if I wanted to crash at his, I could have the bed and he'd sleep on the couch but I insisted on going home. It seems to me like he was drunk and trying to push the relationship too far too fast.  He wanted to tempt you into his place, so maybe he could eventually tempt you to have sex with him too.  You shouldn't hold hands or put your arm around a woman's waist on the first meeting.  The most you should do is a kiss on the cheek or a brief hug.  By trying to hold hands he was trying to put the relationship into fast forward, then arms around the waist. The next time I saw him, he came up to me and took the lead in our conversation. We went to a local park and talked for a while which was nice but then he had to leave. Since then I've seen him a couple of times and he's just smiled at me. I mean we were both with different groups of people but he didn't seem as interested which made me wonder whether guys lose interest that quickly? He didn't get what he wanted and you are not showing signs of being interested in him, so he most likely got bored.  Guys like progress they don't like women dumbing down their interest and they don't like women slapping them back to the beginning again.  This guy was obviously trying to push you too fast through