you and how that helped you later in life. Write without wanting anything back in return. Be honest. Be so honest that you bruise yourself. Be so honest that they are bruised also with those memories. Not in a bad way, but a way that makes an impression. A raw bruise opened. Return unread emails from 5 years ago. Apologize to people. Write every day to people who never expected to hear from you again. This is part of the cleansing. J) Worst case scenario analysis. At any given point in the past 15 years I've had a worst case scenario: I lose my home, my family, my friends, my pride. I have to scale down, scale out, go to jail (I've never had to go to jail for anything but we're talking possible worst case scenarios). I think my article about Yitz , where he did go to jail for 19 months while he went broke, sums it up. Its never as bad as you think. If you have to move, maybe you move to a place by river. If you have to go to jail, you exercise and read. If the people around you cant handle the worst case scenario, I get it. But they either leave or get more flexible. Picture very clearly the worst case scenario. 99.99% chance its not going to happen . It never really does, which is why waking up at 2 in the morning is so bad because that's where the beast