People should adopt children instead of pets.

In September 2009, 7-year-old Artyom Savelyev left Russia to live with his new adoptive family in Tennessee. Earlier this month, Artyom returned to Moscow " alone. All he had with him was a backpack and a note penned by Torry Hansen, A 33-year-old nurse and Artyom's adoptive mother. "I no longer wish to parent this child, " read the note, In part. The mother also reportedly said Artyom was mentally unstable. The case has raised international furor, With Russian authorities suspending adoptions to the United States. It has also drawn attention to a rare but dark side of adoption: What happens when the bond between adoptive parents and children doesn't form. On Team Opp, We want to reiterate continuously that we completely agree that adoption is good but we are not for equating wanting a dog and wanting a child. Now, For my argument, I want to characterise two kinds of parents in this debate. There can be parents who are very very eager and excited to take care of a child. This kind of parent does not understand what the child might be going through at the moment. When a child is adopted, These prospective parents, If they've not done parenting before do not know what it's like. These parents put their risky foot forward and decide to experiment with bringing up a child. Now, There is actually something called an adjustment period for youth who have been recently adopted. This period is one during which acting-out behaviours can actually and understandably be expected from the children. It can be very challenging for adopted children to immediately get accustomed to a whole new life. Children may feel grief over the loss of a relationship with their birth parents and the loss of the cultural and family connections that would have existed with those parents or the foster home or orphanage they lived in. When these fervent parents thus do not get the same attitude from their children, The attitude that they put forth, They have problems. They don"t, Can"t understand the child"s own problems and help solve them as they think the child isn"t friendly with them The second kind of parents I want to talk about are the ones who are insecure about their very own feelings. These kind of parents aren"t sure whether they should gel with their child, Whether they should help the child out, What else they should do. This is because of a feeling they get when they adopt their children. They feel that they do not have the rights over the child. That they cannot and will not be able to gel with the child. These parents with the insecurities end up leaving the adopted children to deal with their own problems. "It didn"t even feel right to say she was my daughter"- 39% of parents were reported to say about their adopted children. Children who show higher levels of aggressive and delinquent behaviours as well as anxious or depression symptoms tend to have more problematic relationships with their parents, Including more negativity and less warmth. What happens to these adopted kids who do not maintain a relationship with their parents that would be ideal? Well, Many parents try out adoption but soon return the child to the adoption centre or orphanage because they feel they can't take care of the child or because the child is mentally ill or because they do not understand the adjustment period the child is going through, They are not able to strike up a cordial relationship with the child. The evident distress and trauma that children at orphanages and adoption centres feel is quite obvious and well known. When these kids are actually returned to the centres after being adopted and after thinking they finally got a home, The trauma they face is just humongous and inexpressible, On top of the general distress these kids actually face. What I"ve proved to you just now is the emotional impacts of adoption on children and how it can really really affect them. Putting it into this debate, It just becomes worse. If people who want to adopt pets are made into parents for adoptive children, I think the result is distinct. These people may not even be ready to be parents yet. These people are way less mentally prepared to actually raise an adopted kid. And that"s why this argument stands. And stands strongly.