make me feel sexy at all." Being tired due to all the running around after a young child didn't exactly help matters. And Charlotte says their time as a couple in the bedroom became less and less frequent as sex slowly fell down the pecking order of things. "I didn't have the time to look nice and treat myself to sexy lingerie because it wasn't a priority in the scheme of things," she says. "Before Addison, our sex life was great. And when it started to become less frequent, at first it just seemed normal because we were both so tired and worn out from being new parents. But the longer the gaps in between us having sex, the more noticeable it became." Feeling increasingly self-conscious and unhappy about her body, Charlotte convinced herself that 39-year-old Chris, an online manager, didn't find her attractive any more. She says: "He wasn't asking for sex so I assumed he didn't want to, and eventually sex stopped altogether. "Also, with Addison in the next room, I felt conscious of having a child in the house and often used that as an excuse not to have sex." While Charlotte thought the spark had gone, she didn't realise that Chris was suffering from similar body hang-ups. "Only now that we've opened up about not having sex have I discovered that my husband was struggling with his body confidence, too," she says. "He feels overweight and unattractive and thought that I didn't want to have sex