Christian and being Gay

Christians argue that the Bible says gays are going to hell. But when they say we are sinning, they sin themselves; by saying we're sinning their judging, Matt 7:1, 2 says, "Judge not that you be not judged. 2. For with what judgment you judge it will be judged unto you." So if they call us the fg word or gays and say that we're sinning, they will be judged as fgs or gays as well. In the four Gospels; Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, I cannot find one single passage in which Jesus condemned homosexuality. Wasn't it Jesus who said, "Love one another as I have loved you."? And yet, Christians shout, fg, you're going to burn in hell, God hates gays! I'm sorry but that last one is totally wrong. 1st John 4:8 says, "Any man who does not love knows not God, for God is Love." In Luke, it says, "A good tree cannot bring forth bad fruit and a bad tree cannot bring forth good fruit." So how can God hate if God is love? John 3:16 says, "For God so loved the world that he gave us His Son...." The Bible says to be Christ-like, but Christians shout hate when they should preach love. That's hypocritical! And I have to say, that come judgment day, the Christians who shouted those things, I believe, will be judge swiftly and without mercy, (as will all of us) for they knew that what they were doing was wrong; they shouted hate in Jesus Name! The only Scripture I've been able to find, well several but they basically say the same thing, is in Leviticus 18:22,"Thou shall not lie with mankind as with womankind: it is an abomination." First, abomination, in that time, didn't necessarily mean sin. It meant that it was, in English, frowned upon. Two, it says in Deuteronomy 22:9, "Thou shall not plant a garden with two different kinds of seed." If you do, that a sin. It goes to say, in verse 11, "Thou shall not wear any clothing made from two different kinds of fabric." So, if that shirt you're wearing right now is cotton and polyester, you better take it off, because you're sinning. It also says, in verse 28, and 29, "If a man finds a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold of her, and lay with her, and they be found. 29. Then the man that lay with her shall give her father money and she shall be his wife...." So this says rape victims should marry their rapist. But Christians don't take that seriously. It seems that the Gay-hating-Christians pick and choose their Scriptures. It also says that if a woman is not a virgin before her marriage day then she shall be taken to her father's house and stoned to death. But Christians don't bother with that either. Why against gays and not against hate? Why are gays sinning (why am I supposedly sinning) and those who preach hate and anger are not? I spent three years of my life, trying to make myself straight. And those were the darkest years of my life. I wondered if God loved me. Then I wondered why God didn't make me straight. And then I realized something; He made me the way He wanted me and that His love for me is without measure, and is unconditional, for He loves each and every one of us. I hope that any who reads this will not hate Christians, for those who are described above are not Christians. And don't let people like that ruin your thoughts about Christianity, because all Christians are not like that. They will love the sinner and not the sin. Even if they think homosexuality is or is not a sin, they will still love you!