are not man enough to not care about her taking drugs and thinking it's the most normal thing in the world. -------&gt; Either way. Self destructive behavior is just that. I know I like rescuing people as well. That means I'm distracted from my own issues and don't have to tackle them. I have noticed in the past that I'm attracted to girls that smoke even though I have a no smoking girl policy. That must mean there is a void in me and probably them that resonates. So what I'm doing now is filling that void in the hope of being attracted to less reckless women. I hope that helped. PS: And after reading the rest of the thread. I guess I was spot on. =) Women do what they do. Men do what they do. It's hard to change other people, I tried. Change yourself and as a result the company you attract and keep and ideally, the above should no longer be an issue.