Shared Financial Responsibility Without Husband Being Head Of The Family
Jazakallah for the answer,,,,
It is obligatory for wives to be adaptable and obedient to husbands in his capacity as head of the family. This does not mean that a husband has complete control over his wife and can demand anything from her and a wife must obey all such demands. This adaptability and obedience means that when a Husband is making a genuine decision as head of a family, then wife should try to be supportive of that decision and should not try to hamper it intentionally just to cause trouble. Take an example, a husband cannot ask his wife to do a job and earn, if he does so, then wife has every right to reject that demand. However, when a husband has to relocate for job purposes to another city or country with his family, then wife must cooperate and relocate with him. This falls as a genuine decision made by husband as head of the family. In case of genuine diasgreements, a wife can say no but she cannot commit rebellion against husband. Take an example of a child who diagrees with his parents decision regarding his education and has rejected their demands in this regard because it was not a genuine demand from the parents, but he cannot do anything more than that. His rejection is enough in these circumstances, if he starts shouting or beating his parents then this would tantamount to rebellion which is a grave sin in Islam. Islam has no room for rebellion, whether it is done by a citizen against his state, a wife against his husband or a child against his parents. Further details on Rights And Obligations Of The Spouses : Discussion 1769
But are we obliged to treat eachother always having this in minds that a man is the head, it can be our father too right,, but the situations u mentioned earlier are normal and casual which any supportive spouse would do , so is the main purpose of the whole thing is being supportive,??