to this and was really good with him but my son wasnt really talking at this stage and as soon as i thought my son would know what was going on or could perhaps talk about it i felt so guilty i havent involved him in this mess since. As for whether i think he is ready for all this i dont know, i wouldve said yes about four months agao but the way he has been getting on lately im leaning towards no, we spoke yesterday for me to hear him say that sometimes he wants me sometimes he doesnt that he thinks he might be too young to settle down and he still wants to have fun, so i asked him does he want me out of his life and let him move on then he said no, hesaid he just doesnt want to feel the pressure of if i leave my fiance for him that he is obligated to stay with me.  He said he would feel guilty if i left and we didnt work out.  But then he also added he still wants me to leave and give it a go.  I also was told i may be too old for him lol which is nice seeing as im only 28. My fiance and i have been living as if married and although we dont have that marriage certificate yet i feel just as like we are and thats why im so stressed. I cant figure