I am not inclined to consider flipping.  But I'll ask again right now if someone would please tell us whether the subject of the BLP expressed to Jimbo Wales a general preference about how she wants to be publicly known, versus a mere preference about how this Wikipedia article should be named.  I have asked twice at Jimbo's talk page twice.  As things stand, I would just go with what reliable sources say about prevalent use, and with what reliable sources say about her own use of her name, which together strongly support the move.