but end up being misapplied, leaving victims of abuse with heavy yokes to bear. I'm not too sure I agree with the counselor's assessment even for your wife. She did need her attitude of entitlement to things she's not entitled to challenged. But she still has the same basic rights we all have. It's the things she thinks she has a right to but doesn't that needs to be challenged. As the adage goes, your right to swing your arm ends where my nose begins. I don't think the solution to that is to toss the concept of personal rights altogether. And yes, the framing of the question is wrong and is self defeating. How can it be possible for us to have a responsibility to love others (if they don't have the right to be loved, why do we have a responsibility to do it?) but apparently no one has the responsibility to love us? Why the double standard? By definition the law grants people rights, namely the right to have others do to us what the law tells them to do, and we have the responsibility to do the same to them. We do not suddenly become exceptions to the law on the receiving end -- especially if we are held to it on the giving end -- or the law means nothing. Take driving, for example. I absolutely have the right to expect the people with the red light to stop so I can go. I also