Danielle should remain friends with Sadie.

I'd like to clarify some events to my opponent as she has no idea of a few happenings that did unravel up to Mason's actions in North Carolina. My girlfriend at that point in my life will be named "Jennie" for the purposes of this debate. A. I had been telling Mason every single day that I wish to break up with Jennie. That I was only visiting her in North Carolina because she would be very angry if I went to visit him there, but didn't stop by and see her while she was stationed only an hour away from his home. B. Mason and I had both gone through an emotionally traumatic event (the death of my very good friend Emily just 2 weeks prior). He had witnessed her relationship with me and my constant assurance to him that I was going to leave Jennie for Emily. I wasn't emotionally faithful to Jennie, nor did I want to be with her any longer. I cried to him every day about how horrible our relationship was. Emotional and traumatic events bring people very close together (especially the sudden death of a friend our age). C. Mason knew that I had a hard time breaking up with girlfriends as I had told him many times. I was waiting for Jennie to get back home from her training, waiting a month or two for her to get settled and find a job before breaking the news to her. I was waiting for her to be stable. Mason (and everyone else in my life, including my roommate at the time) urged me to break up with her sooner as she was causing me a lot of emotional stress. ------------------------------ I. As you can see, readers, Sadie was not only assured constantly that Danielle and I were in a committed, loyal relationship, but had me sitting in her presence. II. Sadie also, not once, but twice, locked herself and Danielle in the bathroom of the bar and tried to make out with her, reassuring Danielle that, "Your girlfriend will never know." III. The first time this happened, Danielle forcefully told her "No" and that she wasn't interested in making out with Sadie. Sadie, a half an hour later, did it again even after Danielle's denial of her. IV. After Mason kissed me the first time, and I told him that I was: A. Completely Gay B. Not interested in him romantically He never made another move on me ever again, apologized, and moved on immediately. V. Sadie also had a girlfriend whom she professed she was in "absolute love with" while we were at the bar. Thus, as Mason wasn't with anyone and I was not emotionally committed to my girlfriend, and both Danielle and Sadie were in relationships were they were in "love" with their partners - Sadie has committed more of a wrong than Mason. VI. Just because Sadie had drank a few beers doesn't make her excused when she tried to make out with my girlfriend after they talked about how much they loved their partners (and I was sitting right across from Sadie). I can attest, even after being under the influence of alcohol that I would not kiss someone unless I wanted to. If alcohol can be used as an excuse, then the next time any spouse is trashed at a bar, would it be excusable for them to make out or have sex with someone and tell their partner, "I'm sorry honey, I was drunk!" This excuse never flies. It is common knowledge that one still understands their moral code while under the influence. Obviously Sadie does not have a stellar moral code. VII. Because they had been friends for 5 years, and had this "exceptional relationship", one would think that Sadie would have bounds more respect for Danielle and her girlfriend than she displayed. Even if I am trashed beyond belief, if I am in a committed relationship, and if I respect and care for my friend, I would not try and make out with her while her girlfriend (whom she loves) is sitting right there, and after we have all talked about how much we loved our girlfriends for about an hour. The only two reasons I can think of that would usher this sort of behavior in would be: A. Sadie is secretly in love with Danielle. B. Sadie is a cheater and assumes and or knows Danielle is a cheater also. VIII. Danielle has never had Sadie apologize to me for disrespecting me, nor am I familiar with Sadie apologizing to Danielle about the situation. Danielle told me not to confront Sadie with it (which makes me angry and makes the whole thing seem shadier). While Mason apologized right away and has never since made a romantic move on me. IX. Mason is my best friend. We talk about our relationships constantly because we are both interested in that particular topic. When I started talking to/dating Danielle, Mason was updated on our relationship constantly. Just like Danielle talks to her best friend about important things in her life, then I don't see a problem with Mason talking to me about important things in his life (like exciting conversations he's having with a girl he fancies). X. As for me spending Spring Break with Mason - I asked Danielle, and he begged of me many a time, for her and I to go visit him in North Carolina. He has been asking to meet her ever since we started dating. He was very excited about seeing her, but since we are tight on money, Danielle will be going to see her friends in New York while I will be going to visit him. I asked her many times if she was ok with us taking separate trips, so if she brings this up again - she gave me permission so I don't see a problem. Her coming along is still on the table (I could even work double time to buy her a ticket if she wants). He really wants to meet her and get to know her. XI. Every time I ask Danielle not to speak to Sadie any longer, she continues to do so. She constantly disrespects my wishes when it comes to this girl. Obviously after the incident that happened, this makes me feel pretty awful. XII. The first time I met Sadie, she was disrespecting Danielle's Big (whom is her mentor in the fraternity she is a member of, and one's Big is the most important person in the fraternity to them. So if Danielle wants to talk about bonds in the fraternity, Sadie is disrespecting Danielle's most important bond). Sadie also obviously doesn't care about Danielle's fraternity, as the constant remarks Sadie was making about the members and how much she hates the fraternity were off putting and really a stomp to any "bond" they shared because of the fraternity. XIII. Even though Danielle and her Ex girlfriend (re-named) Amelia went through this "bonding" pledging of their fraternity (they were pledge sisters as well), Danielle hates and wants her dead, and doesn't want her little (the person she is a Big to) to be friends with Amelia. If this appropriate, why isn't what I ask appropriate? Amelia betrayed Danielle, so her little shouldn't befriend Amelia. So, as I was betrayed... XIV. While Sadie and Danielle were roommates in college, Sadie put Danielle through hell most of the time. She locked her out of her room and made her pay over $200 in fees to keep getting her door opened. She constantly disrespected her and "hated" her even though Danielle didn't do anything to her. People on the floor kept asking Danielle if Sadie was "in love" with her because of this random hating after they had been such "buddies" before this point. All of this behavior combined makes me all the more worried about the situation. conclusion Mason has long since apologized for his actions. We were both going through traumatic grief at the loss of our close friend and a woman that I at one time loved and told him I was leaving my girlfriend for. I constantly talked about how I was not in love with Jennie, how I wanted to leave her, and he was well informed of my emotional unfaithfulness to her. Sadie, on the other hand, has yet to apologize to myself and or Danielle for the situation, was well informed of Danielle and I having a committed relationship, and was in my presence at the time of the incident. She also tried to make out with my girlfriend not once, but twice even after a "No"