Same sex couples should be federally allowed to adopt.

============================================================================== >>> Legality in FEDERAL terms not primary.* ==1st, 14 amendment- it would have never passed had reps from those states been there in 1868 a different amendment might have come along, but who is to say what never happened.the ratifications of the former confederate states were COERCED!-- many former Confederate states had their readmittance to the Union conditioned on ratifying the Fourteenth Amendment how can force of arms deny another state a right to have representation in the Congress until it has ratified an amendment which its people oppose? therefore it is up to the STATE to determine, not federal governent. it is not a federal issue, because states like FL. and Georgia and many of the confederate states were forced. they should make decisions that sorta link to the 14th amendment & do what they want because 1) it never should have passed and 2) they were coerced into passing the amendment. --- hypothetically if you were forced to go sign a petition banning wearing the color purple & you really didnt want to, you should still be allowed to do wear it, since you were coerced into it. --- people were coerced into slavery .. does coercion make slavery okay?.. NO --- states were coerced into passing the amendment does coercion make the amendment? .. NO ============================================================================== +++ The other kids do not have to know the relationship this child's parents have. - yea, but if they find out, in school all hell would break loose. I am in highschool, i get to see first hand discrimination directly at gay people, and at children of gay people. Although America is diverse were still a discriminating country. yet you are probably going to say im hypocritical because i say i dont think gays should be allowed to adopt. yet this is NOT discrimination. Discrimination would be not allowing gays to date, because it is not involving another life, that has no say in what is going on it is not discriminatory. it in turn is protection from discrimination. and protection of rights of that baby. -- Children absorb a lot, their sense of gender roles are impressionable and they should have both an adult male and female in their home to guide them. -- children have a right to obtain balance in thier lives.they didnt ask to be here,so parents need to give them a well rounded and stable life so they have a chance to grow up healthy and normal,a gay couple would be a lopsideded family unit for a child.i am not anti gay but a child forms his life patterns and most preferences in early child hood. he or she should have choices and should have the oppertunity to be straight if they so choose.having both parents of the same sex will seem normal to them and it would be a foreign concept to them to have parents of different sexes.so chances are he or she will grow up sexually confused.. ---To deny a child a true mother or a true father is to deny that child a true home. a true chance to grow and live a normal (on the standards of the us and specific states) lives. >>>Children more likely experiment homosexual behavior. "In a study published in an issue of Developmental Psychology, London researchers Susan Golombok and Fiona Tasker found that children raised by a homosexual parent were much more likely to experiment with homosexual behavior themselves." other Studies indicate that children in homosexual households are four times more likely to identify as homosexual or get involved in homosexual behavior than children raised in single-parent households. --A mountain of social science, the world's major religions, common sense and observation tell us that children have the best chance to thrive in married, mother-and-father-based families. Why not give kids the best possible chance at a normal, healthy family life instead of using them to make a cultural statement?" +++ i never said i was accepting. "these arent my personal views" does not mean im support advocating gays to adopt. i dont think debaters opinions matter in a debate. that would lead to a never ending 4 year old debate of - nick jr is better, no disney is better, no nick jr. its the evidence presented, the studies, and the arguments made. -------------------------------------------------------------------------- +++Most children would rather have a loving, caring home, than an overcrowded, unloving home. They are willing to accept a little ridicule over lack of love and parents. -----once again To deny a child a true mother or a true father is to deny that child a true home. a true chance to grow and live a normal (on the standards of the us and specific states) lives. cross apply everything i said about children learning everything when they are young. -----religions started the standards of the US. why do you think places close early on sundays? or the post office is closed? religious people would look down upon a gay couple adopting a child. which could prevent the child from practicing their own beliefs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ >>>gays are just as good parents --- this is not true, and im not sterotyping, statistics show gay people are less likely to stay in relationships. so the child involved might not only not be exposed to a "normal" life, but be in a situation where one of the parents leave. which can create even worse problems! --- if you dont take that.. okay so what? its not the quality of the parents. its the rights of the child! == I would just like to point out that all your info is from AAP yet, but then the AAP report revealed how little research has been done. Much of the research asks the parents, teachers and children how they feel about one another. Much of it is focuses on lesbian couples. The conclusions don't seem based on large enough samples to be scientific. The conclusions sound like wishes. As the American Academy of Pediatrics eventually put it: Research exploring the diversity of parental relationships among gay and lesbian parents is just beginning. from just taking science regents, research based on a large percentage of people, a large variety of people, increases the truth behind statistics, yet due to the fact that AAP doesnt do much research your information is all INVALID! ( you can say my research is invalid as well, and we can DROP this part of legality, and go on the other parts & rights of the child if you would like?) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- >>>it is not discrimination. it would discrimination to not allow a gay couple to date. it only involves the life of the 2 people involved. yet when you add a kid in the mix you are looking at a totally different situation. because you have to look to the rights of the child, and the problems it may lead to, and the UNDETERMINED beliefs of the child the child never was asked to be put on the earth, since it is here it should be exposed to a natural, "normal" lifestyle. who is one to say that when the all adopted children of gay parents grow up, they like the fact their parents are gay. if you take that then you have to take the fact that some dont like the fact. you have to protect the rights/beliefs/life of the child. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- The fact is that kids are often abused and molested and always have no loving parents when in orphanages (or whatever euphemism they're using now). Most children would rather keep their parents a secret and have loving parents than live in a poor, sad, overcrowded, loveless household. Some children will even tell the truth. But most children would prefer love and attention over neglect and a lack of family. ---It's a myth that hard-to-place children would have