without help from people who owe us so many favours... Do I sound bitter??? You bet!  But I will get over it in time I guess.... expat - the kittens are a huge success - we have both had more laughs since Milly, Molly and Misty arrived that I can remember.  Ian mentioned that when our business partner's wife was here last week learning the business admin ropes, he heard me laughing and it occurred to him he hadn't heard that in a while, so he gave in to the adoption of The Three M's.  Our tabby, Rosie, Ian and I are entranced and now that chemo is behind us I must start taking lots of photos before they grow up and become as sedate as Rosie.  Hope your husband's chemo goes well and that you two had some pleasure last weekend... My experience of friends in these situations pre-dates Jan having her cancer. We had a little string of people with serious conditions, including cancer. Mutual friends would often say: "Anything at all you want, any time, night or day, just call and I'm there for you." Jan and I would say: "We go to the supermarket every week at least once a week. We'll ring you before we go and anything you want us to buy for you we'll get it and drop it off to you on the way home. Sometimes we can change the day we go so if you need something urgently ring us and