gone that route, there is no possibility I'd have ever learned the skills that I now practice. I don't know if it's like this for all men, but for me the mental re-organization could not have come about without some profound and destabilizing shifts. The process included horrendous heartbreaks and one full out nervous breakdown. Hell of a learning curve. My ex drove me to have a nervous breakdown, twenty years ago. I wasn't capable against her. Whereas nowadays I'd never let myself be drawn into that level of bullshit to begin with. Instead of getting drawn into her dramas I'd treat her like a child, only with much more skill than your average parent. My current self has a whole different set of power-tools for dealing with manipulative psycho chicks. And yes, one of those tools is simply avoiding them. But how did I get to this point of greater facility? They didn't teach this stuff in my high school. "Maintaining hand over a BPD, 551?. I had to learn the hard way, through trial and effort, consulting a community of peers and sharing experiences and tips, and using that newly organized information to try again. And again. And so through time and experience and many failures learn how to deal with women in a way that creates enjoyment and satisfaction. I'm not claiming there is no more drama now, or that the pleasures of women ever becomes entirely cost free. But it is plainly obvious to me that