myself with the two girls together. I did say to social services what if I was to go get her back and they said that wouldn't look good as I first need to show u can look after the 1 year old. Where do I stand in getting her back? Someone has mentioned I go to the police and tell them he is not willing to give her back and get them to go get her back for me. A. Hi there I am sorry to read about this situation. If social services are involved I presume that they will be assessing parenting of both children. Essentially doing risk assessments to identify any risk of harm so that they can advise/act accordingly. It sounds like things have changed and you have moved forward. You may wish to speak to your solicitor about updating social services and applying for both children to live with you permanently if that is what you believe to be the best situation for the children. I regret that I cannot give you more advice without knowing the whole circumstances. I do however advise that you return to your solicitor to update him/her accordingly so that the correct decision can be made. If it is possible for the children to live together safely with you, that certainly sounds sensible. However, it depends on the circumstances of your ex and assessments of risks to the children. Good luck. Q. My question is this: I am a single dad