:::::::Except that you haven't proven anything. The word conflict is used widely in Indian media. We don't make our own decisions about what people may feel. Your statement that now we're talking to "real Nairs" is exactly the sort of thing that we never ever take into account on Wikipedia. We follow the sources. If the sources say that Nairs were involved in military actions, then the word conflict is appropriate, since that is the word used even in Indian English. The fact that you personally don't like it (and that there is some alleged group that also doesn't like it, even though you've provided no evidence of that) is not relevant to making an editorial decision. So, unless you can show actual sources to show the term is wrong, it should stay. Furthermore, at this point, if you want to pursue it, I think you need to pursue dispute resolutionstart an RfC, take the word to WP:NPOVN, or whatever.