The bible does not teach mutual submission

Con begins his last rebuttal by saying "Pro says that when husbands and wives disagree, the wife should submit, but the Bible says "We must obey God rather than human beings!" (Acts 5:29) So when a person feels like the other party is wrong, they should seek God"s word for guidance and rely on the Holy Spirit, instead of violating their conscience, for everything not done in faith is sin. (Rom 14:23)" His problem seems to be with the definition of words. Our discussion is in regard to submission, not obedience. Acts 5:29, talks about obedience (peitharche!3;) not submission (hypotasso). This is a classic straw man argument, considering I have not argued that wives are to obey their husbands. Bottom line, cons statement even contradicts itself considering on one hand he is proclaiming mutual submission and then one the other hand he is claiming we should never submit/obey man but only obey God. Which one is it? Seems Con wants his cake and eat it too" One reason I think con is so confused on this issue is because he seems to mostly view situations where only a wife submits to her husband, as being abusive. So Authority = Abusive authority in his mind or most likely scenario. With this presupposition, he interprets the bible to accommodate his position, by ignoring the verses that disagree with his view, changing or merging definitions, and cherry picking verses that have nothing to do with submission but sound related if read alone (as he did with ACTS 5:29). I agree that there have been cases where men mistreat their wife"s. I condemn those actions. Men are to love their wives like Christ loves the church. It"s a high calling to put your wife and family"s needs before your own. But what about the case where the couple disagree and the husband believes with all his heart that his position is best for his wife and family? Who should yield their will? My opponent says anything that is not of faith is of sin, so the wife shouldn"t be forced to do something against her conscience. Unfortunately this is not supported by the definition of faith, which is the substance of things not seen, in other words, faith involves things you haven"t totally wrapped your mind around or understand. So a wife that doesn"t see her husband"s point of view and her husband has assured her that he loves her and believes his position is what is best spiritually for their family then God is instructing her to submit to her husband; thus she puts her faith in God by doing so. But what if the husband position is clearly unbiblical, should she still submit? She then can take recourse by meeting with the man her husband is submitted to, like their pastor for guidance. If the pastor disagrees with the husband then he must submit to him. God is not asking women to be in an abusive relationship alone and at the mercy of her husband"s dominance over her life. Rather, God instructs men to love their wives, and to sacrifice their life for them. He is to treat his wife like Christ treats the church. The biblical instructions for husband and wife are to protect their marriage and future. Con said "I"d like to see Pro rise to the challenge of explaining to us how serving someone is not the same as submitting to them. These are different terms for the same thing." Now con is redefining submission to mean serving someone. It"s incredibly to me that repeatedly redefines submission to mean anything other than submission. To serve someone you look for or ask what they need and then you provide it for them. When a husband serves his wife he doesn"t submit to her, because submission requires disagreement (what wife is going to disagree with her husband doing everything she wants). But in the case where the husband sees something that his wife needs and she doesn"t see it as something that would benefit her, then submission comes into play. Con makes another point and says couples must compromise from time to time and he would feel sorry for any wife whos husband wouldn"t compromise. Compromise and submission are different things. A compromise is an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions. Submission on the other hand comes into play when they cannot compromise. Con says" He asked if Christ is subject to me. Yes. Not by me having authority over him, but by him loving me; for when you love someone, you willingly give in to their needs. Jesus himself said he would do whatsoever we ask him for in prayer. (John 14:14) Jesus said he came TO SERVE us. This is the beauty and humility of our God." This is just silly. When you love someone you give in to their needs? What if your wife is addicted to alcohol, shall the husband give in to her needs finance her alcohol addiction? What if your children want ice-cream for dinner every night, do you give in in order to love them? Not only does my opponent not understand what it means to submit, he also does not fully understand what it meant to love. Jesus serves by doing what is best for us not always what we think we want or what we think is best. Also as a side note, God does not do whatsoever we ask him for in prayer. What if my opponent and I ask God for help to win this debate? Will he make it so we both win? What if I ask God for a trillion dollars, will he give it to me? Ok I made my point, that scripture is obviously taken out of context. Considering my opponent gets the last word in this debate I will ask him the following questions that he has yet to address. 1.Why have you yet to address the fact that the bibles calls for submission are always one directional? How do you justify overlooking this fact? Recall wives are instructed 4x to submit to their husbands, but husbands are not one time instructed to submit to their wife? If your position is correct, why would God allow such confusion and at least one time instruct husbands to submit to their wives? He took 4 moments to instruct women, all he had to do is just say it one time for men. One time!! Don"t you wish God took one moment out of those 4 to instruct men to submit to their wives? 2.Why do you repeatedly redefine submission by redirecting the debate to other words such as "serving", or "obedience". Do you disagree with the biblical definition as being under and in the order of? 3.Do you disagree that submission requires disagreement? If so then how do you justify that given the biblical definition?