Flirting is dangerous

"For example, if a woman says to a man, "Wow, you're really good at ping pong!" it typically follows that the man would ask if she wanted to play with him. This could certainly be interpreted as flirting, but it is really dependent on the context of the situation, the relationship between the two people, and their body language. You don't necessarily give off the impression that you're in love with someone while you flirt, but rather you give off the impression that you wish to pursue them beyond friendship or just staring at them from across the room." And why would a woman stare at a man she barely knows? How can you pursue a relationship beyond friendship if you both aren't even friends in the first place? "I would agree that it's harder to have sex with someone if you drag them through the metaphorical "friend zone" and make them meet your parents, but I think our consensus on that actually supports my side of the argument. Flirtation allows you and your potential partner, or partners, to evaluate each other to see whether or not you wish to proceed out of the "friend zone" or beyond just being strangers." Not me, i have an ideal concept of what i look for in a woman and if you don't meet that criteria, your staying in the friend zone. I make an evaluation based on observations of trust, loyalty, kindness, etc. If a girl expects me to compliment her looks, it comes off as superficial and it gives me impression that she has nothing else to offer but looks. As far as i know, i have never heard any compliments about my qualities as a sign of interest for the most part. I appreciate compliments on my hair, looks, etc. but don't want to be flattered, i want to be recognized for who i am and what i do. Trust is given at a minimum. When girls come to me and seek a premature relationship, i question their integrity, intentions, morals, and character vs. a girl who simply expects nothing but genuine friendship and if everything goes well, seeks a relationship. Furthermore, flirting comes off as being a game of feelings. People can also flirt without the intention of actually getting into a relationship (I stand guilty of this too) and say "Oh i'm sorry..i'm not ready for a relationship.." I've noticed women/girls with boys basically inviting me to flirt with them and i suspect that eventually, they'll either cheat or tell me "Sorry, i have a boyfriend.." But they see no problem in flirting because after all, it was all harmless, it won't hurt the man because he doesn't have feelings, isn't that what society imposes upon us?...I don't roll that way and won't fall for that.. " It is anecdotal, but still an objective point: At a party once, I was approached by a young woman while I was playing water pong. She said, "You're cute, I bet you are really good at this," and grabbed my arm as she said it. Flirtatious and upfront, combining dialogue with the symbolic action of grabbing the arm." Again, the compliment "your cute" (superficial compliment) I bet you are really good at this (flattery) and grabbing your arm would give me a bad impression. The touch barrier should be respected and broken gradually, so if a girl touches me the wrong way, it gives me the impression she wants sensuality. Another example of why flirting is superficial, not a great idea to introduce to a premature friendship/relationship. "If friendship can misinterpreted, why bother having friends? There is no form of communication that is effective 100% of time. If you ask someone directly what they mean, they can still give you an answer filled with deceit and malice." My friends clarify what they say when asked and my friends haven't really given me such a tone, maybe harshness, but out of being honest with their advice. "I do not believe relationships typical follow the pattern of: 1. eye contact; 2. flirtation; 3. mutual establishment of a relationship; 4. becoming friends." But you imply that relationships start with essentially just 1,2.3. I'd rather have a wife to compliment everyday not just 1 night. I'd rather lovingly have sex with my wife, knowing she loves me back. I can get complimented everyday by my wife and everyone else not just once in a while, but on a consistent basis. I don't want an experience that is short-lived, i want something that will last a life-time. I'd feel so much better knowing that i worked so hard to perfect myself and maintain an earned relationship.