now, familiar and happy with. Or you can just get rid of your tools full stop. It might be a bit daunting, or be a cause for a bit of anxiety, but by now you'll be using your tools very little. Throwing them away for good just reaffirms that you don't need to self harm anymore. How to stay stopped Even though you've stopped self harming, it's still a good idea to keep examining your thoughts and feelings. Doing this, and getting to know yourself and your moods better, is one of the key ways by which you've been able to quit, so to stop looking at yourself is a pretty good way of leading yourself back down that slippery slope; pushing feelings into the corner of your mind and isolating yourself. All of the things I've mentioned so far are good things to keep doing. Exercise helps you keep physically and mentally fit; being creative helps your mind stay active and being sociable allows you to build your confidence and self esteem. If you find it hard to make yourself keep doing these things then create a routine. Set yourself targets and things that you want to do; if you try to think of it as being like a revision timetable (only hopefully more fun!) and do something each day it will soon become routine. You could then think of adding in more things, for example taking up judo, or getting up a bit earlier on Sunday and doing