crashes, I will start one, Having an Affair but can't leave marriage PART 2. Finally I logged back in. I tried not to get obsessed with W so didn't really want to write or talk about him this way (like Suzzy, my bestfriends and family don't want to hear about W again and that is why I turned to this forum) but after being away from this site for a few weeks, I think about you guys and wonder how you all get on so here I am. This is like a support group and I chuckle at the thought of us sitting in coffee bar together discussing our same issues. :) Update on my end. W and I are still in contact now and again, still a bit of light flirting and a bit of "i love yous" but he didn't want to have anything to do with me if unless I am officially single/divorced. My situation has made it impossible for us to be together and he knew that, sensed that and wanted to stay away from that but at the same time, I am guessing he can't fully ignore me. We did try to ignore each other for a few weeks but towards the end, he usually sends a message through by a simple, "hows life on your end lately?" and that would start conversation again. But he is sensible enough to stay away from me as he "didn't want to be a third party" and "the