teens should not be allowed to date in high school.

Thanks for your good responses I would like to establish 1.To ban dating is not realistic; the goal of this debate is to communicate the reasons why teens should not date. Most of the debates on this website are not realistic, we are not arguing about the outcomes, we are just focusing on why teens should not date. I am sorry if I am not making sense, but even if I do contradict myself, I am not trying to. "First, my opponent would have to tell me what it means to fail a relationship. Every relationship is built and different from others, so no one can really gauge the value of it. A relationship can't be graded like a worksheet or test. A divorce could be considered a new beginning by someone. A divorce can't be indicative of a failed relationship." I don't know about you and where your morals stand, but my morality is that a relationship is to be taken seriously. One of the reasons why we have more divorces than other countries is because we don't take our marriages as seriously. According to you, we practice not taking our relationships seriously but with non-chalance in our teens years. My definition of a failed relationship- termination of an intimate relationship http://en.wikipedia.org.... Anyone on this site can agree with me that divorce is not favorable towards anyone. There should never be a divorce rate so high such as ours. Anyways, your argument centers on why we should date to grow as person so that we can have more successful marriages in the future. Except I think it is doing the opposite. It's definitely not helping our country in this sense. "Secondly, I didn't say teenagers were mature. I said they were maturing, meaning they were maturing from the choices they were making. If they weren't allowed to make choices like my opponent suggests, they wouldn't be able to mature as early as they should. Basically, the resolution suggests we send people in the relationship-making state of a baby into the world to fend for themselves romantically. It's like sending a grade school student right into college, skipping high school completely. They wouldn't know what to do about anything. Experience is key. Also, the difference between high school dating and divorce is that high schoolers can't get married, so the statistic only applies to adults, making it irrelevant." Firstly, we can mature by committing crimes, joining gangs, and anything really. Basically, what I am trying to say is that we don't have to mature in dating to become mature in life. You are arguing that the experience derived from high school dating does not have an impact on the adult life? You are saying that dating does not impact on adult relationships. So then, what is the point of high school dating? You argue that does have a positive effect on us? Show me some stats please. "My opponents next contention is that relationships cause anorexia and self-inflicted harm tendencies. Those with anorexia refuse to eat because there is a malfunction in their brain, no offense to my opponent, and they have an eating disorder. Though outward occurences can affect this and spur it on a bit, ultimately it is the responsibility of the malfunction in the brain. The same goes for those who harm themselves. It is because there is something in their mind that doesn't click right." Hmmmm….. people don't commit harm on themselves because their boyfriends broke up with them? I can pull up more statistics if you like? Who are you to state that people who refuse to eat have a malfunction in their brain? High school students are more susceptible to anorexia, depression, and suicide, because their brains are not completely developed yet including yourself and myself. Why should they date if they aren't completely stable yet? Also, you did not respond to my statistic of HIV and pregnancies. They ruin dreams and lives because of the irrational decisions that teens make. Anything including dating can be good by itself, but the issue is, it has ruined more lives than it has noticeably helped. "Now, my opponent states she agrees with me. 'Teens should not be allowed to date,' means that teens should not, for any reason, be allowed to date. It does not state that they should only be educated. Thus, my opponent vindicates and agrees with me. My opponent did state she wanted to ban teen dating, in the resolution and her case. By contradicting herself, my case in itself is proven right." I am not sure if I am understanding you correctly, but I am assuming that you are not understanding what I am saying. What I am saying is that it is unrealistic to ban teen dating, I don't advocate it at all- although, its too unrealistic to abolish it. "School is not beneficial to everyone. Many people kill themselves because of school, something I again state is an avoidable distraction. Someone could not go to school, thus it is avoidable. Distraction: an interruption; an obstacle to concentration. If someone is concentrating on getting through their life happily and school is preventing that, then school itself is a distraction. However, one would not suggest that a student stop going to school." In most cases, school has gotten people a higher education, and broad view on life, and for most people, a job. Teen relationships have gotten into suicides, teen pregnancies, and you name it. The point of dating is marriage, teen dating in a carefree "whatever" sense is downplaying the idea of marriage; which again is evident in the statistic that I showed you. You can argue that people get into dating because of school…but anyone can see that this is sort of a pointless argument that can be applied on nearly anything. "My opponent says that I stated none of this point risks her life. Again, I said everything risks your life, but one cannot avoid everything in the world. One could contract a disease from sipping Coke just as they could from having sex, though a different disease. Everything is risky, but we cannot stop doing everything. That would mean ceasing to exist. My opponent now references her personal life, also irrelevant. Just because Asia does it doesn't prove it is right." I agree that everything would be risking one's life- it's a matter of how much risk. There is a probability that I can survive a fall off of Mt. Everest, but does that mean that I should do jump off of it and have fun? I am stating my personal life because I want to prove that many people in this world do not need practice for a successful marriage and life in general. The suicide rates in this country are extremely high for a country that has "students practice life more." When you compare math and dating, math does require basic knowledge, but dating for most of the people in this world does not. Definition of right- produces good moral outcomes. Teen dating doesn't necessarily produce good moral outcomes. "Finally, my opponent once again contradicts the resolution, negating it within her argument, vindicating me once again. The resolution states dating should be banned, yet my opponent states that we should not ban dating." If I could ban dating, I would. I can't ban dating because it's not realistic. I am not contradicting myself. In Conclusion, We don't need high school practice, and therefore, the pros of teen dating don't outweight the cons.