need to find an American girlfriend because the vast majority are liberated. Our ladies take the lead and can show you all manner of tricks. After one of ours gets done with you you'll apply for a green card and never look back. Oh dear, we assume by America you mean the USA rather than Cuba or Canada? I'm as liberated as any of you but not as conceited. I'd want to point out to my sister that sex is not something that men do to women. She needs a little help, from a thoughtful person and not a counsellor. Um... she sounds a bit lazy and/or clueless, if you mean by 'do everything' that she just lays there waiting for you get on with it. Telling her that it is her turn may or may not be successful, depending on what kind of personality she has. If she is self-centric and does not welcome criticism she may not take too kindly to the implied criticism. Have you had to ditch any friends she doesn't like? If you have it may be a sign that she expects the world to revolve around her, in which case you have to be careful how you tell her that she doesn't do enough in bed. Maybe your girlfriend doesn't want to show her pleasure in sex by initating it. Some women still think, that they degrade themselves in the eyes of their partners when they take the initiative or are overt with their