"Women" couldn't recognize EQUALITY if it slapped them in the face

For Round 2, I will focus on Economic issues in my SCENARIOS OF EQUALITY. === Scenario 2. 1 - Poverty === Let us begin with an alternate reality version of the "traditional" life path between Bethanie and Fred. First comes love, Then comes marriage, Then comes baby in the baby carriage (should we say 2. 2 kids? ). In this alternate reality, Bethanie has outside employment to support the family while Fred is a homemaker to support the family. Unfortunately, They later divorce. Fred gains primary custody of the children. Bethanie is not a deadbeat mom, Which is to say that she pays child support and alimony on time (and in full) and visits on weekends. Fred and the kids are left in poverty, But Bethanie is not. --- Discussion --- This is what EQUALITY looks like under the weight of DIVORCE. Divorce is a primary cause of poverty among all people, Especially for children and their primary care givers. When a family is intact, All wages buy consolidated needs: combined meals, 1 home, Overlapping transportation, Long-term savings. After divorce, Costs balloon (disparate "fast" meals, 2 homes, And separate transportation). No matter how high child support and alimony are set, The standard of living always suffers even after savings end. === Scenario 2. 2 - Office Meetings === Burt and Rita are in a brainstorming meeting with other men and women. Everyone freely shares ideas and defends questions and concerns. In a few cases, Similar ideas are put forward by two people. When Burt offers his idea, It is unclear to a few people. Another person restates his point, Then the rest understand. Five or 10 minutes after Rita presents her idea, Another person suggests something very similar. For some reason the "similar" idea is accepted more heartily than was Rita"s. At the end of the meeting, Rita and Burt are both fuming. --- Discussion --- This is what EQUALITY looks like in corporate America today. Many times ideas look better on the second pass (even if no one gives the originator credit). Many times one person (or 2 or 3 people) explains again when the group doesn't immediately understand. These two "helps" regularly happen to both men and women in 2019 USA. It seems that women do most of the complaining about it, Though. This indicates to me that women dislike the help more than men. However, This is not evidence of sexism because the opportunities and rules apply equally to all. === Scenario 2. 3 - Promotions === George and Barbara have equivalent job assignments in the same company. One is energetic and outspoken; the other is hardworking and humble. The outspoken one is very eager for more hours, Harder work, And a promotion; the hard worker is focused on achieving the "mission" of the company but is less concerned about pay. No surprise at year end that the outspoken one is promoted and the other is not. --- Discussion --- This is what EQUALITY looks like in the American economy. People who are driven to get paid more will do what it takes to get ahead. Some others openly denounce monetary interests (I wish them good luck). Still others crave a promotion but expect the recognition to come to them with minimal effort on their part. These rules seem reasonably EQUAL. Quite possibly, Women fall into the second and third categories more often than men. If so, This is a reflection of choice in 2019 USA not of discrimination. === Scenario 2. 4 - "Women's Work" === Twins, Pauline and Sanders, Grew up in one of the 10 largest cities in America, Did well in high school, And got accepted to a good State University. They each were then faced with a decision about career path. Sarah decided to pursue a degree in English Literature. After graduating with honors (and with $50k of debt), She realized that her degree didn't really prepare her for any specific job. In the end, Pauline went to work as an entry level "administrator" in a Healthcare company. Sanders' choice was no college--he preferred to jump right into a "career" in construction work. --- Discussion --- This is what EQUALITY looks like in the American workforce. Both men and women regularly choose degrees that are worthless in the job market because they feel like they ought to "follow their passion. " Regardless of the merit of specific degrees, 2019 USA presents every man and every woman with seemingly unlimited choice in career paths. The idea that those free decisions are somehow constrained by sex discrimination appears quite preposterous on its face. Beyond that, This idea suggests that men are able to make good decisions but that women are not--such a position is the epitome of sexism. In reality, Every man and every woman is really making the best decision for themselves based on individual interests, Preparations, And values. === Returning briefly to your acceptance === You have suggested several arguments that are not related to the debate you've joined. First, This is not a debate about whether the Patriarchy is "disadvantaging" women. Second, This debate is not about gender identity. Third, This debate is not about whether the feminist movement "should continue to exist. " This debate is about whether feminist complainers (I assume you are one of them since you joined the debate) can recognize EQUALITY. Whether your ideology will allow you to see that in many cases disparities are driven not by amorphous anti-woman forces (which you called "patriarchal") but by the natural results of the natural differences between individuals on the topics of interests, Choices, Values, Etc. As an aside, Simply arguing that the feminist movement should "continue to exist" is hollow. I would be glad if the feminist movement existed for good purposes. Wouldn't it be great for feminism to recognize real problems and solve them! To support women as women (in all their variety) instead of leftists as women-supporters (in their narrowness). To oppose abortion of female babies instead of encouraging all abortions.