made me feel so unprofessional for asking him out and I felt like the biggest loser, but I also realise now that he wasn't being so professional himself. He made me feel like I had imagined it all in my head, when I really hadn't at all. You're also right about the lazy communication. He never once called and spoke to me, just texted all night and he's in his late thirties and I'm in my late 20s, so it's not like we are teenagers who are used to texting everyone. I never even texted people before he started texting me. I would see him on the subway on the way home and we would sit near each other cause he didn't sit with colleagues and he would be texting me furiously, but never actually speak to me in person on those trips. Then he would get off and say goodbye as though he never texted me 30 times in the last hour on the subway ride. It really did my head in. So finally the way I asked him out is I said to him -- I like you and I would like to know you outside the texts and to go on a date and talk properly and that's when he said he didn't date colleagues. It's all becoming a lot clearer now... Thank you so much for your advice. I am really going to try get it into my head. BTW I love your page so much