have a baby? Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby? veravanlaeys there is no way really to subside the baby fever. You just have to decide its not the right time and be ok with it. I was the same way when my husband and i got married almost 3 years ago and we did not start trying until last August. You just have to be truely ok with your decision as a couple. Also dont wait until you are overwhelmed with stressing about having a baby. My husband and i waited until we were about to bust and its been 9 months and still no sign of a baby. I actually had a miscarriage in January and its very hard to deal with when you are this overwhelmed with feelings of wanting a baby so dont get too crazy before you start :) Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby? I'm actually kind of struggling with this. DH and I were trying to get pregnant before he deployed, but ran into some fertility problems. Now, as I am preparing for his return he tells me that the idea of having a baby scares him and that he doesn't want me to talk to him about my fertility journey, just to tell him when I get pregnant. I don't like that at all, I feel like this needs to be OUR journey, not MINE. He thinks he will feel better when he actually sees his baby, but that