to take charge of his own life. Hence; I am co-dependent! I am a yogi, who sees him as another person lost, needing direction. But he doesn't want my help. Lately, I just shut up, because he rages at the drop of a hat. I don't know what I'm seeking here, but courage to be my own woman and not let this man or any man; treat me poorly. He's done great things for me too, life changing gifts, but he is not the peaceful yogi, I am seeking to become. I just don't want to toss out this broken man, because he is such a burden. At very least, he is my friend, whom I wish I could help. Goodness, did I answer my own questions??! You'll all tell me to leave asap, but I'm not going to run, just yet. It would be too much of a shock for both of us. I need to plan the move and be clear about it.....so we can both be prepared financially and emotionally. Thanks for listening to this confusing post. I seek some insight and a graceful way out; without a death on my hands- his! At yoga, the teacher spoke that we are not Victims. If we are in a situation that is not good or we are not happy; we are willing participants! AND, we can chose to go. This helped me alot. She was right; I was acting a Victim! He often plays the Victim, too. No