:::::Sorry to jump in, BHG, and I'm afraid this may sound abrupt, which isn't how it's meant... but the more I stare at the exchange above, the less I see anything the matter with Giano's language. How does it need moderating? Is this the famous "always tell both the kids off" playschool teacher technique you're applying? I'm not sure it'll answer in this case, or at all, with adults. Best wishes,  |  .