on a small trip and spend some time with them. Grandparents got involved too and that helped enormously. Other methods that have worked in large families I've coached is to have the children begin appreciating each other on their birthdays and at Christmas -- just a few words of what they like about each other. With practice you can then move this routine up to weekly or a daily routine. One of my clients reported extraordinary results in the relationships between her kids in that they began to fight less and became more tolerant or each other. This result happened quite probably because the children no longer saw each other as rivals trying to grab mum's attention, energy and time. Instead they began to get and give attention to each other. Now imagine the impact that had on mum. She could get ready for work in the morning without having to separate her kids. She could make dinner without having to pull them off each other. She would have a cuppa with a friend and not have her kids telling tails on each other. I hope this article demonstrates how a few simple changes can make life a lot easier when it comes to siblings.