::: enWiki has (depending on whose numbers you trust) 3 to 10 times the number of articles, 10-20 times the number of users and vandalism on a scale that deWiki simply does not see.  Our processes were simpler when we were smaller, too.  Informality does not scale.  I'm sorry you feel that you're having a hard time here and hope that you will continue editing.  But please be tolerant.  There is a long history and usually several hard-learned lessons behind those policies.