we all have our own very valid reasons. I believe those are very good reasons, -- I whole-heartly agree. But in the end, what do we get? -- we are injured badly, we suffer. It hurts. Why? Because we did not follow the rules. It is just like when you are driving to an airport to catch a flight too fast: you either at the risk get into an accident injured, killed or get a ticket. I think the same logic apply to affairs. We did something that we are not suppose to, but we got hurt, we also hurt other people who are significant to us -- our spouse, children. I am not sure if anyone here agrees with me, but it helped me start see things differently and has eased my mind. I understand the pain caused by the rejection, I understand the scary withdraw depression, the hopelessness, the disappointment. It is not a good spot to be at in one's life. Isn't it? I do not regret the whole thing, I did enjoy it. I still care for my friend because I choose to play the game without following the rules. -- I got the price to pay now, suffer the pain. Worth it? -- NO. I wish I knew this better, I would have protected myself better. I would have analyze my marriage before turning to elsewhere to look for happiness, I did find the things that are missing in my marriage, but it does not