self-harmers should not receive medical attention

i dislike the way my opponent has assumed that " i believe" i am quite sure pro is not inside my head. also would like to highlight the grammatical difference between "their" and "there" as pro - i will refute my opponents argument by paragraphs, 1. I did not state we should turn our backs on the suffering in the world, it is apparent that we are all aware of it, i quite clearly do not imply that we forget it but- "acknowledge this fact and appriciate other peoples pain, but that is no reason to turn guilt upon people who are lucky enough to have these resources" only to not blame every member of society for taking the opourtunities they have. In your quote "the resources that go to treat self-injuries could go to help legitimate people who need them" you are saying that being a self-harmer is not being a legititimate person and therefore don't NEED treatment. I do not say to turn our backs on fellow human beings because of their resources, that is infact quite irrelevent, i'm saying we shouldnt have to go without because of their lack of medical care. 2. I am honoured that you accepted my wikipedia definition. "history of trauma and abuse including emotional abuse, sexual abuse, drug dependence, eating disorders". I believe (and i know i believe) that the word trauma indicates a significant distress. Also it states that eating disorders lie under the tag of self-injury. If left untreated anorexia nervosa and bulima nervosa can kill, as can drug abuse and overdoses. You say that ignoring these peoples illness is going to benefit the third world. In your eyes they are selfish and dont deserve treatment, not even in a psychiatric hospital? Yes the mother and fathers infact have mental stress when they have a virus within their family. Consider that the parents turn to self-injury through the stress of the illness, do then become selfish and their worries dismissed? I have not placed self-harmers as first-rate in the needs department. I do not believe or disregard other illnesses over self-injury because in the grand scheme of things worse things happen. My argument is for them to recieve medical attention equal to the rest. If only people who needed medical care were there through no fault of their own, very few people would receive the care they need. 3. i didnt talk about " a self-harmer bottling up their emotions so that they won't help others " i talked about "in keeping all the pain inside of them, they are protecting people around them by not wishing to share, burden or blame other people in anyway" 4. pro's argument being that self-harm is selfish is true. it is selfish. But then isnt everything we do in life selfish? self-injury is a coping mechanism therefore other machinisms such as : running, writing, talking, crying.etc are all selfish. the people who run need trainers, the ones who write need a pen, the ones who talk need someone to listen, the ones who cry need tissues, the ones that s-h need professional help to learn healthier ways to cope. Infact his feelings towards the medical care in other countries is selfish because "HE" believes it terrible etc. It is impossible to do a self-less thing because doing something to help others involves you feeling and doing the activity. I can prove society treats them differently with the whole side of your argument. you do not need to see the cuts to judge a self-harmer you have already developed a perception of the type of people self-harmers are. You may not realise someone engages in self-injury until you see the physical signs, and a place where you'd see this is in the hospital, where you dont think they deserve to be because they are selfish and should pay for their actions. you have not proved that self-harm is selfish therefore your arguement "the idea that a selfish person should have more respect over that of an innocent boy who has just gotten run over by a freak accident is completely irrational in every sense" is invalid as your only proof is the word "perfectionism". consider why they strive for perfectionism, to please other people ? because they dont think they're good enough? It is not a cause it is an outcome. Ihe cause here would be "im not good enough i need to do better" then putting themselves under stress to succeed and setting themselves up to fail. you THEN think they're selfish because they felt the need to self-injure. i do argue that the kid doesnt deserve more respect, one's been hit by a car, one's been slashed with a razor-blade, both are still human beings and both dont deserve the pain they're in. your idea that self-harmers have a control over their life that other people don't is also invalid as many self-injurers feel the need to cut/burn/loose weight etc because they feel their life is out of control. 5.this whole paragraph is invalid as i have clearly stated this arguement "was for self-harmers to not recieve any medical attention, not get it first" 6. in my saying that people who are obese and smokers do not deserve medical care and benefits was to reiterate that if self-cutters can't be treated with the same respect as anyone else, neither should the obese or smoking. my argument: "Imagine the money spent on war, with those countries that cant afford hospital care, for the victims of the war we are fighting. imagine the wasted food. imagine all those clothes you own but never wear. heating, and clean water in your houses" meaning that, those people who you often refer to, as suffering from viruses etc are suffering because their county cant afford it because they are tied up in a war. This in not the fault of anyone. i am infuriated by pros final paragraph and the statement implying that "she has also devalued the lives of millions who are in complete suffering who can't even complain about their rights to proper health care" in actual fact i feel it is pro who has devalued the lives of millions by disregarding the seriousness of self-injury. Also i feel my oponent is steering away from the actual argument that" they should not recieve medical attention" the lack of treatment for self-harmers will no benefit anybody. I cant find any reason why self-harmers deserve less respect than any other person. this argument is mega stressful i cannot describe my frustration with the ignorance PRO displays.