Premarital sex

INTRO My opponent again mistakes promiscuity for pre-marital sex, provides a series of worthless sources which are all biased and anecdotal and offer no actual or relevant statistics, claims many things without providing any evidence at all, AND has not refuted my arguments in favor of pre-marital sex. Again: A pair of adult virgins enter into a monogamous, loving, sexual relationship, but are not married. With what in that does my opponent find fault? Where is the long-term harm caused to the couple? PRO'S SOURCES Some bias is inevitable, but over-arching, previous bias in a source tied to a group, philosophy, and worldview AND is attempting to promote that group, philosophy and worldview is unacceptable in reasoned debate. TEEN SEX Teen sex is often inherently pre-marital because teens are too young to get married, but this does not make pre-marital sex a teen sex issue. Again: A + B may be bad, but that does not make A bad! PROMISCUITY "Usually promiscuity is pre-martial unless this is done within marriage and then it becomes adultery." It becomes adultery + promiscuity as opposed to changing from promiscuity to adultery. I see no reason to believe that promiscuity is usually pre-marital let alone inherently pre-marital. I refer you to my statistics on extramarital sex. RESPONSES "I do not agree that pre-marital sex has health benefits based on WHO definition. Neither does it strengthen relationship but rather leads to expectations of commitment and a desire of the deepening of relationships in the majority of cases. I believe this can only safely be achieved within a healthy marriage." Evidence? "Sex is not merely about pleasure but about bonding and a spiritual connection, personality is shared along with memories." Bonding, yes, as I have shown it creates bonding. Spiritual connection? Prove the existence of a spiritual aspect. "These memories effect future relationships and can have a negative result when deeper intimacy is developing." Evidence? Again, this is a promiscuity issue. The same problem can arise, even more so, in after-marriage promiscuity. "Abstinence can be extremely beneficial. This can be seen in the tradition of certain sports like boxing, martial arts and soccer where abstinence improves performance and effectiveness." Evidence? This abstinence also applies to MARITAL sex. Benefits possibly derived from abstinence apply to a very tiny amount of the population, and even if they applied to the population at large that does NOT make pre-marital sex HARMFUL, only possibly less beneficial. "But I do agree that forced abstinence can cause health problems, dishonesty and should only be a personal choice." Which makes avoiding pre-marital sex harmful. "Promiscuity amongst young men could be the cause of prostate cancer later on in life. Earlier reports had made a similar conclusion in regards to the sexual activity of young women...In a separate study on a different continent it was also concluded that promiscuity could have played an important role in vastly increasing the chances of STD's and cancer..." Pre-marital sex is not promiscuity. "Although there are the relatively rare occasions where couples have exclusively monogamous pre-marital sex, the vast majority are promiscuous and therefore these two factors can frequently be linked." Evidence? Promiscuous means: "characterized by or involving indiscriminate mingling or association, esp. having sexual relations with a number of partners on a casual basis." [1] It is not having one partner for a year and another partner for another year, that is monogamy. Monogamy is NOT having one partner your entire life. "Pre-marital sex, especially with multiple partners have an effect of the psychological well-being of individuals in later life, Suite 101 (2010)." The source itself is, one, not authoritative, and is written by a social conservative. [2] The article is about teen sex only and its later implications, and is a collection of anecdotes. Even it's sources are anecdotal and very biased. [3] [4] "[Pre-marital sex] has a devastating effect on the success of marriage, Counselling Solutions (2009)." Counselling Solutions is a Christian counseling organization. Now let's look at the article, which required some searching (the link didn't work, but there was only one 2009 article on the subject): http://goo.gl... The article is fully anecdotal, religious, and doesn't give ANY evidence for its claims. My opponent makes a serious claim based on a source which just tells a story. "People who argue against marriage often forget that pre-marital sex can devastate newly formed marriages and increase the chance of later problems such as in-ability to relate, guilt, dissatisfaction, adultery, emotional and psychological damage and even the breakup of marriage." Evidence please! SOURCES: See Comments.