feminism." Frankly, when the government tells me that it may force me to give birth against my will, it's easy to call that government misogynist. My government hates me, or at least hates the idea of my bodily autonomy. When the government defines rape as something that only happens when it's "forcible," yeah, it feels rather like being hated by my government. But tell me, please, you definition-quibblers: do you raise the same concerns about "homophobia"? Do you think that every last one of the people who oppose marriage equality are literally scared of gays and lesbians? Probably not. Which is why I call you a sexist, or possibly a misogynist. "Misogyny" does not necessarily entail seething, white-hot hatred of every woman. It also means contemptuous indifference towards their fate. Perhaps you've noticed -- or perhaps not, if you're a straight white cis male -- that from the target's perspective, active hatred and apathetic indifference are nearly impossible to tell apart. My suggestion to men who don't want to be called misogynist is that it's not enough to just not actively hate women. You have to take active measures to make yourself easily distinguishable from those who do. If you can't be bothered then don't fucking whine to us about it -- your lack of hatred is not enough to make up for your utter lack of concern. So, in other words, to avoid being a "misandrist", which is OF COURSE defined as "someone who thinks men are thinking, feeling,