loving their dad more. Rebellious Child Usually the eldest child; needs to blame the parent's separation and/or divorce, and sometimes even death, for all his or her failures; this way he or she is not expected to behave maturely; needs to see self as a victim (and may really be); hates anyone who actually holds him or her accountable; is threatened by the idea of being ignored. ________________________________________\\... The descriptions above are not all inclusive. Each can be lengthened by careful study of these characteristics, and possibly provide even more insight into these people's distorted and unhealthy thinking. The descriptions were kept short and general for the purpose of being a sample of what the counselor can look for. Making "sense" of it all. Keep in mind that there will be "experts" and statisticians who will probably disagree with the findings of this article. Our intention here is not to establish a new train of thought, or even to disprove the findings of others, The reason that all of this is important is because as Christian counselors we have an obligation to use whatever tools we have at our disposal, which do not contradict the Word of God's teachings, to help those who are hurting. Understanding the findings of this article will help the counselor understand some of the reasons why people do what they do; why they make their specific choices, what may or may not work in trying to help them, and can especially serve the counselor as