Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
Patient Question: My parents have been divorced for 19 years. I grew up with my mother and grandma in her house. During my childhood, my grandma would tell me horrible things about my father such as that he abandoned me, that he doesn’t care about me, etc. which resulted in me not having any kind of relationship with my father up until my late teen years when we started rebuilding it. He and my mother don’t talk and she is convinced that my father wants to turn me against her and this is the reason for many terrible arguments I am having with her which sometimes end in her issuing an ultimatum- either I’ll act the way she wants me to or I can pack my bags and move to my dad’s place. She also claims that I don’t love her or care about her and that I will always prefer my father over her which is not true because for my whole life I wanted them to get along and respect each other. On the other hand, my dad won’t visit me at my place because he could run into my mom since I am living with her. He does hate my mom for all the thing she did to him in the past and is avoiding her completely while she blames him for everything bad that happened to her. Recently my mom started seeing a neuropsychiatrist who diagnosed her with depression and anxiety. Because of that I sometimes avoid certain topics for discussion because I’m afraid she would judge me or get angry with me. For these reasons, I don’t feel close to either one of them nor I have the freedom to talk about my problems with them. Often I feel like they pressure me into picking a side and I am tired of being in that position.I care about them both equally and my love for them could not be measured. Picking a side would only mean hurting one of them. I feel trapped and I don’t know how to act or what to do anymore. (From Sarajevo)
Distorted part: Because of that I sometimes avoid certain topics for discussion because I’m afraid she would judge me or get angry with me.
Dominant Distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient Question: My husband and I have been married close to 8 months, weeks prior to our marriage he started to slap me, hold me down, forced me to stay in the house, slap me if I don’t look him in the eyes when he’s talking his anger would last until he felt better. It would be about small things, small fights, things that should be an argument or a conversation and then it’s either better or worse, but he could never control his anger. I remember the day before our paper marriage we fought about something so small I cannot remember it, and I told him I was tired of how he treated me and I didn’t want to marry him. He then slapped me, screamed at me, got on top of me, forced me to stand up if he wanted or sit down if he wanted, forcibly put his hands over my mouth when I cried, and told me to shut up before anyone heard me. This was all in his mother’s home, and his brother and mother did nothing to stop it. Later I found out, his mother had anger problems as well, when she would get mad at her son she would scream, throw wooden boxes at his head and give him a concussion, use any object to hurt him not caring what it was the only thing she didn’t use were knives.
Distorted part: It would be about small things, small fights, things that should be an argument or a conversation and then it’s either better or worse, but he could never control his anger.
Dominant Distortion: Should statements
Patient Question: I had my third and last baby 9 months ago. I have 3 girls. I have longed for a boy and will never have one. My sister and brother in law had their first child and it’s a boy. I was/am heartbroken. It’s the first grandchild that’s a boy so it’s a hot topic. On top of it all, I just found out my sister in law went in to the hospital with zero pain and was fully dilated and had the baby. I went through 3 very hard medicated difficult deliveries. I am relieved it all went safely for them but I cannot overcome this feeling of sadness and jealousy. I don’t even want to go and see the baby cause I cannot bear hearing any of the “easy delivery” comments and first boy comments. I feel terrible but it is how I feel. And it hurts.
Distorted part: I am relieved it all went safely for them but I cannot overcome this feeling of sadness and jealousy. I don’t even want to go and see the baby cause I cannot bear hearing any of the “easy delivery” comments and first boy comments.
Dominant Distortion: Magnification
Secondary Distortion: Mental filter
Patient Question: I’m 23 years old and I live with my parents. I keep lying to them about college. I want to major in dietetics but I keep having problems with chemistry and I need it to actually claim dietetics as my major and I’m taking the needed nutrition courses for it in the meantime. The problem though is that I need an internship for dietetics to gain experience and I can’t qualify for one until chemistry is passed. I keep lying to my parents about my graduation date. It happens without me even thinking about it! The lies just come out. Sometimes I just want to disappear and my self-esteem and confidence are at an all-time low. I feel pathetic because I’m also jealous of my 19-year-old cousin and 14-year-old brother. They know what they want to do with themselves and it took me this long to figure out what I want to do. My brother is seeing a therapist for his issues and I don’t want to add to the problems. I love my family too much to want to hurt them but every time my doubts pop into my head they sound like my entire family berating me and tearing me down even though I know they wouldn’t do that. I feel like I’m going to drive myself crazy! Disappointing them is my worst fear and I hate when I feel like I’ve done that. The year before that I had admitted to them I was lying about doing well in school and now I’ve lied to them again. I’m sorry I just needed to vent. I’d usually talk to my uncle about this but I thought I was already past all of this shit. My parents deserve a better daughter. One who doesn’t have all of these problems.
Distorted part: Sometimes I just want to disappear and my self-esteem and confidence are at an all-time low.  My parents deserve a better daughter. One who doesn’t have all of these problems.
Dominant Distortion: Personalization
Secondary Distortion: Should statements
Patient Question: From a young man in South Africa: What is the emotional issues caused by my mother passing about 2 months after my birth. Simply stated in facts is that I was born in August. 1980. My father(not married or interested in me or my mom) passed away that September from diabetes. My mother then died after an horrific car accident on her way to fetch me from a state owned foster care, also in September. She was banned from her family because of me being born out of wedlock.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: Recently, I have been imagining and having visions of people being killed. I have had multiple dreams where people have been killed, mostly stabbed, in all of which I have killed them. Murder has never appealed to me until quite recently and I find this very weird. I frequently have visions of random people being killed in some way and sometimes, if I’m stood in a large crowd and am feeling particularly anxious I see multiple people being murdered around me. It doesn’t scare me or disturb me, in fact it comforts me, strangely. My friends aren’t scared of me but I am scared of myself, especially since I sometimes have sudden urges to kill someone when they do something as small as call me a name. I often feel like I have no control over my actions and I do things without thinking. I am worried that I am going to do something bad at some point and I feel as if I have no control over what I might do. I would really appreciate some advice. Thank you.
Distorted part: My friends aren’t scared of me but I am scared of myself, especially since I sometimes have sudden urges to kill someone when they do something as small as call me a name.   I am worried that I am going to do something bad at some point and I feel as if I have no control over what I might do. 
Dominant Distortion: Magnification
Secondary Distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient Question: I suffered from traumatic brain injury and have sense found out that i have a higher chance for certain conditions like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s disease. Since finding out i do not want to enter any love relationship because i feel it is unfair to ask someone to be ok with the higher risk involved with that. Is there any kind of mental illness that could be causing me to feel this way or am I kist choosing to live my life alone even though I am lonely?
Distorted part: I suffered from traumatic brain injury and have sense found out that i have a higher chance for certain conditions like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s disease. Since finding out i do not want to enter any love relationship because i feel it is unfair to ask someone to be ok with the higher risk involved with that.
Dominant Distortion: Overgeneralization
Secondary Distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Patient Question: From a teen girl in the U.S.: I haven’t been able to interact with people normally at any point in my life. When I was in elementary school I was extremely aggressive and prone to tantrums far past the age where that behavior is normal. This behavior continued into jr high and high school. My tantrums went from scratching my arms up and screaming to punching myself, banging my head on walls, hitting myself in the face, biting my arms and making non human sounds. I’ve never had control of these outbursts. They’re almost always triggered by other people, especially if I’m cornered or they stand to close to me. They’re embarrassing, I have no control over them, I’m an adult woman, I don’t want to have temper tantrums like a 5 year old.
Distorted part: When I was in elementary school I was extremely aggressive and prone to tantrums far past the age where that behavior is normal.  They’re almost always triggered by other people, especially if I’m cornered or they stand to close to me.
Dominant Distortion: Should statements
Secondary Distortion: Personalization
Patient Question: From a teen in the U.S.: I’m not sure if it’s just my anxiety, but I’ve been feeling like I’m acting differently even though I don’t have proof I am. I have been feeling a little more anxious lately, but I’ve been able to handle it. I have been experiencing some depersonalisation, could be because I’ve been living in a basement and I rarely go outside anymore or even upstairs. I might be depressed, and really I want to know how to get over that. I just hope this isn’t something worse. I just really want to feel back to normal and take control of my life again. I really don’t want to lose control of myself. That has been a fear of mine since I first got sick with anxiety a few months ago.
Distorted part: I’m not sure if it’s just my anxiety, but I’ve been feeling like I’m acting differently even though I don’t have proof I am.
Dominant Distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Patient Question: Sometimes when someone does me wrong I will bring it up to them the next I see them. I’m very bold in my expression I am calm but usually I will be insulting and ask them why they did it. I’m usually quite the ass and wish them the worst luck in life. Simply because I believe that everyone should show some remorse for being rotten. Most people don’t seem to care less and say that I need professional help. I guess my question is do I? When I talk about these situations I’m not talking about simple mistakes. For example a woman I met in a online dating site 7 years ago after 3 weeks of deep conversation suddenly broke all communications and that was it. No explanation. I let it go. But today I saw her on the same site still and basically told her that it was a bs thing to do and that I’m glad she’s still struggling to find love because she didn’t even give me a chance and that’s what she gets for not even trying. She says I should seek help. It’s not normal to hold that kinda anger. Thing is I haven’t thought about her in years. Just suddenly seen her today and messaged her that simply because it would have taken 2 sentences of saying sorry not interested instead of just ignoring someone with no reason. Do I need help? Because this type of situation has happened often in my life.
Distorted part: I’m very bold in my expression I am calm but usually I will be insulting and ask them why they did it. I’m usually quite the ass and wish them the worst luck in life. Simply because I believe that everyone should show some remorse for being rotten.
Dominant Distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Patient Question: its very hard to explain how I feel, I cant really explain my emotions at all, being in a relationship is hard because I feel like I cant talk about what im feeling in a way that I think will make sense to other people. I tend to feel like im somehow not in control of my thoughts at all, its one thought after another sometimes with no connection at all I doubt myself so much, ill constantly think that what I feel is wrong and I shouldn’t even feel or think the way I do but I cant stop it. I sometimes feel like im not myself or sometimes ill catch myself feeling more “awake” or “aware” sometimes I feel like I see myself in a different perspective almost as if I was not even in control of myself or even was myself. I cant hold a job because I have extremely bad anxiety. I kind of feel like im going crazy for feeling or thinking the way I do. I just want to know if I need to seek help maybe this is normal and everybody else feels like this?
Distorted part: I tend to feel like im somehow not in control of my thoughts at all, its one thought after another sometimes with no connection at all I doubt myself so much, ill constantly think that what I feel is wrong and I shouldn’t even feel or think the way I do but I cant stop it.  I cant hold a job because I have extremely bad anxiety.
Dominant Distortion: Should statements
Secondary Distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient Question: I just found out today that a close friend of mine was raped last year. I only learned this from my best friend whom she told but I don’t want to ruin their friendship. I want to see this bastard who did it behind bars and want to report what happened but I’m scared there’s not enough evidence to convict or even find the guy. I love her like family and I’m enraged about this issue, what do I do? Report it with a chance of failure and her hating me? Or not say anything and let it fade away.
Distorted part: I want to see this bastard who did it behind bars and want to report what happened but I’m scared there’s not enough evidence to convict or even find the guy.
Dominant Distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient Question: From the U.S.: I divorced several years ago after 18 years in an abusive marriage.  I have been dating an old friend from college for over 1 year.  This man is very gentle and kind, and does a lot of nice things for me.  He spends most of his free time with me when possible, but he lives an hour away.  He always makes the drive to see me, and comes 2-3 times a week to do things or hang out with me.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: Been married about 10mth. We’ve known each other 10 years, mostly not together as he is from overseas. He moved to the US and we got married recently. Seemed a bit homesick and perhaps depressed after a few months, but that’s it. Recently he started not coming home. It started small. He was late from work or school, didn’t text or respond to texts or calls. Then he just wouldn’t come home until next day and wouldn’t say or would just say be home late and ignore any follow-up question. After the first few times, he explained that he was bored or unhappy and it just built up until it was just exploding. I told him that he could spend time with friends but he should have respect for me and keep me updated. After that he proceeded to stay away for 5 days, texting me daily that he would be home that night. He even apologized and proceeded to stay away another two days. He eventually came home but now we are in another week+ period. There has been no real explanation other than saying he is having fun, just an unreliable person, he wants to make sure it is clear in his mind before he explains it, and it has to do with us. The behavior has been extremely cruel, not explaining what is wrong and just giving the silent treatment. I could never imagine doing that to someone I love. He has done similar things in past but were not living together – they involved silent treatment that lasted a week until I could get him to explain – usually some kind of perceived idea about how I will react to something. He does not really communicate his feelings. He does not take criticism well. He makes few decisions and procrastinates. He is always late. He shows no anger. I asked him to go to our PCP but told him just a checkup re potential depression. He agreed, came home and he went to do laundry and never came back – without a coat in cold, later texting he felt I was pushing/controlling him. He said the problem was us-me (no detail) and cancel the appt. We are now at the point where he says he loves and misses me but is not ready to come home. Any idea what could be causing this or how I can help?
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: My mother is cheating on my dad I know this since she started acting different she is not as caring as she was she is always yelling at me and my siblings and is always on her. She never lets me or my siblings or even my father touch he phone because she’ll get mad. My mom is pretty ypung she is 34 and she got a surgery to become skinnier and now men are texting her because she looks more “sexy”and she is always replying to them and she even had a boyfriend online who had a girlfriend and she didn’t even care about that she is very selfish and thinks that she is the best looking person she has become lazy since she has lost weight because of the sugery she doesn’t cook or clean and her and my dad always get into problems because of her not spending time with her family but instead on her phone to be honest I don’t know what to do I don’t want to confront her because i feel she will get mad but i also am soo angry and upset that she can’t just divorce my father who I don’t really have a good relationship because he is always judging me and yelling at everyone he will even get mad at us his children because we didn’t got out with our mom to check on her he has extreme trust issues and and i just feel like is better for them to get divorced they argued every day and don’t care about how there children feel I just want this family problems to stop i want my mom to stop cheating on my dad and to treat us better and i want my father to stop arguing soo much with his family. Im sorry thus is very bad written but English isn’t my first language and i need the help this is eating me alive.
Distorted part: My mom is pretty ypung she is 34 and she got a surgery to become skinnier and now men are texting her because she looks more “sexy”and she is always replying to them and she even had a boyfriend online who had a girlfriend and she didn’t even care about that she is very selfish and thinks that she is the best looking person she has become lazy since she has lost weight because of the sugery she doesn’t cook or clean and her and my dad always get into problems because of her not spending time with her family but instead on her phone to be honest I don’t know what to do I don’t want to confront her because i feel she will get mad but i also am soo angry and upset that she can’t just divorce my father who I don’t really have a good relationship because he is always judging me and yelling at everyone he will even get mad at us his children because we didn’t got out with our mom to check on her he has extreme trust issues and and i just feel like is better for them to get divorced they argued every day and don’t care about how there children feel I just want this family problems to stop i want my mom to stop cheating on my dad and to treat us better and i want my father to stop arguing soo much with his family.
Dominant Distortion: Mind Reading
Secondary Distortion: Labeling
Patient Question: I recently found out that my parents told their friends and my boyfriend-now-husband that they gave me pretty sexualized spankings when I was in my late teens. They described them in sexualized detail, or mentioned them in a sexual way in a passing comment. I don’t remember any of them happening. I think they’re lying, but have no idea why. I do know that, without explanation, I am very shy sexually in regards to my butt and positions similar to one’s they described spanking me in. However, I am very adventurous in every other sexual way.
Distorted part: I think they’re lying, but have no idea why.
Dominant Distortion: Mind Reading
Patient Question: From a teen guy in the U.S.: I’ve always been uncomfortable with affection. When I feel like I’ve been wronged I can completely cut someone out of my life and could care less about them. Even some of my close relatives. I realized that I don’t really care at all about things I should care about. I realized today that if my parents were to sit me down and tell me that they didn’t love me at all, I would absolutely not mind at all. I wouldn’t be hurt at all and the first thought that would come to mind would be, if I could still live in my house. I don’t think this is normal or is it?
Distorted part: I realized that I don’t really care at all about things I should care about.
Dominant Distortion: Should statements
Patient Question: My therapist says i am “emotionally detached.” In the past i have been told i could have autism. My husband thinks i am a sociopath. I have little to no emotion and can’t quite understand, nor do i care, about the emotions of others. i am beyond antisocial and hate socializing or being around people. i have absolutely no interest in human interaction. I have had homicidal thoughts for most of my life and have been deemed “mentally unstable and a threat to society.” I am unable to form bonds with others, but i can with objects and animals. The death of family members has no effect on me and never really has. My question is, what could this be? is it simply emotional detachment? or could it be autism or sociopathy? how do i go about getting diagnosed and tested if need be?
Distorted part: i am beyond antisocial and hate socializing or being around people.   i have absolutely no interest in human interaction.
Dominant Distortion: Magnification
Secondary Distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient Question: My husband had major anger issues. We have been together for 8 years and have 3 kids together. I never feel like I can say what I want because I’m scared he’s going to react. I do everything in the home. All he has is to do is work. He snaps at the kids almost daily when he wakes up. He works graveyard. He never asks them how their days are or makes them feel like they are doing anything right. Our problem is that I defend them constantly and he doesn’t like that I take their side. Tonight, he snapped at our daughter for getting soap in her eye. I stepped in and told him to get out because I’ve seen/heard enough.
Distorted part: I never feel like I can say what I want because I’m scared he’s going to react.
Dominant Distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Secondary Distortion: Fortune-telling
Patient Question: I’m 23 years old, I’m finishing my studies, and I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years. My parents never wanted to know him cause he isn’t the looking good type, that they imagined to me (cause he is bald, without status and money). However he’s a nice independent man (he got his own house and car) with 28 years old, I love him, he is very honest and kind to me. He always treated me well and despite my parent’s attempts to separate us.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion