that I would reveal his part. So not quite as you put it. suzzy I have just read the latest comments and for what its worth you make some valid points. Everyone is entilted to their opinion. What I will say is that far from being DELUDED I think the majority on here are fully aware of the consequences of their actions. In a perfect world we would have tried to address our issues in our marriage and left BEFORE we started an affair and lets face it that is the hounourable and just thing to do. I personally crossed the line and found what I have been craving. I am fully aware of the devastation MY actions will/have caused to my wife, my children, my family and friends and to MYSELF. However I (and I would guess most of us on here) are not after sympathy. We are human, flawed maybe, but human all the same. I honestly hand on heart wish I had the skills to deal with such strong emotions in such a black and white way. We are obviously wired differently to yourselves and we are trying to find the way out of this hell we find ourselves in. Believe me I am not after sympathy but it is helpful to come in here and discuss life changing issues with people who are in the same/similar position. I have to say though you are obviously entilted to your opinion, however once you have let your opinion