Title: to_tf_dataset with a TF collator causes bizarrely persistent slowdown
State: closed

### Describe the bug

This will make more sense if you take a look at [a Colab notebook that reproduces this issue.](https://colab.research.google.com/drive/1rxyeciQFWJTI0WrZ5aojp4Ls1ut18fNH?usp=sharing) 

Briefly, there are several datasets that, when you iterate over them with `to_tf_dataset` **and** a data collator that returns `tf` tensors, become very slow. We haven't been able to figure this one out - it can be intermittent, and we have no idea what could possibly cause it. The weirdest thing is that **the slowdown affects other attempts to access the underlying dataset**. If you try to iterate over the `tf.data.Dataset`, then interrupt execution, and then try to iterate over the original dataset, the original dataset is now also very slow! This is true even if the dataset format is not set to `tf` - the iteration is slow even though it's not calling TF at all!

There is a simple workaround for this - we can simply get our data collators to return `np` tensors. When we do this, the bug is never triggered and everything is fine. In general, `np` is preferred for this kind of preprocessing work anyway, when the preprocessing is not going to be compiled into a pure `tf.data` pipeline! However, the issue is fascinating, and the TF team were wondering if anyone in datasets (cc @lhoestq @mariosasko) might have an idea of what could cause this.

### Steps to reproduce the bug

Run the attached Colab.

### Expected behavior

The slowdown should go away, or at least not persist after we stop iterating over the `tf.data.Dataset`

### Environment info

The issue occurs on multiple versions of Python and TF, both on local machines and on Colab.

All testing was done using the latest versions of `transformers` and `datasets` from `main`

Comments:
wtf

Couldn't find what's causing this, this will need more investigation

A possible hint: The function it seems to be spending a lot of time in (when iterating over the original dataset) is `_get_mp` in the PIL JPEG decoder: 
![image](https://user-images.githubusercontent.com/12866554/214057267-c889f05e-efaf-4036-b805-c5381fa62f4a.png)


If "mp" is multiprocessing, this might suggest some kind of negative interaction between the JPEG decoder and TF's handling of processes/threads. Note that we haven't merged the parallel `to_tf_dataset` PR yet, so it's not caused by that PR!

Update: MP isn't multiprocessing at all, it's an internal PIL method for loading metadata from JPEG files. No idea why that would be a bottleneck, but I'll see if a Python profiler can't figure out where the time is actually being spent.

After further profiling, the slowdown is in the C methods for JPEG decoding that are included as part of PIL. Because Python profilers can't inspect inside that, I don't have any further information on which lines exactly are responsible for the slowdown or why.

In the meantime, I'm going to suggest switching from `return_tensors="tf"` to `return_tensors="np"` in most of our `transformers` code - this generally works better for pre-processing. Two relevant PRs are [here](https://github.com/huggingface/transformers/pull/21266) and [here](https://github.com/huggingface/notebooks/pull/308).

Closing this issue as we've done what we can with this one!