understand i was clueless. I had a huge change in my life, responsiiblities I was not prepared for, expecting my first child, still a newlywed, and a sudden mother of a new baby and toddler! It took adjusting, but he never could get it. He never noticed the things I did right, or the things I was working on... it was always the things I did wrong. I tried since 2007 to get him to consider counceling. He says he is fine. He doesnt need it. I'M the one with problems. And If I would just change everything I do we'd be fine. He said the way the kids act, the condition of the house, the finances, our relationship.... it is ALL up to me to fix. Then when I asked if he understood the supreme pressure that put on me, he shrugged. If I cry, he gets angry. We still have the nephews, plus a now 5 year old son and 2 year old daughter. He still treats the nephews with a "stepkid syndrome" even though he is the only father the youngest nephew has ever known. He told me on our anniversary this past spring "If it wasnt for these kids, Id have left you a long time ago" My OBGY saw I was depressed BOTH TIMES while expecting- he told me hubby both times to call him in 2 weeks after the births, to tell doc how I was doing. Hubby never did; doc ended up calling