Counseling. All of the concerns you have expressed on here are valid and should be shared with your counselor. In order for your counseling experience to be helpful you will have to open up completely so that the counselor can be able to make educated decisions on what path of therapy is right for you and your husband. I feel for you and hope that talking to someone helps your husband open up and discuss you guys future together instead of felling so overwhelmed that he explodes on you again. My prayers are with you. Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby? I can NOT shake the feeling of wanting a baby. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, and I am SO ready. He would be ready too, however, we have a lot of student loan debt that we really want to pay down first, but that is going to take years, and it makes me depressed to think we'll have to wait that long for a baby :( Why can't we just win the lotto or something? Ha. Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby? Right now I think I am at a good point in my life to have a baby. I love where we live, its close to both families. We are finacially stable. I think age wise this is a good time. I've been with my fiance for four years and we both think a baby would help enrich and