How to make a woman ejaculate by Rebecca Newman My darling has never ejaculated. I fancy I'm the man to make it happen... Any tips? SM Q The Sex Shrink says... Your confidence is heart-warming and means you have every chance of succeeding. While ancient Greeks wrote about female ejaculation and some societies teach young women to kachapati (spray the wall) as preparation for marriage, it is a strangely uncommon element in Western sexuality. To free her mind, have her pee first then lie on a bed of washable covers. Try using a blindfold to change her reality and draw her out of herself. It can be much easier to tip her into a different state when her imagination is free to run riot. Stroke her skin, kiss her all over and take the fleshy part of her mound into your mouth, suck it, tease it and curl one then two fingers inside her, beckoning them up towards her navel in search of her G-spot. Press up with your finger tips, moving them in circles as you flick her clitoris with your tongue. Stay here until she's come twice. The more turned on she becomes, and the wetter she is, the closer you are. Keep stimulating her G and her clitoris, and as her climaxing gets harder and closer together (don't speed up - she is the one whirling out of control here, you are the constant) tell her your every last dirty wish... The next time she peaks, tell