see my daughter at a contact centre as I do not trust him at all and although i cannot prove it i know he is on drugs and had councelling in 2009 for a huge debt due to drugs, i have a home my children are happy and well looked after, what to do please A. Hi You are right to be reluctant to agree contact at this stage when there are so many unanswered questions and concerns. I presume that your ex has applied for contact with your child? The fact that he is not named on the birth certificate as father means that he does not have parental responsibility for her. Although, he may apply to the court for parental responsibility which may be granted to him depending on his ability to demonstrate a commitment to the child. For some courts making an application for contact is enough. Parental responsibility will not increase his chances of getting contact. The court will need to hear your reasons for objecting to contact such as the reasons that you have given below. An officer will investigate them and then make a decision as to whether contact would be in your daughter's best interests and if so at what level and where. He will be spoken to and he will be given the opportunity to put his case forward. If he is lying, the court has the ability to order drugs tests etc. All you can do is co operate by giving