Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
I found out my wife of 15 years was having an emotional affair with a friend of mine as a result of me being a poor husband. At what point do I stop trying to repair the damage? She has admitted the affair. She’s stating that she no longer speaks with him, but I question that. She is still very guarded of her phone, still friends with him on Facebook, etc. The reason she started the affair, and I’ve taken responsibility for this, was due to the fact that I put my work and mainly my hobbies ahead of my family for most of my marriage. I always thought she was supporting me in my hobby, but she says she was very unhappy.  And looking back I can see that now. Wish I had seen it then. However, she never told me point blank how unhappy she was. I found out about how unhappy she was about 3 months ago. I made wholesale changes in my life. I dropped my hobby right away. Starred spending as much time at home as I could. I put her and our daughter where they should have always been, first in my life. But something still seemed a little off. Then about 6 weeks into trying to work on our marriage( me doing most of the work, which I was fine with) I found out about this emotional affair. It devastated me. So now, another 6 weeks has passed. Things haven’t gotten much better. She says she’s done with him, but I question that as I said. I am still trying very hard to fix my mistakes and prove I’ve changed. However, I don’t feel she’s doing the same. My question is, because of my failures which I feel lead to the affair, should I be willing to give her more “time” to get to the point of working on her issues? It’s very difficult for me to handle the constant secrecy with her phone. I want to take it and see if she’s still contacting him, but I’m afraid that will crush any progress we may be making. I still love her very much and I do want to work this out. But at what point do my feelings and concerns become part of the equation? Thanks. (age 37, from US)

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['My question is, because of my failures which I feel lead to the affair, should I be willing to give her more “time” to get to the point of working on her issues?'], 'answer_start': [1459]}
From Indonesia: I’m 21 and I have a friend from another country, he knew me from penpal website, he emailed me first. he said that he wanted to know me, then we chatted via Facebook and sometimes in other messenger apps. For the first time I wasn’t interested with him, but we almost chatted every night, he is a good man and sweet, always asked my activity, and I like to share my problem with him and he always gave an advice. Day by day he makes me feel special, and I start liking him. But since 1 month ago he seldom chatted me,

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Basically, I started failing college, badly. i had zero motivation and i would just sit there in lessons completely zoned out and if i wasnt in lessons, i would just sit at home and skive. i finished that school year with 4 U’s and i never really knew why i didnt want to go in. i would start having arguments with my parents for no reason , all the time. and i would take offence or be defensive whenever they asked anything about me from how was college or how was your day. i used to go out with my friends a lot, but i now spend a lot of time in my room on my laptop, but even when i do go out, i find it very very hard to keep a conversation going, and if i either drink or smoke weed, i just go into a completely depressed state and will not talke at all. i also suffer from insomnia. i will sometimes stay up until 4:00 am , but just because i cant stop thinking about things. i will start getting myself all worked up, almost paranoid, i dont really know why, i just wont stop thinking and that stops me from falling asleep. i dont show emotion to my parents much, and when i do i fake it, because i really dont care, i just come back from college and go straight into my room , and only come down for food. when i argue with my parents, i would go crazy. i would scream and shout, then i would break down and cry My parents are always having a go at me because i either dont attend college or im staying up, or im just being rude, but after all these things happen, i think why did i do that, i would never do that, i dont want to that!. but i just cant seem to stop it. Im really scared and i want answers, beacause i can see how ive changed and i think thats what freaks me out the most. i have looked up the negative symptoms of schizophrenia and i am sure that i show all. i dont hallucinate but i do come some up with ridiculous reasons to why people are acting how they are, like why someone wont come out. anyway, please help, im scared.

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['i used to go out with my friends a lot, but i now spend a lot of time in my room on my laptop, but even when i do go out, i find it very very hard to keep a conversation going, and if i either drink or smoke weed, i just go into a completely depressed state and will not talke at all.'], 'answer_start': [477]}
Ok so I’ve talked to my parents a few times about how I think I might have depression. I’ve taken the tests on here every other day and results are almost always the same, minor to severe depression. So when I talked to my parents they said it was just because my hormones are all over the place, but would my hormones give me suicidal thoughts or wanting to cut. I don’t cut or commit suicide because I’m scared of the pain. I have also lost interest in some of my favourite things. I don’t sleep normal anymore either, I just can’t sleep, and when I cant sleep I think about how my future looks like I’ll never make it or I’ll just let my family down. My family and parents are the main cause to these thoughts trying to live up to all their expectations. I am just wondering if I could get someones idea on my situation and if my suspicion is a possibility.

Cognitive distortion: Fortune-telling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I don’t sleep normal anymore either, I just can’t sleep, and when I cant sleep I think about how my future looks like I’ll never make it or I’ll just let my family down.'], 'answer_start': [484]}
My husband(57) is a Phys Ed teacher and sports coach. He deals with thousands of students every day, but he always seems to have his favourites — normally girls of 18-20 who pour out their problems to him about being raped by family members/friends and appeal to his fatherly/protective side. There was even a case where the young girl was sending nude photos to him on her phone — which unfortunately my teenage daughter happened to see. We all went for counselling a few years ago, but now he has this relationship with a young girl who he coached softball last year. I picked up some vibes last year and challenged him but he said they were very close and he was helping her with some issues as she has been raped by her uncle at an early age.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.: Very long story short, I just recently found out that I have another child with a woman I dated a very long time ago. The little girl is a pre-teen years old, the mother was not sure who’s child it was. the man who is on the birth certificate is the only one the child has known as her dad.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a U.S. soldier: First off… I would specifically like this question to be answered by a woman, if possible. I am 34 years old, and have been struggling with a mental thought for years now (since I was 15). It drains me of my self esteem, it causes me to breath heavily when I encounter it, I’m afraid to travel, or even go on vacation. It’s my encounter with women.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I’m a 15 year old girl who has been attending CAMHS for several months now. I have told them a great deal and opened up fully to them. Along side going to CAMHS, I’ve done some research of my own. My therapist keeps saying that it’s anxiety that i have, when what ive seen relates, but seems more than that. I have been hearing voices which are almost indecipherable, and as time passes theyre getting easier and easier to understand. I’ve looked through several sites and compared and came up with some things based on the things mentioned repeatedly throughout the sites. What ive come up with is that it could be some type of schizoaffective disorder, or schizophrenia. In general I feel depersonalized most of the time, and over the years ive learned to just get on with it, and found ways to deal with it, but it seems to be getting worse. The treatment that my therapist is giving me is CBT, and to be honest, it helps a bit, but not nearly enough :/ Do you think this is anxiety, or am I completely wrong to think of schizoaffective disorder/schizophrenia?

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['In general I feel depersonalized most of the time, and over the years ive learned to just get on with it, and found ways to deal with it, but it seems to be getting worse. '], 'answer_start': [673]}
I was diagnosed with schizophrenia this year. Ever since I was diagnosed people have been acting as if I’m a violent person. I see violent things, but would never act on them, I’m not violent at all. I don’t have a history of violence, but I’ve been seeing things since I was 14. Oh I’ve had the occasional fight like anyone else, but not acted out in violence unprovoked or for no reason. I only fight when someone hurts me or my family members. I don’t understand why everyone seems to think I’m so violent when the last physical fight I got in was at least 5 years ago. My brother-in-law beat my sister and I did attack him, but he was beating her with a belt and welted her all up so I honestly feel it’s justified. I’ve been threatened to have child services called if I babysit for any of my sisters, I’ve had people telling me to stay away from them because they’re scared I’ll hurt them or their loved ones, I’ve even been told if I ever have a baby of my own (I’m infertile so that’s impossible anyways though) that cps would be called the day it was released from the hospital. Even my therapists try putting me in the hospital every single time I go off my meds (I take haloperidol and can’t currently because my gallbladder makes me throw up when I take any meds or eat anything) because “you’re a danger to yourself and others right now.” I only started taking the meds this year, 21 years after the problems started. If I wasn’t violent during those 21 years why do they think I’ll be violent now? It’s not bad enough I see demons and blood and horrible things that I wouldn’t wish on anyone, it’s not bad enough I hear screaming a lot of the time, no they have to make it so I can’t even tell them what’s going on without being put in the hospital or evaluated to be put in the hospital. I don’t get it, please can someone explain this to me?

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I don’t understand why everyone seems to think I’m so violent when the last physical fight I got in was at least 5 years ago. '], 'answer_start': [447]}
From a teen in the U.S.: I don’t think I am antisocial because I am always with my friends, it’s just that I would rather be alone. But if I could be my complete self around my friends I wouldn’t be writing this. When it comes to family I don’t mind being with them, but I just would rather be alone when it comes to my friends.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I don’t think I am antisocial because I am always with my friends, it’s just that I would rather be alone.'], 'answer_start': [25]}
She was hospitalized at age of 35 because she took a chair to my head. She was in Forsyth Psychiatric Hospital for 3 weeks and was diagnosed with Paranoia Schizophrenia. Since then she has been hospitalized 2 more times. She has not taken medication and has made life hell for herself, her daughter and her brother and sisters and myself. We are at our wits end. We don’t know how to get help for her. I am her means of support and I live on SS so needless to say I am losing my home because I can no longer keep her up and make my house payments. I cannot get her on disability because the SS doctors will not say she is Paranoid and Schizophrenic. They interview her for 15 minutes and say she is fine. I do not know why I cannot get them to use her past records from the psychiatric hospitals. Please help me. She has no money to see a doctor and no money to buy medicine. She is always making people around her mad and fighting with her siblings. She keeps me upset. She is writing a letter every night to an old boyfriend because she believes he can straighten her family and friends out if they don’t do like she thinks is right. She will take it all the way to the post office because she thinks someone will get it if she puts it in the mail. I am afraid for my safety sometimes and hers. I really need some help. Please if you know what I can do please help me.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.: I’ve chose a 5 month date to intro my new girlfriend to my kids. We are in love and we want to start sharing this to the kids at Thanksgiving gathering. The kids are 4 and 5. They know her as a friend now because of paths crossing. Is this approach risky for the kids?

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Hi, when I was about 15-16 I had thoughts of being assigned the wrong gender at birth, I kept it secret from my parents, but they kept laughing at me and making fun of me for being slightly feminine (wanting to grow my hair, having long nails). My dad always called me names and teased me about it. I kept it inside and only told one person, she was my closest friend that I could talk to, when I told her, I broke down crying and it was very upsetting. Because of the torment about it from my father, I have never been able to open up to anyone about it. I pushed these thoughts deep down and tried to get on with my life, trying to fill it with guy things and I love my computers and my computer gaming (which people thing are more male things) but recently I have been diagnosed with depression and these thoughts are coming back again. I’ve had lots of suicidal thoughts, but never carried them out, always had visions of bad things happening to me. I am currently taking meds from the doctor for the depression, as it started with anxiety and panic attacks. They came out of nowhere as far as I can work out, but the thoughts of being the wrong gender keeps coming up. I am seeing therapists for the anxiety and panic attacks, as well as councillors. I’m scared to bring this up because of the way my father treated me over it. The last month or so, I just havent wanted to do anything, lack of drive to accomplish anything and wanting to hide away from everyone and just curl up and die pretty much. The last few days I’ve had this feeling in my chest that something is wrong with me and I cant quite point to it, but it makes my whole body feel cold and shaky too.

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’ve had lots of suicidal thoughts, but never carried them out, always had visions of bad things happening to me.'], 'answer_start': [840]}
My boyfriend and I met online and we have a long distance relationship. We talk every day, have visited each other for a week at a time, been getting to know each other for about a year now.  we have talked about getting married as well. We are both in our 30s and never been married before.  However, when we get into arguments, he likes to criticize me which i can’t tolerate. Although i love him and really want to spend the rest of my life with him, I refuse to be engaged in a verbally abusive relationship. So i broke up with him.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I feel like I’m a somewhat normal person. I’m too scared from social anxiety to ever try to be “out there”. Despite that, my mom always looks at me with distaste. She once took me out with her to go shopping, and when I brought clothes to the changing room, she looked at me like I was crazy for wanting to buy anything (why bring me shopping if she doesn’t want me to get anything???). She doesn’t like when I spend money, even if it’s not her money. She doesn’t like it when I wear shorts(even in the summer heat), or anything semi-nice, I feel like she is slut-shaming me with her eyes, and I don’t even dress inappropriately because of my issues with my body.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['Despite that, my mom always looks at me with distaste. '], 'answer_start': [108]}
About a year and a half ago, I experienced (what I think was, but was never actually diagnosed) a period of depression lasting almost six months. Almost every day, I would drag myself out of bed, go to school, and then come home and go back to sleep. While at school, I found little to no enjoyment in the company of my friends and I could barely stand to sit through class and take part in the tedious and pointless activities. I often thought about suicide, but eventually decided that I would be too scared of failing and ending up worse off to try it. However, I distinctly remember feeling as if I wouldn’t mind if a car were to hit me while crossing the street. I pretty much never ate during the day; I would fast from the time I woke up to about 10:00 pm when I was so hungry that I would often binge on anything I could find. It was also during this time that I began to habitually self-harm.

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['However, I distinctly remember feeling as if I wouldn’t mind if a car were to hit me while crossing the street.'], 'answer_start': [556]}
From the U.S.: Hi, I am a female and a junior in high school. I think I might be gay but I don’t know, and it’s frustrating and scary. I thought I liked boys up until now. All through junior high all I ever wanted was a boyfriend. I was boy crazy and I wanted to date every boy in the school. Now, I have a boyfriend, and when we first started dating, I really liked him. I loved holding hands with him and cuddling. But after about 4 months I have no interest in touching him or kissing him or even talking to him. But I don’t know if this is because I don’t have feelings for him specifically, or boys in general.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I think I might be gay but I don’t know, and it’s frustrating and scary.'], 'answer_start': [62]}
From Canada: I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now, he has an almost 3 year old son. We have no idea when I should meet his son (my own therapist suggested 6 -12 months after the split to give the child time to grieve it has been 8 months since my boyfriend and his ex split).

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Good morning sir/madam: we are an old couple who failed to convince our only son to refrain from marrying the daughter of a schizophrenic mother .we informed him that schizophrenia according to doctors is a hereditary condition but he sees himself as a hero/rescuer and is firm about marrying her. both of us need advice and counseling as we are in despair.we have had a hard life and i in particular have struggled against great odds while my husband just gave up and stayed home -to raise our only son only to see him throw away his life to please a girl who i feel should not marry at all given her history of psychotic illness in the family.please help us .we approached pastors who told us to simply submit to The Lords will/purpose.we feel tormented and need your support and wise counsel in this hour of trial.please help us

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I suffer from trust issues. I tend to be afraid of everyone, question their motives and avoid engaging in social situations with people I haven’t known for a long time and therefore feel comfortable with. I think my relationship with my mother makes things worse. She keeps giving me advice and gets mad if I brush her off. Most of the time, she tells me to be careful, don’t come back late at night, don’t go into other people’s houses, don’t believe what everyone is saying. It makes me feel useless and stupid, like I can’t take care of myself. It also makes me second guess all my emotional attachments. As it is, I have never been in a relationship, because I never trust the men that try to ask me out. I am not particularly anxious about not being in a relationship but I do wonder whether or not I just don’t need a partner right now, or it is a self-imposed independence search. I understand the fact that my mother, like all mothers, is worried. She is also an anxious individual in her day to day life. However, she makes me anxious as well, up to the point where I fear getting hurt or running into problems, not because I’m trying to take care of myself, but because I’m afraid she will say “I told you so”. How can I make myself take her comments more lightly, but maintain my good relationship with her. With my father having died a year ago, I feel like we both need each other more than ever. I just wish she understood she is just worsening my already conflicted mental state and that at 22, it is far too late for her to try to dictate my social life. She warns me about the world being a dangerous place, then makes fun of my hermit status and lack of extended social circle. (From Romania)

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['As it is, I have never been in a relationship, because I never trust the men that try to ask me out.'], 'answer_start': [608]}
Hello, I am currently dating a woman who has been sexually assaulted as a child and physically assaulted as an adult. I am a very passionate and affectionate person and she can be too at times. But lately I notice she has pulled away from me emotionally and is keeping her distance by putting up a wall. We talk on the phone every day but when it comes to spending time together sexually or just 1 on 1, she avoids it. She puts up this persona that she is very tough and nothing bothers her but when she is alone that’s when she breaks down. You will never know that she is hurting because she will not show you at all. Because of the physical abuse by her son’s father, someone she truly trusted she is very insecure and does not let anyone near her heart. We have an amazing friendship but I feel what she has gone through as a child and adult is hurting our relationship. How do I handle the situation when she puts a wall up and refuses to communicate with me? (age 37, from US)

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}