situation, no matter how many problems you believe may tumble out in your absence know this: All those problems CAN AND WILL be overcome when you leave. Yes even if that means things crashing for a while first -- which in most cases it won't but even if it does -- people can and will sort it all out . I can't count the times I stayed put out of fear of letting people down. There was that business that I KNEW would crash without me (it did...for a while. Now, it's back up and bigger than ever). There was that partner (well, several) who I stayed with far too long because -- if I was being honest with myself -- I just KNEW they would collapse without me (they did. Now, they are doing more than fine, some in happy committed relationships, others thriving in their own way. One recently thanked me for having the guts to make the break. At least one other doesn't speak to me. That's fine too). If you want to rescue anything, there's something else that needs sorting out. Your LIFE. Your one and only life. In that case you are the only one who can do it. You are needed. All of you... including the part you are giving to that situation that dulls you down. Including the part of you are giving to those who are perfectly capable of functioning without you. Of course, you may not want to hear this. Being