appearance. Therefore all my feminist views are valid and not just random excuses because I can't be bothered to shave my legs. I have slept with men and have a male partner. That's the clincher, isn't it? How can I possibly hate men when I'm married to one? Why would he stay with me, what with him being a man and all? Indeed, this is the best bit of all: I can't possibly be an unreasonable person because I have a man who's willing to validate my existence. Therefore I'm a nice feminist. Or something. To be fair to myself, I don't actually think any of these things have any validity. But I'll be honest -- it does cross my mind that these qualities might be useful when I'm seeking to market feminism to others. Look at me! I'm a little heterosexual mummy wearing a flowery dress -- just how threatening can my arguments possibly be? Obviously I would like people to still be aware that I am NOT like Naomi Wolf. If the stereotype is that feminists are elitist idiots, then perhaps we should still mark the boundaries, albeit in a less personal manner. But as for the other stuff -- well, what the hell am I playing at? Do I seriously, deep down, have issues with someone actually being a "stereotypical" feminist? I don't think I do, but aren't I in some way playing along with the idea that certain "unfeminine" traits are negative, even though they're not?