sure how it changed because we're still pretty close, though he still does things I disagree with (pot) but it just doesn't bug me anymore. I guess the way I started looking at it is.. even though he does/did things I don't agree with, he's always treated me with respect and been there when I needed him and never judged me for things he didn't agree with. Hi Lilyswims, I just went through this recently. In the past ten years, I have been known as the kind of friend you can depend on, the one with lots of different friends. I have about 4 close girlfriends and recently something happened to me and 3 of those friends were not there for me and was unsupportive. I asked for emotional support and it was simply not given. Because of this event, I started analysing those friendships which were at least 10 years, I realised that they were not true friends and I also had other events that occurred in my life and they were not there for me. I value friendships a great deal and I too felt I lost who I was in the past 2 years as I become so focussed on my business and less time for friends. You have identified there were issues in your previous friendships and you made the choice to disconnect with them. It was a difficult decision and you made it for own valid reasons. You may have been hurt because of these