It was the dehumanizing idea that being a living sacrifice means emptying ourselves of any desires we have. A desire to not suffer? Sinful. A desire to be loved? Sinful. It's a loss of identity: the idea communicated to an abused spouse is that he or she only exists to be oppressed for God's pleasure. This simply doesn't square with a God who is so concerned for us that He became one of us. It doesn't square with a God who repeatedly tells us His Word by using individuals with dreams, hopes, and desires. It doesn't square with the life and ministry of Jesus Christ, who empathized with people at the core of who they were. I also realized the framing of the question is all wrong. I've never asserted I had a "right" to anything. I am not entitled, and I've never thought I was. However, I do know I was created with a NEED to be loved, and not just loved by God but loved by other people. Why would the law be summed up as loving others if love from other humans wasn't a need God put in us? Can I be a living sacrifice to God and still desire love, a safe environment, a happy family, and all of the other things on the list? Desire and pursuit are not the same as entitlement. Did Paul ever give off a sense of being entitled to life? Yet clearly he pursued life as he was snuck outside