Nikah With A Guy Who Cannot Announce Our Nikah Publicly
In that case it is deception. The nikah will be valid but with an intention of deception. Such marriages cause big problems. If the boy has no courage to disclose his second marriage he should not marry another girl. He should annouced his second marriage, or decide to leave one and take the other.
Deceit to whom? When both of us are in agreement, and I am not interfering in his first marriage, I know I won’t get full rights, but still, I’m willing to compromise. My intentions are pure, and my purpose is sincere so how is the nikah considered deceitful?
What you are trying to do, might be okay legally and you might be able to coarse your way through islamic jurisprudence, but it is polar opposite to the spirit of Nikkah or marriage. When a couple binds in a nikkah, they announce that they are now together, in spirit they announce that they have become ‘Shareek e Hayat’, implying they are two souls in a body, one’s secret is another, one’s sustenance is shared with the other, one’s future is with the other. Both wife and husband, pledges allegiance of staying pure and devoting themselves to the loyalty, this loyalty is essential for the resultant children that will be beget. Polygamy whilst is allowed in Islam, it becomes clear that it is certainly not preferred, hence whenever Almighty permitted having multiple wives, he stressed upon the fact of not compromising on the spirit of the nikkah (i.e compassion/loyalty). What your potential husband is trying to do (Keeping his second marriage secret from his first wife), is in grave violation of the above code of conduct. One should ask allah for his refuge in this regard, women don’t naturally want their husband shared, even when they are foretold.