they ever met their wives. And most of those men will say that it has nothing to do with the relationship they have with their wives. It is sin that has taken a stronghold in their lives, and they struggle daily to overcome it. To say that it is the wife's fault is like saying that when a parent loses their temper and phycically abuses their child, it is the child's fault. Sin is sin, and every individual is responsible and accountable for their own. The feelings of inferiority, self-doubt, insecurity, and plain ugliness that a woman feels knowing that her husband is looking at that stuff can be devastating, without some other "Christian" sister telling her it is her fault. To give the benefit of the doubt, I trust that your comment was made from a place of ignorance on the topic rather than with the intent to hurt. But please think carefully before making such sweeping judgment. Dannah- I've shared this article with several people already and read it to my husband as well. Honestly, my husband told me about the book, I never heard about it, and consulted you first to see if you had anything to say! You never let me down! Thanks so much! I'm probably coming from a different place than most of these women writing, as I used to be addicted to porography. I have to be really careful what my little eyes see and read. I know from first hand how damaging