Acts Leading To Fornication / Zina
No, you don’t even go close if you have those feelings, forget about touching
I think that you might be referring to this video: https://youtu.be/l16ad6WN0Q0 In Ghamidi sahab’s opinion, fornication is one of the greatest sins, and one should not even get close to it . What he is trying to explain in the latter part of the video in reference to a reported hadith is that there is no harm in two people meeting with the intention of getting married – real act that’s forbidden is the intercourse. If two people still get carried away and get very close to intercourse but then turn back with the fear of God, they won’t be held accountable for it. So again, the point is that it’s fornication that’s really forbidden, not meeting someone of an opposite gender. What he said should be understood in it’s due context, not as a license to intentionally get close to fornication and then stop before intercourse.