women do! Also have read websites about axiety and they just tell me that I need to be understanding and help out more. Confident, unless I work 24/7 I can't do anymore than I'm already doing. I'm crossing my fingers that he'll come out the other end, but have a dread that I'm simply wishing for something that won't ever happen. Not sure we should have to 'stick' it out. Not sure where I signed up to live unhappily for the remainder of my life because he can't pull himself together. Thanks for the vent. There's only so much you can talk to family about and feeling that I can be totally honest to people who are in the same boat. And thankyou for showing me that I need to do things for myself as well. Not sure how to fit it in, but will give it a go! I do love him and it kills me that I can't fix this like I've had to fix everything else. Sounds like a plan. But don't be disappointed if a change in surrounds doesn't change the turmoil at home. I'm not saying it won't but if the problems are 'at home' then wherever your 'home' is the problems may still be there. May be. Nothing is certain. I'm 2 years into this. I know that right now where you are at, 2 years seems impossible. I gave myself a 12mth deadline, but here I am, still pushing on. And you know