a lot is because I like to know what other people know and to continue learning. Sure I may not know everything. Yeah, I have to admit I don't really like small talk... You know all talking is, is an exchange of information from one person to the other person. Thanks! For you, and I suppose the other piece of the puzzle here, is that there are times when you have to give something of yourself. To be honest, that's the piece I always struggled with... the thing I found is that most people don't want that much from you! If you find a nice delicate balance of your questioning and your input, people don't feel like they're being interrogated! You're definitely coming from the easier side though... a genuine interest in other people is key to this whole communication shebang! I am quite a shy person, and since I will be attending uni this autumn I thought I ought to look this sort of thing up (its not my strong point, you see) It sounds like really gr8 advice. Will be sure to try it out when I get there! I wish you well at Uni! Whatever happens, make sure you are gentle with yourself -- it takes time to learn to talk to people and a lifetime to master it! If you follow these simple tips, you'll be well ahead of most people!