loans (or get a new job, or we buy a house, etc.) and he finshes his PhD (or gets that great promotion, or gets in the habit of helping out around the house, etc.), we'll start a family. If you can get him agree to these goals, and make a decision based on goals, he won't feel like you pressured him into having a family he wasn't ready for. I know many times those "neglectful dads" feel like they never wanted the kids in the first place, and this you must avoid. re: Q: Are We Ready For A Baby? We're getting married in June of 08, (6 months away) but I cant shake the thought of having a baby with my husband.. we've been together for almost 4 years as it is..and I just cant wait...I want to at least wait 6 months after the wedding..but then again i want to wait a year...just to see how everything goes..we already have our house with 2 extra bedrooms, and plenty of yard space.... How do i get myself to slow down and enjoy my soon to be hubby before adding another into the picture?! re: Q: Are We Ready For A Baby? I am sooo scared to have a baby!! I definitely want to be a mother and have a family, but I am afraid of the physical changes my body will undego, and labor terrifies me!!!! How do you become ok with the thought that your body could possibly