the abbreviation of BDSM and only allow the full term of bondage, sadism, dominance, and masochism to be used. Plus a brief definition. That way we can all be clear that people understand. For instance, here is how it would change the wording of a few posts. "If a story about graphic doesn't float your boat, fine, don't read it. (Definition of Sadism: Sadism is the derivation of pleasure as a result of inflicting pain or watching pain inflicted on others.) "Unfortunately people who are closed minded would never see the story past the but then again that is their choice. "While I respect your decision to not read the books and I respect your opinion regarding I will equally expect you to respect my decision to read the books and thoroughly enjoy the story...' I'm fascinated by your comments and I think the conversation is really interesting...Thanks for helping me to see your viewpoint. My question is how do you discern things you don't want your kids to read, watch or listen to? Do you watch the Freddy Krueger movie before you suggest that your 8 year old doesn't watch it? Would you need to watch the whole porn movie before you suggest your husband doesn't watch it? When the news says that 1000 people got food poisoning from apples at a local grocery store, do you have to taste the apples before you decide? And as for judging, have you read the comment on judging posted earlier? The