you just can't see it. You are also cowards. If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen! Just wake up to yourselfs! Just to reassure both of the above posters that it is not evil, wicked or cowardly to find it difficult to talk to a partner about difficult issues in a relationship, many couples find that the hardest thing is to talk to each other honestly about any concerns. I know one of you is seeing a counsellor already, would the other poster consider this, if necessary on her own - a counsellor would be able to help both posters talk through, decide and maybe even rehearse the best way to communicate better with their partners, if this is what they want. See www.marriagecare.org.uk or www.relate.org.uk for access to relationship counselling. Good luck to both of you, I hope you are able to work things out. Well that is your personal opinion which we are all entitled to. I do think it is cowardly and wicked to treat their husbands in such a way. It is cowardly in my opinion to have an affair which is pre meditated and planned behind another human beings back let alone the issue of them actually being married which is a completely different issue as they are comitted in a stronger way! It will all end in tears and they will no doubt both be posting on here again for advice. If they read all the comments from everyone who