AIBU in feeling pure naked rage toward her and her I know best attitude? namechangingfornow - I understand your anger Your treatment at the hands of the nursery teacher was appalling. However, be kind to yourself as the road ahead will be full of challenges and you will need your strength for that. The most important thing is to work from now, you have an assessment underway and this is the route to getting your ds the help he needs. Without making assumptions, you may find some of the ASD websites may give you some ideas about helping children with their social skills/dealing with frustration etc. Regardless of diagnosis, lots of these strategies are transferrable. Good luck and take care. Thank goodness for his teacher now though, and that the ball is rolling so quickly. I would also check with school that they are implementing some strategies now , without waiting for the assessment, to help him cope on a day to day basis. Hey, I work with kids diagnosed with ASD and the one thing I cannot stress enough to people is that you have to FIGHT for support. So, if it turns out that your DS is diagnosed as having any form of SN then please fight or your rights. The kids I teach are all at the more severe end of the spectrum and some of their parents get no support whatsoever outside of school. I don't want it to sound like a negative as I LOVE