Book Description Release Date: Sep 23 2002 Caring for aging parents is exhausting, time-consuming and unappreciated, and that's under the best circumstances, when the caregiver loves and respects his or her aging parent. What happens when adult children are asked to care for elderly parents who were abusive, neglectful or absent? Here is a compassionate and practical guide to moving beyond anger, regret and grief in order to build healthy new family dynamics based on decency and mercy. Caring for aging parents is exhausting, time-consuming and unappreciated, and that's under the best circumstances, when the caregiver loves and respects his or her aging parent. What happens when adult children are asked to care for elderly parents who were abusive, neglectful or absent? Here is a compassionate and practical guide to moving beyond anger, regret and grief in order to build healthy new family dynamics based on decency and mercy. Indeed, Cade asks us, how do you take care of your parents, when they didn't take good care of you - and in fact may done have you harm? Cade, through interviews with adult caregivers and mental health professionals, encourages us to use the grieving process for the care-givers experience. Denial, Anger, Acceptance, and (eventually) Gratitude are stages in grieving that are broadly accepted in the mental health community. The call to action, if you want to call it that, is to find a motive for taking care of troubled parents that you can live with and live for. If you