down and talk about it honestly. Good luck. Renee, although you seem to be getting somewhere with T, who seems to want to build a life with you and the kids but your husband still wants to cling on to what is left and makes you feel guilty. The guilt will always be with you unless he moves on and finds someone new and is happy again. I also feel sorry at the thought of walking away with a new guy and leaving my husband behind because he will also take it badly and would probably never love again. He said it before that if I leave him, he will rather be alone for the rest of his life (which is sad as we're only in our 30s) but I know how he is like; once bitten twice shy kind. And I will crush him and make him lose all faith in love. It made me feel like a bad person and as if I am responsible for his happiness. Then who is going to responsible for mine? Sometimes I wonder. I always think "to love someone is to set them free" and I hope your husband one day realises this. Jenny, hope you are keeping strong still. It looks like you are although I know you still think of him. Like you, I don't regret being with W because I truly deserve that "short moment of happiness" in my life. For a long time, I haven't had that kind