husband is anything other than a donor. I'm sure they appreciate the gift he gave them, but if they're raising their child in a family with two mothers and no father, it's going to confuse the child if they have to write a card for someone called dad! We will be celebrating "grandfather's day" and will spend it with our families. Our nephew's father is not n the picture so we will spend the day with them. Lesbian mums, what do you do on Father's Day? Originally Posted by pisces00 As the wife of a sperm donor for lesbian couples we have never had a card on fathers day or call etc which is ok but we are friends with all recipients and not once have any of them given my hubby say, a bottle of wine or thank you token. Its like they forget that they approached us for sperm. Dont get me wrong they are all great friends and wonderful mums its just that a thank you card or something wouldnt have gone astray. Would you want a card? I don't think our donor or his wife would... To me that's like suggesting that our donor is somewhat father-like which we all agreed he is not. I think they might get freaked out if we sent him a card! He's got his own family and he's own kid, we're not close friends and he sees they boys about twice a year - there's nothing father like about him