basis to make assumptions about their suitability as a partner. You're the type of person that could be blinded by beauty. Validation & Righteousness -- Positioning yourself in situations where you let yourself be reliant on them for confirmation of your worthiness. Or you're the type of person that likes to be right and will die on your sword trying to prove your rightness, rather than leave things be. Plans -- They talk about things that they would like to do with you and even when they don't materialise, you feel invested in the relationship because you talked about these plans and you want them to be delivered. It's like 'Only people who are serious about you talk about plans so they must have been serious about me so I'm going to make these plans happen because they said so'. Interest -- They showed you interest so you feel compelled to return the interest, feeling near grateful for it. Fantasy -- Getting caught up in having the relationship in your head. Certain things trigger your propensity to fantasise and get hijacked by your imagination. You get hooked when you really can create something in your head. Regret -- Trapped in blame and shame, you obsess about them and the relationship which is basically looking for reasons to blame yourself for why they don't want you. It's important to know what your 'hook' is because in knowing what your blind spot is, you immediately become aware of where you need to