greater good (ie. Seeing each other) should come naturally to you both. I would be wondering why you feel resentment about spending money to see her, rather than wondering whether she should pay. Seeing her every week will get irksome if only because of the travel involved (not the price). Start off seeing her every other week and see how that goes. In a situation like this I'd look at the logistics of the relationship before worrying about the price of it. If you are earning and she isn't, then it is not unreasonable that you bear a bigger share of the cost. If you cannot afford that, talk to her, see whether she offers to help and then perhaps see her slightly less often. How much do you care about her? If it is serious, then the money would not be causing you too much heartbreak. When I first went out with my now wife of 19 years, she was studying in Italy while I was earning in the UK, so I was the one who paid for numerous flights to Turin for the weekend. I'd rather not have spent that much money, but it was worth it. When my father was first going out with my mother, now his wife of 52 years, she was living in Paris and because he couldn't afford the kind of hotel that would allow him back in late at night, he slept under bridges to avoid missing out on his time with