problem was in his picture he looked like Brad Pitt ... when he showed up he looked like Quasimodo," she said. While most online daters aren't expecting Brad Pitt, establishing false expectations with a misleading photo inevitably leads to disappointment and distrust. "If you responded to your own profile, are there lies or omissions that you would feel make you feel you'd been duped?" That's the litmus test that Dave Grossman, founder of CanoodleOnline.com, encourages his members to use when assessing their dating profile. If you do "lie" by omission in your profile, own up before the first date, Grossman advised. Alan almost didn't make the grade for a date with Molly Niles. He was outside her age range and only looked average in his picture. But Alan's profile demonstrated he was thoughtful, smart, close to his family and a good uncle, Niles said. He showed enough of the traits Niles wanted in a mate to get her interested. Meet your match Keep your e-courtship short. Until your digital correspondence evolves into a real-world date, "you're missing so many of the cues you get from seeing a person face-to-face, not to mention from seeing him or her interact with other people," cautioned psychotherapist Tina B. Tessina. That's one reason relationship experts advise against drawing out online correspondence for more than a couple back-and-forth exchanges. Extended correspondence often creates a false sense of intimacy that can lead to disappointment when the actual meeting occurs. While you're at it, keep first encounters