with a mental illness can be such a scary, challenging and lonely time. Please remember that you are not alone. Whilst your experience is a very personal and real experience for you and your husband, it is a journey that many others are on or have been on. Mental Health Carers ARAFMI and other similar organisations are able to put you in touch with support groups where you are able to be with and talk to others on a similar journey. Please feel free to contact us on our Information and Support Line (02 9332 0700) to find services in your area that maybe able to assist you and be a place of comfort. I was reading Elephant's post and relate to it very much, although the person i am referring to is my Father. I can be so sweet & funny; on the other hand he can be so mean, cruel, and selfish and his energy is just so indescribably hard to be around, he's just sad and angry all the time. His whole family has distanced themselves from him (and he cries about being alone) and now his children have distanced themselves because after so many interventions it just doesn't help. He has seen two psychologists and has stopped going. He says to us that the psychologist said that he doesn't need treatment. He gave permission for the second psychologist to speak to me after their 1hr consultation, what he doesn't know that she saw everything that we