utopia is not only attainable if we loose individuality

My opponent"s first assertion that I will attack, is that in an ideal society, everyone understands each other, therefore people wouldn"t have a motivation for selfish desires because they sympathize with other people. But my opponent seems to neglect that selfish desires do not only come from people who don"t understand others. Selfish desire may exist even if someone understands someone completely. For a society to be utopian, individuality would be impossible because people will have different beliefs. Some may think bad is good, and the other good is bad. This isn"t them not being able to understand someone, but that their beliefs make it so that their sympathy doesn"t dictate their actions. Now unless my opponent is arguing that in a hive mind everyone has the same thoughts, then it"s obvious how they lose individuality. My opponent also claims that people in a utopian society will be able to have sympathy. But wouldn"t the existence of sympathy make a utopian society not possible since sympathy means something is not perfect. Therefore people will not have sympathy in a utopian society. And what if being sympathetic is the only thing that sets this one person apart, since sympathy can"t exist in utopia, this person would lose individuality. My opponent"s next point seems to be just a misunderstanding of what I said. All I said was that if hypothetically one person"s only characteristic that set him apart was that he was selfish, and by my opponent"s logic, there will be no such thing as selfishness, so wouldn"t he lose his individuality? My opponent then goes on to make the point, if I understand it correctly, that people have individuality if they have sense that they exist, but if everyone else has that sense of self, is that person"s quality unique? Shared knowledge doesn't necessarily means someone has to think a certain way, but that they have the ability to think as others think due to the fact that they have the knowledge other people have. And because of that, people will act in different ways, don"t forget people will not be able to sympathize with each other, so in the end we either have to lose individuality, or be able to do the impossible by making sympathy exist in a utopian society. Next my opponent goes on to say that the common good of a utopian society would be to rectify the damages that have been caused. But if a utopia were to exist, then there would be no damages to rectify because that would mean labor, which would not be a perfect world. Unless my opponent disagrees with labor being bad, then we would have to argue about whether a utopia can have such things as labor. Then pro goes on to list things which we are doing to damage the earth and how we can stop it. But the point is that the fact that any type of suffering exists, makes it impossible for a perfect world to exist. In a perfect world there are no damages to fix. My opponent tries to make the point that a utopian society is achievable through us focusing on our existence, but the things is if everyone today started doing that, immortality and diseases won"t be cured instantly, therefore it will not happen directly because of people focusing. The status quo is that some things are impossible, and focusing isn"t going to change that. Thus things will still exist which contradict the utopian society even though we do what pro proposes. Lastly, my opponent"s whole last paragraph is completely irrelevant to what I"m saying. Whether god exists or not doesn"t matter in my point, my point was that perfect is subjective, some people may think that a "perfect" world in one that is created by god, for someone like christopher hitchens, it would be one not created by god, therefore the utopia can"t exist without one losing their individuality and this is not due to selfish desires, but because of a belief system. And what I meant by make god possible, is not the existence of god being possible, but someone being able to create god possible. Thanks to my opponent and voters.