- you are a wise old owl!!!  Our nearest neighbours, about 200m down the road, have been the only ones to follow through.  They feed the cat (now cats) when we need to be away, move the weaner heifers (cows) when we don't want to venture outside, actually listen when they ask how either of us are doing and they are the only ones who do so. They arrive up at our house every now and then with fresh, warm scones and we talk about anything and everything and cancer.  Tony listened when I said we had two truck loads of firewood in the driveway that I had better stack.  The next morning when our blinds were still closed (and zzzzzz's still coming out the bedroom windows) he snuck up to stack the firewood for us (although Ian had felt up to throwing it into a tidy pile while I was busy with the business books - no anal. Swiss stacking for us I fear). I guess it's no surprise to hear they both lost both parents to cancer so they've walked the walk...  Another friend was texting - such a dispassionate, removed way of supporting don't you think.  I asked if she'd ring from time to time instead.  Now she rings at 1pm every Sunday and you know there's been a major disruption in her house if she's late - but at least she rings.  Another friend (for whom we have done untold favours) texted this morning saying hope