There is no valid reason for an adult to complain about being a virgin.

___Opening notesInitial disclaimer: Many different groups of people, and even individuals, have varying definitions of virginity. Some are of the opinion that the concept is a tool developed by the church to stifle normal sexual behaviour by framing it as a desirable trait to maintain. While I think there is merit in this position, this is not the topic of the debate, and I will be arguing from the perspective of Con in the debate that "There is no valid reason for an adult to complain about being a virgin". Introductory scene-setting: Not only does sex feel good both physically and emotionally, it also provides health benefits(3). Abraham Maslow identified sexual health as being a component of the very first tier of human needs on his hierarchy(4). While the hierarchy has been expanded since his original work, sex has been kept in the model as a fundamental attribute to overall human health. While I will not persist in addressing this model throughout the course of my arguments, I identify this point here to keep the idea that sex is fundamental to health, and that a lack of sex is detrimental, in the back of your mind, as I address whether or not people have a right to complain about their virgin status. While different people have different definitions of virginity and sexual intercourse, I will use the following cited sources, as we must have some platform to conduct the debate and authoritative, formal sources are the only way we can maintain fairness. Virgin: 'apersonwhohasneverhadsexualintercourse. '(1)Sexual intercourse: 'genitalcontact,especiallytheinsertionofthepenisintothevagina followedbyorgasm'. (2)InjuryConsider a pre-pubescent male who suffered genital injury (or cancer or disease or any other incapacitating medical situation). Now let us consider that his penis was removed, either for medical purposes or through the course of an accident. When the boy reaches adulthood, it would be a valid (as defined) reason for him to complain about being a virgin. This is because the boy would in all likelihood develop the sex drive associated with an adolescent and adult male, however he would never be able to relieve this through masturbation or sex. He would also live in the knowledge that he would die never having had sex or experienced that aspect of his life. This would be very frustrating and upsetting, and as stated, would be a valid reason to complain about being a virgin. LooksPerhaps an individual has not had sex because they are intolerably, hideously, repulsively unattractive. This is not the fault of the individual, and they are within their rights to complain about the shallow intolerance of society. Further, let us consider a situation where they employed the services of a sex worker (which is legal where I am). They are still within their rights to complain that they have to use a sex worker to lose their virginity because of society. That is, their complaint about being a virgin is valid. OrientationOne could conceivably argue that, because homosexuals do not satisfy the given definition of intercourse, that they would not be considered to ever shed the 'virgin' label. Given this, an adult homosexual could complain about being a virgin because they wish for the definition to change; as the definition to an individual maybe relatively plastic, it might be the case that, for instance, two lesbian women would consider that they had lost their virginity to one another when they first engage in genital contact as opposed to exclusively manual/digital/oral sex. However, 'society' might not agree due to the traditional/formal definition. Given the amount of hatred still exercised towards homosexuals, it is entirely reasonable for them to be angry about the definition excluding their sex lives as not being 'real sex', complain about being 'virgins', and request the formal definition be changed to accommodate them. ConclusionThere are many reasons for an individual to complain about being a virgin; sex is an important aspect of human health, and those who cannot have sex for medical or other reasons are within their rights to complain about being a virgin, in the same way a person deprived of food is permitted to complain. Over to you, best of luck! _______(1) [. http://dictionary.reference.com...](2) [. http://dictionary.reference.com...](3) [. http://www.webmd.com...](4) [. http://www.simplypsychology.org...]