home and I am really confident to say my affair is really way behind me and I have moved on from W/that affair. I have learned an awful lot as well and the one thing I've learned is - It was time-wasting. When I was seeing W, I neglected my family and in particular my kids as W was my priority. Even my housework was neglected and kitchen was piling up with dishes, clothes left unwashed etc., as I was busy going out or spending tiem on phone/emailing W. Now looking back, I realised it was all time-wasting and effort/energy wasted on something else. Now that life is back on track and I have no distraction, my home life is under control and my kids once again look happy, rosy and there are more laughter in the house again. My husband and I are more relaxed at home too and we just enjoy our weekend family outings now. I like to say, for those of you who can still save your marriage and whose affair is going nowhere, please do not waste anymore time/energy in it. Put the time/effort/energy to where it should be - your home/family. Suzzy, in your case, it sounds like your marriage didn't work out, I sincerely wish you all the very best and that you will find happiness again (im sure you will), please update us your end. I believe a few here whose marriage can still be saved and for them, please do think