Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
I have been dating my boyfriend for the past 7 months, and I am head over heels for him. He is about 14 years older than me and a college professor. This is part of our dilemma. He talks for a living. So when we are talking, he constantly interrupts me or asks me tons of questions without giving me the opportunity to answer any of them. It’s so frustrating. We both have strong personalities, so it has led to a couple of arguments. I started to do research into how we could communicate better, in an attempt to resolve the issue. 2 weeks ago, I confronted my boyfriend about the situation and told him that he chronically interrupts me or talks over me and how frustrating I found it. He got very defensive and told me that I was being passive aggressive and that I’m too sensitive. Since then our communication has dwindled. We used to talk on the phone every night and now we only talk on the phone a few times per week. I am freaking out a little here, because now there are awkward silences, or he throws in my face that he is letting me speak and that I should be grateful for the opportunity. I feel like this has put a huge wedge between us and it is deteriorating our relationship. We aren’t able to see a lot of each other as we both work long hours and he travels, so we need open communication in order to survive. How can I make things right while still getting my own needs met? (age 31, from US)

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I have PTSD, have been in a few abusive relationships, have over come them all and have always been fine. This last one, about 5 months ago, he got me pregnant, he was abusive but one day he went to the extreme and almost killed me after I found out we were pregnant… this was all in front of my first son. I believe it’s because it was in front of my son that it’s affecting me so bad, but I have never been this clueless as to what to do to overcome this. I am now 6 months pregnant, lately (past 3 or more weeks) every time I lay down to sleep or am calm, the memory and flashbacks hit me hard, and all I think about is how my son saw it Even after my 10 hour graveyard shift sometime I lay awake in bed for hours. Sometimes crying, sometimes wanting to scream, nothing I do gets my mind off of it. No matter what i try to think about or do. Also my dreams lately have been very traumatizing, murders, blood, suicide, everything bad… started around the same time these flashbacks started happening. I have always dealt with my stress, or trauma. It’s never affected me like this… I wake up legitimately fearful from my dreams, or I just can not sleep, when the flashbacks happen NOTHING gets my mind off them… I can’t concentrate… what should I do? What does this sound like? Help me please? :(

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I am now 6 months pregnant, lately (past 3 or more weeks) every time I lay down to sleep or am calm, the memory and flashbacks hit me hard, and all I think about is how my son saw it Even after my 10 hour graveyard shift sometime I lay awake in bed for hours. Sometimes crying, sometimes wanting to scream, nothing I do gets my mind off of it. No matter what i try to think about or do. Also my dreams lately have been very traumatizing, murders, blood, suicide, everything bad… started around the same time these flashbacks started happening. I have always dealt with my stress, or trauma. It’s never affected me like this… I wake up legitimately fearful from my dreams, or I just can not sleep, when the flashbacks happen NOTHING gets my mind off them… I can’t concentrate… what should I do?'], 'answer_start': [458]}
Your opinion? My partner is contradictory and critical, but at the same time gets very upset if any of her ideas or decisions are questioned in any way. Examples: She will ridicule any book I am reading unless it is one recommended by her. If it is not a subject that interests her, especially technical books, she will describe the book as childish rubbish. The same with any TV program or film. She is an aspirational vegetarian. If I have meat and she has vegetarian she has spent the evening — while I am eating — asking how I could eat dead rotting flesh, how do I feel having caused the death of  a living being just for my gratification etc. The following week she will buy, cook and eat chicken and say how tasty it is. Sex. This has now ceased. Very often she has not only rejected me, but says that I am disgusting for wanting sex, “Don’t come near me. Don’t you dare touch me”etc — almost hysterical. A couple of days later she will start crying and ask why don’t I make love to her any more, don’t I care for her? She will deny that she ever said that she did not want me near her. I thought that being nice to her would gain her trust and we would get closer. But it seems to have the opposite reaction. The nicer I am, the more awkward, contradictory and demanding she becomes. She seems to need to push me until we have a disagreement. My partner’s mother was English and her father Portuguese and she was brought up in Portugal. Her parents broke up when she was 10 and she ended up with her mother who did not spend much time with her as she had to work hard. With her job her mother was given a scholarship for her daughter to go to the local international school. My partner spent years there but never got on as her first language was not English. She felt very left out, not coming from a rich family. My partner has two older brothers and mentions her poor relationship with them when she was a child. They continually told her she was stupid and ugly. If she wore a new dress they would tease her mercilessly. I think this has had a big impact. (age 65, from United Kingdom)

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I am currently in my second semester of college and have lost all of my motivation to keep up with my course load. I have lost my motivation because I feel that no matter what I do, I am not making any progress towards my goal of having a fulfilling life.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['I have lost my motivation because I feel that no matter what I do, I am not making any progress towards my goal of having a fulfilling life.'], 'answer_start': [115]}
Today my future husband told me a story of his family. His grandmother is an alcoholic. The problem is his mother thinks that she is a descendent of The Romanovs (the royal family that was killed in Russia in 1918). It was happening to her gradually. She was okay till 2002, then she started to reproach her husband by saying that she is of the royal blood and so on. Now she has a strong feeling of paranoia as she thinks that everybody (especially doctors) wants to kill her. She also thinks that her husband doesn’t work and the government gives him money so he could support her and their children. They always fight.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From Denmark: Hi I’m a 15 year old boy. I think I’m getting/having a depression. My dad suffers from depression, my sister from anorexia and my mom sometimes cries a lot because of all the bad things that has happened. I took a depression test on the web and it said I had extremely high score on Cyclothymia and I have all the symptoms from it. I don’t know what to do. I dont know how to tell my parents. They have already been through soo much and are still not good and my sister refuses to get help and she’s 18 now so my parrents can’t force her. I always keep my emotions in and I realize now that I really can’t get them out. I can’t cry no matter how much I try and I haven’t cried for a year or so not even from pain — 2 months ago I got a big piece of glass all the way through my finger and it got stuck. After I got it pulled out at the hospital I had a huge hole but I didnt cry even though it hurt like hell

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I always keep my emotions in and I realize now that I really can’t get them out. I can’t cry no matter how much I try and I haven’t cried for a year or so not even from pain — 2 months ago I got a big piece of glass all the way through my finger and it got stuck. After I got it pulled out at the hospital I had a huge hole but I didnt cry even though it hurt like hell'], 'answer_start': [553]}
About 5 years ago, I made a deal with my dad that I would try out 10 episodes of his favorite TV show because he really wanted me to try it. Then he said if I didn’t like it, I wouldn’t have to watch it anymore. I didn’t like it — sci-fi isn’t my genre. Anyway, my dad has asked a few times every year since then if I’ll try the show again, and I always say no and remind him I don’t like it. He says I didn’t give it a fair shot, and basically says anyone would like it. It involves some gory things like worms coming out of someone’s stomach, and I hate watching any violence or gory things. He tries to argue with me about why I’ll like it, but I’ve always hated sci-fi. I’ve offered to watch a show that we both like together. My dad has said multiple times “there’s no way you’re my daughter” or “you can’t be my daughter” since I hate sci-fi. I’m adamant against watching this show because I think he’s not respecting my answer and always wanted his kids to be interested in what he is interested in. He has tried to manipulate me by saying he would do what his father asked, and that if I’m so inflexible on this I’m bound to have problems in future relationships. He has said he doesn’t ask much of me. My dad has guilt-tripped me my whole life and has always been controlling. Maybe my resistance is partially coming from a huge history. Recently he asked again and I said no– I have a big problem being assertive, and I’m practicing sticking up for myself. I very rarely stick up for myself with my dad because he’s so overbearing.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['My dad has said multiple times “there’s no way you’re my daughter” or “you can’t be my daughter” since I hate sci-fi'], 'answer_start': [731]}
From the U.S.: My stepkids don’t exactly hate me or their mother, but they say it and that we’re the worst anytime we put them in time out or ground them when they are being violent towards each other or us (which is encouraged by their birthfather). It just drives me up the wall knowing that they spy for him and his mother (who is the only one who actually uses his visitations because he’s too busy playing videogames and dating to actually spend time with them). They promote that when over there, the kids are totally in charge and that no one has to look out for them as well as money being more important than people or morals.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['It just drives me up the wall knowing that they spy for him and his mother (who is the only one who actually uses his visitations because he’s too busy playing videogames and dating to actually spend time with them).'], 'answer_start': [251]}
I’m 15 years old and just started cutting myself last night, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. My biological father died the beginning of this month, and I just feel like crap. All my mom and step-dad do is yell at me, I have no friends and no one to talk to. I’m so far behind in my school work and I think about killing myself all the time. I’ve felt bad and had problems even before things started getting worse. I was actually diagnosed with bipolar when I was 10, but my mother took me out of therapy after the lady said I had bipolar. If I mention anything about the diagnosis she just says there is nothing wrong with me and that I’m fine. I go to an online schooling program so I never leave the house and spend most of my time in my room. I do start normal school next year though. Last night I just felt horrible and I just don’t know. I hate to admit it but I don’t really take care of myself either. It’s really hard for me to get out of bed and brush my teeth or take a shower. I don’t really do anything anymore. I don’t think I could be put in therapy. Even if my parents would allow me to go they wouldn’t be able to afford it. Everything just got worse after my dad died. We were not close so I didn’t think it would affect me when he died. He did drugs, cheated on my mom, he even threatened to kill us when I was a kid. I don’t think my mom really helped, she would tell us everything he would say. Doctors threatened to put me and my brother in foster care because of the condition we were living in. Now my mom has been married to this guy for 4 years and they fight all the time. We live in a trailer so I can always here when their fighting. My grades have dropped and I just don’t know. I feel like this is all over the place. What’s should I do?

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['All my mom and step-dad do is yell at me, I have no friends and no one to talk to. I’m so far behind in my school work and I think about killing myself all the time. '], 'answer_start': [178]}
I want to learn how to deal with my female friend that has a paranoid disorder. My girlfriend is undiagnosed. However, displays every symptom of the paranoid personality disorder. I was searching for an explanation as to why she has gotten worse in her paranoia.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['My girlfriend is undiagnosed. However, displays every symptom of the paranoid personality disorder.'], 'answer_start': [80]}
From UK: Hi, I hope you might be able to give me some advice. I’ve never had a problem making friends, although I’ve always been selective about who I let get close to me. I am not someone with huge friendship groups though I have lots of individual friends. I do have a group of “best friends” that I met at uni 10 years ago, 3 of whom I am closest too and have stayed in touch.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’ve never had a problem making friends, although I’ve always been selective about who I let get close to me. I am not someone with huge friendship groups though I have lots of individual friends. I do have a group of “best friends” that I met at uni 10 years ago, 3 of whom I am closest too and have stayed in touch.'], 'answer_start': [62]}
I can’t get close to anyone, I can’t feel, I can’t make friends or i just don’t want to, i feel the need to be alone. I’m not shy at all, I’m a very confident person I can talk to anyone in fact I don’t even hesitate to talk with strangers at all. and yes I’m a good person at heart i’m not selfish yet I can’t get close to anyone sometimes I feel like there’s an invisible wall around me that I can’t let anyone close. mostly people like me they are inspired by me they want to get close but each time I just push them away even sometimes when I really like them, but I don’t feel. What’s wrong with me?

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m not shy at all, I’m a very confident person I can talk to anyone in fact I don’t even hesitate to talk with strangers at all.'], 'answer_start': [118]}
I’m 15 years old, I’m not sure though. I have felt very souless to others, I felt no sympthy or empthy what’s so ever. I alway’s thought of terrible things to some people. I lie, only at times that I don’t have the time to explain. I lie at times that I just have to get at what I want. I done manipulation to others. I need help, but I don’t think my mother knows either, I have also been mute everytime I’m at school or just dont’ want to say anything that may upset my mother. I need advice or anything that can maybe help me, not do any of these things agian or ever. Please, I need the advice. I also have awared that people have asked this, but still help would be nice.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I need help, but I don’t think my mother knows either, I have also been mute everytime I’m at school or just dont’ want to say anything that may upset my mother.'], 'answer_start': [318]}
From the U.S.: I am having a hard time convincing my boyfriend that his kids and my kids need positive feedback, encouragement and praise for things that they do successfully in their lives. I am aware of the phenomenon of overpraise or praise for things that don’t really warrant praise (like obeying the laws of gravity). That’s not my question.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Hi. I wanted to know if there could be something wrong with me, and if so, what could be causing it. For quite a while now I have been experiencing extremely intense mood swings and identity shifts that only last for a very short period of time. One minute I can feel suicidal, the next I feel euphoric, the next I am bursting with energy, the next I am rage full, and the next I feel like a rational human being. However, I have found that when I’m in these euphoric, energetic moods I can become extremely paranoid if triggered. The other night I slept over at my friend’s house in one of these moods, and the voices inside of my head said that if I didn’t throw my phone at the wall, something horrible would happen. So I struggled with it for a while, and then finally threw my phone at the wall. All my friends who were trying to go to sleep woke up. These voices are not audible they are just two voices that seem to be there and tell me to do things, but they contradict one another all the time, and often I can’t figure out who to trust. I’ve felt pretty stable for a little over a week now, except for last night when I thought that my mother was trying to poison me (lately I’ve been feeling more and more that my parents are trying to kill me). I had a small panic attack and then I got over it. I also started planning out how to kill my friend, but then changed my mind. I become very angry and murderous at times but still seem to have a capacity for intense empathy for others. The confusing thing is, whenever I switch back into my rational mode I view my past actions as ridiculous and try to forget about them. Rational mode can last for a week or so, maybe longer, and then I go back headlong into a tailspin and let everything fall apart. I know that I am not schizophrenic because these voices are not audible and I still have a pretty good grip on reality. I also know that it is not bipolar disorder because the moods change far too quickly. I am very confused, and would appreciate a little guidance. Thank you in advance!

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’ve felt pretty stable for a little over a week now, except for last night when I thought that my mother was trying to poison me (lately I’ve been feeling more and more that my parents are trying to kill me). '], 'answer_start': [1047]}
My son came home from Colorado and has been drinking and smoking pot for about a year. When he came home he was a little paranoid but ok. He went to see some friends and partied for 3 days, he said he only drank. When he came home he was hearing voices and uncontrollable we took him to a hosp. and they admitted him and gave him some medication. He went into outpatient therapy, but that was not helping with his problems he needed one on one. We went to a social worker and she said he wanted to hurt himself so she called cops and had him admitted. He was there for 10 days because he did not want to take meds. He’s in outpatient again and the doctor has him on 1mg at night and 10mg Abilify. I cut the abilify to 5mg because when he was on 10mg he heard more voices and holding his head all the time and not functioning. The doctor still thinks he should be on 5mg in morning and 5mg towards evening. We tried that and the next day he was so bad we thought we were going to bring him to the hosp. again. I called the office and they said the dr. Knows what he is doing and I should listen to them. When I did not give him the extra Abilify yesterday he seemed much calmer and wanted to do something. I am not sure what to do next I have been looking for other doctors but either they don’t take our insurance or they don’t have any openings for a few months. Is it possible someone age 30 can be ok and 3 days later be schizoaffective who never had any signs. And what medication is good. Thank you from a concerned parent.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We recently bought a house! He’s an amazing guy, perfect in fact, until he gets mad! Well when he gets stressed or something doesn’t go his way or something goes wrong, he screams so loud and cusses at me even though I didn’t do anything! He acts like a crazy person! It scares me! It can be so little as in the dog is barking at the door or I ask him a simple questions and he doesn’t agree with it! Then he looks at me like I’m dumb and I should be freaking out with him! He always says I don’t have a care in the world, but I’m the type of person that doesn’t get stressed or angry easily. If I can’t do anything about it, why get mad? I believe life’s too short too be stressed and angry all the time. I try to find good in any situation, if that makes sense!

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['He’s an amazing guy, perfect in fact, until he gets mad!'], 'answer_start': [85]}
Hi, I took multiple online test for anxiety, depression, and bipolar. The anxiety came out extremely high, and I already know I have crazy anxiety issues. The depression came out high, so as the bipolar. I am also suicidal. The only friend I have is my dad so he is the only person I can see if he can get me a therapist. I have no other family. But the issue is, he jokes around a TON. And he is the only person I can go to. I am scared if I tell him about it, he will think I am crazy. About 4 months ago I broke down crying in bed and couldn’t speak a word, besides “Ifv.. cnt…….. spk”. He just thought I was being silly. So, how can I cope with my issues without therapy? Currently, I have been just cutting my thighs up, a place where no one can see. Thanks!

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I am scared if I tell him about it, he will think I am crazy. About 4 months ago I broke down crying in bed and couldn’t speak a word, besides “Ifv.. cnt…….. spk”. He just thought I was being silly. '], 'answer_start': [426]}
I would like to ask for an opinion on whether or not my father might have Aspergers syndrome based on what I describe. I myself am absolutely convinced he does and would only think otherwise if told by a doctor. To start with my father and I are not close. He seems very cold and indifferent to me and when I was a child he exhibited an extremely bad temper often beating me over very little — such as playing too loud or even when I was badly behaved. Other people have noticed my father seems indifferent too, so I know I’m not imagining it. I have read about Asperger’s and my father seems to display many of the symptoms. He has no friends and never has, he doesn’t like social situations such as party’s, weddings, Christmas or New Year. He is highly sensitive to sound and light and often complains about things being too loud and too bright. On occasion he also exhibits hand flapping and finger twisting. He has throughout his entire life shown little interest in me or my brother, in fact all he shows is anger. Furthermore I have noticed that he feels very awkward and uncomfortable around children, even his own grandchildren and at one point wouldn’t even go near them, talk to them or hold them when they were babies. And when in social situations such as parties or family gatherings he seems vacant — aloof at times and can become very clumsy, knocking things over. He misses the punchline of jokes and often fails to understand conversations by saying things another person has already said or talking about something completely unrelated.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}