Danielle should remain friends with Sadie.

Only a couple of points because I'm sick of losing sleep over this: I. My behavior with Mason lead him on to think it was acceptable. We cuddled, drank wine, etc. I quite obviously lead him on. But, I do agree with my opponent. His behavior was unacceptable. What he did was wrong. I agree. And yes, I would want him to apologize to Jenny if: A. I hadn't found out a week later that Jenny had cheated on me 3 times during the course of our relationship (1 week after this Mason incident she broke up with me). Thus, I lost all respect for Jenny and didn't make Mason apologize to her. B. Jenny knows about the incident and doesn't care, because, well, she didn't care about me at the time she found out. Nor does she probably care right now. I, Danielle's current girlfriend, however, care very much about the Sadie incident. II. I am appalled that my opponent would call me a cheater. I dd not make a single physical move toward anyone during my relationship with Jenny. I may have fallen in love with Emily, but I did not ever cheat on Jenny with Emily. III. My opponent has never brought up this issue she has with Mason with me until this very debate. If she would have discussed this outside of DDO, I may have taken her more seriously. Every time I asked her outside of this debate if she has a problem with Mason, or if he doesn't like me talking to him, she has said that she doesn't have a problem with him doesn't mind me talking to him. I have been quite vocal about her not talking to Sadie. IV. Danielle's best friend has never made a move to get to know me on a one to one basis as well. I don't hold this against her, though. Mason and I were estranged for a couple of months because, well, I lost contact with everyone in my life for quite a while when I went to New Jersey to be with Danielle for months upon months. I don't have much contact with any of my friends anymore (Danielle can attest to this) as the zero contact lead them to resent me. Mason and I have started talking again since winter break on a normal level. I've been promising him for about 2 years that I would go visit him again (as he has come here plenty of times and we have hung out). So, this trip has been in the planning for a long, long time. V. I also don't admire the guilt trip my more than willing girlfriend has offered me about her family and friends. I've gone with her to New York every chance I can manage (which is quite a few times, at least once every other month - sometimes more- and I'm a full time student). I've also, on every single occasion, driven Danielle 16 hours there and back. I am very committed to her seeing her family and friends, and obviously work hard to get her there. I am very appalled that she would give me a guilt trip because I wanted to visit one of my only friends - that I, for the first time in our relationship, wanted to take a trip to see *MY* friend. I never said she couldn't go to New York (as I am obviously letting her go). I offered to work over time to have her come with me to North Carolina to see Mason, and also have the ability to go see her family and friends in New York. VI. I, Danielle's current girlfriend, think that Sadie should offer me an apology. My opponent would love for you to believe that Sadie was on higher moral ground to do it in "front of me." But I believe this is by far more disrespectful. A. She didn't kiss Danielle in *front* of me. She tried to make out with her in the bathroom where I couldn't see them. Cowardly. B. The two attempted make out sessions were more than "minutes" apart. At the least, they were 15 minutes a part, and we were sitting far away from the bathroom. Both times Sadie got up and followed Danielle to the bathroom and attempted to do this. C. Danielle says that I could have told Sadie off at the bar. But, I hope that Danielle realizes that was there with a fake ID (I could have gotten in lots of trouble), and Danielle had begged me not to do anything. I was respecting her wishes. VII. And for my last point: I asked Danielle over and over if it was ok for me to go visit my friend in North Carolina. She said it was. If my girlfriend raises an issue, or says she is uncomfortable with me either talking to or visiting Mason, I would gladly respect her wishes and not go visit him in North Carolina. She hasn't brought this up to me at all. Mason, however, has never disrespected Danielle. He disrespected Jenny, whom doesn't care for an apology. Sadie disrespected *me*, Danielle's current girlfriend. And I care very much about the incident. And, as a side note, I know if this had happened between Sadie and Amelia, Danielle would have made Sadie apologize right there at the bar ;) If Sadie offers me an apology, I don't mind if Danielle and Sadie talk. If she doesn't offer me an apology, I find her actions insulting to Danielle and I's current relationship. I offer it to the readers to judge.