Resolved Question How can you get over the past? so you can move forward? I cannot forgive or forget somethings that my bf did, and I keep bringing those things up because they were so hurtful, and I cannot get past them. He says am a bitter person, although what I am now is as a result of his actions. I am afraid he would do those things again, which made me become less giving, less loving... He says I have a problem, I need to let go of the past, but how can I let my guard down? Best Answer - Chosen by Asker I can relate very well from experiences that I have had. There are a couple of ways to help determine your outcome on this relationship. Was what he did that hurtful and if it was and you can't let go then you probably won't ever let it go. This first gf I ever had cheated on me when and I couldn't let it go the whole time we dated. Later on after that we broke up and I ended up forgiving her but I won't forget it nor ever get back with her. What I am getting at is if you can't let go, like I can't, this sounds really abrupt but I can't be with people like that. I believe that people are able to think about what they are doing before they do something that will hurt their loved ones and if they