Serious relationships are better than just dating

Thankyou, Realist, for those defintions. I accept your definitions and, they may be used through-out this debate as defining the nature of the human investment levels toward one another. Also, in reponse to your first paragraph, this debate is purely your own opinion. If you have had better experiences in serious relationships, then you may argue using points from personal experience. There is no 'bias' in your own opinon, so you may debate however you want, in accordance to the rules. I personally would be pro for this, however, i could debate both sides, and that was my purpose for offering up a position on this debate. Also, i'd like to thankyou for approaching this debate in a respectful manner, and i am sure this will be a fun, and serious debate. So with that said, I'll begin. 1st part A1- In response to my first re-buttal, you seem a bit confused as to the point i was trying to approach. If one should choose to holiday to one country, they would be missing out on another country it is true. But the exact purpose of a holiday to another country, is that it is only temporary. If it was ones personal preference, they could holiday to any of these potential country's they've missed out on another time. So, in dating, you may feel physically and emotionally attracted to one person, while at the same time not having to be fully committed to that individual, and being able to physically and emotionally attracted to someone else, at the same, or later time. 2nd part A1- You bring up a good point. However, a serious relationship can be a little different from owning a nice car. If one owns a nice car, and wrecks it, one can earn that money back and just as easily buy a new car. Now when one breaks up with someone in which they have been close with for a long period, it is simply not that easy. In some cases, things can work out, but in most cases everything becomes strained and hard to deal with. When dating, this issue should never come up. A2- As to my second point, you virtually agreed with me however you do state that this argument does not effect your case. I would argue otherwise, because most serious reltionships that do happen are with close friends, and although it is not advisable by you, it still happens. Unfortunately this is one major problem most couples will experience after break up. Relataionships with friends of the couple also become strained, which just lead to further heart break abd un-needed drama. And even if the person is not a close friend to begin with, it still effects the same. suddenly you may have enemies, you may not want, or lose friendship with others because of the break-up. All in all it is just simpler to go without a serious committment to the individual. A3- and for my last point, my opponent says in comes back to you in a later more rewarding investment. However this is not true. The only rewarding investment usually recieved, is obnoxious children, and excessive extra duties provided from the other. However when dating, you are not confined to anyone or have to do anything that you may not want to do. MY OPPONENTS POINTS Framework for raising children- You see children are all just part of the stress that goes along with having a serious relationship. Not only do you have to deal with all the stresses of being confined to one person, but you also have to deal with a bunch of whiney annoying kids! Now who wants that? Sexual desires- (quite an interesting point if you ask me). Actually it would be quite the opposite. Pretty soon, your normal mate would get boring and it would get old. But by just dating you can explore more than just one oppurtunity at sexual desires. You can experience and learn new things, and also spice things up. Being with the same person would get old, you'd have to admit. Emotional support frame- Yes you are exactly right. The feeling of being loved can generally make someone feel more desirable. But why just feel that from one person, when again, you have a world of people you can experience thhat from? Everyone wants to be loved, and where is the harm of being loved by more than one person? Again thankyou for accepting this debate. You brought up some very good points. I look forward to the second round. Again sorry for the excessive amount of time before posting arguments, i have been quite busy. good luck :) -philosophical