Is getting a piece of paper to say that you're committed to each other now just a token gesture? SHARE: Comments ( 28 ) Hi there, Thank you for participating in Kidspot Social. We invite you to join now to continue posting as a member. Welcome! Click here to join and continue sharing your thoughts in Kidspot Social. Guest Member - 10:03 AM Tue-18-Oct-2011 I agree with the guest speaker talking about people change and are different along the track than at the beginning. I myself am married but am going through a spiritual change in myself and our marriage has been in the same spot for years and we are not moving on from the circle of problems. We shouldn't have married when we did and i have stayed in denial for a long time. I realized after having a baby, going through reflection of my own childhood and the repeated patterns of being with someone just to make everyone happy is not the way to go. Children need to grow up around love, happiness, support, appreciation, nurturing relationships as they soak and sense anything and everything that affect the family. I believe in true happiness which comes from within and we can not truely love and be happy with anyone else unless we are competely comfortable and happy in our own skin and mind. The need for marriage i see is ingrained in our brains the only way to 'live happy' but this is a superficial reason. Some