you dont have to own a house to have enough room, but hopefully you live in a quieter apartment area. and money is a huge concern, but well thought ought planning i am sure wlill make becoming a parent much easier:) but in reality, no one ever has the PERFECT IDEAL situation for having children so dont get too discouraged if certain things arent worked out yet! Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby? I so incredibly want us to be ready now but i know im miles ahead of my partner. Whenever i say things like 'when we have kids...' he always says he doesnt want them but i know that he does, thats just his way of being scared about it and saying hes not ready. He was brought up terribly and i know he doesnt want our child to be brought up the same way. He says that we still have years to do all that stuff (get married, babies, etc.) but i feel like ive done all of my partying and drinking all night and being a child. His childhood was just that, a childhood where he got to be a child, whereas mine was full of responsibility and being a big sister, i was changing nappies and feeding and taking care of my baby brother at 10 years old, ive been in this baby business for years and pretty much know the in's and out's. Im 21 years old and i have never been