Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
Patient question: I seriously dislike my stepdaughter. She is now 13 and is the youngest of 4 kids, but from a different father. My wife described the circumstances of her birth as an accident, as she didn’t even have a relationship with the girl’s father. She did consider abortion at the time, but followed through with the pregnancy. The girl has always had everything handed to her, and my wife seems to feel guilty, although she tells me, and I see, her trying to educate the girl. The girl is impossible! She is selfish and is incapable of thinking about someone other than herself. Even when she is nice, she is unbearable. I try to participate in her life as much as I can; to try to find activities we can do to get closer, but it seems she doesn’t like me either. There is nothing about her that I like. My wife also seems annoyed by her. She is a good student, though, and has friends. Teachers speak well of her too. She is lazy and believes she is so smart. She is smart, but she just thinks so highly of herself. As much as I try to understand the situation, consider the girl’s past, and to try participate and help my wife, and cannot like this girl. I do believe she is old enough to take responsibility of what she does wrong and to do her part in helping us become a family. I am afraid I will not make it, regardless of how much I love my wife. I do realize that my attitude lately does reflect the fact that I dislike the girl, and I try to not make it as conspicuous for my wife; but it can be pretty obvious, especially when my wife is also annoyed by the girl. My wife works a lot, and the girl spends a lot of time by herself, as she has always have. I’ve suggested that we find activities, but the girl doesn’t want to do anything other than being on her phone and ask for new stuff, which she ends up breaking anyway. She has no regard for other people’s space or things; everything is disposable to her. I feel like I won’t make for another 4-5 years… Please help!

Distorted part: The girl is impossible! She is selfish and is incapable of thinking about someone other than herself.  I do believe she is old enough to take responsibility of what she does wrong and to do her part in helping us become a family. 
Dominant distortion: Labeling
Secondary distortion: Personalization
Patient question: My brother is 12 and the youngest of four, twin brothers (13) and myself, sister (18). I don’t know when it started but mainly within the last year, it has gotten worse. Over small things, such as the Internet being turned off for bedtime or a stick being taken away from him at a park or basically when things don’t go his way he gets severely angry. It has progressed from a short tantrum to now taking an hour to calm him down. He won’t talk, he just screams no matter what you say. He has recently started to be violent, starting drastically in the last 3-4 ‘episodes’. He goes completely red in the face and his temperature goes through the roof and he sweats profusely. He is destructive towards anything, kicking doors/walls, breaking things off shelves, kicking stuff over. It can get to the point where he needs to be restrained and we can’t leave him with himself. My mum is scared that people will take him away and that breaks her heart. We try and talk him down but it’s getting worse and worse… (From Australia)

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: From the U.S.: My daughter’s friend’s Mother is acting strangely. I found out that she wants my adult daughter to call her “Mom”. She takes my daughter’s side when my daughter and I argue, and has since my daughter was a teenager. She competes with me. An example of this right now is that my husband and I are taking my daughter on a 3 week trip this summer. I found out today that she has planned a trip now for this summer for her 2 daughters and mine. My daughter does not tell me these things. I have learned about this through the grapevine.

Distorted part: She competes with me.
Dominant distortion: Magnification
Secondary distortion: Mind Reading
Patient question: From a teen in the U.S.: I have a problem that is like no other problem that I’ve heard about before. The problem is myself. I’m unable to connect with people in a way that others connect with each other. I have no ambition or drive to do anything. When I’m doing a task I feel like a complete moron. I can’t keep a thought straight and whenever I try to talk people look at me like I’m crazy. I know I’m not crazy, but it feels like I’m sitting on the border.

Distorted part: When I’m doing a task I feel like a complete moron.
Dominant distortion: Labeling
Patient question: When I was 14-17, I lived with a physically and verbally abusive step-father who constantly insinuated that I was gay. I didn’t know how to stand up for myself then. I remember a particular night, waking and feeling barely aware, as if I’d been drugged, and unable to move. I actually don’t know if this is, in fact, a memory or if it was a nightmare, but it was very realistic. I was in my room, in my bed, and every detail about the room is there. I distinctly remember seeing the hallway light and this man my mother was married to standing at the door. He comes into the room and forces oral sex on me. All I remember is gasping for air and being unable to move my arms. To this day, 18 years later, I’m not sure if this experience was just an awful nightmare or if it is a memory. During this time, I also began suffering from sleep apnea and have had trouble sleeping since then. My life has generally been stressful since those years for various reasons. For example, I learned last year that I have seizures in my sleep (in addition to the daytime ones that began 10 years ago). I’ve done pretty good at not letting myself feel like a victim, especially since I have confusion regarding the past. But I have always wondered if I was drugged and raped as a minor. And if this is why my life has been stressful, why I seem to lack self-confidence, why I developed epilepsy and sleep issues. I don’t know how to feel about it. Should I try to unlock any buried memories? Should I just shrug and bury the whole thing, move forward and all that? Will any of this help me better address the stresses I have? How important is it to resolve this? I am being treated for both the apnea and the epilepsy.

Distorted part: But I have always wondered if I was drugged and raped as a minor. And if this is why my life has been stressful, why I seem to lack self-confidence, why I developed epilepsy and sleep issues.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: From a teen in the U.S.: I sometimes only do my homework the day before it’s due, even if I am given enough time to do it. Other times I just don’t do them and am always on my phone instead. I am curious as to why I am behaving this way. It has affected my grades and I’m not sure what to do.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: So I want to get back with my daughter’s father. We broke up originally because I cheated which was my mistake. Please, no bashing I suffered enough already. Point what I am getting to is I moved 1000kms away from him because of the fights and accusations and threats that was happening. So I moved to my parents it has been One and a Half months since the fights we both want to get back together and his family wants me home too, as I was living with him for almost a year. Now that we have sorted things out through numerous phone calls and text messages we have decided to leave the past behind us, but my parents don’t want to leave it there, they keep saying that everyone is going to try to take my child away from me because I’m “mentally unstable” truth of the matter is I have anger issues and when I get angry it gets ugly. But my parents refuse to let me go back home to my daughter’s father and we want to get back together I need some advice on how to go about everything. (From South Africa)

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: I need to know what is wrong with me. I don’t feel any kind of attachment towards people/anything really. I’ve been worried about bringing this up with a psychologist because I am a mother I’m worried they will call CPS on me. My child is in absolutely no danger. She is fed, cared for etc. I think I care about her, I miss her when she’s gone but I don’t feel any connection towards her. She is four. I respond in ways I have learnt to over the years because I think ive never really felt a connection to anyone. If she gets hurt, I offer cuddles, kisses and tell her it will be alright. I try to be as soothing as possible. But the problem is I have no maternal NEED to do these things, from talking to friends with kids, when their children as an example get hurt, they have this NEED deep down to make them feel better, to comfort them etc. i don’t have that, I do it because I know its the right thing to do. I try to do lots of bonding things with her, take her places, we have special one on one time at bedtime where we read a book and sing a song before I tuck her in. But there has been no zing. And it’s like this with pretty everyone else in my life for as long as I can remember.

Distorted part: I’ve been worried about bringing this up with a psychologist because I am a mother I’m worried they will call CPS on me.  But the problem is I have no maternal NEED to do these things, from talking to friends with kids, when their children as an example get hurt, they have this NEED deep down to make them feel better, to comfort them etc.
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Secondary distortion: Should statements
Patient question: A couple of months ago, my boyfriend appeared to go through a manic episode leading to a psychotic episode. He was depressed and anxious for a few months time, then suddenly stopped sleeping, eating, and had some false ideas about his capabilities (i.e. starting signing up for dance classes and bee keeping courses out of the blue). I had never seen that behavior in him before.

Distorted part: He was depressed and anxious for a few months time, then suddenly stopped sleeping, eating, and had some false ideas about his capabilities (i.e. starting signing up for dance classes and bee keeping courses out of the blue)
Dominant distortion: Magnification
Patient question: I find myself increasingly disillusioned with society and with my peers. In my classes, I feel like there is a lack of focus on important issues and my attempts to provoke conversations on current affairs in the world and how they should be dealt with, specifically in terms of race, domestic policy, and global issues. I feel as if moving on to higher education will not be worth it. I feel if I were to apply myself to some field and envelop myself in my work that it would allow free-loaders to succeed and ride my coattails. I feel as if my peers are rats who lie about their feelings and their interests. They’ll argue that they care very much for social issues such as global minorities facing persecution (the Rohingya, Muslim minority in Myanmar, the Sudanese) yet they never say anything about these issues unless prompted by me. Furthermore, those conversations are one-sided and ephemeral because they quickly grow bored discussing issues they don’t care about. Should I continue to pursue personal goals?

Distorted part: I feel as if moving on to higher education will not be worth it. I feel if I were to apply myself to some field and envelop myself in my work that it would allow free-loaders to succeed and ride my coattails.
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: I work 7 days a week and I am sometimes tired. (I also suffer from adenomyosis so I feel uncomfortable at times) He waits for me to get home and expects me to go directly in the room. This is far from romantic and it is frustrating because I feel like a rag doll! Furthermore his kids are always home so there is zero privacy. He threatens to leave me because of this. He has 3 days off to rest and relax and I feel run down and would like to take off my shoes before. Am I crazy? I would love to have a normal sex life but it is hard because we do not live together and i work 70hrs a week. I am sure if we lived together it would be easier but we dont. I dont know what to do. I feel hurt when he is mean after i say no. He turns it around on me. I need advice.

Distorted part: I am sure if we lived together it would be easier but we dont.
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: From the U.S.: Some information one may need to fully assess this question is the girl in question was about 10-11 years old and the boy was about 11-12 years old. Basically the boy sibling demonstrated aggressive behavior in the household from hitting to throwing objects and the girl witnessed it. I learned in psychology that one can learn aggressive behaviors from an adult when young. I was wondering if the girl, now about 12 years old, is now showing aggressive behaviors did she learn it from her sibling? Can she be fully conscious that their actions are wrong, knowing she understands right from wrong fully, and be able to change her behavior? Or can one FULLY attribute her behavior to the behavior of the sibling and the way she was conditioned to aggression or does the she hold some accountability of their actions, based off that she understands right from wrong and does behave well in other settings?

Distorted part: I was wondering if the girl, now about 12 years old, is now showing aggressive behaviors did she learn it from her sibling?
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: When I was around 8 years old, my older sister would have me play “truth or dare” with her. She is 4 years older than me, and most of the time we had to share a bed. She would make me preform sexual acts on her and get upset or angry if I told her I didn’t want to. She rarely ever reciprocated, and if I brought it up or mentioned it later, she would act like it never happened. This eventually stopped around a year or two later, but she would still make me sleep in the same bed with her for years after, even when we got separate rooms. She would always make me do things for her (nonsexual) and treat me as if I were her slave most of the time. I did everything for her until we had a falling out around 4 years ago, and now we don’t speak to each other. I have never told anyone what happened all those years ago, for fear that I am over exaggerating the seriousness of what happened. I know that kids that age don’t know any better, but I feel as if 12 might just be cutting it close to not knowing any better.

Distorted part: I have never told anyone what happened all those years ago, for fear that I am over exaggerating the seriousness of what happened.
Dominant distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Patient question: I’ve never been in a long-lasting relationship and even my friendships seem distant because I just can’t stand the feeling of love/affection. As a kid, when my parents told me that they loved me, I distinctly remember dry-heaving in disgust and discomfort. I’ve gotten slightly better with that, but now that I’m older and more mature I’m beginning to feel “love” toward others and it makes me just as uncomfortable. Any time I find myself getting particularly close to someone, I begin to resent them. I want to hurt them. If I somehow manage to get into a romantic relationship with somebody, I want to hurt them, I find myself fantasizing about mutilating them and I have no idea why. If I’m having sex, all I can think about is mutilating my partner’s genitals. I’d like to add that I’m a lesbian, so I only date those of my own gender and therefore only want to do that to them (if that’s significant). I don’t know if it’s a fetish, but even if it is, I still think that’s concerning. Even with my friends, I wanna slam their head into a wall the more I like them.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: I grew up in a upper middle class family. I was given most things I wanted and all the essential things a child would need. I have a brother who is 25, he has borderline personality disorder. He acted out as a child/teenager, was constantly arguing with my parents and soaked up much of my parents attention. I was given attention in a different way, but rejected any emotionally connection because I saw emotions as negative because my brother/parents were arguing because of my brothers intense emotions.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: From the U.S.: I’m married to a man who has locked me out of the house at least 8 times. I was packing my things, he threw an object out the door in my direction and I had to get 4 stitches. He said he just threw it and wasn’t aiming. He has called me horrible names. He easily and quickly gets mad, cusses, and likes to belittle. He never accepts responsibility for anything. He used to be a drunk until he was arrested for DUI. Now, he doesn’t drink as much, but is still emotionally abusive.

Distorted part: He never accepts responsibility for anything.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: I got into a relationship last February. It was the most amazing thing I’ve ever experienced, I liked him an insane amount. I’ve never been happier in my entire life. I was getting 6 hours of sleep basically every night by staying up and messaging or video calling him since he lives across the country. I was constantly nervous, but in a good way, too nervous to eat even. Even though mentally it was probably all not good for me, it was the most amazing thing ever, and I liked him so much. But then a little less than two months later, I woke up one morning feeling no attraction nor spark towards him whatsoever, almost as if the past two months of being insanely infatuated with him never existed. This was the day that spring quarter had started, and I was very stressed about my new classes, thinking there was no way I could them even. But then 5ish days later, I felt attracted towards him again, even though the spark wasn’t there anymore. But then 5ish days later, the loving and attracted feeling was gone again, and I disliked even looking at pictures of him. Ever since then (it’s been 10 months at the time I write this) I’ve had the same cycle of my amount of attraction changing towards him. So basically every week it changes from me feeling very attracted to him, to me not being attracted to him at all. I cant even look at him when I feel unattracted to him. This is just a summary, there are many more details. But this has been hurting me so much, as well as him. I just want my feelings to go back to how they were before my feelings started to change every several days. Like I can literally feel when my feelings start to come or go. Please help me, this has been going on for way too long, I’m starting to lose him forever, I don’t know how much longer I can take this.

Distorted part: Even though mentally it was probably all not good for me, it was the most amazing thing ever, and I liked him so much.
Dominant distortion: Should statements
Patient question: I’ve progressively isolated myself due to underlying issues committed in childhood prior to overcoming a self-indulgent bout of negligent atheism, all the while hypothetically considering punishment to come in the afterlife (though never later in life, which was the largest sort of “karmic” disregard). Should I be held to the standard of faith persevering through childhood regardless of my situational experiences that may have influenced me/made me sour? Probably. May this post-isolation, asocial behavior, and cognitive deceleration be overcome? My optimism says that with genuine help and love from another/few who is/are unpaid and not eager to jump to diagnoses while also being invested in my growth, it can and will be. My pessimism speaks on the idea that this pragmatism is often used to manipulate and regress.

Distorted part: Should I be held to the standard of faith persevering through childhood regardless of my situational experiences that may have influenced me/made me sour? Probably.
Dominant distortion: Should statements
Patient question: When I was around 5 years old (my best guess, I am not exactly sure because used to go to elementary school back then) I dreamt of being tied up and two or three people sexually abused me, in the dream I remember being touched and being asked if it feels good. After waking up, Unlike other dreams I remembered the dream in clear detail to this day, and could not make out of what it was, since at that age I knew nothing about sex.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: So, I wanted to ask this question because whenever I read about a topic of a disorder I tend to act them out like I have that disorder. It usually happens with me even realizing it at first, but usually stops within a few days. My second question is kinda odd, I’ve tried looking on websites for why I do this but never gotten a real solid response and I’m confused. It might be bipolar disorder or something of that means, but I almost always have the opposite reaction to things. Like for example if I’m watching someone get shot people would usually feel bad or cringe at the sight of it, but I just laugh out loud for some reason. Same with the other emotions, if I’m sad I’m usually acting cheerfully and so on. But that’s about it, sure I have other questions, way too many but I’ll save it for a later date. Hope ya can get back to me soon.

Distorted part: It might be bipolar disorder or something of that means, but I almost always have the opposite reaction to things. Like for example if I’m watching someone get shot people would usually feel bad or cringe at the sight of it, but I just laugh out loud for some reason. Same with the other emotions, if I’m sad I’m usually acting cheerfully and so on.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: From a teen in Singapore: Since I was 5, I have the thought that being the oldest sibling at home I need to put on a strong front in order for my mum to not worry about me or just people finding me weak. I don’t know if it’s because of my Father going to jail since I was young that caused it, but i always feel ashamed after crying in front on anyone and I hide all of my emotions except those positive ones.

Distorted part: Since I was 5, I have the thought that being the oldest sibling at home I need to put on a strong front in order for my mum to not worry about me or just people finding me weak. I don’t know if it’s because of my Father going to jail since I was young that caused it, but i always feel ashamed after crying in front on anyone and I hide all of my emotions except those positive ones.
Dominant distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Secondary distortion: Mind Reading
Patient question: From a young woman in Poland: I had a guy whom I work in one office (open space) with and we were in a relationship. I let him push me sexually and push my boundaries. He touched me and I told him no, I told him I am not ready, this is too soon that I feel bad about it and he did it again and again. He would rub my ladies parts and I enjoyed it, had an orgasm but did not feel okay with that I was sad I told him it was too soon and keep on telling him no in the future and then letting him touch me anyway. Then he told me that I only take and not give anything to him, I was not ready but felt bad about “using him” for pleasure so I let him have sex with me, I felt bad and he was pushing me until I pleased him.

Distorted part: I let him push me sexually and push my boundaries.
Dominant distortion: Personalization
Patient question: Hey there! Just to point this out in advance, I am seeing a few professionals about my mental health, I’m on medication and I’ve already been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder, PDD-NOS, and potentially ADHD. I do not have the means to explore these further, but I have regular monthly visits with my psychiatrist and therapist.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion