the internet or at your local court. Hi can you advise me please as to what i can do about my ex husband constantly letting my children down when he aranges to see them. He has access through a court order which he has never stuck to from day one despite it only being 8 hours a month!! He has only seen them four times in the last four years and one of those times for just an hour. This is very upsetting for my children as they feel totally unimportant to him and i feel is detramental to their mental welfare. Please what can i do? A. If you are able to speak to your ex partner, you should firstly try and resolve matters between you. If your ex partner cannot see the children as regularly as the contact order provides for, would he agree to a new arrangement, which he could commit to?  If so, you can ask the court to  incorporate your new agreement into a contact order so it is binding upon you both.  If you and your ex cannot reach an agreement directly then you could try to persuade your ex to go to mediation with you to discuss this.  Some mediators are also trained to talk with the children to obtain their views and depending on the ages of your children this might be appropriate. You should be careful to ensure that you do not breach the contact order by not making the children