a very controlling and manipulative man. I have always been their f/t time carer. A phycology report was ordered on us both and sadly I did not come out as well as my ex (as my head had been so messed up by him) so to cut a long story short because of this both the LA and CAFCASS made their recomendation for the children to live with my ex as the primary carer. I am devastated by this news and need advice as to how I can go about contesting this. This is back in court in June to be re-assessed. My ex works shifts and has a `friend` to step in to be the `carer` whereas Ive always been the f/t mum. I desparately need your help and advice please. KInd Regards A. Hi I am so sorry to hear about your situation. You are correct to challenge such an important decision where you feel that it is wrong. I regret that I can only suggest you to instruct a solicitor to represent you and put your case forward. It may be that you want to update the court on your current situation and ensure that your case is put forward in the best way possible. You may need to get an up to date report on yourself in readiness for June if things have changed? Do speak to your solicitor. Good luck. Best Regards Harjit Sarang, Partner and Head of Family Law BEST Solicitors LLP Q. This