you should plan around that. At the right time, you may explain to your wife that you are not excluding her from your daughter's life. That when she gives up her habit, you will fully support and encourage her relationship with your daughter. What is not advisable is to suddenly disappear and alienate your wife. Try to remain calm and explain why you are making your decision. Once you have everything worked out, explain it to her so that she is reassured that your daughter will be safe and content. Provide your address and contact number so that there can be indirect contact frequently. It will be a big change for your daughter so you need to make sure that you plan it carefully. If you are unsure and need more support, instruct your local solicitor for specific advice. Good luck. Q. i have a 3year old son that i have never seen through my own faults,i just want to try and make amends,can u help me please? A. Hi It's never too late for a second chance providing the child is not at risk of harm from you. Your ex may be anxious about this so you must be very considerate of feelings. Make an initial approach to discuss the possibility. Take feelings into consideration and most importantly the needs of your son. If there is no commuincation, try mediation. If that fails, go to your local family law solicitor. I think you need to accept that it may