Rape or Nontraditional rape? (Bride Kidnapping Video)

By saying "rape and nontraditional rape refer to a man"s aggressiveness and the force used in the act," what act are you talking about; the act or rape or the act of kidnapping? Because I think you"re confusing the real meaning of rape with the act of kidnapping someone by force, because there are many times when a man can rape a woman without using any type of aggressiveness or force. I think you need to clarify that point. Another point that needs to be clarified is the meaning of consent. I do agree with what you said; "consent is giving permission to another and in a way understanding that giving that consent might have consequences," but according to Smith, in some cases, "her behavior is not always an accurate guide to her true desires, it might suggest resistance when in fact the woman is enjoying the physical struggle (178.4.4)," and it can also work the other way. In reality, the true meaning of consent is very complicated to understand because we don"t really know the real motives behind people"s behaviors. It is true that we don"t know if the wife was forced to have sex or not because it was not shown in the video but we do know she was forced to get married and that leads her to be forced to have sex as well. Once she agreed on the marriage then she had to automatically agree on having intimate relationships with her now husband because it is simply part of her culture. Remember, once she is in, she has to forever stay. Crazy, isn"t it? We will never know her true feelings about the whole situation, because as you said, she might seemed happy and excited to get married but we don"t really know what"s going on. There is a part where she was been interviewed before the ceremony where she shows part of her emotions. Referring to the act of kidnapping she said; "no, I don"t think it"s good but what can we do?" By her saying this we can have an idea that she wasn"t really agreeing with the whole situation but she had no other choice but to resign and continue with the ceremony. I also think we shouldn"t be using people emotions or what seemed to be their emotions as a justifiable reason to agree or not with rape or nontraditional rape. You said; "While I agree with you on the woman not fighting back and showing resistance but again after all that she consented and seemed to be happy about her choice." Even though you used the world "seemed" we can"t really tell if that was what she was really feeling or not. That"s why I believe emotions"in this case"can be used to make a decision. The video was too short for us to truly understand and go deep in her thoughts and feelings about the situation. I have to disagree with what you mentioned; "It is simply two people that have been dating, who had discussed getting married in the future and the man taking the initiative of making the first move and making the marriage happen." There is a contradiction between what you"re saying. If they already agreed on getting married in the future, why would he have to take such a drastic decision as kidnapping her in order for the marriage to happen? Isn"t that going against what was already planned and discussed between them? And also, how can a man make a girl happy after kidnapping her? Her ideas about the guy will never be the same, even if it"s part of a tradition. I also disagree with your last comment; "In any event his act was completely out of true love, for the love he felt for this woman who he had been dating and the desire to spend the rest of his life with her as part of her family." We don"t know if what he feels is love or simply obsession. If he really "loved" her, he would have waited on their agreement of taking some time and wait for the wedding to happen at the right time, without any use of force.