Blindly Relying On God
In Islam, relying on Allah never meant waiting without movement. Tawakkul is not “Allah will do it, so I’ll stop trying,” and it’s also not “I must force outcomes myself.” It’s the middle: you act sincerely within your limits, and you let Allah decide the outcome and timing. The Prophet ﷺ explained this beautifully when he said, “Tie your camel, and then trust Allah.” The tying is your effort; the safety is Allah’s decision.Marriage works the same way. Allah does not usually “send” a person into someone’s life without any human steps being taken. He places opportunities, not guarantees. Meeting people through halal means—family, community, study, work, or even marriage platforms—is part of asbab (means). What Allah controls is which of those paths opens, which closes, and which turns out to be good for you. Confusion often comes when a person tries to explore every option at once, not when they try at all. Islam doesn’t require you to talk to many people; it allows you to move selectively and calmly, one step at a time.So yes, you should keep trying—but with boundaries. Trying doesn’t mean emotionally investing in multiple possibilities, overanalyzing, or forcing clarity before its time. It means doing what’s reasonable, then stepping back and letting Allah shape the result. If something becomes frustrating, overwhelming, or mentally exhausting, that’s often a sign to pause, not quit. Pausing is also an act of wisdom.About timing: Allah’s timing is not random, but it usually unfolds through your effort, not instead of it. Job rejections, delays in marriage, and closed doors are not signs that you should stop moving; they’re signs that this door isn’t yours, not that no door exists. At 23, you’re not late—you’re early in learning patience, discernment, and self-knowledge, all of which directly affect the quality of the marriage you’ll eventually have.In short:Rely on Allah fully — but don’t freeze.Try — but don’t chase every option.Make duʿā’ — and also take steps.What’s meant for you will not miss you, but it usually arrives through motion, not stillness