in a relationship which consists of TWO people to make decisions, not one. Without consent he should not take money from you and give it to anyone, even if it is your son. Sadly if these people in your life are not listening to you or helping you, you need to start surrounding yourself with people that will. All of your problems will never go away if you are surrounded by the cause of them. It's not exactly my place to say, but even if it means getting away from these people, personally I'd think it for the best because your health is at risk. If these people won't even respect your health, get shot of them.