How to Change Your Thinking With Affirmations How to Change Your Thinking With Affirmations... Yesterday I spoke with a woman who takes great pride in her work. Even so, she said that she didn't feel she was good enough, that she's very hard on herself, although she knows she shouldn't be -- knows she shouldn't do that. I asked if when she worked, was she doing the best work that she was capable of. She replied, Yes, I try to do my best. To clarify, I asked -- So even though you know you are doing the best job you can do in that moment, you still believe that it's not good enough? She replied, Yes, but I know I shouldn't. I looked at her with a questioning smile. She repeated, I know I shouldn't but I do. And then she told me that when she was still married, her ex-husband used to beat her every time she didn't do a good job. But sometimes, even though she tried very hard, he beat her anyway. He'd call me stupid and say I'm doing it wrong, she told me. It seemed that no matter what this woman did in the past, it was never good enough for her ex-husband. I asked her, As an independent woman who is no longer married to that man, do you believe now that you are stupid? She replied, Well no, I tell myself that I'm not stupid. Aaah... she tells herself that she's not stupid.