That 's the Way I 've Always Heard It Should Be - wikipedia That 's the Way I 've Always Heard It Should Be `` That 's the Way I 've Always Heard It Should Be '' Single by Carly Simon from the album Carly Simon B - side `` Alone '' Released April 1971 Format Vinyl, 7 ``, 45 RPM Recorded 1970 Genre Pop rock Length 4 : 15 Label Elektra Songwriter ( s ) Carly Simon Jacob Brackman Producer ( s ) Eddie Kramer Carly Simon singles chronology `` That 's the Way I 've Always Heard It Should Be '' ( 1971 ) `` Anticipation '' ( 1971 ) `` That 's the Way I 've Always Heard It Should Be '' ( 1971 ) `` Anticipation '' ( 1971 ) `` That 's the Way I 've Always Heard It Should Be '' is a 1971 song performed by Carly Simon. Her friend and frequent collaborator Jacob Brackman wrote the lyrics and Simon wrote the music. The song was released as the lead single from her self - titled debut album, Carly Simon, and it reached peak positions of number 10 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart and 6 on the Billboard Adult Contemporary chart. It was an art song with a semiclassical melody in the style of Gabriel Fauré, and Elektra staffers were worried the single was too emotionally complex to be released as Simon 's first single. With subject matter that includes `` the parents ' bad marriage ; the friends ' unhappy lives ; the boyfriend 's enthusiasm for marriage but controlling nature ; the woman 's initial resistance and ultimate capitulation. '' Simon was quoted as saying, `` When I first wrote it I thought it was an unusual thing for people to break up, and now all my friends are divorced. '' Contents 1 Recognition 2 Chart performance 2.1 Weekly charts 2.2 Year - end charts 3 References 4 External links Recognition The success of the song propelled Simon into the limelight. Apart from being a Top 10 hit, Simon also received her first Grammy Award nomination for Best Female Pop Vocal Performance. She also was nominated for and won Best New Artist. `` That 's the Way I 've Always Heard It Should Be '' has been included on several compilations of Simon 's work, including The Best of Carly Simon ( 1975 ), Clouds in My Coffee ( 1995 ), The Very Best of Carly Simon : Nobody Does It Better ( 1999 ), Anthology ( 2002 ), and Reflections : Carly Simon 's Greatest Hits ( 2004 ). No music video existed for this song, although a filmed performance was produced for an episode of the early 1970s PBS series The Great American Dream Machine. Chart performance Weekly charts Chart ( 1971 ) Peak Position Australia ( Kent Music Report ) 62 Canada ( RPM ) 15 US Billboard Pop Singles ( Hot 100 ) 10 US Billboard Adult Contemporary 6 US Cash Box Top 100 9 Year - end charts Chart ( 1971 ) Rank US Billboard Hot 100 47 US Cash Box Top 100 82 References Jump up ^ Whitburn, Joel ( 2002 ). Top Adult Contemporary : 1961 - 2001. Record Research. p. 221. Jump up ^ Holden, Stephen ( 2008 - 05 - 13 ). `` Trailblazers, but Selling a Romantic Kind of Love ''. The New York Times. Retrieved 2010 - 06 - 08. Jump up ^ Weller, Sheila ( 2009 ). Girls Like Us. p. 344. access - date = requires url = ( help ) Jump up ^ Walsh, Ben ( 2010 - 03 - 11 ). `` Vanity case : Will Carly Simon reveal the identity of the mystery man in her Seventies hit You 're So Vain ? ''. The Independent. London. Retrieved 2010 - 06 - 08. Jump up ^ `` Carly Simon Official Website - That 's the Way I 've Always Heard It Should Be lyrics ''. Web.archive.org. Archived from the original on March 16, 2005. Retrieved 2015 - 02 - 07. Jump up ^ ( 1 ) Jump up ^ `` Top 100 Hits of 1971 / Top 100 Songs of 1971 ''. Musicoutfitters.com. Retrieved 2016 - 10 - 05. Jump up ^ ( 2 ) External links Lyrics of this song at MetroLyrics Carly Simon 's Official Website Carly Simon Discography Studio albums Carly Simon Anticipation No Secrets Hotcakes Playing Possum Another Passenger Boys in the Trees Spy Come Upstairs Torch Hello Big Man Spoiled Girl Coming Around Again My Romance Have You Seen Me Lately This Is My Life Romulus Hunt : A Family Opera Letters Never Sent Film Noir The Bedroom Tapes Moonlight Serenade Into White This Kind of Love Never Been Gone Compilations The Best of Carly Simon Greatest Hits Live Clouds in My Coffee The Very Best of Carly Simon : Nobody Does It Better Christmas Is Almost Here Anthology Christmas Is Almost Here Again Reflections : Carly Simon 's Greatest Hits Carly Simon Collector 's Edition Playlist : The Very Best of Carly Simon Songs From The Trees ( A Musical Memoir Collection ) Soundtracks Working Girl This Is My Life Piglet 's Big Movie Pooh 's Heffalump Movie Concerts Live from Martha 's Vineyard Carly in Concert -- My Romance Live at Grand Central A Moonlight Serenade on the Queen Mary 2 Singles `` That 's the Way I 've Always Heard It Should Be '' `` Anticipation '' `` Legend in Your Own Time '' `` You 're So Vain '' `` The Right Thing to Do '' `` Mockingbird '' `` Have n't Got Time for the Pain '' `` Attitude Dancing '' `` Waterfall '' `` It Keeps You Runnin ' '' `` Nobody Does It Better '' `` You Belong to Me '' `` Devoted to You '' `` Vengeance '' `` Jesse '' `` Why '' `` Kissing with Confidence '' `` You Know What to Do '' `` Tired of Being Blonde '' `` My New Boyfriend '' `` Coming Around Again '' `` Give Me All Night '' `` The Stuff That Dreams Are Made Of '' `` All I Want Is You '' `` Let the River Run '' `` Better Not Tell Her '' `` Love of My Life '' `` Son of a Gun ( I Betcha Think This Song Is About You ) '' Other songs `` We Have No Secrets '' `` Night Owl '' `` You Can Close Your Eyes '' The Simon Sisters Meet The Simon Sisters Cuddlebug The Simon Sisters Sing the Lobster Quadrille and Other Songs for Children Lucy & Carly -- The Simon Sisters Sing for Children Winkin ', Blinkin ' and Nod : The Kapp Recordings Carly & Lucy Simon Sing Songs for Children Book Retrieved from `` https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=That%27s_the_Way_I%27ve_Always_Heard_It_Should_Be&oldid=800788142 '' Categories : 1971 singles Carly Simon songs Songs written by Carly Simon 1970s ballads Songs with lyrics by Jacob Brackman 1971 songs Elektra Records singles Songs with feminist themes Hidden categories : Pages using citations with accessdate and no URL All articles with dead external links Articles with dead external links from October 2016 Articles with hAudio microformats Talk Contents About Wikipedia Add links This page was last edited on 15 September 2017, at 17 : 36. 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Question: who wrote that the way i've always heard it should be
Answer: Jacob Brackman