her mother then you are in breach of the orders and will find yourself in court for the breach. If she does go then the child is being mistreated. All I can suggest to you is that tomorrow the father speaks to the mother and advises her of exactly what he has been told and that he has concerns for the welfare of his daughter. Advise the mother that if this continues that the matter will go back to the courts. If the mother will not listen then your only option is to have the matter go back to court with the orders to be amended. The Court may listen to her about going to her mother. Until 1974, children had 'the right' to choose which parent they lived with at age 14. Since the Family Law Act came into effect in 1975, there has been no hard and fast rule. The Family Court now looks at a number of factors in deciding with which parent a child shall live. There is a presumption that it is in the interests of a child to spend as much time as possible with both parents. That is called a "rebuttable presumption" in that it is a starting point, but many factors are considered before the Court will make such an Order. The wishes of the child are important. Equally important are the reasons for the Child stating those wishes, and also considerations such as the Child's age, maturity and level of understanding.