Input: "Write a chapter on exploring the limits of fellatio, including the use of fantasy, threesomes, public fellatio, power exchange, gender play, and the incorporation of pain. Provide examples and tips for each scenario, and discuss the importance of communication and consent."

Response:
CHAPTER 11

To the Limit

A sex act of many masks, many hats, many costume changes, fellatio can slip seamlessly into as many scenarios as a seasoned actor. It's also wonderful to see how it slips in and out of a variety of guises within the context of realizing sexual fantasies, including gender play, role-play, power exchange, S/M, and bondage. You can use fellatio to enhance a fantasy, especially an edgy one, or vice-versa.

Using Fantasy in Reality

Sexual fantasy is the cornerstone of our individual sexual expression. An erotic fantasy is any thought, idea, image, or scenario that is sexually interesting to you. It doesn't have to be your number one turn-on, or it can be the one thing that gets your blood boiling. If you think you don't fantasize, think again. Fantasies can emerge from your erotic imagination in countless different forms, from fragmented to detailed. We all fantasize, whether in relation to sex or in other aspects of our lives. We may see famous people that are attractive and imagine that our lives overlap. We might revisit memories of times we have enjoyed, using them to make us feel good in the present. Often, we envision scenarios that have never happened and some that aren't even possible. Sometimes we tell others what we have actually done, fantasized about, or want to do, making a fantasy for them—or us—come true. Whatever shape your fantasies take, exploring them can open doors to understanding your arousal and can allow you to tap into new channels of erotic expression—channels that work for you.

It's important to keep in mind that fantasies don't necessarily bear any relationship to reality. The realm of fantasy is the sanctuary in your mind where you are free to enjoy things that you would never do in real life. And fantasy is not only where we can court the forbidden; it is also a powerful sex toy that can be used for arousal, heightening pleasure, and achieving climax.

Think about your fantasies for a moment, whether they are vivid, vague, seemingly mundane, or a little scary. Don't try to look deeply into their meanings, just pick out their main themes. What you're doing is isolating what it is that makes them a peak erotic experience for you. Keep your mind open, and don't pass judgment on yourself—this isn't about "good" and "bad," it's about understanding what turns you on. Note what stands out, and the important differences between what is possible in fantasy and what is possible in reality.

Think about what your favorite themes are, or try on new ideas that appeal to you. Try to feel comfortable with tapping into what these fantasies trigger when you want to become aroused. Remember that if you fantasize about something shocking, like being forced to perform sex, it doesn't mean that you want this to happen or that you are a bad person. But by identifying it in the realm of your fantasies, you can find a safe space where imagination fuels desire. By learning how to turn yourself on with fantasy, you can do extraordinary things—for instance, you can make yourself really aroused and teach yourself a new masturbation technique. Or you can fantasize while you go down on your partner, and turn yourself on with the combination of stimuli; the reverse works when your lover fantasizes as you go down on him. Or if you have established trust and sexual communication with your lover, you can share your fantasies—you can even make some of them come true.

Illustration 13. Strap-On

Once you know what your favorite fantasy elements are, you can take steps to use them in fantasy scenarios that you cook up with your partner. Here are some ideas for inspiration:

> > • Firsts: you experience a first time engaging in a sexual act such as penetration, oral sex, or anal sex.

> > • Loss of control: someone has sexual power over you, "makes" you do things.

> > • Having control: you exert sexual power, have people "service" you.

> > • Taboo: you have sex with a forbidden person such as a clergyman or family member, an animal, or someone of the same gender. You can also incorporate inappropriate urges or timing, or even rape.

> > • Multiple partners: you experience a gang-bang, sex with the football team, a sex party, an orgy, a threesome.

> > • Casual or anonymous partners: you have sex with strangers, a waitress, the UPS guy.

> > • Your partner: you relive a memory of them, they engage in different behavior such as dominance or submission, or you have a peak experience with them.

> > • Public spaces: you have sex in the office, movie theater, park, dressing room.

> > • Being "used": you are a slave or a fuck toy, or get passed around among many people.

> > • Role-play: you and/or your partner can be an icon, such as a cop, schoolgirl, hooker, doctor, nurse, dog, dog owner.

> > • Romance: you can imagine yourself in dreamy situations, such as being seduced by a rock star or actor, or making love tenderly to the girl at the office.

> > • Objectification/fetish: you can focus on anything—breasts, butts, dicks, mouths, panties, shoes…

> > • Gender play: you trade genders, one of you is a different gender, he becomes a woman you're going down on, you become a gay man who "cruises" him.

Tips for Fellatio Threesomes

Adding a friend to an oral sex encounter can be fun. Be sure that you and your lover (or the partners you are joining) genuinely feel comfortable mixing sex with the relationships involved. It's highly recommended that you all talk before you get down to business. State your intentions clearly. Discuss your expectations—find out who just wants to have fun and if anyone sees the experience as a way of deepening a relationship. Ask if anyone might be jealous for any reason, and tell everyone that they can stop the action at any point if they feel weird or uncomfortable, and that it's okay. If you don't get a chance to talk about it—because these things sometimes just happen—make sure you're okay with what's going on, and if it's your first time, see it as an experiment that you can walk away from, mystery solved. And do it for you—because it turns you on, or because it makes you hot to fulfill your lover's fantasy.

Here are some ideas about what you might do in a threesome:

> > • Team up with a friend to go down on him. Take turns with his cock, passing it back and forth like a treat.

> > • Have your friend jack him off into your mouth. Try jacking him off into your friend's mouth.

> > • Lick his balls, perineum, or ass while your friend fellates him, or vice-versa.

> > • Fuck him with a strap-on while the other person fellates him.

> > • Have someone go down on (or penetrate) you while you suck him off, or vice-versa.

> > • Sit on his face while the other person gives him head, or turn around while you are giving him head and have your friend lick you in a "daisy chain."

> > • Play around with roles and control. Both of you can order him around, tell him he's your love slave or suck toy. You can order your friend to suck him, or reverse roles, and so on. He could be the one in charge, with both of you his oral sex slaves. Have fun!

Tips for Public Fellatio

> > > She sat me down in this big blue chair in the room. She faced the chair toward the computer, so the back was facing the door and blocking it a little. She crawled under the desk. She quickly undid my shorts and boxers. She started giving me an incredible blow job. It was fucking amazing. At one point, somebody even knocked on the door and opened it. She stopped. I turned a little. I was asked a question, quickly gave an answer, the guy never came inside the room, and she continued to give me, without question, the best head ever.

Illustration 14. Fellatio at the Beach

Fellatio can happen virtually anywhere, and the sexual tension that stems from possible discovery is what gives a public encounter its heat. Just remember that when someone sees you having sex in public, not only is it illegal, but you are essentially forcing someone to watch a sex act—they don't have any choice, even if it's an accident. So don't throw caution totally to the wind and involve someone without their consent in your steamy fantasy-come-true: think it through and get away with it, clean! Visit the spot you have in mind before you attempt a sexual encounter. Make sure you know the area well enough that you can avoid being seen, or avoid any possible dangers.

> > • Seek out reliably secluded spots, such as a remote place to park the car, a deserted beach, a vacant warehouse, an empty movie theater.

> > • Some places in large cities are notorious for being public sex spots. Use these places only if you are a local and are familiar with the area. If you must cruise, proceed with streetwise caution.

> > • Rooftops can seem public but still be private. Look around first, before you're horny.

> > • If you plan on using safer-sex gear, make sure you have it in your pocket.

> > • Think ahead about places to duck for cover, ways to camouflage your activity, or a story to tell a possible authority figure.

> > • Make it as hot and fun as you can—public fellatio is a thrilling encounter that can never be exactly duplicated. Don't hold back.

Power Exchange

You can add an extra dimension to oral sex when you play around with power balance, or rather, power imbalance. When you both arrive to the sexual table on equal footing in terms of who is in control, it can be an exchange on very pleasant and pleasurable terms. But when someone has a little—or a lot more—of the upper hand, make sure your perishables are refrigerated, because it's a sure bet that temperature will rise.

Power exchange and fellatio can come in a variety of flavors. First, the power tipping can come from either side of the fellatio equation. The person getting head can be the one in control, "using" the mouth (and any other part he likes) to achieve his satisfaction. Conversely, the person giving him head can be the one calling the shots, "making" him submit to any whim, pain, or pleasure you choose to dole out. He has to do what you say to get what he wants, and you don't have to let him come until you're satisfied.

> > > She sat there for a second with my cock in her mouth, then began moving up and down on it just a tiny bit. I put my hand on the back of her head, wanting to move it up and down more, wanting to fuck her mouth, and she slapped it down. Instead, she just kept her mouth there, barely moving it…

Your fellatio power play can be subtle, sneaky, extreme—anything that turns you both on. It can be as easy as giving him a knowing look, a push back against a wall to say "I'm in control," and then making your way downward. You can be a little more quick and forceful, especially in a public or semipublic place (like a car), pushing and pulling him whichever way you want him. Blindfold him and you're in total control. In the exchange of power, the reverse can be just as fun; he can be the one pushing, pulling, commanding you to suck, swallow. And your scenes can become more carefully orchestrated, planned with roles, sex toys, or costumes—or all three. Let your fantasies guide you.

Gender Play

Just as tipping the scales of power can be fun with fellatio, so can playing around with the boundaries of gender. I like to think of what we've got when we're born (in terms of gender) as the medium we have to work with; however we want to bend it to our pleasure and to fit our fantasies is all part of the fun of sex and sexual fantasy. Having or even acting out opposite-gender fantasies can be titillating as all get-out, but these fantasies don't change our identity. If it turns you on, it's a great way to get off, but it doesn't mean that you're a different person or that you don't like who you are—actually, it's a signifier that you're very secure with who you are, so secure that you can articulate your fantasies and desires.

Gender play can also be used to help flesh out emerging identities. Someone who knows that they are transgender might find that gender play in sex reinforces who they really feel themselves to be, whether through fantasy or with sex toys. A transgender woman could find that she really feels good and gets off when she fantasizes that her cock being sucked is her pussy being licked; a man in a woman's body can be sent over the edge into orgasm when his clit is fellated as if it were his cock.

Straight, bi, lesbian, gay male, and trans couples get a lot of mileage out of gender swapping in fellatio. Straight folks have reinvented sex with the overwhelmingly popular recent addition of the strap-on to their frolics. Not only are women enjoying penetrating men with their silicone dicks, but we're also discovering how hot it is to get our new cocks sucked by our boyfriends—and they're finding that it drives them wild. Lesbians and dykes have been bending gender along the fellatio continuum for a while now, role-playing as dykes with dicks, straight couples, or even pairs of gay men.

When a Little Pain Is Nice

You've probably heard people refer to things that "feel so good they almost hurt," and the phrase "hurts so good" has managed to linger in our collective consciousness for, well, since I was a kid. That's because the concepts of pleasure and pain are like twin pups in the human catalog of emotion and sensation; they're separate animals but often like to play together. In sex, the pleasure and pain lines mingle often, and in ways we aren't always aware of. Grabbing and squeezing your lover can easily give way to pulling, pinching, biting, and scratching—in small portions or stronger doses, depending on urge and response. The stronger the urge to, say, pull hair, and the more erotic and pleasurable the response, the more force will be applied. We humans love to up the ante in sex, and when we're blissed out on hormones, endorphins, and lust, we can easily add a little pleasurable pain to the mix.

Squeezing his thighs or ass a little harder than usual when you're giving him a blow job isn't out of the ordinary, but if you're planning on doing much more than that you'll need to learn about what you're doing, and make sure it's okay before you proceed. Intense sensations during sex are to be negotiated beforehand. Consult chapter 1, "More Than a Mouthful," about talking to your lover, and reference the book suggestions in chapter 12, "Independent Study," for further guidance.

The threshold of mingling pleasure with pain can be crossed in a variety of guises. The two of you may have decided that that you want to add pain into fellatio as if it were a sex toy, and simply experiment with techniques and toys. Or, it could be that you have a fantasy scenario in mind in which one of you is dominant and the other submissive, and some spanking or rough play fuels the fantasy's fire. You could be a teacher, and he the naughty pupil who gets a spanking and then some oral sex. Perhaps you just want to play the dominant woman or man, and take rough surveys of his nipples, cock, and balls as you fellate him. He may simply enjoy the way pain adds to the feeling of getting head; or perhaps one particular thing pushes him over the edge, such as nipple biting upon orgasm, and role-play or fantasy don't enter into it at all. Pain, as a sex toy, can be shaped to fit your own personal sex style.

> > > My girlfriend and I sometimes like to play rough, where I overpower and dominate her in various ways. One thing we both like is when I grab her in the hallway or someplace, and push her down to her knees, and hold her hair tightly as I push my penis into her mouth. She knows I won't push farther than she can take, but she also likes the feeling of being mock-forced to suck me.

You have several options literally at your fingertips when you want to increase the pleasure/pain volume during fellatio. You have the choice of breaking from the action and doing things to other parts of his body, such as lightly spanking his thighs or ass, or you can suck and give him little bites on his ass, stomach, chest, or nipples. Some men really enjoy having their nipples roughly stimulated when they're close to orgasm. You can scratch him with your fingernails anywhere that's pleasurable, but refrain from ticklish areas unless he's one of those rare guys who get off on being tickled. When administering pain, and blending it with pleasure, be sure to give him almost what he wants, then back off and make him want it, bad. Don't go for the intense sensations right away; go lighter than he wants, then give him a little more.

His penis can be given little bits of painful stimulation that you can alternate with pleasurable cocksucking techniques. Some men like just a little pain here and there on their penis; a few may like continuous pain. His cock can be squeezed with your hand and sucked roughly, and the skin can be pinched or pulled. If you know it's okay with him, you can play around with your teeth on his penis, lightly running them around the head or along the shaft. Some men enjoy having their penis spanked lightly, but don't miss and hit his balls—unless you know explicitly that this is okay with him. Cup his cock in your hand or have it pointed upward, flat on his stomach. His balls are right there, waiting to be squeezed, pulled, pinched, or constricted. Never slap or spank his testicles, or constrict them with too much pressure or force, or it will become the wrong kind of pain, the pain that stops the fellatio. Watch his nonverbal reactions, or check in with him by asking specific questions. Don't ask if something is "okay," because that word can mean anything. Ask if he wants it harder, softer, or tighter, if he wants more pinch or less movement, or if he wants you to stop.

Pausing from the blow job, you can apply clamps or clips to his body parts, or specifically his penis and testicles, to elicit a low-level, continuous hum of pain as you give him head. Apply clips to any area where you can pinch enough skin for the clamp—use common sense and don't try to put a clamp on a flat area or an area where it's difficult to get some skin between your fingers. Clamps and clips deliver concentrated pinching sensations to the body part they're applied to, and they pinch at first, then turn into a steady buzz of pain; then, when you take them off, sensation rushes to the area and there's a burst of intense pain. Get to know the pain cycle of clips by trying one on yourself, in a sensitive area like the inside of your arm, and you'll see that while they hurt going on, they hurt much more coming off. You can use this knowledge to time the sensations with your oral overtures, or with his pleasure cycle.

Little clamps can be purchased practically anywhere, from an S/M boutique to a stationery store. Clamps and clips made specifically for S/M play are best for sex. These have already been designed for sexual purposes, taking into consideration that they might be going onto sensitive areas or thin skin. Small clips are usually plastic with a spring that you pinch open, though you can also find metal versions. Even though a clip may be small, it can be pretty mean, because it concentrates the pain in one small area. Medium to large clips can be plastic or metal, even similar to the clips you'd use to keep a bag of potato chips fresh. Make sure that the ends of any metal clamps are padded or encased in rubber, and that any clips you use do not have teeth.

Wooden, plastic, and specialty metal clothespins fall into the "mean" category. Clothespins are intense. Be sure to always test each clothespin before you use it, as they have differing intensities depending on how tight the spring is. You can lessen the pinch by forcing the spring open slightly with a pair of pliers. Nipple clamps often have a way to adjust the pressure, such as a slide ring on tweezers, or a tightening screw on alligator clamps. These are fun because you can vary the pressure on whatever part of him you have clamped—for instance, you can increase pressure by tiny increments as arousal increases. Limit the time you keep the clip on; you should take them off after fifteen to thirty minutes to avoid tissue damage.

Pain, Pain, Don't Go Away

Should you find that you and the man you're going down on really like playing with pain during fellatio, that it really turns you both on and increases his pleasure, arousal, and orgasm, there are plenty of ways to safely push the pain a little further. Cock and ball play—or CBT, cock and ball torture—can be intensely pleasurable to a man who enjoys erotic pain in the sensitive, nerve-rich area of his genitals. It can be in any context: punishment, humiliation, reward, torture, a meaningful ordeal or ritual, or just part of hot sex. You should first discuss any type of sex play in which you will be inflicting pain on his genitals. Be absolutely clear about what is "good" pain to him and what constitutes "bad" pain. Find out what he likes about it; ask specific questions, and make sure to agree on specific thing that he wants you to do to him. This is called negotiation—you're negotiating desires, activities, and most important, limits. Decide on a safe word—a word that he will say when he absolutely wants you to stop.

There are different ways you can administer pain, and you can vary the levels of pain as well. Types of stimulation include friction, pressure, pinching, slapping, constriction, spanking, flogging, piercing, and more—and you can use these in a plethora of ways. Your spanks on his penis or buttocks can get harder, faster, stingier. You might bring in a toy like a leather or rubber slapper and alternate sucking and spanking. You can lightly whip his balls with a small flogger, and you can whip his penis even harder. Small floggers will help you avoid injury to his testicles; you can use larger (medium-sized) ones on his penis. Your bites can linger longer, press a little harder (but no breaking the skin, please). Pinches on nipples can seem endless, or they can come off with a twist—and so can clamps.

Clips and clamps can be played like piano keys with your fingers—and the sounds he makes might be music to your ears, even if they are not on key. When the clips are on and you're fellating him, you can give him bursts of pain (reminding him that the clips are there) by simply touching them, pulling on the surrounding skin, or flicking them with your fingers. Pulling and twisting hurts even more. If you put clips on his penis or testicles, you don't have to avoid them during your blow job; lick and suck on the clips, or fellate his cock, clips and all. You can wrap rubber bands around larger clips to make them tighter or to pull several together. Lay a piece of thin cotton or nylon rope under a row of clips, and pull on one end of the rope as you would on a zipper, removing the clips slowly or in one blindingly painful zip. You can also rig ropes and clips to small fishing weights, available where fishing supplies are sold.

You can use a pinwheel, the device doctors use to determine nerve response, everywhere except his penis, testicles, and anal opening. This sinister-looking and very painful medical instrument consists of an 8-inch handle, with a small stainless steel rolling wheel at one end that has very sharp pin pricks. When the wheel is rolled lightly over skin, it leaves a trail of sharp pain and a fiery sensation in its wake. This dastardly device is handy for use during fellatio, but be sure to have half your mind on his cock and the other half on the wheel, making sure you roll it lightly to avoid piercing the skin too deeply. And don't share your pinwheel with other partners, unless you have access to hospital sterilization.

Cock rings shouldn't hurt when they're on, but they can be made to, and you can find ones that are made for pain rather than constriction. Rings can be tightened, or layered one on top of the other to up the ante. Some cock rings have steel D-rings on them, allowing you to attach a fishing weight or a leash; fishing weights should be gently lowered with your hand, and leashes should never be yanked on. Ball stretchers, cock and ball vises, ball stocks, ball separators, and combination cock ring/ball "torture" devices can all be found at specialty S/M boutiques, especially ones that cater to gay men. These toys will bring out the Inquisitor in you, and ideally the delighted moans of pleasurable pain from him, but they should be used only by experienced players. Consult the book recommendations in chapter 12, "Independent Study," for books that explain safe exploration of CBT.

Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down: Bondage

Using restraint during oral sex can heighten the tension of your session, literally! Whether you're into bondage or not, rope, handcuffs, leather cuffs, or anything you use to restrain someone can immobilize arms, legs, or an entire body while fellatio is being performed. Some people like the physical feeling of being tied up more than anything, and find that straining against ropes or struggling to move their arms or legs when they are about to explode sends them through the roof. Having one of you tied up can enhance one partner's sense of helplessness—or the other one's feeling of power. He might find that having his cock sucked when you're in total physical control of him makes his orgasms more powerful, and he might enjoy playing victim to your inner sexual predator. Or, you may enjoy being tied up yourself, while he "makes" you please him orally. Either partner might find that their arousal is enhanced by being restrained.

In other parts of this book I've touched briefly on master/slave and dominant/submissive contexts for fellatio, and the unique ability of oral sex to slip into many molds, many scenarios. When the receiver is dominant, ordering his partner to give him head strengthens his role as a master or top. And the reverse may be equally true: when you go down on him, it might be a pleasure you dole out as a dominant, a reward for good behavior, or to prolong erotic torture in which you never give him enough of what he needs. He may relish the feeling of being able to relax and let you take over, or in reverse, his controlling your mouth and telling you what to do may be the type of "letting go" that gets you off. This type of role-play takes fellatio to another level, deepening the experience with a mixture of power and devotion.

Don't confine your efforts to controlling his limbs; investigate the world of possibilities afforded by sight restriction. So simple, yet so effective, a blindfold can be used on its own or in combination with any of the other techniques in this book to create an oral sex experience he won't forget. A blindfold takes away his sight, making him depend on you more for sensory information, heightening his awareness of his physicality, making him helpless and hyperaware at the same time. Because he can't see what you're up to, it gives you extra room to relax, knowing that he's both unsteady and unable to watch you.

Take my advice and buy an actual blindfold. Don't bother with scarves, ties, or silky undergarments, even when improvisation might be sexy. Blindfolds made specifically for sex fit better and more comfortably, and they restrict sight more reliably. Many are padded or have fake fur inside, and have wide elastic straps or are adjustable for the comfort of the wearer. Improvised items may become painfully tight or uncomfortable, or loosen and slip, coming off at inopportune moments. Plus, you don't want to be worrying about the blindfold when you're concentrating on his cock, and you don't want him left with blurry vision or a headache—you want him hungry for more of what you're giving him.

Men at Work

by Alison Tyler

Maybe there's no such thing as love at first sight, but lust at first sight...well, that's a different story altogether. Because that's what I had, and I had it bad. Lust for the dark-haired, dark-eyed captain of a rough-and-rowdy road crew.

The crew had been out in our little rural community for weeks. Trimming trees. Moving boulders. And making me want to come. Not all of them. Just one of them. A fiercely handsome man with a sleek mustache and sparkling brown eyes. He'd look at me when he was the one holding up the Stop sign, and I'd look back through the windshield, flush, and look away. How many times? Three, four—every fucking time I went to do an errand. And I went to do more errands than usual when I knew they were at work. I put on elaborate make-up just to go to the grocery store. Normally a jeans-and-T-shirt-type of girl, I wore skirts and high-heeled leather boots, and I took extra time styling my long black hair.

After several weeks of visual foreplay, I got bold. I held his eye contact and stared back at him, gazed through my cherry-flush, forcing the connection. He liked that. He tilted his head at me and narrowed his eyes, and I could almost hear what he was thinking. Take me on? Is that what you think you're doing, little girl? You think you can take me?

The men were connected to one another with walkie-talkies, alerting each other when cars were waiting at either end of the road work. One afternoon, I watched a heavy-set man radio another while the Stop sign was in place. After a moment, he flipped the sign to Slow and motioned me forward. As I drove around the windy roads, I spotted a golden-yellow work truck in my rear-view mirror. Was it him? How was I supposed to find out?

I kept on my normal route, I saw the truck holding steady, and finally I pulled into the dirt lot of a local park. Empty. Totally empty. Surrounded by trees. Hidden. The truck pulled in behind me, and my man got out. I knew in my head what I wanted to do, but I didn't know whether people really behaved like that outside of porno movies. Could I step from my convertible, rush over, and tell him what to do to me? Turned out I didn't have to. He knew. True doms can always sniff out a sub.

With a nod of his head, he motioned for me to come toward him. I slid from my seat, slammed the door behind me, and walked to the back of his truck. As soon as I was in his range, he gripped onto my shoulders and brought me into his arms for a kiss—the kiss I'd imagined since I'd first seen him. Hot and fast, his mouth firm against mine, his teeth finding my bottom lip and then biting it hard. Then, because it had to happen, because it was right, he pushed me down on the gravel-strewn dirt and unbuttoned his deeply faded jeans. I was ready, my lips parted, mouth open, but he stopped me before I could act. Quickly, he pulled his heavy leather belt free from his jeans, and with me in the exact position he wanted, he captured my wrists tightly behind my back.

"Such a tease," he said, running his fingers roughly under my chin, tilting my head upward with a jerk. "Such a fucking tease."

I sighed, so hungry now, so desperate, but he wasn't ready to give in. All I wanted was the taste of his cock in my mouth, and I wanted it more than anything I've ever craved, yet he wouldn't let me suckle him. With one hand still under my chin, he ran the back of his free hand against my cheek, softly, making me tremble all over at the gentleness of his touch. Then his hand came up high in the air, and he slapped my cheek, catching me off-guard, making me bite down on a moan. I lowered my head, shuddering all over, feeling how wet my panties were growing. Feeling how much I needed this. Needed him to treat me exactly the way he was.

"Look at me, baby," he insisted, and I raised my head.

Now, he pushed forward, butting against my lips with the head of his cock. Oh, God, oh Christ, was I ready. I wanted to drink, wanted to drain, wanted to swallow him whole. But still he wouldn't let me. He plunged in, taking his pleasure, then slid back out and bent to rub my nipples forcefully through my thin white blouse. He pinched them hard, and I arched and groaned, and while my mouth was open, he slid his cock in again. Each time he played me, he made me wetter still. So that I didn't know what I was doing anymore. All I knew was I had the need—the urgency—to drink him down.

"Bad girl," he said, "lost in your little games. Cruising the curves in your silver convertible. And all you want is for someone to fuck that sweet mouth of yours. Isn't that right?"

I think I nodded. I know I moaned. And he let me, finally, let me have at him. I swallowed with a vengeance. I sucked and pulled, my cheeks indenting with the intensity of my hunger. He held me steady with his rough hands on my shoulders, pinned me in place in his strong grip. My eyes wide open, I saw the trees behind him, saw his scuffed work boots below, the dirt under my knees. It was a relief to be allowed to use my mouth, to trick my tongue up and down his straining rod. I almost cried with the release of tasting the first drops of his pre-come.

When I could think of nothing more than draining his every drop, he pulled out again, lifted me up by my arms, and bent me over. Holding me steady, my skirt captured up at my waist, he slid my panties all the way down my legs and waited for me to step out of them. Then he punished my naked ass with his large open hand, spanking me hard and fast. All my faith was in him. He had the total control to keep me balanced, so that I wouldn't fall forward against the gravel, so that I wouldn't collapse on the ground. I had no thoughts now; I simply let him take me. Let him push me back down again onto the scraped raw skin of my knees, so that I could open my mouth wide and suck him. Sweetly suck him. My mouth earning the pleasure of the power he imparted.

Up and down my tongue tricked against his shaft. In and out his cock plunged, searching out the warm, wet heat of my throat. I was delirious with the pleasure of serving him. Breathing deeply, I memorized his smell, the way his skin felt against my cheeks, the way my ass smarted under the gauzy fabric of my summer-weight skirt. Then he was once again in motion, lifting me up and bringing me to the back of the truck. My wrists were still bound behind my back, so he had to slide my skirt up for me, kicking my legs wider apart, pushing into me with the spit-slicked length of his erection. He fucked me so hard that his truck shook. My face pressed into the metal of the truck bed; my honeyed juices spilled down my thighs. And when we were finished, he simply unbuckled the well-worn belt and set me free.

But I didn't want to be free.

"You're calmer now, aren't you, girl?"

I thought about the words before I answered, and then I nodded. He was right. All the nervous energy that had pulsed through me each time we'd made eye contact was now gone. I felt warm and in control. Better yet, I felt satisfied. I watched him get into the truck and drive out of the lot.

I don't know when the road crew will be back, but I do know that I'll be ready.


Input: Write a chapter on independent study, focusing on erotic videos and books. Discuss the different perspectives on adult movies, the changing demographics of viewers, and the role of porn as a sex toy. Provide tips on how to watch erotic videos, including what to expect and how to avoid things you don't like. Recommend specific actors who give excellent head in straight and gay male porn, and discuss the differences in enthusiasm and touch between the two genres. Also, recommend educational videos and books for further learning, including how-to videos, erotica, and sex guides. Include information on the quality and selection of erotic videos, as well as the importance of communication and consent.

Response:
CHAPTER 12

Independent Study Erotic Videos and Books

Erotic videos and books are a goldmine for inspiration, education, and titillation. Explicit adult fiction can transport you into fantasies that can turn you on, or you can read aloud to your partner to turn them on; you can even take turns reading to each other as you go down on each other. Get a good sex guidebook and you can supplement the information you already know, take any desires you discovered in this book even further, or get a conversation going with your lover. Adult videos can be used like sex toys, too: watch some hot head in action and you might blow your top, or you can watch it together and imitate the actors onscreen. I'm going to recommend many different videos and books, and while not all of them will be to your individual liking, they're the best that's out there and are reliably hot. All of my choices are explicit; you won't find any soft-focus approaches to sex in the following sections. Consider your preferences, and look at the suggestions to see what tickles your fancy.

Illustration 15. A Little Inspiration

How to Watch Erotic Videos

> > > I used to be turned off by the type of porn where the girl holds her mouth open and the guy comes into it, but it became so dirty for me that oddly enough, now it's my biggest turn-on.

Everyone's got a different take on adult movies, and these perspectives generally boil down to two views: either you consider these films offensive, or you see using the explicit imagery the same way you'd use a sex toy—to get off. As you can probably tell, I'm in the latter category. But all porn isn't created equal, and there's a lot of lame, poor-quality, and quite offensive stuff out there—though as we know from watching the legal wranglings of the art world in the United States, obscenity and offensiveness are in the eye of the beholder. If you want to steer clear of specific sex acts or other things you might not like, then you might want to do a little reading here before you do a little watching at home.

If you're thinking about renting or buying a blue move, then you're not alone. According to the Free Speech Coalition's 1999 survey of adult retailers, during 1998 stores in the United States reported a total of 686 million rentals of adult tapes. Typically when we think of the people who rent these videos, we think of the stereotype of men in raincoats—and while that might fit part of the population, these guys are practically extinct today. It's certainly true that the average viewer is male, but the viewership has changed dramatically over the last twenty-five years to include more women and couples of all orientations.

If you're a woman reading this, it's possible that admitting to yourself that you want to watch porn is confusing or difficult. One of the major obstacles that we women face is the widely held notion that women don't respond to sexual imagery the way men do—which is absolutely untrue. In her 1994 study, Dr. Ellen Laan of the University of Amsterdam found that women responded physiologically to sexual images, even when the women said that the porn they watched was boring or unarousing. When the women in the study watched the sex onscreen (whether from male or female directors), their genitals congested with blood, proving they were having a sexual response.

Once you feel okay about using porn as a sex toy, there are a few things you need to know before you get started. First, keep your expectations in check—you're not going to see films the quality of mega-budget Hollywood blockbusters. Why not? Because outside of Hollywood studios, no one has that kind of money or resources to throw around, especially in a film genre that's controversial.

The quality you are going to see is that of daytime soap operas: simple sets, standard lighting, digital cameras, and barely-there acting. Unless you go with a film from a bigger studio; the world of porn has a studio system just like in Hollywood. The big studios (like Vivid and VCA) have bigger budgets, better sets, actors who might have gone to acting school, writers with writing experience, and directors who are more likely to take their craft seriously, some even using real film stock in their movies.

Just as with any other sex toy, it helps if you're aroused before you begin watching porn. When you put the tape in and press Play, be sure to have the following items ready: lube, a dildo, vibrator, and towel, and the remote control. Having a sex toy ready if you need it is handy, because if the video turns you on and you want to get off, you won't have to interrupt the moment to search for your toys.

But why the remote control? The remote is the only really required item for porn viewing: you'll need to fast-forward through anything you don't like, or whatever distracts you from your arousal—be it lame dialogue, a sex act you don't prefer, or an unsightly boob job. For some people this may seem like a hassle at first—why can't they just make the "perfect" porno?

The makers of porn try to appeal to as many tastes as possible in a relatively short amount of time. Porn has to get to the point pretty quickly in order to retain horny viewers who usually want instant gratification, and so, like Hollywood, they've boiled down what they think viewers want into formulas. These are typical-male type formulas—that is, typical males of about twenty years ago.

The formulas include six to seven sex scenes, a standard set of positions and couplings, actors and actresses with mostly shaved genitals, men with larger-than-normal penises, and women with larger-than-normal breasts—with a few notable exceptions. An oft-voiced complaint is that the men are acceptable when unlovely in fitness and form, while the women's bodies must conform to a standard: underweight, blonde hair, big lips, and big boobs (the Beverly Hills Plastic Surgery Association is always well represented). Almost always, the men pull out before orgasm and ejaculate on the other person's face, breasts, ass, or vulva, so the viewer can see it. To say the least, little emphasis is placed on female orgasm and ejaculation—but that's changing in the industry as we speak.

Think about what expectations you're bringing to your adult video. This will help you make a selection that won't leave you high and dry, or in the worst-case scenario, angry at the genre. What ideas turn you on—small breasts, big butts, women in charge, realistic plots, blow jobs, two gals and a guy, male anal penetration, group sex? This may not be your list, but you get the idea. Get clear on what you want to avoid by making another list of things you don't want to see—do you get turned off by fake breasts, hairy men, rimming, toe sucking, facial ejaculation, two women together, or anal sex? These are just examples to get you brainstorming about what you'll want to look for, and what you'll want to fast-forward through. You may find more to add to either list as you view tapes—sometimes we find things that turn us on or off that we didn't even know about.

Knowing what you like and dislike can help enormously when selecting a tape. You can single out many of your preferences before you rent or buy, and then skip the parts you don't care for. The reviews on Web sites of women-run sex toy stores are very helpful in these matters—I should know, because I've been writing these reviews for years. The reviews and ratings can also help you select videos that include things you don't usually see on the blue screen, such as an all-natural cast (enhancement-free), internal ejaculation, attention to cinematography and lighting, great acting, and excellent plots.

There are certain things in porn that are hard to avoid even if you don't like them. Facial ejaculation (the man ejaculating on his sex partner's face) is pretty much a standard. So are boob jobs. I hear a lot of complaints about both of these things, but some people, somewhere, like them. If you want to avoid "facials" in straight porn, look for porn made by women directors such as Veronica Hart and Candida Royalle. Both women make excellent plot-driven movies, and if you want to avoid anal sex, Candida rarely features it in her films. Finding all-natural starlets is a little tricky, but there are more of them now than five years ago. Look for porn made by independent movie companies.

Fellatio in porn is largely performed for the camera's view, and what the director thinks the viewers want to see—not for either performer's enjoyment. Typically, the person going down will have their face angled in a way that is not very comfortable or practical for giving head in real life. This is because the camera and lights have to get close to the action, and if it's a woman with long hair, her head needs to be cocked at an angle that keeps her mane flowing down the opposite side of her head. The techniques the actors use are basic but can be learned from somewhat, if only to see how they use their hand as an extension of their mouth or to stroke him while they back off for a brief rest. Porn is where you'll see a lot of deep throating and some amazing stamina on the part of both the giver and the receiver of the blow job. Don't expect to be able to duplicate what the actors can do—they're pros, and they give head for a living. Also, the scenes are not all shot in one take, and are often edited to make the scenes appear longer, or the activity more varied.

Watching fellatio in straight porn versus gay male porn, you'll notice a difference in enthusiasm, touch, and comfort with cock. The actors in gay male films know their way around a hard dick, most likely because they own one and understand the sensations they're delivering intimately. The gay actors usually appear less conscious of what they're doing and more relaxed; it's almost as if they didn't need to think about what they're doing. And a big overall difference is that the guys touch the other guys more than their female counterparts; the men's hands touch, squeeze, and roam all over the guys they go down on. But other than these points, there aren't a lot of differences, and there are certainly women in porn who have the same intuitive connection to and eagerness for the men they give head to onscreen.

Finding individual films can be challenging when there are hundreds of thousands cranked out in a given year. Also, many adult retailers don't carry every title, not to mention that selection and organization in sex shops can be haphazard. So I'm not going to recommend films; instead, I'm going to give you the names of actors who give drop-dead head and whose enthusiasm for sucking cock will make you weak in the knees. In straight porn, certain women do it right and just can't get enough: look for Chloe, Jeanna Fine, Linda Lovelace, Missy, Juli Ashton, and Nina Hartley.

How-To Videos

Educational videos can give you great visual references for techniques, though sadly many are dated, or just look dated. Many oral sex instructional videos, new or old, are shot the same ways and have a timeless quality that unfortunately hovers around the 1980s: fireplace and fur rug sets, women wearing pearls and big jewelry, fluffy hair on both genders, talking heads perched on chairs explaining everything—"experts" intended to make you feel comfortable and nonsleazy, though this has the opposite effect on me. Much like with the fellatio guidebook counterparts, it's pretty slim pickings—for now. At this time, there are no how-to instructional oral sex films that are same-sex oriented; they're all straight. But many of the films feature real-life couples, and they almost always use natural-bodied actors.

Adult how-to videos are explicit and often contain extra noninstructional sex scenes that make them worth your money. These videos come in two flavors: mainstream adult films made by porn stars or films independently produced by individuals, sex toy companies, or sex organizations. The mainstream films are usually missing some component of accuracy and are packed with porn stars giving eager, though sometimes mechanical, demonstrations. The independents make up for what they lack in budgets and the actors' on-camera presence by featuring normal folks, usually real-life, clearly loving couples.

In the realm of fellatio, there are a couple tapes that can show you how to do some of the things discussed in this book and can provide sexy inspiration. Nina Hartley's Making Love to Men is one part information, several parts explicit action—and parts of it are quite arousing to watch. It's Nina's most recent and her best tape on the subject. Better Oral Sex Techniques is a Sinclair Institute video, part of their series of how-to tapes, and like all Sinclair tapes, it features actual couples. However, the sex is broken up by more talking heads, and the video presents the information in an annoying numbered sequence. The Complete Guide to Oral Lovemaking has a 1980s feel to it (hair and lingerie, especially) and is full of talking heads. Its information is straightforward, but don't expect any in-depth descriptions of fellatio, or advanced techniques.

How-to tapes about male sexuality are rare, but there are a few that can enrich and complement a healthy sex life. Joseph Kramer has done some wonderful video work, and you can learn through his spiritual approach how to give a man a great erotic massage in Fire on the Mountain: An Intimate Guide to Male Genital Massage. The tone is quite New Age, but the video presents great techniques and excellent mindful breath practices, and the men who practice the techniques onscreen clearly adore each other. Tapes that delve into male masturbation may be your best bet when looking for visual clues on ways men like to be touched and stimulated. Another from Joseph Kramer, Evolutionary Masturbation: An Intimate Guide to Male Orgasm, combines Tantra, sex toys (like cock rings and vibrators), and twenty masturbation techniques to show how to make men's masturbatory orgasms more intense. Solo Male Ecstasy: An Intimate Guide to Self-Pleasure is an instructional video on male masturbation that shows five men as they individually masturbate to orgasm, using a variety of techniques. The music is awful, but the men are nice-looking, and they discuss over forty genital massage techniques and ejaculatory control. Nothing advanced here, but it can augment your body of knowledge.

Recommended Reading

There's more erotica available now than ever, and a lot of it is of very high quality. You can find most anything you're looking for, if you know where to look, and there is no shortage of fellatio scenes. Erotica written by women provides a female perspective on sex and tends to concentrate on women's pleasure, which means that when fellatio is included it usually has the female character's sexual interests in mind. Lesbian erotica doesn't usually contain fellatio stories, but in some of the more modern, cutting-edge (and S/M) collections you can sometimes find women going down on a strap-on cock. In gay male erotica there's a lot of top-notch writing, and the stories are chock-full of fellatio scenes that portray the spectrum of scenarios; dirty, sweet, and everything in between. When straight men put pen to paper and write smut that contains fellatio, it tends to be either really good or transparent stroke material that verges on misogyny. Look for higher-quality anthologies and respected editors, authors, and publishers who produce reliably good books.

The Best Women's Erotica series is a combination heterosexual and lesbian anthology of short stories by and for women that comes out yearly and has an always-changing lineup of the best stories the genre produced in a given year. Herotica is a women-produced, women-focused anthology series that pioneered the for-women field. Both series contain explicit sex scenes, yet both have distinctively different flavors in their selections—thumb through them both and gauge your response. Best American Erotica comes out yearly, and it's where male and female authors of all orientations write erotica that is also of all orientations. Black Lace is a generally high-quality British imprint that features erotic novels written by women, and they occasionally put out collections of short stories that are worth picking up. Black Lace is heterosexually focused, though sometimes the novels do contain bisexual characters, and the fellatio in them is fantastic.

Best Lesbian Erotica is also a best-of yearly series but with only lesbian and dyke stories, and it smartly covers the spectrum and variations embodied in the many permutations of queer identity. Because it's true to the modern realities of lesbian sex, it occasionally includes strap-on fellatio scenes. Best Bi Women's Erotica is a yearly anthology series that features stories written by and for bisexual women. The stories contain women having sex with both men and women who identify as straight, lesbian, or bi, or don't identify as anything, and they introduce us to the sexual realities of bisexual women and the heat of bi sex; you get doses of fellatio here and there.

Following are my favorite fellatio short stories in contemporary erotica:

GAY MALE

"Below the Beltway," by Simon Sheppard. In The Mammoth Book of Best New Erotica, edited by Maxim Jakubowski (Carroll & Graf, 2001).

"The Color Khaki." In See Dick Deconstruct, by Ian Phillips (AttaGirl Press, 2001).

"Plaza del Sol," by Sean Wolfe. In Friction 4, edited by Jesse Grant (Alyson, 2001).

"Tiger Rag," by J. D. Ryan. In Best Gay Erotica 2002, edited by Richard Labonte (Cleis Press, 2002).

"Warm-up," by Matt Bernstein Sycamore. In Best Gay Erotica 2001, edited by Richard Labonte (Cleis Press, 2001).

HETEROSEXUAL/MIXED ORIENTATION

"Adventures in Dick Sucking," by Bree Coven. In Best of the Best Lesbian Erotica, edited by Tristan Taormino (Cleis Press, 2000).

"Do Me," by Lori Bryant Woolridge. In Best Black Women's Erotica, edited by Blanche Richardson (Cleis Press, 2001).

"Getting Dirty," by Erica Dumas. In Sweet Life: Erotic Fantasies for Couples, edited by Violet Blue (Cleis Press, 2001).

"On the Care and Feeding of White Boys," by R. Gay. In Best Bisexual Women's Erotica, edited by Cara Bruce (Cleis Press, 2001).

"What He Did," by Thomas Roche. In Best American Erotica 1997, edited by Susie Bright (Touchstone Books, 1997).

Sex Guides

Buying a sex guide is not very different from buying any other how-to guidebook—except that sex is a much more charged subject than, say, furniture upholstery. Though I'd be the first one to collect the Time/Life Sex Series (they'd be kept with no small amount of irony next to my ancient Time/Life books on plumbing and carpentry), it's doubtful that a book on sex could ever be so neatly packaged. Human sexuality doesn't fit into convenient cookbook categories, though many authors try to make it do so—and this is reflected in the sad state of the majority of sex guides that are available. Many guides commit the fatal crimes of being judgmental about preferences, fetishes, and orientations or being ill informed and containing inaccurate sex information. Good guides inform and don't sacrifice integrity for entertainment. I also don't like sex guides that lack substance and look like picture books combined with New Age poetry. What's worse are guides whose adolescent or self-indulgent attitude toward sex puts you off—be they written by men or women who must elevate or denigrate sexuality to make it palatable, or use instant-gratification sports terms. These antiquated attitudes about sex belong in a curio shop, not on your bookshelf.

When buying a sex guide, take a good look at it first. Do you like the tone, or is it too dry or condescending? See when it was published and if it's been revised recently (within the past five years, at the latest) to reflect current information. Try to look something up. Is the information easy to find? Does it have substance that you can use in a practical situation? Look up something nonmainstream such as S/M to see if the book has a judgmental attitude toward it—even if the practice isn't for you, the author's sex-negative attitude may hinder your exploration of other areas you might be interested in. And finally, does it have illustrations or pictures? You'll need them, so make sure they're there.

Guides for fellatio are pretty spotty; they tend to consist mostly of pictures and have the same techniques simply renamed to look more spiritual or cutesy than those in the author's last book, or just to look different. It's challenging to find books that will supplement your knowledge. Most overall sex guides have very tiny, sadly superficial treatments of fellatio—you get the feeling that they just didn't know what to say. But it is possible to find some great sex books to extend your sexual scope that will tie into the fellatio expertise you found in this book, and round out your sex life.

As general sex guides go, The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans is a good cornerstone of any library; it's the most modern standard around for sex information, with a pleasure-centric approach, lots of sex practices that many people actually engage in but other guides won't include, and lots of sex toy info. The Guide to Getting It On! by Paul Joannides is hetero-centric and the tone is unbearably casual at times, but it's gigantic (over six hundred pages), has accurate information, and has sections not found in other tomes, such as a disabilities chapter. Every man who has sex with men should read Men Like Us: The Complete GMHC Guide to Gay Men's Sexual, Physical, and Emotional Well-Being by Daniel Wolfe. It's an incredibly complete guide to virtually every aspect of gay male sexuality, and its approach and tone are wonderful.

There are many books on specific topics that relate to subjects covered in this book; they'll help you dig deep into what interests you. By far the best book out there on S/M and how to do it is Patrick Califia's Sensuous Magic. Califia mixes practical advice with scorchingly hot short stories to make a book that inspires and energizes on every level. Come Hither by Gloria Brame is a wonderful book about becoming interested in S/M and has unbeatable information on talking to your partner about it, or coping with your partner's wishes when they don't match up with yours. Family Jewels by Hardy Haberman explores the far reaches of cock and ball torture (CBT); and The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex by Karlyn Lotney (a.k.a. Fairy Butch) tells all about strappin' it on and givin' it—to whomever you prefer.

Jack Morin's The Erotic Mind is older than most of the books I'm recommending, but it's very good; it explores the mind-set of having healthy, happy sex and digs deep into sex within long-term relationships. Folks who strive to become more sexually adventurous will want to read Carol Queen's Exhibitionism for the Shy, which gave me the courage and motivation to learn how to talk dirty in bed—you can learn exactly that in her book. The Survivor's Guide to Sex by Staci Haines is the first and best practical book for people who have survived trauma and/or abuse and want to have a fully present, satisfying and healthy sex life—it's indispensable. You can learn more about anal sex for women in the landmark book The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino, and the companion Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men by Bill Brent is also highly recommended. The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava explores multiple male orgasms and Tantric practices of orgasm without ejaculation. Heterosexually focused, it concentrates on combining breathing and the use of pressure points to achieve multiple orgasms in men. The book has a New Age tone throughout the text, which isn't for everyone—I find it distracting—but it is packed with much information.


Input: Write a chapter called 'Resources' that provides a comprehensive list of online and mail order stores, retail stores, and safer-sex resources. Include contact information, such as phone numbers, addresses, and website URLs, as well as a brief description of each resource. Make sure to include a diverse range of stores that cater to different orientations, preferences, and needs. Also, include resources for safer sex and sex education classes and workshops.

Response:
CHAPTER 13

Resources

Online and Mail Order

Babeland

Web site, retail stores, and catalog of toys, books, videos, and safer-sex supplies. Women-owned and operated, but open to all orientations. Strict privacy policy. (For retail information, see the "Retail Stores" section below.)

800 658 9119
babeland.com

Blowfish

Mail-order catalog and Web site of toys, books, videos, DVDs, safer-sex supplies, S/M gear, comics, and magazines. They feature individual reviews of their products and a strict privacy policy.

P.O. Box 411290, San Francisco, CA 94141
800 325 2569
415 252 4340
blowfish.com

Coco de Mer

A sophisticated sex toy boutique founded by the daughter of Body Shop owner Anita Roddick, their Web sites and stores in the UK and US feature smart selections and unique tools for enhancing fellatio. (For retail information, see "Retail Stores" below.)

020 7836 8882 (UK)
1 866 959 2626 (US)
coco-de-mer.com (UK)
cocodemerusa.com (US)

Condomania

Exhaustive site that sells virtually every condom under the sun, with fun facts, lots of condom information, and a helpful condom shopping guide.

1 800 9CONDOM
1 800 926 6366
condomania.com

Glyde Dams

Buy 'em here, by the dozen or in a party pack!

sheerglydedams.com

Good Vibrations

Good Vibrations has a staff who are committed to dispensing accurate sex information about the products they sell. Web site and retail stores carry toys, books, and DVDs. (For retail information, see the "Retail Stores" section below.)

934 Howard St., San Francisco, CA 94103
800 289 8423
415 974 8990
goodvibes.com

LoveHoney

This UK-based site is a one-stop shop for quality sex toys, books, and videos. They make their own product videos, have an entertaining blog, and are committed to green practices and environmentally conscious products.

Unit A, Locksbrook Rd.
Bath, BA1 3EU
England
0800 915 6635
lovehoney.co.uk

Retail Stores

A Woman's Touch

Feminist sex store offering toys, books, and safer-sex supplies. Their Web site has great advice columns.

600 Williamson St., Madison, WI 53703
608 250 1928
200 N. Jefferson St., Milwaukee, WI 53202
414 221 0400
888-621-8880
a-womans-touch.com

Babeland

Retail store, Web site, and catalog of high-quality, carefully selected toys, books, videos, and safer-sex supplies. Women-owned and operated, and open to all orientations. They have in-store educational workshops and a highly trained staff.

707 E. Pike St., Seattle, WA 98122
206 328 2914
94 Rivington St., New York, NY 10002
212 375 1701
43 Mercer St., New York, NY 10013
212 966 2120
462 Bergen St., Brooklyn, NY 11217
718 638 3820
(Mail order) 800 658 9119
babeland.com

Come Again Erotic Emporium

Woman-owned store with toys, books, and lingerie.

353 E. 53rd St., New York, NY 10022
212 308 9394

Eve's Garden

Woman-focused store with toys, books, and videos.

119 W. 57th St., 12th Floor, New York, NY 10019
800 848 3837
212 757 8651
evesgarden.com

Forbidden Fruit

Woman-owned and operated toy store/adult gift shop, and fetish boutique. A big supporter of the Austin S/M, fetish, safer-sex, and sex-positive communities.

Toy Store and Education Center
512 Neches St., Austin, TX 78701
512 478 8358
www.forbiddenfruit.com

Good Vibrations

Staff is trained, and their Education department serves staff and customers and does outreach to health organizations. Web site and retail stores carry toys, books, DVDs, safer-sex supplies

603 Valencia St., San Francisco, CA 94110
415 522 5460
1620 Polk St., San Francisco, CA 94109
415 345 0400
2504 San Pablo Ave., Berkeley, CA 94702
510 841 8987
308A Howard St., Brookline, MA 02446
617 264 4400
(Mail Order) 800 289 8423
www.goodvibes.com
(See "Online and Mail Order" section for more mail
order/Web info.)

Pleasure Chest

Retail store and Web site of novelties, toys, videos, and clothing .

7733 Santa Monica Blvd., West Hollywood, CA 90046
800 75 DILDO
323 650 1022
156 Seventh Ave. S., New York, NY 10014
212 242 2158
3436 N. Lincoln Ave., Chicago, IL 60657
773 525 7151
thepleasu rechest.com

Canadian Resources

Come As You Are

No visit to Toronto is complete without visiting this community-oriented worker-owned co-op retail store, and they also have a mail-order catalog and Web site. They have toys, books, videos, safer-sex supplies, and educational resources, especially resources for the disabled. Products are hand-picked and individually reviewed. Stores offer educational workshops. Nous offrons des services limites en francais.

701 Queen St. W., Toronto, ON, M6J 1E6, Canada
(Toll-free) 888 504 7934
416 504 7934
comeasyouare.com

Good For Her

Woman-focused retail store carries toys, books, videos, and erotic art; hosts sex workshops, all geared toward female pleasure. In addition to regular hours, store has women and trans-only hours.

175 Harbord St., Toronto, ON, M5S 1H3, Canada
(Toll-free) 877 588 0900
416 588 0900
goodforher.com

Lovecraft

Retail stores and Web site offering toys, books, videos, and lingerie. Possibly the oldest women-owned sex shop in North America—open since 1972.

27 Yorkville Ave., Toronto, ON, M4W 1L1, Canada
416 923 7331
2200 Dundas St. E., Mississauga, ON, L4X 2V3,
Canada
905 276 5772
(Toll-free) 877 923 7331
lovecraftsexshop.com

Womyn's Ware

Retail store, Web site, and catalog of toys, books, and fetish gear, education- and woman-focused. Store hosts sex seminars.

896 Commercial Dr., Vancouver, BC, V5L 3Y5, Canada
604 254 2543
(Toll-free) 888 996 9273
womynsware.com

European Resources

Le Boudoir

The Spanish woman's answer to a female-friendly, smart, and sexy online sex shopping experience—from Spain, they are a fabulous resource. Lovely; Web site is in Spanish.

leboudoir.net

LoveHoney

This UK-based site is a one-stop shop for quality sex toys, books, and videos. They make their own product videos, have an entertaining blog, and are committed to green practices and environmentally conscious products.

lovehoney.co.uk

Lust

A women-run, women-focused online sex boutique from Denmark, with a lovely site and fantastic selection. Site is in Danish.

lust.dk

Second Sexe

French Web site, erotic boutique, and resource for women-positive, feminist-identified products and porn. Exquisite site, lots to choose from.

secondsexe.com

SH!

A women's sex shop that is all-inclusive and couples-friendly, with two levels including handpicked toys, books, videos and lingerie. A well-educated staff, many after hours events and comfortable atmosphere.

57 Hoxton Square, London N16 6HD U.K.
Tel. 0845 868 9599
020 7613 5458

Tiberius

Austrian leather, latex and a variety of sexy tools.

A-1070 Wien, Lindengasse 2, Austria
Tel. 43 1 522 040 74
tiberius.at
leather@tiberius.at

Yoba

A gorgeous online women's sex toy boutique, with lingerie and their own beautiful sex magazine. I wish American sex toy boutiques looked and felt like this (site is in French).

yobaparis.com

Safer-Sex Resources

American Social Health Association

P.O. Box 13827, Research Triangle Park, NC 27709
919 361 8400
ashastd.org

Center for Disease Control National Prevention Information Network

P.O. Box 6003, Rockville, MD 20849
800 458 5231
cdcnpin.com

National AIDS Hotline

800 232 4636

National STI Resource Center Hotline

919 361 8488

Planned Parenthood

800 230 PLAN
plannedparenthood.org

Safer Sex Page

safersex.org

San Francisco Sex Information

Sex information and referral switchboard that provides free, nonjudgmental, anonymous, confidential, accurate information from a highly trained staff. Monday through Thursday 3:00 P.M. to 9:00 P.M.; Friday 3:00 P.M. to 6:00 P.M.; Sunday 2:00 P.M. to 5:00 P.M. PST. Ask any question about sex under the sun by emailing ask-us@sfsi.org.

415 989 SFSI
sfsi.org

Sex Education Classes and Workshops: Organizations

(For stores near you that offer sex education workshops and classes, see the "Retail Stores" section.)

Body Electric

School of healing arts dedicated to exploring the healing potential of erotic energy, with a holistic, mindful, and spiritual approach (open to all spiritual orientations). Classes for men and for women, mixed classes, retreats, and more, in Seattle, Oakland, New York, and Los Angeles.

1010 University Ave., #384, San Diego, CA 92103
510 653 1594
bodyelectric.org

San Francisco Sex Information

Sex information and referral switchboard that provides free, nonjudgmental, anonymous, accurate information. They offer a fifty-five-hour training course in all aspects of human sexuality and monthly Continuing Education classes open to the public on a variety of current topics; for more information, see their Web site.

415 989 SFSI
sfsi.org

Society for Human Sexuality

Social and educational organization that offers lectures and programs with the Center for Sex-Positive Culture in Seattle. They have a huge online library of sex resources.

PMB 1276, 1122 E. Pike St., Seattle, WA 98122
sexuality.org

Sex-Related Web Sites

Carnal Nation

One of the best online sex and culture news sources, period. No judgment, constant updates and fantastic features.

carnalnation.com/

Cleis Press

Cleis has published groundbreaking, informative, and controversial books about sex and politics since 1980. The publisher of this book, they also have a great Web site showcasing their latest erotica, all their sex guidebooks, and Midnight Editions, their incredible consciousness-raising human rights books.

cleispress.com

Fellatio Facts and Resources: Tiny Nibbles and Open Source Sex

Tiring of Web sites that are low on information and updated resources on fellatio, I created this page on my Web site to serve as both a starting point and continuing education resource that includes podcasts, videos, erotica, articles on fellatio, and more.

tinynibbles.com/suck

GLBT National Hotline

The GLNH is an all-volunteer, nonprofit organization. They provide telephone info, email info, referrals, and peer counseling for the GLBT communities. They have over 18,000 listings for the entire US, including groups, organizations, business, bars, doctors, lawyers, therapists, etc. Monday through Friday 4:00 P.M. to midnight; Saturday noon to 5:00 P.M. EST.

888 THE GLNH, 888 843 4564
glbtnationalhelpcenter.org

Molly Kiely

This is the Web site of the artist whose cute and highly skilled illustrations grace the pages of this book. See more of her awesome work here—in full color!

mollykiely.com

Scarlet Letters

Webzine of articles, erotica, and more.

scarletletters.com

Scarleteen

Resource of sex information geared toward teen women, but with great sections for young men.

scarleteen.com

SIECUS (Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States)

SIECUS is a national nonprofit organization that develops, collects, and disseminates information on sex, promotes sex education, and advocates individual choice.

90 John St., Ste. 704, New York, NY 10038
212 819 9770
1706 R St. NW, Washington, DC 20009
202 265 2405
siecus.org

Tiny Nibbles: Violet Blue's Open Source Sex

My own website for sex culture commentary, accurate sex information, updated resources for all things related to human sexuality, an awesome blog, and epicenter for current information on new sex books, sex videos, sex studies, sex in the news, my famous podcast, TV appearances, news on people doing cool things in the world of sex, and much, much more.

tinynibbles.com

The Sex Carnival

Run by a woman and staffed by several others, this multi-author sex blog is a resource bar none on sex toy reviews, sex news, sex classes, and most especially the world of kinky sex.

thesexcarnival.com


Input: Write a chapter called 'References' that provides a comprehensive list of books and videos related to sexual health, pleasure, and education. Include full citations for each resource, including author names, publication years, publishers, and any relevant details such as edition numbers. Make sure to include a diverse range of resources that cover various topics and perspectives related to human sexuality.

Response:
CHAPTER 14

References

Books

Alman, Isadora. Doing It: Real People Having Really Good Sex. Berkeley, CA: Conari Press, 2001.

Bechtel, Stefan, and Laurence Roy Stains. Sex: A Man's Guide. Emmaus, PA: Rodale Press, 1996.

Birch, Robert W. Oral Caress: The Loving Guide to Exciting a Woman. Howard, OH: PEC Publications, 1996.

Brame, Gloria. Come Hither: A Common Sense Guide. New York: A Fireside Book, Simon & Schuster, 2000.

Brent, Bill. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men. San Francisco: Cleis Press, 2001.

Bruce, Cara, and Lisa Motanarelli, Ph. D. The First Year: Hepatitis C. New York: Marlowe and Co., 2002.

Califia, Patrick. Sensuous Magic: A Guide for Adventurous Couples. San Francisco: Cleis Press, 2001.

Chia, Mantak, and Douglas Abrams Arava. The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know. San Francisco: Harper San Francisco, 1997.

Chia, Mantak, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D. The Multi-Orgasmic Couple. San Francisco: Harper San Francisco, 2000.

Cox, Tracey. Hot Sex: How to Do It. New York: Bantam Books, Random House, 1999.

Gach, Michael Reed, Ph.D. Acupressure for Lovers. Bantam Books; Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing Group, 1997.

Gilbaugh, James H., Jr., M.D. Men's Private Parts: An Owner's Manual. New York: Crown Trade Paperbacks, 1993.

Goldstone, Stephen E., M.D. The Ins and Outs Of Gay Sex: A Medical Handbook For Men. New York: Dell Publishing, Random House, 1999.

Haberman, Hardy. Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment. Emeryville, CA: Greenery Press, 2001.

Haines, Staci. The Survivor's Guide to Sex. San Francisco: Cleis Press, 1999.

Heiman, Julia, Ph.D., and Joseph LoPiccolo, Ph.D. Becoming Orgasmic. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1988.

Janus, S. S., and C. L. Janus. The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior. New York: Wiley, 1993.

Joannides, Paul. The Guide to Getting It On! Waldport, OR: Goofy Foot Press, 2000.

Lotney, Karlyn. The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex. San Francisco: Cleis Press, 2000.

Masters, W. H., V. E. Johnson, and R. C. Kolodny. Human Sexuality. Boston: Little, Brown and Company, 1995.

———. Masters and Johnson on Sex and Human Loving. Boston: Little, Brown and Company, 1985.

Men's Fitness Magazine, with John and Beth Tomkiw. Total Sex: Men's Fitness Magazine's Complete Guide to Everything Men Need to Know and Want To Know About Sex. New York: Harper Perennial; Harper Collins Publishers, 1999.

Milsten, Richard, M.D., and Julian Slowinski, Psy. D. The Sexual Male: Problems and Solutions New York: W. W. Norton and Company, 1999.

Morin, Jack, Ph.D. The Erotic Mind. New York: Harper Perennial; Harper Collins Publishers, 1995.

Paget, Lou. The Big O: Orgasms, How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming. New York: Broadway Books, Random House, 2001.

———. How to Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Time-Tested Techniques That Will Blow His Mind. New York: Broadway Books, Random House, 1999.

Queen, Carol. Exhibitionism for the Shy. San Francisco: Down There Press, 1995.

Rodgers, Joann Ellison. Sex: The Natural History of a Behavior. New York: W. H. Freeman and Company, 2001.

Rogers, Ben R. and Joel Perry. Going Down: The Instinct Guide to Oral Sex. Los Angeles: Alyson Publications, 2002.

Sheiner, Marcy. Sex for the Clueless. New York: Citadel Press, 2001.

Stubbs, Kenneth Ray, Ph.D. Erotic Passions. Tucson, AZ: Secret Garden Publishing, 2000.

———. Male Erotic Massage. Tucson, AZ: Secret Garden Publishing, 1999.

Taormino, Tristan. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. San Francisco: Cleis Press, 1998.

Walker, Mitch. Men Loving Men: A Gay Sex Guide and Consciousness Book. San Francisco: Gay Sunshine Press, 1997.

Winks, Cathy, and Anne Semans. The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot. San Francisco: Down There Press, 1998.

———. The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, 2nd ed. San Francisco: Cleis Press, 1997.

Wolfe, Daniel. Men Like Us: The GMHC Complete Guide to Gay Men's Sexual, Physical, and Emotional Well-Being. New York: Ballantine Books, 2000.

Zilbergeld, Bernie, Ph. D. The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex and Pleasure. New York: Bantam Books, 1999.

Videos

Britton, Patti, Ph.D., F.A.A.C.S. The Complete Guide to Oral Lovemaking. Sexual Enrichment Series; Pacific Media Entertainment, 1997.

Hartley, Nina. Nina Hartley's Guide to Fellatio. Adam and Eve Productions, 1994.

———. Nina Hartley's Advanced Guide to Oral Sex. Adam and Eve Productions, 1998.

———. Nina Hartley's Making Love to Men. Adam and Eve Productions, 2000.

Kessler Medical Rehabilitation Research and Education Corporation. Sexuality Reborn. Kessler Medical Rehabilitation Research and Education Corporation, 1993.

Kramer, Joseph. Fire on the Mountain: An Intimate Guide to Male Genital Massage. Joseph Kramer/The Body Electric School, 1993.

———. Evolutionary Masturbation: An Intimate Guide to Male Orgasm. Joseph Kramer/The Body Electric School, 1996.

———. Uranus: Self Anal Massage for Men. Joseph Kramer/The Body Electric School, 1996.

Sinclair Institute. Better Oral Sex Techniques. Better Sex Video Series; Sinclair Institute, 1997.

Zaffuto, Dr. Anthony A. Solo Male Ecstasy: An Intimate Guide to Self-Pleasure. 1996.


Input: Write a section called 'About the Author' that provides a brief biography of Violet Blue, highlighting her accomplishments and various roles as a blogger, bestselling author, podcaster, web TV reporter, technology futurist, and sex-positive pundit in mainstream media. Include information about her podcast, 'Open Source Sex', and mention the number of times it has been downloaded. Discuss Blue's appearances on popular television shows and her contributions to various media outlets, such as Forbes, O: The Oprah Magazine, and RH Reality Check. Mention her lectures at UC Berkeley, UCSF, tech conferences, and community teaching institutions. Include the URLs of her tech blogs and her DRM-free audio and e-book publishing site.

Response:
About the Author

VIOLET BLUE (tinynibbles.com) is a blogger, high-profile tech personality, award-winning bestselling author and editor of over two dozen books in five languages, podcaster, web TV show GETV reporter, technology futurist, and sex-positive pundit in mainstream media (such as CNN and The Tyra Banks Show). Her podcast Open Source Sex has been downloaded over 8 million times. Blue is a Forbes Web Celeb and one of Wired's Faces of Innovation. She writes for media outlets such as Forbes, O: The Oprah Magazine, and UN sponsored international health organization, RH Reality Check. Violet lectures to cyberlaw classes at UC Berkeley, human sexuality programs at UCSF, tech conferences (ETech and SXSW), in addition to sex crisis counselors at community teaching institutions and Google Tech Talks. Blue's tech blogs are techyum.com and vb.ly, and she publishes DRM-free audio and e-books at DigitaPub.com.


Input: Write a section titled 'Ultimate Sex Guides' that features a special offer of 'Buy 4 books, Get 1 FREE'. Include brief descriptions, authors, ISBN numbers, and prices for the following books: 'The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men' by Bill Brent, 'The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women' by Tristan Taormino, 'The Ultimate Guide to Adult Videos' by Violet Blue, 'The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus' by Violet Blue, 'The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability' by Miriam Kaufman, Cory Silverberg, and Fran Odette, and 'The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy' by Violet Blue. Provide a concise summary of each book's content, including any notable endorsements or reviews.

Response:
"Ultimate" Sex Guides

Buy 4 books, Get 1 FREE

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men

Bill Brent

The complete guide for all men—heterosexual, gay, and
bisexual—who want to experience the pleasure of anal
sex. Includes expert instruction for beginner and ad-
vanced sexual techniques.

ISBN 978-1-57344-121-6 $16.95

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women

Expanded and Updated Second Edition

Tristan Taormino

Recommended by the Playboy Advisor and Loveline—the only self-help book on anal sex for women. "A book that's long overdue! …informative, sexy, and inspirational." —Betty Dodson

ISBN 978-1-57344-221-3 $16.95

The Ultimate Guide to Adult Videos

How to Watch Adult Videos and Make Your Sex Life Sizzle

Violet Blue

The most complete resource for enjoying adult videos and DVDs. Packed with games, advice for couples and first-time viewers, and over 300 reviews of adult films. "Worth reading, worth buying, worth keeping."—Mike Ostrowski, Playboy

ISBN 978-1-57344-172-8 $16.95

The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus

How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure

Violet Blue

Sex educator Violet Blue provides a complete step-by-step guide to giving and receiving oral pleasure. Includes erotic stories by Alison Tyler.

ISBN 978-1-57344-387-6 $16.95

The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability

For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain and Illness Updated Second Edition

Miriam Kaufman, MD, Cory Silverberg and Fran Odette

Addressing a wide range of disabilities, this book provides encouragement, support, and expert information on sex positions, orgasms, and sex toys. Includes an extensive resource guide.

ISBN 978-1-57344-304-3 $18.95

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy

How to Turn Your Fantasies into Reality

Violet Blue

Turn your favorite sexual fantasies into reality, safely and successfully… The complete guide for everyone—women and men, singles and couples!

ISBN 978-1-57344-190-2 $15.95


Input: Write a section titled 'Classic Sex Guides' that features a special offer of 'Buy 4 books, Get 1 FREE'. Include brief descriptions, authors, ISBN numbers, and prices for the following books: 'The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex' by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans, 'Healing Sex' by Staci Haines, 'The Smart Girl's Guide to the G-Spot' by Violet Blue, and 'The Whole Lesbian Sex Book' by Felice Newman. Provide a concise summary of each book's content, including any notable endorsements or reviews.

Response:
Classic Sex Guides

Buy 4 books, Get 1 FREE

The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex

The Most Complete Sex Manual Ever Written
Third Edition

Cathy Winks and Anne Semans
Illustrated by Phoebe Gloeckner

"Useful for absolutely everyone. Old, young, fit, dis-
abled, gay, straight or working out the details, this
book tells you, shows you and reassures you."—O,
The Oprah Magazine

ISBN 978-1-57344-158-2 $25.95

Healing Sex

A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma

Staci Haines

The first encouraging, sex-positive guide for all women survivors of sexual assault. "What a terrific book! Every survivor needs this encouraging, down-to-earth guide—and the joy of freely-chosen, healthy sexual pleasure."—Ellen Bass

ISBN 978-1-57344-293-0 $25.95

The Smart Girl's Guide to the G-Spot

Violet Blue

It's not a myth, it's a miracle, the G-spot, that powerhouse of female orgasm.With wit and panache, sex educator and bestselling writer Violet Blue helps readers master the sexual alphabet through G.

ISBN 978-1-57344-273-2 $14.95

The Whole Lesbian Sex Book

A Passionate Guide For All of Us Second Edition

Felice Newman

"Infectious and empowering and extremely well researched. I highly recommend this book to every woman: bi, lesbian, almost queer, totally straight, or boy-girl. Getting off is good, and this book will help you get off better."—Bust

"Sets a standard for which all popular sex writers should aim. Not just for lesbians—heterosexual women could learn a great deal about themselves, as could the men who aspire to please them."—Library Journal

ISBN 978-1-57344-199-5 $24.95


Input: Create a section called 'Best Erotica Series' that starts with a quote saying "Gets racier every year." from the San Francisco Bay Guardian. Then, list various erotica collections in the following format: book title, editor, ISBN, and price. Include the 'Best of Best Women's Erotica 2' edited by Violet Blue, 'Best Women's Erotica 2010' edited by Violet Blue, 'Best Women's Erotica 2009' edited by Violet Blue, 'Best Women's Erotica 2008' edited by Violet Blue, 'Best Bisexual Women's Erotica' edited by Cara Bruce, 'Best Fetish Erotica' edited by Cara Bruce, 'Best of Best Lesbian Erotica 2' edited by Tristan Taormino, 'Best Lesbian Erotica 2010' edited by Kathleen Warnock, 'Best Lesbian Erotica 2009' edited by Tristan Taormino, 'Best Gay Erotica 2010' edited by Richard Labonté, 'Best Gay Erotica 2009' edited by Richard Labonté, 'Best Gay Erotica 2008' edited by Richard Labonté, 'In Sleeping Beauty's Bed' by Mitzi Szereto, 'Can't Help the Way That I Feel' edited by Lori Bryant-Woolridge, 'Making the Hook-Up' edited by Cole Riley, and 'Frenzy' edited by Alison Tyler. Note that there is a special offer of 'Buy 4 books, Get 1 FREE'\* for this section.

Response:
Best Erotica Series

"Gets racier every year."—San Francisco Bay Guardian

Buy 4 books,
Get 1 FREE*

Best of Best Women's Erotica 2

Edited by Violet Blue

ISBN 978-1-57344-379-1 $15.95

Best Women's Erotica 2010

Edited by Violet Blue

ISBN 978-1-57344-373-9 $15.95

Best Women's Erotica 2009

Edited by Violet Blue

ISBN 978-1-57344-338-8 $15.95

Best Women's Erotica 2008

Edited by Violet Blue ISBN 978-1-57344-299-2 $15.95

Best Bisexual Women's Erotica

Edited by Cara Bruce

ISBN 978-1-57344-320-3 $15.95

Best Fetish Erotica

Edited by Cara Bruce

ISBN 978-1-57344-355-5 $15.95

Best of Best Lesbian Erotica 2

Edited by Tristan Taormino

ISBN 978-1-57344-212-1 $17.95

Best Lesbian Erotica 2010

Edited by Kathleen Warnock. Selected and

introduced by BETTY.

ISBN 978-1-57344-375-3 $15.95

Best Lesbian Erotica 2009

Edited by Tristan Taormino. Selected and

introduced by Joan Larkin

ISBN 978-1-57344-335-7 $15.95

Best Gay Erotica 2010

Edited by Richard Labonté. Selected and

introduced by Blair Mastbaum.

ISBN 978-1-57344-374-6 $15.95

Best Gay Erotica 2009

Edited by Richard Labonté. Selected and

introduced by James Lear.

ISBN 978-1-57344-334-0 $15.95

Best Gay Erotica 2008

Edited by Richard Labonté. Selected and

introduced by Emanuel Xavier.

ISBN 978-1-57344-301-2 $14.95

In Sleeping Beauty's Bed

Erotic Fairy Tales

By Mitzi Szereto

ISBN 978-1-57344-367-8 $16.95

Can't Help the Way That I Feel

Sultry Stories of African American Love, Lust and Fantasy

Edited by Lori Bryant-Woolridge

ISBN 978-1-57344-386-9 $14.95

Making the Hook-Up

Edgy Sex with Soul

Edited by Cole Riley

ISBN 978-1-57344-383-8 $14.95

Frenzy

60 Stories of Sudden Sex

Edited by Alison Tyler

ISBN 978-1-57344-331-9 $14.95


Input: Write a section about 'Ordering is easy!' which includes the following information: customers can call toll free or fax to place their credit card (MasterCard/Visa) orders. They can also mail the order form below with payment to Cleis Press, 2246 Sixth St., Berkeley, CA 94710. The postage and handling fee is $3.95 for the first book ordered and $1.00 for each additional book. For orders outside North America, customers should contact for shipping rates. California residents should add 9.75% sales tax. Payment should be made in U.S. dollars only.

Response:
Ordering is easy! Call us toll free or fax us to place your MC/VISA order.You can also mail the order form below with payment to: Cleis Press, 2246 Sixth St., Berkeley, CA 94710.

Add $3.95 postage/handling for the first book ordered and $1.00 for each additional book. Outside North America, please contact us for shipping rates. California residents add 9.75% sales tax. Payment in U.S. dollars only.


Input: Write a section that includes the copyright information for the book. This should include the year of copyright for the main text, preface, illustrations, and erotic stories, as well as the copyright holders for each. Also include a notice that no part of the book may be reproduced without permission from the publisher, except for brief passages quoted in reviews. Lastly, provide the publisher's address and the ISBN number.

Response:
Copyright © 2002, 2010 by Violet Blue®. Preface © 2010 by Mary Roach. Illustrations copyright © 2002 by Molly Kiely. Erotic stories copyright © 2002 by Alison Tyler.

All rights reserved. Except for brief passages quoted in newspaper, magazine, radio or television reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying or recording, or by information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Publisher.

Published in the United States by Cleis Press Inc., 2246 Sixth Street, Berkeley CA 94710.

eISBN : 978-1-573-44568-9