him and just being with him around. I like the idea because I know it made me a much better person- it brought out the best in me! So, I just wish we still can be friends. K I too have just stumbled on this site and read all that has been happening in your various lives. I have been married for 11 years and together for 16. We got on great had alot of fun but I never enjoyed the way he kissed though sex was quite good. On the day we got married I was terrified and felt sick though just the two of us there, I never really questioned getting married it was just a very natural progression. Over the years we have both changed..before we married he was a student so I never realised he was a workaholic. We now have two children 8 and 6 and though he works long hours when he is arround he is a very good commited father. I accepted his work routine and in some ways was proud of him for being such a good provider but I am a very unmaterialistic person so there did come a point when I began to feel resentful. Over the past 5 years I have tried to get him to spend more time at home/ focus on the family a bit more but after half hearted efforts he would always revert to his old ways. Finally the penny dropped that things were never