now on as I don't think it helps me or my relationship with my current partner by meeting him in person. I divorced him as I married him when I was very young and the relationship turned controlling and violent both verbally and physical at times. Thank you for your help. Legally, no he doesn't. He has absolutley no right to say he has to give permission for her to do her social activities and has to earn the right to have her talk to him about any of the issues in her life, let alone your home. He needs to show he can do something more significant than turn up at this stage and start throwing out macho orders. If he hasnt been in her life, he needs to establish trust, through regular contact, and not alienating her stepfather and you. If he wants to me confrontational, tell him to go to court and your'll take it from there. This man doesn't lack cheek, does he? He is not in a position to start throwing his weight around and giving out orders. Does he really think that the way to build a relationship with his daughter is to take control of every aspect of her life? Her activities with her friends are her business - if you are happy with them, then that is fine. Your daughter will not appreciate him expecting to be asked permission, after all she barely knows him. If she wants him to know what