you are working together for the benefit of your daughter. As regards nursery fees, I regret that unless he agrees, there is no obligation to pay this to you. Sorry! Harjit Sarang Q. hi i recently separated from my partner and now she is stopping me from seeing my 18 month old son. i now live at home with my mother who has learning disability's and my ex has said firstly she read some fact on the internet about dads taking there children and thinks "i will abduct him" even tho for the past 3 months i have had him 4 days a week including 1 overnight stay and was never late picking him up or dropping him off. but she believes she is in her right to stop my access on these grounds. also now i have had to start legal proceedings to be granted access she is using my mother disability as a reason i shouldn't see him. saying she is a concern for his safety. surly i am responsible for him while in my care not my mother and also she brought me up by herself while my dad worked full time so how could this be an issue? A. Hi there You are absolutely correct in that whilst he is in your care, you are responsible for him. The fact that you have in your company someone who is disabled is irrelevant unless caring for that person will take you away from caring adequately for your