For you, that might mean not entering into a relationship without your partner getting tested. Whether or not I 'agree' with that, if that is what you want it is your right in negotiating your relationships and that of your partners to agree or disagree. If you can find it in your heart to forgive your former partner, it may be worth making an approach to him, because even if nothing comes of it then at least you can move on without feeling guilty and without feeling that there was more you could have done. Health is your crown. Let us not forget that. When HIV is prevalent, it is not irrational to be too careful when it comes to the dating scene. Afterall, having a life-threatening disease is not a joke. Expanding your boundaries to overcome prejudice (like a comment mentioned) maybe be PC but at what cost? You have to be selfish when it comes to really important matters. See what the outcome was. He was devastated because his lover lied. This pain was manifold since he deep in love with him therefore the effect of betrayal was even greater. I think the focus needs to be on the original writer's sense of betrayal--he's entirely right to feel that way, seeing as he was lied to about something that was clearly important to himself and his partner for two years. The guilt he is feeling may come from a realisation that perhaps his concern about being in a