It is more beneficial in a relationship to have sex before marriage instead of waiting until after

I am going to jump straight into this and offer one major contention and show why I believe it is more beneficial to have sex before marriage, instead of waiting until you are married. I would also like to rule out round 3 because for some reason, it went from being 4 rounds to 3 rounds when I changed my criteria. So we will abide by the rules for round 1, 2, and 4 since a round was deleted by mistake. Sexual Compatibility This is a key factor in a lot of relationships if not all of them. A vast majority of people will often say that looks are not an important factor in a relationship and I would argue against that in a majority of cases. How attracted you are to someone physically plays a monumental role in your relationship with them. Granted after you are with someone for a while and start to know everything about them, physical attraction can be replaced with emotional attraction but in a lot of cases physical attraction is still a huge factor in that relationship as well. You want to like who you are with both psychically and mentally. Almost all relationships begin by some type of attraction and in most cases it is physical[1]. After the first initial stage of dating, feelings and emotional attachments can develop which can lead to marriage and greater stages of commitment. The point of this is that we have to acknowledge that almost all relationships begin with attraction. So the next question we must examine is "what is the role of sex in a relationship". Sex is a way for two people to enjoy, pleasure, and satisfy themselves together. Sex is not strictly limited to love, but can be used as just a way to please yourself or the other person involved. Essentially if you are in a relationship and you are having great sex, you will tend to be happy. If you are in a relationship and the sex sucks, you will not be happy. An article by psychologytoday says this " So, it is important to recognize that sex plays an important role in strengthening relationships in a way that goes above and beyond mere procreation " [2]So we know now that sex is a huge factor in relationships and can even determine happiness in some cases. So the next logical step we must take is whether or not it is better to wait to marriage to have sex, or have sex before marriage. The first argument I am going to address is one that Con might bring up and that is often presented. It is the idea that women lose interested in sex the more they have it. I could go into a long study on this and show where fallacies are committed with this line of logic, but I do not think it is necessary. I am going to simply leave it with this. If your spouse gets bored of sex because of the amount you have it, this will happen irregardless of whether you wait to have sex prior to or after marriage. So what are the benefits of having sex before marriage? The first major benefit is that it reveals expectations at an early stage in the relationship. When people wait to have sex after marriage, they are putting sex on a pedestal. When this happens, it can be a let down in a lot of cases. Almost everyone first time at having sex is not some glorious experience. It often is awkward fumbling and fiddling around with each other, trying to figure out what to do. In addition to that if you feel each other out before you are married, you will know if you are compatible with each other. Issues that can come up if you wait to have sex until after marriage. (1) Partners wanting to try different sexual experiences and ideas, and the other not being comfortable with it(2) Oral sex(3) Premature ejaculation(4) Penis size. Where it could pleasure a girl or hurt her. (5) Sexual identity(6) Sexual attraction in the nude(7) Fertility (8) Sexual diseases If you practice safe sex before you get married, it allows you to address these issues before you are married instead of waiting until you are after married. Addressing issues like this prior to marriage could help the couple find out if they actually want to be together, instead of the relationship possibility ending in a divorce because they decided to wait. Even if the couple did not divorce, it could still lead to pent up frustration because of bad sex or sexual incompatibility . This could lead to arguments and other issues in the relationship. Had this been addressed prior to marriage, it would help them understand and know everything about each other and even help them determine if they really wanted to be together. Some couples who get married think divorce is wrong, and will not get divorced either way and just stick it out for the bad or the good. This could lead to hate in the relationship and many other factors that could go as far as parenting and how their children perceive them. Let us look at the effects of sexual comparability and good sex within a relationship. "Promotes longevity When one has an orgasm, a hormone called dehydroepiandrosterone is released. This improves immunity, repairs tissue and keeps the skin healthy. Men, who have at least two orgasms a week, live longer than men who have sex just once every few weeks. "[3]"It Increases levels of Oestrogen and testosterone In men, the hormone testosterone is what makes them more passionate in the sack. Not only will it make you feel way better in bed, but it also improves your muscles and bones, keeps your heart healthy and keeps a check on your cholesterol. In women, on the other hand, the hormone oestrogen protects them against heart disease and also determines a woman's body scent. "[4]Now lets take a look at the effects of sexual incompatibility "Therapists generally define "sexless" marriage as having sex less than about 10 times a year, and they estimate 1 in 5 couples are in such a relationship. "[5]"Sexual incomapbility troubles marriages. Sexually unfulfilling marriages aren't limited to new parents or aging baby boomers with hormone imbalances. They can ensnare even the relatively young and the recently married. When they are unable to blame kids, stress or physical issues, many couples struggle unhappily to identify -- and resolve -- the problems behind their lackluster sex life. " [5]Another odd fact"Male Penis size and erectile dis-function play a role in around .7 percent of break ups that occur yearly"[6]In ClosingIt is more beneficial for a couple to have sex prior to marriage. It can help lessen issues that occur because of sexual incompatibility and help the couple understand everything about each other prior to getting married. It will show them if they are sexual compatible with each other, and have a high possibility of reducing problems that can occur due to sexual incompatibility after marriage. [1] . http://faculty.babson.edu...[2] . http://www.psychologytoday.com...[3] Standford. edu[4] articles. timesofindia. com[5] . http://www.cnn.com...[6] menshealth. com