A. Hi You are correct in that this should not be discussed in the presence of your daughters. I suggest that you proceed with mediation and raise this as one of the issues. What you are trying to achieve is fair contact with your daughters. If that cannot be achieved through discussion then court proceedings are the only other option. You are doing the right thing, good luck. Q. Hi Harjit, I am seeking an answer to the following question.... We are at the stage of having had the first hearing with regards to my partners access to seeing his three children. Since we got engaged and bought a house together his ex has tried everything! They have had 6 years of amicable access but since I arrived on the scene things have become more difficult. She has called in the CSA and is now on less than she was, she has demanded the kids pack up the clothes at ours and that we buy them new ones, she now demands we pick them up and drop them off (for 6 yrs they did one way each) and has demanded I get rid of my cat due to a 'supposed' cat allergy with his youngest. We are at the stage where we have agreed to all demands for the sake of the children....although we have removed cat from house we only do when the kids are there and allergy UK and asthma Uk do not believe there is an allergy