Parents are to blame for the childrens behaviour

Firstly Children Learn by there parents behaviour growing up, we learn to speak adaquetly or inadaquetly by our parents, although this can be influenced enviromentally The majority of People growing up learn Home life before Society. Peer pressure of course is a huge concern but as con stated it is only a motivator and that if a child was fully secure at home , the child would be decisive about bieng involved in such antics. Research shows that children who have been Brought up in a stable home and family have lead better lifes, this of course is a majority it might not stand for everyone. - In addition to this research it also shows children who have had drug addict or socially inept parents have either turned to there path or gone into a destructive measure of erratic behaviour. Parents these days sometimes seem to have a hard time finding a balance between work and family. After long hours at work, many parents just don't have the energy to discipline their kids, and they feel guilty for being gone a lot and tend to try to make up for it by being permissive. This can be a problem, because the children learn quickly that if mom or dad is tired they can get away with anything. Other times, parents are too strict and controlling. They want the child to be perfect, they have completely ridiculous expectations for their child that they can not ever live up to. This often causes the child to feel discouraged and adopt a "why bother" type attitude of defeat. When parents have a good balance in their homes and age appropriate expectations for their children, their children usually feel accepted and safe and it shows in their behavior. Children feel more secure when they have good boundaries in place and know what to expect. There are consequences enforced for their actions, and they know ahead of time exactly what will happen. They feel loved and supported, they know their parents care because their parents are involved in their lives. SOME STATISTICS<> Children who have had strict Parents who are unsuggestive and deal with there upbringing in a foul manner , Have usually turned to violence or drugs as a way of freedom. Children who have had abandoment by there parents, 4/10 children have done this to there own child as they can see and think this is acceptable. Some children dont always see themselves in an " ideal " life but have the capability to be strong and deal with situations, Con explains- "just like the police tries to control citizens all the time Parents cant always control there kids" Though this is true, Parents cant always be there for there kids and an amount of trust is always good, but as a small child we learn to copy our parents we see hear sense things, a strong trust bond with parents gives children a higher matturity level, but this sadly isnt always the case. . A mother could say to his young boy " dont do drugs" Dont smoke- dont get into trouble, but the mother dosent always understand a childs enviornment today , she should speak to her child there should be a clear understandment on both sides. Though a parent cant always be accountable for a teen/childs actions , it is always influenced by home. In many cases this has been true for People who have destructed to murder, For example Ted Bundy - His actions were dispicable, he was mentally enraged and sickened, but in a brief interview he said He was always let down growing up by the women in his life , He also said his mother never shown him respect or stability. . This growing up gave him a different view on how he saw women, Nobody can say ted bundys Mother was to blame, but like i said it was an influence. Just like many of Convicts the majority have said they suffered with verbal and/or domestic violence growin up at home. Children of course need limits and detriments, But its important to give children heart to heart discussions , so relate to a child and have a meaninful bond which can help the child learn its rights in the world, so the Child can go into an indepenent Adulthood, Though its rare now a days. Children / Teens must find an inner voice to speak to there parents but often enough they are scared, This causes mistrust. Some may say what if the child was bieng abused by a teacher/caretaker etc, This is true but if children were brave enough and had good relations with there parents they would feel comfortable telling them -Also accounted by child psychologist Mary Hieffer. Nature and nurture differs so much that it can be easily mishaped, But as early years nurture directly correlates with the home, Like i said we spend the majority in home life growing up than out in the social world, So nurture should easily overpower nature , Its only with the childs mind and personality we see this. In conclusion My arguement still stands, I do believe a childs behaviour is very influenced by home life, what may suggest otherwise differs in peoples homes, But i do speak as a majority and as ive researched various topics concerning this. ((Proverbs 22 and verse 6: Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. ))