Your style doesn't seem suited to people who tend to take comments literally, personally and above all emotionally, no. Don't worry. You now know what doesn't work when talking to this editor. I believe you're the one who always talks about fixing the program when it fails, so there you go.
My personal advice would be to treat WP:CIVIL with more seriousness than WP:IAR in most cases. When in doubt, speak plainly and rationally rather than evocatively. It's boring and slower, but it has a higher success rate.
Then again, it's not exactly the end of the world. As the truism says, "a man who cannot make mistakes cannot do anything". So you misjudged—big deal. Acknowledge and continue.  · Talk