not for going to the movies instead of donating that money to others who are less fortunate. Also, people like me aren't the only ones choosing not to have babies -- I see a lot of 2 children families every where, and I find it extremely unlikely those people haven't been practicing any forms of contraception. But, when you chose to go against the grain like this, every one you know and even complete strangers think it's some how their business and lecture you. Luckily for me, I live in Canada and as such am able to have full control over my own body. And Kate, I'm very happy for you and Bear! My best friend says she's going to have 4 babies for me to be Auntie Caitlin to. Have you guys discussed how many you eventually would like to have? @Caitlin Yeah, ethics are really interesting....I often think that people just decide what constitutes "being a good person" and leave it at that. Like, giving to charity once a year. Done. But giving to homeless people? Who cares? Or, giving a LOT to charity? No way. There are these convenient stopping points. @Raven I actually remember the first time you mentioned your daughter on here -- I was really inspired by your description. You talked about how the world opened up to you, and I thought that was awesome. We had literally just started not-preventing (as opposed to actually trying to get pregnant) when my best friend texted