it is better to find love,than to complete your life long dream

==Rebuttal== "First i would like to as you what your analysis of the definition of soul mate is? Because teh purpose i have summed from it was that this person is the neccesary "one" for the particular individual as in the use of "affininity" meaning this is more than just a "high level of love". Because if it is your soul mate that means there is no one else except for this person, because you cant have more than one soul mate. back to both definitions of the actual word 'love' though. you can't paossibly say you love somebody and leave them a week later, so is it fair to say that every individual who thinks they are in love, are actually in love? to say that would be to abuse the word for what it truly is in this case 'lust'. And this love is aimed towards human beings. sports, hobbies, etc. would fall under the goals category. (just for clarification)" For one, In do not believe in the concept of a soul mate. You can love someone, but a soul mate does not exist. A soul mate would suggest that we are pre-destined to be with people, as you have said yourself, we only have one. Although you cannot love someone them leave them a week later, you can think it is love. You may give up on love after that, not realising it is lust. The debate was not limited to specific types of love, so love of sports or hobbies can be included. "Ok first i would like to say this debate is limited to man and woman as was the obvious intent of the resolution. The man and his child is a different kind of love. But you couldn't call them soul mates or true lovers, as what this debate has been aimed for. ! The resolution has no clear indication it is love between man and a woman, or between two humans. Love between man and a child is not different. The man loves the child, the child loves the man. It is love, nothing can change that. You have not give a reason why a man should pursue this love. Pursuing this love would be disobeying the law, as well as endangering the child. The man and child in question should pursue their life long dream instead. "generaly your soul mate wil meet you sometime and somewhere in your lifetime, or else their would be no point in calling some one out as a soulmate. It is guaranteed that they will meet once in their life time, not nessicarily someone they have met in their early years. " What about the numerous single people in the world. What about all the divorced people, and not to mention priests. These people would not exist iof the concept of soul mate was true. "i would like you to adress please where i said that there can be multiple soul mates for each person, for i do not recall ever saying that. !" You said in R2 that - "Actually having a great number of people just widens your range of possible soul mates for you to find. any one of these millions of people could be the one for you. " In the above statement made you mention soul mates. You have changed you're own argument, which is poor show. "And if money and pride will stand in the way of love, can you call this true love? " Money may be needed to attract someone's attention to you, to signal the true love. You may never know that person before hand. And to suggest money doesn't factor into love is saying that you can get rich celebrity to love you even by wearing rags and sleeping on the streets without two cents to rub together. "no i did not compare love with luck in this situation, i simply said that love comes to you when you least expect it and probably when your not looking for it. as opposed the physical barriers that stand in the way of climbing a said mountain whereas you may not be able to afford the material. you can't buy love. Love is always achievable, and it will happen for every one, but some things stand in the way of finding your goal. ! Like I said, there are priests, single people and divorced people in this world. You cannot say love will not happen to everyone if these people exist. Love is not always achievable with people like these in our society, and may not happen to everyone. Everyone has some sort of goal. They have a better chance of completing it by trying rather than waiting for love to find them. "*love does not depend on random chance or luck, just patience and uneagerness. with goals there are many obstacles in the way *There is only one true soul mate for every individual, where as goals deteriate and change. *Love can stay true and confident where as a goal may be a lifetime of wasted hard work, and complications. !! " In refuting the first point, love is dependent on a form of luck or random chance, as you said that it happens to everyone, but you do not know when or where. Also, with the single people in society, it is luck. The second point has been refuted by yourself in my above argument. In refuting the third point, love has as many complications as a life long goal. Love has a random chance factored into, making it anytime before someone finds you, if at all. A life long goal can be accomplished eventually, with some determination and reality.