as you: His/her actions are unacceptable and you make it clear to them -don't have to make it clear to them through reacting / speaking from emotions / feelings within you. Let me know if you require further perspective: I am here. Alice B. Ok this is very clear to me, and also answered some more questioned I had and wanted to post. Thank you.Oh and when I think : the person did a cruel thing to the animal, is that a judgement on that person and do I need to aply forgiveness for that? Because I think the person did a cruel thing, but I do not thing the cruelty is who the person is. So I dont see him/her as: a cruel person, like defining that that is who he/she is. Hi Ann Okay, this is where 'discernment' steps forth within and as self honesty as you: Understand that when you think 'the person did a cruel thing to the animal' -- you may not be judging the being, but you're judging the 'act' from the perspective of right / wrong. So -- if you react within you from the perspective of judging the act as 'right' / 'wrong', here I would suggest self forgiveness. Have a look: What the being is doing is not a matter of 'right / wrong' -- but rather realise that the being is currently in and of a mind placement and it is to make the being aware of what he/she is