you may turn out to have some strikes of your own, not least a narrow-mindedness which is going to put a lot of wonderful pos men and friends of pos men from having anything to do with you. We're all responsible for our own health -- the lesson of AIDS.has been that we need to assume that everyone is potentially positive. It's through learning that lesson that the gay community saved itself and came through it. This talk of sex only with the "disease free", which you see a lot on profiles these days, brings back old, prejudiced and frankly reckless attitudes which are leading to more infections among young men. If the guy's story is true he clearly laid out his shop at the start of the relationship. He was decieved and rightly so he felt betrayed, if the partner can lie about being HIV+ what else is he lying about? Given that HIV is a disease the language used by the writer isn't inflammatory. Well I guess it is if you live in some crazy world where to be HIV+ is something to aspire to. "This talk of sex only with the "disease free", which you see a lot on profiles these days, brings back old, prejudiced and frankly reckless attitudes which are leading to more infections among young men." Excellent point and posts southwesterly. In hospitals staff are taking it for granted that all patients are potentially HIV+ - male or female, gay or straight. I think