A Question About Taking Benefit From Things Only For Allah
both examples are of Riyakari
@Irfan76 sir comparing both these examples with the previous example of the person who went for asking the girls hand from her parents knowing that one of the reasons for their acceptance is him being a good Muslim or comparing these 2 example with the previous example of someone who was about to go to a charity food being offered but only to those who have offered Zuhr prayer. (The person while praying did not even think about food at all and prayed solely for Allah, then later he was thinking to go a charity buffet and while going there he also got to know that it’s only for those who prayed Zuhr) what would be the difference between these 2 rayakari examples and the 2 previous examples (asking hand of girl and Zuhr) which would make one thing blameworthy and another one not?
This is after all your conscience to decide it is a bad intention or not. For a more sensitive person, he may avoid as much as he can.
Marriage itself is not an Ibadah. When one looks for a religious person, it is in anticipation that the man’s morals would be good and that would be good for one’s daughter. This is not the case that the person projects his religiosity to attract people to get married. However, if one adopts religiosity to marry a girl who values religiosity it is riyakari. In the first instance, it is a sub-advantage of religiosity, not intended just like getting a share from the spoils of war after Jihad. If you keep this example of Jihad and the share of Mujahid in the spoils of war as a foundation to understand the connection of getting a worldly reward for an act of worship or an act done for God, you may solve other questions related to it. The principle is the worldly reward for an act of worship (not every good act is technically worship) should not be a primary one. It is the moral sense of man which decides for him what reward is acceptable and what is not. But if a person is too sensitive, the room is available for his sensitivity too. He may decline to accept any reward whatsoever.
@Irfan76 sir i understand that when a religiosity of a man is seen by a girl, it maybe that what is required or wanted by the girl maybe moral standards in itself (not the religiosity in mind) and a good way to judge that would be to see if he is religious or not. but when also one of the conditions of girl’s acceptance for marriage is that the boy HAS to be on faith ie a Muslim. this condition may not be a conducive of some other requirement as the case above, this condition maybe required in and of itself, so still it would be fine for the man to go ahead and take benefit of marriage from this girl and say yes to her proposal or send her proposal? sir secondly, it makes sense that if a person makes adopts faith or religiosity for the girl then it’s riya, but it’s not Riya if he did it for Allah, but later if automatically a thing happened through that faith or religiosity then his acceptance of that event and taking benefit from that event (which happened because of his religiosity) is not a problem, but then why did ghamdii Sahab said that the person should not take money for this, and refuse politely. even though he never prayed for money and the money came to him itself or we can say the money caused an event (the man being pleased by his prayer) and this event further caused the man to give benefit to the namaz praying man, so why did ghamdii Sahab said to not take it, even though analogously it falls into same category of the man, who received a proposal from a girl. or a man who wanted to meet the parents of girl so that they accept him, and he knows that when he would send them a message for a meeting with purpose of nikkah, inevitably his being on faith would cause them to make an affirmative decision to this meeting, else if they would have known that he’s not a Muslim, they would have not even wasted time in meeting because they won’t agree to their daughter marrying a non Muslim. thirdly and lastly, sir isn’t marriage a worship? when we say nikah(marriage) is Sunnah. and we know Sunnah is a part of Deen etc