offends us, at the deeper level, rather than focusing on the offence.   Why do we have those feelings, what is it that has been said, done, shown etc that we get prickly about, is there something we need to change within ourselves.  Only then can we look objectively at the offence, and decide if we need to do something about it, and sometimes we do, but this is a response rather than a reaction. Great post Jeremy. ttp://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton Your "mum" has a great way of looking at it. When we let people offend us, it makes us even littler. Another problem with offense is that it keeps us from loving. ttp://dailygallen.com/ tim gallen i've always loved the insight that we control how we react to our surroundings and situations. nobody makes us do anything. and that includes offending, as well as any other number of responses -- anger, fear, frustration, guilt. the times i consciously choose to react in a more positive (or sometimes neutral) manner, i am a lot more at peace and less stressed. great post, jeremy! ttp://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton I agree, tim. It's about owning our actions and then living in a world of possibility where we can choose to change them for the better. melody Hi,I'm Filipina,and I am 18 years of age,I used to get offended always in my workplace and workmate,every time they laugh at me i don't know why(i think because of my face)I always get offended.I am really hurting and