to dump me without warning. I too am not sure of my judgement and don't think I will date for a long while...until someone asks me out maybe? Charla, this statement , I actually thought about him while the AC was dumping me...not as a potential airbag but as the standard to which I would hold guys going forward. Needless to say, the AC did not match up I think this is precisely what I should do with this extremely nice man, I did question myself as to whether I was interested in him for the airbag effect or if I was actually starting to be attracted to healthier men. Either way I have too decided to not rush back into dating. If he asks me out one day .....great!!! if not I will just be getting healthier with the time out I did that too -- using good guys as a standard. Mostly male friends. Sounds weird, but my flatmate's boyfriend was one of those guys. I'm not attracted to him at all, but he's a decent guy and i was focusing on his actions and they way he treated my flatmate, as opposed to him as a person. It reminded me what a healthy relationship looks like. I think it's a great way to get yourself into the mindset of being attracted to decent guys instead of EUMs and ACs. It helps with boundaries too. The most important thing it taught me is that, if a guy is