way) he has wooed me, cared for me, sent me messages telling me to turn tv over and sweet caroline was playing, x's at the end of text messages.  Shown me all around his house, what his plans are, i've met his son... then on sunday we were ok he didnt pull away from any of my advances, but didnt instigate any either ( not talking sex, but hand holding and kissing on lips) i gave him a cuddle and he kissed my head.  He knows this week is the week where my partner moves out.  We had arranged to meet prior to this, but when i tried to contact him i got no reply.  I can't decide whether to call him tonight, i m now single (not because of him!) but also wondering has he not contacted me to give me space to sort this stuff out or has he lost interested.  Knowing him as i do he is not the sort of person just to ignore.  Please help put some perspective on this situation.  thank you. Wow, I'm so glad I stumbled upon this post.  I always thought I was the only one that was going through a messy situation. In a way, it gives me a tiny bit more peace from my guilt, knowing that we don't do this because we are selfish (debatable *sigh*) and don't love our spouses anymore.  I love my husband, but the sexual attraction just isn't there anymore. I recently started a