there are a number of women who are a bit emotionally needy and they always seem to want to be in a relationship. I am one of them. I am not as strong and independent as you and if I can be brave to be on my own, I am sure I will learn a great deal about myself. However I am not prepared to be stuck in a bad marriage/relationship just for the fear of being on my own. If a relationship is bad, I will really walk out. But my marriage isnt that bad. It so happened that I am physically, mentally and sexually attracted to another man who could fulfilled me in so many ways. And he came at a time when I was feeling most stressed, lonely, unappreciated and exhausted with life. Suzzy, if you are leaving your husband, considering the tricky situation you are in, you dont have to be entirely honest with him at this point. You dont have to name this other guy as the reason of you leaving. Remember my earlier advice; if you have to leave, you leave because your marriage is not working, not because of your lover. This is what I am trying to work out. I dont want William to cloud my judgement on my marriage/husband. I will try to talk to my husband then try to work on my marriage while having ZERO contact with William. That way I can focus on my marriage and give my