Ha! He thinks tht I am the bees knees, biut he does play it quite cool which keeps me on my toes.  My gay BF says just enjoy it for an affair -but when I do that I feel guilty.  I also feel that I have found a better personality match with him -in cold-hearted terms.  I don't even fancy him as much as I did the crush last year, but it feels more sustianable for that. Suzzy, sounds like you are making progress having seen him and not gone into that dream world that we do when we are obsessed. finally, I still think that for me this is linked to hormones -I spend half the month besotted and the other half rational and detached.  Only I really know it is happening, but it links to everything including desire, daydreaming and the ability to get on with my work! Keep in touch, April x I had my first session with my counselor today, and am very happy that I decided to do so. I realize I am starting down a long road, but I am excited to start the journey. Ivan, I think you are totally right about cutting the cord now. The girl I was seeing ran away when it came down to it, and she ran away from her last realtionship, and she would probably run away again. It is funny, I fully expect to hear from her in the future.. not sure when but I feel