Turk, Thai, or Kenyan: this guy isn't worthy of your time, your efforts, or your vaginal secretions. But I am going to second his advice and urge you to buy yourself a vibrator. Trust me: a vibrator would be a huge improvement over this selfish, entitled, lying douchebag. (His previous girlfriend did whatever he wanted and asked nothing in return? Really? Have you confirmed that with her?) DTMFA. Hey, straight female "Savage Love" readers: A lot of you have been there, right? You wasted months or years on some entitled asshole you thought you could fix -- a guy who slut-shamed you, a guy who manipulated you -- but now you're in solid relationships with decent guys. How did you learn to spot the difference between assholes like the ones FRIGID and FTN are currently wasting their time on and the guys you're with now? Share your hard-earned wisdom with FRIGID and FTN in the comments thread. I've been in my fair share of "abusive" relationships, thinking I learned something from the last one only to have blinders on about something else in the next one. Until now. Every red flag is taken seriously. My last relationship lasted 10 years, and for a while it was ok. He was a nice guy, and everyone seemed to love him. But the last 3 years or so were wasted on my trying to making something work because I thought that is what you were supposed to do. Wasn't a relationship that long