relationship. 2. I don't want to be alone. 3. He'll change after we get married. 4. It is too late, too embarrassing and/or too expensive to call off the wedding 5. He is a really nice guy; I don't want to hurt his feelings. I must elaborate on number five. It is really hard to break up with a nice guy. Unlike the enraged commenters who suggest women are "evil gold-diggers determined to destroy their fianc's lives," most women I talked to did consider their betrothed and his feelings. It's often easier to break up with cheater or a liar (although far too many women don't do that when they should either!) But when it comes to nice guys, it can be hard to figure out why you aren't happy together. The reality is, he may be a solid, good guy on his own. But as a couple, the equation does not add up. The idea of "two becoming one" should not equal instant discomfort. However, when the relationship is solid and true, there is very little doubt, internal conflict or questions. And for the naysayers, I said very little doubt; I did not say no doubt whatsoever . I encourage women (and men, too!) to be very specific about the source of their concerns. Write them down -- articulate them. Consider how the relationship might look ten years in the future. And if none of that helps I share a favorite quote from the author Mignon McLaughlin: "When 'Why