births and even a couple of remarriages before the first husband had died. However I helped a friend get started on her family tree and her husband being there asked could we have a look at his, that was fine, we did a bit using freebmd, other sites, and his own knowledge. I went home and looked further and I have found something about one of this man's ancestors which he really would not want to know, it concerns race. I've found a lot of people researching this particular ancestor and the information is real and out there. I can't tell my friend's husband what I have found, knowing what I know about him and the way he feels about things. I have actually found this really quite disturbing. I'd be thrilled to have this ancestor, he wouldn't. If he was a relative I'd tell the truth, he isn't so I am just going to say nothing but I find that sad. thecraftymermaid Rather than just keeping it secret I would suggest you ask yourself if the the difficult stuff you have found is likely to affect anyone but your friends husband. By this I mean are there any third parties who might be hurt by that information, or in particular by this man's reactions to them if he finds out something "unpleasant". If its just him it would affect, ask him if he wants to know everything you have found out "warts and all" even if he might find