it is better to find love,than to complete your life long dream

ok i am low on time so i appolagize if this response is a little speedy. ok my opponents first paragraph: "My opponent poses the question that 'if the situation did arise where you were forced to choose one or the other, which one would it be, and why?'. My opponent presumes that if you are in love with someone, you are their soul mate. However, as the definition states, being someone's soul mate does not mean you are ion love with them. Being a soul mate means a high level of love. Also, love is not restricted to just a person. You can love a sport, hobby, etc" First i would like to as you what your analysis of the definition of soul mate is? Because teh purpose i have summed from it was that this person is the neccesary "one" for the particular individual as in the use of "affininity" meaning this is more than just a "high level of love". Because if it is your soul mate that means there is no one else except for this person, because you cant have more than one soul mate. back to both definitions of the actual word 'love' though. you can't paossibly say you love somebody and leave them a week later, so is it fair to say that every individual who thinks they are in love, are actually in love? to say that would be to abuse the word for what it truly is in this case 'lust'. And this love is aimed towards human beings. sports, hobbies, etc. would fall under the goals category. (just for clarification) ok next you say- "Being the debate has no limits, let's consider the many types of love. There is love between man and a woman. However, what about love between a 40 year old man and a child. Should the 40 year old man pursue this love, even though he will be arrested and put in jail for it? In that case, it is better for him to pursue his dream, whatever it may be. Or a man willing to risk his life to meet a celebrity. There are many cases where love is great, but many where love isn't. Love is never guaranteed because there is no official indicator of what is and isn't love." Ok first i would like to say this debate is limited to man and woman as was the obvious intent of the resolution. The man and his child is a different kind of love. But you couldn't call them soul mates or true lovers, as what this debate has been aimed for. Next you say "Love is never guaranteed because there is no official indicator of what is and isn't love." Again i will show what i have said previously that shows the indicator of true love. Me- "Love is not something you have to be neccisariily searching for. Most the time it finds you, and in the most unlikliest of times and places. The time you fall in love will most likely be the time you least expect it to happen." Me- "a soul mate isn't just one person set for you and placed randomly somewhere on this earth. whoever your soulmate is, would be completly up to you and the other individual to decide." and last -" True love is having someone you completely and fully dedicate your heart too. meaning that you can't stand to be without this person, and you are sure that this person is the exact one for you with the fullness of your heart. some one who you think you fall in love with and then divorce or break up with a few years later, would not be an accurate assumption of love. Because if it were real love, you would not leave this person for any reason whatsoever because they mean so much to you." these are all indicators of finding true love. ok next you say"As I have mentioned, there is no indicator of love, true love and lust. There is no visible line between them. You can easily go between them with an experience. Enjoying a moment of awe and wonder would make your love for someone increase, obviously. Love can change. They often change with people's feeling, which can change alot. However, one persons desire to climb a mountain is less likely to burn out." have i not given enough examples of what a true indicator of love and lust? i believe that last paragraph should sum it up for you. but again like i said, if it's true love, it won't change, as goals and dreams can. next you say "So, you are suggesting your soul mate is created after being with them, not destined to be. The word soul in soul mate would tend to suggest otherwise. It implies someone destined through soul to be with someone. Not someone who becomes your soul mate after you have met them." generaly your soul mate wil meet you sometime and somewhere in your lifetime, or else their would be no point in calling some one out as a soulmate. It is guaranteed that they will meet once in their life time, not nessicarily someone they have met in their early years. Next "There are more obstacles than mental ones involved in love. Whilst money can be a barrier in someone's life long dream, law can be a barrier in someone's love, as well as other people who are in love with someone, as you have said yourself, there multiple soul mates for someone, and they are bound to overlap. Also, people may need to spend money to attract someone's attempting to them, or to prove their love (such as an expensive wedding). Falling in love normally requires two people. Co-operation between two people can be extremely difficult, as people who love each other are less likely to open their feeling of each other. Whereas there are barriers in someone's goals, there is one person involved, it is their responsibility, but they are determined." i would like you to adress please where i said that there can be multiple soul mates for each person, for i do not recall ever saying that. And if money and pride will stand in the way of love, can you call this true love? next "I agree that love is not something you must search for. However, this means it is often random chance, or luck. Chances vary between people. How often they go out, how they look, etc. Whereas people often choose realistic goals. Goals can be altered or changed, but love cannot be. If someone wants to climb a mountain, they buy the equipment and find a mountain. If someone wants to travel across the world, they buy a plane ticket. If someone wants to find love, they must constantly go out and depend on luck. This is proven by you when you say: "But if someone spends there whole life looking for it, the chances of them actually finding would be slim." no i did not compare love with luck in this situation, i simply said that love comes to you when you least expect it and probably when your not looking for it. as opposed the physical barriers that stand in the way of climbing a said mountain whereas you may not be able to afford the material. you can't buy love. Love is always achievable, and it will happen for every one, but some things stand in the way of finding your goal. My opponent beleives we come to stance on these prinicipals. " * goal depends on what you can do, and when you want to do. Love depends on random chance, or luck. * You have multiple soul mates out there, but if you find true love you have it once. You can accomplish many goals. * A goal can be altered. Love cannot." here is what i have concluded from this debate *love does not depend on random chance or luck, just patience and uneagerness. with goals there are many obstacles in the way *There is only one true soul mate for every individual, where as goals deteriate and change. *Love can stay true and confident where as a goal may be a lifetime of wasted hard work, and complications. Thankyou my opponent i have enjoyed this debate very much. I hope you, the audience and judges have also enjoyed it as well, and vote for what you believe is the better debater. I look forward to your final response