mother what contact he should have with the child. The level and frequency of contact will depend on what is appropriate for the child. This can be established shortly after birth. I wouldn't expect too much to begin with because the mother may be breast feeding on demand. I advise that he try to keep his relationship with mother amicable and try to work with her to agree the contact as and when is appropriate. If there is an absolute resistance to contact then he may see a solicitor with to discuss applying to the court for a contact order. If the mother will not co operate with a paternity test, you may also apply to the court for a declaration in that respect. If there are any disagreements, go to see your local family law solicitor for advice. Your son has plenty of options available to him. I hope that helps. Best Regards Harjit Sarang, Partner and Head of Family Law BEST Solicitors LLP Q. My friend is a single mum of 10 year old whose father disappeared over 8 years ago. She has just found out that she leukaemia and is concerned that if anything happens to her that her ex-partner cannot get custody of his son. Is there anything she can do to prevent this? She is going to make me and another friend guardians for her son - but is this legally binding in the sense that we could say what is best for her son?