And now is pregnant with what was twins until her 21st week. And now is faced with the fact that she's going to deliver one healthy baby and one not-growing fetus. That she's going to have to name and bury, again. And yet? so amazing and positive. Which makes me hope she's got someone to confide in. I am so, so sorry to hear this happened to you. Made me cry for you and your family. I think a lot of the reason we don't talk about things like this is that we are very afraid to say the wrong thing. It's such a huge thing that happened to you, and so unfamiliar to me; how do I figure out how to offer you even a sympathetic shoulder, if I could? What if I were to mess it up and somehow offend you just because I haven't been there and therefore I can't understand, not really ... so ordinarily I would say as little as possible and at least both of us are safe from me being an idiot, that way. That's why it is so valuable when someone who has been through your experience can describe it so perfectly, and so movingly, because then people are less scared to talk about it and offer all the sympathy and love they can; your writing is so lovely and so friendly and so exact that readers feel they are understanding a little bit about what happened to you; enough, at least,