long. It is what it is. I'm not going to go into detail, so please don't say it is my duty to sexually fulfill my husband whenever he wants. With the pain that I experience in my life, it would be uncherishing of him to fulfill his sexual needs when I am sick. But I'm sure you'll have something judgmental to say about that. Reason 4: BDSM So you have never had your hands tied, feet bound during sex? The pleasure from this can be incredible. Also, biblically speaking, our husbands are the dominants and we are the submissives. The submissive nature of BDSM is about pleasure, not hurt and pain. Do I think that I should sign contracts to be submissive in the bedroom and have my husband literally hurt me? NO. But do we have some fun? YES. The books are not about BDSM. They are about how a man struggles with his past in which he needs extreme control and BDSM helps him manage that. After meeting Ana, the ENTIRE SERIES is about how his desires for control ie. BDSM in the bedroom change to overcoming these urges and working at a beautiful relationship of commitment and love. But then again, you don't know that because YOU NEVER READ THE BOOKS! This is why your reasons are not only off-putting but downright rude. You have, in your own introduction, judged your friends who read the books. Do you feel so good now? So much better about yourself?