of top that, though, the minister that married my wife and I mispronounced her last name right in the ceremony. We all laughed at it but definitely not what we were hoping! I don't think that's irrational at all. It's a form of healing, which is anything but irrational. My son had something like this happen to him. He has really never recovered. He's now in his mid-thirties, still unmarried, not even interested in women -- he doesn't trust them. I don't believe he ever will recover psychologically.