Input:
Q: What is the main focus of the introduction by Violet Blue?
A: The main focus of the introduction by Violet Blue is to explain what makes a great kiss and to introduce the reader to the contents of the book.

Q: According to Blue, what is a great kiss like?
A: According to Blue, a great kiss is like watching the ball drop in Times Square on New Year's Eve. It is a vivid moment in time that warms the heart, sharpens the senses, and makes colors more vivid.

Q: What does Blue say about the rarity of great kisses?
A: Blue says that great kisses are rare, but they don't have to be. She says that most people have to figure out how to kiss through trial and error, and that this can be messy and damaging to one's confidence.

Q: What does Blue say about the purpose of the book?
A: Blue says that the purpose of the book is to teach the reader how to kiss like a movie star and make the one they are kissing feel as if their favorite song just came on the radio every time their lips come together. She says that the book will teach the reader how to time a kiss perfectly, how to deliver and get a first kiss, and how to ask for kisses with and without words.

Q: What does Blue say about the contents of the book?
A: Blue says that the book contains oodles of techniques to help the reader come up with and perfect their own style for each lucky person they kiss. She says that the book will teach the reader how to sex up their mouth and make it irresistibly kissable, as well as how to supercharge their kisses with advanced tricks, fun games, and tasty treats. She also says that the book will teach the reader how to keep their lipstick perfect, no matter how hot and heavy their kissing session gets.

Q: What does Blue say about the significance of kissing?
A: Blue says that kissing is about chemistry and that it can be the moment when we realize we are falling in love. She says that the kind of connection experienced with a kiss can rock us to the core. However, she also says that a kiss can be one of the most lighthearted ways of sharing intimacy with another person.

Response:
**_Introduction:_**

**THE PERFECT KISS**

A great kiss is like watching the ball drop in Times Square on New Year's Eve. There's the countdown to contact, the moment when your heart flutters from your stomach to your chest, and then—the kiss. You hear the noisemakers, people cheering, horns honking, confetti flies through the air, and you're caught in a vivid moment in time. Your heart warms (or ignites like a fuse). Your perspective changes, your senses sharpen, colors become more vivid, and you just know your brights will come out brighter than ever before. At least, that's what it feels like when the right pairs of lips come together in all the right ways.

Kisses like this are rare—but they don't have to be. Unfortunately, our lips didn't come with an owner's  manual to tell us how to deliver smooches that stop traffic, start five-alarm fires, and warp the time-space continuum. Most of us have to figure that out by trial and error, and believe me, it isn't pretty. It messes up your lipstick, screws with your confidence, and you wind up pecking a lot of awful kissers. If only we could spot the lousy kissers, fix the ones we like, and if we just had ninjalike kissing skills, we'd be the baddest girls on the block with puckers that make urban legends seem tame.

That's what this book is for. This is where you learn to kiss like a movie star and make the one you're kissing feel as if his favorite song just came on the radio every time your lips come together. Find out how to time a kiss perfectly, how to deliver and get a first kiss, and how to ask for kisses with and without words. Learn how to know when someone wants to kiss you and what to do if the person you like turns out to be a bad kisser. Solve problems like stubble rash, and what happens when your kiss doesn't turn out the way you'd planned. Discover all the kissing do's and don'ts, and find out all the things you should never do when you kiss someone.

There are oodles of techniques in these pages to help you come up with—and perfect—your very own style for each lucky someone you kiss, no matter if you're a novice kisser or a make-out queen. Sex up your mouth and make  it irresistibly kissable, then supercharge your kisses with advanced tricks, fun games, and tasty treats. Oh, and if you color your pucker, find out how to keep your lipstick perfect, no matter how hot and heavy (or wet and messy) your kissing session gets.

Don't stop with the lips—know your kissee's hot spots and get the skinny on how and where to kiss parts of the body that'll make them melt. Learn how to French-kiss like an angel (or a naughty devil) and all the different types of kisses and when to use them. Best of all, learn everything you need to make your first kiss with that special someone absolutely perfect and unforgettable.

Kissing is about chemistry—sometimes a kiss can be the moment we realize we're falling in love. The kind of connection experienced with a kiss can rock you to the core. But it doesn't have to be with someone you love—a kiss can be one of the most lighthearted ways of sharing intimacy with another person.

You can kiss as a sport, in a kissing booth for charity, or you can kiss someone just to find out if they are more interesting than you thought—all without commitment to either pair of lips involved. Or, if you choose, kissing can be the most intimate thing you share only with someone you love. But no matter how you kiss, or whom you kiss, you should always make it a doozy.

I hope you have as much fun putting this book into practice as I did doing the research for it.

Smooches,
Violet Blue
San Francisco


Input:
Write a chapter for a guidebook on kissing that discusses the art of sensual kissing and its importance in seduction. The chapter should explain the various types of kisses and their meanings, the benefits of kissing, and the elements that make a kiss perfect or pitiful. It should also include a quiz to help readers identify their kissing style and a section with advice for each type of kisser.

The chapter should begin by explaining that kissing is one of the most sensual acts of flirting, foreplay, seduction, and sex. It should emphasize that a great kisser knows a variety of techniques that can be applied in different situations, tricks to make their kisses unforgettable, and strategies to seduce even the shyest pair of lips.

The chapter should then discuss the different types of kisses and their meanings. For example, it could explain that a light, affectionate peck is a message of tenderness, while a first romantic kiss can be the spark that ignites passions. It should also discuss the benefits of kissing, such as the release of endorphins, the stimulation of the arousal hormone oxytocin, and the increased flow of saliva that washes the teeth in a plaque-dispersing bath.

The chapter should then explain the elements that make a kiss perfect or pitiful, such as timing, the right pair of lips, location, physical feelings, and emotional connection. It should emphasize that a great kiss happens at the right time, with the right pair of lips, in the right location, and should feel good physically and emotionally.

The chapter should conclude with a quiz to help readers identify their kissing style and a section with advice for each type of kisser. For example, the quiz could ask readers questions about their kissing habits and preferences, and then categorize them as Sweet Lips, Power Puss, Hot Lips, or Pure Delicious Poison. The advice section should provide tips and techniques for each type of kisser to improve their skills and become more magnetic and unforgettable kissers.

Response:
**_Chapter 1_**

**THE SECRET SOCIETY OF KISSING ARTISTS**

The average woman spends two weeks of her life kissing—but what girl wants to be average? Two weeks of smooches just won't do—especially when you want to be the kind of kisser who has them coming back for seconds. And thirds. Maybe an all-you-can-kiss make-out buffet. With the secrets, tips, techniques, and detailed steps to becoming a master kisser in this book, you'll be more than the average player: you'll be at the top of the kissing game.

Kissing is one of the most sensual of all the acts of flirting, foreplay, seduction, and sex we can enjoy. In a kiss, you use all of your senses—and his too. You feel a kiss with your body, your heart, and your mind. You can communicate desire, urgency, caring—anything you want,  because what you're feeling when you kiss someone can be channeled right through you like an electric charge. The greatest kissers know a variety of techniques that can be applied to a range of situations, tricks to make their kisses unforgettable, strategies to seduce even the shyest pair of lips, and how to jump-start that erotic spark with a first (or second, or third) kiss.

The sensual kisser has a lot more going on than a pair of kissable lips—though I'll tell you all about making your lips silky smooth and utterly irresistible in a bit. A truly sensual kisser is a girl who feels confident and sexy from within, no matter whether she happens to think she looks "perfect" at the moment, and a great kisser stays in touch with all of her senses—before kissing even begins. It's like flipping a light switch: when you know a kiss is about to happen, all of your senses sharpen. And once the kiss starts, everything goes into overdrive as you drink in the taste, the smell, the touch, the sound, the feelings. And the person on the receiving end is hooked.

# **What's in a Kiss?**

Kissing is a single act that can convey a wide variety of intentions. For instance, one type of kiss, a light, affectionate peck, is a message of tenderness—it can be nonsexual, or a loving reminder. On the other hand, a first romantic kiss, built up to with nervousness and desire, might begin with the softest touch and pull you together like a red-hot magnet. A kiss between lovers is the spark that ignites passions into a blazing fire that may consume you both in a delicious make-out session. This kind of kiss can be more powerful than the need to eat when you're famished. Sometimes the prelude to a kiss is the best part; other times it's only a teasing, playful beginning.

One kiss can change everything. It can make friends into so much more. A kiss is the moment when sex and science meet, when we know whether our chemistry matches our desire. A casual encounter might turn into a pivotal, life-changing moment, after which ordinary everyday situations with your friend become lustful encounters. Often, when we kiss someone for the first time, we know instantly whether or not we click with them sexually.

Kissing is also really good for you and good for everyone around you. The act of kissing makes you feel emotionally ecstatic—it stimulates the release of endorphins, natural opiates similar to the delirious rush we feel while running  and when we fall in love. Prolonged sensual kissing releases the arousal hormone oxytocin, essential for orgasm. And it's good for our teeth, because the increased flow of saliva washes our teeth in a plaque-dispersing bath. Now, doesn't that sound sexy?

Most of all, kissing is fun. Welcome to the world of kissing bandits and superkissers, where you'll learn how to cast an unforgettable, seductive spell with your lips. You'll join the legions of women who can melt a man like butter with a kiss, are always the first ones picked for the kissing booth, and can easily become rulers of small countries with their ability to deliver the perfect kiss anywhere, anytime.

The tips in this guide will make your past experiences with kissing seem like amateur night, and already-great kissers will find more secret kissing weapons, tips, and tricks to fortify their arsenal of techniques. Here you'll discover can't-fail techniques for ramping up your sensuality, the keys to perfect first kisses, the fine points of timing a kiss, oodles of techniques and surprises, and how to make an innocent kiss turn into a lustful session of tonsil hockey.

You don't need to be a man-eater or a villainous vixen to deliver the most wicked smooches—though all skill levels are encouraged to apply. Perhaps you're tired of being a one-date wonder or feel that you've missed far too many kissing opportunities. Or maybe you're a would-be kissing  virtuoso, coiled up and ready to spring. Maybe you'd just like to know when and where different types of kisses are appropriate, how to be a better kisser, how to become a more magnetic kisser, or you want to learn new kissing techniques to make your sweetie give you—and your kissable lips—a double-take. This guide gives you concrete tools to nurture your kissing prowess, useful for a lifetime of being a first-rate, unforgettable kisser.

**Kissing Kung Fu: Be at One with the Elements** Kissing begins with a pair of lips and a tongue. Pretty basic stuff. But a delivering a _great_ kiss isn't just "tab A into slot B." What makes the perfect kiss has to do with so much more than a pair of squishy body parts getting mashed together. Desire, passion, tenderness, comfort, lust, yearning for connection, the urge to capitalize on a "perfect moment," and more, all drive us to kiss. Add to that the elements of atmosphere and timing, and you've got a whole slew of ingredients that can make whatever you've got cooking sweet or sour. Examine what elements make a kiss perfect—or pitiful.

❀ Timing is everything. In the movies, when the hero leans over to kiss the leading lady, the timing is always perfect—the sun is setting, both kissers feel amorous, birds are chirping, and all is good in the world. In real life, you may have the same experience, or your birds may actually be car alarms, passersby may be wishing you weren't doing that in public, you might be unexpectedly queasy from cocktails or nerves, or a meteor could be on a collision course with Earth. Worse, a kiss when you don't want one isn't a kiss at all—it's a drag. A great kiss happens right when it is supposed to, while an ill-timed kiss can ruin everything and practically peel the paint off the walls.

❀ You know this: it's got to be the right pair of lips heading for your face, or all bets are off. Is the kisser your fantasy man, or is he a drooling fool from Planet Lame? If your date is Mr. Delicious, then your goodnight kiss has got to be a doozy. But if you don't click with the person planting one on you, then you've got a scary mouthful of

Mr. Yikes.

❀ Location, location, location. A wispy kiss on a mountaintop might be your idea of romantic perfection, or a sloppy session on the floor behind your roommate's couch could be at the top of your list. But if you smooch in a  location that isn't right for one of you (say, in a public space that makes you or him feel exposed or otherwise uncomfortable), the kiss will bomb like an attempt to make _Titanic_ into a romantic comedy.

❀ It's got to feel good physically, too. Is the kiss a perfect union of lips and tongue, dancing in tandem to create an emotional connection? Does it make an electric spark that sends buzzy, yummy jolts of lust straight to your nethers? Or is it a smooshy mush of slippery lips and tongues that slither like slimy, wilted slugs? If a kiss feels good, you're on top of the world, but if a kiss feels yucky, too wet, or just plain wrong, it's a dud.

❀ How a kiss makes you feel can make or break a mood, and it's one of the more sublime elements to consider. The feelings behind a kiss are like a supporting actor who completes the character and identity of the leading lady. Is the kiss an emotional gesture that comes from the heart, or a raw animal thing that comes from the groin? And how do you gauge the feelings of the person kissing you? Does he feel the same way? There are ways to tell how your kissee is feeling, and when his signs and signals are green for "go" when your own engine is revved, then you're kissing in sync.

❀ Believe it or not, the motive for your kiss is communicated through your lips at the moment of contact, and it instantly sets the tone for any given smooch. Perhaps you are a devious femme out on a kissing conquest, taking what you want from the lips of hapless mortals. Lust, kiss, and conquer. Maybe you're a shy and lovely thing, ready to smooch, cuddle with a few sweet fairy kisses, and nuzzle with someone you adore. Or you might be both, depending on which way the kissing goes. A great kiss is made of many elements and can take you down different paths. Think about what you want out of it before you pucker up, buttercup.

❀ Technique is the foundation of your kissing style. And the technique you use depends on all of the factors and goals mentioned above—or you might just be out for fun, freestyling. Either way, your technique says it all, and you'll enjoy kissing, and the reaction your kisses get, when you have an arsenal of styles in your naughty bag of kissing tricks.

# **Kiss Me Deadly, Darling: A Quiz**

Kissing might be the one thing you know makes 'em swoon with desire, or kisses might be just part of your playful bag of down-and-dirty flirty tricks. What kind of kisser are you?

_**When I kiss someone for the first time, I never:**_

a. make the first move.

b. move my body too close to his.

c. remove all of my clothes, just most of them.

d. set him free, no matter how much he begs.

_**The perfect movie kiss was:**_

a. Rhett Butler and Scarlett O'Hara in _Gone with the Wind_.

b. Kirsten Dunst and Tobey Maguire in _Spider-Man._

c. the vampiresses and any poor mortal man in _The Brides of Dracula_.

d. the elevator scene in _Fatal Attraction_.

_**I always make the first move kissing:**_

a. never!

b. when I know it's absolutely safe to do so.

c. before the cocktails wear off.

d. when he's trapped like a wild animal.

_**When kissing on the first date, I never:**_

a. use tongue.

b. let it get too steamy.

c. let underwear get in the way.

d. . let my emotions get in the way of my evil plans to destroy my enemies.

_**Your philosophy about kissing is:**_

a. Kissing is fun but should be shared with someone special.

b. Good kissers are hard to find.

c. They are all my playthings and victims, every last one of them.

d. Never let them up for air.

_**I get ready for a kiss by:**_

a. keeping my lips and mouth in beautiful shape.

b. thinking about what kinds of kisses my kissee might really enjoy.

c. swishing with the last gulp of my beer, and off I go!

d. . surveying bedpost notches and emitting a fearful cackle while overwhelmed with evil satisfaction.

_**Kissing someone is how I tell:**_

a. what kind of lover he might be.

b. if we really click.

c. how much his girlfriend means to him.

d. . how long it will take to convert such a meddlesome hero to the Dark Side.

_**Your scariest nightmare about kissing contains:**_

a. someone who just wants to get in my panties.

b. waiting to kiss someone and then finding out they're a terrible kisser.

c. a man who kisses like he's cleaning a fish tank with his tongue.

d. kittens, romantic sunsets, happy endings, not becoming absolute ruler of the universe, fluffy bunnies, all that is good and nice.

_**My surefire red-hot kissing technique is:**_

a. Keep my lips closed together and my hands to myself.

b. Follow his lead with tongue and touching, but take over when things get hot.

c. Try to swallow his entire face, lick everywhere from the neck up, insert entire tongue into his throat.

d. Unhinge jaw, swallow entire man.

# **If you answered mostly "A," you are Sweet Lips.**

You're sweet as sugar, and your kisses are, too—and the person you're kissing knows that your cute little pucker and slightly naughty smile screams "sexy!" Your kissing power lies in your ability to seduce and tease longingly, making your make-out sessions dreamy and lasting, like an all-day lollipop. Attractive lips and a subtle style make your kisses unforgettable; learn a few dirtier tricks and the electric shocks from your tongue will bring them to their knees.

**Your kissing mantra is: "Melts in your mouth, not in your hands."**

# **If you answered mostly "B," you are Power Puss.**

Mack Daddy, meet Mack Mama. Your lips like to boogie, but before they hit the dance floor, they like to taste, road-test, and compare. You like to sample the goods before committing to a date, or to a make-out session, or even just to see what the local boys taste like—you like to test the water before you jump in. You're a Power Kisser, through and through. Hone your skills, and they'll name a lipstick shade after you.

**Your kissing mantra is: "Victoria's got nothing on my Secret."**

# **If you answered mostly ❝C,❞ you are Hot Lips.**

Your kisses are like a wildfire, and if you have your way, it'll take a station full of firefighters to control the blaze. You're a femme fatale kisser who never misses, and you're just as happy to give your dates a taste of your tongue and strut away leaving them swooning. Your kisses are the strong, silent type that come and go like a storm, and with a little polishing from the tips in these pages, your lips will be legendary—and lethal.

**Your kissing mantra is: "Hello—my name is Your Addiction."**

# **If you answered mostly "D," you are Pure Delicious Poison.**

Remember supervillainess Poison Ivy? She's just a shrub compared to you. A kiss from you, blown on the wind, has been known to wilt flowers and make babies cry miles away. Your plan to conquer the universe one man at a time is unstoppable, and kisses are just the hors d'oeuvres of delicious conquest to you. It's hard to go wrong when you're already so bad, but keeping your kisser in picture-perfect shape and building an arsenal of smooching styles will keep your seductive powers at their most fearful.

**Your kissing mantra is: "I'm so hungry I could eat—anyone I want."**


Input: Write a chapter for a guidebook on kissing that provides advice on how to initiate a kiss and make it happen in any situation. The chapter should discuss the importance of timing and waiting for the right moment, as well as tips on how to read your partner's signs and send the right message to get what you want. It should also provide advice on how to ask for a kiss without words and make the first move, including do's and don'ts for a successful first kiss. The chapter should be written in a friendly and engaging tone that encourages readers to take action and become confident kissers. The chapter should also include examples and scenarios to help readers understand the concepts.

Response:
**_Chapter 2_**

**MAKE IT HAPPEN: GET THAT KISS ANYWHERE, ANYPLACE, ANYTIME**

The awkward moment: It's happened to you. At the end of the evening, you walk to your car to say good-bye and—your stomach flips. Your heart flutters. Your brain explodes. He looks at you, and you feel an electric charge in the air. Then maybe, just maybe…You get in your car and drive away fast like a frightened little bunny. Let's hope _not_.

An attack of shyness happens to all kissers, from beginners to the suavest and most experienced lip-lockers. The awkward moment of the first kiss can turn even the coolest cucumber into the biggest spaz. Some people love the moment before the first kiss, the excitement, the terror—the moment you've both been waiting for when attraction leads to intimate contact. Others dread it and will squirm  every which way to avoid having to make a move. The anticipation is delicious, delightful, agonizing—thrilling. It means you're _alive_.

Sometimes the anticipation of your first kiss is the best part. Taking your time to build up the attraction and excitement makes your first kiss that much more unforgettable—and wonderfully, passionately explosive. When you're both so eager to kiss that you just can't stand it anymore, your attraction to each other becomes powerful, magnetic—and when the kiss finally happens, you see the stars. Do you have the self-restraint to wait until you just can't take it anymore?

Waiting for the first kiss can be like a tightrope walk. You must proceed very carefully so as not to rush things, on one hand, or send signals that you're not as interested as you really are, on the other. It's a little stressful, but it's much easier when you know how to read your partner's signs and how to send the right message to get what you want.

# **Waiting Is the Hardest Part**

You might not kiss on the first date for a number of reasons—and he might actually be the one who wants to wait. If he asks to wait a few dates for a first kiss, honor his request with grace and a smile, and relish the thought that anticipation is building up mutually. Don't worry about his reasons; they're probably good ones, whatever they are. Don't second-guess, either. He might simply just be shy! Feed the fires by being casually flirty in subtle physical ways—a touch on the wrist, or standing or sitting a bit too close. And if you've both agreed to wait for that fiery first kiss, you can cuddle, hug, and breathe on each other's lips, only inches away from each other.

Some of you might want to wait a bit for the first kiss to see if there is chemistry between you. Or, like any femme fatale worth the notches on her bedpost, you might want to make him wait simply to enjoy watching him squirm in erotic torment, willing to do anything for your first kiss. Clever smoochers might want to camouflage ill health, such as a flu or allergies, by asking to delay the first kiss for a few dates, until you're feeling better or know the potential kissee a bit better. Maybe you have already rushed to first base, or second or third, too fast for your own liking, and you want to take a bit more time to smell the roses.

It's perfectly fine to tell him you want to wait a bit before  your first kiss, or to wait until the third date. Reassure him that it's not personal (he might feel insulted or insecure) and explain that you just don't want to rush a good thing. Tell him that you'll make the first move when you're ready to enjoy it completely.

If you prefer not to announce your intentions, be sure to give him other signals that you're interested; otherwise he'll think you don't want him at all. Yikes! Flirt with him, lightly touch his arm or hands now and then, brush against him a little when you walk down the sidewalk, make plenty of eye contact, smile a lot, and don't be afraid to stand or sit closer than a regular friend might.

If he moves in for a kiss and you're still not ready, place your hands flat on the front of his shoulders to gently, firmly stop him. Stay close, smile, and sweetly say, "I'm not ready yet. But I will be soon. It means a lot that you're cool with that." You can softly kiss his cheek instead. Some guys might not understand why you want to wait for a kiss. They might protest, get upset, be pushy, demand reassurance, or argue. The rotten ones will insist. (This is okay if you know that you enjoy a little playful protest in your romantic relationships.) But the guys who are truly worth kissing will listen

and will want to understand your motives—and the really fun ones will want to draw out the anticipation and savor the first-kiss waiting game as much as you do.

# **Does He Really Want It?**

Yes, hot pants, they all want you. But only give 'em a little nibble at a time. When sizing up your toy for a potential smooch, make sure he's really ready for the close-up by looking for physical clues that reveal his readiness. Some guys will make it fairly obvious that it's now or never by moving in for the kiss, but others will display unconscious physical signs to indicate readiness and kissability. And I'm not talking about what's happening in his trousers. It's especially essential to know what to look for with shy guys who want to be respectful of your kissing boundaries. Are you sending the green light? Often, they want to kiss us oh-so-badly, but they have no idea that we actually want them to kiss us! Also, it's tough to tell if someone wants to go beyond friendship or not, especially when your judgment is clouded by your own attraction to someone you realize is becoming more than just a friend.

It's up to you to figure out if he wants it or not. Does he call, text, IM, Tweet, or email you frequently? If you're out together on a date or just hanging out, remember that he could choose to be spending his in-person time with someone else. But he's with _you_. Put yourselves in a situation that would be an ideal time for a kiss, such as saying good-bye, and watch his body language closely for unconscious signs of attraction. Make sure you see two "kiss now" signals before you take the leap with your lips.

Just what are those signals? Prolonged and repeated eye contact is a sure sign of interest, and combined with close physical proximity is a sure signal of an impending kiss. If you catch him checking you out, bust him playfully with a smile that says "gotcha!" and flirt shamelessly, enjoying every moment. One careless glance from him isn't enough, but if there is a second look, stay tuned for more. When his second look lingers for a bit, consider this an engraved invitation: you've got him right where you want him. If the eye contact is fleeting and you can't tell if it's intentional or not, wait to see if it happens more than once and look for another physical clue just to be sure.

Here are a few clues to look for:

❀ **Clue** : Look to the lips. When people are tense or uninterested, they keep their lips clamped together. But when  someone finds you hot and wants a smooch, their lips will part slightly in an inviting gesture. Like, smiling! Licking the lips (not in a gross or creepy way!) or touching the lips with a finger can indicate high kissing interest.

❀ **Clue** : Unconscious imitation is someone's way of showing that they'll follow your lead, including up to the moment of a kiss. Watch and see if he mirrors your body language—legs crossed or uncrossed, the position of his hands and arms, shoulders squared to face you directly, and of course, mirrored facial expressions such as eye contact, smiling, and moving in close.

❀ **Clue:** Close physical proximity. Arms brushing when you walk, a slight touch on the arm or hand, orbiting your stance in crowded rooms, standing so your shoulders touch, being just a half step closer to you than he would to someone who's just a friend. Notice whether he's keeping an eye on where you are and where you're standing. Often, interested men will have conversations with others near you or (especially) right behind you. Another clue that precedes a kiss is for him to hold open a door for you in a way that intentionally has him leaning in close as you move past. This is a great opportunity for a smile—or a kiss.

# **How to Get Him to Kiss You**

Of course, there's nothing wrong with the direct approach. Some people love nothing more than to have their partner simply ask for a kiss. Have you ever hoped for a kiss, not gone for it or even asked for one, and then not been kissed? I can predict how well that technique is working for you. A girl or guy who's a little bit (or a lot) aggressive when it comes to the sweet pastime of kissing gets what they want, and many women and men love a partner who isn't afraid to take control.

_**Ask for that kiss:**_

"May I have a kiss, please?"
"Kiss me!"
"You can kiss me now."
"I think you deserve a kiss for that."
"Aren't you forgetting something?"
"Can we kiss now?"
"Pucker up, buttercup."

Asking for it is only one option for getting him to put those sexy lips right where you want them: on you. You don't always have to ask with words; you can hypnotize him with a few super-sexy moves. Seriously. Even if you're the direct-approach kind of girl, words may not be appropriate for the scenario you find yourself in; you may have to be quiet for some reason, or asking for a smooch outright may simply not be your style. No problem. Whether you're shy or cunning, you have an arsenal of tricks to choose from.

# **How to Ask for a Kiss without Words**

First, open up your body language so he can sense that you're receptive for him to put the moves on you. Or that you're even interested: you can convey a lot of interest just by the way you carry yourself. Pull your shoulders back and take a slow, deep breath, and imagine your shoulders opening wider, with the center of your chest pulling upward. Straighten up your posture and arch (curve) your lower back a bit. Sitting or standing, you can do all this within the space of a few breaths and no on will notice—except, subliminally, him. Pull your head up and back just slightly, as well.

Eye contact is the golden key for getting that kiss without actually asking for it out loud. Your kissing mind-control efforts are centered on what you do with your eyes, and if  you stare at the ground (or anywhere but his eyes and lips), he'll think you're not interested. To get his attention, you can softly touch his arm, shoulder, or the back of a hand.

Did you take the "Kiss Me Deadly, Darling" test in chapter 1? Choose your techniques from the options below. Each of them is an excellent prelude to making the first move if you get tired of waiting and just want to plant one on him to see if he's worth it!

_**For Sweet Lips sweeties:**_

Make eye contact, smile, and incline your head close to his. If you're shy or nervous you can look away at intervals, but be sure to always return your eyes to his and smile softly as you make contact again.

_**For Power Puss playas:**_

Let your eyes linger for a relaxed breath. Make eye contact, and then break it to look at his lips, and then back to his eyes. Smile. A sexy, closed-mouth smile with the corners of your mouth is an erotic invitation—use this sweetly tricky  smile to your advantage. Repeat as needed, and don't be afraid to maintain eye contact while blinking.

_**For Hot Lips and Poison Kiss divas:**_

Your lips are the most suggestive, sensual erogenous zone you've got—work it, girl, and get his attention focused right where it belongs. The instant you want that smooch, subliminally make him look at your lips to suggest kissing (and sex). Enjoy playing around with what touches your lips, how you touch them, and what slips between them. Bite your lower lip suggestively while smiling to tease and tempt. Rub your lips together softly and smile. Bite the end of your finger for a second—tilting your head down to do this is very flattering to your eyes and face. Touch your straw to your lips before you take a sip. Rub your lips lightly on the edge of a glass, as if you are doing it unconsciously. If you're not sure he is paying attention, direct his gaze to your lips with a pen, a finger, a straw, a snack, a lollipop, or a spoon. If you're feeling really bold, move your lips close to his without making contact while you talk, and linger for a breath or two to push it even further.

# **Making the First Move**

The first kiss is often a make-or-break deal, where both of you find out if all this excitement is really what it's cracked up to be. If the object of your desire doesn't make the first move, getting up the courage to initiate the kiss is important, but equally crucial is how you kiss him the very first time. Your technique is everything here, because it communicates much more about you than words and gives him a direct indication of the passion that's got you all fired up.

It's debatable whether you should French-kiss (with your tongue) when you kiss someone the very first time. Certainly, at the moment of contact, your tongue should remain within your mouth—but how the kiss progresses past that point is a matter of assessing the direction and flow of the kiss. If you press lips and are overcome with passion and crazy desire, you'll find your tongues dancing within moments, seemingly without any permission from your brain. When that happens, you just have to go with it. And if your first kiss turns out to be the kind where he passionately grabs you and you both uncontrollably start dancing the tongue tango, no one will blame you for not following any first-kiss "rules."

But unless you're crawling all over each other like love weasels on a hot summer night, keep that tongue in check until you've kissed three or four times, or until you've been open-mouth kissing for several minutes.

_**First Kiss Do's and Don'ts:**_

Do smile a lot, even while kissing.

Do keep eye contact.

Do make sure you have nice breath.

Do remember to come up for air.

Do start slow.

Do begin with small movements of the lips, head, body, and hands.

If you make the first move, do pull back after the first kiss to gauge his or her response.

Do keep your lips soft and the muscles relaxed—not hard or tight.

Do keep your tongue in your mouth (see above).

Do linger for a moment after the kiss. Especially for a smile.

Do pay attention to where your noses are going and avoid a collision.

Don't approach the kiss with your mouth open.

Don't worry if you collide! Laugh and move in again slow.

Don't jam your tongue in his mouth.

Don't slobber!

Don't make yummy noises—yet.

Don't make overly loud kissing or "smacking" noises.

Don't let your hands wander.

Don't start off with bites or suction.

Don't rush—savor this moment, even if you're nervous.

Don't worry about what you look like.

Don't attempt this kiss if you're not feeling well.

Don't finish the kiss abruptly, even if you don't like it.

Don't forget to breathe!


Input: Write a chapter for a guidebook on kissing that focuses on the importance of the mouth and its role in creating an erotic and seductive experience. The chapter should discuss the power of the mouth as a visual and versatile sex organ, and provide tips on how to make the most of its potential. This includes suggestions for making the lips appear fuller and more attractive, as well as information on the role of the tongue and its many tactile talents. The chapter should also provide guidance on how to use the mouth to create different sensations and experiences during a kiss, such as suction, licks, and various combinations of strokes. The chapter should be written in a friendly and engaging tone that encourages readers to experiment with their own mouths and discover their unique kissing style. The chapter should also include examples and scenarios to help readers understand the concepts.

Response:
**_Chapter 3_**

**YOUR MOUTH: HE'S GOTTA HAVE IT**

When it comes to erotic hot spots on the human body, nothing beats our most visual and versatile sex organ, the mouth. With our mouth, uniquely controlled by hundreds of muscles, we can communicate intentions, ideas, and desires, and we can deliver kisses that make him feel like he's in Nirvana.

We forget how powerful our pretty little mouths are. Without a word, we can smile and flirt, we can warm up a room or a lover with peals of laughter, and most especially we can lick, bite, taste, smell, and literally inhale sex through our mouth. A sexy mouth suggests that one sensual opening can lead to another, elsewhere on the body, or in the heart and mind. Our lips suggest contours of genitalia,  and a hint of wetness or the appearance of a tongue implies much more—sex itself.

And as owner of this highly sensitive and tactile sensory organ, we do love to put things in our mouth. You've no doubt heard the term _orally fixated_ in polite company in reference to smoking cigarettes. Inevitably everyone within earshot gets a little tingle from the implications.

It is true that as a culture we're orally fixated, constantly looking for the next thing going into our mouth, and it's equally true that the right kind of oral stimulation can really turn us on. So maybe we're just a bunch of orally obsessed hedonists—so what? Soak up all the pleasure your lips, tongue, and mouth can afford you. Use it to its erotic maximum every chance you get, and see how your love life explodes.

# **Hot Lips**

Cut to the chase, sexy. Recognize your mouth for the sex organ it is: treat it accordingly, and learn the many delightful things you can do with it before you even kiss. A healthy-looking mouth sends signals to potential partners on subtle levels. Make your entire mouth even sexier by giving it extra attention the next time you brush your teeth. Along with  your lips, brush your tongue to make it look smoother and sexily pink, and be sure to brush the roof of your mouth—an oft-forgotten spot that, if ignored, can contribute to bad breath.

Lips are unabashedly sexual, and they cannot be hidden. So turn up the volume, already. Delight in your lips. They are the most expressive, sensual erogenous zone we've got—and they're right there on your face. When someone is interested in you, he'll look at your lips almost as much as your eyes. To subliminally suggest sex, you can slyly direct him to look at your lips throughout the communication, whether you're talking or not.

Deepen the color of your lips even just slightly and you'll draw erotic attention to this powerful visual erogenous zone. You don't need to wear lipstick, though sexy shades (or even a tinted moisturizer) go a long way to attract attention and magnetize your prey. Keep your lips exfoliated by rubbing them lightly with your toothbrush daily, or use your regular exfoliating scrub lightly on your lips each time you use it on your face. This will slough off any dead cells, keep away dry flat bits, and make your lips look supple and naturally healthy. Follow up with a moisturizing balm and a coat of something glossy for extra-sexy appeal.

Our lips swell during arousal, giving off a rosy flush that communicates passion and lust to our lovers on an  animal level. Amp up the lip plump by drawing blood to them via daily exfoliation. Several companies now sell "lip plumping" glosses and lipsticks (most notably Lip Venom by Du Wop) that boost your lips slightly or smooth out the lip surface and fill in the cracks to make lips look larger.

If you feel your lips need more than a gloss or a tingly boost from lip plumpers, there are a number of multi-step lip care regimens you can employ to get your lips in ultra-pretty, kissable shape. Beyond using a high-quality moisturizer such as Nivea, Lancôme, Laura Mercier, or even Biotherm, a lip-beautifying routine might be just what the lip doctor ordered. The multi-step methodology typically includes exfoliation, extracting impurities (using a lip mask), smoothing, moisturizing, and promoting the production of collagen (to prevent aging and wrinkles where your lips meet facial skin). Brands include Serious Lip Treatment by MD Skincare, Eminence Lip Trio Kit, and Mary Kay's Satin Lips two-step process.

# **Talented Tongue**

Unlike our lips, our tongue is a naughty, haughty, pink, wet, fleshy, unashamedly sexual body part—and therefore typically kept hidden. A muscle of many tactile talents, the tongue is a clever little package of muscles, glands, and sensitive nerves. Nerves lead from the tongue to the brain, which within an instant of contact sends sensations of touch, scent, and taste. The "flavor" of anything we put in our mouth is a complex combination of taste, smell, touch, texture or consistency, and temperature sensations.

Your lips, tongue, and mouth are controlled by hundreds of muscles that never rest as you smooch, smile, scowl, unconsciously clench your jaw, or suck on your tongue. This diligent network of muscles allow us to soften our lips, pull them apart, draw them closed to an _O_ , and to point or lightly stroke with our tongue. You can lengthen your tongue, shorten it, or move it in a variety of directions while kissing, and your neck and jaw muscles work in tandem to give your tongue greater versatility. These muscles also make the insides of the mouth into a means of suction that can draw lemonade through a straw, or give a kiss an especially naughty twist when you lightly give his inquiring tongue a sucking tug. There are dozens of strokes, licks, and various combinations of suction that you'll want to incorporate into your oral arsenal.

# **Mouth Moves**

These basic moves might sound silly at first, but try them a few times to get the hang of them. They'll be the basis for kissing techniques later in this book, and they'll get your mouth in shape, make you aware of your mouth's moves, and give you ideas for ramping up your personal kissing style. Try these at home when you're alone, even in front of a mirror if you want.

❀ Pucker your lips. Hard and small, softer and wider, very soft and very wide (a half-smile).

❀ Purse your lips. Like blowing a kiss: firm and short, soft and fluid, like Marilyn Monroe.

❀ Point your tongue. Stick it out a little, then a lot.

❀ Look in the mirror and soften your tongue. Extend it soft.

❀ Sweep your tongue around your lips—pointed and hard, then flat and soft.

❀ Suck on your sensitive little finger—a little, then a lot.

❀ Kiss the palm of your hand softly, then more firmly; then see how it feels to mash your lips into it. Your palms are sensitive and perfect for practicing the sensations of kissing his lips, face, neck, and more.

❀ On the back of your hand, practice tongue strokes and see how they might feel for your sweetie. Poke, lick, flatten your tongue and sweep, draw letters of the alphabet with the tip.

❀ Make your lips into an _O_ and suck on your palm. Apply suction to draw sensation to the area and then lightly rub your teeth across the sensitive spot.

# **The Wicked Kisser**

Feeling naughty, darling? Draw them into your wicked web by making your whole aura into a seductive hot zone, with your kisses at the center of it. Before you learn to seduce someone else's senses with your super-sensual kisses, you'll need to get in touch with the sensuality and sexuality in your own body.

Not everyone feels she's hot all the time, and not everyone needs to be told how to feel sexy, but doing a few nice things for yourself can get you in the right head space for kissing. Then you can build a set of tools (a sensual checklist) to give you confidence and sexiness when you may not be feeling so hot, are feeling nervous, or really want to unleash every trick in the book on your unsuspecting target.

# **Sex Up Your Lips, and the Rest Will Follow**

## _**Touch**_

Splurge on a massage or spa treatment to get back in touch—literally—with your body. Let someone else do all the work while you relax and enjoy healing touch from a massage therapist. Or take a hot bath and treat yourself to some new lotions and potions—have a self-care beauty night. Create some private time to touch your own body the way you'd like a lover to, and let your fantasies run wild.

## _**Sight**_

How you look affects how you feel. Purchase items or treatments that make you look polished, sexy, and hot. Get a manicure or pedicure, a facial, a haircut—go in for a wash-and-dry style, just for fun. Indulge in a new lip color or gloss, a new makeup color, or accessories for your ears, hair, and neck. Buy a new item of sexy, comfortable clothing, something relaxed but seductive—or put on an old favorite.

## _**Smell**_

Aromatherapy really works to make us feel sexy, sensual, and at ease with ourselves. If you're the kind of person who wears a fragrance, then you've got it covered with your favorites, but you can also mix things up with a new scent, just for kicks. Those who prefer more subtle ways of scenting their skin should pick up a sexy-smelling new lotion—with a bit on the nape of the neck, your world smells instantly sexier. If your hair covers your ears, you can put a little scent in your hair, or use a yummy-smelling conditioner for when things get deliciously close.

## _**Sound**_

Great music to kiss by is covered later in this book—right now you're going to focus on making yourself sound sweetly seductive. Becoming intimate, in the build-up to the moment of a kiss, means weaving a spell with everything about your mouth: every word you speak—even whispered—will have to be sexy and seductive. Make your voice one of your captivating charms, and learn how to modulate it effectively to the point of contact, and beyond.

Find your sexiest voice. Some people have a difficult time hearing their own voice and might find that trying a few voice exercises gives them a sexier and more resonant sound. Practice speaking not from your throat but from the center of your chest, and power the air from your stomach muscles. Stretch the muscles on your jaw, lips, and tongue to relax your face. Learn to speak softly by lowering your volume (loudness) and pitch (lower notes), but play with resonance.

Try a sentence in a low whisper, deeper than your normal voice. Then try it louder, still a bit deeper. Next, hum, keeping your mouth closed. Now speak the sentence in your low whisper, but with the same resonance as the hum. You'll use these different techniques to find the sexy voice that works best for you, and also to gauge volume over music, to match up with your kissing partner's volume, and turn it down as you move in for a kiss.

## _**Taste**_

How you taste to your kissing partner is one thing (more about flavored kisses and other tricks in a bit), but how cultivated and sensual your tasting abilities are is another thing altogether. Wake up those taste buds! A delicious kiss can be like a long, delirious drink of water when you're thirsty,  and you'll want to be able to drink in how your lover tastes to the fullest. Sharpen your sense of taste, and heighten your sexuality, by sampling food with aphrodisiac qualities.

Foods with sexual reputations cover a variety of sumptuous textures, perfect for getting you in the right kissing state of mind. Some classics: strawberries with chocolate sauce, a salad of quartered figs, shredded basil with drips of balsamic vinegar, warmed honey, avocados, vanilla bean (can be in ice cream), licorice, candied rose petals, and mango or papaya spears wrapped in mint leaves.


Input: Write a chapter for a guidebook on kissing that provides a humorous and playful field guide to identifying different types of kissers. The chapter should include descriptions of each type of kisser, along with their appearance, attitude, ideal first kiss scenario, and any kissing do's and don'ts. The chapter should cover a variety of types, including the Rock Star, Yuppie, Art School Brat, Marketing Executive, Supervillain, Hero, Gangster, Romantic, Man Slut, Male Model, Rough Trade, and Geek Boy. The chapter should also discuss different types of kisses, such as the First Kiss, Goodnight Kiss, Romantic Kiss, Good-bye Kiss, Sweetheart Kiss, Lusty Kiss, Taste of What's to Come, Kama Sutra Kiss, Drunk Kiss, Gladiator Kiss, Mad Mack Attack Kiss, French Kiss, Angel Kisses, Eskimo Kisses, Snuggle Bunny Kisses, and Scary Kisses. The chapter should be written in an engaging and entertaining tone that encourages readers to have fun with their kissing experiences.

Response:
**_Chapter 4_**

**KISSING: A FIELD GUIDE**

First, let's see who's on the menu, and what he might taste like for a nibble. A field guide to identifying the different types of kissing animals in the smooching zoo can help you find the perfect fit. Will he kiss like a Rock Star, or make love with his lips like a Geek Boy? Learn the difference, see how they like their first kisses, and wow the kiss-target of your dreams into kissing bliss with the right techniques.

# **The Hunters and the Hunted**

## _**Rock Star**_

Appearance: Fashionably disheveled, trendy, and sexy.

Attitude: Ready to rock those lips harder than Judas Priest.

Ideal first kiss: Backstage, in the limo, in a trashed hotel room, or in an atmospheric alleyway.

Kissing don't: Rock stars are born to rock. Let the rocker make the first move.

## _**Yuppie**_

Appearance: Wrinkle-free.

Attitude: Willing to fog up glasses and spill latte for the greater good of kissing.

Ideal first kiss: Tastes like Starbucks or California Zinfandel.

Kissing don't: Loves playfully aggressive kissers, hates overeager or domineering. Know the difference.

## _**Art School Brat**_

Appearance: Thrift-store trendy; no spending limit on hairdo.

Attitude: While others kiss like lower beasts, to them kissing is an art.

Ideal first kiss: After completion of most recent master-piece, or off-hours in the studio.

Kissing don't: Too sensitive to make the first move, they'll give up and make a video blog if you wait for them to kiss you.

## _**Marketing Executive**_

Appearance: Sinister, like a politician. Nice suits.

Attitude: There's a time for kissing and a time for world domination of my brand—er, work.

Ideal first kiss: Office, after hours.

Kissing don't: Never talk during kisses, unless it's dirty talk about corporate branding.

## _**Supervillain**_

Appearance: Evil like the Marketing Executive but with more Spandex and a fluffy white cat.

Attitude: Hell-bent on destroying all that is good and nice.

Ideal first kiss: Secret lair, private island, castle, top of the Washington Monument after starting clock on doomsday device.

Kissing don't: Never smooch in front of the do-gooder enemies and heroes. It just doesn't look right.

## _**Hero**_

Appearance: Proud, big chin, cape.

Attitude: Evil must be stopped, blah, blah, blah.

Ideal first kiss: Suspended over a pit of alligators right before escape, after saving you, or out of costume when you think he's someone else.

Kissing don't: This one's IQ plummets like a lead balloon with a kiss, so only kiss after danger has passed—unless you're the danger.

## _**Gangster**_

Appearance: Changes by location; can be gold chains, a pimpin' ride, and baggy pants, or Italian suits and fedoras.

Attitude: Gimme some sugar, baby.

Ideal first kiss: After watching _Scarface_.

Kissing don't: Not during _The Sopranos_ or in front of "the boys."

## _**Romantic**_

Appearance: Bedroom eyes and mussy-touseled hair.

Attitude: Kissing is a beautiful thing shared between two people.

Ideal first kiss: Mountaintop, picturesque vista, picnic for two, movie theater.

Kissing don't: The first kiss has to be perfect with this one; don't rush it.

## _**Man Slut**_

Appearance: Partly undressed; gold chains or cutoff jean shorts a bonus.

Attitude: Who's going home with the king tonight? Or, who's next?

Ideal first kiss: As often as possible.

Kissing don't: Don't expect that quantity means quality—this one's been around the block and back (and forth, and back) because he's not one for polishing his technique. But for quickie smooches, it's always a sure thing with a slutmuffin.

## _**Male Model**_

Appearance: A little too perfectly done, and all eyes are on him.

Attitude: Kissing me will make you look like a star.

Ideal first kiss: Only in flattering lighting, no tongues, and definitely no hickeys. If anyone sees it, it will have to look perfect.

Kissing don't: Under no circumstances do you mess up the hair! The hair is sacred.

## _**Rough Trade**_

Appearance: Sexy stubble, jeans, work boots, and a dimpled smile.

Attitude: I work hard, and I kiss like I mean it.

Ideal first kiss: At the end of a great date, with him taking the lead.

Kissing don't: Unless you smell like you ate too many cocktail weenies, it's tough to go wrong with this easy-going smoocher.

## _**Geek Boy**_

Appearance: Clothes don't fit, soft and sweaty hands, pale skin, blinded by sunlight, brain like a supercomputer.

Attitude: Afraid of girls but can't stay away. They tend to be inexperienced kissers, yet sincere. Once uncorked, their sensual powers are frightening.

Ideal first kiss: Um, any.

Kissing don't: Quick movements will frighten them, but soft kisses will soothe.

Anyone can kiss. But a kisser who knows her moves is a force to reckon with. A scandalous agenda helps, but becoming familiar with the full range of kisses—what they mean, how to use them, and when to bring out the big guns—makes them roll over and bark the minute your lips enter the room. With all the right moves, that Goodnight Kiss will be a doozy, you'll know how to deliver the prefect Taste of What's to Come, and how to identify and avoid the horrifying Fish Tank Kiss.

# **Types of Kisses**

Some kisses are standard—the Goodnight Kiss is known by kissers worldwide as the end of a perfect, or less than perfect, night. Other kisses are magic tools and a bit more mysterious, such as the Nuzzle. Whether they're famous or infamous, know your weapons and predicaments, and you'll be a kissing superstar.

## _**The First Kiss**_

The most talked about, written about, and stressed about kiss on the planet, the First Kiss is the stuff that fond  memories are made of. Or scary urban legends. It's usually thought of as the first kiss between would-be lovers but it can sometimes happen so spontaneously that it's as if you're not in control—the body is having its own fun while the brain spins its wheels in giddy confusion. A first kiss is a romantic kiss, and if it's shared between friends, it can change _everything_.

_**Great First Kisses**_

The Sweetheart Kiss
The Lusty Kiss
The Kama Sutra Kiss
The Mad Mack Attack Kiss

## _**The Goodnight Kiss**_

At the end of the evening, when you and your date are about to part ways, it's time for the Goodnight Kiss. Sometimes this is the much-anticipated First Kiss, though it can also be a sweet thank-you for a nice evening, or a kiss known as the Taste of What's to Come. All humanoids know that a Goodnight Kiss can turn into so much more. That's why we like it. When this kiss is shared between friends who feel a spark of attraction beneath all that friendship mumbo jumbo, we see just how close two friends can get. If you want to stay neutral yet let him know you like him more than a pat on the back, a well-placed Goodnight Kiss lands on the cheek. If you want to send a direct message that you're attracted, plant a light one on the lips.

## _**The Romantic Kiss**_

Everything is perfect—or not—for this intimate and compelling kiss. Romance is so much more than the setting—you can have a romantic kiss in a beautiful garden on a summer's day or at a bus stop in a crappy neighborhood. What matters is the intimacy, the connection, and the rose-colored glasses. When you both feel hot for each other and the whole world melts away, it's a Romantic Kiss,  no matter where you are, who's watching, or what's going on around you. This kiss is all about the two of you, and it makes you the only two people in the world.

## _**The Good-bye Kiss**_

This can be the fondest farewell, or the kiss-off, depending on how your date went. As a parting gesture it can be sweet and romantic, nervous and exciting, or a final sayonara that can be bittersweet or cold. Typically a kiss on the lips, it can also be a kiss on the cheek or forehead if you don't know him very well or want to keep your friendship within limits. Usually the "good-bye" is said while delivering the kiss—but some sneaky dates might turn the Good-bye Kiss on the cheek into a Romantic Kiss with a quick turn of the head. Be on guard!

## _**The Sweetheart Kiss**_

Light like a butterfly, yet it sends electric shocks up and down his spine—this kiss is delivered sweetly and packs a punch. This is one of the more erotically potent kisses without getting too naughty. The Sweetheart Kiss is a style  of kiss that can be delivered anywhere, anytime you want to focus his attraction to you. These are light, full-mouthed kisses, but with no tongue, planted on any exposed part of the body that looks inviting. Push your lips forward slightly, but keep them soft (and your mouth closed). Purse your lips, then press evenly with your upper and lower lip at the same time. These kisses should linger for only a moment or two, no more than the length of a full breath. After that, move to another technique or pull back. If you linger for a second, move your head slightly (instead of your lips) for a variation.

## _**The Lusty Kiss**_

This is much like a Sweetheart Kiss, but with more pressure, and you linger as long as you want—make it last, and it'll be lusty. In addition, use your hands on his face, neck, and hair (unless he's a male model), and include subtle movements of your head—but no tongue yet. This is the kiss that lights his fire, a nice transition from Sweetheart-kissing to French-kissing (see below), and it says that you're ready to do more than peck each other on the lips or cheeks. Give this one when you're ready to really show 'em you want 'em bad, and you're willing to be bad to get what you want.

## _**The Taste of What's to Come**_

Truly mischievous kissers of every gender know all about this kiss—and it's a secret weapon used by femmes fatales worldwide. This is the kiss that the female double agent gives James Bond so he doesn't blow her cover, the kiss that says you're as hot for him on the inside as you look on the outside. Often a full-mouthed French Kiss (see below), it has an urgency and lust matched by no other kiss; it shows him you've got more moves to make him melt than he can imagine. With this kiss you are the aggressor—you lead the kiss from beginning to end.

Pull him close, making eye contact. As you pull his lips to yours, slide your hands up to the back of his head (or cradle his neck if his hair is perfect), and press your body fully against his. Then leap into the kiss, pressing against him more as you pull him into you, firmly caressing his neck or head with your hands the whole time. French-kiss deeply, then pull away as you pull his head back. Smile wickedly, and continue eye contact.

## _**The Kama Sutra Kiss**_

_The Kama Sutra_ has long been revered as a source for romance and eroticism, being simultaneously sexual and subtle in its lingering appreciation of all the senses involved in a simple act of intimacy. The Kama Sutra Kiss, a nose-and-lips combination, is an excellent cuddling, sensual, and nuzzling kiss that can even be done in public without being too brazen. A sign of genuine affection, intimacy and tenderness, it can last from a few seconds to several minutes. The Kama Sutra can be done on any part of the body, but creases, folds, and bends, such as the nape of the neck, between the shoulder blades, behind the ears, and under the jaw, are ideal.

It's simple and feels sexy. Start by moving your lips close to the target area on his skin. Purse your lips for a kiss. Right when you make contact with skin, inhale and gently press your lips and nose into the skin, moving your head back and forth slightly to rub your face around on the spot. Give little Sweetheart Kisses as you nuzzle. This kiss is also wonderful for slowing down any bedroom action, deepening intimacy during lovemaking, or making a seduction into a pivotal take-down experience. It's like the "slow food movement" of kisses.

## _**The Drunk Kiss**_

Sometimes confused with the Romantic Kiss, the Drunk Kiss happens more times then we want it to. It tastes like booze, makes you dizzy, and often leaves you with a sense of confusion and regret the next day (along with a pounding headache). Drunk Kisses are sloppy, drooling, and unattractive to passersby, yet for some reason you always think you look really glamorous and hot while you're going at it. In reality, to sober observers, you actually look like a Nature Channel documentary on gastropod mating—two pink slugs wrestling in slow motion under a waterfall. And if you can't remember it the next day, be certain that everyone else will.

## _**Gladiator Kiss**_

This kiss is all him Tarzan, you Jane, and if you don't mind being moved around like a diminutive doll, when he's good at it, the Gladiator can be a pretty fun ride. Having a guy grab you and kiss you hard, as though he really means it, is hot, especially if he pulls you close and the kiss takes you by surprise—sometimes this is an instant turn-on. At worst, you'll feel as if you were being mauled by Bubba tryin' to "show the little lady how a man kisses." You are  the conquest, and sure, it's all romantic in his eyes, but you might feel like a tenderized steak when he's done molesting your lips.

## _**Mad Mack Attack Kiss**_

It's a stealth kiss. You sneak up on your kissing target and—smooch! Can be done on total strangers you find really hot (avoid Armed Services personnel and guys with bodybuilder girlfriends), or on your sweetie when you want to give him a naughty surprise. Afterward, you may choose to pretend that nothing happened, keep walking to the snack table, or stick around for his bewildered reaction.

## _**French Kiss**_

The most famous kiss in the world is a full, open-mouthed kiss using tongue and lips together in perfect harmony—hopefully. You do not need to be French to deliver an excellent French Kiss. (And as of this writing, there is still no such thing as a Freedom Kiss.) The kiss begins with the meeting of slightly parted lips, then the lips open, and out come the tongues for a little _parlez-vous_. A side effect of  French-kissing is that both parties will have an increased amount of oral lubrication (read: drool), which is a turn-on for some and a gross-out for many others. Some kissers can French for seemingly hours and find it a wonderful pastime.

French-kissing can get pretty wet, so if slippery kisses don't float your boat, then alternate French Kisses with smooches on the neck, ears, and other kissable body parts. Sips of water also help—they give you a second to breathe and smile seductively before diving back in. French-kissing is also not limited to the mouth; some people find fun in Frenching their lover's ears and even the nose! One of the great things about the French Kiss is the creative freedom that comes with it: you can improvise, try out new techniques, or use a variety of techniques to craft your own French Kiss style. There are no rules for this kiss, other than that you enjoy it!

❀ Run your tongue around the teeth and gums
❀ Play with the tongue, taste it, push it around, caress it
❀ Nip at his teeth, lips, and tongue with your lips
❀ Kiss or probe deeply and gently with your tongue
❀ Apply suction on the tongue
❀ Dart your tongue in and out, slowly or rapidly
❀ Suck gently with your mouth
❀ Pull away slightly in midkiss, then go in for more

## _**Angel Kisses**_

So light they almost tickle, these kisses are not done with your mouth, but rather with your eyelashes. Angel Kisses consist of fluttering your eyelash against a sensitive (and sexy) body part to deliver a feathery tickle. Popular Angel Kiss spots include his cheek, lips, eyelids, ears, neck, nipples, and genitals.

## _**Eskimo Kisses**_

A playful favorite for many lovers, these kisses are done with the nose instead of the mouth. Typically, you and your partner rub noses together in an Eskimo Kiss. But see the Kama Sutra Kiss (above) for techniques on other parts of the body.

## _**Snuggle Bunny Kisses**_

So romantic, so cute—this is the ultimate in intimate, loving kisses. You don't need to be in love to share Snuggle Bunnies; you share these nuzzling, closed-mouthed, soft-lipped pecks and smooches of all kinds, on exposed areas of skin, when you're lying down, wrapped around each  other, at a tender, quiet moment. These signify extreme affection for one another. They are perfect before and after sex, in front of a fire or TV, or even on a picnic blanket in a public place.

##  **Scary Kisses**

Kissing isn't always butterflies and bunnies—there are kisses (and kissers) out there that make us want to flee. Or at least will have you checking your watch midway through what started as a sexy smooch but turned into the longest twenty seconds of your life.

But what if you really like the guy? Teach him what you like in kissing. Play a kissing version of follow-the-leader: tell him to do exactly what you do. Reward good behavior with yummy noises, moaning, squeezes with your hands. Discourage deviation from your lesson by pulling back to stop the kiss.

_**Is he a scary smoocher? Learn to identify these hazardous kisses:**_

**The Fish Tank Kiss:** Every girl's nightmare. He's totally cute, funny, the conversation is good—but then you kiss and it feels like he's trying to clean the inside of your mouth as if it was a fish tank. As the minutes pass more slowly than you ever thought possible, you wonder if he's actually looking for treasure. His tongue is too hard, and it darts about quickly and all pokey. You are usually too stunned to decide whether you should wait it out or hold up a "send help" sign. Toss this one back into the sea.

**The Chewing Gum Kiss:** You've seen these before—a couple joined at the mouth, lips locked in a deep French-kissing session that looks like they're about to gnaw each other's head off. Don't worry, everyone will be fine, but this combination of French Kiss and Fish Tank Kiss with extreme jaw movement looks pretty scary if you watch too many horror movies.

**The Limp Noodle:** So sad, the Noodle. When you lock lips and start to French, and his lips just hang there and his tongue lies there like a slug, you have a Limp Noodle on your hands. No matter how much you push, massage, and prod his tongue to bring it back to life, it plays possum, dead in the middle of the road. There is nothing you can do—you're basically giving mouth-to-mouth to this guy.

## _**Mercy Kisses**_

Sometimes you kiss for fun, and sometimes you just have to give a kiss out of pity—hence the Mercy Kiss. You give these kisses when you feel bad about something, want your date to look good (even though you aren't into him), or just feel sorry for the poor sap. Only in the movies do these kisses turn into a blazing romance. If you end up on the receiving end of a Mercy Kiss, just enjoy it and then excuse yourself to go wash your cat.

## _**The Zombie Kiss**_

Another nightmare kiss many of us have experienced, which seems to come from beyond the grave. It's as if all the life drains out of him as he comes in for a kiss: the eyes flutter, clamp shut, or roll back into his head. His face goes slack and lifeless. And the most horrifying part of all: his mouth opens up into a gaping maw, threatening to swallow you whole. Sometimes the Zombie Kisser comes at you like a lost extra from _Night of the Living Dead_ , mouth agape, with a shiny pink sluglike tongue pointing out at you. Scream! Run! Barricade the doors and windows!

## _**The Zoolander Kiss**_

Ever wonder what it would be like to kiss an international male model? The Zoolander makes you feel like you're a pretty prop designed to make him look good as he poses, shifts, and gives his "sexy" face to the world while kissing you. Would he notice if you were gone? Probably not. The Zoolander Kiss is meant purely to compliment the physical beauty of the man kissing you—it's not for anyone's actual physical pleasure. It's used when trying to impress others or to make someone jealous.


Input: Write a chapter for a guidebook on kissing that provides detailed instructions on various kissing techniques. The chapter should include explanations and examples of light, intermediate, and intense techniques, as well as tips on using tempo, pacing, and body language to enhance the kissing experience. The chapter should also discuss the importance of paying attention to hot spots on the body, such as the cheek, ears, eyes, fingers and hands, feet and toes, forehead, and neck, and provide guidance on how to kiss and touch these areas. The chapter should be written in an engaging and informative tone that encourages readers to experiment with different techniques and find their own unique kissing style.

Response:
**_Chapter 5_**

**DELIVER A KNOCKOUT KISS**

The kiss that conquers all is your key to paradise—so it's important to have a full arsenal of techniques at your disposal. Anyone would be lucky to plant one on your lips—especially when you've got the skills to make him melt.

It's all about style, delivery, and hot spots. With a range of methods to choose among you can develop your own kissing style. Depending on how you feel, or how hot you want him to feel, you can start with nibbles, progress to licks, and on to passionate lip presses. Or make it hotter by adding light lip suction and tongue-to-tongue caresses. Meanwhile, between techniques, you can whisper sweet nothings into his mouth, exciting him even more.

You'll want to know a full range of techniques so you can adjust your style to match that of your partner—an extremely valuable skill. For instance, if your kissing partner starts out lightly grazing your lips, will you know how to return the kiss—or how to gently take it to the next level? Then, when your kissing session really heats up, use advanced, expert tricks to show him you're a make-out master. And don't forget that great kissing isn't just about using your mouth—it's about making the most of your hands and body movements and smooching those sexy hot spots all over his body.

# **Techniques**

Kissing techniques come in three main categories: light, intermediate, and intense. Lighter techniques are perfect for first kisses, short kisses, starting out a kissing session, cooling off a particularly hot encounter, and ending a kiss. Intermediate techniques are yummy filling—use these for the duration, mixed liberally with light or intense techniques, depending on how you want the make-out session to go. Intense techniques are exactly that—serious turn-ons, secret weapons, the techniques you pull out when there's no turning back.

In your kissing sessions, try a sequence of light kisses, followed by intermediate, then intense, then a brief pause, and repeat. People with glasses might want to take them off for an extended kissing session, and people with orthodontic braces will want to take care not to press too hard. Experiment with tempo and pacing. Practice the following techniques on the palm of your hand (the sensitive hollow, in the middle), then on a very lucky test subject.

# **Appetizers**

_**Nibble.**_ Nibbles are little bites using only your lips, or your upper lip with your tongue. When you nibble on a part of the body, lightly nip or squeeze the skin between your lips. You can nibble lightly, or with as much force as your lips can muster—either way, the sensations will be pleasant. You can nibble anyplace on the body that sticks out: lips, nose, earlobes, nipples, or on wider expanses of skin such as cheeks, neck, chest, and stomach.

_**Graze.**_ When you graze an area of his body, you simply brush your lips over it. This can be done with small, short movements, or long, wide strokes. Imagine your lips as a paintbrush. Try slow strokes or quick circles. A pair of lips can graze any area of his body, and this is a very sexy way to get acquainted with the scent of your sweetie's skin.

_**Trace.**_ Similar in technique to grazing, tracing can be done in all the same ways, but instead using the tip of your tongue. Trace around his lips as if applying lip balm, or trace strokes, shapes, and patterns on other parts of his body—especially any hot spots.

_**Breathe together.**_ With both mouths open, nothing is sexier than inhaling someone's breath—literally taking his breath away. Take turns.

_**Sweet kisses.**_ These are light, full-mouthed kisses, but with no tongue. Push your lips forward slightly, but keep them soft (and your mouth closed). Try your best to press evenly with your upper and lower lip at the same time. These kisses should linger for only a moment or two, no more than the length of a full breath. Purse your lips, then press, then move to another technique or pull back. If you linger for a second, move your head slightly (instead of your lips) for a variation.

# **Dish of the Day**

_**Speak.**_ Whispering or speaking gently into your partner's open mouth between kisses is incredibly arousing. Tell him how much you enjoy what you're doing, how good his lips/ tongue/kisses feel, how sexy he looks kissing you, or how excited you are. You can even tell him where you want him to touch or kiss you, if you're feeling daring. Moaning into his mouth is also extremely hot.

_**Lip presses.**_ These are similar to "Sweet Kisses" above, but without any movement, and more pressure. It sounds simple, yet it is very effective in focusing his attention on  your desire—this technique communicates sensual directness. Purse your lips, press firmly against his lips, pull back. Repeat more slowly, controlling the kiss.

_**Bottom lip/top lip.**_ This technique focuses your attentions on his top or bottom lip. You can play with one at a time, or single out one for extra-special attention. The popular lip for this technique is the bottom one, but the top lip is equally sexy and intimate to engage. Lick the lip you choose, nibble it, graze it, suck, and even give it a tiny bite.

_**Corners of the mouth.**_ Don't neglect the corners of his mouth when you're kissing—it's easy to forget when you have a pair of sexy lips to nibble on! The corner is where the lips meet, at the edges. This is a highly sensitive area, and it deserves the sweetest kisses, lip presses, licks, and nibbles—but it is so sensitive that you shouldn't overdo it.

_**Open mouth, no tongue.**_ A terrific transition technique that can be used over and over at every stage. Open your mouth a little (never open wide) and kiss wetly, with a lot of lip motion. It's tempting to let your tongue poke out just a bit, but this kiss is much sexier (and there's less saliva) when you keep it in your mouth. Push, suck, pull, rub, and massage with your open lips, but never cover his whole mouth with yours or it'll have a suffocating effect that many people detest.

_**Roof of the mouth.**_ This is a highly controversial kissing area because it is so sensitive. Some guys like having the roof of the mouth lightly licked—and if your kissee does, then do it a little, and back off. Others might dislike the sensation because it feels like a tickle, and they'll want to scratch it. Of course, if you're playing mischievous sex games and teasing each other, tickling the roof of his mouth is a sexy and highly intimate way to "get his goat."

# **Dessert**

_**Suck.**_ I touched on light to moderate suction in earlier techniques, but when you're playing for higher stakes, creating  a vacuum with your lips and mouth sends a direct message of sex to your lover. Keep your lips soft and create a seal with your mouth, removing the air a little, or a lot. Suck lips, teeth, tongue, neck—it doesn't have to be a perfect seal, and you can slip around playfully and even make a few sexy noises while you're at it.

_**Lick.**_ Moisten your tongue before you lick, but be sure that it isn't too wet—we all know how awful a slurpy lick can be. Point your tongue yet keep it soft (practice!), and brush it across his lips, lick the corners of his mouth, lick under his chin (if he's not too stubbly). Lick the neck, ears, and nape (base) of the neck. Use wide, flat strokes on wide areas. Make circles, spell words, or press with your tongue as you lick. You can even lick his teeth and tongue.

_**Probe.**_ This technique consists of inserting your tongue into his mouth and slowly, sensuously exploring the teeth and tongue, or the whole of his mouth. Don't rush this one, or use a hardened tongue, or the technique will backfire. Take your time and savor every moment, every flavor, every sensation.

_**Tongue only.**_ This is a no-lip, tongue-only kissing technique. It will make you giggle and smile, or it will make you both very aroused. Make eye contact before you move in for the kiss, opening your lips in a half-smile and extending your tongue in an upward curve. When you reach his tongue, keep your tongue out of your mouth and play your two tongues together, taking a long time to feel the textures and flavor of his tongue, and have fun dancing your tongues around together.

_**French-kissing.**_ Like the tongue-only technique, but advanced. This is an open-mouthed, full-contact kiss with both tongues completely engaged. Purse and press your lips together to begin the kiss, then, at the moment of contact, part your lips and sneak a gentle lick of his lips with your tongue. If his lips part (I bet they will), gently slip your tongue past his lips to taste his tongue. You may pull your tongue back and disengage to repeat the whole kiss over again, or you can linger and continue French-kissing. Touch and caress each other's tongues, taking a long time to feel and sense textures and tastes. Lick the center of his tongue, and the sides. Lick his front teeth, upper and lower. Take your time, and enjoy varying the pressure of your tongue and lips. Don't forget to keep your  lips in gentle motion—with this technique, "frozen" or hard lips feel weird.

# **Rock Your Body**

You're not just a pair of lips and a tongue when you're engaged in a kiss—you have much more at your fingertips (literally) to stimulate your sweetie with and keep him riveted to your lips. Use your hands to touch his shoulders and neck, hold his cheeks (on his face, ahem), or cradle the back of his head. You can caress or grab, knead or massage. Stroke his hair, or if your passions are high, run your hands through his hair, or all over his sexy bald head, should that be the case. Touching his face will be a big, highly charged (and amazingly intimate) turn-on, so caress the forehead, eyes, cheekbones, jawline, even the lips, all while you are kissing. Keep your hands in motion throughout your kissing session.

Eye contact is also extremely important, though when your faces are very close you will want to close your eyes. The more eye contact you make between kisses, the more intense your kisses will become. When your heads come together for a kiss, close your eyes just at the point you feel your eyes straining, to avoid giving him a lingering view of you with your eyes crossed!

A little movement behind the kiss feels heavenly. Move  your head just a little as you kiss—but not so much that he has a hard time following your lips. Subtle movements will change the angle of your lips slightly, resulting in a very passionate kiss. The more intense your kissing becomes, the more you can nuzzle and push with your head and lips—his reactions will tell you to keep going, or you can follow his lead. If he wants you to keep going, he'll return your push with enthusiasm, a return push, or even a little moan.

Don't forget to smile between, and during, kisses. Smiling is extremely seductive, and it lets him know you're really enjoying yourself. And, occasionally, stop kissing and enjoy the pause that refreshes: hold his head in your hands, gaze into his eyes for a count of four, then resume kissing.

# **Hot Spots**

Also known as erogenous zones, hot spots on the body make terrifically sensuous places to use your kissing techniques. While genitals are definitely an erogenous zone, I have left them out of the discussion for the purposes of this book.

_**Cheek.**_ Kissing, grazing, and nuzzling the cheek feels wonderful and is almost guaranteed to make anyone smile. A light peck on the cheek can be a friendly greeting, a good-bye, or an excellent first-date kiss.

_**Ears.**_ Kisses, licks, and gentle sucking can drive some guys absolutely wild. This is a serious hot spot, and even the lightest breath here will send shivers up his spine, raise ample goose bumps, and generally get instant attention. Some men become extremely aroused when you lick their ears or suck on an earlobe. Be highly aware that everything you do near an ear is very, very loud.

_**Eyes.**_ There's something uniquely tender about kissing someone's closed eyelid. Not many people do it, but it's very pleasant and quite unforgettable. Give him sweet kisses on his (closed) eyelids, eyebrows, the outside corners of the eyes, or just beneath the eyes.

_**Fingers and hands.**_ Grab a hand and kiss and lick the upturned palm, or kiss, lick, and suck the fingertips. This technique is a man-melter, especially if you simulate fellatio on a finger (or fingers), while making eye contact.

_**Feet and toes.**_ Admittedly not a technique for everyone, yet one that some people really love giving and receiving. Some might get so turned on by having their (clean) feet kissed (top and underside), or having their toes sucked, or the sole of their foot licked, that they can barely control themselves. Others may be too ticklish or too self-conscious about their feet to enjoy it. Ask first. If he likes it, you can also rub his foot on your face and neck (or breasts!), and massage a foot as you kiss.

_**Forehead.**_ A very tender, romantic place to kiss. A kiss here says, _I care about you_.

_**Neck.**_ Like the ears, the neck is super sensitive and a sexually supercharged place to kiss. Lick, kiss, nibble, graze, even suck and bite on it—though be aware that your kissee may not want you to leave any marks. Make his neck a canvas for all the different brushstrokes your tongue can paint, and remember that the harder you press with lips and tongue, the more aroused he'll get.

_**Shoulders.**_ An often-neglected area for kissing that communicates romance and tenderness. Not as sensitive as the neck, the shoulders do respond erotically to kisses, and they can give any human deep shivers.


Input: Write a chapter for a guidebook on kissing that provides detailed advice on kissing etiquette and how to handle awkward or unpleasant situations. The chapter should include a list of kissing do's and don'ts, as well as tips on how to deal with bad kissers, hickeys, and love bites. The chapter should also discuss common kissing catastrophes and provide remedies for each situation, such as burping during a kiss, accidentally biting too hard, or colliding with your partner's nose or teeth. The chapter should be written in an engaging and informative tone that encourages readers to approach kissing with confidence and respect for their partners.

Response:
**_Chapter 6_**

**THE RULES OF THE GAME**

It's impossible to pick a great kisser out of a crowd. You just never know who's got the sweetest smooches until you kiss, and you certainly can't tell by looking. The only true way to know is to take the leap and kiss the toads—and know what to do when everything goes wrong. We all know what to do when things go right: enjoy it, relax, go back for more, and more! Unfortunately, things don't always go so great and it's good to have a backup plan in case your make-out session turns into a make-out catastrophe.

If the hottie you finally get to kiss turns out to be a dud kisser, you need to decide whether it's worth continuing or you should execute your exit strategy. This has happened to every girl and boy alive, and how you deal with it can  change your partner's kissing habits for the better, or teach you how to pick a better kisser next time. Sometimes, it's our own approach that spoils the mood or turns a romantic kiss into a tragicomedy. Know your etiquette for every kissing scenario, and you can't go wrong.

# **Kissing Do's and Don't's**

Kissing is one of life's greatest pleasures that can be shared by two. But not everyone is a perfect kissing match, and certainly not all kissers are created equal. Sadly, we encounter over a lifetime of kissing quite a few kissers who make elementary—or truly awful—kissing _faux pas_ , and it makes us wish that everyone with a pair of lips got their own user's manual.

Wouldn't it be great if there was a mandatory kissing politeness class in every high school? Here students would learn that kissing isn't a face-chewing contest. You do not get points for trying to box the tonsils with your tongue. Licking your lips too suggestively before a kiss looks really scary and gross. And above all, kissing is something you do together, rather than to or at another person.

It might be a very long time until kissing etiquette becomes required for graduation into the real world. Until  then, there are a few things to know that will keep you and those you kiss happy to be smooched. Show the following list to anyone you know who might benefit from the advice it offers. Even a friend who's dating someone she just discovered is a bad kisser—it might give her some ideas.

❀ Beautiful, brushed teeth, fresh breath, and supple, moisturized lips make you a delight to kiss. Anything less is a drag.

❀ It's okay to pull away and take a break from kissing without saying anything. It's okay for someone to want to stop completely and offer no explanation. You can talk about it later.

❀ It's not okay to expect a kiss in return for anything. Kisses are gifts, not currency.

❀ Cradling your partner's head and face feels wonderful. As long as you're not trying to prevent escape or contributing to claustrophobia.

❀ Kissing isn't the checkered flag and starter gun to feel up  your date. Lip contact is not an invitation to ass grabbing or unhooking a bra. The good bits aren't going anywhere, and it is in your best interest to take your time.

❀ A kiss does not signify a willingness to have sex, ever—no matter what kind of kiss.

❀ Never approach a kiss with an open mouth, or with an extended tongue.

❀ Never open your mouth wider than your kissing partner's lips.

❀ Poking with your tongue is annoying. You are not trying to make a phone call.

❀ Not everyone will like the things you like, and that's okay. You may love to have your sensitive ears licked and breathed on, but he might hate it with a passion. Be open to all kissing styles.

❀ Whenever you're in doubt about how things feel for your kissing partner, or even if it's the right time to kiss, ask. Your partner will be happy you care enough to ask.

# **About Hickeys and Love Bites**

In previous sections about biting and sucking, I've cautioned about leaving marks on his skin, also known as hickeys or love bites. These marks happen when teeth bruise the skin or suction leaves a rashlike discoloration on the skin. The suction created by your mouth draws blood to the surface of the skin, breaking the little capillaries, and scraping your teeth over the skin makes them break even more, blossoming into blood bruises that can range in color from pink to purple.

Overall, it's very bad for your skin and the nerve endings, and some say it can cause nerve damage. But for people who love these marks, and the way it feels to get a hickey, it's not a huge concern. Often these marks are made unknowingly—it can be totally unintentional, a result of passion. People with sensitive skin or those who bruise easily will get hickeys often from little stimulation of their skin.

Not everyone wants marks from kissing. The reasons can be many, including looking improper at work—bosses, office mates, and customers may find hickeys offensive or unprofessional. If he asks you not to leave visible marks on his neck, do not take it personally or try to second-guess his reasons. It may seriously compromise his work environment or professional reputation, or he just may not want marks on his neck for the entire world to see. Family  members tend to frown on hickeys, as do officials, so if he's going to be appearing in court, seeing valuable or new clients, working in sales, or visiting relatives, be careful.

In general, it's a no-no to leave marks in visible places but forgivable in hidden spots. This varies from person to person. He simply might not like the way they look. Be sure to ask him how he feels about love bites before your kisses start to stray away from his mouth, and he'll be able to relax knowing he's with a considerate kisser.

# **Kiss Catastrophes and Remedies**

There are great moments in kissing—and then, most unfortunately, there are moments we simply wish had happened to someone else. Kisses should be shared, savored, mutually enjoyed. But sometimes that garlic you had for dinner turns into a horrifying burp, or you collide painfully when you wanted to connect soulfully, or the guy you thought might be a kissing artist is a kissing ingrate, a slobbery mess. What to do? Consult the following kissing cures and you'll be smooching a suitable partner like your sexy-bad self again in no time.

_**What went wrong:**_ You went in for a kiss and he said no.

_**Treatment:**_ It's almost impossible to believe he could resist your wiles—and yet somehow, he did. Do not fret or take it personally. Did he tell you why? If not, ask. Believe what he tells you and take it at face value as the truth, and decide later if you think he (or his answer) is for real—while you decide if he's still worth it.

_**What went wrong:**_ You have an awful rash from his stubble.

_**Treatment:**_ See the next chapter for beard burn solutions.

_**What went wrong:**_ Your mouth slobbered too much at the wrong moment.

_**Treatment:**_ It happens to the best kissers among us. We taste something good and our mouths overflow in the most ungrateful way. Apologize, smile, and laugh it off. Jokingly offer him a napkin.

_**What went wrong:**_ Burps or hiccups (yours) during a kiss. Worse, other gases are expelled.

_**Treatment:**_ This is one of the most embarrassing of bodily mishaps. All you can think is Body! How can you betray me so?! Since these things are involuntary and we have little or no control over them, all you can do is say "oops," smile, and laugh at the foul cards you have been dealt (hopefully not too foul, or you'll want to suggest kissing in a different room, or in a wind tunnel).

_**What went wrong:**_ He turned out to be an awful kisser.

_**Treatment:**_ Consider whether he is good enough overall to retrain and keep. If not, it's time to say goodnight. Politely end the kiss with a smile and a few small parting pecks (try to avoid hurting his feelings with your sighs of disappointment), and thank him for a nice time.

_**What went wrong:**_ You want him to go away!

_**Treatment:**_ Moan really, really loud while kissing. Keep your eyes open and let your eyeballs roll up into your head with ecstasy. Between kisses, rock to and fro while humming. Continue your _Exorcist_ impersonation as needed. Alternatively, say an abrupt "Thanks!" and be on your merry way.

_**What went wrong:**_ You had gum in your mouth, you hid it, and he found it.

_**Treatment:**_ Fess up on the spot. Ask if he is horrified. Tell him _you_ are. Instantly get over it. Continue kissing.

_**What went wrong:**_ You bit a little too hard.

_**Treatment:**_ Did you give an unwanted surprise, or did you actually draw blood? Say you're sorry that you're so hungry and suggest that you adjourn for a snack (unless you have to apply a tourniquet to his tongue or face).

_**What went wrong:**_ You went in for a kiss too fast and bonked heads/noses/teeth.

_**Treatment:**_ Giggle. Laugh. Pretend it hurt you a little more than it really did, and apologize. Ask if you can try again, and act silly about being extra careful.

_**What went wrong:**_ He keeps doing something you don't enjoy or that annoys you.

_**Treatment:**_ If you want to keep kissing him, gently let him know you don't fancy the painfully hard lip sucking. Or if it's something really annoying, stop the kissing altogether  and be upfront about what's bugging you. Chances are good you're not the first to be bugged by this particular behavior, but you might be the first to let him know about it. This is helpful to him in the long run; you're doing him a favor. You can also politely suggest an alternate behavior: "You know, I really like to start kisses with both mouths closed and work up to tongues after a long time. Can we try it my way for a little while?"