meant with my analogy. Previous bad experiences can sour future ones, so it's necessary to get rid of the bias coming from those experiences. And that's tricky precisely because new experiences are filed under "bad stuff" straight off the bat because of that bias. It's sort of a vicious circle. Exactly; it is bias. It's not the truth. I think, in order to break that "vicious cycle", one needs to accept that it's a false belief (which it certainly is ("this group of apples are rotten, therefore all apples are rotten" is a false statement)). Can't you leave your field to one side? Afterall, it is wrong to believe that "this group of apples are rotten, therefore all apples are rotten", isn't it? Last edited by Freudian on Tue Oct 30, 2012 1:17 pm; edited 1 time in total quote: I dont know why Im posting on this forum. I dont know why I am here on this forum or in life. Perhaps it fills a feeling of emptiness. Perhaps it provides you the emotional support that you require. Perhaps it simply makes you feel alot less lonesome. It's quite apparent that you do need someone to talk to. That's what a friend can provide you, and only you can help yourself develop the skills to acquire friends. Well, with abit of guidance, you might get there quicker. But you'll need to find that will to improve. quote: I dont know why Im not one of those people that are