Hi Congratulations! Contact is the right of the child. She has the right to bond with her father as much as she has the right to bond with you. Perhaps you could mediate and work together to share this experience and joy. There must be a way for you to share quality time with her. You can't blame him for being keen and excited, wouldn't you be if you were him? The child's needs come first. You should both work together to talk about routines so that she has consistency of care when she is with him. If this is your first child, you will be learning something every day, you may want to share that with each other to make parenting easier and ultimately better for your daughter. You have to work together for at least 18 years so best to get off on the right foot. Providing there are no risks of harm or allegations of bad conduct and behaviour, this should be achievable. Q. hi please can you give us some advice, my daughter as a 3year old son,she is un married, she and her parther split up, and he took her to court to see his son that was fine, it started with saturdays 12-3pm for six weeks then it went to sat and sun sat 12-5pm and sun 12-3pm for six weeks, we had a couple of times where he hasnt wanted to go but in the end manged to get him to, now the