reaction is, "All those women who are claiming to have found wonderful partners are really just deluding themselves" -- well, you are cordially invited to crawl back in the hole you've dug and stay there. @40: A lot of stuff on the Heartless Bitches' red flag list is ok, but #65 pisses me off to no end. First of all, can we have a moratorium on this notion that comic books are "kid stuff"? Especially considering that some of the other commentary on the site is from female comic book fans? I even emailed the HBI folks about this. No response. Second, and more important than Nerd Rage, I've found that lack of shame about enjoying "kid stuff" is, to use Pervocracy's term, a green flag. As far back as high school, I noticed that it was actually the less mature kids who worried about not being seen as "babyish". And if nothing else, the whole Stop Having Fun, You Guys attitude is a buzzkill. @69: Wow, I didn't even read the lists until now, and honestly, there are quite a few other things on there that are not really red flags. Seeing a prostitute at some point doesn't mean a guy's an asshole. There's nothing wrong with a guy playing with himself in bed with you, either. Also, as someone whose father was an recovering alcoholic who stayed sober for more years than my lifetime , the idea that addicts can never overcome their addictions and become healthy is