Input:
Q: What is the main topic of this book?
A: The main topic of this book is the G-spot and its role in female sexual pleasure.

Q: What can readers expect to learn in Chapter 1?
A: In Chapter 1, readers can expect to learn about the G-spot, including what it is, what it isn't, and common myths surrounding it. They will also gain insight into why it is called the "G-spot."

Q: What is the focus of Chapter 2?
A: The focus of Chapter 2 is the anatomy of the female reproductive system, specifically in relation to the G-spot. Readers will learn about spot mapping and how to locate the G-spot, as well as its physical appearance.

Q: What is the purpose of Chapter 3?
A: The purpose of Chapter 3 is to provide readers with information on how to stimulate the G-spot, including understanding the arousal cycle and different techniques for stimulation. The chapter also covers the use of sex toys, lubrication, and the potential for mistaken beliefs about the G-spot.

Q: What is the significance of "G-Spot Massage" in Chapter 4?
A: In Chapter 4, "G-Spot Massage" refers to a specific technique for stimulating the G-spot. The chapter also covers communication, different sex positions, and the use of strap-ons for G-spot stimulation.

Q: What is the focus of Chapter 5?
A: The focus of Chapter 5 is female ejaculation and the G-spot's role in it. Readers will learn about the physiological process behind ejaculation, techniques for achieving it, and potential solutions for dealing with "wet spots."

Q: What types of sexual activities are discussed in Chapter 6?
A: In Chapter 6, readers will learn about different sexual activities that can be used to stimulate the G-spot, including the use of vibrators, anal sex, oral sex, S/M and power play, and fisting.

Q: What resources are provided in Chapter 7?
A: In Chapter 7, readers will find shopping resources for purchasing sex toys and other related products. The chapter may also include additional educational resources for further study.

Q: Who is the intended audience for this book?
A: The intended audience for this book is anyone interested in learning more about the G-spot and female sexual pleasure. This may include individuals of any gender or sexual orientation who are seeking to improve their understanding of female sexual anatomy and techniques for sexual stimulation.

Q: What tone or style is used in this book?
A: Based on the chapter titles and descriptions, it appears that the tone of this book is informative and educational, while also being approachable and inclusive. The language used is deliberately gender-inclusive and avoids heteronormative assumptions.

Q: What cultural or societal factors may influence the content of this book?
A: The content of this book may be influenced by various cultural and societal factors, including attitudes towards female sexuality, the role of sex toys and pornography in sexual education, and the importance of inclusivity and diversity in discussions of sexuality. Additionally, the author's own experiences and biases may shape the content of the book.

Q: How can an author create an authentic depiction of the topics covered in this book?
A: To create an authentic depiction of the topics covered in this book, an author can draw from a variety of sources, including scientific research, personal experiences, and interviews with sexual health experts and individuals with diverse sexual backgrounds. The author can also ensure that the language used is inclusive and respectful, and that the content is presented in a way that is accessible and engaging for readers of all backgrounds.

Response:
Table of Contents

Title Page

Foreword

Introduction

chapter 1 - get smart

What's the Big Deal?

What the G-Spot Is

What the G-Spot Isn't

Myths

Why It's a G

chapter 2 - what's inside a girl

Anatomy

Spot Mapping

How to Get There from Here

What the G-Spot Looks Like

chapter 3 - turn it on, turn it up

Your Arousal Cycle

How to Stimulate Your Spot

How It Feels

Sex Toys

Lube

Good to Be Wrong

chapter 4 - g-spots are for sharing

Talk about It

G-Spot Massage

G-Spot vs. Strap-On

Sex Positions for G-Spot Stimulation

Found

chapter 5 - wet spots: ejaculation

What's Going On Here?

How to Ejaculate

Ejaculation Techniques

Wet Spots and Creative Solutions

Down to Business

chapter 6 - faster, deeper, more!

G-Spot Play with Vibrators

G-Spot Play with Anal Sex

G-Spot Play with Oral Sex

G-Spot Play with S/M and Power Play

G-Spot Play with a Fist

Pervert

chapter 7 - shopping and further study

Shopping Resources

about the author

Copyright Page


Input:
 Q: Who is the author of the foreword for this book?
A: Jesse Bering

Q: What anecdote does the author share about their experiences in high school?
A: The author shares a story about writing a pornographic letter to their fake girlfriend in an attempt to convince her that they were interested in her, rather than her older brother. The letter contained obscene and perverse fantasies, including the idea of flossing with the girlfriend's pubic hair.

Q: How does the author's girlfriend respond to the vice principal's suggestion that she might be afraid of the author?
A: The girlfriend fires back at the vice principal, asking him if he ever says anything to his wife like what he just said to her.

Q: What is the author's current profession and sexual orientation?
A: The author is a gay psychologist.

Q: What is the author's current perspective on the topics discussed in the foreword?
A: The author is now interested in discussing the topics of penises and female ejaculation without pretending to like female genitalia. They see female ejaculation as a fascinating subject matter that has largely escaped serious scientific inquiry.

Q: What historical texts have discussed the topic of female ejaculation?
A: The fourth century Taoist text, "Secret Instructions Concerning the Jade Chamber," and the _Kamasutra_ , which dates to 200-400 A.D., both speak of "female semen" that "falls continually." Aristotle also had something to say about female discharge during sexual intercourse, which he noted far exceeded the seminal emission of the man.

Q: What is the author's opinion of the Taoist text's "five signs" of feminine arousal?
A: The author wouldn't recommend any man follow these secret instructions today, but notes that the text distinguishes between "slippery vagina" and "the genitals transmit fluid," which means that even the ancients knew of female ejaculation.

Q: What does the author think of Aristotle's observations about female ejaculation?
A: The author finds it astounding that it wasn't until 1982 that female ejaculate was first analyzed in terms of its chemical properties, and notes that it wasn't urine. They also speculate about how Aristotle came to the conclusion that female ejaculation tends to be "found in those who are fair-skinned and of a feminine type generally, but not in those who are dark and of masculine appearance."

Q: Who does the author compare to "the fair-skinned, feminine type" with the liberated vulva?
A: The author compares Violet Blue, the author of the book, to "the fair-skinned, feminine type" with the liberated vulva. They describe her as the brilliantly naughty schoolgirl grown up, unrepentantly sexual, fearlessly playful, always up for a mind-fuck with her gay male friends, and a ravenous brain matched only by an even more ravenous G-spot.

Q: What is the overall tone and message of the foreword?
A: The foreword has a humorous and irreverent tone, with the author sharing a personal anecdote about their experiences in high school before discussing the topic of female ejaculation in a more serious and scientific manner. The overall message is that female ejaculation is a fascinating and understudied topic that deserves more attention and understanding.

Response:
**foreword**

by jesse bering

**W** hen I was in the ninth grade, ninety pounds when wet, secretly gay, and prone to unbidden orgasms at the banal tickles of the atmosphere, I placed in my "girlfriend's" palm a pornographic note so riddled with perversions that if ever that voice in the back of her head telling her that my lust burned not for her, but rather for her older brother, were to burst suddenly into her consciousness, the memory of this debauched ode would reel her back to doubt. It would be dishonest to say that I recall all the absurdly obscene things the letter contained, but there was almost certainly a line about my hope of flossing with her pubic hair after smearing her buttocks with my cream. (In reality, I'd have run for my life if she actually welcomed this scene.)

Soon, the two of us would be called down to the vice principal's office, where a raft of sunlight set us all afloat on a sober discussion about the seriousness of my written offense, which had found its way into his hands. "Are you afraid of him?" said the middle-aged man to my fake girlfriend, nodding at me without looking at me, "I mean, there are some pretty disturbing things in this letter."

What she snapped back at him made me fall madly in love with her. "Afraid?" she fired back. "How sad. Don't you ever say anything like that anymore to your wife?"

Now I'm all grown up and a gay psychologist, and I can talk about penises without pretending to like pussies. Actually, it's not that I _don't_ like them—I just don't go into them in my private life. I do see female ejaculation as an enormously fascinating subject matter that has largely escaped serious scientific inquiry, particularly from an evolutionary perspective. This is all the more puzzling given that female ejaculation, which is usually defined as the expulsion of a significant amount of fluid around the time of orgasm—estimates range from, on average, 3 to 50 ml (about 10 teaspoons)—is a topic that was first described by scholars around 2,000 years ago.

The fourth century Taoist text, "Secret Instructions Concerning the Jade Chamber," for example, written for the enterprising man in the art of satisfying a woman in bed, suggested that he decipher the following "five signs" of feminine arousal accordingly:

1\. "reddened face" = "she wants to make love with you"

2\. "breasts hard and nose perspiring" = "she wants you to insert your penis"

3\. "throat dry and saliva blocked" = "she is very stimulated and excited"

4\. "slippery vagina" = "she wants to have her orgasm soon"

5\. "the genitals transmit fluid" = "she has already been satisfied"

I wouldn't recommend any man follow these secret instructions today; citing number two in your defense that, say, some woman with a sweaty nose wanted you to insert your penis into her isn't likely to hold up in a court of law. But the fact that this ancient text distinguishes between "slippery vagina" and "the genitals transmit fluid," means that even the ancients knew of female ejaculation. Likewise, the _Kamasutra_ , which dates to 200-400 A.D.,  speaks of "female semen" that "falls continually." In the West, even Aristotle had something to say about female discharge during sexual intercourse, which, he pointed out, "far exceeds" the seminal emission of the man. He also noted—and it's tempting to speculate about just how he came to this conclusion—that female ejaculation tends to be "found in those who are fair-skinned and of a feminine type generally, but not in those who are dark and of masculine appearance." Astounding that it wasn't until 1982 that female ejaculate was first analyzed in terms of its chemical properties. And guess what—it wasn't urine!

It's as though Aristotle was prognosticating in his mind's eye our own Violet Blue—the "the fair-skinned, feminine type" with the liberated vulva. I don't know what ever happened to that clever girl from high school who served so generously as my beard, but I imagine she's probably something like Violet—the brilliantly naughty schoolgirl grown up, unrepentantly sexual, fearlessly playful, always up for a mind-fuck with her gay male friends, and a ravenous brain matched only by an even more ravenous G-spot. So sit back, slide your hands down there, and let Violet push your buttons.


Input:
 Q: What is the introduction of the book about?
A: The introduction of the book is about the G-spot and the author's motivation for writing a guide for smart girls like herself. The author dispels the myth that the G-spot is a riddle wrapped in a mystery and emphasizes that it is a real, tangible thing that can be seen and that makes you come, hard, period. The author also expresses her frustration with the lack of accurate information about the G-spot and female ejaculation, and the tendency for some people to either gloss over the topic or cloak it in spiritual or feminist context.

Q: What is the author's goal for the book?
A: The author's goal for the book is to provide helpful information about the G-spot and female ejaculation in a plain, even fun, way that speaks to smart girls who want to be a little bit more fierce about their sexuality. The author also wants to encourage readers to think of the book as a call to arms for girls who want to be more assertive and orgasmic in their sexuality.

Q: What topics are covered in the book?
A: The book covers a range of topics related to the G-spot and female ejaculation, including what the big deal is about the G-spot, what's real and what's not, and why the G-spot has such an annoying name. It also provides a map to the Batcave (a G-spot anatomy lesson), tips on how to stimulate the G-spot and what it feels like, and advice on how to share your new toy with a lover, including G-spot-centric sexual positions. The book also explains and demystifies female ejaculation, with specific troubleshooting tips, and offers a chapter on intensifying your G-spot experience with anal, oral, S/M and fisting. The book includes a resource chapter with further reading, online shopping recommendations, and safer sex info, as well as four erotic stories by Alison Tyler that bring to life the real-time exploration of this critical erotic zone and the pleasurable feelings it can create.

Q: What is the tone of the book?
A: The tone of the book is humorous, irreverent, and empowering, with the author using strong language and vivid metaphors to describe the G-spot and female ejaculation. The author also encourages readers to leave behind any preconceived notions or misinformation about the G-spot and to get ready to come like a crazed hyena.

Response:
**introduction: thoughts on becoming supreme master overlord of your g-spot**

**T** he G-spot is not a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma. It is a place in your body. In my body. It's a real, tangible thing, like my breasts and your clitoris, and you can even see it. But for some reason, lots of people seem to think the G-spot is a myth. Or a rumor. Or something only for the granola-and-Birkenstocks crowd, who call it the "goddess spot" and claim we tap into our "inner wisdom" when we go hunting around for it. No—it's a real thing, and it makes you come, hard, period. No deep wisdom, soul-searching or goddess worship necessary. But a little knowledge helps.

That's why I had to write this G-spot guide for smart girls like me. There are way, way too many guys online who think that watching porn or reading other people's websites gives them the knowledge to spout off about what is and isn't up with the G-spot and female ejaculation—often getting their facts wrong in horrifyingly shaming ways. And the only books I could find out there were either piecemeal, dated, or intended for an audience of women who wanted a spiritual experience—when all I wanted was to figure out how to get off.

None of these books or websites spoke to me, and some of them offended and scared me. It seemed like no one could just talk about the G-spot in plain, even fun, terms. It either got glossed over in explaining a mystery of some kind, or it had to be cloaked in feminist reclaiming or Mother Earth context, as if the people doing the explaining had to give the G-spot some kind of extra validation to make it okay to talk about in the first place. Rather than turning me on and making me want to get out the lube, this approach has the same effect as a Thorazine dart. It puts any wild animal—or horny smart girl—to sleep.

I want to encourage you to think of this volume not just as a G-spot guide for smart girls, but also as a call to arms for girls who want to be a little bit more fierce about their sexuality. We're not reclaiming the G-spot here; we're making plans for orgasmic lawlessness. We're not searching for a mythical magic button buried somewhere in our pussies; we're constructing a doomsday device in  the basement. We're not worried that we might pee ourselves with pleasure (because we won't); we're ramping up to feel really, really good about our bad selves. It's like that.

This book has attitude, and a lot of helpful information to back it up. In the first chapter you'll find out what the big deal is about the G-spot, what's real and what's not, and why the G-spot has such an annoying name. Next, in chapter 2 you'll get your map to the Batcave (a G-spot anatomy lesson); in chapter 3 you'll find out how to activate your G-spot/orgasm doomsday device by learning how to stimulate it, how it feels, and all the essentials on how to proceed, including toys and techniques. In chapter 4 you'll learn how to share your new toy with a lover (including G-spot-centric sexual positions). In chapter 5, female ejaculation is explained and demystified, with lots of specific troubleshooting tips. After that, if you're ready for more, you'll find a chapter on intensifying your G-spot experience with anal, oral, S/M and fisting. Finally, there's a huge resource chapter with further reading, online shopping recommendations and safer sex info.

Interleaved with the informational text you'll also find four apt erotic stories by Alison Tyler that bring to life both the real-time exploration of this  critical erotic zone and the pleasurable feelings, bodily and emotional, it can create.

So take a deep breath, leave the granola and disinformation behind, and get ready to come like a crazed hyena.

Violet Blue


Input:
 Q: What is the first chapter of the book about?
A: The first chapter of the book is about the G-spot and why it's a big deal. The author explains that while the clitoris is the smug little mistress of gratification, the G-spot is the intense pleasure that lies within. The author compares the sensation of a G-spot orgasm to no other, and emphasizes that it can leave gluteal muscles deliciously sore, make the dogs howl and cats run for cover, ruin bedsheets and blowouts alike, and may even contribute to global warming.

Q: What are some common misconceptions about the G-spot?
A: The author addresses some common misconceptions about the G-spot, including the idea that it's a magic button that delivers unending waves of instant orgasms. The author explains that the G-spot is not a magic button, but rather an area just inside the vagina that may feel really good to rub or massage when turned on. The author also debunks the myth that the G-spot is inaccessible, explaining that it's not high up in some unreachable place, and that everyone has a urethra, otherwise they'd never be able to pee.

Q: What are some myths about the G-spot that the author dispels?
A: The author dispels several myths about the G-spot, including the idea that you might not have a G-spot, that every woman likes G-spot stimulation, that there's only one right way to touch it, that G-spot stimulation makes you incontinent, and that any other orgasms are inferior to a G-spot orgasm. The author emphasizes that everyone has a urethra, and that the G-spot is simply an area that may feel really good to rub or massage when turned on. The author also emphasizes that there is no one "right" or "normal" way to make yourself feel good, and that orgasms of all kinds can range in intensity and pleasure.

Q: What is the origin of the term "G-spot"?
A: The term "G-spot" is named after Dr. Ernest Grafenberg, a German gynecologist and researcher who primarily focused his studies on contraceptive research in the 1920s and '30s. Dr. Grafenberg published a paper about the role of the urethra in female orgasm in 1950, which led to more research and numerous studies about the urethra and orgasm, and female ejaculation. The area was named after Grafenberg by Dr. Beverly Whipple and her colleague Dr. John D. Perry.

Response:
_**chapter 1**_

**get smart**

**T** he clitoris may be our smug little mistress of gratification, pure in orgasmic purpose within her princess seat atop the female pleasure system. But girls who've taken their erotic explorations further on into G-spot territory know that the clitoris is but a sweet sentry to the intense pleasure that lies within. A girl who enjoys G-spot play knows that when her clit stands at attention, the fun has only just begun. A skilled pair of slick fingers, a smooth and firm sex toy, or even a carefully angled hot cock or slippery fist can topple her clit's prim orgasms with thigh-quaking G-spot explosions that leave her sweaty and wild-eyed, clit twitching in empathy.

The sensation of a G-spot orgasm is like no other; from clitoral stimulation to anal orgasm, nothing can compare. G-spot pleasure leaves gluteal muscles  deliciously sore, makes the dogs howl and cats run for cover, ruins bedsheets and blowouts alike, and may even contribute to global warming. Best of all, as the saying goes, you can't have just one. You can have _lots_. Think of it as being like trading up your six-shooter for a semiautomatic.

# **What's the Big Deal?**

You might be wondering what all the G-spot noise is about. Maybe you have your own style(s) of bringing yourself to orgasm—say with fingers, sex toys or a friend—using clitoral and/or vaginal techniques that are tried and true. Perhaps you have experienced an unusual or unexpected kind of orgasm, and are wondering if maybe it was a G-spot orgasm. It could be that there's a way you like to get off that you think might just be G-spot related, but aren't quite sure. Maybe a lover wants you to try, or wants to help you "find" your G-spot. Or you're hearing all this great stuff about the G-spot, and want to know what the big deal is anyway.

If you already have an orgasmic style that you like, you might be kind of curious about G-spot play but don't know if you want to change what already is reliable and feels good. That's okay—because even if this is true and you have a lover who wants to  explore your G-spot (or you're just a _little_ curious), playing with your G-spot can be thought of as a pleasure experiment. Your G-spot is there to play with as you like, and if you don't like it, no big deal. Experiment concluded, hang up the lab coat.

Seeing all the magazine articles and endless G-spot promotions and G-spot-related toys on sex toy websites (especially the women-centric ones) this might seem to you like a lot of hype at first. You may have a friend who really likes G-spot play—and sounds like a newly brainwashed member of a cult when she talks about it. Another friend may tell a tale of G-spot discomfort and abandoned pleasure-seeking. It's hard to find a middle ground, and that's because G-spot orgasms can be pretty powerful, with a lot of strong accompanying sensations, and that's not always for everyone.

Not every girl wants to join a sex cult, even with a membership of one. But between the two extremes of rabid G-spot orgasm devotion and dislike for the sensations is a huge playing field where a girl can experiment with G-spot stimulation like any other sex toy in her bag. Think of it as having a few different delicious treats to choose among each time you want to indulge yourself; you don't have to just have the same slice of pie every night (even if the pie is always really yummy).

Your G-spot is another way to make yourself feel good, in addition to all the other ways you already know. And for many women, adding G-spot play to their sexual repertoire takes their sex lives and cranks up the pleasure, adding a new option for orgasms, making sex more intense, and bringing diversity to the range of sex they already enjoy. It's also fun to have a new sex toy to share with a lover—one that comes in your own personal factory design.

# **What the G-Spot Is**

Plainly put, the G-spot is an area just inside your vagina, which, when you're turned on, may feel really good to rub or massage. It may even feel so good you have an orgasm from that type of stimulation alone. About one to two inches inside and on the front (belly button side) of your vaginal canal is the route through which urine leaves your body—your urethra. The urethra is a little channel between your bladder and the outside world, and it's surrounded with erectile tissue (like that in a penis) and about forty glands and ducts that all respond pleasurably to stimulation. This is the urethral sponge. In some women, stimulation of the G-spot to orgasm is accompanied by an expulsion of fluid from the glands and ducts in the sponge, in a powerfully pleasurable (and sometimes very wet) female ejaculation. In many  women, it's the urethra, or the area right around it, that responds best to stimulation.

# **What the G-Spot Isn't**

First of all, it's not a magic button, which, once you find and press it, delivers unending waves of instant orgasms. Over the past few decades, magazine articles, online sex commerce sites, and even porn have all made the G-spot seem like the pot of gold at the end of the female orgasmic rainbow—as if you could just find it and one touch would send your eyes rolling skyward and make you come like a crazed banshee. Like most end-of-the-rainbow fables, the G-spot-as-instant-orgasm-trigger story simply isn't true. The problem is that people like to shorthand anything sexual in our culture, and it's a much better sound bite to liken its activation to flipping a switch than it is to explain the plain truths about G-spot orgasms. The truth is, G-spot stimulation to orgasm can be shown and explained pretty easily, but the details are often too explicitly sexual for the producers of most entertainment and sales outlets—in their minds, it's way more palatable to advertisers and nervous shoppers for someone to say "press it and orgasm," than "put something hard in your vagina, find the spot, jack off, and _come._ "

_**The Male G-Spot**_

In books, online, and in sexual how-to videos, you'll find that people like to use the words G-spot and prostate interchangeably when referring to both areas. The prostate gland is located at just about the center of the male urogenital system, inside the perineal wall; it can be stimulated directly by massaging one to two inches inside the anus, toward the front of a man's body. Alternately rebuked, reviled, redeemed, and romanced, this little gland manages to make headlines. Sometimes the attention is conflicted: the gland makes prostatic fluid for carrying virile semen, making the man "a man"; it also makes orgasm outrageously powerful but requires access through anal penetration, challenging some people's definition of "a man." The prostate (aka the male G-spot) is a gland that is best stimulated through anal penetration. The G-spot (aka the female prostate) is a bundle of nerves, tiny glands and erectile tissue best stimulated through vaginal penetration. Different animals, but both like to be petted.

Another thing the G-spot isn't: inaccessible. It's not high up in some unreachable place, in your deep dark mysterious cave. The vagina ceased to be a mystery about forty years ago, and I find it ridiculous that some people (especially online) still say that the G-spot might be hard to find. Let's oversimplify for  a moment with a hands-on tutorial that requires no hands at all. To get an idea where to find the spot, go to the toilet, pee, and see where it comes from. Ding! There's the map to your buried treasure; this is the urethral opening, the outside indicator of your G-spot's underground hideout. Don't pay attention to anyone who says that it might be difficult to find. (Or that you may lose track of it; hilariously, some pundits have suggested that it travels, or can get "lost," not unlike Hippocrates' not-so-adorable decrees that the uterus wandered freely about a woman's body should it become discontented or angry. It makes my uterus angry enough to take a walk just thinking about such misinformation.) You don't need a flashlight, a hand mirror or familiarity with self-examination to find it. But if you want to use any of those tools, great; otherwise you can locate and stimulate it with your fingers, a sex toy or a lover's penis (or strap-on). Again, having a G-spot (or not) is not a roll of the dice—everyone has a urethra, otherwise they'd never be able to pee.

You don't have to be on an inner journey to play with it. The G-spot is for every woman, not just ones who seek transcendent wisdom through personal sexual exploration. It's not a spiritual gateway (though some women say that sometimes G-spot orgasms can be cosmic in scale), nor do you need to  be enlightened to find it. As with anything sexual, you'll be interested in the G-spot for any number of reasons, and how you play with it and experiment with it will change and evolve over time. Your attitude and techniques, preferred toys and states of mind when you have G-spot orgasms will be ever-changing, so don't think that you need to fit into any particular mindset to check this all out, enjoy it, or even have it be something significant for you. And if G-spot play doesn't turn out to be for you, it doesn't mean that you aren't enlightened or in touch with your sexuality (or spirituality) as a woman. You will be, more than ever, even if you think the result sucks and you hate it. But chances are good that won't be the case.

# **Myths**

In my years as a sex educator, porn reviewer and online sex culture critic, I have found that no area of the human body has generated as many crazy, often hurtful and shameful myths about it as the G-spot. Maybe the ass rivals it in stigma, lame rumors and uneducated opinion-based judgments, but many people—all of whom claim they are absolutely right—make a mind-boggling array of statements about the G-spot and female ejaculation.  Sadly, these people often cite questionable websites, or medical papers on incontinence to back up their opinions, making it all too easy to get sucked into thinking that what they say is right—and making lots of us girls feel defective when it comes to the G-spot. Here are a few of the most ridiculous and hurtful myths:

**You might not have a G-spot.**

Duh! Read What the G-Spot Is in the earlier section.

**Every woman likes G-spot stimulation.**

This myth comes from a combination of aggressive marketing of G-spot toys, books and videos, and the enthusiasm of G-spot-happy cult worshippers who forget that it's not for everyone. I'm not going to tell you that you'll like it; G-spot sensations are unlike any other kind of sexual stimulation. But many women say that G-spot stimulation, because the feelings typically center on or around the urethra, where urine leaves the body, makes them feel like they have to pee, or it reminds them of the sensation of having to urinate. Some women may find the feeling uncomfortable for a variety of reasons. And that's okay—maybe you just know you prefer clitoral or anal stimulation to orgasm. Nothing's broken if you don't like G-spot stimulation.

**There's only one right way to touch it.**

There are certainly some ways to stimulate your G-spot that for some women seem to work better than others—for instance, G-spot stimulation usually requires a firm touch—but like anything related to sex and orgasm, there is no one "right" or "normal" way to make yourself feel good. Like the idea that the G-spot is some kind of magic-button instant orgasm delivery system, other information about the G-spot has been compressed into narrowly defined bite-sized chunks of advice, all too often making us think (or sometimes outright telling us) that it's like making a delicate pastry or soufflé, where one wrong step or ingredient will spoil the crust, sink the soufflé, or make your dough fall apart. It's just not so. There are lots of ways to play with your G-spot, and I'll explain a whole lot of them in the following chapters so you can mix and match and find the right combination for you.

**G-spot stimulation makes you incontinent.**

This is a hurtful myth based on the shaming lie that female ejaculatory fluid is urine (it's not). The people who espouse this lie will also have you believe that G-spot stimulation will make it hard for you to hold your pee if you even come near your G-spot with a vibrator. In fact, it's the opposite that's true:  G-spot stimulation brings blood and muscular activity to the entire area, strengthening it just as you would a muscle at the gym, making your control more precise and your orgasms more powerful as you "flex" this orgasm technique. See chapter 5, Wet Spots: Ejaculation.

**Any other orgasms are inferior to a G-spot orgasm.**

There's no such thing as a bad orgasm. Mostly it's people who love G-spot play who make this claim; the problem is that they tend to make us think that our incredible clitoral, vaginal or anal orgasms somehow don't stack up. Of course they do. But G-spot orgasms _are_ pretty intense; it's just that the women for whom G-spot orgasms are best tend to forget that other women might prefer clitoral orgasms. Or they may enjoy a variety of ways of reaching orgasm, with G-spot orgasms being only one of them. Orgasms of all kinds can range in intensity and pleasure from blah to "Holy shit—I think my head just exploded, is my head still attached?" When you find a great way to come and it's reliably intense and wonderful, it's easy to think that's the ultimate. But it doesn't mean that other orgasms are inferior, or that your experiences won't change over time. So don't ever think you're less than, or missing out if you don't have a G-spot  orgasm, or you find that you don't particularly like G-spot stimulation.

# **Why It's a G**

The G-spot is named after Dr. Ernest Grafenberg, a German gynecologist and researcher who primarily focused his studies on contraceptive research in the 1920s and '30s; unfortunately his work in the field of contraception became illegal in Nazi Germany, and the doctor spent time in prison before eventually being smuggled out of the country to safety. American sexologists, most notably Margaret Sanger of New York, negotiated his release.1 In the United States he continued his contraception research, eventually publishing a paper about the role of the urethra in female orgasm in 1950. It was this groundbreaking paper that led to more research and numerous studies about the urethra and orgasm, and female ejaculation—as well as leading Dr. Beverly Whipple and her colleague Dr. John D. Perry to name the area after Grafenberg.

Hence, the _G._ It's not a random letter, nor was it named by some guy who wanted to plant his name in the female body like some astronaut landing on an exotic planet and claiming it for his home country. Nope, the spot was named by a woman for a colleague who risked a lot to develop IUDs and cervical caps at a time when people were being killed for homosexuality in Germany and actually dared to talk about female orgasm when the United States was checking out the Kinsey reports and flailing about madly for smelling salts like an uptight schoolmarm who pretends that no one exists below the waist.

But now we can say, "What's up, G?" The name might not have much meaning for us by contemporary standards, but it's got some cool history. Call it what you want. Just don't forget the lube.


Input:
 This section of the story is about the anatomy of the female genitals, specifically focusing on the G-spot and the interconnected systems it works in tandem with, such as the clitoris and the tissues inside the pelvis. The section also addresses the importance of knowing one's own anatomy for pleasure, as well as dispelling some myths about the G-spot.

Here is a possible prompt that could generate this section of the story:

Q: What is the importance of knowing one's own anatomy for pleasure?
A: Knowing one's own anatomy is important for pleasure because it allows a person to understand how their body works and what feels good to them. This can help them to have more fulfilling sexual experiences and to communicate their needs and desires more effectively to their partners. It is also important to know one's anatomy in order to dispel myths and misconceptions about the body and sexuality.

Q: What are some common myths about the G-spot?
A: Some common myths about the G-spot include the idea that it is a magic button that delivers unending waves of instant orgasms, that it is inaccessible, and that everyone has a G-spot. The truth is that the G-spot is an area just inside the vagina that may feel really good to rub or massage when turned on, it is not high up in some unreachable place, and while everyone has a urethra, not everyone may have a G-spot that responds to stimulation.

Q: What are the interconnected systems that the G-spot works in tandem with?
A: The G-spot works in tandem with the clitoris and the tissues inside the pelvis. The clitoris has eight thousand nerve endings and is the central powerhouse of orgasm for most women. The tissues inside the pelvis include the pubic mound, the outer and inner labia, and the vaginal opening. The G-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina, toward the belly button, and is surrounded by erectile tissue.

Q: What does the anatomy of the G-spot look like?
A: The G-spot is located inside the vagina, roughly one or two inches in from the vaginal opening. It is surrounded by erectile tissue and is a complex bundle of nerve-rich tissues, including the urethra itself and about forty tiny glands and ducts called paraurethral glands or Skene's glands. When aroused, the G-spot swells and becomes firm to the touch. It may also expel fluid during orgasm, which is known as female ejaculation.

Q: How can a person locate their own G-spot?
A: A person can locate their own G-spot by feeling for a soft bump or slight change in the surface of their vaginal wall. They can do this by inserting a finger or two just inside their vagina and stroking the front wall. It may be easier to locate the G-spot if the person is aroused, as the sponge swells and hardens during arousal. It is also recommended to use a water- or silicone-based lubricant during exploration.

Response:
_**chapter 2**_

**what's inside a girl**

**T** he first rule about G-spot stimulation is: Know everything you can about your anatomy. This chapter is an anatomy lesson, but it's not like any you've ever read before. We all know about reproduction—the what and how of baby-making and birthing in relation to our genitals. Even if we're fuzzy on a few details, most adult women have a pretty good idea about how our pussies work for conception and birth, or at least know our way around some kind of birth control. It is a universal assumption that we know all about our reproductive anatomy and know which side is up with condoms. Most of us know about sexually transmitted infections and staying safe (or managing a virus, or curing an infection).

The thing is, even if we get any type of formal education about female genitals, none of it has anything to do with pleasure—how to make ourselves feel oh-so-good. Chances are, if you got any information about your pussy in school, it was in the form of illustrated internal anatomical drawings and estimates on how much you bleed a month and for how long—then a lesson on how pregnancy occurs. That's a great bit of info—but it's missing the critical fact that this part of our bodies feels good (which I think should come first, to explain why we'd stimulate our genitals in the first place). As for critical life skills for smart girls, learning how to be sexually self-reliant and understanding how our pleasure systems work should be at the top of the survival list.

While this chapter is focused on what's inside our pussies, refreshingly, it has nothing to do with reproduction. Welcome to the world of pleasure-based female genital anatomy—specifically, your G-spot and all of the interconnected systems it works in tandem with, your clitoris and all of the tissues inside your pelvis. Yes it's _that_ connected, and no, they never told you that in school. The more you know about your pleasure anatomy, the more pleasure you can wring out of your luscious little spot.

# **Anatomy**

Look down. What do you see? The pubic mound (or _mons veneris,_ mound of Venus). This is the area over the pubic bone, usually covered with hair, and it tapers down and between your thighs, where the inner thighs meet the torso, and splits neatly around the vaginal opening.

Spread your legs and you'll see the outer lips, or outer labia, of your vagina; these are fleshy and the skin is soft and sensitive, though somewhat similar to the skin on the rest of your body (the delicate parts, at least). Unlike the smooth, hairless inner lips to be found just inside, the outer labia reside on the outside of the body and are often covered with a continuation of your pubic mound's hair. The outer lips can be compared to the male scrotum—they are similar enough in structure and evolutionary origin, and both are formed from the same tissue in utero—but obviously they differ in function. The outer labia's appearance ranges from fleshy (puffy, covering the clitoris and vaginal opening) to thin (flat, revealing the clitoral hood).

Just inside the outer lips you'll see a hairless second set of lips that surround the vaginal opening. The inner labia are definitely more liplike in color, texture and shape than the outer set, and as with every other body part, no two individuals' are alike.  The inner labia come in countless colors; beige-orange hues, pinks and even purples, wine shades, or deep brown. The color may deepen after a woman has a child, and they can even be different colors from one another. Your inner lips might be petite and flat, curled inward, fluted, or flared, or they may protrude past the pubic hair—or, often, one might protrude more than the other. Textures range from smooth to glassy, translucent to deeply crinkled.

The outer edges of each inner lip meet toward the anus at the perineum (the wall separating the vaginal canal and anus), and also up top, toward the pubic bone, where they join to create the clitoral hood—the flesh covering your clitoris. It's interesting to note that some women report enjoying stimulation of the inner lips more than clitoral stimulation. Your inner labia are chock-full of sensitive nerve endings.

The top corner of the inner lips comes to an _A_ shape underneath a tight jacket of flesh covering the protruding tip of the clitoris, or glans. Though this word sounds like _gland,_ the slightly bulbous, spade-shaped head of the clitoral shaft isn't a gland at all. _Glans_ means "a small, round mass or body" and "tissue that can swell or harden."

The shaft of the clitoris is the portion that runs from the bottom of the inner labia's A-frame housing to the tip of the glans (the bottom edges of the _A_ being  the lower boundary of the visible portion of the clitoris). The entire covering, the clitoris's whole house, is called the hood. This protective covering or hood encompasses the shaft in its A shape and can range in appearance from fleshy and fat to pulled tight and flat. Sometimes all it takes to expose the tip of your glans is pulling back the hood; or, it may not become visible until you're aroused. The glans is nestled in the hood and comes in many sizes, from the size of a pen tip to larger than a fingertip.

**Illustration 1: External Female Anatomy**

Your clitoris has eight thousand nerve endings, all concentrated in that one little spot. It contains more nerve endings than any other part of the human body, male or female, more than the fingertips, tongue or anus—and twice as many as the entire penis.

Your clitoris has but one job: your pleasure. Its function is hotly contested by evolutionary theorists (who dare to speak its name), and ignored altogether by most medical and religious institutions who can't seem to find a use for it. That's okay— _we_ can figure out what to do with it. Its impracticality is ludicrous, laughable and luscious. For most women, stimulation of the clitoris is essential to orgasm. The clitoris is often referred to as the "powerhouse of orgasm," and though it delivers pleasure pure of purpose, touching it directly in an unaroused state can feel painful—sometimes even if you're aroused it's just too much sensation to bear. Luckily, the clitoris is shrouded by the clitoral hood, that little nub analogous to the foreskin on a man, though far more sensitive. It both protects the clitoris and diffuses the sensations of touching it; even so, some women find that having their clitoral hood touched is too intense and prefer indirect clitoral stimulation, or stimulation by way of the vulva.

The area of the clitoris is far larger than described in conventional anatomy texts and most sex guides. The external tip, or glans, is really the tip of the iceberg—the glans begins at the tip of the shaft and continues under the surface to where the other end connects to the suspensory ligament at the pubic mound. You can feel this connection between your clit and the pubic bone by rolling your finger across the area; it feels somewhat like a soda straw (and feels firmer when you're aroused). The shaft, like the glans, is very sensitive and responds pleasurably to stimulation. At the shaft's connection to your pubic bone, the clitoris runs underneath both sides of your vulva alongside the vaginal opening in a wishbone shape, forming two legs, or crura, and extends all the way to your perineum.

**Illustration 2. Internal Female Anatomy**

The internal area occupied by the clitoris and crura is actually a complex clitoral system, wrapped in erectile tissue—just like the stuff that fills with blood during arousal to make a penis hard. The connecting nerves, tissues, muscles, and ligaments all react and engage with one another during your arousal cycle. And guess what? Your G-spot has the princess seat right in the middle of all this. The clitoral area underneath the inner and outer lips, the ring around the urethra (where urine leaves the body), and the wall of the perineum all contain erectile tissues that fill with blood and swell upon arousal—sometimes noticeably, sometimes not. Several layers of muscles line the pelvic floor, connecting the clitoris to these erectile tissues. An oval-shaped muscle of erectile tissue surrounds the inner lips and clitoris, where the vagina and G-spot pass through it, and connects to another oval that surrounds the anal sphincter muscle, encircling the anus.

# **Spot Mapping**

The second rule of G-spot play is: Everyone's different. From thumbprints to eyes, these may be things we all have but how they appear, feel and express  their permutations is always going to differ from girl to girl. Sexual pleasure, and the G-spot, are not exceptions. How your G-spot looks and feels to touch will be as unique to you as your fingerprints and the makeup of your genital anatomy.

But some generalities apply, such as urethral anatomy—that's G-spot anatomy in case you skipped the previous sections. Both women and men have an identical ring of spongy erectile tissue surrounding the urethra (where urine leaves the body). It is an essential part of the clitoral system and your entire orgasmic network, and even when you simply jack off through clitoral stimulation, your G-spot participates in the orgasm (but more on that in the next chapter). Located inside the vagina, the urethra is a tube that's roughly two inches long, running from the bladder to the urethral opening on your vaginal wall. This ring of urethral tissue is the outer area that shows you where your G-spot is.

The urethral sponge is located on the front wall of the vagina, toward the belly button; if you're lying on your back, it's the "top" of the vaginal wall. Starting from the vaginal opening, it's roughly one or two inches inside. The outer area is the marker to let you know where the G-spot actually begins, because there's a lot more of it beneath the surface. In addition to the two-inch long urethral canal  leading to the bladder, there is a whole lot more tissue surrounding the urethral opening (and sponge) that makes up the entirety of the G-spot, and it all responds to G-spot stimulation; to enjoy your spot and come, you'll be touching not just the urethral opening but the area surrounding it as well.

The spongy tissues that surround your urethra and comprise your G-spot are a complex bundle of—joy! Along with the erectile tissue, you've also got the nerve-rich urethra itself and about forty super-tiny glands and ducts (called paraurethral glands, or Skene's glands) that respond to arousal and pleasure. Sometimes, and in some women, stimulation of the G-spot to orgasm can result in an expulsion of fluid from the urethral sponge. This is female ejaculation (detailed in chapter 5, Wet Spots: Ejaculation), and the paraurethral glands and ducts have the starring role in that particular wet, wonderful show. The purpose of the urethra is certainly to have a river run through it, but everything else prefers to play by the same rules as your clitoris: just for fun, thanks.

# **How to Get There from Here**

Want to feel it? One way is to stop a stream of urine, mid-flow. Doing this, you're flexing your PC muscles (the sling of pelvic muscles that engage during  orgasm) and putting acute pressure on your G-spot to _flex_. Another way to investigate the G-spot is with your fingers—putting a finger or two just inside your vagina and stroking the front wall. You'll have to curl your hand around a bit to get your fingertip to stroke the front wall, so sitting down on a stool or hard chair might make it easier for you to spread your legs, push your pelvis forward, and feel. I highly recommend using a water- or silicone-based lubricant in your explorations, as different surfaces are easier to detect under slick fingertips. I recommend a variety of excellent lubricants for G-spot exploration in chapter 3, Turn It On, Turn It Up.

What you're feeling for is a soft bump or slight change in the surface of your vaginal wall. If you touch yourself just inside your vagina, you'll notice that the surface near the opening is slightly furrowed with subtle ridges, and a bit more so in the area where you'll be concentrating your search for the urethral opening. It's interesting to note that this ridgy outer area of the vaginal canal (about the inner third) is more sensitive to touch, vibration and more subtle textures and shapes than the smooth-walled inner part (the inner two thirds), which cares less about vibration and responds pleasurably to sensations like fullness, rhythm and thrusting. If you're feeling like exploring, touch and press all around your urethral  opening while squeezing your vaginal muscles and see if you can feel what's beneath the surface.

If you're unaroused, the urethral sponge is relaxed and might be difficult to feel. But during arousal, your sponge swells and hardens, and it becomes more obvious to touch. Touching it in an unaroused state might feel strange, like you have to pee a bit, or it might be too sensitive to touch—or it might feel good. It might even feel _really_ good. You may find that touching it turns you on a little, and that once your G-spot is firm with arousal, massage and vibration are delightful. Just try a simple touch once, and see how your body responds.

Exploring your G-spot with touch to see what it feels like under your fingertips while it is in an aroused state is a whole different experience (and a highly recommended one, I might add). When you're turned on, not only might it feel good to touch but, as I've indicated above, it'll be easier to locate the spot because when you're aroused, the entire area swells and the urethral sponge becomes firm—sometimes very firm—to the touch. One great way to do this is to arouse yourself in a familiar way, maybe using your favorite masturbation technique. Do whatever you feel like to get yourself in the mood and horny; use a favored sex toy or fantasy; watch porn, or read some hot erotica. Once you can't keep  your hands out of your panties any longer, play with yourself and slip a finger inside to explore your vaginal opening—a fact-finding mission. But don't forget to keep yourself turned on while you do it (for the best results, of course).

# **What the G-Spot Looks Like**

Maybe you're the kind of smart girl who wants to see the proof—or who just wants to know what all of her excellent girl parts look like. Whether you're the girl who has to see the photographic proof that Pamela Anderson really did get a new boob job, or the kind of girl that takes apart the alarm clock to see how it works, there's only one way to satisfy your curiosity (and learn more about yourself): take a look.

For this adventure, you'll need a hand mirror—you could try and position yourself in front of a full-length mirror while sitting in a chair, but to really see the tiny urethral opening you'll need to get up close with the mirror and angle it. It's a two-handed operation, and one that also requires a good light source. See if you can get a reading lamp or goosenecked office light for a well-lit exam. If not, be sure to sit facing a light source and you should be able to see everything just fine.

Sit on the edge of a chair or your bathtub, spread your legs, and roll your torso forward slightly, tilting your pelvis and pulling your ass cheeks back from your pussy using the chair as leverage. With one hand, split your fingers along each side of your vaginal opening and spread your inner and outer labia open, lifting upward.

If you take a look at it when you're turned on, you'll probably see a whole different shape and size than if you're unaroused. When you get turned on, the acorn shape swells and the area around it puffs out—sometimes only a little, sometimes quite a bit. You may also notice the area has changed color, deepening in tone; some areas may look more highlighted than others. In some women the soft urethral sponge retreats in an unaroused state, making you have to hunt around for it a bit. When unaroused, your G-spot area is going to look somewhat like an acorn with tiny folds of flesh around it—and you may even be able to see a little opening. Yay! That's it!


Input:
 This section of the story is about how to stimulate the G-spot and the benefits of doing so. It covers the importance of beginning from an aroused state, understanding the arousal cycle, and using the right techniques and accessories to make the experience as pleasurable as possible.

Here is a possible prompt that could generate this section of the story:

Q: What are the benefits of G-spot stimulation?
A: G-spot stimulation can lead to intense orgasms and a deeper sense of pleasure. It can also help a person to understand their own body and what feels good to them, which can lead to more fulfilling sexual experiences and better communication with partners.

Q: How do I stimulate my G-spot?
A: To stimulate your G-spot, start from an aroused state. This will make the experience more enjoyable and make it easier to locate the G-spot. Use firm pressure and aim for the front of the body. You may be able to touch the urethral opening, but the entirety of the G-spot is within the vaginal wall. Try different techniques like pulses, up and down strokes, side to side motions, or lazy circles to see what feels best.

Q: What should I use to stimulate my G-spot?
A: You can use fingers, a vibrator, a glass wand, or a penis to stimulate the G-spot. Some people prefer firm sex toys, while others prefer softer ones. It's all about finding what feels best for you.

Q: How do I understand my arousal cycle?
A: Understanding your arousal cycle can help you to ramp up your sex life in general and make it easier to operate and control your G-spot. When you become sexually aroused, your senses and genitals shift into a more surreal state. Blood rushes to your pelvis, filling the erectile tissues, and all of the nerve cells in your genitals become active. Your breasts may increase in size, and nipple stimulation can make everything feel more intense. The skin on various parts of your body becomes hypersensitive, and your nipples and genitals flush and deepen in color. The erectile tissue in your genitals swells, and you may notice a change in the landscape of your pussy. The outer lips may puff, the clit may grow larger and firmer, and the G-spot may become bigger and fatter. The clitoral legs and surrounding erectile tissue stiffen, elongate, and swell, expanding both inner and outer labia. This puts a divine pressure on the G-spot. Inside the inner labia lips, there are two tiny ducts connected to two tiny glands called the vulvo-vaginal glands, which produce a few drops of thick fluid during arousal. This contributes to, but does not compose entirely, vaginal lubrication during the sexual response cycle. Pressure from dilated clitoral blood vessels inside the vagina during arousal forces clear fluid through the walls of the vagina, which is where the majority of vaginal lubrication comes from. However, lubrication is not a reliable means by which to measure arousal. You can be lubricated yet unaroused, and you can be chomping at the bit for sex and have a dry vulva. Lubrication varies depending on mood, stress, where you are in your menstrual cycle, whether you've experienced menopause, medications and antihistamines you've taken, and any number of other factors.

Q: What are the muscles and ligaments involved in the arousal cycle?
A: As your arousal heightens, all the muscles and ligaments begin to contract, creating a delightful tension. The suspensory ligament connected to your clit shortens and pulls the glans inward toward the pubic bone, and it may remain beneath the hood until orgasm. The end of the round ligament tugs on the inner lips at one end and the uterus on the other, creating more pleasure and involving the uterus in the orgasmic process. It's like an awesome system of weights, pulleys, and muscular communication, and the G-spot is right in the middle of all this action.

Q: What is the role of lubrication in G-spot play?
A: Lubricant makes everything wonderfully slippery and heightens sensations, while reducing skin "drag" that some women find distracting or unpleasant during G-spot stimulation.

Response:
_**chapter 3**_

**turn it on, turn it up**

**S** o now that you no longer need to use Google Maps to find your G-spot, what are you going to do with it? Have a really great time, that's what. Figuring out where to aim when you're stimulating your G-spot is half of the equation; the other half is figuring out how. Do you think you'll like fingers, a vibrator, a glass wand, a penis, or a strap-on? Will you want it firm right off the bat, or a deep massage followed by thrusts, or is size your favorite way to come _à la G_?

Even though it sounds like there might be a lot of options, figuring out what you like for your G-spot sessions is really the easy part—just do what feels good. But understanding your arousal cycle might give you even more insight into ramping up your sex life in general—and not just for G-spot play, though  it'll certainly make the G-spot a much easier little sex toy to operate, control and utilize to its fullest potential. After that, it's just a matter of trying different techniques to see what works best and when it works for you, and a few technical details about G-spot play, in addition to seeing what kind of accessories might make your sessions hotter than ever.

# **Your Arousal Cycle**

Some really cool stuff happens to your entire body when you're turned on. When you become sexually aroused, your senses and genitals shift from their ordinary everyday mode into a much more surreal realm. In this state, mentally, physically and sometimes emotionally, pleasure is the guiding force behind all of your actions and the chief driver of your thoughts; your entire body begins to respond physically to the chemicals and hormones flooding from brain to bloodstream. Without you even thinking about it, blood rushes to your pelvis, filling the erectile tissues, and all of the nerve cells in your genitals become active, awake. Believe it or not, your breasts increase slightly in size. Stimulation of the nipples might make everything feel that much more intense, as nipple stimulation causes production of the hormone oxytocin, which is produced during sexual  stimulation and causes tingling sensations in the genitals. The skin on various parts of your body becomes hypersensitive, and your nipples and genitals flush and deepen in color.

Because the erectile tissue in your genitals is analogous to the erectile tissue in the penis, it also swells when aroused. You might see a noticeable change in the landscape of your pussy (or not); the outer lips might puff, the clit may grow larger and firmer, and if you peek at your G-spot you'll likely see it has become bigger, fatter. What's cool about our erectile tissue is that unlike that in a male's penis, there are no muscles that compress the blood flow to retain stiffness—we don't have a shutoff valve to keep the erection and then release blood after ejaculation—and perhaps that is where we women get our capacity for multiple orgasms. It's a constant ebb and flow, until we're done. Yay for us!

The clit really gets busy when we get turned on. During arousal, clitoral erection pushes the glans forward, and it may poke out from under the hood. Underneath the surface, the clitoral legs and surrounding erectile tissue stiffen, elongate, and swell, expanding both inner and outer labia. This all colludes to put a divine pressure on the G-spot.

Inside your inner labia lips there are two tiny ducts connected to two tiny glands called the vulvo-vaginal glands, which produce a few drops of thick fluid during arousal. This contributes to, but does not compose entirely, vaginal lubrication during the sexual response cycle. Pressure from dilated clitoral blood vessels inside the vagina during arousal forces clear fluid through the walls of the vagina, which is where the majority of vaginal lubrication comes from. However, lubrication is not a reliable means by which to measure arousal. You can be lubricated yet unaroused, and you can just as easily be chomping at the bit for sex and have a dry vulva. Lubrication varies depending on mood, stress, where you are in your menstrual cycle, whether you've experienced menopause, medications and antihistamines you've taken, and any number of other factors.

As your arousal heightens, all the muscles and ligaments begin to contract, creating a delightful tension. The suspensory ligament connected to your clit shortens and pulls the glans inward toward the pubic bone, and it may remains beneath the hood until orgasm. The end of the round ligament tugs on the inner lips at one end and the uterus on the other, creating more pleasure and involving the uterus in the orgasmic process. It's like an awesome system of weights, pulleys and muscular communication, and the G-spot is right in the middle of all this action.

As you get closer to orgasm, your pelvic muscle tension is building and your body is working in concert with your pussy as the conductor: the clitoral tissues and perineum are hypersensitive, as is the skin on your face, neck, abdomen, buttocks, hands and feet. Blood pressure and heart rate are increased. Your entire body is awash in sexual chemicals, and this strong chemical and hormonal cocktail is making even your vision more vivid and hyperreal, all while demanding the inevitable release. When you go over the edge and come, your pelvic muscular tension explodes in a series of short, rhythmic contractions. The walls of the vagina, and all the muscles on the pelvic floor, contract strongly and rhythmically, causing intense pleasure. Your vagina squeezes, your clit pulses, your anus pushes and your G-spot constricts itself in an orgasmic embrace—sometimes pushing out fluid from the sponge and paraurethral glands. This is orgasm, and you have a buffet of styles to choose from, in addition to being able to come back for seconds, thirds or even more.

# **How to Stimulate Your Spot**

The very first order of business when you want to play pleasurably with your G-spot is to begin from an aroused state. This is for a number of good reasons.  One is that if you're new to G-spot stimulation, it will really help your attitude going into trying a new, unfamiliar and possibly daunting sexual activity, and arousal will make the road over new physical sensations a lot smoother to travel. Another good reason is that many women who enjoy G-spot play only like to do it once they're rarin' to go; starting out with G-spot stimulation alone leaves many women cold. And finally, some women really like G-spot stimulation only after they've had an orgasm.

Before you start, go pee. Then get yourself turned on, or keep any potential G-spot toys at the ready for when you do feel extra horny and want to experiment with your spot. Use any means you prefer for getting turned on; porn, fantasy, heavy petting with a lover, your favorite toys—whatever you like the most at that moment. Masturbate and bring yourself to a point of orgasmic urgency, where you really want to take yourself to the next level and orgasm. Put a vibrator on your clit, and play with it there for a while. Then reach for the lube, and start your G-spot stimulation.

G-spot stimulation requires firm pressure; it takes a strong touch or a solid sex toy, and you'll find that it feels best when you really press toward the front of your body. You may be able to touch the urethral opening, but the entirety of the G-spot is behind  that, within the vaginal wall. That's what you're aiming for. Start with a little pressure at first and try out pulses, up and down strokes, side-to-side motions, or even moving in lazy circles over the area that feels best. Pay attention to how different techniques feel as you try them out, and take note of the ones you like the most. Go at your own pace with adding or lifting pressure on your G-spot as you take in all of the physical data your body is sending you about what you're doing.

# **How It Feels**

If this is the first time you've tried this, it's going to feel…intense. New. It won't feel like anything else you've ever tried, sensation-wise, for sex. The first thing you'll notice is that you're pressing on your bladder area from an unfamiliar angle, which is a big reason I recommend that you pee before you start. Many women report that the pressure required to adequately massage their G-spots makes them feel like they have to urinate. This is typical—though it's not the case for everyone. Some girls find that the urge to pee is just too much of the wrong kind of signal to be getting when they're masturbating, and decide that G-spot play isn't for them. And that's okay! Even if you decide that this isn't for you,  you've explored it adequately and now you know the role your G-spot plays in orgasm and sex, even if you decline to utilize it through direct stimulation.

However, a good number of women find that this urgency to urinate soon passes—or they "push through it"—and many see this sensation as the gateway to the next level of G-spot pleasure. The general opinion is that there is a biting urge to pee for several strokes, and then the arousal moves into a deeper, more intense sense of pleasurable stimulation that is a full-body sensation, as opposed to clitoral stimulation that feels like it's on the outside, or anal stimulation that tends to feel like it's in the back of the body. G-spot pleasure resides right in the middle of your body, radiating from the core. This is certain: a G-spot orgasm is _very_ different from a clitoral orgasm.

The feeling will begin to build, and you'll find that you want stronger, harder strokes. In fact, it may amaze you to find out how hard you can (and how hard you want to) press against your vagina's anterior wall. Don't worry—you can't hurt anything as long as you have a nice, smooth toy (or smooth fingers) and plenty of lube. The vagina is incredible; during arousal it can stretch to many times its natural size and after you're done it shrinks right back. We're made to do that, and in fact when we push  our pussies to their limits we make them stronger, heartier and more powerful by exercising the remarkable muscles and ligaments that come into play and the full range of our sexual response. It is just like exercise; the more we do it, the healthier and more resilient we become.

Your G-spot will tell you what to do; press harder, stroke faster; shorter thrusts, more fullness, or even more lube or vibration (if you're using a vibrator). It could be that what you're using isn't enough in terms of fullness, which is why a significant number of G-spot aficionados require more than two fingers—a fist will do nicely for them, thank you very much, and look out when she comes.

# **Sex Toys**

Using fingers to stimulate your G-spot is a wonderful way to go—whether they're yours or your lover's. Even better, a set of gifted fingers inside a latex (or nonlatex) glove can heighten the pleasure with the increased smoothness and firmer touch the gloves provide. However, most women really enjoy the results they get with sex toys—hard dildos made of silicone, glass, acrylic, hard plastic, wood or stone; and firm vibrators with a nice curve and smooth tip. Plus, hands and fingers get tired, mobility might  be an issue, and variation is the spice of a smart girl's life—indeed.

There are about a zillion toys marketed for G-spot use, and some of them are perfectly awesome for your spot; others are obviously just regular toys with the word _G-spot_ slapped on the package, while the toy itself will prove useless for your G-spot needs. You can tell the difference between good and lame G-spot toys by following some pretty basic criteria.

G-spot toys need to be firm, slightly curved, and should look like they can reach up like a finger in a "come here" gesture. If you're not sure about choosing a G-spot toy in a cold shopping experiment, many women-run sex toy shops sell G-spot exploration kits specifically aimed at beginners; these are a great starter item. Typically, the main toy in these kits is a hard plastic or firm jelly rubber curved vibrator, as lots of women find that vibration makes G-spot exploration more fun to start playing with.

Toys in hard materials (like silicone, hard plastic, glass, metal or stone) are well-suited for G-spot play for obvious reasons, and they have the added bonus of being nonporous, meaning they're easy to clean and don't retain bacteria in the tiny pockets or pores in the surface. This means that when you clean one of these toys, it's completely clean and doesn't have the potential to carry STDs or bacteria that can infect (or reinfect) the user. Plastic, glass and Pyrex, metal, and stone sex toys can have their surfaces rendered sterile by washing with unscented antibacterial soap (like Hibiclens) or a solution of 1:10 bleach and water (1:10 rubbing alcohol and water is a fine alternative).

Silicone is an excellent choice for your G-spot toys, as it is completely nonporous, retains heat and transmits vibration wonderfully, and is easy to sterilize. The thing is, not all silicone toys are the same when it comes to firmness; some are floppy and soft while others are hard enough to get the job done nicely. Make sure the silicone toy you buy is hard—read, ask questions and see if you can handle the toy in a store before you pay the extra money for one of these high-quality toys. Silicone toys can be boiled for up to five minutes or run in the top rack of the dishwasher for complete sterilization, which is especially awesome for anal toys. Some silicone toys react badly to silicone lubricants, so it's best to use water-based lubes with your silicone toys.

Most sex toys are made of a material usually referred to as jelly rubber, though you'll also see variations like jel-lee, latex jelly, or derivatives like glow-in-the-dark and "realistic" materials such as softskin, Cyberskin, or Futurotic. Jelly rubber toys are very colorful, clear (though not always), shiny,  and visually appealing. They're fashioned out of the ultimate "mystery material," mass-produced mostly in Chinese chemical factories with so many mixtures and versions of the material that it's difficult to pin down a set of manufacturer's ingredients. What _is_ known, however, is that these materials contain latex, give off a highly chemical smell, leach oils and can leave spots on fabrics and wood, and have a surface that breaks down over time.

Some jelly rubber toys will be great for your G-spot fun; they're inexpensive, often come in shapes and options you can't find in higher-quality materials and can last a long time despite their cheap manufacturing process. Take my advice to keep the surface totally clean: always use these toys with a condom over them. Even if you have no reaction to jelly rubber, and most people don't, remember to keep the toy scrupulously clean. Wash such toys with unscented antibacterial soap (like Hibiclens) or a solution of 1:10 bleach and water (alcohol and water also works fine). Waterproof G-spot toys are wonderful in this regard, as they can be completely submerged during cleaning. Consider porous toys disposable. Keep an eye on the surface; once it becomes dull, it's starting to break down and you can never be sure you're getting it clean; so be safe—toss it out and get a new one.

# **Lube**

Lube is definitely on the must-have list for G-spot play—and even if you've never tried lube, you won't believe what you've been missing. Lubricant makes everything wonderfully slippery and heightens sensations, while reducing skin "drag" that some women find distracting or even unpleasant during G-spot stimulation.

Lube comes in a mind-boggling selection: there are more thicknesses, consistencies, flavors, and styles than can be listed here. Finding the lube that's right for you will be a matter of personal preference, though some women like different lubes for certain activities, or even as different moods strike. Some lubes closely mimic natural vaginal lubrication (like Liquid Silk); others will be thick and gel-like with lots of staying power and can make inserting big objects easier (like Slippery Stuff Gel). Or, you may find that sometimes you prefer long-lasting silicone-based lubes like Eros Silicone for their ability to mimic oil without the unwanted difficulty of cleaning oils out of the vagina (silicone is water-soluble).

Water-based lubes are at the top of the most-recommended list as they have a lot of convenient features: they clean up easily with water and are easily flushed from your vaginal ecosystem. Oils of any kind are difficult to get out of the vagina, and also break  down latex, foiling any safer-sex plans you might have. Some water-based lubes have sugars (also labeled glycerin, glycerol, and natural flavor) that are very irritating to many women; since sugar feeds yeast, these can lead to yeast infections. Read the ingredients list before you purchase your lube, and know that unwanted colorings and flavors can have similar undesirable effects. Water-based lubes (including silicone) are safe to use with condoms and safer-sex gear.

Please do avoid vaginal "shrink creams" sold in porn and adult "novelty" stores, which claim to make the vagina smaller or tighter. The key ingredient in these creams is alum (aluminum chloride, an aluminum compound). They absorb water from the outer layer of the skin; as more water is absorbed, the cells begin to swell, closing the ducts through which water would normally flow. No study has been done on the effect of these creams on the cervix or urethra, which is what they eventually end up getting rubbed on during penetration, but I'll wager it's not good.

# _**Good to Be Wrong**_

ALISON TYLER

**C** aroline tells me that she's never masthurbated. Not ever. Not even during the times when she's been single.

"Never?" I ask, in disbelief.

"Never."

I picture her years ago in her twin bed, alone, sleeping on her hands to keep from sliding them between her legs, wearing thick fleecy mittens when the urge gets really bad.

"But why not?"

She claims that whenever she has needed to come, she's always had sex with a willing partner. In fact, she acts positively insulted by the suggestion she could ever have had any trouble finding someone who wanted to take her on—don't I think she's pretty enough to attract a lover?

Of course, I do. She's stunning, slim and dark with large green eyes. She's so fucking pretty that I can't imagine she wouldn't turn herself on if she looked in a mirror. But pretty has nothing to do with this. With the urges, with the needs. I come at least every day, whether I'm with a partner, or solo. Why wouldn't she share the same type of yearnings?

"I just wouldn't stoop to using my fingers," she  explains smugly, shaking her head when I question her about a dildo, or the high-pressure massager in a shower.

_Stoop?_ I wonder. _Who's stooping?_

I enjoy pleasuring myself, and I see nothing wrong with it, even if there is a willing partner nearby. God, _especially_ when there's a willing partner nearby. I have always gotten excited when playing with myself for an audience, and I have relished watching my lovers do the same. You can learn a lot when you watch. This is probably why I relish videotaping so much. Playing back the tapes, when there is time to critique a performance, has turned me into the caring, careful lover that I am today.

"Caring," Caroline sneers. "If you were so caring, you wouldn't be pushing me to do that!"

I sigh. She just doesn't understand.

Caroline claims that the concept of masturbating feels dirty to her.

"How so?" I wonder.

"You know," she says, flushing. "Just the thought of sliding my fingertips—"

"Where?" I insist, already envisioning those well-manicured nails sliding between her pale, pink pussy lips and skimming against her clit.

"You know!" she demands. "It feels dirty."

Shit, I get hot just imagining this sultry vision, thinking about her strumming herself or me doing the actions for her. She's got such a pretty pussy. Her cunt deserves to be well-loved, well taken care of.

"Dirty," she whispers to me, in a way that only works to arouse me more.

_Dirty can be good_ , I want to tell her. _Dirty can be fun… so much fucking fun._

Yet I can tell she does not share my view of the word. So I try to see the situation her way. And I fail. _What's_ dirty? I like the way my juices feel on my fingers. I like the way I smell, the way the nectar of my sex tastes when I lick the tips of my fingers clean afterward. I like the feeling when I've already come once, and then work myself in a different way entirely, curling my fingers up into my pussy, searching out my G-spot, going slowly and teasing that soft smooth area…knowing what unbelievable pleasures await.

We don't have this conversation often. I don't beat her up with the concept every day. But with my warped and twisted mind, I finally reach the point where all I can think of is Caroline playing with herself. This becomes my number-one masturbation fantasy: watching _her_ masturbate. I try my best to catch her in the act. I sneak into the bathroom when she's showering, only to find her (drumroll, please)  _showering_. I stay up late, pretending to sleep, waiting to see if the bed will shake with her silent orgasms. I deny her sex, hoping that this will drive her to make herself come.

Doesn't work. She's like a camel, with a vast ability to store her sexual thirst.

Ultimately, I confess to her. I tell her that it would make me very happy to see her bring herself to climax. I feel bad pushing her, and I apologize for coming on so strong. But, I say, I can't fucking help it. She's driving me out of my head.

She looks at me for a long time. Then she sighs and settles back on our bed with her slim legs apart, and she slides her hand beneath the waistband of her pink floral skirt. She says, "If this is so important to you—" and I nod like a maniac, like a psycho, foaming at the mouth, and I say, "Yeah, yeah, it's really important." I hear the way I sound, but I can't keep the excitement out of my voice.

I can tell right off that she doesn't seem to know how to start. She fumbles with her white cotton panties, then squints as if she's hurt herself.

"Take off your clothes," I suggest. "That might make things easier."

She shrugs, as if she's got nothing to lose, and she takes off her skirt and her panties, then pulls her tight pink tank top over her head and lies back down again.  I'm watching her as if she's behind a glass partition at a sex club. I'm watching like some lecherous leering Tom with a pocketful of twenties. I cannot contain myself. I say in a husky voice, "That's my girl. Now, spread your legs wider and stroke yourself gently."

She gives me a withering stare. I shut up. And watch.

She places her fingers on her outer lips and makes small circles over her entire delta of Venus. She does this for a while before shrugging and telling me it's not working. Caroline says the words as if this is what she expected.

"I can't come like this," she explains.

"Maybe you need a toy," I suggest, but the thought makes her frown.

"Please," I try, offering her up a glass dildo, one with a bend at the end, perfect for reaching a G-spot. "But wait," I tell her, thrilled with my own brain wave. "Let me get you ready first…." And then I'm between her legs, licking her, touching her. I am so hungry for her. Caroline has no problem with this situation. She loves when I eat her out. Now, she spreads her thighs willingly, she even uses her fingers to part her pussy lips so that I can get in deep. I press my mouth against her, my tongue cradling her clit, lapping at her. And the whole time I'm fucking her with my tongue, I'm imagining her touching herself. That desire does not wane in the slightest.

I want her to show me, and yet, and yet, I'm so damn hot. I drink from her sweet font until her hips beat on the smooth satin comforter, until the first climax shatters her world, and then reluctantly, oh so reluctantly, I pull away.

"What do you want now?" Caroline asks, confused. "You saw me come."

"I've seen you come before," I remind her. "I want to see you make yourself come." I'm offering her the toy once more. I'm holding it out with shaky, sweaty fingers.

_Come on, girl,_ I'm thinking. _Show me. Please, show me._

She swallows hard as she takes the dildo from my fingers. It's a beautiful one, curved glass, chilly to the touch. A gift from me to her on Valentine's Day that has gone unused, unthought of, languishing in her panty drawer. She closes her eyes and leans back on the bed and begins to tickle her clit with the tip. I'm dying. She looks so pretty, and so different, sort of lost in the moment, letting herself go. Caroline never really lets go.

I steady myself and sit on my hands to keep from touching her, unconsciously mimicking the posture I've imagined her in. Where are the mittens on my fingers? I need cuffs to keep my hands under control.

I watch as she slides the toy into her pussy. A few  inches of it disappear. I lick my lips, trying to memorize every second, sure that this is a onetime show. She's not going to do this again for me, no matter how much I beg.

"Push it all the way in," I tell her.

Caroline squints, then does what I say.

"And press," I continue.

"It makes me feel like I have to pee."

"You'll get over that," I assure her. "The feeling will pass."

She gives me a look, like, _What is all of this about? Why are you tormenting me this way?_ And I want to remind her that I'm the Dom. That I'm the one who likes to torment her. And I also want to remind her that it's not as if I'm threatening her with pain. I've offered her only pleasure here, if she will simply obey.

Still clearly unsure, Caroline begins to rub the toy inside herself, and I can tell when she presses beyond the feeling of wetting the bed. I can see the rose-pink flush on her cheeks as the pleasure begins to build…and build. Her hand is working more forcefully now. I can tell that she's got it. That she understands.

Suddenly, she has a look on her face that she gets when I'm fucking her really good. I move even closer, between her legs, and I put one hand on her, rolling her onto her side, bringing her knees up toward her  chest. She keeps using the dildo, keeps working it, and she doesn't stop or flinch when I wrap my arms around her, when I hold her tight. She just keeps her wrist going in this crazy rhythm, fucking herself.

I lean up on one arm and watch her face to see her pleasure crest. Her eyelids flutter as she starts to peak. She stares at me, whispers my name, coming, coming, fulfilling my fantasy…and then her hand stops working, rests limply between her legs. Her body is still shuddering, though, as if aftershocks of pleasure continue to work her from the inside.

I withdraw the toy for her and set the lovely wet glass dildo on the bedside table. Then I take her into my arms and call her my angel, tell her how turned on I am, how ravishing she is.

Sweetly, she turns in my arms and presses her hips forward, climbing on top of me and kissing me. "Oh, god," she says, and I grin at her. "That was so good," she says, and I realize from the look in her eyes that she _will_ do it again for me. That there _will_ be a repeat performance.

Sometimes it's good to be wrong.