Taking Revenge Against An Elder Oppressor
Revenge by your own hand is considered when there is no court system in place. In case of a difference of position, the one in the inferior position must seek authority especially if court system exists. Problem with taking revenge by own hand is that sometime you don’t inflict the right amount and that can make you accountable if you end up harming the other more than intended, and an elder will suffer both more physically and lose more honor. But this can be handled by a court or someone above the elder that are willing to dispense justice in an accepted system and graceful manner. If this is not possible then you are among the oppressed and helpless, to which Allah command to be patient and promises that He will take revenge personally on their behalf, in this world or the next.
The best solution is forgiveness as Allah suggested. Not only Allah will compensate you many times over, the act of true forgiveness gives peace to the person burning in the fire of revenge. The person trying to take revenge, not only got abused, then for the rest of his life the person is mentally torturing himself in the fire of revenge. Even if the person is able to take revenge, it doesn’t decrease the pain inside by much. Taking revenge doesn’t take away the mental discomfort a person is going through. The only true, permanent and most rewarding solution is forgiveness. Try it. Forgive the person and ask Allah for compensation. You will feel the most deepest calm and peace of mind.
So from what I understand, even in case of serious harm or death during abuse where immediate escape isn’t possible, one shouldn’t immediately resist or immediately engage in self-defense? (Because seeking help from law part comes later if you manage to survive the abuse first). Ghamidi Sahab seems to imply that the weaker in position has no choice but to endure here (especially 2:00 onward): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ftZuJIpchT8