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Assertiveness | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Assertiveness

Being assertive means to demonstrate self-respect and self-confidence while being aware of and having respect for others.

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## Overview

The basic idea behind assertiveness is expressing your needs, wants, beliefs, and values in an open way that doesn't violate the rights of other people. Imagine assertiveness as the steady balancing point on a spectrum of communication styles. On one far end of that spectrum is aggressiveness and on the opposite end is passiveness. Some people believe that assertiveness is the same as aggressiveness, but there are some basic differences. Assertive communication demonstrates self-respect and self-confidence, in addition to awareness of and respect for others. It begins when you look at the world from the position that you are worthwhile and have rights and that others are also worthwhile and have rights.

## Resources

The following resources are not created, maintained, or controlled by BYU-Idaho and are intended to serve as an educational resource. BYU-Idaho does not endorse any content that is not in keeping with university policy or doctrines and teaching of the Church.

BYU Counseling and Psychological Services

BYU offers information and more resources about assertiveness.

Find BYU Resources

Psychology Today

Learn what assertiveness is and what it can do for you from Psychology Today.

Read Psychology Today

Mayo Clinic

Learn how to reduce stress and communicate better through assertiveness training from Mayo Clinic.

Discover Mayo Clinic Training

Mind Tools

Mind Tools offers simple steps you can take to improve your life through being assertive.

Learn About the Steps

TAO (Therapy Assistance Online)

-Communication and Interpersonal Relationships (Modules 2-5) 
-Leave Your Blues Behind (Module 6) 
 
Visit TAO
Autism Mentoring Program | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Autism Mentoring Program

The Autism Mentoring Program offers on-campus students opportunities to serve and assist students with autism in achieving a positive university experience at BYU-Idaho.

About the Autism Mentoring Program

The goal of this program is to assist students on the autism spectrum in achieving the university experience they desire to have at Brigham Young University-Idaho. Student mentors are an accessible and trustworthy resource to help achieve this goal.

Parents and Students

Autism mentors are available to help your loved one set and reach academic, social, and life skills goals.

Get Involved

Become a Mentor

Serving fellow students with autism is extremely rewarding.

Get Involved
Bipolar | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Bipolar

Learn about the different types of bipolar disorder and how they can affect mood, energy, and activity levels of daily life.

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## Overview

Bipolar disorder is a mental health illness involving episodes of distinct changes in an individual's mood, energy, and activity levels over specific periods of time impacting one's ability to accomplish daily tasks. The shift in mood may be infrequent or may occur multiple times a year.

There are three types of Bipolar Disorder

- ****Bipolar I Disorder--**** Manic episodes lasting at least 7 days, or manic symptoms that are so severe that the person is hospitalized. The individual will likely have depressive episodes that last at least two weeks. Episodes of depression mixed with mania may also occur.
- ****Bipolar II Disorder--**** A pattern of depressive episodes and less intense manic symptoms that are referred to as hypomania.
- ****Cyclothymic Disorder (also called Cyclothymia)--****Periods of hypomanic symptoms as well as periods of depressive symptoms lasting for at least 2 years and the symptoms do not meet the diagnostic requirements for a hypomanic episode and a depressive episode.

 An individual may experience symptoms of bipolar that do not meet criteria of diagnosis of the above categories, this is then referred to as "other specified and unspecified bipolar and related disorders."

Watch this short video describing the types of Bipolar Disorder.

## Additional Resources

The following resources are not created, maintained, or controlled by BYU-Idaho and are intended to serve as an educational resource. BYU-Idaho does not endorse any content that is not in keeping with university policy or doctrines and teaching of the Church.

National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)

Find helpful resources and information for yourself or others who may be bipolar. 
 
Find Resources

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)

Discover podcasts, videos, and other resources about bipolar disorder. 
 
Learn More

Mayo Clinic

Learn about what symptoms to watch for and when to seek professional help. 

Learn about Symptoms and Help
Pornography Use or Addiction | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Compulsive Pornography Use or Addiction

There is hope for those who struggle with addiction. Learn how to combat addiction with these resources.

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## Overview

If you struggle with compulsive pornography use or addiction there are vast resources to help you. The information and resources for addressing compulsive pornography use or addiction are numerous. You will need to commit yourself to a change in lifestyle, understand what research from both the fields of psychology and medicine have discovered, and create your own individual plan of action that you will live by daily. Here are some resources to help you start your journey to overcome addiction.

## Additional Resources

****Resources for Understanding and Treating Compulsive Pornography Use or Addiction:**** 
 
The following resources are not created, maintained, or controlled by BYU-Idaho and are intended to serve as an educational resource. BYU-Idaho does not endorse any content that is not in keeping with university policy or doctrines and teaching of the Church.

Addressing Pornography

Helpful articles and information from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for those struggling or those who have family or friends that are struggling. 
 
Read the Article

Your Brain on Porn

Find out how pornography use affects your brain. 

More on the Brain

Landscape of the Mind: Addiction Explained

Learn what happens in the mind because of addiction. 

Watch the Video

12 Steps to Change

Program created by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to help those struggling with addiction. 
 
Program Information

## BYU-Idaho Resources

Provident Living

Visit the Provident Living site to learn of the Church's counseling resources.

Provident Living Resources

BYU-Idaho Counseling Center

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Visit the BYU-Idaho Counseling Center website to learn about the university counseling center's men's groups or individual counseling for addiction.

Find Resources or Get Help

TAO (Therapy Assistance Online)

-Let Go and Be Well 
-Calming Your Worry 
-Recovery Skills and Topics 
 
Visit TAO
Concern for Others | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Concern For Others

Get help for a friend or loved one.

## How to Help a Friend or Loved One

Below are guidelines on when and how to refer a student for counseling.

When to Help

-When the student's problem involves any area outside of what you normally discuss with them, particularly in regard to emotional, mental, behavioral, or social concerns. 
 
-When you think the student is dealing with a psychological problem. 
 
-When the student is acting in ways that are harmful to herself/himself or others. 
 
-When you notice a change in the student's behavior (e.g. missing classes for long periods of time, looking depressed, frequent crying, asking about psychological problems).

## How to Help

-In a caring, respectful, and direct manner suggest that he/she may need to speak with a professional counselor/therapist.

-Inform the student about the Counseling Center. This will help to alleviate anxiety and increase the chance that a student will follow through with an appointment. Let the student know that the Counseling Center can provide resources to help with many different kinds of problems.

-Remind them that their visits and the things discussed during their visits will be kept with strict confidentiality.

-We must speak to the student to schedule the appointment; however, it may helpful for you to initiate the telephone call or accompany the student to our office if the student is in too much distress to do so themselves. This shows the student you genuinely care and may provide a sense of security.

-If the student is reluctant to go in for counseling, suggest that he or she see a physician or a trusted religious authority. Initially, some people will be more comfortable with these individuals, who will often refer the student to a counselor.

-If you believe it would be helpful for you to share some information with the counselor, it is best to get the student's permission first. Know that the counselor will not reciprocate information about the student unless he/she has written permission in-hand to do so.

## After the Referral

Once the student is in counseling, it is best not to ask about what is being discussed. You may ask whether the appointment was kept and let the student decide how much to share with you.

Do not expect an immediate change in the student or for all of the symptoms to go away in a short period of time. The process of change may take time for some individuals.

Respect the student. Although the student may not be well-known by you or perhaps is disruptive in class, each person deserves the respect of fellow human beings.

Finally, recognize your own limits. Your role in making a referral is to see that the student is aware of the counseling services on campus and that you are doing what you can to connect the person with resources that can help them improve.

## Ecclesiastical Leaders

There are counselor liaisons assigned to BYU-Idaho student stakes. Find out who the counselor liaison assigned to your stake is.
Eating Disorders | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Eating Disorders

Anyone can suffer from an eating disorder. Luckily, full recovery is possible.

If you are at imminent risk for self-harm please go to the Madison Memorial Emergency Room. For individuals who are at risk for harming themselves or are having a similar significant crisis, please text or call 988 to access the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

## Overview

"Eating disorders involve serious disturbances in eating behaviors, such as extreme and unhealthy reduction of food intake or severe overeating, as well as feelings of extreme concern about body shape or weight. Eating disorders can affect people of all ages, genders, socioeconomic backgrounds, sexual orientations, body shapes and sizes, races, and ethnicities. Eating disorders include Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa, Binge Eating Disorder, Other Specified Feeding or Eating Disorder, Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, and PICA.

Eating Disorders are complex biopsychosocial illnesses that have serious emotional and physical consequences. While 60% of the contributing factors stem from a genetic component, genes alone do not predict who will develop an eating disorder. ...Full recovery from an eating disorder is possible. Early detection and intervention are important. To learn more about eating disorders visit Allianceforeatingdisorders.com

## Additional Resources

The following resources are not created, maintained, or controlled by BYU-Idaho and are intended to serve as an educational resource. BYU-Idaho does not endorse any content that is not in keeping with university policy or doctrines and teaching of the Church.

National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA)

Discover news and resources created for those struggling with eating disorders. 

Info on Eating Disorders

National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders (ANAD)

A non-profit organization providing free services to those with eating disorders. 
 
Anorexia and Associated Disorders

The Alliance for Eating Disorders Awareness

Find help, strength, and education for dealing with and learning about eating disorders. 

Eating Disorder Awareness

Project Heal

A non-profit dedicated to helping those with eating disorders who haven't had access to treatment before. 
 
Project Heal

Jenni Schaefer

Jenni uses her own experiences to support those facing eating disorders. 

Read Jenni's Blog

Helpful Podcasts

-Nutrition Matters Hosted by Paige Smathers 
-Love, Food by Julie Duffy Dillon 
-Food Psych by Christy Harrison 
-Nutrition Redefined By Stephanie Webb
Resources for Ecclesiastical Leaders | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Resources for Ecclesiastical Leaders

The BYU-Idaho Counseling Center offers a counselor liaison for each ward and stake on the BYU-Idaho campus. Additional resources include addiction groups and couples counseling.

## Counselor Liaison

The BYU-Idaho Counseling Center offers a point of contact to each campus stake which includes bishops and leadership within each stake. Please refer to the following list in identifying your liaison to the Counseling Center. This counselor can assist by consulting with stake presidents or bishops as well as being available for any in-service or outreach activities which may address mental health questions or concerns. All students may see any counselor of their choosing and are not limited to a specific stake liaison.

For those stakes who serve non-student spouses, please be aware they are only eligible to receive marital therapy with their student spouse in our office (see our FAQs). To meet a non-student spouse's individual counseling needs, please refer to our Alternative Community Resources for other options in Rexburg.

| | |
| --- | --- |
| ****Stake**** | ****Professional**** |
| First | Quinton Gneiting |
| Second | Bruce Wilding |
| Third | Rob Garrett |
| Fifth | Marc Skinner |
| Sixth | Reed Stoddard |
| Seventh | Matt Taylor |
| Eighth | BJ Rowe |
| Ninth | Rodney Hillam |
| Tenth | Mark Nye |
| Eleventh | Greg Venema |
| 1st Married | Chad park |
| 2nd Married | Kendall Peck |
| 3rd Married | Eric Barton |
| 4th Married | Doug Crabtree |

## Pornography Addiction Groups

Group counseling is provided for those struggling with sexual issues such as pornography addiction and masturbation. To learn more about these groups, please see our information on Group Counseling.

## Couples Counseling

The Counseling Center provides both pre-marital and marital counseling. At least one member of the couple must be a matriculated student, registered for a minimum of six credits to be eligible for our services. To learn more, please see our information on Couple's Counseling.
Emergency Contact | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Emergency Contact

Get the help and support you need for suicide prevention and emotional support.

National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

If you are in crisis, please call or text the ****National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline**** at 988. 
 
The hotline provides crisis intervention, emotional support, resource referrals, links to local services, and follow-up for anyone in crisis, including those at risk for suicide and their families and loved ones. 
 
Or ****call 911,**** or go to the nearest emergency room.
Frequently Asked Questions | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Frequently Asked Questions

Learn more about the BYU-Idaho Counseling Center and how to get help for yourself or a loved one.

## Frequently Asked Questions

All BYU-I students assigned to a track, and registered for a minimum of six credits, are eligible for counseling. Non-student spouses of students are only eligible for marital counseling.

To avoid being ticketed, try to park in the temporary parking spaces in front of the Student Health Center reserved for SHC patients. If you are unable to park in one of these spots, temporary passes are available at our reception desk.

Once you have been added to the wait list it typically takes about two weeks to meet with your counselor or therapist, but this largely depends on your availability, how quickly appointment times become available, and if you have requested a specific counselor.

There are many things you can do to help a friend or loved one. Our Helping Others page offers guidelines on when and how to refer a friend or loved one.

If you miss an individual counseling appointment without contacting our office in advance to cancel or reschedule, you may be charged $10 to your student account and lose your appointment spot. If you miss an appointment with one of our medical providers, you may be charged $20 to your student account.

Anything you and your counselor discuss will be held in strict confidence. Your counselor may occasionally consult with another Counseling Center counselor or with a consulting physician. Your counselor will release no information concerning you or your treatment to persons outside the Counseling Center except under special conditions.

You can either call our office at 208.496.9370 or stop by in person on the second floor of the Student Health Center to schedule an appointment.

If you are eligible, Counseling Center services are available at no charge to you. However, if you miss a scheduled appointment without contacting our office in advance, $10 may be charged to your student account. If you are referred and scheduled to meet with the physician, there is a $10 fee. If you miss your medical appointment without contacting our office in advance, $20 may be charged to your student account. Additionally, there are a few at-cost fees for some psychological testing. Again, all fees will be charged to your student account. The Counseling Center does not cover costs associated with outside resources or treatments, nor does it accept insurance or bill insurance providers.

To learn more about the different types of group therapy available, check out our Group Counseling page.

For any other questions you have, please feel free to email Marci Nite at nitem@byui.edu or call (208) 496-9370.
Grief and Loss | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Grief and Loss

Intense grief and loss can affect your ability to feel peace and comfort in your everyday life. Learn how to work through grief and find healing.

If you are at imminent risk for self-harm please go to the Madison Memorial Emergency Room. For individuals who are at risk for harming themselves or are having a similar significant crisis, please text or call 988 to access the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

## Overview

The journey through grief is different for all of us. Grief is the acute pain that accompanies loss. It is the reflection of a connection that has been lost and can feel all-consuming. Grief is not limited to the loss of people, but when it follows the loss of a loved one, it may be compounded by feelings of guilt and confusion, especially if the relationship was a difficult one. When someone important to us dies, our lives can be changed, and the accompanying grief will affect us emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Grief is what we feel on the inside while mourning happens on the outside. Your loss and the grief that accompanies it are very personal. It is a natural reaction to the loss of a loved one. It is real because loss is real. The pain of loss can sometimes become so intense that we feel overwhelmed and begin to turn away from the very things and people that once brought peace and comfort. For this reason, it is important to seek out others who can listen and kindly offer their presence of mind and heart.

Even still, grief is a very personal experience. When you feel that your grief is interfering with your everyday life and sense of well-being, you may want to consider meeting with a counselor to serve as a guide to help you find your footing again so that you may live more forwardly, one step at a time. Consider the following words from Shakespeare as you reflect upon your loss and what to do as well as some helpful links listed below to begin the process of healing:

"Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o'er wrought heart and bids it break." -Macbeth, Act 4, Scene 3

## Additional Resources

The following resources are not created, maintained, or controlled by BYU-Idaho and are intended to serve as an educational resource. BYU-Idaho does not endorse any content that is not in keeping with university policy or doctrines and teaching of the Church.

Navigating Grief: The Power of Connection

One persons experience dealing with grief and loss. 
 
Navigating Grief Video

How to Deal with Grief and Loss: David Kessler

Video lecture by David Kessler on managing grief and loss successfully. 
 
Dealing with Grief/Loss Video

Grief.com

Additional videos and resources about dealing with grief and loss. 

Helpful Info on Grief

TAO (Therapy Assistance Online)

Improving Your Mood / Grief and Loss (Death / Divorce / Loss of Any Kind) 
 
Visit TAO
Group Therapy Checklist | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Group Therapy Checklist

Complete this checklist to see if Group Therapy is the right form of treatment for you.

## Checklist

To see if group therapy is a good fit, place a checkmark next to any of the statements that apply to you, even if only sometimes:

1. ___ I feel isolated.

2. ___ I struggle with my relationships.

3. ___ I am shy.

4. ___ I am easily embarrassed.

5. ___ I have trouble communicating.

6. ___ I have the desire to connect with others like me.

7. ___ I have concerns about my interpersonal skills.

8. ___ I would like to better understand myself.

9. ___ I want to learn other ways to deal with problematic situations.

10. ___ I have the desire to give and receive support in regards to personal matters.

If you checked even one of the boxes, group therapy is probably a good place for you. See Group Counseling to learn more about how to participate in group therapy at BYU-Idaho.
Helping Others Resources | Counseling Center | BYU-Idaho

# Helping Others

Learn how to set appropriate boundaries and safely help others who are struggling with mental health issues.

## Setting Boundaries

Healthy boundaries are an important part of mental health. Learn to set good boundaries so you can help others.

Don't Be Afraid to Set Boundaries

Learn How

Setting Boundaries with Difficult People

Watch the Video

How to Create Boundaries to Protect Your Energy

Creating Boundaries

Setting Boundaries: Protecting Personal Space

Learn What To Do

## Mental Health First Aid Training

Things you can/should do vs. Things you cannot/should not do.

Mental Health First Aid Training

Watch the Training Video

Mental Health First Aid Role Play

Watch the Roleplay

Mental Health First Aid Roleplay Video

More About Roleplay