Intimate Discussion Before Marriage
In a marriage the husband bears full financial responsibility to provide for his family. Mehr is simply token money offered to the wife at the time of nikah in order to communicate husband’s goodwill in this matter. Regardless of how much money or gold you have offered your future wife, it has no bearing on your question. That said, you will have your entire life to discuss your intimate relationship with your wife. Why does it need to start before the nikah takes place?