Love is the most selfish emotion to feel

The main points I would like to address in my opening speech are that feeling itself is totally separate from expression or display, that love is a comforting mechanism of the mind and is the most efficient method of assisting one to ignore hardship, that all emotions other than love have some negative aspect to feel (happiness is very close behind but doesn't offer the same comfort factor to feeling it) and that love is in fact an emotion that we evolved to feel in order to ensure our children to successfully carry on our DNA gene line. What is feeling? Well, feeling, for the purposes of this debate, has been defined as having a sensation of something. If one has a sensation of something, for example sadness, it is nothing to do with the crying nor the sympathy one would receive when being sad but purely the feeling od sadness and the effects it has on the mental and physical well being that would have to be considered. What is love? Well, love, for the purposes of this debate, has been defined as an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. I kept the definition short so as to be fair and allow my opponent to twist it a they wish but from my point of view it is also further definable in that it is only felt towards objects or activities form which one gains something. Additionally love is known to associate with what makes one happy, energetic, alert and without pain. However, love is very often confused with lust and obsession. Lust is the feeling that is often mistaken for love; It is mistaken for love because the attraction is so strong. Lust can feel like love because the feelings of attraction are strong and all-consuming. One can lust pain and submission as seen in B. D. S. M. couples however, to love something it must be directly associated with painlessness or happiness, the difference between lust and love is that lust is related to the physical sensation felt during an activity done with a person or in a certain environment. One can lust cutting themselves, or lust being abused in sex by a partner but to love something they must associate it with happiness for that affection and attachment to a human cannot possibly be associated with the feeling of pain, that indicates danger, and thus is the opposite of what to be attached or feel affection for. Obsessions are often mistaken for love because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be love if the other object or activity is always on their mind. Now that I've stated what both are I shall begin to explain how love itself is the most selfish emotion. Love is firstly an emotion that, when felt, opens doors to only beneficial emotions. What causes the pain when losing a so called 'loved one' is that the love has turned into obsession which differs from love in that love does no obscure rational thinking but obsession does. One can love sky-diving but not go every time they get the chance, whereas someone obsessed with sky-diving would seek to go even if the chance wasn't offered. Similarly when you love someone and they die that pain is not due to the fact that you love them but the fact that you can't experience their presence anymore. Thus love is not a key to pain but rather a key to what could be the key to pain. .. happiness and excitement. A key to joy is clearly very beneficial to one's self but also has another side to it. When you begin to love a living you start finding it easier to please that being and sacrifice yourself without being sad or angry. This means that if you began to fall in love with your boss at work or happened to love your parents to a higher degree than usual, you would being finding the fact they they used you and bossed you around easier to handle, thus using it as an extremely beneficial coping mechanism. So now we see that love is not only a key to beneficial emotions but also a coping mechanism in tough times. The final point of my introductory speech shall be to counter any thoughts of emotions such as envy or anger being selfish to feel. It is indeed selfish when one acts on a whim in anger or envy and causes misfortune to others for their own satisfaction. However, I very much believe that while feeling anger or envy or any of the deadly sins you actually don't feel good but feel negative and bad while feeling them. This is the end of my opening speech.