== Ref'ing contentious statements == 

 I ref'd your statement about a living person because contentious statements about living person made anywhere, not just on articles pages, have to be ref'd, per WP:BLP, and this supersedes other considerations. A lot of people miss this point, and people don't use as many refs on talk pages they should, but the rule's pretty clear. It makes sense, because think about it: you can't go on a talk page and say "Say, my understanding is that Senator Klaghorn fucks goats, shouldn't we look into including this?". I'd need a ref for that. 

 You seem to be struggling with WP:BLP generally, at least in spirit. Dunno what to say about that, but it's one of the really key policies here, so hopefully you'll find a path where you can become reconciled to it, at least.