after we talked it out and openly talked about what we were really feeling, thinking, it helped. I admitted out loud that i was ashamed of myself and his quitting made my shame worse because i didn't want to. I did not quit smoking but I did become more active. I am now a runner and traveler, i participate in half marathons 5ks 10ks the works I feel better about myself. it turned out I was judging myself once i started bettering my life the rage and shame went away and my pot issue no longer bothered him. if you want to make it work you have to convince him and or help him feel better about himself, don't get him to quit, the pots not making him angry so focus on other things, if his weights bothering him convince him to work out run walk the gym whatever do it together, find a new bond. Tell him how you feel, that his anger and his rage makes you want to leave and that he needs to change that about himself. don't dwell solely on him quitting because he probably wont. Find a way to contain his anger by finding the source, and help him work threw it. eventually he wont need to smoke as much he wont have as much to hide from. The pot is only a cover there's more to the issue. The whole suicide issue is a call for help, if he was really going to