Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
I’ve always been a quiet person; I enjoy reading books, listening to music or watching movies. I was like that when I was younger, when other kids were screaming, I was painting or playing quietly. I had friends who told me they wished I was dead, tried to drown me at the pool or always saying mean things, like I would never be good at anything. My mom talked to other parents but they didn’t mind. Growing up I was the same me, I didn’t like going to clubs or getting drunk but most of the people I knew did. I never criticized anyone, it just wasn’t for me. I’m 24 and I don’t have friends, most of people I know just want the same things they wanted at 21: alcohol, parties and whenever they see me with a book then ‘I’m a loser’. I do have a boyfriend. He finds interesting the way I am and doesn’t judge me for being like the others. He does have friends, and I feel sad when he’s sharing with his friends and I see it’s great but I never found that on my own. Most of his friends get along with me, they say I’m a good friend and I feel happy, but I would like to have my own friends too. My boyfriend’s a lot more social than me so even if he’s just watching a game with his friends I wish I could have something like that too. I went to a therapist and she told me I was an ‘old cat lady in a younger body’ and that I was depressed but I don’t feel like that, I just enjoy different things. I’d rather stay home and play board games than going out and forgetting everything the next day. I have gone to clubs, but I don’t like to go every weekend. That’s why most of the friends I had called me a freak until I decided I was sick of having friends who weren’t really nice, or when they stopped talking to me. Is there something wrong with me? Since everyone says I have to make an effort I don’t know if I have to change who I am so people can like me and not make fun of me. I wouldn’t like to, the ‘friend’ wouldn’t accept me as I am, that isn’t a friendship to me. (From Venezuela)

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.K.: The main issue that made me think I might have some problems is my incapacity to cry. I don’t even remember last time it happened (maybe more than 10 years ago). I never lose myself in memories and I am able to end a relationship (friends or partners) and never think again about them.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I am a 100% straight 36 year old male, married to my wife 31 for 14 years. We are both straight, moderately attractive and successful. Early in marriage I was quite jealous of any men that would hit on my wife. I was quite insecure. The past 5 years however, I have been pushing my wife into having sex with other men. I have read about cuckolds on the net, and I am not like what I read. I am not bi-curious, and I do not want to be humilated or enjoy that. I simply get incredibly aroused thinking about my very sexy wife having sex and being open and wild with another man, particular while I watch or perhaps participate with her. Is this a disorder or something I need therapy for? Why does this fantasy fill my head whenever I have sex with her and get me incredibly aroused? My wife has agreed that she is ready to try this with a friend of ours and she is beginning to enjoy the thought of trying it. I am actually looking forward to it. Is something wrong with me?

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I was quite insecure.'], 'answer_start': [211]}
We are raising our grandchild. She’s 10. Her mom (my step-daughter) abandoned her at 3 yrs. We’ve had custody since & she’s like my own. Her dad is schizophrenic & drug addict. She says she misses him often even though he was in jail for the 1st half of her life & they really haven’t bonded. They don’t spend much time together. Never unsupervised. Anyway when he got out of prison, he had 2 more kids with another girl. My grand loves that she has siblings. She also knows why she cant live with him/them. We figd. those kids would probably be taken from them at some point and thats what happened. Her dad OD’d & they drug tested all of them. They both failed & CPS took the kids. They also had drugs in their systems. He is in a rehab now. Not sure about his girlfriend. They don’t live close to us. My grand was expecting to see them last week for her half sister’s first bday party. The paternal grandparents don’t want her to know about any of this, but I don’t want to lie to her. I want her to know she can trust us. I do know she’s better not knowing every detail but I feel she can handle a PG version of the truth. She’s been mature hearing other truths about her parents in the past. I really need some advice on what to do this time. Thank you!

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I do know she’s better not knowing every detail but I feel she can handle a PG version of the truth.'], 'answer_start': [1026]}
From a 15 year old boy in Australia: Ever since I was a very small child I’ve felt disengaged from everyone else, as a 6-10 year old only having perhaps one real friend who I very rarely spent time with and many more friends that seemed very real to me but were in fact figments of my imagination I suppose. As well as this I spent most of my time reading. I think this may be built around the sexual abuse from an older boy who I thought I was one of my best friends, or my parents divorce. This has also affected my ability to trust people in my life now.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['This has also affected my ability to trust people in my life now.'], 'answer_start': [492]}
How does someone with a fear of doctors, and a trauma history, see a doctor like a “normal person?” I have tried different PCP’s through the years, and always have a similar experience. I never get through the Physical Examination: I become horribly uncomfortable, they guess my history, give me a PTSD diagnosis, tell me to get more therapy, and never call me back in.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My parents have said many times that I’m cold blooded because i don’t feel sad or pity when people die in terrorist attack like they do, i really don’t understand why i should, it’s not me. I tried to drown my sister out of jealousy but i played the victim so I didn’t get punished. I like to break friendships up and make my friends hate each other. I like to wreck other people’s groups. I like to twist people’s words to make them feel bad and apologize/’comfort’ me. I only want to become a surgeon when i graduate because i want to operate on people not because i want to help them and my mother always say that of me, but even though that is not my goal, they are still helped in the end, so what’s the problem? I once ran away from home for a while so that my parents can get worried and be punished. I pretend to be the innocent and lovely person around other people. I once accidentally poisoned a cat but I don’t feel regret. I was happy when my baby cousin had a hole in his heart because he was born near my birthday and he took the spotlight away from me. I was mad my granddad died a week before my birthday so my family wont celebrate my birthday cause they are greiving. I fantasize about murdering or torturing people that has wronged me, but i wont do it cuz i will get a criminal record . I wasnt brought up in a abusive family and i have never had a traumatised childhood. I dont know what’s wrong with me.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I am a fourteen year old female who lives with a single father and a younger ten year old brother. My father has been evaluated psychologically and has protracted identity issues, adjustment difficulties, and it takes him longer than most to comprehend things. He is fifty six years old and is still trying to find himself in the same sense as an adolescent boy.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I have gone through the symptoms of Paranoid Personality disorder and my wife seems to be suffering from the same since last 13 years. she is 39 years old and is a house wife now. earlier she was working as a teacher. she is a mother of 3 kids. My questions is that how should family members behave with a patient of paranoid personality disorder and how can we save our children from being a victim of the same disease. what are the chances of getting them affected. My wife doesn’t trust anyone in my family and fights with everyone. she says that she is not suffering from any disease and thinks that i want to divorce her on this ground.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From an 18 year old in Italy: My girlfriend and I are in a serious relationship for a long time now (both of us are in high school). We live very far from each other so we can’t see each other often. My girlfriend is younger than me so we can’t meet whenever we want, only when her parents approve that.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Since I was younger, my mother always got caught being on a call with other men, even before she and my dad got divorced about 5 years ago. Now she’s the only one who pays our bills, being the single mother. After she got divorced with her second husband, she started to become the old her, receiving calls from married men, having a date with them. Maybe because of her, I’ve always being skeptical about marriage, thinking if all men will cheat–there will be no point of being married.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['Maybe because of her, I’ve always being skeptical about marriage, thinking if all men will cheat–there will be no point of being married.'], 'answer_start': [350]}
My 2 yr old son picks his nails constantly; they are down to the quick and I know they have to hurt. I developed this same habit, too, as a child until I was about 16 yrs old. He has now started picking his cuticles and even his toes. What is the best way to get him to stop? My husband gets very upset and constantly tells him to stop, but of course, this doesn’t work. I try to keep his hands busy by giving him a toy or something else but he still manages to pick.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I guess I have problems with self esteem. I hold myself to absurd expectations even when I know rationally that I shouldn’t. I seek unnecessary validation from people I shouldn’t, and then feel guilty about receiving validation. I sometimes feel a compulsive need to be better than other people, and place myself under extreme amounts of pressure beyond my realistic capabilities.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I hold myself to absurd expectations even when I know rationally that I shouldn’t. I seek unnecessary validation from people I shouldn’t, and then feel guilty about receiving validation.'], 'answer_start': [42]}
From the U.S.: I have an adult son 35 yrs old. Kind, caring good person. Good job, supports himself, lives alone. He and I have always been very close. He is obese 400 lbs+, colon cancer survivor, diabetic, sleep apnea, anxiety and depression. No close friends, no social life. We do not live in the same state. He says he is lonely and hates being fat. He does see a therapist on a regular basis.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
So say you were about four years old, and you were circumcised at birth while most others in your community were not. You enter kindergarten and as kindergarten children do, they compare their private parts by showing them to one another. Kids find out you’re different. You feel strange and different from everybody else (because you ‘are’ different).

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['You feel strange and different from everybody else (because you ‘are’ different).'], 'answer_start': [271]}
From Brazil: i used to be a creative, quite outspoken girl in school. then on the internet. on the internet, i met a boy whom i dated. we broke up in horrible terms, and it scarred me to today. that, plus a lot of other horrible happenings in relationships (friendships mainly), has led me to a state of constant alert, where i can’t enjoy my friends company because i’m constantly thinking on how to make >them< enjoy mine.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['that, plus a lot of other horrible happenings in relationships (friendships mainly), has led me to a state of constant alert, where i can’t enjoy my friends company because i’m constantly thinking on how to make >them< enjoy mine.'], 'answer_start': [194]}
My Brother: “is 21 and living with his family, he has never applied for a job, the family has moved to Germany about 6 years ago. He finished school two years ago” . He was never an outgoing person but he did have friends from his school days. Starting from last year he’s been undergoing ever more increasing depression. At first he was only feeling down sometimes, but now he doesn’t speak, even when directly spoken too. He doesn’t talk about his depression with anybody, actually he doesn’t talk with anybody at all nor does he leave the house at all. In the last few months he’s even developed a tick (he sometimes inhales very quickly and loudly as if he’s shocked). His lack of communication has made it impossible to get him professional help. He refuses any kind of professional care. My family and I are clueless on how to deal with this issue, how can we help someone who not only refuses professional help but also ignores almost all communication? (From Germany)

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['His lack of communication has made it impossible to get him professional help.'], 'answer_start': [673]}
From the U.S.: I’ve been in therapy and taken many different medications for close to 30 years. In the last 8-9 months my MDD has become medication resistant and is worse than I ever thought possible. I’ve tried ECT (3 treatments) and it did not help at all. I’m doing a litany of self-help wellness things that have taken over my entire life and I’m just getting worse. I take Effexor, Adderal & Clonapin. I do yoga, meditate daily, swim 2-3 times a week, see a therapist weekly, eat very nutritionally, get plenty of sleep but not too much,

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m doing a litany of self-help wellness things that have taken over my entire life and I’m just getting worse.'], 'answer_start': [259]}
I dated this man last year for about 8 months. I wasn’t ready for a committed relationship at the time. Dated him more out of boredom. But he took it more seriously. He had alot of anger issues and was slightly emotionally abusive. One time I let him discipline my then 7 yr old boy, but he got too rough and threw him across his bed. I did not condone this and I swore to my son that he would never have to be around that man again. We had some miscommunication a couple nights later that I used to my advantage and pushed his buttons enough to make him spiral out of control and he came and broke into my house while the kids I were sleeping. No one was hurt and the kids never woke up. I broke up with him the next day after the cops escorted him home. Now to present day another 10 months later we are talking again. He has received enough counseling to help himself and I see him as different and changed for the better. I also am ready for a more committed relationship so we have been seeing each other for about 2 months now. I am so happy and we’ve apologized and he has validated my feelings about what happened that night and in general so that we can try and move on and Im making more of an effort towards a relationship this time, but my son is terrified of him. The bf and I are taking it much slower this time and not involving the kids at all for at least 6 months but will it be possible to reintroduce them and patch things up or am I being selfish for even trying? I gave them my word that he would never be in our lives again because I never in a million years thought it would be possible for him to have changed. I am at a crossroads. Thank you for any advice you have!

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Ever since my boyfriend and I started dating, his mother has never made herself approachable. He and I live together, and I am almost 4 months pregnant. He and I are both ecstatic and so is my family. The problem is, his mother has made it very clear she does not like me (she told me) and that she is not happy about this. I had a miscarriage 6 months ago when I was 3 months along. When she found out I was pregnant with that child she asked me why I didn’t get an abortion. When I miscarried she acted like nothing happened and was happy. She then told me how her son would not be having children for a long time. When she found out we were pregnant again she told me she didn’t like me. She was rude and disrespectful.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My spouse injured his back 8 years ago and retired early due to this injury. He works very occasionally at a community college and does have his retirement income.  I have multiple medical concerns and 3 years after he retired, we downsized so that I could retire as well. This was 5 years ago and as it is, I have no chance of retiring.  Spouse has told me, “Sure, you can retire.  We will just be homeless”. I feel stuck working and feeling fatigued and sick and really resent him. I think he is anxious about working as he has been retired for 7 1/2 years. I have encouraged him to do volunteer work so he has something to be passionate about. Overall, his retiring early has affected me greatly and not him. He has a wonderful life of going to the gym and doing some housework and laundry. I have a good job and got a 30% pay raise last year. That was a total disincentive for him. I want us to work on retirement together, not me working till I die and him having a great time. I am angry and becoming bitter and I don’t like me the way I am. Whenever we talk about this issue, he looks at it as a problem with me. I need to be more positive, which I know is true.  How do I get his actions to affect him? I am planning on a major cruise with my daughter and don’t plan to ask him to go. I figure, if he wants to come, he can pay his own way. Is that a wrong attitude? He just bought a truck and said he needed to work to pay his car loan. Now, I am paying for more bills and he says he doesn’t need to work. I feel I need more boundaries with him and finances. Any words you can give me to assist are most welcome! (From the USA)

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I think he is anxious about working as he has been retired for 7 1/2 years.'], 'answer_start': [484]}
From the U.S.: I am 31 years old and female. When I was 23 I would work at a retail store night shift, would hear mumbling, laughing, vulgarity and talking all night, at the time I assumed it was just other people or co workers working in the aisle next to me. I would go outside and smoke at 3 am in the morning, the parking lot was empty, would still hear them, but, no one was there. Parking lot was empty. This happened night after night.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
When I say immediate family, I mean my husband and 3 kids. Anyone else, be it our parents, siblings, relatives or friends, there is no affection or emotion involved. To the point that I cringe at the thought of having to visit them or them visit us. For me, out of sight is out of mind. I could go for months without calling or meeting anyone and I would be perfectly fine with it. When I finally call, it is out a sense of guilt. I cannot stand any kind of social gathering. Yet I feel for the sake of my kids and their mental well-being, they need interaction with other human beings. I feel they are missing out.If it was just me, I probably wouldn’t have bothered. I love my husband and kids. But there are days I feel that even with them, if I dont see them for a few days, I’d eventually be ok with it and that is a scary thought. TO realize I am incapable of emotion for anything or anyone. I keep reading that most of the adult issues have their root in childhood. Does this apply to me, I’m not really sure. But here’s a brief picture of my childhood. I grew up with my mom and younger brother and we lived with my paternal grandmother and uncles, since my father was working in another country. This is quite typical in our culture. As a child, I don’t have any memory of negative experiences until the age of 8 or 9. We moved to another house, because of some differences between mom and grandmother. Unfortunately, I was sexually abused by two of my neighbors at this house. People my mother trusted. One a 15-year-old and the other in his late 20’s. I was doing well at school in academics and athletics. Few years later, that started deteriorating too. I had some publicly humiliating experiences from some of my teachers too. It doesn’t seem like a big deal to me now but to my teenage self it was pretty big. I also had inappropriate touching from strangers while out with friends and I always felt that I was somehow singled out by these characters. I literally felt I had a label on my forehead saying touch me. Thankfully I married to a wonderful man and I’m doing well career wise. Except for this aspect. Help!

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['TO realize I am incapable of emotion for anything or anyone.'], 'answer_start': [837]}
From the U.K.: Hi, I was raped seven years ago, but it took me a year to report it to the police as he threatened me not too. It did not go to court due to lack of evidence but he does have it on his criminal record. I see him a lot as we live in the same town and he just stares at me very angry look.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}