and one more thing - "Ball breaking must be kept to a minimum," he says. "I mean, really, if a guy does everything you want, he shows you affection, why break his balls?" And they say women are picky. Atgemis is still to marry despite myriad opportunities to meet women, especially given his background as the co-owner of a Sydney nightclub called Shh, which is known for its parade of attractive young socialites who can only get in by tottering up a dirty laneway strewn with garbage and divulging a secret code. And this is despite, by his own admission, having had three girlfriends who qualified as marriage material. "My expectations have been crushed every time because women do not conform to your ideas of what is perfect and, for a lot of guys, it is a search for perfection," he says. Atgemis recalls some advice his uncle gave him: "You're walking through a forest looking for a straight stick, but you're going to come through the other side empty-handed because there is no such thing as a straight stick." And his mother recently urged him to get on with it, prodding him about marriage. She pointed to his hairline, then his waist, before telling him, "You're going off. Find a wife, quickly." When Atgemis thinks about the topic some more, he postulates that maybe, deep down, what he is after is someone not so different from his mother - a modern version of her, someone "patient, caring, dutiful". His