Criterias To Apply Sadd-E-Zariya Principle
@UmerQureshi sir I understand what you say. however now I’ll come to epicenter of the reason of asking this question. Sir in cases of individualistic examples, the fear is about where will I receive the “minor sin” for doing anything that is in itself not Haram. where will it be counted as a violation and hence minor sin added in my counter. I’ll explain the framework of my question in an example: I and a girl like each other a lot and we want to marry. she’s from a pious family. one day I got to know that almost after every meal her family raises there hand to do Dua together and thank Allah. My brain started working on a scenario about where [I am not about to make Dua previously but while sitting with the family. after the meal as I see then raise hand for Dua, i felt peer pressure as I’ll be the odd one out to not do Dua so then I also raise hand]. this seems Riya Now mathematically in my mind 4 levels came to avoid such major sin 1 – When they pray like this then I control my nafs and if I was not at that time motivated to do Dua with sincerity, then I should bear the peer pressure and sit there as I am. 2 – I excuse myself from table after eating, to go to washroom just when they are about to begin Dua 3 – after marriage, i don’t go to their dawat and eat with them, potentially blocking any chance of pressure. 4 – Not marry her at all Now i as a Muslim know that i have to save myself from major sin. all these things are potential ways to keep myself away from major sin. but their potency to protect against the sin are not same. the potency is increasing with 4 being the most potent. if i go for 1 i will be able to protect myself in many instances but in some few instances i might slip into peer pressure. Keeping myself on 2, it is more potent then 1, where i would be able to do better but again there can be some instances i.e i forgot to get up or couldn’t finish meal before or due to any other reason. but still the frequency and chance will go further down. Then if i resort to 3 , this narrow downs the door to major sin further but it deprives us of benefits as well. the 4th option is the most potent and the only option which we can say will close the door to such sin fully, and the only option about which we can say gives us the idea that the frequency of sin and chances of it comes to effectively zero. but this option comes with a heavy price of deprivation of a lot of benefits and not marrying the person i am emotionally attached to. a example breakdown to just give an idea of my concept Option 1, decreases the frequency of sin such as 20 times of Riya happening during the lifetime of marriage and lifetime of gathering with option 2, it comes down to 10 incidents in the lifetime with option 3, it comes down to 5 with option 4 it comes down to zero. as no marriage means no meals together. So sir here i want to ask that where will i receive the minor sin? my intention to keep myself away from major sin is there and my efforts too. but if i marry her, will it be counted as a violation of sadd e zariya and I’ll continue getting minor sin as long as i am in this marriage? if marriage is not a minor sin, then will going on meal invitations to them will be considered violation and i receive minor sin? a similar framework would go for friendship, with different levels and the most potent being not starting a friendship at all. I am just trying to make you understand what fear comes in my mind that , what if this that I’m doing will be considered a minor sin. what if my friendship with this friend is keeping me under constant minor sin and violation of sadd e zariya. what if my mere marriage with such a girl will earning me minor sins etc?