the ring bearers. I know that it's traditionally a male, but who cares? As I said, it's definately the right time, but it's also not. If you both feel you can cope with having the responsibility of a child, then chuck out the pill/condom/whatever. Just go for it. Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby? My fiance and I are expecting...and we have been together for 2+ years. I am 38, my fiance is 41. We realized there really was no better time than now to go for it. Nothing is ever perfect when you have a baby. I will never forget my old boss telling me: "You don't rearrange your life for the baby, you live your life WITH the baby" and I believe this 100%! We are full steam ahead on wedding plans AND honeymoon (baby or not)! And it's true...the later in life you wait to have a baby, the more secure work/finances etc. are....so we are DELIGHTED!!! Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby? I think that no matter how ready you may think you are how ready you may seem no one is ever ready for a child because they have never experienced their own. God tells us when he knows we can handle a child and that is when we become pregnant even when it seems that it is happening in the worst moments. Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby? elp. My husband and I have been married for 5.5