Women are more complicated than men

All of the examples herein used by my opponent as evidence to his claim that “women may not be more complicated, but rather have a tendency to over-complicate a situation” come as a result of the rigid and confining gender roles placed upon females by society. “Eyes, hair, breast size, weight, height etc. all of which women seem to obsess about. Most men do not care about there hair color, eye color, breast size, height, weight etc. We shower, shave, get dressed and go!” / “As a male, how many times have you been asked these questions, 'Honey, what should I wear tonight?' 'Do these shoes match my dress?', 'Do these earrings go with my outfit?'” Well, how lucky you are. Trust me, women do not enjoy obsessing over these things. It is no secret that, since nearly the beginning of time, women have been judged and assigned value according to their physical beauty. Men, on the other hand, are assigned value based on their physical and mental strength. Men don’t HAVE to obsess about their eyes, hair, weight, height, etc. Most women do, seeing as it has been drilled into our brains since the moment we were born that we pretty much HAVE to be beautiful, unless we want to die alone (*gasp* And what would I ever DO without a husband?!). As far as decision-making goes in regards to things like what to eat and what movie to watch… Think about it. Historically, have women ever been encouraged to enhance their decision-making capabilities? When, in the context of a traditional, heterosexual marriage, were females ever regarded as the decision-makers in the relationships? Never. Some husbands will still even order their wives’ meals for them when they’re out to eat, without asking them what might sound good. With a societal history like that, it is not difficult to see why a lot of women tend, as my opponent argues, to over-complicate certain situations. For thousands and thousands of years, all we were ever told to do is “sit there and look pretty.” We, as a society, are evolving, yes… But, as a result, women in general are stuck in a very awkward sort of limbo, wavering unassuredly somewhere between old confining roles and the new ones coming to fruition as a result of progress. But all it takes to un-complicate this complicated gender situation is for women to truly wake up and recognize the fact that society’s messages about “what it means to be a lady” have been influencing and shaping their identity since the day they were born. And to reject those messages, promptly. Men, meanwhile, need to recognize the same. They must realize that the way they treat the women in their lives has an ever-present effect on how those females assign their own self-worth and value. If a little girl is consistently told by her father how pretty she is, yet he never makes a mention of her good grades, what idea does that put in her head about what she will be valued for later on in life? In other words, I suppose I am arguing the fact that women, in general, do tend to complicate situations more so than men. However, men are just as much to blame. They influence this cycle by choosing what they value the women in their lives for, and vocalizing those feelings accordingly. You don’t want your girlfriend to spend 4 hours getting ready and asking you every 5 minutes what you think of how she looks, but are you going to make a snide remark if she leaves the house looking “grubby”? Even if you don’t, will other men?