for overnight stay she has now said I cannot see her at all what can I do? A. Hi there I'm sorry to hear that. The first step is to try and discuss it with your ex directly. If she will not consent consider mediation services. Mediation is where you both meet with an independent third party who will assist you reach an agreement. If mediation is not accepted or workable you may need to instruct a solicitor to try and get to the bottom of why contact has been withdrawn. Your daughter has the right to have contact with you unless doing so may put her at risk of harm. If your ex will not co operate, your other option is to apply to the court for a contact order. The court will appoint an independent third party (cafcass officer) to prepare a report and recommend whether contact should take place and if so, how much and how frequently. The officer may also be asked to investigate any allegations against you. That is the procedure very generally. You need advice from your local solicitor if speaking to your ex does not work. Best of luck Harjit Q. My ex husband has our 2 children (he isn't on the oldest childs birth cert,but he is on youngests born 2004)every weekend. we split 4 years ago after violence etc and he hasnt paid me any money since and was in prison for a year. my kids have bben coming home lately