it. We worked together before, knew I was married and he was single- he was pretty much new in town while I just came back from my leave. Became friends and flirt a little. I must admit I had a huge crush on him. Very smart, colleagues spoke highly of him, have had several publications and is actively working in doing several research projects. Co-workers noticed how he flirted much by visiting me often in my office just to say hello and chat a little. Was already heaven for me. Lost communication for a year or so then  re-established when for reason I could not remember. Text messages became frequent. Had short lunches and one time drove me home when my car was not available. We really are good friends. You know friends that are too obvious they like each other.  He told me he liked me. He told me before I finds me attracted. I was flattered! That started the whole thing although no sexually intimacy involved, the longing to text and see each other progresses.  On my way home he asked if he can show me his place so we hang out a little for several times. Then I found myself driving to his place more often until we had wine and one thing led to the other.  It was  wrong but I never felt so satisfied and happy just to be with him. He has all the qualities you mentioned with your man! One true eligible bachelor.