for you and you don't need any pain relief, that is great, but it is also quite lucky. It is not a competition. If you feel in distress you should ask for something, and not let anyone bully you. The main thing is a healthy baby after all. 5) So long it is a normal-ish delivery, it is quite a natural kind of pain and with luck your body can adapt, there are lots of natural pain-killers in your body. 6). It's not the giving birth that matters, it's the bringing up the child. Of the whole process I would say the worst thing of all is sleep deprivation when baby is new, and that is where dads, partners, friends and family can help by letting you sleep. Good luck new parents! And while it may only be anecdotal, many women I've spoken to -- myself included -- found that labour didn't actually hurt anything like as much as they expected it to. Most second-time mothers I know say the ghost of labour pain rarely haunts them this time round. My first birth was a planned C-section (due to a breach), and the post-birth care was poor, leaving me awake in pain the entire first night, with the tube for the pain relief infecting my hand and not letting the drugs through. That really, really put me off a C-section the second time, but I was lucky enough to have a natural birth. The second time I was left alone