Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
My bf and I reconnected online after 20 years. Within a year, I was divorced and he had moved 1000 miles to be with me. We moved in together right away and my 3 kids live with us part-time. My bf changed his whole life to be with me, left his marriage and job, all his friends, and moved here and started a new career. The problem is it has now been over 3 years and he has not gotten divorced. He avoided his wife for over a year when she tried to start the divorce process and then she got cancer and stopped pursuing him for a divorce. He doesn’t have contact with her but he gets updates on her health from his mother, who still keeps in touch with her. We have lived together for over 2.5 years now and have gone many places and always take photos wherever we go. His public-facing social media profiles are pictures from when he was with his wife. And he has changed the pictures since he moved in with me, but still changed them to old pictures from his life with her. He has one small item of hers that holds a lot of sentimental value that she has asked him to return to her by mail and he told her he would but still hasn’t done so. He sees the item all the time and knows she wants it back but still doesn’t mail it to her. It feels like he’s fighting as hard as he can to avoid letting go completely. Why would someone change their entire life but still cling to the old?

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['It feels like he’s fighting as hard as he can to avoid letting go completely.'], 'answer_start': [1235]}
From a teen in the U.S.:  I know that you’ll probably roll your eyes at the “controversial disorder” but I am truly scared for myself and other people. I am a soldier in the Army, and I am on track to be an Officer in a couple years. I am also a freshman at university. I went to Basic Training last summer, and I suffered stress fractures, resulting in a breakage of my left hip. I am healed now, but I do fear that I may have suffered a bit worse mental health-wise.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['I am healed now, but I do fear that I may have suffered a bit worse mental health-wise.'], 'answer_start': [381]}
From a teen in Thailand: I’m actually a very happy person. I’m the clown in my circle of friends and the “crazy energetic optimistic person” that cheers people up. But there are also times when I’m like this. Actually.. this time is different. I had panic attacks, been to a heart doctor and a short memory.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m the clown in my circle of friends and the “crazy energetic optimistic person” that cheers people up.'], 'answer_start': [59]}
Hi, i experience a problem that makes it very uncomfortable to be near other people. I will be sitting in a quiet environment and a thought will start popping into my head that i believe is wrong and humiliating. It tends to feel very loud and insistent and i have absolutely no control over it. And its the opposite of what i believe. For ages i will be terrified that im saying it out loud, even to the point where i try to hold my breath to stop it. I used to run away when it happened but now i can ride it out, even though its excrutiating and my face is glowing like a beacon. Horrible. I would be really grateful if you could explain whats happening and how i might get some help with it. Thanks.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['It tends to feel very loud and insistent and i have absolutely no control over it.'], 'answer_start': [213]}
background: I’ve been with my SO for nearly 10 years and been in his daughter’s life from day one. Her mother forbid me to be called stepmom etc and I am not allowed to call her my stepdaughter etc. So I don’t, I am only doing that here for ease of understanding. This weekend is the first weekend my SD didn’t want to come see us. She really hurt her dad’s feelings by telling him she didn’t want to see him, in those words. She came out anyway and e-mailed him that she did not want to come because I am Mean. She couldn’t give any specific examples except that I ignore her when we fight? The thing is we don’t fight and if her dad and I have a disagreement while she is there I specifically apologize to her and tell her we should save those kind of discussions for after the weekend. We do fun things together like crafts and baking. She told her dad not to tell me she said this until she left and he listened. I feel robbed of the opportunity to talk to her. I always thought she and I got along so well. I’m extremely proud of what a smart young woman she is becoming and try to make sure she knows that. She asked her grandmother to stop at my work just to say hello last week. This came out of nowhere. Now her dad wants me to talk to her, her mom wants me in counseling, and I want to ignore it because I am honestly thinking this is some kind of trap being set by her mother in hopes of getting full custody. There’s more background on her mom but I don’t have enough words left to get into that. The trust issues are not without merit. Also, Her dad works away a lot and her mom won’t let me see her when he is away. This time he will be gone for a month.

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I feel robbed of the opportunity to talk to her.  '], 'answer_start': [917]}
I feel like my fiance is attracted to my 18 year old daughter and does things that makes me wonder I’ve been with my fiance for over a year now and we have a 9 month old baby together. We plan to get married soon. He has told me that he has a past incident with his younger sister and molested her when they were younger but that he has got help for it and was in a youth program until he became an adult. He was also charged with the incident. So I accepted him and been dealing with it because he’s a great guy for the most part and has never done anything to harm me.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I feel like my fiance is attracted to my 18 year old daughter and does things that makes me wonder I’ve been with my fiance for over a year now and we have a 9 month old baby together.'], 'answer_start': [1]}
From Canada: Hello, Last week, I thought I was smelling things that were not there – turns out there were mostly sources for the smells, though I did not smell anything like rotten fish, eggs or anything drastic. On Friday, I read on the internet that smelling things that are not there can be one of the early signs of developing Schizophrenia. From reading that, I got scared and started worrying I was developing Schizophrenia. I went to the doctor on Friday to talk about bloating and headaches, he did a neuro test, and he said that I was fine. However,  I smelled some stuff in my room, but I figured it was cause my room was being messy, but recalling back to the article, I was worried that it was Schizophrenia. I do not have the smell issues anymore.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['From reading that, I got scared and started worrying I was developing Schizophrenia.'], 'answer_start': [346]}
I find my mouth and tongue don’t move as quickly as they once did and I can’t speak as quickly anymore. I am 56, and years ago I could rattle off things quickly. I am not super slow, but I find that people finish my sentences, or answer before I finish. Are there tongue and mouth exercises I can do to speak quicker again? As well, I forget what I am about to say often…like a word. “I put the paper down on the table”…meaning the chair. I rattle through 4 of my child’s siblings names before getting to theirs. (There are no favorites…I do this with all of them! haha.) I know that others do this also. Is this a brain thing, or is this a lazy thing?

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.:  My bf and I have been together about 8 months. The last half of this was sprinkled with traumatic events because of my past traumas. I was emotionally abusive at times, reacted with anger/insults out of jealousy/insecurity. He wants to leave but I don’t want to split, I am promising him I will change because I know I have/will (I am finally in counseling) I love him endlessly although some of my actions have not shown that.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I was emotionally abusive at times, reacted with anger/insults out of jealousy/insecurity.'], 'answer_start': [149]}
From India: I Don’t know what has happened to me suddenly. I used to be curious about life ; things ; had tons of interests..life seemed very bright to me as i’d many dreams too.. but now just all of a sudden i feel so dumb, i’ve no opinions, slow in studies; in fact, i just can’t concentrate in class. I forget even things i have heard 1000 times. I am not able to talk. My brain seems not to work  like a proof, nothing seems to go inside my head-i tend to forget most of the things that the hear or read.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['but now just all of a sudden i feel so dumb, i’ve no opinions, slow in studies; in fact, i just can’t concentrate in class.'], 'answer_start': [180]}
When I was around the ages, 5 or six, I had a friend named Jackie. I do not know her background, or why she was like this but, she would sexually “play” with herself in front of me. I was young and didn’t know this was wrong so when she told me to do it to myself too, I did. She would also touch me back but, I do not recall touching her in any way. This happened continuously until I moved to a different state and I am no longer in touch with her at all. I am quite ashamed and embarrassed but, I want to know if this event could cause trauma or PTSD. I suffer from anxiety and depression if you needed to know and I seem to have the symptoms of PTSD such as insomnia and nightmares, ect. For a while I never thought about it as bad and even forgot it happened but, suddenly this year, I remembered and wanted to know if it has affected me. Thank you.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['For a while I never thought about it as bad and even forgot it happened but, suddenly this year, I remembered and wanted to know if it has affected me.'], 'answer_start': [692]}
When I was 11 I found out that my brother had depression apparently he was even thinking about suicide. By parents were mad at me because somehow an 11 year old was suppose to know what to do. They missed the signs too. That night I cried myself to sleep because I was scared I didn’t understand what was going on with my brother or if he was going to be okay. He changed. I thought it was my fault. Anyways, sometimes these feelings arise when he does things like tell me he doesn’t want to be alive anymore or smokes because if he can’t kill himself at least he can smoke. I couldn’t help him then and I can’t help him now. Everytime he tells me he doesn’t want to live it makes me feel like he doesn’t love me because if he doesn’t value his life isn’t that the same as not valuing any life? Last week I watched a documentary in sociology on the Jonestown massacre where 900 people died all those people just threw their lives away because one man told them to. If that’s what it takes then maybe a life isn’t as valuable as I thought. So I don’t know why something like this should affect me so much I mean my brother is the one with depression. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['By parents were mad at me because somehow an 11 year old was suppose to know what to do. '], 'answer_start': [104]}
I have been dating a guy for the past 6 months. We met online and both live very busy lives where our careers are very important to us. He currently travels for work to another state Monday-Thursday every week. I am his first serious girlfriend and the only girlfriend he’s introduced to his parents (that don’t even live in the same state as we do). Throughout our 6-month relationship he has taken many steps to show how committed he is to me. For example, when I had received an interview for school in Colorado, he began interviewing for jobs there. For the past couple months, he’s been looking for jobs back in the city that we live in. Despite all the great things he’s done, and despite how much I know he loves me, I have severe trust/jealously issues. My last boyfriend had lied to me and was dating a “friend” while he was dating me. My first love whom I dated for 2.5 years broke up with me because he developed feelings for someone else. Needless to say, I let past experiences and my insecurities get the best of me in my current relationship. I have gotten jealous about his female friends and have admittedly over-reacted many times. However, I have had (what I fear) legitimate reasons to be concerned about his new friendship with a female coworker. Like I said he works out of state during the week. On the phone one night, he mentioned he met a girl at work who’s parents live where his parents live and that she invited him to get together for drinks with her and her brother during Christmas. Fast forward to Christmas, after not responding to my text for hours, he tells me he and his sister were having drinks and playing games at his coworker’s parents house. I got very upset and asked if they had hung out before. He admitted that they spent two hours together ALONE on the beach two days prior. I was distraught and did not speak to him until the next day. He insists they are just friends and I have nothing to worry about. I let it go until I recently saw that they became friends on Facebook. I again got very upset with him and expressed how much it bothered me. He was hurt that I didn’t trust him despite saying time and time again that I had nothing to worry about and that she was just a friend. He isn’t friends with anyone else on Facebook from work other than her and he even works with a guy that went to the same college as him. To me, this situation does not seem right. As I have told him, I fear he has developed feelings for this person and doesn’t want to admit it to himself, let alone me. I don’t want to be with someone who has feelings for someone else and I wish he would just admit it to me if that’s the case. My question is: Am I letting my extreme jealous nature get the best of me and I need to learn to take my boyfriend at his word? Or do I need to interpret my feelings as instinct and walk away from the relationship?

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I let it go until I recently saw that they became friends on Facebook. I again got very upset with him and expressed how much it bothered me. '], 'answer_start': [1953]}
From a teen in Canada: I’m 15, my sister has many mental disorders, when i was 12 i was depressed, i’;m happy now. i’m overwhelmingly sexually attracted to girls. I’m quite dark, i like dark humor, im nice, im also a jerk. I never show anger publicly, on my own i scream silently at the smallest things. Im a huge movie fan, when i see a scene where my favorite character gets attention i freak out. i love it. it’s like a walking seizure. I have a lot of desires. one day i want to be a hero, the other a villain.  im really selfish, im a bit of a hypochondriac but i love mental illness. i really want one. I like fire. not in a dangerous way. i try really hard to be a rebel. i feel like i have multiple personalities mixed into one. my views and opinions on things change weekly. i fall in love with girls as long as their beautiful and good girls.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m quite dark, i like dark humor, im nice, im also a jerk.'], 'answer_start': [163]}
I have this issue since I was 9yrs old. When I was 9, I JUST used to make these characters in my head whenever i heard music and then make up a whole story in my head with music in the background. The music just had to be related to a story for e.g a story about a powerful queen story then the song “That’s my girl” But I used to this only when I heard the music. I didn’t do them by purpose. But when I turned 13, I started to “act them out” as well. I used to do this a lot more than before (I’d spent hours). I turned on music by purpose and then do it and I still do it now. I get inspired to do these stories when I see a movie or read another story. And I THINK music isn’t the main cause of this….it happens even without music. I hate it because it wastes my time and stops me from studying. I can only control not to do this for only 1 day and then I start to do it again. My question: Can I stop this? If yes, then how? if no, then how can I at least reduce it up to just 2 hours? Is music the cause or is it natural? (From Pakistan)

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I can only control not to do this for only 1 day and then I start to do it again.'], 'answer_start': [800]}
From a teen in the U.S.: Hi I been struggling from depression all my life and i use the internet in way to numb my pain and to forget im even alive. I left a religion that i didn’t approve of when i was 15 Jehovah Witness and my mom wants to force me to go She tells me Im not happy because I dont believe in god

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
It’s been a few years since I felt this empty feeling but in the recent weeks it is becoming clear. I feel like my control over my emotions is gone. It is like my emotions became a switch and I don’t get to choose whether or not I want it on. Its like one moment my switch is on and I feel an array of emotions, then the next it is turned off and I feel nothing. I look at videos that are meant for the viewer to feel something whether it be sadness, anger, happiness, motivation I dont feel anything. This should make me frustrated but I dont even feel that. I am just concerned about what this means for me.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['This should make me frustrated but I dont even feel that.'], 'answer_start': [502]}
From the U.S.: Met my sister-in-law in 2004 she is heavy set and had an ordinary style. I have pin up style and platinum blonde hair, several tattoos. Soon after she went from dark brown hair to blonde. Started wearing flower clips in her hair, buying same brand pin up purses as me. Then she bought the same car as mine (black) hers white and had my bro buy same truck as my husband (black) his white.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['Met my sister-in-law in 2004 she is heavy set and had an ordinary style.'], 'answer_start': [15]}
Hey, So I think there’s something very wrong with me, I fantasize about killing all the time. Recently I’m obsessed with the story of another killer and I’ve abused animals in the past to take my anger out on something other than myself. I had a very traumatic childhood being given up by my mum who couldn’t look after me for her own mental problems which I still hate her for deep down, in and out of care all my life. Forced to do sexual things. Its destroyed me, I have no emotion or guilt for abusing a friends two dogs and my ex’s cat that resulted in it being put down. I fantasize about killing my adoptive parents, planned it down to the very last detail and playing it out in my head and even in front of a mirror ‘practicing’ what I’d do. I welcome prison because my freedom is all I have left. I’ve tried to kill myself on many occasions but not successfully obviously. I just want the world to burn for what it did to me, I challenge every authority and think I’m better than everyone else. I’m a monster? I was diagnosed with mild depression and emotionally unstable personality disorder but I have the traits of a psychopath? I feel like one day I will kill, what is wrong with me..

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['I just want the world to burn for what it did to me,'], 'answer_start': [882]}
From a young woman in the U.S.: My sister is obsessed with blaming how she was raised for all of her problems and makes up stories about her childhood. She recently got a degree in early childhood development. When she was still in school taking the classes for her major, she started talking a lot about her own childhood and criticizing how she was brought up.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Through my childhood I was abused, mentally and physically. I believe I have done my best to overcome it and get as much closure as possible. However, and as much as I don’t enjoy to admit, it’s still with me. I’m 18, I ended the toxic ties I had with my abusers, and overall I’m an healthy individual. Nonetheless, I carry bad habits from that time, such as dissociation. I daydream all the time, I need to constantly have sounds on, either music or TV (even if I’m not watching it), I feel empty and zombie like every few days. I know what this is, and I also have waves of depression now and then, but i can’t figure it out why. I want to fix it. From my experience, psychologists and psychiatrist don’t help. I don’t know what to do. I don’t particularly want to talk about the abuse, but i want to be healthy. I’m tired of having this abuse influence me. I want to be healthy.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From Spain: I am gay man who is 28. Before I came out as gay, I was meeting people via a dating app secretly. And one day I started doing something disgusting which I fully regret now. I came from a good family who have always loved me and supported me, but what I did would definitely shock them. One day a man wanted to meet me, however he was 70 and I was 22! I said no, but he finally offered me a lot of money and I agreed to meet. We did meet for at least 3 months for several times and even though we never had proper sex, I did let him do things to me.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['And one day I started doing something disgusting which I fully regret now.'], 'answer_start': [110]}