leaving and missing them so much.  My new man has a lot of baggage as his kids are younger and he works with his wife still!! You need to read my earlier posts to put in perspective -but I did do it.  I left the marriage.  I would dvise anybody that this is much harder than you think it will be in your cosie afair world.  Really think hard -you need to understand ow much you will lose.  And, terrible things can still happen.  I have a firend that did what I did and two of her children still do not speak to her and then her new man died -literally overnight -very young- just dropped dead.  Now she has lost everything.  Sad things still happen even when you are in love. I needed to do what I have done, but it hurts -and others judge.  It is not easy.  the price is high all round.  Some days though I think I am brave and I did the difficult thing not the easy thing -and I was honest.  Living the lie of an affair is a hellish state. April x If you knew how it felt to be cheated on, lied to, made a fool out of, have your heart crushed and ripped out your chest you would never even begin comtimplating having an affair. And for those of you who are married yet having an affair, what about those vows you so 'solemnly declared' to your so called 'loved