Girls Cannot be Denied Access to The Boy Scouts of America

Hello! Before I start, I would like to say that I have been in boy scouts (as it will be mentioned continuously throughout this debate). Now, my opinions on my experience have been very mixed. I learned useful survival techniques if I were to need them, but that doesn't have to be taught by specifically boy scouts; there are many other organizations out there that teach the same thing, along with different clubs and classes at schools. But Boy Scouts strengthens moral standards, correct? Well, somewhat. I'm still friends with many people I met during my years at Cubs Scouts, and I can tell you none of them have applied what they learned when it comes to the teachings of morality. I consider myself a pretty in-line person, and I know for certain that compared to the rest of them I seem to be the least rebellious. And can you guess the first one of that group to leave was? Answer: me. As for the preparation of military, this seems to have been overly applied by the group of friends. Every one of them disregards the moral teachings but fully embraces the lessons of how to act more, well, "manly". And, surprisingly, this Boy Scouts drop-out has been called the "leader" by two of the people in that specific circle of friends. I was actually never taught how to do that, it's just who I am. But, despite that, I cannot join the military; I was born with a physical condition that doesn't affect my day-to-day life but would affect me and others if I were to join it. Basically, any lessons to do with me joining the military would be fruitless. Survival lessons make sense, but not military lessons. Now, to address the main argument. "The BSA provides a space where boys can be boys, as simple as it may seem." Yes, true. But boys can't be boys even when girls are around? This was one of my main reasons for leaving; having a huge group of just guys made me absolutely insane. It reinforced the fact that NORMAL boys play sports. NORMAL boys play video games. That's not me. Though I do some of both, I was far more into the arts. No one shared the same interest and I was almost forced to be the same. I didn't have any of it whatsoever and refused to change. Quite loudly, I might add. From what I've seen, Boy Scouts seems to make guys feel like they NEED to fit in with other kids and not stand out from others. If I had turned out like that, I probably wouldn't be on this Earth right now (long story). It seems to validate the ideology that boys are far different from girls and they can't intermingle without it seeming like a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. One mention of a girl at Boy Scouts and you would immediately be accused of "liking" them. A majority of my friends are girls and so I simply hated the fact that I couldn't share anything about my friendships without people saying "Sergio has a girlfriend". Boy Scouts made the separation of genders very, very clear. And yes, I have been to different Boy Scouts. None of them turned out well. If girls were to join Boy Scouts, well, it wouldn't be "Boy Scouts", would it? No. But there doesn't need to be a separation between boys and girls. Why not just break the barrier and combine them? Make the separation disappear so that people can get along and not be indoctrinated with the idea that the other gender is inferior. Another thing to address that I would like to bring up is the gay ban. Is it immoral to be gay? Of course not. This only further perpetuates the barrier between one group and "the others". It seems very unhealthy, doesn't it? My "friend" had to leave because of that. And he's the most moral out of the other people who have been or are still in Boy Scouts. Both of us share the same ideas and thoughts about it. He and I had wanted to leave before because even back then we had feelings for each other yet Boy Scouts never mentioned anything about the LGBTQ+ community. Because nothing about it was ever said, we felt like it was completely abnormal and that we were basically aliens. Does that seem very moral to you for an organization to make kids feel that way? I know that I'm likely going to lose this debate because I frequently voice the unpopular opinion, but I'm okay with that. Hopefully, both of us learn something through this experience.