on the street, where she and her transgender friends are lawyers and "high achieving people". Such statements put the responsibility for gender discrimination in the workforce combined with economic downturn onto queer minorities, an assumption of their guilt and failure because they are not just like you . What will be the fate of the ones who don't neatly fit in the just-like-you box? The genderqueers, the unemployed, the sex workers, the ones struggling with depression, the ones in prison, the polyamorous Wiccans? Will we talk about their love in the same breath as we talk about monogamous same-sex marriage between suburbanites? Will we recognise that love is love and rights are rights when they involve people we dislike, or people we find scary, or even people who have done bad things? As Anthea at The Hand Mirror writes : Jostling at the edges, or maybe staying home, will be those who will never look good in the papers, but found in the queer community a home of sorts, or those who were never welcome even there. We'll pick up our placards and we'll march, because we know this fight has to be fought, this game has to be won. We may even have a share of the winnings, or we may have a penalty deducted. It won't have been our fight. It won't have been our liberation. The don't-scare-the-horses attitude surrounding much of the same-sex marriage debate is understandable, if frustrating, given how society is still overwhelmingly geared against