Teenagers Can Be In Love

So, in this debate, you want to prove that these exceptionsof true love exist (which they obviously do!)? That most certainly makes it harder for me. I'll just reply to your statements now. That teenagers could overcome this selfishness is obviously true, but again, exceptional. The selfishness is within the human nature, humans are born living for self-interest and personal benefit. It is through reason that we know cheating is wrong (some at least, others just chase their dreams freely). The self-sacrificing element is a tough one to describe, as this basically means the person means more to you than your own life. I'll give it a try explaining this. Loving is always in a certain degree, for your own benefit. Some people will find this person so important, that they will really find their own life pointless without them. It is then, that they would decide to die for them. But in most cases, it is through reason that people decide that dying for love is the best thing to do. They try to be the ideal lover as they can picture it in their head, but in their heart, that is not the case: they would choose to live. The more realistic example is when your boyfriend would die, would you move on? If the answer is yes, then you are part of the second category. If the answer is no, you are a part of the first category. On the general case of teenagers, the main selfishness still counts, so i believe the majority of them would move on. > "The majority of the people I know who are now married are still with their high school sweetheart, and in one case, middle school." Very interesting argument, since research has proven that most people indeed marry someone they have known from under the age of 16. Whether they have always had feelings for them, is uncertain. But you most certainly come from a different region than i do, because most girls here (Belgium) have had an average of 2-3 lovers throughout high school. Let alone the many girls who are currently "f*cking around" in university. I find this sad, as i would rather have a society like the one you described. But i must ask a question about that: Were they really together with only that one person? Have they never had the slightest desire for someone else? Most likely, they wouldn't tell you about this. But if they are for example a huge Justin Bieber fan, you can always ask them if they would have sex with him. If they say yes, then those teenagers don't take love serious. Ask them a direct question and they'll use reason to know that cheating is wrong and say that they wouldn't cheat. > " You also mentioned sexual frustration. This is a barrier that every couple has to over come simply because evolution has made us this way. We are physically at our prime in our late teens to early twenties and so this topic is almost unavoidable when you choose to be close to someone. But I don't think sexual relations should be an indication of wether or not what someone feels is love. In the event that sex does occur it is my personal opinion that you should stay with that person. I also think that if you made the choice to sleep with someone then you should be 100% committed to that person." The thing is, that I plead for the world before the sexual revolution. Yes, our prime is early, but we are not smart enough at that time to have certainty of your feelings. Every year you wait, is a year you'll know more and you'll be more certain of what is right and wrong. Nowadays, the mentality is that you should just date at early ages, and explore the world to its fullest: i disagree. The children lose the option of ever being able to say they were fully committed to just one person, as they will already have a past with others. It is a reality that the large majority of teenagers who sleep with someone, will later break up with them. Reality is not the ideal world you describe, where everyone is 100% committed; and that is why waiting is the best way to see what you really feel. Untill old enough, a teenager cannot be certain that his/her love is really the deepest love he/she will feel in his/her life. For that reason, teenagers should not act upon whatever they feel and wait, be it together or apart. I hope I'm not offending you, because you really seem like a morally correct girl with great ideas. Personally, I'm pretty sure that if your boyfriend feels the same way you two will end up marrying and living your whole lives together. Hopefully other people will understand that too, that you 2 really are an exception and not the average uncertain teenagers. On the other hand, me and my ex were once just as certain, but she as a person was still developping and turned into your typical sexual revolution girl, bragging about experiences and finding own happiness more important than each other.