No! I have self harmed for 18 years on and off. It is very common much more than you would imagine. I teach professionals how to understand self harm, why it happens, how frequent it is, what to say and what not to say etc. you are not alone at all. Most people though are quite secretive about it for fear of being judged. Have you been offered any help to look at other coping strategies? Hi Hollie, thank you for posting here yesterday. I wanted to welcome you to the board and to introduce myself - my name's Michelle and I work as part of the Parent Supporter team with my colleagues Frances, Karen and Mary I can see that you're really wanting other member replies and Samantha and Kim have kindly posted. As you can see you're not alone sadly It sounds as though your husband is very supportive and it's lovely to hear you're currently trying for your third baby, it appears as though there are lots of positives in your life. However, I'm sorry to read that you feel you need to self harm Hollie, is there anything you can identify as a trigger for this? I was wondering if you've been offered any support over the years to help you get the root causes of why you feel you need to harm Hollie? What techniques have you used in the past to help you? If it's ok I would like to link you to the