I don't know what to do. When I am in a long-term, committed relationship I feel like my boyfriend looks at me like a chain around his neck. So, I think he will probably cheat or leave me soon. It makes me someone I am not, or brings out the worst in me: jealousy, insecurity and fear. I have tried thinking about relationships differently, but it doesn't work. I want to be with one man and if he cheats or leaves, what do I do? I guess I start over, right? I am rambling, sorry... I guess what I am looking for is a way to look at life and love that allows me some peace of mind. I want to know that things will be OK if I am cheated on or left. I want to be happy. Thanks for reading and if you want to share something with me, anything, it would be great. Thanks. Wildrose, you ask a very wise question. It is wise, because you didn't ask "How do I find a boyfriend who will never cheat?" You also have realized that "trying to think differently" doesn't work. Isn't that a great thing to notice? So many people walk around trying to control the thoughts in their heads...and a lot of them never get around to admitting how futile that is. So you are actually ahead of the game here. You know you can't control the actions of your boyfriend. You know you can't control the