see her. You can be polite and then excuse yourself. You always have a choice as to how long you will spend in the presence of anyone, no matter whose friend they are. You can also give yourself permission to accept your dislikes. But I do think it is very important to try to treat other people the way we would like to be treated in such a situation. Think about if you were this lady in question, how would you want someone that was so offended by your voice, (something you cannot really change) to treat you. If you go with that, you will not go far wrong in respecting others and yourself, in any given situation. I cannot answer your question as to why you hate this type of voice so much. Since you have come across this before you might be curious enough to go talk with someone so you understand why you have such an aversion to this type of voice. We can't avoid what we dislike, forever. If we do not confront it within ourselves we will keep coming up against the same issue until we get some answers and therefore, every time we find ourselves facing the same issue, it is another opportunity to take this issue on once and for all. I hear you say you hate this type of voice. Hate is a strong feeling. Can you remember feeling this way at any other time in your life? Does this voice remind