The list that you write down together is like a 'Comfort Menu'. Add 'Something else' to the menu in case anyone needs another option. Whenever anyone in your family or group feels sad or upset they can choose what they'd like most from the 'Comfort Menu' that you made together. The items on the list can be numbered like a take-away menu, or maybe each person can mark which ones they like the best. The menu can be laminated to protect it. Some things to talk about together: Think about a time when someone comforted you in a way that really helped you to feel better. What was the best thing about the way they comforted you? When do you think each person in your family or group most needs to be comforted? How can you make sure that you're comforting each other in the best possible way? Other ideas: Design an attractive 'Comfort Menu' on a computer. Create a space on the menu where people can show what their favourite comforts are. Make a comfort 'quilt' by inviting people to write their favourite ways of being comforted on different squares of lightly-patterned paper. Arrange the squares into a patchwork-style collage and stick them onto a larger sheet of paper or thin card to make a piece of comforting wall art. Quotes from children are taken from Messages from Children, published by NHS Health Scotland (2008).