that kid will be coming to a home that's been ready and waiting rather than one that's kind of rushed. We want to have children, and I get tempted to do it now/soon, but we're still planning to wait at least until I finish my residency (a one-year proposition, as a chaplain), and possibly wait the additional almost-year until my husband has a job, rather than being in school, to start trying. (Our plan, from our early discussions on, has been to wait until we've been married 2 years, first.) Sometimes it gets hard, when it seems like everyone I know is pregnant/has a new baby (I'm 28). But it would be good to have a source of income that isn't my work, first... And @Margie, if you're reading this- it's uncomfortable, for me as a Jew, to have my synagogue referred to as a church. And our religion has different teachings about fertility and conception than yours does. Traditional Jewish law says that while men have an obligation to reproduce, women technically do not (although, of course, one leads to the other), because you can't obligate someone to put their life in danger, which childbirth does. Therefore, contraception that works only within/on the woman's body is permitted- and some others are as well, in situations where there is a health risk, etc. Judaism also believes that sex has more purposes than reproduction, although we value that very highly. Nevertheless, a man is obligated to have sex with his wife,