Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
My boyfriend and I have been “together” since August, but on and off since we broke up 3 times. He has these constant feelings of insecurity, self doubt, feeling the need to compete (he visited me after work and said he was better looking than any of the guys there, for example; and today he was upset that his best friend was poking me on Facebook, and it made my boyfriend insecure). He overthinks really bad, gets really stressed out and handles it the wrong way. Two weeks ago he got really stressed and asked if I wanted to break up. Of course not. He’s been cheated on and betrayed and he knows friends and family who have also been betrayed in the past, so I get that he will have trust issues, insecurity, maybe even a hint of jealousy (or a lot of it?), but I think he may need help. I’m not sure. I love him, and when he’s not being upset, we’re fine. But he gets upset a lot; today he said he wasn’t eating because he felt “down in the dumps”. That worries me because over a year ago he was dealing with something else, and stopped eating, and went to a mental hospital. He said that after taking antidepressants, he eventually felt better and he hasn’t dealt with that issue again. The issues in our relationship have to do with him; he always says it’s him, something he needs to deal with, etc. His insecurity, overthinking, self doubt, lack of confidence or trust in anyway, the way he views the world so negatively and always expects the worst possible outcome, etc. Today he said he wants a break. I highly doubt a week-long break will cure this; I don’t want to insult him, but I’m not sure how to say that I think this is something he probably needs to speak to a professional about, and not deal with on his own. His negative thinking and overthinking is causing him far too much stress and though he’s been feeling like this less (or talking to me about it less), it’s making him feel worse. This is the first time he’s told me he hasn’t been eating and that worries me. I love him; what do I do?

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I highly doubt a week-long break will cure this; I don’t want to insult him, but I’m not sure how to say that I think this is something he probably needs to speak to a professional about, and not deal with on his own.'], 'answer_start': [1516]}
For the past four years, I have been experiencing episodes where I find myself in places I do not recall traveling to, forgetting things and misplacing things, not recalling things my family and friends insist I’ve said or done, not recognizing myself in the mirror, not recognizing something I’ve wrote or typed, talking to myself, excessively daydreaming, and having a character in my head that I talk to and sometimes live through. I know distinct things about this character that I don’t feel that I’ve made up. Almost everything is a trigger for my daydreaming. My mother also suffers from the disorder and I’ve told her about how I’ve been feeling. She says that it sounds like what she has but I’m unsure. Is this a genetic disorder? Should I see a professional about this?

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.: This is difficult to describe, since I am only aware of aspects of it after the fact. This may sound like a simple communication issue, however we’ve hashed this out repeatedly, and, despite an earnest attempt to fix it, we’re stumped.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
For a while now, my friend and neighbor has asked for advice and said she wanted to help herself and better her life. She has struggled her whole life. Her husband has repeatedly cheated on her. The first time they were married he had 2 children with another woman yet she kept taking him back. He has been to jail more than once and has never maintained a stable job. He disappears for days at a time and she does not know where has been or with whom. She married him as second time. He just returned from jail after 3 years (and she had said she was going to tell him he cant stay at her house) and she says they are just friends now but she see nothing wrong with continuing to keep him in her life and allow him to stay at her house. She has always let people run all over her. People are always taking advantage of her. And in her mind, she is supposed to keep forgiving him and letting him in her life because that’s what Christ would want. I have tried to explain to her she can forgive and should for herself but that he is not healthy in her life. He has never treated her with enough respect to try and be a functional citizen. He always runs off. I recommended she get some professional help to see why she keeps allowing herself to be manipulated and taken advantage of. But she does not believe he is taking advantage of her and manipulating her. She has a problem thinking she can save everyone but she cannot even save herself. How do I get my friend to see she needs some professional help to learn how to deal with letting go of people who mistreat her and take advantage of her?

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. My parents have met him on several different occasions and it seemed like they got along. My dad would even hug him at the end of the night, which is big for him. Unfortunately, I would get snide comments in an email the next day about flaws and red flags that they saw about him.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Me and a guy both used to be friends with this girl. Around the same time she fell out with us both because of similar reasons. However, recently we’ve been talking a lot her mental health. She posts stories which are based on her life in which she refers to delusions and hallucinations of scary creatures. She’s very manipulative and she told us, this may not be true, that she used to not be able to eat because it used to make her sick. Neither of us are friends with her now but we don’t want to just ignore the fact that she has symptoms of mental illness. However, neither of us are quite sure what we should do. Do we confront this girl or talk to a professional to find out more first. We would greatly appreciate your help, thank you.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a teen in the U.S.: I don’t talk about myself or my problems, the only way I can is anonymously online. I’ve been depressed for over 7 years, I have social anxiety, and I still struggle with anorexia. After my suicide attempt last year I lost nearly all my friends, and my parents don’t look at me the same. I don’t know where to go from here.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I am experiencing a vicious cycle that I want to break away from. I have seen doctors and have been on medicine and nothing seems to work so I thought I would a forum to see if any outside source may help. My mother and grandmother are very negative people who believe everyone should be miserable if they are. My mother though takes it to a new extreme by extreme guilt trips and pushing all the blame on everyone but her (usually it falls in my lap or my grandmothers because we are convenient) She always also tells everyone what a bad guy I am and how I show her no respect. I have gotten to the point where I am trying to tell her how I feel and what it is doing to me. I keep telling myself maybe she might get it and I try to stay strong but cry every time because of how bad she makes me feel. I try to sound strong mentally but it is killing me.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I keep telling myself maybe she might get it and I try to stay strong but cry every time because of how bad she makes me feel. I try to sound strong mentally but it is killing me.'], 'answer_start': [675]}
Since I was a child, I was taught that females must do everything for the males. Growing up to my father drinking everyday, to come home to beat my mother, to then beat us. When he was not drunk, he would make us pick out a weapon that he would hit us with. I guess that somehow it clicked into my older brothers head that it was ok to do the same thing to us. From 6 to 13 yrs old, I was sexually abused by my older siblings, which is my brother and sister. There has also been numerous times where family relatives have groped me, and touched me in inappropriate places.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I guess that somehow it clicked into my older brothers head that it was ok to do the same thing to us.'], 'answer_start': [259]}
I am a 15 year old male from Kansas that has lived a normal life except for the fact that I can’t remember the last time I was happy. There is this girl that I have been “friends” with my whole life and I started being in love with her before I even knew what love was. Everyone keeps telling me that what I am going through is completely normal and lots of people go through it, I know this but the fact remains that I have been depressed for 5 years now because I know that she couldn’t care less about me. She calls me her friend but she told me she doesn’t want me in her life. I have recently told a handful of people how I feel and I wish I could take back every word I said. I told my best friend who now thinks I am ridiculous, I told my parents who repetitively tell me to just move on, and I told the love of my life how I feel about her and she said she couldn’t care less. This has ruined my friendship, my family, and my whole life. I am a good student that makes straight A’s but I can’t focus at school because I am up till 2:00 am crying myself to sleep. I don’t eat as much, I can’t sleep, and I have randomly placed emotional breakdowns. I love my parents but I don’t think they can help, I can’t even tell them all of how I feel because I know it will hurt them too much. Just about a year ago I contemplated taking my own life, I have moved pass this and will never think that way again but I am a Christian and I still find myself praying every night for death. I don’t know what to do or where to turn. I feel worthless and unwanted, please help.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['This has ruined my friendship, my family, and my whole life.'], 'answer_start': [885]}
Dear Therapist, I have been receiving psychodynamic counseling for the last 4 of my 41 years of life. I have found it a painful process but very helpful. I have also been taking citalopram for this period and still am. It takes a lot for me to share my feelings and experiences and that is why I have found therapy so uncomfortable.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My mother was diagnosed with schizophrenia in her twenties. I grew up watching the woman I knew slowly fade away. It still pains me because she has had problems with taking her medication. She now lives in a treatment facility but still waves in and out of clarity. I am 32 now and have spent half my life being angry for my mother’s illness and the other half at myself for not being able to do something. What can I do? I am not privileged to her progress because she is an adult. I cannot help because I do not know all of the facts.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I have almost always had minor visual hallucinations (dark figures, geometric patterns, stationary objects look like they’re moving) in the dark (nighttime, dark room, anywhere), deep troubles identifying whether a memory is from real life or a dream, and I get deja vu a few times a week. I did not until recently realize that these could be symptoms of something concerning developing even though the hallucinations always make me very frightened/paranoid. A few years ago auditory hallucinations (muted conversations, can’t distinguish any words) developed. I have never taken any illegal/prescription drugs that could cause hallucinations. Is this simply my adhd causing memory problems and getting bored, or should I be looking into something else? (I should also mention that I suspect that I have borderline personality disorder due to emotional neglect/abuse from my parents and suddenly 4 years ago all my friends (known them for 7+ years) abandoned me. I have little sense of identity, fear of abandonment, frequent and intense mood swings, and splitting on people. However my hallucinations and confused memories are not about any of the traumatic events so I think it is something separate.)

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['(I should also mention that I suspect that I have borderline personality disorder due to emotional neglect/abuse from my parents and suddenly 4 years ago all my friends (known them for 7+ years) abandoned me.'], 'answer_start': [754]}
From a young woman the U.S.: I need an opinion from women who’ve had abortions. I’m in a year long long distance relationship with a guy in New York. I’m 17 weeks along. He knows but my parents do not. My family is Mormon but I am not, and I don’t want to disappoint my parents more than I already have.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['He knows but my parents do not. My family is Mormon but I am not, and I don’t want to disappoint my parents more than I already have.'], 'answer_start': [170]}
From a teen in the U.S.: So, just two months ago I was discharged from a psych hospital after trying to kill myself. I’ve struggled with depression, self harm, and anxiety all my life. When I left the hospital, I went back to my school and my ‘friends’ had spread awful rumors about me, which basically made everyone hate me. I just recently switched schools, but I have noticed that something is up when I sleep.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I’m not in school, I don’t have a full time job, I don’t even know how to drive, and I feel like I have nothing to live for. I finished one semester in community college but I quickly realized that isn’t for me. I want to go into cosmetology school but I don’t have the money for it and my parents aren’t at all supportive. I really feel like my life is pointless. I’m not clinically diagnosed, but I’ve never truly been happy. I remember having suicidal thoughts at ten years old, and for about four years now I’ve considered myself depressed. Like I said, I don’t have a good relationship with my parents and it isn’t something I want to talk about with them. I’ve never reached out to get professional help because of this. I have no direction in my life and I have no clue what I’m doing and I see no point. I’m going through the days with no will, just getting them done. I don’t know what to do.

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m not in school, I don’t have a full time job, I don’t even know how to drive, and I feel like I have nothing to live for.'], 'answer_start': [1]}
I really don’t know what to do. My daughter is 14. It all started when she got her first phone at 12 when we caught her sending pictures she had no business sending. So the phone was taken away. Her grades started slipping and she was without her phone for about a year. Now she is a freshman in high school, since she plays for the school Softball team I was hoping she’d straighten out so she can play. But that’s not the case.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Hello. I’m a teenage girl living in Cali, USA. Ever since I remember, I’ve been struggling with mental illness. And it is very tiring to tell myself all these years that it will get better when it never has. I even see a therapist, but we’ve tried a lot of things and nothings worked even though I want it to work so badly.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Since I got diagnosed with schizophrenia my life has been falling apart. But the main problem is homicidal thoughts. I have only one friend, close one. He is the only one i talk to, excluding my mom. My dad was a drunk who destroyed our family. He died 5 weeks ago, and I was happy that he died. And i dont know why, but i fantasize about killing everyone i see, even animals, which i love. I fantasize about torturing them in the worst possible ways i can come up with, then slowly kill them while they watch me doing it. I don’t know if the thoughts have anything to do with schizophrenia, since i had those thoughts for a long time. All i want to know is how to control those thoughts, since i start feeling like someday i could do that without thinking, as an impulse. Thank you for your help.

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I don’t know if the thoughts have anything to do with schizophrenia, since i had those thoughts for a long time. All i want to know is how to control those thoughts, since i start feeling like someday i could do that without thinking, as an impulse.'], 'answer_start': [524]}
I am having an impossible time with my 6-year-old daughter. She lies, is defiant, occasionally violent, and occasionally, nearly impossible to be around. From the minute she wakes up in the morning she starts challenging us and I really don’t know what to do. I’m concerned for her safety and well being and don’t know where to get help.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['From the minute she wakes up in the morning she starts challenging us and I really don’t know what to do.'], 'answer_start': [154]}
I met my boyfriend nearly 2 years ago online. He is in the army and was soon to be sent to Afghanistan. He lived about 6 hours away from me but being that we just met I decided not to visit (for safety reasons). Once he was sent away, we became very close, we scheduled web cam dates, sent letters, emails, cards, etc.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Two weeks ago my wife said that she wanted to try a separation to find herself. I have not been doing the things she needs and treating her the way I should. Well it’s been two weeks, I still pay all the bills and am living with a friend. She has both of the kids, but I talk to them nightly. I want to move back home, even if it is in the other room. I miss my kids and my wife…and I’d like to come home. How long should I wait until I tell her I am moving home and if she needs more space then she needs to go somewhere else?

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
When I was 15 years old (I am 30 today) I sat on the edge of the 16th floor window seriously considering to jump because I couldn’t handle what my father kept saying about me not achieving the scores he wanted me to score in high school. The 2 only things that stopped me were my religion, I am a Muslim, and in Islam; taking your own life will send you to hell fire. The second factor is I was worried about my mother, she is too sensitive and I was almost certain she wouldn’t be able to handle and live with such an action.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['The second factor is I was worried about my mother, she is too sensitive and I was almost certain she wouldn’t be able to handle and live with such an action.'], 'answer_start': [368]}
I am a 30 (one child, once divorced) year old woman, have been seeing a 42 year old man (never married no kids) for about 5 months. For the most part our relationship is good, but he won’t stop bringing up my sexual past and asking seriously intrusive questions. He wants to know every single personal detail and exact numbers, all the way back to high school! I’ve told him Im uncomfortable talking about it and I think its unhealthy, since it is irrelevant now, but he just gets angry and emotional. He has some perfectionism issues and claims that he’s avoided one night stands his whole life in order to be the “perfect” partner to someone someday and wishes i would’ve done the same. He says this is my punishment, having to admit the things I’ve done and be ashamed. Im so confused I don’t know how to handle these inquisitions every month. or so. Im ready to leave if this doesn’t stop but I wish I knew how to make this stop. Or SHOULD I feel guilty for my past?! HELP PLEASE!

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a teen in Romania: By the time they are 18, most people have already had their first kiss and quite a lot of them have already had sex. I haven’t even come close to kissing anybody and I am terribly embarrassed by that. I can talk about it with really close friends probably because they also have a lot of different problems at this age and I feel like I am equal to them in a way because of that, even though their problems are different from mine.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['By the time they are 18, most people have already had their first kiss and quite a lot of them have already had sex. I haven’t even come close to kissing anybody and I am terribly embarrassed by that.'], 'answer_start': [25]}
adhd, adjustment disorder: Ive been stuggling with a few issues recently and I dont know whether or not to go to a therapist. Im worried about potential adjustment disorder and inattentive adhd. I just cant deal with change.When I first started university I was having a good time but when I got home I was miserable and didnt want to go back .Id just burst into tears at the thought of having new friends because I just wanted my old ones. Eventually I settled in. A weirder example is when I got a second cat, I kept trying to convince my parents to give her away because I liked the dynamic of having one cat,it meant no favourites and the thought of things changing made me cry just thinking about it. This anxiety if change has always followed me. When i was younger Id have frequent dreams of finding out my mam was pregnant and Id wake up crying. Now this feeling has returned because my parents want to move and I just cant cope with the idea. I love my house, its ours and the thought of someone else living here and making it their home just makes me burst into tears.Another recent example was I had my first brief relationship which I ended just before we got together because I just couldn’t deal with it. He asked me out and I cried the whole walk home after saying yes,I did the same thing(crying)after he kissed me in the car ride home with my dad. My parents keep telling me to stop getting so worked up about silly things but I just cant help it.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['A weirder example is when I got a second cat, I kept trying to convince my parents to give her away because I liked the dynamic of having one cat,it meant no favourites and the thought of things changing made me cry just thinking about it.'], 'answer_start': [466]}