Mostly, I kept telling myself that unsatisfying sex wasn't a good enough reason to break up with someone. That it would be such a shame if "this relationship had to end because of the sex." My advice? Sex just one other way a couple interacts with each other. Treat it accordingly. If this guy had been as mean to me in any other way as he was to me sexually, the relationship would have ended a lot sooner. If you haven't got kids, you owe it to yourself not to make exceptions for how someone treats you in the sack opposed to how someone treats you out of it. And btw, I'm in a relationship now that's so hot, with a man so GGG, it's healing me. Thank god for him, and thank god I broke up with the other guy. Also, I didn't mean that people with kids should just roll over and take it. But, you know, extra considerations etc. etc. I probably shouldn't have brought kids up in the first place as I don't have them. Sorry about that. Short answer: Don't waste your time on a partner who shames you, blames you, flames you, or tries to tame you. (add more rhymes if you like: games, defames, etc.) . I wasted far too much time on someone very intellectually compatible with me, but never wanted to cuddle, have sex, do anything that I wanted to do. One day I just looked in the mirror and said