have good careers, and as federal employees, there is tons of job security and knowing that they'll work with us on alot of upcoming choices. Hubby turned 28 back on Friday (found out this Tuesday) and I turn 26 next Tuesday. Q&A: Are we ready to have a baby? my fiance and i have been engaged 6 months and were just starting to plan our wedding when i found out i was 6 weeks pregnate. We are both young-- i am only 20 and he is 23-- and i am still in school (and have a long 2 more years + medical school + res. ahead of me). But the truth of the matter is, you will never be "ready" when it happens, but when it does, you're ready. All of the things you would have thought you would be "giving up" turn in to silly little nothings. Plenty of people have successful carrers with children. My mother had 3 children all through medical school and residency and is now a very distingushed and good psychiatrist..... and an AMAZING mom. You shouldnt worry about partying or your carrer when it comes to having children. They are a blessing, not something that will hold you back and i promise you the second you find out you have a baby on the way, you will completely understand this. Heck, i am 20 and still in school and i thought having a baby would ruin that, but in reality, it only motivates me