Divorce should not be encouraged II

Before I proceed to my rebuttal, I have to change the rules. I have to clear this to all of you, I need to change the rules for Round 3 and 4. As seen, Round 3 is limited to rebuttal while Round 4 is BOTH argument and rebuttal. Seems that something is not right, so, I decided ADD an argument form in Round 3 and REMOVE the argument form for Round 4, so that, there would be no added arguments, and that, it will not affect the conclusion area for Round 5 and for the scoring of the voters to us in this debate. To clear, Round 3 would be for rebuttal and argument. Round 4 would be for rebuttal in the argument from Round 3. Rebuttals for Round 2: Point One: Personal stress vs Marriage (Rebuttal to, "Unfulfillment of the role of marital unions") Con, in his point, is trying to saying that there are problems "beyond repair", thus require divorce. From http://www.psychologytoday.com..., "And no marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can you keep the spark alive?" Marriages, in reality, do have conflicts. We cannot escaped that phenomenon, but what we can do is how do we handle it. From the question, "So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise?" It takes that such problems is being burdened to you, thus, you should give the solution. I do believe that marriage is a two person process, the wife and the husband. But, my point is, avoid depending too much on your spouse when you have the problem. Its ok to work with him/her, but not all the times, it would work. Try to see yourself some solutions as well. Personal stress, how do you deal with marital stress? The fact that every marriage has a conflict, it is UP TO THE COUPLE if they will loose love or grow more in love by facing the problem TOGETHER. From MY OWN POINT OF VIEW, there is no "functional" and "dysfunctional" marriage. It is up to the couple if they will give up or not. Point Two: Personal vs Couple (Rebuttal to, "Quality of Life") Every people will not just marry someone, and if the individual is mature, he/she will think first of what he/she will enter, the same time, try to check if he/she is financially stable and is able to achieve his/her dreams as an individual. In fact, even in Marriage, if the couple would prefer tom improve their quality of life by achieving their goals, then, they can help each other. Something we should remember is that, Marriage is permanent, as said by Con himself. When you marry someone, you should not look for another again. It is a big choice. To proceed with my argument, my points would be focus on health again and on alternatives (pre and post actions that we can do for marital conflicts) About health, My always point is the suicide cases. A lot of people think that to divorce is to "set free from such burden", but then, some would end up killing themselves. "Divorce is typically a painful process for all concerned. While it can take adults time to regain psychological equilibrium, whether or not children ever recover a stable perspective continues to be debated. Post-divorce hostility between adults, in addition to directly harming kids, is a sure indicator that the emotional split is incomplete." http://www.psychologytoday.com... What we can do when entering a marriage and dealing with it? Entering a marriage: 1) Be aware that Marriage is a BIG choice, thus, think DEEP. From Con's point about Quality of Life, when you will enter marriage, make sure that you are ready. Make sure that you are unsatisfied to be single, wants to marry, and make sure who you will marry is your love. Make sure that you achieve what you want to achieve, and always remember, you can achieve more even when in marriage. 2) Marriage would have conflicts. It is merely a fantasy to have a marriage without conflict. Giving up (Divorce) won't be the solution as it also causes health problems (Psychological, physiological, emotional, physical). Some would even regret, thus commit suicide. "Post-divorce hostility between adults, in addition to directly harming kids, is a sure indicator that the emotional split is incomplete." http://www.psychologytoday.com... Emotional split is incomplete. Well, why not, just maintain the marriage? In the marriage: 1) Handle stress properly. I know that we have limitations in how do we handle the stress, the same thing, a rubber has limitation on how it can hold itself: When pressured cannot carry, it will broke. But also know your resources. In military, the base alone deployed in a particular place cannot endure the fight, especially, when it is just foreign and it is facing the whole country itself. It needs BACK UP in case that it cannot handle the military attacks or rebel attacks (depends on whom it is facing with). We have our limitations, but we can have a BACK UP: family, friends, spouse himself/herself. When you cannot take it, look for someone that will help. Friends, church leaders (if you are into a church), or anyone. Internet and research can help, too. 2) Avoid thinking of "divorce" Marriage would not last if the two would have the thinking of, "I can divorce when the problem arises". Despite of the some countries allows divorce, always remember that marriage is permanent, and a MUST be permanent. It is up to you how will you let yourself spark the love between you and your spouse? 3) Remember the possible consequence. Some would want to break their spouse, but in the end, they realize, they cannot live without him/her. Anger in your spouse is just a mask, trying to mask what your spouse and you have been: positive relationship, sweet dating, romance. When a person who break up with his/her spouse remember those, he/she would mostly regret - one reason for suicide and depression. Note: As seen, I had "caps lock" some words, that is for emphasis' sake. Thanks and God bless. The sources are already posted during the statements.