What Is The True Reason Why Extramarital Relationships Is Such A Severe Sin
Salam Nadeem, Respectfully, do you have any evidence that it is unlikely that a child is born out of wedlock? At least so much so that this concern can be dismissed altogether? I’ve heard of cases where teenagers and young adults that are sexually active become pregnant. In some cases, the child has to be put up for adoption because the parents are not prepared to take responsibility. There has even been a case I’ve heard where a mother killed her infant, not wanting anyone to know she was pregnant. My feeling is that you are understating the prevalence of extramarital births in a world where extramarital relationships are commonplace, and there is yet to be a contraceptive method that completely protects one from pregnancy. Besides, who is to say that contraception would be a priority for the parties involved in the heat of the moment? In my opinion, even if it were to be proven that pregnancy out of wedlock is an extreme rarity, the fact of the matter is that it would still be a grave injustice even if one child is born without an identity and guardian in this world. With regards to your point about a father neglecting or being abusive towards your family, I agree that this is a terrible crime by the father against the family. However, my personal point of view is that it is also important to consider the victim in a particular situation. I feel that being neglectful towards a newly born infant is much worse than being neglectful to adolescent and adult members of a family. Why? Because the infant is totally dependent on its parents – it can neither eat nor drink, thereby being unable to survive without significant assistance from others. The same cannot be said about family members that are adolescents, adults, etc. – however, no doubt that their neglect would be a serious crime as well. All in all, my point is that it is important to consider how vulnerable an infant is when it comes to this world. Considering this vulnerability, it is absolutely inexcusable that it is met with neglect. As far as accepting responsibility is concerned, I have to disagree with you. If we live in a society where it is commonplace to accept major responsibilities before entering marriage, I feel that this kind of attitude will become a part of our value system. What do you think? Surely, taking responsibility or agreeing to a contract has more meaning to it than merely the communication of a few words.
Hmm, that’s a good point. I believe there were some compelling arguments made by the moderators in your previous thread on this topic that might shed light on this question. I will check them out again! Nonetheless, interesting discussion, Nadeem! 🙂
Thank you Faisal. I will continue to seek an answer that will satisfy my curiosity. If you please let me know what is punishment of rape in Islam as I do not find it in Quran. Let me know if I need to start a new question for this.