Speaking to someone you've never met is easy. The secret is to avoid waiting too long, because if you do, someone else might talk to him first. Then he will be gone. Take a deep breath, think of a good salutation, and go for it! It will make them feel more comfortable about the subject in the conversation. Practice smiling and saying "Hello" with every stranger you meet. You will be surprised how many people respond positively. Practice " small talk " too. This will build your comfort level and help you be more relaxed. And you may make more new friends in this process. As you get to know someone, they become more comfortable with you. The secret is to never push their comfort level. Start talking to them from a safe distance, but not so far away that they cannot hear you. As they become more comfortable, you can move closer. If they appear uncomfortable, then give them space and slow down. If they are already speaking with somebody else, consider whether they would want you to break in to that conversation. Generally, if people are standing in a closed circle or making direct eye contact, the group is not ready to welcome newcomers. If they stand with a space in the circle, that is usually an invitation for others to join the group. Remember what they say, and refer to it next time you talk to them. That will show you paid attention. Think of how you