The One with All the Thanksgivings - wikipedia The One with All the Thanksgivings `` The One with the All the Thanksgivings '' Friends episode Episode no. Season 5 Episode 8 Directed by Kevin S. Bright Written by Gregory S. Malins Production code 467659 Original air date November 19, 1998 Guest appearance ( s ) Elliott Gould as Jack Geller Christina Pickles as Judy Geller Morgan Fairchild as Nora Tyler Bing Douglas Looper as The Paramedic Joshua Preston as Young Chandler Alec Mapa as The Housekeeper Michael Winters as the Doctor Episode chronology ← Previous `` The One Where Ross Moves In '' Next → `` The One with Ross 's Sandwich '' Friends ( season 5 ) List of Friends episodes `` The One with All the Thanksgivings '' ( also known as `` The One with the Thanksgiving Flashbacks '' ) is the eighth episode of the fifth season of Friends. It first aired on the NBC network in the United States on November 19, 1998. In the episode, the main characters spend Thanksgiving at Monica 's ( Courteney Cox ) apartment and begin telling stories about their worst Thanksgivings : Chandler ( Matthew Perry ) learning of his parents ' divorce, Phoebe ( Lisa Kudrow ) losing arms in past lives and Joey ( Matt LeBlanc ) having his head stuck in a turkey. Rachel ( Jennifer Aniston ) reveals Monica 's worst Thanksgiving -- accidentally cutting off Chandler 's toe after he called her `` fat '' in their first encounter. When Monica begs Chandler to forgive her, he accidentally reveals that he loves her. The episode was directed by Kevin S. Bright and written by Gregory S. Malins. It guest - stars Elliott Gould and Christina Pickles as Jack and Judy Geller, with a cameo appearance by Morgan Fairchild as Nora Tyler Bing. The idea was conceived by the writers, who suggested short stories about the `` worst Thanksgivings ever ''. A flashback approach was incorporated as the producers realized the audience responded well to it, despite concern the episode might be confused for a clip show. In its original broadcast the episode reached a 16.0 Nielsen rating and finished the week ranked second. The episode earned Debra McGuire a Primetime Emmy Award nomination for Outstanding Costume Design for a Series. Since airing, it frequently ranks high in polls about the series ' best episode. Contents 1 Synopsis 2 Production 3 Cultural references 4 Reception 5 References 6 External links Synopsis Ross 's ( David Schwimmer ) complaint that his divorce and eviction means he is having the worst Thanksgiving ever prompts the others to tell their stories. Chandler ( Matthew Perry ) reminds everyone of when his parents told him they were divorcing. Phoebe ( Lisa Kudrow ) then tells of story from a past life when she was an American Civil War nurse and lost an arm, though Ross objects, with the demand of only tales of present lives. Rachel ( Jennifer Aniston ) says she knows Monica 's ( Courteney Cox ) story, but Phoebe interrupts with a story about the time Joey ( Matt LeBlanc ) had a turkey stuck on his head. Monica tells of Thanksgiving 1987. Monica and Rachel are eighteen years old and seniors in high school, and an overweight Monica spends time comforting Rachel, after Chip ended their relationship. When Ross learns of Rachel 's breakup, he asks Chandler to stay overnight in the hope of getting a date, but Chandler refuses, claiming that he does n't want to be stuck with `` your fat sister '' Monica. Overhearing the conversation from behind the door, Monica breaks down in tears and storms out. Back in the present, Chandler apologizes to Monica. Rachel reveals that 's not the story she was referring to. The flashbacks continue to 1988 ; Ross and Chandler arrive for dinner to find that Monica has slimmed down, and Chandler now finds her attractive. Monica tells Rachel that she wants to humiliate Chandler for calling her fat, so Rachel suggests tricking him into taking off his clothes. Monica tries to seduce Chandler by rubbing various objects, including a knife, against her skin. She drops the knife and severs his toe. He is rushed to hospital to have it reattached but, in the commotion, Monica mixes up the digit with a carrot. In the present, Chandler becomes upset after learning that he had lost his toe because he called Monica fat, and angrily leaves. When Monica comes by his apartment seeking his forgiveness by putting a turkey on her head, he inadvertently tells her he loves her for the first time in their relationship. A tag scene shows another of Phoebe 's past life memories as she serves in a World War I field hospital and again lost an arm. Production In the episode, Matthew Perry 's character Chandler tells Monica for the first time that he loves her. `` The One with All the Thanksgivings '' was written by Gregory S. Malins and directed by Kevin S. Bright. It is the fifth Thanksgiving special in the Friends series. The producers knew from past recordings that the audience responded well to seeing `` the Friends as they were '' and decided to incorporate a flashback episode into a Thanksgiving special. Show creator David Crane considered the Thanksgiving - themed episode as the `` hallmark show '' in each season. Marta Kauffman added dialogue centering on six characters being together in a room made the holiday special work. When discussing story ideas, the writers decided to create `` a bunch of little pieces '', until someone suggested `` what if it 's the worst Thanksgivings ? '', later used as the hook. Working on a flashback meant the episode needed `` to have meaning '' as the story continues in the present. It was difficult to keep the characters, particularly Chandler, spontaneously mad for something that happened `` years ago ''. The comedic content was bigger than usual, because Phoebe 's arm was blown off and Joey 's head stuck in a turkey. Many scenes were shot in advance. The producers disliked filming beforehand as they preferred `` the audience to tell us what 's good and what 's bad. '' They also were concerned that a flashback episode would be mistaken for a clip show, but felt it would be believable because they were `` flashing so far back into the past. '' According to Kauffman, certain scenes filmed in the apartment were shot in advance because `` it was all over the place '' ; the cast were tired and full and their energy levels were low. Special effects and costume changes meant `` three or four scenes '' were also pre-shot to ensure the dialogue was happening in front of the audience. This was completed in two days. Elliott Gould and Christina Pickles reprised their roles as Jack and Judy Geller. The set for the Geller house was used previously in `` The One Where Joey Moves Out '', for Jack 's birthday party and in the season seven episode `` The One Where Rosita Dies '', when Ross and Monica visit their parent 's garage. The flashback in Thanksgiving 1987 was Monica and Chandler 's first meeting along with Rachel and Chandler. Bright commented that the show tries not to contradict itself ; `` once we establish something, we try not to undo it. '' In `` The Pilot '' it appears Rachel meets Chandler for the first time. She also meets him in a later flashback episode, `` The One Where The Stripper Cries ''. To excuse the continuity error, Bright adds they do not remember each other meeting because they look different. A special rubber and foam turkey was created for Joey and Monica to place on their heads for sanitary and insurance reasons. A weaving, invisible to the audience, was placed in the middle of the turkey to allow the character to see. Chandler 's `` flock of seagulls '' hairstyle, mentioned in a previous episode, was based on the 1980s time period. For safety, the scene where Monica severed Chandler 's toe was pre-shot. Originally the sound of a knife slashing through Chandler 's shoe was placed, but according to Crane it `` got a little too graphic ''. Dramatic music was dubbed over instead. Cultural references The inspiration for Phoebe 's character spurting blood was Dan Aykroyd 's Bass - O - Matic commercial on Saturday Night Live. In the sketch, Aykroyd plays a pitchman who sells a blender specifically designed to liquefy fish. He accidentally gets his hand stuck in the funnel, which causes it to be chopped off while blood sprays everywhere. The turkey stuck on Joey 's head is a reference to Act 4 in `` Merry Christmas Mr. Bean '' from Mr. Bean. Ross and Chandler 's costumes in 1988 were inspired by Miami Vice, which was popular at the time. The music used in Chandler 's accident was `` The Murder '' from Alfred Hitchcock 's Psycho. Reception `` It brought together the past of Monica being rejected by Chandler, then Chandler in a way being rejected by Monica and then coming back to their relationship in the future that we are all rooting for. '' -- Kevin S. Bright, The One With All The Thanksgivings, DVD commentary In its original airing, the show finished second in ratings for the week of November 16 -- 22, 1998, with a Nielsen rating of 16.0, equivalent to approximately 15.5 million households. It was the network 's second highest - rated show that week, after ER, which aired on the same night. The episode premiered in the United Kingdom on Sky1 on February 25, 1999 and reached 1.88 million viewers which made it the most watched show that week. It aired on Channel 4 on August 27, 1999 and was watched by 4.40 million viewers making Friends the channel 's third - highest rated program for the week ending August 29, 1999. Entertainment Weekly rated the episode `` B + '' and called the `` pre-nose job '' Rachel and `` Fat Monica '' great sight gags. It cited Joey 's line `` It 's not so much an underpant as it is a feat of engineering '' ( in reference to a thong ) as the best of the episode. The authors of Friends Like Us : The Unofficial Guide to Friends wrote `` This unusual episode is one of the series ' best ever, with the non-stop comedy roller - coaster suddenly throwing a brilliant surprise ending at you ''. Debra McGuire was nominated for a Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Costume Design for a Series, while the mixers were nominated for Outstanding Sound Mixing for a Comedy Series or a Special. The popularity of this episode placed it on one of the first Region 1 `` best of '' DVD releases. It was also released as part of Friends : The Complete Fifth Season in Regions 1, 2, and 4. In 2004, `` The One with All the Thanksgivings '' was ranked fifth in a list of the top 10 Friends episodes by the Daily Herald and in 2010, was identified as one of the five best Thanksgiving - themed episodes by Contra Costa Times. References ^ Jump up to : Sangster, Jim ; David Bailey ( 2000 ). Friends Like Us : The Unofficial Guide to Friends ( 2nd ed. ). London : Virgin Publishing Ltd. pp. 285 -- 288. ISBN 0 - 7535 - 0439 - 1. Jump up ^ `` Friends Episode : `` The One with the Thanksgiving Flashbacks '' ``. TV Guide. Retrieved May 20, 2012. Jump up ^ `` Friends -- The One With All The Thanksgivings ''. Yahoo ! TV. Retrieved 16 April 2012. ^ Jump up to : Crane, David ( 15 July 2003 ). Commentary for `` The One With All The Thanksgivings '' ( Friends : The Complete Fifth Season ) ( DVD ). Warner Home Video. access - date = requires url = ( help ) ^ Jump up to : Kauffman, Marta ( 15 July 2003 ). Commentary for `` The One With All The Thanksgivings '' ( Friends : The Complete Fifth Season ) ( DVD ). Warner Home Video. access - date = requires url = ( help ) ^ Jump up to : Bright, Kevin S. ( 15 July 2003 ). Commentary for `` The One With All The Thanksgivings '' ( Friends : The Complete Fifth Season ) ( DVD ). Warner Home Video. access - date = requires url = ( help ) Jump up ^ `` Week 's TV ratings ''. San Francisco Chronicle. 25 November 1998. Retrieved 8 April 2012. ^ Jump up to : `` BARB 's multichannel top 30 programmes ''. barb.co.uk. Retrieved 9 April 2012. Note : Information is in the section titled `` w / e 28 Feb 1999 '', listed under Sky 1 and `` w / e 29 Aug 1999 '', listed under Channel 4 Jump up ^ `` Review : Season 5 ( 1998 -- 1999 ) ''. Entertainment Weekly. 15 September 2001. Retrieved 19 August 2007. Jump up ^ `` Friends ''. Emmys.com. Retrieved 12 April 2012. Jump up ^ `` Warner Home Video Brings the Emmy - Winning TV Show FRIENDS To DVD and VHS for the First Time on December 19 '' ( Press release ). Time Warner. 14 November 2000. Retrieved 19 August 2007. Jump up ^ `` Friends : The Complete Fifth Season ''. Amazon.com. Retrieved 12 April 2012. Jump up ^ Cox, Ted ( 6 May 2004 ). `` The end. 10 for 10 : the best of ' Friends ' ''. Daily Herald. Chicago. p. 1. Jump up ^ Barney, Chuck ( 19 November 2011 ). `` Top 5 : Funny Thanksgiving TV shows for which we 're grateful ''. Contra Costa Times. Retrieved 25 July 2012. 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