Same-Sex Marriage

(Are you judging me before we have even begun the debate? Even though you have correctly pointed out that we shouldn't judge) As a side bar it may be worth knowing that my best friend is gay and I love him and he will not receive any judgement from me (nor will anyone else, gay or straight) this is church teaching. There are many misconceptions in your comments just like there are many misconceptions on catholic church teachings. "I fully support same sex marriage, how can you not? " First of all we should look at what marriage actually is. When the tradition and word marriage was introduced it was the union of one man and one woman, that is the definition of the word. What is happening now is, people are trying to get the word re-defined, it's not about the church not 'marrying' homosexuals, its more like society trying to force the church to change its beautiful historic tradition, and just because the church understandably wont do this, the judgement is actually on the church and its members, not the other way around. Two people of the same sex cannot be 'married' this statement simply doesn't make sense, it would be like calling a square a circle, but no. .. .a square is a shape with 4 sides that's what a square is defined as. Even though there is debate regarding sexuality being a choice or not, we can say for sure that we choose to act (or not act) on our tendencies. Another example would be, certain people may have an urge to commit adultery but do not have an urge to commit a homosexual act, just like someone may have an urge to commit a homosexual act but not have an urge to commit adultery. You see what I mean? As the bible teaches, we each have our own cross to bear, its up to us to act/not act on our own specific urges. I agree with you that we should not judge anyone and not hate anyone but unfortunately people do this, if someone acts like this from the catholic church they ARE NOT following the teachings of the church. It is so important to look at the teachings and not the actions of individuals, remember we are all sinners but the teaching is always the same. Could you tell me where it says that about laying with our fathers in the bible please? It is interesting though you bring this up (even though I believe you are mistaking) but what if a daughter said she was in love with her father and vice versa, and that they wanted to get 'married' if they are apparently in love why cant they get 'married'? If we re-define the word marriage then we cant stop 'marriage' within the same family if they say its love. Obviously I don't believe this but it cant be one rule for one person and not the same rule for others. You can see because of this, re-defining marriage opens up a world of issues. You are forgetting the difference between us and other animals, we can rationalise and have morals. It is a fact that a man and woman naturally complement each other and are designed to do just that, if we where all homosexuals then our whole race would be extinct. Reproduce=natural, not to reproduce=unnatural. "Being gay isn't a choice, but being ignorant is" You would agree then that if a God exists and puts moral law on our hearts, then it is possible to be ignorant to those morals if we don't agree with them?