and looking the picture of a health when you get into the doctors room Nobody told me about the 'poo' thing during childbirth. And that the first few nappies you change seem to contain a black tar-like substance and not poo (but after a few months, you'll really want the black tar-like substance back!) it's ok to make up the rules as you go along and you don't have to judge yourself or your kids by what the next mom is doing! And that being a mom is the most special and precious gift anyone can give you and love and cherish every single second of it (and take as many photos as possible).