Derek Shepherd - Wikipedia Derek Shepherd This article 's plot summary may be too long or excessively detailed. Please help improve it by removing unnecessary details and making it more concise. ( November 2010 ) Derek Shepherd Grey 's Anatomy character Patrick Dempsey as Derek Shepherd in 2012 First appearance `` A Hard Day 's Night '' ( 1.01 ) March 27, 2005 Last appearance `` You 're My Home ( Grey 's Anatomy ) '' ( 11.25 ) May 14, 2015 Created by Shonda Rhimes Portrayed by Patrick Dempsey Information Full name Derek Christopher Shepherd Nickname ( s ) McDreamy Occupation Attending neurosurgeon Member of the Board ( former ) Chief of Surgery ( former ) Head of Neurosurgery ( former ) Title M.D. F.A.C.S. Family Mr. Shepherd ( father, deceased ) Carolyn Maloney Shepherd ( mother ) Nancy Shepherd ( sister ) Kathleen `` Kate '' Shepherd ( sister ) Elizabeth `` Lizzie '' Shepherd ( sister ) Amelia Shepherd ( sister ) 9 unnamed nieces 6 unnamed nephews ( one deceased ) Spouse ( s ) Addison Montgomery ( m. 1994 ; div. 2006 ) Meredith Grey ( m. 2009 -- 2015 ) Significant other ( s ) Rose Children Zola Shepherd ( daughter ) Derek Bailey Shepherd ( son ) Ellis Shepherd ( daughter ) ( with Meredith ) certifications M.D. F.A.C.S Derek Christopher Shepherd, M.D., also referred to as `` McDreamy '', is a fictional surgeon from the ABC medical drama Grey 's Anatomy, portrayed by actor Patrick Dempsey. He made his first appearance during `` A Hard Day 's Night '', which was broadcast on March 27, 2005. Derek was married to Addison Montgomery ( Kate Walsh ) for 12 years, before their divorce in 2006. Before his death in 2015, Derek was happily married to his longtime girlfriend Meredith Grey ( Ellen Pompeo ). The couple are often referred to as `` MerDer '' and they have three children together. Shepherd was formerly the Chief of Surgery at Seattle Grace Mercy West Hospital, but abruptly resigned as chief in season 7 following the shooting. For his portrayal of Shepherd, Dempsey was nominated in 2006 and 2007 Golden Globe for the Best Performance by an Actor in a Television Series Drama for the role, and the 2006 SAG Award for the Outstanding Performance by an Actor in a Drama Series award. Contents 1 Storyline 2 Development 2.1 Casting and creation 2.2 Characterization 3 Reception 4 References 5 External links Storyline Derek arrives at Seattle Grace Hospital as the new Head of Neurosurgery from New York City. He is a Bowdoin College graduate and attended Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons alongside his childhood best friend Mark Sloan and ex-wife Addison Montgomery and Private Practice characters Naomi Bennett and Sam Bennett. Derek was a student of Dr. Richard Webber and was enticed to come with an `` offer he could n't refuse '' -- the position of Chief of Surgery, which he eventually turned down. He specializes in highly complex tumors and conditions of the brain and spine and came to Seattle Grace with a reputation for taking on `` lost causes '' and `` impossible '' cases that most of his peers would turn down. As an attending he is both well - liked and feared -- well - liked by patients and his scrub nurses for his compassion and gentlemanly bedside manner and feared by interns and residents who are intimidated by his reputation and high standards. He is passionate about his job and has been known to expel staff or remove interns and residents ( or at least threaten them ) from his service for being disrespectful about patients or if he deems their attitude to be detrimental to his patient 's well - being. Derek first meets Meredith Grey at a bar, and soon finds out that she is an intern at Seattle Grace. They begin to have feelings for one another and it causes some awkwardness at work, particularly after her supervising resident Dr. Miranda Bailey discovers their relationship. Meredith 's housemates and fellow interns George O'Malley and Izzie Stevens both antagonized her for some time as they felt she was using her relationship with Derek to further her career. He generally tolerated them despite his dislike of sharing his living space with the interns who worked under him. While most of his family members accepted Meredith, his sister, Nancy, particularly disliked her and repeatedly called her `` the slutty intern '' ; as of season nine she still refuses to speak to Meredith or acknowledge her as her sister - in - law. His mother Carolyn approved as she felt Meredith 's gray perspective of life complemented Derek 's tendency to see everything in black and white. Derek 's background was generally a mystery for the first season and source of speculation amongst his colleagues due to his sudden departure from an established and highly respected practice in New York. In the season one finale, his past eventually catches up with him when his estranged wife Addison moves to Seattle and is offered a position by Dr. Webber. Shortly thereafter, his childhood best friend Mark joins Seattle Grace as the new head of plastic surgery. Derek and Addison attempt to repair their marriage but attempts were futile. Since their divorce they have remained on amicable terms, with Addison even admonishing Meredith for breaking up with Derek in season three. In the Private Practice episode `` Ex-Life '' Derek finally tells Addison that his mother never liked her in the first place. He admits to Meredith that Addison cheating on him with Mark was partly his fault as an absentee husband. Addison eventually leaves Seattle for a private practice in Los Angeles, spawning the spin - off Private Practice. In the season eight episode `` If / Then '', Meredith dreams of an alternate universe where her mother never had Alzheimer 's ; Derek and Addison are still married but their strained relationship and Shepherd 's disillusionment causes his career to stagnate, earning him the nicknames `` Bad Shepherd '' and `` McDreary ''. When Derek is offered the Chief of Surgery position for the second time, he persuades the board to keep Dr. Webber on the staff. During the merger of Seattle Grace with Mercy West their relationship sours when Derek disagreed with Richard 's handling of the merger and Richard begins to display uncharacteristic behavior, not unnoticed by his fellow surgeons. Derek learns from Meredith that Richard has since resumed drinking and feels forced to have him removed as Chief of Surgery. With mixed feelings, Derek offers him an ultimatum : go into rehab and possibly pick up where he left off after, or quit completely. In seasons three and four, Meredith and Derek 's relationship becomes rocky and they each take time to date other people. Derek 's plans to propose were ruined by a series of unfortunate events in season five. In the season finale, they decide to give their planned wedding to Alex and Izzie. Due to their tight schedule, they instead informally marry and Derek writes down their `` promises '' on a post-it note. They legalize their marriage in season seven in order to adopt Zola, a young African orphan treated for spina bifida. They briefly separate after Meredith tampers with their Alzheimer 's trial, jeopardizing her career and tarnishing Derek 's reputation. Zola is taken away from Meredith after a social worker finds out she and Derek are living separately. In later seasons, Derek often griped about how his subsequent interns and residents -- mainly Lexie Grey, Shane Ross and Heather Brooks -- did not quite measure up to Meredith. The social worker comes back and announces they are the official parents of Zola. As Meredith nears the end of her fifth year of residency, she and Derek are torn between staying at Seattle Grace Mercy West or leaving for Boston where Derek would work at Harvard while Meredith would be at the Brigham and Women 's Hospital. Following his rescue from the plane crash that killed Mark and Lexie, Derek learns that he may only regain 80 percent of his hand 's function. He comes to terms with the fact that his career as a surgeon may be over and is grateful that he is alive. When Callie Torres ( Sara Ramirez ), head of orthopedic surgery, tells him a more risky surgery could give him back full function of his hand or reduce its function if it goes wrong, he agrees, accepting the possibility of never again holding a scalpel. Derek recovers well and Callie clears him to return to work, but it is still weeks later that he feels ready to operate. Derek, Callie and fellow resident Jackson Avery decide to do nerve transplant for his hand. Meredith, newly pregnant with their second child, goes behind his back and calls his sisters so they can donate a nerve to him. Lizzie ( Neve Campbell ), Derek 's younger sister, agrees to donate a nerve and the surgery is a success. Derek and Meredith 's marriage is strained after he accepted an invitation from the President to participate in the Brain - Mapping Initiative. He went back on his promise to her that he would not add to his current workload in order to devote time to their two young children and allow her the chance to establish her career as a full - fledged attending. Eventually he was offered a position at the National Institutes of Health in Washington, D.C., but Meredith puts her foot down and refuses to leave her hometown and uproot their young family. His youngest sister Amelia ( Caterina Scorsone ) takes over his position at Grey Sloan. Meanwhile, he and Meredith fight bitterly on and off over whether they should move. After a bad argument, he accepts the job in the heat of the moment and leaves for Washington. While there, he and Meredith talk things out over the phone and come to a mutual conclusion that they both did not want to end their marriage. He tells her that just being with her, raising their children and operating on patients was more satisfying than `` saving the world ''. In season 11, Derek is involved in a fatal car accident while driving to the airport for his final trip to Washington. He is able to hear and process auditory input, but unable to speak. He is recognized by Winnie, one of the victims of a crash he assisted in earlier, who tells the surgeons that their patient 's name is Derek and that he is a surgeon as well. The hospital he was taken to was understaffed and his head injury was not detected quickly enough by the interns on duty that night. Although the neurosurgeon on call is paged multiple times, he takes too long to arrive and Derek is declared brain dead. Police arrive at Meredith 's door and take her to see Derek, where she consents to removing him from life support. At the time of his death, Meredith was pregnant with their third child. She gives birth to a daughter whom she names Ellis after her mother. Derek was mentioned or referenced to a number of times in season 12 as the other characters struggle to cope with his sudden death. In the episode `` My Next Life '', Meredith had a flashback of their first ever surgery together when a patient named Katie Bryce was admitted to the hospital with a brain aneurysm. Amelia took his death especially hard as he was the sibling she was closest to. At the end of the season, prior to her wedding to Derek 's long - time colleague Owen Hunt, Amelia goes on a nervous rant about how Derek was supposed to be the one to give her away, him having given away their three other sisters at their weddings. Development Casting and creation When Patrick Dempsey auditioned for the role of Derek Shepherd, he was afraid that he was not going to get the part. Creator Shonda Rhimes ' first reaction was : `` The very first time I met him, I was absolutely sure that he was my guy. Reading the lines of Derek Shepherd, Patrick had a vulnerable charm that I just fell for. And he had amazing chemistry with Ellen Pompeo. '' Rhimes admitted that Dempsey 's dyslexia threw her at first, particularly at the first few table readings : `` I did not know about Patrick 's dyslexia in the beginning. I actually thought that he did n't like the scripts from the way he approached the readings. When I found out, I completely understood his hesitation. Now that we all know, if he is struggling with a word, the other actors are quick to step up and help him out. Everyone is very respectful. '' Isaiah Washington also auditioned for the part and when he did not get it, he said his reaction was like `` I 'd been kicked in the stomach by 14 mules. '' Washington was, however, later cast as Preston Burke. Rob Lowe was also considered to portray Shepherd but turned the role down. Some of the character 's medical cases were inspired by real - life patients of Steve Giannotta, Chair of Neurological Surgery at the University of Southern California Keck School of Medicine, whom Rhimes had consulted in writing for Shepherd 's storylines and patients. In January 2014, Dempsey signed a two - year contract to remain on Grey 's Anatomy ( then in its tenth season ) that would ensure his presence for potential 11th and 12th seasons. However, in April 2015, Dempsey 's character was killed off while his contract was not over yet. Dempsey explained : `` it just sort of evolved. It 's just kind of happened. It really was something that was kind of surprising that unfolded, and it just naturally came to be. Which was pretty good. I like the way it has all played out. '' In August 2015, Rhimes commented : `` The decision to have the character die the way that he did was not a difficult one in the sense of what were the options ? Either Derek was going to walk out on Meredith, and leave her high and dry, and what was that going to mean ? That was going to suggest that the love was not true, the thing we had said for 11 years was a lie and McDreamy was n't McDreamy. For me, that was untenable. Meredith and Derek 's love had to remain Meredith and Derek 's love. As painful as it was for me as a storyteller, because I had never really thought that was going to happen, it preserved what felt true to me, was that Derek was going to have to die in order for that love to remain honest. Because I really could n't have the idea that he just turned out to be a bad guy who walked out on his wife and kids be a true story. To me, it felt like that was the only way to make Meredith and Derek 's magic remain true and forever frozen in time. '' The character was later written to be a graduate of Bowdoin College, a liberal arts college in Brunswick, Maine, after an alumnus led a petition signed by over 450 students to `` adopt '' the character as an alumnus. Dempsey is from Lewiston, about 18 miles ( 29 km ) away from Brunswick, and was awarded an honorary doctorate by Bowdoin in 2013. Characterization Rhimes describes Shepherd as typical `` Prince Charming ''. He was planned to be a doctor who does n't really care about anything, who lives in his `` own '' universe and has a big sex appeal. A man who is charming, devilishly handsome and the type of guy every girl dreams of, and a man that often makes the wrong decisions, and is often known as a jerk or the ultimate heartbreaker. Rhimes planned to have this kind of character from the beginning, because he was the kind of guy whom girls fall in love with and a character whose storylines could easily be changed. USA Today writer Robert Bianco said : `` Derek could, at times, seem like two people, warm and funny one minute, cold and self - involved the next. Dempsey 's gift was in making those two sides seem like part of the same person, while keeping us rooting for that person as a whole. '' Reception Dempsey 's relation with Ellen Pompeo ( Meredith Grey ) has been the highlight of the series since its inception. With the show concluding its second season, Robert Bianco of USA Today said that Emmy voters could consider him because of the `` seemingly effortless way he humanizes Derek 's ' dreamy ' appeal with ego and vanity ''. In the third season, Alan Sepinwall of The Star - Ledger wrote that `` the attempt to give the moral high ground back to McDreamy was bad. Dude, whatever happened in New York ceased to count in any kind of grievance tally once you agreed to take Addison back and give things another try. You 're the dick who cheated on her, you 're the one who knew that she found the panties, and still you act like her getting back together with Mark justifies what you did ? Wow. I did n't think it was possible for me to dislike anyone on this show more than Meredith, but congratulations, big guy. '' Debbie Chang of BuddyTV noted the character 's immaturity in the fourth season, saying : `` The only character who did not make me love him was Derek Shepherd ( Patrick Dempsey ). How this character is still Shonda 's golden child is beyond me. Yes, we get it. He 's tormented by his love for Meredith, but that does not give him the right to lash out at her when his clinical trial patients are dying. If things do n't go absolutely the way he wants them to, then he refuses to cooperate. How immature can this man possibly be ? No amount of heavily styled hair or blue - blue - blue eyes is going to make me warm up to him unless he admits to being the needy, desperate one in the relationship. '' Entertainment Weekly placed Shepherd in its list of the `` 30 Great TV Doctors and Nurses ''. The character was also listed in Wetpaint 's `` 10 Hottest Male Doctors on TV '' and in BuzzFeed 's `` 16 Hottest Doctors On Television ''. His relationship with Meredith was included in TV Guide 's list of `` The Best TV Couples of All Time ''. Victor Balta of Today listed Shepherd and Sloan 's friendship in its `` TV 's best bromances ''. He called them `` the most exciting couple on Grey 's, '' explaining `` they 've demonstrated an easy chemistry that makes for some of the great comic relief around Seattle Grace Hospital with their banter, sage wisdom on each other 's lives, and locker room - style teasing. '' Their bromance was furthermore included in lists by About.com, BuddyTV, Cosmopolitan, Wetpaint. However, following the announcement of Dane 's upcoming departure from the show, Mark Perigard of the Boston Herald felt he and Derek `` never clicked like you 'd expect friends would. Any scene they had together ranged from uncomfortable to forced. '' References Jump up ^ `` Addison Shepherd Quotes -- Season 4, Episode 13 : `` Piece of My Heart '' ``. TV Fanatic. Retrieved April 3, 2013. ^ Jump up to : `` ' McDreamy ' in Maine for Dempsey Challenge, Tips Cap to Bowdoin ''. Bowdoin College. October 2, 2010. Jump up ^ `` Enough is Enough ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 1. Episode 2. April 12, 2012. ABC. ^ Jump up to : `` Poker Face ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 8. Episode 6. October 20, 2011. ABC. Jump up ^ `` Stand By Me ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 5. Episode 18. March 19, 2009. ABC. Jump up ^ `` Give Peace a Chance ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 6. Episode 7. October 29, 2009. ABC. Jump up ^ `` Support System ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 8. Episode 19. April 12, 2012. ABC. ^ Jump up to : `` Go It Alone ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 10. Episode 20. April 17, 2014. ABC. Jump up ^ `` Brave New World ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 5. Episode 4. October 16, 2008. ABC. ^ Jump up to : `` What Is It About Men ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 8. Episode 4. October 6, 2011. ABC. Jump up ^ `` The Heart of the Matter ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 4. Episode 4. October 18, 2007. ABC. Jump up ^ `` Let the Angels Commit ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 3. Episode 6. November 2, 2006. ABC. Jump up ^ `` Love Turns You Upside Down ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 9. Episode 8. December 6, 2012. ABC. Jump up ^ `` Sympathy for the Devil ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 5. Episode 12. January 15, 2009. ABC. Jump up ^ `` Yesterday ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 2. Episode 18. February 19, 2006. ABC. Jump up ^ `` White Wedding ''. Grey 's Anatomy. Season 7. Episode 20. May 5, 2011. ABC. Jump up ^ Rhodes, Joe ( July 15, 2005 ). `` Today 's News : Our Take -- Vet Earns M.D. on Grey 's Anatomy ''. TV Guide. Retrieved September 3, 2012. Jump up ^ Keck, William ( November 17, 2006 ). `` Lowe knows political roles ''. USA Today. Gannett Company. Retrieved September 8, 2012. 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Jump up ^ Bianco, Robert ( April 24, 2015 ). `` Review : ' Grey 's Anatomy 's ' accidental death ''. USA Today. Retrieved April 24, 2015. Jump up ^ Bianco, Robert ( May 14, 2006 ). `` The cure for bromidic TV : ' Grey 's Anatomy, ' ' House ' ''. USA Today. Gannett Company. Retrieved September 1, 2013. Jump up ^ Sepinwall, Alan ( September 28, 2006 ). `` Grey 's Anatomy : You 're kidding, right ? ''. What 's Alan Watching ?. Blogspot. Retrieved September 1, 2013. Jump up ^ Chang, Debbie ( May 27, 2008 ). `` How ' Grey 's Anatomy ' Got its Groove Back ''. BuddyTV. Retrieved September 1, 2013. Jump up ^ Wilkinson, Amy ( June 15, 2009 ). `` Paging Dr. Feelgood : 30 Great TV Doctors and Nurses ''. Entertainment Weekly. Time Inc. Retrieved January 24, 2013. Jump up ^ Martin, Rebecca ( December 21, 2012 ). `` The 10 Hottest Male Doctors on TV ''. Wetpaint. The Cambio Network. Retrieved January 24, 2013. Jump up ^ `` The 16 Hottest Doctors On Television ''. BuzzFeed. September 28, 2012. Retrieved January 24, 2013. Jump up ^ `` Couples Pictures, Grey 's Anatomy Photos -- Photo Gallery : The Best TV Couples of All Time ''. TV Guide. Retrieved June 20, 2012. Jump up ^ Balta, Victor. `` How adorable ! TV 's best bromances ''. Today.com. Retrieved June 13, 2013. Jump up ^ Thomas, Rachel. `` TV 's Best Bromances ''. About.com. The New York Times Company. Retrieved June 13, 2013. Jump up ^ `` Best TV Bromances # 15 McDreamy and McSteamy ''. BuddyTV. Retrieved June 13, 2013. Jump up ^ `` Hottest TV bromances ''. Cosmopolitan. July 19, 2011. Retrieved June 13, 2013. Jump up ^ Hoffman, Kim ( January 28, 2013 ). `` Top 14 TV Bromances -- I Love You, Man ! ( PHOTOS ) ''. Wetpaint. The Cambio Network. Retrieved June 13, 2013. Jump up ^ Perigard, Mark ( July 27, 2012 ). `` ' Grey 's Anatomy ' drops another doc ''. Boston Herald. Retrieved August 10, 2012. 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Question: when do meredith and derek officially became a couple
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