kids to your ex, and your partner has two kids to his ex, by four years down the line alot of the problems have surfaced and been delt with or are a work in progress. As oposed to first time out marriages, where I honestly belive you dont foresee all the problems that could occur, when your doing it the second time round, and weve been living together as a married couple for 3 years 6 months, all the problems emerge quite early on. if we got through the first year together and we are still here now, together, happy and in love wanting forever together, then it must be good and it must be marriage material. I personally do not feel marriage is out-dated. It is not just a piece of paper, it is two people committing themselves to each other and no one else. It may not be what a lot of the world see's as the norm now days but I feel that is because so many people like to keep their options open or not feel tied down. Marriage is a beautiful sacred thing. For me it meant we were able to show our love for one another and how committed we were to one another, I always wanted to be married before I started a family and I am in my fourth year happily married with two little girls. Marriage is the beginning of a lifetime/eternity together, to me there is nothing greater than marriage