to the lovely Dan Jasper and his equally lovely wife. She's hoping to start a PhD in August, but until then is filling her time with her poly family, knitting, baking and writing the occasional blog post for her blog, http://morethantwo-lessthanthree.blogspo\\... 2 Responses to Independent Women and Fairytale Endings Isobel, thank you for articulating so well something I've wondered about on many occasions. I, too, was brought up with the 'being swept off my feet,' 'happily ever after' fairytale.... and then later taught that I should never depend on anyone and never let a man determine my happiness. But now? I have someone who I love with all my heart and hope I never have to live without. Would life go on if we were to break up? Yes, of course. But it would suck a whole, whole lot and that's not something I ever wish to experience. I, too, have asked myself if this means I am 'not really' poly. I mean, can I love someone THAT much and still be poly? The answer I came to after much soul-searching was, yes, I can. The great thing about poly is all relationships don't need to be the same. I know I can love more than one at the same time. I also know most partners/lovers/sweeties I have won't be a Big Earth Shattering Love. Those come along infrequently. But this one is... and that's great! I'm still poly. Just poly and madly in love! So, yes, I need this