Gay marriage should be legal

Considering this is my last arguement in this debate, I want to clear up some things: I am pro-gay marriage, but if the government allows civil unions, that's great also. I believe that homosexual couples should be allowed to adopt children. I understand that children in those situations have a hard time understanding things. Like, why they have 2 moms or 2 dads. And even though I agree with you that things will be hard for them, I simply can't get past the fact that they are being denied the pleasure of adopting a child based on one characteristic about them. Back when we had black/white segregation, many believed that putting the two together would result in chaos and would present a bad image. Also, they believed that intergrating blacks and whites in school would cause a distraction to the students, as well as cause problems. Blacks face ridicule on a daily basis. Weren't you the one who told me about the nooses in the tree at the school in virginia? Or people calling blacks the "N" word. Everyone recieves teasing and ridicule. I myself was teased everyday from 2nd to 7th grade, and it was a living hell. I remember there were days where I cried myself to sleep or just wanted to go away. I had so many problems as a child, including an eating disorder and attempted suicide. If I could, I would protect every child from that kind of ridicule. So what I'm saying is that a child can be teased for anything, not just who their parents are. And the gay community in general faces ridicule. Avi, one of my best friends, is gay. When I asked him how he handled the ridicule people give him, he put it like this: "I am gay. I'm not an alien life-form or some other unidentifiable thing. I am gay. I'm still Avi, I'm still a person. Just because I was born into this lifestyle doesn't mean I'm anything less. When I was younger, it was hard but i learned that your true friends and those that love you accept you the way you are. So if people don't like me, because I'm gay, then I feel sorry for them because they haven't walked a mile in my shoes. I am proud of who I am. I'm proud of who my parents are because they have faced less-than-perfect circumstances and were able to overcome them with dignity. I'm proud. That's what gets me through." But I do see your point about the teasing and such. But I do not agree with your reasoning behind "every child deserves a mother and father." Every child deserves a loving home, where they feel wanted and loved everyday. Where there is never a doubt in their mind that their parents love them. Where that child knows that they are taken care of, and that their parents are always going to be their for them, no matter where they are. That's what every child deserves. And if a loving family for that child is a heterosexual couple, great! If a loving family means a homosexual couple, that's great too! The whole point of adoption is to make sure these kids go to loving homes. And I believe that homosexual couples are aware of the teasing their child will face, and will be able to prepare their child for that. In conclusion: I believe that homosexuals should be allowed to get married. Or at least civil unions, which we can both agree on. I believe that homosexuals should be allowed to adopt children. They are well aware of the circumstances and will be able to prepare their child for the problems they will face. As far as "The father naturally teaches their sons about controlling anger." I learned how to control my anger from my mother, because my father had no concept of anger management. I learned honesty from my mother because my father couldn't be truthful if a gun was pointed to his head. I learned how to make an honest living from my mother because my father could only steal. What I learned from my father is that you can scream as loud as you want, and beat as hard as you want in order to get your point across. That you can steal, so long as you don't get careless and get caught. And that people never change. So you can't say that just because a child has a mother and father, they will be taught those morals. No, a homosexual couple is not the "traditional nuclear family". But neither is a home of abuse or neglect, a home of divorce, a home of a single parent struggling to make ends meet, a home of parents getting arrested. Not every family is the "traditional nuclear family". That kind of family would be the hetersexual christian couple. And not every couple is like that. I believe that homosexual couples are well-prepared, if not over-prepared, for the hardships in raising a child. Otherwise, they wouldn't be adopting in the first place. And in some cases, I believe a homosexual couple would be more fitting in raising a child than a heterosexual couple. But we can agree that civil unions should be legal and the children of homosexual couples face hardships. So I think for the record, we can agree to disagree.