Asking Permission Of Parents For Every Action
Quran has not asked us to obey every command of parents, instead, we are required to deal with them in a good manner ( husn e salook ) and can disagree with their decisions in a polite and respectful manner. Marriage, career-selection, freedom of movement are solely the decision of the individual and is not affected by what parents demand. However, if one is living under the roof of parents, depsite being married, then there is certain ethical responsibility on the person to follow guidelines of the owners of the house in their capacity as owners. And since they are parents too, so there is no harm in finding a middle ground in answering relevant questions of the parents in a respectful manner. Please also refer to the following videos : https://youtu.be/9K1ujk62NZQ
No, it is not dishonesty when seen from a principle standpoint. But it must be kept in mind that if a son is living under the roof of his parents and is also financially dependent on them, then this creates a kind of moral obligation for the son and his wife to also follow the rules of the owners of the house. However, if the house belongs to son and he is also financially independent then there stands no such obligation and the son can politely talk to his parents and make them understand that there is no dishonesty in such matters.