Input:
 This section of the story focuses on the benefits and techniques of G-spot stimulation, specifically through massage and strap-on play. It also touches upon the importance of communication and trust in a sexual relationship.

Here is a possible prompt that could generate this section of the story:

Q: What are the benefits of G-spot stimulation?
A: G-spot stimulation can lead to intense orgasms and a deeper sense of pleasure. It can also help a person to understand their own body and what feels good to them, which can lead to more fulfilling sexual experiences and better communication with partners.

Q: How do I stimulate my G-spot?
A: There are many ways to stimulate the G-spot, including massage and strap-on play. The G-spot is located about one to two inches inside the vaginal opening, on the anterior wall. To massage the G-spot, start with lighter touches and gradually increase the pressure and speed. You can also use a curved, firm G-spot toy to massage the area. During strap-on play, concentrate your efforts on the tip of the dildo, using it to rub, massage, and roll the G-spot area around. Experiment with different sex positions to find what works best for you and your partner.

Q: What are some techniques for G-spot massage?
A: Some techniques for G-spot massage include pressing and releasing the G-spot, massaging in short pulses or up to the length of a breath, and massaging in a circular motion. You can also try short, firm strokes for a minute, then slow ones.

Q: How do I use a strap-on for G-spot stimulation?
A: To use a strap-on for G-spot stimulation, look for a dildo that is hard and curved with a bulbous tip. This will help you to get the right angle and firmness needed for a G-spot orgasm. Make sure the harness fits correctly and that the straps are tight enough to withstand thrusting. You can also use different O-ring sizes to ensure a secure fit for the dildo.

Q: How do I communicate with my partner about G-spot play?
A: Communication is key when it comes to any kind of sexual activity, and G-spot play is no exception. Make sure to talk to your partner about what feels good and what doesn't, and be open to trying new things together. Trust and openness are essential for a successful and enjoyable G-spot experience.

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_**chapter 4**_

**g-spots are for sharing**

**W** e girls come stocked with so many cool sex features—like fun-to-play-with breasts, sensitive clits, and a tireless capacity for orgasm. We are hardwired to enjoy sex, and we are certainly programmed to share it. Sure it's fun to play with ourselves all day. But it's even more fun to share our pleasure zones with a playmate. Our G-spots are the ultimate in shareable pleasure parts.

Why do I think G-spot play is the ultimate in sexual shareware? Lots of reasons. Number one is that the G-spot's in an area that is often more easily accessed by a lover; as I mentioned in previous chapters, the angle and pressure many women find necessary to stimulate their spots pleasurably is often better accomplished by someone else. Another great reason, especially for G-spot newcomers, is that finding  and learning about the G-spot can be both easier and more fun when you have a partner helping you figure out what you like. You can just lie back and let someone else's fingers (or more) do the walking. And sometimes the pleasure and overwhelming sensations of G-spot orgasm are so intense you may need help getting over the top—and back again. A G-spot adventure shared by two is an incredibly intimate experience.

# **Talk about It**

Maybe you've always enjoyed G-spot play yourself and now you want to teach a lover how to maximize your spot. You might be totally new to G-spot exploration and want to ask your sweetie to try it out with you. Or you could be new to it and trying G-spot play isn't even your idea, but rather your partner's suggestion for new sexual thrills. It could be that you're the one who wants to ask your lover if she'd like to try some G-spot toys and techniques, but you aren't sure how to proceed.

The first step in each of these different situations is learning G-spot mechanics and techniques, and then talking about what you want, or what you think you might want, or what you're worried about, or what your wildest G-spot dreams are, with your lover.  This means you have to bring it up, mention it, or somehow get a conversation started about sex—G-spot play, specifically—and start to figure out what you both want to do about it.

**How to Start the Conversation**

If talking about sex is something that comes naturally in your relationship, then you're off to a sweet start. The next time you feel the conversation drifting toward sex, simply mention that you'd like to try something new, or that you saw some interesting sex toys for G-spot play that caught your attention, or that you read an article about G-spot stimulation and you'd like to try it—with your partner's help, of course. Next, go over the finer points of anatomy in this book; then jot down a toy, lube and safer-sex gear shopping list, and make a playdate. You can even make it into an evening filled with sensual delights: aphrodisiac nibbles, sexy music, low lighting and plenty of distraction-free time to play with getting yourselves turned on and tuned in to your (or her) G-spot.

**What If You Don't Usually Talk about Sex?**

What if sex talk is infrequent in your relationship, but you want to start a conversation about trying G-spot play? In this situation, you know what you  want, but don't know how to get it. And there's the added stress of knowing that once you get your courage up to ask, it doesn't mean you'll be met with enthusiasm; or if you are, that your lover will be able to execute your desires in the ways you want. Opening up can be scary, and being met with shock, surprise, or distaste is even scarier. Learning how to talk about each other's desires, and gleaning a few tips for starting the conversation, are where you'll want to begin.

Talking about sex brings you closer together, period. You both get to find out each other's sexiest secret wishes, and how to make them come true. You embark on a sexual adventure that takes you into exciting new territory and far away from your old sex routines. And for your relationship, your willingness to try new things takes you both to the next level.

**Fantasy Fuels G-Spot Play**

Our erotic fantasies are what lead us into wanting to try new things sexually with each other. These urges and ideas can come from some of the deepest parts of ourselves—even if they often don't _feel_ like they do when you want to open your mouth and talk about them. When you share your sexual ideas with each other, you're being allowed into each other's  most private worlds. It's easy to feel emotionally exposed. You have to trust your partner to withhold judgment about you and why you want to change your sexual routines in the first place. Though these fears can be largely addressed by talking about it together, moving through that hard part—getting started—takes trust.

Not everyone is going to feel vulnerable and freaked out asking to try out G-spot play; some will be empowered; most will feel finally free to truly express themselves sexually; and many others are just going to enjoy having another excuse to have hot(ter) sex. Trying out new things like G-spot play can keep your relationship strong, vibrant and alive.

Ultimately it's as simple—and as nerve-wracking—as asking. First, whose idea is this? Is it your fantasy, your lover's, or both? If it's yours, all you need to do is tell your partner what you want. Trying new things in bed (or out of bed, as you please) starts with an idea and can become reality as easily as making a wish—as long as you make that wish out loud. Those readers who are introducing the G-spot to their partners as a new idea might receive a mixed reply—part curiosity, part apprehension. You may even be met with a reluctance to talk about it, while others might get an outright "no thanks." Opening yourself up and asking for something you want sexually takes  courage—but it also gives you an opportunity to learn more about what your lover likes and dislikes.

If you're the one bringing it up, reverse roles for a minute: If you don't normally talk about sex in your relationship and then suddenly one of you wants to, it might seem like an upsetting surprise—at first. Your lover may wonder if you've had sexual secrets all along. But it's very likely that opening up about your desires for more sexual pleasure (together!) will give your sweetie the opportunity to tell you what's on her mind about sex, too.

Before you begin, think about how you might bring up the subject in a way that would feel safe for you. Mention an article you saw in a magazine or on the Web, a book you saw about the G-spot, or a conversation you overheard. Do you think you'd feel okay asking your partner what he or she thinks about G-spot play while cuddling?

Consider ways in which you can encourage your partner to hear you out, and ask him to suspend judgment until you can explain why this is important, and how much fun you think the two of you will both have. Let your lover know that if she tries it and doesn't like it, that's totally okay, too. Be sure to reassure him or her that you find him incredibly sexy, and that this wouldn't be happening unless you felt safe to tell her your deepest desires. Your lover needs  to hear that he or she is the star of your show, whether giving or receiving G-spot play, in addition to the fact that you're ready to become closer than you've ever been before. The most important thing to think through beforehand is how you are going to make your partner feel safe when talking about it. Rehearse what you'd like to say in your mind before you actually have the conversation. Think through possible scenarios, and imagine how your lover might react, so that you will be prepared to flow with whichever route the discussion might take.

For many reasons, your lover may not want to try G-spot exploration. Understanding these concerns and hesitations can be helpful in having a constructive discussion about it, learning how to overcome fears that might hold one of you back, and resolving what to do when one person does feels okay about it while the other doesn't. Adding any new sexual behavior to a relationship can feel like a make-or-break situation, and sometimes it is. Asking to try new styles of expressing sexual intimacy can push your relationship to higher levels, or it can bring up so many issues that it rocks the boat—sometimes a little too hard. When sex makes someone feel insecure, uncomfortable or unsure of your motivations, the issues can rock that person to the core. This is especially true for survivors of sexual trauma or abuse.

Take this into your considerations: sometimes our reluctances or concerns come from cultural stigma about our own body parts—our vaginas. The one thing we women do learn about our sexuality growing up is that our vaginas are dirty things, and millions of dollars go into douche and tampon commercials to prove it. Actually, the notion of female sexual organs being filthy has the theological backing of more than a few religions, and cultural roots centuries deep. And it's all very dated.

We hear jokes about fish. We get cultural messages about being gross. We see men's magazines and worry that we don't stack up in every way—no one's pussy looks like that of a _Playboy_ centerfold or porn star, and that's a very good thing, since those pussies are waxed, made up, airbrushed and surgeried to within an inch of their lives. Every girl worries about whether she looks "normal," is too hairy (or not hairy enough), doesn't smell like a summer breeze; or how she might taste—and a biggie in this case, how long she might take to come.

Think about all this, and know that everything you—or your partner—may be worried about is wrong. Not having a porn star pussy is normal—and desirable. If you think you might be off in scent or taste, take a relaxing bath and avoid eating asparagus and garlic, or taking antihistamines and vitamins.  And as far as taking too long to come, stop worrying and enjoy the ride—even if you don't come, you're still having fun.

# **G-Spot Massage**

Generally speaking, vulva massage is something that can build and increase a woman's arousal, and can be a terrific, languorous way to make her come. Like a regular massage, it's a very sensual form of contact and very relaxing for the recipient. Giving her mons veneris and vulva a massage is highly recommended, even if it's just a stopover on your way to G-spot massage.

As a precursor, know that you should never use oils on her vulva or in her vagina. You can give a dry massage, but a water-based or silicone lubricant is highly recommended. From the beginning, start with light touches and strokes all over her torso and abdomen, upper thighs, and hips. Cup your hand over her vulva and hold it still for a moment; go very slowly. Press lightly, and begin to move your hand in a circular motion. Apply a steady pressure with the palm of your hand to her outer lips, and keep circling. Next, move on to these massage techniques:

• With both hands, press your flattened fingertips on either side of her vulva.

• Using your thumb and forefinger on each of the outer labia, give a massaging pinch.

• Flatten both hands and stroke her outer lips, pulling up and down.

• With the same flat-hand position, press the outer labia in (toward each other), and out (away from each other).

• Use the pads of your fingertips to stroke the outer labia up and down, and massage into the furrows between the inner and outer lips.

• Flatten your palms on her thighs and massage in small circles with your thumbs, working from bottom to top. Stay to the sides of her clitoris.

• Flatten your fingers over her vaginal opening and apply pressure in small circles.

• Alternate any of these techniques with the open-hand massage you started with.

Continue your external massage techniques for a duration of about ten minutes (or until she tells you she's ready for more) before you start to move your ministrations inside the lips of her vagina. In some instances you'll just be able to "tell" when she's ready for more; she'll move closer to you, buck her hips toward your hand or make movements and noises indicating she wants more. Trust your intuition, but  also don't be afraid to ask her outright if she wants more of anything you're doing. Be specific with your questions: asking if she likes it will get you a nonspecific "mm-hmm," while targeted questions will get you the direction you need. Try:

• "Would you like it harder here?"

• "Is it better to the side, or in the middle?"

• "Are you ready for penetration now?"

• "More lube?"

• "Do you want the (G-spot) toy now?"

Keep massaging her clitoris and vulva with your other hand when you begin to penetrate her and massage the G-spot; look to chapter 3 for tips on how you'll want to touch her G-spot. Use your hands or a curved, firm G-spot toy, and start with slow thrusts, literally massaging the area somewhat lightly as if it were a muscle in her back. Always press forward, toward her belly button, and aim to concentrate your touch about one to two inches inside her vaginal opening. Here are a few techniques you can cycle through slowly:

• Thrust in and press the G-spot on the outstroke.

• Try the reverse; press against the G-spot on the "in" stroke.

• Leave your fingers or the toy inside, and press for a second, then release.

• Try pressing in short pulses, or up to the length of a breath.

• Massage in a circular motion. Do this for a while and then reverse directions—or just go in one direction only.

• Try short, firm strokes for a minute, then slow ones.

• Massage the G-spot in small, tight figure-eight movements.

When things really start to heat up, pick the stroke or technique she really responds to (or tells you she likes the most) and stick with it. When you find what really works, stopping and switching is not recommended unless you want to head off her orgasm. If you want her to come, take her over the edge with the stroke that works. Chances are good you'll have to increase the pressure and speed behind whatever stroke you use to achieve orgasm. Definitely get your hand and arm muscles ready for a workout!

# **G-Spot vs. Strap-On**

Some women really like having their G-spots stimulated during penetration, and strap-ons are a terrific  way to make these women very, _very_ happy. Strap-ons are ideal for G-spot fucking because a variety of dildos are available made especially for G-spot stimulation. These dildos are hard and curved, and some even have a bulbous tip designed to get just the right angle and firmness needed for a G-spot orgasm. Look for harness-compatible dildos that have a _G_ in their name or fit all the qualifications for a G-spot toy—and especially look for dildos made by women-owned companies as they'll be designed thoughtfully for maximum G-spot pleasure. (The garden-variety porn store G-spot toys tend to be poorly designed, with little curve and often too soft to be any fun.)

Newcomers to strap-on play will want to make their first purchase an inexpensive harness made of fabric or nylon and a one-off rubber dildo in a pleasing and reasonable shape. Options for harnesses range from neoprene and nylon to glittery vinyl, rubber, see-through plastic, leather and velvet. Many online retailers have beginners' strap-on kits that are terrific.

Harnesses come in two general styles: a single-strap that is worn like a G-string panty and two-strap models, which have two straps running from the pubic bone, along the crease between the inner thigh and genitals, underneath the buttocks, and attach to the waistband in back. Some prefer the G-string  style, saying it's a very stable base for the dildo and that it rubs the clit nicely when thrusting; others complain of getting a rash from the center string rubbing on their anus and tailbone. Another complaint about the G-string style is that it limits access to the wearer's genitals, so if a girl wanted to be penetrated or to massage her clit, it would be difficult. Also, they're not adaptable for male wearers.

Two-strap harnesses allow for plenty of genital access so wearers (of any gender) can masturbate or penetrate themselves, or be penetrated by another, while wearing the harness. For instance, a girl can fuck your G-spot while rubbing her clit or fucking herself with a dildo at the same time.

You'll also face choices when selecting a harness as to how the dildo is attached to or worn in the harness. Some strap-ons will have a simple hole in the middle, where the dildo is pulled through from the inside; while these are the easiest to get dildos in and out of, it's a "one size fits most" hole that will have smaller dildos sliding around and make bigger dildos difficult (or impossible) to squeeze in. Versatile harnesses have four straps that come through a triangular base and attach to a removable rubber O-ring in the center. This style provides the most stable base for a dildo and different O-ring sizes are available for purchase (many of these harnesses ship with three  ring sizes), and cleanup is easy.

Make sure your harness fits right. The straps should be tight enough to withstand thrusting, but not so tight they pinch or cut into your skin; give the dildo a few tugs to see how it feels. The dildo shouldn't slip out, or around too much (though a little movement is fine). The dildo should rest right on or just above your pubic bone; if you get sore from thrusting you can buy a specially made pad of thin foam to cushion your pubic bone.

# **Sex Positions for G-Spot Stimulation**

G-spot stimulation during penetration (penis or strap-on) requires a bit of coordination, but if you keep in mind where you're aiming, and put pressure in the right place during your strokes, it's just a matter of stamina! There are also a couple of sex positions that can make rubbing her spot a lot easier.

Foremost, remember that you'll be concentrating your efforts on the tip of whatever tool you're using; the cockhead is the primary massage tool here. Try using the tip to rub, massage and roll the G-spot area around. Read the massage techniques in the G-spot massage section for thrusting ideas to try out with your cock (be it flesh or silicone), and experiment with the following sex positions:

• _Woman on top:_ this has her controlling the angle and pressure. She can lean back for more G-spot stimulation.

• _Doggy-style:_ on all fours she can angle her hips (sometimes with the help of pillows) to get the right sensations while you thrust.

• _On her back:_ she can put pillows under her hips to elevate her pussy, tilting it up or down with more pillows as it feels right for her.

# _**Found**_

ALISON TYLER

**O** ne of the greatest pleasures about my job is the amount of time I get to spend on the road. I enjoy staying at different hotels, sometimes making up fantasy lives for myself, which I share, willingly, with people I meet at hotel bars. I adore living out of a suitcase because my business puts me up in the nicest accommodations. At home, I have a very small studio apartment with a loft for my bed and a tiny refrigerator. My bathroom is clean and decorated entirely in white. I have a shower stall but no bathtub, something I'd never missed until this trip.

I'd spent the entire evening in the hotel bar, being chatted up by a very attractive man who struck me as slightly dangerous. Usually, I go for dangerous. If you saw me, you'd understand why. For my job, I am forced to wear conservative business suits, no-nonsense heels, and subdued jewelry. My short, red hair is always carefully coiffed. My perfume, when I wear any at all, is as understated as early morning fog.

Slightly dangerous men are absolutely my type, and absolutely the wrong kind of men to pick up when I am in a strange city on business. I knew that if I invited the handsome dark-eyed stranger back to my room I would get no work done at all and I'd have  circles under my eyes when I met with two very important clients in the morning.

Instead, I demurred to his request that I let him show me the town, paid my tab, and, extremely aware of my damp panties, rode the elevator alone to my suite on the top floor. Once inside the room, I quickly rummaged through my suitcase, searching for my favorite toy. My fingers were trembling as they closed around the lavender, dolphin-shaped dildo. I needed to come, badly. I flicked on the switch with one hand, yanking my nylons and panties down with the other.

Nothing happened.

That's not to say that my cunt wasn't drippy wet, that my mind wasn't desperately regretting the fact that I'd left the rebel at the bar rather than allowing him up to my room. But nothing happened with my vibrator. The toy clicked, but the motor didn't hum to life. I checked the battery: nothing there. As luck would have it, I had forgotten the single most important accessory for a vibrator: fresh batteries. This may seem an inconsequential event to those less horny than I, but to me, the situation was traumatic. I called room service, only to be courteously told that I could purchase batteries in the gift shop when it opened in the morning at 8:30.

Christ, I couldn't wait seven hours.

I couldn't wait seven minutes.

I thought about using my fingers, but it's difficult and frustrating for me to get off that way. I'm in tune to the rhythm of my vibrator. For solo occasions, I don't really like much else.

Momentarily dumbstruck, I sat on the edge of the bed, contemplating calling down to the bar and trying to describe the dark horse who had so rudely stolen my peace of mind. But instead, flashing on an image from adolescence, I walked into the bathroom, shedding clothes on the way.

The hotel room boasted a large, sunken tub of pure white porcelain. I climbed in and slid my legs up to the rim, bending them at the knee and parting them as wide as they would go. Slowly, I turned on the faucet with one foot, maneuvering the temperature toward lukewarm. I felt those first few drops of water splash against my cunt, and I relaxed.

_This_ was heaven.

I closed my eyes and leaned back in the tub. I hadn't put the stopper in, so I knew I wouldn't drown. The water dripped gently over me and then drained away. I pictured my bar mate, imagining I was experiencing his knowing tongue bringing me pleasure instead of the insistent homemade waterfall from the silver faucet. As I fantasized, I used my foot to nudge the temperature up slightly, building  toward my climax by strengthening the water pressure and fooling with the hot and the cold.

My short hair was growing damp and the cold porcelain was taking on the heat of the water. I relaxed even more, using two fingers now on my pulsing clit, raising myself up as high as I could toward that glorious flow. I didn't need a dangerous man to keep me up at night. I didn't need the bite marks he would leave or the bruises on my pale skin. I only needed the faucet, the water, the tub, and my twisted and very active imagination.

As soon as I came, I turned off the water, wrapped myself in a towel, and headed toward the bed. I was actually mentally congratulating myself for avoiding temptation when I heard the knock.

What on earth? It was 2:00 a.m.

I tiptoed to the door and peered out into the hall, coming almost eye to eye with the stunner from the bar. How had he found my room number? How had he known that I'd just climaxed while envisioning him climbing between my thighs and licking my pussy? My cheeks turned as red as my hair. Yet all thoughts of being good disappeared. I unlocked the chain and opened the door, and in he came: a rush of energy, a force to behold. He kicked the door shut behind him, then backed me up against the bed, pulling my white terry cloth towel away from my still  damp body, pressing himself insistently against me.

"You didn't really mean no, did you?"

"No…" I said, not sure what I had meant in the bar, or what I meant now. He took another step forward, pushing me onto the mattress.

"When you paid your tab, I saw your room number on the check. I've been pacing in my room, wondering whether to call or just come. I decided to come."

"I already did," I confessed, as his hand slid down my body to my cunt. I wondered if he could smell my arousal, if his fingers could sense the power of the orgasm I'd just had. He slid one finger between my slick nether lips and then all the way inside of me, laughing when he found the wetness awaiting him.

"And what did you think about when you came?"

I flushed darker still. "You."

"Me doing what?" He had me on my back now, and a second finger had joined his first. Slowly, he started to stroke me on the inside, and I suddenly found speaking difficult. Speaking English, anyway. Moaning was something I could do just fine. Wordless, begging moans escaped my lips as he began to touch me in a way nobody ever had.

_What was he doing to me?_

Those decadent fingers of his, fingers I'd admired when they were gripping the neck of his bottle of beer, were now hooked within me, massaging, probing.

But suddenly I pushed him away.

"I'm going to—"

"No," he said, "you just think you are. Relax into it. The feeling will pass. I promise."

I stared at him. How had he known? His eyes focused on mine. Maybe he didn't care if I did wet the bed. Maybe he was just that kind of a kinky partner. My breathing sped up as he continued to trick his fingers within me. He had found a spot, a place to work; compressing the flesh, kneading me; and he was right about one thing. In seconds, the need to pee had completely disappeared, while a whole different urgent yearning took over as the number-one craving within me.

The pillows were soft under my head and I arched my back, hips in the air, as he worked me relentlessly. I couldn't believe he'd found me, and I couldn't believe I was this turned on after just having come. Usually, I need a bit of downtime between orgasms to regain my sense of self.

But the handsome man at my side was giving me no chance to recover. God, he knew what he was doing. Firmly stroking, not tentative. Not hesitant at all.

"Tell me what you thought of," he murmured, "when you made yourself come."

I started to say "You," once more, but he shook his head. Clearly, he wanted details, not one-word answers.

"I pictured you bent down between my thighs," I told him softly, "licking my clit." A shiver rushed through me. "And then moving into a sixty-nine so that I could suck you, too."

As I spoke, he seemed to find the perfect rhythm, because suddenly I was on the verge. "Oh, Jesus," I hissed between my teeth. "Oh, god."

"Don't hold back," he demanded, but I couldn't have if I'd tried. His fingertips were magic within me, and in seconds I was coming again, more fiercely than before, the bed shaking with the motions of my hips on the mattress.

The handsome stranger didn't stop. He kept touching me through the whole violent ride of my orgasm, sucking in his breath at the abundance of the juices that wet his hand.

I thought I'd experienced a waterfall of pleasure in the tub. But this was different. A gush of liquid coated my pussy lips, my inner thighs, and my new partner's hand to the wrist. Nothing like this had ever happened to me before. Yes, I come hard, but I'd never come wet.

"What did you do to me?" I whispered as he started to take off his clothes.

"I found you," he said, eyes glowing.

"What do you mean?"

"You were looking for something tonight, weren't  you? Down there in the bar, flirting with me. You were looking. But I found you." He said the four words slowly, with meaning. And when I looked into his eyes, I thought I saw an echo of myself. Of the needs that make me who I am. Maybe traveling solo wasn't quite as exciting as it had been when I first started working. Maybe I was looking not only for a dangerous man to liven up my night—but one to invigorate my life.

He was naked then, and moving his body into the position I'd described to him, clicking his tongue against me gently as he lowered his hard cock to my lips.

And I let him. As I imagined letting him do so many other decadent things in the future.


Input:
 This section of the story focuses on female ejaculation, including what it is, how it happens, and tips for successful ejaculation. It also touches upon the importance of PC muscle tone and control.

Here is a possible prompt that could generate this section of the story:

Q: What is female ejaculation?
A: Female ejaculation is when a woman has a powerful orgasm that pushes fluid from the many tiny glands and ducts that comprise the body of the G-spot. The fluid is clear and odorless, and it can be just a little bit or a lot. It's not pee. And many women say it feels really, really good to ejaculate.

Q: How does female ejaculation happen?
A: Female ejaculation happens as a result of G-spot stimulation, but it can also happen from clitoral orgasms or vaginal penetration leading to orgasm. The fluid is pushed out of the paraurethral glands, which are prostate-like glands that respond to arousal and pleasure. The ejaculate itself is prostatic-like fluid, meaning that the glands pushing fluid out of the little ducts are prostate-like; the fluid contains some elements similar to what's found in prostatic fluids in men. Again, the fluid is not urine, though some evaluations have shown small, trace amounts of urine in female ejaculate, presumably because the exit point is also where urine leaves the body. The fluid does not come from, or pass through the bladder.

Q: How can I ejaculate?
A: To ejaculate, you need to get in shape and practice. This means exercising your PC (pubococcygeus) muscles, which are the muscles that line your pelvis and play a starring role in your orgasmic process. You can exercise your PC muscles by doing Kegel exercises, which involve squeezing and releasing your PC muscles in a variety of different ways, repetitively and regularly.

Q: How do I know if I'm doing Kegel exercises correctly?
A: To make sure you're doing Kegel exercises correctly, try stopping a stream of pee mid-flow the next time you're urinating. Those are the muscles you'll want to learn how to flex. Another way to find the same muscles is to insert a finger (or fingers), or a firm sex toy, into your vagina and squeeze hard. The object will provide enough resistance for you to feel those muscles push, and if you're using a finger, you'll be able to feel your muscles close down around your finger.

Q: What are some tips for successful ejaculation?
A: Here are some tips for successful ejaculation:

* Pee first.
* Some women find that it's easier to squirt if they've already had an orgasm—or two.
* Use a vibrator on your clit, or a vibrating G-spot toy if it turns you on more.
* Stimulate your G-spot until you feel like you're going to come.
* You might feel like you have to pee for a second, and then it subsides. You don't have to pee, but you're getting close to squirting.
* Relax.
* Keep playing with your G-spot, and tilt your hips up, like a pelvic thrust. When you thrust, push with your PC muscles for a second. Then go back to G-spot massage in a resting position—then repeat.
* When you're about to come, thrust and push while jacking your G-spot as hard as you like it. Don't worry—you can't hurt yourself jacking off like this, no matter how big the object (or fist) is, or how hard you're pressing.
* Try different positions: on your back, seated in a chair, standing, or doggy-style.
* Don't fret if you don't come. Maybe you will next time, maybe you will a few more times from now, maybe you'll decide not to squirt at all. It's all fun; just experiment with feeling good and seeing what your body likes.
* If you do ejaculate, see if you can do it again!
* When you're done, go pee again to clear out your bladder, just as you would after any other sexual activities.

Response:
_**chapter 5**_

**wet spots: ejaculation**

**F** emale ejaculation has to be one of the most misunderstood sexual responses in history. Even though there's been significant research about what it is and where it comes from, the information is so rarely shared or disseminated that most people—even smart girls—don't know what it is. Or how it feels. Or if it's even okay to have happen to you.

Well, it's more than okay. Simply speaking, female ejaculation is when you have a powerful orgasm that pushes fluid from the many tiny glands and ducts that comprise the body of the G-spot. The fluid is clear and odorless, and it can be just a little bit or a lot. It's not pee. And many women say it feels really, really good to ejaculate.

In most cases, ejaculation happens as a result of G-spot stimulation. But a number of women can also  ejaculate from clitoral orgasms, or vaginal penetration leading to orgasm—even when they weren't directly stimulating their G-spots. That's not to say that if you play with your G-spot, eventually you will have a gushing ejaculation; it's possible you might love, love, love coming with your G-spot, and yet never ejaculate. Women who don't easily ejaculate often have to consciously learn how to squirt—if they want to.

Not all women ejaculate, and not all care to. It's a matter of taste, your body's inclination to do so (though you can train yourself to squirt, not all women are successful at it), and whether or not you like the sensation. Not all women do. Some like it a lot, though, enough for it to become their preferred method of orgasm. These girls not only like it for the intensity that it can bring to their orgasms, but because they, and their lovers, love to see, feel, and experience these really wet and intense orgasms.

It's quite common to discover by accident that you can ejaculate—often, it happens when you come really hard and soak the bed (or your surprised lover). Because lots of girls have no idea what female ejaculation is, and that it's totally normal, their first natural reaction is surprise, embarrassment, or even shame. Shame, especially if you're worried it might be urine, or your lover doesn't know anything about female ejaculation and thinks you wet yourself. Well,  you didn't. And don't ever let anyone tell you that you did. Also, don't be fooled by the myth that once you start to squirt, you won't be able to stop—this simply isn't true, as you'll understand after reading the following sections on muscle control and the physiological ejaculatory process.

Granted, not all women have this reaction; oodles of girls try in earnest to learn how to ejaculate successfully, and often their partners try really hard to help them squirt when they come. Also, a good number of girls discover as they hone their individual orgasm style that ejaculation is just part of their wet and wonderful orgasmic process; it's what they've always done, and they have no problems with it, thank you very much.

Think of female ejaculation as being your own awesome orgasmic superpower. To the untrained eye, you're a regular girl. But to those you trust, and those who deserve it, your pussy is like Wonder Woman. When you've had enough fun getting turned on and coming in the ways of mortal girls, you can unleash an orgasm your lovers can see, feel, taste and never, ever forget.

# **What's Going On Here?**

When you have a G-spot orgasm accompanied by ejaculation, not only has your G-spot come alive, but  so also have all the tissues, glands and ducts surrounding the entire area. The spongy tissues that surround your urethra and comprise your G-spot make up quite a system. You have the erectile tissue I described at length in chapter 2, and you've also got the nerve-rich urethra itself and about forty super-tiny glands and ducts (called, you'll remember, paraurethral glands, or Skene's glands) that respond to arousal and pleasure. When you come hard and ejaculate, there is an expulsion of fluid from the urethral sponge and ducts, and the paraurethral glands are what's responsible.

When you see an ejaculation—in person, or in authentic "squirting" porn—you'll see the entire area around the urethra swell up, big-time. When the moment of orgasm happens, you'll see the whole area get super-puffy and darken in color. At the apex, you'll be able to see the muscles contract and the whole area distinctly looking like it's bearing down to push out squirt after squirt of watery liquid. Sometimes the force and range of the fluid coming out is pretty surprising—there's obviously a lot of power behind what's going on here.

The ejaculate itself is what's called prostatic-like fluid, meaning that the glands pushing fluid out of the little ducts are prostate-like; the fluid contains some elements similar to what's found in prostatic  fluids in men. Again, the fluid is not urine, though some evaluations have shown small, trace amounts of urine in female ejaculate, presumably because the exit point is also where urine leaves the body. The fluid does not come from, or pass through the bladder. It's clear and watery, scentless, slightly slippery (though useless as lubrication, as the slipperiness doesn't last), and some people say it has a slightly sweet taste.

Amazingly, women who ejaculate are often able to do it more than once. And in copious amounts. The amount of fluid expelled upon orgasm can be anywhere from a teaspoon to one and a half cups (!) of ejaculate, and mega-squirting girls can do these big loads multiple times, sometimes two or three in a row, one after another. Needless to say, this is the type of activity for which staying hydrated is essential.

# **How to Ejaculate**

If you want to ejaculate, all you need to do is get in shape and practice. Sounds fun, doesn't it? Women who ejaculate freely, on demand, and with style, typically have really excellent PC (pubococcygeus) muscles. This means that the whole sling of muscles that line your pelvis, and especially those that play  starring roles in your orgasmic process, are in great shape. They're toned, responsive, and strong. And for most of us, this doesn't just happen. Having good PC muscle tone means getting them in shape, which means exercising them. And there are a lot of really fun ways to do this—and no one need be the wiser when you "work out."

_**How to Stop**_

It's one thing to want to ejaculate and to teach your body how, but some girls want just the opposite—they want a break from all the gushing orgasms, or just to be able to turn it off and on easier. The answer in both of these situations lies in PC muscle tone: the stronger and more toned your PCs are, the more control you'll have. So get those muscles in shape.

If you're not sure where your PC muscles are, let alone how to pump them up, there are two easy ways to isolate them. One is to stop a stream of pee mid-flow; next time you're urinating, halt the pee for a second. Those are the muscles you'll want to learn how to flex. Another way to find the same muscles is to insert a finger (or fingers), or a firm sex toy, into your vagina and squeeze hard. The object will provide enough resistance for you to feel those muscles push, and if you're using a finger  you'll be able to feel your muscles close down around your finger.

Getting your PC muscles in shape is a snap, and unlike other workout routines, you can customize your PC exercises to fit your lifestyle. For instance, you can set aside time once a day, or every other day, to practice with a toy. Many women swear by a toy that is basically a heavy "vaginal barbell," made of steel and sold at sex toy boutiques. The Kegelcisor and Betty's Barbell are the most recognized name brands, but you can use other toys that work just the same (and cost less), made of glass or plastic. The firmness and weight of toys like the barbell provide excellent resistance for squeezing and making your muscles strong; many women find doing these exercises particularly arousing, just because of the way they "wake up" the entire genital area.

Truly, any hard toy will do for your PC reps; another gadget some women really like is the Kegelmaster, a device that actually reads and registers your PC muscle strength, letting you know how you're progressing. Ignore the "as seen on TV" marketing hype and you've got an interesting tool for providing resistance to increase vaginal tone and orgasmic strength.

Even though some women prefer to use a toy for PC exercises, many women get great results from  rhythmically squeezing their PC muscles _without_ a toy—mostly because we can do this anywhere, anytime, whenever we remember, and no one can even tell what we're doing. With or without a toy, your goal is to squeeze your PC muscles in a variety of different ways, repetitively and regularly. Try once a day, twice a day, or several sets every other day. Toning your PC muscles does more than help you become a squirter; it'll help you control the squirting, make your orgasms stronger, increase your pelvic health, and increase healthy blood flow to your entire genital system.

Here are a few workout suggestions for reps you can repeat in sets or cycle through as you like:

• Squeeze, hold, release. Repeat ten times.

• Squeeze in rapid pulses, ten to fifteen times in a row.

• Tense your PC muscles; hold for a deep inhale and exhale.

• Repeat the above techniques, but with a distinct sense of bearing down, or pushing outward.

• Repeat the same exercises, pulling inward, as if holding something in or trying to pull something inside you.

• See how many repetitions you can do in a row. 100? 200?

# **Ejaculation Techniques**

Learning to squirt requires formulating your own individual means of getting there, much like finding the ways you like to come when you masturbate. Overall, though, most women who ejaculate can agree that when they are at the point of gushing, bearing down or pushing is what gets them to their slippery destination. For some it's a conscious effort to actually push the ejaculate out; others say that they just feel like they have to press outward, almost involuntarily, as if they were coming outwardly, rather than the kind of orgasmic pulsing that feels like inward contractions.

Often, you might find that bearing down or needing to push with your pussy makes it difficult to squirt with anything in there, like a penis, fingers, a fist or a toy. You'll get yourself up to the point of having to come, then feel the need to push, and whatever was in your vagina to get you to the apex had better get the hell out of the way! Conversely, there may also be times when you'll want to keep whatever got you to the brink of orgasm right where it is, to take you over the edge, using the toy or person as the focus of your orgasmic efforts.

Here are some tips for successful ejaculation:

• Pee first.

• Some women find that it's easier to squirt if they've already had an orgasm—or two.

• Use a vibrator on your clit, or a vibrating G-spot toy if it turns you on more.

• Stimulate your G-spot until you feel like you're going to come.

• You might feel like you have to pee for a second, and then it subsides. You don't have to pee, but you're getting close to squirting.

• Relax.

• Keep playing with your G-spot, and tilt your hips up, like a pelvic thrust. When you thrust, push with your PC muscles for a second. Then go back to G-spot massage in a resting position—then repeat.

• When you're about to come, thrust and push while jacking your G-spot as hard as you like it. Don't worry—you can't hurt yourself jacking off like this, no matter how big the object (or fist) is, or how hard you're pressing.

• Try different positions: on your back, seated in a chair, standing, or doggy-style.

• Don't fret if you don't come. Maybe you will next time, maybe you will a few more times from now, maybe you'll decide not to squirt at all. It's all fun; just experiment with feeling good and seeing what your body likes.

• If you do ejaculate, see if you can do it again!

• When you're done, go pee again to clear out your bladder, just as you would after any other sexual activities.

# **Wet Spots and Creative Solutions**

This is a wet sport. No doubt about it; if you ejaculate, you're going to make a mess. But what a delightful, delicious and delirious mess it is. Your sheets will get soaked, sometimes your mattress too—and if you're out of bed, you'll leave your slippery orgasmic evidence wherever you came. That's not a bad thing at all, it just means that squirting orgasms will require a bit of forethought, much more than a finger-in-the-panties, clitoral quickie.

Like I said earlier, you might emit a bit of fluid—or a lot. If it's minimal, you'll just want to have a towel handy for afterward, and expect to maybe leave a little spot every now and then. But if you're one of the many women who ejaculate copious amounts of come, then you'll want to have towels (plural) at the ready, beneath your hips or your lover's, or out in front of whatever direction you have your G-spot aimed.

If you're a bed-soaker, invest in some lined sheets (like ones used in cribs); or thick, inexpensive mattress pads that you won't mind washing every time you come. You can also pick up a product called Luv Liners, absorbent, disposable waterproof pads that are made especially for adults who enjoy messy sex moments. Of course, you can always try to get it all over your lover, making for a seriously sexy "come in his face" (or on her chest) moment—or you can be even more premeditated and have sex in the bathtub, on tiled surfaces that clean up easily (like those in the kitchen), or outdoors.

# _**Down to Business**_

ALISON TYLER

**W** e should stop," you say in that semisweet, semismug tone of yours. "Really, we should." I can tell from the taunting look in your lovely large eyes exactly how you want me to respond. I don't need any additional hints, but you continue as if I do. "It's against the rules," you add, gazing down at the floor as if shocked by your own naughty behavior.

"What is?" I ask, softly. "This?"

"Oh, yes," you tell me, playing coy now. "That's just wrong, wrong, wrong."

Now, I press you up against the wall of your office so that your palms are splayed flat on the wood-paneled wall. Then I slide that short black skirt up past your curvaceous hips. I take my time, because I like to admire the view. "Or this?" I whisper, my mouth against your neck, teeth poised and ready to bite. You can feel my hot breath on your skin and that makes you tremble.

"That," you insist. "That's just flat-out unacceptable."

"Ah," I sigh. "This is all getting clearer to me. You're saying that I'm just not supposed to do this—" As I speak, I gently slip your lilac satin panties aside. I love these panties. The black lace trim is a total turn-on, and the way they perfectly and snugly fit your  ass drives me wild. I know that you wore them for me, and that thought makes me even harder. You looking through all of the naughty knickers in your collection before choosing this particular set is an image I adore.

Even though I do love occasionally absconding with your panties, slipping them into a jacket pocket to take home and play with later—this afternoon, I don't take them down; just push the smooth, slippery fabric out of my way, and my fingertips play out an immediate melody over your clit. For a moment, I make you lose your cool. My fingers stroke and tap, and you suck in your breath at the first wave of pleasure.

You can't be so clever now, can you? Not as the shining wetness coats my fingers, as I raise back up and stand next to you, staring directly at you as I lick your juices off the tips.

"Oh, god," you groan. You can't suppress the shudder that throbs through you as you watch. Don't you love the way that looks? Me slowly, so slowly, tonguing away your sweet nectar?

"Is this wrong?" I ask, reaching my hand up under your skirt again to collect a fresh dose of your honeyed juices on the tips of my fingers. The first taste of you has made me hungry for more.

"No, don't stop—"

At your request, my fingers probe deeper, and I hold on to you with one hand, keeping you steady  as I finger-fuck that sweet pussy of yours. I want you to be ripe and ready for me by the time I take my cock out. You need all the lubrication you can get, because I'm going to fuck you good. Even harder than you're thinking about right now. I'm going to slam you up against the wall and make you forget how to be coy. How to tease me with those bedroom eyes of yours. Or should I call them 'boardroom eyes'?

"I don't know," I say, dropping onto my knees and bringing my face right up to your cunt. I breathe in, adoring the smell of your sex. The scent makes me dizzy with need. "If employees aren't supposed to date, then you probably shouldn't let me lick your pussy."

"Doesn't say anything about that—" you assure me in a rush.

"What do you mean?" I tease. "What are you implying? That we should sidestep the rules? That wouldn't be fair to the rest of the workforce, would it?"

"I'm just saying—" you start, but then you can't finish your thought because my tongue is already tripping along the seam of your body, playing you so sweetly. I know how to take care of you. I know the little tricks that you like best. My tongue makes several smooth rotations right around your clit, not actually touching that hot little gem, just brushing around it carefully. Slowly. And then, right when you think you're going to die if I don't touch you where you want, I slide my tongue along your clit in one long brushstroke. You grip my hair and hold on,  shivering, so close already that I'm sure you can imagine exactly how good it's going to feel when I let you come. But I'm not letting you. Not yet. With a slow and steady pace, I resume those lazy, crazy, everlasting circles that make you want to sprawl out on the plushly carpeted floor and let me just lick you for hours.

"So," I say, speaking right up against your most tender skin. "What would page ten have to say about this—?"

"No, nothing, nothing," you whisper, and it sounds as if you're begging. You're the one who brought it up, though. Remember that when I make you bite down on your lip to stifle your screams of pleasure. _You're_ the one who opened the manual and used a bright lemon-yellow highlighter pen to illuminate all the different rules that we were breaking.

"What about this?" I tease, standing up next to you once more, driving my fingers inside of you as I search within. You groan when I curl my fingertips forward, finding that spot that makes you weak. I have to flip you around once more, holding you up against the wall with one hand as I press deep into your pussy, working you just right.

If I touch you the way you need, I'll make you gush. I've never been with a woman before who climaxed the way you do. You don't just get wet, you come like a fountain. I see you squeeze your eyelids shut tight as the pressure starts to build. You make a soft keening noise deep in your throat, and I can tell you're lost. There will be no more talk about rules. There will be only pleasure.

The first time we played like this, you swore you were going to wet yourself. But I just kept going, not stopping for a second. Make a puddle on my floor? Who the fuck cares? You didn't. You started to moan and purr. And then you started to come, shocking me with the intensity of your orgasm while my fingers continued to press against that special spot inside of you. You wet your thighs and my face and the sheets beneath us. And afterward, you were embarrassed, as if something had gone wrong.

But everything had gone right. So fucking right.

Now, it's my goal every time. Now, I revel in the encounters we have in which I can get you to this point. Where you shiver all over. Where you actually manage to ejaculate. Where you have to go in search of your spare panties and hose tucked away in your filing cabinet to replace the ones dampened by our lust.

I can tell now that you're dangerously close, and I keep up my efforts, touching harder now, touching you the way you need. The palm of my hand cradles your clit as my fingers rotate over your G-spot, pressing, teasing. I've gotten good over the last few months. I can find that area without so much trouble, my fingertips homing in on it.

Suddenly, you start to tremble.

Coming like this makes you weak-kneed. The climax doesn't subside like a normal clitoral orgasm. This type rolls through you in waves, shaking you from the inside out with the pleasure of a thousand small orgasms linked together. You've tried to explain the way you feel, and I've listened in awe, wishing I could climb inside of you, experience the firework explosions that you whisper to me about afterward.

I revel in the vision, watching you lose control, and then, when I can't wait another damn second, I remove my hand and flip you around despite your whimper of protest, and I push against you.

This is my favorite way to fuck, driving in from behind with both of us standing, but at first I simply let you feel my cock against you through my clothes. I want you to know precisely how excited I am. How ready I am for you. When you whimper again, I rip open my fly and pull out my rod. You're in the perfect position, back arched, poised to receive me. I wrap one hand around your mane of dark hair and tilt your head back so that I can watch your face as I slide inside you. That first deep push is unlike any other sensation. The way your body surrounds me is sublime.

Your body is still trying to absorb the pleasure of your initial climax. Your cunt grips me, milks me, and I'm lost almost from the very start.

You've got yourself under control now, but I can see the sheen on your skin. Your body is hungry for more.

God, are you lovely. Your eyes, which grew wider at the moment of penetration, now get a faraway look, as if you've just arrived at some wonderful distant location. That exotic location called "I've almost reached it." We both know all about that place. And I'm going to take you even further—to a tropical island called "coming together."

Out in the hall I can hear the bustle of secretaries working. Hear the voices and the sounds of their fingers on the keyboards. Their chitchat on the telephones. I hear the low, gruff talk as different employees hurry past the room. Everyone's busy. Everyone needs something. Nobody will bother us, though. That's not even a tiny worry on my radar screen. Officially, we're holding a meeting, the two of us—an important, private meeting—so we can take our time.

Our time to do all the things I need to do to you. And I need to do so many things. Rutting forward. Driving hard. I need to make you crazy with the fact that you can't make noise. You can't be loud.

I want you to be warm and pliant, relaxed and ready, for what we're going to do next. Because this is what I think about it all, baby—if we're going to break those boundaries, we might as well do it right. Might as well really get down to business.

Don't you agree?


Input:
 This section of the story focuses on various ways to enhance G-spot play, including using vibrators, anal sex, oral sex, and even incorporating elements of S/M and power play. It also touches upon the importance of communication and consent when exploring new sexual activities.

Here is a possible prompt that could generate this section of the story:

Q: How can I enhance my G-spot play with vibrators?
A: Many women prefer using vibrators during G-spot play. Vibrators can be used to stimulate the clitoris, the G-spot, or the entire general area of the vaginal entrance. When using a vibrator, start with the lowest speed and gradually increase as desired. Remember to start from the side, never directly on sensitive areas like the clit or G-spot.

Q: Can I combine G-spot play with anal sex?
A: Yes, combining G-spot play with anal sex can create a wide range of deliciously strong sensations. If you like anal sex and you love your G-spot, invest in high-quality butt toys, or enlist a lucky lover to play with your ass while you play with your G-spot. Always follow these rules for anal play: go very slowly, listen to the person you're penetrating (or check in with yourself), and use lots of lube.

Q: Can I combine G-spot play with oral sex?
A: Yes, cunnilingus is particularly well-suited for mixing it up with G-spot play. It can be super fun to lick, suck, and bring her off clitorally with your mouth as you stimulate her G-spot with your fingers or a toy. The easiest way to do this will be to tilt your head to one side while you lick, moving your chin out of the way for better access to her vaginal opening.

Q: Can I incorporate elements of S/M and power play during G-spot play?
A: Yes, some women like to add intense sensations (like pain) to their G-spot play. This can be achieved through the use of clips, clamps, or other S/M toys. Always talk about pain, pleasure, dominance, submission, and any kind of power exchange or sensation play before you do it—even if you think you "know" she'll be into it. Make sure everything is clear and that you have her consent.

Q: What are some tips for incorporating S/M and power play into G-spot play?
A: Some tips for incorporating S/M and power play into G-spot play include selecting from various ways to up the ante with G-spot play and intense sensations, such as spanking, nipple play, or rough sex. You can also play with her G-spot and add a variety of eye-opening sensations to the mix, such as clips and clamps, or even a simple pussy-slapping on her clit and mons with one hand in between thrusts with the other.

Q: What are some safety precautions to keep in mind when incorporating S/M and power play into G-spot play?
A: When incorporating S/M and power play into G-spot play, always prioritize safety and consent. Make sure that all parties involved are comfortable with the activities and that there is clear and ongoing communication throughout. Use safe words, and make sure that everyone involved knows what they are. Also, be mindful of any physical limitations or health concerns that may affect the activities.

Response:
_**chapter 6**_

**faster, deeper, more!**

**N** ow that you've discovered G-spot play and those crazier, stronger orgasms, what are you going to do with your supercharged pussy? Just as if you'd been handed the keys to a brand-new hot rod, you're probably going to want to see what this thing can do, and how many ways you can combine it with all kinds of other sex play, like anal sex, oral sex and more. You might even find that you like more intense penetration, or fullness (like from a fist), or a variety of sensations—like pain or heat or sensory deprivation—during G-spot play.

# **G-Spot Play with Vibrators**

For many women, their preferred style of G-spot play will include toys, and as we saw in chapter  3, there's lots of variety to choose from. Many toys involve some sort of use of vibration to stimulate. Vibration is conducive to many a G-spot orgasm: you may like the feeling of a vibrator only on your clit, on the G-spot itself, or just in the whole general area of your vaginal entrance. Strong buzz or soft, a vibrator will feel intense (intensely good) around your clit, your outer and inner labia, and inside the vaginal opening. But as far as sensation goes, the vibration won't matter so much once it's inside; the size, shape, and movement of the vibrator will.

Here are a few tips to consider if you're operating a sex toy for someone else's G-spot pleasure:

• Always start with a vibrator's lowest speed, and give her more as she asks for it.

• Remember to never put a vibe directly on sensitive areas like the clit or G-spot right away; always start from the side.

• With any toy, vibrating or not, give her just what she wants—and then a little bit more. Caress and knead her labia and clit, and build up to penetration (unless she demands otherwise).

• Once inside, focus the tip of the toy around her G-spot area, massaging it on the in stroke, or out stroke, or both.

• You can hold the toy stationary, allowing her to control the stimulation with her hip movements.

# **G-Spot Play with Anal Sex**

G-spots and butt plugs go together like lips and kisses. In fact, anal penetration is a wonderful sensory complement to G-spot massage, creating a wide range of deliciously strong sensations all in one area. If you like anal sex, and you love your G-spot, then you'll want to invest in some high-quality butt toys, or enlist a lucky lover to play with your ass while you play with your G-spot—or vice versa, or you can just let him or her run rampant with your happy orifices. As a primer for anal play, always follow these rules: go very slowly, listen to the person you're penetrating (or check in with yourself), and use lots of lube. Only start anal stimulation when you're aroused; otherwise, it might not feel so good. Anal penetration hurts when you go too fast, you don't use enough lube, you're not relaxed, or you really aren't in the mood.

Anal play isn't for everyone, so if you want to play with your girl's butt in combination with G-spot play, be sure to cover the topic with her before you go anywhere near her ass. See if she wants to start playing with her butt before, during or after G-spot stimulation so you know when to begin.

**Butt Basics**

Much like the vagina, the outer third of the anus (and, in men, the prostate) contains more nerve endings than the anal canal and responds best to touch and vibration. The inner portion, inside the canal, has fewer nerve endings near the skin's surface and responds more to feelings of fullness, pressure, and rhythm.

The anus has really thin skin, and while it may not be sensitive to insults, it can damage easily from even the tiniest scratchy surface or hangnail, and even rough skin on the hands can make it feel uncomfortable or irritated. Be absolutely sure that anything you massage or insert into the rectum is totally smooth, especially plastic sex toys. Lubricant can ease most surface tension and discomfort from friction, and because the anus does not self-lubricate (like a vagina), you'll need to be heavy-handed with that bottle of lube.

Squirt liberal amounts of lube onto any toy you use, and reapply frequently. Sex toys used for anal penetration must have a flared base, meaning a base that prevents them from being pulled into the anal canal, where they can get lost—a nightmare waiting to happen. The sphincter muscles squeeze and contract as they please; we cannot completely control them. This serves to push and pull things in and  out of the anus, and once something gets pulled in, there's no guarantee you're going to get it out without a trip to the hospital—which is what you'd have to do to prevent serous injury if, say, a hot, battery-powered vibrator went AWOL. Take a look at a standard butt plug and you'll see exactly what a flared base should look like.

Much like G-spot play, anal enjoyment is best begun when you're already turned on—and some women prefer to have an orgasm before even thinking about having any backdoor adventures. Getting turned on beforehand is key to relaxing the muscles and making you receptive to trying more intense sensations, and continuing pleasurable stimulation (like clitoral or G-spot play) during anal penetration is a tried-and-true technique many women use to get off during anal sex. Start aroused, go very slow, use lots of lube and stay relaxed. Anal penetration might feel a bit uncomfortable for a minute, but it should never hurt. Again, if it hurts, then you're going too fast, you need more lube, you're not turned on enough, or you're really not in the mood.

**Getting Started with Anal Penetration**

If you're new to anal penetration, start with the flat pad of your finger or the side of your sex toy's tip, press lightly on the opening, and hold it there. A  lot of people find that vibrators make butt play easier, especially for beginners, so you might want to get a butt toy that vibrates. Anal vibration feels incredible during G-spot play. Be sure to stimulate yourself (clit or G-spot) the entire time you're playing with your ass. Increase the pressure on your anus a little at a time, massaging and pressing in circular motions. Go slow—for some girls, simply having it touched during G-spot stimulation feels plenty good, and could be enough for an orgasm. Use lots of lube, even if you don't go in yet: don't rely on saliva at all.

Move your toy in a circular motion, and begin experimenting with penetration by pressing in a little bit more. If you're using fingers, make sure that you've clipped your fingernails down and filed them totally smooth, or use a latex glove or finger cot to make your finger a perfectly smooth surface. When you're ready, slide your toy or finger in up to the first joint (about an inch), and hold it there for a few breaths. Keep up the G-spot (or clitoral) stimulation as you penetrate yourself. You'll feel the ring of muscles around your anal opening squeeze and contract; just stay still as they relax.

When you feel your muscles relax, slide your toy or finger in a little bit more, and back out, doing a gentle in and out. If it feels good and you want more,  you can go deeper and faster, add more fingers, turn on vibration, have your lover take over, or use a bigger toy. Also, once you're warmed up your lover can have anal sex with you while you use a toy on your G-spot: missionary, doggy-style, and woman-on-top are great positions for this style of double penetration.

Try inserting a butt plug and keeping it in place while you bring yourself to a G-spot orgasm. Butt plugs are also terrific to put in place during partnered G-spot sex—they keep the anal pleasure up while your lover thrusts against your G-spot. Chances are good that your PC muscles will squeeze the plug out before or during orgasm; you can ask your lover to hold it in place with his or her hand. But if it's big and stays in place, after you come, take a few deep breaths and then remove it on the second or third exhale.

# **G-Spot Play with Oral Sex**

Cunnilingus is particularly well-suited for mixing it up with G-spot play; it's superfun to lick, suck and bring her off clitorally with your mouth as you stimulate her G-spot with your fingers or a toy. The easiest way will be to tilt your head to one side while you lick, moving your chin out of the way for better access to her vaginal opening.

Keep the basics of cunnilingus in mind when you're going down on her and playing with her spot simultaneously. The clit is very sensitive, like the G-spot; don't dive for it, but instead massage the sides until she's aroused enough for direct stimulation. Watch her physical cues—if she seems to be inching away from you, you're probably in the right spot, but putting too much pressure or moving too fast: ask her what she wants as often as possible. (You can read about cunnilingus techniques in detail in my book _The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus_.)

When she gets really turned on and nears orgasm, you'll be putting a lot of pressure on her clit with your tongue, and massaging her G-spot quite firmly. She'll likely be bucking into your face pretty hard—be prepared for hand and neck pressure or strain! When she's about to come, don't stop or switch any of your techniques—just ride the same pressure, rhythm and motion through until she's done.

If she's an ejaculator, you'll want to make a decision beforehand as to whether or not you want her to come in your face or mouth. Think about what would be okay for you, and if you don't mind (or it turns you on), great. But if you'd rather not get a face full of her come, you can angle your head sideways and up to avoid the stream, or lean back completely as she comes; you can have it spray on  your chest or arm; you could even lay your head on her pubic area and watch it spray out, with a view from her clit.

Spice up cunnilingus and G-spot play with the following sensory tricks:

• Get a bowl or cup of ice and put a cube in your mouth to cool down your tongue and lips.

• Use an iced or hot drink to change the temperature of your mouth. You'll know if it's too hot or cool because it will be uncomfortable for you, too. Pause while licking and take a mouthful of the beverage; swish and swirl it around your mouth for a minute, then swallow. Continue licking until you feel the temperature change, then repeat as necessary.

• Menthol and mint cough drops and breath mints are amazing cunnilingus sex toys. Look for lozenges with both menthol and mint (they're the strongest), and be sure to get sugar-free versions to avoid irritating her vaginal ecosystem. Before you go down, put one in your mouth and swish it around to activate it and soften the corners—you don't want a corner to accidentally scrape her clit. When you're good and mentholated, slip the lozenge between your cheek and gums. Putting it  under your tongue will make it pop out, and trying to rest it on the back of your tongue while you lick could make you choke on it, so don't do either of those. Add to the icy sensations by blowing softly on her vulva—and please, no puffing any air inside the vagina, as it can be potentially harmful.

# **G-Spot Play with S/M and Power Play**

Do you like hot sauce? Some people do—some like it a lot—and liking the taste of good food accompanied by intense sensation is a great analogy for people who like pain with their pleasure. Sometimes a little spice will do, thank you, while at other times all you want is that mouth-on-fire, nose-running sensation from the wasabi at your favorite sushi bar or the salsa at the local burrito joint. For women who like a range of sensations (from mild to hot!), G-spot play is an ideal sexual activity for adding a little or a lot of pleasurable pain. Or the pain might be a side dish, acting as reward or punishment to your G-spot play power exchange session.

Always talk about pain, pleasure, dominance, submission and any kind of power exchange or sensation play before you do it—even if you think you "know" she'll be into it. Just make everything really  clear; what she wants and likes, and how far you can go with any of your fun and games.

You can select from any number of ways to up the ante with G-spot play and intense sensations. The two of you may have decided that you want to add pain into your regular G-spot routine as if it were a sex toy, and simply experiment with techniques and toys. Or it could be that you have a fantasy scenario in mind in which one of you is dominant and the other submissive, and some spanking or rough play fuels the fantasy's fire. Perhaps you just want to play the dominant partner, and take rough control of her nipples and clit, or treat her stomach or breasts to clips and clamps or a light whipping as you stimulate her G-spot. She may simply enjoy the way pain adds to her G-spot sensations; or perhaps one particular thing pushes her over the edge, such as nipple biting upon orgasm, and role-play or fantasy don't enter into it at all. Pain, as a sex toy, can be shaped to fit your own personal sexual expression, just as G-spot stimulation will evolve naturally in its own pleasurable ways.

Play with her G-spot and add a variety of eyeopening sensations to the mix. A simple pussy-slapping on her clit and mons with one hand in between thrusts with the other can turn into an all-out spanking if you (and she) like—add a twist with her legs fastened securely apart. Get more  intense by adding a leather or rubber slapper—available at S/M boutiques or higher-end sex toy stores. Massage her G-spot until she's blissed out, then begin a rapid or slow series of thwacks, then go back to pleasure. You can also use a small or medium-sized flogger to the same effect.

For adding pain to G-spot play, clips and clamps will be your best friends. Buy ones in specialty S/M boutiques or sex toy stores for this purpose; don't get ones with serrated tips. Place them on fleshy areas like nipples, breasts, arms, thighs, outer labia or stomach and then get to work on her G-spot. You can do much more with clips than just putting them on and taking them off: when the clips are on and you're working her spot, you can give her intense bursts of pain (and remind her the clips are still there) by merely touching the clips, pulling on the skin surrounding them, or even flicking them with your fingers. Pulling and twisting them hurts a lot, too. You don't have to confine your application to the outer labia; the inner labia and clitoris are open game if she's up for it, and licking around and on the clips can elicit a desirable response. Wrap rubber bands around larger clips such as clothespins to make them tighter, or to pull several together.

If your gal asks you to tie her up, and you have talked about what she'd like you to do, stimulating  her G-spot when she's in such a helpless state may give her the most powerful orgasms she's ever had. A blindfold adds to the erotic intensity of feeling that she's under your control. With her sense of sight eliminated, she's forced to rely on her other senses, heightening all incoming stimuli, and she has to rely on you for direction. Plus, she can't see what you're up to, which simultaneously makes you more comfortable and her less steady.

You can blindfold her at any point, though some would argue that the sooner the games begin, the better. Try blindfolding her at the very beginning, and then proceed with your lovemaking as usual, even stripping her clothes off for her and making it all last as long as you can before you start massaging her G-spot. Or tell her that at some point, a point that you will determine, you will blindfold her and she will be under your control. If you've agreed on it, tie her up blindfolded and begin your G-spot ministrations on her fully bound and blind. It's a lot of fun to watch her respond unself-consciously.

# **G-Spot Play with a Fist**

A significant number of women prefer their G-spot stimulation from fisting, and lots of women who ejaculate achieve their best come shots from fisting  sessions. When someone is fisted, whether vaginally or anally, he or she receives penetration from her partner's entire hand, which is curled into a flexible, compact fist. For people who've never even contemplated penetration with larger objects, this sounds like it might hurt, and the term _fisting_ makes it sound almost violent, as if there was punching involved. There isn't. And fisting, when done correctly with someone who likes it, doesn't hurt. In fact, for people who love the feeling of being "filled up," it can induce mind-blowing orgasms.

It's a very slow process that involves a lot of patience, a highly sexually aroused recipient, and a lot of lube. The person being fisted directs the action, instructing the penetrator as she goes along, telling her to add a finger, add rhythm, add lube, slow down, stop, or continue. The effect is a feeling of fullness or stretching, and since both the vaginal canal and the anal canal are elastic, they do not get "stretched out," and return to their previous size soon after orgasm.

Before even thinking of inserting your hand into your lover, take a close look and make sure your hands are perfectly clean and you have no jagged edges or cuts; if you're not sure, don a latex or nitrile (nonlatex) glove. Gloves tend to feel smoother anyway, and she may prefer the sensation to the "drag" of your skin, especially if you have rough hands.

Before taking more than a few fingers, she'll need to be good and turned on—highly aroused and really excited about cramming as much of your hand into her as possible. Apply generous amounts of lube—water-based, thick gel is recommended—to your hand and her pussy. Go slowly into your normal fingering routine, as you insert one, two, three fingers inside. Her vaginal walls will be forming your fingers into the shape they want—sort of like a beak, with your fingers coming together at the tips. Let the shape of her pussy guide the shape of your hand—don't try to force your fingers straight or at any angle, but instead follow the natural curve of her vagina. Add more lube; keep everything very wet and messy.

Once you get your last finger in, slide your thumb underneath the fingers, completing the "beak" shape. Keep her engine revving; she could even be using a vibrator on her clit the entire time if she likes. Massage her pussy with your beaked hand; you'll feel her pussy push your hand into a loose fist shape once your knuckles start to slide past the opening. Your fingers will naturally want to curl over so the second finger joint is the tip of what's penetrating her.

Now what happens is really up to her. She might have had enough intense sensation; she may want you to very gently, slowly start to rock your fist a bit, or more. For many women, this will feel very intense,  and you may notice that your slightest movements will be earthshaking for her. Other women will want more—and you'd better give it to them! Let her tell you—and show you—what she wants. She may want you to all-out fuck her with your fist; she might want to fuck herself at her own pace on your hand, like it's some kind of big, wet and wonderful sex toy.

Women who ejaculate will most likely want you to pump them up to the brink, and then pull out so they can squirt. Loosen and uncurl your fingers back into the loose beak shape as you slowly pull out; if she came and you're getting your hand back, you might ask her to take a few slow deep breaths, pulling it out on her last exhale. It might take a miniscule wiggle to get your knuckles past the muscles at the opening of her vagina—very similar to pulling a big butt plug past the ring of sphincter muscles that surround the anal opening. Then, of course, ask if she wants to do it again!

# _**Pervert**_

ALISON TYLER

**P** retty girl," Charles says. "Who's my pretty girl?" I turn my head toward the wall and mumble an almost inaudible response.

"Can't hear you, love," he chides me. "Can't hear my girl."

" _I am_ ," I repeat, knowing that he's not looking at my face. Knowing that what he's referring to, what _he_ thinks is pretty, is my pussy. That's where he is, right now, down there between my long legs, flashlight in one hand, industrial-size magnifying glass in the other.

He likes to look inside of me. He likes to turn off the lights in the bedroom, get in between my thighs, and shine a flashlight directly on my private parts. He says he's observing the intricacies of my cunt, the gradations of color—from pale petal to candy pink to darkest rose—the soft and subtle folds of skin. He watches and plays and remarks on the precise moment when I start to get dewy wet, when my hips begin to lift off the crisp navy-blue sheet and beg him, silently, wordlessly, to drop the flashlight and give me what I need.

Sometimes, we play doctor. He slides on a pair of thin ecru-colored rubber gloves. He gets the lube and  the thermometer and sets everything up nice and neat on the bedside table. On these nights, he has me put on my old white nightgown backward, with the buttons running down my spine instead of the front. He pokes and prods, takes my temperature rectally, gives me a complete examination.

Other times, he simply observes, creating his own experiments, on the mission to make me come. To give me the best climax yet.

With a hand mirror, he shows me what I look like. He holds it between my legs and rotates the rounded glass so that I can see what he sees. Although I can't really see what he sees, not through his eyes. He points to my clit, gently lifting the hood of skin that covers it, making me tingle all over from the sensation of being brushed directly. I shift my hips on the mattress in an agony of yearning. It's more than I can take, that kind of stimulation, and I close my eyes and lie back against the pillows and beg, this time not so wordlessly, for him to give me what I want.

"Come on, Charlie. Please."

But no. Charlie takes things at his own speed. Never rush a doctor, he likes to say.

With the flashlight handy, he has me roll over, and he parts the cheeks of my ass. He rubs lubricant on my hole and probes me there with one finger, with two, watching the entire time under the glare from  the mini-spotlight. It turns him on to feel my ass muscles squeeze on his fingers, but he admonishes me nonetheless, saying, "This is an examination, girl, don't get so excited."

But I _do_ get excited, feeling slightly violated but worshipped just the same. All that attention, at close range, makes me desperately wet, which, in his clinical manner, he comments on, or records in a notebook he keeps specifically for this purpose.

_Date: January 14th._

_Time 9:45._

_Notes: Patient responds with abundance of sexual juices_

_when probed anally._

Sometimes, I'm screaming for him to fuck me by the end of the examination. Sometimes, I can't handle all the poking and prodding, and I just say, "Please, please, put it in me…. Charlie, come on, Charlie. Fuck me." But he takes his sweet time, getting close up to my ass and slipping three fingers inside, then four.

Once, when I couldn't wait another second, he fucked me with the cool, condom-clad metal handle of the flashlight, sliding it into my cunt, letting me grip on to the textured handle with the muscles of my pussy. With me so well-filled there, he decided that he needed to examine my asshole with  something big: his cock. He was hard as the metal flashlight by this point, as excited by all his observations as I was. He filled me in back with his cock, and continued to fuck me with the tool. The light went off, and we were in the dark but didn't care, rocking on each other, jamming on each other.

But tonight is different.

Tonight he is on a discovery mission with a purpose.

Tonight, he wants to find my G-spot.

"I don't believe in it," I tell him. I've looked before. On a lonely night, all by myself, I tried with my own fingers to find that elusive little magic location. I'd read about G-spots in a magazine at the doctor's office. And I'd wanted to experience that otherworldly type of orgasm myself, the one described by the different interviewees. One woman had described experiencing near endless orgasms for an hour, her body rolling from one to the next. Another had said that clitoral climaxes were fine—but they were nothing astounding, nothing magnificent like a G-spot explosion.

Uselessly, I'd searched for that grape-sized area between the pubic bone and the cervix. I'd curled my fingers as the magazine described. And I didn't give up right away, either. _I'm a modern woman_ , I told myself. _I should be responsible for my own pleasure._

But I couldn't grasp what the fuss was about. I wanted to find it. I really did. And yet after what I felt was a full-on search, I ended up settling for a regular, run-of-the-mill climax. Not covering any new ground at all. Sure, no orgasm is bad, but I felt left out.

I should have known that Charles wouldn't let me off so easily. He has a manual. He has a flashlight. He's set.

"Lube," he says, "plenty of lube. That's really important."

I watch as he coats his fingertips with the glossy liquid.

"And we have to get you ready, first."

"Ready?"

"It helps if you're nice and relaxed. A good climax should do it."

My eyes light up. He isn't teasing me. He's going to let me come, right from the start. While I watch, heart racing, Charlie starts to touch me. After all this time, he knows perfectly well what turns me on. He rubs the ball of his thumb over my clit, and I groan. Then he begins to make those little circles, around and around, until my breathing starts to come more rapidly.

I watch him the whole time, feeling disbelief. Charlie never lets me come so quickly. But this is a  stage that his manual has described. It's important for the woman to be ready. And ready to Charlie means this…

He spreads my pussy lips apart with both hands and then runs his thumbs over my clit. First one, then the other, until I am crying out. He starts soft and sweet at first, then begins to touch me more firmly, until I'm shaking the bed, my whole body trembling.

"Let yourself go," Charlie instructs, and I do, moaning aloud with the power of my climax, shuddering all over from the force of it. And immediately, Charlie gets that look in his eye. That Doctor of Love look. I'm ready—so he is ready. He moves closer to me, then starts to slide his hand into me, curving his fingers upward, as if trying to pull me up off the bed from within my body.

I shudder at the feeling, still reeling from my most recent climax.

"Is it there?" Charlie asks.

"What do you mean?"

"Is this the spot?"

I wasn't sure, which makes Charlie think he hasn't found the right location. "It should be just about two inches inside of you," he says, consulting his notes again. "And if I touch you right, you might feel as if you have to pee."

"That's doing it _right_?" I ask.

"The need will pass," he assures me. "If you can handle the feeling, work through it, I promise the urge will go away in a few seconds," and as he speaks, he seems to find what he is looking for. Or what I've been looking for. Because suddenly I feel something I've never felt before. It's crazy. I grip on to Charlie's wrist. "Right there," I say, whispering. "There."

"Here?" He continues to press, his fingers massaging the most perfect location. I can hardly believe the sensation. I've never felt anything like this before.

"You might bring your knees up to your chest," Charlie suggests, his fingers still curved, pulling up on me, pressing harder and harder. He moves his hand in the same rhythm as if he were fucking me, but his fingers are doing the work instead of his cock. I feel the pleasure, feel the wave of it build within me, and then suddenly I come. But this isn't just coming—not like I've climaxed in the past. This is like exploding, the pleasure ricocheting throughout my entire body.

"Oh, my god—" At first I think I've said it, but the words come from Charlie.

"Look at that!" he continues, and I realize his hand is covered with my liquid. "Did that feel as good as it looked?" he asks, bringing his body close to mine, so that I can feel his cock, hard against my thigh. The  Doctor of Love has clearly gotten aroused during his examination of me.

"Oh, yeah," I tell him, still finding speaking rather difficult.

"Did you know you could come like that?"

I shake my head.

"Just feel," he says, taking my own hands and putting them over my pussy. Letting me see how wet I've gotten, letting me trace my fingertips in my own ejaculate. I am shocked by the amount of fluid, and when I bring my hands back up to my face, I see traces of the milky liquid. Afterward, being as clinical an observer as he is, I ask him to get that mirror out again to show me my wet and dripping pussy lips.

But even a Doctor of Love has his limits. Charlie is on me next, fucking me fiercely, unable to stop himself. The whole time, he whispers to me how turned on I've made him. How my pleasure has fueled his own.

"I can't wait to try that again," he says. "But with my cock instead of my fingers."

It's fun dating someone who considers himself a Doctor of Love. Of course, I know the reality of what he is. But I'd never call him that to his face.


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 This section of the story provides advice on shopping for G-spot toys, books, and videos, both online and in person. It emphasizes the importance of knowing what you're looking for, finding a reputable store, and being mindful of privacy and safety concerns.

Here is a possible prompt that could generate this section of the story:

Q: How can I find the right G-spot toy, book, or video?
A: Finding the right G-spot toy, book, or video for adventure and further study takes both having an idea of what you might be looking for and finding a store that sells your item. Determine your intentions in advance; know what you'd like your toy to do, and have a specific item in mind. The other half of the equation is finding a good place to shop.

Q: Are there any advantages or disadvantages to shopping online versus in person?
A: Shopping online can be convenient, as you can do a lot of your shopping at one site like Amazon.com. However, keep in mind that the quality of the items may vary greatly from store to store, and the return policies on broken items may not be great. If you're shopping in person, find a store that will be a comfortable place to shop. Almost all cities have a selection of adult toy, book, and video stores that are somewhat or even very sleazy and uncomfortable to visit. These can be great places to find cheap G-spot toys, books, and videos, but be prepared to see things in the store that may offend you or make you laugh.

Q: How can I ensure that I'm shopping at a reputable store?
A: To ensure that you're shopping at a reputable store, do your research. Check online forums for customer feedback, see if they have actual brick-and-mortar stores, and Google their URL and name to see what you dig up. Check to see what their privacy policy is, how they ship their products, and how their products are presented. If they have offensive or misspelled product descriptions, sell unsafe products, or seem a bit off, then they'll likely treat their customers with the same disdain.

Q: What are some tips for shopping in person for G-spot toys, books, or videos?
A: When shopping in person, find a store that will be a comfortable place to shop. Almost all cities have a selection of adult toy, book, and video stores that are somewhat or even very sleazy and uncomfortable to visit. These can be great places to find cheap G-spot toys, books, and videos, but be prepared to see things in the store that may offend you or make you laugh. It's highly recommended that before you buy anything online or in person, you and your lover make the trek to a store to see and handle the toys in person at least once so you both get a realistic idea of what you're buying (or not).

Q: What are some tips for shopping online for G-spot toys, books, or videos?
A: When shopping online, it's important to safeguard your privacy. Shop at reputable stores; if you're not sure about their reputation, see if they have online forums where you can garner customer feedback, check to see if they have actual brick-and-mortar stores, and Google their URL and name to see what you dig up. Check to see what their privacy policy is, how they ship their products, and how their products are presented. If they have offensive or misspelled product descriptions, sell unsafe products, or seem a bit off, then they'll likely treat their customers with the same disdain. Do they have annoying pop-up windows? Skip 'em. Shop with someone you like, and if they have an educational section or mission statement, even better.

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_**chapter 7**_

**shopping and further study**

**F** inding the right G-spot toy, book or video for adventure and further study takes both having an idea of what you might be looking for (or actually, looking to do), and finding a store that sells your item. It's important to determine your intentions in advance; know what you'd like your toy to do, and have a specific item in mind. The other half of the equation is finding a good place to shop, so be prepared to check out more than one store. Of course, you can do a lot of your shopping at one site, Amazon. com (and the prices are usually rockbottom), but that has its disadvantages too as you'll still have your items shipped from different stores within Amazon (different arrival times for your packages), and the quality will vary greatly from store to store. And don't expect these stores to have great  return policies on broken items—it's a risk that can go either way.

If you're shopping in person, find a store that will be a comfortable place to shop. Almost all cities have a selection of adult toy, book, and video stores that are somewhat (or even very) sleazy and uncomfortable to visit, generally because they aren't clean or kept up in any visible way, and the customers and clerks don't seem to want to be seen there. These can be great places to find cheap G-spot toys, books and videos, though keep in mind that you'll likely see things in the store that'll totally turn you off or offend you—or will make you run from the store laughing. Often though, these stores are not so scary and you'll get what you want, pay the bored cashier (who's seen it all, by the way), and go home. Either way, it's highly recommended that before you buy anything online or in person, you and your lover make the trek to a store to see and handle the toys in person at least once so you both get a realistic idea of what you're buying (or not).

At women-oriented sex toy boutiques, you'll see a lot of other women and men shopping: people of every stripe and persuasion. Unfortunately these clean, well-lit places to shop for sex toys are found only in a few major cities, such as those noted in parentheses in the following list.

On websites, it's important to safeguard your privacy. Shop at reputable stores; if you're not sure about their reputation see if they have online forums where you can garner customer feedback, check to see if they have actual brick-and-mortar stores (a sign of stability), and Google their URL and name to see what you dig up. Check to see what their privacy policy is—if it's dodgy, shop elsewhere. See how they ship their products—is the process discreet and do the toys come in plain packages? And finally, see how their products are presented: if they have offensive or misspelled product descriptions or sell products that are unsafe, or if they just seem a bit off, then they'll likely treat their customers with the same disdain. Do they have annoying pop-up windows? Skip 'em. Shop with someone you like, and if they have an educational section or mission statement, even better.