How to Trust Him Again Can you trust him after a betrayal? Whether you've caught him in a major lie, or a full-blown affair , learning how to trust your guy again after he's betrayed you can be difficult, and feel almost impossible. But if you're set on trying and are both committed to getting past the temporary road bump , here's what you need to do to help start putting the trust back into your relationship: Get angry This doesn't mean stay angry, but allow yourself to be mad for a reasonable period of time. Don't hold back. Let out everything you're feeling with him (even if that includes screaming like a crazy woman), and talk it out with your friends and even yourself, in your private blog or journal. That way, you're not bottling anything up, and are giving yourself the chance to properly heal without hanging onto any resentment that could lead to problems in the future. You need to work through it on your own before you even start working on it with him. Accept that he's human Haven't you ever done anything horrible, said anything wrong, or purposely deceived someone? The point is, we all make mistakes, and we all deserve the chance to be forgiven. Your boyfriend may, at most times, seem like Mr. Perfect, but you have to recognize that he does have the ability to slip up -- and if he does, and genuinely regrets it, he should be entitled a second