Mirza is sexist and uses his religion as a shield

Thank you. I accept the definition that sexism is equivalent to favoring one gender over another, and assigning unjustified roles to the genders, meaning that one gender is better off with the roles than the other gender. -- Arguments and rebuttals -- First and foremost, I am neither sexist nor do I use my religion as a shield for my alleged sexism. Why would I use my religion as my shield? My religion is the most misunderstood in the world, and is attacked horribly in the media and from various people who have managed to write numerous deceitful books in order to wreck the good image of Islam. If I were to use anything as a shield for my "sexism," that would never be Islam. It only makes it worse for myself to use Islam as my "shield" for sexism because I will be confronted with far more opposition than if I merely used something else as my "shield." If I were an atheist, people would take it less seriously. I can use many other things as shields for my alleged sexism than Islam, because the religion is neither sexist, nor is it wise to use such a targeted religion to protect yourself from attacks. As a matter of fact, whenever someone offends my religion, he offends me. I respect disagreement, but calling my religion sexist is the same as calling me sexist. I take it the same way, and maybe even more seriously, because my religion cannot change, but I can. Therefore, there is absolutely no wisdom behind using Islam as a shield for my supposed sexism. I choose to adhere to this religion because I find truth in it, and not because I find wisdom in hiding behind it, because there are no benefits from that. Moving on, I do not deny that I believe in different roles of the genders. I believe that they are as equal as possible in terms of their qualities. The female is superior to the male in some aspects, and vice versa. How can this be a sexist claim? It is nonsense. Telling someone that he is sexist because he differentiates equally between the sexes, even though is is fully compatible with modern scientific research, is terrible. You will realize that psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors, etcetera, they all treat their patients differently, hereby by differentiating between the genders. For instance, what kind of an idiotic health care system would give birth control to men for free? Is this logical? No, it is horrendous. Such a system gives what fits to you, and birth control pills are not for men whatsoever (nor for male transsexuals, thank you very much). Therefore, there is nothing wrong with treating the genders differently, but justly. Women should not be treated better nor worse than men, and vice versa. Different treatment of genders is not sexism. Sexism is, in fact, treating one gender "better" than the other, or being in possession of the view that one gender is superior to the other in general terms. I have never made such a claim. In fact, I have defended and will defend the good values of women. I think that women are to be respected and obeyed as parents more than men, they should be treated more kindly than men, and so forth. However, on the other side I think that men should be more respected when it comes to some other things, such as working. I believe that males should do hard physical work, not females. I think that a male who sits at home and washes clothes, while his wife is outside in a cold, rainy weather and doing hard work, is something outrageous, except if necessary. The man has more physical strength, and therefore he is entitled to hard work. The mother is more gentle and emotional, and she is more capable of raising the children and do work which does not ruin her. This way, both the male and the female are treated equally and justly. What is wrong with this? Nothing. Furthermore, I am not saying "all" for any gender. I am generalizing because there is nothing wrong with that in this context. However, when it comes to something like hard physical work, there is no doubt that males - in general - are far more capable of doing it than females are. This is not about "all" but "most." Women, however, are better when it comes to emotions; they are better at expressing love and kindness than males. It is very important for children to be raised under a loving and caring environment, which is why I strongly advocate that parents spend the time necessary to raise their children properly. In order to have a well-functioning system for this, at least one parent should spend the time with children. In Finland, for instance, this is one of the reasons why the children are doing very well with education. After the mother gives birth, she spends quite a lot of time raising the child and disciplining him properly, but the father works. http://www.dailymail.co.uk... http://www.medicalnewstoday.com... As can clearly be seen, both sexes have equal advantages and disadvantages. There is no doubt that treating them differently, but justly, is necessary. Just because I do it "morally" does not mean that I do it wrongly. Do you call a doctor sexist for refusing to treat a male who claims to have menstrual pain, while he does treat a woman who makes the same claim? Is this sexist? Not the least. It is natural to differentiate between the sexes, and I do that. However, I have never valued one more than the other in general terms. I believe - and so does science - that women are better at handling things through emotions (such as dealing with children), while men are better at handling hard physical work. While not "all" of each gender are this way, it does not matter; it is about general terms. That is how a moral system works. If you say that that the old woman has such and such a right, and the young woman has such and such a right, then we will have many problems. What is young? What is old? Is young being 55? Is old being 60? It would wreck a moral system. Therefore, it is better to speak in general terms. However, I am not saying that women should not work. I never said this. I think that a woman should be very respected for being a teacher, doctor, etc. It helps a society and that is a good thing. But I think that the primary role of the woman should be to do work related to the home and the children, while the man should earn money and spend it on his wife and their children. That is to help reducing the risks of: 1. Divorce 2. Disputes over parental roles What do couples nowadays fight over? They fight over whose income is spent most, who has raised children in such a bad way, who had responsibility for work, who had responsibility over the house, who should take care of the children, who should work, and so forth. This has lots of negative impacts on our societies. We see divorce rates exploding, mistreatment of spouses, and so forth. Is this what a society needs? No. When the couples have a moral system to follow, they will not fight over things which can be avoided. For instance, if both spouses follow the Islamic marital system, they will hardly fight over who is responsible for income, who is responsible for raising children, and so forth. Why? Because if they follow the system, there will be no disputes over such things. Moreover, I never said that "It is my religion to think this way." I agree with my religion, which is why I follow it. Lastly, Islam is not sexist, nor has it ever been sexist. It is a religion which treats both genders justly, and always favors each in specific ways. Thank you. [Qur'an 16:97] "Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and has Faith, verily, to him will We give a new Life, a life that is good and pure and We will bestow on such their reward according to the best of their actions." [Qur'an 31:14] "And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning..."