Is My Relationship With My Boyfriend Problematic?
It’s a principle answer (Although the reference was to Christians and Trinity being polytheistic in nature obviously). A Muslim must think about religion when they get married. If you were already married when you asked this question, it could have been tolerated but now this problem sits in front of you as well. Exception to this was when Islam became a dominant religion and God allowed Muslim men to accept Christian and Jewish wives because they would eventually convert and the child born will definitely follow the dominant religion of the father. But now Islam is not dominant nor are you the husband. Your marriage will be a problem. So I advise you caution. (Usually most people in your situation convince their partner to convert before marriage). If you two were Muslims and had a public relation, in ignorance, it would have been closer to a Nikkah and tolerable until you get married as you hoped but that’s not the case as I pointed out, with him not being a Muslim.
I hope the following is helpful: 1- If I were in a situation where some drastic decisions, lifestyle changes, or a significant shift in worldview would entail based on Allah’s clear commands, I’d take that opportunity to better understand all matters of faith (e.g. we all must refuse career and business opportunities if it’s not a halal business); 2- Most important point in faith after tawheed is keeping focus of worldly life such that our fate in “akharat” is not at risk. 3- Faith in Allah and the day of judgement provides strength and good guidance in making big decisions in life, wisely.