. Just be aware when you do so and you'll be fine, because a science fiction story is (at its core) simply a fiction story which features some element of fantastic science. It could be horror, but it could just as easily be romance, comedy or mystery. Take your pick. +The main difference between horror and sci-fi, in my opinion, has to do with how much you explore these elements. Perhaps by its very nature, science fiction is speculative and is concerned with the question of what is out there, or what is possible. Horror tends to be scary specifically because it is unknown. That is where these two categories begin to overlap, and when they do, you can get some fantastic results, such as 'Aliens,' 'Invasion of the Body Snatchers' or the works of H.P. Lovecraft. Who said that aliens can't be 'scary'? +Of course, that said, there are just as many awful combinations of horror and sci-fi. Witness the travesties that were 'Jason X' and 'Leprechaun in Space'. Part of what made these so bad was the fact that they essentially just took the popular slasher character and dropped them in space with little to no real explanation. Sure, it might be fun for the camp value, but they aren't really memorable either. These should be textbook examples of how NOT to combine horror and sci-fi. + **Making Love in Space** +Since this is lit, I feel I would be remiss if I didn't at least mention this. If science fiction explores how people's daily lives might be affected by technological or scientific developments, then we absolutely must consider the question of sex (and sensuality). When we make first contact with aliens, someone will decide to have inter-species sex. Awesome, right? Well assuming all the parts are even compatible, what would be the ramifications of this? What if said species has completely different physical sexes beyond merely 'male' or 'female'? What if they are asexual and reproduce by budding off? Or what if they are parasitic? Hell, what about cross-species STDs? +Hopefully that got your mind running. Because science fiction is limited only by your imagination, there are infinite possibilities for describing and elaborating upon sex acts which would not be physically possible. The softcore porn spoof 'Flesh Gordon' is a good example of this, albeit rather light hearted and taken to the comedic extreme. Relationships between humans an aliens, or humans and robots, are but one of many, many possibilities. +Would humanity mass produce robots specifically for sex? How about clones bred exclusively to be concubines? In a world where cybernetic or even biological augmentations are common, what sort of fetishes might exist? What would sex in zero gravity be like? What would happen if you went back in time and became your own father? What would it be like to experience psychic sex? The list just goes on and on. And I'm sure that some of these have already appeared on literotica in some form or another, but there is still plenty of original material for you to come up with yourself. +In closing, I hope that this brief essay has given you some basic pointers and perhaps even some inspiration to start writing your own sci-fi, and maybe you would even be kind enough to share it with us here on lit. I in no way wish to limit your imagination, so go ahead. Be creative. There's an infinite number of possible alternate universes to explore..." +940,Writing Sex Scenes,WFEATHER,How To,2010-12-11,2010-12-11,2022-01-04 08:43:04,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-sex-scenes,Elements to consider when writing sex scenes.,"['Author Advice', 'Author How-To', 'Sex Scene', 'Writing Advice', 'Writing Erotica', 'Writing How To']",4.58,"This is Literotica, meaning that virtually all of the stories here will include at least one sex scene. However, there are probably quite a few people who wish to submit a tale or two to Literotica, but feel that writing a sex scene is a daunting task. +To be honest, it is, even for those of us with a large number of submissions on Literotica. Sex is not a cookie-cutter activity, and writing a convincing sex scene is far from being a formulaic task. Further, those who participate in NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) and its many unofficial spin-off contests may want to add a few sex scenes to their novels if for no other reason than to add precious word count, but even then, a sex scene still needs to be somewhat convincing in order to make sense within the larger work. +Although I have been writing erotica for more than seven years, I certainly cannot say that I am perfect in writing sex scenes, but I believe I have gained some insight which may be of benefit for those who want to make their first attempt at writing erotica. Specifically, there are seven elements which I have internalized and consider as I write a sex scene. +Discovery +First, sex is an activity in which people can discover a lot about each other. Taking that into consideration, there are a number of questions to ask oneself about the characters involved in the scene: +Is this the first time the characters have had sex together? If yes, then there is almost certainly a lot of discovery taking place, at least on a subconscious level, even if all the participants are very sexually experienced. For example, does a woman in the scene prefer penetration or clitoral stimulation, or perhaps both, to achieve orgasm? Does a man have a particular erogenous zone which will instantly put him in the mood (and perhaps work as a catalyst for the scene)? +How do the characters know each other? If they just met and are simply enjoying a one-night stand, that will probably guide the sex scene in a particular direction. If they are longtime lovers, they probably know seemingly everything about each other, in which case the sex scene may really be a way for them to focus on their intimate bond. If the characters are related by blood or are of vastly different ages or are at different levels of a hierarchy, that can absolutely cast a shadow over their intimate activities, which in its own way can lead to various discoveries. +Are the characters trying something new or different? If the scene marks the first sexual experience for one of the participants, that will be the predominant factor determining the progression of the scene. If a roleplay scenario is being explored, that can put some interesting twists on things, even if the participants are longtime sexual partners. The addition of new toys or implements, such as a wider-than-average dildo or a homemade sex machine or the use of a blindfold or the testing of a whip, can potentially add a lot of variety to their sexual interactions and thus provide some spice for the sex scene itself. +To borrow a BDSM term, what are the characters' limits, both soft limits and hard limits? In other words, what do they not like to do sexually and what will they absolutely not do sexually? If a scene involved approaching or especially transgressing one or more limits, there are a number of discoveries which can be made, especially on the psychological level. +Location +Equally important is location. Any particular grouping of characters can be placed in different locations for their sexual activities, and they will likely behave differently. For example, a foursome might take place in the living room of a frat house during a major party, surrounded by dozens (or more) students cheering them on, commenting to each other, and recording the spectacle (perhaps to be uploaded to a Web site later, either for blackmail or to legitimately make some extra money). The same foursome snowed in during a blizzard may have other issues at hand, such as more intimate lighting (with the scene taking place in front of a glowing fireplace), availability of scented massage oils, or the possibility of couples watching each other more closely. +In addition to behavior, each location has its own inherent characteristics which could be exploited in a sex scene. These characteristics could be physical objects, or they may be simply how the characters behave in each location. A professor and a student having sex at the professor's second home far away from the university will almost certainly feel more ""free"" to truly take their time and indulge in each other, whereas the same couple having sex in the professor's small campus office may be forced to have just a quickie while strategically positioned so that no one can look in the window and see them. Objects in each location may play a role in the sex scene: hiding behind large trees along a hiking trail, sharper-than-usual blades of grass pricking the skin when having sex in a field, accidentally knocking a book off a shelf while having sex in a library... and, of course, sex on a spacecraft could be nicely complicated by a lack of gravity. +Location can also impact whether and how the ""outside world"" intrudes on the characters. For an incest tale in which a brother and sister are in the basement engaging in foreplay, they might hear their parents walking around upstairs in preparation for a dinner party, for example. A sex scene in a hotel might include a siren from passing emergency vehicles. A scene focusing on joining The Mile High Club could include the pilot making an announcement about upcoming turbulence. +Mechanics +The relationship of the characters involved in a sex scene can be critical. If it is a duo, are they of the same or opposite sex? If there are multiple people involved, are they all of one sex or are both sexes represented? +Beyond the physical mechanics of sex between/amongst the characters involved, the overall situation can dictate mechanics of how sexual activity will occur. Is one character restrained, and how is that character restrained? +There may be other mechanics to consider beyond merely ""insert Anatomy A into Orifice B."" If a character is being whipped, for example, the type of whip and the type of restraint used (if any) can impact how the whipping itself occurs. For example, a man tied face-down to a bed or a table may be relatively easier to whip than a woman strung between two thick pillars. Certain whips have different types of pain, such as ""sting"" versus ""bite,"" and those types of pain will likely affect the reactions of the person being whipped. The weight and length of the tail(s) may also require varying mechanical tactics, both to prevent wearing out the arm of the person conducting the whipping and to ensure adequate space if long tail(s) are being used (such as with the stereotypical bullwhip). +Mechanics are also a consideration when there are multiple characters involved in the sex scene. For a male-female-male scene, for example, double penetration might be employed. For a female-male-female scene, however, the man may be thrusting into one of the women, but what is the second woman doing? +Where mechanics can really become quite interesting, both for the reader and the writer, is when non-humans are involved. Perhaps the most obvious example is the tentacle sex scenario common in a number of Japanese animated and live- action videos. An alien's form of mating is encumbered only by the writher's imagination, so pairing one or more aliens with one or more humans can provide some interesting challenges (ideally with inventive solutions!) for sexual mechanics. A shape-shifter can present other interesting mechanical issues, as potentially could a powerful mage or a playful deity. +Mood +The mood of a sex scene can be impacted by a number of factors. The first is the overall story itself, especially if it is a long tale such as a NaNoWriMo project. The second is the grouping of characters and their location and their level/amount of discovery - again, a foursome having sex at a frat party will likely experience a different mood than a foursome trapped in a cabin by a blizzard. +There is no reason why the mood of a sex scene must remain the same from beginning to end. If the tale is from the point of view of a woman is having sex for the first time, for example, the scene may begin with a nervous or even fearful mood, but then become happier and more romantic after her blood has been spilled; the moods in this scenario could be heightened by the characters' culture(s). In a tale featuring a rapist, the sex scene may begin with consensual sex, but then become violent and fearful when the rapist decides ""it is time."" A playboy might be having good, fun sex with his latest partner, and the mood may suddenly change because he inadvertently calls her ""Jenni"" instead of ""Tabitha."" +Mood need not be solely dependent upon the characters. Their surroundings can also set or enhance the mood: a small campfire, soft jazz music playing on the radio, the sound of a pounding bass line piercing the wall of a dorm room... Their location might also set the mood: a candlelight dinner, a themed room at a bondage club, an elevator in an office building... The relationship between the characters can also impact the mood: a professor's natural instinct to teach might impact how he shows his student his preferred masturbation technique, sisterly love may add an extra element of calm and peacefulness as two young women have sex, a corrupt police officer may purposely abuse her position to ""enjoy"" the body of a frightened suspect... +Dialogue & Writings +One mistake which many new erotica writers make is not using enough dialogue, or perhaps not using any dialogue. Whether during a sex scene or during a breakfast scene, dialogue can provide great insight into a character's mindset at that moment. Over the course of an entire scene or certainly an entire story, a character's vocabulary can also give the reader a better understanding of that character, and often, this is revealed through dialogue. A gang member may act tough and talk trash a lot when with other gang members, but during sex with the one person who matters most, the same character may instead talk calmly and sweetly, helping to underscore the shift of personality between those two situations. If nothing else, having the characters use ""sweet nothings"" during their sexual interlude provides some variety, some short visual breaks, from block after block of multi-sentence paragraphs. Similarly, onomatopoeic utterances, such as ""Nnngh!"" when attempting to hold back an orgasm or pleas of ""Harder!"" during sex, can help to highlight that character's reactions to the sexual experience. +Another way to reveal a character's mindset is to make use of the character's writings. These could be in the form of a love letter, or perhaps a note hidden where another character will find it. Making use of modern technology, other sources of writings include text messages, e-mails, status updates on Facebook and MySpace, and blog posts. The most important thing, of course, is to use forms of writing appropriate to the story's time period - unless part of the point of the story is a mixing of time periods. +Thoughts & Emotions +Especially important when the story is told in first-person viewpoint from the position of one of the characters, the use of characters' thoughts and emotions can add significant impact to a sex scene, and to a story in general. How this manifests itself may depend on the relationship between the characters, the events leading up to or potentially following the sex scene, and countless other factors. +By making use of thoughts and emotions, the writer can really help the reader to identify with the character (when told in first-person viewpoint) or characters (when writing from an omnipotent narrator viewpoint). A stereotypical scientist character, for example, will typically think of things logically and be rather analytical; in a sex scene, such a character may be constantly analyzing what is happening and almost literally be calculating what should happen when and how it should occur. +Emotions and thoughts can also be quite impactful for a scene. Even if the characters have been sexual partners for a long time, their emotions are quite likely to be happy and loving on their wedding night. Thoughts and emotions can help highlight the trauma of the victim in a rape scene, or the weirdness of a character being ensnared and penetrated by a semi-sentient vine. Yet emotions and thoughts can also show counterpoints, such as a Master's calmness and enjoyment as he hurts his willing submissive and revels in her physical torment; similarly, if written from the submissive's point of view, emotions and thoughts can be used to demonstrate that while her body is being tortured, she craves the pain and/or the attention administered by her Master. +First-person Knowledge +Whether in a sex scene or a ""mundane"" scene, one pitfall many writing newcomers make when writing in first-person viewpoint is to have that character somehow ""know"" what another character is thinking or feeling when there has been no logical means to obtain that knowledge. The best real-world example I can give comes from personal experience having run multiple traditional (pencil-and-paper) role-playing games. As the Game Master, I can set the overall scene of a battle from an omnipotent point of view, and the players' characters may scatter, taking cover behind various objects which prevent them from seeing each other. If Player A's character makes a particular move, Players B and C may erroneously react to that move, and as the Game Master, it is my job to challenge them (""Is that you reacting or your character reacting?""). +The same situation applies in writing from the first-person viewpoint. Character A can see and hear what Character B is doing, but unless Character B says something or makes a significant gesture or facial expression, Character A cannot know what is actually going through the mind of Character B. If that is difficult to follow, try this: +> _Example 1_ > > I stood behind her, my hands on her shoulders as we both looked up at the > third-floor window with the open curtains, watching as an exhibitionist > couple made love in plain view of anyone at the intersection who happened to > be looking up at them. Amanda was shocked, having never seen such a thing > before, and I smiled to myself, making a mental note that she and I should > do the exact same thing once we returned to the hotel. > > _Example 2_ > > I stood behind her, my hands on her shoulders as we both looked up at the > third-floor window with the open curtains, watching as an exhibitionist > couple made love in plain view of anyone at the intersection who happened to > be looking up at them. Amanda gasped aloud, then muttered something which > was just barely audible over the noise of the traffic whizzing past us; I > heard her say, ""How can they...!"" and ""I've never seen...!"" I smiled to > myself, making a mental note that she and I should do the exact same thing > once we returned to the hotel. +In the first example, the main character is clearly assuming to know what Amanda thinks when she sees the exhibitionists, but in the second example, the main character at least has her gasp and her mutterings as guides to what she is thinking upon seeing the exhibitionists. +This potential first-person pitfall is critical to keep in mind when creating a convincing sex scene, and a convincing story overall. For the reader who simply wants a short wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am tale, a first-person ""assumption"" such as in Example 1 is not likely to be an issue, but for many readers, even if they do not immediately recognize exactly what is amiss, they will simply feel that Example 1 is somehow flawed, and that may be enough to turn off those readers. +...and ultimately, a reader should not be turned off by erotica, right? +Hopefully these concepts can provide the beginning erotica writer with things to consider when crafting a sex scene. Of course, there is no ""right"" way to write a sex scene, and not all of the topics addressed here will be valid in every such scene. Still, after more than seven years of writing erotica, these are the issues I consider as I write, and I believe that over time, they have helped me in creating better sex scenes... and better erotica overall. " +941,Writing Smut for Profit,MorganHawke,How To,2003-11-22,2003-11-22,2022-01-04 08:43:05,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-smut-for-profit,It's not just an adventure - it's a job.,"['Adult Industry', 'Adult Magazine', 'Anne Rice', 'Creative Writing', 'Great Work', 'Make Fortune', 'Publishing House', 'Sex Stories', 'Support Staff', 'Writing Sex']",4.61,"**Writing Smut for Profit: It's Not just an Adventure - It's a Job.** +Whoever told you that writing fiction for adult industry publication - for money - is supposed to be Artistic, Fun, or Easy -- LIED. +Writing may look artistic, and creative writing certainly is artistic (that's why they call it Creative Writing,) but writing for a living - writing for publication in the adult industry with the intent to get paid on a regular basis - is NOT artistic - it's NOT always fun and it certainly is NOT easy. +Writing for publication in the adult industry is WORK. Sure, some of it is fun, but the bulk of it is mind-bending, eye-straining work. Don't get me wrong, creativity is part of the job of writing for a living... But if you think us professional writers turn on ""the Creative Muse"" at 8 AM and shut her back off again at 5:30 PM then you are missing the point entirely. + **~ The Road to publication in the adult industry is paved with glamorous Half-Truths. ~** + **Half-Truth** : ""If you write it - it will Sell."" + **Whole truth** :""If you write it, and we are already looking for it - we'll Buy it."" +If you have written a spectacular BDSM story and the Publisher is looking for a Lesbian story, they will pass over your wonderful BDSM for a Lesbian one with only half the quality of your BDSM, because Lesbian is what they have an opening for - not BDSM. +And when they hang onto your stuff for months - or even years - at a time? Think of it this way: They're probably waiting for an opening that they have the perfect story for. + **Half-Truth** : ""Once you're in with a good Adult Novel or Magazine publisher - you're in for life!"" + **Whole truth** :""Once you're in with a good Adult Magazine publisher - you have only One Month to prove that you can Write On Demand."" / ""Once you're in with a good Adult Book publisher - you have only One Year to prove that you can Write On Demand."" +While your name is still sitting on the `net (or the shelf,)- you have until the next publishing cycle to punch out another story equally as good. (One month for your average magazine and one year for a novel.) Only this time, the publisher is going to tell you what they want: ""Gimme the same story, different characters, same plot arc but move some stuff around - oh and this time, don't have them do this, the readers don't like it, have them do that instead."" (Sigh.) +Look at it this way: You don't have to guess what the publisher wants this time around. + **Half-Truth** : ""Once I'm in with a good publisher - I can write whatever I want..."" + **Whole truth** :""If you want to stay with that good publisher you better write, what they want, when they want it, in the way they want it."" +You're going to tell the publisher that you will only write what YOU want to write? Do you really think any publishing house is going to hire a writer that won't do what they want them to do? Unless you are Susie Bright or Anne Rice: ""Game-Over, man. Game-Over."" +Time to go back to your desk, find a new pen name, punch out yet another novel - and go through the whole damn thing all over again to find another publisher. Only this time your new publishing house will call your old publishing house and ask what the problem was. Why aren't you with Them anymore? +Let me repeat myself: Do you really think a publishing house is going to hire a writer that won't write what they want them to write? +You want to make money? Then you knuckle under and Work your butt off to deliver what the adult publisher is asking for. +Writing for a living is about sitting at a desk, in an office, every day and WRITING whether or not you `feel like it'. Does this make you less artistic? Does this mean that you are not being creative? Does this make you a hack writer? +Forget all that stuff - it makes you EMPLOYED. +What else would you call it? Authors telecommute their work - and progress - to their editors and get paid for it. The faster they write the faster they're paid. The better they conform to the publishing house's demands, the better they are paid. End story. +Writing is NOT about creativity. It's about Money. A publisher is in the business of selling Books or Magazines - not displaying Art or promoting Literature. They are looking for what THEY want, WHEN they want it in the WAY they want it. Period. If you can sneak interesting, different and Creative writing in between their formulaic demands GREAT! They Love that! But in the mean time - the rest of your work had better conform to what they want. +What if the Muse strikes and you get a terrific idea? Great! Write it between assignments and make the publisher PAY through the Nose to get it. + **Half-Truth** : ""I can make a fortune writing Sex stories..."" + **Whole truth** :""You can make a fortune writing sex stories - if you sell it to a top publishing house, and it ends up on the New York Times Bestseller list - in one of the top 5 positions."" +Erotica is currently making a huge sweep in the eBook market. Authors for ePublishing Houses like New Concepts Publishing, Amber Quill, ExtasyBooks and Ellora's Cave are making rather tidy - and regular - royalties on their erotica novels, but not a fortune. +The Sex-story or Porn Letter on the other hand, is much faster and far easier to crank out at volume. It's also steadier work than erotica and it pays better per word count. ($25.00 to $150.00 per letter at 15,000 words max.) +What? Did you think adult magazine Letters were written by Amateurs? Hell no! Those are professional writers. Trust me, A magazine editor will accept and pay more for a letter written by a professional writer than anything written by an amateur. In addition: the more expensive the magazine, the more they'll (probably) pay their writers. +Note: The writing standards for Erotica Markets are higher than those asking for: Sex Stories. Translation: To write erotica, you have to use basic grammar, characterizations and a PLOT. +Does all this full-time writing sounds like too much work? Ask yourself a very important question: + **~ What is more crucial to your personal writing happiness? ~** +Your Artistic Endeavors? +\- Then you are a ""Recreational writer""; someone who writes for the sheer pleasure of doing something creative. You are an Artist. Your future consists of publishing one 'great work', with the possibility of publishing another 'great work' a few years (or more) later on down the road - and never with the same publishing house. +Money? +\- You are a ""Mercenary writer"" who will pump out what ever is asked for in a timely professional manner. You have all the traits of a professional Ghostwriter. Most ghostwriters make better money than most authors - because their books sell off the shelves every time. They're writing under someone else's already established and popular name. +What? Did you really think those big-time authors that wrote 3-5 books a year, wrote them All By Themselves??? HELL NO! They have a staff and / or ghostwriters to support them - and that staff gets paid - and paid well. +Making Money - under Your Own Name? +\- That makes you an ""aspiring Author"". Then you certainly have your work cut out for you. This is what Anne Rice writing Adult fiction under the name: AN Roquelaure, and horror author Steven King have done. They worked their butts off writing for their publishers pumping out work after work, after work - all by themselves with no support, until they made a name big enough to dictate their demands to their publishers. And since they don't have a support staff - they don't have to share their profits either. + **~ How do I know all this? ~** +I actually write for a living. I was Associate editor of an adult entertainment magazine. This is where I learned all about writing articles on demand. Somebody had to write all that filler text - and make it interesting. +Currently I am the copywriter / publicist for one of the largest Internet corporations in the Adult Industry. I write what I'm told to write, when I'm told to write it about things that I'm told to write about, because I'm being paid to do just that. +I'm a Mercenary. + **~ Advice to the Burgeoning Writer ~** +Write every spare moment you have and FINISH your story. +Always have at least two people read your stuff and check it for: +\- Readability: Can you tell exactly what's happening to who? And How? +\- Story-Drag: Is it Boring? Did your reader skim over any of your paragraphs to ""Get to the Good Stuff""? +\- Effectiveness: Does it get you hot? +Have at least two more people check your grammar and your sentence structure. +Read the Submission Guidelines carefully. Send the editors `exactly' what they are looking for. `Close' is not good enough. If they are looking for `Romantica' then your story had better be sexually explicit and involve a couple falling in love. You have to have both the sex and the Romance to interest a `Romantica' publisher. +Be willing to work with the editors on requested changes. Many editors try to be gentle with their comments to new authors and have been known to understate what they mean. That does not make their comment random or invalid! If an editor goes to the trouble of noting something about your story, take it very seriously. Remember - you are Writing to Sell and Publication Editors are looking for authors to fill their readers requests. They are there to make their publishing house look good by making YOU look good. +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ + _Ms. Hawke has been a professional writer since May 2001 writing and publishing numerous, Adult Industry related articles for her company. Ms. Hawke is also an published author of (recreational) fiction since 1980, and an Erotica author since 1996. She has two book published._" +942,Writing With Your Audience In Mind,Chicago Bob,How To,2002-09-21,2002-09-21,2022-01-04 08:43:06,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-with-your-audience-in-mind,Help your audience relate to your characters.,"['Boyish Hips', 'Good Writing', 'Hung Middle', 'Liz Jill', 'Mental Picture', 'Pam Joie', 'Past Tense', 'Remember Writing', 'World Class', 'Writing Erotica']",4.55,"Hello, +I have been reading stories posted to this site for about a year. I must admit, I found the range of subjects fascinating, and the range of quality astounding. +Some of the authors who post here are excellent writers with vivid imaginations and superior skills. Others are not quite as good, but who, with a little patience and a great deal of editing, could become much better. +There is good information and advice about writing already available on this site, and I would like, hopefully, to add to that body of work. +Before I go any further let me refer you to the 'Writer's Resources' section of the site and recommend that you familiarize yourself with this valuable resource. +If you are truly desirous of improving your skills, I seriously recommend a good book on basic grammar. Your bookseller can direct you. Buy one, read it cover to cover, and refer to it often. The advice regarding English grammar available on this site is conflicting, and sometimes incorrect. Therefore, you would be well served to research this subject independently. +You can use incorrect grammar in your dialogue because your characters may be poor grammarians, with good plot related reasons. Your narrative sections, however, are written as your voice. Poor grammar shouts 'poor writer.' Good writing demands good grammar. +******** +What follows now are my personal thoughts about writing erotica and how I approach the subject when I write a story. +Writing erotica is a little different than writing for other genres. An erotic story focuses on intimate, personal interactions between people. I believe that what makes a story erotic is not the descriptions of characters having sex, but the reader's ability to relate to the characters, as if s/he were part of the story and therefore part of the action. +For me, the best way to accomplish this is to develop realistic, interesting characters. I try to do this through description and dialogue, mostly dialogue. I also go to great lengths to make my writing readable. By readable I mean a natural flow with short paragraphs and easily identified dialogue from my characters. +Realistic characters are easy to create. They are all around you. They may even be you. The trick is to give enough information about your characters so your readers can form a mental picture of the person you are writing about without overloading your story with excessive details. +A brief description is better than a detailed one. Your readers will automatically fill in the details from their own experiences. Just give them the basics and they will create a mental picture of the person they want to 'see.' +For example, here is the description I wrote for the title character of the 'Amanda' series: +""She was wearing a white T-shirt, baby blue shorts, and white sneakers with those short quarter socks. Hers had a blue trim that matched her shorts. From behind, she looked very athletic. Her long blond hair was tied in a ponytail that hung to the middle of her back. She had a slender waist, narrow, almost boyish hips, and a world class tush. Her legs were long and well muscled."" +If you remove the description of the clothing, all that is left is: +""…she looked very athletic. Her long blond hair was tied in a ponytail that hung to the middle of her back. She had a slender waist, narrow, almost boyish hips, and a world class tush. Her legs were long and well muscled."" +A bit later in the story I add: +""She was cute, with a kind of perky look. Maybe it was the blonde bangs, maybe it was the warm, friendly smile, or her clear, healthy complexion."" +The actual description adds to only five lines, but every reader has a mental picture of a cute, athletic girl with bangs, and that image becomes the character for them. Now when they think of Amanda, they are thinking of someone they know, or may want to know, and they relate more closely to both the character and the story. +If you read my stories you will notice I hardly ever describe the male character, the storyteller. I do this so the reader can substitute any male image they want. If a man is reading the story, he can cast himself as the main character. If a woman is the reader, she can choose her own special guy to play the role. Either way, the reader can more easily identify with the characters. +Dialogue is the most important part of character development, at least in my opinion. What your characters say can provide a great deal of information about them. +An example from 'Amanda:' +""At a break in the discussion I said, ""I get the feeling you're not a high- school drop-out."" +""Not high-school, not college, not medical school, not three years of internship, not two years of additional training in internal medicine."" +Just like that, you know she is a physician specializing in internal medicine, and she is not afraid to let you know it. In fact, you can tell she is proud of her accomplishments, and of herself. +Now, I want to discuss 'realistic.' (I know that Wm_Sexspear © recommends against starting a sentence with 'now,' but sometimes I think it is appropriate.) +If you want your readers to identify with your characters, your characters must be realistic, everyday people. Resist the urge to create supermen and superwomen, unless it is really necessary for the plot line of your story. Guys with fifteen-inch cocks are few and far between, and ejaculating women do not exist. Try to stay within the bounds of reason. For that matter, what difference does it make to know the size of a guy's penis? Size is not nearly as important as what he does with it. +Sure you can embellish a little, we all do it. Just try to stay on this side of the realism line. Again, your readers want to be able to identify with your characters, so create realistic characters. +What about the tense you use for your story? I use the past tense, with an occasional aside in the present tense, like when I described the Signature Room in 'Amanda.' +I recommend you use the past tense. You are telling a story about something that happened, not dictating events as you are experiencing them. The past tense is more common for story telling and your readers are more accustomed to it. Why break with literary tradition? +When you have multiple characters in your story, remember that the last mentioned character is doing the present action. An example from 'Thank You Sis' may help explain this. +""With that Liz and Jill jumped up and there were more hug all around and then Pam and Joie left. They said they understood when I didn't offer to walk them to their cars."" +Liz, Jill, Pam, and Joie are all mentioned, but it is Pam and Joie who are the subject of 'They' in the second sentence. Pam and Joie were the last names mentioned. +This is very important to remember when you are writing a scene with more than two characters. If you do not make the proper references, your readers will become confused and will have to stop and reread your words. This creates a break in the flow, and frustrates your audience. You may have to rewrite sections like these a few times to be sure you will be understood. +When to use contractions is another touchy area. Personally, I think contractions are never allowed in good writing, except in quoted dialogue. People use contractions when they speak, so it makes sense to use contractions when quoting them. However, virtually all good writers avoid contractions in the narrative parts of their work. +Finally, about paragraphs. A paragraph should contain only one subject, and for stories intended to be read for entertainment, they should be short! +Also, dialogue starts a paragraph. Every time! When a character talks, start a new paragraph. When another character answers, start a new paragraph. Please. +If a character is giving a long monologue, start a new paragraph every time there is a change of subject. For example: +""I want to tell you about John. He's the biggest guy I ever saw. +""Oh yeah. What do you think about those articles in the paper yesterday?"" +One speaker, two subjects, two paragraphs. Also notice the quotation mark is missing from the end of the first paragraph. If it is the same person speaking, just use quotation marks at the beginning of each paragraph until their dialogue ends. That way, your readers will know it is the same speaker. +Always remember that writing for someone is not the same as speaking with them. When we are face to face, or even on the telephone, we have voice tone, and/or facial expressions, plus the chance to ask for more information, or even explanations. When we write, our readers have only our words on the paper or the screen. If those words do not accurately convey our thoughts, there is no way for our readers to ask for clarification, and our message is lost. +Writing is the art of converting to print what is in our minds, such that a reader will be able to recreate our mental images. This is not easy to do. To do it well takes careful thinking, careful editing, and careful proof reading. +I wish you good writing, high votes, and positive feedback. +Regards, Chicago Bob" +943,The Year of the Rabbit,sophia jane,How To,2006-01-19,2006-01-19,2022-01-04 08:40:38,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/the-year-of-the-rabbit,Getting creative with your rabbit vibe.,"['Clothespin', 'Masturbation', 'Rabbit', 'Toys']",4.25,"Shortly after I separated from my husband, I decided to invest in a Rabbit. After all, I had heard amazing things about them, stories about women having the best orgasms of their life within minutes of pulling their rabbit from its box. Sex and the City even did a show about a rabbit. +I shopped around on the internet and finally settled on a model I could afford. Needless to say, I was anxious to try it out. I've been masturbating for years, but my experience with toys had been limited by budget and an ex who just wasn't all that into toy play. So while it only took a few days for my package to arrive, I had already been waiting for years to try it out! When it arrived, I greedily opened the box, put the batteries in the remote control, stripped off my clothes, and set to work. I wasn't too impressed with the spinning action of the base, so I left that off and focused instead on varying the speed of the rabbit ears, while I slowly pushed the rabbit in and out of my pussy. And I waited. And I waited. And eventually I had an orgasm, but it wasn't all that impressive. In fact, I was completely disappointed in it. What had happened to the mind-blowing orgasm that I was supposed to have? Several times I tried again, always with the same results- a small orgasm, but nothing to write home about. In fact, my hand gave me better orgasms, and I began to wonder if spending the money on a toy had been a total waste. I stopped using it altogether for a few weeks, until I decided I better find out which of us was defective- me or the toy. +After some online research, which included a thread I started on the literotica forum where I got a lot of great advice and encouragement, and a little bit of fantasizing, I decided to give the rabbit another try. This time I got creative, varying the speeds on both controls and changing the angle and pressure against my clitoris. Finally I rolled onto my stomach and very carefully (it's hard to push a vibe in and out when you're laying on your arm, not to mention that laying on top of a toy doesn't give it a lot of room to move) continued to fuck myself with my rabbit. I had a huge orgasm (it took several minutes to recover!), and I finally felt like my investment was worth it. +I've since gotten even more creative with my rabbit. I'm a nipple clamps kind of girl, and have discovered that I also like a little clamp action on my labia. The slight pain is more than worth the orgasm. One day I decided to use my rabbit while my labia were clamped together with a clothespin, and WOW, let me tell you, I haven't been the same since. The feeling of those little rabbit ears vibrating against the clothespin was so incredibly intense that I couldn't orgasm, and I honestly didn't want to- I didn't want it to stop. I had never thought I could get so much pleasure that orgasm would be impossible, and it was a discovery I was very glad to make! Once I removed the clothespin, the rush of blood back into my labia, combined with the vibrations of the ears, sent me into a huge climax. My body literally bucked off the bed several times, something that had never happened to me during masturbation. I've used the rabbit this way several times since, and it is now one of my favorite toys. +I'm still not a big fan of the spinning action of the dildo part of the rabbit. In fact, I can't really figure out what the point of it is. A cock doesn't spin, so it seems kind of silly for a dildo to. But regardless, I enjoy those little rabbit ears immensely, and I still occasionally turn on the spin, just to see if maybe this time I'll enjoy it. +So my advice to toy users, something I wish I had been told before I first started playing: don't expect miracles the first time you play with a toy. It takes time to get used to a toy, just like it takes time to get used to a new partner. Another piece of advice: don't get in the mindset that there's only one right way to play. We're all different and no one toy is going to satisfy every person in the same way. Instead, get creative. Get kinky. Use your imagination, and your toys, in new ways. Eventually you'll find one (or more) that rocks your world." +944,You CAN Teach Old Dogs New Tricks,Hikergirl,How To,2007-05-05,2007-05-05,2022-01-04 08:43:07,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/you-can-teach-old-dogs-new-tricks,How to keep (or increase) spice in a long-term relationship.,"['Communication', 'Marriage Advice', 'Relationship Advice', 'Relationship Help', 'Self-Help', 'Sex Advice']",4.47,"**How to Keep (or Increase) the Spice in a Long-term Relationship** +""What part of another male's anatomy do you find most sexually attractive, and why?"" I innocently ask my husband as we drive own the country road. +""WWHHAAAAT?"" he responds, instantly flustered. ""What kind of question is that? I'm not attracted to guys!"" +I laugh, because my husband has always strenuously denied any bisexual interests. I wave the card at him, ""That's what it says. Either answer the question or use your PASS."" I encourage him further. ""Come on; don't tell me you've never looked at another guy's body."" +""Hmmppff. Not fair."" He thinks a moment. ""OK, I guess I'd have to say well- defined legs; you know - strong calves and thighs."" +""Why?"" I prompt for more. +""Because I respect someone who takes the time to keep fit and a guy with legs like that obviously does"" he says defensively. +""Hmmm. Pretty lame answer, but I guess it will do"" I say grudgingly, realizing I'm not likely to get any more out of him on this one. +""OK, your turn. What part of another female's anatomy do you find most sexually attractive, and why?"" he turns the question back at me. +""That's easy! Breasts...and especially nipples."" +He raises his eyebrows with a grin, but keeps his eyes on the road. ""Oh really? And why is that?"" +""They look so soft...so sensuous. I'd love to be able to reach out and stroke one...to feel the weight in my palm. Or to kiss one and feel the nipple harden under my lips."" I squirm a bit in my seat at the image I've painted myself, and I feel the seatbelt press between my breasts. ""You guys get all the fun that way."" +""Well they ARE fun to play with, I'll admit"" my husband responds. ""But the fun isn't just restricted to us guys, you know."" +""What do you mean?"" I ask, knowing full well what he means but wanting to hear him say it. +""Come on. Haven't you ever thought of being with another woman?"" he grins. ""I know I've thought about you with another woman...that would be so hot to watch."" +""Oh no you don't! That's another question...and it's not on the card."" I refuse to answer, but squirm a bit more as I imagine what he's thinking about. +My husband lets out a deep fake sigh of exasperation; while I consult the map, and point out that we have to turn right at the next gravel road. +I pull another card from the deck. ""OK. Describe an actual experience or fantasy about outdoor sex."" +* * * * * +And so goes our game of learning more about each other, what turns each other on, and how to please each other. But first, a bit of background. +My husband and I have been together for 26 years this month, since I was eighteen years old. I'd had no previous sexual experience when we met at university, and his was very limited, so pretty much everything we learned about sex, we learned together over the years. We have both always had healthy sex drives and were eager to please each other, but like most other couples, our sex lives would wax and wane with the realities of adult life: jobs, shift work (ugggh!), mortgages, kids, house maintenance, volunteer work...you get the picture. +After 23 years, our sex life was still better than most of the people that we knew; we could still turn each other on and have long enthusiastic romps in bed, but it was also fairly predictable. Shift work schedules, school schedules, and teenagers who never seemed to sleep when we wanted privacy, meant that even sex sort of became scheduled' it was definitely less spontaneous and imaginative. +When the kids were finally old enough to be left alone, we decided it was time for an ""us"" weekend. Looking back, we probably should have started these earlier in our marriage, but it always seemed too difficult or too expensive. Now we realize how valuable these weekends are -- they are truly an investment in our relationship. But I digress. +I did some research and found a secluded cabin in the middle of rolling farmland, far away from anything or anybody. In the weeks leading up to this getaway, we both did some scheming and planning, intending to make the most of our private time away. I was perusing our favorite online sex shop for ideas, when I saw a deck of cards meant to provoke erotic discussions, and on impulse, I ordered it. +When the cards first arrived, I was kind of disappointed, thinking I didn't get much for my $22. The cards were obviously homemade, printed on an inkjet printer on beige card stock, with a tacky pair of red lips on one side and a question printed on the other. The questions ranged from fairly innocent to graphically explicit. There were about 60 cards in the deck, and the rules were simple. Draw a card from the deck, and both of you have to answer the same question. If you are worried that one of you might get too uncomfortable, you can issue one or more free ""PASSES"" per game. +Feeling a bit ripped off, I thought ""what the heck"" and threw them in my purse, intending to tell my husband about my foolish purchase on our drive to the cabin. Well, as you may have guessed by now, they were well worth the money. They prompted open, honest communication that has turned up the heat on an already great sex life. +* * * * * +And that is the point of this ""How To"" article....TALK to your partner about your sex life! +Cards like the ones I bought are a great way to get the discussion going. I'd love to be able to point you to the set I bought, but the shop that I bought them from no longer seems to carry them. But you could always make up your own. If you do so, both of you should come up with questions, and remember, you BOTH have to answer each question. Better yet, get some friends to contribute questions (maybe even anonymously), because they may think of things you wouldn't have thought of, or are too shy to bring up with your partner. +Ideally, the questions should push your boundaries a bit, but remember there is no right or wrong answers, and you should never pressure your partner into accepting your view. Feel free to disagree, but do so in a way that is not judgmental. +Here are some of the questions that I remember: +• Describe your earliest sexual thought. +• What do you think about when you masturbate? +• Describe your wildest sexual experience or fantasy. +• What is one thing that a person can do that really flips your switch, that turns you on instantly? +• Do you enjoy watching porn, and if so, what types and why? +• Describe a sexual situation where you felt you were giving up control. What did you enjoy or dislike about it? +• Describe an experience or fantasy involving someone of the same sex. +• Have you ever had, or wanted to have, sex in your workplace (or airplane, or park, etc.) +• What do you think is your sexiest asset, and why? +• Does it excite you to watch your partner masturbate, or to have your partner watch you? Why or why not? +• Describe an experience or fantasy involving more than one other person. +• Which part of your body is most easily aroused? How do you like to be touched? +• Describe what feels best when you receive oral sex. +If you or your partner aren't used to discussing such things so openly, set up a non-threatening environment. Maybe have a glass of wine to relax, or take the cards out while you are walking in the woods. We find the car on the way to our getaway place ideal because we are already in the right frame of mind, and we aren't looking eye-to-eye. Somehow, that makes things easier when questions stray into new territory, but you can also miss the arousal in your partner's eyes this way. +Not only will these discussions help you learn about your partner, I'm willing to bet that the discussions themselves will be highly arousing. I know by the time we reach our destination, we're both ready to bolt from the car and into the bedroom...or the kitchen...or the barn...you get the picture. +And once you become more accustomed to sharing these thoughts, you'll find them easier to share on a more spontaneous basis. Wouldn't you love it if your partner came up behind you while you're making dinner and whispered in your ear ""I was thinking about bending you over my desk and taking you from behind while I was at work today""? I know it would make me shiver! +* * * * * + _Hmmm...six weeks until our next trip to the cabin. Now where did I put those cards?_" +945,You Oughta be in Pictures,Badlands1,How To,2020-10-19,2020-10-19,2022-01-04 08:43:08,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/you-oughta-be-in-pictures,"A picture is worth 5,000 lays.","['How-To', 'Hugh Mungus', 'Humor', 'Photographs', 'Photos', 'Pics', 'Satire', 'Swinger', 'Swingers', 'Swinging']",1.76,"During my initial forays into the swinging arena, the Internet wasn't even a whisper on the lips of the public. Digital cameras? The only things digital in that archaic Stone Age were alarm clocks, and microwave oven displays. +We're talkin' VCRs, and cassette tapes. Ozzy was still perceived as some dove- devouring, Satanic psychopath, as opposed to the pablum-eating shell of a marketing ploy he's become. +Even in those prehistoric times, it behooved a single, swingin' dude to possess what would be the equivalent of a head shot for an actor. +Polaroids, man! In the early '90s, they were imperative. Back then, you got 10 shots for 10 bucks. Hence, takin' a decent picture of your huevos and all-beef sausage was an expensive endeavor, financially magnified when heroically attempted alone. +Slick, glossy-paged copies of Hustler in your left hand, a one-shot camera — coated in baby oil — in your right, it was damned near impossible to capture your special purpose in frame. Still, one had to try. How else were you gonna answer ads in local swing rags, without a pic to verify your assertions? +Keep in mind, a guy was workin' with completely different photos for each response, since making duplicates of Polaroids was as easy as running a two minute mile, underwater. I'm certain you can see how costly this endeavor was for somebody like myself, who is the antithesis of Ansel Adams. +Combine all this with the fact you were responding via snail mail, and things became even more complex. When you consider the time it took for those who placed the ad to answer your reply, you may be looking at weeks in the waiting. +Of course, one also ran the risk of flakes, and no shows. There were instances in which I shelled out 40 bucks in Polaroids, six greenbacks in lubricant, and a few dollars in mailing fees, only to discover the couple in question were filing for divorce. +Thankfully, most of this is behind the single swinger. The annulment drama is ubiquitous, but through the advent of the Internet, you can now instantly send a two-dimensional image of your dong, anywhere on Earth. +Take advantage of this exponential improvement in technology. Obtain some shots of your prized possession, so you can text or E-mail them to prospective sexual partners. Such a weapon in one's arsenal is essential in a swinging environment. +Keep the following tips in mind: +Since computer monitors only read images at 72 dots per inch, and pics need not be high resolution, to be viewable on cells, it isn't necessary to invest in an expensive digital camera. Grab a shit 16 megapixel point-and-shoot for 40 bucks, and fire away! +Better yet, just take the photos with your cell phone. +The recipients of your magnum opuses couldn't give two oily farts about composition, nor three-point lighting. Still, should you have a copy of Photoshop layin' around — don't go out and buy one, because it's more expensive than a DUI — study a handful of free tutorials on YouTube. +If you become proficient enough with said program, you can improve the quality of your photos: remove blemishes, lighten areas that aren't as visible as you'd like, etc. +Some folks may even go so far as to erase unwanted pounds, or add bogus length. This risks misrepresentation. +Even if, via Photoshop — or some app on your phone — you engage in a rapid weight loss program, and transform yourself into Long Dong Silver, you're eventually gonna have to strip down in front of your potential sex partners. +Showing up with a two inch gherkin, dwarfed between thighs possessing more cottage cheese than a dairy processing plant — after you've described yourself as ""fit and hung"" — isn't going to get you laid. +If you've got an erection that curves downward, photograph it from above. It'll make your fun factory look larger. If you've got an upward-curving dong, shoot your pornographic pictures from below. +Close-up shots can be advantageous, as they fill your recipient's computer monitor, so that nothing else seems to matter. +Such stated, numerous swingers on the Web will ask for full body shots. As such, have those at the ready, as well. +Experiment with various angles. +By following these suggestions, you can make seven inches look like eight, eight like nine, nine like 10, and so on. +When it comes to nude photographs, regard 'em the way some cretinous corporate cocksucker would a business card. +In modern society, public nudity is frowned upon. Ironically, your greatest physical attributes may get you arrested, should you openly exhibit them. Relax. Help has arrived. Photos are your saving grace. +The following are examples of how nude pictures not only assisted in my quest for sex, but made coitus possible. +During a stint in a dilapidated Arizona apartment complex, I propositioned a lovely, Mexican senorita residing next door. Although I only spoke enough Spanish to receive a severe ass kicking, I was able to communicate my necessity for nude photographs, to further my lucrative ""modeling"" career. +I didn't lie, when it came to said ""vocation."" I actually did build plastic planes, as a hobby. And since these replicas are referred to as models, I technically engaged in modeling. +That said — at 5' 6"" — folks would probably assume if I myself was a model, it had to be for hands or feet. Not quite as scarred and ugly as the soul of a banker, I wasn't gettin' laid, due to my face. +The next thing you know, I'm naked in front of my neighbor, and harder than mating an elephant with a flea. All this for the admission fee of two packs of Polaroid film, and a $3 bottle of baby oil. +""You're in,"" Vegas Vic asserted, via text. +""What?! I thought she wanted guys 25 and under,"" I replied to the communique from Las Vegas' premiere group sex Organ-Izer. +""She does, but I showed her your cock pic."" +""And?"" came my rejoinder. I was another Sin City swinger. That said, I sought sex with a twist: 5,000 women, before I bought a ticket to visit Carlin, Hicks, and Lenny Bruce. +""And now she wants guys 25 and under, as well as you,"" came his reply. +FAST FORWARD TO: +""Am I—?! Am I squirting?!?"" the beleaguered babe flailed atop what had been a pristine, Strip hotel comforter, at the outset of the evening. +Rather than typing ""LOL"" into our phones, all four nude males in attendance — including Vegas Vic and me — actually laughed out loud. Senorita sperm spraying may balls, cock and chest, I eagerly scraped the woman's labia with my goo gun. +""Holy shit! I am squirting, aren't I—?!? +Two more towering orgasms erupted from the tourist's cunt, as she arched her back, and ground her teeth to the verge of chipping. +Gasping, she returned to the planet's surface, exclaiming, ""I— I've been trying to do that for the last two years, and nothing! How'd you—?!? +Soaked in her semen, I stood back and smiled — the way Peter Joseph probably did, upon completing Zeitgeist. I'd done superlative work, which wouldn't have been possible, if it hadn't been for a simple photograph. +""Querido Dios!"" the housekeeper raced from the room I'd rented at the Los Angeles Motel Sex. Her eyes aflame, she feared she'd be cast into Hell, for what she'd seen beyond the cracked door. +It was within these caliginous confines I lay nude, oiled, and stroking, atop the bed. +Misfire. +I'd been waiting for the intended targets — who showed up moments later, laughing about the maid they saw racing from my accommodations, genuflecting in fright. +""What the hell did you do to that wom—?! Oh, my God! That's a huge cock!"" the taller of the six-foot plus BBWs squeaked, as she and her friend entered the sticky surroundings. +""Jesus!"" her compatriot reiterated, making for the mattress, and gripping my gibbous groin. ""Mmm..."" the shorter lass purred, commandeering my stroking duties. +""Goddamn,"" the first female sidled up against my leg, manually polishing my three piece set. +A buzz harder than that possible at a 15-for-one happy hour shook the dresser beside the flea-infested mattress. +I glanced at my pager — which was doing its best Mexican jumping bean impression — vibrating off a nightstand with bullet holes in it. +Yeah, this was an era prior cell phones, when pagers reigned supreme. +An urgent message from ""work."" An urgent message I ignored, as the twin BBWs massaged my manhood. +The faceplate — digital, but just barely, during that epoch — read: 5:34. By the time my captors — a shitty Cuban nightclub in Hollywood — sent me their follow-up ""emergency"" plea, we were lookin' at: 5:48. +At that point, I was fucking the taller of the women — Butterfly style — atop the adjacent bed, while her friend was on calcified knees, behind me, buffing my balls. +""All this, thanks to photographs!"" the tour guide at the Eastman Kodak facility — in Rochester, New York — bellowed forth. Pointing to the enormous flat screen, upon which my scrawny ass pumped away, the man turned and smiled. +In response, a throng of tourists gazed in horror — many projectile vomiting — as they watched the documentary. A documentary delineating the history of the camera. A documentary featuring me pumping away in the aforementioned threesome. +After all, if I hadn't sent the two lusty lasses — with whom I played that day — Polaroids of my grundle bundle, we would've never met. +The power of the picture. Make use of it. +— authored by Hugh Mungus" +946,You Should Try A Cock Ring,Sensual_Caveman,How To,2003-06-25,2003-06-25,2022-01-04 08:43:08,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/you-should-try-a-cock-ring,How to use a Cock Ring and why you should.,"['Back Body', 'Cock', 'Cock Ring', 'Flow Blood', 'Ring', 'Ring Cock']",4.29,"What if I told you I had an item that could make your erection harder, make your sexual sessions last longer, make sex feel better for both you and your partner (male or female) and would only cost you about $10 to $25 one time? Would you believe me? You should because it’s true. Let me tell you about the joys of a simple device, the Cock Ring. +My adventures with this wonderful toy started with a simple gesture by my girlfriend. She wears about 12 industrial rubber belts around her wrist as bracelets. She gave me one of them as a kind of remember-me-by item for when we were apart. One day I was thinking about her, and the last time we were together, and the amazing sex we had, and I began to masturbate. I had the bracelet on and my mind recollected an article I had read about cock rings and how they worked. I took the bracelet from my wrist and stretched it over the top of my erect penis, and under my testicles. It felt interesting to have my balls lifted forward like that, but it was not tight enough to restrict the flow of blood back into the body, as a cock ring should. I put one finger under the band at the side of my balls and twisted it around once to tighten it. I felt my cock grow harder, the head swelled, and the veins on the sides stood out and became really sensitive. It felt amazing! I used a lubricant and masturbated. Usually using a lube I don’t last long by myself, normally coming in about 3 to 5 minutes. This lasted for 15 minutes and it was intense. When I did finally come it was a bed shaking, moaning, shoot-the-wall-behind-me orgasm. It was the first masturbatory orgasm I have ever had that I had to recover from before being able to just get up and do the next thing. +I went out and bought a commercial cock ring the same day, a simple ½” wide 12” long piece of surgical tubing with a plastic tension bead keeping it in an adjustable loop. I tried it again by myself and it worked even better since I did not have to keep my free hand there to keep the tension up. I loved it and was able to keep it tighter longer than with the bracelet. +The next time I saw my lovely girlfriend I had the smile of a man with a devious plot on my face. She was giddy with excitement when I sat her on the bed and put a blindfold on her (another toy I highly recommend). I put on the ring and waited a few seconds for it to take full effect, and then I put the head of my cock to her lips. She usually likes to suck my dick with a certain enthusiasm, but this time she felt the head swollen and the veins popping and she was overcome with lust. She sucked me like a starving woman devours a doughnut. She took off the blindfold, looked at my throbbing member and without a word put a condom on me, lies back, and spread her legs wide. We are usually sensitive and caring lovers, but that night the sex was animalistic. She was able to come from penetration, which is unusual for her, and it lasted a good long time before I came. When I did come it exploded out of me. She said she could feel every contour of my penis and when I came she felt me pulse and swell more than usual. That last feeling of me swelling is what made her come. +The way the cock ring works is by restricting the flow of blood from the penis back into the body. Blood flows into the penis through the center of the shaft, but flows back through the outer veins. By tightly restricting the outside you let blood in but not out, and your cock gets really hard and textured. It also makes the nerves more sensitive. +There are a few varieties of rings to consider. I recommend the basic one loop adjustable type as they work well, are easily adjusted and removed, and are practically impossible to get stuck in. Some are still rubbery but are a one- piece loop that is not adjustable. These can work if the size is right, but may not fit correctly. There are also some varieties that are made of hard plastic or metal and are not adjustable. I do not recommend these as it is very easy to get them stuck and not be able to remove them. Metal ones that get stuck routinely end up getting cut off in emergency rooms accompanied by much laughter by the staff and humiliation by the patient. Stay with adjustable ones for your safety and sanity. Lastly there are varieties which have multiple loops to secure your cock, spread or stretch your scrotum downward, constrict the base of the penis and around the cock and balls together. I have yet to try them, but experiment and see what you like. +Sex is wonderful and should be good even without all the bells and whistles, but if you’d like to try something fun and inexpensive to spice things up, give a cock ring a try." +947,You Want Oral? Here's How,BBWmomma,How To,2011-05-16,2011-05-16,2022-01-04 08:43:09,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/you-want-oral-heres-how,One woman's guide on eating pussy to get a BJ,"['Cunnilingus', 'Licking', 'Munching', 'Oral Sex', 'Pussy']",4.42,"The best oral sex I've ever had went something like this: +1\. Set the mood. Candles, music, clean bedding, fluffy pillows, maybe some restraints (if you're into that kind of stuff), and make sure you're both clean and ready for fun. +2\. Start out slow. There should be no rush. Take your time touching each other, running your hands up and down bodies (torsos, arms, legs, face, through the hair, avoid errogenous zones for now and build the tension elsewhere). Make good use of your mouths- wet open kisses, caressing tongues, soft lips. Kiss your partner's mouth, her cheeks, eyelids, neck, shoulder blades, collar bones, down her throat, etc. +3\. Listen for cues- moans and panting, breathy whispers are all good. No noise, throat grumbing, sharp intake of breath... those are bad. Move on and try something else +4\. Slowly increase the pleasure. start skimming your hands over her breasts, put more pressure on spots you know she likes, work to get her turned on. At this point, if you skim your hand between her legs, you should be able to feel heat, and depending on what she's wearing, wetness. +5\. Unwrap the prize. Maybe she's wearing lingerie for you, maybe she's still dressed. What ever it is, as you slide off her clothes, trace the path with your hands and mouth. Keep touching, make her moan and squirm (trust me, its a good thing). +6\. Zero in on the target. When you're both so turned on you can't wait anymore, use your hands to let her know you're starving for the taste of her. Rub gently over her belly, glide your fingers across her thighs, slowly part them. Dip a finger into her slit and GENTLY brush her clit..... I'm sure you get the picture. The key is to go slow and gentle, it will torment her more and its just more fun. +7\. GET COMFORTABLE! Girls take longer than men, you should know this by now. I recommend splurging for a Liberator Esse, it is a big girls best friend, and its FANTASTIC for oral.... Anyway. Get comfortable. If you're laying between her knees, make sure you have support for yourself, maybe put a pillow under her butt to tilt her up for you. You want your hands free, so don't restrict those to your braces. +8\. Tease your girl. Lick up the insides of her thighs, skim across her pussy WITHOUT touching it to do the other leg. Gently flick your tongue against her skin. Slowly slide a finger into her (She'll most likely LOVE that). By now she should be panting, maybe scratching at your shoulders or grabbing your hair, maybe even begging you to taste her. Smile, (she'll feel it if you do it against her) and nuzzle her cleft with your nose or cheeks, and drive her just a little bit more wild. +9\. Taste test. You know neither of you can wait anymore, so go ahead. Take a little taste. Keep your tongue soft, and use the flat part of it to skim between her lips. Short, shallow strokes the entire length her her cleft. Suck those plump lips into your mouth, nibble at them, if you've got a big mouth, try to close it over both at once. Increase the pressure with your tongue, lapping up and down, licking up the juices. Flick it GENTLY over her clit depending on how sensitive she is. +10\. USE BOTH HANDS! It's like little league- coaches are always telling you to use both hands, so USE THEM. My personal favorite is when the giver takes both hands, and spreads the lips far apart with their thumbs, opening the delicate flower to their own pleasure. If makes me feel wide open and extremely submissive. Do that, and you can do what ever the hell you want to. It also makes the clit a very easy target. Lick it, flick it with your tongue, suck it into the mouth, whatever you can to make your girl scream. +11\. Don't for get the Gspot. When you're girl is getting close, and your tongue starts to fail you (we know it gets exhausted....), don't forget about the inside. Slide a finger (or 2 or 3) inside, hook it in a come her fashion (like when your mom was mad at you when you were a kid in trouble) and find the spongy, odd feeling clump in the roof of your girls vagina. Stroke your fingers against it, put a good amount of pressure behind it, and suck on her clit at the same time. You'll be lucky to get your fingers back when she comes, because she's going to clamp down on those and not let go till she's all tuckered out. +12\. Post Game. Whatever you do, don't just pull away when you're done. keep working her till she tells you to stop, and when she lets you go, kiss the OUTSIDE of her mound (the inside is going to be extremely sensitive), up her thighs, belly, chest, and give your girl a kiss. Don't push for yours right away, because she's gonna need some recovery, but don't worry. She'll be more than willing to return the favor...." +948,Your New Male Slave,CoupleInExile,How To,2013-09-08,2013-09-08,2022-01-04 08:43:10,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/your-new-male-slave,How to train your slave - the first week.,"['Bdsm', 'Chastity', 'Enslavement', 'Femdom', 'Mistress', 'Owner', 'Pain', 'Slavery', 'Submission', 'Training']",3.98,"So you've taken a slave. Congratulations! Chances are, you really haven't given much thought to 'What now?' It's all been fun play for a few hours. But. If you really want a *real* slave, you'll need to invest some time and effort in consummating your new property arrangement. Your new possession may be naturally submissive (or not! even more fun!), but you need to take him much deeper and much further into total obedience to get your greatest reward. And trust me -- there's much pleasure and discovery for you as well in this task. +It's so worth it. To see a man's tears as he suffers for you purely because you've driven him into total submission will make your soul and pussy vibrate. And, he will be a real slave if you train him properly. And you will be free to enjoy all the pleasures of a mistress/owner -- his complete devotion to your sexual pleasure, if you are a sadist, his true and frequent pain and suffering, and the freedom to have sex with whomever you choose. +But how to get there without spending your every moment in the dungeon? I mean,*really*, who's the slave here?? It's really quite simple. Yes, you do need to make him regularly submit to domination and pain in a formal setting. But you shouldn't need more than a few hours a week so focused. The rest of the time, you need to set out a structure of slave training tasks to train your former lover's mind into that of a true slave. And you do need your slave focused exclusively on your training -- 24x7 -- he'll need to take off work if needed -- this will be a real special 'vacation' for him. A no-return trip! +Let's talk a few basics. First and foremost -- chastity. Any man losing control of his cock to you is automatically putty in your hands. Let's face it -- that's where half his brain is normally. Some, more. With the keys in your hand, and no chance of release, his chastity will be a constant 24x7 reminder of his new status. Every time he moves, it will feel like you are pulling him around by his cock. Better, his erections as he performs his other slave tasks for you will be inevitable -- and quite uncomfortable. Don't relent to his whining -- a male slave needs to be completely sexually controlled. And no safety keys -- he must know he's committed. +But he will need encouragement. Constantly remind him how he's given himself to you and how you cherish the sacrifice -- but he needs this training to really become yours. And doesn't he really want your satisfaction in his servitude? Trust me -- he will be constantly aroused. And, frankly, associating arousal with pain and frustration is very much what you want to achieve. We want to train his mind more than his body. +Ok. Chastity. Check. Probably one of the most compelling things you can do to his head is to have him sign a slavery contract. There are hundreds of online samples. Pick the verbiage you like best. If you're serious, make sure it's explicit. No safewords or any way for the slave to terminate. Better, get him to read it while you record him before he signs it. But once he's uttered the words ""I am your owned slave, mistress"", he will remember them always... +Both of these can be sorted in your first session as owner and slave. Not your first session -- you really should be starting this from an already established domme/sub, and, hopefully, intimate relationship. The Mistress / slave relationship can and should be highly intimate. If you don't really love your slave, you're really missing the best part of their surrender -- their demonstration of their total devotion to you, and allowing you to make it formal and permanent. +For the first week, you really need to make sure your slave actually *feels* as though he's your slave, even as you carry on normal parts of your life. But to transform him, he needs to be in as close to 24x7 submission as possible. After signing and the contract and accepting the chastity, he's in a fragile state that you want to exploit but having him constantly feel ing submission. +The first task is pretty obvious -- he must change his bathroom habits so he's always sitting. His chastity will enforce that. Like a woman, he will need to have tissue to hand to dab himself. And you'll never have to deal with a raised seat again! But, a slave needs humiliation. And there's the practical matter of making him ready to accept your own piss, should you choose to use him in that fashion. My recommendation is that you also assign to him as the final part of his bathroom ritual, before he flushes, cleaning of the seat so it will be pristine for you. And, of course, that means with his tongue -- top and bottom. Yes, maybe allow him to clean it once properly with cleansers and such before the first time - you will be amazed how spotless it's kept from now on! And there's nothing hotter than your former lover, now slave, on his knees making your commode brilliant Just think how clean *you* will feel each time you use it! Maybe extend the task to include after your own use of it! I personally make my slave also clean both my toilet and my privates with his tongue whenever possible after I've used it. It will also force him to keep much better mouth hygiene. +But that's perhaps an hour of his waking day ... so much more time you need him to stay focused on his new status during this initial period. If you are a sadist, even just domme, I'd suggest rituals that will build his tolerance. My slave has very sensitive nipples, and I generally *love* to torture them in dungeon sessions. To keep them ultra-sensitive, when my slaves are in training, I have them perform a ritual of attaching clover clamps to them. Because they go numb, I do ask my slaves to put them on and remove them 5 times -- 2 minutes on, one minute off. If one slips early ... oh, well. Doesn't count ;). I then make them repeat the process at specific hours of the day so I can call and check. With modern video tools, a mistress doesn't need to be present to supervise. And, the threat of extending the chastity period for slacking is usually quite persuasive. Just to add to the effect, I make my slaves-in-training (or punishment) perform this ritual five times per day, including and especially at least once in the middle of the night. As I said, our goal is to get our slave in training to mentally associate his desires with submission to pain for our pleasure. Getting up at all hours to do this for you will emphasize your ownership and his obedience to it. +So ... we've filled up lots of free time! But, we can't allow idle thoughts. I think it best to always emphasize a slave's vulnerability by ordering him to remain naked throughout as much of the day and night as possible. Similarly, other signs of his status are important. A locked slave collar is very compelling at all hours. He can wear a high necked shirt if he needs to be in public. At night, I like him to add cuffs or other restraints so that whenever he stirs in his sleep, he's brought back to his new status immediately. Not uncomfortably -- this is training, not punishment. And we want him rested and ready to serve us. Just some cuffs and short chains or links will do fine. +I like to order my slave to find me videos and stories of male slavery. There are thousands to scan. And the act of reading and viewing, while in chastity will be a constant torment. And you will profit from a constant stream of delicious new ideas. And you'll also be getting your slave to both cultivate and expose his darkest submissive desires by his curation. Delicious. Hours of pleasure for me, hours of torment for him. +I also like to add more active ritual for my slave. In addition to the self- inflicted nipple torture, I expect my slave to do a half hour per day of anal training and a half hour of oral training. By the end of the first week, he should be well ready to deep throat, and his backside will be much looser and easier for your enjoyment. Plugs or any dildo is fine. Obviously, start small for a new slave. +In all these activities, we want to discourage slacking. So we want to include copious photos and videos of your new possession meeting your requests. In addition, some photos with your name marked on him prominently is always a good idea. Your contract should include your right to expose these if your slave ever tries to leave you. If you register your slave, you may want his number painted on a few places so you can decide how you ultimately want him marked. Another contract item -- be sure to include your right to mark his body as your property, however you choose. You have that right anyway if he's a proper slave, but making him say those terms and sign to them... he'll be so much more manageable. +We also want to include a few tasks a bit more humiliating. He is your slave, so he should feel your right to enjoy his fears and humiliations. I'd suggest some small things. A little feminization, perhaps. I usually make my new slaves polish their nails several times during their first week. A bright color, of course, fingers and toes. And it will train him how to do the task for you. Also, if you can find footwear that will fit him, making him walk a half hour per day in heels will teach him a lesson in the comfort of such things! I also make my slave visit the local pool daily and circle it a prescribed number of times wearing the thinnest of suits. His metal chastity is clearly outlined. And some women I know that understand his status are always about to tease him. My final coup de grace is usually to have him put on feminine underclothes, full makeup and lipstick and make a video of a walk through the local mall. Oh the surprised looks he records! Trust he's begging to do anything to avoid that task again! +Finally, the most prosaic of tasks should also be made into a slave ritual. What little time is left in the day s usually for preparing meals -- naked -- and eating. My new slaves are only allowed to eat from bowls on the ground. I also make them eat dog food the first week. It sounds horrible, but it isn't all that bad tasting (so I'm told!) and it's nutritious enough. And it is so reinforcing of his new status. He's your pet and possession. And any time for preparing meals can be spent on you! It's also great to feed him from your hand, if you have the time. As a special initiation, I also make it a point to feed my slave the 'gravy' style of dog food. I expect I will regularly acquaint him with drinking my piss, but in this tender new stage, I frequently command him to use his own. The shock and humiliation are priceless. After the first session, I really felt his soul was now utterly mine. +So many tasks! But that's the idea. Simple, time-consuming, and very slavish and humiliating tasks. We're training your man's head. If he's not responded to the training in a week ... oh, well. On we go! Sooner or later, total slavery will take over his thoughts and your life together will go on to new and more special chapters. Cherish his devotion. Love him madly and encourage him. Punishments will be yours to enjoy later. If he's faltering, just be patient and enjoy his efforts. Enjoy!" +949,Your Wife's Lesbian Fantasy Phone Sex,HawkerDeHavilland,How To,2013-05-13,2013-05-13,2022-01-04 08:43:11,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/your-wifes-lesbian-fantasy-phone-sex,A working girl's script for a husband's secret obsession.,"['Bisexual Female', 'Bisexual Wife', 'Lesbian', 'Lesbian Phone Sex', 'Lesbian Wife', 'Phone Sex', 'Unfaithful Hookup', 'Wife With Another Woman']",4.66,"Advice for the wayward phone sex girl: a script +* +The challenges of the phone sex girl! +They are housewives, mothers, single girls and working women who are employed to be that sweet voice on the other end of the phone when you call. +But... Find a service that does realistic ""call-backs"" +If only phone-sex ladies knew just how many callers have fantasies about their own wives.!!!!! +I've always thought a phone sex girl should have a script. +So here is another working girl's script for a call titled: +""Your Wife's Lesbian fantasies"" +""Because a single kiss... can lead to a dangerous obsession."" +The words which follow are not meant for instant gratification! +They are intentionally drawn out and extended... for long sensual experience. +Our cast of characters: +John : you< the husband +Kim (Kimberly): your ever faithful and beautiful wife +Heather: (our inimitable bi-sexual phone sex girl) who has had an opportunistic tryst with your wife. +(You must copy, ""replace all"" the names John and Kim (Kimberly) in this script to you and your wife's real names for more realism. ) +Let us begin by Heather calling you on your home phone:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>your phone rings>>>>>>>>> +John?,....my name is Heather. +I'm calling for Kim. +Is she there? +She's not? +Awww, I really wanted to talk to your wife if I could. +Who am I? +I'm a....a friend of Kimberly's. +I'm Heather. +She hasn't mentioned my name? +Well, we met at a bar while she was out with her girlfriends awhile ago. +I can't believe she never mentioned my name, John! +No, I wasn't in her group. +I was bartending and we were talking a lot at the bar while I was working. +You, uh....don't know about me then, do you? +John....your wife is so nice. +I was having a hard time in my life and she made me feel like everything would be OK. +I wanted to....uh...ask her some things.. +Well, she was like a mentor to me that night. +I'm much younger than she is and all the experiences in her life she shared and they ...helped me out. +Me? +I'm 22. +Your wife is older than me but she sure doesn't look it. +Kimberly looks like she could be my sister. +She is so special, John. +Well...I was actually the barmaid that night. +I'm a single mom and that's hard. +What do I look like? +I'm about 5'4"". I've got blonde hair and hazel eyes. +How long? +Well, I put it up a lot because I keep it so long, but it comes way down my back. +Me? +I work out. I'm very athletic. +My weight? +About 130 or so if I keep working out, lol! +Kim knows a lot about what I'm going through being a single mom. +I have to work two jobs. +Me? +Go out on dates and stuff? +Not often. I hardly get out. +I mean I'm pretty and all. Men find me attractive but I just don't have time. +I was talking with your wife about that exact thing and she said I have to get out more. +But I have the baby, you know...... +She knew what I was going through. +She was so nice and understanding to me. +What happened that night? +Well, all her friends had to leave +But she came back into the bar to talk with me +John, your wife is so confident and so sure of herself! +I want to talk with Kimberly again. +Oh, god I don't know what I mean. +Didn't she say anything about me at all? +Didn't she mention my name? +Heather??? +.John....I really wanted to ...ask her something important: now. +When will she be home? +Will you ask her to call me? +I gave your wife my phone number. +I think...... +John. +There is something..... +I'm going to just go ahead and tell you, OK? +Maybe you would understand. +I mean: two women...and it being your wife and all. +Oh, God, I don't know what I mean. +I have to tell you. +It seems like you really want to know. +Your wife and I were talking. +She was still there at the end of my shift. +We wanted to talk some more. +We went to my car. +John, Kim was so nice to me! +She was so attentive and caring. +The more we talked....the more I felt attracted to her! +Do you understand what I mean? +It wasn't her idea at all, John. +I wanted to show her how much I enjoyed being with her. +Jon. +Is it OK if.... I tell you more? +I can't believe she hasn't talked with you about me. +I couldn't help it. +She was so sweet. +So caring. +Kim is so lovely, John. You know that , don't you? +I just wanted to show her...to let her know. +Oh, God, John. +I kissed her. +I couldn't help it. +It was just a little kiss. +It was just like: affectionate to let her know she was so nice. +She drew away a little. +I was so embarrassed I did that! +But Kim was so understanding, John. +She didn't get upset. +She explained she knew I was by myself and maybe I was lonely and she told me she understood. +She made me feel OK about it....and that was so cool. +I don't know.....it was so spontaneous, John. +She even held my hand to reassure me. +She made me feel...... at ease with what I did. +Then Kim started to compliment me; telling me how pretty I was and that any man...or woman...would naturally be attracted to me. +She explained how she had been watching me moving behind the bar. +And the way I looked ...anyone would think I was sexy. +Then John, she told me... +If I wanted to kiss her again it would be OK! +Oh, God, it was all I wanted to do! +I wanted to kiss her so bad! +And I did. +Kimberly didn't pull away. +She let me. +I felt her squeeze my hand. +Her lips were soft. +John, I heard her sigh and knew she liked it. +Our lips were on each others. +She smelled so wonderful and so feminine. +I tested her kiss, then. +She let my tongue on hers. +Soon our tongues were all over one anothers. +John.... +John, there in the front seat of my car our arms were around each other. +It was dark in the parking lot. +I felt her touch me. +I felt her hold me. Oh God it was so good! +She opened her mouth to mine. +Kimberly's open mouth kisses were so....wonderful +all I wanted was more and more. +I couldn't get enough. +As soon as we'd break away, Kim could hear me gasp. +She let me kiss her neck, her throat. +I had my hands in her hair. +She moaned like it was what she had been waiting for all night! +I couldn't help myself. +your wife is so lovely John. +Her soft skin, the taste of her, her gorgeous hair and the nape of her neck just begged to be kissed. +There in the darkness of my car she let me hold her. +She let me kiss her. +Her kisses back.... were exciting me like I couldn't believe. +They thrilled me. +Her tongue was all over mine. +We kissed so long and so deep. +John, Kimberly is wonderful. +Her body seemed voluptuous underneath those clothes. +The way your wife's breasts were so full with their own weight +Made me want to discover them +So obvious under her pretty dress; +it was so certain she had intentionally spent a lot of time looking nice for her night out with the girls. +She had let me single her out and separate her from that little flock of girlfriends +made it all the more exciting. +The way she kisses, tastes and smells...even how she was dressed that night... +I was intoxicated. +Everything about this older woman was new and exciting. +Yes, I'm Bi. +But I'm not a lesbian if you know what I mean +I do have a true lesbian friend who is a real ""player"" +She told me something about married women that I never understood. +She said that 60% of all straight women have lesbian fantasies. +That it was proven in case studies and surveys. +At least half of those actually act on their desires. +That's like....every one in three straight women act on their curiousity. +And there are more out there than actually admit it. +Society is so ...open today +Then she said what excited her most were the few liaisons she had with heterosexual women. +Married women. +Married with jobs, a house and families. +Women who thought they would never have a lesbian relationship. +She also told me straight women require so much work: so much attention. +But the one's who submitted were the most sensual. +None of those straight women ever expected the arousal which came from a female lover, she said. +She would describe how they would resist. +Then describe the strange ways in which they submitted. +How willing they were in the end. +How responsive. +Their first time with her. +That's when I suddenly realized what my friend meant. +Kimberly had been so coy. +And it wasn't like I was trying to coerce your wife, really I wasn't John. +But I sensed Kim was playing out fantasies all night with me in particular! +Her attention to me at the bar was more than friendliness. +She was watching me the whole time she was talking to her friends. +She was making eye contact. +She was getting my attention whenever she could. +John. +Your wife is so beautiful and so sexy. +Her breasts, John... +Kim's are so full. So voluptuous. +They...... invited me, there is no other way to put it. +You haven't asked me about my breast size, John. +I'm surprised. +Or my measurements either haved you? +I thought you'd like to know +I'm a 34B-26-38 +I'm so bi-sexual. I know it. I accept it. +My girl partners, and honestly there are not many, have always been girls my age or younger. +They were always tight athletic and honestly...small breasted. +But your wife, John? +She is so much more mature. +Your wife, OMG! +So sexy with so much more that makes you want to explore every curve. +I reached and touched them. +She let me. +She looked down at my hand doing it. +She whispered my name. +""Heather is there someplace we can go?"" she asked. +My apartment was nearby, I explained +She said: ""yes."" +I started my car and drove us to my place. +Sitting next to me, Kim was so vibrant and mature. +Her dress was up her legs more than necessary. +Those hoop earrings peeking from under her pretty hair all done so nicely. +, that classy jewelry she wore. +The smell of her so inviting. +I'm just in my work slacks and blouse. +I'm driving to my apartment +And your wife is sitting there next to me like a treasure. +I reached over and touched her leg John. +She was so smooth in her pantyhose. +She didn't resist. +Kim opened her legs to my hand John. +I slid it up her thigh. +She took her hand and rested it on my arm gently. +She let me do whatever I wanted. +There on Kim's finger was your engagement ring and her wedding band. +It was so impossible shimmering there in the faint light of my car! +That this beautiful married woman would ignore those rings and be tempted by me... +It was a special thrilling kind of excitement! +Your pretty wife opened those legs...... +My fingers were on the crotch of her pantyhose. +She was letting me touch. +I could feel the mound of her pussy. +I could sense her wetness on my fingers. +Somewhere during the evening your wife had removed her panties. +Or maybe she never put them on to start with? +She let me. +Kim wanted me there, John. +I caressed her shielded pussy until her dress rode up her waist +And her hips wriggled to the edge of the passenger seat. +I caressed that hungry pussy through those pantyhose our whole drive to my apartment. +Even at every stoplight. +Her head found my shoulder. +She touched me in ways no married woman would touch another female. +My nipples were hard under my bra. +She whispered things to me that no heterosexual woman would ever say to a 22 year old young mother. +I was so fucking hot for your wife, John. +At my apartment +I paid the babysitter and sent her home. +Kimberly sat on my sofa. +I got us a glass of wine. +Suddenly Kim seemed hesitant. +And I sensed her reverting. +Your wife became confused and restless. +unsure of what was going to happen in my apartment. +And you know what? +My lesbian friends words came back to haunt me. +""Heather, married women need so much attention. They are so much work."" +I never knew or cared what was in that statement before. +But now I knew for sure what my lesbian friend had meant. +This was my first time with someone as wonderful as your wife, John. +I didn't want to Kim to change her mind. +She was more than some prize...I truly needed to be with her +Desperately +I thought to myself, ""Not now, please!"" +Your wife had led me along this far I just couldn't let her go. +I just couldn't. +I would beg her if I had to! +The wine helped some. +She hadn't asked to leave, which was good. +I tried to think of something quickly that would relax her. +And take Kim's mind off her apprehension. +I was desperate. +I started talking about the way I felt about her. +I explained how wonderful the evening had been for me: meeting her, talking with her and now...being alone with her. +I told her I knew in my heart she was interested in me. +I didn't know what to do. +I only knew your wife was probably thinking about her life, her family...and John...probably her unfaithfulness to her husband. +I was desperate to come up with something to distract her. +I told her I wanted to show her something. +I opened my laptop on the coffee table. +John....has your wife ever watched porn? +We all have from time to time but I was curious if Kim ever had? +She was non-committal. She wouldn't admit if she ever had. +But you know what I think? +She has. +Maybe it was softcore like the L Word or different girl-girl stuff on TV that she thought about later... privately. +I asked Kim about certain fantasies she might have had....we're they like mine? +Those things that made us curious ...made both of us search out more ....uh, information... +So I rushed into opening the screen right there on the coffee table in front of us. +I quickly said +that maybe it would be fun to watch something erotic for a minute or two. +.......two attractive women together. +It had taken only a minute to open, +But there it was in front of us. +Kim wasn't uncomfortable with the images at all, John. +At first she giggled some. +But then she got quiet. +She began watching so carefully. +With all her attention. +And I knew what was going through her mind. +Other women were doing what she was about to do. +classy women. +These weren't sluts on the screen before her. +They were beautiful lesbian actresses. +Their joy was obvious. +Real. +Unscripted. +And erotic in the most feminine of situations leaving no doubt in Kim's mind I am sure, that +So many other women had thoughts like hers +So many more acted on those impulses. +She wasn't alone. +On the contrary. +I used that moment, John. +We sat together +I began to touch your wife +The way I wanted to....since almost the first moment she caught my eye in the bar. +I was finally holding those wonderful breasts, +Squeezing them through Kim's thin dress and bra: +making your wife want to kiss me. +John.... +Do you feel like masturbating? +Are you holding your cock now? +because +I want you to. +I want you to hold you cock. +please go slow for me. +please don't come yet. +I have so much more to say. +I want to describe what your wife and I were doing fully +I want you to hear from me everything the two of us did in my apartment. +There.. +we could only hear the actresses passion. +Our eyes had closed. +We held each other, embracing side by side, knees together, hip to hip our bodies together kissing while I fondled her sitting together on the sofa. +I stroked her, I squeezed her. +And then John, my hand went up her thigh again, just like in my car. +she opened those warm thighs again for me. +My fingers were caressing hot pussy underneath the crotch panel of her pantyhose. +She opened the belt of her dress for me John. +So I could get my hand underneath those pantyhose. +We were kissing so long and so deep. +Girls can kiss the whole night. +Your wife knows how to kiss, omg! +Her lips, her mouth and her tongue were all over mine. +John she had become so wet for me. +Kim doesn't shave . I felt those soft curls... +So soft and damp. +I had my fingers against your wife's pussy. +John. +I rubbed her. +I did it for so long, John...touching and opening her cunt gaping wide +I had my fingers inside her. +Deep up inside her warm wet pussy. +Kim fucked them, John... there is no other explanation. +She was becoming more an more uninhibited. +I found her G-spot and massaged it, entering and withdrawing my fingers from her wet vagina. +Your wife moaned and kissed me harder. +I felt her hands on my breast! +Her touch was tentative at first. +But then she wanted my blouse opento get at them. +She pulled my bra down over the top of my breasts. +She was playing with my nipples. +Squeezing my breasts. +I told her John... +I told her I wanted them sucked. +I get fingering her pussy. +Then Kim started kissing them. +Then John....she was sucking them...sucking on them so good. +Oh, God... +Your wife's lips were like heaven. +She was sucking my nipples so fucking good. +They were all wet with her spit. +The more I fingered her +The more passionate she got with them. +I found her clitoris. +It was this beautiful wet bud: hungry to come. +I scissored it. I rolled three fingers about its circumference. +I dipped them up inside her again, then came back to rub her clitoris some more. +I whispered, ""Kim I want you to come for me."" +That was all it took. +Your wife started to come for me. +It was so fucking hot. +She broke away from my titties and crushed her mouth to mine. +My wrist was trapped by the elastic band of her pantyhose. +And I put those fingers way up inside her . I could feel the bump of her g-spot on my fingertips. +I stiffened them and massaged it. +Those full hips came up off the sofa. +She was crying and groaning so loud I thought she'd wake the baby. +I didn't stop. +I finger-fucked that pussy hard and fast +She squirmed and fucked at my fingers! +It was so intense for her....she stopped kissing me and threw back her head. +Oh how I watched your wife's face then. +Her tightly knit brows, her open mouth gasping, the tightening of her body. +She held on to me , gripping and holding wherever she could. +She was so excited. +She ended by fucking my fingers so hard! +she came for me, John +I felt her vagina seize both fingers. Your beautiful wife's pussyhole grasped them, held my fingers tight +I felt the walls of her vagina grasp..... and hold ......and pulse while she had her orgasm! +Oh, god.... the way Kim came for me. +She couldn't have had an orgasm in a long time. +Although it was hiked up around her waist, she was still in her dress. +It had happened so quickly. +My wrist was still held snugly by the waistband of her pantyhose. +And I waited until my fingers felt the last faint, small pulse +Up inside her babyhole. +I was watching her until she opened her eyes and looked at me.. +I was so fucking hot for her , John. +I started getting her out of that dress. +And She didn't stop me. +I was kissing her like crazy while I took off her clothes. +I took off her shoes and stripped those pantyhose off her beautiful legs. +I wanted to see those breasts. +I wanted them in my face. +I wanted to taste them...to suck them. +Kim was pulling my blouse off. +She was trying to get my slacks off. +I helped her. +Oh, God, your wife's breasts were so fucking awesome. +So full....her swollen nipples all erect. +Oh fuck I wanted them so bad. +They were in my mouth. +I was sucking them ....so good \\! +Her areolas were puffy and swollen +Your wife's nipples got so hard, John. +They were in my mouth. +She held my face as I moved my lips from one to the other. +She was trying to kiss me in between. +Go ahead John. +I want you to... +Let your fingers be soft and gentle on that aching cock of yours. +Tease it for her John. +Tease it for your obsessed little wife. +Your cock is waiting isn't it? +Make that stiff erection yearn for her lesbian submission.. +She couldn't help herself John.... +Why should you resist? +Kim couldn't stop just as you cannot help yourself now. +Tease your aching cock for her. +Don't resist the urge....not now.... +Show me you want your wife's desire fulfilled by another woman....and that it excites you.... +You know...that your wife loves to be kissed, John, oh my God. +Her mouth is so soft +The way she tongued me. +Her full soft lips on mine, OMG. +Everything slowed down then. +I wanted to be between her legs. +I told her so. +She stared at me. +I told her I wanted to taste her this way. +I even put my pussyfingers in my mouth to prove it. +My lips were soon covered with the aroma of her mature pussy. +She stared at me. +I reached my mouth to her lips and kissed them with mine. +Kim's tongue was in my mouth in an instant! +John.... +I started going down between your wife's legs. +I pushed the coffee table back. +I knelt on the carpeting between her open legs. +She was staring into my eyes. +She let me pull her hips to the sofa's edge. +She opened her legs wide for me. +I reached up to hold those voluptuous hips of hers. +I knew she would be extra sensitive. +So I covered the mound of her pussy with gentle kisses first. +She moaned, John....waiting for me. +Then I started licking that beautiful mature pussy she was lifting towards my mouth. +Your wife tastes so fucking good, John. +So feminine. So sweet. +I couldn't stop myself. +I opened her pussylips with my tongue. +Her labia fell open. +I found her clitoris. +It started to blossom onto my tongue. +I looked into Kim's eyes , John. +They were dreamy. +They were hungry for me. +I began lapping her wet pussy with my tongue so expertly. +Your wife put her hands in my hair. +Caressing it. +She held my face. +I ate her pussy so good. +I stiffened my tongue and made it go up inside her... +And watched as your wife's pretty eyes melted with desire. +As far as I could +Over and over. +She started moving her hips +She groaned for me. +Looking at me. +Turning away... +Looking at me again. +Your precious wife.... +LOVED it, John +I moved her labia side to side with my cheeks +To open her. +I surrounded your wife's clitoris. +My mouth was open on it. +Older women, John. +Thy are soft and voluptuous. +I loved it. +Everything about your wife is soft and full. +My nose was buried in the curls of her pussymound. +All that soft hair. +The scent of her filling my nostrils. +I started swirling my tongue around her exercised clitoris. +First one way then the other. +I applied nice firm gentle sucks on her fattened clit. +I licked Kim's clit so good for her. +Like her special young handmaiden....worshipping it John. +She started moving to me then. +She was humping at my face in nice gentle thrusts. +Holding my head +Moaning to me, John. +Wanting to come for me. +I held her onto my face. +Wanting to give her an experience she would never forget. +I brought one hand down below my chin. +I entered her with two fingers. +Your wife's moist warm pussy...making them go into her fucking slowly. +Stretching Kim's helpless pussy wide open, John. +Her legs went apart even more for me. +I reached up with my other hand and grabbed her breast. +Her nipple was between my fingers. +I fucked her John. +Licking her clit +Sucking it +Fucking her so steadily +So rhythmically... +She came for me John. +This time it was so much more intensive. +Your wife was sobbing, John. +She cried out all the pleasure I hoped for. +I held still for her. +I felt those pussywalls clutch my fingers +I felt your wife's deepest throbbing orgasm. +I didn't move as it subsided. +I felt her relax. +I raised my head and watched your wife's face as I carefully withdrew my fingers. +She hands released the grasp they had on my head of hair. +And then Kim looked into my eyes. +To prove to your wife I loved so much what I had done for her. +I sucked those fingers clean. +""I want you so much Heather."" She whispered. +Her leg was already moving up onto the sofa. +Soon she was on her back. +Reaching for me. +There on my sofa... +We moved carefully into a sixty-nine. +I placed myself above her. +I straddled your wife's face. +John....this is the moment when you must expose you cock fully. +Let it stand completely erect for me. +That touch of a woman's tongue against another's clitoris? +You can imitate that same sensual experience. +Laden your fingertips with saliva. +Grasp your hungry cock at its base. +Slowly apply its slippery mass to the underside of your cockhead. +Be gentle, be soft, +slide it in circles +around that most sensitive spot. +apply your touch as sensually as you can. +Think of your wife with me. +Think of what she is about to do with me. +Keep that sensitive spot moist. +Try and resist the urge to bring more to the full head of your cock... +Just the underside special area beneath its head +This is the feeling of tongue on clitoris John. +This is what Kim was about to do for me. +Your wife. +Your precious wife. +I remember what it was like the first time I placed my lips on another girl's pussylips, when I was very young John. +the excitement...the thrill of it how soft and fluid it was! +Tender, slippery and responsive. +I wanted it so bad. +But I was so nervous. +I knew what your wife was going through with me +Kim wanted it so badly. +Yet the experience filled her with apprehension. +Once she took that step...there could be no return. +I also knew that once her lips experienced the softness of my cunt... +Those apprehensions would evaporate. +So I was gentle and patient with your wife +I waited for her first moves. +Poised above her waiting patently. +John, so much depended on how desirable my pussy appeared to her now. +I'm athletic and in great shape. +My pussy is shaved and waxed... +And I know my pussy is pretty with all the slope and tightness of a young woman. +My bareness exposes my perfectly proportioned labia... +I know its so pink and smooth. +My clitoris is almost hidden within those pussyfolds but.. +I know how it will blossom into a tight bud .... +Just made for licking. +I know it is. +And I know it is very beautiful. +Your wife's eyes were discovering all of that and more. +Her hands caressed me everywhere. +I felt them fondle and hold my waist, my hips... +I felt her grasp my tight ass. +Beneath my face... +Your wife's legs had opened below me. +Her mature cunt... +I had used it so thoroughly, John... +It waited . +Women orgasm multiple times. +We just do. +Under the right circumstances our capacity for orgasm is +Unlimited. +Your wife had been so willing, John +And here she was about to do the unspeakable. +Hovering above... +I looked further down between us. +Down past my tight sporty breasts barely hanging.. +Past your wife's magnificent boobies floating heavily on her chest +so pretty with her nipples facing my belly. +I saw her face then +Transfixed....staring at everything that made me female. +I waited. +She pulled me slowly down to her lips. +I watched as your wife kissed the bare slopes of my pussy. +Each kiss so carefully placed +Waiting for her tongue to emerge... +Oh, God John ... +It was licking the swale of my vulva. +Your wife's tongue was within the folds of my labia +Licking what she had just been kissing. +I could feel my dripping pussy open all on its own +Then Kim's tongue found the deep swale of my cunt +She licked it up and down. +Her lips opened. +They surrounded my clitoris. +She pulled me against her mouth until all I could see exposed was her chin moving. +Your wife had buried her face into my barest cunt. +It was pure heaven. +I was so turned on by everything that had happened throughout our night.... +That I knew I would have my orgasm quickly. +Five minutes of her exploring tongue was all I could take. +She was making me come. +When Kim realized what was happening she held my waist tight . +I gyrated against her mouth. +She groaned in appreciation. +She swirled her tongue around the entire circumference of my clitoris +I felt my orgasm well up my spine +..... explode in her mouth. +Oh my God it was heaven. +And I knew what she was feeling too. +The control she held over my brimming orgasm +Made her tongue wild against my straining clit. +She owned me. +She controlled me in every way! +My face fell into her pussy. +I worshipped it. +Your wife gave me as complete an orgasm as any I ever had, John. +John , you can't imagine the connection +When two women satisfy each other this way. +It's a bond only women can understand. +Kim is lovely, John. +She is enchanting. +I want her. +And I know she wants me. +She dressed that night and called herself a cab +We kissed so deeply before she left. +She has kept me a secret from you, hasn't she +I want to see her again. +Would that be OK? +Please... +Please talk with her and tell her you suspect there is someone in her life like me. +Talk with her. +John, it wouldn't bother me if you....""saw"" us together. +Its OK, really! +Would you like that? +I wouldn't mind. +Talk to your wife , +Ask Kimberly and maybe she would agree? +Please give her my number. +Ask her to please call me? +Even if your wife and I just....talked on the phone... +Just to hear her voice? +If everything I've suggested appeals to you. +I know I can convince her! +(Sixty percent of all straight married and single women have lesbian sexual fantasies. Thirty eight percent of those same women have tried a lesbian experience at least once.)"
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"" +Note: Do not include the quotation marks. +5: Select the body of your story (without the title and byline, but including any copyright notice or author's comments) and copy it to your clipboard. +6: Open the copy of the text file created in step one. +7: Select the three asterisks near the middle of the text, (They're on line ten,) and paste the body of your story in their place. +8: SAVE the combined text AS a text file named 'TEST.HTM' (or whatever you want to name the HTML file.) NOTE: The file name must end in '.HTM' or '.HTML' +9: Close the combined file. +10: Open TEST.HTM with your browser and examine it for formatting errors. +Repeat steps Two through Ten as required to remove any formatting problems. +(One potential formatting problem that this process can't expose, is a block of Italics that overlaps the webpage break inserted by Literotica's scripts. It occurs somewhere around 3000 to 4000 words or the middle of page eleven the way I have my fonts and margins configured.) +Some potential problems: +Smart Quotes that don't display properly. Characters with Accent, Umlaut or Tilde. Single character versions of ellipses and long dashes Foreign characters like Pound and Yen signs, and the German Essen. Fractions and Exponents or superscript and subscript characters. ""White Space"" (multiple spaces or tab characters.) +Most of these problems can be corrected by adding the HTML codes for the characters that don't display properly. Listing all of the possible codes you may need is beyond the scope of this article, however lists are readily available online or in books on HTML.HTML for Dummies has a fairly complete list. +One final Caveat before I send you off to play: This process will insure that your story properly formats with YOUR browser. There is no guarantee that it will not have problems with other browsers or even the same browser on another system. It will give you a bit more confidence that you haven't missed an HTML command or 'special' character somewhere." +839,Then vs Than,Angel Love,How To,2006-04-15,2006-04-15,2022-01-04 08:40:39,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/then-vs-than,"Learning the English language, one word at a time.","['Writing', 'Writing Advice']",4.58,"As a volunteer editor in the Literotica Editor's Program, one of my biggest pet peeves is the consistent misuse of the word then for the word than by many writers. There is a BIG difference my friends! Does anyone else's skin crawl when they see a sentence like this . . . His cock was bigger then most . . . or even this . . . We can talk it over than decide what to do? . . . shudders. +We have to educate ourselves as authors on the correct usage of words if we want to be appreciated by our audience (the readers). When a reader picks a story to sit back and well you know what to . . . smiles, he/she doe s not want to have to stumble over incorrect usage of a word. It is agitating and sometimes can and does mean the difference between a 4 and a 5 vote . . . yes one word can do it! As we are all too aware, if you don't use proper English grammar, spelling, punctuation and word usage . . . you will lose that reader and he/she may never come back again. +I have searched high and low throughout the Writer's Resources and surprisingly could not find one article that even mentions the problem. After researching the two words I have come up with my own How To on the subject. So here goes . . . my How To on the use of then vs than . . . +Merriam-Webster, which by the way is my favorite online Dictionary source, is the subject of this portion of the article. +It says that the function of then as an adverb is this: +1 : at that time 2 a : soon after that: next in order of time . . . He walked to the door, then turned. b: following next after in order of position, narration, or enumeration: being next in a series . . . First came the clown, then came the elephants. c. in addition: Besides . . . Then there is the interest to be paid. 3 a (1) : in that case . . . Take it, then, if you want it so much. (2) : used after but to qualify or offset a preceding statement . . . She lost the race, but then she never really expected to win. b : according to that: as may be inferred . . . Your mind is made up, then? c : as it appears: by the way of summing up . . . The cause of the accident, then, is established. d : as a necessary consequence . . . If the angles equal, then the complements are equal. - and then some: with much more in addition . . . It would require all his strength and then some. +The function of then as a noun is this: +\--that time . . . Since then, he's been more cautious. +The function of then as an adjective is this: +\--existing or acting at or belonging to the time mentioned . . . The then secretary of state was . . . +Now for Merriam-Webster's take on the word than . . . +The function of than as a conjunction is this: +1 a : used as a function word to indicate the second member or the member taken as the point of departure in a comparison expressive of inequality; used with comparative adjectives and comparative adverbs . . . She is older than I am. It is easier said than done. b : used as a function word to indicate difference of kind, manner, or identity; used especially with some adjectives and adverbs that express diversity . . . I'd rather be anywhere else than at home right now. 2 : rather than -- usually used only after prefer, preferable, and preferably . . . I would prefer to be tall rather than being too short. 3 : other than . . . Other than the usual day to day activities, we like to take a walk in the park before dark. +The function of than as a preposition is this: +\--in comparison with . . . You are older than me. +And just so I'm not accused of playing favorites I will site from a few more online sources . . . +WordNet shows the correct usage of the word then: +The then president took over the problem; We will arrive before then; We were friends from then on; Then he left; Go left first, then right; First came lightening and then thunder; We watched the late movie and then went to bed; If he didn't take it then who did?; The case, then is closed; You've made up your mind then?; Prices were lower back then; They you'll be rich; I was younger then; Keep it then if you want to. +The American Heritage Dictionary of Idioms sites these instances where than is used correctly: +Actions speak louder than words; His bark is worse than his bite; Better safe than sorry; Better late than never; Don't bite off more than you can chew; Blood is thicker than water; Your eyes are bigger than your stomach; He's more fun than a barrel of monkeys; More often than not; It was more than she bargained for; It was more than one could shake a stick at; There are more ways than one to skin a cat; No sooner said than done; Quicker than you can say Jack Robinson; None other than. +Ok, enough of that . . . I don't want to overload you with information. I think you have the point by now. So the next time I get a story to edit from you . . . you know who you are . . . there won't be any mistakes using the words then and than. It's really quite simple . . . if you are talking about time then use then and if you are talking about a comparison then use than. +I have one Author, God bless His soul that always makes this mistake. I have edited over 10 stories for Him now and yes each time He misuses then for than. Don't get me wrong, He is an awesome writer, but so stubborn. I keep telling Him that if I were the Domme and He the submissive, I would have to put Him over my knees and spank Him for His naughtiness . . . lol . . . Hey that might be why He keeps making the mistakes . . . Wicked evil Man that He is. +I know it is hard to teach an old dog new tricks, but if the dog wants its treat it must learn the trick. So if you want the votes to be high and the feedback to be positive then use proper English PLEASE . . . smiles. +Good luck to all of my fellow authors and editors. May God bless you every one and keep you happily writing and editing for a long time." +840,They've Got Kids?!?,KarennaC,How To,2009-01-29,2009-01-29,2022-01-04 08:40:40,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/theyve-got-kids,How to date a single parent,"['Dating', 'Relationship', 'Single Parent']",4.44,"So you've met Ms. or Mr. Right, or at least Ms. or Mr. Right-now. Gorgeous, sexy, smart, everything you want in a date or partner. You can hardly wait to get them out on a date, or better yet to get them into your bed. +Just one problem. They've got kids. +This is intended mainly for those who don't have children of their own and are dating single parents. If both partners have kids, it becomes even more complicated and more coordination may be necessary. However, I personally haven't been in that situation, so I'm offering advice from the point of view of a single mom whose partner has no children. +Dating a single parent isn't easy. It can be hard enough for people to coordinate seeing each other around other commitments like work, friends, family, and so on. When dating a single parent, add to those commitments sick children, school concerts or conferences, and the obvious need to find someone to watch the kids before leaving the house, depending on how old the kids are. When dating moves into the bedroom for two people without children, often either partner's home is available. When dating a single parent, their house may be off-limits, especially if kids are there with a sitter. Even when the kids are in bed asleep, your date may not be comfortable with any ""activity""; what if the kids wake up? +For some single parents, the beginning stages of dating may be the easiest. I know that was true for me. I'd come out of a messy marriage, through a divorce, and I wasn't about to trust anyone in a relationship, especially if that meant introducing them to my kids. So finding a sitter or persuading my ex or his parents to take the kids overnight so I could go out for dinner or to a bar with a guy was pretty easy. And most of the guys I dated that way gave up after one or two dates, when they figured out that I wasn't going to dump my kids on their father or grandparents every single weekend. +If things move beyond that initial stage, it becomes more complicated. Can your object of desire see you as often as you'd both like? Probably not, unless they have family members who are willing to help out or a good sitter. Speaking of sitters, raising kids costs money, and some sitters earn more an hour than I do. If this person is important enough to you that you want to spend time with them, offer to pay, or at least chip in, for the sitter, if your own income and expenses allow. At least offer to help find a sitter if they don't already have a regular one. They may turn you down, but even if they do they'll likely appreciate the gesture. +When dating moves to relationship, people sometimes want to spend time together other than out on dates. Sitting on the couch watching a movie together, experimenting in the kitchen to make a new dessert... and, oh yeah, sex. If you're dating a single parent, these times may have to be at your place, or they may have to send their kids elsewhere when you go to their place. Some parents aren't comfortable with new partners meeting their kids, so other arrangements have to be made. And if a child gets sick or the sitter or family member bails, plans with you may have to be canceled. +When should you meet her kids? There are plenty of articles and advice on this. Some recommend a set amount of time; some say ""when a commitment is made between you"". Personally, I say it depends. +When I started dating, I didn't plan on my kids meeting anyone. I wasn't planning on anything necessarily long-term, so to me it made no sense for my kids to meet a man who wasn't going to be an ongoing part of our lives. Then, about six months after my separation, the man I was seeing told me, ""Once your divorce is final, I want you to be with me, and I want to help you raise those kids of yours."" Intended, and taken, as a proposal. So I gradually introduced my children to him, first letting them speak to each other on speakerphone, then having him come to our home for a brief introduction before their father picked them up for the weekend, and finally going with him to a barbecue at his boss's house. +That's when things went south. He told me the day after the barbecue that he felt I'd spent too much time with my kids. Hello? I'm their mother, and I'd been told that if they went to the barbecue I had to keep an eye on them. Regardless of how I felt about this man, my children were more important. And I didn't like the idea of dating someone who would complain about how much attention I paid to my kids. So I ended it. +If you're dating a single parent, it's important to remember that ""parent"" is an important part of their description. Their kids have to come first, almost always, and sometimes that means a date or partner comes in a distant second or even third. (Hey, we parents have to fit ourselves in there somewhere!) If you feel like you're being ignored in favor of the kids and it's causing a real problem, talk to your date/partner about it calmly: ""I've noticed that lately you've been preferring to take the kids to the park instead of finding a sitter so we can go out to lunch. Is there a problem between us?"" as opposed to, ""You spend too much time with your kids. Don't you give a crap about me?"" +So back to the ""when to introduce"" question. The guy I mentioned met my kids only after he'd sort-of proposed. And it didn't go well, and my kids were left feeling a bit lost, especially since they'd also met his 20-year-old daughter and had hit it off with her. So I resolved not to introduce my kids to anyone else. +A few months later, I broke that resolution. I was dating a trucker who happened to be in town unexpectedly and wanted to take me out to dinner. When I told him I couldn't go on such short notice because of my kids, he invited them along. That was the one and only time they met him, neither particularly liked him, and I ended up regretting the whole evening. +So although I kept seeing that guy for a few more months, I was careful not to bring the kids into it again. And when he and I decided to stop seeing each other, I again resolved not to let the guys I dated meet my kids, or in a couple of cases even find out that I had kids. +Then I met my current partner. We met at the home of a mutual friend, and there was instant attraction. Two days later, he asked if he could come see me. I told him my kids were home; I wanted to see him, but wanted to stick to my resolution. But ultimately he showed up anyway. I introduced him to my kids, told them he was there to watch a movie and would probably go home afterward (even though he lived two hours away), and sent them to bed. He didn't go home; the next morning when the kids got up, he was sleeping on the couch. They didn't seem to mind. I did. +A few days later, he called and said he'd been talking to his sister, a single mom who was dating a single dad, and she'd recommended that we not bring him around the kids for at least a few months, because otherwise it might confuse them. He and I agreed that we would wait a while before he saw the kids again. But it didn't work out that way. Our relationship moved at warp speed, and because of the distance we live from each other there were times that he was only able to see me during the week, when he had days off. When my kids were home. So they got to know him and he got to know them sooner than I would have liked, but it was clear that with him, it was the right thing to do. Now, nearly eight months after we met, we're planning to move in together, and my kids consider him their ""half-dad"", as my older one puts it. +So in terms of when you should meet your Mr. or Ms. Right's children, I think there are too many factors to give one answer. But whenever you meet them, the decision should be based in small part on your own comfort with the idea, and in large part on their comfort and their knowledge of their children. +Dating a single parent isn't easy. But if you respect that they have children, honor their boundaries, and allow for the unexpected, it isn't as complicated as it seems." +841,Those Little Blue Pills,traveller1945,How To,2022-01-02,2022-01-02,2022-01-04 08:40:41,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/those-little-blue-pills,Two work colleagues discuss those little blue pills.,[''],4.29,"""Peter says you're the man to talk to about Viagra"". +That's a conversation stopper, and sure enough, several ears perked up at the mention of the V word. It was the final evening of a three-day training course relating to revised legislation on pension and investment sales. It was aimed at senior management so we were a mature crowd, some of those gathered in the room had been in the trade for over thirty years. +Jane and Kelly, two good female colleagues of mine, had pushed their way in to the group I was chatting with and mischievously announced to all and sundry that I was the man. +It was after 10pm and the drinks had been flowing all evening. Fifteen or sixteen people remained in the public bar of a Kent country hotel, most of them were known to me and a half dozen of them were close friends. Several lightweights had already retired to bed to be fresh for tomorrow morning's closing session, but the usual suspects remained. +I could see Peter (who is usually one of my very good friends) smirking at me from another cluster gathered nearer to the bar. ""What a bastard! he's supposed to be my mate, I'll bet he didn't tell you the full story. Do I look like a V..... customer? I'm a lusty, testosterone-fuelled, stag of a man."" +""He reckons you're an addict"" said Jane, ""can't perform without them"". At which point Peter intervened to say that Jane was embellishing and that he had merely mentioned that I had some knowledge of the subject. +By now a crowd had closed in, eager to learn more. ""Do tell"" said another woman called Sue who managed the floor above me, ""I'm intrigued"". +""Come on, don't be shy"" said another manager as the pack drew closer. +""Ok"" said I, ""But only because I need to stop this load of bollocks spreading round the country. The true version, the boring version, is that Kate's father had prostate cancer about twelve years ago and they successfully operated on him and fortunately he's still alive and kicking today. But that's an operation that can play havoc with you. There's a lot of clockwork to fuck up down there and if they nick something you can end up dribbling in your pants or with a permanently limp noodle. Unfortunately for him, he got both"". +""The upshot of all of that was that the surgeon recommended V..... and now he has a permanent prescription for the generic equivalent. The NHS won't pay V..... prices. He's 75 now and they give him more than he needs. So about two years ago he offered me some, and naturally I turned him down, said I didn't need them, but later that evening he slipped me two and winked and said I should give them a try. So I did."" +""Could you tell the difference?"" said another woman called Helen. She was another good friend, in fact she was an inner circle friend who I'd known for years. We'd shared an office for six years and I'd worked on many cases with her and even met her husband. We knew things about each other that our respective partners didn't know and I had sought her advice on numerous personal issues. +We also had a deeper, more unfortunate history in that I'd had sex with her at a similar training course in London two years ago. Naturally we skated around any awkward discussion of that episode since then but it had been a memorable occasion. +Yeah, I could"" I replied,"" they gave me a pumping headache and turned my face bright red. I didn't tell Kate and she never commented afterwards so they couldn't have been all that special."" +""Come on"" said Ryan Connolly, ""they must have done something, people pay a fortune for them."" +""Well yeah, I'm sure they do what it says on the tin, but If you haven't got a problem down there then what can they really do? They don't make your old man any bigger, they don't keep you going all night, they're just for problem cases and I'm not there yet, I'm only 47. You wouldn't take an aspirin if you didn't have a headache would you?"" +Another guy intervened to say that he couldn't imagine his father-in law being so liberal but I said that's how Kate's parents were. By way of contrast, my own parents had regarded sex as a subject never to be raised in front of the children. +I managed to field a few more intimate questions and wicked comments without revealing too much and then ducked over to the bar to buy a round of drinks even though it wasn't my turn yet. ""Bastard"" I repeated to Peter who protested his innocence. +""A few of those ladies had a gleam in their eye"" he commented, ""there's nothing like sex talk to get them fired up, they won't sleep easy tonight."" +Over the next hour or so the crowd thinned out until there were only six of us, then only four or us. At 1.15 Peter announced that he'd had enough and we simultaneously agreed to retire for the evening. I was on my feet heading for the lift when I felt a slight pull on my shirt and looked back to see Helen making a variety of clumsy gestures meaning that I should hang back. +""I need to speak to you, go to the gents in reception then come back here"". The words came out in a rush and I stared at her for a few seconds but she looked so anxious that I just agreed ""Ok"" and did as she asked. +She was waiting for me when I exited the gents. ""I want to speak to you about what you were talking about earlier, were you being straight about it?"" +""You mean the V.....? What do you want to know?"" +""You were very dismissive, did they really not do anything for you?"" +""Forget all that, they're a game-changer. I'm a frigging convert, what do you want to know?"" +""I knew it"" she said ""I've known you long enough to know when you're only telling half the story. I need some advice.... It's about Andy. That's all, I promise."" +The door to the public bar was already closed and a grateful barman was clearing up within. There were only two small tables in the reception area, a couple were attempting a jigsaw at one table and a teenage girl was texting rapidly at the other. +""Come on, there must be resident's lounge around here, or can we....should we go upstairs? Don't misunderstand me, this is important. I have to know"" +""My room or yours?"" I realised that I was more than prepared to take advantage of a vulnerable woman. +""Yours"" she said"" I've got Hilary on one side of me and James Gradwell on the other side"". +""I don't know who I've got, I'm in 306, let me go there first, you come up in two or three minutes, I won't close the door properly. Make sure no one sees you."" +As soon as I reached my room I leapt into the bathroom. Was there a chance that I might be fucking Helen again? I wasn't sure but I quickly washed my cock, squirted deodorant under my arms and put a tiny amount of after-shave on. Nothing too obvious, then I waited. +The door opened only as much as was necessary and Helen slid in. ""Please don't get any ideas, I just want you to explain a few things. I need to ask you a few questions? I'm so confused and feeling so down at the moment I need to know if there's anything I can do."" +""Sex?"" +""Yes"" +""You're not getting enough?"" I smiled as I said it. +""Don't joke, I'm not getting any. I want you to tell me about V....., I need to know if it'll help Andy"" +She told me her tale, more awkwardly than I retell it here, but the quick version is that her husband Andy was 57, seven years older than her. His erections had been slowly failing for years but he wouldn't discuss it. It had started a few years ago when his penis would wither inside her and he'd lie on his back and somehow make her feel that she was to blame. She could go down on him for ten minutes or more but he couldn't stay hard. +Now he was staying up late at night making excuses about wanting to watch a late film. If she reached across to him during the night to fondle his balls he would turn his back on her and say he was tired. She would reach for him in the early morning, he still had firm erections even in his sleep, but within minutes there was nothing there and he would quickly get out of bed to shower. +She'd tried walking around in the underwear he used to like, tried to get in the shower with him and she'd done other stuff that she didn't want to talk about, but he wouldn't co-operate with anything and now she felt that they were drifting apart. She loved him but she couldn't go on like this. +I recalled our one night together, she had been surprisingly active and very vocal. We were drunk but she was the one who had initiated it. I remembered how physical she had been when she was on top of me, thrusting hard and squeezing her tits and playing with her clit. Maybe the fact that she wasn't being properly fucked way back then accounted for her behaviour that night +She had orgasmed in my face and had almost pulled my hair out by the roots. Her language and her squeals had surprised me, I'd had noisy partners before but I suspect that they were mainly faking it, I was convinced that Helen's reactions had been genuine as she rolled around the bed mauling herself. +She asked if I'd ever had any similar problems. My first inclination was to say not but then I admitted to having a few failures of my own. Kate & I had had a great sex life for over twenty years, we still did, but in recent years it wasn't a 100% success all the time. Nowhere near as bad as Andy but I could sometimes feel my erection fading so I would thrust like crazy and shoot my load within the first few minutes. I could also kick-start it again by rolling out of the saddle, lying back for a few minutes and thinking about something else/anything else and that usually helped me start again. +Fortunately Kate was very understanding, she worked for the NHS in a non- clinical role, but her job exposed her to lots of experts and lots of knowledgeable discussions. She would feel my dick deflate inside her but she didn't make a fuss about it. She'd say ""were you thinking of something else then?"" or she'd just lie still on top of me and kiss me until I went stiff again. +""You do know that a lot of it is in the mind?"" Helen nodded, she'd read up on the subject. +""The first thing a doctor will ask him is whether he gets erections when he's asleep, if he does then the machinery is ok, it's just a confidence thing, mind over matter. It's a bit like a self-fulfilling prophecy, the second I start thinking about whether I'm going to cum is the second that I start to lose it. What about when he's drunk? It's much easier to relax then and not think about it."" +""I know all that"" she said petulantly ""nothing is working, I just need to know if V..... will help him and where you get it from and what you do with it."" I can't stand this much longer, it's killing both of us."" +""What about work, is he stressed out?"" I knew he was a TV aerial erector working for himself, so I didn't think that was likely. +""No, it's a good business, he earns as much as me"" +""I think you need to get him to talk about it, get him to accept there's a problem but tell him it's no big deal. He can't have missed the erectile dysfunction adverts on TV, every single man will go through this at some stage, it's just that we blokes don't like to admit it."" Then the two of you will have to agree the solution. Let me tell you, he only needs to take one of those little babies and he'll feel like a teenager again. +""So what should I do, buy a bottle of them and leave them on his bedside table or should I just drop one in his cocoa before he goes to bed, how do I get the ball rolling? +""I can't answer that because I don't know him like you do. Why don't you tell him that your best friend at work is going through the same problems but they've done something about it. Tell him she's given you one tablet to see if it works. Tell him that half the women in your office have husbands who use them. Persuade him to take it then maybe you could watch Forty Shades of Grey together or try on a few new bikinis, saunter round the bedroom in them and ask him which one he likes best."" +""He'd probably run a mile if I did that....and it's fifty shades not forty, you're thinking of Forty Shades of Green"" +""He won't be able to run, he'll have a massive stonker hiding in his trousers"" +""Surely it'll just make him feel worse, it's like accusing him of not being man enough"" +""Rubbish, do you feel inferior when you put your contact lenses in? Does a woman with silicone breasts feel better or worse than she did before. What about dental implants, face lifts and the rest, you're just improving on what nature first gave you. Let me tell you this, when Andy's dick is bright purple and he's been on top of you for twenty minutes the last thing he'll be feeling is unmanly"" +""What did you do? Did you tell Kate before you took that first one?"" +""No, I didn't tell Kate because I didn't expect it to work as well as it did. I wasn't having any real problem so I was just curious and it was a freebie."" +""And then what?"" +Right, I'll tell you but it's going to be a bit graphic so don't be offended. I won't be using the official terminology here, you won't be getting a science lecture. More like a dirty phone call"" +""Number one, it worked like you won't believe. It was like turning the clock back twenty five years when you could stay hard for ages, shoot your load and be hard again an hour later. The first tablet that I got from Kate's dad I used when we went to Ireland for my cousin's wedding. The hotel gave us the room as soon as we checked in and we went to bed so that we'd be bright & breezy when we met the crowd later that day."" +""We didn't go to sleep straight away, When Kate came out of the bathroom wearing a flimsy black satin getup and stockings I realised that we were going to have an early session so I dug one of the tablets out of my shaving bag and put it under the pillow."" +""You're supposed to take these tablets up to an hour before but, like I said, I didn't always have a problem so I took it just as Kate went down on me. It was a hundred milligram tablet which was far too much."" +""So what do you mean -- far too much"" +""I wasn't kidding about the headache and the bright red face and the heart racing, I should have only taken half a tablet. I'll tell you something else, I was lying about it not making your dick bigger. It might not make it longer.... but girthwise, it felt like it was trying to burst out of its skin, it was almost painful. It was so rigid you wouldn't believe it, just like wood, that's what they say in the porno's isn't it? I've got wood"". +""I think you've got wood now"" said Helen and it was true, all this sex talk had woken up my cock and it was trapped in the leg of my jeans trying to unravel itself. +I squirmed around and made myself more comfortable and Helen laughed and said not to hide it, ""don't forget I've seen it before....I've felt it before, you can take those jeans off if you want and remind me what one looks like"". +I didn't respond but she leaned towards me and ran her fingers up the zip of my trousers and felt the hardness beneath the fabric. I tried to laugh it off and said that I was here in a clinical role and that I shouldn't get involved with my patient. But I knew without any doubt that I was going to fuck Helen tonight and I relished that thought. +""I love it when you talk dirty Dr Bailey, tell me about the hotel then, tell me what difference it made when you and Kate had sex using that tablet."" +""Do you want to hear the full gory detail? In very basic terms"" +""I want to hear about every move, every orgasm, every scream."" She took my hand and laid it on her groin, she was wearing khaki jeans and I dragged one finger along the seam that overlaid her slit. +""I think that you might have to sort me out tonight"", She stroked my cock with the flat of her palm and said ""you'll never get to sleep with this"". +I placed my hand on top of hers, it took a mighty effort on my part not to reach out and climb on top of her. ""Here goes then, you asked for it. We're always trying to vary things but there's always been a basic blueprint. That's if you forget about the occasions when we're just having a quickie, you know, when the whole job is finished in five minutes."" +""First of all, it was a warm day, we're on top of the sheets, both undressed apart from the fact that Kate is only wearing stay up stockings. She goes down on me, sucking and pulling on me until I'm almost about to shoot my load, I stop her for a few minutes and then she goes down on me again for a few more minutes until I stop her again. We mess around for another few minutes and then she goes down on me again. When I couldn't take anymore I went down on her, tongue, fingers, whatever, until she came. She's got her hands around the back of my head so I can hardly draw breath and she's bucking like a wild thing."" +""All of a sudden I can feel this pill kicking in. My cock felt so bloated that it didn't even feel like it was mine and that's at the very moment that Kate wants me to fuck her quite hard and fast before her orgasm disappears. She's on her knees holding on to the headboard, I'm behind her and all I can hear is slap, slap, slap, slap as I'm ploughing into her, and it's the best feeling I've had in years. It felt like I was so far inside her that I was going to come out the other side. She's talking filthy, I'm pulling her head back by her hair and the bed is screeching like crazy. Then after a few mad minutes, long after her orgasm has faded, she calms down, and then we slowed things down, changed positions, you know."" +""Oh my god"" Helen was squirming on the bed. ""This is reminding me of Richmond, that was so wild"" +I pretended that it was a distant drunken memory. ""Was that how it was in Richmond? We were quite drunk, I remember that you seemed to be in charge that night and you made a lot of noise. I bet the folks next door thought you were being murdered"" +""Oh god, what a night, you still owe me for a new pair of knickers, can you remember ripping my posh ones to shreds? I came twice, so did you. I probably haven't come since... if you don't count the DIY ones"" +""What a waste"" I said. You should have rung me, I can do house visits"". +""I might do if these pills don't work."" +""Look, you've sidetracked me now, where was I? Anyway, after she's cum we usually try to mix things up a bit, Kate goes on top or on her tummy or on her side. We stop and start, talk, laugh, watch porn, change positions, anything really. +""So that's exactly what we did in Wicklow, I kept stopping and starting and turning her over because I was trying to show her that I could last for ever. Eventually she'd had enough - there's a limit isn't there? so she grabbed my arse with both hands and pulled me right into her and I busted into her until I came"" +""That's how it's been for a while now. I used to take them just to enhance things but the problem with that is that they can be quite addictive. I don't want quickies any more. We're like teenagers again. A few months ago we did just about everything possible and then we stopped for a while and I decided to shave Kate's fanny using lube and my razor - that was because we were going to Spain for ten days. After she'd washed it all clean she sat on the edge of the bed and leaned back and put her legs up in the air while I stood up and drilled her and then I came on her belly which I never ever do. Those pills make me feel as if I can do anything. Yesterday we finished a session by going into the bathroom, she held on to the sink and watched me in the mirror whilst I did her from behind."" +""I know that it probably sounds like we have some kind of porn mag life but we really don't and things don't always go to plan. Before I started using these man pills if I felt that my dick was going soft I would speed up and get it done before it went fully slack. That meant we were finished in just a few minutes which is pretty crap for both of us and so that's where the little pills have started to become very handy. But there are still occasions when we just spoon together, or sometimes Kate doesn't want sex so she'll tug me off until I shoot my load and then we fall asleep. Another one of her bad habits is that she gets carried away when she's on top and she makes me cum too early. It's not as important now though, I just wait a while and do her all over again. +""I can only tell you what they do for me because it sounds as if I'm nowhere near as bad as Andy is. They might only give him an average hard-on. I honestly don't need them all the time but if we're having a full session, say a Saturday or Sunday morning or on holiday or if we're away for a weekend in a nice hotel I'll take half a tablet just when we're starting off."" +""Does Kate know that you take them now?"" +""Oh yeah, we don't have many secrets. I don't make any announcements about whether or not I've had one and she doesn't ask any questions. She's getting good sex so why would she look a gift horse in the mouth. That would be like me upsetting the apple cart by asking how much she paid for a dress or for make-up or for lacy undies. I'm just happy that she makes an effort and looks good so I leave it at that"" +Anyway I buy them on the internet and we share all our bank accounts so I can't hide anything. She asked me when she was checking the statements. I just said yeah, those are those man pills we talked about"". +""Can she tell the difference?"" +I think so. Providing I don't spoil things by shooting my load too early I can stay erect for a whole lot longer. Don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean that I can spend all that time shagging, these things don't give you any extra energy or make you a great lover. It just means that I can take my time and not go soft. Kate can go on top, then on her knees, then on her stomach and all the time we can be talking and messing around. +""Does it just work once or can you go again?"" +""That can vary, once I've nodded off I'm like a dead man until morning but if we have sex during the day, let's say you're on holiday and you've just come back from the pool in the afternoon, then we often go at it again. I love seconds...it's so much better the second time."" +""Seconds"" she lingered over the word, ""Is that what we had? seconds"" She rubbed her groin with the flat of her palm. ""Lucky Kate, I've lost count of the times I've relived that night"" +I'll tell you what the big giveaway for Kate is though, after I've cum I can still carry on shagging for another couple of minute before I go soft. Also, an hour or so later if I'm walking round the bedroom or if I'm in the shower my dick looks like it belongs to someone else. Even though my hard-on has gone down it's still fat and meaty instead of looking like a dried up slug. +Helen reached for my cock once more, ""bigger than this?"" +""Maybe you'll find out very soon if you carry on like that"" +""Does it not make it a bit awkward"" said Helen, ""do you not lose the spontaneity. There's a sexy mood developing, clothes start coming off and then the woman finds that she's got to come back in thirty minutes."" +""No, you're wrong there, have you never heard of foreplay? Andy has a pill waiting by the side of the bed, you let him go down on you and by the time you've come in his face he'll have a cock like a baby's arm"". +""So you say, but are they very expensive"" +""Well, first of all nobody buys V....., that's like buying Panadol for a quid when you can buy paracetamol for twenty pence. I paid eighty quid for forty eight Sildenafil including free postage, I buy the biggest size and cut them in half so that's ninety six nights of great sex. I don't always use one so that lot has lasted me a good while and there's still some left. That's less than a pound for a good ride, nearly as cheap as a Durex but a lot more fun."" +""I thought the internet was where you end up buying fake stuff that doesn't work."" +""The big chemist chains all sell them on the internet but they're expensive. You might get fleeced if you try and cut corners so you're better to go somewhere in the middle. There are plenty of smaller legitimate sellers and it'll be obvious when you've got the right product. It's not like buying wrinkle cream, you'll know you've bought the good stuff when Andy's been bouncing on top of you for twenty minutes and then when he wakes you up an hour later for round two you'll soon be a believer."" +""What about your own doctor? Do these people inform your doctor? Andy wouldn't ever want anything in his records."" +""Nah, just an online survey from the retailer to cover his arse. I think they might ask if you've discussed it with your doctor. How you answer that question is up to you."" +I gave her the name of the site I'd used and then I went into the bathroom and came back with two pills still in their foil bubbles. I was not surprised to find Helen had taken her blouse off to reveal two full moons in a lacy cream bra. +""I've got one here for you to give Andy, probably best if he takes a full one, you don't want to be disappointed........but this one's for me"" and I crunched mine into bits and swallowed hard. ""They work quicker if you crunch them"". +I began to unbutton my shirt. ""Why don't you take that bra off and see if I recognise anything"" +Helen reached behind and unsnapped her bra in a split second and let her two heavy breasts hang free, ""look familiar?"" she taunted. +Then she slowly reached for my zip and we collapsed clumsily on to the bed. Let the fun begin." +842,Thoughts on Going Down,XlornX,How To,2021-01-12,2021-01-12,2022-01-04 08:40:42,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/thoughts-on-going-down,A submissive's suggestion for performing oral on a female.,"['Cunnilingus', 'Direction', 'How-To', 'Oral', 'Oral Pleasure', 'Oral Sex']",4.02,"The art of going down on a woman must first begin with the desire to do so and have it done; start with some suggestive language earlier in the day to set the mood. Unexpected caresses, without getting too intense, can also lead to a more pleasurable experience. Both parties should be clean and comfortable before consummation. Any limits or agreements should be clearly expressed before the first article of clothing is removed. *For the self-control captain and /or to focus fully on pleasing, consider staying clothed for this portion of the evening's events. Tactile variety can bring another dimension to the act and self-control is very sexy. +Cleanliness is key to a pleasurable experience. Take a little time for cuticle care or opt for nitrile or latex gloves to ensure a smooth playtime. Consider oral health care and ladies - make sure you are fresh, clean and coifed to your partner's preferences. +Even something as natural as cunnilingus requires agreement on both sides as to what machinations are and are not acceptable. Will toys be involved? Restraints? Always play safe, sane and consensually and have a safe word and signal in place. +Depending on your preferences you may want your pleaser to jump right in or you may want to wake your body up before that initial carnal contact. I'm going to share from the perspective of a slow burn Señorita and hopefully cover a few bases while I'm at it. +Working women through waves of pleasure can be stimulating on so many levels. Our subject likes that whole body tingle and blood rushing to all the right places before her lover tastes the sweetness they've induced. Think kisses on the neck and over the shoulders with whispers and bites in between. Wake up the skin by following the path of contact, be it a bare hand, feather, or leather if you prefer! Wartenberg Pin Wheels and Violet wands also work well here. Vary between strong and gentle pressure with fingertips over the ribs and belly. Take care if your lady is ticklish. +Enjoy the sensations ladies, so often we are taken out of the experience by an over active and critical mind. This moment is all about you, your lover wants you to enjoy every minute of it, so put your to-do list and worries away. Concentrate on where these sensations are coming from and how close they are to softer, more sensitive flesh. +Hooray for Boobies! Like the elusive unicorn, there are women who can get off on nipple stimulation alone while a stiff breeze puts others off so it is important to know your partner's limits before diving between these mountaintops. +She's Got Legs - And after the intro I hope you know they are silky smooth and ready for attention. The back of the knee is one of those gathering places for good vibes to shiver up and down from, so play around with this area, grabbing the calves and light fingernails up and down the thigh can help you find the rhythm she's rolling with, don't get sucked into one area of focus when going down, there's a whole body of flesh begging to be caressed. And if she's close but you want to prolong the experience, you can stimulate her skin without pushing her over the edge. +Slow, purposeful strokes - Banter abounds about the elusive erogenous zone of the clitoris and I find the easiest way to get this little button out to play is to take slow, broad strokes while paying particularly close attention to the engorgement of this mighty ball of nerves. She can be shy and temperamental, but the right pressure, texture and attention can take meek pleasure experience and turn it into toe curling ecstasy. Love the labia. It's true, the clitoris actually reaches her magic down the length of those luscious lips; so don't ignore the doorway to wonderment here. +Second Verse, Same as the First: But with a bit of a twist, no pun intended. The sister hot spot of the clitoris is notorious for it's positioning as well. But G-spot stimulation needs little more than those slow strokes and a come hither curl, massaging this melt inducing internal point can be done in time with the attentions of either tongue or fingertips elsewhere on the body. +A word on preference: Some ladies want to feel like they're already filled with that hot meat injection, so two or three fingers probing deep inside feels nice... but some women want to experience the pressure build, insides throbbing and the tease of a g-spot tickle. Circling that open space with just a bit of pressure can be a maddening delight. +Finally, unless you're going into the game knowing this is an edging exercise, in the immortal words of Mortal Kombat, ""Finish her!"" +Some women get incredibly sensitive when they orgasm and need a break from direct stimulation, some want to be pushed to climbing the walls. Sometimes there is a sweet compromise where you slow and soften your pace and as a bonus, the jolts and sounds this can elicit will make your day." +843,Three Way Stimulation,magic_tantra,How To,2005-01-31,2005-01-31,2022-01-04 08:40:44,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/three-way-stimulation,This is a hot way to peform oral sex on your lady.,"['Clitoral Area', 'Dildo Sliding', 'Finger Ass', 'Finger Good', 'Head Crotch', 'Lay Head', 'Make Lick', 'Middle Finger', 'Soapy Finger', 'Sucking Biting']",4.04,"I suggest that if you are in love with someone and wish to share intimate oral stimulation that you shower with your lover before any love making session. Starting off with a shower will make you both relaxed, knowing that both of you have squeaky clean bodies. Take turns soaping and fondling each others bodies. Use your whole body as a wash rag, make it really soapy and rub up and down each others torsos. Sliding your crotch up and down a nice shapely ass turns both men and woman on. Men avoid any penetration in the shower because the purpose of this lesson is to clean, relax, and tease your partner and yourself so that you both will voraciously attack each other sex with your succulent mouths. +Learn how to wash your ladies pussy in a way that pleases her. Woman do not like a soapy pussy so be careful. I wash my lover's pussy with the stream of the shower on her crotch and use my tongue in all the nooks and crannies of her flowery folds to get her sexually interested in more oral activities later in bed. Avoid licking the clitoral area because you do not want her to come in the shower and get turned off for more oral play. Afterwards you both need to go to bed immediately for more fireworks. +Make sure that her anus is clean by inserting a soapy finger. (A good loving man always has one of his middle finger nails cut short so when he stimulates his loves ass she will not feel a sharp nail.) As you showering with your lover clean her anus gently with a soapy finger and she will love you for it. If you really want to give her a treat use one finger on her clit, and with your finger in her ass, screw your soapy digit in and out of her ass and give her a quick taste of pleasure just short of orgasm as a real tease. Make sure you clean your finger good afterwards in the shower and remember to use that same finger for anal play only. Never put a finger that you slide into your lover's ass into her vagina without thoroughly washing it first to avoid any bacteria getting into her vagina. +Ladies do not be afraid to grab your loves cock and balls and soap them hard. As you masturbate him look him in the eyes and let him know who is boss. Get him nice and ready, just before he comes squeeze the base of his dick, grab his balls pulling them away from his body to discontinue his pre-orgasmic climax, giving him a good case of blue balls. This is your payback time to tease. Soaping a man's cock brings him to submission faster than anything else. +For those ladies who are a bit more open and willing to please your man, a good prostate massage in the shower will get his motor running. Wash his anus good first and goose him with a well clipped middle finger. Otherwise, save your well manicured nails and use a rubber glove. Stick your finger in his ass a few inches and press under his balls with the flat of your finger finding his prostate gland, sometimes called the male G-spot. It is the size of a walnut and loves stimulation. As you rub and press you finger on his button continue squeezing and jacking his shaft and watch the clear liquid from his gland begin to drool from his pee hole. Make him beg for more and then stop with a promise of more when you hit the sheets. +Now if you want to give all that you can give for your lover during cunnlinigus, try this! This is an exercise in an artful and stimulating 69. I suggest lots of foreplay, kissing, massage, whatever makes both of you comfortable for intimate oral sex. Once you are comfortable with your lover and are ready for oral sex; get ready to fly. This loving act is for the woman's total stimulation and pleasure. +The male lies on his back. It is up to his partner if she wishes him naked, clothed, or wearing only a jock strap to hide his cock. From a female perspective it would be a challenge to dress your man in a jock so he is not allowed any stimulation during this erotic act so he can concentrate on giving the woman all the pleasure. But if your bi polar and want to suck his cock at the same time that is fun as well. +Straddle your partner and present your pussy to his mouth. Leave your pussy up in the air for a minute so he can view your female sexual anatomy and worship it. Tell him to say something about your sex that will turn you on as a challenge to get him thinking about pussy even more. Never begin sucking his cock till your nice and ready to after he has licked and nurtured your pussy with his tongue. The guy should get you nice and wet first licking all over your labia and using his saliva to lubricate your vagina. Give him your favorite dildo or G-spot stimulator and have him insert it into your vagina. Make him lick it good coating it with saliva so it will slip in easier. A good stud should know how to suck your toys for you and get them wet. Next he sticks his middle finger in his mouth for lubrication and delicately sticks it in your asshole. Make sure his nail is clipped short so your delicate anus is not scratched. Lay you head in his crotch and enjoy as he licks your clitoral area screws you with the dildo and stimulates your anus with his finger. +If you have a good sensual relationship you can use his cock as a signal device by sucking and biting it when you need more stimulation. Sucking if you like what he is doing and biting if he is going to harsh with you. If you are into giving even more enthusiastic stimulation try sucking his balls and biting the chord as you pull his balls with your mouth away from his body. +I found it is better to leave the middle finger in your partner's anus up to the second knuckle and only move it slowly around and around. I like the feeling I get against my partners thin tissue as I feel the dildo sliding inside her vagina. I can sense pain or pleasure with my finger as her anus squeezes my finger or relaxes as she is pleasured. Use most of your effort on the dildo sliding in and out of the vagina so you can pleasure your partner better. If you like slip the dildo from her pussy and lick off the juices for an inner taste of her juices. Your mouth will become one with her vaginal tastes. +With your G-spot being stimulated, along with your clitoral area, as well as your asshole you should be on your way to orgasm city with fireworks and lights. Lay back and notice the choices and differences of feeling your partner is lovingly producing in your genitals. Stop sucking his cock lay your head in his crotch and let the vibrations transcend through your body and let go like never before. Surprise your man and roar like a hungry lioness after her prey. Tell him you want Moarrrrrrrr. +Once he makes you wild if you like reward him with a suck from a lioness biting and scraping your teeth on his male cock that need taming. Suck his fluids from his cock into your mouth and like a lioness share your spoils with your male treating him to a taste of his own medicine. Stick your come coated tongue down his throat and make him lick it all off. Watch him lick his lips swallowing in prideful gulps." +844,Three Ways Not to Have an Affair,wife2hotblk,How To,2009-01-22,2009-01-22,2022-01-04 08:40:45,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/three-ways-not-to-have-an-affair,Simple ideas for those battling infidelity.,"['Faithful', 'Marital Infidelity', 'Marriage Advice', 'Relationship Advice', 'Self-Help']",4.17,"Like millions of couples, my marriage struggles with the issue of sex. As is often the case when one person has a significantly higher sex drive than the other, we have argued more than once about what should be the most pleasurable benefit of marriage. Many others in similar positions explore options such as open relationships or extra-marital affairs. For us though after failed relationships in the past and having been the other person in more than one marriage, we both meant the 'forsaking all others.' That is not to condemn those, who have chosen other paths. It is simply recognition that this article may not be relevant to your situation. +My situation may seem unique: a woman begging and pleading with her husband for more sex. I believe though that as the sexual revolution has freed women to express their needs, many will discover that they have desires stronger and more frequent than their partners. Despite having a long and honest discussion about sexual appetite before we married, I have come to realise that few men can admit that their women have appetites beyond theirs. More culturally norm of course is the man, who remains desirous of sexual fulfilment several times a week or even a day. Overtime, his partner may become less tolerant of what she may have at first found faltering. As I said, I have been the other woman in such a marriage, more than once. It is the experience as the 'other' woman that formed my belief that if someone is getting their needs, physical and emotional, met at home then he or she will not stray. +But what happens if you are in a situation where those needs, either physical, emotional or both are not being met? What if you are still deeply in love with your partner and do not want to engage in extra-marital affairs or open relationships? This article is born out of my personal struggle with just such issues. It is about three key things I have found that have allowed me to remain faithful to my husband and minimised long term damage to the love and commitment we share for one another. I share this in the hope that others will find it useful. It is by no means exhaustive. If you have found other things, which have helped you in similar situations, I would very much appreciate you sending those through email or feedback. Because as I think anyone in this situation will appreciate, this is a continual struggle much the same as alcoholics or drug-addicts in a seven-step programme. I hope to learn as much or more from you than the simple options I offer here. +1) Talk about it. Do not ignore the issue or feel as if you must keep the problem to yourself. In as neutral language as possible, let your lover know that you are having difficulty. Keep the discussion focused on 'I' words; I would like more sex. As opposed to more accusatory, 'You never make love to me anymore.' The other thing to remember is that the issue may not be solved with a single discussion. You may need to with loving persistence bring the subject up over and over again. Perhaps I should have even phrased this as 'talk about it, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, etc.' That is hard, because you do not want to seem as if you are nagging your partner. On the other hand, if you cannot discuss what is bothering you, sexually or not, then your situation is compounded. A couple of things I have found that make it easier to distinguish between nagging/begging and constructive discussion is to bring the subject up not in the heat of passion, but in a calm manner and perhaps even neutral location. It is sometimes easier to open the topic over a nice dinner out, than over coffee the morning after your advances were once again rejected. There should be a clear distinction between talking about it and fighting about it. Not that fighting does not have its place. Sometimes arguing is the only way to communicate how strongly you feel about something; it is also a good excuse to have great make-up sex. Yet, most of the progress towards resolution to your unique situation is likely to come not from heated arguments, but from thoughtful, considerate communication with your lover. No matter what, never stop talking. I have actually warned my husband, 'the day I quit talking about this is the day you need to really worry.' +2) Remember the good stuff. For all of us, there are unique qualities of our partners that first attracted us to them or things we have discovered along our shared path in life that make us love and respect that person. Unfortunately during difficult times, we tend to focus not on those positives, but the negatives. If we make a conscious decision to remember those positives, our struggles take a new and bigger perspective. For me, I have found numerous reasons that I want to remain faithful to my husband. Chief among those reasons is that I still find him terribly sexy. I tell him it is his fault that he has ruined me for other men. I can honestly say if I were to look for another partner, he would just about need to be hubby's identical twin. Of course, there are other reasons as well; some silly, such as my telling him that I could not divorce him because I might lose his mother. Others though are deeply moving. For me after an acrimonious divorce that has harmed my older children and an almost idyllic separation from my former partner that even then has been difficult for our son, our daughter is a large portion of this equation. It is not simply that we share a child though. It is the type of father that my husband is which seals this deal. For instance, my husband, who is a slightly shorter version of Michael Clarke Duncan from the Green Mile, came home last night from work and despite being exhausted lovingly allowed our three year-old daughter to adorn his gargantuan form with her bracelets, necklaces and even her Disney Little Princesses flashing crown. It is a moment I shall remember for all time. Tell me, what other man could ever compete with that? +3) Find other outlets. It may seem trite to suggest, but finding other things to distract you can in the short term at least help to temper the situation. It may seem ironic, but I returned to an earlier love of writing erotica. I found that I could take these pictures, fantasies and thoughts and by transferring them into words and stories on a screen I could relieve the sexual tensions. I could escape my reality and for a brief time become someone else. I could live out my fantasies yet remain chaste and faithful to the man I love. This obviously is not a solution for everyone. There are other options; a hobby, the gym, or friends. A profitable although potentially consuming and ultimately counter-productive option is to throw yourself into your work. Recognise though that these outlets whatever they may be are not a solution in themselves. They are merely an option in context of the other two; an opportunity to distract ourselves from the situation. +The obvious question of course is: what makes you the expert? The honest answer is that I am not. I am simply a human being, who like you may be struggling with this issue. I actually debated whether or not I had any right to write this article; given that there are days and sometimes even weeks when I wonder whether or not I will be successful in this endeavour long term. In the end, it came down to the simple fact that whether or not I successfully apply these three principles over the next twenty or more years, I still believe in them. As I said though, I do not hold myself up as an expert and definitely welcome suggestions and dialogue with others, who share this struggle." +845,Three Ways to Avoid Heartache,bewindsor,How To,2006-06-06,2006-06-06,2022-01-04 08:40:45,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/three-ways-to-avoid-heartache,How to find out early if your partner is a good match.,"['Dating', 'Falling In Love', 'First Date', 'Love Advice', 'Relationships', 'Self-Help']",4.29,"> ""Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in > the same direction."" > \- St. Antoine of Exupery +How many times has this happened to you? You fall ""in love"" with the man or woman of your dreams. You feel an instant connection; one you have never felt before with any other person. You find yourself thinking of them during the first waking moments of each day and again just before you drift off to sleep at night. The thought of his smile or her perfume fills your chest with pure and simple exhilaration. They have their faults most certainly, but their faults are minute compared to the plethora of good qualities they possess. Your love for them consumes you. ""This"" you say to yourself, ""is truly the one!"" +As time passes, your flame while still capable of intense passion for them, finds a more comfortable lower level of intensity. You are still intensely in love with them, but the passing of time has allowed you regain the majority of your senses. +As the relationship intensifies, you begin to discuss your desires, interest, and motivation for the future. How do you both feel about having and raising children? How do you both view the importance of money and material things? Where do you want to be in your life and career 10 or even 20 years from now? As the answers reveal themselves one by one, you suddenly begin to realize the vast chasm that exists between the two of you. +Obviously, this is a crucial point in the relationship where many difficult questions must be asked and answered. Please take note of that last sentence. Asking the questions is not the solution to this obstacle. It is the asking and the answering that absolutely must be done when confronted with such a situation. +Can the two of you reconcile your different perspectives on the future in a way that is fair and considerate to each other? Or, are the differences simply too far apart for you both to find a sense of happiness and fulfillment in your lives together? Remember the quote at the beginning, only by ""looking together in the same direction"" will your love last. +It has been my experience that delaying these questions will place you many months (or even YEARS!) deep into a relationship that is destined to bring you nothing but drama and heartache when the moment of truth arrives. +Here are 3 quick suggestions for getting to the heart of the matter as early as possible: +1\. Begin Probing Immediately +No matter how you meet that special some one, it is never too early to subtly gain information about their future plans. DON'T GO PSYCHO!!! A barrage of questions about kids and money will make you look like a freak. Practice subtlety. Ask a probing question then back off. You don't want this to resemble a homicide investigation. A well placed question here and there on the phone, on dates, and anywhere else you spend time with him or her will quickly add up to a rough outline of your possible differences. The first phone call (if lengthy), first date, first e-mail can all help you discover these truths if you play it cool. +2\. Listen +You have to listen actively to your perspective lover. The old saying goes, ""You have two ears and one mouth for a reason"". Listen twice as much as you speak. When you listen, truly listen. Do not distract yourself thinking about your next question or over analyzing something that was said. If something was unclear or struck you in strange way, ask him or her to explain further. Actively listen for verbal clues about past relationships, jobs, and activities. Don't read into anything. Just listen and ask them to explain further if something is unclear. You don't want to eliminate a potentially great person from your life because of a misunderstanding. Be patient. If you didn't get a straight answer, there will be opportunities to probe that area again some time later. +3\. Be True to Yourself +If your intuition is telling you that you will not be able to overcome something he or she has said, be honest with yourself and consider it. The rush of emotion when we find some one interesting can often let ourselves feel that ""It's not that big of a deal"". WRONG!!! While your heart is going pitter- patter in the beginning it is ""not that big of a deal"", but you know as well as I do that somewhere down the road it will be a MAJOR deal! Save yourself the drama and the heartache. If you realize that something is not going to work in the beginning, you must address it. Putting it off for later is only going to hurt you and them. Remember: don't call it quits over a misunderstanding. Have them clarify, clarify, clarify. If you are completely convinced you understand them and the difference is too much to handle, then you know what you must do. +These questions are crucial. Many people have and will ignore this issue while foolishly mumbling the old saying, ""opposites attract"". Don't be fooled! Applying that adage to this situation is relationship homicide. +You must be in-tune with your partner on matters concerning your future together. Understanding where you are now and where you will be in the future as a couple is imperative to a successful and enjoyable relationship." +846,Threesome Guide for Couples,roomfor1more,How To,2010-12-06,2011-05-05,2022-01-04 08:40:47,8,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/threesome-guide-for-couples-pt-01,1. One perspective on bringing up the idea of a threesome. 2. Boundaries & Communication. 3. Selection of the third person - a generic perspective. 4. Broad overview of planning a safe threesome for couples. 5. Short introduction on how to understand threesome risk. 6. A possible low pressure option when meeting the 3rd person. 7. Final installment expectations for threesome and after. 8. Improving communincation basic terminology for a threesome.,"['Communication', 'Relationship', 'Self-Help', 'Sex Advice', 'Sex How-To', 'Single Female', 'Threesome']",3.99,"**Introduction** +Many of have seen porno movies of threesomes. Some of us have used them as a catalyst to start the conversation with our significant other, others have used them as a bridge to start a threesome, and others wonder how to make it happen in reality. Others of us may find pornos a bit too humorous to watch with the bad acting and bad scripts, instead the idea of having a threesome has come about from ""pillow talk"" during foreplay. Whatever the source for considering the idea, this series will be a guide on having a threesome and it will cover most aspects that a couple will encounter including some misperceptions. It will cover the main points such as terminology, fantasy versus reality, communication, boundaries, choosing the third, friend versus stranger, safety, two male versus two female threesome, variations of threesomes, and when a threesome is right for a couple. Finally it should be noted that is information is an opinion that may or may not work for couples. + **Scope** +The perspective that I will be using will be that of a committed couple exploring the idea of having a threesome. While my writings may at times seem not to advocate the idea, I tend to present a balanced approach, in order for anyone considering the idea to appreciate what the decision may entail. The type of threesome that I will exploring is the general threesome that does not involve an open relationship. My reason for choosing the perspective is that I do feel for a couple that is in a committed relationship they have the most to loose if threesome goes wrong and I feel that there is allot of misinformation out there. As a writer I do accept that some couples can discuss the idea once and have a perfectly enjoyable threesome. However I do feel such a situation is fraught with risks and may pose potential problems later for the couple. Therefore my perspective is one that I hope With that said the information presented hopefully will help couples, along with helping single males to understand the process for couples, helping single females, and hopefully help some more experienced couples too. + **Chapter 1 -- The Beginning** +This chapter will look at the first step, which is considering the idea and how to approach the subject with your significant other. This chapter will be divided into two parts. First part will discuss introspection, the process of examining the idea and the second part will examine how to bring up the idea. + **Introspection** +It goes without saying that having a threesome or even discussing a threesome will forever change a relationship. Reaching the decision to have a threesome must be a decision that each person makes freely without undue influence and both must be in agreement to what will happen in the threesome. The process needed to reach the decision of having a threesome is a journey that begins with the first step of introspection. Before even having the first discussion it is important to broadly understand what are asking your partner to undertake and what you will, potentially, be exposing yourself. By proposing a threesome to your significant other you are in essence asking them to consider either having sex with someone else while you watch or having them watch while you have sex with someone. In the event you are asking your significant other to have sex with someone else it is important that you begin to understand that nothing can fully prepare yourself for watching your partner having sex with someone else. For many couples, the suggestion borders on the idea of acceptable cheating and can bring about a plethora of emotional responses. Therefore, it is important to do some introspection before even starting the conversation. +Probably the best starting point is beginning to understand that there is a difference between fantasy of having a threesome, like in a porno movie, and the stark realities of having a threesome because there is a vast difference. In a fantasy you can be the producer, director, writer, actor / actress, cameraperson, and stage crew. This means you have complete artistic control of the scene and complete control of the outcome. Whereas, in reality you are one person is a three person arrangement that has, no control over the other two and the only control you have is how you choose to react to events that are occurring. Once you can grasp that how you see the threesome happening in your mind's eye is not going to the how it happens then you are reads to begin to run through what a threesome might look like and how it might turn out. +Trying to figure out what type of threesome that might work for you as a couple and what it might entail takes some work. Reality is there are two strands that need to be considered. One strand is trying to do some research. This is not always easy because the subject is relatively taboo and not much is written about it. The literature out there tends to toss a wide blanket over the subject that includes swinging, group sex, and open relationships. Moreover this means you will need to read allot and disseminate the information that is applicable to your situation. Second strand it running through in your mind's eye an examination of the subject from 360° perspective. Areas you probably would want to consider are potential boundaries, risks, your partner's reaction to the idea, who do you want to invite, type of person to be invited, issues, concerns, safety (personal and sexual), structure of the threesome, and where to find them. In addition you need to consider areas like what if... happens and if it did happen how would it be addressed? Essentially you are running through different scenarios and coming up with contingency plans for them. After you have done some initial research, given the idea some consideration, and still feel it is an idea worth pursing then the next step is starting the initial discussion. + **First Discussion** +As a couple you may have watched porno movies with threesomes or role played the idea with great results in the bedroom. You may have included a few people that you know as a way to enhance the experience or the idea has something that is never discussed. Regardless of what role the fantasy of having a threesome may play the one thing that is still missing is a discussion outside of the bedroom regarding this idea. This section will examine this aspect. +Introducing the idea is never easy and it is unpredictable. Allot of where future discussions go depends to some extent on this discussion and your knowledge of your partner's reaction to discussions that can become involved. Many people who consider bringing up the idea believe seek a magical formula that can convince their partner to have a threesome but the reality is the only way to reach the point of having a threesome is through communicating with each other. Furthermore, even if the first discussion is successful it still means there is more discussing that needs to occur and it is therefore important to see this as a journey, not a sprint to have a threesome. The only way to have this discussion is by being direct and forthright. Using euphemisms, being passive, speaking indirectly, speaking about the idea during the ""heat of passion"" in the bedroom or bringing up the subject by using sock puppets acting out the proposed idea can only lead to misunderstandings later. It is only by speaking honestly, respecting each other's feelings, speaking about the subject outside of the bedroom, and listening to what each other says will lead to this issue getting some direction. At this point I could go through some suggestions on how to bring up the idea but my feeling is that it would distract form the discussion and I feel there a numerous ways an individual could lead into the discussion and much of it depends on your knowledge of your partner. +This now leads to the question how do you bring up the subject? Bringing up the subject does not mean you have to be brutally direct about it nor does it mean you need blurt out the subject while spending time together. Instead it means being prepared, using what you have learned during your introspection, and using what you know about your partner to time the discussion. This means there is a bit of timing in the subject and it should happen when the two of you can discuss the subject rationally. Moreover it means that you have work through how you will bring it up and you have worked out, to some extent, the type of reaction you expect from your partner. +Your planning and your partner's reaction will dictate your next step. Should your partner not be receptive, at this stage to the idea, then I would recommend taking time to build up the relationship so that they feel secure and then reproach the subject in no earlier than 12 months time. It maybe your partner is not receptive to idea or it may mean they need time to process the information. Giving time to process the information and being willing to answer any questions that they may bring up will help to move the process forward. In addition because of the unpredictable nature of having the discussion it means being restrained, patient, not rushing it and understanding may help more than trying to be confrontation about it. However if your partner seems receptive to the idea your first reaction should not be finding threesome and swinger's sites to join. Instead it means talking about it some more and it may mean that as couple you may have to come back to it at a later time when you do not have distractions. Once the two of you reach agreement about discussing the idea further then you are ready for the next step which is the next chapter. + +" +847,Threesome Planning Made Simple,roomfor1more,How To,2011-02-24,2011-02-24,2022-01-04 08:40:52,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/threesome-planning-made-simple,Planning a threesome for couples beginning their journey.,"['Communication', 'Essential', 'Group Sex', 'Sex Advice', 'Sex Guide', 'Threesome', 'Threesome How To']",3.94,"**Introduction:** +What do you think of when you hear the words, planning a threesome? It can invoke an image of an erotic experience being deprived of its essential character and being reduced to its most simple elements. Also, it may conjure up images of a couple staying up late at night going over every minutia of their planned threesome and throwing up their hands because they have been too overwhelmed. For others it may invoke a feeling that planning is a waste of time because it detracts from the excitement of having a threesome. Whatever image it conjures for you, planning a threesome should not be seen as a negative event. Instead it should be seen as an activity that is shared together that can help ensure that the relationship survive the threesome and to mitigate the risk that a threesome can bring to the relationship. + _Defining Planning & Overview of this opinion piece_ +In order to prevent confusion regarding what is mean by planning a threesome, in this article planning a threesome it means examining the idea of having a threesome from various angles in order to reach an agreement, understanding what is going to happen, finding a way to work through any unresolved issues and to cover any issue that may get overlooked. Essentially, planning a threesome is the process brings together any concern, highlights any expectation and outputs a plan to ensure that each person's interest is addressed. Therefore, while there is no one way to examine the issue of planning threesome, this article will provide an opinion of a way addressing it by examining a few of the core elements this author feels that needs to be included. Nonetheless this article is not meant to be an exhaustive treatise on the subject and is only meant to provide a rudimentary template for couples to adapt to their situation. +Finally I am well aware that not everyone believes that a couple should have sex with someone outside of their relationship and that is a viewpoint that is respected by me. Nonetheless, this author feels whatever an adult couple with the ability to consent decides to do in their home is their decision. My feeling it is better to provide an opinion on an aspect of a threesome than for a couple to enter a threesome without much guidance thereby undertaking unnecessary risk to their relationship. Therefore, this article targets couples who are considering the idea but need to understand how to approach it. Last point, this article will attempt to look at having a threesome from various points in order to suggest to couples how to approach planning a threesome and since no two threesomes are the same it is impossible to write a piece on how to plan a threesome. This means for a couple reading this piece, this piece provides a suggest template for them and then from there they can modify it to fit their needs. + **The Basics & Assumptions** +By now the initial discussion has happened and there is, at some level, an agreement to explore how a potential threesome might operate. At this stage in this journey, there may be a flurry of emotion ranging from panic due to not knowing what to expect to excitement of seeing your partner having sex with someone else or excitement arising from being able to have sex with someone else. Nonetheless, tempering excitement occurs because the uncertainty that a threesome brings and the beginning realization that if the threesome turns bad then the relationship may end. Such a realization produces mixed feelings and uncertainty, in which taking some time to plan could possibly resolve. +Before getting into the heart of this article, it is important to explain some of the basics regarding planning a threesome. It is not meant to bore you. Instead it is meant to provide a common understanding before talking about planning a threesome and briefly discuss some of the underlying principles that exist. To begin with, before embarking on this activity the couple needs to make their decision based on the right reasons and this will be discussed more in a few moments. Planning a threesome in a very broad sense is an agreement that dictates how the threesome will operate, how the third person will be selected, and how potential issues will be addressed. It draws on each other's limitations, each other's expectations, each other's concerns, each other's desires and fuses them into a plan. Essentially, it provides a framework that the couple can use and it can provide a sense of security since it defines the limits. Second, the plan is something that is adaptable, meaning the plan is flexible so that it can change as more information becomes available. Third, the plan cannot be vague and it needs to have some detail to it. Level of detail needs to be at a level that there is no confusion about what has been agreed. Without having some detail to the plan the risk increases that a misunderstanding will occur. Fourth, it needs to cover the essential aspects of the threesome, the aspects of having a threesome that would create problems if it was not clarified. Finally any plan must have participants that freely choose to participate without coercion, pressure, or manipulation. It also means that the couple has taken time to consider the risks, included in their plan ways to address the risks, and are nonetheless willing to take them. +360 ° Overview of Planning a Threesome + 1. Fantasy versus Reality and knowing the difference +Planning a threesome in many ways is like being a child in a toy store, there are so many options and decisions to make that it can be overwhelming. At the start of the threesome journey many possibilities can be envisioned with many possible routes and like a child in a toy store there are so many choices to be made it can be overwhelming. The overwhelming choices can sometimes lead to setting unrealistic expectations and wanting to do as much as possible in one session. By planning it helps to bring out what is realistically attainable and knowing what is most likely not attainable in their threesome. Learning this comes in part from communicating but it also comes from learning as much as they can about having a threesome. This topic is fairly simple to state but it can be very broad covering many issues. Below are four examples of how this topic can influence planning a threesome. + **Example:** One example I can think of is the desire to perform DP on the female half of the couple. From a logistical standpoint DP can be very difficult to do and for males it can call into question their sexuality. For a couple just starting out not knowing their limits doing DP might not be the best choice and it may be something that requires a level of trust that needs to be built with the third person in order to allow it to happen. + **Example #2:** A couple may have a porn movie image of a threesome whereby it happens naturally and it is a completely erotic experience whereby guys have permanent erection that can hold off hours before they cum and women get instantly aroused when they see more than one erect ""cock"". However when they have it the find issues like awkwardness, not being able to move from having a conversation to actually having the threesome, premature ejaculation, performance anxiety, jealousy, and feeling bad after the threesome happens occurs. In this situation the fantasy of having a threesome can be very different than the reality of having a threesome. It is therefore important that anyone having a threesome comes to term with the fact that the fantasy of having a threesome can be very different than actually having a threesome. + **Example #3: Reasons for having a threesome -- Is it the right reason?** +While writing this piece where to place was a big struggle for me and ultimately I decided to place here. My reason for placing it here with a title is because this topic falls under the definition of fantasy versus reality. In this sense the fantasy of having a threesome is rooted in the magical thinking that having a threesome is a panacea for all problems in a relationship while ignoring the problems that it can create for a relationship. Furthermore it challenges those planning a threesome to think about the reason for wanting to have a threesome before embarking on the journey to plan the threesome and while planning their threesome each individual should ask them what the reason for wanting to have a threesome is? If the reason is to prevent cheating, add spice to the relationship, feeling pressure to have one, to fix a troubled relationship, wanting to have one because it is a quick way to get ""laid, it looks fun in the movies, or being coerced into having one then this author feels the reason to have a threesome may be wrong due to the reason for wanting to have a threesome is based more in fantasy thinking than the realties of having a threesome. + **Example #4: Boundaries are not needed and told my partner they can do anything they want in the threesome because I want them to be able to experience a threesome without restrictions:** +In this author's opinion this belief is reminiscent of humanistic ideas like unconditional love. Granted in most cases a parent's love is unconditional. Nonetheless what happens if the child announces they are gay or is arrested for selling drugs because they are a part of a gang. For some parents there is a limit, even temporary, to their unconditional love. Likewise when it comes to planning a threesome there needs to be some discussion, especially if you are starting out. To say there are no boundaries says, in this author's opinion, that having a threesome takes priority quite magical thinking for someone starting out and it demonstrates the lack of understanding of what is involved in a threesome. It ignores that everyone has a limit and this author feels it demonstrates that there is a lack of communication that exists with the couple. + 1. **What will a threesome mean for the relationship?** +For a couple wanting to have a threesome, maintaining the relationship after the threesome happen and minimizing the negative impact of the threesome is a goal for any threesome that involves some form of committed relationship. This means asking the above question will help a couple begin to identify areas that they need to examine and it is a question that needs to be asked regularly, as they plan their threesome. By asking this question on a regular basis and asking it as it relates to each part of their plan it can to help identify those areas that may cause problems if not addressed in more detail. Plus by asking this question it will help ensure that both continue wanting to have a threesome and that both are willing to undertake the risk, thereby helping to ensure that this is a mutual decision. + 1. **Boundaries** +Talking about boundaries for some can be depressing because it means this discussion will slow down the rapid pace to have a threesome and it acknowledges that a threesome can adversely impact a relationship. Starting point for the discussion of boundaries lies in the recognition that having a threesome is a mutual decision in which all share an equal responsibility for it happening. This means that each person is responsible for their decisions, they are responsible for what happens to them, and they are responsible for their feelings. Furthermore the issue of boundaries has been addressed in my previous writings and this section will expand on the issue of boundaries by examining specific parts that may define boundaries for a couple. It is important to remember that boundaries act as a safety net by defining the limits of the threesome, address concerns in order to allow a threesome to happen, and even though there may be some implied boundaries like no means no boundaries for the most part boundaries are unique to couple. Also it is important to remember that agreeing to boundaries is only ½ of the process the other half involves stating your boundaries to the third person. In a two male threesome the invited male can share their expectations / boundaries but with the couple having a plethora choices for potential male invites, if he gets to be too pushy then the couple can easily choose someone else. Unfortunately when it comes to a two woman situation the couple needs to be open about negotiating their boundaries if they want to make it happen and if they do not then they may find that they have a long search. This does not mean that a couple should give up a ""must have"" boundary for a two female threesome but instead it means they need to understand the less they are willing to negotiate on boundaries then the longer it may take them. + 1. **Activities in a threesome** +Determining what activities can occur in a threesome sounds a lot like planning a trip to a distant country. Like planning a trip to a foreign country, the tempering of the excitement occurs when discussing what can occur in a threesome after realizing there are competing demands such as personal comfort limits and time. This means in order for threesome to work individuals needs to be in tune with their limits, be able to discuss them openly, and being willing to listen to other people's limits. In addition, it means there is no magical formula on splitting attention between two other people, what needs to occur, or what does not occur in a threesome. +With that said, the best advice for couples that are just beginning exploring threesomes is to keep it simple and not to push their limits. After having a few threesomes a couple will get beyond the thrill of having one and begin to understand where their limits currently exist. If they push their limits too much the individual may find that they are left feeling bad about the experience or may burnout too quickly. For couples who are want to progress slowly or not 100% sure that having a full threesome is for them then they may want to consider a ""soft-swing"" situation where the invited person participates but no intercourse happens between the couple and the invited third person. + 1. **Selecting a third person** +This has been covered to some extent in a previous article and the same information will not be repeated here. Nonetheless, it is important that the couple begins discussing the type of person that they want to invite and understand, a bit, of the reasoning for it. Talking about the type of person to invite and agreeing to the broad characteristics that the person needs will serve as a template from which the couple will make their decision and it will serve as a boundary from which they will not exceed. Without including the discussion of what type of person to invite it leaves open the possibility that the wrong person may be selected and by talking about the type of person to invite it reduces the chance that the wrong decisions regarding selection will be made. + 1. **Safe word or Signals** +Safe word means a word that they couple recognises but the selected third person does not recognise. Unlike the term safe word when used in a BDSM context to mean a word that cannot be confused with the scene that brings the action to a stop without question or retribution due to a level discomfort. In this situation, a safe word is a word where the couple knows the meaning and the meaning is meant to be a signal. Likewise, instead of using a word to signal something the couple could opt to use a gesture or a behavior to serve the same purpose. The signal could be approval, disapproval, or anything else the couple feels as though they need to communicate to each other. Problem here is if too many words are being used, complex signals, or too many signs then it can create confusion. Therefore it is best to have a very limited number of words or signals. + 1. **To accommodate, not to accommodate, or travel?** +The idea of accommodating someone or travelling to have a threesome can invoke different feelings. It can seem natural for some as an extension of being social in order to have a threesome and for others it can invoke a strong reaction of saying 'no.' Furthermore, for couples that live in rural areas or are struggling to find a third person to invite this maybe the only solution, other than waiting longer to find someone. Accommodating takes on different meaning for different people and each couple has their own feeling on this subject. In this article, accommodating means having the invited individual spend the night with the couple at their request at either their home or staying in the same hotel room. Whereas travelling refers to travelling a significant distance, greater than 50 miles in order to meet. +The starting point for consideration this author feels is examining the distance travelled to meet, the time expected for the threesome to end, and time demands on all participants immediately after the threesome. Consider such issues include does one of them have to work shortly after the threesome. Will there be guests or children coming to visit? What time the threesome might end or did end? +Another point to consider is what space is available and where they would stay. A logical conclusion would be that they would stay in the bed with the couple. However, the couple may want time afterward to connect, reinforce the idea that they are a couple or that they want to keep an emotional distance from the invited third person. In such a case then having them stay in the bed afterwards is not a good idea. This brings up the idea of having them stay in another bedroom, hotel room, or if sharing a hotel room then having them sleep in a separate bed. Final point would be other ancillary issues like how long would they stay, how would it be signalled that it was time for them to leave, and what items would be available for them to use. +Finally, at least from this author's perspective accommodating should not occur especially if the invited third person lives either in the same town or within a short-distance, such as 50 miles. Regarding travelling, travelling needs to be done by the invited person unless the distance is great or they do not drive. In a situation where there is a large distance between the couple and the third person then finding somewhere about halfway that is agreeable to both should occur. Additionally this author feels that accommodating is something that should not necessarily be done by couples just starting out because it can pose some issues for them, such as developing feelings for the invited third person. + **7) Risks** +In a previous article this author addressed the topic of risk and will not restate it. Instead this section will briefly discuss how risk and boundaries relate. It goes without saying that having a threesome, regardless of how well it is planned out or how stable a couple's relationship is, will undertake some type of risk. This risk can be pregnancy, risk to safety, risk of STD / STI, or risk to their relationship to name a few. Since each couple and each threesome is different it is impossible to develop a universal set of risks for a threesome and how to address them. Instead each couple needs to communicate what they feel are the risks, how they can be address and how they can be either eliminated or significantly reduced. From those discussions the couple can have a plan on how to deal with risks that come up and how to address risk as they happen. This type of communication will underpin and shape how the boundaries develop. Without taking time to discuss risk and understand the type of risks that will be faced leaves, this author feels, the couple vulnerable due to a large area this is missing from the discussion. + **8) Writing down the plan or remember it?** +Granted the idea of writing down the plan for a threesome, outstanding issues, and points that need to be followed up reads as though the last few pieces of enjoying a threesome is being sucked out. However writing it down helps to avoid confusion, ensures that outstanding points gets addressed and everyone can remember what has been discussed. At least from this author's perspective writing down the plan and making notes about what has been discussed will help to ensure that everyone is ""on the same page"" regarding the threesome. + **9) Debriefing** +Debriefing is simply talking through the experience in order to work through any issues, to address any concerns, review the plan, make any changes, and decide the next step for the couple. Essentially debriefing is the final step in which the couple try to resolve any issues that may have come up, decide what worked, and decide what their next step will be. It is important, this author feels, that debriefing happens right after the threesome ends and as a part of the plan the couple needs to consider how close to the ending of the threesome this will occur. + **10) Environment** +The environment of where a threesome happens is something that can easily get overlooked and where the threesome occurs can have a big impact on its enjoyment. Without having an area where you can have it without being distracted, without being interrupted, and being a place where you feel secure, it will mean that the threesome is not as enjoyable as you expected. For a couple with children it means that any threesome should not happen in the home when they are there. Beyond the potential safety issue and potential awkwardness it may create for you should your child begin to ask questions, the other issue is that children can become a distraction especially if they are desiring your attention while the third person is present for the threesome. +Along with the logistical concerns other facts such as lighting, color, comfort, and the mood that the room sets all can play a factor. This means taking time to consider issues like temperature and how the room makes you feel. Another consideration is where it will be happening. This means taking into consideration what is being planned, the size of the area, the size of the bed(s), and any other features that may need to be considered. The area has to be large enough to allow three people to change, interact, clean-up, and have a bit of personal space. Also it means the area has to be large enough so that everyone is not fumbling over the others. + **11) Miscellaneous Topics** +If you have made it this far, we are almost done with this subject but there are a few loose ends that need to be tied together. One loose end is the question, how long do you need to plan? Each couple is different with different needs, different concerns, and varying levels of familiarity with each other. Planning can be fairly quick if there is broad agreement and the only thing that is needed is clarifying a few points. However if each person has a different idea about how the threesome will look then it may take some time before a common understanding that leads to agreement will occur. +Second loose end is how often does this plan need to be reviewed? Again it depends on the couple and the level of detail. At a minimum there should be three points. One point is before discussing the plan, whereby each individual states their preference. Then work out the plan keep track of what has been agreed and before the threesome happens taking the plan out to go through it in order to see if it is workable based on what has been discussed. Third point would be after having a threesome then reviewing to see what worked and what needs to be improved. +Third loose end regards the level of detail that is needed. Detail helps to minimize any misunderstanding and cuts down on possible confusion. However it is possible to get too fixated on the details where the plan becomes unmanageable and difficult to understand. Therefore there has to be a balance between detail and simplicity. +Fourth before looking for a third person does the plan need to be completed? Answer is 'no' but a framework should be in place. At a minimum some boundaries and the type of person to choose should be agreed before any searching happens. Plus as things become more certain then the plan can be modified to reflect any changes. +Fifth is there anytime when the plan should not be changed? This author feels the closer you get meeting the third person for a threesome the plan should not be changed unless it relates to safety or a risk that could have a negative impact. Reason for stating this is because emotions, not logic, may begin to influence decisions and the wrong decision may be made. However if there is a safety issue or a risk was indentified that could cause problems if it did happen then that should not stop the change from being made. If it does not relate to risk or safety then in most cases it should be left until debriefing to discuss. +Conclusion & Putting Plan into Action +Planning for a threesome means examining the planned threesome from all possible angles to determine its strengths, it weaknesses, and how to address the needs of those involved. By having, a plan that can be easily adapted to any change will help make a threesome successful. In addition, it means having a plan that is easy to understand will minimize any possible confusion about the plan for the threesome. This means a workable plan will provide a framework for the threesome and help everyone understand the expectations. Nonetheless it will not eliminate all risk of having a threesome nor will it guarantee that there will not be any problems. However it will go a long way to help to protect the relationship and help minimize any problems that may happen. Without a plan that will guide the couple on their journey it will leave them in the dark about each other's needs and concerns thereby increasing the chance for misunderstanding. Therefore, a plan can be said is a way for the couple to ensure their needs are met and minimize the chance that it will be misunderstood." +848,Tips for Amateur Writers,sobstory,How To,2011-10-09,2011-10-09,2022-01-04 08:40:52,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-for-amateur-writers,"Some of the most common, yet overlooked, errors.","['Characterization', 'Editor', 'Plot', 'Style', 'Vocabulary']",4.42,"Little-Known Yet Somehow Obvious Tips For Writers +I my experience as both an editor and a writer, I have come across some very common, but little-known, stylistic errors. +One thing that most people don't seem to understand is how to transform everyday, hum-drum, blah writing into something enjoyable. +Most often, the major problems with a story's readability are style related. Grammar is easy to fix, just buy a grammar book. +Style, on the other hand, is not so obvious. The good news is, you don't need to be Shakespeare to write an entertaining piece of smut, just a fairly intelligent human being with Internet access. +So, I have compiled a list of diagnoses and cures that I **most commonly** prescribe to amateur writers. Please note, this is not a complete grammar and style guide. I recommend getting an actual book for that. +Problem 1: Clunky writing +So many people do not know this! One of the most important things to do, especially while editing, is to use as few words as possible. +I know that on a site like Literotica, where there is a minimum word count, you might be hesitant to actually delete as much as you can, but you must. +The rule of thumb is, look at every single sentence, and ask yourself, ""Is it necessary?"" If it is not needed for plot, characterization, setting, theme, or symbolism, into the trashcan it goes. +But wait! Don't _actually_ throw that into the trashcan! I'm talking about your ""writer's trashcan."" A ""writer's trashcan"" is a Word document I like to keep where I can save all of my favorite non-necessary phrases, sentences, paragraphs, and more! +If there is a sentence that is so completely, universe-shatteringly beautiful, but bulks up your precious writing, put it in here. Maybe you can use it later, in another story. +Now, obviously this tip isn't universal. Writers such as Joseph Conrad are _so_ descriptive that by the time you finish the book, you can barely remember anything about the real world! +However, if you are that good, this is not the article for you. In fact, most of the following rules are like that. Feel free to throw them out the window if you know you can do better without them. +Problem 2: Vocabulary/Description +Vocabulary and description is tricky. There needs to be a balance. Some writing has so little description that it is impossible to visualize what is going on. This type of writing tends to be very clinical and detached. +USE YOUR SENSES! +In erotic writing, your readers will want to feel as if they can see, touch, taste, hear, and smell what is going on. +Here is an example from a (so far) unpublished story of mine: +""His brawny hands cupped her plump rear, marveling at how it could be soft and round yet muscled at the same time. +Her eyes, pitch-black and lined with a fringe of featherlike lashes, fluttered shut as a moan of ecstasy escaped her lips. The color rose on her high cheekbones, the coffee-and-cream skin reddening. +Pulling her closer, he leaned in to gently kiss her the hollow of her neck. His hands roamed up her strong back to nestle into the dip of her waist. She could feel his excitement hard against her groin, right at the place where thigh met hip."" +Now compare it to this: +""He took her rear end in his hands, examining its feel and texture. +Her eyes closed as she vocalized her sexual arousal. Her tan skin blushed. +Pulling her closer, he kissed her neck. His hands moved up and down her back. She could feel his erection against her thigh."" +Essentially, these two passages tell the same story, the characters going through the same motions. However, isn't the first one better? Yeah, I thought so. In addition, a good amount of description is a great way to up your word count. +Huh, you might ask. Didn't you _just_ tell me not to stick words in willy- nilly to up word count? +The answer is yes! Description is _not_ expendable! One of the main purposes of erotica is to arouse your reader and description such as this fits the bill perfectly. It adds to your story stylistically, so it stays. Just don't use so much description that it overwhelms your reader. +On to vocabulary, a surprisingly simpler topic. +The one rule of thumb about vocabulary is to not use any word that you got solely from a thesaurus. The thesaurus is a wonderful tool if you use it right. I mostly like to use it to jog my memory. Generally, I only use synonyms I am familiar with. I will, say, look up ""sheer."" My results are: +diaphanous +see through +gossamer +filmy +thin +What to do, what to do? If you don't know ""diaphanous,"" as most won't, don't use it. If you use a word that you don't know the subtleties and nuances of, you risk embarrassing yourself. The English language is so subtle, even close synonyms can have slightly different meanings. +""Thin"" and ""see through,"" while perfectly acceptable, are a little boring, don't you think? +Personally, I would use ""gossamer"" first, then ""filmy,"" then move onto ""thin"" and ""see through,"" if you still need them. +Another important vocabulary tip! Try not to use the same word over and over! This is why we use the thesaurus. +Problem 3: Unconvincing Characters +Okay. I am not going to go into a whole big spiel on character development here. Honestly, I could do a whole article on that, and my head hurts. So, I recommend taking advantage of the many online ""character templates."" +A ""character template,"" or ""character questionnaire,"" is basically a form providing all of the back-story on a character. It will tell you the way he looks, his family history, his secret fears, dreams, and desires. Look for a form with a lot of questions. +Now, a good form won't simply write your characters for you, but it is a step in the right direction. It can help you figure out what motivates your characters to do what they do. +Importantly, you don't need to fit every piece of information in your story. That would fall under the ""bulky writing"" category. Use as much as you need in the body of the story and use the rest to get to know your characters better. As their creator, you should know them as well as your best friend. +Here is a great character template I use. The questions are culled from many different sources: + _Full Name:_ +Nick Name(s): +Gender: +Age: +Birthday/Year: +Marital Status/Sexual Preference: +Spouse: +Hair: +Eyes: +Origin: +Language(s): +Height: +Weight/Body Structure/Physical Faults: +Physical/Mental Health: +Race: +Clothing: +Parents/Guardians: +Siblings: +Friends/Allies: +Enemies: +Beliefs/Religion: +Career/Past Careers: +Dreams/Life Goals: +Speech Patterns/Frequently Used Phrases: +Hobbies: +Likes: +Loves: +Dislikes: +Loathes: +Fears: +Strengths: +Weakness: +Good Qualities: +Bad Habits: +Turn Ons: +Turn Offs: +Natural Talents: +Temperament: +Background: +Both Happiest and Saddest Moments: +What is this character's major goal? +Why is this goal so important to this character? +Are there any events in the character's past that affect the significance of this goal? +Describe your characters life till now, motivations, family situation, pet peeves--anything that comes to you: +What is the one thing in the world your character would do anything to avoid? Why? What has he already done to avoid this? What do you see him doing in the future to avoid it? +What is the one thing in the world your character would do anything in the world to have? Why? What has he already done to try to obtain it? What does he hope to try in the future? +If your character has a job, is he or she good at it? Does he or she like it? +What are your character's bad habits? +If you asked about his or her greatest dream, what would your character tell you? +What's a secret dream that he or she wouldn't tell you about? +What kind of person does your character wish he or she could be? What is stopping him or her? +What is your character afraid of? What keeps him or her up at night? +What does your character think is his or her worst quality? +What do other people think your character's worst quality is? +What is a talent your character thinks he or she has but is very wrong about? +What did his or her childhood home look like? +Who was his or her first love? +What's the most terrible thing that ever happened to him/her? +What was his/her dream growing up? Did he/she achieve this dream? If so, in what ways was it not what the character expected? If your character never achieved the dream, why not? +In what situation would your character become violent? +In what situation would your character act heroic? +Gah! This is a little overwhelming, right? +Relax. You don't need to use all of it. Just answer what you want. +Problem 4: Confusing Plot/Plot Holes +Have you ever read a mystery book and realized, wait, if the detective had to surrender his gun at the security gate, then how is it possible that the murderer got onto the plane with the bomb? +Or, and I have seen this in poorly written pieces, suddenly, the loverboy in a piece of smut goes from having passionate sex with his wife Brenda to having steamy hotness with his wife Lori. +Just PAY ATTENTION! +To wrap up: + _Thanks for reading. As I said before, this is not a complete guide to style and grammar, but merely a short compilation of some of the most common yet overlooked errors amateur writers commit._" +849,Tips for Better Writing,Johnboy9,How To,2010-12-31,2010-12-31,2022-01-04 08:40:53,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-for-better-writing,Some notes on helping others improve their writing skills.,"['Author', 'Blow Job', 'Crossdress', 'Throat', 'Transvestite', 'Writing']",3.68,"I'm not sure one would really consider this a how-to article, but from the categories offered, it seems the closest one that matches the intent of this effort. I have not written this to deprecate or put down any author's writings, but to offer small suggestions that might help improve future writings. I mean no offense and if any is taken, I apologize in advance. +********************* +I) Regarding cock sucking and deep-throating a large cock: +I have read with misgivings when authors write about that moment when a man or woman sucks down a larger than normal-sized cock, one that can reach the greater depths of a person's throat, how the cock passes through the person's mouth. +They usually write at that point that it has touched the back of their throat. Now, I don't mean to be nit-picking here, but my problem with this is one of visualization, or perhaps conceptualization. What I mean to say is, at this point, hasn't the cock really only reached the back of the mouth and now just begun to enter the front of the throat? +It seems to me that it doesn't really reach the back of the person's throat until the cock has been completely swallowed and fully deep-throated, don't you think? I mean, the back of the throat, I would think, would be where the stomach begins or esophagus ends, no? +Take for example, this sentence: +""His cock slid precariously between my teeth until the head of his rod was just at the back of my throat."" +My aforementioned thoughts on the matter would then cause this sentence to read as follows: +""His cock slid precariously between my teeth until the head of his rod hit the tonsils at the back of my mouth, and I knew he was about to force its massive girth down my throat."" +I'm not sure if this is better, or more descriptive, but it does seem to me to more accurately state the step-by-step description of just how a cock travels as a person takes it from lips to esophagus. +A picture in my head, so to speak, looks like this: The cock, traveling from lips to pallet to pharynx to throat and finally to gullet, or rather, esophagus, that is, the back of the throat. +If you agree or disagree, I would love feedback regarding this concept. +************************** +II) Regarding grammatically incorrect statements: +I keep seeing lines like these in stories I read, and again, please don't take offense, it is not just here in Literotica, but everywhere in today's English grammar. +Hell, I even saw one like it in a Bible verse. It was a modern translation, so it was most likely the translator who was at fault. Therefore, no one is perfect. The lines go like this: +My wife is an innocent exhibitionist from long back that enjoys going braless to tease and fluster... +She talked to some of the men that had seen her virtually naked in the pool today, as well as the ones that spied on her having sex last night. +""He's just a dirty old man that likes young tits just like yours. "" +""Why Mom, you look beautiful, there is no other woman that could compare with you"" +Each line seems okay and probably reads fine to most people, but it is just that each line uses the word ""that"" to refer to the subject of the sentence. +All of us know that my wife is not a ""that"", but rather, a ""who"", as are the men ""who"" had seen her virtually naked. And the dirty old man is really a person ""who"" likes young tits. +Finally, there can be no other woman ""who"", rather than ""that"", can compare with Mom. It is a simple matter of remembering just who or what you are talking about in your sentences. +If it is a person, then it is ""who"". A thing, then it is ""that"". +************************** +III) Regarding incorrectly used words: +I have seen the following words used consistently enough that I thought I should comment. They are not words I necessarily consider misspelled, but rather misused. +I would rather not get into misspelled words here because that would be entirely too nitpicking, and everyone has issues with that problem, including me. +The words I am about to list here are words I've seen used on this site simply because authors have mixed up the spelling of one word for another. I thought I would try to help out some. starring vs. staring: +starring- when an actor plays a part, he is starring in that role. staring -- when a person glares at another without stopping, he is staring at him/her. +shuttered vs. shuddered +shuttered -- he locked the doors and shuttered the windows in preparation for the upcoming storm. shuddered -- he shuddered at the thought of being alone in the creepy, old house. +surreal vs. unreal - +My reasons for including these two words is purely subjective. I have seen and heard the word ""surreal"" used here on this site and in movies and on television so often in recent years, that I am about to go out of my mind. +For some reason, surreal has become the catch-phrase of the 21st century, so much so that I wish it would just go away! There is nothing special about the word, and it holds no particularly novel meaning. +I have just been seeing it pop up in so many stories and movies lately. I was sort of hoping I could ask people if they might start using the old-fashioned word ""unreal"" again, and maybe start a trend back to originality. +There are other words as well. Words like imaginary, fanciful, fantastic, illusory, delusory, deceptive, phantasmal, phantasmagorical, imagined, all in the mind, and incorporeal, to name a few. +For example, the sentence: +""Lisa had never been in such a surreal situation."" could be rewritten as ""Lisa could never have imagined herself to have been caught up in such a fantastic situation. The whole thing boggles the mind."" +Yes, it would take some effort on our parts to be more creative than to just jot down any thought that comes to mind and then not do a creative rewrite, and yes, I also know this is only a sex site, but hey, nothing says that we can't try to attain some sort of literary heights here, eh? +I'm just saying, if you happen to find yourself writing a story here and you feel yourself using a line including that word, see if you maybe can't find some more creative way to express your intent. Anyway, again, just a thought. +************************** +IV) Panties and Garter Belts +And finally, for those of you writing scenes where you find yourself dressing up fine ladies, or in my case, transvestites, in nylons, garter belts and panties, the panties go on last. +Throughout history, this has always been the case because dire emergencies seem always to arise which require the swift removal of the panties . +Because of this, the panties need to be able to be removed first, without having to worry about undoing the bothersome stays and clips of the garter straps. +Such emergencies include times when the wearer, in cases of urinary distress, needs to find it easy to quickly lower the briefs in order to relieve herself once finally in the restroom, after having waited 7-10 hours to finally find a privy. +And then, during any seduction scene, the guy or girl molesting our lady or drag queen really doesn't want to feel he or she need rip off every single item of clothing just to get to her nether hole for that quick janitor closet fuck during school hours. +All he or she need do is lift the dress and slip the panties down (or move them to the side) and slide either a cock, finger or dildo in. +Being able to remove the panties from a properly dressed lady or transvestite wearing garters and stockings and keeping them as a trophy, leaving her completely naked beneath her dress, is quite a humiliating and yet exciting experience for most transvestites, and another thrilling literary treat for the rest of us +********************** +That is all, for the moment. I hope I have helped some and not offended too many others as I meant no umbrage. +I have been experiencing a bit of a writers block with my stories. I have come up with some outlines and some material to use to help guide me in the direction I want to take the stories, but I am still having difficulty writing them out. +Putting out this how-to article hopefully will not only assist others but will also help get me a step closer to writing more on my stories." +850,Tips for the New Streetwalker,Martika_Duponte,How To,2015-10-06,2015-10-06,2022-01-04 08:40:54,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-for-the-new-streetwalker,A must-read for all would-be whores & streetwalkers.,"['Anal', 'Cum', 'Fishnet', 'Fucking', 'Hooker', 'Leather', 'Oral', 'Prostitute', 'Smoking Fetish', 'Streetwalker']",4.12,"Hi, allow me to introduce myself. My name's Martika. I'm 30 and I'm a 3rd generation prostitute and I've been so for the last 16 years. I've always worked the streets, never even bothering to think about any other form of prostitution. Streetwalking is the one for me! +So I know my shit, right? Right! +So let's get on with it! +Attitude ; attitude is everything! You walk it how you talk it. You have to act confidently or otherwise you'll get swallowed up by all the fuckers out there that'll just take you for a ride! You don't need that shit! You are out on the streets to sell pussy, bitch, nothing else. Act accretive and you'll have less problems. +Some slags do try to create a new character for themselves. Changing their name, or at least telling the punters your new identity helps to put some distance between the 'real' you and the 'role' that you are playing. Many girls have special clothes, makeup and perfume that their 'streetwalker' self uses but they'll never touch in real life. I get this. I have many friends that do this. It helps them, psychologically, accept what they're doing. Sometimes some of us bitches get asked to do degrading things or the punters will say something 'nasty' whilst they're fucking us. So, having this other 'persona' can help matters. However, some girls drift into drink and drugs to cope... +And that's another thing! Drink and drugs does go with the lifestyle. I, myself, and a drug user and a reformed alcoholic. It's very easy to get sucked into this kinda shit. Takes the edge of things that happen on the street or, indeed, get you psyched up to sell pussy in the first place! What I'd recommend is to not get so pissed or high that you can't function; you're running a business afterall. Make sure you know what's happening to yourself and what you're doing. Stay alert! +I really don't want to see some bitch getting fuckin' high and ending up dead in a ditch or alleyway... +End of sermon! +Appearance; very important too! No bitch is gonna get picked up who just looks like she's gone to the shops! I always say that it's best to look like you're just heading to a nightclub. Basically skirts short, tops tight! I generally wear some kind of tight leather miniskirt. Tight and short enough to look sexy but not too tight that you can't pull it up when a punter wants to fuck you. Spend some time on your makeup and jewellery too. Look sexy, not 'special needs' ok? +Sex; well, this goes without saying really! Some people are ok with sex. Some people 'think' they'll be ok with multiple sex. BUT...what about having sex with big penises? Small penises? Smelly penises? Punters with body odour? Some punters just never clean under the foreskin and, as such, I tend to clean them up with a wipe before I EVER think of putting it in MY mouth! The cunt can take a lot of humping but to take on 10+ punters a night can make you quite sore... +Streetwalker slags like us will end up fucking in cars, up against walls, on the floor - and you just know that the punter would NEVER put his coat on the floor for you to lay on - or in phone boxes! So, plenty of fresh air and you might get cold. Who cares? The punters don't. They just want you legs spread and ready for them! As such, try to keep yourself warm and bring some form of lube. Theyt don't care that you're dry in your vagina...they just want it in you! After many years I am used to it but for a newbie slag it can be painful. Note to self; use lube!! +Oh, and whilst we're on the subject; oral sex. Do NOT ever NEVER spit it out! Bitches swallow every last drop! A man is getting head from you and sure wants you to swallow what is, you could argue, his DNA...so suck the fucker dry! And the punter will love you for it! +All punters don't taste the same, incidentally. It depends really on what their diet is!! Lots of dairy and it's taste fishy! +Anal sex; a lot of punters love this. If you've never tried it before then make sure you're well lubed up and just try to breathe as he pushes his cock in your arse. It'll hurt but usually punters don't spend long before they cum. +Reputation; fuck, girl! Rep is everything! Word gets around about some bitch that is a useless fuck or that they don't take care in their appearance. Word also gets around about which slag doesn't use rubbers too! So...be careful! You want this as a career? Well, it won't take long before word on the streets has you as a bad lay. Do your best; fuck each punter well, treat them well and - I always do this, having learned it from both my mother and grandmother - thank them for fucking you. As my mum always says 'Treat them as a Prince and they'll ALWAYS come back for more..' +...and that's the point; you have to advertise and get work for yourself every time you're out there. +Relationships; I always tell any newbie bitch to smoke. Any bitch that works for me has to smoke. Why? Well, quite a few reasons actually. Men are attracted to 'nasty' girls and nasty girls smoke, right? Right! Also, cigarettes and offering them to fellow whores on the street is pretty much the international way of making friends and forming relationships. Friends will watch your back and you can have a laugh with. Work has to be fun, right? Also, some nights are fuckin' slow! It might be quite a while before getting picked up. I have times when I have literally minutes between finishing with a punter and getting back to my spot, again and again and again, and then times when around a fuckin' hour passes! You have a cigarette or two and it'll pass the time away...give you something to do with your hands! +Another way of staying on the right side of the other girls is not undercut them on prices, ok? Find out what they're charging for the sexual services and stick to it. +That covers a few of the basics. If there's enough interest then i'll post up some more advice. +Take care out there... +Martika xx" +851,Tips on Wife Sharing,Hanksville,How To,2021-10-30,2021-10-30,2022-01-04 08:40:55,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-on-wife-sharing,Why some men want their wives to have sex with other men.,"['Open Marriage', 'Voyeurism', 'Why Share Your Wife', 'Wife Sharing']",4.53,"**A Lady Recently Asked Why Some Husbands Want Their Wives to Have Sex with Other Men ...** +A lady posted a question on an open sex website asking if somebody could explain to her why her husband has expressed his fantasy to her about watching her having sex with other men? She also wanted to know why this would turn him on, if he was secretly gay and if she should make his fantasy real. +I am one of ""those guys"" and thought I'd write an explanation from my personal perspective. +I quickly typed a short response, but by the time I proofread my message and was ready to send it off to her, the post had disappeared so I couldn't send what I had written. I don't know if the morality police had removed her post, or if she had received a bunch of dick photos by misguided guys thinking that a photo of their junk would cause her to select them as 'the guy' she should have sex with thereby causing her to remove her own posting. I suspect the latter. +The inability to respond to her led me to thinking, maybe other ladies also might question why some men enjoy this scenario as it is often expressed in Literotica's 'Loving Wives"" category. I figured that that they might benefit from at least one man's perspective on the question. I have fantasized about this and experienced the reality with my first wife and numerous girlfriends in between marriages for over forty years. In short, it is just simply hot! +I am not offering any psychological advice as I am not qualified to provide such advice. But I do have quite a bit of experience with sexually sharing my partners that was very enjoyable for many years. As long as two (or more) people enjoy something privately and nobody is getting hurt and no laws are being broken, then there is simply no moral judgement to be made in my opinion. +Something as personally important as enjoying my girlfriends or my wife fucking other guys did not occur in a vacuum for me. What follows is the germination of the seed for me to enjoy my ladies having sex with other men. The following isn't a 'story' for Literotica's Loving Wives category. Instead, it is told as background for why I like what I like as a man that enjoys sharing his ladies. + ** _My History ... Coming to Grips with Sharing my First Wife ... it was a tough road ..._** +As a younger man back in the late 1960's and early 1970's I was probably a bit more 'normal' in that I had jealous feeling when guys came on to my girlfriends. In 1968, I entered the Army. While I was away, my girlfriend gave in to every soldier's nightmare ... she met 'Jody' and slept with him. I didn't find out about it until after I left active duty and returned home in 1970. I moved in with my girlfriend as soon as I got home and thought all was well. Was I ever in for a surprise! +My revelations as to her activities while I was away began with late night phone calls from nobody on the line when I answered the phone because it was on my side of the bed. It was always a hang-up when I answered. When she actually answered she would quickly say ""I can't talk now"" and she would hang up. These calls were mostly coming in after midnight. Then, one night I answered but didn't say anything ... 'he' started talking in very slurred language ... obviously stoned ... it was the 70's after all. But he was coherent enough to say ""I need you to come over right now to fuck me ... I need it now"". I immediately hung up and woke my girlfriend. I told her what had happened, and she brushed it off. She was living in a duplex and she told me that the girl next door had an old boyfriend that really wanted to hook up with her, but she just kept telling him no. ""Hmmm"" I thought? +About a week later, she was getting ready for a bath and she had left the bathroom door slightly open. I saw through the open crack that she was climbing into the tub with her t-shirt still on. This was really odd, so I stepped into the bathroom as she sat down into the tub, I lifted her shirt and saw several hickeys on her tits. She tried to tell me she had gotten bruised carrying boxes at work. ""Bullshit"" I said and left. I went away for a couple of hours. When I returned, she was gone and had left a note that she had gone to the laundromat to do our laundry. Gone to do laundry after midnight I thought? Was this more bullshit I wondered? +I was fuming! Then, the phone rang. I picked it up and again didn't say anything ... the guy on the other end of the line said ""THANKS for coming over Bev, I really needed you to fuck me tonight ... It was great"". I hung up and was beside myself with jealousy. I decided I'd go find her. I knew the laundromat that she went to and sure enough her car was there. I walked in and started yelling everything I could think of ... calling her every foul name imaginable. Fortunately, we were alone because had anybody heard me, I'm sure that they would have called the police. I was in a rage. I was very young and full of immature testosterone. We parted with me telling her (actually yelling) I never wanted to see or talk to her again. +I had a friend that had promised to look after her while I was away, in the Army and I went to see him the next day. He told me that he knew that she had been screwing the guy, but I was as much to blame as she was since I had often been a complete asshole when I called her while I was in the Army. I was not a happy soldier doing the things I had to do, and I made the mistake of taking it out on her in my calls. I realized that he was correct. I had been a total asshole. +My friend brokered a meeting between the three of us several weeks later. She and I spilled our guts about my asshole issues and her needing to get back at me by fucking this guy. She told me that she was just a booty call fuck for him. She didn't care when he called, she would just pick up and go fuck him and then come home as if nothing had happened. She said she didn't like him, that she just needed to divert my hostilities when I called and that she would stop seeing him at this point. She said that I should date other girls to see if it made me feel any better. I did and it didn't. It took me about a month of dating others to realize that I wanted her back. +We did get back together after that month. When we had sex, I sometimes thought of her ... having sex with another nondescript guy. It turned me on but after the sex, I was really felt disappointed in myself and a bit guilty at my feelings. Why was I turned on? I tried not to think about her getting fucked during our sex, but it didn't work. When I masturbated, this pretty much occupied my mind. +As time went on, I finally became more and more comfortable with myself fantasizing about her having sex with other men while we were having sex, while I was masturbating and when I was just daydreaming. I conjured up all types of scenarios and types of guys. Interestingly, I almost never fantasized about me having sex with other women. Although, I did have that fantasy about her. +One evening, we were at a restaurant, I went to the restroom. In the stall, there were several inscribed messages by guys saying things like ""I want to watch my wife sucking your cock ... call me at XXX-YYYY). That also stuck in my mind. The food and entertainment were both good and we returned often. I made at least one trip to the bathroom every time we went to 'read the wall'. There were always new inscriptions. Then one night, I screwed up the courage to leave my own inscription ... ""I want to watch guys fuck my girlfriend"" but I didn't have the courage to leave my phone number, so I asked them to leave theirs. I thought of this that night as we had sex, and this was the strongest fantasy sex I had ever experienced! I was mentally hooked. Unfortunately, I couldn't tell my girlfriend. But I did go back to the stall a week or so later ... there were three phone numbers and first names. I jotted them down not knowing what I was going to do. +One day while I was alone, I again screwed up my courage and picked up the phone. I dialed the first number. A lady answered. I hung up. I called the 2nd number. A guy answered and I asked for the name by the phone number. It was him ... I told him I had left the message and wanted to talk to him to see if we were compatible. He was nice and polite, but he sounded like he was about 80. I was 22 at the time and my girlfriend was 21. This wasn't going to work, and I told him so but I had a raging hard on and jacked off as we spoke. I think he knew what I was doing. Several days later, I called the 3rd number. It was disconnected. I tried the 1st number several more times, but the lady always picked up. I finally ceased calling. +By now, I had a whole repertoire of sex scenarios for my girlfriend with other guys. But I still couldn't tell her though. In the mid-1970's we finally got married. I use finally because she was chomping at the bit to tie the knot. All was fine until the late 1970's. I was having issues at work and I was taking it out on her. Again, my fault. Her response was to have an affair with a guy at her work. This time, I wasn't livid. I asked her about it. She wasn't talking no matter how much I asked. But my imagination was still very much in gear and I thought about her fucking him every time we had sex. I kept asking and she kept silent. I'm sure I was pissing her off by my constant asking about the affair. I knew about the affair because her best friend told me about it. +Finally, we decided that we needed marriage counseling. I didn't have a clue what to expect or how to behave. One afternoon during a one-on-one discussion with the therapist she told me that she suspects I was holding something back. I lied and told her ""nope"". But I knew it was a lie and so did she. In our next one-on-one session, I apologized for lying. She said it was okay and asked what I was lying about? +I told her about my fantasies. I pretty much relayed what I have written above. +At that point, she said ""relax ... it is much more common than you suspect"". She told me that she hears this from married guys all the time. The question is, do I want it for real or do I want to keep it a fantasy. +I told her I didn't know. +She also asked if I have ever spoken to my wife about it? +I told her no. +Then she asked if I would be comfortable talking about my desires with her present? +I told her I didn't know about ""being comfortable"" but I was willing to try. I had to wait for two weeks for our next couples' appointment. This gave me time to think about what to say and how to say it. +I was sweating bullets as we sat in the lobby. +My wife noticed and asked why? +I told her because the therapist wanted me to speak openly about some of my feelings and that it frightened me. +She told me she loved me and she hoped I could do what the therapist wanted. +When we were called in, the therapists asked if we had done our homework (we each had little assignments to do between every session). Some of the assignments were joint and some were individual. +She asked my wife first ... I don't recall what it was that she was supposed to do, and I am sure I didn't hear a word she said. +Then, it was my turn ... I was still scared shitless ... +The therapist started to talk when it was my turn probably to introduce the revelation ... but I interrupted blurting out ... ""Bev, I love you and I want to watch other guys fuck you!"" +Silence ... more silence ... then my wife started crying breaking the silence. +""Why"" she asked in a very low voice? ""Are you gay"" she asked? +""NO!"" I answered. +I told her that I didn't know 'why' and all that I did know was it turned me on to think about it. I told her that it was a huge turn-on in my mind. I admitted that I had been thinking these things since learning about the guy she was fucking while I was in the Army and that I couldn't stop thinking about her having sex with other men since her most recent affair. +Our therapist explained to my wife as she had me earlier that in her experience and research, she found that it was pretty common for husbands to imagine their wives having sex with other men and to get sexual gratification from this train of thought. She said that most couples deal with it in the realm of fantasy as in either role playing or telling stories. She suggested this as our next assignment. Try either stories or role playing. +""Role playing"" asked my wife? ""How so""? +""Maybe go dancing and pretend to be strangers and do the 'pick-up' thing"" she suggested. +We agreed to try that. We did and it led to a very enjoyable experience for the evening of dancing and superb sex when we got home. During the sex we continued the role playing as if it were a one-night stand type of encounter. We each picked personas, but we didn't tell each other who we were pretending to be until the role play started. It was a great experience. +After several months of successful role playing, we started telling stories at the end of the evening. When we got home, I switched roles back to myself and asked her ""how she enjoyed her night out with her girlfriends"" which was the story for that night. She then told me the story of the guy she met and danced with and what they did in the back of the bar and again some time later what she did with the guy in the parking lot. It was our start into the world of fantasy sex that would eventually become reality. +The morphing into reality came several years later. We had switched from rock dancing to country and western dancing. I traveled to Sacramento quite often and would meet her at home after flying back on the nights she went dancing where she would tell me a story about what she did. I figured that she was making the stories up but I secretly was hoping that they were real. +One night, I caught an early flight home and thought that I'd surprise her by going to the dance club. Wearing a suit and tie, I was a bit uncomfortable showing up 'out of uniform' as it were and told myself that I'd just pop in, say hi and then head home. +As I was walking toward the front door of the club fishing for my wallet for the cover charge, I saw my wife heading out of the front door with a very young guy in tow. By this time, my wife and I were in our early forties and the guy looked much younger than thirty. My stomach was lodged in my throat! I felt I couldn't breathe and was hyperventilating. What to do? I just stopped in my tracks. +My wife didn't see me, and she led the guy around to the parking lot side of the dance club. I stayed in the front portion of the parking lot but walked to a position where I could see them. They were embracing, kissing passionately and I could see he had both of his hands on her ass. The embrace had knocked her cowgirl hat off and it was on the ground. As they continued to kiss, he lifted her short skirt and was rubbing her ass hard. It was then that I noticed that I had a raging hard-on! This guy was feeling my wife up in the parking lot with people walking by and I was turned on! +A couple of girls walked by them and one of them said ""get a room Bev"". +Then, I heard my wife say ""Good Idea"" breaking away from the kiss and then they all started laughing. +One of the girls asked ""what is your husband going to think""? +She told her ""don't worry ... I'm going to tell him all about it!"" +I was ready to cum! +Bev then took the guy back in tow and led him to her car. I had to relocate for a better view as her car was in the back of the lot that was poorly lit. She had a convertible Miata. He opened the driver's door for her and then went around to get in the passenger side. They started kissing again. He unbuttoned her blouse, she leaned forward so he could undo her bra and then his head dropped out of sight. +I couldn't see, but I instinctively knew that this guy was sucking my wife's tits while I watched. Wearing a suit, my hard-on was ripping to get out. I started massaging myself through my pants. Next, his head came up and they kissed again and he then it looked like he was whispering something in her ear. I assumed he was telling her to start the car so they could go to the motel down the street. +Bev did start her car and I ran to my truck. I followed her out of the parking lot. Instead of turning into the motel down the street, she turned onto the freeway. I followed her. She drove a few miles and exited at the local State College. I followed her into the campus where she pulled into the parking lot near the dorms. I parked behind her and to the right of her a car hoping to remain out of sight. +With the top down, I had a clear view of them both. They kissed for a few minutes and then, Bev's head disappeared into his lap. This was an early Miata without headrests, and he put his arms up on the back of the car and leaned his head back. I had repositioned myself for the third time for a better and slightly closer view. I could see her head going up and down ... my wife was actually sucking this young guy's cock. My heart was pounding like I had just run five miles and I came in my suit without touching myself. I came more than I ever had. My stomach was still in my throat but I absolutely loved what I was watching ... my wife was sucking this young guy off in the parking lot. I was going to jackoff to this scenario for years. The truth is ... I still jackoff to this almost thirty years later. Watching my wife suck this guy off is forever ingrained in my mind and I still love it! I finally had what I had wanted for decades. +Finally, Bev opened her door and spit ... she was spitting his cum into the parking lot. I started my car and slowly drove out of the parking lot hoping they wouldn't notice my truck. I drove home massaging my cock inside my sopping wet suit all the way. It was about midnight when I arrived home. Bev came in about an hour and a half later. +When she came into the bedroom, I could see that she was very disheveled. Her hair was askew, her makeup was a mess, her blouse only partially buttoned and her boots and pantyhose were in her hand. +""How was dancing ...?"" +She cut me off in midsentence. She simply said ... ""I have a story for you ... _and this one is not make believe_."" +Her story, her disheveled hair, her physical condition and the look she had in her eyes hooked me. I was enthralled with what she told me in every detail. She hadn't cleaned up. She had the scent of cum on her breath, her hair was matted with sticky cum, her tits had dried cum on them along with several hickeys and her pussy was swimming in his cum. We made love numerous times that night adding to his cum. This started ten years of an open marriage that was the most sexually charged ten years of my life. I loved sharing Bev with the guys that she chose to be with. +What Bev didn't want was me watching her having sex with other men (I had told her I had seen her sucking the guy off ... he was 22 according to her). She said she wanted to go out on occasion, have a fling and then come home to tell me about it. Unfortunately, she eventually began to experiment sexually with her girlfriends and finally decided that this was the lifestyle she wanted. So, we eventually divorced about ten years later. + **Sharing my girlfriends ...** +Following our divorce, I was unmarried for about ten years and had several girlfriends that were open to ""sharing"". With them, we agreed that I would always be there to watch and sometimes join in and be with her after the other guy left. There were adult oriented websites by this time where the 'rules' were set by the description in one's profile. Being adult websites, you could be pretty explicit about what one was looking for. +I finally remarried about fourteen years ago. I shared my desired proclivities with my new wife before we were married, but she didn't want to have anything to do with such things. So now, I am stuck with my fantasies and memories of which there are a lot. +Now that you know a bit about how and why I came to desire my ladies to have sex with other men, its time to discuss a bit about the philosophy. Your husband's reasons are likely to be vastly different from my reasons. Perhaps you can ask him to tell you 'why"" he wants this? Maybe he can express himself and maybe he can't. + ** _The Sharing Philosophy ... and Some Suggestions for Jumping In ..._** + _First, a disclaimer_. There is one part of this philosophy that I simply don't know anything about or understand because it just isn't my thing. That is the shamed cuckhold husband. It is a control and submissive lifestyle. Therefore, what I say can't apply to this desire. I don't think that there is anything 'wrong' with cuckoldry ... it is just that I don't know anything about it so I can't discuss it. +While I can't discuss cuckoldry, I can discuss ' _sharing_ ' one's wife or girlfriend from my perspective because that is what I enjoy. Sharing is very enjoyable and sensual from my perspective! +So, ladies, if you are considering this because your husband or boyfriend is expressing his desire for sharing you with other men you need to talk to him. Never do anything that you are not completely comfortable with. My current wife doesn't like it. She doesn't even want to tell fantasy type stories. So, we ignore it. I still like it so I am relegated to thinking about it. Yes, I think about her with other men, but I don't discuss it with her. I must respect her choice. While this is somewhat problematic for a truly successful marriage, it is what it is. +When you are talking with your mate, I suggest that you try to get him to open up and share his 'why' reasoning. He might not be able to do this, and he might simply be refusing to tell you even though he is telling you that he doesn't know. Ask him if he reads Literotica.com's Loving Wives stories? Perhaps you can read some of the stories together and discuss them. +What do I think the typical husband wants? Deep down, many guys like to know that other men find their wives/girlfriends are still sexually desirable especially as we age a bit. The very jealous types are the exception to this. Many guys want to see their wives with especially well-endowed men. This is also one of my things. Some want interracial. I also enjoyed this. Some men want their women to get gangbanged. I absolutely love this and took several girlfriends that liked being gangbanged to specialty sex clubs for this. Some older men want to watch their wives with much younger guys. Always stick with legal age guys. Some men want the guys to call the wife nasty names. This may be a problem for you, and it may not. You decide. You should not be demeaned if it isn't your thing. A guy saying ""suck my cock you dirty little slut"" may get your husband off but it just might not get you going. In the end you must feel good about yourself. If being demeaned makes you happy, then, by all means go for it. Otherwise, don't allow it. I'm not sure why, but many guys seem to like saying these things during sex. I just don't get it. Some men just want to control their wives. If this is the case and you allow him to control you out of fear than this really isn't for you. If you just like being told what to do, that is your business. +With what he wants fully vetted between the two of you, YOU should pick the guys you want to play with. They need to be your type not your husband's type. If he has a particular type of guy he wants to see you with, he will tell you and if you spot one that turns you on, all the better. +It is a fair question for you to ask if your husband has any gay or bi tendencies/desires. You need to know this going in. I am open to bi sex on occasion and I enjoyed cum eating. I like the 'just been fucked look (JBF)', feel and taste. I have also participated in three ways with my girlfriends ... there is always inevitable touching that can't be avoided under the circumstances and I enjoyed the situations. I have also had girlfriends that wanted me to suck their lover's cocks. I did this both because they wanted it and I found that I enjoyed it. It certainly isn't for everybody. +Sharing your wife/girlfriend is a bit taboo ... things that are taboo to any extent can be titillating. Try reading some of the stories on Literotica.com under the Loving Wives category to see if they create any sexual arousal in your mind. These stories can certainly spark one's imagination for sharing. Ignore the anonymous trolls in the comments sections. They almost never have anything constructive to say. +A big part of enjoying sex is mental stimulation. Talking often with your partner helps to keep the mental stimulation for the both of you at its peak performance. +I mentioned the fact that the first time I witnessed my first wife having sex with another guy that my stomach was in my throat, I was hyperventilating, I didn't know what to think all the while sporting a raging hard on. While I haven't watched a lady partner having a sexual encounter with a guy for over fourteen years since my current marriage, I nonetheless still had those very same feelings up to the last time I watched. These jitters never go away. They are always a part of the sexual enjoyment. I'm glad that they never go away. I also can feel this way when I imagine my current wife getting fucked. +Keep it special. Don't do it every weekend. A few times a year keeps it special. If you find yourself doing it a few times a month it is going to get boring. Don't let it get boring. I've known couples that go to sex clubs every weekend and end up sitting there playing cards because the sex going on around them just isn't enticing anymore. +Know the risks because there are risks. You might meet somebody that you fall in love with. Your husband might turn out to be jealous if you are enjoying yourself and jealousy can be very dangerous. Agree to talk often about what you are doing. If there comes a time you aren't enjoying yourself, tell him you want to quit. Have a quit clause before you start. I've known some couples that actually have a written contract as a reminder to what the 'play rules' are. +Unless you and your man like collecting bugs, consider safe sex. When I started down this road, sex was safe and cars were dangerous. Now, it's the other way around. +Always listen to your sixth sense. If your brain is saying ' _don't'_ do something in a particular situation, then don't. There will be future opportunities. Never go ahead just because you said yes, a little earlier. No has to mean no and you need to use it if something just doesn't feel right. We have our sixth sense in our DNA for a reason. Always reserve the right to change your mind. +Never get too drunk. You just can't make wise decisions when you are too tipsy. +Having your husband there limits the possibility of date rape drugs. It can't eliminate it, but it certainly does inhibit the chances. +There are also social risks for your health and welfare. Be very careful in selecting who to play with. I was very lucky, as I never had a bad experience. There are simply bad people around that want to teach you a lesson for violating their morals ... they could care less about your morals. These people can hurt you. Read some of the comments by the trolls in the Literotica Loving Wives category. There are some very sick people out there. +Consider what if your friends/family find out (and you didn't tell them). You might be in for a few "" _um -- er -- ah_ "" embarrassing moments. +While my first wife was lucky with sex in parking lots (she seemed to like this as she did it often), understand that the police can and will bust couples for having sex in public places. Being inside your car is considered a public place in the eyes of the law. +In talking with your man, ask what he wants to see you doing? Does he want this just as a verbal fantasy or does he want to make it real? Does he want to join in or just watch? Will he want to take photos/videos? Are you comfortable with your husband watching you have sex? My first wife didn't allow this. My girlfriends in between marriages loved it. Some insisted that I take photos (thank goodness for digital photos). +How will you select play partners? My first wife found her guys at country dancing clubs. Our rules limited her encounters with guys to three times. It seemed to work for the guys but not her girlfriends since they fell in love. There are some dedicated adult friend type websites that worked with my girlfriends between my marriages. I had one girlfriend that was like my first wife in that she liked to meet guys at dance clubs, but I was always there and she told them what we were looking for. Some were so eager that they paid for all the drinks and the motel. Most of the time I paid for both and enjoyed paying the bill. +My suggestion would be to start by considering attending sex parties at well- established adult sex clubs. Believe it or not, all sex clubs understand some new people aren't sure if they want to participate. There is never any pressure to join in. A polite ""no thanks"" ends the question. There are many types of clubs to choose from and most are not expensive. Some give discounts if you bring a dish to share for dinner. Every club that I have attended was very cordial, safe and there are rules such as no touching without asking, no photos and violation of any of the rules gets the offender ejected on the spot. Some clubs have themes such as gangbangs, costumes to wear, BDSM, whether they allow single men or only couples, large ladies, etc. Their websites explain all of this. Do some research on the internet. +If there are any ladies curious as to whether this is something they should be entertaining since their husband/boyfriend has expressed his sharing desires, I hope that my experience helps. I completely enjoyed myself and I very much enjoyed sharing my ladies with other men. I do still wish my current wife wanted to be shared. But, 'No does mean No'." +852,"""Tips on Writing Dialog,"" Said Smokey!",Smokey125,How To,2018-02-10,2018-02-10,2022-01-04 08:24:29,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-on-writing-dialog-said-smokey,"""Here's some insight on scribing how your characters speak.""","['"" Said Smokey!', '""Tips On Writing Dialog', 'Dialogue Guide', 'Dialogues', 'Guide', 'How To', 'How To Write Dialogues', 'Tips', 'Writing Dialogue', 'Writing Guide']",,"**_Good Day! I Began Writing This Essay—_** + ** _Tuesday, January 30th, 2018, 6:31 p.m._** + ** _""Well, it means being able to find and arrange just the most effective words to communicate your feelings and explain things.""_** —Dr. Deborah Morelli (""Lying Young"" part 1) +Top of the morning to you! Or, bottom of the evening to you! Or, whenever you happen to be reading. Of the lot of you Readers who are so beloved and treasured to me (yes, buttering you up early; get used to it), one particular individual and fellow author asked me about penning realistic dialogue. A few days before—shameless Smokey plug number one—""Rerouted"" had come out, an especially dialogue-heavy story. It was a piece in which the ability to write strong (and erotic) dialogue especially shines. When you're writing fiction, two disparate animals on your ark are the narrative as a whole, and all of the witty little words framed inside those quotation marks and inverted commas. This essay is to share things I've learned about writing dialogue along my way. I'm by no means any more an ""expert"" than the next yarnwright; I'm merely divulging some of my personal input. +Fundamentally, fiction—literary or otherwise, erotic or otherwise—is a form of entertainment. And while nonfiction can do the same, its entertainment factor is more intransitive. Writing nonfiction is the relation of events that have occurred in real life. And as such, it includes also the citing of speech from real people. Scribing dialogue is not an ingredient in nonfiction, but substituted by quoting the words of others, and crediting them bibliographically. This isn't to say that writing fiction is more challenging than nonfiction, but it involves one unique feat: making your characters come alive through the conversations they conduct. +Tense does not play a part in effective dialogue, but person can. Standard 3rd-person bears the most distant relationship between dialogue and narrative. 3rd-person narrative is conventionally most flowery and ""formal."" 2nd-person reflects interaction; you're addressing an unseen entity, and dialogue will tend to be less prevalent. At the same time, 2nd-person narrative will come across a trifle looser, more personable. In this setting, you'll want your wordage to be ""accessible,"" to both your 2nd-person subject and your Readers (and yes, I always capitalize Readers. You all have Names; you deserve the common courtesy of the power of the Shift key that is used for good and not evil). While 2nd-person connects to a created character, its narrative, in a way, _is_ dialogue. Then of course we've got 1st-person, an essential monologue doubling as narrative around your characters' lines. Whether your 1st-person protagonist is similar to you as the author or not, you'll clearly want her or him to be relatable. In any person, if your Readers don't know what you're talking about, or find the character incredible based on her/his speech, they're going to have a hard time relating. Thus, their enjoyment of the story likely diminishes. They may tire of it, and/or abandon without finishing. This want we not. +Sometimes—shameless plugs two, three, four and five—depending on the nature, a story requires little dialogue. My 1st-person piece ""The Voxe: A Girl And Her Music"" comes to mind. Others—""Rerouted,"" ""Friends And Live-Ins,"" or even ""Lying Young"" or ""Imperfect Strangers""—rely substantially on conversation, to both familiarize Readers with your characters, and to move things along at a steady, entertaining pace. You've got your storyline, arc and so forth mapped out. A character has risen from the depths of imagination, springing to life on the page. You're ready to cull the courageous first words from your character's trembling fledgling lips. So how to proceed that daunting first time you hold Shift and strike the quotation mark key? +***** + ** _""... how do I know that, Bonnie? ... you told me you wanted to be an actress. Have you just been playing some kinda...character with me?? ... what do I even know about you?""_** —Laura McCollum (""Imperfect Strangers"") + **Know your characters.** Every writer has his or her own process. It may help you to write a biography of each character you whip up, major or minor. Or make a list of said characters' traits. Not to share, but to keep and refer to for your own use. One story with a few characters will be simple to keep track of. The further your literary journey takes you, the more characters will blur. After enough new and different characters bloom from the same mind, inevitably, personalities will overlap. Keeping character distinctions in mind will help you shape the unique ways they speak. If you've characters who think, act and live similarly, they'll therefore speak similarly. The most astute and diligent of Readers will take note. Whether the Reader takes this as a positive or negative is an individual poll. Nonetheless, exploring distinction in characters will help you break new ground and cover more territory. You're creating figures that will, to varying degrees, reflect the colorful particles of society. Not just one hue or shade. +Every character, once developed, will have his or her own identity. How far each will go through development is up to you as the author and creator. It's important to develop them to the idiosyncratic level of at least an adult, since all of our major characters involved in a sexual act must be 18 years old. Now that you've got a character ready to grace the page (or screen), ask and answer some identifying questions. For example—perhaps including, but certainly not limited to—how does your character think? How does s/he live, dress, eat, look at the world? Does s/he have any outstanding physical or mental traits? Is s/he introverted or extroverted? How far has s/he come out of her/his social shell? What sort of lifestyle does s/he embrace? What are her/his beliefs? To what philosophies does s/he subscribe? Does s/he swear? How highly is s/he educated? And for purposes of our erotic craft: does s/he have a fetish? What turns her/him on? What kinks does s/he enjoy? How passionately does s/he masturbate or make love? Once your character's developed, you may dig up other applicable queries. +Knowing the type of person a character is will play a part in dictating how she or he speaks. Every human being is different. It goes without saying and ironically also bears repeating: every, human being, is different. And yet, you'll want them to talk, like, normal, people. Yes, that's subjective as hell. So much so that typing the words ""talk like normal people"" pained me just a bit. But once again, an accessible, relatable character will help further a story. It is advisable to write a character particularly flowery or sophisticated language—i.e., speech with a lot of ""big""/advanced words—if congruent with that character's persona. Or when deliberately _in_ congruent, as in the case of satire. _Or_ , when a stretch of realism is desired, for entertainment or comic purposes. Here's an example, from my humorous effort ""Give Me A Little Credit Here,"" with a joke pay-off delivered by the companion character. + _""... I wanna go to slee-e-e-eep!""_ + _Valerie came back with the teacups a matter-of-fact moment later._ + _""You're just going through a state of temporal somnolence due to your circadian rhythm, combined with your somewhat lethargic physiology, which would naturally result in a microsleep condition in your cerebral cortex. Not to mention your pathological adversity to delayed gratification."" ... Donna stared at her._ + _""Great; now I'm tired,_ and _I have a headache.""_ +While Valerie O'Hanlon—the character belonging to this little monologue—is a reasonably intelligent young woman, she is not quite the sort of scientific genius to whip up such a beatless diagnosis of logic on the spot, as she does here. This is the magic of fiction. The temporary suspension of disbelief to accommodate exaggeration. (And, as a side note, the ability to recognize the imbalanced ratio of syllables to words, as in the previous sentence. (Even though that sentence was technically a fragment.) Unless you wish to induce Donna's aforementioned headache, 22 is far too many syllables for eight words.) We're all entitled to a fancy flight of fancy now and then. I find these fun, and yes, to an extent, a way of showing off. I believe showing off is okay, provided condescension is not involved, but fun is. Where you'll encounter a bit more of this prolific prose is via characters who are overly flamboyant (and/or pompous). Think...Frasier Crane, for example. Or...Sheldon Cooper, more recently. +***** + ** _""Well, I notice you punctuated those statements with periods, not exclamation points, so it can't hurt quite_** **that** **_much.""_** —Sandra Burton (""How To Tickle A Girl Insane"") + **Don't worry about punctuation.** I like punctuation. I do. I'm especially fond of em dashes—particularly...and ellipses. I'll readily admit it: I...shamelessly... _abuse_...the ellipsis. Read...my...stuff. No, really...do it. You'll find more ellipses than you can count. Most of them are in my characters' dialogue. 'Tis my friendly advice to be unafraid to abuse the ellipses. They can take it; they're tough little dots. That's why they band together. +But on the whole, friends, don't sweat punctuation in your dialogue. Punctuation is (usually) more a device for cosmetically touching up and decorating your narrative; making it...""pretty."" With the exception of those three little strung-together dots, I use my punctuation in dialogue just the same as in the narrative. The reason I use so many ellipses in speech is rather a personal one. I...often...need a little time to put just the right words together that I want, and in the proper order as well. So as a logical extension, a lot of my characters possess that trait. Also, this is the erotica community. We're writing about sex here. And often also romance, love and relationships. We take our time having real-life conversations in these areas. Some of us get emotional, downright weepy. And take a _lot_ of meaningful pauses between words. It's a logical distinction to me to write these lines as they would be said in a real-life setting, by real people, in real situations. +Ellipses represent those pauses we take when we need those spare seconds to come up with our next words. It's the same reason I keep all the ""uh""s, ""erm""s, ""eh""s, ""um""s. And the reason when in dialogue, I write ""gonna,"" ""wanna"" and ""gotta,"" instead of ""going to,"" ""want to,"" ""got to."" The appropriate syntax is reserved for the narrative. In dialogue, we want to connect. Excuse me; we _wanna_ connect. Real people. Real speech. Real Americans, I should amend. I'm American, as are most of my characters. That's our casual, somewhat even crude speech. Because for all intent and purpose, as far as your Readers want to be concerned, that's what these characters are. They're _them_. The man on the street, the girl next door. Your favorite schoolteacher, the kindly shopkeeper, even the creepy wicked old neighbor way down the end of the block. Once again, relatability. Accessibility. Which brings me to my next tip... +***** + ** _""What you did was way wronger—or, oh,_** **oh** ** _, ex_** **cuse** **_me, Sergeant Grammar—way_** **more** **_wrong.""_** —Dale Sunderland (""Who's Teaching Whom?"") + **Grammar is not something from the metric system.** Remember when I mentioned the pompous blowhard-ish sitcom character Frasier Crane above? Well, the actor who played him is called (Kelsey) Grammer, with an 'e.' Not to be confused with the facet of the English language that infuriates its speakers more intensely than any other. While proper grammar is important on the narrative side of things, for the dialogue, let's return to our ""keep it real"" philosophy. Slip yourself into the Reader's proverbial shoes, and bear in mind that: most non-writers play fast and loose with the rules of grammar in their casual speech. And even as authors, do let's be honest. Decent grammar's important, but the butchering thereof won't singlehandedly destabilize the entire structure of Homo sapien communication. Typical casual-speak is congruent with efficient conversation on sex, love, romance, and the like. When laboring to assert one's feelings in these areas, only the most pedantic will take care to ensure perfect grammar. And we can't really fault them for it; they're pedants, after all. It's what they do. +Being a proponent of grand grammar, I adhere to its rules in my narrative. I too understand, however, how few share this penchant. Which is why my dialogue grammar is looser. A character of mine is far more likely to say ""me and my friends"" (rather than ""my friends and I""), for instance. And truthfully, I think that's fine. See previous paragraph. This goes back to knowing your characters and determining which are sticklers and which aren't. Upon thorough analysis of who your character is and how s/he operates, puzzle pieces like this will start naturally falling into place. One of the goals is to mirror the patterns and quirks of common everyday yackety-yak. Here's another tactic I use only in dialogue, to make it read more real. What with our habit of running words together in sentences, I'll semi-often contract _any_ words. Not just pronouns or helping verbs. Here's an example of that, most recently, from ""Rerouted,"" involving the plural noun ""dreams"" and a conjugation of ""to be""— + _""Y'know, they tell us when we're young that we can do anything, be whatever we want, our dreams're real, sky's the limit, blah blah. Then you grow up and find out for yourself the hard way.""_ +A fitting example, as that quote also has a contraction of ""you know"" at the beginning. By this token, one could say I harshly abuse the apostrophe as well. That's fair. But as speakers of the English language, this _is_ how we say things. We can't even help it; it's the way we're brought up, listening to—and thus learning—common, casual speech. I feel it important to note, however, this is a technique I use because it makes the flow more genuine for me. If your technique is to spare the apostrophes and type the contractions out, great. Readers, for the most part, won't be perturbed on this issue one way or the other. +And another thing, folks: this ain't no classroom! Remember what Burger King said a few decades ago: sometimes you've gotta break the rules. In the narrative _or_ the dialogue. _Unless_ you have a character who's an English teacher, like in my above-quoted story ""Who's Teaching Whom?""...go ahead and end your sentences with prepositions. Throw a few ""ain't""s in there. Do whatever you like to make it feel realer for _you_. To make it easier to read, for both you and your audience. And more fun! Some Readers like to read stories out loud, to themselves or someone else. Some even like to affect the different characters with contrasting voices. I read my stories out loud, pre- submission, as a proofreading measure. This makes it easier to find notes and changes as I go along. It also helps me more easily recognize whether a sentence flows well, or runs on too long. Which leads to... +***** + ** _""... you've already served a pretty impressive sentence in_** **my** **_little prison here. And somehow, I have a feeling you won't be doing anything like that again.""_** —Miss Farrah (""Beyond Hell And Back III"") + **Don't bite off more than you can chew!** Don't get me wrong, either; you should feel a little freer to run with sentence structure in your dialogue. After all, it breaks up the more rigid etiquette of the narrative. Returning to an earlier point, if it serves the effort of humor, character or plot, by all means, kick in a long-ass run-on sentence now and then! Do everyone including yourself a favor, though, and add well-placed pacing punctuation. Obviously, you're an author; you know what you're doing with your periods/full stops. (And if you don't, step away from this essay immediately, obtain a time travel machine and return to elementary school.) Otherwise, for heaven's sake, toss a few commas in there—if for no other reason, to spare the Reader the chore of going back over the sentence to analyze how it should be read. If applicable, drop in a nice colon or semi-colon. Let the Reader know where s/he will want to take a little caesura. And if one form of punctuation is being overused, mix it up a little. Parentheses (brackets) and dashes are often interchangeable. Commas can happily mingle with ellipses. I'm not personally a fan of the asterisk in a body of text, but if they gel with you, use them for emphasis. I also don't care for ampersands replacing ""and"" in standard text, but again, that's just me! +Another thing I'll find myself doing often in dialogue is highlighting emphasis, with _italics_. That is of course a formatting choice. Italics work best for me. I reserve **bold** face for my segment headings. Or if some other special circumstances is being applied to the story. And I don't really underline anything. You might use italics, bold or underline for your emphasis—whatever your preference—even a combination thereof, if your character is _really_ adamant in what s/he's saying. Formatting can be useful also to break up the homogenous appearance of a sentence, and let the Reader know something emphatic is coming up. Of course, the same can be accomplished with exclamation points or interrobangs (question marks clustered with exclamation points). Especially in dialogue, my general rule with e.p.s and q.m.s is that two is the limit. That stringing together more than two e.p.s or q.m.s to conclude a sentence is overkill. And vis-à-vis incredulous questions, my interrobang is always?!, never!?.!? does not make sense to me. +Question marks of course have their place, but I feel you can never have too many exclamation points. I'm not saying you _need_ them, I'm saying you should feel free to use as many as you want. Hey, characters in your stories can get excited! Don't squelch their enthusiasm!! Don't end absolutely _everything_ with an exclamation point, but I say be as otherwise liberal as you like. Hell's bells, friends, it's not like they're in short supply. You'll not want the Reader to feel s/he's being screamed at, and for that reason you may not want to get too trigger happy on that Caps key. I prefer the italics to caps anyway, and most folks associate all-caps with being shouted at. Hey, if that's what you're going for, have at it. Especially in your dialogue. That's why I say use as many exclamation points as you want. It'll help your characters get their emotions out, and if your Readers see themselves in these characters, this in turn can help the Reader get similar feelings off his/her chest. So be emotive! Be passionate! Be expressive! And, speaking of which... +***** + ** _""I am not apologetic about my expressions.""_** —Rachel Greentree* (""Happy Endings IV"" *Yes, Rachel is another character from the ""Hell And Back"" series, but she pops up in one scene of ""Happy Endings"" installment four as well. One of my infamous character crossovers.) + **Toy around and be playful with some common expressions.** This is a device that can really breathe a bit of fresh, fun life into a story. And it works far better in dialogue than in narrative. This is probably the most colorful piece of advice I can offer, and will add a dash of uniqueness to your characters. There are lots of common, everyday figures of speech we've heard all our lives, and putting a clever twist or tweak on them can nicely spice up a spoken sentence. Just how much you can stretch expressions like rubber before they sever is a judgment call you'll have to make as an author. And this is a tip that very much demands examples to fully illustrate. So I've dug some up from some more of my stories. Observe and enjoy. + _""Our proverbial geese are cooked.""_ —Delilah Gainey, ""Redefining Punishment...Again"" + _""Penny for your thoughts."" ""... a Penny saved is a Penny earned.""_ —Penny James and Cesse Helmsley, ""Lost And Found"" + _""... I think my kid stepped on a crack. But I just mean metaphorically. I don't have any children. Or goats.""_ —Vikki Bowman, ""Through Thick And Thin"" + _""All right, lucky shot; I'll give you that one. Gloves're comin' off now, Grandma."" ""Oh, I believe it's more than just the gloves in_ your _case, kiddo. And watch whom you're calling Grandma.""_ —Noelle Beckman and Sylvia Quibley, ""The Art Of The Squeal"" + _""I think every generation sees us—and not just us,_ all _LGBTQs—a little more enlightened. We may never have complete 100% vindication, but I like the way things are going. It may be dark in the closet, but it's just getting brighter and brighter when you come out.""_ —Dora Cunningham, ""Friends And Live-Ins"" (part two) + _""... not exactly a royal flush. Although I kinda think of it not so much what's on the cards themselves; 's more like the cards that're already on the table make it hard to play mine. Y'know, how stuff affects me and how I handle it.""_ —Andi Jackson, ""Eleven"" + _""... You know what, I should be straight with you. Even though I'm gay. To be completely honest, I'm a compulsive liar.""_ —Dori Young, ""Lying Young"" part 1 + _""... you can come and go, do what you need to do, and when I get off work we can hang out. And we can do anything you or I want, hon. Whatever floats our fancy and tickles our boat.""_ —Lilly Amshire, ""Housekeeping!"" part 2 + _""... my Mom and Dad set up this job interview for me with this guy Chris MacIntosh. 11:30 Saturday morning. Right on the nose. And they were_ really _counting on me to not blow it. Th-the interview, I mean, not my nose.""_ —Jenni Wolbert, ""The C.F.N.F. Club."" + _""Blind [lesbian] dating: dangerous. Shortsighted dating? Possibly okay.""_ —Dawn Kerringer, ""Rerouted"" +***** + ** _""... one thing you should always totally do is be yourself. If you're, like, bogus and phony, they can smell that a mile away. And they really like it if you're mondo expressive ... Oh, and one thing you_** **never** **_wanna do is, like, go totally cliché ... Wicked awesome to meet'cha, E.""_** —Tabby Weeks, (""Erica Versus The House"") + **Spectacular vernacular.** The quote opening this segment is from a story set in the '80s. If you were around back then, you may have guessed that already. There is another semi-period piece I wrote a number of years ago, partially set in the same decade. And I'm sure they won't be the last. I still _love_ the '80s, all the elements of pop culture comprised therein. I also wrote a more recent one set in the '90s, focusing more on the '90s ""slanguage""...ugh, now _there_ 's an ugly portmanteau for ya. I grew up in the '80s and '90s, but the only thing I really enjoyed about the latter decade was making fun of it. Well, that, and the fact that the world was doing well economically. +Since very early on, each story I've written has had a very specific year, date and time setting. Most of them have been set in the present relative to when the story was written. Then there are the few mentioned above, the period pieces. I think that helps lend perspective. Imagination supplies the rest, of course, but I believe if you have a concrete fix on when your events are taking place, you can gain a bit more realism by taking yourself to that date or era. +That could just be me. I'm not suggesting you start adding time-and-date headings to your story segments like I (...then again, I'm not suggesting you _don't_ either), I'm simply explaining this part of my process. When you write dialogue, it's helpful to have these sorts of walls, if you will, to throw stuff against and see if it sticks. If it's pertinent or adds to the storyline, your characters can be discussing the weather, or approaching holidays. They can be gabbing in the morning about what they're going to do today, or summarizing their day in the evening. They can bring up their birthdays and how long it is till the next one. +On the broader spectrum of time, going back to this section's first paragraph, you've got the proposal of eons to consider. Your story doesn't have to have a set year or era, of course. But if it does, be true and respectful to it. Track down some TV or literature from the period and examine the original dialogue therein, back when this year or decade you're focusing on was actually happening. Or listen to time-appropriate stand-up comedians and any then-topical subjects they joked about. (Humor, after all, is of course funny because it's true. It's a cliché, but an accurate one.) You can use slang from your chosen epoch—especially if you feature young characters—and make some time-relevant pop culture references. That too helps take Readers back and feel a bit nostalgic. Sometimes it's nice to go revisit those simpler times in our lives. If laboring to really get the Reader to that specific point in time, you can lay it on a _little_ thick (be careful). As with all decisions writing a story, exercise your best judgment. +But don't go overboard with it, and let the references distract from the actual story. It's a line I've ridden and crossed a few times. It's true, the time references are fun, fun _ny_ , and a bit of a guilty pleasure. But it's possible, and not too difficult, to get carried away with them. This whole point is basically to urge you to do your research, and be period-accurate with the way your characters will speak. Whether your story's set in 2018 or 1978, it's wise and advisable—if not to have your finger firmly fixed on the pulse of the given time's vernacular, then at least in the adjoining vein. And on a similar note... +***** + ** _""Oh yes, yes, indeed. Me best mate Nigel, from grammar school. We'll probably sort out something to do together, but I'm sure he'd love to meet you as well. He's a great happy chappy; super-friendly. So, tell you what: why don't you let me give you me number, you can put it in your mobile, go take your shower, and then you can ring me ...""_** —Sophie Trimble (""A Night At Millicent's"") + **Respect the space, too, not just the time.** That quote—again, as if you couldn't tell—is from a British girl. It's an example of the more drawn-out degree to which non-Americans distinguish their speech. I'm American, so all points like this are going to be centered from that perspective. ""Millicent's"" is about as ""British"" a story as an American writes. It takes place in America, but half of the dialogue and even a good deal of the narrative is Anglo-flavo(u)red. I've always been quite the Anglophile to begin with. And this protagonist, Sophie, loves being British, and loves hearing Americans tell her they like her accent. So she lays it on semi-thick with the accent and the Brit-speak. +This section isn't about British people—in particular—but about global geography, and the peoples and cultures contained in it. This pretty much parrots what the last one did: if you're going to showcase character nationality and reflect it in the dialogue, again, be accurate. Do your research. This naturally goes whether your figure is from another hemisphere, another continent, another adjacent country, or just another United State. So you've got a character foreign to your native or set land. First of all, as aforementioned, be respectful and true. Then, be natural and real in playing out your story elements. +All of my stories are set—at least in part—in a fictional Minnesotan city called Juniper. (Not to be confused with Garrison Keillor's legendary ""fictional"" Minnesota town Lake Wobegon.) It's in southeast Minnesota, part- way between Minneapolis, Rochester, and the Wisconsin/Iowa state lines. As a result, most of my main characters are natural born and raised Minnesotans/Juniperites. Then a number are from other areas of the U.S., having moved or visited to Juniper. Sometimes their dialogue reflects this, if the subject comes up. (See ""Eleven,"" for instance. Some of ""Eleven"" is a bit of a love letter to MN.) +One thing accessible and likable to me about Minnesota is its German and Scandinavian settlement. I don't know a ton about Germany or its populace. But on the Nordic side, I actually do know a lot about Sweden, specifically, its natives and language. There have been some major Swedish characters sprinkled through a few of my works. Which is fun, because it presents the novelty of dialogue in another language. Especially one that is so obscure in the States. English is of course America's primary language, and Spanish is a very close second. Then French and German, and so on. If you speak another language and want to incorporate bi- or trilingual dialogue, I say it can be a good idea. It can give the story a unique taste, and the character a bit of exoticism. Don't, however, allow yourself to ""show off"" too much, or lord this over the Reader. Unless part of the plot specifically focuses on a character's language or heritage, keep it to a controlled level. If both or all characters speak the same language—and that language is separate from the narrative's—you might consider including a translation in parentheses. Not unlike the way television and movies slip in subtitles. And one other thing... +***** + ** _""Just one more time, thanks so much for today, Lilly. It was_** **just** **_what I needed. I had so much fun.""_** —Colleen Flowers (""Housekeeping!"" part 2) + **Have fun.** Bottom line: it's the story itself that's most vital. Whether in dialogue or narrative. If you're writing along and catch yourself being distracted by an event or characteristic not integral to the plot, hit the brakes and throw it in reverse. Penning dialogue can and should be enjoyable, and a good helping of it can really help a Reader get to know your characters. And for heaven's sake, give it a semi-unique spin. Let yourself outside that box! This is a bit of a fine line. You don't want nothing but huge words that will make the Reader's head spin. But you also don't want mere dull phrases that get thrown and bandied about by ordinary folk all the time. You're a writer. The English language—or whatever language you're primarily writing in—is your home. Your Readers want to be entertained. That's why they come to these sites, or go to the bookstore. They don't want to be lectured, they don't want to be patronized or talked down to, and they certainly don't want to be bored. +Here's a good, easy way to have fun. Our shared medium in this community is erotica. Now, this is pretty basic 101 stuff, but it's good advice for a reason. It works. _Indulge_ yourself. Get your personal kinks out there, in living color! You may feel alone in your fetish or liking for...anything, really. To be bracingly honest, it's human to feel that way. To go off on a slight tangent, we've been shamed as a species for a long time for our fascination on sex. Well, guess the hell what. There's a lot of stuff out there to be intrigued by, and believe it or not, there're more other individuals that share your interests or kinks than you think. Trust me on that one. +So feel that sense of freedom. Get your characters _into_ it! Let them talk to each other while doing the deed—whichever deed they're enjoying. Let them laugh, let them cry, let them scream to the heavens how great it feels. It's good for them, and good for you. Your fetish may not be the most ""common"" one out there (what is?), it may even make you feel like a creep. Channel those feelings into energy and words on the page/screen. Reach out, muster the courage to put it out there. And whether visible feedback comes or not, people are reading. They may be skimming, they may have stumbled onto the page by accident, but who knows? Take a step back and realize that your work has claimed the attention of someone else for a moment. And how it may have affected them. There's nothing wrong or shameful in creating a character just like you, and building an entire story around them, flaws and all. In fact, it can be therapeutic. Your true feelings will come out in your execution. If you had fun writing it, the audience'll have fun reading it. +And _try_ not to be discouraged by low numbers or negative comments. Or by _no_ comments. Believe me, NO ONE knows how challenging this can be more than I do. But while lots of Readers are loyal enough to keep coming back to visit and spend a little time with you, they also have busy lives. And this is tough to hear (read), I know, but your stories aren't the only ones they're checking out. Don't get piffed off because they liked another story and not yours. Swallow the pride, suppress the ego. Pride and egos are dumb anyway. Be humble and modest, and that way people won't keep trying to knock you off your pedestal that you built yourself. Takes a lot of energy to keep getting back up there, doesn't it? Maybe take a break from writing and read that other story they liked. You might even like it too, or take something from it. Or, you might _not_ like it. And that's okay. This was a hard lesson for me to learn, but we can't go into this just looking for the reviews. They're nice when they come along, and stories are going to represent valleys and peaks. Some are going to be better than others. Some are going to perform better than others. Just the way it is. +You can always come back to your Word document, or your pad and pen(cil). And for you non-Microsofters...I'm sorry, I don't know what you use. Point is...if you want to write, just do it. Sometimes it takes awhile for inspiration to strike. If it doesn't come naturally, or you're feeling lousy because your last story didn't do well, maybe just let a little time pass. Sometimes it's just what the proverbial doc ordered. These stories and characters are extensions of ourselves. And it does feel validating when people like them. So my final piece of advice is...and this might seem crazy, but hear (read) me out: just _assume_ the Readers like them. At least a little. Clearly, not everyone's going to _love_ what you put out there. You can't assume that. But even something small in the story—a character quirk, a bit of body language, a cute, clever turn of phrase... _some_ body's going to enjoy _some_ thing. Take comfort in it. Know and be confident you're putting out something you believe in, that means something to you. And even if no feedback rolls in, imagine the Reader just sitting by her/himself awhile, finishing your story with a smile. Maybe a giggle, maybe an ""awww""...maybe even a tear. You may not be aware of it, but someone's life _might_ just be made a little brighter, or more inspired, because you placed a fictitious character on their screen and in their life...who figuratively and literally spoke to them in just the right way." +853,Tips to Save Money,JagFarlane,How To,2013-02-21,2013-02-21,2022-01-04 08:40:57,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tips-to-save-money,A couple of ideas to start saving money.,"['Cooking', 'Money']",4.28,"Yup, another article written on how to save you money, but it's such an important topic that it's worth at least another look at. I realize a lot of folks are just now looking at how to save themselves some money but really I think we should just work the ideas into our everyday lives. What I'm going to discuss here is what should be a fairly simple way to put aside some money and can, if you wish it to, have the ability to help make your life a bit healthier. That way, of course, is by cooking your own meals. The other way to cut down on the bills, for those already accustomed to cooking, is to learn to use everything. +I think it kind of scares me, not at the number of people who go out to eat all the time, but the number of especially younger generation that can't cook to save their lives. Cooking used to be considered a basic skill and yet for some reason or another the amount of people that do cook seems to have gone down. A significant part of the reason that it seems to be a declining trend is the amount of time that people have available to them. We are all very busy and I am no different in that aspect, I assure you, but if saving money is your goal you'll need to learn to make the time for it. +How much money can one save by cooking? Well in a bit of an over the top, but very real demonstration this past Valentine's Day my significant other and I had a surf and turf dinner which we cooked ourselves. The menu included porterhouse steaks, lobster tails, baked potatoes, and grilled summer squash. The total sum we paid for this was under twenty-five dollars and a comparable meal at the local chain steakhouse would have easily run us sixty-eight dollars plus drinks, tax, and tip. Huge difference but remember the restaurant has to pay rent, utilities, taxes, salaries, and still make a profit so that's part of what you're paying for. +One more advantage of cooking our own meal was being able to avoid the dinner rush at the restaurants. Even on non-holidays restaurants can get slammed during the dinner hours making for long waits and of course you always run the risk of getting bad service. +But I've digressed too much, at any rate learning to cook is the first step in saving a lot of money, even just every day cooking can save quite a bit of money. Ever tried to make spaghetti? Seriously it's as easy as putting noodles into a pot of boiling water for a few minutes and heating up a jar of sauce and significantly cheaper than going out to an Italian restaurant. Stews are just mixes of vegetables, some spices, and some sort of cut up meat. Throw it in a crock pot on low for eight or so hours and there is dinner. Do yourself a favor and just look up some easy, basic recipes give them a try and enjoy. +For those already familiar with cooking there are two things I'd suggest trying, cooking with more basic ingredients and using everything that you paid for. It's a bit scary when one thinks about how many useable items we throw out because we're not sure what to do with it. Also, a lot of prepared foods tend to cost quite a bit more than buying and using more basic ingredients and with a little extra time we can save quite a bit of money. +Using basic ingredients is a first step, learning to make our own pancake mix and breads for example. It really doesn't take much longer than pulling out the bag to make pancake batter and in the case of bread, machines can make the process much smoother and quicker. You'll also find that by making your own mixes and such that you're cutting out a lot of unnecessary ingredients that manufacturers put in for appearance and long term preservation. +The bigger issue I think is in learning to use everything, the biggest example is in the use of bones. Most people I know will throw out things like the bones from a ham or a chicken. The ham is a little easier to work with so I'll go over that one but the basics can be used on any other sort of bone, it may just take more work. +The ham bone and often the chunk of fattier meat around it tend to be thrown out after people serve the preferred cuts off the ham. Why this is, well I suppose people just don't think about what they could do with it. Instead of throwing out the bone, throw it into a large pot with water and bring it to a boil. Allow the bone and water to simmer for a few hours until you've made a nice, ham broth. Take the bone out, return in a little bit of small pieces of ham, a bag of rehydrated split peas, some cut up carrots and potatoes, and you have a split pea soup. Not a difficult task by far and it makes use of a part that most people throw out. +Really, saving money is something I think just about everyone is interested in and honestly there are so many ways to do it that it would take a series of books to go over it. I hope though, that you take away a few ideas or at least have become interested enough to start looking around at things in a different light as to what they could be used for. Cooking just happens to be one of the largest things that many people can take up changes in to save them money. Thanks for reading and good luck in the kitchen!" +854,To Slay a Vampire,Sean Renaud,How To,2009-03-15,2009-03-15,2022-01-04 08:40:57,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/to-slay-a-vampire,A basic survival guide for other kind of undead.,"['Survive', 'Vampires']",4.25,"I should start by telling you that I don't actually think you're a dummy. Vampire slaying can be a very daunting task your first time out and it requires a lot of skills that most people build up over a life time. If you're reading this book you obviously don't have the time to learn these skills gradually. Perhaps your brother was turned into a vampire and you need to kill the head vampire before it becomes permanent. Maybe you've been bitten yourself. Whatever the reason is that you're getting ready to embark upon this quest you shouldn't go unprepared. +We'll start with the basics because that's what's most important. Getting through the second encounter. I say the second encounter because since you've lived long enough to read this you've already survived your first encounter. Congratulations. Ninety nine point nine (repeating of course) percent of people fail what you've accomplished. You have survived a vampire. So go pour yourself a drink, you're going to need it. +We should start by identifying the precise species of vampire you've encountered. Yes there are several different species of vampire and knowing exactly what you're up against makes a lot of difference as to what equipment you should carry. Right now I would recommend hanging cloves of garlic from all the windows and doors of your house as well as pouring salt along those entrances. If you have a welcome mat or anything welcoming people into your home displayed outside bring them inside right now. These are only precautions they do not protect you against all species of vampire but you're better off with these things in place. I'll start by describing the most common species. If you encounter and survive a new species please notify me so I can adjust this list. Lives depend on it. +Vampirus Buffus: One of the more common species since the late nineties is Vampirus Buffus. This is good because they are one of the weaker species of vampire. They have no special powers of shape shifting or hypnosis. They aren't especially strong either. They can be killed by decapitation, fire, sunlight or a stake through the heart. Upon death they turn to dust. Crosses work against this species burning them like touching a hot iron. You should take into account that it's just a hot iron you're waving around if the vampire wants you bad enough he'll bat it away or even let you burn him so he can kill you. There are also a few twisted ones who get off on pain. Holy water has a similar effect. There is a single known subspecies of this breed known as a Turokon. They are much stronger and their hearts are encased in bone making it difficult to pierce. +Vampirus Bladicus: This is another common species. It is similar to the Vampirus Buffus in that decapitation or UV rays are fatal to this breed. Like Vampirus Buffus they have no shape shifting or hypnosis. Wooden stakes just piss them off so don't waist your time. Silver bullets will kill them and is the preferred method of destruction. There is a formula that I am no privy to that will make their heads exploded. I personally don't recommend searching for this because honestly silver bullets will suffice. This species is very fast, able to dodge bullets even at close range if they are aware of your attack. There is also a known subspecies of Vampirus Bladicus with a barbed tongue. The subspecies is only vulnerable to UV radiation. +Vampirus Stokus: While increasingly uncommon in number this is your most basic vampire. They can be killed in all of the ways mentioned previous to this entry. In addition they can not cross directly over water. They can change into mist, bats and wolves seemingly at will and must sleep during the day unlike the previous species which must avoid sunlight but can otherwise remain active during the day. +Vampirus Hellinius: You're screwed. No pure human has ever survived combat with one of these monsters so if you've seen one and lived it's for a reason. +There are several other species of vampire that are only known in certain regions. Eventually texts will be written to identify such beasts as the Kami No Oni, the Japanesse vampire that must count anything placed in front of it before moving on which is fortunate in a land where rice is a staple part of the diet. Just throw dinner on the floor and escape. I will also explain now to defeat a Lenku Gar, the African vampire. It's not a true vampire, it eats skin rather than drink blood. Very gross. +Now I'll explain to you the weaknesses of various vampires so you can be better able to protect yourself. This is just going to be a quick list of weapons and protective to keep on yourself at all times. +Crosses are only effective about fifty percent of the time but since you can pick on up on a necklace at your nearest store for a few bucks I recommend it. It is important that the cross be visible in order to have it' effect. +Holy Water is again only effective fifty percent of the time. If your cross works there is a good chance that Holy Water will as well. If you find yourself in this position I recommend asking your local priest to bless as much water as you can. Trust me on this Holy Water Balloons are far more effective than Holy Hand Grenades. Particularly because there is no counting involved. +Wooden Stakes are a staple and often times slay the vampire outright. However if the body does not turn to dust I recommend decapitation AND cremation. There is a reason for this. Some species like Stokus aren't slain by a stake to the heart. Instead it pins them to the earth. If someone removes it the vampire can attack you and he'll be upset. If you decapitate him and that doesn't kill him and someone removes the stake he might throw his head at you. In my experience a flying head with teeth is an unpleasant thing to have thrown at you. Cremation may not happen fast enough. If the stake burns before the vampire does you have a flaming vampire coming after you. A friend of mine had third degree burns over half his body because he failed to take this precaution and had to wrestle a flaming vampire. Fortunately he had another stake on him and was able to defeat his attacker. +Silver doesn't work very often but when it does it solves all of your problems. Since it's also useful against werewolves, which occasionally are found in the employ or more recently at war with vampires I recommend having some around. Silver bullets are best but expensive. Silver arrowheads and a crossbow is cheaper because you can retrieve and reuse your ammunition. If you're trained with a sword lining it with silver is also a viable plan. +Fire and sunlight work on all known species of vampire which is good. If you've got a flame thrower you're pretty much set. For the rest of us orange juice concentrate mixed with gasoline makes for a good substitute for napalm. UV flashlights are also available and make a fine deterrent and even weapon in some cases. You should have a flashlight in your anti-zombie kit and in your earthquake kit as well I recommend you spring the extra for UV just encase this situation should occur. +You're human though and that means you're probably on the defense here. Your first line of defense is your home. The Buffus and Stokus species are unable to enter a home uninvited. However if they are invited they can enter anytime after that. So never invite strangers into your home at night. This only applies to a residence a store is a public place and thus all are invited by the nature of the place. Some hunters and slayer have suggested that a welcome mat at your front door counts as an invitation which is why I recommend removing these during an encounter, and in general not having them. Get something with a bunny rabbit or God Bless but nothing that could count as an invitation. +You're second line of defense is daylight. All vampires are weak during the day and this is when you should attack if you must and when you should escape if you can. There isn't much to tell you about sunlight. It has been noted that if you live above the Artic Circle where the sun can set for weeks at a time you're fucked. It can also be noted that if you live in a place like Seattle where it always rains. . .honestly you were going to kill yourself sooner or later anyway. I recommend you feed yourself to the vampire to keep it out of my neighborhood. +Salt, garlic and other cooking items are usually worthless but in some cases a vampire may be unable to cross a line of salt. Since you can make a line of salt beneath your carpet there is no reason not to be covered in this aspect but it probably won't work. Garlic is the same way, often useless but you can try it if you like. However if you must use food in your defense I recommend eggplant. Why eggplant? Because it's disgusting and I hope that any self respecting vampire would refuse to eat anybody who eats eggplant. +That about covers your offense and defense. You can identify a vampire species through its powers and weaknesses which will allow you to kill it when the time comes. So all that's left is how do you locate the vampire to kill? There are three popular methods none of which I recommend but I will tell you them anyway. The first is to use yourself as bait. If you're a woman go wear your best ""come bite me"" outfit. It's the same one that makes human males want to bite you, if you need assistance choosing please send me pictures, remember your life may depend on this. I will respond. Then you wait to be attacked and slay the vampire. This only works in movies for girls with super powers. The rest of us cannot safely employ this method. +The second method involves letting the vampire feed and then following it back to its lair then attacking some time during the day. The advantage to this plan is that you can attack during the day which makes the vampire easier to deal with. The real flaw in this plan is vampires are fast so you might not be able to keep up, they are also very intelligent and may have know you are tracking them. If they are not sleeping during the day you may just have delivered them a midday snack. Just like you appreciate it when the pizza man shows up I the middle of the night with a free pizza vampires appreciate people who show up midday without proper planning. +The third and least common method is also he newest. It involves tracking the beast based on locating its hunting ground and working out the most likely location for it's lair. Just like those UCLA professors found Osama Bin Ladin using human migration patterns the same thing works on vampires. This method is safe, but I don't recommend it because it's imprecise and leads to people getting sloppy. Basically it narrows it down to a specific neighborhood but it then you have to go door to door. People get mad when you douse them with water for no good reason. Worse you get bored after the first three houses. +My favorite method is to let the word out that you know about the vampire and call him out. He'll come to you, and you can set your home up as a giant vampire trap. You'll have home court advantage, you'll have weapons stashed for your immediate use and best of all traps. Walk through the wrong door? BAM bucket of Holy Water falls on your head. Take that Dracula! Turn on the light so you can see? UV rays for growing my weed! How do you like me now Count? +Remember that as long as the vampire still has a body there is still a chance that it will return. So if whatever method you chose to employ didn't destroy the body utterly you must. As mentioned earlier always decapitate and cremate the corpse. If you're feeling especially thorough you can mix the ashes with salt and Holy Water and then bury the remains on hallowed ground. +If you have a specific question not answered here please leave a comment or write me directly. The information I can give you may be what saves your life. Happy hunting." +855,To Survive Dinotopia,Sean Renaud,How To,2013-10-13,2013-10-13,2022-01-04 08:40:58,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/to-survive-dinotopia,If Dinos comeback are you prepared?,['Dinosaurs'],2.67,"We've been down this road before and before the end we'll be down this road again. I've told you how best to survive zombies, werewolves, vampires, kaiju and robots. For a lot of these things I cannot emphasis the basics heavily enough. Which is why even if it sounds a bit like a broken record or a nineteen eighties rapper, take your pick, I have to remind you to cover the essentials first because you won't have time to gather the essentials once you're balls or ovaries deep in a world altering disaster. So make sure you have the following. +•A knife: I personally recommend two, the first being a Kabar, the knife of choice of the military and for good reason. The second being a Swiss Army knife. You never know when you might need something random. +•First Aid Kit: This is the end of the world we're talking about. You or someone close to you is going to need first aid kit. It might be for the pain killers, it might be for the disinfectant, it might be for the butterfly bandages. I would also highly recommend you take a basic first aid class. +•Extra clothing: I can't predict the future and neither can you. Whether your shirt was shredded by rampages zombies, a turn of weather made it too cold for that skimpy two piece you wear when you think nobody is watching or you find a naked girl sleeping in the woods. Regardless you can't go wrong with extra clothing. I would also suggest more clothing than less. A lot of you are thinking a big bulky jacket'll do ya and it might. But you're better off with layers that can be added and removed as the circumstances change than an all or nothing approach. Trust me you'll regret it. +•Raingear: Again unless you can predict the future, control the weather or both you're better prepared than not. Now here is a place where I personally take a few short cuts. I'm a fan of a can of scotch guard and the next time you have a pair of pants your about to throw out make em waterproof. Same with a sweater or long sleeve shirt. Alternatively you can always rip a a couple of holes in a trash bag and call it a day. Sure you'll look like a dork but this is the end of the world not Sunday Chuch! Also you might find other uses for trash bags down the line. +•Water: I recommend no less than two gallons. How you store it is up to you. I tend to use jugs but I've seen very compelling arguments that water bags are better because once they are empty you can roll them up to save space. +•Flashlight: I think I'll simply ask you a question dear reader. Can you see in the dark? That's what I thought. Now before I move on I'm going to briefly mention something. If you've spent your entire life in the city you don't actually know what darkness is. While there is no substitution for the real thing the closest you're likely to get in your home is to wait until the dead of night and turn off everything electric in the house. Everything. That's darkness. Don't expect that the stars and the moon will provide the kind of light they do on television. It's better than nothing of course but you could very easily walk right off a cliff in the dark. Which would render the other items on this list moot. +•Trail Mix: Okay I don't like trail mix and really it's a short term plan anyway. Basically it boils down to your body metabolizing candies faster than nuts and grains so a mix of the two should give you immediate energy and lasting energy. Still since I'm talking about surviving an apocalypse not hiking the Grand Canyon. (As I write this quite possibly the last people to ever hike the Grand Canyon have been expelled. Thanks Obama!) +•Sun protection: Again this is kinda short term thinking. It won't last forever but it can be vital in those first days. I recommend having enough clothing and a wide brimmed hat though so you can simply cover your flesh. Whatever you may think about the Middle Easterners you should be able to accept that they know a thing or two about surviving a desert and if it works for people in Iraq it'll serve you just fine. +•Map and compass: This last one is one that I'm extremely hesitant to suggest but I'm told by my colleagues that I would be remiss in not mentioning it and ultimately got argued down. (See I let you guys win sometimes!) Personally I think that unless I dump you out in the middle of the wilderness a map and compass is a lot less useful than a street map and you don't need a compass to use a street map. By contrast if you are dropped in the middle of nowhere and you don't know how to properly use a map and compass you're probably more likely to hurt yourself than anything else. +Okay that's our standard bit of information that I really hate to repeat but it's been a while and my co-conspirators keep telling me that I have way way too much fun with these and I completely forget that repetition is the key to memory. So yeah go read that list again. Good. I hope you're taking notes they'll be a quiz at the end! +Anyway I've yet to tell you how to survive an onslaught of the most dangerous creatures ever walk the face the earth. These were creatures who's bones inspired the legends of dragons. Who to this day inspires the modern day mythmakers known as movie magicians to put out some of their most inspired works. We're talking of beasts so enormous in scope that it's difficult to fathom them as human beings. We're talking of course about the mighty thunder lizards. Dinosaurs. +Now we have to start with a little bit of the science involved here mostly so I confuse you too much but also so you can earn that neat little golden star when you school someone. So the first thing you should know is that dinosaurs come from a period of geological history known as Cenozoic Era. The Cenozic Era was made up of three separate and distinct portions called Sentences. The first, known as the Cambrian saw fish, insects and early amphibians. The second, known as the Jurassic was the time of the dinosaurs which was followed by the Mesozoic era which is famous for the Mammoths and Sabretoothed tigers. We'll be focused of course on the Jurassic. +Next lets briefly cover the fact that there are some things that are not dinosaurs that are commonly referred to as dinosaurs. Dinosaurs exclusively walk. If it doesn't walk it's not a dinosaur. The flying ones are pterosaurs and they have no living relatives today. The swimming ones are plesiosaurs and they gave way to modern day crocodiles. As far as anybody can tell pterosaurs probably ate fish so yeah. They probably won't screw with you if you don't screw with them. I might avoid swimming too just in case. Plesiosaurs probably hunted the same way crocodiles do. So if you're near the water and you think that log has been eyin you the wrong way. I'd probably just take a few big steps back and if it starts casually floating away all of a sudden considered yourself saved. That's all I have to say about those two types for today. +Okay, now when it comes to survival first you need to learn to identify what you're up against. If you have to make a snap judgment about what kind of enormous lizard you're stuck with you can probably make a good guess just by counting how many legs it walks on. If it walks on two legs like a chicken or a turkey assume it wants to eat your spleen. I don't care if it's cute and covered in ruffley feathers or hideous and covered in scales. Two feet equals murder machine and remember these were killers that survived sixty five million years, that's longer than all of your evolutionary ancestors combined! They were the very best at what they did and what they did wasn't pretty. If they've got four legs there is good news. They eat plants. With the exception of Dimetrodon and. . .look if you see something with a huge sail on it's back I just run while the running is good. The bad news I'll get into a little later. Those are your basic right there. Two legs eat meat, four legs eat plants. +Before we start breaking them down though we might as well talk about your general rules that will keep you safe against virtually any dino. These are ground rules but if you know better don't follow them because they are only true ninety percent of the time. The other ten they are almost immediately fatal. So lets cover them real quick. +Dinosaur's vision is based on movement: It's more accurate to say nearly all vertebrate vision is based on motion. Even yours. Think about how many things you don't notice until they start moving even when someone is pointing right at it. Of course that means holding still great is your reasonably concealed. If you choose to stand in the middle of an abandoned freeway hoping the dinosaur won't see you all I'll say is I hope he's just finished eating a goat and a lawyer and thus is more curious about you than hungry cus otherwise you're so boned. +Dinosaur's hate fire. That is true and it might work against some of the smaller ones but many of the larger ones will react the way modern elephants and rhinos do. Stomp it out. Just be aware of what you're getting into before lighting a fire. Also remember that if you're in enemy territory never face your own fire. It kills your night vision. +Dinosaur's are stupid. Well they are stupid the same way squirrels, roaches and dolphins are. Which is to mean smart enough to completely blow through anything you set up thinking they are stupid. +Dinosaur's can't swim. I know this kinda contradicts what I said earlier which is the only reason I'm mentioning it here. First when your trying to avoid getting eaten do you really care if it's a dinosaur or a plesiosaur? I dropped that knowledge on you to expand your mind! Not save your life. Second most dinosaurs had large powerful tails and could likely swim reasonably well. The only thing here is don't think you're safe because you're on a boat, island, opposite riverbank. +I think that covers it all. +First we're going to cover the meat eaters, for obvious reasons. On the off chance that you're reading this while in the middle of a Jurassic Resurrection you want to get to the important part first. So lets talk sizes. The small chicken sized ones are known as compys. I could bore you with the facts or just fill you in on the details. They probably can't hurt you, not any more than a modern day chicken can or will. There are some rumors they might be poisonous though. That's just stuff you learn if you learned all your science from children's cartoons though. The next size up roughly dog sized is the velociraptor (go look it up. Crichton was smart but he either mixed up to species made a mistake or simply realized six foot raptors were more intimidating than dog sized ones. It's possible it's a combination of all three of these things.) They were pack hunters. Of course there is no way of knowing how sophisticated their hunting strategies may have been. We do know they had feathers like birds and could probably glide instead of fly like their ancestors would be able to do. So I'd keep an eye on trees encase they like to hunt in a fashion similar to the modern drop bear of Australia. Finally the two larger than that, the Allosaurus at roughly ten feet at the shoulder and the Tyrannosaurus at just under fifteen. The allosaurs were truly nature's perfect killing machines. Jaws that snap and jaws that trap, claws that rend until the end. If this is the creature your facing the good news is you'll go quick. The bad news your best plan was to have avoided a close encounter. The T-Rex on the other hand has those itty bitty little arms. It couldn't even jerk itself off or scratch it's own chin. Nearly every dinosaur science person thinks that they were probably sluggish scavengers who's primary skill was an outstanding sense of smell comparable to a modern day blood hound. +Okay that covers that for now on to the plant eaters. +The plant eaters are basically broke down into three major types. Long Necks, Three Horns and Spike tails. The Long Necks are fairly famous, long neck, long tail, you couldn't possibly mistake them in the wild. The good news is there little evidence they would intentionally try to harm a human being. However much like elephants are terrified of mice they might panic at the sight of a human. As long as you make absolutely certain that it's seen you and knows you've seen it you should fine but maintain eye contact. The second are the Three Horns. Much like modern day water buffalo these were the pricks of the ancient world and will run you down and squash you into paste for fun. Fortunately like modern bulls they have poor reflexes. All you have to do is dodge until they get their horns stuck in a tree or they knock themselves silly on a wall. Of course if you're out in the open your only hope is to leap onto it's back and ride it until it accepts you as it's master and allows you to ride it. After that it will never again try to harm you. If you screw up though you'll get gored by several ton rhino. Not a good look. The final known plant dinosaur are the spike tails and very little is known about these mysterious creatures. What is known is that if your tail is covered in spikes, you've got a brain the size of a walnut and an extra brain in your butt that you might be a formidable foe. My personal experience with the majestic beasts is that you should simply give it a wide berth. +Okay. We're at the end and since you've listened to me for years I'm going to tell you two things. First you can never be over prepared when it comes to your back up system. There is some Doomsday Castle show floating around that shows you how a bunch of whiny bitches gear up but they are reasonably prepared. Regardless how to build your stronghold is based on your personal resources. Can't build a moat without lots of water and all. +P.S.: Covering yourself in T-Rex Piss won't help. You want the top predator not the King of the Whores. +OOC: There are absolutely no inaccuracies in this document. If you have found one you must have heard crazy things. " +856,Tokyo Transculture Pt. 01,sunsecrets,How To,2020-08-25,2020-08-25,2022-01-04 08:40:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/tokyo-transculture-pt-01,A Summer adventurer is in Tokyo for the LGBTQ shrines.,"['Foursome', 'Gay Male', 'Group', 'Group Sex', 'Interracial', 'Panties', 'Training']",4.0,"During a summer Japan grad course in Tokyo, I had a small (and expensive) student room in the attic of an old house that had the oddest compartments. Also in the attic were a girl, a pretty girl, from Germany, and a Japanese boy from San Francisco -- each with a small room opening onto our shared kitchen/sitting room and giving onto a washroom and a small balcony. The view of the local park and Kanayama Shrine was wonderful but I couldn't escape the sensational views of my pretty fellow lodger. She knew my feelings -- probably better than I did, and she wasn't shy. And the Japanese lodger seemed very nice too. +In sharing the washroom, there was not much modesty: the glass to the shower was frosted but the girl only wrapped a towel around herself when she came out and that had quite a number of shortcomings in terms of what was wrap-able and she was casual in how it was all done up. I wasn't shy either and the boys made a point of wandering around in the heat either nude or nearly nude and she was casual about that too. Toshi was quiet but very warm towards me. +Supposedly we were there to study Japanese religious customs in the Kanayama fertility cult but Suzi Q -- she told me that was her name -- had smiled and said she was doing that the easy way although what that meant wasn't clear and I felt very keen to find out how to do things easily. Then after a week or so, Suzi came back from shopping carrying some packages and was followed by a very special-looking lady. She was Chinese, old --maybe 35 or so, but she had a great figure and not much of it was hidden by her light yellow silk dress. Suzi nodded meaningfully and said this was Jade. She was really graceful with poise and confidence that I rarely see in ladies: I guessed she knew more about men than anyone else in town and she was going to be charming about it. +I wasn't wearing much, just shorts, but the lady was so reassuring and friendly I felt I didn't have to hide or apologize. Suzi said her friend had come over a few years ago to bring knowledge of her Guanyin customs and didn't speak English too well and might want some help so she could help non-Japanese visitors better. As Suzi spoke, the lady bent over slightly to move a cushion on our kitchen bench and then turned and sat delicately, her short hemline easing up her thigh and suggesting she also would be casual about wrapping shortcomings. She looked at me appraisingly and I smiled back. She gestured kindly and I joined her on the little bench. Suzi made us some green tea and then disappeared into her room with the packages. +Jade took my hand and looked at my palm very carefully, gently stroking my middle finger: ""Thick,"" she said, ""and long,"" with a suggestive smile. Then she made a motion for me to flex my bicep muscle and then grinned as she squeezed it: 'You are very strong,' she murmured, with what must have been a Chinese-German accent. That made me feel quite strong indeed. I wondered what compliment I could offer back, when Suzi, transformed, reappeared dressed up as an college girl but in a light dress similar to Jade and when the two of them stood together, Jade was also transformed with a new mood into a very respectable lady. +As they left, they handed me a little parcel as a gift and then floated down the stairs. They were away for a few days. The parcel contained three pairs of panties for boys -- black, white, and pink. I didn't know what to do with them so just put them on my bureau. I heard Toshi come out of his room and open the fridge door so I went out to sit with him. He was smaller than me and a year or two younger but probably a lot more sophisticated. Judging by the clothes he wore, he was quite a liberated boy, besides being slim and handsome. He looked pleased to see me and he looked great in his semi-transparent black nylon shortie house-jacket: I couldn't tell right away if he wore anything underneath it. I grinned and said I liked his coat and he gave a little swish to show it off. Caught up in the moment, I said Suzi and her friend had given me something that might go well with his coat and his eyebrows went up inquiringly. Emboldened, I went back to my room and picked up the panties. They felt very sexy and they had a special stretchy front to support my balls. I decided to be bold and I took down my shorts and slid on the white panties: my cock thickened and began to rise but I went out anyway. Toshi looked very pleased to see me and brightened a lot when I held out the black panties for him. He took them gracefully and opened his little coat. He wasn't wearing anything underneath and his penis was on the way to erection, sticking straight out. He waggled it at me as he slipped on the panties and adjusted them to fit around his balls and put his cock upright in the stretchy material. +""Just right for Inari Okami,"" he grinned. ""You know the fertility rites at Kanayama?"" +""I can guess about the rites from the huge penis statue outside. How does that affect us?"" +""The ladies have gone to get the right costumes -- for us too. We will go to Asakusabashi and join the LGBTQ celebrations. The boys dress up as girls and so on. It is a very ancient custom. We will drink amazaki -- the sperm liquid. Have you tasted sperm before? You can buy it to help you get used to the taste. Maybe Jade only drinks amazaki or real sperm -- several times a day - but I think she must have meals in the shrine as well. She is the temple expert on helping foreign newcomers."" +I knew I had a lot to learn but now I felt more confident that I would find the courage explore amazing new dimensions in my life. +GO ON TO PART 2" +857,A Tongue Lashing: An Essay,rrickgauer,How To,2006-05-16,2006-05-16,2022-01-04 08:25:27,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/a-tongue-lashing-an-essay,A how-to on cunnilingus.,"['Female Oral Sex', 'How To Eat Pussy', 'Oral Sex Advice', 'Sex Advice']",4.47,"**A Tongue Lashing: An Essay On The Game Of Oral Stimulation** +""Seriously, this was the best oral sex I have ever had performed on me and as you know I have been licked by the best. I just wish he'd stop calling me."" \- Jenna Jameson +""I was blind folded in a kind Pepsi Challenge for pussy lickers and I actually picked him over some of the best lesbian pussy lickers on the planet earth."" \-- anonymous lesbian +""I never thought a tongue could replace a good stiff cock, but goddamn his tongue is worth a thousand cocks."" \- - paid advertisement +""I always knew he'd amount to something like this just by the way he used to lick a popsicle."" \- - author's mother +""With so many young girlfriends I had to turn to the master for help. I just didn't understand why he had to show me 'personally' on each and every girl."" \- - Hugh Hefner +""You must have ze passion for ze oral sex,"" Dr. Will Lickinzer of the Tung Sex Institute of Ames, Iowa said. ""It is ze key to performance. If you don't love ze pussy, the pussy won't love you back."" +I have to agree with the good Doc about having a passion for performing oral sex on a woman. Like anything in life when you perform with a passion you perform to your utmost. Think how you feel when a woman performs oral sex on you and you know she's really into it. There's nothing quite like it. So why wouldn't a woman want to feel the same way? You could make the argument that men are always ready and into it, but that doesn't mean they are prepared. +So how do you get prepared? Study and practice. Bone up on your reading about oral sex. You can find an infinite amount on the internet. Watch porn films where women perform on other women. Who would know better and what better way to learn? And it's a turn on. +Then you have to practice and experiment. What other subject can top cunnilingus for preparation and practice. I can't think of any. +Just think of it as a baseball game. There's no clock running and if you have to go into extra innings it only means you'll have more chances to hit a home run. It's the bottom of the ninth, the score is tied, there are two outs, the bases are loaded and your up to bat...swing for the fences. + **First base: Don't rush** +Starting out can be the most important part of the game. Relaxation is the key here. Getting a woman to relax before performing oral sex on her can make all the difference. Offer a back massage or a foot massage or rub her shoulders. Make this act as sensual as possible. And I don't mean substituting your penis for your hands. If you are really into your woman you'll already know what I mean. Hell, rubbing her fucking calves is a turn on, baby. If you understand that then you are on your way. If not...WORK ON IT This is your gateway to more sex. +On your path to relaxation let's just say you choose a foot massage to get your woman in the mood. I've found the best position is to let your woman sit in a nice, plush chair behind you while sit on the floor in front of her. This way she can drape her legs over your shoulders, you have easy access to both of her feet and she can watch, say, a movie with Johnny Depp in it. As much as you hate watching the little fag if it gets her in the mood...fuck it, watch too. +I use baby oil because it's so much cheaper than some of those massage oils, but if money is of no consequence, then knock yourself out with scented oils. +I start with one foot at a time, draping it over the appropriate shoulder. Cup one hand, fill it with a modest amount of oil, rub both hands together and then lather the foot so your fingers slid easily over the skin and between the toes. The easier your hand and fingers slid the easier it is on your lower arms. Rub the oil into all parts of the foot; in between the toes, the Achilles tendon, the ball of the foot, the heel, in between the ankle bones and into the arch (the most sensitive and erogenous part of the foot). Alternate between both feet for at least twenty minutes or more. Remember, this is not a race. Take your time and don't rush. The more you're into it, the more she'll be into it. + **Second Base: Don't Forget The Breasts** +Once the massaging part of your seduction is over towel her feet dry of oil. Once that is done you turn around and, surprise, you are already between her legs. Now don't get ahead of yourself here. We're still in seduction mode. Move slowly up her torso, kissing her body like she's the hottest woman on earth. And by God, at that point, if she isn't then you need a lobotomy. While you're kissing your way up her body take time to pause and look her over. Look at her like your ten years old and it's Christmas morning and you just opened a present you wanted but never, in a million years, thought you would get. She could be dressed in an old tee, pajama bottoms and white socks, but to you it's Victoria's Secret. +Move close to her face and kiss her with a controlled passion. Kiss her to let her know you are so turned on you can barely control yourself; but this is about her so you are in control because the only thing that matters is pleasing her. Kiss her and in your mind pretend it is her pussy. Give her a taste of what is about to come. +Move back and look her body over once again, moving you hands over her. Not groping, but caressing, working your way down to her breasts. Move her top up over her breasts, feel them, caress them, run your tongue over them paying particular attention to the nipples. Lick around the areola, over the nipple, along the underside of the breast. Lightly rake your teeth over the nipple if she likes that. Cup them in your hands (if she likes them handled a bit more roughly please accommodate), roll the nipples between your fingers, suck it into your mouth and flick the nipple with your tongue. Alternate back and forth. Never underestimate the erogenous nature of the breast and nipple. +Now kiss you way down to the top of her pajama bottoms, maybe taking the material in your teeth and pulling them down. Reach around to the sides and slowly remove them. Take time to stare at her panties; stare at them because you know what's underneath. Cup your hand over the pelvic bone and press against the heat of her warm pussy. Slid your hand down to feel her lips under the material; feel the slight dampness. Move your face closer and run your tongue over the same area. Push your face into her vulva, all the while sliding your fingers under the sides of her panties and slowly inching them down until they are around her knees. Move back, looking at her and slid her panties of the rest of the way. + **Third Base: That Beautiful Pussy** +Now that her beautiful pussy is exposed just take a good long look at it; savor it because in a matter of seconds you will be up close and personal with God's greatest creation. +Remember that no two pussies are alike. They all have their own beauty about them. It's your job to find what's beautiful about the pussy staring you in the face. Maybe it has long lips or tight lips or a hooded clit or an exposed clit. Whatever it is...let her know. +The inside of a woman's thighs are two things: soft and very sensitive. They are a great starting and ending point. There is plenty of area to start getting her in the mood. Lick all around the thighs and every once in awhile skim or breath heavily over the vulva. There is absolutely no rush to get to the clit. Trust me, it will wait. Always keep in mind the sooner you jump in the sooner it will end. If your like me you love satisfying your woman orally and I'm never in a hurry to get it over with. I, literally, could spends hours down there. +After you have paid ample attention to the area in and around her pussy - and remember if your woman is one who doesn't mind her anal area attended to, and you're up for it, give that some well deserved attention - and you're finally ready to lick that pussy just remember variety is the spice of cunnilingus. Don't think of her pussy as just her clit as the main source of orgasm. Sure, that may be the way she comes, but there's so many other things you can do to lead up to that point. You have ten fingers, or eight fingers and two thumbs, so put them to good use. Use them to insert, spread, rub, flick, caress and stroke. Rub your face over her. Some women like clean shaven men, some may like a day old growth of beard. Performing good oral sex on a woman is so much more than just using your tongue. +But let's face it, the tongue is your main weapon. So let's move on to some techniques. Try opening your mouth like you're saying ""Oh"" and then place over the clit. From here you can move your tongue back and forth, up and down. Pretend you're giving her pussy a French kiss. Pretend it's her mouth and her clit is her tongue. Move your tongue over her clit in long strokes. Move back and position your mouth at a different angle, or a different location. Move your mouth over the vaginal opening and push your tongue in as far as you can. Move your mouth down to her perineum and tongue the area between the ass and her lips. The best advice I ever heard about licking a pussy came from a woman - some porn queen I think - she said, ""Lick that pussy like you're licking an ice cream cone."" If you can remember that simple fact you'll do alright. Nice long strokes of your tongue up and down the length. And remember an ice cream cone eventually starts to melt so you have to lick it sideways and quicker strokes and sometimes you have to put your lips over the top and suck it in. +Some women like more friction on the clit and some like less. Some like your tongue stuck inside and some don't. Some like their lips sucked into your mouth, some don't. It's your job to know what works and what doesn't. Nothing is a bigger turn on than hearing a woman moan when you've done something right. Of course don't stick with that for too long. Experiment, she ain't gonna mind. +Eventually get your fingers involved for the finale. Get enough salvia in and around the vulva so when you finally decide to slid a finger in, it will slid in easily. No wasted motion. If your fingers are long enough search for the infamous G-spot. If you find it you'll be a God among men. And women. If your woman likes a finger in her anus then slid one in there too. But if your woman doesn't like a finger or two inside her, then just continue on with your tongue. + **Home Run: Home Run** +By this time you should be able to determine if your woman is ready to climax or not. Of course heavy breathing and moaning, grabbing the sides of your head and thrusting hips would also be key indicators. I think this is the most crucial time. Crucial because it can either make or break the intensity of the orgasm. There is no substitute for repetition here. If you've performed on one woman many times you will already know what works best. If not, as long as you've put in the time prior, the first time can be fantastic in its own way. +So you sense it is time for your woman to come. Some women like the tempo increased, some might just like a light flicking of the tongue over her clit, or maybe she likes your tongue pressed flat against the entire clitoral area, moving your tongue back and forth, moving your fingers in and out until she comes. I love this part other than I know it's coming to an end. +Some women may get sensitive just like men do after they come. Some women are ready for more. If your woman is multi-orgasmic then you may just be getting started. Some women - since you're in a perfect position - like to have you enter them right after the orgasm because it will intensify the aftereffects and could lead to another orgasm from the inside. You should be so lucky. +After the dust has settled let your woman know that was fantastic. No words are needed. Go back to licking and kissing her thighs, grateful for the privilege to be that close to the holiest of holies; grateful she has let you please her in such an intimate way; grateful you're such a team player." +858,Top 10 List for Cockteasing Touches,Sappholovers,How To,2009-04-29,2009-04-29,2022-01-04 08:41:00,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/top-10-list-for-cockteasing-touches,Ways to have him in the palm of your hand.,['Sex Advice'],4.15,"10\. The Handshake, Warm Greeting of an Erect Cock +When a woman greets an erect cock with something of a soft handshake...light, warm, friendly, seductive grip....that lets you know she's delighted to see you--erect--and is ready to lead you (or pull you) into bed with her (see photo). +9\. The Caress and Cupping of the Balls +Upon giving the warm handshake, I love it when a woman cups and lightly caresses or squeezes my balls in the palm of her hand. This is such a beautiful act of intimacy...and encouragement. This light touch of a man's balls conveys such a feeling of admiration for our balls in both a physical and metaphysical sense. Yes, the woman has you in the palm of her hand-- literally--and there's a feel of vulnerability to the male in it (thus the negative valence phrase: a woman has you ""by the balls""). But then there's such a positive valence--such an inflation to a man's sense of his own manliness, making him feel cockstrong--when that touch is done lovingly, with encouragement, with a sense that a woman wants to feel the full power of those balls. +8\. Testing the Tensile Strength, or Warming up to Dive +If you have ever watched Olympic divers preparing for a dive off the lower diving board, you know how to give this next amazing touch to the cock. A steel hard, pumping iron erect cock feels so good. It's such a defiance of gravity. You can feel the testosterone running through it. And I love it when a woman wants to test--and admire--the strength of my cock when it's first revealed what she has done to me. Yes, I love playfulness in the bedroom, so I love it when a woman approaches my cock as her plaything: part slinky, part playdough or silly putty, part erector set. What's best is if she bounces the cock up and down some, checking out its strength, its rebounding capacity, flattering herself as she does this. +7\. The Aesthetic Appreciation of a Man's Sculpture: The light grip of the cock between thumb and middle finger +Once the cock has been warmly greeted and the balls encouraged and the cock bounced around a bit, it's time for the aesthetic appreciation of a man's sculpture. I love it when a woman grasps the middle of my cock, where it's thickest, between a thumb and a middle finger, and just holds the cock in place and admires it with an artist's eye--as if it is the most marvelous sculpture, or the best still life painting of a piece of fruit--she has ever seen in her life. And if a woman grasps me lightly at first...with a very soft touch....I'm Pavlov's dog anticipating beautiful, erotic sex. Yes, there's a time and place for spontaneous combustion sex: a woman taking the cock hard right from the beginning and almost pulling it into her on her first stroke of it. But a woman who touches me softly and admiringly at first gives me the sense that the sex will last for hours....it will be a symphony, not a 3 minute rock and roll song +6\. Skiing the mogul, feeling the tickle, the little up and down, or why San Francisco is sexy +When we were kids, we loved driving from Madison to Chatham, New Jersey as on the way there was what we called the tickle: a little rise up and down in the road when, if driven the right way, gave us the tickle in the stomach. It was a little roller coaster ride. Consider also how much fun it is to ski a little mogul, or to go up and over a little hill. A change in height—going up and down—is sexy, erotic. I think that is in part what makes San Francisco such a beautiful, sexy city (and a city on the plains, in the flatlands more boring) There's are a lot of changes in elevation in San Francisco. The most sensitive part of the cock is the ridge at the base of its head, the corona of the cock. A woman going back and forth over it with her touch drives us crazy. This can be done at various speeds. In the terms for tempo of Italian music (see below), I like calando at first: slower and softer. (Women and men should study the Italian terms for tempo in music, as it provides a richly articulated vocabulary for pacing in erotic play.) I have a natural cock (i.e.,, uncircumcised), so I love it when a woman gently grasps my foreskin between thumb and middle finger and slowly takes her fingers back and forth over the ridge, as if she is skiing a mogul in slow motion. +5\. Circling the Cock Accelarando, or Piu Mosso: More Movement and Faster +I don't need to explain this one. It's the next pace or step after a woman has played softly taking her touches back and forth over the ridge of the cock. The woman circles the cock with her thumb and index finger, as if giving the cock head the A-OK sign, and keeping it firm in her grasp, she picks up the pace and tightens the grasp, locking the cock in her fingers, and then taking it for a more vigorous ride up and down, first just short strokes over the ridge, then longer strokes up and down the full length of the cock. This then can and should morph into the firmer grasp and pumping of the whole cock, the full monty up and down. +4\. From Chile to Los Angeles and Beyond or Further North: The Long Stroke +Consider the base of the cock the lowest part of South America, the southern end of Chile, or near Patagonia and the Straits of Magellan. Then consider the very tip of the cock somewhere above Seattle, in Juneau, Alaska. The part of greatest sensitivity—the corona and frenulum--would then be somewhere between Tijuana/San Diego and San Franciso, or where Los Angeles is located, about 3/4's of the way up the cock from Santiago, Chile. The stroke that delights me so much is the long stroke...a finger tip that goes from Chile to Los Angeles, along the underside length of the cock, from bottom to top, repeated time and again. This stroke is beautiful to feel after the cock has been jazzed up by the touching and stroking of #'s 5 and 6. The erotic depends on delay, anticipation, longing...and here is the time and the way to prolong the erotic play, letting a jazzed up cock on the verge of coming subside after the stroking of 5 & 6, and then the long, slow stroke that just expresses joy and delight in the length of the cock. The stroking of the cock this way can begin to build up the hum, taking the man back to the verge of coming. Better yet, it can start the cock just twitching uncontrollably, reacting in ways the man has no conscious control over. I love it when a woman knows how to make a cock dance this way, the music taking over so the cock is just dancing and vibrating on its own. +3\. The Prelude to the Coup de Grace: The Exploration Down Under, the Taking of the Ridge through +Subterfuge +When a cock is on the verge of coming, when it has been hummed up and taken with rubata strokes, or with every tempo listed below, another blissful way to drive a man crazy is to focus again on the ridge, the corona, but this time taking it with subterfuge: a fingertip just lightly exploring, discovering the underside of this ridge, circling the globe, sailing around underneath the ridge, over and over. +2\. Playing the Frenulum as a Violin +The little string of skin on the underside of the cock—the frenulum—is by far the most sensitive part on my cock. Alas, men who are not natural, who are cut or circumcised, do not have this fold of skin in the same way as a natural cock, and what a loss, what a diminishment, what an argument against circumcision. But when my cock has become the most sensitive, when my whole body feels taut, stretched between the poles of myself, lusting to come, needing to spurt and splurge and release, then I absolutely love it when this string is played beautifully by a diva violinist: the woman just lightly stroking in one direction, repeatedly, this little string, this fold, until it feels like the cock could explode into orgasm with the touch of a feather against this spot, or just touched by a hot breath, or the sound waves of a whisper. +1\. The Coup de Grace after the Coup de Grace: Massaging the Cock with its own Cum +To take the man over the top, with the most blissful touches of all, combine the strokes and touches: I love it particularly when there's a combination of #9 and #5 and #9 and #2. But then there is the coup de grace after the coup de grace: when a woman massages a man's cock, particularly the head, with his own cum. The first time I had this done to me came the first time I was in bed with a woman with whom I had a 5 month correspondence before meeting her. She was the second woman I had sex with after going the least 8 years of a 21 year marriage almost sexless. The four month long correspondence gave us a chance to be rather explicit about the ways we loved to be taken. +We finally met in the Flamingo Hotel in Las Vegas for a three nights and four days together. Within an hour of meeting, we on our hotel bed, with us beginning to enact everything we had fantasized about for ages. It seems we gave each other a thousand kisses, then a hundred more, than another thousand before our clothes started to come off. She asked me to strip for her, which I did, and then she slowly stripped for me. She then departed from any script we had imagined. She asked me to play with myself, and as I did so, she began playing with herself as well. I brought myself to the verge, kept myself there for a time, and then she asked me to let her see me come up close and personal. She curled up close, and then as I started coming, she took hold of men and began collecting all my cum juices in her hands. When I had finished coming, she began massaging my cock in its juices, not letting up but squeezing me more forcefully. The cock at this point is so sensitive that this action is excruciating, like tickling but better. My instinct was to pull away but she followed after me, keeping me in her grasp, rendering me ridiculous, like silly putty in her hands, at her mercy. It extended the intensity of the orgasm, adding a new feel I had never felt before, a missile shot off and then retro-rockets fired. Then, later that evening, bless her heart, she taught me how to make her squirt. +* Italian terms for tempo in music, to be applied to +Accelerando — speeding up +Allargando — growing broader; decreasing tempo, usually near the end of a piece +Calando - going slower (and usually also softer) +Meno mosso — less movement or slower +Mosso — movement, more lively, or quicker, much like più mosso, but not as extreme +Più mosso — more movement or faster +Precipitando - hurrying, going faster/forward +Rallentando — gradual slowing down +Ritardando — immediate slowing down +Ritenuto — slightly slower; temporarily holding back. +Rubato — free adjustment of tempo for expressive purposes +Stretto — rushing ahead; temporarily speeding up +Stringendo — pressing on faster" +859,Toys 4 Us: Women Only!,sexygodess06,How To,2006-06-01,2006-06-01,2022-01-04 08:41:01,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/toys-4-us-women-only,Adult toys can help women find complete pleasure.,"['Advice For Women', 'Anal Masturbation', 'Female Masturbation', 'Self- Help', 'Sex Advice', 'Sex Toys']",4.07,"Most women (statistics say 80%) do not have orgasms during penetration. So, why don't they? What is the secret? Men love sex whenever and wherever they can have it, but, what is the incentive for a woman for a lot of women if not to have a really great orgasm. We're lucky, and with the right tools and timing, can have many more orgasms than a man, although ours as impacting I think. Here are a couple of my favorite tricks for treats! +Now, you young women may have it better figured out. From what I understand, dads are even taking their girls to the toy store for their birthday parties (not sure if that is quite ethical but in any case maybe educational). +I remember my friends in college taking human sexuality. I was too embarrassed to take a course like that. I wasn't having intercourse yet being a good Catholic and all. I was waiting for love and marriage to go all the way. +Well, of course that only lasted to my 21st birthday. Yet, no orgasm during sex, but I think a couple of clitoral orgasms after that during the relationship. So, what is sex all about, I wondered? +The hornier I felt, I began to explore my body. Then I began buying toys. Wow, they worked. Well, I won't admit my age but it took many more years to find the really great toys which men introduced me to. The one thing I did figure out with the regular 6-inch dildoe type of toy was that I could give myself a penetrating orgasm, many orgasms and/or hit the g-spot. I never could quite understand why most men couldn't very often find the g-spot or give me the same kind of orgasm. Even with my live-in boyfriend for nine years, I just got bored with sex and felt it was more of a duty to get through the week. +Well, after one break-up, I started dating on the Internet. Dated quite a bit actually and was a bit disappointed that during a sexually prowess time in my life that men still hadn't progressed a whole lot in the orgasm department, except for a few. +I started dating on the Internet about 5-6 years ago after I met a friend in Australia who would fly to the mid-west to meet guys. She did it every year or not and referred to her beaus as her 'invisible friends.' I needed to get out, so I gave it a try. I hadn't dated as much since my twenties and was having a lot of fun. +The first guy I met up with asked me to dinner and suggested a hotel over the phone. Still at a trusting point in my life, I felt I could really get on with this guy. So, when he said his son had an accident with his car, and asked me to meet him at a hotel, I decided I would although a little reluctant for this clandestine meeting. He mentioned he has a present for me but wouldn't tell me what it was. +When I arrived at the hotel, he wanted me to meet him at his hotel room. I asked him to meet me in the lobby instead, in case I needed to make a quick run! However, I was pleasantly surprised and very pleased! He was very handsome with salt and pepper hair and a nice physique. It had been about two years since I had broken up with my boyfriend and I was very, very horny. +We started making love immediately after we entered his room. The lovemaking was fantastic! I won't go into details because if you're reading this story, you already know how. After we made love the first time, he brought out his present he had for me. His friend had taken him to the toy shop to get one like he used on his girlfriend. It's called a 'cyber flicker' or power mini- massager which is a toy somewhat like a bullet but made of a material that feels like a natural cock. What I love about it is the little flicker tail on the end that titillates and teases the clitoris. It can be found at some toy stores but definitely online. +His friend said he had given his girlfriend 19 orgasms with this little toy. I had never had THAT many orgasms, many ten or so with my toys but I was game. My partner was a bit competitive and liked chance, so he was determined to beat his friends 19 orgasms. Well, to make a long story short, he stopped counting after I had over 20 orgasms. +This little toy was great for multiple orgasms, too, which I had never had. After an exhausting evening of sex and orgasms, the next morning my friend was determined to give me multiple orgasms and since I have given them to myself. He used the cyber flicker, with his finger in my butt, and kept giving me orgasms one after the other. I kept asking him to stop and he said ""sweetheart"" just be still. It was difficult to have one orgasm after the next being so sensitive after just one, so you can imagine how I was feeling. But, then after about six or seven continuous orgasms, I had a multiple orgasm. It was sensational. +So, back to the butt business - I had tried anal sex once and it was like trying to fit a baseball into a pinhole. Ouch! So, I wasn't ever particularly interested in trying it again. But, a finger up the butt felt pretty good and very sensual. Call me old-fashioned or slow, but so are the guys I guess of my generation I guess. I always thought anal sex was a non-heterosexual act. Actually still never have had anal sex but now I want to try and this is how I'm getting ready. +I started dating this one fellow recently and sex has been fantastic. The first time we had sex, he aroused me sensually with a finger up my butt. It had been awhile since I had fooled around and figured this was the man to experiment with. Sex was fantastic but I was still getting used to him the first couple of times so my body wasn't ultimately relaxed. +Our second date, knowing I like toys for titling; he brought over his own bag of tricks. We had been seducing each other online and loving every minute of it when we couldn't be together. WOW! A man with a set of his own toys ... a little erotic and a little bewildering! First, we tried the g-spot toy. It didn't do much for me. Then we tried my little cyber flicker. We had fun with that. Then he showed me his butt plug and explained to me that sensation in the anus excites the nerves in a different area that ignites orgasms. +After having sex three times, we tried it doggy style. Unbeknownst to me, after first fingering my butt hole nicely, he inserted this butt plug. I was so excited and horny. Then he inserted his cock in my vagina and he would stop and then start again, while holding an erection and fucking me amazingly. Then he said to me, try your little toy. I didn't know if I could reach, but I did and immediately had a great orgasm. I was so wet and weak as he kept fucking me. He kept sliding the butt plug in and out. I could barely stand the excitement. I started spasming and I guess squeezing his cock. I had the first orgasm with a man's cock fucking me and it was the best orgasm I've ever had. +I pleaded with him to pull out because I couldn't stand it anymore. I don't know if I had an anal orgasm, a vaginal orgasm or maybe both. I collapsed on the bed for a long time as he finished his self off. Then he said ""relax"" as he came with control down my butt with his hot cum some seeping in. I was on fire again! +He collapsed on the bed and we were finished off literally. +""Oh, my God,"" I told him later. That was the best orgasm I've ever had. Next time, he said, I'll try the real thing! +I can't wait! Sex has never been so good. It gets better and better. Remember when we were kids and couldn't ever picture our parents having sex. Well, for the lucky ones, toys enhance the experience to no end. There are so many great toys out there. Have fun and explore. I've shared with you my favorites. +And, for those of you in sexless marriages, if your gal hasn't learned about her own body by experimenting with toys, buy her a few! +Toy 4 Us rock! ... the world!" +860,Training Bi Males,MistressDelia,How To,2013-05-09,2013-05-09,2022-01-04 08:41:02,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/training-bi-males,A primer from a Lifestyle Mistress on training new slaves.,"['Bi Men', 'Creampie', 'Cuckold', 'Cum', 'Denial', 'Discipline', 'Eating', 'Milking', 'Mistress', 'Slave']",4.59,"I have written some of my thoughts on training my own bi slave husband in the past and thought that perhaps a primer on bringing new bi slaves into the fold would be helpful. I have been the Domme to my bi submissive slave husband for 15 years. We have been married for 20 years, are in our early 50's, and it was obviously a journey to get where we are and a very good one at that. Our love is stronger today than it has ever been, his level of responding to my Dominant nature and his submissive yearnings are the best they have ever been, we walk the same path as a D/s couple, and we both feel that FemDom relationships are beautiful in their natural ability to provoke the best in sexual and romantic caring and love. I have a current stable of 5 other bi submissives besides my husband that we frequently play with and our sexual activity level as a couple with just one another is perhaps a dozen to 15 times a month (includes milking sessions) with perhaps 2 to 4 play sessions with other slaves added as schedule permits. +I will not spend countless pages describing the inception, growth, morphing, or otherwise providing a history of our D/s relationship. Since the beginning I understood that my slave needed a deeper and more profound sexual experience than I could provide for him within the confines of a conventional relationship. I then knew that I also needed more. It was actually the internet which provoked his and then my own interest in FemDom. I used the history files on our computer to understand his leanings, his desires, and his proclivity to submit to women and know that he also had bisexual desires and previous experiences before we were married. Suffice it to say that I quietly exploited that knowledge to begin and then maintain our amazing D/s experience. +The subject of this is obviously bringing new bi slaves into the picture and having them become comfortable with each other, much like pets that we own. In order to understand how I accomplish this with my slave then it must be understood where he is in training within our life and relationship. My focus has always been one of having complete control in the bedroom and then our being more or less equals to the rest of the world. I allow him little or no choices beyond the guidelines we had originally set up some years ago and we have largely lived to those over the many years of playing inside the D/s world. The wonderful thing has always been that I know and understand his triggers, his fetishes, his limits, and his needs. They are not more important than my own and never will be however, knowledge is power and I have faithfully utilized what I know my slaves' needs and desires are to complement my own strong needs. +To the nitty gritty then. My Dominance over my husband is based on generally applied fetishes for almost all bi submissive males. In his case it has been a steady diet of restraint use, discipline, strap on use, feminization, orgasm denial, milking, humiliation, cuckolding, and cum eating. No one area is more important than another per se but the integration of other bi submissive males into our play has to take into account what we already like and are comfortable with and with that the requirement that the bi sub male also has most or all of these leanings and I can use these comfortably in any play scenario. We have found that younger men and ""bi curious"" men are not so agreeable play partners but that is obviously a person to person variation. Ultimately, when we invite bi sub males to our play (from a variety of internet sites) then they have already been well researched to determine their suitability. We have rarely been wrong. +My use of the various fetishes is more or less based on my sexual appetite and his needs at the time. I use restraints in about 25% of our sessions and enjoy the reinforcement that it provides in that he is a slave first and foremost. I can employ any number of other disciplinary activities (spanking, crop, face slapping, hair pulling) while he is restrained but since he has been in submission for so long and is so obedient I have found that we use this less as he is completely compliant without restraints. I find it to be more good theater at this point and like to use it when we are with a trusted bi male play friend on occasion to frustrate him. +Discipline is something I also rarely have to employ beyond what is required due to his completely submissive and compliant nature after many years of training. I almost always spank or otherwise crop him during a session but it is more to enhance my own sexual excitement rather than to actually make him comply with an order or direction. His needs being a consideration, he may ask me while outside the bedroom for some enhanced discipline and if he needs that then I consider his request and administer it if the situation is right. I again do employ discipline more while in the company of other bi slaves so that their training example initially is the excellent one provided by my very well trained husband. +My use of a strap on device on him varies. Some months he will bottom for me on a handful of occasions and some months maybe once. I used to let him make excuses to not be fucked by me but that is a rare exception in these past years. Most times I will let him know in advance so he can prepare and sometimes I don't quite care if he is prepared. I am more focused on him being able to take me in various positions at this point in our life and also do demand that he train his pussy for larger sized dildos (and cocks) for the future. His bisexual bottom experiences have increased over the past three years and he has now submitted his pussy for fucking four of my other submissive playmates on a number of occasions. They all vary in cock size and the largest is 7 inches and coincidentally the same size as my largest strap on cock that I use on him. I many times have him get into bed with me naked at night and we both read while he has a butt plug or dildo in for a predetermined amount of time. He is ALWAYS naked in our bedroom and if we don't have family home then naked around the house. This has been an important step in my being able to push him into somewhat constant sub space even if he does not know it himself. I cannot stress how important it is to get slaves used to being naked in the presence of the Mistress (or others as needed) and when we play with other slaves, all are naked immediately and many times I stay clothed until I am ready to change or be naked with the submissive(s). I have done sessions where I never took my clothes off. Again, he is always the model of what I expect from other bi slaves we choose to play with and he consistently illustrates good bottoming when we are with other playmates. +His feminization is important to me as he wants to be feminized so badly on occasion that I purposely limit that aspect. That being said, I do enjoy buying him panties and stockings for our play sessions and I am inclined to see how far I can take him in this arena. I usually hold his feminization for play with our more experienced bi subs. This may end up being the final frontier of how nasty our play can be as we get older and remains to be seen but I have had him sleep with me all night in panties and stockings and it has led him to be very attentive, very erect several times during the night, and led me to be very sexually satisfied by morning. +Orgasm denial is needed in any male slave, bi or not. I employ this technique once or twice a month and occasionally in play with other subs. It has a wonderful effect on his adoration and compliance for his Mistress but long term chastity is not one of my desires for what we do. I have considered chastity because I know he has an interest in it but feel that it is limited to his masturbatory fantasies rather than any real time play because of the time we would miss interacting sexually. In any case, intermittent orgasm denial for a slave is an absolute necessity even if the frequency is only a few times a year. The slave needs to understand that their orgasm is controlled by the Mistress and that includes any permission to masturbate and/or even ejaculate without Mistress being present. +Milking is an important tool for a Mistress for various reasons. The pace of life is such that not even the most dedicated D/s couple can interact as much as they would like to. Children, careers, social events and chores are all time consumers. When we have challenges that involve time I will typically have him lick my ass as I masturbate with a dildo. I enjoy the quick orgasm I get, it keeps him in sub space, and I can generally branch out into denial of his orgasm (although rarely) or milking as a finale before we can each get some sleep. I enjoy milking him for several reasons. It is very enjoyable for me to edge him over and over again. I enjoy training him while I milk him through humiliating talk and verbal encouragement. I can train him on being compliant while unrestrained. Lastly, I can enjoy the cum eating on his part as a result of my milking him. His eating cum after he ejaculates is a very important part of my dominance over him and his cum eating is integral to his submissive nature including interaction with other bi slaves we play with. More to follow on this. +Humiliation forms the boundaries for much of any session we start together as just a couple interacting or role play opportunities that we have with other bi slaves we have chosen. Many bi subs express a desire for humiliation but cannot tolerate it in the reality of a scene or play experience. Trust is a major issue in that regard and my slave has trust in me that has no bounds and I trust him to be able to actually tell me if something is not quite right. Humiliation can be verbal and I use many of the trigger words that I know he enjoys during any playtime we have. I liberally use the words cock sucker, pussy, sissy, bitch, ass licker, cum eater, and others as the occasion dictates. We sometimes do cuckold play and I call him either cuck slut or cum cleaner or boy on those occasions along with the others as previously mentioned. Humiliation can be non verbal also when I sometimes go to great pains to either disregard or ignore him while I enjoy myself either alone or with another bi slave. Humiliation may also take the form of displaying him to others or serving others in person or via web cam. I consider humiliation to be fun as a Mistress because it allows me to be super creative and try to push the buttons of my slave depending on his needs or state of arousal. +Cuckolding. Many that read this or even those that have played with or seen us play as a couple would consider our relationship to be one that is cuckold in nature. It is not that they are wrong, it is simply a stretch to label us or define us by cuckolding behaviors when we as a FemDom couple are so much more. My husband is not a slave such that I ever go out and have sex or relationships with anyone that is not him EXCEPT in front of him. We both agree on partners and they are always bi male slaves with the exception of a few couples we have played with. He has been ""the Bull"" on some occasions also so that should illuminate the situation such that it is obvious that we are not a stereotypical cuckold couple. I would say that we play cuckold scenarios a few times a year at most, we enjoy them immensely, but they do not describe who we are. From a Mistress standpoint, cuckolding is hugely effective in having my husband understand how much other men really enjoy my body and by the same token how much I can love and enjoy different cocks in front of my slave. It is a fun role play experience, I use the premise during verbal humiliation, milking, strap on, and other scenarios and suffice it to say that I will almost always use cuckolding as a tool to both control my slave and to train others. I have actually trained cuckolds and enjoy it but other than that it is just another fun role play exercise for forwarding our larger FemDom relationship. +Cum eating, that is my husband eating his own cum was what got us to be a FemDom couple. His computer was filled with such images of creampies, he always loved eating my pussy for hours after he fucked me, and his previous bi experiences had him enjoying the simple act between two bi men. I started making him eat cum and he expounded on all of his nasty desires and I just took it from there. Making him and forcing him to eat his own load is the responsibility of myself as his Mistress. Some nights he is eager but many nights he is not and he needs guidance and direction. If I allow him to fuck me then I almost always straddle his face so he can clean me or pull him by the hair to perform the work as I lay on my back and direct his hungry mouth. If I let him masturbate over me then I usually have him shoot it on my stomach or ass so he can clean me and I humiliate him during the entire time and sometimes also coo and encourage him like a pet. I have had him shoot his cum into cups, saucers, plates, my underwear, on my feet, on food, on other men's erect or flaccid penises etc. The imagination is your only boundary with this activity. Since he is always the gold standard as a bi slave with other slaves present it is a normal and accepted activity for him to clean other slaves after they have ejaculated during a session. He cleans up any messy loads willingly and most often off of my body but it varies. I have only one current slave that I will permit to cum in me so his access to actual creampie cleanups is limited to those play sessions. Ultimately, clean up of himself as well as others is a normal standard for play and he is a wonderful role model for training other slaves. +After having covered the typical activities that my slave and I enjoy, it is my goal to provide a simple outline or guide for training and integrating new bi males into the fold. I have 5 slaves currently and they range in time spent with us from one that is 6 months in and doing fairly well with being trained and one that has been playing with us as a couple for over 10 years! All of them are in their 40's and 50's, all had measurable bi experiences and were comfortable with bi play, and all were either practicing or strongly desiring submissive play in their real lives. In the absence of a case study or something like that, these are the types of men we chose to play with and my slaves job is to constantly be seeking qualified bi males that seek to serve a Mistress. +After deciding to meet for play, choose a neutral location such as a hotel until you feel completely comfortable. This limits the amount of noise you might make and pushes all to play somewhat discreetly during the session but it also is useful for training them on self control. Remember the first rule. Your slave should be naked and answer the door and the candidate slave should be naked within seconds of entering and that should be impressed upon them before the session. I am always clothed in Domme attire at the beginning of a session with a new slave but have been in less casual attire on occasion with longer time play partners. +Both slaves should be placed in a position for inspection and for me that typically means both slaves flat on their stomachs on the bed where I place blindfolds on for an initial foray into limited sensory deprivation. Why their stomachs, you might ask? This position leaves them vulnerable. It allows me access to their bottoms for light spanking or cropping. I generally pull their cocks and balls back under them and through their legs to expose them to me for inspection, fondling, edging, or light CBT if the mood is there for me. This is when I get a real sense of what equipment the new bi slave has and what I might be using later in the session for my own pleasure. I also may use the head of a dildo or an anal device to very lightly probe (no penetration) their pussy area. This part of any play might last from 15 minutes to a half hour depending on my mood at the time. There is a palpable sense of excitement on both males during this time and you may find them semi erect to nearly bursting and fully erect. Some of this is because of the light touching and verbal encouragement from me and there is also the knowledge that when they are not being touched themselves, that I am actively working on the slave that laying inches from them. Never underestimate the capacity for a bi male submissive to be thinking about the nearly erect cock that is so close but yet so far. I hardly ever let my body except my hands touch their bodies during this time. +Since my slave has done this exercise of familiarization on many occasions, he generally understands the activity and its nuances. The next step is to arrange the slaves on their sides, facing each other, skin touching, hands behind their backs (restraints are typically a no no for a first session), with my owned slave's mouth at the new slaves chest level. I will administer slightly harder spankings and croppings now to increase the amount pain versus pleasure and to ensure that their body contact is maintained. Proximity exercises like this increase sexual tension and I have seen more than a few tremble like a leaf during it and I maintain their sighing and moaning etc at a minimum level for obvious training reasons. I also use my crop and hand to administer discipline as needed for either one of them writhing to push or rub their cocks on one another. I will give a good hard smack sometimes at this point to ensure their compliance. +When I feel it is time I will instruct my owned slave to lick and suck the nipples of the new slave. This and subsequent oral events that I prescribe for getting them to ""like"" each other are wonderful for training BUT I have had more than a handful of new slaves ejaculate prematurely during this period. I will typically end the session at this point and reassure them. It does not mean that they will or should be dismissed as a potential slave for my fold and it means I need to be more creative and aware for future meetings and explain that to them. I hope that part helps. At this point it should be obvious that I will use the sensory deprivation, the discipline, the skin contact, and arousal to walk the two slaves through orally pleasing each other in various ways left open to only the imagination of the Mistress. My slave is an oral expert due to my training and I sometimes curtail his work on the new slave and let the new slave explore my slave orally a bit longer. This dynamic seems to work best but each slave experience is different even with the same slaves on a different day. Mistress should be the ultimate judge. +Once the two slaves are smitten with each other I will generally remove the masks and have my slave assume various positions on the bed and use him in a manner that is consistent with acts that I will expect the prospective slave to engage in for the future. Strap on play, forced oral, queening, discipline, verbal humiliation etc are all at the Mistress discretion and it is important to constantly communicate with each slave so that expectations are clear. I usually find that this is a lovely time to go ""good cop"" with the new slave and let him start touching me and orally exploring his Mistress. Control his access to your body by being firm and direct, ensure that he continues to be ""forced"" to explore the other slave being used by Mistress also, and start to plant the seed that he may be close to an actual sexual interaction with Mistress. +I cannot tell any one Mistress what is right for any play AFTER you have gotten the two new slaves to this point. My experience has been that it is best for me and my slave to work into the activity where he works as a ""fluffer"" of sorts after having been fucked and used by me and that he will assume his usual role of sexual slave and servant to me. The wonderful part for me personally is that I am so worked up by this point myself that I actually typically require a good fucking and the new slave as well as myself benefit from my needs. I may have my slave get our new slave really erect and then ritualistically rub his head against my wet pussy until I allow him to enter. I may place the new slave in a chair and sit atop him. It is at best freestyle and sometimes the best laid (pun intended) plans go out the window. It is vital that the new slave understand that his role for future play may very well be that of my wonderful owned slave and that he needs to pay attention even while fucking my pussy. My slave will either be kissing my mouth, my or the other slaves nipples, or be directed to lavish attention on my ass, the new slaves balls, or any place I direct where we are joined during the period we are fucking. My slave could also be banished to a corner of the room to watch me and told to either masturbate OR not masturbate at all depending on the scenario and my mood. In any event, the culmination of all the activity leading to the two slaves getting to know each other is almost always the satisfaction of my sexual needs, my slaves needs as I see them for that day, and a huge orgasm for the new slave with the resulting sticky ending. +The last part of this is the end result of my sexual interaction with the new slave is satisfied Mistress, a flaccid cock on the new slave after ejaculating (typically on me), and a needy owned slave dying to do something, anything. To keep things ""even"" and my new slave in his place, I like to gesture for my slave to come over for clean up duties and then put my newly satisfied slave to the test. While my slave obediently cleans the new slaves cock and then moves on to the puddles of semen on my stomach, chest, and usually pussy, I will forcefully direct the new slave to worked on my slaves cock while he cleans me. This is a valid barometer for that slaves willingness to serve as he is now satiated sexually, typically not erect (but not always, and is keenly aware that my slave has a scrotum full of cum that he really wants to shoot. I am very verbal with both of them at this point and my slave is so well trained he can almost cum on my command most times. Having him cum on me is not out of the norm but sometimes I will add a twist and him cum on a plate or depending on what we know the new slaves proclivity for bi play and cum eating I will even have my slave erupt in the new slaves mouth for a spectacular ending. I find that cumming on me is best for a first session because it reinforces the two slaves working as a team to keep me clean and demonstrate their high levels of submission to their Mistress. I do not do much more during the period after the session than reinforce the lessons learned, reassure both of the good job they have done, and lay down expectations (toys, clothes, behavior etc) for future meetings. If time permits it is generally acceptable to continue play if the slaves are physically able to perform again but for a first session it is advisable to let sleeping dogs lie and let the new slave reflect on his experience and not gain too much access to me sexually. +I hope this helped at least foster an idea of what initial interaction with new slaves can look like. The basic premise is to leverage the session off of what you have trained your slave to be to you as his Mistress, project those fetishes and behaviors onto the new slave, and start his training in a manner that lends itself toward the ultimate goal of satisfying the Mistress. Unlike pro Domme's, you will never hear a sexually imaginative lifestyle Mistress complain that she has ""too many cocks"". Gathering real bi submissives for bolstering a slave stable is a good practice because not everyone auditioned will work out for various reasons, some will go on their merry way due to their own life changes, and keeping it fresh with new people enhances scenes and playtimes immensely. Never settle though. Websites like Alt.com, CollarMe.com, and AFF are valid hunting grounds but cluttered with straight men posing as bisexuals. Our best luck has been with bisexualplayground.com and 3 of my 5 current slaves are men we met from there. Not an endorsement at all and as I stated, be very discriminating and discerning with choosing slaves and you will all be happier (and safer!) for the work done with ensuring their compatibility with you and your owned slave. Good luck." +861,Training Games,Joseki Ko,How To,2004-06-17,2004-06-17,2022-01-04 08:41:03,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/training-games,Slave training for fun and profit.,"['Drive Edge', 'Fun Begins', 'Slave', 'Slave Cum', 'Trigger Word']",4.02,"One of the things I've talked about most with other masters, is training and games. Some seem to believe training to be a serious business and others aren't really sure how to go about it. My personal approach is to use games. I've always figured that if I'm not having a good time I should be doing something else. This philosophy has taken over my life, I work this way, play this way and treat my slave this way. +My favorite game is the penny game. This can be used for training a slave to stay in any position. I will list my favorite position here. It's a modified Nadu. +You need to find a linoleum or tile floor. This doesn't work on carpet. Your slave kneels before you knees spread, hands behind the back fingertips and thumbs touching. Between the finger tips and thumb tips you place pennies. Now the fun begins. Start tickling or playing with your slave. I enjoy both at different times. For now lets go with sexual stimulation. This helps teach your slave to remain in position when excited. As your slave gets more and excited they will lose concentration. When this happens one or more of the pennies will drop. You'll both be surprised at how loud this is. +Now first and foremost stop stimulating your slave. Let them stew in their own juices. Now the type of punishment is your choice. Not all punishments are effective with every slave. Some like pain and will enjoy the spanking, some love being exposed and cornered etc. Pick the type of punishment you wish to inflict and inflict it. +Practice does not make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect. So as soon as your slave is done with the punishment repeat the game. You may play this as often as you like. I've always found it to be a fun game and my slave loves the attention. +Teaching your slave to cum on command is also a highlight not to be missed. You can accomplish this by installing what is called a trigger word or trigger. Important safety tip. If you do this right it is possible that your slave will never again be able to cum without permission. So make sure that this is what you want to accomplish. Some Gorean Masters want their slaves to come as much and as often as possible. If this is you, don't train your slave to use a trigger. +Tie your slave on the bed face down and spread eagle. Lay a rattan cane across her arms or whatever you intend to discipline her with. Tell her to cum when you say the word NOW, or whatever word you choose. Tell your slave that if they don't cum when you say now they will receive twenty stripes with that cane. If they come before I say the word NOW they will also be given twenty stripes with the cane. Make sure they understand this. +When you are ready start running your hands over her. I prefer to use my hands because I can stimulate more than just her tit's and clit. I know us guy's have one basic spot. Blow us and we cum. On a woman her entire body can be an erotic zone. So run your hands up and down the full length of her. Take note where she moans and return to that spot. Now the fun begins try to drive her to the very edge of cumming. When you think she can't take any more stop and go drink a soda eat something just take a break and let her calm down. Then go back and repeat the process, again drive her to the edge but don't let her cum. Have another soda and start over. This time drive her to the same point. You should be good at finding it by now. Line your fingers up on her clit and yell your trigger word as your fingers enter her. Make sure she cums. +Ok now this process should be repeated every day and will probably take up to a month or more to set. Remember the experts say it takes 30 days to make a behavior habit and just three days to break it. So expect to be at this awhile. When your done you will be able to say your trigger word and she will cum on the spot. (Highly entertaining at parties) +I love using the trigger word in front of some of our vanilla friends. The looks I get from her as she cums quietly so they don't know are very enjoyable. Don't over use the trigger but do enjoy it." +862,Trouble Deepthroating?,Goldeniangel,How To,2005-02-13,2005-02-13,2022-01-04 08:41:04,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/trouble-deepthroating,Anyone can deepthroat - here's how.,"['Deep Throat', 'Favorite Things', 'Gag', 'Gag Reflex', 'Good Head', 'Make Gag', 'Relaxed Throat', 'Throat']",4.57,"Deep throating is something that is often mentioned in erotic stories, and often seen in pornos and on the internet, but most girls (and guys) find it rather difficult to do. Part of it is a sensitive gag reflex, part of it is the fear (and the reality) of not being able to breath with a dick shoved down your throat. However, it is possible, and although I'm not a guy (Not since I last checked anyway) I've been informed by my very male fiancé that it's one of his favorite things during sex (admittedly, on a rather long list of ""favorite"" things). +The first thing you can do is practice, not necessarily with a banana (although I know that some people do use that successfully, I don't really think it's actually necessary), you can practice just with your finger or a toothbrush. Just every time you brush your teeth, at the very end brush your tongue as far back as you can get it, until your gag reflex starts screaming at you. The constant pushing on it will actually make your gag reflex less sensitive, and allow you to get objects further and further back into your throat. A good reason to use your finger is that most guys are not as long or as hard as a toothbrush is, and with your finger you can get a good general idea of where the most sensitive spots in your throat are. Knowing the ""danger"" zones in your own mouth is a HUGE bonus when it comes to attempting to swallow a dick. +Anther pointer is to do just that, swallow while sucking, making the swallowing movement with your throat and tongue. Your gag reflex tends to relax when you swallow, allowing you to move the tip of the dick past it, for some reason the gag reflex doesn't seem to have a problem with a dick laying under it, just poking into it. However, eventually you will need to pull off and repeat this procedure so that you can breathe. Breathing is important, if you aren't getting enough air you're actually more likely to gag or actually throw-up, also if you're trying to swallow the dick and gasping for breath at the same time because you haven't gotten enough air, chances are you're going to swallow air, which is again, going to upset your stomach and make you gag or throw up. One which isn't very pleasant for you and one which isn't very pleasant for you or your partner. +Work up to. Start by slowly sliding down as far as you can, and then pull back as soon as you start to feel nauseous/sick. Do it again. And again, try to push yourself a little farther each time (without actually making yourself sick.) TAKE AS MUCH TIME AS YOU NEED IN BETWEEN. Don't go down while you're still feeling nauseous, take a few moments, relax, and then go again. Working up to it allows you to build confidence in your abilities to go farther and farther. Half of this is a mind thing, if you think you can do it, you're a lot more likely to be able to. If you think it's impossible, well, try the next paragraph and then pay close attention to the last one. +Try different positions. The first time I managed to deep throat my boyfriend we were in a 69 position; it that position the throat is curved almost exactly like a vagina and the point of the penis doesn't impact the gag reflex as much. One way to do this is to be on the bottom of the 69 and let your partner lower himself (somewhat quickly although carefully) into your mouth. Make sure your relaxed when he does this, if your throat is tense and closed up then it's not going to work. +Most importantly, MAKE SURE YOU TRUST YOUR PARTNER. Having the person attached to the dick be positioned on top in this kind of situation can be dangerous to the person on the bottom, because the person on top goes 'Oh god, this is wonderful... I want to stay like this forever' and forgets that you're running out of air because they're blocking your throat. If this does happen to you, a short sharp slap on the ass usually gets their attention the fastest. Another position to try is on your back on a bed with your head hanging off and your partner standing in front of your face and thrusting forward, this gives you a little bit more control since you can use your hands on their hips to guide their movements. Again though, you still must have a relaxed throat, these positions are much easier to deep throat in than the convention ""on your knees"" in front of the guy pose, but a closed throat will kill everything. +If your gag reflex is just too sensitive or your man just too big (or at an inconvenient length where he can't help but poke your gag reflex every time), Cheat. There is this absolutely wonderful gel on the market called ""Good Head"". There are also other gels and ""helpers"", and most of them probably work but I haven't actually tried them. ""Good Head"" I can vouch for. I got it at a Slumber Party that I attended, one of my friends and I spent about 45 minutes shoving half our hands down our throats every time we checked to see if it was still working. All it requires is a very small dollop, just enough to cover the tip of your index finger, put on your tongue and then swallow. +That's it, and immediately your gag reflex WILL BE GONE for quite a period of time. Because I tend to get impatient with my natural abilities, I have a rather large bottle of Cinnamon flavored Good Head that I keep with me when I feel like treating my guy to something special, rather than making him wait while I work up to swallowing the whole nine yards. The best part about it is that it doesn't have an aftertaste and it tastes fairly good (at least the Cinnamon does, I haven't tried other flavors). Actually, that's not the best thing, the best thing is that it's fairly inexpensive AND is sold in the Literotica Adult Toy Store, which is available on the main page of this site. Just go there and look up ""Lubes and Lotions"", go down to ""Oral Sex"" and it's there. And no I'm not getting paid for this gratuitous plug, it's that I love that store and Good Head really is THAT good. +Good luck to all, and happy heading!" +863,Turn Your Husband into a Cuckold,skiing_js,How To,2019-02-20,2019-02-20,2022-01-04 08:41:05,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/turn-your-husband-into-a-cuckold,How to turn your husband into a cuckold.,"['Cuckold', 'How To', 'Husband', 'Wife']",3.96,"I am a bull and I've slept with a fair amount of married women in just about every variety possible. Some cheating, some in open marriage, some with cuckold marriages. A while into it I realized how common it was for husbands to secretly fantasize about their wives cheating on them. So I would collude with those husbands where I would seduce their wife, get her to cheat and give the husband all the details of that. +This story is the opposite of that. I met a wife that was in a ""normal"" monogamous marriage and she wanted to openly cuckold her husband. This was new to me but I devised a plan to make that happen. This is based on a true story and I was ""dylan"" in this story. The dialog and the exact process is partially fictional, but the end result was the same: Julie had slowly turned her husband into a cuckold. +Julie had hinted around having sex with other men to her husband before but had been shot down. She had an overwhelming urge to have sex outside her marriage that never left her head but also didn't want to cheat. She wanted to convert her traditional monogamous marriage into a cuckolding one. +That is when she met Dylan. Julie was honest with Dylan from the start that she was married, wanted to have sex with other men, but wanted her husband to be ok with it. Lucky for her Dylan was into this kind of kink and a very sexual creative person. So Dylan devised a plan to make it happen. Mostly skeptical Dylan had a history of women flaking out after they aren't horny and never going through with something. So he didn't think she would see the plan all the way through and even if she did skeptical her husband wouldn't put his foot down and say no chance. At that point Julie had said it was a deal breaker for her and she wouldn't move forward. +Julie comes home one day and you tells her husband, ""so I was at the grocery store today and the fire department was there. Do you know they shop for groceries everyday because they work 24 hr shifts? They shop for groceries for lunch and dinner at 10 am everyday. It's pretty crazy. I probably talked to them for a half hour until their radio started beeping and they had to run off. They are very nice bunch of guys."" +She is very excited about it and husband accuses her of flirting but she says ""no"" but also blushes about it. Then without saying much more she leads him into the bedroom and fucks him. This was the first step in getting him to associate her seeing the firefighters with sex with him. +She waits about a week for him to think about the event before she moves to step two. This time he comes home making steak dinner. Kind of odd because they just had steak a week ago but he loves steak so didn't ask questions. She then tells him, ""So a really exciting thing happened to me at the store today. The keys got stuck in my ignition and I couldn't start my car!"" +Husband responds, ""hmm ok that doesn't sound that exciting did you just call triple A?"" +Julie responds, ""no you remember those firefighters I was talking to last time? Well they just so happened to be there at the same time and I went in and asked Dylan if he could help me. The others kept shopping but he came out to my car and was able to remove the key and show me the trick to it. He also knows a lot about VWs and offered to fix it so it doesn't happen again."" +Husband replies, ""well that's weird, why don't you just call a mechanic?"" +Julie, ""why would I do that when he offered to fix it for free?"" Then the discussion is dropped and she just doesn't bring it up again. +She waits three days. Husband comes home for dinner, once again excited she is making steak and this time she is really dressed up. So husband ask her why she is dressed up. +Julie, ""i'm this old thing? No I'm just going to get the car fixed after dinner."" +Husband asks, ""wait is there a shop open this late?"" Then in the middle of the sentence remembered the firefighter guy had offered to fix her car. +Julie rushes out the door and says, ""oh I'll be back in a bit."" +Husband is a little bit annoyed when she gets home blushing and very late and wants some answers. She responds, ""oh relax honey it just took longer to fix the car than he thoughts and chatted with them for a while."" With no more explanation. But as soon as she is done talking she pulls him into the bedroom and fucks him senseless. No foreplay whatsoever just like she had been thinking about it the last 3 hours and went immediately to that. Usually tough to make her cum this time she had an orgasm almost as soon as he slide his cock into her already soaking wet pussy. Then again came 3 more times. +She waits another week for all that to sink in. The next time it's saturday morning. Husband sees her getting ready at 9 am like you are going for a night out in vegas. Makeup, dress up, do your hair. He asks, ""honey why you are dressing up like that."" +She denies she is dressing too much and a little annoyed he is questioning her wanting to look nice ""i'm not, I just need to go the grocery story real quick."" +By that time husband has figured out, ""wait are you going there dressed up for the firefighters? +She replies, ""NO! Of course not, I'm married to you. Dylan could have any girl he wants, I'm sure he isn't interest in a married housewife."" Which doesn't reassure husband in any way. +Afterwards she comes home very disappointed. She went to the store dressed up and they weren't there. They most have got a call because she had spent an extra long time getting her groceries and waiting for them to show. Husband asks if the fire department was there and she just say, ""no."" Husband gets no sex afterwards. +Later that day he is out working and she starts making cookies. It's not something she does often so he thought it was a little unusual. He comes in and asks her why she is making cookies. He grabs for a cookies and she swats his hand away. This is a cuckold power struggle metaphor. +Julie replies to him, ""no this is for Dylan and his crew. You can lick the beaters though."" +Husband is annoyed but also also can't say much because he didn't make the cookies. Julie puts the last batch in the oven and lifts up her apron and her skirt underneath, pulls her panties off the side to give him access to fuck her in the kitchen. The last time they had sex was over a week ago when she told her first stories about talking to the firefighters. Husband notices her pussy is already wet but he doesn't care he gives it to her, she moans a little, doesn't cum and he cums pretty quickly. +She briefly cleans up, doesn't put her panties on, grabs the cookies out of the oven along with the others then heads out the door. She gives her husband a quick peck and says, ""thanks hon."" She walks out the door with the cookies not leaving a single one for her husband and is once again gone for 3 hours. +When she finally gets home he asks her where she has been. She doesn't say anything. They just go into the bedroom and she jumps on top of him. It's not often she ever initiate sex or has it twice in a day but this time he is getting both. She riding him and makes it pretty obvious her eyes are closed and she is thinking about something else or someone else. Husband wonders but he isn't about to ask questions. She is moving her hips like she never has before and more into it than ever before. She clenches her pussy around his cock and milks his cum out like she had started working pretty insistently on kagal exercises. It was an odd feeling for her husband like not only she was practicing kagal, she was practicing sex on him! But that is an impossible to ask question so he lets it go. +Immediately after some great sex they are still catching their breath. Julie turns to husband and says, ""so I brought the cookies to the guys. I was talking to dylan in the parking lot and he tried to kiss me?"" +Still catching his breath husband doesn't really know how to respond and finally asks her, ""well what did you do?"" +She says, ""well I didn't know what to do, I didn't kiss him back though."" +Husband, ""wait so he tried to kiss you or did kiss you?"" +Julie, ""well he did but I didn't say he could and I didn't kiss him back"" +Husband still confused at what to think after his wife just gave him and incredible fucking he's still catching his breath from: ""well... I don't think I want you going down there anymore."" +Julie gives a very long pause, ""ok."" +A month goes by. Julie hasn't had sex with her husband since then. It has been enough times husband has realized she only has sex with him when Dylan gets her horny but there's nothing he can do about it. He brought it up once and she just denied it. That night husband comes home from work and she immediately greets him at the door and went right to her knees to put his dick in her mouth and just takes him all in like a wild woman. She hasn't been interested in sex lately, hasn't given him a blowjob since they got married, She has never met him at the door for an immediately blowjob. It was also quite a bit different than before like she had been practicing. It had been a month so husband had a lot built up and it didn't long and he shot a load of hit cum down her throat, she swallows every drop of it which was also entirely new. +She gets up, cleans up and doesn't say anything and waits for her husband to ask what that was all about. +Julie replies, ""well I met Dylan for coffee today."" +Husband, ""you mean that firefighter guy, I thought we agreed you weren't going to see him anymore?"" +Julie responds, ""I know but things ended weird when I last saw him and I didn't want him to feel weird so I asked if he wanted to meet for coffee. He apologized and said he felt guilty about it and respected that I am married."" +Husband, ""well that's good I suppose."" +Julie, ""ya, I don't think he meant it though because he kissed me again."" +Husband responds: ""oh my god! Again! what did you do this time... Wait is that why you gave me a blowjob right when I walked in, did kissing him make you horny? Did you kiss him back?"" +Julie, ""no, me kissing him didn't make me horny but I could feel his huge dick pressed up against me and that made me horny."" +Husband, ""wait you kissed him?"" +Julie, ""Honey we can either sit here and fight about this, or we can go for round two!"" +Julie gets up grabs her husbands hand and tries to lead him to the bedroom. Still not sure what do or say he just goes to the bedroom with her. She rips off his clothes climbs on top of him and starts grinding him like she never has before. Husband did not expect this but this was the wildest his wife has ever been. It didn't take long of her grinding and her pussy gripping his quickly recovered hard cock. She starts to cum and he does too. Right when he starts she moans, ""Oh god Dylan give it to me, fuck me Dylan, fuck me!"" Then she lets out the loudest scream she ever has with him. Almost the point the husband is worried not only the neighbors will hear her scream they might hear her scream Dylans name. but that is the last thing on his mind. The only thing he is worried about is his wife's pussy gripping his cock and pulling all the cum out of it as it shoots deep inside of her. +They lay there catching their breath for a while and husband tried to figure out how to approach this. Finally husband musters up the words to ask her, ""so what's going on? Are you cheating on me with Dylan?"" +Julie, ""honey no! I love you, you are my husband. This is just my imagination."" +Husband, ""well I don't want you to see Dylan again."" +Julie doesn't respond turn the other way and goes to sleep. +Another week goes by. Husband comes home to his wife making steak. The last several months every single time they had sex was when she had a run in with Dylan. Husband was well aware of this fact but to his knowledge they had had sex, only a kiss. He also started to notice a pattern that every time they had sex she made steak. Just like a Pavlov dog, husband got home to steak and got horny right away. She was also dressed hot looking like she was ready to go. +Finally at dinner this is where husband needed to say something, ""honey why is it every time we have sex it's after you saw Dylan? Are you cheating me?"" +Julie, ""No! You are my husband, I love you... But I am going to suck dylans dick!."" +Husband, ""wait what? When?"" +Julie, ""right now, I'm supposed to go over to his place."" +Husband, ""what? Wait honey can we talk about this? You are just going to cheat on me?"" +Julie, ""no I'm NOT going to cheat on you and I have never cheated on you. Like I said, I'm only going to suck his dick that is not cheating! Don't be such a prude. I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings but he's got a huge dick and I've gotta put it in my mouth."" +Husband, ""I don't even know what to say right now."" +Julie, ""you don't need to say anything, I'll be home before midnight. Love ya! bye."" +Julie walks out the door leaving her husband sitting there finishing his steak dinner with blue balls, fully expecting sex but instead got this. Julie was smart though. As a safety factor she didn't actually go to Dylan house. In case her husband flipped on her and was waiting for divorce papers she was going to feel out his reaction and have an out playing it off like it was a joke. So instead of going to suck Dylans dick she went over to her girlfriends house. She had several texts with her and took several pics of them together. This was just a backup plan though she only planned to show him if he freaked out to the idea of sucking Dylans dick. She could just say, ""Oh no I was just wanted to see how you reacted. I hung out with Alexis."" +But she never had to use this Alibi. She got home and husband was still up. That is where the discussion really happen. Husband was left at home to jerk off and these new thoughts of his wife being a slut, he couldn't help but get turned on by them. So he asks her, ""how was it?"" +Julie lied, ""oh my god his dick was amazing!"" +Husband, ""so did you fuck him?"" +Julie, ""no I didn't, I was saving my pussy for you, you want it right now?!"" +Once again husband is left confused but not about the turn down sex so he agrees and they once again have some incredible sex. Afterwards the long discussion starts on how he feels, ""on one hand I feel terrible, my own wife is cheating on me."" On the other hand the sex with you has been the best ever and I don't know what to do about that."" +Julie reassures him, ""honey I love you, you are my husband. This thing with Dylan is purely sexual."" +Husband, ""I thought you didn't have sex with Dylan?"" +Julie, ""I haven't yet, but tomorrow night I'm going to fuck him."" +Julie had called his bluff. She hadn't actually done anything sexual with him yet but this was the moment of truth. Depending on what her husband did this was either going to happen or not. All this work put into this plan came down to what he was about to say. After a long pause he finally says, ""will you at least use a condom?"" +Julie gets a huge smile on her face she got exactly what she wanted and says, ""of course!"" +They both rolled over and both slept very little that night. Julie had excitement, husband had cuckold angst. To reaffirm his decision she rolled over to him and had some middle of the night sex as well. Morning came and husband went off to work. A few concerned texts from the husband that day but the date was still on. +She went out with Dylan that night and did fuck him. She didn't actually use a condom like she promised her husband, one little white, creamy gooey lie. Dylan absolutely blew her mind and all the hard work of making her husband into a cuckold had finally paid off. Dylan fucked her twice that night and she came more times than she could even count. More than she had with her husband in the last six months and it was worth it! +Of course there was much more discussion that followed. The husband started being turned on by the idea. Eventually instead of a reward of sex husband started getting off to be denied sex and hearing all the stories of his wife fucking Dylan. She eventually confessed Dylan had never used a condom and husband loved that. She would send her husband pics and a video of Dylan fucking her in every room in the house while husband was at work. Husband even eventually was trained to eat out dylans cream pies when she would get home from her date with him. Julie had successfully converted her monogamous married into a full on open cuckold marriage and everybody was happy." +864,Ultimate Truth Or Dare,TooCleverByHalf,How To,2014-01-02,2014-01-02,2022-01-04 08:41:07,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/ultimate-truth-or-dare,The party game guaranteed to please.,"['Game', 'Party Game', 'Seven Minutes In Heaven', 'Spin The Bottle', 'Stripping', 'Truth Or Dare']",3.37,"**Ultimate Truth Or Dare** + _As demonstrated in ""The Warmest Winter, Day 09""_ + **What You Will Need:** + * A bottle from an alcoholic beverage (your choice). You may even have more than one, depending on how much you would like people to drink. + * Index cards (at least 9) + * Shot glasses, at least one per person. Preferably one for every shot in the game. + * A timer, preferably digital. + * Paper and pencil, to keep track of certain rules. + * One set of gaming dice (one die each with twenty sides, twelve sides, ten sides, eight sides, six sides, and four sides, called a d20, d12, d10, d8, d6, and d4). + * Players (of course). +As with any drinking/sex/party game, every person should be open to doing whatever comes up, with anyone else present, especially given the random nature of the game. If this is not the case, agree on rules adjustments prior to the game. +One player will sort of act for the game in a role similar to that of a Dungeon Master in a D&D game. They set the timer, write down necessary notes, announce new rules, and adjudicate as needed. It is most useful for this person to go first in a round, to demonstrate how the rules work each round, for those not yet familiar (or are quite familiar but also drunk). +Some preparation is required. As host, calculate how drunk you want everyone to be and work backwards. X amount of alcohol per person, times Z number of people, given that booze Q that I want to serve is Y proof, there will be... K number of shots. +Example: A 200-mL bottle of Eiswein is to be split among four players. It's a fairly hefty proof, and the host wants the players to be tipsy and uninhibited, but not drunk and reckless. So, half-shots. This makes for thirteen shots, with a little extra. +All booze that does not split evenly among the players is combined into one container (this may be quite a bit larger than a shot for a big group), and is called the Big Shot. More on that later. +Write the rules for each round down on an index card, and stack them in order. These are great for referring back to as needed. You can also shuffle them without looking, for an even more chaotic game. What follows is the recommended order. + **Round 1:** +Truth Or Dare, straight up. +If someone does not know the rules, they probably shouldn't be playing this ultimate version. But just in case, let's go over them. On your turn, you ask another player of your choice ""Truth or Dare?"" If they say ""Truth,"" you ask them a question and they HAVE to be honest. If they say ""Dare,"" you dare them to do something and they HAVE to do it. + **Round 2:** +Add Spin The Bottle. +You now spin to see who you ask ""Truth Or Dare"" to. You also spin for the objects of dares, when appropriate. If a spin result is impossible, spin again. + **Round 3:** +Add the Dare Die. +The first Dare Die is the d20. On your turn, you roll the DD. If it's a 1, the object must Dare. It decreases to d12, d10, d8, d6, then d4 each round. It stays on d4 the remainder of the game. + **Round 4:** +Add the shots. +At the beginning of your turn, you must drink a shot. If this gets you too drunk, blame the host. The last shot is called the Big Shot, and the last person wearing clothing must drink it. + **Round 5:** +Subtract Clothing. +From this point forward, all clothing removed may not be put back on. Contact lenses, jewelry, and the like may be excluded at the group's discretion. + **Round 6:** +Time's Up. +The next timed Dare is one minute long, adding a minute for every Timed Dare afterwards. + **Round 7:** +Add Seven Minutes In Heaven. +From this point forward, every time you Spin To Ask and the result is yourself, that's seven minutes. Keep adding three minutes for every subsequent spin in the same direction, as needed until the bottle points to someone else. The number of minutes is how long the spinner and the other person have in Heaven. This counts as a completed Dare, but not a Timed Dare. + **Round 8:** +Subtract Clothing +From this point forward, anyone who is clothed must remove one item of their own clothing at the beginning of their turn. If the player is naked, the article may be removed from anyone. Contact lenses, jewelry, and the like may be excluded at the group's discretion. + **Round 9 & Up:** +No new rules. +If you make it this far, you're not doing the previous ones right, so you must need more practice." +865,The Unabridged Catalog of Kisses,RenaeNicks,How To,2007-07-03,2007-07-03,2022-01-04 08:40:35,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/the-unabridged-catalog-of-kisses,A catalog of memories that is somewhat instructive.,"['Couples', 'Kissing']",4.61,"_""Soul meets soul on lovers' lips.""_ +(Percy Bysshe Shelley) +Some people like to kiss. Some people think kissing is one of those things you do on the way to other activities. I happen to be someone who feels that kissing can be more intimate than any other type of sexual contact. +Part of my personal fascination with the activity stems from the many years I spent ""saving"" my virginity. Prolonged episodes of kissing became a substitute for intercourse in many of my relationships. By this, I mean that ""sex"" as an expression of affection was replaced by kissing. Although this did not result in orgasms for either party (except once for him), it did serve the function of conveying sexual attraction and shared affection. +Of course not all kisses are romantic or passionate. The word ""kiss"" is used for the very different touch of a mother's lips on her infant's forehead, and the open-mouthed deep tonguing between two breathless lovers. So, to clarify, the ""kisses"" discussed here are related to the second type, rather than the first. +What constitutes good technique is obviously a matter of personal preference. Certainly some like kisses harder or softer, dryer or wetter, etc. Most of us like different things in differing situations. +My personal feeling is that adaptability is a key element. A kiss is shared, and as such is a thing created by two different minds. Great kisses happen when the two people find common ground. Many have implied that a great kiss is a moment of chronologic stillness. ""Time stood still."" Indeed, the feeling that you are both very clearly in the present is often quite exciting. In my experience, men who concentrate on their kisses and consciously think about the action leave the best impressions. Confidence (but not arrogance) combines with assertiveness (but not aggressiveness) to convey strong emotions most effectively. +I actually still remember the name of every man that has ever touched his lips to mine. Although there were not very many, I kept the names in a journal throughout my teen years, with occasional notes and comments about them. Over the years, I discovered that I was sort of mentally rating each one. The categories that I mentally considered were the following: +1\. Romance Was it romantic if the occasion warranted romance? +2\. Technical merit According to my own preferences, meaning good lip contact, slight suction, and the right amount of tongue at the proper moment. +3\. Lust-invoking Did it leave me wanting more? +4\. Creative/artistic Did he do anything *different*? +The following list was compiled from both journal entries and memories. (Consistent with the above ""definition"" of the kisses discussed here, no one appears below unless the lip contact lasted for at least a few seconds.) +\----- +Josh +I was 13 when I got my first kiss. Josh and I were outside with my best friend and her then-boyfriend, Jason (who was a good friend of Josh's). They left to go inside, but Josh grabbed my arm and suggested that we ""look at the stars"" for another minute. I stayed, hoping he was planning to kiss me. +When he turned and stared into my eyes, my heart was about to pound out of my chest. I was hardly even disappointed when the kiss was too wet and far too aggressive. Although he had later opportunities to improve my impression of his technique, he never did kiss very much better than that first night in the moonlight next to my best friend's swimming pool. +Josh's specialty -- the ""no warm up"" french kiss, normally suitable only in long-term relationships and definitely not appropriate for a first kiss. +Luke +I kissed Luke at a party one night, and immediately knew that I had experienced the worst kiss I would ever know. Yuck! WAY too wet, too much tongue, no creativity whatsoever. Gross. For his sake, I hope he eventually improved! +Luke's specialty -- the ""dead fish"" kiss, which I've been trying to forget ever since. +Jason +This is the same Jason that my friend was dating when I kissed Josh. Jason was gorgeous, so I was willing to overlook the fact that he probably didn't really like me as much as I liked him. I was easily lured with the line, ""can I see your bedroom?"". +His kiss and touch were a little like him -- very self-centered. Technically OK, but it's hard for me to judge because we only kissed for a few minutes on that one occasion. +Jason's specialty -- the ""kiss and run"" technique, which really has little more to recommend it than Luke's ""dead fish"" kiss. +Erik +Erik deserves some discussion, since he held the title of ""best kisser"" for quite some time before he was dethroned by another. Our first kiss was also at a party. I brought him with me as a friend. A while after we arrived, another guy whom I had been interested in but ""rejected"" by arrived at the party. I asked Erik to please pretend that we were romantically involved. As a favor to me, he began to dance with me and hold my hand. +This lead to more serious ""pretending"" and eventually some very real kissing. My head was spinning that night from the sensual pleasures, and I can still almost feel the movements of his mouth against mine. Erik kissed great. He and I also kissed on many other occasions, and he still remains one of the best in my mind for both technical and creative reasons. +Erik's specialty -- the ""tongue tease"", also known as ""slipping him/her the tongue"", which can be extremely exciting when done properly. +Ben +My first kiss with Ben was both romantic and exciting. We had a short weekend kissing ""fling"" that was sweet and intense. It included some great passionate embraces in an elevator on the way to the 10th floor of the building we were working in. +I ran into Ben several years later at a drugstore where he was then working part time. I was checking out with a box of condoms (his checkout line -- oops!). It was rather embarrassing for both of us, and the small talk was strained. I suppose he assumed at that point that I was not a virgin any longer... +Ben's specialty -- the ""elevator kiss"", which is an urgent and rushed passionate embrace, usually in a place where you could get caught at any moment. +Christian +I adored Christian, but even the strong emotional ties I had for him did not make up for his sloppy technique. Christian bluntly told me he was a lousy kisser, and he was right. +Christian was the one man I actively tried to reform, even giving verbal requests on occasion. He took the advice in a good-natured manner, but never really did conform to my own personal tastes. +Christian's specialty -- the ""steamroller maneuver"", which involved rolling around on the bed excessively, and playfully squishing the other person while kissing in various ways. +Tom +Pure unadulterated perfection, every single time. We kissed everywhere and every way, and it was bliss. Tom and I would literally kiss for hours at a time when we were first dating and I was still preserving my virginity. +During that cold fall, we used to make out in the Jacuzzi under clear starry skies. I can still feel the almost painful juncture between the icy air and the hot bubbly water. He would cup his hands and fill them with water, then pour the water on my shoulders to keep them warm. He told me the other day that he still thinks of those days and secretly longs for that kind of raw expression of emotions. From my perspective, his kisses were technically flawless, extremely creative, and often very playful. +Tom's specialty -- ""perfect timing"", which defies explanation if you have not already experienced it. +Troy +Troy and I only kissed me a few times, but we shared some memorable moments. Troy's technique was better than average, and he was also rather creative. +One grossly in-your-face macho man maneuver of his has somehow become immortalized in my memory. I cannot explain why this struck me, but it did. He wanted me to tilt my head back, so he twisted his fingers in my hair and actually pulled on it. He seemed quite impassioned at that precise moment, and I was moved by the ""rawness"" of the gesture. Although this style is not normally my preference, the memory still arouses me. +Troy's specialty -- ""the hair trick"" and related maneuvers, to position one's partner precisely for ideal angles and superb mouth access. +John +John was sweet, but his technique was a little immature. John's strength was the intensity and concentration he displayed. Technically not too bad, but he was a creative zero. I imagine that he probably improved with age and experience. +John's specialty -- ""the mirror trick"", which is the fun (or irritating) practice of imitating your partner's movements. +Mark +Mark and I were in love. We were together for over two years. He was the first man I had sex with. We shared some wonderful times. However, I really didn't like the way he kissed. Mostly, I just ignored this fact because (as I said) I loved him. +Mark's specialty -- ""the unmemorable kiss"", which, unfortunately, is self- explanatory. +Ingmar +Ingmar was Mark's best friend. After Mark and I broke up, Ingmar and I spent a lot of time together, just as friends. Late one evening, we crossed the line from friends to something more. We were sitting together on the couch, watching country music videos. Our hands slowly inched together, and he began softly caressing my fingers. +We shared a slow, close dance, and one lovely string of good night kisses that lasted for several minutes. He told me it had been at least a year since he had last kissed anyone, but his skills didn't seem to be suffering from lack of recent use. It was gentle, loving, and surprisingly arousing. Those few kisses had quite an impact on me, as I have dreamed about kissing him several times since then. +Ingmar's specialty -- ""good manners"", where you verbally request the kiss before actually performing it. +Brian +Brian was experienced, and it showed. He had soft lips, a daring tongue, and his mannerisms were delightfully sexy. Brian was skillful and creative, in kissing and other related activities. +Brian's specialty -- the ""lip suck"", which involves taking your partner's lower lip between your own two lips, and sucking on it while running your tongue back and forth across it. +Matt +Matt was too eager. He used too much pressure and did not leave enough air space. My lips felt bruised every time I could get them away from him. He was fun to be with, though -- always cheerful and optimistic. +Matt's specialty -- ""the crushing kiss"", which can be nice on occasion in the correct context, but is not recommended as a regular activity. +Derrick +Who can be objective about the current object of one's affection? Derrick was the first man to ever kiss me in a public place. In fact, our first kiss (during our first evening date) was across a small table in a very crowded room at a local comedy club. +He later confided that he had actually wanted to kiss me after our first lunch together. That really would have surprised me because we said our good-byes that afternoon in front of the library where we both worked, and many people we worked with would have seen us. Occasionally being kissed in public is a special treat because it proves that the person you are with wants others to know that he or she cares about you. It is a possessive gesture, and sometimes we all want to be possessed. +Derrick's specialty -- ""she's mine"", as described above. +\----- +Now I think perhaps you can kiss as I prefer. Come closer and I'll show you exactly how it's done. Look me in the eyes and silently tell me that you want me. Concentrate on the moment and make your message and intentions clear to me. +Move towards me slowly and give me an opportunity to shy away. If I do, remember that I may want you to try again later. Otherwise, you'll know by the look in my eyes and the encouraging way I am leaning towards you. +Where are your hands? Place your fingertips on my cheeks. Run your thumb across my lips softly. As I part my lips oh-so-slightly, take the opportunity to wet your fingertip on the tip of my tongue. Trail the moisture along my top and bottom lips. Feel my shallow breath move softly across your hand. +Now move your hands upward with splayed fingers, your parted fingers on either side of my head and your thumbs under my chin, lifting it slightly. Tilt my head very slightly to the right. See me wet my lips in anticipation. +Move your head towards mine. I will watch you come to me until the moment your lips make light contact with mine, when my eyes drift softly shut. +Brush your lips across mine briefly, then pause for my response. Pay close attention. If I want more, you can feel my body shift towards you almost imperceptibly. Lean towards me again, and this time hold your lips against mine for a second or two. +Now, show me that you want a deeper kiss. Part your lips slightly first and close them against mine a little wetly. I should hear that sexy ""smack"" as it ends. Remember that I want you to end each kiss with this particular movement. Repeat this several times so that your desire for more is clearly conveyed. +Use your hands to tilt my head the other direction. Dip your head towards mine again and this time begin by very quickly flicking your tongue across the juncture of my still closed lips. This is your request, like a knock at the door. Will I answer? +This time I do. I part my lips very slightly and meet yours in a similar state. Your tongue travels carefully to run across the soft inner edge of my upper lip. Position your head so that our mouths are tilted at almost a 90 degree angle. Be sure your lips maintain good contact with mine and apply a tiny bit of suction. +Move your tongue further into my warm, wet mouth and touch the tip of my own tongue with it. My tongue will then follow yours as you run it along the bottom edge of my top teeth and the top edge of my bottom teeth. Stretch your tongue further into my mouth, meeting mine and swirling around it in a playful dance. Now, withdraw your tongue and begin a new kiss so that I can have my turn. +I want to explore the inside of your mouth from a different angle, so I leave your lips long enough to tilt my head to the right again. You eagerly cooperate with the repositioning. +The next kiss is more aggressive. I want you to know that you have aroused me as I run my tongue intimately along the space between your upper teeth and your upper lip. Our tongues meet again and do battle once more. End the kiss now when you know I still want more. +As you pull away, I open my eyes and my desire for another kiss is clear. You want to tease me a little, so you begin kissing the hollow of my throat and the side of my neck, and eventually work your way towards my ear. You place my right earlobe between your teeth briefly, then take the earlobe into your mouth and suck on it for a moment. You can actually see the goose bumps rise on my skin. +Whisper in my ear softly that I taste great, then begin kissing below my ear and down my neck again. I will close my eyes and tilt my head backwards, exposing my entire neck to you in the universal gesture of surrender. +Kiss me again, please. You do it so well..." +866,Uncut: A Guide to the Uncircumcised,AnotherWannabe,How To,2012-11-14,2012-11-14,2022-01-04 08:41:08,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/uncut-a-guide-to-the-uncircumcised,"For the uncircumcised, those who love them, and the curious.","['Being Uncircumcised', 'Blowjob Advice', 'Circumcision', 'Hygiene', ""Men'S Health"", 'Sex Advice']",4.33,"**Things they don't teach you about being uncircumcised** +If you stopped me on the street and asked me to draw a penis, I'd probably draw a stalk attached to a pair of hairy balls with a big, glossy helmet at the end. I'd draw this even as my own penis looks nothing like this: I'm part of small but growing number of men who are ""uncut"", that is, uncircumcised. We think of penises in this way not only because that's what the majority of cocks look like, but because that's how penises are constantly represented, from porn to medical textbooks! These images cause some uncut men have anxiety about their ""abnormal"" penises, even choosing to be circumcised later in life. But the ironic truth is that it is we, the uncut, that have ""normal"" penises and those glossy purple-headed dicks the ""abnormal"" ones! +Let's most past the politics of involuntary genital mutilation (barbaric and inhumane) for the moment and realize that cut penises work differently from uncut penises. If you have an uncut penis, you may not have been taught proper hygiene. You might not also know how to have sex, and find it uncomfortable or unpleasurable, or that you're cumming way too fast. But this document isn't just for the uncircumcised. If you are the parent of an uncircumcised child, you might consider giving some of this advice to them (if only related to the hygiene). If your partner is uncircumcised, maybe you want to know a little more about their penis. This is also written for you. +No one taught me this stuff, I can't claim any of this as scientific. It is purely based on my experience, and I offer it to you so you don't go through the same learning curve as I did. If my advice seems basic, then it is basic advice I had to learn on my own. I will be quite graphic and explicit at times about very intimate things to me, so I ask that you respect that. + **Hygiene** +I've had plenty of women describe uncircumcised penises as ""dirty"" or ""gross"" to me, probably not realizing that I'm uncut. It made me feel like I was the Hunchback of Notre Dame, penis edition. But there's nothing inherently ""dirty"" about a foreskin. Like any other part of the body, if it doesn't get cleaned regularly, it's going to get filthy. And if your penis is filthy, every woman (and man) has the right to walk straight out of your bedroom. So pay heed! + _Peeling Back_ +First, you must learn to ""peel back"", that is, how to pull back the foreskin to expose the head of the penis. I think a lot men and boys might not do this because, if you aren't used to peeling back, it can be painful and your head is very sensitive. If you don't do it in a long time, it can seem impossible, the foreskin is so tight around the head that you feel like it just won't fit. As a kid, when I didn't practice proper hygiene, I'd have this problem. But it is crucially important that your foreskin is pliable enough to peel back. +If you do find yourself so tight and sensitive that you don't think you can do it, then simply ease your way into it. Push the limits of your discomfort but don't try to force it. Eventually, you'll be able to do it. +Once you can peel back, however, DO peel back at least once a day, best while in the shower. I don't think it comes naturally to peel back for some people, so it's a habit you have to nurture. Ideally, there should be little to no discomfort when peeled back fully. If you have persistent discomfort, then either you don't do it enough or you have a more serious medical problem and should consult a doctor. + _Washing_ +If you have foreskin, you're at risk of nasty, smelly (cue the organ pipe music) SMEGMA!! Some call it ""dick cheese"". I call it ""totally disgusting"". If you have it, don't expect your partner to put your cock in their mouth. But after reading this you've really got no excuses because it's very easy to prevent. +Now, the reason some of you might not clean under your foreskin is because your head is too sensitive. If you are very sensitive, shower water hitting your Johnson directly can be pretty uncomfortable. In that case, you need to gradually reduce the head's sensitivity. Try splashing it with water instead, or climb into the bath and let it soak. Eventually, you should be able to whip it out in the shower without worrying. +At the very least, you need to rinse off under the foreskin, splashing it with water. I also use soap by squeezing some soapy water directly onto it (wow, this is very personal), then rinse off again. Applying soap directly to the head would be too uncomfortable. I don't know if there are special products for the job but I don't use them. +I'd also consider drying it off before tucking it back in. I wouldn't use a towel, but shaking it off should do the trick. I've never tried this before, but using a hair dryer could also work. I don't have a hair dryer, so I can't test out my theory. +Failure to wash like this on a regular basis will make your dick disgusting, and you shouldn't expect your partner to even touch it, let alone allow you to put it into one of their orifices. + **Sex** +When I began having sex, I always felt like I needed to disclose my uncircumcised nature before exposing myself, as if to give my partner the opportunity to flee. I'd say something like, with my thumbs in my underwear, ""I just want you to know: I'm uncircumcised,"" and wait for their faces to contort with disgust. +I pretty much don't do that now. For almost every woman I've been with (not many), I've been their first uncut guy, and if they've already gone that far they're willing to go further. Other women, I've heard, have had bad experiences with uncut guys: they cum too fast, their penises were ugly or, worst of all, they had smegma. Luckily, there's something you can do about the first and the third, and I haven't received any complaints yet (and I've got an anonymous suggestion box by my bedpost!). +I'm splitting this section into two. The first section will be dealing with sex _as_ a circumcised man. The second will deal with sex _with_ a circumcised man. While I assume a male-female sexual relationship, I suppose this advice could be generalized to homosexual relationships. Not lesbian ones, obviously. That would be an odd lesbian relationship. + _Sex as a Uncircumcised Man_ +My first few sessions of sex were strange and awkward. It was because, basically, I didn't how to have sex with a foreskin. Before then, most of what I knew about sex was from porn. It turns out that things are much more complicated than sticking it into your lady, pump, repeat. +You might find sex painful. You might cum way to fast. You might find it a total chore! All three have happened to me, and it was because I didn't realize the golden rule. The rule for real estate developers is _location, location, location._ For uncircumcised men, it's _foreskin, foreskin, foreskin._ But don't blame me, I had no one to teach me! +First, and this is important, wash your cock. I've heard that some women prefer the taste of an unwashed cock, but this might be one of those things that are only encountered in porn. I can't say I like the taste of unwashed pussy. In any case, that's between you and your lady, but it's always the safer option to rinse off. If I think I'm going to get lucky, I do it before I go out. If I find that I'm at a lady's home, I try to excuse myself and use the sink. Sometimes, if the mood demands no opportunity to prepare, I'll not do it, and I can get away with it because I wash up every day. +Now we move onto penetration, and this is where peeling back is so important. If you can't peel back at all, sex isn't going to feel good. It's going to be painful, and you probably aren't going to cum either because you can't thrust like you should. As you penetrate, the foreskin is pulled slightly back, so if there's any tightness you will immediately feel it. It will almost feel like there's a brick wall inside her pussy, and you can imagine fucking a brick wall is pretty painful. +Let's say you're quite pliable. You might be running into one of two problems: the experience is too intense and you cum within minutes, or sex is a total chore and you can't cum at all. Some of this may be a lack of experience, but, as an uncircumcised man, know that you have a built-in orgasm switch that cut men just don't have, and you may not know how to use it. Use your switch correctly, it's almost like a cheat code for controlling orgasms. We call it the foreskin. +You see, while the head of your cock is very sensitive, it is actually the friction between the foreskin and your knob which provokes sexual sensation and eventually orgasm. You control that friction, you control your orgasm. Try masturbating while peeled back. It's very hard (orgasming, I mean, not the cock). Now try it hood down. Much easier. +I've never had sex without a condom, so I can't talk about the efficacy of this strategy when bareback (I imagine it would hurt). But generally, if I don't want to cum, I keep my head peeled back, and the condom will help it stay in place. Sure, there's not much sensation for me, but my ladyfriend is having a good time, and I can basically go on for a while without porn-star endurance or tantric sex magic. I've never tested the limits of this, but I'd say I'd sooner stop from physical exhaustion than from an orgasm. +When I'm ready to cum, the hood goes down, and it's an entirely different story. I have no idea what it's like for cut men, but a woman's intimacy does something for me nothing else could possibly do. There is no greater pleasure than to thrust deeply into a woman as she thrusts herself upon you, it is moment of extraordinary, blinding ecstasy even before the orgasm. And when you finally do, the sensation of pumping into her soil... it feels like love. Raw, undiluted love. If an artist could capture an emotion into a sensation, that would be it. +Women give you a very special gift: an invitation into themselves. It's why I always try to respect a woman's love, even if it is just one night, and not degrade them by calling them names when they aren't around, or to insult them by treating their gift casually. +I'm on a dry spell as I write this. I miss sex. +That aside, I have no idea if what I've written above is the experience of other uncut men. It is, however, my experience, and that's all I have to work on. + _Sex with an Uncircumcised Man_ +Why should you consider having sex with uncircumcised men? Why abandon Mr. Giant Purple Cockhead for Sir Wrinkly Top? The primary reason is that I'm uncircumcised, and I'd like to get laid more. That aside, uncut men have, I think, a different set of sensations from cut guys. They experience sex more intensely. Also, they have their natural orgasm control mechanism intact, whereas I think cut guys don't have the same capability. +By the way, don't actually stop having sex with cut guys. I don't want to get accused of being a cockblock. +Now, I've never been with another guy, and haven't been planning on it, so logically I don't have any experience screwing other uncircumcised men. My experience is of being screwed as someone who is uncircumcised, so naturally what works for me might work on other guys. +Some of you might think – oh yes, the cock head, that's even more sensitive on an uncut guy, I'll go ahead and throttle that for the evening. NO. PLEASE DON'T. IT HURTS. If you touch the area under the foreskin without some preparation, you are more likely to get a yelp than a groan. And just because it's more sensitive doesn't mean a pleasurable sensation: you don't poke 3rd degree burns, you don't just poke a guy's knob! +You see, I vaguely remember some scientist telling me that there are many nerve endings in the foreskin, and the foreskin is really the place that generates sexual pleasure for uncut guys. Specifically, the motion of the foreskin as it glides over the head. It is very difficult to make a guy orgasm from just polishing his naked helmet. +That doesn't mean you should never touch it. Just know what you are doing. Make sure it is very lubricated, oil or lube works but precum works as well, just anything that acts as a barrier between the head and raw touch. Then, gently explore it. Look at how your man feels. If you feel confident try rubbing it or licking it. Just remember that it is very tender. +Armed with this knowledge, you should know how to get him off and when to tease him. A greater variety of things will likely make him orgasm. You can jack him in the traditional way, or your can lightly massage the knob through the foreskin. Either will likely get him off. +I've heard that cut men don't really get off by mouth alone, that one must use their hands in addition to lips. For me, the suction will work, and I imagine much is the same with other uncut guys. I could never convince my lady friend to suck me of to fruition (but damn, I wanted her to), so I can't know for sure. +If you're with a new guy, before venturing to areas underneath the foreskin with your mouth, you should have a brief check to see if it is clean. I don't want you to get a mouthful of disgusting stuff, that makes uncut men look bad. If all is clear, you can try to put your tongue directly onto the head, and it could be exciting or uncomfortable depending on how you do it. As always, do it lightly at first, gauge the reaction of your guy, then be more bold. +Because of the foreskin use of teeth (very lightly, of course) is permissible. Just don't, you know, bite down. +That's how you treat a guy. While every guy like a blowjob, for me, blowjobs are _awesome_. I don't know if it's because I'm uncircumcised or not, but it's a very special treat to get from a lady. My lady friend would always kiss me after the fact, which felt nice and intimate. I only wish I was more experienced at returning the favor. + **In Closing** +I said that I'd set politics aside, but I stipulated ""for now"", and this is the time to come back to it. If you oppose the involuntary female genital mutilation, it would be hypocritical of you to support involuntary male genital mutilation. Foreskin is an extremely important part of the penis, it is where the majority of sexual sensation is generated. It is my personal belief that this is also the part of the penis that give men the ability to control orgasm. The ability of circumcised men to experience pleasure in sex is crippled compared to those who still have their penises largely intact. And if you don't think this is a big deal, remember this: every argument for male circumcision (it's more hygenic, it reduces the risk of cancer, it promotes moral behavior, it's what God wants, men don't miss it once it's gone) were used to defend _female circumcision._ And, of course, many men accept that they're circumcised, and that's perfectly fine. But take this analogy: we have a diet problem in the United States (where I live) do we scrape off the taste buds of babies to solve it? After all, they can't miss what they've never had. +Alright. So. If you're an uncircumcised guy, you might have learned something from this. Or not. If you're embarrassed because you didn't know this stuff, don't be, people can only work with the information that they have. Smart people throughout history have believed in what we now know is crazy stupid stuff : the geocentric universe, young Earth theory, supply-side economics. The only genuine stupidity is to shut yourself off to learning anything. +Some of you may be like, ""Damn Wannabe, I knew this shit, but why didn't you mention XYZ?"" If so, know that this is purely my own experience, so please message me or leave a comment with your experiences and knowledge and maybe I can update this at a later date. I'd be glad to read what you have to say, though I can't promise I'll respond. +If you are a parent and have opted to leave your son's penis intact, I commend you. There is a chance that he'll blame you later for _not_ having his schlong mutilated, and even if he decides to be circumcised later in life you made the right decision by giving him that choice. But that decision is only a part of it, now you need to educate your child on how to take care of themselves. No one is born with innate knowledge of how to do these sorts of things. +I don't want to be too hard on those parents who had chosen to circumcise their child. It is, after all, the ""default"" thing to do, and it's likely it was just something that you didn't think about. It doesn't make you a bad parent and you shouldn't feel bad, but you should consider opting out of circumcision next time, especially if you don't have a religious objection to it. +If you are a circumcised guy and are feeling a little left out, believe me, it works both ways. There have been times in my life where I've been ashamed of my uncircumcised penis and have felt anger towards my parents for not having it cut. Now I'm older and more confident, and I think my parents made the right decision. +Finally, if you are a person oriented towards men – a lady, a man, or anything in between – I hope my advice has been helpful and this improves your relationship. There's nothing inherently weird or unnatural about being uncut... in fact, it is the more natural way to be. So when you're with a new guy who pulls out a couple centimeters more wang than usual, don't retreat, give him a go! He might be me! +P.S. I have no anonymous suggestion box by my bed. That's a joke, so don't look for one." +867,Understand Breasts & Bra Sizes,elfin_odalisque,How To,2006-05-24,2006-05-24,2022-01-04 08:41:09,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understand-breasts-and-bra-sizes,"Tiny tits, huge hooters - never 36D.","['Bras', 'Breasts', 'Describing', 'Measuring', 'Understand Breasts & Bra Sizes']",4.63,"_Until I dropped anchor here, I knew about the male penchant for sports stats but was not fully aware quite how obsessed males were about sexual statistics. ""Pee-Wee Logan's career RBI was to die for but his nickname was more than justified by the two-incher he sported openly in the locker room."" Just for information, do you measure it soft or hard and is it above or below? No, don't tell me, I really don't want to know!_ + _For a long while now, finding female mammary glands dismissed in stories as a quantifiable fact has really irritated me. I find it as much of a turnoff as mention of a 'Hershey highway' or a 'poop chute', and if you start talking about a ZZ Top, I'll giggle and think the boobies have a long beard and are strumming a guitar._ + _So, in the best spirit of 'show, don't tell', I have tried to explain how breasts can be measured for bras and why they are so fundamental to sexuality in the hope that writers will see why even 'small plums', 'medium peaches' and 'large melons' give infinitely more description to the reader, male or female, than 36DD._ + _I apologize in advance if you think there is any misinformation – the subject is a minefield of myth and legend and I've tried to tiptoe as carefully as possible, even though I've had to abridge some information and I may have compromised accuracy in so doing. I just hope this piece is of some interest to women and a cautionary tale for any writer who wants to quote breast measurement or bra sizes._ + _FW – I raise my glass to you, many thanks._ +\----------------------------- + **Fairy Wonderbra says Supersize my 40AA jugs!** +Fairy Wonderbra, FW for short, is a girlfriend who beta tests my stories to stop the worst drivel from being posted. She was sitting in my kitchen proof reading my latest erotic gem on the laptop when she suddenly screamed apoplectically. +""She's having her breasts measured! I thought we were starting a campaign to have all use of bra size measurements banned on the grounds of boredom and cruelty to women, sorta like bestiality and under pensionable-age sex."" +I patiently tried to explain it was just my very unsubtle plot device to get the girl's naked breasts to be fondled by a strange woman in public whilst her boyfriend watched, but this wasn't enough for FW. A woman who spiked my story about how Rock Hudson did some bareback riding with a frog – the frog did turn into a handsome prince – is not to be trifled with. +Even though absolutely no numbers or measurements were quoted in the story – which FW is straining every sinew to keep unposted - my penance is to launch this plea to never, never quote bra sizes in literotica stories unless the plot absolutely demands it. I mean, you would never write, 'His hands slid down from her twenty-four inch waist to rest on her thirty-six inch hips,' would you? Not if you expect a good score from the readers, surely? + _Anyway, here goes!_ +""I'm Elle and let me introduce myself. I'm a 38DD sophomore at Literotica Nymphomaniac Community College."" Yes, yes, truly, some people do start stories pretty much like that. I'm not sure how most of them end though. +Why is it, in stories, men are always human beings and women just bra sizes? I can assure you, probably from about eighth grade on, almost all girls are unhappy about their breasts; too big, too small, wrong shape, too saggy, even just 'funny looking'. From the first moment our chests start budding we are crossing our arms tightly in front of us to hide the evidence, and then by twelfth grade we are now embarrassed that ours are smaller than all of our friends, so begin stuffing handkerchiefs or socks in our bra cups. Please, oh great deity, may I never sink to the chicken fillets! +And so it goes on; even when we start to like the bubbies as we learn how they can get us a lift home or a larger pay rise, the last thing we want to do is broadcast statistics. In fact, we are seldom sure exactly what size we are. It's good, though, I admit, when you guys check labels in the naughties drawer just before birthdays and Valentine's; we can always exchange them if they don't fit. +Anyway, in his superb guide on 'How To' write erotic stories, 'The 10 Commandments', The Earl says, ""Never use measurements unless you have a very good reason. [. . . ] They restrict the reader's imagination. Plus, when was the last time you found a man who could tell women's bra sizes from outside their clothing?"" +I would go a whole lot further. If a naked woman handed a man a tape measure, pencil and paper and asked him to check her bra size he probably couldn't get it anywhere close to right. Mind you, it's odds on neither would the woman! +So, just promise me this guys – and I think it is guys, really; I'm pretty sure I haven't yet seen a female writer on the site using bra measurements as descriptions of breasts – take this little examination (no stirrups or speculums) and promise me never to put a bra size in your stories unless you get all the answers right first time. On your honor now, no peeking! +A) The vital statistics of a woman with a bra size quoted as 38C are 38-xx-xx? +B) The number 38 in 38C equates to inches? +C) Cup size C is bigger than size B and cup size DD is smaller than size E? +E) Cup size is related to the bust measurement or breast size? +F) A woman's breasts are symmetrical? +Well, that was easy wasn't it? Now swap papers with the person sitting on your lap and we'll look at them together and see what crops up. All those who wrote 'it depends' as the answer to every question clearly has no need to carry on here in Breasts101. Full marks and you can advance to the graduate program and start on your thesis explaining the exact anatomical differences between 36D breasts and 38C breasts; with diagrams, please. Now nipple-long please, the rest of us have work to do. +For the remainder, please refrain from ever using bra size as a breast description unless you add a disclaimer explaining exactly how the measurement was obtained and verified, with written confirmation from the heroine that her bra fits properly and a note citing manufacturer and model of bra. +You see, breast measurement is one of those Catch-22 thingies. Lingerie retailers and bra manufacturers claim that more than seventy percent of all women wear the wrong size bra, but many more than seventy percent of all women claim that lingerie retailers and bra manufacturers have no idea how to measure women's busts. Let me explain. +FW said she'd been mooching along for a while now with bras that are generally 34C or 36B. That's right guys, different sizes but the same tits! How can you write that in your story? It can be a personal choice, but usually depends on the manufacturer; you see there seems to be no industry standard for cup size. One company's B is another's C. How can you cope? Sloggi sports bras seem bigger than Elle McPherson Intimate Secrets. Cup sizes of the same manufacturer even change between model and size. A 36B is usually slightly bigger cupped than a 34B but have you checked between the under wired and the soft cupped ranges? What about padded or half-bra? +In any case, bras have two – usually three – sets of hooks. If I hook up my 58GGG's (joke) on the first setting, have I got the same rack as a girl who strains to 'get things together' on notch three? And when the damn thing has been washed a few times it stretches, so you have to do it up more tightly – so you're getting smaller? Seriously, any attempt at quantification is pretty meaningless and is no substitute for good description. +Most women tend to stick with the same brand or brands and use trial and error when they change. You try on zillions and buy the one that seems most comfortable. Not exactly rocket science, but I pity the poor husband in the Victoria's Secret store at Christmas; unless he's taken some plaster casts, of course! Just looking in the unmentionables drawer for labels may not be enough. +And there's another point for you guys who are hooked on numbers. Think of shoe sizes for example. Despite thinking you are a 7, you go to the shop and try them on and find you need an 8 because the style you like are cut narrowly. So what shoe size are you? Good job too, otherwise how would all those young male shop assistants get to go home on the bus in stained pants because women always go shoe shopping in a short skirt and with no panties? +A bra is a skillfully engineered torture device where, for any individual woman, there are a range of sizes that fit. So when your fairy princess is 'clearly braless under her spaghetti strap crop top' then what exactly are these 38D cantaloupes she's waving in our faces? Are they, perhaps, 36DD when she's wearing a cantilevered bra with underwiring from Wal-Mart or, do you really mean 'full, voluptuous breasts stretching her spandex top as if on a mission to escape their cotton-lined Alcatraz'? Why not explain? It is much better for our imagination. +So FW and I decided to run an experiment from scratch as research. First, we got on the Web to find out the proper way to measure breasts and were absolutely amazed to find there is no one accepted standard. We found more than half a dozen methods from reliable sources, which gave wildly different results. True, the major retailers seem to have a roughly similar approach, but the answers we got from their instructions were sometimes hilarious. +We started with Victoria's Secret, but Sears, Figleaves, Maidenform, Agent Provocateur and most of the other big names were pretty similar. You take your top off and put on a well-fitting, soft bra. Catch-22 again; if you've already got a well-fitting bra, why are you doing this measuring lark? Doh! +First, you measure round the ribcage, right under the breasts then, for some inexplicable reason, add 5 to arrive at 'band size'. Well, to be brutally honest, you can add anything from three to six, depending on the store's guidelines. Also, some sites added different amounts as you get bigger – that is bigger chested, not bigger breasted; others added less. FW came out at 34 inches and, when you add 5, that makes 39, but bras only come in even sizes (why?) so that rounds to 40. Forty what, you may ask? Not inches certainly, not dollars or even Polish zlotys; it just is 40 nothings, or somethings; it is just called 'band size'. Perhaps it is to make us air-headed girlies feel good, or bigger, or something. +One thing guys – the number is absolutely not the circumference round the biggest part of the breasts. Furthermore, band size cannot physically change; I mean the ribcage stays the same. If you ever read of a starlet having 'augmentation' surgery to go from a 34B to a 38D – they are lying to you. There is no way she has had her ribcage enlarged. Or rather, they are conning you. In actresses' or glamour models' 'resumes' you often see vital statistics quoted with a cup size added, so you get something like 38C-26-38. This probably overstates her band size by around two but pleases the punters: just guessing, but she probably wears a 36C bra – if she ever wears a bra. +Step two is easy. Measure the bust over the biggest part – nipples guys! – keeping the measure parallel to the ground. Here lies another catch, because the tape is away from the chest from boob to boob. If your breasts are widely spaced apart, you are going to get the same bust circumference as a woman with slightly fuller, but more narrowly slung, lulus. Explain that in a story. +""Come on FW, that makes you 40 inches, not bad eh?"" +It said on the screen that you must deduct band size from bust measurement then look the result up in a table to get cup size. OK, that seems straightforward. We take 40 from, err, 40 and get, err, zero. Even AA goes up to half an inch! I can personally vouch for the fact that it has been quite a while now that FW hasn't been able to squeeze into teenage training bras. +""FW, don't quite know how to tell you this, but, officially, you are bra size 40AA and flat-chested. The bad news is Vicky's Secret doesn't sell anything in your size, but the good news is you don't need a bra."" +Cupping her burgeoning peaches, if not melons, in her palms, FW gave me a quizzical look. The meaning was crystal clear. A 40-band bra would only have the remotest chance of stopping traveling south when it reached her hips; and then only if it hit at an angle. We knew there had to be something wrong, perhaps we had misunderstood the websites so, it was time to go shopping. +In the malls, the sales staff were insistent, sometimes downright aggressive; this was the way to assess bra size. Desperate pleadings to look at the evidence poking out in front of their eyes, that FW was not flat chested or 'big boned' – whatever that means – fell on stony ground. According to the most popular _corsetieres_ my modestly endowed companion was officially a '38A' or a '40AA' but I defy any passing lit writer, male or female, to have guessed that from seeing her naked jugs. +We were told condescendingly that not all women comply with the norms, that perhaps she should try trial and error, and thereby implying that my friend was some kind of anatomical freak. I think the real reason is that a lot of sales assistants are not well trained and, in reality, correct bra size has very little to do with tape measures. +Back at home, we made another run-through of the sites. Another way of measuring band size we found was to run the tape above the breasts and under the armpits. +This is not suggested by many of the online shops, but generally by the wonderful medical sites offering really detailed advice for women after lumpectomies or mastectomies. With FW, this approach at least gave a band 36, that is, 34 inches and add 2. Doing the standard cup size bit, she then came out as 36D borderline E – a bit over the top but a lot closer than 40AA. The medical/ women's health sites seem much more on the ball than the shops, anyway. Perhaps it is because they care more. +However, to our utter amazement, the best measurement approximation to the bras she actually buys came from a site for transvestites and cross-dressers. Perhaps these guys have had to work harder to master the art. At least they have more options than we do to hone their body shape; unless you're into surgery, that is. +The advice they gave that seemed best overall was to measure above AND below the breasts. If the difference was less than two inches, take the ribcage measurement as band size. Otherwise, try the armpit measurement and add 2. This seemed ideal. We had now got two measurements for FW that gave a band size of 34 or 36 – just what she wears. +The other incredible revelation from this site was that cup size doesn't matter very much to breast circumference. Guys wrote that going up four cup sizes with inserts only increased the circumference measurement by about one to two inches. The advantage of being able to vary breast size at will probably helps, but the findings are pretty clear. The predominant determinant of numeric size is always going to be the skeletal, ribcage criterion and not the 'these breasts could cushion the fall of a dove's egg from 30,000 feet' mentality. +Put in simple terms, there is very little difference, probably less than 2 inches, in breast circumference between a Dolly Parton look-alike and the emaciated, four cups smaller form of Orphan Annie – provided their ribcages are the same size. Furthermore, they will both have the same band size. Don't snort; this is as much a surprise to me. Guys, please understand that women's breasts vary far more in area and mass than they do in projection from the chest wall. Your 46DD only effectively describes the build and body shape of your heroine – it tells us nothing really useful about the look of her bazookas from outside her clothes! +In fact, without telling us the height of your protag we are like a blind person in a dark room in a fog. A five-foot tall girl with 34C bra size would appear a heck of a sight more 'voluptuous' looking than a six-foot tall girl with the same boobs. Trust me, I know! +A plastic surgeon friend of mine told me that all he could ever really do for a girl who 'wanted to be bigger' was add volume. That's why they call it 'breast augmentation'. He said that, on a rough rule of thumb, an extra 150cc (about 5 fluid oz.) added a cup size but, it did not make the tits stick out much more! Sure they're firmer – something about quarts in pint pots if you stretch the skin – but it is mass, not projection. With a boob job, the tits spread out and fill the skin; they don't stick out much further. Certainly, sticking a saline bag or two between your pectoralis (chest wall) muscles will not change the ribcage size at all. +There are games you can play, though. When I want to flaunt a bit of cleavage, for a party or something more intimate, I drop a band size. This pushes my tits together and upwards, so voluptuous 32Ds, in their strapless casing tonight, will, like Cinderella, revert to a prosaic 34C tomorrow. +That is another thing. Shoulder straps are not really essential. They are just there to act as stabilizers for the cups. They should never be support for the breasts. The band is the main support and the rest of the bra cups the boobs to be supported by the band. The current fashion for spaghetti tops with bra straps showing has a lot to do with wearing underwear as outerwear – a bit like showing thong-T's above the back of low-rise jeans. +But, to come back to the SAT test at the beginning, I've already explained that the number has nothing at all to do with breast size. All I really understand about a 38D bra size is that the woman has a ribcage between 32 and 38 inches and nothing much about her boob size except she is probably full- breasted. You, on the other hand, may well be imagining that her bust measurement is 38 inches and teats stick out like Jane Fonda in Barbarella. +Similarly, cup size is as far from a science as most politicians are from reality. Just to completely confuse things, a C cup for a 30 band bra is almost certainly no bigger than a B cup for a 38 band bra. So guys, the petite 30C looks like what exactly? What you have in your head is probably totally different from what I see in my mind's eye. It goes further. Beyond size D, no-one can even agree on names. One company's DD is another's E – and not the same size, to boot. I have just read a story where the author said, ""I would have put her as a DD maybe even an E."" Did he really mean, 'I would have put her as a Playtex, maybe even a Maidenform'? +Oh, I forgot another small point. Most women don't have the same sized breasts. Apparently, according to the AMA, 90 percent of American women have a right breast slightly smaller than their left. No idea why that is, but I haven't seen that feature in the anatomical details I've read, something like, ""her left love puppy was a 36C but the right was only a B."" Perhaps we really do have Amazon genetic history! I always hoped so. +Yet another teeny complication; you are posting here to a global readership but do you know that there are dozens of different ways in the world to enumerate women's bosoms. Just a stray thought that struck me, didn't Abraham have a bosom? Was he a 30F or a 48A? +Also, most of the world is now metric. How is 48F supposed to mean anything to an Australian, even a Sheila? If some New Zealand writer talked about these drool-making 16D's would you have the slightest idea what he meant? A '36' US or UK measurement is going to be 95 in France, 80 in the rest of Europe, 3 in Italy and 14 in Australia. Also, even between the US and the UK, cup sizes usually vary by half an inch. A 36A in the US is likely to be a 36B in the UK. Help the world enjoy your story – abandon the measurements. +This begins to come back to my penance. If anyone quotes a breast size of 40AA I will immediately think of FW, which is probably not what you intend, and probably not what most other readers will imagine. Are the breasts round or pointy? Are they sticky-uppy or dangly-downy? Are the areolas puffy and the nipples large? That can make a good cup size of difference. And, I assure you, that matters to a female reader and is usually deep in the male fantasy, as far as my limited experience goes. +So, having explained why bra size is a pretty useless way of describing bosoms, what positive advice have I got to offer? How should you talk about tits? +Breasts are rich and full, heaving, pendulous, wide, narrow and hung high or low on the chest, just the size to cup nicely in his palm, soft and springy like two stress balls – I could go on. I'll buy fruit comparisons; ripe plums, sweet apples, firm peaches, grapefruit – at a pinch, even melons (just spare us kumquat). Now you know they don't stick out much further than other girlies, start thinking about other ways how to make me jealous, excited. How about using descriptions like jutting, buxom, compressed or erupting cleavage, pert globes, porcelain half moons, spheres or orbs? Colors and textures are good; dusky pink, olive, coffee, nut brown. These are not necessarily favorites of mine but just examples I can remember reading. +Why can't we all use some of the descriptive talent that makes a good story: 'Her pinched, slender waist accentuated the voluptuous swell of her generous hips'? Bottoms can be bubbles, apple-shaped, heart-shaped or even split peach perfection. Why can't breasts get the same loving, descriptive treatment? +""As she lay back on the bed, the long, coral pink nipples and generous areolas stood proud of the expansive, firm flesh that cradled them. He had never found a woman with breasts so sensitive."" +Whatever the gender of the writer, I read your stories as a woman. I really go for the bits where he 'takes her soft mounds in his warm palms and slowly rolls the balls of his thumbs over her achingly hard nipples'. Just please, don't quantify them then put them on the shelf marked S, M or XXL to get treated like inventory. You don't understand, it puts off women readers and it's not erotic – even to a lot of men as I have been told. +One summer vacation during college, I worked on a major construction site as a 'girl Friday' – that means 'gofer' – and I thought I heard the whole thesaurus of words that could describe female mammaries. In the unbridled sexism and lust – that I quite liked – no-one ever quoted bra sizes. The one expression I will always remember is, 'get an eyeful of those great mazoomas'. What exactly are 'mazoomas'? Who cares? For the men who used the term it was a mix of lust, admiration and, in a strange way, a touch of respect. For me, in context, it was far more descriptive, visual and erotic than anything that has a number attached to it. +We all know there are quite a sizeable number of synonyms for both male and female genitalia. It is just that much of the vocabulary is along the Tab A/ Slot B lines, even if he sticks his 'love lollipop' into her 'steaming channel of desire'. +Yet, in researching this piece, we found upwards of three hundred general slang words for the female protuberances. My particular favorite was 'Cupid's kettledrums', but there is surely a place in the world for such gems as 'love- pillows', 'FiFi's Funballs', 'lung-nuts' and, even 'two raisins on a bread board'? But it goes further. Unlike any other body part, we are obsessed, both male and female, in giving bazoomikas new, and personal, names. +Recently, Scarlett Johansson announced that she loved her breasts – 'My Girls', as she called them. No, no, her girls, not my girls! Anyway, whilst her 'My Girls' would look drop-dead gorgeous in a Wicked Weasel bikini, my 'My Girls' would be more like two half-deflated, patchy-albino party balloons defying the laws of physics. That's why I call mine 'Laurel and Hardy': one's bigger than the other and, when out in public, they make people laugh. A girlfriend of mine talks about her 'Garfunkels' – because they are so high pitched. +That, really, is the nub of the matter. From quite different perspectives, both men and women are fixated by what jiggles up and down on female chests. The orbs are pretty damn redundant, most of the time just ornamental like baubles on a Christmas tree, and only being practically useful for a short while after you have babies, but they seem to define femininity, womanhood, for us all – male or female. Losing a limb or an eye is an awful, frightful prospect, but it pales in comparison beside the fear and trauma to women of losing a breast. +Somehow, deep in our psyche, breasts define our gender – our belief in ourselves as women as we face the bathroom mirror. Perhaps that's why I get so riled when a lady's 'dessert trolley' gets summarily dismissed as a letter or clothes size. +I was going to conclude by suggesting that you should always write about breasts – full, perky, firm, areolas the size of silver dollars, moving up and down on her chest as if inviting Stud to slide his cock between the pert hillocks – then FW brought me down to earth. +She said the word 'breasts' sometimes had a very negative ring for her; something a bit medical relating to lactation, mammograms and stuff. Breasts live a Jekyll and Hyde existence – sliced up on Thanksgiving with the gravy and potatoes; then morph to become the most secretly romantic thing – 'he gasped as the moonlight played on her alabaster breasts, the full swells almost translucent as they rose and fell in the silvery glow'. On reflection, I think she's right. Those 'double whammies' are like the sea, ever changing, colors segueing from the crystal azure blue of sun drenched tropical bays to the wind-whipped, gray aquamarine savagery of the wildest oceans. +When Ms Jackson's wardrobe malfunctioned, it was fascinating to study the vocabulary of the warring sides, split between the 'boob flashing' and 'exposing her breast' camps. I'll leave you to remember who was for and who against. +You start getting boobs – scary – at puberty. By college they have become fun and jolly and they help to get guys to check you out so, you decide to keep them until, forty years and umpteen kids later, you can tuck the deflated flesh sacs into the waistband of your jeans. Then you've really got breasts or, even worse, bosoms. Generally, boobs are a bit giggly girly. I've got tits when I feel a bit feisty, or when you get on them, and jugs and hooters make me want to holler and be a country girl. Didn't Daisy Duke have jugs? +In fact, watching the TV news, I've decided that Condi has certainly got breasts – my other half thinks she might even still have boobs – whilst Hillary has more likely got a chest and Barbara B has surely got a bosom. I can't explain exactly why I think it and there's certainly no similar distinction for a man's dangly bits as he gets older. +So, spare not the midnight oil you male authors. Armed with this information, let your creative juices ferment. Since the dawn of time, the bodacious tatas have been a primary erotic focus between the sexes. More than child bearing hips, big booties and the phallic imagery of trains going into tunnels or tall factory chimneys collapsing in a heap, a pair of ripe Winnebago's, nipply doo- dahs, chumbawumbas or shoulder boulders have been used by wicked women to lure poor, simple men to their doom since time immemorial. +There is so much expressive language out there to use for a nice cuddly pair of snuggle puppies; there is absolutely no excuse for resorting to the lazy shorthand of bra sizes that no-one fully understands. Anyway, it just makes me think you are quoting the size of the handles you can grab hold of when stoking the furnace. +So, in the words of the wise, the thong is over but the mammaries linger on." +868,Understanding Human Sexuality,edcrane,How To,2005-03-31,2005-03-31,2022-01-04 08:41:10,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-human-sexuality,The evolutionary mechanics of sexuality.,"['Evolution', 'Men', 'Sexuality', 'Why', 'Women']",4.27,"A quick look in this ""how to"" section will reveal a veritable cornucopia of guides about why men and women do various things, or the precise mechanics of foreplay, or even how to ""get laid"" if you're a geeky guy. These can all be useful, but there's a tremendous amount of subjectivity involved in these discourses. The purpose of this rather brief essay is to disseminate a more scientific understanding of both male and female sexuality in terms of evolutionary biology. +Before we delve into men and women, we must first understand the rather simple mechanism of natural selection. The genetic imperative is a simple one: replication. In a world of limited size/resources, which is commonly referred to as a ""Malthusian world,"" those able to produce the best/most/best equipped progeny, survive and are ""selected"" by overwhelming the less advantaged. As Richard Dawkins eloquently demonstrated in _The Selfish Gene_ , complex organisms are akin to highly developed vehicles for Genes, and specifically serve their single imperative. Humans are unique in their capacity to cooperate with non-kin members of the same species, however we are still essentially the same sorts of vehicles as other organisms. +The only other prerequisite for approaching human sexual behavior in terms of biology, is understanding the separation of proximal and ultimate causation. Proximal causes can be understood as emotional drives or feelings. Ultimate causation is the logic underlying these urges. The latter is what we will examine here. +Now, onto the topic at hand: human sexuality. +Men: +Males are simple creatures (in terms of sexuality). Facial hair appears to be one of the most prominent sexually selected physical attributes particular to men. The human penis and testes are both relatively large (in relation to our body mass) compared to other primates. +The size of the human penis is directly correlated to the size of the human vagina, which is necessarily large to accommodate birthing a child who has gestated for 9 months and has a fucking big skull. The shape of the human penis creates a squeegee-like effect with repeated thrusting (this, in conjunction with examples to follow, has been understood to function as a means of removing competing sperm from other males that may reside in a woman's vagina and within the cervical cavity, which indicates early humans were likely adapted to promiscuous mating). +The large testes of the human male (relative to the rather small testes of our close relative the gorilla) are capable of producing hundreds of millions of sperm. Empirical studies (see _Sperm Wars_ ) have demonstrated that men unconsciously control the amount of sperm they ejaculate based on the probability of the presence of other competing sperm in the female, as well as based on the amount of time that has past since they last copulated with the given female, maxing out on average at about 600 million sperm. +Another point of interest supporting the promiscuous mating hypothesis, is known as the ""Coolidge effect."" It turns out that the human male (along with a myriad of other mammals adapted to promiscuous mating) is capable of performing sexually multiple times in a row, without the assistance of Viagra, under certain circumstances. The first circumstance occurs when a male is presented with the opportunity to fertilize multiple different women. The second occurs when another male is present, and the second male releases sperm into the female in question after the first. In this case, as long as the first male is conscious of this activity, he will be able to once again perform sexually, and inject additional sperm into the female. +Women: +Females are a tad more complex than males, in a sexual sense. The most prominent sexually selected attribute women exhibit appears to be breasts (while other primates have breasts, most of them tend to physically morph into features indistinguishable from their male counterparts when not in the stage of nursing children). As a result of the long gestation and weaning period of human offspring, females are far more selective when it comes to sex. +They also exhibit an interesting attribute that is seen in some (but not all) of the other great apes. This attribute is called occult ovulation. It basically means that the human female is highly skilled at hiding (not only from males, but her own conscious mind) the exact times at which her body will be capable of fertilization. This attribute helps the female obscure paternity from males, and in conjunction with other factors, allows her to more actively select paternity for her offspring from sexual partners. +Another fascinating, though not entirely explainable phenomenon is called cervical tenting. Cervical tenting occurs when a woman achieves orgasm. At that point, the cervical opening assumes a shape that looks a bit like an elephant trunk, and functions as a straw, and with each contraction it angles down into the vagina and sucks up either vaginal fluid (which is acidic and, once incorporated into the cervical mucus, will reduce the likelihood of fertilization) or, if it present, sperm (increasing the chances of fertilization). +Ultimate motivations: +Men, who in promiscuous situations have only nominal assurance of paternity, and have little invested in child bearing, have a tendency to mate with as many females as possible (in order to assure maximum replication of their genes). Monogamous situations, which seem to occur as humans achieve longer lifespans, change this formula a bit, as paternity is more clearly assured, and the male has more to gain by investing resources into his progeny. In such situations the male becomes more heavily invested in child rearing, and less inclined to engage in promiscuous behavior (though one would expect vestigial urges to remain). +Females are assured of genetic relatedness to their offspring, regardless of the sexual conventions of her culture. As previously mentioned, long periods of gestation combined with protracted periods of nursing make the female highly invested in selecting the proper male to father her offspring. Highly promiscuous societies like the Canela appear to obscure paternity in an effort to build social cohesion and discourage infanticidal urges and the like. In monogamous societies, the female still has motivation to ""cheat."" This urge is demonstrated in many other animals including certain birds previously assumed to be monagmous, that frequently ""cheat,"" when possible, to procure superior sperm for fertilization. The logic behind this motivation is rooted in the female's guaranteed genetic relatedness. In either monogamous or promiscuous situations, the female's optimal strategy is to attempt to find the best possible sperm donor, in conjunction with the best possible provider (not necessarily the same individuals) to support her family. +Conclusions: +Putting moral judgments aside, it is important to realize the causation of our various urges. Ultimate ""happiness"", inasmuch as happiness is defined as satiating all of one's desires, is rarely achieved. In both promiscuous and monogamous societies various natural urges are suppressed. In the former type of society, jealousy is ""evil"" and is punished as such. In the latter type, promiscuity is ""evil"" and likewise punished. Obviously there are individuals able to transcend cultural limitations in either case, but these are exceptions to the rule. What is important to understand here is that these proximal urges are rooted in a single, logical genetic imperative. This seems rather simple, but it has dramatic implications when it comes to morality." +869,Understanding Love,PolySwingerWife,How To,2021-06-20,2021-06-20,2022-01-04 08:41:11,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-love-1,"What it is, how it works, and how to do it.","['Cheating', 'Forgiveness', 'How To Love', 'Jealousy', 'Love', 'Possessiveness', 'Romantic Love', 'Unconditional Love', 'What Love Is']",4.43,"What spurred this post was a comment from an anonymous user that was posted to one of my recent entries entitled, ""Are There Downsides To Cuckolding?"" +The gist of the post was that what kills many cuckold marriages is the same thing that kills other, monogamous, marriages. You'll read in the comment below what I said, and the response that followed. +""You understand sex very well, but know ZERO about love!! +""This is going to be bad news for you: ""true love is unconditional"" you said? Not even by an inch. It is possible to be unconditional if it is returned back as unconditional as given. Chances of that happening makes LOTTO win looking like a walk in the park. Because of that, LOVE is VERY CONDITIONAL and POSSESIVE!!"" +The commenter stated that, essentially, they could love unconditionally if the other person loved him/her unconditionally as well. The problem with that kind of thinking is that unconditional love that has conditions isn't unconditional love, it's transactional. +Unconditional love is a selfless act. You're not in it for yourself. +When you put conditions on your love, you turn love into something that has to be earned. When a person feels that they have to earn another person's love, there is no feeling of security. There is always that fear that something they may do or not do may cause the other person to stop loving them. The problem here is that love and fear can not coexist. +In her book Life Lessons, Two Experts on Death and Dying Teach Us About the Mysteries of Life and Living, co-written with David Kessler, Elisabeth Kübler- Ross discusses some big ideas concerning love and fear. Love and fear are the two primary emotions in humans. Kübler-Ross argues that all other emotions exist under these two primary emotions: either an emotion comes from a place of fear or a place of love. These core emotions underlie every other emotion we have. +When we're afraid of something, we're more likely to tear it down or throw it away. Coming from a place of love, however, encourages us to create, build, and/or add. +When the commenter above stated, ""LOVE is VERY CONDITIONAL and POSSESIVE!!"", he was talking about transactional love as well as contractual love. +We get with another person and we feel that we have some type of ownership of that person. In a typical monogamous marriage, the couple has a contract that has ownership stipulations and a term length. +Often people cling to the ""forsaking all others"" part, yet they often forget about the ""Until death do you part"" part. +Jealousy stems from fear. And, as I have noted, love and fear cannot coexist. So, especially if you are married, there should be no fear if there is love. +What strikes me as odd is that too often people choose fear over love. The reasoning behind this is self-worth sustainment. +A person who can only love conditionally/transactionally/contractually is usually a person that was raised by or around people who had exceptionally high standards and expectations. Because of this, the person that can only love conditionally is a perfectionist. They've worked hard at proving that they are worthy of love. And, sadly, this is the only type of love that they know and understand. +Because these people believe that love is something you have to earn, they are often possessive, as our commenter stated. +Jealousy stems from fear and possessiveness stems from neediness. And neither are helpful or attractive. +One might feel that a little jealousy is a good thing. It means that you are important to another person if they are afraid of losing you, but if they need you instead of wanting you, that is a different matter. +Jealousy also stems from comparison. What does this other person have that you don't? What more could they offer that you can't? In this instance, we are brought back to fear and self-worth. +The driving force behind jealousy and possessiveness is insecurity. +The jealous and possessive person is always on guard. They tend to make their partner a suspect. They expect this person to wrong them, and then they are surprised and overwhelmed when it happens. +It is those who have low self-esteem that are most often jealous and/or possessive. And that makes sense. If you do not see yourself as worthy of another person's love, you want to control as much of the relationship as you can. This will lessen the possibility that what you believe you lack will come to the forefront. +Love without possession means wanting your partner to be happy even if you aren't the one making them happy. A relationship can't be a person's only source of joy. You need more layers and nuances in your life. +A person that is jealous and/or possessive relies on the other person for their self-worth. And a person that is jealous and/or possessive is more interested in control than love. +When you want to control another person, you are telling them that you don't want them to be themselves, you want them to be who you want them to be. And you want them to act the way you want them to. This is a trait of ownership, not love. +We should always aim to grow each other's worlds rather than restrict them. +In a possessive relationship, there is a severe lack of trust. +Children that grow up with an ambivalent/anxious attachment style grow up to be adults who are self-critical and insecure. They seek approval and reassurance from others, yet this never relieves their self-doubt. In their relationships, deep-seated feelings that they are going to be rejected make them worried and not trusting. And this leads to jealousy and possessiveness. +Let me ask you, do you see these as signs of love: An inability to trust, feeling insecure in romantic partnerships, the need to control others? +Most of our insecurities are formed in childhood and throughout the school years. And those who carry these insecurities into adulthood are often those who are jealous and/or possessive in their personal and/or romantic relationships. +Now that we know what love isn't, maybe we should find out what love is and what it entails. +First off, what are the types of love? +Eros - is a primal and powerful fire that burns out quickly. It needs its flame to be fanned through one of the deeper forms of love below as it is centered around the selfish aspects of love, that is, personal infatuation and physical pleasure. +The second type of love is philia or friendship. The ancient Greeks valued philia far above eros because it was considered a love between equals. As Aristotle put it, philia is a ""dispassionate virtuous love"" that is free from the intensity of sexual attraction. It often involves the feelings of loyalty among friends, camaraderie among teammates, and the sense of sacrifice for your pack. +Storge is a natural form of affection that often flows between parents and their children, and children for their parents. +Although ludus has a bit of the erotic eros in it, it is much more than that. The Greeks thought of ludus as a playful form of love, for example, the affection between young lovers. Playfulness in love is an essential ingredient that is often lost in long-term relationships. +Mania love is a type of love that leads a partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It occurs when there is an imbalance between eros and ludus. +To those who experience mania, love itself is a means of rescuing themselves; a reinforcement of their value as the sufferer of poor self-esteem. This person wants to love and be loved to find a sense of self-value. Because of this, they can become possessive and jealous lovers. +If the other partner fails to reciprocate with the same kind of mania love, many issues prevail. This is why mania can often lead to issues such as codependency. +Unlike the other types of love, pragma is the result of effort on both sides. It's the love between people who've learned to make compromises and have demonstrated patience and tolerance to make the relationship work. +philautia is self-love in its healthiest form. It shares the Buddhist philosophy of ""self-compassion"" which is the deep understanding that only once you have the strength to love yourself and feel comfortable in your skin, will you be able to provide love to others. As Aristotle put it, ""All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man's feelings for himself."" +The highest and most radical type of love according to the Greeks is agape or selfless, unconditional love. Agape is the love that is felt for that which we intuitively know as the divine truth: the love that accepts forgives, and believes for our greater good. +Agape love is unconditional love, bigger than ourselves, boundless compassion, and infinite empathy. It is what the Buddhists describe as ""mettā"" or ""universal loving-kindness."" It is the purest form of love that is free from desires and expectations and loves regardless of the flaws and shortcomings of others. +Dedication in the face of adversity is unconditional love. +I stated in my essay that, ""true love is unconditional."" And I still believe that. +Unconditional love is all about selflessness, acceptance, and forgiveness. You don't consider the benefits or keep the score of the favors. It does not associate with outward appearances. You support your partner and are there for them at all times. The love doesn't go away even when circumstances are difficult. It is a path that leads to an ultimate union of two different individuals. +When you can love without reservations, accept faults without judgment, care about the happiness of the other person and do everything to help that person feel good without expecting anything in return, then you have practiced selfless, unconditional love. +The above paragraph is in sharp contrast to my commenter's statement, ""It is possible to be unconditional if it is returned back as unconditional as given."" +. . . +Love, like many things, is something everyone wants and seeks out, but few truly understand. We all have our understandings of what love is, and often what we believe we learned throughout our childhood. Too often, children carry this same understanding into adulthood. They are then adults with the understanding of a child. +When we realize that the source of all love does not possess anything because it is those things, and the concept of possession simply does not resonate anymore, fear no longer colors our interactions, and boundary lines begin to disappear. +As adults, we need to mature and our loving style needs to mature as well. +Maturity in a relationship is the ability to stick to a certain situation until it is finished. For example, when a person we know seems to constantly change his relationship partners, friends, or job, we tend to label them as immature because they cannot commit to something or someone that is still in progress or maybe because they want these things and situations to be easy- going and once they encountered obstacles along the way, they immediately quit and jump to another person or situation. +Maturity is knowing that you can't have everything your way and the ability to face obstacles, frustrations, discomforts, and defeats without complaints. It's the ability to love unconditionally and to adjust to certain circumstances, and people when necessary. +. . . +I've learned the most about unconditional love from my husband, the man who understands me the most and loves me like no other man ever has. +I would like to say that I, too, love unconditionally, as my husband loves me, but I, too, found myself to be jealous and insecure in the past. +Jealousy and insecurity are not uncommon, but they are signs of immaturity and fear. +What has allowed my husband to love me unconditionally is his ability to love himself, completely, as he is. This allows him to love me, unconditionally as I am. +My husband once said to me, ""Loving someone unconditionally is not accepting someone as they are and not wanting them to grow. It's understanding that growth occurs when you allow someone to make mistakes and to learn from them."" +My husband taught me a long time ago that love is a choice we make every day of our lives. And his choice, every day, is to love me unconditionally. +My husband has also told me that I have helped him to grow, too. +Ray, my husband, has associated love growth with muscle growth. To Ray, love is our relationship muscle. Not unlike muscles, our love and relationships grow the same way that muscle hypertrophy increases muscle mass in the body. +Muscle hypertrophy occurs when the fibers of the muscles sustain damage or injury. The body repairs damaged fibers by fusing them, which increases the mass and size of the muscles. The same applies to romantic relationships. +Anyone can love someone when everything is going well and as planned, but it is much harder for some people to love when there are adversity, challenges, and unexpected situations. +People build muscle at different rates depending on their age, sex, and genetics, and love, like muscle development, significantly increases if it is: +consistent, challenging, and long-term. +Much like muscle loss, the strength of love can decline, as well. But that doesn't mean that once it begins to slip away that it is gone forever. Like muscle mass, love takes work, dedication, and a plan, but it is never too late to rebuild muscle and maintain it. +. . . +How can you love someone that has cheated on you? The first thing you have to do is realize what love is. +It was explained to me best that love begins with charity and gentleness. When you love someone, you do so with benevolence for what is failed, disgraced, broken, angry, and foul in other people and ourselves. +Love isn't about admiration of strength. It is sympathy directed at what is lost and in pieces, and at what we might hate, resent and fear. +It's not hard to love perfection. +It is important to realize that we will all require the charity of others at some time in our lives. We will need others to be able to look past our failings and be able to see our deeply hidden value. +We must be imaginative in our loving of others where there may be rage, bitterness, or transgressions. We must be able to picture the pain and loss that the other person has experienced. +To love with imagination is to be able to see the better reasons why others behave as they do. +Too often people become love's social justice warriors. The thing is that in their fighting for what they feel is right, they forget to be kind. What gets lost most often is a person's ability to show mercy, humility, and grace. +You must realize that there is more to being right and just. You also have to be kind and merciful. +Someone being ""wrong"" doesn't give us the right to stop showing the greatest degree of kindness. +Forgiveness is one of the greatest things you can do for someone you love. We learn to forgive when we are no longer self-righteous. +Love is best when it is given generously. Love is the one thing that you have more of the more you give it away. +Patience is a big part of loving. It allows others to grow at their pace. It gives others time to mature, to go wrong, and wander in another direction. Patience allows another person to grow into their better self. +If you have been cheated on and you are charitable and gentle in spirit, sympathetic and imaginative, kind, merciful, and gracious, forgiving and patient, no matter what happens in your relationship, you'll have two choices: You can quit and give up on love and your partner, or you can begin a new relationship - with your partner. +. . . +Once you know what is involved in love and loving, you can chart your course. You can go from relationship to relationship, or you can build and maintain an existing relationship. +Not one of us is without flaws. And, yes, we all have expectations. But if we can't bend, we will break. +My advice to everyone, myself included, is to not just understand love but to practice love in such a way that it becomes who you are." +870,Understanding Proper English,The Wanderer,How To,2006-10-16,2006-10-16,2022-01-04 08:41:12,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-proper-english,Seventh revision: English as The Wanderer writes it.,"['British English', 'British Slang', 'English English', 'Ensligh Slang']",4.44,"Understand Proper English Like What I talk +Seventh revision. Includes some suggestions and requests by readers from all over the place. +More demented ravings by The Wanderer _(with some help from readers and friends)._ +A note and disclaimer by The Wanderer. +The original synopsis for this document, it plainly said ""English as The Wanderer writes it"" if you don't like that, ""Bollocks!"" I've been kicking around this country for over sixty years now. If a reader hasn't come across the words being used in the same context, there ain't much that I can do about it. This originally was a list of words and phrases that I've come into contact with over the years and their use as I understand them. If you don't like my list, then write your own bleeding one. On the other hand there are many words and phrases I've haven't heard and I'm happy to add them if you'd like to send them to me +This is not and does not claim to be a complete list of English colloquial words and phrases. It is just a list of them that I have commonly come across or might use in my stories and that I'm have been made aware that some folks might not be familiar with and have difficulty understanding. Plus there are some words and information that I've added purely for interest value. +If you find you have trouble understanding something in one of my tales, you could well find the answer here. If you don't, please feel free to drop me a line and I will try to explain it to you, then I can add it to this list. +However, I must point out there are many variations in the use and meaning of the words in different parts of the UK. I'll ask my fellow countrymen to help me here, if they spot any, what they consider inconsistencies in the list; please let me know what the word commonly means where you live and then I can add that to the list. +To make life easy, please mark all emails on this subject ""Do What?"" Colloquial words in the UK, can take on different meanings depending on the context, your location and/or whose company they are used in. I've already mentioned about different meanings in different parts of the UK. Please don't blame me if you use the wrong word in the wrong way or part of the country and find yourself in a compromising situation. +As an example, I'll take the word ""Prat"" or ""Pratt"". (Both spellings are in common use.) +""Prat"" is a word you wouldn't normally use when the vicar comes to tea. But it can be used in mixed company where it should normally be taken to mean ""A foolish person"". +However when used amongst the boys, maybe in anger down at the pub or in the workplace, it can also mean the backside or buttocks. +To try to explain further, if a friend does something silly or stupid, you can call him a Prat - often phrased ""You silly Prat!"" (Preferably with a smile on your face). You are in effect calling him a fool, and he'll generally laugh with you. +However if you call somebody a Prat in an argument or because you don't like them. Then you are, in effect, calling them an arsehole. Any resultant punch- up is your own responsibility, not mine! +A word about rhyming slang. This is attributed to having been created by Cockney's in East London. But the same idea can often be found in use all over the country. +In Cockney rhyming slang, usually only the one part _(normally the first, but not always)_ of the rhyme is used. This is a useful way to tell whether someone is ""putting it on"", and it is not his/her usual form of speech. i.e. if someone was referring to a new suit they might say ""How'd you like the whistle?"" They should definitely not say, ""Do you like my new Whistle and Flute? +I have included some of the rhyming slang that some members of my family - who were not Cockneys by the way - used in their normal speech whilst I was growing up. Most of these will, on occasions, still be heard and understood in nearly all of Southeast England. I'm not too sure about the rest of the UK; but to my knowledge, I have normally been understood. +Just a little note about grammar! I often get comments on some of the grammar in my tales of woe. Well, I'll just say that normally my stories are told in the first person and I try to write as people think and talk. In your thoughts and when you speak, you don't think and talk in proper grammatical English. Well, I don't and I'm afraid I've never come across anyone who actually does. I'm not trying to write bloody English textbooks here! +And one further point. English English and American English are not spelt the same. Actually if it comes down to brass tacks we use a slightly different alphabet. We have Z pronounced zed, whereas over the pond, I'm pretty sure they have a Z pronounced zee! It might not sound like much but it does make a difference. +There are quite a few, sometimes subtle and sometimes not so subtle differences between British and American spelling that show-up with regularity. Especially for me, because both of the editors who have kindly accepted the unenviable task of reading through my stories to try to make some sense of them, come from the other side of the pond. Actually I think they are both closet masochists, but don't let on that I told you. +English dictionaries differentiate between colloquial English, slang and coarse slang. Quite a lot of what can be found bellow can be considered as belonging to the later definition. +DC The Wanderer +Abbreviations - Police officer ranks. PC - Police Constable, DC - Detective Constable, DS - Detective Sergeant, DI - Detective Inspector, DCI - Detective Chief Inspector. There are more but you get the general idea. Also in the past, I think that many of them could be prefixed by a ""W"", to denote a female police officer, political correctness and women's lib have made the distinction obsolete. + **A lady of the night --** A Prostitute **A Monkey --** £500 **A Pony --** £25 **A runner --** (he did a runner) -- Run away from a situation or responsibilities. **A4 --** Standard European paper size as used in most offices. **AC/DC --** Bisexual. **Across the pond --** the other side of the Atlantic **Affray --** A breach of the peace by fighting or rioting in public. Catchall offence, can be used by the British police to arrest anybody whose actions could be construed to instil fear in the general public. **Antipodes --** Australia and New Zealand **Any Bottle --** Any good **Artic (articulated lorry) --** A lorry consisting of two or more sections connected by a flexible joint. (In North America a semi-trailer). **Are you still with us? --** Are you understanding what (1) we are saying? (2) is going on. **At her majesty's pleasure --** In prison **Ay-Up --** Used when attracting someone's attention. **Back door** (on the road) -- Someone travelling behind you, that you are reporting road conditions to or the presence of the police approaching from the rear. Usually by CB radio. **Ball and chain --** The wife **Bedlam --** A scene of uproar and confusion; a madhouse; an asylum. (From the Victorian mental ""Hospital of St Mary of Bethlehem"" in Lambeth London. Now the Imperial War Museum.) [Out of interest my family routes are in Lambeth] **Boat race (The Boat Race) --** Traditional yearly race between Oxford and Cambridge university rowing eight's held over a course on the river Thames in London. Considered to be the toughest race of its kind. **Before you can say Jack Robinson. --** Something happening extremely quickly **Between you, me and the gatepost. --** Keep this to yourself. **Blimey --** Expressing surprise or alarm. **Blew-out --** Something that was planned and then cancelled **Bloomin --** I haven't got the foggiest idea, I can never recall anyone ever using the word, except characters pretending to be English in the movies. I can only assume they thought it up to replace the blasphemies in common use. **Boffin --** scientist or technician, originally a person engaged in scientific (esp. military) research. Now is commonly understood to mane any scientist or technician **Bollocks --** Testicles, also a term of frustration or insult. Hey, just heard that Wilma Flintstone used the word in one of the Flintstones cartoons, apparently there was a little bit of strife over it. **Bonnet** (in reference to automobiles) -- Engine cover (in North America, the hood) **Bottle/d out --** Chicken/ed out. **Boot** (in reference to automobiles) -- luggage compartment (in North America, the trunk) **Bottoms up! --** Cheers **Brass tacks --** actual details; real business (get down to brass tacks). **Brief (1) (My Brief) --** Solicitor or barrister representing the person talking. Attorney or lawyer in U.S. **Brief (2) --** Legal document allowing the holder to undertake his profession i.e. a truck or bus drivers licence. **Bristols** (Bristol City's) -- Breasts; tits (rhyming slang) **Bristol fashion --** All ship shape and Bristol fashion is/was a nautical term meaning ""All ready to put to sea"". Nowadays it is taken to mean everything is prepared and ready, as it should be. **BT --** British Telecom the main landline telephone service supplier in the UK. Well they supply and maintain the exchanges lines etc. **Bullshit --** I believe what you just said is untrue. (You know, what politicians talk.) **Bullshitter --** Someone who talks bullshit (tells lies) to make themselves appear what they are not. (Bloody hell politicians again!) **Bungalow --** Single storeyed (note spelling) house **Chinese box** (in reference to automobiles, trucks etc.) -- Awkward or unusual gearbox gate. (Layout of gears on selector.) **Clean ticket/brief/licence --** Driver licence without any penalty points. See points. **Cobblers --** nonsense. Don't talk cobblers. **Cockney --** A native of East London, born within sound of Bow Bells. It can be considered an extreme insult to call other Londoners Cockneys, both to them and to true Cockneys. If you don't know a person's origin, don't use the name. **Colonial cousin --** In theory any person who is a citizen of one of GB's current or former colonies. In practice, it mostly appears to be reserved to refer to citizens of the USA. Canadians for example are often referred to as Colonial Brothers/Sisters. Or (but less common) our brothers and sisters from across the pond. **Cor --** Expressing surprise, excitement, etc. (useable in polite company) **Cor Blimey --** Expressing surprise, excitement, etc. (useable in a little less polite company) **Could I have that in writing? --** Someone has made a compliment or said something flattering about the speaker. **Daisy's (Daisy roots) --** Boots (rhyming slang) **Didicoi --** A gypsy or itinerant tinker. **Derv --** Diesel fuel (from Diesel Engine Road Vehicle) **Ding-dong --** 1\. An intense argument or fight. 2. A riotous party. **Dodgy --** Illegal, awkward, unreliable, tricky. **Doolally --** Loose one's cool, get excited or angry very vocally **Do what? --** I don't understand what (1) you are talking about (2) you want me to do. **Don't get out of your pram --** Don't lose your temper or get annoyed **Drekly --** Cornish word, derived from directly with the meaning of immediately. But tempered by the laid-back attitude of the Cornish people. When someone says they will do something Drekly, it will be done with their sense of urgency, not yours! **Duff --** worthless, counterfeit, useless, broken. **Duffed-up --** Beaten-up. **Duffer --** an inefficient, useless, or stupid person. Quite often an old person, ""old duffer"". A bit like me really! **Eff / Effing --** A slightly less offensive replacement for Fuck and Fucking. **Emmett --** Non-local person, (West Country) normally applies to holidaymakers. **Falling down water --** Alcoholic drink, normally beer, ale or lager **Fanny --** Generally the buttocks. Caution: in many parts of the UK, it's used to refer to the female genitalia. **Feel one's ears burning. --** Believe someone is talking about you behind your back. **Flat --** A set of rooms, usually on one floor, used as a residence. **For all I know. --** I have no knowledge on the subject. This statement is normally followed by an unlikely explanation of what has just happened. **For what its worth. --** The speaker is not sure whether their opinion is important to you, but they are going to give it to you anyway. **Frog --** French person **Front --** Impudence; insolently disrespectful; impertinent. He/she's got some front! **Front door** (on the road) -- Someone travelling ahead of you reporting back to you on road conditions etc. or the presence of the police. Usually by CB radio. **Fuddy-duddy --** old-fashioned or quaintly fussy person. **Fuzz** the police or can refer to the hair around the genitals. Hence the expression ""grabbed by the fuzz can mean being arrested, Or something much more painful **Get back into your pram --** You've lost your temper. Get your emotions under control. **Get cracking! --** Move quickly **Git --** A silly or contemptible person. **Gift of the gab --** the facility of speaking eloquently or profusely. Normally someone with the gift of the gab will talk you out of your money, or almost any woman into bed. **Glove box** (in reference to automobiles) -- Locker built into a cars dashboard usually with a cover flap on it. **Go faster stripes --** The assortment of bolt on goodies that are fitted to standard production cars to make them look like they are something they aren't, like rally or up-rated cars. See Poser. **Go juice --** Petrol or diesel fuel **Go on, I'll buy it! --** I don't know the answer - I might believe what you are telling me. **Goolies --** The testicles **Goose --** Grope, poke or pinch someone's bottom. Normally unwelcome. **Governor (Guv or Guv-na) --** The Licensee of a Public House or Bar. In work, the boss **Grog --** Alcoholic spirit watered down. Originally the rum ration that was issued to the Royal Navy seamen. **Guinea --** Sum of money equal to 21 old British shillings (now £1.05) was often used in auctions and by the legal profession. Yes, it was a con to make the headline price look less, 20gns = £21. **Gulper --** Gulp of a RN sailors rum ration given to another sailor in return for a favour. **Hard-shoulder** (on the road) -- carriageway along side a motorway for use in emergency's only. **HMG --** Her Majesty's Government **Head case --** see Nutter **Heath Robinson --** Absurdly ingenious and impracticable in design or construction. That quite often, but not always, works! **Hello, hello, hello! --** An expression supposedly used by English policemen. That 'sort' disappeared donkeys' years ago. **Here we go again. --** A repeat of a usually unpleasant experience is about to start. **Hoi polloi --** in use ""the hoi polloi"" (note, no caps) 1. the masses; the common people. 2. the majority. **Hood** (in reference to automobiles) -- Folding canvas roof on a convertible or sports car. **Hooray Henry --** (note, capital letters are used) a rich ineffectual young man, esp. one who is fashionable, extroverted, and conventional. Although it's handy if you went to the right public school, and mummy or daddy has a few bob in the bank (its not actually necessary for them to pay their bills), or at least one of them has some spurious claim to a title of some kind. The most important prerequisites to becoming a Hooray Henry appear to be. A. speaking with a plum in your mouth (or at least trying too). B. Looking down on anyone who actually does a job of work with there hands for a living. C. And - most importantly - ensuring that everyone in whatever establishment you are in at the time, knows that they/he have arrived. The normally method of achieving this is by speaking - not shouting - as loudly as humanly possible. **How come…? --** Why was that? **Hump (1) --** Have sexual intercourse with. **Hump (2) --** A fit of depression or vexation. The 'h' is often dropped in pronunciation i.e. ""He's got the ump!"" **I didn't get/come off the boat yesterday! --** You're not fooling me, I'm not that dumb. **I wasn't born yesterday. --** That's bullshit, don't take me for a fool! **I've got a bone to pick with you! --** There's something I'm not happy about, and I believe you are responsible. **Jack Robinson --** Before you can say ""Jack Robinson"" is a way of expressing immediacy; something will be done straight away. There is one suggested origin involving the habit of an eccentric gentleman who was renowned for his constant change of mind. He often abandoned a social call and you had to be quick to catch Jack Robinson. This is the origin given in 1811. (ref: http://www.phrases.org.uk). **Jam Sandwich --** Police car. Derives from police cars had an orange stripe around them; English police cars tend to have yellow and blue reflective panels nowadays. **JCB --** A type of mechanical excavator with a shovel at the front and a digging arm at the rear. Named after J. C. Bamford, the original makers. Although made by other manufacturers as well, JCB appears to have become the generic name. **Jungle juice --** Alcoholic beverage, normally a spirit or cocktail **Karzi --** Lavatory, if being specific, the pan. **Keep schtum --** Keep your mouth shut and tell no one **Keep your shirt on! --** Don't lose your temper or get annoyed **Keep your hair on! --** Don't lose your temper or get annoyed **Kosher --** Legal. Everything is as it should be. **kibosh (also kybosh) --** ""put the kibosh on"" put an end to; finally dispose of. (also can mean ""nonsense"", but I've never come across it being used that way). **Knackered --** Sometimes pronounced ""k-nackered"", extremely tired after working hard or a strenuous physical workout. ""He's knackered himself."" **Knackers --** The testicles. **Knickers --** Ladies panties. **Lady Muck --** Woman with delusions of grandeur. **Laid-back --** Relaxed, unbothered, easygoing. **Lash-up --** A makeshift or improvised structure or arrangement. **Lay/laid --** Have/had sexual intercourse. **Left hooker** (in reference to automobiles) -- Left hand drive vehicle. **Leg it --** Run for it **Leg-less --** inebriated, pissed as a newt. **Let the cat out of the bag. --** Divulge a secret **Like Fuck --** I'm not going to accept that. **Lively --** Run for it **Loo --** Toilet **Look lively --** Be alert and/or move quickly **Look Sharp! --** Be alert and/or move quickly **Lord Muck --** Man with delusions of grandeur **Make it snappy! --** Hurry up **Make yourself scarce --** Vacate the immediate area as soon and as quickly as possible **Maisonette --** A part of a house, block of flats, etc., forming separate living accommodations, usually having a separate entrance accessible from outside the building on ground level. If they have a communal entrance they are usually (but not always) termed as flats. **Moniker --** Name **MT --** empty. Normally written on the outside of closed containers. **Mum's the word! --** This is a secrete tell no one **My better half. --** My spouse **Nature calls. --** I need to go to the lavatory. **Navvy --** A labourer employed in building or excavating roads, canals, etc. Generally Irish nowadays, and it is/was often used as a generic term for Irish building workers who were famed for getting the job done. **Nice one --** (or more often **""Nice one Son!""** ) a congratulation for a job well done. Comes from a football supporter's chant. + **Nick --** The act of stealing something. **Nick (2) --** The act of arrest by a police officer. **Nick (3) --** Refers to the condition of something i.e. in good nick. **Nick (4) --** Police station or prison **Nick (5)** Australian slang -- Move quickly or furtively **Nitty-gritty --** The realities or practical details of a matter. **Not Kosher --** Illegal or something isn't as it should be **Nutcase --** A crazy or foolish person. Could be considered dangerous. **Nutter --** A crazy person. Generally considered dangerous. **Old Duffer --** Old man. **On a loosing wicket. --** In an augment that can't be won. A no-win situation. **On the game** (She's on the game!) -- A female working as a prostitute **On top of the world --** Extremely happy and feeling good **Over the pond --** The other side of the Atlantic ocean (Northern Hemisphere) **Pax --** A call for a truce. **Pax (2) --** Short hand used in the travel industry to describe a number of people on a tour, aircraft etc. i.e. 40 Pax or sometimes written Pax 40 = means there are forty people in the group. **Palaver --** a prolonged or tiresome affair or business **Pear Shaped --** Something has not gone as planned, normally disastrously wrong. **Piece on the side --** Mistress or second girlfriend. **Pie-eyed --** inebriated **Pigs might fly. --** What has just been said is untrue or is highly unlikely to be true. **Pissed as a newt --** inebriated, Leg-less **Play the game --** Act in a fair manner and/or play within the rules of the game. **Pocket** (in reference to automobiles) -- Compartment built into a car's door for the purpose of storing junk. Normally the wrong shape or size to fit anything of use into. But the reviewers in car magazines will go into raptures over them. **Points** (in reference to automobiles and driving) -- Points are collected on driving licences for driving violations. Once you collect too many you are suspended from driving. **Poseur or Poser --** Person who has an inflated opinion of himself and/or his looks and thinks that everybody is admiring him (when actually they are usually laughing at him). Normally he drives a flash car and seems to think that the size of his penis is somehow related to the noise the cars exhaust makes. Girls who date posers have a very disappointing sex life. **Prat --** A foolish person or buttocks / arse. When used to describe someone not liked, he's being called an arsehole. **Prang --** Accident. Originally a RAF term for damaging or crashing an aircraft. Now sometimes used to refer to minor road traffic accidents **Puts out (She puts out) --** She will have sexual intercourse. **Putting it on --** Pretending to be something you are not. **Quicker than greased lightning --** something happening extremely quickly **Rag --** Normally ""Rag Week"", excuse for college and university students to get up to all kinds of nefarious mischief, under the guise of collecting for charity. Not quite as high profile as they used to be in my day. **Right hooker** (in reference to automobiles) -- Right hand drive vehicle. **Rise and shine! --** Get out of bed quickly and look fresh! **Rocking Horse Shit --** An extremely rare commodity. Difficult, if not impossible to obtain! **Roger or rogering --** Have/having sexual intercourse with. **Rozer --** Police officer **Run for it! --** Vacate the immediate area as soon and as quickly as possible **Sally Ann --** Salvation Army **SAS --** UK armed forces, Special Air Service. **SBS --** UK armed forces, Special Boat Squadron, marine equivalent of the Special Air Service. **Scarper --** Run away as quickly as you can. **Scarpered --** Has run away or escaped **Scrubber --** A sexually promiscuous woman. **Sectioned --** Cause a person to be compulsorily committed to a psychiatric hospital in accordance with a section of the mental health act. **Shag / Shagged --** sexual intercourse, had sexual intercourse. **Shagged out --** Extremely tired, after working hard or a strenuous physical workout. Alright yes, see the entry above as well! **She who must be obeyed --** The wife **Shift your arse --** Get a move on or move to a different seat. **Silly cow --** stupid woman. Insult that can sometimes be used in jest. **Sippers --** Sip of a RN sailors Rum ration given to another sailor in return for a favour. **Slapper --** Woman of loose morals **Smeg / Smegging --** I believe a word invented by the writers of the TV series Red Dwarf. Intended - I believe - to replace the words fuck and fucking (or any similar blasphemies) that the character would most likely have used in real life. They now appear to have entered the popular vernacular. Any Scouser's who know different, I'd be glad to here from you? **Snog / Snogging --** kiss / kissing. Long unbroken kiss. **Spiv --** A man often characterised by flashy dress, who makes a living by illicit or unscrupulous dealings. Rarely used nowadays **Sprog --** a child; a baby **Squire --** For addressing another man. Shows respect but not subservience. Most often used by Taxi Cab and commercial vehicle drivers **Strides --** Trousers **Strife --** Trouble of any kind **Stroppy --** bad-tempered; awkward to deal with. **Suspension --** Woman's large breasts, as in ""Look at the suspension on that!"" **Sweeper --** Someone who has the job of following behind a group to make sure no one gets lost and/or that no evidence of the groups passing is noticeable. (From sweeping up.) **Tacho (tachograph) --** Device fitted to all heavy goods vehicles and coaches, that records time it is in motion and its speed. To prevent the driver from exceeding his statutory permitted driving hours or the speed limit. **Taking the Mickey --** Making fun of someone **Tail end Charley --** Someone at the rear of the group of people or a convoy of vehicles. **Tail gate/ing --** Driving too close to the vehicle in front. **Terraced house --** any one of a row of houses joined by party walls. **That's a turn-up for the book! --** An unexpected occurrence. Something so rare a note should be made of it. **That's rich! --** That's ridiculous! **The Bill --** The Police **The Job --** The name police officers use to refer to their profession. **The Nick --** A police station, a prison, **The penny dropped --** The meaning of what is being said or is happening has finally been understood **The salt of the earth. --** An expression used to describe people who are reliable, but who don't necessarily appear to be. **The Scrubs --** Wormwood Scrubs Prison in West London. **The Smoke --** Refers to a large urban conurbation. Commonly Birmingham, London or Manchester by people in the surrounding areas. But I believe it is also used to refer to other large towns or cities. **The world and his wife. --** Anybody and everybody. **The Zoo --** (to a Londoner) the Zoological Gardens in Regents Park London, which claims to be the first true zoo in the world. However the sign outside says London Zoo nowadays. **Throw a Wobbly --** Have a fit of nerves or temper. **Titfer (tit for tat) --** Hat (rhyming slang) **Tits up --** A plan has gone wrong. I believe its origin come from sheep who die when they get stuck on their back when they are trying to roll. **Ton --** A ton; the ton. 100 miles per hour. **Tosspot --** Insult - Generally used to describe an incompetent idiot. **Tosser --** See tosspot **Totter --** someone collects sells usable items from refuse and around the streets as an occupation. **Totty --** Good looking females who could be looking for male company, (That night club was is always full of totty). It's not a normally considered a derogatory term. Just a general description. **Two a penny. --** Very cheap and common **Up for it --** prepared to try something, (anything!). **U.S. --** useless; no longer serviceable. **Village Bike --** woman or girl who ""puts out"" to anyone. **V.O.R.** (in reference to road vehicles) Vehicle Of Road, un-roadworthy. **Wag --** A person who can be humorous or likes to play practical jokes. **Wakey wakey --** Wake up and get with it. **Wanker --** Insult - Man who masturbates all the time. Generally used to describe someone who is incompetent at their job or what they are trying to do. **Were you born in a barn/field? --** You've left the door open. Close it! **What the fuck? --** Expression of surprise normally querying what is happening. **Where's it too. --** Where do/can I find it. (Cornish) **Whistle** (Whistle and flute) -- Gentleman's two or three piece Suit (Rhyming Slang) **Wide-boy** \-- originally a man skilled in dishonest practices or a spiv. But nowadays often refers to anyone who's got ""the gift of the gab"" and really can't (or shouldn't) be trusted. Most car salesmen and company wolves included. **Wobbly --** Illegal; unreliable. **Wonders will never cease! --** (1) Something has happened that you never thought would. (2) Someone has done something that you never expected him or her to do. **Words fail me --** You stupid idiot, I just don't know how to describe my feelings about what you have done **Working Girl --** A prostitute **Yonks --** a long time (haven't seen them for yonks). **Zonked out --** see Knackered +If it ain't listed, drop me a line and I'll try to add it. +Further notes: +Another point that can confuse some folks is how we English number the floors in buildings. Which some folk have found little difficult to understand at first sight or if you haven't visited the country (or some other country where the same system is used). Its getting confusing for us as well now, because there seems to have been a change in the way things are done in the last twenty years or so. But to specify the difference, the floors are often called ""levels"" in these newer buildings. +Right back to the old way of doing things. The floor at ground level has by tradition been called the ground floor. The next floor up is called the first floor and so on. Consequently a first floor flat or office is to be found on the second storey of the building. Lift (elevator) panels are often numbered G, 1, 2 etc. (Although if they are labelled L1, L2, L3 etc. Level 1 is the ground or street level floor, if you're lucky). +\-------------------------- +I noted the other day that someone didn't understand one of the common acronyms that are in use in the UK. I'm working on adding some of those to this list the future. There are many that I've heard over the years but can't bring them to mind at the present time, I'd be please if the readers can send any they know of to me. +\-------------------------- +I've also came across a free site that some folks might prove helpful, http://www.phrases.org.uk + This document is under permanent revision. +The Wanderer" +871,Understanding Your Man,zeke81,How To,2009-04-26,2009-04-26,2022-01-04 08:41:14,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-your-man-1,An instructional guide for women to better understand men.,['Gender Roles'],3.75,"Ladies, I'm going to let you into the male world so that you can understand your man and why he seems like such an insensitive prick most of the time. +To start off in your understanding of men you need to realize and accept that men and women evolved differently. While women were evolving as gatherers and child rearers men evolved as hunters and physical creatures. +Please don't take that as a sexist statement ladies. Most of you are already aware of that and if you look at the fossil record and history that's how the two genders evolved. +The two primary natural roles for the two genders are still present today. +Women still have the urge to gather (shopping) and nurture (kids, idiot husbands, sad or lonely friends, etc) +Men still have the urge to hunt and be physical (hunting, fighting, war, sports, etc) +That's just the way it is. Thousands upon thousands of years of these primal instincts don't just disappear overnight. +When it comes to interactions between men and women there is something that women need to understand. +Men are insensitive. Yes I said it. We are insensitive emotionally because for thousands of years it would have been viewed as a sign of weakness by the more dominant males and it would lead to the sensitive males being killed or driven out of the early tribes where humans started living together. That still exists today. It doesn't necessarily mean death today, but it can still lead other men to excluding sensitive men from certain activities. It is a survival technique. Men are much more sensitive than they were thousands of years ago so just be happy that we're as sensitive as we are and take solace in knowing that your great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great granddaughters have an outside chance of having men that are sensitive and on the same emotional level that they are. +I'd now like to address some areas that will probably upset some of you. +It is very important for women to look good and smell good for their man or to a man that they are interested in. +Now a lot of women are probably yelling ""bullshit"" or ""that's not fair"" or something like that, but you need to listen and understand. There is a reason for it ladies...trust me. +Men are hunters. For thousands of years men had to stalk and kill their prey. To that end men developed as very visual and scent sensitive creatures. We had the eyes of an eagle and the nose of a bloodhound. Those traits are still present today even though the need to stalk and kill prey has passed. +Men have been bred for thousands of years to notice things visually and to notice scents. If the hunter isn't drawn to his prey visually or by smell he won't pursue it and he'll go hunting for something else. +Do you understand now why it is important to look and smell good for your man? +If you look appealing the hunter will take notice. If you smell good the hunter will take notice. +I'm not saying that you have to dress in super sexy clothes all the time or that you have to wear gallons and gallons of perfume all the time, but a certain level isn't too much to ask is it? After all your hunter chose you over all others...but the hunter is naturally nomadic...he has to be given a reason to stay and prey that is constantly attracting him visually and through scent will keep him in one place. +Many women HATE wearing lingerie, but you need to understand that you aren't wearing it for yourself. You're wearing it to catch the attention of your hunter. You're wearing it to stand out from the pack so that the hunter will pursue you above any other. The colors and the different textures of lingerie get the hunter's blood boiling and get him ready to go in for the kill...or in most cases with women...go in for some carnal pleasures. +When it comes to normal clothes I understand that comfort is an issue for everyone, but from time to time throw on the short low cut dress or the short shorts and the tight top. Catching the hunter's attention is very simple and the hunter does notice when his prey looks good. +Another topic to consider when discussing your appearance ladies is makeup. You don't have to wear it all the time, but putting some on when the hunter doesn't expect it doesn't go unnoticed. We've been bred for thousands of years to see red as a sign of health and fertility. So red lipstick, red nail polish, a red tint to some blush and you will look healthy and appealing to the hunter. +Now let's talk about scent. Everything comes scented these days. Shampoo, conditioner, lotion, deodorant, perfume...EVERYTHING. Most of you probably know this, but it is important to coordinate the scent that you have. If you have lavender body lotion don't use vanilla shampoo or whatever. Find your products in the same scent so that you put off one uniform scent instead of several blended scents. Blending scents cancels them out and the hunter loses interest. You might not think that your deodorant has a strong enough smell to be noticed through the smell of your shampoo, but we are hunters...we can detect tiny variations in scent. Ladies if you wear perfume make sure that it compliments the other scented products that you're using. Additionally...gauge the reaction of the hunter to your perfume. If he says he likes it keep wearing it. If you see any sign that he doesn't like it try to find one that he does. Even if everyone else hates it the important thing is that YOUR HUNTER likes it. +If the hunter has good looking good smelling prey he will stick around...he might even show you more often that he appreciates you. +Men are simple creatures ladies. You evolved to gather, nurture, and want emotional closeness. Men were evolved to use the senses of sight and smell to track down what they want. +If you look good and smell good your hunter will find you desirable. If you ever feel that your hunter's eyes are wandering throw on something sexy, slap on some red lipstick, make yourself smell great...and see what happens. If you do it right your hunter will club you over the head and drag you back to his cave...or maybe he'll drag you to your bedroom and ravage you the way that only your hunter can. +I hope this has helped you ladies to better understand your hunter. +Basically...we're stupid...treat us like we're stupid by attracting us with pretty colors and things that smell good. +Oh...I understand that this comes off as a little one sided ladies. +No I don't think there should be a double standard where women should look good and smell good for their man when the man can look bad and smell bad. Keeping your appearance and scent in a state that's desirable to your mate should be the goal for all people. +The truth is though ladies that when it comes to what women want we have very little understanding. We operate on a much simpler level than you do. +If men were a legal document they would have the subject headings and then one sentence that sums up the point of that subject. Women on the other hand would have the subject heading and then detailed descriptions of what the subject heading pertains to and all of the little nuances and special cases that pertain to the subject heading. +We have the basics...you have the details. +On behalf of all men I'm asking that you dumb things down for us ladies. +Instead of taking 45 minutes giving us every little detail about how you want us to dress just smack us in the back of the head to get our attention and say ""you need to start wearing nicer clothes"". That kind of thing might not work with other women, it may take the 45 minutes with them, but 6 short simple words are all that it takes with a man. We might not do anything about it, but at least we'll understand what you want. +Every man in a relationship with a woman has gone to his friends and something like ""We...or should I say SHE talked for an hour and a half yesterday and I have no idea what the hell we were talking about."" +Simple inputs ladies...that's all we ask. +I welcome a female response to this. +Just remember...I'm a simple minded hunter...so use simple direct language or I'll have no idea what the hell you're saying." +872,Understanding Your Man,ChaseQ,How To,2006-12-11,2006-12-11,2022-01-04 08:41:13,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/understanding-your-man,You don't have to look like a super model.,['Beautiful'],3.88,"The prevailing sentiment among women in today's world seems to be that men are clods only interested in where they are going to get their next piece of ass, their next beer or the next 'mommy' to clean up after them. +For the woman who truly wants to understand the man in their life or possibly for the female writer who would like to get out the stereotype writing of male characters and write on common male characteristics, here you go. +The first thing that comes to mind is that women think men are shallow. I am talking about appearance here. What woman hates to see the stick figured models on television or in store window posters as you walk through the mall simply because you know that your man will probably take notice? He's looking at that poster and not at you and it makes you angry and even hurts. +To begin with, your man is not trying to hurt you. Men like beautiful things, it's the way they're wired and that cannot be changed any more than a woman's natural tendancy to notice it. Women can berate and belittle their man for looking but all you will succeed at is pushing him away. +Women usually associate the don't have's to the do have's when comparing the woman their man is looking at to themselves. Thing's such as she had bigger/smaller boobs, she is thinner, her lips are fuller her hair is longer/shorter, her legs are longer/thinner, her butt is tighter, fuller, slimmer, her teeth are whiter... this list can go on because this is how women react in this situation. Ladies, take a breath. Do you want to know what the true difference is? +Put all of that other stuff out of your mind first. This is the big secret. She's fresh. She looks healthy. Before that shoot, before modeling, before walking out of her place these women took a lot of time getting ready and it shows. These women go through a cleaning ritual that shows through all of the makeup. They then apply their makeup for their look. Some heavy and trashy, some modest and elegant and so on. It's the look that works for them. +Put some time into yourself. Don't try to look like one of the many countless beauties that your man sees. Reinvent yourself. Find hair and makeup that accentuates your individual design. Buy new clothes that are appropriate for your age and the look you want. I know, it is easier said than done, but do some research, talk to the ladies at the cosmetics counter, talk to the sales people on the floor. You will be surprised how much you can learn here. +The one thing that is common to Pamela Anderson, Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Christy Brinkley, Jennifer Lopez or pornstar Sophie Sweet, they all look smooth and clean, they look healthy and guess what? Guys like to look at them. +Have you ever seen these women nude or in tight clothes? Yes! They don't have cookie cutter bodies. Jennifer Lopez has small breasts and a huge butt as well as a small nose and thin hair. Does it matter? Hell no. Sophie Sweet has a killer butt, but... her breasts are tiny...doesn't matter either. Pam has huge breasts and a plastic surgery nightmare on her face, Britney has baby fat that pudges at her lower body, Lindsay has little more than a skeleton figure and Christie Brinkley is what?...Fifty years old? +Ladies, pluck a guy off of the street and ask him...'Hey average guy would you kick any of these women out of bed?' You know the answer to that. 'Hell Nooooo!' Fact is ladies, you are no different than these women are. We all have 'flaws'. It's all in the presentation and your guy can be as attracted to you as him and other guys are to these women. +Spend some time on yourself ladies. You don't have to be rich to do it. I guarantee you that your guy will be more than happy to have you spending money on yourself. Get a facial (full cleaning and makeup), get a massage and aroma therapy, get your hair done by a stylist and get yourself some new clothes. Not something J Lo is trying to sell you. Something that works for you. Look for pictures of women that have a similar build and shape that you like and use it. +It sounds stupid but when you do all of this, have one goal in mind...To feel as clean and fresh as that model or actress looks. +Your guy will be looking at you with new eyes, no matter what you think you look like. No one has anything on you. You've got to remember that not every guy wants or desires the aforementioned women. The media just tells you so because they want your money. You look the way you're supposed to look and that's perfection. +If you know that you would look great thin and fit then start by correcting the quick things like the way you present what you have now... and then hit the gym. If you truly want it you'll find a way to do it. Whatever path you take to get the look you want, your guy is going to be looking at these women and thinking 'She ain't got nothing mine doesn't have.' ... and you'll know it. +You'll be one of the women the guys at the mall are checking out... and your guy will notice that. +:)" +873,US English,lindiana,How To,2005-08-24,2005-12-25,2022-01-04 08:41:16,2,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/us-english-101-parts-of-a-sentence,1. Grammar made simple. 2. Grammar made simple: the third lesson.,"['Grammar', 'Writing']",3.81,"English 101 is brought to you by Lindiana, who holds her Bachelor of Science Degree in Secondary Education/English. +* +You can use two terms, _subject_ and _predicate_ , to describe most sentences. However, there are other names and functions of important sentence elements at your disposal. We will review those elements. +Subject and Predicate +A sentence consists of two basic parts: the _subject_ and the _predicate_. The subject of the sentence is that part of the sentence about which something is being said. The predicate of the sentence is that part of the sentence that says something about the subject. +These two parts of the sentence may consist of a single word or multiple words. The whole subject is then referred to as the _complete subject_ ; the whole predicate, the _complete predicate_. +The _simple subject_ of a sentence is the principal word or group of words in the subject. An example: A large body of students (the subject here is _a large body of students_ ; the simple subject; _students_ ) +The principal word or group of words in the predicate is called the _simple predicate_ , or the _verb_. An example: the writers planned a seminar (the predicate is _planned a seminar_ ; simple predicate, or verb: _planned_ ) +A _compound subject_ consists of two or more subjects that are joined by a conjunction and have the same verb. The usual connecting words are _and_ and _or_. +An example: The novelists and poets gathered in the conference room. (the compound subject: _the novelists and poets_ ) +A _compound verb_ consists of two or more verbs that are joined by a conjunction and have the same subject: An example: Annabelle picked up her books and left for school. ( _compound verb_ : _picked up...left_ ) +To find the subject of a sentence, first find the verb (simple predicate) or as we sometimes call it the action word. Then ask yourself the question ""Who or what?"" An example: The bell rang loudly through the school. First find the action... _rang_. Then ask yourself who or what rang. The answer is the _bell_. In addition to this simple formula for finding the subject, please keep in mind the following facts: +1.) In sentences expressing a command or request, the subject is always _you_ , even though the word _you_ may not appear. +2.) The subject of a sentence is never in a prepositional phrase. +(example: Neither of the children rode their bikes. The verb is _rode_. Who rode? _Neither_. Children is not the subject, it is part of the phrase _of the children_.) +3.) To find the subject in a question, turn the question into a statement form. +4.) _There_ and _here_ are not usually the subjects of a verb. +Complements +Some sentences express a complete thought by means of a subject and verb only. Most sentences, however, have in the predicate one or more words that complete the meaning of the subject and verb. These completing words are called complements. +Complements that receive or are affected by the action of the verb are called _objects._ There are two kinds of objects: the _direct object_ and the _indirect object_. The _direct object_ of the verb receives the action of the verb and shows the result of the action. It answers the question ""What?"" or ""Whom"" after an action verb. Except when it ends in _–self_ , the object of a verb never refers to the same person or thing as the subject. The _indirect object_ of the verb precedes the direct object and usually tells to whom or for whom the action of the verb is done. If the word _to_ or _for_ is used, the noun or pronoun following it is part of a prepositional phrase; it is not an indirect object. Like subjects, objects of verbs are never part of a prepositional phrase. +To complete their meaning, some action verbs require an additional complement following their objects. This additional complement is called an _objective complement_ because it refers to the object; it may be a noun or an adjective. +Complements that refer to or describe the subject are called _subject complements_. There are two kinds of _subject complements:_ the _predicate nominative_ and the _predicate adjective._ Subject complements follow linking verbs only. +The common linking verbs are all forms of the verb _be_ as well as the following: _become, seem, grow, appear, look, feel, smell, taste, remain, sound, stay._ +A _predicate nominative_ is a noun or pronoun complement that refers back to the same person or thing that is being referred to in the subject of the verb. It follows a linking verb. (Example: Washington DC is our capitol. Capitol refers to the subject Washington DC). +A _predicate adjective_ is an adjective complement that modifies or changes the subject of the verb. It also follows a linking verb. (Example: This article is dull. The predicate adjective _dull_ modifies the subject _article_.) In the normal order of an English sentence, complements follow the verb but there are always exceptions. +Summary +1.) Every sentence has two basic parts: the _subject_ and the _predicate._ +2.) Within the subject there is a _simple subject,_ commonly called the _subject_. +Within the predicate there is a _simple predicate_ , commonly called the _verb._ +3.) The pattern of some sentences consists of a subject and verb only. +4.) Modifiers may be added to the subject and verb without changing the basic pattern of the sentence. +5.) Certain additions to the predicate create new sentence patterns. These additions are called _complements_. +6.) _Complements_ complete the meaning begun by the subject and verb. +7.) Different kinds of _complements_ produce different sentence patterns. +8.) There are seven common sentence patterns: +a.) _subject, verb_ +(Example: Poets write.) +b.) _subject, verb, direct object_ +(Example: Poets write poems.) +c.) _subject, verb, indirect object, direct object_ +(Example: Poets write the audience poems.) +d.) _subject, verb, direct object, objective complement (adjective)_ +(Example: Poets write poems of joy.) +e.) _subject, verb, direct object, objective complement (noun)_ +(Example: They named her Mistress. +f.) _subject, verb, predicate nominative_ +(Example: She is Mistress.) +g.) _subject, verb, predicate adjective_ +(Example: She seems strict.) +* + _Reference: Warriner's English Grammar and Composition, Complete Course_ + +" +874,Use of a Grammar Checker,Timothy_Dickey,How To,2007-08-21,2007-08-21,2022-01-04 08:41:18,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/use-of-a-grammar-checker,Why a writer should consider using a grammar checker.,"['Grammar', 'Grammar Checker', 'Writing']",3.03,"**Why Every Writer Should Consider Using a Grammar Checker Before a Story Submission** +That is a question that I pondered on during the writing of my first story before this second submission. +Why should I? Do I really need it? +Other writers have friends, family, and editors to look over their manuscripts before submission. Will they need to use a Grammar Checker or not? +From reading many stories on here, it would not hurt for someone to make use of a Grammar Checker program. +A grammar program would go through and pick up the easy mistakes that a Spelling Checker missed. This type of program would make your work so much easier to read. +If you ask why I am bringing up this subject, the point is that not every Grammar Checker is the same. A Grammar Checker is a whole different animal than a Spell Checker. +When I suggest to other authors to think about using one who might be reading this document, does it mean their writing is bad? +No, a Grammar Checker will just make a writer's work easier and their stories stronger in style. +Does a Grammar Checker replace someone's Editor for proof reading your submissions before publishing? +No, a Grammar Checker helps your Editor find the big mistakes that a person might miss. A program like this will weed through all the common minor mistakes that Authors should have already caught from a proof read. A Grammar Checker also helps your Editor save time in getting back the manuscript to the Author for re-writing by finding what remains. You still have to proof read your work for your satisfaction. +What is the difference between a Spell Checker and a Grammar Checker? +A Spell Checker looks at the spelling of a word by comparing it to words found in a stored file on your computer. If the program cannot find the word in the file, the program list the closest words to it. The program then ask the author to select from the following word choices. The word might still be correct, but not listed as correct in the program file. There might be a file called a User Dictionary File that allows for the addition of new words by the user for future use. That is why a Dictionary is still handy to have for questionable words and later added to the computer spell Checker if possible. +A Grammar Checker reviews the structure of each sentence overall. The program looks at all parts of speech. The program tries to find if the sentence structures found are in a correct sentence location. +If a Grammar Checker is excellent, it looks at each sentence to figure out if a word is in proper used. +The following words listed are an example. +Hole, Whole. Right, Write. It's, Its. To, Too, Two. +Each of these words sound the same but defined and used differently. There are many more words found that are like this. Each of the words listed is a small selection to get the point across to you the reader. +This is a short example of what a good Grammar Checker would look for while looking over sentence structure and usage. +Are all Grammar Checkers the same? +No, all Grammar Checkers are different! I need to say why and to use my first story as an example of what a good Grammar Checker can do. +I found an Editor, who is also an author on here, and sent my editor a first draft copy. The editor sent it back telling me that it was not in the best condition for publishing. My Editor wanted a complete re-work of the story. The information sent was not enough to start and to solve all the problems in the story. I sent it back a month later by internet e-mail after using Microsoft Word Grammar Checker. This program did not find a mistake in my story from all my later corrections. I would later that day send it off by e-mail to my Editor. The Editor again said there were too many mistakes found to finish reading when sending it back. The Editor also mentioned that I needed to find another person to finish editing future submissions of my first story. The Editor had time constraints in buying a new house, moving and work. My Editor replied with an e-mail suggesting that I use a different Grammar Checker. This was after I wrote of what I had used before in my work. The Editor mentioned that Microsoft's Word was not the best used in finding common sentence mistakes. +I reloaded my story from the second submission into a Grammar program on my computer from 1990 called, ""Key -Grammar Checker."" I also borrowed another program to load up for use from a good friend. This other program was from 1992 and named, ""Right Writer - Version 5.0."" I wanted to find out if the number of errors found would be different in the two programs so a comparison could occur by me. I wanted to run it through Microsoft's Grammar Checker one more time afterward. I wanted to find out if any more listed errors were new for another comparison. My program found 540 grammar mistakes and the borrowed program found 593 grammar errors. Microsoft again did not find any new grammar boners after all the corrections. +I can comprehend why an Editor might pull some hair out when working with someone green to writing. It took me three weeks of my free time so I could correct all the errors that the borrowed program had found. I then had another two friends proof-read my story for another two more weeks before final submission before publishing. +If your wondering, I used the largest number of errors found from the borrowed program to correct by. I wanted a better story if possible. By correcting more of the errors found, would be better in my thinking than not correcting enough for my first time submission. +Are there other Grammar Programs that are better than what I used? +There very well could be, but I am using a 286 computer, running DOS 6.22 and Windows 3.0. My computer makes it impracticable to load one of the modern Grammar Checker programs. There is not enough extended board memory to run a modern program. I also do not have a large enough hard drive memory for storage of a modern program. Please do not laugh but my cell phone has more hard drive memory than this computer that I am using to write this submission. Only until I purchase a more modern machine will I have that chance to look for a better grammar checker computer program. For the time being, I can only decide with the limited choices in programs. I would love to find a newer grammar program and load it on one of the computers at my University. A Grammar Checker or any other user program loaded by a user on a University personal computer unit is illegal. I do not want load a user program at school so I can write a better than average story on this web site. +I have heard of students loading music programs on the school computers and later getting caught. This is the only reason I am promoting caution in saying not to do it if your thinking along that logic. If you do not own the computer your working at, do not load a program I am suggesting onto it. +You will get caught! +Not only is it more than likely prohibited for you, but you might load up a computer virus. Your action might cost you income for loading this type of computer program. The school or business might fine you for the time to remove it from their machine! +Now, you have an idea of what I went through and of the trials and hardships for my first story! If you are a beginning author and yet to submit a story, use a Grammar Checker with a Spell Checker program and help yourself out. If you are an established author with many stories to your credit, make your life easier. This type of program will give you extra time to make your fans happier. It will give you the capacity to produce even more stories faster by using a Grammar Checker with your Spell Checker. Your stories will be stronger in style and easier to read. +Your editor will thank you if you find and use a Grammar and Spell Checker programs. +I hope that this little article helped you in some way." +875,Using Literotica,Goldeniangel,How To,2006-02-21,2006-02-21,2022-01-04 08:41:19,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/using-literotica,A guide of the categories for potentially lost readers.,[''],4.68,"This fabulous website known as Literotica.com offers a plethora of reading material in many different categories. Therefore, despite attempts to make the site easy to use by putting the stories into specific categories, there always seem to be some readers who manage to get lost and find themselves reading a story that they REALLY don't like. Often they decide that because the subject matter of the story is something they oppose or don't like for themselves, they will then leave trashy comments and vote low on the story. Although this is a small percentage of the people using the site, I feel that they need to be acknowledged as well. +I want to help these poor lost souls, and so I'm going to describe most of the categories on the site and what you might expect to find in the stories there. +But first, one major point which many of said readers seem to miss, all stories on this site are fictional. They are designed to be fictional. Fictional means that authors are stretching reality, bending it as such, and often put characters into extreme circumstances. Although many of us attempt to create circumstances that COULD be real, of course they will not always correspond to everyone's life. It is the reader's job to make that stretch of imagination that these circumstances could happen. It's like a movie or a play or a book... you don't just have characters living every day life. SOMETHING HAPPENS to them, some kind of incident that thrusts them into a more exciting story than what happens to an everyday person. The same holds true for erotic stories... otherwise they wouldn't be interesting. +However, if that stretch of imagination is just too much for you, the more realistic categories should be to your liking - such as Erotic Couplings or Romance. Erotic Couplings means one on one, male and female sex. The characters are usually placed in realistic settings and circumstances, except that they really want to get it on. Stories in the romance section are often even more realistic, creating viable relationships between characters that sweetly swing towards consummation. +Also often realistic are Gay Male and the Lesbian Love stories. However, if you are not interested in homosexual stories, and they do not turn you on, I suggest you stay away from them. Reading them and then leaving comments such as ""This is sick, you are immoral"" does absolutely nothing to the author except make them wonder what idiot would read a story that they find so disgusting. And then they continue to write. Therefore, if you have no interest in homosexual sex or it does not turn you on, stay away from all stories that are labeled ""Gay Male"" or ""Lesbian Love"". +""Toys and Masturbation"" has many different tangents... some cross over into fantasy or science fiction, others stay firmly grounded in reality. However, they all have to do with masturbation or playing with toys. The majority of the stories do not involve two people, unless the two people are involved in mutual masturbation or using toys on each other. +Transexuals/Cross-dressers, Interracial Love and Loving Wives categories are all categories that hold reality for some of the population, but not for everyone. A Transexual is a person who has surgically changed their gender, either partially or all the way. A Cross-dresser is someone who has not surgically changed their gender, but only dresses as the opposite gender. If that does not sound appealing to you, stay away from those stories. Interracial Love and Loving Wives sometimes mix, many Loving Wives stories involve men who want to watch other men fuck their wives - a good number of the stories involve white men wanting to watch black men fuck their white wives. Not all of them of course, some Loving Wives stories center around wives who are just plain cheating without their husbands consent. However, if you find wives sleeping with other men - with or without their husband's consent - wrong in some way, DON'T READ THESE STORIES. You will not find a single one that you like, I promise. And no one cares if you don't like them, they just wonder - again - what idiot read an entire story that they found objectionable. The same holds true for Interracial Love. ALL of the Interracial Loves stories are stories of people of different skin color/race/ethnicity involving themselves in sexual relations. If you find this objectionable, READ A DIFFERENT CATEGORY. There are NO stories in the ""Interracial Love"" category that involves two people of the same race. I would go read a story in Erotic Couplings or Romance instead, although not all of those are Non-Interracial, you will find a greater majority than you would in the Interracial Love Category. +Stories found in the Sci-Fi/Fantasy Category or the Non-Human category are DEFINITELY not real. You will not find situations that any person living right now could realistically be in. Again, author's often try to make them possibly realistic, but only if the reader uses their imagination. +Erotic Horror and Non-Consent almost always involve violence and abuse. Erotic Horror often involves blood, pain, and occasionally death. Non-Consent means that one of the characters does not want what is happening to them, although often writers create a story-line where eventually the girl enjoys it. I will tell you something though, Literotica usually does not accept stories where the unwilling participant is completely abused and hates it. Those stories are considered too rough for the site, therefore if the writer is going to abuse its unwilling character, we pretty much HAVE to make them enjoy it. That is why most really rough Non-Consent stories mean that the abused character is going to love it. If you think that it is sick and wrong to rape women, or that stories portraying it are awful, stick to another category. Just about every other category is going to be consensual sex. +Anal stories are about anal sex. While some readers have noted that they think it is unrealistic to portray anal sex as enjoyable, please remember that is YOUR reality. Not everyone's. I have several essays in fact, about anal sex as well as ""How-To"" on enjoying anal sex. If you do not enjoy anal sex and you want to read a realistic story, read one in another category. Enjoying anal sex is real for some of us, but obviously not for all... but reading the story and commenting that women don't enjoy anal sex isn't true. YOU do not enjoy anal sex. And don't assume that all anal sex stories are written by men... I have to say, I'm rather tired of getting comments on my Gay Male and Anal Sex stories about how I'm another stupid man who thinks that anal sex is great and that women love it. Because actually, I'm a rather average woman who thinks that anal sex CAN be great. And I write Gay Male stories because they're a challenge for me, and so far a lot of people have enjoyed them. +Fetish and BDSM stories are often rough and rowdy. Fetish includes spanking, golden showers, enemas, fantasies, etc. It's a broad category that covers everything the rest of the categories don't. Please, read the story descriptions carefully so that you will know whether or not it's something you might be interested in. BDSM stories mean bondage, domination, submission, punishment... again, these stories are only realistic for a percentage of the population, but I assure you that for some people these stories are the total truth. They are not meant to uphold man's power over women or woman's power over men, they just describe the specific relationship between two characters. +Obviously, I haven't touched on all the categories. But I'm hoping that I've touched on most of the ones that get the worst comments by readers who are obviously in the wrong category from what they will enjoy. +Remember, we all have a right to write, just as you have a right to your opinion. But this is a website meant for pleasure and enjoyment, no one should try to shut down someone else's fantasy just because it isn't theirs. There are so many categories and stories, why should anyone need to insult someone's writing just because they're reading the wrong story? Find the ones that are to your liking and stick with them." +876,Using Soap as Punishment,susangreenway,How To,2018-08-16,2018-08-16,2022-01-04 08:41:20,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/using-soap-as-punishment,How to use soaping as an effective adjunct punishment.,"['Anus', 'Defecation', 'Figging', 'Labia', 'Mouth', 'Naughty Words', 'Penis', 'Scrotum', 'Soap Stick']",4.16,"Soap has long held a special place among the punishments imposed by mothers to punish misbehaving offspring of all ages. It also proves to be an excellent option for governesses who are responsible for disciplining charges of all ages. Here we are only considering its use with those who are 18 years or older. But as with many traditional nursery punishments, it becomes highly embarrassing when a disciplinarian—parent or governess—resorts to its use with adults who have been naughty. +There are two main types of soap punishment. One is insertion of a soap bar into the mouth, with the recipient required to retain the soap in his or her mouth for a specified or indefinite time. The second is insertion, usually of thin sticks of soap, of the soap anally. +Soap is most commonly employed as a punishment for use of unacceptable language, especially the two most heinous four-letter words. ""You need your mouth washed out"" is a frequently-uttered statement that precedes the punisher's imposing the punishment, usually in the mouth. +It is most effective if the disciplinarian first rubs the soap using hot water to work up a warm lather. Leaving as much of the lather on the soap bar as possible, the bar can then be inserted in the open mouth of the offender. It should be moved around within the mouth and then the bar should be left projecting from the mouth, with the offender being required to hold it in place with his or her teeth. +While the soap bar may be removed after a certain time, being required to hold the bar with the teeth while being spanked, for example, is a good ancillary punishment. Normally, the offender is warned that there will be severe consequences—possibly added punishment such as caning—if the soap bar is allowed to drop from the mouth. +When the soap bar is removed, the offender should not be allowed to rinse for a further period of time. This means that the lather will remain in the mouth and the punishment in effect will continue since the harsh taste of the soap will remain until a mouth-rinsing is permitted. +Soap punishment is highly embarrassing because it is associated with juvenile discipline. The second form—anal insertion—is especially shameful because it exposes the private parts to view of anyone who has been permitted to observe the punishment. The offender may be bent over or on a chair and ordered to hold his or her bottom cheeks open. +This position will focus attention on the male or female genitalia as well as the anus itself, which few enjoy having others see. Insertion should be done slowly, both to prolong the exposure and to make it easier to get the soap stick into the rectum. Care needs to be taken not to jab it in as there is a danger of piercing the rectal walls. If a thin stick of soap has been cut from the bar, it can be inserted much as a rectal thermometer. +By inserting slowly, the anal ring will be lubricated by the soap and it will be easier to get the entire stick inside. Leaving it sticking out will cause more embarrassment but also may lead to the offender's excreting or expelling the soap stick before it is time for it to be removed. +This makes the use of a soap stick inserted anally different from figging, which involves inserting a carved stick of ginger anally. The ginger must be carved to remove the rough skin and also to prepare the ginger so that the warmth of the rectum will stimulate the release of juices from the ginger that will sting internally. The soap stick, if prepared by floating it in a small bowl of warm water, will be warm enough to sting the inner walls without further preparation. +The ginger stick is also inserted with a significant length—at least two inches—left protruding from the anus. This is done to allow easy extraction of the ginger. The soap stick may be removed by use of fingers or instructing the offender to excrete the soap stick by simulating the effort to excrete a bowel movement. +Psychologically, use of soap serves to embarrass the offender by focusing attention on his or her use of a naughty word or words. The punishment is almost always accompanied by scolding along the lines of ""I must wash your naughty mouth out with soap to stop you from using such bad words"" and anal insertion naturally relates to the dirtiest part of the body. +Mouth soaping is both uncomfortable and creates a very unpleasant taste in the mouth of the offender. Anal insertion of soap results in a stinging sensation inside the anus which should have a salutary effect on encouraging avoidance of bad language. A frequent side effect of anal soaping is stimulation of the bowel, resulting in an imminent need to pass a bowel movement. +The mother or governess may respond to pleas for toilet access by summarily telling the offender that he or she will have to wait and ""hold it in"" and to emphasize denial of immediate toilet access, it is useful and very discouraging to the offender to order him or her to pull up his or her undershorts or panties. +Should the offender be unable to exercise control over his or her bowels, it will be even more embarrassing if he or she defecates into the shorts or panties. Extra punishment may be in order for this failure, of course, and many disciplinarians would opt for spanking the miscreant over the bulging shorts or panties. +Alternatively, the offender may be required to remove underclothing so that any failure to hold it in will result in everyone watching the punishment seeing the bowel movement emerge from the anus and fall to the floor. +Because of the juvenile associations with soap used as a punishment, it is especially shame-inducing when some sort of role reversal is involved. A parent may have uttered one of the bad words and the son or daughter will use this as the pretext for soaping the offender's mouth or, less frequently, imposing anal insertion. +Disciplinarians who make use of soaping as an ancillary punishment may opt to have the soap on display which the soap sticks have been cut and are placed in warm water. Seeing the soap and realizing that it will be readily available should the offender curse or use a naughty word will increase the tension which will normally pervade the punishment scene. +Often mouth soaping is specified as the punishment for a first offense of cursing or bad language. The disciplinarian should be prepared at the time the forbidden words are uttered to order the offender to accompany the punisher to the nearby bathroom or kitchen where the soap bar may be run under hot water so that a lather can be worked up. Often observers are surprised and impressed when the disciplinarian and offender return with the soap bar sticking out of the offender's mouth. +Preparation of several soap sticks and having them available in a bowl of water will allow them to be utilized for second and subsequent offenses. The offender should be warned that this will be the punishment if he or she curses or uses a bad word after the first time. Fear of the stinging that will result from anal insertion of the soap is likely to cause prolonged pleading and apologizing immediately after the offender says the naughty word. +It will be important for the disciplinarian to deny such appeals as the punishment will only be effective if the offender learns that it will be imposed immediately after any offense of this kind. In addition to the two well-known four-letter words, use of slang words associated with the male or female genitalia other than the anatomically correct terms of penis and vagina (or vulva or scrotum, far less commonly spoken) should be treated in the same manner as would be uttering the four-letter words. +Although use of soaping as punishment will result in very unpleasant taste in the mouth that will linger for some time after removal of the soap bar and even after rinsing is allowed, and stinging inside the anus will also persist after removal of a soap stick, there appear to be no lasting bad effects of use of soap in these ways. +Some disciplinarians opt for another alternative to use of soap for punishment—an ointment such as oil of wintergreen or Ben-Gay or even toothpaste may be lightly rubbed on the female labia or the male penis or scrotum, or on or in the anus of either sex. This administration will also cause a stinging sensation comparable to the use of soap in this manner. To ensure continued impact of the administration, the offender may be required to pull up his undershorts or her panties. +The proficient governess or disciplinarian will recognize that the use of soap is quite effective, is without lasting effects, and serves to intensify punishment such as castigation with hand, strap, paddle, or cane. Usually the person being punished will react to being told they will be soaped in either way by pleading for remission and promising good behavior. He or she may argue that this child's punishment is inappropriate for an adult. The punisher should respond that when the offender behaves like a naughty child, this kind of punishment is entirely proper." +877,Using Toilet Restriction to Punish,lesliejones,How To,2011-12-18,2011-12-18,2022-01-04 08:41:21,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/using-toilet-restriction-to-punish,A guide to a humiliating disciplinary tool.,"['Defecation', 'Diapers', 'Embarrassment', 'Feminization', 'Humiliation', 'Menstrual', 'Panties', 'Potty', 'Toilet', 'Urination']",4.28,"_[This guide discusses bodily functions in a tasteful manner but those offended by them should read no further.]_ +For Jen and Megs, who do understand +Many dominants do not employ toilet restriction as a disciplinary tool but those who do recognize its effectiveness in changing behavior of submissives for the better. In some circles it may even be derided as a ""ladies' punishment"" because it does not involve any kind of hitting or striking as corporal punishment does. +Nevertheless, in view of the extreme embarrassment and outright humiliation that restriction of toilet use may produce, it is a useful punishment mechanism that belongs in every dominant's repertoire. Other objections to its use may involve either squeamishness or outright dislike of anything involving products of bodily functions. While these feelings are understandable, I hope this article shows those considering use of toilet restriction that their own involvement with and certainly contact with the objectionable substances, viz., feces, urine, and menstrual fluid, may be minimized or avoided altogether. +Required: Willing Submissive. First, it must be understood that toilet restriction is a punishment only suitable for submissives who will obey orders. It is much more effective when a sub knows and accepts that he or she must not even enter the bathroom, although they are not physically restrained, than where the bathroom must be locked or the sub placed under restraint. Enforcing this punishment for subs who will either resist or seek to circumvent its impact will prove frustrating for the dominant; if the sub is likely to engage in any of these avoidance behaviors, further training in submission is clearly advisable before engaging in use of toilet restriction. +Levels of restriction. Second, there are different levels of restriction. The most lenient is merely setting specific times when toilet use will be permitted or specifying a set number of times per day that the submissive may use the toilet. This punitive level may be increased by limiting the number of times such use is permitted to a very few times each day, such as once in the morning, once at midday and once in the evening. Setting specific times, such as 7, 12, and 8 increases the intensity as well, because the submissive may not need to use the toilet at those times but now will realize that he or she has lost the chance to do so for several more hours. +Restrict not prohibit. When the number of times toilet use is allowed is drastically limited, for example, to twice or less per day, the dominant should appreciate that this level is close to ensuring that the submissive will fail to control his or her functions. There is a psychological impact of failing to conform to a severe regimen such as being limited to using the toilet to twice a day or to two specific times, such as 8 in the morning and 8 at night (as before, the latter is more severe). I suggest that this level of punishment has a greater psychological impact that merely telling the submissive that they have lost all privileges of using the toilet. This last level of course guarantees failure and thus may result in the submissive's feeling less trepidation than if he or she fails to retain the bodily function products until the permitted use or time. +Uncertainty. Another refinement is not to specify how many times a day or at what times toilet use will be allowed but to require the submissive to request permission each time he or she needs to use the toilet. This adds a desirable degree of uncertainty to the situation and the submissive will only be thinking of how long he or she will be made to wait and if they will be able to hold off having an accident. Experienced dominants will likely respond to initial requests with rather offhanded denials, such as ""This isn't a convenient time"" or ""I think you need to wait until you really need to use the toilet."" +Observation. Still another refinement is to require the dominant to accompany the submissive to the bathroom and for the dominant then to observe the submissive's use of the toilet. This embarrasses most submissives and may even make it difficult for them to use the toilet; women, in particular, may be very ashamed and find it difficult to let their urine stream to begin. With regard to male submissives, women dominants especially often require males to use the seated position to urinate, as this implies that they are being subjected to a degree of feminization; this also has another less-frequently observed effect in that men have more difficulty emptying their bladders when urinating in the seated position so may find they need to use the toilet again sooner. Both sexes are likely to be highly embarrassed by the dominant's observing defecation. Submissives have told me that this act is regarded as more intimate and private than even intercourse. +Clothing adjustment. Yet another refinement—one can see that this punishment has many variations and versions—involves requiring the wearing of special clothing that will affect use of the toilet. Male submissive may be made to wear tight panties or other constricting feminine garments, or pantyhose, that will require more time to pull down or remove prior to using the toilet. Similarly, women forced to wear slacks rather than skirts may take longer to unzip or unbutton them than they do to lift their skirts and pull their panties down quickly. Taking longer to adjust clothing before using the toilet is also when the submissive is likely to encounter a kind of ""urge incontinence"" in that the mental processes connected with urination or defecation begin to go into high gear faster than the submissive is capable of freeing himself or herself from the tight or different clothing. This may result in the submissive's releasing urine before he or she has actually lowered panties or undershorts, for example. +Intimate inspections. As a further punishment or humiliation, some dominants, primarily women, will require the submissive to wear a pantiliner in the crotch of the panties or undershorts. The liner is likely to display any urine or feces released by the submissive prior to receiving permission to use the toilet or while adjusting clothing to do so. It will also show wet stains produced by excitement of the female or male genitalia. +Dominants may intensify the punishment by requiring the submissive at any time to lower pants or lift skirts and then to lower panties or undershorts so that the dominant may inspect the liner to see if it has been soiled. Detection of stains or any soiling may be followed to inspection of the vulva, penis, or anus. Such inspection is obviously easier and more embarrassing for women since insertion of fingers, gloved or ungloved, may be the operative method. But men are also likely to be embarrassed when they develop erections when female dominants are inspecting their private parts. +Retention. Two other variations of this punishment feature forced retention, as when an enema is administered and the submissive is made to retain it, whether plugged or not, and when anal insertion of a suppository such as a glycerin one speeds the need for defecation. It would seem that use of enemas is a different punishment topic but denial of permission to use the toilet after insertion of the anal suppository appears to be a variation on toilet restriction. +Diapers. The dominant must also decide whether to administer this punishment while having the submissive wear normal clothing, the kinds of restrictive and feminine garments mentioned earlier, or actual diapers and plastic pants. Requiring the wearing of diapers does signal to the submissive that failure is quite likely and may even diminish the fear of an accident although the sheer embarrassment of being put into diapers is highly embarrassing. Some dominants, again usually mistresses, institute a graduated system of underclothing, where a submissive may be reduced to diapers, and gradually promoted based on good behavior to wearing little girl panties, then very brief panties, full-sized panties, and, if male, male underwear. +Changing. Mistresses who employ diaper discipline usually do not shrink from using the changing table and its accoutrements when necessary. This does involve closer contact with the bodily products than some might wish, so they are cautioned that for submissives, being changed is horribly humiliating but the process will likely mean the dominant must deal with the contents of the diaper. +Spanking after accidents. Post-accident punishment is also an alternative for dominants. Mistresses especially sometimes enjoy taking the submissive who has filled his or her panties over the dominant's lap where a spanking right over the shameful bulge may press it down and increase the humiliation felt by the submissive's having already failed to retain his or her bodily products. +Public display—use of the corner. In a similar fashion, exhibiting the submissive who has had an accident by forcing him or her to stand in the corner, optimally with filled and bulging panties on display, adds more embarrassment. Visiting dominants are likely to make cutting comments while observing the submissive such as ""Well, it looks like this young lady needs more toilet training."" +Making men both wear panties and then display them bulging with their bodily products surely is likely to curb the poor attitudes of the most arrogant male who is being subjected to this punishment. It should be added that submissives should not be left wearing soiled and filled underclothing for lengthy periods so as to avoid irritation and infection. This is an important health-related caution and should be scrupulously followed. Thus post-accident punishment must be promptly administered or display made in short order. +Sometimes being forced to wear diapers or especially humiliating panties may even subject submissives to embarrassment when gathered with other submissives at a party or other get-together. A dominant may ask all those wearing diapers to so identify themselves—often causing their faces to redden. Those men wearing panties may also be singled out for attention. With women, deprivation of wearing panties at all usually results in similar humiliation when they are called out in a group and made to expose their pantiless privates. +Potty use. Another related feature of toilet restriction may involve requiring the submissive to squat on a child's plastic or wooden potty to do their business. Dominants usually have the potty visible in the living room so that all are on notice that one or more submissives may be required to use the potty n front of everyone. Men are humbled by yet another situation in which they are required to sit down like a woman to urinate and both sexes, when performing either function, are likely to expose their frontal genitalia to all present. Usually the submissive is required to remove the potty for emptying and cleaning after use, mostly because the dominant and certainly guests will not find the continuing smell after use to be pleasant. +Providing toilet service to dominants is another related punishment but the motivations and considerations are sufficiently different to suggest that it is more appropriate for a separate discussion. +The menstrual taboo. Restricting menstruating women's use of feminine hygiene products, however, is yet another kind of toilet restriction. Male dominants engaging in this punishment may find that female dominants resent male intrusion into this quintessentially feminine activity, but women submissives often recognize the high degree of humiliation they feel when a male dominant restricts their use of pads or tampons. They have spent their whole life, after all, keeping their menstrual period secret from men. Breaking this taboo can be itself a highly powerful disciplinary tactic. +Women dominants are likely to employ this punishment more particularly. They may require the female submissive to use a less absorbent tampon than she normally wears or allow her only a small pantiliner when her flow normally requires her to wear a large thick maxipad. Again, having the male or female dominant observe the menstruating submissive in the act of changing her tampon or pad is itself a major humiliation. Even the announcement by the dominant to other dominants or submissives that a female submissive is having her period is a punishment in terms of embarrassment. +Interruption of functions. Somewhat related to this is a practice used in my experience largely by dommes, which is literal restriction of urination or defecation by ordering the male or female submissive to start or stop the process. Dominant women I know may delight in allowing a submissive to start urinating and then just when, especially a woman, has managed to start the stream, suddenly say or shout ""Stop."" This is very frustrating and often difficult for the submissive to obey. +Obviously, sanctions for failure to stop urinating immediately are part of this punishment. I have been told that one of the homoerotic practices in Army basic training is telling soldiers being trained that when they hear the call for a formation while they are on the toilet and in the process of defecating, that they must ""cut it off"" (viz., the bowel movement) and pull up their uniform trousers to hurry to the lineup. +Final comments. As noted earlier, one aspect of toilet restriction is an inevitable need for someone to clean the mess up, but obviously this is the responsibility and the added shame of the submissive. On the whole, many of the features and refinements of toilet restriction as a punishment involve a broad swath of humiliating techniques, and include aspects of feminization and infantilization. +The sheer surprise and consequent embarrassment that occurs when a dominant interferes with a submissive's use of the toilet for normal bodily functions can clearly be utilized by the skillful dominant to produce improved behavior. Few submissives will not pay more attention to complying with rules set by their dominants when threatened with toilet restriction and its many variations and refinements. +Insightful dominants may wish to consider using toilet restriction because punishments such as spanking, caning, flogging, strapping, and the like all involve physical castigation and can only be employed so often. While it is humiliating to be taken across a dominant's lap for a spanking, just the fear that a dominant may follow through on a threat to impose toilet restriction at any level may well exceed the impact of the other punishments. +I would certainly rank the impact of a dominant's saying ""Your use of the toilet is going to be restricted"" with ""You have behaved badly and are going to be caned."" Both inspire fear, albeit of different kinds, but the former also carries with it the prospect of certain embarrassment and humiliation." +878,Using Your Own Method,Keixbra,How To,2006-10-28,2006-10-28,2022-01-04 08:41:21,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/using-your-own-method,Have you tried it all & none of it worked? Look here.,"['Good Sex', 'Relationship Advice', 'Sex Advice', 'Sex How-To', 'Sexual Advce']",3.96,"Alright, first off I would like to tell everyone that will say bad things to me or even try to threaten me (though I'm sure we can all respect other peoples opinions on life and won't get TOO mad) that I am not the most intelligent person on this planet, I am not the most emotional, but I have been known to give fairly good advice. +I know many people have searched though this ""How to"" column and have seen things that helped them with sexual positions, hypnosis... But if you truly want to try something that will always work, you have to try your own way. I was reading things on ""How to give Ultimate Head"" or ""How to make a Woman Scream in the Middle of Passion"" but when I read it, they made me laugh slightly. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm glad that these people had the courage to get up and talk about how THEY got THEIR girlfriend/boyfriend to have the best orgasm of their life, but I don't enjoy the fact that these people are trying to push it on US to do it. (Not all, and sorry if you are one of the few that don't) +When I was studying Hypnosis, and when I finally accomplished it, they were nothing alike. My way was very calming, like normal, but it didn't involve the focus of anything like a red dot, a watch, or anything of that kind. When I have phone sex with my friends it yields overpowering results, but it is MY way of doing it and nobody else's. +When I touch my girlfriends arm I am light and gentle at times, but rough at others. She is mostly into Rough but she enjoys gentle the most because she has never had a boyfriend that was gentle. When I held her and whispered in her ear sweet things, she smiled and laughed at my jokes because it was something that she hadn't had before. So hearing things on this site about ""How to make your woman feel appreciated"" does not work at all if your wife/girlfriend is constantly being treated gentle, and gets even more gentle... I've never met a woman would wants ONLY gentle. +Or, ""How to fuck like a horse."" True, a woman can often have her brains fucked out and enjoy every second of it, and be treated worse every time (using needles and blades for BDSM purposes) but I once had a girlfriend that loved to be choked during sex, loved cutting and scrapping herself with her nails. Then one day, I fucked her slowly, gently rocking my hips and she said that it was the most sensual moment of her life and she passed out after the sex (even though it was so slow she wasn't use to it and it was overwhelming.) +So, these ""How to"" folders truly aren't that helpful to a lot of people because they are trying to increase what their lady is already used to. +In truth, this is in the ""How to"" section because of my How To. +If you truly want to have the most sensual and sexual experience of your life, don't base what you do off of just ONE thing. If your girlfriend/wife loves it wild and hard then try going slow or Vice-Versa. +But in truth, don't take anyone's advice. Allow yourself to do what YOU think is right, not what everyone says is right. +When I say this I really am not trying to say that everybody is a perfect lover when they first start. In truth I am still a virgin and I have only had phone sex with a couple of good friends and a few girlfriends. I truly don't know if I am going to be a GREAT lover, but according to what my friends have said I will be. The way I was able to make these girls have orgasms is because I am a perverted person and I read up on positions and other types of things that I could possibly have these girls do. +I have sacrificed my own sexual need in order to make these girls so happy but I don't mind. I have a feeling I am just one of the few men that don't gain pleasure from masturbation. But instead I give girls advice and edge them on to do things that they wouldn't normally do. I have one friend in particular that has had sex with quite a few men and they have all left her sore, but she says that her strongest orgasm had come from when me and her had had phone sex a long time ago. +I am saying that instead of trying to take something and use it because it is convenient you should instead take something and look at it and look at your lover and try to find a way to use it and whatever you lover might like and make the best way to have your lover scream. So these ""How to"" files can help you, but they shouldn't give specific directions on what you should do. +For instance, if your girlfriend or wife enjoys to be tied up and you read something that makes you smirk in an evil way so you decide to try it, but when you do she doesn't like it as much. Try to implement whatever you wanted to do with her being tied up. Such as the feel of coldness against ones nipples. Of course if you feel cold you are going to shiver and try to warm yourself up but if she is tied up she will not have that opportunity and instead will have to deal with it while you bite and nibble on her neck, maybe afterwards applying some sort of heat source against her nipple, or vice- versa. +As I have said quite a few times. Don't take other peoples exact advice. Watch your lovers reaction to things and try to slowly nudge them in with YOUR OWN method." +879,Vagina Fingering Techniques,FriskyVirgin,How To,2007-05-19,2007-05-19,2022-01-04 08:41:23,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/vagina-fingering-techniques,Techniques for vaginal fingering & other clit stimulation.,"['Female Masturbation', 'Fingering How-To', 'Masturbation How-To', 'Sex Advice']",3.96,"When performing the following, make sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing more uncomfortable (and painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across a woman's clitoris or pushed inside. In most cases, proper foreplay stimulating a woman's erogenous zones will usually avoid the problem of dryness. Nevertheless, it never hurts to keep a ""tube of lube"" sitting nearby. +Most women masturbate by rubbing a finger or two over their clitoris, sometimes ""through"" the skin of their inner or outer lips, in a circular or back-and-forth motion. +Labial Massage +Place a well lubricated hand over her labia, fingers pointing towards her anus. Pull up toward the navel and alternate hands. Explore the inner and outer lips with your fingers. Pull gently on one lip and then the other. Rub the outer lips gently between your forefinger and thumb, then the inner lips. +A-One and A-Two and a-Three +Try inserting your first two fingers into her vagina, then arch your thumb back 'hitch-hiker' style and thrust in until your thumb rests against her clitoris. Now wriggle, twist, thrust, and vibrate your hand to drive her wild. +Close But No Cigar +If your partner has a particular spot that they like to have licked or caressed, try doing so very close to but not quite on that spot. This trick will make them take longer to reach their orgasm, but they will likely have a much stronger, more powerful orgasm when they finally do. +Push Here to Start +Gently insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she's ready, insert a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus (Don't insert it). Press against her anus while you move your fingers inside her vagina. +Tap Dancing +Place the palm of your hand on her mons (the mound where her pubic hair is), and rest your fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her thigh. Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your hand in a tiny circular motion. Your palm should not slide too much over her skin during this process. Rather, her skin should move underneath it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until you have given her ten taps. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds. Then repeat the whole routine over and over. +Cervix Clock +A woman's cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of her vagina. The cervix feels like a little dome of tissue, and may also have a small cleft in the middle, like your chin. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding the cervix. Some women may enjoy this and want you to do it more often; others won't. +From the Outside +Lay your free hand over the lower part of your partner's abdomen. Experiment by applying different kinds of pressure with the top hand while fingers from your other hand are inside her vagina. +Imitations +An excellent way to learn more about pleasing your partner is to rest your fingers over hers while she is masturbating herself. Then do the reverse, with her fingers acting as guides for your own. +Off the Edge +Another form of genital massage can be done by holding a lubricated vaginal lip between your thumb and forefinger. While squeezing just a little, pull your fingers straight away from the woman's body. Your fingers will end up in the air an inch or two above her body. If she likes this, repeat it often. +Tracing +After applying lubrication, it might be nice to begin with one of the large outer lips. Place the lip between your thumb and forefinger, clasping it at the base where it attaches to the main part of the woman's body. Then run your fingers (or fingertip) from the lower to upper part of the lip, as though you were tracing one side of a parenthesis. Repeat this as long as your partner's feedback is positive. +Four Directions +With two fingers press firmly up/side/down/side in her vagina, eight times each side. +Gentle Touch and Tickle +Tickle the clitoris extremely lightly. +Healing Thrust +Some women might need and want good, hard, deep, vigorous thrusting penetration. Be sure to keep her relaxed - don't let her get tensed. +Pinch and Pull +Gently pinch and pull on the clitoris. +Rock Around the Clit +With your forefinger make tiny circles, stopping at every 'hour'. +Temple Gate Tease +With one finger, tickle her vaginal opening as lightly as possible. +Tour de France +Orbit your forefinger around between her inner and outer labia from perineum to above her clitoris. +Triple Digit Pet +Use your three longest fingers, with your middle finger gliding along the outside of her vaginal opening and your other two fingers running along the area where her thigh meets her labia. +Twist and Shout +Using one or more fingers, massage in and out while twisting at the wrist." +880,Vaginal Fisting,Hand,How To,2001-11-03,2001-11-03,2022-01-04 08:41:24,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/vaginal-fisting,How to give the woman in your life the thrill of her life.,"['Fisting', 'Good Idea', 'Hand', 'Hand Begin', 'Hand Inside', 'Move Hand', 'Words Encouragement']",4.32,"_Editor's Note: The opinions and/or information in the how-to section are not those of Literotica.com, and anything you do with this information, you do at your own risk. Thank you for reading, and enjoy!_ +There are many people who have never heard of fisting, or have no idea what is really involved. There are two types of fisting, vaginal and anal, this article is focused on vaginal fisting. First off, I would like to bust the biggest myth about fisting. It is NOT true that your partner must be ""well used"", or ""worn out"" in order to insert your fist. +The human vagina is incredibly resilient, and muscle tone allows women to give birth, but also to tighten down enough to grasp a finger. A word of caution, the skin of the vaginal lips, as well as the interior skin is very sensitive, and prone to small tears, unless caution (and patience) is used, infection can occur with these tears. Things will go smoothly if both partners are patient, and some simple precautions are observed. First, it is important for the fister to thoroughly wash his or her hands. It is also helpful if the fistee is shaved, or at least trimmed of pubic hair. The fister must also make sure that the fingernails are trimmed, and have no ragged edges. +Another important factor is lubrication. I recommend a water soluble lubricant like KY jelly, or the generic equivalent. Astroglide may work for you, but for my taste it is not as kind to the skin while it is being stretched. How much lube do you use? Well, when you think you have enough, use more. I have at times, used half a tube. It can get messy, so use plenty of towels. Messy sex can be the best kind anyway, so use the lube liberally. The application of the lube can be integrated into the foreplay. I sometimes find that giving my girlfriend one or more orgasms before fisting really helps things along. Of course, before you can get your hand in there, you've got to get your fingers in there first. After the third finger, you begin to get to that ""stretch zone"". +Ladies, at this point, the stretching can feel like a slight burning, or stinging sensation, but plenty of lube eases that. During the insertion of finger number four, you have to pay close attention to your partners reactions, she will let you know when something is uncomfortable. If that happens, don't get discouraged, your first time may take a while, and patience is the key. Remember, this is an extremely intimate act and can be amazing when done between two people who care about each other, and rushing things can result in more than physical injury, it can damage the relationship. Once you have reached the stage where you have four well lubricated fingers inside, you may want to take a break and let her adjust to that new feeling of fullness. During the entire process, words of encouragement can do wonders to help her relax. After all, if she is not enjoying herself, what's the point? +Once she is comfortable with four fingers, you may press on till your palm is inside. Another pause to let her adjust, and keep up the words of encouragement! Remember, even if your partner has had children, she is not used to something that big going IN. Once she has adjusted to your palm, begin to move your hand, SLOWLY AND GENTLY to help stretch the skin for what comes next. I have found that the vagina tends to have more room to give at the bottom, near the perineum. +Now comes the real challenge! Tuck your thumb into the palm of your hand, and begin to SLOWLY, but firmly push. As you progress, begin to fold your fingers into the shape of a fist. When you reach the widest part of your hand, near your knuckles, you will find that things are getting somewhat tight. This is the point where she may REALLY tense up, and the risk of tearing the skin increases dramatically. It may be the point where she decides not to go through with it after all, or it may be time for a rest break. Remember, even though you are the one working to get your hand inside, she is having to work just as hard to relax and adjust, so she will be just as tired, if not more so than you. +Again, PATIENCE! If you are ready to proceed at this point, keep in mind that she still needs those encouraging words, now more than ever. After you have passed the widest point, you may be tempted by enthusiasm to just slam it home. BAD IDEA! Just allow your hand to slide naturally into place. Her vagina will tend to lock down on your wrist and sometimes actually draw your hand the rest of the way in. Once you have reached the wrist, it is time for another pause. She will sometimes have a extreme reaction. Some women may actually have an orgasm at this point, others just may be paralyzed in a state of awe that you got that huge hand of yours in there to begin with. Again, PATIENCE! Be sure that you are still well lubed, hand and wrist. KY type lube will gunk up when exposed to air for long periods, so make sure that a fresh layer is applied every now and then. +Ladies, once your partners' hand is all the way inside you, you'll find that you have the urge to urinate, so it is usually a good idea to empty your bladder before you start, unless you are both really into watersports. And do not worry about telling your partner when enough is enough, give them directions, how to move their hand, how fast, how slow, how much, etc. Guys, no matter how much she likes your sense of humor, crude remarks or jokes are definitely NOT a good idea. Remember, the vagina is more muscle than anything else, and one good squeeze could injure your hand. A little movement can go a long way, there is no need for you to get carried away at first and just start ramming your arm in and out. +If you are patient and take the time to let her build up, (usually after several orgasms) she may lose control and tell you just to fuck the shit out of her with your hand. Guys, you HAVE to LISTEN to your woman, you may be getting a charge out of this, but this is ultimately for HER pleasure! Another big no-no is the sudden removal of your hand. It wasn't easy to get in there, and therefore should be removed with care, again, pay attention to her reactions, know when to slow down, or take a break. And talk to her, let her know you're there. In summary, if done with care, consideration, and yes, PATIENCE, fisting can be a wonderful sexual outlet for you both. Please remember that this activity may not be for everyone, this is one of those things that can really turn ugly, if the issue is forced. +Good Luck and Happy Fisting, Ya'll +I would like to thank my ""research assistant"" (wink wink,nudge nudge) Jasmine1969" +881,Valentine's Day English Lady's Way,English Lady,How To,2004-02-04,2004-02-04,2022-01-04 08:41:24,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/valentines-day-english-ladys-way,Valentine's Day gift ideas for your sweetie.,"['Enhance Experience', 'Erotic Story', 'Give Lover', 'Love Letter', 'Make Leave', 'Small Fortune', 'Spell Checker', 'Word Spell', 'Wrapping Paper', 'Write Love']",4.12,"Are you completely sick of forking out a small fortune every Valentines Day buying over priced flowers, cards and chocolates? I know it drives me crazy how a day which has been designed for lovers has become so expensive and commercialised! +Do you want to give your lover something special and personal this year or something sweet and sexy? Yes we all want to pamper our lovers on Valentines Day. +""But it's all so expensive!"" I hear you exclaim! +Never fear VickyVickster is here and she is the mistress of sexy romance on a budget! I am now going to give you some ideas for cost effective, personal gifts that I guarantee your lover will adore! Take your pick from the list below ranging from the sweet and sincere to the saucy and sexy or just be inspired to do or make something a bit different this year! +Personalised is best when it comes to Valentines gifts. +Send an Ecard! +Ecard's are a wonderful and many faceted thing. I love Ecards and send tonnes of them to my friends online all the time. Basically they are a greeting card that you send through your email. You find all kinds from the simplest plain pictures to all singing all dancing java cards and animation cards. Ecard sites are easy to find and many of them are free! To find a suitable site just type the words ""Free Ecards"" into a search engine and bobs your uncle! Add to this search the word ""Valentine"" and you will be led to many pages of sloppy, lovey, funny, sweet and sexy cards. All you have to do is choose the one you love the best and fill out your details and send it off to your lover's email. As Simple as that. +Many Ecard site's have an option to choose when the Ecard is sent so if you're searching around now and find the perfect card see if they have a feature to allow you to send it actually on 14th February itself. That way you can write out your card and send it there and then meaning there's no last minute panic to find, write and send an Ecard on Valentine's Day itself. Lets face it there's so many better things to be doing and your dearly beloved is not going to be impressed with you sitting on the net and swearing at the computer for hours on the sexiest day of the year! +And I guarantee you'll find the card your looking for on one of those three sites or your money back! (waits for people to realise they're free) +Record a Special CD or tape. +This is a classic! Everyone loves music and every couple has at least a handful of songs that remind them of each other. Copy these from your existing CD's or tapes onto a new one, maybe adding a little voice message if you can manage that and voila! A thoughtful and meaningful collection of music that cost you the price of a blank cassette or CD. Much better than some commercial collection that you have to shell out a small fortune for right? +To make this even more special decorate the cover. It doesn't have to be a masterpiece, just a few different colours to write your lovers name and you've added that little extra touch that shows how much time and care you've put into pleasing them. +Please note! Make sure the songs you record will be enjoyed by your lover! If their taste is different to yours make sure you cater for that. Don't add something you know they will hate as this could possibly ruin the whole collection! If you really want to add a song that you're not 100% sure would normally be your lover's cup of tea well the put it right near the end so they can skip it easier, especially if you're recording a cassette tape. +Write a love letter. +For this you might need to purchase some nice looking writing paper or a blank card but if you shop around you can buy good looking paper/greeting cards very reasonably! My top tip is to check in markets as they often have the best prices and a large selection. Don't wander into a large chain store type shop unless you can afford to pay that bit more as you will just get frustrated when you look through all the lovely cards and you realise you can't afford them. +When choosing a pen to write your love letter with make sure it is full of ink and isn't going to run out on you at any moment! Writing in colour is always sweet but bear in mind that poison pen letters are often written in red and it can be seen as quite an angry and harsh colour. Make sure it is comfortable for you to write with and don't try using a cartridge pen if you're used to a ballpoint. It might sound romantic in theory but a letter covered in ink blots is not that sexy. Try scribbling on a spare piece of paper to check your pen is OK then you're ready to write! +When you sit down to write your letter be in a relaxed state of mind. It might help to have a photo of your lover or some other memento to look at for inspiration. Don't force it just write how you feel. It doesn't need to be Shakespearian in its grandness; the whole idea of a love letter is that it comes from the heart. If all you want to write is ""I love you with all my heart"" then that's all you need to write. If you are more inclined to go on for a few pages then do so. Write as much or as little as feels right. +Content wise try to keep to your own words. If you quote someone else, give them credit for it. It is not going to impress your dearly beloved if they find the heartfelt letter they received was actually composed by some dead guy to his wife several centuries before! Again I stress the most important point; a love letter is from the heart. Be sincere and true to your feelings and give your lover something they can keep to remind them of you. +Ladies, if you fancy adding a little squirt of perfume to your letter then feel free but please spray the letter from arms length as you do not want to knock your lover out with potent perfume fumes as he opens his letter! +Create a picture frame. +There are several ways you can interpret this. You can either make a collage of pictures and images to put in a shop bought frame for your lover, creating a personal love collage for them or you can take one picture you really like of you and your lover together and create a frame to put round it. Really I guess it's a case of what you can afford to do! +A frame is pretty simple to put together, 2 pieces of cardboard around an inch bigger than your picture, cover them both in wrapping paper, securing the paper with lots of glue. +Then cut out a hole in one piece of card just slightly smaller than your picture. Please make sure you can see the photo properly and that it is fairly well centred. I leave it to you as to how precise you want to be! +Stick your photo in place(the easiest way to do this is to stick your photo to the back piece, check it is in the right position several times before you secure it though!) then stick the frame together and there you have it! Simply attach a piece of sting or wire to the top of your picture in a hoop so it can be hung on the wall and it's done. +Some artistic inclination is needed for this option; if it sounds too complex to you then I suggest you opt for a less arty option to show your love this year! +Make a scrap book! +All you need is an exercise book OR several pieces of paper hole punched and strung together. Once you have your book decorate the front and back cover in anyway you like! Collage images form newspapers and magazines over it, use stickers or wrapping paper or just draw. This is your present to your lover; you decide what you want to do with it. +The contents can be whatever you want too. Photos, love letters, famous (and relevant) love quotes, pictures you've drawn, a page of graffiti all based around the ""I luv u"" variety you used to cover your books in at school, poetry... the list goes on. +I made one for my husband when we were first together. In mine I added a few pages of love quotes form various Terry Pratchett books because we are both big Discworld fans, I put in a few quotes from songs that reminded me off him and some pictures, a graffiti page and I wrote an introduction page. It took me a long time but I was well pleased with it when I finished and my husband still has it now. +Fill your book with what you know your lover will love and you just can't go wrong! +WARNING! +This option can be time consuming, especially if you decide to do a lot of drawing and writing yourself. Make sure you start it a while before you need to present it as a gift, you don't want to have to rush it to be able to present it in time do you? +Ok hold onto your hats folks now we're getting into the sexy adult suggestions...give your lover something sextra special this year! +Vouchers +No, I'm not talking gift vouchers for your local department store I am talking sexy love vouchers. Hundreds of Ecard sites have these online, you can even find them to print out online too or you can simply type or write your own. +All it has to be is a slip of paper which gives details of a treat your lover can claim from you. They can range from the cute and practical to the seriously sexy and can be redeemed whenever your partner feels like it. +Voucher suggestions: +*An hour long all over body massage. +*Butterfly kisses to be placed wherever your lover wants them! +*A meal cooked by you and the washing up done by you too. +*A night of passion! +*Acting out a kinky fantasy of their choosing. +You can be as saucy as you like and you can give as many different vouchers as you like! A cute little extra to slip inside the valentine card you send to your love. +Sexy Lotto. +This idea is a step up from the last. It involves the same kind of vouchers but this time you write lots of them, suitable for both you and your partner to carry out. You place some of these vouchers in a hat or a pot or a bowl (fold them up especially if they're going in a see through container) and then take it in turns to draw out a piece of paper then carry out that action on/to or for your lover! +Similar suggestions as before apply but you can get a bit more explicit this time! +*perform oral sex on partner for 10 minutes. +*Give your partner 10 spanks to the bare bottom. +*kiss your partner for 5 minutes anywhere but on the lips. +*Do a slow sexy strip to the music of your choice. +*Tell your lover a fantasy of yours in explicit detail. +See I told you! This suggestion can be as sexual as you like. Add things you and your partner will feel comfortable doing, you do not want to embarrass them after all, you want to get them horny baby yeah! (Oops dropped into Austin Power Mode there!) +Make sure you have some time to yourself for this. You don't want children/flatmates walking in on you whilst playing this game! Also you want to feel totally relaxed and comfortable; worrying about keeping the noise down in case mother hears will not enhance the experience! +Sexy Photos! +This will work best if your love is at work on Valentines Day or somewhere other than in the house with you. Take some sexy photographs of yourself with a digital camera. They can be as graphic as you like. Please remember though if you're sending them to your partner whilst he/she is at work that he/she could get into trouble for looking at very explicit photos in the workplace! All they need to do is titillate. A picture of you in some seriously sexy lingerie (hey I'm talking to you too boys!) or just a picture of your lips or a shot of your cleavage or your ""bulge"" inside your jeans. Get creative and take a shot you know will get your lover erm, ""interested"". +Then send your picture via email to your loved one. This is fairly easy to do! If you have outlook express when you create a new mail you will see two little arrows at the top right of your message. Click this and you'll see ""attach"" in the drop down menu again click this and you will be able to select your picture from your hard-drive. Once you have done this click ""attach"" and voila! Your sexy pic is attached to the Email. +If you have a web based account like hotmail, when you create a new message you should see an ""attach"" link somewhere above the email message itself. Click this and it will show a long box with a button saying ""browse"" next to it. Click ""Browse"" to find your picture on your hard-drive then click ""attach"" or ""ok"" and this attachment will then be added onto your email. +If you're not sure about this try sending an attachment to yourself first to check it works! +Now you have your picture ready to send you need to think of a suitable titillating subject line and message text. +A simple ""Happy Valentines Day"" will suffice, I am sure the picture will then speak for itself BUT be as creative as you like! Or if you really want to mess with their minds just send a typical chatty email and have your sexy picture attached, cheeky and fun and who knows? You might get spanked for it later! +Write him/her an erotic story. +This is another time consuming option. Even the shortest of sexual fantasy stories is going to take you a few hours to write and edit. Make sure you leave yourself plenty of time for completion before Valentines Day! +You do not need to be the best at fiction writing for this option. You can write a full on erotic story with created characters and scenes if you like but what is probably going to be more touching is writing out a personal fantasy involving yourself and your partner. +You can simply write it as if you're telling them what you will do to them later. +""When you get in from work you see me disappearing up the stairs in nothing but my black lacy French knickers....."" +Or as if you're telling a fantasy that really happened. +""I let my hand crack down upon your bottom and saw the cheek begin to pinken."" +Or you could write it as if you are the narrator telling a story. +""Tommy and Susie we're in love. They met in the park to feed the ducks but ended up naked in the bushes together."" +The best advice I can give you though is just write. Take your inspiration and run with it. Write and write and write till you stop. THEN you can go back and edit your work. I definitely recommend typing your story as apposed to writing it. Writing is very time consuming especially with the editing process added in. Typing onto a computer however makes this process much easier. +Top tips for typing out your story! +*If you have Word use it! The spell check facility is fantastic. If not use word pad and find an online spell checker to check it with. (http://www.spellcheck.net/ is a good one and it's free!) +*SAVE SAVE SAVE! Save your work after every paragraph or so just in case your computer crashes or gets switched off. It could happen and you don't want your whole story disappearing in one go! +*Write your story then leave it. The longer the better really. Editing is much easier to do when you come to your story fresh as you are more likely to pick up on mistakes. +*Don't rely on your spell checker to pick up everything! If you have made a typo that just happens to be a real word then the spell checker won't pick up on it! So check through your work yourself. +When your story is complete it is often helpful to read it out loud to check it reads well! Once it is done email it to your lover or print it out. I am sure they will be more than pleased with their own personalised sexy story. I have written several for my husband and I can verify he was very impressed! +Give your lover a massage. +This has got to be one of the nicest things anyone can receive. A full body massage. You do not necessarily need an expensive massage oil to do this there are several cheaper options that work just as well. Baby oil or baby moisturising lotion works well as it stays wet for a long time whilst you rub it into your lover's skin. +If you don't have a baby or baby products get yourself some cheap moisturising body cream. In this case the cheaper the better! Expensive products absorb into the skin quickly, you don't want this as you'll be forever applying more cream. Cheaper ones tend to be oilier and stay on top of the skin longer. Check the smell though before purchasing as you don't want to be massaging with a lotion you don't like the smell of! I would say go for something with cocoa butter in it as these smell like vanilla mostly and this is a pleasant and mild scent. +To enhance the experience massage in a candle lit room, especially if your lover is a bit self conscious about his or her body. The bedroom is a good place to carry out a massage as the bed is comfy to lie on. Make sure your partner is comfortable before you begin your massage! If you are using oil you may want to lie down towels over your bed clothes but that is up to you. +Mood making music playing softly in the background will help; make sure you choose something sexy if you're expecting things to get raunchy after the massage! Playing something soft and relaxing my end up in your lover falling asleep. +My husband has a problem when he massages me; he gets distracted by my bottom. Oh yes it is nice for my bottom to receive some attention but if I am promised a massage I'd like the rest of me massaged please too! To stop this distraction you can drape a towel over the distracting area whilst you work on your lover's neck, shoulders and back. Then start off from the feet and up the legs and you will end up at the distracting bit when both of you are warmed up enough to well, be distracted! +Lover Buffet! +This is an idea which will take some preparation and time but I assure you will be well worth it! +You will be the plate for your lover to eat his/her buffet from. All you need to do is be naked, reclining on the sofa or the bed with plates of food lying around you. I suggest you use an old sheet or some old towel to lie on so that the food does not stain whatever it is you are lying on. +A typical sweet buffet could consist of: +Strawberries, bananas, chocolate bars (to insert inside places as well as lie on top of your flesh) peaches, whipped cream, ice cream, jam, yoghurt (to smother all over your body) honey, syrup, chocolate sauce, raspberry sauce (to dribble all over), sprinkles, chocolate chips, dried fruit (to sprinkle over to give a change in texture to the food all over you) and whatever else you can think of that your lover would like to lick off your body! +If your lover hasn't got such a sweet tooth you could try a more savoury approach: +Soft cheese, peanut butter, pate (to spread on your body!) sausages, whole cucumber (insertion!),tomato ketchup, Mayonnaise (in squeezy bottles for drizzling all over) and nuts, croutons and bacon bits for that added crunch! +Whatever you chose do not put a lot out, you do not want to make your lover feel sick! Cater to his or her tastes, if you think they would prefer just one thing or say a simple variety of fruit (maybe your partner is on a diet!) then just put those out. The experience should be enjoyable for both parties so if you don't think you'd enjoy having a cucumber inserted anywhere don't put it in your food selection! +Showering/ bathing afterwards will be an integral part of this experience too I think! +Oh a special note for fella's...pineapple rings... need I say more? +This would work best if your lover can let themselves in and find you all ready and raring to go. Do not plan to do this when you know the postman might arrive or your mother might pop over! If you place yourself up in the bedroom make sure you leave a note instructing your lover to where you are. Nothing would be worse than lying in wait for your partner and for them not to come searching for you but to settle down in front of the television instead! +I really hope this list has inspired you to do something special for your loved one this year. I would love to hear of any experiences people have using my ideas so send me a comment or put a note in my guestbook! Also if you think up a different idea inspired by this list let me know, I want idea's to surprise my husband with this year!" +882,Valuing Books,oggbashan,How To,2015-02-21,2015-02-21,2022-01-04 08:41:25,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/valuing-books,Does your book have a value?,"['Edition', 'First Edition', 'Incunabla', 'Old Book', 'Printing']",4.62,"**Oggbashan's Advice: Is this book valuable?** +This was written for charity shops selling books in the UK but can have some application elsewhere. +A secondhand book has NO value unless somebody wants to buy it. +1\. Books that have NO value +Readers' Digest Condensed Books and Mills and Boon paperbacks can soon swamp the largest shop. There are buyers for pristine Mills and Boon at but they can take up space better used for other books. +A book may be a pristine first edition signed by the author but if the book is unreadable or just plain bad no one will want it even at 10p. +Obsolete reference books are the worst. Last year's law books however impressive looking do not have a market except as furniture. A ready reckoner for pre-decimal currency is just waste paper. +Text books lose value as soon as they are superseded and don't regain any value until they are old enough to be quaint. +Battered children's books are useless. +Out-of-date factual children's books, unless old enough to be of historic interest, should be rejected. +2\. Books that have a standard value +Clean paperbacks and modern dust-wrappered hardbacks can be priced at a basic rate of currently 50p each or three for £1. +3\. Books that might be worth more +Some books are obviously valuable, for example large detailed Art books about a specific artist, profusely illustrated and academic. Even so, the condition is important. If the book has lost its dustwrapper, or is stained or internally damaged, it will have lost some of its value. The most expensive books can still be valuable even when damaged. +3.1 Valuable paperbacks. +There are very few valuable paperbacks. The early Ian Fleming's James Bond books, such as Casino Royale, are very expensive in hardback, so the paperback firsts are valuable. That is partly because of the artwork on the cover but mainly because the James Bond franchise still produces films. While Bond films continue to be made, Bond books will be valuable. A good condition paperback first of Casino Royale should sell for £25 to £50. +Early Penguin paperbacks, the ones with three equal size bands, have a value IF they are first edition Penguins and it are in good or sound condition. Depending on their rarity/desirability early Penguin Firsts in good condition could be £3-£5 each. However Penguin has produced modern replicas of their first books and they have no real value. +Collectors' paperbacks are spin-offs from films or TV series e.g. Dr Who. They have value, not as books, but as collectable items that fit the theme. Some rare ones can have considerable value BUT fashions change quickly. What was collectable a couple of years ago can be valueless now e.g. Teenage Ninja Turtles. +Science Fiction paperbacks by popular authors, particularly US printings, can be valuable. +1950s/60s paperbacks such as Pan, Panther, can have a value because of the cover artwork. Again the condition is important. Value can be £2-£25. +Earlier paperbacks, Hodder and Stoughton Yellowbacks, Victorian ""shockers"", garishly covered novels etc. do have a value as curiosities. In excellent condition could be £30. Sound condition? £10. +The only paperbacks that have a significant value are the 19th Century partworks that were the genuine First Editions of Dickens' novels. A complete set of the loose parts of one of Dickens' novels could be worth hundreds of pounds -- but beware -- The University of Kent at Canterbury produced a reprint of the six parts of Edwin Drood in the 1970s. That reprint is worth £8-£10. +3.2 Old Books +Any book older than 1800 has a greater value than a standard book. +Any book older than 1700 should have a value of at least £25. +Any book older than 1600 should have a value of at least £100. +Any book older than 1500, or even a single page of such a book, is classed as an ""Incunabule"", plural ""Incunabula"" and should be on an international register of such books/pages. Any found should have been recorded with details of the previous owner(s) and the source because unknown incunabula need to have a provenance. +19th Century books, that is ones printed between 1800 and 1899 can be valuable but many from the later part of the century are just reprints of earlier works. For example Defoe's Robinson Crusoe in a late 19th Century edition could be valuable if it was originally an expensive book perhaps with many illustrations or worthless if a cheap reprint that is difficult to read. +4\. Dating books. +The date of a book is usually shown on the title page or on the back of the title page. In very old books or many Reader's Digest Books it is shown on the back page. +Some dates are shown in Roman numerals. +M = 1000; D = 500; C= 100; L= 50; XL = 40; LXXXX = 90 +X = 10; IX = 9; VIII = 8; VII = 7; VI = 6; V = 5; IV = 4 +III = 3 ; II = 2 ; I = 1 +But 9 may be shown as VIIII ; 40 as XXXX ; 90 as XC. +Some examples: +MDCCCLVIII = 1858 +MMV = 2005 +MDCCCXCXLV = 1895 +Accurately dating a book can be difficult and can require knowledge. +A book may state ""First published 1897"" but could be a 1950s reprint. +A book may state ""First edition thus 1950"" but could just be a cheap edition of a much earlier book. +A book may state ""First published in the UK 1960"" but the original first edition was published in the US in 1955. +5\. First Editions +Some books never have more than a first edition and may never be valuable because the author is incompetent or unreadable. +Some first editions are produced in such quantities that they are no more valuable than another edition e.g. second and subsequent Harry Potter books. +A few first editions by otherwise collectable authors can have little value e.g Lawrence Durell's TUNC and Ernest Hemingway's second book. Both books were unlike their other books and were, and are, unpopular. +Some first editions by authors you have heard of aren't as valuable as you might think. Rudyard Kipling is one. He is sometimes in favour, sometimes out of favour. A Kipling first edition printed in the UK is probably worth no more than £8 to £10. Many first editions are worth less than the modern paperback reprint. Buying books as an investment requires very careful judgement. +Modern publishers, and some older publishers, have made the task of finding out whether a book is a first edition very complicated. +Modern Firsts +For example: Many books say ""First published 1987"" but underneath, or on the back of the title page is a list of numbers like these: +135798642 or 123456789 or even 31 33 35 37 39 38 36 34 32 30 or 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 +As the book is reprinted a number will be dropped from the sequence so a book with the numbers +57986 is actually the FIFTH edition or FIFTH printing. +With 3456789 is the THIRD edition or THIRD printing. +The books with numbers in the 30s are from the THIRTIETH edition. +Older Firsts +Anything that says 10th thousand; 30th thousand -- is NOT a first edition. +Even apparently identical books can be true first editions, or later states of the first edition. One of Charles Dickens' Christmas Stories ""The Haunted Man"" has four states of the First edition. They can be told apart by the address of the publishers, which changed, and by a misprint on one page of the REAL first. The value of each is different. +The usual order of priority of book states is: +Any edition dedicated by the author to someone related to the book's origin e.g. Ian Fleming's Thunderball dedicated to the Golf Professional at Royal St George's golf course thanking him for help with the golf scenes. That is valuable even in battered condition. +\- 1st Edition in dustwrapper signed by author +\- 1st Edition in dustwrapper +\- 1st Edition without dustwrapper +\- 1st Illustrated Edition +\- Any edition signed by author +\- Other publishers edition after 1st in dustwrapper +\- Paperback +\- Any edition without dustwrapper. +\- Book Club Edition in dustwrapper +\- Book Club edition without dustwrapper +BUT condition is important - a battered 1st may be unsaleable while a clean Book Club Edition could be acceptable. +6\. Book Buyers +6.1 Most people who buy books buy them to read. +Seems a statement of the obvious? It is true for most of the people who will come into a book shop. If they are not buying books to read themselves they might be buying for a friend or relation to read. Probably 90% of those coming into a bookshop are buying books to be read. +6.2 People who buy First Editions don't always read them +A First Edition has value because it is a First Edition and its value depends on its condition. An ideal First Edition has a perfect dustwrapper around a perfect book and has never been read. Reading a First Edition would devalue it by opening the pages and loosening the spine. A First Edition is an object to be appreciated, NOT a book to be read. If the First Edition owner wants to read that book, they would probably already own a later edition or a cheap paperback reprint. +6.3 People buy books as status symbols +Coffee table books and expensive Art Books are often bought to display, not to read. They are items of furniture to give the impression that the owner is cultured and up-market. +Old leather-bound books can be bought as decoration, to furnish a room. There is a picture of the Duke of Windsor in his Paris apartment after the Abdication, posed against a wall of books. The photograph is so clear that the book titles can be read. The books are obviously arranged by size, not subject, and have expensive bindings but are titles such as ""The Transactions of the Society of Accountants 1927-8"" next to four volumes of the Bible in French and bound copies of The National Geographic. The size and bindings match but there is no other logic to the arrangement of books. +The same thing can often been seen when people are interviewed on television. Behind them is a wall of books to show how erudite they are. Some of those interviewed are in front of their own collection so the books are sorted by class and type. Others just have a random selection of books just for their looks as wall decoration. +7\. Book Condition +There are several ways of describing a book's condition. They don't matter unless you are selling over the internet. A buyer walking into your shop can be expected to judge the book's condition themselves. +However if there are faults in the book that might not be visible to someone picking the book up it is a good idea to write (with a 2B pencil) some comment such as ""Page 23 torn""; ""scribbling on page 42"" or at worst ""As Is"" which means with all its faults. +Here is a list of normal conventions for book condition. The book is described first then, after a /, the dustwrapper if present. +Mint/Mint -- As delivered by the publisher and not handled. This state is very unusual +Fine/Fine -- As it would appear when new on the new bookseller's shelf +Very Good/Very Good -- shows slight signs of being opened and read +Good/Good -- Most secondhand booksellers won't stock anything worse than this unless the book is rare. The book and dustwrapper show signs of wear and the book has obviously been read many times. +Fair/Fair or Reading Copy -- A sound edition of the book, complete without loss or major damage. +Hospital Copy -- a book only suitable for rebinding or to combine with another copy to make one sound complete copy for example by using the plates. However some hospital copies can be MORE valuable than a better copy if the plates are worth framing. There is a book about Walmer and Deal that has 14 pictures/plates in it. As a complete book it is worth about £100. If it is a hospital copy that no one would mind pulling apart, 12 of the 14 plates can be sold at £30 to £40 each unmounted! +The older the book, the more latitude is allowed on the condition description. Any book more than 50 years old that looks nearly new could be valuable because few books survive like that. +8\. What you should look out for +8.1 Hardbacks with good dustwrappers +Any hardback before 1975 that has a good dustwrapper needs a second look. Any before 1960 should be put aside to check with your local expert or on-line. Any 1st edition with dustwrapper before 1975 probably has a value. +8.2 Expensive books +Any book that was obviously expensive when new should be examined. The quality of the binding, printing and/or illustration might make it valuable. +8.3 The ""different"" book clubs +Crime Club was often the first edition for detective novelists such as Agatha Christie. Her early Crime Club novels can be VERY valuable. +Folio Society: The average Folio Society book in good condition ,particularly in its slipcase, is worth at least £8. Some early ones are worth far more. IF you ever see their printed book collection which comes in a case containing loose sheets from old books you have made a reasonable win on the lottery at £500 plus. +8.4 Specialist Transport/Maritime Books +A picture book about steam trains in general isn't worth much. The more obscure the railway subject, the more valuable the book tends to be so ""Private Owner Wagons on the Barry Railway in the 1920s"" could be worth checking. Maritime/Shipping are similar. The history of the Royal Navy isn't valuable unless early. A book about Battle-class destroyers could be. Edward Heath's Sailing isn't valuable. It is said that an unsigned copy is rarer than one signed by him. +8.5 Art Books +Art books work like transport. Scholarly illustrated books on a single artist, particularly if produced for a major retrospective of the artist's work, can be from 10 to 100 pounds. Coffee table books with smallish pictures are just normal stock. Catalogues for Sales of a single artist's work can be valuable -- or not -- it depends on the illustrations and the competence of the text. +8.6 Older books +Any book printed (not originally published but printed) before 1900 deserves a second look. A cheap reprint of a classic in poor condition might be worth less than a modern paperback but any book that is typical of its age, or a product of its age, could have value. +Anything printed before 1850 is likely to have a value simply because of its age, apart from the author's name or title. +8.7 Foreign language +It can be very difficult to value a book printed in a foreign language particularly if you can't understand a word of it. Remember that some languages such as Japanese, Chinese, Hebrew and Arabic start at the back, not what we think is the front. There might be a few English words on the title page. +9\. Anyone can find the valuable books. There is no rule that says the valuable books will be in the antique book shop. +10\. Where to seek advice +Look at www.abebooks.co.uk or www.abebooks.com or ask me by PM. My advice is free to Literotica members. +April 2009 revised for Literotica February 2015" +883,Vanilla into Butterscotch Ripple,NightSpirit,How To,2006-06-02,2006-06-02,2022-01-04 08:41:28,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/vanilla-into-butterscotch-ripple,Guide to help introduce stubborn people to new pleasures.,"['Anal Sex', 'Bdsm Advice', 'Mind Control', 'Self-Help', 'Sex Advice']",4.45,"We've all seen it. The person who just _screams_ vanilla. +You talk about Sex, they say, ""I've done that."" +You talk about anal sex, and they say, ""That's an exit hole only. If anyone puts anything in there I'll cut it off."" +You ask why, and they just say: "" _Because_."" +""Gays and Lesbians should be shot, Bisexuals are worse because they can't even pick a side."" +""Water sports are water-polo, swimming, or waterskiing. Anything else isn't healthy."" +If you even think about being with someone else other than your spouse you are a ""male chauvinistic pig"" or a ""slut"". If you are actually with someone else, then you ""obviously don't really love your partner"". +Questions about any variation of sex other than their ideal scenario of a man and woman copulating in the missionary position only receives you scorn, and you become treated like some lesser deviant creature. +These are the thought patterns and stereotypes of a closed minded individual. +It may happen that you fall in love with someone like this. +They say that Love is blind, but it can also be deaf and dumb, and a little bit sick in the head too. +So you get bored, of the ""same old, same old"" routine in the bedroom. +You've read various things on Lit, and you know that there is a bigger world out there, and you're curious... but the love of your life isn't. +So what do you do? Dump them and move on? +Not if you really love them. It may not be possible, or at least not yet. +This is what I propose: +Don't try to change them. It never works anyways. +It really is true that people can only change if they want to. +But you _can_ open their eyes to other possibilities, and then let them choose for themselves. + **Step #1: Lose the mental conditioning.** +People are taught from a very early age, about what is right and wrong. +How to behave and what the rules are. +This is done quite simply because you are too young to be able to reason for yourself. Your experience is too limited. +This is a good thing. +It helps prevent children from burning their faces off on a hot stove top burner. Because, ""Wow, it looks really bright when you get close to it ... OWWWWW!!!!!"" immediately followed by a trip to the hospital, and years of plastic surgery is never a good thing. +However, there comes a time when people become adults, and they have to think for themselves. +""When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: But when I became a man, I put away childish things."" +Step one is to help your loved ones realize that they get to decide what _they_ want to do. +This can be really tricky, and means that you have to know your partner really well. +If the person is rational, a philosophical debate can do wonders. +If they aren't you're going to have to prove them wrong about at least one of their hard and fast beliefs. This can introduce doubt, and will hopefully force a person to re-inspect some of their other beliefs. +Be very careful here though. Move slowly and cautiously. +It's not nice to rip away someone's view of reality, and not be there to hold their hand while they try and figure out what they are supposed to believe in again. +Causing someone to question their beliefs will be an incredibly personal thing, and if you don't know your partner well enough there's no point in doing it. It'd be much better to have your partner help you ""Question your own beliefs"". Self discovery can be contagious if shared. + **Step #2: Analyze your partner carefully.** +Take a good hard look at fetishes, and see what it is about them that gets the person off. (Lit has BILLIONS of examples) +Then take a look at your partner for similar qualities. +Are they hard on themselves and seek to punish themselves? +(Masochists in their most basic form) +In times of stress are they comforted by cuddling? +(Bondage anyone?) +Are they whores for praise? +(Exhibitionism?) +Are they a giving, nurturing person? or are they demanding? +(Dominance / Submissive roles -often the opposite of what is most commonly demanded of them on a daily basis) +Once you can see the beginnings in your partner, you will have some idea as to what new experiences will best net some results. +And the **Better** your partner gets off on the first attempts, the better any subsequent new things will be received. + **Step #3: Once you think you know what you're going after, become an expert on it.** +It's true that you can only learn so much from reading, and eventually you have to try it ""hands on"", but you can avoid most of the major pitfalls through some preparation, and you can find out about safe and unsafe behavior first. +PLAYING SAFE IS MOST IMPORTANT. +If someone gets hurt playtime is over, and they'll almost certainly never want to even attempt to do it again. + **Step #4: Start Small and Innocent.** +Rome wasn't built in a day, nor was a kink-filled relationship. +So start small, and start innocent, then work your way up to your goal. +Case #1 +The goal: ""I want to spank my G/F, and to have her enjoy it, as much as I enjoy spanking her"". +Set the stage, and prepare. +Make sure that your partner is in a receptive mood to try something new. The day they have been yelled at all day at work, and have nearly lost their job is not the time for this. +However, after having a good evening out, maybe a drink to loosen them up, and when good times have been had by all is ideal. Sexual tension is definitely going to make things easier. + _Ensure that your lover is turned on_. +Next, make sure that you ""work it into the moment"". Sudden things out of context, will instantly snap a person out of whatever fun they may have been having, and put them on guard. +So, jokingly (and flirtingly) point out some little thing that they have done wrong. Maybe they forgot to pick something trivial up from the store. Maybe they knocked something over. It really doesn't matter so long as your lover knows that it was trivial, and that you're not really serious. +Now is your big chance to ""punish them"". Go lightly, even if they are enjoying it. +Especially go lightly if they _are_ enjoying it, to be more of a tease. +Mix it up with something else at the same time that you know turns them on; maybe some fondling or the likes. +Push the boundaries when your partner is distracted. The key to this step is to teach your lover that they can feel good while doing it, that it is fun, and also that you're playing. +Again, take baby steps. If you rush this stage you can cause emotional scarring, and may forever lose one of the ways that you had learned to satisfy your partner. + _ALWAYS_ make sure that the new fetish you're introducing is but a ""little side thing"" you're doing, and not the main thing your partner's focusing on. That can come later, if they decide that they enjoy it, but now is definitely not the time. +Try to give your partner a way out. +This is more then just a safety word. Give your partner a way to hide their emotion, or any shame that they may feel at the pleasure they're receiving. They may feel that what is happening is wrong on some mental level, even though their pleasure may be intense, and feel really bad about sharing their reactions to this new found pleasure until they get their attitudes straightened out again. +Give your partner the chance to be shy about their reactions. Also if possible, help them to feel less self conscious. +Blindfolds can be wonderful, so long as you use them in the early beginning steps. Often if someone doesn't see what's happening and they're already caught up in something very stimulating, they may not be able to recognize the new source of stimulation. +Showering in the dark with your partner can also be a wonderful example of this. You can ""help"" them get clean, in much more intimate ways then they might otherwise allow. Once your partner is comfortable with this, and the lights are still out, you can always check to see if they're clean. +Once you have your partner open to one ""deviant behavior"" the rest becomes easy. Start showing them how some other people can enjoy ""deviant behavior"" too. +One of my favorite methods is to show the person soft-core fetish stories; those which just barely dabble in the desired fetish, but where the person thoroughly enjoys themselves without any guilt or remorse. It helps to reinforce to your partner that this sort of behavior can be ok. +You just add it to the mix very slowly as you go. +Want to try anal sex? Try playing with your partner's ass while you are +""doing more then your part"" in a 69 position. Again start small, and ensure that there are positive reactions from your administrations. +Play on the outside of her anus gently. Stroke it. +MAKE SURE SHE GETS OFF. +Don't stick a finger up her ass thinking she won't notice. +She will; and given where her mouth is, you'd likely find out as SOON AS SHE DID! + **Step #5: Know when to stop.** +You can teach an old dog new tricks. +But you can't teach it _all_ the tricks. +Your partner may become open to learning some new things. +They may be completely against learning some others. +Often there may be trauma of some sort behind these ones that they get stuck on. +Delve into that in a gentle way if you wish, but it may be difficult. +Counseling may help as well, or not as the case may be. +The trick is to not push the issue too far, or it WILL cost you the relationship. And if you're not ready for that, then it's best to not poke that sleeping dog any harder, but maybe dangle the piece of string over the resting cat next to it. +Move on and try another fetish carefully. +There's plenty more to choose from. +Remember, this will be a growing and learning experience for both you and your partner(s) and will take a lot of work and effort. It may take you 6 months before your partner comes to understand that they are getting pleasure from the most miniscule ""deviant"" play and that it's ok. +This is still tremendous progress. +Remember you're fighting against a lifetime of conditioning, and that won't happen over night, but can happen over time. +Keep your stick on the ice, play safe, and never toy with people." +884,Very Well Done: A Guide to Offering Constructive Criticism,Cinner,How To,2012-12-22,2012-12-22,2022-01-04 08:41:29,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/very-well-done-a-guide-to-offering- constructive-criticism,How to give good literary critique.,"['Constructive Criticism', 'Criticism', 'Feedback', 'Jamaica', 'Literary Critique', 'Non-Erotic', 'Self-Development']",4.91,"The Toastmasters have a way of offering constructive criticism that I endorse fully. They call it their sandwich approach, and in it, they let their developing speech-maker know about something that (s)he did well, then they speak about the areas needing improvement, and then they close their remarks with another word of praise about an area of strength upon which the budding speech-maker can build as (s)he moves onward to new heights. Not surprisingly, this method of helping colleagues to improve is highly effective, and so I want to recommend to everyone that we all try to adopt this means of communicating with each other; not just when we leave ""constructive"" feedback about the stories that we read here on Literotica, but also in life generally since I think that there are benefits to be derived from this way of operating. +Can you imagine something as radical as this in your communication with your spouse or significant other; with your boss or your peer or your assistant; with your child? Wouldn't you enjoy it if your clients did this with you? Can't you imagine how your service providers would feel if you tried to be polite to them, even if you were making a return, or a lodging a protest about some disappointment in your dealings with them? This is not the stuff of fantasy, but it would be fantastic, wouldn't it? +So, you might ask, what if there is really nothing to praise in the piece that I have just read? How do I find something positive to say about that? What do I do if something really needs to be said about the shoddy way in which the piece has been slapped together, without any attempt at editing or developing characterisation or plot, without any regard for grammar or spelling? Are you suggesting that I be a hypocrite and say something nice? Saying nothing is not an option for me, Cinner... +Alright, I grant you that sometimes, you may feel that the work is truly poorly presented, and you cannot do as I do, and just move on to the next story or essay. You might do what I have done where I see some potential though; and you might send a private feedback message to the author with your comments; beginning with the good that is there, even if that is only a line about their bravery in putting their work into the public domain for general scrutiny. That is something positive. There are many more persons here, talented people who visit Literotica daily, but who are afraid to allow their voices to be heard, than there are people who have taken the risk of airing their deepest thoughts and darkest secret yearnings in their stories and poems; and so even if this is the only positive thing that you can find to say about their work, then you might want to start, and perhaps, if necessary, end with that as well. +Of course, after telling the person what (s)he has done well, one does need to deliver the bad news, but even here there might be some ground rules that would help the person. The first thing that I would recommend is that you be specific about what you want to see from the person to whom you are directing your remarks. I know that for me, the person who told me that I shifted point of view in my stories did more for me than the one who told me that my stories were rubbish. The man who praised the standard of my editing of my own work has caused me to re-read my stories just that one extra time before sending them off, since I don't want to disappoint him in the future. To be sure, I still get it wrong sometimes, but, again, because of this generous-minded person I have become a better writer. +The second thing that I would recommend is that you try to give a little of yourself in your comments. Again, the person who told me that my poem Birthday was ""gripping and disturbing but profound"" conveyed much in these few words, as did the person who told me that the ""cheating and blackmail was a real turn off. please (sic) keep the garbage out of the incest area"" for Soren and his Sisters. In truth, because of that second, more negative comment, I have tried to be more sensitive and respectful of the feelings of others in my writing, not only for incest stories that I write myself, but also for those that I have been asked to read and critique, and for all of the other areas of human sexuality to which I do not subscribe personally, and so do not have an intimate understanding of the emotions attached to these situations. As harsh as that was to hear, I have learned from it, and hopefully, if this person bothers to read my third ""incest and taboo"" entry in this year's Survivor Contest (s)he will be more satisfied. +Finally, it has been a suspicion of mine for some time, that some of the anonymous comments that I read are really from fellow authors here on Lit who feel that they don't want to say something to me lest I, or the other author to whom they have directed their remarks, take them in the wrong way. I can't speak for everyone, but one thing that I can say is that usually the more profound the comment, the more that I would like to get further clarification, or to discuss the technique change being recommended, with the commentator. Leaving no return Lit ID name or e-mail address on a comment in my contact box or leaving a vague, anonymous comment is frustrating if I really need just five minutes more of your time. So, I'd like to urge those of you who really are not members of Literotica to consider becoming members so that we can all have more access to each other's ideas. You have access to mine; I've written them down for you, but I need more access to you since there may be times when I need to know what you meant when you said whatever it is that you did. Certainly, for me it would be helpful, and so even if you don't do it for anyone else, if you're not sure how they will react, please let me understand what you want of me. Let me decide if I can lift my game to wherever it is that you want me to be. I'm not promising that I will be able to do so, but at least you will have given me a chance to become one of the greatest Jamaican writers of all times. ;) +In closing, I would like to remind us all that it takes little effort to sweeten the bitterest medicine with a spoon of sugar; and the effort is worth it since you are likely to be given a better reception if your aim in offering your comments is to help the person involved to do a better job next time. Of course, if your agenda is something else, like crushing that person's spirit, then you could probably continue doing what you're doing now; but don't be surprised if you continue to be ignored." +885,Viagra Falls,Badlands1,How To,2020-10-10,2020-10-10,2022-01-04 08:41:30,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/viagra-falls,Sex: the ultimate aphrodisiac.,"['Hugh Mungus', 'Humor', 'Satire', 'Swing Club', 'Swinger', 'Swingers']",1.77,"Fuck Viagra! You don't need it. Nobody does. You'd be better off taking a placebo, garnering some confidence, and heading into a sexual skirmish. +We're talkin' a drug here with numerous side effects, and only one benefit. With or without Vegas odds, that's a terrible return. Still, this shit must be sellin', since the corporation that produces it has the cash to run television commercials that play on credulous minds. +Viagra is more easy to figure out than a two piece puzzle. +Watch, or read, an advertisement for this little blue implement from Hell. Make note of which demographic is targeted. Males obviously, but which males in particular? +Married men. Specifically, betrothed, middle-aged men. One might conclude this equates to erectile dysfunction for this age group, but that's what the makers of Viagra want you to think. It means money in their pockets, when some 50 year old can't get it up once, fears he has a problem, and runs to Dr. Kevorkian for pharmaceutical salvation. +Look at this logically, though. Due to fucked-up societal pressure, most men 40, 50, and 60 are either married, or have been. Consequently, they're having sex with the same partner over, and over, and over. Hence, tedium. Hence, boredom. +I love certain books, but I can only read 'em so many times, before the anticipation is all but stripped from their plots. +It's the same with marriage. Hump one woman hundreds, thousands, or tens of thousands of times, and you're gonna lose interest. This is simple rationale most people don't stop to consider, when binding themselves by law, in a monogamous commitment. +Makers of Viagra, and analogous drugs, are aware married, middle-aged men — resultant of protracted periods of matrimony — will become bored. As such, these snake oil salesmen play on the weaknesses of this demographic, informing them they have an actual affliction. +Married? Been so for a while? Having a hard time obtaining an erection? +Go out, and have an affair. You'll be carvin' granite with your salacious sword, in the company of your supplemental sex slave. It's simple logic, but the last thing the fuckheads at Big Pharma want you to figure out. If men realized they didn't need this useless crap, Viagra wouldn't be in business. +I've watched countless guys pop the little-blue-pill-that-couldn't, only to still have difficulty getting it up. As a result, these bastards dive deeper into despair, over a dilemma that doesn't exist. +Consider this, as well. One of the side effects that accompanies consumption of Viagra is the potential for heart attacks. Ask yourself this question: ""Are you willing to risk having a coronary, in order to obtain a hard-on?"" If you replied, ""Yes,"" your problems are mental, not physical. +Society is headed down a path in which the majority of males will be dead — via heart failure — but their penises will be rock solid. +Dump Viagra. You don't need it. In addition, you'll seriously lessen your chance of having a coronary. +What follows are tips to assist in your quest for tumescence. +A) This isn't America's Got Talent, and you're not onstage. Trash terms like ""sexual performance."" You're forced to take tests, and constantly adhere to standards that cause undue torment. Fuck that! +These unnecessary evils suck the fun right out of existence. Don't allow them to permeate your last bastion of a good time: group sex. Be thrilled you're grabbin' bare tit! You've already won. Most folks are watching porn, while you're living it! +B) Partake of a myriad of women. By regularly rotating your inventory, it remains fresh and delicious. Doesn't that chocolate pie look scrumptious? It is, but now that you've tasted it, realize there's a bad-ass butterscotch pastry in the oven, and an amazing apple strudel cooling on the rack. Try 'em all! +C) Last time I had sex, I was alone and frightened. +Don't exhaust your ammo during solo sessions. Some of the best coitus I've experienced was when nobody was around. Even so, I can't remember one solitary showdown I've engaged in, but still recall the worst sex I've had with a woman in attendance. +Fingering your flute is pleasurable, but don't do it constantly. You'll end up with nothing left for adventures in the swinging arena. +D) This being said, there's no way you'll stop boppin' the bishop. Nobody does. Clergy do it — probably incessantly. Unless it's collecting pictures of Fred Savage's asshole, why stop doing something you enjoy? Should you find yourself whittling the wiener, use that experience as a training tool. +If you must whack it, do so for a long time. I never get in touch with myself, unless I plan on being there at least two hours. You can apply your own specifications, but this discipline not only enhances your orgasms, it also teaches your body it's fine to hump for extended interludes. +Hence, you'll be able to hook-up with more women. Don't be shocked, when you're bestowed the colloquialism ""Energizer Bunny,"" amongst repeat customers. +E) When fluffing Mr. Peepers, try not shooting your load. This insane society indoctrinates us to believe that — as a male — you're obligated to fire off your cannon, in order to be sexually satisfied. +Rather, stroke for hours, and simply store up that resultant energy. I do it all the time, and can literally go about my day, on 120 minutes of sleep. +Blue balls is an erroneous term, obviously conjured up by some dude attempting to coerce some chick into getting him off. +F) Da More I Drink, Demeanor I Get. Upon entrance to a libidinous location, some guys make it their life's goal to become Bud Light's best customer. The moniker ""Super Sexual Soldier"" isn't often found alongside the term alcohol abuse. Save the cocktailing for after the sex, so you don't find yourself as useless as voting. +— authored by Hugh Mungus" +886,Video Story,LitTV,How To,2016-12-31,2017-03-24,2022-01-04 08:41:31,25,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/video-story-lexis-first-lesbian- strapon,"1. Lexi shares memories of her first lesbian strapon experience. 2. Beautiful MILF wife Julia Ann shares her first swinger club experience. 3. Lotus meets a sexy Latina - then her hot Latino boyfriend. 4. Tinder hookup leads to first FFM threesome - and humor. 5. Stranded girl is rescued by passing mechanic, who she happily rewards. 6. Alexis tells how her first time went from great to mayhem. 7. Bisexual crush leads Asian dancer to Vegas with gal pal - & her hot Black boyfriend. 8. Blonde coed Jessa's flirting leads to her first blowjob. 9. Sophisticated sexy black woman tells about her first FFM sex. 10. She meets a musician, who shows her new kinks. 11. Violet Monroe tells about her first time with a girl. 12. She tells you about her first experience with rough sex. 13. A hot tub and her friend's cousin leads to mayhem. 14. Her FFM longings are finally fulfilled - and how! 15. Weekend of rock turns wild with strippers, ""party favors"", and more. 16. Husband wins board game bet, so wife Mary is now all his. 17. An argument, a party, and a friend's new truck. What could go wrong? 18. She shares the story of how a club meeting led to surprises. 19. Christmas shopping with a lesbian friend lead couple to fun. 20. Hear her tale of what it's like to film a porn scene for the first time. 21. Felicity Feline tells about attending her very first sex party. 22. Video Story: tattooed young brunette shows how she gives a deep blowjob. 23. Lexi Luna describes her first time in porn - with an enormously hung man. 24. She tells about what happens when her boyfriend & her have sex at school. 25. Cunnilingus advice from a beautiful bisexual.","['Blowjob How-To', 'Brunette', 'Deepthroat', 'Deepthroat Blowjob', 'Dildo', 'Oral Sex How-To', 'Sex Advice', 'Tattoo', 'Tattoos', 'Video']",3.82,"Literotica is happy to introduce LitTV - a place where community members can share sexy stories in video format. Please share your opinions and suggestions for the future of LitTV. +Want to share your sexy video story, erotic vlog, or hot how-to? It's easy and fun! [Click here](https://www.literotica.com/s/submit-a-video-story-to-littv) to get started. +\--- +In this video, busty Lexi tells how she and her hot girlfriend took their friendship to the next sexy level, playing with a strapon. +Enjoy Lexi's video story, and please let us know what you think in the comments! +[My First Lesbian Strapon by Lexi Luna](https://www.littv.com/videos/507/my- first-lesbian-strapon/) + +" +887,Virtual Lapdance,LesLumens,How To,2008-05-04,2008-05-04,2022-01-04 08:41:42,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/virtual-lapdance,Surviving and thriving in nudie chat.,"['Chat', 'Cyber Sex', 'Instructional']",4.48,"Welcome to Nudie Chat 101. Pull up a seat and take notes, because there _will_ be a test later, and it won't be me administering it. The virtual bouncers, the models, and the other chatters in the room are the ones who will stamp you with a pass or fail, and they're a tough crowd to please. +I'm going to assume that you have an interest in watching beautiful women (or gorgeous guys, as most of this applies for the opposite side of the coin as well) doing their best to drive you out of your mind with lust from across miles of internet wiring. I'm also hoping that I don't make an ass out of _U_ and _Me_ by assuming that you're looking for more than visual stimulation. If all you wanted was virtual nakedness or sex, you could get that from any pic or video site. +There are more business models for nudie chat than there are sexual positions, but I'm going to stick with the most common in this course — free teaser chats with more behind the curtain if you _pay to play_. There are variations on this theme as well, but the basics here should allow you to easily adjust. +Who the hell am I to be instructing you? I'm someone who's been there, from a lot of different angles. I started out as a chatter, hanging out in the room just like anyone else. After a while, I was tapped by the site management for a position as an admin — a virtual bouncer to remove problem chatters. That gave me the opportunity to talk to the models 'offstage' where they could relax, and the management of the chat site. I talked to one of those models a lot more than the others, and we ended up moving in together. I know first hand what those models are saying about you once they turn the cam off. +It doesn't necessarily make me an expert, but I do have insight from almost every perspective, so I believe I have something to offer. I'm the old man rocking on the porch. I may be a bit crotchety at times, but if you can get past my tales of walking ten miles through the snow to get to chat, there's some hard-won wisdom in the stories I have to tell you whippersnappers. + **(I.) Recon** +There are two things you'll want to do when you first step into the nudie chat world, and you can fortunately do them both at the same time. Just as there are umpteen business models for chats, there are just as many types of models. Your first quest is to find a model that you want to hang around with. +My first lesson is to keep your fingers away from the keyboard during this reconnaissance mission. Pay attention to who the models are talking to. Naturally, they'll be talking to known paying customers and people they think might become such, but that's not all. You'll learn who the regulars in the room are, and these are people you don't want to cross verbal swords with. If you take a stab at a regular, you'll find a dozen blades in your back before you can say, ""Oops!"" This is the quickest way to find your name blackballed across the site. +You should also pay attention to who these regulars and the model are shunning or telling to go away. Odds are that you'll discover why in short order, and those behaviors are the things you want to avoid. +I'm sure you'll find hotties within a couple of minutes of logging on to chat. Concentrating on eye candy is going to leave you bored and moving on in short order, though. Imagine a mad scientist crossing a telemarketer with a Barbie Doll and you have a perfect picture of these girls. Don't waste time in these rooms, because there are much greener pastures. Find a girl that's actually engaging in _conversation_ with the room. +You'll find every type of personality under the sun posing in front of the camera for your viewing pleasure. The key is finding one that has more going for her than a nice rack and a smoking caboose. The chatters in the room are a good indicator of whether you're going to click with the model or not. If you take a liking to someone else chatting in the room, then odds are that you share some interests with that person, as well as the model. +Once you've found a room or three where the conversation stimulates your brain and the model stimulates other, more interesting places, it's time to take off the camouflage and start chatting. + **(II.) My Name Is:** +Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die. +Sorry, couldn't resist. +You need a chat handle if you want anyone to notice you. Trying to respond to guest432 is a pain for everyone, and they're liable to ignore you rather than bother. +You need to come up with something that you'll be happy with for a long time to come, so give this decision some careful consideration. Naturally, you'll want to avoid any version of your real name that could possibly lead anyone to the real you. Beyond that, you want something that stands out and is original. It's helpful to come up with a name that can be shortened, because chat moves fast, and everyone wants to use the minimum amount of keystrokes necessary to get a message out. +If you don't want every chatter in the room and the model to snicker behind your back — or to you face — here are some things to avoid: 10in4U, HugeJohnson, MobyDick, TungMaster, BigDick, etc. I'm sure you get the picture. Touting your lovemaking skills or the size of Mr. Happy in your chat handle isn't going to impress anyone. Everyone knows that the internet adds inches and cup sizes to every measurement, and they're just as likely to call you _Inchworm_ if you choose _MonsterDong_ as your chat handle. +You also want to make sure that you don't encroach on a regular chatter's name. If someone named Darken is chatting on your chosen site regularly, avoid anything that begins with _Dark_. This goes back to the nickname for your nickname. When there are two Darks in the room, everyone gets confused. Just like _Highlander_ , there can be only one, and you're liable to spark a verbal battle to the death by filching someone else's handle. +First impressions are as important in chat as in real life, and your chat handle is one of your first impressions in nudie chat. Think long and hard before you put on that name tag and walk in the room. + **(III.) You're In My House** +In free chat, the model is the one in control of the room. She's there to drum up business for her private shows, and thus to entertain the room, but what she says goes. The model is working under several sets of rules, from the federal level on down to personal likes and dislikes. If you get into a battle of wills with the model, you _will_ lose. +Don't get wrapped up in conversations with other chatters and leave the model out of it. Everything going on in the room should be about her, in one way or another. Your job in free chat is to keep her awake and smiling. Your reward is the same. +Don't start chatting up some other woman in the room and having cyber-sex with her. First off, it's probably a guy. +(Pause for cringing) +Second, that's extremely rude to the model. It's her house, so don't be sneaking off into the corner to shag somebody else at the party. + **(IV.) Buyers Never Beg, And Beggars Never Buy** +One of the first things you'll probably see in chat is someone typing something like, ""shw me ur tits bb!"" +Don't do this. +Imagine you've just won the lottery and that you're trapped in a small room with every deadbeat relative, friend, or neighbor you waved at once in passing. That's how the model feels when dealing with a room full of people acting like this. +Let the model work the room at her own pace. If she's not showing off, she's probably not going to be around long. If you're patient and join in the chat, you'll probably see whatever you're tempted to beg for soon enough. The more people there are in the room screaming for T&A, the less likely she is to want to give those peeks. +The only time you should make a request is when the model is asking for requests. One single beg can offset hours of pleasant chatting in a model's mind. +Keep in mind that she has to save something for the private shows. If she's fully naked and close-up finger-banging in free chat, why would anyone bother to purchase private minutes? + **(V.) No Polishing The Sword In Free Chat** +Spanking the monkey, wrestling with cyclops — whatever you want to call it — is a no-no in free chat. No matter what other motivations the model has to be on cam, the money is certainly a factor. Most models aren't making any money unless they get a private show, so rubbing one out in free chat is more or less shoplifting — not to mention rude. +If you must, don't announce it to the chat. The rest of the room certainly doesn't want that image in their head, and the model isn't likely to be overjoyed about it, at best. + **(VI.) Tell Her About It** +It should go without saying, but compliment the model. What sort of compliments she likes may vary, but every model wants to know that you think they're beautiful/hot/sexy. There's a reason you're staring at that video and tingling in critical locations, so let her know. You don't want to go overboard with it, but you don't want to go without mentioning it either. +Some models will swoon when you wax poetic, while others are just as happy with, ""You have awesome tits!"" It's up to you to find out what makes her purr, and then stroke her. (Not _IT_ — see number five) + **(VII.) Charge!** +No, this has nothing to do with your credit card. If some rude person comes into chat and gets on the model's nerves, it's time for you to take to horse, grab your lance, and ride into battle. Don't wait for the rest of the room to suit up, get on that steed and skewer the miscreant as soon as possible. +Sometimes the villain may not realize that they're annoying the model. In this case, politely pointing it out may be enough to do the trick. Don't use a broadsword when a smack on the knuckles with a ruler will suffice. Unfortunately, this is the exception, rather than the rule. +When someone is purposely insulting the model or doggedly begging in an extremely rude manner, your job is to redirect their attention to you. Once they've forgotten about the model to hurl badly spelled insults at you, you've already won the battle. If you can't think of anything better, just tell them to go away. It's better to be creative and funny, if you have it in you. +""Did your mother feed you a steady diet of lead paint chips as a child?"" +""Help control the drooling moron population. Have your (Rude Person's Name) spayed or neutered."" +This is your opportunity to channel all those frustrations with idiots you encounter in the real world into something positive. Not only do you get to verbally smack around some stain on the underpants of society, but a beautiful half-naked woman just might swoon for you in the process. +As with everything else, gauge your response by what the model is comfortable with. She might end up laughing so hard that she has to run off cam to tinkle when you're verbally cutting someone to ribbons. Others would prefer you not go so far. Some may even want to rely on silent justice in the form of kicking the user from chat. +They all want to know that you think enough of them to feel annoyed by someone when they are. + **(VIII.) Rescue Rangers** +If you happen to have some spare cash lying around, the ultimate way to rescue a model from a hostile chatter or a hostile room is to take her private. Keep in mind that private minutes are expensive, and you can't let your chivalry get in the way of paying your bills. +Taking a model into a private show, even for as little as five minutes or less, has multiple advantages. First, whatever miscreants were in the room will almost all find somewhere else to go immediately. Second, the model is getting a paid break from the zoo that is free chat. Finally, the model is there to serve you in a private show. If you've been itching for a close-up or something special, now is the time to ask for it. +If you're only going to do a short _rescue show_ , let her know that from the beginning. Not only will she appreciate the break, but she also won't be surprised or disappointed by the short private show. + **(IX.) A Little Private Time** +If you decide to take the model into a private show, here are a few pointers to get the most out of those expensive minutes. +First and foremost, never let any variation of these words pass your lips. ""Show me (whatever) and I'll get a show."" Even if you're serious, no model is going to believe you. They hear that more times a day than you can count, and 99.9% of the people saying it are lying through their teeth. +You should be paying attention while you're chatting, and you'll learn a lot about what the model can/can't or will/won't do in a private show. People are constantly asking questions of that nature, and you can compile a list in your head within a short period of time. Every chat site has its own rules. Individual studios within those sites will have other rules. The model may have personal things she doesn't like to do. Laws and ordinances put other restrictions on what a model can do, even in a private connection. +If you have a special request and nobody else has asked the question, you should before you go private. Don't go crazy with this, because that will get on the model's nerves. Too many people sound as if they are interviewing the model for an unauthorized biography. +You can count on her being completely naked in a private show. You can count on close-ups, masturbation, etc. You may need to ask if you want to see anal, pantyhose, baby oil, or something of that nature. Make sure that they have what you want, and that they're willing. +Don't ask for outfit changes before the show starts. People do this all the time, and most don't ever go private. The model ends up changing out of what _she_ wanted to wear, and then the show never materializes. Unless you have a history of coming through with the private show, just don't request it. +Tell the model that you're about to take her private. She may take it with a grain of salt the first time, because she hears that all day, but if she's about to go on break or something, that gives her the opportunity to tell you. +Once you're in the show, be polite. Ask — don't demand. If your kink is power- play, then let her know that as soon as the show starts. If you just storm into a private show saying, ""Get those panties off and bend over, bitch,"" then she's not likely to react well. If you tell her in advance that you like that, she's probably going to play along. +The human body only bends in so many directions, so be reasonable with your requests. She's not Gumby, so using a vibrator in her pussy and ass in doggy- style position while licking her nipples where you can see it at the same time just isn't possible. The model also isn't a mind reader, so you may have to explain what it is you want to see if she doesn't get it right from the beginning. +Master one-handed typing, if necessary. If the site has some way for her to hear your voice, that's far better. You'll warm her up and get a better show by complimenting her and telling her how much you're enjoying the show than by giving a series of commands. If you turn the model on with your words, you'll get far more from the experience than if she's having to summon up motivation on her own. If she shares a kink with you, take advantage of it. +If you can, give her a few minutes to relax before your private minutes run out. Hopefully, she's languid from coming hard, and she'll appreciate the time to regain her composure. Give her a chance to get dressed again, or have a drink. Even a minute or so will earn you brownie points in both free chat and any follow-up shows. Just like in the real world, you should think of your cyber-partner before, during, and after the fun time. +Come back into free chat and talk about how good the show was once it's over. It's free advertising for the model. + **(X.) In Conclusion** +You don't have to be a big spender to be a welcome addition to the chat room. You don't ever have to spend a single thin dime. If you can crack a joke to make the model smile, or chase off annoying beggars, then you're contributing to the bottom line of the model and the site. A model that's not having a good time and smiling isn't going to attract private shows. Those long hours of posing half-naked on your bed can quickly grow boring without something interesting going on in chat. +You'll get the most out of your nudie chat time if you're part comedian, part Casanova, and part Knight in Shining Armor. Once you're into the model's inner circle, you all should feed off each other to have a good time. There's something special about a sexy half-dressed woman laughing at your jokes that you just can't get anywhere else. I've made lifelong friends in chat, the kind of people who will give you the shirt off their back when times get rough. +Be warned, it can be addicting. You do still need to show up at work, eat, shower, and all those other little things in the real world too. +Walk into chat with only one expectation — having a good time and seeing a sexy model on screen. If you're realistic, then your time in nudie chat can fill in those gaps of boredom that everyone experiences when the guys are trapped at home with Honey-Do lists and there's nothing on the tube. +Here endeth the lesson. Turn to page 69 in your hymnals and head for chat." +888,Visiting a Gloryhole,BuckyDuckman,How To,2014-07-29,2014-07-29,2022-01-04 08:41:43,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/visiting-a-gloryhole,Firsthand experience on what to expect visiting a gloryhole.,"['Blowjob', 'Firsthand Experience', 'Gloryhole', 'Guide', 'Sex Store', 'Video Preview Booth']",4.39,"Gloryholes. Are they real? How do I find one? What's it like to visit one? Is there an etiquette to follow? Are they safe? + **Are they real?** Yes! I've visited several of them. How many? I didn't keep count. Ten? Fifteen? I don't know. I've visited them from Philly to St. Louis to Florida and lots of places in between. Deploy the power of the internet to search around for one near you. There are several sites that will help. Or, look for sex shops that advertise ""Video Preview Booths"" and check for yourself. +Let's get the controversial part out of the way: **Are they safe?** Gloryholes are as safe (and unsafe) as any one-night-stand or most other anonymous hook- ups. Look, we all know the safest sex is either abstinence, masturbation or limiting yourself to one, well-tested, completely faithful partner. Setting that aside, oral sex among healthy adults is (relatively) very safe. It's even safer if you don't have any open cuts or sores in your mouth. Even safer if you take a look at the big dick you're about to put into your mouth and inspect it for sores or cuts. Safer still if you consider the typical clientele of most gloryholes: married, middled-aged white guys. Still, sex is never without risk and if you're a hypochondriac, have too much OCD or just a worry wart - then stay the fuck away, okay? +What about the dangers of sticking your dick into a hole in the wall? Dude (and you're definitely mostly a dude if you have a dick), if the other guy didn't want your dick, he wouldn't have ASKED for it, you know? We're not talking about sticking your dick inside a random hole out in the world. We're talking about sticking your dick inside the adjoining walls of two booths showing sex movies. + **Where do you find the booths?** The ones I've visited are about the same. Booths are typically found inside sex shops that sell X-rated DVDs and adult toys. Look for sex shops that advertise ""Video Preview Booths"" or ""Peep Shows."" Many require a purchase of tokens before you visit the booth area. There will be a sign. A few have an admission fee for heading in the booth area and you're expected to have a pocket of singles for the video machines. The clerk behind the counter ain't gonna judge you. Mumble that you want some tokens, hand them some money and you're on your way! Not all sex shops with preview booths have gloryholes! Some only have a few gloryholes tucked at one end or other of the row of booths. Do your research, it's why Google exists! + **What's it like in the booth area?** With few exceptions, most of the booth areas I've encountered are dark hallways with very poor lighting. There are usually several guys milling around in the booth area (more about that in a minute). I have visited a few where the booth area is as well lit as the store, but that's definitely the exception. + **What's with the guys hanging out in the hallway?** Who knows?! I don't ever get why some places seem to have lots of guys hanging out in the hallway. Some of these same places will have ""No loitering"" signs posted and STILL have guys hanging out in the hallway. Maybe they're waiting for a chick to visit a booth. Maybe they're hoping Prince Charming will visit. In general, though, most are waiting to see who goes into a booth with a gloryhole. Hey, if you have a chance to check out the person sucking your dick, wouldn't you take it? Maybe they're waiting for a black guy to go into a booth or a white guy or a pirate. +There's another way to visit the booth area that doesn't involve gloryholes. It's waiting for someone to invite you into their booth. You make a bit of eye contact with one of the guys, enter the booth near them, leave your door ajar and hope they follow you. If they don't, they aren't interested. If they do, well, start sucking! + **What are the booths like?** Most of them are small, very small. Think about it, it's a retail space and the more booths they can fit into a small space, the better the owner's chances at making some money! So, how small? I've been inside some that were no more than three or four feet wide and nearly as deep. Meaning, you have enough room to step inside the booth, turn around and close the door. Some have a bench built into the wall. Some will include a chair. Sometimes the chair inside looks like something the thrift store would reject. I've seen some with wastebaskets and towels available, too. Depending on the place, the booths might be exceptionally clean or really nasty and dirty. Peek inside a few booths. Take a look! If you don't like what you see, head somewhere else. +Otherwise, the booths will have a TV, typically behind a piece of glass or Plexiglass and a machine for your dollars or tokens. The doors typically have a lock and, unless you want unexpected company, lock your door. Above the door will be a light that signifies if the person inside is spending money or not. Maybe the light changes from green to red or just lights up. Remember, the owner of your local sex shop is there to make money. FEED THE MACHINE! Some places require their help to check for occupied booths where no one is spending money. + **How big are the gloryholes?** Usually, there's nothing more between the booths than a piece of plywood. I've seen gloryholes big enough for someone to climb through them (though only once in a real dive of a place). I've seen some that feature a door or panel, where you can decide if you want the gloryhole open or closed. Some holes are crude, as if other people spent hours digging away at the wall with their pen knife. Some have been professionally cut between the booths. I've seen them vary in size from about as big around as a fist to being the size of a dinner plate. A few have been too low for me (I'm rather tall). I've read complaints about some places where guys thought the holes were too tall for short guys. + **Okay, inside, the door is locked, a movie is playing, now what?** If you're a guy hoping to suck some dick, whip it out! I know, that seems counterintuitive. If you're there to suck dick, why do you need to pull out YOUR dick? Simple answer. The guy getting into the booth next to you will probably take a peek to see what you're doing. If they see you with your dick out, then they know you mean business. +Mostly, you get inside your booth, pay your money, find a channel you like (most booths have a channel selector) and wait for someone to get into the booth next to you. Remember those guys standing in the hallway? Most of them saw you go into a booth. If they're interested, they'll get into the booth next to you. If they're not interested, then fuck'em. Wait until someone else shows up. Maybe you'll spend twenty minutes sitting in there; ready, willing and able. Maybe you'll do nothing more than close the door and you'll have a buddy next door. + **How do I let the other guy know I want to suck his dick?** Stick a couple fingers into the hole and wiggling them around. Sometimes, a guy might try shoving his tongue through a hole, but seriously, just a couple fingers will do. If the other guy is interested, he'll get the point. + **What if I want to do more?** Dude, that's on you. I go to suck and be sucked. If you want it up the ass, then I hope you brought condoms and lube. + **He wants to suck me, too!** Maybe. Some guys do, some guys don't. Up to you, champ. Some guys enjoy getting half a blowjob and leaving. Don't ask me why. I've been told (multiple times) that I'm very accomplished sucking dick, but maybe my style doesn't please everyone, I don't know. + **I'm a chick, can I visit one?** Hell yes! Have I seen it? Yes, but not very often. However, it DOES happen. Expect the most of the guys to be shocked seeing a woman in the hallway. They'll be curious and I'm willing to bet, very nice to you, too. + **Who goes to gloryholes?** Mostly, middled aged guys and mostly white guys (though that can vary depending on where you are). + **When is the best time to go?** I've found that lunch time is a great time to go. Mid-afternoons can be good. Right after work is alright, too. Think about it, most of the guys are married and sneaking away for a bit of a thrill that no one is ever going to know about. Most of the day Saturday can be good, too. + **Anything else?** Yes, buck up and go! Check one out. See what's happening. Maybe you'll just look around and not do anything and that's okay. Maybe you'll find a new hobby and that's okay, too. Mostly, though, use your common sense and have fun!" +889,Want To Get Laid On Your Travels?,Munachi,How To,2006-06-02,2006-06-02,2022-01-04 08:41:44,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/want-to-get-laid-on-your-travels,A few tips for adventurous vacations.,"['Beach', 'Dorm', 'Exotic', 'Exotic Location', 'Exotic People', 'Hostel', 'Hotel', 'International', 'Travel']",4.4,"If you frequent popular travel message boards on the internet, you will notice questions like: ""Which country in South America has the most beautiful women?"" ""What do you think of Italian men?"" or ""How can I best meet local girls in Poland?"" From this fact, one could assume that for quite a few people the prospect of sex in a foreign country is part of their motivation to travel. +It might be the hope, that finding someone, is somehow easier far away from home, the prospect of sex in particularly romantic locations, the idea of exotic beauties that are waiting just for you... or just the idea of combining two things a lot of people enjoy: sex and travel. +Be careful! The rules for social interaction are different in different places, and you should be aware of how to behave in order not to offend anyone. And, on the other hand, just because you are far away from home, things don't magically happen without any effort. If at home, you have trouble getting to know guys or girls, it might be even more difficult abroad. I have met people who seemed to be travelling for the sole reason of getting laid – and they all ended up disappointed. Travel for the travel experience, and view anything else as a bonus. +The following are a few tips on how to help things along a bit, and what to keep in mind if you have sexual encounters on your travels. They are, of course, from my limited experience and from what other people have told me; thus, they are by no means complete, and I take no responsibilities if they should not work out for you. Also, since I am a student, my travel experiences have taken place in budget traveller and backpacking surroundings, so my text is directed mainly to other backpackers. +There are different people you could have sex with abroad. The first one would be: + **Option 1: Your Travel Partner** +This of course works best, if your travel partner is your significant other, or at least someone you already have sex with on a regular basis. If not your significant other, please keep in mind that you will most likely still keep travelling with them for a while. A night of passion between ""just friends"" can lead to some very awkward feelings afterwards. Now imagine this awkwardness with someone you still plan to share hotel rooms with for the next three days or five weeks or seven months. +A few weeks of backpacking together even without sex has destroyed quite a few friendships – in the case of me and a the girl who used to be one of my best friends, three days in Vienna with her mother were enough. Sometimes you don't know how annoying someone is, until you are in a place where you can't escape them. And on the other hand sex even without the background of having to sit next to each other on a ten hour bus ride right after can be quite destructive for a friendship at times. So, imagine a combination of these two aspects. +If, on the other hand, your travel partner is your partner also at home, chances are good that you will really get laid on your travels – I don't think I need to advice you on any special seducing techniques because it is quite likely, that you know your partner better than I do. +But where to have sex with your partner? +You probably can see it in front of your inner eye: A beautiful beach, the sound of the waves, the sun setting behind palm trees, no one there except for you and your lover, you can taste the salt from your swim in the ocean still on each other's lips as you melt into a kiss that makes you one with nature... +My one and only try of having sex at a beach was very different to this: The beach was quite near to the center of Barcelona and everything but lonely, despite it being the middle of the night. We had a few drinks, a swim (please don't copy this, swimming when you are drunk can be quite dangerous, even more so at night when you can't be seen), and then got comfortable on the sand. Or in the sand. Or the sand on us. And in us. In the end, the sand stuck everywhere, and we gave up, as people walked by about ten meters from us. If I ever try this again, I will not only look for a beach that is truely lonely, but I will also at least bring a blanket. +Should your travel destination lie in the mountains at an altitude of more than 3000 meters, please remember the Bolivian saying _camine lentito, come poquito... y duerme solito_ (walk slowly, eat little... and sleep by yourself). Physically exhausting activities on your first days at high altitude can lead to altitude sickness, and that can be the case for long sex sessions too. Altitude sickness is no fun. Fortunately, the body usually adapts quickly, and after two or three days you can do all the hiking and have all the sex you want. +If you can't even wait until arrival at your destination, you could try to become a member of the Mile High Club during the journey (that is, if you travel by airplane). The most common place, I am told, would be the airplane's toilet. I can't imagine them to be too comfortable or have a very erotic atmosphere. Also, the people queuing outside might not be very happy with your blocking of the hygienic facilities, but I heard there is a certain thrill to doing it in the air. +Otherwise, the more conventional option is in your hotel, pension or hostel. A lot of hostels have a few double rooms, otherwise a cheap hotel might be a good idea: people who have sex in dorms generally aren't popular with fellow travelers. Apart from that, I enjoy sex a lot more if I can be as loud as I want. Then again, some people _are_ as loud as I want to – in one hostel I once stayed at, another guest told me how she couldn't close an eye the past night, because an Italian couple in the dorm next to hers (not her own!) had such a loud and long sex session. Just think of how loud it must have been for the people in the same dorm! Interestingly, I had had sex with my boyfriend in our dorm the very same night, but the friend we were travelling with slept through it (or never complained to us, but he isn't the type not to say anything.) If you really can't afford more than two dorm beds (though in a lot of places double rooms in a run down hotel catering to locals are cheaper than hostels, whose guests are mainly foreigners), waiting until everyone left the rooms to do some sightseeing might be the nice thing to do. +One thing that might be good to know about, is your destination's attitude to public displays of affection. They might be less accepted than at home, and it is a good idea to not offend the locals by openly kissing and feeling each other up in the middle of the street. After all, travelling is also about cultural experience, not about imposing your own customs everywhere. Sex in public places gets you into trouble almost everywhere in the world when you get caught – and the definition of where sex or offensive behavior starts might vary. +In a few places, unmarried couples might have difficulties getting a room together, but in most of the world it should not be a problem. + **Advantages:** +If you absolutely must have sex on your travels to call it a successful vacation, then travelling with your partner might be the safest bet. If you have sex on a regular basis at home, why wouldn't you do so abroad as well? And travelling together could spice up your sex life. It could be a new motivation for those that are starting to lose interest, a time to focus on each other, and a way to escape the everyday stress of your lives. +Also, travelling in Two can turn out cheaper per person than travelling by yourself: You can get double rooms instead of singles, and the taxi or private guide you would pay full price for even when you are alone usually doesn't get more expensive when there are two of you. + **Disadvantages** +While this option means you will have sex in new locations, your sex partner will still be the same one as always. Which might not be what you meant by new experiences... Especially if you don't have a partner, travelling with one might not be possible. +Travelling together, especially when you are still a new couple and don't yet even live together, can be a strain on the relationship – I mentioned the difficulties of travelling with friends above, and the same can apply to couples that aren't used to seeing so much of each other yet. +On a backpacking journey you are very close to each other, very often and for a long time. You share rooms, sit next to each other on busses, go sightseeing together, etc. You just might realize that the person you believed to love so very much, has some very annoying habits. Chose well whom you travel with. This is also true for travelling with people you aren't sexually involved with – but in that case at least, you could decide to split ways and meet again at the end of the journey. If a couple does this, it might feel like a defeat that is difficult to cope with later on, and could be the end of your relationship. + **Option 2: Other Travelers** +As I said above, I am referring mainly to backpackers and budget travelers, thus I will speak about people who go to hostels or cheap hotels. For those that prefer more expensive accommodation, things might be different; I wouldn't know though, as I can't afford expensive hotels. +Of course you probably won't meet someone every night and in every hostel. And chances vary also according to where you are. I would suggest hostels rather than cheap hotels, and preferably dorm rooms, especially mixed dorms. You might not even have to venture very far to meet nice people then. Should you want the privacy of a single room (which admittedly has a lot of advantages if you succeed in meeting someone to have sex with) I would suggest a hostel or hotel with a good common area. +Smaller hostels seem best to me, not only for the sake of meeting guys/girls. One of my favorite hostels was a tiny place somewhere in Australia, not more than 20 people were staying there, and after about a day I knew everyone by name. Another one, in Seville in Spain, was not much bigger, and while it had no real dorms (four beds was the maximum) it had a beautiful, typically Andalusian patio full of plants and armchairs. Every day after sightseeing I would sit there for a while to relax and chat with the other guests as they returned from their own trips into the city centre. In the evening, we would sit there for a while, one of us playing guitar, and then part into little groups in which we went into various pubs and flamenco bars. Or one in Southern Chile that had a living room with an open fire place around which we would all gather to warm up from the hiking we had done during the day... you get the idea. You should have a chance to meet people. +This isn't to say no one ever made friends or had a one night stand or met the love of their life in a big, anonymous hostel. It's just a bit more difficult. Of course the hostel isn't the only place to meet fellow travelers. Cities that are popular with backpackers often have bars that cater mainly to foreign guests, and maybe you meet the right person on a guided tour or while you are sightseeing by yourself, or even while you are hiking. +The good thing about meeting people on your travels is that it is easier to start a conversation than it might be in a bar back home. There is always something to talk about: ""How long have you been here?"" ""Where are you going to next?"" ""Did you like this or that place, is it worth going there?"" and before you know it you are in the middle of a conversation. A few questions about the life back home can help you find out, if the person of your interest has a boyfriend/girlfriend back home. +The hostels, bars, tours on offer in different places aren't always ideal though. Obviously, in a popular travel destination there will be more travelers, more hostels, and more parties. In regions that only see a handful of tourists at a time hostels might be a scarcity. The thing about party places and tourist hot spots is, though, that everyone goes there. They often aren't exactly adventurous. If sex and parties are the main purpose of your travels they are great, but else they could get old quite quickly. For me variety works best. After a few weeks far away from everyone and everything I enjoy the party places. After a few days there, though, I want to flee them again. +Mostly, things work like they would at home – that also means keeping in mind that abroad a no is still a no, and that you should be sensitive about reading signs. Not every single traveler is just waiting for you to chat him/her up, but according to my experience, people are less shy and somewhat more open to no-strings sex while travelling. This might be due to the relaxed atmosphere in a hostel, the fact that most people want to have fun on their vacation, or maybe the knowledge of that you will all travel on into different directions the next day, and thus all actions seem to be without consequence. +In fact, though, there are consequences that exist abroad as well. So please be safe. If you are a girl, you probably don't want a baby from someone of whom you don't know much more than their first name and the fact that they are on a round the world tour. And if you are a guy, you don't want to have to wonder for the rest of your life whenever you see a child looking strangely like you. +Once I had an argument that lasted about 20 minutes with an Australian in a hotel room in Madrid, because I insisted on a condom, while he ""promised to have no STDs."" I should have left right away. Just because someone is a backpacker like you, doesn't mean they are safe from having STDs. It is likely that you are not the only person they have had sex with on their travels, and if they don't want to use a condom with you, it is very likely they have had sex without a condom with other strangers they met on their travels before. If you want to have sex while traveling, or see even the slightest possibility you might, then a pack of condoms belongs to your basic travel survival kit. Don't expect the other one to have them, unless you want to spend hours late at night in a strange town looking for an open pharmacy or a vending machine. If you buy them in the country, I would suggest to try to buy a well known brand – condoms are the wrong things to save money on. I could tell you several stories about the trouble I had with cheap no brand condoms from vending machines in Prague. Of course for the condoms in your backpack the usual precautions ascribe: Don't have them near any sharp objects, and if you travel in extreme climates avoid exposing them to heat or cold. + **Advantages** +Some of the advantages of getting it on with other travelers (versus locals, which I will talk about next) are obvious: In most cases you will have a language in common (usually English) and you will be from a somewhat similar cultural background, which helps in avoiding misunderstandings or very different ideas about morals. +Also, you both know you will take trains, busses or airplanes into different directions soon, and thus you know not to expect something beyond the moment. If you have been traveling for a while already, you probably have even gotten over exchanging email addresses with everyone you meet along the way. That helps not only avoiding complications with one person ending up to want more, but also in some cases makes the shock milder whenever the alcohol wears off and you realize who you are lying in bed next to. And you don't need to worry to run into them again each time you enter your local bar. Though I wouldn't be too sure, if they travel a similar route to yours they just might have the dorm bed next to yours in the next town. +On the other hand, I know people who have found the love of their life this way, and adapted their travel route in order to be able to spend more time together. + **Disadvantages** +As said above, I know people who have found the love of their life this way. However, this love of their life often did not live in the same country as them. And often did not have the same travel plans as them either. So after a few days they had to say good bye. And either that was it, or what followed was a long distance relationship – which in some cases lead to one of them finally moving to the other's country, but in other cases did not work out. +One of the most difficult problems is where to have sex. If both of you travel by themselves, you are very likely to both be staying in dorms – and I have already written about the difficulties of having sex in dorms. You could book a private room, but a lot of backpackers I met are chronically low on money. So, in the end, you might have to resort to the dorm or other places in the hostel after all. The hostels own policy to people having sex in their dorms can vary, btw. In a hostel I stayed at in Spain, they had separate dorms for men and women, and when they found me late at night in the boys' dorm (Where I wasn't doing anything but talking to one of the guys), I was told I had to leave the hostel the next day. In a hostel in Bucharest, on the other hand, I found signs on the walls, saying that they find it quite okay and normal if people have sex during their stay, but they ask them to please keep the noise down. Interestingly, I had sex in the first hostel – in the women's shower with the water running, which we hoped would keep the male night guard out – but not in the second one. +Also, of course, a fellow traveler might not be as exotic to you as the locals, if it's exoticness you are after. And you aren't that exotic to them, either. + **Locals** +To some, this might be the most interesting thing about sex abroad: The idea of people exotically beautiful men or women, who are all you miss at home, and who are waiting just for you to come visit their country. +Reality can be different, though. There you are, abroad, but somehow the only locals you get to talk to are your tourist guides and the guy at the hostel reception. Or you do meet more locals, but no one seems to speak English (I have met people that seemed honestly surprised at the fact that not everyone in the world does.) +Now, the easiest way to meet locals that are willing to have sex with you, would probably be professionals. That, however, might not what you are after – after all it takes the whole aspect of having conquered a foreign girl/guy out of it, and you could have saved the money for the flight and invested it back home. Also, I am somewhat torn on that issue: On one hand I am not by principle, against prostitution, on the other hand I see problems, when it comes to poor countries, especially countries with a reputation for sex tourism. Often the prostitutes are very young, and not voluntary in the situation they are in. Even if they are old enough the question remains whether they are working in that area only because they didn't have any other chance (and in that case I would prefer to do things that help the local economy and give more people the chance to do different kinds of work). If you anyway want to go to prostitutes on your travels, I can't advice you a lot because you very likely have more experience with them than me. +If you plan to hit on locals, it is a good idea to know a lot about the country's culture. In some places openly flirting with local women can be seen as very offensive and could get you in trouble. Or a woman, who indicates sexual interest in local men, could be seen as something she doesn't want to be called. And it isn't the local's job to adapt to the tourist's culture – it's the other way around. So please, know where you are and behave accordingly. +Misunderstandings can't always be avoided in a place, whose language you don't speak. I met a guy in a hostel in Bangkok, who told me that a few nights ago he had found a nice bar, full of beautiful Thai girls and visited mainly by foreign men. He had a fun evening there, though nothing further than a kiss with a girl happened. The next day he returned, this time with a friend. He ended up talking to one of the girls, who after a while stood close enough to him for him to feel something that made him realize she wasn't really a she. A bit surprised, he asked her, whether she was a ""lady boy"", as he put it. ""Of course,"" was the answer. ""We are all lady boys here. This is what this bar is about. Didn't you know?"" He hadn't known, and now turned around to his friend to tell him – but he saw him in a very deep kiss with another Thai beauty, and decided to just not tell him... +In some towns a lot of locals seem to hang out at popular tourist bars. When I lived in Prague there were some Czech girls that could always be found at the places most English-speaking ex-pats and tourists went to. The locals that visit mainly tourist bars are usually quite interested in meeting foreigners, so it is easy to get to know them. Their motives vary. Some are interested in getting to know people from a different country, since they might not have the opportunity to travel themselves, they might want to learn about different cultures this way. Or they might have been abroad and now want to keep in touch with the culture of the country they have been to by specifically seeking out people from there. Maybe they also want to practice their English. +In some cases it might be specifically about sex. In countries where they are seen as ""exotic"" due to their looks, some women might complain that it becomes annoying to be hit on constantly. Of course not everything we might interpret as a come-on in our country really is the same in another country. A friend of mine complained about how sleazy the men in Romania were. I was confused: While I had been whistled after and hit on there a few times, not always by someone I was interested in myself, I hadn't noticed anything that I would see as annoying. It is possible that she met different men than I did; or maybe I don't seem as interesting as her – though I don't want to think so. On my next travels to Romania I gave some attention to the issue, and realized that I did get a lot of compliments that could be seen as flirty, especially from older men – but I had just put it down to being a different behaviour due to a different culture. In Germany, where I am from, people tend to be quite distant, and it can be rude to say certain things to someone you barely know – these same things elsewhere can be part of normal social interaction. It works both ways of course, so once again, you should know at least some things about local customs when abroad in order to not appear too forward or too reserved. +Still, I must admit there are places, where the constant whistles a woman travelling by herself can get, start to be annoying. For such cases, a few phrases in the local language might help to get rid of unwanted attention, though sometimes it is preferable to not say anything, but rather just ignore them. Of course, the usual precautions apply not only for women, and not only for those that look like obvious foreigners: Don't be too trusting of people you just met, and don't walk around alone at night in lonely or dodgy areas. +Unfortunately, sometimes the motives of locals hanging out in the typical tourist bars might not be what you want, though: In Peru these people are often referred to as ""Bridgeros"" from the English word ""bridge"" – they are trying to build themselves a bridge into your wallet or into your country. This doesn't mean you should be suspicious of everyone. You should just be aware of this fact and have an eye on your belongings (and on your drink!) when with people you don't know well – this is true in fact also for when you are with fellow travelers. +In general, I find the topic of ""Bridgeros"" to be quite a mine field. There are people, who will pretend to be in love, in order to get married abroad. Is that bad? A friend of my family brought home a girl from his travels, he was happy to finally have found love, and half a year later she was gone: with a different guy she met here. However, this happens all the time, also when someone didn't follow someone else to their country. Often there are true feelings, though the passport you carry might help them. In such a case, is it bad? And of course, far from everybody dreams to move to your country. Suspecting these motives whenever a vacation flirt becomes more serious would do a lot of people injustice. If, however, a vacation flirt is all you are after, it is good to make it clear. +Typical tourist hang-outs aren't the only places to meet locals, though. Just be aware that the more you move out of the zone where there are more foreigners than inhabitants of the country you are in, the more you are on their ground and should behave according to their rules. That can be part of the cultural experience. Some of the greatest events of my travels where when local friends took me along to parties – I had a chance to see the local culture from up close, and on some occasions met a lot of people who had never spoken to a foreigner before, and thus had genuine interest in speaking to me. + **Advantages** +Having a one night stand, a holiday flirt, or a long term relationship with someone from a different culture can be an interesting experience that could help you see your own culture in a different light as well. It is, somehow, something special, at least to me. I must admit I am a bit of a rare case in that I have been with more people that were _not_ from my country than with those that were – though I met not all of them while travelling. Somehow, there is a special kick to having sex with someone ""exotic"" (though one should be careful with that term, maybe, after all exotic is a very vague concept). +You, in turn, can also be ""exotic"" to the people you meet on your travels – and that could make them more interested in you. At home you might look like everyone else (of course everyone looks different, but you know what I mean), but just what makes you so normal at home could be seen as different and sexy abroad. Of course this doesn't mean going abroad will make everyone drool over you, but being a foreigner can give you some extra points, though this varies a lot depending on the country you are in and on whom you talk to. +If you are at your travel destination for a longer time, chances are the girl or guy you met there will be there during that time too – unlike another tourist, who might leave a lot earlier than you to go home or travel on. + **Disadvantages** +Even so, there will come a time when you have to say good bye. If all you wanted was a one night stand, this will be no problem. If, however, your adventure became something deeper, this might be very painful. Having stayed in various countries for extended amounts of time, I had to go through this process more than once, and more than once I was tempted to let everything be and just stay. I never did, though instead I cried the whole flight and then some more on the lonely evenings in Germany, where it always seems to be cold and rainy anyway... +The danger of misunderstandings due to different cultural background is of course higher. And maybe you don't even speak the same language. So maybe you are very sure you made it clear you don't want more than a fling – but has the other one really understood? The rules around dating and sex-etiquette can vary even within the same country depending on your circle of friends, or from city to countryside, or from more to less conservative background. That's even truer when it comes to other countries. + **Conclusions** +Combining sex and travel is fun. You are on vacation, you want to have a great time, so why not. However, don't set your mind onto that you must have sex on your vacation. Don't plan your travels around it – if it doesn't work out you might be quite disappointed. Instead, just have fun. +Now, you might ask, but where are the most beautiful women? And where are the best looking men? +You can probably already guess my answer – nowhere and everywhere. I am not a big fan of this question, because it is bound to stir feelings of national pride (yes, quite a few countries pride themselves with having the ""most beautiful women""), jealousy, and rejection... +In the end, beauty is a matter of taste, and if you are into blondes you might prefer Swedish women or men to those from Brazil, but someone else might be of a completely different opinion. And in the end each of them might find the most beautiful person in the world in the country they least expected them in." +890,Want to PM That Litster Lady?,RedHairedandFriendly,How To,2012-02-04,2012-02-04,2022-01-04 08:41:46,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/want-to-pm-that-litster-lady,Suggestions on how to get a more positive response from a PM.,"['Cyber', 'Cybering', 'Dating', 'Forums', 'Messaging', 'Private', 'Texting']",4.52,"Please read the following disclaimer: +This is only my opinion. +This is not a 100% sure thing and I cannot, nor do I guarantee success. +This is not going to cover every type of woman. +This is meant to be helpful, but it may not help at all. +This is advice that could work for both genders. +Once you are able to accept this, feel free to continue reading. If you can't and you think you're about to read the magic carpet book of how to fuck a Lady Litster, you are so wrong. +I've posted on the bulletin boards of Lit., since around May 2005, a month after joining the site. The bulletin boards, for those that aren't familiar with them, are similar to a mega-store or even a mega mall. You walk in and you are bombarded with various sites and tantalizing treats that make your heart race and your breath catch. +The beginning of this How To can be seen as a course for newbies; if you already know how to navigate the forums, you don't need the first few paragraphs and you can feel superior while reading them. +First, let's point something out. If you are not a registered member, you don't need this How To, because it will only work if you have an account with the site. It's free, so hop to it! The second thing, a PM is a Private Message between you and whomever you are communicating with. +The bulletin boards, upon first entry may blow your mind, so before posting take a minute to peruse the forums. There are several tabs at the top of the screen. If you aren't already there, click the ""HOME"" tab and you'll see a list entitled ""Main Literotica Forums"". Under that you'll find several forum titles, choose one that interests you and click on it. +For this submission, we'll click on ""Literotica Personals"". This link will slide you into one of the more popular places that women frequent. There are three sub-forums: The Playground, GLBT Personals, and the BDSM Personals. There will also be a list of thread titles available in the Literotica Personals forum. +Since, I am more familiar and comfortable in the forum titled ""The Playground,"" we'll be using that one for this little read. After clicking the sub-forum of said title, you'll be shown a new heading: Threads in Forum: The Playground. +This is where you can usually find me, if you're looking for me. But this isn't about me. It's about you and helping YOU become more comfortable about PMing women you don't know. +Pick a title that draws your interest and slip into it. Today I've chosen: Word Association for the Dirty Mind. I click it and see that the rules (found in the first post) explain that the poster is to read the last post and reply with the first dirty/naughty word that they can think of in response to the last one given. It sounds simple enough, so I post. +Eventually the post is answered, and I post again, over and over the game is played. In time, though I decide to go to another thread that has a catchy title. When I have done this enough times, someone may find themselves drawn to my posts, and they decide to send me a Private Message. +You would think that my heart would do a somersault and I would be excited and nervous about receiving a message from someone I don't know. Is it a friend? An admirer? Another author? Who is it? The mystery however is short lived, since the PM message you get telling you about the PM has the sender's name on it. +Let's pretend I don't know the Lister and the name is unfamiliar to me. +Do I get excited? Aroused? Curious? +No. +I cringe. +I cringe because I receive many messages from various women and men on Lit.'s bulletin boards who are seeking only an opportunity to get into my cyber panties. These messages often come from individuals who have not posted on the boards, and show no desire to. They are also poorly constructed and often lack depth. +Some of the worst are the ones that make my eyes hurt from the strain of trying to read what exactly they are trying to say. Other messages come with links, or images of the senders' genitalia. I, like many posters on Lit., find these types of messages to be the most rude and crass of all messages. So before you hit that send button, make sure that you know the person you're sending it to wants to see those types of things. If you don't, you're likely going to leave empty-handed. +You should take the time to either post in a particular thread with the person you're interested in or you should lurk on the threads and find something they post that honestly draws your interest. Lurking on the thread is when you just sit at your computer and read various posts; you rarely if ever make a contribution to the forum at all. Lurking is not a smart way to get a PM answered. +With that said, you need to avoid post stalking -- another form of harassing a Litster. Post stalking involves posting after the particular lady of interest in every thread, all the time. It makes the Litster uncomfortable and you need to avoid following them. +When you PM someone, form complete and coherent sentences that make the woman feel she's more valuable to you than just a cyber fuck. You have to imagine Lit., as a high class bar and go in knowing that there is a woman in there that will take notice of you, if you show her respect. Don't assume because she's on an adult web site, that encourages writing and amateur pictures, that she's looking for a cyber lover. +Also, I don't care if you are PMing from your phone. I don't care if you don't have a full size, slide out keypad on your cell -- DO NOT send women a PM with text talk as your come on line! ""R U Hot 4 Me?"" Really, is that sexy? I don't think so. +If you know how to read this, you probably know how to form a complete sentence and/or thought. If not, you're going to do really poorly in the PMing Red and her friends department. +You've got the lady's interest by sharing with her what drew you to her. She's responded and has done so in a manner that doesn't read: ""Oh thank-you. Now fuck me, baby."" Instead she's simply thanked you for your kind words. +The simple thank-you response is a hard line to walk. Did she respond in a way that closes the conversation? Or did she respond in a way that leads you to send her another PM? +You don't know! That is the mystery of the PM game! +With trepidation you send her a message saying she's welcomed, and that you had also seen she had posted on xxx thread and you found her comment interesting. She may message you back, sharing why she wrote what she did, she may not. If you don't hear from her -- LEAVE HER ALONE! This is the virtual scene where the woman grabs her drink off the bar and walks away. You've not been invited to follow her, so don't. +This also means that you do not go back to the thread she was in and begin to bad mouth her or harass her, just because she didn't show you the interest you thought you were entitled to. Accept that she doesn't want to engage in friendly banter or sexual innuendo. Just be her friend on the board, and nothing else. A cyber fuck is a dime a dozen, a friend is a rare find. +If you're lucky, you refresh your page and she's answered you back! Your pulse is racing and your palms begin to sweat. The interest just may be mutual. So once again you must craft your words wisely. +Share with her something about yourself, don't lie. I know it's tempting, this is the internet and there is a sense of security that comes with it. You shouldn't lie in a high class bar, so why lie at Lit.? +The PM is sent and answered again! You're on cloud nine! +Take a moment to step away from the bar and look at the lady. Don't quickly PM her back and give her a list of your sexual fantasies or demand that she be subservient to your Dominate nature. Don't tell her to call you Daddy and DO NOT assign her a pet name without her permission! I advise you against sharing that you want her to spank you and make you call her Mistress. Rein the boys in and act like an adult, not like a virgin in a sex shop. +After conversing with the lady and discovering that you both have a lot in common, you may find yourself jealous over her posting with other men. You need to accept that this is going to happen. A woman loves attention and flirting online is a way to get it 24/7 and yes, some women are 24 hour flirts. It's who they are, and honestly what probably attracted you to her in the first place. So before you start thinking you've marked your territory with your PM pal, you need to find out if you are her only PM buddy. +Don't be surprised if she says no. There are no rules in PMing one person and one person only. +That is called exclusivity and that is something that must be discussed and agreed upon by both Litsters. If you don't clarify that is what you're looking for, then you have no rights what-so-ever in expecting her to give it to you. +So don't pound your chest and proclaim to all that she's your woman unless she gives you permission to do so. Another good thing to keep in mind is that she may ask the same of you. She may want you to be her one-and-only. Being a cyberslut can be a turn off to both genders. +Some of you may be thinking this is a lot of bullshit. The women of Literotica are only here for fast fucks and quick cums. They don't have substance, style or class. They just want to get off, as quickly as a man does. You'd be wrong. Most all the ladies that post on the boards are there for one reason and one reason only -- to talk to people. +The women you'll meet on the forums come from all walks of life, and all different backgrounds. Some are married, dating, or single. Others are looking for love, while others are just looking to pass the time. They are all educated women whether their education comes from the highest colleges in the land, or the school of hard knocks. Don't underestimate the intelligence level of these ladies. +A quick list of what was covered above and few things I may have not put into detail, but is good advice: + 1. Post or lurk and learn about the woman you're interested in (note I said woman -- not women) -- including reviewing her profile. + 2. Do not send out a mass PM to dozens of Lit. ladies (make the one feel special). + 3. Write in complete sentences, even if it means taking the time to form them on your phone. + 4. If she doesn't answer, do not bother her again. If she does, tread carefully. + 5. Engage in a friendly conversation and don't try to play inside her cyber panties without her ok. + 6. If things become intimate and you want exclusivity, you both must agree to it. + 7. Do not underestimate the intelligence of a Lady Litster. +For further help in how NOT to pick up women on Lit., please visit this thread: Your Best or Worst PM/IM Opening Lines... +Good luck! +~ Red +_Thanks to BradBigBrain for helping me with editing, suggestions on content, and formatting.Also, a big thank-you to the Ladies of Literotica, who read through my initial idea and offered insight from their own experiences with random PMs._" +891,We Finally Did IT!!,Johnsexlife,How To,2011-07-03,2011-07-03,2022-01-04 08:41:47,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/we-finally-did-it,First Swing and More.,"['Oral Sex', 'Pussy Eating', 'Swinging', 'Tripple Penetration']",3.73,"My wife of 7 years and I do a lot of fantasying during and before sex and we both get really turned on by Literotica stories especially if she thinks they are real. +A typical lovemaking session starts off with her reading Literotica stories to me while she strokes my erection with KY jelly. As she gets into the story she slips a vibrator into her pussy and as the story gets hotter she will climax several times. As the story ends she sucks my penis while inserting the vibrator into her pussy. She says if she lies on her stomach while sucking me the vibrator moves in and out of her until she has a mega orgasm which makes me immediately fill her mouth with tons of cum. +I have had a sheltered sex life but Chrissie has had a wild sex life since she was very young. I have convinced to tell me about all of the encounters she has had including 3 rapes, foursomes, threesomes, etc with well over 100 different men over the years. Needless to say I become very excited and tell her how I would love to see her getting screwed by several men. She keeps saying maybe someday but we both chicken out. +Chrissie often tells me the things she has done sexually are child's play compared to what her best friend Pam has done. When I ask her she says she can't get into the details but hints Pam and her husband Ryan may do a little discreet swinging. +The thought of us swinging with them really turns me on and knowing them I would bet that is all it would be sex for sex sake with no emotional repercussions after. +Finally after thinking about this for years I worked out a plan to make it happen and knew one is started rolling Chrissie would soon get into it with a passion. +One day I finally got the nerve to bring the subject up with Pam. I knew she had some unfulfilled sexual feeling about Chrissie and she might agree. +When I told Pam about the plan she seemed a little hesitant but soon got excited about the idea. +Because Chrissie was once into drugs and alcohol many, many years ago and often could not recall all the details of her younger sexual exploits because she was high we figured getting her high would do the trick. +The plan went well as we arrived at Pam's for the evening and she took out so strong pot. Chrissie wanted me to try it as I had never done it before. I said I would if she joined me, Pam, Ryan and Ryan's brother. Well we smoke up a storm and Chrissie was obviously high but maybe not high enough. Ryan's brother had some coke with him and Chrissie snorted a few lines. Wow she was flying. +She was seated on the couch between Ryan and his brother and in no time at all the three of them were kissing and groping each other as Pam and I watched. +Soon Ryan's hand was up Chrissie's shirt and he was massaging her clit as Ryan's brother had his hand in her blouse rubbing her large breasts. After about 15 minutes Chrissie had lost her panties, blouse and bra and was stroking Ryan's and his brothers' dicks as they rubbed her breasts and figure fucked her to her first orgasm of the evening. +Not to be left out I too had Pam naked and was sucking her cunt as she blew me in the classic 69 position. I quickly came in her mouth and she then went to eat Chrissie's cunt as Chrissie had Brian's cock in her mouth and his brother's cock in her hand. +I could never make Chrissie come orally and she said no man had ever made her come but Pam had her coming over and over again gently licking her clit while slowly fucking her with a realistic dildo that was at least 9 inches long. Meanwhile Brian offered his cock to Chrissie and she gladly started sucking & stoking it. You see sucking cock is her favorite thing to do and she secretly always wanted to suck Brian off. Chrissie was soon massaging Brian's ball and shaft until he just exploded into her mouth. Chrissie loved it and sucked him for another 5 minutes to get it all. As soon as Brian pulled out of her mouth his brother replaced him and he too soon pulled out and came all over her beautiful breasts. Within seconds Brian and Pam were liking the cum from Chrissie's breast as Brian's brother finger fucked her to another orgasm. +God I never had been so hard in my life. I quickly buried my cock into Pam and fucked her until we both came. Meanwhile Chrissie was being fucked by Brian from behind as she blew his brother for a second time. Chrissie was loving it and kept telling Brian to fuck her deeper and faster. You could see Chrissie's cunt juice pouring down her thighs. Like the grand finale at the Fourth of July fireworks display all five of us seemed to orgasm at the same time. +The party was not over yet as the four of us would take Chrissie on at the same time. Ryan's brother had Chrissie lower herself on his erection as Brian slid his cock into Chrissie ass. I got down between Chrissie and Ryan's brother to lick both her cunt and Ryan's brother's balls as Pam straddled Chrissie face to let her eat my come out of Pam's cunt. +We stayed the night and she sex was nonstop. +At breakfast the next morning Pam & Brian told us they were regular swingers belonging to a group of 12 professional couples whom are tested for STDS weekly and would like us to join them as regulars that evening. I got an immediate erection hoping that Chrissie would agree even though the pot and coke had worn off. She glanced over at my erection smiled and said absolutely YES. +That night the four of us drove to a large home on a nearby lake to meet the group. As advertised they were all professionals and pillars of the community. +Mary the hostess explained the rules to us and we agreed. She said they had a tradition that the female member of the new couple would have sex with all of the men there as the others cheered on but this was strictly voluntary and not mandatory. +Chrissies eyes light up as she quickly glanced at the twelve men ranging in age from late 20's to late 50's whom were all sporting obvious erections. She quickly disrobed and said "" What are you waiting for take me"" I almost came in my pants. +The group led Chrissie to ""the playroom"" which was covered my 8 king-size mattresses. The host a famous local attorney was the first to enter Chrissies pussy and slowly entered her with the largest cock I had ever seen at least 12 inches as a local surgeon entered her mouth. Chrissie was really into it and she soon not only had a cock in her mouth & cunt but also her ass and one in each hand. In less than 45 minutes she had fucked, sucked or jerked off all 12 men. Cum was oozing from her ass, mouth & cunt. Her breasts, face and stomach were drenched in sticky cum. +As the men finished with Chrissie the women now all naked joined Chrissie on the mattress licking every drop of cum off her entire body. As they kissed her, licked her cunt, breast, face and stomach. Chrissie then had a shattering orgasm which lasted all of ten minutes. +Needless to say we are now regular club members." +892,Weapons of Mass Seduction,herecomestherain,How To,2003-11-19,2003-11-19,2022-01-04 08:41:48,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/weapons-of-mass-seduction,Wear something sexy and encourage your lover to undress you.,"['Beautiful Desirable', 'Dress Makes', 'Erotic Tension', 'Love', 'Lover Feel', 'Sexy Lingerie', 'Taking Time', 'Undressed Slowly']",4.58,"""The prettiest dresses are worn to be taken off"" Jean Cocteau +There's no doubt about it. Playfulness and a sense of adventure in the bedroom are very attractive traits. Dressing up in sexy lingerie and bedroom wear is an opportunity for a woman to be playful, to feel very beautiful, to explore the power of desire and of being desired. It's a chance to play dress ups, to become the boudoir mistress, the siren or the virginal bride. +Wearing something glamorous and sexy everyday boosts your self esteem and helps you to get in the mood for a hot evening ahead. It doesn't need to be big budget. In the right hands a garment as simple and innocent as a white slip can be transformed into a weapon of mass seduction. Think Elizabeth Taylor in her sizzling performance as Maggie in the 1958 film Cat On A Hot Tin Roof. +Go out to dinner or to the movies wearing gorgeous stockings, no panties, and you'll be reminded of your near nakedness every time you sit down…This secret knowledge is a powerful aphrodisiac. It's great for building anticipation, awareness of your body, driving your lover wild and just plain turning yourself on. +Experiment with the kinds of fabrics you wear. In talking with women friends, I'm surprised how specific and varied preferences and tastes are when it comes to sexy bedroom wear. Some folks love soft, slippery, shiny satin. Lots of men love the wispy see through effect of sheer fabrics. Anything in tight, clingy fabric does it for others, and a combination of all of the above seems pretty popular too. +Sexy garments are not only a treat for the viewer. Wearing sensuous fabrics is a real pleasure for the wearer. Soft plush velvet feels so beautiful and lace with its tantalising glimpses of what lies below can make a woman feel and look just gorgeous. Slinky micro fibre garments tease the bare skin, like being caressed by soft hands. Silk has a luxurious skin like quality and the wonderful ability to capture a woman's special scent like no other cloth. +The gorgeous thing about sexy lingerie and bedroom wear is that you don’t need to be model thin to look sensational. You do need to enjoy what you're wearing and feel comfortable. Nothing surpasses the sexiness of a self confident woman who is literally comfortable in her own skin. Feeling beautiful, desirable and sexy in your own head actually makes you beautiful, desirable and sexy. +If you are on the curvy side like me there is a great opportunity to play it up. One of my favourite outfits is a very simple A- line lacy short chemise style slip that works like a dream every time! Check out some of the websites of lingerie suppliers who cater for larger sizes. These women look amazing, all rounded and curvy, making the most of their great assets. Cleavage can be hard to resist! Maybe you love your legs, your shoulders or breasts, find ways to show off, emphasise and enjoy your best bits. +Taking the time to dress up makes your lover feel great because you've made an effort especially for them. Gentlemen remember to compliment your lover when she's gone to the effort to dress up. Be specific about what you love about her. Compliment her, not just the clothing. ""You look so hot in that…"" +A quick word on practicalities. I absolutely love gorgeous stay up stockings. Girls if you can, buy the ones at about 20 denier as they'll withstand a little rough and tumble, last longer and look and feel just as fabulous as the super sheer 10 denier that won't survive the touch of one calloused hand. Gentlemen we love the big strong hands but they can be lethal on fine hosiery, please keep your nails trimmed. +And finally to the fun bit…the undressing part… +Dr Jack Morin in his wonderful book, The Erotic Mind says ""Clothing acts as a concealment, cloaking the treasures underneath…Passions sometimes demand that clothes be unceremoniously ripped out of the way. For many people, however, the transition from fully clothed to completely naked (or semi naked) is much more exciting when it is slow and deliberate."" Listen up ladies and gentlemen because Dr Jack knows what he's talking about. +Many people, especially women like to be undressed slowly. Very, very slowly. It is both very erotic and tantalizing. It also sort of suggests that you are valued and worth taking time over. Savour and enjoy each moment. +Slowness and restraint can be incredibly erotic. One of the sexiest and most memorable film scenes I've ever seen is in Jane Campion's 1993 film, The Piano. Campion builds scenes where the erotic tension is excruciating. Who can forget the spellbinding moment when Harvey Keitel puts just his one of his fingers on the leg flesh showing through the small hole in Holly Hunter's thick black stocking? Or when he kisses her neck above the very modest collar of her dress as she plays the piano for him? +In other movies in historical settings, heavily dressed woman are sent into a swoon when their amorous admirers peel back a glove to kiss the soft silky skin on the inside of their wrist, very intimate and deliberate. In glove wearing times a simple ""naked"" handshake was a risqué thrill. Remember that sometimes little, subtle gestures can be very moving and erotic. +Just to restate important information for lovers of women…most women love to be slowly undressed or partially undressed, slowly being the key here. The key points; + ***** Great seduction is about building anticipation and erotic tension. + ***** Women enjoy being kissed through fabric, flesh being revealed by degrees, kissed as it is revealed. + ***** Touch over fabric then under, kiss and touch along the lines of where clothing meets flesh instead of diving right in. + ***** Don't be in a hurry to take it all off, leave something on for that delicious semi dressed, more naked than naked feeling… + ***** Lift a hem line slowly to reveal a smooth thigh just waiting to be stroked. + ***** Play with shoulder straps, is there anything more gorgeous than having a lover shift a shoulder strap to one side just to place a little kiss on the flesh under? +The next time you're with your lady love, spend a little more time in this highly sensitive but sometimes neglected area. + ***** Kiss along the tops of a shoulder, along collar bones, around the nape of the neck. + ***** Gently nip at that spot where shoulder meets neck, this is heavenly seduction at its best. + ***** Slowly peel away a sleeve to reveal a smooth rounded shoulder, lavish some love here. +This is a very beautiful and erotic way to make your lover feel cherished and desired. Trust me you will be repaid, your efforts will be rewarded! +As the seduction proceeds…""Soon she won't object to fingers that stray under her skirt-hem and linger at her lightly knotted waistband; when her eyes are dreamy and her breathing's harsh send the servants away"" Mallyana Vatsyayana (2nd century) The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana; 2nd century) +Don't let the world tell you that's its just men who are the ""visual"" sex, one of the sexiest sights in our bedroom is the view I get kneeling up facing my lover, looking down to see his hand disappearing between my knees, under my slip... there is something very forbidden and downright naughty about having a hand up your dress. It makes me feel very womanly, wanton and desirable. I love it! +Taking license with one of my favourite quotes…remember that ""women take longer to undress because they need to slow down for the curves."" Slow down and have fun negotiating those dangerous curves! + _Please leave feedback, I'd love to hear about your experiences and what you think of this article._" +893,The Weekend,AnnHara,How To,2015-10-25,2015-10-25,2022-01-04 08:40:36,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/the-weekend-35,Ann enjoys a wild weekend of solo sex.,"['Creative', 'Masturbation', 'Vibrators']",3.74,"Ann smiled coyly and responded with a warm, ""Wonderful thanks. And how was your weekend?"" when her coworkers asked how her weekend was. She yearned to share the details but knew that would blow the minds of her staid coworkers. They would never be able to imagine what a literally wonderful ""fucking"" weekend it had been. Ann had taken the entire weekend and spent it on herself. From the moment, she got home Friday until she left for work on Monday, She focused on solely on herself and her pleasure. +First thing Ann did was pull all the curtains and strip off her clothes. She had made a sexual to do list that she perused for the most tempting options. She turned on the play list that she had made with songs specifically for masturbation. Then, she got down to business. +Her list had activities for every room. Ann chose to start in the bedroom. She had read earlier about bondage and masturbation. The thought intrigued her. She had fantasized about being bound and at the mercy of a lover, but had never tried it. Carefully, she bound one leg to right bedpost and the other to the left bedpost making sure the knots were tight. She felt exposed, but in a good way. Forced into a spread eagle position, she began to have fun. She started with her fingers paying special attention to her clitoris, rubbing it to and fro. She began to feel the blood rush to her organs. Quickly, She switched to the massager She had purchased earlier in the day. Starting with the low setting, Ann moved the massager slowly up and down and across her vulva. She began to grow increasingly warm and her pelvis began to tighten. She switched the massager to high and held it directly over her clitoris. Bam! It hit. She felt her thighs try to tighten against the massager, but they were held open. Her body began to jerk. Her ankles hurt as she tried to close in to no avail. She felt herself shaking as she came. Ann moaned in intense pleasure. This was going to be a very, very good weekend. +Next, Ann moved to the living room, where she began to engage in more traditional pursuits. Laying a towel out to protect the couch. She laid down and began to play with her massager. First, She turned it on low and moved it slowly up and down over her clitoris. Carefully paced she paced herself. When she could feel the tension rising, she turned off the massager for a minute. She laid their exposed and shaking gently. She wanted it so bad, but she held off knowing the pleasure would be stronger the more she waited. Her hands kept moving down and she would hold them back. Finally, when she could stand it no longer, she turned the massager back on. She increased the speed to high. She continued to move it slowly up and down, up and down her clit, until she could barely stand it. Again, she turned it off and waited. When the moment was unbearable, she turned it on and held it directly over her clit applying pressure as she did, until she began to shake all over. Her whole body and mind where fused into one mighty convulsion. Then it was over, she lay there spent and content. +After a quiet interlude, Ann was at it again. This time she am on the rocking chair. Ann had set up a mirror before the rocking chair, so she could watch the show. It was like your own free porn. She had to laugh at some of the faces she made. The rocking of the chair and the rhythm of the massager complemented each other beautifully. She took breaks and fingered herself to make the experience last longer. Watching her fingers glide over her womanhood was weird at first, but then she really got into it. It was beautiful to watch and the look of bliss on her face. Much better than chocolate. +Saturday was a day of exploration. The guest bedroom is where she keep her art supplies, so she decided to get creative in there. Once, again Ann stripped. She grabbed a paintbrush and chose a bright yellow paint and brown. She proceeded to paint her large and pendulous breasts. The brush tickled as she gently began to paint. While painting the brown around her nipples, she began to swell in other regions. Still she focused on her art. The result was two enormous beautiful sunflowers. Then she laid back ignoring the mess she was making. Laying among the paint, she took the largest paint brush she could find and began to explore her womanhood. The brush tickled at first and then felt luscious as she swirled it around. Sufficiently aroused, she turned the brush around and thrust it into her vagina. It was too little, so she grabbed a handful of brushes and stuck them all in. That was better. The different brushes hitting in different places at the same time, again and again, felt stunning. The paint on her back was cool to the touch, but the liquid dripping down her legs was hot. She was a beautiful, hot, mess. Nothing to do, but to clean up +The bathroom had always been one of her favorite places. There is nothing like a long hot shower to relax you after a hard day. Already naked, she stepped in and unscrewed the shower head. The stream of warm water gushed out. Quickly, she repositioned the spray up toward her vulva. The warm, wet sensation made her weak in the knees. Ann leaned back against the shower wall. With one hand, she held the shower hose. With the other hand, she gently pulled back her labia and directed the water directly at her clitoris. In no time, she began to tingle and quiver. In the heat of the moment, Ann cried out, ""Oh my goodness!"" over and over. The wave subsided but she kept the water shooting toward her clit. Ann waited and then it happened again. She came again. Just as strong as the first time. She shook all over and screamed in ecstasy. Thank heavens the neighbors were not home. Finally, she leaned back against the shower wall exhausted, yet proud. What a truly glorious experience! +This is by no means the sum of her weekend, but it gives you a taste. Even as she writes this, she felt the blood rushing downward. An early lunch may be in order. She is on the menu." +894,Welcome Back to Hell,Noira,How To,2012-01-17,2012-01-17,2022-01-04 08:41:50,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/welcome-back-to-hell,How to write draft two of a novel.,"['Editing', 'Novel', 'Story', 'Writing']",4.83,"_Writing the second draft of your novel._ +Finally finished? Blissful freedom? That's not a light at the end of a tunnel, that's an oncoming train. +If you have just finished writing your novel, set it down, take a step away, and lock that sucker in a cupboard. Seal it up with chains. Light it on fire. Destroy it. You thought you had to tear your soul out the last round? Welcome to round two, where your novel comes back from the dead with a vengeance and stomps upon the heart analogy gifted to you by a wonderful wizard (who, might I note, will not edit your novel for you. He isn't that wonderful). + **Step one: A novel is like a fine wine. (It might also make you whine.)** +Give your novel a bit of time to sit and stew. Like a good wine, like a good soup, like a good _many_ things, a novel needs a little bit of time. It'll let the characters mingle like the oh so magnificent flavors of a good chowder and the fermentation process will do one other thing: it'll let you forget. You need a little bit of time to forget how much it hurt to tear your heart into pieces and mash it onto the page. You need a bit of time to forget how much you hate that scene. Right now, you're emotionally attached to your novel and you need to cut the strings and drown your sorrows in a pot of tea. +Come back when you're sober. Didn't know you could get drunk on tea? Try writing a novel. You can get drunk on anything as long as the words are flowing. +The time you need to take depends on just how involved you were with the novel. Trust me when I say you need the time to forget that you hate this scene and this character, or the red pen will come on too strong. Trust me when I say you need time to forget how much you loved this character and this scene. +The second draft is cruel. There is no exact length of time. A week, a month, a half a year. Come back when you can read your novel with fresh eyes, and be excited to read a sentence you'd entirely forgotten. + **1.5:** +Don't take too long to pick up your novel again, though. While it's exciting to read it as though it were someone else's story, you need to keep a little bit of the enthusiastic attitude from completing a work of art as well. Editing is a tough job. I would not personally wait more than a year, for fear of new and exciting sirens calling from the swamp. +Who wants to do the chore of editing when you have a new universe to unfold? + **Step Two: Meet your new best friend.** +No matter how you wrote your novel in round one, you're about to be acquainted to someone you might not like very much: Mr. Outline. Our friendly neighborhood synopsis will help you control your story in draft two. Where draft one might have been a wild explosion of character diarrhea onto a page, creating an outline is going to help you tame that stomach bug into something a little more controllable. +So write out a play by play outline of your first draft if you didn't write one to begin with and take a look at the cards. Novels follow a few standard patterns and that cohesive plot foundation is going to be what you're building draft two on: the beginning, the middle, the climax, and the end. +You might have fifty-seven subplots, but you need to be able to find a controlled thread through the story, which follows the protagonist. This is what you're going to build draft two on: this is the foundation of your novel. +Chop your novel up into little tiny scene sized pieces and then remove all of the unnecessary bits until you're left with just the plot sized piece. The plot sized piece should finish this statement: ""my main character wants this, but..."" +Understand there is a difference between a plot and a premise. Imagine that there is a doorway. Yes, it can be a fancy Victorian archway covered in vines. Or perhaps just an ordinary screen door. Maybe it's hooked up to a vast digital system, and maybe the door was handed down from generations past. But it's still just a door. The premise is the door. The plot is what slams the door shut in the main character's face, and how they get it open again. Your premise might very well be ""nanobots are causing men to become infertile"" but that's not a plot until your main character discovers that he's the only one left on the planet with fertile sperm and must single-handedly save the human race, but in the process destroy his marriage with his very traditional, monogamous wife. +The plot is what happens. If you can't bring your novel down to a sentence about what happens, maybe you need to rethink the action in the novel. What does your main character want, and what's keeping that character from getting it? +Step two might seem fiddly, but it'll save you a lot of pain if you discover the fault in your foundation before you try redecorating. + **Step three: The size of a salable novel.** +The average novel ranges between 70,000 to 100,000 words. Unless you're writing grand epic fantasy, you'll have a hard time selling a novel with more words and a hard time selling a novel with less words (the market for novellas isn't all that great). If you're not aiming for traditional publishing, don't panic and write whatever you will. But if you are, now is the time to consider the length of your novel. As a firm believer in ""it takes as many words as it takes to tell the story"", I cringe to give this advice. Yet, as a firm believer in ""tell the story that needs to be told, not all of the bullshit around it"", I know it needs to be said. +In step two, I told you to become aware of the foundation of your novel. You know what the story you're telling is made out of. Now you're going to look at the walls. With your puzzle piece structure in hand, cut away the unnecessary pieces. +Everything in your novel should relate to the most basic, most rudimentary version of a plot it claims to have. Every scene must have a purpose. And nothing needs to be shown more than once. The subplot about his mother-in-law? Does it show character development? Keep it. But do you need to tell us about his strained relationship with his mother-in-law five times when the story is about how he blasts into space from Winnipeg? +Make the painful choices here. If it doesn't boost the plot, let it go. +If your story is too simple, you may need to take the opposite approach. Try adding a subplot. Add a new character. The amazing thing is how it's so much easier to add than take away. If you're finding it difficult, just be confident in your short story or novella—they have their places. +Make a new outline from your foundation. +And don't skimp. Make it a detailed outline. You're crafting your improved novel from this, you can't write from the seat of your pants this time. + **Step four: Extrapolate.** +Well? You already figured out how to write a novel. Do it again, but better, and with more dynamics and other buzzwords. Fall in love and break your heart over and over again. This time's the chore, where you follow your brand new, careful outline, trying to make the best out of your concrete foundation. +You've already got your scissors, your cleaver, your robe and wizard hat. Use them. +You'll make it out just fine, and enthusiastically sign the final two words so long as you have the gumption to do it. +You're d— +Oh yeah. I forgot to tell you earlier: _you have to break something to fix it._ + **Step five: Fuck, not again.** +Your second draft won't be perfect. In fact, your second draft probably fucked everything up and you find yourself looking at a misshapen child nothing like the beauty you remember giving birth to. Don't let the hate take over, though—your first draft sucked. And now you get to do it all over again. Examine the novel. Examine the structure. Find out where it went wrong, curse yourself and your computer and your novel into a thousand different damnations. You have all the time in the world, but this time, don't let your novel stew. Write it again. +And again. And again. +There's no secret, only patience and a lot of coffee, tea, and rum. +Run it through the refiner's fire again. Only then, once you're satisfied, can you sit back and hand your novel to an editor... +What, you thought this was over? +Have a drink, it's on me." +895,What a Girl Wants,babydoll4you,How To,2011-09-09,2011-09-09,2022-01-04 08:41:50,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-a-girl-wants-4,It is THE question to ask when you decide to enter the frenzy.,"['Dating', 'Dating Advice', 'Romance', 'Sex Advice']",3.9,"For many of us that phrase is more than just a movie title or a song lyric. It is THE question to ask when you decide to enter the frenzied world of dating. URNA is not your average dating and social site either. It is the best for finding special girls like me. With so many options and ways to meet people your interested in, finding the woman of you dreams can be a whole lot easier for you. Whatever kind of woman your interested in can be found here. In order to get her you need to know how so I'm going to try very hard to be your personal matchmaker. +Why you decided to explore dating is different for each of us. How you date and who you date is also quite unique. Each of us looks for different things in a partner weather it's just a one nite escapade or a life long commitment. In sales they call it market research so that is the theme you need to think about. If you live in Alaska it would be really hard to show up there with a truckload of ice and sell it for top dollar. It can be done and there are people that can do it but it's a really tough sell. +Dating is a lot like sales, you have to know your market. You have to compete with a lot of other people to close the deal. You also have to know how and when to close the deal. Think about it. we have all bought a car. We had an idea of what we could afford. We knew what color we wanted, and we knew what make and model would be the best for our lifestyle. +If your completely broke and on the run from the landlord, a Bentley is probably not in your budget. So why go in there and haggle with the dealer all day and then walk away at the last minute angry and frustrated because he wont give you the keys. He checked you out while you talked and did his market research he discovered that you are not in his target market. Dating is the very same way. If you cant afford to get in the country club and dress like the jet set crowd you probably are note going to find a date there. So why struggle with it and argue with them, just accept that for TODAY or RIGHT NOW you don't fit in. Go home and get busy and come back later when you are READY. Believe me timing is everything when it comes to closing the deal. +So, what is it that you need to know to date those special girls that have more than most? You have to know your market, you need to know what the girls like and what they don't. Honey this is not a suggestion it is a fact. If you have no idea what the object of you affection likes or dislikes you will never get her to go out on a date with you. +The only way to discover that and more is to ask questions, don't be afraid to do it either. Even if it's a silly question like how long her hair is. Trust me she will tell you that and more, so take a lot of notes. We love to talk about our hair and everything that goes with it. Women love to talk, so if you can get us to talk just sit there and nod your head while you write down all the clues we give you. +When you buy a car, do you just walk in point and say that one? Of course not. Well nobody else does either. So ask her what she is interested in and why. Trust me on this fella's, We will tell you. The beauty of it is you don't need to say much you just need to pay attention. A woman will tell you everything you need to know to get in her knickers. All you have to do is listen to her and know when to close the deal. Be patient though some of are like Alaska, in fact most of us are. So patience is key when you are trying to date us. Just because we say no today coes not mean we will say no tomorrow. +There are some very important things you need to know about us. We are like every other woman you see on the street. There is NO DIFFENCE. We love to be seduced, romanced and seen as beautiful. Many guys think that because we used to be like them that we will be easier or more open to crude behavior. This is utterly and completely wrong. We are females now and the things that work on a genetic woman will work on us too. In addition the things that don't work on genetic women wont work on us either. +the following is a simple and easy to follow guide for you fella's that want to date the girls of your dreams. Keep in mind that each girl is different and some of these tips will work and some wont. If they don't produce instant results just relax, don't get flustered or mad. Just try something else. Nothing says desperate like harassment and badgering. If she says no just deal with it an walk away she may change her mind and say yes later. +First and foremost, be polite and sincere : +If you open with ""hey baby, sexy, hot stuff"", you are not going to get very far. We know it's a come on. Most of us get turned off the moment we hear it. It shows your not really interested in us but in an adventure or just a fling. The vast majority of us really want to have a steady boyfriend or even a husband. Moves like that exclude you almost immediately unless you already know us really well. The best move is to be interested in us. Ask us how our day is, or if we are having a good day and then WAIT for us to answer. Patience is the key. Slow and steady will win every time over fast and frenzied. We know what your ultimately after and pressuring us will not get you there faster. If you play your cards right we will give you that and so much more. +Second, be engaged in the conversation : +If you really want to talk to the girl then talk to her. Don't just stand there looking around the place. have something to say. She may not agree with it but, it will defiantly keep her interest in YOU going. Always be respectful though even if you disagree with her. Don't decide to dump her just because she is in favor of something you don't like or disagree with. Pay attention and follow along. If you are distracted then say so, don't be afraid to walk away and talk later. She will think more highly of you if you are honest with her than if you try to deceive her. +Third, be honest with her : +Nobody likes a liar and she wont either. We get lied to a lot so for us it's a HUGE deal if you lie. If your a bank teller fine. Don't tell her some story about how you are the bank president because she WILL figure it out. Once that happens it's over for you. If you are uncomfortable with the truth or not being upfront with us how can we be sure your going to show up for that first date. We need to feel safe and secure so if we cant trust you then why would we want to put our safety in your hands. We talk to each other constantly so the last thing you want is to get on our blacklist as somebody who is dishonest. +Fourth, don't be a cheapskate : +I understand that we all have bills and expenses but don't low ball the date. We are not looking for somebody to take care of us, but we do want somebody who can take care of themselves. You don't need to be Donald Trump but you should be able to afford a cover charge and a few drinks. So many guys blow this one. We spend an incredible amount of money to look as good as we do. So why would you expect us to give it up for free. Genetic women don't and we wont either. as the old saying goes ""you have to pay to play"". Never ever ask us for money! That will blow any chance you ever had of being with us. Permanently! +Fifth, dress the part : +A pair of sneakers and jeans is fine for working on your car. For a date it's not. Dress well, put on a nice shirt and a pair of slacks. Think about how well we dress and ask yourself do we want to be seen on the arm of dilitant? Our apearance is one of the most important things to us. So you need to know it's going to be someting we look at closely. If your too lazy to iron your shirt we are not going to want to be seen with you. I can't stress this enough fella's you need to clean up a little. We spend hours making sure we look as feminine and womanly as possible. You have to do that also if you want to succeed with us. +Sixth, have a good profile : +This one is so incredibaly important. If you want us to be interested, you need to give us something to look at. I cant tell you the number of times I visit a guys profile before I agree to go out with him. Trust me on this guys we will look at your page here constantly. You have a fantasy about us and we have a fantasy about you too. Give us someting to read and to look at. Put up a few pictures so we can see what kind of life we will have with you. Tell us what your looking for so we can figure out how to dress for you. Tell us what you like and we will get interested in it for you. A well written profile on URNA is the biggest selling tool you have don't waste it. No matter what kind of relationship you want with us. If you don't tell us what you really want then how can we decide if your the guy we want. We definately are not going to want it with you if are to scared to show your face. If you are to afraid to be seen here then we know you won't ever show up for our date. Think of it like your business card, why would we call you if it's blank? If you don't have one your chances are going to be SEVERELY diminished when it comes to getting a date with us. Most of us will not even consider talking to you without one that's how important this is. +So now you know what to do fella's. Six simple and easy to follow steps for getting that dream girl from here to your apartment. Take the time and invest it in these simple rules and you will have more girls flocking to you than you ever thought possible. So here we have it, just be polite, sincere, and engaged in the conversation by showing interest in us. Tell us the truth and don't try to lie to us because we will find out about it. Spend a few dollars on trying to get to know us, the cost of being a member of URNA is exceptionally low and will pay off in spades. +Dress well because every girl likes a good looking guy on her arm. We want to be with you so show us that you want to be with us. Write a good profile and have a decent photo for us to look at so we can envision our life with you. If you put forth the effort to be with us we will not only see it but appreciate it. Treat us with respect and dignity and we will be yours in a heartbeat. Don't be shy or afraid guys we want you more than we let on. Always remember we are women so treat us that way and it will pay off more than you can imagine. +* + _With love,_ +Michelle Hart +If you have a suggestion for a topic you would like to see addressed feel free to write me through my profile. Also, feel free to Post and Comments below. If you would like to know more about me or are just curious don't be shy, reply." +896,What Every Man Wants,almost,How To,2003-02-17,2003-02-17,2022-01-04 08:41:51,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-every-man-wants,A story of what every man wishes you knew,"['Make', 'Make Dinner', 'Make Feel', 'Man', 'Men', 'Men Aren', 'Men Dream', 'Women Men']",4.4,"There are articles in abundance on what women want and need. There was even a movie recently, with Mel Gibson, about our secret feminine thoughts and desires, men spend hours trying to figure us out and what we need, but do we try to figure them out? You don’t see many about what men need and want, and they can be as mysterious to us, as we are to them. All women think they need to do is, rope ‘em, hog tie ‘em and throw ‘em in the barn…well men ain’t cattle girls, they know how to open that barn door even if we get them in there. +Usually all you read is bitter accounts by angry cold women, about why men aren’t worth much, and how to avoid the ones who may not be easy to catch, complete with titles and types and assessments of why you don’t want one like THAT… Well, ladies, I catch them…and if you want a good one, well, you better start figuring out what he wants or you aren’t going to get him, let alone keep him. My men are trying to figure out how to keep me, not escape me. +Every woman knows men are into chemistry, although what it is, is a bit unclear. What it is is sex appeal, it is, they want to appeal to us sexually, and for us to appeal to them sexually, is really all that is, it’s not looks or weight, or height or make up, it’s how we look at them and how we make them feel, if we make them feel like males, deep inside, they’re attracted to us. They’ll admit to that readily enough, but to get inside the mind of a man, to learn what it is that makes him choose to stay and commit? That’s the secret ladies, they have to want to commit to us. Most of us can all do enough to get them to stay for breakfast at any time. It’s keeping hold of them that’s tough. And to us, we want that commitment and they know it, but many of us want it because their paycheck comes with it. They want their money’s worth, and that is fair, girls, it is. They aren’t about to tell us this though, because they know we can be determined and devious. The line the bride sings walking down the aisle, of “Phew, I”ll never have to do THAT again!” Is a little too often true. They want truth and beauty, not to be a victim of some woman with a need for income. They believe in love more than we do at times. +Men hit about 35 and begin to wake up to a silent urging to procreate and nest, they reassess their life in the wild, and begin to consider settling down, they get as broody as any woman does. Or if they have procreated and nested, they begin to feel the urge to stretch their wings and fly, to seek out more, and feel the wonder again. Men aren’t one dimensional, is part of that, they need both, passion and comfort, home and freedom and sensuality, they’re really somewhat simple, they’ll give us everything if they can just be a star in their own lives. That’s really all it takes. That and they want an interesting life. Give them that, and they’ll line up to commit to who ever gives it to them. +You’ll hear wives lament and whine that he’s cheating on her, but what you don’t hear is why he is, and it’s not just some younger body, it’s… she’s interesting and the wife isn’t. The wife has become dull and boring, and to her, all life is about is vacuuming the house now, and she yells at him and whines at him, just like she does after he flies the coop! and he’s tired of sleeping with the maid whose got attitude, who’d want to sleep with a bad tempered tyrant! +Half of that is she berates him, it’s never enough, take out the garbage, fix the car, when are you going to mow the yard, she becomes this chore monger, another boss, so he has two jobs, not a home and a career. And she only lives to do chores, herself, he earns, he works, he takes second place in his own life, he is the gadget man, the vacuum cleaner with a mind, the guy who keeps life orderly for us, and not much else. The kids matter more, and Little League does, hey, girls, if they did that to US, we’d leave, in a second! And do. We’d never put up with working all day and handing over our check only to come home and get yelled at? And she wonders why he left?! Someone was nicer to him is why, and she wasn’t…You can’t keep cows in the barn if you leave the door open, ladies! Get a clue wifey, you weren’t what he needed, you were too busy making cupcakes to notice him, you said no fourteen times a week? And you didn’t keep your buns firm or your underwear sexy. You bored him into leaving and you berated him for not liking you that way. And you follow it up with insulting him after the fact that he’s shallow, and he has the problems! So were the cupcakes for the bake sale really THAT important? Cause you sure act like they are! +Men want fantasy, they want entertainment, they want the princess we are, they want the fairy sprite, the little girl in us who dreams, they want eternal youth from our INSIDES, but they also want the slut lurking within us all, they want excitement and to fly, and then land safely, they want to be our wings, our angels of destiny and if we deny them that part of us, if we refuse to go with them or let them take us on their flights of fancy, they lose, but so do we, all we are is housekeepers then, neither queen or whore, and not their partner in life either, we become grounded as the world moves on without us. We just exist to make dinner, when we could be going on exotic trips and living a life of dreams. We choose to be dull and boring, and then whine they don’t. +Classic sex symbols, from Mae West to Madonna, from Liz Taylor to Brittney Spears, are women men dream of, women of passion and fire, women who are playful and adventurous and have a natural sexuality. Men, dream of a nymphomaniac in their lives, or at least one who can be one at times? They want to be cherished, and adored and worshipped, and they should be! They want to be teased and pleased and played with. They want a playmate, a friend and a confidant. They want a woman who makes them proud, who their friends go WOW, where’d you find THAT one, you must be a stud huh? To keep HER! It’s a man thing, it’s pride, its competitiveness, it’s what makes them happy…its what makes them manly, ladies, if you want him to be more of a man, be more of a woman! +They want a princess to provide for, they want a woman who sparkles at them when they do things for her, and sighs and coos. They want her to be pleased, and surprised by their efforts to win her and appease her. They want to chase her and feel her give in to them. Ladies the guys want romance, not pink lace, real romance, the kind with feeling, the kind that has candlelight and soft music, and sighs, they want the longing glances and the deep involvement. And we sort of end up handing them Chef Boyardee and saying What’s your problem? Well, gosh, dinner from a can, might be some of it, the Dog eats dinner from a can, and we pet the darned dog at least? Or I pet mine, but maybe my dog lives better than your man does too? Consider that. That’s sort of sad isn’t it, for him. +They want her to be glamorous at times, slinky and sexy. They want her to be natural at times, and able to get ready in less than an hour, they want her in baseball caps and jeans, as they sit and fantasize about how hot she was last night, and watch her looking like a tomboy now. They want her to like their bodies, and revel in them, as males, to act like a greedy sexual creature who can’t get enough, at times, as well as listen to their thoughts, and try to make their dreams come true. +They want her to be all the women in the world at once, pure and innocent, devilish and dangerous, squirmy and high spirited, needy and soft, nurturing and comforting, and sexually awake and aware of sensual pleasures. They want the mother in us, the sister, and the slut, they want us to be as multi- dimensional as they are. They want the lady in the living room, the whore in the bedroom, and always have. Be that, and able to carry on a conversation about something other than yourself and your interests, and they will all eat from your hand, with pleasure. +And if we give them that, they really don’t care if we make dinner, or vacuum, they’ll do it, they’ll hire a maid, or they’ll take us out to dinner! Trust me on this, ladies, I don’t do housework! I do keep my passport handy just in case. It takes so long to go back for it, is why, we may miss the flight! I go places, I do things, I get taken out, and away, and I love that I do, they carry my bags, they open doors, and they buy me things to please me! And they call later! I love men, and it shows, and they love me right back! +They don’t want to hear, oooh, yuck, and no way, and you’re kidding, I’m not doing that! They want her to blush and go really? You want me to do that, for real, and try it…they want us to tell them that things feel good, and why, and how to touch us. They want to please us so we do go out of our minds with pleasure. They want to know what we think, but not about the sale at the grocery store, to them it doesn’t matter! It doesn’t! Who cares if lettuce is twenty cents less, like change matters? Now if you could do something sexual with that lettuce they’d want to know about that. They want to be pleased, surprised, seduced, coveted, treated with awe, and worshipped, that’s all! They want to be on a pedestal, just like they put us on one! And for that, they will give us everything they have, can find, can earn and look for more if it pleases us. We become their goddess, but only if we make them our gods… +I’m sexual, very…I like sex, I like a lot of it’s aspects, I enjoy exploring it, and adventuring in it. And there are men, who don’t like it as much as I do, that prefer quieter realms and softer ones, there are compatitble types, there are. But they still crave the sex, the affection and the bonding, and they have to have it ladies, it isn’t about they physically need, it’s how they express themselves to us, if we would only learn to listen! It’s their language, it’s primal, it’s instinctive and it holds them totally in its’ thrall, when we deny them that, they have to go looking, it’s male. They cannot survive without it, and neither can I. +I like a lot of different flavors in life, from the spicy to the sweet, to the hot and ice cold, salt and vinergar to sublimely mild. I like tastes, I like feelings, I like emotional intercourse, which by definition is communication. When we bond together in physical unity we can’t hide from each other, we allow each other inside us, and to me, life without that is pretty boring. +Changing our approach is so easy, it really is. When we join that exercise class at the gym, instead of whining about the effort and expecting to be praised, all we have to do is strip down and show them our behinds daily and say, “What do you think, is it getting smaller, is it getting tighter?” And they love it, and smile, and go hmmm, some, come over here, let me check closer. Then it becomes, for him, we work out, and then they’re more than happy to share it…they’ll check our progress with glee…and insist we take more classes, if they get to be part of it like THAT? +If we make dinner, add candles, dress for him, cook in just an apron for heavens sake? Want him to take out the trash more? Stand there naked. Wear a thong…and say, Like this? Well, as soon as I take out the trash? If I’m still in this mood…the trash is gone, girls, never to be mentioned again…if he forgets? Wear that same outfit…he will learn fast…see thong, take out garbage, get some, it’s like electricity to men. They’ll move so fast and while they’re out there, they’ll put your car away and close the garage door, they do not want more interruptions! As in phew, got her mind on me finally…I got to keep remembering that trash, or yikes she’s gonna find someone who will! Men learn so much quicker than we do. It is just about motivation, use that, there is no You forgot the trash again, oh no, he won’t forget…every day for six years, he’ll remember the naked woman saying I’m gonna take out the trash now…like his own private pin up girl. +And kids? Oh right those anti-romance creatures, uh, feed them early, put them to bed, they’ve had you all day? Daddy’s turn. Get a sitter, trade with a neighbor down the street, you keep mine tonight, I”ll keep yours tomorrow night…just give that man, some of what he needs, he’ll be happy! He had the kids, he loves them, just once in a while, he wants to play with the grownups too. And it doesn’t hurt the kids to be told, Mommy and Daddy are going to play together tonight, it’s our turn. You guys are going to bed early so we can. Give you Dad kiss now, night night. +And if I hear one more woman tell me she’s tired, in this day of electric appliances and television, here’s my answer…you will be more tired if you work all day and come home and then take care of the kids and have no one to help. Take a nap, plan it, don’t wear your self out dusting once in awhile, schedule your man like he matters! Quit whining, once women made the soap, spun the cloth, plowed fields, baked bread, ground flour, knit the socks, and still had the energy to kiss him hello and wrap her arms around him when he walked in, so what is your excuse? The dishwasher door was so heavy to close you’re tired now? He worked all day, he’s tired too! And all he wants is a cuddle and a squeeze and a big smile to see him and to cop a feel, like that’s hard to give him? Uh, give it to him ladies, or know, someone else will. +Men need several things, acceptance of their masculinity, pride in their existence, self esteem, love, affection, sensual pleasures, credit for their contributions, titillation and warm welcome, and to be important in their own lives and for that, they will give you everything they can gather to honor you and please you, they’ll lay anything at your feet, if you just treat them with respect and admiration. +It’s our call girls, it is…and it’s ok with me, if you don’t want to wake up to it! Cause your husband takes me to Mexico while you’re busy at the PTA meeting, and I like going on trips to exotic destinations…and being treated like I’m important and wined and dined and catered to. You can do the PTA if you want? It’s ok with me! +Doubt me? Ask any man." +897,What I Wish I Knew,Bebop3,How To,2020-05-24,2020-05-24,2022-01-04 08:41:52,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-i-wish-i-knew,Thoughts for new writers.,"['Author Advice', 'New Writers']",4.84,"_It feels odd writing a preface for an article this short, but what the hell. Anyway, these are some things that I wish that I had known when I started out. The existence of this ""how-to"" should in no way lead anyone to infer that I think that I am a top tier Literotica writer. I don't. What I do believe is that I'm better now than I was when I started._ + **Advice For New Writers** + **Deal With It** +You're going to receive critical comments. Some will be valuable and without malice. Learn from them. Some will be baffling. Use these to remind yourself that the readership of Literotica is both wide and deep. You're going to run into people who aren't the best at expressing themselves. Some will be pure bile. It's inevitable. Go into the experience with that knowledge. +I'm sure that over the years I've posted comments that covered all three of those categories. I've tried to be helpful. I've certainly failed to get my point across. There have been times when I've been a dick. +Develop a thick skin. You're going to need it. + **How Long?** +A Literotica page is roughly 3500 words. If you are trying to figure out how long your story is going to be, that's a good rule of thumb. Dialogue heavy stories will have fewer words per page. +How long should your story be? There is no set length. Some people will swear by a three page optimal and a four-page allowable. On the other hand, many stories in the Hall of Fame exceed that dramatically. +What about posting chapters separately? One page chapters will frustrate readers. Don't do it. Also, you may want to consider having the entirety of your story written before posting any chapters. + **Getting Help** +In my opinion, beta-readers and basic grammar editors are of equal importance. If you happen to luck into an editor who can also offer feedback on characterization, story architecture, and plotting, you've struck gold. +Anyone can be a beta-reader. If you respect their opinions, see if they would be willing. Keep in mind that friends and family will often be overly positive. Critique Corner (Google it) is an excellent resource for finding beta-readers. You may want to ask people who Favorited your first story to beta-read your next. They also have a forum for beta-readers on GoodReads. The people that reach out to you through the Literotica email system and insightful commenters may be your best resource. +Finding an editor is difficult. Finding an excellent editor is exponentially more difficult. I can't self-edit. I'm atrocious and abysmally lacking in the editing skillset. Because of that, I'm tremendously grateful to the people that have been kind enough to edit my writing. +Use the editor's forum on the Literotica Bulletin Board. It's not going to be easy to get someone to respond to you. Be persistent. Ask for recommendations from writers on Lit that you admire. If worse comes to worst, you can pay someone to edit your work. Fiverr has reasonable rates. +If you do decide to go the self-edit route, consider using a free automated service like Grammarly (Google it) or the Spelling and Grammar function of Word. They are both far from perfect, but it might help as a last resort. + **Pulling in Readers** +There are a few things to consider here. The first is the genre you are writing in and where you are placing your story. I'm not kink-shaming, but if you are writing cuck or humiliation stories, put them in Fetish, not Loving Wives. The readership in one will be welcoming, the readership in the other will be hostile. [Editor's Note: stories of swinging and partner sharing DO belong in Loving Wives, as that is the purpose of the category per the category description.] +Establish a conflict and dialogue as early as possible. Conflict hooks the reader and dialogue helps with immediacy. Don't time hop. No one is interested in going from a guy cheating on his wife in paragraph A to the subsequent ten paragraphs being about his childhood, teenage years, college, first years on the job, and his wedding day. +If it's not necessary for the plot, excise it. +Answer emails. Update your bio information. Both actions will help you develop a dedicated readership. + **Getting Better** +To reiterate what I said earlier, learn from your critiques. Even if they are couched in negativity, some comments offer sound advice. +Try to learn from the authors you admire. What do they do that you enjoy? +Work on dialogue. It should 'sound' the same as a conversation you might overhear at Starbucks. Read it aloud to yourself. + **Formatting** +If you are using multiple Point of View characters, find a way to display when perspectives shift. Five asterisks might do the trick (*****). Putting the name of the new POV character in bold at the start of that section might work. Find your own style, just make sure that the reader knows who is telling the story at all times. +This section is going to be tricky. I literally can't use a symbol that I'm referring to as it is reserved in Lit's system for HTML. So, when I try to discuss HTML tagging, I can't use the actual symbol that is needed. I'll describe it instead. +You remember when you were a kid and the teacher told you about the greater than and lesser than symbol? How the hungry alligator always at the most and all of that stuff? Well, the symbol looks like a V turned on its side to the right. On a PC keyboard, it's often above the comma. We're going to call that (Greater Than). If it's turned to its left, we'll call that (Lesser Than). When I use either reference, just imagine the actual symbol. +Literotica allows HTML tagging. That means that you can use _italics_ , **boldface** or other effects. You have to start and end the text that you want to be modified with an HTML tag. The starting is easy. You use this Greater Than and then inside you put I for italics or B for bold or CENTER if you want the text centered and then you follow that with Lesser Than. At the end of the area of text you want to modify, you do almost the exact same thing, but you put a backslash before the letter. For example: /i or /b or /center. +Lame example: (Greater Than)b(Lesser Than)Here is the text I want to be in bold.(Greater Than)/b(Lesser Than) +There should be no spaces. It should be (Greater Than) followed directly by the letter, followed directly by the (Lesser Than). I can't demonstrate that for you as the Lit system will think I'm trying to modify the text and you will see the effect, not my example, but that's how I italicized and bolded the words in this article. +I'll try to give a better example in the comments as I don't believe there's an issue with HTML there. +If there's any confusion, shoot me an email. + **What to Use** +Use whatever writing program you're most comfortable with. I prefer Word and Google Docs. There are programs specifically designed for writing fiction (google Scrivener). If you have the money to invest, go for it. Google Docs is free and it also allows for easy collaboration with editors and beta-readers. + **Best Resource** +Other writers. Ask questions. When I started out, I asked a ton of questions and not one author was rude or dismissive. Use the Literotica email system and if you have a question, reach out. +Keep in mind that some authors aren't active, others choose not to answer emails and some may be extremely busy. In general, though, the people who have successfully done what you want to do are the best people to ask questions of. + **Why Are You Writing?** +Know what your goal is going in and try to balance your goals and your expectations. If you have a compulsion to write and just want to get your work out there, cool. There's no need for further reflection. If you want to use Literotica to get better as a writer, try to challenge yourself. Write something out of your comfort zone. Like writing action-packedaction packed Westerns? Write a romance. Are your POV characters well-educatedwell educated women? Write a story where the POV character is a down on his luck ex-boxer. Do you tend to be loquacious? Write a 750 word story. +Most importantly, enjoy the process. None of this is mandatory. If writing and posting is causing you angst, modify your expectations or stop posting on Lit. Life is too short to put yourself through needless hassle. +Here are some thoughts by one of my favorite authors, MsCherylTerra. ""The advice I'd add if it were me, and it's not so don't feel obligated to add this, would be ""know why you're writing."" Are you writing for yourself? Are you writing for enjoyment? Are you writing to be the very best like no one ever was? Figure out why you're doing it so you can remind yourself of it when you hit a block, get a critical comment, or something you write doesn't take off the way you think it should."" +Readers have expectations and those expectations are often reasonable. It's fairly easy to figure out what those expectations are. Look at what scores well and what doesn't. Try to match category and story. If you choose not to, expect pushback and negative results. The time and attention of a reader is a resource. Don't squander it. +Good luck! As a reader, I sincerely hope that you find success. It's always great to find a new talented writer. As an author, please reach out if I can offer any help. +***** + _With thanks to the friends that were kind enough to offer feedback and editing._" +898,What is Haiku?,jthserra,How To,2020-12-26,2020-12-26,2022-01-04 08:41:53,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-is-haiku-1,A brief discussion about haiku.,"['Haiku', 'Poet', 'Poetry', 'Writing Guide', 'Writing Poetry']",4.33,"What is Haiku? +That is an excellent question. Haiku is a highly misunderstood art form. Misinformation abounds, so much that it is hard to decipher just exactly what a haiku is. My dictionary, Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary, defines haiku as an unrhymed Japanese verse form of three lines containing 5,7,5 syllables respectively; also: a poem in this form. Okay, with this information I am going to give you instructions on how to get a better understanding of haiku: +Step 1.) Get out your own personal English Language dictionary and open it to the page on haiku. +Step 2.) Firmly grasp the edge of the page and look at it. +Step 3.) Before you can read the definition of haiku in your dictionary tear out the page. +Step 4.) At this point, you might want to read over the other definitions on the page you just tore out and jot down any you think might be worth keeping. +Step 5.) Burn that page and flush the ashes down the toilet. +Step 6.) Completely forget the definition I gave you in the second paragraph above. Yes, completely. +Assuming you haven't set off any smoke alarms, or set your house on fire, hopefully you are ready to learn a bit about haiku. Now that we have befouled the dictionary, we need a new definition for haiku. I offer what I think is the best definition I have seen: +""A haiku is a short poem recording the essence of a moment keenly perceived in which Nature is linked to human nature."" +Cor van den Heuvel, The Haiku Anthology W.W. Norton & Company, New York, London +Okay... for the time being, forget about syllables, lines, and Japanese Geishas, well not the geishas. I will discuss form in subsequent articles. In my opinion, the form of haiku is secondary to the concepts outlined in the above definition. My opinion is supported by a number of highly recognized haiku experts; however this viewpoint is also opposed by a number of highly recognized experts. +When reading or writing haiku, I think you need to consider several key words in the quote above. Like haiku, a lot is said in those few words. The key words I would like you to consider are: +recording moment perceived Nature +Think about these words in the context of the quote. I would like to discuss each one. +Recording -- Basically, in haiku you should observe and record an event or image, nothing more, nothing less. Well, yes there is something more... you should observe, recognize a unique aspect of what you observe and record. What this means is that when you write of the image or event you should not embellish or interpret. In your haiku, you should present what you saw, allowing the reader to interpret your words. +summer day the sun shines like an orange lollypop +Unfortunately, in this haiku, I have done the interpreting. I tell the reader what to think: that the sun shines like an orange lollypop. +summer day sunlight on my orange lollypop +While it still needs some work, in this second haiku, I don't tell the reader what to think, I merely present the image to him/her. Now the fact that the lollypop is orange may help project the image, but I am not forcing this upon the reader. +As a poet who also writes haiku, this was one of the most difficult things to adapt to. I had to suppress my desire to paint a grandiose picture with flowing metaphor, insightful similes, and other poetic devices. I basically had to swallow some ego and merely present the image or event. It is tough to do, but ah... when you do it well, you realize you never needed those devices to begin with. The simple and plain language allows the reader to experience the event or image and explore it in their own mind. +The old pond -- a frog jumps in, the sound of water +Basho +There you go. This poem merely describes some frog jumping into the pond and you hear the splash. There is no metaphor, no simile, the frog jumps in the water. But if you read it, you are freed to see the pond... not just any pond, an old pond. Perhaps there are some old trees around, with mist rising off the water. You walk past and see movement and hear a splash. A frog, yes a frog has leaped into this old pond. Now you see the ripples, perhaps see the frog swim off. Are there more frogs? If not, why was this one alone and why here? The few words can spin you off as far as you want to go. +That haiku, by Matsuo Basho is probably the most famous and widely quoted haiku ever written. Basho lived from 1644 to 1694. He is basically considered the father of haiku. While some had been written before him, he ""...gave them a power and seriousness they had rarely had before.""* +The crane's legs have gotten shorter in the spring rain. +Ponder the possibilities in this poem also by Basho. Again, he has just reported the event, but in reading these few words, you are transported there. +Moment -- The haiku is by definition a short poem. As I mention above, your job as haikuist is to record an image or event. Another word for image or event is moment. The haiku artist searches out the haiku moment, which is merely something he/she sees that is interesting, surprising or beautiful. But it is not the evening sunset where the sky fades from bright red, to a shadowy magenta. The haiku moment is the instant a bird makes a silhouette against the sky, or the instant a specific ray of sunlight touches a cloud and it explodes in color, or the moment the sun disappears. +In Basho's poem about the crane above, the moment is when he notices that the water around the crane has gotten deeper (making its legs appear shorter). Again, it is not the 20 minutes of downpour that made the water rise, but just the moment he connects the rising water to the image of the crane. It is your job as haiku artist to capture this moment. +Perceived -- The means you use to find the proper haiku moment to write about is your perception. You have the wonderful capability and the overbearing responsibility to filter out the ordinary in your life to find the few moments that are really special. You perceive the beauty of a dragonfly hovering above a pond, then momentarily touching the surface of the water, sending out ripples. You perceive the image as something special and you record it. +on the pond the ripples have wings dragonfly +You perceived the essence of the moment and wrote the haiku. Well actually I did all that, but you can do it too. It is not difficult once you know the general goals in haiku. +I also cheated a bit; I slipped in another important word from the definition, essence. The true beauty of haiku is how it can touch upon the beauty of a moment in such a minimal way. You take your record of the moment and take away all but the bare essence of this moment. The haiku above creates the same image as my long sentence in the paragraph above it, yet the haiku presents you the essence of the moment allowing you to see the rest. It is truly wonderful viewing nature through haiku. +Nature -- You will notice the fourth keyword is capitalized in the description. We are talking about nature around us... Mother Nature, if you will. Historically, haiku has been written about Nature or man's interaction with Nature. Although this is changing some in modern times, the vast majority of haiku features nature. One distinguishing factor in comparing haiku to a similar form of Japanese Poetry, the senryu is that haiku deals with Nature with a capital N, while the senryu typically deals with the foibles of human nature. +Now that we have at least some basic feel for what haiku is, and what we as haiku artists are supposed to do, we can look at a few of the other things we need to think about with haiku. Look for future articles regarding the form and function of haiku. In the meantime, I leave you with one of my favorite haiku. Nick Virgilio wrote this haiku as an elegy for his brother who died in Vietnam. +lily: out of the water... out of itself +* from The Essential Haiku, Versions of Basho, Buson, & Issa, The Ecco Press, Hopewell, NJ, edited by Robert Haas" +899,What is Senryu?,jthserra,How To,2021-01-14,2021-01-14,2022-01-04 08:41:54,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-is-senryu-1,the differences between haiku and senryu.,"['Haiku', 'Poetry Essay', 'Poetry How-To', 'Senryu']",4.83,"Ah, another good question. Reading some recently posted poems and the comments to those poems and considering several past discussions I have had on the subject, I found there is a good deal of confusion about the differences between haiku and senryu. My earlier article titled _What is Haiku_ discussed haiku in some detail. In this article, I will provide some explanation of senryu. +Much like I did for my haiku article, I pulled out my ""Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary"" and looked up the definition of senryu, but I found nothing there. Unlike haiku, where Mr. Webster misled us with a poor definition, he is silent on senryu. That's a good sign, at least I won't have to fight Mr. Webster on this one and you won't have to set any small fires in your house as you burn the pages with the misleading definitions. +_from my book not another page a small fire_ +I remember an email conversation from some time ago when someone asked me: ""What is the ""exact"" difference between haiku and senryu? I had to think a while on this, because while I had read and written both haiku and senryu, I had not spent much time considering the precise difference between the two. My most succinct answer to the question took two emails and quotes from three highly qualified sources. The quotes offered three very different definitions. +In 1970, the Haiku Society of America's Definitions Committee quoted in The Haiku Handbook by William J. Higgenson, defined senryu as: _""Loosely, a poem similar to haiku which does not meet the criteria for haiku.""_ Ouch! Higgenson, who chose to include the above definition in his book, went on to say: _""Although I was a member of that committee, I do not like suggesting that a senryu is a failed haiku.""_ Higgenson realized that, while some senryu result from failed haiku, often the poet will set out to write a senryu. He explains: _""...a senryu relies on a point of wit instead of provocation by contrast, as does the haiku.""_ +_While the guests order the table cloth hides his hands -- counting his money_ (Clement Hoyt - from ""The Haiku Handbook"") +In his book, Higgenson offered a description for senryu that was very different from the Haiku Society of America's: _""A humorous or satiric poem dealing with human affairs, usually written in the same form as haiku.""_ While this definition more closely matches my understanding of senryu, I think Cor Van den Heuvel in his The haiku Anthology provided the best definition of senryu. He described the difference between haiku and senryu as: _""Senryu is the same as haiku except, instead of dealing with Nature, it is specifically about human nature and human relationships and is often humorous.""_ +_Library closing -- the sleeping wino wakes up holding a shut book_ (Sydell Rosenberg - from ""The Haiku Handbook"") +As I mentioned above, I lean more to van den Heuvel's definition, basically calling a poem about or involving human nature a senryu, while calling a poem about or involving nature a haiku. With respect to the senryu's structure, I basically follow the same precepts as I do in haiku. You may want to refer to my article titled: _More on Haiku: Not Seventeen_. +I have seen people question whether haiku was too short a form to express eroticism. While a short form will limit the extent of the image you can present, I think that if you concentrate upon a specific erotic moment, it can be compressed into something less than 17 syllables. Once it has been compressed, the real question will become: ""Is it haiku or senryu?"" The nice thing about senryu is that you can emphasize some wonderful aspects of human nature: +_naked her gown on the floor_ +While some may argue that this poem is not hot enough, or explicit enough to be considered erotica, I find the image very erotic. The poem, based upon van den Heuvel's definition, should be considered a senryu, in my opinion an _erotic_ senryu. There are some examples of erotic haiku, where nature is portrayed in an erotic fashion: + _beyond the dark where I disrobe an iris in bloom_ (Katsura Nobuko -- from Far Beyond the Field) +Let's keep reading and writing haiku and senryu. +- + **Bibliography** +1\. Higginson, William J., The Haiku Handbook Kodansha International Ltd., Tokyo, Japan 1985. +2\. Ueda, Makoto ed., Far Beyond the Field Haiku by Japanese Women Columbia University Press, New York 2003. +3\. Ueda, Makoto ed., Modern Japanese Tanka Columbia University Press, New York 1996 +4\. van den Heuvel, Cor, The haiku Anthology Expanded Edition W.W. Norton & Company, New York, New York 1999." +900,What is Zappai?,jthserra,How To,2021-01-21,2021-01-21,2022-01-04 08:41:55,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-is-zappai-1,"What do we call these, now, unidentified poems?","['Poetry Discussion', 'Poetry How-To', 'Zappai']",4.75,"With the popularity of the internet as a place to publish, read and discuss poetry and given the attraction of short, concise, but meaningful poetry, there has been a tsunami of short, haiku-like poems appearing nearly everywhere you look. Unfortunately, in this mass of poetry, there resides an enormous amount of misconception regarding haiku and other similar Japanese forms: _""Among both poets and the general public, there is a broad mass of people whose only understanding of haiku is that it has seventeen syllables and that anything that is put in the seventeen syllable, three-line form they remember from elementary school is automatically haiku.""_ (1) +For the longest time, I was one of those poets, ignorantly writing what I called haiku. Because I was able to seemingly say a lot in just a few syllables, I soon gained the title of ""that haiku expert"" from friends and acquaintances. That was a title I humbly embraced as I wrote short little pseudo-haiku, hundreds of them. It was not until I began to submit my work to some of the respected haiku publications and websites that I shockingly discovered that my haiku, were not very good. In fact, some intimated that what I submitted perhaps were not haiku at all. At that point I realized there was a lot more to haiku. +For the next several years, as I studied, wrote and discussed haiku, I began developing a number of articles about the art. The articles began as lengthy emails, which I later compiled and more recently developed into some of the articles I have posted here at Literotica. For a better understanding of Zappai, we will need to consider the questions I asked in two of my articles: 1.) What is Haiku? and 2.) What is Senryu? In both those articles I outlined a, hopefully, simple and basic set of tenants to define English language haiku and senryu. These tenants help identify a number of short, usually three line poems as either haiku or senryu. The tenants also identify a much larger number of short, usually three line poems that don't seem to fit those definitions. What do we call these, now, unidentified poems? Some might still argue they are haiku, others would brand them pseudo-haiku, and others may simply ignore them. +Rather than ignore the poems, or simply brand them as failed haiku, perhaps we should consider finding an appropriate identification for them. A possible solution has been offered by Lee Gurga, now editor of Modern Haiku, one of the premier English language haiku publications in circulation. He indicates that: _""In Japanese poetry, zappai includes all types of seventeen syllable poems that do not have the proper formal or technical characteristics of haiku...""_. (1) +Gurga explains: _"" If we look at all of what is presented today as ""haiku,"" a large number of so-called haiku are, like zappai, imaginative or imaginary, wit-based poems that are written or shared for the entertainment of the reader and writer. Unlike haiku, these poems often have no relation to nature. Unlike senryu, these poems make no attempt to distinguish between the imaginative and the imaginary. This includes things like spam haiku, sci-fi haiku and their ilk.""_ (1) +Much like senryu, where William J. Higgensen cautioned _""...I do not like suggesting that a senryu is a failed haiku...""_ (2 -- pg.232) because often poets started out trying to write senryu, some poets set out to write zappai. To characterize all zappai as failed haiku or senryu would be unfair to those poets. Japanese zappai is part of their poetry aesthetic. Gurga does add: _""While zappai were recognized as a form of poetic entertainment, they were not recognized as being as high an art as either haiku or senryu.""_ (1) +Understanding that all short, three line poems using 17 (or less -- see my article titled ""Not Seventeen: More on Haiku"") syllables are not haiku, or even senryu; we can now identify the poems that do not meet haiku's or senryu's basic tenants. To follow the Japanese form, we can call these English language zappai. +In considering many of the short poetry submitted here at Literotica, from the small samplings I have taken as a poetry reviewer on the poetry discussion board, the majority of the haiku that I have seen, based upon the definition above and in my other articles, would be classified as zappai. The remainder of the submitted haiku, would then either fall into the haiku or senryu category. As examples of each I offer the following: +haiku: _**Bass**_ +picking bugs +off the moon +Nicholas A. Virgilio (2) +senryu: **_While the guests order,_** +the table cloth hides his hands -- +counting his money. +Clement Hoyt (2) +zappai: **_Cook it in the can_** +SPAM, block of cheese, brown sugar +I can't get it out +\--Phil and Amy Timberlake (3) +Bibliography: +1.)Gurga, Lee ""Toward an Aesthetic for English Language Haiku Modern Haiku Vol. XXXI, No. 3 (Fall, 2000). +2.)Higginson, William J., The Haiku Handbook Kodansha International Ltd., Tokyo, Japan 1985. +3.)""The Spam-ku Archive"" at Spamhaiku.com." +901,What It's All About,J.J.,How To,2000-12-11,2000-12-11,2022-01-04 08:41:56,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-its-all-about,He talks about sex and gives examples.,"['Bit Horny', 'Bob Back', 'Dan Good', 'Dance Love', 'Gena', 'Kiss Fondle', 'Lovers Dance', 'Phyl', 'Sexual Act', 'Show Signs']",4.19,"Every man, woman, child and anyone else over the of eight has heard the word ""sex"" and wondered about it. Children hear it described as something awesome and wonderful from their parents, the media, their friends, and a host of other places. Advertisements on billboards show virile men and exotic women hawking a product or idea. So, ""What is it really?"" +In it's highest and simplest form it might be described as follows. ""A harmonious coupling of a healthy man and a healthy woman in spirit, mind, and body."" It has been described by some as as the ultimate human endeavour. In it's highest form, it should provide pleasure more intense than than any other human sensation, equally to the man and to the woman. +As adults, with at least some experience in the matter of sex, one must wonder why we aren't all going around with a smile on our face - all the time. The answer is simple. We have simply not experienced sex in it's ultimate form; rather, in a lesser form, without appropriate portions of emotion [spirit], intellect [mind], and physical [biological] input into the activity. The fact is we are, none of us, perfect lovers. . .we have our hangups, we're not socially unblemished. We are not perfetly attuned to our lover. That does not mean that we who have risen to a 9.9 on a scale of 10 can not improve. . . . +The sexual act without emotion, is devoid of any feelings other than sensation and can only be classed as recreational sex. Of course, if one is willing to settle for 2/3ds of the equation it can still be fun - but can never be enjoyed to it's ultimate extent. +The sex act without intellectual stimulation leaves only the coupling of the body, i.e., sexual congress and is more simply called prostitution. It can never be more than a higher form of external masturbation. Of course, some are willing to settle for the sensation that it provides. It should be noted that a professional prostitute knows that they must try to induce some intellectual stimuli into their act if they are to be successful. +So; then, we have a man and a woman, who are bonded socially, either by marriage or other commitment, who might wonder, ""Is this all there is?"" Most of us probably have. Men!, ""Remember when you rushed your partner into premature coitus with a severe case of 'hot pants'?"" In so doing you deprived your partner of the their ultimate pleasure. In so doing, you also deprived yourself. ""Remember when you. . . . .?"" +Women! ""Remember when you wanted to punish your man by not participating fully in the sexual act that you entered into willingly?"" You deprived yourself; thence, your partner. ""Remember when you ...?"" +So, there we have addressed the harmonious aspect of the relationship in the act. Neither the man or the woman can do much about their health but, let's face it, sexual intercourse and the events leading up to it involves strenuous physical activity coupled with a keen mind and unfettered spirit. In addition, obesity, poor hygiene, and feelings encumbered by mental aberrations will probably be distasteful to a partner. +Now, ""How do we we prepare for our sexual liaison?"" Well, the obvious first thing is to make our body as presentable as possible, good hygiene and grooming as well as bathing are a must. Then, we must prepare our minds... think about all the matters relative to the act before you commit to it! If their are unresolved intellectual matters, resolve them before committing further. Preparing the spirit is much harder. . . .Are we really in contact with our spiritual side? Do your emotions, [including but not limited to lust] impel you towards further commitment? Once one has started down the path towards sexual intercourse the intellectual and spiritual matters will be distorted by lust. Latent and unresolved intellectual and spiritual values will manifest itself as guilt and detract from the ultimate enjoyment. +Part II - ---------------------------------------------------------- +So, ""How does it all work?"" Let's take Jack and Jill, two hypothetical people, married, couple of kids, financial worries and encumbered with busy, full lives. They are healthy and deeply committed to each other. It's Friday and Jill has had an easy day with the children at school and the household chores completed earlier in the week. +By mid afternoon, she begins to think about Jack and fanticise about his body. She begins to feel a bit cosy and her groin and nipples are a bit sensitive. . . .an all together pleasant feeling. She considers masturbation briefly but rejects the idea, preferring to save herself for the evening with her husband. +Then, she plans, simple meal on time, kids prepared for bed early, and the master bedroom decorated with flowers and a nice scent. She showers, prepares herself for the evening she anticipates and dresses in her sexiest dress. Her lust is now more evident and she revels in anticipation. In quiet moments she succumbs to the lusty feelings. +At 6:30 p.m. Jack arrives home, a half hour late, dinner has been on hold for half an hour and Jack has had an emotionally draining day. The kids, who have been waiting for dinner have become unruly and Jill's evening is starting poorly. She serves the dinner and minds the kids as +Jack eats in silence. After dinner, Jill does the dishes and cleans the kitchen; then, gets the kids tucked in. Jack has gone to be, sunbathed, and exhausted. By 9:00 p.m. Jill undresses, dons a heavy night gown, and goes to bed beside her husband who is sleeping soundly. +In bed, Jill smells the stale body odor of her husband as she lies, frustrated, in bed. In an hour or so sleep comes. . . . +At 5:30 a.m. Jack arises at his usual hour and jogs his usual two miles before returning to shower and shave. At 7:20 he puts the kids on the school bus and returns to check on Jill who sleeps peacefully in their bed. After making coffee and breakfast of scones and Irish Creme Jack removes his clothing and returns to bed where he cuddles up to spoon with his wife. As he lies next to Jill's warm figure he clears his mind of his business problems and lusts after his wife. The lust comes easy for him as he smells the sweet scent of her body powders and shampoo. +Half an hour later, Jill stirs and wakes to find it well past her usual time for arising. ""The Kids!"" she says. ""All taken care of,"" he says. ""Breakfast in bed,"" she notes and suddenly relaxes into the arms of her lover. +As the two lovers lay in their bed they do not immediately institute the sex act; rather, they begin to align themselves to each other. He looks into her eyes and she returns the look. They talk about controversial matters of the day and discount them, one by one. Now, attuned in mind and spirit, Jill goes to her morning shower and returns a few minutes later, totally nude. Jack admires her body with his lustful gaze. She turns and does a pirouette to show her nicely shaped features. +In bed their bodies meet, him on his right side, her on her left, her breasts and thighs pressed against his. They kiss. The foreplay continues with greater urgency as they seek to attune themselves to each other. The caresses, the fondling, the sucking, the feeling all directed towards a perfect alignment of their bodies, minds and souls for the action they are about to undertake. Each new caress provides the partner with a new latent pleasure. Each suckle, or laving adds to their partners store of latent pleasure. After a particularly ardent kissing, licking and fingering of Jill's pussy Jack feels her breathing deepen and her body tensing. . . .it is time. +As Jack raises himself over Jill on the bed he moves upwards, between her thighs and positions himself for the uniting of his cock and her pussy. A single, slow shove and Jacks tool slides home to the hilt. Her well lubricated channel accepts his tool with a loving tenderness and the lovers become one. They dance the ancient dance of coitus and revel in the pleasure it brings. Soon, as if by some hidden signal, they roll and Jill is on top, her vagina still full of Jacks penis and the action continues. Now it is Jill who leads in the dance of love...Jack responds with vigour. +Another move and Jill is seated in Jacks lap, facing him and their sex still joined. . . .they fondle and caress and take their time. The pleasure builds. Then, after a few minutes pause, Jack is pistoning into his lover from the missionary position and Jill's feet are drumming a beat on his back. The action intensifies as the lovers move towards a culmination. +When Jill begins to tense for an orgasm he prepares himself and drives into her harder. . . . As the spasms of Jill's orgasm flood through her body, Jack must also climax. . .a hundred locomotives could not hold back the raging flood of semen into Jill's belly. They cling to each other as each new spasm races through their bodies . . . .and then it's over. +Slowly the lovers return to the world around them. They kiss and fondle and assure each other of their love. Jack would have to hurry if he was to be back at his office by 1:00 p.m. +That afternoon, Jill sat making her shopping list and waiting for the kids to arrive home from school. As she sat she felt the tenderness on her pubes from the morning's event and smiled. . . .Her breasts were also sensitized. . . .the feelings of the morning lingered. ""fresh fucked female"", she thought. . . . .and revelled in it! +That might have been a solid nine on a one to ten scale. +\------------------------------####---------------------------- +Dick and Jane did not fair so well. Both had been through bitter divorces and had been emotionally drained and crippled by their failures. Their confidence had been shattered and their self-esteem was non-existent. Both were successful in their sales careers and they held similar positions with competing companies. +Perhaps it was ironic that they should meet as adversaries as they attempted to sell their product. Using all the sales techniques at their disposal against each other, it was probably doubly ironic that they became friends of a sort. Being emotionally unable to support one another, they based their relationship on a need for what the other had to offer. They shared an apartment. They shared a bed. They respected each other. They took their meals together. They helped each other to the limit of their ability. Bonding was minimal. +At 7:25 p.m., Dick came home to find Jane asleep in a chair. She looked exhausted. Dinner was still not a consideration. ""Damn!"" he thought. It was supposed to be her turn tonight. Then, after re-consideration, he finds that he's a bit horny so he changes his tact. ""Hey Babe? Let's order in Chinese tonight,"" he says. She does not respond to his question and he orders anyway for a nine o'clock delivery. +At 9:00 p.m. the food arrives and they are awakened from their sleep to rise from their chairs and go to the door where they pay for the food and trudge to the table to eat their meal. As they eat they become more awake. . . .Jane finds herself feeling a bit horny and the couple make overtures towards each other. . . .a look, a lascivious smile, a suggestion! Each works at enticing he other. +Twenty minutes later they undress and climb in bed. They move together and touch each other as they kiss and fondle. They are both experienced and know what turns on their partner and they both proceed through the motions. As Dick puts his lips to Jane's breast he tastes the slight taste of stale sweat. He continues his ministrations and moves down Jane's belly until he gets the distinct odour of poor feminine hygiene. Here he stops and retreats back to concentrate on the breasts. Jane, on the other hand, gets better perceptions of Dick. . . .she quickly responds and here lust builds steadily. Then, she senses that Dick has hesitated and seems untuned to their act. +They slowly come together as their minds resolve the immediate problems with their encounter. When Dick's tool enters Jane's lubricated pussy they are as prepared as they probably can be. Both are incapable of deep emotion and both are more interested in themselves than in their partner. After the point of insertion, the act becomes more familiar. The experienced lovers dance the ancient ritual of love with skill and they take certain pleasure from each other. +The culmination is slow in coming; yet, most enjoyable. Jane exaggerates her reaction to the feelings to impress Dick. Dick stays for the afterglow to please Jane. Then, it's over. +Let's give it a 6.5 on the 1 to 10 scale. +\---------------------------- ####--------------------------------- +Gena was the Chief Operating officer of a large corporation before she was thirty five. She had earned the position with hard work and diligence and the company she took over had moved from near bankruptcy to a financial success. She had been interviewed by several national magazines and was at the top of her career field. +Privately her social life, or lack of it, was in a shambles. She had no close friends, having lost contact with those she'd made as kids long ago. Her sexual encounters had been limited to a couple of high school trysts in the back seat of a family sedan and a fellow in college who had sweet-talked her into it a few times before they parted. Now, she had only masturbation which provided little relief for her sexual tensions. +At one of the more intense times of need, when masturbation simply didn't help, Gena decided it was time for some professional help. She searched the yellow pages and found a listing for, ""Discreet Escort Services, men and women for your pleasure."" She checked her schedule and found that the following Tuesday night was clear. Wednesday morning had only a minimal work schedule. She picked up the telephone and dialled the number. . . . +At 6:00 p.m. on Tuesday, a tall, dark, formally dressed, handsome man appeared at Gena's door. ""He'll do nicely,"" she thought as she opened the door. +Dinner was scheduled for 6:45 at 'Amadaeus', the chic place to go in the city. Gena would be seen there, in the company of a handsome man and the fact duly reported in social circles. Should someone recognize the man she was with, it was unlikely they'd talk much about it. Dinner was pleasant and the conversation was easy. +Dan provided a service, the best service in the city, for the highest price in the city. Dan was good at what he did. . . He was a professional too! Tonight he was especially pleased to note that the woman he was with was to be with was beautiful! His business acumen told him that he would. +Gena, on the other hand, was nervous. She felt tense and somewhat frightened by what she was doing. Then it happened. . . .! Tess, from her marketing department, came by their table and it was evident that she knew Dan rather well. ""Damn, she knows!,"" she thought. Later, as they danced, Dan seemed to know a good many of the people around them even though he pretended to have eyes only for her. ""Let's get out of here,"" she said. +As they drove about the city, Gena began to relax. Dan tried to mend the damage that had been done by their chance meeting with Tess. Tess wouldn't talk. He was sure of that. Dan knew Tess well and he had services a number of clients at Tess's request. Right now though, it was his responsibility to save the evening and his reputation. They talked on an intellectual level about a mirad of things. Gradually, Gena was prepared for the evening ahead. As they departed the care Gena was relaxed and even enjoying the evening. . . .until they passed the doorman at her apartment. ""He'll know I'm having a man in my room,"" she thought and she was tense again. +In her apartment, Dan was solicitous but it was to little avail. He had experienced failure before but it was usually with women who had emotional hangups or mental problems and Gena didn't show any signs of either. He tried to be pleasant and played to her ego. +Had Gena been of lesser intellect she might have been won but she quickly saw through Dan's ploys. ""What the hell,"" she thought, ""I hired him to fuck me and that's what he's here for."" ""Let's fuck,"" she said. +Dan was again on safe ground. He was an expert at fucking. . . . and that's what she wants! He slowly undressed the woman beside him as she lay on the bed. She could have been dead as far as he could tell. He undressed himself before her and she showed no interest. Kissing her was like putting his lips to a cold fish. Perhaps. . . . .As he climbed between her thighs and applied his lips to her labes did he get a reaction. . . . only a slight one but it encouraged Dan to continue his ministrations. He had eaten and fingered many pussies before but this one got his best effort as he continued to encourage the woman beneath him. Then, he felt hands on his head directing him upwards. ""I want it now,"" she said. +As Dan donned his condom and climbed over his clients body he hoped that he could still save his reputation. After all he was surely one of the best cocksmen in the city. As he entered her Gena resisted due to poor lubrication and felt the pain as they became accustomed to each other. The action was slow to start; then, then brisk. +Gena lay as if she were dead, under her lover's body. Then, somewhere deep in her bowels she felt a spark of lust. It was just an instant but Gena recognized it at once. She waited until she felt the spark again and then again. The man on top of her was beginning to inspire her lusty nature. She let herself go as she began to respond to Dan's ministrations. It felt good! Then it felt real good!! +Then, it was over. Dan had withheld his ejaculation as long as he could before spilling his wad into the condom. +Frustrated with the whole affair, Gena ordered, ""Get out!"" ""Just take your clothed and go. This was a mistake."" After Dan was gone, history, a ""to-be- forgotten"" event. Gena wept. . . . . +Let's rate this at about 1.2 on a scale of 1 to 10. +\----------------------------####---------------------------------- +Bob is working on a project 5,000 miles from home. He works 65 hours a week at a demanding job and has little time for a life. He is there, a hemisphere from home, to forget a woman in whom he had invested his very soul only to find that she didn't feel the same way. He is lonely. . . .so lonely that it's affecting his sleep, his mind and his forgetting the woman he came to forget. +Phyllis is a woman who was born into poverty, had worked hard to improve her lot, failed and lost hope. When the project came to her village, she saw men with money, men with power, men who would never know poverty! It was then that she decided to sell herself. +Some months later, Bob went to the local bar. He had reasoned that a whore could appease his loneliness and his sexual appetites at the same time. Besides, he had heard that the women in the bar were beautiful. As he entered the establishment he saw that the rumours he had heard were true - the women were indeed beautiful! +He approached the bar, ordered beer and addressed Phyllis, ""Hi! I'm bob,"" he said. ""You may call me Phyl,"" she said and the bargaining began. They had soon agreed on a price, a place and what was expected of the encounter. +As they left he bar Bob began to feel the long forgotten sensation of lust. It felt good. He felt the beginnings of an erection and enjoyed the pleasure it evoked. As they walked, Phyl tried to engage Bob in conversation that would result in some bonding. ""After all,"" she reasoned, ""If she could please this man he might return often."" They talked of personal things and things that would draw out Bob's feelings. She tried to develop the conversation along intellectual lines as well. Bob, was certainly ready for any form bonding, especially female bonding. He was soon captivated by the woman who he had hired to please him. . . +At Bob's room, they entered in silence as Phyl waited for Bob to set the mood. When he didn't act immediately she took control and set Bob in a chair at the table. She moved slowly and sensuously to a seat across from him. They continued to talk as Bob's appetites became more urgent. +When Phyl moved from her chair and went to the bathroom, Bob arose and stood wondering what was about to transpire. Soon Phyl returned with her former clothing gone and dressed in a black teddy. Bob was ""fucking hot"" in an instant. Phyl came forward into his waiting arms and pressed her body against him waiting for hm to yield. When she had his shirt buttons open she lifted his shirt and undershirt over his head and dropped his trousers with a single downward movement. As Bob yielded he lifted the teddy over Phyl's head and they stood bared before each other. +Phyl quickly went to the bathroom and returned with a warm, wet towel with which she washed his genital area; then, gently pushed Bob back on to the bed. Slowly, for effect, she climbed between his legs and placed her mouth over the erect cock before her. She did to his tool what he had never even imagined before. She deep-throated him, she massaged his massive tool with her lips. she sucked his balls. Two minutes later Bob spilled his first load of semen . . .it was sensational! +But the evening was far from over. The couple bathed together and played as they washed each other's genitalia. For the first time in months Bob felt that a great burden had been lifted and he forgot the woman back home. As Phyl played with Bob's flaccid tool in the warm bath water, it soon began to show signs of stiffening; then, it was again ready for action. +Immediately, they left the bath, dried and Phyl gently directed Bob back to the bed, whence he came. She lingered in the bathroom only long enough to apply lubrication to her vagina and to take a condom from her store before joining Bob on the bed. There she tore open the covering on the condom and placed it on Bob's hard manmeat. They talked some giddy nonsense as Phyl climbed over Bob's torso and positioned herself over his erect cock. +The insertion was slow as they adjusted to the connection; then, a steady mechanical rhythm as Phyl worked to please Bob. As the rhythm of the dance of love continued, a bond formed between the lovers and there was pleasure. Bob's ejaculation was slower in coming this time and it brought a pleasant sensation as he exploded his second load of the evening into the condom. +Phyl knew that good sex included the afterglow and she stayed with her man as he slowly withdrew from his high point. Her job was manifold; she must support and encourage his ego; she must satisfy his sexual appetite; she must sell herself! She is doing it well. Phyl is, indeed, a good whore. +The rest of the night included another sexual encounter and hours of subtle flattery, intimacy, and bonding. +As good sex goes, Phyl had bought the best she could from Bob. We'd give that one about a 4.2 on the 1 to 10 scale." +902,What Men Want Ch. 03,almost,How To,2003-04-23,2003-04-23,2022-01-04 08:41:58,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-men-want-ch-03,Why cheaters cheat.,"['Cheater', 'Cheaters Cheat', 'Credit Cards', 'Frying Pan', 'Fuck People', 'Learn Love', 'Love Affection', 'People Fuck', 'Thing Person']",4.14,"**What Men Want Chapt 3-Why someone cheats, another chapter in the Almost series.** + _Foreword: I titled this, They vs He or She because the causes of cheating are somewhat bipartisan. They don’t vary by gender, so, if she’s doing it to you, or he is, it’s for somewhat the same reason, and although those reasons can vary, some are listed below, or the one’s I’ve figured out are, reasons are specific to the person, or the situation, and I’m sure some don’t fit these offerings. I have never cheated on anyone, I have been cheated on by many, and I understand it more than I once did, is all this is. Again, keep those cards and letters coming folks, you fuel my idea banks. And, this is dedicated to Kelly, a lovely young thing who took my place, for a time and gave what I couldn’t give. Thank you my dear._ +Cheaters. It’s a nasty word, it bespeaks of betrayal of trust, of sneakery and thievery, of dishonesty in the core of a being, they not only steal from others, they do it secretly and through being devious and deceptive, they worm their ways into the hearts of a lover only to then twist like a knife to hurt them thoughtlessly for superficial selfishness. It tells of a naughty thing bad people do, it’s a label that says evil, that says unworthy, even unethical and unkind. But WHY do they do it? +You’ll read theories by angry spouses that explain it’s because they’re cheating, low life, lying, no good, lousy, stinking, shallow and flawed, and insecure, and mean, and totally unsuitable to be allowed in the human race spouse is just a dog, a slug, a slime and an ingrate. They’ll tell you of the damage it did to their own trust (oh poor babies!) what a surprise it was to them and how these horrible thoughtless destroyers of beauty and good are in fact cads, and witches and evil beyond measure. It’ll talk about their upbringing, their parents, their friends and their work, and slyly suggest none of it was even THEIR fault or had anything to do with them. It paints them like victims, and what it doesn’t tell you is the truth. Or, I guess my question is, if it is the truth, then why’d you marry them to begin with? Did you expect them to change from being shallow, flawed, insecure, inadequate and mean and totally unsuitable, or did they fool you totally with nary a hint or a suggestion? If you did marry them knowing they had many problems and flaws, did you not realize the risk that they in fact might not be perfect or conform to your standards of excellence? Cause I’d think it might be smart to know someone a bit before marrying them, but what do I know…and of course, my goal isn’t just to get their paycheck and not have to work…so? Different strokes I guess…but the free lunch doesn’t happen often in life, so you get what you deserve at times. If you set forth choosing to be blind without seeing, don’t complain about the view. +Rule number one, cheaters cheat to get something they aren’t getting. Period. End report. Now what it is may vary, and indeed they may have some flaws, but no happy person goes looking for trouble just to see if it exists. This is almost a constant, except in the case of a psychopath, who then cheats just for the joy of so doing. For one, it’s a lot of work to cheat. You have to find someone else who wants to cheat with you, and even single men can tell you that’s not always easy! A lot of the girls out there won’t have a man who cheats, and actually are wise enough to ask if they’re married, and will not play with men who they even SUSPECT are! And for another, a person who is getting all they need, really doesn’t bother looking for something they don’t. No motive, no action! +People cheat to find fulfillment, and what that fulfillment is, varies by what it is they don’t have or don’t want to give up. They do it often as a form of compromise. A way to stay within that marriage or relationship, to raise those children, to honor their commitments and have the life they have invested in, and still have “me” time, and things they so desperately need, and don’t get elsewhere. It’s an oasis of me, in a sea of them, to many. It’s like going bowling, it’s like going fishing, it’s a hobby, a distraction and even a relief from the daily grind. To many it has very little emotional attachment, it is just physical, one dimensional and a solution to cope with a life they can’t seem to get everything from. It is often egocentric, in a world they are allowed no ego in. And sometimes it’s addictive as well, because it is naughty and it is totally egocentric. And there’s a high to that. It becomes a conquest and a getting over on someone that in time, can in fact flaw the individual who may have started for different reasons altogether. +No I don’t agree with it, nor is it a healthy way to live one’s life, but to solve it, you have to identify why they do it! And they aren’t all wrong! They aren’t! I will defend some of them. It is a case of situational ethics, of solutions to problems and compromise. So if you don’t want them to cheat, I”d suggest you consider not putting them in that situation, or if you don’t care if they do, well then quit WHINING! +Example: The man who marries the woman who just doesn’t want sex with him. He works, he pays the bills, he mows the lawn, he provides for her. He gives her a roof over her head, he may raise her children, he escorts her places, he takes her on vacation, he builds her a secure future and keeps her from a life of hardship. He buys her gifts, brings her champagne, he plans romantic escapes, he pleases her anyway he can, he takes her to dinner and the movies. All he wants is love and affection and warmth and intimacy in return. +OR…the woman whose man ignores her, comes home, never talks, never listens, goes to his shop, won’t interact, won’t do things with her, often won’t have sex with her, and often acts more like a vegetable with legs than a man or a lover, and all she wants is his love, affection and warmth and intimacy. +So when she or he refuses to give him or her that, says she/he doesn’t like it, or it’s not convenient, who’s doing the cheating???? And after months and years of this, he swallows hard and accepts that she isn’t going to give him that one little thing he so desperately needs, he sometimes decides, he loves her so much or the life they’ve built, that he’ll just solve it all but getting a little on the side. Or she will, cause it does happen the other way around too! +And I again ask you, whose the cheater in that. The man who earned, did, worked for, provided and got nothing in return, not even the consideration to want to meet him part way, or…the man who after providing all these things, and thinking of everything he possibly could to get this housekeeper gone mad to put out a little and like being with him intimately, he decides he won’t bother her for THAT any more and just get it somewhere else? +Is there anger in it? Of course there is! Lol…poor GUY! He had this vision of happily ever after when he walked down that aisle, with visions of sugar plums dancing in his head, he worked and he slaved, and he gave and he gave, and now he’s off begging some woman to please be his friend, because the one at home, has a headache, oh yet again. And according to the stories, HE’s the BAD GUY in it all for liking and needing sex, love and affection and intimacy! OH RIGHT! +There are different libido levels, and unfortunately sometimes they do end up in a relationship, but the bottom line is there are also lazy, thoughtless, inconsiderate uncaring, unfeeling, self involved people in marriages, and THEIR SPOUSES often CHEAT! And they then go boo hoo hoo! Because they couldn’t manipulate the last sense of spirit and passion out of that spouse. +There are also sexual preferences and inadequacies, which often get the press for these problems. The she left me cause my dick wasn’t big enough thing, or she left me for a woman, or he left me for a younger woman. Well? A dick that never wants them is about worthless regardless of it’s size, if they are indeed a latent homosexual, well somewhere in there, you were either deceived badly or refused to see, and if he left you for someone younger, it’s probably because she looks at him like a god, and idolizes him and actually takes care of her body, and goes places with him and laughs, so? It isn’t just an age thing or a size thing, it’s about not being what they need or caring enough to figure out what they need. If you have decided to turn into an old woman and he’s bored half to death, you’re right, he may decide he wants some one more alive and fun, and while he’s shopping maybe firm and luscious might as well go into it too, besides, if she’s younger, by the time she turns old and grey like you are now, well, he’ll be ready for one a bit slower by then…right fellas? +Hey, folks, you’re the ones boring them out the door, don’t mind me if I at least explain to you what you’re doing! They want fun, so do I! There’s nothing wrong with being alive, and you really don’t have to sit down to wait for your funeral, I promise, no one will hold it without you being there! You can’t be late to your own funeral, so go play! It’s ok! It’ll wait til you’re ready! +Is cheating right? Well compared to allowing someone to destroy your soul, it may be, but in actuality I don’t think so, I think it’s a case of two wrongs don’t make a right. Although they will defend it, as being better for the kids…I dunno! Some will even say “it’s not the money” OH PULLLEASE, it is SO! Lol! They don’t want to give up the big screen! It’s all of it…the house, the frying pan, the 401k, the kids, the dog, all of it…ok…maybe they’d give up the frying pan willingly. +I was a child in that, I’m not so sure it’s a good thing! +I also know a man who cheated for years, and his wife had learned to just look the other way, She knew, she didn’t admit she did, he hid it somewhat discreetly and they managed. But he said he wouldn’t leave her, because she would get half of everything, which? I guess, it’s what you value, your chance at happiness or half a double wide trailer, it’s all relative to what’s important to you I guess. +I know another couple, he’s in a position of power, he loves his power, and this is his second marriage. He brings his current mistress of the moment to social functions at his house, with his wife as hostess, and she swears he would NEVER cheat on her, and you’re standing there at this cocktail party with him being smug, the latest mistress (they’re a constant stream, young, over educated, stupid, sigh, whatever!) glaring at the wife, and the wife myopically serving pu-pus trying to convince everyone she hasn’t a clue! It’s all in what you like I guess…sigh…and EVERYone knows, he makes sure they do! And does he have a big one? They don’t come that big, in my book, folks…I don’t want any of him. And it is all about money, he has, they want, he trades. All it is. She won’t leave him! So she pretends she doesn’t know! She likes his credit cards! They’re BIG credit cards! +How do kids do in that? Well for one, they learn that love is nonsexual. They see this platonic relationship of some sort, perhaps with hidden issues, and they come to view that as normal. They don’t see the intimacy and affections between their parents that teach them it’s ok to develop those and respect their values. Often they are either totally ignored by the parents who are so busy focusing on their own needs ever so selfishly, or they are so totally inundated with parental affection with no healthy outlet they are all but smothered by it. So, yeah, it’s great for the kids, if you want to raise kids as screwed up as you are. And the sins of the parents shall manifest duofold in the kids…you reap what you sow. And I wish them luck at judgment day as they explain they didn’t realize. +And no, I am not softening this with kind words, it’s real! So, if it bothers someone to read this, perhaps they should open their eyes to what all of it does to their own families, wives, husbands, children and all, as they espouse they’re doing the right thing for everyone. And no I don’t just mean the person who is driven to seek comfort outside the boundaries of that relationship, I also mean the one who drives that person to that as a solution. It’s bad stuff, folks! It is not what love is supposed to do to people. So the cheater may in fact be the cheatee in many cases too. +There are other reasons cheaters cheat. There are. There is a group of people who cheat to keep a sense of themselves they refuse to give to a relationship. Fidelity is a gift we give, and some people can not bear to give it, they fear the loss of themselves in so doing, or that they’ll not have their own safety around them, so they cheat. They keep part of themselves intact and separate from a relationship. And the first group, who started cheating for reason can evolve into this group, but this group can evolve on their own too…and it is a form of addiction I think. Where the high becomes the conquest and they seek it as a form of satisfaction outside of sexual bliss. +These folks, like a former politician who made the news for months and months with some little tramp who kept the dress ever so handily, often will explain it isn’t SEX. Or it isn’t lovemaking more accurately, because to them it isn’t. It is often contained to them being recipients of pleasures, or they are somewhat non participatory during these escapades and therefore they rationalize that this isn’t the same thing as what they do with that person they care for, this is just an outlet they need. And those people are usually habitual cheaters, and they will often tell you they are long before you ever catch them. People do tell on themselves, if you listen. And Grand Jury’s listen and have microphones and TV cameras too…but it’s symptomatic of a much widely spread disease in society. One built on lack of acceptance of sex and it’s power and it’s rightful place in our lives as a joy we are given. +I am going to share a very good story someone told me the other day. The government doesn’t want people to fuck. Because people who fuck think, and if you don’t let people fuck, they won’t think, because if they do think, they’ll think about fucking, so the solution is, it’s patriotic and American to fuck. Support our country, fuck tonight! +And if you don’t want your spouse to seek it elsewhere, then I suggest you give it up, boys and girls! And do it very damned well. It doesn’t have to get boring, it’s a creative element in and of itself. It has lots of ways to stay fresh and exciting. If you’re on this website, you’re probably very aware of some of those. +And if that spouse is cheating, it may take YOU time to earn THEIR trust and belief in YOU Again should you wish to keep your relationship intact. Many cheaters do eventually leave that relationship, often because they can’t live a dual life, and one day they choose. But of course, the spouse who didn’t cheat always claims she threw them out…yeah RIGHT! +Not til they were already half packed and headed out the door anyway. Begging to please please, just meet them half way…and they answered by yelling get out. So yeah, they threw them out, I suppose, if you want to look at it that way, but of course, first they tortured them for a few years. OH right, they skip that part, don’t they! Silly me! +I don’t agree with cheating, but I understand it. And if you force a person to do it, you’re no less guilty than they are, in fact, you’re probably more guilty. Sex is important, and so is affection, understanding, intimacy and trust. They trusted you to care about them and you didn’t, so don’t yell at them if they then learned to not care about you, or tried to anyway, and took that one element somewhere else, because you didn’t like it anyway. +And for all you cheaters out there, sigh…what you do to that third person in that isn’t fair. It isn’t. You make him or her, pay the dues your lazy thoughtless spouse won’t pay, and then in return you expect to give nothing to get that. It’s a nasty mess for people, and for those contemplating cheating with someone, or fall into that trap, I suggest you get clear of that whirlpool if you can. Cheaters don’t love, they only use. They already gave at the office is why. +For the third persons in it, hey, make him take you someplace nice, cause you aren’t getting much else out of it! Although yes, sometimes they do learn to love too. It does happen. But it’s often a mess before it does. Good luck to you. +And to those potential cheaters contemplating or considering, you may want to look at other options too. It is not a simple thing you consider. For anyone. And you become like the one who does it to you." +903,What We Like,KnPinTN,How To,2004-06-24,2004-06-24,2022-01-04 08:41:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-we-like,He describes his pussy-eating technique.,"['Rear Wall', 'Start Make', 'Tongue Tip', 'Wall Vagina']",4.51,"P likes it when I kiss and nibble her neck and shoulders. I'm not sure but when I do it very slowly she seems to enjoy it more. P has very pretty, delicate inner labia as the pics on line show. I like to suck one or both in between my lips and move my head around just enough to stretch them slightly. This usually elicits little mewls of pleasure from her and starts to light that fuse I talk about in our profile. I like to tease her in the beginning with very light licks and sucks of the inner thighs, pudenda (pubic mound) and labia. Once she escalates to a preorgasmic stage I like to slide one finger inside her vagina and lightly caress her G-spot and surrounding area. She also responds well to massaging of the rear wall of her vagina. I'll alternate between those two areas (about 20 or 30 seconds +each) while tickling her clit with my tongue. She's usually thrusting her hips skyward by now trying to increase the pressure of the caresses. She may say she doesn't like it but I try to delay her first climax until she can't stand it any more, holding her just below her orgasmic threshold. When you +think she's ready take a second finger and insert- it with the first. Just inside the front wall of her vagina there's an arch of bone or cartilage right in front of her G-spot. I use the ends of these two fingers to squeeze the tissue between that bone and my fingers. This almost always puts her over the top and into orgasmic bliss. And hold on...it's a real roller coaster ride from now on! Alternate tongue strokes on her clit up and down to side to side. Sucking it in between your lips and flicking it with your tonguetip rapidly. Once she seems to be coming down from her cum, move your fingers to the rear wall of her vagina and she'll start all over again. To make her squirt pull your fingers out, quit licking and rapidly move your +four fingertips up and down over her entire labial area. It should be very wet and slippery and when you start stroking she usually bears down and squirts all over your hand and fingers. First and foremost K loves pussy, preferably shaved like the day you were born. It's so much more sensuous when my tongue can glide over the mons veneris giving goose bumps to the woman as I start to make love to her. The heady aroma of her vaginal folds start to waft upwards to my nostrils creating the most wonderful aphrodisiac in the world. I can feel my cock harden as her labia start to flower open to my view. The first dewdrops of excitement appear on the petals of her rose. I dip my tongue tip delicately into her blossom and get my first taste of her ambrosia. The nectar of the Gods never tasted this good! I tap dance my tongue down her cuntal furrow and push just inside her vaginal opening. Her walls contract around my lingual member in appreciation for the exquisite stimulation to come. Her clitoris peeks out from under its protective hood hoping to attract some of the attention. And who am I to refuse, right? With my two thumbs I peel open her swollen outer labia even wider. The picture in front of my eyes is better than any Rembrandt or Monet. An intricate arrangement of pinks and reds designed to tantalize my senses of sight, smell, taste and feel. +I bend close to this work of art and breath in her wonderful perfume. I push my nose against her clit and dip my tongue into her sweet honeypot. I feel her hips and thighs spasm as the sensations become almost too much to bear. I push deeper into her coralline cavern and run my tongue tip all around the moistening walls, brushing my nose back and forth over her erect nub. Suddenly I hear a gasp escape her throat and I know it's time!!! I move my mouth up and suck her entire clitoral area between my lips, thrusting and parrying my tongue directly against her most sensitive part. I like using the underside of my tongue on her clit because it's so much smoother and slipperier. It causes cold chills to run up and down her spine as her orgasm overloads her brain with pleasure. +Unintelligible sounds emanate from her throat as she slips into a consciousness known only by the few who have experienced the ultimate sexual bliss. My tongue tip flicks back and forth over her spasming spike. Her lower pelvic muscles seize up and contract violently. Finally I get my reward as a thin stream of girly cum shoots into my mouth. I hear her grunting out her ultimate release just before her body collapses on the bed, totally spent. Her eyelids flutter as she floats in a world of post-orgasmic bliss. More juices seep out from between her labia as the muscles start to relax. I hungrily lap them up, savoring the delicious delicacy. +Slowly her brain returns to this world. She manages a weak smile that I recognize as a well earned ""thank you"". You're very welcome, I kind of enjoyed it myself too you know!!" +904,What Women Want From Men,almost,How To,2003-02-26,2003-04-29,2022-01-04 08:42:00,3,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-women-want-from-men,1. The other side of the story from a woman about female needs. 2. How to take the chill out your bed. 3. Awakening dormant female sexuality.,"['Feminine Side', 'Girl Thing', 'Good Girls', 'Good Thing', 'Guys Talk', 'Love Sexual', 'Men', 'Radio Station', 'Rest Pretty', 'Time Men']",4.34,"Having seen the recent (and EVERY) Mel Gibson movie, about what a woman wants, I’m no closer to knowing what women really want than he was and I am one. I, however, will admit, that what I want varies some, and I wouldn’t mind sharing it if I could figure it out. And I think perhaps the reason we’re so hard to understand is we even hide knowing what we want from ourselves. We call that changing our minds, it’s just semantics though, for I forget or, I’m not sure I know, or what I want today may, in fact, be different tomorrow. I think its sort of one of those, if NO one knows the secret, it can’t get out things, so we don’t even tell ourselves. You know it’s kind of a good thing we’re cute at times, isn’t it? +Searching through the twisted halls of the Inner Sanctums of Feminine Logic, even when one speaks the language, isn’t easy. We want LOTS of things, and we keep losing the dang list! We want to be blonde, no brunette, no maybe a redhead or wait can you just put some highlights in for me? We want to be smarter, no dumber, well, maybe only sort of smart. We want to be taller, or shorter, or maybe, more medium and we ALL want our butts to look smaller, except the one woman who reads this and says, I don’t! Not me, my butt is fine the way it is, she’s wrong! So okay then, the rest of us want our butts to look smaller and you just don’t care what yours looks like! +And I think the key to it is, as long as we can get out of any conversation with anyone, by saying, you’re wrong, we’re almost happy. And that seems to be a pretty consistent trait with women, we like to be right. We can be argumentative, we can be deliberately confusing, but we do confusing almost by confusing ourselves, and then try to explain it from the standpoint of reason, like we’re serious, and sometimes we are the only ones we really convince we are serious, let alone making sense. That also confuses us into believing we aren’t confused, and further confuses whom ever we are out to confuse, did I make that clear enough? It’s a case of. insert part ‘a’ into slot ‘b’, only remark it slot ‘a’ so there are now two slot ‘a’s and then put part ‘c’ into any slot it will fit in and call a plumber. Got it? Every husband and male in a relationship just agreed, didn’t ya guys? It’s not you ‘got it’, it’s you won’t even try to go there, and we sort of know that…see you guys are kind of predictable that way. That would be score… home team two, visitors zip. And we don’t need mirrors to do it either, we come by it naturally. +And the reason they don’t let women play football is, we’d get out there and change the rules, we would! It’s a dumb game anyway, so it needs remodeling, so maybe a pale lavender for the other guys pants, and a sprig of lily of the valley for the brunettes and? See? It’s sort of instinct with us females to change things. And without us, you men would all live in bachelor hell. Consider that. For every good thing there is a counter part in an alternate universe. And sour cream may even go “good” when it’s left out all night in some of them. +Ah, and the world then had this sexual revolution and now we don’t have to cook as often, and then they have women’s rights so we get paid more, and then there’s chivalry although slowly it is becoming out of style, so we still get our seats on the bus from some of you, life should be good for us ladies about now, but I think the truth is we’re at least as confused by all of this stuff as men are. And I’m not sure we’re always happy with how the world is. And in that may be a key to what makes us tick I think… +Once upon a time, men did battle, they slew dragons, they wore shining armor and rode great white horses. They dashed, and we called them dashing, and women swooned and you guys caught us before we tumbled to the ground, if there was a puddle in life’s sidewalk a man threw his coat over it, which still makes no sense to me, now my feet get wet, his coat is dripping and we’re supposed to find that helpful and courteous? Sounds like some dry cleaning company put that idea together if you ask me! But you were our heroes, you solved the world’s problems, you provided comfort and gentility, you took us dancing, you fought for our honor and our hand, and you took care of us, and all we had to do was wear dresses and look cute. Or so the stories say? +There were bad guys and good guys, and they wore the appropriate colored hats, so we could tell who was who, the music played to signal danger or dastardly deeds about to unfold, we had little princess phones that lit up and we all dreamed of some guy showing up with a glass slipper and it only fit us. And away we all flew in the arms of a dark stranger with deep mysterious eyes and a smile that promised delights we had never considered. We twirled in our dreams, we pranced, we wore silk and satin and lace. We were Joan of Arc at times, yielding the sword of the righteous, we were Jackie O foxhunting in a her pill box hat, we were Tinkerbell flitting to and fro to warn Peter of danger, and we had a fairy godmother to rescue us from a cruel life of drudgery and we ended up comparing Maytag and Frigidaire and trying to budget enough for pizza on Fridays.. I seriously suspect I’m not the only one wondering what the hell went wrong. I keep waiting for the old broad with the magic wand to show up to clean house for me, sigh. +So when it comes down to what we want, well we’d like life to be simple again I think, or more glamorous, or less exhausting or more exciting, we wish some of the fairy tales were true, we want illusions sometimes and delusions of grandeur, even if they only last until the kids wake up, and I almost doubt I’ll get a lot of argument on that, other than that one girl who still is cranky about the comment about her butt size, we women also bear grudges you see, we’re like elephants, we don’t forget! +We want flowers in the spring, and maybe on special occasions, we want thoughtfulness, which is maybe the biggest key to it all, we want to know we’re in your thoughts, and whether its flowers or candy or just a cute note, that’s what we’re after, constant reassurance you love us, and we’re you’re little princess, even if we aren’t so little or anyone else’s. +We like to think you think about us, and we think about you? It’s a girl thing to think about you boys, and it amazes us you men don’t seem to ever think about us like we do, because you guys don’t talk, probably cause I used up more than my share of words, but? The point is we do…we just gush out our feelings, we say, we whine, we carry on, we vent, we wheedle, we rage and we storm, and sometimes we just chat for fun too! that you think about us enough to see through all the mystique and confusion, we want to be your puzzles. We want you to solve us, put us together. We want to be understood, is part of it, and that may to some extent be, because we can’t figure ourselves out either! So we’re hoping you can, cause you did put that silly “requires some assembly” thing together, and I think, most of us require some assembly. Or if we don’t, we will! We like it when you assemble us, but? Careful now, don’t tell us we need to be different then we are or we’ll assume you don’t love us. We’re fragile, we’re tough, we’re evilly wonderful for moments and sometimes we’re just boring as hell. +We like attention, we like to be the focus of yours, and to us, it equivalates carrying, we want to be cared for, and not just tangibly. We want to come home to candles and wine, we want to have our backs rubbed at times and asked how our day was, and maybe even listened to intently! Not this mumbled, unhuh, or that frozen deer caught in the headlights look you men get when you’re sure any answer will invoke a fight. The reaction to does my butt look big in these pants, and the correct answer IS! Honey, you’re butt, no matter how it changes over the years makes me just grin, you know I love your butt, and I will always love your butt, and yes I like how you look in those pants…or if the pants look terrible, say, and yes, those pants aren’t your most flattering…I like the GREEN ones better, that’s all it takes…women are like guns? If you aim us we’re fine, but don’t just pull the trigger and don’t look where we’re pointed or we could hurt some one, and it may end up being YOU! +There are studies, and I’ve read a few, and I’ll probably misquote them some in this,but in one, I read that women use some 20,000 more words daily on average then men do, which just boggled me as I started to count the words I used, going I don’t use 20,000 words a day do I? Let alone 20,000 MORE words, good heavens! And most of the men who know me are hiding the laughter behind their hands, thinking oh she uses more than her share, oh boy does she! And in that same article it said, men’s thumbs were twenty times as strong as a woman’s from generations of pulling triggers and bows and arrows and things, and that I’ll buy into, and now I know why you get the jars open, when I can’t, it’s heredity! And ya know, I think it wasn’t just triggers you strengthened those thumbs on guys… +Now in all that somewhere are some statements about evolution and our less civilized backgrounds that sociologists could probably explain at length in great detail. The hunter and the gatherer thing, being part of that, where men evolved as a hunting creature, who had to forget and move on if he missed the mastodon, or it was not an option to call for pizza, so he must move forward, he couldn’t dwell on things or seek solace for a bad day, and he couldn’t be chatting or the mastodon’s would here him sneaking up on them and if he didn’t get meat? the woman was gonna leave him for a guy who could hunt, and women had to stay by the cave and protect the young, and remember where that patch of blackberries was each year so they could go gather them, and worried about predators attacking, and what time Martha Stewart came on, and whether to do the cave in a faux wash of mint greens to match the moss or to leave it sort of natural and just accent it, so the learning skills and thinking processes evolved differently for each gender is I think what happened. +And then civilization added it’s madness to it all with clothes and morality and rules and neighbors, and then churches got in on it with the thou shalts and thou shalt not’s…and about them they came up with this good girls do, and nice girls don’t, or do I have that backwards, and so every little princess out there isn’t really sure what it’s about. And without meaning to sound sacri-religious, even Mary didn’t have sex? +So in all that is how we came about, the modern day woman, we need to be androgenous at work, we need to think like men, we need to grow the bacon, catch it, butcher it, cure it, slice it, and cook it, and about then any one who expects it served too, is gonna get hurt! +We need to be mothers and self reliant, smart and less concerned with being female, we get bombarded with marketing showing us as intelligent and capable, and I think what we are losing touch with is OUR feminine side. It’s not men who need to get in touch with theirs, it’s women who need to refind theirs. Things like pleasures and relaxing and enjoyment of sensuality and feminity don’t fit well with being super Mom and upper management execs. +So what we want from men, hasn’t really changed that much, we just almost forget what we want, and in that, maybe what we need is to be reminded we are women, and ladies, and lovers and friends and sexual creatures. +Once upon a time, men so feared women’s sexuality, and that it would lead to promiscuity and disloyalty that they, you guys, took it away from women. You did, you taught us not to want it, that it was bad to want it, and that only THOSE kind of women did want it, and it’s message comes through early and consistently. Ladies sit like this, ladies don’t swear, ladies do this…and blondes have more fun! +So we want masculine men, period, we all do, we love your maleness, it appeals to our femaleness on a primal level. But with that, we have to have the time and the inclination to shift from our daily living as mothers and car pool drivers and business people, and for that we need romance or gentleness. We need to be understood, that actually we do love being sexual, we just can’t remember that at times. So we need to be reminded gently. +We need to be believed in, we desperately need to be loved, and held and stroked and petted. Just like men do. We need to be included in your lives, as something important. We need to matter more than going fishing on Saturdays or to the gym or even to work. We need to be able to talk to you, to tell you things without being afraid you’ll be hurt or won’t listen too. Things like our fantasies and our hopes and dreams, even our feelings. +It’s not that hard to do even, dedicate a song to us on a radio station, agree to listen to the same radio station together at certain times of the day. Bring a flower home for no specific reason, even pick one and bring it in, small things touch us, things that say I think about you, or even I had this spontaneous thought of you, and you matter. Send a post card on a business trip from the airport, that says If something should ever happen to me, I want you to know how much I love you. Things like that, are what we want and need. +Do the dishes once, and say, Let me, your tired. Arrange to send the kids away one evening and surprise me with a dinner out, or a dinner in, or just pizza and you! Take time to reach our feminine side, and make us want to reach out to you, is about all it takes. +Sexual technique is great it is, and women do take more to warm up then men do. Men externalize sex and internalize feelings, and women internalize sex and externalize feelings, so when you guys don’t talk and don’t say and don’t argue, we take it to be indifference and lack of caring. Because to us, we’d say something! +But in seventh grade, I looked up, intercourse in the dictionary, in that curious stage of what is this stuff, ooh, and was terribly disappointed to learn the definition was a conversation, well, in someways, that is about all one really needs to know about sex. It is communication, physical, emotional, intellectual, primal and basic, communication between people who so love and so care for each other that they need to unite as one. And if you keep that in mind, the rest is pretty easy. Without communication, physical, verbal, or written, we are separate entities. And it has to start somewhere, before it can reach all. +Most women’s fantasies do revolve around being ravished and taken, swept off their feet, made to be sexually uninhibited, and they are away to get past those societal bonds we’ve all had placed on us, and they feel very very wrong to have. But they’re real. They are. And they are a way to deal with things like inhibitions. But to get to those, we have to trust you really do want to know, it’s not going to be misunderstood, or lead to places we really don’t want to go, and that you actually love us for being sexual. That good girl thing again. We have been taught, good girls get, and bad girls oooh, get left behind. +We’ve learned about each other on TV, and movies, and through marketing hype? Through articles written by people who don’t know and don’t even like, the other sex, and through negativity. We’ve learned sexuality is overrated and unnecessary and can be evil, that men are bad, men need to be tamed and civilized, men are too primnal, they’re tough and mean, and you men aren’t! And we women aren’t all witches either…and I guess what we all need is a little private time, to explore each other, be attentive, listen with our hearts and eyes, and hear with our souls. Take the time to enjoy our trip together, and each other, and the differences, and when an orgasm is the only goal, well, we miss a lot of the joy of the trip, and we often don’t get where we want to go that way. +What we want is to be part of you and your lives. We want appreciation shown and verbalized, we want regular reminders that you care, and we want to know that to you, sex is about showing feelings, and the rest should pretty much fall into place. Or it did at my house. +Hope this helps! + +" +905,What Women Want,oldr_betr,How To,2012-12-11,2012-12-11,2022-01-04 08:41:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/what-women-want-2,Essay on how to please your partner.,"['Advice On Women', 'Pleasing You Partner', 'Relationship Advice', 'Sex Advice']",4.06,"In my experience, the kind of guy who writes an essay entitled ""What Women Want"" has been to bed with lots of women -- maybe a hundred or more. I haven't. I've petted and played with a few in high school and college, but I've actually fucked exactly three; the number between 2 and 4, and I was married to two of those. +How presumptuous of me to write this essay when I have so little experience. It's not necessarily my experience I base this on, but the experience of the women I've known. My ex-wife screwed around on me. (Hence, the term ""ex-wife"") Before I acknowledged this and did something about it, she began to tell me what a great lover I was. She told me I had a gorgeous dick, but she was a nurse and got to see some dicks. She had an orgasm every time we screwed and sometimes two. I appreciated the complements, but since we were both virgins when we met, I wondered how she was able to make the comparison. +I mentioned she was a nurse so she felt the need to fuck a couple of doctors (at least two, maybe more) and I was better than they were -- not much surprise there. I find most doctors to be personality and socially challenged. I'm big on loyalty, so when she betrayed me, I split. In the process, I took up with a woman who had some real experience. I was number 25 or 26 or 27(she couldn't remember) and she was 10 years younger. She had fucked her two husbands, a guy in a wife swap, a guy she went to the Caribbean with and knew for a total of a week, a guy she worked with who slept on her couch and smoked pot every night, a guy she worked with who was married, a telephone repairman who was married and whose wife left him because of the affair, her brother-in- law, her ex husband after he remarried, and several others. This girl liked to fuck and didn't spend many nights alone. As with the ex, she told me time and again, that I was the best. You are likely thinking, ""so?"" Of course she told you that, she told everyone that. Maybe she did tell all the guys, but she told her girlfriends, several of whom were also into recreational sex. This lead to some problems because a couple of them made moves on me and it got pretty tense at times. +Finally, I married wife number 2 and for her I was number 7 in terms of actually fucking and number 9 in terms of blowjobs. She's still with me and tells me I have the best looking dick she has ever seen and that I am the best lover she has ever had, by far. Since we are both in our 60's and have been married for over 20 years, I tend to believe she's telling me the truth. +Therefore, what do women want? Well, women like to fuck. It's in their DNA. How will humans procreate the race if men and women don't fuck each other? It's simple science. Accepting that women like to fuck, it's important to make the experience one they enjoy because, and here is a key point, the more they enjoy the experience, the better you will enjoy it. If you want to get a really good piece of pussy -- make sure she has a good time. +Let me explain a little further. Women like to fuck; they do not like to be fucked with. Treat them with respect and affection and it will be returned. One way to let them know how important they are is to show them your hard-on. When I'm ready to screw, I let my wife know I'm erect. I may just put her hand the front of my jeans so she can feel it, or walk around in my bikini underwear with my dick straining to get out, or just walk up on her naked and say, ""Look what you're doing to me."" She (and most women) get hot when they know they have to power to get your blood from your brain to your dick. +Keep your dick looking nice. I shave mine -- the shaft, my balls, and an area of pubic hair around my dick. When she gives you a blowjob, she wants your dick her mouth -- not a bunch of hair. +Find out what she wants out of sex. It may be different every time. Sometimes women just want to cuddle. You can fuck them and you can cum, but they just want to be held. If that's the case, go along with it. Don't insist they have an orgasm. +Maybe, on a different occasion, she wants it a little rough. Possibly she wants to be spanked and fucked hard. No matter how tired you are, oblige. +There are a number of toys out there that do a great job of bringing a woman to an orgasm. For example, the popular ""rabbit"" has a short dick that rotates in her pussy while a vibrator stimulates her clit at a range of speeds. She will explode with this thing. If that's what she wants, do it. The machine will enhance her experience and she will be so turned on, you will have your brains fucked out. +If she wants you to eat her pussy or pinch her nipples or suck her toes -- do it. You'll enjoy it and she will make sure you have a good time. I've covered her pussy with chocolate syrup and eaten it; I've put a plastic sheet on the bed and greased us both down with warm baby oil and we slid all over each other as we fucked. +If she's into games or a little light bondage, go with it. Don't be impatient. Let her get hot they way she wants to. If she wants you to watch her masturbate, watch. I've blind folded her and tied her hands to the bed. Then I nibble on her tits, kiss her stomach and lick her pussy while I also give her drinks of champagne. Then I stick my dick in the champagne and she licks it off -- still blindfolded and bound. When we finally fucked, she had an orgasm that shook the house. +Many women I have not fucked but have talked with about sex like to show off. I believe (and I could be wrong) that a large percentage of women are at least closet exhibitionists. If yours likes to show off, don't get jealous -- get hard. It can be a real turn on to have other people notice the one you're going to take home and fuck. If that's what she wants, let her have her fun. Maybe she wants to do it outdoors with a chance of getting caught. And what if you are caught? Big deal. Most people will love it and go home and fuck like bunnies themselves. +Let her pick the porn. If she wants to watch or read a little something to get going, let her decide. What guys like may not be what she likes. Remember your goal -- to get her so hot and so wet all she can think about is fucking you so let her decide how she gets there. +Lot's of women like to give blowjobs. They like the oral gratification and the idea that they control when you cum. If your partner swallows your cum and then wants to kiss you -- do it. She just took your dick in her mouth and then let you cum all over her mouth, tongue, and throat -- and you won't kiss her? It's just cum. If it doesn't hurt her, it won't hurt you and she will remember you were willing to kiss her with your cum in her mouth -- it is some kind of a turn on. +To reiterate, women like to fuck but don't like to be fucked with. Treat her with respect and affection, let her have what she wants in bed and you will have pussy for life." +906,When It's Over,bewindsor,How To,2006-06-15,2006-06-15,2022-01-04 08:42:04,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/when-its-over,The 5 Stages of Grieving the Loss of a Relationship.,"['Being Dumped', 'Break Up', 'End Of Relationship', 'Grieving']",4.66,"**When It's Over: The 5 Stages of Grieving the Loss of a Relationship** +Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, the time comes when we realize that the relationship is over. Sometimes this is a mutual decision and others the choice of only one. Rest assured though, if you have been in this relationship for any length of time, both people are experiencing a form of loss to varying degrees. Typically, we view this time as an ending. The chapter has concluded and now it is time to turn the page. +Turning the page on a particularly deep relationship, especially if you were not ready for it to end, is often hard. We, the one left behind, ask ourselves many questions laden with self-doubt. Our ego has taken quite a hit and now we are left with a swirl of questions, and often, few immediate answers. Friends or family will tell us the old, worn-out saying, ""There are plenty of fish in the sea"", but at this point in our lives we don't want ""other fish"". We want ""the fish"" that we may well have believed was the ""big catch"" we had been fishing for and finally caught. Though our friends mean well, they are pushing us to move too quickly past what can be a time of healing and self-discovery. +Modern psychology tells us the second most intense life stress (after death) is divorce or loss of a love relationship. The feelings of excruciating pain, loss, and depression are real emotions not to be ignored, buried, or minimized. We must allow our emotions to run their course if we are ever going to regain our ability to get on with our lives. +Though you may not realize it, you are grieving and that grief is perfectly healthy and normal. +Everyone deals with grief differently. Some people cry. Some people bond with their anger and scream until their throat is sore. Some of us crawl into bed and try to sleep the pain away. Some withdraw from social settings and others over eat. What we are all clearly in search of is to experience some form of comfort during a time when it seems like nothing will ever makes us feel safe and secure again. A great love has left us and we don't expect to get over it; ever. +David Kessler and Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in their book, On Death and Dying, provided the modern psychological world with a widely accepted model of the five stages of grief. Below is my personal adaptation of these stages as it pertains to the loss of a relationship: +1\. Denial +The body's natural defense system works to protect us from threatening situations during the initial stages. You may find yourself operating on ""cruise control"". You are going through the normal, everyday activities of your life, but you are only vaguely aware of what is happening. You are, in all actuality, only ""going through the motions"". It is common to expect him or her to call or show up at any time and this whole situation will be explained as a simple misunderstanding. +2\. Anger +This is the beginning of the heartache. You will allow your anger to rage. You might rehash details of the relationship over and over again questioning everything that was said or done. You might beat yourself up over ever allowing yourself to get involved with ""any one like that"" in the first place. +3\. Bargaining +It is common in this stage to rehash the past, but not in the way you did before. Now you are reliving the good times and often with rose-colored glasses. You remember the good times and you begin to view the bad times as not that bad after all. Here you may find yourself plotting ways to get your lover back, but often by sacrificing your needs. You might think, ""If I could just get him to take me back, I will never be jealous about his affairs again."" +4\. Depression +Your anger and scheming has finally subsided and now you have hit bottom. This is, with out a doubt, the most painful stage. Here you will question if you can ever be happy again. The finality of the situation has set in to your mind. It is over and now you know it. Often, this stage is where the feelings of loss and hopelessness are strongest. +5\. Acceptance +Time can heal all wounds, but time alone will not be enough. During this stage, we come to grips with the raging tide of emotions. We have ended the internal struggle and have completed the healing process of grief. +If you have recently ended an intensely emotional relationship, you should see yourself within one of these five stages right now. It is important to remember that the emotions you are feeling are natural. You are emotionally healing. Embrace this time and allow yourself to move steadily through each stage. +You should be aware that continuing to struggle with your grief may cause you to remain within one stage for an extended period of time and even cause you to fall back into an earlier stage. As is always the case with human beings, everyone is different. You may progress quickly or you may linger in each stage far longer than you would like. Whatever the case, it is important not to put a time limit on yourself. Your mind and body will know when it is time to move on and forcing yourself to move on before they are ready can lead to further complications. +Facing the end of a love relationship is difficult to say the least. But, it is my sincere hope that you will find comfort in knowing that the overwhelming range of emotions you are experiencing are completely normal, healthy and most importantly temporary. +And so the chapter has finished. It's ok to pause and collect your thoughts. It is not the end of the book. Ahead of you lie many more pages of joy, fulfillment, and adventure. When you are ready, you will turn the page and whole new chapter will begin." +907,When You Share Your Wife,Tabbisfull,How To,2015-07-06,2015-07-06,2022-01-04 08:42:05,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/when-you-share-your-wife,What you should know about your wife with others.,"['Cum In My Wife', 'Fuck My Wife', 'Hot Wife', 'Shared Wife', 'Slut Wife', 'Swinging', 'Wife Cheats', 'Wife Fucks', 'Wife Sharing']",4.3,"In continuation of our series about How to Share your Wife, we would like to share a few more experiences that lad us to this erotic lifestyle. My wife has decided to share her personal thoughts as well. In our prior ""How To"" I shared a few of the games we played that eventually resulted in my wife sleeping with a friend. I'm going to get right in to a few more. +Be prepared: +Once you let it be known that you are turned on about sharing your wife, the men will tell you some things some things you may not have thought about. They feel the liberty to say anything they wish about your wife. It may shock at first a little, but it should become a turn on quickly. That is if you are truly in to them having sex with your wife. +My friend has become bold and frank about what he likes and wants with my wife. He has asked me to shave her pussy smooth for him. He has also sent her home shaved once when she had let a little grow. Rick also likes talking about his meaty dick and Tabi's tight little pussy. He has asked out right if he could come over to fuck Tabi. It's a turn on when he calls and sends texts about his plans with my wife. +Tabi is submissive with Rick. That's part of what she likes about being shared. He can make her be naughty in ways that I could never. He made her let a guy in a coffee house see her panties by pulling her dress up high on her lap. Another time he made her pull her panties down in front of another friend. He pushes the limits sometimes. He tells me what he would like to make her do. Rick gets off on showing her off even though she is my wife. He once told me that he was going to make her let another friend fuck her in front of him. She said she isn't going to do that, but I think she has already done something similar. I know when he made her pull her panties down in front of our friend he also made her let him touch her. Rick got off on that. Rick watched a little then took her to the patio and fucked her where the guy could see my wife being fucked. That was kind of a quickie. After Rick finished in her, he brought her right back in to hang out with him and his friend. +Rick is the one who tells me most of these things. Tabi usually doesn't volunteer much unless I ask. She answers with more detail when she is in the mood. They are short answers when she isn't horny. For example, Rick has texted me saying that he just was with Tabi I get home and ask, ""Hey Baby, How was your day?"" When he has worn her out and she had good orgasms, she says something like, ""Oh, it was pretty good."" And she tries to leave it at that. On the other hand, I have asked the same question and her answer is, ""Well, Rick had your little wife today."" Or ""Well, your friend had me today."" When she talks like this, I know she is in a naughty mood. She has recently discovered the husband after thing. She will get with me while she is still messy. She is very talky when she does this. +If you are serious about your wife dating your friends and or other men, be prepared. Most wives will enjoy this promiscuity even if you have to lead her there. My wife had no idea. She was even afraid at first. Once she allowed herself in the position to be romanced and seduced, she gave in to her desires. I had to provide assistance by setting up times for it to be convenient for her to cheat if she wanted. +Although my wife is now open about her cheating, she still prefers the cheating alone style over me being there. I wasn't prepared this first time I saw my wife getting it. I was somewhat shocked, but not completely. My friend had told me what he did with her, but it was a few months before I actually saw my wife getting laid. What I saw didn't fit the description of what I had been told. The first time it happened in our house with me here, I looked in from outside the room. She was aware I was there and was kind of tame. It truly appeared as if she was more or less allowing my fried to do it to her. I actually wondered if she was in to it at all, or was she just doing it. Later I was able to watch without her being aware. She was completely different than what I had seen the first time. Without her knowing I was there, she was all in to it even asking for it. Even begging. +I figured it out. She didn't mind me knowing that she was sleeping with my friend, but she was shy about me knowing how much she loved it and what she really enjoyed doing. The next time I saw her being fucked, I arranged again so that she didn't know I was watching. This was a completely different experience. It was much more intense than I had anticipated. It was crazy erotic and gut wrenching at the same time. I now understand why she prefers the privacy. +If you want to watch your wife, especially without her knowing, be prepared. I had to watch my wife as the passion began. I watched her initiate passionate kissing. She was actually the one starting the play. I watched my wife as she undid his pants while she was kissing him. I saw her giggly as she asked him, ""How do you want me today?"" It was terribly obvious that she was in the mood and wanted to be fucked. It's awakening to see your wife wanting it so much. +Some things she said drove a nail in my stomach until my dick took over the thinking. I had to hear her say things like, ""Take my clothes off!"" Some of the things I will never forget: +""Please lick me; then take my shoes off."" +""What do you want to do to me?"" +""Please put it in me."" +""Hold my feet open."" +And eventually, ""Do what you want to do to me; I want it; I want to be your toy."" +My wife generally does not curse, but she even let out a few, ""FUCK ME!"" +Her verbal and her actions painted a different picture. I learned that cheating was her opportunity to have completely uninhibited raw animalistic sex. I had to watch him enter her from behind with her screaming from extasy. He laid her face down across our bed with her legs together. He then straddled her and entered her pussy from behind. She curled her toes as she kicked her little feet while he pounded in to her. I listened to her beg and encourage him as it appeared that he was punishing her with sex. It even sounded like a little crying laced in with the screaming and begging as he drove his manhood into my wife. I had never seen her like this and had no idea she had this in her. +When she felt that he was about to come, she begged, ""Don't come out; Don't pull it out of me. Come inside me. I want it in me. Come in me please. I want to keep it in me."" +Of course he did. He came inside my wife's little pussy like she was his to come in. When he finished inseminating my wife didn't pull out instantly. After catching her breath, she hopped up to the side of the bed and took him in her mouth. She has never done anything remotely close like this with me. I could see cum on his dick, and she was licking it and swallowing it. +She kissed him down there and told him that he didn't have to leave yet. She clearly wanted more, because she hadn't come yet. She still had a begging tone. I saw cum drip when she pulled up her panties. She pulled over a shirt, but that was all she wore for him as she admitted to wanting more after a short rest. They talked about when they could get together again and about him spending the night with her. She added, ""You can take me away overnight if you want."" +Soon the talk had reached them both, and he was back in her. She was clearly determined to come this time. She touched herself as he fucked her. Then she got on top of him and did most of the fucking. She lap rode him several minutes. Then she when she was about to cum, she leaned forward on him. She went for a kiss, but she was so out of control of her body that she dripped slobber in his face. Her little body started twitching as it sounded like she was starving for breath. Her toes curled and her feet kicked as she had her orgasm on his dick. He was releasing his sperm in her as she finished her convulsing. They kissed when she caught her breath. +They talked a little. Shortly they were getting dressed. Again, I saw cum drip in to her panties as she pulled them up. She got dressed all except for her shoes, and he dressed to leave. +She looked so hot with her I just got fucked look. I let him get out the door, before I came in. She was a little nervous probably because it was obvious that she had just been fucked. I didn't bring it up as I let her rest maybe fifteen or twenty minutes. That was truly hot. She didn't know that I had watched, but knew that I knew she had just been laid. She didn't resist when I started loving on her. She pulled her panties to the side when she got on me to ride my face. Some cum had dripped in her panties, and some was on her just fucked messy pussy. She wanted her pussy eaten. Cum came out of her as I licked her clit and tongued her pussy. I could smell the sex she had enjoyed with my friend. I tried not to swallow any cum, but some of it got past my tongue. I then pinned her down face down like he had her and fucked her hard as I could. It was like punishment sex and makeup sex all in one. I made her tell me naughty things like how she wanted me to let others fuck her. I reached under her and touched her as I pounded to let her cum. She didn't put on quite the show that I witnessed with her and Rick, but I could feel her pussy contract and flood even more. I came in her when she started making squeaky noises. +We talked about her and Rick a little that afternoon, but she couldn't take any more fucking that day. She had dresses again without cleaning up. I took my wife and her just fucked little body out for pizza. It seemed like everyone was looking at her, because she had that I just got fucked look." +908,Where the Bunny Hops,MSTarot,How To,2013-03-21,2013-03-21,2022-01-04 08:42:05,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/where-the-bunny-hops,How to get story ideas mating like rabbits.,"['Plot Bunnies', 'Story Ideas']",4.73,"Stories? Writing them is what we are here for. To practice the trade and art of putting pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard. Drawing from out of our back brains ideas that other will find worth the time it takes to read. +But where do they come from? What's a good source? +Well life of course. Don't try to draw them from a vacuum. Pull them instead from the dark corners of you mind. The place where you hid that jelly sandwich when you were a kid. +Some people will say 'well that's easy to say'. +Okay. I'll give an example. In 1975 my mother was dating a guy and broke up with him when she met someone she liked better. A man that became my stepfather till I was 12. +The man she broke up with took exception to this, got some of his friends together, and decided to run my mom's new boyfriend off the road and beat him up. The problem was that the night they tried this on my Mom's car wasn't running right. Something with the brakes if I remember. +So my Mom and me were in his car and he was in hers. The old boyfriend ran my Mom and me off the road into a ditch. I still remember getting thrown into the dashboard when he rammed the back of the car I was in with his car! It was before the days of baby seat. I was only four years old at the time. +My step dad, to be, skidded to a stop jumped out the car and ran back to check on us. That's when Mom's old boy friend jumped him. +My mom grabbed me up, ran to her car, and drove back home like mad. She ran inside told my grand father what was happening and off he and my two uncles went then to stop the fight. +The story that came back to me was that my grandfather stepped out his truck and unloaded a 357 into the trunk of their car! +So what does this have to do with stories? I've just given you one of the main scenes from my story ""It's complicated part 2"" I need a confrontation between the main character and her old boy friend and it was right there in my memories just perfect for the story. +Then you have the man that she married and latter divorced when I was 12. He has a younger sister that I fell in love with but never did anything about. Well what if I had? That what I wrote about in the first part of that story series. +Two little moments of my own past and boom, Two of my very highest scored stories. +So your own memories are a good source. +What's another? +Look inside yourself and find the things that you are passionate about. They make for great plot bunnies if you feed them enough carrots and lettuce. +I feel very strongly about the homeless, I love the sound of a cello and I think chubby women are sexy as hell. That almost the whole plot for the story ""Heart strings."" That and a coffee commercial was the inspiration. +I love the tall sailing ships of the past and the modern ones as well. The women of the south pacific have an exotic dark beauty and innocence to them that I find sexy. The story I wrote called 'Aurora.' is nothing more or less than those two things put into a story with a very simple main character. +Okay well let's say you have lived under a rock for your whole life, don't have a lot of memories, and don't feel passionate about anything. I won't believe it for a moment but lets just suppose you that person. +Talk to others around you. I promise someone's done something that worth writing a story about that you know. You might, given that we write erotica, not tell them the character is them...maybe you might not want then to read it at all. +A guy I work with got thrown out his house by his girl friend. Yea I wrote that right. His girlfriend threw him out his own house! He ended up sleeping by a 55 gallon drum with a fire burning in it that night to keep warm. The people in the neighborhood gather there to play dominoes and cards, drink and swap bullshit stories all night long so he was safe enough. +Now I haven't made a story from that yet but I can hear it screaming Write me! +Also it may be a bit of a strange conversation but talk to someone of the older generations about their sex life when they were your age, or younger. They can give you an earful that will fill pages of Lit story space. Theirs was the sexual revolution generation, the pre-hippie days of leather coats and making out in the back of cars. The, I'm home from the war with something soap and water wont wash off what do I do now type stories. +The best things you can write about are also the worst things. Don't go looking for sunshine and flowers. How about a story set in the Jewish ghetto of Warsaw Poland in the time of the German occupation. Maybe brother/sister incest story? Wow talk about a powerful story you could write there. Beats the hell out of trapped in a snowed in cabin with your sister. Yet it's almost the same story. Family not there, scared, dangerous outside, needing comfort. +Same story different setting, much more powerful read. +We have a tendency to repeat as writers what got us acclaim before. There is nothing wrong with that. Even the big named writers do the same kind of thing. They write what sells. Well we're not getting paid here but we write what gets us votes. +You can't be fired! +Try something new. Maybe not every story you write has to be off the wall different from what you do as your norms but give it a try. Find a topic that you know noting about. Do a bit of research; dig up a moment from your own past or someone elses. Add a bit of passion about what ever gets your heart pumping. Throw all this together with a hot sex scene, or two or four and who knows. You might just have a story that's interesting to the person that doesn't have their dick in their hand when they're reading. +If your favorite category is incest and you write mother son stories mostly...well it's not that much of a stretch to write a mature story. If you can do a mature with some feeling in it above the waistline that's a romance. Maybe instead of son/ mom try mother/ daughter. Then older woman, younger woman mature. Then your drop a few years and your writing lesbian lovers. +Now was that such a stretch? Sure your not wring about a cross-dressing gay black guy getting used without his consent while his wife watches and it's being filmed by a famous movie star but it's a start. +Lord if that wouldn't be a story there. Lol. +You're a self-employed writer and not making a dime here with your stories. You're giving them away for free. That's fine. Some of the best writer didn't get rich. You just have to remember something. There is no Complaints Department except to yourself +I can't find my Muse? +Did you leave it in your other pants? +I've got writer's block! +Try prune juice. Maybe the time on the toilet thinking will help you get some ideas. If nothing else the lessening of pressure on your brain might help! +Get angry! Get mad as hell about something. Write about it. The Westwood Baptist church pisses me off! I want to write a non-consent style celebrity story where Fred Phelps gets gang banged by a gay motorcycle club while protesting a military funeral. +Find what gets you hot under the collar and write about it. You will never have a better source of story fodder than that. Yea you may make some people not like you but are you being paid to be liked? Hell you're not even being paid! +Well if your not being paid why are you doing it? To write better? To entertain? To please your fans? To have fun? +Well of course it's all of those and many more. So right now the only person that can tell you what to write is you, (and an Anon that doesn't like what your doing anyway) Change it up. Push your comfort zone to the edge then jump. What's the worst you can have happen? You have a story in your list that has a bad score? You never know it could turn out to be your biggest hit! +And don't just look for stories ideas in what you like. +In you normal day to day life your, lets say, a Lesbian. The idea of writing a story with a guy girl scene turns your stomach a bit. Okay. +How about a Loving Wives story where the wife is cheating on her husband with another woman? You would see the flames from that one in space! +Gay man writing a straight story? Do it from the girl's point of view. You have an inside track on what it's like to give a man oral sex. I have to wrap my head around a lamp post to try to figure that one out and you know what it's like from your own sex life. You know what attracts you to a man, a woman probably feel very similar feelings. Use that knowledge to make you stories better. You also know probably more about anal sex than most straight writers can imagine. +There will always be those story ideas that someone wont like. There will be the ones that get you commented out of one category and into another. Well okay, that's fine. You're not running for election. They can't stop you from writing a single word let alone a hundred stories. Have a good time. Piss someone off if that's your thrill. +Hone your skills as a writer. Keep an idea's book in your pocket with a little pencil stub. Jot down the ideas when they come. Anything at all. See a TV commercial use that. A bill board on the side of the road.(don't do it while driving) A plot from a bit of someone elses conversation that made you think, what if. +Still no ideas? Okay well lets look into the past. +History is a million stories that you can take bit and pieces from to your hearts content. Hell maybe not even a bad source for a celebrities story. A little bit of fact some of the greatest painters used prostitutes as models for nude paintings. I can smell more than oil paints there. +The only, if you want to call it that, obstacle to that type of story is the amount of research you have to do to make it accurate. +Or do you? Take the idea and make it modern. A struggling painter hires a hooker for the night to model for him. He's a virgin who's never seen a woman naked. She offers to help relieve some of his nervous tension. Why not he's already paid her. +You can find some good ideas even by looking through the story log here on Lit. Just taking an idea from a writer isn't plagiarism. Hell a famous writer once said there are no new stories just retelling of old ones. Need an idea for cross-dressing? Read you about ten or twenty of the stories on here. A strange way of spending an afternoon admittedly but you couldn't help but find your story idea in there somewhere. +Finally the closest source for ideas you would find would be the sites own Story Ideas forum. There are people on there begging someone to write this or that type of story. +Using the same idea again and again may give you more of a following. They will know that they can read just the type of story they like in everyone of your works. You will have a large group singing your praises. But will you be improving your ability as a write? A little maybe. But not to the extent that you could be. +So chase that white rabbit down the rabbit hole. See just how far down it goes. You could very well find yourself with the best story you every wrote." +909,Whipping Your Characters Into Shape,Noira,How To,2011-01-29,2011-01-29,2022-01-04 08:42:06,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/whipping-your-characters-into-shape,Those darn characters insist on having minds of their own!,"['Characters', 'Misery', 'Motivation', 'Satire', 'Writing']",4.64,"In the wonderful world of novel creation there happen to be a number of pieces required to make the novel come together. As well as a healthy dose of plot, setting, and premise, the entire story almost always hinges upon the actions of the characters. Unfortunately for many budding authors, characters are not always the most cooperative beings in existence, as we all very well know. We're not mad, it's just those characters being the stubborn little bitches that they are! But for your sake, here is an article on how to get your characters and keep them in line. +Step one: Write a story! Sure, you might have characters wandering around in your head, but what good is keeping them in line if you don't have any reason to be controlling them and their urges. If they're just lounging around in the depths of your mind and drinking beer while you're doing absolutely nothing, there's no point in getting them to cooperate. They're just extensions of your imagination, as much as you may sometimes feel otherwise. Once you've gotten started on the story, that's where the real trouble begins, anyway. There's this thing called a plot and often times, the cast doesn't want to cooperate with the devious wiles of a world gone mad... at least, not the way you want them to. +So get writing. Whether or not you're an outliner, you're going to find that you require at least some notion of the direction of the plot, or your story will epically crash and burn. Generally once you're a few chapters in and the story's hinging on a critical moment, then you're going to find the problems begin. Joe doesn't want to fuck Cindy, because he's decided he's gay and damned if he's going anywhere near that women. And also, he crossdresses. And his father is trying to fuck Cindy as well, but since his father traveled forward in time he is younger and hotter than Joe. +Cindy isn't interested, and she's decided to take up a career in knitting, never mind that it's never going to support her and her illegitimate daughter. And that daughter of hers? She's a whore... who's trying to... take over... the universe? What? Really? And Deva was supposed to be evil! +Now that your story is in a nice, neat tangle, nowhere near the outline you'd initially created... now you need to get them back on track. +Step two: Find out the weaknesses of your characters. What makes them tick? Addictions? Love? Family? If you didn't start your story knowing these things, get busy. Make a list of all of the myriad of things you can use to get into their minds in revenge. If they're going to kick around in your head while trying to do things you really don't want them doing, you need blackmail, and that requires a decent amount of knowledge of the character you're trying to control. +Find out what their motives are, who they love, and what they want most in life. Find out who they hate, find out who their nemesis is, find out whether their grandmother is dying of cancer. +Then destroy them. +Step three: Pile up a soul-crushing load of misery upon your character. If they're not going to cooperate with the plot, the least you can do is make their lives absolute and utter hell. Kill their loved ones. Have the mafia show up and take their children hostage. Inflict them with erectile dysfunction and an uncontrollable aura of sexiness when they are absolutely unable to do a damn thing about it. Drop them naked in the snow on a cliff and inform them that they're not getting their smokes unless they hook up with Cindy and they do it now. +Disregard the voice in your head suggesting that at this point you may possibly be unhealthily obsessed with your characters. It's not your fault they came to life in your mind. It's your job as the writer to keep them constrained. You are the master and they're your bitches. +Make their lives absolute misery. +Step four: Once you've managed to successfully make your character's lives miserable, offer them a chance to get out of the soul-crushing pile of horrible, soul-crushing misery... if only they cooperate with you. +If this works, congratulations! Your story is now on track. +Chances are by this point, though, your characters absolutely hate you. That's okay. You have tons of creativity left. Simply shove them off of a cliff and make new ones. No one will notice if you find and replace Joe with Bob. No one but their loved ones. +Step five: But you like your characters and you don't want to destroy them. Well, whoop-de-doo. Fine, then. It's up to you to gain a love of character torment. If they're not going to cooperate but you can't make yourself end the torrid affair with figments just too real for their own damn good, the only option is to make their lives hell, and get off on it. +If you can't get back to the original story, the character torment is likely to be interesting in its own right. +Step six: Alternatively, you can simply write an outline before you start and, when your characters start coming to life on their own, you can ignore them and just keep writing. This is the best way to keep a story on the initial train track, but it does prevent interesting evolution as your characters bring themselves to life and introduce you to their history, present, and future. +A little bit of indulgence in un-outlined writing may introduce new lines to your story you never imagined, and your imagination itself will carry you past writer's block... at the cost of a few mentally traumatized characters and the ever-present wonder: am I really still sane?" +910,White Wives with Black Men,PolySwingerWife,How To,2021-05-25,2021-05-25,2022-01-04 08:42:07,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/white-wives-with-black-men,"Why, How, and What To Do.","['Husband', 'Interracial', 'Men', 'White Wives', 'Wife']",3.49,"Do many white husbands want their wives to have sex with black men? The answer to that questions is often an overwhelming Yes. Not all couples get into interracial, but many do. I personally do not care if the men I have sex with are black or white, Mexican or any other race. Many cuckold husbands prefer their wives to only have sex with black men. My husband has that preference as well, but he also likes seeing me have sex with well-hung white men. +My husband says that the reason he likes to see me have sex with black men is that he grew up in a predominantly black area and grew up watching black men having sex with white women. A cuckold husband that we know told me the reason he prefers his wife to have sex with black men is that black men are usually bigger cocked and can last longer than many white men. +Every husband is going to have his own reason for wanting his wife to have sex with black men. In our case, we have found that more often black men do not mind having sex with a white woman in groups. Because I enjoy being gang banged, this works for us. +Many husbands want their wives to have sex for their own sexual pleasure, but the opposite is true. Many men love their wives so much that they want their wives to have the best sex possible. Many cuckold husbands see black men as being superior, sexually, because more often than not black men are in better physical condition and often have very large cocks. Not all black men are extremely well endowed, but from my experience, I have found that many are. +If you are like most women, you see a very large cock as scary. And with good reason. That is not to say that there aren't women out there who prefer larger cocks. Many women do. That is something that is going to be as unique as you are. And the longer you are a HotWife, the more you will want larger cocked men. Many cuckold men see a larger cock as being able to sexually please a woman more. And sometimes that is true, as long as the man who owns this larger cock knows how to use it. +I have had sex with innumerable black men. Some of them have left me sore for days afterward. Because many black men do have amazing stamina, their size, if you are not used to it, can leave you sore, but it is a good soreness because it pleased your husband to see you have sex with a man who had such a big cock. +The good thing about being a Hotwife is that your husband is going to want you to have sex with others, often, and you are going to meet men who are very well sized. I can tell you that the more often you have sex with larger cocked men, the more your body will become accustomed to the larger size. This can take some time, though. +I am not saying that all white men want their wives to have sex with black men, but a good number of them do. Interracial porn is one of the most popular porn types on the Internet. Few men want to watch porn where the women are having sex with small cocked men. Porn stars have large cocks because men like to see women have sex with men who have large cocks. +Some men want their wives to experience the best sex possible. They want the other men to please their wives in ways that they never can. Look at it this way, if your husband is 5"" long and 3"" around when he is erect, a man who is 9"" long and 7"" around is going to go places in you that your husband never will. And your husband wants you and the men you have sex with to experience that. +Many men want to see their wife's vagina stretched as far as it will stretch and filled as full as it can be. I admit that feeling filled is a good feeling, but it does take time to be able to accommodate a much larger cock. You have to be worked up and well lubricated. +A lot of men get too excited and want to get right to the action as soon as they have their cock out of their pants. That is why having lubrication is important. Many times you will want a man to work you up and really get you in the mood, but that is not always going to happen. You need to understand men. They have a chance to get laid and they want to get to it as soon as they can. You may not always have the opportunity to get naturally lubed up. So, always have lube on hand, just in case." +911,Who Wants To Be A Slave?,panthers babe,How To,2004-10-15,2004-10-15,2022-01-04 08:42:08,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/who-wants-to-be-a-slave,What a sub NEEDS to be.,"['Bitch Dog', 'Kitten Slut', 'Make Sense', 'Master Asked', 'Master Slave', 'Master Tells', 'Power Influence', 'Safe Word', 'Slave Master', 'Stop Point']",3.98,"As with all this sluts submissions while she checked the box acknowledging that story belonged to her she readily accepts the fact that she owns nothing and the story, her mind, and her body are owned by Master Panther. +Recently this slut has seen a lot of articles that appear to her and her Master to inappropriately be classified as a Master/slave relationship. This has caused this slave personal sadness when she has been requested to help someone become something she is not. While this slut has never been happier than this cunt is in her current relationship, this slut realizes this lifestyle is not very everyone. +The chances of being hurt or hurting someone else are lessened tremendously if both members of the pair are on the same page. Also it is much easier on a third party being brought into the mix when H/she knows where the people are coming from. Because this slut knows she is a true slave when Master Panther brought in Sir P to help with the training we all were aware of our positions and the relationship has worked out. When Kitten's ""Master"" asked Panther's slut to help train his ""slave"" neither of them were actually at that point in their relationship and therefore both Kitten and this slut were hurt by the misunderstandings that ensued. In order to help keep this from happening to others, Master has asked that this slut share the letter she wrote to kitten asking her to clarify where she was. Maybe this letter can help others decide if they or their partners are role players, subs, or slaves. Knowledge is the most important tool towards acceptance. +Dearest Kitten, Please do not take what this slut is going to say as an insult. It is not meant that way at all. This cunt is speaking totally as both an educator and a slave. this slut feels that you are at a point where you need to make some very important and difficult decisions. Up to this point you have played at being submissive or in you words you have had scenes. This is fine and good and many couples decide they do not want to go any farther than that. +If that works for them this slut says go for it. No one, Master, slave Dom, sub should feel forced into a situation where they are not comfortable. You and your Dom need to make that decision yourselves with no interference. If you decide to stop at this point this slut doesn't know how this cunt can be of help to you, because she doesn't understand the concept of playing at submission it comes so naturally to me but this slut is willing to help in any way she can . This is the point your relationship is at now and if that's as far as you both want to go that is fine but if you want to go further, no want is not the right word, most of us did not WANT to become subs we needed to be in spite of ourselves. If you need to be a sub then you must obey and follow the rules the two of you have decided on. Is this part time or full time? Is anything off limits? what is the safe word? The important difference in a sub and a slave is that a sub does participate in deciding the direction her submission will take. At this point you start to learn that unless an order is in direct violation of one of the rules or you use your safe word immediately you must submit. the only way you can now say I can't is if you use your safe word. +The majority of people who are into D/s relationships stop at this point but there are a few of us who go one step farther and enter a Master/slave relationship this cunt looked up the definition of slavery in the dictionary and it read A person who is held in bondage to another; one who is wholly subject to the will of another; one who is held as a chattel; one who has no freedom of action, but whose person and services are wholly under the control of another. +I went a step further and looked up bondage and chattel, they read +Definition of bondage . A state of subjection to a force, power, or influence +Definition of chattel 1. Any tangible movable property (furniture or domestic animals or a car, etc.); +If you put that all together you get a very clear idea of what you are committing yourself to when you accept your collar +A person who is held in . A state of subjection by force, power, or influence to another, wholly subject to the will of another; one who is held as a tangible movable property (furniture or domestic animals or a car, etc.); one who has no freedom of action, but whose person and services are wholly under the control of another +This slut thinks this is a very clear definition of what exactly you are getting yourself into. Lets look at it from the point of view of a piece of chattel, say a domestic animal or more simply a bitch dog. Would it make any sense for a dog to say I can't come when you call me? of course not a dog can or can not do only what her Master tells her. Likewise a slave can do or not do only what her Master tells her. As for the use of a safe word would it make any sense for a dog to be told if you scratch your nose you will not have to do as I command? of course not the Master knows better than the dog what is good for it. It also makes no sense for a slave to use a safe word the Master knows better then the cunt what is better for her. +Is this whore saying you will lose all your spirit? Absolutely not! When a Master comes home after a day at work the dog is eager to see him and excited about being able to please him and you will be the same. Should you hide your feelings from your Master? No he needs to know exactly what you are feeling so he can better train and use you. Sometimes Master will do something like take the dog for a walk simply because Master needs exercise and it has nothing to do with the dog. Likewise sometimes Master will take and use you just to serve his needs. Many times however Master is trying to do what is right for his bitches. If his bitch dog needs discipline and Master tosses her out in the back yard for punishment only to find she likes being outside what has he accomplished accept for rewarding negative behavior. If he feels the dog deserves a reward and gives her a piece of cheese only to find out she doesn't like cheese has she really been rewarded. +With his human bitch if she is not totally honest with her feelings Master will not know what to use for punishment and what to use for rewards and training will be much more difficult. In both cases the canine bitch and the human one, when she is well trained Master and her can live together happily. This is what it means to me to be a slave. +* * * * * + _Please for your sake, your Master's sake and the sake of any other Masters, Doms, subs, or slaves you come in contact with figure out where you want to be in this pecking order,_ +Write me back with your feelings about what I've written immediately after you've read it AND ALSO after you have talked to your Dom I am very interested in what both of you have to say about this +Panther's slave" +912,Why I Won't Read Your Story,Sailor_Witch,How To,2016-08-05,2016-08-05,2022-01-04 08:42:09,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/why-i-wont-read-your-story,How to get me to not read your story. A letter to authors.,"['Advice', 'Author', 'Better Writing', 'Guide', 'How Not To', 'How To']",,"Dear Literotica authors, +Thank you for writing and sharing your hard work. I think too few people realize what it takes to develop a story and bring it to a point that it is ready for the reading audience. I have read many, many fine stories here on Literotica and I am amazed that there are so many talented people out there who are willing to share their hard work with us for free. +I am writing to tell you how to get me to not read your story. I hope you'll read my words in the spirit that they are offered. That is the spirit of helpfulness. It is not my intention to be critical or unkind. +(Now, after writing this, I have looked back over this letter and found its tone to be somewhat negative sounding. Please believe me when I say that that was not my intention.) +I am not a writer and I do not carry a degree in English journalism or any other such credential that might increase the credibility of what I am going to say. I am simply going to give you my perspective as a reader. If you don't agree with my words, please simply ignore them. Better yet, do what I would do and just stop reading this. That having been said, I hope you will read this and that you find at least some part of it helpful. +I'd like to discuss the categorization of your story, the title and description, the length of the story and the believability of what you write. As I compose this I will add other thoughts as they occur to me. Some of the numbers I will use in talking to you are purposely exaggerated in order to better illustrate the point +Categorization. As a reader, when I go looking for a story to read I first select the category. If your story is a hot story of group sex, I may not find it if it's in the incest category due to having a brother-sister scene during the drunken college party. I realize that some stories span several categories and that probably presents the author a dilemma regarding which category to select when submitting the story. Perhaps Literotica will consider a special category for these stories that ""bleed"" across several categories. +The length of your story. This is a hard one. Each reader has their own taste and each author has their own style. Some like the short stroker stories while others prefer the slower buildup of a long story. Then there is the middle ground where it isn't really a stroker, but it isn't really long either. I like to think that most stories fit this model. Maybe that is because those are the type of stories that I like. (3-7 pages is optimal for my taste) Personally, I never look at the novels and novellas category. I don't want to read a 700 page story even if it has plenty of hot sex interspersed throughout it. On the opposite side of that coin are the one page stories. They usually leave me feeling cheated and left hanging. It's almost like when your DVD movie has an error in the middle and won't continue playing. Now I'm not saying that your story (either short or long) doesn't have merit. If I don't read them, I'm sure that others will. +Speaking of length, (and this is a pet peeve of mine) many authors break their stories into parts and submit them as separate stories. I have no problem with this. I would like to remind you though to think of it like a series of movies. (Sequels and prequels) Nobody is interested in watching the movie ""Rocky 71, the great, great grandson of Rocky has a fight in the schoolyard."" Likewise, if you are writing chapter 54 of your story, give it a rest already! +Television series are another good example. You know the ones I'm talking about. I'm thinking of the shows like ""House of Cards"" where each episode builds on the previous ones. These show series' usually do fairly well for the first two seasons and marginally well the third season. By the fourth season, the script writers are stretching a bit and the whole story/series suffers. It's the same with your chapter stories on Literotica. Let one story end and then start a new one. Don't try to milk twenty chapters out of a five chapter story. That just gets too far from the origins of the story and frankly, it's boring. +If you really feel a need to write that many chapters, please put them in the novels and novellas category. When I look at the list of stories and see a chapter number greater than six, it's pretty unlikely that I'll give it a first glance and nearly impossible that I'm going to give it a second. Remember the movies thing? How anxious would you be to go see the sixth movie in a series? I'm betting it would have to be an exceptionally well written, acted and directed movie along with the five that came before it. Few movies measure up to that standard. Does your story? Yes, I'll admit that I have read some seriously long sets of chapter stories, but that is the exception rather than the rule. +Now let me talk a bit about the title and description of your story. I see on the site that Literotica staff may sometimes change the title of your submission. I have no idea how often this actually happens. But for the purpose of this letter, let's assume that you have the control. Your title is the first hook. If I see an interesting title, I look closer to see if I want to read the story. I would remind you that a title starting with certain words causes them to be one of many in the list that all start the same. +For example, a story title that starts with ""A' or ""The"" or ""One"" will be one of several dozen on the page listing stories that one can read. I'm sure that you can find other words that would be good to avoid having as the first word of your title as well. When I get to these sections in the list, (three pages of titles starting with the word ""The"") I just skip right over them. Surely I must miss some good stories that way, but it is what I do and I suspect that I'm not alone in doing that. +Your description (or sub-title if you prefer) is the real hook though. This is what usually sways my decision to read or not to read a given story. Think hard about what you write for the description. As a special note for authors of multi-chapter stories, if your description is the exact same for each and every chapter of the story, it's likely that I'll skip the series entirely. +Believability. If you are going to make your characters be endowed with gigantic proportions and equipment, please let us know in the introduction. Of course that isn't necessary in categories such as sci-fi and non human, but for less abstract categories, please at least try to make it somewhat believable. Your story about the guy who has sex with his 80 year old granny may be packed with hot action, but if you introduce granny as having 54HH tits and the grandson as having a 36 inch cock, I'm going to stop reading right there. I am not asking you to not give your characters enticing and exciting equipment, just exercise a bit of good common sense, please. +In addition, please try to make your story line somewhat believable too. (Except in certain categories, of course) If the premise of your story is that an 18 year old guy falls off his bicycle and gets rewarded by getting to screw the First Lady of the United States in front of the President and both houses of congress with national TV coverage as well...Well, I certainly hope you write that as a dream sequence. If not, I won't be reading your story. +PLEASE, don't bore me to death on the first page of your story. If you do, I'll quit reading it. Introducing your characters is a necessary thing for any story. Please though, do not write eight paragraphs describing each character unless it is ABSOLUTELY critical to your story. A short paragraph on each will suffice. If there are more that three or four characters, you should introduce the additional ones at the point where they first enter the story. +How many times have you heard someone say that they tried to read a book but couldn't get past the first chapter or two? Get the story moving so that you get and keep your readers interested. The reader's imagination will fill in most of the blanks anyway. +I like it when the author places a short to medium length note at the top of the story introducing the story. It makes me feel that I have a certain connection with the author as silly as that may sound. I am more likely to read through and accept some of the things that I have talked about if the author has done this. For example, you can be a bit wordy in introducing your characters and I'll likely keep reading. +Thank you for taking time to read this and consider my opinion. That is what these things are, after all. They are simply my opinion. Nonetheless, I hope that you found something helpful and received it in the pleasant helping spirit that it was offered. +Above all, thank you for writing. I hope you enjoy the writing as much as I enjoy the reading!" +913,Why Men Cheat,SteelAndSilk,How To,2011-04-26,2011-04-26,2022-01-04 08:42:10,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/why-men-cheat,This particular article is from the perspective of a man.,['Cheating Men'],4.53,"This particular article is from the perspective of a man. Unless otherwise specified, when I refer to men, I mean men who have a wife or girlfriend. This article also refers to the MAJORITY of men. There are, of course, exceptions. If there is a woman who would like to write a companion article, I would gladly welcome that. To make myself perfectly clear, I am not condoning cheating. Make no bones about it, it is wrong. Whether you come from a moral perspective or not, you know it's wrong. The most hardcore atheist gets pissed when he finds his wife or girlfriend in bed with another man, so we all know it's wrong. +That being said, there are actual, real reasons why a man cheats, and it might not be because he's a narcissistic douchebag. Granted, there are those men who go out and fuck a lot of women while being in a relationship because they feel they deserve it, but I believe you'd find the percentages shockingly low. Contrarily, you might find a man that would never cheat no matter how much he is hurting. He may be seen as more noble, but he lives in misery. +Now, many women have been cheated on, and most of them feel that there is no reasonable cause for a man to cheat, that cheating is the paramount of wrong, and the blame for cheating is solely on the man. Now, is the man to blame for the action of going and having sex with another woman? Without doubt. But, I believe you would rarely find a case of a man just going out and picking up a woman to fuck. Affairs start long before actual sex takes place. +It starts in the home, in the bed, and in the heart. Let's get something out of the way right now, shall we? A man needs sex, period. Women need sex too, naturally, but men are more wired to want and in fact need it. It is not an ""extra"" to relationships, it is a burning, aching need. To him, being denied sex is being disrespected in the deepest sense, in fact, the only thing worse would be catching his wife in his own bed with another man. Get that straight. +Suppose a man is not getting his needs met at home. His wife is not necessarily being cruel or mean spirited about it, nor is she seeing someone else but all the same, it's not happening. Now, he goes to the office. Maybe the secretary or a co-worker is an attractive young woman. She looks up to him, respects him, and admires him, initially strictly from a professional viewpoint. He goes to work, maybe after a few weeks or a month of a dry spell, maybe longer. The young lady asks him how he is doing, how the family is. Sure, initially he lies like most people do. ""Everthing is fine, doing great."" But how long can that last? Something will eventually betray him, a look, the tone of his voice, something. She will pick up on it. She, being a caring friend, puts her hand on his hand, or shoulder. Maybe even gives him a hug or a friendly kiss on the cheek. It will be ok, she comforts him, things will get better. But it doesn't. She sees this. Her compassion turns to a caring affection. She asks him out to a drink, or coffee, or lunch. This might happen a few times. Or not, but either way, the affair is well under way. It is only a matter of time before his armor cracks and he pours out his heart to her. Filled with sympathy, and a lack of understanding on how a wife could treat her husband this way, she tenderly kisses him. At this point, passion takes over, they find a room in a hotel, and the affair is in full swing. +Take note here. Where did the affair start? Did he walk into the office, look the woman up and down, and say, ""Sure, my married life is great, but fuck it all, strip down and let's go at it."" No, not even close. It started at home, where his needs were not being met. A man isn't going to have an affair because he wants to find a woman who will suck his cock when his own wife won't, not if she's meeting his needs. It doesn't even have as much to do with a release. Jacking off would take care of that. Find me a halfway normal guy who wants to jack off instead of having sex. You won't. Taking care of your man's needs is exactly that: taking care of him. Your respect for him by taking care of him will keep him from straying. Again, this may not be a hard and fast, but you will find this to be a typical rule. +As a final note to the ladies, please understand something. Your man needs you physically as you need him emotionally. It is not a lesser or different need. It is exactly the same as you needing him to talk to you or tell you he loves you. Would you like him to go several days without speaking to you? You would be incredibly hurt and likely furious. What if he's not in the mood, or doesn't feel like it, or has a headache? You would never accept that. Maybe for a day, but no more, if that even. Again, I reiterate this because it is so important to understand, what emotional needs are to you, physical needs are to him. +Hopefully, this was of some use to someone. I sincerely hope this might help someone before the affair is underway. Take care of each other needs, and you will live a happy life." +914,Why Not Wax?,pierced_gurl,How To,2005-02-04,2005-02-04,2022-01-04 08:42:10,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/why-not-wax,"A ""not-as-painful-as-it-sounds"" alternative to shaving.","['Bare Pussy', 'Bikini Wax', 'Hair', 'Made Mistake', 'Pussy Lips', 'Stray Hairs', 'Strip Hair', 'Wax', 'Women Hair']",4.49,"For those ladies (and guys) who have tried shaving some or all of the hair from their hot spots and were less than satisfied with the results, I may just have the answer! For many of us, there is nothing more erotic than the look and feel of a soft, bare pussy...and some girls enjoy when their men are completely hair-free as well. Personally, I like a man to have some hair down there, but not an unruly mass of tangles...trim it up, guys! As for me, I love the way my pussy looks when it is completely bare, but I have had absolutely disastrous experiences with shaving. I tried all of the tips for shaving...using brand new razors, soaking in the tub, using thick creme conditioner, etc. No matter what I did, I still ended up with painfully swollen follicles/pores, itchy red bumps, and downright uncomfortable pain for days. No thank you! Then I decided to try what most salons call a ""full-off"" bikini wax (not to be confused with a ""Brazilian,"" which I will discuss briefly later on). Yes, I know, most of you are cringing at the mere thought of some stranger applying hot wax to your most sensitive spots and then yanking all of your hair out at the roots...but I promise, it's not that bad! And trust me, you will be SO GLAD when you see the results. +First of all, being self-conscious is an obstacle you will just have to get over, because it's pretty damn hard to do it yourself. And I wouldn't let anyone other than a professional do it, either...no matter how confident your partner may be, you just can't risk it. A trained professional can get the whole job done in about 15-20 minutes, and the results will look much nicer (and you won't feel the urge to punch them in the face when they are done, which cannot necessarily be said for a partner who botches your at-home wax job!). +A couple of distinctions should be made between the types of waxes that you can have done. First, a run-of-the-mill bikini wax leaves some hair behind, the most common being the ""landing strip"" (a strip of hair about an inch long, starting at your natural hair line and extending down toward your pussy lips). Some professionals can even shape the hair that is left into shapes or patterns (triangles, hearts, downward-pointing arrows, etc.) +A ""Brazilian"" bikini wax is when all of the hair comes off...and I do mean ALL. Once the front is bare, you flip over and the crack of your ass is waxed too. Most women don't have much hair in that area anyway, but they feel more comfortable knowing there aren't any strays. Personally, I don't want the wax going anywhere near my ass...and if my guy doesn't like that, then maybe he should leave his hipocracy at the door and go with me to have HIS ass waxed! +What I have my waxer do is considered a ""full-off"" bikini wax. That means all of the hair is waxed from the pubic area and the lips, all the way down to where the lips end. No flipping over for the backside with this one. +So, once you decide what type of wax you want and you find a reputable salon to do the job, be sure that your hair is no longer than about a quarter of an inch. If it is longer, you'll want to trim it a little so that it does not get tangled when the wax is applied. And be condsiderate of your waxer...make sure you shower a couple of hours before you go. But don't use any lotion in the area, or the wax won't adhere properly. You may also want to take a couple of Tylenol or other pain reliever about an hour beforehand. This will help dull the sensation when the hair is pulled from the roots. Another very important point for the ladies: DO NOT make a waxing appointment just before or during your period. You are much more sensitive at that time, and it hurts like HELL. (Trust me, I made that mistake only once!) +Wear comfortable clothes to your appointment; nothing that will chafe the area afterwards. I normally wear a skirt or loose shorts and no panties...this way my skin is not irritated by any clothing rubbing in the area when I am done. When you arrive, you might want to use the restroom quickly, to make sure you are nice and refreshed. When you meet your waxer, don't feel weird about it. Your pussy is not the first, nor the last, that she will see in her lifetime. If you feel uncomfortable or have any questions, don't hold back. You need to let her know this is your first time, and she can help you ease into it. +Once you have stripped from the waist down, your waxer will most likely have you lay on your back with one leg straight and one bent with your knee resting on the table. She will then apply the wax with a wooden applicator. The wax should be comfortably warm, NOT hot. If it feels too hot to you, speak up! I have a pretty high threshold for pain in that area (just look at my username and guess where my piercing is...), and I once made the mistake of not saying anything when the wax was warmer than usual. I received three very nasty burns on my pussy lips...NOT a good time. +After the wax is applied, a cloth strip is placed on top and pressure is applied for a couple of seconds to adhere the strip to the wax. Here's where most people tense up and get ready for the pain...which is the worst thing you could do. Yes, she is going to yank the strip and all of the hair is going to come out at the roots, but if you tense up, it is going to hurt much worse than it will if you relax. I recommend concentrating on taking slow, deep, controlled breaths so that you are not thinking about when the strip is going to be ripped off. Do NOT hold your breath! I'll be honest...it does hurt a bit, but not nearly as much as I thought it would the first time. It's like when you pull a band-aid off your arm...very quick and over with. On a scale of 1-10, I would put it at a 4 or 5. Your waxer will continue this process until all of the hair is removed on one side (or as much as you ask for) and then she'll have you switch legs so she can do the other side. She will then use tweezers to pluck out any stray hairs that the wax may have missed. +When you are all done, the waxer may apply talcum powder, lotion, or some other ointment to soothe and calm the skin. I have also had my waxer use a product called ""Tend Skin,"" which helps keep the hair follicles clear so that you do not get ingrown hairs. Beware, this stuff BURNS and it hurts worse than the waxing does. However, it works wonders in keeping away red bumps and ingrown hairs, so I think it's worth it. You can buy the stuff and apply it every day for about a week to keep the follicles clear for the hair that is going to start coming back in. +One thing you might want to consider also: don't plan on having sex or playing in that area at all for the rest of the day. It's just too sensitive, and you can actually cause red bumps and irritation if you mess with it too much. Just relax, you and your partner will have plenty of time to enjoy your bare little pussy! +Now, here's the best part about getting waxed. It's amazingly soft and smooth, and it stays that way for two or three weeks...even longer if you use a hair- inhibiting lotion like Jergens! Keep in mind, though, that your hair grows at all different rates, so you may see some stubble coming in after a few days. These are hairs that were below the surface when you got waxed, and you can just use tweezers to pluck them out. Your hair will eventually all get on the same schedule, and you won't have that issue. +Another bonus: with continued waxing, your hair starts growing in much softer and thinner, making each waxing less painful. In addition, fewer hairs will grow back in, and that's always a plus. My waxer has told me stories of women whose hair has stopped growing back altogether, and they only come in every few MONTHS to have touch-ups done. The theory is that your hair follicles will eventually get ""tired"" of having the hair ripped out all the time, and they will simply stop producing more hair. Whatever you do, DO NOT shave in between waxings! Your hair will go back to that thick, coarse texture and it will hurt every time you get waxed. +So, that's about it. The result is a sexy-as-hell look that you and your partner will love. You'll both love to touch, stroke, and maybe even lightly slap it until you're ready for some more steamy action. Not only that, but who wouldn't want to go down for hours on a pussy with no stray hairs getting in the way. In terms of cleanliness and taste, you just can't beat it. YUMMY." +915,Why This Fantasy Chat Turned Me On,Tigger_Lilly,How To,2018-08-15,2018-08-15,2022-01-04 08:42:11,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/why-this-fantasy-chat-turned-me-on,Do you have trouble getting women to play with you in chat?,"['Cougar', 'Cub', 'Erotic Chat', 'Fantasy Date', 'Seduction', 'Sext Success', 'Turn On', 'Vanilla']",4.3,"Finding a great match for a sex chat on a website like Literotica.com is fun. +Older girls are more shy +There are countless people looking for sexy chat to choose from. The problem is that older girls are more shy when it comes to talking to a younger guy on line and younger guys can't tell how turned on the girl is. +If an older is turned on by younger guys in real time, she is probably very curious about cyber sex and fantasy flings but afraid at the same time. If a guy comes on too strong. Delete. You are gone. +If you want more sex online, you need to disarm the girl, no matter how old she is. Treating a fantasy sex chat like a real first date is super fun, will surprise the hell out of the girl and will make you stand out from the crowd. +Here is a real live first date that I loved. Gio went on to become a Turn On Master and is actively pursuing his own turn on partners in fantasy and real time. +Ladies, please add a comment. Is this hot or not? Guys, what do you think? +Gio: OMG +Gio: i re-read your Cub and Cougar post like 5 times yesterday +Trembling with Anticipation +Angel: Thank you! (Blush) +Gio: But I have to admit when I read what you wrote, i went straight to the shower and had a steamy date with my Irish Spring. +Gio: my god wow +Angel: wow...i didn't realize it was THAT hot! +Angel: Excellent! +Gio: so intimate +Angel: lol +Gio: it was that hot +Angel: nothing a writer likes better than knowing her words have impact +Angel: ty +Gio: umm yes you could say that +Gio: it was like replaying that scene with you, being inside your inner monolog +Angel: the imagination is a wonderful place +Gio: here...put your hand on my heart...feel it +Angel: i sure wish i was in miami today... +Angel: c-c-c-old and rainy here today +Gio: its so nice here today...78, sunny +Gio: boat day! +Angel: jealous +Never too busy for Angel +Gio: if you were here Id play hooky +Gio: go bikini shopping first +Angel: hard to think about a bikini +Angel: im freezing +Angel: lol +Gio: not if you were here it wouldnt be angel... +Angel: maybe cutoffs and a tank +Gio: ok Ill take that +Gio: i might drool on you though +Angel: where would you take me? +Gio: hmmmm +Gio: well, id get early and get the boat ready +Gio: as soon as you landed, we would head back to my place, freshen up, and out on the water +Gio: first stop, the art center at south beach +Gio: lots of shops, sightseeing, food, drinks +Gio: just relax and enjoy +Angel: sounds heavenly +Angel: what would you be wearing? +Gio: just board shorts and a smile +Gio: when they are wet they leave little to the imagination. (Special Turn On Tip: Notice that this barely naughty comment is the first one in this exchange. It is part of what makes Gio a master erotic penpal.) +Gio: (even though I can't stop from fantasizing that I invite you back to my room, i say...) +Gio: after shopping we would head to the pier for more boating and shopping, our hotel is right on the water +Gio: we will stop at a little known beach bar...very private (Special Turn On Tip: See how subtle and detailed he is being? This isn't hard, really. Close your eyes and imagine a favorite bar of yours. Either an idea or images will come into your mind. If not, cut and paste this chat for yourself. Girls LOVE this stuff!!) +Angel: sigh +Lip biting, check! +Angel: i like how you think (Special Turn On Tip: Aha!! Eureka!! This is the kind of sign you are looking for. Every woman has her own ""Melt Zone."" Once she responds like this, don't rush. Let her enjoy it. The first stage of Melty is intoxicating and once you have gotten intimate online or in person, the Melt Zone shifts and is never the same. Milk that puppy for all it's worth.) +Gio: i have gone naked on my boat at this spot...very peaceful and secluded +Gio: we dont have to of course... +Gio: id get you a drink, set up your cushions +Angel: thanks...i appreciate getting to know you in your environment +Gio: pointing out on the map where we are +Gio: local fishing spots +Gio: where on the horizon the sun sets +Angel: youll find me a bit hesitant +Angel: intrigued +Angel: yet unsure +Gio: no pressure...neutral topics +Gio: you catch me steal glimpses of your body, which is fucking amazing, by the way. You look better than women half your age. +Gio: asking about your hopes and what like in life +Angel: i feel flattered but it is still a bit hard to believe that a young guy like you would really be attracted +Gio: i sense your reluctance...i lean in, clink your wine glass...and whisper ""you are safe, just be you, you can trust in me."" (Special Turn On Tip: This is so hot, I have to pause in honor of the power of a well-written word. This is erotic collaborative storytelling at it's stellar best. Inhale 2, 3, 4, Exhale 2, 3, 4). +Things are warming up nicely. +Angel: Thanks for that. (Bites lip) +Gio: looking you in the eyes smiling... +Angel: how long have you had your boat? +Gio: this one just over 2 years +Angel: i bet it is a wonderful love nest +Angel: when did you get your first boat? +Gio: i havent used it as such...yet +Gio: when I was 18, a little skiff +Angel: what? then i am honored +Angel: aw +Angel: wow +Angel: remind me, are you a florida native? +Gio: no originally from Toronto. +Angel: Oh wow, a canuck! +Gio: yes +Angel: you must love it down there... +Gio: laying a towel out next to you on the bow +Gio: applying lotion to my chest and arms +Gio: i hope you are feeling more at ease +Angel: ive never done anything like this before...jetting off to meet a stranger +Angel: i feel brave and terrified at the same time +Gio: reaching over taking your hand in mine, im glad you did +I can't seem to focus on work. +Angel: have you ever travelled to meet a lover in real time? (Special Turn On Tip: This is a good sign. She is thinking of meeting you and it is critical that you kill that in the bud. Reality ruins fantasy every time. Tell your story but focus on building turn on for fantasy not on making plane reservations. This is very important later, trust me!) +Angel: smile +Gio: once +Angel: where did you go? +Gio: san antonio +Angel: was it a cyber connection first? +Gio: yes +Angel: wow +Angel: how did it work out? +Gio: it was amazing +Angel: tell me more +Angel: please +Angel: i love a good story! +Gio: we met on literotica.com +Angel: uh huh +Gio: I was early twenties she was divorced in her 40s, her name was Ashleigh +Gio: we had phonesex a few times a month +Gio: after a year we both hinted at meeting +Angel: wow +Angel: im so curious +Gio: we would meet in a neutral spot, no expectations +Angel: was the chemistry as strong in person? +Gio: yes very much and the passion was very much alive +Delicious! +Angel: wow +Angel: how long was your visit? +Gio: two nights 3 days +Gio: it was amazing unscripted fun +Angel: what happened after the visit? must have been amazing +Gio: we still had phonesex for about a year +Angel: were you friends too or just sex buddies +Gio: it was really all about sex +Gio: we clicked +Angel: that is what i have with my current guy and it work for both of us +Gio: mmmmm just pure physical release +Angel: though i would sure see him more if I could... +Angel: if he were available +Gio: no judging and since we had so much phone/cyber I knew what she liked (Special Turn On Tip: Notice how he is telling a very PG rated version of his fling. Very smart not to go with the sexual details. At this point he wants to intrigue her and turn her on but not scare her off. The fact that she is still chatting here is an excellent sign. Don't rush her, whatever you do.) +Gio: is he married? +Angel: no, he works out of the country a lot and has an erratic schedule, i never know when we are meeting up. don't get me wrong, when we get together it is hot, hot and hot...i kind of love that we don't see each other too often, truth be told. +Gio: noting the change of subject (Special Turn On Tip: Great natural skill here, notice how gently he turned her attention back to the fantasy. If you are with a multi-tasking, perfectionist, you have your work cut out for you. She needs you badly but will steer you away from pleasure all the time. It is a game! Gio is a master!) +Angel: haha +Angel: i have a thin roof and all of a sudden it was pelting down +Angel: lol +Gio: making love in a rain storm, windows open... (Super Hotness Award - great line!) +Angel: did you wish you could get together in person again? +Gio: no it was a long time ago +Gio: good for solo time but i have no desire to be with her again +Angel: did it end well? +Gio: do I wish to get together again with someone like you...yes +Gio: oh yes it was fine she got a bf...real life first +Angel: good for her +Angel: do you date older in real life? +Gio: it was just timing +Gio: yes +Gio: yes I do +Gio: is it easy to meet eligible olders? +Gio: some just want arm candy +No Strings Attached? +Angel: i bet you are delicious arm candy +Angel: lol +Gio: some are truly in it just for good sex +Gio: blush thank you +Gio: look im as horny and as sexual as the next guy but I like some conversation too +Angel: what has happened for me is that the men i have met that started in cyber are not attractive in person...not about their appearance per say, it is just that in person, there is no spark. +Angel: just no chemistry +Gio: its a risk of meeting in person as you so aptly point out, the reality can implode the fantasy. +Gio: thats why i like this date/boat fantasy no pressure just talking...at first, getting to know each other. +Angel: its a crazy dilemma cuz lots of men are attracted to me but you are so rare. i couldn't be having more fun. i really enjoy your company. i wish i could meet someone like you in my town +Gio: i would go out with you in a heartbeat. you are sophisticated +Gio: self confident +Angel: i need to figure out where the handsome 40 somethings hang out in my city +Angel: lol +Gio: would you sleep with a married guy - there are lots of those lol +Angel: haha +Angel: nope +Angel: not with another girl's man +Angel: i have plenty of them that hit on me too +Angel: lol +Angel: and teenagers...god love them +Gio: lol +Gio: how would i know if you felt a spark with me? +Angel: good question i think the biggest challenge in cyber is figuring out how aroused your woman is feeling at any given moment +Gio: yes 100%, there are no physical signs +Angel: without knowing where she is on the arousal scale +Gio: i have no idea if you are aroused right now +Angel: so me right now? +Gio: yes... +Angel: on a scale of 1 to 10, i am at a solid 2ish +Angel: i so enjoy the pleasure of your company +Angel: and feel warmness toward you +Angel: i am always cautious at first +Gio: only a 2? and ish on top of it? :-( how do i get you to an 8? +Make your fantasy date smokin' hot. +Angel: haha, a 2 at this point is doing very well! i think you are doing purrrrfect! +Gio: love how you say purrfect +Angel: i really appreciate how discreet and respectful you are. you can't imagine what a girl sees out there!! +Gio: *making notes (Special Turn On Tip: Do I have to say anything? Gio is a master for a reason, notice when your new chat friend says something about her turn on or what turns her off!) +Angel: i think this is the biggest misstep for cyber fun. guys always think a girl is way more turned on than she really is. +Angel: a guy can never go wrong treating any meeting like a first date-lots of flirting and innocent innuendo at first. warm her up +Angel: i do write exactly what i love...savvy men take notes (Special Turn On Tip: How savvy are you?) +Angel: lol +Gio: i have been +Gio: would you say you are dominant or submissive? +Angel: great question +Angel: i would say i am fiercely independent having gone through a couple of tough situations in my life +Angel: and i am the only one that has my back +Gio: changes your brain chemistry +Angel: fuck, gio, that's hot! +Angel: there is nothing like being led by a man who knows how to create sexual tension and keep it taut +Yes. +Angel: being led in sex is intoxicating to me +Gio: you mentioned that in your post +Angel: so i don't define myself as dominant or submissive at this point. some of the writer's have dominatrix themes and i will say that i find them more of a turn on than i would have thought. i am just careful and value patience in my partners. +Gio: i like you for who you are +Angel: up until now, it has been nearly impossible for me to say what is on my mind when it comes to pleasure, but now, with fantasy, i finally have a voice. +Angel: it used to be easier to be quiet and put up with less than ideal situations +Gio: you are so beautiful +Angel: aw +Gio: you really are +Angel: hey...i do have to get to work. A few projects to work on +Gio: not fair, i have a great bottle of bubbly and pineapple juice for your mimosa. +Angel: oh no, don't tempt me +Gio: understand +Angel: ill write a new fantasy soon +Angel: i do enjoy getting to know you and appreciate your patience +Gio: of course +Angel: before i go, can i put some sunscreen on your back? +Gio: oh please do i dont want to get burned +Angel: (sitting behind him and wrapping her legs around his waist she opened the bottle of sun tan lotion. Rubbing her hands together first to warm up the lotion, she began at his neck and swept her hands expertly along the muscles in his shoulders.) +Gio: (feeling her strong hands on my shoulders.) +Gio: (her legs against my body) +Angel: (the feeling of his skin under her fingers made her heart speed up.) ""i love touching a beautiful man."" She murmured to herself +Angel: sigh +Angel: ok...i have to go to work...lol +Gio: dont stop angel +Angel: i must but i love telling stories with you (bites lip) +Angel: but at least you know i am in the game +Angel: lol +Gio: at least lol +Angel: i like you +Angel: enjoy the day! +Gio: angel? +Angel: yes? +Gio: i can't wait to ravish you one day... +There you have it. One fantasy date in the can for Angel and Gio. I am eager to hear how hot you feel this is. My research shows that if a man can capture a girl's interest and then find the smallest possible dose of turn on to keep her turned on between chats, that is the key to getting a lot more sext success. +PS One last key, the women you meet online who are over 50 want to feel desirable like Marilyn Monroe, not like Jenna Jameson. (Special Turn On Tip: Go back and read that sentence again, and then, please leave a comment. Hot or Not?" +916,"""Wife with Another Woman"" Phone Sex",HawkerDeHavilland,How To,2013-03-04,2013-03-04,2022-01-04 08:24:30,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/wife-with-another-woman-phone-sex,Second in a series of script advice for the wayward phone-sex girl.,"['Bi-Curious Wife', 'Infidelity', 'Lesbian Encounter', 'Wife', 'Wife And Another Woman', ""Wife'S Best Friend""]",4.61,"_Again, the ever-widening challenge for the phone sex girl!_ +Housewives, mothers, single girls and working women part-time become that sweet voice on the other end of the phone. +If only they knew just how many callers have fantasies about their own wives. Submission, Seductions, Cheating scenarios, Interracial episodes...there are thousands of possibilities, but often that sexy voice on the other end of the line isn't quite sure what to say +I've always thought a phone sex girl should have a script. So here is another favorite...... +A working girl's script for ""Wife with another woman"" +(I'm liking this!! So if you have any other ""special"" scenarios you'd like to read please leave them in a comment) +Our cast of characters: +John : a husband obsessed +Kim (Kimberly): the ever faithful and beautiful wife +Elizabeth (Beth): Her close friend +Heather: (our inimitable phone sex girl) a friend of Elizabeth (Beth) +(You, good reader, must cut and paste your best replacement names for I am sure that the objects of your desire are names you would like to see here). Let us begin, then: +* +John: +""I would like to speak with a lady about my wife being with another woman."" +Hello John, my name is Heather. +You don't know me but I think I know your wife, Kim. +That's her name isn't it? +Kim? +I want to tell you I am soooooooo jealous. +Oh! +You don't know why I'm saying that do you? +You and Kim have been married for a while, right? +You both have lots of friends I'm sure. +And I'm sure Kim has a lot of girlfriends: all us girls do. +But John, of all her friends is there one who is especially important to her? +This friend of hers what is her name? +Elizabeth Garner? Her name is "" Beth ""? +You don't know me but I know Beth really well and I know Beth and your wife are friends. +There is something special about Beth and your wife you are wondering about isn't there? +You have secret thoughts about the two of them together, don't you? +You don't want to but you can't help it. +They're both so attractive. +Two women together excites you anyway, doesn't it? +Two good looking girls like Kim and Beth in some imaginary relationship is a secret little fantasy of yours? +What makes it so exciting is that Kim is your dear, sweet beautiful wife! +Beth has a man of her own. +She might be married. +She might be living with a man. +She might be dating. +But she is straight, isn't she John? +Yet Beth spends so much time with your wife, doesn't she? +You think about that. +You think about it all the time don't you John? +It's probably nothing at all! +You worry you are looking into it all wrong! +But I can tell you John, if you are thinking about this so much, +Something is really going on. +Guys can never see it. +These Ideas pop into your thoughts and you wonder where they came from. +It's called intuition, dear man. +They've known each other awhile but not too long. +Maybe they met at work or at the gym. +They seem to have a lot to talk about. +they go shopping together or exercise together or have drinks after work or ""go out with the girls"" together. +I bet your wife always on the phone with her, too. +Those calls are almost every day and always on weekends. +They are always ""catching up"". +I bet when you see Beth she is really nice and friendly to you too, isn't she? +That's all part of it. +Has your wife ever been with another woman that you know of? +Women are naturally curious about each other more than you realize. +Your wife and Beth probably have this emotional attachment right now. +Ever problem is shared between them. +Every time something good happens they share it. +When Kim becomes upset who is the first person she runs too? +Who listens to her, who comforts her and who makes her laugh. +It's probably Beth. +Your wife's friend is really attractive too, isn't she? +There will come a time when your wife seems distracted. +Maybe she picks a fight with you. +She goes out. +It happens. +She sees Beth. +They have too much wine all laughing and having a great time together. +It starts with an accidental kiss. +A friendly kiss shared between two women. +It probably happened while they saying goodbye for the night, John. +I can tell you for a fact: that kiss was something they both liked. +They have both been thinking about it. +It may be weeks later. +Kim and Beth will need to get together and have a heart to heart conversation. +They'll share their feelings : being emotional and intimate. +But John, the only thing that will be on their minds is that last kiss shared by accident. +She is so pretty isn't she? Your wife, I mean. +Your wife doesn't want you involved, John. +In her mind it is no big problem: an odd occurrence two friends can straighten out between them. +She doesn't need to discuss it with you. +But one night you will see Kim make plans to get together with Beth. +And something is just not right about it. +She'll act like its nothing but you notice she's dressed as if she were going out on a date. +Your darling wife will be so stunning and so beautiful John. +Her hair, her makeup, the blouse, shoes and skirt she wears will be so attractive and then she's gone out the door. +If you would have been in her bedroom earlier you could have watched how carefully she went through her underwear drawer to find what would look nicest on her. +Saw how carefully she chose her earrings and necklaces. +Then in front of her mirror applying her makeup, the lip gloss she wore. +If you could have seen her eyes were bright with excitement. +Did you smell the fragrance she was wearing as she left? +You know she's going to see Beth. +But your wife told a little white lie about where they are going and what they would be doing. +You sense it but what other choice do you have, John? +That leaves you alone to think and do anything you want, doesn't it? +John, I'm sure you can think of things you can do. +You're nervous, upset but most of all you are very very excited aren't you? +John? +John: that cock of yours +that hungry excited cock: +is waiting for everything I'm going to tell you, isn't it? +She looked so lovely and sexy. +You will hear from her tonight again, but it won't be what you expect! +She never stays out alone overnight, but in a few hours she calls. +Kim tells you she's had too much to drink. +She's OK, but John, she doesn't want to risk driving home. +She had better stay at her friends place for the night. +No you don't need to come pick her up. +Everything is fine and she will be home first thing in the morning. +I know only too well what is going to happen. +And I am going to describe that for you. +Standing there opening a bottle of wine. +Beth may have a man of her own. +She may even be married. +But no one is there this night but the two of them. +And she wants your wife. +She wants your wife completely. +And there is nothing Kim can do to resist. +You've had thoughts like these since your first introduction to Beth, haven't you? +And John: I can guarantee your wife has been having fantasies about Beth since the first moment they met. +You just never knew. +Right now your wife doesn't care about anything. +Not you, not her marriage, not her friends, not her family: all of it is forgotten. +Just to be with this woman. +An intense desire rules your wife's heart. +Here in Beth's kitchen just doing something as simple as pouring a glass of wine. +Suddenly they are in an embrace: kissing! +For so long they've been thinking about that accidental goodbye kiss. +They will suddenly repeat it. +John you have no idea what passion develops when women discover it. +There is so much more to a kiss between two women. +Kim pressing her lips, so very soft and full, so sensual +Kissing those of her closest female friend. +They respond to each other so well, John! +The experience, the softness of a woman, the scent of each other's skin, their hair long and smooth at their faces. +The gentleness of Beth's touch on your wife.. +And your wife can't help herself. +She wants to be pulled closer. +She longs for Beth's embrace. +Before she had left those few hours ago, do you remember how carefully Kim had applied her lip gloss? +Now here? For the sole purpose of placing it all over the lips of another woman! +They are so beautiful in each other's arms. +Their mouths open, John. +Kim's tongue feels Beth's all over it. +It doesn't end. +Even fully clothed, hips pressed firmly together arouses desire. +Hands find each other's and intertwine. +These kisses become deep and long. +Each one is new and expressive. +Nipples become hard under bra's too, John. +There is no denying their breasts have met. +Even beneath blouse and bra, both of them feel the stimulation. +Your wife is breathless. +Beth breaks off an opened mouth kiss to apply her lips to your wife's throat and the nape of her neck. +Both of them feel so alive! +Kim admits to her she's been able to think of nothing else but this moment for weeks. +The words Beth whispers into your wife's ear are for her alone: things she has never heard before in her life. +Beth will tell her things that will make your wife's knees weak. +She will say things that make your wife wet, John. +Kim lets Beth take her hand and lead her into the bedroom: Beth's bedroom. +It is just the two of them. +And they have all night. +At the bedside their mouths find one another's. +And now its your wife's turn to have her tongue all over Beth's. +She wants this so bad, John. +Hips, waist, the small of their backs, their arms encircling in feminine embrace +Can you picture their hands on each other? +They are beautiful together and very aroused. +Their shoes come off and lay at their feet. +Kim is so excited she can barely stand. +They sit on the bed, side by side hips together knees touching turned towards one another . +There is no end to their kissing. +You had no idea how involved women become when kissing like this, did you? +Their mouths are all over each other's. +Soft sensual intimate and unending and Beth takes advantage of Kim's distraction. +She is opening your wife's blouse button by button. +God, she's slipping that blouse off your wife's shoulders. +Look how pretty that sheer bra is. Look how low cut it is. +You've never seen Kim in that bra before have you John? +Your wife has a beautiful body. +You don't tell her that enough . +But believe me Kim has been for months. +She's telling her now with words whispered adoringly. +She's telling your wife these things between every kiss +She is freely touching your wife however she pleases. +Hands are on her waist, the flair of her hips running her hands over her everywhere. +Kim is not resisting +Those hands on her hips? +They are travelling downwards. +Gently over her smooth thighs then down even further +They are so long and sexy, aren't they? +Those legs of your wife's. +It's her best friend enjoying them now. +She's running her hands over the full silky length of your wife's legs. +God those pantyhose are so sheer. +Your wife's not wearing panties. +But Kim has done something else you knew nothing about. +Her skirt rides up her thighs as Beth's hands find their warmth. +Those pantyhose are so sheer you can see she has shaved John. +See the barest pussy behind the panty panel between her legs. +She has never shaved her pussy before has she, John? +When could she have done that? +How did you ever not know that she sat on the edge of the tub with cream and a razor and carefully shaved the complete mound of her womanhood and then kept it hidden from you? +How delicate and feminine. Beth will discover it bare this way and know it was done for her. +How delicious that pretty pussy looks. +Then John: Kim's breasts. +Your wife's beautiful breasts are barely supported by the thinnest sheer bra. +Beth's hands are on those beautiful tits, John. +With kisses applied down her throat, her collarbones her chest and then onto the slopes of your wife's soft breasts Beth has captured all of her. +That blouse is open to the waist. +Her breasts are in another's hands. +Her closest female friend is fondling them. +Beth whispers to her and feels Kim relax. +She reaches behind Kim's back to find the catch. +John, your wife is so cute. +Kim is so so lovely. Her breasts are full gorgeous things. +Beth knows it too. +From above Beth allows her undone hair to feather across the work she is doing. +Softly, it drifts to and fro across hands breasts and nipples so Kim can experience its softness. +Beth finds herself presented with breast tip only inches from her lips. +Hands filled with breasts she squeezes. +They rise. +Nipple touches her lips. +Without hesitating Beth is placing kisses to stiffened cone. +It caresses her lips. +Your wife is poised in anticipation. +Then Beth applies the full extent of her desire on Kim's wanting breasts. +She presses her lips to areola to begin tonguing its bumpy slope. +Beth parts her lips and takes the nipple and tongues its thickness wetly. +She has both nipples stiffened and shimmering with her spit. +You can hear your wife groan. +The cone of her nipple and areola is slipping squirming between tongue and the roof of Beth's mouth completely erect. +She sucks laving it with her saliva. +She draws at the breasts softness walking her lips to the cone of areola. +Then opening wide, Beth collects as much breast as she can take in and begins sucking. +Before this is over the dust of Beth's makeup will have transferred itself all over your wife's breasts. +. +Kim's hands are filled with Beth's long soft hair. +She closes her eyes. +It feels so very good for her, John. +This is not like anything else she's ever experienced. +She loves it. +Their relationship has deepened even more, John. +John often you've wanted to play with your wife's tits this way. +Sometimes it happened but +But mostly she had resisted by saying things like 'John not now' or ' John I'm not really in the mood' +Look at her John. +Look at the subjugation she embraces with another woman! +She is thrilling to this special oral manipulation. +Her tits seem to swell larger and firmer by the minute. +Then +Just like that : +Beth breaks away. +She stands up in front of Kim there seated on the bed. +She slowly begins to remove her necklaces, bangles, earrings, top and skirt +Teasing Kim's eyes to watch her body. +Soon Beth is down to her bra and panties +She steps in front of your wife. +Would Kim please reach up and unfasten her bra? +Kim is doing it slowly and carefully. +The bra falls away revealing Beth's magnificent breasts. +You've thought a lot about those pretty titties your wife's friend owns, haven't you? +They are so full and here they are finally exposed for all to see. +But John, this exposure was for your precious wife's eyes alone. +Beth asks her for her touch. +And your wife is tentative and unsure at first. +God, soon she has her hands on them! +and Beth is bending to her making them accessible in any way she chooses. +She's holding them with more authority now John. +Your wife's vision is completely filled with woman flesh. +She's cupping them. +Squeezing them. +Bringing her thumb and forefingers out to draw across areola and finish with stiffened nipple. +They are +Inches away from your wife's lips. +They are beautiful, firm and perfect. +Her friend can't wait any longer and whispers to a seated Kim to take them. +Kiss them. Lick them. +Beth says please please +Quickly your wife's lips are all over those beautiful tits. +She's kissing them. +Oh my God. +Her nipple is in your wife's mouth. +Its being drawn in. Those soft lips taking in more and more breast. +She's sucking each one fully. +One after the other, licking. +Sucking them, John! +Beth is cradling your wife's face tenderly. +She breaks free. +Beth steps out of her panties. +Your wife's skirt is off. +And quickly those sheer pantyhose are peeled off to lay in a heap on the floor with all the other now useless style of two sophisticated women. +Beth is guiding, positioning Kim back on the bed against her pillows. +Against the headboard. +Look at your wife's pussy now John. +I've never seen anything so delicate and lovely. +Its standing out all swollen and waiting. +Beth has her hands on Kim's thighs urging them open for her. +She's kissing her mouth again. +Oh dear, can these two women kiss! +Those thighs are being teased open. +John. +Her hand. +Her fingers are touching your own sweet wife's barest pussy. +All newly shaved and never more naked than it is now. +All this open mouthed kissing and Beth is moving ever closer beside her on the bed. +She's pressing herself beside Kim. +That hand down her tight belly across her torso. +And now it's between Kim's legs. +All for the sole purpose of caressing your wife's willing cunt. +Rubbing it John. +Playing with it. +Kissing her while she's doing it. +Touching it better than Kim could do for herself. +your wife's legs are wide open! +Kim is holding on to Beth the best she can. +She is kissing back searching for tongue. +She's letting those fingers caress her bare pussy lips, John, and they are just falling open for Beth's long manicured fingers. +God, see how she's lifting her hips? +Raising them to allow Beth's touch better access to herself. +Your wife is so fucking horny she's attempting to fuck at them so they'll do more than tease her swollen clit. +She's waiting for them to be inside her. +Look how desperately she's hanging on to Kim's neck. +Holding on. Kissing like mad. Feeling fingers along the slit of her pussy. +Long nailed fingers separating her labia.tracing +and pressing into the folds of her wet cunt. +Oh God look. +Beth's fingers have found her hole. +She's holding still in anticipation.. +Oh fuck, those fingers are working themselves into Kim's vagina. +Her offered babyhole drenched with lubricant. +Look how fucking wet your wife is, John. +Pussy juice is dripping drenching Beth's fingers and still there's more. +Beth wants her now. +She's working herself up towards the headboard. +Soon her breasts are in your wife's face. +Suck them Kim. +Go ahead. +Bury your face in them. +Suck them while she finger fucks your hot horny cunt. +That's it baby. +Lie back. Let those fingers work you over. +Grind your clit into the heel of her hand. +That's it baby. +That a girl. +Make yourself shove deep onto those long silky fingers. +Bind them all tight and wet with your hungry little pussy hole. +Now press your face into Beth's titties. +Your wife looks so fucking good doing that. +Look she is holding Beth's tits in both hands. +She's is in love with them. +Licking all the breast flesh she can handle, +taking as much as she can take. +Sucking on them like a baby. +Beth is working that pussy now. +Rapidly those fingers are going in and out making Kim moan +Look how Kim's hips move to be fucked this way. +She's fucking on them as they enter and withdraw. +She wants to come now. +She doesn't want to wait. +Beth knows that. +Beth delays. +She carefully places her hand on your wife's neck, +and stills her. +Calms her +Even though Kim is frantic to come: +Beth slowly slides her fingers from your wife's pussy hole. +They are soaked with lubricant. +It's dripping from your wife's sopping cunt and down the crack of her ass +And has drenched Beth's fingers all the way to her wrist. +She's crushing her mouth to your wife's again. +God can these women kiss. +I've never seen anything like it. +Oh my god Beth is putting those fingers she just withdrew from Kim's pulsing cunt +and slipping it within their kiss. +They are BOTH tasting your wife's juices. +both at once. +Kim is flat on her back. +Her hair is all over the place. +Her breasts are compressed with their own weight. +Her nipples point to the ceiling. +Beth moves above her and between her legs. +Face to face +Breast to breast. +Hips that separate her legs until +She's pressing her pussy against your wife's +God there is Beth's beautiful ass. +Its pushing those hips. +Watch as she grinds her cunt between your helpless wife's legs. +See how Kim is holding her now? +Her hands on Beth's arms, then her sides, to her back. +Then stretching long fingered hands down Beth's spine +she reaches that beautiful ass. +She holds both Beth's ass cheeks while she grinds her pussy. +Squeezes it and urges it on. +The only thing out of place are the rings adorning your wife's left hand. +Those urging hands gripping and grasping this woman's ass. +Dear John, I know. +Those rings of devotion and faithfulness. +Those symbols of love at the altar. +They are meaningless now. +You don't care either, do you? +You want to see your wife fucked by this woman. +More than anything in your life. +You shall have your wish. +What your wife and Beth will do needs to be acted on: responded to. +Your cock has been throbbing with anticipation. +Well it should. +Take that cock, unnecessary in the new experiences of your wife and her frend, and allow it the thrill it craves. +Hold it as you listen to these last words. +Give it up to this sweet lesbian experience. +Your sweet darling wife, her beautiful friend, +Their secret love, their unbridled passion and the eventual orgasm shared between women only fulfilled femininity can know. +Let it spill its load of seed across your straining belly. +It is what a woman's heart demands +Beth is sliding down. +She stops to suck on your wife's breasts one more time +Before she goes down for good. +Look at your wife's eyes. +They are wild with desire. +She knows what is about to happen to herself. +Then Beth's lips are on that bare pussy shaved just for this moment. +You can see Beth's tongue. +In the folds of your wife's labia licking all the way up and down. +Those lips are falling open for her. +That tongue is all over your wife's clit. +Its become a hard stiff bead of pleasure. +Beth is circling it with her tongue now. +See how Beth's arms go underneath her thighs? +Arms reaching up. +Hands on your wife's breasts. +To hold them and tease the nipples. +Kim is crazy to come. +Never has anyone treated her hungry cunt like this. +Her hips are beginning to rock into the licking, teasing, loving tongue. +Her hands become tangled in Beth's hair. +She's riding her now. +Your wife wants to come so bad, John. +It won't be long. +Beth knows it. +She's pulling back an arm so she can get her hand and enter your wife's beutuful swollen cunt with her fingers. +She is sucking her clit at the same time. +The hand above is kneading Kim's breast . +Her beautiful body is completely in Beth's embrace. +Those fingers are entering her now. +Watch how they slip in and out of your wife's aching pussy hole. +She's drenched. +Her clit is being sucked and tongued unmercifully. +Loved in a way only a woman knows. +You can hear your wife start to groan. +She has a rhythm of little fucks going intently on Beth's face. +And Beth, bless her heart, is sucking, tonguing and fucking wth her fingers to make it all happen for her. +John. +She's coming. +She's coming John. +Listen to the sounds she is making. +Oh God is she ever having a good orgasm.! +An orgasm for another woman in a way only women know how to give. +Your wife has wanted this for a long time and now +She is coming so hard for Beth +So delightfully in a way a man can't possibly understand. +Beth knows it and takes her through it. +All driven by the desire she's had for your wife since they first met. +It lasts . and the pleasure is heaven. +See how wonderfully it subsides? +Watch how Beth holds her as those clutches from Kim's vagina begin to fade. +And just know +With complete certainty +that pleasure is seeping through Kim's body from head to toe. +John, I know, like every woman knows: +It is pleasure like your wife has never experienced before. +There will be many other times and other places your wife and Beth will have sexual encounters now that they've had each other for the first time. +And something else which must be saved for another time: +All lovemaking between two women ends in a 69. +Always. +To have the hungry press of wetly aroused pussy against your lips and feel the same between your own legs means utter satisfaction. +The next time Beth will rise and turn. +She will straddle your wife's face. +Your wife will participate in a feminine encounter that can only be shared between two women. +She will do anything for Beth now, John. +Anything. +Beth , in this call, has been frustrated.. +But expect your wife to endure such a rage of private feminine passion from this woman as to control your wife's every thought thereafter. +John, Breach this subject with your wife lightly and at your own risk. The ways of a woman's heart are forever a mystery, but if these thoughts of her possess you, then you must ask. And if you ask, do not be surprised at the confession she may surprise you with. +Where there is smoke: there is fire." +917,Will You Lie To Get Laid?,bgmisfun,How To,2014-09-07,2014-09-07,2022-01-04 08:42:12,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/will-you-lie-to-get-laid,"Lie, Lying, Lay, Laid - a dirty grammar lesson.","['Laid', 'Lain', 'Lay', 'Laying', 'Liar', 'Lie', 'Lied', 'Lying']",4.45,"Will you lie to get laid? A quick grammar lesson on LIE, LAY and LAID. +I have come across far too many good stories where the authors made mistakes with these similar sounding words. Here is my entry into the Summer Lovin Contest 2014, the first purpose of which is to give the readers an idea how these words should be used properly. The second purpose is to poke some erotic fun with the summer theme. It is boring and dry to give a grammar lecture; a more effective approach is to give examples of the correct usage of different forms of LIE and LAY in the context of a dirty story. Here it goes - +///////////////////////////////////////// +On warm sunny summer days, young Brittney likes to lie in her back porch and sunbathe in her bikini. She is lying there now, face down on a fully extended lawn chair, with her stringy top removed, sun tan lotion glistening on her bare back. The bottom piece of her swimming suit -- made up of fabric that is no larger than the size of her palm - does little to conceal her round and sexy ass. The ass crack is inviting. Back home from college for her summer vacation, Brittney is enjoying her time away from studying and the crazy dorm life. +She lay there yesterday too, while her middle-aged neighbor Tom peeped through the gap between the slats of the wooden fence that separates their backyards. He couldn't control the arousal in his shorts. Standing in his own backyard, by the fence, with one eye looking through the inch-wide hole, he rubbed his hard-on and imagined how it would feel to hump her from behind, to guide his cock down her ass cleavage, to explore her tight vaginal opening, also to penetrate her anally. +Brittney knew Tom was watching. From the corner of her eye, she saw movement behind the bushes, which partially cover the opening in the fence. She smiled to herself mischievously. +She is somewhat an exhibitionist and takes pride in being the object of her neighbor's adoration. Today, she is again enjoying the soothing rays on her semi naked body. She has lain there for half an hour already. She turns over, with her heavy boobs facing the sky. They jiggle from side to side when she moves. She looks down, and proudly admires her own tits. Careful to protect herself from sunburn, she is applying a generous amount of sun tan lotion on her silky smooth skin. Having a private back porch affords her the opportunity to get a full body tan. +One of her kinky diversions is masturbating naked, under the sun. She squeezes the lotion bottle and squirts the milky white liquid into her left palm. She tilts her hand sideways, letting the lotion roll from one side to another. This looks so erotic to her, for no reason. Then she lays down the bottle to the right of her lawn chair. Yesterday, she absentmindedly laid the bottle on her left, and she had a hard time finding it. How silly she was. +Cupping her right hand, she lets some of the lotion drips from her left palm into it. Then she brings both hands to the spot just above her tummy, right under her breasts. She starts caressing the base of her roundness, fingers coming close to her areola, making small circles with her fingertips. +Looking down, seeing the thick white liquid lying messily on her tits, she is turned on. The sight naturally reminds her of how her boyfriend shoots his load on her breasts. Bobby loves to tit fuck her, to lay his thick shaft between her massive boobs. +She crosses her legs, squeezing her thighs together. Yet, there is an emptiness that the squeezing cannot satisfy. The heat from the sun has warmed her up in more ways than one. She needs something, a tool, an instrument of some kind. Should she go inside to her bedroom to retrieve her vibrator? No, she doesn't want to be distracted by getting up. +Brittney has very strange rituals about masturbation. She always likes to start with some inanimate objects, like a toy, or something that innocently lies around the house. After a few minutes, she will use her hands to continue with the rubbing and touching of her own private area. Maybe around the pussy lips, maybe right on top of her clitoris, maybe deep inside her vagina. Electricity seems to be able to travel from her finger tips to her genitals, or is it the other way round? +Today, she is too lazy to get up. What can she use? +Ah! The sun tan lotion bottle, which she has laid on the tiled surface of the ground. The round bottom corners of the bottle will do the trick. +Tom, on the other side of the fence, is doing yard work, or at least he is pretending to. He enjoys taking care of his plants and the flower bed. He remembers the nice view he had yesterday -- of his sexy neighbor Brittney. He is eager to find out if she is there again today. Yesterday did she know he was watching? Was she putting on a show for him? +He has laid two inches of mulch around the rose bushes. Rose buds --- anal openings. Damn. Why do erotica writers always use that analogy? Now he is horny looking at the pink roses. +Walking up to the fence, he quietly lays down the garden shears by his feet, bends his knees and positions his head to look through the hole in the fence. The opening in the rotten wood fence, resulting from natural weather decay, is about three feet off the ground. The inch-wide peephole is usually hidden behind the bushes on his side. So he has to squeeze himself behind the vegetation to access the hole. +The plants in his neighbor's yard do little to block the excellent view of Brittney in the lawn chair for him yesterday. And he has a clear view of the lovely girl again today. She is lying there with her feet pointing towards him, her scantily covered pussy facing his direction. He imagines if she takes off the lower piece of her bikini, he will have a clear view of her pussy. Her chair is only about 20 feet away from the fence. He swears he can smell the coconut scent of the sun tan lotion. +She grabs the lotion bottle, which she has laid on the ground, and places it between her legs. In slow, circular motions, she is using it as a toy to please herself. Tom is elated. He cannot believe his good fortune. His beautiful young neighbor is masturbating and he is going to witness it. She sits up. Still with the bottle in one hand, she touches her nipples with the other, and her lips part slightly, as if she is moaning. With her sunglasses on, it is hard for Tom to tell whether Brittney is looking in his direction. Suddenly she stands up, and starts walking towards him, towards the peephole in the fence. +He is startled. Straightening himself, he stands behind the fence, next to the peephole, heart pounding. Has she seen him? Why is she walking over in this direction? +In a matter of seconds, shockingly, a finger pokes through the opening. Tom has been to many adult book stores before and he has participated in the glory hole experience as well. Why is Brittney doing this? Is she inviting him to stick his dick through that hole? Yes, ""stick his dick"" there. He likes the rhyme. +Mesmerized, driven solely by lust, he turns to the hole, unbelts his shorts and drops everything to his heels. The hole is too high for him -- he stands only five feet tall and the hole is about three feet above ground. +He gently steps on the brick edgings that he laid down last year, to give himself additional height to reach that peephole. Still not enough. Looking around, he moves some of the extra bricks that are lying around and stacks them to form a platform for him to stand on. Though the bricks form a wobbly and unsteady foothold, he doesn't care. His foot-long penis is throbbing and bobbling. Many a times he has wished to the All Mighty that he would sacrifice a few inches of his manhood to compensate for his height. Maybe six inches -- will he be happy to stand 5'6"" and have a 6"" dick? Or give up three inches? Be 5'3"" and have a 9"" dick? +The blood has travelled to his groin area. He doesn't have enough blood in his brain to do mental math. He stands on the stacked bricks, guides his salami shape thingy through the hole. Instantly he feels a soothing, licking, wet sensation along the underside of his shaft. Oh god, she must be licking his cock. Brittney the college co-ed is licking his cock. Then her tongue touches his mushroom shape crown, and then back to the underside, and she licks the upper side of his cock as well. This girl is wild. This is his wildest dream come true. No, he never imagines this to be possible. Her feathery licking motions are amazing. +""Tom! What the hell are you doing?"" shouts Mary, his wife, who comes out of the kitchen into the backyard, meat cleaver in hand, apron around her waist. +""No, nothing. I am ... ur ... just that ..."" Tom is out of ideas to make excuses. He has to come up with something fast. ""I thought, I thought Brittney's plants can use some natural ammonia so I am just peeing into her bushes."" +Damn it. ""Peeing into her bushes?"" Wrong choice of words. +""You are a habitual liar! Last year you lied about the affair with Jenna. Now you are lying about peeping and peeing into Brittney's backyard. You always lie. I will never trust a single word you say anymore. You have lied to me all these years we are married!"" she howls and breaks down in tears. +""No, for real. I am just helping her fertilize her plants naturally."" The more he lies, the more confused he is. As if it is possible, he feels that his penis is growing, both in girth and in length. And it is stuck inside the hole. He cannot withdraw it! +""Oh, Tom. Don't you have the basic decency to pull your dick back and pull up your pants while I talk to you?"" Mary is crying, wielding the cleaver above her head. +""Can you put the beaver, no, the cleaver down? You are scaring me."" +Tom feels that with his wife yelling at him, sharp knife in hand, he should be losing his erection. But no, he is going strong. And Brittney is still licking. +""You are such a disgrace, Tom! Terrible."" Mary cannot control his sobs. +And then he ejaculates. He shoots his load into Brittney's backyard through the glory hole. Oh, he cums. (Erotica writers will debate whether it is cum or come, but that is another matter.) +He still cannot withdraw his manhood from the hole. Normally he will be proud of his staying power after finishing but not today. He desperately wants to pull up his shorts to hide his dick. But Brittney seems to be continuing with her licking after he has finished. +Mary walks up to him, pointing the cleaver at his dick. ""Get back in here. Or I am going to chop it off."" +Finally after almost a minute, his dick has returned to its 12-inch pre-erect state. It is narrow enough to pull through the opening. He stands away from the glory hole, bends down to pull up his boxers and shorts, only to find the semi-flaccid penis covered in green paint. +Brittney must have been playing games on him. She hasn't licked him. She has used a brush, maybe a paint brush, to coat his penis green. +As a punishment, Mary ties Tom down on a bed of garden stones, face up, with his arms and legs stretched out, as if he were stranded on the Island of Lilliput. He lies there for he forgets how long, embarrassed, ashamed and angry. After many slow and unsuccessful attempts, he is able to move his hand to the garden shears that he has dropped earlier. They are lying inches away from him. He is glad that Mary has left them laying there. They are his life line now. +Finally, he gets a hold of them. With much twisting and flipping of his left wrist, he is able to cut the rope to free himself. +Standing up, infuriated, fuming, he walks over to the glory hole and nails a piece of two by four over it. He swears that he is never going to look over to Brittney's yard again. Definitely not this year. +////////// +Now to recap the grammar points -- +Lie (as a verb, meaning to rest in a horizontal position): +Tom lies there next to his wife. They are lying there in their bed. They lay there last night. Now they have lain there for several hours. +****** +Lay (as a verb, meaning someone puts something down on the ground): +Brittney lays a towel on the grass. +By letting her neighbor peek at her yesterday, Brittney is laying the foundation to play the paint job on him today. +Tom made a big mistake. He laid an egg. +Brittney has laid her buttocks on the edge of the pool. +Lie (as a verb, meaning to not tell the truth): +Tom lies about the reason for him to poke his penis through the hole. +He is lying as he is shooting his load. +He lied last year about other affairs. +He has always lied about illicit sex. Who hasn't? +///////// +There is another expression, the origin of which is more obscure -- GET LAID. There is good reason to believe that this usage is related to the second set of examples mentioned above. +Hope you enjoy this grammar lesson and dirty tale. Votes and comments are welcome. -- BGMISFUN +******" +918,Winning Survivor - With One Story,Iamcanadian28,How To,2008-07-10,2008-07-10,2022-01-04 08:42:14,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/winning-survivor-with-one-story,"A guide to winning survivor, with a twist.",[''],4.0,"The Literotica Survivor challenge is a grueling year-long competition pitting writers against each other to see who can garner the most points by writing a lot of stories. This article is designed to show my fellow writers how to reduce the stress and effort it takes to win the challenge. +There is nothing in the survivor rules that state you have to write about multiple subjects. One of the biggest challenges for survivor contestants is developing the multitude of plots required to write hundreds of stories. You can fix this by writing a series of stories with a single plotline, instead of many separate stories. Okay you can stop laughing now, I'm serious. +Here are some simple suggestions that can help you win survivor using the single story concept: +1\. Keep each story short- The minimum submission guideline for the contest and the site in general is 750 words. I know you are thinking what kind of a story can you develop in just that many words. That might be a problem if you were only writing one such story. With this concept, you will be writing hundreds of chapters. Therefore, you can develop the plot gradually over the course of those many chapters. +Besides, 750 words is not that short. There is an article written by Oggbashan about creating 50 word stories. If you can write an effective story in 50 words, just imagine the creative freedom you get from 750 words. The secret is to keep the story as close to the minimum number of words as possible without going under. +2\. Write at least one chapter in every category- There are critical bonuses for filling every category that add 60 points to your total if you fill them all. This is a necessary part of accumulating that winning score. There are 31 story categories that cover a wide range of topics. Getting chapters to flow into each other will be the biggest challenge. It's highly unlikely you will be able to flow a first time story into a BDSM or anal category. +Some of the categories are going to require some creativity, but you can't expect me to do all the work for you. The categories that might be the hardest to incorporate are How-to, Reviews & Essays, Humor & Satire and Celebrities. You can cover some of these categories by writing about the process of writing a complex series of stories. Not to mention the contest has immunities available that can help rid you of a few pesky categories. +The only exception to the 750 word rule is the Novels category. It requires a minimum story length of 7500 words. With those word limits in mind, it will take a minimum of 30,000 words to create an entry in each category. Instead of getting credit for a few short stories, all those words can gain you 156 points, a very good start on your way to victory. +3\. Keep your characters limited- With fewer characters to worry about, you spend less time developing them. My ideal plan is to have only four total characters. This may seem ridiculous as you wonder how you could possibly write hundreds of stories with only four characters. This allows you to make your characters more fluid in the way they develop. They will have to be due to the requirement to fill all the categories. Your characters will have to take on multiple roles and experience a wide variety of activities. +4\. Keep the setting basic- Having only a short amount of words to work with, you do not have time to write extensively about the stories setting. Writing as many of the chapters in the same setting can help alleviate this problem. It may not be overly interesting for the reader, but we are really going for quantity not quality. Being the sole survivor is not about making friends or getting people to read what you write, it's about getting as many points as possible. There are several contests through the year that reward good writing. Survivor is not the place for this. +5\. Writing Poetry- Having one story with only a few characters should also help you fulfill your poetry requirements. There are four poetry categories to complete. With four characters, you could choose to write one about each character. There are no minimum lengths required for poetry entries so keep them short. +If you follow these four simple suggestions, you can be on your way to survivor glory and bringing home the cold hard cash. After using the same four characters, in the same settings and writing short burst entries you may be very tired of your characters and take great joy in killing them off at the end. If you have a lot of free time and a good imagination, this How-To can make you a survivor." +919,A Woman's Guide to Getting Married,Bakeboss,How To,2009-03-19,2009-03-19,2022-01-04 08:25:30,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/a-womans-guide-to-getting-married,A lesson in getting your man to commit.,['Marriage'],3.84,"Let me start with saying I do not believe that all women should get married or that all women want to marry, this is meant to be a guide for those females that have a desire to have a husband. With that said let me also point out that I am not a female so the only perspective I have is from the man's point of view. +I started dating my future wife more as a fluke than by design. I had tickets to a show and at the last minute my date canceled out, in fact it was so last minute I couldn't find anyone who was free to go with me. I had just started a new job and I hardly new anyone there. During a coffee break, I happened to sit next to a girl I had spoken to before but I couldn't even remember her name. She turned out to be a lot of fun and we talked and laughed so much our ten minute break turned into a half hour, when she noticed the time she jumped up worried about getting into trouble for being late so on impulse I blurted out a invite to a last second show explaining about my date canceling. As she ran back to work, she shouted an OK over her shoulder. I immediately starting having second thoughts about my rash decision and began to worry about the consequences of dating someone at work. +I really enjoyed our first date, although I think she was rather nervous she didn't object to coming to my place for drinks after the show. We ended up spending the night together more from falling asleep after making love than from making love all night. In the morning I took her home and that is when I found out she lived with her parents, of course that meant they hated me right from the first date. We started dating pretty steady after that, going out after work two or three times after work, at first we weren't exclusive as I was still dating some other girls I knew but I just found I had more fun with her and we evolved into a relationship. +The only snag being I lived in Hollywood while my work was in West LA and my girl lived in Santa Monica. Commuting became a real problem; if we stayed in West LA after work, we ended up in bars and then maybe parked on some quite street. If we went back to my place, we usually ended up falling asleep after making love and then a long drive back and forth to take her home. Finally, I had enough and looked to rent on the West side. Within a month of living in my new apartment, my girl was living with me much to her mother's dismay. +I was not happy about her moving in yet it was so gradual that she was in before I noticed. I had recently divorced and was not looking for any kind of commitment and now here I was living with a girl. I say I wasn't happy yet I have to admit I enjoyed having a girl around who helped with the cooking and cleaning and then of course there was the sex, which was great. +It looked to me that our relationship was headed for problems as we each had a different opinion of what we wanted. My girl was committed to love and a long lasting relationship, I was committed to lust, and as much sex as I could get. My girl decided to not to pressure me into anything and instead made a plan to fuck my brains out until I surrendered. We fucked night and day not even leaving the apartment some weekends barely stopping long enough to eat. I would be tired and so sore that I would swear I'd never fuck again, and then she would start to tease me, pulling up her dress to show off her panties having me watch her rub her pussy while telling me how wet she was getting. All of a sudden, I would feel my cock start to grow and before you know it, we would be at it again. +After about five months of this she told me she was pregnant, I told her, I wanted to do the right thing and that we should get married even going so far as to buy a ring. She called me at work to tell me she started her period so she either wasn't pregnant or maybe had a miscarriage, much to both of our relief. I felt like I had dodged a bullet and it made me wonder if this relationship was something I wanted to commit to for the rest of my life. +Like the heel that most men are, I bolted. I left her a note saying something like; I didn't want to do this anymore and moved out. I went to stay with a friend back in Hollywood, he was glad to see me and told me he already had a wild weekend planned and we would have a ball. This is what I needed, some wild sex with girls whose names I didn't know, I planned to go crazy and just let it all hang out. There was just this little snag, I kept thinking about my girlfriend, or should I say my ex girlfriend. What a louse I was, too chicken shit to face her and I was worried about how she was feeling. I tried to party her out of my mind, the whole weekend was nothing but sex, booze and drugs and yet it didn't help, I couldn't keep the thought of her sitting home crying out of my head. Finally, I called her Sunday night, just to apologize, maybe if I was lucky I would just get the answer machine. She answered on the first ring, her sad voice broke my heart, and the only thing she asked was, are you coming back. I knew right then, there was nothing I wanted more and I moved back that night. +To her it was as if I had never left yet to me all I felt was guilt. How could I do that to her, how could I leave without talking face to face and even more how could I leave the day she had maybe miscarried? All she would say about the whole incident was that it was over and I was back. I already knew she loved me but that was when I knew I loved her and wanted to be with her forever. We went to Vegas on her twenty-first birthday and while we were there I said let's get married. She turned me down at first, saying she knew I didn't want marriage but in the end she accepted. We might have started out shaky but we have been married for almost thirty-nine years now and I love her as much now as I did then. +So then my advice for the women out there who want to get their men to commit to their relationship, is don't cajole, don't demand, just fuck their brains out and in the end they will beg you to be their partner for life." +920,Woman's Guide to Male Panty Fetish,ProfessorPanty,How To,2008-10-01,2008-10-01,2022-01-04 08:42:15,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/womans-guide-to-male-panty-fetish,Required reading for all females.,"['Lingerie', 'Masturbation', 'Panties', 'Panty']",4.59,"My friend Randy and I have 50 years of combined first hand experience with the ever popular fetish for panties. Randy and I have had numerous discussions about women's underwear and the thread that connect this simple, yet complicated, garment to male sexual arousal. We came to the undeniable understanding that most women don't realize the power they possess simply by virtue of their panties. Let me explain..... +Those women that think there's nothing special about their underwear are either naïve, or deeply mis-informed. Our society has taken definite steps to elevate the female panty to a level where no other piece of clothing has ever been, and the proof of that fact is right in front of us every day. Whether you refer to it as underwear, foundation, lingerie, under pants or panties, you can't walk into a mall without seeing one of those specialty stores with numerous pairs of sexy panties on the mannequins in the store windows. Department stores have lingerie displays that are eye-appealing and spacious, all touting panties of different types, colors and fabrics – literally hundreds of pairs all out in the open for everyone to see and touch. While, on the other hand, male underwear is usually on one rack in the men's section, probably hidden against the wall. +In magazines, you can see eye-popping ads of women in their panties. On TV, we are treated to the yearly V.S. lingerie show, and on the internet – a woman in her panties is considered tame and even acceptable. You can go to any beach or swimming pool and you'll notice that swimsuits are emulating lingerie very closely. +So even though underwear, in the strict sense of the word, is meant to be worn under our outer clothes (ie, covered by our outer clothes), the reality of the situation is that women's underwear is most definitely meant to be seen..... and enjoyed. If that wasn't the case, then why aren't women's panties thick, plain, white cotton like men's briefs? If panties weren't meant to be seen, then why are they colorful, soft and sexy, with intricate designs and fabrics? What would be the reason for sheer and transparent panties if no one was ever going to see them? And what would be the use for crotch-less panties? +My point is this: women's panties have transgressed the boundaries of simply being underwear. They are a statement of sensuality, femininity and sexuality, and they are clearly meant to be seen and enjoyed by both women and men. Once one can accept the fact that panties are more than just underwear, then we can get into the real meat of the subject at hand – the male panty fetish. +Now, ladies – you can't blame us men for being attracted to your panties. The truth here is two fold. First, we (men) have been trained to accept the fact that your underwear is special. Second, if you didn't want us to be interested in your panties, you would be wearing those ""Sensible"" cotton things your mom bought you years ago and we (men) would hardly ever see them. The fact that you have a drawer full of soft, silky and sexy delicates is proof that you bought them for just one reason – to get us to look at them and to turn us on. +I could spend days defending an argument supporting the thesis that panties went from being undergarments no one ever saw to sexual apparel, but for the sake of discussion, let's just accept the fact that women's panties are intended to excite. So, that being said, the question really becomes: ""How will women use the sensual power of their panties in their relationship with men?"" +There's one thing I want to throw out there – even before we get into this any deeper, and it's directed to those women whose boyfriends, lovers, husbands, or significant others have already hinted, or maybe even told you, they have an interest in your panties. And that is – don't ignore it. I promise you that when a man has told you they have an interest in your panties, they thought about it considerably before they told you. They agonized over it, considered your reaction and even weighed the chances of you being totally disgusted with their panty interest, but they took the chance you would understand and be willing to at least discuss and consider it. +No man ever approaches a woman to tell her that he would like to have access to her panties without considering the consequences. I'm sure when first approached you might think it's gross, unsanitary, kinky or even perverted. If you feel that way because you don't think you smell fresh, sensual or sexy down there, perhaps you should reconsider. While I don't think the majority of men have an interest in skid mark panties, your natural scent, secretions and juices are the very essence that turns us on. Believe me, we wouldn't ask if we weren't serious about it. So, ladies – if your man has approached you with a request regarding your panties, I urge you to be open minded about it. You'll be glad you did when you see the happiness in his eyes and experience the attention he will give you. +Now, for those women whose man hasn't verbally indicated an interest in your panties, take note of the following points to see if he has a potential panty fetish and how to make it easy for him to broach the subject with you, or how you can easily bring it up to him. +1)""How can I tell if my man has an interest in panties?"" There are many indications that a man might have a panty fetish. Here are some classic signs you can look for: +\- Do you see him looking in the display windows when you walk by the lingerie store? +-Is he agreeable or excited to go lingerie shopping with you? +-Has your man ever used the word ""panty"" or ""panties"" in regular, daily conversation more than you have? +-Does he make mention of the fact that he's had a peek up your skirt and seen your panties? Maybe someone else's skirt? +-Does your man ask you to keep your panties on when you go to bed, or when you have sexual relations? +-Does he watch you dress or undress? +-Does your man like to kiss, sniff, lick or eat you with your panties on? +-Have you ever seen him examine your panties after you've washed and dried them (either discretely or overtly)? +-Have you ever found your panties to be missing (either clean or worn), but then they suddenly reappear later? +-Have you ever felt that the laundry hamper seems to have been rummaged through? +-Have you noticed that your lingerie drawer isn't exactly how you left it? +-Have you ever discovered that your man has unexpectedly washed a load of your delicates? +-Has your man ever taken pictures of you in your panties? +-Have you ever caught him red-handed with your panties? +-Have any of your friends or relatives ever told you they lost a pair of panties while they were at your house/apt? +-Have any of your friends or relatives ever told you they lost a pair of panties after an instance where your man was at their house/apt? +-And of course..... has your man ever said anything that would lead you to believe he's got an interest in your panties? +2)""What kind of behaviors could I expect to see if my man does have a panty fetish?"" Some behaviors could be subtle, and some could be obvious. Some behaviors could be completely secret, especially if he thinks you would chastise him for them. Here's some fairly common panty fetish behaviors: +-Fondling, stroking or handling panties +-Masturbating with, or stroking off into panties +-Sniffing, licking or sucking panties +-Stealing, borrowing or collecting panties from you, friends or relatives +-Collecting pictures of females in panties +-Shopping for panties +-Peeking up skirts +-And of course - wearing panties (Don't be shocked at this. It's not that uncommon and there are well documented, historical accounts of men wearing female undergarments as far back as the eighteenth century. As a side note here, you might be interested to search the internet for ""Pinaforing"" and ""Petticoating""). +3)""What can I do proactively to broach the subject of panties with my man?"" There are many things you can do to create a safe and open environment to bring up or encourage a discussion of your man's potential interest in panties. Here's a few ideas: +-Leave a stack of your clean panties out for a day or so – as if you've simply forgotten to put them away after you washed and dried them – and see if he notices or comments about them. +-Ask your man if he wants to go lingerie shopping with you. Then, while you're shopping, ask his opinion to find out which colors, styles and fabrics he likes. Involve him and see how interested he is. Offer to model them for him. +-Leave a select pair of your worn panties on the floor in your bedroom, or a place where you know he'll find them. Pay special attention to see if they are disturbed, moved, or if they disappear. +-Ask your man to pick out which panties he wants you to wear, then praise his choice and let him see you in them. +-Ask your man to help you clean out your lingerie drawer. Then, ask him to show you which ones are his favorites – and then ask him why. +-Ask your man which type of panties he likes to see you wear – bikini, briefs, hipsters, boyshorts, full cut, thongs, etc. Then, show him you honor his preferences by wearing what he likes. +-Find a reason to walk around in front of him for an extended amount of time with nothing but your panties on below your waist. +-Surprise him by letting him see you touch yourself with just your panties on. +-Outright ask him if panties turn him on. If he replies with anything other than an immediate ""No"" you can ask clarifying questions to gently open the subject with him. +-Playfully, ask your man to wear a pair of your panties. Say it's just for fun and it will be a secret just between the two of you. See how fast or slow he either agrees or disagrees. If he agrees, praise him for his courage. +Okay, let's say after reading, considering and trying some of the ideas and suggestions above you find out your man might have some level of a panty fetish. What do you do then? Well, that's when you have to use your feminine intuition and wisdom. Let's face it, if your man does have a panty fetish – or even an above average interest in panties – you would be smart to at least understand it, learn how to allow it and how to use it in your relationship. +Understanding your man's sexual desires and needs is a key factor in keeping him interested and your relationship sexually healthy. Believe me, if you are sympathetic and understanding about his panty interest, he'll love you for it and he'll pay you back ten-fold for your kindness. +I feel obligated to tell you a brief personal story now – not because I think it's something you have to know, but, because I hope you can gleam something from the story that will give you some insight. Here goes: +I'm on my second marriage. My first marriage failed miserably. Not only did our relationship as friends fail, but our relationship as sexual partners failed, too. In fact, our sexual relationship failed almost from the very beginning, primarily (I think) because I've had a life long interest in panties. I made the mistake of telling her about it on our honeymoon. Unfortunately, she thought it was terrible, horrible and unforgivable that I wanted to covet her panties. It meant so much to me and I was courageous in telling her, but she ripped my heart out when she told me she would never allow such a perversion and if she would have known about it before our wedding – she would have never married me. +Yeah, okay – my bad. I should have told her before I proposed, or, at least before we were married. But, I didn't. We were eventually divorced and it was a messy, vindictive affair that drained me emotionally. +A few years later, I met a woman and we started dating. After a month or two, we started being intimate and I gathered up the courage to tell her about my panty fetish. She completely understood and was excited that I shared it with her. In fact, it became a foundation of our sex life and the openness it created allowed both of us to confidently discuss our desires and fantasies with each other. Now, years later, I have complete access to her panties any time I want it, and she even includes panties in our sex play without me having to ask. +I always go lingerie shopping with her, even though I hate going shopping. All she has to do to get me to go with her is tell me she might pick up a few pairs of panties – and I'm ready to spend all day with her. On top of that, she's allowed my panty fetish to flourish so that I'm free to wear them when I desire to, and she'll even take the initiative to dress me in them from time to time. +The point of my story is that her acceptance of my panty fetish has allowed our love to grow and set the tone of our sexual relationship to be accepting and considerate of each other's needs. Would I have kept dating her if I'd learned she couldn't accept my panty fetish? Not on your life. +Ladies, please don't slam the door shut on your man if he's got a panty fetish. You're only going to push him away and force him into behaviors behind your back. That's not going to do anything constructive for your relationship or your marriage, and it's only going to create an intimacy gap between you and your man. +I'm going to leave you with one last thought..... my wife told me once she was proud I had a fetish for her panties. She felt her femininity was confirmed and ratified, and she got off on the fact that I was so attracted to HER panties. ""Most of all,"" she said, ""I know this is something you desperately want, and I'm happy I can be the one to give you as much of it as you want."" +Comments, suggestions, thoughts and questions are welcome." +921,Women's Guide To No-Strings,Softly,How To,2000-10-10,2000-10-10,2022-01-04 08:42:16,3,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/womens-guide-to-no-strings-ch-1,1. Seduce and enjoy married men. 2. She gives the specifics. 3. A How-To for the ladies only.,"['Fifteen Minutes', 'Food Drinks', 'Group Men', 'Legs Open']",4.20,"It was quite by accident that I discovered how a woman can have exciting sexual encounters with men, of her choice, and be able to go home that night without any worry of entanglements. +My husband and I went to a private party given by the friend of a friend. There were twenty-three couples there. A vodka punch was server that was very effective in getting everyone tipsy. My husband, well gunned, was chatting with a group of other men in the den. I made myself useful by serving food and drinks. My wine bottle was half consumed, so I was tipsy too. Seeing an attractive man away from his wife, I asked him to dance. I like to watch a man's reaction when he discovers that I have C cup breasts, so I pressed them to his chest and my leg against his. During one dip, my pelvic area pressed against his leg. He held me tightly while rubbing my back. The song ended. He stayed right there and we talked. He was pleasantly drunk, and I could tell that he wanted to be with me. +At the end of a second dance, I excused myself to got to a bathroom. He followed me into the bathroom, locked the door, and backed me up to the sink. In one move, he reached under my dress, lowered my pantyhose and begin to press his mouth to my clitoris. Bemused by this, I reached for his head. As I shifted my weight the pressure of the sink edge behind me made my legs open so that he could get his tongue into me. Oh, but it felt good! Mind you, we are in a bathroom. He lowered me to the floor, dropped his pants and slid his penis into me. Because of the punch, it took him ten minutes to cum. I had two orgasms. We cleaned up and left to return to the dance area. He walked right up to his wife and danced with her like nothing had happened. +I found my husband with the same group of men. From the slurring of his words, I figured he was planted there for the night. I went to look around the home. It was a three level. The master bed room was huge. The host entered it while I was there. He was six foot five and two hundred thirty pounds. Good looking. ""Love this room,"" I said. He replied that he especially liked the mirrors that made up one wall. ""So you can observe yourself in action,"" I blurted out. ""Yes,"" He kissed me and lay me onto the bed. He too removed my pantyhose with one sweep. +I could not believe this. I was naked from the waist down, since my dress was above my waist. I was in a strange bed with my legs open about to receive the service of a handsome man who I did not know the mane of, and I knew that he did not know me. +I was forty years old, at the time, weight one hundred, thirty-nine pounds, and stood five foot, four. He removed his pants giving me a look at his privates. Nice! About seven thick inches. I was wet, as he could tell when he put his hand there. He mounted me. No hurry: just steady long thrusts. The drinks kept him from cuming for fifteen minutes. Add two more orgasms to my total for the night. I closed my eyes, and just enjoyed the action for all it was worth. +We cleaned up and returned to the party area. No one noticed us. Both men resumed their rolls in the scheme of thing, which did not include being with me. My husband and I left an hour later with the good wishes of the hostess, who thanked me for helping serve the food and drinks. +I thought a lot about what had happened and why it went so well. I wanted more of this sex with good looking men, without any follow up on their part to sully my reputation. +I joined the welcome wagon clubs in the near by cities. I also joined two country clubs as non playing member, which is cheap. I make myself very useful to any woman having a party either at home or at the clubs. My husband works the evening shift, three months on and three months off, so I have a lot of time to go places on my own. It is over two years since the ""discovery"" party. To date, I have had sex with ninety-six (96) men at parties. Not one has tried to call me at home. I am getting very good at going around the building that the party is in, when I get there, to find places that a couple can be alone, and undisturbed for fifteen minutes. Its a game. I am the hunter. And, yes, the sex is very very exciting. +Love Y'all, I'm Softly, UB2... + +" +922,Word Choice,evelyn_carroll,How To,2004-10-20,2004-10-20,2022-01-04 08:42:19,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/word-choice-1,A response to wyo_girl's article.,"['Choice Words', 'Darling Master', 'Make Scream', 'Master Spoke', 'Rain Check', 'Spoke Quietly', 'Suck Monster', 'Sweet Thing', 'Time Rain', 'Word Choice']",3.95,"Wyo_girl has written a fine and very useful article on the choice of words in erotic description. It was so good that I felt moved to reply and add a few thoughts. Also, she misses a couple of important points and I wanted to suggest a few more ""thesaurus"" entries from my own repertoire – for the use and convenience of the young, as Oscar Wilde might have put it. +***** +The points on word choice are +1\. The choice of words (""cock"" versus ""hardness"", say) needs to reflect the normal speech patterns, motivation and mood of the character who is speaking or whose viewpoint currently dominates the narrative. +Examples +A dominatrix talking down a slave will refer to the slave's cunt, not her sex or pussy, and certainly not her genitalia. +The same slave will think of her ""sex"" until she submits, when it becomes her ""cunt"", thus showing the progress of her mentation from paragraph to paragraph. +A chauvinistic guy with a limited imagination might say ""love tunnel"" or ""honeypot"" but I can't imagine a woman or an educated or sensitive man ever using such dreadful clichés. +A character with even a mild sense of humour may refer to the lingam as his ""pork sword"" or use a phrase such as ""pointing Peter at the prickpleaser"" (note the use of alliteration. Alliteration, incidentally, is not the same thing as writing: fuck me, fuck me, fuck me!) +A young, innocent girl might use ""spear"" and ""sword"" or even ""thing""; words from her everyday vocabulary that are similes or euphemisms for the fearful tumescence she is gazing upon for the first time. She would not use a word like ""hardness"". +Women will usually only use ""cunt"" once they are in a very intimate relationship with the person they are talking to or if they wish to shock the listener/reader or emphasize their own readiness to face their sexuality head on. +Men tend to know a lot of word for the penis. Women more often stick to one or two, such as prick and dick. +Use of latinate anatomical terms (penis, labia minori) suggests that the speaker/viewpoint owner is educated/cultured. +2\. It is important to vary the words to avoid a sense of repetition. This applies equally to words that do not concern anatomy or coitus. Fowler, in ""Modern English Usage"", calls this ""elegant variation"". +Example +Rather than ‘She was too scared not to suck the monster at her lips; she was dog tired too,' (two too's) try something like ‘Fear prevented her from not sucking the monster at her lips; she was dog tired too,' or ‘She was too scared not to suck the monster at her lips; she was dog tired as well'. +On the other hand, sometimes you want to set a mood with repetition. E.g. ""She came and came and came; and then, just when she thought she had no coming left in her, she came again – gloriously."" +Finally, I rather dislike the use of words that appear nowhere other than in, for want of a better word, porn. This sentence is from one of wyo_girl's stories but she's by no means the only offender. +""Make me cum. Suck me til [sic] I cum, please... aahhhhh, fuck me,"" she begged. +I hate ""cum"" used like this, common as it is on this site and although it is in the dictionary these days. IMHO, that spelling should be reserved for expressions like ""their guestroom-cum-dungeon"". There is nothing wrong with shooting a long jet of COME over her tits. Otherwise, how can you write this: +‘Did he COME, Inspector?' ‘Yes, he CAME all over her breasts'? +""Came"", past tense of ""to come""; get it? If you go for the ""cum"" option then I think the past participle should be ""cummed"". You really wanna write ""he cummed all over her breasts""? +***** +Curiously, although there are several books on punctuation, there is no book available that deals specifically with punctuation for writers of fiction. In experimental fiction there are no rules, but some publishers have standards (which they usually don't publish). Here are some rules I've had to learn the hard way. +1\. Comma before named addressee +‘Make me scream, Kylie.' – An order or request addressed to Kylie asking her to give pleasure (or pain) to the speaker. +‘Make me scream Kylie.' – An order or request addressed to somebody asking them to force the speaker to shout out Kylie's name. +Lots of people get this wrong, the most common examples being ‘Yes Sir', Yes Mistress', etc. +2\. Capitalize proper names and titles +Bad:- +‘Yes, sir.' ‘Yes, darling.' Yes, my Darling.' The Master spoke quietly. ‘No, master.' +Good:- +‘Yes, Sir.' ‘Yes, Darling.' Yes, my darling.' The master spoke quietly. ‘No, Master.' +There will be some borderline cases, where you must use judgment; e.g. should it be ‘Of course, Sweet Thing,' or ‘Of course, sweet thing'. It depends on whether she's just being a sweet thing or whether he's giving her the nickname Sweet Thing. +3.Comma after introductory phrase/clause +""So, you're going to help me?"" is sometimes (usually) better than ""So you're going to help me?"". It provides a nice pause; the speaker can almost be SEEN cocking her head or smiling between phrases. But don't overdo it. Here's a sentence where I would leave it as it is. ‘This time I'll take a rain check.' Whereas a purist (such as an editor at The Newyorker!) would want ‘This time, I'll take a rain check'. It all depends on the speech rhythm you are trying to convey. +Grammar checkers are good at picking up on this kind of thing. But it must be YOU that decides. +4\. Hyphenate adjectives not nouns +Good:- +Her still-wet sex. His oh-so-obsequious manner. Those cunt-wrenchingly beautiful breasts of hers. Her badly applied makeup. His modest jock strap (jockstrap is OK too). Her tight tee shirt and miniscule G string. (Teeshirt is OK. G-string is usual but not really kosher. It will probably survive because the correct form makes it sound like she's playing a miniature violin.) +Bad:- +Her still wet sex. (Unless you mean it isn't moving; a wet, stationary target for his thrust!) Her badly-applied make-up. His modest jock-strap. Her tight tee-shirt and miniscule G-string. +5\. Mandatory punctuation before closing quote +‘Did he?' she asked. +‘Wow!' breathed the boy. +Those two make sense of course but what about this? +‘I'm finished' he said. +The speaker's sentence ended with a full stop but the convention is to use a comma, because your sentence hasn't yet finished; like this +‘I'm finished,' he said. +The comma here performs no function. It's crazy, but the convention has been fixed at least since Samuel Richardson used it in ""Pamela"". +On the other hand, the logically and grammatically correct +He said: ‘I am not the ""man"" you are looking for'. +is usually written without the colon as +He said ‘I am not the ""man"" you are looking for'. +BTW, in American the final full stop can't be where I've placed it (correctly in English). US style rules would render the above as +He said ""I am not the ‘man' you are looking for."" +For me, I still use the colon, but sparingly. It is also correct to use a comma (viz. e.g. Richardson again) +***** +Finally, a couple of additions to wyo_girl's mini thesaurus (just for fun). +Breasts, areolae and nipples +Baby feeders, boobs, cleavage curtains, knockers, secondary sex(ual) organs, squeezables, tits, two little boys fighting in a sack. Fried eggs, moon craters. +Adjectives: bud-like, burgeoning, incipient, touch-tempting, Partonesque (my own coinage), pendulous, pneumatic, scrawny, hag-like. +The backside +Arse/ass, behind, bum/butt, buttocks, derrière, fanny (US), fundament, globes, gluteus maximus, hindquarters, nates, posterior, rear, rear end, rump, seat. Anus, rectum, rosebud, the cacky chute, where the sun never shines. +My favourite adjective here is ""calipygous"" (= fair buttocked). One is less likely to get one's face slapped if overheard, compared to ‘Nice arse!' +The (primary) female organs +Centre of _____, fanny (GB), girls' bits, honeypot, sex, Lady Jane, Lulu, that thing you're sitting on, yoni. Labia (majori/minori), (sex) lips, those other lips, vulva. Clit(oris). Vagina. Cervix. Womb. +The male organs/genitalia +Family jewels, the future of Britain (America, Canada, the world – as appropriate). Ballbag (that's what Rabelais calls it!), bollocks, scrotum, sperm factories, the wrinkled old family retainer. Dong, erection, John Thomas, knob, lingam, member, phallus, priapus, prick, old codger, old man, one-eyed trouser snake, shrew tamer, shaft, spear, stiffy, todger, tumescence. Glans, head, helmet, tip. +Sperm(atozoa), orgasm +Come/cum, gift, jism, load, mess, semen, spunk, white stuff. Apotheosis, climax, peak of pleasure, le petit mort, completion. +I'm sure there are lots more; but I hope these start you thinking and inventing. Get writing!" +923,Word Choice,wyo_girl,How To,2004-03-20,2004-03-20,2022-01-04 08:42:18,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/word-choice,Suggestions for writing a successful erotic story.,"['Active Verbs', 'Body Parts', 'Descriptive Words', 'Erotic Story', 'Hot Adjectives', 'Name List', 'Reader', 'Word Choice']",4.39,"You've heard the old saying ""You only get one chance to make a first impression."" Let's face it - your story represents you. Do you want the impression you give to be one of an incredibly sexy individual who knows what to say and when to say it or could your word choice be giving the impression that you spend too much time in the gynecologist's office? +Words fuel our imaginations. They can be strung together to create pictures in our minds of activities, exotic places, foreign locales, or for those of us on Literotica, erotic situations. That is why word choice is so important. Some words just sound sexier than others. When I was a kid, using the word ""peter"" to refer to the male penis was the norm. Now it conjures up images of pimply- faced kids giggling over their first glimpse of a risqué magazine. For that reason, I tend to avoid using it in my stories. +There are many elements that make an erotic story hot. In addition to choosing sexy sounding terms for genitalia, the use of good descriptions is important. You can't expect your reader to understand how excited the characters are unless you tell him how they feel. The words need to bring a picture to life in the reader's mind. Continuing those descriptions is also important. You may be describing the same action in two different paragraphs but if you use different words to tell the story, the reader sees it differently. More importantly, what turns one reader on won't necessarily turn on every reader. By using different words to describe the same action you get two chances to grab the reader. Take these lines for example: + **""The head was an angry reddish color and she could feel the vein underneath swelling. The hole at the tip seemed to expand and a huge gush of milky, white cum shot out and landed on her hip and lower stomach.""** +I used two different words for the head of the penis in these two sentences. I chose words I liked when I wrote those lines. If a reader doesn't like the word head, the next sentence uses tip. My hope is that the reader who doesn't like my use of the word head will continue to read and get to the word tip and like it better. Hooking a reader by making the story enjoyable is the point after all. +Word choice is also important for the moment you are trying to create. Words like penis and vagina are a bit too clinical for me but others might like them just fine. Some words sound softer than others, more romantic. Those who've read a few bodice-ripping romances know they never use words like cock but prefer ""his maleness"" or ""member"" or ""hardness."" We all know what they mean but these terms are more romantic than just flinging the word ""cock"" in their faces. When I was a teen-ager, those words thrilled me and cock seemed dirty. Now, cock seems a lot sexier but those bodice-rippers fly off the shelves so there must be someone reading them! +Choosing your words carefully is only half the battle though. Making sure you absolutely know the meaning of the word you choose before you use it is also important. I read a story not long ago that made me laugh and that wasn't the reaction the author was going for when he described his hero's flaccid, steely shaft. The entire story appeared to be written with the idea of using a different adjective every time he described the body parts of his characters. He had even used the word maw for vagina. Maybe that word excited him but it left me thinking of a hole the size of the Grand Canyon and wondering how on earth sex with that could be any good! While the story had lots of action, the author obviously didn't know that flaccid and steely are opposites. +When I started writing, I looked at stories I enjoyed reading and made a list of the words those writers used to name body parts. I also made a list of the descriptive words they used to describe the actions of their characters. I continue to add adjectives and adverbs as I run across ""keepers."" The words in my lists are not necessarily interchangeable as they contain positive and negative terms as well as adjectives and adverbs. Some words can be both. For example in the breast category, milky could refer to the color of the breasts or it could refer to their condition after milk was expressed from the nipples. I've included my lists in this article in the hopes others might find them as useful as I have. +Good editing is the subject of a number of ""how to"" articles and it is important. I certainly don't want to give anyone the impression that it isn't but all the editing in the world won't save a story that uses the word cock over and over again if that word offends the reader. We all look for some variety in other areas of our lives so why not give your readers a little variety with your word choice? You might be surprised by the response! + **BREAST DESCRIPTIONS** +billowy, blossoming, budding, busty, buxom, caressing, creamy, curved, emergent, enormous, firm, hanging, heaving, heavy, hefty, large, luscious, massive, milky, nippled, pinched, pliant, plump, quaking, quivering, ripe, smooth, stacked, suckle, swaying, taut, tender, tiny, turgid, velvety, wobbling + **BUTT DESCRIPTIONS** +arched, curved, cute, glowing, gorged, hippy, hot, impaled, luscious, narrow, plump, raped, ravaged, rimmed, ripe, satiny, shuddering, soft, stretched, swinging, taut, tender, tight, tilted + **PENIS DESCRIPTIONS** +battering, big, blunt, bulging, bursting, circumsized, colossal, cut, deflating, dwindling, enormous, erect, fat, flaccid, foreskinned, giant, gargantuan, gigantic, hammering, hard, heavy, hefty, huge, immense, limp, loaded, long, mammoth, pile driving, potent, pulsating, pulsing, pummeling, pumping, punishing, raping, rigid, rock hard, sinewy, smooth, soft, spongy, steely, strapping, swollen, thick, throbbing, uncircumsized, uncut, weighty, wet, wide, veined, velvety, virile + **VAGINA DESCRIPTIONS** +aching, blazing, bushy, clenching, clinching, delicate, dewy, drenched, dripping, eager, engorged, fertile, hairless, hairy, hirsute, huge, insatiable, juicy, little, loose, luscious, moist, pink, pouty, puffy, satiny, silken, silky, slick, slippery, soaked, sodden, spasming, squeezing, snapping, steamy, sucking, throbbing, tight, tingling, tiny, velvety, wet, yawning + **ORGASM DESCRIPTIONS** +boiling, creamed, copious, deep, draining, escalating, exploding, flooding, gushing, heated, intense, jerking, juicy, mounting, raging, receding, rippling, rising, roaring, searing, shooting, spasming, spewing, spraying, spurting, sweltering, torrid, uncontrollable, violent, wet + **SEX DESCRIPTIONS** +batter, bore, corkscrew, drill, drive, fucking, grind, jam, maul, nail, penetrate, pile-drive, piston, plunge, pound, probe, prod, pump, ram, rape, shove, sixty-nine, slam-fuck, skewer, spasm, spear, spoon, spread-eagle, stab, stick, stretch, stroke, stuff, throb, throw down, thrust" +924,Words of the Week,velvetpie,How To,2004-06-04,2005-03-02,2022-01-04 08:42:20,16,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/words-of-the-week-01,"1. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 5/31-6/6. 2. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 6/7-6/13. 3. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 6/14-6/20. 4. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 6/21-6/27. 5. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 6/28-7/4. 6. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 7/5-7/11. 7. Weekly vocabulary words for writers: 7/12-7/18. 8. Weekly vocabulary for writers: 7/19-7/25. 9. Weekly vocabulary for writers 10. 2004 Final. 11. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Jan. 24, 2005. 12. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Jan. 31, 2005. 13. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Feb. 7, 2005. 14. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Feb. 14, 2005. 15. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Feb. 21, 2005. 16. Weekly vocabulary for writers: Feb. 28, 2005.","['Adjective', 'Adjective Pronounced', 'Meaning', 'Noun', 'Noun Pronounced', 'Pronounced', 'Verb Pronounced']",3.86,"_Whenever I read, I keep a pencil handy and I underline words that I don’t know and dog ear the page so that I can go back and look them up in the dictionary. I have always been interested in etymology and even took Latin for three years. I hope that these words can help all of us in our writings. Be sure to check out your dictionary for additional usages of the words and spellings associated with changing the word from adjective to adverb to noun … etc._ + **ABLUTION** _noun_ +Pronounced: ab-LOO-shun +Meaning: The washing of one’s body or part of it as a religious rite. +Example: A common example of **ablution** in Judaism is washing the hands before a meal that includes bread. +* * * * * + **CLANDESTINE** _adjective_ +Pronounced: clan-DES-tin +Meaning: Marked by, held in, or conducted with secrecy or concealment. +Example: Mike and Sally made **clandestine** plans for their mother’s surprise birthday party. +* * * * * + **INDOCTRINATE** _verb_ +Pronounced: in-DOC-trin-ate +Meaning: To give instructions especially in fundamentals or rudiments. +Example: Special classes were designed to **indoctrinate** new employees. +* * * * * + **MALEDICTION** _noun_ +Pronounced: mal-a-DIC-shun +Meaning: Curse. +Example: The villain’s last words were a **malediction** on the entire royal family. +* * * * * + **OLFACTORY** _adjective_ +Pronounced: ole-FAC-tory +Meaning: Of, relating to, or connected with the sense of smell. +Example: Humans have relatively weak **olfactory** abilities compared to many other animals. +* * * * * + **PAUCITY** _noun_ +Pronounced: PAW-city +Meaning: A small number or fewness. +Example: The choir suffered from a **paucity** of male voices. +* * * * * + **BEVY** _noun_ +Pronounced: BEV-ee +Meaning: An unusually large group or collection. +Example: A **bevy** of reporters crowded around the gold medal winner. +* * * * * + **REGURGITATE** _verb_ +Pronounced: re-GUR-gi-tate +Meaning: To throw up, cast out or pour out again. +Example: Brenda watched the redbird **regurgitate** food to feed his nestlings. +* * * * * + **SOMNAMBULANT** _adjective_ +Pronounced: som-NAM-bue-lent +Meaning: Walking or addicted to walking while asleep. +Example: Sheila could remember nothing of her **somnambulant** activities when she was told of them the next morning. +* * * * * + **ZEPHYR** _noun_ +Pronounced: ZEF-fur +Meaning: A soft warm breeze from the West. +Example: The gentle **zephyr** was not sufficient to keep Renee’s kite airborne. +* * * * * + **DETERRENT** _noun_ +Pronounced: de-TUR-rent +Meaning: Something that discourages or prevents from acting by fear or consideration of unpleasant consequences. +Example: The police hoped that Ted’s severe jail sentence would serve as a **deterrent** to criminal activity by the other gang members. +* * * * * + **JETTISON** _verb_ +Pronounced: JET-tih-sohn +Meaning: Drop (as auxiliary equipment, bombs, cargo or fuel) from an airplane in flight (as for lightening the load or providing greater safety). +Example: The airplane’s malfunctioning engine prompted the crew to **jettison** all unnecessary cargo. +* * * * * + **VINCULUM** _noun_ +Pronounced: VINK-u-lum +Meaning: A unifying bond. +Example: Their mutual love of dolls is the **vinculum** between Delia and Christine, who are otherwise very different. +* * * * * + **HERMITAGE** _noun_ +Pronounced: HER-mi-tidge +Meaning: A secluded residence or private retreat. +Example: Dave’s father has always dreamed of living in the city during the week and escaping to some country **hermitage** on the weekends. +* * * * * + **TURMOIL** _noun_ +Pronounced: TURR-moyl +Meaning: An utterly confused, extremely agitated or tumultuous state or condition. +Example: Jacob experienced unrelenting **turmoil** after his parents informed him that the family might move. +* * * * * + **EGREGIOUS** adjective +Pronounced: uh-GREE-jus +Meaning: Flagrant or glaringly evident. +Example: As a medical researcher, Laura knew that many reports of medical breakthroughs on television contained **egregious** errors. +* * * * * + **QUISLING** _noun_ +Pronounced: KWIS-ling +Meaning: A traitorous national who aids the invader of his country and often serves as chief agent or puppet governor. +Example: Many French citizens thought that Marshal Petain, head of the Vichy regime during World War II, was little better than a **quisling**. +* * * * * + **LAMPOON** _noun_ +Pronounced: lam-POON +Meaning: A light mocking satire. +Example: The new movie is a **lampoon** of the horror films that are made especially for teenagers. +* * * * * + **FIEFDOM** _noun_ +Pronounced: FEEF-dum +Meaning: An area over which one exercises control. +Example: The manager’s **fiefdom** consisted of two departments and the company newsletter. +* * * * * + **UNREQUITED** _adjective_ +Pronounced: un-ree-KWITE-ted +Meaning: Not returned in kind. +Example: Several passages in the novel were devoted to Harriet’s **unrequited** love for Mr. Ethan. +* * * * * + **GREGARIOUS** _adjective_ Meaning: Marked by an instinctive or temperamental preference for a social rather than a solitary existence. +Example: Because of their **gregarious** nature, dogs make good house pets. +* * * * * + **YEOMANRY** _noun_ +Pronounced: YO-men-ree +Meaning: The whole body of small farmers who cultivate their own land; specifically, the body of small landed proprietors of the middle class. +Example: Among the legal privileges of the **yeomanry** was the right to serve as a juror. +* * * * * + **KUDOS** _noun_ +Pronounced: KUU-doze +Meaning: Praises given for achievement. +Example: Daphne received many **kudos** from the drama coach after her performance in the school play. + +" +925,Working with Her G-Spot & His Prostate,LaceySheets,How To,2001-03-26,2001-03-26,2022-01-04 08:42:45,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/working-with-her-g-spot-and-his- prostate,Orgasm simultaneously for a love earthquake!,"['Find G-Spot', 'Front Wall', 'Orgasm Feel', 'Penis Rub', 'Working With Her G-Spot & His Prostate']",4.26,"**Spend A Passionate Evening Finding Each Other's G-Spots** +The G-spot may not be a surprise to some women who have already discovered the ultimate orgasm using this quarter-sized button of spongy tissue of the front vaginal wall. These women may have gone looking for it themselves or perhaps discovered it accidentally during intercourse. If you don't experiment with positions, you may never find it, or, if you do, the penis may glide right over it. So now you need to find it, either solo or duo. + **Solo -- Hers** +A squatting position is best if you don't have your guy's longer fingers for help. From the outside, place your non-dominant hand on the top of your pubic hairline in the middle. With the other hand, insert your lubricated index and middle fingers deep inside the vagina, as far up as you can. Feel for differences in the front wall; when you find it, it will feel spongy and be about the size of a quarter. As you continue to massage the area, it will swell and become harder, just as a penis does. You may have to try different pressures and strokes to obtain an orgasm, or you can buy a special vibrator with a G-spot finder curve on the end of it. When you finally do achieve an orgasm this way, it will feel quite different from a clitoral orgasm; you will feel waves of intense pleasure and aftershocks that you cannot get with a clitoral 'tickle' orgasm. Note: when you first find the G-spot you may have an over whelming feeling of needing to urinate. This will pass. However, you may find that you have 'ejaculated' a thin, white milky substance. Or not. The fluid does not lessen nor intensify the feelings. + **Duo -- Hers** +Of course it is a lot more fun to experiment with your partner. Those longer fingers really do come in handy. The positions for intercourse to use so that his penis can find the G-spot and you can both climax in an earth-shattering cloud are: woman on top, sitting, facing away from the male. The angle of the penis will rub against the front wall of the vagina. You can also be seated and face him if you lean back but push your pelvis forward. Doggy style will work and so will his lying on your back and penetrating deeply because all of these positions cause the penis to rub that special place. Later, after you've practiced a number of times, you will be able to have both kinds of orgasms and you'll see why it is definitely worth all the time you need to find and 'work' with it. Now, on to him. + **His Prostate** +Okay, so he really doesn't have a 'G-spot' per se, not like the spot Dr. Grafenberg named in women. But his prostate, properly stimulated, will give him the same kind of orgasmic pleasure your G gives you. The area right behind the scrotum and up to the anus is the perineum. You know the place, that hairless area. If you stimulate by pushing gently (until you find the right amount of pressure and motions) on the outside, this will squeeze the prostate and give him an orgasm he's never had before. It's the same as rubbing your G-spot on the outside to cause pressure on the inside. You can start by stroking it gently and build up as he's closer to orgasm. In an interview with men whose girlfriends had turned them on this way, all agreed it was the best sex they ever had. Also suggested was having the woman gently suck and lick the testicles while gently stroking the perineum. +So, light some candles, bathe each other or yourself and relax. Your favourite music or nature sounds,satin sheets, 300-count Egyptian cotton sheets, fluffy pillows...whatever soothes and carries you off to happiness and pure pleasure! +Experiment, experience and appreciate each other's bodies. And happy hunting!" +926,Worship His Cock,AnaLeePleasured,How To,2008-01-08,2008-01-08,2022-01-04 08:42:46,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/worship-his-cock,Why she loves to suck cock - and how she does it.,"['Blowjob Advice', 'Cock Sucking', 'Cum', 'Oral Sex', 'Oral Sex Advice', 'Sex Advice']",4.56,"I have always found it odd that there are women out there who do not enjoy giving a man a blow-job...especially if it is the man they love...or are in love with. Personally I just cannot imagine anything nicer than the experience of sucking a beautiful hard...or soft cock and knowing that my efforts are being enjoyed. I believe it is an honor and a privilege to be allowed to pleasure a man in this way. I have always wanted to explain why I love it so much and how I feel when I do it and what the experience gives me. That is what I will attempt to do now. I hope that someone out there enjoys reading about how wonderful cock sucking is from one woman's perspective....and hopefully somehow...a few of those women out there who see it as a ""chore"" can be converted into developing a new attitude to pleasuring their man. +My first time that I went down on a man was after a late...or rather, early night of partying hard on the dance floor of a local nightclub when I was just eighteen. He was thirty-seven and we had been getting hot and close all night and into the morning. Others on the dance floor were telling us to ""get a room""...and we finally listened to them. So off we went to his place for the rest of the 'night'. +We both had a shower and went to bed but sleep was the last thing on our minds. So we kissed and I finally got close enough to see what I had been brushing up against all night. His cock was long and hard and I ached to touch it. I didn't ask, just reached out and felt it...running my hand up and down the shaft.... Soon I was masturbating him with both hands and getting more and more excited by his groans of pleasure. I don't know why, but I just sort of took control of the situation because he was enjoying himself so much and seemed happy by what I was doing. So I kissed a trail down his strong lean stomach till my mouth found it's target. +He was so surprised when my mouth engulfed his cock. He couldn't seem to believe that I had just gone straight down on him without a word of encouragement from him. He seemed almost alarmed that I had wanted to suck his cock. For me it was the most natural thing in the world. I had never done it before and I had never even seen porn at that stage in my life. I just knew I wanted to taste...to use all the senses that I possessed. But then, that is just how I am...I believe in getting the most out of a beautiful experience...making meaningful memories that last long after the act. That is what I am all about. +So that was my first experience of sucking a cock and when I think about it now...what I loved most of all about it...was the way he enjoyed what I did. He encouraged me every step of the way with moans and groans...saying ""YES"" when I sucked his balls or gently stroked them with my hands while sucking his cock. Then afterwards, he had looked at me in amazement and awe...admitting that he had never been so masterfully handled before and wondering where I had learned to do it so well.... +He also told me that no woman had seemed to really enjoy sucking his cock before and that it usually seemed as if a woman did it as a ""favor"" or saw it as a ""chore"".....needing to be asked to do it. He said he couldn't believe I had done it voluntarily. What he said had made me wonder why anyone faced with such a lovely cock would need to be asked to suck it...I just couldn't understand it. From that first experience I learned so much about men and what they like and I also learned about myself and what I like too. +For me there is no greater compliment than having a man's erect cock pointing straight at me...I see it like a child sees candy...it just begs to be tasted and sucked. It is my reward for being a good girl...I get to have the lollipop. When we are young our parents teach us that there is more joy in giving...than receiving and as we grow older, many of us stop thinking that way and start to want more and more and give less and less. That is such a shame because life should be more about giving and enjoying the shared pleasures that creates. +It is not a nice feeling when we give someone a present and then realize that it is not actually something that they need or want. But most women quickly recognize that sucking their man's cock is one of the greatest presents you can give him....and sadly, many women use this as a blackmailing tool...manipulating their men into giving them something or doing something for them or forgiving them after a fight. This really makes me angry and my heart goes out to those men who are being used in such ways. +What do I love about sucking a juicy cock? Well, this is something that cannot be said in a sentence or two...I need to write a whole fucking story about it! For me it is an honor, as mentioned before. Here is a man...a beautiful man with a nice juicy cock all ready to be used by you. Just the thought that someone WANTS me to pleasure him...that is the first thing that excites me beyond belief! Without that WANT....I might as well be sitting back watching television. +I love the visual aspect of a cock disappearing into a willing mouth...and sometimes I envy the man because he gets to look down at his cock moving in and out between loving lips of a wanting woman. So, because I cannot see it from where I am...up close to all the action...I imagine how it must look to the man I am sucking...seeing it from his point of view. That turns me on BIGTIME!! I love when a man tells his woman to ""look up"" at him while she sucks him...and I imagine that sight from his perspective. +Eye contact is so important for me during sex. Eyes are windows to the soul...so to look into them means to see more than just a cock...or a man...or a woman...but instead to see right through to what makes them who they are. That is something I find incredibly attractive when I am in love. I want to see inside the man, which allows me access to even his deepest, darkest secrets and desires. When I look up into a man's eyes as I suck his cock, my heart beats even faster and harder, making me hornier and wetter. To see a man's eyes reflecting the emotions he is feeling...the amazing sight he is seeing...the sensations he is experiencing...THAT stays with me and affects my every thought of him from that moment on. +I also love seeing a cock all shiny and wet with my saliva from sucking him and spitting on him. It is a turn-on for both my man and me when my mouth pulls back from sucking and there is a long rope of drool connecting my mouth with his cock. It is all part of getting 'down and dirty' during an intense sexual experience. The visual aspect itself is fantastic...but that is expanded even more when you add the mental stimulation. The fact that a woman will play for hours with a man's cock and drool all over it and enjoy seeing all that wetness and get turned on by it...that is what pleases a man and when he is pleased...that in turn pleases me too. +I have often made reference to my sense of smell when engaging in close contact with another. How a man smells all over and especially when you get close to his cock, can mean the difference between a woman feeling like she is in heaven...or in bed with the toilet brush. That may sound cruel but I can understand why some women are turned off by a man who is not clean or healthy. An unhealthy man who does not eat the right foods or drink plenty of water can smell less than nice and this affects the mood and the taste of his cock and also the taste and smell of his cum. +I love the clean, fresh smell of a healthy man who takes great pride in his body. This also makes me want to worship his body as I would like mine worshiped. I even love the smell of a healthy man's sweat. This kind of sweat is even a turn-on for me after he has been exercising and while he works out with me. +My mouth waters when I kiss the head of a man's cock. I feel the anticipation of what he will taste like and slowly I let my tongue lick over his head and gently into the eye...marveling at the fact that this is the source of so much...most importantly, the giver of human life. Right there at the tip of his manhood is the place where such important bodily fluids are excreted. My knees go weak when I think about this place I am licking...allowing myself to love all that this sacred tool is used for. +I love using my tongue to trace a line of saliva around the rim of his mushroom head and allow it to pop in and out of my mouth. This gets me really worked up as it is very sexual. I love to look up right then and see him close his eyes in pleasure at the friction that is created with this movement. I love to hear the sounds of his rapid breathing and the deep rumbling timbre of his lustful groans. I love the excited thrusting motions as he tilts his hips to meet my hungry mouth. Allowing the rhythm to take a hold of me and escalate...is something so exciting... +Hands are so important during all forms of sex as they are what 'speaks' when there are no words. My favorite is kissing him while working my saliva covered hands up and down his slick shaft, being sure to stimulate the sensitive parts around the rim of his head. I enjoy pulling my head back a little so I can just look into his eyes while masturbating him and telling him how much I love him and what I am doing to him. There is so much you can do with your hands during a blow-job...an endless list of techniques which stimulate him in different ways...like rotating two hands around him or stroking his balls at the same time...or just using two fingers, thumb and second finger in the shape of an O...just rapidly over his head.... +I love the sense of power that I have when I hold my man's cock in my mouth or hands. At that moment and for the next hour or two...I am in control of what happens...and I am responsible for him having the most sensational, meaningful experience possible. I want it to be mind-blowing for him and not over and done with in an instant. I want to take him to the edge as many times as possible, stopping every time he is about to cum. I want him to experience orgasms of the mind and body...sometimes cuming only a little bit (if he is capable of that...not all men can do it) and then at the end, allowing him to shoot hot ribbons of cum as far as he can...or all over me. +The first time I tried to swallow a man's cum I was only eighteen years old and I did not like the taste. It was like horrible warm soup to me and I had to spit it out, almost vomiting in the process. For some women it is like that every time and they never get used to the taste and smell. But for me, the greater my love for the man, the greater my fascination with his cum. Now I love to smell it and lick the little droplets of pre-cum off the tip of his cock. I love the feeling of accepting his 'offering' to me like a reward for my efforts when he finally cums. +I have learned that a man is very proud of his cock and what cums out of it. For him to see a woman enjoying his cock and his cum, makes him feel emotions that are almost too hard to put into words. When I saw my fist porno I watched in horror as the man came all over the woman's face and tits as well as into her mouth. I couldn't believe she was actually enjoying that! Now I beg for cum. I love the fact that it is such a turn-on for a man to see his cum all over a woman as she smiles and licks it off. Once again, I put the shoe on the other foot and see it from his point of view. How AMAZING must it be to look down on a woman on her knees as long ribbons of cum spurt out of your cock and land all over her lovely face? +There are so many things you can do when you have a man's cock in your mouth. When I first watched porn, I would skip over the part where the woman was sucking him because I had no real concept of what went on during that time...the cameral didn't go into her mouth. But now I know how much actually goes on in there. You can tell from the sounds a man is making what is happening to his cock. I like to flick the tip of my tongue over the eye of a man's cock and especially work up a rhythm around the sensitive dent where the rim meets on the underside of his cock....all the while still sucking him and moving his cock in and out of my mouth. This can only be felt by my man and me but not seen by anyone watching. +Another discovery which was so exciting for me was the concept of 'deep throating'. I never realized that it was possible to take a man's cock down deep into my throat. I thought that when it slid into my mouth and stopped...that was it...that was as far as it could go. When I found out that a cock can actually move past that stopping point and slide down my throat I was so amazed. It is hard work, especially with a thick cock but the look on his face...pure joy...and the sounds of raw ecstasy in his voice as he realizes what you are doing for him...that is worth any discomfort. I have enjoyed this form of giving and have made it a point to 'practice' as often as I can so I get used to relaxing my throat to ward off my 'gagging reflex'. This is where I like to use my various different sized dildos. +There are still two more senses I have not gone into in any great depth. Those are the sounds and the feel or more importantly, the feelings. I find the sounds that sucking on a cock makes, exciting and dirty in an animal-like way. The squelching sounds of hands covered in saliva, rubbing over a dripping cock....fucking awesome! It all adds to the experience in a positive way...heightening sexual pleasure for both the man and the woman. +I always say to men that if they want to know how the head of a cock feels in your mouth...then take a boiled egg and peel it. Pop it into your mouth and lick it...and that is what it feels like. It is so smooth and velvety and delicate...so sweet and succulent. I love textures...materials that are smooth or ribbed...silky or course. The feel of a man's hairy strong arm against my smooth bald pussy...this all adds to the excitement and sensation so that feeling of touching his cock and balls to me is like an 'all you can eat buffet' is to a starving man. +I know that I have only touched the surface of what can be done...and what can be felt when going down on a man or 'giving head'...but I am not a very technical type of person so I can only try to describe how it feels to me. My greatest fantasy is to have a naked man on my bed and to have the next few hours or days or weeks to just do everything I have always dreamed of doing to and for him. For me it all begins and ends with the mind. First you must have the thought and then you put it into action. But at the end you must be able to reflect on what you did and communicate with your partner. This way you learn from each experience and find ways of improving each time. +There is an endless world of different sexual experiences to be had so there are no excuses for doing the same thing, the same way...every time. +So women who just suck their man's cock for a few minutes as foreplay should re-examine what they are giving. You don't cook the same dish, the same way, every day...so why not shake things up a bit? I believe that women who have a sexy male in their life...should worship his cock." +927,Write a Successful Romance,starrkers,How To,2008-05-06,2008-05-06,2022-01-04 08:42:48,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/write-a-successful-romance,Tongue-in-cheek tips to the toplists.,"['Satire', 'Writing How-To']",4.47,"So, you want to be a successful Literotica Romance writer? +Writing for Literotica is not very different for writing any other style of Romance. There are a couple of differences, though. +For one, you can write in instalments, building the tension by making your readers wait for the next chapter, instead of just turning the page. +Also, you can get more raunchy in the description of sex scenes than you would normally see in, say, a Harlequin novel. You don't _have_ to go for explicit, in-depth sex scenes though. That is the joy of the Romance category -- just about any level of sexual description goes, from a kiss and cuddle and a shutting of a bedroom door right through to full-frontal, wild, hot and wet sex. +But we're getting a little ahead of ourselves. Before we can have sex, we need people. In Romance, it's best that you have two main characters -- one male and one female -- to fall in love. There will also be a cast of lesser characters: friends and family of the main characters. And there needs to be a villain or two. +The female lead character must be feisty. She will know exactly what she wants, and she doesn't want a man. She's been burned in the past by a louse and has decided she doesn't need the heartache ever again. Or she's too busy with her studies or career to bother with all the foolery of love. She is, of course, ravishingly beautiful, but doesn't know it. +The male lead will also be dashingly good looking. He probably does know it. He will know immediately upon meeting the female lead that he wants to marry her. He will be outrageously rich (this may or may not be common knowledge). +She will not like him at The First Meeting. In fact she may well despise his cocksure attitude. But she will fall in love with him almost immediately, denying that she has. +Here's where the friends and/or family come in. Her friends will either be all for her hooking up with this wonderful chap, or they will be seriously warning her against him because of his known womanising. +He will be using his friends/family to help him get to know her better. +At this point we have The Revelation. She will realise she has fallen desperately in love with him. He will be ecstatic that he has won her over. +If you are so inclined, this is a good spot to put the First Sex Scene, to consummate their love. Violins play and weddings are planned. They are all set for the Happy Ever After. +And now you need to drop in the Evil Plot Twist. +Just as everything seems peachy between our two lovebirds, she has to see him in a compromising position with another woman, preferably a former girlfriend. He is totally innocent of any wrong doing. The evil ex-girlfriend has schemed her way to this action, so she can get him back. +Our heroine will leave in a flood of self recrimination and tears. How could she have been so foolish as to believe he loved her? Oh woe -- you know the drill. She leaves the fabulously expensive gift he has just given her in a prominent place for him to find when he comes looking for her when she doesn't turn up when expected. +She will cut off all contact with him, refusing to speak to him, the cad. She will be righteous and heartbroken. +He will be bemused and heartbroken, unable to understand why she has shut him out totally. He will move heaven and earth to get her back. +Now we need the Convenient Plot Device. This can be any number of disasters -- a car accident; getting lost outdoors in bad weather; an evil ex-boyfriend who threatens bodily harm. I'm sure you can think of others. It doesn't really matter what it is. What does matter is that one of our couple is effectively incapacitated. +If it is the heroine, it gives the hero a chance to explain what _really_ happened when she saw him with the evil ex. +If the hero is taken out, temporarily of course, it gives the heroine a chance to realise that she really does love him and she's being a fool (because, of course someone else -- the hero's family/friend -- has told her the truth but she refused to believe it). +Now we can have the Glorious Reunion, fanfares, angels singing (and here's the chance for a Second Sex Scene, if you so desire) and they can fade off into the blissful sunset, together forever. +The really good thing about Literotica is you can add extra little twists in here and there, leading up to the Big Romantic Events and have these turn up just at the end of each chapter, so that the reader is positively chomping at the bit to get to the next chapter and find out what happens. +Oh, and a quick word of warning -- try to at least make the time scale believable. +We don't want our feisty heroine falling head over heels, getting engaged, discovering the man of her dreams is a louse, bravely soldiering on with broken heart only to have major catastrophe and finally realise he is the man of her dreams and marrying him on the spot all in the space of a two week holiday. Even the most starry eyed of readers may find that a touch hard to swallow. +But, I hear you say, I've only given you the plot for one successful Literotica Romance. +No, I haven't. I've given you the plot outline for nearly every chaptered Literotica Romance (and most of Harlequin's as well) and the odd Novel. It is up to you to provide the fluffy detail that sets each one apart. +The other really good thing about Literotica is you can always write a sequel about how the happy ever after goes sour and he takes a mistress and she takes on the mailman, and put it in Loving Wives... +Or not." +928,Write Incest like a Mother Fucker,lovecraft68,How To,2014-12-19,2014-12-19,2022-01-04 08:42:48,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/write-incest-like-a-mother-fucker,How to rock Lit's most popular category the LC way.,"['Essay', 'How To', 'Incest', 'Incest Manual', 'Taboo Erotica', 'Writing Incest']",4.76,"_Author's Note; Welcome to my 100th submission to Literotica and my first in the How To category. Fair warning, this piece does not conform to the format of a 'true' how to, but is more like me conversing with you, the reader. Unconventional for this category, but I've always done things the way I want to, rather than the way I'm 'supposed to'. So this essay is simply some thoughts, observations and pointers to help write a successful story in the incest genre. One more note, this essay is dedicated to a fellow author and Author's hangout member. I don't have to name them, they know who they are. Enjoy, Lovecraft68_ +***** +Incest; a category that despite its controversial subject matter and legions of dedicated trolls is still far and away the most popular category on Literotica. If you are motivated by votes, comments, and moving up the favorite author list, Incest is the category that will ensure a huge response. If done properly. +What do I mean by properly? Because of its 'squicky' nature and association with jokes about rural south trailer parks there are many who denigrate the category saying the readership and authors are unintelligent and...trash. +It should be noted that many of these same people enjoy rape stories and tales of mythical creatures having sex with humans. A strange code of ethics some people have. Take a deep breath and say it with me. ""Your kink is okay, my kink is okay, her kink..."" +That stereotype is also unfounded. The reason many incest reader's comments seem semi literate to the eternally snarky is incest is a worldwide fetish and many readers are English as a second language. +Yet these individuals make the effort to reach out and comment to the best of their ability. So truth be told it's easy to see the ignorance lies on the other side, not 'our side' +Many of the readers I have corresponded with are well educated and professional and because of that there is an even bigger thrill from something they are not ""supposed"" to read which is why so many readers are anonymous in incest. Dirty little secrets are more fun when they're secret. +But due to that 'lowbrow' reputation many authors seem to think that simply replacing ""Gina's tits"" with ""Mommy's tits"" has now created a quality incest story. After all, just give the people their 'family fucking' and you have yourself a hit, right? Wrong. +Make no mistake, even a mediocre incest tale will get more attention than stories in many other categories, but there is a far cry from the two hundred or so votes and a dozen comments a stroke incest tale can receive- to go along with a score in the high three's to low 4 range- and a story that can go well over a thousand votes with dozens of comments and a much higher score. +Literotica is a free site. We authors are paid in votes, comments, favs and feedback, don't you want to get the biggest paycheck possible? Well if you do, then the trick is to realize incest is more than sis blowing you instead of Gina doing it. In my time here I have garnered a large following of readers and have enjoyed many successful stories in the incest genre. +But that's now. Like everyone else I started from scratch here with no fan base and writing what I hoped were stories people would like. As I have continued to write and experiment I have learned many do's and do not's of Incest. +A lot of the insight I have gained has come from corresponding with the readers and paying attention to what they say. So the first pointer I'd like to give is one that extends to every category; listen to your readers. +Not the trolls who tell you you're sick (because they are mad they just jacked off to your story) or to the ""Oh, my God, you're just the best ever"" because that is equally bogus and not useful at all. Trust me, you only wrote the best story ever until the next story they read. But in between there is good constructive feedback we can learn from. +Having said that; I have stated many times my stories are my babies and done my way. I hope for people to enjoy, but if they don't...it is not the end of my world. I care about sharing my vision and at times it is a popular one at times its not, but it's always mine. I mention this because there is a difference between hitting some sweet spots and selling out. +One of the great things about lit is you can either write to appeal to the masses or create your own style and they will find you. The latter is the case for me as I have written the same type of story from day one and as time has passed more and more readers have been drawn to it. +To date I have obtained a nice balance of writing what I want, but appealing to a large readership and so can you. +The tips I am about to give appeal, like everything else, to a certain faction of incest, not the entire genre. That faction, if not the biggest, is the most active when it comes to rewarding you, the author. +Why? Because you made the effort to tell a 'real' story and create characters they grow attached to and become passionate about. So passionate they are compelled to comment. +A well developed tale inspires people to think and tell you what they think. But a stroke story? Those are one handed reads and as soon as the reader Jacks or Jills off, they are done. Sometimes they get off before the end and will click off without voting. +So the things I am going to touch on are based on getting the reader to react to more than the sex and want to tell you about it. These little tricks and devices have given me great results and if you follow them you will have a much better chance of getting what we strive for here the; vaunted Red H and a full 'recent activity' page. +Before I go further-and since I am 'talking to the readers'- I am going to take a moment to answer the three questions I have been asked most in my four years of writing taboo tales here. Okay, they are questions two through four. Question number one still remains ""When are you going to fuck off and die, you sick prick?"" +The answer to that is only the good die young, so please, mister anonymous, don't get your hopes up. This writer of sinfully salacious sexy sister seductions and marvelous mommies mounting mischievous mama's...boys. (Yeah, I know, I ran out of M words. What do you want for free?) isn't going anywhere. +First question: Do I write my stories from experience? +No. I know the sexy response is to wax nostalgic on all the adventures I shared with my mom, but in reality, unless 'what the hell is the matter with you?' was mom speak for ""Hey baby, hop on."" There was no interest on her part. For me? I do admit to wanting to touch my mother inappropriately, but realized matricide is a crime. +I was however, many years ago, involved in what could best be described as a 'pseudo incestuous' relationship and hence my love of taboo erotica. +Second question and most frequently asked, okay sometimes asked. Alright, one reader who later admitted they were drunk and requested to have their e-mail retracted asked ""Why do you enjoy writing incest stories?"" +The answer to that question is the challenge. +Literotica has many categories, but if you remove Sci-fi/fantasy, Nonhuman and Erotic Horror-categories that by nature suspend reality- all other categories are fetishes and situations that can happen. +But incest? Incest, as we all know, is in reality, a disturbing situation and I believe both the authors here as well as the readers are aware of that and it's not what we are looking for. What are we looking for? We want incest Literotica style; Eighteen plus, fun, consensual sexy and romantic pairings between family members. +Now, how to justify it? First let me point out there are two types of stories here in any category. Stroke, which are stories designed to be one handed reads and others that make an effort to have some substance with their stroke. +There is an audience for both here, but stroke has it easy. When reading for masturbation, do you really care why mom decided to give her son a blow job, or why a formerly prudish sister bends over and begs her brother to fuck her? Nope, just go for the ride. +Now a story that is meant to be more than that? It's not an easy task to take such an implausible scenario and make the reader say, ""I could see that happening."" For me, that's the fun of writing these stories; to take something not only farfetched, but about the only thing our society still frowns upon, and have it seem real. +In every erotic story there is a moment where reality does take a back seat to porn absurdity, but it doesn't have to start that way and if an author can lay the ground work of believable characters in a unique situation that absurdity can blend in with the story itself and become rational. So I find writing these stories a difficult, yet rewarding, writing exercise. +The last question is one I have been asked by both experienced authors as well as newcomers is why do I feel my incest stories do well and how could they get theirs to be well received. Those e-mails are what inspired me to write this piece. +There's more than one answer to that question, one of which being to simply keep at it. The more stories you have the larger your readership becomes and the more positive votes you get. But you still have to gain those readers and the key is to write a certain way and be consistent with it to find more readers who share your vision of the genre. +I have built a reputation for writing long, detailed stories that focus on far more than just fucking, but the things that lead to that crossing of the line between siblings or parents and their adult offspring. On that note, it's time to get to the real point of this essay and that's the keys to writing a successful incest story on literotica. +I am going to preface the rest of this by repeating that on lit there is an audience for everything and there is no flat out right and wrong style of story to write. But what I have seen from both my own stories and others in the category leads me to believe that when trying to achieve the best possible score and get that recent activity page lit up like a Christmas tree, there are things that work far better than others. +Let's go back for moment to my comment about the misconception that incest readers are less intelligent or discerning than those of other categories. Unlike most genre's, authors do not write incest through experience, but more from fantasy. Yes, there are those that will go on and on about what they did with their family growing up and perhaps they did, but for the most part incest is a fantasy rather than 'deed' kink. +Because of that it adds to the challenge to write a convincing story as there is not a lot to base it on. If you've had group sex, you can write it, bi- sexual, BDSM...all things people can write from real events, but incest...not so much. The risk in those categories is obvious; if you've never done it and can't ""fake it"" you get caught with your pants down. +So there are authors here who feel they can easily put it past the 'less than' incest crowd and make a token effort and expect accolades for it. Sorry, but, no. Like any other genre the incest readership knows what it wants. +Taking a simple everyday porn premise and sticking in the buzz words of mom, sis, or daddy is not enough to create a truly memorable incest tale. Like all categories the incest readers know when the author is sincere or being disingenuous and simply posting copy paste efforts; throwing as much 'family' wordage in as possible because they are looking for some quick strike attention and votes. +What do I mean by that? Quite simply put those stories have no heart and believe it or not what drives a successful incest story is emotion. A son just fucking his mother is okay for some, but what the readers really crave is a four letter word. No not fuck, not even lust, but...love. +Despite the bad reputation the category has and its inherently disturbing nature, the incest crowd is a soft fun loving bunch. They are romantics at heart; it's just a strange kind of romance. But that doesn't mean a story where little sister says ""I love you"" after her four brothers gang bang her, achieves that, again...you need to mean it and make them feel you mean it. +So let's walk through the steps to accomplishing your incestuous masterpiece and then we will address the all important detail of ""Incest romance"" Now the following can apply to any incest 'pairing', but as it progresses my examples are going to lean more towards mother son as it's the biggest sub category within incest, but again it's all plug and play with any story, you want to write. +First, your title. This will sound like a no brainer, but sometimes obvious things are what we miss. Whatever the 'pairing' is, make use of it in your title and your tag line. Mother/son stories should have mom in the title. +Mother works, mommy works, but I feel Mom is the best term to use, but that's subjective, the use of it should not be. The readers are browsing a list of stories and you need to tell them, ""Hey, here is what you want."" +I learned this right off the bat. My first mother/son story here was called ""Weekends with Laura"" the score on it is fairly good, but the votes and comments way below the norm. Why? Because who the hell is Laura? Why is Laura in incest? The reader would assume if it's in the category that she would have to be a mom or sis, but why make them think and chance them wandering away? +Now fortunately for me, it was not a total loss as my tag line read ""Kevin loves older women, especially his mother"" so if they got past the title they saw what I was writing about. So putting your buzz word in a title is big if you want to get your story clicked on. +As for your tag line; like any other story, a description, but also the ""other half"" of your taboo coupling. I missed that in my example ""Kevin"" who is good old Kev? The son...but again, call it out! People don't search by names they search by ""mom, son, dad"" +Also important in the tag line is a nice hook, a tease, a little flair. +Title ""Mom will do anything."" Tag line ""Desperate mother agrees to a porn shoot...with her son!"" read that out loud with the pause and in a shocked tone, ""With her son!"" Yes, cheesy, but this is the thrill they are looking for, so don't roll your eyes, just go for it. +Another thing to keep in mind is if your story is not straight up mother/son and you are going to introduce another kink, make sure your title and tag calls it out. +The reason is twofold. You want to draw people who also like that kink and may give your story a look because of it, but more importantly if that kink turns someone off you would rather them be forewarned and not read it than give you a bomb. +Title ""Mom is bound to Please"" Tag line ""Anna's bondage fantasies are fulfilled, by her son."" Note that bondage is called out in title and description and ""By her son"", again the shocking taboo disclaimer. +Titles can be ""stroky"" or ""serious"" and I don' think either will affect a reader clicking. However there is a fine line. ""Mom loves to Suck"" is pretty ""porno"" but in a fun way and it could still be a ""story"" now ""Gangbanging my mother's ass"" is going cause people who enjoy the aforementioned ""Love"" to give an eye roll and wander off. +Now that we have our catchy and to the point title and tag, let's get to some of the things incest readers enjoy or do not enjoy. +The number one no-no in incest is non consent. No added element to an incest story will get you flamed as much as non consent will. Why? My personal theory is we all know real life incest is molestation, abuse and rape because it's generally done to under age children and by older relatives. Incest readers know that and they are defensive of the category because that's what the ""real world"" associates their kink with. +So when it shows up here, they get upset. Incest readers want their family encounters to be a consensual, fluffy, clean dirty fun; a good time had by all and of course...romantic. Happily Ever After rules in incest as much as romance. +Rough sex is something that's frowned upon, even consensually. This was taught to me by how small the readership was for my Siblings with Benefits series which featured rough sex and hardcore BDSM. +The series did well score wise, but while stories like ""Oh, sis fuck me"" were getting 300 votes, SWB was getting 75. This was driven home by a comment that to this day makes me laugh ""Good sir that is no way for a loving brother to treat his beautiful big sister!"" +Now that comment is funny, but informative. Look at his wording ""loving brother, beautiful sister"" that's what the readership wants! +They want happy sweet couplings, they can be raunchy and dirty, mom/sis can act and talk like porn stars, but there has to be that emotion behind it to give them the best of both worlds and it also adds that ""consent"" and safe feeling that these stories are not the abuse of true incest. +Depressing storylines are also not as well received (see author LaRascasse for well written but depressing examples) All of my mother son stories range from the high 4.6's into the 4.8's except for one which lingers around 4.5. +That story ""Mama's Boy"" was lower voted because the storyline features an abusive alcoholic who mistreats his wife and son. So although I stress write what you wish, be aware these stories will not see top numbers. +The next 'dislikes' I am going to give are subjective, because again, there is something for everyone. So these ideas are not ones that will necessarily get you flamed, but are only for a certain faction and the point of this is taking the sweet spots over the some like it some don't. +Family orgy incest. Not everyone is into this and it takes the already implausible and throws it into absurdity. Having the entire family hopping on comes across as pure stroke. Although an entire family can love each other they are not going to 'fall in love' with each other. +So the romance ticket is out the door with your plausibility, the taboo is gone because if the whole family is doing it, who cares? And that means there is no conflict and no threat of being caught and punished. Will some love it, of course, but a lot of readers will pass it by. +Involving others: Another 'faction' aspect. The people who are into the type of story I am discussing are protective of the taboo love affair going on between the family members. +This is a lot stronger instinct in brother/sister. They don't want sis having any cock but their brothers and the other way around. It ruins the fantasy 'loving relationship' come on people, we all know it's wrong to cheat on your sister! +It is worth noting that in mom/son many are fine with dad still being in the mix with mom to add an element of sneaking around and conflict and guilt that mom is sleeping with both(note, not talking about the strokers; they want both doing her at once, I know cause...well I wrote one. +Hangs head in shame) But seeing dad is dad and he was there first its okay...now have mom have a boyfriend she is tagging when not with her son...prepare to be bombed. +When it comes to daddy/daughter the rule of thumb is stories where the daughter is the aggressor are better received than the father seducing the daughter. The reasoning for this is a dubious double standard. +Mom seducing son? Just fine, just a hot cougar who happens to be related to her cub. But dad after the daughter comes with some rape connotations even if the author is writing full consent. It may not get you trolled, but it will score a bit lower than daughter being hot for daddy. +Now for the ""Do's"" First and foremost dialogue. What are we reading for in this category? It's not to hear, ""Oh, Susan, please..."" its ""Oh, mom, please..."" make use of your buzz words in your dialogue and your narrative. +Work the incest angle, use mom, sis, daddy, little brother, big brother and use them as often as you can, but do not beat them like a dead horse. If you have three mom's in a sentence odds are you're abusing the angle. +I know this sounds contradictory to my point of 'you can't just paste in the word sis and have a good story' but if you write the rest of your story in the manner we are discussing it will be fine, because there will be much more involved than just those words. +What will be involved to add heat to just another cookie cutter story of hey, look sis is sucking her brother's dick? The answer is the second most important key ingredient to a popular incest story; conflict. +Incest is a taboo, it is a line we are told we should never cross. When two members of a family commit incest, they are tasting the forbidden fruit. That angle is one never focused on in many stories. If siblings are fucking one thousand words into a story you're doing it wrong because we are not talking stroke here. +The crossing of that line should not be jumped into; the reader should be led into it through the eyes of the character. Let's use the example of a son desiring his mother. How did he come about desiring her? What event led him from seeing his mom as the woman who raised him to a sexual woman he now lusts after? +That event could be the finding of some racy pictures or videos of his mother, somehow seeing her perform a sexual act, her becoming drunk and perhaps saying or doing some slightly inappropriate things, something just off color enough to get the son thinking in ways he shouldn't. +A popular device in these stories is dad out of the picture and the son becoming the man of the house. Mom is lonely, sad, the son thinks she should be happy, somewhere the wires cross and he decides he should be the man to take care of his mom in every way, after all, who could love a woman more than her son? +Now that last line? That is a score. That is the type of thought, or dialogue from a son that grabs the reader, that makes them nod and say, ""Oh, yes!"" +Flip it around? Who better to take care of a young man than his loving mother? What other woman could be so good to him? +Once you have decided upon the event that gets the ball rolling we are now ready for some realism in the form of guilt. When you write about Tommy watching mom bending over and he's checking out her ass, don't just leave it at him thinking ""nice ass"" or getting a hard on. Put some turmoil in there, this is his mom! Tommy should be thinking, ""Nice ass? What's wrong with me, this is my mother!"" +There should be some resistance to the attraction, a hesitation and concern over his feelings. Have him jerk off to his mother then lay there ashamed of himself for seeing his mother in such a dirty way. +Have him make an effort to stop seeing her that way. He tries, but he can't! When Tommy sees mom, he's like a dieter looking at a double cheeseburger. You know it's not right, know you can't have it, but oh, how you want to taste it! +This builds the heat; each conflicted thought whets the reader's appetite for what's to come. They know he is going to get mom because this is incest, but they don't need to know when or how. So tease them along and have them hot and horny long before the main event occurs. +Now we're ready for Tommy to take a bite of that cheeseburger...but wait! There's more! We can't have Tommy just say, ""Mom, I want you and ""Oh, Tommy I've been waiting!"" we have to do some more teasing in the form of some...conversation. +It's confession time. Whether mom catches Tommy with some mother son porn, checking her out, talking in his sleep, copping a feel... get them to be looking eye to eye and Tommy owning up to his feelings. Have him admit it-and again, conflict- he is embarrassed and ashamed of his feelings, so some blushing, stuttering, a good old, ""Mom, I'm so sorry"" +Mom says, ""What the hell is wrong with you?"" Oh, wait, sorry, that was my mom again. +So mom...from here it's your call. Has mom known all along and has been waiting for him to make the first move? Is she appalled at first? If she is that's when Tommy starts laying it on thick, ""Mom, you're so beautiful and I love you and...and I know I shouldn't be thinking like this, but I want to see you happy and I know I can make you happy in every way."" +As an aside the above would make a good hallmark card for Mother's day...just saying. +So now mom...okay, look, at some point in even the most well done realistic tale we need to admit we are writing erotica and some good old fashioned Bum chika wa wa seventies porn music kicks in and we delve into porn absurdity because of course mom is going to give in. +She could give in because she's wanted it, she can try the ""I'll let him start and when he sees it wrong he'll quit and realize...oh, I like this or anything you want. But again, build it, let them talk it out, let them experience Tommy's emotions. +He's scared at first, ashamed, then hopeful. Mom hasn't kicked him in the balls or dialed 911 and threatened to take him to a shrink, she's listening, she's...talking, she's...does she want it to? +Of course she does or there wouldn't be a story so there should be no suspense, but there is because you have done such a masterful job the reader is hanging on every word and squirming the entire time because they know they are so close to our hero breaking the ice with mommy dearest. +Now when we start, we start slow...kissing. Kissing is so important here. Whether , it's Tommy and mommy or daddy and his little girl, that first kiss, a lover's kiss to a family member needs to be focused on. +Tentative at first, nervous, this isn't right, but...oh, her lips and that tongue, a soft whimper and the slow awkward kiss that you work into a deep passionate filled make out session. Take your time with this; it gets the reader ready to blow before you've even gotten anyone naked. +Touching. During this kiss the hands need to wander, through their hair, down their backs, maybe a grope...but again slowly. We want a slow burn before we turn it into an all out wildfire. Keep playing the nerves, trembling fingers, pounding hearts, conflicting emotions, ""I can't, we can't, oh, the hell we can't!"" +The reader is getting ready to pop, but you're not letting them just yet, but this is a good tease because they, like your characters, are so close! Why? Because you my friend, have got them worked into a frenzy of anticipation. +Undressing...No ripping off of clothing, slow and sensual. During your deep kiss and slow touching, that touching leads to pants being unsnapped, hands slid into them, skirts being lifted, blouses unbuttoned. +Now when mom steps back and starts stripping, or Tommy removes her bra (pop quiz, how does he do it? If you answered with trembling fingers you were correct, if you answered he couldn't get it undone because guys suck at that, you answered honestly!) +But when mom's breasts are exposed, this is a big moment so make use of it. Tommy is seeing his mother's breasts for first time and you need to describe his amazement and his lust. +All the above this is where your buzzwords come back into play as well as reminding the reader that all this is a big no-no! When mom takes her bra off, let Tommy be ""transfixed by the sight of my mother's breasts"" ""A feeling of the surreal came over me, was my mother really here in front of me, on her knees and ready to give her son a blow job?"" +Most of all, and it is worth repeating, let Tommy be overwhelmed at how sexy his mother really is, the reader will be doing it right along with him because you have turned that reader into Tommy. For the duration of the story this is what he has desired, struggled over, and is finally about to receive...his mother! +When the sexual acts have begun-and I am not going to give a blow by blow -yup, meant to say that-of those acts. We all know how to write sex scenes so the only thing I will stress is keeping that dream like feeling to the scene, the ""I can't believe this is happening"" sense of wonder. +As for 'who rides who at the end of the race' In sibling stories I feel it works just as well either way to have one sibling be the more experienced lover, or the less nervous more enthusiastic one. +For father/daughter pairings, as discussed the little princess should initiate, but once she does dad taking over or daughter remaining the surprising little sex kitten can go either way, because of the nature of that pairing. +For mother son, which is what I have focused on in my story example, the mom should be in control. Why is that? Because what this becomes in a sense is a milf acting as a cougar with her cub. Mom is an older sexually experienced woman, who many times in these tales is alone and pent up. A son is not going to overwhelm his mother sexually, nor would he try. +Remember this little realistic detail mixed with our fantasy porn: He is her son. As much as he has lusted for her, this is mom and he is conditioned to obey-and most importantly-respect mom. +For me, it works best that mom takes the lead and her son happily defers to the fact she is not just mom, but a more experienced lover. Also in our romantic angle, what does he want? To make mom happy, so he is simply pleased to please her. +A parent would be inclined to guide their child. Mom knows he is nervous and wants him to enjoy and be pleased with and by her and will know that better time-for the first time-will come from her experience as a lover as well as the tenderness of a mother (another Hallmark moment in the works there) +Now when I say control I am not speaking of anything dominant and submissive, but simply along the lines of, ""Okay, baby, now you just sit back and let your mother enjoy her son's beautiful cock"" +This is where you can either have mom be a somewhat sweet lover and a nice slow sensual encounter or now that she is in a no turning back situation turn into a candidate for the milf hunter web site. For me, I go with mom getting down and dirty. +We have teased the reader long enough and it's time to turn this thing up to eleven. Dirty talk combined with your buzzwords are a powerful combination, ""How's mommy look sucking your cock?"" ""Oh, look at you, licking your mother's pussy."" Remember, mom is now in the heat of the moment and has needed a good hard fucking for a long time. +Even if mom has been portrayed as prudish or sweet, she has succumbed to the biggest taboo there is, lusting for her son, so turning 'slutty' is not far stretch compared to that fact, in a sense she is caught up in a dirty act that brings out that bad girl side, simply put, mom is sex drunk (is that real term...I don't know, but I have been there and the hangover can be even better) if you still struggle with that, refer to ""Ba chika wa wa"" and know we are giving the reader what they want. +Why? Oh I will tell you...because even the people who eat up the romance want the dirty fucking. Best of both worlds, a hot as hell fuck with the most loving woman a son could find! +Not to mention that slow burn you have put them through now being taken into a hardcore scene causes one hell of a release for the reader, makes it worth the wait. +As they move around the world (use a lot of positions, Tommy should see his mother from every angle) continue with the taboo wording, ""I inhaled and moaned softly at the forbidden scent of my mother's pussy."" +Or ""Mom spread her legs and I licked my lips at the sight of mom's...pussy, I was staring at my mother's pussy!"" Lust, disbelief and a reminder 'this shit ain't right!' +Like dialogue, these thoughts and feelings should be exploited as much as you feel you can get away with it while not getting redundant. Another plot device that has worked well for me is tossing in some humor. Not just some of the bad one liners I use during the story in dialogue, but something during the sex, that's funny, but family oriented. +""Hmm, this looks good,"" Mom paused, her lips parted, her breath hot on my straining cock. ""This all for me?"" she flicked her tongue lightly over my purple head and I whimpered, +""Please, don't tease, mom, please!"" +""Please? Wow, someone raised you right!"" +Or +Mom looked down at the cum dripping down my cock and sighed, ""Even now, I still have to clean up after you"" +One more. +Her tongue sliding along the length of my cock, mom gathered her hair and handed it to me to keep it out of her face. ""You can hold it, but don't pull on it. I am your mother after all"" +Little things like that add a fun dimension to the encounter because end of the day sex should be about fun and it shows how comfortable our new incestuous couple is. Mom is not just having sex with her son, but it's playful! +I am going to briefly mention the end to the scene, the ""money shot"". Now mom can continue her porn star audition and take a load to the face, her tits, all over her back. Or it could be inside, but you don't want to do that yet and we will soon get to why. +Now that mom and son have consummated their forbidden desire and established they are most likely going to hell, but are going to enjoy the ride. Seriously, because it's time for a little...""Oh, my God did we really just do that! No real regret, but a moment of holy shit! +But from holy shit it's time to mix in that all important main ingredient for our oedipal (or other coupling) cocktail; Love, baby, nothing but love for ya! +Tommy was not only lusting after mom, but also wanting to love her and during the build up and sex we did not include just fucking and sucking, but kissing and touching and that, ""She felt so good in his arms"" description. +Tommy now knows what it's like to have her as a woman sexually, but now the smoke has cleared and our shocked, but satisfied, couple is going to go to sleep, but not before they profess their love and desire to build that love, to not let this be a onetime thing, but to enjoy each other and take care of each other in every way! Pardon me while I wipe my eyes. +So the end? Not if you're smart my taboo Jedi, because...well mom and son, bro/sis dad/daughter have not made love yet! The ultimate conclusion to our HEA fantasy is a nice sweet lovemaking scene-better to leave this one fairly short compared to a long detailed fuck scene. Nice and easy and romantic, does the trick here. +Tommy awakes and his initial thought is, 'was that a dream?' Hell no, because his face smells like mom's pussy and...Mom is right there in his/her bed with him! This is where you focus on just how good mom feels in that oft mentioned ""every way"" +Let him focus on his mother lying in his embrace, her face on his chest, breasts pressed against his side, her long soft leg draped over his. His hand is on her back, and he can feel her slow deep breaths, her hair is in his face and she looks so peaceful, so satisfied, Tommy pulled her closer to him and feels a wave of emotion come over him as he holds his mother as a lover, not a son... +Okay, hold on, have to adjust something...okay, the fonts are changed. What did you perverts think I was doing? +But that example is what the readership craves, they eat it up. Mom and son, Brother and sister, daddy and his little girl, not just in lust, but falling into a taboo love, breaking the rules of God and man and loving the one person in the world they are told they shouldn't love in that way. +Stories that end with our sinful couple covered in sweat, still breathing hard from their passion, professing their love and how even though it was wrong nothing has ever felt so right. +Back to the star of our show, Tommy is getting a little misty, but something else is waking up too, because he starts thinking of mom's moist pussy pressing into his leg and those hard nipples against him. Mom stirs and looks up at him. They share a long deep kiss and Mom's hand strays between his legs. Tommy's ready (because no one in porn ever has to pee or can't get it up) +From here, I enjoy mom rolling over on top of him, but moving slowly and sensually not riding like a cowboy like she did previously. Her arms slip beneath his and they kiss as she remains on top. +Tommy rolls them over and they make slow sweet love. But not so sweet that we are not using ""Mom sighed contentedly as she wrapped her legs around me, pulling me deeper into her taboo embrace"" +This is where Tommy, who is feeling his mother's heart as much as her body, continues to make love to his mother until he comes deep inside of her. This is why the 'dirty scene' ends in a nice cumshot somewhere, because we saved the best for last. +Yes facials are fun and dirty, but the ultimate thrill, the best way to finish a story is with Son/brother/Dad filling his partner with his cum(I will die before I use essence... you know who you are...:)) And do make sure that mom/sis/daughter moan and whimper at how good it feels to have that forbidden fluid filling them. +End with them still wrapped in each other's embrace and promising the reader this is how they will remain and...you have yourself the makings of successful incest story. +I hope you found this essay informative and if you want some proof as to the success of these stories look at the works of Alwayswwantedtoo, TX Tall tales and although he is not prolific, no author has ever penned better sibling romance than Paco Fear and his iconic stories Words on Skin, Stolen kisses and Macallan Promises. +A look at my own page here will also show you the style I have developed in this category has gained proven results. More so, although this essay focused on incest all the points I made-except the buzzwords-can be used in any genre. +My stories in other categories are mostly written along the same lines of conflict, emotion and a nice slow burn before the characters reach the climactic encounter we ultimately read erotica for. +Many readers across the board enjoy a good story and 'real' characters and if you give them that, they will reward you where it counts; votes, comments and most importantly selecting you as a ""favorite author"". +I want to take a moment to thank the readership of Litertoica. When I came here four years ago I was unsure if people would enjoy my style. +Even during the dark and somewhat infamous Siblings with Benefits series, people seemed drawn to my different concepts and visions and once I finished SWB and began experimenting in other categories and getting deeper into the incest genre, more and more people e-mailed me, encouraging my work and asking for more. +That encouragement has kept me writing and recently helped see me through some dark times in life. Last month I reached 4000 favorites, a number I would have never thought possible back in May 2010 when I released ""Almost Perfect"" (which was far from perfect). +So to close this out I want to say thank you to my longtime readers and new fans alike, as well as the authors who encouraged and advised me. Your support has kept me writing. So thank you my friends; your past and continued support is deeply appreciated. ***** + _Author's note: The holidays are quickly approaching so just a quick note to wish everyone a happy and safe holiday season. I am planning big things for 2015 and hope you will continue to follow my work. Lovecraft68_" +929,Write Your Head Around This,PanzerFeck,How To,2017-05-05,2017-05-07,2022-01-04 08:42:50,3,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/write-your-head-around-this,1. The power of the senses. 2. Colour and creativity. 3. Creativity through hearing.,"['Author Advice', 'Creative Writing', 'Guide', 'How To', 'Writing Advice', 'Writing Exercise', 'Writing Guide']",4.21,"PART 1: AROMATHERAPY +FOREWORD +This is a brief but informative and hopefully enlightening article on using your senses to help with your creativity. I highly recommend that if you're open-minded and looking to make your storytelling feel a little more adventurous and expressive, you try this and see where it takes you. +1 +THE SENSES +There is an uncommon neurological phenomenon called Synaesthesia, where to trigger the senses, emotions, or certain cognitive functions (memory or problem solving), causes an automatic triggering of other senses or cognitive functions. +Imagine a crazy world where the sound of somebody's name, or a word, left a specific taste in your mouth. Imagine that numbers caused you to hallucinate colours, or that memories triggered smells. What if music caused you to see auras around people? +The phenomenon that is synaesthesia comes in so many forms that some experts in the field believe that we all experience a level of it. Misophonia - the disorder that causes sounds to cause feelings of stress, agitation, fear, and anger - is becoming more prominent with the rise in depressive and anxiety disorders. This disorder, although not yet classed as a form of Synaesthesia, is still suspected of being so. +But although we each experience instances similar to these examples, by the power of association and familiarity we react voluntarily. Sometimes we have difficulty controlling our voluntary reactions, and unless the colour red is going to turn you into a raging bull, I don't think we need to worry about becoming incontrollable beasts because of the sensory input that we're bombarded with on a daily basis. +It's a highly fascinating subject to get involved in, and it was the basis behind a series of creative exercises that I designed over the past half a year, to help people to unlock memory and creative potential, but also to seek a different way of thinking. I probably should have expected that it would also lead to new styles of writing for some of those who took part; myself included. +The human senses are a wonderful thing, aren't they? Where would we be without the ability to see dog shit before we can smell it underfoot? +Okay I'll look for a more pleasant approach... +The human senses are a wonderful thing, aren't they? They really allow us to enjoy the simpler things in life, like the smell of fresh air and burnt ozone after a thunderstorm, or fresh cut grass on a sunny day. The way smell rises with heat, and you wake up to the smell of bacon suspended in the still air of your bedroom on a Saturday morning; it sort of rouses you with a hunger for the day itself. +The sound of birds chirping, music playing, fire crackling, water running along a peaceful stream, it makes this savage world beautiful. Just one sense alone can turn a life of shit into a divine work of art. +And of course we have our eyesight, with which we can see colours, textures, light and illusions. We have the power of touch, and I don't think I need to tell you the things that touch can do to us - not here of all places. And let's not forget both the immense pleasure and disgust that taste can cause. +Without our senses, I doubt we'd be here. They're as preservational as they are pleasurable. But it's easy to take them for granted, especially in the modern day metropolis where all of our senses are constantly bombarded with experiences that vary in distinction and quality. More often than not, we're now experiencing quantity over quality. +We often switch off to avoid confusion, with so much info bouncing around (and little of it useful at all) - an undeniable contributing factor for the continual rise of social anxiety - and we go from living in a perpetual echo chamber of sensory input, into a state of self-imposed sensory deprivation. +The result: our sentinel intelligence becomes mute. Other senses may even suffer for the lack of their observational partners. Still, we don't try harder to compensate for the senses we dull, because we don't want to be bombarded by so many experiences at once. +If only we could concentrate on one sense at a time. You'll be surprised how everything comes alive, what the arousal of a single sense can do for the human mind. And this is the basis for my exercise. +So when, dear reader, was it last that you consciously exercised your individual senses? +2 +SMELL THERAPY +Aromatherapy traditionally involves the use of aromatic plant extracts and essential oils for healing practices and cosmetic improvements. It isn't restricted to flowers and oils. Incense is a commonly enjoyed form of aromatherapy the world over, and not just to hide the stink of weed in teenagers' bedrooms. And beyond aromatherapy, everybody has a favourite smell and a reason behind it! +Of course maybe the very use of the word Aromatherapy for this exercise is not totally definitive. The only use of aromas here is to trigger memory, emotion, and imagination. If the use of a certain aroma triggers the need to arouse another sense, then I would suggest you go with it, so long as it doesn't run the risk of arrest and imprisonment... +Don't know why I felt the need to add that, but there you go. Just in case, I suppose. +The object of the following writing exercise, if you choose to give it a go, is to try to associate as much as you can with a single aroma. If you have a friend or a significant other who would like to join you in this exercise, that'd be even better. When people feel the need to explain in depth what they associate with a smell and maybe why, it ups the ante for more provocative thought. +It could be that any one thing you choose for its aroma evokes thoughts of something that seems completely unrelated, but isn't that where your creativity finds greater challenge? +3 +AN EXAMPLE +The last time I partook in this writing exercise I had at my side a cotton wool pad laced with pine oil. A particularly pungent scent, pine oil at first bears the scent of the tree it's derived from, but when your sense of smell becomes accustomed to it, and all the while roused by it, you begin to smell undertones of other things. +I found myself associating also with the strong odour of dirt, heat and sweat, making me think of saw mills and soldiers climbing mountains in the heat of late springtime. I smelled decay which made me think of abandonment and nature's savage and deadly cycle. +In the end I wrote a poem about the end of wartime, when violence and industry recedes and nature consumes all once again. It was pretty dramatic but with an air of acceptance and peace. It not only related to what I could smell and the feelings that sense evoked, but also the shapes and textures of the human machine versus immortal nature's silent and stealthy explosions of life where there seemed none left. +Even if I wasn't anywhere specifically in memory, the aid of that one sense alone carried me. I wrote with little trouble, but with a great hunger for adventure. +4 +EXERCISE +Take yourself a pen and a piece of paper so that you can write down whatever springs to mind. Maybe it'll be a small list of single words, or maybe a list of descriptions. It doesn't matter how you do it. The first part is essentially just morse code! +I highly recommend getting yourself a bottle of aromatic oil. There are so many to choose from and they're relatively inexpensive for what they are. But of course you don't have to, because anything with a strong smell that you can have to hand, you can use. +Maybe you have some spices in the kitchen that you could sniff at all day long and never get tired of. I feel the same way about cinnamon. Tea and coffee also have a special place in my heart, as does petrol for some strange reason. +Orange peel, dried lavender, leather, fresh cut wood chips, a clean ironed item of clothing - the ball is in your court as to what you choose to smell for this exercise. Take it to your table and study its smell. Close your eyes and let come what will come. What does your sense of smell evoke? Write it down... +How does it make you feel? What does it make you want to do? Where does it take you? Does it evoke a person you once knew, or a character? +It could be that you come up with a multitude of things, triggering more than just memories, or feelings, but a whole world up there in your head that you hadn't considered. Or maybe there's a seemingly simple memory that brings its own emotional baggage. +Keep sniffing whatever it is that you're sniffing. But please don't get too high. You need to be sharp for this, and I think you'll find that as your senses and your sensibilities come alive with the experience, so will you. +Next you're going to take fifteen minutes to half an hour to write whatever comes. You should find it easy to just go with the flow and to let whatever is being written write itself. These things do take over. They just need a little help along the way. +If you stall, take another dose and keep at it. No matter if you don't finish by the end of your writing session, pay attention to what you have written and see what's different about it to what you might normally have done. +This compulsive approach to creative writing is a great little exercise, plenty of fun, and lets your inner creator put the perfectionist ego on the back shelf for a while. I certainly benefited from that, as I'm very conscious of what I write for the sake of entertainment, to the point where I often spend too long, in vain, trying to cater for some projected audience that doesn't necessarily exist; or if it does, one that judges more than the audience that I have acquired so far. +Good luck, have fun, and don't try too hard. Follow your intuition and your instincts, or in this case, simply follow your nose and see where it leads you! +5 +CONCLUSION +What does the sense of smell have to do with creativity, do you suppose? I'd like to hear your thoughts after you've tried this exercise. Personally, as a man for whom environment and atmosphere are important, my sense of smell stands for many things. +I'm grounded by my sense of smell. It has emotional weight as well as the ability to be tantalised and aroused. When I smell something bad, I show not only distaste but sometimes even wonder if I smell danger or uncleanliness. Smell provides identity to people and places. +As far as fantasy goes, any fictional world you create is not just a moving picture with sound. It has dimensions and one of those dimensions is smell, which allows your readers to relate and to bring the story to life via their own personal connotations. +And as you may well have discovered here, you can write a whole story based on a single sense, without it having anything to do with the context; in fact without having done anything other than providing an open door into your own mind. +I know, we forget so easily what's up there sometimes! + +" +930,Writing a lot: Helpful Strategies,Ormond1799,How To,2020-10-24,2020-10-24,2022-01-04 08:42:52,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-a-lot-helpful-strategies,Here you'll find various useful tips for writing a lot.,"['Authors', 'Editing', 'Revision', 'Writing', 'Writing Help', 'Writing Tips']",4.69,"Introduction +Authors frequently confront the challenge of generating written material. The challenge of generating hundreds or thousands of words represents one of the most exasperating aspects of the entire writing process. Writers of all levels, no matter if they're novices or experienced writers, must find ways to work through the difficulties of writing. In the essay that follows, I offer advice on writing a lot. The advice readers find below falls into in one of two categories. The first category represents small changes in approach that may aid writers in generating written content. The second category represents larger changes, often reflecting an alteration in how we think, write, and approach the writing process. These strategies, whether big or small, may require a change in the philosophy of your writing work. The advice below reflects my many years of personal and professional writing, teaching writing, and thinking about the scholarship of writing pedagogy. Hopefully, readers will find useful advice below. However, remember that writing represents a complex manifestation of the writer's approach, experience, and thinking; there can be no one-size fits all guide. In short, feel free to adapt or ignore any of the ideas below. +Ignore the myth of the author as artistic figure +Many writers, especially new writers, often find themselves embracing the idea that they can only write during moments of spontaneous inspiration. The focus on spontaneous inspiration largely derives from our modern understanding of the writer as a creative figure. The inspiration phenomenon derives largely from Romanticism, a literary movement where many writers fashioned themselves as sensitive creatives inspired by the world around them. The poets Wordsworth and Coleridge can write something like ""poetry is the spontaneous overflow of emotion,"" but at the end of the day, both of them needed to eat. Writing, whether done for a living or a hobby, is labor. +Writing is thinking +Writing and thinking are inseparable. When we write, whether at a keyboard or on a notepad, we're demanding our brains engage in parsing ideas and drawing on words in an attempt to put nascent ideas on paper. We can't isolate writing from thinking, and that is why the process of writing can be a difficult one. Again, writing (and the associated thinking) represents work. Sure, it isn't like doing landscape work or spending eight hours in a hot kitchen; writing is a different kind of work, but it is still taxing, and in the process we ask a lot of ourselves. If you're experiencing writer's block, then consider that maybe you're asking too much of yourself. Sometimes the brain just can't do words; in no way is writer's block a creative failing. Go do something else for a while. Maybe consider coming back to your writing the next day. +Writing is a process +If we allow ourselves to understand that writing exists as a process consisting of distinct concrete steps, then we can remove pressures inhibiting our writing. We all want to write a lot. However, many writers face difficulties getting words on the page. Writing struggles often lack any connection to a writer's skill or creativity. Are you some one that must create a perfect sentence? Maybe go back and edit a sentence repeatedly before moving on to the next sentence? Perhaps you can't stop yourself from hitting delete repeatedly. We can minimize many of these issues by embracing the idea of writing as a process. +What goes into writing as a process? Generally, the writing process includes three distinct areas. First, is pre-writing. Think of pre-writing as anything coming before the actual process of sitting down to write. Writers in the pre- writing stage might think about their ideas, approaches, or establishing new concepts. Pre-writing might include drafting an outline, a storyboard, a story map, or creating character dossiers. Pre-writing can occur anywhere or any time. Talking yourself through an idea while lathering your hair in the shower? That's pre-writing. Anything that you do to establish ideas or prepare yourself to write falls under pre-writing, including any reading or additional research that you might do ahead of writing. +The actual act of writing represents the second stage of the writing process. I'll say more about writing later. Revision marks the last part of the writing process. Writers in the revision stage focus on considering their text as a whole, making significant changes focusing on what are called higher order concerns. High order concerns consist of the larger aspects of our writing: organization, story structure, plot development, character development, and so on. Think of higher order concerns as the kind of changes that would make significant alterations to a piece of writing. Lower order concerns consists of everything else, generally all those things we associate with editing: word choice, grammar, fixing typos, and other small details. These details are lower order because they largely don't matter when revising and making major changes. A disorganized mess of writing is still a disorganized mess of writing, even if the grammar is perfect. +What is the takeaway here? If we recognize our writing as consisting of a process, then we free ourselves to throw words down on the page. It doesn't matter if they're good words or strings of bad sentences. It doesn't matter if things are far from perfect. We're throwing things down on the page because we know that we can come back to this writing and make meaningful changes to our work. Writing as a process might be a difficult sell for those of us married to the idea of creativity and the creation of some seemingly divinely-inspired piece of writing. Again, remember to kill off the idea of the writer as infallible artist figure. Don't get trapped in a myth. Even Jack Kerouac revised On the Road for publication; a reader only needs to compare the scroll version of the novel versus the published version. +Actually writing a lot +Below you'll find various tips and approaches to help you write a lot. Some of the advice represents small things you can do, while others represent, perhaps, significant changes to how you might approach the act of writing. +Productive writers don't always write a lot, but they write consistently +Writing consistently is the hallmark of a productive writer. By writing consistently, maybe every day or every other day, we get into a habit as writers. When we write consistently we move our word count along, regardless of the number of words written. Writing consistently not only develops pages of writing, it may help in alleviating writer's block, tamp down our writing dread, or address many of our other writing hang-ups. One useful aspect of writing consistently is that doing so removes feelings of ""what the hell am I doing here?"" that might come along with long absences from our writing sessions. +Set aside time to write and use a timer +Giving yourself dedicate writing time during the day can help you generate pages. The time you set aside doesn't have to be hours and hours of writing time. Committing ourselves to many hours of writing represents a one-way ticket to burnout. Plus, setting unreachable goals turns writing into an even larger chore. We want to remove anxiety from our writing process, not make it worse. Making time to write also helps remove much of the pressure that comes from the act of writing, too. Consider setting a timer for 15 to 20 minutes. Commit yourself to writing actively during those 15 to 20 minutes. Stick to this time frame- whether the words flow easily or you find that your writing is like pulling glitter from molasses- stick to the timer. If you find yourself in a writing groove, then consider adding another 15 minutes of writing. By using this timed approach we're looking to consistently fill our writing time, but not overdo it. Remember: writing is work. The act of writing taxes our body and mind. Take a break. Do something else. Work in a few of these 15-20 minute writing sessions each day, if you want. Remember, though, one session is enough to reach our goal of writing consistently and generating a lot of words. +I'm a fan of the 15 to 20 minute timeframe because it is a practical, realistic, and manageable goal. Many of us can consistently find 15 to 20 minutes each day. It is a luxury when writers find themselves with one-hour writing blocks, let alone blocks of two or three hours. We're more likely to encounter serval gaps of 15 to 20 minutes in our day, as opposed to larger time frames. And that is okay. We're aiming to maximize our time and write consistently, not prove that we are writing machines. +Keep writing +Aim to keep writing during the time you dedicate to your writing. A significant body of research and scholarship suggests a strong connection between the physical act of writing and the mental process of writing. Get words down on the page; it doesn't matter if they're good or bad. Just get the words on paper. If you're at a keyboard, then keep your fingers moving. Consider moving into free-writing if you get stuck; throw whatever your brain produces on to the page. If you're writing by hand and get stuck, then try drawing loops across the page. Keep that physical act of moving your fingers and hands going, even though you might not generate any actual words on the page. Consider switching to writing with pen and paper if you're someone that usual writes on a keyboard. The pen and paper approach is useful if you're also prone to smashing the backspace key. +Let go of bad writing advice +We all have aspects of our writing we find frustrating. These frustrations often find their root in something someone told us about our writing. Many of these writing struggles are also tied to bad prescriptive guides and rules about writing. Most of these rules exist because someone thought their ideas were right and worth writing down. +Have you been told you're wordy? Have too many run on sentences? Poor grammar? Repetitive word use? Many of us likely experienced such criticisms during our writing lives. Ignore those hang-ups, especially as you write. +Here are two major reasons why you should ignore these criticisms as you write. First, in most cases, these hang-ups about our writing are often just wrong. Ignore these concerns and focus on writing. Second, many of these hang- ups are rooted in lower order concerns. Remember, lower order concerns are the small aspects of our writing, like grammar. You likely noticed that many of these common hang-ups listed above fall in the realm of fixes that occur while editing. Offering small-scale editing advice is easy; it's often the kind of writing advice that people that aren't quality writers offer. Are you haunted by the teacher that would fail a paper for missing three commas? That's just a trash approach disconnected from good teaching, let alone good writing practice. Try to tune out these writing hang-ups and just write. Remember the last key part of the writing process: Revision. If these problems exist in your writing, then revision is the time to address them, especially if reader feedback suggests addressing such issues. +Read +We can fuel our writing by reading. Productive writers are prodigious readers. Aim to read widely. Read things you enjoy. Let words and ideas wash over you. Enjoy the process of reading. Through reading we fuel our own imagination. Through reading we accumulate new words and ways of thinking about the language we use. Writing occupies an important part of our world; writing isn't something rarefied and disconnected from other creative works we consume. Writing is part of a larger conversation with our world. Revel in the creativity of others to help with your own writing. +Closing thoughts +Helpful advice is great. However, helpful advice often speaks to unreal expectations and circumstances. Things happen and life gets in the way for all of us. We often ignore a lot of the advice we receive. I ignored much of my own advice in writing down many of the tips you just read. In my defense, I'd argue that I've spent a lot of time in the pre-writing process. I've also shared this advice countless times with students and experienced writers, whether in lecture, written comments, or in-person discussions. +Advice tends to fail when we use it as a one size fits all approach. Or implementing advice fails when we try to follow all of the advice, especially when it comes to writing. Writing is tricky because it is the subject of so many pieces of advice, so many supposed rules regarding good writing, and so on. Pick and choose from the writing advice I provided. The same goes for other sources of writing advice. Don't think you need to do it all. Also, keep in mind the aspects of your writing process that you know work for you. +What works for your own writing process, in the end, matters the most to your success." +931,Writing Erotica for Fun & Profit,BrettJ,How To,2015-01-06,2015-01-06,2022-01-04 08:42:53,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-erotica-for-fun-and-profit,I explain my ongoing process for writing & selling erotica.,"['Advice', 'Essay', 'Humor', 'Instruction', 'Writing Erotica For Fun & Profit']",4.7,"To begin my little essay, let me say that you will be much more successful and contented as an author if you concentrate more on the former than on the latter. +Good day. My name is BrettJ, as you can see from the header. If any of you are new to my work, I am a prolific writer of erotica. On this site alone, I have accomplished the authorship of nearly 500 pieces. Elsewhere, under a different name, there are nearly 200 more. To date, I have written and sold nearly 1600 pieces of erotica fiction. I would say that does qualify me to give advice to fledgling erotic authors or even those whose ""batteries"" might need recharging. Sadly, it does indeed happen to the best of us. +I hope that his essay can offer advice, a bit of humor and some insight. I'm going to try and be thoughtful and offer some perspective on what it is like to be an author of erotic fiction and how to keep going at it after years of work. +An acquaintance of mine is a very successful author. His name is Mark Evanier and if that name is familiar to some of you, there is good reason. Mark has worked on such TV series as _Roseanne_ and was Story Editor / Producer on both _Garfield and Friends_ and the current _Garfield Show_. He has written books on such luminaries as Jack Kirby and voice actress June Foray and contributed several articles to magazines on animation and comics. He has been a prolific author for over 40 years. +Mark and I share one viewpoint -- writers must _write_. Don't make writing for pay a goal and not write a word until you are paid to do so -- write. Write as much as you can as often as you can. Have fun with the process, share your work and write, write, write until your words flow freely. +I think sites like LITEROTICA are a great thing, although some may disagree. I was ""discovered"" here after a few months of writing. I am now going to contradict some of my own advice as well as some of Mark's. +DO NOT let yourself be conned by publishers offering to get you work if you send them ""samples"". Don't work for free. Send A sample, sure -- or even just a few pages of something you consider a worthy example of your work. That is a reasonable request. If you are worth publishing, someone will want to pay you. That is the bottom line, except in my case. You may feel free to laugh, but the company for which I've worked this past 8 years asked to ""borrow"" some of my writing with the promise of future employment if they liked what they saw. In those days, I never would have believed I would ever be a professional author, I thought it was a pipe dream. They were offering free magazines in exchange for stories, I thought I'd end up with some free reading material. I said sure and thought nothing more of it. +Except that I lucked out. My company turned out to be wholly legit, even if the woman I originally dealt with was not. I sent them some material and heard nothing. Six months later, I got an E-Mail from the company asking why I had not sent them any new material. I responded that I had not been paid for the new material I had sent. Not Dime One. Within minutes, I had another E-Mail with an apology attached. They told me in no uncertain terms that they had no intention of cheating me and were apologetic and were going to make immediate restitution. I was to invoice them and a check would be sent out that day. I didn't have a full accounting to the original material I had sent, but did manage to cobble something together. I think it was for 15 stories, if memory serves. I got another mail and was told the check had been sent that day. To their credit, it arrived the following week. I later learned that there were some shenanigans going on behind the scenes and I was dealing with a new person as opposed to the initial contact. The second person left after another year passed and I now deal with either my ""liaison"" or the publisher himself. +Moving on we come to more business. In the early days, I was a freelance author, as most of you will likely be in the beginning or for the duration of your careers. Nothing wrong with that, but there are a few pitfalls. In my freelance career, I learned a hard lesson. Don't count on the cash until it is in your hands. My company had a ""pay upon publication"" policy at that time. At one point, they had about 50 of my stories and I had not seen a penny. I was very nearly broke and needed the money. Luckily, I hit a streak where they needed material and not only did I get paid, they needed more ASAP. +Be willing to walk away if the money isn't good. Erotic novels don't necessarily pay well. I earn more writing short stories than I would for two full novels per month. It isn't a high-paying field, rather, it is based on volume. If you are prolific like myself, you can earn a nice secondary income. You have to decide what makes you comfortable. +One good thing began to happen and that was, I established a reputation. I delivered the material as asked, to the themes they wanted and I delivered _on time_. Until two years ago, due to family circumstances and a serious, unexpected illness, I had _never missed a deadline_. That led them to offering me a contract. I was their first contracted employee. +Here is another business point -- you do need to know when to stand up for yourself and be willing to walk away. They were stalling on signing the contract, so I gave them an ultimatum -- sign before two more weeks were up or there would be no further material from me. I had nothing to lose -- they did. What they were asking from me was 300 new pieces a year -- nearly a million words. +Yes, you read that right -- but I believed I could do it. In fact, I knew that I could. I was prolific and to this day, I have more stories in my head than I have time to write. +So they signed -- and then, they made a mistake I urge all of you to avoid. They _did not read_ the very contract they had signed. I you wonder how that could happen, it was because they had never had a contracted employee before, remember? They had nothing to go on, so I, with the aid of a (very cute ~ sigh) friend wrote the contract myself. It spelled out what they got and what I got and I was beyond fair. When an issue arose six months in, I could stand my ground. ""It's not in the contract,"" was my simple answer. In fact, it was not. I didn't have to do as they asked, which was an unreasonable demand at the time. We have amended the contract a few times since then, once with a demand they held firm, once on a term I refused to budge on -- direct deposit pay. +I cannot stress this enough -- understand the terms of your payment and employment. In plain English -- what am I giving you and what are you giving me? +Other important things to remember -- keep a copy of everything you write and make sure you can prove it's yours. I use many pseudonyms because I write a lot of material. Everything on LIT and elsewhere holds my copyright. My publishers once found someone on the Internet ripping us off, as did LIT. We put a stop to it (it turned out not to be the website, but someone claiming he had my permission to use my material -- he did not). +Other tips now, including this one -- a lesson I had to learn the hard way -- twice, in fact. _Know your limitations_. If a company is offering you a thousand dollars for 40 stories a month, that might sound great -- but if you can only write 20, be realistic. Don't overdo. Your reputation will suffer if you can't deliver. A few years ago, my company and I came into dispute over my quota. They wanted a change which would have cost me a fair chunk of money. I wasn't thrilled. My liaison stood her ground and I had some years with the company, so I did something I didn't want to do -- I went over her head. With the assistance of an outside mediator and my publisher himself, we reached an agreement that ended up netting me $10 more a month for 3 less stories -- ten thousand words, in fact. It ended up making life easier until life kicked me in the unmentionables two years back. +Here is where my reputation and honesty saved my ass, for those of you still with me. They knew I'd deliver. Even last year, when it became apparent something was wrong, they trusted me. I was not fired for being so behind, I was ""suspended"". I intend to deliver everything I was paid for and work towards rebuilding my career. Wish me luck, all right? +Now comes the fun and intriguing part. I said it before, but it truly bears restating. Writers need to _write_. Erotica is as valid a genre as anything else and I believe I write erotica, not merely ""porn"". I don't try to crank it out, I do try to put thought into each and every piece. I've earned myself a nice following on LIT and at one point, was in their Top 100 most-read authors. I try to have fun when I am writing and I do think it shows in the work. +My first story was just a one-off and it took me a few days to write. A little science-fiction erotic piece (entitled ""Programmed For Love"" if anyone wants to search for it). It was based on a story I'd read years earlier and I did my own take on it. To my surprise, it earned me my first ""H"" (for Hot) on LITEROTICA. I have several hundred now. I believe that's because I try to have fun and think of the readers while writing each piece, while not letting them limit me. I don't ever pander to them, although I do to myself. I try to be funny, erotic and romantic or raunchy, depending on the style of the story. +In the early days, I was just thrilled to be writing again. I'd had a few medical issues that took away my creativity. 100% gone. When I got it back, it was with a zeal I had not enjoyed since my 20's. I loved writing erotica and I dearly loved getting fan mail (I still do) especially from women who liked my work. I've got several female fans who tell me one of the reasons they like my work is my dialog and I never write weak women characters. +Dialog is essential to good erotica, in my opinion. Don't write just a string of epithets and ""fuck me"" wordage. Have your characters talk like real people. Hear the conversations in your head. Be witty and funny. Use slang when appropriate but do NOT use Smartphone short forms unless pertinent to the story. +Lord, oh dear Lord of all that is kinky, please use some kind of spell check and watch your grammar. Your ""grammer"" is your mother's mom. Learn the difference between ""you're"" and ""your"". Add to that list ""two / to / too"" and ""they're / there / their"". There are several others that creep in. Learn when to end a paragraph. Check for run-on sentences. +I generally avoid the stories that read like a Phone Sex scenario and so do most publishers. By those, I mean as in ""You entered the room wearing your shortest skirt and high heels. I had chosen to wear my navy blazer and gray slacks."" Give your characters names (first and laugh) and back stories. If you know who they are as people, it will come across to the readers. I've even found myself revisiting characters because I thought of new ideas for them. It has happened several times. I have also thought of an idea for a supporting character that might only have appeared in a paragraph or two. Ideas come from everywhere. +So, when those ideas DO arrive -- write them down. Or, if you're at the computer as I am now, create an ""idea file"" and write as much into that as comes to you at that moment. I have several stories in inventory that I will get around to. I know from experience that if I don't put them somewhere, they will sometimes fade. At times, even the title will jog my memory. Other times, I need more. I have had an ""idea"" spew out of me that turned into 3 or 4 pages of material before I stopped typing. I fleshed it out later and those stories are often my best because I took the time to jot it all down while it was still fresh and naughty in my fevered imagination. +There is no easy answer to the question ""where do you get all of your ideas?"" because there is no hard answer. It just -- is. The answer is -- everywhere. On the bus, in conversations, from another story, from reading _Playboy_ to the silliest of things. One fan challenged me to write a story about pinball. Look for it. Another wanted me to write a story involving Peanut Butter. Wrote that one too. + _Don't forget to have fun._ Good erotica is, in my opinion, fun erotica. Whether it's romantic, raunchy or perverted, it should be fun for the author and for the reader. +I don't believe you have to have more than the germ of an idea to start writing. I've even started a story with just a title or the name of the female lead. I look upon it as a journey, I've started out and I know where the end is when I get there. At other times, I have the beginning and ending in mind. The sex is the middle, like the filling in an Oreo. +Other ideas from me, once again -- fun. Believe it or not, nice Catholic girls and boys can write erotica. It isn't usually real, so go a little hog wild. I entered the LITEROTICA Survivor Contest last year to expand my horizons. I wrote in a few categories I hadn't before. I won one of the prizes. I entered again this year, much for the same reason. This very essay is part of that. I regret that LIT is ending them as of this year because I do believe the challenge made me a better author. Writers, challenge yourself. If you can write hardcore porn, write something with romance. If you tend to be a bit on the flowery side, go for the nasty stuff. Think like a gentleman or lady in the day to day world, be a bit of a whore on the printed page. +As I said, I get inspiration from a lot of places and one of those is photos. Almost all of my characters have a real-life visual counterpart. In my ""Heather and Bryan"" series, there are two real-life Heathers I use as templates, both from _Playboy_. So I know how their bodies look in certain positions, the color of their eyes, all of it. I even hear some of their voices based on videos. I don't advise using their real names, although real first names are usually okay. In a few situations, I got permission from actual women (Linn Thomas, Erin Fox and adult film actress Angela Sommers) to use them as characters in my story. All of those ladies approved. +Set the scene. What does the room look like? How is each character dressed and in the case of the women, made up? High heels, bare feet or slippers? Shaved, trimmed or _au naturel?_ You might not think it matters to the readers -- but it does. +Now that you have some of the basics down, get writing. If you have a talent for writing, it shouldn't be like pulling teeth. That does happen, even to someone like me. With my illness, I had the ideas, the process was just excruciating for a time. A friend offered me good advice. He had no idea how much I'd written and when I told him, he was astonished. "" _That_ much?"" He gasped when I answered. When I told him how much per month, his eyes went wild. ""No wonder you're tired,"" he admonished me. ""Stop beating yourself up, you need a break."" He was right. It is okay to take a break, although sometimes, you can't afford to. In my case, my health won out over commerce. +You're writing now -- having fun? Good, is it a short story or a novella or a full-on novel? Sometimes it can start out as one and move into the second and eventually, the third. Or a series of stories. Some publishers don't want series, so know who buys what in advance if you can. +I can say that the current erotic fiction market is in a state of flux. Novels sell, but usually by established writers like Opal Carew. Short story markets are still fairly good, although the E-Book / Kindle market is opening up. Even Amazon offers self-publishing, well worth exploring. Of course, you don't have to choose one over the other, you can market yourself as many ways as you would like, providing you remember the time factor. +I also suggest writing to your comfort level. Don't write something that you know would make you very uncomfortable. I don't like rape / non-consent material or anything degrading. I know I could write Gay erotica, but it isn't my genre. I write good lesbian fiction and a few other odd categories that some might find off-putting. I have fun, remember it is all a fantasy and that bills must get paid. Commerce does matter. Again, I stress -- do NOT let a publisher con you into writing for ""free"". Yes, get your work out there -- LIT and other sites can do that for you, or you can create your own site. Sometimes, a fledgling company will offer to publish a story of yours in an anthology, with a copy of the book as your recompense unless the sales go over a certain number. I've done that once, as I thought it fair enough for a novice writer. The book was fun, although badly edited. Spelling, grammatical and layout errors were abundant. It wasn't too difficult to see why the book didn't sell huge numbers. +Here's one thought as I wrap up -- decide for yourself if you want to tell friends and family what you do. It was about 4 years before I told my family and they weren't thrilled. They still aren't, although now that they see what I earned, it's a bit more acceptable. Most of my friends know. Some still don't. The stigma remains. I'm proud of my accomplishments and the volume of work I have achieved. Still, I don't want everyone knowing I'm a ""pornographer"". I certainly am not Larry Flynt. +Write. If you have computer skills, you've got another tool to use in furthering your career. Before you find a publisher, have something to show them. Have a few somethings because lots of publishers (mine included) publish several genres. +The work is out there if you pursue it, it's fun and it's challenging. +If anyone wishes to ask me further questions, I'm usually on my thread in the Forums or PM me. I'm willing to help out anyone. +In summation, I stick by this -- write because it's something you love to do. +BrettJ +December 31, 2014" +932,Writing FETISH Fiction,MorganHawke,How To,2009-07-22,2009-07-22,2022-01-04 08:42:56,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-fetish-fiction,Fetish fiction ISN'T Kink fiction.,"['Erotic Writing', 'Fetish', 'Tutorial', 'Writing Advice', 'Writing How-To']",4.49,"\-----Original Message----- "" _Could you do a guide on how to make a decent PWP revolving around Fetishes with things like 'Add detail,' and 'Don't make it choppy_?' -- Furry Fan +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ + **What makes Fetish fiction unique from any other kind of Erotic fiction?** +What makes ANY genre of fiction unique from any other? The DETAILS or more specifically, _what_ is being detailed. +~ In a Romance, the Drama is detailed. +~ In a Mystery, the Puzzle, or rather the clues to the puzzle are detailed. +~ In a Sci-Fi, the underlying Theory or Technology is detailed. +~ In Erotica, the Sex is detailed. +~ In Pulp Fiction, the Adventure is detailed. +~ In Fetish Fiction, the featured FETISH is detailed. +Okay, that seems rather simple -- until you realize that not only does the key element to each genre need to be detailed, it needs to turn the PLOT too! That key element must not only be there and detailed, it must be what makes your story HAPPEN. +Why? +To forward any story's plot you need Dramatic Tension. If all the dramatic tension in your Fetish story comes from somewhere OTHER than the Fetish scenes, then the Fetish scenes aren't necessary to tell the story. If the Fetish scenes aren't necessary to tell the story then you're NOT writing FETISH fiction, you're writing whatever _else_ is turning your plot. +In fact, if the Fetish scenes aren't necessary to tell the story then they ** _don't belong_** in the story. ANYTHING that isn't necessary to tell the story doesn't belong in the story! + _Memorize this_ : ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ **If it CAN be pulled out -** **It SHOULD be pulled out.** +It's the basic law of fiction in _any_ genre. +Azimov codified it for Science Fiction: +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "" _If you can remove the Science from the Science Fiction and still have a viable story in another genre - you did it WRONG!_ "" (He did not consider space operas to be science fiction. He considered them high-tech Westerns.) +Edo Von Belkom said it in his book "" _Writing Erotica_ "": +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "" _If you can remove the Sex from the Erotica and still have a viable story in another genre - you did it WRONG_!"" +For Fetish Fiction this means: +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ **""If you can remove the FETISH from the Fetish Fiction and still have a viable story in another genre - you did it WRONG!""** +In ANY genre of fiction, that genre's main element MUST drive the plot to BE that genre. +~ In Romance - The Relationship drives the plot. +~ In Mystery - Unanswered Questions drive the plot. +~ In Science Fiction - Scientific Ideas and/or Technology drives the plot. +~ In Fantasy - Magic drives the plot. +~ In Historical Fiction - Historical Figures or Events drive the plot. +~ In Paranormals - Paranormal Creatures or situations drive the plot. +~ In Erotica - Sex drives the plot. +~ In Fetish Fiction -- The FETISH drives the plot. +So, how do you make your Fetish drive the plot? +HOLD IT right there! +\-- Before we go any further, make sure you know WHAT you're writing! Are you writing Fetish fiction or Kink fiction? + **Fetish ISN'T Kink.** +A Kink is something that makes sex exciting, also known as Slap & Tickle. No matter how many whips and chains are used, no matter how much blood is spilled carving your name into someone's ass, Kink is a form of sexual Play, pure and simple. +A Fetish ISN'T Play. It's a very personal, very individual, and a very private APPETITE. Fetishes, whether they're a specific object, a specific person or type of person, a costume, or a ritualistic behavior are something the Fetishist NEEDS like food, water, or air to breathe -- to get off. Additionally, that ' _getting off'_ ISN'T always Sexual. In fact, according to several Fetishists that I know personally, fulfillment grants a euphoria they swear is _better_ than orgasm. +What makes it so good? +When a Fetishist has access to what gratifies their need, they can reach fulfillment **_without orgasm_** because their need is _more_ than merelysexual. Often it's a deep rooted _emotional_ need and that need is what's being gratified, not merely their body. +A sexual sadist with a **_Fetish_** for screams that plays Slap & Tickle with a lover isn't doing it because they want to fuck their lover. They're playing Slap & Tickle to feed their _true hunger_. Once they get the screams they're after, they may not even want sex at all because they HAD their gratification already -- the screams. +A sexual sadist with a **_Kink_** for screams DOES want to fuck the screamer, preferably WHILE they're screaming. +Someone with a **_Fetish_** for women's feet, or boots, or uniforms, or bondage gear _doesn't_ need to have sex with those in such garb. Observing the wearer, touching the objects, smelling the material, hearing the sounds associated with them, and sometimes even tasting them is more than enough to completely satisfy a Fetishist. • _THIS is why detail is so vitally important in Fetish Fiction_. +On the other hand, someone with a **_Kink_** for women's feet, or boots, or uniforms, or leather bondage gear DOES want to fuck those in such garb. + **Just to make things even more complicated,** **It is not unusual for a Fetish to trigger a Kink.** +Case in point, the urge to Dominate can trigger the urge to Strike or the urge to Rape, which in turn could trigger a sexual kink. However, the point of either reaction is still Domination. In the case of a Fetish, the overwhelming need to make contact with the object of their Fetish or get a certain response from someone to fulfill their Fetish could also trigger a Domination response, which could also trigger a sexual Kink. However, the point of their reaction isn't Domination -- it's fulfillment of their Fetish. If this happens often enough: **_Fetish > Domination Response > Kink_**, eventually the Fetish alone will be enough to trigger the Kink. +In short: +~ A Kink is when you use a feather to cum. +~ A Fetish is when Touching the feather will make you cum. +Whether you are writing Fetish, or Kink, make sure you Label your story properly! This way, the readers seeking your particular kind of story can find you and appreciate what you've written! +Okay, back to the lecture... +\-- So, how do you make your Fetish (or Kink) drive the plot? + **Making the Fetish MATTER!** ** _Show something. Prove something. Make something Happen._** + ** _Show something:_** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ What can a Fetish show? It should at the very least reveal something about the base personality of the character that is focused on it: tender, sweet, attention to detail, aggressive, controlling, power-hungry, humorous, serious… + ** _Prove something:_** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Fetish scenes can prove domination, or submission, but rarely does a scene like that involve a true Fetish. Fetishes are about HUNGERS and such needs make excellent metaphors! What does your character's Need say about life, or love, or hate, or anger, or devotion? + ** _Make something Happen:_** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ This one is the easiest of all. How can you're character's drive to fulfill their Fetish get them into deep trouble -- or out of it? + **WRITING Fetishes** ** _DETAIL ~ DETAIL ~ DETAIL_** +The rest of your story can be a bare bones sketch if you like, but the Fetish MUST be executed in exquisite loving **_detail_**. Your story is there to feed a NEED, so ALL the senses must come into play: Sight, Scent, Sound, Sensation, and Flavor. +Your story can be so simple that the characters don't even have names. However, where the Fetish comes into play, every thought, feeling, and sensation that focuses on that Fetish MUST be written in loving detail. +What it looks like, what it sounds like, what it smells like, what it feels like, what it tastes like... What does it do? How does it affect your characters? How does it make them feel physically, emotionally, and possibly spiritually? Do they like the Fetish? Hate it? Wish it would go away? Try to fight it? Revel in it? Try to convert others into liking it too? +All-righty then, here's the hardest part of writing Fetish Fiction: + **How do you plan to END your Fetish story?** +Where will this Fetish take your main character? What will become of them because of this Fetish? Will it make their lives better -- or worse? Will they find a safe outlet to satisfy their Fetish, or make a terrible error in judgment that destroys them? Do you want a happy ending, or a tragic one? + ** _REALITY CHECK! ~_ There is NO CURE for a Fetish.** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ +A Fetish isn't something that goes away. A Fetish is NOT an addiction -- though a Kink can be! Fetishes are rooted deep in the psyche and while a shrink might be able to find the cause, there is No Cure. The only treatment is to find a safe outlet that feeds the need. The only other options are becoming a Victim or a Predator. +Make sure you understand this BEFORE you write your ending. Those of us that have Fetishes really appreciate it when someone actually tells the Truth. + ** _In Conclusion:_** +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ +Whether you're writing serious Fetish Fiction or merely Kink Fiction, the key to writing either one is Detail and Focus. However, what makes it satisfying is how you conclude your tale. +Enjoy! +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ + ** _DISCLAIMER:_** _As with all advice, take what you can use and throw out the rest. As a multi-published author, I have been taught some fairly rigid rules on what is publishable and what is not. If my rather straight-laced (and occasionally snotty,) advice does not suit your creative style, by all means, IGNORE IT._ +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ + ** _Morgan Hawke_**" +933,Writing Horror,al_Ussa,How To,2009-12-31,2009-12-31,2022-01-04 08:42:56,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-horror,A brief guide to writing scary stories.,"['Horror', 'Monsters', 'Writing']",4.7,"An undead fiend slumbers in her ancient tomb, waiting for a foolish mortal to awaken her so she can return to haunt the living once more. On a dark, stormy night, a mad scientist is playing God, trying to create new life out of a blasphemous mixture of alchemy and science. And somewhere in the void of deep space, an alien horror that should not exist waits and watches with a thousand eyes. +These are the standard tropes of the horror genre. +Not that many people on this site actually know it, but I originally started out writing short horror stories. Some of them have seen print, others were published online in digital format, and still others linger on my computer, waiting to be re-written in some form or another. And while I may try my hand at other styles of writing, I always find myself returning to my beloved horror stories when the inspiration moves me. +But what is horror? How can you write truly scary works? I'm not going to lie to you. Just reading this brief essay probably won't make you into a horror writer, so don't get any delusions that you are the next Stephen King or Clive Barker. Instead, what I hope to do is inspire you to write your own ideas - what comes from within. That is far more terrifying than any ghost, ghoul or long-legged beastie that I could imagine. So if you would like to write horror, then please, read onward. +First, let's start out by defining what horror is in the first place. It's a genre of literature aimed at scaring, frightening and entertaining an audience. It's a very broad category, including everything from urban legends and ghost stories you used to tell around Halloween, all the way up to the classics of Gothic horror like Bram Stoker's 'Dracula' and Mary Shelley's 'Frankenstein.' Horror goes well beyond storytelling and literature, though. It also includes countless movies about serial killers, vampires, and other monsters. +As any good, self-proclaimed nerd could tell you, horror is closely related to science fiction and fantasy. In fact, the genres can (and do) overlap to a certain extent. 'Frankenstein,' for instance, was a science fiction story by the very definition of the word! Mary Shelley had Victor Frankenstein using a mixture of alchemy and pseudo-science to resurrect the dead. In a similar vein, the film 'Alien' takes place in space and involves an extraterrestrial life form. Lovecraft used similar ideas in his writings. +One can also find plenty of examples of 'dark fantasy' and 'Gothic fantasy' in literature, film, television, comics and gaming. The Dungeons & Dragons setting of Ravenloft would be a good example of this, being replete with vampires, necromancers, witches and the like. +A bit further afield, horror is also related to suspense and mystery. Although nobody would say that police procedurals like 'Law & Order' or 'CSI' are ""horror"" in any sense of the word, there are plenty of examples of horror that do rely on serial killers. 'Silence of the Lambs' springs to mind immediately. Not all monsters are literal. Serial killers like John Wayne Gacy, David Berkowitz, Ed Gein and Jeffrey Dahmer were far worse than any fictional vampire or werewolf. +But none of that really tells us what horror is, does it? Horror can have monsters, yes, but nobody in their right mind would say Count Chocula or 'Casper the Friendly Ghost' count as ""horror."" Nor does horror need a monster to be scary, as we've established that human killers can be perfectly within genre. The same applies to wild animals (like, say, being hunted down by a grizzly bear), natural situations (being lost in uncaring wilderness), or just strange phenomena with no intellect or being driving them whatsoever (a man walking out into a field and just disappearing). And yes, all of those examples have been done in one way or another. +So what is horror? True horror is fear... Fear of the unknown, fear of death, fear of being harmed, fear of being alone, etc. That is what horror boils down to. Horror fascinates us and moves us because it provides a safe outlet for our most primal fears. +And that is the secret to writing great horror. +First, start with what scares _you_. It doesn't matter if you're afraid of clowns, spiders, water, the number thirteen, darkness or something more exotic. Ask yourself what you are afraid and then think about it for a while. Don't over analyze things, just think about why you feel that way and try and capture it in such a fashion that other people can relate to. Even if we can't understand your fear, at least we will be entertained by it. +I know, that sounds rather paradoxical, but it's a good first step. Scare yourself, then try to scare other people. Exaggerate and distort that fear. Make it into something that is _just_ close enough to reality that it can spook us. +Now, while you ponder over what I've written, allow me to expand upon some further points of interest. + **Here Be Dragons** +In olden days, when knowledge of geography beyond the major population centers was sketchy at best, mapmakers would mark the unknown corners of the world with the ominous phrase 'Here be Dragons.' Even before that, primitive tribes huddled around their campfires at night, trying to stave off the depredations of nocturnal carnivores. And even today, mothers tell their children not to wander too far when they play. +The unknown is scary, and that fear extends to our very perceptions of geography. Keep this in mind when you write. If your protagonist is dropped off in a hostile and unfamiliar territory, everything becomes much scarier for him. For example, for many of us city-dwellers, rural settings like those in 'Deliverance,' 'Wrong Turn' and 'The Hills Have Eyes' embody our fears about breaking down on the interstate, miles from any trace of civilization. +Play up on those fears. Exaggerate the dangers of the terrain and make it scary, whether we are talking about swamps filled with quicksand and tropical diseases, unforgiving Arctic wastes, or even the most crime-ridden parts of inner city ghettoes. If you can make it scary, then write about it. And it's even better if you've been to those areas and know something about them. + **Traditional Monsters** +Despite what I wrote earlier, monsters are still a big part of horror. Everyone knows Dracula, Frankenstein, the Creature from the Black Lagoon, Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde, the Phantom of the Opera, King Kong, and so forth. These are undeniable icons of horror, and have been used and re-used in countless adaptations. There are countless movies and books written about vampires, zombies, werewolves, ghosts, sea monsters, and other mainstays of horror. +The trick with using these monsters, though, is to make them unique and original. Everyone knows what a vampire is. It's an undead being who drinks blood, can turn into a bat, and is repulsed by garlic. Right? And werewolves are vulnerable to silver, and zombies need to eat brains, and so forth. The thing is, the lore is so vast that authors can pick and choose which elements to use when writing these more familiar creatures. Everyone has seen Gothed out vampires bedecked in Victorian finery. But vampires in cowboy boots and western wear, or urban vampires with gangsta style are a little more unique. +This extends beyond the superficial. The vampires, werewolves, zombies and so forth that appear in popular culture bear little resemblance to their origins in folklore. In some stories vampires can come out during the day. In others they loose all their powers in sunlight, but are otherwise just fine. And, of course, in many stories they die in sunlight. With that in mind, you can easily change around 'traditional' monsters and make them interesting and different. + **Non-Traditional Monsters** +Then there's the rest of the world beyond Europe and North America. Other cultures have their own folklore and mythology that is just as rich and can provide aspiring authors with new sources of inspiration. Arabian lore has flesh-eating _ghuls_ and malicious _jinn_. The Filipinos have the _aswang,_ which preys on children and pregnant women. In Mexico there are stories of witches called _civatateo_. The Algonquin Indians spoke of the cannibalistic _windigo_ , and Russians have tales of _rusalka_ that pull men to their deaths in the river. +Any or all of these creatures can serve as an excellent source of ideas for writers, especially if you were raised with those stories in your background. But, we need not go half-way across the world in search of horror, because there are plenty of homegrown ideas right here. Urban legends are a form of folklore that has saturated into popular culture. Think about it... the serial killer with the hooked hand, gang members killing people who flash their brights as an initiation, albino alligators living in the sewer. All of these familiar cautionary tales can be used by creative writers. +Once again, these stories should be updated, changed or re-invented to better suit the modern world. Even if a western audience has no awareness of Japanese _gaki_ , Inuit _tupilaq_ , or Balinese _leyak_ , just a few small changes can make it into an entirely different creature. After all, you are (hopefully) interested in crafting your own tales instead of just repeating someone else's. + **What Was That Thing** +Not all monsters fall into these convenient (albeit admittedly artificial) categories. Some truly bizarre creatures are one-of-a-kind horrors that have no mythology behind them. Think of the Stay Puff Marshmallow Man from 'Ghostbusters' or the giant monster from 'Cloverfield.' That sort of unique, one-shot monster is the sort of thing really creative writers can come up with on a good night. While all of your creations should be unique, creating an entirely new (and fictitious) creature is an especially challenging exercise. +Still, the basic concept is the same. Come up with a creature, write in the details and run with it. What does your monster do? Does it tear people apart at night? Does it take control of their bodies and make them do things against their will? Something else entirely? The only real trick is that you don't have any folklore, mythology or previous stories to inspire you. But then, that's part of what makes it so fun in the fir + **Consistency** +When telling a story, the most basic rule is to always be consistent. This is even more true when you are writing fiction. You don't need to spell out what sort of things are going on in your story, but you (as the writer) should have a clear idea of what is happening when you write it. You don't need to tell it to your audience, and in fact, it's far scary if you keep us in the dark. But leaving some mysterious element that serves no other purpose than to get our attention is just annoying. You need to be consistent in your horror. +This applies to all other aspects of writing as well. Keep a consistently dark and ominous mood when you are writing horror. Surprise endings can be fun if they are executed properly, but far too often it just annoys your readers. If I am reading a story about a zombie apocalypse, I don't want some sort of deus ex machina at the end that involves an alien invasion. You can mix monsters, elements, and genres, but do so in a way that doesn't break the mood. Otherwise things just get kind of silly, and you don't want that. + **Scream Queens and Token Victims** +Another subject that I feel I should touch upon, however briefly, is character development. One thing that sets apart horror from other genres is the potential for relatively high casualty rates. In fact, its so common that the phenomena has become something of a trope or in-joke, with many movies using stereotypical 'stock characters' who are slowly picked off, one by one, until only the main protagonists are left. Examples of this are so numerous that it barely merits any mention. +Like any stereotypes, there is some grain of truth in this, but it's also a very dangerous trap to fall into. Especially for writers, who have to ply the fertile depths of the imagination instead of relying upon bloody visuals like film-makers do. If you want a death to be meaningful - to shock and disturb your audience - then you have to either make it really gory, or make the character someone interesting enough that the audience cares about them. Or, better yet, both. +On the other hand, you also have your stereotypical stock characters... Big breasted scream queens, brooding Goths, grizzled survivors of the zombie apocalypse, token minorities, nerds without 'street smarts,' dumb jocks or frat boys, and so forth. These are characters who are practically made to be thrown away, aside from the stereotypical grizzled monster hunter/survivor/loner type. They usually wind up going out in a blaze of glory, taking the monster with them in the process. +Just to surprise your audience, I say switch things around a little. Write standard 'stock character' types with interesting backgrounds to set them apart. A frat boy who enjoys chess and can quote ancient Greek poetry, or a big breasted scientist, or a token minority character from a comfortable suburban background. Those are different enough that your audience might actually care about those characters. In fact, they very well could become protagonists in their own right, and the (supposed) 'hero' becomes monster fodder. + **Do Your Homework** +Let's face it, there have been a lot of horror writers before you. Do yourself a favor and read some of their works. Steven King, Clive Barker, H.P. Lovecraft, Edgar Allen Poe, Ambrose Bierce, Robert Bloch, Chuck Palahniuk, Anne Rice, Poppy Z. Brite, Bram Stoker, and a dozen others. All of them wrote things which you should be reading, and enjoying. Don't try to copy their style. After all, you want to find your own voice. Instead, try and figure out what about their writing moves and inspires you. Appreciate their work for what it is and you will be good. +Don't limit yourself to books either. Even as much as I may decry the decline in literary interests here, I am not going to act like some sort of elitist snob either. There are plenty of comics, movies, video games, television shows and other media that convey horror just as well as any writer. In fact, many of them are adaptations of books or stories written by the authors above. Universal and Hammer influenced how entire generations saw classic movie monsters, not to mention the way that Japanese films have re-interpreted monsters. And then there are great shows like 'Twilight Zone,' 'Outer Limits,' 'One Step Beyond,' and 'The X-Files.' +Do yourself a favor and reacquaint yourselves with classic slashers like Jason, Freddie Krueger, Michael Myers, Norman Bates, Pinhead and (for the more recent generation) Jigsaw. They won't hurt you... much. + **The Unknown IS Scary** +One final thing to bear in mind, which I've repeated many times throughout here, is that the unknown is scary. Use that to your advantage. Simply saying that a vampire kills someone, or that a man is really a killer. But keeping your audience guessing is much more fun, both for you and the reader. In fact, a really creative author can be so ambiguous as to have nothing really happen in his story, while still making the reader question it. So by all means, keep us in the dark. Use descriptions to set the mood, but not to reveal what is really happening, right up until the end. +After all has been said and done, you should be able to use these simple pieces of advice to inspire your own horror writing. Hopefully you've learned something about the fine art of scaring people. I look forward to seeing your stories, so please let me know if you found this (all too brief) essay helpful. +Mwahahaha." +934,Writing in Love,Frogsoup,How To,2009-01-06,2009-01-06,2022-01-04 08:42:58,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-in-love,Keeping love real for the reader.,"['Love', 'Reader', 'Writing', 'Writing How-To']",4.63,"Love is silly. +This is not to say that love is laughable, or funny; it's neither. Love is not trivial. It is sublime, life-altering. Love changes. +But love, especially new love, makes us act silly, makes us think differently. We do things out of character for us, we say things we normally wouldn't say and almost immediately the changes begin. The playboy doesn't go out anymore, he only wants one person. The strong woman is weak for her love and cannot stand against it, doesn't want to. When they are apart, each feels the void of the other's absence, and when they are together, they are completed. +Those of us lucky enough to be in love, or that have ever been in love, know the changes it brings to us. When writing about love between characters, the contrast between who they are and who they were can be explored in detail, and can resonate with the reader in a way that mere sex cannot. Sex as a whole is enhanced by love and if a character should have sex with someone else the contrast should be felt. It feels empty, meaningless. It's a form of masturbation. +But get with your lover...the one you truly love...and the sparks fly. Sex transcends physicality and moves into the realm of the spiritual, a connection with another, a synergy. It's become 'making love' and has the power to shift the world. +Real people are usually surprised and may be shocked by the contrast. When writing of a character falling in love, the reader may want to see that difference and remember it. A good way to do this is the way a reader would do it: compare the two experiences and explore them. +Suppose Jack parties a lot with his buddies, goes to bars, picks up a bunch of superficial 'chicks' that he takes home and 'bangs out'. These liaisons mean nothing to Jack. He gains the respect of his friends with his ability to get the women he finds attractive into bed, and demonstrates his power over them by his ability to forget they ever exist. In his way, Jack is a happy man. +And then he meets Jill and falls in love, and his world is changed. He doesn't go out with his friends anymore. They call him 'pussy-whipped' and he doesn't care; his life has become Jill, being with Jill, and after making love to Jill he realizes that he's been a fool. He recognizes that all the women he's loved and left may have hurt like he hurts when Jill leaves him for Bill. He regrets; he will never see his life and his world the same way again. +Or suppose Jill is a successful businesswoman, on her way up; she has no time for sex, or love. She avoids situations that may complicate her life and focuses on her career. She has the occasional lover as a distraction, but afterward he goes home and she goes to bed and the sun will dawn on the same day tomorrow. +And then she meets her new client Jack and she feels a click with him, a connection she has never felt before. He distracts her. She thinks of him all the time. Her work falls off. She feels most alive when he is near her and when he is gone she feels his absence, she hears the ticking of the clock and feels her own mortality. She realizes her life is empty and broken. And when Jack and Jill finally make love...she is whole. +By exploring the changes within our characters, we can demonstrate the vast power this emotion has over us to make us different than we were--maybe better, maybe not, but not the same. Love transcends everything. Racial and social boundaries are meaningless; mores become laughable. Love permeates life and lives beyond death. It transcends education, station, and gender. It makes people run gladly from safety into chaos. The characters we create will stop at nothing to be with the people they love. They will tear through everybody in their way, breach any wall. We who have been in love know this feeling and recognize it, those who have never been may be confused by how different one becomes and catch a glimpse of what they've missed thus far. +Interactions between characters are not always about love. It could be about sex, desire, fantasy, lifestyle, etc. But love--real love--is an all-consuming flame and a new person is born from the ashes. +Older love is different, a flame between two people that warms them and makes finding someone else out of the question. That's not who they are anymore. They may have affairs, but they cannot see living apart from the one they have been with. Jill might like to be caned before sex, and Jack just won't. Jack might secretly want sex with men and Jill just won't do for that. But they know they are in love and cannot live without their partner. +Unless they fall in love with their lover. +They may share the experience with their spouse or significant other, seeking threesomes or exhibition; but love cleaves them together. This type of experience might lead to insecurity on the part of one or the other, for what if the person they adore likes the third person more? Then one character will see it as an invasion of something that is sacred to them. +Exploring the differences in who characters were and who they are now is the surest yardstick for the depth of their love. Some will agree to stop wearing corduroy pants because their partner can't stand the swishing sound when they walk. Some might throw their whole life away and travel halfway across the globe to be with someone they have never seen. The depth, the differences are dependent on the love, the character, and of course the author's view of who that character is and what they need. +In the end, love is the most powerful emotion we can feel, and so it should transform a character, make them see the world differently, think differently and act differently. And stories are about the story, and if the story is about love, it should be realistic and demonstrate the power of this killing and saving emotion in order to make the reader more fully aware of a character's depth of feeling. +If you've never been in love, there's plenty here to give you an idea of its strength. If you have been or you are, draw on your own experience--what was it like for you, and how deeply did you feel it? And would your characters, if they should somehow become real, act on the emotion as portrayed, in the way they are portrayed as acting? Would you act on a one-dimensional emotion?" +935,Writing Porn From The Heart,Histarter,How To,2006-06-13,2006-06-13,2022-01-04 08:42:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-porn-from-the-heart,Confessions about writing.,"['Author', 'Writer', 'Writing', 'Writing Advice']",4.17,"I have noticed the 'idealistic trend' of making women a passive aggressive, instead of recognizing them for their ""power that radiates from within them"" that truly appears to be the most frequent reason for them opening up to a male in need. We have too much bias for a horny lady permitting an aroused male the right to give them a good fucking, instead of - yielding to the maiden's equal member status for seeking sexual relief! Then to scorn sexual participants with morality codes of a sick society's attitude regarding unrealistic limitations on an adult's sexual needs, is stupidity to me! Mother kissing daughter while her (adult) son is emptying himself into his (adult) sister's cunt is acceptable to me – as long as they are all comfortable and contented afterward. In fact mama and daughter can switch places, as long as brother is still capable! +Porn doesn't have to be ""nasty"", and can instead be an explicit method to illustrate the affection between humans, regardless of orientation. Close friends enjoying an orgy, or a dedicated couple inviting another into their bed is truly normality, and is something that frequently occurs – but the secret is kept, and it used as life's enhancement rather than a stored tool to control someone. This is reality rather than idealistic bullshit that is popularly spread! +Now I am not saying that my view is the only view, but instead I am hoping to solicit more excitement for me by reading about fearless but affectionate fucking, from the innovative writers out there - without any weak couplings. I truly enjoy where the intensity of the rut is mutual, normal, and beautiful! Sex is a loving sleeping pill at night, with couples excitingly neutering each other to comfortably enjoy their bodies recharge, after the day's distentions. Solving curiosities, reducing barriers, and raising ego's confidence levels through successful seduction - along with sexual relief are the more natural reasons to copulate. Hero worship, career fucking, marrying just for sex or for status, is all classified as competitive sex, and I would prefer not to embellish this forte', unless I want to put a novel twist into it – like the nasty lady that marries the wealthy actor, while enjoying an ongoing sexual relationship with his gardener, only to realize she really loves her husband, and then applies her practiced skills accordingly (for both)! +Yes, there is a place for getting nasty, and that is interesting reading also; however, the school teacher or professor that shares genitals with students for the purpose of exposing them to life's normality (while getting off themselves) should not be censored more than daddy fucking daughter. Double penetration is almost a comedy of a woman 'forcing' two guys to enjoy her, and is quite theatrical, though overkill as a stunt, instead of the delicious serial intimacy, like a party girl 'sniper' taking each 'target', one at a time into secluded intimacy for a chain of thrills. This is just my point of view! +I write with honesty, and try to identify normal human lust without any judgment, meaning I will enter into contract openly, without prejudice. I love my wife, and we are mated for life – even though she is free to go at any time. If she were totally free from societies bondage, and had boyfriends that would fuck her occasionally, I would proud and happy for her enjoying personal freedom. I would also feel affection for the males that gave the one I love so much pleasure. And if the day ever comes when she can present me with a cream pie, she will find me lustfully adding a bit more cream into the mixture, while making emotional love to her at the same time. When I portray this attitude in my writing, many think of me as a wimp instead of a realist. To me nature dictates over the transgressions of mankind who creates illogical rules, which frequently abridge normality creating unrealistic legal structure that is totally unneeded. +Incest obviously is a tool for evolution, since it was performed for ages prior civilization without any thought of protection. Unfortunately modern society, with a zero tolerance attitude, tends to eliminate affection from sexual activities while coldly promoting contracts (shallow marriages i.e. mistress and or gigolo of the week, rent a wife, rent a slave, etc.). ""We only did it (fucking) because we were both aroused,"" and any thought of enjoying the activity while intensely comforting a loved one seems to be on the back burner, just showing up occasionally from the writers that make their donations from the general public. This attitude is promoted by frustration that always seems to amplify jealousy – something the aging process tends to subdue. +The physical act of intercourse is something boys and girls do because they have the tools, and the programming that make it an absolutely necessity, biologically. Cumming into a pussy carries the tranquilizers a girl needs, and the shear pleasure and relief the male experiences after discharge into an eager receptacle is also lowering his testosterone; totally demonstrating the normal comforting and necessity of this beautiful act of sharing life's gifts. Porn stars have it right with proper attitudes toward the sex act itself as simple demonstrations of human lust, and they display it accordingly without complications (even though they are somewhat financially motivated). The multitude of 18 to 25 year old freelance hookers that our economy supports, tend to enjoy plying the art of seduction, the excitement of the rut, disobedience and defiance more than the financial rewards – while believing they are just having fun while getting paid for it. +Exaggerating is something I try my best to avoid. The majority of us are just average, but still have normal lust and needs. I try to target them, rather than idealistic models of beauty. I would rather hump a torrid plump affectionate partner, than a shallow cold but permissive beauty. Normal cunts expand with relaxation, so a loose hot pussy to me is demonstrating my partners comfort and trust with me. Also, the most sensitive contact areas for boy girl intercourse is the opening entranceway of the pussy, and the base of a cock - meaning excitement for the girl would occur with the male's restraint to concentrate on rapid short thrusting, ideally with a short plump cock, mixed with lots of aural stimulation to keep her juices flowing. When the magic moment occurs, it is most pleasurable with the cock fully embedded, tip seeking cervix and squirting to add hot male fluids into the feminine goo, while her pussy muscles spasm and choke cock base. G spot? That is a source of extreme pleasure for winning a maiden over, and convincing her that you're the man she has to fuck, much like playing and licking the clitoris. I treat it as another appetizer (""fooling around"") for the more serious and passionate rut. +Anal sex for me is unnatural, even though I am not a homophobe. I love menage a trios and believe I am actually making love to my male partner through the medium of the woman that is enjoying the both of us. In fact I met my first wife this way (loving my best friend more then her at the time). He wanted to share his girlfriend with me as an act of camaraderie. [He never did marry, while enjoying my wife, her girlfriends, and his other girlfriends – All of which he shared with me] Although I can write about anal, I just cannot get passionate to the point I feel competitive. My first wife enjoyed it so I was there for her and only one other girl who experienced me that way, in all of 50 years. I am quite happy to go to the grave with my ass a virgin!! +I do enjoy thinking about the passion and excitement of kissing my wife, while cumming into her girlfriends cunt, then slipping off her panting body to have my wife now straddle me and look into my eyes endearingly while she is steering my slippery cock into her pussy, that is twitching to re-energize me while we make love - without any jealousy or modesty. This is true love when one is seeking contentment for their partner, unconditionally! +I would have loved to gratify my daughters and cousins needs, if they would have come to me as an adult; however, I was a bit sanctimonious at that time, and would have been very guilty of breaking societies extremely tight taboos - where I felt adultery was a game for adults, but incest a crime against humanity. Boy, was I a dumb asshole back then! In my middle years is where my sexuality awakened. I had fun with my neighbors wife (3 nights a week for 5 months), then an Israeli Sargent (that was a wonderful feminine aggressor – no bondage just intense seduction). I was making out with my first wife in a dark corner at a party when her girlfriend caught us; she quickly removed her panties, laid down on the couch and invited me into a torrid fuck, to my wife's glee. After going all the way, she got up and wiped our juices off her pussy with her panties stating she didn't want to drip, checked my cock and said ""your wife is right about your staying power, now finish what I interrupted,"" she then took off for the ladies room to freshen up. My wife then gave me the hottest fuck of our marriage (and it was then open season on her girlfriends as a team). This to me is natural and normal, and is the cornerstone for all my later adventures, and for the fiction that I write; hopefully with demonstrative compassion because I wish my lovers to be contented, proud, and happy rather then guilty or embarrassed. +My hope with this writing is to help authors stimulate their audience to unconditionally accept their roles in life without concern of any extra embellishments, that are unnecessary to enjoy life's greatest gift – FUCKING! Trivia concern on bust size for example is truly unnecessary, since the sexiest thing about partners is their personality, desire, intelligence, sincerity and ability to enjoy - and keep secrets. Basically bust size should truly not be a handicap as long as the nipples are sensitive and responsive, and the titties themselves just don't interfere with the action, that is so much more important! I just don't keep a mental trophy of my conquests by the size of their mammary. Cleavage is a turn-on, however my goal is to have her bent double, with her ankles close to my ears, while I am cumming deeply into her churning cunt, while she is moaning happily into my mouth as we tongue wrestle. Having her panties dangle from an ankle I find very sexy when I am removing her legs from my shoulders, forcing me to kiss and lick her pussy again to encourage a more naked intimacy. +My last comment is about my outlook on the result of lots of fucking, and why adults should be prepared for the consequences. I wish I was more mature in my earlier lifetime, so as to realize that babies should not be a barrier or a problem, but a happy result when a good basic family unit is ready for their existence. Don't want babies? Use protection, but with the responsibility that if an accident happens you do the best you can to raise the tyke without punishing oneself or the baby. I know if I were young again and after establishing a good home, that I would enjoy sex parties with my wife, and if it ended up with her getting knocked up, the child is ours regardless of ethnic origin. We would raise it with family love while making sure it would have additional siblings to enjoy sharing life's experiences with. This to me is the definition of love, and what life is about! +Enjoy writing what you feel without being forced into dishonesty, or be pressured by competitive exaggerations. Don't attenuate mental orgasms by fear of exposing your sexual self." +936,Writing Quality Sex Scenes,TheEarl,How To,2003-09-05,2003-09-05,2022-01-04 08:42:59,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-quality-sex-scenes,Guide for those who struggle with fucking.,"['Character', 'Dick Pussy', 'Good Reason', 'Hand Breast', 'Hand Ran', 'Light Day', 'Sex Scene', 'Sex Scenes', 'Vagina Penis', 'Writing']",4.66,"Almost every author at some point has trouble writing sex scenes. Sex is such a transcendent experience that it almost defies words. So how are you supposed to write about it then? Fear not, for I have scoured the forums to bring you the wisdom of the ages! +And by that I mean I read what Weird Harold said on the subject. + **Do you really want to do this?** +The biggest thing wrong with a lot of the stories on Lit is that there doesn't seem to be a reason for the character to be having sex. A brother walks in on his sister undressing and suddenly they're both fucking like rabbits. We don't get why, we don't get what either of them are thinking, they're just straight in there. +A lot of people complain about difficulties getting characters to fall into bed. They write the background easily, but their characters don't seem to want to play and in fact resist getting together. Think about _why_ your characters are supposed to be shagging. Do they love each other, is she drunk, are they the last two people alive and it's a way to pass the time? If your characters don't have a good enough reason, then they may resist the sex scene and you'll end up with stilted or non-existent writing. + **Oh my God! No! Not the egg beaters!** +Never be afraid to be different. You may think that the inside of your mind is not fit to see the light of day, but trust me, there is much worse out here on the internet. Everyone has their own sick little fantasy and a lot of the readers on Lit are probably waiting for someone to write their own personal one. Never be afraid to write exactly what you're thinking about – there's probably someone out there who'll worship you for writing the story that he/she's been waiting for. I'm still waiting for someone to write the one with the credit-cards, the instant drying superglue and the small Panamanian dwarf named Tuscaloosa… +But I digress. + **And here we are at the Sex World Championships. The British team is looking very good this year, don't you think Bob?** +One of the more frequent mistakes that can be seen in Lit stories is the play- by-play. AFAIK, this is a Yank football term, but it fits quite well here. This is where the writer tells us exactly what the characters are doing, like he's a sports commentator giving radio coverage of the sex. + _He ran his hands over the upper hemisphere of her breast and used his fingers to tease her nipple. Then he kissed her neck, his lips slowly sliding down towards her chest, licking and sucking his way down her body. She groaned and put her hands on his back. He moved his other hand onto her hips, his fingers sliding inside her knickers._ +Well it's a good start for the young lad from Britain, don't you agree Bob? For those of you just coming in from work, we've just seen a beautiful bit of play to get her bra off and now, I think he's going to try and get his lips on her nipple. He's moving down her breast, beautiful mouth work there and he's found the nipple! What a good effort from Smith! Oh and you can see the crowd's excitement at that. +Play-by-plays can be identified by lots of sentences starting with he did this, she did that. Beware of this and try to spice up your work by telling us something apart from what their hands are doing. + **Mmm, that feels sooo good.** +The most important thing to describe is how things feel. The biggest organ in the human body is the skin and talking to your reader about how his touch sent sparks of electricity racing up your nerves as a warm flush radiated through your skin is always going to get a good reaction. People don't want to hear what your character is doing, they want to hear what it feels like. +Eg. Which would you rather read? + _He ran his hand over her breast, squeezing it gently_ or _She shuddered as his hand ran over her breast. Waves of excitement flooded through her body as he squeezed gently. She bit her lip and moaned in ecstasy._ + **What are you thinking about?** +Make sure you tell the reader what your characters are thinking. Sometimes that's half the fun. It is a bit of a difficult skill to get inside the heads of your characters, but well worth the effort of learning. People react better to realistic characters and the best way of making your characters real is by telling us what they're thinking. Another bonus is if you can make the sex seem dirty and forbidden to your characters, then it adds to the thrill of the reader. + **Where did that third hand come from?** +If you're struggling with a sex scene, then it may be because you have too many hands wandering around the place. Right, so his hand is on her breast, while her hand is on his dick and his other hand is squeezing her arse while simultaneously rubbing her clit. It can be very hard to keep up with what all of your characters are doing and you may end up putting your characters into an anatomically impossible situation or writing a play-by-play to ensure that everyone knows where the hands are. +A helpful hint for getting out of this predicament is to get rid of one of the sets of hands until you get in the mood. It's easier to work with if only one of your characters is actually doing anything. Start off by having him eat her out, or by her giving him a blowjob and you'll find it a hell of a lot easier. You don't have to worry about where the hands are going until you're nicely warmed up. Other variants include having her masturbate for him or using the perennial favourite sex-toy: handcuffs. + **Whose breast am I holding?** +Avoid lesbian threesomes. I'm not being discriminatory here, but you will thank me for this bit of advice. If you write in third person (he, she, it) then a lesbian threesome will result in a large number of 'she's, 'her's and name repetitions. +Regard: [i]""Tessa ran her hand over Bethany's breast, stroking her nipple. Jenna watched, as Tessa's hand ran over her body. She could feel herself getting wetter as she watched the two girls caress. +""You two look so hot,"" she said.[/i] +I struggled to make even that small paragraph comprehensible and I still ended up with 3 her's and 3 she's. Not to be tried at home. + **Hey, where did your bra go?** +Never forget to undress your characters. This sounds like a stupid thing to have to remind you of, but it is very useful. Some writers just strip their characters down in one sentence, something like 'They ripped off each other's clothes,' but I find it so much more fun to undress them slowly. Think about how much fun you get from undressing someone. Now put that into your writing. +This is also a superb opportunity to add in a little description. Mention things like: _'Her lacy white bra was a sharp contrast to the dusky skin of her breasts. Harry marvelled at how such a small piece of clothing could make her look so sexy. 'I wonder what she'd look like without the bra,' he wondered. Time to find out.'_ + **The attack of the killer adverbs.** +Slowly. Gently. Softly. Roughly. Adverbs are the tool of the devil. They look pretty to start off with, decorating your sentences so nicely, clarifying exactly what you mean. But then, they start taking over until every sentence has your character doing things softly and gently and slowly. Be very careful with adverbs or they'll eat you alive. + **Get on a roll.** +Don't stop in the middle of a sex scene. This may sound like a bit of an impossible request for those who type one-handed, but if you can last until the end of the scene, then it'll flow a lot better… I think I'll rephrase that. Whenever you stop in the middle of a sex scene, then you'll probably come back to it in a completely different mood to when you left. This is where sudden tone jumps and stilted writing come in. + **I shoved my turgid gearstick of joy into her throbbing tunnel of love.** +Try not to be creative with euphemisms. This kind of sentence will elicit nothing more than a snigger from a reader and you'll cringe when you re-read it in the cold hard light of day, when your hard-on/wet patch has disappeared. Stick to the main words for dick and pussy. +Which brings us on to: + **Choose your words carefully. They could be your last.** +Think about the pace of your sex scene. Are you writing a hard and fast rape scene? Or a slow and sensuous seduction. Choosing the right words can make a scene flow just that little bit better. There are so many synonyms for dick and pussy that it can be difficult to choose which ones to use. Choose two or three which you think fit the pace and characters of your scene and then stick to them. If you're writing about an innocent virgin who's decided to experiment for the first time, then she'd use the words vagina, penis and breasts. If you're writing about a sadistic rapist, then he'd probably use the words cunt, dick and rack. Tailor your vocabulary to your characters. +Whatever you do, don't switch without a very good reason. If you start off with vagina and penis, don't switch to cunt and cock halfway through. It's disconcerting. Having said that, switching can create a good effect if used well. I recently wrote a story about a very undersexed woman who ate an aphrodisiac ice-cream, growing gradually hornier and hornier throughout the story as she lost her inhibitions. She started off the story with vagina and then moved onto pussy. +And lastly: + **Be individual.** +To paraphrase an infamous Author's Hangout saying: it's all just Tab A into Slot B in the end. Make yours different. Add something that'll make your story stand out in the crowd. Don't just have 'they meet, they shag, they fall asleep in each other's arms.' Make it that they meet and he's a criminal and she's a bounty hunter (Sorry, just been reading Janet Evanovitch). She slaps the cuffs on him and tells him she's taking him in, unless… +I've written stories about the consequences of sex with a Satyr, with an insane witch, with a girl who's been given into slavery by her husband and about masturbation with a complete stranger on an airplane. It's all just Tab A into Slot B. The skill is all in the disguise. +I hope this helps. If you want to scream abuse/thank me/propose, then as always I can be reached at the address in my profile. Don't forget to vote and don't forget to go and read all the rest of my stories :D. If you liked this one, then try having a look at The 10 Commandments (in my profile). +Happy writing. +The Earl" +937,Writing Real Sex,Selena_Kitt,How To,2010-10-29,2010-10-29,2022-01-04 08:43:01,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-real-sex,"The answer to ""How Do You Write Such HOT Sex Scenes?""","['Author Advice', 'Erotica How-To', 'Sex Scenes', 'Writer', 'Writing', 'Writing Advice']",4.68,"""How do you write such hot sex scenes?"" +This is the erotic writer's equivalent to the question, ""Where do you get your ideas?"" +My response? ""Hell if I know!"" +I'm an intuitive writer. I sit down and I write. I'm not entirely sure how I do what I do, and when someone asks me to try to break it down, I'm often at a loss. For me, it's like telling someone how to breathe. You just...do it. +But if I'm forced to try to explain how it is I get from point A to point B (I'm having scary ninth grade ""show your work"" math flashbacks now) I can do it. Eventually. So this is how I do it. It may not be how you do it, or how anyone else should do it. It's just how I do it, and maybe that will help you, or someone else, get there too. +\--------------------------- +THEY'RE ALIVE! Your characters are alive and they are not the sum of their parts. They aren't measurements or hair color or penis size. I've done sex scenes without mentioning any of the above. Don't ask, ""What would my character do in this situation?"" Let them act. Let them decide. Let them speak. Let them feel. Especially let them feel. +GET TURNED ON If you're bored writing a sex scene, your readers will be bored. If you're turned on, your reader will be turned on. The emotion you are feeling will be conveyed on paper. It's a natural law of the writer universe. (This applies to any scene, not just sex ones, by the way. If it moves you to tears, it will move the reader as well). +DON'T STOP If you're turned on during a sex scene, really getting into it, your fingers flying over the keyboard, unless the house is on fire or we're under nuclear attack, DON'T STOP. Never, ever stop in the middle of a sex scene. (This rule also applies well to actual sex). You will lose your momentum, and it won't be the same when you come back to it. Your mood will have shifted, and the reader will feel it. +LUST Human beings want. Our entire culture and economy is based on desire. We lust after the things we want. We dream about them. We fantasize about them. We want. And we want. And we want some more. Our bodies and our brains are hardwired for desire. We don't just eat once and then we're done. We don't just have one orgasm and then it's all over. We continue to crave what we want. Our emotions rule us, especially when it comes to sex. They're naturally going to rule your sex scene, too. We don't insert tab A into slot B because we're following a blueprint manual. There's a reason behind our physical responses, and that reason is always, always tied to emotion. Remember that. Use it. +Desire is what makes the sex hot. Make your readers wait for it. Foreplay begins with seduction, not with sex acts. It begins with eye contact. Flirting. Innuendo. It progresses, but slowly. Tease your readers. Tease yourself. Draw it out. Make it a long, slow burn. The best orgasms are the ones we wait a long time for. It's no different when writing sex than it is doing it, really. +DON'T BE AFRAID Don't be afraid of the sex. Don't be afraid of the fluids, the flesh, the human expression of our bodies. It is what it is. Some writers will tell you not to ever speak of bodily fluids. They're above all that messy stuff. Thankfully, erotica and erotic romance have come a long way, baby. We can use the words cock and pussy now, and I would encourage you to do so. I wouldn't suggest using the medical terms, however (i.e. penis and vagina) or euphemisms like ""member"" or ""sheath."" Cock and Pussy are good. Think of them like peas and carrots. They go together. A few (and I mean a FEW) other words can work for a little variety. Prick or dick for example. Or cunt. No, don't be afraid of the words we use during sex. It's okay to talk dirty. ""Please,"" or ""Now,"" or ""Suck me,"" or ""Lick me,"" or ""Harder. There. More."" These are words we've all spoken (I hope!) They naturally arouse. That's a good thing. I'm not afraid of cum -- I'm not even afraid of spelling it ""wrong."" You shouldn't be either. +THE GRAND FINALE Once you reach the point of no return, you've built up to the sex, you've teased your readers (and your poor characters) enough, now it's time to give them what they want. This is not the time to skimp. You can't gloss over the orgasm. (Or orgasmS). We all (hopefully!) know what an orgasm feels like. Description doesn't have to be technical here. There are spasms and contractions, there is throbbing and trembling, gasps, moans—the combinations are endless. You can and should include those, but don't be afraid to move into the realm of metaphor. Sex can be like flying. It can be like falling. It can be like dying. This is the culmination of everything, the point you've been waiting for, working toward. Let your imagination go as wild as you would during an actual orgasm. Let yourself free. +DEFYING THE LAWS OF PHYSICS AND OTHER MISHAPS On a practical note -- your characters shouldn't defy the laws of physics. Women cannot take twelve inches of hot man meat down their throats. An average vagina is only four inches deep. 44DD breasts cannot defy gravity. And if you're using any of the above descriptions in your sex scenes, you need a basic writing course, not a primer on sex scenes. Also, don't let your character's clothes go missing. She can't be wearing pantyhose one second and be taking it from behind the next. The clothes have to come off and be accounted for somehow. Trust me, your readers will notice if they aren't. +\--------------------------- +So that's it. It's not rocket science (or ninth grade math). That's how I get from point A to point B—from a blank page to hot, sweaty sex scenes. Really, it's no different from any other type of writing. I don't write sex scenes any differently than I do scary ones or sad ones or violent ones. It comes from a place within me that is beyond me, beyond all of us, and I think as writers, we all know when we have tapped into that place. It feels a little like flying. Like falling. Like sex. Trust yourself. Breathe. And write. If your characters are alive, if you live and feel the sex scenes in the story yourself, I promise you that they will also come to life for your readers." +938,Writing Realistic Female Dominance,stlgoddessfreya,How To,2015-01-20,2015-01-20,2022-01-04 08:43:02,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-realistic-female-dominance,The Three R's to give your femdom scene the detail it needs.,"['Bdsm', 'Cfnm', 'Domestic Discipline', 'Female Dominance', 'Femdom', 'Lifestyle', 'Male Submission', 'Relationship']",4.78,"**Scene 1** +I couldn't believe I was doing it, even as I followed the tall blonde in the black PVC catsuit to the door with ""Private"" written over the door in tilting red script. I just went to the sex club to watch, at least that was my plan, but as soon as I saw her demonstrating the proper way to flog a man in a kneeling position, I knew I would be on my knees for her by the end of the night. I couldn't see anything inside the private room after she disappeared into the shadows. +""Close the door behind you, then turn around and press you palms and forehead to the wood,"" she commanded from the dark. I didn't hesitate to obey. Her catsuit creaked as she stepped up close behind me and ran her hands over the backs of my arms and shoulders to measure my compliance. She pushed even closer, using her chest and hip to pin me hard against the door. Her breath tickled my ear. +""Spread your legs. I want to inspect what you're offering. See if it's worth my time."" I moved my feet apart, the fabric of my pants stretching tightly across my erection. She reached between my legs from behind me with one hand and cupped her palm roughly against my balls before squeezing my stiff cock through my pants. I groaned. Without a word, she unbuckled my belt, unzipped my pants, then pumped my burning cock in her fist. I was too turned on to resist her squeezing, stroking fingers and soon I was shuddering against her while thick spurts of my cum painted the door. She stepped away from me and pushed me to my knees. My eyes had adjusted well enough to the darkness of the room to look back over my shoulder to see her sit down in a chair. She crossed one glossy leg over the other and watched me. +""Lick that mess up so we can get started. At least now you won't come first thing."" +I stared at my come, sliding slowly down the door. Was I really going to do this? I didn't even know her name. + **Scene 2** +Everything was in place for my anniversary surprise. My parents picked the kids up from school and were under strict orders not to call until Sunday night unless someone lost a limb. Takeout from the restaurant where we went on our first date fifteen years ago waited on plates in the oven. Champagne was chilling in the refrigerator. All I needed now was my husband. +""I'm home,"" he called, as he came in the door. I sat on the couch in the living room and listened to him stomp slush off his boots before leaving them in the mudroom. ""Gina?"" +""In here,"" I replied, smiling. He still had no idea. +""Where are the kids?"" +""With my folks for the weekend. I have you all to myself."" I set my face into an expression of imperious serenity as he popped out of the hallway. He stopped dead when he saw me in my white silk robe, the golden threads of the embroidered pattern catching the afternoon light. My curly black hair was pinned on my head with golden combs, a few ringlets framing my face. My makeup was light, except for my shocking red lips. He was so surprised to see me in my special clothes somewhere other than the bedroom that his mouth was literally hanging open. ""Your awe is noted,"" I purred, fixing him with a heavy-lidded gaze, ""but your supplication is lacking."" +He was on his hands and knees at once, crawling across the floor to me. He kept his eyes on my feet. +""Please forgive me, my Goddess. Please forgive your worthless servant. I was so taken with your beauty that I forgot to pay proper respect."" +""Is forgetfulness an excuse for disrespect?"" +""No, my Light, it is not."" His voice squeaked a little coming out. He was ashamed and apprehensive. +""With no excuse, the just thing for me to do would be to punish you, would it not?"" +""You are always just, my Goddess. I deserve punishment. But I beg you to have mercy on me. Please, allow me to show you my love and devotion. If you will allow me to touch and kiss your feet, I promise I will show the proper respect this time."" +I stroked his cheek with my bare toes. ""I will allow it. Go retrieve your footbath basin from the bathroom. Change into the clothes I have laid out for you on the bed."" +He sighed and rubbed his cheek against the top of my foot, still careful to avert his eyes. ""Yes, my Goddess. Thank you for your sweet mercy to this poor supplicant."" +**** +These two very different scenes represent just two possible facets of the hundreds of scenarios that fall under the blanket definition of female domination. Femdom scenes are far more common as fantasy than reality. In a 2014 survey that's forthcoming in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 53.3% of the men surveyed had fantasies of being dominated sexually. In a 2009 survey published in The Journal of Sex Research using a similar sample size and makeup of participants, women rated fantasy scenarios of female sexual dominance much lower than fantasies of female sexual submission and further indicated that they were far less willing than the male participants to want to make their fantasies a reality. With such a wide gap between the number of men who fantasize about femdom and the number of women who are willing to be sexually dominant, it's a fantasy many have but few realize. +Writing for Literotica is one way to explore that fantasy and bring it to others. Why aim to write realistically when fantasy is the ultimate goal? Your audience falls into one of two categories: people who haven't had an experience like the one you're describing in your story or those who have. For those who have, details of your story that are too fantastic read the same way as stories that refer to 38D breasts being bigger that 32D breasts - it marks you as someone who probably doesn't have any experience with the real thing. The majority of your readers are going to be in the first group. Some readers love the outsized fantasy; they want every Domme to be a six-foot redhead with impossible proportions wearing shoes with heels higher than a human foot can arch. The majority, though, fantasize about having a real-life experience that's likely to be out of reach. Writing more realistic erotica makes it easier for them to identify with your characters. For authors concerned with painting a realistic picture of femdom encounter, it can be difficult to know where to start. +Realistic, resonant female domination writing is far more than accurately describing the feel of a flogger or the sheen of a pair of boots. The action, regardless of what it is, can always be broken down into the Three Rs that must be considered and addressed: Relationship, Ritual, and Release. + **Relationship** +The Relationship between the people in a femdom scene isn't just a question of whether they're strangers or established play partners, although that makes a difference for how comfortable they are with indicating consent non-verbally. There are also issues of actual power imbalances as the background for a scene, and exploring them makes the story not only more interesting but more realistic. +In Scene 1 above, the two characters are strangers who met in the sexually- charged atmosphere of a club. While it can be tempting to have a character so overwhelmed with desire that he throws caution to the wind, it's not realistic - a reader won't connect to a character who does something so far outside what he himself would do in the same scenario. The male character submits without actually voicing doubts to the Domme, but that doesn't mean he's not experiencing them. He's excited, but also hesitant. Showing his uncertainty about totally submitting shows how strong his desire is rather than taking away from it. +The fact that the two in Scene 1 don't know each other also means their play starts out with low-stakes testing of consent and boundaries. She goes into the room, but he has to follow her to continue. She tells him what to do, but he shows he accepts her dominance by doing it. It ends with her most extreme request, but she's not holding his hair and pushing his face into the door, she's giving him the choice to continue. It's not because she doesn't think she can do it. If anything, she's got greater power making him do it by calm request from across the room instead of using physical force. Because they have never played together before, she uses the most extreme instruction to test how sure he is before they move into the flogging he saw her give someone else earlier. +In Scene 2, the two characters are long married and obviously have played domination games with each other before. There's still an interesting element of novelty, though, since it's clear they have previously confined that kind of play to the bedroom and the husband is not expecting his wife to initiate the scene when she does. Because they trust each other and know their limits, they can realistically move directly into their scene as a surprise. There's no need for negotiation or either of them having trepidation about what they're doing, because the existing relationship makes it believable. +In Scene 1, there's not only a physical power imbalance but a social one, too. She's tall and strong enough to pin him against the door; he's already seen her flog another man. He's also a visitor to the sex club, there for the first time. She obviously has more experience than he does with the club and with femdom in general. These are small details, but they make the imbalance between them clear without either of them saying anything about it. +Other types of natural power imbalances that fit this model: boss and employee; strict governess/teacher and student; superior officer and subordinate; policewoman and prisoner/suspect; mother and son; nurse and patient; queen/lady and servant. +Don't just stop with natural power imbalances, though. Interesting stories can also come from inverting what would normally be a power imbalance in favor of the sub outside of the femdom scene. Inversions: employee who catches the boss doing something he shouldn't or discovers his submissive sexual tendencies; a student who masters her teacher; a suspect in for questioning who uses her dominance to bend a policeman to her will; a daughter who runs the roost over her doting father; a chambermaid who makes the randy lord her sex slave. +In Scene 2, there's no apparent power imbalance in the relationship itself at all. If anything, seeing the amount of preparation the Domme has put into making sure they will both have a pleasant anniversary highlights the lengths she goes to satisfy him as well as herself. This isn't the only way to write a long-term femdom relationship. What about the family where stay-at-home-dad is wearing a chastity device and panties under his jeans and polo? The boss who always lets his employees go early on Friday afternoons because he's got a standing date with the cleaning lady and her strap-on? Maybe the couple that switches off who's dominant based on which of their apartments they are staying in that night? Femdom fits into all kinds of existing relationships, with any kind of external power dynamic imaginable, so long as the details are consistent. +Another question of relationship is whether or not the people involved are being themselves (or a close version) or whether they're playing roles. In Scene 1, the narrator and Domme seem to be themselves; In Scene 2, the couple is playing the roles of Goddess and supplicant. Clear roleplay offers another opportunity to explore the difference between who your characters are outside the bedroom and who they are inside the scene. As in Scene 2, it doesn't take extensive backstory to set up the difference between the two. +The thing to remember for realistic femdom writing is that your characters are people before, during, and after the scene. They have relationships, fears, comfort levels, and reactions. The more you explore them, the more they become relatable characters instead of just bodies going through a shadow play. + **Ritual** +The core of femdom erotica is the ritual itself. ""Ritual"" doesn't mean doing exactly the same every time/ Even if it was your heart's exact desire, it would get old after a while. Instead, ritual means the kind of dominance, how roles are established, how it begins and ends. The ritual is what sets a femdom scene apart from the rest of your characters' lives. This is what your readers, whether they love pure fantasy or like their erotica grounded in reality, are seeking and the details make all the difference. +Setting \- Where your characters are in space and time is important to establish before you think about other details. Are they in public or in private? Are they in a place where sex play is unacceptable and they could be caught? Are they both taking a risk? Is the place familiar and comfortable? +Time is also important. A governess giving the young adult lord a birching is based in reality if your story is set in the Victorian Era, but it's a woman playing a role at any later time. When the Domme in your story calls a man her slave, is she being literal? History, alternative history, and science fiction can be great outlets for settings where inherent power dynamics are different from modern times. +In Scene 1, the setting is sexually-charged from the beginning and sets up a power imbalance: she is comfortable there and finds it familiar, he's there for the first time. Though the scene starts with them playing in a private room, there's a public space just on the other side that could be used if she wanted a crowd. In Scene 2, the play is confirmed to be very private in a time and place where the Domme has had time to prepare for a specific ritual. It seems unlikely that the couple will leave the house all weekend +. +Wardrobe \- What your characters are wearing (or not wearing) goes a long way to establishing dominance and submission. Scene 1 has a Domme in very common clothing in erotica. But how many PVC catsuits and five-inch heels have you seen in real life? How many have your readers seen? Does it seem like comfortable clothing a woman in charge would choose, or something she'd only wear for a male fantasy? +It's not that fetish wear and lingerie aren't appropriate or sexy for Dommes to wear. A woman owning, even flaunting her sexuality is a kind of power in itself, and nothing establishes that a scene is sexual and signifies that a role is being assumed or that a ritual is starting faster than describing the Domme wearing clothes she would never wear in regular life. Power is important, though, and for a realistic Domme, her sex appeal comes from her authority, not the other way around. The clothing details that make stories unrealistic and less relatable to me as a reader are the ones that indicate a woman has less power, not more. The domineering boss in the corner office doesn't show a lot of cleavage or wear a miniskirt to work unless her sexuality is how she got where she is. Who has more authority, a woman wearing a latex ""naughty nurse"" outfit or a woman in a crisp cotton nurse's uniform snapping on a latex glove? +In Scene 1, the Domme's outfit makes sense for where she is and what she's doing. It sends the right message because she's in a place reserved for the kind of sex she wants to have. In that setting, her clothes mark her as belonging, his street clothes mark him as an outsider. It also serves as a kind of armor, which emphasizes her physical dominance. Her skin only touches his in the ways she chooses, while his skin is available to her. In Scene 2, the Domme wears an opulent, comfortable robe and has bare feet, which fits not only her Goddess role but the type of rituals that they're going to engage in, foot and body worship. Both women are wearing costumes that show their dominance, but both would be out of place wearing the other's outfit. +What about the subs? What clothing enhances their role in the ritual? After reading Scene 1, do you have any doubt he's going to be taking off some or all of his clothes after he accepts her challenge? In Scene 2, even though the clothes she's laid out on the bed for him are not described yet, do you think he's going to come out wearing more or less than he went into the bedroom wearing? For male subs, nudity is the visual shorthand for submission. It's so powerful that there's a whole genre of stories based around just that aspect: clothed female(s), naked male. Other than nudity or partial nudity, feminizing clothing is the biggest category of ritual clothing. Anything from a pair of panties to a full sissymaid outfit with petticoats, stockings, and high heels show clear male submissive roles. +Clothing for the sub, just like clothing for the Domme, has to fit the ritual. An elaborate outfit or a collar in Scene 1 doesn't make any sense for the setting, the amount of time the Domme has had to plan, or the relationship between the two. In Scene 2, though, an elaborate outfit makes sense for all the reasons it doesn't make sense in the first scene. The husband could come out of the bedroom wearing a simple loincloth or a complex leather harness, sandals, and collar. +Avoid just listing the clothing people are wearing. In Scene 1, the sight and sound of the Domme's clothing add to the sensory description of the scene. As that story progressed, there would be more descriptions of how the PVC felt against the sub's mouth and tongue, how it tasted, what it looked and like when he was in different positions. +Script \- How much do your characters speak to each other and how do they talk when they do? The script is where roleplay comes in more than any other part of the ritual: the script is what makes a modern Domme with a cane in her hand a nun punishing a pupil, the lady of the house disciplining her servant, or an amazon delivering the stinging punishment he so richly deserves. +In Scene 1, the sub doesn't speak at all. Part of the way the Domme takes control of the scene is by knowing what to say, because the sub doesn't know what he's doing or what comes next. The two of them have not moved into any roles that we see in the scene other than sexually adventurous versions of themselves. +In Scene 2, the script is the biggest part of the ritual. The two characters speak in a completely different, way when they're in the scene versus their casual conversation when he first comes into the house. Their roles are established immediately through the language that they use: she's a Goddess and he's a supplicant, trying to worship her. She uses the script, not physical force, to dominate him. Her questions demand his response, but the way she asks them doesn't leave anything open to his interpretation or input. It's clear from the formal way of speaking and the vocabulary that includes multiple ways of referring to each other that they have developed these roles and rituals over time. +One of the most important things to parse when making a realistic femdom script is what the characters call each other. ""Mistress"" would work well for either Scene 1 or Scene 2, but doesn't work for a medical, caretaking, or education scene. ""Miss"" works for a strict teacher or strong-arming nurse, but not for the goddess in Scene 2 or the dominatrix in Scene 1 (unless she made him use it ironically). Don't be afraid to get creative or use the same terms from languages other than English. ""Domina"" is perfect for a Roman slave scene or a goddess; ""Madame"" works for a woman with a penchant for tall boots and short whips; ""Signora"" is ideal for a demanding inspector of domestic servitude. All of them just mean ""lady"" in Latin, French, and Italian, respectively, but their connotation brings different, richer meanings. +Humiliation \- Not every femdom scene requires humiliation, and too much humiliation turns some readers off. The thing to remember about the level of humiliation involved is that it's purely contextual; there is no inherently humiliating act. +In Scene 1, for example, the sub licking his own cum off the door is humiliating but only because he hesitates. If he had dropped to his knees and lapped it up without being told and showed no conflict or shame, it would carry a totally different emotional weight than it does in the actual scene. Similarly, if the Domme was crouched over him with her fist bunched up around a handful of his hair and he was begging to do anything but lick his gross spunk off the nasty sex club door, the exact same act is extremely humiliating. +In Scene 2, the sub crawling on his hands and knees then rubbing his face against the Domme's foot is sweet, even romantic. Their script doesn't emphasize that position or act as one of humiliation, but as natural. Now, imagine the exact same thing happening in Scene 1 at the Domme's command. Not nearly so sweet, is it? +What about more extreme examples, like pegging or enemas? Aren't those inherently humiliating? It's certainly easier to make those acts express humiliation, so not much else needs to be included in the script to get that point across. What if the act is hot but its humiliation aspect is not, or doesn't fit the relationship? Have your characters talk about and react to the act like it isn't humiliating or shameful and you rob it of other connotations. A Domme putting on her strap-on and emphasizing in her script that fucking the sub with it is a coveted reward for his obedience, or even having her use the strap-on in a face-to-face position, takes the humiliation out of the act. An enema for a grateful sub as part of a bathing ritual, treated as a purification of the body instead of a test of endurance isn't humiliating. If an act fits your story but usually carries an air of humiliation that doesn't fit, don't give up on it. +Acts \- The most important part, right? Maybe not. The complete act of a femdom scene might be the sub masturbating while the Domme instructs him in what to do on the phone. What makes that a true ritual instead of just phone sex is everything else around it. Any sex act can be made into a hot, realistic femdom scene if the details are right, no bondage or whips necessary. +Some sex acts are going to take more work than others to come off as showing female authority. Think about the effect of feminine clothing on a male sub to show his status - the same thing doesn't happen when a female sub wears masculine clothes. If anything, a woman wearing traditionally masculine clothes, it marks her as having more authority. The same thing is true for sex acts that have a presumption of penetrating/masculine/dominant and penetrated/feminine/submissive that can be overcome by the right script. Dommes giving subs oral sex, rimming them, or letting a sub penetrate them vaginally can all be acts of dominance. +I had a discussion with a friend recently about whether or not receiving anal sex could be an act of dominance. This is the script I wrote, a variation on Scene 2, to show him how it might work: +""Initiate, are you worthy of tasting me?"" +""No, my Goddess."" +""But I allow you to provide me oral servitude?"" +""Yes, my Goddess."" +""Why is that?"" +""Your mercy, my Goddess."" +""My mercy and my pleasure. Do you long to please me, Initiate?"" +""More than anything, my Goddess."" +""Good. It pleases me now to have a cock inside me. Initiate, are you worthy of putting your cock inside me?"" +""No, my Goddess."" +""That is correct. But you are mine to do with as I please."" +""Always, my Goddess."" +""It pleases me to use you in this way."" +""Thank you, my Goddess."" +""But you are in no way worthy of putting your cock inside my most holy place. That is meant for my own fingers and blessed instruments."" +""How can I please you then, Goddess?"" +""Lay down. I will use you to fill me in other ways."" +There, the foundation is laid for the Domme to have what she wants on her terms, for her pleasure. Maintain it with the position, something that gives her control over depth and speed of thrusts, and even taking it in the ass can emphasize her authority. +Worried about writing realistic femdom scenes because you've never personally experienced rope bondage, flogging, chastity devices, or any of the other things that are ""supposed to be"" in femdom? Don't worry about it. Write about the acts that turn you on or turn on the readers you want to reach. Writing about acts you have experienced first-hand will always give you a deeper well of realistic details to draw, and those are the real power behind getting your reader to relate to the scene. + **Release** +If the Relationship is the beginning and the Ritual is the middle, Release is the end of a realistic femdom scene. Only pure fantasy involves the Domme getting everything and the sub getting nothing, since no one would consent to a completely one-sided sexual experience. Release is where the sub is rewarded in the way the sub values, but it's always the Domme's decision to end the scene in a controlled way. +Release is not always orgasm and orgasm is not always Release. In Scene 1, the Domme brings the sub to orgasm as a preliminary matter. What he really wants may be an orgasm, but it won't be until he experiences a much greater intensity of submission and sensation. She might not let him come for the rest of the night then order him not to come until he sees her at the club the next week. The story doesn't have to follow him until the next week for the scene to be complete, so long as her controlling his orgasm and continuing their relationship is what he wants. If not, he has no reason to listen to her and her authority is broken because she's not doing what she's supposed to do in fulfilling his desires as well as her own. +In Scene 2, the sub may come many times over the course of the weekend, just once at the end, or not at all, depending on what he finds most pleasurable. It makes a big difference if what she has laid out for him on the bed includes a chastity device. What's clear from her prior preparation, though is that they are going to share a meal and champagne at some point that night, so there's going to be a controlled end to the scene and return to their normal roles. +You bring your reader through the same arc as your characters: building excitement, fulfilling excitement, and allowing excitement to have a satisfying end before returning to the baseline state. A clear release is particularly important for femdom scenes where the characters are roleplaying, so they can return to their usual personalities and relationship. Even in stories about couples who live a femdom lifestyle 24/7, they have to stop to fold the laundry and attend parent-teacher conferences. Pay attention to Relationship, Ritual, and Release and you'll give your readers a more realistic, satisfying way of living their fantasies." +939,Writing Sci-Fi,al_Ussa,How To,2010-07-31,2010-07-31,2022-01-04 08:43:03,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-sci-fi,A brief guide for aspiring authors.,"['Alien Sex', 'Cyberpunk', 'Faq', 'How To', 'Sci-Fi', 'Science Fiction', 'Space Opera', 'Time Travel']",4.29,"Sci-fi... science fiction. The very word conjures to mind spaceships, intergalactic civilization, laserbeams and robots. Or, maybe it just conjues up images of slightly overweight nerds in glasses who are obsessed with TV shows and live in their parents basement. Which is unfortunate, even if there is some grain of truth in it. +I'll admit it. I'm a little nerdy at times. I got good grades in school, I read science fiction novels, played D&D, and watched Star Trek. I still have a Star Trek t-shirt in my closet. Hell, I even wear glasses. +But you know what? I'm proud to be a nerd. And if you are reading this little 'how-to' guide that I've put together, then you probably are too. Go on. Admit it. There's no shame in that. We nerds have got plenty to be proud of. We practically invented the internet! We put out thousands of novels, comics, movies, TV shows and (let's admit it) fan fictions every year! We even have a whole channel dedicated to us! So be proud; you're in good company. +And now that we've got that out of the way, let's get onto the real meat: actually writing science fiction. +As the name might suggest, in the most basic form, science fiction is a particular genre of fiction which deals with science. Just how accurate said 'science' is varies from story to story. Certain tropes and even styles have come to focus on particular issues like time travel, alien life, parallel universes and the like, but really none of these things are necessary. A great many science fiction stories are set in the future, or at least the near future, but even this is not required. +Really, the first thing you need to do is find some spark or inspiration. This is no different from any other story, of course, but a science fiction story should always be centered around some scientific development or breakthrough. This need not even be the central theme of the story. In a world where cybernetic implants or extraterrestrial visitation are commonplace, one can still explore all the complexities of daily human life and passion. The only real difference is that now you have some fantastic element to use as a plot device. +And even then, this need not be too outlandish. Perhaps you envision a post- apocalyptic world where radiation-scarred mutants dominate society, or life amongst settlers on a recently terrformed Mars. But, maybe you want to do something a little more low key. A story exploring the ramifications of current events such as cloning, genetic engineering or antimatter need not take place in a world dramatically different from our own. +The best advice I can give for inspiration is to look at current scientific developments. For example, Michael Crichton's 'Jurassic Park' deals with cloning and modern interpretations of dinosaurs, and it was an absolutely brilliant book (and a good movie too). If you look through newspapers, as well as magazines like National Geographic, Scientific American, Smithsonian and the like, you can find any number of news items and articles to take inspiration from. A trip to your local library might uncover a few gems, and the internet is a gold mine. When it comes to science, most of the important things come from journals as books tend to be outdated or disproven pretty quickly. Fortunately most of these journals are online these days. +But you need to be burdened down by accuracy. Yes, if you are going to be writing about the subject it couldn't hurt to get some basic understanding of astronomy, chemistry, geology, biology, mathematics and the like. But you shouldn't feel like you need an advanced degree in quantum physics either. That's why we are talking about science FICTION here guys, not peer-reviewed scientific journals. Having your terminology and basic facts makes a story more believable but you will presumably be playing with some our basic assumptions. +Case in point, Mary Shelley's 'Frankenstein,' which is a classic and has been adapted (and spoofed) in film, television and popular culture. You probably know the basic plot: Dr. Victor Frankenstein sews together a patchwork man out of cadavers and brings him to life. What you may not know is that Mary Shelley wasn't quite sure about how she could explain it through 'science'. Rather than being daunted by this, she simply glossed over the process, describing it as a perverse blend of 'science' and 'alchemy'. And it didn't take anything away from the story. +Be somewhat consistent with the 'science' in your fictional universe and at least have a grasp of the basic terminology and you will be fine. If you are going to post it on the internet, be aware that many self-styled critics and 'experts' will probably point out every little mistake that you made. You have a couple choices on how to react to this, but my best advice is to develop thick skin. Don't let their comments get to you. Besides, as I said before, you aren't dealing with actual 'science'. You are writing fiction and shouldn't be afraid to toy with the basic laws of the universe. +Far, far more important is developing an interesting story with three dimensional characters, each with their own personality, voice and (dare I say it) character. The 'science' elements of your story should never overshadow the fact that you are writing a story about people... or mutants, aliens, robots, cosmic entities from a parallel dimension, etc. Its far better to use the fantastic 'science' elements as a plot device to move the story forward, to add to the dilemmas the characters face, and to create situations which they must react to. +Does your story take place in space? Then how have the characters adapted their daily routines to zero gravity? Or is your story set in a post- apocalyptic world? If so, maybe you should plan out the events that led to this apocalypse, even if your readers won't be aware of this. It helps to add depth to the fictional universe, and to keep it fairly consistent. Don't be afraid of paradoxes either. It's completely acceptable to limit characters by saying that certain actions would have disastrous consequences, up to and including destroying reality itself. +Perhaps you remember the 'Back to the Future' franchise? That would actually be a prime example of this. When Marty McFly went back in time to 1955, he accidentally tampered with the past, which almost caused him to cease existing. This is a more contemporary take on an old mainstay of science fiction. Ray Bradbury wrote a similar story in 'A Sound of Thunder,' which detailed a group of big game hunters going back in time to hunt dinosaurs. Despite precautions meant to ensure that they wouldn't change the past, one of the hunters accidentally steps on a butterfly, ultimately changing the future. +So let your imagination run wild. As long as you have a good idea, you're great. But before you get started, I'd like to introduce a few of the more well known 'sub-genres' of science fiction. Some of them may be familiar – like old friends from the sci-fi section of your book store or the video rental shop – while others may be new to you. Hopefully it will provide you with some new ideas that you might not have otherwise considered. + **Hard Sci-Fi** +""Hard"" sci-fi refers to a sub-genre based around the physical sciences, such as physics, chemistry, astronomy, geology, mathematics and the like. It is based very much on the actual science, and as such requires a little more research and dedication than other genres of science fiction. Still, it is fiction and can (and does) have the fantastic elements common to other sci-fi stories. The key difference is that it tends to be much more grounded in reality, so no laserbeams, psychic powers or intergalactic battles. The best examples of this would be Arthur C. Clarke's 'A Fall of Moondust,' Kim Stanley Robinson's Mars Trilogy and the short story 'The Cold Equations' by Tom Goodwin. + **Space Opera** +If hard sci-fi can be understated and grounded in reality, then space opera would be the complete opposite. Such stories are generally set in the distant future, when intergalactic travel is not only achieved, but has become common place. Such stories often involve numerous world or galaxy spanning civilizations, alien races and larger-than-life characters. Often set in space, the plots to these stories can be long, complicated and span worlds or even galaxies. Think of popular TV shows like Star Trek, Firefly and Babylon 5, as well as E. E. ""Doc"" Smith's Lensman series and Frank Herbert's Dune. + **Science Fantasy** +Perhaps related to space opera, science fantasy is a particular sub-genre which involves more fantasy and less science. Such a setting might be characterized by advanced technology, space travel and alien races, but has decidedly un-scientific elements like 'magic' as a heavy plot device. Like space opera, such stories tend to be over-the-top with epic characters and world shaking events. But they tend to draw as much from Joseph Campbell and world mythology as from hard science. In case you haven't guessed, the best example would be the Star Wars, but literary examples also exist, like Edgar Rice Burrough's John Carter adventures and Anne McCaffrey's Dragonriders of Pern series. + **Cyberpunk** +Grounded more towards the hard science end of the spectrum, cyberpunk is an old and very popular type of science fiction based around dystopian futures in which robots and/or cybernetic technology has become common place. Obviously the abuse of technology and the human body is a major theme in this sub-genre, and it is very much characterized by a certain gritty, depressing mood reflecting the social disparity of the setting. William Gibson's Sprawl trilogy, Max Headroom, Blade Runner, animes like Akira and Ghost-in-the -Shell, and the RPGs Cyberpunk and Shadowrun are prime examples. Indeed, cyberpunk has spawned its own subculture, and if you plan to write it, you would do well to research their particular aesthetic. + **Time Travel/Alternative Histories** +Almost two separate fields, both relate to the question of what would happen if you changed this or that. Time travel involves taking a person from one time period (past, present or future) and putting them in another. Often, it involves some sort of machine but I've seen a few creative alternatives. Our time-traveler then has to face various problems (possibly monsters like the Morlocks) and find their way home without changing the timeline. Examples of this would include Ray Bradbury's 'A Sound of Thunder,' H.G. Well's 'The Time Machine,' Michael Crichton's 'Timeline' and (to a degree) Doctor Who. +Alternative histories are similar to this in many ways, except that they extrapolate outward from changing one (or more) important historic event. What if the South won the American Civil War and ceded from the Union? What if Alexander didn't die and finished his conquest upon returning from the East? What if the Soviet Union was still around? We'd live in a vastly different world, and while it may not involve robots or aliens, it's still sci-fi. Philip K. Dick's 'The Man in the High Castle' explores one such world in which the Axis powers won the Second World War. + **Pulp** +Again, 'pulp' is a pretty broad term which almost demands its own genre. There are consistent tropes and themes that reoccur in pulp adventures, and many common stock characters. But until, let's treat it as a kind of science fiction. Modern pulp stories try and capture the feel of adventure and detective stories popular in the early twentieth century. Serialized in magazines and dime novels, these lurid, two-fisted adventures tend to focus on heroes who are larger than life and often involve elements of the fantastic. Psychic powers, exotic locations, martial arts, pseudo-science and dangerous dames are all common elements. If you are familiar with Doc Savage, The Shadow, Flash Gordon or pretty much anything published in 'Weird Tales' then you know what I am talking about. As with certain other sub-genres, you really need to capture a certain aesthetic in order to do these stories justice. + **Superheroes** +The natural legacy of the earlier pulp adventures, superheroes such as those found in the pages of Marvel and DC comics have become a mainstay of modern pop culture. While you can still find the stereotypical muscle-bound men in spandex and capes, the classical superhero has been forever changed by Alan Moore's gritty 'Watchmen.' Now you've got a darker, more cynical take on the genre which you can explore as well. If you are going to write a superhero, it's pretty much the same as other forms of sci-fi, but the story will be shaped by the hero and his superpowers (or lack thereof; Batman, one of the most familiar superheroes, has no innate powers and yet still manages to be interesting, fighting crimes with high-tech devices). + **Steampunk** +As the name implies, steampunk is a flavor of sci-fi based around clockwork and steam technology, usually set in a Victorian or pseudo-Victorian setting. Sometimes they involve alterative histories, but this is not always the case. While the level of technological development is important in these stories, the aesthetics and 19th century dress and etiquette matter just as much. Examples of this can be found in the works of Jules Verne and H.G. Wells, Alan Moore's 'League of Extraordinary Gentlemen,' the Deadlands RPG and the excellent (if short-lived) 'Adventures of Brisco County Jr.' TV series. Again, if you want to write steampunk, it is essential to research the subculture first. + **Alien Conspiracies/Cover-Ups** +Since the X-Files came out, there has been a boom of sci-fi stories involving alien contact and the government cover-up. This is obviously connected with the popularity of such stories, starting with the alleged abduction of Betty and Barny Hill in 1961. Such stories take place in the present-era, and have a sinister tone with a shadowy military-industrial complex covering up the existence of aliens. Or perhaps even working in collaboration with them! If you intend to write on this, I would suggest reading up on alleged alien abductions, men-in-black, cattle mutilations and other elements of the UFO hunting subculture. The most obvious example of this in popular culture comes from the X-Files, as mentioned above, but there is no shortage. + **Experimental** +Perhaps the most difficult sub-genre to define, or write for that matter, experimental sci-fi has as much to do with the style of writing as the story itself. It often involves toying with some of the assumptions common to speculative fiction, and attempts to push the boundaries even further. I would suggest that you get a couple of stories under your belt before you try writing this sort of story, but whatever you feel most comfortable with is good. Examples would include writing a story from the point-of-view of a non- human entity or shifting time within the story itself. Difficult concepts to get your head around but still fun to think about. Just make sure that your audience can follow you. + **But What About Monsters?** +Horror and sci-fi are close; almost like siblings or lovers. It shouldn't be surprising, then, that it can be hard to separate the two. One thing I've often told people is that 'horror' involves monsters, be they real, physical monsters (Dracula, the wolfman, Freddy Kreuger, Pinhead) or figurative ""monsters"" that display all the worst traits of humanity (serial killers like Michael Meyers, Jigsaw or Norman Bates). The truth is that it's never so simple. +Science fiction frequently involves the question of alien races, or at least intelligent species other than humanity. Now, usually there is a pretty clear cut line. Nobody is going to claim that Vulcans, Ewoks or even Daleks are 'horror'. On the other hand, something like the movie 'Alien' has very clear elements of both horror and science fiction. Which one is it? Is it both? I would be inclined to say yes. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with crossing genres if you feel like it. Just be aware when you do so and you'll be fine, because a science fiction story is (at its core) simply a fiction story which features some element of fantastic science. It could be horror, but it could just as easily be romance, comedy or mystery. Take your pick. +The main difference between horror and sci-fi, in my opinion, has to do with how much you explore these elements. Perhaps by its very nature, science fiction is speculative and is concerned with the question of what is out there, or what is possible. Horror tends to be scary specifically because it is unknown. That is where these two categories begin to overlap, and when they do, you can get some fantastic results, such as 'Aliens,' 'Invasion of the Body Snatchers' or the works of H.P. Lovecraft. Who said that aliens can't be 'scary'? +Of course, that said, there are just as many awful combinations of horror and sci-fi. Witness the travesties that were 'Jason X' and 'Leprechaun in Space'. Part of what made these so bad was the fact that they essentially just took the popular slasher character and dropped them in space with little to no real explanation. Sure, it might be fun for the camp value, but they aren't really memorable either. These should be textbook examples of how NOT to combine horror and sci-fi. + **Making Love in Space** +Since this is lit, I feel I would be remiss if I didn't at least mention this. If science fiction explores how people's daily lives might be affected by technological or scientific developments, then we absolutely must consider the question of sex (and sensuality). When we make first contact with aliens, someone will decide to have inter-species sex. Awesome, right? Well assuming all the parts are even compatible, what would be the ramifications of this? What if said species has completely different physical sexes beyond merely 'male' or 'female'? What if they are asexual and reproduce by budding off? Or what if they are parasitic? Hell, what about cross-species STDs? +Hopefully that got your mind running. Because science fiction is limited only by your imagination, there are infinite possibilities for describing and elaborating upon sex acts which would not be physically possible. The softcore porn spoof 'Flesh Gordon' is a good example of this, albeit rather light hearted and taken to the comedic extreme. Relationships between humans an aliens, or humans and robots, are but one of many, many possibilities. +Would humanity mass produce robots specifically for sex? How about clones bred exclusively to be concubines? In a world where cybernetic or even biological augmentations are common, what sort of fetishes might exist? What would sex in zero gravity be like? What would happen if you went back in time and became your own father? What would it be like to experience psychic sex? The list just goes on and on. And I'm sure that some of these have already appeared on literotica in some form or another, but there is still plenty of original material for you to come up with yourself. +In closing, I hope that this brief essay has given you some basic pointers and perhaps even some inspiration to start writing your own sci-fi, and maybe you would even be kind enough to share it with us here on lit. I in no way wish to limit your imagination, so go ahead. Be creative. There's an infinite number of possible alternate universes to explore..." +940,Writing Sex Scenes,WFEATHER,How To,2010-12-11,2010-12-11,2022-01-04 08:43:04,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-sex-scenes,Elements to consider when writing sex scenes.,"['Author Advice', 'Author How-To', 'Sex Scene', 'Writing Advice', 'Writing Erotica', 'Writing How To']",4.58,"This is Literotica, meaning that virtually all of the stories here will include at least one sex scene. However, there are probably quite a few people who wish to submit a tale or two to Literotica, but feel that writing a sex scene is a daunting task. +To be honest, it is, even for those of us with a large number of submissions on Literotica. Sex is not a cookie-cutter activity, and writing a convincing sex scene is far from being a formulaic task. Further, those who participate in NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) and its many unofficial spin-off contests may want to add a few sex scenes to their novels if for no other reason than to add precious word count, but even then, a sex scene still needs to be somewhat convincing in order to make sense within the larger work. +Although I have been writing erotica for more than seven years, I certainly cannot say that I am perfect in writing sex scenes, but I believe I have gained some insight which may be of benefit for those who want to make their first attempt at writing erotica. Specifically, there are seven elements which I have internalized and consider as I write a sex scene. +Discovery +First, sex is an activity in which people can discover a lot about each other. Taking that into consideration, there are a number of questions to ask oneself about the characters involved in the scene: +Is this the first time the characters have had sex together? If yes, then there is almost certainly a lot of discovery taking place, at least on a subconscious level, even if all the participants are very sexually experienced. For example, does a woman in the scene prefer penetration or clitoral stimulation, or perhaps both, to achieve orgasm? Does a man have a particular erogenous zone which will instantly put him in the mood (and perhaps work as a catalyst for the scene)? +How do the characters know each other? If they just met and are simply enjoying a one-night stand, that will probably guide the sex scene in a particular direction. If they are longtime lovers, they probably know seemingly everything about each other, in which case the sex scene may really be a way for them to focus on their intimate bond. If the characters are related by blood or are of vastly different ages or are at different levels of a hierarchy, that can absolutely cast a shadow over their intimate activities, which in its own way can lead to various discoveries. +Are the characters trying something new or different? If the scene marks the first sexual experience for one of the participants, that will be the predominant factor determining the progression of the scene. If a roleplay scenario is being explored, that can put some interesting twists on things, even if the participants are longtime sexual partners. The addition of new toys or implements, such as a wider-than-average dildo or a homemade sex machine or the use of a blindfold or the testing of a whip, can potentially add a lot of variety to their sexual interactions and thus provide some spice for the sex scene itself. +To borrow a BDSM term, what are the characters' limits, both soft limits and hard limits? In other words, what do they not like to do sexually and what will they absolutely not do sexually? If a scene involved approaching or especially transgressing one or more limits, there are a number of discoveries which can be made, especially on the psychological level. +Location +Equally important is location. Any particular grouping of characters can be placed in different locations for their sexual activities, and they will likely behave differently. For example, a foursome might take place in the living room of a frat house during a major party, surrounded by dozens (or more) students cheering them on, commenting to each other, and recording the spectacle (perhaps to be uploaded to a Web site later, either for blackmail or to legitimately make some extra money). The same foursome snowed in during a blizzard may have other issues at hand, such as more intimate lighting (with the scene taking place in front of a glowing fireplace), availability of scented massage oils, or the possibility of couples watching each other more closely. +In addition to behavior, each location has its own inherent characteristics which could be exploited in a sex scene. These characteristics could be physical objects, or they may be simply how the characters behave in each location. A professor and a student having sex at the professor's second home far away from the university will almost certainly feel more ""free"" to truly take their time and indulge in each other, whereas the same couple having sex in the professor's small campus office may be forced to have just a quickie while strategically positioned so that no one can look in the window and see them. Objects in each location may play a role in the sex scene: hiding behind large trees along a hiking trail, sharper-than-usual blades of grass pricking the skin when having sex in a field, accidentally knocking a book off a shelf while having sex in a library... and, of course, sex on a spacecraft could be nicely complicated by a lack of gravity. +Location can also impact whether and how the ""outside world"" intrudes on the characters. For an incest tale in which a brother and sister are in the basement engaging in foreplay, they might hear their parents walking around upstairs in preparation for a dinner party, for example. A sex scene in a hotel might include a siren from passing emergency vehicles. A scene focusing on joining The Mile High Club could include the pilot making an announcement about upcoming turbulence. +Mechanics +The relationship of the characters involved in a sex scene can be critical. If it is a duo, are they of the same or opposite sex? If there are multiple people involved, are they all of one sex or are both sexes represented? +Beyond the physical mechanics of sex between/amongst the characters involved, the overall situation can dictate mechanics of how sexual activity will occur. Is one character restrained, and how is that character restrained? +There may be other mechanics to consider beyond merely ""insert Anatomy A into Orifice B."" If a character is being whipped, for example, the type of whip and the type of restraint used (if any) can impact how the whipping itself occurs. For example, a man tied face-down to a bed or a table may be relatively easier to whip than a woman strung between two thick pillars. Certain whips have different types of pain, such as ""sting"" versus ""bite,"" and those types of pain will likely affect the reactions of the person being whipped. The weight and length of the tail(s) may also require varying mechanical tactics, both to prevent wearing out the arm of the person conducting the whipping and to ensure adequate space if long tail(s) are being used (such as with the stereotypical bullwhip). +Mechanics are also a consideration when there are multiple characters involved in the sex scene. For a male-female-male scene, for example, double penetration might be employed. For a female-male-female scene, however, the man may be thrusting into one of the women, but what is the second woman doing? +Where mechanics can really become quite interesting, both for the reader and the writer, is when non-humans are involved. Perhaps the most obvious example is the tentacle sex scenario common in a number of Japanese animated and live- action videos. An alien's form of mating is encumbered only by the writher's imagination, so pairing one or more aliens with one or more humans can provide some interesting challenges (ideally with inventive solutions!) for sexual mechanics. A shape-shifter can present other interesting mechanical issues, as potentially could a powerful mage or a playful deity. +Mood +The mood of a sex scene can be impacted by a number of factors. The first is the overall story itself, especially if it is a long tale such as a NaNoWriMo project. The second is the grouping of characters and their location and their level/amount of discovery - again, a foursome having sex at a frat party will likely experience a different mood than a foursome trapped in a cabin by a blizzard. +There is no reason why the mood of a sex scene must remain the same from beginning to end. If the tale is from the point of view of a woman is having sex for the first time, for example, the scene may begin with a nervous or even fearful mood, but then become happier and more romantic after her blood has been spilled; the moods in this scenario could be heightened by the characters' culture(s). In a tale featuring a rapist, the sex scene may begin with consensual sex, but then become violent and fearful when the rapist decides ""it is time."" A playboy might be having good, fun sex with his latest partner, and the mood may suddenly change because he inadvertently calls her ""Jenni"" instead of ""Tabitha."" +Mood need not be solely dependent upon the characters. Their surroundings can also set or enhance the mood: a small campfire, soft jazz music playing on the radio, the sound of a pounding bass line piercing the wall of a dorm room... Their location might also set the mood: a candlelight dinner, a themed room at a bondage club, an elevator in an office building... The relationship between the characters can also impact the mood: a professor's natural instinct to teach might impact how he shows his student his preferred masturbation technique, sisterly love may add an extra element of calm and peacefulness as two young women have sex, a corrupt police officer may purposely abuse her position to ""enjoy"" the body of a frightened suspect... +Dialogue & Writings +One mistake which many new erotica writers make is not using enough dialogue, or perhaps not using any dialogue. Whether during a sex scene or during a breakfast scene, dialogue can provide great insight into a character's mindset at that moment. Over the course of an entire scene or certainly an entire story, a character's vocabulary can also give the reader a better understanding of that character, and often, this is revealed through dialogue. A gang member may act tough and talk trash a lot when with other gang members, but during sex with the one person who matters most, the same character may instead talk calmly and sweetly, helping to underscore the shift of personality between those two situations. If nothing else, having the characters use ""sweet nothings"" during their sexual interlude provides some variety, some short visual breaks, from block after block of multi-sentence paragraphs. Similarly, onomatopoeic utterances, such as ""Nnngh!"" when attempting to hold back an orgasm or pleas of ""Harder!"" during sex, can help to highlight that character's reactions to the sexual experience. +Another way to reveal a character's mindset is to make use of the character's writings. These could be in the form of a love letter, or perhaps a note hidden where another character will find it. Making use of modern technology, other sources of writings include text messages, e-mails, status updates on Facebook and MySpace, and blog posts. The most important thing, of course, is to use forms of writing appropriate to the story's time period - unless part of the point of the story is a mixing of time periods. +Thoughts & Emotions +Especially important when the story is told in first-person viewpoint from the position of one of the characters, the use of characters' thoughts and emotions can add significant impact to a sex scene, and to a story in general. How this manifests itself may depend on the relationship between the characters, the events leading up to or potentially following the sex scene, and countless other factors. +By making use of thoughts and emotions, the writer can really help the reader to identify with the character (when told in first-person viewpoint) or characters (when writing from an omnipotent narrator viewpoint). A stereotypical scientist character, for example, will typically think of things logically and be rather analytical; in a sex scene, such a character may be constantly analyzing what is happening and almost literally be calculating what should happen when and how it should occur. +Emotions and thoughts can also be quite impactful for a scene. Even if the characters have been sexual partners for a long time, their emotions are quite likely to be happy and loving on their wedding night. Thoughts and emotions can help highlight the trauma of the victim in a rape scene, or the weirdness of a character being ensnared and penetrated by a semi-sentient vine. Yet emotions and thoughts can also show counterpoints, such as a Master's calmness and enjoyment as he hurts his willing submissive and revels in her physical torment; similarly, if written from the submissive's point of view, emotions and thoughts can be used to demonstrate that while her body is being tortured, she craves the pain and/or the attention administered by her Master. +First-person Knowledge +Whether in a sex scene or a ""mundane"" scene, one pitfall many writing newcomers make when writing in first-person viewpoint is to have that character somehow ""know"" what another character is thinking or feeling when there has been no logical means to obtain that knowledge. The best real-world example I can give comes from personal experience having run multiple traditional (pencil-and-paper) role-playing games. As the Game Master, I can set the overall scene of a battle from an omnipotent point of view, and the players' characters may scatter, taking cover behind various objects which prevent them from seeing each other. If Player A's character makes a particular move, Players B and C may erroneously react to that move, and as the Game Master, it is my job to challenge them (""Is that you reacting or your character reacting?""). +The same situation applies in writing from the first-person viewpoint. Character A can see and hear what Character B is doing, but unless Character B says something or makes a significant gesture or facial expression, Character A cannot know what is actually going through the mind of Character B. If that is difficult to follow, try this: +> _Example 1_ > > I stood behind her, my hands on her shoulders as we both looked up at the > third-floor window with the open curtains, watching as an exhibitionist > couple made love in plain view of anyone at the intersection who happened to > be looking up at them. Amanda was shocked, having never seen such a thing > before, and I smiled to myself, making a mental note that she and I should > do the exact same thing once we returned to the hotel. > > _Example 2_ > > I stood behind her, my hands on her shoulders as we both looked up at the > third-floor window with the open curtains, watching as an exhibitionist > couple made love in plain view of anyone at the intersection who happened to > be looking up at them. Amanda gasped aloud, then muttered something which > was just barely audible over the noise of the traffic whizzing past us; I > heard her say, ""How can they...!"" and ""I've never seen...!"" I smiled to > myself, making a mental note that she and I should do the exact same thing > once we returned to the hotel. +In the first example, the main character is clearly assuming to know what Amanda thinks when she sees the exhibitionists, but in the second example, the main character at least has her gasp and her mutterings as guides to what she is thinking upon seeing the exhibitionists. +This potential first-person pitfall is critical to keep in mind when creating a convincing sex scene, and a convincing story overall. For the reader who simply wants a short wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am tale, a first-person ""assumption"" such as in Example 1 is not likely to be an issue, but for many readers, even if they do not immediately recognize exactly what is amiss, they will simply feel that Example 1 is somehow flawed, and that may be enough to turn off those readers. +...and ultimately, a reader should not be turned off by erotica, right? +Hopefully these concepts can provide the beginning erotica writer with things to consider when crafting a sex scene. Of course, there is no ""right"" way to write a sex scene, and not all of the topics addressed here will be valid in every such scene. Still, after more than seven years of writing erotica, these are the issues I consider as I write, and I believe that over time, they have helped me in creating better sex scenes... and better erotica overall. " +941,Writing Smut for Profit,MorganHawke,How To,2003-11-22,2003-11-22,2022-01-04 08:43:05,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-smut-for-profit,It's not just an adventure - it's a job.,"['Adult Industry', 'Adult Magazine', 'Anne Rice', 'Creative Writing', 'Great Work', 'Make Fortune', 'Publishing House', 'Sex Stories', 'Support Staff', 'Writing Sex']",4.61,"**Writing Smut for Profit: It's Not just an Adventure - It's a Job.** +Whoever told you that writing fiction for adult industry publication - for money - is supposed to be Artistic, Fun, or Easy -- LIED. +Writing may look artistic, and creative writing certainly is artistic (that's why they call it Creative Writing,) but writing for a living - writing for publication in the adult industry with the intent to get paid on a regular basis - is NOT artistic - it's NOT always fun and it certainly is NOT easy. +Writing for publication in the adult industry is WORK. Sure, some of it is fun, but the bulk of it is mind-bending, eye-straining work. Don't get me wrong, creativity is part of the job of writing for a living... But if you think us professional writers turn on ""the Creative Muse"" at 8 AM and shut her back off again at 5:30 PM then you are missing the point entirely. + **~ The Road to publication in the adult industry is paved with glamorous Half-Truths. ~** + **Half-Truth** : ""If you write it - it will Sell."" + **Whole truth** :""If you write it, and we are already looking for it - we'll Buy it."" +If you have written a spectacular BDSM story and the Publisher is looking for a Lesbian story, they will pass over your wonderful BDSM for a Lesbian one with only half the quality of your BDSM, because Lesbian is what they have an opening for - not BDSM. +And when they hang onto your stuff for months - or even years - at a time? Think of it this way: They're probably waiting for an opening that they have the perfect story for. + **Half-Truth** : ""Once you're in with a good Adult Novel or Magazine publisher - you're in for life!"" + **Whole truth** :""Once you're in with a good Adult Magazine publisher - you have only One Month to prove that you can Write On Demand."" / ""Once you're in with a good Adult Book publisher - you have only One Year to prove that you can Write On Demand."" +While your name is still sitting on the `net (or the shelf,)- you have until the next publishing cycle to punch out another story equally as good. (One month for your average magazine and one year for a novel.) Only this time, the publisher is going to tell you what they want: ""Gimme the same story, different characters, same plot arc but move some stuff around - oh and this time, don't have them do this, the readers don't like it, have them do that instead."" (Sigh.) +Look at it this way: You don't have to guess what the publisher wants this time around. + **Half-Truth** : ""Once I'm in with a good publisher - I can write whatever I want..."" + **Whole truth** :""If you want to stay with that good publisher you better write, what they want, when they want it, in the way they want it."" +You're going to tell the publisher that you will only write what YOU want to write? Do you really think any publishing house is going to hire a writer that won't do what they want them to do? Unless you are Susie Bright or Anne Rice: ""Game-Over, man. Game-Over."" +Time to go back to your desk, find a new pen name, punch out yet another novel - and go through the whole damn thing all over again to find another publisher. Only this time your new publishing house will call your old publishing house and ask what the problem was. Why aren't you with Them anymore? +Let me repeat myself: Do you really think a publishing house is going to hire a writer that won't write what they want them to write? +You want to make money? Then you knuckle under and Work your butt off to deliver what the adult publisher is asking for. +Writing for a living is about sitting at a desk, in an office, every day and WRITING whether or not you `feel like it'. Does this make you less artistic? Does this mean that you are not being creative? Does this make you a hack writer? +Forget all that stuff - it makes you EMPLOYED. +What else would you call it? Authors telecommute their work - and progress - to their editors and get paid for it. The faster they write the faster they're paid. The better they conform to the publishing house's demands, the better they are paid. End story. +Writing is NOT about creativity. It's about Money. A publisher is in the business of selling Books or Magazines - not displaying Art or promoting Literature. They are looking for what THEY want, WHEN they want it in the WAY they want it. Period. If you can sneak interesting, different and Creative writing in between their formulaic demands GREAT! They Love that! But in the mean time - the rest of your work had better conform to what they want. +What if the Muse strikes and you get a terrific idea? Great! Write it between assignments and make the publisher PAY through the Nose to get it. + **Half-Truth** : ""I can make a fortune writing Sex stories..."" + **Whole truth** :""You can make a fortune writing sex stories - if you sell it to a top publishing house, and it ends up on the New York Times Bestseller list - in one of the top 5 positions."" +Erotica is currently making a huge sweep in the eBook market. Authors for ePublishing Houses like New Concepts Publishing, Amber Quill, ExtasyBooks and Ellora's Cave are making rather tidy - and regular - royalties on their erotica novels, but not a fortune. +The Sex-story or Porn Letter on the other hand, is much faster and far easier to crank out at volume. It's also steadier work than erotica and it pays better per word count. ($25.00 to $150.00 per letter at 15,000 words max.) +What? Did you think adult magazine Letters were written by Amateurs? Hell no! Those are professional writers. Trust me, A magazine editor will accept and pay more for a letter written by a professional writer than anything written by an amateur. In addition: the more expensive the magazine, the more they'll (probably) pay their writers. +Note: The writing standards for Erotica Markets are higher than those asking for: Sex Stories. Translation: To write erotica, you have to use basic grammar, characterizations and a PLOT. +Does all this full-time writing sounds like too much work? Ask yourself a very important question: + **~ What is more crucial to your personal writing happiness? ~** +Your Artistic Endeavors? +\- Then you are a ""Recreational writer""; someone who writes for the sheer pleasure of doing something creative. You are an Artist. Your future consists of publishing one 'great work', with the possibility of publishing another 'great work' a few years (or more) later on down the road - and never with the same publishing house. +Money? +\- You are a ""Mercenary writer"" who will pump out what ever is asked for in a timely professional manner. You have all the traits of a professional Ghostwriter. Most ghostwriters make better money than most authors - because their books sell off the shelves every time. They're writing under someone else's already established and popular name. +What? Did you really think those big-time authors that wrote 3-5 books a year, wrote them All By Themselves??? HELL NO! They have a staff and / or ghostwriters to support them - and that staff gets paid - and paid well. +Making Money - under Your Own Name? +\- That makes you an ""aspiring Author"". Then you certainly have your work cut out for you. This is what Anne Rice writing Adult fiction under the name: AN Roquelaure, and horror author Steven King have done. They worked their butts off writing for their publishers pumping out work after work, after work - all by themselves with no support, until they made a name big enough to dictate their demands to their publishers. And since they don't have a support staff - they don't have to share their profits either. + **~ How do I know all this? ~** +I actually write for a living. I was Associate editor of an adult entertainment magazine. This is where I learned all about writing articles on demand. Somebody had to write all that filler text - and make it interesting. +Currently I am the copywriter / publicist for one of the largest Internet corporations in the Adult Industry. I write what I'm told to write, when I'm told to write it about things that I'm told to write about, because I'm being paid to do just that. +I'm a Mercenary. + **~ Advice to the Burgeoning Writer ~** +Write every spare moment you have and FINISH your story. +Always have at least two people read your stuff and check it for: +\- Readability: Can you tell exactly what's happening to who? And How? +\- Story-Drag: Is it Boring? Did your reader skim over any of your paragraphs to ""Get to the Good Stuff""? +\- Effectiveness: Does it get you hot? +Have at least two more people check your grammar and your sentence structure. +Read the Submission Guidelines carefully. Send the editors `exactly' what they are looking for. `Close' is not good enough. If they are looking for `Romantica' then your story had better be sexually explicit and involve a couple falling in love. You have to have both the sex and the Romance to interest a `Romantica' publisher. +Be willing to work with the editors on requested changes. Many editors try to be gentle with their comments to new authors and have been known to understate what they mean. That does not make their comment random or invalid! If an editor goes to the trouble of noting something about your story, take it very seriously. Remember - you are Writing to Sell and Publication Editors are looking for authors to fill their readers requests. They are there to make their publishing house look good by making YOU look good. +~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ + _Ms. Hawke has been a professional writer since May 2001 writing and publishing numerous, Adult Industry related articles for her company. Ms. Hawke is also an published author of (recreational) fiction since 1980, and an Erotica author since 1996. She has two book published._" +942,Writing With Your Audience In Mind,Chicago Bob,How To,2002-09-21,2002-09-21,2022-01-04 08:43:06,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/writing-with-your-audience-in-mind,Help your audience relate to your characters.,"['Boyish Hips', 'Good Writing', 'Hung Middle', 'Liz Jill', 'Mental Picture', 'Pam Joie', 'Past Tense', 'Remember Writing', 'World Class', 'Writing Erotica']",4.55,"Hello, +I have been reading stories posted to this site for about a year. I must admit, I found the range of subjects fascinating, and the range of quality astounding. +Some of the authors who post here are excellent writers with vivid imaginations and superior skills. Others are not quite as good, but who, with a little patience and a great deal of editing, could become much better. +There is good information and advice about writing already available on this site, and I would like, hopefully, to add to that body of work. +Before I go any further let me refer you to the 'Writer's Resources' section of the site and recommend that you familiarize yourself with this valuable resource. +If you are truly desirous of improving your skills, I seriously recommend a good book on basic grammar. Your bookseller can direct you. Buy one, read it cover to cover, and refer to it often. The advice regarding English grammar available on this site is conflicting, and sometimes incorrect. Therefore, you would be well served to research this subject independently. +You can use incorrect grammar in your dialogue because your characters may be poor grammarians, with good plot related reasons. Your narrative sections, however, are written as your voice. Poor grammar shouts 'poor writer.' Good writing demands good grammar. +******** +What follows now are my personal thoughts about writing erotica and how I approach the subject when I write a story. +Writing erotica is a little different than writing for other genres. An erotic story focuses on intimate, personal interactions between people. I believe that what makes a story erotic is not the descriptions of characters having sex, but the reader's ability to relate to the characters, as if s/he were part of the story and therefore part of the action. +For me, the best way to accomplish this is to develop realistic, interesting characters. I try to do this through description and dialogue, mostly dialogue. I also go to great lengths to make my writing readable. By readable I mean a natural flow with short paragraphs and easily identified dialogue from my characters. +Realistic characters are easy to create. They are all around you. They may even be you. The trick is to give enough information about your characters so your readers can form a mental picture of the person you are writing about without overloading your story with excessive details. +A brief description is better than a detailed one. Your readers will automatically fill in the details from their own experiences. Just give them the basics and they will create a mental picture of the person they want to 'see.' +For example, here is the description I wrote for the title character of the 'Amanda' series: +""She was wearing a white T-shirt, baby blue shorts, and white sneakers with those short quarter socks. Hers had a blue trim that matched her shorts. From behind, she looked very athletic. Her long blond hair was tied in a ponytail that hung to the middle of her back. She had a slender waist, narrow, almost boyish hips, and a world class tush. Her legs were long and well muscled."" +If you remove the description of the clothing, all that is left is: +""…she looked very athletic. Her long blond hair was tied in a ponytail that hung to the middle of her back. She had a slender waist, narrow, almost boyish hips, and a world class tush. Her legs were long and well muscled."" +A bit later in the story I add: +""She was cute, with a kind of perky look. Maybe it was the blonde bangs, maybe it was the warm, friendly smile, or her clear, healthy complexion."" +The actual description adds to only five lines, but every reader has a mental picture of a cute, athletic girl with bangs, and that image becomes the character for them. Now when they think of Amanda, they are thinking of someone they know, or may want to know, and they relate more closely to both the character and the story. +If you read my stories you will notice I hardly ever describe the male character, the storyteller. I do this so the reader can substitute any male image they want. If a man is reading the story, he can cast himself as the main character. If a woman is the reader, she can choose her own special guy to play the role. Either way, the reader can more easily identify with the characters. +Dialogue is the most important part of character development, at least in my opinion. What your characters say can provide a great deal of information about them. +An example from 'Amanda:' +""At a break in the discussion I said, ""I get the feeling you're not a high- school drop-out."" +""Not high-school, not college, not medical school, not three years of internship, not two years of additional training in internal medicine."" +Just like that, you know she is a physician specializing in internal medicine, and she is not afraid to let you know it. In fact, you can tell she is proud of her accomplishments, and of herself. +Now, I want to discuss 'realistic.' (I know that Wm_Sexspear © recommends against starting a sentence with 'now,' but sometimes I think it is appropriate.) +If you want your readers to identify with your characters, your characters must be realistic, everyday people. Resist the urge to create supermen and superwomen, unless it is really necessary for the plot line of your story. Guys with fifteen-inch cocks are few and far between, and ejaculating women do not exist. Try to stay within the bounds of reason. For that matter, what difference does it make to know the size of a guy's penis? Size is not nearly as important as what he does with it. +Sure you can embellish a little, we all do it. Just try to stay on this side of the realism line. Again, your readers want to be able to identify with your characters, so create realistic characters. +What about the tense you use for your story? I use the past tense, with an occasional aside in the present tense, like when I described the Signature Room in 'Amanda.' +I recommend you use the past tense. You are telling a story about something that happened, not dictating events as you are experiencing them. The past tense is more common for story telling and your readers are more accustomed to it. Why break with literary tradition? +When you have multiple characters in your story, remember that the last mentioned character is doing the present action. An example from 'Thank You Sis' may help explain this. +""With that Liz and Jill jumped up and there were more hug all around and then Pam and Joie left. They said they understood when I didn't offer to walk them to their cars."" +Liz, Jill, Pam, and Joie are all mentioned, but it is Pam and Joie who are the subject of 'They' in the second sentence. Pam and Joie were the last names mentioned. +This is very important to remember when you are writing a scene with more than two characters. If you do not make the proper references, your readers will become confused and will have to stop and reread your words. This creates a break in the flow, and frustrates your audience. You may have to rewrite sections like these a few times to be sure you will be understood. +When to use contractions is another touchy area. Personally, I think contractions are never allowed in good writing, except in quoted dialogue. People use contractions when they speak, so it makes sense to use contractions when quoting them. However, virtually all good writers avoid contractions in the narrative parts of their work. +Finally, about paragraphs. A paragraph should contain only one subject, and for stories intended to be read for entertainment, they should be short! +Also, dialogue starts a paragraph. Every time! When a character talks, start a new paragraph. When another character answers, start a new paragraph. Please. +If a character is giving a long monologue, start a new paragraph every time there is a change of subject. For example: +""I want to tell you about John. He's the biggest guy I ever saw. +""Oh yeah. What do you think about those articles in the paper yesterday?"" +One speaker, two subjects, two paragraphs. Also notice the quotation mark is missing from the end of the first paragraph. If it is the same person speaking, just use quotation marks at the beginning of each paragraph until their dialogue ends. That way, your readers will know it is the same speaker. +Always remember that writing for someone is not the same as speaking with them. When we are face to face, or even on the telephone, we have voice tone, and/or facial expressions, plus the chance to ask for more information, or even explanations. When we write, our readers have only our words on the paper or the screen. If those words do not accurately convey our thoughts, there is no way for our readers to ask for clarification, and our message is lost. +Writing is the art of converting to print what is in our minds, such that a reader will be able to recreate our mental images. This is not easy to do. To do it well takes careful thinking, careful editing, and careful proof reading. +I wish you good writing, high votes, and positive feedback. +Regards, Chicago Bob" +943,The Year of the Rabbit,sophia jane,How To,2006-01-19,2006-01-19,2022-01-04 08:40:38,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/the-year-of-the-rabbit,Getting creative with your rabbit vibe.,"['Clothespin', 'Masturbation', 'Rabbit', 'Toys']",4.25,"Shortly after I separated from my husband, I decided to invest in a Rabbit. After all, I had heard amazing things about them, stories about women having the best orgasms of their life within minutes of pulling their rabbit from its box. Sex and the City even did a show about a rabbit. +I shopped around on the internet and finally settled on a model I could afford. Needless to say, I was anxious to try it out. I've been masturbating for years, but my experience with toys had been limited by budget and an ex who just wasn't all that into toy play. So while it only took a few days for my package to arrive, I had already been waiting for years to try it out! When it arrived, I greedily opened the box, put the batteries in the remote control, stripped off my clothes, and set to work. I wasn't too impressed with the spinning action of the base, so I left that off and focused instead on varying the speed of the rabbit ears, while I slowly pushed the rabbit in and out of my pussy. And I waited. And I waited. And eventually I had an orgasm, but it wasn't all that impressive. In fact, I was completely disappointed in it. What had happened to the mind-blowing orgasm that I was supposed to have? Several times I tried again, always with the same results- a small orgasm, but nothing to write home about. In fact, my hand gave me better orgasms, and I began to wonder if spending the money on a toy had been a total waste. I stopped using it altogether for a few weeks, until I decided I better find out which of us was defective- me or the toy. +After some online research, which included a thread I started on the literotica forum where I got a lot of great advice and encouragement, and a little bit of fantasizing, I decided to give the rabbit another try. This time I got creative, varying the speeds on both controls and changing the angle and pressure against my clitoris. Finally I rolled onto my stomach and very carefully (it's hard to push a vibe in and out when you're laying on your arm, not to mention that laying on top of a toy doesn't give it a lot of room to move) continued to fuck myself with my rabbit. I had a huge orgasm (it took several minutes to recover!), and I finally felt like my investment was worth it. +I've since gotten even more creative with my rabbit. I'm a nipple clamps kind of girl, and have discovered that I also like a little clamp action on my labia. The slight pain is more than worth the orgasm. One day I decided to use my rabbit while my labia were clamped together with a clothespin, and WOW, let me tell you, I haven't been the same since. The feeling of those little rabbit ears vibrating against the clothespin was so incredibly intense that I couldn't orgasm, and I honestly didn't want to- I didn't want it to stop. I had never thought I could get so much pleasure that orgasm would be impossible, and it was a discovery I was very glad to make! Once I removed the clothespin, the rush of blood back into my labia, combined with the vibrations of the ears, sent me into a huge climax. My body literally bucked off the bed several times, something that had never happened to me during masturbation. I've used the rabbit this way several times since, and it is now one of my favorite toys. +I'm still not a big fan of the spinning action of the dildo part of the rabbit. In fact, I can't really figure out what the point of it is. A cock doesn't spin, so it seems kind of silly for a dildo to. But regardless, I enjoy those little rabbit ears immensely, and I still occasionally turn on the spin, just to see if maybe this time I'll enjoy it. +So my advice to toy users, something I wish I had been told before I first started playing: don't expect miracles the first time you play with a toy. It takes time to get used to a toy, just like it takes time to get used to a new partner. Another piece of advice: don't get in the mindset that there's only one right way to play. We're all different and no one toy is going to satisfy every person in the same way. Instead, get creative. Get kinky. Use your imagination, and your toys, in new ways. Eventually you'll find one (or more) that rocks your world." +944,You CAN Teach Old Dogs New Tricks,Hikergirl,How To,2007-05-05,2007-05-05,2022-01-04 08:43:07,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/you-can-teach-old-dogs-new-tricks,How to keep (or increase) spice in a long-term relationship.,"['Communication', 'Marriage Advice', 'Relationship Advice', 'Relationship Help', 'Self-Help', 'Sex Advice']",4.47,"**How to Keep (or Increase) the Spice in a Long-term Relationship** +""What part of another male's anatomy do you find most sexually attractive, and why?"" I innocently ask my husband as we drive own the country road. +""WWHHAAAAT?"" he responds, instantly flustered. ""What kind of question is that? I'm not attracted to guys!"" +I laugh, because my husband has always strenuously denied any bisexual interests. I wave the card at him, ""That's what it says. Either answer the question or use your PASS."" I encourage him further. ""Come on; don't tell me you've never looked at another guy's body."" +""Hmmppff. Not fair."" He thinks a moment. ""OK, I guess I'd have to say well- defined legs; you know - strong calves and thighs."" +""Why?"" I prompt for more. +""Because I respect someone who takes the time to keep fit and a guy with legs like that obviously does"" he says defensively. +""Hmmm. Pretty lame answer, but I guess it will do"" I say grudgingly, realizing I'm not likely to get any more out of him on this one. +""OK, your turn. What part of another female's anatomy do you find most sexually attractive, and why?"" he turns the question back at me. +""That's easy! Breasts...and especially nipples."" +He raises his eyebrows with a grin, but keeps his eyes on the road. ""Oh really? And why is that?"" +""They look so soft...so sensuous. I'd love to be able to reach out and stroke one...to feel the weight in my palm. Or to kiss one and feel the nipple harden under my lips."" I squirm a bit in my seat at the image I've painted myself, and I feel the seatbelt press between my breasts. ""You guys get all the fun that way."" +""Well they ARE fun to play with, I'll admit"" my husband responds. ""But the fun isn't just restricted to us guys, you know."" +""What do you mean?"" I ask, knowing full well what he means but wanting to hear him say it. +""Come on. Haven't you ever thought of being with another woman?"" he grins. ""I know I've thought about you with another woman...that would be so hot to watch."" +""Oh no you don't! That's another question...and it's not on the card."" I refuse to answer, but squirm a bit more as I imagine what he's thinking about. +My husband lets out a deep fake sigh of exasperation; while I consult the map, and point out that we have to turn right at the next gravel road. +I pull another card from the deck. ""OK. Describe an actual experience or fantasy about outdoor sex."" +* * * * * +And so goes our game of learning more about each other, what turns each other on, and how to please each other. But first, a bit of background. +My husband and I have been together for 26 years this month, since I was eighteen years old. I'd had no previous sexual experience when we met at university, and his was very limited, so pretty much everything we learned about sex, we learned together over the years. We have both always had healthy sex drives and were eager to please each other, but like most other couples, our sex lives would wax and wane with the realities of adult life: jobs, shift work (ugggh!), mortgages, kids, house maintenance, volunteer work...you get the picture. +After 23 years, our sex life was still better than most of the people that we knew; we could still turn each other on and have long enthusiastic romps in bed, but it was also fairly predictable. Shift work schedules, school schedules, and teenagers who never seemed to sleep when we wanted privacy, meant that even sex sort of became scheduled' it was definitely less spontaneous and imaginative. +When the kids were finally old enough to be left alone, we decided it was time for an ""us"" weekend. Looking back, we probably should have started these earlier in our marriage, but it always seemed too difficult or too expensive. Now we realize how valuable these weekends are -- they are truly an investment in our relationship. But I digress. +I did some research and found a secluded cabin in the middle of rolling farmland, far away from anything or anybody. In the weeks leading up to this getaway, we both did some scheming and planning, intending to make the most of our private time away. I was perusing our favorite online sex shop for ideas, when I saw a deck of cards meant to provoke erotic discussions, and on impulse, I ordered it. +When the cards first arrived, I was kind of disappointed, thinking I didn't get much for my $22. The cards were obviously homemade, printed on an inkjet printer on beige card stock, with a tacky pair of red lips on one side and a question printed on the other. The questions ranged from fairly innocent to graphically explicit. There were about 60 cards in the deck, and the rules were simple. Draw a card from the deck, and both of you have to answer the same question. If you are worried that one of you might get too uncomfortable, you can issue one or more free ""PASSES"" per game. +Feeling a bit ripped off, I thought ""what the heck"" and threw them in my purse, intending to tell my husband about my foolish purchase on our drive to the cabin. Well, as you may have guessed by now, they were well worth the money. They prompted open, honest communication that has turned up the heat on an already great sex life. +* * * * * +And that is the point of this ""How To"" article....TALK to your partner about your sex life! +Cards like the ones I bought are a great way to get the discussion going. I'd love to be able to point you to the set I bought, but the shop that I bought them from no longer seems to carry them. But you could always make up your own. If you do so, both of you should come up with questions, and remember, you BOTH have to answer each question. Better yet, get some friends to contribute questions (maybe even anonymously), because they may think of things you wouldn't have thought of, or are too shy to bring up with your partner. +Ideally, the questions should push your boundaries a bit, but remember there is no right or wrong answers, and you should never pressure your partner into accepting your view. Feel free to disagree, but do so in a way that is not judgmental. +Here are some of the questions that I remember: +• Describe your earliest sexual thought. +• What do you think about when you masturbate? +• Describe your wildest sexual experience or fantasy. +• What is one thing that a person can do that really flips your switch, that turns you on instantly? +• Do you enjoy watching porn, and if so, what types and why? +• Describe a sexual situation where you felt you were giving up control. What did you enjoy or dislike about it? +• Describe an experience or fantasy involving someone of the same sex. +• Have you ever had, or wanted to have, sex in your workplace (or airplane, or park, etc.) +• What do you think is your sexiest asset, and why? +• Does it excite you to watch your partner masturbate, or to have your partner watch you? Why or why not? +• Describe an experience or fantasy involving more than one other person. +• Which part of your body is most easily aroused? How do you like to be touched? +• Describe what feels best when you receive oral sex. +If you or your partner aren't used to discussing such things so openly, set up a non-threatening environment. Maybe have a glass of wine to relax, or take the cards out while you are walking in the woods. We find the car on the way to our getaway place ideal because we are already in the right frame of mind, and we aren't looking eye-to-eye. Somehow, that makes things easier when questions stray into new territory, but you can also miss the arousal in your partner's eyes this way. +Not only will these discussions help you learn about your partner, I'm willing to bet that the discussions themselves will be highly arousing. I know by the time we reach our destination, we're both ready to bolt from the car and into the bedroom...or the kitchen...or the barn...you get the picture. +And once you become more accustomed to sharing these thoughts, you'll find them easier to share on a more spontaneous basis. Wouldn't you love it if your partner came up behind you while you're making dinner and whispered in your ear ""I was thinking about bending you over my desk and taking you from behind while I was at work today""? I know it would make me shiver! +* * * * * + _Hmmm...six weeks until our next trip to the cabin. Now where did I put those cards?_" +945,You Oughta be in Pictures,Badlands1,How To,2020-10-19,2020-10-19,2022-01-04 08:43:08,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/you-oughta-be-in-pictures,"A picture is worth 5,000 lays.","['How-To', 'Hugh Mungus', 'Humor', 'Photographs', 'Photos', 'Pics', 'Satire', 'Swinger', 'Swingers', 'Swinging']",1.76,"During my initial forays into the swinging arena, the Internet wasn't even a whisper on the lips of the public. Digital cameras? The only things digital in that archaic Stone Age were alarm clocks, and microwave oven displays. +We're talkin' VCRs, and cassette tapes. Ozzy was still perceived as some dove- devouring, Satanic psychopath, as opposed to the pablum-eating shell of a marketing ploy he's become. +Even in those prehistoric times, it behooved a single, swingin' dude to possess what would be the equivalent of a head shot for an actor. +Polaroids, man! In the early '90s, they were imperative. Back then, you got 10 shots for 10 bucks. Hence, takin' a decent picture of your huevos and all-beef sausage was an expensive endeavor, financially magnified when heroically attempted alone. +Slick, glossy-paged copies of Hustler in your left hand, a one-shot camera — coated in baby oil — in your right, it was damned near impossible to capture your special purpose in frame. Still, one had to try. How else were you gonna answer ads in local swing rags, without a pic to verify your assertions? +Keep in mind, a guy was workin' with completely different photos for each response, since making duplicates of Polaroids was as easy as running a two minute mile, underwater. I'm certain you can see how costly this endeavor was for somebody like myself, who is the antithesis of Ansel Adams. +Combine all this with the fact you were responding via snail mail, and things became even more complex. When you consider the time it took for those who placed the ad to answer your reply, you may be looking at weeks in the waiting. +Of course, one also ran the risk of flakes, and no shows. There were instances in which I shelled out 40 bucks in Polaroids, six greenbacks in lubricant, and a few dollars in mailing fees, only to discover the couple in question were filing for divorce. +Thankfully, most of this is behind the single swinger. The annulment drama is ubiquitous, but through the advent of the Internet, you can now instantly send a two-dimensional image of your dong, anywhere on Earth. +Take advantage of this exponential improvement in technology. Obtain some shots of your prized possession, so you can text or E-mail them to prospective sexual partners. Such a weapon in one's arsenal is essential in a swinging environment. +Keep the following tips in mind: +Since computer monitors only read images at 72 dots per inch, and pics need not be high resolution, to be viewable on cells, it isn't necessary to invest in an expensive digital camera. Grab a shit 16 megapixel point-and-shoot for 40 bucks, and fire away! +Better yet, just take the photos with your cell phone. +The recipients of your magnum opuses couldn't give two oily farts about composition, nor three-point lighting. Still, should you have a copy of Photoshop layin' around — don't go out and buy one, because it's more expensive than a DUI — study a handful of free tutorials on YouTube. +If you become proficient enough with said program, you can improve the quality of your photos: remove blemishes, lighten areas that aren't as visible as you'd like, etc. +Some folks may even go so far as to erase unwanted pounds, or add bogus length. This risks misrepresentation. +Even if, via Photoshop — or some app on your phone — you engage in a rapid weight loss program, and transform yourself into Long Dong Silver, you're eventually gonna have to strip down in front of your potential sex partners. +Showing up with a two inch gherkin, dwarfed between thighs possessing more cottage cheese than a dairy processing plant — after you've described yourself as ""fit and hung"" — isn't going to get you laid. +If you've got an erection that curves downward, photograph it from above. It'll make your fun factory look larger. If you've got an upward-curving dong, shoot your pornographic pictures from below. +Close-up shots can be advantageous, as they fill your recipient's computer monitor, so that nothing else seems to matter. +Such stated, numerous swingers on the Web will ask for full body shots. As such, have those at the ready, as well. +Experiment with various angles. +By following these suggestions, you can make seven inches look like eight, eight like nine, nine like 10, and so on. +When it comes to nude photographs, regard 'em the way some cretinous corporate cocksucker would a business card. +In modern society, public nudity is frowned upon. Ironically, your greatest physical attributes may get you arrested, should you openly exhibit them. Relax. Help has arrived. Photos are your saving grace. +The following are examples of how nude pictures not only assisted in my quest for sex, but made coitus possible. +During a stint in a dilapidated Arizona apartment complex, I propositioned a lovely, Mexican senorita residing next door. Although I only spoke enough Spanish to receive a severe ass kicking, I was able to communicate my necessity for nude photographs, to further my lucrative ""modeling"" career. +I didn't lie, when it came to said ""vocation."" I actually did build plastic planes, as a hobby. And since these replicas are referred to as models, I technically engaged in modeling. +That said — at 5' 6"" — folks would probably assume if I myself was a model, it had to be for hands or feet. Not quite as scarred and ugly as the soul of a banker, I wasn't gettin' laid, due to my face. +The next thing you know, I'm naked in front of my neighbor, and harder than mating an elephant with a flea. All this for the admission fee of two packs of Polaroid film, and a $3 bottle of baby oil. +""You're in,"" Vegas Vic asserted, via text. +""What?! I thought she wanted guys 25 and under,"" I replied to the communique from Las Vegas' premiere group sex Organ-Izer. +""She does, but I showed her your cock pic."" +""And?"" came my rejoinder. I was another Sin City swinger. That said, I sought sex with a twist: 5,000 women, before I bought a ticket to visit Carlin, Hicks, and Lenny Bruce. +""And now she wants guys 25 and under, as well as you,"" came his reply. +FAST FORWARD TO: +""Am I—?! Am I squirting?!?"" the beleaguered babe flailed atop what had been a pristine, Strip hotel comforter, at the outset of the evening. +Rather than typing ""LOL"" into our phones, all four nude males in attendance — including Vegas Vic and me — actually laughed out loud. Senorita sperm spraying may balls, cock and chest, I eagerly scraped the woman's labia with my goo gun. +""Holy shit! I am squirting, aren't I—?!? +Two more towering orgasms erupted from the tourist's cunt, as she arched her back, and ground her teeth to the verge of chipping. +Gasping, she returned to the planet's surface, exclaiming, ""I— I've been trying to do that for the last two years, and nothing! How'd you—?!? +Soaked in her semen, I stood back and smiled — the way Peter Joseph probably did, upon completing Zeitgeist. I'd done superlative work, which wouldn't have been possible, if it hadn't been for a simple photograph. +""Querido Dios!"" the housekeeper raced from the room I'd rented at the Los Angeles Motel Sex. Her eyes aflame, she feared she'd be cast into Hell, for what she'd seen beyond the cracked door. +It was within these caliginous confines I lay nude, oiled, and stroking, atop the bed. +Misfire. +I'd been waiting for the intended targets — who showed up moments later, laughing about the maid they saw racing from my accommodations, genuflecting in fright. +""What the hell did you do to that wom—?! Oh, my God! That's a huge cock!"" the taller of the six-foot plus BBWs squeaked, as she and her friend entered the sticky surroundings. +""Jesus!"" her compatriot reiterated, making for the mattress, and gripping my gibbous groin. ""Mmm..."" the shorter lass purred, commandeering my stroking duties. +""Goddamn,"" the first female sidled up against my leg, manually polishing my three piece set. +A buzz harder than that possible at a 15-for-one happy hour shook the dresser beside the flea-infested mattress. +I glanced at my pager — which was doing its best Mexican jumping bean impression — vibrating off a nightstand with bullet holes in it. +Yeah, this was an era prior cell phones, when pagers reigned supreme. +An urgent message from ""work."" An urgent message I ignored, as the twin BBWs massaged my manhood. +The faceplate — digital, but just barely, during that epoch — read: 5:34. By the time my captors — a shitty Cuban nightclub in Hollywood — sent me their follow-up ""emergency"" plea, we were lookin' at: 5:48. +At that point, I was fucking the taller of the women — Butterfly style — atop the adjacent bed, while her friend was on calcified knees, behind me, buffing my balls. +""All this, thanks to photographs!"" the tour guide at the Eastman Kodak facility — in Rochester, New York — bellowed forth. Pointing to the enormous flat screen, upon which my scrawny ass pumped away, the man turned and smiled. +In response, a throng of tourists gazed in horror — many projectile vomiting — as they watched the documentary. A documentary delineating the history of the camera. A documentary featuring me pumping away in the aforementioned threesome. +After all, if I hadn't sent the two lusty lasses — with whom I played that day — Polaroids of my grundle bundle, we would've never met. +The power of the picture. Make use of it. +— authored by Hugh Mungus" +946,You Should Try A Cock Ring,Sensual_Caveman,How To,2003-06-25,2003-06-25,2022-01-04 08:43:08,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/you-should-try-a-cock-ring,How to use a Cock Ring and why you should.,"['Back Body', 'Cock', 'Cock Ring', 'Flow Blood', 'Ring', 'Ring Cock']",4.29,"What if I told you I had an item that could make your erection harder, make your sexual sessions last longer, make sex feel better for both you and your partner (male or female) and would only cost you about $10 to $25 one time? Would you believe me? You should because it’s true. Let me tell you about the joys of a simple device, the Cock Ring. +My adventures with this wonderful toy started with a simple gesture by my girlfriend. She wears about 12 industrial rubber belts around her wrist as bracelets. She gave me one of them as a kind of remember-me-by item for when we were apart. One day I was thinking about her, and the last time we were together, and the amazing sex we had, and I began to masturbate. I had the bracelet on and my mind recollected an article I had read about cock rings and how they worked. I took the bracelet from my wrist and stretched it over the top of my erect penis, and under my testicles. It felt interesting to have my balls lifted forward like that, but it was not tight enough to restrict the flow of blood back into the body, as a cock ring should. I put one finger under the band at the side of my balls and twisted it around once to tighten it. I felt my cock grow harder, the head swelled, and the veins on the sides stood out and became really sensitive. It felt amazing! I used a lubricant and masturbated. Usually using a lube I don’t last long by myself, normally coming in about 3 to 5 minutes. This lasted for 15 minutes and it was intense. When I did finally come it was a bed shaking, moaning, shoot-the-wall-behind-me orgasm. It was the first masturbatory orgasm I have ever had that I had to recover from before being able to just get up and do the next thing. +I went out and bought a commercial cock ring the same day, a simple ½” wide 12” long piece of surgical tubing with a plastic tension bead keeping it in an adjustable loop. I tried it again by myself and it worked even better since I did not have to keep my free hand there to keep the tension up. I loved it and was able to keep it tighter longer than with the bracelet. +The next time I saw my lovely girlfriend I had the smile of a man with a devious plot on my face. She was giddy with excitement when I sat her on the bed and put a blindfold on her (another toy I highly recommend). I put on the ring and waited a few seconds for it to take full effect, and then I put the head of my cock to her lips. She usually likes to suck my dick with a certain enthusiasm, but this time she felt the head swollen and the veins popping and she was overcome with lust. She sucked me like a starving woman devours a doughnut. She took off the blindfold, looked at my throbbing member and without a word put a condom on me, lies back, and spread her legs wide. We are usually sensitive and caring lovers, but that night the sex was animalistic. She was able to come from penetration, which is unusual for her, and it lasted a good long time before I came. When I did come it exploded out of me. She said she could feel every contour of my penis and when I came she felt me pulse and swell more than usual. That last feeling of me swelling is what made her come. +The way the cock ring works is by restricting the flow of blood from the penis back into the body. Blood flows into the penis through the center of the shaft, but flows back through the outer veins. By tightly restricting the outside you let blood in but not out, and your cock gets really hard and textured. It also makes the nerves more sensitive. +There are a few varieties of rings to consider. I recommend the basic one loop adjustable type as they work well, are easily adjusted and removed, and are practically impossible to get stuck in. Some are still rubbery but are a one- piece loop that is not adjustable. These can work if the size is right, but may not fit correctly. There are also some varieties that are made of hard plastic or metal and are not adjustable. I do not recommend these as it is very easy to get them stuck and not be able to remove them. Metal ones that get stuck routinely end up getting cut off in emergency rooms accompanied by much laughter by the staff and humiliation by the patient. Stay with adjustable ones for your safety and sanity. Lastly there are varieties which have multiple loops to secure your cock, spread or stretch your scrotum downward, constrict the base of the penis and around the cock and balls together. I have yet to try them, but experiment and see what you like. +Sex is wonderful and should be good even without all the bells and whistles, but if you’d like to try something fun and inexpensive to spice things up, give a cock ring a try." +947,You Want Oral? Here's How,BBWmomma,How To,2011-05-16,2011-05-16,2022-01-04 08:43:09,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/you-want-oral-heres-how,One woman's guide on eating pussy to get a BJ,"['Cunnilingus', 'Licking', 'Munching', 'Oral Sex', 'Pussy']",4.42,"The best oral sex I've ever had went something like this: +1\. Set the mood. Candles, music, clean bedding, fluffy pillows, maybe some restraints (if you're into that kind of stuff), and make sure you're both clean and ready for fun. +2\. Start out slow. There should be no rush. Take your time touching each other, running your hands up and down bodies (torsos, arms, legs, face, through the hair, avoid errogenous zones for now and build the tension elsewhere). Make good use of your mouths- wet open kisses, caressing tongues, soft lips. Kiss your partner's mouth, her cheeks, eyelids, neck, shoulder blades, collar bones, down her throat, etc. +3\. Listen for cues- moans and panting, breathy whispers are all good. No noise, throat grumbing, sharp intake of breath... those are bad. Move on and try something else +4\. Slowly increase the pleasure. start skimming your hands over her breasts, put more pressure on spots you know she likes, work to get her turned on. At this point, if you skim your hand between her legs, you should be able to feel heat, and depending on what she's wearing, wetness. +5\. Unwrap the prize. Maybe she's wearing lingerie for you, maybe she's still dressed. What ever it is, as you slide off her clothes, trace the path with your hands and mouth. Keep touching, make her moan and squirm (trust me, its a good thing). +6\. Zero in on the target. When you're both so turned on you can't wait anymore, use your hands to let her know you're starving for the taste of her. Rub gently over her belly, glide your fingers across her thighs, slowly part them. Dip a finger into her slit and GENTLY brush her clit..... I'm sure you get the picture. The key is to go slow and gentle, it will torment her more and its just more fun. +7\. GET COMFORTABLE! Girls take longer than men, you should know this by now. I recommend splurging for a Liberator Esse, it is a big girls best friend, and its FANTASTIC for oral.... Anyway. Get comfortable. If you're laying between her knees, make sure you have support for yourself, maybe put a pillow under her butt to tilt her up for you. You want your hands free, so don't restrict those to your braces. +8\. Tease your girl. Lick up the insides of her thighs, skim across her pussy WITHOUT touching it to do the other leg. Gently flick your tongue against her skin. Slowly slide a finger into her (She'll most likely LOVE that). By now she should be panting, maybe scratching at your shoulders or grabbing your hair, maybe even begging you to taste her. Smile, (she'll feel it if you do it against her) and nuzzle her cleft with your nose or cheeks, and drive her just a little bit more wild. +9\. Taste test. You know neither of you can wait anymore, so go ahead. Take a little taste. Keep your tongue soft, and use the flat part of it to skim between her lips. Short, shallow strokes the entire length her her cleft. Suck those plump lips into your mouth, nibble at them, if you've got a big mouth, try to close it over both at once. Increase the pressure with your tongue, lapping up and down, licking up the juices. Flick it GENTLY over her clit depending on how sensitive she is. +10\. USE BOTH HANDS! It's like little league- coaches are always telling you to use both hands, so USE THEM. My personal favorite is when the giver takes both hands, and spreads the lips far apart with their thumbs, opening the delicate flower to their own pleasure. If makes me feel wide open and extremely submissive. Do that, and you can do what ever the hell you want to. It also makes the clit a very easy target. Lick it, flick it with your tongue, suck it into the mouth, whatever you can to make your girl scream. +11\. Don't for get the Gspot. When you're girl is getting close, and your tongue starts to fail you (we know it gets exhausted....), don't forget about the inside. Slide a finger (or 2 or 3) inside, hook it in a come her fashion (like when your mom was mad at you when you were a kid in trouble) and find the spongy, odd feeling clump in the roof of your girls vagina. Stroke your fingers against it, put a good amount of pressure behind it, and suck on her clit at the same time. You'll be lucky to get your fingers back when she comes, because she's going to clamp down on those and not let go till she's all tuckered out. +12\. Post Game. Whatever you do, don't just pull away when you're done. keep working her till she tells you to stop, and when she lets you go, kiss the OUTSIDE of her mound (the inside is going to be extremely sensitive), up her thighs, belly, chest, and give your girl a kiss. Don't push for yours right away, because she's gonna need some recovery, but don't worry. She'll be more than willing to return the favor...." +948,Your New Male Slave,CoupleInExile,How To,2013-09-08,2013-09-08,2022-01-04 08:43:10,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/your-new-male-slave,How to train your slave - the first week.,"['Bdsm', 'Chastity', 'Enslavement', 'Femdom', 'Mistress', 'Owner', 'Pain', 'Slavery', 'Submission', 'Training']",3.98,"So you've taken a slave. Congratulations! Chances are, you really haven't given much thought to 'What now?' It's all been fun play for a few hours. But. If you really want a *real* slave, you'll need to invest some time and effort in consummating your new property arrangement. Your new possession may be naturally submissive (or not! even more fun!), but you need to take him much deeper and much further into total obedience to get your greatest reward. And trust me -- there's much pleasure and discovery for you as well in this task. +It's so worth it. To see a man's tears as he suffers for you purely because you've driven him into total submission will make your soul and pussy vibrate. And, he will be a real slave if you train him properly. And you will be free to enjoy all the pleasures of a mistress/owner -- his complete devotion to your sexual pleasure, if you are a sadist, his true and frequent pain and suffering, and the freedom to have sex with whomever you choose. +But how to get there without spending your every moment in the dungeon? I mean,*really*, who's the slave here?? It's really quite simple. Yes, you do need to make him regularly submit to domination and pain in a formal setting. But you shouldn't need more than a few hours a week so focused. The rest of the time, you need to set out a structure of slave training tasks to train your former lover's mind into that of a true slave. And you do need your slave focused exclusively on your training -- 24x7 -- he'll need to take off work if needed -- this will be a real special 'vacation' for him. A no-return trip! +Let's talk a few basics. First and foremost -- chastity. Any man losing control of his cock to you is automatically putty in your hands. Let's face it -- that's where half his brain is normally. Some, more. With the keys in your hand, and no chance of release, his chastity will be a constant 24x7 reminder of his new status. Every time he moves, it will feel like you are pulling him around by his cock. Better, his erections as he performs his other slave tasks for you will be inevitable -- and quite uncomfortable. Don't relent to his whining -- a male slave needs to be completely sexually controlled. And no safety keys -- he must know he's committed. +But he will need encouragement. Constantly remind him how he's given himself to you and how you cherish the sacrifice -- but he needs this training to really become yours. And doesn't he really want your satisfaction in his servitude? Trust me -- he will be constantly aroused. And, frankly, associating arousal with pain and frustration is very much what you want to achieve. We want to train his mind more than his body. +Ok. Chastity. Check. Probably one of the most compelling things you can do to his head is to have him sign a slavery contract. There are hundreds of online samples. Pick the verbiage you like best. If you're serious, make sure it's explicit. No safewords or any way for the slave to terminate. Better, get him to read it while you record him before he signs it. But once he's uttered the words ""I am your owned slave, mistress"", he will remember them always... +Both of these can be sorted in your first session as owner and slave. Not your first session -- you really should be starting this from an already established domme/sub, and, hopefully, intimate relationship. The Mistress / slave relationship can and should be highly intimate. If you don't really love your slave, you're really missing the best part of their surrender -- their demonstration of their total devotion to you, and allowing you to make it formal and permanent. +For the first week, you really need to make sure your slave actually *feels* as though he's your slave, even as you carry on normal parts of your life. But to transform him, he needs to be in as close to 24x7 submission as possible. After signing and the contract and accepting the chastity, he's in a fragile state that you want to exploit but having him constantly feel ing submission. +The first task is pretty obvious -- he must change his bathroom habits so he's always sitting. His chastity will enforce that. Like a woman, he will need to have tissue to hand to dab himself. And you'll never have to deal with a raised seat again! But, a slave needs humiliation. And there's the practical matter of making him ready to accept your own piss, should you choose to use him in that fashion. My recommendation is that you also assign to him as the final part of his bathroom ritual, before he flushes, cleaning of the seat so it will be pristine for you. And, of course, that means with his tongue -- top and bottom. Yes, maybe allow him to clean it once properly with cleansers and such before the first time - you will be amazed how spotless it's kept from now on! And there's nothing hotter than your former lover, now slave, on his knees making your commode brilliant Just think how clean *you* will feel each time you use it! Maybe extend the task to include after your own use of it! I personally make my slave also clean both my toilet and my privates with his tongue whenever possible after I've used it. It will also force him to keep much better mouth hygiene. +But that's perhaps an hour of his waking day ... so much more time you need him to stay focused on his new status during this initial period. If you are a sadist, even just domme, I'd suggest rituals that will build his tolerance. My slave has very sensitive nipples, and I generally *love* to torture them in dungeon sessions. To keep them ultra-sensitive, when my slaves are in training, I have them perform a ritual of attaching clover clamps to them. Because they go numb, I do ask my slaves to put them on and remove them 5 times -- 2 minutes on, one minute off. If one slips early ... oh, well. Doesn't count ;). I then make them repeat the process at specific hours of the day so I can call and check. With modern video tools, a mistress doesn't need to be present to supervise. And, the threat of extending the chastity period for slacking is usually quite persuasive. Just to add to the effect, I make my slaves-in-training (or punishment) perform this ritual five times per day, including and especially at least once in the middle of the night. As I said, our goal is to get our slave in training to mentally associate his desires with submission to pain for our pleasure. Getting up at all hours to do this for you will emphasize your ownership and his obedience to it. +So ... we've filled up lots of free time! But, we can't allow idle thoughts. I think it best to always emphasize a slave's vulnerability by ordering him to remain naked throughout as much of the day and night as possible. Similarly, other signs of his status are important. A locked slave collar is very compelling at all hours. He can wear a high necked shirt if he needs to be in public. At night, I like him to add cuffs or other restraints so that whenever he stirs in his sleep, he's brought back to his new status immediately. Not uncomfortably -- this is training, not punishment. And we want him rested and ready to serve us. Just some cuffs and short chains or links will do fine. +I like to order my slave to find me videos and stories of male slavery. There are thousands to scan. And the act of reading and viewing, while in chastity will be a constant torment. And you will profit from a constant stream of delicious new ideas. And you'll also be getting your slave to both cultivate and expose his darkest submissive desires by his curation. Delicious. Hours of pleasure for me, hours of torment for him. +I also like to add more active ritual for my slave. In addition to the self- inflicted nipple torture, I expect my slave to do a half hour per day of anal training and a half hour of oral training. By the end of the first week, he should be well ready to deep throat, and his backside will be much looser and easier for your enjoyment. Plugs or any dildo is fine. Obviously, start small for a new slave. +In all these activities, we want to discourage slacking. So we want to include copious photos and videos of your new possession meeting your requests. In addition, some photos with your name marked on him prominently is always a good idea. Your contract should include your right to expose these if your slave ever tries to leave you. If you register your slave, you may want his number painted on a few places so you can decide how you ultimately want him marked. Another contract item -- be sure to include your right to mark his body as your property, however you choose. You have that right anyway if he's a proper slave, but making him say those terms and sign to them... he'll be so much more manageable. +We also want to include a few tasks a bit more humiliating. He is your slave, so he should feel your right to enjoy his fears and humiliations. I'd suggest some small things. A little feminization, perhaps. I usually make my new slaves polish their nails several times during their first week. A bright color, of course, fingers and toes. And it will train him how to do the task for you. Also, if you can find footwear that will fit him, making him walk a half hour per day in heels will teach him a lesson in the comfort of such things! I also make my slave visit the local pool daily and circle it a prescribed number of times wearing the thinnest of suits. His metal chastity is clearly outlined. And some women I know that understand his status are always about to tease him. My final coup de grace is usually to have him put on feminine underclothes, full makeup and lipstick and make a video of a walk through the local mall. Oh the surprised looks he records! Trust he's begging to do anything to avoid that task again! +Finally, the most prosaic of tasks should also be made into a slave ritual. What little time is left in the day s usually for preparing meals -- naked -- and eating. My new slaves are only allowed to eat from bowls on the ground. I also make them eat dog food the first week. It sounds horrible, but it isn't all that bad tasting (so I'm told!) and it's nutritious enough. And it is so reinforcing of his new status. He's your pet and possession. And any time for preparing meals can be spent on you! It's also great to feed him from your hand, if you have the time. As a special initiation, I also make it a point to feed my slave the 'gravy' style of dog food. I expect I will regularly acquaint him with drinking my piss, but in this tender new stage, I frequently command him to use his own. The shock and humiliation are priceless. After the first session, I really felt his soul was now utterly mine. +So many tasks! But that's the idea. Simple, time-consuming, and very slavish and humiliating tasks. We're training your man's head. If he's not responded to the training in a week ... oh, well. On we go! Sooner or later, total slavery will take over his thoughts and your life together will go on to new and more special chapters. Cherish his devotion. Love him madly and encourage him. Punishments will be yours to enjoy later. If he's faltering, just be patient and enjoy his efforts. Enjoy!" +949,Your Wife's Lesbian Fantasy Phone Sex,HawkerDeHavilland,How To,2013-05-13,2013-05-13,2022-01-04 08:43:11,1,literotica.com,https://www.literotica.com/s/your-wifes-lesbian-fantasy-phone-sex,A working girl's script for a husband's secret obsession.,"['Bisexual Female', 'Bisexual Wife', 'Lesbian', 'Lesbian Phone Sex', 'Lesbian Wife', 'Phone Sex', 'Unfaithful Hookup', 'Wife With Another Woman']",4.66,"Advice for the wayward phone sex girl: a script +* +The challenges of the phone sex girl! +They are housewives, mothers, single girls and working women who are employed to be that sweet voice on the other end of the phone when you call. +But... Find a service that does realistic ""call-backs"" +If only phone-sex ladies knew just how many callers have fantasies about their own wives.!!!!! +I've always thought a phone sex girl should have a script. +So here is another working girl's script for a call titled: +""Your Wife's Lesbian fantasies"" +""Because a single kiss... can lead to a dangerous obsession."" +The words which follow are not meant for instant gratification! +They are intentionally drawn out and extended... for long sensual experience. +Our cast of characters: +John : you< the husband +Kim (Kimberly): your ever faithful and beautiful wife +Heather: (our inimitable bi-sexual phone sex girl) who has had an opportunistic tryst with your wife. +(You must copy, ""replace all"" the names John and Kim (Kimberly) in this script to you and your wife's real names for more realism. ) +Let us begin by Heather calling you on your home phone:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>your phone rings>>>>>>>>> +John?,....my name is Heather. +I'm calling for Kim. +Is she there? +She's not? +Awww, I really wanted to talk to your wife if I could. +Who am I? +I'm a....a friend of Kimberly's. +I'm Heather. +She hasn't mentioned my name? +Well, we met at a bar while she was out with her girlfriends awhile ago. +I can't believe she never mentioned my name, John! +No, I wasn't in her group. +I was bartending and we were talking a lot at the bar while I was working. +You, uh....don't know about me then, do you? +John....your wife is so nice. +I was having a hard time in my life and she made me feel like everything would be OK. +I wanted to....uh...ask her some things.. +Well, she was like a mentor to me that night. +I'm much younger than she is and all the experiences in her life she shared and they ...helped me out. +Me? +I'm 22. +Your wife is older than me but she sure doesn't look it. +Kimberly looks like she could be my sister. +She is so special, John. +Well...I was actually the barmaid that night. +I'm a single mom and that's hard. +What do I look like? +I'm about 5'4"". I've got blonde hair and hazel eyes. +How long? +Well, I put it up a lot because I keep it so long, but it comes way down my back. +Me? +I work out. I'm very athletic. +My weight? +About 130 or so if I keep working out, lol! +Kim knows a lot about what I'm going through being a single mom. +I have to work two jobs. +Me? +Go out on dates and stuff? +Not often. I hardly get out. +I mean I'm pretty and all. Men find me attractive but I just don't have time. +I was talking with your wife about that exact thing and she said I have to get out more. +But I have the baby, you know...... +She knew what I was going through. +She was so nice and understanding to me. +What happened that night? +Well, all her friends had to leave +But she came back into the bar to talk with me +John, your wife is so confident and so sure of herself! +I want to talk with Kimberly again. +Oh, god I don't know what I mean. +Didn't she say anything about me at all? +Didn't she mention my name? +Heather??? +.John....I really wanted to ...ask her something important: now. +When will she be home? +Will you ask her to call me? +I gave your wife my phone number. +I think...... +John. +There is something..... +I'm going to just go ahead and tell you, OK? +Maybe you would understand. +I mean: two women...and it being your wife and all. +Oh, God, I don't know what I mean. +I have to tell you. +It seems like you really want to know. +Your wife and I were talking. +She was still there at the end of my shift. +We wanted to talk some more. +We went to my car. +John, Kim was so nice to me! +She was so attentive and caring. +The more we talked....the more I felt attracted to her! +Do you understand what I mean? +It wasn't her idea at all, John. +I wanted to show her how much I enjoyed being with her. +Jon. +Is it OK if.... I tell you more? +I can't believe she hasn't talked with you about me. +I couldn't help it. +She was so sweet. +So caring. +Kim is so lovely, John. You know that , don't you? +I just wanted to show her...to let her know. +Oh, God, John. +I kissed her. +I couldn't help it. +It was just a little kiss. +It was just like: affectionate to let her know she was so nice. +She drew away a little. +I was so embarrassed I did that! +But Kim was so understanding, John. +She didn't get upset. +She explained she knew I was by myself and maybe I was lonely and she told me she understood. +She made me feel OK about it....and that was so cool. +I don't know.....it was so spontaneous, John. +She even held my hand to reassure me. +She made me feel...... at ease with what I did. +Then Kim started to compliment me; telling me how pretty I was and that any man...or woman...would naturally be attracted to me. +She explained how she had been watching me moving behind the bar. +And the way I looked ...anyone would think I was sexy. +Then John, she told me... +If I wanted to kiss her again it would be OK! +Oh, God, it was all I wanted to do! +I wanted to kiss her so bad! +And I did. +Kimberly didn't pull away. +She let me. +I felt her squeeze my hand. +Her lips were soft. +John, I heard her sigh and knew she liked it. +Our lips were on each others. +She smelled so wonderful and so feminine. +I tested her kiss, then. +She let my tongue on hers. +Soon our tongues were all over one anothers. +John.... +John, there in the front seat of my car our arms were around each other. +It was dark in the parking lot. +I felt her touch me. +I felt her hold me. Oh God it was so good! +She opened her mouth to mine. +Kimberly's open mouth kisses were so....wonderful +all I wanted was more and more. +I couldn't get enough. +As soon as we'd break away, Kim could hear me gasp. +She let me kiss her neck, her throat. +I had my hands in her hair. +She moaned like it was what she had been waiting for all night! +I couldn't help myself. +your wife is so lovely John. +Her soft skin, the taste of her, her gorgeous hair and the nape of her neck just begged to be kissed. +There in the darkness of my car she let me hold her. +She let me kiss her. +Her kisses back.... were exciting me like I couldn't believe. +They thrilled me. +Her tongue was all over mine. +We kissed so long and so deep. +John, Kimberly is wonderful. +Her body seemed voluptuous underneath those clothes. +The way your wife's breasts were so full with their own weight +Made me want to discover them +So obvious under her pretty dress; +it was so certain she had intentionally spent a lot of time looking nice for her night out with the girls. +She had let me single her out and separate her from that little flock of girlfriends +made it all the more exciting. +The way she kisses, tastes and smells...even how she was dressed that night... +I was intoxicated. +Everything about this older woman was new and exciting. +Yes, I'm Bi. +But I'm not a lesbian if you know what I mean +I do have a true lesbian friend who is a real ""player"" +She told me something about married women that I never understood. +She said that 60% of all straight women have lesbian fantasies. +That it was proven in case studies and surveys. +At least half of those actually act on their desires. +That's like....every one in three straight women act on their curiousity. +And there are more out there than actually admit it. +Society is so ...open today +Then she said what excited her most were the few liaisons she had with heterosexual women. +Married women. +Married with jobs, a house and families. +Women who thought they would never have a lesbian relationship. +She also told me straight women require so much work: so much attention. +But the one's who submitted were the most sensual. +None of those straight women ever expected the arousal which came from a female lover, she said. +She would describe how they would resist. +Then describe the strange ways in which they submitted. +How willing they were in the end. +How responsive. +Their first time with her. +That's when I suddenly realized what my friend meant. +Kimberly had been so coy. +And it wasn't like I was trying to coerce your wife, really I wasn't John. +But I sensed Kim was playing out fantasies all night with me in particular! +Her attention to me at the bar was more than friendliness. +She was watching me the whole time she was talking to her friends. +She was making eye contact. +She was getting my attention whenever she could. +John. +Your wife is so beautiful and so sexy. +Her breasts, John... +Kim's are so full. So voluptuous. +They...... invited me, there is no other way to put it. +You haven't asked me about my breast size, John. +I'm surprised. +Or my measurements either haved you? +I thought you'd like to know +I'm a 34B-26-38 +I'm so bi-sexual. I know it. I accept it. +My girl partners, and honestly there are not many, have always been girls my age or younger. +They were always tight athletic and honestly...small breasted. +But your wife, John? +She is so much more mature. +Your wife, OMG! +So sexy with so much more that makes you want to explore every curve. +I reached and touched them. +She let me. +She looked down at my hand doing it. +She whispered my name. +""Heather is there someplace we can go?"" she asked. +My apartment was nearby, I explained +She said: ""yes."" +I started my car and drove us to my place. +Sitting next to me, Kim was so vibrant and mature. +Her dress was up her legs more than necessary. +Those hoop earrings peeking from under her pretty hair all done so nicely. +, that classy jewelry she wore. +The smell of her so inviting. +I'm just in my work slacks and blouse. +I'm driving to my apartment +And your wife is sitting there next to me like a treasure. +I reached over and touched her leg John. +She was so smooth in her pantyhose. +She didn't resist. +Kim opened her legs to my hand John. +I slid it up her thigh. +She took her hand and rested it on my arm gently. +She let me do whatever I wanted. +There on Kim's finger was your engagement ring and her wedding band. +It was so impossible shimmering there in the faint light of my car! +That this beautiful married woman would ignore those rings and be tempted by me... +It was a special thrilling kind of excitement! +Your pretty wife opened those legs...... +My fingers were on the crotch of her pantyhose. +She was letting me touch. +I could feel the mound of her pussy. +I could sense her wetness on my fingers. +Somewhere during the evening your wife had removed her panties. +Or maybe she never put them on to start with? +She let me. +Kim wanted me there, John. +I caressed her shielded pussy until her dress rode up her waist +And her hips wriggled to the edge of the passenger seat. +I caressed that hungry pussy through those pantyhose our whole drive to my apartment. +Even at every stoplight. +Her head found my shoulder. +She touched me in ways no married woman would touch another female. +My nipples were hard under my bra. +She whispered things to me that no heterosexual woman would ever say to a 22 year old young mother. +I was so fucking hot for your wife, John. +At my apartment +I paid the babysitter and sent her home. +Kimberly sat on my sofa. +I got us a glass of wine. +Suddenly Kim seemed hesitant. +And I sensed her reverting. +Your wife became confused and restless. +unsure of what was going to happen in my apartment. +And you know what? +My lesbian friends words came back to haunt me. +""Heather, married women need so much attention. They are so much work."" +I never knew or cared what was in that statement before. +But now I knew for sure what my lesbian friend had meant. +This was my first time with someone as wonderful as your wife, John. +I didn't want to Kim to change her mind. +She was more than some prize...I truly needed to be with her +Desperately +I thought to myself, ""Not now, please!"" +Your wife had led me along this far I just couldn't let her go. +I just couldn't. +I would beg her if I had to! +The wine helped some. +She hadn't asked to leave, which was good. +I tried to think of something quickly that would relax her. +And take Kim's mind off her apprehension. +I was desperate. +I started talking about the way I felt about her. +I explained how wonderful the evening had been for me: meeting her, talking with her and now...being alone with her. +I told her I knew in my heart she was interested in me. +I didn't know what to do. +I only knew your wife was probably thinking about her life, her family...and John...probably her unfaithfulness to her husband. +I was desperate to come up with something to distract her. +I told her I wanted to show her something. +I opened my laptop on the coffee table. +John....has your wife ever watched porn? +We all have from time to time but I was curious if Kim ever had? +She was non-committal. She wouldn't admit if she ever had. +But you know what I think? +She has. +Maybe it was softcore like the L Word or different girl-girl stuff on TV that she thought about later... privately. +I asked Kim about certain fantasies she might have had....we're they like mine? +Those things that made us curious ...made both of us search out more ....uh, information... +So I rushed into opening the screen right there on the coffee table in front of us. +I quickly said +that maybe it would be fun to watch something erotic for a minute or two. +.......two attractive women together. +It had taken only a minute to open, +But there it was in front of us. +Kim wasn't uncomfortable with the images at all, John. +At first she giggled some. +But then she got quiet. +She began watching so carefully. +With all her attention. +And I knew what was going through her mind. +Other women were doing what she was about to do. +classy women. +These weren't sluts on the screen before her. +They were beautiful lesbian actresses. +Their joy was obvious. +Real. +Unscripted. +And erotic in the most feminine of situations leaving no doubt in Kim's mind I am sure, that +So many other women had thoughts like hers +So many more acted on those impulses. +She wasn't alone. +On the contrary. +I used that moment, John. +We sat together +I began to touch your wife +The way I wanted to....since almost the first moment she caught my eye in the bar. +I was finally holding those wonderful breasts, +Squeezing them through Kim's thin dress and bra: +making your wife want to kiss me. +John.... +Do you feel like masturbating? +Are you holding your cock now? +because +I want you to. +I want you to hold you cock. +please go slow for me. +please don't come yet. +I have so much more to say. +I want to describe what your wife and I were doing fully +I want you to hear from me everything the two of us did in my apartment. +There.. +we could only hear the actresses passion. +Our eyes had closed. +We held each other, embracing side by side, knees together, hip to hip our bodies together kissing while I fondled her sitting together on the sofa. +I stroked her, I squeezed her. +And then John, my hand went up her thigh again, just like in my car. +she opened those warm thighs again for me. +My fingers were caressing hot pussy underneath the crotch panel of her pantyhose. +She opened the belt of her dress for me John. +So I could get my hand underneath those pantyhose. +We were kissing so long and so deep. +Girls can kiss the whole night. +Your wife knows how to kiss, omg! +Her lips, her mouth and her tongue were all over mine. +John she had become so wet for me. +Kim doesn't shave . I felt those soft curls... +So soft and damp. +I had my fingers against your wife's pussy. +John. +I rubbed her. +I did it for so long, John...touching and opening her cunt gaping wide +I had my fingers inside her. +Deep up inside her warm wet pussy. +Kim fucked them, John... there is no other explanation. +She was becoming more an more uninhibited. +I found her G-spot and massaged it, entering and withdrawing my fingers from her wet vagina. +Your wife moaned and kissed me harder. +I felt her hands on my breast! +Her touch was tentative at first. +But then she wanted my blouse opento get at them. +She pulled my bra down over the top of my breasts. +She was playing with my nipples. +Squeezing my breasts. +I told her John... +I told her I wanted them sucked. +I get fingering her pussy. +Then Kim started kissing them. +Then John....she was sucking them...sucking on them so good. +Oh, God... +Your wife's lips were like heaven. +She was sucking my nipples so fucking good. +They were all wet with her spit. +The more I fingered her +The more passionate she got with them. +I found her clitoris. +It was this beautiful wet bud: hungry to come. +I scissored it. I rolled three fingers about its circumference. +I dipped them up inside her again, then came back to rub her clitoris some more. +I whispered, ""Kim I want you to come for me."" +That was all it took. +Your wife started to come for me. +It was so fucking hot. +She broke away from my titties and crushed her mouth to mine. +My wrist was trapped by the elastic band of her pantyhose. +And I put those fingers way up inside her . I could feel the bump of her g-spot on my fingertips. +I stiffened them and massaged it. +Those full hips came up off the sofa. +She was crying and groaning so loud I thought she'd wake the baby. +I didn't stop. +I finger-fucked that pussy hard and fast +She squirmed and fucked at my fingers! +It was so intense for her....she stopped kissing me and threw back her head. +Oh how I watched your wife's face then. +Her tightly knit brows, her open mouth gasping, the tightening of her body. +She held on to me , gripping and holding wherever she could. +She was so excited. +She ended by fucking my fingers so hard! +she came for me, John +I felt her vagina seize both fingers. Your beautiful wife's pussyhole grasped them, held my fingers tight +I felt the walls of her vagina grasp..... and hold ......and pulse while she had her orgasm! +Oh, god.... the way Kim came for me. +She couldn't have had an orgasm in a long time. +Although it was hiked up around her waist, she was still in her dress. +It had happened so quickly. +My wrist was still held snugly by the waistband of her pantyhose. +And I waited until my fingers felt the last faint, small pulse +Up inside her babyhole. +I was watching her until she opened her eyes and looked at me.. +I was so fucking hot for her , John. +I started getting her out of that dress. +And She didn't stop me. +I was kissing her like crazy while I took off her clothes. +I took off her shoes and stripped those pantyhose off her beautiful legs. +I wanted to see those breasts. +I wanted them in my face. +I wanted to taste them...to suck them. +Kim was pulling my blouse off. +She was trying to get my slacks off. +I helped her. +Oh, God, your wife's breasts were so fucking awesome. +So full....her swollen nipples all erect. +Oh fuck I wanted them so bad. +They were in my mouth. +I was sucking them ....so good \\! +Her areolas were puffy and swollen +Your wife's nipples got so hard, John. +They were in my mouth. +She held my face as I moved my lips from one to the other. +She was trying to kiss me in between. +Go ahead John. +I want you to... +Let your fingers be soft and gentle on that aching cock of yours. +Tease it for her John. +Tease it for your obsessed little wife. +Your cock is waiting isn't it? +Make that stiff erection yearn for her lesbian submission.. +She couldn't help herself John.... +Why should you resist? +Kim couldn't stop just as you cannot help yourself now. +Tease your aching cock for her. +Don't resist the urge....not now.... +Show me you want your wife's desire fulfilled by another woman....and that it excites you.... +You know...that your wife loves to be kissed, John, oh my God. +Her mouth is so soft +The way she tongued me. +Her full soft lips on mine, OMG. +Everything slowed down then. +I wanted to be between her legs. +I told her so. +She stared at me. +I told her I wanted to taste her this way. +I even put my pussyfingers in my mouth to prove it. +My lips were soon covered with the aroma of her mature pussy. +She stared at me. +I reached my mouth to her lips and kissed them with mine. +Kim's tongue was in my mouth in an instant! +John.... +I started going down between your wife's legs. +I pushed the coffee table back. +I knelt on the carpeting between her open legs. +She was staring into my eyes. +She let me pull her hips to the sofa's edge. +She opened her legs wide for me. +I reached up to hold those voluptuous hips of hers. +I knew she would be extra sensitive. +So I covered the mound of her pussy with gentle kisses first. +She moaned, John....waiting for me. +Then I started licking that beautiful mature pussy she was lifting towards my mouth. +Your wife tastes so fucking good, John. +So feminine. So sweet. +I couldn't stop myself. +I opened her pussylips with my tongue. +Her labia fell open. +I found her clitoris. +It started to blossom onto my tongue. +I looked into Kim's eyes , John. +They were dreamy. +They were hungry for me. +I began lapping her wet pussy with my tongue so expertly. +Your wife put her hands in my hair. +Caressing it. +She held my face. +I ate her pussy so good. +I stiffened my tongue and made it go up inside her... +And watched as your wife's pretty eyes melted with desire. +As far as I could +Over and over. +She started moving her hips +She groaned for me. +Looking at me. +Turning away... +Looking at me again. +Your precious wife.... +LOVED it, John +I moved her labia side to side with my cheeks +To open her. +I surrounded your wife's clitoris. +My mouth was open on it. +Older women, John. +Thy are soft and voluptuous. +I loved it. +Everything about your wife is soft and full. +My nose was buried in the curls of her pussymound. +All that soft hair. +The scent of her filling my nostrils. +I started swirling my tongue around her exercised clitoris. +First one way then the other. +I applied nice firm gentle sucks on her fattened clit. +I licked Kim's clit so good for her. +Like her special young handmaiden....worshipping it John. +She started moving to me then. +She was humping at my face in nice gentle thrusts. +Holding my head +Moaning to me, John. +Wanting to come for me. +I held her onto my face. +Wanting to give her an experience she would never forget. +I brought one hand down below my chin. +I entered her with two fingers. +Your wife's moist warm pussy...making them go into her fucking slowly. +Stretching Kim's helpless pussy wide open, John. +Her legs went apart even more for me. +I reached up with my other hand and grabbed her breast. +Her nipple was between my fingers. +I fucked her John. +Licking her clit +Sucking it +Fucking her so steadily +So rhythmically... +She came for me John. +This time it was so much more intensive. +Your wife was sobbing, John. +She cried out all the pleasure I hoped for. +I held still for her. +I felt those pussywalls clutch my fingers +I felt your wife's deepest throbbing orgasm. +I didn't move as it subsided. +I felt her relax. +I raised my head and watched your wife's face as I carefully withdrew my fingers. +She hands released the grasp they had on my head of hair. +And then Kim looked into my eyes. +To prove to your wife I loved so much what I had done for her. +I sucked those fingers clean. +""I want you so much Heather."" She whispered. +Her leg was already moving up onto the sofa. +Soon she was on her back. +Reaching for me. +There on my sofa... +We moved carefully into a sixty-nine. +I placed myself above her. +I straddled your wife's face. +John....this is the moment when you must expose you cock fully. +Let it stand completely erect for me. +That touch of a woman's tongue against another's clitoris? +You can imitate that same sensual experience. +Laden your fingertips with saliva. +Grasp your hungry cock at its base. +Slowly apply its slippery mass to the underside of your cockhead. +Be gentle, be soft, +slide it in circles +around that most sensitive spot. +apply your touch as sensually as you can. +Think of your wife with me. +Think of what she is about to do with me. +Keep that sensitive spot moist. +Try and resist the urge to bring more to the full head of your cock... +Just the underside special area beneath its head +This is the feeling of tongue on clitoris John. +This is what Kim was about to do for me. +Your wife. +Your precious wife. +I remember what it was like the first time I placed my lips on another girl's pussylips, when I was very young John. +the excitement...the thrill of it how soft and fluid it was! +Tender, slippery and responsive. +I wanted it so bad. +But I was so nervous. +I knew what your wife was going through with me +Kim wanted it so badly. +Yet the experience filled her with apprehension. +Once she took that step...there could be no return. +I also knew that once her lips experienced the softness of my cunt... +Those apprehensions would evaporate. +So I was gentle and patient with your wife +I waited for her first moves. +Poised above her waiting patently. +John, so much depended on how desirable my pussy appeared to her now. +I'm athletic and in great shape. +My pussy is shaved and waxed... +And I know my pussy is pretty with all the slope and tightness of a young woman. +My bareness exposes my perfectly proportioned labia... +I know its so pink and smooth. +My clitoris is almost hidden within those pussyfolds but.. +I know how it will blossom into a tight bud .... +Just made for licking. +I know it is. +And I know it is very beautiful. +Your wife's eyes were discovering all of that and more. +Her hands caressed me everywhere. +I felt them fondle and hold my waist, my hips... +I felt her grasp my tight ass. +Beneath my face... +Your wife's legs had opened below me. +Her mature cunt... +I had used it so thoroughly, John... +It waited . +Women orgasm multiple times. +We just do. +Under the right circumstances our capacity for orgasm is +Unlimited. +Your wife had been so willing, John +And here she was about to do the unspeakable. +Hovering above... +I looked further down between us. +Down past my tight sporty breasts barely hanging.. +Past your wife's magnificent boobies floating heavily on her chest +so pretty with her nipples facing my belly. +I saw her face then +Transfixed....staring at everything that made me female. +I waited. +She pulled me slowly down to her lips. +I watched as your wife kissed the bare slopes of my pussy. +Each kiss so carefully placed +Waiting for her tongue to emerge... +Oh, God John ... +It was licking the swale of my vulva. +Your wife's tongue was within the folds of my labia +Licking what she had just been kissing. +I could feel my dripping pussy open all on its own +Then Kim's tongue found the deep swale of my cunt +She licked it up and down. +Her lips opened. +They surrounded my clitoris. +She pulled me against her mouth until all I could see exposed was her chin moving. +Your wife had buried her face into my barest cunt. +It was pure heaven. +I was so turned on by everything that had happened throughout our night.... +That I knew I would have my orgasm quickly. +Five minutes of her exploring tongue was all I could take. +She was making me come. +When Kim realized what was happening she held my waist tight . +I gyrated against her mouth. +She groaned in appreciation. +She swirled her tongue around the entire circumference of my clitoris +I felt my orgasm well up my spine +..... explode in her mouth. +Oh my God it was heaven. +And I knew what she was feeling too. +The control she held over my brimming orgasm +Made her tongue wild against my straining clit. +She owned me. +She controlled me in every way! +My face fell into her pussy. +I worshipped it. +Your wife gave me as complete an orgasm as any I ever had, John. +John , you can't imagine the connection +When two women satisfy each other this way. +It's a bond only women can understand. +Kim is lovely, John. +She is enchanting. +I want her. +And I know she wants me. +She dressed that night and called herself a cab +We kissed so deeply before she left. +She has kept me a secret from you, hasn't she +I want to see her again. +Would that be OK? +Please... +Please talk with her and tell her you suspect there is someone in her life like me. +Talk with her. +John, it wouldn't bother me if you....""saw"" us together. +Its OK, really! +Would you like that? +I wouldn't mind. +Talk to your wife , +Ask Kimberly and maybe she would agree? +Please give her my number. +Ask her to please call me? +Even if your wife and I just....talked on the phone... +Just to hear her voice? +If everything I've suggested appeals to you. +I know I can convince her! +(Sixty percent of all straight married and single women have lesbian sexual fantasies. Thirty eight percent of those same women have tried a lesbian experience at least once.)"