out for coffee and spending time with her is also very important. The HD Association can send you a booklet about the ways HD can affect a person's thinking and behaviour, so you know why she may be behaving in certain ways due to the illness. For example, people with HD often have trouble remembering day to day things like appointments and paying bills, and have trouble planning things they need to do, and carrying out a plan. So they often need reminding of things (in a nice way of course!). I hope this information is helpful but if you have any other questions please ask! Fiona My father has been diagnosed with HD. He is 63 and is quite often mentally and occasionally physically abusive towards my mother who is his carer. She is at the end of her tether and we were trying to give her some respite... Name: kathy Age: 35 Question: My father has been diagnosed with HD. He is 63 and is quite often mentally and occasionally physically abusive towards my mother who is his carer. She is at the end of her tether and we were trying to give her some respite by having him stay with my sister but he managed to get home and will not stay with her. We have run out of solutions. What can we do that will be best for my father and mother. Hi Kathy, It sounds like you are dealing with a very difficult situation for