going for coffee in smart little coffee shops and now I am doing all that with my husband. I realise that if I can do it with someone else, why can't I do it with my own husband? So I started making more efforts and so has my husband. Of course its nothing as exciting or romantic as with a new guy but then that's what marriage is about, I suppose. The giddiness and excitement is usually found only at the beginning of a new relationship and all relationships, after a while, will fall into a comforting and familiar phase.  In order not to fall into boredom or routine again, I have tried to go for a new cuisine and new places. Thanks for the film/movie recommendation. I will try and see if I can get hold of "Fireproof". Renee, I was told that as long as you are a good mother, you shouldn't lose your kids custody to your husband. But I am not a lawyer so its best if you sought the best legal advice possible. Good luck! Suzzy, I couldn't find your new post that you mentioned. But will keep searching for that link. You are very brave to admit your affair and now doing the right thing by going to Relate. I have no intention to admit to my full blown affair. I have mentioned part of it to my husband but will deny that there was intimacy involved as he will never forgive that part.