Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
My bff and I “separated” in 7th grade and became very different people. Before that time I never had an issue with making friends and had quite a few but by the end of middle school, I was pretty alone. In high school it was not much different I had people to talk to, I was involved in extracurricular stuff but I rarely saw anyone outside of those activities. I am pretty introverted but I like people. I went to college and joined some groups and enjoyed their company but nothing really stuck. A couple of years in I roomed with a couple of people I knew and started to build a friendship with them but we’re just not close. I like them a lot and they seem to like me but I always just feel like I’m bothering them. And if I’m with them together I feel like a 3rd wheel. I realize that my issues are about me and not others. I can be annoying, emotionally distant, awkward, and occasionally clingy. I realize that but I don’t know what to do about it. I feel more isolated than ever and just have aching loneliness. Sometimes I just lay in bed and cry and try to muffle the sound in my pillow so they can’t hear me. I’m just lost. (From the USA)

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I can be annoying, emotionally distant, awkward, and occasionally clingy. I realize that but I don’t know what to do about it.'], 'answer_start': [829]}
For about 2 years now my brother had been dating this girl and she has broke up with him 6 times and he keeps going back to her he just about got in a wreck a month ago over it. He has been fighting with my dad about every little thing and talks to her after every fight.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['He has been fighting with my dad about every little thing and talks to her after every fight.'], 'answer_start': [178]}
From a teenage young woman in Chili: So, I have this friend, that has been thinking about attempting against her life, and she seems determinate, she says that she feels empty, that she don’t want to do nothing, she feels unuseful and feel like she is failing to his friends by being so down and not being able to give them properly attention, she goes to a therapy and take pills but suddenly it aren’t helping anymore, she was about to leave those pills because she was feeling better but all of a sudden this feeling came to her. Then there is this other friend, she has the same issue but she thinks no one really cares for her and her family don’t treat her good, she is not in therapy because her family don’t let her to, she feels unloved and we are not that close either so i don’t know what to tell her either I don’t know what to tell them at all, i want to give them some advice or support, please help me.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Hey, I’ve been really struggling because I’ve been thinking about this problem a lot. So a quick background story. I am the oldest in 5 kids and my parents were married for over 15 years. I also come from a middle eastern background and a very strict religious family. So I’m not sure if anyone is going to understand how hard it is to say anything to anyone. So my dad was sick since 2011 he had a stroke that made him paralyzed on his whole left side. I was around 9 years old when he started being sick. My mom would always take care of him and stay by his side or at least that’s what I thought. But when I was 11, I started seeing my mom talk to different guy on the phone and always flirting with him. I was young and I told her mom are you talking to anyone else. But she denied it and then changed the password for her phone so I wouldn’t look at anything. I ignored it for about a year or so, now around this time, my dad was getting better and the relationship between them was great, there weren’t any problems and we almost never saw them fighting, but I still heard her talking to that guy and saw her many times meet with him when my dad wasn’t home and she always thought I didn’t know and I forgot about it. Time passed and I always ignored, I never told anything to any of my other siblings or faced her with it again. Time passed and my dad got sick again, and she was still talking to that guy in addition to 2 other guys that I knew about and they looked a lot younger than her. I would always find a way to know her password and open her chats to see all the flirty messages between her and the other guys. I always cried by myself and kept it in me since then. Speed up to two years ago, I was 14 at that time, my dad got another stroke and was really sick, he passed away. My mom continued to talk to one of the guys and I don’t know what happened to the other two. I regret not telling my dad anything. And if anyone of my uncles knows about her texts and the pictures she sends to that guy, they will kill her because it is against our religion and our culture and they are very strict. I always cry and I still look thru her phone and see all the disgusting things she says and sends to that guy. I don’t know if I should tell anyone or keep it a secret still. Oh, I forgot to mention that the guy she’s still talking is also married and has kids.(From the USA)

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['And if anyone of my uncles knows about her texts and the pictures she sends to that guy, they will kill her because it is against our religion and our culture and they are very strict. I always cry and I still look thru her phone and see all the disgusting things she says and sends to that guy. I don’t know if I should tell anyone or keep it a secret still.'], 'answer_start': [1927]}
I bring up problems in the relationship because I think I dont get enough from my boyfriend. I feel anxious, inadequate, not good enough for him. I get how me complaining makes him feel inadequate, so it’s a vicious cycle id like to break. (From India)

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I feel anxious, inadequate, not good enough for him. I get how me complaining makes him feel inadequate, so it’s a vicious cycle id like to break.'], 'answer_start': [93]}
From a woman in the U.S.: Been going on since I was a teen. I’ve cheated on every boyfriend numerous times. I don’t feel guilty about it, just try to hide it the best I can. I don’t want to be with them, it’s more of a “conquering” thing. Usually it’s a one time thing, then I no longer desire them. I’ve been with over 2k men in 17 years.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’ve cheated on every boyfriend numerous times.'], 'answer_start': [60]}
For the past couple of months, the relationship with my mother has started to fall apart, due to a lie I told back in February , which I took full responsibility for and I am aware that hiding my depression from her and the fact that I was seeing a physiologist without her knowing was not okay, but I felt as if she wouldn’t understand, because she’s always told me I make a big deal out of everything and that I want to make it seem like I’m a victim when I cry, so I was ashamed to tell her and face her criticism. As of lately I have returned with my ex boyfriend, we separated previously about a month ago because I wanted time to focus on myself and When we argued it was very hard on me because I was at a vulnerable stage, Due to me being sensitive my mother would see me cry and she would immediately assume that my boyfriend was at fault, she assumes it was because of him that I fell depressed and she assumed that because of him I chose to take a break from school to better my mental health. Now that I am back with him, she blames me every single day for choosing to ruin my life, she blames me for causing her pain and she blames me for my family falling apart. It’s gotten to the point where I’m scared to go home due to the criticism I’ll have to face from her. She bases her opinions of my boyfriend based on some text messages she read, because she literally stole my phone and figured out my password, she crossed the line and invaded my privacy. She is now making me choose between my boyfriend or them, and honestly if she thinks that my boyfriend is the one hurting me she is very wrong, I love her very dearly but now the only one causing me pain when I’m already feeling helpless is her. The other day she even ran away from my house for a straight two hours making me worry, and when she came back she threatened me and my 14 year old sister saying she was going to leave us because she’s tired of living in this stupid country with two daughters who are a disappointment who use her and don’t appreciate her (AND THAT IS NOT TRUE)

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['She is now making me choose between my boyfriend or them, and honestly if she thinks that my boyfriend is the one hurting me she is very wrong, I love her very dearly but now the only one causing me pain when I’m already feeling helpless is her.'], 'answer_start': [1467]}
I can’t tell. My dad yells and hits my younger brother and when I was younger he would smack me on the head. It makes my little brother cry all the time and we’re all afraid of him. I don’t think my mom feels safe either. Whenever something that might upset him happens, she makes us swear to hide it from him. What’s going on?

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I don’t think my mom feels safe either.'], 'answer_start': [182]}
I truly believe that I have high functioning autism. I have a lot of the symptoms, if not all of them. I have taken multiple online tests and they all say that I do have autism. The only problem is, is that my mother will not take me to get tested. I need a diagnosis, but I do not know how to get one without my mother. What do I do?

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I have a lot of the symptoms, if not all of them.'], 'answer_start': [53]}
From a woman in the U.S.:  I have a friend who has autism just like I do. At first we had a lot in common when we first met. As the short two years go by, I’ve learned we really don’t have a lot in common besides video games, anime and plush toys. Our values and beliefs differ from each other. She prefers family while I choose independence.

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['I have a friend who has autism just like I do. At first we had a lot in common when we first met. As the short two years go by, I’ve learned we really don’t have a lot in common besides video games, anime and plush toys. Our values and beliefs differ from each other. She prefers family while I choose independence.'], 'answer_start': [27]}
Four months ago I was diagnosed with depression by my family’s doctor. I started taking antidepressants but I they were making me feel woozy and restless so I asked to stop taking them and just continuing with regular visits to a psichologist to see how I was holding up. The thing is my family, especially my mom is always criticizing my life and my choices… I never really cared before but now it’s really starting to affect me. I’m really scared to what I might do if my family keeps this non-supportive attitude… My psichologist says that if they are hurting me I should stop spending time with them… But we are still family… I can’t just cut the connection… Is there any way I can make my family understand what I’m going through? Because every time I try to explain to my mom that she’s hurting me, she just keeps telling me that I’m too soft and need to toughen up if I want to make it in this world…

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m really scared to what I might do if my family keeps this non-supportive attitude…'], 'answer_start': [431]}
From a teen in the U.S.: Whenever I do something mildly wrong, get called an idiot, or just generally feel upset, I feel the need to have violent fantasies about being sexually, emotionally, or physically abused until I cry. The fantasies have been following the same narrative where someone severely abuses me and is justified because I did something horribly wrong to my abuser or their family member.

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['The fantasies have been following the same narrative where someone severely abuses me and is justified because I did something horribly wrong to my abuser or their family member.'], 'answer_start': [225]}
From the U.S.: Husband is receiving trauma therapy.  In therapy yesterday he shared that there is domestic violence in our home and that he wants to heal and learn skills to keep this from happening.  This morning, CPS was at our door regarding DV reported yesterday

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My boyfriend has a 13 yr who is very clingy to him. She’s had instances where she would call her mother while she is at our house and cry when she doesn’t get her way. This, of course, would spark an argument with between her and my boyfriend. Of course, when we first started dating she felt like he was spending too much time with me and my kids. So I felt the need to step back and let him handle that supposedly gain control of the situation. It seems to be there is an issue that arises every couple of months where she gets upset with him about something that involves me and my kids. I can’t stand when she comes around and I can tell he knows how I feel. I’m on the verge of calling it quits. I don’t know what else to do.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I can’t stand when she comes around and I can tell he knows how I feel.'], 'answer_start': [591]}
From a young woman in the U.S. I have been dating the same person for almost three years, I recently find myself getting angry because I feel i am not completing my goals as fast as I would like to and in return blaming it on the relationship, for the this reason: If i worked more overtime I could reach my goal faster but don’t want to because then I would miss him a lot and i would be miserable about seeing him less, where as when i was single i had no issues working as much as I had to, in order to obtain my goals because i had nothing to look forward to when I came home.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I have been dating the same person for almost three years, I recently find myself getting angry because I feel i am not completing my goals as fast as I would like to and in return blaming it on the relationship, for the this reason: If i worked more overtime I could reach my goal faster but don’t want to because then I would miss him a lot and i would be miserable about seeing him less, where as when i was single i had no issues working as much as I had to, in order to obtain my goals because i had nothing to look forward to when I came home.'], 'answer_start': [31]}
From a  young man in the U.K.: It’s a long story but I was seeing someone romantically and it didn’t work out. They hurt me and I can’t shake the urge to just give up on life now I know they don’t want me anymore. People told me it would fade away over time but it still bothers me all the time even after 6 months. I’ve never been heartbroken before but it can’t usually be this bad.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['They hurt me and I can’t shake the urge to just give up on life now I know they don’t want me anymore.'], 'answer_start': [111]}
Hey, I sometimes feel like there is a weight on my chest a heavy rock as if someone if pressing my chest I feel anxious and uneasy, sometimes I can’t even give a name to my feelings and I sit there wondering what do I have, I have some symptoms of OCD for example in a shop I so I’d touch dresses and if I touch one with my left hand it has to be touched by my right hand as well in the same manner there are many more examples of such things but I have never had an anxiety attack. What is this? (From India)

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I have been seeing my therapist for 4 sessions now to talk about things related to my family, my past, just difficult things I had to go through and our goal is to understand myself better. Now this last time I saw him, he asked me what my sexual fantasies were. I don’t understand how it could be beneficial to talk about them but I didn’t think of that at the time so I didn’t ask him. But is it a violation of privacy’? Is it out of line of him to ask me that? (From the UK)

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Hey, I sometimes feel like there is a weight on my chest a heavy rock as if someone if pressing my chest I feel anxious and uneasy, sometimes I can’t even give a name to my feelings and I sit there wondering what do I have, I have some symptoms of OCD for example in a shop I so idk touch dresses and if I touch one with my left hand it has to be touched by my right hand as well in the same manner there are many more examples of such things but I have never had an anxiety attack. What is this?

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Hi! I have bpd (with no known comorbidity) and for a while now I’ve been dissociating to the point where I’ve been told I’ve gone through my day like normal (or like I’m half asleep in some cases) and I wasn’t there for anything. Like I’d come out and not remember that I just went to work or did laundry, normal stuff. I’ve had entire conversations that I don’t remember having. How could I just black out and go on with my day if I’m not there??? There are some times we’re I also feel like I’m dreaming constantly. Are any of these symptoms normal for bpd? I haven’t been seen by a professional in ages and I just wonder if this is “normal” for bpd.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['There are some times we’re I also feel like I’m dreaming constantly.'], 'answer_start': [449]}
My friend has been making bad decisions lately. She lost her job because of an ex-boyfriend she went back with, they broke up I don’t know how many times, she stopped seeing him finally a few months ago but she was also seeing another ex-boyfriend, both CHOSE to leave her without saying anything in the past which is why they broke up. She’s been on and off with this second guy. She’s been making progress in putting her life back together by going back to school but this guy is getting in the way. She told him to leave –he comes back and this repeats. A few days she went back to him after telling him to leave her alone once more because he was always at her place keeping her from her school work. I’m getting mad, because I don’t know how many times I spent the night consoling her because of these guys. Now she went back to him and it’s gonna be the same thing and don’t know what to say to her. I don’t agree with the relationship, her friends have told me the same also, but I don’t want to upset her. I’ve had enough of this back and forth. Every time she ends it he keeps going to her place, bangs on her door demanding to talk to her and she eventually caves. She told him to leave again and he told her to kill herself and said her kids don’t like her. Days later he demands to see her, she caves and the cycle repeats. I’m disappointed in her because the last time I spoke to her she hasn’t been to class and told me hasn’t done homework in a week because he’s there. Some of her friends have told me they’ve given up on her. I don’t want to do that but I’m close. We haven’t spoken since they got back together, one I don’t know what to say, two I feel like he’s controlling her. I want to be there for her but it’s just gonna be the same thing over and over. I’m at a loss, she’s gonna ruin her life again for an ex. (From the USA)

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m at a loss, she’s gonna ruin her life again for an ex.'], 'answer_start': [1778]}
I have a problem with my past, but I don’t know what kind it is if any. I just know that I had a really happy early childhood until age seven when I moved to a new school I didn’t like and my grandmother got diagnosed with dementia so my mom was never around much for a few years. I remember resentment for my grandmother, but I’m over that now. She is still alive after about a decade if you can believe that.

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['I just know that I had a really happy early childhood until age seven when I moved to a new school I didn’t like and my grandmother got diagnosed with dementia so my mom was never around much for a few years.'], 'answer_start': [72]}
I don’t really know how to describe it, but I sort of crave negative attention. Not as in “prefers negative over no attention”, but that I receive some strange gratification over receiving negative attention, even over positive. To clarify it’s nothing sexual, I don’t engage in that sort of behavior, and I still feel unhappy over negative attention- but I enjoy that feeling of unhappiness. I sort of indulge in the feeling that comes during an emotional fallout with someone. In short, I “enjoy unhappiness”. I know that’s unhealthy, but I don’t seem to be fufilled from positive attention only. Why? (From the USA)

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I know that’s unhealthy, but I don’t seem to be fufilled from positive attention only.'], 'answer_start': [512]}
From the U.S.: I did this all the time as a kid, talk to myself like someone was there. Not like talking with myself to solve problems but just like normal friends having a conversation. It will be a completely animated conversation about anything good and disturbing. And I’l look right where I think whoever I’m talking to (someone made up or sometimes famous or whoever) is standing there. I know it’s not real or reality but the fantasy of pretending is nice. I function at work and home fine but I do this everywhere ,work, home, out, everywhere. I used to think its normal but now in not so sure.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I used to think its normal but now in not so sure.'], 'answer_start': [552]}
The relationship with my mom has worsened due to a lie I told back in February, which I took full responsibility for and I am aware that hiding my depression from her and the fact that I was seeing a physiologist without her knowing was not okay, but I felt as if she wouldn’t understand, because she’s always told me I make a big deal out of everything and that I want to make it seem like I’m a victim when I cry, so I was ashamed to tell her and face her criticism. As of lately I have returned with my ex-boyfriend, we separated previously about a month ago because I wanted time to focus on myself and When we argued it was very hard on me because I was at a vulnerable stage, Due to me being sensitive my mother would see me cry and she would immediately assume that my boyfriend was at fault, she assumes it was because of him that I fell depressed and she assumed that because of him I chose to take a break from school to better my mental health.

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['The relationship with my mom has worsened due to a lie I told back in February, which I took full responsibility for and I am aware that hiding my depression from her and the fact that I was seeing a physiologist without her knowing was not okay, but I felt as if she wouldn’t understand, because she’s always told me I make a big deal out of everything and that I want to make it seem like I’m a victim when I cry, so I was ashamed to tell her and face her criticism.'], 'answer_start': [0]}