Quran 9:23 – Breaking Off Ties With Deniers
Quran verse 9:23 should be read in passage 9:23-9:27. Also it must be understood that this passage appears in a chapter that deals with the final punishment rendered on the deniers of the message after the culmination of truth (itmam-e-hujjah). If we have a family member or a friend who doesn’t act according to God’s commands, our job is to empathetically help him and guide him whenever an opportunity presents. The verse you referenced is about those who had rebelliously denied truth in-spite of recognizing it. These people were promised a punishment in this world if they denied, way ahead of time. Today we have no way of knowing if someone denies the truth out of arrogance or they have some legitimate misunderstanding. It is for God to decide that on the day of judgement. For us, severing ties with our relatives is not allowed.