you and P's wife now? Im sorry to hear that but I wish you strength to handle this uncomfortable and distressing situation. Sooner or later, affairs usually come out in the open and perhaps you can turn it around to something positive out of it? I know it sounds impossible at this mo but when all these are over, you can start a new, fresh beginning without feeling the need to look back your shoulder anymore. At least its all out in the open. Its not entirely your fault, it takes two to tango so don't feel all the blame is on you. And P must be unhappywith the marriage in the first place to have an affair with you. Please update us. Will be thinking of you. K, its true what you said. Sometimes when you take a step back and be a bit more relaxed with men, they seem to wonder about you and come running after you instead. And if a guy is really keen on you, he will find a way to get in touch. Don't find excuses for him. Ever seen the film or read the book; He's Just Not That Into You? Jenny, I have lose interest with W. I think I have gotten over him and am now moving on. I feel I am better off without him and all the stress involved. It also has a lot to do with my self dignity. I want an All or Nothing relationship, if he