and we know each other's spouses -- that sort of thing. It's saying that there is an underlying skill that I need to develop because this is going to be what I'm required to do a lot. What are some of those skills we have to learn? AE -- The skills we have to learn, to be good at teaming, start first with the old saying, "Seek first to understand." Start with inquiry, I need to quickly learn as much as I can about you. What do you bring? What skills do you bring? What needs do you have? What goals do you want to achieve? Then I also need to get very good at explaining myself, explaining what I bring to the party and explaining what goals I have and what I am up against. So much of the skills of teaming are thoughtful conversation -- the ability to really dig in, understand the challenges, the conflicts that we are going to encounter, be okay with that, but then really dig in, slow it down, and understand what each other is up against and then figure out how we are going to work together. And we need to do it quickly! In a sense what one of the major skills of teaming is to act as if you trust each other even though we don't yet. We can't, we don't know each other, but we have to jump in and act as if we do or we won't reveal