Trying to find loopholes in everything isn't a good way to live your life. If you find a loophole, you find a mistake. It's not that you found the true meaning of something. In this case, for example, telling someone that they disgust you is incivil, regardless of whether they do. Incivil remarks are inconsiderate, offensive, and impolite. You already know that, but I'm just telling you that these arguments based on loopholes seldom do more than convince yourself, and as soon as they're closed, you're back at square one. And you wasted your time.69.39.89.95