that I am about to leave and go and live with her.... But I can't leave my family, maybe not right now at least. My (W) thinks we are patching things up and we are making more of an effort to be together, to be more relaxed and not so grumpy all the time (the source of MANY arguments). It is seeing (A) who is making me more relaxed!!! At the moment, my ideal situation would be to live with (A) in my current house with my kids; i.e. for (W) to leave me, but there is no way that will happen! The other ideal situation is for me to feel so desired at home with (W) that the very idea of an affair is out of the question.... Now that isn't happening either. (W) does not do public displays of affection very much (PDAs) yet (A) does all the time and loves it. (A) says "I love you" just about every day to me and makes me feel special; I can't remember the last time my (W) said "I love you" (W) forgot valentines day.... said she was too busy despite having two days off in the week to organise presents and a card... I work 5 days a week, but still have got her something for the last 15 years. Sorry to ramble on here, but I seem to be with like minded people who are struggling with some of the biggest questions a marriage has to answer.