up to an internet dating site and i know is actively seeking a long term relationship which i cant give!!!! - so i either leave my wife to be with her or she gets a new man and i get dumped. How can i continue with her even for the short term when i know she is flirting etc. Yes i know she is single and can do what she wants - i have spoken to her about this and she honestly wants to be together. Wha tdo i do???? (thanks for reading and i wish you all well and so much happiness with whats going on in your lives - i just want to hug you all hahahahaha) Mark WOW. looks like there are many of us around. My own feeling mirror many of those on here. My wife and I settled for one another. We often talked about it openly with one another , half joking but it was the truth. We get on fine, but we are complete opposites and i know she doesnt really appreciate many of the things about me that others like. Although she is kind and generous she can also creul and very short tempered. I used to fight it, but now I have reached a level of numbness which means i am beyonding caring. anyway, six months ago i got back in contact with my first love, Sallyann. it had been years since we had seen each other. we had been together