all that follows - and as any honest solicitor will tell you, the start of all his problems. And there?s no denying that women are the main protagonists as far as overt spending and "falling? is concerned - just check the sales data, and watch any man being dragged, "kicking and screaming" around the "life?s little luxuries" superstore for the umpteenth time! Why dont some men realise - it means so litttle or nothing to him - but a bit of effort on Valentine or birthday means the world to the person in your life. I see how happy my singel gfs are when I give them flowers or chocolate/cards on these days. Valentine 2011 was the worst for me really. It was my birthday day before and my father's funeral. To top it all no flowers from the person I am in love with. I had enough - he has to go. I dont care if he has been very busy. I love him but its over. Darius, Darius - You say 'Did he really want all those children or that big mortgage or that chrome kitchen or the leather sofa and matching curtains?' If he didn't want any of that, why did he marry her and why is she to blame? As for the 'Did he like you or just fancy you when you met?' surely that's a question for him to answer, not her! You talk as though men are spinless, are dragged kicking and screaming into