and here is the help we are going to give you,' " says Walton. Walton observes that in general, people are misinformed about the state of others like them. "We often operate from very biased information. We have our own experience and can only see others from the outside. Many of us are having these same difficulties, but no one is showing it, and so we can feel isolated and depressed." It is in those circumstances that you may wish to wield a pen, to reflect upon and write the story of your experiences. Even rewrite your story, perhaps. Place it within a larger framework. Give it a beginning, a middle and a hopeful end. And recall some powerful truths about being human: It's not just you. We are all struggling in one way or another. Do not judge your insides by other people's outsides. "It's not quite love," Keegan wrote, "and it's not quite community; it's just this feeling that there are people, an abundance of people, who are in this together."