Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
Patient question: Why does a person pursue men who are unavailable? Examples: 1. Attracted and “tried” dating a guy in high school who was gay but not out of the closet. 2. Asked out guys that were off limits in college, such as resident advisor and leader of organozation (both students who said they weren’t “allowed”to date other students. 3. A man that lived in another state and would hook up on his business trips. I’ve always suspected he was married. 4. A man with no relationship experience who was emotionally the equivalent of a teenager. 5. A man who was recently divorced with two kids and did not want to remarry or have more kids. 6. A man who was still married. 7. A man who lives in another country, doesn’t speak English, has no money, and cannot come to the US unless get a marriage Visa.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: From the U.S.: My mother has always been critical, but now her behavior is becoming more bold. When she’s called out, she claims to forget or accuses others of misinterpreting her or being too sensitive. She calls people fat in public when they might hear her, but she says doesn’t remember. She commands me to tell her I love her even when I just said it and then tells everyone I refuse to but everyone just heard me. When I get upset she says it’s all a joke, but it’s not really funny, just awkward. Her behavior is bizarre and she’s started to tell me the same stories every time we’re on the phone, just rambling.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: My main issue is with my brother. I hate him. A few months ago, I would’ve never used these words to describe a feeling. I forgot how it felt to hate someone – but now I remember and I want him to leave or die. He bothers me so much. My mom doesn’t do anything to stop his behavior. She may say something to him but never reinforce it. She is so co-dependent and angers me A LOT. She told me I needed to defend myself if he ever says something mean, something I dislike, offensive or does something to get on my nerves. He is 20 years old and drugs screwed him up. I can’t talk anymore. I can’t say anything. I can’t give more information. I feel like nothing inside. I’ve been but nice until day after day he’d cross my boundaries, keep awake at night to bother me, not wash his hands after he shits and threaten to touch my things. I don’t want him near me anymore. I don’t want him to touch me. I don’t want him to breathe near me and if anything, he would be better off dead. No one cares. No one does or says anything that helps. I am so angry. I feel like I can’t talk, – there’s too much going on and I can’t explain everything because everything bothers me so much. He bothers me so much. He does things he shouldn’t be doing. Why can’t I get away with things he was told not to do – does them anyway and gets a free pass? I’m tired when people yell at me. Instead of telling me how to do things, what to wear, what to say, how to feel – actually help. No one recognizes their wrongdoing, it seems. I know I could be more positive and I have been – but now I can’t. I’m stuck with a friend which keeps trying to remind me why people act like what – INSTEAD of just listening. I didn’t say anything before because I feel so un-entitled to things. I know I can’t control. I’m so angry and tired of being reminded these things ALL the time – because I know. Constantly being reminded just makes me feel dumb and worthless and unlovable. I know my close ones are trained professionals, but… (From Canada)

Distorted part: I can’t talk anymore. I can’t say anything. I can’t give more information. I feel like nothing inside.   I know I could be more positive and I have been – but now I can’t.   Constantly being reminded just makes me feel dumb and worthless and unlovable.
Dominant distortion: Magnification
Secondary distortion: Should statements
Patient question: From a teen in the United Arab Emirates: my gf is 18 years old and we live in dubai and the issue is she cheated with 3 of my friends and and they have bigger dicks than me sorry for the words im using, and i cant get over it because i never had such past like getting sex or any of that but other than that she lost her virginity to me and i lost it to her..anyways i cant get over it and its making a huge deal and its been 2years like that and i dont know what to do so please help me

Distorted part: anyways i cant get over it and its making a huge deal and its been 2years like that and i dont know what to do so please help me
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: Hello, I have been biting my nails and biting/picking the skin around my nails since I can remember, probably 8-10 years old. I used to pick at my acne very badly, but I found the cause of my acne and my face has cleared so it’s not a problem anymore. I have tried to stop many times, thinking it was merely a bad habit, but it seems like no matter how hard I try, or how much progress I make, I can’t rid myself of the issue. It’s definitely much better then it was when I was doing it unhindered, but my husband has taken a great interest in helping me stop doing it and supporting me.

Distorted part: I have tried to stop many times, thinking it was merely a bad habit, but it seems like no matter how hard I try, or how much progress I make, I can’t rid myself of the issue.
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: My boyfriend recently opened up to me about the physical abuse he experienced at the hands of his father when he was growing up. Finding this out has connected a lot of dots for me in terms of some insecurities he had expressed previously. As he told me about what he went through, I just tried to be a safe space for him to open up as it was obviously an incredibly difficult thing for him to talk about.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: I am a 36 year old married mother of two: I’m not sure what to say or how to begin this. I have periods of rage and depression where I can tell from the moment I wake up that it is going to be a “bad” day. I get overly angry at little things, and pick fights w/my spouse. I have suicidal thoughts (several times a month) but will not act one them because of my children – although I do not think I am a great mother my son adores me (and I love him as much) and I cannot imagine what it would do to him if I was gone. My husband is wonderful and very patient and we’ve worked through a lot of things over the years but lately I just get so tired, and frustrated, and I act out and just generally become disagreeable, angry and violent. I push and push and push until he reacts – the weird thing is once he is angry I feel very calm and together – and my own “anger” dissipates – but until he reacts I just get more and more agitated.

Distorted part: I have periods of rage and depression where I can tell from the moment I wake up that it is going to be a “bad” day. I get overly angry at little things, and pick fights w/my spouse.
Dominant distortion: Magnification
Secondary distortion: Mental filter
Patient question: I’ve been aware that something is not quite right with my mom for some time now, and I’m having a hard time telling what’s wrong with her. For a while, at the thought of my therapist, I thought she was narcissistic. However, I was looking into sensory integration disorder for myself on the internet and stumbled upon the term thought disorders in a forum where a woman thought her son had SI and mentioned he didn’t speak right. When I looked it up on Wikipedia it mentioned symptoms like blocking, circumferential speech, derailment, distractible speech, loss of goal, and semantic paraphasia. All of which I’ve known her to do. She’s mostly coherent but often does at least one every time I see her. Usually several. For example, if it’s just the two of us she’ll go on and on rambling about nothing in particular while often switching topics. Then she’ll experience blocking and ask what she was just talking about. Or she’ll substitute words in sentences with random words. She does this last one a lot. For example, she’ll say, “I slipped on the water outside on the patio.” And I’ll correct her, “No, it was inside in the kitchen.” She’ll respond, “That’s what I said”. And I’ll say, “no it wasn’t.” She just say “oh” and shrug her shoulders. I don’t think she’s ever called me by my own name. She often calls me by one of my brother’s names and vice versa.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: I suppose the issue I am having now, directly relates to issues from my childhood; so I’ll start there. My parents separated when I was pretty young, so I grew up in a single parent household. Which, surprisingly, is not the problem. My mother has OCD (along with other emotional problems). We were never allowed to be sad, or mad, or anything else that wasn’t happy. She would literally get angry with us. “What’s wrong with you?” she would say in a disgusted tone. She yelled a lot.

Distorted part: We were never allowed to be sad, or mad, or anything else that wasn’t happy.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: From a teen in the UK: My girlfriend and I were on holiday, toward the end of the holiday i realised my girlfriend had been acting quite suspicious with her phone by hiding notifications whenever they came up and i was considering confronting her but decided to let it slide and just try to get over it.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: Call work first thing Monday. Patient cam in with broken OD temple. FLEXON FRAME. can’t remember his last name but I printed out a remake of frame and forgot them in the printer at the front. Frame is in the lab in my cubby. What should i do? my fiance of 6 years is an alcoholic. he is mentally and verbally abusive to me every night. he drinks beer all day at work and then its vodka/diet coke all night at home. He drinks a 60 of vodka every 2 1/2 days and 24 beers every 2 or 3 days. He tells me he doesn’t want me and doesn’t need me, says you can’t fix stupid says I’m retarted…. tells me to F off, then in In the AM remembers nothing. the house we live in is in my name. his name is not on any bills or anything, but he does help with the mortgage. i dont think i can afford to keep my hose if i kick him out, even if i get a roomate. my 18 year old son started working with him at his hvac company as an apprentice. my son doesn’t drive, so he goes to work and comes home with my fiance. the company is paying to put him through schoool, and the owner of the company is also my fiances best friend, so if i kick him out, im sure my son would lose his job along with the opportunity to have his schooling paid for. my fiance smashed my truck up 3 years ago, so ever since, we have only had his vehicle. my mom has been driving me to work everyday and my fiance picks me up after work. i have no idea what to do. i feel lost and trapped. he has no intention of even trying to stop drinking, he’s told me that many times. I love him, but I just can’t take this alcoholism anymore. Last night he told me that alcohol was 100% more important than me. I,m so lost i dont know what to do. any advice would be awesome. thanks!

Distorted part: he company is paying to put him through schoool, and the owner of the company is also my fiances best friend, so if i kick him out, im sure my son would lose his job along with the opportunity to have his schooling paid for.
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: Hi, I have been married to my husband for about 1 year now. We dated for about 7 years before that and we never really spend more than 1 or 2 days a week together. We did not live together either. When we got married, my husband assumed i would start taking care of the household chores, I thought we had discussed that we would do 50/50…and that included financially as well. Well it turns out we were on 2 different pages, and we still are on some issues. After 1 year, i have spent many nights crying, tired and just too exhaused to put up with things anymore. I understand that it can never be 50/50, but i just need to at least have some support that when i can’t make it home by 8, he will at least cook dinner and if not that, at least go out and get something for us to eat. He does not, and waits until i get home to decide what to do. We had a lot of debt, let me rephrase that, i had a lot of debt from the wedding (most of the stuff went on my cards) that i had to pay back, so i was not able to help him financially with the household bills. He always made me feel bad about it, like i was giving money away to someone/something that he had nothing to do with, even though it was for OUR wedding. I finally finished and had been helping in the financial department now, but he still does not help in chore department.

Distorted part: I understand that it can never be 50/50, but i just need to at least have some support that when i can’t make it home by 8, he will at least cook dinner and if not that, at least go out and get something for us to eat.
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: This issue started a long time ago: anything i start whether its a puzzle, A game or even a social relationship. I’m 16 years old i got no friends and no hobbies. i am seeing a psychologist and a psychiatrist. i got a social phobia even though people at my school are trying to befriends with me but i seem to consistency pushing them away. not on purpose of course. i really want to do something with my life but have no idea what. When I asked my psychologist what can i do about it he said there is no solution. i use to play guitar and violin but i quitted both. what should i do in order to finish the things that i do?

Distorted part: i got a social phobia even though people at my school are trying to befriends with me but i seem to consistency pushing them away.
Dominant distortion: Mind Reading
Patient question: I’ve been attending therapy for several months now and just recently (last three times) my therapist has been coming out about 20 minutes late and often ending early. She never acknowledges it, but a 50-minute session was 20 minutes. Is this an attempt to communicate something? I do struggle with talk therapy; I began going because it’s something you’re supposed to do after a suicide attempt (6 months ago due to amalgamation of MDD, fertility/hormonal issues, eating disorder, job stress, and childhood trauma). I spend a fair amount of time staring at the carpet during appointments because I don’t know what to say. I have been in therapy before, and I did the same thing, so it’s not on her. I feel like I may not have the personality for this to be successful or I’ve made her uncomfortable, but she doesn’t want to push someone seen as vulnerable over the edge, so instead she just turns up late. Is this a thing?

Distorted part: I feel like I may not have the personality for this to be successful or I’ve made her uncomfortable, but she doesn’t want to push someone seen as vulnerable over the edge, so instead she just turns up late.
Dominant distortion: Personalization
Secondary distortion: Mind Reading
Patient question: From Pakistan: I talk to myself all the time.i am doing this far as long as i can remember.what i do is that i create a lot of people in my mind and a story plot and then i start acting it out. i do it aloud and acted out the part of every person i created .i prolong single story for weeks at a time. it seems like my stories age with me. when i was a kid , stories were kid stories like a family of ants, talking animals, miniature people living in forest. but as i get older my stories became more of adult kind. now these are about couples, family issues or on friends.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: From a young man in Serbia: I Lack of apathy and emotional disconnection from everything. Brain feels like it’s off and that I’m only acting on impulse. I’m 20′ I’ve diagnosed myself as having Code F32.2, (Episodium depressivum non psychoticum, gradus majoris**)**

Distorted part: I Lack of apathy and emotional disconnection from everything.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: From the U.S.: My older sister (first child) has only worked apx 12 years in her entire life and is almost 60. We had a traumatic childhood with an alcoholic mother, father died when she was almost 4. She never worked as a teen as my brother and I did, she stole mom’s credit cards and maxed them, ran up phone bill talking to boyfriend who was deployed to Guam. In short never had any initiative to support herself.

Distorted part: In short never had any initiative to support herself.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: From a teen in Australia: Lately I’ve been feeling no point to life and I can never think straight. My home life is horrible as i have an abusive older sister who i used to be very close with and now my parents always yell at me and call me the abusive one. I have often panic attacks, i vomited recently after a traumatic event and i can never walk away from my technology no matter how hard i try. My school life is also horrible as i feel that not even my closest friends trust and rely on me and i think i cant rely on them most of the time anyways.

Distorted part: My home life is horrible as i have an abusive older sister who i used to be very close with and now my parents always yell at me and call me the abusive one. I have often panic attacks, i vomited recently after a traumatic event and i can never walk away from my technology no matter how hard i try.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Secondary distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient question: From the U.S.:So, long story short; 9 years ago when I was 30 I was diagnosed with severe obstructive sleep apnea. I am dead certain I was born this way and was plagued by emotional/cognitive/social/personality problems all throughout my childhood. I was always a weird kid, something was off, but no one ever knew what it was. There was some speculation as to whether I had Aspergers, but I didn’t quite fit that diagnosis.

Distorted part: I am dead certain I was born this way and was plagued by emotional/cognitive/social/personality problems all throughout my childhood.
Dominant distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient question: From a teen in India: So I am reading about this character. Let’s call him A. Now A is very careless and carefree, he doesn’t think of the consequences of his actions, he lives for the moment and has a “do what you feel, YOLO”; kind of attitude. He’s very materialistic and overindulgent, spending a great deal of money on clothes and possessions. He spends most of his time partying and having fun.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: I have been having this “problem” for a while. Initially I didn´t think it was bad, I just thought it was part of my personality. However, I have seen, for a few years, that it is an obstacle. I don´t seem to understand feelings. I know, in theory, what they are, but when i have to interpret them or understand why they are happening, I get confused and frustrated. I have emotions and feelings, that much I know. I usually see the world in a more logical manner, as much as possible, but i can’t run from feelings and when an emotional situation occurs (with me or others) i try to put it together but it’s too complex for me, which I think it’s odd because other people around me comprehend them so easily. For example, I know how anger, happiness, etc, looks like, but in a real-life situation, I can’t understand them or why people express them with such ease. Maybe it’s a skill that I should have learned when I was a kid? Should I tell someone? (from Portugal)

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: Sometimes I pray in my head to god( I’m not sure I believe) but anyways I will ask for things I’m afraid of to not happen to me but my voice in my head will say the opposite. Over the course of four years I’ll ask for god to not take my arms (for some reason this is a huge fear of mine) and the voice will ask to take them and then I’ll have to bed in my head to god to not take them and to disregard my inner head voice. And it puts me into a helpless panic attack. Even though I know it’s an irrational thought and I know it’s stupid it puts me into a deep fear and it affects my days. I find it hard to do anything because my mind is consumed with the fear of losing a limb. It’s makes me feel like doing things I normally like a pointless because what happens if I lose a limb and it happens and it just terrifies me I don’t know how to get rid of this affliction even though I know it is dumb. But it feels so real and it affects me physically like racing heart and crying out of frustration. What could be causing this? Trauma? Rejection? Please any info or if anyone has experienced this or know if this is a normal anxiety for people? Please. It frightens me I feel so helpless. (From Canada)

Distorted part: find it hard to do anything because my mind is consumed with the fear of losing a limb.
Dominant distortion: Fortune-telling
Secondary distortion: Magnification
Patient question: I am nineteen years old and I have had social phobia and depression off and on since I was a young child. I grew up in a loving and non-violent family and I generally do not consider myself to be a violent person. We had some pets when I was growing up, a rabbit we had when I was seven, a cat when I was ten and another when I was twelve, and several fish in between.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: From the U.S.: Last year, I woke my wife up for sex. This has occurred numerous times throughout our marriage (by both parties) and there was never an issue raised. There were times (when she would wake me and when we were both already awake) when I didn’t want to have sex and never said anything because I didn’t want to disappoint her. Anyway, on the night in question, I unknowingly triggered a flashback to trauma which occurred years before we met that she had never told me about. She did not say or do anything in order to get me to stop. If I had known for even one moment, I would have stopped. It was months later that I even found out it was unwanted. Before and during the assault, I was hurt and felt betrayed by her and also thought I was being petty even feeling betrayed. I know that I should have spoken to her about that instead of trying to replace my negative feelings of her with positive feelings of providing her pleasure.

Distorted part: I know that I should have spoken to her about that instead of trying to replace my negative feelings of her with positive feelings of providing her pleasure.
Dominant distortion: Should statements
Patient question: My husband has APD. I have 2 questions please. Could u give me a good contact for the specific psychotherapist which do specialize in sociopathy in Las Vegas? Nobody is able to help me and regular psychiatrist is not able to understand sociopathy issues here.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question:  I have a client that I am trying to help get in touch with mental health services. He has previously been diagnosed with schizophrenia, PTSD, and borderline personality disorder. I was recently told that it isn’t possible to have both schizophrenia and borderline personality disorder. Is this true, and if so what is the reasoning?

Dominant distortion: No Distortion
Patient question: From a teen in the U.S.: When I found out my cousin died I went back to bed and fell asleep. When I found out my grandma had a seizure I just kept eating my lunch. When I found out a friend of mine had a brain tumor I just kept eating and continued to eat the candy I had in front of me all while I was in deep thought.

Dominant distortion: No Distortion