could be tough.  No one can blame you for tht. When I look back I could just nothave coped. I have been too scared to admit what my situation is -I don't want to be found out, but also saying it here is like making it real.  But it is real that I am seeing a married man -he has done the running, and have over the last few weeks fallen for him.  And, I would say him for me given what he says [although as I say I have trouble with trust given my history] -including my own ability to be unfaithful.  I have had people chase me beofre and always said no since my last experience, but this is different... Anyway, enough of me.  Suzzy, keep ging you are so strong and doing so well.  Emily, ou need to let W now the truth and explain as you have on here why you have trouble in making such a move -he will have no idea what taking you on with kids would mean! [I presume anyway] Thanks for this thread Emily -I think it is nearly 200 posts now which shows that you have struck a real chord that so many of us go through.  I think that you show we really struggle with all of this too -it is not just like the 'Mistresses' drama -and others, where they are over it in a few days.  This affects us in every way and, in my experience, changes