How to Have the Most Joy There used to be a bumper sticker that read "He who dies with the most toys wins!" Well, back when we could make money in our sleep , perhaps that thought had some humor and merit, but no longer. Winning at life is not about what you have -- it's about how you feel. These days, when you may be striving to make ends meet, it helps to look for pleasure in simplicity. Right now, living within your means is a very good thing, but you may need to create some room to have fun and enjoy your life. Money almost always enters into the equation, but when it comes to positive emotions, not so much. When you're no longer distracted by your activities or making plans, you're engaged in simply "being." For some people, this can be uncomfortable. You must learn to look for joy in just being alive. In any case, it beats the heck out of the alternative. The problem arises when what we want begins to overshadow the simple enjoyment of living. Many people have discovered that they don't need a big house and new cars to have a good life. Families have become closer than ever these days, as the world becomes more difficult to navigate and they need the emotional support. With this closeness comes the added benefit of giving you more love to draw upon, and that can only strengthen you and make your life easier. Find