Rape or Nontraditional rape? (Bride Kidnapping Video)

I cannot agree on the fact that kidnapping the bride should be necessary to "excite" the engagement. There are many traditions executed in every country of the world that violates human rights"specially women and children"s"and you"re right, there is no much we can do about it but if we remain with our minds close to the ideology that we can"t change the things that affects us as human beings then we will never experience a change within our society. Individuals know what goes around the world and they acknowledge the fact that not all individuals possess the same freedom as others and as you said, not even the law supports people whose rights have and are still been violated and as it was said in the video; "traditions stand above religion and religion above the law (17:50)." The abuse and force used in the bride kidnapping video demonstrates the power men have over women. How can she not agree after been humiliated in front of so many people and even the broom"s family? She was not only taken away from where she resides but she was forced to go to a place she has never been before with people she has never seen before. You"re right, she had the choice to decide whether she stays or not but what is there for her is she left? The bride even said that she had no other choice, she had to stay because "since she was already taken, they wouldn"t leave her alone anyhow (27:05)." There was a section in the video where after she was kidnapped she had to go through the females of the house so they can place a white scarf in her head which signified that she agreed on the marriage. The white scarf was placed in her head by using force; the bride refused to wore it and somehow she ended up accepting it anyway. The scarf tradition is a process that "can take hours or even days (15:00)." The problem is that women from this country have been living in a vicious cycle of acceptance that prevents them from seeing the reality of their decisions. Many of the just follow a tradition that has excited from ancient time and that their grandmother, mothers and sisters will have to follow as well, since is so important for a women to get married according to tradition. I do believe the bride was raped, maybe not instantly after been kidnapped but she was forced to be part of plan that she had not intended to be part of yet. She wanted to get married but she wanted to wait a little longer. She was forced to say yes, just like every women of her family; not because she wanted to get married but because she had no other choice. The consent that she gave was based upon the influence of outsiders that didn"t let her make her own decision. Agreeing with Smith; "the question is whether negligence suffices, that is, whether the defendant should be convicted who claims that he thought that woman was consenting, or didn"t think about it, in situations where "reasonable man" would have known that there was not consent (163.6.2)." She resisted, she fought back, she cried but it was not enough to prevent her from making a life changing decision. She was not putted a gun in her head but I think traditions and people"s comments were a more powerful weapon that prevented her from escaping from her reality. Even though the fact that the bride"s family had everything ready to receive the groom"s family does not necessarily mean that they were aware that their daughter was going to be kidnapped. We have no knowledge of the amount of time that it took for the bride to say yes since it was a short documentary. So, that comment is not valid to prove a point of rape or nontraditional rape. The raped occurred based on the negligence of both parties since they were both influenced by the idea of a tradition and not a common law. It is sad to believe that in some cases, suicide is the only way to escape from this reality. Do you think that"s reasonable? How can a woman have to choose between marrying a person who she might not even know and the idea of committing suicide? Acceptance does not mean happiness. Many Kyrgyz women get married out of tradition and not out of love, so how can someone have a happily life with a stranger that not only forced her to get married but humiliated her in front of many people by kidnapping her?