and I will do oral sex and handjobs for him because I want to see him happy. I do not know what to do, I really care about this boy but my sex life is so unsatisfying and I do not want to be this way for the rest of my life. I like having oral done to me and the same thing with fingering but I dont like it when it is only done for five minutes -- which is the maximum length of time he can stand it -- and I have talked to him about this a lot but he just gets mad and tells me to stop forcing him to do things he doesn't want to do. He even brings up his last girlfriend. She, he says, did everything he asked without asking for anything in return. I want us to work but I dont know how to deal with this. Is there something I can do? some place I can learn to be better so that I can try to get him to do more for me? He told me to get a vibrator so that he could use it on me but it is not the same as a person's touch. I do not want for him to never touch me if I get one so I am not sure if that is a good idea. Feeling Totally Neglected I don't see how this guy's race factors into your problem, FTN. Chinese, Croat, Scot,