which does not lead to hatred for others. But does multicultural love work to expand love to include others? Or does this expansion require other others fail an ideal? Identification and Idealisation 7. In order to examine how love for difference can still involve processes of idealisation we can turn to Freudian psychoanalysis. Freud offers a theory of love by differentiating between between anaclitic and narcissistic love. In the former, the self is the primary object of love, and in the latter, external objects are the primary objects of love. Whilst love is seen as in the first instance narcissistic -- the child's own body is the source of love -- for men, love is assumed to mature into object love, whilst women are assumed to remain narcissistic (1934: 45-46). The economy for this differentiation is heterosexual: woman's narcissism involves a desire to be loved (to love the love that is directed towards them), while for men, they love to love women who love themselves. The sexual relation becomes a love relation in which woman becomes the object of her love and the man's love. I will not engage here with the question of whether this describes or prescribes a heterosexist economy, although I will turn in due course to the heterosexual logic of the couple that organises this distinction. I want to examine this distinction between self love and object love, which can also be described in terms of a distinction between identification (love as being) and idealisation (love