As I said above, I give up. I don't see the logic in what you two are saying. I will try to abide by the "rules", but it's always easier if they make sense, and they don't to me. You haven't answered my questions. It must be a cultural difference that makes a particular style of communication obvious to you, but not to me. I cannot easily move away from facing truth and reality as much as you demand. And I'm not a mind reader.