adopt the life who you really are - a human. What is the difference between animals and humans? Intellect, the ability to hold information, process it and make sensible decision based on the long-term outcome of the options available! The ability to control oneself! Otherwise animals too can eat, drink, sleep, and have sex. What they don't have is control. This is what brings destruction to people, inability to abstain from whims and desires! Hi I am April from many of the posts above -well over a year ago now.  to sum up what happned to me: I left my husband for my lover and am now living with him.  Are any of the old posters still out there?  I wondered what happened to you?  Suzzie or Emilysmiles? I have gone through hell and high waters and back again. It is such a long story even since my last post.  We both left our spouses and then he went back after 3 days.  I went home too, with my tail between legs -then we started seeing each other again and his wife confronted him one day and said choose... he chose me and sent me a text saying so!  I waited for 6 weeks and then left my family -my kids are at uni but they were still devastated.  My husband tried to kill himself and is still ill with depression -off work.  But I needed to leave.  sometimes I am happy and other times I feel so sad at