I wrote recently a post on Identifying Predatory behaviour . The thing that surprised me was that some people took issue not with what I'd written or the way that I'd written it but with the fact that I described predatory behaviour as... well predatory. Now normally I just sigh and let these comments go but... Here is an example that I'm quoting wholesale. Personally I'd like to see this type of behavior re-branded as 'abusive' rather than 'predatory'. A) because it IS abusive and contains a set of classic warning signs about dangerous/abusive relationships that apply outside the kink setting and only expands upon it within kink. B) there are plenty of folk in the kink community for which being a 'predator' has NOTHING to do with the behaviors listed here and their style is done in the SSC manner we aspire towards. This particular labeling does extreme disservice through being unable to freely talk about and enjoy types of play without having to clear the air of assumed stigmas and warnings from the entire community that don't apply. While there's no with point 'A' argument that yes it is abusive, why not predatory when that is in fact a perfectly good description of what it is? Point 'B' however I do take issue with. My issue with it is frankly, so what? That's their business and I'm not saying that they shouldn't or whatever. It's perfectly plain what I am talking about and what 'predator' means in this