should be better connected to the lives of the people we call "friends and family." An absolutely breathtaking show of the entitlement mindset that infects so many new parents. The new mother made the CHOICE to bear a child, it is her and her husband's responsibility to be prepared, have the freezer stocked, house loaded with supplies and hire a maid to help out for the first few months. It is not the responsibility of your friends and family still the void caused by new parents lack of planning ahead. If she has no partner to help out then she still should have seen to these things herself. People always offer to "help" or "just let me know what you need", there are few people who really expect to be given a list of chores to do in response to words that are often just said and not meant. I guess I'm just old school but I managed to have two children with a husband that was traveling and constantly busy with a brand new business and zero family nearby after moving to a brand new town across the country with an 8 week old first child. I planned ahead, was organized and I had zero problem keeping up with my house and newborn. It's not rocket science, if I can do it anyone can do it. I'm sorry that you didn't have the experience of a community coming together in your time of need and that you and your