Having found the bank statement together with a house deed she waited in vain for her husband to tell her. She eventually took him to the house and confronted him. Then she took her children and left him. What is unbearable for her is that after more than 15 years of marriage he deceived her and cheated on her, putting the house in his sister's name. She has not forgiven him. These women relate the devastating effects of their relationships with their partners. The love failures, the discovery of infidelity, life in a couple without desire and without words plunge these women into a particular state of panic or depression. Some can be considered cases of domestic violence. But above all, their stories tell us about the crossing of a line, a boundary trespassed and a betrayal that cannot be forgiven nor forgotten. The Ravage of the m(Other) For some of these patients the relationship with the mother constitutes a ravage. E. was robbed at gunpoint at the store where she worked. Some time later her home was burglarized and her jewelry stolen. She lives this as an irreparable damage that nothing can replace. She cries, she flushes, she is inarticulate. E. was often punished and beaten as a child. A childhood memory: one day, half-teasing, half in defiance she swallowed a coin. Her mother beat her so hard that until today she suffers from headaches and vision problems related to that incident. K. was raised by her aunt. She