have done well, instead of using all your together time criticizing each other for the things you aren't doing. All of this will rev up the passion between the sheets. A little romance goes a long way, and it all starts by reminding your partner why you got together with them in the first place. It's possible to help your partner feel like a vibrant, sexual being again and get the satisfaction you crave -- without pressuring them into having sex with you. It's all about getting back into the right frame of mind, of helping your partner see themselves as a sexual being again -- not just as a parent, employee, roommate, or any of the many roles we play that take our minds far away from sex. Getting started is easier than you think. It's all about making thoughtful gestures to help you get back in the frame of mind that your relationship is about so much more than keeping your household solvent and your children safe. Let Me List the Ways . . . A lot of men say their wives or girlfriends complain that they don't get enough romance, but a man's idea of romance can be quite different from a woman's. That's why communication is so very important. When you are direct and tell your partner precisely what you want, when your partner is direct with you and tells you exactly what he or she wants, it cuts out so much wasted time in guesswork