feelings to the court officer so that contact can be organised in a beneficial way. It may be that your son would benefit from having a chat with somebody about the different adults in his life and the roles that they all play. There are many books that you may wish to purchase and work through with him on this issue. It's important to keep the situation positive. The fact is that he has two fathers. Why shouldn't that work? If there could be some sort of dialogue between you, your Partner and the child's biological father this would assist greatly. Between you, you can make this work for your son. Importantly, don't stop listening to him. It is so important that he continues to be as open with you as he has been. Children pick up on tensions and hosility. If he senses that all three of you get on, it may make him think differently about contact. All decisions need to be centred around what is best for your son. Good luck. Q. i am deperated from my ex partner we have a eight month old baby. I have two other children under five from a previous relationship my ex of the baby we never lived together and he is making up lies about me, he seen the baby twice and was not there throughout my pregnancy he is not on the birth certificate and is on bail for kidnap charge. I do not wish him to even