horrific testing -- think q-tips up the urethra, or probing latex-gloved fingers. "There's a concept out there that men are going to come into a doctor's office and they're going to be violated -- and that's really not the case," Honig says. For guys, the first step in testing for infertility is a physical exam and sperm analysis. Although many men are apprehensive of an evaluation, Honig and Hummel both emphasize that the initial process is no worse than a general medical check-up. "Going through the testing of it, it's often the easiest just to test the men first, so usually that's a faster procedure, a quicker procedure," Colletti said. Your Move: Be totally honest with your doc. Ask questions. Don't be afraid to push your doctor to explain procedures or terms that you haven't heard before. It's important that a couple understands everything that's going on--so that your doctor can give you the best treatment, and you can feel comfortable with the procedure. "One thing that Jennifer and I did was to ask a lot of questions," Nielsen said. "It's OK to ask them to slow down, and to do some other research on your own." Your doctor will take your health history, perform a physical exam, and run blood and sperm tests. Sure, giving sperm in a doctor's office is uncomfortable -- but it's a walk in the park compared to some tests a woman might have to take. And remember, don't hide or embellish info for the