on maternity leave. It is good for them and good for the child socially. It is sad if that time was used to have an affair, as you say, but I can't see this as being very relevant. It may also be difficult to prove 4 you sound like a great, attentive and loving dad. Please don't be afraid of losing your children. If there is a dispute, the courts appoint a children and families officer to prepare a report on what is in the best interests of your children. As your relationship is so strong and you are so dedicated and determined to do as much as possible for them, you may wish to seek a shared care arrangement where you do see them as much as your wife does. If its logistically possible shared care is a great starting point. If you feel that the marriage is defiantly over, try to concentrate on reaching an amicable agreement with your wife that benefits the children. You will have to work with each other making joint decisions for some time yet. Best to start off as you mean to go on if that is possible at this stage. Best regards Q. I have a child with a disability my sons dad is taking him for a week and has said that he is entitled to his disability money for that period I had already told him I wouldnt expect maintenance that week and would buy all his food, is he