you if he needs to collect the children early for some reason. You will then take a view and let the childminder know if you agree to the change. One has to remain flexible if other things are planned. Each parent needs to be encouraged to respect the terms of the order because they are put in place for a reason. If he constantly ignores / seeks to change the terms of the order, the court will frown upon him. He needs to show the court that he can put the children's needs first and do what is right for them. Does he bring them back on time? Please keep a diary if he is constantly collecting early and returning late. Sometimes it may be for genuine reasons i.e. if he is stuck in traffic. It's something that you need to keep an eye on. I would not say that it is child abduction or kidnapping but he is strictly in breach of the order if times are given. One must always attempt to have some flexibility if possible. You may find that you need him to pick them up early one day? Essentially, the terms of the order should be adhered to unless on the odd ocassion flexibility is needed. Perhaps, ask your solicitor to contact him if he is continuing to collect early. Hope that helps. Best Regards Harjit Sarang, Partner Family Law BEST Solicitors LLP Q. Five years after divorce my ex is being made redundant. He