Serious relationships are better than just dating

First off i would like to appolagize to my opponent, and my audience for missing a round in this debate. This usually doesn't happen with me, and it was not very responsible seeing as i'm the one who posed the debate. I have been very busy, and have not been around a computer. I hope to cover everything i have missed in this round. Also i would like to than my opponent for the courtesy tha has been used. With that said i will begin. (i don't know if i will be able to hit all the points from round three with limited characters, but i will do my best) RE: 2nd paragraph round 2- No matter what the analogy, they all virtually hold the same principle. Same with the violin instrument. You could also learn how to play clarinet, or trumpet, etc. The more you learn, the more musical abilities you aqquire, and the more your life is fulfilled with variety. When taking college courses, you could major in one thing and do the same thing for the rest of your life, or you could try a little bit of everything to see what you do and do not like, so as to spice up your life a little bit, not following the same boring routine. 'Undecided' may have been a little bit of a detrimental word to be used when reffering to dating. In truth we are not waiting for life to pass us by, when just dating. In essence it is quite the opposite. We get to enjoy life to our fullest, and experience not only one, but many wonder in which the world has to offer us as human beings. RE: 3p 2R "The same is true of a relationship breakup; You can just get into another relationship, but again at considerable cost to yourself, only this time emotional harm rather than financial harm has been done" Exactly my point. Why should someone have to go through any of this high emotional grief when it is not needed? "To have anything of value is to risk losing it" But why should we risk losing something when we can have more of that value, without the risk! Dating is better in so many ways, and is resolved with alot less emotional pain, and heartbreak. RE: 4p 2R Of course getting in a serious relationship is not advisable, in any way. However, it is debateable, by the simple fact that it DOES happen and quite often. In fact more than 46% of most serious relationships (IE marriage) were sprouted from good friendship. Of course this poll doesn't refer to the number of break-ups which occur between the couples as well. So, yes it is not adviseable, but it is unfortunately it is common anyway for couples who were originally close friends to find themselves sexually attracted to each other. And when break-up occurs high standardss of hurt, akwardness, and slow departure, are formed. All in all, its just a ton of un-needed shmuck. Rather, though, when dating it is perfectly permissable to be able to go out and have fun without worry of anything. And it holds all the same benefits of a serious relationship, minus all the negative. RE: 5p 2R Well as said in the quote, that argument was dedicated to the norm, and not the whole. Thus the word 'usually' was inputted. Most relationships do, however, provide at least two or more children. And i am not totally downputting serious relationships, to say that the people that have them cannot be happy. My goal is simply to prove that someone could be more happy in just a dating environment. Then again their is also the circumstance that everyone is different, each having different personalities and likes which can result in excessive differentiating results when comparing someone likes between serious relationships and dating. For me personally, and from what i have seen, i can only provide evidence of what i have seen between couples and apply that to having higher and more frequent happiness than that of one in a serious relationship. I cannot argue that an elderly couple of long years are not happy with their life-style, just that there are certain benefits that can be obtained by dating, that cannot have been in a serious relationship. RE: 6p 2R Again this is only a simple one sided view of how serious relationships can be hurtful to some, but helpful to others. Maybe some are more responding to having children, but current results show that this is slowly failing. While not applying to all, but most, divorce rates have engulfed our country and are slowly plaguing. More than 47% of american households, undergo divorce problems. Apparently some families are not capable of caring for kids and raising them in proper environments. Also abuse rates also imply how serious relationships involved with children, show how some people are just not ready to take care of a child. Of course this doesn't apply to the whole, but these people whould never have such issues, having not taken part in a serious relationship. RE: 7p 2R This is all very true. The onl difference is that when experiencing sexual relations with someone who you are just dating, you have an oppurtunity to learn, experince, and grow! You can still feel love with that person, even when not feeling fully devoted to them. You can decide whether it is something you can continue with that certain partner or not. But what you learn and experience cannot be forgotten, and can be used and re-applies in further situations. RE: 8p 2R LOVE is a quite touchy word and is viewed generally in one form. When someone looks at the word love, it instantly clicks for them that it has to be so deep and conforming to the point where it can only be one person, and one person only. However, i believe there is many forms of love. I believe that if you care for someone's well being enough to say that you would do anything for them, and be a general support to them in hard times, can be there shoulder to cry on, that could be defined as an accurate definition for love. And it is commonly assumed that this kind of love can be sharedd with only one person. But i see no real tangible reason why this experience cannot be shared with all the idividuals you share this bond with. The only difference between the love in a dating relationship, and in a serious one, is the committment level. RE:9p 2R The stress an awkwardness proposed from dating in this argument happens only under rare exceptions such as what you said earlier. If one party gets overly devoted, then their should be no problem with them wanting to date continuously with that person. They can still feel love towards that person without facing the struggles, by dating. The benefit, is that they may share that same connection with other loved ones. How often does the problem occur when one has to deal with choosing between one or another person that they feel a deep intensity for? They are usually torn between deciding, and end up hurting one of the individuals. When dating, you canfeel natural love for both individuals without the heartbreak of 'dumping' the other. RE: 2p 3R In this argument, it is assumed that by dating somebody you don't share that same bond that you would if in a serious relationship. However i think it is ridiculous to say that you can't trust someone your not in a serious relatonship with. It is all relative to the bond you have with this person, not the status of the coupling. This would be to say that a couple in a serious relationship for 2 years, could trust each other more tha a couple who have been dating for 5 years. Dating is purely a matter of status, minus confinement, but in no way effects the bond you may share with the person you are with. "sleeping with a stranger is an unsettling prospect indeed." This is assuming that the one your dating is a stranger. But when has being under that dating status ever meant that the person you are sharing with has to be someone you don't have deep emotional feelings for? RE: last paragraph third round I totally agree with that. I believe there is an arguement for everything, and that by being able to debate both sides, shows open-mindedness. thankyou -philosophical