Promises With People
Quran has not asked us to obey every command of parents, instead, we are required to deal with them in a good manner ( husn e salook ) and can disagree with their decisions in a polite and respectful manner. For further details on boundaries of obedience to parents , please see: Discussion 56561 The right approach would be to not institute any such promise in front of your parents, no matter how illogical was their demand. Instead try to convince your parents by presenting your side of the arguments. And if they don’t agree, then you can politely disagree with their decision or you can stay silent instead of making a fake promise, as this would tantamount to deception if you ever break it. What you can do is tell your mother that you did talk to your friend because you miss her and not talking to her affects you mentally, and therefore you won’t be able to hold on to your old promise. You can clarify any misconceptions she has about your friend. In any case, it is not recommended to make a fake promise.