I'm not sure I can do it. You hear people talk about the problems with their husbands and often they say, "but he is a great dad!"  I don't feel my husband is a great dad. He isn't a terrible one, but not real connected with the kids -- doesn't engage with them a whole lot.  I worry about them with him. Cause he does a lot of the same things with them that he does with me  -- like dismisses their feelings, etc. So that is  my biggest roadblock, but not the only one. I have been at home for so long with them, I worry about finding a job and having enough money, giving up my stable life... I worry about what everyone will think -- especially if I am with T right away (plus that fact that my husband has already told some people what is going on.)  My family, his family, the community. Even my own friends. I worry about hurting my husband and how he will handle it, though he does seem to be getting better. He seems a little stronger now than when I first told him. But I hate the fact that he his so upset with me and that he still blames the affair. I worry about the details of separating -- the trying to figure it all out. And splitting of our stuff -- like photos, videos, christmas ornaments... And even though things haven't been good with my husband for long