court order for access to my 3 children at weekends and holidays. The problem I have is my wife lives 130 miles away and I don't drive. She refuses to let me take 1 or 2 of them out for the day or an event and stipulates "your only having all 3 or nothing". This has been the situation for 6 weeks now and I am wondering where I stand in regards to the order etc? Thanks Garren meredith A. Hi Garren If you are having difficulties travelling with all three children from a safety point of view, you are correct to raise this with your ex and try to get a variation to the terms of the order. Try and explain your reasons to her and reach an amicable solution using mediation. If she is unwilling to compromise or even listen to you, I would return to your solicitor and explain your reasons for wanting a change to the order. Ultimately, the safety and well being of the children comes first. Your solicitor may be instructed by you to write a formal letter setting out your new proposal. If she still refuses a reasonable request, you may wish to return to court. I hope that helps. Best Regards Harjit Sarang, Partner and Head of Family Law BEST Solicitors LLP Q. My daughter texted me today three times, asking for help. She lives 5 days with your mum. She is 6, and has two older sisters and an older brother(I