a positive step that your ex is wanting to have more contact with your son. If he is enjoying the existing contact then, he may be very pleased about this. Your son has the right to maintain a relationship with both parents as much as he can unless doing so puts him at risk of harm. This can sometimes be difficult in terms of logistics especially when parents live so far apart. It is disappointing to hear that mother does not make enquiries about him when she is not having contact (not sure why that is?) , that may be difficult for your son especially as he sees her so infrequently. At this age he is capable of speaking to her on the phone. I do note your comment about her family being heroine users and I am assuming that you have thought about this risk and it has been dealt with appropriately before the ordered for overnight contact. If you have any doubts over his safety, you owe a duty to him to protect him from those risks. If you accept that your son is benefitting from the current contact and is not at risk of harm then, I suggest the following : Contact -- if your son is enjoying the current contact, you should both talk about extending it and perhaps having indirect contact when he does not see his mother so that the relationship is enduring. Travelling -- It is not unusual for the court to order