Shared Financial Responsibility Without Husband Being Head Of The Family
Whatever terms and conditions a couple decides at the time of their nikah, those conditions are binding on all the parties to the contract lest they decide something which goes against the reality of Nikah ( Haqiqat-e-Nikkah ) , for example, adding a Mutah clause goes against the reality of Nikkah and similarly creating an institution of family without a head with clear financial responsibilities also goes against the reality of Nikkah. Please also refer to the video below from 1:16:53 to 1:21:03 https://youtu.be/KPl2MtuwOW4?t=4613
But if instead of they decided about a head what if they decide about that they’ll support eachother in their responsibilities and goals,, would it be a healthy decision
If it is something which was not agreed upon at the time of marriage then it is a matter of negotiation between the two. A woman cannot just start her career out of thin air on her whims just the way a hsuband cannot change his career out of thin air on his whims which might affect his ability to feed the family. Both of these situations, if arise, need to be discussed between the two and if there is no resolution, then the matter can be referred to the elders of the family for a peaceful resolution. It is a general advice to a wife to be cooperatove with husband, but it is for a wife to honestly decide which matters require genuine cooperation and which matters are an unnecessary intrusion into her private life for which she should say no and involve the elders if husband is being unreasonable.