your child and your ex's history, it is reasonable for you to refuse contact until you have some reassurances from your ex. It may be that he has changed and now has better accommodation? You will only be able to work through this by co operating with him and starting a dialogue beginning with what he wants, how frequently he wants it and then relaying your concerns. Give him the opportunity to respond and then decide how convinced you are. It may be that contact needs to start off supervised until you have some trust built up. Be strong, confident and trust your instincts. Unless you have those reassurances, you do not need to facilitate contact. If your ex is determined and committed, he will agree to mediate with you and deal with your concerns to the benefit of the child. Q. I have a daughter aged 6 that lives with her mum(my ex) in the city some 45miles away and with a rural transport system, visits are short and troubled as I only have 4 hours once a week on a sunday afternoon..my first question is. am I able to have my daughter for over night weekend visits? secondly, my ex's parents are insisting on taking my daughter to a religious event every week which has been against my will from birth. can I stop this? A. Hi there Your request seems reasonable. I can only advise that you start a dialogue for increased contact and see what the