Physically harming your spouse, is worse than cheating on her.

I am not going to play semantics in this debate with my opponent. He knows very well that when I mean physically harming your spouse, that I mean with purpose or intent of harming her, not accidentally stubbing her toe. This is talking about abuse.I'll leave it up to the audience's decision on whether or not to remove a conduct point for my opponents comments above.Now, on with the debate.My first point will be that physical abuse causes mental abuse as well.Physical Abuse: Physical abuse is physical force or violence that results in bodily injury, pain, or impairment. It includes assault, battery, and inappropriate restraint. http://www.preventelderabuse.org...Physical Abuse is worse than Divorce, because the proprietor can mentally destroy the other person in the relationship pretty badly in the short and long run.Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain and maintain total control over you. An abuser doesn’t “play fair.” Abusers use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and keep you under his or her thumb. Your abuser may also threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you. http://www.helpguide.org...Physical Abuse can result in many behavioral instinct's being damaged for life. Such behaviors are as follows. Avoids physical contact with others. · Apprehensive when others cry. · Wears clothing to purposely conceal injury, i.e. long sleeves. · Gives inconsistent versions about occurrence of injuries, burns, etc. · Seems frightened by people similar to their abuser. · Often late or absent to scheduled meetings. · Comes early to meetings, seems reluctant to go home afterwards. · Has difficulty getting along with others. · Little respect for others. · Overly compliant, withdrawn, gives in readily and allows others to do for him/her without protest. · Plays aggressively, often hurting peers. · Complains of pain upon movement or contact. · Has a history of running away from home.http://www.be-free.info... My second point is that cheating is easier to recover from than Physical abuse is.Divorce in America happens practically ALL the time. In fact more than 50% of all Marriages end in divorce.http://www.cdc.gov...Out of the 50% or so of divorces, 63% of them end because of infidelity. Where am I going with this you might ask?Well out of the 63% of divorces that end in infidelity, how many of those end up remarrying? 54 percent of divorced women remarry within 5 years 75 percent of divorced women remarry within 10 years National Center for Health Statistics (2002) With in 5-10 years, 50-75% of all woman who have been cheated on end up getting remarried. This goes to show that suffrage from divorce is completely minor in contrast to that of physical abuse.According to this PowerPoint written on adult abuse, Men and Woman from abusive relations are 75% likely to NEVER heal from behavioral traits learned from an abusive relationship.http://www.child.alberta.ca...My third points to tie this all together, is that Physical Abuse can lead to death.When it comes to the main difference between the two harms, we see that their has been plenty of deaths caused by physical abuse in relationships. http://www.kpho.com...http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com...http://abcnews.go.com...http://www.kvia.com...http://z6mag.com...http://www.heraldextra.com... http://thestir.cafemom.com...http://nation.foxnews.com... The lists and stories go on and on. It is completely sad, sick and dis-heartening.This is not to say that Infidelity is not sad, and harmful to a persons emotional health as well however. But philosophically, all in all, we can see how Physical abuse is more detrimental to a human being that Infidelity is.Infidelity is horrible, and leads to a broken family, divorce, lack of money, etc. But all the same things can come from abuse, and as shown before, much much more.CONCLUSION I feel that while both are extremely horrible, I have proven that in comparison abuse is much more detrimental in the long term effects, in recovery attempts, and in the possibility of death. Physical abuse is a horrible thing to go through, and anybody that suffers from abuse, will have side effects, and memories that may never go away. Physical abuse is mental as well, and can lead to many negative adaptations in life.it is for all the reasons outlines above, that I feel Physical abuse is more harmful than mental abuse. I await for my opponents rebuttals, and wish him good luck within this debate.:D