The last I want is to settle back into the same old, routine, "nice and comfortable" again, you know what I mean. To the writer above, you have taken the first step forward. Which was a huge step but at least you are finally doing something about it. Since you have made up your mind and now found someone to share your life with (and who is even willing to take on you and your kids), you must be brave and positive to carry on the rest of your "new life". I envy you (in a good way) that you have a new found happiness and really wish you all the best. I think it sounds like you are sad because a long term marriage has ended to apparently a good and nice man.  It is sad but since this is your new found happiness, you really have to move on with courage and make the best out of it. A lot of people are still trapped in their marriage but in your case, you have taken a brave step. Wishing you from my heart all the best of luck to your new found happiness. ello emily, I can't believe i found a similar experience in you. Like what you described, it was the most perfect affair one could even dreamt of- like you, never thought I would be in that mess too being married for 9 years with 3 kids.. i guess it just happened when you least expected