I met remarked about her husband in the late stages of lung cancer, appear to "have one foot in the next world." He may begin to sleep a lot and become irritable when fatigue and limitations interfere with his ability to care for himself as he did in the past. Having a support system and taking care of yourself is very important at this stage of the journey, both for your own well-being and so you can support your loved one with cancer as well as possible. The Final Days During the final days, your loved one may begin a phase known as "active dying." Rather than an event in which the body simply turns off, researchers now believe that dying is an active process the body is designed to go through. Physical signs you may notice in these last days include: Breathing becomes irregular. Rapid, deep breaths may alternate with periods of very shallow breathing ( Cheyne-stokes respirations ). A gurgling sound (the death rattle ) may occur due to build up of secretions in the back of the throat. Perspiration increases, and the skin can feel wet and clammy. Emotionally, your loved one may become agitated, picking at the sheets or clothing. Confusion and hallucinations are common, and those who are actively dying often speak of seeing loved ones who have gone before. In the last few days, she may have a surge of energy, sitting up if she has been bedridden, or eating a full meal after