be known I have to question your intentions of entering into a debate on a thread that really (by your own admission) is foreign to you. April and Suzzy I suggest that rather than getting into a debate with them we continue to discuss our Issues between ourselves. Seeing P tonight. Petrified BB 'Ctrl end'- good advice... Yes, A major concern...all the significant others involved in these affairs... but really for me it is mostly about  You, my fellow users who log in and spill your sorrows and triumphs, Your hopes and fears... As is so oft said here,  we are 'following our passion' when we have an affair... But what EXACTLY is this kind of 'passion', and from whence does it come? The selfsame passion that leads us into unfulfilling marriages, and then on- beyond all sense, honour and self control- into the arms of an other? My best guess? It is Mother Natures urge working through You... plain and simple. And You (as have I) are being driven to sow oats- but dont like the crop you reap (a Daniel Johns). And oft here, sometimes flippantly and arrogantly, you turn your nose up and refuse to eat your own home-grown fruits- as does a spoiled child who sees fatter and juicier fruits over the fence on someone elses tree, but doesnt know the secrets, hard work and 'passion' involved in growing them... I was so like this once- and my parents set the mould perfectly for this type