Abuse of women

"Domestic Violence is a violent confrontation between family or household members involving physical harm, sexual assault, or fear of physical harm. Family or household members include spouses / former spouses, those in (or formerly in) a dating relationship, adults related by blood or marriage, and those who have a biological or legal parent-child relationship. The batterer uses acts of violence and a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, and isolation to coerce and to control the other person. The violence may not happen often, but may remain a hidden and constant terrorizing factor. Domestic violence is not only physical and sexual violence but also psychological. Psychological violence means intense and repetitive degradation, creating isolation, and controlling the actions or behaviors of the spouse through intimidation or manipulation to the detriment of the individual. Domestic violence destroys the home. No one deserves to be abused. The responsibility for the violence belongs to the abuser. It is not the victim's fault! HELP IS AVAILABLE THROUGH THE VICTIM ASSISTANCE PROGRAM AND THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE UNIT OF THE CLARK COUNTY PROSECUTING ATTORNEY. Symptoms of Abuse - Misuse of Power And Control Abuse in a relationship is any act used to gain power and control over another person. Women who are abused physically are often isolated. Their partners tend to control their lives to a great extent as well as verbally degrade them. Listed below are some of the warning signs of domestic abuse. Look to see if there are multiple warning signs that are occurring in your life. USING PHYSICAL AND SEXUAL ABUSE Hair pulling, biting, shaking, pushing, pinching, choking, kicking, confinement, slapping, hitting, punching, using weapons, forced intercourse, unwanted sexual touching in public or in private and depriving her of food or sleep. USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE Insulting her in public or in private Putting down her friends and family Making her feel bad about herself Calling her names Making her think she's crazy Playing mind games Humiliating her Making her feel guilty Using Male Privilege; acting like "Master of the Castle" Treating her like a servant Making all the big decisions Being the one to define men's and women's roles. USING ECONOMIC ABUSE Preventing her from getting or keeping a job Making her ask for money Giving her an allowance Taking her money Not letting her know about or have access to family income Not allowing her a voice in important financial decisions Demanding exclusive control over household finances. USING COERCION AND THREATS Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her Threatening to leave her, or to commit suicide Threatening to report her to welfare Making her drop charges Making her do illegal things. USING INTIMIDATION Making her afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions Throwing or smashing things, destroying property Abusing pets Dangerous driving Displaying weapons. USING CHILDREN Making her feel guilty about the children Using the children to relay messages Using visitation to harass her Threatening to take the children away. USING ISOLATION Controlling what she does, who she sees, what she reads, & where she goes Limiting her outside involvement Refusing to let her learn to drive, go to school, or get a job Not allowing her to freely use the car or the telephone. USING JEALOUSY AND BLAME TO JUSTIFY ACTIONS Minimizing, Denying, Blaming Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously Checking up on where she's been or who she's talked to Accusing her of infidelity Saying the abuse didn't happen Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior Saying she caused it. Why Get Help? The danger is real. If you are controlling or have a controlling partner, don't ignore these behaviors. They are not the result of stress, anger, drugs or alcohol. They are learned behaviors that one person uses to dominate, intimidate and manipulate. They are destructive and dangerous. If the abuse continues without outside help, the abusing partner may risk being arrested, going to jail, or losing the relationship. Domestic violence hurts all family members. When a person is abusive he or she eventually loses the trust and respect of his or her partner. Abused partners are afraid to communicate their feelings and needs. Everyone has the right to feel safe in a relationship. With help, people who are abusive can learn to be non-violent. Learn the Warning Signs Disagreements develop from time to time in relationships. Domestic violence is not a disagreement. It is a whole pattern of behaviors used by one partner to establish and maintain power and control over the other. These behaviors can become more frequent and intense over time. The abusive person is responsible for these behaviors. That person is the only one who can change them. Don't wait until you and the ones you love get hurt. You Are Not Alone. Consider getting some help. Talk with friends about your situation." Pathetic. Nobody will do anything. You control your own actions and if you abuse your woman, then thats your choice. Nobody else should have any say in what you do.