happiness but if not then you to have to make a hard decision. Fingers are crossed for both of you, Looby x I have now signed in as Anon DB is so impersonal especially as many of you have wise words to help me and been so kind. Directed at loobyloo, I note you say you have left twice, may I ask, were you married and did/do you have children? How did you brooch the subject and assuming you had an affair, did you tell your partner this? Sorry one more thing, I would love to be honest with my husband as to the reason I no-longer want to be with him, but with the person is question being a friends husband and someone he sociallises with on occasion, I can t tell him, so any advice on how to explain without telling? I know the last question is the ONLY reason I seem as if I want to be caught. At least I could then be honest, I don't like having this secret, i used to share everything with my husband. Help please x Hello Suzzy, Im glad you have signed up. You can also check out the Work it Out section where you can also write a daily diary of what you are feeling and work out a plan on how to work on your marriage. I have just started on it. I am going through my down moment which is expected, although I seem quite capable of