they have a child, that was a financially bad decision. No one says the actual child is a terrible thing, just the adult thought process with regard to various factors (like finances) can be poor. I have a nephew who is the result of an unplanned pregnancy. I love him to death. Everyone in both side's of my nephew's family does as well but that doesn't excuse the fact that the decision (or lack thereof) by the mother and father was a bad one considering their situation. Am I going to go up to my nephew and tell him he's a mistake? Fuck no, that would be insensitive and callous. My nephew is the result of a bad decision but that doesn't take anything away from the value of his life or how those around him perceive him. Finances or something related to the socioeconomic status of the parents is what is implied in the "bad decision." If that can't be figured out by the context of the conversation, then be clear about it and make sure it's an appropriate time to have such a talk (if ever). It not only depends on how much you enjoy your "work" but also depends on how you view parenting and whether or not your a hands on or hands off parent. Completely hands on parents who are totally involved with their kids regardless of childrens ages are very busy people. they do not spend all day on the phone, using tv as