Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
I think I might have a social anxiety disorder. I get embarrassed very easily and of mostly everything. I cannot speak in front of an audience, when I have to in school I usually just don’t do it. I’ve been told I take criticism way too personally (by my mom). I get nausea when something I’m nervous about is going to happen (e.g. when I’m going to gym class because I’m not very athletic and I don’t like people watching me attempting to play a sport). I don’t like crowds, when I’m offered to go to the mall, or a restaurant, or even a relative’s house (that I’m not close to), I usually decline. I’m aware that I’m a very shy person, and should work on my confident issues. But I don’t though if I’m being dramatic about this. I’m scared to talk to my mom about it because I don’t want her to think that I’m being dramatic. And I don’t know why I’m scared because she’s a very good mother, and I’ve trusted her with a lot of secrets. One time she commented on me never wanting to go out with the family and said that I never want to spend time with them. But I do want to spend time with them, I think maybe I’m scared.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m aware that I’m a very shy person, and should work on my confident issues. '], 'answer_start': [600]}
My mother is a great person, very talented, bright, amazing woman. But all her life was unstable, and have done a lot of things she seems to regret… My father especially, who she talks ill every single day. That’s where I come in for her. She calls me everyday, or wants me to call her and talk to her for hours. She wants me to support her financially ( I only turned 24) and I did support her for years now, and I never have enough to live myself! She is in good health does absolutely nothing but sits and does art and nothing else. She is in good health, she is very bright. But she doesn’t want to work, doesn’t want to do anything. She has no friend because she says that people are boring and man useless and boring to her. She tells me I am the only person that understands her! I feel we are like twins, she is always here! I cannot have my own life! She lives in Egypt and me here in LA, and still I feel her energy all the time. Draining me, so much sometimes I just want to disappear. I really want her to be happy, and to find her own life, her own path and leave me alone. I am so tired of being her whole life. I want my life back, I want to be me, I want to live. But every day I have to listen to all this problems. To how unhappy se is, how bored, how she hates relying on everyone for money, how no-one loves her. And all if it is not true! I mean it is because she made it this way, but it is not really. She can change everything. She loves playing the victim. But I feel I have to carry this life she CHOOSE for herself. And I don’t want to! Am I selfish to want my own life? To be free? To just call to say hello and chat, and be happy and light… Does it have to be so hard? Do I have to curry this burden… I just feel I do not live, I feel like I am just running around trying to apologize for her own choices… I am so tired of this. Please tell me what can I do…

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['She lives in Egypt and me here in LA, and still I feel her energy all the time.'], 'answer_start': [860]}
My regular therapist is advising me to get a social life, because not having one can apparently have negative health consequences. As I am health conscious, I have been attempting to follow his advice for several months now, with no success. I don’t like people. I always prefer to be alone and have no desire for a social life. I want to give up and just live alone so badly, but my therapist insists that I should find a social life. This onerous task gives me terrible anxiety.

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['This onerous task gives me terrible anxiety.'], 'answer_start': [436]}
From the U.S.: I am a 23 year old graduate student who is in the process of re-evaluating my social life. For the past few years, making friends in my town where I go to school has turned into somewhat of a painful hardship. Because I am passionate about my faith and wanted to surround myself with people who I thought were decent and welcoming, rather than spend my years of undergrad years partying and neglecting my studies, I surrounded myself with people from religious activities, which became the focus of my social life during my undergrad years, believing that would be a decent and healthy environment.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a 13 year old in the U.S.: The other day, my dad was cracking down on me for having 3 late assignments and made me stay up until midnight to finish them. After I completed them, I packed up my school things and went to my bedroom, passing through the kitchen. I did my usual nightly routine of grabbing a granola bar when I noticed that the knife set looked extremely friendly. I grabbed one and held it to my wrist, ready to add to my cut collection when Dad WOKE UP and CAME INTO THE KITCHEN! He grabbed the knife in anger, not in a concerned parent way, and yelled at me for being a stupid failure and that he wished that I could be like my younger sister. (My sister is an All-Star Basketball player for our school and has all As)

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
About a week ago, I stumbled upon the fact that I am one day going to not exist on earth anymore. Ever since that realization, I cannot stop thinking about it and it’s ruining my life. I no longer find anything enjoyable and every time the thought comes up again, I get a strange feeling in my gut, similar to the feeling of a broken heart and I begin to have a sort of breakdown. I just want to stop thinking about it in total and go back to my normal life without this happening multiple times a day, almost every hour. Please, is there any way to fix or cope with this? I’m getting to the point where it is too hard to handle.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['Ever since that realization, I cannot stop thinking about it and it’s ruining my life.'], 'answer_start': [98]}
As of right now I’m wondering if her boyfriend is doing more harm than good. Me and my mom used to fight a lot worse. We all live under the same roof. Me, my son, her and her boyfriend. Her boyfriend has never liked me. He never says anything positive. Sure what he says may be true but I think it’s not helping. Me and my mom fight a lot but what I’m concerned about is her mood changes when her boyfriend is around. Like today we had a great day. Lots of laughing. We had our friend over and we were all in the spa and my son was splashing and things were great. I leave to take my son to baseball practice and when I return she is in complete hate mode towards me. And when I left we just had a fun day and things were good. I ask what’s wrong and she tells me “oh you don’t give me attitude one day and we’re fine?” I’m curious if it’s bad that whenever she’s with her boyfriend in her room all the talk between them is him talking negatively about me. I’m wondering if that would stress our situation and not make it any better because he’s there fueling her brain and reminding her what a f*** up her daughter is. Thanks for any response.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['Her boyfriend has never liked me. He never says anything positive.'], 'answer_start': [186]}
It seems like for the last couple of years (or somewhere around that margin) I’ve been having problems with just letting things go or mentally getting over something. For example, yesterday, I was in a book store, walking up to the counter, when I felt something hit my back. I looked down, and it was some kind of children’s rubber toy, and there was a stand near me that it could have fell off of if I bumped into it. However, I didn’t notice any such thing on the stand, and it landed on my back…

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['It seems like for the last couple of years (or somewhere around that margin) I’ve been having problems with just letting things go or mentally getting over something.'], 'answer_start': [1]}
I have been researching psychopathy and ASPD since I was in my teens. Based on how I am, my lifestyle, my WELL known personal abilities to manipulate and influence, along with my absolute lack of empathy (unless it’s something that affects me directly), and of course that I am very smart and conscious of my decisions. I don’t get in trouble because I am smart enough to avoid getting caught. I will come up with other ways, even if that includes convincing others to join me. I am fully aware of how people show empathy, concern and helpfulness. I have full ability to portray this if the situation calls for it (Death of someone, someone’s personal problems, Etc.) I cheat, I exchange sex for money, I make up sob stories to get people to do my yard work, Etc.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['Based on how I am, my lifestyle, my WELL known personal abilities to manipulate and influence, along with my absolute lack of empathy (unless it’s something that affects me directly), and of course that I am very smart and conscious of my decisions.'], 'answer_start': [70]}
From a teen in Australia: A bit of background about me just in case it is a contributing factor. I don’t really eat healthy, I have trouble trusting people (there isn’t anyone I trust fully in the entire world) and I don’t get along well with my family.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My 27 year old son recently had what seems to be a schizophrenic episode. He had been suffering for years with social skills issues and sleep problems. Recently graduated from law school. He has a fear of being around people and hears voices, started neglecting personal hygiene, spends compulsively (ie. Bought 4 jackets exactly alike, 3 still in the package.) but does not have the budget for it. The real problem, every time he goes to get help they accuse him of just wanting to get drugs, but he hates taking any drugs. Also, doesn’t think he has a problem except the sleep issue. He keeps saying if he could just get sleep everything will be fine, even after a good night’s sleep. How do we convince health care providers there is a problem? He can sound quite normal in some situations, until you manage to catch a comment that is off the wall.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I am a straight girl who is only attracted to homosexual men. As a child, of course, I had crushes on straight celebrities, but as I’ve gotten older and have begun actually trying to have relationships with others, I cannot seem to stay attracted to straight men. Being physically attracted to heterosexuals is one thing, but after I get to know them, I am turned off. This has happened more times than I can count. I love gay men. Even if they’re not flamboyant, there’s something about a homosexual man that I am so attracted to.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a 14 year old in the U.S.: at the age of nine I experienced scabies with my family. it was isolating and traumatic, and left me with mild but long-lasting and persistent ptsd symptoms. I’ve had solid depression since then and it took over my life. my general feelings of anxiety became a disorder about halfway through 7th grade.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['at the age of nine I experienced scabies with my family. it was isolating and traumatic, and left me with mild but long-lasting and persistent ptsd symptoms.'], 'answer_start': [32]}
My father is a narcissistic, closed minded, very angry and play the victim role. He used to fight with my mom daily. My mom is playing the victim role too and she’s too sensitive,pessimistic and lonely. My patents used to be over protective ,very very judgmental and critical. MY father judges the other people by looks and ironically he’s the one that people abuse . I grew up shy and introvert as I was from a middle class and the place I’m living in was for lower class (It’s my father’s class).I used to rely on my mom when it comes to buying clothes and on my father for getting my papers or things done .They really never let me do anything in this life and I’ve no real friends to experience life with .Now I’m an adult with no life experiences and I’m scared to be myself or to buy my own stuff coz I’m afraid that my father knows. It eats me that I can’t be myself around them .I have to conceal my shopping list or the stuff I buy and whenever they find it ,they judge me and criticize me immediately. Of course I’m the very nice guy now and this is another problem. I hate my parents and Idk what to do . I want to stop worrying about what they/others think of me and live an independent life.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['My father is a narcissistic, closed minded, very angry and play the victim role. '], 'answer_start': [0]}
From the U.S.: I am 17 female. I don’t interact with people much. i think i don’t need them and I don’t want to appear needy. In fact I hate appearing needy. I’m too different I feel like I have nothing in common with them. I only interact with people to not appear weird. But the second someone chases me and seems interested in me I tell them all my secrets and we become intimate but most of the time they leave. I generally don’t know how to start a relationship or interacting with people and it makes me feel lonely but i am too arrogant to start chasing people.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['In fact I hate appearing needy. I’m too different I feel like I have nothing in common with them.'], 'answer_start': [126]}
From an American teen: I’ve shamefully become jealous of couples engaging in making out publicly. I’m an 18 year old, single, never had a girlfriend (that wasn’t online/completely unseeable, hundreds of miles away and untouchable), and I’m a never-been-kissed guy. One side of me says be patient and I’m too young, the other side of me remembers everyone’s story about their first kiss in middle school, or how a 14 yr old (annoying) friend bragged to me about kissing, while the 17 year old me sits there listening, ignoring his statements and masking jealously. In high school all the kids kissing in the halls, and in lunch and stuff became a tiring image (especially since I was never one of them) and I realized such a strong desire when my failed attempts to be with a crush were for that very reason. I’ve had tons of dreams about making out. In the waking life I turn my head every time an onscreen kiss happens, and now I just HATE to see a guy kissing a girl who’s not me, and find it extremely awkward to watch. My patience is wearing thin and I’m just dying to have the experience with a girl in real life, it seems to be so easy for males much younger than me, and I feel it a consequence of shyness that doesn’t seem to be wearing off any time soon. Why do I want to make out so bad?!

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['My patience is wearing thin and I’m just dying to have the experience with a girl in real life, it seems to be so easy for males much younger than me, and I feel it a consequence of shyness that doesn’t seem to be wearing off any time soon.'], 'answer_start': [1023]}
I have been seeing a psychologist for past 2 years weekly. I have suffered from depression and 2 years ago attempted to take my own life. I recovered physically but still everyday is a struggle. I have become isolated, rarely go out only to attend work and prefer this way. I have an adult son who treats me poorly, has been physically and psychologically abusive since he was a teenager, have 3 grandchildren but only see one of them now. My psychologist thinks I suffer from complex trauma due to childhood abuse from my mother, sexual abuse from my brother, was in a domestic violence with my sons until he took his own life, found closest friend who took her own life, it just goes on and on. How do I recover from this?

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['I have an adult son who treats me poorly, has been physically and psychologically abusive since he was a teenager, have 3 grandchildren but only see one of them now.'], 'answer_start': [274]}
A few weeks my best friend (24 m) came over to visit for the weekend. My family look at this boy like another son, they love him and he even has keys to my mother’s house. (I live with my Dad) The first night -Saturday- nothing happened. But Sunday I woke up orgasaming and his hand was in my pants. I did not know what to do so I just moved his hand and kept a pillow between us for the rest of the night. The next weekend he came over again, but just for Saturday. This time I woke up and both my pants and his pants were missing. Not only that, but my panties had been removed as well (which I do not do no matter how hot I get under the covers..

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.: hello i have a 2 year old son and 5 year old stepson that are brothers. The 5 year old stepson humiliates the 2 year old son by calling him a brat and saying his brother dies. The 5 year old stepson tells the 2 year old son that his toys are worse and uglier than his own toys.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.: I just finished my third year of college. I currently have a 2.614 GPA, but it is about to plummet. My mom is a high school counselor with many degrees, so she expects at least a 3.25 GPA from me. After each year of college, I never showed my mom my final grades, and just tried to get her to forget about them over the summer, but each summer, she has checked them and confronted me at random times to tell me that I should be very ashamed of myself for wasting my dad and her money by not taking school seriously and that she will pull me out of school if I keep it up.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I’m worried I may have some kind of repressed memories, which I know isn’t unusual, but there is something off and I am unable to pinpoint why I am having these issues. I’m a twenty-one-year-old female. I distinctly remember having sexual dreams/images in my head very young. By this, I mean around the age of four or five. Typically, they’d be other characters from movies or shows that I had been watching in nonconsensual situations (the antagonist of the show would be committing the act to the protagonist. I have always associated with the victim.) I don’t know how I knew how sex worked at such a young age. Especially not something non-consensual. I don’t ever remember seeing it or having it explained to me, but I knew anatomy and where what parts went.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m worried I may have some kind of repressed memories, which I know isn’t unusual, but there is something off and I am unable to pinpoint why I am having these issues.'], 'answer_start': [0]}
I am a female, and I have been having an ongoing affair for the past 10 years. I am married, he is married. We met about 12 years ago. I would have ended up with him had I not gotten pregnant with my son. I had left my husband for him, but then after finding out I was pregnant, went back to my husband. My question now is that since we are both miserable, we want to leave our spouses, we know what we are doing is wrong, but there are children involved same ages 2 boys 7 and 2 girls 5. I have tried to tell my husband that I am unhappy but he won’t hear it and thinks we can make it over this so called “hump”…we have done counseling together and separately. My husband is very co-dependent, I am not. I just don’t know how to do this and it is consuming my life and starting to drive me crazy!! Any advice will be greatly appreciated!

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I just don’t know how to do this and it is consuming my life and starting to drive me crazy!!'], 'answer_start': [705]}
From Canada: Three years ago, when I was 19 and doing landscaping, as well as experimenting with MDMA semi-regularly, I started experiencing strange episodes. I would immediately know when it was coming on, it sort of felt like I was starting to feel someone else’s emotions who was trapped and frightened and very desperate. I was still in control of myself and my emotions but in my mind I had this bubble of desperate, scared emotions and whenever I made a movement (like picking something up or putting something down) I had a very vivid picture in my mind of myself throwing or smashing the object or just doing a more violent, desperate version of the action.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I feel hollow, empty. I’m not depressed, but I don’t experience many emotions with 2 exceptions. One being I get wildly angry after being provoked multiple times. The other exception has happened only twice in my life. I have met a girl (my age, obviously) that, for no apparent reason, I feel strongly attracted to, both times I have known little to nothing about them, it seems to be random. I can just & read them and looking at pictures of them make me feel happy. I put on different &masks throughout the day to interact with people and they don’t seem to ever notice I’m deceiving them. I also experienced heavy physical bullying as a child in school and several instances of sexual assault, also as a child, from a parent of one of the kids I went to elementary school with. I don’t react to anything. If I win something, I feel nothing, same thing with losing, watching movies, jump scares, death, surprises, birthdays, or anything else a normal person would react to. Can you help me understand what is going in in my brain? Thanks

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['If I win something, I feel nothing, same thing with losing, watching movies, jump scares, death, surprises, birthdays, or anything else a normal person would react to.'], 'answer_start': [809]}
So I have too many things to say. 1.i hate living in a 1bhk with my parents (who are at home all the time, they have a tendency to fight or talk loudly with each other and are dependent on my financially) 2.Broke up with my bf only because of long distance and can’t think of marriage as we are still young in our careers 3.i lack confidence and people at work constantly wonder whether I wish to grown or not 4.im unable to freely talk to people as I feel shy communicating, I feel I’ll be judged (either for my eng grammar or petty /less aware knowledge) 5.at night in unable to sleep peacefully, wake up with a scary dream or feeling

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['im unable to freely talk to people as I feel shy communicating, I feel I’ll be judged (either for my eng grammar or petty /less aware knowledge)'], 'answer_start': [412]}
I have been trying to go deaf for a long time now, and slowly it is working. The main reason is for the escape, not from reality, but social “norms” and modern society’s insanity. Now, my best friend thinks I’m just a little on the edge of the insanity side, when I reassured him that not understanding or seeing the screwed-upness (if that’s a word) of the entire world no matter where you go.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}