being gay has to do with genes

Sure, I'll argue. As you haven't said "first round is acceptance", I'll start by making my argument. 1. Technically, the statement "being gay has to do with genes" is correct. Being gay is caused by genes, just as being bossy, loving chocolate, walking your dog and debating on internet sites are all caused by genes. Genes govern every aspect of human behaviour, because they code for the hormones that make us think and feel the way we do. The problem with your statement is that it doesn't actually tell us anything. 2. You claim that being gay is not a choice. Some gay/bi people may feel that way, but not all. Sexual preference is mostly determined by environment and experience, which makes personal choice a huge factor. Several obvious examples of this: - Paedophiles: Many paedophiles were sexually abused as children and came to associate child sexual abuse with sexual gratification, whilst scorning the idea of having sex with an adult. - Rape Victims: Rape can instill a fear of men to its victims. If this happens when the girl is still coming to terms with sex and relationships, she may develop attraction towards girls because they're the only available source of love and support. - Prison Inmates: With no women available, many otherwise-heterosexual inmates resort to same-sex relationships. - College Girls: Alcohol + Peer Pressure => Same-sex experimentation. - Married Gays: Back when being gay was taboo and IVF non-existent, gay people would marry opposite-sex partners and have children with them just like everybody else. And there are some gay men who sleep with their female friends because that's what she wants, and the emotional closeness becomes more important than the incompatible sexual orientations, thus resulting in the same scenario. 3. The Kinsey Scale ( http://en.wikipedia.org... ). The terms "straight", "gay" and "bi" are exclusive and therefore misleading. The Kinsey Scale provides a more accurate representation of human sexuality, using 8 ordered categories: 0 - Exclusively heterosexual. Does not engage in "gay" acts at all. 1 - Primarily heterosexual. They probably won't do gay stuff unless they're drunk. 2 - Mostly heterosexual. They're straight, unless the other person is really, really hot. 3 - Bisexual. They have no gender preference. 4 - Mostly homosexual. Inversion of 2. 5 - Primarily homosexual. Inversion of 1. 6 - Exclusively homosexual. Inversion of 0. X - Asexual. Does not engage in sex at all. People move through these categories throughout their lives. For example: Bob is really macho during high school, and is a staunch 0. Bob gets raped and begins to question his own masculinity, but still wants to be a 0. Bob gets really drunk to drown his sorrows and ends up in bed with John, making him a 1. Bob loses his self-esteem and sleeps with any guy who asks, becoming a 3. Bob is depressed and ends up in therapy. Bob realises that he doesn't actually like guys, and works with his therapist to curb his sex and alcohol addiction, restoring him to a 1. Bob joins a fundamentalist church and marries a pretty girl, with whom he is exclusive, making him a 0 again. 4. Nobody has ever found a "gay gene". The very idea that a single gene could control sexual orientation is ridiculous. Conclusion: Human sexuality is not black and white. There are numerous factors, most of them psychological, and our preferences change as we do. Sometimes our fantasy selves and real selves have different orientations: one could fantasize about members of the same sex, yet prefer the opposite sex in real life (because fantasy and real life are very different). To claim that "being gay is not a choice" is both a very limited worldview and a highly inaccurate one.