Guidance About Marriage
I’m so sorry for interfering but I really want to advice you to post pone legal separation for atleast a year. Just want to point out the current situation you and your wife are in, is an inherently stressful one. A mother of two very young children and pregnant with her third might be facing physical, emotional and physiological exhaustion/ even alterations due to pregnancy symptoms, likewise that is likely to reflect on your mental health aswell. Postpartum can be even tougher ( I have seen very strong women have mental breakdowns during this period). So maybe, in a year u will find things are a little better. Perhaps u guys just need a little time off ( without the context of divorce)- maybe she can live with her parents for a few months ( that would be the toughest 3 months postpartum out of the way for you to rest away from the relationship aswell) and u can send money, visit and take out the older kids for play dates frequently. I’m sure u guys got along well enough once upon a time since u have 2 beautiful girls together. Sometimes temporary circumstances can bring out the worse out of two people who might feel the other is failing them. Maybe in a year those circumstances change enough for the both of you too be more receptive to one another. Also please consider couples therapy as a last effort because u seem to genuinely want the best your girls and ofcourse they deserve the world. Forgive me if I overstepped in such a private matter, I certainly don’t know your circumstances but I see couples in tough situations and sometimes things don’t get better but other times they do.