Socio – Cultural Evolution
Salaam brother Dawar, I watched the whole video. It was quite informative. However, where it answered many questions it raised a few questions and concerns too. After watching the video there are 3 main issues that are bothering me.: Husbands as heads of family units, Tadeeb and finally laws of inheritance and malooqiat. My appologies if my mail turns out to be inconveniently long but I really need to talk about the issues in detail in order to put my point accross so that I am given a reply that is detailed enough to satisfy my quest . However, in this mail I will only ask about “husbands as heads of family” so as to avoid making this mail uncomfortably and unnecessarily long. In a genuine attempt to help his audience understand the husband as the head of family unit Mr Ghamdi kept comparing the structure of a family unit to that of a company’s structure and the relationship of a husband and wife to that of a boss and his employees. Although there are some similarities between the two structures their differences are greater in number in my humble opinion. The following reasons are why I find this analogy unfair: – A company is already formed and registered when it hires its employees whereas the institution of family comes into existence only after two individuals sign Nikah contract – Employees do not live under the same roof as the wife does – Employees have a set number of working hours after which they are free to enjoy life as they please whereas a wife has a 24/7 duty – Employees do not share assets with their boss whereas the assets (children)of wife and husband are shared. – If an employee wants to resign the boss cannot force him/her to continue to work. The employee can find work somewhere else even without an NOC – If the employee resigns or is fired , the company goes on however, the family unit ceases to exist as soon as it ends in a divorce