Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
Patient Question: One month ago my 14 year old daughter texted me from school saying that my husband (her stepdad) had asked her to change her shirt in front of him while I wasn’t home, and that he had also came into the bathroom while she was in the shower and ruffled the curtain and said “let me see”. I was devastated because I never ever thought something like this could happen. He has moved out now, and has promised to go to counseling. My question is if families are able to come back from something like this or not, and also, if he gets help and apologized to her and I make sure all precautions are in place so this never happens again, if it’s horrible for me to expect her to be ok with letting him move back in. We have two sons together and I want our family to stay intact. He is an incredible person and provider. He has been very depressed since the passing of his father. He admitted to it and cried for a whole week because he feels so horrible for what he has done. I know on he inside he is a good person. I’m just blown away that this happened. I want to protect my daughter above all else. I’ve told him if he moves back in and anything like this happened again I would report it and he would lose his kids. He swears it was just a glitch and he was just depressed and he is very, very sorry for it and he would never do it again. He did not ever touch her, and when he asked that of her she said no, so he didn’t see her at all. It was mostly just words but I know words can be the most hurtful. I really just want to know if you think it’s possible for us to keep our family together if everyone gets some therapy and help. Thank you for your time!
Distorted part: I know on he inside he is a good person.
Dominant Distortion: Labeling
Patient Question: From the U.S.: I believe I am bi-polar. I don’t believe in talk therapy, but something is wrong with my head. I don’t know how else to describe this. I am an educator and have serious issues with the fact that I can not control my own brain. Can you tell me how a psychologist or psychiatrist could actually help me without just explaining their job? What kind of help could they give me besides medicine- which I have?
Distorted part: I am an educator and have serious issues with the fact that I can not control my own brain.
Dominant Distortion: Magnification
Patient Question: From a teen in the U.S.: I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 6 months now. In the beginning I was super excited about it and I was really happy. I was a virgin going into the relationship and I had planned on keeping it that way. On the other hand, he was not a virgin and pretty experienced in sex. even before we were dating, he would try to put his hands down my pants, take off my shirt, etc. I always said no and got uncomfortable but he would do it anyway.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: I have been picking at my skin since I was around 8. I’m 20 now and the bottoms of my feet are hard and calloused and I reguarly peel skin off them until they bleed, making it hard to walk. I struggle with depression and anxiety and I was wondering it this behavior is tied to those? I want to stop. But I don’t know how. Does this count as self harm? I have cut and burned before but I haven’t dont that since I was 18.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question:  Let me start by saying that my husband is a great guy, but I believe he is a very selfish person which I think may lead him into getting mad about things so easily. It could even be as simple as picking up something and if it’s an inconvenience for him, he’ll get very short with me and you can hear his voice change and I know he’s mad, I ask what is wrong and he gets very irritated with me. He’ll start fighting with me and yelling over the stupidest things, like asking him what is wrong. He claims that I’m always starting stuff and playing games but I honestly am not doing that. I just want him to be happy and our lives to be turbulance free. He always feels bad later on, we’ll talk and feel like I got through to him but then a week later, it’ll happen again. I guess I’m feeling very disrespected by him and starting to resent him for the way he treats me.
Distorted part: Let me start by saying that my husband is a great guy, but I believe he is a very selfish person which I think may lead him into getting mad about things so easily.
Dominant Distortion: Labeling
Secondary Distortion: Mind Reading
Patient Question: I have a 5 year old daughter and am pregnant by my current boyfriend of the last two years. He put a camera in the bathroom at my mom’s house. We have never had any issues and he has always treated my daughter as his own. I need some advice on what others would do? I want him in the delivery room when I go into labor but my family thinks it’s the wrong choice. He was arrested for unlawful eavesdropping and survalince. He was bonded out after 2 days. My parents think I am a bad parent for wanting him to be there knowing what he did. I need to know what others think because I love my kids and never want to lose them and at this time my parents are telling me they will take my kids. And they know I would never let that happen. I have always been controlled by my parents and they feel like their own opinion is the only and right one. Please help and give me your honest opinion. My dad feels like I need to talk to a therapist and this is a lot for a pregnant woman to handle without someone to talk to. I think my parents are taking it too far to say that since he did this he will mess with my kids. The camera was also never used and had to be used within my mom’s home so I don’t think he knew how it worked before putting it there.
Distorted part: have always been controlled by my parents and they feel like their own opinion is the only and right one.
Dominant Distortion: Mind Reading
Secondary Distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient Question: I am a separated woman that was involved with a married man for a year. It started innocently by me taking my daughter to her friends house. Through this I met ‘Vaughn’. We just talked about the kids and school. We saw each other through these drop offs and pick ups about 5 times a week. I learned his wife traveled on business 2 weeks out of the month. My then husband and I were in the process of divorce.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: I would not consider this an “issue.” However I am curious to understand the potential reasoning’s behind this. Usually I spend a great majority of my free time in solitude, I don’t bother having social interactions with others (family or acquaintances) because quite frankly it is not enjoyable or particularly interesting. As far as intimacy goes I absolutely disdain love and affection. My childhood was great, and I do not have any family issues currently or from the past. I simply find that love and affection disgusts me. I realized that when I was 12, my mother would shower me with love and it would completely irritate me and grind my gears. She knows now that I do not like that so she stopped. The issue however, is my lack of any emotion and care for others. I am an introvert, but most introverts have some kind of social interactions with close friends or acquaintances. I however don’t have friends since most people cant meet my expectations and when I am friendly to someone they associate that with interest and they start to become annoying and wanting to have a conversation. I usually show them I am uninterested by replying with single words or expressing no emotion on my face until its awkward and they say goodbye. I cant connect with people at all on an emotional level is what I realized I don’t care about the persons dreams, desires, emotions or well-being for that matter. This may come across as very blunt and rude. But I don’t even care about my parents in the same manor I don’t care about other people. I don’t mind socializing so long as there is a clear goal (work or educational space). I don’t enjoy communicating with people for enjoyment. My lack of intimacy is probably a direct result of my disinterest with socializing with people. That being said feedback on this would be much appreciated.
Distorted part: My lack of intimacy is probably a direct result of my disinterest with socializing with people.
Dominant Distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient Question: From a woman in Iran: I have found out that I have a really bad personality problem; here it is: When someone that I care about makes me angry repeatedly (for things like not answering my phone calls), I talk aggressively and bittingly to him/her. The result will be his/her anger and stop being kind with me. Then I feel ambivalent. On one hand, I’m sad and guilty because of my impolite talking and nagging; on the other hand, I believe that person is the one that made me mad and he/she deserved my rude words. At least I could show my anger and I now I feel catharcised.
Distorted part: On one hand, I’m sad and guilty because of my impolite talking and nagging; on the other hand, I believe that person is the one that made me mad and he/she deserved my rude words.
Dominant Distortion: Personalization
Patient Question: From a teen in the U.S.: My parents have been separated for 2 years. At first I was very upset with my mom because she cheated on my father. Eventually I’ve grown past the anger I felt towards her but my dad is still very bitter. She got a lot of my dads money in the divorce, he is obviously upset about that which I understand. I feel like the details of their divorce and the problems in their marriage are none of my business which is why I try my best to stay out of it.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: A friend of mine has unsupportive parents when it comes to being LGBT. His mother screamed at the TV when a commercial involving a queer couple came on. I was wondering if a therapist would help them. I know there are counseling groups specifically for this, but I don’t know of any in Minnesota. How should he approach his mother about this? He is a minor, and a parent would have to accompany him for his first appointment, and pay for it, and sign him up in the first place.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: From a teen in the U.S.: I have been unable to find what anxiety disorder I am suffering from for years, and when I had a therapist years back, she never diagnosed me either. I’ve been able to manage it thoroughly and in a healthy manner, but I want to have an official diagnosis (or a predicted diagnosis) in order to finally replace “I have an anxiety disorder”with “I have _____”.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years now. He lives with me. Sometimes he is very cold to my son. He is a quiet guy that does not really like to be bothered. He gets annoyed with me too when I bug him. He has said that he is the type of guy that shouldn’t be in a relationship because he likes his space. Well, last night was the last straw for me. My son had gotten him something for father’s day (not his dad) and he brought it over to his desk tried to talk to him and he said not right now and my son was yelling over him saying it’s important and my boyfriend yelled at him and he started crying and came and told me. I went in and talked to my boyfriend and he said it doesn’t matter what he needed to talk to me about he needs to wait. Then later my son came in again to apologize to him for bothering him and yelled at him again. I really think I’ve had it with this. I love my boyfriend and sometimes him and my son have lots of fun together, he’s been around since he was 2. He’s 8 now. But This happens too much and my son should not be treated this way. Am I making the right decision breaking up with him or should I talk to him and see if things change?
Distorted part: But This happens too much and my son should not be treated this way.
Dominant Distortion: Should statements
Patient Question: From the U.S.: I’ve been diagnosed with GAD. My past includes one episode of Major Depression. I have had anxiety as far back as my memory serves, into early childhood. I’ve also been court ordered , around twenty five years previously , to attend anger management counseling.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: I went to my first therapy appointment last week, and I’m really upset about it. I think I found a great therapist, and I was really looking forward to meeting her and getting started, but right before therapy, I got so anxious. I started shaking when we for into her office, which she noticed and started asking me about it, which made me even more uncomfortable. Then, we started talking about my past (I’ve been depressed since adolescence, went to therapy then, even spent some time in the hospital), and she tried to go through all of my history, but I was still so anxious, that I could barely talk to her, and she didn’t even try to calm me down. At times I started to cry, but I don’t know if she was going too fast or just asking hard questions, but probably both. She wants to talk about stuff like aggression in family, sexuality and so on in next session, but I don’t think I can handle it so fast. I’m not yet comfortable with her, and now I’m even more uncomfortable. I’m practically scared of seeing that therapist again, even though I still believe she’s the best one I could find. Should I email her, explain what happened and ask her if we can go slower? Also, I could use some kind of milder approach, because she seems very strict, cold and distant. Would it be okay to ask nicely for that too? I’m not sure I can work or even talk to her if this keeps happening. *Thank you very much.*
Distorted part: Then, we started talking about my past (I’ve been depressed since adolescence, went to therapy then, even spent some time in the hospital), and she tried to go through all of my history, but I was still so anxious, that I could barely talk to her, and she didn’t even try to calm me down.
Dominant Distortion: Magnification
Secondary Distortion: Mental filter
Patient Question: From the U.S.: A few years back, I went through the worst 3 plus years of my life. This was all without telling anyone, simply dealing with it – every second of the day. I was hearing voices, thousands times a day I would hear different statements, and I finally could not take it. I broke down, sent to the hospital emergency, and then Baker Acted for 5 days. Removal only if 3 expert psychiatrists, deemed me ready to leave. I was so desperate to get out of this depressing, unhealthy prison setting.
Distorted part: I was hearing voices, thousands times a day I would hear different statements, and I finally could not take it.
Dominant Distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient Question: From the U.S. My wife (in her 60s) refuses to eat or drink anything. We have a tube in her stomach for the nourishment that she needs to get by on. She has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, but we don’t know what to diagnose her non eating and drinking problems. She can’t walk on her own and the only time she gets out of bed is to go to the bathroom and I have to help her get there. Do know of any illnesses that deal with non eating or drinking problems?
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: Just some background on the situation: I’ve lived with my father and my step mother for 3 ½ years after social services intervened and moved me and my little sister away from my birth mother. My little sister went back to live with my mother very quickly, but I stayed up here.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: From a teen in the U.S.: My boyfriend has no trust for me due to past relationships. He is extremely jealous and gets mad when I talk to other guys at all (even if they’re gay or a close family friend). I love him and would do anything for him. He took my virginity and everything.
Distorted part: My boyfriend has no trust for me due to past relationships.
Dominant Distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient Question: I think I might have a social anxiety disorder. I get embarrassed very easily and of mostly everything. I cannot speak in front of an audience, when I have to in school I usually just don’t do it. I’ve been told I take criticism way too personally (by my mom). I get nausea when something I’m nervous about is going to happen (e.g. when I’m going to gym class because I’m not very athletic and I don’t like people watching me attempting to play a sport). I don’t like crowds, when I’m offered to go to the mall, or a restaurant, or even a relative’s house (that I’m not close to), I usually decline. I’m aware that I’m a very shy person, and should work on my confident issues. But I don’t though if I’m being dramatic about this. I’m scared to talk to my mom about it because I don’t want her to think that I’m being dramatic. And I don’t know why I’m scared because she’s a very good mother, and I’ve trusted her with a lot of secrets. One time she commented on me never wanting to go out with the family and said that I never want to spend time with them. But I do want to spend time with them, I think maybe I’m scared.
Distorted part: I’m aware that I’m a very shy person, and should work on my confident issues.  I’m scared to talk to my mom about it because I don’t want her to think that I’m being dramatic.
Dominant Distortion: Should statements
Secondary Distortion: Mind Reading
Patient Question: My mother is a great person, very talented, bright, amazing woman. But all her life was unstable, and have done a lot of things she seems to regret… My father especially, who she talks ill every single day. That’s where I come in for her. She calls me everyday, or wants me to call her and talk to her for hours. She wants me to support her financially ( I only turned 24) and I did support her for years now, and I never have enough to live myself! She is in good health does absolutely nothing but sits and does art and nothing else. She is in good health, she is very bright. But she doesn’t want to work, doesn’t want to do anything. She has no friend because she says that people are boring and man useless and boring to her. She tells me I am the only person that understands her! I feel we are like twins, she is always here! I cannot have my own life! She lives in Egypt and me here in LA, and still I feel her energy all the time. Draining me, so much sometimes I just want to disappear. I really want her to be happy, and to find her own life, her own path and leave me alone. I am so tired of being her whole life. I want my life back, I want to be me, I want to live. But every day I have to listen to all this problems. To how unhappy se is, how bored, how she hates relying on everyone for money, how no-one loves her. And all if it is not true! I mean it is because she made it this way, but it is not really. She can change everything. She loves playing the victim. But I feel I have to carry this life she CHOOSE for herself. And I don’t want to! Am I selfish to want my own life? To be free? To just call to say hello and chat, and be happy and light… Does it have to be so hard? Do I have to curry this burden… I just feel I do not live, I feel like I am just running around trying to apologize for her own choices… I am so tired of this. Please tell me what can I do…
Distorted part: She lives in Egypt and me here in LA, and still I feel her energy all the time.
Dominant Distortion: Magnification
Patient Question: My regular therapist is advising me to get a social life, because not having one can apparently have negative health consequences. As I am health conscious, I have been attempting to follow his advice for several months now, with no success. I don’t like people. I always prefer to be alone and have no desire for a social life. I want to give up and just live alone so badly, but my therapist insists that I should find a social life. This onerous task gives me terrible anxiety.
Distorted part: This onerous task gives me terrible anxiety.
Dominant Distortion: Mental filter
Patient Question: From the U.S.: I am a 23 year old graduate student who is in the process of re-evaluating my social life. For the past few years, making friends in my town where I go to school has turned into somewhat of a painful hardship. Because I am passionate about my faith and wanted to surround myself with people who I thought were decent and welcoming, rather than spend my years of undergrad years partying and neglecting my studies, I surrounded myself with people from religious activities, which became the focus of my social life during my undergrad years, believing that would be a decent and healthy environment.
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: From a 13 year old in the U.S.: The other day, my dad was cracking down on me for having 3 late assignments and made me stay up until midnight to finish them. After I completed them, I packed up my school things and went to my bedroom, passing through the kitchen. I did my usual nightly routine of grabbing a granola bar when I noticed that the knife set looked extremely friendly. I grabbed one and held it to my wrist, ready to add to my cut collection when Dad WOKE UP and CAME INTO THE KITCHEN! He grabbed the knife in anger, not in a concerned parent way, and yelled at me for being a stupid failure and that he wished that I could be like my younger sister. (My sister is an All-Star Basketball player for our school and has all As)
Dominant Distortion: No Distortion
Patient Question: About a week ago, I stumbled upon the fact that I am one day going to not exist on earth anymore. Ever since that realization, I cannot stop thinking about it and it’s ruining my life. I no longer find anything enjoyable and every time the thought comes up again, I get a strange feeling in my gut, similar to the feeling of a broken heart and I begin to have a sort of breakdown. I just want to stop thinking about it in total and go back to my normal life without this happening multiple times a day, almost every hour. Please, is there any way to fix or cope with this? I’m getting to the point where it is too hard to handle.
Distorted part: Ever since that realization, I cannot stop thinking about it and it’s ruining my life.
Dominant Distortion: Magnification
Patient Question: As of right now I’m wondering if her boyfriend is doing more harm than good. Me and my mom used to fight a lot worse. We all live under the same roof. Me, my son, her and her boyfriend. Her boyfriend has never liked me. He never says anything positive. Sure what he says may be true but I think it’s not helping. Me and my mom fight a lot but what I’m concerned about is her mood changes when her boyfriend is around. Like today we had a great day. Lots of laughing. We had our friend over and we were all in the spa and my son was splashing and things were great. I leave to take my son to baseball practice and when I return she is in complete hate mode towards me. And when I left we just had a fun day and things were good. I ask what’s wrong and she tells me “oh you don’t give me attitude one day and we’re fine?” I’m curious if it’s bad that whenever she’s with her boyfriend in her room all the talk between them is him talking negatively about me. I’m wondering if that would stress our situation and not make it any better because he’s there fueling her brain and reminding her what a f*** up her daughter is. Thanks for any response.
Distorted part: Her boyfriend has never liked me. He never says anything positive.
Dominant Distortion: Overgeneralization
Patient Question:  It seems like for the last couple of years (or somewhere around that margin) I’ve been having problems with just letting things go or mentally getting over something. For example, yesterday, I was in a book store, walking up to the counter, when I felt something hit my back. I looked down, and it was some kind of children’s rubber toy, and there was a stand near me that it could have fell off of if I bumped into it. However, I didn’t notice any such thing on the stand, and it landed on my back…
Distorted part: It seems like for the last couple of years (or somewhere around that margin) I’ve been having problems with just letting things go or mentally getting over something.
Dominant Distortion: Mental filter