Anonymous-EmpathyAI/300-samples-cof-ref huggingface dataset:
Situation: When I told my friend about my job, he said it has little real-world significance
Thought: My job is worthless

Reframe: I have a job, even though it has little worth
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing

Reframe: My friend is pessimistic anyways. I truly believe my job has some value
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing
Situation: When doing some piecework online, I was told that my work was not good.
Thought: I worked hard on these jobs, and was sure I had done well.

Reframe: My style of work may not fit the company that hired me. I want to be open and ask for specific feedback on their expectations.
Thinking traps addressed: negative feeling or emotion

Reframe: It's okay if people don't like my work. It doesn't mean that I don't work hard, or that others may also like my work.
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing
Situation: While I was at work, my supervisor questioned my decision in a negative tone infront of my peers.
Thought: She needs to stop discussing this.

Reframe: I was embarrassed and I should give my boss feedback that I was feeling defensive. Hopefully we can resolve this in the future.
Thinking traps addressed: negative feeling or emotion,blaming,mind reading

Reframe: My supervisor was being unfair to me by discussing this in front of people and I was hurt. I should talk to her in private about this and how I would like to receive feedback in the future.
Thinking traps addressed: negative feeling or emotion,blaming,mind reading
Situation: While in a group voice chat, everyone left me without saying goodbye.
Thought: Does nobody want to talk to me?

Reframe: maybe i didnt hear them say goodbye
Thinking traps addressed: mind reading,personalizing

Reframe: my phone might have accidentally dropped the call
Thinking traps addressed: personalizing
Situation: Working on a project with Python and have not gotten it to successfully run.
Thought: Why is it still messed up?

Reframe: The code gets better every time I run it.
Thinking traps addressed: all-or-nothing thinking

Reframe: Python is tricky. I am trying my best.
Thinking traps addressed: disqualifying the positive
Situation: Would my death have an impact on people? Like is there anyone on here that's had someone close to them commit suicide and knows what it's like?
Thought: Would anyone care if I died?

Reframe: A lot of people would care if I died, like my friends and family.
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing

Reframe: Yes, at least one person would care if I died.
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing
Situation: a girl i really liked would not go out on a date with me
Thought: im not very attractive

Reframe: This girl and I did not work out but there are other people who may be a better fit for me
Thinking traps addressed: all-or-nothing thinking

Reframe: This girl could have said no for many reasons that may have nothing to do with my attractiveness.
Thinking traps addressed: labeling,all-or-nothing thinking
Situation: everyone ignores. not their fault I know. Honestly my best friends have been treating me like dirt and idk what to do. I feel so pointless taken all my mental and emotional energy to even send this.
Thought: No one cares about me

Reframe: If my friends are treating me poorly or ignoring, then maybe they aren't friends that I need to have in my life.
Thinking traps addressed: all-or-nothing thinking

Reframe: My friends are treating me poorly, but that doesn't mean they don't care about me. They might be struggling and lashing out because of that.
Thinking traps addressed: all-or-nothing thinking
Situation: going through toys that reminded me of the time period that id been abused for
Thought: I will go crazy if I don't control my racing thoughts

Reframe: Abuse is never the victim's fault. I can take steps to protect myself in the future without blaming myself for what happened in the past.
Thinking traps addressed: blaming

Reframe: Victims of abuse often feel shame and blame themselves. I can move past the abuse by learning to accept myself.
Thinking traps addressed: blaming
Situation: hearing loss caused by listening to music too loudly when younger
Thought: I am a failure

Reframe: I should never have listened to loud music
Thinking traps addressed: negative feeling or emotion

Reframe: Hearing loss is not caused by you listening to loud music It can be heredity or in your family and not your fault It just is
Thinking traps addressed: none
Situation: high school flashbacks of bullying from when I was conducting placement practice hours
Thought: I'm never going to be useful to society and it isn't worth living in because humans are extremely hard to understand

Reframe: I feel I will never accomplish anything in life  so I give up or maybe 🤔 a trauma counselor can help me get thru this
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing,fortune telling,negative feeling or emotion

Reframe: I give up on life because I am having difficulty with flashbacks of highschool
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing,fortune telling,negative feeling or emotion
Situation: i and my brother were working in the same office were i am his senior and when he does careless mistakes my boss warned me as i am his senior who is responsible for his work
Thought: my brother is very careless as he has the feeling that there is no one to ask him as his sister is the one who is senior

Reframe: I want to support my brother, and it feels challenging to navigate our different roles and power dynamics.
Thinking traps addressed: none

Reframe: Maybe my brother needs some support with the work that he's doing, and my boss, brother and I should all sit down together and talk.
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing
Situation: i ate too much and too fast to temporarily please myself but not because i felt hunger
Thought: i am not able to control my eating habits

Reframe: I ate too fast even though I wasn't hungry and now I feel as though I can't control my eating habits.  I have been able to control my eating in the past and I will do so again.
Thinking traps addressed: negative feeling or emotion

Reframe: I was feeling bad about something that happened today and I consoled myself with food.  I don't do that on a regular basis so saying that I'm not able to control my eating habits is not true.  I will find better ways to deal with stress at work.
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing
Situation: i celebrated a past holiday by myself
Thought: why don't i have friends? why am i not social? SIGH!

Reframe: I didnt reach out to anybody to see if they wanted to get together for the holiday. I am sure if I had reached out, people would have been available. Next time, I should plan ahead.
Thinking traps addressed: all-or-nothing thinking

Reframe: Just because I spent the holiday alone, doesn't mean that I do not have friends. My friends probably had other plans with their family, and I am sure if I had asked around, I would have found something to do. One event spent alone does not mean I do not have friends.
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing
Situation: i dont wanna continue with this life
Thought: im ready to die

Reframe: I want to live
Thinking traps addressed: emotional reasoning,disqualifying the positive

Reframe: I'm not ready to die
Thinking traps addressed: negative feeling or emotion,emotional reasoning
Situation: i still can't speak or understand korean, even after 6 months here
Thought: i'm not good enough

Reframe: I am good enough just the way I am.  It may take me longer to learn a new language, but I am doing the best that I can and I know that I will improve.
Thinking traps addressed: all-or-nothing thinking

Reframe: Although other people have learned Korean quicker and have lived here the same amount of time that I have, that does not mean I am not good enough.  My self worth is not defined by how quickly I learn a new langlkuage.
Thinking traps addressed: overgeneralizing
Situation: im scared of the human mind
Thought: i cant trust people

Reframe: Although I am scared and I feel that I can't trust people right now, there are things I can do to change that.  I can go to therapy and I can practice learning to trust people in a safe environment.
Thinking traps addressed: emotional reasoning

Reframe: To say I can't trust people is trying to predict the future.  I am focusing only on my fear and ignoring the facts.  It is possible that there are many people I can trust.  I can definitely improve the odds by seeing a counselor to help me deal with my fears.
Thinking traps addressed: fortune telling
Situation: it's so hard to do school work, get out of bed, care for myself, and eat
Thought: I'm so exhausted

Reframe: I have a lot going on right now. It makes sense that I am tired.
Thinking traps addressed: negative feeling or emotion

Reframe: I'm feeling exhausted because of everything life is throwing at me. Maybe this is a sign to take a break.
Thinking traps addressed: negative feeling or emotion
Situation: last week i went in for a job interview that i thought went very well but then i didnt get the job
Thought: ill never be able to find a good job

Reframe: There are many reasons why I may not have gotten this job and this experience does not dictate my future
Thinking traps addressed: fortune telling,catastrophizing

Reframe: This job may not have worked out but I got interview practice for my next one.
Thinking traps addressed: fortune telling,catastrophizing
Situation: my neighbors downstairs were having a party, and would not be quiet so i had to call the police and not get any sleep before work
Thought: I am being disrespected

Reframe: My neighbors were loud and I had a difficult decision. I'm sure they weren't trying to keep me awake.
Thinking traps addressed: labeling,disqualifying the positive,negative feeling or emotion

Reframe: My neighbors did not realize the volume of their party.
Thinking traps addressed: labeling,disqualifying the positive,negative feeling or emotion
Situation: one of my friend posted a video of a spider getting inside a car, and she so happened to have had her car broken into. So i asked her if the police found whoever broke into her car, and she totally ignored me
Thought: maybe she doesn't like me anymore.

Reframe: My friend is probably feeling pretty low after having her car broken into. She is probably not responding because she is not feeling great. I should try to reach back out later to see if I can do something to cheer her up.
Thinking traps addressed: mind reading

Reframe: My friend is probably really busy dealing with her car getting broken into, she will probably respond to me later.
Thinking traps addressed: personalizing