If his style of enjoyment becomes a matter of personal superiority and prestige, simple tranquility cannot be found. 31 In the world of pleasure and enjoyment, man is free to deal with reality in his own way, choosing those feelings and interactions which feed his warmth and pride. Because he accepts simplicity and the commonplace, he can convert otherwise neutral experiences into happenings which stimulate his affectionate nature and his readiness to accept self-confident excitement. Through his own inner resources he injects novelty into ordinary things. His ability to find simple beauty and goodness in this way enables him to throw off the burdens of the stresses of living and share with others his basic humanity. These faculties give automatic access to contentment and happiness and give the personality a place of rest from which worry and loneliness can be banished. Such capacities are well developed in psychologically healthy children, but often become remote or lost in adults. Whereas the child can count on the parental function to protect him from exhausting stresses, the independent adult must find sufficient self-awareness and self-control to set up such functions for himself. The world of pleasure and enjoyment is in some sense like a child's fantasy and play world. It is colored and energized by romantic and adventuresome states, but this is romance protected from sexuality and adventure separated from celebrative overflow. The success of such states requires that the world be kept clearly in focus, but this focus is on the surface