is 'Is it in the children's best interests to see their father?' It is not easy terminating contact because ad hoc contact for children may still be better than no contact at all. You need to trust your judgement. If you feel that they are happier not seeing him because they are always being let down then suggest no contact until he cooperates with a contact plan. Perhaps try giving him some times for contact and telling him that no other dates will be permitted without prior agreement. The difficulty I suspect, is when the children disagree with you because they want to see him. No maintenance is very frustrating but not a reason to deny contact. Best Regards Harjit Sarang, Partner Family Law BEST Solicitors LLP Q. Hello, I have been seperated from my ex husband for over 2 years now due to domestic abuse (which he firmly disbutes)He is extremely controlling and manulipulative however i have never stopped him or his family having regular contact with our daughter. However he is in the armed forces and we can not have set dates etc for arrangements so he contacts me when he wants to see her ( with a good few days notice). He picks her up from my mum house due to when i would drop her in public places I felt extremely threatened and he would always be hours late. However this has not changed, he is never on time to pick her up or drop her