their lives, including their relationships. I know this because a male friend told me about a maths teacher who sexually abused him when he was five years old, while he was attending a boarding school in Sydney during World War II. This is the ripple effect it had on his life... On leave from the Korean War, he was hitchhiking in Australia and a man driving a restored vintage car stopped, pulled a gun on him and told him to get in the car. The man drove to secluded place and anally raped him. My friend married a woman who was also sexually abused as a child, but the marriage broke up because his wife could not reconcile her trauma. They had one child whom his wife refused to let him visit. While at a diner in Sydney, someone drugged his coffee and he awoke on a train with his underpants stuffed in a pocket, feeling that he was pack raped. He married again and had three more children. The marriage broke up after his wife became a prostitute. When she remarried, her husband repeatedly had sexual intercourse with the younger daughter, who was just 12 or 13 years old. The story does not have a happy ending. Although my friend is a gentle man and never hurt or abused anyone, there are some who want to harm others because of their abuse.  Years ago I counselled a 24-year-old man whose father had anally raped him at three when his