a leaf. DD1 is v mature has been brought up to discuss emotions etc and she took it completely in her stride as if we were discussing the weather! No big deal no judging just compassion and understanding, ie you must feel v sad to do that. She could have taught a fare few adults about how to be non judgemental I can tell you. I have been acutely unwell twice in last couple of years and I know she has asked DH about whether I am SH again. I also teach about SH to Universities, teachers and medical professionals which she is well aware of. Hope this helps. Hi Samantha, Thank you for your response, it's very helpful Did you have the scars before your children were born? Had your DD1 seen your scars before the time when she asked? Has she ever had a friend ask her about them? Maybe i'm over thinking this and it's sounds like i may have a good few years before my DS may ask me...... Whenever i've been asked by young children or the special needs adults i used to work with, i just say i was in a fight with a Tiger....probably silly i know, but it feels that they're not mature enough to understand and i don't want to have them thinking it's a normal thing to do. I'm just worried about him asking me before he'll be able to comprehend the answer...... I'll stop thinking now lol Thanks again