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 :::When that happens, find an admin whose opinion you trust (and sometimes this means one who has pointed out your failings whatever they be), and ask them if you are doing anything to cause this. Note that Abstract has also expressed some frustration with this problem. Maybe bringing it ut into the open is a good way to recognize it, and avoid those triggers with each other.  
 :::I'd also recommend that you let go of the past, until (or if) the exact same issue presents itself again. At that point, avail yourself of the admin pages (RfCC, AN/I, etc.). The worst thing you can do (which I have learned from hard experience) is to not address the problem on the discussion page. Use WP:DR. Even if it doesn't work, you are showing that you are making a genuine effort to resolve the issue. If the other person isn't a moron, they are going to realize that not even trying to use DR is going to make them the Big Bad, and far more likely to get blocked, banned or forty lashes (just kidding about that last one). In the article discussion comment on the edits, and not the editor. Use the noticeboard pages to comment on the editor who is unwilling to do the same. -   "