- how are you? Dear Suzzy and April Firstly, Suzzy, I am so proud of you that you are looking into a job thus some kind of financial independence and a whole new life ahead you. It is definately a case of "moving on". P felt the need to confess to his wife because he knows he is close to being found out therefore he put his hands up before he is caught, as a way of self-defence.  You have been honest with your husband and even close to have a trial separation and in a way I envy and respect your courage. I truly wish you all the best of luck in whatever decision lies ahead you. I am so confused not knowing what i want in life anymore. W and I have been in touch lately and last weekend was telling me he loves me and wants to try again with me and to make our relationship work. I don't know how serious he is but mainly it's because I know I am in no position to take up his offer as I am still married. He thought I have separated from my husband! I shouldn't have told him a lie. I am suppose to meet up with him but we had a stupid fall out yesterday, with him being upset with me over my indecision. So we are no longer talking to each other. For the moment. I don't know if its seriously over or we both