guide whether it is in pretend play when barbie is sick and can't leave her tent, or in a "Easter egg hunt" in the basement. Learning happens and we don't even realize it. It is the activities that we participate in with children, that are not instruction based (schooling today is instruction based for example), that primarily shape development. I remember many such activities from my childhood. Navigating a Karachi meat market (Gol Market) with my uncle. I remember the smell of the meat, heads of animals with tongues hanging out, waiting in line, people arguing, I was an observer. I remember his sense of humor. I remember grocery shopping with my grandmother, walking a long distance, across the main road to get to the market. Haggling with fruit sellers, rotten vegetables lying on the ground would get stuck to my flip flops. I remember the heat, I remember my grandmother's smell (she was a big fan of talcum powder) and the cold perspiration on her unusually pale skin (we are all a lot darker than her). I remember my aunt's wedding, political unrest during the time, ladies cooking in a small kitchen for hundreds. In later years, I remember making tea for a lot of guests during my uncle's wedding, in a giant cooking pot. I have been told in stories that my grandfather used to walk me as a child to see some neighbour's chickens. I don't know how these social interactions shaped my development, but I know