we have been having small arguments here and there but then at least we are both trying to make it work again. At least we have been spending more time together. Kat, like you, I have been staring at my husband and thinking "do I really want to spend the rest of my life with this man?" and sometimes i still feel in dilemma. But I still think my marriage is worth saving. I can find another man but I am probably someone who can't commit for long, I like to move on after few years and start a new again. I can be quite fickle in person. I know myself too well. Because of my fickle personality, I might not feel fulfilled even with a new guy. Maybe its me that needs help. I will continue to work on my marriage and appreciate my husband. Suzzy, thanks for the update. Yes, we will continue to support each other here. I will check out your new Post. Keep writing. Take care, all. Emily. Hi Emily, I  find it odd too to see a lot of similarities in our post with my BF and your W. What a coincidence I thought. Do they really have the same characteristics? Or this is just the "typical" attributes of a good player. Strangely though, the silence is really deafeaning! Today is the anniversary of our last text! Yes, I remember every single time we were together and it really is a struggle to just