you guys never use a real email address. So that you can say something to me, but I can't say something back. I'm happy to respond in private, but you're never going to have a public voice here. I have a completely different set of pressures about being in my 20s. Everyone says this is when I'm supposed to be going out, partying, maybe travel. But who can afford it (none of the people I know doing it, really) and I hate coming home late. The one time I stayed out til dawn I could not have been more miserable, even angry with myself. I'd much rather work on my career, and curl up with hulu and a kitty instead. I don't want kids til I'm 30 and I kind of feel like thats the pressure -- you can't travel on a whim when you have kids. You can't stay out til all hours. But you get a whole new world of social opportunities. And I think I will be happier doing mom things anyway. And I guess really all I should do is appreciate the small amount of adult outings and traveling I can do more. Not do more of it if I don't want to. @Jess I know what you mean. There's this sense that we're supposed to get it all done, fit it all in BEFORE everything changes. But what if that's just not your personality or those aren't your opportunities? I think about this a fair