I have already booked an appointment with a solicitor as I want the best chance possible to see my daughter grow up. Do you think there is any chance of the 50/50 care arrangement being enforced by a judge? Thank you. A. Hi there If logistically possible and in the best interest of the child, in my view, the time should always be shared equally. Put your best case forward. Good luck Harjit Sarang Q. Hi, I separated with the father of my first child who is 9yrs old, after a long and abusive relationship. He travelled back to Africa in hope that I would go and meet him to marry him as he did not have the legal documents to get married in this country. This was a no-no for obvious reasons. This made him angry but we kept contact for the sake of the child. In 2010, I sent my son to visit family in the same country in which he was, he got hold of the information that my son was at the family house, he visited a couple of times and then decided to kidnapp the child. It was reported to the police and all that but to no avail. I could not travel as I was expecting at the time and was in full time education in University. A few other incidents happened in between but he managed to transfer the child to neighbouring South Africa and then back to England to live with his