.... well not good choice as turns out. Never had that feeling I would die for this man, go anywhere with this man and in fact told him i would never move away from my home. Where as with the other, would go anywhere. yes we did speak and text yesterday and then, unfortunately bumped into him with wife. Awkward. She has been asking questions and feel even though we are ' separated' as we still talk all the time, only a matter of time before she twigs. Relations at home are uncomfortable. Had row earlier in week, we never row, and just wish had guts to tell him it is over. like you, sometimes wish he or she would find out, at least the lying would stop. Have you told any of your friends about William? Would they support you? My other DB, I can't believe it. I managed the whole of yesterday afternoon and evening without contacting him. I intend not to make the first move. I know William remembers our last meeting chat when i said "i have some thinking to do" and he said "so have I." So perhaps its best if both of us have some time apart and do some thinking. Basically I want an "all or nothing" from him. Either he commits with my whole package (my kids) otherwise I am not risking my generally good marriage for nothing. To want to be with me on my own is not good enough. This