course I shut it down. The sad thing is, I cannot even remember the exact year/s of the divorce, it is still a blur, I recoiled so badly. So of course anyone who seems like my dad but who offers me love, protection, connection and listening to me seems just like what my sad little girl has been waiting for. I shall spend some time with 'her' tonight. Thanks for sharing, cheers Dianna. [...] few days I've been pondering the whole subject of 'unhooking' yourself from the 'hooks', the stories you tell yourself about why you're with someone, why you can&..., and even, why you miss them. As I explained,  we combine the hooks with the act of [...] Disinterest & Rejection -- You feel most drawn to a person when their interest is not returned or they cause you to feel rejected in the relationship. The less they want you, the more convinced you are that you want them It took me a long time to wake up to this fact that I was always attracted to the guy who had little interest in me as a person but I had great interest in them I haven't found all the reasons as to why this is but I have now come to realise I need to ask the question not Why am I not good enough for this man? but rather why do I think this person and their behaviour is acceptable to me? or why do I think