contact that does take place is beneficial and enjoyable for the children, you may want to take some advice on how best to explain your ex's unreliability to them so that they deal with it in a different way. You could try using mediation services or allow the matter to return to court so that the court can assess the harm and order accordingly. Violent ex wants access to my 3 year old child. he raped me but got away with it in court. hes bust my nose whilst holding my daughter strangled me untill ive passed out. thrown me across room. smashes a glass over her and a picture frame. she has just got all confidence back. i dont want him to worm his way back in and hurt her. she starts school soon and i know it will affect her. we are not ready yet was only a year ago since this has happened and 4 month since it went to court. we havent had time to move forward from the horrific past that haunts us. my daughter screams if me and my recent partner play fight. i need advice please. A. Hi I am so sorry to hear about this.  Do not hesitate in saying no to your ex.  If you cannot do this directly because you fear his reaction, please consult your local family lawyer to do it for you.  Contact is the right of the child however, only if contact does not put the child