Rape is not wrong. You are.

You must have heard and used those following phrases : "Rape is wrong." or, "Rape is bad". And you have never doubted the truth of such sayings, haven't you? These are thrown around as if they meant something important, and worse, as if they were founded on some solid premise that is incontrovertible. However, is it actually true that rape is bad? Or, are these just empty mantra of unthinking, irrational people that shout baseless words while pretending it had any substance that has been brainwashed into the unconscious of the mass public? I argue that the correct answer is the latter. Before we get into the question of rape honestly and earnestly, I would like to make the following three central points clear: A) There are numerous types of rape - virginal, oral, anal, etc. B) a rape is not only male-on-female; there are homosexual rapes and pedophila too. C) However, let us focus on the vast majority of rape that has endured its popularity universally and timelessly: the good ol' classic forcible male-on-female penetrative rape. Rape is only an act. It is an act in which a male forces a female to have sex with him, in spite of her rejection or regardless of whatever she may utter. In and by itself, the act has no intrinsic moral value attached to it; rather, it is just another way people obtain and perform sex. Even the activity of "forcing" her or disregarding what she says itself is just an act without any inherent moral value attached to it. To put it very simply, it is just what people do and how people do it, and that is what all activities just are. There is nothing more or less to rape than that point. Whereas the notion of "good" or "bad"; "right" or "wrong" are value judgements that are assigned to activities by people(aka society) so as for people to categorize and judge those acts. In simpler terms, it is only what we call as "social construction"; meaning that it is not at all some absolute, physical feature of rape; rather, it is just another human invention that is subject to change or modification as the people in society change. So anyone talking about as if rape was without a doubt wrong or bad is just being completely dishonest or pretending, without any historical knowledge about how values have so often changed in our relatively short human history. In fact, value judgements are so fluid and immutable that we can assign new values to rape. Thus, I propose a new value assigned to rape in order to perceive and judge the act as "a passionate, direct, intimate and unforgettable connection established deeply between people, with the result of tremendous sexual gratification and pleasure." Now does rape seem like a crime to you? No, because it is an act valued as above. It is perfectly one of the viable manners of how people achieve sex in their life. So should anyone be imprisoned for rape? No, why should anyone be? And most importantly should any female feel traumatized, hurt and miserable about having experienced raped? No, they went through nothing bad or wrong. Society has brainwashed individuals with the notion that rape only has the negative aspect, while blocking the diverse, creative perspective on the issue. When you said or heard that "Rape is bad" or "Rape is wrong", you or anyone who uttered that do not mean that. What happens to you or to the person is just an automated response that is merely repeated because of the social conditioning(indoctrination to be more precise) on its individual members. It matters not you are an anti-rape activist, a liberal(or pseudo-progressive) follower in feminism, a conservative who wants their daughter or female spouse against rape or a religious member that does not believe in so-called "dirty sex". All of them are merely repeating the socially-constructed idea that has been repeatedly shoved down to their throats for so long that they even have forgotten that it was never their original, authentic idea. Please do not lie by saying that you really think rape is wrong or bad, because chances are, you have never deeply and earnestly thought about it. Also, please do not pretend that you have done so, as it is just your false-consciousness deluding you. Of course, you may still agree with all my points above and still say "So what? Suppose our judgement of rape is just a product of massive social construction and indoctrination, and it is never what we truly believe in. Still, If such thing can reduce or prevent rape, wouldn't it be still worthwhile?" Nice sophistry there. However, does it really help anyone? As soon as we activate the brainwashed, negative idea of rape, both sides of rape participants are rendered negative. The rapist suddenly is judged as no longer a human being but an evil incarnate or a monster, which is clearly dehumanization of a human being. The raped female gets further victimized because her internal knowledge that she has experienced something horrific, a realization stemming from the social indoctrination, is confirmed, reinforced and perpetuated by the people around her who send the message containing the same knowledge that she already holds. After all, to tell her "Hey, you have been through some very nasty stuff" doesn't help at all, but makes her more miserable, when she already knows it more than others. That is not helping; that is microaggression aiming to drive her to further depression, trauma and eventually, suicide. Well, considering how many raped females do kill themselves, the result so far seems quite unsuccessful. Now is the time for us to open our thinking to new, diverse, creative judgment and value assignment to rape. We must discard the conservative, narrow-minded, negative value assignment on rape that has been forced into the consciousness of the public, and start assigning ourselves to the novel, diverse, progressive and positive value to it, not just for the fun of it, but to help the people involved in it " both the rapist and the raped females for justice and equality. And it is not at all hard " unlike other crimes, such as murder, arson, fraud, or theft, there is little to no physical loss in rape. Both the penis and the vagina are intact before, during and after rape. No one loses their money, limb or life just from rape, unless they decide to kill themselves afterwards, which is a wholly separate act. We do not need to accept values that society forces us to mindlessly pretend to follow; we can be honest and create our new values. Remember how vilified homosexuals were just 50 years ago? How people of other colors were discriminated? And look how we have changed. Rape does not change; but we can change our thinking about rape. Just imagine. It is not that hard if we try.