like that! You are absolutely correct in saying that society is much harder on an unattractive women than an unattractive man. Having strangers approach you in the street, for the sole purpose of informing you that you were "ugly" must have been heart-breaking. So I do not blame you one bit for taking appropriate measures to improve your looks. You did what you had to do. I'd venture to say that it was a form of social survival. That said, I believe you are under no obligation to tell future swains. However, if one should ask you directly, you should answer casually yet honestly. Eg "Yes, I fear my nose used to be rather crooked" or "Yes, my lips were out of proportion to the rest of my face". etc. Comments are submitted for possible publication on the condition that they may be edited. Please provide a name, you may use a screen name -- this will be published with your comment , and a working email address -- not for publication, but for verification. The suburb/location field is optional. ( Read our publication guidelines ). Subscribe Related Links Tools Email a friend To email this article to a friend, fill in the form below Your Name: * Your Email: * Recipient's Email: * Subject: Message: Your friend has suggested you might be interested in this blog post: Do I need to tell men I had plastic surgery? Monday, August 02, 2010 Dear Bossy: I was born ugly. Well, no