The single greatest mistake a man can make in life is getting married

Your first point about having personal experience in this matter is correct. Most debates are personal to some degree but I feel this does not in any way weaken my stand but only strengthen it. You falsely assume I am not acting out on aggression towards my previous spouse or women in general. Nothing can be further from the truth. In fact I agree with you on the fact that marriage could be one of the best things for both a man and a woman and still is for the lucky few. To clarify my point, what makes getting married in this day the greatest mistake a man can make is not even the fault of women. The state is to blame for this problem. It's not even a problem of the law as this too is relatively well written and overall fair to both parties. The problem is the liberal interpretation of the law by liberal Judges and liberal attorneys who overwhelmingly interpret the law to mean something other than what it says and support their stand on past precedence and a false pretence upon what is best for the children. The law is not about what is right or wrong and the liberal interpretation of it certainly is not. If the reverse was true, if a man could get married to a woman and then cheat on her when marriage got tough or if he simply did not want to work anymore and then as a reward for his betrayal get full custody of the kids if he so wanted and then receive state aid, child support, alimony etc and not have to bother with the problems of work but have fun with other women and live at his ex-wife's expense then yes my stand would be just the opposite. I would believe the greatest mistake a woman could make in life was to get married. Another point. A lot of people justify child support because it's supposed to be about taking care of the kids. If this was true, it would be great. What the money is spent on is the ex-wife's business. She can spend it on anything she wants. This is outrageous. My divorce cost me more than a million dollars and 40 years of lost earnings all because I was foolish enough to believe in the "Fairytale" All this money that was paid, not a penny of it went to my kids which I love dearly. I only got to see them every other weekend, and Sundays were cut short due to school. This meant that I only got to see them 3 days a month. They lived in filthy conditions with lice in their hair and holes in their cloths. I continued to clean them up and buy new clothing for them when I got to see them. All the money I paid went to my ex-wife who spent it on herself and having fun with boyfriends etc. She did not have to work only sponge on the system. I wish this sad story was unique or an isolated incident. It is not. In fact, I found out that many men had it even worse and many even went to jail because they were unable to pay enough for child support or other charges the judges deemed fit. The reason I am even stating this argument it in an effort to help young men not destroy their lives like I did believing some ridiculous fairy tale of happy times. The statistics speak for itself. Again. I am not bashing on women either. I know full well that if the courts had a reverse situation that men would be doing the same thing to women. Women are not to blame here, the state is to blame. I believe that feminism has run amuck and changed one of the most precious gifts into something that is simply unwise and quite frankly dangerous for men. I wish this was not true but it is. In closing. I agree with you on many levels. Marriage could be wonderful and has been for thousands of years. It's just that because of the State, that marriage has recently become the single greatest mistake a man could possibly make.