Four Point Calvinism

Calvinism directly says that it does not allow free will, but the combination of the whole results in a lack of ability in choice [at least in what could be considered the most important choice in Christianity, the ability to choose God]. Total depravity, by the intros own definition, says they are "unable to turn to God" and if they cannot make that choice on their own accord how can we say that choice is really afforded them? If I was given the "choice" of ending world hunger and all I would have to do is jump to the moon and I fail, can it really be said I failed because I chose not to? If a man is unable to turn to god [as I am unable to jump to the moon] is it his choice that he does not do it? Unconditional election says we cannot even try to make it more likely for God to choose us, perhaps even if we could not choose it ourselves but make ourselves more likely to be chosen [thus choosing to be considered among the elect] we could say we have some responsibility or choice but this does away with that notion anyway. Irresistible grace says we cannot resist, thereby removing the ability for us to choose and perseverance of the saints says we cannot choose after conversion either. Calvinism [specifically total depravity] also often contains a rather puritan nature and nurture argument [like nature vs nurture] that we are a product of depravity and can only make decisions based on our feelings and sensations. I am not contesting that our decisions are not based on spiritual interference [God but also perhaps the devil], the sensations of the flesh and upbringing [nurture, our environment], or our inherent qualities [nature, or the soul] but rather all of them and our faith is no exception. A person could turn to God through intervention even if raised to hate god or a person could turn away from God's edicts even after supernatural intervention [like perhaps Saul or as Solomon and David turned away from his edicts for a time]. If a person was raised Christian thier whole life and was also born with the qualities to be very spiritual and so learned to love the bible and God, how much spiritual intervention might be necessary compared to someone who has never heard of Jesus picking up a bible and reading. The first man could learn to love God and his precepts without much intervention unless you consider the bible itself is an intervention. God gave us His holy word no man would produced it without him. But then God has intervened on both of them but that does not mean that the choice will be the same. In this way, through the bible or other acts, God has intervened for everyman and some are blessed with easier choices than others. If we have no choice in goodness why, even if abused, children are capable of acts of goodness? A child might spare a little food for their hungry brother at his own cost even if their parents might not teach them it. You could say it is programed in them via nature to on some level care for another but is that not a good thing? Does God not call it good to care for the widow? The poor? If we are given this quality do we not have therefore some inherent goodness? How then does being totally depraved stand up? If we are unconditionally elected in such a way as "God does not base His election on anything He sees in the individual" why do we not see christian partisans appearing in the middle of countries with no Christianity present? It appears Christians are found where they are given the chance not everywhere equally distributed across the globe based on none of their own qualities?. Why are they elected from areas around the christian faith? You might say not everyone who says they are a christian is an elected christian but why then are the Jews more elected and even more so around Jesus a greater amount elected? Again a retort might be well God could elect people who do not call each other christians, but what would they look like in history? Great teachers? The greatest teachers that seem applicable are great religious leaders that teach things incompatible with the bible and Calvinism. Did God elect them and teach them things that are wrong or were they taught things that are wrong? You say perseverance of the saints, but in this case even the Divine truth did not persevere through these hypothetical elect. If we are totally depraved how can we hope to understand God without His intervention? Truly if we can not choose Him, how can we understand him with this assistance? Thusly, should not Calvinism be divinely inspired? If it is should it not also be inscrutable? Is God not capable of accurately inspiring us [which is required to attain any sort of accurate rightness whether seeking to embrace it or understand it] to do it with perfect accuracy? Why then are we debating 4 point calvinism! Surely if it was divinely inspired, God did not send us a false point amongst the correct? If he did it for a divinely inspired document like Calvinism should it not also be the same for the bible? Which books of the bible are false!? If Calvinism is not divinely inspired and the product of man, does 4 point calvinism not condemn itself? If it is purely the product of man how much faith should you really be putting in it? A common false human attribution to God is that He must control everything. If we see God as all knowing, including the future, we often assume we have no power to change anything; it's already done. This future sight plus that which god is all powerful results in a god that does indeed have the power to control every outcome and eventuality. This, however, does not mean he must. Imagine an artist wants to create a painting of a bridge. But this artist, like God, can see the future and knows how every interaction with that painting will go. He understands the critics, and common man alike. He could make that painting to cause whatever effect he desires in the people maximising his own glory or distaste if he cared to. He could do anything, but he can also create the image of the bridge that he originally intended, let's not forget this started as an act of his expression. This artist like god can balance consequences for his work but also create his work to be the expression he desires. Just because he has the power to create whatever result he wants does not mean he gets it. Oh and how we know god does not always get what he wants! He abhors evil it happens anyway, he calls israel to follow him they don't, and he watched his one and only son jesus die and who would say he enjoyed that while it happens. This difference is our choices, we commit evil god does not want us to, israel chose to turn away from him he wanted them with him and Jesus died because we killed him and god allowed a path to salvation for us. The bible tells us that god says "the meek shall inherit the earth" so god seems to value meekness. Meekness is a quality similar to humbleness but the addition of also being strong of having power but containing humility, It is to be of means or strength but not to trample over others with that power. What does that say about the character of god? " When god tells us that he is our father it is symbolic and literal. Literal because he created us but also symbolic as he cares and guides us like our parents do [I would go as far to say we have children in this manner to better understand god's aims and wants]. If calvinism was a parent it is a parent who assumes the worst of its children, fashions them to be without goodness, and controls every decision. We have mothers like that sometimes calling them super tiger moms and we can see often what is wrong with that! Is god so insecure that everything must be done exactly his way? I don't see the evidence for it. Sure he often works with exact intention but he didn't have Paul from birth serve him but rather had the security to allow Paul to make the wrong choice and later show him the error of his ways. The lord need not control our every action. I would like to say I have enjoyed this debate and I hope that both myself, my intelligent opponent, and anyone who viewed this might better understand God through it. Amen