Why All The Drama? A question for you!  Why do you think it's okay to talk to people in a way that is abusive?  I am disheartened by the way in which some people conduct themselves in this area of communication, especially in personal and professional relationships.  It is NEVER okay to be abusive in your communication in my books; there is NO excuse for it. And yet, the recipient of this communication allows it.  So the purpose of my BLOG today is to talk about boundaries, where communication is concerned. 'Treat others as you would like to be treated' is an old statement but one that seems to have lost its standing in human relationships today.  When, for example, I facilitate live coaching in seminars around verbal abuse, some look at me in total confusion for what they have become so desensitized to is that any abuse from the 'default -- disempowered state', is verbal abuse -- no two ways about it.  When one is used to a default-default based relationship, one where both parties are not responsible for what comes out of their mouths, one relates to this as being the norm -- FAR FROM IT! Power-power based relationships are the only relationships that can grow and sustain themselves.  For this to happen both parties have to be responsible for how they communicate.  I challenge anyone to argue this point:  We all know HOW to communicate in a way that serves the other party, HOWEVER, when we are