members and act as a buffer during the meal. Reality Check #5: Self-care is essential to maintaining your tempo during the holidays . This may sound obvious but make an effort to relax; walk the dog, go skating, watch a movie. Be alone for a few minutes or hours to reduce stress. Take downtime to snooze, read or relax -- you have earned it! Laugh -- rent a funny movie, listen to a comedian or simply find funny friends! Laughing is a very important component to a happy and healthy life. Music is also a great motivational tool. For those days when you cannot bear the thought of walking through the front door or tackling the mountain of washing/paperwork, listen to music that energizes you. Yes it is important to keep old traditions alive but be open to new ones as well. Good memories are the unique ones that will be cherished by your entire family. There is no excuse now. Go have fun, make memories and enjoy making sure that grandma doesn't drink too much eggnog. This column is FREE to use on your websites or in your publications. However, Troy Media , with a link to its web site, MUST be credited.