How Do I Be Grateful To An Abusive Parent?
Assalam-o-Alaikam. It is rare that parents are abusive, unless they are themselves in a great stress or having psychological issues. In such case, it is difficult to blame them. The best, if possible, is to avoid encountering them and staying quiet or respond as little as possible. Remember we are in a test, we need to pass our test. I have had situation that some very successful parents themselves were the outcome of very tough parents. They believe that being tough on their children is the right thing for children’s future. So they pretend to be angry and tough, yet they love their children a lot. They fail to realize that kids in European countries are too soft and emotionally fragile. They take their parents toughness as abuse. Regardless of all this, we need to be always thankful to Allah and respectful to our parents. This is our duty. If you look around you will find your situation better than millions of other people.