when your daughter was born, it is likely that you have parental responsibility. If you were not married, it depends on whether you are named on the birth certificate or, if you were given parental responsibility by a court order or your ex's agreement. Parental responsibility aside, it is not an absolute right for you to be informed about the christening and your ex is not breaking the law by not seeking your approval. I can't comment on what is required by the church. Your ex should think about how she would feel if you did a similar thing for your daughter without discussing it with her. Where possible you need to agree things together but it is not always possible depending on how your relationship has developed since your separation. Sometimes, it is not possible to communicate and therefore decisions have to be made without consultation. Let's look at this from the point of view of the child. Is it contrary to her best interests to be christened? If not, at least you got an invite. I agree that it is not ideal. I advise that you dis Best Regards Harjit Sarang, Partner and Head of Family Law BEST Solicitors LLP http://bestsolicitorsllp.wordpress.com/ cuss this and future important decision making with your ex so that you are not in the same situation again. Q. The childrens father smokes around them and also the children have told me they seen him make ciggarettes which is marijuana.I am concerned them picking up