Rape or Nontraditional rape? (Bride Kidnapping Video)

By me stating; "and you"re right, there is no much we can do about it but if we remain with our minds close to the ideology that we can"t change the things that affects us as human beings then we will never experience a change within our society," I was agreeing with the fact that there are many cultures who have their own traditions and there is nothing we can do about it to change them but I was giving you the reason why certain traditions can"t be changed and this was because many times we"human beings"don"t really pay close attention to what is going on in the world and we keep our minds closed to the fact that there are people in different countries whose rights and freedom are been violated daily. There"s a difference between judging other countries" traditions and recognizing their problems. Jus to clarify, by "within our society," I was talking about the world"s population in general. People should be aware of their own rights. The problem is that most individuals don"t care about what is going on around the world and that"s why world problems remain as they are. But the discussion is not about people"s rights, we are here to establish if the actions made by the husband were either rape/nontraditional rape or not. The bride never said he was humiliated but there was a part in the video were it was stated; "even if they love each other, it is illegal to kidnap a woman without consent because it"s humiliating to be physically captured and forced into a car (3:05)." About your question; "How is consenting to the marriage without necessarily wanting to get married supposed to be considered Rape?" By her forcedly consenting to the marriage, she agrees to spend the night with him, as it was mentioned in the video; "by our tradition (Kyrgyz), if a girl spends one night, then she will stay forever (17:18)." If she didn"t agree with the marriage then she wouldn"t have had to spend the night. I believe the origin of rape commences when she is forced to do something she is not sure of. The bride even said she wanted to wait a little longer because she was still in school and she had dreams she wanted to achieve. Smith mentioned something in the book that I have to agree; "from a woman"s point of view, the danger in this position is that many women who say "yes" are not in fact choosing freely but are submitting because they feel a lack of power to say "no" (177.5.1)." Many women are pressured to make choices they are not ready for, mainly because they feel they are less powerful than men. The problem is that some women let men influence in their decisions because they feel that they are not capable of making choices by their own without the support of a stronger figure that somehow will protect their decision-making process. The part where I quoted Smith, I was trying to show how whether the husband is guilty or not. I was not stating any point I was just creating a question about consent and how it is confusing for men to understand whether the woman is agreeing or not. In this case she didn"t agree, because like I said, she did fight back and was showing resistance. Smith also mentions the male perspective when it comes to consent; "from some men"s point of view, the problem is that some women who say "no" would be willing to say "yes", or at least to "go along," if properly pressured (177.5.2)." I do believe the bride kidnapping situation is very similar to what Smith mentioned. Even though the bride said no many times and she refused to been taken away, she was finally pressured and obligated to say yes. The persistence and the actions taken by the husband pressured the wife into saying yes and agreeing to get married. On my last paragraph when I mentioned about "both parties," I was talking about husband and wife. The problem is that divorce is not socially accepted in this community. As I mentioned before; "if a girl spends one night, then she will stay forever (17:18)," it shows how after being married a girl will have to live with the idea that she has no other choice than to stay with the guy forever. Also, she will no longer be "pure" so there is no way she can have another husband.