==Relax...== 
 DCV, relaxxx..., grasshopper. I don't see why you have to always be so defensive about everything. A "the World hates me and I have to fight back" attitude is a fantastic way of ensuring that you're even less likely to get what you want. How old are you? I abondandend (?) that inferiority complex many moons ago (perhaps six years ago, when I was in high school, and I realised that I didn't have to feel guilty about being the only rationalist I knew, and it didn't matter if people errornously called me an "Atheist"). 
 Now I'm 21, and I think I rock! But I don't spend sleepless nights hating retards who can't keep their useless comments to themselves. And guess what, ever since I stopped fighting the "problem" it simply dissappeared! Kewl! 
 Being South African I am fully aware how anything can become a racist issue if the people involved decide to call it thus. 
 ::"Hey. You cut me off in line. Is it because I'm 'Black'?" 
 ::"Don't be dumb!" 
 ::"So are all 'blacks' stoopeed? You are a racist!!" 
 ::"Yes, you are stoopeed..." 
 ::And it spirals out of control. 
 Being an adult (which I'm not necessarily assuming you aren't) means striving to control your environment (in my life-view). Allowing "conversations" to take on lives of their own will not get you what you want since you're now engaging with the other person and allowing them to influence the outcome of a process which you had started. 
 Am I perhaps being too abstract/unclear? Relaxxxx... 
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