the expense of your wife's welfare, although that's not the same as just doing whatever she wants or avoiding everything she finds hard either. And it doesn't mean being led by a consumerist desires of the world that equate providing with providing luxuries. So sometimes, especially for the person with the satisfying and/or demanding job, it means drawing boundaries there to come home at a reasonable time, and to not always bring work home. But sometimes, for the many men, who do not always have the enjoyable and satisfying job or career they wanted, it means knuckling down to do a job that's hard and not very pleasant, because it's the actual job available to you that means you can put bread on the table. Recently I had to look for a new job. In youth ministry, it turns out that there are exciting opportunities all over the place -- in Sydney, up in Qld ... and Hong Kong and Dubai! So while there was a tug in my mind to go somewhere exotic and exciting (imagine how cool it would look on a resume to say I'd spent a handful of years running youth ministry in Dubai!); to be self-sacrificially loving has meant that as I've looked at jobs, I've considered deeply what will be most beneficial and helpful for my wife and kids. Which, considering where we're at, means close to wider family, with support and a friendship group for my wife, and opportunities for us to serve