Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
Patient question: I have gone through the symptoms of Paranoid Personality disorder and my wife seems to be suffering from the same since last 13 years. she is 39 years old and is a house wife now. earlier she was working as a teacher. she is a mother of 3 kids. My questions is that how should family members behave with a patient of paranoid personality disorder and how can we save our children from being a victim of the same disease. what are the chances of getting them affected. My wife doesn’t trust anyone in my family and fights with everyone. she says that she is not suffering from any disease and thinks that i want to divorce her on this ground.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: From an 18 year old in Italy: My girlfriend and I are in a serious relationship for a long time now (both of us are in high school). We live very far from each other so we can’t see each other often. My girlfriend is younger than me so we can’t meet whenever we want, only when her parents approve that.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: Since I was younger, my mother always got caught being on a call with other men, even before she and my dad got divorced about 5 years ago. Now she’s the only one who pays our bills, being the single mother. After she got divorced with her second husband, she started to become the old her, receiving calls from married men, having a date with them. Maybe because of her, I’ve always being skeptical about marriage, thinking if all men will cheat–there will be no point of being married.

Distorted part: Maybe because of her, I’ve always being skeptical about marriage, thinking if all men will cheat–there will be no point of being married.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Secondary distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: My 2 yr old son picks his nails constantly; they are down to the quick and I know they have to hurt. I developed this same habit, too, as a child until I was about 16 yrs old. He has now started picking his cuticles and even his toes. What is the best way to get him to stop? My husband gets very upset and constantly tells him to stop, but of course, this doesn’t work. I try to keep his hands busy by giving him a toy or something else but he still manages to pick.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: I guess I have problems with self esteem. I hold myself to absurd expectations even when I know rationally that I shouldn’t. I seek unnecessary validation from people I shouldn’t, and then feel guilty about receiving validation. I sometimes feel a compulsive need to be better than other people, and place myself under extreme amounts of pressure beyond my realistic capabilities.

Distorted part: I hold myself to absurd expectations even when I know rationally that I shouldn’t. I seek unnecessary validation from people I shouldn’t, and then feel guilty about receiving validation.
Dominant distortion: Should statements
Patient question: From the U.S.: I have an adult son 35 yrs old. Kind, caring good person. Good job, supports himself, lives alone. He and I have always been very close. He is obese 400 lbs+, colon cancer survivor, diabetic, sleep apnea, anxiety and depression. No close friends, no social life. We do not live in the same state. He says he is lonely and hates being fat. He does see a therapist on a regular basis.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: So say you were about four years old, and you were circumcised at birth while most others in your community were not. You enter kindergarten and as kindergarten children do, they compare their private parts by showing them to one another. Kids find out you’re different. You feel strange and different from everybody else (because you ‘are’ different).

Distorted part: You feel strange and different from everybody else (because you ‘are’ different).
Dominant distortion: Labeling
Patient question: From Brazil: i used to be a creative, quite outspoken girl in school. then on the internet. on the internet, i met a boy whom i dated. we broke up in horrible terms, and it scarred me to today. that, plus a lot of other horrible happenings in relationships (friendships mainly), has led me to a state of constant alert, where i can’t enjoy my friends company because i’m constantly thinking on how to make >them< enjoy mine.

Distorted part: that, plus a lot of other horrible happenings in relationships (friendships mainly), has led me to a state of constant alert, where i can’t enjoy my friends company because i’m constantly thinking on how to make >them< enjoy mine.
Dominant distortion: Magnification
Secondary distortion: Mind Reading
Patient question: My Brother: “is 21 and living with his family, he has never applied for a job, the family has moved to Germany about 6 years ago. He finished school two years ago” . He was never an outgoing person but he did have friends from his school days. Starting from last year he’s been undergoing ever more increasing depression. At first he was only feeling down sometimes, but now he doesn’t speak, even when directly spoken too. He doesn’t talk about his depression with anybody, actually he doesn’t talk with anybody at all nor does he leave the house at all. In the last few months he’s even developed a tick (he sometimes inhales very quickly and loudly as if he’s shocked). His lack of communication has made it impossible to get him professional help. He refuses any kind of professional care. My family and I are clueless on how to deal with this issue, how can we help someone who not only refuses professional help but also ignores almost all communication? (From Germany)

Distorted part: His lack of communication has made it impossible to get him professional help.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: From the U.S.: I’ve been in therapy and taken many different medications for close to 30 years. In the last 8-9 months my MDD has become medication resistant and is worse than I ever thought possible. I’ve tried ECT (3 treatments) and it did not help at all. I’m doing a litany of self-help wellness things that have taken over my entire life and I’m just getting worse. I take Effexor, Adderal & Clonapin. I do yoga, meditate daily, swim 2-3 times a week, see a therapist weekly, eat very nutritionally, get plenty of sleep but not too much,

Distorted part: I’m doing a litany of self-help wellness things that have taken over my entire life and I’m just getting worse.
Dominant distortion: Magnification
Patient question: I dated this man last year for about 8 months. I wasn’t ready for a committed relationship at the time. Dated him more out of boredom. But he took it more seriously. He had alot of anger issues and was slightly emotionally abusive. One time I let him discipline my then 7 yr old boy, but he got too rough and threw him across his bed. I did not condone this and I swore to my son that he would never have to be around that man again. We had some miscommunication a couple nights later that I used to my advantage and pushed his buttons enough to make him spiral out of control and he came and broke into my house while the kids I were sleeping. No one was hurt and the kids never woke up. I broke up with him the next day after the cops escorted him home. Now to present day another 10 months later we are talking again. He has received enough counseling to help himself and I see him as different and changed for the better. I also am ready for a more committed relationship so we have been seeing each other for about 2 months now. I am so happy and we’ve apologized and he has validated my feelings about what happened that night and in general so that we can try and move on and Im making more of an effort towards a relationship this time, but my son is terrified of him. The bf and I are taking it much slower this time and not involving the kids at all for at least 6 months but will it be possible to reintroduce them and patch things up or am I being selfish for even trying? I gave them my word that he would never be in our lives again because I never in a million years thought it would be possible for him to have changed. I am at a crossroads. Thank you for any advice you have!

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: Ever since my boyfriend and I started dating, his mother has never made herself approachable. He and I live together, and I am almost 4 months pregnant. He and I are both ecstatic and so is my family. The problem is, his mother has made it very clear she does not like me (she told me) and that she is not happy about this. I had a miscarriage 6 months ago when I was 3 months along. When she found out I was pregnant with that child she asked me why I didn’t get an abortion. When I miscarried she acted like nothing happened and was happy. She then told me how her son would not be having children for a long time. When she found out we were pregnant again she told me she didn’t like me. She was rude and disrespectful.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: My spouse injured his back 8 years ago and retired early due to this injury. He works very occasionally at a community college and does have his retirement income.  I have multiple medical concerns and 3 years after he retired, we downsized so that I could retire as well. This was 5 years ago and as it is, I have no chance of retiring.  Spouse has told me, “Sure, you can retire.  We will just be homeless”. I feel stuck working and feeling fatigued and sick and really resent him. I think he is anxious about working as he has been retired for 7 1/2 years. I have encouraged him to do volunteer work so he has something to be passionate about. Overall, his retiring early has affected me greatly and not him. He has a wonderful life of going to the gym and doing some housework and laundry. I have a good job and got a 30% pay raise last year. That was a total disincentive for him. I want us to work on retirement together, not me working till I die and him having a great time. I am angry and becoming bitter and I don’t like me the way I am. Whenever we talk about this issue, he looks at it as a problem with me. I need to be more positive, which I know is true.  How do I get his actions to affect him? I am planning on a major cruise with my daughter and don’t plan to ask him to go. I figure, if he wants to come, he can pay his own way. Is that a wrong attitude? He just bought a truck and said he needed to work to pay his car loan. Now, I am paying for more bills and he says he doesn’t need to work. I feel I need more boundaries with him and finances. Any words you can give me to assist are most welcome! (From the USA)

Distorted part: I think he is anxious about working as he has been retired for 7 1/2 years.
Dominant distortion: Mind Reading
Patient question: From the U.S.: I am 31 years old and female. When I was 23 I would work at a retail store night shift, would hear mumbling, laughing, vulgarity and talking all night, at the time I assumed it was just other people or co workers working in the aisle next to me. I would go outside and smoke at 3 am in the morning, the parking lot was empty, would still hear them, but, no one was there. Parking lot was empty. This happened night after night.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: When I say immediate family, I mean my husband and 3 kids. Anyone else, be it our parents, siblings, relatives or friends, there is no affection or emotion involved. To the point that I cringe at the thought of having to visit them or them visit us. For me, out of sight is out of mind. I could go for months without calling or meeting anyone and I would be perfectly fine with it. When I finally call, it is out a sense of guilt. I cannot stand any kind of social gathering. Yet I feel for the sake of my kids and their mental well-being, they need interaction with other human beings. I feel they are missing out.If it was just me, I probably wouldn’t have bothered. I love my husband and kids. But there are days I feel that even with them, if I dont see them for a few days, I’d eventually be ok with it and that is a scary thought. TO realize I am incapable of emotion for anything or anyone. I keep reading that most of the adult issues have their root in childhood. Does this apply to me, I’m not really sure. But here’s a brief picture of my childhood. I grew up with my mom and younger brother and we lived with my paternal grandmother and uncles, since my father was working in another country. This is quite typical in our culture. As a child, I don’t have any memory of negative experiences until the age of 8 or 9. We moved to another house, because of some differences between mom and grandmother. Unfortunately, I was sexually abused by two of my neighbors at this house. People my mother trusted. One a 15-year-old and the other in his late 20’s. I was doing well at school in academics and athletics. Few years later, that started deteriorating too. I had some publicly humiliating experiences from some of my teachers too. It doesn’t seem like a big deal to me now but to my teenage self it was pretty big. I also had inappropriate touching from strangers while out with friends and I always felt that I was somehow singled out by these characters. I literally felt I had a label on my forehead saying touch me. Thankfully I married to a wonderful man and I’m doing well career wise. Except for this aspect. Help!

Distorted part: TO realize I am incapable of emotion for anything or anyone.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: From the U.K.: Hi, I was raped seven years ago, but it took me a year to report it to the police as he threatened me not too. It did not go to court due to lack of evidence but he does have it on his criminal record. I see him a lot as we live in the same town and he just stares at me very angry look.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: Following issue concerns my mother who is 73, divorced (many years ago) and lives in an apartment.  Issue first happened about 2 years ago and has returned.  She starts by claiming the neighbors below her are playing music at night keeping her awake.  However, they’re not.  She continues to build on this narrative saying that they turn the music on at times like when she goes to bed.  That they’re also playing recorded audio like dialogue from a tv show and that they play it forwards and backwards.  Then it progresses to the stage that the neighbors are listening to her.  That they turn the music, etc. off when she begins talking as in a phone conversation.  During the first incident a few years ago, she claimed the neighbor had installed listening devices in the walls to monitor her.  Also during the first incident, when I told her I could not hear anything, she became vicious and verbally attacked me.  Claimed I had hearing problems, needed hearing aids and was just lying to be mean to her.  She eventually made contact with the neighbor during the first incident and accused him of playing music at night.  Needless to say, that did not go over well.  She ended up moving apartments within the complex.  In regards to the 2nd, current incident, she asked me the other day if I knew how much it would be to hire a detective.  Approaching this from a rational standpoint, stating facts like there is no music is not working.  She completely ignores reality like the fact that my hearing is much better than hers and has convinced herself that the narrative in her head is real.  I am very stressed out and worried that this is a sign of a greater problem and that she will be kicked out of her apartment.  I also have no idea what to do.  Any assistance in this matter would be greatly appreciated.

Distorted part: I am very stressed out and worried that this is a sign of a greater problem and that she will be kicked out of her apartment.
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: My girlfriend seems to always have something wrong with her. As soon as one thing stops hurting, the next day something else hurts. 4 months ago she started getting very queasy when she ate anything, and would vomit it up, eventually. She was only able to keep food down once a week or so. It got worse, where she couldn’t hold down water even. She stopped eating altogether. 5 trips to the emergency room only resulted in treatment for dehydration and instructions to feed her light or clear food. She still couldn’t eat. She’s lost 85 lbs. (She’s overweight to start with, but still unhealthy). We got a hospital to admit her, but nothing physically is wrong. But now she has become paranoid and psychotic, she’s sure everyone is plotting against her, even myself and her daughter. She’s been in the hospital 14 days now, transferred to the psych ward, and is on a hold for at least 2 more weeks. What’s happening? How did it get to this? Her physical symptoms seem to have gone away, maybe, but the psychosis is scary.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: I want to be alone. Talking to even one person leaves me emotionally drained and I feel like I need to go to bed. Social interactions like visiting someone’s house or going out with a family member feel pointless. I don’t need to talk to people, nor do I have anything to talk about. So why bother in the first place? Sometimes I’ll ask myself: “Would I be happy if everyone in the world disappeared?”, and lately the answer has been “Yes”.

Distorted part: Talking to even one person leaves me emotionally drained and I feel like I need to go to bed.
Dominant distortion: Magnification
Patient question: Hello, Just recently my sister had what I believed to be a mental breakdown. After a few visits to the emergency room we decided that involuntary commitment to a mental health facility would be the best for her. While she was at the mental facility she was diagnosed as Schizoaffective. She had an extremely hard time with the staff there and one of the other patients raped her (yes, it has been proven). So we promised never to send her to that hospital again.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: My sister (27) is diagnosed with schizophrenia but I don’t find her symptoms matching. In my view, she is more likely to have borderline personality disorder (or possibly antisocial personality disorder) which possibly goes with bipolar disorder. I would be very grateful to get your opinion.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: From the U.S.: I’ve seen tons of therapists, I talk about my abuse all the time to friends and my girlfriend. I know it was horrible and traumatizing but I feel like I’ve come to terms with it, but I’m still terrified of my parents. I have nightmares that they find me or I’m stuck in their house with them again or they are chasing me and I have to run away from them and hide. I have nightmares about one or both of them every single night. I feel like I’ll never be free of them. Even my psychologist ran out of ideas on how to stop these recurring nightmares.

Distorted part: I feel like I’ll never be free of them.
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: I was a neglected child.  No caring parent.  Some physical abuse but treated as nothing.  I was nothing. I was hit, not fed properly, never touched. No I love yous or encouragement In highschool I reached out to say I was abused but it got exaggerated.  I found the only way to be heard was to agree when asked if I was being sexually abused. I was removed by the protective services. I was abused but not this way. I have nobody and not sure if I did this to myself or? Family chooses not to believe or support. So i haven’t had family since leaving 25 years ago  My family was not a good unit with all sibling leaving in their teens to runaway from home. I just feel like a bad person even though I know the place was awful.  It was pure neglect and feeling unloved.  I thought in telling I would get this but it doesn’t work that way.  Nobody loves me I feel lost and confused.  I feel unsure of who I am.  I did come from an abusive home but nobody had been listening when I only spoke of the yelling and neglect and the hitting. Nobody wanted to help.  They said it was awful but I was alone. I wanted someone to make it stop. I needed someone to care for me.  I wanted a real family. Am I mentally ill for doing this?  I am very rational and I know it was wrong but in the end it didn’t matter anyways. (From Canada)

Distorted part: Nobody loves me I feel lost and confused.  I am very rational and I know it was wrong but in the end it didn’t matter anyways.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Secondary distortion: Should statements
Patient question: When our son was 14, my husband caught him inappropriately touching his 9 year old sister in the pool. My husband held our son’s head under water until he thrashed for air. Our daughter witnessed this. Our son was told that if he EVER touched his sister again, his father would drown him.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: I’ve been upset these days: I have a little sister who is several years younger than me. We grew up together and had a fine relationship back then. Up until I turned into a teenager in high school, her attitude started to change. I realized she started to bad-mouth people that she didn’t get along with so I keep a distance with her. Things get worse due to forceful interference from family members. Until later and even now, whenever I try to get over the barrier and mend our relationship a bit by looking to her fine points and praise her, she became so conceited. It gets to the point that she’d bad-mouth me or even her brother (also younger than me) to make herself look good in front of parents and others.

Distorted part: We grew up together and had a fine relationship back then. Up until I turned into a teenager in high school, her attitude started to change.
Dominant distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Patient question: My brother has been married 14 years and is considering divorce. He has been communicating with his wife about his feelings. She is a very jealous type of woman who has not allowed him to have female friends. He has two daughters ages 10 and 11 and recently the girls have been getting more involved questioning him about his female friendships. Recently he took both girls to a concert & his female friend came along. The youngest shared that she told her mom about the concert and mom said “She did not know” his friend would be there. The youngest then told her Dad that it is not right for him to be at a concert with his female friend and not her mom. Another time recently the oldest daughter called him to ask “Dad where are you and who are you with” … I don’t know if this is normal behavior for young girls but I am concerned that they are adopting these behaviors from their Mom. She also shares certain things with the girls (since the marriage is having problems) like “I didn’t know your Dad’s female friend would be there” for example. Is this something we should be concerned about? I worry the girls are being brought into their parents’ marriage issues and in the process are being taught to interrogate their Dad and worry about boundaries with him and friends.

Distorted part: She is a very jealous type of woman who has not allowed him to have female friends.
Dominant distortion: Labeling