in teen issues for more than 30 years. She currently practices in New City, New York, and New York City. Visit askarden.com Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul -Emily Dickinson You thought your husband or partner could push your buttons, but that was before you had her. Daughters, particularly teenage daughters, are gifted in the art of the comeback, the shoulder shrug, the eye roll. And what's really amazing is the way it affects you. Think about how your face gets so hot after your daughter says "You ruin everything!" or "You don't know what you're talking about!" Perhaps your daughter reminds you of yourself when you were her age and all the growing pains you experienced. Maybe you see yourself in her, your good points as well as your not-so-good ones. Or maybe you feel you don't have anything in common with your daughter and can't relate to her. No wonder the relationships between mothers and daughters can be so emotionally charged. Being the mother of a teenage daughter can be downright alarming. Consider these bald facts: More than 30 percent of girls-that's nearly one in three-becomes pregnant at least once before the age of twenty. In the United States, one in every ten births involves a teen mother. Seventy percent of teen girls who are sexually active say they wish they had waited. Nearly 63 percent of teens try alcohol before their eighteenth birthdays; 41 percent before they even reach the eighth grade