:::The system does not work well when people are accused of "personal attacks" for pointing out that another person is acting like an asshole.  The system you want, apparently, is one in which people can act like assholes and get away with it.  I don't like your system, and I certainly don't want our system to act the way you want.  The best way to fix this problem is for you to change your expectations; if you're not willing to do that, then don't let the door hit you on the ass on the way out.