The bible does not teach mutual submission

Imagine for a moment that it is 3am and you are sleeping next to your spouse when you hear glass break at the front door. Someone has broken into your house and your family is in danger. Additionally your children are in their rooms, located on the second floor between your room and the front door. You have to do something. Do you call 911? Unfortunately you don"t own a gun either because you just haven"t gotten around to buying one or you don"t believe people should own guns because they are dangerous. You now hear the intruders coming toward the bedrooms. What do you imagine you and your spouse doing next? Pause for a moment and think about what would be the best strategy to protect your family". Now if you imagined the man in the relationship confronting the intruders, you are a sexist guilty of discrimination according to my opponent. He is arguing that there is no difference between men and women and if someone distinguishes any differences they have a dirty heart comparable to a racist. His argument is a classic ad hominem, directing the audience of this debate away from the topic of whether the bible teaches mutual submission toward an emotional attack on my character in order to invalidate my arguments. I applaud his attempt to distract and throw in a loaded emotional argument considering he is really struggling to support his position biblically. My opponent is clearly an intelligent and seasoned debater. Now I am going to respond the first point he made in his opening statement. He starts out stating Men and women were created equal and submission was not gods original plan. Unfortunately for my opponent, he actually supports my argument that the bible does not teach mutual submission. First, being made equal by God does NOT mean man and woman are to be interchangeable in every circumstance. To make my point, men have different heights; does this mean that they were not equal considering only the tallest can play professional basketball? What about women for that matter, are they not created equal because not a single women on the planet can make the starting roster for the LA Lakers? Equality has nothing to do with an individuals abilities or God given authority or responsibilities. My opponent seems to be struggling with this considering the acknowledgement of this fact would completely undermine his entire argument. Additionally, In the Genesis 3 scripture, God clearly discriminates between what men are cursed with and what women are cursed with. Furthermore, the Genesis scripture clearly shows the instruction by God for wives to submit to their husbands and this has been the structure of marriage ever since the fall. Why is this the case? Is this unfair or sexist of God? Look at the event that was the catalyst for the adjustment God made in marriage. Eve was deceived by the serpent and then led Adam to follow the deception. So God instructs wives to filter unbiblical ideas threw their husbands. This is for the protection of both the husband and the wife. If a family is under attack, then the husband is to take the front lines to shield his wife and children. In his third paragraph my opponent states "It would be amazing, if in the rebuttal, my opponent claims that all other men in the church are to submit to the women except her husband. So I will have to wait and see since we can't rebut each others' arguments in this round." I really do not understand the point he is making here. Seems you have made some typos here. Please clarify. This is all I have time to respond to at this point due to time restrictions. I will respond to his other points in my next rebuttal.