tell her about this? I would have to know so much more about you to really get into talking with you but I hear you are needing to address this issue and I encourage you to do so. Are you scared of losing her? How does it feel to allow yourself to be used? You mentioned that you feel used. I think it would be beneficial for you to look at how your relationship started, where it was at when your girlfriend moved in, and why you are allowing yourself to sit in a situation where you feel used? Dealing with your own feelings in this situation would be a good start. Exploring the area of compatability might be something you would want to do also. Dear Counsellor: I was out with my friend today and I said something and she proceeded to tell me that this was not the way it really was. She is very intelligent and can report historical events like an encyclopedia. I was left feeling like I was wrong (again) and I wondered why I didn't tell her what I was saying instead of letting her run rough-shod over me. Why do I do this? Caroline North Vancouver, B.C. Hi Caroline: Why do YOU think you let your friend correct you, inform you, teach you, instead of having a give and take conversation with her? Do you feel that what you have to say is not important? I cannot answer your question, for you, as