all could have been avoided is if both knew what the other needed, and committed to providing it, irrespective of whether their partner was doing it. That way, even if the other has an off day, it doesn't turn into a negative chain reaction. Plus if both are providing what they are supposed to, then they make it easier for their partner to unconsciously keep dishing out as well. Thus prolonging/extending indefinitly the "in love" experience. So what the heck does this have to do with dolls If a guy is aware of these dynamics and recognizes that his lady's lack of zeal sexually, intimately, or comfort is the result of her needs having gone unmet (or poorly rationed) for an extended amount of time, and if he decides to embark on the journey to build her back up, he's going to need something to deal with his sex drive, because he can't demand it from her while he's climbing that mountain. Demanding it or even overly expecting it totally sabotage's his efforts to allow her to accept that he is commited to esteeming her regardless of her actions. (wait for the flower to bloom). As the saying goes. "Blessed is the woman who knows she does not have to earn her love." The doll allows him to have that alternative for super sex drive days, or to tied him over while waiting for the flower to bloom, because just as it seems crazy for the woman to try to