Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
I have always felt off for as long as I can remember. I have had bad relationship after bad relationship. I have been with men who have made me feel awful, but I have also treated them awful. I feel trapped in this awful life, I can’t find happiness! I don’t find joy in much of anything as hard as I try. I have to kids and love them to pieces, but sometimes it’s even hard for me to want to continue being a mom. Sometimes I want to run away because I feel like they deserve someone better. I have struggled to come up with something to pinpoint what exactly my problem is. I have tried counseling so many times and it gets nowhere. I KNOW that I have something wrong… But everyone tells me all the things I am experiencing are normal. Are they? I just can’t accept that. I can’t seem to get along with my mother, I can’t seem to be happy without a relationship, and I fall in “love” so fast, and way to easy. I stay even when I know I shouldn’t. I feel like I am not capable of doing anything, I feel like the biggest waste. I have anxiety about so many things! I drink more then I’d like and hate it, I recently picked up gambling, which has ruined everything. I can’t do a lot of things unless I’m drinking. I can’t seem to make friends, and only because if I’m sober I wonder why they would ever want to be my friend. I can’t have sex when I’m sober, because I have horrible anxiety that I am doing everything wrong. I have the same anxiety about a lot of other aspects in life as well. I rarely even try new things anymore because I just know I never can, and never will be able to do it. I don’t know what is wrong with me, but I just want to know that it can be fixed! I don’t want to live my life so sad, and lonely. I don’t want to waste it.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I stay even when I know I shouldn’t. I feel like I am not capable of doing anything, I feel like the biggest waste.'], 'answer_start': [912]}
I’ve been suffering from some issues since I was little. I have always been scared when it’s dark. I hear noises in the house and outside, but I don’t see what’s making the noises. It makes me feel afraid to go to sleep and I usually end up being awake until the sun rises. If I do fall asleep, I almost always get awakened by nightmares. These nightmares often involve someone breaking in, violence, someone haunting me (usually children who went missing/were killed or something that was on TV), abandonment, or being trapped.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['It makes me feel afraid to go to sleep and I usually end up being awake until the sun rises.'], 'answer_start': [181]}
I have been going to weekly therapy for a year and half, as well as group therapy for the past year (with the same therapist). I am very comfortable with him and feel that we have a good rapport. It was difficult in the beginning because I have a lot of difficulty recognizing and expressing my emotions, but now I think that I have come to trust him. My issues included anxiety, depression, childhood trauma (bullying, divorce, isolation), and a medical condition I have with psychosomatic causes (scarring alopecia). The therapy is not very goal oriented and I don’t have any clear idea on when it might be completed. Though I have gained insight into the way I function and the causes of my distress through much introspection, I can’t say that my issues have gotten much better. I want to believe in him and our relationship…that it can truly help me to form better relationships and minimize some of my depression and anxiety. However, I know I also have to think rationally and evaluate the changes that have been made in the past 18 months.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['However, I know I also have to think rationally and evaluate the changes that have been made in the past 18 months.'], 'answer_start': [932]}
I live with my 2 younger siblings, alcoholic father, and grandmother, who has custody of my siblings and I. She has repeatedly told my father that if he’s caught drinking, she’ll kick him out. But every time we do catch him, she let’s him stay. As of right now, he has to stay because my grandmother is currently unemployed due to an accident leaving her physically incapable of returning to work for a few more months. My father will get drunk during the night and walk around the house knocking things over and breaking them. He’ll also try to cook while we’re all asleep occasionally, and has more than once left on the stove, heating up pots and pans until they literally turn red from the heat. He eats everything and rarely pays for anything but the bare minimum of what he’s supposed to. He’s a danger to us and a terrible father. My grandmother and I both want him gone, but we just aren’t financially able to do so. I do have a job working for my aunt, earning 60 dollars a week, but obviously, that’s not enough to pay bills every month and keep 4 mouths fed. I would appreciate some advice on how to deal with living with him or how to find a way to afford to kick him out. We’ve all lived with this for years and we’re sick of it. Your help is appreciated, thank you.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['He’s a danger to us and a terrible father.'], 'answer_start': [795]}
I’ve been having trouble for the past 3 years with various things like hearing strange voices tell me to do things and once in awhile seeing strange things that no one else can see. For a while I thought they were messengers sent to me and I was terrified of them but couldn’t get away. Now I’m doing a bit better. I think this is some type of psychosis? But what is even more confusing to me are these clear memories I have of events that never happened. In these memories I am a different person entirely, but they feel so real. I don’t know what’s going on, and it’s kind of freaky.

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['For a while I thought they were messengers sent to me and I was terrified of them but couldn’t get away.'], 'answer_start': [182]}
I make a girl friend some six months ago and we planned to get married. then, some days ago I found that she had sexual relationships with two other guys, and now these revelations are killing me. I was perfectly happy man but now I think I am the most desperate person in the world. I am like dying out of grief and I cannot handle it. Every time I imagine her then the guy comes in my mind having sex with her and that movement, I wish I didn’t exist at all. Now I am in such situation that my love for her has tremendously increased but at the other hand, I think if I married her I would live the whole life thinking about that guy and will spoil my life and hers too. I simply want to forget her, but currently it seems impossible. Please suggest me something to get myself out of it because I don’t want to end up my life like this. I want to do something for humanity but currently, I am desperate, my life is full of pain and I don’t know how to get out of it. (From Pakistan)

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['then, some days ago I found that she had sexual relationships with two other guys, and now these revelations are killing me. I was perfectly happy man but now I think I am the most desperate person in the world. I am like dying out of grief and I cannot handle it.'], 'answer_start': [72]}
From a teen in the U.S.: My mother and I constantly fight. Im going to break down basic points that are come across during these fights. She claims that when she yells at me its because I don’t listen. But sometimes I just really don’t hear her. Its annoying because at times she just starts straight away screaming at me – her excuse for it is that its the only way she can get me to listen to her; and to cope with it Ive begun to just quietly say ok, this works in that I can show her that I don’t want to fight but also I don’t like doing it because I back down.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
She was going through some tough times until recently until iIwon custody of her and moved. Previously her dad and I, were going through a very rough and sometimes violent times including lots of yelling along with her older sister getting into drugs and in the wrong crowd. Along with so many other things but far too many for me too include. All this began when she was 8. Before all this began to happened however, she was an absolute ball of energy, and just a little bit before things started spiraling out of control she began to be getting isolated by her classmates so that started putting out her energetic spark. She began to become quiet and kept to herself besides her closest and only friend. It was the worse in middle school when her friend moved and nobody at all liked her. I got too used to it, and couldn’t focus on her because of everything else going on. But anyways now that we are 2 years out of that toxic place, and across the country and living happily. I have time to truly focus on her, she’s 15 now and I have noticed so much. She is still cracks jokes and tells bad puns- she still is a ray of sunshine but extremely shy and quiet when it comes to new people and strangers and will act like such until she gets to know whoever. She’s extremely selective of who she wants to befriend, gets scared easily and struggles when a person approaches her and starts a conversation. She sometimes cries when ordering food and talking to strangers but she laughs through her tears and tries talking but other days, strangely- this can last weeks, she’s just fine! She easily talks to whoever and joke around with strangers as if everything is she’s just fine but things always end up back to how she was, quiet and shy. She’s always tired, she sleeps so much she occasionally falls asleep in class also. She never wants to do anything,(-art) she looks tired all the time and doesn’t take care of herself. I made her go to therapy once but acted like she was fine, goofed around, didn’t say anything, brushes me off with a bright smile and a “I’m a-okay, don’t worry!” she says it so much that i cant help but believe it. Help?

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['It was the worse in middle school when her friend moved and nobody at all liked her.'], 'answer_start': [706]}
I’m not diagnosed with anything, my mom says depression is a phase every teenage girl goes through and that it will just past me.I have a history of an abusive relationship with my best friend I knew for half of my life, mentally and physically.I became depressed, I wouldn’t have an appetite, I would get bad grades, and I would sleep all the time. I’m better now, but I have a difficulty trusting others who aren’t my family. That just my background, now this is the real issue. You had a similar question I saw, but you didn’t give advice. Instead, you said you needed more information, so this will be long and detailed.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a teen in Italy: i guess i have to began from the beginning,when i guess is started everything..so i was always been an introvert kid,loving nature and especially dogs. So in school they began to make fun of me because i was a bit chubby,then last year ive been recovered from anorexia,and because i love dogs(since i was a kid i always had this special bond with dogs and actually during anorexia my two dogs saved my life) anyway they torturing me and keep telling me that i was ugly,and that my life price was 0,2 cent(really low…means that the trash was more important than my life) so i start cutting,but never had suicide attempt.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Let me begin with the symptoms I have had all my life. Ever since I was little, I have been anxious in large crowds, especially in crowds full of strangers, so much so that I spend a lot of my free time, not at work or school, at home. Time outside in situations with people, I find myself struggling to find a topic of conversation, or continuing on with a subject. I find myself saying things at the wrong time, or reacting oddly to other people’s reactions. At times, I seem to incorrectly read people’s emotions, whether spoken or not, and I tend to get angry and frustrated when there is no need to be. Because of this, I am conflicted, because when I am at home, I wish to be out with people doing something, but when I am around my friends and family, though I do enjoy it for some time, I end up wishing I were back at home.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['At times, I seem to incorrectly read people’s emotions, whether spoken or not, and I tend to get angry and frustrated when there is no need to be.'], 'answer_start': [461]}
From Canada: I’m sure this will sound absurd, but this is my situation. I’ve been in a relationship with a man for 2 years. We moved in together very early on. He has had a previous drug problem which he has sought help for. I found out last year that for most of the time we had been together, he was cheating on me with prostitutes. At that time, I was pregnant and we went to see a therapist and decided to work through it. Over this past year, he claims to have not cheated but I’ve found that he has been texting prostitutes several times. He denies ever doing anything and says he hasn’t cheated in a year. I do bring it up very often as I’m skeptical about how truthful he really is.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m sure this will sound absurd, but this is my situation'], 'answer_start': [13]}
My girlfriend’s father was very abusive and loveless, and her mother had to escape with the kids one night when she was 13. He was a slum lord and fought seven years of divorce court to prevent my girlfriends family from having a stable fresh start. She absolutely despises him.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['My girlfriend’s father was very abusive and loveless, and her mother had to escape with the kids one night when she was 13.'], 'answer_start': [0]}
From the U.S.: I’m 21 and have a long distance boyfriend of 3 months. He came to visit and meet my family and meet me in person for the first time. The relationship between him and my family was already rocky because of a rule that my family made for us. They told me we couldn’t be in a room with the door closed. They didn’t want me to tell him because they thought he would think that was weird, but I had to because I knew it would get in the way of us trying anal sex which I had told him I would like to try with him. That made him mad because he’s 23 and he just got out of the army so he’s tired of rules and feels like I’m an adult and should be able to have more freedom.

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['They didn’t want me to tell him because they thought he would think that was weird, but I had to because I knew it would get in the way of us trying anal sex which I had told him I would like to try with him.'], 'answer_start': [315]}
Dear Therapist, I’m having trouble accepting that my mother is a narcissist. It has been pointed out to my a counselor before. Every time I have a conflict with her I see the traits more and more, but always still try to get emotional support from her. Throughout adulthood even and going through getting married I think she will change and be there for me and treat me like a daughter. That didn’t happen. Now I am pregnant and feeling sad and angry because she doesn’t offer to be there for me unless I come to her and she makes her problems worse and worse and her health issue a central point in her life. She says I’m not being there for her when I don’t want to baby her about her issues, but honestly I spent most of my life worrying about and tending to my mom’s feelings and health. Sometimes I think she exaggerates health issues to be the center of attention. Last month she had me convinced that she had osteoporosis, then when I felt something was fishy about it this month and asked her a bunch of questions she said “oh no it’s just osteoarthritis.” I know in the mind my mom will never really approve of me or respect me or be there for me, but my heart wont accept it. I still try time after time to be close to her and end up infuriated, super sad or crazed. Also my husband has deal with our weekly fights. How can I learn to accept that she has a mental illness?

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['Sometimes I think she exaggerates health issues to be the center of attention.  '], 'answer_start': [792]}
Since the beginning of the year, I’ve had these weird urges making me want to hurt myself. My breathing speeds up and i can’t stop thinking about it until i do it. It doesn’t usually happen when I’m around other people, but when it does, it includes them. When I’m alone it completely fills my mind and it has lately (the past two months) begun to get worse.

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['My breathing speeds up and i can’t stop thinking about it until i do it.'], 'answer_start': [91]}
I met my now ex boyfriend ten months ago. He had just gotten over depression when he met me (ugly relationship in the past). He was in love. He was always texting, always wanting to see me. I was putting all of my efforts in trying to be the perfect girlfriend – never angry, always supportive.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My 32 year old daughter will frequently say, you don’t understand, when she is going through an issue. Most of the time I do understand as I have gone through similar incidents. She insists nobody understands, she is the only one experiencing a problem. If I try to tell her what worked for me, she immediately rejects anything I have to offer. Example: her 2 year son had his tonsils out, he was fussy, not drinking, spitting up his medicine. She was frustrated, sleep deprived, worried. I told her what I did when she had spinal meningitis, how I dealt with similar issues. She responded, “You don’t understand, I can’t talk to you about this.” She wants to do everything by herself, (she is a single parent with a non-involved father). She has a strong support group with offerings of help, but turns down every offer but then says she has to do everything herself. I was as single parent so I do understand. I did have to do everything myself as I had no support.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.K.: I had very severe depression and anxiety a few years ago and I saw a therapist for around two years. I don’t think we were particularly close, or particularly distant, but we got on ok, and she was very helpful to me. I am now hoping to go into psychotherapy myself, and I was hoping it would be acceptable to contact her to ask some specific questions about how to access career opportunities and training in our area.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From England: Hi there. So these past couple months my Significant other seems to get angrier and angrier at things that are so simple. I will say something, that with any other person, could be annoying but easily fixable and not worth a fight. The moment I say it to him, he loses it. Starts to yell at me, tells me to shut up, gets in my face, and tell me he doesn’t give a crap about me.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['So these past couple months my Significant other seems to get angrier and angrier at things that are so simple.'], 'answer_start': [24]}
From the U.S.: My son’s wife I believe brainwashed him. We were a very close family up till the day after he married this Armenian woman. We, meaning the whole family, grandmother, sister, cousins, and aunt. We are a small family. We are not allowed to know where they live. He admits that his wife is mean to me in hopes I never will visit again. He has allowed this behavior from her which I do not understand.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I’ve been noticing that my feelings have been changing. I was hanging out with my friend last week and she said that I have no creativity and those words stuck to me. I felt a rush of sadness but it soon turned to anger, to where I just wanted to hit her. But that’s not all. Today in the store, I was with my mom and sister and for some reason after our friend left, I just let out this anger. I don’t even know what actually happened. I think my sister annoyed me but it was more than that. Whenever I get mad like that, I’ve been forgetting what I was mad about. It’s like the anger just took over me. And I’ve been really sad either before or after my anger. I want to get help but I’m too scared to talk to anyone about it because I feel like my problems aren’t important and they have better things to do than listen to me go on. I’m really nervous with how these mood swings are going to play out as the school year begins. I just want to relax, but even when I am relaxing in my room I want to hit something. But my step father makes it worse. He makes me feel like shit whenever I say something. He talks about me like I’m not in the room and it puts me down and I don’t think he gets it but it really does hurt me. Please, just help me understand what’s going on with me.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I want to get help but I’m too scared to talk to anyone about it because I feel like my problems aren’t important and they have better things to do than listen to me go on.'], 'answer_start': [663]}
I have been with my girlfriend for three years. She comes from a broken home; her mother was a schizoaffective cocaine addict who committed suicide when my girlfriend was 12, and her father is emotionally abusive, driving her to move out when she turned 18 two and a half years ago. We have been living together ever since. About two years ago, she was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder after a serious suicide attempt that left her in a coma and subsequent complications that resulted in mild brain damage. She was also diagnosed with PTSD at a young age and recalls being very overly-attached to her mother for most of her childhood.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
It’s like that I always being alone everywhere. I’m comfortable with being alone. In school or going to some places, it’s really okay for me to be alone. Some people in school sees me weird for it, but I think it’s them who always need accompany just to go to toilet or canteen while they can do it their self. I have two best friends and don’t like to be in group.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
For several years now, after being put in a headlock by a family member, I’ve experienced difficulty swallowing. And over the years my grandparents have taken me to every doctor available, scheduled numerous tests to try and find a diagnosis, and have tried many home remedies in hopes of fixing this.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.: I am terrified of life. I am anxious all the time. I have panic attacks almost every time I leave the house. I say one thing and act the opposite way. I’m depressed more often than not. I think about suicide every day, or at least every other day. I’ve contemplated it, thought about the best ways to do it. I drink too much and then act worse.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I am terrified of life.'], 'answer_start': [15]}