morning with a different outlook- affirming and reassuring myself It will be over and it will be just fine. I put on my best suit, fix my hair and put on a confident smile and I could sense an immediate change in me! I said to myself I need to be back in school to complete my masters and move on to PhD program next year. Sure, I still think of him but this time, just a couple minutes and nothing more.  I will not allow this emotions to cripple myself and cloud my judgement. I want my BF to know, I am more than alive without him and I want him to feel sorry for himself. It is easier said than done but hey, I am sure I can make it and one day, when our path cross- he will realize what he's lost. Kat Hi Renee, If only I have that option, i would not have any second thoughts. Your best answer is asking yourself, how happy are you when you are with T than with your husband? Bear in mind, this is beyond sex. Yes, you have 4 kids- looking at the situation have you figure out what T's role in rearing the kids? Emotionally? Financially? These has to be clearly stated if possible.  Until these aspects are resolve then you will have peace of mind. This is a sign that you are in the right path. The most important logic here is that T has verbalized