that a marriage breaks down despite the husband being a good man but its because a broken marriage does not just happen to bad people but to people of all kinds. You have tried, you've seen a counsellor and even tried to give it another try. So it's not as if you gave it up recklessly. April, I do hope all goes well for you. If your lover changes his mind, that just shows you his true colour and rather know it now than later. But as you said, you will still go ahead and leave your husband with or without your lover. I wish you all the best and do update us. On my end, all is good at home. We had a nice bank holiday weekend and have done family outings. My husband cracked a few jokes and made me laughed and I remember sitting there thinking how close I was in giving it all up. Ivan, your situation seems to require you to stop and think. I don't think you are emotionally ready to leave your family/wife. You are just in a muddle at the moment and they always say, when in doubt, just wait. Write again. Emily, you are so right about the 'when in doubt just wait' advice.  I am so pleased that you are getting on with your husband -after all, that is how this thread started -with you asking for  someone to put you back on track. I have fingers crossed for my