Blindly Relying On God
I understand this fear, and it’s a very human one. Thinking too much about future decisions — especially marriage — often creates anxiety, because it feels like one wrong step could change everything. But marriage doesn’t work the same way as job applications, and Islam doesn’t require you to exhaust yourself trying every possible route. Taking steps does not mean forcing yourself into methods that drain you, like social media or apps, if they don’t suit your nature. In our culture, families, elders, and people around us play a real role — and that is also a valid and dignified path. You can let your parents know you’re open to marriage, allow trusted elders to keep you in mind, and then live your life normally. You don’t have to constantly worry or chase outcomes. Delay does not mean denial, and not actively searching everywhere does not mean nothing will ever happen. When you live fully in the present — working on yourself, growing emotionally, spiritually, and practically — you naturally open paths for the future. Many meaningful relationships, including marriages, begin through unexpected and ordinary encounters, just like friendships do. We meet people through life itself, not always through searching. What matters is staying open, not anxious. So trust Allah, take steps that are within your comfort and limits, involve your family, and let life unfold. You don’t need to carry the past or constantly worry about the future — often, the right opportunity becomes clear when you are ready to receive it. (I made my best friend very unexpectedly on a anime streaming website. To us it was really a coincidence and to this day we are really good friends. You really don’t need to do something extra just do whatever is in your control and limit. Future is unpredictable if we start worrying about our future we’ll be in chronic stress. We can only prepare ourselves for it by living in present and keep growing. ) I hope this will help u