for the day and failed to return her when agreed, when my sister-in-law tried contacting all of them to find out where her daughter was they refused to return her and she went through 5 agonising days of which he kept their daughter refusing to return her home and had a court battle with him to get her back. I am so worried that this will be the case for me unless I have something of legal upstanding stating when he can collect her and when she must be home. Is there anything I can do to get something like this put in place or if not what do you advise? thank you for your help A. Hi there I understand why you are anxious. The court will not make an order unless there is a need for one. If your ex has never previously let you down, I can understand why he may be reluctant to agree to an order. perhaps be reassured by him and make it clear that if things do not go as planned, you will want something in writing. You have said that he has worked hard to build what is a good relationship with his daughter. Have you any reason to believe that he will let you down? Best regards Q. i have 4 boys 2 with my ex and the 2 i need help with. i have been back a forth from court for 3 years, my ex has proved to be unreliable