of and often leave my family waiting up to 4 hours for him. Is there anything I can do? as I do not want to stop them having contact but this is just unacceptable and unfair on our 5yr old daughter and it is not a one off, its been for 2 years now. A. Hi It sounds as though you have been doing a stirling job in facilitating contact under these circumstances so far. Your daughter's best interests come first and being kept waiting for so long is unacceptable in particular, outside in public places possibly in cold weather conditions. It also sounds like you still fear for your safety. My advice would be to try and open a dialogue with your ex and his family about the current unacceptable arrangements. If that does not work, consider telling him that you will wait a maximum of 20mins and that if he does not arrive, you will need to take your daughter back home for her own well being. I do not think that this suggestion is unreasonable. Your ex may then consider being a bit more reliable if he is keen on seeing his daughter. Try not to be bullied, if you fear for your safety and prefer for a solicitor to write to him accordingly, please take that option. Safety and well being is paramount. Best Regards Harjit Sarang, Partner Family Law BEST Solicitors LLP Q. Hello, My daughter lives with myself and my partner. My ex has