Suzzy, for instance has stopped the affair, split, her husband knows about things, she has got back together and is still unsure.  How you can judge someone in such turmoil is beyond me. I would like to ask the admin team once more for an opinion on the use of the site because I do  not want to be judged for airing my views and offering support.  Personally, posts such as the above feel abusive and I do not feel they are in line with the ethos of this site. If the thread has got too long, then the admin team need to deal with it as those who are trying to sort out such turmoil in their lives should not have to cope with abusive comments such as the one above. April OMG i said i was going to set the cat amongst the pigeons but i didnt think this would happen. I am not saying that you are all bad people, far from it but what i am saying is that you are all wallowing in your own sadness and not thinking of the actual people who are going to get hurt in all the mess that you have created. April - Suzzy didnt end her affair, the bloke she was seeing ended it because he was putting his marriage and kids first and her marriage only collasped cos her husband found out about it so i wouldnt be so quick to defend unless you have read all