Input: Write a first-person account of a personal experience with Betty Dodson, a renowned sex educator and author. Include details about the initial excitement and anticipation leading up to the session, the atmosphere of the session, and the physical appearance and demeanor of Betty Dodson. Also, discuss the specific topics covered during the session, such as the client's sexual history, masturbation practices, and any issues or concerns they have. Describe any exercises or techniques that were demonstrated or practiced during the session, including the use of sex toys. Finally, reflect on any insights or lessons learned from the session, and how the experience has impacted the client's perspective on their own sexuality and relationships.

Response:
# My Date with Betty Dodson

I was so excited about the adventure I nearly peed my pants. Imagine having your own private one-on-one session with author of the groundbreaking, critically acclaimed _Self Loving_ and _Sex for One_ , with the woman credited as the "Mother of Masturbation." I was going to touch myself for Dr. Betty Dodson. When I arrived at her swank Madison Avenue apartment, I was immediately struck by two things. Betty conducts her sessions and runs her office where she lives, and she has an amazing living space. Plus, the masturbation goddess herself has celebrated her seventieth year on the planet, and, yet she does not look a day over fifty. (And, no, folks, she has not had any plastic surgery.) I told her, "I pray I can look like you and live like this when I'm your age!"

She owes it all to masturbation. It's obviously the key to a long, healthy, happy life.

Our session began with Betty asking me questions about my sexuality, masturbation practices, and my orgasm experiences. Usually, clients come to Betty with a specific problem or issue they want to work on. Some have never masturbated before, some are having a sexual problem, and others have never had an orgasm. I've been jerking off since I was four years old, so I was pretty comfortable with it, but I still believed that I could benefit from Betty's knowledge and expertise. You can never be too rich, or too sexually skilled.

I felt ready to come out to Betty and to all my readers about an important fact that affects my sex life. Adventure Girl is a member of Prozac Nation. (Did you think I was this fun and charming naturally?) Since I've been taking anti-depressants, my orgasmic ability has radically changed. There was a time when I could come at the drop of a hat. Nowadays, it takes a lot more patience and finesse. Some people on anti-depressants cannot have an orgasm at all, but for me it's just a more difficult task. Tricks that used to work no longer do, and sometimes I have to get pretty creative. I've resorted to some of my old ways, which means that it is much easier for me to come on my stomach than on my back. So, Betty and I decided that we would work on my coming on my back.

We started with a standard from the days of feminist consciousness-raising: looking at my pussy in the mirror. Betty encouraged me to look closely at my cunt, find and identify the important parts, stroke it, rub it, play with it. She commended me on my pussy hair shaving job, and told me that women who shave/groom often have a better relationship with their pussies as a result of looking at and fussing over them on a regular basis. I was glad to discover that my love of shaving my twat was considered healthy by someone with a Ph.D.!

When we got down to the meat of the session, Betty told me to start masturbating and talked to me while I was touching myself. I told her that I was really into having a lot of pressure on my clit, rather than light flicks of the tongue or little circles with a finger. And when I say pressure, I mean stack a ton of bricks on me and I am pleased as punch. She pointed out that relying on the pressure to get off was limiting and that if I trained myself to come from other kinds of stimulation, I would be a more versatile lover. Betty hit on it right there: I love a challenge and I love learning new stuff that makes me a better lover. Then I got to stick various things in my pussy like the Crystal Wand, a lucite S-shaped dildo designed to hit your G-spot, and a barbell which resembles the Kegelcisor but which Betty designed herself and had specially made. I had a one-of-a-kind piece of Betty Dodson sculpture in my pussy and in my ass. That's enough to make me come on the spot. But, I was on my back, remember, so it took a little more work and the help of the Queen of All Vibrators, the Hitachi Magic Wand. I did eventually get there, and once Betty was satisfied that I had worked for it, she let me turn over on my stomach and ride the magic wand to another rousing climax.

I joked to my friends later about the session: "You jerk off in front of Betty, and she tells you what you're doing wrong." Actually, it's more like she grades you in different areas: how you work your clit, what kind of G-spot stimulation you like, vaginal stimulation/penetration, anal stimulation/penetration, pelvic rocking and thrusting, PC muscle contractions, breathing, and making noise. I scored very high in pelvic thrusting and PC muscles (she says mine are very strong) and had poorest performance in the breathing category. I tend to hold my breath a lot while I jerk off or take very shallow breaths since I get a kind of head rush that way. Betty reminded me that while the light-headed feeling is nice, it's temporary. Taking really deep breaths while jerking off gets your blood pumping to all the right places, thereby encouraging your clit and pussy to become engorged and increasing stimulation and pleasure. So many lessons to learn for this smarty-pants.

Betty also helped me remember something I knew, but sometimes tend to forget, especially when having really good sex with an amazing lover: the one person who holds the key to my pleasure is me. We tend to rely on others to get us off, and get lazy about self-love. The more you get in touch with your own body, what you like and dislike, your personal hot spots, and what gets you off, the better lover you will ultimately be. The more you practice receiving pleasure, test your own responsiveness, and really work at your orgasms, the better sex you'll have alone and then with others. Thanks to Betty, I had a back-to-school experience that left me educated, motivated, stimulated, and satiated. I'm waiting patiently for my next homework assignment, Dr. Dodson!


Input: Write a first-person account of a personal experience with female ejaculation. Begin by discussing any prior knowledge or exposure to the concept of female ejaculation, such as viewing an instructional video or observing someone else in person. Describe the initial desire to learn how to ejaculate and any steps taken to achieve this goal, such as taking workshops or investing in specialized sex toys. Detail the specific circumstances leading up to the first successful experience with ejaculation, including the setting, the people involved, and any activities that preceded the event. Describe the sensation of ejaculating, as well as any emotions or reactions experienced during and after the event. Finally, reflect on any subsequent experiences with ejaculation and any advice or tips received from others who are experienced in this area.

Response:
# I Came! I Shot!

When I was a junior in college and a mere baby adventure girl, Debi Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, came to campus to show the latest feature from the lesbian porn empire Fatale Video. It was an instructional video for women called _How To Female Ejaculate_. I got the lowdown on my G-spot that day (the spongy thing that surrounds the urethra), and a lesson in the controversy involving the whole concept of female ejaculation. There are people who believe that it just doesn't happen (the same folks who believe the G-spot doesn't exist), that women are urinating, not ejaculating. But they're wrong. I remember being mesmerized, watching the video, by the sight of all these different women sitting around talking, jerking off, coming, and yes, _ejaculating_. It was yet another revolutionary concept straight out of San Francisco: women can shoot our loads just like the boys.

It took a few years before I actually saw a woman do it in person, and so began my own mission to learn how to ejaculate. That woman was my friend Kim Airs, the Proprietrix of Grand Opening! Sexuality Boutique in Brookline, Massachusetts. Kim teaches a workshop on the subject, and did a real live demo for me at a sex party one night. We were in the bathroom after she had just finished having sex with someone, and she said she was coming all over the place.

"Wanna see?" she asked, and I eagerly nodded my head.

She whipped out one of those absorbent bed pads for incontinent people (which is a must-have accessory for "girl shooters"), spread those perky-'n'-pierced pussy lips of hers, cocked her hips forward, and started shooting juice from her cunt. It was amazing to see her ejaculate so closeup, and she looked like a fucking goddess doing it – beautiful, powerful, sexy, and wet, wet, _wet_! Wow. I decided that night I just had to learn how to do it. I was ready to rent the video again, take a workshop, invest in all those toys specially designed for G-spot stimulation. But there are some things you just can't plan. And you know, dear readers, how much I love the unexpected.

I'm thrilled to tell you all about what set the stage for my virgin coming, my immaculate ejaculation. So here it is about two of the hottest butches in New York requesting my presence at a certain club in Brooklyn. There's Val, a stocky, mean-looking top who's been in the scene for twenty years and has the impeccable skills to prove it. She handles a flogger like no woman I have ever seen, like it's a poised, powerful, poetic extension of her right arm. And her boy Red, named for her coppery razor-short hair, whose innocent freckles camouflage an intense tolerance for pain and torture. Red is one of the finest butches I have ever laid eyes on; she makes this femme bottom want to be a butch daddy just for her.

I want to relate how it felt to lean against Red's lean, solid body, feel her rock hard dick through soft leather pants as Val cut all my clothes off with her knife in a public scene at this club. I want to tell about being flogged, having clothespins stuck up and down my back and ass, and being flogged some more, then being hooded, dragged to a truck, and driven to an unknown location. There were geography and music trivia questions answered incorrectly, punished with slaps and spanks. There were cocks and fingers shoved in my pussy, mouth, and ass. Red held me down while Val pierced my chest. It was a long, complicated scene full of pushing boundaries, initiation, and good old fashioned fucking. I thought it was over as we all crashed in Val's bed in the early morning hours.

In the morning, I woke up on my back in between two hot butches. Heaven. Red snapped on a latex glove and started fucking me with the same ferocity as the night before. Her energy and passion are boundless. She was working my G-spot with a definite mission and suddenly I got that feeling. It's a feeling I've had plenty of times during penetration and G-spot stimulation – a feeling like I was going to pee. I have always resisted the urge, held back many times, even stopped the action to run to the bathroom. More often than not, I wind up on the toilet with a trickle or no pee at all. So, I had that feeling as Red was working magic with her fingers inside my pussy.

"I feel like I'm gonna pee," I said.

"You're not going to pee," she reassured me. "Just let go." It was tough. I felt like I'd been practicing for years to hold it in, for fear I would pee on lovers who weren't exactly the golden showers type. But Val was there in the bed, and Red was talking in such a sure, soothing way. We had been through a really intense scene, and I had a profound amount of trust for both of them. So I did what she said, and I let go.

Minutes later, I was coming. It felt like a different kind of orgasm altogether than I'm used to. I had that climax feeling, but instead of being followed simply by a rush and pussy contractions, I felt this warm wave run through my insides. It just took over, and I went with it. When Red took my hand and put it on the blanket underneath me, I was shocked. I had made a puddle that soaked her beautiful black comforter. It seemed like an enormous amount of liquid to come out of my little body.

I gushed, verbally this time. "Oh my God! I did that! I've never done that before, it's so cool. How did you make me do it?"

She filled me in on her expert secrets – how she finds the G-spot, works it for a while, then reaches behind it and literally tries to pull the come out. She is a woman who knows how to ejaculate herself, and loves to make other women do it.

"When women usually come," she says, "they make noise, they make faces, you can feel their cunts contract, but it's all an internal experience. When I make a woman ejaculate, it's a visible, tangible sign of her orgasm – I love it!"

I've been able to ejaculate twice since then. The hardest part still is getting that full bladder feeling and being able to push out rather than hold back. It was a life-changing event, and I look forward to perfecting this newfound trick. Kim, where did you say that you got those absorbent bed pads?


Input: Write a first-person account of attending a swingers' party. Begin by describing the initial invitation to the party and any reservations or considerations that arose. Detail the location of the party and any observations made about the setting, including the appearance of the building and the main common area. Describe the demographics of the attendees, including their age, race, and profession. Discuss any interactions with other partygoers, including any propositions or behaviors that were observed. Choose one particular encounter to focus on and describe the people involved, including their appearance and demeanor. Detail the specific activities that took place during this encounter, including any sexual acts and the use of safer sex supplies. Reflect on the overall experience of attending the swingers' party, including any positive or negative aspects and any conclusions drawn about the swingers' community.

Response:
# I Go to a Swingers' Party

Do you want to go to a swingers' party with me?" she asked. I had just landed at Michelle's place, weary from my grueling book tour. I was looking forward to a good night's sleep on her futon.

"A swingers' party?"

"Yeah, I know it sounds kinda strange, but I go every once in a while. I'm seeing this guy right now, and we're going together tonight."

First of all, people actually still call themselves swingers? "Swingers" sounds like such a retro-phenomenon from the seventies, reminiscent of wife-swapping, bong-smoking orgy-goers, and key parties. I saw that dismal key party in _The Ice Storm – no_ thank you. Plus, it's 1998 – don't you think there should at least be some new term coined? I'd go with something like S.A.S.H.: Sexually Adventurous Suburban Heterosexuals.

I debated it with myself. Michelle promised to give me her version of an "Introduction to Swingers" orientation. What the heck – this might be my one and only opportunity to check out how the other half play. I decided to go.

About a half hour outside the city, in an industrial park off the highway, we drove past rows of identical nondescript low-rise buildings. We were in the middle of nowhere. We looked for the only office building with lights on, and a modest sign greeted us at the door: "Computer Users Group Annual Spring Meeting – Time to Clean Your Hard Drives!" (Michelle's Intro to Swingers Lesson 1: In order to rent its meeting space with discretion, the swingers' group calls itself a computer group.)

Each office in this typical corporate space had been converted into a playspace; inside each door or behind a makeshift curtain was a dimly lit room with one or more mattresses on the floor. The main common area looked like the all-purpose rec room of a suburban condominium complex: a modern bar, couches, big screen TV, and in the middle, gray carpet leading to a wood parquet dance floor. You know: swingers' party tonight, George and Ida's twenty-fifth anniversary party tomorrow, and Adam's bar mitzvah on Saturday. Not exactly a sexy, warm, or inviting space.

The majority of the people there were white, professional, married couples in their forties. It didn't seem very promising to this dyke. But after coming all the way to a swingers' party, I wasn't going to just stand around. I made eye contact several times with one guy until he came over and introduced himself. His name was Dave. He was vaguely handsome, well-built, and told me he was a TV producer. After we chatted for a while, he said he really wanted me to meet his girlfriend Lynn. (Intro to Swingers Lesson 2: Many of the women identify as "bi-curious," so there can be girl-on-girl action, but there is absolutely no boy-on-boy anything.)

Lynn was dressed in a pastel colored business suit. She had frosted blond hair cut in a neat chin-length bob. Stiff and nervous, she looked absolutely terrified to be there.

"This is my first time at one of these things," she said. She had a nice smile. Straight girls and femmes usually aren't my thing, so I was a little skeptical.

Since I was an out of towner, I was planning to remain anonymous at the party; unfortunately, someone recognized me from a recent local event and word quickly spread that I was the girl who wrote a book on anal sex. About that time, a line formed. One by one, men approached me and told me they wanted to have anal sex with me. (Lesson 3: The scene is pretty heterosexist and usually revolves around men: they're the ones who make the moves.)

After a particularly sketchy proposition from an overgrown frat boy and his drunk, reluctant wife, I decided that Dave and Lynn were definitely my best bet.

Lesson 4: There are three kinds of rooms:

Private: The door can be shut and locked. If unlocked, people can come in and watch if they first ask permission – but they can't join in.

Semi-Private: There is a curtain instead of a door. People come and watch, and go; they can join in if they ask permission.

Anything Goes: Self-explanatory.

Dave and Lynn wanted a private room.

They were both cautious, and wanted me to take the lead. I took condoms, gloves, lube and a butt plug out of my little backpack. (Lesson 5: Unlike the sex parties I've been to with safer sex rules and supplies everywhere, swingers rarely practice safer sex, so you have to be adamant about it.) I was still wary about just how bi Lynn really was, so I was pleasantly surprised when she was eager and enthusiastic. She licked her fingers and took my nipples between the slick tips. I kissed her as I unhooked her bra. The white lace revealed soft, full breasts and raspberry-red nipples. Her body was curvaceous, big hips, a dreamy round ass – the way I always imagined Joan Nestle looked from her erotic stories.

Lynn was really in touch with her body, confident and sexy, and she proved it wasn't her first time with another girl when she went down on me. Dave was gentle and sweet. He touched us both with reverent hands. He stayed back for the most part, but not in that gross I-wanna-watch-and-jerk-off way. It was never about _his_ pleasure. Dave and I teamed up to make Lynn come; we took turns pleasing her with our mouths and tongues and fingers until she let out a high-pitched scream and collapsed. Her skin was glowing, and we stroked her, kissed her cheeks. Then we talked for a long time, probably for longer than our sexual encounter.

I don't think I'm ready to become a regular in the swingers' scene. But it was nice to dip my foot in and see how the water looked, smelled, felt. It's a world very different from my own. But for one night, I was a visitor, and the visit was memorable. I still believe swingers need a new name, but I've got to give them credit for creating a community where they can explore their desires. On that we can agree.


Input: Compose a biography for the author of a nonfiction book on sexuality. Include the author's name and the title of the book, as well as any awards it may have received. List any related videos the author has directed, produced, or starred in, based on their book. Include any columns or articles the author writes for publications, both print and online. Mention any other books the author has edited or co-edited, particularly in the same genre. Provide a summary of any media appearances or features the author has had, including television shows, radio programs, and magazine articles. Finally, mention any teaching or lecturing the author does related to their area of expertise.

Response:
# About the Author

Tristan Taormino is the author of _The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women_ (Cleis Press), winner of a 1998 Firecracker Award. She is director, producer, and star of the videos _Tristan Taormino's Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women 1_ and _2_ (Evil Angel Video), based on her book. She is a columnist for _The Village Voice, Taboo,_ Penthouse.com, and her own Web site, Puckerup.com. She is editor of _On Our Backs_ magazine. She is series editor of _Best Lesbian Erotica_ (Cleis Press), and co-editor of _A Girl's Guide to Taking Over the World: Writings from the Girl Zine Revolution_ (St. Martin's Press). She has been featured in more than one hundred publications including _Playboy, Penthouse, RedBook, Entertainment Weekly, Details, New York Magazine, Out,_ and _Spin._ She has appeared on MTV, HBO's _Real Sex, The Howard Stern Show, Loveline,_ and the Discovery Channel/Canada. She teaches sex workshops and lectures on sex nationwide.


Input: Compose a credits section for the design and production of the book cover. Include the name of the designer, the photographer, the hair and makeup artist, and the overall designer of the book.

Response:
# Credits

Jacket design by Kiley Thompson
Cover photo by Richard Mitchell
Hair and makeup by Tatijana Suljic-Shoan
Designed by Katharine Nichols.


Input: Create a copyright section for the book "Pucker Up". Include the copyright information for the illustrations, the main text of the book, and the ePub edition. Include the rights granted to the reader, the restrictions on reproduction, and the print edition publication information.

Response:
# Copyright

All illustrations © 2000 by Fish. The illustration "Female Anatomy, Front View" first appeared in The Clitoral Truth: The Secret World at Your Fingertips, by Rebecca Chalker (New York: Seven Stories Press, 2000). The illustrations "Female Anatomy, Side View," "Male Anatomy," and "Anorectal Anatomy" first appeared in The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, by Tristan Taormino (San Francisco: Cleis Press, 1997).

PUCKER UP. Copyright © 2001 by Tristan Taormino. All rights reserved under International and Pan-American Copyright Conventions. By payment of the required fees, you have been granted the non-exclusive, non-transferable right to access and read the text of this e-book on-screen. No part of this text may be reproduced, transmitted, down-loaded, decompiled, reverse engineered, or stored in or introduced into any information storage and retrieval system, in any form or by any means, whether electronic or mechanical, now known or hereinafter invented, without the express written permission of HarperCollins e-books

EPub © Edition SEPTEMBER 2001 EISBN: 9780061750557

Print edition first published in 2001 by HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

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Input: Create a section titled "About the Publisher" that lists the contact information for HarperCollins Publishers in different countries. Include the address, city, and website for each location.

Response:
**About the Publisher**

**Australia**
HarperCollins Publishers (Australia) Pty. Ltd.
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http://www.harpercollinsebooks.com.au

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HarperCollins Canada
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**New Zealand**
HarperCollins Publishers (New Zealand)
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**United Kingdom**
HarperCollins Publishers Ltd.
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**United States**
HarperCollins Children's Books
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Input: Write a section about tips and techniques for sexual activities, including exercises for strengthening the PC muscles, ways to help a partner achieve multiple orgasms, techniques for stimulating the clitoris and G-spot, tips for anal sex, and advice on using sex toys such as the Kegelcisor. Also include information on erotic role-playing scenarios and different types of adult videos.

Response:
PC Muscle Exercises

Here are a few suggestions for strengthening your PC muscles:

  * Take a deep breath and while you inhale, contract the muscles and hold the contraction for a few seconds. Then exhale and relax the muscles. This combination of inhale-contract and exhale-relax is what your body does naturally. For best results, you should do about one hundred repetitions per day.
  * Take a deep breath and while you inhale, tighten and release the muscles repeatedly (about ten times), then exhale and relax. Try to do these contractions quickly. Doing twenty to fifty sets a day is recommended.
  * Inhale and pretend you are sucking water inside your vagina (if you've got one) and anus. Then exhale and bear down, pushing out that imaginary water. You will exercise your pelvic muscles and your stomach muscles. For best results, do ten to thirty each day.
  * There is also a wonderful sex toy for women called the Kegelcisor (available at better sex toy stores), which is a vaginal barbell made of chrome-plated brass; it comes with a booklet of exercises and I highly recommend it for women interesting in developing their PC muscle.

How to Keep Her Coming

  * _Keep going:_ Once her body shudders with orgasm number one, continue to stimulate her clitoris the way she likes it—some women can extend their orgasms if the stimulation doesn't end.
  * _Switch spots:_ She might like to experience an orgasm from clitoral stimulation first, then move on to vaginal penetration and G-spot stimulation. Once she has come, her G-spot will become more pronounced (easier for you to find) and more sensitive (better feeling for her).
  * _Change the tune:_ Her clit may feel too sensitive after an orgasm, so as you let her clit recover, try more indirect stimulation, a lighter touch, or focus on other erogenous zones until she's ready for more clitoral stimulation.
  * _Let her do it:_ No one knows her body better than she does. Encourage her to touch herself the second time around while you penetrate her with your fingers, your cock, or a dildo.
  * _Use a toy:_ You may have a stiff neck after getting her to that first orgasm, so let a vibrator take over if she's begging for more.

Making a Multiorgasmic Man

  * _Press his button:_ When he tells you he's close to coming, depending on the position you're in, either you or he should press on the spot on his perineum right above his anus. This ancient Taoist technique helps stop the ejaculatory reflex. If you've hit the right spot, you should feel an indentation; press about a half-inch in.
  * _Tug the sac:_ Place your hand at the bottom of his penis, palm down. Gently grab the scrotal sac using your thumb and forefinger and tug downward. Pulling the testicles away from the body can delay ejaculation.
  * _Withdraw and squeeze:_ If he's getting close, have him pull out. Place your fingers below the head of his penis and your thumb on top, then squeeze the tip of it.
  * _Twenty-minute rule:_ If he's learned all the techniques and is a marathon man, make sure he lets his erection go down a bit every twenty minutes so blood can circulate.

What to Do with Nipples

  * _Lick 'em:_ Trace around the outside of the nipple with your tongue. Vary the pressure of your tongue from light licks to quick flicks. Use the tip of your tongue to tease the nipple and feel it become an erect little nub in your mouth.
  * _Suck 'em:_ Savor a nipple like a tasty treat in your mouth. Take it between your lips and suck it gently. Vary the amount of suction, and see what elicits the best response.
  * _Pull 'em:_ Take a nipple between your fingers and stroke it gently. Tug it slightly, then let your fingers slip off it. Prolong your pull, watching how your partner responds. Try to delicately stretch it away from the body. Rub and roll it around in your fingers.
  * _Pinch 'em:_ Using your thumb and forefinger, slowly pinch the nipple, then quickly release the pressure. Increase the pressure the next time, and see how much your partner can take.
  * _Nibble 'em:_ Some people like a little teeth in the mix. Best to start with a slight nibble at first and work your way up. Biting can be delicious or downright painful, depending on the person, so make sure you ask before you clamp down with those pearly whites.
  * _Clamp 'em:_ Speaking of clamps, if your partner likes pinching and biting, you may want to kick it up a notch. You can use clothespins or nipple clamps, which you can buy at sex-toy stores (see chapter 9 for more on nipple clamps).

Clues from Past Sex

Think, meditate, or write in a journal about your past sexual experiences; they may give you a window into your desires. Use these superlatives as a guideline for remembering instances, then delve into them and explore what about them made them great.

  * Your Most Romantic Sexual Experience
  * Your Most Passionate Sexual Experience
  * Your Most Uninhibited Sexual Experience
  * Your Most Fun Sexual Experience
  * Your Most Intense Sexual Experience
  * Your Most Kinky Sexual Experience

Starting a Conversation About Sex

_Finish these sentences to yourself, in a journal or face-to-face with your partner:_

  * What I love most about having sex with you is . . .
  * You turn me on when you . . .
  * One of the best times we had sex was . . . because . . .
  * When I want to have sex and you don't, I feel . . .
  * To feel like I am in the mood for sex, I need . . .
  * When we have oral sex (or fill in the blank with whatever you want), I feel . . .
  * If I could ask you to do one thing to me the next time we have sex, I would like you to . . .

Dirty Talk Tips

  * _Describe:_ The simple act of narrating your sexual encounter can be sexier than you may think.
  * _Instruct:_ Some people not only appreciate being told what to do, it turns them on. Get in touch with your inner dominatrix, and dole out an order or two.
  * _Be naughty:_ Think of the wildest stuff you've always wanted to say and go for it. Channel your inner bad boy or bad girl.
  * _Beg:_ Desperation is normally not very sexy, but when you are desperate for your partner to do something, a little begging can go a long way.
  * _Be outrageous:_ Let your inhibitions go, and let the sexual banter flow! Be bold and bawdy, let your mind wander and your mouth follow.
  * _Tease:_ This can be an incredibly effective verbal turn-on. Tell her what you're going to do to her, then make her wait. Couple your words with a few suggestive touches, and you'll whip her into a frenzy.
  * _Tell a Story:_ Now is your chance to create that erotic story you've been dreaming about or put you and your lover in a porn-movie encounter.

A Guide to Condoms

_Bigger:_ Beyond Seven, Maxx, Trojan Magnum

_Clear:_ Atlas, Durex, Trojan Supra

_Colors:_ Midnight Desire, Lifestyles Colors, Lifestyles Tuxedo, Ria

_Extra-Strong:_ Contempo Power Play, Lifestyles Xtra Strength

_Extra-Thin:_ Kimono Microthin, Paradise Super Sensitive, Sagami Vis à Vis, Skinless Skin, Trojan Supra, Trojan Ultra Pleasure, Trojan Ultra Thin

_Female Condom:_ Reality

_Flavored:_ Lifestyles Kiss of Mint, Trustex

_High Sensitivity for Him:_ InSpiral, Kimono Sensations, Lifestyles Ultra Sensitive, Lifestyles Xtra Pleasure, Pleasure Plus, Trojan Pleasure Mesh, Trojan Supra, Trojan Ultra Pleasure, Trojan Very Sensitive

_Nonlatex:_ Avanti, Trojan Naturalamb, Trojan Supra

_Nonlubricated:_ Lifestyles Non-Lubricated, Ria, Trojan Non-Lubed

_Snugger:_ Exotica, Prime

_Textured for Her:_ Lifestyles Ribbed, Lifestyles Rough Rider, Sagami Type E, Trojan Pleasure Mesh, Trojan Ribbed

_Thin:_ Crown, Kimono

Making Safer Sex Hot

  * _Use some lube:_ The slippery stuff makes all kinds of sexual activities with latex, including penetration, smoother and more comfortable. Add lube on both sides of a latex condom or dam for better safe oral sex.
  * _Add some flavor_ : Lapping up the taste of latex isn't exactly enticing. Try condoms, dams, and lube in a variety of flavors, and make your mouth happy.
  * _A touch of color_ : Plain latex can feel too sterile and medical to make using it sexy. Luckily, condoms, dams, and gloves come in a variety of colors, which can brighten up your day, and won't remind you of a trip to the emergency room.
  * _Learn to put a condom on with your mouth_ : Practice on a banana or a dildo privately, then impress him with your newfound skill!
  * _Make it part of seduction_ : Rather than fumbling and groaning when it's time to whip out and slip on your latex friends, try making the act of slipping on a condom or a glove a hint of things to come. Think of it as a reverse strip tease.

Hand Jobs Tricks for Him and Her

  * _Jiffy Lube_ : Add some lube to the equation.
  * _Watch and Learn_ : Have your partner show you what he or she likes.
  * _Hot Spots_ : For him, the head of the penis; for her, the clitoris.
  * _Full Body_ : Don't ignore nipples, lips, inner thighs, butt, and the rest of the body.
  * _Open Mouth_ : Hey, it's one advantage over oral sex—your mouth isn't full! So use it to talk dirty or tell your lover what you like.

Expert Muff-Diving Secrets

  * _Dive in:_ nothing compares to your wild abandon; if you're not covered in girl juice, you're not doing it right.
  * _Start slow:_ take time with your tongue to cover every inch of her pussy.
  * _Tease:_ tease her with your lips and mouth till she's so excited, she'll grab you by the ears and beg you to dive in.
  * _Add some suction:_ don't limit yourself to licking—suck gently on her clit.
  * _Mix it up:_ side to side, up and down, circular, figure eights—see what works best for her.

Mastering the Art of the Blow Job

  * _Get into it:_ he likes it best when you're having the time of your life and demonstrating it by looking at him, talking dirty in between, or losing yourself in the act.
  * _Relax your throat:_ it's mind over matter, girls. Just take a deep breath and take as much as you feel comfortable. Use your hand to make up the rest of the length.
  * _Purse those lips:_ the pressure of your lips can create a pleasurable sensation of friction.
  * _Hit the spot:_ With his cock in your mouth, try pressing on his sensitive perineum or, if he's game, slip a lubed finger in his ass to stimulate his prostate.

Lubes at a Glance

_Water-Based Lubes That Contain Glycerin_

BRANDS: Astroglide, Eros Water Formulation, K-Y, Foreplay, ID, Sex Grease, Wet

PRO: easy to clean up, variety of textures, nonstaining, latex compatible, some available in flavors

CON: glycerin may cause yeast infections in some women

TIP: add a little water to revive when it dries up

_Water-Based Lubes Without Glycerin_

BRANDS: Hydra Smooth, Liquid Silk, Maximus, Slippery Stuff

PRO: less likely to cause or aggravate yeast infections and other chemical sensitivities; latex compatible

CON: Because they do not contain glycerin, these lubes tend to dry up much faster, and you need to re-lube more frequently.

TIP: best for women who've experienced sensitivity to other lubes or chronic yeast infections

_"Natural" Lubes (Water-Based)_

BRANDS: O'My, Probe, Sylk

PRO: contain natural ingredients like grapefruit seed extract, hemp, kiwi, aloe; latex compatible

CON: may not have the long-lasting properties of lubes with artificial ingredients

TIP: Read the labels carefully; even natural ingredients may irritate some women.

_Silicone-Based Lubes_

BRANDS: Eros, Eros Woman, ID Millennium, Wet Platinum

PRO: stay wet for a very long time; latex compatible

CON: never wash out; incompatible with some silicone toys

TIP: Try Wet's After Wash for easier cleanup.

_Oil-Based Lubes_

BRANDS: Vaseline, baby oil, Crisco, Wesson, various lotions

PRO: inexpensive, easy to find

CON: don't wash out; can cause vaginal infections; break down latex

TIP: Don't use them for sex.

Pros and Cons of Popular Vibrators

_Hitachi Magic Wand_

POWER: plug-in

LOOK: like a portable blender

PRO: the most powerful vibration

CON: its size could intimidate a first-timer

TIP: Use a washcloth to muffle and lessen the vibration if it's too strong for you.

_Wahl Seven-in-One_

POWER: plug-in

LOOK: like a mixer, without the egg-beater attachments

PRO: strong and fairly quiet

CON: not exactly compact, awkward for partner sex

TIP: Try all the different attachments.

_Pocket Rocket_

POWER: battery

LOOK: a super-compact massager

PRO: small size, discreet look, pretty powerful

CON: Not as powerful as plug-in; quality varies between different brands

TIP: Use the waterproof version in the shower or anywhere else wet.

_Slimline (a.k.a. Smoothie)_

POWER: battery

LOOK: a giant, extra-long lipstick top

PRO: inexpensive, covers lots of surface area, power varies by model

CON: can be too hard and pointy for pleasurable penetration

TIP: Position it between your legs lengthwise—one end works your clit, the other slips between your lips for extra stimulation.

_Jelly Vibe_

POWER: battery

LOOK: fake plastic penis, ranging from slightly silly to hideous

PRO: inexpensive, widely available

CON: vibration may be too mild for most clits, better for penetration

TIP: Use a condom on this one to get the most use out of it and make it easier to clean.

_Dual-Action_

POWER: battery

LOOK: carved totem pole with animal attachment

PRO: simultaneous clit stimulation, vaginal stimulation and penetration

CON: expensive, potential for overstimulation

TIP: Start with only one feature on to warm up, then add the others.

_Natural Contours_

POWER: battery

LOOK: modern, streamlined

PRO: discreet looking and well constructed

CON: highest vibration can be pretty tame for some women

TIP: Take advantage of its curved shape: slip it inside your panties, turn over on your stomach, and ride into the sunset.

_Wearable_

POWER: battery

LOOK: friendly little animal, looks like a gummi bear

PRO: designed to wear during intercourse

CON: straps can tangle easily, vibe can slip around and may have to be held in place, defeating its wearable design

TIP: Keep the controls handy so you can adjust the speed without breaking away from the position you're in.

Care and Cleaning of Vibrators

_Storage:_ Always store in a cool, dry place. You should remove the batteries from your vibrator when you're not using it to decrease the risk of accidental turn-on, which will run batteries down and may burn out your motor. This also prevents batteries from leaking or exploding inside your vibrator and damaging it.

_Batteries:_ Many people in the sex industry recommend using Energizer batteries; through trial and error and lots of customer feedback, we've found that they seem to work the best. Duracell batteries, for whatever reasons, have been known to burn out the motors of different kinds of vibrators.

_Cleaning:_ You should always unplug a vibrator or take out the batteries before you clean it and while you let it dry. Whether it plugs into the wall or is battery-operated, a vibrator should never be submerged in water—unless, of course, it is waterproof. Plug-in models should be wiped with a damp, soapy cloth, then again with a plain damp cloth. Vibrators made of hard plastic, rubber, or silicone can also be cleaned in the same fashion. Silicone vibrators are nonporous, but others are not. If you plan to share a vibrator, always use a condom on it.

Ejaculation Cleanup Tips

If you have experienced the wonder and amazement of a female ejaculator, you probably already know that it can be, well, very wet. And while wet is absolutely wonderful, washing your sheets every time you have sex is not. Thinking about cleanup beforehand makes things much easier—no one has to sleep in the wet spot (and trust me, that spot can be bigger and wetter than you imagine) and there's a lot less laundry for you to do. Here's a helpful guide to keeping it as dry as possible:

  * _Light squirt:_ a towel should do the trick
  * _Medium-sized puddle:_ disposable bed pads, aka "chucks," available in drug stores
  * _Fountain of youth:_ rubber sheets are the way to go
  * _For the environmentally conscious:_ try a washable absorbent pad

Female Ejaculation on Video

_Educational and Alternative_

  * _The Amazing G-Spot and Female Ejaculation_
  * _Guide to G-Spot & Male Multiple Orgasm_
  * _How to Female Ejaculate_
  * _How to Find Your Goddess Spot_
  * _The Incredible G-Spot_
  * _Sluts and Goddesses_
  * _Tantric Journey to Female Orgasm_

_Mainstream Adult Stars Who Squirt_

  * Sarah-Jane Hamilton ( _Squirt: The Cumming of Sarah Jane 1_ & _2_ )
  * Alisha Klass ( _Knocking at Heaven's Backdoor, Think Sphinc_ )
  * Taylor Hayes ( _Taylor Hayes Anal All-Star 2_ )
  * Dasha, in various Vivid videos
  * Several actresses in Greg Dark's _Psychosexuals_

Myths and Facts About Anal Sex

_Myth: It's messy and dirty._

Fact: If you're a healthy person with a normal diet, and you have a bowel movement before anal penetration, there will be only a trace amount of fecal matter in the rectum.

_Myth: It means you're gay._

Fact: Plenty of people of all sexual orientations enjoy anal pleasure, and their desire for it does not change their choice in partners.

_Myth: Women don't get off on it._

Fact: Women experience pleasure from the nerve endings in the anal area, indirect stimulation of the G-spot, and a combination of anal and clitoral stimulation.

_Myth: It's dangerous._

Fact: If you do it right, you will not lose bowel control, develop hemorrhoids, or otherwise damage your ass.

_Myth: That place is exit only._

Fact: Rich in nerve endings, the ass is a sensitive erogenous zone for men and women.

Ten Ingredients for Great Anal Sex

  1. _Desire:_ For it to work, you've got to want it.
  2. _Lube:_ You cannot have enough of the slippery stuff.
  3. _Relaxation:_ Massage, meditate, breathe deeply, send your ass to an imaginary spa.
  4. _Trust:_ Talk to your partner.
  5. _Arousal:_ The more fired up you are, the more open your ass will be.
  6. _Foreplay:_ Don't forget to work all the other parts, too.
  7. _Patience:_ Don't rush, your ass has got all night.
  8. _Pacing:_ The slower you go in the beginning, the better it will feel in the end.
  9. _Humor:_ Smile, we're playing with our buttholes, after all.
  10. _More Lube:_ Go on, it will only make it better.

Enema Tips

To give yourself an enema, you can use the Fleet or a bulb syringe. You may want to use an enema bag (a water bottle with a tube attached to it), which rinses farther up into the rectum. Fill the bag with plain warm water only; never use laxatives, wine, beer, coffee, or any other exotic enemas you may have heard about—they will make you sick. Giving yourself an enema this way takes a little more skill (and maybe even an assistant). In addition to your enema bag and tubing, you need a hook of some kind and a place to hang the bag that will be within easy reach of your butt and about eighteen to twenty-four inches above your ass. Find a position that's comfortable; you may want to try squatting, lying on your side with one leg pulled up to your chest, or kneeling with your ass up, head down. Use some water-based lubricant on the tip of the nozzle; this goes for the bulb syringe as well, and the Fleet enema's tip is pre-lubricated. Gently insert the tube into your ass.

With a Fleet or bulb syringe, simply squeeze the bottle or bulb and the water will flow into your rectum. With an enema bag, you need to release the gauge on the bag until water begins to flow at the desired pressure (very low pressure is best). Let yourself fill up until you feel like you've had enough. When you feel full, close the gauge and take the tube out. Wait a little while (the time varies depending on the person) until you feel like you need to have a bowel movement, then go to the toilet. Repeat the enema several times until only clear water comes out.

An enema loosens everything in your bowels, and often after you feel like you are completely cleaned out, you'll have an urge a little while later only to discover there was more in there. This is the second wave, and you don't want it to happen while you're in the throes of anal pleasure! Giving yourself an enema in the morning before a hot date that night is fine. If it's not disposable (like a Fleet) then clean your enema equipment well, and do not share it with a partner.

What Happens If It Hurts?

  1. There may be too much friction. Withdraw, add some more lube, and see if it feels better.
  2. Stop the movement of fingers, cock, or toy, but stay inside; see if the pain subsides.
  3. Decrease the number of fingers you have inside or use a smaller toy.
  4. Withdraw and focus on more external stimulation—a hand job, oral sex, more foreplay.
  5. If you need to, stop the activity altogether. Relax, take some deep breaths, listen to your body.

Anal Sex Tricks

  * _Round Two:_ Have anal sex after she's had an orgasm. She'll be relaxed, and her body will be aroused.
  * _Practice, Practice:_ Add a butt plug to your masturbation routine to help your body get used to anal penetration.
  * _Plug It In:_ Use a vibrator to stimulate her anal opening and relax the area before penetration.
  * _Spank Her:_ If your gal likes to be spanked, before anal penetration is a great time to put her over your knee. Reddening her butt cheeks will send blood rushing right there and stimulate her ass.
  * _Smooth, Please:_ Use a regular condom, as a textured one might irritate the delicate lining of the rectum.

Strap-On Sex Videos

  * _Bend Over Boyfriend:_ The first and only sex-instruction video all about women giving men anal pleasure. After a detailed anatomy lesson and hands-on demonstration by Carol Queen and Robert Morgan, two other couples try out their expert tips and techniques.
  * _Bend Over Boyfriend 2: More Rockin', Less Talkin':_ Focuses less on the educational details and turns its attention to five hot sex scenes of girls strappin' it on and stickin' it in.
  * _Babes Ballin' Boys:_ Very entertaining mainstream video series with porn stars.

Erotic Roles

  * Boss and Secretary
  * Teacher and Student
  * Truck Driver and Hitchhiker
  * Doctor and Patient
  * Police Officer and Criminal
  * Guard and Prisoner
  * Quarterback and Cheerleader
  * Sergeant and Cadet
  * Client and Prostitute
  * Master and Slave

Sexy Scenarios

_The First Time:_ Losing your virginity to an older, wiser, more experienced lover who instructs and initiates you.

_Kidnapped:_ You've been snatched off the street, now you'll be interrogated by your captor and made to sexually service him/her.

_The Stranger:_ Pretend you've never met each other, and pick up your lover on the bus, at the grocery store, or in a bar; take him to your place for some anonymous sex.

The Best of Classic Porn Performers

• Nina Hartley| | • Richard Pachecho
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• Vanessa del Rio| | • Georgina Spelvin
• Jamie Gillis| | • Marilyn Chambers
• Veronica Hart| | • Ginger Lynn
• John Holmes| |

Adult Movies to Watch

Drama: _Artemesia, Bad Habits, Bad Wives, Being with Juli Ashton, Bobby Sox, Cashmere, The Cult, Dinner Party at 6, Every Woman Has a Fantasy 2_ and _3, Exstasy, Eyes of Desire 1_ and _2, Flashpoint, Heartache, Heart & Soul, Hidden Obsessions, Intimate Expressions, Isis Blue, Justine: Nothing to Hide 2, The Kiss, Looker, Love's Passion, The Masseuse, Models, My Surrender, Red Vibe Diaries, Secret Garden, Sensual Exposure, Shipwreck, Still Insatiable, Torn, West Side, Zazel, The Zone_

Fantasy: _Babylon, Cafe Flesh 1_ and _2, Dark Angels, Dark Garden, The Devil in Miss Jones 3_ and _4, DreamQuest, Eros, Latex, Les Vampyres, Psychosexuals, Satyr, Search for The Snow Leopard, Seven Deadly Sins, Shock_

Comedy: _Blue Movie, Double Feature!, M: Caught in the Act, One Size Fits All_

Historical/Period: _Apassionata, A Midsummer Night's Cream_

Standout Adult Directors

Brad Armstrong|  | Antonio Passolini
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Juli Ashton|  | Candida Royalle
Andrew Blake|  | Ren Savant
Toni English|  | Paul Thomas
Veronica Hart|  | Michael Zen
Michael Ninn|  |

Gonzo Standouts

  * John Leslie: Actor-director Leslie's series _The Voyeur_ typifies the gonzo style and features uninhibited performers (many of them European), wildly orgasmic encounters, and lots of anal sex.
  * Seymore Butts Home Movies: The highlight of actor-director and gonzo master Seymore Butts's line is the performances of the beautiful, anal-sex-loving, ejaculating starlet Alisha Klass (check her out in _Tushy Con Carne_ and _Tushy Tampa Fest_ ).
  * _Shane's World:_ A blond, bubbly California girl, Shane was a young porn star who conceived and directed her own gonzo series called _Shane's World,_ which is full of real female orgasms, giggling and high jinks, fresh talent, newcomers, impromptu how-to demos, and safer sex.
  * Chloe: Award-winning actress Chloe has also begun directing some highly entertaining, sexy gonzo movies, including _Chloe's What Makes You Cum?, I Came, Did You?,_ and _Chloe's Catalina Cum-Ons._

Here are some activities you may want to include on your "Yes," "No," and "Maybe" lists:

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| biting|  | hoods
| blindfolds|  | hot wax play
| bondage|  | humiliation
| caning|  | paddling
| clamps, nipple|  | pinching
| clamps, other|  | role playing
| collar and leash|  | shaving
| discipline|  | slapping
| flogging|  | spanking
| gags|  | scratching

Bondage Tricks

  * _Test the Waters:_ If your partner isn't sure how she will feel being tied up, give her a harmless introduction by holding her wrists together above her head with your own hands. See how she responds before you whip out the restraints.
  * _Invisible Bondage:_ One way to test your partner's submission is to instruct him to keep his hands behind his back or above his head _without_ tying him up. Force him to stay in that position as if he were bound. One false move, and he gets another stroke of the cane. You can continue to punish or reward him depending on how well he does.
  * _Be Creative:_ You don't always need to tie someone's hands above the head. Tie her wrists together with one hand on top of the other. Then, tie her hands between her legs, forcing her to touch herself whenever her body moves.
  * _Tease Your Bottom:_ Tie your partner up, then tease him mercilessly. Straddle him with your naked body, rub his cock on your pussy, wave your breasts in his face, show him your ass. Make sure to keep yourself just out of reach, and he'll be begging for you in no time!
  * _Give Her Something to Think About:_ Using about twelve feet of rope, tie it just above her hipbones several times, then run it between her butt cheeks and between her labia. If you're feeling ambitious, tie a knot right against her clitoris. Continue on with the scene, making sure she has plenty of opportunity to feel the rope move between her legs.

Sensory Deprivation Tricks

  * _Taste This:_ Don't have a gag handy? Strip your lover down, take off her underwear, and shove it in her mouth. She may feel naughty or shameful, and you'll definitely catch her off guard.
  * _Let Your Mouth Wander:_ Once he's blindfolded and not looking you straight in the eyes, take the opportunity to practice talking dirty to him. It may be easier for you to find your inner dominatrix, feel less inhibited, and say things you've always wanted to say. Here's your chance to be strict, cruel, or intimidating.
  * _Electrify the Senses:_ Experiment with the softness of a piece of fur, the chill of an ice cube, the feel of nails dragging on skin, the sharpness of a cold metal implement. All these different sensations will feel twice as intense to a bottom wearing a blindfold or a hood.
  * _Tell a Story:_ A blindfolded and gagged bottom is a captive audience, so spin a tale about what turns you on, or what you're going to do next, or a fantasy you've been dying to share.
  * _Surprise Your Bottom:_ Slip a blindfold on him, then let him wait and wonder what's next. Change into a costume, bring out a new toy, or explore every inch of his body with your mouth.

Spanking Tricks

  * _Something Different:_ Alternate the sting of a smack of your hand with a different, gentler sensation like a fur mitt, a textured glove, or a feather. Or try giving a spanking with a leather glove on.
  * _Add a Buzz:_ Once you've put her over your knee for a spanking, place a vibrator between her legs. With each spank, she'll press against it and get a buzz between her legs. Or give her a dildo to rub against as you smack her ass, and tell her to think about your cock while she's being spanked.
  * _Make It Count:_ Have the bottom count each smack, it will help him focus on the spanking and anticipate the next lick to come. You can also have him repeat a phrase like, "Please, Mistress, may I have another?" If he forgets to say it or miscounts, you can start back at one.
  * _Cool Off:_ To create a combination of hot and cold, after a particularly hard spanking or in between two mild sets, rub an ice cube over his ass, making sure to let some water drip between his cheeks.
  * _Grooming Tools:_ There are a variety of brushes made for grooming horses (found at tack stores), which can be used on the ass to create unique tactile feelings. Rub or "brush" the cheeks with them, or, for a heavier feeling, you can actually spank with some of them. They also leave very interesting marks on the skin.

Flogging Techniques

_Figure Eight:_ Bend your elbow and begin "drawing" figure eights using your wrist and forearm to move the flogger. When you get the hang of it, move toward your practice target and note where the ends of the tails strike.

_Horizontal:_ Like it sounds, this is a horizontal stroke of the flogger. Swing the flogger back and forth in front of you. Use your wrist and forearm, and be careful not to throw your whole body into it. Again, see where the tails land, and that will help you to aim them where you want them.

_Vertical:_ This is a common method you'll see often in demonstrations and videos. Throw the whip over one shoulder and propel it forward with your wrist and forearm. It's easy to hit the shoulders and neck, instead of the meaty area of the back, with this method; here is where the towel-around-the-neck comes in handy for beginners.