Lust And Polygamy
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I think the question is based on misunderstanding of “Nafsani Khuwahish”. This feeling is natural and a blessing from Allah if used in a halal manner otherwise it can drive a person towards hell. If this “Nafsani Khuwahish” was not there, perhaps no one would like to get married. This “Khwahish” is only bad when the person intends to misuse it.