What an insightful answer. Honestly, I was sitting around waiting for an answer that revolved around physical difference (typical male that I am), and your answer gives an emotional justification. That sooooo supports everything that I've read (studied a bit on the subject). As far as I understand sex between men and women, women need to have (that is most women) an emotional connection first and the physical follows that. For guys, it is often the opposite. Funny how that works out sometimes. 47616902 wrote: But the real reason that women may not be enjoying sex with their man (speaking mainly about marriages) is because of lack of being comfortable. Men are visual and want to see their partner, but women (thanks to our media infested world) tend to be incredibly uncomfortable with thier bodies (even if they have a super model body). And of course, the level of emotional intimancy that she has or doesn't have with the her partner totally opens or shuts the door to enjoyment. Yes, I totally agree. It doesn't just happen in marriages though, it could be any sexual relationship. I would tend to think that in a marriage, the woman may have the chance to become more comfortable (is that too optimistic?). It is true that we (women) have all this "stuff" going on in our minds all the time about body image/emotions/what happens next, etc. sometimes we are not even conscious of all of it. Our comfort level has ALOT to do