Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
I am in a situation where I have been the patient understanding partner but am at a point where I am considering leaving the relationship because of the kid. I think first is the issue of discipline. My partner, to me, is very inconsistent in his discipline being simultaneously too harsh and lenient (ex. “I’m going to get my belt if you don’t listen and I am not giving you anything to eat, now come here and give me a hug. Want to watch TV?”). I do not directly address this in disagreement but he can tell from my facial expression that I am not with this. So he gets extremely defensive. All I can say is that I am allowed to have thoughts and those thoughts can disagree. But he wants me to agree with him and I just do not. There is also a jealousy issue. I bought his kid a stuffed animal and my partner says “it’s a good thing that I didn’t buy a stuffed animal like I was going to cause then we would have to see whose gift he likes more”. On Christmas day, when kid opened up a guitar he received from his dad and couldn’t put it down, his dad yells “He likes my gift the best. I win!”. The incidents that I mentioned above were minor but there have been really big arguments that have ensued from either in which my partner’s go to excuse for yelling and screaming is that he is the parent and I need to stay in my lane. Just to clarify, once me going out of my lane involved me getting a lint roller to remove cat hair from his son’s pjs before he put it on. I had matching pjs and the plan was that me and his kid were going to wear the pjs and have a movie and popcorn night. His dad said that he couldn’t wear the pjs because he needed to get the cat hair off first. He was in the middle of cooking so I went to do it. I was yelled at for trying to undermine his authority because he already said that his son was not to wear those pjs at all (that was not what he said). I honestly feel it was a ploy to ruin pajama night. I am noticing that part of the problem is that my partner doesn’t want certain things getting back to the baby mama for fear she will use their kid as leverage and not allow him to see his son. After over a year of dating, I am beginning to just feel resentful and emotionally alienated but feel like I am not allowed to have those feelings because I am not the one with the kid and that kids are supposed to come first.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['After over a year of dating, I am beginning to just feel resentful and emotionally alienated but feel like I am not allowed to have those feelings because I am not the one with the kid and that kids are supposed to come first.'], 'answer_start': [2134]}
From the U.S.: My husband and I used to both be friends with some neighbors. One of them has a TBI. For a year, she was calm around us, although we knew that she screamed and berated her husband each day. Then, she turned the same volatile screaming on me one day because she didn’t like that I was doing my MBA homework. I have never returned.

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['Then, she turned the same volatile screaming on me one day because she didn’t like that I was doing my MBA homework. I have never returned.'], 'answer_start': [205]}
I’ve been having problems lately controlling my patience and emotions over whether or not someone replies to my text messages/emails. All started a few months ago I was catching up with a friend over text. As she had recent success with relationships, while I have been struggling with interpersonal relationships in recent times, I reached out to ask her opinion over what positive qualities she saw in me, as I’ve done with my close friends and family to combat my self-esteem problems, because she has been one of the better friends I’ve met in recent times. No response. Another instance of this happening was when I wished a friend I used to have a crush on happy birthday, I thought it would be a chance to ask her how things were going, as we had not talked in awhile. Again, no response. Sometimes when I post to an online forum but don’t get replies, I feel like I am a big annoyance and bother. After some of these occurrences I have had more frequent intrusive thought attacks, with my anxiety screaming things like: “You’re insane!” “You are an intrusive burden for asking people these questions!” “You’re handling this all wrong!” “You should have known better than to continue those conversations!” As with talking to friends of the opposite gender: “You are a dangerous disgusting disgrace, and you have no business with women!”

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['Sometimes when I post to an online forum but don’t get replies, I feel like I am a big annoyance and bother. After some of these occurrences I have had more frequent intrusive thought attacks, with my anxiety screaming things like: “You’re insane!” “You are an intrusive burden for asking people these questions!” “You’re handling this all wrong!” “You should have known better than to continue those conversations!” As with talking to friends of the opposite gender: “You are a dangerous disgusting disgrace, and you have no business with women!”'], 'answer_start': [796]}
From a teen in the U.S.: I’m very anxious all the time and I overthink things a lot. I often get so anxious that I start shaking and I’m really on edge, and I lose track of things. I’ll snap at people when I don’t mean to because I’m freaked out. I sometimes get panic attacks that cause me to miss events or bail and hide. Some of my friends have suggested I seek therapy, none of them are mental health professionals. I wonder if maybe I’m blowing my problems out of proportion, or maybe I’m just not good enough at dealing with it and I just need to get better at dealing with my problems myself. Mental health care can be expensive and I don’t wanna waste anyone’s time if I don’t actually need help.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I wonder if maybe I’m blowing my problems out of proportion, or maybe I’m just not good enough at dealing with it and I just need to get better at dealing with my problems myself.'], 'answer_start': [420]}
From a teen in Indonesia: I am a 19 y.o. female who experiences abuse since childhood (verbally and physically) from my caregiver and was diagnosed with chronic depression. However, I feel like my symptomps are more compatible with C-PTSD. Another disturbing feeling I experienced but not listed in the C-PTSD symptomps is a sense of sadness and loss of momentary joy when I part with my friends. I also feel like though I have friends that (supposedly) dear me, I also feel like I’m alone and can’t depend/open up to them because I feel like I’m being bothersome. I feel like I have no one I could really rely on and it could be frustratingly lonely sometimes. I have a difficult time putting my feelings to words and I feel like nobody can really understand. My question is: are those normal feelings someone with C-PTSD experiences or is there something else going on with me?

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['However, I feel like my symptomps are more compatible with C-PTSD. Another disturbing feeling I experienced but not listed in the C-PTSD symptomps is a sense of sadness and loss of momentary joy when I part with my friends. '], 'answer_start': [173]}
I was disabled as a child. When I was a child wearing cloth diapers became a comfort for me. Now as an adult I still like the soft, warm, comfort, and pleasure, I get from wearing a double cloth diaper and plastic pants at night or when I have the house alone. I have a problem now because, I don’t know what to say to those closest to me if, my secret came out. I have been asked questions such as why does your room sometimes smell like baby powder. I am going to be honest next time but don’t know what to say? I also have a problem with washing diapers because my secret is not out. I feel like I am lying and hiding. This makes me feel fantastic and I do not know what to do?

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I feel like I am lying and hiding.'], 'answer_start': [587]}
From a teen in the U.S.:  Just before summer vacation my mom and I had gotten into a fight that lasted for hours. It was dumb and it was really just her yelling at me and me crying, aksing her to calm down. Eventually, it became to much and i ran into the bathroom and hurt myself, like I had been doing for months.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a woman in the Philippines: My parents really hate my boyfriend for the following reasons: 1. He had been with so many girls in his life, he even slept with them, he even cohabited with 2 of his girls in the past, and my parents cant stand it, that is why they hate him so much to the point of disowning me if I still choose him. 2. He is a product of a broken family. His father cheated on his mother. So my parents are telling me that he is like his father. 3. Im a professional and he is not.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My ss is 17. I’ve been in his life since age 6. He has always lied and been spiteful. Since I met his mom, he was constantly getting in trouble at school and barely made it thru each year. Now he has school online and only goes in a couple days a week and he’s getting all F’s. His mom has always had a hard time calling him out but I haven’t. The lying has never stopped. He just got better at it. He learned how to lie with sincerity.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['He has always lied and been spiteful.'], 'answer_start': [48]}
From the U.S.: I’ve suffered with anxiety for as long as I can remember. I had a rough childhood which included sexual and mental abuse. I’ve always coped well, for the most part. About 5 years ago I started having severe body aches and pains along with chronic fatigue. This also started about the same time I gained employment with an employer that put a great amount of stress on me. I’ve since been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, a paralyzed vocal cord, 100% loss of smell, Anxiety, Depression, and ADHD (diagnosed in my early 30’s).

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Hello, I’m here to say that I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and OCD during my hospitalization. I have been hospitalized twice for suicide and depression, as well as grief for the first time. I lost my dad a year ago when I was 12, now I am fourteen, so one year and 5 months. I lost him to a stroke as well as a long-term sickness from diabetes and kidney failure. I went through a deep long bereavement as well as my inhumane thoughts. They would make fun of me and my dead dad, calling me an n%$#r and showing me disgusting images. During that period, I attempted suicide three times. Right now, I feel so hopeless and pessimistic. I don’t believe things will get any better any time soon and I’m convinced that life will get progressively worse from here now on. I believe that the evil in this world triumphs any good people will try to harness. I feel like I’m just mentally dragging myself day by day to only fulfill the needs of my peers and teachers. I really despise going to High school, and I’m only a Freshman! There is no passion in my school nor in my life. I mean, I wanna become an animator and animate my own show and have a family in The U.K, but these are all goals, I don’t know what I truly want to do and I don’t think I will anytime soon. See I have this fear having a different goal, and if I did, then I’d be depressed. Now, I feel Nothing, I’ve been self-harming, technically three times. My purpose was to feel something. At least when I was suicidal I felt something, like, pain and worthlessness. I also miss being depressed. It was like my own little shell that I can keep. It was my safety blanket. No, it was my identity. When I get mad, I get really mad, like I’m gonna do something terrible to myself mad, but that only happened once in my entire life, but these feeling of numbness didn’t come from nowhere. I intellectualized my feelings when I was a young atheist, spiritual now. So, I don’t know what to do, I take medication of course but I wanna get off it because i don’t need a drugs to make me happy. Advice?

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['Right now, I feel so hopeless and pessimistic. I don’t believe things will get any better any time soon and I’m convinced that life will get progressively worse from here now on.'], 'answer_start': [602]}
Through the time he finished high school, my son was considered to be very bright. We have never had to help him with school work, he was often the source of help to his friends in math, science and computers. His teachers loved the way he participated in class. He did well enough to get into a very elite school. At this elite school, expectations are high. Through 2 1/2 years he folds whenever faced with hard work and has had to repeat courses. He was even placed on academic probation for several months. When he went back, he did OK for one quarter and the back to the same problems. Each time, he seems to escape into video games, binge-watching TV serials, etc. We believe there is no reason to suspect substance abuse. He constantly lies about the status of his course work and then gets caught out in stupid ways when he ends up confessing. His friends love him and think highly of him but he avoids building strong relationships. There are probably only 1 or 2 friends he is in touch with regularly. How can we as parents help him see the light? Is there a mental health issue? He says he has seen a counselor but we can’t be sure he is telling the truth.

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['He constantly lies about the status of his course work and then gets caught out in stupid ways when he ends up confessing.'], 'answer_start': [729]}
My 7yr old daughter is always moving her fingers, while she’s eating,while watching TV, at school. She mentioned it to me, she told me that she can’t stop doing it, but she said it doesn’t bother her. But I’m just really worried, that maybe something is bothering her and she doesn’t realize it. When she’s moving her fingers it kind of looks like she’s counting,because she does it in order, she has like a sequence, she touches her pinky with her ring finger, then she touches her ring finger with her middle finger,then she touches her middle finger with her pointer, then touches her pointer with her thumb and then sometimes she does it backwards. Thank you.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From a young woman in Nigeria: My parents got separated when I was 11. And for some strange reason there was a lot of pressure on me to fix the situation from pretty much everyone minus my dad (saying that we were really close and he would listen to me). Due to the situation, I really didn’t come to terms with the situation and didn’t deal with it well, most of my time spent in boarding school was spent crying and I did go through a period of cutting(self-harm). Basically I didn’t know who to talk to about what I was dealing with and I’ve pretty much kept my feelings to myself till now.

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['Due to the situation, I really didn’t come to terms with the situation and didn’t deal with it well, most of my time spent in boarding school was spent crying and I did go through a period of cutting(self-harm).'], 'answer_start': [255]}
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 5 months. She has been part of a Baptist chruch for 5 years now. But she is also bisexual which is a sin. Also another problem with her is her past and how insecure she is. Before she meet me she been with a few girls and they cheated on her so she basically shut down and locked herself from everyone else. Basically she is using religion to help her move forward in life and recover and become a better person. But people don’t realize that religion isn’t what fixes you it’s the people on the chruch with you. She feels like she owes her whole heart to Jesus because she believes that Jesus has been her savior. But along it has been people in the church. Because of the religion she is saying she is waiting until marriage for sex. But I believe she is using it to cover up herself because she so insecure about herself. Like trust me she I would say why but I only got400 words. Deep down inside she wants to do these things but she scared that if I see her naked or something that I will run away. We’re both overweight alot but nothing over 300 pounds. I don’t know how to handle this cause we both love each other and I’m willing to wait.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['But I believe she is using it to cover up herself because she so insecure about herself.'], 'answer_start': [778]}
From a young man in the U.S.: I wanted to understand the link between the upbringing of one , past experiences ,and past ideologies and how much it can affect ones current reasoning. Does a person have utter and complete freedom to change his reality or would there always be a faction of his brain leading him to a biased conclusion because of his past experience. For example can a person fully understand and change his reality without his brain affecting that decision based on his past. In other words , a person who grew up in a religion , and changes his religion, can he or she be able to fully accept a new belief and formulate a new truth based ok current thinking and not be influenced by the past. In other words how much control do humans have to truly shape their reality based on their logic and not be biased based on any past experiences or at least not make a decison base on that fully.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
My loved one and her boyfriend have been together since high school. She is in her mid-twenties now and they just had a baby girl. He has tried to leave her multiple times throughout their relationship, but she would threaten suicide in order to keep him around. A little bit about her: she suffers from childhood trauma. She had a very rough life growing up before she was adopted into my family. There is a history of schizophrenia, depression, and autism in her biological family tree. She is unreliable when it comes to committing to plans. She used to sleep all day, before the baby. She is never happy and if you make any mistakes, she will hold a grudge forever. She expects perfection from others, but will have excuses for herself. Since the age of twelve she has always had a boyfriend, I think her greatest fear is being single or alone. She is always angry or upset with him but will not let him go. A little bit about him: he is 3 years younger than her, he wants to be a twenty-something year old and hates being restricted by her. He has ADHD and chronic migraines, as well as a dysfunctional family. He has gotten to the point where he tries to reach out to other girls, or he tries to escape with friends. She goes through his phone every day AND SEES THAT HE IS TRYING TO CHEAT ON HER but will still not let him go. He has stopped doing household chores, he no longer helps take care of their child, he is trying to escape. If he is ever alone with the baby he tries to get others to watch her for him. He is always reaching out to me telling me how he does not love her, and how he wants to leave. I do not respond, but I predict that if he manages to leave, she will follow him. Or he is just venting to me and actually will not try to leave (because he’s done that before). They are currently looking for a new place to move in to. I do not want to risk reaching out to him due to his phone getting checked everyday, but I do not think my loved one will listen to any advice I give her, because she is not looking for it. Please help.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['I do not want to risk reaching out to him due to his phone getting checked everyday, but I do not think my loved one will listen to any advice I give her, because she is not looking for it.'], 'answer_start': [1853]}
From the U.S.: The past few days have been the hardest. The mother of my son and I was together for about three years. I’ve never been the type to express how I feel in a sensitive way. I recently told her I didn’t wanna be with her and I felt it to be true up until she left and it’s been two weeks and she has already moved on and found a lover.

Cognitive distortion: All-or-nothing thinking
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’ve never been the type to express how I feel in a sensitive way. I recently told her I didn’t wanna be with her and I felt it to be true up until she left and it’s been two weeks and she has already moved on and found a lover.'], 'answer_start': [119]}
The older one is 29 years old and have mental problems and he have also a hole in his heart that makes problem with his nerves but now I’m not writing for him but for my little brother who is 13 years old. Against the older brother he is good, he goes at school but he doesn’t show good grades or speak very well. He doesn’t care about his school life, lately he ask weird question comparing for his ages about what are the things around him. He played game online sometime, don’t talk much, in his actions he is a bit delayed. And what i worry the most is that he act sometimes like the older brother with his gestures. He walk like him, the position of hands make often like him and some nonsense world that my older brother often say the little one is saying. We all thought before that my little brother with time would be better but I’m worried that he is going to be more bad…And i forgot to tell that we have send my little brother at doctor before but they said that he doesn’t have anything in his mind or in heart like my brother. We are five children. Three girls and two boys and my sisters are so well and very smart and the illness that my older brother have isn’t inherited. Could someone tell me what should I do about my little brother? I don’t want he to be or to act like older brother? I want to know why is he acting like that even when we live all together he doesn’t act like my father which is very close or anyone else but with my older brother? You will me help a lot if you answer my question… Have a nice day

Cognitive distortion: Magnification
Distorted part: {'text': ['And what i worry the most is that he act sometimes like the older brother with his gestures. He walk like him, the position of hands make often like him and some nonsense world that my older brother often say the little one is saying. We all thought before that my little brother with time would be better but I’m worried that he is going to be more bad…'], 'answer_start': [528]}