it is better to find love,than to complete your life long dream

Now that I fully understand what we must debate, I shall begin. My opponent poses the question that 'if the situation did arise where you were forced to choose one or the other, which one would it be, and why? '. My opponent presumes that if you are in love with someone, you are their soul mate. However, as the definition states, being someone's soul mate does not mean you are ion love with them. Being a soul mate means a high level of love. Also, love is not restricted to just a person. You can love a sport, hobby, etc. Being the debate has no limits, let's consider the many types of love. There is love between man and a woman. However, what about love between a 40 year old man and a child. Should the 40 year old man pursue this love, even though he will be arrested and put in jail for it? In that case, it is better for him to pursue his dream, whatever it may be. Or a man willing to risk his life to meet a celebrity. There are many cases where love is great, but many where love isn't. Love is never guaranteed because there is no official indicator of what is and isn't love. Moreover, love can blind people, like in the examples I mentioned. In those cases, the people are best of going for their dream. They will hurt no-one but themselves that way. And any pain is severely reduced. ==Rebuttal== "some one who you think you fall in love with and then divorce or break up with a few years later, would not be an accurate assumption of love. Because if it were real love, you would not leave this person for any reason whatsoever because they mean so much to you. I would define the first as just lust. " As I have mentioned, there is no indicator of love, true love and lust. There is no visible line between them. You can easily go between them with an experience. Enjoying a moment of awe and wonder would make your love for someone increase, obviously. Love can change. They often change with people's feeling, which can change alot. However, one persons desire to climb a mountain is less likely to burn out. "Actually having a great number of people just widens your range of possible soul mates for you to find. any one of these millions of people could be the one for you. a soul mate isn't just one person set for you and placed randomly somewhere on this earth. whoever your soul mate is, would be completely up to you and the other individual to decide. " So, you are suggesting your soul mate is created after being with them, not destined to be. The word soul in soul mate would tend to suggest otherwise. It implies someone destined through soul to be with someone. Not someone who becomes your soul mate after you have met them. "as opposing to trying to find your life-long dream, you could want to president of the united states, but say you weren't a natural born citizen. therefore you are deprived of the opportunity of ever accomplishing this. Or say you want to be a famous author, but you simply lack the money and the physical ability to get that money to become the famous author. there are many obstacles that can stand in the way of accomplishing your life long dream. Of course their are obstacles in finding love, but these mental barriers are much easier to sustain and accomplish at the same time. " There are more obstacles than mental ones involved in love. Whilst money can be a barrier in someone's life long dream, law can be a barrier in someone's love, as well as other people who are in love with someone, as you have said yourself, there multiple soul mates for someone, and they are bound to overlap. Also, people may need to spend money to attract someone's attempting to them, or to prove their love (such as an expensive wedding). Falling in love normally requires two people. Co-operation between two people can be extremely difficult, as people who love each other are less likely to open their feeling of each other. Whereas there are barriers in someone's goals, there is one person involved, it is their responsibility, but they are determined. "Love is not something you have to be neccisariily searching for. Most the time it finds you, and in the most unlikliest of times and places. The time you fall in love will most likely be the time you least expect it to happen. " I agree that love is not something you must search for. However, this means it is often random chance, or luck. Chances vary between people. How often they go out, how they look, etc. Whereas people often choose realistic goals. Goals can be altered or changed, but love cannot be. If someone wants to climb a mountain, they buy the equipment and find a mountain. If someone wants to travel across the world, they buy a plane ticket. If someone wants to find love, they must constantly go out and depend on luck. This is proven by you when you say: "But if someone spends there whole life looking for it, the chances of them actually finding would be slim. " Here is when I run out of things to refute. My opponent is arguing which is better to do, however we must look at what is involved in both of them. So far, we have found this: * A goal depends on what you can do, and when you want to do. Love depends on random chance, or luck. * You have multiple soul mates out there, but if you find true love you have it once. You can accomplish many goals. * A goal can be altered. Love cannot. I await my opponents response.