they are very much the centre of their own world. Scott connected her daughter's natural curiosity about pregnant bellies to the general idea of being born and being adopted, and then focused on specific information that her daughter could relate to her daily life. "We told her, 'Enat carried you in her belly and Enat loved you. She wanted you to have everything you needed to grow big and strong, good food and a place to play, but Enat knew she couldn't give you that. So she asked for help, and we went to Ethiopia to get you, to help Enat," Scott recalls. Avoid the nitty-gritty details What kids don't need at this point are the nitty-gritty details that could cause them to experience emotions they aren't ready to handle. Complex and painful factors, such as poverty, international circumstances or fertility struggles, are far beyond the grasp of young children. Stick to the basic facts that satisfy your child's curiosity and help him feel secure, and hold off on the more complicated stuff until the child is older, Pure advises. Keep it simple Keep your own feelings in check too, and be comfortable telling a simple, loving version of your child's adoption story. Scott was careful not to talk about it in an overwhelming way. "The overall messages were of love and support. We're open and honest, but I don't get overly emotional about the story," she says. Enjoy the process It also helps to think of the adoption talk