be alone than in a miserable relationship. I entered my last when feeling a bit down and was dragged even further into depression to the point where anti depressants didn't make a difference. I saw less of my ex and started to feel a bit lighter and then happier. I ended the relationship and within a couple of weeks halved my medication with no ill effects. Actually there are some single people who are so happy and fulfilled they are just as happy as the happiest of couples. Something that Relate needs to learn about. love is difficult to define but having someone who's looking out for you is a wonderful thing. don't knock it. I read the Relate books and they give you a lot to think about. - Claire, Cardiff, 28/12/2009 23:17 Relate have almost no concept of domestic abuse and violence. They were offered training from Women's Aid and refused. Many of the counsellors fail to see a dominant partner (most likely to be the husband or boyfriend) when counselling a straight couple and often allow them to do most of the talking.