best interests of the child. Shared care does not have to be 50:50. It is whatever is logistically possible and better for the children. Some children have holidays with one parent and term time with another parent because they live too far apart and schooling would not allow anything else. This is a form of 'shared care'. If you live close to each other, it would be easier to have more time and possibly a 50:50 shared care arrangement. However, amongst other things detailed in the 'welfare checklist', the court will have to consider the age of the children, the distance between you from a commuting point of view and any disruption for the children in doing that commute regularly. All of this is weighed up against their right to maintain a relationship with you. I would also point out that when considering one's ability to parent, the court will also assess the willingness to facilitate contact with the other parent. In that regard, the court should be asked to assess mother's reasons for moving so far away (if indeed she does go) and her reluctance to allow more contact. You may want to consider asking the court to make a prohibited steps order preventing mother from moving before a decision is made on residence. Once a parent moves with a child, it is difficult (but not impossible) for the court to make an order for them to return. I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis and prognosis but