i still cant see me leaving and the affair guy is now telling me that although he loves me he cant do it for another year.  He is basically saying i leave my fiance (who wants us to plan our wedding) or that we stop talking and he is now so hot and cold with me. My fiance is a great dad and a good guy and was my best friend.  Leaving him would destroy him as he loves me and our son so much.   We are not compatible in the bedroom department at all though although we are so similar in other ways. My affair guy is also lovely and is ok about me having a son but is now less available to me (as in doesnt text as much and works a lot more and is starting to try and move on) and is really thinking about cuttin of contact very soon if i dont leave.  We are complete opposites in style and interests but are so compatible in the bedroom and get on so so well.  he is 5 years younger than me. I have no idea what to do anymore, i feel so ill with all this, i am in a constant state of panic and am so unhappy. Someone please help me. Kitty kat Can i just add that i did make my fiance leave for 2 weeks six months ago but ever day he'd come over to see my son and pester me, i