Free will is an illusion.

I love your question. What MADE me create this debate? The answer is very simple. I read your debate Sexuality is a choice. Your answers show that you are intelligent but you have some preconceptions which lead you to faulty conclusions. I believed we could have an interesting discussion and I have some time on my hands so the logical course was to challenge you to a debate. As to your second example. Anger is an emotion. Just like happiness, sadness, loneliness and love. You can't control emotions. You can only control how you react to them. They exist in our subconscious mind, just as our sexual preferences do. I don't know if you a leg guy or a boob guy. Maybe you like big butts or blue eyes. Whatever it is doesn't matter. The point is you can't change it. If you attracted to women, you can't will yourself to be attracted to men. Unless you were bisexual to begin with. But you can choose to act on those desires. The term for this is maturity and it is something we have to learn. Not everyone learns it because maturity is a higher brained function. You learn it by having good role models. Parents usually, but characters from a book or movie can work. A grandparent or teacher may be your inspiration. If you had not learnt this behaviour, you would have vented your anger on your girlfriend and regretted it. Let me explain the difference between conscious and subconscious processes. In our early childhood, before we learn to speak or understand words, we learn how to behave by watching the adults around us. If a child, call him Jonny, sees his father drink and hit his mother, Jonny learns that this is how men behave and even worse, he learns that this is what women want. This might sound stupid to you, but to 4 year old Jonny, he knows no better. I used that example, but it could be a man who cooks and buys his wife flowers, or a woman who cheats on her husband. All this gets recorded in our subconscious minds. They become a fundamental part of us that can never be changed. But the memories of seeing these things fade as we build more and more memories. Some people actually block their early memories as a coping mechanism. But they are there, in our subconscious, waiting for the moment when we lose control. So where does the control come from? It comes from the conscious mind. As we get older we learn to speak and understand. That's when we learn about rules. This is when we begin to develope our ethical values. Stealing is wrong. Lying is wrong. Hitting women is wrong. Etc. Ethical values are the rules set by the society we live in. We have different rules at home, at school, at work, at religious institutions, etc and they vary depending on what country you from or even what city you live in. We want to belong to society so we follow the rules set by society. But our morals are those early lessons we learnt. Our moral values reside in our subconscious. That urge to shout at your girlfriend when she upset you, where do you think it came from? Few people consider this. They feel ashamed of these thoughts. These include sexual desires. But in moments of emotional distress, such as anger, we sometimes do things we would never do otherwise. We can't even explain why we did it. Alcohol is another reason people lose control of conscious thought and their subconscious takes over. Once their conscious mind takes control again they can't explain their behaviour. Some people don't even recall their actions. Maturity is learning to remain in control. And I read a beautiful quote which has really helped me through the years. "He who angers you, controls you." Well I decided then and there that I would never let any other person control me. This philosophy has served me well and the more you learn to control your emotions, the better you become at it. Things that used to bother me, don't bother me at all anymore.