of harm should be made clear. Please also rest assured that the impact that contact has on the main carers i.e. you and your husband is also a key factor and therefore do include this in your statement. Please do not ignore the contact order because there are penalties for doing so and it will impact on your case should the matter return to court. The best advice is to challenge the application with as many relevant facts as possible. Best Regards Q. Hi. Could you advise me on whether I can stop my ex from taking our 6 yrs old son abroad on holiday, when he has told CSS he can't afford to pay maintenance and he has told the bank that he can't afford to help clear the overdraft on an old joint bank account to help close the account. A. Hi there If you share Parental responsibility with your ex, he will need your permission to take your son abroad unless one of you has a Residence Order. The one with the order in their favour can take the child abroad for up to one month without consent. That said, I always advise that you notify the other parent of the holiday and provide contact details in the event of an emergency unless there is a good reason for not doing so. Forgive me if I am wrong, but the way you have phrased your question suggests that you do not wish to consent to the holiday