my affair as I had experienced a really fantastic short time with him. It is enough to made me realise a few things: My marriage/life was becoming dull and definately needs a spark/kick. W has shown me not just the excitement of the outside world but I hate to say, he has also shown the ugly side of it as well. I now got the impression that an eligible bachelor like him can play hard to get, he has the attitude that says "take it or leave it" and that women are easily replaced. I think about how hard he pursued and all the very lovely sweet things he said until I fell for him. Then once he got me, I mentioned commitment and what happened? He seems to disappear. Maybe he has his reasons (i.e. don't want to split my marriage) but whatever it is, I find it hurtful and if all he wants was good time/fun fling, then I had been really stupid. I was so blinded. The outside world sucks after all. I can do without it. I am better off at home wtih my wonderful husband and beautiful kids who love me for who and what I am. Suzy, its more difficult for you as you will see him during school run. You just have to keep strong and really try to work on your marriage. Focus on all the positive things that you have, rather than what you don't have. You will go through ups