Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
When I was in middle school, I knew this kid named Josh. We didnt really ever talk, but I didn’t have anything against him. In fact, he was one of the only kids in class who didn’t bully me, but maybe it was because it wasn’t his type of thing. Anyway, about 4 years after I last saw him, I found out he died. That was about mid 2016. Today is July 2018 and sometimes I still stay up late at night saddened at the thought of him being dead. I feel silly to grieve someone i hardly knew and spoke maybe 3 words to the entire time I knew him. Sometimes I go through his old social media, and I see how normal of a kid he was. He made videos with friends, he wore silly costumes to get a laugh, and he was really loved by the people he surrounded himself with. I guess I’m mainly saddened that he was only 17 and he had a family that he left behind. I’ve cried so many times over this and I guess I just want to express what I’ve been feeling to someone and be told that this is a normal process.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I feel silly to grieve someone i hardly knew and spoke maybe 3 words to the entire time I knew him.'], 'answer_start': [441]}
From Indonesia: Lately, I’ve been having a sleeping problem. I would either have bad dreams or suddenly bad thoughts come into my mind. The bad dreams that I’ve been having mostly about being chased, getting stuck or confronting something that makes me feel helpless and after that, I would wake up breathing heavily and panting.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I would either have bad dreams or suddenly bad thoughts come into my mind. The bad dreams that I’ve been having mostly about being chased, getting stuck or confronting something that makes me feel helpless and after that, I would wake up breathing heavily and panting.'], 'answer_start': [61]}
My friend found her husband aroused in the bath with their daughter. This is something that I believe should just not happen. I was abused as a child and thought I was over all of this. This is bringing out old feelings. I am happily married, with a good sex life. I never told my husband about me being abused and only told my mother at the age of about 25. I never had the relationship with my father to tell him, even though in later years we grew a lot closer. I am not sure as what to tell my friend. I spoke to my husband about this but it is like he has blinkers on saying she must have been wrong, why did she not ask him about this right away, etc… My husband is always telling me I am OTT when it comes to my daughter, she is 4 and I have told her to never let anybody touch her on her “private parts”. Am I wrong to not tell my husband about what happened to me?

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. We had a good start but then my boyfriend started complaining that I wasn’t giving him his emotional needs. I first didn’t realize what he needed and he kept complaining and fighting for the past 2 years and I only understood and matured lately. I’ve been trying to give him what he needs for the past 2 months but he won’t open up. A few days ago, he admitted to me that he was emotionally cheating on me and that he just figured it out and he kept apologizing and crying, begging for my forgiveness and telling me he’d give me whatever I needed but that he didn’t want us to break up because he couldn’t bare losing me. He admitted he was totally wrong and that he had no excuses but the reason it happened was that he wasn’t getting what he needed from me and he swore he never went looking for his needs elsewhere and he kept pushing the girl away but he got weak after a while. My boyfriend has never been unfaithful and I know he loves me insanely, he’s just over friendly with girls and I honestly find it really difficult to deal with, because I’m very insecure, because I find his behavior exceeding “limits”, and especially that he wouldn’t accept me to behave this way around guys.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Hello, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 7 years. I’m totally in love with her and I followed her to NY when she landed her dream job a couple of years ago. Recently, she was fired for reasons here undisclosed. Obviously this was a gigantic blow for both of us. Since then, she’s developed a series of behaviors that have led to me wanting to seek help here. In a nutshell, she has always been a sensitive and highly empathic person and she claims that she’s been given a new calling from a higher being. She spends her nights now looking across the street at one of our neighbors, like in a movie, and with a video game controller, she follows what he’s doing. She says that she is watching over him and that she will make his life better like this since he seems lonely to her. On top of this, she’s fasting; only eating fruits and nuts during a certain portion of the day. All of it seems super calculated and ritualized in great detail. I come from an extremely religious family so I’ve seen similar but never ever like this. And this doesn’t correspond to any popular religion. I’ll say that she has never exhibited behavior like this in all the time we’ve been together. I’m obviously extremely worried about her and on a selfish note, I miss her a lot because she doesn’t seem to need or want me anymore. The other thing is that she seems totally lucid when I speak with her, but what she does seems not right of course. She has not yet lost her temper with me or lashed out at me though even when I try to get her to stop. And another thing is that she’s extremely proud and distrustful of doctors so I’m afraid that if I try to get her to see one, she’ll break up with me. I’m wondering if I could get advice on what to do? Is it okay to start a correspondence with a doctor behind her back and try things out to see if she gets better? For example, since I’m a cook and she used to love my cooking, I’m going try to at least get her to eat by making some of her favorites. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['All of it seems super calculated and ritualized in great detail. '], 'answer_start': [875]}
From the U.S: I’m a 14 year old girl. So basically 4 months ago at the end of the school year my parents got mad at me because my grades where dropping. So they took my phone and went through it and found one particularly conversation with someone that I was talking to and I was telling them about a bunch of stuff. I was talking crap about my mom and my stepdad and how I kissed a girl and other stuff that I’m ashamed to admit.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From France: I have contacted you because my boyfriend started to see a psychotherapist since last autumn and I was skeptical from the start but I couldn’t forbid him this. Now lets start with a few things about him: he had in the past really bad moments, never contacted a psychotherapist even then he really needed one. He fighted with weed dependence, he had obsessive compulsive thoughts because of drugs, anxiety…then a doctor recommended him Seroxat, he had a dependence for this medication too. Also he liked alcohol. It is not an alchoolist, but he likes to drink lot when he has occasion and person with similar pleasure for drinks.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
One month ago my 14 year old daughter texted me from school saying that my husband (her stepdad) had asked her to change her shirt in front of him while I wasn’t home, and that he had also came into the bathroom while she was in the shower and ruffled the curtain and said “let me see”. I was devastated because I never ever thought something like this could happen. He has moved out now, and has promised to go to counseling. My question is if families are able to come back from something like this or not, and also, if he gets help and apologized to her and I make sure all precautions are in place so this never happens again, if it’s horrible for me to expect her to be ok with letting him move back in. We have two sons together and I want our family to stay intact. He is an incredible person and provider. He has been very depressed since the passing of his father. He admitted to it and cried for a whole week because he feels so horrible for what he has done. I know on he inside he is a good person. I’m just blown away that this happened. I want to protect my daughter above all else. I’ve told him if he moves back in and anything like this happened again I would report it and he would lose his kids. He swears it was just a glitch and he was just depressed and he is very, very sorry for it and he would never do it again. He did not ever touch her, and when he asked that of her she said no, so he didn’t see her at all. It was mostly just words but I know words can be the most hurtful. I really just want to know if you think it’s possible for us to keep our family together if everyone gets some therapy and help. Thank you for your time!

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I know on he inside he is a good person.'], 'answer_start': [970]}
From the U.S.: I believe I am bi-polar. I don’t believe in talk therapy, but something is wrong with my head. I don’t know how else to describe this. I am an educator and have serious issues with the fact that I can not control my own brain. Can you tell me how a psychologist or psychiatrist could actually help me without just explaining their job? What kind of help could they give me besides medicine- which I have?

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I am an educator and have serious issues with the fact that I can not control my own brain.'], 'answer_start': [150]}
From a teen in the U.S.: I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 6 months now. In the beginning I was super excited about it and I was really happy. I was a virgin going into the relationship and I had planned on keeping it that way. On the other hand, he was not a virgin and pretty experienced in sex. even before we were dating, he would try to put his hands down my pants, take off my shirt, etc. I always said no and got uncomfortable but he would do it anyway.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I have been picking at my skin since I was around 8. I’m 20 now and the bottoms of my feet are hard and calloused and I reguarly peel skin off them until they bleed, making it hard to walk. I struggle with depression and anxiety and I was wondering it this behavior is tied to those? I want to stop. But I don’t know how. Does this count as self harm? I have cut and burned before but I haven’t dont that since I was 18.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Let me start by saying that my husband is a great guy, but I believe he is a very selfish person which I think may lead him into getting mad about things so easily. It could even be as simple as picking up something and if it’s an inconvenience for him, he’ll get very short with me and you can hear his voice change and I know he’s mad, I ask what is wrong and he gets very irritated with me. He’ll start fighting with me and yelling over the stupidest things, like asking him what is wrong. He claims that I’m always starting stuff and playing games but I honestly am not doing that. I just want him to be happy and our lives to be turbulance free. He always feels bad later on, we’ll talk and feel like I got through to him but then a week later, it’ll happen again. I guess I’m feeling very disrespected by him and starting to resent him for the way he treats me.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['Let me start by saying that my husband is a great guy, but I believe he is a very selfish person which I think may lead him into getting mad about things so easily.'], 'answer_start': [1]}
I have a 5 year old daughter and am pregnant by my current boyfriend of the last two years. He put a camera in the bathroom at my mom’s house. We have never had any issues and he has always treated my daughter as his own. I need some advice on what others would do? I want him in the delivery room when I go into labor but my family thinks it’s the wrong choice. He was arrested for unlawful eavesdropping and survalince. He was bonded out after 2 days. My parents think I am a bad parent for wanting him to be there knowing what he did. I need to know what others think because I love my kids and never want to lose them and at this time my parents are telling me they will take my kids. And they know I would never let that happen. I have always been controlled by my parents and they feel like their own opinion is the only and right one. Please help and give me your honest opinion. My dad feels like I need to talk to a therapist and this is a lot for a pregnant woman to handle without someone to talk to. I think my parents are taking it too far to say that since he did this he will mess with my kids. The camera was also never used and had to be used within my mom’s home so I don’t think he knew how it worked before putting it there.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['have always been controlled by my parents and they feel like their own opinion is the only and right one.'], 'answer_start': [736]}
I am a separated woman that was involved with a married man for a year. It started innocently by me taking my daughter to her friends house. Through this I met ‘Vaughn’. We just talked about the kids and school. We saw each other through these drop offs and pick ups about 5 times a week. I learned his wife traveled on business 2 weeks out of the month. My then husband and I were in the process of divorce.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I would not consider this an “issue.” However I am curious to understand the potential reasoning’s behind this. Usually I spend a great majority of my free time in solitude, I don’t bother having social interactions with others (family or acquaintances) because quite frankly it is not enjoyable or particularly interesting. As far as intimacy goes I absolutely disdain love and affection. My childhood was great, and I do not have any family issues currently or from the past. I simply find that love and affection disgusts me. I realized that when I was 12, my mother would shower me with love and it would completely irritate me and grind my gears. She knows now that I do not like that so she stopped. The issue however, is my lack of any emotion and care for others. I am an introvert, but most introverts have some kind of social interactions with close friends or acquaintances. I however don’t have friends since most people cant meet my expectations and when I am friendly to someone they associate that with interest and they start to become annoying and wanting to have a conversation. I usually show them I am uninterested by replying with single words or expressing no emotion on my face until its awkward and they say goodbye. I cant connect with people at all on an emotional level is what I realized I don’t care about the persons dreams, desires, emotions or well-being for that matter. This may come across as very blunt and rude. But I don’t even care about my parents in the same manor I don’t care about other people. I don’t mind socializing so long as there is a clear goal (work or educational space). I don’t enjoy communicating with people for enjoyment. My lack of intimacy is probably a direct result of my disinterest with socializing with people. That being said feedback on this would be much appreciated.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['My lack of intimacy is probably a direct result of my disinterest with socializing with people.'], 'answer_start': [1681]}
From a woman in Iran: I have found out that I have a really bad personality problem; here it is: When someone that I care about makes me angry repeatedly (for things like not answering my phone calls), I talk aggressively and bittingly to him/her. The result will be his/her anger and stop being kind with me. Then I feel ambivalent. On one hand, I’m sad and guilty because of my impolite talking and nagging; on the other hand, I believe that person is the one that made me mad and he/she deserved my rude words. At least I could show my anger and I now I feel catharcised.

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['On one hand, I’m sad and guilty because of my impolite talking and nagging; on the other hand, I believe that person is the one that made me mad and he/she deserved my rude words.'], 'answer_start': [334]}
From a teen in the U.S.: My parents have been separated for 2 years. At first I was very upset with my mom because she cheated on my father. Eventually I’ve grown past the anger I felt towards her but my dad is still very bitter. She got a lot of my dads money in the divorce, he is obviously upset about that which I understand. I feel like the details of their divorce and the problems in their marriage are none of my business which is why I try my best to stay out of it.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
A friend of mine has unsupportive parents when it comes to being LGBT. His mother screamed at the TV when a commercial involving a queer couple came on. I was wondering if a therapist would help them. I know there are counseling groups specifically for this, but I don’t know of any in Minnesota. How should he approach his mother about this? He is a minor, and a parent would have to accompany him for his first appointment, and pay for it, and sign him up in the first place.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a teen in the U.S.: I have been unable to find what anxiety disorder I am suffering from for years, and when I had a therapist years back, she never diagnosed me either. I’ve been able to manage it thoroughly and in a healthy manner, but I want to have an official diagnosis (or a predicted diagnosis) in order to finally replace “I have an anxiety disorder”with “I have _____”.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years now. He lives with me. Sometimes he is very cold to my son. He is a quiet guy that does not really like to be bothered. He gets annoyed with me too when I bug him. He has said that he is the type of guy that shouldn’t be in a relationship because he likes his space. Well, last night was the last straw for me. My son had gotten him something for father’s day (not his dad) and he brought it over to his desk tried to talk to him and he said not right now and my son was yelling over him saying it’s important and my boyfriend yelled at him and he started crying and came and told me. I went in and talked to my boyfriend and he said it doesn’t matter what he needed to talk to me about he needs to wait. Then later my son came in again to apologize to him for bothering him and yelled at him again. I really think I’ve had it with this. I love my boyfriend and sometimes him and my son have lots of fun together, he’s been around since he was 2. He’s 8 now. But This happens too much and my son should not be treated this way. Am I making the right decision breaking up with him or should I talk to him and see if things change?

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['But This happens too much and my son should not be treated this way.'], 'answer_start': [1010]}
From the U.S.: I’ve been diagnosed with GAD. My past includes one episode of Major Depression. I have had anxiety as far back as my memory serves, into early childhood. I’ve also been court ordered , around twenty five years previously , to attend anger management counseling.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I went to my first therapy appointment last week, and I’m really upset about it. I think I found a great therapist, and I was really looking forward to meeting her and getting started, but right before therapy, I got so anxious. I started shaking when we for into her office, which she noticed and started asking me about it, which made me even more uncomfortable. Then, we started talking about my past (I’ve been depressed since adolescence, went to therapy then, even spent some time in the hospital), and she tried to go through all of my history, but I was still so anxious, that I could barely talk to her, and she didn’t even try to calm me down. At times I started to cry, but I don’t know if she was going too fast or just asking hard questions, but probably both. She wants to talk about stuff like aggression in family, sexuality and so on in next session, but I don’t think I can handle it so fast. I’m not yet comfortable with her, and now I’m even more uncomfortable. I’m practically scared of seeing that therapist again, even though I still believe she’s the best one I could find. Should I email her, explain what happened and ask her if we can go slower? Also, I could use some kind of milder approach, because she seems very strict, cold and distant. Would it be okay to ask nicely for that too? I’m not sure I can work or even talk to her if this keeps happening. *Thank you very much.*

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['Then, we started talking about my past (I’ve been depressed since adolescence, went to therapy then, even spent some time in the hospital), and she tried to go through all of my history, but I was still so anxious, that I could barely talk to her, and she didn’t even try to calm me down.'], 'answer_start': [365]}
From the U.S.: A few years back, I went through the worst 3 plus years of my life. This was all without telling anyone, simply dealing with it – every second of the day. I was hearing voices, thousands times a day I would hear different statements, and I finally could not take it. I broke down, sent to the hospital emergency, and then Baker Acted for 5 days. Removal only if 3 expert psychiatrists, deemed me ready to leave. I was so desperate to get out of this depressing, unhealthy prison setting.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I was hearing voices, thousands times a day I would hear different statements, and I finally could not take it.'], 'answer_start': [170]}
From the U.S. My wife (in her 60s) refuses to eat or drink anything. We have a tube in her stomach for the nourishment that she needs to get by on. She has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, but we don’t know what to diagnose her non eating and drinking problems. She can’t walk on her own and the only time she gets out of bed is to go to the bathroom and I have to help her get there. Do know of any illnesses that deal with non eating or drinking problems?

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Just some background on the situation: I’ve lived with my father and my step mother for 3 ½ years after social services intervened and moved me and my little sister away from my birth mother. My little sister went back to live with my mother very quickly, but I stayed up here.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a teen in the U.S.: My boyfriend has no trust for me due to past relationships. He is extremely jealous and gets mad when I talk to other guys at all (even if they’re gay or a close family friend). I love him and would do anything for him. He took my virginity and everything.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['My boyfriend has no trust for me due to past relationships.'], 'answer_start': [25]}