stay-at-home dads, she found that while stay-at-home dads had strong relationships with their partners and accepted housework as their responsibility, the most stinging critics of their decision were their own fathers. Stay at home dad, Richard, 35 of Byron Bay, says his father is highly critical of his family's structure. "My wife earns more money, so we decided once she was finished breastfeeding, I would stay at home with our daughter until she goes to school. Then we will look at the situation again. "My dad can't get his head around it. He makes no secret of the fact he thinks it's not a man's job to change nappies or clean." Richard says he was initially excited at the prospect of staying at home as he thought it would be "easy". "I was so wrong," he laughs. "I thought it would take a couple of hours to get the housework done, then I could spend the rest of the day watching telly, but it's pretty full on." He and his wife had to make some ground rules. One of them was that unless she thought he was harming their daughter, she had to "butt out". "Because she was so used to doing everything herself, she would unintentionally criticize. She would say I hadn't folded the clothes properly and I would be like 'Well, they're folded. My way'. Eventually we worked it out." Biddulph says this is common. "There can be a gate-keeping that women unconsciously do, not quite trusting the