yourself; so you pardon those who wrong you, and you give to those who withhold from you al-Haafiz `Abdur-Ra-oof al-Munaawee -rahimahullaah- (d. 1031 H) said in Faydul-Qadeer (3/464): Yoosuf ibn Asbaat said: The sign of good character is in ten qualities: rarely arguing, treating others fairly, abandoning seeking out people's faults, seeking to rectify and improve any evil qualities which appear, seeking excuses for people, bearing harm, blaming oneself, occupying oneself with awareness of one's own faults and not with the faults of others, having a cheerful face, and being mild in speech (3) Hadeeth no. 277: From Anas -radiyallaahu `anhu- who said: I served the Prophet r for ten years, and he never said Uff [1] to me, and he never said to me about anything which I had not done: Why didn't you do it? Nor about anything which I had done: Why did you do it?! [ Saheeh: Reported by al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh(no.6038) and by Muslim (no.2309).] Imaam an-Nawawee -rahimahullaah- (d.676 H) said in his explanation of Saheeh Muslim: The hadeeth contains an explanation of the completeness of his r character, and the fine manner in which he treated others, and his forbearance, and how he pardoned and overlooked. al-Haafiz Ibn Hajr -rahimahullaah- (d. 852 H) said in his explanation of Saheehul-Bukhaaree, Fathul-Baaree (10/460): The point of benefit to be derived from this is leaving off rebuking for that which has been left, since one is still free to carry it out if there is a