lover who died of AIDS 25 years ago is RIDICULOUS! He would have got ill long before now if he had been incubating HIV from that encounter, so you are twisting the truth to say that he lied or that he knew he was HIV+. No one knows if they are until they do a test. You seem to be focusing on how you feel betrayed, but this poor man has done nothing wrong. When he decided to take a test he told you the result. I feel so sorry for this poor man to have been jilted at a time like this. He didn't deserve that. As his partner you should have been supporting him at that difficult time. Perhaps you need to take a look at your own attitudes. A person having HIV does not need to destroy a relationship and does not need to be a rrisk to you if you continue to practise safe sex. Even the headline of this article confuses HIV and AIDS, mentioning 'someone who is disease-free'. People with HIV are disease-free, but they might go on to develop the disease AIDS if they don't receive proper treatment. Think about how betrayed your partner must feel. My advice would be to make things up with him and get over your fear of HIV+ people. Please don't throw away this relationship because your partner has discovered that he has a manageable, long-term health problem. As Pamela says, you can still have a happy sex