Keys to Mindful Loving"?  If not, could you let me know which book you are referring to as I'd certainly like to read it. You said you were curious as to why I beleive I am free from necessity (i.e. birth, sex, death, creativity, etc.).  I'm not quite sure I understand what you mean?  You also asked why I didn't see any relevance in the role of nature/insticts.  Quite the contrary and I most certainly do.  I believe that part of my "insticts" and "nature" are not to be in a relationship at all.  I often get sexual urges that I have to fight like hell not to act on (although I think I am becoming much better at managing my impulses) and am one who does not necessarily believe that it is man's (human kind's I mean) nature to be monogamous.  I crave sexual passion and find that I am desirous of a great number of women. Having said this, I also want a loving, compassionate relationship.  Which is why (and you mentioned this had been true for you in a prior post) I am at war with myself.  And you mention that you were faced with the "Dillemma" and that you had to confront yourself and your "nature".  Well that is what I am trying to do.  I am trying to be faithful and committed and at the same time figure out what I really need and fight my desires or even understgand what is going to be