it.  I think that we are thinking people, who care and do not want to spoil things for our children or spouses without being sure it is the right thing to do. Quite frankly, it is refreshing to be amongst company that does not judge, but tries to work it out.  If we wanted moral guidance we could go to a church or a different site. Finally, if you really find this 'pile of poo' so offensive it might be best to avoid it in the future! Your own distaste should not prevent us from using it! Out of interest if admin are reading this do you have a view on the way we are using this site? April Never thought I would see the day but I agree with looby here! I am fed up with clicking on latest activity and this thread coming up day in day out. You are all selfish and we are all capable of being homest and trustworthy, it is certainly not a nice trait to gloat about being untrustworthy and deceitful, something that I think has happened on this thread lately. You may not be able to control who you fall in love with, but you are certainly able to be in control of your actions. You do not have to start an affair because you are unhappy! You can walk away, although the women on this thread seem to want comittment from the affair men firat, something that is almost laughable as