similiar in parts. Is there anything your husband could/would change that would mean your happiness and therefore not feel the need to look elsewhere because lets face it, the reason we both have is due to unhappiness on some level at home. Write soon Hi Ladies I have read all your messages to each other and to be honest I think you should both leave your husbands but be on your own, why do you have to have someone to run to?  Surely if you both had time on your own you can work out what you both want out of life. These men have certainly done a number on both of you.  Take this William for example, if he truely loved you he would have said yes to commitment straight away no matter what you came with.  I know I make it sound so easy but love is supposed to be easy, love isnt something you should be stressing over.  As for the other bloke, I am really sorry to say this but he just fancied a bit on the side and then decided to get real and think of his marriage, again he would be with you kids or no kids, hes using them as an excuse not to be with you.  Kids are good at adjusting to situations, believe me mine are great kids and I am not with their father. I wasnt happy in my marriage, my husband had an affair 3 years ago and from