Toxic Parents And Their Status In The Quran
I think everyone knows what toxicity is, even a child does. Of course one must not disrespect his parents, that’s an absolute no. Properly disciplining through kindness is a mercy on its own but toxic parents are different and mostly take on vulnerable kids who actually can listen and learn without any harsh treatment but they do it for their own purposes, such as to control their children and make them their slave in a sense and when the child confronts them, they bring out a verse of the Quran to make it mean that a child shouldn’t even talk back to his parent even when abused even if the talkback was just out of frustration to the abuse, not an insult. Children are supposed to feel safe when their parents are home not the other way around. It disgusts me honestly that how nowadays people take this lightly and make it a part of their culture and share on social media skits about parents beating their children to spread laughter and love for their such behavior
I am not sure what it means by parents making a child a slave. The parents pay for everything for a child from their hard earn money. Everyone in the family is suppose to take care of their own responsibilities and others responsibilities too. Working together in a family for each other is not a slave but a proud and honorable thing. More than that it is fair that if parents are paying for everything, in return the child does his chores and chores for the family as a whole too. When you work, that is exactly what you do. Actually an employer pays you less than the worth of your work and tries to pay you as little as possible while keeping you from quitting. All the money a person receives from a salary mostly is spent in paying taxes and bills and most people actually incur debt just to pay bills. Some kids say that it is parents responsibility to pay for child’s all needs because they gave birth to a child. Well, their main responsibility is to provide guidance and knowledge and barely minimum or according to their means pay for the survival of the child. That is reasonably able food, shelter, clothing, education and medical. Nothing more. Rest is optional. If they are paying for those things a child has responsibility is to do chores. Some kids say why they give birth to me. We’ll they did not specifically invited that particular child. They just placed a general order for a child. Also it is child’s responsibility to learn and mature as soon as possible to be independent. If the child is slowing down this process by wasting time, then parents have the right to push in respectable manner. If the child doesn’t listen then at 18 throw him out to learn himself practically.