no magic answers to be found on this site. If I could wave a magic wand and make everyone's problems go away, believe me I would, but a lot of the time it's not where you're going but how you get there that's important and the same applies in your journey to stop self harm. As you work on the issues that you have to deal with you will find out new things about yourself, and realise that you are much, much stronger than you give yourself credit for. To begin this journey then, you need to start exploring the reasons why you self harm. You can do this on your own, and we have things that can help you, but you'll need to be prepared to deal with the answers you get. If you can get the support of a therapist, friend (online or off) or family member who you can communicate with and trust it becomes easier to explore these issues, but however you decide to examine yourself it will become clear what it is that is lies at the root of your self harm. Next you need to establish why you self harm. The list you've made of why you want to stop will be one of the things that helps you when you're looking at why you self harm, and when you're dealing with the urges to. Examining the reasons behind your self harm We all know the urge to self harm; the way it feels