it is better to find love,than to complete your life long dream

thankyou i-am-a-panda for that argument. i will try to respond as quickly as possible. And yes this will be more of a philosophical debate rather than a hard facst one. ok first your rebuttal than on to the rest you said "Someone's interest in someone they love can change and deteriorate" I would not use this as a definition of love. again not hard facts debate, so here is a definition of what i believe true love is. True love is having someone you completely and fully dedicate your heart too. meaning that you can't stand to be without this person, and you are sure that this person is the exact one for you with the fullness of your heart. some one who you think you fall in love with and then divorce or break up with a few years later, would not be an accurate assumption of love. Because if it were real love, you would not leave this person for any reason whatsoever because they mean so much to you. I would define the first as just lust. I think that definition covers you second argument rather well also. next you say "I would believe finding your one 'soul mate' amongst millions of people would be harder than travelling the world." Actually having a great number of people just widens your range of possible soul mates for you to find. any one of these millions of people could be the one for you. a soul mate isn't just one person set for you and placed randomly somewhere on this earth. whoever your soulmate is, would be completly up to you and the other individual to decide. as opposing to trying to find your life-long dream, you could want to president of the united states, but say you weren't a natural born citizen. therefore you are deprived of the oppurtunity of ever accomplishing this. Or say you want to be a famous author, but you simply lack the money and the physical ability to get that money to become the famous author. there are many obstacles that can stand in the way of accomplishing your life long dream. Of course their are obstacles in finding love, but these mental barriers are much easier to sustain and accomplish at the same time. and here you say "Finding true love is as hard, if not harder than accomplishing a goal or dream. Mainly for the reason is that very few couples are true love. Many are people who like each other, cannot find anyone else, or are experimental." in that second sentence you pretty much say it all for me. About the rest of that paragraph, though, i'd still have to differ. Love is not something you have to be neccisariily searching for. Most the time it finds you, and in the most unlikliest of times and places. The time you fall in love will most likely be the time you least expect it to happen. in the next paragraph you say "What if falling in love is someone's goal? Is falling in love then not a small, unnecessary goal? Falling in love is a milestone in one's life." If you would like to use falling in love as an example of a goal, it will still hold the same principles. like i said, love will pretty much find you. But if someone spends there whole life looking for it, the chances of them actually finding would be slim. next you say "Completing a goal or dream may be as important. Completing many would be far better tan falling in love. According to your logic of 'there is a soul mate for everyone', you can fall in love once, but can accomplish as may dreams as you would like. This may have more value to someone than falling in love. Also, why should falling in love signal the end of one's dreams or goals? Surely accomplishing them with your soul mate would make them better." In this debate i am trying to clarify which is better to fall in love, or to complete your life long dream. but i don't believe that i ever said anywhere that one cannot still chase their dreams and fall in love. I am simply trying to compare, and see which is better or more essential. and of course this works for the con as well. some one may fall in love while trying to follow their life-long dream. but the question asked here is which one is more important. and if the situation did arise where you were forced to choose one or the other, which one would it be, and why? that is what i believe this debate will establish in the end. Thankyou for that detailed response mr.panda. you asked for a definition 'true love' and 'soul mate'. within in the response i have provided both. both are philosphical term meanings rather than hard facts meanings. however for the sake of evidence i will provide the hard facts definitions too, because in essence i believe they have the same meaning, if not a little less detailed Love: a strong positive emotion of regard and affliction (of course this debate is aimed to human relationship) Soul Mate: some one for whom you have a deep affinity (again not detailed