keep my last name and he will keep his. When we'll had kids they will be named after both: Sequinho Silva. But my decision is easy also because we don't make a big thing about the family name like people do at some countries. The woman here are not treated like Mrs Surname. We never use last names without the first name. So I am Tnia Sequinho now and I will always be. But I really understand every example that you bring us here. =) And I only have one advice to Charlotte: choose what you feel it will make you happy, don't choose change your name only because you know people will criticize. And about your kids names, you could decide that when time comes. =) And don't forget that it's much easier to deal with what others say than with your own regrets. So choose what you really want. =) Hugs. I was born Rachel Antonia Graham. My mother is McAllister, my father is Graham. They divorced when I was a baby and my name was swiftly changed to Jasmine Daytona McAllister, and this is the name I had until I was 17. I never knew my father until then and we met because my birth documents were Graham and all my school and medical documents were in McAllister, so getting a passport or a bank account in McAllister was a nightmare and so I tracked him down because I needed his legal permission to be McAllister...which sucked.