Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
I don’t know what is the problem with her she keeps on speaking and fighting with the family. if we say anything to her she doesn’t listen and talks very rudely to her children. I tried a lot to change her but she doesn’t change at all. She blames my dad and his family for this problem. She fights a lot with my dad and her children to. I am really frustrated with her because she just keeps on blabbering stuff and doesn’t do anything. We thought she needs a psychiatrist so we wanted to take her there but she says that she is fine and my dad needs a psychiatrist. She thinks very highly of herself. She doesn’t really care about her children too. I have a brother who is a special child but she keeps on being negative about him that he will die eventually. We get really tensed about her as she takes everything in a negative sense. We joke around with her but she starts fighting. She doesn’t even accept her mistake. It is really frustrating seeing her like this. Please help me out.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a teen in Canada: um… I really don’t know how to say this but I’ve been wanting to have a mental disorder for years now, and I know you will think I’m just seeking attention like everyone else, but I’m not. There’s no one who i want to pay attention to me. In all honesty, I think it’s because I want people to stay away from me… to fear me, almost.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I really don’t know how to say this but I’ve been wanting to have a mental disorder for years now, and I know you will think I’m just seeking attention like everyone else, but I’m not.'], 'answer_start': [28]}
My mum has had issues with alcoholism. She was diagnosed with severe pms which causes her so much stress that she turns to drink (and goes on week long benders). This has been happening for over 17 years. She is currently 43. During this time she gets extremely violent with me and my father, has trashed our house many times and fought with anyone- neighbours, police, etc. We have always suspected that it was more than pms, she’s practically an alcoholic and her behaviour isn’t cyclical as you would suspect from pms. Over time, her mental health has been getting worse. She has been on less benders in this time, however she is never happy. She is constantly stressed- even though there is no stress to worry about. She doesn’t take jokes, and we all have to choose our words very carefully in day to day life to avoid her going off. She has two other daughters under the age of 7, both of which she does not mother like a normal mum does. There’s distance and not much love. She has odd behaviour, like going shopping for groceries every day and buying things we don’t need. She associates herself with people who drink a lot of alcohol, so that when my father refuses to buy her any more she has someone to go and drink with. My father and I are under the impression that she may have an undiagnosed mental disorder like bipolar or schizophrenia (along those lines) and because her condition seems to be worsening with time, i wanted to reach out for an opinion. My family can’t live like this anymore. It’s unfair on all of us, and her. She is convinced that her issue is pms, so it would be hard to convince her to get help without premise such as advice in this forum. the drink will kill her one day, unless she stops. We want to live a normal life and have her back to the way she once was, if this means appropriate treatment for a potentially undiagnosed mental disorder, then so be it. Thank you for your help.

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['the drink will kill her one day, unless she stops.'], 'answer_start': [1679]}
Hello doctor — I hope I get an answer for my questions because I desperately need one the problem is not in me but my mother, two months ago mom called my dad and when the discussion was over she over heard him saying stuff to another woman, and since then she was shocked and my dad completely denies it but she won’t believe it the problem is she became like a different person, she stalks every move he does she took away his phone she’s suspicious about every little thing he does, no matter how he treats her she keeps giving him a hard time and never satisfied, she began talking to herself, she faints and starts screaming like a maniac, when she sleeps she wakes up in the middle of the night screaming and cursing dad, when I talk with her she never listens she keeps repeating the same thing saying she keeps replaying the words he said to that woman and its killing her and that she still can’t believe it and hopes that it’s just a nightmare she’ll wake up from and she starts questioning everything that has happened before, in short the home is a wreck dad is sick of everything, my little sisters are confused and I’m really worried about them, and mostly mom’s mental health I feel like she’s going crazy soon and its killing me no matter what we say to her she won’t listen she treats all of us badly, I just don’t know what to do I’m really worried and living a nightmare I hope I get some advice. (From Algeria)

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['Hello doctor — I hope I get an answer for my questions because I desperately need one the problem is not in me but my mother, two months ago mom called my dad and when the discussion was over she over heard him saying stuff to another woman, and since then she was shocked and my dad completely denies it but she won’t believe it the problem is she became like a different person, she stalks every move he does she took away his phone she’s suspicious about every little thing he does, no matter how he treats her she keeps giving him a hard time and never satisfied, she began talking to herself, she faints and starts screaming like a maniac, when she sleeps she wakes up in the middle of the night screaming and cursing dad, when I talk with her she never listens she keeps repeating the same thing saying she keeps replaying the words he said to that woman and its killing her and that she still can’t believe it and hopes that it’s just a nightmare she’ll wake up from and she starts questioning everything that has happened before, in short the home is a wreck dad is sick of everything, my little sisters are confused and I’m really worried about them, and mostly mom’s mental health I feel like she’s going crazy soon and its killing me no matter what we say to her she won’t listen she treats all of us badly, I just don’t know what to do I’m really worried and living a nightmare I hope I get some advice.'], 'answer_start': [0]}
From a teen in the U.S.: This year, one of my best friends has gone through a lot of issue with his other friends. He really feels like he has no one left besides me. All he ever does is work or stay at home. He rarely comes to church anymore. He deleted all of his social media accounts and now he wants to switch to online schooling. I’m really worried that he will fully isolate himself if he does that but I could also see how it would be good for him. I only want what’s best for him and I’m not sure if I should encourage him to stay in public school or do online schooling like he wants.Is this type of isolate healthy?

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m really worried that he will fully isolate himself if he does that but I could also see how it would be good for him.'], 'answer_start': [336]}
From a teen in the U.S. I have a twin sister And she’s been abusive towards me my entire life. I can’t put everything she has done into this, but I’ve been physically and emotionally abused by her my entire life, ever since I can remember (which is three).

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
When people honk their horns I think they are honking at me. I scream at people for teasing me. I assume people want me dead when they give me criticism. I sent a nasty email after being dissed by a coworker. I said that a football teammate is my least favorite team mate because he made fun of me in front of my teammates. I am currently in treatment and the only thing that changed is my blood pressure levels which changed for the better. I walk on eggshells around my coworkers even though they personally never harmed me. I wanted to tell a scammer who was trying to scam me to go screw herself after I found out that someone was trying to scam me. I was bullied as a child and in my teenage years and that is giving me a lot of problems.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I assume people want me dead when they give me criticism. '], 'answer_start': [96]}
Ever since i can remember, I’ve been overweight and my single mother has hated me for it. throughout my childhood she dragged me to numerous doctors to “fix” me, filling my childhood with hundred of different medications and injections. she would buy clothes for me while i was at school that were far too small for me, and when i came home she would tell me to put them on in front of her full length mirror and give me looks of pure disgust when they would bulge my stomach or arms out. grunting and sniffling and asking me if i thought anyone would ever love something who was fat like me. things changed when my sister was born. on the bright side she stopped standing me in front of mirrors, probably because we no longer ever had alone time. however her rage was without measure. i rarely spoke to her for fear of being screamed at. i love my sister dearly. growing up being the unwanted one was difficult however. many times my mother and i would fight, though i would never hurt anyone i mostly just took whatever she threw my way. insults, wishes of my death, the silverware drawer, lamps. i haven’t lived with my mother since i was 14, i moved with my grandparents when i couldn’t bare her hatred anymore. i very rarely speak to her now, once in the last year- however when we speak she acknowledges her “failure as a parent”. i hear she is a meth addict, who just recently stabbed herself in the stomach with a steak knife in drug induced psychosis. i try to contact her to see how she is. i frequently do, she just never answers. when my sister and i speak of her, she tells me my mother refers to me as “the bad child” and calls me “druggie loser” which i don’t understand at all. the problem lies with me though, as no matter how long i’ve been away from her i still cannot find the strength to not hate myself. i know that i’m kind and beautiful in my own way. i know i have a husband who loves me. i know it’s all in my head. but everyday i doubt my husband’s love. everyday i wonder how can anyone love something like me? seeing myself makes me want to cry. i’m unsure how to overcome.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['throughout my childhood she dragged me to numerous doctors to “fix” me, filling my childhood with hundred of different medications and injections. '], 'answer_start': [91]}
From a man in the UK: As long as I can remember, I’ve had an issue where if I am holding a partner for more than 5-10 minutes, I get really physically tense. It builds in intensity, to the point where I just have to break away into my own space for a while. It can happen sat on the sofa, or when going to sleep. I don’t feel emotionally distressed, just a build of muscular tension where I really need to tense muscles as the tension builds to unbearable levels. It does feel like I need to escape/run, but I’m not at all emotionally panicked, it’s just a physical response to something. It’s rather like a purely physical portion of a fight/flight response.

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['It builds in intensity, to the point where I just have to break away into my own space for a while.'], 'answer_start': [159]}
I am so out of touch with reality I don’t know what to do anymore. There have been times where I believed I had some sort of ability, fantasized about killing people and willingly ‘chose’ insanity (which is insane). I’m mentally confused and have terrible memory. I spend, at times, 90% of my waking hours in mental fantasies that are too often disgusting. I talk to myself 100% of the time I’m alone, like I’m a different person. I don’t have a split personality, but at one(more than one) point I tried forcing myself into having one. I think it’s some sort of emotional disorder that started this behavior, maybe out of a feeling of emptiness or left out and this being my way of feeling special, or possibly rebelling against a world that left me feeling alienated. A lot of these insecurities are gone now but my habits have gone too far, and it’s driving me crazy. I don’t see an end to it, and it’s messing with my ordinary thoughts and the way I think them. The bad memory was from a carbon monoxide leak in the room across from mine(for the years I had these habits). Could they be the source of all this? I have negative sexual habits toward amount of masturbation and what I do it to. I’ve worked a lot on this and gotten into what I would call a ‘normal’ routine but there’s always the thought. It’s just another terrible behavior I forced myself into for no reason. I have this imaginary meter in my head, and when I move in a certain way I automatically counterbalance it until it ‘fits’. I’ll also second guess a lot of my thoughts, and then second guess that and so on until my head hurts. It’s like I split myself into two angles when I’m talking to myself, or deciding to do certain things, but I’m still controlling both sides, and I know in the back of my head how stupid it is, but it’s so ingrained in me that I can’t stop it. I have so much more to say, but I’m meeting the character limit.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['There have been times where I believed I had some sort of ability, fantasized about killing people and willingly ‘chose’ insanity (which is insane). '], 'answer_start': [67]}
From a teen in the U.S.: I haven’t felt like I’ve been at home for about a year or so. It’s like to me, my own house is just a place I live in, and that there’s nothing special about it. But at the same time, I don’t want to leave. I hate moving, I’ve done it 3 times already. I know other people may have moved more than that, but still, it’s like I want to go somewhere else. I recall a week ago, I was in my house, home alone, and stressed out about homework when I suddenly screamed, “I WANT TO GO HOME!” But a second later, I realized that I was in my house. But my next thought was ‘I’m not home’. I talked to my dad about and I have a therapist I can talk to, but, I just want to know this NOW. If I can’t make myself at home in my own house, where can I?

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['I talked to my dad about and I have a therapist I can talk to, but, I just want to know this NOW. If I can’t make myself at home in my own house, where can I?'], 'answer_start': [604]}
I am a 25 year old woman and I feel very confused. For some time now, I have experiencing lesbian tendencies. I feel that I am “straight” and have a history of dating men. However, I have always had a problem with having an orgasm while having sex with a man and usually have to do it on my own, even during sex with a man. I find myself to be attracted to women, particularly those I see on TV. I even find myself searching for lesbians on web sites and I find I get extremely aroused when I come across lesbian pornography. I have talked to a girlfriend of mine who has the same feelings (she is also straight), even further than me. She does not believe that this means that we are lesbians and assures me that every girlfriend she has feels the same way about this attraction to women / lesbian pornography. I even fantasize about women when I am trying to get an orgasm with a man. I know I am attracted to men and I am not attracted to the everyday women I see and talk to everyday, only those “fantasy” type of women I see on TV and on pornographic websites. I don’t understand this as I have never even considered pursuing a sexual relationship with a woman. I have thought of experimenting with a woman sexually but would be too afraid or feel too dirty to do it. What is going on with me? Is this normal?

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My husband and I are presently living with my mother in her house for the last 10 yrs. I have a brother that moved in with us 2.5 yrs ago. Years ago he had some sort of breakdown and moved in with my parents and stayed for 4 yrs. I found some odd things on his computers. He was on some sort of online site with animals portrayed as humans. A curvy woman’s body with a sexy fox female face. I also found a small lion cub (Simba) stuffed animal with a small circular hole under the tail that was hot glued around the circle so that one could see the stuffing inside. I am guessing he was using it as a sex toy. I told my mother she asked me to call the psychiatrist he was seeing. I did he told me to get him out of the house immediately. I told my mother and she had him leave. He was laid off 2.5 yrs ago I found evidence of the same sort of behavior. This time it was a small black panther with the same odd hole under the tail and glued around, also his screensaver had a picture of a sexy woman with a fox face. I see little foxes scattered around the room he stays in. Guessing it’s his female animal of choice. I never said anything to my mother she’s been ill so I kept quiet. Lately he and I don’t get along. We (husband and I) don’t trust him. We lock our doors even if we are only outside feeding the dogs. He always lies and has already stole from us but denies it. My mother says she can’t survive without him. Rather than looking for he decided to stay here and care for our mother. She could do more for herself but he waits on her hand and foot. We got into an argument and I told her we were going to have to move I can’t stand living with him. She doesn’t want me to leave. I would like to confront him but not sure how far to push this. He’s very passive aggressive. I know I should leave but really can’t afford to and my mother wants us to stay. She may not live much longer anyway. How do I survive in the mean time? He’s creepy.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['He’s very passive aggressive. '], 'answer_start': [1755]}
It took me a very long time to find a man with the intelligence, kindness, energy, talent, competence and intellectual confidence that I wanted. He is perfect in all ways but sexual, I know he loves me. He proves it every day in countless ways.For many years now, I have totally buried my sexuality. I have, in fact, denied myself and not let myself be who I am. I have felt bad for being so sexual. I would try to initiate and/or discuss sex but has left him feeling pressured, demeaned and somehow the need to feel that he needed to be changed. Now, he is stuck in his own self-awareness of all that he feels he is not. To other women he was something. To me… I thought he was something else, that’s all. As a result, we’ve been terribly unhappy. I feel I have been in the hellish grip of a major depression. This life we have created is untenable for both of us. He cannot give me the sex I want. I don’t know what he can give me anymore. I don’t yet know how much more I can do without. We have worked out so many things, our communication can’t be any stronger and yet continually fails us. I feel like it is my fault, my insecurities, my hidden pain, my lack of beauty or sexiness or my weight or any other such things. I need to reclaim myself again, letting my sexuality back out of storage. I have fallen into depression hating the very fact that I have to take full responsibility for satisfying my own sexual need.I feel rejected, unwanted and unworthy. I feel sexually abandoned. I feel trapped. I feel lesser of a human being when I have to masturbate. I feel even lesser of a human being to leave and choose sexual freedom over this relationship. I feel dismissed. I feel unimportant. I feel broken, unrepairable. I feel like I am mourning the little girl he helped me find again and now is gone, hidden, struck with the memories of why she went away to begin with. I feel that I have to worthy to leave. I have never felt worthy in my entire life. I wanted a home, he gave that. I wanted a place that I didn’t have to fear of having to start over again, ever and yet here I am. Fighting those thoughts and feelings again. I have tried to be sympathetic, adapting to his needs or lack thereof. I have tried to tell myself that I am ok without sexual intimacy. I have tried to give him the space and commitment and support that he needs. I feel like I have tried… and he has not.

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I feel like it is my fault, my insecurities, my hidden pain, my lack of beauty or sexiness or my weight or any other such things. '], 'answer_start': [1096]}
From the U.S.: I know you do not diagnose, but just wondering what you think. My grandson turned three. He is a fraternal twin. The other twin is a girl. He is extremely aggressive and has poor impulse control, throws toys or anything really. Many times he throws hard toys right at his sister’s little head! He’s been described as a bully at daycare. In fact, he has been in some fights with other boys!

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I then spend hours and sometimes days dissecting my words coming to the conclusion that maybe Im better off staying at home and reading? Example 1: Man comes to sell daughter vacuum yesterday and we take a break to go outside and have a cigarette. daughter stays in house with baby. i tell him about my other children and their trials, express how rankled i am that my daughter cant make this decision alone. tell him thats why i never stayed married for long. Private, socially inappropriate confidences that never get checked in my mind before uttering. — THis is not an isolated or untypical event. I embarrass family on a regular basis. I berate myself for days afterward. Definitely old enough to have learned to control my tongue, but hasnt congealed yet. Thought about hypnosis to control myself but then admonish myself saying that Im smart and can do better. What is wrong with me?

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I embarrass family on a regular basis. I berate myself for days afterward. Definitely old enough to have learned to control my tongue, but hasnt congealed yet. Thought about hypnosis to control myself but then admonish myself saying that Im smart and can do better.'], 'answer_start': [602]}
From the U.S.: A few days ago I was on Facebook and an old friend saw me and struck up a conversation. I had not seen or talked to my friend for well over 40 years. We were neighbors growing up and when we were both about 18 we hung out together for a few months. We were never serious, just a couple of friends having a lot of fun. I was a musician and a biker and we partied together for a short period of time. When we were talking and talking about the old days, my old friend asked me if we’d ever slept together. I said that I had wanted to but no, we never did.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}