DeadSend4, regarding the person accusing you of being a sockpuppet, don't let it upset you.  Seriously.  Please.  I'd be upset and all too if it were me being accused, trust me of that.  However, the best thing to do is remain civil with the person making the claim.  It's a CheckUser that makes and confirms the discoveries, and I find myself wondering if your wife was in fact posting on your account saying she's the other account.  It seems a bit uncertain to me that sockpuppetry was intended.  So please be civil to the person who notified you of the case, be civil throughout the case, and let's try to all work together here.  Mmkay? =)