Ella Wheeler Wilcox - wikipedia Ella Wheeler Wilcox Ella Wheeler Wilcox unknown date Ella Wheeler Wilcox ( November 5, 1850 -- October 30, 1919 ) was an American author and poet. Her best - known work was Poems of Passion. Her most enduring work was `` Solitude '', which contains the lines `` Laugh, and the world laughs with you ; weep, and you weep alone ''. Her autobiography, The Worlds and I, was published in 1918, a year before her death. Contents 1 Biography 2 Poetry 3 Works 3.1 Book ( autobiography ) 3.2 Poetry 4 In popular culture 5 References 6 Further reading 7 External links Biography Ella Wheeler was born in 1850 on a farm in Johnstown, Wisconsin, east of Janesville, the youngest of four children. The family soon moved north of Madison. She started writing poetry at a very early age, and was well known as a poet in her own state by the time she graduated from high school. Her most famous poem, `` Solitude '', was first published in the February 25, 1883 ( ? ) issue of The New York Sun. The inspiration for the poem came as she was travelling to attend the Governor 's inaugural ball in Madison, Wisconsin. On her way to the celebration, there was a young woman dressed in black sitting across the aisle from her. The woman was crying. Miss Wheeler sat next to her and sought to comfort her for the rest of the journey. When they arrived, the poet was so depressed that she could barely attend the scheduled festivities. As she looked at her own radiant face in the mirror, she suddenly recalled the sorrowful widow. It was at that moment that she wrote the opening lines of `` Solitude '' : Laugh, and the world laughs with you ; Weep, and you weep alone. For the sad old earth must borrow its mirth But has trouble enough of its own She sent the poem to the Sun and received $5 for her effort. It was collected in the book Poems of Passion shortly after in May 1883 ( ? ). In 1884, she married Robert Wilcox of Meriden, Connecticut, where the couple lived before moving to New York City and then to Granite Bay in the Short Beach section of Branford, Connecticut. The two homes they built on Long Island Sound, along with several cottages, became known as Bungalow Court, and they would hold gatherings there of literary and artistic friends. They had one child, a son, who died shortly after birth. Not long after their marriage, they both became interested in theosophy, new thought, and spiritualism. Early in their married life, Robert and Ella Wheeler Wilcox promised each other that whoever went first through death would return and communicate with the other. Robert Wilcox died in 1916, after over thirty years of marriage. She was overcome with grief, which became ever more intense as week after week went without any message from him. It was at this time that she went to California to see the Rosicrucian astrologer, Max Heindel, still seeking help in her sorrow, still unable to understand why she had no word from her Robert. She wrote of this meeting : In talking with Max Heindel, the leader of the Rosicrucian Philosophy in California, he made very clear to me the effect of intense grief. Mr. Heindel assured me that I would come in touch with the spirit of my husband when I learned to control my sorrow. I replied that it seemed strange to me that an omnipotent God could not send a flash of his light into a suffering soul to bring its conviction when most needed. Did you ever stand beside a clear pool of water, asked Mr. Heindel, and see the trees and skies repeated therein ? And did you ever cast a stone into that pool and see it clouded and turmoiled, so it gave no reflection ? Yet the skies and trees were waiting above to be reflected when the waters grew calm. So God and your husband 's spirit wait to show themselves to you when the turbulence of sorrow is quieted. Ella 's poem plaque at San Francisco 's Jack Kerouac Alley. Several months later, she composed a little mantra or affirmative prayer which she said over and over `` I am the living witness : The dead live : And they speak through us and to us : And I am the voice that gives this glorious truth to the suffering world : I am ready, God : I am ready, Christ : I am ready, Robert. '' Wilcox made efforts to teach occult things to the world. Her works, filled with positive thinking, were popular in the New Thought Movement and by 1915 her booklet, What I Know About New Thought had a distribution of 50,000 copies, according to its publisher, Elizabeth Towne. The following statement expresses Wilcox 's unique blending of New Thought, Spiritualism, and a Theosophical belief in reincarnation : `` As we think, act, and live here today, we build the structures of our homes in spirit realms after we leave earth, and we build karma for future lives, thousands of years to come, on this earth or other planets. Life will assume new dignity, and labor new interest for us, when we come to the knowledge that death is but a continuation of life and labor, in higher planes. '' Her final words in her autobiography The Worlds and I : `` From this mighty storehouse ( of God, and the hierarchies of Spiritual Beings ) we may gather wisdom and knowledge, and receive light and power, as we pass through this preparatory room of earth, which is only one of the innumerable mansions in our Father 's house. Think on these things ''. Ella Wheeler Wilcox died of cancer on October 30, 1919 in Short Beach, Connecticut. Poetry Ella Wheeler Wilcox A popular poet rather than a literary poet, in her poems she expresses sentiments of cheer and optimism in plainly written, rhyming verse. Her world view is expressed in the title of her poem `` Whatever Is -- Is Best '', suggesting an echo of Alexander Pope 's `` Whatever is, is right, '' a concept formally articulated by Gottfried Leibniz and parodied by Voltaire 's character Doctor Pangloss in Candide. None of Wilcox 's works were included by F.O. Matthiessen in The Oxford Book of American Verse, but Hazel Felleman chose no fewer than fourteen of her poems for Best Loved Poems of the American People, while Martin Gardner selected `` The Way Of The World '' and `` The Winds of Fate '' for Best Remembered Poems. She is frequently cited in anthologies of bad poetry, such as The Stuffed Owl : An Anthology of Bad Verse and Very Bad Poetry. Sinclair Lewis indicates Babbitt 's lack of literary sophistication by having him refer to a piece of verse as `` one of the classic poems, like ' If -- ' by Kipling, or Ella Wheeler Wilcox 's ' The Man Worth While. ' '' The latter opens : It is easy enough to be pleasant, When life flows by like a song, But the man worth while is one who will smile, When everything goes dead wrong. Her most famous lines open her poem `` Solitude '' : Laugh and the world laughs with you, Weep, and you weep alone ; The good old earth must borrow its mirth, But has trouble enough of its own. `` The Winds of Fate '' is a marvel of economy, far too short to summarize. In full : One ship drives east and another drives west With the selfsame winds that blow. ' Tis the set of the sails, And Not the gales, That tell us the way to go. Like the winds of the sea are the ways of fate ; As we voyage along through life, ' Tis the set of a soul That decides its goal, And not the calm or the strife. Ella Wheeler Wilcox cared about alleviating animal suffering, as can be seen from her poem, `` Voice of the Voiceless ''. It begins as follows : So many gods, so many creeds, So many paths that wind and wind, While just the art of being kind Is all the sad world needs. I am the voice of the voiceless ; Through me the dumb shall speak, Till the deaf world 's ear be made to hear The wrongs of the wordless weak. From street, from cage, and from kennel, From stable and zoo, the wail Of my tortured kin proclaims the sin Of the mighty against the frail. Another poem, called `` Speech '', is uplifting in nature : Talk happiness. The world is sad enough Without your woes. No path is wholly rough ; Look for the places that are smooth and clear. And speak of those, to rest the weary ear Of Earth, so hurt by one continuous strain Of human discontent and grief and pain. Talk faith. The world is better off without Your uttered ignorance and morbid doubt. If you have faith in God, or man or self, Say so. If not, push back upon the shelf Of silence all your thoughts, till faith shall come ; No one will grieve because your lips are dumb. Talk health. The dreary never - changing tale Of mortal maladies is worn and stale. You can not charm, or interest, or please By harping on that minor chord disease. Say you are well, or all is well with you. And God shall hear your words and make them true... She made a very popular appearance during World War I in France, reciting her poem, The Stevedores ( `` Here 's to the Army stevedores, lusty virile and strong... '' ) while visiting a camp of 9,000 US Army stevedores. Works Book ( autobiography ) The Heart of New Thought, Chicago : The Psychic Research Company, 1902. 92 pages. A Woman of the World : Her Counsel to Other People 's Son and Daughters ; L.C. Page and Company, Boston, 1905. 310 pages. The Worlds and I, New York : George II Doran Company, c1918 Poetry The Invisible Helpers in Cosmopolitan 57 ( October 1914 ) : 578 - 579 The Voice of the Voiceless Disarmament Roads to God To An Astrologer Secret Thoughts An Ambitious Man An Englishman and Other Poems Hello, Boys ! The Kingdom of Love Maurine and other Poems Poems of Cheer Poems of Experience Poems of Optimism Poems of Passion Poems of Power Poems of Problems Poems of Progress Poems of Purpose Poems of Sentiment A Woman of the World Yesterdays Poems of Reflection, 1905 copyright, M.A. Donahue & Co. ( publisher ) Poems of Affection 1920 Gay and Hancock Ltd, Covent Garden, London In popular culture In the TV series Orphan Black, all season 5 titles are quotes from her poem `` Protest '', which is entry number 1695 in Respectfully quoted : a dictionary of quotations. References Jump up ^ EW Wilcox at Wikisource Jump up ^ `` A Celebration of Ella Wheeler Wilcox, Poet, Journalist, and Progressive Thinker, '' Branford Historical Society Archived 2010 - 12 - 23 at the Wayback Machine. Jump up ^ some versions indicate the words are `` For the brave old earth must borrow its mirth '' or `` For the sad old earth must borrow its mirth '' Jump up ^ Beers, D. 2006. For the Prevention of Cruelty : The History and Legacy of Animal Rights Activism in the United States. Jump up ^ Scott, Emmett J. Scott 's Official History of The American Negro in the World War. Retrieved 2014 - 02 - 09. Jump up ^ Nguyen, Hanh ( May 8, 2017 ). `` ' Orphan Black ' Extended Trailer : Could One of the Clone Club Die This Final Season ? -- Watch ''. IndieWire. Retrieved May 9, 2017. Further reading Ifkovic, Edward. Ella Moon : A Novel Based on the Life of Ella Wheeler Wilcox. Oregon, WI : Waubesa Press, 2001. 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Question: who said laugh and the world laughs with you
Answer: Ella Wheeler Wilcox