with couples, I have some divorce tips and advice for dealing with friends and family.  Too many people fail to see that life during divorce could be a great deal more manageable if they were to know how to divorce and keep their family and friends on both sides. Before you tell them that you want/are going to separate or divorce, you may find the following points helpful - just in case you had not already considered it: you might need their support and friendship you are likely to have to continue seeing them (family gatherings, parties, etc.) they may feel they need to choose between you and your spouse many couples get back together again months or years later, enjoy seeing each other on the odd occasion or even become firm friends (I know - it may surprise you) your children are likely to want to continue seeing them your children will want to talk to you about them without fear that they are letting you down anticipate and plan for every possible reaction from your children, your family, your spouse's family and everyone else - they may very well surprise and/or disappoint you What do these divorce tips really tell you? Be careful what you say about your spouse to your friends and family (including his/her family), however difficult it is and however badly you perceive he/she is/has behaved! Step 4 -- Telling other people One of my divorce tips is to tell friends and family you are