be quiet? How do you feel about the way you handle anger now? If you are carrying around angry feelings from your childhood, it's important to acknowledge them, but you should also try to change your attitude towards these feelings. Talk about them and try to accept that nothing can change what has happened in the past. Hanging on to angry feelings from years gone by can cause you unnecessary problems, but if you can identify them, you may be able to change the way you deal with current situations. Self help If anger is building up, deal with it. Don't let it simmer away up until you have a violent outburst. If possible, take yourself away from the situation and think about it. The British Association of Anger Management recommends that you look at the bigger picture and consider the consequences of your behaviour before you react. Lifestyle changes Do you pack too much into your life and are you struggling to cope with all that life demands of you? You may simply need to do less of the demanding tasks and spend more time doing things which you find relaxing. Find a pleasurable, active way to let off steam which will prevent tension build-up and increase your self-confidence. Look after yourself Make sure you eat a balanced and healthy diet, and that you get enough sleep. Lack of sleep and food can make you feel irritable. Are there things in your busy day which other people could help