Homosexual Marriage

An Outline 1) Introduction 2) Whose Business is Marriage? 3) An Attack on the Church? 4) Can Homosexuals be Proficient Parents? 5) In Conclusion 6) Works Cited Introduction I would like to start off right away by saying I’m thrilled to be having this discussion with you, and look forward to reaching a conclusion, and growing in understanding of each others opinions and thought process – no matter what the outcome may be. Before I start, there are a couple of terms I would like to define. a) Marriage: The state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law. b) Homosexual: Of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward another of the same sex. By looking at these two terms, we can describe this debate as a discussion on if two individuals, of the same sex, should be able to become unified spouses in view of the law. Whose Business is Marriage? Let us begin right away by asking the most important question of the entire debate. Whose business is it? Is it the churches business what happens with marriage? Is it the governments business what happens with marriage? Is it the individuals business? Well if you think about it’s everybody’s business, just for different reasons. The church is guaranteed the pursuit of their religious freedom by the First Amendment of the Unites States. Considering this, we must consider all the rights of the church regarding the question of homosexual marriage. The government relies of marriage for reproduction. It is observable that having two parents, no matter their gender, is always better than having one or none. Therefore, for the sake of our future generations, marriage is also the business of the government. But what about everybody else? Well we live with our peers, and our children are going to live with the children of our peers. It’s important to keep everybody else, the common civilian, in mind when we consider homosexual marriage. So after looking at it, marriage is actually more or less everybody’s business isn’t it? Let’s look at this in more detail. An Attack on the Church? Under the veil of Religious Freedom one would expect people and organizations to do whatever they like. In the land of the free one would expect to be able to serve whoever you would like for whatever your reasons are. However, we have seen repeatedly that religious individuals and organizations alike are not free to practice their religion. An Oregon bakery recently went out of business after losing a lawsuit by a lesbian couple who were told the bakery would not bake a cake for their wedding. A Pastor from Georgia was fired for labelling homosexuality as a sin during a sermon. These responses do not portray the freedom of religion in America, rather a silencing of views some find offensive, or ‘intolerant.’ Forcing a church to perform a gay marriage, something directly contrary to its doctrine, is discriminating against the religious freedoms and pursuits of the church. Churches have been threatened with fines and/or prison time for refusing the marry same sex couples, which is a direct assault on religious freedom. Can Homosexuals be Proficient Parents? As mentioned before, marriage is also the business of the state. For the purpose of reproduction and growth marriage is essential to a country. But if a marriage is to exist without children what business is it of the state? Do you see a major problem here? Homosexual couples are simply incapable of having their own children. For men adoption is always a possibility, but with this you lose the hormonal changes both a mother and a father gain from having a biological child which better equip them to be loving parents. While this holds true against gay male couples, lesbians can receive sperm donations and therefore this argument holds no weight against them. The Family Research Council has found that children raised by non-biological homosexual couples have a lot of issues. Homosexual couples are 400% more likely to receive welfare, and their children are less likely receive higher education, or in some cases even a high school diploma. Depression and Drug Abuse have strong correlation to children with homosexual parents as well. Research shows that children in homosexual families are less likely to get jobs in their teenage years, and are more prone to a stagnant lifestyle characterized by addiction, bullying, and eventually suicide. Children raised in homosexual families often have emotional issues. In an ordinary family you have a male and a female with two different roles and two different personalities. Good Cop and Bad Cop if you will. Individuals with gay parents are unlikely to receive the feminine qualities they need, but too much of the masculine qualities to function normally. Individuals with lesbian parents are unlikely to receive the masculine qualities they need, but too much of the feminine qualities to function normally as well. Looking at all of this, we can see that either homosexual couples won’t have kids, in which case it’s no business of the state, or these couples will have kids, which is setting them up for a statistical failure in life. This is immoral at best. Either way, homosexual marriage clearly is nothing the state, or homosexual individuals should want anything to do with. In Conclusion So in closing, the point I want to get across is that we need to be aware of everybody’s best interest. We need to respect the church and their freedoms to act independently of the LGBTQ+ movement, and the movements freedom to act independently of the church. Neither should have to bend their will to one another. However, at the same time we also need to keep in mind the health of our nation and our peers. We see people hurting, and we see lives of children being set up for failure under the reign of homosexual couples. This is not a decree of hate, or a decree of bigotry. This is the voice of someone who has a heart for everybody’s pursuit of happiness in life. I'm talking about a happiness in life which is including to the church, the outcasts, the homosexuals, but most importantly the children who can so easily be set up for failure in life. As a gay man I could never bring myself to put a child through that, even at the cost of having a family of my own. Works Cited (Introduction) "Marriage Definition." Merriam-Webster. Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 03 Feb. 2017. 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