Rape or Nontraditional rape? (Bride Kidnapping Video)

Michelle F. Final Argument A recap of what I mentioned in my prior sessions of this debate, the actions taken by the husband were not Rape or non-traditional rape. From this video all we learn are the traditions and the rules that this particular country has. See I think the problem with your argument is that you keep referring back to society and the world in general when in fact we should be focusing on the videos culture and the videos beliefs. Who is to determine that the actions that have been taken places for hundreds of years are suddenly wrong because we in the United States believe that to be the case? See that can be the problem, as residents of the United States we tend to pick up a few things from others and that is that everyone is free and entitled to be treated equally. In reality who are we to determine the way others should live, the way other countries should protect their people. If they have obviously not done anything significant enough to stop the kidnapping and "rapes" as you claim, it must be that this is something that is accepted in their country, something that they can simply justify. The family of the bride, especially the mother not only accepts that her daughter will be getting married but she also says "I also feel happy" (22:28). See it is simply a tradition that all the people that were in this video went through themselves. It is simply a new step into the life you are meant to be. The girl would sooner or later be kidnapped and married, at least in this video we realize that they had been dating for a while. After the ceremony where the bride was asked if she decided to accept the marriage on her own without being forced, she replied "yes I did" (26:90). She then states that she did although she would have liked to have waited and wanted to get married in a different way. (27:00). When I stated "rape and non traditional rape refer to a man"s aggressiveness and the force used in the act," what mentioning some of the things Smith stated in (161.1) where he explain what non-traditional rape is. Although I agree with his definition, I cannot say that I can apply it to the video because the actions taken by the husband do not necessarily fit into this definition. For one, the husband did not help apply force or use aggression towards his bride. That was done by members of his family and others. He simply acted straight from the heart and went to propose marriage to the woman he loves in the way his country has been doing it since the ancient times. Accordingly, I truly do believe that the actions taken by the husband were truly his way of proposing to the woman he loves; to the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with. The only difference is that we may not necessarily accept the way in which he proposed but that is the way it is done there. Another factor is we must not forget that the bride readily accepted the marriage and at no given time did she state she was raped or forced to do something she did not want to do. Even while the ceremony was taking place, we were asked a number of times if this was something she was accepting freely and she responded yes. She consented to becoming his wife. She accepted to stay the first night. The ball was how we say in her ballpark, and she decided she would accept the terms and begin her new life with a man she has feelings for. Her consent seemed sincere and it seemed as if she understood exactly everything that was going on and exactly what she was consenting to. It cannot be considered Rape or non-traditional rape.