ones who need the advice of, "Well, you could start by getting out of the bed a couple of times a week..." @blonde_apocalypse@xanga - Well those people would have to be out to begin with, and they're probably a lost cause. lol My initial response was somewhat meant to be comedic in a 'sad but funny' kind of way. As far as strangers, I pretty much leave them alone, for various reasons. As for people I care about, I do try to offer advice where I see room for it. I'm not saying people should be pushy or tactless about it, but I know if a friend saw me struggling with something, I'd rather they offer a suggestion, rather than just laugh at me, ya know? Ah this post is wonderful! Just one way in which we as humans have a tendency to hone in on our own experiences without first considering the other person. You'd think it'd be a no-brainer, someone is struggling and you wanna help, yet the first thing we do is start telling them how they're doing it wrong! Listening, empathy, and genuine (and asked for) opinions or advice to me are always welcome, though that may not be the case for everyone. Throwing around what you think is best before anyone even asks, though, is not the way to go. @rachmorgan01 - Sounds like you got your hands full.  Probably the people passing judgement on you never considered that maybe your whole family are dealing