Rape or Nontraditional rape? (Bride Kidnapping Video)

Michelle Argument #3 Con Rape and non-traditional rape refer to a man"s aggressiveness and the forced used in the act. Smith defines Non-traditional rapes as something that is not criminal. We must also understand the meaning of consent. In"t giving consent giving permission to another and in a way understanding that giving that consent might have consequences. While it is true the wife was persuaded to give consent to the marriage from the video we cannot determine whether she was forced to have sex. Some facts that we can be sure from the video is that after what seemed to be a few minutes of resisting (again because it is tradition to resist in order to not seem desperate) she accepted the marriage and seemed to be happy. I am saying, the word "seemed" because we do not necessarily know her exact feeling at the moment she consented to the marriage, in the video we see her smiling an accepting candy and whatever else was being handed out but we do not know how she felt inside. Was she afraid? Did she finally realize that she was going to marry the man she was dating? The man who she already had discussed marriage with? We can simply judge from what we see, the assignment stated to focus more on the main girl which was towards the end of the video so I don"t feel that your statement about humiliation wherein you cited as (3:05) can truly be used to justify the actions of the husband because in those cases the men were most likely complete strangers to the woman. Further, where you responded to my prior question how is consenting to the marriage necessarily wanting to get married supposed to be considered Rape? Well I would have to disagree with your answer because does spending the night necessarily mean she was forced to have sex? There was no mentioned of the Husband forcing himself onto his wife. It simply discusses the fact that it is tradition to have sex on the first night because it is a way to test if the wife is pure through her blood on the sheets. While I agree with you on the woman not fighting back and showing resistance but again after all that she consented and seemed to be happy about her choice. That is the key thing here ultimately the marriage will take place once the woman agrees, once she allows them to place the white cloth over her head (23:09). Although she does mention that she wanted to finish school she still seemed to have hope that one day she would be able to finish school just she would be a married woman. Maybe the video is not enough information to justice Rape or non-traditional rape but it is enough to justify the actions of the groom. His actions do not fall under the definition of Rape or non-traditional rape. It is simply two people that have been dating, who had discussed getting married in the future and the man taking the initiative of making the first move and making the marriage happen. His goal is to make her happy and make her see that in their culture this was the way to make the her happy and give her the life she truly deserves. In any event his act was completely out of true love, for the love he felt for this woman who he had been dating and the desire to spend the rest of his life with her as part of her family.