Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
Hi i’m an 18 year old girl and i’m diagnosed with ADD, GAD, and depression. after trying other meds, i’m only on zoloft atm. basically i’ve been starting to lose hope for myself. i’ve been to many different therapists and tried a few other medications. i don’t know if i will ever be able to live a normal life. i’m afraid of everything. lately i’ve been concerned about myself more because i have moments where i feel just detached from reality. as if i’m watching life through a screen. sometimes the person i see in the mirror looks like a stranger to me. i haven’t told my therapist about this because i don’t know if it’s just my anxiety or if i actually have the disorder. i haven’t told my family because i don’t want to worry them even more for me. my depression doesn’t help either. if nothings real why try in life? it feels like i won’t be able to ever leave any sort of impact.

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['i don’t know if i will ever be able to live a normal life. i’m afraid of everything. lately i’ve been concerned about myself more because i have moments where i feel just detached from reality.'], 'answer_start': [253]}
I love with my dad and his long term girlfriend who is practically a mother to me than my own one is. I have always felt like the relationship between me and my parents has gotten slowly worse with age and I feel like there’s this power struggle going on with my dad mainly. I don’t know if I am to blame, if there’s things I can do to improve on the relationship other than sit and just avoid any contact with him, which hasn’t worked or just bend to every rule he makes. He has this very aggressive, controlling nature, using respect as a weapon against any lack of discipline towards him. I respect his house and his rules to a degree, but he makes a lot up as he goes and uses respect, or what he calls lack of respect, for him as a way to manipulate any situation to make me feel like I’m the one in the wrong. I have grown up with the notion of respect being a two way street but also to respect your parents, however I have never respected my birth mother due to her complete lack of human empathy towards anyone other than herself. However I have always respected him, to an extent feared him and it’s been that way for years however I can no longer deal with the sheer stress of living with this and he refuses to acknowledge when he is wrong and believes I am so arrogant and stuck up when I believe I am right when standing up for myself against him. I don’t know what I can do to improve the situation. He’s a good man, he’s always looked after me and taken care of me as any parent should however he has such an aggressive, controlling attitude to everything in his life that it’s just getting to a very toxic point in our lives. However I am the one being blamed for it and not him as well, which makes me depressed and think that maybe there is something wrong with me that I just don’t realise so I really don’t know what to do in this scenario.

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I don’t know if I am to blame, if there’s things I can do to improve on the relationship other than sit and just avoid any contact with him, which hasn’t worked or just bend to every rule he makes. '], 'answer_start': [275]}
From a young teen in the U.S.:  I’m 13 and don’t know if I’m just weird but I can turn on and turn off my apathy levels? I can turn it off and act like how people are supposed to act during certain situations (raising my empathy/decreasing my apathy).  For example, when I turn it off and something happens to a friend I feel worried and stuff but it’s also kinda feels fake?

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m 13 and don’t know if I’m just weird but I can turn on and turn off my apathy levels? '], 'answer_start': [32]}
I was married 36 years to my soulmate. Our relationship wasn’t perfect but we were perfect for each other. His death was due to very critical health problems that resulted in 100 days in a hospital that ended with a massive heart attack in the hospital. I was with him when he passed. My concern is where are all the people who were there for me prior? Why do friends stop calling, etc. Prior to all this, I had a fairly good social life. However I always seemed to be the one reaching out, making dinner dates, planning get togethers. I do work full time and was my husbands caregiver for awhile, but I always made sure I made time for my friends. Now that I am alone, nobody ever reaches out, still. You would think they would realize I lost the love of my life and reach out to me. Make sure I am ok, invite me to lunch. I can count on one hand the number of friends who have checked on me. Is losing friends normal during grief? I mean even my husbands old friends, the guy who did the funeral ( a longtime friend), even my husbands family! (out of his 4 siblings, 1 has reached out) I spend a lot of time alone. I work, spend lots of time with my grandkids, but as far as a social life, its almost nothing. Part of me is angry that here I am going thru the worst thing I’ve ever experienced and where are the people who came to the funeral, said they are there for me? Why NOW is it still up to me to be the initiator? I am doing ok with the grieving process and have made great progress in the last 12 months, except for THIS. Even some co-workers ignore the situation, my own boss doesn’t even ask how I am, ever. Not once since the funeral. (I love my job and have been at my job 31 years. This last year has shown me tho, nobody wants to deal with a grieving person) I never imagined friendships would disappear after such a loss.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['This last year has shown me tho, nobody wants to deal with a grieving person'], 'answer_start': [1698]}
From a young woman in Algeria: overwhelmed, anxious, stressed, panic attacks some times, not in the mood of doing anything from time to time, i like loneliness, i want to punish myself most of the time but never completely hurt myself (just beat myself in some parts of my body), i’d insult myself or evening say really bad things as if i wasn’t alone in my head (i’d feel like there is me and the other evil me telling me all of that), i never self harmed and cut myself but the suicidal thoughts are often here (for example if i’m driving the second after i’d think about crushing the car against the wall or to another car) the dark thoughts i have all the time are really haunting me,

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['the dark thoughts i have all the time are really haunting me,'], 'answer_start': [627]}
From a teen in the U.S.: Hello, I’m a 16 year old girl who has had these creepy day dreams and it keeps getting worse. It occurred when my older sister began living with us (stepmom and dad). We never got a long as kids because I was raised separately as a child. She lived with 4 other of my siblings and I lived with an aunt of mine with her child till I was 10.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Around two years ago I found out that one of my closest friends was being abused by her stepdad. I know he would physically abuse her, and I’m pretty sure he mentally abused her too. She always dismissed it saying that he was drunk, but I could tell she still resented him and was very scared of him. She assured me that he never really hit her anymore but recently she would come to school with cuts on her face. When I asked her about it all she said was that she had been missing school because she was sick and her stepdad hated when she missed school. I was immediately concerned and considered reporting it but I knew my friend was scared that if the abuse was reported that she would get taken away from her mom and have to live with her dad in Florida. She hates her dad so much that she would rather ive with her abusive stapdad and she insist that her real dad is not fit to take care of here. I know she trusts me not to report it and I know if I did she would feel betrayed and would probably never forgive me. I normally would talk to my mom about this whole situation but she is a teacher and therefore is a mandated reporter. I need help deciding what to do. I try to be there for her but I feel horrible letting the abuse happen. should i report it and hope that if she does get removed from the household that she would go live with another family, like her grandparents who live in the same town, or should I just continue to be there for my friend?

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I know she trusts me not to report it and I know if I did she would feel betrayed and would probably never forgive me.'], 'answer_start': [904]}
So I’m in love with my brother’s wife. We were friends before they married so I guess you could say I was robbed of a wife and robbed of a life. I’ve been trying my best to bury this situation, but I’ve been unable to cut the roots. Now 15 years later I’m still struggling. I feel so angry and confused but I’m madly in love with her even though it’s so complicated. I wish she was mine but I’m not the kind of person that is jealous of or wants to ruin my brother’s marriage. I don’t know what to do. I’m in dire need of help and advice. (From the UK)

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['We were friends before they married so I guess you could say I was robbed of a wife and robbed of a life.'], 'answer_start': [39]}
My sister and I have both have children of our own. My mom treats her grandkid on my sisters side better example: going to each birthday event Vs. My kids being now 7,2, and 4 and my mom only going to two birthdays which was for the oldest and none for the others, even when we lived 30 minutes away. My sister lives a hour away and their was never a excuse for her. My sisters nor my mom calls me it is just me who does the work. It has been like this for a long time. My sister plans something everyone attends, I plan something a event of any kind I get excuses why they cant. I express to my sister my feelings she says im starting to pick a fight. I invited her to Thanksgiving she said she doesnt want to take her kid from her grandparents and her boyfriend kids away from their family. This has been going on to long time bringing me down for a long time. And I keep jumping in the ring for more punches.

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['And I keep jumping in the ring for more punches.'], 'answer_start': [863]}
From a teen in the U.S.: My mom has no easy childhood by no means but for some reason she’s been acting strange lately. It’s almost as if she’s trying to be a kid again as weird as that sounds. I’m just really worried about her everyday something new is wrong and I get that people age. She’s 38 and this problem started about a year ago.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['It’s almost as if she’s trying to be a kid again as weird as that sounds. I’m just really worried about her everyday something new is wrong and I get that people age.'], 'answer_start': [120]}
From a woman in the U..S.: I have some of the symptoms of ASPD. I was diagnosed with BPD. I haven’t told my therapist about my ASPD symptoms. I don’t know if they’ll even believe me. I have a tendency to lie. I lack empathy most times. I find myself manipulating others for my own personal gain. I have a gnawing yearning for attention and control. But BPD explains these. What it doesn’t explain is the obsession with blood, constant visions of harming others, a lack of remorse, and dreams of violently killing people I know and strangers. I need to know if this is even safe to tell my therapist.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['don’t know if they’ll even believe me.'], 'answer_start': [144]}
1 – Speaking ill of someone’s past to a total stranger 2 – ignoring the girlfriend of your friend when they first meet 3 – calling the girlfriend of a friend irrational 4 – boasting about achievements 5 – faking another mental illness 6 – taking a position of high responsibility 7 – excluding a newcomer from a group 8 – using sarcasm towards the girlfriend of a friend 9 – belittling others publicly 10 – using the boyfriend of the girlfriend to lie for them and call them irrational on their advices

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a woman in the U.S.: My mother-in-law banned me from her home and life after I wrote a semi-anonymous post on blog on how to deal with toxic people, mentioning her as being one. My husband has vocalized time and again that he is “on my side” but regularly (every other week or so) continues to see and talks to his parents as if nothing happened.

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['My husband has vocalized time and again that he is “on my side” but regularly (every other week or so) continues to see and talks to his parents as if nothing happened.'], 'answer_start': [183]}
I have a 23 years old sister and her behaviors cause anxiety. We moved to Canada about 2 years ago and since then I feel responsible a lot about her. Our parents are in back home and I feel I have to protect her and do as much as I can for her. She imputes to me all the tasks she has to do. She doesn’t eat at all in a day or she eats fast food (she is overweight), she doesn’t sleep in normal ours, she is depressed and doesn’t have friends at all. I can’t stop thinking about something will happen to her so bad bc she doesn’t eat. Sometimes I think she will get a big health problem or mental issue and I am trying to think about how can I deal with it. I try to help her and talk to her often about what she should eat or she should go to nutritionist or psychologist but she never listen to me and she says “I don’t know why I am like this, I want to change my behaviors but I can’t.” I just want to stop worrying, I feel sick. I can’t live my life if I can’t stop worrying about her all the time. (From Canada)

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I can’t stop thinking about something will happen to her so bad bc she doesn’t eat. '], 'answer_start': [451]}
Almost constantly; while I’m driving I think about getting into a crash, while I’m sitting at home I think about being robbed or killing myself. Anything, really. I want these things to happen and sometimes I gain the motivation to do something about it myself but I never really have the means or the motivation (for lack of a better word) wears off. To me, it doesn’t matter whether the fantasy ends with my dying or not, and whether it is preferred or not really varies. Recently I had a friend kill himself, and obviously it got to me; but this all started way before he hung himself. While I am devastated about his loss, I also feel an odd sense of guilt and envy because he actually did what I’ve always wanted to/thought about doing.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['While I am devastated about his loss, I also feel an odd sense of guilt and envy because he actually did what I’ve always wanted to/thought about doing.'], 'answer_start': [589]}
From a young man int he U.S.:  I’m 26 years old disabled and my mother controls everything and lies about everything. I need help. My disabilities are depression, anxiety, PTSD. She won’t let me go anywhere without her, she won’t let me have anyone over at my house any more, she won’t let me drive anywhere anymore. I feel trapped.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m 26 years old disabled and my mother controls everything and lies about everything.'], 'answer_start': [31]}
From a teen in the Philippines: The narcissistic personality runs through the blood in my father’;s side family and it disgusts me, but now I’m not sure of myself anymore. As I finished fabricating my future argument, all this realization popped into my head and this is the only time I’m being honest about myself so here I go.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['As I finished fabricating my future argument, all this realization popped into my head and this is the only time I’m being honest about myself so here I go.'], 'answer_start': [172]}
I need help I’m engaged to be married but I think I’m in love with an old time friend and I do not know what to do. I’m torn about this I care about both so much please help my what can I do to know what the right choice will be ??? Kind regards (From South Africa)

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Are there ways to avoid letting chronically angry and verbally abusive people affect your mood? I have a bad-tempered family member that I cannot avoid. She used to yell at me a lot and got violent sometimes. Since I stood up to her several times, she has not dared to attack me directly. Instead, she goes around yelling, swearing, slamming doors and will raise her voice to make sure I hear it if I am far away or in bed. I don’t mind curse words in general, but find the intent and vehemence of her swearing offensive and it is degrading to have this constantly directed at me.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a teen in the U.S.: For as long as I could remember I liked being alone. I think it’s starting to really effect me though as I start to get older and enter the adult world. Every time I’m out with friends I feel uncomfortable and awkward. I always feel like I’m putting a front or an act in front of everyone I speak to and I could only feel at ease when I’m at home by myself. When I’m alone I feel as though I don’t think. Like I’m just alone in my room for hours imagining a better life and different scenarios of my pretend life when really I’m just laying in bed doing nothing. Is that normal?

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['Every time I’m out with friends I feel uncomfortable and awkward. I always feel like I’m putting a front or an act in front of everyone I speak to and I could only feel at ease when I’m at home by myself.'], 'answer_start': [178]}
So my name is Lillyan, im 19 years old I have GAD. (General anxiety disorder) And it first started about 6 months ago, It hit me like a train, worse thing ive ever experienced in my whole life. It was crippling anxiety my family had no idea what to do and neither did I. (Still kinda dont) My i have super bad tremors and I still havent went back to work yet. Sometimes I have off the wall thoughts. Like ill be laying in bed and ill hear a sound or ill just automatically think there’s a shooter in the house and then the image will pop into my head. I wont see it as if I was like seeing things but it will pop into my head. I have to constantly have something on to block out any sound so i dont get nervous.Is that normal to have thoughts and images pop up like that? my worst fear is that ill end up crazy or Schizophrenic. I never once have heard or seen anything other than me making myself nervous and thinking i seen something and it really just being a lamp. This is all new to me, and its hard to talk to my family about it because they think im full of it i will be seeing a therapist next week but id really like some clarity now.

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['my worst fear is that ill end up crazy or Schizophrenic.'], 'answer_start': [772]}
I’ve been dealing with this issue for a little over 7 years. It started out as becoming easily agitated, to the point I’d break things, rip up clothing, and shut out anyone close to me. It progressed to feeling watched and feeling as though people were trying to poison or kill me. As of today, I can’t form relationships, as sometimes I tend to do things I don’t mean, such as laughing when told something serious or showing no emotion at all. People are trying to read my mind and steal my thoughts, and I hear voices of people telling me to do terrible things. I don’t know what to do at this point. I have a hard time maintaining a job, as there are days I can’t even leave the house out of fear. I’ve never seen anyone about this, as I’m told I just need a strong faith in God.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['People are trying to read my mind and steal my thoughts, and I hear voices of people telling me to do terrible things.'], 'answer_start': [445]}
From a young teen in the U.S.: I think i may be depressed or have some sort of depressive disorder. No one believes me when i try to explain it to them. Around march 14th or 15th of this year i was hospitalized because i was exhausted for no reason, i was drinking water but wasn’t staying hydrated. I was also not eating, i was always feeling down and sad, and i couldn’t sleep at night. I was diagnosed with insomnia and my parents just used that to make jokes out of.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['No one believes me when i try to explain it to them.'], 'answer_start': [100]}
I get suicidal thoughts sometimes. I know I would never act on these and they aren’t usually that serious but they worry me. I think I might have depression. But not the hat bad. I do things slowly (which apparently is suppose doing to be a sign). And a few things (not that many) don’t give me the same amount of joy they used to. I often think I am a failure but sometime in am cocky. I also have a hard time sleeping. I have been in pushing away the fact that this might be depression because I feel that people fake it sometimes. Is this depression? And if so, should I go see someone about it.?

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['I often think I am a failure but sometime in am cocky.'], 'answer_start': [332]}
I am extremely observant of people as I had high intellect but a very low understanding of people’s motivators. I ended up being able to charm just about anyone, being able to understand people’s states and inner beliefs almost at a glance, and feeling terribly weary and disillusioned for it. I often find myself exasperated “are you really that dumb?” “Where’s your ability to judge your own situation?” “So slow. People’s internal actions and reactions are so dull, slow, foolish, and I cannot say anything because they won’t be able to understand my words, and I know exactly why. It seems to me that people are often walking happily to their own emotional and personal demise and they will not listen to me, they are convinced that how they ‘feel they are entitled to act’ is the ultimate truth. I often feel like I am surrounded by sleepwalkers. The worst feeling in life is to be able to manipulate someone so easily and see them react exactly as you expected they would, as though they are machines devoid of sense and independent thought. It is the worst feeling because those little tricks I play out of boredom prove again and again that I am right. Who the hell wants to be right about something like this!!!?? I am right about enough already, ever since kindergarten!! I don’t need to be right about despair!!! I am extremely intellectual but I would still enjoy ‘human contact’ right? Although since humans are what I understand them to be, I may as well be an alien. *Laughs bleakly* (From New Zealand)

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['People’s internal actions and reactions are so dull, slow, foolish, and I cannot say anything because they won’t be able to understand my words, and I know exactly why.'], 'answer_start': [416]}
From a young woman in the U.S.: I have been concerned about my recent homicidal thoughts. They are always following learning or hearing about abusive, cruel, or just evil people. Particularly parents abusing their children. I just feel that if they could die peacefully, it would be best for their victims.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['I just feel that if they could die peacefully, it would be best for their victims.'], 'answer_start': [224]}