Anonymous-EmpathyAI/Distortion-Analysis-PACLIC39 huggingface dataset:
Recently I have been consumed by certain fantasies and lack of empathy. When I see people in the street I wonder what it would be like to kill them(mostly out of boredom), and I have thought of ways I would do it – I’m particularly intrigued by poison or psychologically engineering a suicide because it’s quite passive(not violent/bloody). However, I don’t think I would ever do anything to hurt anyone, to be honest, I think 1) out of laziness and 2) I would want to be 100% sure I would get away with it. I’m an INTJ personality so I am meticulously organized and analytical. I have recently been very withdrawn socially and realized my relationships with people/conversations are quite superficial and I do it just because I sometimes need friends. However, while I feel like I can switch my empathy ‘off’ (stop caring), I do care very deeply for some people, and I love helping my loved ones and making their lives better. So I don’t understand why I can be a caring person as well as regularly lack empathy / feel superficially charming and manipulative and have fantasies are urges to hurt people? I’ve taken the Hare psychopathy checklist and scored 29, but like I said I can feel empathy when I want to, so I’m not sure that’s really accurate. Please let me know what you think and any advice (I know this isn’t clinical advice and I don’t think I need professional help, its not THAT bad). But still, appreciate any thoughts. (From England)

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.:  My husband started to work from home like a year ago, it was just a part-time job and not very consistent.It worked well at the beginning but slowly started to be an issue in our relationship. I work full-time and I guess I started to be jealous of his schedule, being able to be home, etc. Since he had so much time, he started to play computer games again (used to play them 24/7 as a teenager) which also included joining some online forums. In July I discovered that he was talking to multiple girls online (sexually and romantically) and that he joined forums such “looking for relationship” etc. He told me he had only talked to one girl (I saw conversations with multiple women) and only because she had mental issues. After that, he stopped talking to them online, yet still kept playing video games. He was supposed to find a new job since his PT job slowly stopped making him any money, yet he wasn’t able to (or didn’t even try) find one within the past 6-7months. He plays his computer games around 10 hours a day, goes to bed at 3-5am pretty much every day, spends money (that I’m trying to save) on his games and ignores everything around the house. Whenever I try to confront him about something he gets very upset, calls me names like “b*tch” “idiot” and just yells at me. Whenever I find out he lied to me about something it’s the same – starts to yell at me, starts to throw things, hit himself, calls me names and sometimes blames it on me. Then he always apologizes and tells me how much he loves me and that I’m his everything. Now he is supposed to go back to school starting in two weeks, but every time I asked him to show me his log in, schedule or just something, he gets upset and his log in magically doesn’t work.I looked at his school email and saw many emails from his school counselors telling him that he was late to sign up and can only sign up for summer semester at this point. He also lied to them why he dropped out of school a year ago and said it was because of his dad’s illness (even though his dad is perfectly fine).I don’t have anyone to talk to since I moved from a different country to be with him.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for more than 9 months. We first had sex after three weeks of dating, and she asked me to have sex with her. When we had been dating for three months, she slowly started not wanting to have sex, and I even went a whole month without sex. She started taking birth control pills at the three month mark, so this might be why she acts like this.

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['he started taking birth control pills at the three month mark, so this might be why she acts like this.'], 'answer_start': [277]}
Hello, just to give some background, I’ve self-harmed and have gone to the hospital because of my injuries before. Ever since I was very young I’ve had strong urges to harm living things and even myself. I seem to like all things involving pain harm and blood. I’ve harmed myself several times in the past but not usually for suicidal tendencies but for fun, I try my best not to anymore. The thing that also concerns me is the fact I have terrible nightmares and very long and strange dreams/nightmares often having me hallucinate even after I wake up from the dream in the middle of the night. That has caused me to dread night time and being alone at home and the darkness (I sleep with a lamp on because of this). I’m often paranoid but I love to watch all things horror and dark so that doesn’t really help my situation either but I can’t seem to stop. I am always paranoids at night and feel as if something is out to get me and that would cause me to stare at something like the door or the mirror because I find it bad and I’d have a hard time falling asleep because of it sometimes as well.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['I am always paranoids at night and feel as if something is out to get me and that would cause me to stare at something like the door or the mirror because I find it bad and I’d have a hard time falling asleep because of it sometimes as well.'], 'answer_start': [858]}
My sister is 33, married and has a 7, 4yr old and an 8th month-old recently diagnosed with a rare genetic condition. She has struggled with anger issue always but never acknowledges it. She always has dealt with stress or being mad at one person by shutting off and being angry with everyone. We as a family have just adapted to tip-toeing around her when she’s having a mood but has never addressed it properly by she will not talk about it and will stop speaking to you until you drop it. She is in a particularly bad episode at the moment and she is understandably stressed about her son’s condition and medical issues. She is angry at all of us and always pretty abrupt with the other children. Time has come to get her to acknowledge and cope with the way she deals with stress. She might need therapy but I don’t think shed even listen to this suggestion. How can we help her, giving her space but we don’t want her isolated ( she doesn’t have relationships outside the family), confronting her will push her farther away, talking to her won’t work she will just refuse to listen and we can’t keep ignoring it. (From Ireland)

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['She might need therapy but I don’t think shed even listen to this suggestion. '], 'answer_start': [784]}
I have suffered from depression and anxiety since I was about 10. I recently lost a loved one and everything got so much worse. I am stuck in a constant state of anxiety, and can’t find anyone to see me anytime soon. Where can I find free or medicaid covered help fast?

Cognitive distortion: Mental filter
Distorted part: {'text': ['I recently lost a loved one and everything got so much worse. I am stuck in a constant state of anxiety, and can’t find anyone to see me anytime soon.'], 'answer_start': [66]}
From a teen in the U.S.: I’m typically a loud, obnoxious, passionate, argumentative person. I blow up when I’m angry. I blow up when I’m excited. I like to share my voice. People see me as a potential leader. If anything, I think I should be kept away from a leadership role. I hate being considered a potential leader due to my traits. I hate them with a burning passion.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I hate being considered a potential leader due to my traits. I hate them with a burning passion.'], 'answer_start': [276]}
I just wanted everything to go away: I’m 14, and am currently in high school, year 10. As a kid, I was forced to study way ahead of my grade, and my mum used to teach me. Every time I got a question wrong, I used to get smacked with a rolling pin. Or when I made my mother angry, I was smacked, then dragged and thrown into the bedroom. I wasn’t allowed to cry, otherwise she’d punish me more. It was more when I was younger, but I learned not to make these mistakes. I sometimes used to get bruises and stuff. But afterwards, my mother would make it up to me by saying things like “I love you” and “You will always be my cute daughter” and buy me snacks. Otherwise, I enjoyed my mother’s company. But it would confuse me, and still does. The memories sometimes haunt me, flashes of my mother dragging me into a room, and the sinking feeling in my heart as I know there’s nothing I can do to escape. It’s just so confusing. I still don’t know if what she did to me is considered is “abuse”…I know it’s stupid but……it’s so confusing. My father helped me a lot although he was almost always working, he took me outside for breaks in studying and protected me from my mother sometimes. There has always has been two “sides”. My mother’s side and my father’s side. I always had to choose, whose side I was on, but I don’t know. I still don’t know. My parents always fight, then somehow make up, then fight again, and the cycle continues. I don’t know anymore. It’s just so stupid, and I always try not to get involved, but I always get dragged in. I just want it to all go away, but it doesn’t. When I turned 13, I realised I’d drifted off from my father, mostly because he was taking care of my other two sisters, and I was alone. To be honest, I liked being alone. I don’t have to pretend, and I don’t have to act. My mother had also stopped teaching me, she let me have my independence. But since my father was usually out, it left me and my mother alone. She always tries to justify and persuade me onto her side, telling me all these things which I really don’t care about, but it just hurts me. I feel like I’m being torn apart in half. I don’t want to choose a side. Can’t we just live in peace? I have always considered running away, but I have never had enough courage to do so, under the fear that my mother will always end up finding me and scream at me and punish me. I don’t know what to do. I’m sorry for rambling, I’ve never shared anything like this anywhere. Thank you.

Cognitive distortion: Emotional Reasoning
Distorted part: {'text': ['I have always considered running away, but I have never had enough courage to do so, under the fear that my mother will always end up finding me and scream at me and punish me.'], 'answer_start': [2199]}
My preteen son seems to need to be the center of attention. He is a gifted kid who doesn’t really like school. He speaks out of turn, has said mean things, and doesn’t really seem to care about authority or following the rules. (all of this is sometimes) Sometimes, he’s great. He tends to NOT be helpful or kind and is causing himself many issues. He’s had several school detentions for doing things such as name-calling or being disrespectful to his teachers. He is involved in scouting and loves it, but won’t listen to adult leaders or scout leaders. He’s had privileges taken away, and will now need to have his scouting experiences limited as he is not reliable in that setting. He doesn’t want his behaviors restricted but I can’t have him acting out everywhere. He is developing a reputation as kind of a jerk. His dad and I have divorced 5 years ago and he sees us both regularly and he also has a stepdad in his life that he cares about. All the parents are engaged to assist him in getting what he needs. I have a flexible work arrangement and am able to be home most days right after school gets out. I help with homework, we eat meals together–I’ve made a point to tell him in no uncertain terms that my love for him is unconditional. My other kid exhibits none of these behaviors. I’m at a loss. The school principal has assured me that while my kid is on the “watch list” at school he’s by no means the worst offender. He wandered off at a recent scout outing doing something that could have endangered himself and there will be consequences for that. So far, being grounded, having detentions, etc don’t really seem to matter to him. He gets really wound up and doesn’t listen and it feels like attention seeking behavior. We’ve also recently done Neurotherapy (biofeedback) for him which seemed to make a positive difference–but he’s now continuing with the bad behaviors. Looking for a suggestion, a book, a counselor in some sort of modality I should look for. Thanks much (From the USA)

Cognitive distortion: Mind Reading
Distorted part: {'text': ['He is a gifted kid who doesn’t really like school. He speaks out of turn, has said mean things, and doesn’t really seem to care about authority or following the rules. '], 'answer_start': [60]}
From a young woman in the U.S.: My boyfriend (21) and I (20) have been together for 2 years now. The first year of our relationship was decent, I guess he was just more focused on himself only and not really the relationship. He lost something important to him and started leaning on me for support. Since then it has just been getting worse. He started getting unhealthily attached to me.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
Hello there, I am a 34-year-old male, happily married with kids. I love my kids and i love kids in general and have always been affectionate towards kids and infants in general. I have observed that in the recent past (since 3 – 4 years), i feel a strong urge to hurt specific infants. By hurting i mean only pinching, or slapping or scratching (basically anything that can make them suffer and cry a bit) but i don’t feel any greater harm. This feeling of hatred or urge to hurt is only for specific infants (3 infants of my wife’s sister, 2 infants of my wife’s brother and 1 infant of an old female friend’s brother). Apart from these infants, i don’t have this feeling for any other infant in the world. I like children and infants in general and do not have any bad feelings for anyone else. My relationship with my wife’s sister is very good and i do not have any problem with my wife’s sister or her husband and we enjoy a warm family relationship however i do not like my wife’s brother as such.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
I have a very close friend who is getting day by day very hard to deal with. The top symptoms include; -compulsive talker -Very defensive -always swaying up and down/side to side when standing -has to be right/wants someone to always agree -easily angered -trouble getting words out(sometimes as in a stuttering manner) -will interrupt conversations to speak on a past conversation that upset him -will repeat himself while you’re talking over and over again until acknowledged.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.: After having a child recently, in-laws have begun to try and be more involved in our lives – visiting more, texting often, etc. Several boundaries have already been crossed (coming anyway when being told “no”, planning visits without consulting me, etc – the planned visits have been changed when I’ve pushed back).

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
What do you do when you have been unable to have any hope for your own future? This has gone on for 6 years. I can still find joy, but i have lost almost everything. The mental healthcare system is appalling, its about cheap imported toxic drugs used to chemically neuter anyone who is passionate or who is white, straight, and conservative. And I am sick of being lumped in with opioid addicts. Addicts made a choice to abuse drugs. Depression, PTSD, are NOT a choice. Plus I am sick of illegals, minorities, & special interests getting to do and say what ever they want, and of them getting a free ride while I work my butt off only to have what I earn taken from me & given to those freeloaders. Obamacare has allowed our private medical data to be expolited for profit; see the FICO medication adherence score for example). I have corporate health insurance but it now costs $10,000 out of pocket per year & only covers the same crappy providers that medicaid welfare freeloaders can access. The toxic left and Congress destroyed US healthcare via obama. Now the cures act ensures humans are the medical device guinea pigs instead of the former FDA 2-animal model/clinical trial model. Grneric meds are literally toxic and inferior worh side effect profiles that are horrific – cheap meds are useless. Moreover, the quality of the fake providers (non-MDs) that is the new standard in the “value-based” hellcare industry is nothing but a sick joke. This is why I dont want to wake up tomorrow- where is the hope for any quality of life in the future? This is America. And as the former spouse of a legal immigrant, where is this Nation headed when Citizens are treated like trash?

Cognitive distortion: Overgeneralization
Distorted part: {'text': ['The mental healthcare system is appalling, its about cheap imported toxic drugs used to chemically neuter anyone who is passionate or who is white, straight, and conservative. '], 'answer_start': [166]}
I have been having therapy for nearly 4 years, for childhood trauma and general, in the beginning things were fine, she asked all the right questions, but know I feel like things are very intense, she knows i find friendships complicated so she’ asked if we were friends, and 2 weeks ago I started sitting on the floor for comfort, then she joined me but sitting opposite but shoes off, but I found the way she sat across from me a bit uncomfortable, she had her legs open, we spoke about my feelings and how I felt that day and she said she would give her heart feelings to me. I don’t know maybe I am reading too much into it or just feeling to emotionally sensitive I told my sister and she said my therapist has feelings for me and I should change.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I have been having therapy for nearly 4 years, for childhood trauma and general, in the beginning things were fine, she asked all the right questions, but know I feel like things are very intense, she knows i find friendships complicated so she’ asked if we were friends, and 2 weeks ago I started sitting on the floor for comfort, then she joined me but sitting opposite but shoes off, but I found the way she sat across from me a bit uncomfortable, she had her legs open, we spoke about my feelings and how I felt that day and she said she would give her heart feelings to me.'], 'answer_start': [0]}
Hello. I’ve been in a relationship for over a year now. We were friends for 2 years before that. When we were 4-5 months he said he had to tell me something important. He said that he was concerned about me and that I should take care of myself more because I always left me last. It hurt me so much (because I’ve had low self-esteem for a while and been insecure) that I got mad at him that day. After days our relationship changed a bit. I couldn’t put my finger on what was wrong. We felt a bit disconnected and awkward with each other and it hurt for both of us. Then my insecurities and anxiety got worse and worse. I accused him of cheating a few times and I was totally convinced that he was cheating. I felt betrayed, lonely, boring and flat to him. I started to feel like I didn’t love him, but I knew I did. I also lost trust on everything. I questioned our relationship everyday and it gave me anxiety. I was to nervous to see him or talk to him. I hated it.

Cognitive distortion: Labeling
Distorted part: {'text': ['I felt betrayed, lonely, boring and flat to him.  '], 'answer_start': [709]}
From the U.S.: I am divorced after an abusive marriage–my kids endured a lot. Despite this, after years of hard work, I have two children who, thankfully, have come through all that with flying colors. I have a lot on my side, good finances, career, and family.  NOTHING in my life makes me happier to more deeply satisfied than seeing my  kids happy and whole and thriving. I thank God DAILY for it.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}
From the U.S.:  I’ve noticed that when I’m alone in my dorm away from my family, I think about depressing stuff. Like how my grandparents are almost close to death and how I’ll die and ceased to exist. I get all gloomy and tearful. When I’m with family I’m happy as I can be, but alone, my thoughts have been about death. I know that death comes and it has to come but I hate thinking about my family dying. I obviously know that it’s natural but it’s just hard to come to terms with it.

Cognitive distortion: Should statements
Distorted part: {'text': ['I know that death comes and it has to come but I hate thinking about my family dying. I obviously know that it’s natural but it’s just hard to come to terms with it.'], 'answer_start': [322]}
My boyfriend and I just moved in together. Since we’ve moved in together, he’s been getting angry with me every day. It usually revolves around me being too quiet. The first time we were in the car and he started yelling at me for being too quiet, I then got even more quiet as I’ve been in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship before (and that used to be the safest reaction) and then he started calling me names. I then had a panic attack, as I suffer from anxiety. Prior to meeting him, I hadn’t had an attack for a year. He always calls me names when he’s angry, and then when he’s calmed down he apologizes and says he’s sorry he’s been a dick, but he loves me, and I just need to give him time to get used to me. I’m starting to think that there’s something wrong with me and it’s my fault that he’s angry at me all the time. I’m walking on egg shells in our home and dread having days off work because he works 4am-11am so is home most of the day. He told me that he was sexually abused when he was younger, and I know that he has a “fuck everyone else” mindset, but he’d never been that way with me. I start shaking every time he yells at me now. If I try to talk to him about it reasonably, he gets even angrier and says I’m trying to blame him for everything when I’m clearly in the wrong. The worst part is that I’m a Detective and have worked in the domestic violence unit before and I should be able to recognize whether or not this is going where I think and feel it might be, but I can’t. I’ve never called him names, and have asked him to try not to do it when he’s mad, but he hasn’t stopped. He even says things like it’s no surprise I was single when he met me, I’m lucky because there are men out there that would be worse, etc. I don’t know what to do, or if it will get better. (From England)

Cognitive distortion: Personalization
Distorted part: {'text': ['I’m starting to think that there’s something wrong with me and it’s my fault that he’s angry at me all the time. '], 'answer_start': [733]}
Ever since I was younger, even at around the age of 4 years old, I have always fancied older men. By this, I mean men including those that are middle-aged. I have also fancied people of a much closer age to me as well, and am in a relationship with someone of a very similar age.

Cognitive distortion: No Distortion
Distorted part: {'text': [''], 'answer_start': [-1]}