If this isn't possible, write an email or letter clearly stating the relationship is over, and give some explanation for your decision. When your ex moves on... It can be especially hard when you find out that your ex has a new relationship. If this happens: Try to avoid thinking about them being with someone else, as it can be really painful. Don't contact your ex or lash out at them for being in a new relationship. It won't make you feel any better. If you are struggling with anger or jealousy, you need to make sure you stay safe when dealing with these feelings. Talk to somebody about it and get some help if you need it. Thinking about a new relationship Take all the time you need in beginning another relationship. Think about what you want in your next relationship, but feel confident about being single for a while. When should you get some help? Breakups hurt, but people usually get over them in time and without any serious problems. If you find yourself unable to move on, talk things through with someone you trust. This may be a friend, family member, youth worker or a counsellor. Counselling can provide a safe space to help you understand your feelings and gain some perspective. eadspace acknowledges the unique place and historical context of Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities within Australia and the need for specific consideration in relation to all functions of the headspace model. Aboriginal and Torres