chance. Wouldn't you want the same from him if the situation were reversed? Team up If you've been thinking that since he's the one who royally messed up, you'll be sitting back while he fixes the relationship solo, you'd be wrong. Rebuilding trust takes effort and commitment from both ends. You need to communicate and work together if you really want to overcome your issues. While you look for ways to help regain your ability to trust, he needs to focus on proving that he's truly worthy of that trust. Keep it in the past This doesn't mean to never talk about it, but once you've both said all you really can say about what he's done, there's no reason to keep rehashing it and rubbing how wrong he was in his face. You can't really let go of something and get beyond it if you keep bringing it up and arguing about it. Plus, you have to remember; your man is not his mistake. You have to separate the person from the behaviour, and honestly, guilt-tripping him will end up doing more harm than good. Be patient Rebuilding trust takes time, sometimes a lot more than we'd like. But you need to realize and make peace with the fact that things can't immediately go back to how they were before he betrayed you, and that you won't start feeling better about it overnight. While it may be hard to remain patient, keep in mind that in the long run,