pregnant, the father to the baby split up with me in hospital, leaving me to deal with a property we were due to move into and furniture we had bought using my name on hp. I've been trying to be civil and build some kind of relationship before the baby arrives but he is in consistant. I only dated him for 7months and he is nothing like he was when we were together. he sares a flat with a male room mate and his family are based in the north. I wanted to know what rights he has legally to the child and if he can take a baby overnight or to visit family that I barely know. I have tried to make contact with them as I have only met them twice so that we could form a relationship and I could trust them around my child but they do not appear interested. if I take a csa payment from him am I giving him rights that he wouldnt neccasarily have. I'd like him to have a relationship with the child but it cant be on his terms any advice would be great A. Hi there You have had a lot to deal with. It is admirable that you are proactively trying to involve your child's father at this stage. It does not sound as though he is interested as yet but this may change when the baby arrives. Paying for a child does not give an automatic right