each ither, etc. a little over a year ago, I kissed a woman I worked with, after a couple years of being friends and flirting, and since then, have been having an affair. It was amazing at first, and just crazy youthful fun. The past 6 months have been a little more rocky as we have determined that we love each other, but things are complicated with me being married and having kids. She is 11 years younger and single. I can honestly say I do love her, but I think she has a lot of guilt with getting involved with a married man, and does not want to be the reason i get a divorce, etc. At the beginning of April, I told her I loved her, and wanted to be with her, and did not want live this double life anymore. She looked me in the eye and told me she loved me for the first time, but then said it was all too much, and needed some time to think about it. So, we have not spoken in almost a month now, and I am freaking out. I still love her, and have talked with my wife about getting a divorce.. I mean, we have not even kissed in like 3 years... and my heart wants to be able to have a clear path when I hear from the other woman.. but my fear is that if I commit to getting a divorce, and then I see