Best Answer - Chosen by Asker Oddly enough, extremes create spontaneity. For some people, it is the extreme of self-confidence and an inner sense of security that allows them to be spontaneous. For others, it is the LACK of these qualities, provoking great inner tension that is only released in bursts of spontaneity. Interesting view! I am not spontaneous and like routines with predictability! I'm not very adaptable and don't like change! It seems to get worse as i get older! I don't like new things... i can't ever work them properly which then irritates me! Everything gets more complicated. More to go wrong! I know. I am 63. I have to work harder at staying flexible ... when I was young, it was no problem. When we see ourselves start to tense up in new/unexpected situations, we have to deliberately relax into the situation. We have to be a bit of a parent and tell ourselves, "now, now .. it's okay". Other Answers (3) Hello Shoes, it is mainly due to the "Self Confidence". If one is fully confident about his skills and ability to love others then he becomes so spontaneous. In my case I enjoy such situations often but not all the time. If we attain such spontaneity then we can be free as if we have total freedom from bondage. This is the state of attaining Cosmic Consciousness.