Tafseer By Ibn Kathir Of The Quran (3:14)
Since reference is missing in that part so I am assuming this hadith being referenced there htt ps://sunnah.com/bukhari:506 This hadith is words of Hazrat Abbass not Prophet.
The hadith which you are referring to is different from that cited in Ibn Kathir’s tafseer. Hadith cited from your end is attributed to Ibn Abbas and it specifically mentions our Prophet (SAW) but that of Ibn Kathir’s is attributed to our Prophet (SAW) which talks about the Ummah. I have cross checked this Hadith cited by Ibn Kathir on several other portals and it is the same. Secondly, in the tafseer of the same ayat by Ibn Kathir, a Hadith “`A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said, “Nothing was more beloved to the Messenger of Allah than women, except horses,” and in another narration, “…than horses except women.” Now, people like us who are not Mufassireen, when they come across such Hadiths, it creates a picture in our mind that seems to be against the principles of the Quran and Sunnah. Since Ghamidi Sb has done a yeoman service in the field of interpretations of the Quran, Sunnah and the Hadiths, it is requested to trace the origin of such Hadiths and if they are found to be of the level of Sahih or Hasan, should then be adequately explained in the light of the Quran and the Sunnah.
As far as the saying of Hazrat Ayesha is concerned, it is not against the principles of Islam. Some things of beauty are mentioned there, including women, which were given priority.