comments seem to me to be closest to the mark. In the end, isn't it the case that promiscuous people seek out each other and sleep with each other, and us picky people prefer to sleep with our discerning opposites ? Nothing more repellent than an easy lay... Happyhippo, many women have told me that they are quite capable of abstaining for long periods of time (certainly longer than most men), but maybe the problem word in Taiho's post was "happily" (abstain). As for Kat29 and her "fuck-buddy", well, I must be old-fashioned, but sex for this man requires having a partner who is much more than a buddy. I play tennis with my buddies ! No, you are the one that is undermining feminism by telling Kate Taylor, Sylvia Ann Hewlett and Dawn Eden (all women, no?) what they should be thinking and writing about when it comes to female sexual attitudes. How repressive of you!! In biological terms, the fact that males produce enough sperm to repopulate Britain every few hours, and females eggs are a rather more precious resource does indicate that men are predisposed to having more sex than women, although that statment makes no comment on whether they desire to. Female choice, of course, is a cornerstone of sexual selection and evolution, massively more significantly than male choice. But one is always on very tricky ground when extrapolating (evidence based) animal behaviour onto humans. I think the problem here, is really the problem of having