for my Jesus and my husband! Thankyou for this post! A friend of mine lent me her copy and said I should read chapters 7&8 so I could get the basic idea of the book. I'm so sorry that I did -- I doubt I will ever forget and I wish that I didn't have those word pictures in my mind. If I don't want my husband watching porn, should I be reading it? First of all, I'd like to say that I appreciate good conversation & respect different opinions. Discussing such a controversial topic is wonderful. I only have issue with one of your statements. I completely disagree that a husband looks at porn because his wife is failing in some way. Being married to a recovering porn addict is challenging & in the beginning I assumed it was in some way my fault. After numerous conversations with my husband, both our counselors, & leaders in our church I have learned that it has nothing to do with me. He was exposed at an impressionable age, sexually abused, & had this struggle long before we met. This is an extremely vital point in healing a marriage damaged by porn. Reason 1: We should not read Erotica because only our husband's should arouse us. So, skip reading Songs of Solomon in the Bible then. Also, the bible frequently refers to "laying" with a woman or "spilling his seed". You talk about how a friend can't get the images out of