My husband has suggested that I think about sending our son to day care one or two days a week next year to help with the load. Also because I don't have any friends with kids so he doesn't get much opportunity to interact with other kids. I am really agonising over the decision because either way I go I think I will feel guilty. If I do send him I will feel like I have failed and why could I not 'do it all'. If I don't send him I will feel like I am possibly failing him by not providing the stimulation he needs. Afterall if he was only about 7 weeks older he would be due for Kindy next year. Sorry for my rambling but as you can see my head is spinning. Oh Mindy we really do have so much in common. I empathise with every single point you have mentioned! The biggest thing I try to remember is that "We can have it all -- we just can't have it all at once". There is no right answer, and sometime we just have to go with our gut, and trust that it will lead us to the right place. You are doing a fantastic job xx This is a great post and so, so true. We have four girls and each are different so require different mothering. At times it can be complicated. And no there is no such thing as a perfect mother. How