what they say that they want, because when it comes down to it, most women end up falling for guys that are not exactly a match for what they say that they want. 2. It will always be tough for you to get a girlfriend if you have a hard time talking to women. You need to at least be able to open a conversation with a woman, and get her talking so that you are not trying to make the entire conversation flow all by yourself. Having the ability to talk to women freely, but also in a way that builds up attraction will make it a LOT easier for you to get the response from women that you are after. 3. You need to be able to approach women that you do not know. The quickest way to get a girlfriend is to start approaching women that you do not know, so that you are opening up a lot more opportunities. One of the common things that guys who 'struggle' with getting a girlfriend is that they are too tentative about approaching with women they do not know. You have to get past this if you want to get dates quickly.