talk to a Dr or a psychologist. Someone who can help you in understanding the moods and how to encourage your husband out of them. Or where he can seek help, maybe even an intervention. Hi Anonymous I have some sympathy with your trouble to keep another person happy. It gets harder and harder when they just get some sort of kick out of being morose. My partner is odd too. He just seems to never smile with me but when we visit his friends, he cracks jokes and laughs out loud, but not when we are home. I love comedy shows and to laugh a lot but he has always got some problem with me being too loud cause he cannot stand the noise. He says the chatter and happy laughs make his brain sore. At the moment i get so i want to go see my family and friends to be able to relax. I haven't been here for awhile... I've read all your comments and am amazed by the similarities in our stories. My husband has admitted this week that he's addicted to heroin and smokes a bit of ice... Wants help now... I don't think I have the strength to deal with life with him anymore. I'm at the limit to what I can tolerate - being a house slave, looking after two small children, trying to run my own business, his put-downs, anti-social, unreliable, threatening behaviour, etc etc etc. I'll be 40 next year and