Why Nice Guys Have Better Relationships Than Jerks!

With that, here are my arguments:Now, the problem with Pro's argument is they define "nice guy" (NG from now on) incorrectly. As a woman, I hear the term thrown around all the time, but this is the commonly-held definition by most women: a man who is kind, generous, compassionate, and a good listener. . who then expects compensation for his social services. He lacks the confidence to put himself out there and instead preys on those he already knows, typically fumbling over himself or being over confident, and when a woman rejects him, immediately insults her. Neither persona A nor B truly capture the true NG. Persona A is what people refer to as an "alpha male" or "bad guy" even though the terms is also just as ridiculous as NGs. An alpha male is confident, self serving, and comes off as narcissistic. Pro even threw in the fact that this persona makes over $100,000 a year, has a car, a high position at work, and then somehow has time to throw "packed out parties. " This guy is a narcissist. Persona B is not a NG Persona B seems to be a nice person, not a NG. He's selfless, loyal, kind, etc and seems to be down on his luck financially. This doesn't make him a NG. This makes him a down-on-his-economic-luck nice dude. What's the difference between the good people NGs think they are and the narcissists they hate so much? Confidence. A man comfortable in his own skin is more attractive than any man complaining about the unfairness of the sort. Persona A obviously has a well paying job, so he must have some good attributes. He has a steady income, a paid off car, and a house? Check financially secure and able to provide off. Packed out parties? Obviously someone thinks he's likable if everyone in their mother is at their party. A woman is going to look for a man who is able to provide for both her and the potential family they have. Some dude with tons of money, a car, and a house is probably able to do that. A woman is also going to look for a man who can protect her and her family, and a man confident in his abilities is probably going to be able to do that. The difference is in what the two men present. Will a woman also enjoy a man described as Persona B? Absolutely, but they're not going to be as initially attractive. Persona B might be the altruistic man she's looking for, but that doesn't mean she's going to find him, and that also doesn't mean that he's what she needs. A man who isn't making much money and relies on public transportation but is "nice" doesn't always foot the bill. Combine that with the fact that he doesn't put himself out there too much? It's probably not going to happen, and unfortunately, he's going to turn into a NG. A good man will be able to hold a relationship if the conditions are right. "Jerks" can hold relationships well if they so wish to as a result of the sttributes I just named off, and of course, if there are problems, a woman could turn to one of her guy friends for emotional support. That's normal. The problem arises when good men descend into become a NG. "These men ain't crap. " Well, you're unfortunately going to find that most women agree. Being a woman is incredibly different from being a man, especially when men are attempting to pin you down as one thing and insisting they know better than you what you are and what you want. A woman can settle down with a NG, she might settle with a good man, or she might settle with a narcissist. That's her chocie. But the reason women say "these men ain't crap" is that there is a continuum of men. One one side we have narcissists. These are the "alpha males" and "bad boys" women love so much. At the extreme of this side we have "f*ckboys," those who are tear apart a woman for her looks, destroy her confidence, and even sexually assault her. On the other side we have good men who unfortunately fall into being NGs when their good traits aren't given any recognition. They believe that being nice, listening, and being "nice" allows them to demand compensation. These men also can become "f*ckboys," as it's truly a circle. Pro didn't intend to, but they've unfortunately made a very misogynistic generalization about women. They've infatilized women into being unable to truly know what they want or need. This is very much an NG argument used against women, and it's something women live with today.