it is unlikely that both of the involved will actually leave their actual partners due to each own circumstances. You won't bore us with details, its good to talk about it and for us to know we are not the only one going through such confusion/mid life crisis/dilemma in life. I am sorry that your fife has found some evidence. I am pretty careless too, I have somehow still kept the hundreds of text messages William sent to me in my phone folder, just for memories sake but I know eventually when I am ready, I will wipe it all off. Meanwhile, there is always a risk of my husband finding out. What will you do to try to repair the damage with your wife? Have you gotten over your lover? Does it hurt when it end? How long has it been? I am in the exactly same situation as Emilysmiles. He was my co-work, younger than me, single and lived in a bachelor life. I have 2 kids. We are attracted to each other from day one when we start working together back 3 years ago. The reason that I have decided to cross the line is that I had almost sexless marriage. I am the only woman my husband ever had in his whole life. And we waited to have sex after we got marriage because we are from a traditional country. He does not know how to make love, and does not show interests in learning it.