Paul, I consider myself probably the chief of all sinners), but there is a difference between striving to avoid it, and celebrating it. If you love Him, if you are humbled by the sacrifice He made on your behalf, it should hurt you, or at least be unsettling to you, to willfully do what He has warned and instructed you not to do. Two great misconceptions: God doesn't celebrate sex and God's rules are in place to stifle our fun. Both are so short-sighted. God designed sex and gives us the ingredients to have the most fulfilling, wonderful, passionate sex life ever. But there are instructions for that, and they include keeping your sexual thoughts, fantasies and desires fixed on your spouse. His instructions about lust are there to protect us and our marriages, which He also designed. God didn't design sex to keep us from enjoying it. He wants our marriages to thrive and be successful because when they do they bring glory to Him. I realize most of the women reading this series are initially gratified by it. Maybe initially their marriages are benefiting as well. But the danger is there, undoubtedly, of destroying intimacy down the road. Once the damage is done, it's hard to repair. I'm also saddened when people confuse "judgement" with Christian admonishing, which we are also called in Scripture to do for (not "to") each other. These days, any instruction or encouragement that comes from a Christian perspective is deemed judgement, I believe